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So I was already in 2 relationships that developed over a long time and at the beginning, I had only platonic feelings. But this now feels different, I met her at my uni just 4 months ago but I can't stop thinking of her, we are friends and we talked about relationships and she mentioned that she would never date someone in uni on the same course. Was this a clear signal from her that she wanted to keep our relationship platonic? Additionally, we went to a party with other friends and she was kinda flirty and cuddly but a little bit drunk so I didn't want to pursue anything while she wasn't sober. Now I found out she is in general very touchy with friends. I am just confused lol | Crushes |
My best friend asked me to hang out with her earlier today, so of course, I agreed. She came over and I helped her with homework, talked, all that stuff. Then she asked me if I wanted to go on a walk, and then we were off. She told me about things happening in her life that she doesn’t trust other people with, and I could tell she was about to cry from an overwhelming amount of emotions and thoughts, so I did my best to comfort her. We kept walking in the night, with a calm drizzle of rain dropping on our heads. Then she asked me something she brought up to me about a month ago, which was, “If it wasn’t intimate, and under other circumstances, would you kiss me if I wanted you too?” I said I definitely wouldn’t, because she has a boyfriend and I would hate to be disrespectful. Last time she added, “But what if somehow he was out of the picture?” I replied with, “Possibly,” and that was that. Today, I said the same thing to her, and she said to me, “Okay, I won’t ask you it then.” I said, “Okay,” and then realized that this meant that she actually was going to ask me if we wanted to kiss. “Wait, what,” I asked her. “You were going to ask me that?” She replied with, “Maybe,” and tilted her head down. We talked some more about it, taking long, silent pauses in between sentences. She told me she was surprised that I didn’t say that I would kiss her, and I told her that 1: it would be my first time, and I’d rather have it be intimate rather than meaningless (she said it wouldn’t be intimate). 2: it would be disrespectful towards the relationship between her and her boyfriend, who makes her happy. When we got back to my place, we just sat on the couch, silent, before we talked a bit more about it. I gave her a slightly longer hug than usual right before she left, and now I can’t stop thinking about it. Did I do the right thing by not kissing her? | Crushes |
I 22nb have a crush on my 20f best friend of six years. I know she doesn’t feel the same way as me, which should be fine, and most of the time it is, but idk. It’s been a rough mental health day and I can’t talk to her so I’ll talk about her instead. We met in high school, she (let’s call her W bc personal information and shizz) Did Not like me and I felt very similarly towards her. But we kept hanging out bc we’d hook up with or date each others mutual friend and it felt like. Idk there’s a trick my bio mom used to get cats we had to stop fighting where she’s wrap them tightly in a town and put them face to face until they just got used to each other, that’s how it felt hanging out with her at first. After a while, I graduated and we lost contact with each other until she texts me out of the blue and asks me if I want to party and do drugs with her and her boyfriend (at the time my best friend but he’s not too important to the story) and so we partied it up for a year and a half-ish. Wild stuff happens I move in with her a couple times to help her afford rent several times after she left her boyfriend. I’ve had crushes on her before, so I know she doesn’t feel the same way about me, even now, which is fine. I’ve never withheld help or support for her bc she doesn’t feel the same way about me, and I’d never ask her to change something about herself unless it was actively damaging her, but she is hurting rn. She’s living with her current boyfriend (an on and off fling she’s told me several times in confidence because he reminds her of a dead lover she’s had) but she constantly tells me she’s miserable, she feels like he doesn’t take her seriously, and she’s not over him cheating on her. I wish I could help her more but idk what to do. I know her well-being isn’t my responsibility, but idk. I’m sorry if this post just has no direction, I didn’t know where else to post it | Crushes |
My crush and I are pretty close. He send mixed signals which is why I am having a hard time deciding whether I should confess or not. Everytime he's with me he would always say he's comfortable with me the most. He would always lay his head on my shoulder and say I smell nice even tho I don't wear any perfume or cologne. He always sit close to me and would always make me laugh or smile by his jokes. He even said to his friends "When we graduate I would marry Honey". He's also really caring towards me. One time he saw on my friend list (Instagram) that I am friend with the pervert classmate of ours and he told me "Unfriend him" and I ask why he just replied "Just unfriend him". There was also this one time when his friend keep telling me to buy him snack which is no big deal for me because I'm used to buying others snacks during recess but when he heard, he told his friend no. And this one time when a classmate of mine keeps borrowing some of my stuff and he notices so, he said to me "You just can't say no, can you? You should learn how to say no or else people would take advantage of your kindness". The reason why I said he sends mixed signals is because my bestfriend is his ex. Everytime my bestfriend is there, he would always look at her like he misses her and sometimes when we talk, our conversation would always go to my bestfriend. I know I shouldn't like my bestfriend's ex, that's why I tried so hard to move on and forget about him but I just can't. Not when he keeps getting close to me. Everytime he notices that I am avoiding him he would talk to me and try to make me laugh. Everytime he comes to me, I would always think that maybe he's doing all of this just to make my bestfriend jealous. That's when I realized she still have feelings for him. I can't say the same for him. Sometimes he would show that he still have feelings for her but other times he would show that he moved on. He complety cut ties with her. He unfriended her on IG but everytime they see each other at school, they would always stare at each other's eyes. That guy confuses me a lot. Does he still like my bestfriend? If so he should stop getting so close to me because my bestfriend is getting jealous and he's hurting me by giving me false hope.
What should I do?? | Crushes |
Hi, so, this isn't just a fun little thought experiment, I (15m) have a crush on a guy in my class (16m), he's straight, knows I'm gay, and doesn't care. I know he isn't going to reciprocate the feeling, but I still want to tell him. So I ask you, How would you react to someone having a gay crush on you? | Crushes |
She knows of my feelings towards her and I'm pretty certain she doesn't like me the way I like her at this point, so yeah.
I struggle to make friends so I don't really have anyone else to talk to, which is probably the main problem at hand.
She's the only person who bothers to message me just for the sake of messaging me. She checks up on me just because she can. I appreciate that so so much and don't want to lose that, but it's making it incredibly difficult to get over my feelings for her. I feel horrible for feeling this way. I'm just trying to make other friends for now, but to now avail. Don't know what else to do. | Crushes |
So I was scrolling through my friends tiktok the other day and I realized I had a crush on her-
This sucks because I'm transmasc but I'm still fem presenting at school which sucks cuz she's straight, And i'm 80% sure she has a crush on this other guy
Any ways to help get over the crush so I won't be disappointed if she starts dating someone- | Crushes |
I’ve never had a conversation with him about beliefs (religion, politics, acceptance of minority communities). For all I know, he could be homophobic, even though that is a worst case scenario. I was wondering how I could approach this topic with him? | Crushes |
I developed a crush on a coworker, but I don't know if I should try and get closer to him. I'm pretty awkward and since we work in different areas, I can't find an excuse to actually talk to him. Sometimes I'll see him in the break room but I can't bring myself to talk to him because I'm afraid I'll bother him. He'll also be transferred out in a few months so I don't know if I should even try. Should I try talking to him? | Crushes |
It’s really eating me up. I have strong feelings for this girl and I always have these dreams about her and when I wake up it just really hurts. I’m 22M and she’s 21F and we used to work together. We both left that job but we still continue to talk almost everyday and I really like her a lot. Everytime I see her sending me texts or TikToks it really makes my heart flutter. The thing is though: she’s always so busy with her new job and she’s always hanging out with people instead of us hanging out and it really makes me sad. These people are so much better than I am… she looks like she has a better time hanging out with them than with me and I know she’ll never like me but it really hurts knowing that she will never feel the same way about me. I really enjoy spending time with her because we act so much alike and we are so comfortable with each other but I just know that she will never go for me. It hurts and I really don’t know how to accept it. | Crushes |
finally using this account for something LMAO (idk what flair to put so pls tell me)
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so there's this boy (call him Q if needed) that had a crush on me. emphasis on had. he has a crush on another person now, even tho he said he'd wait for my answer. i wish i could've told him i liked him too, but i was too nervous and needed more time. he's already apologized, and i forgave him, yet my heart has just a small crack from that.
i was planning on giving him a rose on valentines, since i promised him a rose last december, but i guess not. maybe i'll give him a note instead, because i always used to tell him he was cute through notes and because i told him i'd give him a rose through one. it really hurts me that i have to make one that isn't complimenting him, but more of...i don't know. telling him how i actually felt? i guess.
it's alright though. even with that small crack, i feel like i've already found someone that can heal it. | Crushes |
should i write him a letter ..? about how i feel instead of telling him face to face? i’m a bit anxious when it comes to confrontation | Crushes |
okay, so there’s this guy i’ve kind of had a crush on for the past few months. at this point i genuinely feel like i’m just going crazy and i’m reading too much into his intentions but still, i need someone to confirm if it’s just me and that he’s just being friendly, or if there’s a possibility he might’ve had an interest in me, at least at one point in time.
also let me just start off with the fact that he has a girlfriend - at least i’m pretty sure they’re still together.
a couple months back when we first met, we didn’t have any classes together so i asked for his number and he gave it to me. the thing is, he waited until after he gave me his number and an entire weekend of texting before telling me he had a girlfriend. i played it off and was sobbing into my sleeve as he gushed over how pretty she was, and she is. super pretty.
i decided i still wanted him in my life, and that we would be much better off as friends. i told him some things i wouldn’t tell anyone else, not even my closest friends. my low-self esteem, my problems with a guy & his friends who were bullying me at the time simply because i rejected him, just a lot of shit. he comforted me, telling me things like “if anyone tries to hurt you, tell me” and later on told me something that he “was only going to tell me”, going on a 5 minute vent about how he doesn’t think his relationship would last. i quite literally didn’t know what to tell him (we’ve been talking for about 2 weeks at that point) and responded as little as possible, trying my best to give him advice. he switched the subject pretty quickly after that and i still have no idea why that happened. it confused me.
i’d also like to mention his girlfriend suffered an injury at one point when i, ironically, was out of school. she would be gone for about 2 weeks and we would always walk together at the end of the day. after it happened, he made a couple remarks about the incident which i find… odd? your girlfriend just got punched in the face & you’re saying stuff like, “well at least she gets a free nose job” “she has such a nice nose… well had”???
regardless, he would always compliment me and praise my achievements throughout our friendship. i’ve never been complimented so much by one person, let alone at all so i suppose i was just new to this type of attention. i was new to all of this. i’ve never had much experience with boys; i’ve never had a real boyfriend, kissed anyone, been on a date, nothing.
hence why i’m seeking out advice now.
i was, of course, confiding in my friends about this boy - pretty much while it was happening live. they’ve seen me cry over him, they’ve seen me smiling from ear to ear after he would compliment me, i think one even told me how big my eyes would get when i saw him? (something along those lines)
however, my closest friends still grew a dislike for him when i told them about how he would often leave me on read, the fact that he gave me his number despite having a girlfriend, a bunch of other things they said were “red flags” and would calling him weird, ugly, emo, not all that, and that they didn’t know what i saw in him. they would scold me a lot too. telling me to “wake up”, how they were disappointed in me, one friend made a joke about me being an “accidental homewrecker”, “shame on you” and i agreed with them. because i knew that they were right.
side note: one of my classmates, who i assume saw me walking with him on one occasion, came up to me and asked me why i didn’t tell him i had a boyfriend. another one of my classmates overheard and asked me, in the most bewildered tone, “***you** have a boyfriend?*” she seemed utterly shocked at even the possibility of me having a boyfriend, which i’m still offended by. i shut them down and explained that we were just friends. i, however, did admit i liked him but that it doesn’t matter anyway because he has a girlfriend. they told me “it doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend if he’s spending so much time on you.” (this would be the **fourth** time someone responded with, “it doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend”) still, i wanted to ask them if it was really that unfathomable that someone would be interested in me. *am i really that bad?* i didn’t, obviously.
on another occasion, my crush came up to me and told me “a girl who says she’s your friend told me you liked me today” and then i just straight up panicked. i didn’t confirm or deny it, i just let it sit there in the air. he seemed to find it humorous, just remarking that it was a weird encounter and shrugged it off. i, however, was hell bent on setting things straight. i confronted her and she told me that i should “steal him” and “date him anyway”. apparently she had a real distain for his girlfriend. i didn’t really know what to say to that, i just know i felt used. i then told her to tell him that she was mistaken, and that she was thinking of a different girl, not me. she did. i still don’t know if he believed that, but he never brought it up again which i will forever be thankful for. thinking back on it actually, i wonder if the reason why he seemed so chill about it was because he was used to it. like, he seemed to have a lot of friends who were girls and maybe a similar scenario has happened to him before. maybe he was just cueing up his rejection.
he skipped class to hang out with me once, i’m using the words “hang out” loosely because we didn’t really talk. we kinda just sat there. my friend (who doesn’t always have the kindest things to say about him) was with me at the time and spent the whole hour or so side-eyeing him and told me (well, texted me. we were messaging each other back and forth because we didn’t want him to hear) that she didn’t really want to talk to him.
eventually his girlfriend did return to school, which he did mention and still tried his best to walk with me, along with another friend but at that point i already decided to avoid him. i don’t know, i translate things weird. when he said “my girlfriend’s back”, i heard “i don’t want to hang out with you anymore” so i quite literally tried everything in my power to distance myself. i started leaving him on read, talking to him less in general, and there was even a time where i grabbed my friend and **bolted** down the hallway just so he wouldn’t be waiting to walk with me. he ended up being right behind me and looked at me straight in the face but again, he never mentioned it.
ironically i think it was the day after that incident where he came up to me and told me he was leaving. like, he told me he was leaving the school **that day** right when i was walking out the door. i told my friends what happened and they said it was cruel how he didn’t tell me beforehand and that he was stupid anyway. but there’s this thing he would constantly do where he would think we were closer than we actually were. all the things i’ve written up to this point all happened in a span of, like, two months. then again, i did that too. i still do otherwise i think i wouldn’t be writing all this.
we still texted despite not physically talking anymore, but after a while the texts became less and less frequent which i admit was on my end. i didn’t respond anymore because i thought i was moving on at the time, but now i realize i was just transferring the feelings i had for him onto someone else. after i got rejected by this someone and my friends laughed at the whole thing, the only thing on my mind was my crush. so, i texted him without thinking - which my friend scolded me for. i didn’t tell him what happened or anything like that, but that was probably one of the most embarrassing moments of my life, i cried when i got home.
skip to literally last week, i decided it would be a good idea if me and my friends would go out somewhere. they all said yes except one who said she couldn’t make it due to a doctor’s appointment, instead she said i should invite my crush. (she would later claim that she was being sarcastic and called me stupid because it was “obvious”) i did, and he said he might want to come. her and another friend said i shouldn’t of invited him, one of them even said now she’s *definitely* not coming simply because he’s coming. i told another friend what i did and just heard it all again; how disappointed she was in me, how hopeless i was, how i’m just “relapsing”, how pathetic this whole situation was and that i shouldn’t of let it go on for so long. the only thing i could do was laugh and tell her “yeah, i know.”
a mutual friend of mine pointed out that he would probably just bring his girlfriend along, i told her i wouldn’t care either way and that he probably won’t show up. she gave me a *“seriously…?”* look and i kind of just shut up.
i understand this is very very **very** long and i apologize if this seems utterly pathetic of me, but i genuinely need the advice of other people who may or may not have experienced what i have. what to do, what to say, and most importantly if i’m just crazy and read too much into things because that’s how i’ve been feeling for months. i also feel as if nobody would truly understand if i didn’t write my entire point of view. but honestly i’ll probably just end up deleting this. | Crushes |
So I (18 M) currently have a crush on this girl (we will call her F). I don't know much about her, only her name. The feeling kept growing each day that passed, and it has been like this for around 3 months. We only know each other because she trained me and it's really the only time when she talked to me. I am sure the way she talked to me and how she looks attracted me, and I cannot stop looking at her. At this point I feel like she has already forgotten my name, but who knows.
Every time at work I try to know in which area she is working and I try to match the time when she goes to break so we are together. I also try to make eye contact with her and she does look at me, but that's probably because I turn my head and she notices. We have also bumped into each other's way so many times, and most of the times one of us will say sorry, or thank you when we open the door for each other.
I have always wanted to greet her, specially this last week since I haven't seen her for 2 whole weeks and she just came back. But either my mind doesn't react quick enough because I always say hi to other coworkers, or I don't expect her to be there and I just stay in shock.
But then there's this other girl (we will call her C) that is quite new to the team. She is always trying to make conversation with me, but I don't really feel like she likes me. She's always nice and just starts speaking while I'm always quiet. She also talks with other people, and that's the main reason why I feel like that's just her personality. I have tried liking C before because I know it's harder to be with F, but I'm still attached to F.
Anyways, what do you guys think about this whole situation? I saw F last night when I was leaving work. It was her day off and for some reason she was with a male coworker who also had the day off. I still have a thought that they are together because I don't know why they were at work. | Crushes |
I (23F) am in an unfortunate situation this year where I’m stuck in a house with my ex boyfriend and our housemates who are mutual friends for both me and my ex. For some context my ex had been a dick from early in the lease until I finally had enough, at which point he decided he’d gone too far
A few weeks ago we threw a house party and my ex made a snide comment about me when a guy gave me a hug for letting him have some of the vodka I bought. This descended into an argument as I was very drunk and in the state I was in felt like it was a step back to his previous behaviour.
Later in the night I snapped at one of my housemates (let’s call him T) as on 2 occasions (prior to the party) where it had come up that I’d been cheated on he would leap to my exes defence when not only was I not talking about my ex, but as far as I know he never cheated on me.
As the night went on I kept drinking and after people left I was listening to music on the couch and fell asleep. I was later woken up but T who held my hand and took me to my room. He gave me a long hug and I sincerely apologised for snapping at him. He broke the hug and looked straight into my eyes for a while with his face very close to mine (idk accurately how long as I was almost blackout) and then pulled me into another hug at this point he started speaking but I couldn’t tell what he was saying. Then he made sure I got into bed to sleep before he left.
I was speaking to a friend about this and she said it sounded like there might be something going on there and told me to ask him what he said. I had only thought that he had been worried about me and nothing more so I’m posting on here just to ask for some clarification. Thank you in advance | Crushes |
I am M19. My crush is a poet and often sends me her poems to read. Yesterday she sent me a poem and I complimented two lines that particularly hit me. Exactly 3 mins later she reposts the lines in her Status. Is this a sign? | Crushes |
yeah, he’s just friendly. i told him today and he let me down really gently, but holy hell do I need to sob. i opened his message but didn’t answer him yet. he told me he would really like to stay friends, but i just can’t. i like him so much | Crushes |
`So apparently my friend told my crush that i had a crush on her. He says that she said she didnt like me but then i go to class the next day and she flirts with me a bit so idk im thinking maybe i call her and ask her out or something idk i need some other people to give me ideas.` | Crushes |
He already has a girlfriend but they have been fighting lots recently and everyone ships up together so i just wanna get him to like me too. | Crushes |
thinking about him makes me feel so nauseous but i still like him???? | Crushes |
I thought I was slick liking the tall awkward guy that’s BARELY at school, but I guess not.
She likes him ofc she does she’s pretty, quiet and nice and she could have anyone but she wants him after knowing I like him. God | Crushes |
is it normal when a guy whom i knew for quite sometime rn wants to touch my hands, gave me a back hug once, and patting on my head.,., | Crushes |
I never spoke to her before, we have glanced at each other before but it was very rare occurrences. She sometimes would sit next to me but that was rare as well.
one day, teacher sets desks in groups, she didn’t sit in my group but my teacher forced me to join a group cuz i was by myself, I sat somewhere else and i overheard my crush’s friend saying “i don’t think he isn’t gonna sit here”. Then my crush replied with “idc” awkwardly. I’m not sure if i was the only boy that had to find a group though. When packing up I took my id off and took a small glance at her and she caught me She didn’t give any expression.
Then this new student joined the class, my crush spoke to her and then the next day, our desks were in rows again, i asked teacher for help on question, he was helping me and my crushes friend (new student) decides to give me a packet with the answers to the question. It’s werid how they were paying attention to the convo with me and my teacher and the question i was doing since i wasn’t near them and everyone was doing there own thing.
couple of days after that our tables are set in groups again, my crushes friend and the rest of my crushes friends sits
at my group table. My crush wasn’t here that day tho. The day after that they did it again but my crush was here and she sat in the group. She was talking about how she was rejecting some ugly short guy and how he desperately kept asking her out. I felt like maybe she was targeting at me cuz i’m insecure my self and i wear a hood so maybe she knows i’m insecure I also feel like her and her friends probably sit with me to find out if i have a crush on her even tho i havnt shown signs except staring at her when i took my id off but the last time i stared at her before the id thing was months ago. Also during kahoot my crushes friend poked my back (i was turned aroukd cuz board was behind me)I didn’t react tho
A day after that our desks are set in rows again and this time my crush and her friends are sitting near me and my crush sat right behind me. I honeslty think maybe they want to speak to me and i want to say something. I have her friends in other classes but i only got one class with my crush. Idk what to tell them tho tbh and if i approach her friends maybe there friends will think i have interest in them instead of my crush. Btw they all never speak to me
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I don't want to have romantic feelings for my friend, he likes someone else and i don't feel good wanting him as a partner instead of a friend. Any tips? | Crushes |
She has tortoises and a while ago we tried testing if they were racist towards black shoes. Sadly, they weren’t racist, but I’ve been thinking if it might be possible to teach her tortoises to attack black shoes in exchange for food. Asking if she wants to teach her tortoises to be racist kinda seems weird though. Thoughts? | Crushes |
I’m honestly confused about how I feel. But I can’t keep this secret that there may be feelings there. It’s eating me alive. I’m gonna say it over text. Bc I can’t get the words out. Pls help me lol. | Crushes |
There's this guy. he's amongst the popular clique, who only hang out with themselves, I'm, not saying I'm unpopular I still talk to everyone including him and his group. On my main account, where post more pics of my friends and things I've done, he never likes post, or views my stories. But, on my account where I post special selfies, and when I post on my story, he always views. He also never views my friends stories or post. The second account is one none of his friends really follow. But at school he teases me and is sometimes mean to me tf does this mean | Crushes |
So there’s this new guy in my class. I’ve liked him since like September. He just does a bunch of little things and I don’t know if he’s doing this to be nice or if he likes me (He doesn’t do this to anyone else). Sometimes I’ll catch him staring at me and whenever we make eye contact, he smiles at me( 🤪😍🫠) And like whenever we do competitive games in class (like in Latin) whenever the teacher asks for one representative from each group and I’m in his group, he says I should go. I don’t know if this is bc he likes me or bc I have like a 99/100 in Latin… and like sometimes he‘ll just talk to me out of the blue out of the most random stuff. One time, he came up to me and just like stood there for a sec as if he was gonna say something and I was like. ‘hi…?’ And he just left. Idek what that was abt. (I really hope he didn’t think I was being mean when I said hi 😭😭) Anyways, do y’all think he likes me??? | Crushes |
Idk know what to say anymore. It sucks. Maybe I shouldn't have talked to her. God, I'm so mad at her, but it's not her fault. I'm really happy for her but, you know, I just wished it was me instead. I stayed up until 3 in the morning and scrolled through, happened to find her and her BF. They looked so perfect together. Maybe she was just being nice to me since she already got a bf. Ya know. Maybe I should have signed up for military service. | Crushes |
Imma keep this short: My friend asked her if she would ever date me, she said no. | Crushes |
Every time I see you I get so nervous and I'm always blushing when you talk to me. I'm self conscious of every little thing I do because I don't want you to think I'm weird. I even try to make my giggle cute when you tease me or do something embarrassing. It's like I'm back in high school and I don't know how to act around you. My heart starts beating faster when you're near me and I'm always drawn to your gorgeous green eyes. Why are you so darn cute??
It's been years since I've had a crush and I feel so giddy but unfortunately I don't think he likes me back so here I am expressing my feelings and thoughts on reddit. Also I don't really talk to him anyway, just on the rare occasion I see him at work but ahhh he's so cute | Crushes |
I've liked this girl for five years now, she knows I like her but acts as if she didn't I've never told her about my feelings, but my friends have. They just couldn't keep a secret. The worst part, is the fact that she is way out of my league. I mean im a sold 7 but short and on the verge of being over weight. I really like her and think about her every day. I know i'll never tell her but I like to admire her. She is so gorgeous and her smile lights up the room. Other girls like me but not her, not the girl I like. Were mutual friends as in I make her laugh sometimes or we chit chat. But I can never really have a normal conversation as in the back of my mind I know she knows that I like her. If only they didn't tell her. If only I looked better. If only I was in her league. Then, maybe, she'd like me.
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I mean she is freaking beautiful, i mean just out standing. | Crushes |
Okay I already asked advice on a thread but I just really need more advice. Please help!! 😭 So I met this cute guy since 2-3 weeks. We had two classes together before he switched out of class but we exchanged contacts. Out of five conversations by text I started like 3 of them and the two of them he did start was to tell me he switched classes and the second was to say that he couldn’t hang out due to his science competition coming up which is true and totally understandable. BUT we do text quite a lot back and forth because he answers pretty fast, and I was very stressed at the beginning that I was texting too much but he always texted equally or addressed everything I texted him. He uses emojis and I think he is starting to pick up the fact that I love emojis. He reacts to my messages with different emojis, he makes jokes, he explains stuff in solid paragraphs for me and he always asks questions back to me and wished me luck on things I do. Or one thing I said I didn’t have a great day but I was wearing a cute outfit so it made me feel better. Then he told me that due to the event I was at probably tons of people saw my outfit too so it’s good AND THATS SO CUTE 😭😭😭. I don’t want to jump to the gun cause honestly he just seems so friendly and right from the bat when we first met he would joke around in class with me, he invited me to come visit him when he did science stuff the first 2 hours we met and is just so nice 😭. Whenever he sees me at school he would say hi and bye and even ask me how my day is when we quickly pass each other in the hallway. But like we talked in person LIKE 4 TIMES ONLY the rest is texting. But I dont believe he is single like is very handsome and smart and friendly 😭😭😭.
Now I did try to be forward and asked him if he wanted to study with me cause he told me we had a common break and he kindly told me no the first time cause his competition is coming up. I am too scared to ask another time and be clingy and I don’t know if I should try initiating conversations with him anymore without making it look unnatural or that I try too hard. ALSO VALENTINES DAY IS COMING UP and I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I should ask him out cause it’s too early but like what if early is good?? But I am too scared to be rejected and I don’t think there will be anymore good opportunities to talk to him. I feel too clingy always starting text convo😔.
What should I do? Should I keep trying or should I just not start conversations anymore and just give up because he is not interested? Honestly I would be down just to be friends but it’s hard to know 😔 | Crushes |
I’ve talked to him once, but I want to start talking to him more and try to build a friendship and get to know him better. I have no idea on how to talk to him other then class. For some background, we share one class but it’s more of an independent work class, barley any projects or group work, the one time I talked to him it was about class for an assignment due. I want to start talking to him more but I don’t want to be annoying with just asking about class every time. Any suggestions? | Crushes |
That he's the one I want. That I've turned down others for him. How can you love someone so much without even hearing their voice? When I get a crush, I crush so hard that it hurts me. Why? Why can't I get his attention? I don't want anyone else's. I only want to exist for him. But he doesn't know I exist. I'm nothing to him. A nobody. A hopeless romantic. 😔 I'll always be chasing. The light at the end of the tunnel just keeps getting further and further away from me. Please, someone. Take the pain away. Take away my ability to love anyone romantically. | Crushes |
After a bad relationship, I didn’t think I’d be able to bounce back from it for a long while. But we got a new coworker recently, I will call him Glalie for reasons I shall detail.
Glalie is, first and foremost, my physical type. I have a thing for nerdy looking guys. Think, if you’ve ever seen yugioh players on YouTube, guys like Cimo and Gage. Cute, tall, glasses, kinda squishy. He fits the bill perfectly.
He gravitated towards me instantly. We both share a love of the same games and music, and he’s made a point to talk to me instead of everyone else. He is so sweet and I can feel my heart all fuzzy whenever I think about him. Here’s to hoping it builds and he feels the same.
The reason I’m calling him Glalie, is within the first hour or so of talking, we talked about shiny Pokémon and I told him I was trying to get a shiny Glalie. He said he’d caught one of those fairly recently, I told him if he caught another one I called dibs on it, he straight up offered me his current one. | Crushes |
I've had a crush on this girl and lately she's been weird around me. She's been talking about me in front of me and our group of friends in a good way and one of the big things she has said that got caught in my head was when she said "I'm funny when I dont try to be".
But theres a dilemma with me and her family.
Before I get to the dilemma I'd like to say I wanted to date her long before she started to act this way, but I didnt think she was into me so I gave up a couple years ago and I've tried avoid looking at her in that way at all cost.
Now the dilemma is her sister. Her sister has had a crush on me years ago and I think she finally gave up on me when their brother learned that I look to her as a sister aswell.
And so I am now stuck thinking if the last interactions I've had with my crush we her trying to help her sister get with me or if she genuinely likes me back. | Crushes |
So my school has like houses like in Harry Potter where we’re sorted into different groups and we have like house competitions. They’re all named after ancient cities: Damascus, Alexandria, Constantinople, and Carthage. Well, my crush and I are both in carthage and he’s like really good at art and our house competition last week was door decorating and I so so so wanted to ask him if he wanted to help but my stupid idiot shyness prevented me from doing so. I literally can’t talk to him. It’s so annoying. Whoever I look at him I get like butterflies; he’s so cute. Omg how do I talk to my crush??
So my school has like houses like in Harry Potter where we’re sorted into different groups and we have like house competitions. They’re all named after ancient cities: Damascus, Alexandria, Constantinople, and Carthage. Well, my crush and I are both in carthage and he’s like really good at art and our house competition last week was door decorating and I so so so wanted to ask him if he wanted to help but my stupid idiot shyness prevented me from doing so. I literally can’t talk to him. It’s so annoying . | Crushes |
So there’s this new guy in my class. I’ve liked him since like September. He just does a bunch of little things and I don’t know if he’s doing this to be nice or if he likes me (He doesn’t do this to anyone else). Sometimes I’ll catch him staring at me and whenever we make eye contact, he smiles at me( 🤪😍🫠) And like whenever we do competitive games in class (like in Latin) whenever the teacher asks for one representative from each group and I’m in his group, he says I should go. I don’t know if this is bc he likes me or bc I have like a 99/100 in Latin… and like sometimes he‘ll just talk to me out of the blue out of the most random stuff. One time, he came up to me and just like stood there for a sec as if he was gonna say something and I was like. ‘hi…?’ And he just left. Idek what that was abt. (I really hope he didn’t think I was being mean when I said hi 😭😭) Anyways, do y’all think he likes me??? | Crushes |
It's midnight, and I just saw she responded to my previous text, saying she's really good. A friend of mine adviced me to get to the point a little quicker, since the last time I texted her I just kinda did smalltalk and it lead to nothing... Looking back she might have been interrested even but maybe got bored when the conversation didn't lead to anything...
So this time, I just asked her how she was doing, and when she responded just now, I instantly asked her (as my friend advised me) if she want's to meet sometime for a coffee. I've turned off my mobile, I'm honestly so stressed out right now. I honestly hope I can get at least some sleep XD. So, Idk, maybe I ruined it and she'll think I'm a creep, or we have a "date" (although I just really want to get to know her. If it leads to anything, great, if not, okay. She seems really great and I hope I'm right about that.)
Sorry for that mess of a text. Again, I'm so stressed out. | Crushes |
So this is a dream I had last night. A girl 15M (turning 16 in April) I had a dream about last night felt amazing at first but the more I think about it, it’s very weird considering my age.
To put it simply we hugged and kissed, and this is a girl I haven’t talked to in a while. I don’t know it just isn’t sitting right with me.
Moving on from this I think is the best decision.
There is someone I want to be with but it’s a completely different girl who is around 2 months younger than me 17F turning 18 in March. I may be seeing her next week Friday (we don’t see each other that often) but we do message quite often.
How is everyone else’s situation? | Crushes |
So i uploaded a story on Insta saying suggest me a song because i'm bored from the ones i listen to and one of my crush's friends saw it and then 10 minutes later my crush saw it and suggested me two songs (mockingbird and lost my mind) so i was thinking about replying to him that i like these two but then my friend who talks to the guy who saw it first told me they r together rn and idk wether i should reply or not because both of them are friends with another one that is also my crush | Crushes |
Anytime I try to talk to her I just get nervous and any conversation we have just feels boring and I end up losing half the stuff I had in mind. I've also missed so many conversation opportunities because I get scared that I'll make things too obvious. Like we're friends and all but she has not much interest in me I don't think. | Crushes |
So basically there's this girl in my class and she's pretty much perfect and I can't stop thinking about her. Yeah same old story. We aren't texting or anything we just know each other by being in the same class but were like cool with each other and all. So I haven't had the balls to say anything and I have until the end of the school year to say something, since we're gonna head off to different schools.
In conclusion should I just ask her out or am I gonna have to wiggle myself in the friend zone first? | Crushes |
I’m almost 15 and there’s a girl who I’ve been friends with for over 6 years. I started finding her very attractive after i hit puberty and my friend says she has a very deep crush on me. I don’t see her much anymore so we usually talk on whatsapp and she always tries getting to know me but she almost never starts the conversation. She’s liked me for so long now and i regret not saying anything but i fear if she might already have a boyfriend by now. Should i just move on from her or should i do something else? She’s more attractive then everybody else I’ve met + she still likes me + I’ve never seen her go out with another boy before (but I’m still scared) | Crushes |
So I've had a crush on this girl in my class from the beginning of the school year and decided to try and talk more with her, i managed to get to a few sentences a day, then stayed home a few days cause i was sick and kinda stopped talking almost everyday. Next big progress I'd have to say was an after school activity where i spent almost all the time talking to her, but after it went back to occasional talking. So what should i do now? all the advice i got from friends was talking to her and that was basically it and im not good at this sort of thing. | Crushes |
(Girl 1) So for the last 8 months I've basically liked one girl(alot). Those feelings only faded once and that was when I was on vacation in December and then they came back when school started again. I truly like this girl for being her and she is pretty. I like everything about her and there is just something about her that I can't explain that makes me like her so much. I've been struggling with those feelings for her. But it kind of hurts liking her so much, it's not fair how she gets to sleep peacefully while I stay awake with my head filled with her. I want to be with this girl but I feel like I'm not attractive enough. She ignores me and I still like her, she does nothing for me and I still like her, I always miss her but she probably doesn't even think about me. I feel like I would do anything for this girl
(Girl 2) I've known this girl for the same amount of time but only recently have me and her gotten extremely close. This girl is so sweet and I genuinely feel like she cares about me. She is the kindest person I've ever met. She is also extremely pretty and she is caring.( It's not that girl one doesn't have these attributes it's just that she never ever shows it towards me). She is super cool and independent and smart. I don't even know if she likes me. I could go on for hours on what an amazing person girl 2 is. But the thing is I want to like girl 2 as much as I like girl 1 but I feel like I can't.
I try to. And I do actually like like girl 2 since she is so amazing but I just can't seem to ever lose these feelings for girl 1. I'm 70% sure both of these girls don't feel remotely the same way but I just wanna like girl 2 as much as I like girl 1.
I feel like I would do anything for girl 1 but I don't know why. It would make more sense for me to feel this for girl 2, I can really feel that I love girl 1 but girl 1 doesn't even feel remotely close to the same way and I'm sure of that. I'm a shitty person I'm general so I doubt any of them like me.
Isn't there any way for me to stop liking girl 1 so much. If you wanna know how much I like girl 1 go to my other post. I want to love girl 2 as much or more if that's even possible but first I have to lose these feelings for girl 1 which I can slowly feel but it always somehow comes back stronger. | Crushes |
I miss him.
I’m waiting until after Valentine’s Day to email him about the coffee we mutually agreed to “sometime during the spring semester.” I don’t want it to seem like I’m fishing for someone to spend V day with-don’t want it to be more awkward than it may otherwise be. He’s a former professor of mine and I confessed to him nearly a year ago, at the end of spring semester, and he sweetly thanked me and said he was flattered but in a relationship. We’re both ‘older’…like 50’s. We chatted in and after class occasionally and emailed back and forth throughout the fall semester. I expressed interest in professional endeavors I’d like to chat about with him. I suggested coffee and he actually said yes!!! He could have said no. He could have said talk to your advisor, I don’t think it’s a good idea or it’s not appropriate, but he said yes.
He’s all I think about. I just want to spend time with him, talk with him, look at him (but not in a creepy way). I’m not usually hopeful about much, but I really want this to happen and and hope it turns into something. I miss seeing him. He makes me smile just thinking about him. | Crushes |
I decided to confess yesterday, on the beginning of our mid year break through chat cause I literally cannot speak a single word if I were to confess in person.
I thought it would be a great idea since if he does end up rejecting me, I still have a whole week free to accept and understand, and hopefully get over him.
So I ended up chatting him.
He saw my messages, but didn't reply, so I got really, really worried. Ended up spamming my friends' chats out of panic lol, BUT
HE REPLIED HALF AN HOUR LATER AND TOLD ME HE ACTUALLY ALSO HAD A CRUSH ON ME, BUT WAS TOO SHY TO CONFESS BECAUSE WE RARELY TALK IN PERSON
He apologized for the late reply saying he was shocked that I also liked him. We aren't dating yet, but we decided to start out as friends first since we uh, rarely interact with each other because we've also been mutually avoiding each other in person.
Last night, I literally didn't want to sleep. I thought that maybe it was all just another silly dream, and that it'll be all gone by the time I wake up, but it's all real. I'm so fucking happy y'all, I was worried for nothing
Turns out both me and my crush are just too introverted lmao | Crushes |
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I've discovered that things always go better with my crushes when I don't try. I mean I've still never had a gf so I wouldn't know what qualifies as "going good" but I mean it feels like things go better when I don't. I've been talking to a girl since summer, and I know she used to like me, but she since changed her mind and I have no idea how she feels now. She held my hand on Halloween and we stargazed together, but she was drunk and claims she doesnt remember much of the night. We still talk but never very much. Anyways I've been focusing on somebody else for the last few weeks, and I haven't really thought about her as much. We still snap everyday but we rarely have actual conversation. Anyways earlier in the week I asked her if she wanted to hang out today, and she said she'd have to see what's happening and she'd let me know. She never got back to me so I just assumed she either forgot or didn't want to. Earlier she texts me and says she can't do anything today because of the weather and a family emergency, but we just kept texting after that. I realized that when I don't look at her as "the girl I like" I feel a lot more confident talking to her and it's just all around easier this way. I've noticed it a few times before, but it always just made me think about her more and more and I just fall back into my old ways with almost no confidence in myself and trying way too hard.
How can I try without trying? | Crushes |
so for context please read https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/10slahi/my_introversion_completely_kills_my_love_life/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
TLDR: im having bad social anxiety around my crush which pretty much led me to act so bad und cold around him that he probably thinks i hate him. which is quite the opposite of what i do. and since i lack in confidence i just cant bring myself to straight up talk to him again.
my intention with this letter would be not to confess my love and all that to him, i just feel so extremely bad for acting so cold and distant around him and i want to clarify that its not what i entend to do. i just want to let him know that he's a great person and that he inspires me and i do care about him. and that im sorry for acting so weirdly. every day i cant stop thinking about how i messed up so many opportunities where he tried to get through to me and i hate myself for it.
however what if im actually wrong and he isnt that much into me and if i give him the letter he'll be like"yeah whatever idc"? | Crushes |
I think I’m going over tmr and I’m just nervous about what to talk about. We’re still pretty new to one another but there’s definitely an attraction. Im super nervous I could frick it up by acting awkward. What tricks could I remember to make sure it goes smoothly? | Crushes |
So, Today my girlfriend that i got some months ago went out with my friends while i was at work, ind i wasn't knowing anything. When I saw them out they istantly told my gf to hide and i was like "What just happened". This isn't the first time, she also make a party at her house with all my friends but not me. This time a saw them because i was walking around with my other friends. She's also going pretty close to another popular guy and i feel like shit, i don't know if it's my fault or if I'm just wrong and don't know what to do? | Crushes |
okay, we're back with a male classmate of mine.
i was starting to think he might like me more than a friend but lately, he's been mentioning girls to me.
"yeah --- wanted this and i bought her that"
listen, the reason why i started to think he likes me was because he always says good morning/night to me every single day, and also tries to offer to buy my fave stuff ?? he's been quiet talkative to me and i'd catch him staring at me a lot. idk he's confusing me a lot pls help | Crushes |
Hello,
I had a talk with my closest female friend ( for who I had feelings for ) few months ago - she said that I'm amazing person but I'm way too clingy and jealous for no reason which turns her off and these are the 2 reasons not wanting something more.
Since then, I worked really hard - gym, new job, reduced time on PC by probably 70-80%, socialized + worked on the clinginess.
Fast forward to new year's eve, I totally changed the group of people and met a really beautiful, clever and funny 21/F girl. She lives in another city, but not that far - an hour/two max with a car.
I did my best to show my best side - being funny, take care of things etc - I guess it worked since she mentioned to my friend that I'm nice person and enjoyed my company.
We then made a group in 1 of the social medias where we would have fun with that same group of people from the new year's eve. Me and the specific girl didn't text that much with the idea to not be so clingy + she left a relationship a week or two before the new year's eve, so I didn't want to cause any trouble.
Later in January, we arranged a group meet in her city, we didn't text much before that but after that, she started to initiate more and more and my interest increased + I duplicated her initation - if she initiated two days in a row, I would do the same. I guess my mistake here was that probably 70% of our texting was for our cats and sending photos of each other with them. When joining the specific chat with them, she would always act "happy" and greet me like " hellooooo how are youuuu" etc.
We then arranged another group meet that was last Saturday, since I really liked her cats, I told her that I would make them a little present and one for her - it was overall cat food and her favorite chocolate - she seemed happy and thanked me. Later, when I went back home, she messaged me if I'm home, send photo of herself with the cats and said "We appreaciate it <3 " - you can guess, I was happy.
Two days after that, her initiation faded slowly. I was told that ( from a friend ) another guy from the group initiates daily with her in another chat and they play video games together and watch videos and she started catching feelings for him.
**Present days -** the group wants to meet, this time in our city, but I don't know if I should go.. She mentioned few days ago that she would return the favour for me and my cat, but I can't act like that I don't know what's going on. I hardly believe that they would make a good couple ( yet who am I to judge, right) but still I would love to try thing with her in the future.
I ALSO hardly believe that she just loves the attention from this guy,since she is in tough after break up period ( I GUESS )
I would love advices from people who have been in a similar situation. | Crushes |
so i’ve always suffered from social anxiety. i find it hard to start a conversation with someone i know and it’s really annoying cause i’ve got all these things i wanna tell them but i just can’t. it’s super confusing and ugh it absolutely sucks when you’re crushing on someone.
so back at the start of my year, i was eating my lunch alone cause all my friends ditched me and this boy came up to me, he was in my class. and he said “where’s your friends?” and i just said “mm, idk.” he would always say hi to me and fistbump me and it really cheered me up but overtime i think he just thought i was annoyed by this because i would always answer with a laugh or a smile. i soon developed a crush on him cause he was so nice to me :)
so fast forward to this week, yesterday we had science class and he had to switch seats and by any chance he sat infront of me, and i was just minding my business, paying attention to class when my friend said “omg ##### he’s looking at you!!” she already knew that i liked him. and i just looked to his direction and we locked eye contact for a single second- 😃😃 AHH MY GOD. i literally looked back at my friend with a confused look as if i had no idea why she said that and went back to looking at the board ommgggg i was literally shaking cause i hadn’t had him really look at me for long enough with no context. you could also tell he was embarrassed cause at the corner at my eye i just saw him look back up at the board.
we had just finished with our work and we had to use highlighters and because i was bored i went and started to fling my highlighter up and down. and then my crush said “oh yes ####” and then he started to fling his highlighter 😃 i probably was so red at the moment - one thing which i see every now and then i’d him turning back and looking at me 😭😭
what do you think? does he like me or is it just coincidence x also in break time he doesn’t really look at me at all 🥲🥲
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so my friend is supposedly moving classes in a bit so my crush was asking all of her friends (she’s super popular, full of confidence she’s pretty and she’s friends with the years above ours) if they were moving classes with her and my crush asked me at the start of the day. “is **** moving classes?” he said, i said back “idk i’m not sure.” “are you moving with her?” he said. “no” i said back. then at 4th lesson he asked me again “are you moving classes?” i said no again. and AGAIN 5th lesson he said “are you moving classes?” and i literally snapped. “You’ve litterally asked me this like 3 time today. no i’m not moving classes.” you could tell he was shocked with my answer cause he paused for a second before saying “oops sorry i can’t count 🙄” this was super different for me because i’m known for being super silent and shy, not really socialising with others. so i’m not shocked he paused for a second to think about what i just said. i’m scared if that ruined our “friendship” or not because lately he has been staring at me like 5 times each class, but maybe i had shown him that i’m more confident in myself! please tell me your opinions on this !!! ❤️🩹❤️🩹 | Crushes |
I love this guy so much but recently found out he got a matching tattoo with some other girl. He refers to her as his friend but I’m starting to think it’s probably more then that. Idk I just feel so tired of dealing with unrequited love. Idk why I could think he might like me back. I hate how I still hold onto hope too. | Crushes |
There's this boy that I (15M) like. He is the same grade as me and we share a few classes. However, I am not sure if he is interested in me or not. He worked on a biology lab together and we were touching legs and shit, then more recently he asked me if I wanted to work with him on a history project, which I obviously agreed to. I am not shy, but I am concerned because he went to a Christian school beforehand, but he said he hated it. Would it be safe to ask him out? Thanks in advance ❤️ | Crushes |
Just curious :] | Crushes |
i hung out with him for a few hours last week and it was really fun, he asked me if i wanted to go on a walk with him! we texted for a couple of days after, and i could feel the effort he was putting in. i tried to reciprocate that, but i’m not fully sure what he thinks of me. he did kinda hint at watching a movie together but i overthought it and think maybe he was just recommending it?! ugh but he said “make sure you don’t watch it alone” cuz it was a horror movie :’(, i ended up saying i’d watch it with my friend cuz i got stressed out interpreting it ughh
today in school was the first time i’ve seen him and we did not talk at all !!!! @-@
tbh the opportunity did not really arise, it was a generally bad social day for me but aaah i don’t know ! i don’t know what he sees me as, whether it’s platonic or romantic. i like spending time with him regardless but he’s so hard to read T-T | Crushes |
I actually have a crush for like the first time in so long hes super duper cute but the problem is that im extremely shy and quiet.. i dont know how to approach him. we used to talk a little in last year (he sometimes flirted with me too..) and now i share none of same classes with him so i never know when i talk to him or what to say:( i really like him and his personality and looks is the cutest… he has lots of friends and seems kind of popular.. so im scared because of that too. idk what to do. i feel like if i talk to him it’ll be obv that im interested because im extremely quiet and shy towards everyone else | Crushes |
She said - Please don't get hooked on me. I am scared that it would only hurt you. I don't see it like that for now. I don't want to lose you.
Do I still have a chance ? Or is it simplier put rejection to not hurt my feelings that much ? | Crushes |
So a little background I’m in college and I’ve only liked and dated women. At first it started out with me just enjoying watching him from the back of the class (we only have one class together) but I have developed a massive crush on him. I’ve talked to him three times after realizing I like him and I don’t know what else to do. Also he’s really shy and quiet and when I asked his name he only gave me his last name which I found a bit weird. How do I befriend him? I have no problem gathering up the courage but I literally have no clue what I should do. Also we both have looked at each other a lot but I mean that could happen with anyone right? Oh and if that helps I talk to him in a formal manner (in our language we use different pronouns for being polite) and Im thinking maybe I’m appearing cold and mechanical (bc I also happen to be quite straight forward especially compared to other people in my country) | Crushes |
I'm f19 | Crushes |
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I haven’t texted her for 5 hours as to seem not clingy and too see if she’d msg me she hasn’t should I msg her | Crushes |
I (13f,lesbian) have a crush on my classmate/friend (13f), and I'm getting really mixed signals from her.
We've been in the same school since 3rd grade (the school we go to has middle school and elementary school mixed), but we became closer during this school year, and at first I thought I just wanted to be her close friend but it's more of a romantic crush. She tries to play it cool when we're with our mutual friends, she's kind of arrogant, but when we're alone, it's a different world.
Most of the time, she smiles at me when she makes eye contact, and stares at me whenever I'm talking to my other friends, and makes effort to be close to me. She always says hi to me with a different and kinder tone than anyone else, when she enters the classroom.
Once I was sitting next to her and I decided to go sit with my best friend for a moment and while I wasn't paying attention, she also got up to sit next to me, well, that happened three times that week.
She cares a lot more about me whenever I'm sick or feeling down, offering to hug me or trying different ways to help, or sitting by my side until I feel better, and looking extremely worried.
We've gone as far as holding hands, she once used "your hands are nice" as an excuse to hold my hand, which is... Weird.
She tried to avoid smiling while she was holding my hand but I could see it clearly on her face that she's smiling.
So...is she just being nice? | Crushes |
So like 2 years ago there was a rumour saying that I liked this girl let's call her Eve
Fast forward to like a year ago, I noticed this guy let's call him Cup, stare at me a lot and he was also interested in me. Next term, I would find out that he liked me. So when I found out, I tried to return his feelings.
Fast forward next semester, I find out that Eve and Cup have been hanging out, during this Cup says that he is still interested in me. By this time I really really liked him. I noticed her and him talk and laugh at my direction. I thought nothing of it. Looking back I literally ignored all the red flags.
When another rumour had got out this month saying that I liked Cup, Eve made it very clear that she didn't want me to be with him.
I then found out that the reason they were laughing is that Cup and Eve used to make fun of me, telling Eve to be careful around me incase I stalked her or smt, meaning that they both thought that I liked her.
This broke me so muchh and I feel so betrayed.
Apparently he texted her saying that he was 'traumatised' at the fact that I liked him.
I'm scared to even see them at school tomorrow. | Crushes |
hi guys, i don't know if this is the right place to post this but i am a little desperate and i would appreciate some advice or would want to know if anyone can relate.
i am an 18 year old girl and i have a weird crush-like obsession with a teacher of mine, 38F. it all started in 7 grade, so nearly seven years ago. she was my german teacher back then and i knew from the first moment i saw her that she was gonna have some kind of impact on me. she is a very kind person, very caring and calm and is just overall very attractive to me.
we got along very well and i started to develop a very strong crush on her that lasted at least a year. we hung out a lot, also with some other friends of mine since she was also leading the theater club we were part of and started kinda becoming a little gang. she treated us very equally, as if we were here age and really showed us that she cared about us, we even started to hug each other occasionally and even started texting. (btw, i know that this can be seen as very unprofessional and problematic and it is definitely not the best way for a teacher to behave!!)
i told my friends about this crush, she was also my first actual crush and therefore made me realize i am a lesbian and they were very accepting.
the contact with her has become more and more intense over time and we started to talk about more and more personal stuff so i also found out she is straight. over time, my "in love"-feelings got weaker and eventually i thought i wasn't in love anymore. i graduated this year and we still see each other frequently and it has grown into a "normal" friendship. the thing is, even though i don't have a very active crush anymore, i still fantasize about here from time to time and it is very intense for me when she touches me. some days ago, we were hanging out with a couple of other friends and i drove her home but we stayed in the car ane talked for 2 hours until 2am and i had my head on her legs and she stroked my hair. moments like this happen from time to time and always keep me in a weird mood for days, because i can't stop thinking about it/wishing for it to happen again.
the feelings for her, even though they are very weak and only get "intensified" when something happens with her keep me from dating/falling in love with other people. i have gone out with some girls over time but always catch myself forcing me to have feelings/actually not wanting to be in a relationship with them.
so what do i do? it might be best to cut the contract but i would also lose her as a very dear friend and i would have to tell her about my feelings for her which would be incredibly hard for me and make her very uncomfortable. do you have any tips on getting out of this situation??
thanks so much in advance!! | Crushes |
Heyo! I realize I never updated how things went when we hung out last week, partially because I was trying to think of how to describe everything without giving away too many details in the event he does browse Reddit and sees this😭, I also honestly forgot and a comment asking how things went reminded me to update soon
Okay, basically, everything went phenomenally! I swear we have so much chemistry, the conversation never dies out when we’re together and we can talk about any and everything, he LOVED my gift and he’s getting me a Christmas gift so now I definitely have to get him something.
We’re going to see Christmas lights over our winter break and when I tell y’all I am SO NERVOUS. I’m extremely excited though, it’s all I can think about.
There’s also been other stuff this past week but that’s a post for a different day, (or if anyone asks in the comments I’m happy to answer!) | Crushes |
so sometimes they reply in a second, sometimes they take minutes and sometimes 3-4 hours.. why are they keeping me on my toes? 😭 | Crushes |
Welp it's been 2 weeks since we last spoken, I sent her a goofy video and she left me on seen, I always think I'm the problem, I seriously want to talk her but I don't have enough balls to do it, I feel everyone including her just hates me, some of my friend said she's not that pretty or she's mid well ion care bout her looks, it's the impact she has left on me, sometimes I'm having a normal day but then the thoughts of her just kick in, I just want to stop thinking bout her I just want to stop thinking about anything tbh my mental health is already down the drain and this is making it worse | Crushes |
Cheers,
Sooooo, a couple of months ago, I (30M) told my crush (28F) at work that I have a crush for her. 1 week later, she told me she just broke up with her bf and she needed time for herself… while really enjoying the moments we have together…
For weeks I was asking myself on how to behave, while finally ending up that I just have to behave like I did before… it really helped me with me emotions.
And then, during a party at work and lot of alcohol (which didn’t helped at all), I saw a guy (21 approximately) being very seductive with her. Then while I was waiting with her / friends to go home by cab, he appeared and started being very tactile/close to her…. You see where I am going to…
I just went back home and the idea that something happened between them stuck my mind since then… and it’s a bit killing me.
However, I feel that expressing her my feelings is not that usual and I can’t / don’t want to be the kind of guy waiting for her… so I’ve decided to move on…
but why am I still thinking of the party story ? Why I am still asking myself how to behave with her ? And generally overthinking everything related to her ?
I feel that having no clear answer wether she likes me or not is just awful to me… and I have no clue on how to behave with her while protecting myself… any advices is ofc welcomed
Thanks for reading | Crushes |
Hey everybody, I recently tried to see if my crush had a snapchat and I clicked on her profile and it started a chat. I’m not friends on snapchat with her and I’m also not familiar with the app. Will she see that I started a conversation even if I didn’t say anything and we’re not friends? All I did was click on her profile and it took my to dms. I immediately blocked her and changed my username after in hopes to make it seem like i never did anything.
I’m really scared because me and her have been getting along quite well and I don’t want her to dislike me and find me creepy.
So will she see that I was in her dms even know I didn’t message her anything and we’re not Snapchat friends? | Crushes |
After I clocked in and looked around I saw her station next to me then 5 minutes later they move me 😭. But God damn she looks so fine 😍Everytime I see her I'm just 🫠. But I'm okay though I swear! I haven't tried talking to her because I never had the chance to that seemed to be normal I think I gotta make something happen?
I'm trying to find out what her name is but the SCC bored (the screen that tells us where we are stationed) doesn't show her or the station she's at. Then I just casually walk up to the manager and ask them why her station was empty even though I saw someone there just to get some info. Then my manager told me the SCC is glitched and she's not the only one 😭 damn so I'm trying to get to know this girl from a distance because I haven't had a chance to get close yet without it seeming abnormal.
It's okay though I can admire from a distance 😍 I'm in no rush at all | Crushes |
He’s got a dumb name but he’s so beautiful and pretty and cool it makes up for it. He smiles at me and it makes me wanna scream and he’s really tall I have to look straight up to speak to him and his laugh is deep and warm and he also has a high pitched laugh when he’s laughing hard and he’s so funny. And he plays sports and has a nice body and he’s got such a strangely nice waist. He’s so warm and shit I want him to hug me or give me his coat bc I’m always cold asf or hold my hands bc im cold. And his hair is so cute bc it’s soft and smells good but also when it’s wet the curls loosen and it’s really nice and he’s hot and I can ignore the cringe things he does bc that’s just teenage boy ness that he’ll grow out of and I hate feeling awkward with him. I wanna be close to him and I’m trying but he has other priorities and all I wanna do is message him all day but he’s not a huge texter and I embarrass myself every time I speak to him bc I wanna be funny but also nice and not too nice so it never works out. I just want him to talk to me first or text me or whatever. He makes me so happy.
We joke that we’re best friends but I’m always the one starting our interactions (most of the time) and it drives me crazy. He stares at me and it makes me feel like squealing. I want him so BADLY. I miss I’m when I’m not around him. HELLLP
I wanna give him a hint that i like him but I’m afraid it could go horribly wrong and he’d tell all his friends and I’d basically be bullied to death.
this shit is so HARD | Crushes |
Hi. I am 17m, pardon my English if I say something wrong, I am not a native speaker.
I have kind of a situation going on and I figured out someone here could help me.
About a month ago I was at a party, and a mutual friend introduced me to a girl, one year younger than me, who apparently found me "interesting" during the summer.
Short story, we talked a bit that night and we texted all week after that. Now, because I wanted to know where the situation was going, and also because this girl is really attractive, smart and funny, I asked mutual friend to sorta "investigate" if she wanted it to be a little more serious or she just wanted to make out that night (we didn't do that btw).
Anyway she texted me that "it's OK for me to getting to know eachother" and "we wouldn't have talked that much if it was only to make out". After that we talked like everyday that week.
We also made plans to meet with some friends one evening and we had fun.
Yesterday I asked her if she wanted to meet, and she asked if she "had" to bring her friends. I really wanted to be just me and her, so I told her that no other friend of mine was going out that night.
We had a good night, we kinda just chilled out in a pub and talked, but I can really feel a bit of awkwardness in this whole thing. Sometimes we can't even find something to talk about and there's this really awkward silence, and we both start laughing.
Now I don't know if she is as shy as I am, also because she thinks that I am a tease (I don't know the exact word, player maybe???) Which I AM NOT. I AM FUCKING TERRIFIED TO DO SOMETHING WRONG.
Talking physically, we just hug when she has to go back home.
Sorry for the whole big ass story, but I need your help: I don't know how to move here. It's my first time that I actually can pick up on some signals that girl give me and I try to move forward to try and have a girlfriend.
I really want a relationship, but I don't even know what it's going on between us. Does she want to go all the way with me? Because for the life of me I can't really tell, also this whole "getting to know eachother". I don't understand.
I don't even know if to ask her, will it seem like I am rushing to much?
Also sorry if this thing sound really juvenile, but I am kind of insecure and I don't know how to move myself here.
Thanks. | Crushes |
I've not been on here for a while but today I refused an arm wrestle match from a girl. Would I seem awkward to refuse? ( I refused because I thought it would be awkward) | Crushes |
So basically I had this huge crush on this guy, he’s been a colleague of mine at uni for about 2 and a half years. My crush started to fade fully by May, since we established that there will be nothing between us around February/March. The whole summer I spent getting to know my current boyfriend, that I got in a relationship with by the end of August. I love my boyfriend so much, I have never felt this way for anyone and I don’t wish to be with anyone else, but when I see my old crush sometimes I still weirdly anxious, it’s not like it was when I liked him. I don’t think about him at all, but when I see him sometimes (rarely) I still feel awkward. Is this normal? | Crushes |
I invited him to hang out on the 30th, but we didn't rlly have anything to do, but he found this ice cream place and bought me ice cream. I feel like I messed up the first time we hung out, and he doesn't rlly talk to me like he used to. We started talking mid-November and at first he seemed super into me, but now he's left me on delivered for 15 hours and barely texts me. When we do have short conversations, he doesn't seem as interested as before, and I'm afraid I messed something up or scared him away. I don't know what to do when we hang out again if I even ask, and I never can find any reasons to text him either because we don't know each other very well.
should i ask him to hangout again? are there any good reasons to text him? (NOT school related things) | Crushes |
its so annoying, i cant fall in love with anybody. i want a relationship so bad but i cant even pass the first step to getting one; getting a crush. i’m not sure what’s up with me. i’ll still keep my hopes up that i’ll eventually find somebody, tho. | Crushes |
update on the "I think she may have broken up with her boyfriend" post I made awhile ago, I don't think it's actually happening
So yeah, a bit ago I made a post on an alternate account saying that I think she may have broken up with him
The reasonings for my thinking that is because she had been changing up her discord so it was no longer clearly recognizable as hers(including the tag at the end)
she had unfollowed his Instagram before deleting hers completely
We had gotten into a big conversation about losing friends and moving on from it a few days before all this
She stopped sitting with her old friend group, and seems to just vanish completely during our school's lunches and breaks, I see her in the halls but not any other time
A few days ago too, she vented at me for a long time about an English essay that she had to do, during which she said "this is my final straw", and later saying the reason she changed her username was because she gets paranoid
And this is very minor, to the point that I wouldn't even consider it if a comment hadn't reminded me of it, but a comment on the post said that she might have been cheated on, and I do remember awhile ago seeing someone who looked pretty similar to her boyfriend on a date with someone else
But that last point should be taken with a grain of salt, even I don't really believe that it could have been him, we live in a pretty small town but I bet that there are at the very least two people who look somewhat alike, so I doubt it was really him. Plus while I don't know him, I couldn't really suspect anyone she likes to be capable of doing something like that
So anyways, none of that has changed over the past day or two, it's all stayed pretty much the same, still no sign of her on Instagram, still absent from lunch, etc.
But what's changed is that I've been texting her and she doesn't seem sad or distressed about anything at all
Honestly she seems better than usual, we have been talking a lot more than usual, and it's been a little more friendly, and we've also been joking with eachother, which we haven't really done a lot, but just kind of started doing today
So yeah, she doesn't exactly seem distraught or effected at all by anything, and she arguably seems more comfortable and better than usual, so I feel like my assumptions were wrong, and that it was probably just a bunch of coincidences or something like that | Crushes |
idk what to do anymore | Crushes |
my crush had the absolute nerve to ask me “what’s your name again?” what happened to the “hey E!” and the “heyy E!” you used to greet me with, it made me so happy. and guess what, there are rumours about my crush liking my best friend. fuck me. | Crushes |
It's those small little touches here and there. When she wants to point out something on my face she doesn't just point. She touches the spot etc.
That's a good thing right? | Crushes |
So basically I’m 15 and male and I have the biggest crush on this girl in my year. We speak as friends a little bit over Snapchat and stuff and I really like her but don’t know what to do. It’s not just a ‘wow she’s beautiful’ thing I genuinely really like her for who she is. Any advice. Also how can I tell if the feeling is reciprocated, or is there no way without asking her? | Crushes |
Okay the thing is I (M23) was really attracted to this girl (F19) a few months ago. Lately I thought my feelings began to fade because I didn't think about her as much as I did before. However I still get kinda nervous around her and she's appearing in my dreama from time to time.
I'm so confused, I really like her but I don't know if it's romantically or just as friends? | Crushes |
Is there a difference between just finding someone attractive both physically and personality wise, and a crush? | Crushes |
So I’ve been talking to this girl for a couple day where going to the movies this week, I really like her a lot, I messaged her this morning and had a small convo, haven’t since to see if she would start one with me she hasn’t, it’s been two hour should I just give in and message her, I don’t want to seem clingy I’m a pretty clingy person, I’ve pushed some people away before I believe because of that very reason they ended up not liking me or something or getting uncomfortable i believe because of it, how do I not act clingy I hate it. | Crushes |
So I met this guy in a student exchange program when he came to my school. He only stayed a couple days but I got a crush on him unfortunately and can't stop thinking about him. There are some things he did and said that make me think that he might like me back.
So the first time we talked to each other was when we were taking a group picture and he put his arm around my shoulders bc he said he thought I was somebody from his country, but I never saw him do that in any other pictures to anyone else. Another time I was telling him about some hard exams coming up in school and he said "if anyone can do it it's you", like is it just me or is he very very nice to me? Another time he said "you would be a great mom", why would he say that to a girl he doesn't like? Another time we were all having dinner and I was sitting at his table but some girls invited me to their table and I couldnt refuse although I didn't want to leave his table and later he tickled my shoulder and said "why did you leave our table?" But when I was at his table he didn't talk to me at all although he wasn't sitting very far from me, but he dient talk to anyone while I was there at least he was in his phone. Another time we were talking and at the end of the conversation he said he really enjoys talking to me.
So what do you think does he like me or is he just a very nice person? He hasn't texted me many times since then and one time when he did he made me wait 2 hours for a response when he had started the conversation and I didn't take long to answer (btw it's been a couple months since he left and I'm too scared to text him bc he doesn't even look at my stories anymore -but he follows like 500 people-). Am I just overthinking it? Some girls from his country when they asked me if a had a crush on anyone and I said I had a crush on him they said that he has been very nice to me lately so maybe he isn't that nice to everyone. Idk anymore pls help me.
tl;dr : a guy I met in a student exchange program was really nice to me and I have a crush on him but don't know if he has a crush on me. He hasn't texted me a lot since he left a couple months ago. | Crushes |
So basically, there's this guy I have a crush on but there's like a little problem: how do I know if he's looking at me cause he likes me, he knows that I like him or he's just looking at me, not intentionally?? | Crushes |
So, today, it is a heavy thunderstorm where I live. The girl who I was going to talk to won’t be in her normal spot for lunch because of the rain (I have a entirely outdoor school), so I don’t think I’ll be able to find her. Maybe tomorrow? | Crushes |
I met this cute girl at a party over the weekend, and we immediately hit it off. We both love pets and share a taste in music. The idea to attend an upcoming concert together even got mentioned. After several hours of talking, she asked if I was currently in a relationship. I told her I had broken up with my ex-girlfriend eight months ago, and she brought up the three-month rule, saying it would now be fine for me to start dating again. I didn't ask back if she had a boyfriend, but it eventually got raised after talking about work, as her boyfriend apparently picks her up everyday for work. We're neighbors by the way, so I've actually seen this guy. I'm pretty sure what I'm experiencing is infatuation, but I just can't stop thinking about her. I keep peeking out the window to see if she passes by so I could talk to her. Should I just try to move on? Would it be wrong to ask for her socials? Help! | Crushes |
I really like this girl and my friends think she likes me but i dont know what to do i have her for only 2 classes (not including lunch) and sometimes we play and joke around, we call each other names and are normally rude to one another but all as joking around. I want to confess to her but i don't know when or how. Christmas is coming up and maybe i could gift her something all while confessing but im not sure what to do or how. And this is why i need the women of reddit to help me figure out if she likes me, and if she does what do i do and how... | Crushes |
So l had a crush on this boy in 9th grade. He is the boy of my dreams. I know l kinda had a crush on him by his looks. But l really wanted to get to know him. And then after a one week school holiday he started not to be around anymore. And l had that feeling that he left. And yes it turns out he transferred to another school. I didn't know which school it was. And a whole year without seeing him but him being on my mind passed. I was really sad. Bc l really liked him and he looked really chill too. And after this one year now in 10th grade l started going to a course. We also had a class there. And we're just talking with my friends and out of nowhere l had the urge to show them his pic. Bc they didn't know about him. Then l showed this girl his pic and she's like "what's his name?" and l said his name. And she said "l know him. He goes to my school" AND OMG THAT SCHOOL IS LIKE SO CLOSE TO MY APARTMENT. I PASS BY IT EVERY DAY. MY FRIEND GOES TO THE SCHOOL BESIDE HIS SCHOOL. TURNS OUT6THE GIRL AND HIM ARE CLASSMATES. OMG. | Crushes |
I was prying about that asking why and sounded kinda like "What? Why?" But in my head I'm thinking "AGFFFF YES YES YES!!!!" | Crushes |
To understand what I'm about to say first, see this [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/z76wwl/i_dont_know_what_to_feel_tbh/).
Even after I talked to him, it turns out this shit is continuing and it's even worse. Now, he's doing it IN FUCKING FRONT OF ME, like man at least try to hide it or something like you did before.
In the end, I hope one day you will understand me but from now on. Fuck You.
I'm sorry that I'm so angry I just needed to do something to release the anger. | Crushes |
I am very introverted so I dont talk to my classmates very often. And there is one girl that I really like in the same class as mine. Sometimes she just starts a random conversation with me during lunch breaks etc. She has a very big smile when she is talking to me. She is one of the few people who talk to me as I am an introvert and I dont talk very often. She talks with other people as well. I sometimes catch her staring at me. She will also sometimes give small compliments to me and I dont see her giving compliments to other people. Is she just being nice? | Crushes |
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I've got a crush on this girl, and things are fine since the last 2 and a half months. She has shown a couple signs she likes me but has also told me that she likes my presence but isn't ready for a relationship. Yet, she has signalled me a couple of times that she would not refuse a proposal and even if I do, things are gonna be fine.
So, I thought of gifting her a ring on the coming 16 December, and proposing her after just completely opening up myself. I even bought the ring but from the past 5-6 days, she isn't even putting in any single effort. The only thing she did was ask if we could hang out and I said yes. After that, no messages from her side and even I do, she usually leaves them on seen with just a reaction. Even today, we met at our tuitions after around a week and she said she'll come to my class. She did, and i took my bag aside coz I thought she'd want to sit with me. But no, she sat with one of her classmates and they have been talking for like more than 30-45 minutes now and she hasn't even said hi, or asked me anything. They are around 4-5 guys and she's sitting with a guy (I'm sure she doesn't like him, but she usually doesn't sit with me saying her teacher would see us as he's strict and doesn't allow sitting of a boy and a girl).
So now I'm in a dilemma. Should I gift her the ring and the poem i prepared and then cut the supply of my efforts or should I just do it now as I'm busy on 16 but i freed my schedule to hang out with her.
I'm kinda stressed and exhausted right now because I'm really thinking to cut myself but i also want to just propose her, get a clear response and have a certain direction. Because i don't want to be called for not putting in my 100% and leaving
I want to gift it, give my 100% and then if there's anything which is unclear or mixed, I'll leave.
Advice please.
Tldr: my crush has been dry. I was planning to propose her on 16 but I'm thinking to just change my schedule and not do it until she shows clear signs. (She has given my couple of signs though)
Help please. | Crushes |
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