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So I had a dream that a random girl that I don't even like went on a date with me and now I feel like I like her irl. She is friends with what was my crush but now I like her and can't stop thinking about her. I feel like it's weird how I can suddenly change from one dream cuz now I don't care about my old crush?!?! | Crushes |
So I met her in 3rd class. By that time I didn't understand I liked her, but what I understand (now) that she likes me (not confirmed :D ). So years passed and in like 5 or 6 class I understand that I love her. But at that time she started to be friends with older guy (looks like they was couple but I'm not sure). There was moments I thought I like her: like she wanted do same projects in class and etc. BUT I was a jerk. I was skill kind of rookie in class and wanted to be with that "popular kids" so I did stupid things: act like idiot to make another peoples happy, making fun of girls (and her). We all boys was bunch of jerks (thats why a lot of girls left our class and go to another class I assume). So she left our school because of our bulling (I think). From that day then I saw her crying I started hating myself. I really hate myself until now. I promised that I will never make her sad. So years passed we didnt talked and my love to her still was. ( There was times then we meet eachother because i live not that far). Her life in another school was great. Class was good, teacher was good (1 teacher was jerk, but all schools have that kind of teacher). So last summer we started to talk in discord. From discord started to meet up. You know from that long time starting with you crush was strange, scary and funny. I was hyped. Until her my all friends was guys from school. She helped me to meet new friends who are awesome peoples, I had to someone to talk. It was good. Really good like for introvert. Yes i'm introvert that's why I couldnt meet new peoples and tell that i'm feeling to her. So she said she wants to meet, said it's gonna be our friends from discord (which I never saw in irl only from webcams). Then I come I saw her and another guys. She looked stunning (ofc i couldnt tell her because I'm idiot and I was scared). So I meet my friends. They were cool and good guys. We had fun together. My plan was to take her in private and tell my feelings. The worst she can say is no. But then I saw one guy. That guy was that kind of "f*ck boy" tipes dude. They was super close to each other : they go together, she wears his shirt and etc . They look like couple. "Fuck boy" style boy vs dude who is overweight. Not fair huh. So I didnt said her anything. My heart broke. But also i feeled eased. Because I saw her smile. Her beautiful smile. When she was with me she smiled not a lot. And I though that it's time. It's time to let her go. I loved her and I wanted to be with me, but what I really want to her be happy. So after all that meeting I leaved first. It's still hurts then your loved human is not with you. Days passed we still were friends. After some time I heard that she broke with him. When I talked she was sad. It hurts. I promised myself to not make her sad. But kinda it's my mistake. If I would say to her that I love her maybe we would be couple. Anyways she forget him. So weeks passed. She invited me again to meet her. I meet her. She said she invited few of her classmates ( she is type of girl who is more friends with boys than girls and have a lot of boy friends) so then I met them. Sixpacks, dream haircuts - "f*uck boy" style dudes. Again. Out of my league. So u know we before that spend a lot of time together but she is very close to one of that classmates. His u know dream boyfriend - good looking, good grades, funny, have good hobby, live near her, spending time with her and etc. So again my hope just dissapear. But that time for real. I understand that I can trust that dude. His good guy. And she deserves good guy. Not scum like me. So let's go to these days - I'm trying to forget her (but simply can't), she spending time with him and his friends. I trying to push her away like not talking with her and etc. It's hurts. I read that I need cut all conections with her but dimply I can't. She is the one who help me find new friends. Shes the one who help me to do something in my free time. One of my good friends is because of her. I don't know what to do. Honestly. Lost her and my friends and be alone like before last summer, or still feeling pain in heart, but talk with her and her friends. 7+ years I have feelings for her, but I didnt manage to say her that. Im stupid.
"I am stupid"
-Charles Leclerc
Anyways thanks for reading this, and if you have questions or suggestions you can comment (and ofc I waiting your critic how tf i didnt manage to confess her my feelings in 7+ years 💀) | Crushes |
So he hasn't coming to school at all for most of the week and he showed up today, and he's doing everything again.
I'm trying so hard to avoid him but it hard because how much I like him i keep trying to deny he might like me, but who stares at another person like he does.. I'm not even sure if him and his girlfriend are together anymore.
He's so irritating, but I want him really bad I wanna get over him but I feel like it's only so much longer till we might actually start talking If he's not with his girlfriend anymore.
I try to stare at him back but I'm to shy..
Any ideas what I should do? | Crushes |
So I been texting with this girl for a while now, and I’m not sure if she interested. For starters she doesn’t ask me any questions, and she seem like she doesn’t want to get to know me better but she said something that makes it seem like she is, she asked if she can see a photo of me, so I did and she said that I’m so cute, which made me blush so hard. The next day we were texting than she said “I want to see your face” which surprised me because it sound like she interested, I did and she said “you so cutee”. She show me her face and she also so cute, but like she is interested, cause the whole conversation feel one sided, cause I’m always asking thing like, “how was your day”, “how are you”, “what your interests” stuff like that, and she doesn’t ask me the same thing. So I just need advice, and I just want to know if she interested or not. | Crushes |
So last night I posted this: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12kdi7o/gonna\_tell\_him\_tomorrow/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12kdi7o/gonna_tell_him_tomorrow/)
Where I said I was gonna confess to him today. Well, I did. I told him I think he's gorgeous inside and out and would love to get to know him better and if he's single in the fall, I'd love to change that. He said he didn't feel the same way but that I was a "dope friend" and he wanted to keep it that way.
I feel good. Low risk, high reward. I did what I wanted and got my expected outcome. Nothing earth shattering. | Crushes |
So me and my crush have a class together. We haven’t talked at all pretty much but I do notice us making eye contact most times. Recently I’m the halls and stuff when I pass her with her friends they start laughing and she gets all squeamish and stuff. Like quickly leaving while her friends giggle or moving to the side. I think she likes me but I want another opinion. Ik context isn’t the best but yea. Also we do know of each other ig. We follow each other on socials | Crushes |
My love is infinite while yours is conditional.
Loving you is the greatest tragedy of my life.
Declaring my love brought me nothing but pain.
I can tell you’ve never been loved like this before.
My intensity sent you running for the hills.
You’ve been on the run ever since.
I still feel your energy while you’re on the run.
Loving you consumes my entire being.
I see the danger behind your brown eyes.
I read the desire in your soul despite your efforts to conceal your emotions.
I know your struggle with thoughts & urges
Magical connection doesn’t abruptly end.
Unless you had a plan to destroy my being.
From soulful to soulless connection in a second.
Running away from me isn’t the answer.
I am one in a billion—- a complete package
My existence intrigues, yet petrifies your being
I left you intoxicated, breathless & confused. | Crushes |
There is this guy in my school, we have lockers next to each other. I’ve noticed how much he looks at, almost every chance he gets. He does things that makes me think he likes me, and things that makes me feel like he doesn’t. What does this mean? 😅 | Crushes |
Recently I’ve talked with her a lot more. Sometimes it was in a group setting with other people talking, but others were one on one. Today I talked with her one on one at the end of our last class, same with yesterday and the day before. I hope to start talking to her a lot more just one on one. | Crushes |
"... So what are you doing on Saturday?"
"I have plans why?"
"Well I thought you might have wanted to go out with me to grab a cup of coffee, are you available any other day?"
"Well, my week is very busy so I can't this week"
Do I keep asking or is this a hint she doesn't like me? | Crushes |
The context is that she works at a drug store and maybe it’s just me but I’ve felt a few times that the attraction was mutual.
Yesterday I called her outside to give her my love letter that I very awkwardly gave it to her then quickly went away. That was probably rude and creepy but I was so incredibly anxious that I couldn’t do anything else.
It has been almost a day, and still no reply.
You might say that I should give her time to reply after all it has only been a day, right?
The thing is that there is already an indication of rejection?
The drug store that she works has a delivery service + other services through the messaging app WhatsApp. In this app there is something called “status” that is similar to instagram “stories” where they not only advertise their delivery service but sales of varied products throughout the day, daily.
The status thing only works if both devices have saved their contacts on the phone. The girl I gave the letter has her main job to deal with those deliveries, and today they showed no status at all, something that has never happened before. My guess is that she deleted both my number and the saved conversation with the drug store. These conversations denounce me as a bit of a stalker when I tried to guess the days she was there by pretending I was going to get a delivery and then saying later that I should stop being lazy and go there since it is located close to my home. I tried to guess when she was there because I’ve been meaning to give this letter for quite some time and because of logistical difficulties I was not able to until yesterday.
By deleting both the conversation and my number plus the fact that I said in the letter that I was going to another drug store to avoid embarrassing her by coming there again until she replied or not, she can forget I ever existed.
In the letter i tried to be respectful but it’s possible that even with that I might have come as creepy and desperate due to the intensity on how I expressed my feelings and with my awkward demeanor, the stalking thing, and maybe even the letter itself (regardless of the contents) might have made her feel disgusted, creeped and angry at me.
I feel devastated, but I believe this should be a learning opportunity for me, and that’s where you guys come in.
Would you be so kind to offer me your feedback about this situation? | Crushes |
Oh my god we were at a mutual friends house watching a movie, they were really tired after the day and fell asleep……..
Next to me……..
With their head on my shoulder……..
AND THEIR LEGS ON TOP OF MINE!!!!!
I am like actually panicking because I completely thought I was gonna try and just stay friends with them but idk know
Instant update: AS I WAS TYPING THIS THEY SAID THAT THEY LIKED CUDDLING, AND THEY THOUGHT THAT WHAT I WAS DOING WAS REALLY CUTE!!!! But that’s not a sign or anything, they always call their friends cute | Crushes |
I dmed her and said ur cute as a response to her post and then she said thank u), then I said yeah no problem and she replied back with 🥰. Does that mean anything? | Crushes |
My friend’s bf keeps looking at me and I don’t know how to react he used to be my crush he has been doing this even before they got together. What should I do? | Crushes |
She is a wonderful person. I love her dark and sort of sadistic humour, her values and lots of other things about her.
I already know her pretty well. Not like we are close friends or anything but we exchange words almost every day. Mostly school related stuff, but maybe twice a week something more personal. Usually she likes to tell me about herself (btw does this signal anything?) because I listen and show curiosity towards her. I don't often talk about myself because I am a lot more interested in her, so she doesn't know as much about me.
We have had few experiences together like dancing together during sophomore prom or playing together in drama club. Oh btw few months ago we had this one classroom activity where you had to compliment someone and she complimented me by saying that she admires my positive and funny personality and wishes there were more people like me in our school.
One thing that might be a problem is that she really likes to be by herself, so she is kinda introverted. She still loves to hang out with her friendgroup and so, but whenever she got freetime she objectively wants to spend it at home, just by herself.
Also, she is pretty friendly towards me and keeps her eye contact, but she does that to pretty much everyone else too. Whenever we converse both of us smile and joke really often. Otherwise there aren't any traditional signs that could have signaled If she liked me.
My friends also say that I really "vibe" with her because we have almost identical sense of humour and some identical habits. (i.e. we both love cats, especially her)
So... Do I have a chance? | Crushes |
My girl,
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I love you. I love you with all of my heart. This might be a short post since I'm in school and about to leave, but I shall leave you the courtesy of this post. You're the love of my life, I'm so attached to you.
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You're all I want and need in life, sweetie. I've never felt so strongly about another human, especially in a romantic way...
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I have to go. I'll edit this later. | Crushes |
She's my fiance. | Crushes |
Okay so i’ve been in situationships/talking stages with guys and i find the whole thing exhausting and sometimes pointless. I like this guy but I don’t really know him apart from online. I’ve swiped up on his stories and stuff like that. I want to dm him but be like super upfront that i’d like get to know him in person and go on dates and stuff. I’m just not sure how to go about it as this is out of my comfort zone and i’m quite shy. Any advice? | Crushes |
So I used to have a crush in middle school. It's been years now. I'm not even sure why I liked that person since we didn't really know each other and never talked. I thought that I was completily over him but I keep notising him every time he passes by and it annoys me. What am I feeling exactly and how can I ignore him? | Crushes |
Or maybe ex crush.
He was maybe my first "serious" crush I've had in my life. He has my same interests and has pretty long hair who suits him so much.
Just a month ago I messaged him. I told him about a school thing that he couldn't know since he wasn't at school. He thanked me and I also said to him to get well soon. I've always been kind to him to school and all, I've always lent him my things when he needed them. Once he also comforted me, he always looked nice?.
Who knows why he deleted me out of nowhere from his contacts as if I did something to him. But I literally didn't do anything. Insecure I also asked to my friend and she said the same.
Dumb me who thought I had chances. Dumb me for falling in love with a boy who has a super high ego and thinks he's better than everyone else. | Crushes |
My crush (D), his best friend (M), and my best friend (T) came over at my house earlier today.
M and T actually fled to the kitchen for a while to give us our alone moment, lol. Amazing wingpersons.
It was really nice. I didn't think I'd experience it with him officially -- as in with my mom's karaoke set (as we have already sometimes jokingly sang emo rock shit in class).
I would sneak glances at him during the songs. He just looked straight at the lyrics on the TV though, lol. It's good enough for the already-rejected OP.
Brain is fuzzy now, but I distinctly remember us singing Taylor Swift's "Enchanted". That shit hit hard, lmao.
The playful banter during the songs was really great too. This shit is gonna keep me going for days...!
I am really happy. I get the whole "butterflies" thing now. | Crushes |
Not even sure if I can call him that anymore since I’ve been rejected. It just really hurts when they don’t need or want love from you. They just want you gone. Or better yet they dont even care either way. I’m literally dying. I am so insignificant to him it really makes me sad I’m basically dust. I’m just a random NPC :( | Crushes |
I'm gay, closeted. Met this cute guy thru work. We started talking as friends until conversations became steamy. He identifies as straight and says seggs means nothing to him. He never touched me, it was really me making him release all the time. But he's a nice person, i like talking to him and spending time with him. And i didnt realize i was already falling for him. We really talk a lot thruout the day and night and i started putting meaning into what he does. Call me delusional. I dont wanna ruin what we have if i confess to him cuz i know he doesnt feel the same. What shud i do. | Crushes |
Hey:)
I'd like to ask for advice because this has been bothering me and I don't know what to do.. So there's this guy at school and I noticed him about 2 months ago. I was immediately attracted to him and of course I glanced at him a few times.... I tried not to be creepy but he also did the same from the beginning! I thought that maybe I had come off as weird and creepy that's why he looked at me but then he started really noticeably checking me out and he always smiles at me when we see each other... we've never talked before though... Should I do anything about it ? I'm graduating in 2 weeks (I'll still attend this school next year because of my major) and I am so interested in him! However , I really want him to initiate.... Is he even interested ??:( he doesn't look shy at all , even the opposite... So my question is: Should I go up to him ( I'm not really social and I've never initiated anything in regards to boys) or should I just be patient? | Crushes |
How do I move on?
I (19 F) met a guy at college (20 M) sometime last year, we are in the same degree. We would mostly talk online, I quickly developed feelings for him, the conversations were always so engaging and I felt like he truly got me.
When we came back from our vacation, we kind of both avoided each other in person as I think we were both shy and had completely different friends groups, not much has changed, we stopped talking altogether as he told me he was too busy to text me but now him and his friends sit so close to me and everyday I feel his eyes on me.
Somedays, he will be fixated on me and even greet me in private while other days I just don't seem to exist. I know deep down that it is not healthy, I hate how obsessive I have become. The feeling of liking someone has now warped into a messed up bundle of insecurity and self-hate. I constantly doubt myself when I see him easily talking and flirting with other girls and yet he can ignore me.
It makes me feel like it was all in my head and it meant nothing to him. How do I truly move on? I am tired of him constantly consuming my thoughts, I am not myself anymore and I have started to care too much about everything, I am always on edge when he is around.
Sorry for sounding dramatic. I know there are bigger issues in life it is just that I dont want to keep crying over him and wasting my life away.My friends think I have moved on already because I chose to stop talking about him, it phsyically hurts to do so and deep down I know they are tired of it. I have never liked someone like this before and I don't think it is a healthy crush anymore. So I decided to reach out to strangers on the Internet who might have some wisdom.
Any advice is welcome. Thanks for reading :)
Tldr: how do I get over someone? I feel that my crush is sending mixed signals and it is making me insecure, irrational and obsessive. | Crushes |
I told her and she politely rejected, said we could still be friends.
I REALLY liked her though, I HATE this feeling, I think I still really like her but I know for certain she does not like me!! It’s awful because I talk to her almost every day, does this go away?? Is this normal??
I feel like I’m still trying to impress her, or make her see me as different, with the clothes I wear, and the things I say to her. She doesn’t feel like a normal friend like every one else. Again, is this a normal feeling?? And will it go away so we can just be normal friends?? | Crushes |
The girl I like I was on the phone with her four days ago and she was hinting she was gonna ask me to prom bc I’m a year younger and she’s been being sweet but the past day things have kinda seemed off she hasn’t really talked to me and this morning she has been leaving me on delivered what do I do or what did I do? Help please | Crushes |
Prelude:
My time here was fun, I guess my user flair will remain correct, I will most likely return here one day, but for now this is my ONE LAST QUESTION!!
Part 1:
I told her everything, first time ever doing that, she was a friend and I told her how I felt!! Oh how stupid of me…
But it’s ok, she politely rejected me, she says we can still definitely talk and stuff, I think we’re even closer friends now??
But it’s NOT ok!! maybe…
I don’t even want to think about it right now, because I’m feeling good it all went well and we can still talk. first time getting rejected, really sucks because i really liked her, but it could have been worse…
Part 2:
BUT HERES THE QUESTION, this is what I need help with!!
WHAT IF I still like her afterwards, because we’re still friends and we will still talk, what if I can’t escape these feelings?? what if I keep liking her like before and just have to pretend I don’t Is it painful love all over again?? but worse!! because now I KNOW she doesn’t like me back?? Will this fade away?? PLEASE HELP!!!! | Crushes |
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yuck | Crushes |
I met a girl on tinder and we had some good conversations. I asked her number and then asked her out through text.
She said she could meet up next week, but should i keep texting everyday? I don't really know what to ask anymore and i don't want it to be like a job interview.
I asked how her day was, but i don't want to ask that everyday.
If some you has some tips i would appreciate it. | Crushes |
I noticed that sometimes when I talk to a coworker (I’ll call her Julie) that I rarely talk to due to different schedules and she’s introverted, she sometimes has this expression/look as if she gets shy. One time she asked me what my zodiac sign was and after I told her she said “I can see that” and after asking her what she means, she looked away and said something along the lines of “oh no reason”. Today, she came up to me before any other coworkers came to ask me how my day was and if there was anything new that happened while I was working (since we work at a 24 h facility). I never experienced this from them before but I also don’t know if I’m overthinking. I know I have seen a different coworker smile to julie when I am around from time to time but I have been at a position where I have caught a glimpse of the coworker doing that but I am unaware of Julies reaction. There isn’t much communication regarding any of that for sure unless it’s nothing. I have a generally positive professional work experience with all of my coworkers so I don’t know but I am assuming that that julie may have a crush. I’m thinking about in general asking for her IG to get to know her better and offer to be a person she can reach out to since we are both going to attend graduate school in a similar area far away from where we are working.
Any thoughts on this context whether she may or may not have a crush on me redditors? | Crushes |
I have a huge crush on a guy fro my gym and he seems to like me as well(he looks at me and once tried to talk to me). Anyway, the thing is that the gym is my happy place and the only thing that keeps me mentally stable rn. So if things don’t work out with him then I won’t feel comfortable going to the gym and this will mess me up. What do I do? I can’t stop thinking about him. | Crushes |
He is a new student in my school but he is also my senior (by a year) and him and I go in the same school bus and we always sit together at the back of the bus alone (sometimes his friend is there) and he even asked which grade I am in. Which none of my crushes had ever talked to me so that is new but the main thing is that he looks way older than me and I look like a baby compare to him and I feel like he will only see me as a random junior and he will also leave after one and a half year so I will ask him in between that and of course he is new so I will give it a few months but at the same time I know he well say no and it well be really awkward in the bus I don't know what to do should I just keep it with me or should I tell him?
Note that I had indirectly gotten rejected many times (through a friend asking if they wanted know me or them having Gf or simply out of reach) but those are mostly awkward for me but it
will be awkward for him too which I don't want .
So any advice random people on the internet? | Crushes |
he’s rejected me a lot of times but he’s said these reasons he doesn’t want a relationship, he doesn’t want a relationship with anyone in school, he doesn’t like me back, he i forgot the other reasons i think it was just basically that but it’s been a few months now maybe he changed his mind 😊. but idk. i love him so much | Crushes |
So I really liked my close friend for a while, but I asked her out last spring to prom but I got rejected. It was nothing too bad though, we never stopped being friends. But after I got rejected my friend introduced me to her friend who I reminded her of. We hit it off really well, but it was very awkward when we met, and we stopped talking after that. Until we ran into eachither at the fair. After that we just kept talking, and we've snapped every day since. Not much has come out of it though, ive only seen her in person like 6 times in total, and we hardly talk, but every single time she gets drunk, she always facetimes me. And on Halloween we went to a party together and ended up holding hands and stargazing, but she has never acknowledged it happening because she was drunk, but she initiated everything though. Again we hardly talk and things have been very slow and full of mixed signals with her lately, but I don't know. I just feel like it would be a waste if I just gave up on her, plus I still like her.
But in the last month or so, I've been starting to like the first crush again. We're a lot closer now than we were back then, and we always have fun around eachother. I don't know if she likes me or not, but I want to say she doesn't. She always walks/sits next to me, she always laughs really hard at my jokes, and I've just been getting this new vibe from her lately and i cant put my finger on what it is or what it means, if anything. I really like her for some reason, I have no idea why, but I really like her. Unlike the other crush, we go to the same school so I see her everyday, and we live close so we hang out a lot, but still.
Prom is coming up and I need to hurry up and ask someone out because as of now I don't have a date. I know prom and a relationship are 2 different things, but I want to try something with one of them, and I don't know who to ask, Becuase I really like both of them. | Crushes |
I had an appointment with my new dentist a couple months ago. Felt an instant attraction the second we looked at each other. He was being flirty and there was a lot of intense eye contact from his end. He was asking me a lot of questions and stuck around when appt was over and asked me about myself ( unrelated to my teeth). When he asked me the last question, I happened to being up my husband ( I got nervous). When I said husband, he didn’t say anything back. He shook my hand and left. FYI: I noticed he had a wedding ring on and was surprised he was acting the way he was. I have an appt in a couple of weeks, there may be a small chance I see him. But not counting on it. I may see him again in a few months for another appt, but again not sure. I may ask the front desk. I was thinking about waiting to see him in person to express my interest nd make it more obvious vs. messaging on social media or leaving him a note with front desk. I mostly likely won’t act on this but wanted to talk about it. | Crushes |
hey guys so im 17f and openly bisexual in my social life. whenever i get w/ guys it's not really a big deal on whether i've known them for a while and it was a one time thing or if they're complete randoms or some of my friends known them etc, but every time i get with a girl, i feel like there's so much stigma around the idea of whether or not that girl is i guess 'known' if that makes sense. it's something i've come to terms with in my cohort but this has really impacted my ability on making moves on other girls because, first of all idek if a girl is straight or not half the time, and also i feel like i would be so much more judged and spoken about if i got with a girl because as a girl myself, girls can be really b1tchy 😭. i just wanted to get some girls opinions on their honest stance if another girl leant in for a kiss, whether you've known that girl for a while or not, just so i can wrap my head around whether i should even bother making moves on girls in my grade or not. BE AS HONEST AS POSSIBLE!! (and if you could input on both hypotheticals of whether it's a good friend or a stranger that would be great 😝).
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TL;DR
im a 17f and bi and get more insecure making moves with chicks so just want to grab some opinions from other chicks if they were getting hit on by the same gender. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my high school classmate. The first time I met her, she was a new student, and her assigned seat was in front of me. I'm a nerd at school and had done some cringe-worthy things in the past; she didn’t know about them, so it was easy to chat and became her friend. She’s also out of my league; being able to chat with her is a blessing! We're kinda close at school, not too close, just comfortable enough to share problems, etc.
After a year, she moved to a different school, so after I graduated, I never met or contacted her again. But last year, I built up the courage to message her on Instagram. We had a nice and pleasant conversation.
She kept asking me out, but I never agreed to because I’m scared; she’s way out of my league. She once invited me to a cookout at her family house; I thought she invited all of her friends, so I didn’t go because I would be alone (from my previous experience at a friend's cookout, I was always left alone). Unfortunately, I asked her, and she said she only invited like 5 of her female friends and me! And I felt so stupid at that time and regret it. She's mad as hell when i told her. All of my friends called me an idiot for not going. They’re definitely not wrong.
Then something good happen. November last year, I asked her out, and we went for lunch. She said it was her first time going out with a man; she even told her family about going out with me. I was blushing when she told me that. Few days after, she insisted on going out again, but this is where I fumbled so badly that I’m regretting every choice I've made in my entire life.
My mom sold our house, and we had to move to a different state, which is a freaking 5-hour drive away. WE ABOUT TO GO FOR A 2nd DATE!! I WASTED ALL THE OPPORTUNITY BEFORE AND NOW WASTING IT AGAIN!! ZEUS, IS THIS HOW YOU FACE ME COWARD?
After all that, I didn’t message her at all because she went to college, and every time I message her, she’s studying. Im going to college near her city this upcoming month, and if I’m not too late i want to restart everything. I want it to be how it supposed to be. I really like her, but man, fuck! When is it my time to be happy? | Crushes |
<3 weve been together for 6 months \*almost\* | Crushes |
people say having crush feels so good. well not for me ig, for me its continuous mood swings. One moment i'll be admiring her , the next moment i'll be depressed that i dont talk to her that much in person(i chat with her daily on instagram)
context, she is my friend, and i started having a crush on her a few months ago, at first it was a very mild crush, and normally when i have crushes instead of showing interest.. i do the opposite, ignore and talk less and take a peek at her occassionally
but after all these days of me ignoring her, she became closer to my other friends, not like she isnt talking to me, its just that i am so awkward around her, she prolly just goes back to talk to others. and some of my friends always talk to her(they say they are just friends, idk its my jealousy acting up ig maybe they are, but they are very close)
i keep getting angry and jealous when everyone is talking with her and i cant bear it anymore and i cant join a random conversation which is going on and continue, i dont get topics to talk to her most of the time, and even when i manage to talk to her the convos are v short :((((
i started writing the post for advice, and it became a long ass rant, anyway any advice, confused af rn, do I start talking more to her(will she find it awkward because i dont talk that much) ? :)
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tl;dr : crush is my friend, dont talk to her that much because i am awkward around her | Crushes |
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!
He's a very popular kpop trainee but we'll both be adults next year. He's way too sweet and nice. He likes what I have to say so far for I heard and what he said. I think it's because i'm a fan though. We're only 6 years apart. I know the staff and talk to them someties but, it not that deep only my crush. I would tell them but I can't based on last time I had this feeling esoecially since it was in school.
I was traumatized like literally I still fear that they're all still talking even though my friend reassures me everytime that they're not.
I'm at the point where I am going to tell but no one listens at all! I f*cking hate crushes. What's the point of even feeling it when I can't even be with him or be friends. Why do I even feel this way?! Should I just tell? but I am terrified. I would run away before I said anything. He's a goofball so I hope he don't know. I don't even know if he can. Probaly not and he only sees me as a fan.
It hurts and I kinda just want to see him as a person and just an idol or someone who entertains, nothing more but, here we f^cking are. Please help me?? | Crushes |
Long story : we met some months ago and we instantly got along super well to the point we spent Valentine's day together lol. I thought she was going to be my first gf then i found out she likes another guy. I tried to hide it but she found out. And here goes another rejection woohoo. Because of this i was about to move away from her but my dumbass didnt do so. I helped her vent and gave her the best advices i could and now they're basically about to get together and i'm there wondering why i wasted all of this time hurting myself. I just wonder what the fuck does he have that i don't? I treated her the best i could every time but this guy lied and treated her badly often...i've been crying for 2 days nonstop...i want my last breath to be the last. | Crushes |
I’m heartbroken, my crush has a girlfriend. I saw them holding hands. Can’t get it out of my head. | Crushes |
I’ve been crushing on this guy for like, a solid five months now. I’ve probably crushed on him harder than I’ve ever crushed on anyone else. He’s pretty shy and I don’t get to talk to him often but when we talk it’s always pretty good, but overall we’re just casual sort of friends and we’ve never really “opened up” to each other abt anything deeper. We’ve texted each other only a few times over some pretty non romantic (or even personal) stuff lol.
Yesterday I was talking with someone (trusted family member) about him and after a long while of talking I found myself sort of searching for things to say that I haven’t already said, and at the end of the day I found that all my desires to talk about him were just kind of gone. I didn’t even want to think about him, or “us.” I felt kind of gross because herrr I was talking about him so much, when I honestly have no idea if he thinks about me or feels anything for me at all.
Honestly, I realized that I think about him far too much for barely knowing him on a personal level. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not obsessed with him, it’s not every waking moment or anything crazy like that, but it is more than I’d like it to be, especially since I have so many other things to focus on that I could be thinking about in place of him.
I still like him ofc (he’s pretty awesome) but basically I just want to think about him less. It feels more rewarding to talk to him when I don’t think about him as much, and I feel like this will ultimately benefit both of us (whether we are together or not) in the future. I have other stuff to occupy myself with and I know that helps but do you guys have any other tips for getting someone off your brain? | Crushes |
**TL;DR: I want to suggest an internship I heard about to a girl in my school I talked to briefly 2 weeks ago, who isn't looking for a relationship ATM, but I fear I'll ruin my chances with her.**
All crushes I've talked to in the past I feel like I've ruined my chances with because I've messaged them too much, too out of knowhere or both.
Now it's different. I messaged her because she wanted to know who had anonymously said they wanted to get to know her, that person being me, and while she has said that she's not looking for anything right now due to school (and is probably not attracted to me) I still want to leave a good impression on her, something I feel like I haven't accomplished yet, so that maybe she'd be down for something in the future.
We have so far only talked very little 2 weeks ago and I want to build the courage to say hi and eventually talk irl in school too, but right now it's spring break and I want to suggest an internship I heard about to her and also maybe try to spawn a conversation from it to hopefully try to get to know her better, but I'm afraid I'tll lean too closely to overtexting and ruin my chances again.
If someone who you knew liked you but you were kinda neutral towards messaged you with such a suggestion after 2 weeks of nothing, would your opinion of them sour, improve or not change? Would you be annoyed if they then tried to continue the conversation or would that potentially change your opinion?
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In the fall, I briefly met this guy who I thought was cute. I didn't see him again for a while and forgot about him until the holidays, when Hinge kept showing him to me as "most compatible." Since then, I've become hyper aware of his presence whenever I do see him. I noticed initially that although we were with mutual friends and he's not a shy guy, he wouldn't acknowledge me unless I did first. There was one time I caught him looking at me; I waved and he waved back, and I could tell he hadn't been sure if he should do anything. Then, back in March, he started becoming more warm, replying to whatever I said to the group and laughing at all my jokes. I mentioned to the group that I wanted to try this restaurant and he said some of them were going, I should join, and asked me for my IG and added me to their gc. Maybe important to note that he's not the type to add everyone on social media. Later, I went clubbing with these people and at the pregame he tried conversing with me more, but someone would always jump in. At the club, I joked about how we got in for free cuz of me and he replied "I'll buy you a drink to show my appreciation," which I laughed off. We didn't talk for the rest of the night, since I was dancing with a lot of people, and I noticed him staring at me.
After that, there was a weird period of time when he would sometimes ignore/barely acknowledge me. For example, we all went clubbing again and when he saw me and my friend, he looked at me in the eye, didn't say hi, and just introduced himself to my friend. He did dance with me a little (he initiated) but he kept distance even though he would put his arm around others. There was even one point when all of us were in a circle and putting our arms around the people next to us. We were next to each other and he put his arm around the other person but not me (interestingly, whenever we touch accidentally, he doesn't move away). But then other times, he would be more open, like bringing up something I mentioned a while back. Recently, we finally had an extended, uninterrupted conversation with each other. We talked about our backgrounds and he pointed out we had something in common.
Last time I saw him was earlier this week; a group of us went to play basketball. I noticed he had a tattoo and asked what it was, which led to us talking the whole time we walked to the court. He'd ask questions and would bring up new topics when the convo started dying. I scored a few times in basketball, and he kept calling me MVP. But at the end, when all of us were giving quick goodbye hugs to each other, he patted my back. He called me MVP again, but since I equate back pat with friendzone, I felt a bit down. Whenever I'm not interested in someone, I can tell pretty easily if they are. But when I AM interested, I'm always questioning myself. I do really feel sometimes that the way he treats me/talks to me isn't quite the same as with others (not being as much of a "bro," asking more questions). One of my friends thinks he's attracted to me and doesn't know how to go about it, and I saw where they were coming from, but the back pat makes me worried we're just headed down a platonic route. I know I could be overthinking that, but I just don't want to be one of those people who thinks someone could be interested when they're not. | Crushes |
I (F18) met this boy (M18) through a mutual friend (F18); he and my friend go to the same school, were in the same friend group and live in the same city, that is about a 30 minutes drive (or bus ride) far from mine.
We've been texting for 3ish months, but we saw each other in person only 2 or 3 times, in group hangouts (that are difficult to plan because of the distance and their unstable friend group).
The conversation flows, we have common interests and stuff, but I feel like I am the one initiating contact most of the time; I'm also kind of insecure and don't really understand people through text, so I'd like to see him in person to see if there's some real connection or not.
Once I tried to subtly hint I wanted to see him in person but idk if he didn't got the hint or just ignored it.
Should I directly ask him to hangout? And what should I say?
Or is it best if I keep this texting phase? | Crushes |
referring to previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/123smbs/repost_what_does_it_mean_if_she_f23_handfed_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1
she sent me a text 2 days ago, shorty after our date at her house, saying that we'd be better off being friends since she believes that she might be lesbian.
however, she still wants to see me every now and then, but i feel absolutely devastated because i really loved her.
i just don't know what to do anymore, i keep thinking that i'd be better off not being here. | Crushes |
I feel so pathetic having this as my first post, and to think that if I had posted this earlier I would have been so happy. What happened was that I asked my crush out to go to the local fair in the summer with me and my friend, and he agreed. I was over the moon. He then also told us he was going to bring someone else, so I assumed it was going to be a friend. I asked him yesterday and he told me it was his girlfriend who he was going to bring. He didn't have a girlfriend until most likely yesterday and now I feel like an idiot for believing I had a chance with him, he's just too good for me, you know? And I'm sure his girlfriend is a total sweetheart, I can't hate them. Now I don't know if I shouldn't go to the fair anymore and try to fade out of his life or if to try to continue being his friend until destiny decides how it will end. This is my first ever serious crush. Does anyone know what I should do? | Crushes |
Idk why. I love him so much it’s unbearable. I don’t understand why though because he was just a hallway crush and then after 7 months i am here. I keep staring at him during class getting lost in his eyes, hair, face etc. I’m constantly checking his discord account and i screenshot his about me every time he changes it. I’m always checking his roblox account to see if he’s playing. I check my friends (who are friends with him) servers they are in to see if he is in the server. He’s always in my mind, if u ask me “what did u have for lunch?” i’ll start thinking about what he had for lunch etc. I am jealous of every girl he’s friends with. why can’t i be them? i’ve gone mentally insane bc of him. | Crushes |
I know it's my fault. We were just getting closer, and because of some circumstances. Like mental stress and all, I couldn't respond actively to him. Now it seems like he thinks I don't want him near me and he's acting really distant. Like he would glance at me at least once or twice in the whole day, but today, our teacher invited me to explain a question on the board and he didn't look at me for fucking once! He was just busy scribbling in his notebook.
I'm really really looking for a reason to talk to him. We're not so close so casually approaching him just won't help. I need a REASON to talk to him and I'm just not getting it. | Crushes |
i had a crush on a boy for 4 years now. it was unhealthy, because i knew the future wasn't even mutual. but i kept gaslighting myself into thinking i had a chance. it wasn't that he didn't like me, its just that he felt no attraction. but a 2 weeks ago i met a boy. he's probably one of the sweetest guys i've ever met, considering how all of the highschool boys i met are either horny or manipulative bastards. he confessed how hes had feelings for me for months, and asked me on a date. i said yes, because he seemed like a nice guy. and boy was my intuition right. he took me out on a date in the main districts of our city. we browsed shops together, he bought me starbucks, and he made me laugh until my sides hurt. he's so considerate and probably the sweetest guy i've ever met. despite his dickwad friends, he's mature, and he wouldn't do anything to hurt a girl or anyone. even his ex said that he was the sweetest, but she had to breakup with him because of a personal issue.
he's perfect. but theres only one thing in my way. he goes to a boarding school in the uk, and only visits once every couple months and stays for 3 weeks to a month. do you think this realationship could work out? i really love him and i want it to work, but i don't know. he has stated long distance works for him and he'll invest as much time as possible. but i'm still unsure. what do i do? | Crushes |
I have been liking this girl for more than 1,5 years now and I made absolutely 0 moves on her, barely said hi a few times in this long time peroid, even though we are classmates and i see her every day. She is really shy and is alone most of the time, and I am as well, so talking to her would be a no-brainer, yet I still cannot. I have gotten uncountable oppurtunities and I missed them all, we just keep ignoring eachother.
Like that one time we sat next to eachother for 45 minutes straight in a class (where the substitute teacher let us do our own things), and WE LITERALLY JUST STARED OUT OF OUR HEADS FOR 45 MINS saying nothing, not using our phones or anything, not saying a word...
I hate myself for this every day, but it seems impossible to break this cycle, and I realised it today that I will never be able to, no matter what I try doing. And I rant to reddit cuz I have noone to talk about it...
So yeah enjoy my rant and don't be like me. | Crushes |
I am an introvert who finally talked to his crush face to face 2 days in a row , now should i send her follow request on ig or not? I send it to her months back when she didn't know me and neither she was my crush back then, she didn't accept it that time
So please tell me what should I do | Crushes |
This is a STUPID question and I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask, especially because this is more so if someone had a crush on me rather than me on them, but are guys ACTUALLY mean to girls they have a crush on? There was a guy a few years ago in high school that was always very mean to me, but never ANYONE else. I still have NO IDEA what I did to this boy to deserve his wrath, especially because we never talked until a fateful school year where we coincidentally had near identical schedules and thus had to interact. If I was sat next to him or we were partnered up, if he had an opportunity really, he'd either insult me, tell me to shut up, or would physically move from his desk across the room to "get away from me". We actually had a few mutual friends as well and they were just as puzzled by his behavior as I was as he treated nobody else this way. The reason I bring it up is because I saw him really recently, and I am still left with the question "wtf did I do to deserve being bullied?" When I'd sometimes confide in people about it back then they'd always just say "oh, it's because he has a crush on you." Is there any truth to this? I always thought it was just because he was mean, or maybe because I was more reserved and nice he thought I was an easy target (although every time he said something rude to me I would call him out, I never just took it, but I was never mean back). I also don't think the crush thing is true because our mutual friends never suggested it, but tbf he was very publicly pining over a very popular girl (he was also popular), and I was definitely NOT at that social standing, which I think also made him feel comfortable using me as a punching bag, so that possibility is extremely low. He never insulted me about my looks but maybe he just simply thought I was ugly? I was a little awkward in high school but I wouldn't say I was hideous? Idk Anyway, just trying to get answers for my younger self.
Sidenote, I'm extra irked because when I saw him, he asked "you went to my high school right?", and all I said was "yeah" and ran off. How could someone that was so awful to me not even remember we went to school together? | Crushes |
I've had a crush on Mayim Bialik for 1 year now and I still have it. I always daydream acting in movies with her. I sometimes imagine my character touching her legs and that her character likes it. Also she's old enough to be my mother but I don't actually know her in person and I don't even want to have a romantic relationship with her | Crushes |
Somebody confessed to my crush. | Crushes |
I dont know how successful this idea will be but it will sure open up some opportunities! | Crushes |
We really enjoy talking everyday and even sometimes play games with each other :) With her, I am genuinely happy and at peace rather than me usually being all stressed and feeling miserable.
I started developing feelings for her and basically just went fuck it, why not? Even if she doesn't like me back, she seems really nice anyway and I'd be fine just being friends.
So I decided to confess. Then she told me she had a massive crush on me too for a while, so holy shit 🥰
So we spent the entire time after giving each other butterflies and constantly trying to make each other blush really hard 😊
However we are far apart, but we really wish we could be together. Last time I was in a similar situation with someone, it didn't really go too well. I am just a bit worried about that, but hopefully at least we can still remain as friends because I am cool with that and I don't want to hold her back waiting for me. | Crushes |
We've known each other for a year, over time grew close and became good friends. We hung out alot together, Used to talk to each other for hours and became really comfortable with each other. Didn't realize this for a long time....but I really like her and more than just as a friend.
Funny thing is, the realization hit me way to late....we live in different cities now...not connected and probably not going to be again. I've never missed her more and everyday feels so fucking painful knowing I'm not gonna see her again. But I can't really say any of this to her as I'm not certain if the feeling is mutual (Pretty sure it isn't).
Haven't been feeling very well (Absolutely crushed) since she left..... I know it'll pass with time, but ig it'll have to do for now. Don't really have anyone to talk to and reddit seems like a good place to vent. So sharing here. Peace. | Crushes |
Well recently I developed a new crush on someone and apparently they did too 😅
I really enjoy talking to her and playing games with her so much. With her, I just get lost talking to her and I become genuinely happy instead of constantly being stressed and miserable.
I decided to confess to her that I like her because why tf not, I was feeling brave and good for some reason. Then she told me she had a massive crush on me too for a while, so holy shit 🥰
So we spent the entire time after giving each other butterflies and constantly trying to make each other blush really hard 😊
Just one thing that worries me is that we are far apart. Last time with someone similar, things didn't work out well. But I hope at least we can still remain as friends :) | Crushes |
Here's the situation:
I knew this girl from a group chat and I liked her from the very beginning but it was just about the way she looked. Then we met in a party and I instantly fell for her. My feelings were pretty strong for a month but I couldn't see her feel for me. We got closer and talked almost every day. Then we met again (also a party) and after the party I couldn't help but texting her and confessing to my love. She said we can't be together because "I can't say I like someone until I know them very well." She also said something like: "Girls know if they're gonna feel for someone from the beginning" and by that I considered myself rejected. But we're still talking and are friends. I don't feel as bad as the first days but I can't say I've completely moved on. I still want her. Recently she's been saying nice things to me more often like "I miss you" and so on. I still wonder if there's any chance that her feelings change towards me and get romantic...
Should I forget about it? | Crushes |
Hi! I (M30) have no relationship history, I've always been shy and introverted. I started chatting with someone (F, early 20s) who is in the same university as me and she's awesome! We're both from two different countries, studying in a third country (and I also happen to really like the country she's from so that allowed me to talk with her).
We met up and I had a great time talking to her and chatting with her. I am pretty sure I've started liking her (as a crush) but I don't know if she sees me just as a friend or something more too. I am not even sure if she already has a boyfriend or not.
I am not sure if I should tell her how I feel and ask her out. She's amazing and I don't want to lose her as a friend. And even if she is not single, I wanna look out for her and be a good friend to her. But if she is not single, I'd love to ask her out, I'm just not sure how.
Any tips please? Thanks! | Crushes |
This is just a general vent on how im feeling about stuff
So I'm an afab(assigned female at birth)highschooler and I'm questioning my gender rn, I feel more masc and i already wear the boys uniform at school but i have not done any transitioning socially at all
And there's this boy I have a crush on and I think he might be interested in me as well?
We always catch eachothers glances and have a habit of walking next to eachother on "accident" and once his friend went "hey if you get this she'll take you out on a date" pretty loudly
Anyways he hangs out with a typical highschool boy crowd, I hear them saying the f slur a lot (hes really quiet and doesn't talk a lot, I've never heard him say it but also never say anything about them saying it, wich I get, no one wants to rock to boat and call them out) and yeah
Idk im just worried if I go after it and he gets to know me and I'm not what he's expecting he'll leave, lose interest, or worse, out me in a catholic school.
I'll update if anything happens ig but thats the situation for now | Crushes |
I have a crush on this boy in my grade he’s so perfect I love his laugh and his personality i don’t care if he gets a ugly haircut or anything. I really like him but im scared to tell him that I do, i can’t even tell my friends about this because i get nervous when talking about him. I know that he liked me a couple years back but im not sure if he still feels that way but i really hope he still does. | Crushes |
For the first time in 3+ years, I had a crush. On this girl I barely know at all, having spoken maybe 3 sentences to.
I was training for my new job, there was a woman part of the team running the training. From the second I saw her, my first thought was “holy crap she’s gorgeous”. I was sitting doing paperwork and training videos, meanwhile this woman is walking around and I have to pretend not to be distracted.
I got all insecure, overthinking my haircut, 5 o’clock shadow, and my oversized uniform shirt. I probably didn’t look that bad, but in my head I was terribly self conscious.
It just felt exciting. Omg I have a crush on this stranger. I didn’t think about my ex. I wasn’t worried about the past. I just got to be secretly excited, all because of some stranger I don’t know if I’ll ever have the opportunity with. But it has been so long since I had a crush on somebody. After a really bad breakup of long term, very serious relationship, its a nice reminder that this thing inside my chest still works, even with some scars. | Crushes |
yeah im saying this bc i want to tell it to somebody that i'm actually capable of moving on from him
i didn't think that i could because we're so close, but the advices and talks i had with my friends and him helped me with it.
thank you to this sub for being the one i can tell my silly moments to !!
until next time ^^ | Crushes |
So I (17f) gave been struggling to get over my (17nb) crush because I don't know if they're interested in getting back together. They have talked about me to other people behind my back but in a positive way, reminiscing about our relationship and how much they liked me. But whenever we are around eachother in person it's really awkward and they make excuses to leave but then they also give me compliments? There are a lot of mixed signals. What should I do? | Crushes |
ok so i’ve (17F) been kinda liking this guy (17M) i work with for a few months but i could never really see us together. i thought i liked a dif coworker but i’ve always been friends with this one and now we text allll the time. we stay up late texting each other pretty much everyday. i wasn’t sure if i liked him but then i would think about him all day in school and then want him to text and look back at texts, not want to be the first to text, etc.
we got even closer recently and now i know he likes me which brought forth the fact that i like him. we are very sexual-flirty over text now but i’ve been super busy so i haven’t worked w him since before all of that, so it’s been almost 2 weeks. i’m starting to feel like i don’t like him now though. i have kinda liked him a bit since december so i’ve only liked him for 4 months which i guess just feels too short to me, esp in the fact that i wasn’t 100% sure of how i felt toward him. i kinda wish i discovered his interest in me maybe at least a month from now bc it feels to early to know that. idk. idk how to feel. idk if i still like him but it’s not like i dislike him i still like his person a lot and i would feel bad if i just told him i actually wasn’t interested. idk. i’m just glad he hasn’t asked me out asked me out yet, although we do always go out and hang after work, but that doesn’t have to be labeled. idk what to do it how to feel. will i start to feel normal ab liking him again? he still gives me that like cheesy feeling after certain things he says but idk something feels so off esp at the fact that we only text.. | Crushes |
I've had this crush for a very long time, probably since the end of 10th grade (about to end my junior year in a month) and only recently I've been talking to her, and it isn't anything serious or deep it's just like school stuff we talk about. As a very introverted guy, I need advice on how to talk to her (and girls just in general) about things other than school. I might be rushing it but I've been crushing on her for a almost a year pretty much so maybe im eager. My interest in her kind of died down in summer break last year but at the same time I didn't have her number then so how could I communicate with her anyways? What should I do to let us have conversations that isn't always school related? If this question can be answered, what do the girls reading this post talk about? And what do you like talking about with people? Boys? Girls?
Thanks. | Crushes |
I mean I don’t hate him but I hate him sometimes and idk why he hates me, but I wanna know how to talk to him, we don’t go to the same school but I text him, he just leaves me on read. I don’t know what I did to him because we were really close, but he stopped talking to me. Point being how do I talk to him without him leaving me on read?? | Crushes |
I’ve been working at a restaurant for about 3 months now. Ever since I (25F) started working there, I’d catch this really attractive guy (20’sM) staring at me from time to time. Sometimes he would look away, but other times I’d look back at him and he’d still be staring at me intensely. Gives me butterflies just thinking about it lol, anyways over the months we’ve become more acquainted with each other. Here are some things he’s said to me/interactions we’ve had. Is it possible the feelings are mutual?
- Gave me his instagram so I could follow him - told me I was a really good singer when he discovered my page
- Teases me from time to time about “giving him the same smile I give everyone else” (I work as a hostess so I’m always smiling lol)
- Usually touches my arm or gives me a fist bump when he sees me or needs to get past me. licks his lips when we talk
- I asked him the other day why he keeps staring at me (ya know, playful banter) and he said it’s because I’m very pretty and nice. he’s complimented my appearance other times as well
- Sometimes he’ll hang around my work area just chilling. won’t necessarily say anything to me but will be in my presence
- I can feel him staring at times even when I’m not looking his way
- I recently teased him about staring at me again and he was like “you gotta be staring at me too to notice I’m staring at you 😏” he was definitely looking me up and down when he said this, and he said he stares 80% of the time and me 20% lmao
- tries to get to know me by asking questions about my life
this might seem obvious but I just don’t wanna misconstrue anything. I want to feel confident in shooting my shot if I decide to do so. I’ve always been a shy gal when it comes to men but I don’t want to miss a chance with this one 😆 thanks in advance! | Crushes |
i (female) met. someone (male) online on discord about a year ago. and we are really close friends.(and close in age aswell , he is a year younger than me ) we know pretty much everything about eachother too (gosh i wish i could have connections like this irl). we also share a mutual interest of naruto (and weezer and yfm) so we talk about that alot. we have also seen eachothers faces before (just not that much since we're both kind of insecure lolll) and vc alot. so . we know eachother really well.
(i also gave him a nickname . and everyone in our friend group refers to him as it. it really stuck. he responds to the nickname more than his actual name ahahah, even though the nickname is not at all related to his username OR actual name)
and thars nice and all, its like. the ideal friendship. but theres a bit of a problem. i am prone to crushing on people !!! and not just a hehehe silly crush , a "oh mygod what if what i said makes him think im weird ??? i probably ruined my chances !!!! "" crush. where all you can think of is him and only him. the unhealthy kind. where it like. tears you up. (yes this is probably a very big sign of mental illness but we are not talking about that right now !!!!)
also !! tgere is another proble.m. the fucking distance. i am in the us (california), and he is in europe (specifically czech republic). the time zones are so messed up. (HOWEVER we do always find time to talk , so he clearly enjoys talking to me , so thats a green flag )
and . another thing. he is aroace. i completsly respect that (i am ace aswell , just not aro) . and i am fully aware it really shouldnt bother me. but in this case . it does. because i love him so fucking much. and i cant express it. and i definitely cannot act on it. whyyyyyy meeeee. i love him but he doesn't love me—CANT love me .
i just cannot put into words how much i love hi.nm. i love talking to him. i love hearing his voice. even though i havent known him for a loooong time , i still feel like i can tell him anything( other than i have a crush on him ) . i love him. i have our entire life planned out. i feel like he is THE one , but the thing is , he isnt . he ISNT the one.
so with all that info , the best thing to do is not tell him , distance yourself from him , and slowly let the feelings fade. BUT my STUPID FRIEND had other plans—i was calling him when i had that friend over. and she fucking told him. she told him everythhing i said. she took my phone and wouldnt give it back until she was done . i said she was lying . i was too flustered to continue the call . but he knows.
tl;dr: i have a really intense crush on my friend that lives an unreasonable distance away and i need to fucking get over him because it isnt going to happen.
gooosshh if he sees this im going. to lose it. please give me tips on how to get over him (preferrably without cutting off contact ). and i will try to answer questions /comments as soon as possible . | Crushes |
I can't really tell what she thinks of me. When we first started talking we both admitted that we found each other physically attractive. She even told me that I would have girls "falling" for me if I went to the gym (flirting?). When I confessed to her after a month and a half of conversation, she told be that she "doesn't like [me] that way" but that she was really flattered nonetheless. However, our conversations after my confession were way more personal. She would initiate hour long texts and we'd talk about her romantic fantasies, crushes, desires, and each other's physical attributes (which became *vaguely* sexual) and regular things like hobbies and school. While we don't talk as much anymore, I want to know if I still have a chance.
She also mentioned a few times that her dad was really strict and forbade her from having relationships and I wonder if this is why things didn't develop.
Sidenote: Pretty much all of our 'deep' conversations were online. We would only make small talk IRL when we saw each other once a week (just mutual eye contact during class). I have not seen her in person in 4 months and we haven't spoken since but I want to starting talking to her again. | Crushes |
Is it weird that I talk to her in her sleep when we sleep on call or in person-? 0_0
She’s my gf of almost 6 months btw… | Crushes |
Please. I want to talk about her and she’s asleep. | Crushes |
I’m already dating her. I have been for almost 6 months. Our 6 months will be on my birthday, April 26. I love her. I always have. Ever since we met, I knew it was going to be her and only her forever. I never thought I could find love at such a young age like mine, but God blessed me. I had never been religious before I met this blessing of a woman, but oh, oh how I changed quickly.
I love her. One time, an intimate time, she explored my body all while telling me how beautiful I am. I’ll never forget that moment. It’ll always stick with me. Nobody had ever said such things to me. Not even in a sexual way, just…pure love and romance. Sure, it was a sensual time, but all the words were pure honesty without a hint of lust. Her words sunk in like an anchor in water, keeping the ship down.
Her love grows for me each day, as so does mine. | Crushes |
I originally planned to tell him I like him after this summer, bc we may not go to the same unis anyway. I’d either move on or finally get to be close to him like I wanted.
Recently I’ve been wondering whether I should ask him to prom instead. I’m worried someone else may ask him bc he’s just the best guy, but I don’t think I have a chance. If he rejects me, I’ll miss out on an extra 4 months or so of being with him.
Maybe I should just never tell him and see how our friendship plays out over time. A part of me would rather be his friend forever, even if it means I’ll never know if he ever reciprocated.
I haven’t felt this way in a while… I enjoyed being his friend so much recently, that the thought of confessing never crossed my mind. I should just play it safe and at least wait until summer is over, but some days, I find myself feeling so safe and elated. It’s hard to resist trying to be with someone so amazing. | Crushes |
Well, it's the last day of the semester. Tomorrow, theatre crush and I have our final exam performance, and once we are no longer playing siblings for that script, and there's no commitment to see each other ever again, I am finally confessing to him. I have the blessing of literally half the class that knows, including the girl I was worried I was competing with.
It's win-win for me, don't worry. As nervous as I am about the performance, I'm almost more nervous for that conversation afterwards.
(Not to mention my next class is performing a piece of my original poetry to a class of 200 strangers haha)
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My heart has been pounding all day, every time I think about it. | Crushes |
The kind of crush I have really sucks…. I have a crush on someone who will and can’t never like me back 😔 they are 4 years older then me and she is the type of person who will be friends with anyone and shows kindness to everyone and it’s really cool…. I know she doesn’t like me but i really enjoy just being around her good vibes and happiness she makes me want to become a better person and grow. But i know it won’t work out especially right now… I know God has a plan for me but it’s hard waiting 😞 Can I get some encouragement i really need some I either need to give up or just have patience what should I do? | Crushes |
That’s right tomorrow i will confess to her. Wish me luck | Crushes |
I asked out this girl around 4-5 months ago after 8 months of having a crush on her and she politely rejected me and I felt decently happy becoming friends with her. We have become quite good friends recently but I thought that all feelings I had for her had vanished. Until last night, I dreamt that she was my girlfriend and I felt an immense disappointment when I woke up. It was such a wonderful experience and now I can never go back to it. I understand that she’s not interested in a relationship in real life and I completely respect that but this made me realise that I still have some forms on feelings for her. I’d rather they vanish soon so I can spend more of my life doing other things instead of thinking about a girl who doesn’t have feelings for me. Does anyone have advice about how to move on from a crush? | Crushes |
so i’ve posted about him a few times on this subreddit so ima jus link the posts:
anyways , so… supposedly he said i’m cute?? BRO i’m built like big chungus and bro is the complete opposite of me 💀. like he’s so tall and handsome like he’s so out of my league.
but yea , i feel like i clearly bother him. like i feel like me simply sitting next to him bothers him. every time he’s on his phone, i feel like he’s talking shit about me to his friends. i’m sometimes scared to talk to him bc i feel like i might bother him some more. sometimes when i see him, he looks tired or sometimes gives me a dirty look.
in one of the posts, i mentioned how whenever i try to get in my seat, he usually scoots in for me to have space and i mentioned how sometimes he gives me a dirty look. well , yesterday i told him I was like “ima just go the other way so i don’t bother you” and he said “oh no it’s fine you’re good” but even then, i feel like i annoy him. i feel like he thinks i’m annoying and i get so depressed every time i leave biology. the thing is tho, i barely even talk to him like i only talk to him when we have to but other than that, ion really talk to him.
and also, i mentioned how i think he has a gf. idk if he does but i saw him hold hands with a girl but that was the very first time i seen them hold hands. i never at all saw them hang out, as he’s always with his friends. and speaking of that, yesterday during lunch, i seen that same girl that he was holding hands with trying to get his attention by like touching his backpack, and he wasn’t even looking at her or anything. he kept talking to his friends and was just ignoring her. and then i saw her and her friends walk past him and he still didn’t even look at her. like aw hell nawww that just proves to show that he cared more about his friends than his gfs. if he were single and if we were to date, that shows me that he might do the same shit to.
anyways, yea i just needed to vent. advice is also appreciated! | Crushes |
I heard that my crush has reddit😭 so I don’t wanna say too much about him on here. Can someone dm me so I can tell you the experience I have with him and you can decide if you think he likes me? Thank you <3 | Crushes |
I \[24M\] work with a girl \[19F\] and she diffenetly 1000% knows that I like her. I had been working at the same place for about 2 years, then she joined too. I don't remember how we started becoming friendly and talking but it has been a very natural and slow burn over the last 2 years of knowing her.
So why do I think she likes me? Well whenever she is with other colleagues at work... She laughs, jokes around and is genereally "nice" to everyone. However when I speak to her there is just a completely different vibe. We don't just laugh, we **laugh.** Like we can have eachother rolling aroud on the floor dying from laughter.
Sometimes we will catch eachothers eyes from across the entire workplace and end up smiling. She is unbelievably sassy with me and teases me just about everything. Other people in the workplace call me a handsome fella and rate me a 8-10. She out of badness will rate me like a 5-10 just to keep my big head in check.
I am pretty sure she likes me, and I am damn sure that she knows I like her. So heres the problem, she has a boyfriend... Now I have been put into a massive ethical minefield and I don't know what to do. Do I completely stop the flirty atmosphere between us? I don't ever want to cheat or be the person that they are cheating for... Because if she cheats on her current boyfriend for me, then whats to stop her cheating on me in the future? But then again they do always say "All is fair in love and war".
So that brings me to this upcoming week. Basically, a few days ago I said something as a joke that really kinda hurt her. She was clearly over exagerating it to make me feel bad, but I could still tell that deep down inside I had really hurt her. It also her birthday coming up in 2 weeks time. So as an apology/birthday gift, I was going to give her a yankee candle and a tiny teddy cute teddy bear with some chocolate.
Is that bad? Is that breaking a bounary or something... I didn't want to get her a gift thats going to scream **I LOVE YOU**. But I wanted to get something that screams **AWW.**
Do you think I'm in a stupid position, should I just distance myself...Surely if she wanted me she'd be with me?
Or should I take the plunge, give her the gift and maybe confess my feelings and be a little more serious about it with her?
**TL:DR** I have a crush on a girl at work, but she has a boyfriend. Should I give her a gift to say i'm sorry for being mean and confess my deeper feelings? Or stay well clear of other peoples relationships? | Crushes |
he kinda just grabbed it and held it before he left.
after he like tried to play it off as shaking my hand
i don’t know, it was a nice feeling.
i also don’t know if it means anything either. it’s just nice. | Crushes |
So yeah, I don’t feel ready for a relationship, so we decided to break up! 😔😢 | Crushes |
I’m demisexual, so I usually like people I’m friends with, I want to be with someone I actually have feelings for, rather than someone who just looks hot that I barely know
I’ve had guys like me, but I’ve had feelings for none of them, but the crushes I do have every one in a while, never like me
A dude I liked in high school, got rejected as he thought I was creepy, looking back I did freak him out, but I was a kid! But still
My friend I crushed on, didn’t see me that way
A girl I liked for a while in my class, I wasn’t her type
A girl who I liked in college, had a long term gf, so was already taken
Guy I liked too much, never spoke to him as I was scared and he is super hard to contact as he barely uses socials
Guy I like recently, got a gf! | Crushes |
So i was working at this shop and he, who is the supplier, came to the customer service. Nobody was there to serve him so i decided to do so. Then when he saw me from faraway he did the "come on" hand gesture thing while smirking and i was blushing like crazy under my mask bcs wtf he looks so fine doing that. | Crushes |
I like you, I really do. And I trust that you like me, but im terrified.
Am I being too clingy? Am I distracting you? When will you start finding me annoying? What if starting a relationship does more harm than good? What if we both aren't ready for this?
I'm trying to communicate, but even that feels overbearing. I shouldn't doubt your feelings, but I do.
I don't think your feelings will last, I feel like you won't want to start anything because of the commitment.
But did you know? I dont care if we don't talk everyday, or anything like that, I just want to be assured that you like me and that you will stick around. In fact, I'm sick of being hyperaware of you. When will I be comfortable in your presence?
I'm sorry if I'm putting too much pressure on you, I'm sorry for walking into your life and suddenly changing it. Maybe I should have just been content with being classmates.
I'm reaching the point of avoiding you because of this fear damnit. I need to trust you but its so hard. Sosososososo hard.
I dont want my insecurities to bring you down, I don't want to be annoying, I don't want to be a distraction in your life.
I want to ask you on a date, I want to be in a relationship with you. We already confirmed our feelings but why do I feel like you will reject the idea?
Now is not the time to ask, but when is a good time?
"We havent known eachother for that long", "lets not say things we might regret and talk about this later". You say such little things and I'm concocting a story in my head.
I'm communicaring so much yet I still don't know what you are thinking or if you really mean what you feel. Ahhhh I shouldn't doubt you but I'm afraid.
I don't want you to be afriad so I'll tell you everything, but what if you just find it annoying?
I need to make my heart quiet. | Crushes |
I have werid ass tremors so sometimes i get nervous and some parts of my body shake a lot. Idk why but today all of a sudden when my crush was fucking talking and looking at my direction My body would start shaking like my stomach and chest. This happened about 2 times when she spoke and looked at my direction (she was talking to the teacher). She probably saw me shaking and thinks i’m creepy and werid as fuck who knows maybe she knows i have a crush on her now. She probably doesn’t even wanna sit next to me anymore lol. Adter that shaking i just zipped my jacket up and put a hoodie on to make it look like i’m cold but she probably thinks i’m hiding my shakes. Also don’t tell me that she probably didn’t see cuz i was infront of her vision. | Crushes |
I really like her. She’s pretty. She’s smart. And not toxic but kind and sweet and quiet just like me. But I’m too shy to approach her due to the fact it just seems out of place and weird. The only actual interaction we had was when she held the door for me and I said thank you and she beamed the softest but yet most angelic smile I’ve ever seen in response. What should I do? She’s with her friend all the time and I can’t just stalk her lol. | Crushes |
We share a study bell together and I was just doing my assignment when I realised that if I turned computer and leaned on one hand, I would be able to see his reflection.
The realization made my heart skip a beat, and I was hoping that maybe I'd catch him glancing at me.
Nope. He spent the whole time studying seriously.
In the end I took the opportunity to draw his reflection since I was bored, but then the bell rang and he unexpectedly looked up (I was in his direct line of sight), I quickly shut my computer down.
Seriosuly scared my soul out of me for a moment, can't believe I was almost caught... | Crushes |
Mine is Rogelio lol | Crushes |
I (14nb) am practically obsessed with this girl (13) at my school. But the year is coming to an end soon, and as luck would have it, she's a year below me. So while I'm off to high school, she'll still be in middle school another year. I want to talk to her but when I try it's like my mouth is frozen in place, but maybe the near end of the year will give me some courage. But in case it doesn't, encourage the hell out of me | Crushes |
Okay, we're in HS. I've liked one of my female friends for about 2 years now, and have decided that I will ask her out this May. But my friend (well call him John) likes her too. John texted me today, telling me he liked her (he doesn't know I do) and was asking for advice on how he should approach her. Yes, they are also friends (for about 1 year now) what do I do? If I ask her out, he might not want to be friends anymore. I'm okay with him asking her out, but then I'll never be able to get the chance at asking her out, and it will all be super awkward. What do I do??? No matter what, in the end I'll either be the asshole who spoiled his friendship, or I'll be the loner whose friendship got in the way of a shot at a relationship
Side note: I really like her. I mean really. I spend as much time with her as I possibly can. And for those asking how I plan on asking her out: we also play the same instrument. We are stand partners. We have S&E (solo and ensemble) and she asked me if I could be her duet partner. I planned on asking her out the night of our performance (as long as we got a good score that is) | Crushes |
I’ve been messaging this girl that I met at a party and we’re similar and have had great conversations (in person and online). I asked her to go out with me somewhere and offered her the plan but she wasn’t free. I just asked her again if she’s free next weekend and she said, “I’ll check if I’m free lol” and “I admire your dedication”
Is this some way of her saying that she’s not interested or could she just be saying it as an intended joke? | Crushes |
I'm in a group that organizes events for people of my demographic. Last September, I briefly met a guy who I thought was cute; I asked him what drink he ordered and he gave it to me to try. I didn't see him again for a while, so I forgot about him until the holidays, when Hinge kept showing him to me as "most compatible." Knowing this cute guy was single and looking for someone made me view him differently. His profile also made it seem like we had things in common. I never sent a like though, since that seemed awkward, and he never liked me either.
I've seen him a few times since. At first, he would barely acknowledge me even though we were around mutual friends. There was one time I caught him looking at me; I waved and he waved back, and I got the vibe he wouldn't have done/said anything if I hadn't. I figured it was because we didn't know each other well, but then I noticed him being friendly with other new people, which confused me.
However, 2 weeks ago, he became much more friendly. He started replying to things I'd say to our friends. I eventually asked him what he did, turns out he's in an industry my brother is applying for, so he offered to give him a referral. I later mentioned wanting to try this restaurant and he said him and some friends were going some time, what's your Instagram?, and added me to their gc. He also tried to persuade me to go clubbing with him and the other people there, when the topic came up and I was on the fence. I did end up going and at the pregame, he'd try making conversation with me, and would joke and laugh at lot. I mentioned how I would've loved to go to Coachella this year, since there are a lot of r&b artists I like performing, but can't and he replied that r&b was his fave, so if the lineup next year is similar, we should go together and high-fived me when I said yes. When we arrived at the club, I joked about how we got in for free because of me and he said he'd buy me a drink to show his appreciation. We didn't end up interacting the rest of the night (maybe because I was dancing with a lot of people) but I noticed him staring at me once.
I was feeling good and then last week, it seemed he wasn't acknowledging me again. We looked at each other from across the room, but we were both talking to others so didn't say hi, which was fine. But eventually we were in a group together and it felt like he was talking to/looking at everyone except me. I was disappointed until last night. We all went to a concert and a friend of ours gave us a ride home after. We were sitting in the back together. The window was foggy so he drew a smile on it. I drew a circle around it to make a head and that led to this game of us taking turns adding details. We were laughing the whole time; he even took a picture of the drawing and later restarted the game. I noticed too that he seems to talk to me in a softer tone than he does with others, though I could be overthinking that.
Little moments like that make me happy, but I'm worried that he wouldn't be interested, especially since this group is meant for making friends. He might not wanna date anyone in the group at all. What signs should I look out for and what could I do in the mean time? | Crushes |
I'm almost 100% certain this person likes me. They started texting me a lot recently, they send me tik toks/insta reels, and they're really friendly to me (altho tbh they're really nice to everyone). But the biggest indicator is that this person is hiding something from me and doesn't want me to know.
An example of this would be that one time they showed me that they took a lot of pictures of me from our school trip last year (I didn't mind at all and I was aware they were being taken, please don't think this is some weird stalker thing), and they still had them about a year later. I asked why they still had them, and they wouldn't tell me because "it's something embarrassing". They wouldn't tell me no matter what.
Another case of this would be recently, they started asking me about what I like. I answered, but when I asked why they were asking, they refused to tell. I thought they were trying to get me a birthday present or something since my birthday is pretty close, but they said it wasn't. They again refused to tell me why they wanted to know what I like. The next day or so, they told our mutual friend about it, and then she (mutual friend) refused to tell me as well. As far as I know, she would probably spill the secret unless it had to do something with crushes.
It's kind hard to explain these events how they really unfolded so hopefully whoever's reading this understands. But anyways, now that you have the background, I now need to start thinking of what I should do now.
To put it simply, I don't like them back. I think they're a really nice person, very friendly and very easy to get along with, and they've helped me a lot, but I don't have any romantic feelings towards them. I'm not completely sure what I should do. I want to reject them, but I want to do it in the least damaging way possible. I'm not exaggerating when I say they're a really nice person, they're probably one of the nicest people I know, and that's why I don't want to hurt them.
I'm also not sure what will happen with our friends and such if I do end up rejecting them. We have a lot of mutual friends, and I don't want to have to cut off a bunch of people because of the sheer awkwardness being around them and their friends. I know there probably won't be any significant change with my close friends, but I don't want to have to avoid a bunch of other cool people because of it.
TL;DR I know someone likes me, how do I reject them without making them feel bad?
I'm really not sure what I should do. If anyone has any advice, please tell me. | Crushes |
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