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we met through our friend, m. he's her best friend since kindergarten. they share the same sense of humor and i love being around him and m. my best friend, b, is dating m, so i've never once been concerned about his relationship with her. it's been known that m was into girls for a couple of years now. anyway, our relationship started out very confusing. m introduced us and we started talking on group calls and occasionally text each other. i started to like him a lot, but it was one of those crushes i didn't expect anything out of. he was more popular than i was and he wasn't really looking for a relationship. that's a-okay with me. my feelings for him are pure and innocent, just small flirtatious gestures and bright smiles directed at him. about two weeks ago, b informed me that he reciprocates the flirtatiousness and could possibly like me. he's clueless with zero dating experience. i've slept on call with him, not thinking much of it. although my heart was racing, i thought this is what friends do. b was there too, after all. she's known him since elementary, too. but today i am home sick from school. i didn't expect him to notice, we only have one class together. we're in the same group but there's so many people in our group that he probably wouldn't notice that i didn't sit with him at lunch. but he did. around the time we would be in our shared class, he texted me from the bathroom. "bro, where are you?" i began rolling on the floor, thrilled he actually cared about me. we talked for a little bit until he had to go back to class, but i've been giddy since then. all our friends ship us and swear there's something there, but i feel like i'm the only one with feelings. now, i don't know how to feel. | Crushes |
I met this girl through a mutual friend. We went on short trip somewhere and I kind of started liking her. She asked me that she wanted to add me on Instagram and I did. The trip was fun but it’s over now. I realized I have a crush on her because I was so sad when it was over. She is on Instagram, but don’t know how to have conversations or ask her out. I don’t have balls to do it directly, that’s why I’m asking for suggestions. | Crushes |
(general definition for down bad if you need it: when you are so desperate for someone/something that you lose all rational thought) | Crushes |
idrk if it’s worth it or not, and even if i give it anonymously id be too worried if they found out my identity | Crushes |
Ever had or hypothetically, would you be scared or feel some type of way if someone had a crush on you and gets jealous like you guys are dating type of serious jealous but yall aren't even dating or not near or never gonna be that stage?
Also if you had liked them or not, how did/would you feel?
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/10fia74) | Crushes |
So my crush knows I like him from like a month and a half ago. He didn't talk to me for like a few weeks. Like 2 weeks ago he started to make jokes around me again and not like a conversation just funny statements. I need some help on what this means. | Crushes |
What do your friends think about the way your crush looks? Just curious.
My friends told me that they're sorry for me because my crush (well we're basically dating now) is so ugly and that I'm wayy too pretty for him xD. Which I don't understand.. I never feel beautiful and I think he looks soo much better than I do. But his personality is what made me fall for him<3 now he's the most beautiful guy in the world. | Crushes |
I met this girl last year in class and I found her really funny and cute so I wanted to be her friend.
After around 2 weeks of small talk with that girl in the hallway whenever we saw each other which was only 2 days per week cuz that’s how our schedules worked.
One day I went up to her and talked to her and after our conversation she asked me if I wanted a hug and I fucking panicked and said no because I was so fucking nervous and I hate myself for it and after that she’s just been ignoring me.
That’s not the only mistake I made, I also asked for her instagram and she said are u going to follow me and for some stupid reason I said no again and then she didn’t give it to me.
I don’t see her in school anymore cuz my schedule has changed :(
I feel like I messed up my chances with this girl | Crushes |
idk the title says it all and i wanan say something but it’s dead silent and i’m overthinking so much | Crushes |
I'll try to summarize all I can:
We haven't talked to each other for around 1-2 months (not even by text) and when we finally see each other she didn't seemed as happy as I did... I hugged her and it became uncomfortable after the hug ended... The conversation went too bad and when we were leaving the school (she usually waits for me before leaving but in this case she didn't) she just didn't say bye... I've been thinking for an hour if a did something wrong and right now all I can think it's It will be better for us to break up...
(We have talked about this a couple of times but nothing has changed) | Crushes |
A short animation of Love
https://youtu.be/xdHx1YEsWwk
I bet the bigger things would be fighting? What do you think? | Crushes |
I’ve been crushing on my classmate for a really long time now, maybe over a year at this point, i go to sleep thinking about her and wake up thinking about her, i always put off confessing because i didn’t think she liked me like that and I didn’t want to ruin the friendship we had, today I decided when i see her at the library I’m gonna confess and tell her how i feel and whatever happens happens, however today she decided she was gonna study at home, no big deal, i’ll just do it next time when i see her, however there’s some things i want to understand,
She loves taking pictures with me and giving me hugs and all that stuff, but at the same time she’s always texting other guys, so i really have no idea is she just being friendly or if she has feelings for me, i’ve been spending a lot of time with her recently studying for exams together, she was telling me about how in the second semester we need to be ‘a team’ and work together to help eachother pass exams etc etc,
part of me is saying maybe she likes me back and another part of me is saying she just sees me as somewhat of a close friend and that’s it,
What do you guys think of this situation and do you guys think i should confess or just bottle my feelings up and continue as i have been since i met her? | Crushes |
Quick | Crushes |
Me and my crush dont speak much to eachother, even tough we are classmates. I had other crushes before but never felt anything like that. I have so much i wanna see her but never will probably. And I have a very strong feeling, that she doesn't even like me. Its hard for me to say her name even only to my friends its hard for me to write it down yet I do it all the time, everywhere I can because I like her name so much. Its hard for me to look at her name even tough its so simple yet so beautiful. I dont want her to love me just to think of me from time to time aboit whatever. Its hard. Does this mean I really love her or Im just weird? | Crushes |
We talk in class, and in the past we’ve gone multiple times to the gym. This new semester we talk in class, and every now and then asks to go to the gym. I never ask him. Come to the day we’re supposed to go and I ask him how about morning or evening. Just get ghosted -.- . Ful im not even asking you to hang out, so if you don’t wanna don’t ask me wth. | Crushes |
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We're both in our mid-20s. Context of our personalities, we first bonded over how we basically have the same interests and likes, and became friends. Both of our favorite bands is Radiohead, both of us are Pisces born in the same week, both in the Healthcare field, list goes on lol.
We talk EVERY day. And we have the communication where if we don't talk for 1-3 days, we understand because we had a busy week but thats still rare. Our conversation are consecutively, meaning we always pick up where we left off until one of us asks about our day and go from there! My local best friends are respectably wagging their finger at me, because to them there is obvious signs that she feels the same way 😅
Signs are: Always telling me at least once per 1-2 weeks how thankful she is for me being in her life (and how thankful I am!!), sends me heart emojis when showing support for my own dreams, sends me selfish of what she is doing or a place she is visiting, always sends me gifts and allows me to send her gifts, talks about me to her family, and her other close best friend knows about me.
Ya see fellow readers....its not that I am scared of rejection, its that I am scared of awkwardness. So I want to be able to show more of my personality and allow us to build a deeper connection, by starting phone conversations. But how do I even...do that without making is sound out of nowhere or forced, I guess? | Crushes |
so the question would be: do y’all have any advice on how or what should I talk? Thanks! | Crushes |
I've this crush which works in the same company. I'm resigning in few weeks and going back to my hometown. Maybe will get new job in the same city I'm currently in.
I wanna tell this girl that I like her. My friends are advising not to tell her. They are telling me that you have spent 9 months without telling her, why not few more. But, I dunno, I feel like I wanna tell her. Although, I know I'll get rejected for sure. But still I don't wanna live in regret and think atleast I should have told her whatever the result should have been. I am feeling that regret of not telling her will be > than regret of telling her and getting rejected.
What do you guys suggest? What should I do in this case? I'm so confused right now. | Crushes |
There’s this guy who confessed to me 2 years ago and then we liked each other. I was emotionally unstable at the time and felt like I needed him, but I was aware that he added more problems for me and I was quite unhappy. At the same time i was convinced he was the best thing that happened to me. We were only getting to know each other more, so i never shared many of my secrets. I was really into him but in the end we never dated since we were parting ways after high school, but he said he loved me and he is doing it for my own good because he doesn’t think he can make me happy. I was depressed after this and i doubted his feelings, thinking i’m not good enough, I didn’t know how to make myself happy. After a year i miss him so much even though i accepted we shouldn’t be together and it is for the better since i also want to focus on myself. Now it’s been 2 years and I still keep thinking about him, to the point i am crying and so lost, I want to know if this is normal? I’m confused because we never officially dated and i don’t know him TOO well. I’m also extremely afraid that he has forgotten me and moved on (because that’s what people usually do). I never contact him and he has no idea how I feel. I want to know if it is normal to miss someone for this long, and why i am feeling this way | Crushes |
I have this big ass crush on this guy whom I have 2 classes with. We never talk. And I mean it. Never. He’s funny, athletic, and loud. I’m shy, definitely not athletic, and quiet. Especially when it comes to boys I find myself attracted to. I, however want to at least follow him on a social media platform. Either on Snapchat or instagram just to make sure if he knows I exist and maybe follow me back? Should I do it? Or is it too risky? I honestly don’t want him to think I’m a stalker or a weirdo. But I just want to do anything to get him to notice me just a little bit since I can’t bring myself to talk to him :’> | Crushes |
Im a 15 year old straight boy from belgium, i really like this girl in my class but i think im way out of her league. You can say she is pretty average in case of popularity, just like me. But im really ugly because of my hair (i have to have really much hair because i have a few scars on my head because i had cancer when i was little). I never had any girlfriend in my life so i dont know a single thing to do. Like we get along pretty well, and we are pretty simular. Like im really interested in football and have a season ticket for my favourite club, and she also has a season ticket for that same club. I just feel like she could be the one, its a feeling ive never had before. Like if i work with her in science, she would touch my hand when she passes me and would come pretty close when shes looking at what im doing. I am really scared to tell her that i have feelings for her, because im at a school with people that laugh with anything, just because they love to embarass you. She isn't flirty with me, but we talk sometimes when i sit next to her in geography for example. She also has many friends and i only have 2 close friends. It's the first time i have ever got a crush on someone. I feel like she is really nice and is perfect for me. Pls give me any tips, just remember that i'm not, EVER, gonna say that i have a crush on her. | Crushes |
So there is this girl in my class who i have a crush on. But the problem is that i think i might be too obsessed with her. I keep on trying to analyze our interactions together with her interactions with other people and also i try to look at her to see if she is looking at me. I've caught her a few times but everytime i catch her something in my mind keeps telling me that she is also probably looking at someone else.
Im tired of having this mentality of trying to analyze her conversations and actions towards other people because ik that no matter what i do i cant control who she likes. Has someone else also experienced this and if so how did u stop having this mentality | Crushes |
At what point do you think it is time to move on from long time crush?? | Crushes |
She will take almost all opportunities to glance and smile at me, but only when her friends don’t notice. Sometimes when she does it, she looks me STRAIGHT in the eye. But afterwards she acts like it never happened.
i just put the flair cuz y not | Crushes |
Just curious as to how people decide if it's time to give up on their crushes | Crushes |
She likes my bestfriend and my bestfriend does'nt likes her at all. When i try to talk to her my bestfriend just keeps saying you are talking to her too much and keeps draging me to somewhere else.My bestfriend is literally everyones crush 😭 She just rejected all of them and acting really jealous when i talk to her that might be a sign that she likes me but i am not into her... I really dunno what to do | Crushes |
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R.I.P to my soul. I decided to take a leap a fate and randomly message my crush. I sent the message yesterday late in the after noon and now it’s Wednesday morning and nothing. Welp guess that’s it then. Life is just great isn’t it? I just keep wondering why did he ignore me he usually always responds to me. | Crushes |
i have a crush on this dude at my university i know literally nothing about him i can only sense his vibe and overall appearance and he’s so freaking handsome and has such good style and i am melting. but the big big problem is… i have never ever got past the staring stage like i can only admire from the distance. in addition to that im also ugly and i don’t even look put together. in high school i was okay with that but now i am so embarrassed and i’m starting to believe there’s sth wrong with me truly. i just know i have to work on my self esteem and confidence and shit like that but at what costs. it’s just infuriating that no one that i like likes me back and i feel like i’ll become a femcel or sth like that while all of my friends are into relationships and shit. it’s so hdhdjdjfjfjfisiw. i really like him tho i guess i have to learn how to uncrush someone | Crushes |
A dance is coming up soon and the entire point of it was for the girls to ask the guys out. I guess I got impatient and ended up asking her while on call.
Turns out, she was planning to make a poster to ask me out 🥲 | Crushes |
That's all | Crushes |
Hey. So I was on tinder to talk to some girls and just confirm that I do romantically like them. My mom is homophobic so I internalized a lot of that and it has been a long journey for me to realize that I like anyone. I made it clear to the girls I talked to why I was on tinder and they were chill, some of them were there for the same reason.
This one girl asked me to go to a party Saturday and long story short it didn't work out so she invited me to hang with here and her friends. They hang out most nights and it was so fun. I've never had a friend group (two of the 5 were her roommates) and even her roommates told me to come over whenever and it was really nice to be invited and included. However one of their friends is this really hot guy from Germany and he has tattoos and works out and he's funny and so far (I've hung out with the group twice) he seems great.
The problem is that idk what my friend wants cause she said she was on tinder just for fun and if she makes friends, great and if it's smth more than also great. And I don't want to like her friend who she introduced me to if she does like me and I feel guilty. And on top of it, a part of me doesn't want anything to happen with anyone cause I don't want to mess us the group and I would love to be a part of it.
I'm sure you guys have had similar situations so...help? | Crushes |
I would do anything for her i talk to her everyday if i can get her to say awww it makes me so happy shes the only girl ive ever told she looked pretty, Beautiful and told her her makeup looked natural she giggled at that one | Crushes |
Okay so my sister (she doesn't exactly know what is going on between us without context of the situation)
Asked my crush(17m) abt whether he's into me or not
He said “no” and ran away in a weird way
Ik he's into me but not admitting it so you know i better not waste my time on him if he's like not ready to clear his feelings for me and giving those mixed signals is just gonna worse stuff.. ik i should move on but- but at the same time he's into me so it just gives me hope that he's gonna confess
Idk what to do | Crushes |
so it's like this, I met a guy during our school's PE and we talked for some time, it was just basic conversations. After that day I had a match and he was there and told me I played well. the next day when I and my friend were eating our lunch in the classroom, he came and asked me if he could sit beside us, I didn't find it any weird and said yes, in the middle of nowhere he says to my friend that he drew a picture of me and showed us the pic, I was confused and I said thanks. after that period my friends started to tease me about him, and till that moment it didn't occur to me that he was a little sus. I was open to the fact that he may have a crush on me. I was lost, and so confused as it was all new to me and I really don't interact with boys that much, he again came to sit with us on the second day and was really uncomfortable as I couldn't talk to my friends and I was feeling very awkward. i finished my food really fast and went away. What do I do, I feel uncomfortable whenever he comes to sit with us, I really don't enjoy talking with him that much and I feel forced to talk to him just because he sits with us and I feel really bad when we eat in silence and feel obligated to ease the awkwardness. I really value my privacy, I feel so burdened that I don't know how to say to him that he couldn't sit with us anymore and I really don't like the situation I am in and I don't wanna hurt him in case he has a crush on me but it is possible that it's just a misunderstanding but all my friends tell me why I can't see it and it's an obvious fact. I was going through my peaceful school days with my best friend and I am now feeling so frustrated, to top it off it's my finals week. What should i do, any comments are welcome | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this girl. But I get jealous when she is talking with other guys. Now we don't talk very often at all. Sometimes when we are in the same group for a project, we talk. But we don't regularly have conversations. We have each other added on multiple social media but never send each other anything. But I get so jealous when she is talking to other guys because I want to be the person she talks to. I need help because I don't want this jealousy messing with my academic performance | Crushes |
He started acting weird since last month. He suddenly started replying me very slowly and his texts became cold so I asked him why and he said he’s mentally unstable and wants some break but he often go out with friends. I see him on his friends stories almost every day and he looks fine to me. I feel like he keeps a distance from me and lost his interest in me. We have relations for 6 months and I think it was going well because it was obvious we liked each other.
Do you think he doesn’t like me anymore or see another girl?
I still really like him and don’t want to give up.
Any advice is appreciated. | Crushes |
I'll try to explain the situation, please stick with me.
So, my crush and her neighbor been talking about something. The neighbor wanted to find *her crush* on snapchat.
So what does she do? She asks *my crush* to add every dude named after him.
By accident, she adds my classmate (she texted me about it)
They followed eachother on instagram and she texted him and hour ago.
I feel envious and desperate.
Any advice will be appreciated.
Also, don't know if this changes the situation a lot, but we're in different schools. | Crushes |
Recently we’ve been talking so much and I guess flirting:
- we’ve been hanging out after school recently
- we compliment each other all the time
- she told me that I’m always in her head and that she can’t ever focus in class because of it
- last night we both fell asleep while on video call | Crushes |
Is it okay for me 17m to have a crush on a girl probably of 19/20? | Crushes |
do you (really) think he's interested if we text everyday? we've been texting for almost 2 weeks straight. we both reply fast. (no good night/good morning n all that) the conversation really never runs dry n we jus talk abt stuff that's happening throughout our day. for context, i'm a piercer. he was debating on getting a second lobe piercing n he told me. i said to do it n he said to pierce it for him. so now we're meeting on saturday n getting food after.... | Crushes |
Okay... my school lessons just ended and since my house is a bit far away I always walk from school to my house with my friends, also because we kind of live really close to each other. Anyways we go out of the school building, went down those grand stairs, I looked up and BOOM!.. there he was, LITERALLY looking at ME. I stared back because my dumbass self didn't realize it was HIM, since I'm literally like blind (I use glasses plus it was pretty dark outside). He was talking to his friends and he was just randomly towards me. Then I pretended to be looking for my friend, who I was LITERALLY holding hands with, OMG now that I think about it's so dumb. Anyways when I turned back around he wasn't there anymore, I was SO embarrassed. | Crushes |
She said likes me but only a happy crush. She said she doesn't want to entertain someone yet so she wants to be friends with me first. What should I do to make her like me more than just a happy crush? | Crushes |
My crush “admitted” she likes me to someone else(who sent it to me)
I have no idea if someone was using her phone or not. Or if it was fake/used an app.
How can I bring it up/check/confirm or should I just leave it be as a side note? | Crushes |
i (16f) kinda have a crush on my classmate (16m). we're both an introvert so i've never actually spoke to him in person although we've been talking through chats but mostly the topic is just about school stuff. i'm planning to make a move exactly on my birthday (this friday) so i can invite him to hangout with me and my friends after class. i'm rlly scared and nervous lol pls encourage me! | Crushes |
Ok I know I keep posting lol but I keep thinking of things that just BRUH.
I’ve used to call him darling or like everyone darling but I’ve stoped for a bit and I’ve just been noticing recently he’s stopped calling me “love” and started saying “my love”
I know it’s not that big of a deal but it is to me lol. Like that’s not a normal thing to say right? To say “my love” to a friend ? Like he’ll be like “no that’s not how to do that my love” idk but he’s been calling me that and it’s really thrown me off. And it’s not suuuper often but at least once a week he’ll catch me off guard with it and I just smile like a good at him as I melt away.
Do I like it … yes but I don’t know what it meanssss. What does it mean? Does it mean nothing ? Or something? Men are so confusing shxjrkscks!! | Crushes |
The first time I met her was three years ago. We both participated in a private school type thing where would only meet once a week. We were in this class for two years. this year we are both going to community colleges until we are through with our four years of being "highschoolers". I haven't seen her since like May, but we still keep in touch through texting. She is a good friend of mine and I don't want to hurt our friendship by asking her out, especially considering i asked her out a while ago and she said no. Right now my plan is to continue being close friends with her and start hanging out with her in person again, then see where things go from there. It hard for us to meet up though because she is super busy between work and school, and she lives in a different town. | Crushes |
It is such a frustration to end up being so quiet around a guy I like. 🤣🤣 One time, a guy told me I have my own world. But I just go blank when I really like a guy and thus lose a very important opportunity to show my personality!!! Hahahaha help!!!! Also, i have a feeling I am the slow burn type of person. I need to get comfortable first and it might take a year or two of a lot of hanging out. Does this mean it will take time for me to a get a boyfriend? 🤣🤣🤣 Never had one yet and had gone through a few men and a lot of rejections. | Crushes |
I don’t care who but to be honest I just really need help because my brain is overwhelmed as to what to do.I (18 F) liked them (16 F) since January 2022 lets call her Monaco. And I told her how i felt about her in April of that year which proceeded with us doing this new little thing called talking. Which can last for however long and made it even harder to get into a relationship of any kind for many if teenagers, including me unfortunately.
Even though at the time I was 17, now 18, I have no experience with girls whatsoever so we continued to talk over the summer. But me being a coward I didn’t ask to see Monaco once over the summer, partly of my parents strictness when it comes to activities as well as my own cowardice. But I’ll just go ahead and blame myself. Me personallyI think this is where she started losing feelings.
I saw Monaco only one time during the summer because she was performing something and I went. Regardless of that one thing we only had online things, which wouldn’t be a problem nowadays, if only she was online. Monaco barely uses her phone and I barely talked to her and it saddened. Moving on to the beginning of the school year August 2022 I got my classes and we had none in common but we saw each other occasionally after school. Which I think got us closer together again. And before I knew it was September and I asked her to Homecoming and she said yes. Bad luck for me though cause it was a bad night for me. I didn’t make a move to makes us closer and fumbled the bag terribly. About a week or two later she asked to meet me after school where Monaco informed me she feels she lost feelings for me and wanted to pursue other guys. With this being my first progress with any woman broke me but in the moment I played it cool and said it was all right. I saw it coming and I deserved it really.
For the next two months I tried avoiding her. I snapped her everyday just cause we had a streak. No real meaning was behind it. I didn’t say anything just took a picture and moved on with my day. I saw her occasionally and talked to her and from my point of view flirting with me. But I had to remind myself that I can’t let my teenage mind corrupt and twist the truth as it tends to. So I just start living my life and life seems to be getting better for me and even after two months Im not over her but I feel it fading. I make an ultimatum and asked her best friend to make sure that under any circumstance I don’t see, talk to, or interact with her in anyway. Which worked great im tandem with the upcoming winter break which was approaching and I would get away from her. For three whole weeks I would be free from even thinking about her. I would be free of the restraints that my own irrational brain forces upon me.
What I didn’t expect was for her to call me up the first day if break and tell me she had feelings for me again and felt terrible for having them because of the way things previously ended between us. Even though fading I still liked Monaco a fair amount and stupidly let her back into my life. Originally she seemed very invested and wanted to call me all the time. But now she barely interacts with me and I only see her after school for maybe an hour or so. It seems again that I’m the one chasing her again even though she asked to be talking to me. I just fell back into that same pattern. Truthfully I feel my life was better without her and I felt way better in general, but now I have to worry about these meaningless and stupid love things. The people around me aware of the situation-ship we share together tell me frequently how she’s using me for attention and could care less and I should just move on. This was brought to my attention initially the first few months of talking im April-Mayish but I shrugged it off cause I didn’t care. It took me until last week to fully recognize that maybe they are right that she just likes the attention I give her and not me. I want to villain-ize her in my head to just move on but I can’t because my romantic feelings are getting the way. This is being written on January 18 and I plan on asking her to be my girlfriend on February 3rd to honestly just get this over with. I have to focus on track which I’ll probably run in college as I’m a senior and I want to get this over with as she’s a junior and they’ll be a time where we are separated regardless. When she said she regained feelings for me I informed her that even now I wouldn’t have time for a girlfriend and I couldn’t give her the attention she would deserve. Monaco assured me that a good girlfriend would support their boyfriend in anything they did and wouldn’t distract him. I’ve been single my whole life so my reaction was to just halfheartedly believe her for some reason? Even now I’m confused about that whole thing, but anyway that one statement about that changed my mind about talking to her because initially I was hesitant to do so cause I was afraid of that manipulation and being held captive. And yet here we are, being held captive and totally not focused on anything but her which might be what she wants.
Anyway when it comes to my confession on February 3rd I’m anticipating a rejection which I for some reason am yearning for to be let free from the shackles of my own feelings. I’ll approach Monaco assuredly and with confidence and be just upfront and honest with her. But I digress, is this the wrong choice? Am I making the right decision? Am I really being emotionally manipulated my Monaco? Find out next time on DragonBall Z. But seriously am I tho? | Crushes |
I am 15f and and she is 16f, ask away! | Crushes |
Is it bad if a girl removes you as a follower to her tiktok account? | Crushes |
- he called me cute all the time
- he kisses the top of my head every once and a while
- he legit drove to my place to his to play games and then dropped me off
-he started kiss my cheek randomly when we are looking at eachother
- he tells me all the time that he likes that I hold his hand and or hook my elbow with him or he loves my smile and my laugh is cute.
-he likes taking photos
- he’s an absolute gentleman
- he goes to my door to pick me up and always walks me to my door dropping me off
- he boops my nose
- once he whispered to me that I looked really pretty and I died right there
-he helped my friend with her homework and was so understanding and helpful
-he’s really nice
- he always reassured me when I bring things up
-always one to apologize when he’s done something wrong
- he makes me feel ok to cry
-knows how to make me laugh
- we always have the longest hugs when he drops me off and I can hear his heart beat | Crushes |
So, there’s this guy I like in my art class. I’ve spoken to him a few times but he never really seemed interested, so I let it go. However, recently, I keep catching him looking at me, he takes the same direction as me to our next classes (they’re in the same hall but there’s multiple ways to get there and I change everyday), and, not once, but twice he was definitely checking me out???
I’m not the best at reading these kinds of things and I’ve only ever had two other crushes, but I want to get to know him. I’ve only told one of my friends about him and they keep telling me to talk to him, but everytime I think to, I freeze up and draw blanks. What should I do??? How do I approach him?? What do I even talk about 😭 | Crushes |
I (F20) just watched a couple episodes of breaking bad with this guy (M20) I like and I was leaning up against him and had my hand on his shoulder for most of the time we were there. We both had mutual friends there with us and I checked for uncomfortable body language like him moving away or readjusting but he’d shift over to grab the joint we were passing but then he’d put his body right back under my arm. I wasnt like really leaning on him but i don’t know if he just thought it was platonic or not. He does fit right into the “dumb man” stereotype so maybe he didn’t notice? Any advice?😂😂 | Crushes |
So this guy in two of my classes, i posted about him before right, well not so long ago i blocked him on everything and he started to text my friends and asking them why i blocked him and to unblock me even though we made it clear he didn't like me that way and well we made up and stuff. Today i had that small ysl perfume and i sprayed him. At first he complained and was like "i'm going to smell like a girl all day" and then later at night we where texting and asked what perfume it was and i was told him and cuz we have finals i wont see him. So then he goes on and says he liked the smell and that it was nice sharing a smell and then he was like "everyone was asking why i smelled like a girl" all goofy and stuff. Then he texted me saying he wants me to spray it on him tomorrow. Everyone says he likes me but he's just a flirt and then he said he didn't but he just weird. Im going delulu again, or he's girly pop 💀 | Crushes |
I know a girl, whom is a foreign student from Oceania. She is lovely and benign, but not my crush. I have no chance with my crush AND the foreign girl (sadly), but something peculiar occurred today. At the eclipse of class, I was talking to her whom I rarely do and her friends giggled at a discernible tone. Both her and I were rather addled. The group, which consists of my crush and two other girls, is affable with each other. Especially the foreign girl and my crush. They know each other better than I know both of them combined. Do any of you “crush experts” have any knowledge to share to support my perception of my circumstance? | Crushes |
I cant even tell my bff because shes going to think im just in the crush delusion, trust me im as confused as anyone else would, but actually him staring at me is how I even noticed him ! | Crushes |
So I started liking this guy like in 2019 but during covid I really didn’t see him at all we were friends walked home together from school and had some classes together and I developed a crush. He was cute and he wasn’t rude to me or anything so that happen then Covid happened. Saw each other again a year after that and we slowly became friends again just not as close we were like friends from friends but just all a friend group. He ends up confessing to my best friend and they are like non officially dating or something but I moved schools and 8 months later can’t get over him. Even though I want too I don’t know what to do and google hasn’t been helpful these last what 3 years trying to get over him any advice? | Crushes |
so ive liked this girl for a while now, 2 years to be exact and so i did something risky one would say. I wrote a note to her about how much i liked her, and i thought she was pretty, smart, great at what she does and overall just an amazing person and i gave her gift along with it which was a necklace in the shape of a heart and it was 14k gold with some money(100) just in case she didnt like the necklace. i told her in the note to text me or something but i havent talked to her in like a few weeks and now im confused on what to do some one help me pls. | Crushes |
So I’ve had a crush on this guy for a few months now. In mid-November of 2022, I started noticing that he would pop up into my mind randomly, even when I was thinking about something completely unrelated to him. At first I simply dismissed it as some sort of random coincidence, but later I realized something more was going on. It took me a good amount of time to figure out what that thing was, though, and it was because I didn’t feel “butterflies” whenever I saw him. I found that strange, considering that any other crush I’ve ever had always began with those sorts of butterflies. Anywho, after taking some time to figure out what was going on, I realized I had a crush on him.
Ever since then, any moment that I spend with him has made me feel extremely happy, joyful, and made me glad to be alive. I realized we have very similar music taste and we’re both into the same kinds of things. I’ve realized that he’s funny, smart, charming, and thoughtful when he wants to be (but usually he’s just a lovely goofball). A few days ago, I started feeling butterflies for the first time whenever I saw him, which is what inspired me to make this post.
The other thing that inspired me to make this was the fact that I won’t see him for the next two weeks. We normally only see each other once or twice a week for 2+ hours every time, but now that the only activity that we share has been paused for a while, I won’t be seeing him for a while. I’m a bit sad about that, but at least I can still talk to him over text, which will be nice. Additionally, due to some other factors outside of my control, I may move away, which would mean that I’d probably never see him again (or at least for a while), which would be extremely sad.
Anyway, what do you guys think I should do? While a part of me is tempted to ask him out, another part of me is telling that part to shut up and be quiet, considering that the last time I tried to pull a stunt like that the recipient of my confession never spoke to me again.
Thank you for taking the time to read this block of text. I’m sorry if some of the sentences sound odd or awkward, as English isn’t my first language and I’m not very good at writing about my life. | Crushes |
I haven’t seen him since October, since the day I confessed and it was reciprocated, and we made plans to go to lunch today. He got a haircut during that stretch I hadn’t seen him and his hair looked really nice. It was so nice talking to him and spending time with him, but it was so short-lived, like only an hour. At the end we side-hugged and that was the most I’ve ever touched him. I already miss him and want to see him again. | Crushes |
Hey Guys! Have you ever felt that your crush had a shift? Like everything was going okay and then all of a sudden they just change their energy/ interest towards you? I would guess its probably something I did, or they had a change of heart maybe, but its so confusing, sincw nothing actually happend.
So I saw my crush on Friday, we talked, had a great convo and all of that, and then on Monday and Tuesday, they werent interested in talking as much, just their whole vibe changed. Weird... | Crushes |
Why is it so hard for me to just talk to them
I don’t know why I’m worried
I don’t know what I’m even worried about
If anyone has any advice or can just assure me it’s fine please do
:’) | Crushes |
Any answers/advice is greatly appreciated 🙏 | Crushes |
I HUGGED HIMMM
It doesn’t mean anything whatsoever but I’m so so happy!!!
When he was leaving rehearsal I was like ‘you’re leaving?’ And he was like ‘yeah’ and I walked over to him with open arms wanting a hug and he hugged me back!!!
I know it only lasted a few seconds but it felt like it could’ve lasted hours! All I want is to be near him. I really like him!! | Crushes |
so here’s the deal, i got a crush on someone since october last year but we’ve never had a conversation before. Wouldn’t it be weird if i just confess out of nowhere? since we only have one class together and we don’t have any mutual friends. (i also dont know his insta) im telling ya this guy’s a mystery. We’re also both seniors and im planning on doing it before graduation.. ++ also, any tips on finding out if he has a gf? | Crushes |
The person could be either male or female, who is the abuser. But the film is how a male treats her.
This deals with emotional abuse
https://youtu.be/SVCqTcb4qkM
I saw this, and it helped me to see how I went through something similar. It shows helpful signs of gaslighting & narcissistic behaviors. | Crushes |
34 days. We use to snap all day now we are starting not to and we would leave eachother on delivered but still talk like normal irl and now I think the streak is about to end and im gonna go cry and not be very active online.... he's ignore me since yesterday evening and he's been on his ohone he got it out infront of me so. 🥲👍 | Crushes |
The title's self-explanatory! Ask away :) | Crushes |
Zero context
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/10eu9bz) | Crushes |
I wish that was true 💀 | Crushes |
ask me anything about him! I get happy talking about him and I'm still recovering from my last crush/obsession that is still stinging my heart :( | Crushes |
I think the title is self-explanatory but OH MY GOD I’M FREAKING OUT | Crushes |
so pretty much my one and only friend (that i actually used to like but lost feelings for) just asked about my feelings and if i wanted to date an hour ago. how should i reject him without sounding rude and ruining our friendship???? some examples would be vv helpful thank you😭 | Crushes |
I have been way more obvious with my hints that I like him than usual, just to see how he reacts or feels about it, and I was just staring at him during lunch like usual, admiring him, and he looked at me, stared at me, and waved. Guess I gave myself away, but that's okay with me as long as he doesn't do anything stupid and manipulative. 🌚 | Crushes |
My (coworker) crush is giving me car rides every single day and I never asked him for a ride, he offers himself. And once we arrive to my destination we end up sitting in a car tor about one hour talking about everything and just enjoying each other’s company. After each car ride we become closer and closer which I’m really happy about:) sometimes I feel like he actually likes me or he’s just super friendly. Ofc I wish he liked me 😄 | Crushes |
I gave him the note. Well my friend did lol but it still counts. When she said it was from me she pointed at me and he looked over at me and smiled and said smth like oh ok. AND THEN HE JUST KEPT SMILING AND STARTED LIKE DANCE WALKING AWAY IT WAS SO CUTE. Even though i like him i dont even care im just happy with the fact that i could at least write a note to someone i liked | Crushes |
Last week I was planning to give my crush a letter, but instead I decided to just give him my socials. I’ve come to the conclusion that i may not actually have a romantic crush on him, but more of a platonic crush (really wanting to befriend him). He friended me on discord so that’s good!! But yea, I think it’s not really a crush, but hopefully a beginning to a great friendship! Thanks to everyone who’s given me advice! | Crushes |
So if you haven't gotten a small backstory or the description/my thoughts on her, it's one of the 3/4 posts I've made. Anyways, I waited too long, and the semester changed, we don't have a class together anymore, but I still see her for a brief period of about 10 minutes on Fridays (we walk by each other because she is the next radio show after mine) anyways, I don't know what my next move is, she normally, at the radio show is with one of her friends (who was previously one of my friends girlfriend) and I really don't know how to approach her or if I even should. Someone throw me back on the right path please. | Crushes |
Or just about anything lol, if you wanna talk I’m also free^^ | Crushes |
I've found that I simply can't ask strangers for advice, everything is so general, and I don't live in a very general area so a lot of advice I get isn't even relevant to me. If there's anybody who's roughly in my age range male or female who wants to talk crushes and swap advice, my DM's are open. | Crushes |
hi so ive kinda had a crush on this guy for a couple months like i think he’s so attractive but ive never actually spoke to him and although i really want to i am so scared to actually do it
we recently got moved and now sit beside each other and i feel like this is the best time to actually say something to him but i don’t want to come across as weird or make him uncomfortable. for context, he is the MOST quiet person you will ever meet, he doesn’t talk to anyone like i’ve never even seen him talk to his friends, and in class he previously sat by himself and only spoke when the teacher made him. he has no social media that i know of and he is always angry. like ive watched him punch a mental pole when he missed a goal and he constantly sighs heavily and stares down. ive watched him play football so i know he does that but other than that i know absolutely nothing about him. also the friends he does have are extremely misogynistic (think typical teenage gym bro)
idk i just really want to talk to him and as someone who is also quiet, i know what its like to be forced to talk to someone you don’t want to, so please give me advice on what i should say without coming across as weird!! | Crushes |
Interested to see if anyone else experiences this and why. | Crushes |
There's this guy I like and I want to get insight from an objective third party about whether or night he might like me back. However, I don't feel entirely comfortable revealing all the details here, so if anyone is willing to PM I'd appreciate it! | Crushes |
Ask me | Crushes |
Title | Crushes |
shes my favorite person of all time, she likes me for me and not how I try to be. shes the first person I've ever met who I can actually see myself living the rest of my life with. I think she likes me, because we flirt alot over text, when we talk irl she blushes alot, and we send hearts over text, but im still worried to ask her out or tell her how I feel or anything. | Crushes |
I like this boy,He’s cute,funny practically everything ,He’s really handsome too and I wish I could straws at him but if I did I would made fun of.He a part of the popular kids so even if I wanted to tell him he would say no.
I wish I could date him but then I see my reflection and realize he’s way out of my league,I wish I could see my self as pretty but that’s most likely not going to happen that fast.My Body is to chubby , my face is round my head is sorta big, the pandemic mask has been the only thing helping me hide how I look like . I sometimes think I’m pretty but then my own reflection ruins it,then I look at him then me and realize ,it’s never gonna happen we most likely won’t get together. I just wish I could see my self as pretty. | Crushes |
I recently turned on ghost mode on Snapchat as I didn’t want to share my location with some people who I had recently meet find out where I live. Later on I went to check if my friend was online and he lives super close to my crush (two houses away from her) so I would usually see if she was on too (Ik this sounds bad and seems like Im stalking her but please believe me I only do it to check if my friends online and if he’s at home seeing her online is unintentional as she’s nearby). I saw that her Bitmoji had disappeared, At first I thought it was the inactivity feature on snap maps but whenever I would check if my buddy was online she was still not there. Now I know what you guys are probably gonna say that she’s probably busy and isn’t on snap but that wouldn’t any sense since she’s often on snap, like almost all the time, so I dont know why the location won’t update. Is it a response to what I did? Should I ask her about it? | Crushes |
I'm not even going to give context I couldn't give a fuck about this event anymore, I loved this girl for a long time, everyone knew i liked her, and guess what? my cousin kissed the girl I loved, I gave her so much, treated her the best, and she decided to go with him, I told him to back off from her and he didn't care, I would try and get close to her and he would punch me or hurt me to get away from her, keep im mind he knew that I loved her, and he knew for how long i loved her, and weeks before he wouldn't stop saying "yo bro im starting to like her", just teasing me, and I hated that, just to make me mad, and the worst part is that my other cousins that I consider brothers helped him to get me away from them, he would make me look like an idiot infront of everyone, they kissed behind my back, and laughed at me, I don't care about her anymore, fuck everything.. | Crushes |
Ok so I met this girl about a month ago at my work, we talked a lot just random things about movies and stuff. I finally was like eh I need friends out here because I just moved so I asked her to hang out. Bim bam boom we hang out we have a wonderful time and now like 4 days later I’m going crazy over her. Like my heart races when I saw her today and like I’m just going crazy. I don’t know what to do but I feel weird like this never happens to me. | Crushes |
Have you ever had a dream about your crush? I wanna hear about them :) | Crushes |
Hello!
After a long wait, the r/Crushes 50k (+ Valentines day??) celebration playlist is finally ready! I have taken all of your suggestions, and added them to a single playlist (combined with the v2 40K playlist), and shuffled them. I apologize for the huge delay, as I was busy with classes + we reached 50k members on the subreddit way quicker than I anticipated.
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\*\*Without further ado, [here](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7qQQRBkt52sWuHYQNgP8kD?si=b633b759b26e4f3f)'s the playlist!\*\*
[https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7qQQRBkt52sWuHYQNgP8kD?si=0b51e91afb2e477b](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7qQQRBkt52sWuHYQNgP8kD?si=0b51e91afb2e477b)
Click [here](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3fZ5pcGlVvNbPlUTOOyaeU?si=c3f0d14f0776417c) for the old playlist from 2018, creds to smolbritishbean.
50K is huge a milestone so let's celebrate by streaming these songs handpicked by our own community members!
If your song is not in the playlist, it's likely because we couldn't find the song on Spotify, it was too explicit/NSFW, or didn't really relate to love/crushes.
If you spot any song that's overly explicit/NSFW, please let me know so I can take a look at it. If you use other streaming services like YT Music or Apple Music, there are online websites (Ex: Soundiiz) that can port playlists to other services.
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\*\*Enjoy!\*\*
\- AmIOnTV | Crushes |
I’ve been sitting next to this dude in one of my classes since the beginning of the school year and a bit ago me, him and another guy got partnered up together for a group activity but during this activity he wouldn’t look at me only my desk really or talk to me when I asked a question or tried to help out with the work. He knows who I am for sure because I had another class with him last year and he agreed with me and called me by my name. It wasn’t like he just wasn’t talking in general he was talking to the other guy and looking at him. Idk I’m not sure if I like him like that or if he has a girlfriend or what this means maybe he just hates me lmaooo. My teacher did say we make a great pair and made our assigned seats together again lol but yeah also he’s a very quiet kid | Crushes |
so basically I went to the beach w our school and for the first half, we didn't really hang out much but I went to the bathroom and come back and sit next to him and my back starts hurting so I lay down and he lays down next to me and puts his arm under my head AJSJEJDKS. and then later when the sun was setting he came over and we started walking along the shore and he put his arm around me and pulled me closer to him AHHHH and he complimented me on my hair (I was not looking my best AT ALL) AGHHH | Crushes |
I gave her a note confessing how I feel about her. In the note, I left my email. Two days later (today), I got a response, "Hey, I appreciate the letter you sent me but I don't like you in that way. I'm sorry and I hope you understand. I hope we can still be friends". I sent her a cliché, "I'd like to be friends". I feel kind of depressed. I just feel like I lost all hope. | Crushes |
She teased me a lot today, asked for my help over others, I heard her say my name so many times addressing me, or talking to others in a good light, it was like music. She purposely tried to make me laugh, did things to be near me, lingered by me when she didn’t have to, told me I (do things) to make her look good. Well you know what? My goal would be to do things to get you to love yourself more all the time, I want you to know you’re the most beautiful person on the planet no matter how you look or feel. If I can get you to smile, laugh, be happy, that’s all I want. I can listen to your voice forever, I’ve told you how nice it sounds, I want to hear everything you want to say, every day. When your hand touches me, I don’t get that feeling from anyone. There’s so many things I want to say to you… | Crushes |
So I have a crush on my coworker who goes to a different school and when I first started working we had pretty all the same shifts and I would see him like 6 hours 3 days a week so we kinda started becoming friends but then I had to change my schedule for something and we didn’t see each other like over a month and a half and now we started having the same shifts again and I still like him but we aren’t as close as before and he’s a senior so he’s leaving for college pretty soon. I don’t really know what to do since he’s going to college somewhere far and I know he doesn’t like me back since I barely show that I like him at all. Basically what I’m asking is how do I talk to him more/ask for his phone number in the non creepiest way possible since even if he doesn’t like me back he still is a nice friend to have and he is studying something in college that I’m interested in. sorry this got so long 😭 | Crushes |
My crush acts interested on me
But when it comes to texting she takes hours to reply.
I see her online and chatting in our college's group chat.
I invited her to hang out before college but she said she had an appointment.
I asker her if she wanted to hang out another day. No reply. She was online and chatting in the group (again)
I don't get why she acts so interested in me in person but then literally ghosts me.
I've been considering moving on. But i still feel she likes me. What should i do????💔 | Crushes |
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