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A few days ago I wrote this on r/crushes where I said "Will my crush reject me for having bad music taste" Many people told me that it won't happen but sadly it happened.
Today I confessed my crush on Insta. Things were going fine unless she asked about my music taste I honestly answered that I like listening to Edm, Indie, and Avid listener of Rock.
She immediately teased me and block me after that.
She said that "I would rather accept guys who listen to real music!!". She said that she would like guys who listen to Rap or those who listen to Weekend and Arctic Monkeys.
I don't know if she behaving immaturely and hates people who listen to their fav songs even though she is 18 years old.
I didn't expect why she would say like that | Crushes |
I want to see him smile so brightly that his cheeks hurt, I want to see him laugh uncontrollably and freely, I want to see his eyes shine with wonder without a care in the world. I want the absolute best for him.
He doesn't even know me and I don't know him but I still want him to be happy. I care for him far to much for someone I don't even speak to and he doesn't even feel the same but I don't care I still told him very dearly. | Crushes |
So I pretty much just told her how I feel about her but I sent it in a message and she’s asleep right now so hopefully she has feelings for me too but I guess you never know if they do or don’t so I guess I’ll find out | Crushes |
it was so fun... i would love to ask them again but i feel shy if i ask again T_T | Crushes |
I'm gonna ask my crush out today. We never really get the chance to talk at work and I really want to get to know him. I'm thinking maybe we could do something chill like get coffee or lunch. I hope he says yes!
I realized waiting for the perfect time isn't going to happen so I just need to go up to him and ask. He seems to be interested in me too but I'm not entirely sure. Wish me luck everyone :) | Crushes |
idk if im overthinking but this guy i recently started talking to (3-4days) has asked me out to go grab food and weve been calling eachother everynight and texting so idk if this mans just being friendly or is interested in me bc i dont want to get my hopes up bc hes so fine 😭 anyone have ops? i feel like he's interested but like yeah idk LOL
thing is im going out to eat w him tomorrow and highkey nervous bc idk if its as friends or moreee | Crushes |
Ive been crushing on this boy for 7 months now. Last October i was playing roblox with my friend and he joined the game. I didn’t know how to react so i was mean to him. He friended me (which i’m shocked about) but later after playing the game and being mean to each other, i texted him smth mean and he unfriended me 👍. This year we are in the same classes, he does talk to me if it’s about work and we joke around (not alone, with other people too). On discord, we are in the same server and we’ve only talked to each other privately 2 times on discord. I wanna become friends with him but should i just wait till the time comes or idk- all ik is that i need good advice! | Crushes |
Situationship ended around 2 months ago and I was upset for a while but I got over it and started crushing on this new guy. Same age as me, different class, and I'd always been interested in him but didn't do anything until recently.
I'd say we are friends and at one point we were talking everyday and even called each other quite a few times. We're both in a friend group we got into recently but it's starting to feel weird, awkward.
Usually when we group call it's never all of us in one call, or most of us are muted or it's just me talking. Something to note is that there is a very clear gap between the boys and the girls, I personally see no problem with having friends of different genders but, because they are teenage boys, they find it awkward hanging out with females and like to make dumb comments.
Was calling with a friend and him and his friend joined the call. We were playing uno online and he was spamming "EZ" and "LLL" and if we lost he would say things like "women ☕☕". I know it's a joke, and in the past I just brushed over it. But maybe I was just tired yesterday and wasn't in the mood, but I remember thinking in my mind, "damn, this is kind of obnoxious."
I'm not sure if I'm losing feelings but I think I am. I'm also not sure if it's because of the other people in the friend group. Has he always acted this way or has he just stafted being more obnoxious? Do I still like him? I'm not sure, some advice would be appreciated. | Crushes |
Am i really getting excited over seeing his name on a school discussion post? I'm too embarrassed to even read what he wrote. | Crushes |
I don't know if this is the right place to post it but i really wanted an answer.
10 months ago, i used to be very active on an app about making comics and i used to be friends with someone. both of us were very similar so i slowly started to like her. i just wanted us to be friends it was getting very unhealthy so i wanted to get over it so i stopped using that app and cut off every way to contact her.
a few weeks ago, i started using the app again because i really missed it. and even though i didn't want it to happen, i managed to get in contact with her again. i don't have a crush on her anymore but i am still having trouble forgetting about the past and it's making me sad.
So, can someone tell me how do i stop thinking about it..? | Crushes |
There’s this girl who works at Target and I have only spoken to her a few times for things such as voiding an item at self checkout or returning something. We’ve locked eyes several times for long periods of seconds and I have noticed her staring at me when she thinks I’m not looking. So could I walk up to her if she’s at the service desk or walking around the store doing an online pickup and say hi, compliment her, and introduce myself or would that come off as creepy? We’re both women by the way. She kinda dressed you know… but she’s still really femme. | Crushes |
So, i have a crush on this guy (lets call him A) . We are friends and have been for months now but i'm not quite sure where we stand its so weird. anyways there is another guy (lets call him B) who has a crush on HIM. they USED to be friends but now that B crushes on A, A kinda distanced himself from B. So now to the question: my crush (A) tells me EVERYTHING the other guy (B) texts him, tells him, sends him, gives him.. he basically updates me on every little detail. He also makes fun of him (just a bit but he does feel bad for b) OKAY THE QUESTION: What does it mean? what does it mean that he updates me on every single little thing be i was starting to get annoyed cus i'm not his therapist and i felt like he was dumping all that on me but then i started to think that it could be a good sign yk? like he lets me know all abt it and wants me to know that he 100% has no interest in that guy ( and any other person) ?? idk tell me if i'm being delusional or what you think abt thisss plsss? | Crushes |
For context, today is my birthday. So, he was asking me for some party and stuff and I was like, staring straight into his face. He was really really close, like not so close but I don't get to see him so close usually. I was admiring his eyes. And I was like *omg his lips are so beautiful I want to kiss them right now*.
And yeah, after 2-3 seconds, I realised that he was speaking something, and it was like a joke but I just couldn't understand a word. I was so nervous (or maybe overwhelmed) that I did not have the guts to ask him to pardon me. So, I just nodded with a smile and began talking to my friends.
I'm so so so stupid. | Crushes |
Random but I've always wondered how people imagine hugging/cuddling with their crush depending on their gender. Personally I'm a very short woman who *needs* to be the big spoon. What about you guys?
Note: I wanted to add an "I don't imagine such things with my crush" or an "I don't have a crush" option but reddit wouldn't let me, sorry. You can still comment though
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/12hcqlc) | Crushes |
I have a crush on two women and i
don’t know what to do I always get flustered around only those two women what can I do? Any advice? | Crushes |
My crush and I have been snapping each other about 12 times each so far today. Most of hers have been pictures of random stuff, and pictures only including some of her face. I am new to Snapchat, so I don't have much experience, but hopefully some of you out there can explain if you think this is a sign of anything. | Crushes |
I don't even think about him now because it's been 4 years, but he still appears in my dreams, why? This has been happening for the past 2 years. I think about 6 or 7 times now...and it's always a really wholesome dream like yesterday I dreamed about me going to confess to him(which never happened irl because he moved schools, I never got his number :(( and he was really happy to see me, the other dream I had we were hugging at the beach. Everytime I dream about him it makes me kinda gloomy because I'll think about when we sat together in class and he always made me laugh, he was really funny and kind. | Crushes |
Ok so i know y’all are online people and you don’t really care abt this but i’ve liked this guy for like four months now and like idk i have really bad commitment issues so this is kinda big. But anyways he is so supa cool and i don’t know what to do i’ll give context but i don’t want to on here because i’m scared he might see this 💀💀💀 i sound so stupid but we’ve kissed and stuff and like idk it meant a lot to me | Crushes |
I will do my best to keep this succinct. I (M18) am in my final year of high school, but my best friend (M19) is in college. We have been close for many years, telling eachother literally everything (and I mean everything) and always doing a fair bit together, but near the end of last school year he was taking the idea of moving away pretty hard.
At first he was swinging between blowing me off entirely, to trying really hard to hang out, then blow me off again- I think he was hooking up with a lot of girls, but then would text me drunk saying how he loves me, how much he means to me, and how much he's going to miss me already. (For the record, he says that anything he says drunk is platonic).
Now he's in college, and though we are both busy and talk less we are still incredibly close. Sometimes I can tell he's reaching out/messaging purely out of missing me, but I can't tell if that's why or if he's just lonely. He also has been a lot more comfortable these days telling me he loves me, misses me, cant wait to see me etc at times and does so sober. I've never known him to be anything but straight, and it's not like I have feelings for him necessarily, but the possibility has grown bigger in my mind over time that maybe there's been something going on that I don't know about.
Even if he did I wouldn't do anything because he clearly isn't ready to address it, but I'm worried for my friend and care a lot about his feelings and general well-being. Any insight you would be helpful to my thinking process 🙏 | Crushes |
I don't even know if she's someone I like I just know she means something to me.
We've been back and forth about likeing each other and I got tired of it some I just clarified that were just friends and that's all.
During the school dance she call me over to take pictures we took a couple but the lighting wasn't good so we moved then her friend said "ima go you can stay with you bea" or something along those lines.
The only time that specific friend see us together is when we are in homeroom because we sit at the same table so she could be going off our interactions at the table or they talk about me in private and this is were I start thinking to much.
Anyway my friend grabs her friend's arm and say no and laughs it off but the thing is she didn't deny what her friend said now that could mean she didn't mind, was embarrassed or simply didn't want to entertain the joke.
We take more pictures but on some I wasn't in it all the way so she said no we're going to take some more I didn't mind.
Fast forward to us leaving I ask for her number since I didn't have it anymore since I had lost it at the carnival during the summer and didn't have a good chance to ask her.
She made it seem wierd for me to ask for her number and my guy friends were right behind me and they started making jokes so I just said we're friends and Friends have each others number but I knew she still thought it was weird so I just said nvm and we both left the party.
Did I think to much?? | Crushes |
which is better? telling someone your feelings in person or sending a meaningful text message? (i don’t see the person i like much right now because they’re busy) is there a right way to go about confessions? | Crushes |
[Limerence: What It is, the Effects & 26 Ways It’s So Different from Love](https://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/broken-heart/limerence-and-love)
This part caught my eyes:
> People who experience limerence are so afraid that their crush may never like them back, that they actually never ever reveal their feelings, at times, even for years and decades!
In Reddit discussions about longest crushes, I've seen numbers in the decades, like 25 years, 27 years, 30 years, 33 years, 35 years, 43 years, 44 years, or 47 years. Clearly, these numbers refer to limerence, rather than ordinary crushes. | Crushes |
So there’s this guy I like but he seems weird around me. He sometimes says hi to me. He sometimes stares at me longingly in classes I have with him. He has made it so it’s just the 2 of us. Tries to grab my attention all the time. Does he like me. I don’t know why I don’t think he does but at the same time I think he does. | Crushes |
Yesterday I was at a party, I was outside. I went in, and my close girl friend (not girlfriend) touched my hands, saying that they were so cold. I sat down and we kept holding them.
After some time, she put her head on my shoulder. We kept sitting for a pretty long time.
Then she raised my hand over her and put her head on my lap, after that she lied down and still kept her head on my thighs.
We put on a horror movie later, she got super scared and I held her with both arms. She climbed under a blanket and laid back on my lap.
Would this say she likes me or if she's just being friendly? Or would it be hard to say at all? I genuinely don't know. Any advice would be appreciated. | Crushes |
So I’ve known my current crush for 7 years give or take. 3 years of high school and all of university, and I’ve liked him for like 5 years. Well since this person has always been a non social and shy person, with no social media whatsoever, I found a way to get them to text me, so I could get their phone number. That was like our last year of high school. We ended up going to the same university, and would bump into each other, so I began to make conversation with them. After I saw where this person would pass by, and hang out, I frequented those places. That was first semester of our first year, we got pretty close and they began to open up to me, our second semester covid hit. We kept contact over text and they began to become a bit more open about themselves, and would even start conversations. We obviously didn’t see each other up until last august, the start of our senior year. Over the summer before our senior year started they were very excited about us seeing each other again after like 2 years, etcetera. Well since our daily schedules clashed we adjusted our times at university to meet up and spend time together. We would spend 1 hour a day together, twice a week. They would get to school early to meet up with me. (They are never early to anything so that made me like them even more) well we got to know each other very well, but that’s all. The semester flew by and he never made a move, also he’s really smart so he graduated from university a semester early, I did not 😂. They have always been very quiet, reserved, kept to themselves, etc, but at some point I thought they liked me but they never made a move so now I’m doubting the whole thing. Am I wrong to have thought that they liked me? Doesn’t all that mean something? Did I waste my time meeting up with them and hanging out? Did all that time we spend together mean nothing? Now we still text but very little, I haven’t seen him since the beginning of December, almost 5 months give or take. His energy seems off and he seems uninterested when we talk, he’s also always told me that he hates texting people, that he rather speak in person, he’s always left me on seen, but I’ve learned to not take that personally. Do y’all think he likes me or was he just bored? | Crushes |
I need her snap or number so badly! I like her a lot and I think she likes me too! She could literally be my girlfriend right now as we speak if I just had her number. But I won't see her till FRIDAY at work!! She'll be there all weekend and so will I but she's gonna be in the kitchen and I'll have like almost no time to talk to her. And the time I do have there probably won't be an appropriate time to ask her for her number. But I'll try! | Crushes |
he likes me for me, but i cant seem to grasp the idea. i think of him so highly and it’s detrimental to me. he said he likes confidence so i wanna show it. i just don’t wanna risk losing him ): | Crushes |
We are best friends she is depressed and today was a bad day I tried to help her feel better but nothing help I was going to tell her how she makes me feel and how I love her not just as friend but then I realize that she will not like me back and it could end our friendship and I’m one of the few ppl she trust so by telling her it would make me selfish so I just told her part of the truth of how she’s my best friend and how love her as a friend | Crushes |
IDK HOW YOU CAN MAKE BURPING CUTE BUT SHE DOES! I was sitting next to her in class today, and she just burped, like rlly quietly, and it was so cute, like idk what to do 😭😭😭 | Crushes |
I called him because I needed someone to cheer me up a bit since I've been in a bad mood all day and he really helped. I hate the fact I like him this much but it feels so fulfilling. | Crushes |
Ok, so I'm (M20) a teaching assistant at my university. It's an intro course, so there's 100+ students. You might be asking, "how do you manage so many kids?" I don't. I work with three other TAs. Here's the kicker: they're all girls. Hell yeah, women in STEM. We love to see it.
Now if you're anything like 90% of my friends after hearing about the job, you're thinking, "this sounds like the premise of the greatest harem anime ever written." The issue is, I don't wanna date right now. Summer is over. It is grades and money time. At least that's what I tell myself to cover up the fact that I'm terrified of relationships now. There's lore behind that. I've posted about it.
Anyway, I absolutely love these girls (professionally speaking). I have a long history of working in academia, and with all due respect, that naturally means that I've worked alongside several dummies. These women are not dummies. They understand the content exceptionally well, they're terrific public speakers (this is where I fall a bit short), and they adapt very quickly to each student's needs. I like to think I'm really good at my job (because I am). It's entirely possible that they're better.
One of these massively talented individuals (F20) is (not actually) named Lynn. Lynn and I both sit in the lecture hall an hour before the course starts to study for much harder courses. We didn't initially plan on doing that together, but I guess great minds think alike. Now, I come in two hours earlier to get ahead on the studying because we talk SO much during that hour before lecture. We talk about classes. We talk about games. We roast the students together. We roast professors together. My absolute favorite thing, however, is that we talk about the shared experience of being Asian American students at a PWI. It's so refreshing to be around someone who really gets what that's like. We try not to talk during lecture, but there are a lot of mutual glances and hand gestures. Maybe I just can't read a room, but to me, the vibe seems very playful and flirty.
If it's still unclear, I sorta kinda have a massive crush on Lynn, stomach butterflies and all. I think about her a lot just randomly. It's a very cute feeling, and I kinda like it, but it's also a problem. As previously stated, relationships are kinda scary. Even if they weren't, I've witnessed my fair share of office romances, and 4/5 of them have yielded unfavorable results. Because of this, I have very clear rules about dating coworkers. Rule 1 is don't. There is no rule 2. However, this is the first time I've ever been tempted to break that rule. I feel like the responsible thing to do would be to go about my business for the next four months, grade all the final exams (together with Lynn??), and then ask her out on a date. The issue is that I'm notoriously impatient and impulsive, and the idea of exercising restraint for that amount of time is terrifying. My alternative caveman brain idea is buying her bubble tea tomorrow and seeing what happens. I'm not very good at this, guys. Please help. | Crushes |
Like…some days he’s the nicest guy ever and he next day he’s a total jerk. It’s just not good for my mental health. I’m trying my best to get over him but it’s hard. | Crushes |
Can someone start a Dm with me and let me send them a picture of myself. Just tell how I look | Crushes |
so i really don’t know how to feel…? my crush went through a rough patch with their crush a while back (keep in mind they liked each other prior to this and i didn’t think my crush still had feelings because it was some time ago). we’ve been hanging out more and texting and stuff and i genuinely thought there was something there. but i guess not because now things may be fixed with my crush’s crush and we don’t even talk that much anymore. it kinda seems as if i was just there to hang out with and talk to when my crush had no one else.
also a side note: if i had known they still liked each other i wouldnt have hung out with my crush that much (my crush and i are good friends, but i just wouldnt have spent THAT much time on them). now when i look at it, it could seem as if i were trying to take my crush from the other person when in reality i had NO idea. it’s just kind of embarrassing and i feel really dumb
now i really don’t know what to do because they hang out now and i just feel, well, stupid. | Crushes |
Should I start talking to this guy I see at school?
There's this guy I used to be friends/ kinda friends with in Freshmen year and that was when I was pretty preppy. I only hung out with him in a group of guys at school, so basically a bunch of guys and one girl (me)
I never developed any feelings for him but I always thought he was handsome. I was still learning my sexuality in freshmen year so I didnt really ever like any guys. Oncoming sophomore year, I basically "turned gay" idk I just looked pretty damn gay and androgynous and I changed my name, I thought people would think im weird for that or make fun of me for that... Which they did, but I didnt really care. Junior year, I had 3 classes with him, sometimes I'd catch him looking at me, and I definitely looked at him. I felt like we had mutual feelings, but never attempted to talk to each other. Now senior year, I have no classes with him but I pass by him and I see him, and sometimes I'd catch him looking. I always find my eyes trying to look for him because he is just one big hunk of eye candy. I know that he's funny, and I know that he's relatively nice. Not sure if he's interested in girls though. He seems hard to approach and I just don't know how to approach him, because now I look gay and I also changed my name to an androgynous name. So I'm not sure if I should approach him or not. I am usually very talkative and overly touchy with my friends/peers, but I just can't seem to even talk to this guy. Please help me out and give me some advice. I want to be able to talk and hangout with him before my senior year is over and I'll never see him again :( | Crushes |
This man...he's so nice.
For context, we both work at Starbucks (yeah yeah, don't date your coworkers, I know). From day one he's been really nice, but lately it feels different. We have literally everything in common, it's scary. Like, we grew up on the same niche kids shows, and we like the same obscure artists. We both like anime, we both have the favorite anime, I could go on for awhile.
Every time I walk into work, he goes "[name]~~", and he'll tell me I'm doing a good job even if I'm just standing there. One time he was washing dishes, and I brought something back for him to wash, and he said, "good job [last name]" jokingly. As I was leaving, he stopped washing dishes and followed me out. This man *held the door open for me then went back to washing dishes.*
He jokes around with me a lot too. He jokes with everyone, but his jokes with me feel different? Once, it started raining before I went in my break, and he said, "it's our collective tears since [name] is going on break." And before I was about to clock out one day, the store started to fill up, so he said, "see?? They're all here for you, now you can't leave!" He's also made dumb little jokes like showing me a cup lid and saying "is this your hat?" out of the blue. He even showed me a random doll someone had left at the store and said "oh wow [name] did you make this to look like me???" (It didn't look like him at all, that was the joke.) He had also spilled some cold brew one time, so I said, "oh no, there's been a catastrophe." To which he responded, "there was a flood of biblical proportions." I left, but then a minute or so later he came out and said, "man, you should've seen the rainbow that just went over the cold brew." Then he just went back to what he was doing *in the other room*.
He's also complimented me. I wore my hair differently one time, and he was the first to notice it. He also could tell how I had it different when other couldn't. And when I got a haircut, he said, "you got a haircut! It looks good!" Then a few minutes later, he said, "I like your hair even more the more I look at it." He's complimented other people a few times, but it was just on a necklace or a shirt?
I've gone up there a few times just for Wifi for school, and he always asks me about my drawings. He's seen a little bit of mine, and he said it looked nice. We've had conversations about our favorite shows, how we both like to come up with stories, anime, drawing, games, and a lot of other things. He's talked a little bit about his childhood with me, but nothing big. He's always asking me questions about what I like. And whenever we talk, we we always keep eye contact the entire time.
I'm so confused? I can't tell if he's just being nice. I've had a crush or two before, but this one feels different. I feel really comfortable with him, not nervous or anything like with my other crushes. | Crushes |
Ok so hoco is obviously coming up. Like a month or two. I've only had one relationship that lasted for a month. I don't think I'm that attractive. I'm slightly overweight. I look skinny but my face is rounder and i hate that. Everyone who's 'confessed' to me was joking (Besides the person in the relationship previously ).
I sort of have a crush on this guy who apparently used to like me. He's funny and sweet. I'm a freshman (he is too, i know to never date upperclassmen dw lmao😭) and considering that I've never asked any of my crushes out because I was too nervous, even when my crush literally had the most obvious feelings for me and everyone said he liked me, I have severe social anxiety so I fear rejection. I don't think I will have a date for homecoming or ever. I know everyone says "you don't need to date in high school" but I like dating. I want to meet different people and know who I like. But my social anxiety ruins that for me and I don't know what to do.
Even if I end up liking someone else, and not this guy, I'll still be freaked out and won't ever ask them out.
So, does anyone have any tips for getting over the fear of rejection, how to get a date for homecoming even tho im not rlly that attractive, and how to know if someones joking if they ask me out or not? 💃 | Crushes |
A few days ago, my crush posted on Instagram and I liked his post. Then I saw that he liked my Instagram post from a few months ago. I don’t post often, so it’s at the top of my profile. Does this mean anything or is it a “like for a like” thing? | Crushes |
the last boy i had a relationship with was 6’2 and i’m 5’6, pretty big difference imo and the boy i have a thing with right now is 5’4. i don’t care about a guys height personally but i’m wondering if that would look odd side by side because “typically” the boy is taller than the girl | Crushes |
I really like this guy I met online & he has since rejected me after I confessed. We have stopped talking for a while but I still miss him badly and feel horny for him, I’ve dreamt of doing the deed with him. Should I ask him out for a one night stand? Am I crazy to think this way? Halppp 😩 | Crushes |
So this girl and I hung out one time and we were both pretty drunk at the time…we ended up making out and hooking up she was pretty much all over me and even said “I like you”
…we don’t talk fast forward 3 months later we start texting a bit…she invites me out to meet up with her and her friends…but I have to work so I tell her maybe after I’m off. Anyways while I’m working she’s texting me and I ask her where she’s at and she’s so drunk she can’t even make sense typing. Anyways I sense how drunk she is I send one last text and then no response so I stop saying anything…it’s been 2 days and I haven’t heard from her…should I text her or is that me chasing her???? | Crushes |
So i joined this new school and theres this girl who was a bit friendly and we started a conversation. She complimented me by saying "u have a cute smile","i love ur smile","in this class i think ur the most handsome one" and stuff like that. I thought she was just complimenting and it was nothing but my friend said she was being so flirty and I am too blind to see that. I didn't believe in him at first and then I started noticing and I think she likes me. One time I messaged her saying "if I asked you out, would you go out w me", then she asked me "why would u ask me out tho" I said "it was just hypothetical" and she said "probably not". So now I'm so confused if she likes me or not. Please I need help with this, its so confusing. And if she likes me what should I do. | Crushes |
It seemed to happen somewhat suddenly. Some of them have been downright strange, and some seem fake. Idk, maybe it’s just me | Crushes |
https://youtu.be/clfcYP7m1mY | Crushes |
I have realised that I am way better at asking questions and she is way better at answering questions and talking. I just realised this over the last few months. She tends to talk a lot when I ask her questions but doesn't ask many questions in return. And then when she asked me to talk while she ate, I couldn't really think of anything to say | Crushes |
back in 8th grade i was kinda known because of football but i wasnt very socially known because i didnt have good style, i had glasses, i didnt like talking to new people, but i started to like this one girl and my style changed, i got a new haircut and i started to work out more, i was always so nervous to talk to her and i really only texted, we started to text a lot and i just felt so happy when we were texting / talking, and as an immature kid you say and do some dumb stuff when you like a girl, i just said dumb things and was a bit to obsessed, i felt like i was annoying her but i just couldnt stop, she would make efforts to talk to me at school and old me, a shy nervous guy would always fold and just end up saying something awkward, on my social media someone asked who i liked and i said idk, she said "you like me", and i was just so awkward and said "no?" and if maybe, i just said yea, things could be different, but anyways, i posted her a few times with her permission asking if it was okay or if she felt uncomfortable and she said she was fine with it, so i do and idk man people say stuff, and a few days later i say some dumb sexual stuff about her and she ends up becoming distant (completely my fault btw) , and dumb me dosent realize so i just keep messaging and messaging, i say something about her friend (male) and she says get off his dick, and says some truthful things then blocks me, she ends up reporting me to the school and i just give up, i feel like shit and the rest of the school year is horrible for me (about a month). Highschool comes around and im a new man, im more confident and i have better style, just all around changed. I see her again not knowing i had classes with her, im nervous, just thinking about all the stuff thats happened, a few days go by and she partially talks to me, im suprised. a few weeks pass by and i start to talk to her a bit, she ended unblocking me on instagram (i was suprised). but today i accidently followed her on instagram and she said : im done now | Crushes |
I may like my guy best friend but I'm scared to say anything without knowing for sure
I (19F) have a guy friend (19M). I have been friends with him for almost 9 months now. I originally became friends with him when I was in a relationship, but I ended up breaking up with my ex 5 months ago. I would consider him my best friend. I look forward to his texts, I try to hang out as much as I can (without asking too much because he's busy and has a low social battery), and always enjoy it when we spend time together. I had considered if I liked him before, but I kind of shrugged it off.
A friend of mine told me they liked him a month ago and I was devastated. I thought it was because it would change the friend group whichever way it went, but I realized later that I (selfishly) didn't want to have less attention from him than I currently do.
A week and a half ago he told me over text that he had feelings for me, but that he would take time to shut down those feelings to save our friendship and I told him to take all the time he needed, effectively rejecting him. But now I've thought about it every night since. I'm losing sleep over this. He would be the perfect boyfriend and so healthy for me and I would get to spend even more time with him, but I don't know if I'm attracted to him in the way I would need to be for a relationship.
My last relationship (my only) I wasn't super attracted to him at first, but I definitely was VERY much so when we started doing things together and later dating. So I wonder if this would be the same thing? But if I get this wrong and start something and later have to end it because of this, I would lose him as a friend which would break me for a long while.
But he is also demisexual and said that his feelings fade for people quickly when they don't like him back, so now it feels like the clock is ticking.
Any advice? | Crushes |
okay, i know. but when i receive a compliment like that, it's like he sees me as a child! idk it's been that way for a while lol. sooo idk if he treats me like a little sister or what | Crushes |
my class schedule released and he's in every single class! | Crushes |
There is this girl in one of my college classes who I had a crush on. After last class I decided to talk to her and we had a really good conversation. She asked a lot about me and was really friendly. I normally don’t ask out girls after meeting them for the first time but I did in this case. When I did she suggested that we should study for an exam sometime, but didn’t say anything about the coffee. After a few minutes of talking to her more I asked her out for coffee again and she said yes. She asked for my number and handed her phone to me. It’s been at least 3 days and she hasn’t texted me.
Did I mess up here? Was she never really interested in me in the first place? Why didn’t she mention anything about the coffee the first time I asked her? Was she trying to avoid coffee? Maybe is she holding off on texting me because she wants to get to know me in class first? Should I still try to talk to her next time in class? I’m hoping I didn’t scare her off by asking her out for coffee. All advice is appreciated. Also I should mention the fact that I’m a sophomore in college and she’s a senior in college. | Crushes |
So this is a different person than my last post and this is somebody that I don’t like. So she posted on her story on instagram and it was only to her close friends. We haven’t actually talked much and honestly aren’t even actually friends. Does this mean anything? | Crushes |
Explained pretty well in the title, but for context why I’m asking is because I’m thinking of asking my crush, but wanna see what others have done to get their crushes to say yes. Like did you say a certain thing or do a certain thing. Or not? | Crushes |
I had a crush on this girl in third grade and we ended up “dating” in 4th grade. It wasn’t even dating we just texted each other and that was it. I always thought I would just forget about her and that would be it. But I’m now in 8th grade and I still think about her. She goes to a different school so we little to none contact . I still like her and I’ll probably never see her again. We are going to different high schools and it sucks because I just want to be friends with her. He don’t even have to dat. I just wanna be with her and go places with here and we could be best friends. We | Crushes |
and their person is just godawful to them, smh. just had to vent about it lol | Crushes |
My ex and I recently broke up on the 17th, he said it was because he thought he was too young for a relationship and a bad boyfriend, which I agree with him so we just let it settle and he asked to become friends, so I said sure because it's not like nothing bad happened. About 2 days later he texted me saying he had a dream about me but didn't tell me what it was about. The next day I was on call with his friend and him while we were playing a game, we eventually hung up because me and him were left alone and I thought it would get awkward. He texted me the same night after we got off call saying the dream was about him and if he regrets breaking up with me or not saying " he does not know if he made the worst decision ever" or if he is okay with this whole thing. I don't know what to think about this, we haven't really talked since this conversation. Help a girl out? | Crushes |
Should I just tell her what happened tomorrow? | Crushes |
i had dance practice today for the school musical, and he had orchestra practice. my practice ended before his, and where we were rehearsing was just across the hall from the theatre, where he was rehearsing. the music teacher let me watch in the doorway for a bit, and my god…
it’s the first time i’ve seen him play, although i’ve always known he’s extremely passionate about music, and sweet lord have mercy on my soul. he looked like an angel. he played such sharp notes, but the stage lights behind him glowed around his silhouette and cast a halo over his head. his posture was slightly slouched into the guitar, like he was *literally* putting his all, his heart and soul, into it. i’m pretty sure he’s literally an angel. his smile was like that of something i’ve only seen dawn a persons face once, and it was in a video of me on stage, where i really felt at home, so i know the feeling he felt. a feeling *so* rare and exceptionally valuable, and there is no other face i’d rather see radiate that feeling than his. seeing him so happy, so in his element, like he was ascending, and everything was fucking great,
*and then seeing him turn back and smile at me*
that euphoric, cocky fucking smile, his head hung back a little and his fingers placed skillfully on the strings, and the mind numbed, dumbfounded and ridiculously happy smile i shot back at him as i waved, and he tilted his head up to greet me back. as he turned back around to face the house, his hair tumbling around his ears and disheveling a little more than when he first came in, i just about melted. at this point, i’d dropped my bag, and just stood in the doorway, watching him and the rest of the orchestra play. i really only cared about him, though. his fingers moved so nimbly, so precise, and being the only one with such a strong instrument, plus his ridiculous height and sharp features, he stood out beautifully among the rest. he was the cream of the crop on that stage, and he was looking back at *me*, every chance he got. he was enchanting, and enchanted i certainly was. simply from him standing there, holding that bass. i definitely have fallen.
to see someone who makes me so happy *be* so happy. whatta dream. could you imagine?? i could feel his passion, his ecstasy, from the doorway, and i mean it when i say that that’s all i want. his happiness.
if there was a word to describe the way i felt, i’d appreciate suggestions. i just can’t place my finger on it.
side note:
i had NO idea he’d be there that day, and as he came in, and i turned around to find myself just shy of a foot away from him, i lost my balance a little and my heart fell to my toes and then shot back up to my ears. all i could do was give a “hey!” it was too much. | Crushes |
So my best friends ex is in my class and she is really cute and I have a crush on her, I want to date her but don’t wanna cause any conflict with my friend, but if I tell him I like her then he will either tell everyone or he will tell her. So what do I do? | Crushes |
my friend told me that she said i was ugly and now i wanna die | Crushes |
shes boring idk why i decided to date her oh well | Crushes |
Lately, I’ve been feeling so empty. I feel like the distance between us has gotten bigger. You talk to everyone else and I feel left out. You want to know why I feel hurt? That is why. I hate that I can’t talk to you anymore, and I know you care about me, but I just don’t see it. I hate that I can’t tell you how I feel. I love you so much, and when you hugged me today and checked to see if I was okay, I felt the love you have for me, but I feel so hurt right now, I don’t know what to do…
From your best friend | Crushes |
so i really wanna talk to my crush, who is my coworker, I’m 99% sure he likes me back and we are both so introverted we have only spoken three times (about work)
so i wanna say hi to him and smile, like randomly out of the blue and maybe later try to talk to him. i was in a class of his so i was gonna bring that up
i am just so nervous and i really like him, i think about him constantly and it hurts sometimes that there’s someone out there i love so much and am not with. we’re 17 so i kinda feel weird to be “in love” if you wanna call it but idk why i love him so much, i just do.
and this boy is always so nervous around me and extremely flustered and stares at me all the time and notices whenever i walk into the room and makes eye contact. advice? | Crushes |
It's already been 3 years since i haven't gotten a crush, i really want one, my life is nothing and meaningless, and i feel like i just need one cause i had it 3 years of not having one, it makes me feel like alone and i just want one, how can i get one without being nervous? | Crushes |
Today was open house for my middle school and I’m going into my first year. My middle school has 3 “teams” which is just an easier way to sort kids. Me and my crush are one the same team and today we got our schedules for our classes. After football practice I get a text from my crush asking for a pic of my schedule, so I take a picture and sent it to her. She doesn’t say anything and just sends a picture of hers. After a few minutes of me being dumb and not realizing the only reason she sent it to me was because they were the exact same.
(Don’t worry we’re both 13 because where I live 7th grade is the start of middle school) | Crushes |
I've known my crush for a little over a month and hes always seemed protective over me and was always complementing me. Recently he sent me around 15 pictures of me that he had somehow gotten, photos from whenever we hung out and pictures I'm assuming my mom sent him or he somehow got ahold of. Before he sent them he said "can I be honest about someone" and then when he sent them he said something along the lines of "your beautiful" and he spent close to 15 minutes going on about how pretty I am and stuff. Also this morning he said I was gorgeous, I tell my best friend everything and she really wants me to tell him I like him because she seems to think its clear he likes me but I'm not too sure. There's a lot of signs saying he likes me and my friend seems almost 100% sure he does but I think hes just being nice. Hes a really caring and friendly person so I just think hes being a good friend. Theres a lot more things than just what he calls me like he always tickles me and bugs me when we hang out, along with always seeming worried when I seem off. | Crushes |
[https://open.spotify.com/playlist/39fdnhHDN9tdXxPILJUyPN?si=0d73c07af81e40ac](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/39fdnhHDN9tdXxPILJUyPN?si=0d73c07af81e40ac) | Crushes |
So schedules came out today (the first day of school) and I have not a single class with my ex-crush (crush still? idk). We’ve never actually talked much and I don’t know how to get in contact with him. I have a friend who has 1 class with him, though. Any advice? | Crushes |
So I liked this girl for a few months and doing the summer I messaged her during the summer and started becoming friends with her.So two weeks ago was the first day of 9th grade for me and I got one class with her and we sat facing each other but didn't say a thing and later that night I told her that I liked her and said she doesn't care and that I don't care anymore. Later I regret it and the next day I ask her if she still wanted to be friends but she left me on seen and because of that I avoided her for the rest of the week. That weekend I send her an entire essay apologising for everything I did and she responded saying its ok and she still wanted to be friends so I just went with that but the thing is next week/last week she never said a thing to me in person. The only time she did was last Friday but that only became we got assign in the same group and everything she said to me was related to the assignment. The only expectation was when she ask to confirm that she has my Instagram account. Also when I message her she responds once then usually doesn't respond again or when she does it takes her a day and it usually just something like "same". Although she did like 1 of my post and did view my story yesterday she still hasn't follow me which makes me feel like she doesn't care at all tbh since she dose follow alot of people and stuff. That and that her responses are basically the same few things (tho it isn't quite as bad within the last few days) and the fact I literally always message first makes this all just eh. The last straw was today when she got assign with some random people who as far as I know she never really talked to and she started talking to them and getting along just fine. I don't know what to do
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Hello everyone, i want to talk about my big problem and i don’t know why or how to deal with it.
I was 13 years old when i felt there’s something wrong about me.
So the thing is that, whenever someone, men, friends or family, tell me they like me or love me( in a friendly way ) or they have a crush on me, i start making distance with those people, lately, as soon as my friend who i used to talk to for hours for years, told me I’m her best friend, i started making my distance, i didn’t respond to her messages for days, and now it’s been like 1 month i don’t talk to her, i feel uncomfortable whenever someone shows some interest or love to me, i can’t help myself, i feel like, i need to stop talking to this person and i don’t want to be loved or have real friends who love me.
In another way, i can’t love, and be loved, from friends, family, crushs…
Do you think it’s normal ?
Sorry if i made mistakes, I’m not native. | Crushes |
I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s not true but one of their friends told me they like it when I talk about random stuff (I’m a massive nerd btw) and yeah | Crushes |
we hung out for the first time he paid for us I tried intervening and paying for it but he moved my hand away and the person who took our order said “I love watching this, when they trying paying for each other” he’s just really nice but I’m not used to having nice friends so he’s making me go doki doki | Crushes |
He made an "introvert club" during the 9th grade showcase we all had to go too, then fell asleep at the table. Iconic. | Crushes |
I think I might gift him some trombone slide lubricant for him as a gift for his birthday that is coming up in a week. I don't think he has it and it'll be good for his trombone. I feel like it's not too excessive where it might be awkward, but it still feels thoughtful I guess... What do you guys think? | Crushes |
I’m really confused.
I’ve posted about her before, but to sum it up: I have a fairly new friend that has been constantly touching me/asking me to feel her hands and sending me random pictures of herself all dressed up. I started to get the feeling she liked me. Especially since when we first met, she would stare at me from across the room. Every time I looked up she would be watching me.
She has a boyfriend, though, and she’s just off limits in general even if I do like her.
It’s confusing because she’ll send me random messages and pictures spontaneously, look for me in a room/ask about me, and goof around like usual - but then acts like she doesn’t want to be around me when I’m actually there?
She’ll be doing something with me and mention about how she’d rather be somewhere else. And not in a joking way. She almost seemed annoyed that I was there. I’m not even the one who approaches her. I never text first and I don’t ask her to do anything with me.
It’s kind of whiplash. I’m not really sure what it means or what I should do.
Should I just keep being a friend or do I keep away? We have a class together so I can’t disappear completely. | Crushes |
So she started ignoring me for about a month then said the reason why we stopped talking was cuz something serious happened. Then unsent it. I gave her access To my insta account awhile back, and she texted my bsf when I was talking to him saying I want to visit her over my account.
last time she talked to me was last Friday and she abruptly stopped. The rest of the convo i can dm whoever comments and tries to help👇 | Crushes |
I really like this girl at my school. Shes my best friend, and Im hers. I like a lot, she gives me butterflies, and makes me so, so happy! She just got rejected by her crush today, and I've liked her since July. I would love to tell her, but I don't want to ruin the friendship we have because I don't think she likes me either. What should I do? | Crushes |
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Hey guys thank you in advance for reading. So I have a giant crush on a girl I had most of my classes with, but I am on a 5-month exchange in a foreign country and have a 9-hour time difference. I wouldn't say that we're friends, but we have the same friend group and see each other at parties etc..
I don't if I should move on and enjoy my time here, because I think that she gave some hints that she would like t stay in contact whilst I am abroad.
Thank you for reading. If you have any ideas, feel free to drop them here. | Crushes |
it’s been two weeks since school started and i’ve caught feelings already. he’s so easy to talk to, has a great sense of humor and style, his smile is absolutely adorable, and it feels like he doesn’t care at all what anyone else thinks about him. he’s new to the school and sits next to me in the one class we have together, which makes it all the more exciting. i’ve had plenty of crushes in the past, but he’s the first to make me feel this way. i get butterflies from just thinking about talking to him. it’s fun to daydream about him when i’m bored, but i know that he’s way out of my league, and i could never get the courage to even become friends with him. i’m just waiting for this crush and my feelings to die off so i can move on, because i can’t stop thinking about him. but for now, i’m writing down my feelings to lessen the butterflies. please be nice, i can’t take any more emotional stress. thank you for reading about my stupid little crush :) | Crushes |
So I have been like texting a girl here and there that I work with. On Friday she texts me “I’m coming to your game I’m going to be late but I’ll be there” out of the blue (I coach highschool football). She brought her dad with her. Then I text her thanks for coming and she texts me back and asks how game was and stuff. Then I ask her next day “wyd” and she tells me and I go “lmk if you wanna go out do something blah blah blah” she says “I’ll let you know if I stay down here or go back home” (we were down shore). She then didn’t text me back. I saw her today and we didn’t talk about the weekend which we never do if we see eachother or stuff. And then boom we start convo like we never saw eachother. Do you think we both are awkward cause we work together? | Crushes |
Yay first Redit post!
I, Under 16, female have two guys possibly likening me at the moment.
But well it’s bad. One I have known and actually made some romantic comments to me for the last few years, and got me a Valentine’s Day gift one year, and a Christmas. This year he hasn’t talked to me much, but I have two periods with him. I don’t know if he still likes me but I think about him more than the other guy. He has the cutest smile and is easy to get along with. He’s good friends with my favorite cousin, and remembers most things I tell him. I think when my friends that’s also his comes back to school things will go back to normal
Guy two is a year older than me that I meet from my sisters softball. He used to like my best friend and his sister told me he liked me, and I used to have a slight crush on him too. He says he really misses me tho. (We only talked one this summer) But I don’t think I like him that much anymore. He doesn’t come to school atm, because of home schooling, but I really want to see him again.
I cant decide what guy I like more. It’s hard for me rn because I don’t want to hurt any of them. They both deserve the world | Crushes |
Theres no escaping it I am so in love with him. Hes so beautiful. His fucking SMILE!!! HES SO PERFECT HES A LITERAL PIECE OF ART OMG | Crushes |
Dm me I’m bored rn and might help you🤷 you never know | Crushes |
It’s the first week of school and so far she’s in one of my classes. I want to talk to her, but I don’t want to make it weird by coming up to when she’s with her friends.
She’s pretty much always with them. | Crushes |
So this feeling has been in my brain for about a year. And whenever I’m with this person I feel so happy and I feel like they improve me. I am in a great mood after I even say hi to them. And whenever I talk to them I get a funny feeling in my stomach. Is this really a crush? Because a couple friends say it is but I’m still not sure. Please help me. | Crushes |
I think im starting to develop a crush... idk, just felt like sharing, use the comments to ask me question ig, I'll as you back! | Crushes |
I said no...
I fucking hate myself
Edit: Because she used to date my friend and I wasn't 100% sure they broke up I asked him about homecoming and who he's going with he said he's going with the girl that asked me out, then I said do you know who I should ask. He said something about the girl who asked me out liking my hair, style, and saying I looked cute. He told me not to tell anyone, which besides this I don't plan on.
So now I'm wondering if I should tell him she asked me on a date. Because I know he really likes her, and I'm still not 100% sure it wasn't a joke, and I wouldn't want to mess them up over a joke. | Crushes |
We was talking and that then I checked my tiktok dms and I saw that she sent me this sweet video
Video: https://www.tiktok.com/@yssrfee/video/7136888736838602011?_t=8VFRahiaNvR&_r=1 | Crushes |
Yeah so I have a crush on this girl and we were on camp of sort and every night we like played games, watched movies etc. And every time I brought like a mattress and we sat next to each other and one time when we are sitting it was kind of like we held hands but it was not like holding hands, just a quick like "touch" or how can I say it. + When we were sitting with each other and she like "reminded me" of that I should drink water and then gave me her bottle. Sadly I did not her number, but we are going on the same sport in the same club, so there is a high chance that we are seeing each other more often. I don't know if I can call this progress, but yeah, this happend. | Crushes |
I was waiting to leave my 8th period today and this girl and me ending having eye contact for a second, and she laughed and looked away. Why does my lonely brain wanna give me false hope? | Crushes |
I'm 27 and she's 22 and she has never been in a relationship. Never had her first kiss. We were getting close and obviously in the pre stages of starting a romantic relationship. And then I made it clear how much I really did like her and the thought of us actually being together scared the shit out of her and she just shut down. Because it's easier to carry on like she has in the past, only relying on herself. She has some abandonment trauma and i respect the way she feels to the highest degree. We are starting to get close agian, it's been about a month since then but I know her walls are higher than they were before. I dont want her to be afraid but I understand why she is and I have no judgment. I just want to show her she can rely on me. And that she can always change her mind and nothing is permanent if she doesn't want it to be. | Crushes |
My personal experience: About 10-18 times depending on how you look at it. But I'm not discouraged.
You? | Crushes |
We were all sitting together, when I sent my crush a flirty cat meme "your hands look heavy, can I hold them".
Sometime later we're making out in a dark corner at night.
Now she's officially my girlfriend.
Moral of the story: use flirty cat memes. | Crushes |
I just need to vent because my current situation is killing me. I've had a crush on this person for a couple of months now. Mind you, I barely get crushes on anyone and when I do, it takes literally forever to stop crushing. I could probably count all of my past crushes on one hand.
We became good friends, we talk and play games together almost every day, and out chemistry is really good. However, they're in a (online) relationship and well, I just don't know what to do. I like them so much but it's so painful. I think of them like every second of the day. Obviously, I'm not going to confess to them as that's a terrible idea. I want to remain friends with them and hang out with them but the more I do, the more I fall for them. Any advice or anyone with a similar experience? Should I just wait for them to be single and then shoot my shot lol? | Crushes |
Today he was sitting across from me at lunch and he kept moving closer and I was planning on talking to him then but I got to scared so my friend asked for his snap and told him I thought he was cute because she said I was “taking to long” to do it myself lol, but he smiled almost immediately before she asked so I guess that was good. I was SO EMBARRASSED, I kept apologizing to him while hiding behind my apple slices bag because I was so nervous😭 he put his snap in my phone and then he got up and left and next period he kept staring as usual and he was more talking I’ve with his friends today to I guess what happened at lunch made his day just like it made mine! He added me back a few hours ago and I have NO CLUE what to say, I know I should probably just be like “hey” but still, I feel like that so dry! | Crushes |
I've been crushing on her for 2 years. 2 goddamn years. What was all that our deep eye contact, sweet smiles and stuff? Nothing?? NOTHING. And I sudddenly find out she has a boyfriend via voicemail. Guess that's it then.
I wouldn't mind accidentally getting hit by a car right now. | Crushes |
I know he likes some one else so i am move on :) | Crushes |
hello everyone, so i have a crush on this guy he sits next to me i sometimes catch him staring at me and he either quickly looks away or he would keep staring with a blank face, he remembers somethings i said to him i noticed that he doesn't treat me the same as my two other girl friends he seems to laugh and talk quite often and he even teases them in front of me, which idk if he is being respectful bc he knows i'm shy and when sometimes we are alone us two i can feel like he is nervous and doesnt talk at all. we do have a lot of common. one of our common friend (who doesn't know i like him) said one day out of the blue that if he was a little older he would've had a crush on me?? which i didn't understand and didn't want to ask about it a lot so yeah. it is very confusing to me so idk what to do, does it seem like he is slightly interested in me or not? thanks! | Crushes |
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The girl ive met in greece was perfect but because i am a pussy i didnt get the courage to talk to her the first time the second time WE MADE EYE CONTACT and i didnt do shit i just walked down that restaurants stairs with a walk of shame the world gave me two chances and ive wasted them | Crushes |
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