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Okay, so there’s this guy that I sometimes work with and I definitely feel like his body language has been telling me he’s interested.
I feel like we flirt all of the time, maybe he’s just being nice?
Feet always point towards me, kinda follows me like a puppy, I catch him staring sometimes, always interested when I’m talking.
Well, his grandpa came into my work and was pointing at me and my crush while having a questioning look on his face and looking at my crush.
Part of me thinks he told his grandfather that I’m his crush and he was silently asking if I was the one??
Or maybe he told his grandpa I’m just his new friend??
Am I looking too deep into this?
I feel like I’m probably the farthest from this guys usual but maybe??? | Crushes |
I'm introvert and I want to confess my crush.
Hello! As you read in the title. I have a crush on someone. I really love her. She is like, cutest thing I've ever seen. I want to confess her. Aand, heres my obstacles.
She is 1 year older than me ( bad english sorry)
Her bestfriend is in love with mine
I have social anxiety and im too shy to talk.
I have only 1 years before she graduates from high school.
Here is + ones
Our houses are close.
Any advices? | Crushes |
So my crush is super cute but very very shy. We share a lot of friends and I always was kinda crushing on her but I didn’t really talk with her regularly until this year. We sit alone and across from each other in my math class (we’re both pretty shy) and talk a little everyday. I ask her a lot of questions about the class, more as an excuse to talk, and I ask her about herself sometimes or her interests. Overall I’d say I’m pretty friendly and try to do things like compliment her look or offer to help in math.
Other than that and a couple of other times where we briefly talked outside of class we don’t say much and I want that to change. I do want to ask her out before I graduate, maybe near valentines day?
It’s not like we aren’t friends she seems to be comfortable around me and she finds me funny because I can make her laugh pretty easily and I also know a fair amount of what she likes.
How can I get to know her better and start developing a closer relationship? | Crushes |
like always ,for me its Heather by Conan Gray | Crushes |
This is a continuation to my previous post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/zpdowz/its\_over/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/zpdowz/its_over/)
She finally responded to my message. Of course she doesn't feel the same. Gave me the usual compliments but yeah, she now has a partner. Just hoping we can still be friends no problem.
I don't know what to feel. On one hand, feels good to finally tell her. On the other, I do think about the "what-if" scenario where we ended up together. Guess that's never gonna happen. I'll probably never get a girlfriend. | Crushes |
I need to face the music. He isn't in love with me. he told me from day 1 that he was AroAce.or at least suspected he was.
I've known from day one i should just squash my crush and let it go. but.. i wanted to be loved. i wanted to believe. my friends kept pushing for me to pursue him. and he's never been anything but kind and understanding.
he himself says he doesn't fully understand his feelings. and i think in many ways he needs me. but it hasn't been that long since my breakup, either. do i really want to risk that king of heart ache so soon.
what happens if months from now after i put so much energy into this and have allowed myself to fall deeper. he he realizes it never was love anyways.
i should trust my intuition. it's never been wrong before. but i really wanted him to be the one. he's perfect in so many ways. but.. whatever i take a moment to open my eyes and look around. i see nothing.
it was nice, though. for a moment there. for a bit, i really thought maybe he could love me. and i was happy. but maybe it's time for me to open my eyes and see the truth | Crushes |
Help! | Crushes |
Pls | Crushes |
So to all woman here who are like 19-20+ years old. How would react to a note?
I thought just walk up to her and give her my note with something like: "Hey, I thought you were really cute and I wanted to know you better. If you are up for it here is my number [insert number].
I want to do this because she almost never alone (cuz she has a group) and when she is alone only for moments. So no chance for proper conversation with just the two of us.
So why not use this little moment to give her my note. So for girls at uni/college how would you react? | Crushes |
Basically... I was walking to school, and that's when I saw my crush. (We're neighbors and we go to the same school) I didn't even know he had the same days as e (Our school is being renovated currently and we had to move into other school for a little bit of time, and some days we have online and some don't, but it depends on classes, not every class has the same days) I stopped for like 0.001 second because I sort of recognized him but still had to process it, he looked so cute OMG. (It was random because I haven't seen him in years) And I swear to god he looked at me for 0.000001 second and kept walking. I don't know it that's a good thing or a bad thing though, because I texted him yesterday, and his responses we're dry. I don't want to scare him away. Help, what do I do? | Crushes |
you (M) work at a place in town. I've (F) only come in a handful of times but you were always so friendly and helpful, and I thought you were really cute the first time I saw you. I know it's your job to be helpful and friendly, but something about you just charmed me immediately, and then you slipped in an extra gift for me for free, and didn't say anything about it at first, and when I found it, it just made me smile and I was extra charmed (and idk if it was a coincidence but it felt like you tried to be the one to help me if you saw me walk through the door. if it wasn't a coincidence, it was really sweet)
I haven't been in as often lately, and you weren't on shift last time I came in, but I've been thinking about when I might be able to see you again. keep trying to find a silly reason to come in, but I can't think of anything since the store is pretty specific
anyway... I doubt you'll see this, and if you do, I doubt you'll know it's about you haha but, hey, if you think it's about you, feel free to ask for confirmation
I'm way too shy to ever say anything in person though haha, and I wouldn't want to make you feel uncomfortable, so I'll probably just keep smiling to myself after every time I do get to see you for a short while while I'm in the shop (: | Crushes |
Today, I (male) sent a message to my crush along the lines of I have a question for you next day. She, said if it's about asking me out I don't want to see you ever again. Help me out reddit what should I do? | Crushes |
Yk the audio that's like
"My head hits the wall, shit fuck balls piss I say" THATS HOW I FEEL WHATTTTTTT?????
WE KISSED, sort of made out, WE KISSED.
First kiss for both of us. I didn't even know he had a crush on me but we were on the bed and he admitted it and we kissed for like 5 minutes.
Things I'm worried about tho is:
1. I'm the type that loses feelings quite easily, I especially don't want this happening to him because he's such a sweet guy
2. Usually I get a warm fluttery feeling, the one where you feel like burying your head in a pillow and kicking your legs. The adrenaline also usually hits me really hard after the thing happens, but nothing happened this time.
Shit, what if I regret this what do I do OH FBSNJDSJJD and he likes me a LOT, AND, I THINK I DO BUT WHY IS THERE A LACK OF FLUTTERY HEARTS?? IS THIS,, OK??? | Crushes |
Aaaaaaaaaa | Crushes |
So my crush has been in the hospital for a few weeks now so I decided to text him and ask if he's ok. His answers were always one worded so I just stopped talking to him since I thought that he may me annoyed.
But today I was sitting in class and a friend told me, that his friend told her that I have been texting him and that I'm so cringe for doing that. She said that he even showed her screenshots.
I really don't know what I did wrong. I feel so embarrassed and sad. I don't even want to go to school tomorrow and look everybody in the eye after this. Everytime I try to engage with someone it end in situations like this🥲
All I did was tell him the french homework but apparently that was way too cringe for him. It's safe to say that he doesn't like me back and I'm ok with that, but sending screenshots to his friends and make fun of me is kinda mean.
What would you guys do in a situation like this... | Crushes |
I’ve been friends with this girl for almost two years. We’ve become really close in the past six months and I helped her get out of a really toxic friendship and have always been her shoulder to cry on. I knew we were gonna be there for each other, but recently, like in the past month or so, she’s kinda been ignoring me.
Not in that she won’t talk to me, it’s that she’ll always just talk at me, never lets me really contribute to the conversation with my own topics, just kinda takes over with her own. To the point where I’ve kinda just given up trying to tell her stuff.
A recent example, she is obsessed with Kpop, so naturally every conversation turns to that. I was feeling really down one night, asked if I could talk to her, she said yeah one minute, while sending me tons of Kpop reels on Instagram. Just kinda hurt that she doesn’t care to hear what I have to say, which is a problem I keep running into with every relationship I have with anyone. I just don’t get heard.
But while I was writing this, she let me rant about my family and Christmas and everything which was really nice, but still doesn’t erase what she keeps doing. She says her old friends called her self absorbed, and I always say she’s not, coz she isn’t for the most part. But it’s all those times I wanna be heard in those one way conversations, all l those feelings I have to push down coz she’s in the middle of a ramble, the stories or memes I wanna share but can’t coz I just cant find a gap.
I just don’t know what to do. I’ve completely just hit a wall. I just wanna give up on trying to talk to her but I know I can’t. She truly is an amazing person, just stubborn. | Crushes |
So there is this girl in my class that sits behind me for the past 3 months now, we have been talking a lot and everything but for the last few weeks we would look in eachotheres eyes and she would sometimes bite her lips, then we had another eye contact and she winked at me, when i winked back she smiled like she was really happy and we continued to hold eye contact, since then we look at each others eyes a few times a day and we always wink at eachother and she always has that happy reaction, she also tries to get my attention by drawing on my hand and touching me over the class. I really like her and would like to ask her on a date, is she in love with me or is she just playing? | Crushes |
Me (15f) and and my crush S (15f) have been friends for around 5 months. She both where in a friend group but I was dating her friend and she was dating someone else, but around the same time we both broke up with our girlfriend so we are both single but im getting mixed feelings about if they like me or not.
We have some classes together and we talk a lot but I don’t think they like me. I give her lots of compliments and presents and they seem to enjoy.
The only thing is that I don’t think they feel comfortable with me. We don’t have deep conversation and they make it kinda dry. She is shy but I’m good at talking to them.is there anyway to get them to warm up to me or make it less dry? | Crushes |
She smiled at me first thing when she saw me and I put my hand up to high five her as she was passing by me and she bit her lip like it turned her on or something. But it was just ridiculous busy at work again and no time to talk to her and I've really been wanting to get her number really badly the last 2 days but there's no time to talk to her. She almost never comes out of the kitchen at work too and I as a server aren't really allowed back there unless it's for good reason so it's just so hard to get to talk to her to ask her but I need to because I'm moving soon and I want to have her contact before I leave and honestly try to date her. Thursday is the day! I have to ask her Thursday | Crushes |
I'm a not-so-straight guy who has a crush on my seatmate. I've liked him since the first day of school and have been sneaking glances at him from time to time. We've locked eyes a few times but nothing really happened. One time, out of nowhere, he asked me to pull on his hand really hard. He could've done it to test how strong I was since I am very skinny. Another time, he asked me if he was hot??? He was with his friend tho so I don't know if it means anything.
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At the end of the first term, we switched our seating arrangements, so now I'm seated right next to him. This was the time when we became closer. He'd asked me for help on questions he doesn't understand or just ask me for an opinion whenever he was in a conversation with my other classmates. He's very loud and outspoken, but when he's with me he becomes very gentle and patient. I'm not really very outspoken myself, so he speaks up for me when I struggle sometimes. There was one time when we were performing our class play and he had to put on face paint. He asked me if he looked ugly in it and I said no, he said to his friend: "See? He says I look handsome!". And lastly, we've been exchanging glances now more frequently. At first, I was just sneaking glances at him and stopped whenever he looked at me. But now when I look back, I notice that he was also sneaking glances at me.
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TL;DR, I have a crush on (who I suspect is) a straight guy who's sending me mixed messages. This is the first ever serious crush I've had so I don't know if I should still continue to hope or just give up. | Crushes |
I'm so excited and super nervous too! I hope I get a chance to talk to him one on one at the party. | Crushes |
So we have been friends for a while, he knew I liked him but he wouldn't confess because other members in our group had crushes on me and he wasn't sure what to do.
He did confess and we had our first date, we made it official to be boyfriend and girlfriend, he met my parents and our first date was at his house, we watched seasons of a show we liked and cuddled, we then built a gingerbread house and fought each other with frosting.
It was adorable, but all this feels weird now, as friends he was pretty closed off, didn't really talk much about himself or his feelings and it was always a mystery with him.
After the date he's very open about his thoughts, he keeps telling me how perfect I am, that this is the first time he's done all this, calling me an angel, gorgeous, beautiful, pretty, cute, complements me on everything, telling me how much he misses me, that he wished he had confessed sooner and how dumb he was, constantly flirty, that I make him feel things he's never felt before, saying how he can't stop thinking about me, saying he wish he can hold me again and spend much more time together, that he loved every second we have together.
It used to be me who'd reach out to him first but now it's the other way around, he even feels like he's rushing things or doing too much and I keep reassuring him he's fine because it really is
Like man, everything is now different and I'm unsure how to feel, yeah I do like this but it all feels different, idk, any guys out there that can explain this to me? | Crushes |
So there’s this girl at work, we work with a pretty small reoccurring team (lab). She would always ALWAYS sit next to me whenever I choose to sit, she would often stare at me or even when she ‘thinks’ I’m not looking and then quickly looks away as soon as I move. We connected well and even after work, we would always asks eachother personal question and a friend of hers at work the other day suggested I move and take her desk since she finished, it was next to my crush.
However due to the fear of getting close to people due to my past and potentially getting rejected which will affect my work, I’ve become cold turkey and can tell she doesn’t appreciate it. She has tried talking to me here and there, and knows my roster uncannily well compared to everyone else.
But I don’t know if she is actually interested in me or just wants a best buddy at work, we sit side by side, but she would always be pointing her self in my direction. I get the vibe she doesn’t like me asking other girls for help with stuff around the workplace. Should I just risk it for the biscuit? | Crushes |
it really sucks when u have a crush and it didn’t go how you thought it would so now ur sad and empty again. like that high is gone and u just feel dumb, it’s the worst feeling and idk i just wanted to vent. | Crushes |
When in reality I know he’s not even thinking about me. He doesn’t want to even be friends, let alone anything else. He’s just a silly dream. | Crushes |
When in reality I know he’s not even thinking about me. He doesn’t want to even be friends, let alone anything else. He’s just a silly dream. | Crushes |
saying "you will regret it" doesnt really help me much
the crush saga : [text 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/zpc8fq/my_crush_gave_me_steak/) [text 2](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/znds9l/repost_do_they_like_me/) [text 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/zpervt/i_really_want_to_confess/) | Crushes |
She's done 2 things to get my attention. We see each other daily and always talk, but found a reason to ask me to text her. That, of course could, have been no big deal. But when she was talking to another coworker about wanting no more kids (she has 3, I have 2) but was staring at me while doing it. I wasn't part of the conversation, so there's no reason she'd have been looking me dead in the eyes except to gage my reaction.
I think this might just happen! | Crushes |
What do I do now? | Crushes |
We were watching clueless on my bed and then he asked me if I wanted to try something and I was like idk but we ended up making out. That was my first kiss… | Crushes |
Ok so a few weeks ago I had a dream were I was hanging out with my bff like normal but I kissed him and it wasnt bad and now today I was talking with them and we got to the topic of crushes and he was like hey do u have a crush and I was the f@ck if I know I cant tell the difference between romantic and platonic felling and he was like well with romantic you might want to cuddle them or be with them all the time or even kiss them well now I'm in total shit cuz all those things I feel towards them also In case it matters I'm non binary trans masc and hes trans masc | Crushes |
Tomorrow is the last day of school before break and I wanna ask for her number, any advice? | Crushes |
I want her to know that I am into her but I don’t know how to not be creepy. We’re acquaintances and know some personal stuff about each other. She told me that I am kind, lively, gentleman and friendly despite me dirty talking. I told her that she’s cute, innocent, and funny. Although, she said she does have a bad side. So, how do I make progress if I know her well? | Crushes |
A few weeks ago a friend invited me to a party, I didn't want to go, but I told him that I was going to go, he taught me how to dance, he told me that if he invited me is because I had to dance with someone, that he didn't invite me to stay alone.
It was a costume party, when we arrived I saw a girl that for me was very beautiful, she is like 1.70, with dark eyes, dark hair, and big eyes, with glasses.
At the start of the party, I knew that I wasn't going to talk to her, so I forgot that I wanted to talk to her, and she started to talk to my friend so I thought that was impossible to try something so I didn't care about her.
At the party, I talked to another girl and I danced with her, but I didn't like her.
After that all the people that were at the party sat in front of a long table, she (the girl that I thought was beautiful) talked to me, she told me that she thought I was from the staff because I was wearing a white shirt, I didn't know what to say because I thought it was an insult, so I just ignore her.
Here is something strange, I mean: I and my friend and our dance couples were the only ones who danced, and all the people watched us, so why she thought I was from the staff, whatever.
After dinner we sat on a single side of the table, and she arrived, she talked to me, she asked how long did my mask take me to do my mask, so we started to talk a lot, when started to talk our bodies were separated, and when we fisnished to talk we were very close, so close that my feet were almost on hers, after that she went, my friend danced with her, and he told me to dance with her, so he gave me her hand, we danced, like 3 times, I enjoyed that time with her, I tried to do some dance tricks but I forgot how to do it so it didn't work, at least I make her smile, it was fun, the last time we danced she told me to put my hands on her hips, because it was the style of the dance, when we fisnished we still held hands, we walk together to our places, my mind was flying I thought "omg why we still held hands", we didn't dance more, but we talked a lot.
We were playing with a led ice cube, that was made of plastic and she made physical contact, she touched my arm like 3 times.
We still talking and when I left the party I asked for her Instagram, and after 2 days I wrote to her, I think our relationship was nice, my friend, that is like my love coach told me that nobody texts on Instagram, so I asked for her number, we talked and when I suggested to date...(I don't know if that is the right word for that, I mean, I wanted to go for a coffee to talk with her)
She started to ghost me.
I think we had a great night, she was very nice, I really like her.
If you feel that it was a boring party is because I'm very young, and I have never had a girlfriend so I don't know what to do.
I'm very sad, I know that I can't change anything, the only thing I want to know is what the f*ck happened?
Sorry for my bad English I tried to do my best :)
I know is a very large and boring history, but please help me. | Crushes |
So I just got my first official crush (more like a stupid obsession over a man) and you know I was very happy to see this man every day and I always have a very stupid and pathetic grin on my face when when we texted, anyways I want to forget about him on thins Christmas break because I know I’m just one more girl that ✨GUSHES✨ over him and the only thing that I do by that is lifting his ego and lowering my quality ANYWAYS over this weekend my cousins wouldn’t stop teasing me about that MJ looking ass even though I was very annoyed with that, today as I was doing laundry my mother started teasing me asking me if he answered the invitation I made him and this just made me feel SO upset so much so that I texted him even though he hasn’t answered any of my texts 🧍🏾♀️. . . Can I kill my self? WTH IS WRONG WITH ME? why do I keep bothering him? I know he doesn’t like me, I know he doesn’t want to be my friend- WHAT THE FUCK?! First shot and I was no different than regular people, I thought I might have a personality disorder or I might be a bipolar but like my symptoms still show I’m just a dumbass. . . And that I have adhd which explains my personality problems and my mood swings, ANYWAYS I’m mad that I have a crush and I managed to ruin everything | Crushes |
I had a stupid crush on this guy purely based because he was always staring at me and I thought at the time that he was handsome and sweet. I think I was exhausted and lacking attention because overtime I began to rethink our interactions and realized he had a partner that he was conveniently not mentioning. Yet that didn’t stop him from constantly staring at me from afar and looking me up and down. I also realized he wasn’t as perfect as I once thought. He saw me without makeup and immediately treated me differently. Despite him having pretty bad coffee stains on his teeth, a receding hairline, and being out of shape, I didn’t care. I liked him. I cannot stand vain people and since then I realized how much of a creep he truly was. I don’t know what was I thinking. How do I stop feeling sad about it? | Crushes |
I know that you don’t treat a person you are into as just another friend because they’ll think you’re not into them but, at the same time, you shouldn’t treat them as a god. How do I balance it out? | Crushes |
So I play Volleyball for my school's team. Our coaches are two science teachers at my school (C and M) and M's husband. I'm currently in my sophomore year. We have three teams, L3, LV, and V. Since I was new to volleyball I was placed on the L3 team during my freshman year and have coach M. This year I was put on Jv and had M's husband. At my school, there are many boys who want to play volleyball so this year they made a boys' team(I'm so happy for them as I'm friends with them since most are from my year). Right now they have off-season practice since the season starts in Spring and most of the boys who signed up are new to volleyball or need to build up their skills. Us girls are allowed to come because they are open gym practices at the moment. So coach M's son (A)comes to the practices but he doesn't go to our school since they live in another city(not too far away). So I only get to see him at the practices. I think I started liking him because he is trying very hard to improve and is determined. I think I see my old self in him (back when I was a beginner). I started going to the practices 2 weeks ago(there's a practice only twice a week). The first time I went A didn't have a partner to warm up with and neither did I so we paired up. Ever since then we are always partners, without even saying he would just grab a ball and we would head onto the court. We would like to have fun and kinda mess around a little bit and I feel like there is something there. We also spent all practice together or on the same team for most of the practices I've been to. Last Thursday I wanted to get a social or something to text him on but I was too shy and before I knew it practice was over and he was leaving. My friend came in clutch tho(shout out to H I love you so much) and asked him for his insta and I came up and said I wanted to exchange it too. He got H's insta and followed him before quickly walking off and telling me to get his insta from H(his mom and dad were walking to their car so he had to go). I felt a little sad but understood and got it from my friend. A's account is on private so he had to accept my request, and he already accepted my friends but not mine. I was kinda sad because it was like he didn't even want to be friends with me. The next day he accepted it and I noticed that he posted something around the same time. My friend H was also kinda teasing A about how his Instagram looked like it wasn't used in a while so I'm thinking that A never uses Instagram and probably just accepted H's request right away while he had it open then exited the app and never saw mine. After this happened it kinda made me rethink what was going on between me and A and I'm not sure if there is something there anymore or if I was the only one feeling this way. Like I was thinking that he wants to be my partner during warm-ups and drills and we were always together, I felt like we both kinda followed each other and wanted to be with each other(like how you want to be with and close to your crush). But now I'm thinking if it was only me having these feelings. Please tell me your guy's thoughts and questions because tomorrow might be my last practice with him since I might be moving schools, which could mean my mom won't take me to those practices anymore. | Crushes |
I've planned multiple times now to ask her out, but each time I always seem to chicken out the last minute,,, so I've laid out a plan that'll (hopefully) leave absolutely no room for me to do so again ;-;, I would also love to hear any thoughts/advices you may have about it. ^-^
Here it is:
So yesterday, we made a plan on trying out this sushi place in town together, but have yet to set an official date as to when. If/when we do go, I originally planned on just asking her out in the restaurant, BUT! I've thought about out another course of action... Once we finish eating, I'd ask her if we could hang out at her house (we've already done so a few times so it wouldn't be strange). Once there, we'd usually hang out in her room. I'd tell her about this one song that I've been meaning to show her, then ask her to put on my headphones. Then, I'd play the song 'i wanna be your girlfriend' by girl in red while I patiently and anxiously sit infront of her. See what happens from there.
thoughts? 😭 | Crushes |
Okay so there’s this guy that I see at work sometimes, and I feel like his body language is telling me he’s into me.
Feet always facing me, kinda follows me like a puppy sometimes, and it seems like he’s really interested when talking (plus more).
Well, his grandpa came into my work today and was pointing back and forth between my crush and I while looking at my crush and having a questioning look on his face.
Part of me thinks that he has told his grandpa about me as a crush and was trying to ask him if I was the crush.
But then I doubt myself.
Am I lookin too deep into things? | Crushes |
so i still haven’t spoken to him BUT i don’t think it’s personal now bc our mutual friend also hasn’t heard much from him either in the last few days and he isn’t active in the group chat. i’m hoping he’s just been busy with finals or something. also the other day i was on instagram live and he joined and he was on for a little bit and said a few things so he probably isn’t trying to avoid me
also a friend said she overheard him on the bus talking about the next play the school is doing and he said he thought i was a good costar
im feeling a bit better about the whole thing i just don’t know when or what i should say to him yk
or just continue to give space ? | Crushes |
i really hope she's treating him well fr
if i was her i would've just held his hands and said it's okay and m ther
and not go back to my dorm , even if m sleepy , even if had work
i would've asked him to go on a walk w me around the campus holding hands and listening to music
just sit w him for sometime
buy him his fav food and see him smile happily while eating it
hugged him before I leave
i really hope she treated or is treating him better than how i would
ig she is
hope he's feeling better | Crushes |
give him hot water
cz hes always dehydrated and doesn't drink enough water
give him my earphones bc he didn't have it and he listens to music everytime he's anxious n depressed
that tooo so loud that it'll burst his ears
ask him wassup in his mother tongue :)
to make him laugh and smile
hold his hands and say it's okay and m there | Crushes |
Does she like me? I wrote down some signs if she likes me or not (i can't tell i'm blind as a duck at social skills)
positives i think
* smiles at me when i am reading a sign on the door
* glances at me
* her friends talk to me
* when I'm taping my pencil she taps her's
* last year gave me her phone to call someone (her friends didn't)
* tells me to her friends
negatives or maybe shy
* doesn't text me or send streaks
* looks at what I'm look at on my chromebook
* have not broken the touch barrier yet
* looks at me and turns back
maybe she's Canadian and just being friendly
any help would be appcictied
best wishes,
*ZT* | Crushes |
It was my first year at my new school and I was pretty nervous. But I managed get along with most of the people in my class/school and became sort of popular (not really). My crush was the first person to talk to me at my new school, but we never really talked much until mid October. We became closer after exchanging numbers and ever since I liked him. My friends found out that I liked him and told me that he liked me because he was really nice to me, although I always ignored their comment, even though I hoped it was true. But over the past 2 months I've noticed that he tends to flirt with other girls. He does this all the time, even with me. I'm not sure if he even likes me anymore, and I think he likes one of my friends. As much as I try to talk with him more, I'm am too awkward and always chicken out. What should I do and does he like me back? | Crushes |
In case you see this...I love you. And I'm sorry I never moved on. I probably should tell you this but you're my best friend and I don't want to lose you.
It literally feels like I'm retelling the meme of "his only crime was that he loved too much" but that's basically what this is. You got a boyfriend and I'm still not able to move on. We talk almost every day and I can't bring myself to admit when I've failed. I promised I'd move on and I didn't.
I love you H. | Crushes |
was hard to not think about during study break but i was toooo busy studying and actually got a lot of work done but was worried if he was studying or not
cz there was so much to study and he failed last time
got to know he went clubbing and got drunk instead of studying
the day before exam he was watching worldcup
wow
he atleast looked happy when he was watching it
that smile tho
next day when i saw him i could tell how he was feeling
he didn't know a thing and was so fucking depressed and trying sm to hide it fr
my exam went well but he didn't write a thing
could see from my peripheral vision
after the exam i didn't really ask him how it went or talked to him
he qas just sitting in a corner and idk i just wanted to really hug him tight and say it's okay but i didn't wanna offend her and whotf am i
m not even a friend to him
he could literally go for days and months without even thinking of or talking to me
so i was like nvm
but i felt sooooo bad seeing him that depressed and sad
i miss the old happy loud him i hate it when he doesn't talk and zones out or triesss toooo hard and smokes tm
i really hope he's doing fine and doesn't smoke much
but m actually over himig
m just empathetic towards him rn | Crushes |
So I’ve never been in a relationship, I’m 19 and live at home. Since I have strict parents, I can’t really go out there and date people. But there’s a guy at my university who was so attractive that it was distracting so I told him just that. But I also said that I didn’t want to date him (didnt tell him this but its not that I don’t want to, just that I can’t). After talking to my friends about this I realised how weird I was being.
My intention was not to lead him on but to compliment him and get over it. Its been months but the regret is only now hitting me.
Ive noticed he’s been staring at me and whatnot so its making me feel even guiltier. But I never lied to him and Ive been honest. I feel like I owe him something which is stupid. I see him every weekday which makes things difficult for me.
Idk how to get over this embarassment. | Crushes |
Hi people,
I've been reading many self help books, and have been able to get previous crushes from these tips. They work if you put them into action.
**You are IDOLIZING HER, STOP.**
With any crush, comes idolization. But its unhealthy. You are treating this average human being like they are the biggest celebrity in the world. Think about that. They probably have as many or more issues than you. But you are treating it like they are the perfect human being. You are putting them on a pedestal, but for what reason? They're an average human like all of us. If you can learn to push that idolization away, your brain becomes more clear and allows you to take more risks.
**Fantasize, but realistically.**
This one is pretty self explanatory. Don't imagine anything that's too far out. Visualizing is extremely important though, if you don't visualize, your brain wont want you to achieve your goal. If you notice that you are fantasizing about something unrealistic than stop. Start fantasizing about something like the start of your relationship or asking them out. Fantasize about the goals that are just ahead of you, nothing that is years in the future.
**Confidence is key (and what confidence ACTUALLY is)**
When you think about confidence you are probably not thinking about ACTUAL confidence. A great definition of confidence is "Confidence is the *knowing* that if you fail, everything will be alright in the end". A good rule of thumb is too repeat to yourself in your head before you do something extremely hard like asking your crush out, making yourself known to your crush or saying hi for the first time is that everything will be alright in the end. Another good tip for before hard situations is to hype yourself up. Maybe jump up and down, think about how you will master this situation etc. Confidence is what will define you from (if its an especially attractive person) the other people crushing on them. So use confidence to define yourself.
**Think of yourself with self confidence.**
This one is the best thing you can do. People will get attracted to you if you treat yourself well and think about yourself in a good light. There is this common thought that "Women only like rich attractive men, and men only like the woman with the best body.". That is not true. The reason that its seen like that is because people who are attractive usually have self confidence. What comes with self confidence? Good hygiene, better personality etc. You can control all of that. Say something positive yourself everyday. Shower everyday, shave regularly, wear antiperspirant deodorant (especially if you are a male). Its pretty easy. And just by doing that you will feel better, look better and be 1000% more attractive to other people.
TL;DR
I cant really summarize this so just read the titles I guess. | Crushes |
God, this is nerve-wracking. I haven't seen him face-to-face in what, six years? But he seems to give me signs of interest like complimenting me and always texting me before bed.
Welp, here goes nothing. Worst comes to worst, I've left behind no more regrets for once. | Crushes |
I really like his personality. He's gentlemanly, intelligent, and patient, but he looks different in all his photos due to haircuts and weight fluctuations. I agreed to go on a date which, due to our circumstances, isnt for three months, but I'm afraid that after talking for so long online, I won't be able to let him know I'm not attracted to him in the flesh if I'm not. Anyone have an idea? | Crushes |
I (F 23) have the biggest crush on a coworker (23) and I know it’s not a good thing. But, it has been about a year now of me living in the shadows and my crush on him grows and grows. I know, 23 with a crush? Lame, I guess.
The weirdest part is that I think he likes me back. And now I am not the type of girl that can read guys very well, honestly. Sometimes I feel I overanalyze and other days I feel like I am right on the money… so maybe I’m just over analyzing.
I think he knows I like him… I haven’t made a fuss about it, but sometimes l’ll flirt in the form of a joke and the jokes are always me being fairly honest about how attractive he is (to me) and the eye contact can give it away… I’m either staring into his eyes to the point where I lose focus and I feel embarrassed that I’m looking so intently, or I completely avoid eye contact and look away because I don’t want him to always think I’m staring…
Very kiddish but true, sigh. I wish I could just be honest but I don’t have the guts. I’m afraid that I am just too infatuated to see clearly and maybe he clearly doesn’t feel anything?
TLDR: I have had a crush on my coworker for nearly a year and I wish I had the confidence to admit it to him without making everything awkward. | Crushes |
To the person who made my months unbelievably happy, to the person I adore, I want to tell you thank you for absolutely everything, I understand the conditions we set and so if you found someone else, please tell me, but if you just have been having fun and living life, continue to do that, it makes me happy that your living the life that you should have been years ago, my heart can’t bear much of what I have done to myself, tonight I’ll tell you and see if I finally have to let go, I’m just glad it was you, I’m glad I got the courage to say I like you in the first place, my fears still take control of me but because of you I was able to break free from some of my fears, thank you. | Crushes |
i'll try to keep this short. so I was at school when I overheard an argument burst out near me. i look over, and my crush and a bunch of her friends are arguing. now, my crush wasn't *inherently* arguing, but she was part of the issue. 20 mins later, I learned that one of her friends said a pretty offensive 'joke.' this 'joke' the guy said was something sexist, and the other friends didn't find it funny. now, here is the thing that is rubbing me the wrong way, i learn that she ***defended*** the guy who said the 'joke.' this guy who made the joke I've heard is a giant douche, so him saying this joke, and then her defending him is just making me think. they're good friends I've seen. i don't *think* she is like that, but her defending rubbed me the wrong way. maybe I'm just overthinking dunno. | Crushes |
(vent and maybe update????)
I tend to chat with friends wether close or far about doing stuff together and i guess the habit slipped into convos with my online crush, they picked up on it and asked if i was trying to hang out(we live like down the road coincidentally) -
so i panicked and explained i just say that stuff generally (fumble #1) They then asked if i would be interested in hanging out sometime (insert violent screaming) and then i double panicked started constantly calling them 'dude' 'bro' 'homie' 'fam' nearly every sentence to cover my tracks and then somehow i accidentally derailed the conversation and think i missed my chance?
the next night they mentioned wishing they had someone to cuddle since it's been chilly and i considered flirting or shooting my shot but instead bc i don't wanna lose them as a friend or make them uncomfortable or push any boundaries i just kinda laughed tried to crack jokes and eventually got bummed out and went to bed early Q-Q ??
did i fumble the whole thing oh my god im gonna launch myself into the void AUGHHHHHHHH | Crushes |
She knows I like her. Idk how to act or treat her. I just don’t wanna be a creep or come off obsessed.
I am infatuated and I think about her. I use her as an emotion in my art expression. | Crushes |
Aight so, im confessing to my crush this week. I already know imma get rejected but he wants to know my crush n i promised him i'd tell him who it is. Just praying it wont ruin our friendship. Wish me luck in a few days.
Ill probably tell him when im cycling with him | Crushes |
ask me anything about him! i just want to talk about him haha. i’ll return the favor <3 | Crushes |
He makes me smile. He makes me laugh. He's so adorable despite how problematic he seems. He's carefree yet he's on my mind all the time. He looks out for me. He carries my books. He teases me. He playfights with me all the time. He calls me his best friend despite the fact that we just met. He invites me out to things. He holds onto me. He's just so stupid. He's the reason I'm so damn distracted with work. I have to get a project done and here I am typing away about him... again. He's so stupid. | Crushes |
So theres a girl in my class and she been (in my opinion) very flirty with me. Whenever she's near me she does this thing with my water bottle and says bong as she hits it, ask me to hold air and she pops it. It's funny and cute and 2 people have imply that she's wants me. I don't know guys, does she like me? | Crushes |
[https://sites.google.com/view/perfect-for-her/home](https://sites.google.com/view/perfect-for-her/home) | Crushes |
For context I have a crush on this girl I don't really speak to outside of school as idk how and I've had a month or so of semi-consistent dialogue with her before going back to the occasional talking. I'm not exactly sure how to get to a new level or what i should do next. So what do i do? | Crushes |
Felt threat | Crushes |
A couple of weeks ago there was a my housemates and I hosted a house party. I (22f) got incredibly drunk and snapped at one of my housemates (T) for something. after everyone left I fell asleep on the couch in the kitchen. I was woken up later by T who held my hand and took me to my room, once there he gave me a long hug, I apologised for snapping at him and he broke the hug and looked into eyes with his face really close to mine then I broke eye contact and leant back into the hug. After this he just helped me get into bed to sleep before he left.
I didn’t think much of it until it came up with a different friend and she suggested he could have feelings for me.
It might be worth mentioning my ex is also one of my housemates and T is a friend of his | Crushes |
I like you. Some would call it a crush but I think it's more than that. I go to school everyday just to see you, just to feel your presence. You throw me all these little signs that make me go crazy in my mind. Maybe you do it unknowingly, but for that you'd have to have a pretty promiscuous personality. I don't know you like that. You were always so kind and sweet, so innocent and adorable. So why are you changing yourself up just to get my heart to beat faster?
To be honest, I like it like that. Exchanging glances in class and silently smiling to yourself whenever our eyes meet. That's what gets me everytime I try to move on from you. But honestly, I could never move on from you the easy way, who am I even lying to. You got me hooked now and you know it damn well. You got me hooked just by these little glances and smiles. But goddamn, your smile really is adorable.
And are you proud of yourself now? I know that we couldn't be together, and you know too. You're up in your mind while I'm here admiring you. I'd save myself from the embarrassment of confessing to you if I wasn't so naive. You know that I'd bleed for you if you just held me the right way. Naive, right? I know, but I don't care even half as much as I should. My hopes are ever high for you and I know that it's wrong, for my own sake, but I just can't get my mind off of your beautiful eyes, your pink lips, your heartwarming laugh, your little smirk.
So what do I do about it? Write silly little letters again and again, until my ink runs out and there is no more paper to write on. Until there's no more room to store them. That's what I always do. But I hope at the end of all my ink and paper, there's a tiny little chance of you finally calling me yours. Naive, again, I know. But I love to imagine. That's why I imagine the meaning behind your glances and smiles. I imagine some form of admiration, some bit of love. There is no actual meaning behind your eyes on mine and I know it too damn well. Or am I wrong? Tell me with your cute little mouth how wrong I am, and I'd still like you, just for speaking to me.
That's what you call desperation. But I admit, I am desperate, delusional and simply just crushing on you.
"You're perfect. That's all I can really say to you. Ever since I saw you, I felt as if my life finally had a meaning to it. We don't even talk that much, but just looking at you makes me feel euphoric, happy even. I catch myself looking at you ever so often, tracing your face with my gaze and admiring every single one of your features. Your beautiful lips foring to a smile when our eyes meet, and I can feel my heart beating. For the longest period of time I thought I was dead, but when I saw you for the first time, it was as if my world gained color. I was dead for so long but you pulled me out of my grave, unknowingly. You don't know me. I'm just another face in the classroom, but to me you are a savior. My savior. But I am not worthy of you. Never in my life would I dare to stain your existence with mine. I'd much rather stay your silent admirer, than be the person who put baggages onto your heart. I'm not even entirely sure what it is about you that makes you so desirable to me. Maybe your mesmerizing eyes, or your adorable laugh? I don't know, but I'm a sucker for you and your attention. My heart cries whenever I see you, because I know that I could never be yours. All my thoughts and feelings are safely secured in my heart, and will stay there for the rest of my life. I'd never dare to make you feel bad or uncomfortable. I'd much rather stay your
- silent admirer." | Crushes |
So we haven't talked in a long time, we've snapped but we haven't had a conversation in probably a month and a half. We were texting last night for a few hours about music and shit. So we have a similar taste in genres but we listen to different bands. I asked her if she's ever heard of my favorite band, and she said "oh yea I've herd it, it's a good song". I just said "it's a band lol" and she was just like "damn, well there goes my lie".
Is it a red flag that she lied about knowing a band I like? I honestly just thought it was funny but I mean I might as well just be sure. | Crushes |
I think he does but idk | Crushes |
Me and this guy I really liked had a thing going on but we (technically he) decided to end the relationship bc of LDR and the commitment wasn’t there. He said he loves me but isn’t ready for a relationship. I’m aware that some people would say he never loved me enough to be in a relationship etc. but I still really like him, or rather i’m still extremely heartbroken. I’ve tried moving on and it’s been a year now and we haven’t contacted AT ALL. I wonder if i should just text him and be friends or wait it out again to move on. Texting him might make me seem pathetic, idk. He is the kind of person who is also afraid to make a move and overthinks quite abit too tho. Please give any advice THANKS SO MUCH | Crushes |
This dude-
I cant even-
Worst is he has a girlfriend and doesn't know wtf he's doing to me kdhshdhskdgaj | Crushes |
If you look at my account I have liked this girl for a while and we have started texting on insta alot even if we are waffling planning on confessing next week when I get a half term holiday but might not if I lose confidence | Crushes |
I have a friend, we talk every day for hours and I have a crush she’s been texting with my friend for a couple months now. and he was like „don’t worry I won’t do anything you can trust me“ I was like I know I can trust you. but I said to him „please don’t tell me what you guys are texting I’m trying to get over her“ and he said ok to that. but lately when we are on a call he’s say like „ did you know your crush lives next to my school she sent me a Foto“ and always when she post something he‘s like „did you see her post“ and in my head I’m like, why are you telling me this and he only says it when it’s her post no one else. he said he wouldn’t talk about her. He knows how it makes me feel. and today I go on instagram he made this pole and it said asked questions. and someone said who are your favourite people and he replied „I tagged them“ and a hour later I see my crush replied to the post so he tagged her he didn’t even tag me and we call each other for hours. so I don’t know what to do, am I false for thinking I can’t trust him right now? | Crushes |
I have a crush on my coworker, but we don't talk all the time. I have a feeling someone who quit not too long ago also has feelings for her. I'm 19, and she's 23. And the other guy is 25. The problem is, she just got out of a relationship, and I don't want the other guy to make the first move, but I'm nervous. What do I do? Her birthday is on February 20th, and Valentines Day is on the 14th. I want to do something special and get her something nice. | Crushes |
I swear everytime I see my crush, and I start thinking of how to make my move, there’s always something stopping me. Not only is it anxiety which I do have when I see her, but it’s when I see her with other boys. It’s so annoying… I’ve had a crush on her for almost a full year now, and I don’t have her in any of my classes. I only see her during one of our passing periods, and maybe here and there on campus. Anyway my point is that I’m very annoyed on how there’s always this one thing that’s stopping me from wanting to make my move and FINALLY confess to her… if you got any ideas or any tips or whatever, feel free to comment. | Crushes |
so there's a girl in my class we used to have couple of eye contacts and she used to watch me secretly while used to write or do something else in the class.
i followed her on Instagram and she followed me back liked my post. , i initiated the chat on Feb 1 and now she was replying me very slow like an hour of a delay. today i asked her that can we talk on whatsapp just to get her number and she left me on seen. why is she so confusing | Crushes |
I have a gf and she's great and close by but we don't see each other too often in person and she recently has been getting super dry over text and I don't know how too feel she is keeping to her self and wont tell me anything and I'm trying to get closer to her but I don't think she wants to be should I break up or should I stick it out? | Crushes |
So I confessed to my crush back in December and he said I’m one of his closest friends.
I got more emotional than I expected so I wanted space and I told him I wanted space to feel my feels and see if I can show up as a good friend.
He understood and told me to take the time I need, it’s been around 40 days. I’ve done a lot of healing and I’m less emotional but I still miss him.
Any tips on
1. Knowing when you’re ready to talk again with a crush after being rejected
2. How to communicate expectations (like idk if I’m ready to text again but when we bump into each other let’s chat or catch up in friend group hangs)
3. What to say when you see your ex-crush after being rejected
4. If you should continue being friends | Crushes |
After 3 months of a situationship which included a just friends phase, a yes phase, a no phase, an in between phase, a "yes but not now" phase and then stranger phase now, she (18f), on 16 Jan told me (18m) that she likes someone else.
My first instinct was to send an "ok" and block her.
I did, after 2 days of this interaction.
I told my friends after 2 days of blocking her and one of my friends confronted her.
She told him that "I've always told him he is a friend to me" (believe me, she didn't behave that way)
And messaged me on my Instagram account(s) and WhatsApp.
I was hurt so i didn't reply.
We talked 2 days after that and she told me that the day she told me she likes the guy, she was not having any feelings. Basically she was trying to tell me a longer version that included that :
She liked him but when she checked out, found out he's a wrong guy so she lost feelings.
She even said sorry and i just liked the message and left.
3 days ago, she asked me about an exam I had.
(It clearly was an attempt to strike up a conversation with me because even if she didn't, nothing would have changed). I remained dry for the couple of messages we sent to each other.
Yesterday, she reacted to one of my stories and I just reacted to them. No reply.
But it's still eating me up. I want to talk to her for maybe the last time and pour my heart out but how should I? The question is, should I? Is it even my responsibility to send a message when she f*ked up?
I'm exhausted but I still love her.. idk what should I be doing. It's only 3-4 months left and after that we won't know our paths in life. Wtf am I supposed to do? | Crushes |
So I'm going to sound completely dumb or she's indirectly telling me something. So sometimes when i say "Fuck you" to her she replies "Ehh. Not you". Now hear me out. I know this means she doesn't like me but, she does this multiple times. So I'm confused. Is she teasing me or is she just being honest and saying "No i don't like you" ?.Do girls do this to tease or am I stupid and she doesn't like me ? | Crushes |
I’m so nervoussss omg! It might be kinda hard to do it in person because I don’t have much time where I’m alone with her.
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It‘s kinda weird, but I often can‘t “remember” the face if my crush… Like i know what they look like, but I can‘t really picture them in my head, except for when I saw a photo of them ( but even then not always). I‘ve also had that with other people in my life, but especially with crushes? Does anyone have the same problem or does anyone know about this? | Crushes |
Recently saw a post about someone saying I was rapist or pedo or something like that saying they talked to my mom when one that's a lie they don't know my mom and whoever it was is blocked probably unless it was the one I'm thinking posted it and mom knows I'm innocent of what they're talking about bc I never went to jail I went through nyap therapy bc I didn't do anything wrong I just been having voices and stuff say things and the therapist wasn't helping so I had to get different help from kbmc and other places so basically long story short Claudia u text me about this don't believe jade or her mom or some stupid asshole that don't know me or anything about my life bc my guardian and me hasn't gotten a letter or call from anyone from the courts | Crushes |
She is (or was) one of my closest friends whom I knew for over a year before developing feelings. Finally decided to tell her a couple of days ago and was friendzoned. It’s breaking me inside. I’d finally decided to put aside my cynicism and distrust one more time, and this happens. I’ve probably ruined or at least changed our friendship forever and since we still have to see each other every day I don’t know what I’m going to do; I don’t want to just throw away our friendship but if I keep her around I may just continue having deeper feelings and false hope; I don’t know which is worse 😔💔 | Crushes |
This is seriously getting out of hand. I think about him wayyyyy too much. Ive known him for over a year and ever since ive known him, i already know that i would be down bad. We're friends but we dont talk very often and he's honestly a really nice guy, very friendly and HES SO CUTE OMG. I dont see us being in a relationship but hes literally all i can think about its ridiculous. HOW?????!?!?!? | Crushes |
If I could spend that day with C it would be the greatest holiday ever even tho I don't have anyone or prolly will not have anyone to celebrate with tbh everyone where I am and in my family and friends all have someone tbh idek if I have friends anymore and tbh idk where I am going with this but if you see this C could you just be friends again with me nothing else idc if u don't even respond much or make rules but I just need you. | Crushes |
Farewell to this sub. | Crushes |
I had some kind of connection to my boss, when he started working at my company a year ago. We instantly clicked and were a great team.
I caught his glances. We held eye contact even when not talking to each other. He always came very close to me, without touching. It was so hard not to simply give in and touch him.
There were two occasions where I (drunk) made it quite clear I had interest in him. And I did touch him then. He didn't mind. He said "Go on, it's okay".
But that's it.
He then "vanished". He got sick and I haven't seen or talked to him since late September. He didn't talk to anybody, not his boss, no one. It's so weird and I am in constant worry what the hell happened to him. It doesn't fit his character in the slightest.
This week he had an appointment because of this. And he came. He told his boss he'll be leaving the company.
I am heartbroken in multiple ways. I fought against the tears when his boss told me. I lost when I left his office. I bawled my eyes out.
I'm at a point where I start doubting if I can go on doing my job like I did for 10 years. I need him here. I need him in my life. I'm lost.
He will come to the office one last time to say goodbye on Tuesday.
First I was unsure if I should be there. Because it will hurt so much.
But I want it. I need to see him. His unique eyes. His smile. Maybe get huggend one last time. And maybe he'll tell what happened.
But should I ask him. If I imagined all those looks? Those moments? Ask him if he really wants to leave? Leave me behind?
I want to ask him if we can stay in contact. Tell him I need him in some kind of way in my life. I don't care if friendship or less or more. Just something.
Should I? | Crushes |
There's this boy in class, who's friends with the smartest guy at school. He would often sit still in his seat even when it's free time. He does nothing but laugh when our classmates does someting stupid or either study for the next subject. Often don't talk to other classmates unless necessary, often alone. But does good in class, participates actively, but still fails doing team work.
At lunch time, he would sit with other quiet and introverted boys. I did get a chance to sit with him, but that was before I realized I had a crush on him. If only I was a boy, I could've always joined him for lunch. I miss the time when I didn't get so excited when being near him.
He is a smart and cute guy, he is my type, even with his short height. Though, I'm not quite sure what he likes or dislikes. I don't really know anything much about him, but I do know our birthday is in the same month! He barely had anything in his Facebook account too. Even when I noticed that we act the same, I still don't know how to befriend him.
Actually, I don't know how to befriend anybody, the only difference with us is that he isn't that depressed or introverted, unlike me, sadly. With this, I desperately want to know how to at least communicate with him the slightest! I also have plans to leave a chocolate gift on his desk on February 14, letting him know someone cares. I just really want to at least be an acquaintance to him! At least before the school year ends. Thanks! | Crushes |
I think I’m starting to develop a crush on a guy I just met this year (we share the same homeroom class now and he’s friends with my close friend). The thing is, a friend of mine who shared classes with him for two years told me he’s ‘slay’. I didn’t want to ask her what she meant by that because I don’t want anyone to find out about it. I’m scared that he might be gay (I have my suspicions but I don’t want to succumb to societal stereotypes), not that it’s a bad thing, it’s just that I’ll get my heart shattered lol 😭 | Crushes |
Like I said should I hug him | Crushes |
I think I’m starting to develop a crush on a guy I just met this year (we share the same homeroom class now and he’s friends with my close friend). The thing is, a friend of mine who shared classes with him for two years told me he’s ‘slay’. I didn’t want to ask her what she meant by that because I don’t want anyone to find out about it. I’m scared that he might be gay (I have my suspicions but I don’t want to succumb to societal stereotypes), not that it’s a bad thing, it’s just that I’ll get my heart shattered lol 😭 | Crushes |
IM DOOMED!!!! I LITERALLY JUST MADE A REDDIT ACCOUNT FOR THIS
### 😭 | Crushes |
I like you. Some would call it a crush but I think it's more than that. I go to school everyday just to see you, just to feel your presence. You throw me all these little signs that make me go crazy in my mind. Maybe you do it unknowingly, but for that you'd have to have a pretty promiscuous personality. I don't know you like that. You were always so kind and sweet, so innocent and adorable. So why are you changing yourself up just to get my heart to beat faster?
To be honest, I like it like that. Exchanging glances in class and silently smiling to yourself whenever our eyes meet. That's what gets me everytime I try to move on from you. But honestly, I could never move on from you the easy way, who am I even lying to. You got me hooked now and you know it damn well. You got me hooked just by these little glances and smiles. But goddamn, your smile really is adorable.
And are you proud of yourself now? I know that we couldn't be together, and you know too. You're up in your mind while I'm here admiring you. I'd save myself from the embarrassment of confessing to you if I wasn't so naive. You know that I'd bleed for you if you just held me the right way. Naive, right? I know, but I don't care even half as much as I should. My hopes are ever high for you and I know that it's wrong, for my own sake, but I just can't get my mind off of your beautiful eyes, your pink lips, your heartwarming laugh, your little smirk.
So what do I do about it? Write silly little letters again and again, until my ink runs out and there is no more paper to write on. Until there's no more room to store them. That's what I always do. But I hope at the end of all my ink and paper, there's a tiny little chance of you finally calling me yours. Naive, again, I know. But I love to imagine. That's why I imagine the meaning behind your glances and smiles. I imagine some form of admiration, some bit of love. There is no actual meaning behind your eyes on mine and I know it too damn well. Or am I wrong? Tell me with your cute little mouth how wrong I am, and I'd still like you, just for speaking to me.
That's what you call desperation. But I admit, I am desperate, delusional and simply just crushing on you.
"You're perfect. That's all I can really say to you. Ever since I saw you, I felt as if my life finally had a meaning to it. We don't even talk that much, but just looking at you makes me feel euphoric, happy even. I catch myself looking at you ever so often, tracing your face with my gaze and admiring every single one of your features. Your beautiful lips foring to a smile when our eyes meet, and I can feel my heart beating. For the longest period of time I thought I was dead, but when I saw you for the first time, it was as if my world gained color. I was dead for so long but you pulled me out of my grave, unknowingly. You don't know me. I'm just another face in the classroom, but to me you are a savior. My savior. But I am not worthy of you. Never in my life would I dare to stain your existence with mine. I'd much rather stay your silent admirer, than be the person who put baggages onto your heart. I'm not even entirely sure what it is about you that makes you so desirable to me. Maybe your mesmerizing eyes, or your adorable laugh? I don't know, but I'm a sucker for you and your attention. My heart cries whenever I see you, because I know that I could never be yours. All my thoughts and feelings are safely secured in my heart, and will stay there for the rest of my life. I'd never dare to make you feel bad or uncomfortable. I'd much rather stay your
- silent admirer." | Crushes |
write a letter to my crush?
so for more context read https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/10slahi/my_introversion_completely_kills_my_love_life/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
TLDR: im having bad social anxiety around my crush which pretty much led me to act so bad und cold around him that he probably thinks i hate him. which is quite the opposite of what i do. and since i lack in confidence i just cant bring myself to straight up talk to him again.
my intention with this letter would be not to confess my love and all that to him, i just feel so extremely bad for acting so cold and distant around him and i want to clarify that its not what i intend to do. i just want to let him know that he's a great person and that he inspires me and i do care about him and maybe would like to get him to know better. and that im sorry for acting so weirdly. every day i cant stop thinking about how i messed up so many opportunities where he tried to get through to me and i hate myself for it.
however what if im actually wrong and he isnt that much into me and it would be super weird to give him the letter. especially cause im at collage and i keep reading that doing stuff like this is stuff that young immature kids do. | Crushes |
I really like her, she even appears in my dreams (ik that sounds corny) but I just don't have the courage to say it I'm afraid of rejection, we sometimes caught eachother eyes while working and I tried to smile at her and she'd just look away as fast idk if she do that cause she hate me or just shy. I'm nervous | Crushes |
My crush isn't replying to me anymore, i think she's having a suspicion that i like her. (we're kinda like friends) | Crushes |
(19M) I haven’t been on a date in over a year, I did just got on one yesterday for the first time in awhile. It went really well I think, we got food, went to the movies, and went back to my house to watch another movie, I’m thinking about asking her to hangout again today, it’s probably not a great idea right? We both don’t got a ton of money so I’d be asking her to come over to watch a movie or something, what do y’all think 😭 | Crushes |
in my friend group i'm known as being the straight friend and because of those expectations, i haven't voiced the confusion i've been feeling lately. the girl and i have a lot of mutual friends so i'm afraid of the consequences that could come from flirting w her.
also its the question of if i even like her romantically. i catch myself fantasizing about kissing and hugging just in general doing some intimate physical stuff. but i don't know if thats me lusting over her because she's a virgin and i want to show her how good touching can be. i say this because i have a tendency to go after virgin males.
also not sure how it would come up if i "straight friend" were to approach and proposition her because she likes girls. | Crushes |
I'm autistic and am really bad with signals pls help.
He knows I'm autistic and when we mess around he never goes too far with like banter and stuff, if he thinks he has he will ask me to make sure. We don't touch often (like hug and stuff) because I have issues with touch but we talk all the time. He's usually the one to come and find me too talk. I asked for his number but he almost always starts conversations. We have had convos about past trauma and really private things, but we also joke around a lot.
I feel like he likes me, but I have been wrong many times before and I am bad with signals. Could someone tell me what they think so I know (I like him btw). | Crushes |
I asked him one time jokingly "what if.." and he said he'd be ok with that.
But that's not important rn.
She's enchanting me in every way. She's so cute and wise and adventurous that I'd just be happy if I was only a small chapter in her life.
But life is unfair and life is suffering.
1) I haven't the slightest clue if she likes me or not
2) I live 5-6 hours away from her.
3) I work 8-10 hours every day like a madman in a machine workshop. And I'd be working in the same job until 12th of May.
But my gut constantly tells me that she's the one.
What should I do? How should I go about this? | Crushes |
Is it healthy to talk to my crush everyday? Or is that being to desperate? | Crushes |
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