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Hi, this is my first post here. Please try not to hate on me.
Yeah, I (21M) don't have a lot of rizz or experience with girls. Anyway, I was talking to my friends about this one girl that I knew in high school and they told me that I missed signs from her and stuff (she invited me to a dance and when she learned that I was learning French she asked me to translate "I'm in love" in French. Yeah, I know. I'm dumb for missing something like that. In my defense I thought she was just being friendly. However, COVID hit and I never got to see her again and then we all graduated from HS.
So, my friends convinced me to text her out of the blue on Instagram after three years of not seeing her at all. She was glad to see me and complimented me a few times. Lots of emojis, smiley faces, and hearts on my comments. She told me that I was the smartest person she knew in high school and that my teachers would be so proud of me. She also suggested meeting up with me and said she could come to my city since she knows a nice cafe here (across the street from a mall), which is about a 30 minute drive. She said she wants to study with me there. I said I'd be down and she responded with "I'd be soo down :)."
So far so good. However, it's been over a month and we keep postponing it because she's focusing on school. We haven't really texted each other after making plans. I'm just waiting for her to say that she's free. I don't know. I thought about telling her that I could drive to her town, but felt that would make me look desperate after we had decided on a location already. So yeah, I'm beginning to lose a little optimism with the fact that we have not texted at all after that. She only texted me again to let me know that she'll tell me in the future when she'll be able to come.
So, what do you think? Are things looking good? Can people still have feelings (IF she did have them) for others after three years? Should I try texting her to ask how she's been? Not really talk about the coffee thing to not pressure her. Maybe just ask about how she's doing with midterms and stuff to imply that I'm thinking about her? Appreciate it. | Crushes |
Okay so I like this very pretty girl in one of my classes, I think I've been feeling this way since....late January. And recently I wrote a poem about her because I needed an outlet for my feelings since they were overwhelming me & I've also been thinking of writing a love letter that I don't intend for her to see. I just want to know if that's weird cuz I've never talked to her, except once 🧍🏾♀️ | Crushes |
So, I had this big ol crush on this Girl I met in December, She got a Boyfriend a week or so after I realized I liked Her.
I've been hung up on Her for a while, it died down for a bit in February but then came back stronger this month.
I've decided that I'm done just sitting here and wallowing around (I know, it's sad it took Me this long) I am at terms with the fact that it just won't work, I am more than happy to have Her as a Friend and would like to keep that Friendship.
And I am proud to report that I have date with someone this coming week, wish Me luck :D | Crushes |
Okay, I made this account to just slam my keyboard about her
SHE IS THE NICEST CUTEST THING IN THE WORLD!!!!!! CFQENL EFBOFCECFCCFF. WHY AM I TOO sHY. AHAHAHAHA. THE WAY SHE COMPLOMENTS ME IS JUST.. AHAGAHAGHAGA.
There. | Crushes |
Look, i know this is small but theres this girl who i pass by in a hallway every day and normally when we pass the hallways relatively empty and sometimes she looks past other people to looks at me and of course i like her so i make eye contact with her too but one time in particular the hallway had a lot more people in it and i see her and she looks around for a second, sees me, and maintains eye contact for a solid 3 seconds at least to the point where i break eye contact once to see if she would stop and i want to know if shes trying to hint anything or if its nothing | Crushes |
Or so I think, this is why I hate anxiety. Slimy little chains around my brain, ugh for fucks sake. Someone already told them I’m into them, reject me flat out or say “same but (insert “let’s take it slow or get to know me, whatever I don’t care I’d be chill with that, it’s preferable)”. Oh well, maybe I over think your silence. Still, I’ve never been one to be impatient but uncertainty has me shaken.
(Sorry I don’t know why I wrote this in poem type format, I think this is the only way I know how to write when I feel overwhelmed. I changed some of it so I could attempt to talk like a normal human.) | Crushes |
[VENT/NEED ADVICE]
Sorry there’s a lot to this! I’m so confused and I feel sick.
~Part 1: Recently~
So I’ve been friends with “L” for about 2 years, she’s a very friendly person to all. For a while we were just casual friends, but recently we’ve became really good friends! She’s really nice to me, we share our music with each other because we both have a really strong love of music, we dress similarly, we walk in the hallways together, I get this fluttery feeling when I’m around her now, it feels like a movie you know, like everything has happened perfectly. And I may be delusional but I feel often as if these feelings are reciprocated, I’ve almost really felt comfortable to tell her how I feel recently, even though I’ve never been able to do that with anyone before! That is up until a few days ago when…
~Part 2: A few days ago~
She told me she has a crush on someone, “J”. She said she’s never had a boyfriend before and she’s become recently infatuated with “J”. The thing is, I know “J”. I sit near him at lunch because he’s a friend of a friend, I know what type of person he is. He talks grossly about women’s bodies, he talks about talking to multiple girls at once, hell he’s dated two girls at once before in school! He talks about how he can get any girl he wants and how it’s hard to not talk to just one at a time. I’ve been hearing these things consistently for the past year. “L” doesn’t know any of this, she hardly knows much about him at all. So after she told me, I humbly explained these things to her to which she was shocked by. Over the past days, we’ve been figuring this out together. She’s explained how she likes him and how much she wants this to work, and I’ve explained how she’s only seen his charming lovey dovey side. I told her to talk to him about it, she told him she likes him but needs to know the truth, to which the past few days he’s been telling her the exact opposite of what I know. She’s torn, she’s confused, on one hand she’s hearing all these bad things about him from multiple people, and on the other hand she want to believe and trust so hard in the person she likes right now. I fear he just said he likes her back because it was easy for him, just another throw away? I know I’m probably a little love blinded myself, but I feel I am just trying help her, I don’t want her to get hurt you know! Yesterday we had multiple long conversations with each other, she agreed with me, that he is lying to her, that he doesn’t deserve another chance, it felt good knowing it was over and she wasn’t going to get into anything crazy, it felt resolved. That leads us to…
~Part 3: Today~
Today she told me she had one last conversation with him the night before, she him asked for the pure truth. To which he charmingly replied how he’s never cheated before, supposedly he’s always “despised cheaters” and has always been “very respectful to women”. She told me today her decision was to go through with it, that she believed him. I was mad at first, but later told her it was her decision and whatever makes her happy is right for her. After the days I had went through to try and explain to her, I gave up, especially now it seems pretty set in stone, she loves him… Meanwhile, I’ve felt sick all day, not only that I’ve lost someone for whom I’ve felt deeply for, but that she will almost definitely get hurt, it’s her first time and I know that will be hard for her. I already feel a distance from me and her, of course we will still talk, but it’s not the same, no more hallway walks or midnight chats, all deep feelings now reserved for “J”.
What am I to do, how do I proceed. Not even just with her but in general, I’ve felt sick, I can’t eat, half of my music playlist is her music and it makes me feel sick. Love is so confusing, it sucks, because I know half of this is made up in my head. I just don’t know what do do, but I really needed to vent this somewhere, thanks…
TL;DR best friend/crush likes another dude, the dude is an asshole but she’s so blind and hopeful she doesn’t realize or want to believe it, now I feel sick, I’ve not only lost her but I know she’s gonna get hurt in this relationship
HELP | Crushes |
I don’t see my workcrush everyday usually only see him for a moment or two. I never reallyyy thought he was into me but over the past few weeks ive been noticing some behavior and stuff that might suggest he is. 1) he accidentally put his foot on my foot at a staff meeting and when I moved mine he blushed a lot and like looked down and was very bashful. While I thought it was adorable I didn’t think it meant anything until he did the same foot thing to another person (hes tall and it was cramped) and he didn’t do the same thing at all acted totally normal and apologized briefly. 2) he offered to come help me with something even though he’s always very busy and it’s usually the kind of thing a coworker i work more directly with would help with 3) he came over to where i worked in the office to drop something off for me and i was talking to other colleagues but he lingered and said bye specifically to me (like “bye professordumples “ but my real name not my Reddit username) 4) this Monday he was dropping another thing off and i told him I wanted to talk to him about something and then made a comment on his eyes that relsted to something my coworkers had been discussing w me and he was like what is happening and i was like oh im probably overwhelming you and laughed and he was like yeah or something and he started blushing super hard like literally a tomato . 5) my coworkers that saw this #4 interaction and know about the crush brought it up and said that we looked super cute and like it was a mutual vibe but 6) on Wednesday he said bye to the two other people i was with but not me when we saw eachother . The only thing is i think he may have a gf but im not sure maybe this new vibing is because they broke up? Or he’s attracted to me but doesn’t want to be/isn’t actively into me or maybe im just reading into small stuff too much idk what’s the take | Crushes |
I (22f) met a guy (25m) at a house party a while back. At first when we talked I thought he seemed like he'd be a cool new friend to have, but after around 7 shots I started to get a little flirty-minded and realized that he was handsome? I flirted with him a little that night but since he didn't seem very receptive and I wasn't totally blackout drunk I backed off. (I also found out he was a virgin that night and didn't want to make him feel awkward so I put some distance between him and me.) I didn't think much of it since he was only in town visiting a mutual friend of ours anyway, and forgot about the whole thing for about a month.
He was brought up a few weeks ago by my friend and I found out he likes the same TV shows as me so NATURALLY I looked up his insta and DMed him. We hit it off a lot better over text than we had in person! (Since we're both kind of introverted it was easier in the more 1 on 1 setting.) We've texted a LOT in the past 2 weeks, sometimes staying up unreasonably late just to keep talking. It's made me smile and laugh so much, and has been really awesome. It occurred to me last night that I probably have a crush on him, but this isn't worth pursuing right? He's doing college out-of-state and I have no idea if he plans on moving back west when he's finished.
On the other hand though I've had absolutely zero success in relationships (am only not a virgin because of a shitty tinder hookup) because nobody wants me fr. I guess I feel like I wouldn't mind waiting and seeing if I could finally meet someone emotionally compatible but everything feels too dependent on the "maybe"s to seem like a good way to invest my emotions?
What are y'alls thoughts I'm feeling very conflicted on this | Crushes |
There’s this guy who I always made intense and very direct eye contact with so I got his number because I thought he like me back because I felt a spark, we barely exchanged a few words over text and he left me on delivered after saying “wyd” idk if he’s ghosting me or if he forgot or what, but he’s still smiling at me across the rooms and staring at me and I think he’s been following me around too and he always slows down when around me, I think he likes me but he also left me on delivered so I’m a bit confused like did he ghost me or was it an accident because he looks like he likes me. Tips and advice needed Asap. What should I do should I try texting him again or what ? | Crushes |
i (m20) am into a friend of mine (f19) and the past few months ive been tryna figure out how to gauge if she feels the same and kinda hint how i feel. i’ve never really done this before; save for one crush all the other ones i’ve had i just kinda got over after a while (the one that i confessed to i did it over text and she didn’t feel the same but it didn’t feel that upsetting) but i don’t wanna do that w her
i’ve talked to some friends about it and they think i have a shot bc one time i cooked some food and invited her over and she drove the ~30 min to my apartment to eat and hang out for a bit and some other small stuff, but idk.
once i asked her if she wanted to see a movie that was back in theaters that we both like and she agreed but then invited a friend. then the day we were supposed to go she cancelled the movie but we still got food for a bit w/o her even mentioning friend.
went out and got boba and stuff w her a few times too but idk if she saw that as just friend stuff or no.
i think one of the things that makes me doubt she feels the same is that she never initiates text convos. but she’ll respond pretty quickly to my texts. idk if that’s really a huge thing tho
tryna figure out how to tell/signal to her that i like her w/o coming on too strong or making her uncomfortable or something. it’s tough cuz i don’t wanna lose her as a friend either but i also feel like i have a nonzero chance. | Crushes |
I went on a road trip for spring break, ended up staying a couple nights in one location and hung out with a friends hometown friends the whole time. There was this one girl there who I just couldn’t and still can’t get my mind off of. My friends tried to set me up with her, but she was literally going through a break up while we were there. I just tried to be funny and give her space, because I think she knew that my friends were trying to set us up too. I did end up talking to her a bit, but mostly small talk, nothing very deep. We basically chain smoked cigs and got different types of fucked up, went skiing, went to her house and it was an insane couple of days, and all we did was talk a bit. I don’t know why but I can’t get my mind off of her. She’s stupid(as in very) cute and she’s this kinda crazy hippie ski bum who says what she wants kinda deal. There’s more to it but I’m not really tryna go into crazy detail. I guess just my cup of tea, I didn’t realize I have a type. She’s also the friend of my friends gf, and idk if that’s a good idea. It’ll never work because of distance and it’s only a dream like they usually were. It’s just I haven’t noticed having a crush on someone or feeling something for someone in a long time. Thanks for listening. | Crushes |
We’ve been close friends for almost two years now and i’ve been in love with them for at least 16 months. We talk and flirt a lot, we’ve even sexted before. We match profile pictures on everything and talk about how much we love each other all the time, people always think we are dating. I’m not sure if they feel the same way i do, i mean i know they love me but i don’t know if it’s in that way. Basically i can’t tell if the flirting and stuff is a joke anymore. We have a two year age gap so they will be graduating before me and it kind of stresses me out. I’m just really unsure of what to do. I want them to be in my life forever and i don’t want our relationship to be ruined. | Crushes |
She said that they were great and that my hair looked great should i read into this. Or is this delusional hope | Crushes |
I’m kinda shy. I need help. You can ask for some details if you want. | Crushes |
so i have a crush on this girl(and her bf but this ain't about him today) and we have a science class together. she sits a little bit away from me(it is a small classroom, however)
the other day she got up from her seat and walked over to me sitting in mine and just like hugged me!! idk if it's bc she saw the stressed expression on my face or what(we're leading abt arthropods in class, and that day specifically we were learning about arachnids, which includes spiders. i have a huge arachnophobia) but it absolutely made my day. but :D
and today she and i kept like making eye contact and laughing/making faces at the video we were watching in class(it was a funny video, it cursed and made sexual references. the video was on ticks 💀💀) and AAAAAAAAA yk???? | Crushes |
So there's this guy at work.
And I think he's so handsome and manly and when he laughs my heart fills with joy.
We met in the hallway, our eyes met, he smiled and the world stopped. In that moment we silently communicated. I'm pretty sure he knows everything about me.
Since that moment it's been a dance. I love when he's around. I want to be better because of him. In an interesting turn of events, he has started to wear the same color clothes as me.
I know I'm assuming here, because he's never told me he liked me. But I'm not a spring chicken and I've been around the block a few times. The signs are there.
As per usual In being an adult, things are complicated. These are only thoughts and will probably never come to fruition.
But he has tugged at my heart strings, and I love him no matter what with my whole heart. | Crushes |
I am attracted to this guy in my college class, and i would like to talk to him or try to get to know him romantically. ive tried to sit by him but it seems as if he always moves whenever i try to sit by him? maybe it’s just my imagination? either way i have a hard time trying to approach people, what would be the most kind/noncreepy approach? | Crushes |
I found out my (18F) coworker (19M) liked me around July and in August-September we would talk and be flirty at work. Him and I are both shy so we started off by just saying hi and nothing else but now it’s gone back to that. He used to make an effort to have conversations and say bye when he was leaving but nothing. Yesterday I saw him for the first time in months and it was just the hi again but I noticed he looks at me when I’m talking to someone else or stares from far. Do you think he still has some feelings left or he’s just looking to see what I’m doing or what the commotion is? | Crushes |
I have my crushes number and all I had to do was ask for it by dming her over instagram. I got her number and texted her last week asking about her plans. She said nothing much on Sunday and I said I might watch a movie. I haven’t texted her since and I want to text her something. Then, I finally got the opportunity and talked to my crush and talked to her and only her for 10 minutes at lunch. The school schedule was all fucked up because we got out early so the lunches were weird. I usually have 2nd lunch but the class we had lunch in changed so I had 3rd today. I went to lunch, got my lunch then went to the cafeteria to eat. I went to sit at my friends table and they said my crush is right next to us, so I got a little nervous then I built up the courage slowly and waited for my friends to leave. She was behind me and I had my back turned so when my friends all left to go to class I went to my crushes table and said none of my friends are here so can I sit with you. Mind you, she was all alone at the table so if she asks why I sat with her, I'll say it made me sad watching you sit alone at lunch or that all my friends left so I thought I'd sit with you and talk to you. Like I know it’s a little embarrassing to say but then we started talking about school and the weekend so I’d say it’s a w. She didn’t make eye contact the whole time but she did ask questions to keep the conversation going and she remembered some things like she asked me if I was a sophomore and she also remembered I'm Russian because she said it's weird you don't speak Russian or Ukrainian. I said I did know some random things in Russian, and she said, so you can say hi or bye and I was like yeah. But I could have said I know this word krasyva, which means pretty. I did say some things which I think I shouldn't have said, not like it was bad, it might have been weird to say but we had some silences and I tried filling that gap by asking her questions. I hadn’t talked to her in person up until that point and she has a lovely voice. She also looked cute ☺️. So, going off this information, what should I text her? | Crushes |
Do you wish you would have done things differently? | Crushes |
So around a week ago I posted [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11opaw1/does_he_like_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) post abt this guy who I don’t really have any classes with but go to clubs with and am friends with (but we’re not too too close or anything). Anyways, I had that same club today. When I walked in, he was there, so I sat down where I usually sit next to him and just start talking to the people in the room who had greeted me when I entered. We’re club besties and always have fun together when we’re there but then he kinda just goes “if our club president isn’t here then can I just go because I wanna go home” and then he actually left but then returned like 3 seconds later with another guy in our club. He ends up staying for the rest of the club meeting and we have a lot of fun taking 0.5s of each other and laughing about random crap. I also was really stressed because some other people were comparing math test question answers where they all had the same answer but I had something different. I was also just tired so I was laying my head on the table and he leaned over to so that I could see him and told me that it was alright and that everything would be ok which I thought was sweet. When I gave my presentation to the club he also told me that I slayed and we sent random snaps to each other of each other for the rest of the club basically. We also left together and talked about random stuff on the way out. Idk I t | Crushes |
Ok! So basically I ride the bus with this guy and have talked to him before, unfortunately he’s a grade above me :(. However I was talking with him the other day on the bus and I said, “We gotta play game pigeon sometime! I know I could beat you!” And he said sure! And he said he’s technically grounded for 2 months but when he gets his phone back he’ll give me his number! All I know is he got ISS got I talked to him in the library while he was there. Then he got up and walked around with me and messed with things but ran back to pretend he hadn’t moved when the person came back. I love him so muchhh! | Crushes |
my sister in law split with her bf over a year ago. I have since developed an infatuation with her, i am obsessed with knowing where she is, who she's seeing, everything, shes moving away in a month, today she was at my house and she looked soo good, i've had this before and its gone away with distance. I feel so inadequate and unhappy, how do i resolve this? | Crushes |
So my best friend has 1 really good friend who I've never really hung out with. Before we became friends, she was really the only person she hung out with. But recently we've been including her in stuff, and we've been spending a lot of time with her. And I think I like her, but I really don't want to. For starters she has the same last name as my mom, she's said before that she doesn't think we're related, but I really don't want to chance it, and its still a little weird. And second, I just turned 18, and she's 15 and a half. It's not illegal, and it's not immoral, but she's just too young in my eyes.
I really like her personality though, she fits right into our friend group, and I want to be her friend, but I just want to make sure I don't start to see her as anything more. | Crushes |
We both went to a party. We spent the whole time together. After that we went to get food and we hung out a bit more. | Crushes |
Okay so me and this guy have been talking a lot and we both admitted we liked each-other. Skip to today there was a party me and my friends went and he was there. In the beginning he was holding my hand then left with his friends. He was hanging out with this girl a grade younger than us the whole time. The only time he talked to me or anything was when he hugged me when i was about to leave. And i know the girl who he was hanging out with likes him. So what im asking is am i loosing him? He was with that girl for 4 hours straight. Help what do i do | Crushes |
We don’t talk much in person but we text a lot and he seems really into the conversations and makes sure to keep them going on. I’m confused because he takes forever (many hours sometimes) to send a response back. He avoids eye contact with me at school and has never initiated a conversation which is disheartening but he’s always so nice and interactive when I talk to him. When we text he compliments me a lot and says a lot of things that definitely don’t seem like normal friendly messages which makes we wonder if he does like me. I know he’s brought me up about me with his friends which is another thing but I’m doing all of the pursuing and it’s making me lose interest. I might give up | Crushes |
I’ve known this guy forever and i’ve had feelings for him for such a long time. We’re both busy with work and i get that but one minute he’s messaging me loads we’re meeting up and stuff. Next minute he just drops off the face if the earth. I don’t know what’s going on and I’m too scared to tell him how I feel.
What should I do?
What could be going on with him? | Crushes |
I know this was some time ago but I can’t get it out of my head still. This has nothing to deal with my current crush or anything related. This is about someone else who I wound not really call a crush. In fact I would say I loved with all my heart.
I (17f) had a crush when I was 10 years old on a guy the same age as me. Not only was he my first crush, but he was the first person I considered to be a close friend. The two of us got along extremely well and would hang out a lot. Best memories of my life.
As years went by we stayed relatively close until I admitted my feelings towards him when I was 12. It made things awkward and it felt as if he was ignoring me. Looking back he likely didn’t know what to do. Still, this upset me a lot and it lead us to have a falling out around the age of 13.
The last things I heard from him was him telling me we are not friends anymore and, “Can’t you take a hint?”. This hurt a lot so eventually I told him I wouldn’t care if he died. Despite this my feelings never truly left and I stayed hopeful we would talk again when we would be older so we could make up.
Couple years later I moved away and I ended up getting a DM on Instagram by one of his friends telling me he took his life. I was in shock and consumed with guilt. In fact I’m still guilty and I regret how our final experiences were shared.
I do get new feelings for people, but no one can compare to him at all. In all honesty even though we were never a couple I feel a string desire to stay loyal to him. How do I move on after all this time? | Crushes |
I don't know how to feel. Tbh I'm kinda embraced because I denied it when I first pieced it together but then she found a picture of them as a family. She told me not to say anything to him because she doesn't want him getting offended. I feel it's not something that's avoidable forever though. | Crushes |
me and my crush are in a class together. he’ll always choose to sit next to me if possible, or at least near to me, but i’ve always thought that was because i’m friends with his friends. he’ll also wink at me whenever he says something that gets my attention, come up to me randomly in hallways, etc, to speak with me, and i see him looking at me relatively often. but, he always makes fun of me for the smallest things- whether it’s my personality, the way i look, etc. it’s all lighthearted, but sometimes he takes it a little too far.
essentially, earlier today he came and sat next to me. he enjoys messaging the guys that try to slide into my dms, (he finds it funny) and i notice one of the guys is spanish (crush speaks fluent spanish, i do not at all) so i ask if he wanted to talk to him. crush takes my phone, starts typing in spanish and laughing, and hands it back to me after. i’m worried he’s said something offensive or rude, so i ask him to tell me what it says, and he refuses, so i get out google translate. that’s when he looks at my screen and goes ‘no, don’t translate it. you don’t want to know what it says.’
i go ahead anyways, and when i get to third message my crush sent he gets up and walks out of the room. i put it into translate, and it comes out as ‘she’s pretty, don’t worry’ (she referring to me, no other girl was mentioned). when i get home, i message him saying thank you for the compliment. to this, he says ‘ah yes, you keep telling yourself i complimented you’.
obviously this confuses me a lot, but he carries on the conversation regardless, asking me about my plans for the weekend, etc, before eventually just leaving me on read. | Crushes |
So I have this friend who I have known for 4 years now and I used to have a crush on her, I confessed my feelings to her she rejected me I eventually got over my feelings for her and we stayed friends. Fast forward to now, three years later I had always just friendly flirted with her from time to time but never felt what I used to feel. But 2 months ago I started to heavily flirt with her and I noticed she was more open to it. I lowkey think I flirted myself into having something for her again LMFAO. Cause I'm starting to think about her a lot more.
Has anyone ever flirted their way into catching feelings? Also, ya think I should just go with the flow or actually try something? | Crushes |
So I was texting her and then she wanted to try and guess who my crush was. I gave her hints as to who it was and then she asked if it was her. I just replied with a ‘maybe’. She probably knows now lmao | Crushes |
(We’re all 16; I’ll call my crush Tom and her friend Laura)
Laura and Tom have been best friends for years and she knows him a lot better than I do. I’m positive she could tell me the definite answer of if Tom likes me or not. Issue is that despite being friends, I’m 90% sure Tom doesn’t like me back (anxiety might play into that high number?). If I ask Laura and she tells me it’s a certain no, I’d be pretty heartbroken to say the least; I’ve liked Tom for over a year. BUT if that’s the case and he doesn’t like me, I don’t know if I should just get the bad news over with.
She knows I like him and we occasionally joke about it, but she’s a good friend and has never told him.
(Before anyone asks, yes I’m sure Laura doesn’t have a crush on him or anything, she’s a lesbian)
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/11u7g4t) | Crushes |
I dont know if I should be worried. Theres this girl I work with. We both like each other. We quite literally brought each others food home by accident. I contacted her and she said its ok. Something tells me she not fine about it. How do I go about this cause were both working tomorrow. | Crushes |
I have a slight crush on a guy and he is willing to drive 3 hours to see me, he sends me porn memes, and out of all the people wishing him a happy birthday, only hearts my message while saying thank you to everyone else... Asked My good pal and h says that the guy is definitely into me in some way, but I think I'm still in denial that someone could like me because of anxiety... | Crushes |
Just imagine the following situation:
There's someone in your class (or whatever) who clearly has a total crush on you. You think they're fine but you're not friends with them neither do you like them back.
After a few weeks/months you notice it even more. They just won't confess.
What would you do? Ignore it? Maybe tell them? I'm interested in y'all's opinion | Crushes |
so basically this guy in my grade started snapping me in oct but i wasn’t rly interested so i snapped him for a wk and then left him on opened, then in jan he snapped me again and this time i was interested and we snapped for about 2 wks. then he left me on opened lol. so my school dance is next week and so last week i started snapping him bc i wanted to take him. we snapped for a week and then yesterday i went up to him at school and asked him to the dance. he said yes and sounded interested and asked for my number, then he texted me like 2 hours later asking who’s preparty i wanted to go, i texted back and now i’m on delivered for a day ☹️, also the snap i sent him yesterday before he texted me is on delivered but he’s active. what should i do? | Crushes |
Met a dude at a housewarming party. He was cute and we kind clicked. When we talked to the rest of the group he referenced his girlfriend when someone asked him a question. I forgot about him and moved on but two days ago I saw his profile on a dating app. Should I send a like? Or wait for him to initiate if he wants to? I asked my friends and they said he could be cheating. It’s been about two months since that time so I don’t know if it’s fair to assume that. I assume if he wanted to match me he would but I also know there can be some merit in making the first move. Maybe he just doesn’t remember me? Idk | Crushes |
I have wanted to tell to my crush a long time I like him. And he is taken, but I would tell him because then I could move on better. Because I have tried over two years to get over him and it hasn't work. So this is the only way. I know he will understand when I tell that, but it feels like end when I tell that to him. I like him so much, and I'm scared it's last time when we see with him. Because it would be akward to see him after that, so I'm scared I have to say goodbye to him. I'm crying right now when I'm writing this, and when I even think about the telling situation I start to cry. I know I will get panic attack in front of him and start to cry too. And I know it will be horrible after that, I know it will feel like dying when I have told that to him. Because It feels like goodbye to him. But I promised myself this year will be the best, but it can't if I'm still stuck crushing on him. This is the only way... And I don't wanna hide my feelings anymore, I wanna say them to his face. I don't wanna overthink anymore, I will hear about himself what he thinks about me. And after these years, I finally do this in this year. It feels like I'm losing him completely, but I think It's the time to tell. But I know just It's going to be the worst thing ever. | Crushes |
So yesterday my crush came up and talked too me, and I need advice. So the first day I talked too him he was so nice, he’d look and me as he walked by and just stare. Then the second time, I was a MESS AND HUGE MESS I was stuttering and couldn’t look him in the eye. He laughed and couldn’t stop smiling as he said “it be like that” then yesterday he stopped me and talked to me, it wasn’t nothing big, just “hey,” with his cute smile then “how are you doing” you know? I wanna know, should I ask him for his insta, or should I play it cool and wait? | Crushes |
hey guys! so, for some context, I am in high school and I have a little (well, kind of) crush on this girl but she's 2 years below me, so I am 17 and she's 15/16. i am also a girl but i've never felt this way towards another girl so i'm not sure if i'm bi or just crazily obsessed with her. she's extremely beautiful and i really want to at least talk to her once. usually, she's in the library in the morning but i'm too shy once her friends come over. i feel like it's hella weird even though we are less than 2 years apart in age, but i don't know... what do i even say to her?? i want to get to know her but i'm so inexperienced in this ahaha. she's kind of intimidating so idk what to do lmao
any advice? :) will update if i can ! | Crushes |
AT broke up with me yesterday because he was having a hard time finding himself, and even though I know it's only been a day, I think I'm inlove again already
I've known him since last year, like AT, but I didn't really like him as much as I did AT, but I think those feelings are catching up to me. At the moment, we are on our way home from a band trip and he is asleep next to me. His face is utterly adorable when he's asleep, I had to stop myself from staring at him. We also when to a place where you could check your vocal range and he ended being a tenor. He sang Rude by Magic and when I say his voice is hot, it's hot 🔥. I ended up leaving the area yelling, and I quote; "Fuck, *his name*, your voice is hot!" And he seemed very confused and nervous about it. 😅
Anyways, again, Reddit, I ask you, Am I love sick and this isn't real, or is this an actual feeling of love and not a way for me to get over my break up?
Also I'll be calling him either C or Tuba in future posts if there are any. | Crushes |
we met up on my lunch break. I noticed he kept intently looking at me while I was talking. then later after he messaged me and asked if I had made it back to work ok, he said that I have really pretty eyes! what do y’all think? | Crushes |
I was going through my saved tiktoks and saw a girl that talked about moments, that feel like that so i wanna hear yours!
Feel free to also say which music would play in the background! | Crushes |
pretty much i have this crush and if i don’t talk to someone about it i feel i might explode so i have a few options of who to tell:
1. my best friend - he will undoubtedly make fun of me, but then will get over it may tell his gf tho
2. gf of my best friend - also one of my best friends doesn’t actually have anyway to contact the crush but will probs tell my best friend
3. bestie no3 - also can’t contact the crush and idk how they’d react
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i really like this guy in my friend group and everyone knows. hes a very shy person and now he never talks to me anymore. ive asked my friends what he thinks and it makes him very uncomfy but i like him so much its hurt our friend group so should i started to lie about not liking him idk man | Crushes |
I don’t really have any friends that a girls. Tbh yea my friend group is a sausage party lol. I’m short and ok looking I guess, not very built. So I’d say I’m a 5.5-6 out of 10. I’m very bad with talking to girls who I find attractive. I see a lot of hot girls on uni campus or at the gym. How do I approach them? Like the thought of going up to one and talking is so scary to me. Please save me, give me pickup lines | Crushes |
So, I've got (most of) the plan down. This May, me and her will be performing a duet at our state S&E. I plan on asking her out that night as long as we do well on the piece (not gonna ask her out if she's upset). I just need some help/advice on how I should do it. Any comments are deeply appreciated. Thanks | Crushes |
My crush told me once he liked me (way long ago) but I rejected him because I was in a dark place and not mentaly prepared for a relationship and at that time I thought of him as a friend. I started to like him overtime and I feel like he still has those feelings for me even now.
Some days ago my bestfriend told me she likes my crush for 1-2 months from now and she even wants to be in a relationship with him. She is the type of person to get in love fast and end things fast. I don't want to tell her because she knows at that time when he liked me I was kinda annoyed by him and if I tell her this, she would be judgy a little and that would put us in an awkward state. I even encourage her to go out with him.
I don't wanna be selfish and make her do things so he wont like her but at the same time the fact that she would be with him kinda hurts me. The big problem is that if he still has feelings for me and he rejects her she will be sad.
TL;DR: My bestfriend likes my crush who liked me and I rejected him (and it is possible to still feel something for me) and I started to like him for some time too. | Crushes |
She sent a reel yesterday that jokingly said "Not experiencing teen love might lead to lower life expectancy"...
You could have it if you want. Problem is just you are BLIND! | Crushes |
So for some context, I used to work with this girl, and she quit a few months back but we kept in touch and are decently close friends although we don’t hang out irl too often. She’s bi and I think leans toward women and I’m a trans girl, I’ve had a huge crush on her for a while and decided to ask her to prom (she’s out of high school), she said “aww I would love too!” And then the other day out of the blue texted me that we should hang out sometime with a :) and immediately started planning what we should do and when, I didn’t expect anything of it until she suggested we go to the mall and then go back to my place and watch a movie together while we paint eachothers nails, and seemed pretty excited about it?? Idk if I’m either reading too much into it or being oblivious because all of my friends are telling me it’s a date especially considering the prom thing, but i dont know😭 any thoughts? She’s so sweet and fun and I don’t want to get my hopes too high but aaaaaaaah! thank you for reading | Crushes |
I’m gonna sound so dumb. Long story short I have intimacy issues. Still, I liked this guy for a long time but I am not emotionally ready to be involved with anyone. I wanted to get over it so I told him I liked him since I didn’t think he liked me back. I also was clear about my intentions. I told him I liked him but I wasn’t ready for a relationship, and that I was telling him because I think it would help me move on. He gave me a whole page about why I shouldn’t like him and how he wasn’t ready to date anyone. (He also said who knows what will happen in the future bc he “wouldn’t be opposed to trying things.” Which was contradictory and felt backhanded.) Both of us made it clear we still wanted to be friends. We left off with him saying no hard feelings and that he cares about me. About a month later I texted him to make sure we’re were good. He said we were but that he wishes I didn’t tell him! Because he doesn’t want a relationship. I was clear about my intentions so why would he say that? Why was it a big deal that I told him anyways? Am I really that bad? | Crushes |
like when i learned that he dates with my crush my brain was like hell and he came to class and he was going to have turkish exam (yeah i live in turkey) and i just said in my mind ''i hope he gets bad results'' and he litterally got 60 where nearly everyone got 90-100, i just feel so bad now | Crushes |
like she looks at me all of a sudden and instantly looks back and i remeber she asked me weird things like ''what games do you play'' and i also remember that she and her friend that known to make relationships(like relationship mediator) come to me and her friend asked me ''do you want girlfriend'' and she was saying ''i bet he has a ton of girlfriends in the internet'' and my dumbass answered ''no'' because i was too shy to talk with EVERY GIRL not even only crush so my answer to any question that a girl asks me other than teachers was ''no'' and today i was opening the door in class and idk maybe it bump into her and she was like ''OoOoOo Youu'' with a smiley face. I know many of you guys tell me ım stupid but im just too shy for this love shit | Crushes |
This thing seems so fun and the fact that i rarely get a chance to talk about him and why i like him i feel this way i will be able to freely express my feelings so go ahead and ask! | Crushes |
So I (22F) recently met this guy (24M) at work. He works in a different department and recently got back from deployment so I’m unsure how often we’ll run into each other. He came by my office and ended up spending an hour together talking after the work was finished. We talked about his deployment and regular getting to know you stuff (our age, job description, how long we’ve been here etc). Then he teased about me being younger and shorter. Which in all was harmless playful conversation. Then he showed me pictures of his barracks, food and drinks, his dog, etc. Out of the blue he asked if I had siblings and we talked about that for a while too.
Overall very nice conversation lots of playful teasing, attempting to impress the other, giggling, and eye contact. (He stammered while talking too probably reading into it but it was cute he seemed nervous). Typically I would take the handful of interactions we’ve now had as interest what do y’all think? Was he just being friendly? | Crushes |
I'll keep it short, she put her feet in front of me as I was walking and I tripped, she apologized. She is pretty introverted doesn't interact much whit people outside her friend group. | Crushes |
So my last post was about me asking my crush how her exam went. So today she had another oral exam she told me about, and I kinda want to ask how it went again. Would this be weird? I mean we talked yesterday and she told me about it so... | Crushes |
it's really awkward to tell irl friends about stuff like crushes for me but i need to let it out.. i swear i get buzzed by the smallest of things but today we ended work off together so we got to walk to the station together.. it made me happy because we always leave at different times so it's difficult to make that happen TT i wanna talk about it a lot more but i'm quite new to this so if anyone wants to talk to me about it i'd also be happy to have exchanges about their crushes! | Crushes |
It has been a few months I haven't seen my crush... But I still miss him, I still care about him. Everyday, I wake up hoping my mind would not go back to him but it still does. And it hurts so much because I know he does not care about me, he moved on. I haven't... | Crushes |
Okay this one's a little long so bear with me.
So I have been studying in this school for a while, and last academic year we entered highschool (it's called class 11 in my country) and many new guys joined the school(including her). We didn't interact at all that year as our classes were online and we barely started school physically for the last few months. So, around June of 2022 my friend (let's call him a) invited me for an anime movie. I hadn't talked to him much before that but I actually really did want to go for that movie so I agreed. Apparently she was coming too, but I didn't care about that back then some time after that i started catching feelings for her. I talked to her with the help of A and we really hit it off. Fast forward to new year's Eve, we all (me, her, my bff and some other friends) decided to celebrate it together. But on 30th December, she texted my bff that she had a really bad argument with her mom. We dropped the plan on 31st and me and my bff went to comfort her to her home. It went well and all. Afterwards, they started texting each other a lot and on 2nd of Jan, she confessed to my bff, and told me about it. My bff wasn't sure about it. What's weird is that he had never shown any interest in her before that and I'm pretty sure that he didn't have feelings for her. On 3rd he accepted her proposal and they started dating. On one hand i feel really good for them, but on the other i feel like shit and just want to be out of it. I don't know what to do.
TLDR: my crush started dating my bff and i helped them get together, now I feel like shit. | Crushes |
So I've had this crush on someone for a while and I took my chance today. Got rejected. At first I felt relieved because it was all over and I can be done thinking about it. As that settles though I feel so silly and embarrassed. I was so sure they liked me, but I guess i misread your everything.. | Crushes |
31F 40M what does it mean?
Ok so I made a post about mine and my bf of 8 years problems and come
To the decision of moving out. And I told y’all how I like my boss and we’ve been flirting. So after I told my boss that I like him and find him attractive. so the other day I told him I have a coffee for him in my car so he was like aww it’s like you like me or something I said you know I do I told you so as we get to my car he’s like “so what you want to do to me (says first name) ” (he always calls me by my last name) i said I couldn’t say because it would be inappropriate because he’s my boss but I do like him. So as we go back to go inside I ask him as my friend how he thinks my chances are in the dating world cause I don’t. Find myself beautiful he said it’s not always about beauty that attracts it’s personality too and my personality is attractive. So when I got done at work yesterday he teased me a couple times saying so you want me I would agree and say I shouldn’t but I do. And when we’re around other coworkers we’re professional who’ll just give me straight eye contact when we pass each other. But when we’re alone he’ll tease me and say so you want me huh. So today I asked him if I could take him to dinner sometime he said he doesn’t date coworkers so I said it doesn’t have to be a date he said sounds like one I said it’s to r only way I can get you alone so he said he doesn’t date coworkers so I said okay I figured I’d ask cause you flirt with me all the time.
TL DR:: I’m 31 F 40M
I know don’t date my boss but at this point it’s not about that anymore I want to know is why did he flirt with me the way he did and then say no to me taking him out to dinner does he not like me I don’t understand. I want answers cause that’s the first time I’ve ever asked a guy out so if I’m every going to do it again I want to make sure I won’t get rejected. Please and thank you no bashing okay I got rejected that hurts enough. | Crushes |
This happened in like mid January: I had a crush on this girl and I didn't know how to tell her and I was overthinking things way more than I should've which caused me to never tell her I liked her but in mid January she told me she used to like me. BTW this is literally like 3 days after she tried to tell me she liked me but she was quiet when she said it so I couldn't tell what she said. Anyway I responded with "I used to like you too" even though I still liked her to not push against the flow of the convo. But she sounded surprised when I said that so I'm thinking maybe she was waiting for me to say something like "oh, well I love you" then she would respond with "I used to like you but I love you now" also for context my friend went behind my back and told my crush I liked her. So then they went on a plan to get me to confess to her but I screwed it up by now saying anything. I also said to my friends "I'm going to stop trying to ask her" so they would stop bugging me about it. But I'm pretty sure my friend told her so thats why she even said anything in the first place. After that whole conversation we are still really close friends but I want to try and ask her in my own words hoe I still feel. But I'm not sure of it's the right move.
TLDR:crush on girl, friend told girl I liked her, made plans to make me confess to girl, to cowardly and failed, realized she confessed to me but very quietly so I couldn't hear, day's later she says she used to like me. Close friends still. Want to tell her how I feel in my own words | Crushes |
So firstly some info you must know. I am in an all-girls school, my country and culture doesn't support lgbtq+ but it's very common in girl public schools including mine. It's very secretly normalized among the girls.
Anyways just like any highschooler there has to be this person you're fanning over because it makes your day more interesting one way or another. I don't say love or like because I don't know my crush, I just find her attractive and I don't believe in love at first sight either.
She is tall and has the most beautiful dimpled smile in the entire world I swear. Omg did I mention the way her eyes squint when she smiles? Okay, let's not go over the topic. She's genuinely a very attractive person.
Anyways it's been like this for an entire term. It hasn't been long since the second term has started and honestly when I found myself being even more into her just by watching her from the side of my eye, I wanted to truly know her. Even if it meant just being friends. It was difficult because we had no link to each other. She was in a different club, two years older than me (I'm a sophomore and she is a senior) .I tried finding common friends between us. (I only found my sister's friend who hated her so it wasn't possible). I was so annoyed, I am a very extroverted person but not to the point where I can walk up to the person I'm attracted to and start a conversation from nothing, I had to find an excuse. Also I'm in-experienced and have never flirted or found someone attractive enough for me to feel like wanting to know them. Anyways I kind of spend my days just watching her from far away. Although I was able to find out that she was into girls (My heart literally twisted and turned in ways I didn't think possible)
but of course you can't be sure unless the person themself says it. It could be just a rumor.
Anyways, what I really wanna talk about is yesterday (Which is thursday) .That day each club was showcasing their booths in an event and her booth happened to be exactly next to mine. We were only a few feet away. I realized I never was that close to her, my heart was pounding so fast. So in the event we were supposed to give an explanation to the principle and special guests of our work once they got to us but it turned out we were going to use mics to speak so everyone started to panic and holy I wasn’t going to let this chance slide. (This was in the school auditorium so you can imagine the scene) So I took a few steps forward and leaned in whispering, “Are we seriously going to use mics?” There it was finally and for the first time our eyes actually met. Not just some fleeting glances from her and me but our eyes actually locked. My brain blurred out whatever her friends where blabbering to me as she throws the most mesmerizing “where fucked” dimpled smile at ME and confirms my question. Holy I don't think I ever heard her voice either.
You can imagine my panic. I act all normal as if I’m not going to melt and scream all at the same time as I turn to my friend and act freaked out. (I was supposed to be genuinely freaked out but I couldn’t even think about that anymore)
Time passes, the booths are closed (They were cut out from the school schedule and we were back to class) and it’s P.E, Just when I think things can't get any better, she is there! How? Why? I don’t know. (It’s normal for two different classes to use the same sports hall but I know those classes, hers isn’t one of them and they can’t change) It turns out the teacher switched with a class because they were practicing for a competition.
Our teacher was absent so I was sitting on the side watching her as she practiced and for some reason, I didn’t want to turn my eyes away when her eyes passed me. For some reason and for the first time I wanted her to know I was staring at her and wow my big ego wasn’t complaining like usual. And she does, because she looks a few times back to confirm her thoughts. Anyways I busy myself as I talk with my friends and time passes, she then finishes and her entire class starts taking their stuff that were right beside me. (I wanted to cry at that moment, what did I do that was so amazing that just kept making my day better and better?) She walks beside me and takes her stuff. It seemed she wasn’t going to change in the fitting room because she just wears her school dress on top of the sports t-shirt and pants. Okay so public schools in my country have united clothes and their hard to describe so here's a pic. [https://sawahmedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/42.png](https://sawahmedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/42.png)
She suddenly walks up to me and asks me to zip the back of the dress and I do so casually, it’s not like the first time a classmate asks for help zipping but it wasn’t anyone. So you can imagine how my stomach flipped as I got closer to her and zipped it up. It was just a few seconds but it felt like an eternity.
She wears her jacket so the t-shirt doesn't show from under the dress. Let’s be honest, call me delusional but she could’ve just asked any of my friends, so at that moment I took that as a sign and tried opening a conversation with her using the booth. Right when I asked she started talking and laughing as me and my friends engaged with her. Honestly It was the fast kind of conversation where she’s talking as she zips up her jacket and takes a second to look at me as I talk before walking away while laughing at what I said.
Then me and my close friend began a deep conversation about random things and we decided to sit in the fitting room because it was empty by now and there was still a lot of time left. (This is when I know my crush is gay, remember my friend's sister? That’s the friend and she knew a few things because of her sister) We were leaning on the sinks talking when my friend found out it was her time of the month. So I went to the teachers room in a hurry to get her tissue, as I entered I heard the only teacher present telling the girl before me there was no tissue but I was already in and I was panicking so I just asked. Now imagine the scene in front of me, my crush was sitting casually on a moving chair as she talked with the teacher with another of her friends. I simply ask and indeed the teacher gets pissed saying she had no tissue. I just nodded my head expecting that and was about to turn away when my crush called out to me and pointed to a pack of tissues in the corner. I didn’t know whether I should roll my eyes at the teacher or wonder why my crush didn’t bother pointing out the tissue for the girl before me. But of course my brain was screaming for me to stop being delusional. Anyways that was the last encounter as P.E finished which was the last class. I headed to the same spot outside the school gates where me and my friends always gather to wait for our pick up, most of the girls stand there so it’s crowded and I usually always see her on the other side. But it seems my luck has run out for today since I couldn’t see her because she left early today.
This was the first time in my life where I hated a Thursday. How was I supposed to be patient for the rest of the weekend? It’s Friday today and I keep thinking about yesterday's events, that's why I came here to vent. Wow, I just realized how much I have written. Who the hell is going to read this? Anyways after everything that happened today I won’t let this once in a lifetime opportunity go. So I’m planning on greeting her in the morning to make us more friendly. (Because we usually arrive at school at the same time, I use that time to admire her lol) And then squeeze all the social skills I have to open a conversation with her.
What do you think? Am I being delusional or could this be something. I honestly have no experience in this shit so if you wanna give me any tips please do so. The way I’m approaching this situation is the same as when I’m trying to make a new friend but I feel at a loss as to what to do because for the first time I’m nervous that a person might reject my friendship invitation. Honestly please wish me luck, I don’t want to come back to school realizing it was just a lucky beautiful day that will never happen again. | Crushes |
never thought it will be that easy. yeah the situation went on favouring me and now I'm more focused towards getting a seat in top universities. thanks crush | Crushes |
so the main reason (actually EXCUSE) on why i got his number was that i needed help with an assignment for a class that we are both in. but idk... i don't wanna come off as using him only for, like, cheating and such.
anyway so here is what i'm gonna say. lmk what i should change to make it better cause i dont wanna screw up!!
"sorry if I wasn't really clear on why I texted you. I just needed some help on something for the history honors project if that's ok." | Crushes |
Just a little question how do you know if a man likes you? I mean i have this feeling that my coworker likes me and i feel him staring at me sometimes and also i see him mirroring some actions like when i rub my neck when i am tired he does the same instantly. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
there is nothing else I just wanted to vent | Crushes |
Never had a crush so when people talk about their crushes i usually cannot relate to the things they feel | Crushes |
i litterally stare at the teacher when the teacher is talking, The creepy girl sits right by teacher but my eyes aren’t even pointed at her. The creepy girl is only in my peripheral vision. The teacher once said to someone to stop drawing, The creep turns around and acts as if she catched me staring at her .
She just smiled and turned back around then she turned back and stared at me again with a confused face like bro you realize there’s a fucking teacher next to you right? The next day she did class work with a friend and i had no idea she was behind my desk. I was walking to desk and saw her death staring at me with her head down. After that she was in my peripheral vision again and i just ignored and continued staring at the teacher She just stood still and stopped talking when speaking to her friend. Idk what her face was doing she’s werid. She would stay still and stare back at me multiple times when i stared anywhere near her direction I can’t fucking look anywhere without her thinking that i’m staring at her. I can’t look to the left to the class or she’ll think i’m staring at her I legit had to look at the board once when she was there and she assumed i was staring at her so she switched seats The day after that during lunch she decided to get infront of me with her boyfriend and i just tried my best not to stare at her direction. She told her boyfriend and the whole class that i have a “crush” on her .
I didn’t even bother to reply plus i got socialanixty which makes things harder for me. Anywhere i look she thinks i’m staring at her and now i think her friends think this too I can’t even do a small glance and i can’t even look around cuz if i stare at them for a second on accident they automatically think i’m checking them out like how tf am i suppose to know that you’re there without me seeing you like i legit looked behind me once and saw that girl and she thought i was checking her out like bitch how was i suppose to know you’re there. I’m beyond tired of it . She told her boyfriend too lmfao they’re werid I think she even got my phone number somehow and tried to see if i like her 💀. And once she told me to cry multiple times and said “aww he is sad “ I just try to keep distance honestly | Crushes |
literally not me teaching my crush how to get girls 😭
he said he wants to know how to get girls so I told him all about it (mainly saying things I want from his side) and he said "ooooo I'll try" and when I asked him about his crush he said "I don't have any, I'll apply your advice on every cute girl I see" and I was like wtf is wrong with him.
and idk what to do I'm feeling really low rn. I thought I really had chances with him but gradually that hope vanished. I really like him but dunno I'm sad.
I'll see him after 2 days when HS re-opens. | Crushes |
There's this girl I really like talking too and we have a crap ton in common! I really like her and I was thinking of asking her out to the Super Mario Brothers movie when that comes out. I don't know when to ask (like before or after the film's out) or how. Can you guys help? | Crushes |
After 15 long days of waiting, I finally saw him today. Luck hasn't been by my side lately and now the days I see him are my lucky days. You might say, I you even see him so less often, you should get over him, but trust me people, I've been trying to do that so hard for the past one and a half year and I can't.
I'm so happy. He looks more handsome than he looked before, if I trust my memory. I really hope I didn't blush on seeing him. | Crushes |
I don't even know if I like him like that or if it's because he's the only guy I talk to more in class. We've been spending a lot of time together lately (school projects/assignments where we just happened to be groupmates). Earlier today, when we were doing an assignment together, we started talking about random things and found out that we have quite a bit in common. I really liked how I felt when I was with him, but I felt kind of sad whenever he brought up the name of his crush. (e.g. "Oh yeah, \[her name\] really likes that too.") I wish I could bury these feelings because even though his crush rejected him, he said he didn't mind waiting for her. She told him that she might develop feelings for him one day, and this gave him hope (kind of a shitty thing to do, to be honest). He's also a friendly guy with a lot of female friends, so the chances of him ever liking me are 0%. I'm also an awkward person who can't crack a joke or comfortably have a conversation, and I always see him laughing with other girls lol. | Crushes |
So I feel that this guy likes me because before, he asked me, "How to be smart like you?" and I was like, "I don't know." Then his friends added, "First, you should be quiet like her," and they laughed since they don't believe that the guy could do that. So the next time I won a contest, he congratulated me, and the same thing with his friends. The other time around, I was chosen to be the representative in a contest, and he was like, "Oh, she can ace that; she will surely win the contest." The next time, there was an open contest, and he let me join it again, so I did, and he was happy about it. All these things happen through a chat, but when we meet physically, he doesn't talk to me.But one time, when the teacher told him to give me the change (money), I noticed that he was shy, like he lowered his head. Also one time, I overheard his friends talking about the guy's crush, and they stated it was someone who starts with the letter *. I was shock since I was the only one who have that initial in class. They were in front of me at that time, and I was sitting alone. | Crushes |
:(( | Crushes |
this is a bit of a long story but here goes
I met this girl just about a year ago we’ll call her N and N was a great person we really hit it off we became good friends very quickly and soon had a whole friend group with a couple other people the ones important to this story are a girl that we can call F
We all really got to know each other well and started hanging out a lot and although at the time I was oblivious to it N liked me but I wasn’t interested so I guess in a way I somewhat chose to be oblivious
A while after N and F were really close and one day (N is bisexual) F comes out of the closet to N and confesses and from then they start dating and that was around 6 months ago
F and N are very happy together F is a very caring person and treats N in only the most caring way possible
During this time I got way closer to N and realized how sweet and amazing she is that’s when I started getting feelings for her but I can’t say anything because it would complicate our friendship and their relationship which I would hate because I’m also very close to F
Because of that I started getting this dreadful feeling whenever I’d see N hanging out with someone else or hugging them or sometimes even just talking and although I hate to admit it I know It’s just jealousy but I can’t help it sometimes it gets so bad that I just can’t stand it so I make up any excuse to leave it lead me to even take a break from the friend group once which complicated things between me and N since my reasons were unclear but I just couldn’t bring myself to say the truth we talked it out and became better friends after
now all I can think about is how much I regret not doing anything when she liked me at first
This all has been bothering me for a very long time and it does help to get it off my chest but I really need advice I’m | Crushes |
Thinking about the time I was on the phone with my crush drunk and at the end he said well I’m gonna go and I said yeah I gotta go to the bathroom. I’m going to kms | Crushes |
This is my first Reddit post, so please excuse the sloppiness of my writing. It’s also going to be fairly long, so I’m sorry!
This will be kind of me rambling and venting about my feelings, and it’s okay to judge me if you think what I consider a problem isn’t big enough to warrant a Reddit post. Don’t feel bad about it!
I’ve been friends with this girl who goes to my highschool for about half a year, and very recently we have been spending a lot more time with one another in and out of school.
Over the past few weeks, maybe couple months, I notice that every time I see her I get this really indescribable feeling and I constantly anticipate the classes and stuff that we do together. This has led me to realize that I have an ever increasing crush on her. She’s really caring, and really funny, and most importantly I really don’t want to lose her as a friend. I feel guilty, I don’t think it’s fair to her that I like her.
I’ve asked advice from some of my friends about how to get over her, and answers usually range from something like “why don’t you ask her out?” or “try to distance yourself from her” and both of these options are pretty impossible for me.
One thing is that I don’t think I could ever confess to her either because I’m worried she will be uncomfortable with me for it and we will lose our closeness, so that puts confessions off the table, but maybe I’m being over sensitive. I still don’t think it’s a good idea I confess to her regardless.
I remember at one point she complained to me that one of her guy friends was acting really “clingy” if that makes any sense. I asked her if she thinks the guy likes her, and she dismissed it and was grossed out by the idea of the guy liking her. I do NOT want that to be me of course.
Distancing myself from her would be really sad too. She has expressed how much she enjoys my company before and how much she cares about me, and we’re always planning things to do together. I think she’d be very upset if I distanced, so that makes that hard.
I think maybe it sounds like I don’t have a problem, but I’m worried this is going to impact me in a bad way. I have a terrible time trying to control my emotions. I also don’t regularly get crushes, it’s a once in a blue moon event for me, and every single time it is an uncontrollable amount of feelings. I’m worried it will build up and make it impossible for me to be around her without being a nervous wreck.
I was wondering if there was a way for me to stop liking her without upsetting her by distancing myself or confessing, and all while keeping our friendship the same.
TLDR; I’m starting to like my friend and I want to stop liking her without jeopardizing our friendship. | Crushes |
Had a crush on my coworker for some time, we became work friends. I had asked him to coffee once as colleague, we swapped socials, I’ve offered him things like cupcakes our friend was handing out etc we’ve bantered over our work messaging platform and commuted at times together but rarely would he message me first outside of asking me to do lunch with him. When I quit I couldn’t say goodbye so I left a harmless note thanking him for being a great help. He texted me afterwards and said didn’t know I was leaving etc etc. I said we should stay in touch & even referenced the coworker happy hour we planned but never made happen months ago. He only liked the text and didn’t respond. We still follow each other on socials, he always likes my pics etc. Another colleague once asked me if I was into him which made me think I must have been really obvious. Should I just let it go? I kinda left work under difficult circumstances but he didn’t make any attempt to maintain a friendship since I left. It’s been 4 months now. I was thinking of asking him to catch up over coffee basically my last attempt at making a move esp now that we are not coworkers so there isn’t a grey area (he is a manager but not on my team). Should I even bother bc if he wanted to he would? Or should I just move on. There were moments in our time as colleagues I felt as though he was attracted to me such as touching my arm and waiting for me in the rain to walk together. I think that’s why I haven’t been able to let it go because I have this small hope. I also have a hard time moving on without revealing my feelings. I am kinda jaded by chasing men on dating apps and falling into these situationships. On the other hand my parents want me to have an arranged marriage. I wanted to meet someone in person so when we connected and clicked I thought this could be that. I guess I am thinking of it as my last chance at the potential for love. If I make another move does that seem desperate? | Crushes |
So there’s this girl I’ve known for a long time and I confessed a few weeks ago, she said she felt the same way but didn’t want to mess up our relationship but she says this one sentence jumbled, and most of the words are misspelt. Jump a few weeks and we are still talking good. Then spring break hits and we both go home from school and I text her as a joke that I’ll just be her sitting in my room all alone just me. And I text her a crossword message that says I will be missing you and it’s pretty obvious. Then she texts back in one sentence “thanks cole hope u enjoys urself there in ur room”. That was on the 10th. I texted her again saying hi. Again on the fifteenth. And again on the sixteenth and still nothing. I look back on this group chat she’s also in and she did text while I was talking with this guy but it did seem argumentative but it’s like she was on his side. That was on the thirteenth, so either she didn’t see my texts on discord and haven’t opened it or she’s just ignoring me. Then I texted her after that and it was still on the sixteenth and she still hasn’t texted me back. I don’t know what to do if it’s trouble on her side but she did have time to text on that group chat so I don’t know what to do. | Crushes |
Backstory: So basically what happend before was I gave him his bday present with the confession letter hidden inside. And I've liked this guy for like a year now and we've been just friends But flirty and stuff.
So today I saw him and he said he really liked the present but he mentioned nothing about the letter and I was really upset because in the letter I said "if you dont like me we can just pretend this never happend". And I thought that was what he was doing, pretending like it never happend. But then he messaged me a few minutes ago saying he didn't see the letter because it fell under his desk when he took the gift out.
AND HE LIKES ME TOO. OMG I FEEL LIKE IM LIVING IN A MOVIE. I AM SO HAPPY | Crushes |
She loved the confession but she doesn't feel the same way about me and urged me to stay friends.
But I haven't heard from her since. We ended the conversation on a very good note though.
I'm worried about losing her a friend too. What shall I do? Shall I ping her? | Crushes |
Im 15F and my crush is this boy I have martial arts practice with, and I had a crush on him for a few months but these days it’s been more intense. A few days ago I don’t know why but I felt like I had something going on with him. He kept on looking at me, kinda giggly around me, he looked at me while smiling and talking to his friend, and we kinda talked a lot. I may be delusional but I thought he liked me back. Today I went back and I felt like he didn’t care or mind me, we only made eye contact twice and one very short convo (about class). Was I just delusional? Can anyone please give me advice on this I’m so confused and non of my friends are taking me seriously. | Crushes |
A little info 25y/o Female.
First let me start off by saying I can be very dense at times. Especially with "relationships". I've never been in one whatsoever. No dating around, never talked to anyone nothing.
I met someone almost a year ago and we hit if off. We talk everyday. He even has a sweet nickname for me. He texts me good morning and goodnight and we talk all throughout the day. He checks in on me, he actually wants to know how I'm really doing.
He gives me compliments that has nothing to do with looks whatsoever but things about my personality and just me as a person.
When we talk on the phone it's usually hours at a time. We even started doing a new activity together (he asked if I wanted to start a book club with him).
We talk about everything and anything. It never gets boring or awkward.
I honestly can't tell if he is just that sweet or if he likes me. I would hate to ruin our friendship. It's honestly the best one I've ever had. I just can't tell if he thinks of me that way. I'm stuck on where to go from here. | Crushes |
So, I've had this crush on this guy and it's been about 3 months since I've confessed. As I expected I got friendzoned, and I don't really mind that. The problem is, I keep telling myself I'm over him, but I get butterflies around him from time to time. I think it's because he understands me so well and he just feels like someone I can come to tell my troubles to. It's really hard to get over someone when that someone makes you feel understood more than anyone else does. I do want to be friends with him still, because I love hanging out with. So how can I move on COMPLETELY and start to see him as just a friend and not as a crush anymore?
PS. I already tried spending time away from him and it made me like him even more so that didn't work.
Also I don't wanna be obsessive or clingy and I do WANT to move on so I can be friends with him. That's why I'm trying to get over him so that I can still be friends with him and not get jealous if he gets a girlfriend. | Crushes |
i've never done this before and i don't know how to figure out if she likes me or not or how to make the first move? any help would be great | Crushes |
So I’ve never gone on a date ever… what actually happens on a date? Is it awkward? Is it fun? | Crushes |
Although the reason I asked her to hang out is because I want to tell her clearly about my feelings. There’s a reason why I asked her, and that’s because she actually knew I already liked her for a while, and when I knew about that, I was a bit drunk at that time, so asking to hang out in person while sober was the least I can do to tell her honestly. Also, I didn’t really “confess.” It was more like “do you know I like you?” and she said yes. She knew because I told her friend and that friend told her. I don’t hate her for doing that, but I felt betrayed.
I feel like this was a bad idea since I know it doesn’t seem like she would reciprocate and has someone she likes, but I have no problem with that, and I just want to let out my feelings. Now, I’m nervous because that hangout will happen soon, and I’m not so sure what to say. | Crushes |
so my crush is very obvious about wanting me sexually. I understand and I get it or whatever, that part isnt really effecting me.. but what is getting me is when I look at his following on IG its a bunch of girls that dont look like me. ethnicity wise yes, its a bunch of latinas but they all are skinny. Im latina but im more on the bigger side. Im feeling like he is only seeing me as a sexual partner but at the same time if thats the case why even venture out to me if im not his ideal type? I think im just irritated lol | Crushes |
I just found out that my (f) crush (f) got a boyfriend. Ive been crushing on her for more than a year and damn it sucks. Its not like i was expecting her to like me since we barely see each other, but it still hurt me to know theres no chance. | Crushes |
So i met this guy that i fell for a year ago from a student exchange program and in 1 year we texted twice and last time was like 6 months ago. Both times he has texted me first but we have never had a conversation over text where we are actively texting because of bad timing (last time we were both on vacation in different countries a d time zones and i was at a theme park so kind of difficult). When he texted me it was responding to my instagram stories (both just pictures i took not of me) but he doesnt ever post stories. I have tried commenting on his post but he only liked the comment but maybe hedidnt know what to respond or he was too busy. So would it be weird if i randomly text him? | Crushes |
i finally worked up the courage to talk to him. we’ve been texting each other since 7am this morning and although it’s been only a few short hours i feel like i’ve known him for years the way talking to him feels to freeing. it’s more than what i ever imagined. | Crushes |
I'm 16/M , also have OCD , few weeks ago , i got a crush on a girl a after a very long time, i have physical, romantic attraction for her , don't know about sexual attraction but i Sure know that i dont lust her . She is very much pretty/beautiful.
One day (about 10 days ago ) when i was seeing her , i got an instrusive thought that she isn't much beautiful i thought she would be (it's just an intrusive thought, i dont really feel like that), and after that , i was fighting with my mind that she is by compulsively looking at her images and giving my mind evidence that "look my fking mind , she is so beautiful". And during this period i had anxiety (it's a common symptom in OCD ), also during that period i lost my attraction for her , most likely because of Anxiety.But , it was all happening again and again , liek , sometimes when my mind would get convinced, i would get my attraction back , but other times i didn't had .(Also to let u all know , ppl with OCD do compulsion to get reassurance, and that reassurance goes away after a short time) .
Then , i ignored all those thoughts for almost 5-6 days , and got normal and my attraction for her came back , but then this cycle started again 2-days ago .
What should I do ? I hate this feeling . | Crushes |
Hello,
He's 22 turning 23 in December.
I'm (female) turning 22 in June.
We've been to the same schools but never really talked because he had a girl at the time and out of respect I never really focused on him.
Fast forward, 4/5 years later he reached out through facebook messenger.
This was on January the 4th.
We exchanged number and began dating.
He seems to be really into me during text.
We got to know each other to the point that I don't have questions for him anymore.
He is open about his sexual history. Which was very wild. He said to have had enough sex.
On the contrary, I'm a virgin.
Never kissed a boy, hugged intimately, sex or anything sexual.
I never went to college, I've been working straight outta high school.
He promised to pay for my college.
He doesn't want kids in his 20s. If he has a kid in his 30s it would be only one, a girl.
He said:
"I want a girl. So that I can have 2 of you. She'll be cute like you".
Why I want to cut him off:
He ghosted me completely In February and March.
So In April, he reached out again and explained that he did that because he thought I wasn't interested because my answers were short.
He doesn't believe in making the relationship official. For me personally, I want him to ask
"Will you be my girlfriend?", to make it official.
Even if you know you're going to graduate, you get a confirmation, a diploma.
Maybe I'm childish or because I've never had a man. But I need that confirmation.
Our conversations are sexual sometimes. I have really low self esteem and can't seem to shit him down.
He's supportive about other things in my life.
Also he doesn't talk to me unless I reach out. He leaves me on read for hours on end. It makes me look desperate when I respond to his texts right away. I feel like I'm chasing him.
I'm contemplating cutting him off.
I just feel like focusing on my money.
Building myself up and not focus on men right now. Zero distractions. | Crushes |
How can i re start a conversation with a girl? I thought that it was funny to joke about one person but then she made me realize that i was wrong. I was so ashamed that i still haven’t opened her last message. It’s been nearly a week and i miss talking to her. | Crushes |
A couple months ago a new girl moved to our school. She’s sassy, sweet, supportive, and pretty fun to be around. I don’t have anything against her and she seems to be getting along with our friend group pretty well. Then I noticed she started getting pretty close to my crush. She’ll go a lot of playful teasing like stealing his hat, touching him, putting on his hoodie when he isn’t wearing it. They also seem very happy when they’re together. She’s only been here for a couple of months but she seems have made a deeper connection with him than me and it feels like torture. I feel jealous but I honestly don’t hate her or anything. The more I think about it the more I realize that she’s a better match for him than I’ll ever be. But it still hurts and I feel so pissed at myself for not having the balls to put myself out there. If I just didn’t let my social anxiety get in the way and didn’t act like such a dumbass then maybe things wouldn’t have turned out this way. One of the things that hurts the most is that this girl has the same name as me. So if they start dating there’s gonna be so much confusion and stupid moments in the future. I know that the best thing to do now is move on but I just don’t know how. He deserves better than me so maybe it’s best that the two of them get together. I’ll try my best to be happy for them when they inevitably start dating. | Crushes |
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