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I don't know if it's weird because I like them, but is it really that weird?? I'm sitting here talking to them, AND THEY ARE SO CUTE, AND I WANT TO TELL THEM, but I'm afraid it'll be too weirddddddddd
AhhhhhhhhhhhAAAAA | Crushes |
I don’t know if he’s into me or just nice. He seems like an outgoing person who loves to talk. Every time I notice him looking at me, he looks away swiftly. When I walk towards class, his eyes seem to follow me and linger on my body. He doesn’t smile much so I dunno, maybe I’m just imagining things.
I’m a very shy person and don’t talk a lot unless someone initiates conversation.
He also complimented my Skyrim T-shirt when we first met. Today he became my lab partner (we’re a group of 4) and I noticed that he was mimicking my actions. I like to hum when I’m really engrossed in a task and I noticed him mimic it a little later but then the other guy in my group did it too so I don’t know what to make of it….
When I cracked my knuckles, he did it too. He doesn’t talk directly to me much but he was very conversational with the other guy in our group, talking about his cool high school experiences and gaming. Some of it sounded a bit braggy too.
He knows I like gaming but I couldn’t really join them because it felt intrusive.
And as soon as the lab ended, he legit bolted out the door before I could say something.
I think he’s very cute but I don’t know if he’s into me. What do y’all think? | Crushes |
I’m a freshman in college who recently joined a music program and on the first day, the upperclassmen were assigned to walk people home to their dorms. Well, I get assigned to this one guy we’ll call Jared. For some reason, I’m the only person of the program who lives in that dorm so Jared and I were the only ones walking together while everyone else got these big groups.
We talked about classes and where we were from and I couldn’t help but fall for his kind eyes and dreamy smile. I knew he was just being friendly but I couldn’t help it. The next day, I decided to do some research and noticed on his social media he has his banner with him and another girl posing and thought well dang, I guess that’s his girlfriend. I moved on and for a couple of weeks I sorta just lived life.
Fast forward to today, there’s a music sorority/fraternity social and Jared also happened to be a part of one of those groups. Multiple upperclassmen of those groups socialized with the freshman including me, and Jared happened to approach me as well. We talked about classes even more and I realized we had a lot more in common than I thought. Once again, I’m sure he’s just being friendly but I decided to double check if he was really single or not again.
Turns out, the girl on his social media is just his friend and she’s in a relationship with someone else. Okay, maybe he is single because why wouldn’t you put your girlfriend on social media when the only girl there is his friend? Then again, I know for a fact he’s just a nice guy and sees me nothing more than a little sister. If that’s the case, so be it, I’m glad that I made a new friend. :) | Crushes |
You tell me and I’ll reply with something too :) | Crushes |
Today in my history class we were doing a break and all of a sudden I heard that that this short, really mean kid was planning to ask out my crush, I was fuming. Because he was well, a jerk but I just couldn't help but think what if she said ,yes? Then she would be dating a short jerk who constantly has middle finger battles. So now I only have this weekend to ask her out and so I've been looking at videos on how to ask her out but I just don't have the guts... what do I do in this situation?
TL ;DR Kid has a weekend to ask out crush before a sports kid asks her out | Crushes |
Follow up info I’m in the 8th grade and I’ve had a crush on this friend for over and just this year I feel she starting to like me back.she has started giving me nicknames and she invited me to her quinceanera(15 bday) it is an important event.she hid behind me the other day while we were joking with a friend so I’m just not sure abt the body language | Crushes |
I've posted about it before but I melted last second from her being cute so I need help what tf do I do to get the conversation in the direction of asking her out and what should I do or say to boost my odds | Crushes |
this feels strange to talk about but atp I just need help. i (16F) met this guy who goes to my school at a summer camp this year. he's truly a nice and smart person, attractive, and has interesting hobbies (writing, engineering, etc.) I do have some romantic feelings but I've really just been trying to be his friend. so im initiating conversations and shit and sometimes he responds after an hour and sometimes a few days. two nights ago after a school football game I felt discouraged that he might not fw me because of my weight or something, but then he texted me at 11 talking about some of the stuff that happened at the game and was responding so fast, it felt like a genuine conversation and I was excited but he kind of just ended the convo after 10 minutes and said goodnight. I wanted to continue the momentum yk so I texted him this morning about a book he recommended and he hasn't texted me back all day, and he's been active on IG all day and seen all my stories so I really don't know how to react or how to go forward I guess? If anyone wants to talk about this PLSSS message me | Crushes |
It wasn’t like a wolf whistle just a low calm whistle as a bird does or something..
This also happened after I grabbed his hand to look at his new watch (totally a move I made to flirt 🤣😭) | Crushes |
this is so (sort of) unrelated so I'll probably delete this a bit later but who is this god of the sub? | Crushes |
Update.So earlier today I complimented a girl I’m into and she seemed to take it well. I was extremely nerve wracked ab it but I feel it went well. So far I’ve given a compliment. What should I do next? Like introduce myself? Give more compliments etc? | Crushes |
I told her when she was with some of friends today I was playing with my friends but really wanted to get this over with this week (was planning to do it on Monday properly) so while I was playing I decided to check if she was outside the cafeteria so I went to go tell her and she said ok I kind of did make it short as I just wanted to get it it out of head and yeah. Her friends were like wait what did you say so I repeated it louder and a bit more confident to which the friend next to her said she was dating them to which I said cool good for you and kinda just slowly walked away then gradually bolted back to my friend. So anyway what do now
Edit: I now realize I completely fumbled the bag what was she supposed to say other than ok aaaaaaa I need to come back with a stronger better approach | Crushes |
I feel like the luckiest man alive rn. Today was the second day of school for me and in 7th hour something amazing happened. As students walked in the teacher pointed to them at where they were sitting. Yesterday I sat by my friends and it’s a class of about 30 people so I didn’t notice my crush was in the class. So today 2 random girls sat on each side of the row of tables I was at. Then, my crush walked in the room, went up to the girl sitting on the side of me and said “I’m pretty sure that this is where my assigned seat is.” Then, the teacher came into the class and verified that it was where she was supposed to sit and I felt so much joy. God dammit Is that class ever fun. I hate language arts but it’s fun when you get put next to your crush and your friends are sitting behind you. This year is going way better than last year. Last year I went through a huge mental crysis but with lots of therapy I was able to get better and now I can talk again without being overwhelmed with anxiety and having bad thoughts | Crushes |
Context:
Me (almost 16yo male) and this girl (lets call her Maria as an example, 14yo) met summer 2021 and we got to know each other a bit and exchange numbers as friends, but i fell in love with her. Me and my cousin(14yo male, lets call him Joe) have always been close friends since we were like 5. I noticed he also had a crush on her. This summer i got way closer to her, and i told her how i feel but she said she liked me as a friend. Now that she thinks i don't like her anymore (when i really do), she told me he likes Joe.
Joe has become an assh\*le in the last year out of nowhere, and always treats her like she isn't worth anything but for some reason she likes him back (he doesn't know she likes him).
He hurt her multiple times emotionally to the point of giving her su\*\*\*dal thoughts and literally passing out and having multiple panic attacks at night because of depression (i've ALWAYS been there to help her when she felt like this).
5 days ago they argued and they haven't texted each other again yet. First 3-4 days she felt extremely depressed like i said above again. Today has been better but u can see she isn't fine. I've always talked to her and helped her vent her feelings and i gave her advice.
I know he is definitely a person she should avoid at all costs for her own mental health but she keeps thinking he will change back to how he was before, when really he is just changing for the worse.
It really hurts me seeing her like this, and it hurts even more knowing that the person doing this to her is my COUSIN, someone who has always been like a brother to me until a couple months ago.
I'm extremely close to her, we talk every day 5+ hours every day and we never run out of arguments to talk about and our chats are very entertaining in general, u don't find someone who can conversate like this often, same sense of humor, similar hobbies, etc. We both trust each other a LOT.
My problem is that, well, i really really like her, i'm deeply in love with her.
I don't know what to do, i just feel empty inside, like, i know we would most likely be very happy together, but i don't think she likes me like that, also i hate to say this but i'm very jealous of joe, and i think if i ever saw them together it would really damage my friendship with her because of me not being able to look at her without feeling depressed or without my heart aching, and its just emotional torture for me at this point.
There is no guarantee they will get together, i've tried to warn her about how he will 100% hurt her again more and more each time like he always does, but she said he just can't help it, and if he texts her first then she will probably respond and they will start repeating what already happened in the past.
I just don't know what to do at this point, i don't want to lose my friendship with her, but i would like there to be something more than friendship between us. | Crushes |
Today in school it was dress as your favorite character day. Went to class and saw her with very cute outfit what look like it was based on waluigi. I couldn't stop thinking about it. I have to talk to her it was the perfect situation to do it. I was planning the way i was going to approach her in my head during class. Class finished was 5 minutes till the bell rings. I get my stuff about to walk up to her then some guy closer to her got their first said about the same thing I was going to say, she had a good reaction and they continued talking. After their convo, I saw no reason to go approach her because the other guy already said what I was going to say. Class ended walked away to my next class, thinking in my head "Fuck!" Rest of the day I was just pissed on myself on how stupid I am and kept thinking about the other guy ruined my plan when it isn't his fault. | Crushes |
Ok so I confessed to my crush and now we’re dating. Should I hold hands with him? He said he wanted to yesterday but didn’t have enough balls to lol.
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/x4fzug) | Crushes |
I have very low hopes for anything to possibly happen. We are so different that at this point, the “opposites attract” theory is just completely impossible in my case. Though I will absolutely admit, I haven’t pursued it at all. As I said in my last post, we have 3 classes together. I have talked to them a total of 4 or so times. I haven’t entirely given up hope but the future looks dim. We do still have an ENTIRE school year together while sharing at least 1 class the entire time.
I feel as if it’s just impossible… | Crushes |
How do you get over a crush you know that it's not gonna happen? Like, no way at all? I don't want to feel this weird weight around them. I love them, sure, but I know it's not gonna end up in a relationship. So, how to get over that? | Crushes |
Sorry I've been posting a lot in here, but my brain is very overwhelmed. I really like my crush, and he's done so many things to make me think he likes me too. It's gotten to the point where he's the last thing I think about before going to sleep, and the first thing I think about when I wake up. He's so nice and funny, I really want to tell him how I feel.
The problem is, he's 22 and my shift lead, and I'm only almost 18 (in like two weeks). Even when I turn 18, it'd still be weird to tell him because of our work situation, because I'm 98% sure shift leads and baristas can't date. And what if he doesn't like me and I'm misinterpreting all the signs? Then work will be super awkward.
And then there's this other person, I'll call her M, who's also a shift lead and a few years older than my crush. M and my crush get along really well, and they're always joking together, my crush likes talking to her, and it makes me upset. I hate that it does, because if they do like each other, I should just be happy for them right?
But then I'm confused, because my crush really seems to like me; almost everyone I tell says it's super obvious. We have literally everything in common, and he almost always makes jokes about not wanting me to leave. On the other hand, he acts really goofy around other people (weird dancing to music and things like that), but he doesn't do those things with me. He's a lot calmer and quieter around me.
Every moment with him feels so special, though. I don't know what to do, this is all so confusing. | Crushes |
So, I've liked this girl for a while now, about 9 months and during that time, we've only been friends. I'm an introverted guy so I get really, really nervous when I see her. I turn really red even though I barely look at her, all it takes is her aura to make me blush.
Most of the time, she's with her friends. She's very friend-associated and kind of an ambivert. So I try not to intervene during those times because honestly, I wouldn't want her to get teased because she's even told me, she gets uncomfortable.
On the other hand, sometimes I see her alone. I wanna talk to her, I REALLY DO! But my brain panics and ignores the fact that this is a perfect moment but you'll mess up something!
We've shared some moments together like, this one time, we went ice skating, She slipped and I caught her. I look at her around school and we both notice each other but we don't make eye-contact although we KNOW we just saw each other. She's called me her best guy friend. I've drawn her a couple times and showed her but I've also bought her something last Valentine's Day.
It was small since I didn't wanna spend too much on her since I only liked her. I gave her a letter telling her how I feel and some other stuff and she well, she said she wanted to stay friends. The saddest part is that I had so much support. My cousins, friends, siblings, even her family were cheering for me! But, she didn't feel the same way.
It got pretty awkward from there, I've tried to talk to her but I just get too scared on if I'm not gonna get the answer I'm hoping for. Sometimes I feel like she might like me but she barely shows anything so I just get confused every time.
She also doesn't show any interest in relationships. She doesn't care about them because one time, she said on her story, "Why care about someone when they don't care about you back?" So I was like...What? Is she traumatized or something? Because I've shown that I've cared for 9 months!
Anyways, I need much help. **How do I build enough courage to talk to her?** Should I really move on? Why is my heart like this? How should I approach her after what has happened? Why can't she see the bigger picture? **What should I do so that she doesn't see me as a friend so much?** | Crushes |
Sooo, I'm still a bit shocked - he said he crushed on me since the first day of school saying he found me cute.
On the third day, introductions came - I introduced myself, and said that I liked to draw, and we had to showcase some talents (for me, I sang), and then we moved om to the next person (we had to present: our name, nickname, dreams and talents).
I think that's when he got more interested, he said he found my smile cute and eyes pretty, and also that he thought my drawing(s) was/were cool, and that I had a nice voice.
On the third day of school, he asked what the topic will be for science (in our class group chat), I responded and he hearted my message - three of our classmates began teasing him, I was a bit confused since it was only the third day + this was like, our first interaction (?). At the time, I didn't know he had a crush on me - so that was what seemed like to me.
One of the classmates (out of three) that teased him, said this (before he confessed): "He actually does have a crush on you, he said he liked your smile and eyes."
I didn't believe her, since he was like the jokester of our class, often times embarassing himself so our classmates could have a good laugh.
One time, we were walking home together (along with two other classmates, the two (out of three) that teased him), those two pointed out a girl they used to be classmates with - and she was walking with her friends, he suddenly went, "Hi." and later said "Do you remember me?" TO A POLICE.
So yeah, that's a context of why I didn't believe my classmate, another is that - this is my first confession, I have never been confessed to before, I'm nervous since I don't know what this means and what I'll do when it's monday again.
I tried to reject him as kindly as possible, but he understood why I didn't return his feelings and said that I don't owe him any feelings, we ended up talking for 2hrs straight and he said he'd like to get to know me more and that I'm nice to talk to.
He actually wanted to confess in person, but didn't find any courage to do so (he was quite scared, since I seemed like a "serious" person to all of our class (in reality, I'm just awkward like my body language)).
And honestly? I still found that courageous, since it's been only two weeks of school.
And well, he did say he wanted to get to know me more - but I'm a bit worried how I'll handle this once monday comes (he confessed through chat friday night), not only we've known each other for two weeks + he's also my seatmate.
So uh, **how do I handle this?** I think I succeeded on rejecting him without invalidating his feelings. I'm just worried of what our first interaction would be at school after this. | Crushes |
I posted about this before but now that I've calmed down, I'm not sure I read the situation right.
I emailed her, she emailed back and this was part of it "I had lots of fun last night and can't wait to see you next week! :)" talking about a work thing and our next shift together. I read this part as "I'm flirting with you" but now I'm seeing it as "I'm saying this as a friend."
I caught her looking at me a bunch during the work thing earlier this week and she's always happy to see me but I don't know if she's into me (I'm female too). | Crushes |
Have a crush on my best friend's brother, and I feel like I'm screwed. If my friend finds out, it'll be a death sentence. If my crush finds out, it'll probably be awkward and I'll also be screwed. I don't know if he's straight or not, and if I ask he'll know. I'm taking a risk posting this as well, because I don't know he has reddit or if reddit has "find contacts" or whatever. | Crushes |
So today he texted me, "Is it an insecurity if you're happy about it?"
I replied "No", not really thinking the whole thing through :')
Him: Ok
Me: Why?
Him: That means I only have 20 insecurities
Me: 20?
Him: Yeah
Me: You can talk to me about it if you ever want to
He didn't respond yet 😭 | Crushes |
I had walked into a room with my aunt, And sitting there when I walked in was this guy on his phone. A couple seconds after I walked in he looked up and set his phone down. I didn't think much of it so then sat down in between my aunt and this other guy, Next thing I know he starts looking over the head and shoulders of the guy I was sat next to to look at me. We end up getting sat next to each other by my aunt since he was the kid of my aunts longtime friend, He gets back on his phone after that. But I notice he kept on mimicking whatever I did. I would fiddle around, he would. I would check my phone, He would. I would shake my leg, He would. I know that all may seem small and silly but I have heard mimicking body language can be a good sign.
Am I just overthinking cause I want him to be interested or is he actually interested? | Crushes |
I’m (F,20) crushing on my close friend (M,20) of 2 years who recently got out of a long-term relationship that ended horribly.
I’ve never hit on him or flirted with him or anything bc I honor our friendship. I haven’t really gotten hints from him that he may be interested in me too, but here are the signs I got from him so far (if you can call them signs lol):
1. Every time we see each other, we give each other the biggest hugs. They’re kind of long and our cheeks touch for awhile or we’ll sometimes sway from side to side while doing it. When I went to see him the other day for the first time in months, I ran and jumped into his arms and he carried me for a bit which was exciting xD
2. He always tells me he loves me before we say goodbye after hanging out. The other day when we went in for a hug he said “see you, love”, which he never said to me before. To be fair, he’s pretty affectionate with his other friends, but when he “flirts” with them, he does so in a way that’s very obvious that he’s joking with them. Until that day, he hasn’t done so with me, and the way he said this to me sounded pretty genuine but idk.
3. We FaceTimed each other almost every week this past summer, which I think was his idea to make it that frequent. No matter how busy he seems to be, I've noticed that he always tries to make time for me, even if it's only half an hour or so.
4. I was drew a pic of us hugging (I’m an artist, so I like to draw my friends a lot as my muses lol). When I snapped him my sketch, he took a screenshot of it and said, “awww, I MISSED YOU TOO!” (This was also over the summer). He’s complimented my art a few times actually, which I post often on my ig.
5. He seems to remember the little details of our conversations, stuff I don’t even remember telling him sometimes, like something to do with my family or my plans for stuff. He’s always been a great listener tho.
Tbh, I don’t even think he knows what he wants when it comes to relationships. I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship, I don’t want another situationship, I don’t want to force anything on us, and I’m not even sure if he likes me back. Do you think he might like me, or am I overthinking it? | Crushes |
I put on a hoodie of one of my favorite music artists (NF), and as I was walking by he said, "[name]! Is that an NF hoodie?" I said yeah, so he said "I love NF! The Search, am I right?" Then later I was doing school work and he came up and said, "Hey Nate, how's life?" (Lyrics to an NF song) and we both said the next part. Did I fall farther? *Perhaps* | Crushes |
bc i have lol.
my crush posted a video of them complaining that only 2 people complimented them for a snap the posted (basically fishing for compliments)
it was so embarrassing and is kind of an ick lol
oh another thing, i hate crushing on people with no personality !!
like how are you hot but boring ? | Crushes |
So for context, we are in the same class and we've talked before so it's not like we've never spoken or don't even know each other, but truth be told. Ever since I've realized that I like him talking to him seems impossible. (unless I'm slightly intoxicated but that is very obviously not a solution). Also, he doesn't show any signs of being interested but I'd at least like to be friends if I'm honest.
So he's been sick which means I haven't seen him in school in a week. I've sent him some school-related stuff but we don't really text at all..
So.. Is i t weird to...
1. say hi, smile or wave when he comes back even tho i wasn't doing that before
2. mention something that he lost, and i know he found it, and will probably be wearing it and i know the story of how he lost it.. aka say "oh so you found that" (not in that exact way)
3. mention a mutual friend we have but I've only recently realized that we know each other (me and the mutual are quite close)
4. ask him to come to a club we once talked about and i go to
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any other suggestions are appreciated! | Crushes |
So me and my crush were in assigned groups and we were in the same group, i was like “oh, perfect opportunity to talk to her”, dawg i got no rizz, it was awkward the whole time we both didn’t know what to say, i got her ig but I don’t think I got it in a nice way, kinda awkward but i manned up and did what Reddit told me to do so yeah, first impression didnt go as good as I wanted it to | Crushes |
My crush is pure sunshine... This isn't just my slightly in-love self speaking... Everyone just naturally gravitates towards him! I'm pretty sure he doesn't even realize it happens. When he's sick everyone asks where he is and when he's coming back. He is always laughing or smiling and his smile is literally the best thing I have ever seen in my life. Even my friend's mum, who has known him since he's been little (since they are neighbours) has described him as a ray of sunshine who always smiles.
It's been such a long time since I've fallen so hard for someone and I feel like I could never reach him but god damn do I want to be near him as much as possible while I have the chance to do so?
Unfortunately lately it seems like he is slightly avoiding me. When in conversation his answers are short and I don't think I've ever seen him smile in my direction. We've had fully fledged discussions before so it's not like we've never spoken... And he is so nice to pretty much everyone (unless he is poking fun at them) so I don't really get what I'm doing wrong haha...
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I don't expect many people to read this if any at all but I'd be happy to hear any thoughts. | Crushes |
So I’ve liked this guy for like 4 years now and he’s also shown signs that he likes me. A year ago I finally told him my feelings he said he’s flattered with the smirk emoji and then ghosted me after I said it’s ok if he doesn’t like me back.
Fast forward a year (this year) we start following each other again but then I unfollowed a couple months later because I decided to move on, however he’s still following me and views my stories sooooo I’m confused
We’ve never been in a relationship. He’s the kind of guy to act cool in front of his friends but is really shy | Crushes |
I currently have a crush and I feel more in love with this person than any other crush I've ever had. I wish I could be around her 24/7 and never leave her side. I feel like it's unreal how perfect they are. Every other "crush" I've had was me pretending to be straight and trying to fit in. So technically this is my first real crush. I think about her all day. Everything reminds me of her. I've ranted to my friends about how perfect she is and how much I wish I could be with her forever. She already knows how I feel, never gave an answer though. She probably doesn't like me. But I don't mind, as long as she is happy, I am. If she's happy being without me then I'm happy too. I'm just lucky she exists and gives me the pleasure of being in love with someone. Plus, even if we date I could never tell my parents. They would never look at me the same after finding out I was gay. They'd probably send me to a conversion camp. So the relationship wouldn't last, unless she would be fine with not meeting my parents till I move out. But honestly it's very unlikely she even likes me that way. So I wouldn't get my hopes up. But yeah, I love everything about this girl and I hope this feeling never goes away. | Crushes |
So this dude is in senior of high school and I'm in my sophomore year. I met this guy in science exhibition held at our school. He was with his friend and they had this mini printer thingy they made and they gave a few prints to others so I asked for one to this dude and he gave me one when there were more people in line LOL. Anyways, I saw him outside CS lab the next week and I asked if he won for his experiment and he said 1st prize so I did a happy dance and congratulated him and I saw him smile at me when I did the happy dance and I melted hdhdjdnhfjdkks. We talked for like 10-20 minutes that day.
So fast-forward to present time,I was part of this festival program and he was too so I got to talk to him a few times(just small talk btw). He was up for a group dance and it was quite good honestly. I got to see the rehearsals and I complimented him on it like for 3 days consecutively. I think I did too much LMFAOOO. Oh and we had eye contact one time. He stared at me across the room and I turned my head and made eye contact with him shdgdhjd(or maybe he was looking at someone behind me ) though I broke it off within seconds because I felt flustered. So yeah today was the celebration and I saw him again and complimented him AGAIN 💀 so ig I have a crush on him but I have like many celeb crushes at the moment and I'm kinda lost . I feel like I'm crushing on every person I perceive as attractive these days 😭 maybe it's just what teenage years are like. (If anyone has any advice on this ,pls share lel)
Now onto the problem,my class is in another floor and his is in another. I rarely have to leave my floor and our teachers would chastise is for wandering around in other floors so I can't really see him. I feel like I'm doomed because this would be the last time I'll have interactions with him.Soo idk what I should do . Oooh I also forgot to mention, he has a close resemblance to Damiano David from Maneskin 😫
As a rock/metal/grunge head,this makes me happy for no reason.
I'm so sorry for making this long sgdtdudu. It's just I don't have anyone to talk about these feelings to. Anyways,thank you for reading this long ass rant!! | Crushes |
She's like mentioned 5 years older, I'm 32. We are in the same gym course, and see each other irregularly, but I got a crush on her.
I know her name, that she has a dog, that she climbs indoors, that she works as a therapist, but that's it. I don't know her surname, or has a boyfriend/husband, I don't know what else she does in her free time, I know absolutely nothing aside from what I said. And I'm too shy to ask her anything private.
But I also think she tolerates me, and nothing more. She greets me when she meets me outside our course in the gym, she often visits the gym with a guy during these times. But I don't know of its a friend, a roommate, her boyfriend or husband, or brother, or anything else. I don't know if she laughs when I am "funny" because she thinks I'm funny, or if she does it as part of her being a therapist and doesn't want to insult mentally unstable patients. I know nothing about her.
Maybe my sick self just doesn't know how to see the truth. Maybe she hates me and is just polite, maybe I'm weird and think too much about it. The only truth that isn't a maybe is me not being able to ask her out. | Crushes |
Some backstory I got out of a 5 year long relationship a while back and and am a little rusty
Over the last week I have been noticing a girl in the office and she has been noticing me as well since the last few days. We had sustained eye contact yesterday and the day before and it seemed like she wanted me to make a move and speak to her. I was hoping to go speak to her today. This morning she was again looking at me and I panicked and looked away and walked away from her. I thought I will try to catch her eye again and speak to her but she seems to be completely avoiding any eye contact Anymore
Have I blownimy chance? Or is there anything I can do to redeem myself? | Crushes |
All of a sudden, I don’t like my crush anymore. They were my first crush. I now suddenly want nothing to do with them. I don’t want to speak to them, I don’t want to listen to any music that reminds me of them…I have the opposite of a crush. No matter how much I try to give give it a chance inside, I don’t want to anymore. I don’t even want to be friends. My gut is just telling me no no no. I feel sick even thinking about them.
I know my gut (and my brain) is telling me that for a reason but I’m just sad and have to get it off my chest :( I miss chasing that high…
I hate myself and have no idea what to do now. | Crushes |
so i like this girl right, but she likes this other dude, and is hell bent on him. And obviously thats a dead end, right, so i wanna get over her, but the problem is, before i started liking her we were really good friends, and still are, and i dont wanna loose that.
So Could someone help me understand what to do? do i tell her? doi just stiop hanging out with her, is there a way to get over her while still being near her? pls help lmao
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PS; i dont have anything againt the guy she likes or the fact she likes him, infact for some reason, i can see them as a good couple and i sorta root for em | Crushes |
New guy from gym recently started chatting to me.
We got on really well and a lot in common, he interrupts my workout sometimes to talk, and waits for me to finish my workout to walk out to my car with me. Is he being friendly or does he like me
He is very handsome and I have a crush on him.
Just not sure if he has a gf or not? Would it be appropriate behaviour for him to do the above if he did or is he just being friendly and kind as he is new to the area and wants to make friends?
We have similar careers and interests | Crushes |
Okay so I have a HUGE crush on this girl I know this sounds dumb but one day I had a dream about her then after that night I couldn’t stop thinking about her when it was near the end of my freshman year I would always come to pick my sister up just to go see her and when the year book came out I was so excited to see her in the book now I’m in my sophomore year I got no classes with her expect the same p.e day idk if she’s in the same class but ik we have the same p.e day and I’m scared to talk to her cause she’s semi- popular and her friends are the rude blond girls at school you would hate so idk. And yes ik this girl already I knew her since the 5th grade but I didn’t know I liked girls at the time and I just never thought about her in that way.
The
good thing is I have spoken to her before both 5th and 6th and had classes with her, I moved in 7th,8th and 9th so I didn’t get the chance to talk to her then but be honest do you guys think I could befriend her? | Crushes |
When you realise that your crush is just the greatest person you will ever meet and they're way out of your league and then instantly start crushing on them once again imagining cute scenarios etc.
No? Alr just me ig | Crushes |
Hello everyone!
I (F16) have been in love with "Brianna" (F16), my BSF, since May but I don't know if I should confess to her or not.
If in the beginning it was mostly because I'm shy and a coward, now is because I don't know if it's worth it.
During the first week of august she met a guy ("Damien", M15/16, not sure) who was in the same resort as her. He was constanstly flirting with her, kissing her cheeks and things like that. Brianna told me that even though she wasn't sure about her feelings, she kissed him. Then, he became the worst person EVER. He called her fat, ugly and he told her that her friend that was way more hot than her because she used make up while Brianna is not very into it. Everytime he made her cry, she texted me and I would try in every way to make her understand that she's beautiful just the way she is.
At this point, I was sure she was in love with him, but then I saw their texts. They were very dry: no hearts, not even an emoji, no cute words, not even a pet name. It was strange because she always calls me love, beautiful, stunning, sweetheart and she sends me loads of hearts with every message.
When they broke up she started to be even more cute with me: she always surprise me with pretty long texts about how amazing I am, how she can't wait to go to school to see me and that I am the best person she ever met. We also installed an app where we can send each other drawings, short paragraphs or just a notification.
Since I'm very confused, I'm asking for your opinion about what shall I do because I have no idea. Thanks in advice!
A short important info: she's bisexual. | Crushes |
So I was talking to a girl in my class (im 14) when we were doing experiments and just chatting (I dont know her much but she seems nice and funny and shes very pretty) we seemed to get along quite well and we were laughing a lot as well, this was not my first time working and chatting with her. Anyway the topic of sports came up and I mentioned I played tennis, she told me she also did and wish she knew sooner because she wanted a date or someone (she specifically said date) to do the tennis coaching service activity with. (Its basically just coaching younger kids at tennis and everyone in our school has to do some kind of service, local, community, global concern) and I said I was doing it but we were doing it at different times. Anyway, does she want me to ask her out? Im confused if that was a hint or just being open and im really clueless when it comes to this stuff, advice would be greatly appreciated :) | Crushes |
So first I got caught staring at her in college classroom. Later, she was the glancing a lot at me. She is now noticing me everywhere, glancing or just checking if I am staring.
But she never takes the effort to talk to me and just makes eye contact sometimes with a blank face.
I have no idea where this is going. Its been a week, we just keep on glancing at each other.
Let me know what do you guys think...
Thank you! | Crushes |
I’ve known my crush (18F) since March and have started getting closer to her over the past 2/3 weeks. In that timed I contacted her on snap for the first time. Since then the floodgates have opened and we’ve sent 30+ snaps to each other in the past 24 hours.
In our snaps, we’ve been having a communication and she’s been sending full face snaps which I have reciprocated (I’ve never sent full face snaps in the past)
What I was wondering is, do full face snaps mean anything or what are some signs that she might like me. Like I have a feeling that she does but I’m useless at this sort of thing. Like we were snapping each other even when we were lying on bean bags like 1 metre away from each other and we were sending funny filters to each other.
Tl:dr
My crush and I have just started snapping a lot and I want to know if full face snaps means anything or what could be a giveaway that she likes me. | Crushes |
I really like my bestfriend but I don't know how to express my feelings and tell her.
about a year and half ago she had told me that she liked me while I was on a holiday. I wasn't really attracted to her at the time though so I but I had my reasons...
I live in a small town, around 150 kids go to the local school here as its a mining town. She lives about 20 minutes out of town on a property.
The good things are that her family really likes me her older brother, mother, younger brother and I haven't really had much to do with her older sister as she doesn't live with her parents.
I feel like I'm honestly experiencing true love for the first time, over the past few years I have developed a strong liking to her unique and weird personality. She can always make me laugh and I can also do the same we share such good memories with each other and there is always something to talk about no matter when or where we are we can always strike a conversation. I just have that thought in the back of my mind, she lives on a property... how am I suppose to help her dad out on the farm doing fencing and with the cattle etc. I have never done any of this stuff before.
Our lives are so different and she's the only thing keeping me in this small mining town instead of moving away and starting my apprenticeship as a High Voltage Electrician.
I'm not sure on how to express my feelings towards her as I don't want to ruin my friendship or make things awkward between the only person that is making my happy currently. I really need help... What do I do? | Crushes |
I (15f) like this guy in my year (15m) and we’re pretty close friends right, but recently I think I have developed feelings for him?? Like my heart flutters and everything when I talk to him, and he’s just always on my mind, my friends and some other random girls are like “OOooooOo do you like him?” and I always deny it because I don’t wanna ruin the friendship between him and me, and also another girl who I am friends with has liked him for YEARS but still hasn’t done anything about it so yeah idk??
Some of my friends also said they think he likes me, and that there is tension or something? Idk man I’ve had 2 crushes before this guy, what do I do??
Do I like drop hints or confess or suppress the feeling? I don’t wanna ruin our friendship, and I don’t wanna hurt the girl who likes him because like girl code yk?
Advice would be nice | Crushes |
I think I’ve started crushing on a guy. Today was my first day ever seeing him. I walk out of the school building with my friend and he slows down his motorcycle to wave at me. Oh my god. I was so surprised. I thought maybe he was waving at someone else but I made eye contact with him and my friend said there was literally no one walking behind me. Ahhhh, there have been so many guys with motorcycles recently at school and I’m incredibly happy rn haha | Crushes |
so my crush lives in the uni dorm and i live in the same city as the uni so m living with my parents....he knows m moving out and living alone so he keeps asking when m moving out lol
he asked it again today and I was like why r u more excited than me....i won't open the door if u show up lol
so he was like don't worry i won't come
so he was talking about his dorm timings at night and he said he has to be there at 12...so i was like if u don't then u gotta sleep outside
So he said i won't sleep outside I'll sleep at ur place
Other female friend of mine was like " don't let him in "
so i was like no i won't let u in
So he was like don't worry i will sleep on the couch
Idk whytf i said this
I said i don't have a couch lol
( I was being honest.....my place is minimalistic so i use couch as a bed...?its a foldable couch cum bed )
So he said he'll sleep on the floor lol
Idkwtf i said this i was like
Theres no floor
WHAT THE ACTUAL HECKLKKKLWPBQOUBQOUQVIHQV
and he was like there's no floor lol!? Ughhh
My sis told me it sounded like i was waiting for him to tell about my bed lol😭😭
An hour later i realised i was flirting tfffffffffffffff
Like wtfffffffffffffffffffjwcuyqcqiyvqiyvqougqouquobq
I hope I didn't make him uncomfortable 😭😭😭😭😭 | Crushes |
ok guys u can read my previous posts for the context lol
So we're friends not best friends kinda stuff but we do talk... just random small talk and fun shit
but i decided to get over him since i saw him smoke two days ago so I've been ignoring him naturally since two days lol
today i tried to ignore him....i was sitting in my seat and talking to other friends....he goes to the seat behind me and wraps his arms around my neck 🥺😭😭😭😭
How cuteeeeee that was like a hug omfgugsouabhoabouab
he was cute
and i was like who's tissss hehehe cute😭🥺😭🥺😭🥺😭🥺😭 | Crushes |
Using a throwaway for obvious reasons. Four years ago, I met this girl who’s honestly one of the nicest people I’ve ever spoken to. We went to a private elementary/middle school together for 3 years. We know each other and we’ve talked. She was never mean and bigoted like my old classmates, so I suppose that’s part of the reason why I started liking her. For the last year I went to that private school (8th grade), she went to her own middle school, so we couldn’t talk anymore. But the public high school I’m starting at in a few days is the same one she’s going to. I’m even in the same English class as her! However, I’ve recently been getting “butterflies” in my stomach when I think about her because we literally haven’t seen or spoken to each other in a year. I think she’ll react positively to my being there at the new school, but I don’t know for sure. I don’t even know how I should react myself. I’m just so nervous! | Crushes |
This boy asked me if I was free this weekend. I told him I had work and was meeting a friend but other than that I was free. He asked when work was. I told him and he basically said bad timing (it was Saturday night). He than asked what I was doing Sunday. I told him I had something until 12pm but was pretty much free after that. He said “awesome.”
He never said anything after that so I said “hahah what? why?” And now he hasn’t replied for over a day (it’s Sunday btw)
I’m so confused? Any thoughts? | Crushes |
Right after we hung out with some friends and I got home, I texted her because I saw that she was online and she answered immediately. We chatted about how the evening was, our pets and stuff like that. When she texted me that it was really late I told her that she could go to bed if she was to tired, but that I’m always awake till 3 am so if she wanted to go on I would still be available. She told me it was fine so we really went on till 3 am.
After she texted that she had to go to bed now I replied good night and she texted me ‘nighty‘ and ‘sleep well‘. I know it’s not a big deal, however it seemed soooo cute and I’m so happy about it. It was for the first time in month I had a so nice chat at night. Normally at this time I’m laying alone on my bed and listen to music, this time my crush gave me a pretty good time :) | Crushes |
I don’t think I have a chance with her anymore, but I’m willing to give it one more shot. I’m going to ask her if she wants to hang out at some point and if she says no I have to move on (right after I post this I’ll send it and wait for the results). I can’t go to sleep or wake up without thinking of her, I’ve had 2 dreams in the past week and both of them involved her, best sleep I’ve had in a long time I might add. But that’s not the point, I’m going to be living just off campus this fall and if I don’t have any chance with her I don’t want to be hung up on her, because I typically take a long time to get over someone. I’ve been trying to keep myself busy and do things that I like to do to keep me busy throughout the day, so that’s not too much of a worry, but I can’t control it when I need to go to sleep or immediately when I wake up, she’s all I can think about. We used to talk constantly but summer got busy I guess, she said she was busy and between work and school for me I didn’t want to keep asking her out on my free time, because she’s always busy when I’m not, but we still talked every now and then, she said she’s less busy now and I’m giving myself 2 weeks before school starts to get situated, and it took me a while to get a first hangout because our schedules were almost completely opposite, so I figured I might ask if she’s not as busy and I have nothing going on for 2 weeks. | Crushes |
So I went to the zoo with him today with my family and on the car ride back I was talking about my musical theatre thing that I go to and I was telling him about it and I convinced him SOMEHOW to want to join. He’s checking it out. It’s on Tuesdays so after school on Tuesday he’d come over to my house and my mom would drive us there.
And remember this is a guy who’s never acted, never sang, and never danced. Idk why he’s interested. But if he joins that’d be amazing provided my friends don’t tease me in front of him.
But holy fucking shittt | Crushes |
I'm (18f) in love with him so bad.. i was talking about how I haven't slept in almost a day and he told me to stop depriving myself of sleep. He's also so patient and understanding of me and he even made me feel better when I was dumping my girlfriend who was being toxic to me for the last 2 years. He's the first guy I've ever liked and I adore spending time with him because he always makes me laugh and never disrespects me. The only thing is he thinks im a lesbian. Now that I'm finally free from my toxic relationship I'm going to try and casually come out the next time we hang out with friends. Then make a move on him sometime later. I'm really confident he could like me back, I've never connected with a guy like this before. His voice is so hot too I get butterflies from a lot of random things he says. I wish I could just hurry up and tell him how I feel. He's literally the perfect guy, I love how he ls always so nice to me or playfully teasing me and we make jokes about our friends in private. I adore him so much I wish I could straight up tell him that.. soon | Crushes |
Ive always wondered abt this I wanna know overall if braces r attractive or not give me ur thoughts. Is it the after product that’s more attractive or r the braces themselves attractive as well sometimes? | Crushes |
So school starts in a few days, and I have confessed to my crush. He still hasn’t responded, and I don’t know if he saw it or not. It he didn’t see it, he might when checking his email. He also could of saw it and not replied. I am sure I’ll see him around campus sometime and will it be awkward if I do? How do I make it less awkward? | Crushes |
forgetting the work aspect, even if he was ever interested in me, he wouldn't pursue anything because he insists on treating me like a kid bc I'm 19, and I'm sure he wouldn't feel comfortable 🥲 I understand, it just tires me how hard it is | Crushes |
She is so f-Ing nice. We share so much stuff. Even tho she has an other ethnicy than me, but idc. She is extremely shy and has social abxiety just like me. She told me she would never make the first move, so i will never know if she likes me more than as a friend,but when i confess to her. But im way too scared. ;-; | Crushes |
Okay okay so I've been crushing on this super cute shy guy from my class. He's rly tall and skinny and likes metal bands which I think is rly cool.
I came up to him a few days ago and made sure I was wearing a revealing top lol and asked him if I could come over to his to listen to his music. He looked so surprised and his eyes darted from my chest to me loads which was adorable. He said yes and then ran off.
Okay so a few days ago I come over and he plays me some songs by slipknot and megadeth and I told him I liked his music taste and he looked so embarrassed. He told me he'd never had a girl over before and that he'd almost never had a girl talk to him.
I asked to cuddle in his bed and he said he would like to as well and I basically asked if I could put my hand on his... you know and he said I could and we made out and stuff and I just loved making this rly shy guy so flustered.
So yh I made him cum under his jeans and now he keeps asking for me to come over again lol. He's adorable. | Crushes |
As much or as little detail as you’d like! | Crushes |
There’s this guy (24) that my dad is very fond of, treats him like his own kin. I (23 M) have never met this guy until about 3 months ago. When I first laid eyes on him, my brain wasted no time in falling for him. But hey that’s no surprise otherwise I wouldn’t be drafting a post for this subreddit lol.
My dad manages many construction sites so as a result he always has my crush moving with him from job to job, always keeping him employed. Recently though, my dad made me a supervisor at the one construction site my crush works at. So now I see him everyday. What makes matters worse is that we also commute together. And see him around on weekends too. There’s lots of time spent together alone and I always find myself extremely close to telling him how I feel.
I know doing that will cause quite a bit of havoc. For one, I am a homosexual whereas there’s no telling that he isn’t anything but heterosexual. Two, I wouldn’t want to be the cause of potentially wrecking the bond between him and my dad. Three, he recently broke things off with his (terrible) gf and has now found a rebound. Him moving on so quickly is annoyingly fuelling my stupid self into thinking I stand a chance.
I need him and the butterflies are killing me. Closure in anyway would somewhat bring me peace. Unfortunately, though, I think I know how this will all play out. | Crushes |
So i just face times my crush and i must say she seemed kinda nice and caring, but she didnt really ask any questions back and there where some awkward pauses here and there. She wants to do it again tomorrow but how can i make sure the conversation isnt just about work and school again, like how do i slip in a flirty compliment or something without it being too random or creepy. | Crushes |
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So I met this girl at work , and tbh I find myself quite attracted to her , she calls me often to come sit with her because she’s usually bored from her work , problem is whenever she calls to me to come sit and talk to her I get kinda shy and start getting nervous a lot , how do I calm my shit down and play it cool? Give me some tips please | Crushes |
So I like one of my brother’s good friends and I’m so frustrated cause I don’t know what to do. I’m scared to say something cause odds are he doesn’t like me back and I don’t wanna ruin their friendship and have him not wanna hang out. It’s about more then myself and I’m going crazy. I just want him and I just wanna tell everyone that I want him but I’m scared and shy. | Crushes |
Me (NB) and my crush (M) went to a fancy party for one of our friends, and while there he asked me to dance with him. Now, my crush, knows I like him, I've told him and I've been pretty clear with him that I have feelings for him. Upon telling him I liked him, we both agreed that a full on relationship was not what we both wanted at the time, and we've decided that staying friends *for now* is our best bet. So, when we were at this party, it surely surprised me when he asked me to dance.
At the party there were assigned seats, and the host sat me and my cush pretty close to eachother, with one person separating us. Me and my crush talked basically the whole time durring the dinner portion of the party, about various topics, and he looked pretty great in his attire. When the dinner part of the party was over, he immediately ran to the dance floor, and started to show off his incredibly funny confident side, eventually coaxing me and the rest of our friends to follow suit. He really made it a good time, for the host, and the rest of the guests.
After an hour or two of me and my crush awkwardly dancing next to eachother he smoothly asked me why I seemed so awkward that night... I replied with a bullshit excuse to not seem so desperate... but I really wanted to ask him to dance with me. About 10 minutes later he asked me if I wanted to dance... it was a silly 2010's song that was playing (i forgot the name of it) and i basically froze, i said yes to dancing with him and it was great... (he didn't have sweaty palms, to my surprise... despite dancing in a long sleeved shirt... for a few hours) as that song faded the DJ started to play Timber... and we both awkwardly laughed and stepped away from eachother. One of my others friends proceed to tease me for a few minutes while we danced together (me and that friend).
For the rest of the night, me and my crushed chilled out together, just having a good time...
I had fun.. and I felt really happy that he asked me to dance with him, since with every "flirty" thing we do together, it's always me asking if we can do it, and this time he asked me... | Crushes |
I really need to talk about mine but it's a super long complex story.
DM me if you want to exchange stories :) | Crushes |
Theres something special about him, hes gl tall nice funny smart and knows just when to tease me. This sounds dumb but its just a joke between me and my friends, i have my love life planned and he joins that plan in the next 3 years where in between that i have 2 guys before that. This is cause hes long distance and i as much as i like him dating him now would be alot of effort. The first guy on the list im catching feelings for, we started texting a couple weeks ago and hes in my year at school though i dont think hes quite on the level as guy1. Guy1 started being distant a week ago so i decided to move on and get to know guy2. However guy1 started a conversation with me and its different with him. Idek what to do cause i dont think he likes me but i rly need to stop thinking abt him for now | Crushes |
Im a new student in university and theres about 100 students in the lecture but 1 girl stook out to me. I never really talk to girls in highschool and even now still just look down when walking but this girl always looks at me during lectures and i really wanna talk to her. Im really shy to talk to her and it looks like she is too shy to talk to me too. My problem is the way i look at her looks like im not interested in her but i really am. Not to brag but i glew up after highschool and been getting alot of compliments on how good looking i am and she is just an average looking girl for others but is really beautiful girl in my eyes. I dont want her to think i am out her league or smth. I really want to know her but because of my shy background, i dont even know how to start. Plzz help | Crushes |
Told the guy I liked about how I gave someone else my phone number when I barely knew the guy... I was tired and about to leave when the guy asked me for my number saying how he wanted friends and I thought he was cool in the past, until everyone started to complain about him and how they thought he was creepy. I'm going to jump off a bridge now... He probably thinks I'm easy now. I WOULD NEVER EVER DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT I'm going too cryyyyy
And also I think I might've made it obvious that I liked him. I have this thing where I don't know anyone names in the slightest. He was teasing me about it, and asked me if I remembered his name when I forgot everyone else's and I knew ~his~ right off the bat. I'm jumping off a really tall bridge at this point. If this man ever had a ~slight~ chance of liking me, I literally blew it by being stupid and easy. Can I cry? I want to cry now. This is why I need to keep to myself at all times 😃 | Crushes |
I still can't move on from a woman I met 5 years ago. Let's call her Alice.
We met at a college cooking competition, and I remember seeing her for the first time in the hotel lobby the night before the competition. She's this Chinese girl with her shoulder length black hair framing her fine features. She was beautiful but more importantly, she was incredibly charismatic like you could feel her presence pulling everyone close to her. We didn't talk much before the competition because I was busy working with my team the whole time to prepare for the competition. We were a rag tag team put together 2 weeks before the competition. I was the only one with cooking experience, but I didn't have time to attend any practices, so I was playing catch up late into the night to prepare for the competition the next day.
The day of the competition came, and it all went by like a blur, we ran around doing the grocery shopping, rehearsing our plan in our heads over and over. We killed it at the competition (despite having a little grease fire) and finished before Alice's team. After our team was done presenting to the judges, I walked over to her station and saw her giving sass to her coach as they were being rushed to plate their dishes seconds before their time was up. I smiled as I thought it's rare to see a woman in the kitchen hold her own and not get pushed around.
When all the judging was done, we were announced to be the third-place winner (out of 5). It was pretty good as it was the first year our school ever competed and especially considering the little preparation we had. After we received our third-place trophy, Alice's team was announced second place. I remember her being handed the trophy and immediately dropping it. The glass falling from her hands and falling flat on the marble floor before it shatters into pieces and dust. I want to say she shimmered the same way the floor did, but she didn't. She turned bright red out of embarrassment as the crowd laughed but she recovered gracefully as if it wasn't a big deal and challenged anyone to think otherwise. I was starting to fall for her strong spirit already.
After the competition, we had a group dinner with everyone to celebrate and it was the first time I really had a chance to talk to the other competitors, including her. I learned that we both came from Shanghai, and both worked in professional kitchens before (only a handful of us competing did). We talked about our passion for food and our experiences cooking and really hit it off together.
We (most of the competitors) ended up going to the bar together after and I got plastered. I remember getting split up from her as I was dragged along to a gay bar with a bunch of the other competitors. In my drunken stupor, I forgot to pay my tab at the first bar so I ended up cabbing all the way back. I could have walked but I remember I wanted to head back fast so I could see Alice again.
When I arrived, my waitress was unsurprisingly annoyed that I stiffed her but also grateful that I came back. She told me that, unfortunately, Alice and the rest of the group left 5 minutes ago. I paid my bill and made my way back to the hotel room, kicking myself for even leaving for the other bar. On the bright side, drunk me did manage to connect with her on Facebook so we stayed in touch that way. She lived in Toronto, and I live in Ottawa so we only stayed in touch online or through the phone.
In the year after, we kept in touch with each other and mostly shared our cooking projects with each other. We pushed each other in our culinary journeys or at least, she pushed me. She always made these incredible cakes and pastries that looked like they belong in the best French patisseries. I kept working in kitchens part time while studying full-time just so I can keep working on my cooking. I was looking forward to the next year where I will see her at the cooking competition again and show her how much I have improved in person.
The next year came, and I was ready. This year's team was put together months in advance and we had time to prepare and practice. My teammates were recruited by me and were both incredible home cooks (one of them used to bake professionally). I was ready to rock this competition and show off how much better I have become. Unfortunately, Alice was sick and couldn't be part of this year's competition. It was our last year in university and was our last chance to compete so I was really bummed that she couldn't make it. Our team did amazing at the competition. We came in first after receiving incredible reviews from a James Beard Award winning chef. We even dethroned the reigning champion of 6 years (or something like that) but it wasn't enough to make up for my disappointment.
I told her how the competition went, and she congratulated me. We kept in touch, and I even made a few trips down to Toronto on the false pretense of renewing my passport or meeting another friend, but it was obvious I was just finding an excuse to see her. She would, however, disappear months at a time. (I later found out that she was either hospitalized or seeing other guys at the time.) I tried my best to move on and see other people and I did but whenever we would talk again, it's like an old flame would light up inside of me. It was impossible to get her out of my system.
After another year of playing text/phone tag and occasional visits, we both graduated from university. We started talking to each other a lot more with some late-night phone calls too. She decided to finally make the trek to visit me in Ottawa for once. I was beyond ecstatic. We booked a hostel together and planned to spend the evening together.
I booked two rooms as to not be presumptuous (but I brought condoms just in case). The hostel is called the Jailhouse Hostel and they repurposed the old jailhouse (that was partially haunted) and renovated it quite nicely. When we checked in and reception confirmed it was two rooms, she said it's ok if we shared so I cancelled the reservation for one of the rooms. We left our stuff and the flowers I got her in the room and left for a night out.
We first visited a seafood restaurant for some oysters and appetizers as I have reserved us a table at one of the best Italian fine-dining restaurants in Ottawa for later that night. We started to catch up more on our lives and she told me about this guy she met off tinder that she has been seeing. My heart dropped. I was hoping that it's just a fling, but it seems like she is interested in the guy. However, I don't give up. She took a 2-hour train ride all the way to Ottawa to see me, she must be interested. So, we kept chatting and flirting. By the time we left the seafood restaurant, we had a few glasses of wine and were giddy. We were holding hands, we kissed, and I even brought up the courage to tease at some sexual stuff. When we were at the final restaurant, we were practically cuddling and showing full-on PDA. It wasn't appropriate for the restaurant, but we didn't care. We had an incredible meal and an amazing time together. We settled the bill and head back to the hostel for the rest of the night.
At the hostel, Alice pulls out a bottle of Game of Thrones themed scotch and we had a few glasses and chatted even more. We talked about how we inspired each other to cook, our upbringings, when we started to like each other, etc. She then took out a couple edible gummies... and I guess this is when the night started going downhill.
I don’t smoke weed much nor have I ever done edibles. I was nervous but she wanted to try it together, so I caved. Of course, I’d have a bad high. Earlier in the night, she told me that she’s on her period and she reassured me that even if it sounds suspicious/an excuse to not sleep with me, that it wasn’t a lie. For some reason, my high self decided to fixate on that for the night. I don’t remember how many times I asked her that over and over and God if I could go back, I would smack myself. The rest of the night didn’t go well either. Of course, I ruined the mood then, we slept in the same bed, but we didn’t cuddle or anything and because of anxiety, I didn’t sleep well. I tried not to wake her but I’m sure that just made it worse. Apparently, when I did fall asleep, I snored. So yeah, the night went miserably.
The morning after, however, wasn’t as awkward as I thought. We were friendly as ever, we grabbed breakfast together and I drove her to her train after. When she got on the train, I remembered her flowers are still in the trunk so I ran to my car, got the flowers and sprinted back and asked for the staff to let me find her and give her the flowers. It made a slight scene and I could hear some of the other ladies there being jealous. I said my goodbyes and went home. I felt horrible to have said goodbye to her and exhausted from the lack of sleep. So I went to bed and rested soon after arriving home.
We kept talking on the phone and texting after just like we were doing before but she was starting to become distant again. Until one day she tells me that she is going steady with the guy she’s seeing who is in the mafia (she mentioned this before). He’s the jealous type and she doesn’t want me to get dragged up in it so she said we couldn’t even be friends anymore. That hurt me a lot. Not only were my romantic feelings rejected, I was going to lose any connection I may have to her. She meant a lot to me. I have never met someone I connect so well with and share so much in common with. Losing her completely was too much to handle. I was desperate and insisted that I still wanted to at least be friends and I didn’t care about whatever threats that guy may have. There was not a shred of grace about it. It was just sad and I really wish I could go back and just tone it down. But, what’s done is done. She ended up blocking me and stopped talking to me. I carried on with my life over the past three years without hearing anything from her or about her. I still think about her every once in a while and hope she is doing well. I have her phone number still that I haven’t called or texted for two years. I keep thinking of calling but I don’t even know if it’s still her number or if she’d even pick up.
I am still grieving the possibility of what could have been. | Crushes |
Her name is dharshini i want to talk to her. But she doesn't notice me.please give me advice | Crushes |
Do answer .m really excited. I might have a chance XD | Crushes |
So my crush we’ve been hanging out more frequently and when there are signs that I think she likes me back I hear something or feel something that kind of feels the opposite. Then she’s does something that makes me think she’s like me. There’s a lot of back and forth sometimes and that gets in my head a lot and Injust don’t know what to think anymore | Crushes |
I am feeling really down and a bit depressed nowadays because i have found out that my crush has been texting this other girl whom i know constantly for these two months. It's really sad because previously he would always come text me and share funny stuff with me and will always text me, but now he is doing these with another girl. This is just a really big change and he has started to bluetick me nowadays when he would always reply to me previously. I know that he is definitely not THE one for me but i just really like him and feel really sad that he is now flirting with another girl when just two months back i was the only girl he was close to. | Crushes |
omfgg i wanna ask her out so badlyy but im too nervous n shit to do it 😭😭
seriously the person of my dreams fr 💖 | Crushes |
She finally has been working more front of house positions where I work more. I feel like we both get a little nervous at first around each other then kinda warm up to it. But we had some good conversation and moments. Now I just need to kind of find out she likes me haha. She seems like she does and I hope so. | Crushes |
I'm kind of talking to him now. We play games together with a mutual friend and yesterday we played by ourselves:). he recently got valorant so I was wanting to play with him for quite a while and I finally did.
This might be me reading into a coincidence but I posted a story on my close friends and he saw it and then he was online. I was already in a game when he got online tho. I saw him play a game and then when mine finished I asked to party up. And we did then played 2 games together. It was really fun :)
ok so there's more kind of. We played games with the mutual the day before as well and he said "I might be on tomorrow". The thing is when they were playing he didn't join. And like maybe it was because I wasn't in the call/playing then.
ONE MORE I PROMISE
I told him he reminded me of a friend of mine and he replied
"is that a good thing" hmmm could that mean smth
honestly I m having regrets tho bc I could've said "yh she's so cool" but instead I said "I mean she's my friend?"
anyways that's it y'all have anything u want to say about it? | Crushes |
My crush is My neighbor, We are very friendly with each other and help each other out, and when We talk ,We talk for a very long time, it’s a very comfortable situation.
The thing is, I know She is not interested in Me romantically.
It is what it is, I’m disappointed, but not mortified.
I made a few obvious hints and even asked Her to dinner. So I know this is the case.
However, I want to come out and just tell Her, so We can continue being friends and She won’t feel uncomfortable around Me.
I like to have total transparency in My relationships. That way no one has to ruminate about anything that seems odd.
I’m not sure if this is a good idea with Her. I don’t want Her to get freaked out.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! | Crushes |
So basically in a game of truth or dare I learned that my crush likes me. Ahhhhhh Im so stupid, I should have taken the opportunity to confess but it was so awkward. | Crushes |
Hi, so essentially I like one of my online friends, like a lot, but I'm always conflicted of whether she likes me back. For example, a few days ago she made me a love song playlist out of the blue, which to me was a big sign, but on other days I get one worded responses and the last couple days we haven't spoken much at all.
Some of our friends who know I like her say we'd be very compatible & we do tease each other sometimes which occasionally feels like borderline flirting, but honestly I'm really unsure.
I've misread signs like these before & it's resulted in a great friendship coming crushing down, and I'd really like to avoid that this time.
So yea, any advice would be appreciated, thanks in advance :) | Crushes |
Most important thing is:
"Imagine" | Crushes |
So basicly my crush (that is my bestfriend) went on holidays for 16 days. Before it i was texting her daily and we both were texting for long time. But after she came back to our city it feels like she is other person. She normaly was anserwing to my dms after max 1 hour, and now it takes her all day. She always giving some story why she couldn't anserw, and I cant be mad at her cuz be not together.
And now I just dont know what to do. I feel like I dont have any point of living, and my day is boring.
I was thinking many times to tell her that I love her or smth like that. I am too scared to tell her that, its kinda stupid but I though many times about sending her even tiktok thats like "send it to most beautiful person yk".
Now I am just thinking about many scenarios that wont happen. Smth like "she texting me randomly that she wants to meet, and when we meet she would tell me that she love me" its fucked up cuz I know its not true, and it will never happen. And I am just killing my mind with these Type of scenarios.
I just want to forget about her, and live my own life without waiting for her to reply or say anything. | Crushes |
Like nobody will ever make me feel as safe and at home and as loved as they did. Nobody will ever be as good as them. I want to cry so bad. I feel like love isn’t for me. I really miss them. | Crushes |
Am I the only one who always falls soooo hard for one guy, just one at a time and then cannot look anywhere else. But I don’t really crush on them for sex, I just want them to hold me, comfort me, laugh with me and cuddle with me. I want their attention, a lot of it actually and as much physical contact as possible. But I really don’t care about the sex. I don’t care if the sex is good as long as I am with this person. But at the same time, while I have this crush, I cannot be with someone else sexually. All my friends are always like : this crush has to stop, he would probably be sooo bad in bed. But I don’t care and I feel like they don’t get it. Is that just me or does anybody else feel that way. | Crushes |
Mine would be literally platonic couple. Like, me and my best friend (who I definitely love/have a crush on) talk like a couple already, sent heart emojis to each other all the time, say "I love you" to each other all the time, and well, we've recently discovered that currently, we're the only TRUE friend the other one has (based on the idea of a trustful friendship and not just camaraderie).
Like, we talk to each other like a married couple a lot, but everything between us is completely platonic, and I think I wouldn't like to change that until I'm ready to break that wall and confess my love to her when we both are able to have that kind of relationship in the future. | Crushes |
A rainy night which cause no electricity, just a candle at the corner of room, you can hear whispering of rainy creatures outside, from your balcony a sound of diminishing rain, you just feel the mild wind and saw the big tree outside, seems someone is there on the tree and a mild song music coming from a distance and remembering your crush looking outside pointless😇😇😇
"Just reading out my mind currently" | Crushes |
After all of the back and forth and nervous awkwardness we are officially dating! And I'm fairly certain he is just as head over heels for me as I am for him! This is the last thing I expected to happen, and I'm over the moon. I don't know if I can keep calling it a crush or not, my feelings have just intensified and I absolutely adore him! | Crushes |
So I got my classmate to text my train crush (look at my first post) everything’s okay, just waiting for him to text back. He doesn’t know whether he uses Insta frequently or not | Crushes |
Lately everynight i see her in my dreams, today i saw her in my dream saying that she felt the same way about me and then we kissed, i know that things like that wouldn't happen in real life but waking up to these thoughts esp her thoughts makes me happy and gives me hope to make her mine :3 | Crushes |
Alright folks buckle up.
I met this girl last summer when I was dating another person. "A mutual freind had led us to hang out by coincidence" So, I ended up getting there Snapchat information and we struck up quite the relationship even after me and my S/O split up. However, we had a rather big falling out later that month when she told my EX-S/O that I started an inappropriate rumor and idea, and when I confronted her we had a fight.
We chose not to interact for the better part of 4 months with her contacting me occasionally when I decided that the situation had gotten out of hand when we could no longer be in the same atmosphere together and our freind groups co insided. I took it upon myself to bury the hatchet when she asked for my insight in front of a group of people; and soon after we had developed somewhat of a steady friendship that grew quite quickly, even admiting our attraction to eachother at one point.
Soon after in a not so surprising twist of events she underwent a serious surgery to correct a leg deformation and suffered a serious complication. Having been through more than my fair share of medical history I understood the very real worry she was facing combined with not having anything I found us talking for hours a day. About life, about future plans, about previous crushes and about who we are eyeing, giving letting compliments to eachother, teasing, etc. 2 weeks post opp and the constant communication has slowed a bit but is still quite consistent. I genuinely don't know what to do or what she is trying to communicate. Any advice is appreciated | Crushes |
I an really sorry for this piece of writings length theres just no short way to say it. I’ve had a crush on this girl that lives up the road from me for a while now but we never talked to each other and had no reason to so I tried my very best to push it out of my mind. Now, I had my debs on tuesday(Irish equivalent of prom) and on monday night at 7:40 I had no one to bring and was going on my own. Then I got a phone call from a friend to say that there was a girl that wanted to go with me. And it was her. So we added each other on sc and were talking and she said a few things that caught my attention like “I heard that you were really nice from a lot of people and you can’t let a nice person go on their own” and “I hope I’m not coming off as some sort of creep” followed with nervous laughter. On the night we got on really well and had lots of banter. I tried to make as best an impression as I could and she was always saying “Omg your so fucking nice” in that high pitched voice. On the bus home we talked nonstop about our favourite tv programmes, films, hobbies, holidays, what we want to do in the future etc. Then we eventually fell asleep together and she was wearing my suit coat as a blanket. Does anyone have any advice on whether they think this is a suitable situation to pursue? Would love to hear any thoughts | Crushes |
So there’s this girl I’m speaking to that I’ll call Anna we get along so well we talk about everything even me buying her baby goats as a joke lol. Last night was probably the best night of my life we were on call talking the whole night and fell asleep on call it was great. Today she fell asleep on call again and I just spoke to her in her sleep. I like her so much but the thing is she talks to me about other guys she’s talking to and people who like her she likes this guy tho I think I’m better than in every way and it annoys me but there’s another guy who likes her and his body is amazing way better than mine even though mine is very good. I just don’t know if she even likes me maybe I’m just a really good friend to her but would friends talk like we do and fall asleep on call? | Crushes |
(he uses he/she pronouns)
he posted a picture of her and his friends and i just cant stop looking at it... shes just so gorgeous :((( id do anything to be held by him omfg | Crushes |
So there’s this guy that I’ve met at school and just within a month, I found myself falling for him. I’ve known him for a little over 2 months. I’ve recently been through rough times and had issues grounding myself to reality. I started liking him because he always smiles and laughs, which made my day, and I began to realize that he makes me so happy. I got to know him a bit better, but I’ve never hung out with him before. To be fair, I don’t know if he even sees me as a friend. I’m friends with a lot of his close friends, so I don’t know if he’s just around me because of that. We talk a bit, but I don’t want to text him because I have absolutely nothing to say to him if I did. I tend to be extremely talkative in person but absolutely introverted online. I can be so social but when it comes to him, I‘m scares shitless. I get dizzy, and I’ve literally told him I’m scared of him. He asked why and I said he makes me feel boring because he’s so funny (which is a half-truth). The only reason why I crushing on him is because we usually walk together alone to class, and I just love talking to him and listening to what he says. We’ve only met for a bit and I felt like we bonded pretty quickly for just talking at school. But I overthink and I don’t even consider us as friends.
At this point, I know that he doesn’t like me and one of his friends even told me that she doesn’t think he likes me that much. I really must want to be his friend. Every time I get this mentality, he’s randomly texting me or giving me tons of attention out of no where. He seems happy around me, but his friend tells me that he’s always smiling, so I don’t know. During summer I’ve had time to think. There’s no point in having feelings for someone that doesn’t care about me. I think I just want to have him in my life as a friend cause he’s such an amazing person. Literally the sweetest, kindest, and funniest person I’ve met in awhile. Should I just forget these feelings because of assumptions that he doesn’t like me at all (my gut doesn’t tell me anything) or should I give this a chance and see if he could ever feel the same way? | Crushes |
Just want to see how your crushes look, or how you perceive them | Crushes |
I have a crush on this girl I liked since middle school (going to be a junior). We don't go to the same school anymore but we still text/call each other a lot. However I think I'm the one always initiating the conversation and I just don't know what's going on. She's nice, we get along well, she even said I was one of her closer friends. This isn't just with her, it's with a lot of my friends. My friends aren't even mean or anything like that. I feel like I'm always initiating conversation with legitimately everyone and it's honestly so tiring and it is making a bit sad, I'm getting more sad than I already am. | Crushes |
So there's this history teacher i had last year (i just graduated HS) and he's a super cool guy. loves history and artifact/vintage items from historical periods. has a great personality and perspective on life in general. funny and chill. not who i would normally say is my "type" but his personality and genuine kindness is just so attractive to me. i of course never have and never will do anything about this. but im starting to get the feeling i might have a small little crush on him, because i love his classes so much. ive shown him some vintage items i have (artifact type things ive kept) and ive always attributed my feelings to be innocent and that we might have been friends if we went to school together or something. but lately ive just wondered if this is normal, i feel so icky. he has a wife and 2 kids as well, hes in his late 30s-early 40s. i feel terrible for having these feelings but i cant keep them down. i also keep wondering in the back of my mind if he thought i was attractive too based on some things he's said but i feel horrible for that too. is this normal at all?? am i crazy??? | Crushes |
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