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Idk I just don’t really have anyone to talk to about her atm, and I feel someone more qualified about this stuff would be better to talk to :) | Crushes |
I saw a video of someone saying “Attractive vs intrest. You do not have a crush on them. They are just attractive and you are horny” that’s kinda funny but doesn’t that go hand in hand?
I guess if you’re interested in someone that means you’re crushing on them because you’re actually interested in them as a person but if it’s attraction and you’re just attracted to them it’s not a crush? I’m very cofnsued. But it kinda makes sense. Especially with sexual attraction, would that be considered a crush? Because sexual attraction is just basically you like how they look, not who they are. So you’d have a crush on their body. I dunno someone help me out here.
I might do a follow up on my own crushes cuz I have no clue if I’m just crushing or just horny. | Crushes |
Alright Reddit, I never share this stuff with anyone so I’d like to hear from the perspectives of others.
So theres this girl I’ve basically grown up with (we’ve been in school together for six years, so 7-12th grade), and I have always had the biggest crush on her. I asked her out in 8th grade and she told me her parents wouldn’t let her date anyone. I was devastated lol. I’ve waited a bit since then ( four years to be exact ), and I finally decided to ask her out four months ago. She pretty much blew me off right there, telling me she had a volunteering event scheduled for the day I was planning on taking her out.
Now I’m not sure what to do. I’m currently a senior so in a few months I’ll never see her again which is making me feel a bit of pressure. I really like this girl and we get along well, but I don’t want to be annoying and bring it up the situation again (or get rejected again). How should I approach this situation?? | Crushes |
Do girls like it when a guy goes out of there way to talk to them?
For instance, when I see my crush walking by should I call her by name and say hello? If I see her standing there should I walk up and talk to her?
I get really nervous about what she or others would think. Just wondering if she had a crush on me back, would she want me to show interest in front of others?
Long story short my crush and I have talked before and it seemed that she liked me too but when I see her around other people I am very shy. Most of the times we talked were away from other people. She has come and sat with me on lunch a few times. Am I potentially being off-putting and showing that I am not interested? Is it childish to be shy and reserved, should I be more outgoing to show that I am interested and have a crush on her?
This is all at work, but it’s retail and others date here too. | Crushes |
honestly i think i have everyone here beat. im so sorry. but at my defense i did give her pizza and food almost every night and she finally gave back!! she also got a side of ranch. and now we are gonna hang out. im currently with her. umm.. probably gonna get a little physical but i dont think we're gonna hit any bases yet. just hugging and super short cuddling at the moment. | Crushes |
my crush and i have been doing book exchanges. before he left we played this game called we’re not really strangers. it prompts you to write a letter to each other which u read when u part. i wrote “there’s a handful of things i’d like to tell you but i think i’ll just say i wish you weren’t leaving tomorrow”.
he recently came back saying he had more books for me. i picked them up and found the note tucked in between the pages. i don’t really know what that means????
but i was thinking of writing a note to put in the book i want to lend him. i want to ask him out on a date or something of the sort that hints towards wanting to get to know him better. any clever ideas?
TLDR: i want to write him a letter that asks him out on a date or clearly states im interested in him | Crushes |
please ask me anything i wanna gush so bad abt him | Crushes |
I'm 17 and I've come to realise that I don't *want* to be in a relationship with anyone right now. We've been together for three months and I want to break up because it's not even fair to her at this point.
I'm not afraid of the break-up in itself, or of I am, I know I'll just have to get through it at some point.
What I'm afraid of is how it'll affect my friendships : I met most of my friends thanks to her and I love my group of friends. We got together a month after I was introduced to them and they were always very supportive of the relationship, they even helped my girlfriend confess to me.
How can I break up with someone I'll still see every day at school ? How will it affect the fact that we basically have the same group of friends ? That they dig the relationship even more than I do ? | Crushes |
I find myself talking to him about things that I wouldn't tell anyone else because I'd be scared of what they'd think. I tell him about the horror manga I'm reading, the dumb anime I like, my opinions on today's culture, and things like that.
And he doesn't even bat an eye. He may tease me about it a little bit, but nothing hurtful. I don't think I've opened up to anyone this much besides my sister in years. It's amazing how much we have in common.
I think he's opening up with me too. Gah, I wanna be with him so bad. | Crushes |
So there is this guy in my class that I have recently been crushing on. We sit very close but we have never had any interactions with each other, we even walk the same way after our class. He is second year uni I am first year, I really hate myself for liking anyone because my previous crush even though he was the one that talked to me first I was the one that confessed and got rejected, so I don’t want to go through the same thing again. I am sick of getting ready and putting effort into myself hoping he notices me knowing he will not because I have accepted the fact that no one is going to like me. I just want advice on how to get over this stupid crush? | Crushes |
so I've liked this guy in class for about 2 months, found them really cute when I first met him, and eventually found out we had a mutual friend! I could only see him once a week since we only had one shared class, which kinda sucked but it made me looking forward to it a lot more. The more I got to know him (mostly from our friend) he barely has any online presence aka not having social media or only having a school-purpose account.
I feel like there isn't really any way to get to know more about him other than pestering our mutual friend which I'd rather not do as it feels overbearing or intrusive... and unfortunately for me we won't be classmates anymore as our schedules will change in February :( so I'm just stuck here, missing the fun times and wondering if I still have a chance at all to get closer | Crushes |
My crush would call me beautiful he would talk to me all night and tell me he loved me and he also called me baby multiple times Which made me think he wanted me.
I told him that I liked him and I thought he liked me back because of the things he would say to me.
He told me that he didn’t like me and he was just bored and had no one to talk to🫤
If you are so bored find something else to do! | Crushes |
the way he went from super depressed to actually happy and the way his eyes shined and that smile when he saw her
it's exactly what I feel for him
I can't describe how shitty I m feeling
it was the day I was gonna ask him
life sucks | Crushes |
You can’t control who you get an obsession over but ofc my dumb ass chose to obsess over someone who’s gonna graduate and move away to college in 176 days. Dam, not again. | Crushes |
all I wanted was a pic w him | Crushes |
I met this amazing, intelligent, hot, and funny man who can hold a conversation like no other 2 weeks ago. We met on the dancefloor, he made out with me, and gave me hickies right then and there. Naturally I grabbed his social media. He was upfront about the fact that he would be leaving soon.
I am not the type to catch feelings easily. I hardly ever do. But I had a 4 night stand with this boy. And jesus christ; was it good. It was amazing. He was thoughtful, honest, sweet. Everything he presented to me was perfect. He was filled with fun facts and stupid idioms, we had the same type of dry humor- he had stories about travelling that I could listen to for hours.
I cannot stress how "my type" he was either. He wasn't a 10/10 he's an 11/10. The type where hes so pretty it hurts.
But our amazing nights came to a close when he realized how close his moving date was. Hes rushing to get is duties and act together as he prepares for a month long nightmare of flights, drives and conferences.
I haven't seen him in 2 days, and my heart is confused. I know its dumb. I knew he would be leaving. He told me straight up that he would be going. Still, I selfishly want to steal the last of his time here. I wanna spend one last night with him. Yet, I know that would hurt more.
I've been gushing to my friends about him, and my one friend gave me this sad look and told me it was some Romeo and Juliet type stuff. That's not my taste in novels at all, nor are romcoms my type of media, but I certainly think I may be able to write some 50 shades type about the past little bit. I've been covering my whole neck in foundation before I go to work. Like, he was some other type of good, and he had no idea.
Perhaps TMI but even the taste of his spit got me going ugh. I'm down bad.
He may return to my town again for school, and if he does he said he would message me. I have my doubts. But damn, I suppose for now, that's the end of the story between myself and the 11/10. | Crushes |
So she gives all of the right signals, I saw her stare at me more then once, her message responses are more elaborate then yes/no, there is some body touch like hi 5s (how do I spell that?) or handshakes, she likes every one of my posts etc. but she literally has a girlfriend.
I watched like 20 videos among the lines of "X signs she likes you" and I find myself in more of them. And no, she doesn't see me like a brother or things like that. Also I read about signs she doesn't like me and none were relatable.
I know nothing about lgbt, I come from a country where it's very uncommon (it's 100% legal but it's uncommon). Is it possible she likes both males and females? Do I still have chances? | Crushes |
So, my crush and I share a class together and I've been planning to confess to him soon. There's just one thing though, I'm worried that once I do confess, if he rejects me, it'll be awkward in class because we sit next to each other. I wanna suggest friendship if he doesn't reciprocate in my confession, but I'm not sure if that's a good idea.The other thing is, we're not entirely like best friends so it'll be less of a blow if he does reject me but it would still be weird if it's awkward. But overall, I really want to prevent that awkwardness because that'd just be bad for the both of us. I hope this makes sense lol
P.s I wasn't sure which tag to use so I hope this one's okay | Crushes |
Well darn. I was planning on asking her to the dance but I guess that's most likely not going to happen. | Crushes |
I have a crush on this one guy, and I noticed he stares at me a lot, it's like he stares but knows he's staring but doesn't care if someone looks back. Recently he had made fun of me for the way I was walking, I was walking with a friend and he friends laughed with him. It did make me feel bad, but eariler today me and friend were walking and then we see him, he kept eye contact for five seconds with me. Another thing about him is wherever I'm walking to or planning to go to, he walks the same way and stares, and I don't get it. By the end of the day as I was getting ready to go home, I see him and he stares at me. Then he walks backwards to go home as he glances, he kept on doing that for a while so I'm confused. I don't know what this means or if he's trying to humiliate me in some way. And I just happen to always see him. I would like to know if anyone has a idea about this. | Crushes |
What should I do now? | Crushes |
Self explanatory | Crushes |
I [F18] told him [M18] that I had something I wanted to talk to him about tomorrow. I originally meant to confess today, but chickened out. Now he knows I have to tell him something, so he'll question me about it which will force me to actually tell him this time.
I know he probably likes me back, but I'm finding it difficult to be confident in what I'm saying in such a vulnerable moment. I've practiced what I want to tell him, but everything comes out unorganized and my words don't make much sense.
I deeply care and appreciate him, how do I reveal to him my interest without sounding corny or, on the other hand, uninterested? Any tips on how to get ready before the confession will be appreciated as well! | Crushes |
like i have a crush and i want to start sending him hints fr cus i feel like he may like me but hes hiding it | Crushes |
I've never spoken to him before, and I've been thinking about just walking up to him sometime in the afternoon and asking if I could have his number to get to know him over text. Keep in mind, we have never had a single interaction before. Is asking him for his number straight away a bad idea? He is also in the grade above me, so I don't get to see him all day. I would really appreciate some advice on this | Crushes |
I always have this attitude that is very quiet but actually loud, exactly just a shy girl around. I was in the beach and I saw this guy. I know to myself I am disgusted to guys who have this trendy haircuts and so on but why did I do that. I always look for him and I look at him and expecting to lock eyes with him. I am so unconscious I keep on having quick glances to him. I keep on watching his actions from time to time. I feel like a creep to him. Not just to him but to other guys, I always do that whenever I get attracted to them. Well, this doesn't mean a shy girl likes or crushes on you already when she quick glance you many times but just find you attractive maybe not just in the looks maybe on how you act just like that.
*sorry for grammatical errors | Crushes |
So, the girl I am crushing on since a year is single now after a long time. She is from my same batch in the college , we know of each other's existence. I have never spoken to her neither do I have the courage to honestly. Don't know why but I have just completely given up the idea of trying to talk to her. I talk to everyone except her , kind of ignore her. I just don't have the courage to walk up and talk to her , i don't know how people do that. People might say I have put her on a pedestal but I Don't beleive that way. i know she's a normal person like all of us but Idk I just can't . After numerous frustrations, i have reached a breaking point where I have just completely given up the idea of trying to talk to her. I just wish her all the very best in life . It will be extremely devastating for me if she dates someone from the batch now. It will feel like the sky has fallen on me. But that's life you know. Am working on improving myself, I feel like am a better than average looking fit guy whos decent to everyone but my only drawback is am an introvert and i only speak to people I have already known. I know it's my fault and there's no one to be blamed. Just wanted to pour this all out here . Cheers! | Crushes |
Soo my friend likes this boy and he knows that she likes him,yesterday we were in a group with me my friend and her crush +a few other friends and I noticed he was starring at me for like a pretty good 30 seconds or so.We've never talked or anything just small interactions.So I'm just wondering why was he starring at me I just found ik this is poorly written im in a rush but I'm just looking for an answer😢 | Crushes |
it’s been two weeks since i confessed, and i was already expecting a rejection.. obviously since he has a girlfriend. i wasn’t expecting anything to come out of it, but he said that it’s probably better for me to just get it off my chest.
and the thing is i was kinda worried that he would become less affectionate towards me since we’re close friends, and maybe he would feel awkward around me…. but he’s almost been even more affectionate than usual???? for example, we and our mutual friends hung out recently and had a sleepover, here are all the examples: (WARNING it’s VERY VERY long and kinda cringe)
- hugged me so many times
(also hugged me from behind!)
- held my hand a few times
- he rubbed my back when i was lying down bc i was in pain
- we were lying down cuddling, and he put his head against me a lot (also we cuddled for a REALLY long time, idk how many hours that was)
- i was worried that i was making him uncomfortable so i pulled away a little, but he said i don’t have to worry and pulled me back
- he put my arm around his chest and joked “don’t get too excited now”
- he let me rest my head on his chest
- patted me on the head
- i accidentally fell asleep while we were still cuddling so we both just slept like that together
- i woke up before him, and when he woke up he pulled me on top of him, but the bed frame was in the way so i fell down again ;(
- we also spooned (i was the big spoon lol even tho i am def smaller than him) and i put my leg around him too, but i was anxious so i hesitated, so he took my leg himself and put it around him
- he tickled me. so goddamn much. i tried to tickle him back but failed. when i tried to “fight” him he just continued lol, and he even sat on me to pin me down ;(
- sometimes he also tried to tickle me out of nowhere to try to get me to react
- he also teased me A LOT
- a while later us two were lying watching youtube (the others were out getting breakfast), and i asked if i could use him as warmth bc i was cold, and he had no hesitation lol. and if there was any gap between us he scooched to be closer to me
- he also kept checking if i was comfortable, and asked me how i was doing if i seemed down during the hangout
- he talked to me a LOT of the time, less when we were all together because i usually get more quiet then
- this doesn’t really mean anything but he called cute and pretty multiple times?? he does compliment people kinda often, but usually on their clothes or something like that. he knows that im kinda insecure so he got jokingly mad at me and said i have nothing to worry about and pinched the sides of my waist lol
- he pinched me a lot, not to hurt me, but more like you do to a baby? like they’re very pinchable in a good way bc they’re so soft, and he said i was pinchable too lol
- when i pinched him or tried to tickle him to retaliate, he said “oh now you’re just looking for excuses to touch me”
- i was “”annoyed”” with him because he teased me, but he asked for a piece of the chocolate i was eating, so i said “only if u say something nice first” and he responded quickly with “you look really good today :D” this isn’t important i just thought it was cute
- i noticed we make eye contact pretty often? i think, not sure on this one because it’s hard to measure
- he mentioned once that he lets me stand closer to him than most people (physically), which i haven’t thought about, but yea, he usually stands pretty close to me compared with others? sometimes he puts his face really close often to joke or to tease me
- i was the last one to go home, but he followed me all the way to the train station (the others went by themselves), and when we said goodbye he hugged me like. 5 times?? i don’t remember all the reasons, but he said 1 was bc i had pain, 1 was for the road, and 1 was bc he wanted to, and i don’t remember the others..
(all this was the in the same 24 hours also)
BTW he did not do ANY of this with our other friends except hug each of them one or two times in total, and tease them ofc, and he’s pretty close with all of them too. from what ive seen and heard im the only one where he acts like this?
BUT he has already rejected me, so i guess this is just him being very close friends with me?
also im sorry that this is so long, and it sounds pretty fake i know.. but he’s very affectionate normally too, this was just more than usual.
can someone please theorize with me what this means???? im prepared to answer any question just to figure this out | Crushes |
Idk if I’m stupid or something, but I can never tell if someone is flirting 😖 | Crushes |
if I’ve been left on delivered for 17 hours by a guy who likes me (his friends told me and he makes it obvious by staring/asking for my Snapchat etc) what do I do then will I leave it on open and wait for him to properly text me over time or continue he’s only met me twice and only asked for my Snapchat 2 days ago and we talked all day the first day and then have been sending snaps we just started a streak. Will I just lose it or continue sending back pictures it’s just so draining lol I’d prefer to text again/ wait to see him next. | Crushes |
Is he confused or am I confused? Am I not understanding the signs😭HELP | Crushes |
One thing that sucks more than your crush getting a gf/bf is realizing how truly delusional you are | Crushes |
I'm curious to know others' thoughts.... | Crushes |
My best friend clearly has a crush on me (I’ll call her Sarah for the sake of this story). It is really obvious Sarah has feelings for me but lucky for her, I also do. So, I’m going to recap the most obvious thing that made me 100% sure she DOES like me (there are wayyyy more reasons but I’ll stick with the main one).
So today Sarah told me she was making a painting for her crush. She immediately asks me if I would like that idea. Now before you say that everyone gets their friend’s opinion to make sure it is a good idea, I know. But this… It gets really noticeable soon. So I say that I think that is an amazing idea and Sarah informs me she is drawing their favourite things on the painting.
Sarah starts asking me what MY favourite things are so she can draw them. Trying to trip her up, I ask her why she is drawing my things and what would happen if her crush didn’t like those things. Sarah responded with “Well they should appreciate it either way. After all, they COULD possibly be my future wife. I need them to like what I make for them no matter what.” Dammit. She got me. I failed. But whatever. She then proceeds to ask me about 5 more things until she needs to go and shower.
So even though I was already sure that she had a crush on me, now I was even more sure, like 100%. Previously, I had actually been helping her. I suggested we should watch a “how to confess to your crush” video, for her. We are watching it and she keeps asking me if I’D like that way of someone confessing to her. She keeps saying things like “let’s pretend I like you and -bla bla bla-”. Which that is even more proof she likes me. Now here is where I help her discreetly. I list my two favourite ways out of these and two least favourite ways. Sarah used my #1, something creative/artistic.
here are some dot points of even more reasons it is me:
• Sarah said that instead of her confessing at school or on call, she’d do it when she meets yo with them. I’m the only person she can and does meet up with.
•She said that she’ll give the painting on her crush‘s birthday this year and mentioned it was in the first half of the year. My birthday is in June, and it is April. This means that it can only be from the rest of April-June. That isn’t much months.
•Sarah said if she shows me other things she drew on the paper, i’d know exactly who it is. That means u know them personally. I only know 2 other people on a personally basis. She definitely doesn’t like them.
THERE IS SO MANY MORE BUT I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME!! | Crushes |
Hi! i am going back and forth with myself because i cant decide if i want to confess to my crush. Instead of explaining my situation, i wanted to give pros and cons of confessing
Pros:
-i haven’t seen him in person since we were in middle school, we are now both freshmen in college so atleast i wouldn’t see him if i did. get rejected
-i could finally get my feelings out, i’ve liked him for nearly 6 years
Cons:
-terrified of rejection, i already have pretty bad anxiety so i overthink everything he says to me and i would feel humiliated if he rejected me
-i value his friendship too much, what if confessing ruins it all?
-i feel too embarrassed to confess altogether, but i cant keep these feelings at bay any longer bc it’s exhausting | Crushes |
In my Uni course, there are a lot of girls, but I never really cared for any of them. No crushes or feelings. Then suddenly, BAM! I have a crush on this one girl. Like, where the Heck did this crush come from? I know this girl exists, I've seen her before, I know what she looks like, we've done a number of group projects before, we have small, meaningless interactions before. Why did I suddenly develop a crush on her? And why the hell did I develop this crush the same exact time another guy did as well!?!?!?! Terrible, terrible timing.
Also, how do I act on this crush? The other guy has already acted kn this crush, which sucks because she seems to be getting comfortable and happy with him, so what do I do? I don't really talk to women, and I don't think she remembers all the "small, meaningless interactions" we had that I remember. | Crushes |
So usually I always bring a romance novel to class and she always has the habit of borrowing it for the whole day, I can't say no since she looks too cute to say no to but I kinda just surprised her outta nowhere, and lent it to her and she was pretty happy. So she then texted me and told me ''during the holidays gimme some more 😘😘'' She has used it before but I feel like she is just using it casually and not as though it means anything since she is very bold. | Crushes |
i never got to confess to her but whatever man. call me a wuss but whatever. we just kept drifting apart further and further and it's just not worth it anymore.
thank you to this person though, for meeting her and me having this crush for over 5 years now. I still remember this acquaintance party at grade 12 where I got to have a dance with you and instead of leaving me in the dust, you gladly let me take you. that was the happiest moment of my life, that's engrained into my memories for as long as I live.
anyway thanks for reading this. I feel that's as close to a confession as I can. | Crushes |
Need to get over a long term crush who is a good person,a kind and supportive friend who listens to you in time of need.Cannot cut them off. | Crushes |
Selfie at 3 am
I kinda like this girl and I have a lil feeling that she likes me too. She sent a snap with her face at 3 am and I wanna ask what you think | Crushes |
classic best friends to lovers to enemies to strangers to best friends to (whatever this is) story.
when we were 14, we were each other’s first love. after 3 months of being lovey dovey, we split ways for some petty reason i can’t even remember (lmfao), and i swore to never speak to him ever again
… until we were 18.
by now, we were in a very different phase of life. different schools, different hometowns, different groups of friends. we were two different people, with different interests and goals in life.
we reconnected via social media because of a mutual friend. and somehow, we just… clicked.
as if we were two old long-term best friends who have never had the most awkward fall out. as if we never hated each other’s guts and ignored each other at the hallways for two years (before we graduated) 😭
one conversation turned into another, and before i realised it, we spoke to each other for an entire year. 365 days CONSECUTIVELY. and we still do.
it’s never boring or dull speaking to him.
and i have never been so curious about someone before, but i wanted to know his deepest secrets, fears, quirks, love languages, pet peeves and - literally - everything.
it was a very slow process to know him inside out. and i am still not done yet. i love to fall in love with him everyday again and again but here’s the catch:
he’s from a different race. 🥲
my family is very unaccepting towards people of other races. my sister had a boyfriend with someone of the same race as my crush and it was years of hell for both of them. 🙃
do i really want to put him in that situation? is our love really strong enough to withstand the odds and break my mum’s prejudice? will we even last till marriage? 😟
it’s extremely frustrating and painful. i love him so much but i can never be together with him.
the worst part is: i know he loves me too. he said it himself multiples times, and i know it took him a lot of courage to say the three words because he only reserves it for people who mean a lot to him.
so… now we are in a very awkward phase between friends and more than friends. 😓
the ‘what ifs’ really hurts but i will just enjoy the moment. i know for sure that he will always be the boy i loved, and even if we don’t end up together, i will alw pray for his happiness. 🫶
e, if you see this, i hope you don’t freak out on sc 😂 | Crushes |
That’s what her name means. “Renowned warrior”.
For context she’s an international student at my school. I’ve had a crush on her for a while now and always thought she has a beautiful name. Today I looked it up to see its meaning.
She’s a warrior alright. And the only thing she’ll end up slaying is my heart when she rejects me. But alas, there’s little i can do about that.
Gosh, “renowned warrior”. Who would have thought….
I’m gushing and i’m gushing hard.
(Shakespeare much?) | Crushes |
I'll try to answer y'all | Crushes |
happy 4th month anniversary for when he stopped talking to me and blocked me on everything hahaha everything hurts and online dating sucks and I hate talking to people anyway so I cant get over them if I want to or not its 1am and I'm literally about to cry i even deleted my online dating thing and this one guy who does have feelings for me but hes gross sorry that was harsh but im going insane I love him so much id literally do anything for them and im pretty sure i dont even WANT to get over them because ive decided 'fake' them was better than anyone else id literally give up anything for them like i literally have vaginismus and i still sucked it up for when we used to have a thing and id do it again if it means theyd love me again i wish he knew how much i love him but im sure he does but doesnt even care because im such a stupid, hideous, annoying failure ive literally gone through months worth of depression and alcoholism because of the despair of him leaving me i dont even want another guy im basically asexual at this point i know this is extremely unhealthy but screw it i dont even deserve to be healthy and i heard he has anxiety that happens when hes all alone and id always be there for him if he needed me im so messed up all i want is him back its been four whole months of this i cant even connect with other guys alot of them disgust me now | Crushes |
I haven't updated alot of what happens soo.... Apparently he had a crush on me! and during spring break he told me that he liked me!!! (I get b!tches😎) also my friends (who is also friends with him) asked me if "crush" asked me out if I said yes and I said "yeah obviously" and then today they said "so you might not be single soon"👀👀 I'm literally so happyyy | Crushes |
I (27F) have a very big crush on a guy at the gym. I have been seeing him for about a year now at the gym. We never talked or interacted but we always stare at each other or catch each others eye in between. I happened to randomly develop a crush on him. The only interaction we've had is last week when I purposefully asked him if he was using the rope and he said "no I'm not" and I said "thanks" and smiled. We see each other every week once or twice. I have been crushing on him for so long and I am thinking about approaching him but I have mixed feelings about it.
1. He seems a bit older than I and I'm worried he might be married (but never saw a ring on finger) or might have gf
2. I don't want to make things awkward if he is taken and then I still see him at the gym and it'll just become awkward
3. I don't want to come off as desperate or needy as a woman asking a man out or for his number.
4. The only thing that sort of makes sense for me to ask him out is because it's a gym and maybe he feels intimidated or shy/scared asking a woman out at the gym due to the environment? (I've stopped wearing earphones too so I look more approachable)
We always stare at each other. Should I ask him out / for his number or be patient and try to have a conversation with him sometime (although that is hard to plan out since I have to work out near him and try to somehow spark a conversation which I am shy around him anyways). I don't know what to do if I should or shouldn't.
Some days I want to just find out the answer and get it over with so mavbe I can iust move on with this small little crush that somehow is getting stronger each day.
Excuse my grammar. | Crushes |
so.. i’ve posted about this guy before so ima jus link the posts here:
anyways, i don’t have feelings for this guy anymore - but i found out a few weeks ago that he has a gf. how i found out was , i saw them both hugging while going downstairs and i checked his insta and i saw that he has a highlight of her.
he still has that highlight of her, and he also would post like photos of them together, gifts he got her, and even posted a photo of his haircut with her initial shaved on the side of his head (y’all know wha i’m talking about ?? 😭).
anyways, i have lost feelings for him for a while, but ever since i found out that he has a gf, i’ve been feeling sad?? like i don’t get why i’m trippin this much 💀. he doesn’t even give me butterflies anymore, but now i’m thinking about him a lot. and besides, he was friends with the guys who traumatized me anyway.
bro and today, when me and my bsf was walking to head out of the cafeteria, him and his gf walked past us and she wasn’t paying attention but me and him made eye contact and bro randomly smiled at me?? like idk his smile seemed kind of like a smirk?? idk tbh, he probably could’ve been laughing at something else i’m not sure.
anyways y’all, ion get why i’m trippin over the fact that he has a gf even tho ion got a crush on him anymore ☠️ anyways, i jus needed to vent, advice is appreciated if u guys want to give it 😭. | Crushes |
Im thinking of asking a friend to a dance, my feelings for her have been conflicted. all year we kept getting shipped together and mistaken to be dating, could be a good thing? Ive always seen her as a friend yet this year’s been weird. Shes helped me through my roughest times, great advice. I think I might honestly have caught feelings, when I said I wouldn’t. Mainly because she dated my bsf in the past and it went south. he thought there might of been a thing between us when there wasn’t. Its been months since then, I know I should talk it over but wouldn’t it be weird over dms? My other friends have been urging me, that she feels the same way. Just don’t want to strain things with my friend. | Crushes |
I have been in school with one of my classmates. I have had a crush on one of them for a few months. They seem to like me back and I want to tell them how I feel. The thing is I don’t know how to. I’m a very quiet person and I don’t want to tell him in-front of anyone. How do I tell him? | Crushes |
Does she like me? I have been away from her for less than a week and she randomly messaged saying she misses me. During a text conversation she said that she was excited to see me again followed by her saying this, and I quote her here : “They say distance makes the heart grow fonder.”
Would she bring up a saying like that if she perhaps didn’t like me? | Crushes |
So i started talking to this guy today. He had already followed me on instagram a while back because i have my artworks posted there. Anyways since instagram has that little feature where you can post a note and everyone you follow back sees it, well he replied to one i posted today, from there we started talking. Nearly a whole day i kid you not, and we realized we had so much in common. But what i found so random is that we barely met today and he was already FLIRTING with me... and he would say stuff such as how i was cute, attractive, or beautiful. And we both went on about how excited yet nervous we are to see eachother in person tomorrow. And thats not all, he started talking about holding hands just so that i would be less nervous... Keep in mind we go to the same school we just havent met up until now. So yea i think i am starting to like him, for now we are gonna get to know eachother more. But yea im curious to know if its normal for that to happen? | Crushes |
I met a girl at a hospital and I thought she was cute and sweet and was attracted to her. After we got discharged, we gave each other our numbers and socials. We would text from time to time, but was never close. I noticed that when I do not get a message from her, then my feelings for her are gone and I don’t think about her at all, but if we do reach out , then my feelings immediately come back.
What does this mean? Do I really like her then? | Crushes |
I just wanted to tell you I wish you the best. I am not sure how you are feeling about me. It is okay if we are just friends. It is okay if you do not feel the same. Of course it will be soar for some while. I guess it will be okay after all.
I just wish the best for you. If it means you and I not being more than friends it is okay. If you are destined be someone else or on your own and happier that way, I will be more than happy to leave you as you are right now.
You probably do not know, but you gave me great lessons. I never thought I could be that happy. I never thought I would be able to enjoy parties. I never thought I could be so shaken by a person because I like them. This is a life lesson that will last forever. You taught me things so I could be better person without dwelling too much on my past.
Everyone told me that I am overreacting and I should move on from my past. You never said anything about it unlike them. You never judged me. Spending time with you just made me realize that it is time to move on. You directed me towards the right direction without trying.
I don't even know what to say anymore. I have so many things I wanted to say to you. I sincerely hope the best for you. I hope I can watch you be happy and happier. You deserve it.
You said you read a lot. I stopped reading for such a long time that my writing skills are horrible. Now I can't stop thinking how you would have written things better. Maybe I like you too much and I hate myself too much at the same time. | Crushes |
*I made a post a few days ago on this subreddit that has backstory*
It started two days ago. I was was texting my “maybe” crush about a girl that liked me in the past. I (male) rejected her a couple years back, but my “maybe” still wonders if this other girl still has feelings. (My maybe and the other girl are friends) We talked for a while on call, mulling over the topic for a while, trying to figure out when I had rejected her (the main topic of conversation) but eventually hung up.
Yesterday, we called again and began talking about the other girl, but this time my maybe had a bit more than simple talk. My maybe and I made a pact to tell the other if another person has a crush on one of us. If I hear that someone likes her, I’ll tell her and vice versa. (I didn’t tell her about me because I consider my “maybe” to be in the past, although I’m still trying to get over it) “Maybe” told me that she doesn’t want to tell me if the other girl currently likes me, because she really wants me and the other girl to work out as a relationship.
Now I really have no idea what the heck to do. I was planning on telling her that she was my maybe, because she was insistent that I wouldn’t know if my maybe and I would work out or not because I hadn’t tried. Telling her, to me, really is a win win (thank you Reddit for opening up my eyes) because I could start a potential relationship with her (if she obviously has returned feelings), and if not I get a load off my chest and it’s something we can laugh about if we hopefully maintain our friendship. But with the other girl potentially liking me I don’t know when to say something, or if I should say something at all. Tbh, I’m worried that I might lose the friendship I have with my “maybe” now, or that it might change. I really like my current friendship with her, which is why I initially tried to forget my feelings in the first place. What should I do? | Crushes |
I've been trying to flirt with this guy at work. I touch him as much as possible, get close to him all the time and asked for his snapchat. He is super responsive in person but not at all online. I figured if he was interested he'd be more responsive, right? | Crushes |
do i really have to tear open my crush? if i want his heart? | Crushes |
So. I’m fairly introverted. Been in a relationship once… let’s say it didn’t go so well haha. And it’s been awhile since I’ve genuinely had a crush crush. Like. Ok he’s my coworker. We work well together. We even have a fairly close sense of humor so it’s always fun with him. But I’m also intimidated by him, BUT I also really really like him. He’s just so cute and I don’t know I want to know more about him and actually get to know him outside of work but I’m so nervous 😅 anxiety sucks butts :( | Crushes |
Let’s call her Sofia (18f). Her and I (18m) are hanging out along with another guy (19m). We’re going to this very famous observatory that overlooks the entire city. I want to like subtly flirt but how the fuck do I do that 💀 any advice is welcome | Crushes |
in the dream we kissed. it felt so real and i woke up and i felt so at peace with it. it was so passionate in the dream i woke up and thought it had actually happened. it made me fall even deeper 😭 | Crushes |
She already has a girlfriend. She knows I like her and it’s eating me up inside. I wish she would tell me to stop, but instead she keeps leading me on. At school I asked her about all the rings on her fingers, and she explained that one of them was a promise ring.
The other one was also from her girlfriend, and she gave it to me to try it on. I did, but I was quivering. She always asks to sit next to me in class. She pulls up a chair and acts interested in me. I tried to hold her hand but she yanked it away.
I felt so stupid. I told her that I needed to tell her something, and she said I’ll call you tomorrow. She hasn’t called me. Should I stop? Am I home-wrecker…? Does she only pretend to be my friend because she feels like she has to? Idk. | Crushes |
We text a lot but we don't really talk a lot in person. I really like him a lot but I know the age gap will never work, at least I know. But the way he texts me is so nice, it's almost flirty, at least to me. He's just so nice, constantly asking me how my day has been, telling me that if anyone is worth his time it's me, etc. But, I'm not sure if that is in an interested way or a super friendly way because I've never had a friend before that was this nice and interested in me. I'm not pretty, so I don't know. We text quite a bit and sometimes say goodnight, and some days I just hope he doesn't text me because I know we don't have anything to talk about. Well, I should've been careful what I wished for because today it came true. He didn't text me at all today and I've been miserable the whole day, moping around my phone waiting for a text from him but never getting one. And it's not like he's busy, I've seen him online. I always tell myself I don't really like him that much, but whenever he doesnt text me or doesn't answer my message for a while I miss him so much because I do care about him a lot no matter how many times I try and convince myself I don't. | Crushes |
first of all, i havent touched this throwaway account in almost 3 years. 3 years ago, just a month before large scale quarantine broke out due to covid-19 here, my then crush rejected me in what i feel is a very rude way. leaving me on read for two days and then texting me in the middle of the night that she wants to talk about it some time in person (which btw she did only after some weeks of avoiding me). on the post i put up here someone who appoears to no longer use that account wrote that its okay and that i should be careful not to fall into depression, and that i will find love one day. back then i thought that would be very unrealistic and that it was stupid. well sadly i did fall into a depression especially cus i was alone all the time. instead of being alone with my thoughts i got out my bike from the shed and started cycling away just driving anywhere not knowing how i would get home. eventually i met some people i knew from elementary school who i now consider to be my best friends. i spent a lot of time with them and slowly things got better. during that spring i cut off contact to the crush that rejected me since i realized she was being toxic to people all around here including me. through many coincidences and some friends i happened to meet this one very shy girl, (whos also hella pretty ahem) and i started texting her, we were sending each other memes and cursed cakes and food which is something we had in common and texted a looot. the last two weeks of may 2021 we texted back and forth all day and night on end. i felt like i had a crush on her, like there was something i couldnt quite point a finger at and truth be told, i just had a huge crush on her by like 29th may. i chose to trust her because i felt like why not try it, if it fails i dont ever have to see her again. as i was texting a common friend of ours if i should confess to her, she texts me the three words (you all know which words i mean 😫) and uhhh
my dumbass thought she meant platonically so i just go awwe love you too!!
SHE CONFESSED TO ME AND I DIDNT GET IT BRUH
then like some hours later she referred to me as "bf" and i just had a moment of enlightenment and explained to her how i thought she meant it earlier. to get any discomfort out of the way i also told her quickly that i also indeed have a big fat crush on her.
fast forward, our 2nd anniversary is on 31st may 2023 soo in month and a bit and we are in a happy and healthy relationship.
im lucky.
thank you to everyone out here on the subreddit that goes out of their way to tell people that its all going to be okay and that they are gonna find love one day.
to everyone here thats struggling:
it'll be fine. you will also find love one day. always remember that a good relationship means sharing ones own happiness with each other. as soon as your happiness depends on your partner its not a healthy relationship and it cant be. work on yourself and love yourself too.
without enough self love true love is nothing that you can find.
Thank you to all of you. I'm happy. | Crushes |
I have a co worker I think may like me but I’m getting mixed signals.
This co worker and I get along really well at work. We don’t really communicate outside of work other than sharing the occasional memes and when I agree to go out with out other co workers.
When we’re at work we joke around like normal friends and whatever but there’ve been a few instances that make me think he might feel more… of course there’s the obvious one where he’s complimented my appearance, noticed when I’ve gotten haircuts or complimented a new pair of pants (swoon).
There’ve been times where he’s mirrored my body language. Like once I was squatting in the back room because I was tired of standing and there wasn’t anywhere to sit, he walked in an squatted next to me… or he’ll jokingly copy my hand gestures while I’m talking. Sometimes he’ll act super nervous around me when he’s been goofy and suddenly get embarrassed like he’s afraid I’ll make fun of him or something.
The real kicker that makes me really think he likes me is once when we were out with co workers and one of our lady co workers were particularly drunk, she sat down next to him and was hitting on him hardcore. Like really laying it on thick. The whole time she was talking to him he was looking at me, like really looking. Did not break eye contact the whole time and was staring deep into my soul…
The thing however that makes me skeptical is that if he does like me he hasn’t told a soul. Not even his best friend. I’m friends with his best friend’s girlfriend and I haven’t told her any of this stuff. She described him (crush boy) as being “obsessed” with this other woman… I don’t want to play games, and I definitely don’t want to have to compete with another woman. I don’t want to let myself get sucked in if he doesn’t really like me | Crushes |
So pretty much I told her last night that I have feelings for her and after about 12 hours of her sleeping she finally woke up and told me she likes me back but doesn’t want to be in a relationship just yet so I guess it’s a good thing :) | Crushes |
Hey yall, I (17M) am pretty confused. There’s this girl I like (16) but don’t know how this will ever work out. We first met the back in October. I was added to a snap Group chat by my friend and she added me. We didn’t start snapping each other till December because I find streaks dumb, lmao. So she started snapping me selfies, and I’d do it back. We started actually talking to each other January and this is when I started to like here. She’s really pretty and has the cutest voice. She’s funny and very easy going. We both really love the outdoors too!
Anyways, a month later we kinda stoped talking so much for reasons idk why. Our snap streak broke, and she snaps me for 2 days, then stops a couple of days, then snaps back after that and the cycle continues.
Whenever I’m the hallways, she looks at me and immediately looks away when I make eye contact. She doesn’t have a nervous or scared fast, she’s smiling.
Last week I was in the haul talking to my Linemen coach, and I looked over at her and she was looking at me smiling talking to her best friend and immediately looked away.
I’m super confused and don’t know what to think. I’m not the best at starting conversations with her now because of this confusion I’m filled with. Any thoughts? | Crushes |
Basically I bought a 60 pack of these fuzzy yellow chickens (if you’ve seen the who did ___ w/o permission videos then you know what I’m talking about). But basically I gave a few of them out and 6th period I asked my teacher if she wanted one and then a bunch of kids saw I was giving them out.
My crush noticed I was giving them out and asked for one. The one I gave her happened to be the last one I had today, (I’m bringing more tomorrow) and after that I was thinking/smiling to myself for the rest of the day because I had given her one. She also seems to like it. | Crushes |
I have this friend, and I was kind of sure that he liked me, at least up until about a month ago. We've only been friends for a little less than a year, but I feel like we've gotten kind of close during this time. Anyway, my reasoning for doubting he likes me now is he's becoming pretty mean. I mean, I could be overreacting, but he makes some pretty rude comments sometimes. He's been telling me to shut up a lot, and has been teasing me about my height and various things about my appearance. It kind of seems playful, but I'm not entirely sure about whether he's trying to be mean or not. I'm kinda hoping someone can help me out. | Crushes |
my crush commented “be mine” on one of those cool alternative OF looking girls 10 weeks ago and liked almost all of her posts.
the girl who’s post she commented on has a bf and doesn’t follow her so im not worried they’ll date.
im gonna make myself look like her and i will be perfect because most everyone i want has ended up wanting me back so she will too, but it hurts so badly.
in the meantime, how can i make myself feel better? | Crushes |
Sooo... I (F20) asked a coworker (M26) if we want to hang out sometime, this was back in february. It's just our part-time job & he wants to get out of there soon anyways, so I thought I should just ask him for coffee and see what happens.
Fast forward; we now met up 5 times already, were grabbing coffee, taking small walks, talking a lot and even went to the movies today (was my idea this time). We both always initiated contact equally, so he also sometimes asked if we want to see each other again.
Sounds good so far - but even though we talked about our lifes a lot and I while I sometimes really felt that he's also interested, we didn't talk about "where we stand" at all yet, and today it also felt really distant and emotionally closed off from his side.
There are a lot of mixed signals; he initiates contact to see me again, takes time and effort to get to my place and to meet up; yet when we meet, it sometimes feels like he's not really "emotionally there", doesn't really ask me much, doesn't really look at me; though at our second and third """date""" he seemed interested, but the other times suddenly not anymore. Also he never really made any moves or gave compliments or anything the whole time.
It's just getting more confusing to me. He had a breakup in november last year, we talked about this shortly, but I'm not sure how exactly he feels about it now, also because I felt like he didn't really wanted to talk about it. So I don't know yet if this plays a big role in this.
From the start, I think it was pretty obvious that I was/am into him, I don't think he didn't notice that yet. And tomorrow I'll just text and ask him what he feels about our situation, and let's see.
Also not gonna ask that in person because I don't want to "rob any more of his time" & so he has the room to think about it. Honestly I think he says he's not ready or anything, but then I can move on and focus on something else.
Thank you for reading, any perspectives are highly appreciated! :) | Crushes |
Hello :)
First of all she has a boyfriend (I'm starting well lol).
But often I do wonder whether she's into me or not.
There's many small things like asking me to help her get up when she's sitting on the ground. Or whispering the absolute most random things (like "can you pass me the ketchup ?". But why the whisper ?), or whispering my name while I'm passing by and asking a favor. Also once pulling my hair when I when I made fun of a grammar mistake she made. Sometimes eye contact, (like one in a church where we were 50m away separated by a lot of people). It's the most random stuff but I am unsure how to feel about those and would like some comments. It's seems all absolutely innocent but no other girl acts like this when I'm around that's why I'm unsure.
Then there's perhaps more evident stuff, like asking me to dance. Or is she just being nice ?
As a last doubt, for her birthday, she made a quiz about her for her friends to fill up, one question was "what's my type ?", one of the four answers may have been a very, very vague description of me ("nice, brunette, large hands", which probably corresponds to 10% of the earth population... I still saw it as a sign though somehow)
I have no idea how to feel. As a note this has been going on for two years perhaps. Please just be harsh and say straight away if you feel she's not into me. Thank you. | Crushes |
I have an issue asking my crush out, cos she’s a close friend right but I had an idea that what if I make it painfully obvious? Then it’s just perfect cover if she doesn’t like me because I never explicitly said it | Crushes |
My birthday is quite soon so I was handing out birthday invitations. I had already handed most of them out except to my crush. I usually meet at his locker at the end of the day, along with the rest of our group so I was planning to give him one there. Turns out our group was so confident that I had already given him one that they were at his locker talking about my party. he walked over from his locker and he just had the saddest and most most hurt look on his face, and asked "why did I not get a invite?" And before I got the chance to speak his said "I get it if you don't want me there after what I done" (for context a while back he left and said some pretty awful things but he came back and apologized) I responded that yes I did want him there, and also that I forgave him a long time ago and how I was going to give him an invitation right now. I pulled out a brilliant blue envelope with his name written on it in gold ink. His eyes just lit up he smiled and said thanks. as he walked to his class he was beaming and smiling as he looked at the invitation. It was so adorable and wholesome. It honestly reminded me that he's sensitive too, and made me realize that he actually dose care. And how much he wants me in his life and how much he wants me in his. | Crushes |
I would never be interested in him in real life, but at work he is so intelligent and I am just really attracted to that. I know he is happily married and he and I would never get along in real life lol but I find myself thinking of him after talking with him and some times the way I speak may be flirtatious/creepy without the intention of it. For example saying I find his past interesting as it makes him who he is so I find it interesting. | Crushes |
There's a lonnnggg story behind this situation, so I'll break it down quickly:
Guy confessed to my freshman year, I accepted his feelings because I found his feelings to be honorable enough for a teenage boy. Quickly found out I had no interest and told him once already that I was just not ready for a relationship. In sophomore year, he tells me he couldn't stop thinking about me and really really really wants us to work out.
Out of guilt, I agree with him and trudge through months of unwanted attention and lies about how I really feel. I can't deal with it anymore, as I'm just seriously not attracted to this guy. There was a silver lining though-- that being me going off to college next year. Like, two years early. I won't be attending my high school anymore and I just won't have the time or patience to keep faking attraction and keep up our empty relationship. Please, if anyone knows a kind, appropriate way to tell him how I really feel, share please!!! | Crushes |
Last week I (18M) went for a drink with the boys and there was a cute waiter on who I have a crush on now. She laughed a lot and joked a little bit, but only to me and not to my friends so I guess that's a good sign? A couple days later I followed her on Instagram and she followed me back. And now my friends are pushing me to text her, but I'm always overthinking, what if she doesn't know me anymore? Isn't it weird I text her out of the blue? What does she think of me? What should I say? Etc. ...
Does anyone know what I could do? Or anyone with a simular situation that has a succes story :) ? | Crushes |
*Tldr: I fell for a girl who was in my class last year and don't know how to approach her without screwing up badly. This is my first time feeling like this so I feel completely lost and don't know what to do. I am also terribly scared about somehow messing it all up. What should I do ?* **More information below**
Ok so I basically fell for a girl I knew about 4-5 months ago, and it is my first time ever feeling such things so I feel completely lost. I feel as though I completely lost control over my own emotions and this making me so anxious, so I have finally decided to make a move. But I don't know what to do.
We used to be in the same class last year, and although I didn't pay a lot of attention to her, she had always been very friendly to me. That's how I came to know about her, and how I got her IG.
I don't how and why it all started, but this has been an extremely overwhelming experience for me. At first, my feelings for her were incredibly strong, and I would just feel my body freeze up completely and my brain shutting down for a few seconds at the sole sight of her, which very quickly proved to be extremely annoying, as it (obviously) deteriorated our relationship, since I just started ignoring her (although unwillingly). Despite that, I would still make an effort to fight that and approach her in order to not completely destroy the small friendship we had, although that was extremely hard, having to act under the tremendous weight of my feelings, and having no choice but to behave very awkwardly in her presence. I would also always feel different kinds of very strong and weird feelings of frustration, sadness, happiness, and a bunch of very weird stuff which I would have a pretty hard time describing, and would not be able to control them at all, each and every passing seconds of my days.
Now I managed to calm down a lot and tone down my feelings somehow, and thus decided to finally make a move. But I am still so scared. I don't know what to do, or how to approach her. I just absolutely don't want to screw up. I don't get to see her a lot, just a few times in the corridors of my school maybe once every week or two, and we don't even greet each other anymore.
I actually kind of dislike the fact that I feel such strong feelings about somebody I don't even know well, but that's also one of the reasons I want to get to know her better. So yeah I am basically just panicking because I am really new to all of this. So what do you guys think I should do ? | Crushes |
So for context there's this guy (K) and I gave him my number a while back and he messaged me and then asked for my snap. We've been talking through snap, but me and K haven't ever actually talked in real life. (we have a 51 day streak, and talk quite often) is there something I did/can do about it?? I've wanted to talk with him for like ever but I never get the chance to because we don't have any same classes and I'm just extremely nervous to all the time. I want to ask if he has a date to prom yet buuuuuuut we're obviously going to need to be talking in real like first lmao. (anything helps) | Crushes |
So said friend has in the past had many abusive relationships or just in general negative experiences with romantic relationships, I always try to help them when they’re struggling with anything, I’ve even helped them get with someone they liked, and they’ve said that they feel very safe and comfortable around me. That’s where the issue is, I’m good enough friends with them that I have a pretty solid feeling that if I told them this they would feel really betrayed. And because of the friendship, I care so much about them and would never want to hurt them in any way.
Honestly this was more that I just needed to vent, not looking for advice or anything. I think I’d rather stay friends than risk harming our (pretty strong) relationship | Crushes |
Basically I have a crush on this girl and we talk alot. But recently her and my best friend have started talking and from what I've seen he keeps hinting to her that he likes her even though he also tells me to ask her out and I'm really confused. | Crushes |
HE LIKES ME! HE ACTUALLY LIKES ME! I didn't even say anything he just told me himself! Omg omg omg omg omg omg omg | Crushes |
So a year back i worked in a restaurant, every saturday with the same guy. So one time he couldnt work so another girl worked for him and she was from sunday.
I thought she was pretty then but didnt give it much thought. So i saw her insta and i thought should i shoot my shot.
I dont have her on snap but could add her, should i do it and see how it goes and if so, how? | Crushes |
Okay so basically, after I was on call w him (J, the guy I was talking to) and our mutual friend (R), R started messaging me some like really sexual stuff about having sex with me and shit (we’re 14) and I was so confused cuz I couldn’t tell if it was some sick joke or if he was being Fr and shit.
I was responding with ‘aren’t you straight?’ (I’m a trans guy) and ‘you sure you aren’t tired?’ Basically hinting towards a ‘wtf are you on’ energy rather than an eager yes energy I’d say. My responses were never ‘yes’ to R’s statements which were like him trying to pressure me into saying yes.
Anyways after a bit I was like done w it so I didn’t message R for like a day or two because obviously I didn’t know how to think of this as because it was very confusing for me. I didn’t know how to say the words ‘no’ to this because I was afraid if I did, it’d make stuff really awkward because we’re part of a big friend group so I was trying to think abt it.
Like two days after this happened, I messaged R about it and was like ‘what were you thinking when you sent me that shit?’ And we had a small conversation abt it and stuff and then he told me that J set him up to do that as a ‘loyalty test’ which I didn’t pass because my exact words weren’t ‘no’.
I tried to explain my thought process to both of them but R told me I couldn’t mad at either of them. But I believe I can because they don’t know my history, they don’t know I’ve had horrid experiences with sexual stuff guys have done or said to me both irl and online and they should’ve thought abt what they were doing before they did it.
I thought it was over after that but nope. Because I’m assuming R told his older brother ‘P’ (a 17 year old might I add). I know that because the next day after I got home, our group chat was renamed to ‘{my name} is a ratchet hoe’ and mainly P, J, and R were like hardcore slut-shaming me for something I didn’t even do. Along with this girl who I barely even know. Mind you there’s like 20+ ppl in our gc.
My best friend in the gc had already left and they started shitting on her for absolutely no reason other than the fact that she was on my side.
I left after I read all the messages about me. I blocked R, J, and the girl (already blocked P before cuz he was already a jerk to me). A few of my friends reached out to me or I reached out to them and I gathered a solid 6 people on my side. So there were 7 of us in total. The rest of my friends either were too scared to speak up so they followed the leader or they already didn’t like me. (A few of the older members of our group already didn’t like me)
It’s been a few days and only one of our 7 is still in the old gc to keep us updated.
Anyways that’s what happened. | Crushes |
Hi again 👋 ,
it might help to check my last post for some context but a tldr is just that i have been trying to make it more and more clear that i have a crush on him and i wanted some tips.
we are on break right now and i was trying to find an excuse to text him and I did, we talked for a bit but he isnt the best texter. i dont mean that to say i dont like texting him bcs i do, and it doesnt bother me except i feel like he doesnt like me. i know for a fact that he doesnt text people often (he told me) and i am trying not to take it personally but its really hard. Any ways to tell if he likes you? | Crushes |
He liked me, he obviously did. There’s no way he didn’t after all that happened. I wasn’t just a normal friend to him, he treated me differently than he treated his other friends.
I’m so sad he stopped talking to me, I can’t possibly still like him but I want something like that back. I need a new crush to distract myself from this never ending longing for what him and I had. | Crushes |
It do be like that, sometimes | Crushes |
I asked him out back in October and found out the hard way that he has a gf. I’ve moved on since but the problem is that I have 5 periods with him now and can’t really avoid him. In one of my classes I talk to his friends since they sit in front of me but that means he also will sometimes sit there which is understandable. Anyways I won’t even be talking to him and he will try to speak to me and it’s just really odd. You’d think he would try to be avoiding me but nope the complete opposite. I’m aware that he is probably just trying to be polite but he doesn’t have to talk to me. He speaks to me more then his friends. Not only that but he offered me cinnamon toothpicks today because I mentioned that I liked cinnamon????? Am I just overthinking? Tbh this kinda makes me a bit mad I’d wish he would stop talking to me. I don’t like them anymore but it still hurts. | Crushes |
Old school help? | Crushes |
A bit of context
I've been talking with this girl online for about a year now and over time we've become pretty close friends, telling each other stuff we wouldn't tell to others.
I never talked to her with the intention of being romantically involved with her and I never tried to change that but over time I noticed that I started to like her more than just as a friend.
She always had a hard time with people online trying to "seduce" her, and the fact that she's kind and tries to help everyone by listening to their problems doesn't help since a lot of people mistake her kindness for romantic interest.
In the past 4 months, she started talking to this guy and she's told me that she likes him and I don't know what to feel.
Things started off simple, with them talking bit by bit and then talking more and more, but so far they have fought multiple times and every time she writes to me to vent.
I have never even thought of trying to sabotage their """relationship""" so I've always talked to her trying to understand the problems they had and it always came down to them not communicating with each other and him not wanting to meet her in person.
Eventually, it all imploded with them having a big fight and her trying to make him jealous by pretending to be interested in someone else (they are not together btw).
Despite all the problems I talked with her and helped her resolve the situation.
These past few days they have been talking nonstop and since she has to go visit her relatives in a nearby town she's going to meet him in person to see if they click.
I've been talking to this girl basically every day for the past year and lately, she's been talking to me just to complain or to ask for advice and honestly it's been kind of painful.
I do realize now that I have a crush on her and that I want her to be interested in me although I would never try anything, especially now that she's "involved" with someone else.
The thing that has been bugging me the most are the things she says to me sometimes like "I would be more relaxed If I had to meet you " and things like that. Over time I have noticed a few things that might be considered signals of interest but knowing myself I'm probably reading too much into stuff.
Realistically speaking I don't think they'll work out. They live too far away from each other and they are both stubborn and often fail to communicate but on the other side, they could very well work and be together.
I fear that I'm going to be forgotten and that I "threw away" my chance at someone else.
I don't like the way I'm feeling, it makes me feel pathetic and no different from the people she was getting annoyed by in the past.
sorry for this long rant, just wanted to vent a bit
if you have gone through something similar and have any sort of advice you're more than welcome to share | Crushes |
I’m m17 and my friend/crush is f16.
I used to and kinda still have a crush on this girl. But I know for a fact she dosen’t like me and she also is very good friends with me, I also wanna be good friends but a little of that crush is still there and it’s making me jealous when she hangs out with other people and stuff like that. I really more than anything just want the crush to go away and we just have a normal friendship but I can’t make it go away. I could use some advice :( | Crushes |
Luke if person A has a crush on person B, can person C tell (in some cases)? | Crushes |
There's a girl in my group of friends that I've liked for quite some time, the coolest girl I've ever met. She is sweet, cheerful and more congenial to me than anyone else. Last summer we got very close and I began to think that she had feelings for me, only to find out from a friend that she liked someone else instead, probably from her school. I felt very let down given the bond that had now been created (perhaps more from me than from her, but I didn't see it that way at the time) and it hurt even more to see her slowly become more and more cold and detached towards me. After two months she was still single and nothing more was known about the mysterious man, so I decided to confess. I knew it was the wrong time, but I was exhausted and wanted to just put the whole story to rest. Of course she rejected me. She was really nice and delicate and though a little vague she made her position clear but I'm stupid enough that after another four and a half months I still haven’t given up. We are still friends, but our relationship is not the same anymore. I think she sees me as immature and stupid and the worst thing is that I don't feel like blaming her for it. On the other hand though, I've been working a lot on myself lately and I'm convinced that if she tried to get to know me better she'll see that side of me that I'd really like to show her, which I haven't been able to do yet. This is because I can't find the occasion to have some alone time with her like the old days and I'm afraid to make any moves towards her. I know I should have given up a long time ago already but I can't do it without trying at least one more time, obviously without annoying her, because what I feel for her is too strong. I just want to know how to do it. Thanks in advance to anyone who reads, and I'd really appreciate any advice you have to give. Thank you all! :) | Crushes |
If you need a vent buddy, feel free to DM me. It can be positive or negative or even a long story or short, whatever. I may or may not be able to give good advice, but tbh I just need someone to talk to lol | Crushes |
I work with this guy who’s generally touchy and flirty with women. I noticed he’d always brush against me when he walked by. One day I had to get a ride home from him and he acted nervous the entire time. After that, he stopped brushing against me.
Then there was another situation where my boss had to set me up with a ride home from him. He agreed to it but he immediately starting acting nervous and was avoiding me. I ended up going with someone else (circumstances).
His behavior is so weird and I’m curious about how is behavior is seen from other perspectives.
Thanks! | Crushes |
is the name of a folder with screenshots I keep in my gallery.
He’s a guy I play PUBG Mobile with. We team up every now and again and he’s really good at the game and plays aggressively, and I just love following him around and watching him do his thing. It’s just hot AF. We’ve never used microphones, but we communicate in English using the chat function sometimes. When I updated the game and couldn’t play with him anymore due to incompatible versions, I sent him a message and he immediately went offline, updated, came back and invited me to team up. Almost like he waited to update so we could play together…orrrrrrr I might be reading too much into this. I have no idea who he is in real life and I don’t want to know either, but the excitement when I get team-up invites from him tells me that I have a tiny little crush on him. I needed to get drunk to work up the courage to send him a partner request and I was over the moon and beyond grateful when he accepted. He’s just fucking amazing. It’s such an honor to play with him by my side. I hope he’s proud of me on the rare occasions where I get MVP instead of him.
I’m not a fan of playing with randoms but to be honest, I’ve only started disliking playing with random teammates because he and I just have this insane rapport and we understand each other so well. This just cannot be replicated.
J, you’re the coolest. Thank you for trusting me enough to play duo vs. squad with you. Much love!
Take care, always😘 | Crushes |
I remember when I first realized I liked her but I wanna hear about you guys | Crushes |
Some of my other posts had a bit more context, but I met my online best friend 9 months ago. We are very close (we say I love you all the time and call each other soulmates, plus we talk about being roommates in the future) but I am worried about her. It is a little hard to explain, but she keeps trying to quit social media and she seems to be trying to totally isolate herself. For a while now, she has been saying she will quit all social media for 12 to 15 months. She has made a few different attempts, but she usually comes back after a couple of weeks at most because she says she feels lonely. She keeps deleting her social media too. She's deleted and made at least 5 different Snapchat and Discord accounts in just the past few months. She keeps telling me she is going to do a thing called "monk mode" and isolate herself for at least a year. She also keeps telling me we both need to "glow up". She says that she needs to work out and glow up so that we can meet up irl in the future and so that we can live happy together when we are roommates. I keep telling her she does not a glow up nor does she need to completely isolate herself but she insists. When she takes a break from her social media detox, she tells me she is lonely and depressed. She knows I believe she can do anything and she has my support 100%, but I am worried about the effect this is having on her. I love her and just want the best for her, but I feel terrible hearing she is lonely and depressed. | Crushes |
seems so small but OH MY GOOOOD
he hasn't looked at my stories since like last year so i figured he stopped looking at stories in general bc well... i don't look at them either so i understand😭 (i think they're annoying to look at sometimes so) BUT HE LOOKED AT MY STORY
sorry, anyways🧍♀️ | Crushes |
Hello guys i am from india and i work in a logistics company and my father is the boss of that company,actually I am having a crush on a guy who works in our office but we have never talked to each other.He only messages me when it's related to office works and we are not even friends with each other😭😭 i am very afraid to talk to him first because of my father being a boss in that company,i just see him in office and admire him. We are not even friends we are just a distant employees in that company.Please tell me how to make him his friend bow to start a conversation i don't want to embarrass him 😭😭 I'm h having crush on him i don't know how he will react. I'm really afraid 😳😭. Please advice | Crushes |
A little vent for what happened to me yesterday, so I was trying to talk to my crush and her friends since we were doing something for Easter but I barley talk to anyone from that group or her. I seen them since childhood but I never was hanging out or talking with them so I was mute and didn’t know what say since I’m sometimes socially awkward. I started to become slower (aka a retard) and did not know what I was actually doing since I was making so many mistakes but now I wish I had to confidence that I have now since yesterday I didn’t sleep so good (which was only 4 hours of sleep that I had) and that made me so tired and uncomfortable with myself. Note to self: do not sleep for only 4hrs. | Crushes |
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