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No matter how much research i do on japanese social etiquette, I really cannot tell if i had properly violated his personal space or not.
I’m a (F, southeast asian) senior highschool student who befriended a group of exchange students from japan for 2 weeks. Somewhere down the line, there was a boy who i thought was incredibly cute, but i struggled to find rationality in the thought that i’d approach him and his friends out of the blue.
Befriending the female japanese students was a much easier feat, but I was too nervous to interact with the opposite gender. After a few days, one of my female exchange student friends pulled him over once she had finally been fed up of my shyness, and made us exchange socials on the spot. We didn’t introduce ourselves, state epithets or have a conversation - and he went back to his group straight away.
I’m not usually anxious when it comes to socialising with guys, so i tried to square up by messaging him first. I thanked him for exchanging socials with me, and apologised for being too shy to share a proper conversation with him. Since then we talked back and forth [about games, his school, etc] and then a day later I asked if i could make him a present - which was a handmade bracelet. He was in disbelief but gladly accepted, so I gave it to him at school the next day - his english isn’t amazing but we could somewhat communicate - he told me it was amazing, he was incredibly grateful and it was all too good to be true.
He was incredibly shy and nervous, but looking back at it I wonder if i was being invasive or rather forward and he just didn’t know how to say no without coming off as disrespectful. I know japanese guys are really conservative and are thought to avoid initiating in spite of respect, but i didn’t mind starting the conversations - i’m just worried that he simply didn’t want me to.
he asked me to add him on our game, my friend told me he was staring at his bracelet through class (which he promised to keep close to him) and he wore it up until his last day. I know that me talking to him made him rather anxious(?) (maybe cuz i’m a foreigner or a girl? or both?) but i felt that he deserved a proper goodbye.
he stepped out of his classroom, and i quickly blurted out random stuff like it was nice to meet him, and then asked for a hug. i reiterated it several times so that he could understand what i was actually asking for, and he spread his arms a little from his sides and i assumed he was okay with it. but he kinda reacted like he had never received a hug from an unrelated person of the opposite sex ever in his life. regardless, i was really happy and noticed he was wearing my bracelet still - despite the fact that i had a this feeling that he wanted to avoid me for his last few days at my school.
i havent messaged him since he left - i know he probably isnt going to but i think content with how things played out. i’m just worried violated his personal space by hugging him - as some foreign girl he talked to for a bit who randomly made him a present and moreover, breached his personal space by requesting a hug.
Am i overthinking ? Was i being creepy? Or was he just too shy to reciprocate affection as per culture and social etiquette?
TL:DR: I thought a japanese exchange student was cute, gave him a handmade bracelet which he loved a lot, but whenever i tried to talk to him he was too nervous to converse. He hasn’t known me for long, but I asked for a hug on the last day, to which he accepted but could have definitely been against his own will. Thoughts? | Crushes |
I asked out my crush back in June, but I got rejected. So I got very high and went on a rant about how ill never find anyone to my friend, and she said "You know what, you remind me so much if my friend". She sent me her snap, and she sent her mine. Right off the bat she was intrigued, she thought I was relatively attractive and we were in similar situations, we are both virgins with zero relationship experience. We started talking and she seemed interested but skeptical, and she got concerned when I accidentally left her on delivered for an hour once. I asked her to prom and she said yes. We met one day, and it didn't exactly go well. She kinda stuck with her friends, and I stuck with mine and we hardly interacted that day. She ended up having work on prom night and didn't go. We pretty much stopped talking after that, and apparently she told my friend who introduced us that she sees me more as a friend. I was a little sad since I love her personality and I think she's really attractive, but I wasn't heartbroken.
About a month later we ran into eachother at a party and we smoked a joint together. We didn't talk much besides that, but we started snapping occasionally again. A little after that I ran into her at a grocery store, and she and her friend just sorta hopped in my friends car and chilled for a bit. She kept bumming vape rips off of me which I found entertaining. Last week me and my friends ran into her at the fair. She asked me if I would go on a ride she found scary with her to comfort her. We went on the ride and she ended up screaming her lungs out because we kept going upside down, and we both mutually agreed that the ride wasn't enjoyable. She seemed extremely apologetic for screaming and even a little embarrassed. We went on another scary ride, one where you're strapped in a seat attached to a giant arm the swings back and forth and spins around. I remember she looked like she wasn't having a fun time, and she was pretty scared, but she kept looking over at me the whole time. She took me on the teacup ride, and I ended up puking my guts up (thankfully not on her) and she just kinda stood there and patted me on the back the whole time.
After that I got cleaned up and we stood in line for the ferris wheel for about a half hour. We kept having occasional awkward conversation, and I remember her seeming nervous and she kept overexplaining herself like you would around someone you like, but she was good at holding a conversation. Fast forward to today. She is drunk at a party and she just called me for 20 minutes. Her best friend took her phone and said in a very giggly suggestive tone "what's happening with you and (her)?". I said "I have no idea she just called me". In the background I could hear her yelling at her to give her the phone back. Also, i may have misheard her or she couldve been talkig to someone else, but it sounded like she called me "honey" at one point. Maybe her best friend knows something? My friend who set us up told me she's not interested, but I have a hunch she likes me. I could be wrong, so far I've always been wrong with this stuff.
Sorry for the long post, but I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read it and reply | Crushes |
I (18F) have known my friend (18M) for six years but had a rocky friendship. We started to talk due to having class and working on the school play together. I end up asked him to go to homecoming together in November and he said yes! But I clarified as friends because I was afraid he would say no to go as more (my mistake). We started to talk less around January and February since I got upset at him which I apologized later on for. March, is where we started to talk more again and hanging out again due to the school musical. I was planning to asking him to prom so my friend being my wingwoman asked him about prom and going with me. He was unsure if going to prom…literally crushing me a bit since I really wanted to go with him. This is where he revealed that he had a crush to her. I knew this person wasn’t me by the way he hinted at her. I ended up finding out last month it was mutual friend. Plus, he did ended up going to prom with other mutual friend that goes to another school that’s pretty close to him. Since we graduated we ended up talking everyday and sometimes facetiming until 3-4am. The texts he sends me seems like he likes me more then a friend. He compliments me by saying he likes talking to me, my hair color looks good on me, or by saying i am smart and intelligent and not to look down on my self. He asks about my work schedule and tells me his concerns. But i feel like I am overthinking this. I ended up confiding on mutual friend (18M) and he thinks he likes me and that he acts different around me compared to the rest of our friends. A moment where I was a bit confused on what was happening was last week when we went karaoke with our friend group and I filmed a video of him dancing and I showed him. We were laughing so close and he and I made eye contact for some seconds while doing so. For me at least I felt so many butterflies and ended up pulling away to show the video to our other firmed who was sitting next to him on the other side. I am just confused on if I should ask him or rather confess to him before college starts. Or do you think he likes me? Is what he says just friendly or more? | Crushes |
I've known my crush for like 3 going on 4 years now. At the start we were just work friends who would joke around with each other on the clock but then quarantine happened and our place of work shut down completely. We would text every now and then about school events that we had gotten canceled because of covid but we didn't see each other until our work place reopened last year. When I saw him last summer I realized he was literally my type in every sense but then we both went away to college so I decided it would be best not to tell him how I feel.
Then this summer happened and it's all just been a rollercoaster of mixed signals; we matched on tinder but he only hit me up once on the app, when we had a work event he told his friends he wouldn't come but then when I texted him that I wanted him to come because I wanted us to hangout then he ended up calling me and showing up, he'd drive me home when we got off around the same time, but then even when I made it obvious that I was into him he never really did anything about it. Someone said it's because he's never had a girlfriend before and rarely talks to anyone romantically so I thought it was because he couldn't tell that I was into him. To figure out if he found me attractive in any way I decided to ask one of his close friends to test the waters for me before I go and confess how I felt. The friend got back to me saying no he wasn't into me (he was nicer in the way he told me).
Okay now that we're caught up on everything I spent like a few weeks thinking he wasn't into me which obviously upset me because I do still genuinely really like him. Then a few days ago we had a work event when everyone was drinking and I had a little too much to drink, and while playing a game I said he had half a personality because I wanted to hurt his feelings and for him to think I wasn't interested in him.
Now I don't know how to act because that's such a shitty thing to say to a person that you've known for almost 4 years and right after I said it he got really quiet and upset. He swore he wasn't mad but the whole time when we were all joking around he never got quiet even when someone called him boring but as soon as I said what I said he got quiet and sat in the corner. I ended up leaving early that night because I felt bad and heard from the people who stayed that he left after I left.
We're working together tomorrow and I literally don't know how to apologize. I know I have to apologize because I was a bitch but I don't know how to explain why I said that without openly revealing that the reason I said it was because I wanted to hurt his feelings like my feelings were hurt. Like that's completely crazy people behavior, I wish I could have just kept my mouth shut. | Crushes |
I feel like I’m ready but still so nervous cause some days I think he might like me but other days he seems to like someone else and gives very mixed signals. Is it bad if I text him and tell him or should I tell him in person? The only thing with that is I’m scared that I’ll back out and not say anything if I do it in person. | Crushes |
so this guy I’ve liked for a bit and i have been hanging out a little while, have spent the night together a few times, but done nothing much really physically. until the last couple nights,, we were practically holding hands the whole time and laid with his arm around me while i doodled on him. never fall asleep touching but wake up spooning : ) i like how nice and slow it’s been going but aaaa now im anxious to kiss him lol | Crushes |
I’ve got a guy friend and I kinda like him, and think he’s really cute and sweet. I catch him looking at me a lot,and he never looks away so we just stare at each other until I get nervous and look away. It’s not a blank stare (like when you’re thinking), it’s like he’s trying to get my attention and catch my eye. He’s pretty shy but when we make eye contact he holds eye contact unlike anyone else. Sometimes he’ll be talking to someone else but we’ll be making eye contact. He laughs at my jokes and any dumb mistake I make. I told my sisters and they said “maybe he likes you” but idk. My gut thinks he might, yet I’m not sure.
How do you know someone likes you back? | Crushes |
Hello, Ill try to be concise. I am 38 from Greece. She is 41 from Belgium. We have been friends for over a decade. We cultivated this relationship no matter where we lived. But there has always been distance between us, not only geographically speaking, but also there was a form of boundary that prevented us to really sink up. Nonetheless we always kept in contact and meet at least once a year. I always had feelings for her running in the background but I had my life and she had hers.
The past year we increased the frequency of our encounters. Every three months. A month ago we spent a week together. Went to the sea, walked talked and so on. And it is lately that we are syncing up much more. We have emotional intimacy. More on my side. We share stories about childhood, reflected on our experiences in life and had an amazing time.
It is in this specific period that my gut feeling strongly spoke to me. I felt complicated feelings: attraction, sweetness, warmth, security. We spent hours talking while looking in each other eyes. Not romantically, but we both enjoyed this contact. I feel our relationship is growing, not necessarily in a romantic way, but in terms of trust, and ability to rely on each other support, and this was the main goal.
We are now organising another weekend together. Ill go this time. I think it is time to address this situation but I really don’t know what is the correct phrasing for something like this. I don’t want to weird her out, especially because she told me she does not trust men when they ask personal questions. In this situations her first though is “what are they going to do with this information”. Her exact words. And then she closes.
But I think it is important, for transparency, respect to her and to me. All of this is starting to bug me, and it is interfering with my daily life. What I was thinking was to ask her something along the line of: “I am glad we are finally getting to know each other better. This is great. It feels we are accomplishing something that took a long time to do. I think it is time to ask you few question because they will guide me in the future for shaping our relation. Is this the kind of relationship you have in mind for us? Is this my place in your life? Did we reached the apex of our relation? (referring to this platonic friendship)”
The point in this: this is a request to open up, and she might not be willing to open. Another couple of times I tried to ask her why she kept contact with me, but she never really addressed the question. And to this day I don't know. She gives very simple answers and change topic. But she asks questions about me, and my feelings (not toward her). She definitely listens to me and has curiosity.
Maybe I should phrase it first gently and calmly, and show vulnerability in order to show that I am not trying to pur her in the spot. But how without destroying everything? Any advice? | Crushes |
I don't know how to avoid making it awkward. Any tips? | Crushes |
I m hurt and lost at what to do. I am have been crushing at him for near 9 months now. I fell for him for the way he texted and also the way he behaved in schl. We would text but not hv convo in rl. But after many ups and downs he initiated a meet up. And we talked in rl more often now. ( note out rs is as friends) However, things got really dry after a few meet ups and texting for so long. Not he that he already was in the first place being very dry in messages. It was really though for me. Because our energy really didn't match. He would text first or maybe respond to mu ig story but the moment I get engaged and started texting more it's was just obvious he wasn't really int and was just basically trying/responding. But it was even though in rl for me. All the meets ups that he initiated. I would hv to plan at whr to go and always trying my hardest and best at putting up questions, topics and basically anything that interests him. And honestly doing that made me felt like I was losing myslef because I was never the kind of person to put up with thus much bullshit because he really was just putting up a face. I could tell. It felt really sick but at the same time I always told myslef it was worth it. I was obsessing over him and my brain first priority was him and not my feelings and it still is. The more we texted the more I just being caught up with him first it's was insane amount of obsession. At the same time it really bloody hurts like fuck , because everthing was really just useless he wasn't responding much but I am literally down there giving my fullest , all of my energy and prioritising over his needs but its just not damn to him. Until I found out when we we texting that he said he still like her first @. It was unexpected and definitely stunned me as I read the messages he sent. For the first time, he actually wasn't just simply replying my messages but actually saying more than necessary and describing about her.... it was nice. Nice to see him finally engaged in our texts but stunning... really just at a lost. He told me didn't betrayed her or lost her but they only broke up a the tinneiest yet valid reason. It was bcs of her studies. He told me he still liked her so as she like him when they break up. It was like an perfect live story literally just waiting for the next season. The correct time in the future for it to bloom again. And honestly , I am really glad. He actually loved and felt love....bcs he was happy and he really appreciated it. Appreciated that moment w her more than wtv amount of effort I tired. On the contrary,he did knwo he had to move on from it and he told me he was truth to but I didn't felt like supporting him. He was happy and I didn't want him to have that ... He's a mentally strong guy and like normal my words didn't affect him at all. But honestly finding out this from me just hits me more at what's right for me to do and how to control because I still really just at the verge of breaking my own self ..... | Crushes |
She was being friendly, and I misinterpreted even more because I had a huge crush on her before. 7 months on, I wrote a letter. She said she loved it, it was beautifully written, and wants to be friends with me. I introspected a month later, I told her it hurts to be your friend, she we’re just batchmates now. I don’t know how long will I take to get over her. It’s really the worst feeling, I loved her honestly, innocently. I didn’t really expect a rejection so it hurts even more. | Crushes |
This is a very complicated situation since she is my cousins best friend and she is one year younger than me. Recently we’ve been talking for like 3 weeks and I wanna confess but I want some thoughts on if she likes me. It’s pretty split on who starts the conversation, we always tell each other good morning and goodnight and we call each other “stinky” and just love to call each other names. She always smiles at me in class and I always smile back but then again she smiles to other people too. We at least send each other like 30 messages a day. She also asks me how is my workout going and always ask what I’m doing. So I don’t know if these are big signals or what help please 😭. (I’m 14 shes 13) | Crushes |
my first crush ghosted me so i moved on and decided hey he's not worth it. then my second crush comes along and i think oh he's cute and has a better personality than my first crush! then my friend breaks it to me that he has a gf who's in another state.
what am i doing wrong... | Crushes |
I know reddit is the literal last place I should be going for advice, but I'm way too embarrassed to bring this up to anyone else I know irl, so imma just lay everything out here. (Sorry if it's too much to read.)
So I've only ever had crushes on people for maybe weeks at a time, and whenever I would realize I had one, I would just brush it off, and be like, "Eh, it'll go away.", which 99% of the time, was true. Last year, (11th grade) I was pretty anti-social since I had just came to a new school, after being with my friends from middle school since 6th grade, and I didn't really know how to fit into other friend groups. However, there was always one girl who would always go out of her way to say hi to me when she saw me, and at first I thought nothing of it, and that she was just pitying me cuz I had no friends. Eventually found out she's a really cool and nice person, but I still never really talked to her. Fast forward to this year, and I've finally found a friend group, but on top of that, I started talking to the girl. About a month later from that point, we become acquaintances (I guess?), I realize I liked her. So I did my usual thing of waiting it out, but then a month passes, then another, then another, and then I kinda start to realize this might be something. About a week ago, she gave me her number, but not in the "I wanna talk to you outside of school" way, it was because she's doing a project that she asked if I wanted to help her out in. Despite that, we have slung playful insults at each other over texts, but that's about it.
I wanna talk to her more, even if it's just over text, but I have NO idea where to even start. It's not like I'm bad at conversation, but when I'm talking to her, it's like all my wit and ability to make jokes just evaporates. WHAT DO I DO | Crushes |
So my crush and her friends will do this thing sometimes where they go to the area I am and just like watch me. I never make direct eye contact but I can see them doing it.
When I see her friends by themselves they also look over at me.
Keep in mind I've never even talked to her friends so it was weird when out of nowhere they asked me If I liked anyone at the school. | Crushes |
HE LIKED ME, AND I LIKE HIM. He knew I like him and he liked me yet none of us said ANYTHING. We liked each other CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT, gosh last weekend I got told so many things that made my mind go KABOOOOMMM, I'm not even sure if we still like each other mutually, goshhhh whyyyyy | Crushes |
So she pulled my friend aside during lunch and told her that she knows I like her. My dumbass friend can't lie for the life of her, so I'm sure she knows now. I don't know what to do, so yeah any advice would be much appreciated .-. | Crushes |
is this too much to ask
why is it so hard just to see him? | Crushes |
I don't know what to do. He's so hot. 10/10 physically.
But I don't think he likes me as he literally freezes when we catches each other eye or he sees me. If he sees me and there are around people he'll puts his head down and as he wears a cap I can't see his face. When I catch him looking and wave he'll ignored me unless there's no one around. But if no one is around he initiates the waves and smiles.
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She talks/calls/texts only when she wants help from me. When I ask for the same she never helps me. | Crushes |
Some of mine :
- He send me videos about things we talked about and things that I like (Not always but he do this sometimes.)
-He helped to park my car because he saw I was struggling to do so. (Basic manners, I know..but my other friends saw it too, he's the only one who came to me and offered help. We're not even that close at that time.
- On my birthday, he borrowed his friend's lighter to fake as a candle and tell me to blow it. (Not something big but that gesture is so cute and heartwarming).
cute things about him :
Everything,the way he laughs at the smallest things, the way he always greet me by saying my name. He's a literal sunshine ☀️✨💖😭
but also, I don't know if he's just that friendly or he sees me as someone silly so he don't mind doing these things. | Crushes |
I have a good online friend for whom I have developed some feelings. He is 1.5 yrs older than me. In the beginning, he used to call me bestie ironically but I assumed it to be unironic because we used to talk a lot back then, almost everyday and he seemed interested in talking. A few days after this, when he got to know that i took the bestie thing seriously, he told he said it ironically and I felt kinda bad. It was immature of me cuz we had newly become friends. Two days ago, on my birthday, he wished me nicely, wrote a long paragraph but didn't use any emojis. On being asked by him to send birthday pics, i sent him those and we had a long convo the whole day which does not happen usually cuz he replies late. He complimented me calling me smart and cute but again didn't use emojis. I felt weird, idk i'm reading too much into the emojis thing because i have a crush on him. Also i have seen him using emojis in the comment section of other female online friends sometimes, maybe he does it ironically. Plus he does not do the ironic shit with me after that bestie thing happened. What do you guys think? What could be the reason behind him not using emojis? | Crushes |
So I was with this girl I'm crushing on and her friend walking back to school since we went outside at break, and it was cold as fuck.
She says she's cold and I, as the dumbass I am, I ask her if she wants my jacket tripping over my words.
And then she just looks away super embarrassed and she was so fucking cute. She refused tho, since she saw I was also cold. Then she talked to her friend about something they didn't want me to hear, still with that embarrassed and cute ass look.
I asked again if she was sure she didn't want it and her friend said "she does but she's too afraid to accept" so she said fine and took it.
For context, I am around 30cm taller than her and my jacket looked SO CUTE on her and she noticed that in my face and blushed.
Then I just stared at her in class, she caught my glance a couple times but I couldn't help but look at her (that teacher said I should pay attention in class and don't look at classmates, clearly knows what's going on)
So I would confidently say that was the most cute experience I've had in my entire life and I'm so glad it was with her | Crushes |
I've known my best friend for about 5 years now and when we were in year 8 I told him I liked him he said he didn't like me back and that was the end of it. We both ended up in seperate relationships shortly after that. We also broke up with our then partners at about the same time (for different reasons) and have had trouble with relationships since.
Recently I bought up to him that if we're not in relationships by time we're 40 we should get married and he shut me down saying "we'd kill each other" which honestly is probably true. And I didn't bring it up again. A couple of nights ago he asked me if I still wanted to do that and I obviously said yes.
Then we were talking even more about how hard it's been and how lonely we've been and I took a risk by asking if he was interested in trying us going out a little bit earlier and I suggested if at around the same time next year we aren't in relationships that we go on a date together. And he said that we'll see but it's definitely not a no.
I realised at that moment that if he had of said yes to me, I would wait for him. I would avoid getting in a relationship at all costs so that I could be with him. I haven't felt that way about a lot of people. I don't want to tell him that though in case he isn't as interested as I am and I ruin things between us. We're so close and I don't want to lose him.
I really hope we get together next year and that things work out. | Crushes |
It's always like that. Whenever I think I'm settled down and no longer love him, he will always come back and just like that my heart faltered like whatttt | Crushes |
I’m a girl and I told this girl through her friend that I liked her. She didn’t give me no response but her friend told me she is straight. Left it at that was a lil sad. But the girl drags it out. She’s mean to me for no reason and she’s nice to everyone, she’s nice to my friend . Can anyone help why she’s acting like this and plus her finding out I liked her was months ago . | Crushes |
he seems to really really like my friend. the only thing that’s so hard about this one is that i’ve liked him for a while, on-and-off, now and he seems to like her. she’s prettier, everything i wish i could be. how do i get over it? any tips? 🧍♀️ | Crushes |
it's been almost 2 months that i started having a crush on her and i'm ready to tell her because i can't keep these feelings for myself any longer. however we have busy school schedule and we don't see that often outside of school. i'm close friends with her though and i'm not scared to tell her, but i can't do it because there isn't a right timing right now... she leaves in one week in a half during the winter break in another country and will come back in january but at the same time i don't want to wait until january... if i tell her before she leaves it would be good for me but in case she rejects me i don't want it to ruin her break... on the other hand i'll have to wait much longer... what should i do? | Crushes |
so i once walked together with my crush to the subway station after school finished. i used to go to that station sometimes even before knowing her, and it was a perfect timing as she was going there to. the first time we walked together it was perfectly normal. but second time we walked together she asked me why i decided to go this way and not another. i answered that it was because i like talking with her.
then, the next day, a friend of her (who knows that i love her) told me that my crush told her: "Did he (me) tell you something about me?" and my friend, to protect me, answered "No.." and my crush was like 'ok...' but according to this friend, she asked it in a curious way and not in a disgusted way. what could it mean?
after it happened, i didn't talk to my crush for one day but after we talked together again like nothing happened. so either she really ignored it, or maybe she did noticed something but keeps it secret. what do you think of this? | Crushes |
3rd of december... has anybody else gotten heather'd in the past few months? lol | Crushes |
so i'm already good friends with my crush and she likes me as a friend (she finds me cute and funny) however everytime we see each other with other people she always talks more with the other people than with me. I do have the courage to talk with her when we're alone but whenever there are other people around us i don't know what to say to her... she has a great personnality and i really want to talk with her more but i don't know how because i can't find the right occasions to: most of the time we see at school she's isn't talking to anyone and she just does her homework. and i can't ask her to see each other (just us two) outside of school because she will instantly notice. is it a sign that she could be interested in me that she ignores me sometimes? because i catch her sometimes looking at me smiling. anyway how do i get to talk with her more without looking weird? | Crushes |
3 years. 3 fucking years and I still love her. I’ve confessed, I’ve told her and even tried ignoring her but no matter what I do these fucking feelings just always come back. Why do they always have to come. Every time I see her, every time that we sit together, every fucking time I spend with you, these feelings come back for another round. I can’t forget you no matter what I try. When I play with my friends I’m able to forget you but as soon as I turn on my phone your there. How do I know you still don’t like me or you’re sending signs. I just want these feelings to dissapear | Crushes |
So my crush literally sent me a video of her singing a love song (next door by amelia moore) and she was recording the lyrics while singing it, ahhhhhhhhhhh | Crushes |
Do I fall for the nice ones? How can you really know whether a guy really wants to know you or is he just being nice and respectful? | Crushes |
I've known this boy for ~1 year and 3 months (from being in the same class). We became casual friends this year February. The time where we really hit it off was around June. We had gaming sessions with some other friends for over 6 hours per day during summer break. Sometimes, it'd just be the 2 of us in the voice chat, talking about many things. I introduced him to my other friends. We've formed a great friend group (3 boys and 4 girls) since then.
However, recently I've found myself catching feelings for him. It was around mid-october when I first started. At first, I brushed it off, thinking of it as an infactuation and that it was perfectly normal for a teenager to cling onto a romantic love-interest for fantasizing.
It has been a month and a half since then. These feelings can't be suppressed. I've found myself getting jealous when he talks to my other female friends in our friend group. When he has a good laugh with them and I'm not included. I think this is so toxic, but I can't help it. I keep this feeling to myself, though.
When we have lunch, he always chooses to sit next to me/ opposite me. He's way taller than me so I never dare look into his eyes. I like the way he laughs and smiles. I like his humour. I like how cute he is.
When I finally chose to accept the fact that I liked him was last Wednesday. As class president, I had brought christmas decorations and hats. There was this reindeer fluffy hat thingy. He just took it from me and plopped it onto his head. He looked so cute that in an instance, I wanted to hug him so tightly in my arms. But, I blocked that feeling because I thought it'd be awkward. I think, if my mind hadn't told me to not do so, my conscience would've made me anyway. The icing on the top was when he took it off and plopped it on my head. He smiled and said it looked cute. He said he liked the hat.
The thing that motivated me to decide to confess was last Friday (yesterday). My friend group was about to leave school together as usual and walk home. My crush had to stay behind to record a project with his teammate (also my friend) though. Out of all the people, he chose me, he asked me if I could help him record the video. Of course I said yes. The others left.
I was done recording the video for him and my other friend. At the school gate, the other friend went the opposite way since he lives nearby. So, it was only him and I, walking home. It was like the feeling I've always wanted when I saw couples from our school finishing school together late. With the yellow lights dim on the streets, with the sky in a rich dark blue. I was next to him and he was next to me. We chatted and laughed till we had to part ways.
This was the moment I knew.
I want to confess to him before it's too late. Before he catches feelings for someone else. I don't know if he likes me at all. But, I'll give it my best shot. We have winter break this month and exams coming January. I plan to tell him around the days after the exam, or on Valentines day.
I'm scared of rejection so badly. I still want to so it. I'm scared if my confession goes bad, it will break up the friend group.
But knowing him, I trust him. Even if he rejects me, he'll be respectful to me about it.
I will do it.
I'll confess to him when it's just us 2 again. When we finish school late again. If I chicken out on the planned dates, I must make it my mission to confess by next year July. | Crushes |
so for context i have liked one of my coworkers for about 3 months now and i felt like it was getting pretty serious, because i thought that she may have actually liked me back,
Last night me, my coworkers and managers went to a bar for a work/christmas thing, and when alcohol is thrown into mix, you can tell where it's going...
We were about 3 hours deep and practically everyone was sloshed, people were being sick, stumnling, crying, practically what you think of a night out.
I hadn't spoken to my crush for the majority of the night, only very brief conversations and whatnot.
She got up and said she was leaving, and I asked her to come to a more private area
I cant remember exactly what i said because its a blur, but i told her that i loved her and that she was one of my favourite co workers, while telling her to stay safe.
She responded in a sort of 'aw okay!' kind of way, not what i expected as i was almost convinced she would say the same thing.
I haven't spoken to her since, we're both in work later and i feel like i need to speak to her about it, if she even remembers it. | Crushes |
on the last day of schoo something very sad happened to my crush that i wont go into the details of. Out of all of our friends she asked me if she could borrow my arm and cried into my arm for the entirety of lunch, and after school, when i was about to get picked up she wanted me to stay with her for a bit longer, we talked for hours and i tried to cheer her up. We never really talked before until that day, she opened up to me super quickly and she even cuddled with me, rested on my should and got super intimate in general, i literally have no idea why, i could never even imagine standing close to her or sitting next to each other but she quickly switched up and got super close to me for no reason. Before that day We were never alone together and when we were in a group setting i could always catch her looking at me and quickly looks away when we make eye contact. She also kept asking me questions if i'd date anyone or if my parents would allow me to have girlfriends, stuff like that. i cant tell if she just needed someone to talk to after what happened or she likes me back and saw it as an opportunity to get closer to me | Crushes |
Basically just what made you start liking your crush, and what you like about them in general? | Crushes |
😭😭😭 | Crushes |
Hello everyone, it's my first time here in this subreddit,
and I would like to talk about my crush..
About 3-4 months ago, a new student entered my class. Her name is Shennel, a cute girl with short hair and a beautiful smile. She seems to be an introvert, because she doesn't really talk much. Initially, I developed a small crush on her, but I kept on ignoring this feeling because I am just to afraid to fall in love again. So I just continue my life as usual, without thinking much about it.
Fast forward 2 months later, my feelings for her starts to become stronger, like I am so in love with her! As an introvert guy, I don't really have the gut to talk to her, but I kept on fantasizing beautiful things about her such as going on a date, something like that.
But, I myself have nothing special that I can give her. I'm a broke guy, working in retail while studying full time, that may have no time at all to spend with her. I don't have a car, I'm not as good looking as other male, and that made me feel so inferior...so I decided to perhaps just be friend with her and...uncrush her and just move on
how do I do this.. | Crushes |
okay so i’m not sure if my crush has a gf? he was on hinge a month or so ago and he works at a cafe but he’s super tight with this one specific coworker he has. idk if they are lovers siblings or friends atp?? i gave him a bday gift today and he hugged me so i can’t tell | Crushes |
After asking my crush out about 3 years ago she said it was late for me since she had plans for her marriage and now I’m stuck without a crush to ask out and move on. Any suggestion on my new initiation? | Crushes |
Ok so I started talking to this dude off Yik yak (basically off brand, more intimate college Reddit) a few days ago. He’s like the kind of guy that’s friends with everyone, and he’s pretty “popular” on yak in the sense that he posts so much that everyone is familiar with him and loves him. When we started talking, I think we hit it off immediately, but I also think he’s the kind of guy who can hit it off with absolutely anyone. I know for sure that he talks to lots of people off yak pretty consistently because he’s told me about a couple of them. Most of them he only talks to on yak, but I talk to him on Snapchat (I should add that Im the one who asked for his snap). The first 2 days, we literally talked all day and all night (like didn’t even sleep bc we were just talking), he asked me so many questions, some so random. But ever since, it’s slowed down a lot (bc he doesn’t text me as much) and he hasn’t rly asked me any questions. All our conversations have just been follow ups to the last or if I post/comment something on yak (which I’ve mostly done to get his attention). I find myself just constantly checking snap maps to see if he’s online and checking to see if he’s messaged me. When he hasn’t but I see him online, it feels like someone’s squeezing my chest and it’s hard for me to breath. But when I get that notification from him, its rly the only thing that’s made me smile this week. We’re both listed as each others #1 BF on snap. I feel like if that changes, and we stop talking, it will thrust me into like depression-eque sadness. I know it’s really dysfunctional to feel so strongly about someone after only knowing them for a couple of days, but I really like him. On the first day we talked, he was like mildly flirty (almost innocently flirty, like the kind you’d do to a friend as a joke) and I told him I just got out of a relationship so i hope his flirting was platonic. He basically said duh it is. There hasn’t been much more of that flirting since then. Since our constant talking the first 2 days, how often we speak to each other has gone way down. He didn’t text me for like 10 hours today, I felt the need to post on yikyak to get his attention.
I should also add he’s got ADHD. Is he bored with me? I have way too much anxiety to just ask him out or tell him I like him, but can someone help me gage whether it’s even worth pursuing? Like if he even likes me like that/could like me like that?
Other important things I did not have mention:
- we’ve never met up, but we did have a little thing where he asked me to try and find him and I watched him biking through my window and he looked up and we giggled at each other
- I’m black and kind of chubby. Idk if he’s into chubby black girls (he probably isn’t bc that’s such a niche thing to be into)
- he’s not the type of guy that’s only friends with girls he’s attracted to.
- he’s pretty decent looking, like a 6/6.5. Attractive and charismatic enough to pull most girls at the school we go to
- when he asked me who my celebrity crushes were the first day we talked, all the names I gave him look absolutely nothing like him
So what do you think? Should I start getting over him | Crushes |
Okay I was typing a 10/10 essay about it when my phone died because I was so, so tired and forgot to pay attention to my battery, I’m so sad 😭
Anyways so here are all the signs that happened yesterday that I’m still trying to process
* When I sat next to him at the beginning of the party, I got these vibes that he was trying to ask me anything and looking around in the room to keep the conversation going no matter what, even if it meant going through a boring book on the table, it was literally “here’s a book… *scrolls through it* boring book… how was the semester? how are you?”
* Asked me if I knew the program for the party even though it was on Facebook events and he clicked attending before I did 😭
* Met my sister for the first time and was really excited, was like “oh my godddd you’re sisters, so so cool!!!”
* Talked culture, grammar, food etc about the language we both study with us (my sister is studying another language though)
When my sister and I teased him about not having tried most of the traditional cuisine from there, he said something like **“Well, I’ll be looking forward to the dinner invitation from the family (My family name) so I can try”**🥺
* I found that my sister was observing us subtly when we moved closer at the door way next to the fridge where people kept going so I couldn’t keep standing there. So we were standing closer than my sister was to us
* After he said that comment, I also think my sister started teasing me about some of my traits in front of him
* My sister encouraged me to try a 4% soda alcohol thingy, I eventually agreed and he said I didn’t have to if I don’t want to, yet comforted me when I said yes to it knowing I don’t drink a whole lot
* Made the rules for our gift/drinking game, but reminded me again that I didn’t have to drink (1 on the die drink, 6 take a gift)
* Went out of his way to NOT steal a gift from me during the “steal gift” round, even though I had good luck with gifts right next to him and everyone else stole from me
* Kept doing these micro touches doing the game, and the rest of the night. Mainly with our legs touching, but I would also playfully touch him on the shoulder when he rolled 1 or won
* He did that thing where you stretch out your arm on the sofa in the direction of the person you like, when I did it twice he once had to leave but the second time he came back sat in a little closer. He did it too with a friend though later so I don’t know how reliable that is apart from a moment when he leaned his head towards me while having his arm in front of mine, hand on neck ish if it makes sense
* In general would mirror me a whole lot
* When I would leave the party temporarily, I would start telling him where I was going, and he did it back to me too after a while
* When I touched him for example light teasing, or asking how he was, would be comfortable
* When our friends started talking about a couple who recently got together, or relationships, appeared quite nervous next to me
* Towards the end of the party I would sit directly in front of him sort of close, knees open and parallel, he would be completely unable to look me directly in the eye. Okay he was also a bit drunk at the time, but the difference was so obvious. I just sort of sat there and didn’t know how to join the convo while he would do these pretend not to look things? AHHHHH🫣
We tidied up together with a few friends and then we went outside to go to the bar my sister was on.
I just wanted to hug him goodbye and thank him for a good night, but the group he was in moved so fast he could only wave and smile at me and say goodbye.😔
Can’t help but feel like he implied last night he wants to get closer to me and get to know me better though, right?!
And that gives me the impression that he might think the next move is mine, and I should do something about it.
What do you all think? | Crushes |
About a week ago my crush friend zoned me, and yesterday I learned that my best friend who I’ve been friends with for my entire year knew that she liked him. She really doesn’t care about me, she pretty much doesn’t think that I exist. My best friend doesn’t give a fuck too. I don’t know what to do. I have a basketball game in 5 days she said she’s gonna watch it. But I bet that she won’t. Life’s been hitting me hard recently.. | Crushes |
I (22 F) invited my friend (20 M) to come stay with my family and I for a few days over winter break and he said yes! We met last year at uni at a Halloween party although I recognized him because he followed me on Instagram at the beginning of the semester. Early on I started to realize that I had feelings for him, he is extremely extroverted and is very popular around campus whereas I am introverted and have a smaller circle of close friends. We've talked about this before, but he and I both didn't think we would end up becoming friends when we first met. I thought I was so awkward and made a bad impression because I was quiet and he was talking more with the person next to me. He, later on, told me that he thought I was so sweet but he felt like I might not like him because he was so loud and would not like his energy. We kept running into each other around campus and one night last year I went to an event alone and he was actually helping run the event which I was surprised to see. I thought he wouldn't notice me at all but he came right over and gave me a hug and we chatted while I was in line then he would leave and come back every so often to chat with me. As we were talking I decided to invite him to go to see Christmas lights with me and he said yes and I told him I would text him later that night. When I got into the event I was on my own and I sat down at a table by myself but he came to check on me and I felt so embarrassed that I was alone so I found a table of girls and joined them for the night which ended up being so fun. While I was getting to know these girls they asked me about my relationship status and I was the only single one while they all had boyfriends and fiances. My friend came over to chat with us and check in with me and as soon as he walked away the girls at my table all talked about how cute he was and told me that I should go out with him. I mentioned to them that he and I were starting to become friends and that we planned on going to the Christmas lights together. Throughout the night he kept checking in on me and it really meant a lot to me. Since then we started hanging out, we would tell each other about going on dates, had a few heart to hearts, and we've introduced each other to our friends. One of the friends he introduced me to and I've hung out with a few times was this nice girl and they had gone on a road trip together and they were telling me all about it. Later in the year, over the summer I saw this girl post a photo of the two of them hanging out together but they are out of state students so I thought that it was cool they made that trip to get together. He and I didn't really chat much over the summer and so I hadn't heard from him in a while. This school year we've been hanging out a bit and catching up which was nice, but he told me that he and this girl he had introduced me to had broken up because she cheated on him. Now I was kind of in shock because I didn't even know they were together. Then he asked me about my dating life and I mentioned that someone I thought I was going to be friends with and I were hanging out but they thought it was a date and I didn't know or want that at all. Then, my friend decided to joke about us being on a date (I wished we had been), he mentioned that when we first met he told his best friend about me and asked her to monitor him so he wouldn't cuss in front of me, and we have been bonding over our love for the film La La Land. He's so wonderful when we're together in person, but he has also been flaky and distant at times which really confuses me. We are both out of state students and I am pleasantly surprised that he said yes to coming to stay with me for a few days over break. I know that it's a lot, but I have wanted to tell him how I feel for a while now, but I'm scared about how he'll react. We’ve been friends for about a year now but I want to tell him how I feel before it’s too late. I have a plan on how I want to tell him, but I’m wondering on when would be best. Any thoughts on how I should go about this? | Crushes |
I (22 F) invited my friend (20 M) to come stay with my family and I for a few days over winter break and he said yes! We met last year at uni at a Halloween party although I recognized him because he followed me on Instagram at the beginning of the semester. Early on I started to realize that I had feelings for him, he is extremely extroverted and is very popular around campus whereas I am introverted and have a smaller circle of close friends. We've talked about this before, but he and I both didn't think we would end up becoming friends when we first met. I thought I was so awkward and made a bad impression because I was quiet and he was talking more with the person next to me. He, later on, told me that he thought I was so sweet but he felt like I might not like him because he was so loud and would not like his energy. We kept running into each other around campus and one night last year I went to an event alone and he was actually helping run the event which I was surprised to see. I thought he wouldn't notice me at all but he came right over and gave me a hug and we chatted while I was in line then he would leave and come back every so often to chat with me. As we were talking I decided to invite him to go to see Christmas lights with me and he said yes and I told him I would text him later that night. When I got into the event I was on my own and I sat down at a table by myself but he came to check on me and I felt so embarrassed that I was alone so I found a table of girls and joined them for the night which ended up being so fun. While I was getting to know these girls they asked me about my relationship status and I was the only single one while they all had boyfriends and fiances. My friend came over to chat with us and check in with me and as soon as he walked away the girls at my table all talked about how cute he was and told me that I should go out with him. I mentioned to them that he and I were starting to become friends and that we planned on going to the Christmas lights together. Throughout the night he kept checking in on me and it really meant a lot to me. Since then we started hanging out, we would tell each other about going on dates, had a few heart to hearts, and we've introduced each other to our friends. One of the friends he introduced me to and I've hung out with a few times was this nice girl and they had gone on a road trip together and they were telling me all about it. Later in the year, over the summer I saw this girl post a photo of the two of them hanging out together but they are out of state students so I thought that it was cool they made that trip to get together. He and I didn't really chat much over the summer and so I hadn't heard from him in a while. This school year we've been hanging out a bit and catching up which was nice, but he told me that he and this girl he had introduced me to had broken up because she cheated on him. Now I was kind of in shock because I didn't even know they were together. Then he asked me about my dating life and I mentioned that someone I thought I was going to be friends with and I were hanging out but they thought it was a date and I didn't know or want that at all. Then, my friend decided to joke about us being on a date (I wished we had been), he mentioned that when we first met he told his best friend about me and asked her to monitor him so he wouldn't cuss in front of me, and we have been bonding over our love for the film La La Land. He's so wonderful when we're together in person, but he has also been flaky and distant at times which really confuses me. We are both out of state students and I am pleasantly surprised that he said yes to coming to stay with me for a few days over break. I know that it's a lot, but I have wanted to tell him how I feel for a while now, but I'm scared about how he'll react. We’ve been friends for about a year now but I want to tell him how I feel before it’s too late. I have a plan on how I want to tell him, but I’m wondering if it's even a good idea. Any thoughts on how I should go about this? | Crushes |
This is just a small crush I've had for roughly a month now. I first saw him in school found his socials and added him. I won't go too much into detail just in case he somehow sees this. Let's call him Mark for the sake of it as well.
Well Mark added me back and he likes my insta posts and we occasionally snap and have like a 3 week streak. The other day he began to talk to me on snap! We got to know each other better and rhe guy is a walking green flag. He's nice, he likes his family, he's funny, he thinks I'm funny, he's talented just amazing.
And well I think we're on day 5 of talking and he repeatedly told me that we must be soulmates. He shared a lot about his life and we have talked about EVERYTHING basically. I'm so happy I don't even know what to do | Crushes |
Girl (who I have a crush on) is a bit taller than me. We took some pictures recently and I notice she would crouch a bit to make herself look shorter than me for the pictures. Does that mean anything? Nothing? Maybe you would do this with any guy you're taking photos with?
Edit: She likes me back :) | Crushes |
Sorry for not the best English.
While I was at work the radio was on and playing "all I want for Christmas is you" and my coworker who is also my crush looked at me and started singing it.
It also happened 2 days ago while we were in a car together because I was bringing her home after work, in the car we were singing it together.
I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
Asking this because the only crush i think i have ever had i was literally obsessed with the person but now i met this other girl who is older and i imagine things about her like kissing her and when i met her at times i stared a lot of time at her but it doesn’t feel like my other crush so i dont think i have a crush on this girl? | Crushes |
so i chatted my crush in messenger that i like him, but leaves me on read even though i see him online. am i rejected? | Crushes |
This girl only texts me when she is drunk or high and I don’t know what to to, she texts he when she’s not but she takes forever and acts dry, I’m starting to think just to give up cus she doesn’t wanna do a long distance relationship even tho we 3 hours away and I could drive down there, should I stop talking to her? Or | Crushes |
This girl only really texts me a lot when she’s drunk or high, whenever she’s sober she doesn’t text and acts dry, I’m starting to to I should just stop | Crushes |
He’s short but Handsome.
He’s Brown and Handsome.
He cut his hair but he looks good in everything.
I want to avoid looking at him but i just can’t help it, he’s the one shining on the field.
He looks at me and i smile, acting normal but inside I’m having a bunch of butterflies.
I tried looking at other guy but i still see him on the side and end up looking at him.
He’s so cute when he smiles.
But he’s more cuter when he look at me.
He’s cute when he’s walking.
Whatever he do is so good in my eyes that makes my heart beat.
It’s cute when I approach him and he acts cold.
Looking at him makes me happy even on the bad days.
I want to treat him like a Moon, im fine on just seeing him far away, and here i am standing looking at the brightest him on my darkest day.
Am i in love? | Crushes |
I am 90 percent certain they show no interest in me. Sure, I’ve only ever actually talked to them the last 3 months or so but even there it’s pretty short.
They have a very obvious crush on another guy who just isn’t getting it either, it’s almost funny seeing him do pickup lines “as a joke” to him.
At the rate it’s going, this crush isn’t going away any time soon but I can try to extinguish this. | Crushes |
I (nb) have had a crush on a boy that goes to my school for a few years now. I’ve never really talked to him, since we’re both super introverted but our parents are friends and we used to play together as little children. He’s graduating this year so I was hoping to get his number or talk to him till then.
I want to clarify that when I say I have a crush on him I do not mean that I stalk him or imagine myself with him or anything like that, I just find him quite attractive and he seems very cool and nice. I must say he’s one of the only people I’ve ever found attractive.
My problem is the following:
A few weeks ago I exchanged numbers with a girl in my school, simply for a school project. Me and her have been texting a lot since then and I think we’re becoming friends. This girl is his sister.
Now I feel like it would be awkward to approach him, since I a)would probably be seen as just a friend of his sister and b)it might seem like I’m using his sister as a connection to get to him, when that’s not the case and I just love talking to her and c)it might get awkward if I get rejected.
I do not need or want to approach him romantically, I’d just love to get to know him since I always found him so cool.
So, should I try to approach him or should I just try to let it go and hope I’ll find someone else I like eventually? | Crushes |
i always have a crush but the problem is, it always ended quickly. Not because of my crush like someone but because i lose interest on them, some of them do made my heart flatter, and they also do made my heart beat faster but somehow after a few weeks that feeling of loving someone is gone and i could only saw them as a friend again.
I sometime thinking "oh, maybe i just want an attention".
Ever since i was a kid, Ive always been like this. Is something wrong with me? Does anyone also have the same problem with me? | Crushes |
I try my best to forget about her. I try to get in my head that she won’t like me, ever. I try to tell myself that she just wants to be friends.
So why won’t my crush for her cease? Why do I get butterflies every time I see her? No matter what I do, I can’t lose this crush. I know it won’t work out, so I need to lose it.
What can I do? | Crushes |
Does it look like they have a crush on you? And would you think they’re weird or be happy about it? | Crushes |
Plz let me know | Crushes |
Since we have animal science class together (our teacher brings in snakes and other animals) I was thinking I could take a picture of him holding a snake and then say something like "Hey if you have your own phone I could send it to you" \*insert stuttering and mumbling and general shyness\* and you have my attempt at being friends first | Crushes |
okay, so i have a crush on this guy for a year now and he's been reallyyy clingy to me (since he is a clingy type of person). He hugs me a lot, but what makes this different is that he starts holding my hand recently. we would link our hands together while we're hanging out alone. and then he starts to wraps his arm around my waist when we rode a bus back home???? i mean, I don't even know if he's being friendly??? damn, am i stupid for not knowing what those mean? 😭 help me pls omg 🥲 | Crushes |
Would a guy that recently changed his profile pic for the first time in months (since we last talked) into one where he's smiling, being online most of the day and texting late until 4 am mean he's in a relationship or it could be something else and they aren't necessarily connected?
We've known each other for years and he's been single last time we talked 5 months ago. I've finally found the courage to ask him out but I'd avoid ruining whatever he has going on.
He's a college student, a gamer and works too for reference.
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I was watching my phone during lunch and noticed the girl I like just opened my snap so I look over at her. She shows all her friends, kinda laughs, and hasn't replied for 11 hours now. I always thought she was the nice one of her group but I guess I was wrong. | Crushes |
Hello
I’ve really liked this girl for almost a year now, we get along really well and all that. She gives the typical signs of attraction in person, the short moments of eye contact you accidentally make with someone you like, being close to me when we’re around, laughing at stupid jokes, being touchy, etc. But she never initiates conversations over text, it’s always me, and when we do have ‘conversations’ over text they’re not really conversations, just a couple of words exchanged. Idk. She barely talks to me over text. It’s all kind of confusing to me. | Crushes |
So I confessed to my crush who I've liked for over a year and all they said was "thanks for letting me know". I just feel so upset/annoyed that they didn't even have the decency to let me down explicitly. I feel like such an idiot for thinking that they liked me back but I guess I misread the signs. I can only hope that they don't tell other people in our college now or I'm screwed... | Crushes |
So you know those signs that people say that if a girl starts touching her hair when talking to you or flipping her hair back or putting her hair behind her ear etc that it means she likes you, What if she doesn’t do that sgould you. If she doesn’t touch her hair nervously or all those other signs related to hair does that mean she doesn’t like you
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I don't understand, In school I always see him staring at me and he goes out of his way to talk to me. On Instagram he does NOT follow me but views my stories. After seeing this I followed him and he has not followed back but continues viewing my stories? I thought if he liked me, but was to shy to follow he might be waiting for me to follow first but no??? I'm so confused right now because I kinda have a crush on him. (Note \*I don't view any of his stories or like any of his posts, so that is why I'm confused as to why he is viewing my stories.) | Crushes |
This work crush I like, he’s very sweet and caring. First time I saw him like that. We had a great day, flirted abit, laughed at his jokes. He went on his break, only to come back all quiet. When the team leader asked him to help with some work, usually he does in it a flash. But he seemed so out of it and it took the boss repeating the question 3 times for it to get through to him, it was a normal request. He’s eyes were watery and it looked like he was holding everything in to not break down, and his voice was shaky but he tried to be his cheerful self and was like “oh yeah, I’m on it”.
I think my other colleagues notice too, I didn’t know how to approach this. Usually I stay back with him and finish the work, but instead I left as soon as I could in a hurry. Why did I do that? I don’t want him to think I don’t care. How would you react? We aren’t close enough to talk about personal things and he’s been reserved since we both started there. | Crushes |
Your gonna have to read the entire thing to understand this post fully, so happy reading. TL;DR will be at the bottom.
So in April of 2022 I went to Washington DC with my school, and on the way back to my town I started talking with this girl, were gonna name here AR. AR was my friends best friend and found me through a snap that my friend, JS, sent her.
We started talking more and more and eventually became best friends for a couple of months, and then started dating when we both realized we liked eachother.
AR and I had one of the best friendships ever, and when we started dating it was literally amazing. She was honestly the most caring and kind person ever and she was always supporting me.
A situation happened before we were dating (mental health/suicide stuff) which I'm not going to get into here for obvious reasons, but because of this I had to stay home for 3 months for my parents to monitor mental health (this was supported by a LEGAL DOCUMENT so I had to follow it) Which meant I could only hangout with her like once a month.
I didnt fully tell her this because I didn't want her to worry or for her dad to think she was dating a suicidal freak.
Because of all this, she took this as i was ignoring her and that I didn't love her, which was far from the truth.
Something that also sucks was that I was loved by her entire family, her brother absolutely loved me and were still friends even now, her younger sister (9) really liked me and I even played with her on roblox a few times, and even her 'twin' liked me bc I wasn't like a druggie lmao. Her dad loved me because I did so much and was a nice guy and her mom liked me because I was so involved haha.
And we tried to be friends after but her new bf says no and tells her she can't which I get cuz I'm the Ex but like, you should still keep old friendships imo.
Anyways, this is where the hellstorm comes in.
I started to get messages everyday about "AR is happier without you", "AR never loved you", and "AR Never loved you, kys"
After awhile of getting these, whoever was sending it REACHED OUT TO MY JOB and started harassing them, because of this I ended up getting demoted (making 8k per year to 2k) and I lost my leauge scholarship.
This crap has been so annoying and has been effecting me mentally and emotionally and has been killing me.
TL;DR: Dated my best friend, she broke up, her friends have been harassing me/harassing my job causing me to get demoted and lose a scholarship. | Crushes |
I wonder why | Crushes |
i invited him to come to my birthday at build a bear, i dont expect anything to happen but i can't wait to be able to see him face to face. im gonna get my color refreshed and everything 🥺💕 | Crushes |
She gives me all these hints. She trys to impress me. She always is extremely polite to me. I still can't do shit she's about to leave for a month and if I don't get her snap we'll I'm fucked. | Crushes |
Would a guy that recently changed his profile pic for the first time in a few months pic into one where he's smiling, being online most of the day and texting late until 4 am mean he's in a relationship or it could be something else and they aren't necessarily connected?
We've known each other for years and he's been single last time we talked 5 months ago. I've finally found the courage to ask him out but I'd avoid ruining whatever he has going on.
He's a college student, a gamer and works too for reference. | Crushes |
h o w | Crushes |
1. he's funny
2. he doesn't think I'm weird like most other people
3. he actually listens to my jokes (and just in general)
4. his sister is really nice too (I don't think it counts but whatever)
5. he has a similar music taste to me
6. I feel really light and dizzy when we have class together, like I'm about to pass out
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there are a bunch more but these are just the main ones. good luck everyone! | Crushes |
I remember on picture day i was about to take a photo, this blonde was just watching me getting my photo taken and i got nervous and i was looking back at her. I creeped her out she touched her hair and looked somewhere else. I felt shaky inside and i was worried others will see it. I got up from the seat cuz i thought the camera man finished and the camera man got mad and said “what are you doing i’m not done” I was embarrassed cuz it was obvious that i was nervous.
The worst part is that honestly i look like i have problems and i hate it I’m not normal and i wish i could be. i went up to class and my aquitance asked what was wrong i said nothing.
I think that girl was in my class and told my aquitances that i’m werid. Anyways i think this is the reason those girls and group of guys took my seat away and made there friend sit on my seat and they all ignored me when i knocked on the door and didn’t bother opening it for me. I now wear a hoodie and i think they know now that i’m a insecure freak. Those people hate my aquitances for no reason and it’s probably cuz of me. And i think i saw that same girl yesterday just smiling at me with a laughing face like she thinks i’m werid as shit | Crushes |
I've been crushing on this guy Humberto but just stopped and now I like this other guy in my math class, Mickey. Just for background info I'm a shy girl but have really confident, popular friends. I was mirroring on my friend who casually tells anyone who ask, her crush. Whenever someone asked, (like 3 people) I'd tell them Humberto. But for like a month now they'd say "no she like Humberto." And I have to correct them that I like Mickey. Although, I never told one of my male best friends any of my crushes. Do today Humberto was getting yelled at and my best friend said "your boyfriend is getting yelled at"... I freaked. I asked how he knew and he just said that he can read my mind 🧍♀️ | Crushes |
Okay, I M23 have a huge crush on this girl at my uni, I have not had a crush this serious bcuz back in the day I would just not interact with any of my crushes but with this one, i try to talk to her, every opportunity I get I try to seat next to her, I try to be in the same group as her for every volunteer thing we do (we volunteer at the same place at uni), when ever I'm walking around campus Im always looking for her. So we had a one on one conversation after class and I got her IG. I was so happy at that moment when I got her IG and was the happiest day I had in weeks. I'm never been in a relationship and I rarely talk to girls so getting that IG made me so happy and I was thinking about her all month long. Like I couldn't eat, sleep or even study for my exams, this girl was on my mind 24/7. After getting her IG we parted ways bcuz she had to go to class, so I sat down at a quiet place on campus and got a notification that she accepted my follow rqst and rqsted to follow me. When I went to check out her ig profile, the first pic I saw was her and her boyfriend. I was devasted and just couldn't think of anything. My heart broke to pieces . Now I wanna move on but I don't know how. Thinking about this girl has affected my sleep, nowadays I cant even eat a meal, depressed, when i ever i look at other girls I'm not interested at all. I need to move on bcuz she has a bf, but i don't know how to move on, please lmk.
ldr: how do i move on from my crush after finding out she has bf?
I'm not sure if this is the right sub, if not please lmk where i should post this. | Crushes |
This guy I like this, it's hard to understand him. He's naturally a very outgoing person, talks to everyone in any grade if he has classes with them, and is not afraid to start a conversation. The first conversation we had was normal for him, Very outgoing and goofy. Each conversation started to change, the next time he would act funny but caring. after a few chats he started to not even try to be the slightest bit silly. Just worried about if I was ok, he would be overprotective of me if I hurt my finger or hit my head; He would be constantly asking if I was hurt or injured. When we weren't forced to talk to each other I would constantly catch him looking at me. We've made eye contact many times and smiled, just being friendly. The problem is that he's gone shy. The most outgoing person I've ever met is now shy to me and only me. He's still the same friendly, lovable, hilarious person, just not to me. If I trip in the halls or hurt myself in the littlest way possible he flinches but still doesn't do anything. All he does is eye contact. I have two questions, A. does he like me and B. how should I talk to him again so we can be friends? | Crushes |
In the past, I used to see her every day, but I ran. I hid my emotions because I was afraid they would make me look like a simp. I thought ignoring her would help me develop myself and make her like me better like in the past with other people I liked, but I had so many regrets this summer, wondering why I never had the balls to get to know her better, even though we were already on good terms.
Now we are further apart, but live close. I don't know if I should even try to pursue her. I realize the problem now is I did not live in the present. But she is a part of my past now although I still love her. I want to get over her, but if I try to, will I run into the same vicious cycle again of not doing what I wanted? | Crushes |
How embarassing crushes are. He's not super good looking and idk about his personality because we've never "spoken"(we've spoken but very briefly). But there's something about him, maybe its his hair or his cheeks that seem forever flushed or maybe it's great taste in music or his long legs. But god damn since Wednesday I cant think straight. I glanced at him sometimes at that concert and I couldn't help agree with my friends. He is gl. Ofc i didn't say this outloud because im embarassed to talk abt crushes with my friends. And of couse i didnt ask him if he wanted to stand with me at the concert again because im stupid. I didnt try and im so mad at myself for that. He's in so many of my classes I need to try . And even after this year I'll glow up and see him at the next concert and then maybe something will happen. God I hope. I've never felt this way. I've never felt this yearning for someone. I used to think I was devoid of romantic feelings, that the years of being undesirable had completely ruined my brain. But no , why now, why not back a few years ago when maybe had I put some effort in would I have had a chance. Also side note he def doesn't like me. From the fact he unadded me from sc to the fact I have a sneaky suspicion he likes my friend who is gorg. I on the other hand am not bad looking but the best looking. Lol sorry if this is incoherent | Crushes |
So I asked out my crush on Wednesday and completely forgot about updating, anyway she said she likes me back however she want to wait like 2 weeks to actually officially date (I suppose to get more comfortable around each other) anyway I am happy | Crushes |
The first interaction I had w my crush is when I bumped into her in accident like the first or second week of school and I turned around and told her she can go head and she like was acting awkward kinda like nervous a bit and then like she always like stands away from me like if she needs to get somewhere she’ll go the long way instead of going near me or if I’m in her way she won’t say excuse me she’ll just wait until I realize and these are things I do bc like she makes me nervous and I’m like am I delusional or lmao not a real question but yk I’m js this in case anyone else makes these observations too. Oh yeah and it doesn’t help that we’ve made eye contact a couple times and we don’t even speak lol | Crushes |
A hour ago I texted my crush I like him and he responded with that he doesn’t feel the same. My friend is convinced that he likes me with all of his flirting and such. She even told
Me that she is going to talk to him tomorrow about it. But I feel really really good about doing this. If there is a update I will tell y’all. | Crushes |
Okay so there’s this guy and we’re pretty decent friends. We’re both apart of this big friend group and I really like him, and honestly, it seems like there’s enough evidence to say he may also like me back.
* Smiles, Waves, and a look of happy surprise when we see each other, unexpected or not.
* Talks about things we’re passionate about
* Reassuring one another
* Playful banter
* DM’s responding to social media posts
* I told him where I worked and recommended it, a few weeks later and he works with me now. (He comes and talks to me on his breaks)
* We also play video games with some friends and I’ve been feeling like he’s been talking to me specifically a lot while playing.
Seems hopeful right? Well then why the other night was he talking about how he got a girls snap and didn’t know what to say? I don’t think I’m typically his type physically either (just from looking at his past relationships) which is why I’m so unsure. Why would he be actively flirting with girls who are “his type” if he liked me?
It’s not like we’re just close friends, because we’re not super close, we’re friends yes but I wouldn’t consider us on the level of friendship where the things listed above are seen as the status quo or normal. I dunno, I just want another opinion. | Crushes |
I have graduated this summer and due to really
bad depression and anxiety I have not had a job yet which makes me feel like I'm not worth my crush's time. He's responsible, has a job and continuing his masters degree meanwhile I'm struggling to build confidence to get out there.
He's always been nice and sweet to me and I have a gut feeling that he likes me too, I just don't want to drag him down. Honestly I just want to confess because these feelings have been accumulating for 4 years and it has gotten to a point where they're a distraction to my mental health.
Should I start texting him and let him know now so I don't have any regrets? | Crushes |
I think I fell in love with a girl, I literally just saw her Instagram profile. Her profile isn't even very active, it only has 2 pictures, but I think she's the most beautiful person I've ever seen, and she likes the same things I do. she lives in another country and speaks another language, literally no chance of making it work, but it doesn't get out of my head a minute of my day, the last 2 months I just think about her. I really want to start a conversation, but I'm afraid of sounding crazy. why am i like this? | Crushes |
I wear glasses all the time and I remove it for a few minutes. My other classmate in the room talked to me at a long distance and I laugh at what he was telling me while eye smiling and this guy and his friends is looking at my direction I stare back at them with a serious face tho I can't see their faces lol. This guy suddenly approach me for the first time borrowing my notes and he's not looking at me in the eyes but to the side. Our native language is Tagalog but he's speaking English so I'm smiling while he's speaking. I can tell that he's nervous..The other day , he's talking at his friend but he look behind to stare directly at me and his friend does the same. Also, when I'm focused staring at the tv screen which is in the same direction as him, he's there but I didn't notice that he's staring at me. I started to feel that someone is staring at me so i stare back and it's him. He doesn't leave until he catch my stare after that I look away lol. He does walk near me and stand near me sometimes like 2 meters or sometimes breaking my personal space. He is also loud than usual loud that I can hear his voice from afar he is sharing story about his family to his friends near him but I can hear his voice because it's loud . And if the teacher says something bad about youth nowadays, he will say that he's not like that as if he's trying to impress me, Im sitting behind him that day...The other time, I'm outside the room with my friend we went to comfort room and it took me a long time to leave because there's many girls inside. Supposedly only my friend has to wait for me outside. But he's also there as if he waiting for me too.. We all enter class at the same time. We're late and he's late. | Crushes |
I’ve been noticing this guy glancing at me every time I pass him between classes and have questioned if he has some sort of attraction to me.
I remember being in a class with him last year but we have never spoken to each other. He’s very quiet and shy similar to myself, which I think is why I want to get to know him more.
I don’t see him everyday except for the occasional glance but I’ve thought of sending him a note anonymously with a message hinting that I like him. But then, I wish he would make the first move.
Once again, He’s very shy so I feel like if I indicate returned feelings, then he would be comfortable with making the first move. What should I do? | Crushes |
Has anyone here got to the part where u confess and ask your crush out? | Crushes |
So like, for context..
One fine day I decided to delete all of the stories that showed my face on my instagram account (there were only two photos lol and even then i was wearing a mask in both of them) because I decided, hey, I don't really feel that it's necessary to have any photos out for people to see. One, because I just wanted to follow through with my religion a little more by keeping myself even more lowkey and two, because the only person I really want to have seeing my face is just my lovely muse and wanted to, in my own way, show my sincerity for one person and respect that by keeping myself out of the public view.
(That and I never really liked posting myself to begin with LOL)
Now onto to the part that I think is quite funny.
You see, about a day or so after I did that, my crush deleted all of his posts.
(All of them were just photos of himself)
And like, you might be asking, how do I know?
Well you know, I like to drop by on his account every now and then just to see if he's posted something new.
No, no I do not go through his follow list like some crazy chick who fumes at the sight of people in there LMAO don't misunderstand me
But the main point is that it's so,, coincidental,, that I just can't help but wonder if he either chose to follow along with what I did or if he planned to do that and just happened to do it around the same time period that I decided to do so.
(This happens a lot for some reason lol, somehow both of us happen to align at times)
But like, throughout the entire period of time that i've followed him, his posts just kept on adding up every once in awhile.
He hardly had much on his account when I first followed a few months ago and it kept on adding and adding until this happens.
Now, call me a strange unnecessarily observant person but this is how I percieve most things in life LMAO
I think it's a nice little coincidence, what's your input on it? | Crushes |
We have been friends for over a year now, and she is very comfortable around me. How do i know if she only sees me as a good friend or like me. What are things girls do when they like saomeone. | Crushes |
So I've already settled on what I'm actually getting her for Christmas (mainly art stuff - She is really into drawing) but I also plan on writing a card (I was also advised to make a card and not buy one)
But the main issue is I'm really bad at writing cards, I did a few drafts and the first felt way too formal and the second was ok at first but ended in me bluntly confessing my love haha...
I don't think I need to write much but I'd like to get across that I really appreciate her being in my life and her just being so nice in general but I also don't want to be blatantly obvious about how I feel.
Any help with this issue would be greatly appreciated and any extra stuff I could do/say to her would be awesome! - And again, thanks to any people who answer. | Crushes |
So there’s this guy in my history class, who i’ve never spoken to, but we do see each other while going to our classes, but for the last 3 weeks, he’s been saying hi to me and bye, when he sees me, also on Wednesday, he was in class before me and he gave me a paper for bellwork, my friend says he likes me, but i just think he’s being friendly towards me, and anyways i have a crush on this dude already. | Crushes |
This is a long text, but i need you to read this.
Hello, this is my first time sharing a post on r/crushes, And im canadian (im in quebec so i speak french). I hate writing stuff, and im only sharing this post because i don't know what to do.
I (m14) fell in love with her (f13) months ago, and she has been talking to me ever since she noticed that her locker was next to mine. I know she likes me, i mean, its really obvious, she compliments me even when im bad, she keeps saying that im smart and she laughs a lot around me. But the problem is that i suck. I never complimented her or did something like she does to me.
Im a big nerd. But not the type of nerd that you see in movies. Yes, i have good grades, but im not like those ugly-ass nerds in the movies. No, im a real nerd coming from the real world.
I really like computers and programming (actual programming, not baby stuff like scratch), and im very mature compared to my class (i fell in the worst class ever, like seriously, i feel like im in a group of 5 years old)
She does Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (i have no idea what that is) and she often talks about it. She has a beautiful voice / laugh and we are both really similar. Event if i tried i could never find anything bad about her (i mean, she likes pineaples on pizza but that's fine, its not that bad). But yeah she's just the perfect girl that i could ever wish for.
So like i said earlier, we've been talking to eachother for months, and she really seem to like me, but i never go and talk to her, but its not because i can't talk to girls, its just that i can't find any conversation ideas / excuses to be with her (The only time where i talk to her is when we're in the sport class thingy, cuz we're in the same basket team) And because of that, she probably think that i don't like her. I feel bad, cuz she tried so many things, but i just suck with this. I can't progress, that's my problem. I missed so many opportunities, but i screwed all of them.
I know, its stupid, but im just trying to make her notice me without the class knowing, cuz if its too obvious, everyone is gonna annoy me with this forever.
Also, Christmas is coming, and i want to give her something, but as always i don't know what. Idk what's going on, but normally im way more creative than that, its probably because of stress. Money is not a problem for me so i can get her basicaly what i want. In fact, she already asked me for money multiple times, and i feel like a simp. Is being a simp bad ? Idk.
So yeah, any ideas or advice ? Im probably just overthinking. I mean, i always overthink everything for no reason, so maybe spending 30min on this text was just not worth it. If you actualy read all of this, then bravo, you just wasted your time reading a 5 billion characters long text of a man who doesn't know what he's doing. Pls help me im low-key going insane.
Maybe i will post some updates later, but now i need to rest. | Crushes |
I am finally cutting him out of my life I’ve been keeping occupied lately about getting started with my small business I don’t really care no more but the problem is I go back to my hometown soon and I have to go back to my old house and I used to live around the corner from him and I don’t really wanna see him I mean would I be glad if he wanna talk to me and clear things up I mean I’ll probably start cussing and yelling but other then that I’ll be fine cause I’m just there for one day and I’m coming back home he broke me that’s fine I’m a strong warrior at heart and knows my worth I also brung down some barriers around my heart so it can be easier for me to grow feelings again | Crushes |
Basically I have a bit of a crush on this guy… we’ve not spoken much at all, like barely but yesterday (our last class together, we only had one class together and it ended yesterday) we spoke a bit about our courses etc. I’m third year and he’s a post grad, so it’s not like we have a lot in common or are course mates or that.
His full name is on our module online hub thing so I just looked for it on ig and think I found him. I’m not planning on acting on the crush but yeah.
Basically wanna know if it’s creepy to request people you don’t really know that well from classes. I don’t want him to be like “oh she’s stalking me”or find me weird or something lol
Thanks! | Crushes |
ok so in class I talk to my crush a lot and he talks to me a lot also. Does it mean anything if the only person he really talks or turns to in class is me? He doesn’t even sit at my table, and has friends at his table, but he turns really only to me to make comments and jokes and such. Even when he’s talking to other people he makes eye contact with me. we’ve also gotten in the habit of walking out of class together (usually just us two) until I go into my next class. But anyway yea 😟 | Crushes |
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