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A couple months ago a new girl moved to our school. She’s sassy, sweet, supportive, and pretty fun to be around. I don’t have anything against her and she seems to be getting along with our friend group pretty well. Then I noticed she started getting pretty close to my crush. She’ll go a lot of playful teasing like stealing his hat, touching him, putting on his hoodie when he isn’t wearing it. They also seem very happy when they’re together. She’s only been here for a couple of months but she seems have made a deeper connection with him than me and it feels like torture. I feel jealous but I honestly don’t hate her or anything. The more I think about it the more I realize that she’s a better match for him than I’ll ever be. But it still hurts and I feel so pissed at myself for not having the balls to put myself out there. If I just didn’t let my social anxiety get in the way and didn’t act like such a dumbass then maybe things wouldn’t have turned out this way. One of the things that hurts the most is that this girl has the same name as me. So if they start dating there’s gonna be so much confusion and stupid moments in the future. I know that the best thing to do now is move on but I just don’t know how. He deserves better than me so maybe it’s best that the two of them get together. I’ll try my best to be happy for them when they inevitably start dating. | Crushes |
I'm just interesting in finding out that if people do break up with each other even though they've been together for 7 years. | Crushes |
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I (26/F) rarely have any crush on anyone, but this one particular guy is turning me insane! We work in the same industry, i won’t say we are closed to each other but we have many mutual friends and we shared greetings, followed each other on social media etc
I liked him the first time i saw him bc he is cute (in my opinion) then later to find out that he is single really feeding my delusions lol he also seems to be looking for a relationship.
Talked to my friends about him and based on their opinion he seems like a great guy (can’t confirm it myself yet)
How do i make the next move without looking creepy and awkward? I’m having a hard time bc i never make a move on anyone and my last relationship was years ago.
I really need help | Crushes |
I am part of a small friend group, there are about ten of us in total, and we're all around the same age. Each of us has a sibling in this friend group, and even have 2 cousins. A handful of us go to a school near here while the others are kind of scattered in schools a little further away, so we don't necessarily see each other all that often unless it's for church on Sundays.Every Friday we also do this sort of Bible group thing where we talk about all sorts of things.
About a month ago, I had a dream about a guy IN said friend group, whose sister I'm also great friends with. I don't know about you but the second I have a dream abt a guy, no matter how platonic I basically fall in love w them. The dream was nothing really, I didn't like him, at the time.
About two weeks ago, on a Friday, we're all hanging out. The second I sit down, almost opposite him, I notice how tremendously beautiful he looked, I don't know if it was the hair or whatever but oh my GOODNESS I could've melted. Since then I've kind of come to terms withe the fact that I like him. Except here's the catch.....he doesn't like me. Not like that. Plus, we almost never talk, especially over text.
Sooo... I guess my problem is, how on earth does a girl get a guy to notice her?
I won't go as far as to say that I am the ugliest of all the girls he's ever met before, but I wouldn't say I am every guys dream. Because I'm not and I accept that i suppose, but I just wish I was HIS dream.
So to all you guys out there, how the hell do I get him to like me? | Crushes |
Does she like me or would you offer to do this to your guy friends too? | Crushes |
A male classmate of mine chatted me earlier today. He was looking for me. Since I was supposed to be a participant for a quiz bee that he’s also participating in.. However, since one of my teammates said she couldn’t make it, me and my other teammate withdrew from the quiz bee days before.
Take note: this guy and I are not from the same team. Hahaha. And although we’ve worked together on a project before, I wouldn’t really say he’s one of my close friends. He’s not even my bro. We’re just plain friends ahaha.
Anyway, here’s how the chat went:
Him: (MY NAME IN ALL CAPS)
Me: (his name?)
Him: HAHAHAHA. WHERE ARE YOU? 😭😭😭
Me: ohhh…was the quiz master looking for us? I recall telling our batch rep days before to inform the quiz master that my team and I are withdrawing from the quiz?
Him: BUT WHY???
Me: it’s because one of my teammates had a conflict with regards to the schedule of the games she joined. She said she probably can’t make it in time for the quiz. Since she wants to prioritize her other game. That’s why my other teammate and I decided to withdraw. Since we couldn’t find a replacement.
Him: WHAT THE HECK
Me: Good luck with the quiz though. I’m sure you guys can win it. 😊
Him: 😭😭😭 Join again.
Me: It’s too late though 😅
Him: WTH…WHAT A WASTE. WE COULD’VE BEEN TOGETHER RIGHT NOW.
(In the end, his team won 2nd place)
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So what do you guys think? Does he like me?? Ahhahaha
P.S. he’s smart and he doesn’t look bad. I kinda have a low-key crush on him when he and I were working together. But I just kept my feelings to myself because he has a girl best friend. And together, they looked more like girlfriend-boyfriend. Or someone who secretly likes each other. | Crushes |
ok don't want to say exactly how many years I've liked this boy bc its a bit embarrassing ANYWAYS ... here we go. so I liked this boy for many years and in our senior year he liked me back (no one knew I liked him i'd kept it a secret for years. so he thought I started liking him when we became closer and he started liking me). he was my first kiss and we had a thing for ages. it went really really well. but idk it ended and we decided to stay just friends bc things had gotten a bit complicated. but there was still a bit of ... tension/unfinishedness I guess??? idk. he will sometimes say something about us two for example how he still holds onto the past and thinks about what we could' ve been. he said this about 5 months after we decided to stay friends and we are currently friends. and it'll get my hopes up bc I still like him and I still want to be more than friends. he thinks I don't like him anymore. but he will say something/something will happen and he'll pretend like it never happened or just never address it again. i didn't expect to still be friends with him tbh. we graduated in nov and now we r in university. we both go to the same uni different courses. i text him everyday. he is so confusing!!!! i think he doesn't like me but then he gives mixed signals. but idk I think he sees it as okay to be confusing because we agreed to be friends and that was so long ago (nov last year). i want to get over him but it's hard because we are friends. so its not like I can stop talking to him completely. i know people will suggest talking to him about this but I don't want to!!!!! 😭😭😭 | Crushes |
I know it depends on several things but what is the most common way for guys to behave in such situations? Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
So, 2 days ago i went on a school trip to my countrys capital and during a stop my friend noticed a pretty boy in the bus next to ours looking at me while i had my headphones in and told me to look at him. I looked and he gave me a thumbs up?? After that i was looking at him with a side eye in the good way till he left. I was praying that our bus would pass his, but our bus did a small stop for a few seconds and we lost him. Today i think i might have been sitting behind him without knowing, i came to that conclusion cause i saw his friend that he was sitting next to. Also he had headphones too except they were white. I dont really remember his face that well though so thats mostly why its like cinderella. Thats about it see ya | Crushes |
I just found out my crush/ best friend got a girlfriend.
This is the second time she's started dating someone while I've liked her (although last time it was a guy and she's recently come out as lesbian instead of bi). Since this time it's a girl and I know she actually likes this person this time I'm just going to try and give up on her.
Honestly I can't tell if I'm that sad about it or if I'm actually relieved because I've spent years loving her but I've never really thought we had a chance anyway. It's all too difficult with us being in different countries and I don't think I'd ever have the courage to confess to her again. And I don't think she'll ever like me romantically again anyway.
Idk if I'll even post anymore. Bye | Crushes |
i flirted with him once like 3 months ago and now he flirts back a joke to me, every time he sees me he keeps saying 'i love you' to me now here's the story
my classmates are shipping me wirh him he didn't liked it at first and now he's flirting with me now, these are things he is doing right now to me
he gave me chocolate that costs 2 cents because i also gave him the same chocolate he gave to me
he praises me when i answer the question right 'go babes you can do it' and if someone praises me he says 'ofc that's my sugarplum'
when someone talks back to me in a rude way he says 'HEY THats my honeybunch'
he also puts his whole arm to the ends of my shoulder iykyk
he puts his chin on my shoulders and puts his hand on my shoulders too
he high fives with me
he was lyingdown with a boy and my classmate said 'hey *my name* will get jealous!!' he said 'hey *myname* come here' he is like asking to lie down with him wtf
he also flexes me to his friends
the reason why im asking is im making sure about it, he is a class clown, idk if he is using me for fame to make ppl ship us, or he just really likes me. | Crushes |
So i have this crush at work. I’ve never had a crush like this and it feels so exiting. Now, i don’t know if i’m just reading to much into it but i feel like he likes me too. Maybe not in a romantic way but at least in a friend way. Every time i get to work he greats me very excitedly ‘Hi Ollie! How are you today?’ sounds like a normal thing to do you might say, but he doesn’t do this with any other colleagues. also the other day as we were leaving he said to my colleagues ‘bye everyone’ and then specific to me ‘bye Ollie.’ Also after i was done with work he checked if i had cleaned properly (it’s something that is required at my job) and he said ‘i feel like i don’t even have to check, you always clean super well.’
there are a bunch more little moments like this and idk if he likes me or not. i’m very bad at reading signs. my ex literally kissed my cheek and i didn’t know they liked me that’s how bad i am.
anyone here understand when someone is flirting with you or not? | Crushes |
So heres the thing about this.
My coworker, that I have a crush on, used to be my girlfriends coworker. Crazy right?
Yes, I do have a girlfriend.(Is it wrong to have a crush?)
Another thing is that I COMPLETELY FALL APART GETTING NEAR THIS GIRL. I lose all confidence to talk to her. (I can talk to her if its work related but anything other than that, NO BUENO) I have never introduced myself to her but yet she is says hi to me all the time, smiles at me, and/or waves like she knows me. (My girlfriend filled her in on minor details of me, but she claims to never had ever said my name, so I don't know if she even knows my name.) Yes I know hers, but I act like i don't, LOL. I even go out of my way to avoid her because I'm so nervous to talk to her.
It used to not be like this. Shes been working "with" me for a while now but before recently she wouldn't say much, besides our first interaction. (One day she asked me a question about her "hobby" that is related to my job. Of course I brushed her off) Which is another reason why I have a crush on her lol.
Well recently I have been working out and changed my lifestyle up a bit, so my confidence has been up. I know I look good because I feel good! (To me, LMAO)
So that has to do something with her wanting to speak to me even though I totally "try" to ignore her?
I know I show signs of wanting to rizz her up lol, I can't help but stare or smile at times.
I'm always looking for her at work, even though we work in completely different areas, just so I can see her OOTD, hairstyle or whatever she going with during the day you know? Straight crushing on this girl. LMAO
Well I wish I could find out if the feeling was mutual but the whole girlfriend thing. Plus I think I'm just assuming things, maybe she's just super friendly? (THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT MY GIRL WANTS ME TO BE) She does talk to a lot of people. I do have closer coworkers, and between them she only really talks to one other guy, but HE'S SUPER FRIENDLY. She did have a conversation with my other coworker whenever I couldn't keep up a talk with her while helping her do some work. (He typically ignores her completely unless he is with me)
Okay about me helping her, It was completely out of my character for my ignoring her act. Well she tried talking to me and asked me questions but I answered quick and short (I'm a bitch, I know) My coworker took over the conversation and I just stood there LIKE A FOOL. (She did make sure to thank me for helping her after their convo) This isn't my personality at all. I'm very outgoing, but this girl gives me butterflies!
I feel foolish and confused, yet I feel a spark between us. Any advice? | Crushes |
She has been crushing on me for at least 4 months now. I thought she would lose feelings especially since she posted stuff about how she was with another boy but I think they broke up. Most of the people in my classroom knows how she views me but when they ask if I like her I say no. | Crushes |
So, I (M22) have a situation that I don’t know how to navigate and I could use some advice. I’ve been working at my job for over a year now. I made a really close friend (M21) here at work who I’ve been friends with for almost a year at this point. At the beginning of this year, his best friend (M22) started to work here as well. This was my first time meeting him. I initially found him attractive but didn’t think much of it. Over the last few months I’ve been becoming friends with him as well, because of our mutual friend and work relationship. We have been hanging out a pretty good amount in a group of our coworkers outside of work. In this time with getting to know him better, I’ve been developing a crush on him for the last couple of months and it’s only gotten stronger. I’ve been trying to pick up on any signs or clues that he potentially likes me back, but it just seems like he’s friendly with me. I also don’t know him super super well, as it’s only been a few months. I know that he is bisexual. It’s been eating at me not saying anything about it, I feel like all I do is think about this person and it eats away at me. I want to say something but the idea of possible rejection/potentially ruining what could end up being a great friendship is so scary to me. My most recent plan has been that I might confide my feelings in our mutual friend and ask him to not tell my crush. I feel as though I can trust him, but my crush is his best friend. I would ask my friend if he can sort of find out how my crush feels about me without giving away my feelings for him. Because at least if I know the answer is no, I don’t have to talk to my crush and make things awkward between us, and our friend group. I also try to talk myself out of doing that constantly because I don’t want to put my friend in a weird position and then possibly make things awkward in my really good friendship of almost a year. I tell myself that maybe I can just swallow these feelings and wait until I am closer to my crush and maybe I’ll be able to tell how he feels then, but I don’t want to keep this inside for so long waiting for the shoe to drop. What do you think I should do here? | Crushes |
There's this girl from the other room whom I really like. I really think she's cute but I don't know her personally. Should I tell her I like her? How should I do it without creeping her out? | Crushes |
so i was a with my crush for a month until her parents found out that we were dating and her parents forced us to break up. i still have a crush on her but if you were in this scenario would you still like your crush if this happened. (it has been 4 months) | Crushes |
So this guy was talking to me and as he was talking to me he quinted one eye half close and the other a tiny bit more open and he smiled really big as he looked me in the eyes. So what does it mean? | Crushes |
I’ve liked this guy for seven years and we don’t really talk or interact at all. We had a few classes together in high school but again, we didn’t really talk in them. Around New Year’s Eve, he randomly followed me on Twitter after I had been following him for a year already. Recently, he’s been watching my Instagram stories right when I post and it’s been like that for a few months. But I’ve been trying to get over him and so a couple hours I texted him “could you reject me.” He hasn’t responded yet and I have a little hope that likes me BUT overall I hope he rejects me so I can move on with my life. What are your thoughts? | Crushes |
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There's this super cute and tall guy that i first knew from a military program that meets a weekend a month. We went to a leadership training together in the winter for a week, and since we already knew each other, we were pretty close during it. He would smile at me all the time, and nudge me, like a little back and forth game when we were in formation. I would always nudge him back. We would always be talking to each other during meal times, and sit together at a table when we could (it was a pretty strict training). Though most of our conversation were of him complaining about how much he hated it here, and honestly i hated it too, since we were constantly being yelled out and forced to exercise in the cold rain.
Fast forward to February, and we were at drill together. He was always finding a way to nudge me lol. And during pictures, he was right behind me, nudging my leg with his. This is probably me being delusional, but I feel like he was looking at me a lot that day, quietly observing me. I would always catch him out of the corner of my eye just staring at me and i would be too shy to look back. That day, my parents were late to pick me up, and he stayed there with me, "cleaning". His parents were already there though, but he was hanging around, and he took a few selfies of us together. I took this chance to get his number by demanding him to send them to me, even though i looked like shit lmao. Later, he texted a pic of our school (did i mention we go to the same school?) and we had a lil conversation and somehow we got a point where he said he was only in his boxers. To give u context, he said "i bet you're in your pjs already", and i said "i bet you changed into jeans." So... 👩🦯
Anyways, since then, we were always saying hi to each other at school. Though we have zero classes together and he's a grade below me, i literally see him nearly every day, though a few weeks ago, i saw him like once every 3 months. He's actually friends with a few of my friends cuz he does track, and we sometimes hang around talking together during passing period. Then he walks me to my class cuz they're actually close together. He's always looking for me when i go to my next period, cuz we pass by each other.
IDK i think i'm going crazy because i've kind of already convinced myself that he's in love with me but... someone please tell me what they think. I think I'll go insane! | Crushes |
so there is this girl that goes to my school. She is very popular and I'm not really popular. I'm kind of the quiet kid but the cool one that helps people with answers and shit. Anyways, she works at a restaurant and when I came in she smiled like she was happy to see me. Then as I am sitting waiting for food I look up from my Phone and she says "hi Adam" (did not even know she knew my name). I thought it was weird and didn't think much of it. I told my friends and they were saying that "It's her job to be friendly" but it seemed like it wasn't a friendly smiley, more of an "I'm happy to see you smile". Then I went with my friend and she did the same thing I was leaving and making my way to my car when she was staring at me through the window at a booth with her co-workers (they were sitting on break or sum) then when I glanced in her direction she hid under so she was not visible. her friends were like smiling weirdly and looking at me slightly like it was some sort of secret. What the hell is going on? | Crushes |
my friend told me i should “definitely” go to the library and ask him for “help”. and i did it😭
I WAS SCREAMING INTERNALLY, his voice was really nice and i got to see him upclose LOL he was a very nice person
he was so close to me, my heart fucking dropped 💀 | Crushes |
I talked to my friends today about him. Hes in an exchange program rn so I was calling him for an hour to just chat. We had so much to talk about even when its just us basically teasing each other. I realized that he has this specific voice and laugh that he used to talk to me and it sounds like the babble talk you do with a baby. So after an hour, bc of time difference, he needs to go to sleep. When i said good night, he replied with something in the form of "i....u" at first i thought its good night but then he said good night afterwards and istg it sounds a lot like i love u. I told my friends abt this speculation and they all went insane. To a point all of them agreed that if we start dating eventually, it will actually make everyone around us happy and not us. And ik that a lot of my friends' friends or friends' partners always ask my friends why are we not dating yet. | Crushes |
So there's this girl that I've gotten to know for the past 7 months which now that I'm typing it is shocking to see how fast time flew. We're in exactly one class together at our school, one 45 minute class each day and thats it. Two months from now school will end and after that there's no guarantee that I'll ever have another class with her again so I've been growing more and more desperate to just tell her that I love her.
But I just can't because all that I can think is that there's no way any aspect of me is attractive to her. Anytime I'm with her its like my mind just refuses to let me act like myself. I tense up, become super serious, and stay quiet most of the time. Whenever I want to talk with her I have no idea what to say. All she sees is just this boring, quiet guy. And I hate myself for it, I've tried everything but I just can't let myself... be myself. I mean we talk a little bit here and there and share a couple of laughs and whenever she holds eye contact and smiles I can almost believe that she likes me but I know that she probably never thinks of me for the rest of the day. Now the worst part is that I'm 70% sure she likes this other guy who's in our class. He looks VERY similar to me and he acts like how I normally act, I mean he's talks a lot, is funny, confident, etc. This guy could literally say/do anything and she would laugh. It also doesn't help that while I only share one class with her and barely get to spend any time with her each day, the other dude is in three classes with her.
If I knew that she truly liked him then I would have moved on and forgotten about her by now but I still have a little hope left because she's known this guy for two years already, if she was interested in him she would have made a move a long time ago. I just don't know anymore, why am I stopping me from being myself? I mean if I talked to her like I do with girls I have zero interest in, I would have for sure been dating her months ago. It has become exhausting at this point, waking up everyday telling yourself to keep trying and that today will be different but its always the same story, I never change. | Crushes |
so there is guy that is in my class, I noticed him since practically the beginning of the year, and I never really did anything since I too am a shy person but towards the middle of the year we had a group project together so I had a chance to talk to him and he was nice and chill. After the project I would catch him looking at me and we would make awkward eye contact. Later on he followed me on instagram and again with the awkward stares. I later found out he had a girlfriend which made me sad but I moved on. Recently my friend dm'ed him, note\* she had never talked to or seen him in person\*, because she reposted his story of a sunset and she asked him if it was ok to repost it. They continue texting and they get into a conversation about friends and he brings me up. Asking aren't you close with \_\_\_\_? and my friend says yeah we are very close. Then he says "yeah she's really quiet and so am I to say anything but she is super pretty." My friend also asks him if he has a gf and he said he didn't. she also asked if we could be friends the 3 of us and he said that he is free anytime and would love to hang out with us.
In summary this cute shy guy which i thought had a gf, doesn't and he thinks I'm pretty and he is down to hang out. | Crushes |
This is the most awkward dream I have ever dreamt.
The thing is when I was coming home back from college I saw my crush and it was so awkward I didn't even made an eye contact and went straight to my bedroom.After some time when it was dinner time when the whole family was eating dinner my crush was washing dishes and my father said to me look how much is she helping us you should probably talk to her.It was so awkward that I used to move from each room to next room whenever she was close with me
I felt the situation was so weird that I convinced my friend to go to watch a movie right now and I started getting ready and when I was sitting there waiting for my friend she suddenly said that this hoodie suits you........I can only remember this much
This is so weird and felt that I should share this with you | Crushes |
There’s this boy that I’ve recently feel obsessed with. He’s in 2 of my classes. There’s absolutely nothing between us. We don’t talk, don’t really know each other, nor hangout. He gives me mixed signals non-verbally. We made a few eye contacts and it made me like him quite a lot, but he’s somewhat “terrible”? He’s a pretty much a troublemaker I guess? Not really to be honest, he sometimes out of class for a long time, he uses his phone to play games which is quite the opposite of what I thought of him when he has his phone out. I also think he v*pes but it was only one time that I saw.
Getting to the point - just yesterday, he was walking around my desk (which is close by the classroom door) he was walking quite a lot back and forth to the door and his friends who were sitting behind me next to the teacher’s desk. He even stopped and was fidgeting with the table or chair that was next to me. He then turned to the door and leaned against a closet that was by the door and stood directly in front of me. I was wearing a skirt and my legs were showing, he was looking down not sure if it was the ground or my legs. He was trying not to make eye contact with me, I could tell. He’s done it twice already. It’s like he wants me to talk to him, notice something! But I feel like it’s just my mind/brain when I think of it like that because I REALLY like him. Ofc i never know until I ask but I’m the type of person that doesn’t want anything going on between someone unless they really like me back too. I guess the question is that does he like me? He’s always trying to look at me but not make it obvious, he’s trying to be close to me but also not trying to make it obvious? There’s some things that feels so coincidental when he does that. But then he stood right next to me the other day, he DEFINITELY KNOWS we make eye contact. HE KNOWS IM SURE- that I look away and fricken fidget with my hair or touch my ear to make sure they’re not red. He looks like the type to not really talk to girls at all unless he knows them or talks to him. Idk, does he like me? To the boys that are shy, what do you do when you’re too shy to talk a girl? | Crushes |
\[4/25 (April 25th) 2023\]
Tried talking to her today. I was less shaky, and I was able to talk without my voice cracking, or awkward eye-contact remaining. It felt lowkey kinda powerful, and it would've felt godly-- If it wasn't just one sentence. Haha. I'm screwed!
Also, I know this started out as a vent, but she is lowkey killing me. Today she like... Stared at me, smiling. It, again, felt GODLY.
And again, kinda off topic, BUT I LOVE WOMEN IN UNIFORM!!! WHERE ARE MY UNIFORM LOVERS???
That's... Besides the point, but like...
can we fr be honest with ourselves and say girls in a fancy uniform are hot
I gotta say though, I'm thinking about trying to ask her to be friends, since this is getting to be way too much. How do I not be dumb about this? Like, I totally wanna talk to her, and the encouraging advice from u/baobao-er definitely helped, but... How do I not screw it up?
How do I not go "HEY I HAVE A HUGE CRUSH ON YOU" but DO go "Hey could we like... Be friends?" | Crushes |
Title says it all pretty much, but I guess some context is needed.
I didn't use to be like this, in fact, just two years ago I used to crush on literally any cute girl who was in my class, but around that time I had a pretty bad experience with a girl that led me on for months then ghosted and started disrespecting me when she didn't need me anymore, it was followed by another bad experience a few months later, with another girl who I just wasn't compatible with, she was interested in someone else anyway but I kept trying to make it work out until I gave up after realizing I was simply deluding myself.
Since then I haven't been able to have a crush on any new girl, sure I find a lot of girls in college cute, but my ability to have a crush has kind of being turned off for a little more than a year now, it's sad because some girls look at me sometimes and I can feel that I actually might have a chance but I don't do anything about it and I just ignore it.
I don't know why I'm unable to do it, and seeing those two girls in class every other day certainly isn't helping, when I don't see them I never think about them, but when I see them I always feel awkward, I sometimes even have flashbacks, the first one tried to reconnect with me earlier this year but I didn't let her get close to me, I really don't know why I'm like this now. | Crushes |
(I have two other posts to read for further backstory)
For those of you who have read it, first of all thx! Second of all, as you can see, im indecisive af.
My “maybe” and I were texting the other day, arguing about something stupid (not in an angry way, more of a: no it’s this way, and this is why lol) and she sent me a screen recording. In the screen recording, I had texted her and the banner notification popped up, so I got to see my pfp and contact name.
My contact name was “A$$ Wipe”
I don’t know what to think anymore. It kinda hurt, as all insults do, but even more so from her. I’ve shrugged it off since then and we’ve talked a little but I get the feeling our friendship is slipping. Don’t know if I did something wrong, said something, or anything else.
Mostly need advice this time on how to react. | Crushes |
I've (23F) had this crush on and off all year and I feel like my friends never want to hear about it and I hate talking about it often :'-) but like I kinda need to talk about it.
Here's a post I made about it before for context: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12rbz1f/thought\_i\_was\_over\_him\_but\_im\_kinda\_down\_bad\_i/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12rbz1f/thought_i_was_over_him_but_im_kinda_down_bad_i/)
BUT YEAH idk some stuff happened today that I wish I could talk about!!!
Anyways if anyone would want to talk I would be so down to just talk about our crushes tbh preferably someone around my age though! | Crushes |
Hi everyone! First post here haha let's see how it goes but I need some help.
Basically, this guy who (I know that he used to like a friend of mine a lot and they still hang out a lot but he does not know that I know) asked me out to prom and I can't help but feel as the "other women" - Lana right lol. I think ill say yes to him as he's really nice and sweet, but I don't know why he would ask me to prom and not the other girl right? (Though, the girl did reject him when he confessed his feelings and he was really sad but he does not know I know this). Plus, I talk to him a lot on insta rather irl bc we have no classes together but we do see each other at my club meets and talk!
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He was the sweetest guy I ever met. He was so handsome. Beautiful brown hair and the most beautiful big green blue eyes. We were in the same major and club officers for the same club. He often sat close to me in class and in club meetings.
One time I wore a vintage dress and he told me he liked it while stuttering. I had a work study job in school and one day he tapped on my shoulder and said hi. We ended up talking the rest of the night. He was doing a project on traditional dancing for a class he was taking. I later told him I danced. A week later I showed him a video of me dancing and his face instantly lit up. It was so cute!
He even invited me to do a project with him. Before we left he gave me a hug. I remember being the happiest girl in the world right after. I went and told all my friends about it. I felt elated!
I was a traditional type of girl so I wanted him to make a move, but he didn’t so I just moved on. As I make this post I laugh from
The good memories we had and cry because he’s no longer here. I was going through a bad time when I met him and he was always there for me.
The last I saw him we were hugging before spring break came. Then the pandemic hit and I never saw him again.
Even though before his death we didn’t hear from each other as much as we did before due to life changes after graduation, his passing still breaks my heart. | Crushes |
Hey, guys. About a year ago this guy was infatuated with me. He was always looking at me across the room with a pretty intense gaze that made me feel nervous all over. It used to feel predatory (not in a bad, bad way, though). Sadly, by then I was unavailable and had to kind of reject him even though we had chemistry together. I told him I felt pressured by him and his intensity (once again, I was unavailable by then although I'm not anymore). So, after I swerved his advances, he stopped talking and looking at me for a few months. Still, our mutual friends were always forcing us into situations together. With time, a few months ago, we sort of repaired our friendship and decided to get to know each other again (as if for the first time) and let go of any hard feelings we might've had for each other.
After rekindling our friendship, our chemistry sort of went through the roof, I don't know how to explain it but... We became closer than ever. I think our or at least my feelings have deepened with time. We were never very touchy but lately, we started to hug and try our limits (kissing and cuddling) with each other. And we were fine up until about a month ago.
I sort of made my feelings clear to him and it was fine.
But about a month ago started to avoid my gaze even when we are in the same room. I don't know what happened. It was so sudden... one day we were fine and the next he was looking awkwardly at EVERYWHERE but me EVEN when he was talking to me. He is the type to look people in the eye. Now, he still treats me so well and takes care of me but I've never seen him this tense and kind of distant with me before (not even when we weren't talking).
Guys, and girls, what do you think happened? Should I give up hope and move on? Or do you think he might've found another girl he likes and feel guilty about leading me on? If not, why would he act shy around me when he's never been shy before? He might not like me anymore... but the change was so sudden it almost gave me a whiplash.
Thanks! | Crushes |
I've liked this guy for a little over two and a half years but had a break in between because I got into a relationship and every time after that when I saw him it was only platonic so I thought I just had gotten over him but last month I was broken up with and the crush has come back.
Part of me is excited about it because it's always kind of fun to push the boundaries of what you think is obvious, but not being able to read signs or desperately misreading them is absolutely horrible. Even back in the beginning when I first liked him, I had an idea he felt a similar way because I would catch him looking at me all the time and with past relationships, it was the same deal, but I had gotten his number and texted it to just get no response so I kind of gave up on actively going for it. Now that the crush is back it's like tenfold. Before he was a sophomore and I was a junior but now he's a junior so he's managed to get more attractive and it's so frustrating that I can't manage to make myself do anything.
I really only ever see him at his sports practices and games since I help out and tag along and he does make an effort to have conversations with me but they're short and I always get too shy to look at him when I talk or add meaningful things to the conversation. At one of the games he sat near me and then later on kept moving closer and striking up conversation which had me blushing like a madman and I could see him looking at me from the corner of my eye. And everyone says to find out if someone's looking at you to look in a different direction and they'll follow and he did so??
I just never know how to read him especially because of being ignored the time I texted him and I can't bring myself to seek out conversation with me out of fear of being ignored or rejected | Crushes |
I need some advice. There’s a guy I have a crush on, and one of his female friends keeps on staring at me with a smirk on her face, and today with a smirk and a closed mouth smile. She’s making me feel self conscious, and I don’t like it. What’s up with her. This has been going on for a while. Every time we run into one another. | Crushes |
Recently talked with crush on Snapchat and she asked if we will still be close friends as juniors. She also said she hopes so because she thinks I'm hella cool.
We've talked almost every day until like midnight and we talk at school all the time. Do they like me or is it just a friends thing? | Crushes |
For the past 6 months we used to be the happiest and healthiest couple out there. We lasted a lot longer together than we ever thought. I know so much about him and he knows so much about me. We were able to open up so much to each other we were both comforted with each other's presence. I was so happy to be able to call him mine and he was the only thing that I really needed. Fast forward the past month and a half has been the hardest. We have barely been talking and our special moments together have gotten smaller and less frequent (My birthday also happened during this period and he never said Happy Birthday because of how disconnected we have been). Our little cute relationship has been turned entirely upside down. I still love him as much as I did when our relationship was really healthy. However, my days have been sadder and I am truly struggling. I don't remember the last day that I was genuinely happy and I hope this really passes and we can go back to that happy couple that we once were. Can someone please give me some advice and help me? I truly appreciate it <3. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my stalker. She is just too pretty that anybody would fall in love. She has tried to break in, but she's too cute when she tries hard. I know she wants me but I'm too scared to tell her I love her.
Do I need help for falling in love with my adorable stalker? | Crushes |
looking forward to your inputs on this | Crushes |
I have a huge crush on my ex classmate. I changed schools this year and I went to visit my old class to see him. He has always been really nice to me and everyone, he is shy and timid and loves art. We have always had a beautiful relationship so when I saw him I asked if I can hug him and we hugged. Other boys started laughing but he was smiling. Few days after that I texted him in the morning if he can give me his number. He did and my friend said he was smiling when he came to school that day (very unusual for him). But after this the boys added him to our old class group chat and talked about him a lot. Also made fun of me for changing school but I dont blame them and theirs 15 years old brains. I know this may sound stupid but Im scared that he is a completely different person when he is with his friends and that they are laughing at me behind my back…Its really hard for me because i have some issues and this is the first time in years i have had allowed myself to feel something. i thought that he was a safe person to feel something to but now im scared that i was just really stupid and made a fool of myself in front of everyone.
If there is anyone who can give me their opinion on this i would be extremely grateful. i dont know if im just paranoid or really stupid.
(also sorry for any mistakes english isn’t my first language) | Crushes |
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There's this guy, M, in my tutor group / home room (if you're american), right? Well, ever since school started, (I exchanged schools,) I made new friends, decided to become 'confident and extroverted.' And it's been working pretty well, I'm popular, friends who appreciate me, good grades, all that crap. But, it's all fake, obviously. Recently, a guy decided he would try ~~sexually harass~~ me and thought I was into it, a girl who 'simps' for him, obviously she took his side and told everyone I faked it. Since then, I've been through a pretty rough patch, and I lost all motivation.
Of course, I still had to keep my reputation up and pretend I was okay, but I had trouble going to school and a few toxic friends left me when I needed them. I joined a few clubs, to boost my self esteem, and this is when M comes in. First, I joined the drama (acting) club, and I met him. I had the impression that if I just kept my passionate personality up, he'd want to be my friend. Instead, he called me a creep, and I was a little bothered about it considering everyone likes me, and for some reason, I felt the need I had to make him my friend. He seems really cool and fun to hang out with when I watch him from afar, (..I'm not a stalker. I just like people watching,) and me and him seemed really alike. He's also another popular person in our school, and when I zoned out in class, I made up little dynamics that we'd be a superior duo. Tried messaging him, and we hit it off, but afterwards he left me on read. Obviously, I was irritated so I didn't talk to him for weeks.
Then, only a few months ago, I noticed he took a interest in me. The more distant I got, the more clingy he became. I think it's obvious that we both really want to be friends, we keep glancing in each other's direction and talk when it's possible. I started crushing on him shortly after, what made me realise that I like him is that, through all my hard times, he was 'the light in my darkness.' It sounds a bit corny.. but you know, he made me believe I'm worth something. M is in a friend group that's really similar to mine, except they're more introverted. I actually became friends with M's best friend before high-school, and she told me that about four weeks ago. She was the third person I told about my crush, and she was like, 'oh, you should confess to him, you guys are friends right?' That sentence has been stuck in my head ever since. Are we friends? Does it seem like that to other people? Does he think I'm his friend? Now, at the start, I mentioned he's in my tutor group. Meaning I get to speak with him for five minutes every-day, and I'm in one class with him.
Sometimes, after thinking about it, I turn around really quick to look at him. He's always staring right back at me though, and I get scared. Not in a bad way, but in a way that makes you know a person's watching you. I don't mind it, but I overthink it a lot. Is he staring at me because since he's at the back, he saw my head moving? Is he judging me? Or does he just like looking at me? And one time after drama club, me and my best-friend were waiting for her 'walking buddy,' I turned around and he was standing nearby, immediately looking away, and panicking. This is what I always did when I wanted to speak with someone, and I just knew I went red at that moment. He was 'looking' in his bag, (for nothing,) turning around, and just nervous in general. My friend left and I started walking, I turned around to see if he was still there and he was speed-walking, trying to walk with me? I just said:
'Hey.' And he was like: 'Hi,' while doing a upside down smile. We talked about so many topics in those 12 minutes, and he threw himself into a bush, I'm pretty sure to impress me. Which resulted with a scar on his nose. He was whining, (not crying,) and I just took his hand without hesitation and looked at it. It took me a minute to realise that we were touching hands, and then he had to go down his street. We've had this flirty tension since. Like, I always text him if he's not at school, and he'd say, 'I'm fine, thanks xx' I can go on about more, but I doubt that someone would it all so.. you know.
Should I ask him out? | Crushes |
So imagine you have a crush on someone and then you find out they have a crush on you too! That's exciting news, right? But for me, it was super anti-climatic. At first i was so excited my hands were shaking. Until i found out my friend (and my crush's cousin) has told my crush that i'm a lesbian for god knows what reason.
After i heard about it, i was still excited bc still, my crush likes me back! But now two days have passed and i'm only just beginning to fully realize that nothing's gonna happen as long as my crush thinks i'm a lesbian lol. And i'm just soo disappointed. Idk why i was expecting something to happen but i haven't heard anything from my friend or my crush.
I'm just waiting to see him again and if i was feeling brave, show him my drawing of him as a sign of affection so maybe he'll realize i'm straight lol. Or idk, play a scenario with the help of my friends to let him know i'm straight. That is, if this friend of mine doesn't actively try to keep us from seeing each other ever again. | Crushes |
I cant stop thinking about her those Gorgeous eyes that Amazing Smile and the a
Sweet voice
I almost went to see her today bc i went past work but I stopped myself and i wish i didnt | Crushes |
I have a very good friendship with my crush.
But I am nearly sure she doesn't know I love her.
And sometimes she gives me sings that she could also love me but I am unsure.
We just had a conversation about the ambiance at work and with my coworkers.
She was very honest with me and told me what my coworkers are saying behind my back. She told me that she appreciate me and does not approve what is happening. But she also told me what bothers them and that it sometimes also bothers her, and that she sees my qualities more than my defaults.
My question is what does that interaction says about the way she sees me?
From my point of view, because I love her I don't think I could tell her her defaults. I can't imagine myself doing this. So it makes me think she just appreciate me as a friend and not more.
What do you guys and gals think? | Crushes |
Okay so (in reference to my other crush post) I think he likes me (I’m like 99% sure 😅). I’ve been rehearsing in my head how to tell him but I just don’t know how to phrase it so pls help..
(I feel awkward bringing this up to friends because we don’t talk about crushes that openly so that’s why I’m here)
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I have my doubts about it- one being why would he like someone like me? He’s literally perfect and I’m just average.
Anyways. I’m planning to confess near the end of the school year (it’s coming close 😭). We have 5 classes together so if he rejected me before the school year ends I would see him a lot, which is why I’m waiting until summer so it won’t be awkward between us if he does reject me. He’s a really sweet guy and if he were to reject me he would definitely say it nicely, but because he’s so popular I’m scared he’ll tell his other friends and word will spread around.
That’s all I have to say. Tips on how to confess would be greatly appreciated lol | Crushes |
My crush is giving me short conversations well sometimes (mostly) but the conversation i made with him we have been talking for 3 hours already.. | Crushes |
I’ve liked a girl in my class for 2 whole years. I finally had to courage to ask her to the dance, but she friend-zoned me and even asked me to be her wingman to ask out my cousin.
I’m in a leadership group at school and so we’re responsible for planning every event that happens. I was looking at the events and all on my own suggested that we should do a school dance, purely because I wanted to invite her to go with me. This was one of the only reasons I’ve joined the group, to hopefully convince them to make a dance.
We’ve spent two months in planning this at school, and the whole time I was daydreaming about going with her.
The time has come when they are selling tickets to go, and I spent every last drop of courage to ask her to go with me (over Snapchat of course, I’m not that brave)
She finally responded. I was really excited and happy until I read what she said.
It was along the lines of, “I would love to go with you as friends, but I was going to ask (boy in my class, that’s also my cousin) to go. Hey, can you be my wingman and help me ask him?”
‘The worst she can say is no’, is what I was told. Nope, she doesn’t want to be with me, and she wants me to help her be with my cousin.
What do I do now? | Crushes |
We can take turns asking questions about them or we can just talk or gush about them and give advice and stuff. | Crushes |
are you guys more into girls who are not nice? from my experience I noticed that guys to whom I don't show interest are interested in me and when I show interest they don't seem interested. why is that? | Crushes |
I'm married 38F and have a major crush on a M co-worker. I know it's wrong but my marriage seems to dying for quite a few years already. This co-worker likes me but most probably in a friendly way. He talks very nicely on calls and when in office but doesn't really bother contacting on weekends. I guess that's typical behaviour of guys who are not into you. He knows that my marriage is in trouble, I have confided in him. | Crushes |
Every time I have a crush on somebody, I learn thst they're almost with no exceptions an earth sign and I think it's hilarious because I don't really believe in zodiacs.
Do you guys ever notice these kinds of patterns with your crushes? Is there a specific sign you're into?
I'm a Virgo and I always fall for Capricorns or Tauruses. Sometimes a couple water signs might slip in though. | Crushes |
Seriously this bitch gives me her Instagram but i can't even text her because she block messages... | Crushes |
This is just gonna be a little rant but here goes. There’s a boy at my sixth form that I have a massive crush on. If you look at him, you can see where my confusion comes from. He’s not the hottest out there (but definitely is not unattractive). He’s just not my type at all. I met him in September when I first started at the sixth form, he’s in one of my classes. The first 3 months I didn’t really think anything of him really, though I was sat next to him in that class we shared. Then one day, I looked at him and I don’t know why, but something felt different. From then on, I couldn’t get him out of my head. I do have days where I think that maybe I don’t actually like him - these often happen if I haven’t seen him in a while (eg school holidays etc). But when I see him again and speak to him, all the feelings come rushing back. It’s been 5 months and I still feel the same. He’s appearing in my dreams now - that’s how much he has stuck in my head. There are times when I do think he likes me back. For example, I catch him staring at me often, and when we talk in a group in my class, he mainly looks at me, even if I’m not talking. He laughs at the things I say, and he seems like he actually listens to me. I do admit that I have become a tad obsessed with him. I go a different way to college now just so I have a chance to see him. I can’t help it. I stare at him too, and I can feel myself blush when I talk to him. I don’t know why I feel this way though. He’s really not my type at all. But I just can’t help feeling the way I do. I love coming in on the days when I have classes with him, but it pains me that nothing ever happens. I used to be really shy, but I’m improving that now. Even still, I’m very much an introvert and get embarrassed easily, and starting up conversations is not my strongest point. I was ill the other month and really should have stayed off school, but I went in especially for that class just so I could speak with him. I hate having to miss those classes. I know I do sound obsessed with him, but I can’t help it. He’s my first proper crush, but I don’t know why I actually like him. He’s nice and everything, but I still question why I actually feel this way. I like feeling like this about someone, but I want to get over him because I know (but don’t hope) that nothing ever will happen and it’s so draining at times. It’s just so annoying | Crushes |
I know it might sound stupid cuz atm I'm mindlessly crushing but he is hella cute. He always looks at me straigt in the eyes and I feel like we might have a connection. Most likely nothing will come out of this but I wanted to put it out there 🥰 | Crushes |
My crush told me he liked me on friday and he flirted with me the whole day, ig we’ve been talking for the past month or so but today I found out he started talking to a different girl on monday, he’s been ignoring me since Monday too and I just don’t know what to do but I’m so sad rn and I just don’t know what to do… | Crushes |
Ich (w/14) bin schon seit längerem in jemanden verliebt der eine Klasse höher als ich ist. Mein Schwarm ist sehr introvertiert und scheint auch sehr schüchtern zu sein.
Ich habe ihn ungefähr vor 6 Tagen angeschrieben (habe seine Nummer von einer Freundin bekommen) und das Gespräch lief sehr gut und er schien auch interessiert zu sein da er mir viele Fragen stellte zu meinen hobbies, Musikgeschmack etc. Er hatte mir auch öfters zuerst getextet und war auch sehr nett.
Jetzt seit zwei Tagen braucht er ewig auf meine Nachrichten zu antworten obwohl er auf anderen Plattformen online ist, also offensichtlich am Handy ist. Jetzt bin ich total verwirrt und frage mich ob er überhaupt Interesse hat?
Er hatte mit mir davor nämlich lange getextet und jetzt plötzlich so gut wie nichts mehr? Er ist wie gesagt wirklich introvertiert und schüchtern aber trotzdem ist das bisschen komisch, was denkt ihr? | Crushes |
Hi everyone, M21 here looking for some advice. **(FYI, this post isn't as long as it seems)**
So basically, I like one of my friends (F21) from college, but I don't know if she likes me back in a romantic way (because she gives me a lot mixed signals).
I've known her for 3 years now (for the first 2 years she had a boyfriend, she's currently single). Since the last 2 months I've been (subtly) trying to make it clear to her that I like her. I want to say that she's recently picked up on some of my signals but I'm not sure. I don't want to straight up tell her that I like her because I really enjoy our friendship and don't want to make things super awkward between us.
I'm gonna list some reasons I think she might like me and some reasons she just sees me as a friend. After you read this I'd like to ask you: do you think there is a chance she likes me romantically?
Reasons I think she *might* like me romantically:
* She enjoys my company and I enjoy hers.
* Now and then she randomly touches my wrist of arm in a playful manner, and she doesn't seem to mind when I randomly touch her arm or shoulder. She doesn't really touch the other guy in our friend group.
* She does often make eye contact with me, but I can't really tell if it's 'romantic' eye contact.
* The most important reason (for me personally): 3 days ago she invited me to come watch her last volleyball match of the season, which was really important to her. She won the match and finished the season #1. When I went up to her, I put my arm around her shoulder, smiled and congratulated her, she then proceeded to hug me (which was our first hug btw, and yes, I might have blushed a little bit lol).
* She told her parents I was gonna come to watch her volleyball match, beacuase when I met them there they quickly recognized I was 'the friend from school'. However, they didn't know my name tho, which I found kind of weird. But then again, she did tell her parents about me, so yeah I guess that's something.
Reasons I think she just sees me as a close friends:
* Not always, but she usually only really texts me if it's school related (which is often, but still...)
* She never really asks me to hang out outside of school (keep in mind, we live 45 mins apart, but she knows I wouldn't mind driving there). And yes, she does go out quite a lot with her friends from high school.
* When she just broke up with her boyfriend, she was constantly swiping on Tinder when I was right next to her. However, she's stopped doing this because she's "enjoying her time being single" (this is what she told me).
* She's a very spontanious girl when you put her in a group of people she trusts, so I don't know if her 'romantic signs' towards me are actually romantic of if they're.
* I recently asked her to come visit my house to meet my new puppy, to which she happily said yes. But I honestly think she just said yes to see the puppy, nothing more. We didn't even settle on a date for her to come by.
* I don't know if I'm really her type. She used to say that she was into guys with six packs etc. but this was a while ago
And no, I don't have a six pack (but I'm not necessarily fat either).
I know this isn't a whole lot lot of information, but if you read this, what would you say? Do you think there's a chance she likes me romantically? If you're interested in my opinion, personally I think she only sees me as a friend. But I'm still interested in your opnion! | Crushes |
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I made a post like two weeks ago about my crush staring at me often and seeing comments about how he's interested made me super happy and everything... but I've moved schools and can't seem to get over this dude 💀 normally if I've crushed on someone and I want to stop I can just make myself lose feelings easily and almost instantly, but I don't want to let go of that feeling for some reason? Or maybe I can't? Just feel kind sad ab it and I'm not sure why.. Hope he at least noticed I'm gone if I'm obsessing this much LMFAO
Help this is cringe as hell I'm sorry 💀
Here's the [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12eq9zb/why_is_he_always_staring_at_me_but_never_making_a/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) incase anyone's curious :) | Crushes |
i(f19) met this guy(m20) at this uni meet and greet for a club we’re in. he came up to me and introduced himself and i assumed he was looking at me because i 1)seemed familiar and 2) am the same ethnicity as him. after he introduced himself to me i got a bit flirty but just because i was bored, and i said “im hurt you don’t know who i am. you should know me” and then he started speaking to me in our native tongue. im not usually attracted to guys from my ethnicity for personal reasons but he said something that was really attractive to me that made me a bit interested in him. we also found out we’re both taking the class for our native language in uni, he’s just in the upper levels and he offers to help me if i need help. i assured him i wouldn’t bc im fluent. but he still offered.
the next few times i saw him outside of our classroom he was so excited to see me and said hi. because of that i started to like him more and decided to follow his social media. he only has one account and it’s a private archive account with a photo of a girl on the profile. i didn’t think much of it but my friend said what if that’s his girlfriend. but the girl looks like a supermodel so i assumed as much it was. on this private account he has very few followers but tons of girls from our uni follow, so i requested to follow. he did not accept. i thought maybe he wasn’t on but he was because he accepted another person and his post amount went up by 2. i was so embarrassed but decided to brush it off. however, when i saw him today he didn’t even look at me. he walked past me and didn’t say hi which hurt. i feel like it could be a coincidence because this is really over dramatic for a simple follow request. but i can’t help but feel like i’ve messed up any chance i have at even a friendship with this guy, let alone a relationship. so i blocked him so this would disappear. did i mess up?
TL;DR! - i requested my crush’s insta and he ignored it so i blocked him out of embarrassment | Crushes |
Ehm..Hi.Im that kind of person to fall in loge or get crush after greeting eachother few times.I met this girl online which i really enjoyed talking to her.We talked about 5 days and it were the 5 dyas in a long time..she doesnt seem to care about me and i cant think about anything other than her.I want to forgot about her but i cant..I guess i love her im not sure what i think of that,i was never in serious relationship before and i dont know what to do.. | Crushes |
I want him so bad he’s just such a sweet soft kind gentle boy I want to just pick him up and slam him against the wall ahhhdhshdhhh :(( | Crushes |
It hasn't been long from my previous post HAHAHA but I wrote her a long paragraph and she read it out loud with me on the phone and we were laughing together (not in a bad way tho heuheuehue) and I was too scared after that so I immediately asked her to play a game with me 💀 I think I'm gonna ask her for an answer but idk how to to that either LMAO Wish me luck! | Crushes |
So my crush’s birthday is in a couple of days and I want to greet her a happy birthday but do I do it in a dm type of way like a simple “Happy birthday I hope you have a blast!” or like an IG story with pictures when me and our mutual friends hang out? I want to do the latter but I’m not sure if I’m close enough with her to actually post a story, like we do occasionally talk in person (mostly when we an our friends go clubbing) but not once on social media. So is it weird that I greet her via an IG story or not greet her at all? I overthink a lot so I need other people’s opinion on this little but not so litle dilemma of mine. Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
So I asked my crush out and we had a great first date. He said this was a good date n then we hugged and I told him to let me know if he wants to do this again. He got home sent a text saying he got home n I responded that’s great. It’s kinda been 2 days and he hasn’t texted or asked me for a 2nd date yet? Does this mean he isn’t interested? | Crushes |
I won't tell it but its my name sounding more "cute" ish. She's the only one from my friend group that calls me that. Everytime we talk she always says it like instead of saying "thank you" she always says "thank you nickname". I ve never herd her give anyone else nicknames. There are more things that make me think that she likes me, but at the same time there are some that make me thinks she doesnt. I just wanted to talk about this specific thing. | Crushes |
Does this mean I have a chance (I'm male and their female) both 14 | Crushes |
This is more general than just my crush. Though she did say last month that she knew that my birthday is in April.
Like do I just say "Thanks". Idk maybe I just want to sound appreciative and less generic. | Crushes |
After moving finally after like 4 months i have been crushing on a girl lately! Shes technically the assistant general manager where i work right now but shes stepping down and only being the server leader soon. Im less hopeful ill be able to get her cause she gets boyfriends real easily cause shes hot. And also i havent always had the best confidence around her. There will be times where work gives me a lot of anxiety then my confidence isnt the best and I seem timid. But shes a crush and ill keep yall updated on the story. Last night we talked to each other for hours and she seemed like she was in flirt mode. Im gonna work out if im ever not at work. I need to for hockey anyways! And also will refrain from fapping cause that makes my confidence bad for a week or 2 also | Crushes |
I have a general type when it comes to real and fic boys, but I always wonder, why tf everytime I start talking to someone and growing increasely feelings I start to find similar fic ppl rly hot. Like if my general type is quiet and blonde guys, after liking a more loud and brunette guy I begin to look at somewhat loud and dirty blond guys like ’damn he cute’? I rly dunno what type I got the more I think abt it, but still every guy I’ve liked got something crucial in common (vibes i think?) | Crushes |
So this guy looks at me.. or I think at me a lot but I'm not sure if he's looking at me or the people beside me or the people behind me so I want to make sure. So does anyone know any tips that I could make sure... or be more certain that he's look at me? | Crushes |
I am going to be the friend she needs and keep my feelings locked deep inside. It's going to be really difficult to not like her, but I have to do it. Can't lose a great friend!
PS: I never confessed | Crushes |
So there is a girl at school I had a programme together with for a week (we had a little bits of chit-chats since we had to cooperate on assignments). And during this period I have developed a terrible crush.
Since we are in different parts of the school we never see each other. Every time I see her on the corridor my heartbeat gets louder and she is all that's on my mind. I want to stop thinking about her but I can't. I would like to go back to not having a crush. | Crushes |
:DDDDD | Crushes |
It’s honestly getting annoying and I know I’m making myself delusional and convincing myself that something might happen when I know nothing will. He’s just so pretty, cool, nice, and sweet but Im afraid he views me more as a brother. He probably does tbh but I can’t help but still have feelings for him. We’re both gay, so at least that’s not the problem but I just don’t think he likes me and it drives me crazy. There’s just so many moments between us though that feel like something but to him probably just feel like something friends do. For example, he jokingly grabbed me by my shirt on time and pulled me closer to him so that our faces were literally like 1/2 an inch apart. The amount of butterflies that gave me was insane but I’m pretty sure I’ve seen him do that with other friends before just like 99% of the other “moments” we’ve had. Maybe it’s different because the rest of his friends are mainly women and he’s obviously gay so maybe??? But also I feel like I’m just getting my hopes up. It’s just driving me crazy, I find myself smiling everytime I get a dm from him like a lunatic and getting excited to go to school every day just to see him. I want to ask him out, even if I gets me rejected but all our mutual friends have told me not to. They’ve said it would make things awkward and i don’t want that either. I just don’t know what to do l but it’s making me insane. | Crushes |
I was just cast as Wednesday in the Addams family musical and my crush was just cast as Lucas (love interest) I’m panicking! What should I do I have to kiss him! | Crushes |
So my business studies high school teacher wanted some scissor a couple of months ago so he said to me "are you going to save me?" Then I gave him the scissor and he said "I knew you'd save me!" So what does that mean? He trusts me?.. or something else.. | Crushes |
i dont think this is exactly the right sub but i just wanted something light hearted.
a year ago, i got sorta ghosted and i was reaaaally heartbroken. i woke up every morning for a month feeling something pressing down on my chest and i was just..... sad. i dont know if anyone knew though, but i just kept going out with my friends to feel better and get my mind off him, and it has been a little bit more than a year now.
i really thought i wouldnt be over him a year ago, but i think its better now and i feel glad. to all that got rejected or just feel like shit, let time heal and we will all get better. | Crushes |
We had to line up alphabetically so we were next to each other. My friend group all had surnames in the lower half of the alphabet so I’d go over to them to try relieve their and my nerves before the exam. When the head would start gathering our attention, she would take my hand and lead me through the line to our spot at the front. I don’t know when it started but she would do this for every exam. I miss holding hands with her.
We’ve held hands so many times before and I wish it meant the same for her as it did for me.
On the rare occasion that we walk next to each other, I’ll move whatever I’m holding to my other hand on the off chance that’s she’ll take my hand again. It’s so pathetic because it’s what friends do. The last time she held my hand was just over a week ago, she took my hand and we walked for about a minute. She dropped it before we could turn the corner to see her friends. I miss those minutes and our moments.
Exam season won’t be the same without her presence. | Crushes |
So he is Bisexual I'm Pansexual, we aren't in the phase of sexual stuff yet but I'm more of a switch but no matter what I prefer to have a more dominant role. I normally have partners that know that but this is my second IRL relationship and I have no idea if he swings or is up for it, no idea how to bring it up to him or figure it out if I even decide to bring it up.
I don't know what to do 😭 | Crushes |
So i met my childhood friend, she (19) and me (19) have been a great friends for a very long time
A few weeks back i went to her and all this emotional feelings are hitting me really hard, how do i stop thinking about her as a crush i want to seriously forget her. She was always there for me when i was at my lowest and she's in a relationship with somebody else. We stay in different states but i keep on missing her.
This has became a serious problem for me,i just want to get rid of this emotional sensation, i always fall into depression whenever i think about her
WHY DO I DO THIS TO MYSELF?, every time something comes up regarding her and her boyfriend i am jealous.... I admit i still like her but.. I know for a fact we cannot be together. I am feeling very helpless.. Please anyone especially those who are older than me please guide me. Before i do anything stupid to myself
Just a few days ago my friend told me she had sex !, and i am so emotionally destroyed by that. why does it hurt me so much, and how do i STOP IT myself from feeling like this | Crushes |
I know it depends on several things but what are the most common ones? Any advice is welcome! | Crushes |
Hi I work at a gym in the UK, I have had a crush on one of the members for a while, advice?
Hi I work at a gym in the UK, I have had a crush on one of the members since late 2021 when I first saw him, let's call him PJ, what are some telltale signs he likes me? He seems to be relatively shy and secretive around me, but I have caught him staring at me out of the corner of my eye a few times, and there are a few other things that have come to my attention:
• His friends will often make an effort to speak to me, for example one will often keep going past me to use the toilets multiple times in one session, like once every 5 minutes, when others barely use it, and he will keep coming to reception (where I am 95% of the time) drinking from the water fountain by me instead of taking a water bottle in with him from home or buying a cheap bottle of water from reception, it's like he is making excuses to be around me a lot.
• He has dyed short blond hair and a nose piercing if that's relevant (not that it would be but maybe it's more prevalent in the lgbt community than not)
• I have caught him staring at me on multiple occasions.
• One time when I was telling him and a friend about closing early the next day, he seemed to laugh when what I said wasn't even meant to be funny (maybe he was so excited to be around me it came out as a laugh?)
• One of his friends started a conversation with me and asked me about him
• Another friend asked me where the lights are to one of the studios (when he was training with my crush) even though I know he's already turned them on/off before - trying to start a conversation?
• Last month when his membership ran out, he asked me to put it on for him even though every time someone else in on reception he does it himself (I've checked) - do you think he's trying to come up with excuses to talk to me?
• He and his friends have definitely picked up on how awkward and anxious I am around him
I'm sure there are more examples but my mind has gone a bit blank, but what do you think? Is there anything there? | Crushes |
I (18f) built a relationship from scratch starting 1 1/2 years ago, and after knowing him (18m) for 4 years
We are both in highschool so any answers would apply best to a closed environment with your crush (especially in a school environment)
At the beginning of the year we were acquainted but not close by any means, through determination and perseverance I changed that, and we are now going to prom together!
AMA, including advice you want for your own crushes (though I'm not an expert) | Crushes |
A girl that I know is really nice and outgoing with her friends. When she talks to them, she doesn't seem shy / quiet at all. She hugs them , strikes up a question, and seems overall comfortable. But with me, she is much colder and quieter and our conversations are so much more awkward. For example, I would say hi and she says hi , then we would just walk together without saying anything, she would be like "im tired" or like "I got no sleep yesterday" in a quiet tone. Like in general, its always a kind of awkward conversation. Why is she treating me differently when she had known me + is closer with me than the other people. Cuz like she goes to my baseball games to support me and hangingout after school sometimes (+ sharing drinks). So I dont see why she would treat me like this? | Crushes |
Summer just started and I’ve been feeling the urge to email my crush since they can’t chat any other way currently. I’ve been going through a stage of wanting to do it and then feeling huge anxiety afterwards. I worry that if I message her I’ll annoy her or she’ll get in trouble with her parents. I don’t want anything bad to happen for the either of us but I want to know if I should go for it and just see what happens or just play it safe and not email.
Context: Her parents seem to be strict on who she talks to and she’s said that outside of school it would be an inconvenience to talk but she has messaged me outside of school before so that adds on to my already existing suspicion. So I still need to know if it’s worth taking the risk. | Crushes |
I had a crush on this guy for a year but yesterday after we hung out with a bunch of other people, I got the ick. Yikes. He's cool I guess but he made some jokes that didn't sit quite right with me and now I'm just a little weirded out. I feel odd. And to be honest, we were kind of vibing too, but now I just feel kind of bad. I think he's still into me though, and I don't know what to do. Help? | Crushes |
quick context: My friend is currently on a trip and gave this guy my insta, since they've been hanging out and he said I was cute. We're in different time zones, so I should text him back, but what do I say/not make it awkward?? I suck at texting guys unless they're just a friend... | Crushes |
ok so let’s get to the point. i got a crush on this guy at my bus stop and he’s also at my school. we’ve never really talked but i told one of my friends about him,, she went up to him and asked if he knew who i was by describing me cuz i was interested in him ( im still cringing about it ). he said that he did and that he found me pretty ( !!! wtf ), he then asked for my snap. the thing is,,,, he never added me lol. and istg each time we see each other we just act as if we don’t know each other jabdksbdndke !
it’s my last year of high school and i literally have nothing to lose by going up to him but i’m intimidated as hell and i just know i’ll be awkward around him. idk if he’s shy or just not interested but i wish i had answers ! to conclude i don’t know what to do and i can’t stop thinking about this boy lol 🤟🏼
oh yeah i forgot, but tmi i discovered that he’s one of my neighbors | Crushes |
About 3 months ago I was broken up with, completely broke my heart, im still heatt broken. but I noticed myself drifting towards a friend i have, fantasizing about him and stuff. he was always so flirty when we talked, he drew me pictures and stuff, always seemed so happy to talk to me, even called me a pet name. I quickly (and stupidly) told him i liked him, i took it back pretty quickly. now he seems a bit more distant. we still have nice conversations where he seems really engaged and excited to talk to me but they are rare now,,,, like 60% of rhe time i text him hes really dry, but the other 40 is so fun and i just start crushing like crazy afterwards everytime. i really like him but im still recovering from my last relationship and i think he kinda hates me idk | Crushes |
I like this guy who is in my friends group, but he doesn’t seem to show much interest in me. I’ve tried to speak jokingly sometimes directly to him but he just treats me like anyone else in the group. I don’t know if I should try to ask him out. I think that is pretty risky since I can’t see any good sign and since we are in the same group it could turn out to be embarrassing to see him again if he’ll decline. | Crushes |
Idk I just feel it that way. Anyone feeling like this or I'm just weird asf? | Crushes |
He regularly checks discord to see if I messaged him He replies back too. I started liking him a few months and the past couple weeks he’s been acting really close towards me. We’re not usually like this but we’re best friends. It went from just our skin barely touching to us almost holding hands. He’s also very playful and teases me sometimes. He also looks at me after someone says a joke and laughs at mine (even my bad ones). He’s also very worried whenever I look sad or stressed. So reddit, what are your thoughts? | Crushes |
I like them. I think they are cute. | Crushes |
Today we graduated from an equivalent of the High School in our country and my crush was also there. She looked so happy, confident, proficient, sleek, cute and sexy in her dress, heels and grafuation hat and especially when she smiled proudly and took happy photos with her parents. Also she did an adorable hand wave when receiving the diploma.
When I saw her walking out for the last time, I just screamed inside and had to just accept that I won't see her ever again. I just hope her successful life, luck and wellbeing. | Crushes |
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