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we were waiting in line for a ride at an amusement park the other day and were just chatting, then he reached his hand out to try to brush a strand of hair away from my face, i instinctively flinched. i used to have very bad acne so when people touched my face i worried that they would find my skin disgusting, so the flinching motion is just hardwired into my body now. he immediately apologized and explained that he didn’t want the hair to get into my eye. i regret it so much. i don’t want him to feel like he overstepped. plus that was his first time initiating physical contact with me. im just feeling like a big dumbass right now | Crushes |
I see her on thursdays when i take the bus, sometimes the tuesdays too and i suddenly started feeling something for her, sometimes we had exchanged glances and im 100% sure that some of them were not just coincidence.
Any advice?
How can i tell if she is interested in me too?
I would appreciate if anyone offers to talk about it on dm | Crushes |
Hey all of you invested in my story, it’s going to be my FINAL post in this subreddit, in a long time at least.
Thanks so much for all the help and letting me realize the situation I was in. I decided that I prefer my safety over making someone happy.
I currently have been getting close to acquaintances and other friends who drifted because of L, and I feel so much happier without him. (In the nicest way possible.)
Farewell, and I hope you all wake up in the morning each day feeling refreshed instead of groggy.
-M | Crushes |
Srsly, every single time a dude or a girl has flirted with me I have missed the signs, and what's even more annoying is that I usually have some sorta interest in them.
I remember I had a partner early last year and a them, their friend and I went to the bmx park after school and the friend didn't know we were dating and apparently he was flirting with me and I had no fkn idea until my partner pointed it out lol.
There was this girl I liked and she was flirting and I had no clue.
There was this guy as well who was in retrospect obviously really into me and I didn't even register that I had a fat crush on him and he liked me as well.
Ugh this is why I get no bitches, that and I'm a Reddit user | Crushes |
Anyone have any tips on how to recognise if a girl is interested in you over snapchat? Also, any tips for talking to a girl on snapchat? Edit(forgot to put in the first time) If they dont open your snap for a while does that mean the arent interested full stop? | Crushes |
So I have a bit of a crush on a guy I met through work, but we work at different places. We are both early thirties, but he turns me into a schoolgirl. He's very confident, friendly and seems a really nice person. And he is fiiiiiiiiine.
I said hello to him the other day and he said "you're as cheerful as always!" So I said I try, and he replied "that's good, it rubs off on everyone else."
That made me feel pretty good about myself. He is the type of guy who would probably just ask you out if he was interested, so I don't think he is. I don't even know if he is single, or not. But it was still nice to hear that I have an infectious, positive personality.
A compliment is a compliment. 😁😁😁 | Crushes |
I’ve liked her for months but just tonight I told her and asked if she wanted to date and she said yes. | Crushes |
omg omg help, i didn’t know this girl genuinely liked me this much, i didn’t think she actually liked me cuz she takes a bit to respond to me, but she just asked me out?? im genuinely so happy rn ahhh🥰🥰 | Crushes |
As the title says | Crushes |
I know that’s bad but I just wanna talk to her | Crushes |
For the past month or so this girl in my class would glance over kinda frequently during the class period. this also just so happened to be the girl I liked for the past couple of months and she never caught me looking at her. Over the second to last week of school while on a trip I found her snap and added her, I sent a snap but was left on open for a week, (no It wasn’t explicit in anyway.) I added her in hopes of getting to know her but I won’t even get a response, on the last day of school I tried my last attempt over snap and it has been ignored, did I miss my chance or can I still work things out? | Crushes |
I didnt know some words could make me attracted to someone so easily. for context I draw and he goes to my school. I've written my instagram on the board since im a very small influencer and he followed me and commissioned me almost immediately. My cat chewed through my apple pencil and he asked me if he could buy me a new one (he gave it to me today). He said he didn't want anything back but I felt bad for accepting something that's 120$ (and he overpayed a LOT in his commission). I gave him a doll secretly as a present and he texts me this:
"Hey lol quick question"
(Photo of doll)
"Did you give me this?"
me: hi, yes
"Awh it’s very cute"
"I was so lost when (teacher) called my name and he was like “there’s something here for you”"
"Had to make him reassure me if it was mines like 3 times"
"It also smells nice lol"
"Thank you though, made my day :)"
also im sorry if im not picking up anything im very oblivious to clues and I need a direct confession. I DIDNT KNOW WORDS WERE SO ATTRACTIVE UGJTHRHJ | Crushes |
Last night, I walked with her. I met her outside her job and I suggested her to take her home.
She accepted and we walked. She talked about a lot things. I was planning to confess though. Then she started a conversation about her crush. Something like how much he makes her happy...
Then she started talking about her ex. Then she told me that she had sex with him once and stuff. That doesn't change anything though, I don't mind it, she's still my crush.
But I lost my confidence to confess. Because I had zero romantic experience. I'm not only virgin, I'm also handholdless, kissless...
I had plenty of time but I wasted that. In the last few minutes I started talking about her birthday. Then I revealed that I was the anonymous gifter (I sent her a peach rose and a stuffed toy).
Then I got embarassed and said "I gave it to you because you helped me on many exams". We soon arrived at her home and said goodbyes.
We chatted a little this morning and she was like nothing has happened.
Now I have questions.
1. Did she realize that I have a crush on her?
2. Did I waste my chance?
3. How would you react if you were her?
4. What should I do next? | Crushes |
So I can’t Yanno tell if I have a crush on someone- like I can’t tell if it’s just admiration like ‘ohh their really cute’ but like in a friend way or a ‘oh. Their really cute.’ Crushy way they definitely don’t have access to this Reddit account so I have to post it here- but I really want advice on understanding if I do. Also I’ve tried the google questions but I feel decently similar feelings to people I definitely don’t have a crush on. Help? 😅 | Crushes |
I dont know i had a few classes with her when we were in middle school now we both go to different high schools but live very close so we still hang out and text but i dont know how to tell her and she's like one of my only friend's | Crushes |
Let’s try something new | Crushes |
all i can think about is when he’s going to text me next. it’s driving me insaneeee omfg..
is he at work right now? on his lunch, maybe? will he text me on his lunch? will he text me after his shift? will he text me tomorrow? should i text him? what would we talk about??
i’m literally annoying myself with these thoughts @__@ why can’t i just be Normal fr | Crushes |
I really like this one girl but I think flirting can be boring and kind of awkward I feel like going up to her and saying I have crush on her and asking if we should kiss now and see what she says? Do any of you not like the so direct approach? I don’t want to make her uncomfortable but I really want to get it over with and put it out there that I like her | Crushes |
im 15m and i kinda like this girl who’s 13 and turned 13 this year so im 2 years older but she is beautiful soooo idk is this weird | Crushes |
Was abroad in Europe for two months, stayed with a family I met on a school trip 3 years prior. Caught a crush on a girl from that family. I left them all letters the day I went home. When writing hers I made it, in my best attempt given a bit of a language barrier, to be a bit on the flirty side. She then messaged me and said she was touched and that she really liked it and wished me a good trip back home. Since being home I don’t know what to do. For some reason she’s about all I can think about. I’ve had crushes and dated a few girls before but for some reason it feels so much stronger this time around despite the obvious difficulties that come from thousands of miles of distance as well as a language barrer. All I want to do is try to talk to her all the time, but it was one thing to do in person and staying in the same home and another thing to suddenly start messaging out of the blue and feeling too forward. | Crushes |
Okay I know it’s not much but imma be honest here I’m not the type to make move on and this is the closest I have ever got to a physical touch to a crush of mine (mainly because I’m uncomfortable unless I initiate it mysef, and I’m too embarrassed to ask) before the last day for senior (he’s a sophomore) he hug me randomly for no reason, and I hug him as a good bye, (also head butted me but that actually kinda hurt) and I just saw him again at graduation and he high fives me. Gonna be honest here I procrastinated meeting my family to try and find him, and I couldn’t so I randomly pick this blonde married couple and I was like yeah they look legit and walk toward them and 5 second later there he is and we high fives so hurray! (Also never seeing him again so sadness) | Crushes |
Hey so there is this girl I like and I noticed that she is much colder / less energetic + doesnt treat me like my other friends that she known as long as she known me . Like I would think she is rejecting me in a nice way but like she came to all my basketball games and we hung out a decent amount outside of school. We also play imessage games/ text everyday. So I dont know why she would do that if she wasnt interested. Like basically when she talks to her other friends, she gives them hugs, talks to them in a playful way and seems like she enjoys talking to them. To me, she is so cold and acts so disinterested. Like when I say hi to her in a regular way , she just says hi quietly and looks away. It makes me feel like "she doesn't want to talk to me at all" so I just go away. But to other people she greets them in an energetic way with no problems, she even hugs sometimes or tap their shoulder. To me, its like shes disinterested but stays by my side. Does she hate me? | Crushes |
Can't even stop thinking about her when I'm unconscious. | Crushes |
I used to be extremely insecure, but have been improving as a person and have since become more confident, but not to the point of thinking a guy actually liked me!
I spent most of the past few years in the hopeless crushing phase, only to find out recently that someone was hopelessly crushing on me..
It's possible guys, no one is unlikeable! If someone liked me, who's been single her whole life, then someone probably likes and/or will like you! | Crushes |
(Repost from my alt). So, there’s a girl I am absolutely in love with. I’ve had a couple crushes before, but none of them were the same dizzying, stomach churning love like this. We’ve been really close friends for a few years, and I’ve liked her for almost the entire time. We are both devout Christians, and mid teens. How do I tell her, or how do I hint? I’d even take flirting advice. | Crushes |
^ like the title says | Crushes |
I like my coworker. She’s nice, pretty and she gets me and my jokes a lot. Other coworkers tell us we should date, and we always laugh it off.
A few days ago, I told her another person thinks we should date and she told me she would if we weren’t working together. After that conversation I got a call saying I got a new job and I’d have to leave.
I had two more days of working with her and I planned to ask her out, but I couldn’t get the words out. I feel like shit and I just want to tell her. But I can’t. I’m now going to do what I always do now and run away from my problem, cause that’s all I can think of doing.
If there’s any advice or anything, please let me know. | Crushes |
I can’t stop thinking about someone after 4 years, I forgot about them over covid but it’s come back and I don’t see them in person or online. I don’t even know if we’d be good now. | Crushes |
Welp I'm hopping on the trend ask me about him. We've known each other for a year but rarely talked to each other and only for school activities. Now we've been messaging and meming each other online for around an hour everyday :> | Crushes |
My life sucks so maybe i'll feed off of y'alls happiness :) OK GO GO GO GO
I'll try to respond to every comment | Crushes |
If your crush froze at the sight of you, and stood there... would you take that as a sign of nervousness or something else?
For context, this did happen to me and I was gonna go down the same hallway as they were, but I noticed they stood still, not coming toward me. So I stopped dead in my tracks and it was just a moment or so of no one making a move. Not until I left in another direction cause I couldn’t handle the awkward tension I might’ve caused. And passing by them wasn’t an option I was gonna take. We were the only ones in that hallway as well.
They have shared some possible signs of interests, like eye contact, etc. but we haven’t really spoken to each other. And they are super shy, so maybe I’m mistaken and they aren’t into me like I am into them.
I’m just confused why they would do that, thoughts? | Crushes |
The other day I was doing a science lab and I went to fill hot water and this guy was filling water too. When I got to the sink with my beaker he said “be careful, the water is hot, I almost burned myself”
I was lowkey shook and just said “oh okay” quietly cause he’s one of those intimidating that doesn’t really care people AND I GOT TO WITNESS HIS CARING SIDE WUT🙈☺️
I’m graduating in like 3 weeks so it’s kinda too late to make a move or anything unless.. but he’s attractive (personality to looks).
My thought is that he’s either super nice and caring in general or he….😙 | Crushes |
LETS GO BITCH
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY BUT LESGOOOOOOOO
why did i post this | Crushes |
Question is more directed towards guys but girls and nonbinary peeps can answer too
Just any compliment ig, nothing crazy. Idk something like "I like ur haircut" or somethin
Might seem like a dumb question but ik some people r shy so that kinda changes yknow
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I am having this intense crush on someone from work for a couple of months now. I told him I liked him just bc I was hoping I’d get turned down badly and I won’t like him anymore. But instead we got closer and we are now seatmates but I still get sad that he didn’t actually like me back so itried moving away slowly so that I won’t get attached anymore but now it started hurting that we are sitting far away from each other :( | Crushes |
My crush is non binary BTW.
So about like a month ago i started crushing on this person in my math class and they are really sweet and we talk a lot and I think I'm ready to tell them. I'll update very soon! | Crushes |
Ask me questions and I’ll ask you questions | Crushes |
So I work in a club and we occasionally hire people for the duration of a shift if we're short on staff, we do this through an agency. This girl showed up to a shift and she's gorgeous, and kept asking me questions throughout the shift and we locked eyes more than a few times. At the time I didn' t think much of it but later started to realize she was probably into me and wanted me to ask her out. Now she's gone and I don't know if I'll ever see her again. It's been 2 months and I still think about her and how I missed my chance. I know I should just let it slide but she was so so attractive and down to earth. I'm thinking she might come back at some point but who knows. | Crushes |
My crush has the sexiest dad bod. I just want to hug him and have him wrap his arms around me. I’ll take dad bods over muscles any day. | Crushes |
There goes my hopes and dreams lol-
Any advice on how I can get him to like me, not forcefully, but I want to be more appealing. School is out so I'm not sure how to. | Crushes |
you see the title, quit reading this and go to the comments | Crushes |
so here's the thing right she barely knows who i am.
but every time I look in her general direction I get a heart attack.
I don't know what to do because I'm kind of obsessed with her and I don't really have any excuse to talk to her. I would be extremely incredibly happy just to be friends with her but I don't even know how to do that.
She's just super cool and I want to get to know her better and she's super cute.
God help me | Crushes |
My school has a thing called Colour War and it’s basically every grade is assigned a colour and the grade with the highest participation wins bragging rights. They dyed their hair the colour out group was assigned and they look amazing with it. | Crushes |
We talk sometimes in school but a LOT online. I personally like talking in person to know their genuine responses. I try talking to him in person but most of the time he tries to avoid me. I still like talking to him and stuff because he’s super interesting to talk to, but I feel like I should stop liking him if he doesn’t want to talk to me. Ive tried to ignore him but I keep coming back 😭 | Crushes |
She's now started to hug me goodbye b4 we fo home from school and this week she took my hand during class and held it. She's done this 4 times this week now. She is spending more time with me now then she does with her friends that she's usually with.
School ends on tuesday 2 weeks from now. Then there's 1 more year b4 we go to new schools and split. I'm scared of rejection and don't wanna ruin our friendship. So I don't know if I should do it this school year or next. I also don't know how I should ask her. Help is appreciated! | Crushes |
Somebody give me advise | Crushes |
How | Crushes |
Back when i was 16, i got into the same class as this girl, let's call her Lara. I immidiately realised that she was, in my eyes, a straight 10. However, i didn't even bother asking her out, because she was way out of my league, and i focused on other girls instead. Fast forward, i am 18 years old now. I started hitting the gym 5 times a week, changed my hairstyle, improved my sense of fashion, i basically had that typical white boy glow-up that made me go from a 5 to an 8/9. I realised the effect of this when i started getting more attention from girls and recieving compliments from different people, wich boosted my confidence immensely. Because of this, i was able to date multiple girls, wich ended everytime on me breaking contact, because it didn't feel right for me. That was when i remembered my huge crush on Lara. I am mostly able to just walk up to a girl i like on a party, talk to her, have a good time and later on get her number and text/ meet up for a while. However, anytime i see her and we get into eye-contact, i freeze on the spot and don't get out a single word, wich always irritates me a lot, since i'm not used to that anymore. It's like my dream is to be with her, however i can't even talk to her at all. I'm friends with many girls from her friendgroup and they all know i have a crush on her and agreed to try to help me, without much success until now, wich makes the whole situation really messed up. I want to ask her out on the spot, but my friends adviced me to take it slow and get to know her first, wich is what i did previously with all my dates, but i get crushed by those damn butterflies everytime i even see her. So here's that. Any advice is greatly appreciated!
I appologise for the length of this essay-like post. I wanted to portray my thoughts as accurately as possible. | Crushes |
So I'll make this one more shortened, I asked the girl, she said yes, but her and her friend were messing with me. She said she wouldn't like me bc I'm not her type, and other faults of mine. But she keeps on having me tell her cousin stuff saying I love her, and just it seems weird. Should I ask her again, and if she rejects me again, how could I fix the things that make her not like me? Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
I need advice, I have a crush on a boy in my class and I walked into class and he said my name and then said he liked my hair, we aren’t friends and don’t really talk much, does it mean anything?? do u think he likes me or do u think he was just being friendly.
He’s super outspoken so I feel like if he did like me I’d know about it though | Crushes |
Ok so I’m staying at a resort rn and so I went down to the pool and there was this extremely cute guy. So of course I catch a little harmless crush on him ya know and I kept walking past him so nervously 😭. So I walk past him and go to the hot tub and it’s just me in there until literally right after I get in, he sees me in there and gets in with me and so of course I’m freaking out lol. I’m so mad at myself because out of nervousness of being alone with him I just left the hot tub after like 2 minutes and got in the pool. 🤦♀️ He then got out and went back to the pool where I was and I didn’t even try to interact with him. I completely blew my shot guys. 😭 | Crushes |
😅 | Crushes |
Hey there! I’d like to ask the guys here what do you find instantly attractive in a girl? Like physique and character traits. What makes you weak? I don’t even want a general answer, just your own opinion :) | Crushes |
Dont ask. | Crushes |
hi guys so as I mentioned before, I have feelings towards my private tutor but I feel like I’m out of his league and therefore I have low self esteem around him especially. I just can’t compare myself to the girls in his university and I feel so bad that I’m not successful yet like him. I really like that guy but it also makes me anxious… what can I do? | Crushes |
Help he ghosted me. What do I do. It's been 4 days, I sent him a message and he won't respond. He's online everyday on discord. I don't know if he just didn't see it or if he's ghosting me. Help somebody... | Crushes |
Soo there was actually a rumor about me and her.But I found out that she doesn't like me and we were basically just hallway crushes and actually never talked to each other except make eye contact.I mean she still roams on my floor with her best friend to meet her other friends but yea.I don't get it I mean she is so pretty and noone has a crush on her except me,seems kinda weird.Most likely the person she likes doesn't like her back \[kinda happy about that\].Also it isn't actually confirmed if she actually likes that guy or not but like I am way out of her league.The only common thing we have is that our best friends like each other so they ship us but I think she gets irritated when she is shipped w me.I actually have had nobody confess to me so ye.Also I made such a dumb mistake,I thought I was getting too much distracted by her and she wasn't leaving my mind so I decided to block her on ig but the thing is I didn't know we automatically unfollow that person when we unblock, and now she is removed from my followers list and I am not following her.I would love to send her a friend request again but then she will get to know I like her \[coz of the rumors\]. And I am absolutely never gonna propose to her till the time I get to know that she likes me back. | Crushes |
Edit: If you want to you can skip and just read the bottom. The middle is just for context.
I'll be blunt. I'm posting this to ask advice. Because as the title says this is eating me up so bad I might make a bad decision. This is gonna be a long post so bear with me please. I can't find help anywhere else.
So this crush started in highschool, first it wasn't that serious, just a bet within friends. You would think my feelings would've become much more serious then but I didn't think so at that time. Also, I don't know if why I had a crush on her is relevant in this case so I'm just gonna leave it for now. But I would tell significant stories about her. I want to note that while I didn't have a crush on her yet, I was almost always turned on by her in class. So here it goes, first let's start off with something weird. She was rubbing my thigh while I'm in my seat minding my own business, and it wasn't because there was dirt on my pants. I ignored her because my brother and my cousin is there, I don't know if anyone noticed though. We were doing some kind of school project and I didn't know why she did it till this day. One time when a guy proposed to her in class, I got my first heartbreak. It was very exhausting and it quickly drained my energy. That's how I confirmed my feelings with her as my crush. There were also times when she would invite me over to have coffee with a friend but I rejected her telling I had to run home but I was just a kid back then with a little allowance for school. I also try to be a gentleman once in a while because I rarely got to be close to her. Although sometimes she was playful with me and doing the "cover eyes surprise". I didn't know our status before if we were friends or just acquaintances, as kids that age had a very complicated social behavior or was it just me? In the later years in highschool, we had a chance to chat but through social media. We had some interesting conversations, some boring, some just random stuff. And ooh, one time I haphazardly asked her in chat what would her be reaction/feeling if I would hypothetically tell her I like her (I was so dumb back then, so sorry about that). In a way I confessed to her but after that I was back in a no-talk-zone. But not because of her, but because of my doing as I was so embarrassed as to what came over me. It was so hard to confess because I was very insecure that time. Then the last year of highschool came and I was planning on courting her finally. But I met a girl which I don't exactly know why but my theory is that she didn't make me feel as insecure enough to court her. Then long story short, we were together for 4 years. But in those 4 years, I had dreams of the girl. It wasn't anything serious that I can't forget though. But me at that time didn't knew as much that I began stalking that girl from time to time. After we broke up, I had a very complicated but short relationship then, we broke up too. Now I have a very stable relationship. I'm more secured about my appearance. Now I don't stalk her anymore, I even blocked her from my account but I still have dreams, and those dreams are reoccurring. I tell myself everytime I have a dream of her that it's just a figment of my dream girl. But who knows, maybe I like her maybe I don't. The thing is, I very much like to stay in my relationship now as I am very in-love with the person I am with. I am very lucky. I don't know if I can ever meet a person like the one I am dating now anymore.
So if anyone can help me. Tell me, what should I do? I don't want to break up with my current girlfriend, I just want to remove this heavy feeling that I have. An idea that I've been having is just to confess that I had a crush on her on highschool and that's it, no further action and just go back to my life. Is that possible? If so, that would break my girl's heart and I don't want that, is there any other way? | Crushes |
Uhm idk what to put here | Crushes |
I love her style, it's alternative and very cute. Your first impression of her is always that she's just a shy little angel and then she just completely roasts you and takes no shit if you're being rude.
That includes when I'm being dumb. I get scared of talking to people all the time and she's always there to give me the push I need. Before we started dating we were best friends for years and at one point I tried to push her away because I for some dumb reason felt like I didn't deserve to have good friends like her. She immediately understood what was going on and basically just knocked some sense into me about how stupid I was being.
I seriously couldn't ask for a better girlfriend. She's incredibly supportive of me and has helped me so much with my mental health even though she's fully aware that she doesn't have to. I do my best to do the same for her, of course. She's just the prettiest, most badass person on the entire planet if you ask me. I love her so much!
No one in real life wanted to listen to me ramble SO REDDIT IT IS! | Crushes |
ok so me (17F) and her (18F) were in a musical together and now it’s over and i didn’t ask for her socials. My friend has her number from a time they were in a show together. My friend offered to ask my crush if my friend can give me her number but like would that be weird or too obvious?? we’re sorta friends now but idk im probably thinking too hard abt it | Crushes |
This is such a stupid thing to get excited about lol. But this is the second time i go to this dealer for weed and the first time, my crush was with me. When i called him he didn't recognize my number so he was suspicious of me so when he saw me he said "Ohhh i remember you now! You came here with your boyfriend last week" and i was kinda stunned for a few seconds and then i said yes (bc i thought i'd be complicating things if i explain and stuff) and it just felt so good and i've been in such a good mood since that happened lol | Crushes |
Fallen for a very, very sweet, autistic individual. I love his adorable personality and I share a lot of values with him, albeit his feelings regarding Politics are stronger than that of my own. I am a fan of his religious morals and his respectfulness.
We both speak 4 languages to each other. English he has yet to master, but we still carry fluent conversations in English and [langs omitted]. If anyone, Native Eng., here has dated non-Advanced English speakers, may you tell me what this was like?
He frequently posts pics of himself on his status and he's 100% not my type, but I think I am demisexual i.e I don't find anybody at all ugly if they build a strong bond with me initially and I feel *that* spark. Looks are completely irrelevant then. Would this change in the future? Maybe?
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He is 21 and I am 18, 19 in Dec. He has a job, I am yet to find a job. He lives in the [omitted], I live in [omitted]. Put it this way: we're far away enough for our bedtimes to be disconjuct, so I will often stay up all night to talk to him. He also works all day, so have lack of time to communicate for longer than 5 mins except at night.
This is manageable for me currently, but is a temporary solution to yet another over-arching issue. How am I going to meet this person? How can I keep in contact more? He gave me his number ages ago, but I can't bring myself to text first, rather than message him on any of the multiple other platforms we use. Should I text him more often? Should I want to meet them?
I believe everything should be given a shot, if it's not gonna hurt me, that is. I can't help but think that he is almost like a 'bull in a china-shop' in regards to Politics. I agree with him, but I don't feel anywhere near as strongly. Nothing irks me in the same way, to put it lightly. He's also a guilt-trippy person and frequently falls into a trap of pressuring himself to study.
It's as if he needs to rid himself of a few demons before I'd be ready to ask him out. It's maybe his demeanor that freaks me out. That has to be a bad thing, or I'm trying to find Mr. Perfect.
I have spoken to him in voice calls a few times. Otherwise, we are in the DMS at all times. He always texts me good morning and goodnight. He gave me his number two weeks ago, but we primarily use Insta. Is it a bad sign that he hasn't texted me in ages despite this?
I just feel a sense of security - that I can be nerdy and that he'd never judge me. I also have a huge thing for nerds. That very idea might make me cringe in the future, if ever I wanted to settle for people who are slightly more... confident? That's not the right word, but you will understand. | Crushes |
Okay, so new crush (25M) and I (20F) had been texting online for a while. We both sent normal, everyday photos back and forth, and felt mutual attraction. He was very kind and flattering towards me, and seemed genuinely interested, as we had a lot in common and it seemed as though our personalities complimented each other well as we were talking.
No inkling that he was just playing with me to get some pics, “those” sort of messages, or just to kill time. He seemed genuinely interested in friendship or a relationship, and we were taking things pretty slowly.
However, he didn’t reply to my message the other day (it’s possible he’s just on a trip, because he mentioned an upcoming one, but not the exact date). I messaged him once more a couple of days later, not in a pestering way, but to honestly let him know I’m travelling for a short course, and will be unreachable for 2-3 days, but that we can talk again later. I’ve since left it at that because I don’t want to spam him, and I want to respect his privacy and personal space if he either isn’t in the mood to talk, or would like to not progress forward in the talking stage.
However, it’s been around 4 days now, and I’m starting to wonder whether I’ve been ghosted?? If so, it seems quite out of the blue, but he hasn’t been active online on the app since, so part of me is thinking he’s just away on that trip, busy, working, etc.??
I don’t mean to sound paranoid, it’s just that in my last relationship, rather than being up front about things, my partner began to make the initiative to contact me less, and less, and was quite cold to me when we did talk, without explaining anything to me. This was very distressing, as we’d been friends for a year, and dating for around a 8 months on top of that, by that stage. Eventually, I had to be the one to initiate the conversation, and ask up front if they were still interested (we were in an LDR at that time), and only then did they honestly express that they didn’t feel like a relationship was good for them.
I’ve discussed all this in therapy, but I have to take a break from therapy for around 3-4 months due to my therapist going on leave. The thought of being sort of ignored and left to wonder what was happening on my own, if I’d done something wrong, etc., or of being outright ghosted, is quite stressful for me because of this. I also just get worried about people in general when we’ve lost contact for a while, because that’s happened before and I’ve found out a friend or two has actually been really struggling with something and was too much in pain to reach out.
I really like this guy and want it to work out, and I noticed that it all seemed mutual, both through his open communication of his feelings towards me, and due to his actions which backed that up. However, if it does seem like I’m being ghosted for whatever reason, I really would love to hear that from an outsider’s perspective, just so that I can lie it to rest in my mind, and continue on with my life without wondering why, you know??
Does it seem like I’ve been ghosted? Or does it just seem like he’s genuinely busy or something?
Thank you for reading this and for the advice! And best of wished with all of your crushes too :) | Crushes |
I have a crush on this girl for a year and a half now and recently another classmate who is prettier gets better grades and overall better started liking her too. We only talk in like group projects and stuff like that but when im with her im the happiest man ever. Do you think i still have a chance? | Crushes |
So here is a summary of my conversation with a guy.
Guy:heyy,do you know someone from our class has crush on you??
Me:omg!!! Who!?
Guy: well,it's someone but I can't tell you about him,but he will confess his feeling soon.
Me:ok,but who is it👀
Guy: I won't tell you lol
Me: okay,ig
Guy: But i will come and dance in your wedding 😆
Me: ok🤔but what if you are not invited?
Guy: 😭
*End*
The next day when I met him, I asked him who is it many times.
But he just made it a joke or changed the topic completely.
At last I guess he got a annoyed so he just said ,"It's this guy,he was looking at you so i thought he must have a crush on you."
What does it mean?
Does it mean "Guy" has a crush on me?? | Crushes |
I’ve been contemplating asking them to hang out. I’m really nervous because what if they leave me on read or something. | Crushes |
...or at least, that's how I always experience my crushes in the past. I either got over it very quickly because I was very put off by something, or it must have never been a crush to begin with. I'm very surprised and this is a first, I've never felt this cool with a 'crush' fawning over someone else, lol. It's weird but I don't hate it. I feel free to explore as I see fit. 🙂 | Crushes |
Hey everyone so I had this crush on a guy a few years ago when I was in a summer camp, and now we have met again in the summer camp being both mentors. So he teases me a lot (in a playful way ) he teases me on my height, and basically everything I do. And I like it. He also grins a lot when I’m there. And he is always next me instead of the other mentors. Does he have the same feelings? | Crushes |
I (20M) have been on 3 dates with a coworker from work (20F). I know she likes me because we have held hands, made out and had sex by the third date. She even admitted to liking me back. I asked what kind of relationship she was looking for and she said she didnt want to be in a relationship right now.
How do I show to her that I care for her and that she can trust me? I also don’t want to come off as clingy, needy or pushy.
I know I can’t force things but I suspect she is scared to establish an emotional connection with me.
We talk enough during dates but we don’t text much aside from setting up dates.
I would appreciate any feedback. | Crushes |
… | Crushes |
Is it wrong to crush on her if she could possibly have a crush on someone else or maybe have a bf? | Crushes |
Only that. I am going to die, bye | Crushes |
Hi I am new to this subreddit ( as I was looking for a place where I can ask people for some advice on what I am going through), I am from India (New Delhi), I am mentioning this because the cultural context of our place is important to what I am going through.
**The Story**
I am M20 and I think I am hard crushing on a woman F24. She was my boss for one month on a project, she made me part of the team because she thought I was talented. And for one month I had the privilege of working closely with her and learn the tricks of the trade. She is an incredibly smart woman and I like being with her because every minute I feel like I am learning new things about my profession.
While we were working we also became good friends and one night she invited me to a sleepover with one of our common friends ( she did this out of courtesy as we both had to go to work early tomorrow and our common friend's place was very close to where we worked), through out the night we talked about our journeys and what made us what we are today. Both of us shared a bit of our traumas and I don't know about her but this was the most safe I felt ever with anyone.
We completed the first part of the project, throughout that time I learnt a lot from her as a person and a professional. I cherish every moment that I got to spend with her during that time and if I had a remote I would rewind this time over and over again. After the first part she left for another city in India for a project for a month and I was in New Delhi with minimal work, which gave me a lot of free time to think. Throughout that time, I was living through that night over and over again thinking about her, the things she says, the way she lives her life etc. etc.
Throughout the time when she was away I found out that she had helped a lot of my friends as well to get a foot in the industry, that made me like her even more but also got me into thinking whether I am really talented to work with her or I am like others who she helps because she is just amazing. That made me miss her even more and throughout the month I had nothing better to do than think about her.
I get my second project, with no outside help from her (I hope!). And she came back, she is doubtful of the first project and wants to work with me on something which is only a week long. I said yes, I would love to work with her in any capacity possible. I am a bit upset about the first project ending because that would've meant I get to spend more time with her, but that is life :(
Anyways, we meet to discuss the new project and after a productive conversation talk about our lives again, she always makes it so easy for me to share and I hope I am doing the same to her. Our 3hr scheduled conversation goes on for 6-7 hrs as we shift from one place to another. The night ends at one of her friend's place where she decides to sleepover and I decide to go back home. I so wanted to be with her that night, but my parents won't have allowed me and I wouldn't have been able to sleep peacefully in a strangers house.
As I leave her for the night, not knowing when we will meet next, but eventually we will someday. I miss her very badly and think about things she said to me. She mentioned she liked working with me because she felt I had a nice vibe and our rhythms match. I go on too think about this the whole night and not sleep.
**The things I am confused about**
We've both talked about what we think love is and I've always felt that I never had the privilege to fall in love, is this love? Have I fallen in love? what is the correct terminology?
What should I do about this? because it is too hard to cope, I've never felt this strongly about someone ever but I know I don't have a chance because I am four years younger and even if we become a thing that might detrimental to both of our careers.
How can I be with her forever? or can I? I don't want to have sex or anything but be with her as we experience life.
Are my thoughts wrong? Am I wrong about relationships ? Should I learn or un-learn things what I think about life? If you feel like any of my ideas are problematic please feel free to comment. I am also struggling to be an adult and I can use some help.
**Conclusion**
I was struggling with my thoughts and I couldn't have told this to my friends and if anyone knows about this that might not be good for both of our careers. I've written this as I would've told my friend in hope of some advice on how to live this stage of my life.
I've lowkey teared up while writing this post. The act of writing this post has helped me to feel better about my emotions. | Crushes |
I went see a movie last night and posted on my story. My crush and her friend replied to my story and a few hours after they both replied, her friend creates a group chat with my crush and I. We chat for a while until I told them I had to go then my crush says goodnight to me and then her friend kicks my crush out and then me and then leaving herself.
what does this mean? Has my crush told her about me? forgot to mention this they just started hanging out so they’re like new friends. | Crushes |
This is a question related to my previous post for the *very fortunate* ones 😊
If you'd like to answer my post prior to this question, I'd love to listen!
[https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/w87q26/what\_did\_you\_like\_about\_your\_crush/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/w87q26/what_did_you_like_about_your_crush/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) | Crushes |
**STORYTIME!!!**
I caught my crush staring at me and *not just once*! But *a few times* really! I was having a really stressful day due to college exams and classes but we were at the cafeteria and that was when I caught him lol.
I didn't think much of it cause my friends were really loud and initially I thought he was staring at them, but I caught him a few times esp when my friends went out to buy some snacks and I was sitting all alone... Well, whether or not it meant something I just didn't care anymore. Now I'm happy and energized <3 | Crushes |
People who post their success stories on here are genuine keepers. Very wholesome. | Crushes |
Yknow | Crushes |
Never been in a relationship and it’s not looking gr8 😭 usu ppl r optimistic but I just feel so dead inside. Every crush always lets me down. Barely even have guy friends 🥲
Idk what it’s like for someone to like you AND want to be with you and it sucks
It’s emotionally exhausting being the one who always cares more but the sad thing is I can’t help it😭😭😭 | Crushes |
So this story is going to be complicated. But I guess that’s what happens when you’re in love with someone you can’t have. One day you’re happy, one day you’re sad. Today, it’s the latter.
We connected via instagram and I used to be one of those who posts A LOOOOT of things on socmed (pre-covid days), and sometimes he would give words of affirmation which was super nice of him, but I figured that’s just because he’s a kind hearted person. Then one day, I was randomly asking if anyone would like to go to the gym with me as my accountability partner. And he replied. So we gymed once, all good.
Never really thought about it much, but months passed by and he told me he signed up for a gym membership, and he asked me if I’d like to go to the gym with him. I said yes, and ever since then I think I started liking him.
Got around to going to the gym with him 3-4times before the pandemic happened. Was kinda upset bcs I looked forward to going to the gym with him. Also got to know him on a more personal level, found out he secured a job, while I have a job waiting for me in my home country.
Throughout the pandemic, he never initiated contact, until one day before an exam, he contacted me. I was having a pretty tough time so he comforted me and that’s when I knew, shit, I’m falling in love with him.
Before I left, I wanted to confess so requested for a meetup. He ghosted me. Spent my remaining years healing from these stupid feelings I had for him, but also cuz I had a shitty family conflict going on so I was very much focused on myself, and I moved on, even found another person to genuinely like.
Came back to the country he’s in, and suddenly he asked for a meetup. And we met up twice, once for dinner and once for a gym sesh. My stupid ass started liking him again, and to let these feelings go, I finally told him what I felt two years ago, and thought it would set me free. I told him not to respond, just wanted to let him know how I felt back then.
But why am I still feeling iffy? We are literally miles apart and we both have different journeys ahead. I would love to stay friends but I don’t know if I can take it. Part of me blames myself for saying yes when he asked to reconnect, but I guess I wanted to shave off the idea I have of him. But it felt like those feelings grew. Perhaps I will continue to live my own life, and heal again in time. | Crushes |
For **context**, i met this girl back in **highschool**. She is a bit older than me, I was born in November and she was in March so she like to call me her little bro, **THAT kind of bro** if you know what i mean haha. She was **dating someone at the time** but I seem to **instantly caught her eye** and she **started flirting with me**, started texting me **FIRST,** being really **touchy** and at one point slap her red lip shape on a tissue on my mouth. But since i was really **shy** and **stupid** back then for not getting all of that and there were other guys in my class that also liked her too so I **never got the point of dating her**. After 1 year there, she moved away for **college** and we didnt really talk after that. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, I wanted to see whats up, so i texted her, didnt reply the first time (**not even seen**). Waited a week so i dont look too creepy, text a second time, same thing. Wait another week for the third time, she **replied**. It something along the line of...
Me: "hey been a while, wanna catch up?"
Her (word for word): "helloo:)) how it been"
I responded saying ok bla bla bla trying to keep it going but she went **silent again** didnt even read the message (been over a week since this post). So what i should i do now, should i **keep talking** or should i **stop** cause she doesnt seem to be that interested to start again **after such a long time**. I mean im **ok with letting go** but it just suck that i **never gave it a chance** and it just **hurt a bit** everytime i think about it.
Mind my wiggly grammar. | Crushes |
I feel like I'm over him but he's still on my mind a bit. But whenever I think of him he kinda infuriates me because he's the kind of crush that I have that I low-key want to punch in the face.
I indirectly confessed, saying "I liked you at the end of the year" and he said he liked me at the start and end of the year before exams. WHICH I DIDN'T KNOW IF IT MEANT HE STILL LIKED ME RN. Then I confessed again, telling him that I STILL liked him, and he kept replying with "no comment", in like a teasing manner. So I don't know- and he KEEPS BLUETICKING ME, and whenever I send him a message he takes hours to respond.
If anyone knows what's going on in his pea brain please translate I don't know what to do. He's leaving this summer and I'll never see him again- I just want to meet up, maybe get a hug and then continue on with the rest of my life | Crushes |
we've been classmates for a year now. I've always had feelings for him but they grew stronger recently and I've been noticing that he's smiling at me more and is looking at me whenever i look at him. i really really like him, i get butterflies from smallest of his actions. i feel like i should confess cuz i think he has a slight interest in me too but im very nervous.. how should i confess him? i wanna do it irl cuz i prefer that over texts but what if it gets awkward after i confess? someone pls help me (TT) | Crushes |
Back late May or early June I found this guy who goes to my school very attractive and because of that I developed feelings for him. He goes to my friend's biology class and she told me his personality, life and etc. I was basically questioning her about him to because I was very intrigued by him and thought he seemed nice and cool.
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The problem here is that I didn't have the courage or confidence to start a conversation with him, I felt a wave of anxiety and kept overthinking the possibility that he might not like me and mag find me weird because I never found myself talking to anyone in our grade, I was always the kid who had a few friends, who preferred being alone and stuff, and I felt he didn't want to be seen with me like that since he is seen to be outgoing and popular amongst our peers.
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Weeks pass by, it was the day after graduation, meaning it was the last day of school, and I wanted to take the opportunity and get his autograph for my yearbook, and maybe get a conversation out. Which I did, it wasn't much but I felt very proud and excited. I wanted to talk to him again but his friends were there and I didn’t feel comfortable with that, and then it hit me that this would probably be the first and last time I will ever get to interact with him from then on.
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in early July, I decided to take some courage and say 'screw it' and took the action to admit that I have feelings for him through his dms. To this day I did not get a reply back from him. It takes me back to regret not engaging with him before because it's eating me up. Now I just feel embarrassed for sending that message and have thoughts about deleting it. My friend told me to keep the message up and that one day he MIGHT reply, but it's most likely a lost cause now.
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A few of my friends have said that I should drop him, but a big part of me does not want to give up so easily. It's hard but eventually the feels will subside. | Crushes |
Hi so uh, I really want to focus on myself but I keep obsessing over my crush and I know it´s not healthy (an example is waiting for a message from them from a gc) and I´m also pretty sure he doesn´t like me. I search online for tips and I keep seeing ¨distract yourself with hobbies and other things¨ but that´s kind of a problem because I have zero motivation and I´m just stuck with my thoughts, any of you have tips that work/have worked for you? thx | Crushes |
For starters, I've been messaging and started being friends with a girl since a year ago. We met in school and are both females (she's lesbian while I'm pansexual). We're pretty close friends, and she'd probably call me her best friend.
I was staying up late on my computer (2:30 AM) and just doing regular daily boring stuff. I was going to get ready to sleep but just wanted to check my notifications to see if I had any new messages.
And would you guess.... MY CRUSH SENT ME 150+ MESSAGES.
Not gonna lie, I might've gotten startled a lil at the start. I was worried if something bad happened to her or something. But as soon as I read the first sentence, I immediately felt at ease. It turns out she wrote an entire appreciation essay just for me!! She complimented me many times and said that she thought I was very pretty and also cute and that in general she appreciated me. It all brightened up my day and made me jump up and down and roll around on my bed.
She mightve referred to me as a friend while talking, which I cant tell if that changes the implications of this moment.
But either way, whether she sees me as just a friend or something more, she's truly a person who makes me happy and special and simply, I'm proud to be in love with such an amazing person, and am very honored to be able to have a friendship with them <3 | Crushes |
That’s it. Just a rant. And please don’t ask me how I know. I. JUST. KNOW.
You would too if you were me. | Crushes |
For starters, this is a confession of sorts I'm writing anonymously that I've transferred from r/confession where I originally had it posted and edited to fit community guidelines (hopefully successfully) and just a little thing I kinda wanna get of my chest. I figured it fit here to some extent. It's sort of long and does in fact contain mention of *self induced unalivement.* I would appreciate advice in the comments.
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This isn't any news for me as seems to happen with any friend I get, however, this time it feels very different.
I have had a best friend of the opposite gender for five years now. We met via being introduced to each other by one of our ex mutual friends. Shortly after we both ditched that previous friend group, became inseparable, and we have been ever since.
It is currently established to all of my friends and his that I am queer, (possibly omnisexual with a large preference for women) and he is also presently figuring out his sexuality. Around five years ago when I first began hanging out with him (and while I was in denial and trying to convince myself that I was straight) I thought that I had developed a crush on him but I really was just confused of why I would want to put so much time and effort into a person other than having romantic feeling for them. However, I was dead wrong and eventually came to terms with my sexuality. I actually just wanted to be closer friends with him.
Now that we're both very different people living in our own universe who have established several times that we're just platonic but very close friends, we laugh about that all the time. The bad thing is that I'm starting to feel those same feelings again but in a very different way. I can't see myself caring for another person anymore than him.
At the end of this school year, I revealed to him that I wanted some space because I was struggling through some stuff and was debating offing myself. Like always, he was very supportive and respected my decision but still comforted me and tried to help me in the ways that he could. Maybe I'm just unaware of what non toxic friends are supposed to be like being that he's the first and only one I've ever had but I felt very touched and reassured.
Two weeks into the summer and I still hadn't talked to him at all. I had been questioning my feelings so much and kinda isolated myself. One day I finally got the courage to check my messages and saw that he had texted me loads. He seemed scared and really wanted to talk to me. He actually cared.
I had an amazing talk with him that day. I've been too scared to text him since.
Fast forward one month and I see him for the first time all summer. We had auditioned for the same play and both got casted. It was a small community thing and we both love acting so it wasn't too surprising. I forgot how amazing it felt to hang out with him.
We spent every rehearsal together and I started realizing how much I loved him. We get along so much better than I do with anyone else I know and feel like a terrible person for cutting myself off from him at all.
So Am I The Asshole for... nah I'm just kidding.
Very recently we had a small cast member get together at an ice cream place and we both went. Before he left he gave me a hug and said goodbye. He left me flustered in the parking lot as he got in his car and left.
I'm sure he's hugged me before but if he did it must've not been memorable or important to me. This one was different yet again. It didn't last very long and he didn't whisper any cute message into my ear but something about the way he held me there by that damn ice cream place just set my mind, heart, and soul ablaze.
Now days later I'm still lying on the floor of my bedroom waiting for him to text me, thinking about that hug. I feel stupid for experiencing such a hetero-normative experience but I'm not sure how long my brain can stay in denial for.
I know telling him probably won't screw up our friendship too bad but I'm still scared that he'll think differently of me knowing the truth. He definitely doesn't like me and he might not even like girls. What should I do? | Crushes |
I knew she liked to read and I liked to write, so I sent her a draft of story I'm writing. She said she liked my writing style and my references to the pop culture and music of time (it's taking place in the 70's). I'm on top of the world rn. | Crushes |
Text i got after i tried to make plans for another day.
Deflated. Not surprised, just unfortunate.
I’d been warned against trying with this girl but I persisted because it’s what I wanted. | Crushes |
We get along well and have fun together and I’m pretty sure he likes me back, but I don’t know if he’s interested in hanging out one on one and I don’t wanna make him uncomfortable
Follow-up question: and if I do ask him to hangout will he think it’s a date? Would it be a date??? | Crushes |
I gave my crush my number and no response ☹️. It's been 3 days now and I'm in my feels tonight. How does one get over a crush? | Crushes |
When I confessed that I liked him, he said “it’s not that I’m not interested, it’s just that I’m not over my ex girlfriend”… I’ve told him twice now and I’m just exhausted from falling for him.
But then he braids my hair, we watch movies together, he isn’t active all day and when I message him, he is instantly active and replies.
I so badly want and need to move on, I have shed too many tears about all of this and I just need some advice. We work together, so it’s hard but being his friend is harder. | Crushes |
Is there a give away, or is it something that isn’t able to be noticed. | Crushes |
So I met this super nice guy this summer and I can’t tell if he likes me or not he’s always play teasing me and we have long conversations and talk on snap quite often. I really like him and don’t know how to ask him to hang out! He said he likes seeing me!? WHAT DO I DO | Crushes |
she removed me from her private story and we don’t talk that much anymore meaning she either found a girlfriend or is talking to someone is which sucks but not that much but yeah | Crushes |
I knew this guy at my old school that really intrigued me. He was witty and sarcastic, a dark and humorous guy I could match my intellect to and really enjoyed debating with. We don’t go to the same school anymore, but I wonder if things would’ve been different if we did.
It’s been nearly a year and I still think about him. Perhaps it was his mystique that drew me in? We weren’t totally friends, per say, but he opened up to me about himself on small occasions—only growing my curiosity about him. It was an almost unpredictable and layered fascination unlike any before. I know this pique is likely something small that will pass as time’s arrow marches forward, but a part of me wishes we could’ve kept in contact, and perhaps became more—if only given more time.
I feel like a dumbass typing this up on Reddit but it’s an efficient way for closure/potential advice so take that as you will lol | Crushes |
Yay | Crushes |
Like what would I even say, I’m starting to doubt if I should do this at all | Crushes |
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