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Long story short we made plans to go on a date but not necessarily when so I said I was free and we could go out tomorow and she said she would love to but she is busy and wouldn’t be able to go what should I do/say any advice? | Crushes |
So I met this girl like a month ago and she's a keeper, we have a rly nice dinamic and we spent entire nights awake talking with one another, she's also very flirty and touchy(althou I'm not sure if this is just her personality, or cause of me) she even invented me to sleep at her home since I had nowhere to stay.
The downside is she has a boyfriend, however she said they might breakup cause things aren't going so well.
Now she will have to choose and I know I have no control over that my question is should I tell her how I feel to get it out of my chest knowing I could be ruining her relationship or should I stay quiet for now and see how things go?
Also shes coming with vacation with me for a couple of day just me her and my friends, she doenst even know. | Crushes |
So my crush constantly gives me mixed signals on wether they like me or not, and it’s honestly hurting me so I need some advice on this.
Here are some of the things she does (keep in mind we are both girls):
•She said: “well I’m straight… or not”
•She talks about the Bible and how a man and woman reproduce.
•She asked me if I had a crush on her. (I didn’t answer the question)
•She never says ‘thank you’ when I give her a gift. Instead she says, “Can I repay you?”
•She often ‘sister-zones’ me.
•She talks about boys she meets.
•We constantly text
•She’s concerned when I get sad (Edit: Nvm she doesn’t :’((
I know most of these signs point to the fact she probably does not like me. But I’d like some outside opinion. | Crushes |
I'm curious if it's just me but I'd rather spend 1:1 time with my crush then invite him to grab a bite with friends. But I also like how it shows I want you to hang with the people closest to me. | Crushes |
I work with my crush but only see her twice a week. We have swapped numbers but don't message much. The other day she stood really close to me (felt like my personal space was invaded, but in a good way) and she gave me eye contact for 5 minutes straight whilst talking. I know she likes me as a friend, but is that all it is?
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EDIT - when I say eye contact, I mean looking into my eyes without ever looking away for a full 5 minutes. I always make eye contact when I'm talking to people but I look away for a second now and again to be polite or not make it uncomfortable. she was never looking away. | Crushes |
Tomorrow me and a friend of mine are meeting up for the first time 1 on 1, and I plan to confess that I have feelings for her. We were working together for the past few weeks, and she randomly brought up she had a crush on a guy I KNEW but refused to tell me who. She also got really playfully touchy with me, on top of teasing every now and then. Her close friend also kept dropping hints she liked me. I’m honestly very excited to explore this, as this is the first time I haven’t felt creepily obsessive about a crush. Plus, she’s awesome. | Crushes |
i see lots of people posting that they need the courage to talk to their crush and every time i see them, i always think how you can like someone you barely know.
id appreciate if some of you could share your stories | Crushes |
So I am planning to kiss my girlfriend, we are together for 6 days. Any sugesstions how to find perfect private spot? | Crushes |
I've known this girl for far to much, and after what has happened throughout this year I think I have started developing some feelings for her.
To put a little context, she has been a friend of mine since year 7 however we started really talking round about last year or so. She knew I had a crush on a girl throughout this whole year (I have moved on from this crush btw), and I found out a few months ago she had a crush on me. I have also fixed a conflict she had with a friend of ours and much other favours as she has done for me.
After the start of this summer, I think I've started developing a crush on the girl I'm talking about. I really don't know what to do, if I should tell her or just move on as I don't feel prepared to confess. I think mainly is the feeling of rejection as she may have moved on from me. I would really like some advice, thanks.
Yours faithfully,
Smoggy | Crushes |
So i had this girl in my class she had to sit next to me because everybody had assigned seats. I was lucky she sat next to me because i already liked her by then. Before that i never really talked with her so it was really nice. I got to know her better so that was really nice.
So after sitting next to her for longer then a year i decided to text her if she wanted to see a movie with me. I said it like ( i have nobody to go with to this movie do you wanna come) she said she couldnt go because she had to go to someones birthday. So a month or 2 later i asked her again because it was the end of year and we wouldnt see each other after school. I asked if she wanted to go do something togeter, i didnt ask it like it was a date. She said sure and said can you do sunday. She said she couldnt, so i asked if she could do monday, she said i dont know i will let you know if i can.
I never got a respons. After that i saw her a few times and texted a few times. I also saw her at a school party, i was with a friend and when we said we'd go home she gave him a hug, she gave me one after that but it felt more like she had to then that she wanted it.
So now a month or sum later, i wont see her again because of diffrent schools coming years. I cant stop thinking about her. I think the only way i stop liking her if she rejects me. So should i just text her and ask if she want to go on a date because i like her. So if i get rejected i can move on, and if she says yes its even better.
I really dont know what to do, any tips | Crushes |
Grabbed his arm last week while walking to move him to the other side. Ended up standing and talking for awhile before heading separate ways and it seemed he was trying to find more things to talk about instead of leaving. Then throughout the week he seemed to touch more where he previously never touched me like he had our arms touching at the desk and when he made a comment that I was in the way that caused me to move and I did move, he was like "oh no I was just joking" and I went back to how I originally was and we stayed like that for the rest of the time. Does that mean anything or is he simply comfortable with me? | Crushes |
Finally getting over a crush is like have post-nut clarity!! LMAOOO | Crushes |
i want to get over him cause i just know that he doesn't like me and im too ugly for him cause i know the person he apparently "likes"? he denies it but others tell him its obvious. the girl doesn't like him back, but im pretty sure he does.
the girl is skinny, blonde, has beautiful eyes and just way prettier. im ugly, not as skinny, and just overall bad.
i want to move on but he gives me that little hope everyday that he does because he lets me play with his hair, he doesn't even say anything. and yeah.
if you want more info on him, hes my bestfriend. im in a trio. 2 girls 1 boy. i liked him way before the trio even happened. probably since like 2020. i don't know how i fell in love with him. it's super obvious that im jealous and then i just get embarrassed cause i know im being super obvious. my bestfriend in the trio, keeps shipping me with him but he denies it so i do too. but inside i just cry because that shit hurts.
i want to move on. i can't. i just can't. i don't know why. i have a little hope left but i don't want to suffer anymore. i love him so much and i would do anything for him but i think its time for me to let go. but i cant.
i. cant. | Crushes |
this guy i used to like, and maybe still do idk, just started snapping me again after like 3 months of us barely speaking irl and never snapping. we started snapping again bc i said “happy birthday”
we used to talk a lot then he just stopped answering when i would say something and would just snap a picture.
regardless of if i do or do not like him, i wouldn’t mind talking to him again he was pretty cool.
would it be weird to strike up a convo? i figure if he ghosted me back then, he probably doesn’t wanna talk and i should respect that. | Crushes |
i’ll keep this short.
i liked him before knowing he was my friend’s little brother.
and i found out just today that he’s turning 15 just a few weeks after i turn 18.
i’m unsure of what to do.
the age gap is kinda weird and i don’t want to be called a creep by anyone.
we’re both gay and ace so there wouldn’t be anything inappropriate happening between us either way but still.
the fact that he’s my friend’s little brother is making me doubt as well. what if they wouldn’t support it?
but my friend literally sort of set us up and gave me his number.
he asked me whether i’m still comfortable texting him despite that age gap and to me saying i am, he replied that he is too.
we’ve been talking more and more and getting to know each other.
i really like him and the feelings grow with each day.
is it alright for me to still be talking to him? it’s not like we’re really flirting or anything but i can’t deny that i see him as more than just a friend.
should i give up on him? | Crushes |
So I’m kinda freaking out. There’s this girl at my school who I think could possibly like me and I’m kinda interested in her. Her and I like a lot of the same music and we’ve been close friends for a while now. However today we were hanging out and she put her legs on me and kept them there for a while. And I mean a while. It just kinda seemed like more than a friendly gesture yk? So could she possible like me? | Crushes |
so I posted a couple of days ago about asking out my crush to a parrot mini zoo. he said yes but he ultimately canceled a day later as he had to visit his family. he said he'd tell me when he has time. last weekend he said he was visiting family once again because of his grandma's birthday.
well..... it's been like almost 2 weeks or something since our first plan. i've asked him last Friday (before he went to his grandma's birthday party) about it if he still wants to go. he told me he still wants to but didn't answer when.
I know I shouldn't urge him to finally tell me what's up with his plans or anything, but I have trust issues and him telling me he's busy once again just makes me think a tiny bit that he may be lying.
should I ask him again this wednesday or thursday or am I supposed to wait another week? will asking him once again make me look like im weird/desperate? | Crushes |
Today I had to work with my crush. I was sooo stressed but everything went a lot smoother than I expected and she greeted me with the loveliest good morning I've ever heard. We laughed a lot and almost bumped into each other a few times.
Overall the atmosphere was cheerful but weird, awkward and tense at the same time. I really experienced a huge tension especially when we were doing something really close, like almost touching our hands. The fact that I get to smell her perfume so clearly also was making me all dizzy.
And then, when we already said our goodbyes, we went the same way and met once again. We started laughing and had a last short small talk about how we can't find our cars.
There's been just so many situations that "put us together". Is it just me making things up or something like this is actually felt from both people? I'm talking bout this tension in the air and a little bit of awkwardness. | Crushes |
I'll summarize the situation:
* We were studying
* Then we were talking about random stuff
* He read a note that I have that says "I'd be less anxious if I went on more walks"
* He told me he was going for a walk after this (studying)
* I said he would freeze because it was 30 degrees F
* I was leaving the building while walking to the door with him
* He said he would walk with me till my home
* He talked and he drank some water in my building (apartment building lobby)
* We then continue talking for a bit longer and I mentioned that I joke a lot and I'm really sarcastic. He said he likes that.
* He said goodbye to each other and he left
* Side note: walking me home, made his way back home longer.
* Side note 2: at some point of the conversation he read a note that said that an specific date was the best day of my life and he looked up if that day we saw each other (we're in the same study group)
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The question is: was he just polite or he might like me maybe? | Crushes |
I (27M) am crushing on my married yet separated roommate (33F). She has a child. And the child is the reason for my roommate and her husband's(33M?) separation that happened over 2 years ago. I moved into the household with her sister(39F), her child, and herself in Aug 2021. I didn't really interact with her as much unless it was house related things. I primarily only was close to her sister and her child. Back in May the husband went crazy trying break into our home and looking to take his child. He went absolutely nuts and to make things short. My two roommates filed restraining orders to keep him at bay. And since then, she hasn't seen him until about a month ago when the restraining order got lifted.
But during that time, from May until now, we became really close. I took her child to daycare and her to work because she had no car. During our lunches at work (we work a block away from each other) we would go out on cute adventures. Go sightseeing, eat our food at a park, go Geocaching around the area. We'd always find something to do. However, it was me initiating contact majority of the time. And at home, we'd always watch movies and shows together, talk till late hours, have playful arguments that felt like flirting.
But as of recently things started to die off when she started to see her husband again. She tells me things are different now and he's not as aggressive, but him flipping out in May wasn't the first time. I don't want to see her getting hurt over and over again by him but I also want her to be happy and if she chooses him, I'm really okay with that. They have a kid together and are married. I don't want to mess that up.
I just need some perspective and seeing if she really did have interest in me. We're roommates and being direct would make things awkward if she never felt the same. But there's no way she didn't feel the same. If a girl really had no interest in someone, she wouldn't spend her time with him almost every single day and lead him on, flirt with him, have some great laughs and conversations with him would she? I have this feeling she felt some connection between us but decided to not act on it for her child and wants to rekindle the relationship with her husband for her child. | Crushes |
So, a little over a week ago I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/ymzira/i_cant_find_the_confidence/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3), and I hoped that I could come back to it with some sort of success or even rejection or something, but instead I just keep getting too nervous. If we're ever talking and I have an opportunity to make any sort of move, I'll freeze for a second or so before realizing we're still talking and I have to say something back. AKA, I haven't confessed yet. And that guy who's been talking to her? Yea, I've overheard from probably a dozen people saying things like "are they dating??" and whatnot, and at this point its just killing me. My crush on her has just been so unhealthy for me; I'll be trying to do my work and suddenly I'll think about her and lose focus. I really need help trying to move on because I feel like it's in my best interest to move on. Please, anyone who's had to get over a crush, is there any advice you can give? | Crushes |
So I’m a freshman at community college and I have a class with this girl. I don’t know how to describe it but we’ve been making eye contact and it feels like there has been a little bit of tension. About a week ago I was sitting in a lounge and I saw her walk past me so I immediately looked away to act like I didn’t see her. A couple minutes later she walked over to me and sat across from me and said she wanted to “bother” me. We talked for about an hour and it went well except it was slightly awkward. She laughed at me a few times saying I was awkward. I’m not sure how to take that. We did have some meaningful conversations but she could tell that I was nervous.
Anyways she said that she hasn’t made any friends yet and that I seem like a chill person. As we walked to class together I wanted to ask for her snap or number but I couldn’t build up the confidence. I don’t want to come across like I only want to date her. I haven’t made any friends either so it would be nice to have her as one. I haven’t seen her for about a week so I haven’t had another opportunity.
We have mutual friends on Snapchat so I could just randomly add her and say something like “it was nice talking to you and it would be nice to be friends.” Something like that. I’m just afraid that if I add her she’ll just think that I’m going after her. | Crushes |
I realized today that he's kind of a jerk, I mourned for half of our math class then the second half was me realizing I was just done with him. | Crushes |
Idk for sure, but I may see her tomorrow. So tomorrow could be the day I finally ask somebody out, and it'll be her no less. But like, can I really do that? I wrote my most recent post, I keep rereading it, but it isn't stilling the anxiety. Its keeping me motivated, but I still feel like I could throw up. Granted, I dont feel nearly as sick as when I imagine her finding someone else and me having missed my chance. So I am still resolved to do this, I think. But holy god, its scary.
Hopefully, with a bit of luck and charisma and a heap of bravado, I should at least be done with this feeling for a while, though. Either she'll be stoked to go to an art museum with me as a friend or a date and I'll die of happiness, or she won't and I can start piecing myself together again.
Either way, better than this feeling. I felt like my heart was gonna explode multiple times today because the thought of asking her out crossed my mind. As long as I dont pass out asking her, I may just see that as a victory | Crushes |
Like it's just really weird to me, since I don't really care about their appearance that much, but it is obvious that they're really pretty, to the point that I've heard multiple different people independently say that they're the best looking person at our school
And compared to that, I've been told multiple times by different people that I look like hal from megamind, and the best thing someone has said about my appearance is that I'm "not as bad as I think I am"
It's just a little weird, my crush doesn't mind me talking to them or being friends, but I guess it does make me feel a little insecure, like I know people aren't actually so vain that they'd literally stop talking to someone just because they're uglier than them, but it still just feels strange that they'd talk to me
I don't know, honestly it kind of sucks, because I'm afraid that they might think I've only liked them because of their appearance, when honestly it's the opposite | Crushes |
there's this guy from school, we've been texting for almost 3 weeks, he told me he likes me, he's only seen like 1 pic of me cuz we haven't seen each other irl, im scared he's not gonna like me in person, what do i do | Crushes |
Hi, so me and my crush have known each other since. I wanna say kindergarten (we are both seniors now). We have both been the kind of shy kind, and until last semester we never really hung out, bt with he help of a mutual friend we became friends, but this year we have a math class together, but we don't sit together even though neither one of us have friends in there. So, I started gaining a crush on him, at the beginning of this school year, but this year he has started to gain popularity, and I don't want him to think that is the reason I like him, so that is one of the main things keeping me from confessing. So what I want to know is how to start sitting beside him, and talking to him without it being awkward. I should mention we do talk on social media, but even the next day after talking on social media we still don't talk in person, and I really believe it's just because we are both socially awkward.
TL;DR How do I start talking and sitting beside my crush? | Crushes |
so, i have a whole plan to get his number tomorrow, but i’m really nervous. after class, i was just going to call him over and be all chill like, “hey (his name), can i get your number?” but now i’m worried he’ll think i’m weird, or he’ll say no.
if he asks why, i was planning on saying something like, “i want to get to know you better, but we don’t have a lot of class time.” any other advice? i have no game, this is the first time i’m ever making moves on someone. | Crushes |
Lately, I've been thinking about someone I used to talk to. It's been months but I can't forget about him and how I felt. These feelings are still hanging around months later and I thought I'd write a little poem about it:
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>I miss him.
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>It felt good to be around him.
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>I enjoyed the kisses we'd sneak in on the car rides together and the way we held hands.
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>When he shared his stories, I was happy.
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>I miss him.
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>It hurt that he wondered still about other girls.
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>I was sad he didn't feel the same way.
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>He made me smile but he also made me cry.
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>I miss him still. | Crushes |
So right now is very complicated for me. So I(13m) am in middle school. This girl just joined my school. Over the follow few weeks, I had developed a growing crush on her. Eventually, just a few weeks ago, I figured out that for sure she also had a crush on me. The reason I say for sure is because her friends had made it VERY obvious that they knew that either I liked her or she liked me.
Here’s the problem, she doesn’t like me anymore. Here’s the thing, I still think that she does, but is just hiding it from me because she thinks I don’t like her. Every time I glance at her, I always see her also glancing at me. She has and still has been doing this even after she said she doesn’t like me. I am not sure what to do. I am very shy towards to people I am not too familiar with, especially girls.
I don’t trust the few friends I have with helping me out with this kind of stuff, so I turned to Reddit. Can you all please help me out! This has been going on for months now, but I haven’t been able to put any of the few pieces of advice I have received to use because of my extremely shy, curious, and reserved personality. | Crushes |
Which is funny to me bc I was going to confess to him today XD. | Crushes |
Like I don't know, I feel like in most cases it wouldn't be strange, but since red isn't super common it just feels strange, especially since we also have the same eye color and act pretty similar as well | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on this guy for a long time. It was a complete secret until I totally embarrassed myself a couple months ago. I’m 95% sure he knows I like/liked him.
It was never super awkward even after the fact. And a few weeks later we even hung out (with a couple of our friends). Neither of us intentionally hung out with the other, but it just kinda happened. Since i was pretty positive he didn’t like me I decided to just let the whole thing go and move on with my life (which was pretty tough since I’ve liked him for about 3 years).
But recently I’ve been super confused. I’m the type of person who never looks someone in the eyes if I catch them looking at me (even if I like them). And a couple times I’ve noticed him looking at me out of the corner of my eye. Us and a few of our friends hung out recently, just playing some board games. And there was a lot of eye contact going on between us (a lot more then I’m typically comfortable with). A few smiles and smirks (over the coarse of trying to beat each other). But since he’s a pretty bold guy I’m not sure if he was just being silly. We were definitely looking at each other more then anyone else but it still doesn’t make sense to me.
This situation has really confused me over the last couple days. I don’t know what to do or how to feel. I don’t know if he likes me or if he’s just being friendly. Help! Advice is greatly needed. | Crushes |
There are many torturing things to the soul, to quench from the impossible deep pool of love from those who are so beautiful. It is like a mirage in the desert, that you may only observe and hope but never tangibly experience.
Imagine a beautiful person, deepest of blue eyes, jet black hair, incredible comforting and wonderful personality. Even floating in these feelings is like a warm bath, but like all warm baths, they eventually get cold. You have to pull yourself free in order to not freeze and perish. | Crushes |
We were having fun chatting and he said in a part of a joke "I love you" I know it means nothing and there was no pause or nothing so I'm sure it was spontaneous but I can't help it its killing me :( | Crushes |
So I convinced my teacher to give me and my crush a project Tomorrow and I’m nervous I wanna chat her up but the social anxiety I have might mess it up for me. Any advice? | Crushes |
A girl who i liked when i was pretty young comes back in my life out of nowhere after 4 years, so i told her i had a crush on her and she made it clear she wasn’t interested in me she told me she doesn’t date and stuff (we were 15) so since then things went in the awkward direction between us we went to the same sports club but we never talked and sometimes we’d have weird eye contacts.So life goes on i completely forget about her (not about her existence we went to the same sports club for 3 years) i didn’t feel anything for her even fell in love with someone else in this time period.
So one fine day out of nowhere she texts me at first i felt nothing we had a short convo and it ended fast, we started sending each other snaps and shit and then comes the time when i fell for her again and this time it’s more fucked up and serious bec we’re not kids anymore
So now i’m literally praying that she texts me again but she doesn’t bother or maybe she’s acting hard to get (i’ve known her since a long time she is full of attitude and definitely not someone who’d text first but she did text me out of nowhere so please help me understand her motive
1•either she’s playing games
2•she genuinely wants to talk to me and is acting hard to get
3•wants me to make the move | Crushes |
I have noticed more signs that’s he’s interested in me too, and my friends are also starting to notice. (My friends said that he keeps looking at me)
One time I thought he was already gonna say something to me when he completely stopped in front of me, we were making eye contact and he was smiling at me. But then he suddenly just look away and then continued walking and went to his friends. (It was rlly awkward)
In 2 weeks I’ll be going for a vacation to my home country for Christmas and I wouldn’t be back till February. I won’t see him for almost 2 months, and I really wanna confess to him before I go. I have liked him since last year and he just started showing signs that he’s interested in me, a month ago. Idk how to confess to him tho, we haven’t even spoken a word to each other. (We only make eye contact 🥲)
Any advice or tips? | Crushes |
it's been 3 years since I have the biggest crush on my classmate. well, you know, he's handsome, super smart like damn incredibly smart, has a great sense of humour and we get along so so well
the thing is, I don't know how he thinks of me, like we're so close it'll feel like a waste to destroy this wonderful friendship because of my stupid feelings.
should I , perhaps, confess by the end of this scholar year? or is it better to live with it like I did in the past years? yeah... it's tough living with these little butterlies in my stomach, stumbling and mumbling and doing embarrassing things around him, maybe if I am rejected I'll get over it quickly, who knows. BUT HOW DO I CONFESS | Crushes |
Let me start from the beginning, over the summer I developed a crush on this girl. I'll just call her C for this post. C and I had one class together last year. We didn't really talk as I had a girlfriend at the time but after my girlfriend and I split up I developed a crush on C. That crush continues into this year and I have begun to like her more and more as time goes on. C and I text almost every night as we are both introverts and our personalities go well together. I mess around with her in a class we have together and we talk quite often. Earlier today, however, a friend confessed to me that he has feelings for her. He just brought it up out of nowhere. I don't know. I feel like shit now. I have liked this girl for so long and he randomly tells me he likes her. He asked if I liked her and I said no instinctively. He then said that he thought it would be bad for our friendship if we both liked her. I really need advice. What do I do? He's been my friend since we were like 8 and he's never had a girlfriend before, if I didn't like her so much I'd back off but it's like, I've literally liked her for so long. I feel like I'm betraying his trust but C is literally my dream girl. Any advice? | Crushes |
Every time i hug her, initiate a move or anything im scared that she might know i like her but doesnt want to hurt my feelings and just plays along. And when the time comes where i might confess (which may be a moment shes dreading to happen), she has to reject me. Shes told me before that if she likes someone, she will never ever in a million years make the first move and so i can never tell if what im doing is right or making her uncomfortable but shed rather not tell me.
She still only talks about "getting boyfriends". God what i would do to know if shes into girls. Maybe she is but... i have too much respect to ever ask her about her sexuality. If she is and wants to tell me, she can, if she doesnt... then so be it but I WOULD KILL TO KNOW UGH! | Crushes |
I have a girl best friend. She has been the sole thing that occupies my mind for the past 3 months. I feel so empty when she doesn’t show up to school, my heart flutters when she enters a room, my face turns red when she tells a funny joke, she is the sole reason I look forward to school each day.
However, it’s obvious she doesn’t see me the same way, and I’m totally fine with that. The problem is I cannot get myself out in the dating scene because every guy or girl is not even comparable to the way she looks and makes me feel. How do I get over this? | Crushes |
Just do it please. I feel she likes me but I just can't tell yet. I know her not so long but oh guys she's my 11/10, she's just perfect. I was never loved in my entire life and recently everything changed. My self esteem has risen highly but I still don't know if I can ever experience love, but I so much want to. | Crushes |
Found out the harder way that the guy I liked was not really who he claims to be on his Online persona.
Just more of a combination of some red flags here and there. For instance, being willing to drive 2 hours from way outta town just to see me and telling me cheesy lines like "baby" "miss you" when we have no actual relationship and we definitely have not even able to hang out as much since I am busy and we missed out on each other when we did intersect paths within the same town one rainy evening that we did seem doomed to fail.
I realised he was just as complicated if not more complicated than all the other red flags I should have avoided 12 boyfriends ago. Haha!
Suffice it to say, it did feel good being liked back by the person I liked, too. Not that I ever needed to be liked.
We just aren't compatible despite a common love of Motorcycles.
Don't believe the feigned or imagined "chemistry" from "vibing" just within Online contexts. Online and Offline compatibilities and behavioural patterns are still worlds apart. | Crushes |
7 weeks. 49 days. 1,176 hours. 70,560 minutes. However you look at it, the conclusion remains the same. Like a thief in the night, you’ve sneaked into the planes and crevices of my heart leaving a trail of warmth in your wake, but stealing my oxygen and shoving it in a duffel bag - a master of precision. Whenever I answer a question in class, I see your head wip back in my peripherals, but it takes everything in me, every drop of will power, to resist looking over and allowing our eyes to meet momentarily.
Why ?
Because when I look into your eyes I’m afraid of drowning in the blue ocean that rests in your sockets, scared of never being able to return to the surface. I’m afraid of the way your nose may scrunch in distaste. I’m afraid your brows may furrow together in annoyance. I’m afraid your face may ask me: what are you looking at ? I’m afraid- I’m petrified. However, I tell myself where’s the evidence to support any of those fears - thanks Julie. But I still find the slippery tendrils wrapping around my heart, injecting it with a dangerous level of trepidation.
It’s irrational, illogical because I know you of all people would never be able to do that; there isn’t a single bad bone in your body out of all the 206, (yes I did have to research that number for the record). However, the fear doesn’t cease, instead it’s started leaking out of my arteries gradually diffusing into my cells, ultimately making me pull away from you entirely. Instead, now, I admire from a distance an impassable barrier between ‘us’.
However, nonetheless, make sure you cream your face - not too little as it will make it look dry but not excessively as it will make it look too shiny; make sure you put on lip sil; make sure you position your glasses so they comfortably sit on the bridge of your nose; make sure you spray; make sure you arrive at exactly five past eight otherwise you may miss him; make sure you chew gum; make sure you most importantly…. try to talk to him. The key word being ‘try’.
I wanted to talk to you, but I didn’t.
Who is she ? Who is that girl ?
My heart cried, pleaded, wailed and bled. It plummeted to the bottom of my gut as the realization hit.
Is she your girlfriend ? Does she have a crush on you ? Do you have a crush on her ?
“Calm down” - the logical part of me says, “be rational”. However, over the past few weeks I have come to understand that the brain cannot rectify these insecurities; it is a battle of the heart - alone. Feelings are complicated; they’ve twisted and tightened around each other forming a complex knot in the bottom of my gut, and regardless of the innumerable attempts, the knot hasn't loosened. Sometimes I wish there was an answer to deal with these emotions, like a math equation - black and white, but constant, offering a modicum of security.
On the outside, the information feeds into my eyes like a movie - frame by frame - milliseconds turning into seconds and seconds into minutes. I watch as you glance into her eyes. I watch as you laugh and slightly tilt your head to the side, like you always do whenever you’re confused or thinking or concentrating. I watch as she giggles, her eyes glistening and rosy cheeks illuminating. I watch as the distance between you two minimises as you retreat. I watch from afar as my heart screams but my brain remains unresponsive. I watch as the back of your head gradually fades into the distance, paralysed, silent and wishing. I watch because that’s all I can do.
It’s funny, before I wanted you to get a girlfriend, I thought seeing you happy with someone else would’ve expelled my feelings for you, but it hasn’t. Instead a melancholic melody strummed, drowning out the outside world and amplifying my desire to have what I can’t have. But I have to keep the lid on, I bite back the tear threatening to leak out; swallow the lump in my throat then let out a breath; keep calm and carry on. But it hurts. It feels as if a dagger has been thrusted into my heart and the blade is being rotated and twisted in quick, sharp motions not allowing a moment of recovery. It’s making sense now. I understand why my walls are so high - they’re a defense mechanism, a way to mitigate pain caused by those around us. A shield.
You’re dangerous [his name]. Without even realising, you’ve given permission to my heart to steadily lower the walls protecting it - leaving me exposed and vulnerable to attacks.
I want to stop feeling like this. I want to stop pining over the confidence you exude. I want to stop longing to feel your warmth as we walk side by side. I want to stop tripping over my feet as I race to catch up with your retreating figure. I want to stop yearning to be in the same position as that girl. I want to stop feeling like this.
But how do I do that ?
I try to dislike you but the sound of your kind voice silences the callous voices in my head as if you have some sort of insight into my thought process. I can’t move on because when I see you, I remember all my feelings (although ‘remembering’ would imply that to some degree I’ve forgotten, but I haven’t albeit I’ve tried), they all come rushing back to me pushing me back to square one. If my hair was long enough, I would be ripping it out in heaps and bundles, however the pain wouldn’t ever be able to equate to the emotional turmoil you, [his name] fill me with.
My eyes always find your head as if some sort of magnetic device has been installed, pulling me towards your direction, because apparently now crushes only obey the laws of physics. You make me feel so fucking good, like a normal teenager, but then you beat me black and blue, but I still can’t get enough - like a drug. I know I should stop, but I can’t and don’t want to. Therefore I find myself down a one way road, a road leading to inevitable hurt, but at least for the time being I can continue to feel, feel from a distance, I tell myself.
Yours Truly
Your Secret Admirer. | Crushes |
I need your opinions.
This is probably such a dumb thing to ask, but if you were in high school and you were extroverted or even ambiverted enough to have a solid, large friend group, and you barely know your crush and have never talked to them, would you be turned off/lose interest if you saw them wandering around awkwardly (maybe even in circles sometimes?), looking lost, lonely, and/or antisocial? | Crushes |
theres this girl i like that i’ve been friends with for a few years and we tend to talk often. our conversations usually last long and on saturday me and her ended up texting for 7 hours. however, with all this talking comes an insecurity i have and that insecurity pertains to initiating conversations. does it matter if i almost always initiate conversations with her if we talk a lot? she’s agreed that we should call more and seems to want to spend more time with me as when i was going somewhere without my friends, she offered for me to tag along with her friends. there’s been really good signs she is interested in me, but i worry about her not seeing me romantically due to her not starting conversations. i dont want to ask because i dont want to start forcing anything. | Crushes |
i have a crush on this dude but i cant decide if im just a friend for him or more. he did hold hands with me for hours but nothing more and we’ve been talking for like a month | Crushes |
I've known this girl from highschool never talked to her much. Well fast forward a few years and I run into her working at a gym I workout at. She engaged me first after a few months because I was wearing a metal t-shirt of slipknot. She came over and we started talking about the band and our music taste and eventually asked questions about what's been going on after highschool. I really enjoyed our conversation so I asked for her number after a few days so we could get a workout in sometime. A few weeks go by and a couple workouts literally did chest earlier with her and I caught myself staring in her eyes when we were talking at the end. And I felt so strange like I was falling for her in a way. I never really thought she would be someone I would fall for but I think I am. She just stood out for some reason like a switch just flipped in my head and a rush of energy was pushing through my body because of her. It made me feel good because I haven't felt this way in a few years honeslty. But here now putting this into text I'm confused I don't know what to say or even if i should I want to but I don't know if she feels the same way. Either way I'm glad I know I can feel like this still even if nothing comes of it. | Crushes |
I met him on a dating app and we talked for a week. He asked if we could meet and I said yes. He invited me to his appartement and we had diner, talked for hours and listened to music. He played piano for me and I really spent a great time. He didn’t make a move or try to kiss me even after dropping me off at my house.
He sent me a text later that night and thanked me for coming and said that he a great time. The thing is, he didn’t ask to see me again and didn’t text me after the last text.
I sent him a text, a casual « hi, how are you? » …. Still no answer 😅…. It makes me so nervous because I really want to see him again.
So, what should I do?
Ps: English is not my first language so sorry if I made spelling mistakes | Crushes |
So I've officially been crowned as the guy friend she's a little to touchy with and oohhhh it's nice she couldn't keep her hands off me we were constantly touching I mean there's only one thing that's better we all know what that is. I think she caught on to how subtle I am with flirting with her so | Crushes |
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I don’t know. I feel the pressure of having to constantly please them and come up with something interesting and clever to say every time they make a comment to me. I feel like I’ve let them down and I’ve bored them whenever they leave and talk to one of their other friends. I feel like they have a better time with them than with me. I think I’m blowing things out of proportion but can’t seem to convince myself of that. I just feel like they expect a lot of me and I’m not as good as some other people they know and talk to. This is the first time I’ve really had a crush on someone to this level and it makes me feel so small sometimes but sometimes it can be the greatest thing in the world. I’ll update | Crushes |
Ok it started wheb i was woth her best friend, i sae a girl i know 9n a date going to see the same movie we were watching, and it got me thinking aboit relationships. Then she came up, i have thought she is rather pretty for a while but i hadnt thought of her lole that, then i started thinking baout stuff and earlier today i ahd thought about her kissing me after bi said something poke "kies me if im worng but (days wrong answer, not knowing ot was" (didntbatcually happen). This is like the 2nd time since my long term crush that ive thought of someone like this | Crushes |
Jeez I'm smiling as I type this. Anyways, I have a crush on someone who I'd say I kinda know. I'd say we're friends, but maybe not good friends. We definitely have mutual friends tho bc we're kinda in the same friend group(s). I'm not really sure whn I started liking him, but I definitely do. The problem is I'm in my head a lot and I'm scared that I only like the idea of him, but I think I do actually like him,I just don't know him well. Like 10 minutes ago I joined this reddit because I wanted to read the stories of ppl I may be able to relate to and hopefully help. Yet I found myself looking through posts that could potentially be him. I don't even think he uses reddit, but it never hurts to check (or maybe it does). Anyways, he's so cute and I love his hair and would probably play with it everyday if it wouldn't come off as weird. I have no clue if he likes me or about whether I'm gonna confess or not l. Tbh I don't think he likes in that way (I could be wrong ofc) but even so, I'm okay with that, I'll move on. Really I wouldn't say this is a vent I just wanted to talk about him. I don't have the confidence to type his name in the very unlikely chance he sees this, but he's really smart and partially shares a name with the great and also the Lion from Madagascar. These are easy hints smh. Yall can guess him name if yall want, but you won't know mine hehehe unless you're him and you think you know who i am | Crushes |
If you haven't noticed yet, I have terrible social skills and I've been quiet ever since I was bullied for 3 years in elementary school so I'm not surprised my dumbass was too busy creating the ugliest character known to mankind while I had the perfect chance to start a conversation with her. This happened about 2-4 months ago and I still remember it. Anyways here's the story:
Me and my friend were at recess and we grabbed two chairs and sat next to each other while I was starting my first ever Oblivion playthrough and me and my friend spent a solid 2 minutes creating an abomination before my crush and her friend walked up to us. Her friend grabbed a chair and sat in front of us and my crush stood behind her. Her friend said "is this where the cool kids hang out?" Then I jokingly said "Nah, this is where nerds go" then we started talking but I don't exactly remember about what. If my hair had a soul then my crush was staring directly into it for some reason while playing with her top to the point I think I even saw her bra while her friend and I discussed dumb stuff as usual. All of that while I'm still creating an abomination and trying not to laugh while the emperor is saying he saw me, a skooma addicted thieving catman in his dreams. I now lost most of my interest in gaming because she hasn't left my mind yet and I can't focus on my hobbies without thinking about her. I haven't touched my games in a few weeks and I just stare at the ceiling thinking about her and how dumb I was. Divines grant me strength what have I done I just let the kindest and most beautiful girl I've ever seen stand there awkwardly staring at my hair instead of trying to start an actual conversation because my dumbass was too busy explaining the entirety of the Elder Scrolls lore not realizing how dumb I sound, AND THEY SOMEHOW STILL LOOKED INTERESTED! ONE STARED AT ME AND THE OTHER WAS ACTUALLY LISTENING AND THEY AREN'T EVEN INTERESTED IN GAMING (I'm not even good looking, I looked like Harry Potter but from wish)
And before you say I should've turned off my computer, I was just moving sliders on my laptop while talking to them so it's not like I was directly focused on the game and completely ignoring them, nothing like that. I just sometimes looked to check how the character creation was going but I knew trying to start a conversation with my crush specifically would've been awkward because her friend was the one who brought my crush with her and started the conversation.
I also tried not to look at my crush because me being the absolute polite gentleman I am, realizing her bra was visible, decided to look at her friend even though they were right next to each other so I could still see her. | Crushes |
Sooo like 2 days ago after a taking a longer time to think about it i realised im really into one of my friends. And as you can probably guess i was rejected. Amd what they say its true. The more you get rejected the easier its is to accept. So pls ask your crush out. Its not as bad as you think it is. I know you can do it | Crushes |
The person in my grad program I have a thing for makes intense eye contact with me. I’m thinking they may have a thing for me too- just based off of our interactions with each other. When I’m talking to them, it’s like they’re staring really deep into my soul. Idk if it’s cause I want that to be the case, but their eye contact is so strong it makes me uncomfortable. It doesn’t help that I’m just nervous around them in general and I struggle to hold eye contact myself- but it’s so strong on their end. Does anyone have experience with this? | Crushes |
Eternal sunshine of a spotless mind
Your eyes are like the deep, dark night sky, yet despite their beauty it is clear that contemplation and darkness whirls within but when your deep, dark eyes are filled with joy they light up as if they were illuminated by millions of glistening and shimmering stars, it’s a stunning sight to see, and when accompanied by your smile the stunning sight becomes dazzling, it becomes radiant-your joy is more pleasant than a sunny day and your touch is enough to make one’s heart warm, the actual sun leaves much to be desired. To feel the touch of your lips on one’s skin is to feel a thousand butterflies thrust through one’s stomach, whirling about, flapping their wings delicately, just as your kiss is delicate and pure. It leaves nothing to be desired. What more do I love about you? The jokes you tell, the way you laughter rings when you hear something humorous yet so offensive and controversial, the way you assure people and make them feel heard without expecting anyone to hear you..If I searched the entire world for love I’d honestly probably be led back to you. I’d find that peace resides in the cool, night sky, it resides in the warm and bright sun and love is found in the moments we had underneath the tree we spent our time underneath for the past few months. When you decided you would not give me another chance, it felt as if an apocalypse had occurred, havoc wrecked in my mind and I began to overflow with tears realizing not only that I had lost you but I had caused you a great deal of sadness, I had caused the most patient, caring person I know to lose their patience and lose their hope. I don’t want you to be sad, I want you to be happy because there’s nothing that makes me happier in the world, in fact you are my world. You may have brought moments of darkness into my world but you’ve most importantly brought light, you made the sky seem more blue, more bright, clearer, you made the grass seem less mundane and instead much more wonderful and greener, and yes I suppose storms did seem more tumultuous during the time of our relationship but love is not like wearing rose-coloured glasses, love isn’t this inability to remain angry, or upset, it’s not enteral sunshine and peace, rather it’s waking up and thinking I’d do it all over again, because I would. | Crushes |
might be a weird question but how do i stop them? from what i know it is just a small portion who ship us (8 out of 23 people) but i just think its kinda weird since we aren't even really friends.
i've tried saying that i didn't like her but it didn't work tho. | Crushes |
There's a mutual interest between the both of us but we never cross paths because we have very different schedules at school. Should I just text her on Insta and like maybe make plans to see each other more often? | Crushes |
Today was the third time she asked me "like seriously, what would your reaction be if I say yes?" So, i confessed to her on 7 oct and we are good friends since then, she makes efforts to spend time with me and we also talk nearly daily and i guess she likes my company as she doesn't avoid me and tries to be with me even when it's not required, not supposed to be. And today was the third time she suggested something like this after saying one time to propose her. But, I also know that she just seed me as good friend and I'm confused. What should I be saying in case I get asked that again? | Crushes |
I think I've been giving mixed signals to a guy I like. I'm 99% sure at one point he's shown interest in me (and I'm hoping he's still interested). I don't wanna push him away. Problem is, we've never spoken to each other. I've briefly talked to his friend before, but that's literally it.
I dunno how to communicate my interest in him. For the meantime, should I just shoot some glances his way until I get the opportunity to speak with him? | Crushes |
I don't really talk to my crush that much but when we do it's often short conversation about something nothing long but I see her talking to someone else and it seems like she's a lot more engaged in the conversation she's laughing and smiling and it makes me feel bad and I get this sort of pain in my chest I know it's selfish and stupid but I want to make her laugh and smile but I've only been able to make her laugh once and it hurts seeing him make her happy so effortlessly I want her to be happy so I'm not sure why I feel like that when I see them talking I'm pretty sure thier just friends so why am I so jealous of them. | Crushes |
I think I've been giving mixed signals to a guy I like. I'm 99% sure at one point he liked me — and I'm hoping he still does. I don't wanna push him away. Problem is, we've never spoken to each other. I've briefly talked to his friend before, but that's literally it.
I dunno how to communicate my interest in him. For the meantime, should I just shoot some glances his way until I get the opportunity to speak with him? 😔👊 | Crushes |
I think I've been giving mixed signals to a guy I like. I'm 99% sure at one point he liked me — and I'm hoping he still does. I don't wanna push him away. Problem is, we've never spoken to each other. I've briefly talked to his friend before, but that's literally it.
I dunno how to communicate my interest in him. For the meantime, should I just shoot some glances his way until I get the opportunity to speak with him? | Crushes |
A few weeks ago, Oct 28, was my birthday, she said she had gotten me a gift and it was going to be a few days late. She also was planning on treating me out to food but still hasn't taken me out yet. She keeps saying she still has to treat me out but hasn't put any effort to really plan when.
Don't go judging me and saying I'm selfish. I really don't care about gifts, as I grew up my whole life not expecting anything for my birthdays or Christmas. Her birthday is actually next week and I've had her gifts ready for a few days now. I ask this question just to get input about what she could be thinking. I don't want to be lied to especially from someone I trust. I really cherish our time we've spend together and I just kind of hope she felt the same way. There's complications why I can't actually be in a relationship with her which I don't really want to get into detail but I like what we currently have. | Crushes |
Like it's just really weird to me, since I don't really care about their appearance that much, but itbis obvious that they're really pretty, to the point that I've heard multiple people independently say that they're the best looking person at our school
And compared to that, I've been told multiple times by different people that I look like hal from megamind, and the best thing someone has said about my appearance is that I'm "not as bad as I think I am"
It's just a little weird, my crush doesn't mind me talking to them or being friends, but I guess it does make me feel a little insecure, like I know people aren't actually so vain that they'd literally stop talking to someone just because they're uglier than them, but it still just feels strange that they'd talk to me | Crushes |
Help. I find this one guy extremely cute, he's 1 year below me. Sometimes I see him in the hallway with his friends, I want to get to know him. 3 weeks ago I added him on snap, but he didn't accept, nor did he follow me back on instagram. (Probably coz he doesn't know me).
How do I talk to him??? I don't see him nowhere except in the school halls :( | Crushes |
Hey y'all. This is my first post here. So last Friday, I noticed this guy that's in my history class at the school gym. We were both working out, doing our own thing. We made eye contact but I didn't think much of it. He's attractive but like I said, I just wouldn't have thought a guy like him would approach me out of the blue. When we had class less than an hour later, again, we made eye contact and he was smiling this big, bright smile. Anyway, class ends and I take my time packing my stuff before leaving. All of a sudden, I see him standing in front of me and smiles, "I saw you at the gym earlier. Do you work out often?" "Yeah, I try haha." Then I see from the corner of my eye that he is extending his hand, and asks, "What's your name?" *insert my name* and then I ask him his name. He tells me his name and we shake hands, "Nice to meet you," while still smiling. He holds the door open for me, and we walk down the stairs and outside. We're talking about class and college stuff, when we had to part ways. He says "See you later" and I do too. I thought the whole interaction was so nice and genuine. Now, this is where I feel bad. Today, Monday, I saw him at the gym again but I didn't say anything to him because I didn't want to interrupt his workout. Then when I got to class, we mad eye contact, and he smiled. I returned the smile back but very discreetly. I kept staring at him from the corner of my eye without being too obvious. I am certain he was too, and it was more obvious, but I didn't dare make eye contact with him because I was too shy. When class ends, I slowly get up to hopefully walk with him again, but people are trying to leave and I get out the way by leaving class first than him. I end up not walking with him and I couldn't wait or even see him because of the crowded hallways. So we didn't talk today. I just hope he doesn't think I ignored him because I left class first. I do think I might have a crush on him. Sadly, we only have 2 classes left in person for the semester. So any advice on how to talk to him would be appreciated. I felt flattered that he approached me first, but also why now towards the end of the semester? 😅 Maybe he is trying to shoot his shot with me? Do you guys think he might like me in a non-platonic way? Or is it friendly? What do y'all think? Sorry for the long post but any advice/thoughts is appreciated :) | Crushes |
So I started having a crush on this guy at the start of middle school and based on the observations of my friends and my personal observations, what does these signs mean?
- He always compliments my art even artworks I feel insecure about.
- My friend saw him mimicking some of my habits like leg crossing while sitting and pouting while poking the other cheek.
- After he saw my drawing of Hinata Shoyo he started getting interested in Haikyuu.
- During music class when I was singing with my best friend in front of the class because of an activity, I saw him dancing a little. ( not like dancing like a Kpop idol more so his hands were dancing and making movements, something he really didn't do in past performances of others except his friends. )
- When I cried in class a little, he asked one of my close friends if I was okay?
- When I moved schools due to quarantine my friend told me during online class, when asked about his type in a person he said "a person who is very good at drawing."
- When classes at my old school started opening again, he asked my best friend on where I was? My friend told him I moved schools, and he replied with an 'oh okay' and walked away without saying anything further.
I don't really wanna jump into conclusions cause maybe its from another girl, but my friends basically said these signs means he kinda likes me. But I'm not that sure cause he said he already had a crush on a different girl that is not me.
So thats why I am asking on whats your opinion on this? | Crushes |
I'm just tired of chasing him around. So now I pretty much don't talk to him. By that I mean that when I see him on the other side of the corridor I just don't initiate contact at all. I just wait for him to come and talk to me. If he truly likes me (which he never said, but implied many times), then he should be the one chasing me around because I am tired to do so. This might be toxic, this might be childish, but I don't care cause it works.
When I passed by him I didn't even look at him, meanwhile I would normally jokingly bump into him, smile, wave, or talk to him, but I didn't. Guess what? He turned around in confusion lol it was pretty funny to see.
Sometimes people just get tired of chasing others around. I think that if he doesn't show interest for a few days, if he doesn't initiate contact, the i'll lose interest. | Crushes |
A bit of background: I used to have a HUGE crush on this girl all throughout high school but never told her because she had a BF. We were just friends and then after high school we lost contact.
2 months, after over a year of no communication, I decided to re-initiate our connection. We talked a bit on whatsapp and then last month she invited me to a couple of concerts, sadly only one of them I was able to attend.
She told me that she and her BF had broken up a bit before I started chatting with her and ever since then I couldn't stop thinking about her.
It's been around 3 months since her break up and I know I've been in the friendzone for a loooong time (also by looks she is in a different league then me) so I know my chances are tiny. To be honest I'm expecting a no. But still I have to hear that 'no' coming from her to truly move on.
I don't want to do it so soon after her break up of a relationship of 4 years. Just last month she told me she is still dealing with it and I feel like a jerk putting her on the spot, but I truly have to do this to continue my life.
I was thinking that the next time we meet, around the end of the meeting I would say something along these lines:
"Hey, theres seething I need to talk to you about. Sorry, I know it's a bad time, after the break up, but I'm gonna need to be a bit selfish here. I think you're really cute and I kinda like you. It's fine if you say its not been long enough since the break up, or that you just don't see me that way, or a thousand and one other reasons, I just needed to say. Hopefully if it doesn't suits you we can stay friends."
What do you think? Is this a good way to insure she feels comfortable? | Crushes |
Hi all
I've known this guy for a long time now, we have had crushes back and forth but it's never the right time cuz there was at least one of us in a relationship.
Anyway, I have had a dream about him a while ago and realized I want to contact him, I started following him on insta. Noticeably, he has not posted anything for years but when I follow him he started posting his photos everyday. He also replied to my story and like my photo, once he asked if I was lonely, he would ask our friend group to come and hang out. He also came to visit me once during covid lockdown a long time ago.
He has also contacted me every once in a while for totally trivia things.
Last week, I received a missed call on messenger and I told him I could not answer cuz I was working. He did not reply afterwards. | Crushes |
Hello! So there's this boy in my class. We've been going to the same institution for 3 years now? I've always perceived him as an acquaintance or not that close of a friend and we didn't really talk that much. It all started changing since last week
Firstly, we play volleyball and at a random moment while looking at him I just realized that I find him extremely attractive physically. Then everything started moving to a more deeper and emotional attraction. I've noticed whenever we played he is so supportive and careful, asking me if I'm alright if he accidently hit or almost hit me and making sure I'm okay.
Today I had an important project to present with my friend and I was feeling my anxiety and being so nervous but he kept talking to me before it and giving me tips. Once my friend began talking I randomly glanced at his direction and I kept seeing him smiling or giving me a thumbs up which truly made my heart jump and made me smile so much. And more so we've been talking more frequently and joking more recently!
Of course it's so early and could be just a random passing crush but ive truly never felt like this to my previous crushes or lovers and I feel so strongly about him so suddenly?? I don't know how to interpret his actions I just know I've never personally heard him being so sweet and it made me so happy today. | Crushes |
A girl I’ve been FaceTiming wanted to wear and show me her new trousers she’d just gone and bought. Why is she showing me? | Crushes |
Yay I have a new crush! The one thing that sucks is that we never talk. Also so far I’ve had like 3 rejections in a row without any major success so I kinda developed body dysmorphic disorder. Let’s talk about our new crushes! Ask me anything and I will ask you something as well. Let’s share our thoughts! | Crushes |
So, I've been planning on temporally dying my hair for some time now, and I've finally decided it is time to do so. Today after school I bought some hair dye, i was supposed to buy two colors but unfortunally there was only one of the colors i wanted to buy in the store (rip my dream half green hair) , so I went with it. After i came home i started to dye my hair. It came out awesome shade of red. I loved it. Later today i talked to my crush and I showed him a picture of my hair, he told me it looked better than he could imagine and later on he told me red was his favorite color (alongside green btw, cuz i told him i wanted to have it half green) and now i am so amazed by how coincidental that was. What was the chance?? | Crushes |
does anyone have any tips on how i can start a text conversation with him? we both go to the same high school, hes introverted and we haven't spoken a lot in person before. | Crushes |
It's been 8 months or so since I've liked this girl. The first person I told about my crush on her was my brother.
He's sort of like a brother when he's actually just my best friend ^^
My brother has been my number one cheerleader and he always gave me love advice. He's a great dude and I love him and all but last night, he did something so awful, it makes my heart rip apart whenever I think about it.
A few weeks ago, that dude had a previous crush on one of my friends but he admitted he didn't like her anymore. Of course, I was surprised and told him that I'd be there for him (I was just banned from saying their ship name lmao). What I didn't know was that he was beginning to develop a crush on the same girl I liked. It doesn't help that he's in the same class as her for Japanese and Science. I didn't think much of it because I thought they were just great friends.
It's not that I don't spend time with my crush. I really try my best there and there. We have good chemistry and all of her friends tell me they ship me with her. I love it when they do that because honestly, it makes me think that I'm compatible with her (don't tell them I said that). We've had good moments with each other but lately we've been distant. Not talking as much as we used to but maybe it's because of the exams coming up.
I haven't told her I liked her.
I love this girl so much.
Yesterday, during lunch, I was sitting with my brother and my crush's friend group. We've always done that. I was listening to a conversation betweeen my brother and her crush and I guess it hit me.
"They've been doing that for a while, haven't they? I wonder how close they are?"
He liked her. My heart stopped as I realised that I would have to probably fight for her. I didn't want that. Neither did my brother because I don't think he knows that I know. But I remember feeling so bad afterwards. I kept to myself thinking, what if he's been holding back this whole time because I like her? He's a great dude and he deserves to be happy but I would really hate for him to miss his chance for my sake.
I hate my situation. I promised myself that I'd bring up that conversation somehow and we'd work it out together.
A few hours later after I come back from running, my friends texted me about my brother asking someone out. I dreaded the worst and unfortunately... it was. I wish I prepared myself more.
My girl best friend texted me and stayed on call while I cried my eyes out after I found out my brother and my crush were dating.
I don't know what to feel. I'm so happy for him and her because I at least know that the girl I love so much is with a good man. I'll work on getting over her but I don't think I'll ever stop wanting to love her. My best friend and my support team are disappointed (me too) that my brother really just went behind my back and dated her when he knew I liked her. I'm mad that he didn't tell me but I don't want to cause drama. I'm happy for him, I really am. He said that he asked her out without thinking, like he was in the moment and took his chance. I'm proud of him but at the same time, I'm... going to fuckkng kill him because he really just did that.
First, I found out he liked her. Then I find out they're dating. What else could go wrong?
My brother apologised online and told me he'd be willing to break up with her for me.
"You deserve her more than I do."
That's the 3rd bomb set off. So much happened in a few hours that it feels unreal. I really hate my situation and I don't know what to do when I get to school in a few hours. I hope I can make it but what do I do?
I really want to date my crush, but if she is happy with being in a relationship with my brother, I'll be happy too. I'm not going to ruin that for her or my brother. | Crushes |
Or at least I asked them if they wanted to hang out just the two of us. They said we could get a coffee which I said okay to. Then they gabe me a fist bump before leaving. Honestly I'm kind of worried they saw it as me just asking to do something as friends. | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this boy in my class (He's my first proper crush) and hes really nice to me and we like the same stuff like horror. Anyways we were texting today and he said that he has a new gf. And than he says that its a girl in our class. This girl is nice but her 2 friends are kinda mean girls. I dont know what to do please help me. And also I thought he liked me too before he got his gf. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my hair stylist 🥲.
When we first talked months ago, we both told each other that we weren’t looking for anything but friends so we became that. But things can change..right? Long story short, I asked her to go with me to this concert that’s happening next week and to my surprise, she said yes. Honestly, I’m thinking about shooting my shot after the concert. She’s like a mystery. I wanna know her story. I wanna know her on a deeper level instead of asking the same boring questions. But I’ll give you guys an update next week | Crushes |
I don’t know. I feel the pressure of having to constantly please them and come up with something interesting and clever to say every time they make a comment to me. I feel like I’ve let them down and I’ve bored them whenever they leave and talk to one of their other friends. I feel like they have a better time with them than with me. I think I’m blowing things out of proportion but can’t seem to convince myself of that. I just feel like they expect a lot of me and I’m not as good as some other people they know and talk to. | Crushes |
I mean long before you became a thing. I don’t mean the surface stuff like looks, I mean like their actions etc/the nature of your relationship | Crushes |
I honestly have no clue why I'm crushing on her. It's very clear we're only friends and that's all it'll ever be, so why am I still crushing on her? I should really just give up but I can't, even knowing that I have no chance at all. Is it a platonic crush? Do I just wanna be closer with her as friends? I feel as if I confuse platonic feelings for romantic ones. | Crushes |
i told the guy i was talking to i wasn’t having a good day. the reason being, i don’t know if he likes me. i told him that when i’m stressed i like to write and make it dramatic. i sent what i wrote to one of my friends and she said i should be a poet 😋😋. he told me to show him and i said absolutely not since it was about him. he said “k”. i said i could show you it but 99% of it would be blocked out. i sent him a ss of it with most blocked out. i regretted it immediately and then on top of that he said,” yk, ur not the smartest.” and sent me a ss where he enhanced or turned up the brightness so he could see EVERYTHING i wrote. i had a panic attack at that point because i said a bunch of stuff that was highly dramatized and he wouldn’t understand. he sent the ss of what i wrote to one of his friends who i used to like. and i told that friend a bunch of stuff before. but now i regret everything. what do i do at this point. | Crushes |
It was March, and I just came back in the class after I gave for a moment my pencil case to somone, and I found all my pencils around the class. I just said "I'm never gonna give you my pencil case again" and she laughed and said "hahahaha you are so right". She looked so cute and realization hit me like s truck. | Crushes |
fuck it he's disgusting me a lot m done | Crushes |
So I have had a crush on this guy I met earlier this year and it’s been a roller coaster to say the least. Even though we weren’t dating and no feelings have actually been confessed, there was obvious chemistry and I do still like and care about him very much.
Now here’s the problem… I, black 22f, am currently living abroad. I went clubbing a little over a month ago and got really drunk. This guy approached me and I don’t really remember how the initial conversation started, I just know that I spent the rest of the night in the club with him. By the time we left it was like 7:30 AM. I don’t know what it was about him at the time but he just radiated this really good and safe vibe. I can’t really explain it but his energy was just different. We exchanged numbers, I got in my taxi and went to my dorm. So we’re texting every day since that night and decide to go out that next weekend on an actual date. Well when we met up again, we realized HUGE language barrier. I’m no where near fluent in this country’s language yet, but I’m a lot more confident in it when I’m drunk and vice versa with him and English. Anyways, we still had a lot of fun. The language barrier wasn’t a problem at all. We’ve hung out every week since. The second time we hung out I learned that he didn’t actually live in Seoul, but over 2 hrs away and he was making the trips because he just wanted to see me again. That really melted my heart. I tried to tell him not to but he persisted and so we’ve been hanging out and he is just so sweet and kind. Just full of positive genuine energy. I’ve never met anyone that just has this kind of vibe and it’s captivating. Like I just always want to be around him. BUT I find myself thinking about my original crush and I feel so guilty and torn because me and him kinda went through a lot back in my home country. And now he’s not here but he’s coming back to where I am for break soon and I’m so excited and ready to see him again, but I have all of these new feelings for this really great guy that’s here and I just don’t know what to do😭😭😭 | Crushes |
I've been having a crush on this girl for more than a year now, yet i never initiated a conversation with her, not even once. We share like half of our classes, and both of us are very introverted. I want to get to know her, but i cannot start a conversation. I am not even sure why i made this post, since no motivational stuff has helped me for a year, it probably won't help now either. But I cannot seem to forget her either. Help | Crushes |
I should be studying for tomorrow's test right now but I just can't get him off my mind
There's this really cute guy in my class who used to look at me a ton. I don't know if he's still interested and he doesn't stare as much as he used to, but omg ahhh ~ 💕
The way his face would turn red when I'd look back... Gotdamn he's so fine 😳😳 | Crushes |
My classmate- well I suppose my friend, might have a crush on me.
He keeps on smiling when we talk and whenever he sees me briefly he smiles and just keeps on looking at me during class and smiles. A lot of smiling.
Also I’ve realized that he’s been a lot more social with me.
I know these points don’t really scream crush. But they’re something off with him at the moment. Can‘t quite put my finger on it though.
An example would be today; he waited for me whilst leaving the classroom and just started chatting and striking up conversation one after another. | Crushes |
I've had a crush on a girl for about a year now. We are good friends, although we don't talk very much. Recently, I've been wanting to confess to her so I can move on and find someone more in my league. I'm very shy and introverted, whereas she is very extroverted and intelligent. We couldn't be more different. I don't know if I should confess to her or not though, because I don't want my heart broken. My friend thinks that she likes me back, but she's kind to most people in the way she is kind to me. Plus, she gets asked out quite a bit, so I have a feeling she'd just brush over it. I know she won't stop wanting to be my friend after finding out how I feel, but I'm still nervous. If I were to ask her out, do you think it'd be better to call her and confess in real life? With confessing in real life, I'd have to ask her to talk to me in private, which makes it obvious, but I've never called anyone before, so would probably mess it up if I tried to do that. Sorry for the ramble, does anyone think they know what I should do? | Crushes |
I feel like telling him would only worsen the situation. | Crushes |
I (26f) messaged him (29m) last night on insta but he hasn't even looked at it yet. I'm disappointed and sad about it bc even if he doesn't like me THAT way I still think we could be friends.
I'm really tempted to double text but I'm afraid it would be too cringe.
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fuck it man he's so annoying rn
it's so annoying atp
there's this teacher who told my parents about me n him ( like we're not even dating and wtf did she say to my parents idk )
so I was sitting in the first seat and this guy comes and sits next to me like fuck it
he knows I shud stay away from him when she's ther but fuck it
he tried talking to me so many times during the class and I ignored cz I didn't want that teacher to see but it was hard not to smile fuck fuck fuck usvwysuwokdnfbwhq
he's so annnnnoyiingngngngnfnnf
fuck fuck fuck
we went to this place to eat some good food and obv i didn't like seeing him n his girl feed each other It was cringe asf like wtf i didn't even look at them like ugh
he kept asking me to buy some sweets for him and ( he knows I care about him eating or not or wtvr tf man )
fuck I said I have no money
fuck it was v awkward in the afternoon fuck
idk how tf to react when i see him n his girl fuck v awkward
in the bus he kept touching my back and I knew he was doing it but I ignored it
he then brought his face so close to mine and started laughing n asked me about my apartment about my landlord n all lol
I was like idk lol
everytime he asks me smtg I say idk lol
in the practical class it was sooooooo weird n awkward today he kept bringing his chair in my way so many times I was really annoyed and then he asked for a paintbrush and I gave jt to him and he could have taken it from far but this bitch came sooooo fucking close to me and he literally didn't have to touch my hands but he did like wtf
he could've taken the brush from other end but he intentionally touched my hands n took it and I kinda felt uncomfortable and looked away like tf
and then he again came to my place and started doing his practicals at my place and again kept being kinda touchy like wtf man wtf fuck fuck
he s making it so difficult for me like seriously
fuck it man
and then he comes close to me and looks at me in the eye and I can't look at him in the eye and I break the eye contact and this bitch laughs at it fuck | Crushes |
I have a crush on a someone who is in a few of the same classes as me in college. I’m a sophomore and she’s a freshmen and we have a couple of the same classes and are going for the same degree. I swapped degrees which is why I’m “behind” so to speak but love this degree I swapped to and I already know I’m going to have more classes with her next semester. She talked to me around the start of this school year and then we didn’t talk for another month, where she came up to me again, then we talked a couple days later and then another month went by without talking. I told myself if she talked to me again I would actually approach her this time. Well she did near the end of the week I said that to myself (lol of course) and so the week after I approached her. We talked a bit, I’m a metal head and she’s definitely not my usual type but something about her seemed genuine idk and she’s a Christian which is nice as personally I am as well tho very liberal as one. Anyways I wanna ask for her number as now we exchange smiles and heys often but I’m just nervous to. I already know the general advice but I just wanted to express what’s going on in my head, and hear anyone’s opinion. I know I should ask and just deal with whatever happens as it’s better than regret but I kinda get a vibe that she might be someone who is slow about stuff which is keeping me from asking as usually I don’t struggle with it. | Crushes |
I met this girl maybe a week or two ago? She’s flirty with me and really nice. She’s mean her friends but she’s really sweet to me. We’re in a joke relationship as in we’re girlfriends but it’s a joke. She randomly texts me that she misses me and that she wants to hear my voice and see me. She tells me she wants me jokingly and stuff and I held her hand when I walk to to class and at dismissal when I saw her. She also says I’m the only person who doesn’t annoy her and she always replies to me unless her phone is dead. There’s another thing I’m not sure about so basically she opened up to me and told me things she hasn’t told anybody else so I think she trusts me enough? But this one time she asked me if I had ever made out with someone and I said yes. She got jealous and seemed a little upset and a couple hours after that we were talking normally and she told me a mutual friend we have was annoying her because she was jealous about something and she told her and she just gave her a pep talk and told her not to worry even though she said she wasn’t worried and was saying that she thinks she might be jealous even though she had specifically said she was jealous so she was a little annoyed at her and so I asked her what it was about and she didn’t want to tell me but it just seemed like a coincidence. Also a couple days when I first began talking to her our friend sent me a screenshot of a gc and she was saying how she missed me but idk if she likes me or not😭 she has asked me to kiss her before as a joke and I wanted to ask her but I’m not sure | Crushes |
Okay, I'm like 99% sure I'm gay but the guy I have a crush on is asexual. I know that him being asexual doesn't mean that he is aromantic, but I don't know if he is aro or not, so I guess I'll just hope that he isn't aro and more importantly, that he feels the same way towards me. | Crushes |
I really want text my crush but so nervous. I don’t know how to start the chat but i think send a song to them. is it a good idea? | Crushes |
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