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I had a talking stage fling type thing with my good friend over the summer. we constantly texted and hung out, and I really think he liked me. when school started, we still kept it going for about a month, and then everything fell apart. we had never “revealed” our feelings, but i guess I thought the whole thing was obvious. clearly, it wasn’t. he suddenly became an asshole, hanging out with people he told me he hated and blowing me off. I know people move on, but it just feels awful because I truly truly liked him. like a lot. and I don’t know if it was miscommunication, but he recently told my friend that he couldn’t believe I thought he liked me.
I just feel stupid and sad that he doesn’t even feel a bit of remorse that i’m not in his life anymore. i’m always the only one who seems to care. and plus, I know I could do way better, but I can’t seem to get it out of my head that i lost him and the hundreds of memories we had. advice?
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My crush said she want to send a happy birthday message next month to a senior because she still remember him occasionally during a group of chatting but she said she don't think she going to have a relationship with him. She sent signal to tell me to be more active before but now replying only few words for my message. Is her not interested in me anymore?
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-we always say hi to one another in the hallway and smile.
-at my football game a few weeks ago she was watching from the stands and when I turned around and looked at her (lol I was staring but I hope it was too obvious) she made a big scene waving at me which was super cute.
-we both run track and before my races she comes to the starting line to watch and wishes me luck. And like that’s not unusual since I’m a better runner on the team ( I don’t wanna sound cocky lol) but when she does it it always seems to mean more like she’s really rooting for me.
- at our homecoming dance (which we both brought other dates to ) she got really excited to see me, and I think I saw her staring at me 🤷
What do you guys think?
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Yesterday really wasn't it - I had internal meltdown after meltdown in school kasi I was panicking over all my unfinished work. A bunch of our time was spent either sa classroom or sa lunch table namin (with some other people still doing the work while eating 💀) tas it got so unbearable to me that I was, like, "Babies, if you need me, asa Guidance Room lang ako" and I took off with my water canteen.
The Guidance Room was part office, part kid area (beanbag chairs, stuffed toys, and puzzle-piece foam mats) and I could talk to the personnel there or just chill dun sa kid area to calm down (which was what I planned to do) tas I was about to open the door and THEY FOLLOWED ME THERE :0 (we're besties btw) We both lay down on the pile of bean bags and I was hugging this big teddy bear while they were playing PvZ beside me + redirecting my attention. It didn't matter na people were entering the guidance room and seeing just the two of us bonding over fucking PvZ - stay jealous lmao XD
It's the fact that they abandoned their conversation with another friend to follow me to the guidance room~ Even if it wasn't out of romantic love, they're such a solid friend and I love them so so much ❤️
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This girl and I have been dating for a good amount of time now but we’ve never actually gone on a date before. This was our first time. It was everything I’ve ever wanted as I could literally not ask for more. I wish I could relive this moment for eternity.
The plan was to bake cookies from scratch and watch a movie at my house. It went perfectly :)
The cookies turned out quite well and they were delicious. That wasn’t really the star of the show though.
Later we went into my room and I set up my laptop for the movie. The lights were off but the string lights on my wall lit up my room softly. It was an extremely romantic setting.
We decided on watching “The Princess and the Frog”. While watching she held my hand at first. Then she would rest her head on my shoulder and eventually wrap her arms around me to hold me. It was the cutest thing ever.
Every time I would look at her resting on my shoulder I felt so lucky to have her.
Every so often she would look up and give me little kisses on my cheek. It was adorable. We continued to cuddle even after the credits rolled. Both of us would nod off a little until it was time to go.
After the date was over she said that cuddling just made her miss me more. Today was the best day of my life :)
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Mostly a bunch of small things (like me stealing his stuff) but I can’t be talking like that when I literally pull no one like 😭 help
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I kinda just need to rant and i guess telling the full story is gonna help. Sorry if some things are worded weird or incorrectly, english isn't my first language.
So! Let's start with me. First thing you need to know about me, I'm quite the introvert, if I'm not comfortable with you, it'll take a million years for me to engage conversation with anyone, either that or a lot of courage and the conversation always ends up going awkward. Second, I am not allowed to get into relationships, it just isn't well seen in my family and even if i managed to get into one, the person would need to be from my same religious background (this part I'm fine with, I don't mind).
Now that you have a bit of a background, let's start with the story.
Over here in my school, each grade, which ranges from 1st-6th semester, is separated into four specialties: Accounting, Human Resources, Construction and Programming. At the end of each semester, each specialty has something called "Demonstration of Skills" in which we present a completed project we did for a business of my city; it's basically our final project for that semester, we get graded and all. In programming, we make a completely developed project for some business, in 4th semester it's a dinamic web page, one that includes a CRUD and other stuff, but I won't go into detail. Point is, every single student from that specialty's demonstration of skills is there, in my case, all the students that belong to programming are there with their projects.
This thing takes ALL day, but for a good part of it you aren't doing anything. Once the evaluator has already graded you, you are basically done, you can go around and look other semesters projects and the like. All you need to do now, is for the teachers to tell you that you can take down your table so you can leave.
For this event, you need to go all fancy, white shirt, a tie, dress pants, a suit if you want, and the thing i hate the most, high heel shoes. I do not like this things at all, and to make matters worse, I spent around 6 hours standing on them withot sitting down at any point in time. It was the worst, my feet felt horrible and I just wanted to sit down, but given that I couldn't, I simply started ranting to my friends how much my feet hurted and how much I hated high heels. Suddenly, someone to my side says "Hey, if your feet hurt so much, why don't you take your shoes off?" and I turn around and see this man looking at me with a questioning look.
Now, I was either talking way too loud or this guy was just paying attention to what I was saying, but either way I sort of freaked out 'cause a random dude was talking to me, although weirdly enough I didn't felt as freaked out as I should've felt? I meant it when I said I was an introvert, people I don't know freak me out, but for some reason this guy that I have never met before just... doesn't do that? At least WAY less than I normally do. To the point were I answered him, telling him that the floor was dirty and that there was no place to sit down, and I just kept ranting about the damned shoes. He kept making comments here and there, some questions, I answered back, etc.
At some point, he left towards the bathroom and I just kept talking to my friends. I had brought my switch, so I offered to play some Mario Kart, we got the controllers out and starting playing. In the middle of the first race, the guy comes back and I ask him if he wants to play (where the hell did this come from, I have no idea, for some reason he just made me really comfortable around him. I never try to keep a new person around, if they leave I kinda celebrate a bit on the inside), he said that his parents where already there to pick him up so he was going to leave, I shrugged and went back to playing.
Once I was back at my home, I went back to the interaction and I kept thinking, "Who the hell is that dude and why the hell did he talk to me? Does he have no friends or something?". I kept thinking and suddenly something clicked. I knew who that dude was. He is the older brother of who used to be my younger brother's best friend back in elementary school. Also, now that I was thinking about it, he was also that dude that was looking at me at the school's entrance a while back while I waited to be picked up.
Ok, I know that sounded creepy, but it actually wasn't. I was just standing there waiting to be picked up and the guy was also waiting, he was leaning against a wall and looking in my direction, but I'm pretty sure he wasn't looking at me, just in my direction, he looked kind of zoned out if anything. It still freaked me out when it happened tho.
Once I knew who this guy was, I just went "Huh, he probably doesn't remember who I am, never interacted with him. Meh it's not like he's gonna talk to me again, he was probably bored and thought we were having a pretty interesting conversation or something" and ended it there.
Fast forward to the last week of school before going out for summer vacations. We go to school but we don't do anything, so we don't even need to be inside of the classrooms anymore as long as you aren't going to do something in that class (this is what in my country we call a free class).
My group is currently outside just talking with each other, it's our last hour before we can leave school. I'm jumping from friend group to friend group, conversation to conversation, I felt like I needed to get my brain to do something stimulating.
While I was talking to two friends, I started to get a bit bored, so I started to look around and see who was around so I could go over there and see what they were talking about. And guess who I see? That's right, the guy. He was sitting down by himself with his back towards me underneath a tree.
I do not know what went through my brain at that point, it didn't line up at all with how I normally behave, because I left my current conversation, went towards him and asked "Hey, what are you doing here all by yourself?". By the time I had said yourself, I was already beginning to have a million thoughts per second, number one being "Why the hell did you approach a total stranger? He doesn't even know you. He is going to freak out and tell you to leave, you are a total stranger to him and just approached him like nothing. What the hell were you thinking?!?!". He took out his earphones AND ANSWERED.
And then, I kid you not, I had the most pleasant conversation I had ever had in my entire life. We talked about everything, WE WERE LAUGHING FOR GOODNESS' SAKES. I barely knew the guy, but he was making me laugh, and overall it was the most engaging conversation I had ever been a part of.
We talked for over an hour and by the time it was time to leave school, we walked together towards the entrance/exit and KEPT TALKING. He was then picked up and I stayed at the entrance until i was picked up.
Got home, and WHAT THE HELL THAT WAS THE BEST CONVERSATION I HAD EVER HAD WITH ANYONE, LET ALONE WITH SOMEONE I HAD JUST MET. I couldn't stop thinking about it, but I also knew that there was no way that I was going to talk to him the next day at school, 'cause whatever weird extroverted moment I had was not gonna happen again.
Next day at school, I basically noticed where he was at all times. It's like that thing where you meet someone knew and suddenly they keep appearing everywhere, or like, before they were a background character so you didn't pay attention to them, but now that you knew them you noticed.
As much as I wanted to talk to him again, I couldn't for the life of me get the courage to initiate the conversation, so I just didn't. After a couple hours, my class had a test they had to take, but i was the only one who was exempt from doing it, so an hour before it started, I pick up my backpack, go outside and went and sat down on an empty table. I got my headphones out, connected them to my phone cause they're wired and just as I was about to put them on, someone sits down in front of me and asks "What are you doing here all by yourself?", and IT'S THE GUY. At this point in the story I already know his name, so let's stop calling him 'the guy' and let's call him Alex (this is not his real name, I just prefer to tell the story with a fake name instead of a letter of his real name).
So, Alex sits down in front of me, and we start talking and again we have a *great* conversation. At one point, I mention that I play a certain game and he says "Oh! You play that game too?! We should play sometime, do you have Discord? Or well, maybe it's better if you give me your number" and extends his phone towards me. And in my head, I go "Smooth", 'cause really, that was the smoothest way I have seen someone ask someone else their number. I go "sure" and add my contact on his phone and we keep talking.
We started talking around 10 am, and school ended at 2pm, AND WE TALKED FOR THAT WHOLE TIME. It was so great, and we talked and laughed and everything in between, it was again the greatest conversation I've had in my life.
I didn't get to talk to him in person again before summer vacations rolled out, but now that he had my phone number we practically texted every single day, for at least 2 weeks straight. Then the messages became more sporadic, it still was almost every day, just shorter conversations; but this doesn't mean that overtime we lost contact, on the contrary we replaced texting to calls over on Discord, MANY calls. We stayed up almost everytime up to 1am talking and playing.
Over time we got to know more about each other, he probably knows more about me than I do about him, he doesn't like to say much about him unpromted, if you want to know something you have to ask him, unlike me that likes to tell my close friends as much of me as I can without having to be asked.
We now talk over Discord almost everyday, if not everyday at the very least once on the weekends, and for hours. I don't know how but I managed to get him into the discord server me and my friends have, so now we mostly talk in there and he has gotten to meet my friends through calls and games. I'm still not sure wether he's shy or he rather just talk to me, but he only get's on call if I'm there, otherwise he won't even participate on the text conversation. It does suck that I haven't seen him IRL in months now. The last time I talked to him in person was before summer vacation started.
Although crazy stuff still happens while we are on call. The other day, it somehow came up that I have never gotten a kiss, and I said that I haven't even gotten one on the cheek and Alex just goes "Do you want me to give you one?" and I swear my brain restarted. A bunch of the people that were on call were talking at the same time he said this, so they didn't hear him but I did, loud and clear. This man just says that like it's nothing and my brain fully stopped working, were playing when he said that and if someone had been looking at my character they would have seen that I had stopped moving.
Also, for a while over on text, he had been calling me sweetie. Crazy stuff. He doesn't do it anymore but still, sometimes I think about it and wow, truly the simple things are the very best.
As of the time I'm writing this, me and my friends planned to go to the theater to go watch a movie and I invited Alex, he said he would go, so after months of not seeing him well I don't know how I'm going to feel. He's a really nice guy, I just hope I don't screw up with my awkwardness.
If I'm honest, I still don't know whether I am crushing or not, but I do know that no matter what I don't want to lose this man from my life. I think I am, but the last time I fell in love it ruined me. For now, I think I 'll do my best to be close friends, I don't want to ruin what we have.
**TL;DR**
Full story on how I met a random guy out of nowhere, turns out he is absolutely amazing, probably will stay just as close friends 'cause I'm afraid.
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For context, we have only talked about 4 times. We don't know each other well. I wanna ask her for her number, as I think it would make things way easier. How should I do it?
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So I have a crush on a girl that I've actually known for quite a while and I've had a crush on her most of that time. That is typically as far as it went though and life went on and I dated other people. Now I am single and from what I understand so is she. I can't describe how beautiful she is to me. I mean she is already objectively beautiful but I know her well enough to know she does what I wish I could've done and became a great painter and finisher. She isn't from a wealthy family so she understands what it means to have to work your way up. She is really independent and hard working. She is someone I think I could really love.
Here's the thing, she has never really shown interest in me and she actually dated my best friend a couple times, but years apart the two times. He has a fiance now, and said he wouldn't care at all but he doesn't think she'd go for it because of her history with men. She tends to like shitheads that are really passionate but also abusive. I don't think it ever got physical but I don't know. I've fucked around a lot, and I don't think anyone would ever say I'm, "normal" but I've turned my life around a lot and I don't exactly fit the type of men she's had in the past. I am starting to believe she's turning over a new leaf as well. She seems to be moving towards something different.
Here's what I'm wondering. Should I pursue her? If so, when do I call it quits if she's not into it. I've had trouble with this last one in the past. Now, I'm not the guy that doesn't take no for an answer and keeps at it until becomes almost stalkerish. I go the other way and quit trying at the first sign trouble or discontentment, even when there was a real possibility of it turning into something. I genuinely don't want to make her, or anyone uncomfortable. I've heard many times not to give up and keep at it. Isn't that a bad thing? Shouldn't we as men understand when a woman says, she isn't interested, leave it at that. Wouldn't that be male privilege and arrogance to think she would like me if I just keep bugging her. Wouldn't it make her feel like she is being harassed?
I don't know, I guess I want to know if there's a chance with her.
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He followed me on instagram recently, even though we never talked before. He is always watching my stories within the first few minutes but never replies or even like any of my posts. I used to think the feelings were mutual but now I don’t know.
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Or who they’re with?
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Every day now I keep thinking about them without figuring out how I could strike a conversation with them like a normal person at the top of my head. I avoid opening my social app to see their icon on my screen, see my minimal past conversations with them. I find it so pathetic of me to be so scared to even look at anything they’re associated with. They might not be interested in me at all but instead are just finding me less yet still intimidating and uninterested towards them. Even though I’ve done things that could show I have a thing for them and not just because I’m weirdly friendly yet cold.
Maybe I should just give up and instead try to reframe my impression of them as a potentially closer friend before I get too delusional.
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Hey everyone,
There's this girl (F19) that I (M23) really like but I don't know how I should understand her signals she give. It feels different everyday.
So first she always acts friendly and supportive when we talk and chat, like she always cheers on me and I do the same for her. We talk often in school when we are alone, she smiles at me during class sometimes and waits till I look at her. She also give me hugs to say goodbye sometimes, but I don't know if thats normal though. I also asked her out if she wanna go to a club sometime and she said yes.
Oh and once she pulled at my hair and flicked my head out of nowhere, which may be teasing but I don't know. During that time she had a boyfriend, they broke up a month ago though.
I dont wanna rush things because she may not be ready for new dates or someone else.
On the other hand she sometimes mentioned that her friend texted her, but for some clarity the german word for friend is the same as boyfriend. So I am really confused if she has a new boyfriend or it's literally just a friend.
I have absolutely no idea if she may like me or not, what do you think?
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I've succeeded in telling my current crush how I've felt and even if rejected ako, we're still besties 🎉 That makes me wonder about the other crushes I've confessed to but have ended badly (we don't even talk anymore) because I was generally a worse person back then, but one at a time.
I still have a little bit of feelings for one of them, and I confessed over text because pandemic (yikes) and with an encrypted message (double yikes) that they figured out easily enough - it was just too soon after they got rejected themself. That was three years ago and I want to make it up to them by confessing properly, face to face, directly.
We've begun talking again kasi we''ve been in the same friend group for a while now and we even, like, trade jokes with each other now... and they're single 😈 /hj but I don't know if I should "renew my confession" (wait that sounds like a good term to coin, actually, if ever it's a good idea) and see what happens
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My crush (18m) and I (17F) have been hanging out a lot lately. Last night he and a couple other friends came to spend the night. Lots of fun, video games, personality quizzes, and it becomes clear he and I on this particular night are both very horny. Fast forward to the late ams, he and I are the only ones still awake, my other friend asleep next to me, and my other friend in the guest room. I'm sitting at the foot of my bed, and I have a clear view that he has a "situation". I really wanted to initiate some intimacy, but I've never been in this situation before, so I stayed quiet. A few minutes later he asked me to blow him, and I, of course, agree (looking back, I wish I hadn't). I go to move my friend asleep next to me out of the room, and once I do he quickly tells me NVM. He didn't want to move people around for it. Fast forward through a long awkward silence since I'm NOT gonna blow him with my friend asleep right next to me. Eventually he and my friends leave, and later I text him to talk about it. He says he didn't do it because he likes me, but just cuz he wanted head. He did apologize for it, understanding how inconsiderate his actions were. That hurt a LOT to hear. I feel a little heart broken, especially since he knows I've never done anything intimate with anyone else (not even kiss), so for him to attempt all this just for heads sake is really hard for me to work through. I don't know where to go from here, especially since I do still like him. I don't want to give up on this yet, but I feel like this situation has really messed up our relationship. Any advice?
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I made another post before, where I shared the story of how I (15 M)asked out my crush (15M) by putting hearts made from gum wrappers and a letter in his locker. I gave it to him on a Friday, and he put a letter in my locker Monday. I wouldn't say I was exactly rejected. He said he didn't want to date yet, but he liked me and he would want to date and was scared he was making a bad decision. But tbh, I am happy. We are still kind of flirty right now, and everything is going well. Just wanted to update! (also we are closer than ever rn)
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I had my first date with her last night(it was also my first date ever) and I’d say it went amazing we talked a lot, laughed with each other a lot and connected/learned a lot abt eachother. Toward the end she suggested we do something again when she’s not sick as she currently is and then gave me a good bye hug before leaving. Since then we haven’t spoken a single bit, and Ik I might me overthinking it a bit too much since it hasn’t even been 24 hours. But I was expecting her to text me first, because she had started to text me a lot before I first asked her out, so I thought she’d say had a great time or something and then I was gonna plan a second date. But should I reach out to her first since she’s not? Or does that come off as too clingy? What should I do?
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I've got a few situations to cover to see if y'all think my crush might like me. (P.S I call my crush "O" just so I keep who it is private<3)
O gave me a nickname ( that ONLY they call me)
Went out if their way to talk to me to "give me back my pen" even though they knew they would get in trouble
They said that I carried one if my friends & I's sport team in gym.
They makes jokes about coming to my house and having a sleep over with me.
We were in gym and I looked over and caught them leaning against the bleachers staring my way.
I caught them staring at me during silent reading in English, then they quickly looked away
They remembered that I said ONCE that I like jolly ranchers in 5TH GRADE ( we are in 8th )
Whenever something funny/weird/odd happens, they always look at me and smile
And I saved the best for last. O literally said " I love you " in class ( as a joke because they're a class clown) then got all red and looked away. ( I probably looked like a red apple but that's not the point)
So the question is.... Do you think they like me?
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Do there's this guy, he's a weirdo and I like that about him, but he's also a class clown. He's kinda a follower for that, and I mean I like him for who HE is but I can tell a lot of what the other popular boys do, makes him change. I've known him for 2 years and I know who he really is, he's smart and weird, funny and always finds a way to make you laugh. I'm just worried he'll change because the populars want him to.
I can tell that he might like me, I've caught him looking at me multiple times in class, but whenever j look at him, he gets nervous and looks away, he gives me his own nickname for me based on a cute inside joke, and whenever something funny or weird happens, the first thing he does is look at me and smile.
Though the problem is I came out as lesbian to my parents a few months back, but I've learned now I still do have SOME attraction to guys, just not much. And so HE thinks I'm gay and so does everyone else.
So I'm wondering.. what should I do?
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like idk if they like me back and that’s whatever but i can’t move onto other people cause i rlly this person😭 and whenever i’m talking to someone else they’re all i think ab and i feel weirdly guilty for trying to talk to someone else??
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I knew this guy from my previous school a long time ago and very much liked him. Recently, my friend described a guy she had been crushing on and I thought nothing of it because I honestly didn't think it was anybody I knew. However, I saw my old crush in the halls of my new school, and my feelings came and I felt something. Then, the moment was ruined when I remember my friend describing who her crush was and what he wore. And it was him.
I'm completely at a loss for what I should do. Right now though, I'm feeling like I should push my feelings aside and let her pursue him.
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Like I don't know, I'm not trying to do anything to change their relationship since that would be awful, I do just want to be friends now, butbthere just feels like there us still something really wrong about trying
Since I do still have a crush on them, but I do honestly want to be friends, I'm just afraid that they won't want any male friends or something, or that they'll realize that I had a crush on them, or some other thing might happen, I'm just not sure, it just feels really inappropriate to try and talk to them or anything, it seems like they wouldn't want me around because they already have someone to talk to or something
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Was playing basketball when i was walking back and got tripped by my crush. I pulled their hand to stand up since i saw it, reluctantly or unintentionally, reach down to me. I sttood up while holding their hand and went along with them helping me up instead of me just grabbing their hand 💀💀 dont know if that made sense
Honestly still smiling rn ⛄️
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I have a crush on my classmate, who I sometimes talk to in school, and I recently started texting him. However, after talking for a good while, the conversation naturally ended itself.
I want to continue talking to him, but I don't know what to do to get talking to him again (I'm so shy), aside from replying to an insta story or something. I don't want to be overbearing either ...
What should I do ?
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I met them on the internet, tho they live relatively close to me. We've been texting like this for few months and our relationship clicked really well. Like you know that feeling, when there is no "awkward stage" right? It was like that. It didn't took long before I started developing feelings for them and before I knew I was smiling to my phone and hoping that every message I got was from them. Some time ago they told me, they have a crush on someone and well, it crushed me because I made myself hopeful they felt the same about me. Few weeks later they got into relationship with this person (let's name them Z). I spend few days crying, because even though they said they had a crush on someone else they still kept messages the way they used to, which was flirty, so my stupid self still had hopes.
Now this is where I'm kinda... Delusional. And I feel awful about it. Because Z lives very far away, it's also long distance and not only that, but they wanted an open relationship. I am not judging anyone who has an open relationship, it's not my business, as long as both sides are comfortable with it. But what I care about is my crushs happiness. And I'm just afraid they're gonna have their heart crushed soon, because they're really commited (and monogamous). See, we all know each other, I know Z. Z flirts with everyone, tells everyone they love them and is all over everyone. And I just have a feeling they are not serious at all. Idk I may be wrong, my brain just might be too delusional. I'm just worried my crush is gonna have their heart broken again, and they already suffer through lot of other problems. I'm worried they may do something bad. And before anyone comes at me - I wish what I'm thinking is wrong and that Z cares about them. I wish they are serious about my crush. I just wish my crush can be happy. I'm not gonna act on my feelings, I'm not gonna do anything that would be bad for their relationship.
But also at the same time I'm just angry. I have been there this whole time, taking care of them, being for them when they needed it. And the same from their side! I thought everything was going well and I thought our relationship was getting on another level, because of the increased amount of words like "cute", "precious", "pretty", "beautiful", "lovely" etc, which they didnt really use with others. The amount of times they said something in lines of "I wish I had someone to hug right now" and I was just so close to telling them that "hey I'm here I can give you as much hugs and kisses as you want" but i was just so afraid of crossing some sort of boundary that I set not to make them uncomfortable and yeah it turned out that I shouldn't have done that and just be more confident. Also one thing I'm not really understanding (gen) is that any of them never said "I love you" (I know because crush was telling me about it today). Even though Z tells that to everyone (yes I also got "I love you" message from them too, after they started dating). And like... It may be different for everyone but isn't dating the thing where you date someone who you already love? This is genuine question pls don't come at me I'm nd and trying to understand people more.
As I said - I'm not gonna do anything about it. I already feel terrible of thinking that Z isn't genuine, even tho I saw more situations that don't paint them in the best light. I'm gonna try to bury my feelings deep down, because I treasure them as a friend and losing them because of my stupid heart would just be my biggest nightmare. Had to let these emotions out somehow so hopefully I can start moving on.
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Okay, so I've been mulling it over and I decided I need some other opinions.
I've been talking to a girl from Florida *(I'm from England)* for about three years now, and we've talked consistently for those years, with two one-month silences due to outside issues, but we've always come back from it. We get along amazingly and have an almost scary amount of common interests, opinions, etc.
I confessed my feelings last year *(right after she ended a crappy relationship, stupid I know)*, and she said she's "more than willing to see where things go when we meet", and that she had felt the same about me for a while now, but wanted me to meet her first in case I don't like her, which I doubt, I'm damn stubborn and know what I want LOL.
Next year, I'm going to Florida for vacation, and she said she's coming to see me, which is a 3-hour bus for her, and she has already booked a hotel room ($150+) and wants to buy a theme park ticket to go with me to Universal ($150+) all out of her own money.
Now, all of this seems like a no-brainer, *"what girl who doesn't like you would spend like $300 to come see you?"* but there are seeds of doubt in my mind, I would be a fool to be perfectly confident. I like her, and I want to do right by her, I just hope she decides she likes me.
It's things like the fact she doesn't talk to me for very long these days, conversations are short and usually have gaps of 4-8hrs, and I always seem to be messaging first, but we're still getting along great, and we've never argued.
I just want to make her happy, you know? But really, the moment you think you know what's going on inside a woman's head is the moment your goose is well and truly cooked. So I need some others thoughts.
Thanks for reading
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I just really hate that I still want something with them, I know they have a boyfriend, I've known it for half a year at this point, and I've just never been able to get over it, I've always just felt bad about it and felt jealous and worthless and that I'd waited too long, since I'd had a crush on them since before they met their boyfriend, but I was always too afraid to talk to them
I just felt awful about it, even though I kept trying to convince myself to stop thinking about it I never did, I was just constantly overwhelmed by it and just never really moved on
But a few days ago it started to feel different, I just started feeling less stressed about it, and I started to care less, and I thought "finally, I'm getting over it, I'll be able to just move on and meet other people" and I just kind of felt a weight lift off
But as a few days passed, I realized that I didn't actually get over it at all, I just stopped feeling as bad about them already being in a relationship, barely anything has changed, I still have a feeling that it might happen eventually, and I don't know how to get rid of that
I just really hate it, I just want to be over it already, I want to lose all hope I have for being anything with them but I just can't get rid of it fully, I don't really feel as jealous or anything anymore, but I'm still thinking as if I have any chance with them in the future, and even if I do I don't want to just live my life waiting for them to break up when I don't even really want that to happen
I just want to stop hoping at all and move on from it, just leave them alone and try and see something in someone else, but I just keep going back to some misguided hope that they'll eventually break up or something, I just want to stop thinking that at all, it makes me feel awful to be hoping for that
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I'm planning on texting my crush but I keep coming up with excuses like "oh he's probably tired I don't wanna bug him" or "it's Thanksgiving he's probably busy." I just wanna ask him the name of a band he mentioned lol. I'm scared I'll bug him or something
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I hope I don’t get rejected
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I have a crush on this girl we'll call "Cacel" for now (endearment term I use for her). I talk to her a lot, offer her food and things, played with her hair, I did everything short of telling her I like her. I eventually confessed to her, but we remained close friends.
Now story time
We were waiting outside for tricycles, and there is this popular resto in front of our school. She asked me if the food is good there, and I jokingly said that we can eat there sometime if she wants.
Thing is, she giggled and agreed. Now I'm flattered and stunned at the same time. Any advice for the big day?
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I am so crushing on one of my fuck buddies. It’s insane. I can’t stop thinking about him. I always want to talk to him. I’m always checking my messenger and snap just hoping he’ll be online. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this because my friends are tired of hearing it and I don’t talk about this type of thing with my family. It’s so corny, every time I see his picture I just sign and share. Fuck I’m creepy jk. I seriously never thought in a million years I’d feel this way about him. I’ve known him for years. We fucked one night back in 2014. I didn’t really have feelings for him after that. He would always bring it up and it annoyed me so I started acting bitchy towards him. Then in 2018, I was about to leave town, and I just wanted to get laid before I left. So I was kinda like hey I’ve known this guy forever, we’ve fucked before,I’m comfortable with him. So I asked him if he wanted to hook up. He agreed. Then we started a little fwb thing or whatever. Then I moved. I came back 5 months later and reconnected with him. And we started where we left off. I moved again a few months later. I saw hm again this summer and yeah, I wanted to bang him, but he was drunk af and I was sober, I didn’t think it was right lol. So it didn’t happened. Few months pass, and he hooked up with someone else. That’s when I started getting jealous and territorial, so to speak. And that’s when I realize I saw him more than a fuck boy. Ugh I just wanna move back to my hometown and start something with him. But that prolly wouldn’t end well. Anyways I think I’ve said all I have to say, thank you for coming to my Ted talk
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And she hasn't responded for over an hour
She responded to my message right before but right after she kinda just left
Not sure if a text never got sent fully through, she's busy, or she doesn't care enough
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So I've had this one huge crush on this one girl, but we don't really speak with eachother and I can't get myself to speak with her.
Ok so the past few days I've been taking with this one girl I never really found myself to have a crush on, and oh my god her personality is the perfect thing with her, we have a few conversations every day and it's really comforting, but once again there's now my awkwardness probably breaking that apart. We also share a few stuff in common we like. Nothing serious between us, no real hinting or anything, but oh my GOD I DIDN'T NEED A SECOND ONE NOW
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How do I get over a girl who I work with and she is in a relationship? There is no way I can avoid her because we work in the same department but everytime I see her, I get a feeling in my stomach and get so anxious and I hate this feeling.
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I have a huge crush on a girl but she doesn't like me at all, she doesn't even notice me. So that really hurts, but some other girls have a crush in me and one of those girls is my crush's friend. So what should I do, I'm kinda trying to get over her but, I still like her.
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Hey everyone,
There's this girl (F19) that I (M23) really like but I don't know how I should understand her signals she give. It feels different everyday.
So first she always acts friendly and supportive when we talk and chat, like she always cheers on me and I do the same for her. We talk often in school when we are alone, she smiles at me during class sometimes and waits till I look at her. She also give me hugs to say goodbye sometimes, but I don't know if thats normal though. I also asked her out if she wanna go to a club sometime and she said yes.
Oh and once she pulled at my hair and flicked my head out of nowhere, which may be teasing but I don't know. During that time she had a boyfriend, they broke up a month ago though.
I dont wanna rush things because she may not be ready for new dates or someone else.
On the other hand she sometimes mentioned that her friend texted her, but for some clarity the german word for friend is the same as boyfriend. So I am really confused if she has a new boyfriend or it's literally just a friend.
I have absolutely no idea if she may like me or not, what do you think?
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How can she make me feel like her favorite person in one moment and in the next i feel like i annoy the shit out of her. Could be gone and she won't notice.
She and her randomly tell each other whats going on in our lifes and i LOVE hearing her talk/complain/be excited about ANYTHING. But...i feel like (lately) a lot of the time i tell her how my day is going and what im doing, she literally could not give less of a shit. The confusing thing is: me and my 2 closest friends do the same in our groupchat but it doesnt bother me at all when they dont react (i mean sometimes yes, but a lot of the time i just talk about the most random stuff so i cant blame them).
My mental health is the worst its ever been lately and keeps declining, which is why i dont do much. A lot of times i cant find the fun in my favorite activities like i used to. I really have nothing to do lately. This is why its even more important for me that people react to my little stories. I dont have much to tell lately yk. Im really jealous of her everyday life. She always finds something to do with her freetime while i sit here and deteriorate. Maybe my daily life really isnt as interesting. I get why she would be bored of that tbh. Maybe im manipulating my own thoughts here idk.
I would like to communicate that with her but i have done that too often already. I know i dont bother her if i ask but i need some assurance lately and i feel like if you ask about that too much it can start to annoy that person (which THEN leads to them ACTUALLY not liking you even though the did in the beginning). Ive never been overthinking a situation this much.
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For the first time in my life I feel like I'm really alive and now I see I'm not worthy enough for her really... I started to improve myself in many ways and became a lot better in social contacts. This girl really seems to like me but I struggle to make a huge move forward because I feel I'm still not enough for her, even though I crave for love so much - I've never been loved for real once in my life in romantic way.
I just don't see what I am worth for her to date me. Really I don't have that much hobbies and my life is a big ass routine for about 4 weeks now since I met her. I can't even tell if she's shy or straight up cold to me. I have so many doubts and I can't stop thinking of her since I met her (about a month).
I thought falling in love is beautiful and magic. And it is for the most. But now I see that it also leaves your brain in total mess.
My biggest fear right now is that if I wait more she will just lose interest in me, forget I exist, friendzone me or find someone better. But I don't want to make it rash because I need to prepare mentally for it and this anxiety is killing me inside.
I just wish everything would be easy and she just sat next to me right now when I type this. It hurts when I realize the first time when a girl seems to like me for the first time of my so-long boring, awful and loser life, after all positive changes I made - I'm still a little bitch that can't take possible rejection in the face. Fuck me man
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I'll finally talk to her if I find her tomorrow in the highschool hallway, no more waiting bs, even tho I'm ugly as hell compared to her.
I except the worse and the best at the same time, which I can't explain 😂
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# My Situation
I am quite into this girl in my class; she's nerdy, intelligent and cute. Over the past few weeks I've been talking to her quite a bit by my standards (I am somewhat introverted and nerdy, like she is). We've discussed grades a bit and we even briefly studied together(Came to me for help :D - but just over phone though) and, I would like to ask her out on a date. I strongly believe that this is the best course of action because we would be able to see if we have similar interests and *if* we'd like to go on a second date. Not asking her out on a date would end up with just fantasizing to no avail.
Also this would be my first date ever... so...
# Why I think it's best to ask her out over text
Now that we've established the principle of asking her out being a good idea (if it isn't please tell me), I've carefully deliberated with myself and have decided upon asking her out over text. You may ask yourself **WHY?** \- Everything in this forum advises against it. Well the answer is pretty straight forward, last time that I confessed someone in person (about a year ago) I got rejected pretty hard, I personally think that getting a text saying "no" is easier to deal with instead of a dissertation of all of my flaws. Also, asking her out over text also wouldn't make me put her on the spot, which I wouldn't want to do.
# Closing remarks
Questions:
\- Is asking her out a bad idea?
\- Is asking her out over **text** a bad idea?
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this!
PS: English isn't my first language, please excuse any and all grammatical and spelling mistakes.
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Met this guy a couple weeks ago when I was working at a different office. He is super cute and both of us are Asian. He likes to joke around at work and flirt with me.. bad thing is I am married and I told him.. I also found his FB. Looks like he has a gf/wife. What should I do? I can’t stop thinking about him.
My husband is man with trust issues.. he would suspect me cheat on him if I had to work long hours.. it happens pretty often. I am kind of tired of him.
I can refuse to work at office if I need to.
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I met a girl online and text with her for almost a month now. We're 16yo and live 2 hours drive apart from each other, but she says that her parents don't let her go and meet me. She doesn't text me first but sometimes she does. It's fun texting with her, but I also try not to get excited, because I don't know her in real life, but it's hard. I worry that after a longer time of writing and not meeting, she might become disinterested. Maybe I should ask if she still wants to text me even if we can't meet? Or maybe I should offer her that we can call each other and talk like that? Idk. What are your suggestions?
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Hey everyone. I have a crush on a girl in my class and I want to ask her out. We talk sometimes in real life and in text and I am not really flirting with her or anything whenever we have a conversation- just keeping it casual. I make her laugh and tease her a lot but she ends up leaving me on read at the end by reacting an emoji and I want to break that bubble and just ask her out. She is single but she values her academic life a lot and I don’t think she is interested in going out with anybody (I know that’s a red flag early on that I shouldn’t ask anyone out), but I might be willing to give it a shot and I want some advice, should I do it or no?
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She called me and my friend ugly and crazy af, and she makes fun of ppl who cannot defend themselves and shakes her ass on camera and only dates 2 yr difference hot guys like wtf
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Hello. I wanna know how did you get over a crush on a coworker? I like this one guy from my work but he is taken and so am I, so nothing will ever happen. And I am not trying to act on him because I’m not that kind of person, but I can’t control my mind I’m just a human. I can’t think about anything else, I can’t sleep or eat because he’s always on my mind. And I feel so guilty about it.. whenever he’s not around I feel so nervous thinking about him, but once he’s around me I feel so relaxed and not nervous even a bit. Any tips on how to get over this or what should I do in general?
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There is a guy at the gym I like. When I first started we talked after class everyday and would mess around and be silly. He seemed really interested in getting to know me. He asked when I came in and then said he dosent normally go on those days but he would make am exception. He then went in everyday that week. I thought we hit it off but then he mentioned he had a gf so I backed off. A couple months go by and we start seeing each other at class again. After class he would come up and talk to me. I was feeling like he may not have a gf anymore so I started flirting and complimenting him. I then touched his arm a few times and we played around. He then put his hand on my knee. I didn't say anything and let it be there. After class I talked to another girl and he came up and said something then left. Then for our next class I partnered with someone else because i froze and got nervous. I haven't seen him since then. Did I fuck up? What should I do? Is it weird if I add him on insta with no mutual friends? Do you think he has a gf?
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so yeah, today our class went in a short trip to see the making off of an supermarket in our country and listen to and to an speech about eating more fruits and vegs bla bla.
and literally the entire way on the bus she kept looking at me when she thinked that i wasn't going to notice, but at the end she didn't give a shit and just kept staring at me.
during the speech i was forced to sit by her side and holy fuck was it painful. she kept basically mimicking my posture everytime i moved even a little bit, she wouldn't stop looking at me or toying with her hair. also she tried touching her leg/knee with mine and everytime i moved my leg because i was getting uncomfy with that she would just try to go make our legs touch again.
the last straw for me that made me change seats was she trying to touch my leg.
and on the way back on the bus she made her friends sit by all of my friends side so i would have to seat a little bit near her.
there's also the fact that everytime i would try to look at something she would literally just get infront of me or do something that she knew would get my attention.
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Honestly I don’t know what’s up with her anymore. At the end of the day I was going down the stairs (I was behind her and her friend and we were the only ones on the stair case) her friend looked behind to see me and made a shocked expression and my crush looked over and saw me and went faster so I guess it’s over cuz she hasn’t texted or talked so I’m just gonna
Leave a final note in her locker after break saying this: “Sorry if I made anything awkward, I’ll leave you alone.” So yeah I guess that’s it
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He sucks at responding to text, I feel like this will be my last push and say hes just uninterested and not “introverted”
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My crush has blue hair. Kinda looks like ninja ngl.
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Hey everyone,
There's this girl (F19) that I (M23) really like but I don't know how I should understand her signals she give. It feels different everyday.
So first she always acts friendly and supportive when we talk and chat, like she always cheers on me and I do the same for her. We talk often in school when we are alone, she smiles at me during class sometimes and waits till I look at her. She also give me hugs to say goodbye sometimes, but I don't know if thats normal though. I also asked her out if she wanna go to a club sometime and she said yes.
Oh and once she pulled at my hair and flicked my head out of nowhere, which may be teasing but I don't know. During that time she had a boyfriend, they broke up a month ago though.
I dont wanna rush things because she may not be ready for new dates or someone else.
On the other hand she sometimes mentioned that her friend texted her, but for some clarity the german word for friend is the same as boyfriend. So I am really confused if she has a new boyfriend or it's literally just a friend.
I have absolutely no idea if she may like me or not, what do you think?
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:)
HE'S HAPPY
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I said after my last heartbreak “I swear, one more and I will go for my revenge body” but now that has happened and my self worth is swinging all over the place. from having a literal god complex to nearly crying just because I look like myself. are there any tips on how to ‘force’ myself to push through and go for my revenge body?
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So yeah I had a crush on a doctor when my bus driver broke my ankle I had to get an x ray and the doctor was young and caring and was tryna make me feel better of the situation he even agreed to me having a milkshake to make me feel better when I was learning how to walk on crutches he helped me and even caught me when I fell and even helped me get into my parents car too bad I won’t see him again
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hey, today was supposed to be our first date. let me tell you beforehand that idk how she feels about me, she called it a date herself but I call hanging out with friends also a date.
basically, after school I went to the city to get some boba and then back to school because she lives at the school dorm and wasn’t allowed to leave. this morning I texted her asking if I should still go and she very excitedly said yes. on my way back I texted her on snap but she didn’t reply so I thought her phone died. when I got back at school I asked some people about her and they said she should be back in an hour, so I waited because I was there anyway.. so an hour passed and she still didn’t come back so I went away, she hasn’t texted me back yet. but I did delete the texts I sent her saying I was omw, instead I jokingly said she should tell me next time when she goes to the gym, because apparently that is allowed for her.
basically I feel..dumb? humiliated? forgotten? I am not mad at her because I feel like it’s my fault for trusting her. I lied and told my best friend I went home early on my own because I wanted to, not because she forgot about me..what should I do? I want to ignore her but what if she really forgot..? but I guess if you really care then she wouldn’t forget about me. I feel so dumb for being hours on the road + waiting for her when I could have been home alone and do some things I would have loved doing. I could’ve avoided my feelings getting hurt.. I feel like it is my fault.. I don’t even have a bone in my body mad at her..
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I'm currently holding myself back from giving my crush all the drawings I made of him, before graduating. Some part of me wants to do that, to see a shocked face (we never talk), and to start with ending the crush after more than two years. But some part of me also thinks it's creepy, like... Not only 'you were watched😏' but also 'you were drawn😏' 😂 Nah, I think it's a bad idea, the longer I think about it. I'll imagine it.
What do you think?
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I like this guy on discord his name is Shmilnor and hes really nice and i think we would be good at e dating :>
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I won’t do anything until she’s 18. Is it creepy? Bad?
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Title :)
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I wanna ask for her number, (we have been friends for a while) she is also friend of my friends and they have her number. So I don't want her to think i am asking her out or sum.
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My crush is normally nice to me and sometimes I even think he likes me, but today my friend told me what he says abt me behind my back. Apparently his exact words about me were:
"I want nothing to do with that bitch, shes ugly, maybe some other maniac would want her. I have my status on offline so she doesnt aproach me or try to talk to me" and a load more that my friend won't tell me cuz he says he doesn't want me to cry more than I already did. So it must be really bad shit.
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Me and my best friend hang out so much, and we have gotten closer, and everyone at school ships us so I don’t know at this point. I’ve had a crush on him and he might like me also but I’m not sure.🥲
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Looking back at all our interactions with the benefit of hindsight, i realize,he's just been waiting for me to do something.
He hints at things, sits close, stares at me, compliments me, he asked me out TWICE, but i didn't pick up on it until waay later when I'd already said no.
I always miss those signs because of my low self esteem and my past experience being an "ugly duckling". He's amazing, sweet, smart, generous and good looking, it baffles me why he's so timid. I'm not that intimidating!
Anyway. I'll do something bold. School's about to close anyway, i can risk whatever rejection/embarrassment comes. I'll lay things out in the open, get things rolling between us finally. Sick of the slow burn, i know he is too. Wish me luck!
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Ok so I finally mustered up the courage to ask for her # today. Should I wait a couple days before texting her or what y'all think? I don't wanna seem to desperate.
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So I have a crush on my best friend, and when I didn’t I called him a goofy name that he didn’t like. But now he says he’s fine with it when it comes from me! Is this a sign or something?
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I have a crush on the character Switch in the movie Matrix. Everything about them is perfect and flawless. That is all. I have never seen someone like that in my life.
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here we go again
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m so done but I miss him sm tbh I really miss him
it hurts eveytime I see her wear his hoodie and his glasses
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hurts when I see them close
hurts when I see them walk together right infront of my eyes
idk I just like him too much
I was just pretending to be over him idk I miss him sm really miss him sm rn
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Hey everyone,
There's this girl (F19) that I (M23) really like but I don't know how I should understand her signals she give. It feels different everyday.
So first she always acts friendly and supportive when we talk and chat, like she always cheers on me and I do the same for her. We talk often in school when we are alone, she smiles at me during class sometimes and waits till I look at her. She also give me hugs to say goodbye sometimes, but I don't know if thats normal though. I also asked her out if she wanna go to a club sometime and she said yes.
Oh and once she pulled at my hair and flicked my head out of nowhere, which may be teasing but I don't know. During that time she had a boyfriend, they broke up a month ago though.
I dont wanna rush things because she may not be ready for new dates or someone else.
On the other hand she sometimes mentioned that her friend texted her, but for some clarity the german word for friend is the same as boyfriend. So I am really confused if she has a new boyfriend or it's literally just a friend.
I have absolutely no idea if she may like me or not, what do you think?
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I accidentally mentioned I like it several months ago. But recently he sent me a picture of it. We have not talked with each other for a long time (3 months). Only during the semester, we are classmates, so we always study together.
Honestly, I am already losing feeling on him. Even I tried to avoid talking with him. just don't understand why he did it.
btw, he is a Pisces. I am kind of not into guys who is pisces
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I would say I’m good friends with my crush and I’d hate to ruin it with a confession. But I really want to tell him how I feel. So I’ve been thinking of telling him I that I have a crush on someone and how I feel about the person but not revealing that I’m actually talking about him. So he would never know that I’m talking about him specifically. I was thinking maybe talking to him about this would maybe make me feel better and give me some sort of closure. I’d just pretend that my crush is on someone else and not him. Or is this just all a stupid idea.
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So my crush called me a mipy, which has two definitions cute and or precious and the other one is someone who you have feelings for. So this a sign that they like me?
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She laughs to my jokes and she looks like she enjoys spending time with me but we don't have any other conversations except in science class. Everytime i get home i tell myself that she doesn't like me back. I just want to talk to her but i don't know what to say.
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Step 1: Have him tell you that he thinks another co-worker is cute
Step 2: denial
Step 3: continue flirting and swear to god that he’s flirting back
Step 4: when he tells you how he flirts, get confident because he did that with you and just ask if he’s been flirting with you
Step 5: he’ll say no and that you’re a good friend to him
Step 6: cry about it for the next week
Step 7: in a fit of rage (and finding out your abusive ex is now engaged) decide to get back on hinge after taking a break because of said crush
Step 8: talk to a girl
Step 9: find out he’s talking to a girl too
Step 10: get ghosted
Step 11: find out things are going great with the girl he’s talking to. Find out she likes his hobbies and thinks he’s cute. See him smile in a way you’ve never seen him smile before while gushing about her.
Step 12: decide to never talk about relationships with him ever again
Step 13: decided that he’s taken, even if he’s not because you just can’t keep wondering and you have to accept he just doesn’t see you like that
Step 14: have him tell you he just wants a bisexual goth girl to dominate him and get frustrated that you’re a pansexual punk who would also gladly dominate him, and wondering why the fuck he would say that to you. Have it keep you up at night.
Step 15: have him tease the fuck out of you and just accept it’s as friends
Step 16: start to feel normal again
Step 17: he walks you to your car again. Ignore your heart fluttering and frame it that he’s just being friendly
Step 18: talk to and get ghosted by another girl
Step 19: lie to your mom and say he’s taken so she stops asking about him every day and giving you false hope
Step 20: cry over pumpkin cookies you’re baking because you feel stupid for fooling yourself that a 24 year old would actually be interested in someone like you (a plus sized 30 year old who’s not that pretty)
Step 21: paint something beautiful and accept it’s over.
Step 22: Move on.
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She likes to have her followers and following be the same amount however she's following me even though I'm not following her. She was actually following me ages ago I just didn't accept it cause I wanted to be "cool" and now it's too late to accept it cause that would imply I searched for her name.
Were pretty chill irl I don't go outta my way to talk to her. Was in line at the cafeteria one time and seemed like her friend was tryna get a pic of me with her since she was in front of me or maybe I was just in the way haha
She like me or no
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I had crushes—well, three of them, actually—and I was hoping that one of them would like me or love me. Then one time a friend of mine said to me that someone likes me; man, my reaction to that was surprised. In all of the years of my life, it was the first time it happened. After several days, she revealed herself, and I was surprised that she was one of my crushes. And I did crush her back; I was happy; she is happy. Well, unfortunately, I really don't know how to handle a relationship properly. How can I maintain that relationship and make it last a lifetime?
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For context I am happily married and my husband and I have been in an open relationship for 6 years. I know it’s pretty odd but honestly it’s helped our relationship a lot, he feels more like a best friend than a lover. Anyway I’ll get to the story, about 2-3 years ago I met this guy let’s call him John. John and I met online and soon became really good friends, one day he introduced me to let’s call him Trevor, and Trevor and I didn’t like each other at first but after a while we started to like each other. Fast forward we all ended up having a fallin out and in October 2022 I got married to now husband, two weeks later John and I got in touch and day later so did Trevor. This time it feels switched like me and John are really hitting it off and flirting and Trevor is being very weird. I still have a crush on Trevor and he won’t answer my txt back or will openly invite me anymore like John does, it’s bothering me because he pulled the “I respect you to much” 🙄. This man is driving me more nuts because I feel like he knows but just brushes me off and I’ll be honest being friends would be better than feeling like this all the time, I can’t help but feel like he hates me no matter how much they both reassure me. They are still both single and they seen my body before.
I feel like I’m rambling but I don’t know what to do or what to say, I like him and I still have those feelings like I did 2-3 years ago. I know I can’t make anyone like me but I can’t help it with him. I think about him when I go to sleep and wake up, maybe it’s just the history and hold this guy has on me I don’t know. But I really do need advice! Help lol.
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Disclaimer: English is not my first language so excuse any grammatical errors. Thanks.
I'm (F22) currently undergraduate student. I've a pretty amazing university life and I tend to get along very well with my friends and acquaintances. But I'm close to very few people (all girls group), one of my friend (F23) has a really good friend (M22) and lately I've also been on good terms with him, we all sit together, talk for hours, joke around and make fun of each other. He treats all of us equally and says we're just like his sisters and he really does treat us respectfully.
But as I mentioned earlier he's a good friend of my friend (F23) he's more open to her and at first I thought its normal cause they've been friends for more than a year and I've just started hanging out with him so maybe eventually he'll open up later but it's been a month and he's still not opening up to me.
I question myself sometimes "Do I have feelings for him?" "Am I getting a crush on him?" "Am I jealous of my friend for having that bond with him?"
But I can't seem to get a clear answer from within me and I hate it.
Also before anyone asks let me say it myself No they're not in a relationship, they're friends ( really good one). But I don't know if any of them have feelings for each other.
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I want to confess but I’m scared
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yesterday my friend told my crushes friend I liked her luckily she is my friend so she told me she'd keep the secret but I got rlly fking mad at him
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My guy best friend calls me basically everyday for hours at a time. It’s usually at least 3 hours a day. Yesterday we called for 6 hours in total. He said he only calls me this long and in general. Does he like me? Or does he think of me as just a friend?
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So a lot of background, I have a crush on this really cute and really short girl, I am currently in highschool and I have no idea what to do at this point. We've been talking everyday for a week but I'm always the one that starts the convo and I guess we're friends now and we're groupmates in 2 projects by chance, beforehand we never really talked and new each other so us talking was sudden and I'm not sure if she likes that or not. She is extremely studious and is always doing an assignment, she's the type of girl that focuses on school and doesn't have too many hobbies. I have had a girlfriend before but it only lasted 3 weeks and she kind of used me in a way so I don't really count it and my crush does not know anything of it. I plan to keep it a secret since I regret the relationship and I see it as a mistake that I don't want her to know of. I don't know where i'm going with the crush but I do want us to get together it's just that I don't know how. I'm not sure if she even wants a relationship with someone because she said she doesn't like commitment and she has never had a relationship and doesnt think too highly of herself. She has no care for romance and I really don't want to bother her so I'm not sure if I should confess. I want to confess but I don't know how, and I don't know when. My crush on her happened before I realised and I am madly in love. It all kind of started because my seat is in the middle and hers is to the front right of me so I can see her, I realised she's been looking to my direction a lot but I later found out by asking her directly, she said that she was looking at her best friend to the left of me because of an inside joke. Before I knew it I became really concious of her and I want to confess to her in 21 days from now because it's the best time due to it being the holidays and we have a school christmas party which means that she wont be busy and me confessing wont fuss her too much. Her birthday is 2 days beforehand and I'm planning to give her a gift secretly but I don't know what gift to give.
A bit scuffed and it's not the full story
What do I do
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Tbh I don't really have plans to confess yet cuz I want him to get to know me more, plus cuz of the things he's saying that he's not interested in relationships yet cuz of studies, but recently girls are starting to find him attractive aswell, he just said earlier that while he was walking home some girls were looking at him and gossiping about him then suddenly asked what his name was but he said that he just ignored them. I don't like the idea that someone might confess to him first before me, but I'm also scared to confess as it might ruin the friendship I've built with him😭 I don't know I'm overthinking at this point :\\
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I am 20 and I've never really had a crush before. Sure there were girls i found attractive but no one has ever made me feel the way ive been feeling in the recent weeks.
Theres this new girl in my class and i am falling hard for her. Its not just the looks. Everything about her is perfect. The way she makes her hair, her laugh, the way she talks so politely, her personality and so many other little things.
Shes a bit shy and doesnt talk a lot. She doesnt have many friends yet. As dumb as it may sound, when she first talked to me, She just told me that the next class was off, but that was enough. It instantly melted my heart. I dont how to describe the feeling. Ever since that day i just cant stop thinking about her.
Every day i try to get closer. But i get so awkward around her. My heart starts pounding hard. I cant tell if shes interested in me or not. We both conciously sit reasonably close to each other at the back. But maybe that doesnt mean anything. But i think she knows i have feelings for her, (alteast i hope so).
I am constantly worried that someone else might try to make a move on her. And i know there are guys taller, and better looking than me :(. But im still trying my best.
(I just found wanted to get somethings off my chest, so i searched for this sub, im sorry if i break any rules. This is my first post here)
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I had to say something because I couldn’t hold it in, and he said no. Why did he ask if I had a girlfriend, spend hours talking to me and replying to me and calling me his kitten if he thought of me in a platonic way?
I’m poly, so I have a crush on multiple different people right now, but I’m just shocked. Everyone told me he would say yes, and I honestly expected that. I feel very lead on. Why give me very mixed signals? I fell for him because of how flirty he was with me, but apparently that was all just a facade? Like, what?..
I (nb) usually fall for feminine-identifying people, and he‘s non-binary and uses he/they pronouns, so I was surprised that I had a crush on them. It’s not a huge deal, though I do feel I was definitely deceived and almost tricked. I’ve never had anyone treat me that way who saw me as a friend and nothing more.
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She... Likes me back... Idk what to do, I've never had someone like me back before...
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holy shit.
I told my friend (let's call her berry) to ask my crush about his fav flowers (so I could give him the flowers on valentine's day). my crush is an extremely curious person, so he asked my friend who wanted to know this kind of information and why.
my friend replied that oh its nobody, that she's just curious.
he fucking said "its probably [my name] who asked".
and he smiled after saying that. berry told me that it's the first time she ever seen him smile this way. like - it was a very warm, kind smile.
anyway, he didn't answer the question. so my friend asked his bestie - maggie if she knows his fav flowers.
she did answer the question.
she also asked who wanted this information. and she ALSO said that it's probably me who wanted to know.
then maggie asked my friend if I have a crush on him.
my friend was freaking out at that moment, as she didn't know what to do. she didn't tell maggie this time though.
next day maggie was bothering berry with a bunch of questions regarding this whole situation.
so my friend gave up and told maggie. she said to her that I have a crush on him.
I trust maggie, but my crush is her best friend. so I don't know anymore lol
would love some advice, because I have no idea - should I talk to maggie about this?
and if I'm the first person that comes to mind he definitely knows already right?
I hope I'm just overthinking though.... 💀
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So I have posted in this Reddit before, but it was like 2 months ago, so I’m gonna update what I had in my last post. So I have a crush on a girl, M, and we’re okay friends, but we rarely ever talk, and I’ve had a crush on her for about a year and a half. Sadly, I have zero self confidence and lack the ability to talk to people I like. However, my best friend, T, is literally the most extroverted person I’ve ever met. So, I have gym class with M and T, and I’m sitting next to T and we were talking a bit before gym started. Then, M comes over and sits down next to me. I don’t think much of it, because all of the other spaces on the bleachers were full, until T shouts to me “HOLY SH*T LUCAS IS THAT M?!?!” And so begins the awkward silence between the three of us. After what felt like an eternity of us sitting there in silence, i glance over at M, and she looks at me, dead in the eye, and starts to giggle. Now, I may be overreacting, but this was a bit of a confidence boost. Then right afterwards, T whispers to me, “you like M, right?” So I go, “yup, and you might’ve just helped me boost my chances with her.” So that is my story so far, I really hope things go well with me and her. Alright, bye for now Reddit :)
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I am beyond lovesick and I'm not even in love.
Me and this guy, we aren't dating. But recently we've been going on casual dates and we are very sexually compatible lol. But like this past few weeks,, I can't eat. I feel nauseous all the time. My heart is constantly racing. He is the only thing on my mind, constantly. I want to like be beside him all the time. At night I can't sleep because he's not beside me. Why is this happening ?😭 make it stop pls
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She's on realistically able to be my gf even if I tried. #1 her dad is super super strict follows her everywhere even to school orientation. #2 I have 0 classes with her #3 she's not interested in joining any clubs with me #4 even if I tried to get with her outside of school her parents would never allow that and also I don't have enough time. Looks like it's time for me to move on.
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hey everyone i’m gonna try to put this story in as little words as possible and at the end i’ll ask you question about your crush and you can ask me a question about mine :) so basically you might me wondering how did i even end up become best friends with him so it idk really know what happened one day in english he just got his assigned seat next to me and we just started to become friends since then. but this day in particular we were typing our greek mythology stories in the computer and he was asking me questions about someone who has had liked at the time so that day i asked for his snap and he said “i’m sorry i just don’t give out my snap” so that day after school this i literally searched up his snap and found it after like 15 and the first thing i ever texted him was “Hey!” was in 6th btw we are both in 8th now and ever since then i’ve been in love kinda weird way but 😭. a lot things have happened since then him and one of my best friends dated but i never told him that i liked him bc she told me she liked him before i got to tell her that i did so :/ but his mom our math teacher all the time would always ship him and my friend so yea that didn’t help me at all. so i kinda need some advice on how to tell him i’ve been in love with him for 2 years.
PS: give me so advice in the comments and you can ask me anything about my crush you wanna know and i’ll ask you about yours :)
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So last Wednesday, I went to youth group and her and a dude came and talked to me (saved me from certain death) she is very pretty tbh. This Wednesday I went and I couldn't find them but she remembered me and found me. (I KNOW RIGHT?!?!?!) Anyways last week I wasn't certain I had a crush on her but yesterday I realized I did have a crush on her. She had 2 braids going down the front and we took 2 pictures together during the sermon. I'm very happy.
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Might be slight nsfw at the end idk
So me and my crush have a weird relationship together where we're super mean to eachother as a joke kinda. We call eachother ugly and stinky. But people ship us together and say he likes me.
For example, if he was staring at me for a long time and someone asked him why. He would just say "because I can't believe a human could look that horrible".
But today I was sat next to him in class and he was just staring and smiling and me so much. I asked him why and he said "why not, can't I be happy?" I asked him why he was so happy and he wouldn't tell me. Obviously at this point I was really giddy and laughing at teasing him.
The girl sitting behind me whispered that he definitely likes me. Then he said "ew no I don't" in a playful tone. And his friend that was nearby said "why did you tell me that you had a wet dream about her then?" And then he kept on denying it and was blushing loads lmaoo
(also, we have been on and off liking eachother for like 3 years)
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Every single time she is near me she starts ethier smirking or smiling and tells me to shut up randomly no matter if Im talking or not, she has my exact humor, and is super cute, and my friend asked if she likes me and she was silent, normally a girl wouldn't care and say no the whole time, we have a lot in common, I'm feel like she is the girl version of me.
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I know it sounds crazy, but like it’s also fun, cause it’s nice to hear what y’all have to say about your crushes, but I also wonder if other people read posts in hopes it’s their crush talking about them.
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At the end of the school year she was showing so many signs that she likes me back
Like one time in gym I said to her how many pull ups I got and she was super impressed saying things like "How did you getvthat many!?!?" Later in gym I needed a partner, I just stood there and she said "(my name I can be your partner!" She ran up to me smiling and asked "do you have a partner? I can be your partner!" In a high pitched voice
And alot more good signs, but then after summer break she doesn't seem that instrestid.
The first time I talked to her after summer break I said "hi" and she said "oh, hi" like she wasn't interested in me at all
The second time a asked "what's your next class" and she said ger next class like she wasn't instrestid in me, she might have looked at me a couple times and I'm sure times she looked at me I'm sure she did but I can't tell if it's because she likes me.
One other time I came up to her and one of her friends asked if I startled her, I don't think she responded.
But idk does she like me or not, I really can't tell she is sooo cute!
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During our orchestra class there was a kid playing a piece that tormented our class last year and this caused my crush to jokingly tell the kid to stop playing and shut his mouth (okay I’ll be honest that part was a little weird). I eased up the situation by telling her that what she said was *kinda mean*. I got her to laugh and she gazed into my eyes.
Making her laugh has got to be one of my favorite things to do with her. She’s amazing.
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