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I have had a crush on this man since 7th grade (I’m a sophomore in college now) and I decided that enough is enough, I’m asking him on a date and getting this over with. Thing is, I have no idea how to do it. We’ve been texting back and forth for a few weeks totally platonically and things have been going well, but I don’t know HOW TO ASK. Like, do I just continue the conversation and then add, “oh by the way, I have a crush on you and was wondering if you’d like to go on a date with me at some point?” Because that doesn’t sound quite right and I don’t want to fuck this up before it’s even begun. | Crushes |
it's soooo annoying. usually i can tell if someone likes me or not. we look at each other soo often and keep eye contact but idk does it mean anything? we've always done this but i developed a crush on her only recently so it might not mean anything but still. i mean idk maybe she looks at other people like that aswell???? also whenever i'm not in school she texts me saying that school is boring and she misses me but thats prob just because we sit next to each other in like every class.
ughhhhdgehrheebd this is killing me | Crushes |
Basically title. How do you do that? Do you like smile? And how do you follow up? | Crushes |
I know I was supposed to do this weeks ago but I forgot about it, and here I am now. So here's basically how it went down:
First I built up the courage and walked up to him and asked for his number, saying I was trying to update my contact list a bit yk. He then said sure and fumbled for his phone, but then he was like "ah wait I don't need that", and proceeded to give me a number. But then after I put it in and got him to make sure it was right, he said: "ah wait that's my brother, I'm not sure what I'm doing, sorry". Then I said it was fine and he managed to give me his actual one though he still apologized afterwards for the mistake. He's usually a bit shy though I'm wondering if he was nervous when giving it to me because he wasn't expecting to be asked that or what. But I haven't texted him yet, though I'm planning on saying something like "Hey it's \_\_\_\_ btw, just thought Id let you know" but any other suggestions will be appreciated. Tell me what you think ahah | Crushes |
after months of me (f17) crushing on him, he (m18) asked me out on a date and it went really well. we kind of confessed our feelings for each other and immediately set several plans for our next dates. the following week, he started to avoid me and eventually told me that he changed his mind and that he was not ready for a relationship even though he thought he was - he basically friendzoned me. of course, i was heartbroken and felt really insecure about how i made him lose feelings so quickly. however, we continued to talk normally whenever we saw each other. about two weeks later, he contacted me and asked me to reconsider. he apologized and said that he judged too quickly because he was freaking out a little since this is his first time. i could honestly relate and agreed to go out again. it went well again and from that point on, we have been dating (basically meeting for the last three weekends). we have started kissing and making out when we are alone and have quickly become very comfortable with each other, like cuddling in my bed without doing anything and falling asleep. my friends have been asking me if we are in a relationship now and i honestly don’t know the answer. i don’t want to put too much pressure on him after it started off so badly. i know he changed his mind, but i can’t stop worrying that he’ll do it again soon. every time he doesn’t look me deep into the eyes and ask me to meet again, i get the feeling that he’s already planning how to reject me. does someone have tips on how i can stop feeling like this? we’re both a little awkward and pretty shy to bring things up. | Crushes |
I can't really make myself believe it but if I look at it it might actually be quite obvious.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH JUST THINKING ABOUT IT!!! | Crushes |
It's been more than a month since I got friendzoned by her, but she occassionally calls/sends memes to me. Idk if she's just being considerate or not.
Do I still have chances with her or should I just give up ? | Crushes |
New person started - started to notice the persons nice charm, nice smile, nice hair, cool style and was like ahh, person seems really nice.
Caught eyes a few times and starting to get a feel for the amazing personality/charm and it felt like they were somehow doing the same to me which was nice - I like nice people.
Both of us waved and greeted each other nicely and I spoke with the person a bit later and they seemed even nicer after that. I was falling for the person after that.
It started to dawn on me that something was happening to me. I began to notice that I couldn't contain my shy smile or hide my feelings and by the end of the day I had this amazing feeling about them.
My feelings were so strong by this point that I went to leave work the person smiled/waved in the most beautiful way ever and when I did it back I just had the look of shy love written all over me. It was beautiful, embarrassing and I felt on cloud 9 until the next day. My feelings for the person had me bouncing off the walls like a teenage crush.
The next day comes I'm completely burnt out/Coming down from the high and everything feels off - I no longer have a good level of confidence or stability - my charm gone, my happy mood shattered, the connection lost - I just want to get home in one piece to ride this out and compose myself back to my normal.
Crushes are so bittersweet and I knew that I was going to come down and land with a bang. I guess it's just nature tells us to hook up, but it's such a short window of time to act that it rarely comes off in the long run.
I guess the only thing I can do is to try to not make this person feel uncomfortable by just being out the way, as nice as I can and making the effort to get on with them. I feel bad just for being off-ish with them after coming down with a bang.
My week has been like a rollercoaster so far and I think I can only help myself by distracting myself from this Crush.
As crushes go this is the strongest I've ever felt, which is probably why the fall from grace feels so bad.
Thoughts go out to all of you here with similar happenings. | Crushes |
I am a 15 year old high schooler. I was crushing on this guy for 9 months. We're in the same class. As time went by, I realised how much of an jerk he is. I'm an achiever, so he doesn't even treat me like a decent human being. But still I used to like him because of his looks. My mom knew about his antics because she's the one I pour my heart out to. But I couldn't confess that I have a crush on him. Maybe because I'm embarrassed and worried about her reaction even though she's generally a very open- minded person and chill af. One day, I learnt that he confessed to another girl and she rejected him. I was surprisingly chill and calm (I dunno these things don't bother me at all.. I think because I like admiring my crush from afar). On 29th January, I dunno what got on me and I suddenly wanted to get over him. I searched up the internet, asked for advice on reddit and discord, and even asked my friends. Their advice has helped me solve most of my problems, but the only problem is he comes to my mind whenever I'm free no matter how much I distract myself. Yesterday, I dreamt about my crush. I was like, " what the?" I asked on discord and they said I'm still emotionally attached to him. I went nuts and thought the only way was to change my division. But you know what happened right? I said about all the reasons (except the crush one). He lectured me on you have to do this , you have to do that instead of saying okay, we'll do that. The worst advice I've got is to confess to him. Because he's in my class, so it'll pain me seeing him everyday. It'll just make matters worse. And the girl he confessed to recently became my friend. We had some issues for a year but we mended our ways. I can't sacrifice this new friendship just because of a silly guy. Someone told me to just hang in there, time will solve it all. So, should I get back to where I was before I started all this getting over stuff (like staring at him like an idiot, because as far as I know, he doesn't even treat me like a decent human being, so why should I give a crap about him?) or I should just ignore him and let it fade away with time (because I can nothing about the fantasies from coming, even though it's a lot less than before)? | Crushes |
The school schedule was all fucked up so the lunches were weird. I usually have 2nd lunch but the class we had lunch in changed so I had 3rd today. I went to lunch, got my lunch then went to the cafeteria to eat. I went to sit at my friends table and they said she’s right next to us, so I got a little nervous and halfway through my friends all leave to go to class so I went to my crushes table and said none of my friends are here so can I sit with you. Like I know it’s a little embarrassing to say but then we started taking about school and the weekend so I’d say it’s a w. She didn’t make eye contact the whole time but she did ask questions to keep the conversation going and she remembered some things like she asked me if I was a sophomore. I hadn’t talked to her in person up until that point and she has a lovely voice | Crushes |
I feel like im just doomed to have a relationship in my teenage years with anybody just because i’m short, this isn’t even about crushes, it’s just about how I have no chance with anyone. Am i wrong for thinking this, because it feels like this is the truth more and more every day. | Crushes |
Not sure if anyone will answer this but here we go anyway. I haven't told anyone about this so I want to talk about it hence why i made this post. Both 15F for context. | Crushes |
I'm almost 100% certain that my crush likes me but i'm too scared to make a move because she is also my coworker.
Should I just go for it or just forget about it? | Crushes |
So yeah, a few days ago we both admitted to having a crush on one another, and we'd both been super excited about it, and we've been talking a bunch about the future and what we'd want in a relationship and all that
But idk, at this point the initial excitement is kind of wearing off, and while I still love them I'm not sure if I want more or if I just want to stay friends, but we've also been talking a ton about a relationship recently, so I don't want to just back out now, especially since I don't know if that's what I want either
So I don't know, any advice for the situation I'm in? I think I'm just going to keep trying woth the relationship for now, since I just don't really know what I want enough to really change it yet, but is that what I should be doing? | Crushes |
Hello, so I've mostly moved on from my ex crush, but sometimes I still get butterflies when i hear his voice or when he laughs. " my head is saying, *fool forget him.* my heart is saying, *don't let go.*" it's really hard to move on completely when it feels like he understands me. I know hanging on to someone I can't have is a bit possessive and clingy so I'm trying my best to get over him. I am open to new relationships though; so I was wondering, once I find another guy and get another crush, Will this feeling go away completely and I can go back to thinking of him as a friend with no butterflies whatsoever? Is this feeling temporary?
I've also tried staying away from him for a couple of weeks and it didn't work because I was missing him to death on some days. | Crushes |
So I hadn’t talked to my crush before and she coincidentally was sitting next to us so I had to wait for my friends to leave the table then I went to her table and said since my friends left, can I sit with you? Then I had a conversation with her for the whole lunch block about school and what we did | Crushes |
I work with someone and he can seem a little nervous sometimes at work (he messes up what he’s saying to me, little things like that). Nothing significant.
But the other night he got extremely nervous when he gave me a ride home. He warned me ahead of time he was messy so his car wasn’t in great shape which I said was fine. I got in and was surprised to see his car was clean. He kept asking if it was a mess and I had to repeatedly reassure him.
He overall seemed a little jumpy but kind of excited at the same time? Anyone else experienced this? | Crushes |
I got rejected but yesterday she wrote at me and I answered, what I a have to do now?? | Crushes |
ok so i’m like kinda confused because i haven’t liked anyone in ages idk if it is a crush but whatevs. pretty much i’ve known him for a while but we’ve been low-key bullying each other ever since and then i found out from one of my friends that he likes me, and that made me think about my emotions and i think i have feelings?! i’m not sure though cause i don’t think anyone i’ve dated before i’ve actually liked more than platonically so i’m thinking what if i only like him platonically aswell. but anyway we digress, all my friends would like 10000000% make fun of me if i do in fact like him which i think i do so… yeah gyal | Crushes |
Ask anything and I will ask you something :) | Crushes |
She's not my crush, I just was interested in her for a long time. She's a Ukrainian girl who fled the war and I was interested in her ever since she started visiting my school. She's smart, has a good sense of humour and is really independent. All traits that I find extremely attractive.
Anyways, I was waiting for her outside the school just incase she's going with the bus because I sometimes take a detour just to talk to her. What happened next wasn't the most surprising thing since I was already suspicious that she had someone, she always texted to one specific person all the time.
Back to what happened: she stepped outside the school building and confronted a guy I had never seen. Both start walking towards the bus station and they started holding hands. Not a simple hand hold but with intertwined fingers.
I'm not heart broken but I'm annoyed, maybe a bit sad. It's always like this. I am 18 now and I never had a girlfriend. My ex pretended to like me for half a year, my female best friend from back then said that I'm just unattractive, the last girl I was interested in rejected me because I was too short and then all the other countless girls I spoke to and just when I feel like I might try again, I fail once again.
To say that I've tried is an understatement, I'm more hard on myself than anyone. I started gym, I practiced my humor, I had to learn to communicate despite me being an introvert, I worked on my fashion and I've done my absolute best but what do you do when your best isn't enough?
I'm burnt out, might just be that I'm unattractive and I'm not even mad if that's the case. I just wish I'd have realised it sooner. Anyway, another failed attempt and perhaps my last attempt. | Crushes |
Last summer, I joined a group that organizes events for people of my demographic. Back in September, I briefly met a guy who I thought was cute; I asked him what drink he ordered and he gave it to me to try. I didn't see him again for a while, so I nearly forgot about him until the holidays, when Hinge kept showing him to me as "most compatible." Somehow, knowing this cute guy was single and looking for someone made me view him differently. His profile also made it seem like we had things in common. I never sent a like though, since that seemed awkward, and he never liked me either.
I've seen him a few times since. At first, he would barely acknowledge me even though we were around mutual friends. There was one time I caught him looking at me, I waved and he waved back, and I got the vibe he wouldn't have done/said anything if I hadn't. I figured it was because we didn't know each other well, but then I noticed him being friendly with other new people, which made me feel not great.
However, 2 weeks ago, he became much more friendly. It started small, with him replying to things I'd say to the group. I eventually asked him what he did, turns out he's in an industry my brother is applying for, so he offered to give him a referral. I later mentioned wanting to try this restaurant and he said him and some friends were going some time, what's your Instagram?, and added me to their gc. He also tried to persuade me to go clubbing with him and the other people there, when the topic came up and I was on the fence. I did end up going and at the pregame, he'd try making conversation with me, and would joke and laugh at lot. I mentioned how I would've loved to go to Coachella this year, since there are a lot of r&b artists I like performing, and he replied that r&b was his fave, so if the lineup next year is similar, we should go together and high-fived me. When we arrived at the club, I joked about how we got in for free because of me and he said he'd buy me a drink to show his appreciation. I figured he was joking and laughed it off. We didn't end up interacting the rest of the night (maybe because I was dancing with a lot of people) but I noticed him staring at me once.
I was feeling good and then last week, it seemed he wasn't acknowledging me again. We looked at each other from across the room, but we were both talking to others so didn't say hi, which was fine. But eventually we were in a group together and it felt like he was talking to/looking at everyone except me. I was disappointed and feeling like nothing was gonna happen, until last night. We all went to a concert and obviously during it, didn't talk much. But a friend of ours gave us a ride home after. We were sitting in the back together. The window was foggy so he drew a smile on it, which we laughed a little about. I then drew a circle around it to make a head and that led to this game of us taking turns adding details. We were laughing the whole time; he even took a picture of the drawing and later restarted the game. I got dropped off first and he said it was good to see me.
I'm definitely crushing and would like to get to know him more, but I'm worried that he wouldn't be interested, especially since this group is meant for making friends. He might not wanna date anyone in the group at all. It's hard not to feel hopeful when we have small moments though, or when I seem to notice things (like am I imagining it or does he speak to me in a softer voice than he does with others). | Crushes |
Met a girl from another state, and turns out we like each other. We agreed to try a long distance relationship, but last night I asked if we were dating, and she said maybe and that she was just seeing how things were going between us. I know what this means, but at the same time, why do I feel demoralized? She told me she liked me, yet I feel like she doesn’t and thinks I’m not good enough to be in a LDR? What do I do? I asked yesterday if we could play video games when she was free and she said yes. Do I still try? | Crushes |
So ask me anything about her! And I'll ask something about yours too! | Crushes |
Preferably people around my age (14-18).
I basically just need some advice because I'm not sure what to do anymore. | Crushes |
So this year I’ve gotten two friends and I have a crush on one of them, she’s one of my besties we walk to class together everyday day if we’re both there she’s so cute, she looks so pretty in sunglasses I mean if you were to see her, she look better in sunglasses then me.I miss her when she’s not here, she makes me laugh. Everytime she’s not here I miss her and keep on glancing at her empty seat. I just wanna hug her and don’t let go. Every time she come back the next day I’m so happy and making sure she’s ok and fine. | Crushes |
I made a post about the whole situation, I'll link it below but to get it shortly, there's an attraction between both of us, but distance (700km) makes things difficult for her.
[Here's the post I'm talking about.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11h8d01/i_think_i_should_just_move_on_but_damn_this/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Just yesterday I wanted to take a little risk. Not tell it openly cause I don't wanna scare her or anything but just thanking her for being herself, talking to her makes my day better and that I really love talking to her. To which she replied that it's reciprocal with hearts and all... for real, what? | Crushes |
So my crush is practically only active on discord and Twitter he has a insta but doesn’t really go on it (as he’s told me). I wouldn’t say it’s hard to communicate with him because he asks to call everyday and we sometimes talk at school (due to lack of classes together). But I don’t know if that’s a red flag because when we first started talking he didn’t want to add me on insta or Twitter. We have each other on discord, steam, and all these other gaming platforms. I’ve asked him once and he said because he doesn’t let his irl friends follow his Twitter. I mean I get it but it’s not like I’m gonna judge him and stuff. He’s odd but should I be worried? | Crushes |
I know it's a stupid question | Crushes |
After i FINALLY got over my last crush, i think im now developing a crush on another girl that I work with 😥😥😥 It's so exhausting and lonely I don't wanna go through it yet again | Crushes |
Might not respond quickly due to timezones. | Crushes |
Unless something good happens (doubt it) this is my last time posting here.
So I told her I liked her and things seemed to be fine. But ever since I offered to take her to her prom things have been off (this was before I told her). I mean even before that things would fluctuate. Like she used to seem real flirty with me but it kinda slowly stopped. Then I made the offer and her snaps seemed less interested. Then I told her I liked her. Same deal as before, things were kinda the same. Then a couple days ago we were talking until 5 AM about guys and I made a joke about me liking her. Now she barely texts me, leaves me on delivered for 10 hours or more, and when she does she usually sends snaps that seem less interested. Sometimes she snaps her face, sometimes she tells me things but not as much. I think at some point she might actually unadd me. She used to joke about it but now I'm pretty sure it will happen. I shouldn't have believed she might like me, but I'm glad I still told her. Sucks I'll probably lose her in my life but its about what I expected. | Crushes |
Me and my crush (I'll call him Ichigo just cuz his attitude matches him lol) are both on the track team currently. This week when our meet was done, most of my teammates and friends decided to take the sports bus home (The 'sports bus' was just a bus that takes everyone home if you have a sports team or a club to attend; Usually comes at 5:30-6:00; I get home by riding the Metro Train since both of my parents work) and some parents picked their kids up or walked home. Me, Ichigo, and his friend were the last people on our school's field and the sun was setting at the time (It's around 5:40-ish) and all of us decided to walk to a mini mart that wasn't far off from the campus. Ichigo and his friend were mostly talking and I just decided to walk with them. We went inside the mart and bought a few sodas and chips and stuff, but by the time we had to pay, Ichigo's friend said he had to go because his dad got out of work. We both left the mart with our bag of chips and soda and just sort of walked around the mart. Ichigo asked me if I rode the Metro Train and I said 'I would go to this specific station walking distance from the school.' Coincidentally he rides that station too and we decided to call it a day and just go home together. (In my mind I was actually panicking, not knowing what to do and stuff) We walked inside the station and I was walking in my line to go to my train, but before I got down the escalator, Ichigo grabs my hand and hugs me... (My mind: WHAT THE HELL... 0///0) I was really nervous so I ran away and just went home... So yeah the more I think about this the more I realize this is something that would have happened in a romance anime | Crushes |
I'll answer anything cuz i don't know u guys <3 | Crushes |
Guys help me please,my crush know i have a crush on her but everytime i changed my profile my crush doesn't react to it i was hoping for her to atleast react to it but she isn't but when my other friends(Guys) she reacts to it and its heart but why does mine she wouldn't? | Crushes |
Last month it was his birthday, he mentioned it about three days prior to me ( Thought that was kinda odd ) Of course, I ended up sending him a ‘Happy Birthday’ text. Didn’t quite go anywhere. We say ‘Hi’ when we cross each other a lot more now. Last week, I checked in on the app I messaged him on ( idk why ) and it said he re-read our short chat at 12:27am. Anyway, this has been driving me nuts. Like, why was he even reading our short chat so much later? | Crushes |
I have planned it all out. It was his birthday a few days ago and I bought him a nice jumper so I wrote a confession letter and folded it in the jumper. And put the jumper into the gift bag. I'm gonna give it to him tmrr omg I'm so nervous. I don't wanna jinx it but I really do feel like he likes me too. 🤞🤞 | Crushes |
Who doesn't want a guy cares about her
She blocked me
She left me dead
She was never even my friend
Friend gone past
I loved her since i was 3
She ..... Loved many guys
But that list doesn't include me
Now she is with one guy who ain't good for her
How can I make her understand
She doesn't listen to me
That boy will ruin her whole life
Fucking Playboy
I wanna kill that bastard
But i can't she loves him😭😭😭😭😭😭😔😔😔 | Crushes |
Heya, my crush doesn't use social media, except snapchat to chat with me. I have noticed she isn't very social either and it makes talking with her hard.
Like she doesn't initiate contact, but responds when ever i contact her.
She is a bit shy and introverted too.
She is good at school and spends almost all all time time studuying or reading.
We have met multiple times, i have told her that i would like if she came up with plans or texts me first.
Sometimes she copies my texting habits. | Crushes |
Day after rejection fr, I mean their ex told me they were gay before I asked em out so it’s shouldn’t usually but knowing the people I hang out with even tho they said they would not I’m almost 100% he told her. So now out of my extreme awkwardness and anxiety I just gotta avoid them till the end of today cause I’m off tomorrow…. Then when I’m back the rest of the school year…. Should be fun, I just hope they don’t think I’m avoiding them just cause the idea of a relationship is gone but know I’m just being an awkward over thinker, if I was confident that everyone didn’t secretly hate me I would still talk to them tbh. | Crushes |
I’ve known her for around two years now and started liking her a few months ago. Luckily she’s in my core class so I get to talk to her all the time. One time in a health lesson we were watching a YouTube video and then she out of nowhere said my name so I looked at her and she had a bunch of glue on her fingers and said “This will give your W Rizz” and rubbed it on me. She then said “I just cummed on you!!!” And I just stared at her with the most confused face ever. She did that around 5 more times throughout the day. And today she did it around 3 times. In the two years I’ve known her she hasn’t been this weird. We usually hand out during lunch break and interval and me and some of my friends just talk with her and her friends, if that helps. Could this mean anything or just her joking around? Sorry for the paragraph lmao. You can check one of my other posts for a bit more info | Crushes |
Yesterday my sister found out that i’m having a crush on one of her friends. I never told her about it but alas.. my sis being sherlock, she found out.
Anyway, she said something along the line of:” you have no chance dude”. And honestly it got me thinking.
She’s right, I have absolutely no chance with this girl. She’s beautiful as beautiful can be and i’m no where near within her league. Heck, we barely talk. Like barely!
I’m going to confess anyway, hopefully towards the end of the year when I finish high school and go to uni. She’d probably return to her country (being an international student and all. Maybe she’ll stay for another year but I doubt it). Since we’d probably never see each other again, i guess there’s no harm in doing it. Not that she’d reciprocate but eh.
Hence the hopelessness of my predicament: having a crush on somebody i know doesn’t like me back, who I barely talk to, and even if she DOES like me back, there’s no chance of us being together anyway.
Why is always such a hard-fought battle for me? I’m just so tired of falling for someone only to find myself falling short at the end. Will it ever end?? Like i’m trying my best here goddamn it! Why is it always so fucking hard?? Not that I won’t try my best like I always do but man..i’m just so tired.
Character development i guess. Hey at least I got my gym habit locked in! Inspirations really do come in all shapes and sizes. Who needs pre-workout when you’re always on the verge of a hreatbreak lmao.(6 weeks straight baby!! Guess who benched 140lb today)
Btw, not that i’m hating on my sister, she’s cool. We’ve always been really frank with each other. I’ve hurt her feelings plenty of time too in crushes-related conversations. | Crushes |
I recently had a dream that was basically emphasizing my concerns about being too clingy to him, with me like nagging and quadruple texting him, things like that. By now, I haven’t reached out to him in like 3 weeks because of those concerns (which rooted from our last two convos, which I made posts about).
I was planning on texting him tomorrow to ask if he still wanted to go through with our plans we had made but now I’m overthinking it, I don’t want to come off as clingy or overbearing. If I do text him, it would probably be something like inviting him to but also insistently clarifying that if he doesn’t wanna then it’s fine. Idk tho, I’m not sure what to do anymore. Should I just not reach out? | Crushes |
We have met many times, watched movies and played board games, spend valentines day together but those were just casual things as friends like not a date date.
How can i ask her out on a date? Like how to make our meetings more like a date than just two friends hanging out awkwardly?
Should i playfully, talk about how being with her feels like a date or something?
I normally ask her that we should see another movie or do something else together and she always agrees, even if she has a busy day and it gets late.
I feel like after all our meetings and evenings together it would feel weird just to ask her "Do you want go on a date with me" :D
Or should i confess to her my feelings, and then just continue meeting with her like before and see how things change?
Sorry i have so lany questions and i left my diary at my parents place, i need someone to talk and get ideas from :D
We are both adults, studying at different schools. | Crushes |
okay this guy has a gf but idk i feel like he compliments me a little too much when he’s at work… like today he noticed i had a new nail polish color in my nails, literally ugly black that i did quickly, and he was like oh wow new nail polish color! it looks good? like dang why is he noticing these small details???? i don’t see him often either | Crushes |
I started to notice some signs recently but I don't know if they mean anything. My crush is pretty shy and a bit introverted.
1. Most times when something funny happens she looks at me to see my reaction(I kinda do the same with her)
2. She seems pretty happy to talk with me.
3. Last week we went climbing with the class and she encouraged me at every step I made(I did the same with her)
4. She blushes a bit when I come to talk to her
5. Her pinterest profile has a "soulmate board"(The board is full of pins that descripe a type of person and that type of person is very similar to me)
This is all I could see. Is she only friendly or she tries to send some signs? | Crushes |
I rushed i rushed alot i was desperate for love while true love was beside me all along i dont know how to express my shock and sadness i knew i rushed i knew i was too fast but i regret everything now i regret every single decision i made over the past 8 months every promise every cent i spent every hour i stayed awake for what ? For my desperation for my lust to be fulfilled by what i thot was love i thot it was the best decision i ever made but boy i was wrong, i know if i chose the other way it wouldn’t work im a coward pos im a coward for not chasing what i want instead of whats right i dont know how to fix this i cant even fix this im stuck im miserable if there would be any slight change in my circumstances id chose what i want id pick what my heart wants id go with my gut feelings im taking risks
“After i take my pill my pillow becomes ur chest then i sleep” | Crushes |
(F) I had a crush on my classmate (M) from last year and it was really fun. Butterflies mess with my stomach and my heart beats fast whenever I see him. I always get excited to come to school and become active in class. Overall, crushing him was a really good thing for me since I did better in school. But as months pass, these "feelings" I felt, became a nuisance rather than an advantage for me. I don't like how I stare at his back all day rather than listening, avoid him at all costs (cus im shy), be awkward when he's near, and all the disadvantages of having a crush. What's worst is that he likes another girl. All of those variables made me want these "feelings" gone, but uncrushing him was hard af especially since I see him at school! Therefore I decided to pour out what I felt for him—just to let him know I like him—not expecting anything at all. I talked to him in person after our last class and he said "ok" as a reply, and gave me a thumbs up. That is enough for me ig. The funny thing about it is that our teacher was at our back while I was confessing. Dude—💀.
Moral of the story: don't have a crush on a classmate; it's fun in the beginning, but it sucks after some time. | Crushes |
Hello! Imma summarize as much as possible, but this requires a lot of context, so feel free to ask more questions if you’d like.
I (F24) went in for a psychic reading on 11/12/22 . I moreso went in because I needed career guidance ‘cause my 20’s are kicking my ass, but i just let my psychic tell me whatever stuck out to her to start off. About 5> minutes into my reading she kept mentioning a little girl, like elementary age, was going to come into my life. I don’t know how… cause 1) i hate kids, so i wouldn’t be in a position to be around kids 2) no one in my immediate life is going to have or has kids that age.
We couldn’t figure it out, so she moved on. After i got my career stuff answered she asked “anymore questions?” ….of course i wanna know about my love life so i asked about it. She said “You’ve been thinking about a past relationship recently.”
and i have.
“You’re going to be in a relationship with them.”
…ah.
Here’s the thing, I had a crush on a classmate/ kinda neighbor (now M24) from 6th-8th grade. Summer before high school he moved states, (tho his mother and sister still live in the house by me), but despite him being very prominent in my life for those 3 years that i knew him, in my mind that chapter was over after he moved. Flash forward to 2022, I never even thought about him, like girl, that was 12 years ago 😭, BUT all of a sudden they kept being on my mind a very abnormal amount. So I did a cord cutting (a ritual to sever energetic ties with someone or something. look up a video for better understanding if you’d like!) I had to let go of them, and I WANT TO.
But according to the ritual they wouldn’t let our cord go despite my efforts. I also used my later pendulum and asked “are they coming back into my life? is this why i keep thinking about them.”
The answer was: yes.
At this point I knew they were coming back into my life, i just didn’t know when. 😐
Back to the reading: After she told me that i was shocked that what I was thinking was right…. And then it hit me…. He has an elementary school aged daughter…. and he’s a single parent.
Everything was lining up too perfectly for me to assume she was alluding to anyone else. Other things she said in my reading have came true already. I checked their socials after all these years and they aren’t a bad person, they’re actually great, we have a lot of things in common and he has a very impressive career, (and he’s fine as hell.) But there are other things that make me not want to pursue him and i actually would want to avoid this situation tbh!! 😭 Sounds like it’ll be draining.
TLDR; Psychic told me that my middle school crush is coming back into my life and that we’d date, but i don’t want that to happen lmao. | Crushes |
My crush and I have been friends for months until this Monday. We confessed to each other, and are trying a long-distance relationship. Found out today that her birthday is next Friday, and was planning on trying to do something for her. First off, would it be weird to do something? Second of all, any suggestions as to something sweet could I do for her since I’m so limited to only doing something online? | Crushes |
literally ask anything, I’ll answer lol | Crushes |
I'm curious if people dream about their crushes, and if so, what kind of dream is it? Personally, I didn't have any dreams while I had a crush on my crush/gf. | Crushes |
as someone who can be quite bad at deciphering platonic from romantic feelings, it's especially hard to tell it with other people—especially my crush.
currently, i (F) like a guy and have been for a bit now. i noticed on two occasions we have just stared at each other, neither breaking eye contact unless necessary (classwork, etc). we also just make eye contact in general, though not too often. i also think the eye contact may be because he might know, but that's more of a suspicion i have.
many times, he has made comments to what i say even if i wasn't talking to him, and sometimes talk to me out of the blue. though, one thing to note is he does this with a lot of people, so that isn't special.
i always seem to see him around me, though maybe i'm drifting towards him? the whole thing is confusing and if i need to explain more, then i do not mind. so, could he possibly like me? i don't want to get out of my head or anything.
TLDR: crush and i have made prolonged eye contact, he sometimes comments on my conversations even when not directed at him, seems to always be around | Crushes |
So, recently I've been complimenting this girl I like. I never compliment anyone and for some reason, even before I had a crush on her, I complimented her a couple of times.
She knows I like her too and she says she appreciates the compliments I give her. Which is really nice.
But I just want to get better at complimenting. Complimenting on more things and making those compliments more meaningful rather than quite generic. | Crushes |
Hello, so I’m an 18 year old male who’s never dated and has minimal social skills when talking to someone privately. I thought it was about time I started putting a little more effort towards finding someone I can get into a relationship with sooner rather than later. I met this girl at my buddy’s party and we’ve been snapping ever since, just no talking. I want to try and get to know her and talk more, I just don’t know how to start. Every time I say I’m gonna say something, I overthink it and I never do it (just a small problem I have in life lol). So really I just need a little encouragement and advice to get myself to do it, thanks. | Crushes |
Ayo be careful there’s a fucking weirdo in this subreddit dming people saying something like “It's possible your crush likes you very much and thinks about you all the time
What do you want to do most with them”
I find it fucking weird m8, get out of here because it insinuates sexually. | Crushes |
me and the guy i like have an amazing chemistry when we're around each other. we live far away due to the fact we study at university in different cities, so the chances to see each other often are low. i know he likes me and he knows i like him too so is it safe to assume he doesn't want to text me because of the distance? or maybe cause we haven't achieved the right amount of intimacy and comfort with each other? since we don't know each other well i thought maybe he wants to get to know me in person first before starting to keep in touch; but if we're apart almost all the time i see no other way to talk than texting. when i had the chance to text him (kinda with an excuse but whatever) i took it without thinking twice but he just doesn't seem to do the same. i don't know if i should just get over him or hope for some changes. | Crushes |
So there's a girl in one of my classes (we are both 15-16) and we have been talking for a couple weeks. Nothing particularly flirtatious just friendly conversation. Anyways we are both on vacation over spring break and the past couple days we've been texting during the evening for an hour or two before she has to go do other things.
I didn't end up texting her today because I was worried I was being annoying by trying to talk to her so much but is an unfounded worry? Thanks. | Crushes |
I (23 F) have a crush on a co worker (M), I'm kind of new in my job so I don't know him that well, but we did talked a few times. I don't think that he's interested in me since whenever we walk home he's always trying to talk with other co-workers, who are also men, and doesn't really talk to me. It's not that I have never made any effort to strike a conversation, but they're just really casual.
This doesn't bother me, but whenever he talks to other female co-workers, especially when they're laughing and all that, I feel that I'm not even competent and just want to give up. This is probably because of low self esteem due to years of bullying and belittling by my classmates, but I can't help it. Does anyone feel the same way? | Crushes |
Hey I am in 8th grade and I have a crush named Alyssa and ever since end of September I have had a crush on her. I think she used to like me but I didn’t pull the trigger out of risk of her ruining me. (She is popular) today I heard from my friends that she likes someone else. My friends play tricks on me a lot but I’m not so sure. Pleas does anyone have advice to find out without being a creep or give me ways to admit. | Crushes |
https://youtu.be/eJjRV4VFQxk | Crushes |
Ok, so, I’m a (F), (and yes also a teenager keep in mind.) while my crushes are also my age or about a year older. For the sake of privacy I will not disclose the exact age, but I feel it’s important to add that we are teenagers for better understanding.
About the first boy:
Let’s call him L. I’ve known him since last year summer, and met him through my cousin. They were best friends from about 1st grade, so very close. We connected almost immediately, and apparently, he had shown interest fairly quickly, he also gave me his number privately away from our gc we were in. He would do a lot of things a crushing teenage boy would do, unfortunately I was very oblivious and didn’t understand, so I denied to him that he liked me and kept the fact I didn’t like him away even though it was obvious I did. After a while, he got pretty annoyed I wcould deny his compliments and would tell him otherwise of hope he felt, which I completely get why, bc I was an asshole to him. We stopped talking for a few months until November of last year, when he had a girlfriend, due to me needing support from him in a situation I was going through. We have been talking since then. So, around the time we started talking again, maybe around Christmas time, his girlfriend and him broke up because she was cheating in him with another guy, (they are still together I believe.) he's even still getting over her, and is struggling quite hard from it. He was really confident aabout himself, but now he's insecure, but he is completely aware I am crushing on him. He stopped talking to my cousin even because of how he was treating me and would stand up for me. I have told him numerous times I love him, and I truly do, to which he has also said he loves me too, but told my friend he doesn't want to be with me because he felt like he wasn't good enough, and because I'm long distance temporarily, also because he's not ready for a serious relationship. Here's the thing however, his friend recently showed interest in me, and likes me, but for some reason, he keeps intervening, talking bad about me to the new friend and would even tell him that I wouldn't like him like I do L, (the guy who I do like, and I made this post about.) he has even flirted with me and would compliment my looks, etc. But he's touch and go, he'll do it and then become very distant for a week or two, and then repeat. He has no problem talking to others girls a lot, but for some reason he won't with me. My friend and him talk a bunch, and he has said a ton of good things about me to her, but never directly to me, he keeps sending mixed signals. I really wish he did like me, because I do love him and appreciate him. He also complains and says the girls he talks to don't like him when he does them, but will ignore the fact I like him. The only time he awknoledges it is around my friend, which they are close and are good friends, but she has a boyfriend so they don't have (that) type of relationship. I need advice on him, and I really hope he does like me. I'm sorry if I sound stupid.
About the second boy:
Ok so, this boy is at my school, and is one of the newest students, (he came a month after I started because I myself was new.) lets call him B. He's really cute and I'm pretty sure he’s my age, maybe older. We’re in the same grade and we have the same first period. He got seated next to me and I even started some conversations next to him, but he was pretty nervous it seemed, but not to others. He made friends to others quickly but never talked to me. The part that got me was, he stared or would glance at me a TON. we moved seats and I got seated next to him again, but still no conversation, and he even has no problem talking to other girls. Every time he walks in class, he immediately glances at me, every time I walk by, he glances or stares, it's strange but idk. It could also be that I'm pretty developed than other girls, but others don't glance as much as he does. I never hear anything about me from him though, and again, he won't look at me if he has to have a conversation with me. He seemed annoyed even. Anytime im around how ever, he talks about sexual things to his friends, but not to anyone else apparently. What should I do? I want to talk to him more but he might think I'm weird and probably doesn't like me at all, even though I like him a bit.
What do these behaviors mean? And of course I'll try to update consistently on information needed. Hopefully someone understands what I'm experiencing 😅 | Crushes |
I've been feeling so insecure lately. I've recently been to a convention with my crush. It was an anime conventions so there were many good body looking dudes n ladies with their abs photos for sale. My crush went to look at them and she said she wanted to buy one but is embarrassing to do so bc her parents would see it when she goes back home. Idk why but I got so jealous, I asked her 'would u really buy that?' and she said 'yeah who wouldn't'. Ughhh I feel so disgusted abt my own body after that. Obviously I don't have a 6 pack. I'm just normal and after that a few days later one of her best friends got into MIT, this guy that got into MIT also got into Oxford Uni. He's a maths Olympian very smart n has a nice personality. I feel like she might be going after him but idk, the only think I've heard abt this guy is that he's her best friend. For context, I'm also considered her best friend. But just looking at him (MIT guy) n the guys at the convention with cool lean bodies just makes me feel so insecure and like who would want me right? I'm average at best, but I'm trying to change that, I want to be better but I just feel like my efforts are always not enough. I'm not smart enough, I'm not good looking enough, I'm not skilled enough, I'm just never enough. | Crushes |
I developed a massive crush on my coworker, I made it very obvious I’m flirting with him, but staying within professional boundaries because I don’t want to sexually harass him (as in I’m not like holy shit you’re hot af, more like making excuses to talk to him and follow him around, staying after work to talk when I’m not on the the clock). I’m pretty sure he was flirting with me as well (touching my arm, showing up in the sections I work frequently, winks at me). But now I’m wondering is this fucker single? 😂😂 did I just fall into the trap of “they’re just being friendly”. Nobody knows if he’s dating anybody btw which is a thick RIP. I texted him today for work related reasons with a meme shoved in there and he didn’t even “lol” just responded professionally. Rest in pieces | Crushes |
she was so sweet and nice about it!! I had a crush on him for so long but I was always scared, I’m so glad he confessed I am very happy | Crushes |
So I confessed to a girl and she said she might like me back but doesn't know. Where do I go from here? What does that mean? Like we've talked about dating before. | Crushes |
So basically- I wanna start talking this guy and I feel like starting off with giving him a compliment would be the easiest since talking about interests or anything along those lines would be so awkward and random since we've NEVER spoken before. But Idk how to compliment him!! He always wears only black and navy blue, he doesn't wear any swagger, so my options are very limited. I was thinking of saying, "your face is nice", but I feel like it's weird... But I don't wanna say "you're cute" or whatever like that 'cuz at least with the awkward one it's a bit funny to take the edge off... Yet at the same time it's weird enough to CREATE the edge.
Anyway, please lmk any compliments that work 😵 | Crushes |
So there’s this girl in my class. I never really talked to her, and it was fine, until a month or two ago, a bunch of kids in my class who weren’t my friends, some of them being her friends, were saying she had a crush on me. She looked all embarrassed, and I just assumed that they were teasing her, and she didn’t really like me. Over the next two months, they would occasionally come up to me and say I should sit with her or something. I’ve overheard them telling her to sit with me, even when I wasn’t in the conversation. So what do you guys think, does she actually have a crush, or are they teasing. | Crushes |
So I’ve been dming my crush on instagram for a month and she was nice, but I always had to dm first. I asked for her number, she gave it and I still have to text first. I feel conflicted whether she likes me or not because I’ve made eye contact with her, she smiled at me, and she tried talking to me once. So maybe she isn’t attracted to me but maybe she just needs someone to be her friend. I haven’t talked to her in person, but I’ll see her tomorrow and I will try to say hi and maybe I’ll stop her and try to have a conversation with her like she’s my friend, just saying hey how was your weekend or hows your day. If I see that she might like me, I might call her and confess because I don’t wanna do it in person. But if she doesn’t look like she likes me, I might just try and get friendzoned | Crushes |
I have the biggest crush on this boy and I’m about to text him. I never talked to him before what do I say I’m so nervoussss! | Crushes |
i just need to gush abt how stupidly great he is even tho he does drive me crazy sometimes | Crushes |
before I begin,
I know— coworkers should be off limits, and that is why I am here rather than trying to come onto the guy. But alas, I needed someone to talk to so very badly about this and I know very few people in this new town I’m in.. so Reddit it is.
Hi, 21F here. I wouldn’t call it a crush by definition, I don’t know the guy well, we chat here and there and it is always lovely (and sometimes awkward when I realize just how good he looks and my tongue gets all fat) BUT, I’ve been *interested* in him since I .. started I suppose? I had no time to consider that when I was in training spending masses of time with him, but I appreciated that he was stunning and just .. there. Eye candy, nothing more.
Recently that interest has just grown at an exponential rate and nothing has changed to spur that along? I just.. really began to notice him. Now I don’t know if the guy has a girlfriend (or.. bf.. it is 2023) He isn’t flirty, I can say that confidently. There is absolutely ZERO hint of a reciprocated .. ‘interest’: and it has me ready to jump ship & get far from this man to save myself from thinking about his laugh & his hands. I know exactly why I find him to be so painfully attractive, he is incredibly smart, his sense of humor aligns with mine, he dresses well, has assisted me countless times when in deep waters or dealing with some not so good things, & the whole ‘tall dark and handsome’ thing really works for him.
I am usually pretty confident when it comes to my .. pursuits. But something about him just takes the words out of my mouth, I don’t have ‘feelings’ for him as I don’t know the guy, but I wouldn’t mind knowing him. I want to know why the sight of him gives me such a strong visceral reaction, attraction isn’t enough for me so why him— ykno? and I can’t just ask the guy out, not without a clear sign of at least ANYTHING.
Not because I’m nervous (I am) and shy (sometimes) but because who wants to risk making someone they see every day: uncomfortable? Not me. I can stand a rejection, but I can’t stand the most awkward office parties of my life if he doesn’t take it well. He seems very professional, very invested in his work and who am I to break that peace?
I wish I could signal my interest, be less anxious around him to pull him in as well. Frustrated with myself for clamming up in conversations that I could have spent getting to know him. Ugh, I vex myself. | Crushes |
I'm not 100% sure he has a gf and I don't know how can I ask him discreetly to confirm it without being obvious that I have a crush on him bc we don't know each other that well (we are lab mates at my uni) and our convos lately are limited to "hey what's up". Do you have any ideas? | Crushes |
I should be used to falling for straight guys by now but I guess I’m not.
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So there is this guy in a few of my classes. He’s literally perfect. He’s tall, athletic, handsome, an honor student, funny, and has a voice like ASMR. Though we aren’t close, we share some mutual friends. Recently, I asked one of our mutual friends about his sexuality and relationship status. I was told that he was straight and therefore unattainable.
I’m devastated. I’ve been crushing on him for several months and now we’re going to different colleges and since we don’t have each other’s numbers or social media, we’ll never see each other again. Even though I know we won’t be in a romantic or sexual relationship, I’d still love a platonic one with him. I’m bad at getting over people in general, but this is made so much worse because he’s absolutely perfect. Although I still want a friendship with him, I’m afraid that my unrequited romantic feelings for him will essentially ruin the chance of any kind of relationship with this guy. How do I deal with this? | Crushes |
An update about my last post.
I invited her out for some coffee and we talked, I told her I had feelings for her which went well. up to the point where she told me that shes now seeing someone else in which she let me down gently and that we're just very good friends. This happened very recently
Apparently all the signals I got was just in friendly jest. The kissing, handholding and all that was just it. Friendly. I just don't get it at all.. | Crushes |
MY BEST FRIEND TOLD ME THAT LIYAG (Codename) WAS USING THE PENCILS I BOUGHT FOR HIM IN HIS SPANISH CLASS ANSNCIEIWJJBAIAQOEORFBBEHWUQBBWSB
And I was very shocked because I didn’t really see him use it in some of the classes we share, but hearing that makes me so happy and I’m glad Liyag is using them 🥹💞💞💞
It feels so weird though, he’s a popular white boy and I always talk so much smack about those kind of kids in my school but now I DONT KNOW ANYMORE 😭😭😭 HES MAKING ME CRAZY AND I WANT TO CONFESS JUST SO HE CAN REJECT ME OR WHATEVER AND I WOULD MOVE ON
THIS IS NOT WHAT I WAS EXPECTING, IM DYING BRO 😢
He’s so pretty, his eyes are beautiful, HES JUST STUNNINGG!!! Liyag is mad goofy and funny too 🥹
BRO THIS FEELING IS LITERALLY KILLING ME, I WANT TO CRY IN MY PILLOW
(IDK IF IM USING THE FLAIR CORRECTLY BUT I HOPE I AM) | Crushes |
MY BEST FRIEND TOLD ME THAT LIYAG (Codename) WAS USING THE PENCILS I BOUGHT FOR HIM IN SPANISH ANSNCIEIWJJBAIAQOEORFBBEHWUQBBWSB
And I was very shocked because I didn’t really see him use it in some of the classes we share, but hearing that makes me so happy and I’m glad Liyag is using them 🥹💞💞💞
It feels so weird though, he’s a popular white boy and I always talk so much smack about those kids but now I DONT KNOW ANYMORE 😭😭😭 HES MAKING ME CRAZY AND I WANT TO CONFESS JUST SO HE CAN REJECT ME OR WHATEVER AND I WOULD MOVE ON
THIS IS NOT WHAT I WAS EXPECTING, IM DYING BRO 😢 | Crushes |
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I’m a M16 highschooler.
There is a girl I like one grade below me, but the tricky part is I don’t talk to her and never had.
She is a pretty shy girl who’s always with her friend (who might know that im into her, because she most likely heard something she shouldn’t have) besides that I’m lucky if I see her once a day, since we don’t share any class.
How do I start making any moves? I’ve never been in this sitation and don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing. That friend especially makes it way harder 😄
extra unnecessary info: I know that the friend of her suggested to talk to me like 6 months ago, but I didn’t know that at the time. Tho, ever since that time i’ve had some what of a glow up. | Crushes |
I just wanted to get this off my chest so feel free to read if you’d like :) me and this boy started talking a while ago and rlly got along. We fall asleep on ft almost every night, his friends all know who i am, he sends me tt of couples and asks to recreate them, he even told his mom about me. a few days ago he gave me his hoodie and even sprayed it in his cologne. But yesterday he told me how he wanted to call me his and told me he loved me. hes so sweet and perfect 💕 i just really needed to get this off my chest because he making me go crazy 💕😭😭 | Crushes |
Im curious is here other bit older folks? I recently got so damn hard crush on one girl 27 and I think I messed it up today. Shes single with 2 kids and I have kids too. I frozed when was asking her out. She said shes not dating generally. And I guess we have quite busy life at this stage but every now and then would be nice to have some friend with maybe deeper connection. And I actually thought shes in to me how shes looking at me. But I think I was too streight with my point asking her to date. Since I kinda know we both have life wich is not at the moment okey for actual relationship.
But damn this crush was hard. Didn't even know Im still capable for this. I will meet her anyway time to time. I quess I keep smiling at her since what ever I could :)
Do you think I should ask her for a coffee later if she keeps smiling at me because I think she will.. | Crushes |
I've had a crush on this guy for 2 years and honestly I'm 30% sure he has one on me too.
Cute stuff he does:
-Last year I was working on an exam I missed in our classroom, I needed a paper so I asked a friend that was next to me but she didn't have one, 2 seconds later he calls my name ( he sits in the other side of class) and asks me if i need a paper while he's holding it, mind you I didn't look over at his direction at all, butterflies were escaping holy moly. He also took a paper from his notebook and pretended that he needed to throw it in the trashcan and whispered " do u need any help?" I said no and thanked him and he went. AAA
-Last last year he once asked me if I can give him this little toy thingie that I accidentally put in my pocket and I agreed, to this day he reminds me of it and sent a picture of it on his hand too.
-This year I feel like since we're not in the same class anymore I kinda backed off since for me I feel nervous around him and only had the courage to talk to him because we were in the same class, he doesn't talk to me much irl ( just the occasional hand shake greeting) but sends me memes etc. on instagram.
What should I do? I'm not sure if I should keep holding on to this or if i should let go and move on. I'm afraid I'm too attached since its been almost 3 years. I Kinda wanna get the courage to talk to him more | Crushes |
Me and this girl (crush) we have been talking for about a week (i know its not a long time ). Facetiming almost everynight. We would tell eachother that we loved eachothers and even did some dirty talk. But one time she told me that she was tired (it was 4pm) and i told her gn because i didnt know what else to tell her. She told me that it was like I didnt care and that I just wanted to move on with the convo to talk to someone else (which is not true) so I told her that it was not the case and that i didnt mean it like that. She ghosted me. Later that night she told me that she was sorry and I told her that I didnt really understand what happened and she answered with ":/". Then I told her if she wanted to facetime. She told me she has homework to do so I said "ok". The day after that I send a snap that she didnt opened and later that day(which is yesterday) I texted her and basically said why are you ignoring me and that i missed her. She still didnt opened. I dont know what to do if I should move on or that she was busy. I just dont know what to do man, I really liked her. (English is not my first language so their might be some errors) | Crushes |
Hey, I'm here for help and I need to get this off my chest since I don't feel like I can confide in any of my other friends since its pretty obvious I have a crush on her abd since I'm pretty emotional in general (crying, not anger or anything). I'm F20 (also autistic and sapphic) and I have a crush on my friend (18, I don't want to reveal too much info about her tho since idk if she's on reddit or not but ik she's on tiktok and ik reddit stories get posted there a lot).
We are in the same uni class and we are gonna be on the same course next year (animation). Idk if this is good context but I instantly felt attracted to her the moment I first saw her but I was too shy to approach and yeah, I usually listened into her conversations with our mutuals - trying to get to know her interests and stuff better and yeah. We first started to actually talk in November/December after I accidentally left my milk carton in the uni cupboard (we don't have a fridge) causing it to explode and she cleaned it up despite my insistence that I'd do it once I got to uni. We then started a discord server with our other uni friends since it was easier to communicate on and we often played minecraft and talked on voice. And we've hung out ever since.
I love everything about her. Her appearance, voice, laughter, smile, she's funny. Everything. I always feel happy around her and I feel like if I tell her about my crush on her, one of three things will happen. Either she reciprocates and we start dating, she rejects me and I become so awkward, I end up pushing her away or the last option (what my anxiety tells me the most) being that she rejects me and drops me as a friend since she finds me weird or something.
There's also instances where she just flirts with with me or what I think is flirting. Like she'll just causally and playfully hit me and often makes small playful comments to me which tend to make me flustered and stutter. Idk if she's actually flirting or is being a normal person socialising.
What I'm trying to say is, I need help/advice confessing to her and moving on if she rejects me. Everytime I try to confess, she's often invaded by our other friends or I get so nervous I can't. I've written a note that tells her how I feel and I initially planned on giving it today without thinking about the aftermath too much.
Thanks for any help given. | Crushes |
The odds are against me fr. She's probably out of my league and she's a bit older than me. We've never interacted other than some insignificant eye contact. We recently had a group project (we're in different groups) and she was in the first group that presented. I'm thinking about asking her a question after class about what she presented(to break the ice),then depending on how she reacts to me talking with her, asking her if she's free after class to grab a coffee or a snack with me. Do I go for it? | Crushes |
I don't know, I feel bad for thinking about them still, I don't really have any intention of doing anything, or even talking to them at all at this point, but still I find myself thinking about them sometimes
Is this ok? Should I be worried about the fact that I still think about them or anything? | Crushes |
A little context: Me (15M) and my friend (15FTM, henceforth referred to as ‘Jake’) are in our first year of high school and have known each other since grade 6. In 7th grade, Jake told me he liked me and we entered into a ‘relationship’ until the middle of 8th, when we amicably split but remained on good terms. We’ve been just friends ever since.
Main Events: A few days ago, Jake found out that the feelings he had for his crush were not mutual. He was pretty shaken up, so I did my best to be a good friend and help him through it. I brought him his favorite candy and tried to support him, but as we were leaving class he told me he needed a hug. I answered his request and we held the hug for a good few seconds, before making our way to our separate classes. I thought about it the whole day, but had mostly disregarded it by the time school was done.
After school was done, I was at home playing video games when Jake texted me, asking if I could go to the school musical with him. I agreed, and came back to school to watch it with him. At first we were just chilling together, but by the end of our time at school we’d hugged again once, and he’d put his head on my shoulder several times. His melancholy demeanor from earlier had mostly gone away, and had initiated all but one of the head-shoulder-rests. After the play, we went to dinner together and shared a pizza before my mom drove him home as he rested his head on my shoulder one last time. Before he entered his house, he gave me one last hug.
In the following days, I’ve found myself thinking about Jake more and more, and I think I’m starting to have a crush on him. I don’t really want to tell him because of the history between us, and because of what happened with his previous crush. What should I do? | Crushes |
My friend and I had a deep convo today about our crushes and he's like okay, why don't we both message them, and I said okay maybe later - ofcourse knowing I wouldn't and he wouldn't either
But now he's threatening me that if I don't then he'll tell my crush about it
I want to message him, but I don't want to seem weird. It's also not that strong of a crush because he is a toxic person but how do I tell my friend that without him making it seem like I'm making excuses? | Crushes |
Me and my crush keep on looking at each other and stealing glances, so he may like me. SOO, he never saw me without my mask off and today, he saw my face while i was applying chapstick on my lips. A while later, I hear him tell his friend that I look alright or not bad and how my lips are big. I mean I'm not surprised at his comment bc he never saw my face before, so ofc he'll think I look different. Normally, people always think and tell me that I'm pretty when I have my mask on because my eyes are pretty. When they see me without my mask, I could tell they're disappointed bc I don't look as pretty as what they believe I would look like. I'm not entirely surprised at my crush's comment, but I still do feel a bit sad even tho he didn't say I was ugly. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
so a friend put heart emoji’s next to my crushes contact this morning and I just found out, so it was like that the whole afternoon and I had my phone open when I sat next to her | Crushes |
So i was 90% sure they liked me back but i confessed and they replied with ”😧LET ME THINK FOR A LITTLE BIT🤭” and idk if it’s because she lives 5h away from me and she doesn’t like long distance and we have never met up but i’m frustrated because it’s not a no but it’s not a yes | Crushes |
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okay!!! So Idk where the hell I got the idea of not talking to each other for months, like who does it by themselves???? no- one right? but here i’m I told him about the stuff I read on a social media platform and got influenced by it, yeah and the idea was not talking with each other for months. i know it’s a really ridiculous idea, but I wanna know who is going to win this. I’m pretending like as if I don’t know I’m going to loose it first, but maybe I just wanna know how much he cares. It’s stupid ik but it’s kinda fun too
what do u think?? (instead of thinking of me a psychopath)
**Blaze** | Crushes |
Just a random question because I dont know how I should kiss a girl. Does anyone know? :) | Crushes |
So, I know my crushes birthday now! I know bc of the title you guys probably thought it was bigger than that but for me this is huge. SOOOO i just looked it up, he's a cancer. I"M A SCORPIO AND THEY ARE COMPATABLE SO LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOOO! sorry but like im sooooooooo excited about this jkdhsnhsakknfks ahhhhhhhh. holy fricking god
So, I didn't even have to ask so it wasnt weird at all. Basically we were doing this activity at our swim practice. Basically any March and April birthdays get to go through a "splash machine" (everyone else just kicks really hard and makes a huge splash for them to swim through). And neither of us are march or april, so were in line kicking. I sat beside him bc why not. So we were talking and he was like my birthday is \_\_\_\_\_ (i'm not saying it bc thats too personal). I made a joke about it and said mine so it wasn't weird. But yes i cant believe this is happeningggg. I don't even believe in astrology that much but like just another thing. Im practically hyperventilating rn omfg. | Crushes |
I've been talking to someone who seems to either be falling hard for me or experiencing limerence: the first part of each is the same. She has trouble eating or sleeping and obsesses over me, thinking about me all the time and experiencing so much distress that she keeps blocking and unblocking me.
But I was thinking: what if I were to tell her about all my flaws and a few stories of times I messed up. Could that help her feel better by making her realize I'm not perfect, while also making it more possible for us to associate in a healthy way?
Because I was reading limerence can turn into love... Is there anything I could do to help with that process and protect her heart? Or is the best thing I can do for her to never talk to her again? | Crushes |
we sat in class and tallked so much and not even hear people call us bc we were so invested in our convo.then there was some distance between us and suddenly she sat with me texted and hugged like crazy then again there is a sexual tension between us and people think we are dating. one morning she looked at me deep in the eyes when we were alone.what should i do.i like her and i think she likes me. | Crushes |
I have been developing a crush, but he keeps popping up into my mind this week. (we've been out of school)
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So there’s this guy in one of my classes who I think might like me, and I kinda started crushing on him because of that. He’s been showing signs but I can’t tell if he is being genuine with them or if he’s just playing. Whenever he sees me at my locker or talks to me in class, he asks me how I’m doing, multiple times even. He’s always making silly af faces at me that make me laugh every time, and sometimes he laughs with me. In our class, he tries to be as close to me as possible. He often moves to the desk directly next to mine, and once tried to trade places with the person sitting across from me. He’s always smiling / in a good mood when he talks to me. And to top it all off, he rated me an 11 out of 10 the last time I saw him… so yeah. I’m used to being played so I’m somewhat lost. Is he just messing around or does he actually like me? | Crushes |
he asked me to join him at target for black friday, and i’m gonna suggest ice cream or something afterwards! waaaaaahhhh :D | Crushes |
I went to my friend's (we'll call him Jason) birthday pre-game last week, and a friend from high school was there (we'll call her Sarah). Sarah and I caught up and she mentioned that Jason thought I was cute when we first met. I was taken aback because I had no knowledge of this. \*I\* thought Jason was cute when we first met, but I never acted on it since I assumed he wanted to be just friends. So I'm sitting there taking this all in as Sarah is telling me how she and Jason talk about me frequently, and how she has been pushing him to ask me out for a while now.
The night goes on, and we head to the bars. I'm reading into things now knowing that Jason has (or had?) a crush on me. We have a good time, nothing out of the ordinary. At one point, Sarah and Jason were at the bar getting drinks, and Sarah comes back to tell me what her and Jason talked about. Apparently, they were talking about me and Jason said something about how he "doesn't want to ruin the friendship". The night ends, and we head home. Sarah texted me that she would keep trying to get Jason to ask me out, but I reassured her not to force anything.
Nothing has happened since, and I'm not sure if I should do anything with this newfound information. We graduate from college next semester (in about 5 months), too. I just think it might be too good to be true and, besides, why rush into something when I don't even know if he still has feelings for me?
SOS. | Crushes |
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