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I have a crush on this guy, but we don’t study in the same school. Basically, he doesn’t know me at all. I’m thinking of either adding him or following him on IG, which is a private account btw. Which platform should I add him so that it wouldn’t come off as creepy 🥹
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Looking forward to reading your stories 👀
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I feel like telling him would only worsen the situation.
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Okay to start off, I’m trans ftm and queer. I have 4 crushes right now and I’m trying to figure out who to go for. There’s only one I know not to go for which is Z. —Z— (Boy) Pros: -really nice -tall -attractive -funny -nerdy -helped me learn a song on the base guitar -strong (can carry me on his shoulders) -likes physical affection Cons: -basically dating my friend (ouch) -straight (not that being straight is bad just in this situation it is) -ghosted me after my other friend told him that I liked him -avoids me now —J— (girl) Pros: -nice -one of my best friends -likes physical affection -straight (good thing cuz she’s a girl) -calls me attractive -cuddles with me -likes acting and musical theatre -very pretty -funny -tells me everything Cons: -she likes Z (who doesn’t like her back) —M— (boy) Pros: -he’s gay -he likes me -he’s one of my best friends -he’s funny -he’s pretty nice Cons: -he doesn’t like physical affection -whenever I tell him that ‘D’ is being nice to me he tells me that it’s probably fake which is annoying because it makes me feel like he’s expressing how he feels through ‘D’ -I’m not entirely sure if I like him —D— Pros: -good at art -does karate -plays football, basketball, and volleyball -really nice when it’s just him and me -attractive -cute -wants to hangout with me -I’m like 95% sure he likes me back, and I know he used to -he gets me to go places and try new things -he actually has plans for his future -whenever we play a game it somehow involves being physical? (I can give examples) Cons: -makes fun of me at school -immature -gets jealous when I talk to other guys (that includes: joining the conversation whenever I’m talking to another guy, if I ask Z for help he always interrupts and wants to help me instead etc) -mean to everyone -makes up lies about other guys insulting me?? -doesn’t pay attention to me at school Soooo who’s the best option?
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Basically, I have a crush on this boy that I've been friends with for around a year and a couple of months. The catch is...we live in a boarding school with about 200+ other students as well as students who come and leave during the day as well. This means that I see this man every single day of my life, especially since we live in the same building, so it's not a typical friendship -- residential boarding school friendships have a different vibe to them. Anyway, we used to hang out a lot more last year. This year...not so much. Sometimes i feel like he's being really distant. The signals are somewhat mixed -- kind of like a "hot then cold" vibe. I never really understand if he wants me around or not. Maybe it's different communication styles, but i cannot deny that it hurts quite a bit when I feel ignored or set aside or something. Should I maybe initate hanging out with him? He doesn't always reply to my texts, which is ok, of course, but then i don't know if i am annoying or not :'). I am losing my mind. Is this worth pursuing?
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Yet the plant always seems to like when I water it. I know she has a hard time with social interactions, and she’s a shy person, but I was also all of those as well, and still am a bit. I have pushed myself to even send a single message from the beginning. It’s easier to do those things now, and I feel better than ever in those areas than a year prior thanks to her, yet she seems the same sorta. I’m always initiating everything, and I mean everything we’ve done together, and she has always said yes. Not once has she told me, “Not today,” or, “sorry I can’t.” I know she genuinely likes hanging out with me, but I still feel self-conscious about it. Like I just want her to initiate, say no to me a few times, and just communicate back to me the way I have. The plant wants water, but it’s not asking for it and not at all refusing when I do have plans to water it, and I can barely handle that rollercoaster of emotions.
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Hello, I am 17, recently I met a girl that i really like, we went out together one evening and went to her home after the party ( we talked a lot but i didn’t try any move, which is better i think). À week later went out à second time and we briefly kissed and we both told we like eachother)BUT now 3 weeks later nothing happened, we talked briefly ( like 10 seconds ) and it was a bit akward. I know i should probably ask her out but maybe she regrets what happened and I dont want to be intrusive. Any advice ?
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^, I'm scared😬, but anyway I'm doing this to not waist my time thinking about her and stuff, cus what's the point if it isn't mutual. Gonna update today
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I'm not talking to my crush because I want to see if she talks to me without me staring the conversation but I'm worried I'm coming across as rude but I don't really think she cares that much and now I just feel bad about myself
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we’ve been texting for a few days and we both seem to click well, I noticed that he calls me by my name mostly at night when he tells me good night and to sleep well. not too sure what that means? idk if hes into me or just used to calling people by their name like that? and only says it that one time before going to bed. if hes interested I wanna call him by his name as well but It feels like a big step for me. and im not too sure what to do. we are both introverts so I feel like I need to be straightforward but im insanely afraid of being rejected and or having him lose interest in me later on. i have had a terribly long history of people who have gotten bored of me and eventually left me. I dont know what to do. i’ve come to really like him, i’m just so scared i’ll fuck shit up and stay on the friendzone or be rejected by him. AHHH WHY ARE GUYS SO CONFUSING I JUST WANT HIM TO TELL ME HOW HE FEELS!!! I dont want to be caught in a delusion.
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I just don't understand why you would do it. But I currently like this girl, haven't said anything, she has a bf, and I just feel like spending time with her but I can't in a "more than friends" way. I thought just sucking my feelings and keeping them with me would be fine, but lately I'm not so sure. I'm even like "Do I still like her? Is she a good/cool friend of mine?" I'm not even sure how I feel anymore xD. But why would you tell them if they have a bf or gf? Just to get your feelings out? To move on better? I dont get it.
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The most heartfelt feeling in the world is knowing your crush feels the same way about you. I told him willingly and he said the feelings were mutual. And from this day on, we’re boyfriend and girlfriend (long-distance). But I can’t stop grinning like an idiot every time I think about him.
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so i’m 15 and my crush is 14. we both have the same english class, i sit at the same table as him and talk with him sometimes, but sometimes i feel weird that i like him because he’s a year younger than me. i’m still getting to know him and want to be friends with him, but i hope that the 1 yr difference won’t mess with my head. :,)
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How did you get over that nagging in the back of your head about ruining a good relationship that you two might already have? Or did you just have to bite the bullet? I’ve got just about all the courage I need to tell my crush, but that keeps reeling me in.
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So from day 3 I’ve got a crush on Latino guy (don’t say don’t shit where you eat and all it just happened) he happened to be interested in me too.. I am not so confident in my appearance because he is of course hot undoubtedly but looks very soft and down to earth kinda man ! He gives me that stare (daily his behavior changes) but this never ends it’s been 3 months .. I am scared to take any initiative like I said I have complexion inferiority and we have lot of differences like I am an Asian and not why(I)te or Spanish.. but I like him I am just used to him now .. before getting serious and spoil my peace of mind can I just give up🥲just help me get clarity pls
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i, like most 14 year old girls, have a crush.. i came to a new school for the first time in my life this year for highschool (other than when i started going to my previous school) and on the second day of school this guy said hi to me outta nowhere?!? during the week i noticed him more and was determined to figure out his name 😭😭 so keep in mind that this was in september (it's november now) so obviously a lots happened since then. i made a few new friends that had already been going to this school and also reconnected with a friend that went to the same elementary school as i did, but all of them dont have the greatesttt impressions of him.. my friends dont like him (im not exactly sure why but wtvr) and my old friend said he was immature (which i can see but i am VERY immature too) i have DIGGED to try and find his social medias but i CANNOT AT ALL. ive like actually talked to him since then and stuff and i sit with him in one of my classes and i have for a while. ive interacted with him a bunch even before we sat together BUT OKAY my old friend. i asked him if he liked anyone because this girl in one of my classes said people were saying he likes this girl. and then he said he didnt like anyone and asked me if i liked anyone, obviously i said no cuz i was NOT about to tell him, BUT THEN he said i was lying AND THEN he asked me if i liked my crush.... (this was two weeks ago now) AND I REALLY DONT KNOW. he said he was just messing around and made it up... but like.... i do like him... so im not sure if my crush might know or if other people do?!?? im also not sure how my crush feels about me AT ALL. but for now ill just enjoy his company in class, which is good enough ig
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Gush all you'd like!!
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So earlier my Crushes bestie asked me out. I wasn’t exactly sure what to say l, but I let her down as easy as I could. Then my crush asked me who I liked after comforting her bestie. I confessed, afterward I asked who she liked. She replied that she liked me back, and we’re now dating.
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If so how did you get over it pls i need help
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He was so nice he just solidified the crush even more.
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I met this woman first meeting she was all over me touching, standing close. Next meeting she was acting aloof but she was intensely staring at me when I am not looking. We both at the same gym. Like I was doing a plank when I looked up suddenly she was on a squat position staring deeply at me, she did not even look away when I caught her. I acted normal sat down to drink.
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It's been a while, but my ears are open for anyone who needs some help or wants to chat. Just send me a DM. Everything stays completely private.
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i feel like theirs something wrong with me, i feel like i drive everyone who i think likes me. i'm talking to this guy now and i like him, he's really sweet and thoughtful and talented. he's just really cool and it would be nice to get to know him more but i feel like i'm driving him away with my talkative nature and how boring i am. we're texting back and forth and i just feel like i talk to much which causes people to not want to spend the time reading it or answering back. he's said that he likes reading long messages, he compliments me a lot, he takes the time to read my work, and he tends to type back long ones too but i just feel like his messages are getting shorter, and less detailed and he doesn't actually kinda ask about things in my messages. we've been talking for about a month, he lives across the country and i plan to actually just move to the same city for college in about a year. for the boring part, i feel like i am interesting (not to sound conceited) as I do a lot of things, clubs, groups, projects, and activities but i just feel like my personality is boring. i have a hard time making jokes with people i don't know and i talk more when i'm nervous, i just don't think i'm as bold or strongly opinionated compared because of my own problems. so that's why i feel like i'm constantly nice and therefore don't have a rounded personality. this has happened in the past when i was talking to this guy and he flat out said you talk way to much and blocked me. another time i was talking to a guy on the phone for about 2 hours and he seemed interested in the convo at first but later on, he made up an excuse that it was raining and that he wanted to go out to stand in the rain, weird excuse but okay. we never spoke again. the second time i knew it was a weird convo and didn't want to talk to him but i carried our entire conversation, like literally i just asked different questions to try and make conversation he just couldn't i just feel like people never keep trying to talk to me. is there something wrong with me, should i stop talking? i'm probably going to talk to this guy on the phone soon and i just feel like I'll mess it up once again. thanks for reading all of this is you made it to the end.
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I see heaps of posts asking on what to do/signs they like you for introverted guys, but what about extroverts? 😭
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I arrange a lot of music, mostly for the organ, occasionally for other instruments or voices to play/sing along with the organ. My crush asked me for help writing a hymn introduction for piano. I was the first person she asked, even taking prevalence over her piano teacher. I found out a couple of days ago that by combining some of the ideas I gave her with some ideas of her own, she wrote an introduction. Any idea if that means anything?
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I am going to send my crush an email every hour of the night because I am bored and I think it's hilarious
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do any girls feel like more sentimental/sad about their crush during their period? i get so lonely and sad and miss them, and wish things were different around that time. it’s not usually that bad. i know it’s hormones, but just want to feel not alone!
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I've had a crush on the same person for four years. I know that I'll never even be in a meer friendly relationship with her, because I have social anxiety and won't walk up and talk to her or anything. So over the past year I've tried everything I could to stop having feelings for her, but with no good results on that. In a few months, I'm moving to another state, and I can't make out if I'm happy or sad about it. I'd think that I would be happy that I wouldn't see her anymore, meaning that I would probably stop having feelings for her. But the thought of never seeing her again for the rest of my life makes my heart drop for the rest of the day. My mind just goes back to her during everything I do in life, and I hate it. But whenever she acknowledges my existence my day gets infinite times better. What do you guys think I should do about this- should I just wait it out and see what happens or... I don't know. What should I do
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If you've seen my other posts you'll know how my crush hannah had a boyfriend for some time and I was pretty beaten up about it. I didn't wanna be "the boy bestfriend" here so I even gave them space and I played nice when I saw him in a call once to play a game. Yet apperently he hated my guts because he saw me as competition. I didn't talk to my best friend for months cause of your sorry ass and this is the thanks I get. I'm glad she left him not only because I was jealous but he was a straight up a hole the whole time anyways. Telling hannah he didn't like her natural curly hair and she should straighten it more often. Asking her why she can't be more like the other couples when they were being all touchy. I know hannah isn't a very touchy person unless it's with someone she trusts and cares a lot about. Even then she still rarely likes to hug a lot. Maybe he isn't the worst person in the world for this stuff but I already couldn't stand him anyways so this makes me hate him even more. Glad he's out of her life now. Hope it stays that way
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She asked if I was ok with hugs. Of course I said yes. And today we hugged.
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I'm a quieter person and today at our meet I sat nearby my crush. For reference we have had good conversations before, and she normally talks to me a little bit. Today, she acted like I don't even exist, and maybe I wasn't really trying to instigate anything, between us but I don't know it just makes me feel so empty like what am I even doing. I wish I could have just talked to her but it almost seemed like she didn't even want to talk to me so there wasn't really an opportunity for me to start a conversation. I feel broken, stunned and empty.
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my crush doesn't like me back. she likes another guy now, and he is just friends with her. (that guy is my friend :/ She used to like me but not anymore. everyone in my classes with her knows i like her too, including him. i just don't know what to do cuz like i can't take my eyes off of her and stuff
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Exams ended today and we prob aren't gonna see each other again after results day as we'll prob be going to different JCs/schools. Knowing that, idk how to confess to her. I want to begin by asking if she likes anyone but idk how to start - help?
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Going on a date with my best friend Charlie (f19) we've already discussed everything and made it clear that it's not anything serious. I'm still in love with my best friend Hannah and she knows that but she still just wants a chance with me anyways. I agreed to go out with her then. Hannah supported it and wants me to give her a chance as well. I do have some type of feelings for Charlie but it's all overshadowed by my love for hannah so is going out with her really the right thing to do here? Even if it's not for anything serious? [View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/yrztzq)
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We haven't talked for a while about a week and the only connection I've had with her is her asking if I was in school today which I wasn't because I'm sick and after that she just ignored my messages and left me on delivered it's been six hours and I feel like I'm overthinking a lot.
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ama :)
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Is it creepy to text her and tell her she looks pretty after she just left on her way to a concert?
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I’m pretty sure I’m not IN love, but I am sure that I love her. I know there’s a difference. The yearning.. man. I’m so whipped for her. I can’t confess yet though. I have a vague idea of a plan. Her birthday is in May I think, so next year I’m gonna ask one of my friends who’s friends with her when her birthday is and maybe for her postcode. I’ll also ask the friend if there’s anything she’s been really wanting or anything like that. Probably a dumb idea, but I’m gonna send the gift with a birthday card and a poem that’ll both be semi-anonymous - I’ll say I’ve liked her for a full year (cuz funnily enough I started crushing on her this past May 2022) and that I’m sorry if I’ve ever acted weird around her. I can’t wait but it’s so far away. Ughhh I’m so excited! I’m probably 99% kidding myself but oh well.
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Okay so right we were at play rehearsal and for one scene in the play we have to do a conga line or whatever!! So I go right behind one of my friends and I put my hands on their shoulders and we conga line or whatever. So I feel these hands on my shoulders and I'm like hmmm.. okay cool. Someone is behind me. But then when the scene ends I turn around and LO AND BEHOLD it's THEM in all their glory. I felt my face heat up so much, I swear to god I am worried I turned into a tomato. I know it was literally just a scene for the play, but my horrible inferiority complex is such that I didn't even expect them to want to touch me for any reason in any way so I felt unnaturally validated. God I need to get myself checked out lmao
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I said I wasn’t sure, but maybe the mystery flavor. Then she said she’d be strawberry and I’d be Coca Cola flavored because, “Sweet, but it's hard to really work out the sweet initially until you get past the initial fuzz. Popular. Mysterious.” Well, I don’t know how to respond but I think this was sort of kind? I’m not popular though lol.
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I have a huge crush on this guy, we were friends last school, he gave me his number and i lost it :/ but idk how to talk to him or regain a good friendship. We have 2 classes together in the morning but sit no where near each other, do i just like go up to him and say hi? Im also really socially awkward and i couldn't imagine myself doing that...
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for the past week ive been talk to this guy and he was very kinda and loving to me. we would hangout and flirt a lot. we both have told each that we like eachother, but i’m starting to think he doesn’t like me anymore. maybe he’s sick of me ? he just barely texts me anymore. he used to text me a pretty good amount, but now he takes awhile to answer and he’s short. what do i do ?
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Ok so let’s say, you and someone are dating and haven’t kissed yet. You finally build up the courage to randomly kiss em…idk like when your leaving them or sum. Like a peek on the lips. Is that considered SA?
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Ok I know this is in no way related to this community but this is funny my friend handed me a google play gift card ant thought he usedit because it was scratched so I typed in the code into my account and now i have 20 dollars on google
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I really am not sure if he likes me or not. Its kind of hard to get a good read on him since hes just genuinely charismatic and nice. He does a lot of cute things with me, like whenever I see him for the first time in a day he will go "HI [My name]!!!!! :D" and more recently I was feeling silly so I just saw a large hill and rolled down it. He happened to be at the bottom of it so he caught me and we kind of stayed there for a minute. However, I know he doesn't talk to me as much as he talks to other people and I dont know if these things were done as friendly gestures or romantic ones. Pls help, hes a sweetheart
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hello :( i developed a sexual relationship with my boss and it recently ended because he said he needs to keep things professional and he thought he was “hurting me”. but he wasn’t i just loved being with him. unfortunately he has a girlfriend. but i still like him. a lot. he said he liked me as a friend but i just can’t believe that. he would tell me he loves me and tell me how pretty i am and we would laugh and have so much fun. Now all he does is stare at me. when i talk to him he smiles which i love. but every time i walk by or look up he’s looking at me..? but doesn’t talk to me anymore. what is his problem? does he still like me? or did he ever like me? we use to be so close and i miss being his friend. how do i get a read on his feelings 😭
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So I m(20) have 2 girls in my life that are my best friends. Hannah (f20) and Charlie (f19). Charlie has a really big crush on me, and I have a really big crush on Hannah. If anyone's seen my previous posts, you'd know how I feel about her. Hannah has told me how she felt about me and how she wanted to give me a chance to date. Knowing Charlies feelings now though I'm not sure I can I ever be with her. I agreed to go on a date with Charlie to give her a chance because I know how much I wanted a chance with hannah even if we didn't end up together for life. I personally don't think I'm doing the right thing here but I care a lot about her and it's not like "Oh my God I don't like Charlie at all" It's more that my love for Hannah Overshadows a bunch of people, cause I'd be stoked to be dating Charlie had I not had my crush on Hannah. Idk I'm confused and would like advice even if you're just calling me an idiot for this.
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So there is a girl at my school that I'm not in any classes with because I'm younger than her. She is in 10th grade and I am in 8th grade. (Same school) It sounds stupid but I really am just more mature than the other 8th graders and most of my friends are high schoolers 9-10th. I don't really know anything about her other than her name, but **GOSH DANG IT**, she is the cutest girl I've ever seen. I would not really say I have a crush on her, because I don't know her, but I would most definitely love to GET to know her. Because of the age gap, and the fact I am not in any classes with her, I can't find any way to go up to her without seeming like a creep. I feel as if I'm a little boy trying to get with an adult, even though a 2 year age difference isn't that big. What really bugs me is that a year ago I asked for her **COUSIN'S NUMBER**. She didn't give it to me. (I've hit puberty since this time, so I'm a completely different person) It really feels like all the odds are against me, so I ask, How do I speak to her? I can't simply walk up to her and ask for her number, not after last time. I also don't want to move that fast. I want to have friendly intentions. I've thought about maybe just saying hi when I see her, but it just doesn't feel natural. I need some sort of conversation starter that seems like I'm just being nice, not like I have romantic intentions. I can also maybe say one little thing to her everyday until she is comfortable with full conversations. Please help :( tl;dr: I have a "crush" on an older girl, but I don't know her, and I'm not in any classes with her. How do I start talking to her?
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How do I date a person who has a twin they are always with????
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I don’t know where else to post this. My heart has been half stuck in the past for the last year. I have/had? a crush who, personality wise, is similar to me. She is a lovely, smart, studious person. But we both aren’t the type to start conversations. To make a long story shorter, there was definitely a time where they used to like me and I liked them. But they never talked to me and after a while those signs faded away, I thought they probably don’t care anymore. This very eccentric person enters my life. I like them a lot, but I don’t understand her. She’s very confusing but I’ve never had this type of energy with another person. We just match each other very well, but are opposite in some aspects, if that makes sense. Me and the second girl are walking together in this small alley. my first crush passes us, heading the opposite way. It was such an odd feeling, the two people who I have spent so much time thinking of, right there. She was wearing sunglasses and I cannot describe the look on her face. But I felt bad for some reason. Me and the second girl aren’t in a relationship, but it probably looks that way to her. I don’t know, maybe it’s because I still hope she likes me, that it saddened me to make that impression. I’m so conflicted right now
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I don't know what is going on right now, but I have a crush on a guy, and it feels so nice. I do not expect us to get married or even get together, I just like the feeling of liking him. The adrenaline when you see them, or even the warm feeling when you both talk together. It is just so beautiful. He is such a gentleman! Every day he shows me an act of kindness, for example: holding the door for me, complimenting my outfit, or even making sure that I came home safe. We are not a couple, I do not even plan on this, since the hookup culture is really popular right now. The guys he hangs around with, are just about hooking up with one person, then after the hookup, they tend to search for another one, and the loop just repeats. I like him so much, I always tend to admire him, every time I get a chance! Btw, you are the only one that will only get to know that! I am glad that Reddit has a safe place for topics like this! Thank you:)
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They say if they treat everyone the same as you then it’s a sign that they don’t like you: but I notice I don’t really treat my crush differently because I don’t want him to know that I like him. So it would appear that I treat everyone the same including him. So is this really a way to know if you have a chance or not?
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…at what i had said earlier, when my point had been proven, you looked so perfect. smiling at me. i’d do anything for you to smile at me like that again. why can’t we just.. talk to each other? start a conversation? i was alone for the first time at lunch, it would’ve been perfect for both of us. but yk, fate, stars aligning, shit like that. guess it just wasn’t meant to be today, maybe, hopefully, we’ll cross paths another time. and maybe.. mi amerai anche tu.
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Really
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Not much to say other than it hurts so bad. Lying to yourself, and to them, by pretending you’re ok with not being what you truly want be with them isn’t loving or caring or the right/good thing to do.
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crying
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like idk bc i know that i like her but i’m scared it’ll be weird. there’s an event that my town has for the beginning of winter and i just wanna ask her to hang out as friends bc she is one of my friends but i have a crush on her so like? idk if that makes sense. i wanna hang out as friends but we just met a few months ago so i’m scared it’ll be awkward and she’ll say no or something
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And just for a second, when you looked back at me in the parking lot, I thought to myself “Maybe he wouldn’t do the things he does for me just for anybody in the office.” Thank you for coming back ❤️
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I(M19) had an architecture class and my crush sent next to me, I accidentally opened Duolingo on my phone and she was visibly surprised, like,, you have it too?" ,then I find out that we both practice Spanish. We had a great time studying Spanish together. I sometimes intentionally made mistakes to make her laugh and I would read the sentences with a funny voice, she laughed so much she touched me a few times. Not a bad day
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So me and my crush are really close but she has not added me on any social media or really never talks to me outside of class is that some anomaly because from what i seen I'm up there in her closet freinds with how comfortable she is around me I don't talk about it but I'm the only one to have seen her full face she wears a mask 247 I'm not the only one the program she's in I believe force's her to not where a mask for certain things but I'm not in that now I did see her face bye complete accident but she's comfortable enough to pull her mask completely up and eat around me
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So a couple of weeks ago me and a group of people went to London for the day. My crush was initially going to come but had to cancel, so I thought I'd get her a gift and coincidentally we ended up in the gift shop of the natural history museum, and I got this really cute panda plushie and all the people there basically encouraged me and have been encouraging me to give it to her. I finally managed to do it today! I had some stuff to say sort of vaguely planned out in my head but I thought 'screw it, I've waited too long to overcomplicate this' and basically just gave it to her and honestly her reaction was one of the cutest things I've ever seen, she was so happy and I'm pretty sure she said it was one of the nicest things anyone has done for her (idk my memory is terrible regarding what people say but I remember her expression and my feelings) And of course my brain immediately thought 'Huh, I guess she definitely will like me back now' Which I know is unrealistic but it has probably at least increased my chance with her. Anyway at this point im just rambling, but I'm really happy, since I've tried and failed to give her a gift twice before... So in conclusion, I'm feeling great!
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This is not related to my other posts on this sub. So, I've been crushing on my best friend for a year now. In fact that's how our friendship begun. He was new in my class and I liked him quite a bit, so we sorta started talking, then hanging out on discord and going out for a coffee time to time. (I don't usually drink coffee. Now It's a thing I associate with him). He liked a few girls in my class one by one. Always asked me for a advice, we were good friends by then. I gave him advice, talked him through a heartbreak even. He switched schools because he was a bit of an outcast and people made fun of him a lot for it. I don't know what it was, but when I first heard that story, I felt that he was a kindred spirit. I knew just what he needed and I tried my best to provide it. Respect, faithfulness, reassurance... I always felt weird knowing he likes someone else. I just felt worthless. Fast-forward 3 month The war in Ukraine broke out and separated us. He is now 1600km away. I haven't seen him in over 7 months. My heart is aching and I feel empty. He's a completely different person now. Even his voice is different. It hurts when I realise how close we were back then and how far away we are now. I can't even give him advice. Something he refuses to talk about and that's fine, he still has his boundaries and I won't violate them. Sometimes I just wish I could hug him and tell him it's all going to be okay... I did confess at some point with text message. He didn't really deny it. He said we're still young (he was 14 at the time, I was 13 and a half). Now that I think about it, I agree. It still hurt but we remained friends. Recently we had a talk about our lives and our friendship and I brought up my feelings for him again, by complete accident. I also brought up that he seems distant and it feels like he doesn't care anymore. He then replied that it's okay and he still cares about our friendship, but he ignores my sympathy for a different reason. His doesn't want a girlfriend. He decided it'll be best for him that way. Now that I think about it, I understand him. I am still unaware of his past. He might have had a traumatic experience or a bad relationship earlier. And that's fine. I am not even mad. Just a tiny bit heartbroken
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I only have one class with my crush and we don't have much time to talk in that class. Our teacher usually ends class a little early so we do have a couple minutes to socialize. I've thought about talking to my crush during this time but they're always with their one of their friends. Another thing i should mention is that I have had a couple conversations with my crush before so we're not complete strangers. Is there a way I could go up and talk to them without it being weird or akward? Also, what is a possible topic for me to talk to them about? I'm terrible at starting conversations.
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So in my dream, I mustered up the courage to ask her out and she said yes. Then, we chilled near the park and that part…. Just felt so real. So vivid. Almost like real life. Then, the alarm on phone went off fml.
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Hello everyone, i hope i've come to the right place. I'll try to keep this short. I moved here during summer and had to switch schools(i'm in 8th grade) and ever since i joined, i see this one girl's little cute glare in my direction, and her eyes kind of got me. I don't know how to approach her and i am pretty unexperienced when it comes to talking with girls. Can anyone help me out?
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i smile too big around himmm because he is funy but i smile lkike on instinct when i see him and its weird and he and i and i want to look cooooooooooool but i dont i just look gooofyyyyyyyy and sometimes i try not to smile and then i just make like a weird face at him :,( :( :,,,(
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Ok so I’m unfortunately a chronic over-thinker and horrible at reading signs like this so I’m gonna share my perspectives and I’d appreciate y’all’s honest opinions. I’m gonna name instances and possible takes supporting each side and I’d like to know what y’all think is the most probable one: I had to basically describe who I am for this one team building exercise at my university club and post it online and she told a friend of mine in private that the way I described myself was practically her perfect guy (he told me anyway): Romantic: I could see this as romantic interest cause I now know I’m her type Friendship: we have similar interest but it doesn’t mean she finds me in particular attractive Being nice: it’s not like she knew I’d be told so whatever She drunk called me through a mutual friend and talked about wanting to hang out me alone and that she thinks I’m cool: Romantic: I could see this as her practically asking me out and me being in her mind enough to call me Friendship: it could just be her thinking we’d make great friends and just really wants to hang out Being nice: she doesn’t like people being excluded and may have noticed me being excluded on a few of the club hang outs and felt a bit guilty and wanted to reach out Sometimes she goes out of her way to approach/talk to me but sometimes treats me like I’m not even there and doesn’t acknowledge me at all. Romantic: maybe she wants to get to know me but gets nervous sometimes and or is waiting for me to go to her first Friendship: she’s just lowkey about it, if she feels like it she will Being nice: maybe she only approaches me when she thinks I’m being left out idk She wanted to make a music playlist together. She was curious when talking to our mutual friend about how our music taste would align and my friend gave her my number to send a link to make a playlist together Romantic: she wanted my number and was thinking about me and wanted to know my taste Friend: maybe it just came up, and it’s not like she’s tried texting me much or anything Being nice: ok yea don’t got much maybe my friend just told her to idk Ok so that’s the gist. Theres a lot of dead air in between where she looks like she couldnt care less. And there are smaller signs like body language, eye contact, and teasing that make me think otherwise. Sorry this was long but it’s been driving me nuts. Some friends think she does. I can’t ask the mutual cause it’s complicated. Anyway yea please weigh in.
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We went on a school trip to see a movie today and, to my surprise, she asked if she could sit with me on the way back (and I obviously agreed). We chatted about the movie but I was pretty nervous. I have been thinking about this all day, I've been losing feelings for her as of late but this has broughg them all back. This was a great experience
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So sometimes she will text back almost instantly but other times she texts back after hours or even the next day. I know she might be doing something but does this mean anything?
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You're the one I will always love You're the one I will always care for You're the reason I wake up with a smile And you're the reason my dreams are good Even if the world is ugly You've always been beautiful to me I hope you feel the way I do I hope you love me too You probably don't But if you care enough To give me a chance I would be the happiest person on earth For if it wasn't for you When I sleep at night I wouldn't ever want to wake up
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i dont know what’s up with her, we used to talk almost every day. she agreed we should call more, encouraged me to go to a game that she was at (offered that i can tag along with her friends) and then recently she’s been getting avoidant. she has started not replying to me as much, and whenever we have a conversation now she’s starting to not even respond through a few back and forths. i dont know what’s wrong but something feels incredibly off. she has left me on delivered for over a day and told me that if i ever needed to talk to her, to text her on imsg. so i do, and now she doesnt even respond on that either. this is messing with me so much because it’s sending me mixed signals on where i stand with her.
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Okay, so I’m in the 8th grade, and there’s this girl I’ve had a crush on all year, I sit with her at lunch, in science, and she calls me things like “honey” and I’m just starstruck. Do I make a move, do I wait longer? I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I’ve been trying to give her stupid gifts like water, or gum, but I don’t think I’m making much progress, and I’m just so confused on what to do.
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He was asking around for a pencil, first asking one of my (girl) ex-friends and then she said she had none. After a while of him going around asking I said, “I have a pencil you can borrow” and he said that he was “asking the boys first” ouch. I said “oh, so you don’t want it because it might have ‘my germs’ on it? Thanks” I don’t know why he acts like this it’s driving me insane, sometimes he acts like he likes me but then other times he acts like he can’t stand me.
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I share an apartment with 2 girls (F30 and F25). F30 has a BF and is not my type anyways so I’ll focus on F25 which is my crush and the most attractive of both and doesn’t have a BF. When I moved in, I was not expecting to become naturally attracted to neither of them but as we live in close proximity and see each other almost on a daily basis for 6 months now, I started to become naturally attracted to F25 and I feel some sexual tension between us. Although we are not really good friends, just normal friends and housemates. Please note that we don’t have a living room, we just share the kitchen and bathroom. Initially she has flirted a bit and eventually I asked her out for a coffee and she replied “we can have a coffee at home” and I said “ok, no problem”. Then she started avoiding looking at me directly and then started to avoid interactions and we ended up not having coffee at home. However, she has always remained friendly. The problem is that I’ve reached a point where I couldn’t hold anymore and told her that I feel slightly attracted to her but that’s it, this is something I cannot control. I also told her I would prefer just to remain cordial for the moment and I do not expect any reciprocation from her, but I had to spit it out. I’m not in love or anything like that, I’m just attracted but If I kept talking to her like a normal friend I know I would become stuck anyway. But I admit here to redditers that further interactions and possible dates could lead me to fall in love (I didn't tell her this of course). Well, she went ballistic on me, she got upset, and actually she almost yelled at me. She said she appreciates the fact that I’ve decided to distance myself and that she would prefer to not be aware of my attraction. Then the conversation ended there because she had to leave for a diner out with co-workers. Then things became awkward and we didn't speak again regarding this matter. I felt better after the conversation and I stopped talking to her like I used to, we are just cordial with each other, just say hi, good morning etc. and talk about important stuff regarding the apartment, that’s it. The problem is that she seems upset and depressed every time she comes home, now she doesn’t even say “hi” or "good morning" to me anymore unless I say it first! I’ve been focusing on my life and minding my business since the episode. I avoid crossing paths with her as much as possible to give her space but it seems she’s not getting any better. It’s been like this for 2 weeks now, in the meantime I started focusing on other girls. I don’t know what else to do here, I would like to know from a girl’s perspective what she feels. Should I speak to her or should I just keep cordial and avoid interactions? I’m afraid that she moves out because I really like her as housemate, the 3 of us get along really well.
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I have a crush. and like idk if he likes me back. He has a flirty personality but he can be genuine at times too. we don't text much, but we talk a lot in class and he's super fun to be around. we've been friends for a while but sometimes it doesn't feel that way. Both of us are 17 and in the same grade, and we are in our senior year. I've never dated so idk ho this goes. We give each other "unwanted" eye contact. like I remember I looked up once I the hallways and he was looking at me, and then we both look away like nothing happened. He was the first person to say happy birthday to me at school, and when I was crying in class, I was looking away trying to stop crying so he wouldn't see me cry. And when I looked back, he was holding out his fist waiting for a fist bump. LIKE BRUH. 😭 maybe that's him being friendly. And one time, I sat with him on the bus, pretty chill. we talked, and nothing bad came out of it. It was rlly nice. And then on the way back, I sat with my other friend and he said "aww you don't wanna sit with me anymore?" and then he sat in the seat in front of me. hah- However, the only thing that is discouraging is that ik he has closer friends who talk to him more than me. They are so much prettier than me and they've hung out w him a lot. that kinda makes me doubt if he likes me or not. So yea, does he like me? thanks for listening, advice helps :)
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I really like a guy and I'm not sure if he likes me too. I need advice.
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i journal everyday so honestly this is helpful for me and i love talking about him in a place where everyone is talking about their crushes so ion bother my friends lmao he came in, got on the two desks in front of me, laid on his side, and did those like finger gun things at me- it was obvious he was tryna look cool or slick but honestly he just looked cute in a dumb way 😭 but it was kinda adorable lmao then he stole my doritos but it’s ok i forgive him 🫶🏼 ik we won’t end up together, and that’s ok, i’m gonna enjoy these little moments he’s really changed my life, he made me a lot happier and made me more self-confident then i thought i could ever be, so, even though it hurts a bit, i’m happy :) i’m glad we have all these little moments together- random and awkward as they may be- i wouldn’t want this with anyone else i want him to be the happiest with whoever is lucky enough to make him happy every day of his life
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Kinda sad, but she was never nice to me anyways, and I think I like someone else now.
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My crush randomly added me on bereal a couple days ago which I wasn't expecting as we've only spoken in person once and whenever I make eye contact with him in college he quickly looks away and looks around the room as if he didn't notice me - we both have mutual friends as well and I see him loads and he sees me but just wondering if there is a chance that he likes me but is too shy to do anything? i've been crushing on him since March Imao
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What do I do now? I am what you can call very socially awkward or shy or introvert. In our school our school van does to two trips so I and other students of our van and one another van have to stay at school for some time before the van comes back. This has been happening for like 4–5 months.I am always sitting alone. At first I saw a girl she was cute but she was always with her friends so I never really thought about her but for like 4 months i have noticed her and her friends staring at me or following me or when i come to school also they are always there starting at me sometimes. She seems to be very shy around me when she is not with her friends. Many time we made eye contact but i always miss every opportunity and ignore them. She talked to me once when i was sitting reading a book alone and my van came but i just packed bag and ran to can and never replied to her. She always come with her friends to sit nearly close. Even I have seen her many times in school and staring or seeing me maybe my misunderstanding.I have made this cold, shy , introverted , emotionless poker face, book worm, having big goals like personality in front of everyone so I don't have much friend. I kind of like her but i don't know what to do whenever I go to school and step out of van i always notice her looking. Also having things like these make me more uncomfortable and even more shy and insecure but i do want to talk to her. Also she is ignoring me for few days probably because of my attitude.
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So last year a guy transferred into our class and i've liked him ever since.In time he became the classclown and everytime he laughs or talks i just get butterflies.You see,i have been a hopeless romantic ever since i was born so when i met him my whole world changed and i cant even recall my life before meeting him.I have been so desperate for him to talk to me,i mean we used to talk on text for some months and it felt like so great,he even stood up to some other classmates when they called me names(i don't really have a great reputation in class and don't get along with most of them)and now when i looked back at it he might've also had a thing for me cause every opportunity he had to talk to me he would take it.I mean to be honest we didn't really have things in common but i still felt things for him.We used to get in arguments for some things that were mostly my fault and i think he changed his opinion about me because of them but we would try to work it out after and he would try to put effort to talk to me.In one of those arguments i indirectly said i liked him(which i still don't get why i did that i'm fr so dumb) and i didn't go to school two weeks cause of it,we made up after that but we didn't talk about me liking him part.Months after that he asked our common friend at that time if i still liked him and when he found out i still did he was i guess shocked but didn't really care cause he got back with his ex(they were off and on).And that kinda happened for months and then broke up found another girlfriend and i am still not over him.I mean he said that he wants to hangs out with me next summer and all that but i'm sure its not gonna happen(also because of the fact that we don't have any common friends anymore cause of a dumb argument).All my friends say i should just move on and find someone better but i just can't,there isn't anybody that made me feel the way he did.Everyday i just start thinking about him and the way it all happened so fast.I try to tell myself i hate him but i don't,i love the way he tells the dumbest and i still laugh at them,the way he's so passionate about math,just basically everything about him.i tried texting him recently but he just is dry now,talking to him isn't an option cause my classmates would find it weird so what should i do?
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I met this girl last year who is like 5 years older than me I'm 25 now. And we started talking like we're friends almost everyday there isn't a single day where we haven't talked like literally even just for 2 texts we talked everyday. I don't how and when I started to have feelings for her she used to tease me about being single, send romantic songs, etc. I don't want to feels this way I genuinely started to like her and now I can't even ignore. I just wait for her text everyday. We talk in al different social media platforms. I try to let her so I don't get hurt and at point we started talking less and I thought that's it. But again she started the way we talked to. She tells me Evey details of her day ask me.... What should I do If I tell her that I like I'll loose a good friend. How do I Just get over it 🥺
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Just yesterday I texted my crush after a while, complimenting on his haircut and the conversation goes on from there. it's not a long convo but he's a pretty late texter so it lasted a whole day. So every time he texted something it would include a lot of haha's and LOLs, it's just baffling. actually the most recent text from him is literally blah blah LOL. after that I just didn't reply cuz idek what to say What the hell does this mean?
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Yeah, I mean both they're looks and personality Mine is really small, cute, with light brown hairs and eyes, always sunny, with pale skin and really pinchable cheeks. She is kinda an extrovert, while I am kinda shy, and she always laughs. She likes volleyball and anime, and she's a very kind person. We both go in 8th grade, in the same class, and we live in Italy.
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TL;DR AT BOTTOM!!! [LINK TO MY LAST POST](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/ym2ptn/am_i_overthinking_this/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) After school we had a thing for our club that were in together, as well as something for a competition that I convinced my crush to join a few week ago. Anyway it was me, a mutual friend between my crush and I, my ex (?) Crush’s friend, and my senior Friend. The mutual friend ended up leaving at like 3 PM because he wasn’t actually on the competition team with us. Anyway we were outside just walking and talking at the school and at one point my friend said something about my ex Crush’s friend never having a girlfriend and then he turned to my crush and was like “You’ve never had a girlfriend either because youre gay!” or something along the lines of that. What struck me as odd was that he DIDNT deny it. Then a little while later he was like poking my friend (who’s trans and gay) with a stick and I was like “That’s homophobia and transphobia!” as a joke and he was like “Yeah, it is” with his stupid little cute ass sly smirk. And then… me, being me, to see if he’s ACTUALLY straight or not I was like “That’s illegal coming from a straight person” and he like hesitated for a moment so I don’t know if he was going to come out or if he’s even straight or not because right after my friend called to me and we both got distracted, so I just left it. I genuinely don’t know if he’s LGBT or not. One one hand, our mutual is saying he doesn’t know if he’s gay or not and says he calls himself gay. On the other hand, the same mutual then says he’s straight. On ANOTHER hand, our mutual friend calls him gay and he doesn’t deny it. ON THE OTHER OTHER HAND, I refer to him as straight and he hesitates before he gets the chance to respond. ON THE LAST HAND, everyone is telling me to go for it but I don’t know if they’re just being encouraging or genuinely think he may like me. I have a small gut feeling this one is different and he really COULD like me, but at the same time, there’s some things he doesn’t do where I’m like, “If he wanted to, he could,” some examples being not waiting and walking with me after school, never texting me, and really that’s it. Obviously he’s not obligated to text me, but I have the mindset of “if he could, he would” Whats funnier is that on Monday after school my Dad picked me up at the gate of our school where my crush usually waits for his ride (My friend’s Mom usually picks me up so I wait in front of the school, not by the gate), and I decided that I wanted to wait by the front and see if he would talk to me at all. At one point for a good 2-3 minutes, he was right behind me (I saw him out of the corner of my eye) and he just… didn’t say anything to me? Albeit I didn’t say anything to him, but it made me feel like he didn’t care for me at that point? After a while my dad picked me up and I made eye contact with my Crush while I was leaving, so I genuinely don’t know. Any advice? TL;DR I don’t know if my crush is gay or not because my friend says he’s gay but also says he’s not gay but my Crush also doesn’t deny it when he’s called gay and hesitates when I call him straight? (Pls read the whole thing to, it provides better context)
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I have been experiencing limerence with her. Almost all the time I have spent with her was one on one conversation with her. And the more I came to know about her, I realised she got all the qualities I'd love in my partner. This made me a lot more attached with her. And just recently I learned from her that she has a bf. I'm shattered, but I respect her and want to move on. I still want to be her friend as I don't want to lose someone so ideal as per my standards. How do I move on while being her friend?
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im bad at chatting.. (btw chatting on ig) we're having this conversation where he mentioned that he's currently studying chemical engineering, and i said me - " thats cool " , " why did u choose that? seriously curious! 👀" and he replied him - " because it's something people don't really care about , not everyone likes chemical, they tend to choose civil and mechanical engineering more , then how about chemical engineering?, without chemical all that doesn't run, and its more interesting for me " and to that i replied me - " true and oh cool! , more things to learn huh " he replied him - " yesss , more cool stuffs to learn " and to that i only reacted with a "✨" what should i do? what do i reply to that? 😭 or should i start another topic? if so help me too 😭 help a lost sister 😭 i dont want this conversation to die or him not gonna chat with me anymoreee 😭 p/s : sorry for the long story, but thought the backstory might help understanding how bad i am at chatting..
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So I'm in 10th grade she's too in the same class as me,we don't talk a lot in class but we do talk online a lot,and by a lot I mean A LOT.So this is our final year and i decided to hit my chance and try my luck someday.I really really need some advice. Please help me :)
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We were texting last night. It was a good conversation and our first over text, just about artists and projects we're working on. At one point she messaged, "hey, I hope you get enough sleep tonight buddy, haha." She's never called me that before and it threw me off but I obviously didn't bring it up. What do you guys think? Part of me tells me mega-friendzone, and another part tells me I'm just overthinking it. At least I know she likes me as a person
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I met this girl last year who is like 5 years older than me I'm 25 now. And we started talking like we're friends almost everyday there isn't a single day where we haven't talked like literally even just for 2 texts we talked everyday. I don't how and when I started to have feelings for her she used to tease me about being single, send romantic songs, etc. I don't want to feels this way I genuinely started to like her and now I can't even ignore. I just wait for her text everyday. We talk in al different social media platforms. I try to let her so I don't get hurt and at point we started talking less and I thought that's it. But again she started the way we talked to. She tells me Evey details of her day ask me.... What should I do If I tell her that I like I'll loose a good friend. How do I Just get over it
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Because why not ?
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i still miss you.
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I waited for him to text me for 2 weeks, but he hasn't even though we're really close and stuff. So I've had enough and I decided I would text him tomorrow. If it doesn't take your up pls comment what's a nice conversation starter. Thank you for your time!!
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I believe this will sound so stupid but I've never done relationships and stuff of that matter much because of my struggles with my profound hearing loss and am just starting to trying to get out of my shell at 23(M) and there's this woman I went to school with almost my whole life at work and we never ever talked once prior to this and I thought she was more cuter than I ever saw her in school since it had been like 5 years since but I didn't know if I had been right in spotting red flags like the one time she kinda seemed to be testy about what I needed to do when I first started the job but we got along after that and talked about a lot of music and we had similar interests in music but she seems to leave work randomly and shit which I think is prior approved and she says she's looking for a second job which I think is stupid and the last interaction we had was last week where I needed her help and she had her earbuds in but always heard me every other time and never once turned to look at me and started smiling about it and she hasn't even bought anything up about it and doesn't even seem to care. Am I right to have been moving on from her in the past week? I'm just so bad at what's definite red flags. Sorry for a real longass post. Any advice on this or did I actually make the right sort of observations? TL;DR I really fell for this one girl I went to school with and I started having trouble deciding if her weird/standoffish/rude actions are actual red flags since she'd be totally normal and nice many other times since I've never been experienced in any of this
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work on same floor with this chick which is a bit older than myself. we spoke once, we kicked it off well and she was very responsive and convo went smooth with smiles nd all now she constantly gives the cold shoulder and makes this disgusted grimace whenever I look at her, and doesn't even respond to greetings what's going on ....
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I would put it on his desk as I will be the first one to enter the classroom. Our class always starts at 10:00am. But then there are students before us in that classroom, so I hope I can still give it alone. Some of you may ask, "But why don't you just give it directly to him?" "Well, I can't because I don't want him to know and our school year ends in June. That's a lot of months from February and it would be awkward." Or I could say that it's from the other section... But then I have to come up with a lie. I don't trust anyone else in our classroom either to give it to him. I don't think I'm giving any signs that anyone would suspect that I have a crush on him.
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To begin, i'll simplify my relation with my crush! We've been friends since 5th grade, started crushing on her in 6th, currently in 9th grade. We've always been close, being in the same german class for several years. During the summer we became really close, like REALLY close, taking weekly walks that lasted forwards up to 5 hours. We sort of 'joke' about eachother about how one is short, how one said something stupid etc. Our core memories are those interactions, a memory that expands into a 10 minute conversation per say. (Some notes: We're best friends on snapchat, we're eachothers Best girl/boy friends. We do alot of activities like Choir, of course, walks, festivals etc.) Anywho, last year she left her class (we are not in the same class) to join another one, this class has a guy who is really attractive to girls, and is friends with practically every girl in their class and a bit more in other classes. Now, i'm not afraid that he has a crush on her, but i'm afraid she has one on him. He is probably her best friend in that class, but it feel's like she is following him everywhere, every lesson, like she is glued to him. Except when i show up, sometimes, she is with me instead. She laughs, gigles forwards him. Today, on a exhibition he called her, and called her 'toothfairy'? She couldn't stop saying 'It's super annoying he's calling me toothfairy' in a sort of joking manner? My other friends say she probably likes me. But i'm afraid, of.. well the truth i guess. Tommorow both of them and two other friends are coming to my house to play games, i'm just really deep in thought at the moment. Thank you for reading!
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We’ll try to pick up the pieces from last week. Except I’ll leave soon after you arrive. I know how this month will go, I’m prepared this time. I might have to let you go.
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