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There’s no point in trying. it’s just me providing false hope into something that is not realistic and something that will never happen. You don’t care, you won’t care, and there’s no point in pursuing nothing. I have tried so hard to gain your attention and you can’t even hold a conversation. Idc what you think of me. Multiple occasions you seemed interested but left your feelings up to chance, I provided so many opportunities to tell me how you felt and I gave you so many chances after I repeatedly beat myself up over everything you said and did. Sorry I’m done. | Crushes |
I was so nervous I wanted to throw up the whole time, I'm such an idiot. We also didn't kiss, idk why, I guess he is too shy too, it was my first time going to his house | Crushes |
Omg I don’t know how to process. I’m literally shaking. I’m shaking violently. We had just got off a facetime call and then I got a text. He told me then we texted about it for a while. I confessed I felt the same way and how happy this made me.
Theres just one problem. I’m not aloud to date for 2 more years. Here’s my solution:
(context) my parents and family like his family and we all hang out almost weekly. So my parents like him.… My mom hated teased me without even knowing I like him. (Because you know having a “friend” of the opposite gender is impossible in your parents mind.
So tomorrow morning I will talk to my mom (the boss) about letting me date.
He said that if she said no he’d be willing to wait for me. FOR MEEEEE
Ok im fairly certain she will say yes with some rules(like no kissing ,stay 3 feet apart, no (AHEM) ✨deVIls TAnGo✨, and some other parently guidelines.
If enough people see this I will update tomorrow.
But for now, suggestions? I’ve never dated before and I don’t know how to go about dating without being cringe, over the top, or taking things to fast. So I need tips on how to prevent that because he has never dated either | Crushes |
I feel anxious texting him first even tho he texts me saying the most random bs ive ever read… do I do the same? | Crushes |
To C,
4 months. 4 months of insomnia. 4 months of
happiness. 4 months of intense internal conflict. 4 months of an inescapable, undeniable longing for you. 4 months of wading for you.
It started in September and I’m now here in December and over the past few months, despite my brain begging and pleading my heart to let go off your retreating figure and stop grasping at fistfuls of empty air, instead my feelings have intensified like a raging inferno -out of control and incinerating anything in its wake.
I managed to stop for a few weeks - cut off the root of my anxiety - but the fact it was for a few weeks suggests that it was ultimately a failure. I shut myself off to feeling a feeling your warmth; feeling the euphoria when you look over; feeling the excitement at potentially catching you in the morning; feeling the faux anxiety of situations I had concocted before bed, or whilst day-dreaming in class. Feeling anything that had your trace, fingerprints or quite simply you, written all over it.
It was successful for a little while.
I could sleep; I could sit in the same class as you without feeling like my heart would at any given moment explode. I felt stable, grounded, at ease and free from your fierce, iron grip - for a second.
Then you happened again….
Like an addict I was unable to resist my muse, my drug, my fix and I relapsed.
I fell into the ocean that resides in your eyes and I couldn’t find my way to the surface - or maybe I didn’t want to. I was able to bathe in your warmth and embrace it, whilst it unknowingly loosened and weakened the lock on all the feelings I had so-called “banished” and “abandoned” to the depths of my mind. But you sought them out and re-discovered them with ease as if you were solving a simple math equation - the method simple and the answer predictable - because the truth is soul and heart is not a foreign place for you.
A high followed: a spring in my step; a smile stretching my face; a sigh of content; a sense of fulfilment. The image of your smile remained permanently engraved in my head: your rosy red lips from winter, but nevertheless the full colour of life present in your face; the way your upper lip quirked upwards revealing a small parting that causes my heart to play hopscotch and on the other hand, my stomach to do somersaults. A high - a short period (emphasis on short) of inundated heightened emotions -elicited from a drug, therefore it is standard to expect a crash, however the trip you sent me on blinded me from the reality - my inevitable crash.
11pm -awake
12am- awake
1am- awake
2am- asleep
7am -awake
The insomnia returned as the image of your face instead of lulling me to sleep, warranted the contrary.
What should I say ? How should I act ? Does this mean I shouldn’t give up on this crush ? Thoughts of ambiguity and uncertainty plagued my mind.
I winded and dined and danced with the devil therefore it should be expected I would get scorched, but in my defence I was blinded and drunk - my senses dulled. Blinded by the obstinate halo and teenage foolishness and drunk of you.
A flurry of invasive thoughts hijacked my mind, inundating it with thoughts of only you. A highway robbery - my own thoughts robbed of me and rest alongside it. As a result I find myself back at square one: pining over your confidence; fiending for your presence; yearning to walk beside you; admiring you from up close instead from a distance. A desire to have you despite a desire to not self-destruct.
However the temptation still remains high, adding fuel to the fire, and like a teenager being exposed to drugs and alcohol for the first time, I want to try just this one time. But I’m afraid of the way it may taste. Afraid of the way it may antagonise my tastebuds. Afraid of the way it’ll burn my throat. Afraid of losing my balance, tripping and stumbling . Afraid of stepping out of the high raised walls and venturing into foreign territory.
The dualism of man- torn between a strong desire, but an equally juxtaposing strong reluctance.
It amplifies the incessant war one that I’ve been losing miserably ever since we first met, whereby my sense and rationality are on the line. It augments the strengths of both sides and thus the cacophony of guttural cries and shrill echoes increase in volume.
Nothing drowns it out therefore I am left wading until I turn blue.
Yours Sincerely,
Your secret admirer
[p.s if you understand the title, you have good taste and thanks for reading] | Crushes |
Dm me! I want all the sweet deets! | Crushes |
it's not like ive never talked to him. in fact we talk every morning. but always with two of our friends. i want to talk to him alone, but I don't know how to ask him without it seeming like a date or like im trying to ask him out. we've never really been alone together, except for a project at school. heck the one time we hung out outside of school and play practice was when I saw him after a show that he was in and that was like 5 mins. i want to talk to him about my feelings, but I don't want to do it over text and want to do it somewhere private or alone, with easy access for me or him to leave if things go super badly (which they probably will and that's why I want to tell him so that it becomes less painful. im trying to go through the stages of grief). any ideas? suggestions? if not then thank you for listening to my little rant | Crushes |
I am down bad for this guy. I keep trying to start conversation but he has no soul, as far as I know. Ive only talked to him twice, but every time I tried after that, he either doesnt hear me or just ignores my existence. It makes me feel bad cuz I feel theres something wrong with me. | Crushes |
I'm 15m
She's 14f | Crushes |
i’m crushing on a friend of mine & when we talk he always glances at my lips even when i don’t say a word to him. he’ll be talking to me & while i’m listening his eyes keep glancing at my lips! at first i thought it was only when i talk, which i get that but i won’t even say one word or move my lips in any way & his eyes always end up there. he makes pretty good eye contact so i don’t think he’s trying to escape eye contact. i can’t tell if he wants to kiss me or not. should i call him out? | Crushes |
Hi, it’s been a long month since I last posted here, So after 2 weeks I broke with Julia cause I knew she just felt pity she didn’t want me back because she loved me, it was because she felt bad. Since then I’ve just been living but around a week my former Crush from my first posts, Riley, started to act a bit more “flirtatious” with me which I didn’t want to reciprocate because she has a bf, a friend named Cole, but eventually I started to go along, it all started When a different mutual friend of me and Riley told me to ask Cole how he felt about Riley so I asked, He answered what at the time I thought was honest but later found out to probably be a lie, but later that day I complained about a back injury and then Riley started rubbing my back, I was a bit confused but I was okay with it, a few days later during the weekend when she had a Choir Concert she kept texting with me a lot more than usual, on Tuesday after the weekend Riley and Cole barely interacted and she was talking to me about cute guys but Cole wasn’t even mentioned and when she was talking about it she said “You have some chances” which was a bit odd and during Choir Class that day I held my hand up to hers for some dumb reason but then she started to try and hold my hand but she ended up backtracking and pretended like it didn’t happen during the same class I started to sing and she said she was going to cry because I have such a beautiful voice, later in the day she just squealed my nickname (Oscy) and hugged me out of nowhere, later that same day her bf hit me with a meter stick for no reason and said it wasn’t on purpose, he also started to get a lot more irritated even before this week. The next day i noticed she starting hanging out with me during school a lot more than her bf and she started to just hug me randomly throughout the day, at the beginning of Math class I pretended I was a waiter and I gave her and a close mutual friend named Jared Math Books and she kept playing along but Jared said a sarcastic comment (I can’t recall exactly) and Riley said “Don’t be rude to this fine young man who happens…” she stopped laughed a bit and finished by saying “who happens to be my date” and when we were alone together in class she whispered “He pisses me off sometimes”, later that day in musical theatre after I rehearsed a scene and we were both backstage with 7 others she just hugged me tight and was crying cause she thought I did a really good job and during an after school Club that me, her, her boyfriend and a few mutual friends were at she actively chose to sit next to me instead of her bf and we only really talked to each other and Cole started to get more passive aggressive to me. Around this time I noticed her getting close to my face when we talked to each other. On Thursday I found out Riley has been talking about maybe breaking up with Cole and during math she said my face is pretty, more close faces, she gave me her jacket during Choir Class, A kid named Dane Larsen saw us in choir and was about to say something about us but then he stopped himself because She’s dating Cole but Riley said nothing about it at all and just looked at me, that night we had a choir concert together but I was running late and she apparently yelled to the teacher that “OSCAR IS RUNNING LATE” and when I walked into the rehearsal room she jumped up and waved at me, during the concert I read a story by myself in front of the whole audience and she said I did an amazing job before anyone else did. Today however was the most newsworthy, During Lunch she we just kept talking while Cole was reading a book checked out, we stayed late together and in Math we were watching a movie and during the movie we started cuddling, I was resting my head on her shoulder and she had her arm around me and her head was on mine, Jared was holding onto other arm and she just whispered into my ear “Sidebitches” and we both laughed, her bf doesn’t know, later on she came up behind me when I was reading and gave me a hug from behind and she was sad because she briefly forgot I’m going to hang out with her on Saturday and Sunday but then she remembered and got really happy, if anything happens over the weekend I’ll post an update | Crushes |
Hey everyone, I never really post on here but this is something that’s been on my mind nonstop and would like to let it out because at the moment I don’t feel like telling someone irl. Let me start off by saying I’ve always considered myself straight, but these past 1-2 yrs I’ve acknowledged that I’m Bi-curious. Anyways so I’ve had a new coworker for a while and she’s real chill and I’ve been wanting to get closer to her. But I’m shy and she’s shy as well, but we’ve been talking a bit more as each day passes. I’ve developed a crush on her recently and idk how to go about it. I do not intend on taking it any further than just a crush, I do not even plan on telling her. And idk why but I feel like she may feel the same way but maybe my ego is just so big lol. In all honesty, I just wanna be friends with her. Even if I have a crush on her and maybe some of you may think that’s weird but personally I don’t see much harm in that. I think it’s okay to keep the crush a secret. After all, it’s just a small crush. I sometimes become a bit obsessive when I develop new crushes, but nothing crazy, she’s just on my mind a lot. I really adore her smile. She’s just such a cool and genuine human being and I would like to get to know her more, having her around has definitely made me look forward to work more. I’ve been trying to talk to her more and involve her so she can feel more comfortable since she’s new. I just hope we can become good friends, that’s all. Anyways that’s all, just wanted to let it out. Hope y’all are having a wonderful day! | Crushes |
Obviously I’m not gonna go overboard and do something outlandish or get something crazy expensive( mostly because I’m poor and I don’t want to come off too strong) but I want to do something to show that I care. Would a 50 dollar visa gift card or something be a good gift? Or would it be weird? Im not sure what I should get him or if I should first ask him indirectly what he wants for Christmas. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
Cause mine kinda braided my hair without me asking. She was like 'im gonna braid your hair now' and I was like 'ok. .' I'm a guy and she's a girl btw. She made a small one near the top of my head, but I think she stopped because she said something along thr lines of 'you have really dead hair' (i dont really take care of it well, especially when it grows out, which it currently is)
Just want some feedback on how big this could be, as there's other digns that I think are there but could just be nothing. | Crushes |
After I got this girls snap about a month ago we talked for an hour or two nearly every day. Things even got a bit flirty and she seems to reciprocate it. (We both mentioned something we found cute about the other person).
This week she’s slowed down on her responses A LOT. It takes 30 minutes for a response, and the responses aren’t worth it. They 2-3 word, dry responses. What happened? It’s not like we had an argument or anything like that, she just randomly decided to not text me much anymore?
In real life in class things remain the same, but not the texts.
What happened? | Crushes |
how do you personally figure out if you have a crush on someone or not? Asking for a friend😌 | Crushes |
So there's this girl in my school we have a couple of classes together we never really talked I would like to but I am a awkward shy person I gave her a note recently saying that I would like to be friends with her it has all my social media accounts on it but she hasn't added me on those yet which probably means she hasn't read the note yet and I want to be friends with her before winter break starts which is in 5 days and I will probably move to a different school after the break so I don't know if I should just walk up to her and say hi or just wait | Crushes |
I have an obsessive crush over my neighbor and sometimes I feel like he doesn't know I exist Even though I grew up with him. It's just the fact that when we're young we used to hang out all the time and he taught me how to play rugby and now we don't talk anymore and now I have an extreme crush on him which is irritating. I'm extremely socially awkward as well so just going up to his house and asking him out is probably not an option that I can complete and I really want to ask him out somehow. Can anybody give me tips and or advice | Crushes |
We’ve been talking a lot more since the start of December, and I really don’t want to lose contact with her because of the upcoming break! I don’t want to hit on her either though…. Wtf do I do | Crushes |
I have an obsessive crush over my neighbor and sometimes I feel like he doesn't know I exist Even though I grew up with him. It's just the fact that when we're young we used to hang out all the time and he taught me how to play rugby and now we don't talk anymore and now I have an extreme crush on him which is irritating. I'm extremely socially awkward as well so just going up to his house and asking him out is probably not an option that I can complete | Crushes |
wish me the best of luck | Crushes |
I had a really good connection with my crush, but sadly she didn't like me back. Now her friend (who's also my friend) is telling me that I should try my luck with my crushes best friend who I hardly know. However it just doesn't hit the same as it did with my crush, I don't feel a strong bond and she isn't "the one" to me. Not only that, I feel like if I tried she'd probably tell my crush who doesn't like me and then my crush would think that I'm just going for random people because I want somebody.
What do I do? I respect my crush not liking me back but I wanna be in a relationship with *somebody* since I never had. But, my crushes bestfriend doesn't make me feel the same around the girl that I truly liked. | Crushes |
so theres this boy in my class and ive never thought of him as a romantic interest, maybye i woudl look at him from time to time and think he was cute but never that deeply. our class prepared a secret santa and he got me and gave my a cute plushie. then after that i started to realize that i kinda liked him. i promise im not a gold digger or somthign like that , maybe i just found it sweet or somthing but i have no clue why after that in starting to like him.
btw it was a torchic plushie and i kind it kinda sweet since in my instagram bio i put that i love pokemon , idk maybye its a coincidence but i find that kinda sweet. | Crushes |
Okay so I have only had a few crushes in my time as a twenty year old male. I would say around four that I genuinely liked, while there were two other girls that I was more curious about than genuinely crushing on. But the story will encompass them too, which is why I brought them up. My first crush was in sixth grade, and at first site. It was like that movie moment when the world goes blank around everything but the love interest. So, its easy to say that this girl took my first crush. Skip a little bit, and its the end of the year, but I have yet to ask her out. And I never got the chance because she moved. However, from this I learned not to wait until the last second. It really took all summer to forget about her. But then came 7th grade where I liked a girl during the second semester. I grew to like her when I became sick during the morning every school day. It was nothing major, but I couldn't really take part in class because of it. However, she would always come by during the morning and wave at me. We never spoke, but I thought it was a nice gesture. When I finally adjusted to the morning, I had class with her, and started to talk with her. We exchanged numbers and started to talk even more. I really started to like this girl, and would admit that I had a crush on her by this point. During lunch, we couldn't sit with each other because we were in different classes, so after we sat down we would wave at each other. This would be the highlight of my day. So, I grew the courage to ask her out. But, to my luck, she was moving to Florida after the school year. This was devastating since I finally grew the courage to ask her out and thought that we both liked each other. However, long distance doesn't work at that age, so we still talked, but I used that time to see her more as a friend than a potential partner. Skip eighth grade, since I didn't like anybody and I am starting high school. Except this time there is a girl from a local volunteer place. We hit it off right away and, while I was awkward, I could tell that we both liked each other. However, I then found out she had a boyfriend, which she kept hidden, and then (would you guess it?) she moved! So by this point that was three for three in which they moved. At this point I still didn't think too much of it, but then came tenth grade. During the first week of school I began to make eye contact with this girl that sat at another table. We would happen upon each others gaze, until one day we decided to talk on the way to class after lunch. Again, we hit it off right away and I got her number after a couple of days of talking. So, after two weeks we started dating. How this wasn't the first red flag I do not know. Well at first I really liked her, but before she asked me out (I was planning to, but then decided against it, to which she did) I began to hear some rumors and saw her holding another guys hand before I got to the football game. Thinking back I don't know why I didn't say no, but its in the past now. We began to date, and the first thing she does is compare me to her other ex-boyfriends' hands. The signs were all there, but I cannot stand confrontation. Here's the funny thing though, with every advance she made, I would decline. Which I think worked in my opposite favor, as she genuinely began to like me, and said I was the first boy who she felt "love" for. Probably because I was the only one who declined her advances. One time she wondered why I didn't kiss her as every other boy had kissed her by this point. Note that it had barely been a month, if that. So, I finally break up with her. You might be wondering why I included this, well its because she moved right after we broke up. That's when things started to turn. Then came that summer, where I met another girl that regulary came to one of the community centers I went to. Well right when I was into her, she moved too. This was a hard one to get over too, as we did a lot of activities together (not like that). Then in 11th grade I started to talk to another girl. However, right when I realized my feelings for her she moved! I kid you not. I went to one of her plays before winter break and then she was gone when I came back. I was shocked! So ever since then I have not had a single crush on someone. I don't know if its a mental thing or what, but I can't even talk to girls anymore, since I'm afraid they'll just move when I reach that stage of affection. Thought it was an odd telling of events to share about my run in with crushes over the years. Still crush less though haha. | Crushes |
I like to drink with my bottle cap unscrewed instead of the little pop part of the water bottle.
And I’m abusing a specific spot to drink out of.
This sound so stupid now that I’m writing it out but here goes.
It’s because my crush likes to drink out of my bottle from time to time and she somehow always goes back to that one spot while drinking and I couldn’t help but notice that detail and now I’m subconsciously flipping my bottle to that side when drinking water.
And I know her behaviour is like this to everyone and it’s just her being friendly with most people around her but I can’t help but clench my heart at even the slightest possibility of her liking me back. | Crushes |
we both are 19
ok so, ya all know narcissists right? i have studied narcissism. there was a guy i met last year in july, i wasted a year with this so called friendship. i have outsmarted him and turned on tablets on him. he used to tell me he loves me, i would laugh and say i don't believe him. he once got irrtated when i laughed at him once for something once he said cause he asked what i was laughing at. i said nothing. he used to say he had many problems and he goes cold without reasons, that explains a lot why didn't say anything for a month. the talk lasted for a month when i mentioned, self harming, he false accused me of stalking him, he literally wrote in his post on insta, he told me never text him again and he had nothing to do with me anymore. i stupidity played a role of a crying actress, my crocodile tears...the narcissist didn't believe that i wasn't stalking and blocked me,
the next day i celebrated my freedom and i got away from a narcissist. he did admit himself while playing it as a joke. but i transferred in his uni, (i was studying abroad in England) i didnt know he goes there too, i have many classes with him, i pretend that he didnt exist. i always smiled and laugh. i was feeling bitter cause of my family problems,
some days later on insta i insulted the narcissist for a week lets say i told him he was a pathetic loser, a fake, a manipulator, a gaslighter and a narcissist. i insulted him till he was furious with me, next day at uni, he grabbed my wrist and said he needed to talk to me about something, i felt scared that he would beat me up, he never really hit me when we were so called friends even if i joked about him punching me. i didnt wanted to be alone with him, he was still holding my wrist when i told him, let go and that i wasn't scared of him but my best friend stepped in to save me and the narcissist walked away, im scared what if he is plotting a revenge? 😱 | Crushes |
I'm been liking her for about a year now but I'm not sure she's interested | Crushes |
His mom complimented me (she called me cute) ☺️ | Crushes |
I’ve recently got this new crush like just today I’ve known her for about a year and a half talked to her a bit and I can’t talk to her in school very often and I don’t have her snap or anything so I wanna know if I should add her friend on snap and try to be able to talk to her outside of school and maybe ask her out | Crushes |
This is honestly the second time now, first time she didn't respond was when her dad took her phone away apparently and didn't answer my question whether or not she wanted to be mine. Waited 2 days later (aka today rn) and asked her again but with more context hoping she'd respond and instead she went offline and honestly I have no hope in her texting again with an answer.
I really liked her too dude, sucks to suck :( | Crushes |
I (16f) identified as a lesbian for the past three years. I never had feelings for guys, I just got pressured into dating them in the past. I’ve always had feelings for girls, though. I got out of a relationship a month ago with another girl and started to realize I might have a crush on a guy I’m sorta friends with. I’ve been kinda platonically obsessed with him since last year when we got assigned to sit together.
I had a bad impression about him bc he’s the class clown but he has a lot more to him than I thought. He’s the first person I’ve known to be so unabashedly interested in certain things and to say what he thinks and see the best in everyone. I’m not popular at all and he is but it felt like he made a point to be my friend. I’m pretty sure the teacher sat us together bc she was hoping if she put him with me since I’m pretty quiet and didn’t know him well he would chill but it backfired bc we would be cracking up in the back of class the entire time.
After a while he figured out I was a lesbian and he was so respectful about it. I was kinda obsessed with him but I think then it was in a platonic way. I would talk to him abt his relationship drama (he asked out like every girl ever) and sometimes we would have really deep talks. One time we spent an entire class planning how he could ask out his crush. Right as the bell rang and he went to go ask her, one of my friends was like “Yk she has a boyfriend, right?” I ended up running through the hall way and literally having to pull him away from her to stop him. 😭 We didn’t talk as much casually after our seating arrangement got changed, we seemed to only have deep conversations.
This year, we’ve started to talk again more. I’ve started to feel the way about him that I have about girls I’ve liked. Maybe it’s just his personality, but he always makes me feel listened to. He always notices when I’m not okay and isn’t embarrassed about talking to me in front of his popular friends. I think I’m bi with a female preference.
I plan on waiting a month to see if these feelings last, but if they do, how should I let him know I might be bi without making it super obvious I like him? I need the plausible deniability bc I’m not as conventionally attractive as the type of girls he asks out. | Crushes |
I have a crush on this Korean girl from my class. I'm introverted and don't make friends easily but she used to find me and start conversations and it made me really like her. She noticed and pointed out when I got a haircut, she went to the restaurant I casually brought up and was super excited to show me the pictures and when I told her I play cricket, she didn't know about it but googled it and talked about it the next time we met.
Last week I asked about her plans for Christmas vacation and she said, "In Korea it's mostly a dating thing, if you are single, you just stay home". Should I ask her out or is she just being friendly | Crushes |
what would be better?
a letter or face to face confession?
like, if your crush was to confess, what would you prefer? | Crushes |
WARNING: this post ended up being huge, and i'm very sorry about that
so basically there's this girl that i've used to like but i don't feel anything for her anymore other than maybe a little bit of attraction but not anything romantic i guess but, (i think) she started liking me after i stopped crushing on her and she's pretty obsessive with me (stalks me/stares at me whole day, doesn't like me having physical contact with my friends otherwise she calls me a fag, tries to touch me without my consent like of the time she randomly slapped my ass and all other kinds of things in general)
and an very important detail about what iam about to talk is she fetishizes (idk how to write that since english isnt my native language so sorry) gay men (which is weird since she keeps offending me while i cuddle with my friends and keeps laughing at me)
so basically today i was hanging out with one of my friends when my (now ex bff) comes and tries to kiss me in the cheeks and i'm like bro wtf? and he then tells me that one her friends say she would give him a bag of chips in return if he did that but this girl (who is the one i was talking about earlier incase it isnt clear) kept insisting on this idea and even came to watch him trying to do that and honestly i'm kinda disgusted by everything.
i've tried telling the Teacher's about all of the things she's done but honestly they never do anything since i'm a boy and she's a girl so i don't what to do now after she tried to make my friends kiss me and after she slapped my ass.
about that friend: after everything happened he said that i was being an asshole for being so angry and hurt by a "joke" so im def not ever talking to him again.
but about the girl i've def have no clue on what to since my parents and the Teacher's simply wont help me. i've tried saying i don't like her and i've even said that i was gay in the hopes of her stopping but she also just disregarded what i said and even told me "i don't care how many times you say to me you're gay because i simply wont believe that since on my mind you're bi." so that also wont work, and the one time i said i didn't like her she tried deflecting and saying that i was the one who liked her and was obssesed with her, and that she didn't like me. she then waited like maybe 1/2h until she returned to her old behavior.
i've tried talking to her friends and our mutual friends but that also didn't work since they either resented me because they say that everytime i'm near her she gets rude with them or just said to me that they couldn't do anything and that she liked me or just said that her behavior was weird and "that they didn't she was like that" and if i'm being honest i don't understand what they mean by that but ok.
so yeah what tf i'm supposed to do? the other times i've talked about it on here i was told to go to a police station but i doubt it would go anywhere since we're both teenagers so i think i'm at a loss here. | Crushes |
I want to keep it short. I have a crush on this girl since summer and she seemed to like me too, but now she starts to meet her ex boyfriend again. This is messed up enough, however it’s even worse. Just imagine you met someone new and you notice that you like her pretty much but you don’t know if it’s in that way. Yeah I had the great idea to tell a girl I newly met and who started to show some signs of interest that I have a crush on my crush (sounds dumb I know). I was scared that I would fell for this new girl and wanted to keep her distant by telling her that I liked this other girl.
And now my crush seems not to be an option anymore and the new girl told me that she nearly has a boyfriend and yeah now I think that I would’ve been nice to even have the opportunity to find out if I have feelings for her but it doesn’t even matter now. The new girl is one of my best friends and we text everyday and my original crush is also a friend and I often see her.
It just feels like I lost everything though it’s probably my fault and of course I’m not 100% sure if both girls ever had feelings for me it’s just a guess of mine. I know that there will be other love stories but at the moment my love life is a tragedy | Crushes |
I’m just gonna text her. I’m tired of waiting and it’ll make me feel much better seeing her say no, then just guessing she’ll say no. Here’s what I’m texting let me know how I should adjust it.
(Name) I’ve been wanting to tell you this for awhile but I could never tell you because I was scared of losing you. Your smile lights up my world and your energy makes me and everyone happy to be around you. I think you’re a great person and I’d really like to take you on an actual date sometime, so I can get to know you a bit better.
Whatever you say is fine, it doesn’t bother me. It’s just nice to get it off my chest. | Crushes |
What the hell happened to me?! I never really struggled talking much when I was much younger and didn't really struggle when making friends.
Now I am usually awkward and forget what to say. I lose myself in conversation and miss so many opportunities to keep a good conversation.
I get so nervous and overthink everything. Everytime I try to relax myself in a conversation and try not to think much, I literally just end up forgetting to talk and just respond with something that they can't bounce off of.
I managed to talk to my crush today in class a couple of times. At one moment she quickly turned to me and just mentioned how neat and nice my new phone case looked. It was like a wallet to put my cards and money in.
I was kinda caught off guard. I wasn't expecting her to talk to me various times. I didn't hear exactly what she said. I just held my phone to show her which she grabbed it which meant she said how nice my phone case was and asked if she could see it.
She mentioned that she really liked the colour of it. It was the colour red. I could of said that was my favourite colour which is why I chose it and maybe ask what her favourite colour was. Then probably bring up where I got it and such. Simple, possibly just a little conversation that could of happened.
Instead my dumbass sat there for a few seconds basically saying nothing. I blanked out and kept thinking of what to say. I basically just said thanks, it is pretty nice.
I hate myself so much. I am so afraid of talking and when I do talk, I just blank out and don't know what to say. This is probably why I can't really make close friendships anymore.
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What are some ways to improve my social skills? | Crushes |
So I've been friends with this girl who lives far away from me for awhile now and I developed feelings for her. I told her about a month ago how I felt and she didn't really feel the same, which is fine and I understand! But she still flirts with me and teases me about having a thing for her. And she says things that just make me feel loved and cared for. I guess some small part of me thought maybe I had a chance. Of course I never expected anything from her, nor do I now. Obviously I can't force someone I like into a relationship, that's a no duh. I'm really serious with my feelings about her but now I've heard she's actually been seeing a dude for a few weeks now. I'm extremely happy for her, but I don't know why she'd keep this a secret from someone she calls a "best friend". I feel led on a little but most of all hurt that she didn't even tell me.
Am I wrong feeling this way and dumb for still liking her? | Crushes |
i really wish that would happen. like, i'm sorta manifesting it.
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i just hope he doesn't mind the posts i made about him. if he sees them, it'll be so incredibly obvious they're about him. especially the christmas card one (which is still my most favourite thing) <3 | Crushes |
I like my crush a lot. We spend lots of time together, and I just wish and pray he would like me too. I have spent countless hours in his room with just him and either no lights on or barely any, and we just lay on his bed together and talk. I am a bit of a touchy person, so I'll touch him sometimes, like poking him or putting my hands on his face or touching his hair. He will do the same to me sometimes. Lately, we have even been hugging. The other night, when I was in his room, I fell asleep leaning my head against his arm. We do live together as roommates with my childhood bestie, so spending time together isn't too hard. I love going shopping with him and going to church with him. Basically, anytime we do anything together, I feel happier, and I am glad to get to know him better. But over the past month or two, my feelings for him have just gotten stronger and stronger. I don't know how long I can keep it all in check. Right now, he is going home to spend the holidays with his family. He left me his room key in case maintenance needed in or did an inspection. I am tempted to go into his room tidy it up a bit, I want to leave him a letter confessing my love for him. I don't know if that's what I should do or not. Or if it's creepy to be in his room without him. Any advice would be appreciated!! | Crushes |
Okay, so me (13m) and my crush (13f) (We are both in 7th) both liked each other at one point this year, but ended up not liking me anymore. A semi-friend of mine in 8th grade are in a club with all of us. Not sure if its just that he’s a likable person or she “likes” him, but she and her two other friends seem like they are very close and they are always talking. Even when we are paired up, my crush chose him. I’m not sure what this means but hope its just that they are friends. | Crushes |
I really doubt he likes me but it doesn’t hurt to try and I’m thinking about giving him a note along the lines of “ hey we should talk or something over winter break :D if you want text me or add me on instagram! Have a good break!! “ | Crushes |
Like the title says, how? Im low key scared and we have no classes together. | Crushes |
My crush is a grade below me, and I do not know what to do. She lives in my neighborhood, but she does not like me back. We are friends, but never got that close. | Crushes |
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Last year, in my class there was this really annoying boy. At the end of the school year, i had to leave for a trip, so i wasn't there for the last week of school. When i came back my best friend and another friend told me, that there was this rumor going around that the annoying boy had a crush on me. we are no longer in the same class, but have a possibility of being in the same class next year. how can I figure out if he has a crush on me or not? | Crushes |
There's this girl in my one of my classes I have a crush on. I was on Instagram and her account was recommended to me because we have a handful of mutual friends. I was tempted to follow her but I'm not sure if I should. I'm an awkward person and am even more awkward around her and I worry she'll think I'm weird. I've talked to her a couple times and she seems really nice, any thoughts? | Crushes |
So, last week or so, I posted about how I have a crush on this girl, and how I think she might like me too. I had talked to her a bit over the week but yesterday (Thursday) was the best day of them all. So I didn't really talk to her much that school day, but on the way home, (she rides the same bus as me, but only started a couple days before) she sits across from me, so not in the same seat, but next to it. We are both alone in the seats, with one of her friends, and one of my friends sitting behind me. We talked a little bit, and I showed her a picture I took of my brother with a silly filter on Snapchat. She laughs, and asks "You have Snapchat?" I reply yes, and she hesitantly asks, "Do you mind if I add you?" I said yes, and still haven't gotten one from her but I bet she has more important things to do. Sadly I get off at the first bus stop (about 5 minutes away) so I am not on long, but when I get off she says "Bye" but I mean I would say bye to anyone leaving, so I wouldn't take it as such a huge hint, but then she says "Bye, namesnipergd" after I reply bye. So I think that is a step in the right direction. I get off maybe 50 feet away from my house because some other kids get off at the same stop as me, and they have to wait to go across the street, and I do a little jog home, I wouldn't do this normally, as it wasn't that cold that day, (about 30F) but I live in a pretty nice house, so I wanted to get there in time for her to see me run into the driveway, as she sat on the same side as my house was, hopefully sparking a future conversation. Sadly today was a snowday, (gotta love that northern New York snow storms) so I didn't get to talk to her, but hey, next week us another week.
tl;dr: girl i like sat near me on bus, asked for my snapchat, said bye specifically to me, subtly showed her where i live, hoping to talk more next week | Crushes |
Hi so I have a crush on someone at my school and idk if he knows I exist, and I have NO idea what I'm doing, so anyone who has any experience at all HELP ME!!!!!!!! | Crushes |
Long story short: Really good friend(F), developed a sudden hard crush, she accidentally found out i was crushing and i confirmed that fact to her
Now i told we should pause our interactions for a week and i'm FREAKING out
what should i do? She's really good friend, i don't want to break our hearts by ending it all
I NEED to get rid of these feelings but how??
I believe everything is possible, and i believe we can still be good friends without me crushing
Just need advice, i'm desperate here :( | Crushes |
So, pretty much I like this girl. My friends say she's nice she just needs to know you to talk to you but I'm a shy guy who almost talked to her but then backed out at the last second mainly because I don't know how to approach her and what to say the only time i really see her is during lunch but i can cut my first period and get marked for attendance since my teacher isn't there and go to her class where most of my friends are at any advice would be gladly appreciated | Crushes |
Is it a good occasion to make myself forget about her, or should I call her and see how she's doing, maybe I should wait and see if she calls first | Crushes |
So basically last night we were texting eachother about feeling bad and having low self esteem, and feeling like we're ugly, and I basically said to her "you aren't ugly, like literally the only thing wrong I can see is that you sometimes look a little tired"
So yeah, I feel like that was a little much, I just hope she kind of forgot about it or didn't notice, since I honestly didn't want her to know so soon, like I should have just said like "no you look fine" but it's too late now I guess | Crushes |
So basically last night we were texting eachother about feeling bad and having low self esteem, and feeling like we're ugly, and I basically said to her "you aren't ugly, like literally the only thing wrong I can see is that you sometimes look a little tired"
So yeah, I feel like that was a little much, I just hope she kind of forgot about it or didn't notice, since I honestly didn't want her to know so soon, like I should have just said like "no you look fine" but it's too late now I guess | Crushes |
Gonna see them Sunday, monday, tuestay and wednesday, and then I'll have to wait weeks to see them again. I already miss them after half a day, how am I possibly gonna survive that | Crushes |
When my crush for example doesn’t answer back for a few hours, I always think of it too much, example today when I knew she was doing something I still thought of it too much, how can I stop overthinking? | Crushes |
Y’all so my crush was absent today and I don’t really even get to talk to her cause I have like 1 class with her but why’s it when she wasn’t here I felt like a typa way that I don’t know how to describe? | Crushes |
So at school there’s this boy let’s call him “Bumblebee”. I’ve known Bumblebee for around a year now and at the start of this school year something about him made me fall in love. And ever since I can’t stop thinking about him, I have tried very hard to get over him but I just can’t. I really want to tell him but he recently broke up with a girl and said he doesn’t want anything serious. I am terrified of rejection, have been since in primary school when I put a note in a boys desk stating that “I like you.” He found it three days later and told all his friends and got a girl to come up to me and tell me he didn’t like me. He had liked her and she had liked him as well, what a wonderful thing to hear. If I tell Bumblebee and he doesn’t like me (which I know he doesn’t but I feel I need to get this off my chest) I don’t want any awkwardness to ruin our “relationship” if you can even call it that as we don’t talk ever. To add to that everyone will know and ask me so many questions and it sounds like a nightmare. I don’t want to repeat my past. Anyway I don’t know what to do and I need advice, thanks. | Crushes |
Just need advice on how to handle my feelings. Naturally I’m jealous, but at the same time I know that’s not healthy.
Any advice would be appreciated. | Crushes |
So I posted on here last night, about this new “crush” we’ll call her Bell. I talked to her very much today, and she and some few other friends were going to a guy in my class later just to cook and play some games. She asked me like 3 times if I wanted to come (I think that’s a W) but I had to check with the guy from my class, and obviously, he didn’t want me coming. He tried saying it was because they didn’t have enough food, but when I did I’ll just eat at home, he said “oh but it was like pre planned” and then I said but Bell is cool with it, and he just answered “uh I don’t know maybe another time” and no he already has a girlfriend, he just didn’t want me coming.
Well positive note I got her snap, and I’ll try to text her a bit this weekend. | Crushes |
okay so I started talking to this guy online and it's been about a year and I really like him. we have a group chat together and he's the playfully flirtatious kinda guy. we've called and had a bunch of convos in private and I think he might've liked me back but I'm not sure. ever since the beginning he would give mixed signals as if he likes me and then talks abt another girl so it was really confusing to me. then a month ago he was like he wasn't gonna be online often due to work which made me a little sad but I was like I can get through it. it became harder not talking to him and so I'd text him multiple times and then unsend them which he'd see somehow and reply to some. recently tho, this new girl joined the group chat. he's been acting weird ever since and next thing I know, I get blocked...so now I'm just very confused...
I hate this and I'm very confused... | Crushes |
Okay help me out 😭 Please because i seriously dont know what to do… i want to talk to my crush so bad but i cant because 1. Im shy as fuck 2. Winterbreak started… I only talked to him like a few times last year :( im in 12th now.. and we dont share any classes together so its really difficult to even talk to him? It was way easier last year but now i cant ughhh.. i have his insta so i can text him there but wouldnt it be way to weird …? because there were times he was like right next to me and we dont say a word.. :( Its mostly my fault tho i get way to nervous. I really want to get to know him more and be closer but i feel like it isnt possible because im way to shy and quiet.. also idk if hes out with a girl because i always see him sitting next to the same one and i get kind of jealous.. i just ughhh idk if i should give up 😵💫😵💫😵💫 | Crushes |
So I learned the person I like, who is also one of my best friends do not feel the same way. Now I'm fine with that but he cried thinking he hurt my feelings, what if I should give up on love? I don't wanna hurt anyone else's feelings or think of me differently. | Crushes |
Every time I come here to look at the post some of you are very descriptive in them. So, it makes me think “Has anyone found their crush or someone they knew on here?”. Just curious. | Crushes |
They try to carry on conversations with me, they're getting me something for my birthday tomorrow and they seem happy whenever they see me.
I'm terrible at hints. | Crushes |
I’ve liked this guy for some time now but sometimes my feelings fluctuate(?) like at times I feel content just being friends with him and other times I feel like I might blurt out that I have feelings for him.
It’s lowkey confusing and I honestly have no idea how he feels. We’re in the same friend group which kind of complicates things because I hate awkwardness but recently two of our friends got together so I technically can’t use that as an excuse anymore.
I thought he might like me back and some of our friends agreed there’s a vibe but I can’t help but question it. Sometimes he’ll do something out there like randomly start holding my hand or keeping intense eye contact but sometimes he’s a bit distant.
Last night, for instance we all went clubbing and he basically spent almost the whole night talking to a friend which lead to our friends shipping them together and stuff which was mildly annoying I’ll admit.
I just want clarity. Either way. So I can stop thinking about it and I know that probably means I have to say something to him but I really don’t want to. | Crushes |
hey guys i’m gonna keep this short and simple so that you don’t have to read the whole story between me and this girl.
basically, all throughout my junior and senior year i liked this girl and she ended up confessing her feelings to me the day after we graduated high school (stupid right? i know.)
anyways, we agreed that we should just be friends but it ended up as more of a talking stage as we were hanging out over the summer, up late texting all night and i even got my first kiss with her.
of course college was coming up so she hit me with the college card. she basically said she doesn’t know how our “relationship” was going to work since she’s going out of state for college.
i was sad of course, but thought it was best if i cut her off completely because i knew i’d never get over her if i kept her as a friend. so i told her that we should basically stop talking completely. this seemed to upset her and she never responded to that paragraph and we haven’t spoke since then.
4 months later, she just sends me a snapchat flashback from a year ago today of her recording me in class messing around and whatnot. literally just that video, no words or anything.
i don’t know what to make of the whole situation and as much as i miss her i know it’s just not gonna work, any advice to how i should approach this? | Crushes |
She (23F) just told her friend today that the guy she's been talking with asked her out. Guess I (21M) can't do anything now.
That's 2 crushes out in a year, new record; back to 0. I'm losing hope that there's someone for me. The only ones who have showed interest in me were a couple random Instagram users from who knows what. All there is and has been for me are fantasies, nothing more.
I know I don't need a girlfriend, I just want one really, really badly. Not just any tho, the right ones; ones with higg potential to be "the one". | Crushes |
We met up again earlier today and we walked around and stuff, but a few minutes after meeting she sounded stressed around me but idk. I tried stirring up a conversation while we were walking and we talked for a couple minutes but then it was silence. Nothing was going.
I asked her a question , it was "What do you look for in a guy" and she said "i dont know" with her hand covering her forehead. | Crushes |
Today was supposed to be the day but I fumbled because of confidence. I was gonna tell my crush I like her but with a dose of lost confidence, that's went bad and now I probably lost my chance before break to tell her. Now I'm repeating a cycle of I'm gonna tell her today, then imagine it, then don't do it, and repeat. Maybe I can't the chain next time (probably not). | Crushes |
my crushes are so intense so i wonder if anyone’s ever liked me like that before🤨
ik people have had a crush on me but i always wonder to what extent yk | Crushes |
My Crush is now asking me help for a job as a music teacher / Spanish teacher. I don't know if she is taking advantage of me but I eventually plan to ask her to see the avatar movie together?
Any advice on the following actions. | Crushes |
So I’ve noticed that recently he replies a lot faster to my initial texts, like within an hour. This is definitely a lot better than the long periods of time he used to leave me on delivered for like 2 months ago.
He used to do this thing where he wouldn’t reply until he got everything done for the day (as in would usually not reply prior to 1pm-4pm (college)) but I’ve noticed now that he’ll reply much faster, even in the morning and if he has classes after (even tho having classes means he stops texting). | Crushes |
For those who are actually friends, dating, or if you're just close enough with your crush; have you thought about what you want to give them? Share what you'd like to give them or maybe what you hope to receive | Crushes |
So I posted on here last night, about this new “crush” we’ll call her Bell. I talked to her very much today, and she and some few other friends were going to a guy in my class later just to cook and play some games. She asked me like 3 times if I wanted to come (I think that’s a W) but I had to check with the guy from my class, and obviously, he didn’t want me coming. He tried saying it was because they didn’t have enough food, but when I did I’ll just eat at home, he said “oh but it was like pre planned” and then I said but Bell is cool with it, and he just answered “uh I don’t know maybe another time” and no he already has a girlfriend, he just didn’t want me coming.
Well positive note I got her snap, and I’ll try to text her a bit this weekend. | Crushes |
I have a crush, she's in a relationship, I don't want anything in particular, I just want to give her something as a gift.
I bought sunflowers ( I read that it means admiration ), How do I like give it to her, like I just want to put it in her desk, But what should I write on the Christmas Card?
For me I just want to put like "You're pretty" but It just seems kind of overwhelming, do you have any other suggestions of what I should put in the card? | Crushes |
how sad it is when you love someone so much and you can't stop thinking about them the whole time .But they constantly show no intrest in you all of sudden.You end up feeling sad . please don't love more than a limit folks!
Only love yourself more sometimes there's gonna be no-one for you / with you even tho you have everyone in life .It's not their mistake to not show up. It's you keeping expectations on them . Don't be to open with them when they tell you can be comfortable i wouldn't mind. Problem is your harmones. You fall in love out of no where .It's ok in some cases if he likes you.But worst after he ignores or doesn't show intrest or doesn't be like before when he gets to know a bit that you like him .Yeah it's sometimes you who expect things which can't happen in real .be lively.. you got too many important things to see in live and too many people to find ,you may not find one like him.but you will find someone who loves you back !! Don't worry that you'll die before any realationship or sexual contact .you keep memories for yourself to take after your death not only being sexual means life ! It's just naughty feeling comeon cheer up ! You shld love yourself more than anyone.i shldnt have changed atleast a bit i did for others wasting time for them and thinking loads of stuff it's point of waste and doesn't let you live peace now after I've realised all this i will let my stupid brain moveon over him
Ahh!! Never thought one sided love could be this hurting so far | Crushes |
I am good friends with this really cute girl at work and we get along well. We went out on a trip recently as a group of friends. I am visiting my hometown this weekend and she is also for one of her friend's marriage.
Is it inappropriate to ask her if she is free to meet up? I am a bit hesitant as i figure she might want to spend time with her friends that she is visiting. We only hang out at work and the trip I mentioned. She is one of the few people i am close with at work. | Crushes |
TL;DR: my current crush has no feelings for me and I’m trying to move on. Been thinking about getting back together with ex but every time I wonder if I should, I end up seeing my crush and we share a moment. These two are both my friends from different friend groups. A sign or coincidence?
For more context, I broke up with ex over 5 ish months ago. And crushing on new friend was only one of the reasons. The other being I have not been in the best of mental states so we broke up so I could figure out everything going on in my head. I ended up telling friend I liked him and he said he didn’t have any feelings for me but has lead me on since doing the smallest things that almost give me hope. With our schedules, crush friend and I don’t get to hang too often. And it’s usually in a group setting.
Now I’ve been hanging with my ex a lot recently, and he still has feelings for me. And every time we hang out I get this feeling that I should get back together with him. But a day later, it works out I end up seeing crush.
I’m not saying this is a sign to try and continue with the crush and writing this out feels obvious but should I take this as a sign not to get back with ex? It’s hard to figure out my feelings of an old relationship that felt comfortable and safe versus the excitement of a new crush. And I need the unbiased opinions although I know I can’t give all the context. Thanks! | Crushes |
So anyways, I asked him out on a stroll last night and he told me he was busy this weekend and obviously I answered his text today at 5am and since I’m so desperate for an answer to talk to him I reply with “i didn’t ask that. Do you want to go out with me?” As if that didn’t sound crazy enough I add “I thought of going over the week” and it’s been 9 hours since I said that and I haven’t heard from him all day, should this bother me? No, would it normally? No, am I bothered by the fact that he hasn’t had the time to answer me? Yes, why? Idk, I hate feelings and I hate that I feel them all in a very extreme way, anyways, I kinda sort of regret talking to him like that but then again, he did not answer what I asked him, but like I could of asked, “what day works for you?”🧍🏾♀️first oficial crush and I hope that he will be my last fucking crush 😒
I need an advice 🧍🏾♀️ | Crushes |
I am always thinking about her and i like that and at the same time i want to make these feelings go away cuz i think i will never talk to her as i have a low confidence but i cant help myself rn i am having holidays and all i want is that i can go back to college to see her. She is in 1st year and i am in 2nd help me what should i do ? | Crushes |
i have this crush for a more than a year now should i tell her, cuz i see her looking at me too and once she looked at me smiley i know this is too little for crushing but my brain and heart says that maybe,what if?? | Crushes |
He clearly is not interested in me. It's hard for me because we're in the same class(school) | Crushes |
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She walked into my area at work and we talked a teeny bit but then I walked away to do my thing. She started preparing to do hers. We were a good 20-25 feet away, I was across the hallway and I looked up at her. She took her vest off and, with her white shirt, those things were... noticeable.
But still all the distance between us, and with her side turned to me. She turned her head and looked at me. I had no idea what to do so we just stared at each other for a second. Her facial expression didn't change or anything. She just kept her head pointed at me as she darted her eyes to the side. I just walked away.
Not gonna lie I internally panicked for the rest of the day, but haven't had HR up my ass yet so | Crushes |
She works at a different store now, so I haven't got to see or talk to her in awhile. But she came in today and when she saw me, she was happy/excited. She run up and tackle hugged me hard enough to get a oof out of me😊. I've missed her. I only wish I could've stayed and talked more with her, and remember to throw my work shirt in the wash last night😣. | Crushes |
So I've (F14) liked this boy (M13) for a really long time and I feel like he's known about it for a while now because most of my friends have already told him. We sort of get along really well, there would be days where we'd talk (mostly me starting the conversations) and I'd hug him afterwards. It was about a week ago that he stopped talking to me. That time I was crying and not in a really good place due to exams and stressing out about it. I was crying in my friends' arms and he was calling me over, but I felt like I didn't have enough courage to, which might of lead him to misunderstanding what I was doing. I thought it was something I might have done wrong and he ignored me for the whole week. A few days ago I asked him if he was coming to the school dance just so I knew to be prepared. He texted back that he MIGHT not be coming. I think I forgot about the "MIGHT" part which really messed things up. Last night was the dance and it was so bad when I saw him there. I got really nervous and I felt like an idiot for showing my friends the text he sent me that he wasn't coming. I broke down in front of him and I think it really messed up my chances with him. I break down in front of him a lot which I think really jeopardizes my chances of getting with him. During the dance I kept texting him over and over again and my friends told me to stop and that I was too good for him and that I should be having a happy night because I looked really good and I shouldn't cry my makeup off. After the dance, I was in my dad's car listening to music, and I thought I should text him. I texted him and asked "do you like me?". Waiting for around 10 minutes was almost like excruciating pain. It made me nervous and anxious. Then, he finally texted me back saying, "sorry, but I just like you as a friend". That whole night ruined me completely and now I'm having trouble getting over him because I've fully convinced myself that I need him in my life and that I want a relationship with him. I never really take advice from my friends to heart, but I consider it sometimes. It's just that I'm so attached and obsessed about him and I really can't help it.
TL;DR: last night was our dance and I made a complete fool of myself. texted the boy asking if he liked me, and as expected he said no. | Crushes |
First I want to apologise for my english, it is not the best but I think (and hope) I made myself understood.
Hate is a strong word, I do not think he hates me. What I mean is that he might dislike me.
I am a girl in 8th grade(14yrs) and I like a boy in the 9th grade(15yrs).
Another detail to add is that basically my whole life I have had jealousy issues. Whenever I see my crush with another girl my eyes get black of jealousy. It could ruin my entire day.
About 2 months ago I got the idea that he might like me (only a little tho) and I only started liking him about 3 weeks ago.
(A detail I want to add is that during these 2 months he had waited outside his lessons almost 30 minutes before his lesson started. He had some lessons in the 8th graders area and that’s when I got to see him.)
He looked at me many times and he smiled. His smile is so beautiful. However it wasn’t until he did a sus type of stumble while smiling at me that I first thought he liked me. (Sorry if this text makes 0 sense, I am not that good at english)
After that he just kept smiling at me every time he saw me. I made a lot of eye contact with him. I just had a gut feeling that he liked me. And when someone acts like they like me I almost always fall for them.
So now I have liked him for around 3 weeks. First 2 weeks of liking him was nice, he smiled at me just like he was doing before.
The last week hasn’t really been that nice though, I barely even saw him.
He doesn’t wait that long before his lesson no longer, he comes maybe 5 minutes before his lesson starts(aka normal time)
I do not know the reason why he doesn’t wait as long anymore. But I have some suspicions. I think I maybe fckd up during the last week.
Yeah so the reason why: I saw my friend and I wanted to show her who my crush is, so I pointed slightly at him while I said “There is my crush”. I said it quite loudly while we both stared at him and he was standing like 3 meters away…
I am worrying that he might heard me say that he was my crush and now he is backing away from me cause he really doesn’t like me. So maybe that is the reason why he doesn’t wait long before the lessons. Because he wants to avoid seeing me and thinks I am weird and doesn’t like me at all.
But maybe it could be another reason. Another reason I have been thinking a lot about. Well: Last week I saw a girl waiting outside her lesson with my crush and his gang.
Of course I searched her up on instagram after that… (I found out that she is one year older than him, so I don’t know why she is in the 9th grade then).
Anyways I think this girl likes him. At lunch she sat next to him, I heard her say his name a couple of times and it looks like she is following him ALL THE TIME. At first I thought she would stop hanging out with his gang, but she hasn’t stopped yet.
She probably likes him, but does he like her? Well it’s almost impossible for me to know. But he seems mildly uninterested in her, he doesn’t smile at her the way he did to me 💪, he doesn’t follow her around everywhere. But the possibility still exist, and that hurts me. It hurts a lot, my nose and throat gets sore just by thinking about it.
I am thinking that maybe, since she has started to hang out with the gang, they do not go to the lesson so early because she doesn’t want to do that.
Yesterday I saw him walk by me, he smiled at me then. Today I saw him at lunch. He sat at a table about 15 meters away from me. I saw my chance to subtly stare at him, but when he looked at me I looked away. Yet I managed to make eye contact 5 TIMES. He smiled slightly during this, but not as much as he smiled before.
At first I was excited, I mean he made eye contact with me many times while smiling! But then thoughts started to flood. Maybe he just thought I was weird and that’s why he looked at me.
I’m worried that he doesn’t like me any longer or never ever liked me at all. I am worried that he likes that other girl. I am worried that he or anyone I know reads this and know who I am and who I am talking about.
I feel dumb, like why would he like me? He literally just smiled at me, he never said a word to me.
What do you guys think about my situation? I don’t need any long answer! You can answer with a long paragraph or just a word. And also please ask questions if you want to know anything else. I appreciate it!
Thanks for reading my story! Have a good day! 💪 | Crushes |
(this is your typical semester-ended-will-never-see-crush-again self-deprecating story. but i need to rant. i also wrote the bulk of this at 1am so it makes no sense now that i've slept on it.)
wow, i did not think i would be back here on another account. it's been less than a year since i officially got rid of the previous crush. that one had been going on for years, so i really thought i had desensitized myself to any kind of attraction by finally ending it. especially because of how many flaws i found in his character near the end.
but in a new environment we're all bound to meet new people and have a bunch of unexpected experiences and... i guess my biggest one was meeting him. this person, who i haven't even known for more than four months, is checking off more boxes on my list than anyone i've ever come across has done before.
he's super nice, doesn't try to ditch me even though i know i'm the driest talker in this world, is really really cute, is academically similar to me, seems like he actually cares about the people around him... and so many other good things i'd get exposed for if i listed them all here. side note, that second point is a really big deal for me. he was never on his phone while he talked to me, and that always felt nice because practically everyone i considered good friends would consistently do that.
i didn't realize it at first because i was preoccupied with another nice guy who quickly turned out to be not as ideal as i thought. this feeling crept up on me relatively recently, in the past month or so. now, the semester's over, and we don't have classes together in the spring.
i hate that i didn't stare into his eyes some more, that i didn't think a little bit harder about what i would've liked to know about him, that i didn't tell him a few more times to eat adequate meals and get enough rest and that imperfect grades aren't the end of the world. i can tell he's not a totally confident guy and needs reassurance sometimes and the kind of care he's shown towards other people.
that thing about him actually willing to talk to me even for a brief few minutes as we're walking after class... it gives me the illusion that he actually somewhat cares about my existence. or at least moreso than any other male human being of similar age i have ever interacted with. the last time i looked him in the eyes he had the slightest tinge of a smile on his lips. that lasted for about three seconds before he walked away, and it was also the last time i saw him before our school started break.
and it sucks that i'll never know if he ever wanted these interactions to mean something more. i think i've been too ambiguous too. we're not on a texting basis, not anything more than classmates who looked to each other for help occasionally. realistically, i don't think we would've had much to talk about outside of school. that's why part of me thinks this crush is a waste of time. but, who knows for sure, maybe those shared interests do exist and we just have to find them. now that i think of it, he always asked for details when i mentioned something i liked to do. he probably does that to everyone though, just because he's that nice of a person and wants to make everyone feel cared about.
i suppose whoever becomes madly in love with me -- like that's ever actually going to happen -- should sense that i'm the type who needs the other person to initiate. i'm too introverted. i simply don't have the guts to talk to him out of the blue or anyone else for that matter. if he doesn't eventually initiate, then i guess he's not the one for me. logically speaking, since we never talk to each other outside of school, this won't ever happen. i'm too insignificant among everyone else.
i hope i never know to be honest, because he's too ideal of a guy and has much better socialization skills than me, which almost certainly means there's already loads of people lining up for him. he deserves to end up with someone better for him than me. at this stage i can't do much for him other than listen to his academic stressing and participate in the stressing itself. in my mind, he's perfect for me, but i'm far from perfect for him.
break is far too long. i'll spend it all thinking of him. then this is how it'll go after break: i never see him except occasionally at mealtimes, never text him/receive texts from him, develop a new crush, and forget this ever happened.
but if you happen to see this and it feels like you were in a vaguely similar position fall semester with someone, please check in on this person. thank you for giving me a new distraction, thank you for caring. someone out there cares about you too. | Crushes |
I posted here a while ago (6 months ago) that I have a crush that is out of reach for me and that I’ve never met him. He was my sister’s student and a very busy private police officer who’s off social media.
So my sister told me that she could hook me up with him (as in maybe give me his number or something), but I told her no because that’s weird.
First of all I don’t even know if he’s single and secondly I’m hoping for a more coincidental kind of greeting so if he’s taken or if he’s not what I thought he would be like it’d be easier for me to get out of it. I don’t want to seem as a stalker either.
But the question is how. He’s super busy and my sister hasn’t spoken to him in months, how can this greeting be orchestrated? We live in the same state but different parts.
Any tips? | Crushes |
I have no idea what to do next. the past 4 months I had been trying and mostly succeeding in building a closer relationship with her by hanging out and talking to her. we had a major competition at that time so we were preparing and working together quite often. but now the competition is over, I begin to notice i am meeting her less, no suitable time to talk or hangout (since our classes arent mostly the same).
I dont even know if I see any signs that she is interested in me. I cant tell if she approaches and talks to me just to be friendly or has genuine feelings for me, since she does that with every boy she interacts with. What do I do to get closer to her? | Crushes |
I'm just curious about this question because I just found out my crushes type and ngl I'm not really her type but could there still be a chance because i really like this girl and can people like other people who aren't their type?
I'd like to know what you guys think because I'm clueless about this type of stuff | Crushes |
Work colleague. We had a dinner with clients in an elegant, evening setting. Suddenly he comes up behind me while I'm seated at the table and puts both hands on my shoulders and whispers in my ear that I'm the most beautiful in the room and then proceeds to kiss my head. Kiss my head! That's an affectionate gesture and we've always been on cordial terms at work.
Is he into me or what's going on? I'm stressing because I want him to like me! | Crushes |
Vent ?!
So I was just really tired and fell asleep. I been thinking on how i'm ever gonna give this note to my crush face to face.
The nightmare was like my fear about this. It was like an alternate universe almost. It was me, my friends, my crush and his friends just like irl but the only thing that changed was how my crush acted towards me. He acted cold and really cruel and kept giving me death stares if I didn't stop bothering him. I finally got his atention for a couple minutes in the dream and he read it and gave me another stare. He laughed and walked away and I was really hurt, I ran away and I saw another image that looked like a diffrent version of him in that world.
The thing is that he was never ever cold or like that irl. Irl we just stopped talking now I had a nightmare about him all the sudden when I have cofidence.
It almost made me cry waking up. Now i'm debating weither I should even continue but I still love him, and want another chance but as friends cause we were friends when we first met and started talking. It's terrifying to be honest.
Was it just the devil trying to scare me? | Crushes |
he knows im a guy now. ive never prayed so hard 4 someone 2 b gay 😭 context im a trans guy and cant pass well cuz im a minor | Crushes |
So there is this girl that I (17 F) like who is in several of my classes, since she's so incredibly smart and sweet. The thing is, I have never really been sure of how to talk to her, since we generally sit across the room from each other (where it is difficult to just move seats or go across the room to her). I often find myself glancing over at her often, and sometimes I get caught/she looks back. Also, whenever I am in history and I go to my teacher's desk to talk, she usually looks over and smiles, then joins in on the conversation (it's never anything personal and I'm usually talking pretty loud, partially due to being a bit nervous around her)
I have tried attempting to come up with ways to approach her after class, but I'm not entirely sure of what to say. I go to an arts high school that is generally grouped by majors, and she's in creative writing, which is relatively separated socially from my major (strings), so there aren't really any mutual friends with her that I could talk to. Also, I'm not entirely sure of what topics would get her going, since I know that she enjoys reading and goes through books relatively quickly, but I'm not sure of which genres or potential subjects she might be interested in.
Since Valentine's day is coming up and I usually give something to all of my friends (this year it's lego dinosaur sets, chocolate, and bubbles with personalized messages) I thought that it would be a potential opportunity to get to know her by giving her one. I don't entirely know what I would write on it, or how/if I would give it since it could potentially make things awkward. Ultimately although I like her, I don't want to force anything too much and would even just like the step of becoming friends with her.
What general things would work best to get to know her? | Crushes |
Just questions that should be alright to ask and get someone talking about themselves? | Crushes |
My crush didn’t have many friends he had like 2 friends that were boys but he had more friends that were girls. He told me he wasn’t attracted to any of them because i’d ask he didn’t know I liked him and I’d ask do you have a crush on whatever girl he would talk to in a lesson that day. He’d always say no and I think he was being truthful. I messaged him on fake accounts saying do you like __? and so would my friend. Until he got annoyed and ended the friendship with them because he thought everyone thought he liked her. I did this with pretty much every girl he talked too. Then he’d talk to another girl and Id feel jealous and me and friend would ask again do you like her? Constantly and then he got annoyed and stopped talking to that girl. I feel bad. I was so weird. I’m so sorry
He doesn’t know it was me though….maybe we still could have a chance..:))) I’ve changed really | Crushes |
He's my friend i don't like to have these feelings for him. Please i want to stop these feelings, he likes someone else and just wants me as a friends.
Me wanting him as something else feels like I'm being dishonest and betraying him, i want to see him just as a friend. | Crushes |
I’m going to try and have a long, genuine conversation with him about our feelings and where we stand. Communication is so so so important and I really want to just know what’s happening and what we want. I’ve been overthinking things a lot so I really need this, and the closure. I’m not really wanting to dance around the issue, idk if I have the patience for a long and confusing flirting stage right now. | Crushes |
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