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I was just sat in the library, a few minutes after my lesson ended and was already zoning out because I didn't feel like revising when I looked out the doors to the main college area and saw him walk past. Except his bag is glowing, like he has just glued on a massive bunch of led lights that are flashing and changing colours. I did not wake up today thinking my crush was going to decorate his backpack with all of blackpool illuminations haha! I shouldn't find this as cute as I do! :') | Crushes |
so i made a move to a crush that goes to diff school. she accepted my follow request but aint following me back 😭. Is that a problem? | Crushes |
Hey, How have you been?
I hope you feel well soon.
I miss seeing you, and hearing your corny jokes.
Hope everything is well for the Holidays with you.
Hope to see you before you leave to do stuff with your family or whatever you plan for the holidays.
Hope 2023 is even better for you.
Whatever you wish for i hope you get it.
You deserve the world.
You are one of the nicest and funniest people I have ever meet.
I hope you have all your dreams come true.
Whenever your With family, friends, alone or even if your asleep when that NYE's ball drops in Nyc. I hope you have a great year wherever you are.
Whenever you sleep through it or spend time with your loved ones. I wish it's the best yet.
I was looking for places near us all of us friends could go to celebrate, but you all have loved ones i know you would prefer to be with.
So maybe New Years kisses are taboo, but if there is someone in your life give them that silly little kiss. Whenever it's from a girl you like, or just a kiss from a family member. You just deserve love.
I'll probably never be me, and i will accept that.
But If only one of us deserves to feel love, i'll be damned if that isn't you.
-to a better year | Crushes |
So some background before I start, I re met this one girl (H) in august and got to know her really well and have a crush on her and I confessed like 3 months ago, then like a month later she introduced me to a friend online because none of us live near each other and her friend (B) started asking me why I liked H and stuff. Over the past months of talking to B we have became really good friends and I’d totally date her if things can’t work out with H. Now for the actual dilemma.
So a day or two ago, H proposed to her crush (who is one of my friends) to be in a platonic relationship, me and her are good friends so I was just like “Nice!” and stuff and was making some jokes about it, like a friend would. Anyways fast forward to like an hour or two ago, B proposes to me, and I obviously say yes. I’m really happy about it and I’m her first platonic husband (to my knowledge).
I’m really not sure if this means she likes me, because 2 weeks ago she said that this one guy she liked liked her back and she was over the moon about that for like a week, but then a week later she said she had killed her feelings for him but I’m not 100% sure that’s true. She also said that one of her other friends confessed to her and and she wasn’t sure if she liked him back or not, saying that he’s nice and she kinda does like him but she isn’t sure. She tends to jump around with who she has a crush on though, and like 3-4 weeks ago she was making a lot of jokes about us being in love and stuff but then stopped when that other guy liked her back.
The biggest problem here is that I’ve never met her irl. I know what she looks and sounds like because we send each other pictures of ourselves and we’ve called each other several times. Even tho she isn’t who I originally had a crush on, I’d totally date her if we met irl.
TLDR: I can’t summarize this just read it all or don’t lol | Crushes |
ok so basically me and my crush we're v awkward between e/o so I'm thinking whether to make the first move and text him
if yes, how do I start it like what do I say | Crushes |
So I asked him if he wants to play volleyball with me and some mutuals (and he agreed!🤩). He and I are just a little worried of how awkward it's going to be. Although I'm not that worried about it being awkward when we play, because it's volleyball. But I am worried about when we walk around the city afterwards. After volleyball, the whole group is gonna walk around the city and he asked to be around me (which I was a little surprised because I didn't know about his shy side 😭😭). I said of course, but then that would mean we would be walking together and right now I'm getting nervous just thinking about it because it's going to be so awkward 😭. I tell myself to just act like how I normally would around my friends (because we're not dating or anything yet) but that's the thing, I hardly get to hangout with my friends so I wouldn't know what to say 😭.
Does anyone have any advice? | Crushes |
Hey you,
I know you'll never read this but I wanted to say it anyway. Do you remember the night that we were talking about relationships and you said that you felt you would just end up settling from something average cause you'd never get anything better and I said that I felt the same?
I wasn't lying. Because I know that if I am with anyone but you it will be settling. I have loved you since year 8, and I haven't felt the same way about anyone, including my ex.
You make my life better. You remind me of what I deserve from life while never giving me a big head. When I hear songs about soul mates I think of you. I would risk everything to be with you.
I'm so glad that you agreed to go on a date with me next year if we're not with anyone; but it also just means that I'll have to wait. Because I will wait for you. If that's a year or 3 or 30, I would be willing to wait.
If it means I can be with you, I would stay single for the rest of my life. I do believe you are my soul mate, even if it's just platonically.
I love you man.
From,
Me ❤ | Crushes |
Title. I'm sorta confused if she has a crush on me or if it's just coincidence. I can't honestly tell.😅 | Crushes |
Im in a crisis I hung out with a friend from college and I have crush on him. He wants to hang out sometime again but I fear it’s on a friendly basis. Not sure if he is bi/gay btw so it’s another problem.
Background: We actually known each other for about 3 months. One day he decided to join me in studying at the library after one of the classes we both had. Then on we chatted a lot not even studying sometimes and what are the odds that we both had a class in the same building at the same time on Wednesdays so we would walk together from the library to our class. At first glance you would assume he is straight. Like he wears yeezys… But more and more as we talked I noticed a personality that was surprising. I know assuming someone is gay based on their actions could be wrong but from the most times my best friend would join us at the library she would see the same. that he acted a bit feminine. Anyways me and this boy talked about family work and other random things which could mean he is just a good friend. His presence and him being so engaged to our conversation is just what developed my feelings towards him. Maybe it’s me overthinking him being a friend as someone who is interested. Another thing even though my best friend, the boy, and I all had the same class and visited the library together he would mainly shift a conversation towards me. My best friend would also notice the same. Basically everything I saw my friend could back me up and trust me she would tell me the truth if I was being delusional. But unfortunately I did make a mistake with recruiting her in my mission to find out if he was gay/bi. We started asking him about his interests movies, music, etc. It was pretty hit or miss. He did watch mean girls but it’s classic idk would straight guys watch mean girls? Then relationships came up and she was like tell us about your girlfriends OR boyfriends I don’t judge. I wasn’t expecting that it was a bit to direct but he ended saying he was straight in a dramatic manner. He could have just been saying the truth but I know if I were in that situation 3 years ago when I wasn’t fully out/ sure about myself how invasive that question would be. In another day someone that he knew came up to him and basically stole him from me. His tone and personality changed drastically when talking to this person. He acted more like “bro.” Which was interesting because he seemed more chilled while talking to us. Towards the end of the semester we agreed to go to a basketball game to hang out outside of school. That game didn’t happen so I asked him if he wanted to do something else that day and we went bowling and afterwards he asked if we should go somewhere to eat. I guess I can assume if he was gay/bi he’s just not interested in me because even though we had a fun time bowling and had our usual flowing conversations at the sushi place we ate he never really made any flirtatious moves. I did give subtle hints but he would either just laugh in a playful way or do his dramatic gasp he does.
Basically I don’t know what to do from here. Should I still tell him how I feel about him and if he says he doesn’t feel the same about me, attempt to continue as friends or not mentioning it all and just continue as friends. I’m fine with either just knowing when it’s the best time to tell him is what is challenging. Because even though we talked for 3 months we’ve seen each other this first time outside of school. | Crushes |
OKAY okay Okay!! GUYS I REALLY NEED HELP.
My best friend, he is my favorite person he is my everything he is literally like the light of my life, JUST I THINK I HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM. I mean I did before but it was a lil crush you know (I’ve liked him since like 8th grade but not as much as now) okay listen last year I had serious feelings for him, he liked me before he knew I had feelings for him, we never told each other but then it just kinda came up and so he knows. He then got a girlfriend and I suppressed my feelings then they broke up and I still had feelings again. This year I met this guy at a very low point in my life and somehow we got into a (toxic) relationship 1. I wanted to get over my best friend 2. I kinda felt pressured and he made me feel like I was the only person who cared about him and I didn’t want to hurt him. Then we broke up… now I know this is bad but another reason It also wouldn’t have worked out with my ex is I kinda would sit there and think in the back of my head… hmm what I did this with him, and it made me happier.. wishing it was him and not my ex, I just I am so confused maybe it’s just cause I’m sad I’m not in a relationship anymore… just I want to be his person he’s the only person I think about actually being with in the future and I’m terrified because we are litteraly right person wrong time but what if right time never comes WHAT DO I DO!!??? Am I really admiring to myself I mean I want him to be happy but I just hope he doesn’t fall in love with someone else
What do I do man….
I want to scream and throw up and cry | Crushes |
SO IVE BEEN HANGING OUT WITH MY BIYFRIEND OF A FEW MONTHS ALL DAYY AND I DECIDED I HAD TO KISS HIM TODAY AND SO HE WAS GETTING PICKED UP BY HIS DAD AND HE LEFT AND I WAS UPSET I DIDNT DO IT TILL I REALISED HE LEFT HIS WALLET SO I TETXED HIM AND HE CAME BACK SO I WENT OUT THE DOOR AND GAVE HIM HIS WALLET AND THEN I FUCKING KISSED HIM I THINK I BLACKED OUT I JUST DID IT AND THEN SAID “OKAY BYE” AND SHUT THE DOOR AND WENT UPSTAIRS TK CALL MY BEST FRIEBD. HE JSUT TEXTED ME AND SNAPPED ME BUT I DONT WANT TO OPEN IT. MY FACE IS RED AND IM CRYING IDFK WHAT TO DO IM FROZEN AND KINDA FREAKING OUT HERE. | Crushes |
So uh I've had a crush on this girl since grade 7 but we were on online classes, now that we are back to f2f we started becoming friends and WE somehow got seated together. A month passed, now it was 11:50pm and my birthday was about to start when a friend of mine chatted me that she also had crush on me. I legit felt like my chest was about explode because of what I just got notified. Two days later and we were gonna meet again at school, I was so nervous that I had to not talk her much. I dont know why im acting like this probably because im way too nervous but yeh I really need help so i won't go messed it up:(
(Sorry for bad English its not my main language) | Crushes |
OKAY OKAYIKAY OH SHIT SORRY FOR CURSING BUT OKAY, I THINK I HAVE FEELINGS FOR MY BEST FRIEND. Last year I had major feelings for him, he had feelings for me neither of us did anything over the summer he got a girlfriend and ofc I was upset because I still liked him I just suppressed my feelings. I STARTED LIKING HIM AGAIN WHEN THEY BROKE UP and I’ve liked him since 8th grade (were in 10th) he is literally my best friend, he is like my everything man and I want to be his person… this year I met this guy and during a moment of my life I wasn’t doing great I kinda got to know him and he asked me out and I felt pressured I knew I wasn’t ready for a relationship and I knew I still liked my best friend. We ended up breaking up too and NOW I WANT TO SCREAM AND THROW UP. IM JUST THINKING AM I REALLY ADMITTING THIS TO MYSELF RIGHT NOW LIKE IVE KEPT IT IN SO LONG AND HEBRJAGTVHAVTBWHVFV WHAT DO I DO. I can’t tell him. I just want him to know. I know this is bad and this is a reason me and my ex wouldn’t have worked out is in the back of my head ide think what if I was doing this with him and I knew that It wouldn’t have made me happier
FOR US ITS ALWAYS NOT A GOOD TIME. LITERAL RIGHT PERSON WRONG FUCKING TIME
what if it’s never the right time.
What am I even doing right now?!
I just need advice or help or idk | Crushes |
I like him so much like omg but he doesn’t even know my name I don’t think I mean I have him on Insta and snap but we don’t talk like at all it’s actually sad but every time I see him I just gotta take a minute to look I can’t help myself and today I kept looking at him and sometimes when I would try get a quick look he would be looking at me and it would make it so awkward but yeah
Help I need advice
Ps. In my school we have 2 schools in the one I’m at it goes year 7 - year 8 then when your in year 9 you go to the other campus so I won’t see him next year and the last day is tomorrow so give me good advice please! | Crushes |
Let me start from the beginning. I saw this guy at a gathering and there were many people there. He is a friend of a friend. I had never seen him before but when I did, I caught myself looking at him the whole evening. I felt the same energy from him too because we hadn’t met and we both were the younger ones in the group. I was introduced to him and it was nice.
A month later, I bump into him and a couple of his friends at the gas station. It was nice too but nothing formal.
I became closer to his friend who I’m very good friends with now and we started seeing each other at her house. And I swear to god when I tell you, I crave his company. I really do. I have a huge crush on his personality, his vibe - just everything.
The connection I have for him is so rare. I don’t know if he feels the same about me but I can just feel it! You don’t just flirtatiously look at or greet everyone. He respects me, he understands my humour and he makes me feel very comfortable around him.
I try my best to treat him the same as our friends but I feel like my attraction towards him just comes in between. I’ve noticed some mixed signals from him and I just wish I said something more direct to him.
I was in a super toxic relationship and seeing him was such a refreshing change that I just fell in love.
I’m going away for winter break and he isn’t sure of where he’s going next semester but it broke my heart when I found out he may not be here.
I just want to cry my heart out. I wish I spent more time with him, I wish I said something to him. I just wish I had met him before. | Crushes |
Need advice. Inbox open.
So this guys M29 and I have known each other for 2 years from our local town. Only started really talking 4 months ago. First 2 weeks were great and even had great sexual chemistry but I told him no sex early because I did want to get to know him first. Just made out. However in those first 2 weeks he wanted to see me everyday. I own a buisness so not practical. I told him this. He then ghosted me when I told him I was free. He then started lingering around my workplace 2 months later. There's a coffee shop across. Never seen him there before now it's been 2 twice a week and he just stares at me. I texted him to hang out and we did, again however he said he got mad that I kept declining his offer to hang out during the first 2 weeks of speaking... this upset me, I told him. Now he said, 'be mean to me and I'll be mean to you'.
His gone to the coffee shop 4 times this week and pretends to not be looking at me, but the staff at my work said he totally is...
What's he doing? I'm worried. | Crushes |
hi everyone, so i met this guy a couple months ago through some mutual friends and he was really easy to talk to and nice in general but he's like that to everyone. Recently, we have been calling and talking more (along with one of my close friends), we goof off but also study together during those calls. Once, I asked to be in a private call because I wanted to ask him something, one of my friends noticed and asked me if i liked him and I started panicking but then ever since that, I have been seriously questioning myself. I started to notice little things about him and once when my friend, him and I were on call, I was showing them my plushie and was doing a little dance with it and he started smiling but was kind of covering it with his hand and I highkey started mentally freaking out. But tbh, I'm not sure if I like like him or I just like him cause he is nice, since I honesty have a bad tendency to start liking guys because they are nice to me since I don't really interact with many guys to begin with. As well as my friends have teased me that I like him but i'm not too sure. pls send help | Crushes |
They took my hand and put it on their boob for a few seconds before taking it off and told me they would date me but idk they don’t show any other forms of interest I’m a antisocial nerd with no social skills so I have no idea so help me pleaseee Reddit | Crushes |
she asked “did you feel safe?”
“safe” didn’t do the act justice. the whole entire world drowns out around me. time stops, nothing matters, for just a few seconds. when i’m there in his arms, him holding me so unexpectedly tight like he might lose me, everything else simply falls away. every time he hugs me, it still surprises me, the sense of urgency in his grip around me. the melancholy smile as he pulls away, as though he regrets ever moving in the first place. when someone holds you like you’re the last thing on their mind at night and the first thing on their mind in the morning. like you’re a diamond that’ll run away if he loosens his grip. as though everyone is after you. like you are all he has. how could i not fall in love every time it happens, over and over again?
it’s such a dazing experience that i didn’t know how to answer her at first. i didn’t exactly feel safe, and i didn’t exactly feel unsafe. i felt in love. i felt him. and he is everything. | Crushes |
I often read posts or comments by girls where they complain that guys will often become friends with them and then cut them off when they're rejected because they only wanted to be friends in hopes of something more. I'm a girl myself, but I feel bad whenever I see this topic because I wonder if this is how guys view me sometimes. And this could all just be a misunderstanding.
I'll start off by saying that the ideal partner to me is a best friend for life, a guy that brings a bit of competitiveness and playfulness to my life. I want to be in a relationship where we're both encouraged to be our best selves because of our dynamic. It doesn't have to be direct competition. We could be complementary with both of us playing different instruments or liking different mediums of art. We just need to have some similarities or connections so that we're motivated to do better (perhaps because of our ability to collaborate) and are able to understand each other and support one another.
Now, I tend to get along with guys pretty easily and become friends rather quickly if they share some of my interests or characteristics. Sometimes feelings develope and I end up seeing them in a romantic light. Sometimes it happens fast, and I honestly don't know if I'm subconsciously seeing them as potential partners from the start or if it's only natural to later since being good friends is exactly what I want in a partner. Either way, I've had to cut some of them off after some time.
I'm an introvert. I'll go months without texting a friend (and most of them live in different countries or states) and still see them in the same light, but I've learned that I've been sabotaging my own relationships because most people aren't like that. Sometimes I'll do it intentionally because a friend I've liked rejected me or ended up in a relationship with someone else.
What I want to know is, does this hurt you guys? When a girl friend stops contacting you? Because if it does, I just want you all to know that, at least in my experience, we aren't doing this to try and hurt you or because we don't find value in you as anything other than a romantic partner. I've spent many nights crying myself to sleep because I just couldn't handle my emotions, blaming myself for ever falling so deeply for someone and being so weak over a crush. Why should they affect me so much? But the heart wants what the heart wants. And the only way I could numb the pain was to distance myself. Despite the heartbreak, the rejection, I really, really, appreciate everything my crushes have done for me as friends. But it just hurts so much trying to act like nothing ever happened, that nothing really changed.
I guess all I want to say is that, if any of my crushes or other people who have been in a similar situation end up reading this, I'm really sorry if I or someone else has hurt you. I'm so thankful for all the happiness and support that you've brought to my life, and I'll never forget you. You were my light in the darkness, and I'm so glad I was able to be your friend for some time. I'm sorry if I hurt you by cutting off contact, but it's not your fault. It's not because of anything wrong with you. You're a wonderful, kind, intelligent, passionate, talented, and considerate person. It's just too painful for me to stay close to you, but don't ever doubt yourself. You're doing great, and you'll continue to do great with or without me, and I wish you all the happiness in the world. | Crushes |
I work in a lab and we are in our mid 20s. I'm a huge overthinker when it comes to this stuff and second guess myself so any input would be very appreciated <3
I'm interested in this guy and i kinda feel like he is interested in me too. We were sitting alone together side by side at the computers and I asked him how to do something on the computer and he places his hand over mine on the mouse and guides my hand. Is this a sign maybe??? What do you think | Crushes |
Me (13f) liked a guy (14m). People in my class started rumoring that i like him and started interrupting me. A week ago it became very irritating. Every time they are like him this and him that and i started hating him gradually i didn't suceed but the rumors are not stopping. Everyday its different people asking me the same thing. Idk what to do. Pls tell me. | Crushes |
I feel really bad bruh. I left her on read in dms and ghosted her. Is there a way to reverse the damage? I don't want to hurt her feelings or anything. Please please help me out with this one. It's urgent. | Crushes |
Love is the fact that i'm sitting here, writing about everything that you are to me.
It's the fact that I could be doing anything else, yet writing heartfelt letters that you might never even read is that which I choose to do.
Because i'm so utterly fond of you that my heart never gets enough of the way it feels to love you, to speak of you, to think of you.
Your presence blends into everything i've ever known, and I can no longer see things as they are without noticing the small bits that remind me of you in them.
Love is the way my heart lulls at the sound of your voice.
Love is the way I feel at ease from the mere knowledge that you're there.
Love is looking for no one else but you, anywhere, and everywhere.
It's the fact that I could see faces with beauty blessed by aphrodite herself or hear voices as harmonious as a choir of angels, yet I would still choose you in the end.
Because the love you built upon my heart is that which was created from a sincerity I respected.
A kindness that mended my soul.
Your gentle words, your kind acts that occured far from the eyes of others.
I believed in that.
Thus why I am willing to accept every bit of who you are,
Every bit of prickliness and silliness,
Every wee little flaw that makes you human,
And every bit of beauty that others don't see,
If it means that I may be by your side in the end. | Crushes |
Lately I've been hinting to my crush that I like him:) but I fully attend at letting it go at its own pace. I am personally a pigeon pebbler I love to find things that remind me of people and give it to them and I found this mug that I think they would like very much:) because they love animal themed mugs and he said he'd love it and I can't wait to give it to them tomorrow:) | Crushes |
I do have a slight crush on her too, and she knows that. I agreed to go out on a date with her sometime. My only issue is that I’ve never been in a relationship before and I don’t know how to go about it. There was a brief time in 2020 where me and someone else were crushing on each other, but nothing ever happened, mostly because I never showed interest, even though I was very interested. I really don’t want to mess this opportunity up, and I let her know that sometimes I don’t show signs or I don’t know how to connect my feelings to actions in certain ways, and for her to not take that in a bad way. I’m only a sophomore, but everyone around me is getting into a relationship, and I don’t want to screw this up. I also like having alone time and sometimes don’t respond for days on end as I’m emotionally drained quickly. I’m afraid of getting into a relationship because she may think I’m not into her. | Crushes |
Reposting this because I put the wrong flair on it
So yeah, a bit ago I made a post on an alternate account saying that I think she may have broken up with him
The reasonings for my thinking that is because she had been changing up her discord so it was olno longer clearly recognizable as hers
she had unfollowed his Instagram before deleting hers completely
We had gotten into a big conversation about losing friends and moving on from it a few days before all this
She stopped sitting with her old friend group, and seems to just vanish completely during our school's lunches and breaks, I see her in the halls but not any other time
A few days ago too, she vented at me for a long time about an English essay that she had to do, during which she said "this is my final straw", and Larter saying the reason she changed her username was because she gets paranoid
And this is very minor, to the point that I wouldn't even consider it if a comment hadn't reminded me of it, but a comment on the post said that she might have been cheated on, and I do remember awhile ago seeing someone who looked pretty similar to her boyfriend on a date with someone else
But that last point should be taken with a grain of salt, even I don't really believe that it could have been him, we live in a pretty small town but I bet that there are at the very least two people who look somewhat alike, so I doubt it was really him. Plus while I don't know him, I couldn't really suspect anyone she likes to be capable of doing something like that
So anyways, none of that has changed over the past day or two, it's all stayed pretty much the same, still no sign of her on Instagram, still absent from lunch, etc.
But what's changed is that I've been texting her and she doesn't seem sad or distressed about anything at all
Honestly she seems better than usual, we have been talking a lot more than usual, and it's been a little more friendly, and we've also been joking with eachother, which we haven't really done a lot, but just kind of started doing today
So yeah, she doesn't exactly seem distraught or effected at all by anything, and she arguably seems more comfortable and better than usual, so I feel like my assumptions were wrong, and that it was probably just a bunch of coincidences or something like that
Honestly I'm also not sad about that, I feel like I've almost gotten over it and moved on to just wanting to be friends, if she actually broke up it probably would have raised my anxiety back up to where it was before, and it would also probably just make everything a lot more difficult for her as well
But that doesn't seem to have happened, so it was probably just stress about finals or something similar | Crushes |
I just want to know! | Crushes |
I ended up kind of developing a crush on two out of three of them lmaof | Crushes |
I know him from some human right activism event that we both are interested in. Today I asked him out for the first time to discuss some law school stuff. The meeting went OK and he has been extremely helpful. When I said I should have bought him a coffee he suggested we have tea next time. The problem is all our conversation up to now has been really formal, and mostly about school stuff. How can I make the next one feels less formal? | Crushes |
Well, I'll tell you my love story. but I want to clarify that it is not a simple attraction. I've known guys that I find handsome and charming, but it was just admiration, my heart didn't beat for them. In fact, I have very intense feelings for a guy from my college. he attracts me so much that my heart beats very hard every time I see him. especially when I least expected it. It reminds me of the same feelings I had when I had my first crush when I was 15. I think of him every day since our eyes met. That day, I was at the library studying for my exams when I suddenly received a call from my father. so I had to walk to the campus hallway to take the call. suddenly he went down the stars. I was surprised to see him and my heart beated very fast. he slowly went down the stars while looking at me ; locking eyes. it was like eternity. I'm the one who ended the eye contact because I'm shy. I don't know if he has feelings for me, but at least I'm sure he finally noticed me since that day :) | Crushes |
the guy I have a crush on just got a girlfriend. I really liked him and I thought he was showing signs that he liked me as well but I guess not XD
it especially sucks because this is the first person I had a crush on in an extremely long time and he’s a really good friend of mine.
Now I’m concerned how the dynamic between us will change. Idk wtvr. I’m kinda used to this | Crushes |
Help please. | Crushes |
He always acts like he likes me, he calls me gorgeous, his queen, sweetie, hun and a lot of other names. He also said "I love you" to me before and everyone I tell about him says he likes me but then he goes and leaves me on delivered for hours even tho he was active and he recently went through a relationship (they broke up). He's one of my best friend and hes is the person I go to whenever I need someone to talk to, I don't want to ruin anything by asking him out. Even my family(who knows him quite well because our family's are close) seen to think he likes me. I'm just so confused and idk what to do | Crushes |
Why are these other guys hitting me up I want HIM to, I post those pictures not for those other guys to slide up but for HIM to so why doesn’t he give me the time of day I hate these other guys attention I want his but he won’t even give me one second of his. | Crushes |
i have this girl best friend we've been friends for years and now shes trying to get my attention and smiles at me alot idk what to do | Crushes |
So I have been going to therapy for a few months now. I'm in a relationship that is not working out, and therapy is helping me move toward becoming more independent and eventually being able to leave. I never fell in love with my current partner. He didn't do anything wrong, but I know I have to end it.
That being said, I find myself very interested in my therapist. The more time I spend with him, the more I like him. I know this is common because of transference, but I really do like him.
I want to gush about this crush I have, but I can't talk to anyone about it because of the circumstances. I feel guilty for having feelings for someone else and not my partner. I also have not had sex since 2017 because of past relationships (prob PTSD) and now I'm having physical feelings for my therapist too. This is the first time I've had feelings like this for over five years, and I just wanna talk about how cute my crush is even though I will never be able to tell him. | Crushes |
what the title says! | Crushes |
so i (17F) decided to tell the person i like (16M) that i like him and it went pretty well at first he was basically like we should hang out sometime and get to know each other better and i was like cool and internally i was freaking out like really excited. but afterwards he didn’t really talk to me about it and our mutual friends said he was probably just nervous but i wasn’t sure.
well fast forward and he tells me he’s still down to hang out but he’d prefer to stay friends. ofc that hurt but i took it well and said that’s cool yk. it was super awkward after felt like he was avoiding me but we texted a bit so no worries we’re cool right?
well pt 2 he hasn’t spoken to me since tuesday and i messaged him something unrelated on wednesday and he never even read it which isn’t typical. im not really sure what’s going on. im worried somehow i scared him off or something. and im worried he doesnt want to be friends either. i genuinely liked talking to him and i thought he liked me at least as a friend but now im not so sure
not sure what to do | Crushes |
So yeah, a bit ago I made a post on an alternate account saying that I think she may have broken up with him
The reasonings for my thinking that is because she had been changing up her discord so it was olno longer clearly recognizable as hers
she had unfollowed his Instagram before deleting hers completely
We had gotten into a big conversation about losing friends and moving on from it a few days before all this
She stopped sitting with her old friend group, and seems to just vanish completely during our school's lunches and breaks, I see her in the halls but not any other time
A few days ago too, she vented at me for a long time about an English essay that she had to do, during which she said "this is my final straw", and Larter saying the reason she changed her username was because she gets paranoid
And this is very minor, to the point that I wouldn't even consider it if a comment hadn't reminded me of it, but a comment on the post said that she might have been cheated on, and I do remember awhile ago seeing someone who looked pretty similar to her boyfriend on a date with someone else
But that last point should be taken with a grain of salt, even I don't really believe that it could have been him, we live in a pretty small town but I bet that there are at the very least two people who look somewhat alike, so I doubt it was really him. Plus while I don't know him, I couldn't really suspect anyone she likes to be capable of doing something like that
So anyways, none of that has changed over the past day or two, it's all stayed pretty much the same, still no sign of her on Instagram, still absent from lunch, etc.
But what's changed is that I've been texting her and she doesn't seem sad or distressed about anything at all
Honestly she seems better than usual, we have been talking a lot more than usual, and it's been a little more friendly, and we've also been joking with eachother, which we haven't really done a lot, but just kind of started doing today
So yeah, she doesn't exactly seem distraught or effected at all by anything, and she arguably seems more comfortable and better than usual, so I feel like my assumptions were wrong, and that it was probably just a bunch of coincidences or something like that
Honestly I'm also not sad about that, I feel like I've almost gotten over it and moved on to just wanting to be friends, if she actually broke up it probably would have raised my anxiety back up to where it was before, and it would also probably just make everything a lot more difficult for her as well
But that doesn't seem to have happened, so it was probably just stress about finals or something similar | Crushes |
Theres this beutiful and kind girl at my job, i dont interact with her too much and dont know how to, theres a time limit since we'll ve working for 1 month together (till 31/12) i've been thinking to ask for her ig as natural as possible but dont know how
Help me pleaseeeeee. | Crushes |
So a few months ago I met this girl who we will call Sophie. We were in the same gym class. I thought she was cute the very moment I saw her. Me and her have been talking a lot and tonight we were on call with another friend of ours and I said I was ugly. She said I wasn't so I asked her if she could name one person who would date me. That's when she told me she had a crush on me. I have never been so happy. I really love her. | Crushes |
Do you think I can be friends with my crush? She really valued our friendship and did not want it to end it. But I was a dude that did not knew how to communicate what I wanted. In the end even when she was sending mixed signals I had to stop it and have Initiated no contact to heal but this week (after two months) I miss her so much, I just want to hug her and tell her I miss her. She recently unfriended me from social media and when I see her at campus she seems sad and tries to avoid me (she seems hurt).
I was thinking about reaching out around Christmas just before the three month mark. I don’t even want and answer I just want her to know that she is missed and that she is appreciated even if we don’t talk.
Thanks! | Crushes |
I always thought girls were never really interested in relationships and that it was only boys who fell for the other gender .But this subreddit has changed my way of viewing the situation a lot.
This also makes me feel like I'm never going to have a chance with her since she may already like someone. | Crushes |
for the past five to six years, i've never not cried during my birthday.
why? well, birthdays just end up making you feel pretty lonely after a certain point in your life. on top of that, as you grow older, you kind of realise that you don't mean as much to people as you used to.
that and my birthday is on december, and since school is closed during this time of the year, most of my old friends from my old school never really wished me a happy birthday, let alone knew about my birthday. it's not that big of a deal, and i never expected people to remember, but it still made me sad to be sort of-- forgotten.
but things are different this time :) i've got friends who keep it in their memories because they just like to do so and i've now got a crush after six years of holding onto someone i could never let go of.
i just look forward to getting wishes.
i don't really care for gifts, if anything i prefer to be the one to give other people gifts, but it makes me happy to think that i'll be remembered by some people this time.
that and i'm really excited for my crush to wish me happy birthday.
i don't really mind if he doesn't remember, my friend went on about how she'd tell him to wish me on my birthday if he doesn't lol, but i'd be happy just to get a wish from him.
that alone is enough of a gift for me.
its been a long time since i've actually looked forward to my birthday.
it makes me feel kind of teary to think about all those years i spent crying on my birthday because i just felt so alone and forgotten, even when my parents would wish me a happy birthday, it felt like i meant nothing to everyone else, especially now that i'm just some teenager who isn't as loveable as they used to be back when they were a kid.
i mean, that might seem a little dramatic, but all i've ever really wanted is to feel like i'm actually a person who could mean something to others beyond the little girl i used to be.
so,, i hope this year's going to be better :)!
kind of wish time would go by a little faster just this once just for this. | Crushes |
HE KEEPS LEAVING ME ON READ. im hella confused now. he already expressed he thought i was pretty and he wanted to take me on a date but he keeps leaving me on read. WTF do i do | Crushes |
Not too long ago my crush has been taking about his sexuality. Btw I’m female and he is male.
What he said exactly was that he goes by being gay, but he also said he is most likely bisexual. The reasoning he had for this is because of a bad experience with a women in the past so he is a little afraid. Either way I support him even if he is solely gay or doesn’t like me.
I just need some other people’s perspective on how to interpret this and how I should go on from there. | Crushes |
So I sent my crush a tiktok the other day. Idk if you’ll know what I’m talking about but it was one of those slideshows where it has Some corny joke and then after it says something really bold, in my case it was “I’d let you do unspeakable things to me.”
Anyway after that i said “oh sorry I didn’t mean to send that to you.” Bc I got scared. I just really wanna know what she thought about that. | Crushes |
So yesterday was my works Christmas party. I (M20) went with my co workers and there’s one co worker of mine which I really (F25) was going too! We texting about the party the day before and she asked me if I had a plus one, I told her I don’t and I’m flying solo, I asked her the same question. She said yes, and that it was a person who was going to drive her home cause she was going to get drunk. I jokingly said that u have a dance partner. She said no and that I was going to dance with her, I was like no I’m not that good and your driver is probably a better dancer. She said she doesn’t take no for an answer. I agreed to dance with her. The party comes, and when I get there I meet her “driver” and then she shows me the place and I asked if that was her boyfriend, she laughed and said he was just her driver. Some time passes and me and her “driver” talk and I ask if they are dating. He said yes and that they are bf and gf. I was shocked and upset on the inside, but what got me was she never said anything about him being her bf. I asked her twice and all she said he was her driver. That threw me off. I danced with her for a bit but not long since her bf was there and didn’t wanna cause anything. The night went on and they were dancing like crazy while me and my other co worker were just sitting at our table. The night was over and we all went home. I don’t know, I need someone else’s point of view from this. Am I just overthinking all this, cause I feel like I am? If u need more details or anything lmk please and thanks! | Crushes |
I really like this girl and my friends think she likes me but i dont know what to do i have her for only 2 classes (not including lunch) and sometimes we play and joke around, we call each other names and are normally rude to one another but all as joking around. I want to confess to her but i don't know when or how. Christmas is coming up and maybe i could gift her something all while confessing but im not sure what to do or how. And this is why i need the women of reddit to help me figure out if she likes me, and if she does what do i do and how... | Crushes |
do you think I should ask my crush out this week? I think she likes me. | Crushes |
I haven’t seen him in about a month. He quit working where I work and I miss him beyond a lot. I looked forward to going to work to see him everyday and now he’s gone. I never got the guts to ask for his number or anything. We didn’t talk all the time but we did a fair amount. I’ve just never felt this way about another guy in my whole life and even after he left I’m still thinking about him. I’ve been trying really hard to move past my feelings and be with someone else but I can’t get this guy outta my head. I don’t know what to do lol… I’ve know this man for about 7 months and each time I seen him or thought about him or talked to him I liked him more and more starting to feel like maybe this is more than a crush? 😂 | Crushes |
this semester I met an exchange student who I thought was attractive. We have hung out a multiple times in group settings and spoken then but nothing beyond that. recently, his friend told me he was into me but thought i had a boyfriend. after clearing that up, we have hung out alone twice and are again in a couple days. we text every day but i am getting a sense that he maybe isn’t into me. we are going out tuesday and i was going to say something since he leaves friday but i dont know if that is too soon. I will be studying in the country he is from 4 months from now and we have plans to hang out so I don’t want to be weird about it but I do like him and kind of want to know where to go from here. | Crushes |
So my uncle saw me and her together and asked my mom if we were dating and then my mom told me about it.
Later I texted her and told her and she thought it was funny. She asked me what I said and I replied with “he didn’t ask me he asked my mom” so I think I blew that chance.
But we kept talking and I found out that her friends tease her about us. They see us talking a lot and apparently we look like we at least like each other. She said they say generic things like “ oooo you and [my name]” | Crushes |
A friend of mine went to a vacation trip recently. When he got back after the trip, he gave me a postcard as a present and it’s a picture of two parrots kissing. I didn’t say much about it and so did he. I just said thank you and the moment passed. Is this a hint of interest from him? | Crushes |
i asked her out and she said she would love to but the movies i asked will be closed so she suggested going for a walk instead and its gonna be so good
but any advice? | Crushes |
I thought I finally met the right person. I met her at a party and I had a strong feeling that I will meet “the one” at the party. I just felt it. We had that chemistry and everything, and I felt amazing when we were texting.
2 days ago, we had our first date. Oh gosh, I am such an idiot… I was insecure, not confident enough and stressed out AF. I probably didn’t look mature enough. Maybe I wasn’t asking enough questions… it just didn’t work out. I wouldn’t say it was the worst date ever, but I really care for her and now she’s ghosting me.
We texted a bit after the date, but when I tried to keep the conversation going the next day, there is no response. I wanted to apologise for me/ask about our future, but yeah it’s hard, when you’re chatting with your self.
I just don’t want to get back in the loop of founding someone new. I know she will come one day, but I thought she was her. I am desperately looking for someone I can love and someone who can love me. I am 17, so I have plenty of time, but dating sucks… | Crushes |
I sent her a texts saying if she wanted to go out she said that she appreciates but can’t because her mom is coming to visit so she is busy. I asked for a reschedule and she hadn’t replied yet. 5 days later I text her again but on snapchat instead, If I did anything wrong that made her ignore my texts and she replied with:
“I didn’t meant to”
Bruh, that’s the laziest response someone can give imo. I just immediately unfollowed her on insta and snap and moved on. Huge red flag there when someone ghosts you and replies days later in such an immature way | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to read that one in my posts before reading this one so your all catches up on what happening!
So... after writing yesterday's diary entry I decided to text Luke "Hey Luke, I was wondering why I always have to say 'hi' first... you never say 'hi' to me first.. It would be nice if you would say 'hi' first sometimes.. so, why is that you never say 'hi' first?" I know it's not like I'm his girlfriend but I'm still his friend.. it would be good if he atleast says hi first sometimes..that's what friends do.. they take turns.. normally they say hi together.. all I'm asking is a hi first... is that too much to ask.. its not like I asked him to give me the world! Anyway, Then he texted back after 5 hours "because I'm the type of person that never sends messages unless something js sent to me. Same with real life, I won't say hi to someone unless they start it." Then he texted a minute later "cause that's who I am." So then I texted "Oh, okay so if I say hi to you, you'll say hi back." The he texted back an hour later "In real life more than likely unless I don't hear it, in messages it's either I'll read it forget to message hi back and get distracted with other things or I'll respond." Then I texted Oh okay, thanks for letting me know." Then a few minutes later I text him "Don't take effence but I just want to ask you this because we are friends... I wouldn't care wither way but are you gay, straight or bisexual." I can't believe I asked him but.. I need to know! If I don't I could be wasting all my love on him when he's gay... so I can't actually be with him, of course I would still be his friend its just to know if I have a little chance atleast. Also he just got his green P's which I'm so happy for him! Anyway, I might text him om the weekend to see I'd he answers me because he hasn't answered me back yet.. which it has been 4 hours.. | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to read that one in my posts before reading this one so your all catches up on what happening!
5th of February, Sunday, 2023
So... Today I went to the shops (big shops, woolworths, Coles, big W, target, etc) 45 minutes away from us (because we live in the sticks/bush/outback) and saw a cute boy, my mum saw him before at the alcohol shop a month or 2 ago but now he was working in the Woolworths section, he showed mum were the turkey was and had a 1 minute chat as I just looking at him with hearts in my eyes like one of those anime girls people draw, mum thought he was cute and when I saw him he reminded me so much of luke, his name is Sam, he looked at me a few times when he was talking to my mum... at the checkout he was then serving and I glanced over at him while he was serving and he glanced over at me too and it happened 3 time or more.. eek!.. anyway then later I got a nice blue dress and a lovely heart necklace and then this same afternoon I went to the little town 20 minutes away for some if my nans shopping plus to see Luke of course... so I put on my necklace and dress after I got home and I saw Luke working for the first time in 5 weeks, he firstly brought trollies in after I went in, then after shopping with my nan we got served by a guy because Luke wasn't there at the time, then we were nearly finished getting served and Luke comes over and stands right next to me and asks if the guy was nearly done so he could start serving people. Luke then walks away as I'm putting the bags in the trolley and then after a minute Luke comes back over and asks him again and the guys says nearly and Luke just stands there next to me... he didn't even say hi... I normally say hi so it was his turn to say hi so I just stood there quietly.. I think I started to shake at some point... I was so furious! He kept looking at me with a side eye as I just stared at him with daggers! I was so angry, I'm glad I didn't give him a fist to the face! Then I walked out and nan and I went home! | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to read that one in my posts before reading this one so your all catches up on what happening!
1st of February, Wednesday, 2023
So... Nothing special has happened really that's why I haven't wrote in a while, I went to my dads for 2 weeks but before that of course.. I asked Luke again the next week if he wanted to come to the pool (over text) and put "?" Each day because of course he didn't text me back which isn't surprising anymore.. on the last day though he actually answered me with "I won't be able to, working at the moment" I was upset but I just text him back "okay" then 2 days after days later after being depressed over it, I explained that I thought we could be good friends but that he didn't seem to want to hang out even before he was so busy then I texted him "so would you like me to leave you alone?" The next day he texted me back "it's more of I have work on and don't have time to hangout" then I texted sorry and I asked if we could still be friends and he texted "Yeah I'm fine with that".. ugh, that was annoying.. I shouldnt of even bugged him about it but I just was so depressed over it I like him so much.... anyway then a few days ago my mum found out off one of the girls at woolowrhts (where luke works) that he started his apprenticeship and he's loving it, he still works at woolworths but he only works on Saturday and Sunday, I'm not sure what times yet though. I just really miss him so damn much! I started year 11 yesterday so that takes my mind of it a bit but I still miss him.. I can't even text him as much anymorehes just so busy! I use to text him 2 days a week now it's like.. 1 day a week or less.. hopefully I'll get to know him more when he's not busy! | Crushes |
I'll be starting off from my last post of part 1 so if you didn't read that you can go and check it out on my profile in posts! Let's continue!!
3rd of February, Tuesday, 2023
So.... Today I asked Luke if he wanted to go to the pool today or tomorrow or Thursday but he texted "I won't be able to because I have relative up" so, I texted him back "oh okay", that's sad but I'm just glad he messaged me because it normally takes him days or hours to text back... it took 3 hours but that's good enough for me. The other day I rang him twice for the first time, both times he didn't pick up but he actually has a voice message, I thought he'd be too shy to leave a vocie message. His voice is so different from what I expected but it kinda sounded like my half-brothers voice to be honest. The same type of tone and some of the words sounded like the same accent. Now everytime I see my half-brother I'm going to talk to him more to listen to his voice because it sounds like Luke's! Anyway, I said to myself before I texted him the message today if he didn't text me back this time I'm not going to text him until after the holidays which is 4 weeks. So, maybe the universe does want us together because he texted me back after 3 hours...I bet once I spend time with him in person he'll like me a lot because when people get to know me people don't mind me speaking to them and hanging out with then after that! By the way.. I say the universe might actually want us together because about 20 years ago before I was even born my mum went to this fortune teller and she said that their is going to be a Luke in your life.. my mum don't know any Luke's so it must be this Luke... normally I don't believe fortune tellers but she said to my mum before that, that we were going to live in an A and B house like a 2 end house with my nan living in one and her living in the other which 20 years later here we are living in a flipping A and B house.. yes it might just be good guessing but... I'm just going to believe it for now! | Crushes |
Long story short. Met this guy beginning of the year and instant crush. Then I find out he has a gf. Shucks, no biggy. I can get over him. (I couldn’t)
Him and gf break up. Great right? Wrong. While they were together, I had enough time to befriend gf.
He starts showing interest in me but I become distant because he just got out of a relationship and I felt like he was doing it to make his ex jealous.
And now, the present. This was all about 5 months ago and now I assume she’s over him. I’m not though and idk what to do. I wanna talk to him more but I just feel like he thinks I hate him. He still try’s to talk to me sometimes but I always mess it up and it makes it seem like I hate him even more. I give short answers but if I give a long one I make it too awkward or get too nervous and I feel like if I get nervous then I’m making it obvious that I like him. So I kinda like avoid him but I wanna talk to him at the same time. Idk. :,) | Crushes |
My mental state is on the verge of collapsing from staying up so late again. But for once I'm being productive and doing my school work.
Though its because my crush is my partner.
I was looking at a problem I had a hard time understanding how he got a specific answer for this one question, and I just figured it out. I know he got the correct solution and I just figured out how he got it.
I dont know why that makes me so happy. I think I should sleep soon.... But i want to finish this so I don't disappoint him. | Crushes |
So, this is going to be like my blogging page, if anyone wants to give me some advice, you can do so but please don't judge me.
I'm going to start from the beginning of the year until now and ill fill in some gapes, I'll just put dates like a diary so enjoy! (I won't use real names for privacy reasons).
To catch you up with the situation:
I had this crush and I adored him let's call him... Luke, I made a friend, let's call her.... Krystal and she helped me to get talking to Luke and get his phone number, he doesn't talk to people first so I had to get out of my anxiety stage and actually talk to the guy which he is 2 years older than me so this year (2023) he's not at school, hes out in the workplace... that was my second crush out of all the years I've been alive which I am now 16 turning 17 this September. The first crush I spent 3 and a half years (year 7-a little ways through year 10) liking him, let's call him.... Kyden, so I got off liking him through using luke as a distraction because their was no other way for me to get over him because I get attached to people, just noting I never ever spoke to kyden once in my whole life and haven't till this day, so that's that and I'll continue on from here with New years day and this year (2023) I'm in year 11!
1st of February, Sunday, 2023
So.... Today is just like any other day except it's the new years, hopefully this year I'll get closer to Luke, I have been overthinking a lot of things like if he likes me just is very shy which my nan's friend, Margaret, said the same thing so, maybe that's just it he might like me but just is so shy or just is afraid of regection but im pretty sure he knows i like him so I dont think thats the case... I'm just not sure... he work at woolworths so he can't be too shy to talk to people. On Wednesday I'm going to text him and see if he's going to be busy if not Ill invite him to the pool, if he's busy on Wednesday, I'll ask if he's free on Thursday. Hopefully he says yes, but I don't know. If he does say yes I'm going to be so happy, one of the happiest I've ever been, the day is going to be so fun if he don't want to go to the pool because he might see people he knows I'll suggest the beach which it would be rare to see people you know unless you know there going there, either way I'm pretty sure it's going to be fun and I'll be able to be myself around him by the end of the day!
Thank you so much for reading! I'll continue the parts if you want to read more look at my profile and check my posts! 😁 | Crushes |
My mental state is on the verge of collapsing from staying up so late again. But for once I'm being productive and doing my school work.
Though its because my crush is my partner.
I was looking at a problem I had a hard time understanding how he got a specific answer for this one question, and I just figured it out. I know he got the correct solution and I just figured out how he got it.
I dont know why that makes me so happy. I think I should sleep soon.... But i want to finish this so I don't disappoint him. | Crushes |
19M and I haven’t had a crush that’s made me feel like everything is great and it’s all sunshine and rainbows for a long time. I had a flash of it earlier this year when my ex (21NB) and I started dating, and then my first crush after we broke up. The common denominator here was online dating, that’s where I met my ex, so there was really no butterflies or anything.
It would have happened in the fall of my freshman year of college but I took her to my fraternity’s formal in the forming stages of the crush (this was because I thought she liked me) and got friendzoned which sucked not gonna lie.
Sophomore year of high school, in early 2019 I had one spark that lit big time, she was in a few of my classes and had been an off and on crush since the eighth grade. This one just fizzled out.
Middle school though, oh boy. The two big ones happened in the sixth grade and the seventh grade, with the later one crossing over the summer into the eighth grade. The sixth grade one was a movie. I spent the whole first half of 2015 doing dumb shit to get this one dumbass girl to like me, it was cringe but also wholesome lol. 2014 was quite an awful year for me, and while this crush definitely took root at the end of that year when the new year rang in I was head over heels and everything felt so great.
Then the seventh grade one has a great origin story. The six weeks of the school year I spent being aloof and calling myself a “free agent” then, on October 8, 2015 my friend group and I started spilling tea in the group chat and I slipped out the arrogant line “I don’t have a crush, girls can come to me”. It was true but they didn’t believe me and spent a full hour trying to get me to say a name before I told one of them privately a random girl’s name that I thought was cute just to shut them up. This was the Thursday before a four day weekend so I was scared all weekend what school would be like on Thursday, and lo and behold we get into home room and he tells me “Guess who’s in my French class next period?”. Then I spent the rest of 2015 faking it until I made it, convincing myself that I liked her, and on the first day back from Christmas break it happened, I fell hard. The 2016 half of the school year was spent, once again, chasing a girl around and doing dumb things to impress her. Then, over summer 2016 I turned 13 and when I returned for eighth grade I was as cringe as ever, this time I decided to follow my crush into the show choir. I didn’t want to do it at all and felt awkward, but my urge to be around her was too strong. Unfortunately in December this crush too fizzled out because after 11 months of liking somebody without the balls to ask them out you begin to lose interest.
That was really the last super crazy crush I had. With the girl from sophomore year that crush began in April of eighth grade, and while it was strong it didn’t dominate my actions. And as I got older, the intensity of the crushes tended to get weaker, especially after COVID tanked my junior year in early 2020. Usually what would happen was the crush would begin, it wouldn’t be that strong, I would assess the situation for like two weeks, conclude I had no chance, and then try and succeed at getting over it so that nothing would be awkward. Sometimes these crushes would come back, but the cycle would always repeat again. Naturally in the time since late 2019 or so I’ve been more confident and comfortable in my own skin and have usually gone after people I at least kinda had a chance with, but it almost never materialized.
The other problem in all of this, is online dating. I’ve been on Tinder and Bumble for a little over a year now, and all I’ve found minus my ex were hookups and people to talk to because they lived too far away for me to go after it. It also really eliminated the need to look away from the swipe deck because I automatically had a better chance on Tinder and Bumble than I did with an acquaintance in real life. I do feel like the well is inherently poisoned with online dating but I don’t care enough to not use it. I’m also excited to see how it is when I study abroad next fall.
I have two years left of undergrad in college after this year ends and then probably one semester of grad school after that. Hopefully I’ll get more “school” crushes but I’ve only ever had one actual crush on a girl in one of my classes since college began. Maybe the magic will come back again. | Crushes |
I am not the entitled type but when I think such things like THIS, I feel that it is possibly true. Topic wise I mean. And if I’m having QUESTION on the internet of a guy is ignroing me then chances are he is.
Let’s get on how the story, So I was talking to this guy the other day and while we were in the middle of a convo he asked me what was up to? I told him and he told me what he was doing too. While I was talking he sends me the most random d pic ever. I don’t mind it, it’s a consensual thing but still…it can come off in some ways on different days.
I made a flirtatious comment to which he replied to my said comment with no emotion which was werid. I’m an empath and I can feel emotions from messages but with him, there was nothing. Then he rushes in another d pic. We exchange some sexy flirting whcih was just 2 texts ☠️idk what that was about but it all seemed weird to me. Like he was some robot. He just sent it just to send it. Because free will? I dunno. But it just felt like a dead end
Idk what that was about but the weirdest thing was that sent me a whole nude and dipped for the next 24 hours ☠️not replying to ANYTHING I said. I was texting him on his SECOND account for ‼️disclosure‼️but still that doesn’t mean anything. We always text there and he replies insanely fast. I was currently blcoked by number. So I figured his second account would do. He used to switch back and fourth from his main to his second to text me since I didn’t text his main until he gave me his number to save himself the struggle.
So 20 hours later he replies back to me. It’s also my birthday and ppl who chat to me will see it on my profile so HE KNOWS. My birthday wasn’t a big deal to me tho. He told me he basically went on his main account after texting me and when I texted him he GOT a notification on his main saying he got a text on his second account!! He ends his “explanation” there. Like I know he gets a notification….that was sitting there for 20 hours…like ik you saw it!!
I feel like he just laid down his entire process of him, ignoring me. He told me he saw the notification!! And he’s never done this before and he knew it was my birthday, but he acted like he didn’t know too. | Crushes |
Ok so apparently when we made out I said I was wet and I literally wanna die. Also umm he might have a crush on another girl in year 12 and now I feel like absolute shit and I don’t know what to do. Sorry this is short but idk. | Crushes |
Welll this might be long.
I male have a massive crush on my female roommate! Been crushing on her for months probably 2 months after she moved in with me. We do a lot of things together. we watch a lot of tv and stuff together. we play games constantly on our phones like the game pigeon thingy. I’m trying super right now to get over this crush on her but I’m struggling hard.. I constantly get confused when with her, there’s times where I think she actually likes me or flirting but then there’s time where I feel like she doesn’t like me at all. Sometimes when I get next to her she tells me to move away or she walks away from me, it hurt when she does that. Other times we joke about sexual stuff to watch other constantly in text and in person. There’s time I’m super confused and I wanna tell her I like her but I really don’t wanna ruin our friendship… I really like what we have right now and saying soemthing to her it’s gonna hurt is what I feeel like……
If you guys want more detail I can just let me know (she’s on Reddit so I don’t want her to know…) and sorry if the grammar isn’t good
Thanks y’all | Crushes |
I have been having intrusive and depressive thoughts which was starting to cause slight anxiety. He doesn't have to do anything. He just exists there and my brain just shuts up. It taught me of how it feels like to live with stable mentality.
I guess it's another good therapy :) | Crushes |
This is an extremely embarrassing situation but I have a very very intense crush on a coworker of mine. I wouldn’t ever in my right mind get involved with a coworker like this but I’m finding it very hard to move on. I’m very scared that the coworker (or other coworkers) will find out too. I don’t mind appreciating the coworker from afar and going about my day but lately the coworker has been acting a little bit different towards me and I am so paranoid they figured it out. I don’t know what to do. I think they might be a little interested too and that’s even more terrifying (didn’t think they were originally but lately…I can’t tell, but I also can’t read people very well).
I’m not looking for the generic “don’t get involved with a coworker” advice as I’m aware and I agree. I mainly really don’t know what to do in this situation.
I wish I could move on and get over it but it’s really hard when I see the person every work day. I haven’t had feelings for another person since I was a teenager (10+ years ago…) so these feelings are all very scary to me and I don’t know how to process them. I’ve never been in a relationship either and it’s been impacting my self esteem pretty badly. | Crushes |
TL;DR: I’m worried that my crush (M18) thinks I (F17) look like a male because he’s jokingly (I hope) called me “mr” and “a guy” before.
My crush has called me a guy or “mr” a couple of times, in person and in text. The reason it’s an ongoing joke is because around last year, I had a handful of people misgender me, with the most recent happening being in December (my friend’s 22 year old sister thought I was a dude in one of his pictures😭). He knows it bothers me so he calls me one as a joke bc we tease each other like that.
However, because of my wonderful habit of overthinking, I’m starting to wonder if he actually thinks I look like a boy. Tbh I don’t really have many feminine features, I’m 5’5 with broad shoulders, barely any chest, and wear baggy clothes due to low self esteem, so now I’m worried he may think I look like a whole man. Also not to sound like a pick-me but I’m also worried he may see me as “just another one of the guys” like my other guy friends do, mostly because of my lack of femininity.
Plz I need advice 😭🙏 if you need more info then just ask | Crushes |
This new girl came to our school 4-5 weeks ago and I’m not joking she’s in every single class I have except for 1, I’m pretty much in love with her as much as I can tell, she has the same taste in music as me (Lorna shore, fly leaf, lamb of god, etc.) and she’s pretty much all I can think about at times I’ve flirted with her a bit and idk if she’s been flirting with me at all, I remember she brought up she has no gag reflex though which I will remember for the rest of my life, and we make tons of eye contact, I know eye contact isn’t some crazy thing that means they like you but I think she does like me though, idk why but something tells me. | Crushes |
I 20 (F) am typically attracted to older men, I personally prefer someone who is a couple years older due to their maturity. However, there is someone in my class who is 19 (M) who I find myself attracted to. It’s weird for me because he seems to be older than he is. And I know i’m only a year older but is it considered weird? | Crushes |
we're both in high school still and for a while both of us have been making heavy eye contact but most of the time i look away. we just had a show for dance and he always stands next to me and i feel this tension between us but idk what it is? he hugs me and holds my hand for longer than needed when dancing and for group numbers he always stands next to me to be partners, but at the same time he was patting is dance partners head and telling her that he liked her costume and hugging her. after he did those things though he either looked at me or tapped on my shoulder to give me a fist bump (i always do it to him). i don't know why though and he's really confusing me...what do you guys think? also he’s always talking to other ppl but when i try to start a conversation with him it’s either two words or he responds while standing next to me/not making eye contact or pacing :( idk what to do | Crushes |
She’s my hallway crush and is exactly LIKE EXACTLY my fictional character type of crush (cringe) and we’ve talked before but haven’t talked around 2.5 months…
I couldn’t handle the 9 hour messages man, so I reacted to her last message on insta and stopped just because I lost hope.
How do I not think about her? should I just wait till something happens or do a try to crush on someone else challenge?!?
I tried doing my usual self routine but she plays the same sports as I do and listens to the same artist man….SOS | Crushes |
So on Thursday I was in PE with my crush when the conversation about our parents came up, then came the venting and just talking about our problems/trauma. I found out that we are actually kind of similar and share the same type of problems. This made me think that we are closer and feel like I can confide in them more then I would anyone else. I’ve never met someone so similar to me ever. This brings me so much comfort and weirdly happiness. I have no idea if this is progress or not but either way I’m pretty happy. :) | Crushes |
I had this crush for a bit over 9 months.. I have got over him a bit but everytime someone mentions his name my heart breaks and I nearly cry because of how much I liked him but... he never even talked to me first, I always had to talk to him first so, I got sick of it and decided to try to get over him. I Finally got to the point where I don't think of him constantly, I'm still trying to get over the feeling of my heart hurting/breaking everytime I hear his name... or try to sooth the feeling... does anyone have any tips? | Crushes |
I never have any opportunities to see her in person so this is pretty much the only way. Anyway, we met about a year ago. She actually became one of my coworkers. Throughout the whole time we worked together I got subtle hints that she was into me. I was a manager and I had two shifts a week working with just her and one other person. She’s rlly cute and we always had fun working together. The problem was, I couldn’t do anything because she was 17 (I’m 21) She just turned 18 not long ago and I added her on snap today. I’m trying to take it slow and not appear desperate. | Crushes |
so i added a guys's snapchat and found him super attractive. he is my friend's friend.
and we start doing the snapchat streaks. we have chatted for like two months but just some short conversation.
last week, i had a urge to ask him out. i typed something like "hi um would u mind hanging out with someone you are not that close with? cuz u r so coool i wanna hang out w u"
he replied "unfortunately im having a study break. maybe after my exam? lol"
i was happy because i thought i have chance to meet him. but the next day i saw his insta story, he hanged out with his friends. the next next day also!
i dunno if he just doesn't want to make the conversation awkward or he really wanna hang out with me. he told me something that he didn't told his other friends, he always reply my messages. im so confused!!
should i ask him out again after his exam or just let it go????
i really need some advice🥺🥺
i also need some advice on how to be closer to him!! thank you!!!! | Crushes |
just tryna figure out how i can stop being bombarded with pressure the weight of a boeing 757 when im around her and just be more comfortable and just act normal | Crushes |
Hi | Crushes |
i confessed and got rejected last night. he says he doesn't think he's ready for a girlfriend right now. i am pretty sad. ive been cool for the most part but i just randomly think about it and start crying. i already told him i would be his friend still so i feel like i have to stand by it now but i don't want to. i did later tell him i need some space but that i'd tell him when i'm ready to talk. but now that im thinking back, i dont want that anymore.
he says our friendship isn't damaged, but to me it is. i definitely care about him but i don't want to keep myself in a situation that it is painful for me. and i'm bad at hiding how i feel so i know it's only a matter of time before i come clean and admit i don't want to be his friend. but i don't want to hurt his feelings. but mine will be hurt i don't. i do lean more towards the selfish side when it comes to feelings so i care more about how i feel and what will make me feel best... cutting him off is what will do that. i just hate that i have to hurt my friend to do it.
i think i will just not come back instead of saying something. that sounds like the best thing to do. but what if he eventually asks me if i'm ready or tries to talk to me again? this is why i want to just tell him. i feel stuck in a situation i don't want to be in. being his friend is just going to hold me back from moving on. because i've been trying for months and it always set me back whenever we'd speak. i don't know what to do. i am taking this pretty hard. should i just wait and be his friend or stay away and not say anything about it? | Crushes |
One of my friends added his friend into our groupchat. I got to be pretty good friends with him and developed a crush. I just felt we clicked and he’d always message and talk to me after group calls ended via DM. I know it’s a small thing, but idk it made me feel nice. I didn’t think it was reciprocated initially but for some reason I felt things shifted in our friendship and I decided to tell him how I felt. He was nice about it but ultimately said that “now isn’t the right time but maybe there would be interest in the future” (I had told him it was ok to be upfront with me mostly because I needed closure on things).
I took it as a no, and after avoiding him for like a week we just resumed our friendship as normal. After about a month one of our mutual friends told me he had begun developing interest in another girl. Again, I just brushed past it. But throughout these months, our mutual friends kind of said stuff like “oh you never know if things change” or “I don’t know, he seems to have more pep when he talks to YOU”. I stupidly kind of let it get to me and thought maybe things changed. But then all of a sudden after a few months he just stopped talking to me as much. He stopped sending those little DMs after group calls. I took it kind of hard and didn’t speak to anyone as much. I did apologize if I made things awkward and we left on an ok note but again, with no contact.
Now I come to find that he announced he had a girlfriend to the group (the one night I wasn’t on). Maybe he tried to spare my feelings but I felt bad thinking I made things awkward to the point where he couldn’t say anything to me. I know we haven’t spoken in months but i can’t help but feel so awful and crappy. Anyways that’s all, I just wanted to get this off my chest. | Crushes |
Hey y’all, so I’m terrified of rejection but I think this guy likes me but I need help reading some behaviors. I’ll list the behaviors that I think make it most obvious, thanks in advance 🙃 for reference, im a 20 yo female and he is a 19 yo male.
-he remembers really small details I have told him
-always walks behind me in group, but by my side when it’s just us
-always plays music I like when I’m driving (he remembers my favorite songs)
-I catch him staring
-We met in a group setting, so when we are in the group he typically always sits with me and singles me out
-he always asks for clarification when I talk about other men in my life (like, do you like him? Do you think he is cute?)
-he likes to tease me and poke fun at me
-makes plans/suggestions for the future
-we have little traditions together that other people in our friend group can also recognize
-He will call another girl cute and look at me for a reaction after he says the comment (this is the he one that trips me up) | Crushes |
Sooooo I've likes this boy since I moved here sophomore yeah and we had a class together and we were just kinda sorta friends at this point but everytime we passed in the hall he would always smile and say hi. We didn't have any classes junior year together but he would still say hi everytime he saw me and there was the ocarional how are you doing. Fast forward to this year, we had a class together the first semester and he chose to sit next to me and we talked a lot and he would even choose me as his partner for multiple 2 person project (he is pretty popular so he could have easily gotten a lot of other people to be his partner) or noticing my nail polish or just like the little things like that. This semester I asked him if he maybe wanted to hangout some time but he said no so I just kinda left it alone cause I didn't wanna be to pushy. We have a lot of mutual friends tho and they are always trying to get me to make a move even when I tell them I literally have no chance like they might know something maybe. So last night was prom. It was a lot of fun and at the end of the night je wanted to take a picture with me which I was not expecting, and the last slow song of the night was coming on so I asked him to dance and he said yes and we talked the entire time and he asked questions about my after high school plans and listened while I was talking and he told me about his plans. I feel like I might be making up any chance he might like me in my head but there's a chance I'm not, what do yall think??? I think we would be awesome together just knowing who he is and our values and everything but I have no idea if he likes me back
Sorry for all the words!!!! | Crushes |
i (F13) started liking C (M13) recently, he’s about 7.5 months younger and a grade below me and i just want to know if that’s a weird age difference because of how we’re in different grade levels. but back to this, i’m not sure if he’ll like me back or just find me weird and creepy, i need advice | Crushes |
me and my crush are like this close to taking it further but I'm kinda just sitting in the friend zone. We are currently good friends and they are single but I don't want to ruin any friendship we currently have by asking her out (I'm also inexperienced in dating as a whole). I've been told I also seem unobtainable and I don't know what to do. Ideas anybody? :( | Crushes |
So I’ll try to make it simple, but my brother stole my phone one night and texted my crush and told him. He said he liked me back but that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. I dealt with that, made it apparent that it was my brother but that I did like him (my brother was pretty rude and I didn’t want him to think that was me) and yeah. For like a week after, I actually believed he liked me back. After that I’ve been switching between being sure he doesn’t to not knowing at all. We talk every day and at every opportunity we can, but I’m not sure if he wants to or I’m forcing it on accident or something. Though, he’s come up to me first before, so I think he wants to. Either way, we text a lot but I always text first.
One thing you need to know - I’ve never had a boyfriend my whole life. I haven’t even had anyone like me back. I think that’s the reason I’m ‘in denial,’ as my friends say, but I don’t know. Maybe it’s also because he’s perfect. Oh yeah, everyone thinks we’re dating and says we act like it. I also don’t believe it because I think he was just being nice and didn’t want to reject me.
Well, it’s been three months since that thing happened with my brother, and nothing has really changed. I want to do something but I don’t know if I should, and if I should, I don’t know what to do. That’s one of two things I need to know - that and if he even likes me. If anyone has any answer I’d really appreciate it | Crushes |
so this really nice guy is leaving for boarding school 10 hours away. i have like no chance with him because there are a bunch of older girls he hangs out with sometimes, but there is something going on between me and him and idk what. i used to just like him for fun and as a rebound bc i got heartbroken by this guy, but then it got serious. we do all our school stuff together because we have the same schedule, but outside of school we don’t do anything besides the spring musical. he’s a soccer player and really advanced for his age, so he plays on the older teams. once he leaves i probably will never see him again because we’re in different friend groups, so i don’t know what to do before he leaves. HELP | Crushes |
No apology, no explanation, nothing. She just texted me like nothing happened
She often replies hours later and she usually says something like " sorry I was doing x" or simply " sorry late reply" and it's fine but nine hours feel like too long tbh and can't be a coincidence and I feel ignored
Am I overreacting?
What I wanted to add is that I didn't text her out of the blue.
We were actually having a conversation and she disappeared for 9 hours (I saw her online on another app) then texted me back like nothing happened. Like maybe " i gtg" or " sorry late reply" would've been nicer idk maybe she doesn't know that I'd care
It has happened before and I keep making her excuses every time but It feels a bit like an ick now and ofc she doesn't have to talk to me and all that but then why would she text me first this is confusing | Crushes |
TLDR: I dont know how to approach a girl that takes the same bus as me and it's starting to make me feel horrible that I can't even give it a shot, because of my low self-esteem and low confidence in myself.
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I'll try to keep it short. Basically, I'm studying at uni and I travel to and from uni everyday on a bus or a train. And this semester I have seen this girl a few times taking the same bus as me. She peaked my interest the first time I saw her. But that's about it. After that I didn't see her for a while, until recently. Saw her about 2 more times. And the last time, I noticed that she was looking at me.
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(basically looked at me over her shoulder while we were waiting in the line and when I was walking down the isle in the bus, she was looking at me until I passed by her)
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For someone like me who never had any experience with girls beyond just friendships, it was rather awkward on my side. I didn't know what's going on. Maybe i did something wrong or idk.
But it did peak my interest again. I tried asking my friends if they know her, because they live in the same town where she gets off the bus. One of them managed to find her on facebook. But I didn't really go further with that as it seems rather creepy.
I think my best approach would be approaching her in person and trying to have a conversation. The problem is I have no idea how to start the conversation, how to approach her or anything really. The circumstances are really against me here. Due to only seeing her at a bus station and on the bus and having nothing to go off of.
I'm not that bad at talking to women. I have a lot of female friends at uni. I usually like to talk about something we have in common and at uni it's pretty easy cuz we have uni to bitch about and stuff like that. Otherwise I'm pretty dry I think. I can make jokes and be funny and entertaining to others, but I just crumble when there is nothing to go off of. I'm just silent and overthink everything.
It's making me feel horrible because similar thing has happened in the past many times. And I'm just so tired of never being able to even approach someone I might be interested in. I have missed so many opportunities it's just sad. I know I'm not the best looking guy and I have a lot of flaws as well, but idk. Maybe I make them look bigger than they actually are.
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I would appreciate some advice on this. | Crushes |
Do you think it's weird to send paragraphs? We've been sending each other loads of them (like four at a time) pretty long but my recent messages to them were longer than usual - should I delete then or apologise for sending longer paragraphs | Crushes |
# Hi, uhmm, i've never asked for any type of help or advice round here, but i think atm, I NEED IT.
**Context:**
So, i've been talking to this dude for like a month and a half, we've played on xbox and we talk like daily *(insta)*, i've seen him in person 2 times cause i cooked him a few desserts that he went to pick them at my university *(the only place nearby where i could see him)*, and i really, REALLY, like him, like everytime i see his messages i start to smile, giggle and kick my feet. I've talked to him and his friends, he invited me to unos "quinceaños" of the sister of one of his closest friends wich live in ANOTHER STATE, and i don't know if that means that he actually sees "something" *(a formal relationship)* between us...
BUT, i've never told anyone that i like them, cause im scared of rejection and being humilliated *(obviously...)*, and im like freaking out, cause i don't want to scare him away, but i also want to know like *"what the* *~~fuck~~* *are we? Are we just "cotorreando" or what?"*, but i'm also trying to decipher if he ACTUALLY likes me or he's just playing with me, or im just delusional and i probably spend too much time overthinking everything...
*And i also looked at his follows in insta (baaad idea), and i'ts mostly these amazingly gorgeous girls, and im like "How my personality can compete with those stunning bodies?...", also i don't even know his last name, neither does he know mine...*
**Coming Soon, on April 29th...**
i invited him to eat pizza *(i literally do not care what or where we eat, i just want to talk to him...)* so i could get it out my chest and confess to him, BUT i don't know EXACTLY what to say to him on Saturday, i'm trying to write a speech *(because i have anxiety, and if i don't allign what im going to say to him, im going to panic, and we do not want to end in the hospital...).* And i'll gladly take any advice about it.
Thanks :) <3 | Crushes |
I asked this girl out a couple weeks ago and she said yes, fast forward to Friday and I get a message saying “I’m breaking up with you” and I’ve done nothing wrong, I don’t think it’s because I didn’t do much with her because I always tried to arrange stuff to do but she changed her mind last second. I feel like everyone “dates” me for the fun of it and I’ve completely given up on it. I always try to be as nice as possible to them but clearly I’m just not good enough. | Crushes |
This was literally a month ago and I forgot to post it but
we were at a party
I leaned in for a kiss
she reciprocated
We are now dating
Big success! | Crushes |
So i found out my crush who apparently has a crush on me or so he says, has a girlfriend. I found her Instagram and oh god, she's so lame. As long as she doesn't see this it's fine for me to be judgemental, right? So, the thing is, she's ugly. And lame. She uses those filters with the fake lashes and stuff and it's the lamest thing ever. They've been together for 2 years too! How could such a hot guy be with a girl like that?
And she has a terrible sense of fashion. I cannot describe how awful the things she wears are. Her clothes just don't match and it's like she's trying way too hard with her poses and stuff.
Don't get me started on her poses. She does the fuckin duck face in a lot of her photos and it's so cringe. And in some other pics, she has her tongue out in the lamest way possible like she's trying so hard to look cool. How can a guy with such a good sense of fashion be with a girl like that? And why does he say he likes me if he has a girlfriend? This is giving me a headache. | Crushes |
English is not my first language, so excuse me for any mistakes.
Ok, so there's a guy (15m), we'll call him "nick", in my class and I (15f) don't really "like" him, but we kinda get along, we usually have fun together and we also talk about serious stuff, like anxiety and shit. I really think he's an interesting guy, i've always thought we could become best friends, but lately I noticed I've been thinking about him more often and in different ways (I mean, more romantically). I also noticed that I've been a little jealous about a friend of mine (f14) who everybody thinks "likes" nick, because she always acts weirdly around him (she gets touchy, teases him and plays fight with him). My friend doesn't know about my little "crush" or whatever it is.
The problem is pretty much this: I don't know if i have a crush on nick or not. I know he'll never like me back so i should just let all of this go but i don't know.
TL, DR: I (f15) have a little crush on a classmate of mine (m15), but idk if it is actually a crush. I often catch myself thinking about him and i talk to my friends about him. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my coworker. I want to be his friend but I don’t know how to approach him. I chicken out every time I see him man. He’s always been the first to initiate contact but I don’t know how to talk to him without freaking out!! | Crushes |
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