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Alright so to start this off, I made a post on this Reddit about 8 months ago asking if I should give my (at the time) crush/classmate a portrait I drew of her.
I was hesitant to give it to her, because I was worried it would come off as creepy, but all the advice I received told me that I’m overthinking it and should just take the risk.
WELL LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, I did take the risk, I gave her the doodle(I’ll try to include a pic) I ran up behind her seat on the bus and said I was bored and class and drew her and have it to her. Fast forward after a 1 week holiday break, I see her at school and she hands me a piece of paper. I opened it up and it was a doodle she drew of me, with a note that said thanks for the drawing and for the next couple weeks we would pass each other doodles at school. After a while of passing doodles I eventually worked up the courage to actually SPEAK to her, and after talking about the music we liked, I asked her for her Snapchat. And to my surprise she actually gave it to me and we talked for about a month.
After about a month of getting to know this amazing girl, i asked her out on a date, on Valentine’s Day, The timing was perfect.
We spent the date in the woods at night by a campfire in the freezing cold, we had to cuddle to stay warm. We couldn’t “go inside” because we were both too socially awkward to take her to my dads home and have her meet him, so we stayed outside watching the stars until her grandma came to pick her up.
That date was nearly 6 months ago and since then, we’ve been dating and we recently graduated high-school. She’s literally the girl of my dreams and I still have no idea how I got her but I’m so glad I did. Some might think 6 months but in these 6 months we’ve grown so close, we recently took a trip to Las Vegas for a death core concert, even spent a whole month living together while my dad was in rehab, and we plan to share plenty more great experiences with each other. I love her so much and I’ll never stop. | Crushes |
I have a crush. Well, that's why I'm here. I've known her for around 3 years, more or less and I just can't stop thinking about her for the past few months. In most of the time that I've known her, she's really just been acquaintance, like most other girls I know. Then it just struck me, damn. I like her.
Thing is, I've thought I've had crushes in the past, guess I was just confused. I just said those were a crush, because I wanted to have a "crush", I guess. But now, I know what an actual crush feels like, I can't stop thinking about it. Listening to some love songs just hit me hard by itself.
Since in most of years I've known her, I barely talked to her, infact, never have I ever initiated a conversation with her, I was shy back then. Just some random kid.
Now, I just think I've got no chance, really do I? I'm not the smartest person, never talked to her much, and hell, I don't even know what some of the things that she likes are. Sometimes I see her interacting with other guys, and I just wish, that'd be me. She gave some gifts to other guys, just thinking about that, the chances I've got are slim, even if she likes a guy, chances are it's some other guy, not me.
I live in somewhat of a religious country, ever since I found out that I really really liked her, I've been trying to impress her, in just some way, any way. A lot of things I did, she was a part of the reason I did it, I wanted to do it, for her, just to get a good impression out of her, so she sees me as a good person, a good guy.
I don't know where to start, out of nowhere this guy that's known you for years just randomly starts talking to you a lot, even though before he's never talked to you? If I did that, would seem a bit weird. I often stare in her direction but with how our seats are, if she noticed me I'd just look like some creep. I just wish there were some signs, that just a little bit, that she likes me in any way.
I don't know how. How to move forward, without looking like some desperate guy, or a weirdo. | Crushes |
I’m super duper close to my sister, we absolutely do everything together. We tell everything to each other, she is my best friend. Although, she is more extroverted and i’m way too introverted.
I’m very loyal to who i have crush with, while she had several boyfriends in the past. I’ve never been into a relationship and she definitely knows that. Anyways, first I liked this guy for 4 years, start of freshman of high school. I told my sister about it and she started to catch feelings later. I was absolutely heartbroken but decided to give him up for her. I thought that would be it but it’s happening again :(
I told my sister I liked my coworker for a few months now, the things he does for me were so sweet and gentlemen. This is the first guy where we spend time together. I did stop liking him because of my friends liked him (they don’t anymore). So i regain my feelings again with him this summer. I told everything he does to me to my sister like what best friends do :)
I invited my sister to hang with him and I one time. I had to leave for work so they were just hanging out together which I wasn’t to worried because she KNOWS I like him :’)
Whatever happened when I was working, they were both flirting in front of me. He ignores me now and goes to her and these couple of days, been texting her a lot. Probably more than I ever had with him :(
I confront my sister about it and she said i’m just jealous and it’s a “me” problem. She invalidated my feelings and gaslight me. The argument didn’t go anywhere and I didn’t want to taint our relationship, so I just blamed everything on me :’) I really love self sabotaging myself :’(
Today, my sister told me he invited her to dinner (I thought she would yk, INVITE ME TO BC HE’s MY CRUSH??) but she didn’t mention anything.
Okay last thing, today she told me that she was going to study at a cafe and I didn’t think much. Until I realized how dressed up she was. Literally skirt and everything. I came home from work she wasn’t home. I texted her where was she and she was with my crush, alone. I’m absolutely devastated that I cried to our mom about it. She went to the beach, watched a movie, and ate dinner together and she didn’t tell me about it until I asked.
I am writing this as she and my crush are at a parking lot right now (life 360) and it’s 3am, she is still with him.
I feel betrayed, I am hurt, and no matter how many times I try confronting her on how I feel, she will point to me and says it’s jealousy.
I’m so hurt :( | Crushes |
why is he like this? i hate it. and its not mean in a flirty way. its like he’s purposely pushing me away. a few days ago it was going so well. | Crushes |
So the last two nights i slept with my crush, once art het place and once at a mutual friends place since he had a sleepover.
We were basically cuddling all the time and she was so funny and cute and it was so amazing. Now i feel lonely tho bc i cant see her today bc we both have to work and it makes me sad.
Still fucking excited bc I finally made my move by just cuddling with her after weeks of liking her.
(I dont know how to use flairs sk forgive me) | Crushes |
As the title says, my crush is taking the gift I made for him to college, which ofc is making me feel all stupidly special because he’s not taking a lot of things but wants to take my silly gift.
This is small, and honestly not even that much of a “signal”, but I’m still happy about it lol
(The gift represents an inside joke we have) | Crushes |
^^^ | Crushes |
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A few months ago my crush has been asking me to join her at her job and last week I got hired there. I thought it would be great, seeing my crush and talking to her in person and not over text everyday. Ever since I started she's been looking at me differently than she normally does; like she was kinda annoyed that I applied. She acted normal on my first day, she trained me and taught me the ropes but then after that she left me to do her own thing. The next day she was completely different, the only time she talks to me is at the end of the shift and it's to tell me that everything is clean and that we're ready to go. I'm not sure if it's something I did or said but she was never like this before I started working with her. If she didn't want me to join then why did she ask me to? I can tell something is up with her so I avoid her the best I can. She is different with other co-workers she laughs and jokes with them. The only reason I joined is because she asked me to. I don't think she actually wants me there | Crushes |
So last year there was this boy in my 5th period and he started looking at me and doing stuff like if he’ll like me and he did. And that was like in the beginning of the school year and now we were in the last couple of weeks left until school ended and he kept doing that I heard him say to his friend that he used to be obsessed with me and it was weird, he was also talking to a girl at that time and summer started so I obviously thought he would get over me since the girl he he was taking to are dating now so I had nothing to worry about anymore. The thing is she’s in 9th and he’s in 8th so they don’t go to the same school. And when school started I had no worry’s that he’ll still be looking at me but no I was wrong. He kept on looking at me still? Evan when he has a girl? Like what dose he want with me? What dose he want to get out of me?🤨 Today I passed him and I think I saw him smirking ? I’m not sure but we were really close to each other. It looks like he’s not trying to look a lot like last year but is making it pretty obvious. I just wanna know why he keeps on looking at me when he has a girl
? Idk what he wants out of me? I’ve also realized that he can’t make the first moves on girls he wants them to do it first and that’s where he’ll come in and do the rest. Please helpp with this I’m really confused on this kid. Today I saw his friend in my class Evan tho I didn’t know it was his friend. He started looking at me we made eye contact and when we got out of class I saw him go to the boy who’s been doing all of this I DIDNT KNOW THEY WERE FRIENDS?!! but anyways it looked like he was telling him something they were talking in secretly it was weird but am I overthinking it? Last year he told everyone that he liked me . His friends literally everyone and his friends were trying to Evan talk to me I feel like he wants them to talk to me so that’s how he’ll get to know me threw them . He’s scared to talk to me💀. | Crushes |
I honestly hate the fact that when I actually like someone they have something in there lives that makes me not able to ask them. Like in this case, there’s this girl that I’m talking to who I have 5 periods with. The problem is that she might have a boyfriend. Obviously if she does, I’ll respect her, I won’t ask her out. | Crushes |
2 hours long. We got a little personal, a little bit intimate, and set up a golf outing for the weekend. This time he called me 🥰 | Crushes |
This one's a little long, sorry.
So I'm 25, I would say my looks, smarts and accomplishments are average and I met this girl (26) who I really really like. She's so smart, interesting, funny and really beautiful.
We matched on Tinder like a couple years ago and I immediately thought she was a catfish cause she was way prettier than my usual matches, she looked smart and funny on top of that. We had a couple conversations but like most Tinder matches, it came to nothing and we stopped talking.
Fast forward a year after and she suddenly appears at the kickboxing gym I train at, she went there for a couple of months and I was surprised that she remembered me and started talking to me, even added me on IG without having any mutuals. During this time I remember her telling me that we should go for a beer sometime or her complimenting my body (sometimes during training I took my shirt off). At the moment I didn't "shoot my shot" with her because I was just starting another relationship. Months after that, she stopped training there and was in a relationship with another guy so I pretty much forgot about her and just stayed as a "what if" in my head.
A year after that, both relationships are over and we started talking and getting to know each other a little more. We even started taking portuguese classes online together so we text and talk on the phone a lot, either practicing or just talking nonsense. I think we both discovered that, as we suspected from the start, we have similar personalities, perspectives on life and sense of humor so we naturally get along. Also we both have suffered with mental health and have supported each other.
Here's the weird part: when we text we can send stupid memes to each other or talk about very deep personal stuff, stuff you wouldn't share with most people. When we do so, she seems genuinely interested, asks personal questions, seems attentive, replies fast and then... all of the sudden in mid conversation she stops replying, only to respond the next day with a meme or anything else. That's a common habit of hers and it's really confusing.
Although one day she sent me a tiktok explaining about how ppl with ADHD sometimes do that unintentionally bc they get so distracted, and the guy in the video said "send this to someone important in your life you wish understood this". Sometimes she says some really cute stuff to me too, like "I really think you are a good person and I admire you for it. I'm really happy to get to know you a little better". But still it is unclear to me if she says it as something you would say to a good friend.
We haven't seen each other in person for a while but she invited me to a hiking tour with a group to go looking for mushrooms (not the magic kind unfortunatel). I really like her and want to know if she likes me back bc I don't wanna fuck this up. If I'm misunderstanding this and she doesn't like me, I don't want her to stop talking to me and lose her as a friend too, the whole thing is really confusing and frustrating.
TL;DR
Hints that she likes me:
-we matched on Tinder 2 years ago
-She complimented me a year ago
-She said I'm a good person and admires me for it
Hints that she doesn't:
-She stops texting me in the middle of an important conversation
-Our conversations lately feel more like two good friends talking
-There hasn't been much flirting or dirty sexual jokes in our conversations
-I have complimented her looks and she has ignored it | Crushes |
i cane to the school last year 2021 and i saw an African boy and I ended up liking him later in the year .but then I noticed how he would like to get close with my friend rose I call her deedee he would be smiling when he talk to her and he would be rude to me at the last day of school I told the boy I liked him he said he didn’t like me and now he and my bestfriend are trying to talk to each other.I see how he would uplift my bestfriend in the Snapchat group chat and start telling me to leave the group chat when I try to talk to him 😕 | Crushes |
My recent post in here was throwing out the idea of asking my friend if he worked on anything currently with my crush at his job. (This being the job I was let go from in June. My crush and I worked on the same project, my friend on a different project. But I noticed my friend and my crush are connected on LinkedIn).
So an update- I asked my friend today if he currently works on anything with my crush and his response was just “we’ve met but no”. And that’s that. End of discussion.
I’m becoming more and more defeated in thinking anything will happen. I feel like I should throw in the towel. That’s that. Idk how else to reach him. I cleverly gave out my number and haven’t heard anything. My only route of communication with him is LinkedIn. Maybe that was it and all we were meant for is just being coworkers. | Crushes |
AAAAAAA
I JUST HAD THE BEST CONVO W/ MY CRUSH
me: Hi
her: Hi
me: Hru
her: Good wbu
me: Good, anything on ur mind?
her: Well I've kinda been thinking about you.
me: 😊
me: I've also been thinking about you a bit
her: I really like you [my name]
her: Like a lot
me: Thanks
me: Honestly I really like you too
her: 🙂
me: A while now
me: :)
her: Thanks
her: :)
WE ALREADY KNEW WE HAD MUTUAL FEELINGS BUT OMG :))))
Edit: Do you think I should say something like, "So we really like each other, do you wanna do anything about that? Or just be friends?" or should I not? | Crushes |
There is just something about you. The way that I always brighten up when you’re in the room. I can never be sad around you. You’re always making me laugh or listening to my dumb stories. I could talk for hours and you’d probably still listen. The way you act like you don’t care about things, but deep down I know you do. How you always push me to be a better person. That little smile that crept on your face when I was talking about getting better. How you know my flaws and anxieties, but you never make me feel bad about them. That one time at bdubs? Yeah when you knew I was anxious and actually tried to help me? Yeah I’ve never had anyone care like that before. I’ve never had feelings like these before. It’s like I care about you so much that I can’t bare to lose you, even if it means we stay friends for the rest of our lives. That if you were to find someone that truly made you happier than I ever could, I would be happy for you. You were so excited to show me the carrots your mom grew today, that made me happy. You make me happy.
It breaks my heart knowing you don’t feel the same. If you did it would be obvious. You would actually try. You would actually make an effort to care and compliment me. Why did you want to buy me shoes today? Why did you talk to me on the phone for an hour when I got ghosted and when I said nobody likes me you said people do like me. But then you changed the subject? Why do remember so much about me? Why why why why why.
Deep down I wish I could say my gut was right. That there is a reason you act this way? But I know it’s not true and it will never be true.
I can’t lose you. Even if that means I’m the one standing next to u at ur wedding instead of walking down the isle. I will keep this from you because I can’t ruin it. I can’t lose you. | Crushes |
Reading other posts makes me think that my problem's not THAT big but it feels like the end of the world could you help me?
I boy (18) am in love with what used to be my girl best friend (18), that now hates me. I arrived at my school in 10th grade and from the time I saw her, I knew I wanted nothing more than to be with her. She soon became my best friend. She was extremely pretty and during this time she would tell me about a lot of guys and I would feel kind of uncomfortable and bitter but I mean that's how it goes. I told her about people but it was never really serious since I wasn't really into the idea of being with anyone else but her. I compared others to her. I dated someone but I always liked her and never was able to get her out of my head. She'd tell me about guys some things a bit too personal and it hurt.
To make the long story short we talked all throughout the junior year, as friends, until at a party at the end of the school year we kissed. Always wanting to be with her I got excited but she told me it was to "strengthen our friendship", ouch but it was fine I didn't really mind. I invited her to my sister's wedding in the summer and we basically agreed we could give it a try.
Here's where it got to me. I had never really been very attractive, had braces, and wasn't great at talking to girls but for some reason. I wasn't ugly but was seen as cute (like small). I'm not really sure but I think at first we both said we didn't want anything serious. I think eventually she wanted to settle down and stop dating a lot of people but this time I kind of wanted to see something else. Not necessarily meet anyone else but wanted to explore something I never had. We became friends with benefits and became on and off quite a bit.
We talked about going to college in the same city in the U.S. and eventually, she couldn't. I see relationships as one person and once you commit there will be no need to break up. I wanted to be with her but with me leaving in six months didn't really see the purpose of us being boyfriend and girlfriend.
Eventually, she started seeing a guy and I saw them kiss and nothing hurt quite like that. So I began scheming. It has always been difficult for me to be without her. Talking to her every day and her cutting me off from one day to another kind of pissed me off. I felt kind of disposable but that's what I get I guess. Eventually, they fell off and I came back in. Throughout everything she did fucked up things to me I never really minded that much although now I see how they were serious. I idolized her and still do tbf.
It was basically dating her full on and I kind of obliged although I would leave in two months. I didn't really want to but it was that or not talk to her. I did it and then I messed up. Dating seriously, I made out with two girls, which she didn't know, I was with everybody but her at prom trying to avoid what I did. She cried most of the time in prom, and the next day learned about it, not through me and it became a shit show.
It changed my perspective on everything. I'm now staying in college in Mexico which I like to think is because of my own wishes but can't avoid thinking she might have had a huge influence on this. I see her most days now and said hi to her for the first time in two months. It was so cold for both of us that it really hurt.
She tells my friends that I'm done that it was a toxic cycle (true) and that she's moved on. I just can't believe she did and am willing to do anything to fix it and be with her for a long time. I just want to be with her.
Any advice on how I should approach or try to fix the situation? | Crushes |
and I’ve been in love with him for 2 1/2 years now. We met in a pretty simple way and we hung out often. Got along well, etc. Yk, the whole drill. Well one day we got in a fight. It was over something stupid, and it ended with “Then don’t text me” and “Okay, bye.” I didn’t expect it to end our friendship. Yeah we were just friends. Since then he saw me and acted like everything was fine. Didn’t talk for maybe a year and then I decided to add him on snap. He blocks me, then added me on my spam acc, then blocked me AGAIN. I texted him wondering what was up (also apologized for the whole…everything) and it was kind of a drawn out convo but he basically said (to the sc thing) “I don’t want you in my phone.” I don’t know what happened within the timeframe of our encounters. How am I supposed to move on? I’ve tried getting interested in other guys but that only provides a temporary solution. Thoughts? | Crushes |
I'm currently 27m. I have my GF of a few years but we had a very rocky start causing it to kinda affect the relationship despite still loving her. But very recently while I was scrolling Instagram one of my old middle school friends sent me an invite through mutual friends. So me being me I check out how they have been doing in their pictures and all that stuff and I check their following tab to check if I can find old friends and there popped up the middle school crush that I had for the three whole years I had middle school. I remember being super obsessed with her in middle school but not in a creepy af way Id would just always get goosebumps and butterflies in my stomach every time I would see her in my class or during recess but never had the guts to say anything because I was so insecure from name calling I would get for being kinda chubby so naturally it made me insecure to talk to her. I do remember one of my friends after I told them did one of those childish "ayy bro I told her you like her!" things and actually did it as she would stare at me a lot but she was super nice. So anyway cut to 2022 when I see her she looks super beautiful and for the first time in a very long time i felt butterflies again. IDK hope that's not weird. \*sigh\* anyone else been through this situation before? | Crushes |
1. How risky is it to ask my best [and i mean BEST] friend if they like me? I really don't want to lose our friendship, but I might've gotten a small-ish crush on them. If it's not too risky, I'll definitely wait until I'm for sure crushing, but still.
[2 & 3 are for if it's not risky and if I do have a crush on them]
2. I was hanging out with [best friend] a while ago, talking about how my body is, y'know, sh1tty and complimenting their body. Later they DMed me on TikTok[our only means of contact, which I recently lost] talking to me about the exact same thing but reverse. They wanted *my* body and said that *their* body wasn't good. Again, it was a while ago, but looking back at it, it looked really nice. Not quite flirtatious, but still like they had some[?] sort of interest in me? Of course, it still could've been friendly or even just expressing their true thoughts.
3. [Best friend] got out of a toxic relationship earlier this year and I'm wondering if it would still be too early to ask the question from q1. We've known each other since the beginning of this year and are really good friends,but I'm not sure if it's too early for them. They seem to be over it, acting the same way most people would [revenge, talking sh1t about him, etc.]. | Crushes |
Ok, so I've been working out at my local gym, and I feel like I've had feelings developed for multiple girls I see all at once, at the gym I go to. But there's this one girl that always stands out from the rest of them. I just get super nervous whenever she's around. Turns out, she's an employee at the gym and she works out there, too. She looks somewhat younger than me, could be around my age. I'm not assuming that she's already has a boyfriend or anything but she's just out of my league. She's also Asian, like me, she's a bit shorter than me. I always get nervous and freeze whenever I see her. I kinda wanna gather my courage, walk up to her, and talk, but that seems impossible. What should I do? | Crushes |
So I had my freshmen orientation. I was talking to this girl from my old school but she ghosted me so I moved on. But when I was put in my groups I saw this beautiful girl with dirty blonde hair and a knitted sweater. She had a pretty face and I can’t just get how pretty she is out of my mind. When I was waiting to get my picture we had a conversation. We continued it when we got our chrome books. One of the staff was handing pan flips of a event at school. She didn’t get one so I just told her “you want to read mine?” She said “yes thank you!” We continued our conversation and then we left to lunch. I’ll see her again but I’ll try flirting with her and just being a gentleman to her. | Crushes |
I know this girl for about two weeks, because of the class we went together, and she really got my atention. She is not just super pretty, but everything she says is cool, and she is also really joyfull and sweet. I mean, I'm not the master of socialysing, but it's surprizingly easy to talk to her, and I could listen to her for hours during a conversation.
I know we are not that close but, if I don't move fast, someone else might do it (our class has literally 40 mans and 5 womans), so I'll ask her out in the first oportunity I have. Deep down I wish I could wait for longer just to enjoy her company a little bit more, cause if she says no for me, things would get a little bit akward and we will propably stop talking. Anyway, I think that might be a good shot. Wish me luck! | Crushes |
Anyone here admires their crushes and watch them from afar? | Crushes |
So I (M 17 about to turn 18) is crushing on my co worker (F 19) she's all I think about she's given me some hints that I thought I read correctly but now I don't know. She once said she would love to go bowling so I shot my shot and she said she was down. Fast forward a little bit I asked her if she was wanting to go bowling Saturday night and she was busy with her sister witch was fine. An hour later i get a text saying she's down to go bowling but she said and I quote " also quick thing, it's a hangout right?" So I thought I lowkey kinda got friend zoned either way we didn't go bowling and her sister did end up showing up, fast forward another week and me and my friend were messing around and it's the homie so things got a little sus. Anyways he was basically air grinding on me and my crush said to my friend " damn I like your taste in men" and walked away.
Later when I wasn't around my friend asked her to elaborate on what she said and basically said how all her boyfriends cheated on her and shit and he asker her if she was jealous of him grinding on me and my friend said she basically turned away and said no and walked away.
I'm confused and I don't know what to do if I should just wait and chill and see if something happens or should I continue to try and get closer with her? | Crushes |
For me personally: Led to some group hangouts/first dates. No official relationship yet though.
What are your rodeos with asking someone out? | Crushes |
My understanding is that men crush more often than women and for a longer period of time. What is your strategy dealing with crushes?
I've noticed that men don't care if the whole world notices their crush, yet they won't tell their crush.
Do you wait for a sign from the woman?
Do you ride crushes until they pass?
I want to act like men when it comes to crushes lol because my strategy hasn't proven success. | Crushes |
Just wondering what everyone else’s mindset is on having sexual thoughts or fantasizing about their crush. Personally, I don’t I’d want her to know how I feel, which falls in the area of sexual thoughts which would 100% make her uncomfortable and I don’t like making anyone uncomfortable. So what are your thoughts on this? | Crushes |
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I really admire this guy that I work with. Well, I guess I could say that I have a slight crush. I’m 18, and he’s 20. He’s nice but treats me as if I’m way younger and a dumb teen. Why? | Crushes |
So I like this girl and I got her number and she’s really nice and we have good conversations in person, but over text I always have to start convos and I don’t want to be annoying. That and at summer I liked this girl but she found me annoying and clingy so I’m kinda second guessing everything I do. | Crushes |
My crush asked me if I wanted to hang out this week and we hang out sometimes because we're friends but he asked me to go to the movies with him Saturday night and he's driving me and stuff but he did not pay for my ticket and I don't think it's a date but I'm not sure and I don't know if he likes me. Help lol | Crushes |
Ok so at first I had a crush on this boy and he broke my heart like so much. We're still friends and I don't want to lose him and he doesn't even know how much he broke my heart. The worst unrequited love I ever experienced and I experienced a bunch. But this girl I knew since since we were 6 ( we were neighbors and we'd go to each other's houses and get rides from each other's parents and stuff) and she started talking to me again and Idk she gives me so much attention and I think I like her bc every time she texts me , I smile. AND SHE'S NICE, AND BEAUTIFUL, AND VERY FUNNY. Like she met my whole family and she's the only friend who has ever met my grandma before she passed away like if my grandma never introduced us I probably wouldn't have talked to her. I want to take it slow tho bc i don't want to jump into a relationship when I just got my heart broken and also I don't want to break her heart either by dumb actions so I'll just wait to see if she'll make the first move. But her nickname for me is "Beautiful". I love when she randomly compliments me. she says i'm her only friend BUT THAT MEANS I CAN HAVE HER ALL TO MYSELF. But yeah I think about her all the time and we called each other on the phone yesterday and she is really cute and giggly. We were talking about our aspirations. She said we should hang out and she remembered my bday and said she'll pay if we go somewhere! i always want to pay for her. ALSO SHE TOLD ME THAT I MAKE HER DAY BETTER JUST BY TEXTING HER AND I REALLY FEEL LIKE THAT BITCH. she boosts my confidence lol and feeds my ego | Crushes |
It seems as though she likes sitting beside me and finding random stuff to talk to me. But unfortunately I don't reciprocate her feelings :/ What do I do now? | Crushes |
I have known this girl since the winter time. She worked with my friends on a video project and had a boyfriend throughout it. We have since then finished the video and she broke up with her bf. I then hung out with her and some other friends that worked with us and I caught myself catching feelings.
Idk what to do cause the more I think about it, the more I wanna pursue. But the fact that she is semi close to my friend group and she will be working with us again on another project.
I’m just in a fog because part of me feels like she has no feelings in return. She never messages me I’m always the one to engage first.
Happy to hear thoughts. | Crushes |
I complimented her on a recent change she has made to herself and she responded with 💞, does it mean anything? | Crushes |
not gonna lie he has a superiority complex and its super annoying sometimes.. he loves to talk down on a lot of things or people and im kinda done with it. also yesterday i got really upset at him while we were in a groupcall, so he took me aside to a different call to make sure i was fine and cleared things up. that was a nice moment to know he wanted to be forgiven.. but overall idk if i can keep putting up with this | Crushes |
So this girl i’ve been talking to for a bit started talking to me about the gym today. She’s a massive gym girl so I kind of started going to the gym. Today I sent her a pic of my back just showing it for a reference for what i was starting with. This then spurred on a big conversation about the gym, which gym i prefer etc. Then we talk about powerlifting cause thats what she does. I said i didn’t really bother with the whole squatting part cause I wasn’t very comfortable with it and I felt like I would just land on my arse. She is now offering to meet up to go to the gym and show me how to squat properly. Is this good? | Crushes |
I'm taking a 5-week summer class right now on campus and there's this guy that I have a crush on. We've only talked once but lately, we've been having eye contact pretty often where one of us looks away immediately when we do. I also notice that there's this weird tension or something when we're around each other and I can tell he's aware of it. I really don't want to think much of this but something happened today that got me thinking a bit. For the first two weeks of class, I was always parking on the other side of the campus and would go the opposite way of everyone after the class ends. I realized a few days ago that I should just park where everyone else in the class parks since it's a lot closer, and I did so for the first time yesterday. The guy always parks his car on the left side of the lot since it's closer to where the class meets. But today, he parked just a few spots away from my car--on the far right side of the lot because no one else parks there--not on the usual area where he always parks besides other cars. There were still a lot of available spots when he arrived but he chose to park close to where my car is. And when the class ended, I was too nervous to look directly at him but he kind of waited inside his car until I was also ready to drive away since I was cleaning one side of my windshield. I feel like he lingers around me a lot and sometimes wants to try to talk but is also just too shy like I am. I want to see what happens next week and if he does that again, I plan on just going for it and finally approach him. Sorry if that was confusing to read lol but I'm curious what other people think. | Crushes |
He finally responded to my email! We have tried to plan a good meet up spot. I am going to confess! Any tips? | Crushes |
So I had a crush on this girl for about 7 months now. We spent a lot of time together in the last month studying together in the library. But now she only texts or calls me if she has some favours to ask. She never initiates any conversation or plans any hangout. It's just so disappointing to see all the time I spent with her materialized into nothing. *Deep sigh*. | Crushes |
Like the title says | Crushes |
I'm very nervous | Crushes |
I’m so sad/mad tbh. I really wanted at least one with her. That’s all I asked for. But no :(
Couldn’t even get that… | Crushes |
So me and my best friend are like super close, and so far she doesn’t know I have a huge crush on her, I’m 13F and she’s 13, turning 14 I think maybe. She always makes like sexual jokes and stuff and calls me mommy, but she does that with a lot of people so idk. She’s straight too, at least as far as I know. Whenever we’re on call they last a long time, only hanging up if one of us needs to go do something like get in the shower or whatever, and she even sometimes changes in front of camera (not like naked that’s a bit weird even if she had a crush, but like changing shirts or whatever yk? I’ve heard a lot of girls do that tho) and since we’re super close, it’s hard to tell if it’s just a friend ship or not, and she talks ab talking to this one boy and that they might be going out soon on a date, so rn I doubt she likes me back, but I’d at least like another opinion please and thank you :) | Crushes |
So my crush is my Best friend, and basically my only friend. We are both 13, I turned 13 this year, and this weekend (it is Thursday for me) she turns 14 I think. I have a huge crush on her, but I don’t have the guts to tell her. She’s straight and I’m Bi, and a girl so she wouldn’t date me, but it hurts to see her and just not be able to let her know. Last time she had a close friend have a crush on her they stopped talking when they admitted to her, I don’t want the same to happen but I can’t just sit here. I told her that I had a crush on someone, thinking that it might help me get the balls to tell her how I feel but it didn’t, it just made it worse bc now she’s asking who and I’m to fucking scared. How can i tell her, bc I still wanna be friends even if she doesn’t like me back.. | Crushes |
What are some quirks/habits/features that make you feel giddy or that you really like of your crush | Crushes |
Recently i developed a crush for one the best friends of a girl friend of mine. This mutual friend is trying to let me know her more but i've always had some serious anxiety when dealing with a crush. It's not like i can't talk to them, but i overthink everything and think that they are way out of my league. She is as old as me and has never been in a relationship because she is waiting for the right guy and this puts a lot of pressure on me. I've actually had the chance to talk to her for a while and she seems like a nice girl but our mutual friend told me that she has a crush on a guy. They are not dating or texting each other but she likes him. Now i am overthinking everything and i don't think she'll ever look at me in that way. The problem is that i feel like this only when i'm alone. When i'm with her i just try to talk to her, make her smile and be the best version of myself. But my anxiety is eating me up from inside. Our mutual friend told me that i should give it try cause i can never know what she feels and that i shouldn't be overthinking, but the truth is that i am really scared and this is physically hurting me. I wanna try and i feel like doing it, but this anxiety is making my life a nightmare. What should i do? | Crushes |
So my crush and I are getting lunch together on Saturday and that’s when I plan to ask them out. I wanted to do it after organizing a picnic for when we decided we were going to paint stones together but I don’t have the money to organize everything until I get paid next week so change of plans. I’m really anxious, but super excited to finally be able to meet up this summer and to be able to ask them out. | Crushes |
Every time I show my crush to someone, friend or family member they always say negative this, his nose is to pointy, he has dropy eyes, he looks like this and that ... They say negative things but I acknowledge those "flaws" and he is still attractive to my eyes , while my social circle says I could do better :/
While this upsets me ,I know that everyone has different tastes and values... Do you have similar experiences?
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Hello people,
I wanted to ask your opinion about something happened in my life.
I started working at a school back in September,and I met with another teacher. From the first day he asked me out. Yes, I think it was already creepy and I refused it in a kind way. After a while, I thought he is interested in me as I hardly get attention from boys, I thought so. Then by time, I developed feelings for him and I confessed. The day I confessed him, he told me that he feels so lucky that a beautiful woman like me likes him plus he's so happy. But he told me that he has some problems in his life so he doesn't know when he can be ready for a relationship but he doesn't want to lose me and stay friends. So I accepted.
For 3 months I didn't take a step to him instead I waited from him and he started to approached me in a really sincere way and once he again asked me if I'm available at the weekend but then messaged me then he needs to heal a little bit more as he lost his dad after a week I confessed my feelings to him. I was like ok, he was really going through a hard time and I thought I should wait. And once suddenly for a week he started to send me beautiful posts on Instagram I was very very happy because I thought he wants to take a step further. But then, suddenly he stopped doing it and I was deeply depressed. I waited for another week , we were still good at work but no msgs. So it really affected me in a bad way and I messaged him that I want to stop even saying hi to him as I can't go on this way. Then he didn't reply to my messages at all only a week after he started to saying me hi and that was it, no more actions. For 2 months, he stayed away from me and I got more sad and one day I messaged him again to fix things and I said I want to be normal with him like in the old days. He told me that he hopes that I view him only as a colleague. I was heartbroken but I was like ok, if he doesn't want I can't do anything and I started to ignore him completely.
Then, suddenly he started to message me on Instagram sending me memes , vídeos etc. I didn't understand what was going on as he told me that he's a colleague for me. But I was happy with his existence and messages so I stayed silent and I thought maybe he wants to make a move. On Valentine's Day he sent me a video that no-one would send it to a friend. I was extremely hopeful but no action came after that. And I asked him if he only likes my attention. He didn't give me clear answer but during this texting period for 2 months he told me really nice things about my personality.He always left open door saying things like yes I'm not ready now but I don't know what will happen in the future. So he always gave me hopes and I waited. He was generally mentioning his problems in his life but i don't know the content. One day he told me he can't take any step further to me because of my family. He thinks that my parents won't accept him due to the cultural difference between us.I told him everything that I could tell to relieve him but he didn't give me any answer and I told him I don't think he's the right one for me and I felt like he's playing with my emotions by explaining why he makes me feel this way.
After this incident, I again started to ignore him and one night he messaged me again and at the end of talk I told him that he only texts me as he's afraid to lose my attention. And he told me if this is the thing I understand he won't message me again and I told him that I don't want to lose him and no answer again.
After this message, he was so nice to me at work again and then schools were closed. Last week I came across with him on the bus and he obviously ran away from me, didn't talk to me at all. I didn't understand anything and I was so sad. I messaged him what's wrong and he told me lie telling that he didn't see me. So somehow, the topic came to my feelings again and he told me that the whole thing was about he can't choose anyone who's working at the same place with him plus it's a feeling.
I gave some examples to him that his actions proved otherwise and his words and actions never match.
No answer.
Instead he told me that he was very clear since the very beginning that he can't go on with me and I was shocked.I didn't mention you many things above as my msg is already so long but he gave me hopes. People were aware around me as well. I deleted him from everywhere and I'm going really through a hard time and idk how to overcome and I sometimes blame myself thinking if I really did sth wrong.
I had no bad intentions, my feelings were pure.
😔😔😔 | Crushes |
I (14 y.o. girl) have been hanging out with my sister's (25) and brother in law's (23) friends.
The girl I am talking about is 18 to 19 and the guy we both have a crush on is 20 to 21.
I am not a very sentimental person but when I fall in love or start liking something I do it with my whole soul and heart.
I have pretty much in common with this guy (Andrei) who has a lot if common sense and is hard working (he is a student and a accountant). We both enjoy reading, listening to music we are both Sagittarius (he is older than me with 6 years and 7 days) and we are getting along pretty well.
Andrei is taller than me (I am 5'6 or 7), he is blonde, has blue eyes, well built (I love him).
But the thing is that despite the age difference I don't know if he likes me bc he is very nice to me and smiles at me all the time and there is also Catalina (the girl) and she likes him for a longer time and today they have kissed on the lips. (Man, Catalina is right next to me while I'm writing this).
And I wanted to ask you if you could help me get over this handsome man. | Crushes |
So we know each other for over 2 years. A year ago we used to talk a lot and I fell in love, we actually could meet, but she was already taken back then. I confessed, we remained good friends, she often reminds me that she likes really likes me, but we dont talk that much anymore. it often takes days until she responds. So now she is actually single again, her bf broke recently up, and I dont really know what to do. I still have feelings for her, we still like each other and are good friends, she also said that she thinks we match quite well (but that was christmas so also some time ago), but as I said we dont talk that much anymore (which breaks me mentally). Should I try again to approach her and how fast should I do it, I mean I dont want the same situation again but on ther side, she is just single for two weeks. It would be nice if I coukd talk to her again much more, but I dont know how to. | Crushes |
So I have a crush. I’ve known them for the last 2 months and we hung out almost everyday for the last month as we have been in an internship together. Within the past months I felt a connection.
Now…Tomorrows the end of my internship and I don’t know what I should do. I looked on YouTube to see if I should just tell him that I like him or ask him to hang out and then ask him out after hanging out alone a few times but after looking at a number of videos I don’t know what I should do.
When I was younger I just told the person out front that I liked them. Now idk if I should do that.
Can I have some advice💖 | Crushes |
I made a post a few hours ago, but I used to hang out with this girl frequently and now she never really replies or hangs out. I asked her today she said she’s suprised I put up with her not replying and says she really wants to hang out but her sleep schedule is horrible right now. Man I just wanna see her 🥲 | Crushes |
A bit of context:
Tomorrow will be the last day of college semester and my group of friends (which includes my crush) decided to just spend the time together. We haven't really thought out about what to do but the point is we should have a good time together. Hence why I don't think confessing tomorrow would be a good idea (I wouldn't like to just pull her out for that and possibly have an awkward time for the rest of our last day).
I thought about asking her out for an ice cream or something during vacations (maybe next week) and confessing there, what do you think? | Crushes |
It's not just the nurse-patient relationship. He's probably too old, from his perspective at least. I'm 20, he's around 35-45. To be honest, I personally wouldn't mind a dif like him. There's just so many things that curb all possibility, like of course! But I've gotten to a point where I begin to forget he is unobtainable. What do I do with these feelings? I don't want to try to forget the crush as it just feels so nice but I also know it's a possibility. I draw and write a lot but
... I don't know actually How to use thosw skills to alleviate the desperation. Do you have any ideas? Like what am I supposed to draw or write about it? That's what people always say, channel it in art but what does that even mean? What does it look like?
I really really like him, I'm oh, sooo attracted to him. For clarity I'm really gay btw. | Crushes |
So I’m having trouble picking out somewhere to go for a little date/hangout. It’s the first time in months since I’ve went out with my crush/best friend, because we stopped talking early June. 🫰🫰We hung out 1o1 before, but since it’s been really long, we’re trying to hangout with our mutuals as a group first.
The group (not including him) knows that I like him) and they want to go somewhere fun, that gives them the opportunity to push us closer to each other 😮💨😮💨 but I’m not sure where would be a good place to do that…
I really want this day to be memorable and fun but idk where to go.. and we’re all teens so maybe somewhere that’s not too pricey??
Please help 🙁🙁 | Crushes |
So today we were in a VC together. Everything was fun, until she suddenly made a groaning noise.
That really awakened something in me.
I feel like I that shouldn’t have happened. | Crushes |
Like i will tell her that i think that a girl likes me(which is the truth) | Crushes |
Just started talking to a girl on Saturday and we both seemed like we connected well with each other. I met her on Tinder and she’s the first girl I thought I wanted to go on a real date with rather than just another one night stand.
After we connected on tinder for a few days I eventually got her number and we started talking about what we were doing in life. I told her since I was a kid I’ve always wanted to be in the military and eventually be apart of the GRS in the CIA. She said that it was really cool but said she was a little controversial about the military but could see why it would be beneficial. She asked me another question about what the GRS was and I responded to her and haven’t gotten a response yet. Going from texting every twenty minutes to nothing in days.
She did say she was on a plane before I explained to her what I wanted to do was because she got back to me late that day. And I want to think she is just busy and on vacation but this has happened to me before where I tell someone what I’ve wanted to do and then I just get ghosted as soon as I say military. She just seemed so interested and I felt really connected to her. I just need someone to tell me if I’m stressin and she’s just busy or if she got spooked and dipped. Thanks:) | Crushes |
Yeah so there is this really cute girl in our class who is nerdy and every boy likes her it's my first and last year in this school so I didnt bother talking to her in the first place cause I didnt like her exactly back then and wanted to focus on studies
But suddenly she starts texting me about watching kdrama together n stuff I didnt get the clue back then but she was being clingyish and I was caught up with my life
A month passes by my partner and she had a fight and then our school announced that summer vacations are starting from tomorrow she started spamming my dms about the fight n stuff and I helped her out and made my partner say sorry in a day since it was his mistake ,problem solved took 1 day of my vacation but I could go to sleep for the rest
Now things go weird from here cause I start getting around 400 messages from her which were really silly like how she is hungry ,she accidentally broke a glass and then talking with me for hours on really stupid stuff like this on daily basis 👨🦼
With a gm and gn text
At this point i was kinda annoyed by it but also started finding it cute in a way ,now she is the kind of girl who has really strict asian parents who will throw her out even if they get to know she is talking to a boy
A month passes she starts messaging me less n less
Vacations over we had never had a convo irl so we did that I made her laugh so much that day but then our classmates started shipping us
They shipped us alot cause we used to talk alot irl (that lasted for 4 days)
She cant handle the awkwardness or that's what she told me she said "I dont want people to think weirdly about me" we stopped talking irl
And only once or twice a week in chat
Another month passes
Now she even stopped replying to my message for some reason been like 19 days since we last had a chat
Been asking myself questions like did she like me or was it just as a friend and if she did why she stopped replying
Did I mess up-? idk
And idk what to do now either | Crushes |
My crush is a dense idiot 😒
He keeps complimenting me and making jokes like "omg dAtE mE" whenever I show him a picture of my face. But then, he drops a bombshell saying he liked a different girl (who didn't like him back and he got rejected btw). He said he still likes her in some way. But when I ask him his type, he says that I "fill in most of his standards". I honestly don't know if this guy likes me or not. Also, I kept hinting at him that the boy I like is him, but I don't think he gets it. He is so frustrating sometimes.
also do u know he cant understand a candice joke | Crushes |
I (24f) had a crush on a guy (25m) back in school for years. I confessed to him and he rejected me but he was really nice about it and from that day on we talked a lot more. I wouldn't say we were friends but we had known each other since first grade and I always felt we got along really well. After school i didn't see him again for 6 years so I moved on.
It's been about 2 weeks now since my school reunion and I met him there. First thing he came to me and my friends and we talked a bit. When he smiled at me, I swear to god, that was the most beautiful smile I've ever seen. It really made my heart jump and I had to catch my breath. So I got his number and days later I messaged him. We chatted a bit, I went on vacation and when I came back a few days ago I asked him on a date. Sadly he said no. He can't make it before he moves away next week.
He wants to move to a big city hours away from here to study. It sounded like he's considering to come back when he's done but who knows. So now I'm torn. Being single has been more and more frustrating to me and even though I really dislike online dating I have seriously considered it. Maybe it just isn't meant to be, he'll probably find a girlfriend there and I should move on again. I don't even know if he'd be romantically interested in me. Or maybe I shouldn't give up. I've been wanting to work in that same city for a while now and he'd be the only one there I know. So that could be a great opportunity to get to know him better. Maybe I should stop focussing on being single, make it my (long term) goal to get a job there and to get to know him better and see what happens. It might not work out with him but then at least I tried. And I'd love to work there either way.
What do you think?
TLDR: I met my crush from years ago again but he'll move to a far away city to study soon. I want to work in that same city if I can but should I give up on him or take this as an opportunity and make him my long term goal? | Crushes |
I haven’t seen her since I graduated high school, and I haven’t crushed on her for over 10 years now. I wasn’t even in middle school yet. She was my first-ever real crush. She is still pretty from what I can see on Instagram, but I have no feelings for her.
It was the weirdest thing though, I saw her in a dream last night, and she confessed that she liked me before walking out of wherever we were. This immediately tipped me off that it was a dream, actually. (No, I can’t lucid dream.) But I still wanted to talk to her, even though I have someone else on my heart now. It feels weird, the fact that it was her, even if it was a dream.
I never did find her.
I don’t know, can any of you think of any possible meanings?
In any case, I hope this can happen with my current one, though. I’m closer than ever, but it’ll still be some time before I can (or should) do anything. | Crushes |
I am such a simp but idfc | Crushes |
He called me baby girl (not in a cringey way) but he has left me on read for I think 2 weeks. | Crushes |
During the last few months she had used two of the photos I have taken of her as WhatsApp profile picture (in fact she has one of them right now).
I know that most certainly it doesn’t mean anything, especially considering that, without wanting to brag, I take very good photos xD. But every time I see her using them I get goose bumps!🖤 | Crushes |
Ok I wasn't sure if they liked me or not but HOLY CRUD I WAS BLIND. I READ THE BIRTHDAY CARD THEY MADE ME 3 MONTHS AGO AND OMG IT HAD 4 SIGNS IN IT BRUH. Let me write down what she put in the card word for word.
Happy Birthday,
You are a super good "Friend" I wish you the nest birthday ever. You are the nicest most funny most thoughtful and smart boy I've ever met. You are super sweet kind and passionate. You buy me stuff even though I wish you wouldn't sometimes. I hope you have an amazing birthday ever and have many, many more after that!
P.S I'm glad *my old teachers name* sat us next to each other!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
BTW There we HEARTS drawn in the card AND SHE PUT HEARTS INSTEAD OF THE DOT ON THE LETTER i IN THE WORD FRIEND AND ON THE WORDS WHERE SHE COMPLIMENTED ME!!!!!!!
I know I was SUPER BLIND! I re read the card earlier and now I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT IT! ALL OF THE THINGS SHE HAS DONE! SHE HAS BEEN WAITING AND IDK HOW I DIDNT SEE IT THE HEARTS AND CRUD!!!!!!!
HOW DO I TELL HER I LIKE HER!??????? | Crushes |
(Alt because my main account is associated with my discord and twitch)
So I have been “jokingly” flirting with my crush, and he has been doing the same. Our jokes are along the lines of “hey sexy ;)” “hey bb ;)” and stuff like that. A lot of jokes along the sexual line. Now I’m definitely into him, but I don’t know if he just sees it as joking??? The biggest example I have needs some background. We are small twitch streamers and I own this lore based SMP. All you need to know is our characters would never interact in a romantic way in canon. When we were talking about that I said “I guess we just got to settle for irl then ;)” and then he said “TRUE. So valid of you.” Sometimes we just casually talk about how we should have our characters, if we ever join another SMP together, be boyfriends. I also once listed all the things I said I found attractive about him and he said he got flustered. We even have our own channel in my SMP’s discord to flirt. Like part of me thinks he feels the same but my self doubt is like: “no, he’s just joking.” So idk what do y’all think??? | Crushes |
this is definitely what crushing feels like. feeling all the highs and especially all the lows.
anyways, some nights we have no interaction at all, sometimes its just a “gn” or other times its a longer gn message with my name in it. you know when u can just differentiate the vibes? yeah.
bottom line is, i dont think he likes me in that way. however, he usually texts me first to ask things or say watever ( i usually dont text first because i get nervous that ima get ignored or say some worthless thing )
the wild thing is that i moved on from him before for many months, until i saw him again. idk why but, feelings just flared up again, probably stronger than before.(and i hate it) | Crushes |
He suddenly won’t let me hug him anymore, especially in a car (to say goodbye). Does it mean it’s hopeless? He hugs other people.
EDIT: yep, rejected me. | Crushes |
She appeared to be different, a bit. Not much had changed. She looked sad and quite possibly, depressed? Not sure how to say this but I'd never seen her that disappointed before. Now I can't stop thinking about my old crush. Should I check up on her and ask her what's up? | Crushes |
For me, it was when we were watching cherry blossoms together. We were joking around and I noticed that his smile was sweeter than how I remembered it to be. | Crushes |
WE LIKE EACHOTHER!!! BUT WE ARE BOTH TO SCARED TO ASK EACHOTHER OUT!! TIPS?? PLEASEEEEEE! | Crushes |
My crush and I have known each other since 9th grade because of marching band. We have never really been close friends, but at the same time we’re definitely more than acquaintances, we follow each other on Instagram and say hi whenever we would see each other in the hallways stuff like that, although that didn’t happen too often because we had zero classes together(and the only time we did it was during online school during sophomore year). But then again we don’t know that much about each other on a personal level. We’re seniors now and I haven’t had feelings for anyone for probably since beginning of junior year. I kinda started to develop a crush toward the end of junior year, but mainly within the last month toward the end of summer when we started doing stuff for band and talking again(since we rarely interacted outside of band). What should I do? I think I def want to take these feelings and act on them if you know what I mean but have ZERO CLUE how to do so😭🙏 | Crushes |
She told me that she shares the same feelings but she doesn’t want to date anyone until she’s older. Should I stay around and wait for her? Or should I move on? I’m not so sure on what to do. Any advice are welcomed, thanks | Crushes |
I've been talking to a girl off and on that, I have a crush on, through text/social media. Sometimes she responds right away, sometimes hours later, or she just doesn't respond at all. She messages me first sometimes on social media, but it's usually replying to stories I post sometimes she does send me random snapchats.
I've texted her a few times in the past few weeks, and she's been more responsive than in the past, but I'm always the one who initiates the conversation. Should I keep texting her if she never texts first or should I just stop and see if she'd reach out?
I want to ask her to hang out but we're not close distance-wise, I'll be in her area in a month or so, but it's not something I can do right now. | Crushes |
I’m a 24 year old girl and I am so so scared to tell this guy I like him. Long story short he’s on the more socially awkward side, whereas I’m on the extremely extroverted side, and I literally cannot get rid of my crush on him. It’s been a year now and I constantly try and convince myself I’m not into it, and then every time we hang out I feel like I’m in middle-school again. I like him so much as a friend that I fear ruining the friendship, so if I confess I also wouldn’t mind just continuing to be his friend if he were to reject me but I’m nervous he would treat me different. I of course would never pressure him into anything, but I guess could anyone give me some words of wisdom or advice as to what they did when confessing to their crushes. Just thinking about confessing makes me feel like throwing up and I get light-headed and I don’t think anyone has ever made me this nervous before | Crushes |
So I (18m) have been crushing on this girl (17f) for a couple of weeks whenever she came to my work to order. I finally asked her for her snap and we hit it off for the first few days. Now it’s a bit different. She takes a whole day to respond sometimes but she posts on her story all the time. Is she doing this in purpose or does she not remember? It’s really affecting my mood wondering about these little things. | Crushes |
I(14m) have liked her(14m) for about two years. I’m really bad at reading signs but I thought that she might like me so last November I worked up the courage to tell her that I liked her and she said that she didn’t like me but she was really nice about it and hasn’t mentioned it since. We’ve been good friends since and now I like her again and I’m getting some of the same kind of signs as before. I don’t know if they mean anything or if I’m just having a lot of wishful thinking. We’re supposed to meet up together soon with a couple of friends and this is where I don’t know what
to do. I want to ask her out then but if she says no then she’ll probably think that I’m weird for asking her out twice and it might ruin our friendship which would suck because she’s one of the only people I genuinely enjoy being around. Because of this I kind of want to ask one of my friends who knows us better what I should do but I have a feeling they might like her too and that would be super awkward if they did. So I really don’t know what to do. If you have any ideas or advice I’d really appreciate it. Feel free to ask me any questions or dm me | Crushes |
My crush might be stay in canada 😭 for the rest of her life, her school start this aug 20 if she will stay here and she is really close enough to her bf schools. | Crushes |
So today was the first day of school and I shared one class with her and we sat facing each other but didn't say a thing to each other and I kinda just tried to not make eye contact and it was awkward tbh. Before she was showing kinda mix singles like I been messaging her on Instagram and sometimes she responses right away and she liked one of my post but most of the time she takes forever to respond and hasn't followed me back. About a hour ago I told her I had a crush on her and just waiting and I have to go to sleep in a few minutes so I guess I might find out tomorrow morning what she thinks if she actually responds | Crushes |
So I have this boy in one of my class and he seems like a cool person. Ik I bit about him (information given by mutual friends), and Ik he at least knows my name. I don’t really like him yet I feel like I haven’t gotten to that level yet but I do find him attractive. But I won’t lie I think he’s out of my league not just looks wise he’s a pretty outgoing person too. And well I just don’t think he’ll ever see me in that light. But anyways my mutual friends tell me he isn’t out if my league but I can’t help but think I am. She’s telling me that I should follow him and she what goes in from there. But I think it’s a bit weird to follow someone you just met especially if they didn’t give it to you. But at the same time I don’t want to wait to long to follow him and he’ll be either talking to someone or with someone. I have no idea what to do. | Crushes |
I’ve been dying to let her know how I feel, but I don’t think I can do it. It’s not completely from a lack of confidence or nervousness, it’s because of her situation.
She’s been having a lot of people harass her because of her looks, people saying they’d want to do very inappropriate things to her. Real screwed up stuff, along with some kid saying he’s in love with her and she barely knows him. I’ve known her for a while, but with all this stuff going on with her, I don’t think it’s the right time to tell her how I feel and that I honest to god love her and that she makes me incredibly happy to be around. It just seems like it would be screwed up to tell her I really like her while some people are talking about her sexually, someone is telling her they love her, and she also just got off a short and sad “relationship” with someone who stood her up on their 2nd date and was only using her to have fun.
It’s frustrating too. I just want to tell her how I feel but I would feel like that would just make her uncomfortable and annoyed due to the crap going on in her life. Idk what to do honestly. | Crushes |
A couple of days ago I caught my gym crush staring at me through the mirror and he looked away quickly, then down, and made an affiliative smile at the ground.
I was like fuck it I’m going to say hi. So I walked up to him while he was on break and said, “Hi! Sorry I always see you here at the gym and was curious what your name was?” He smiled and said, “I’m X”. I didn’t realize how attractive he was up-close and I completely lost my cool and couldn’t stop blushing or hold eye contact so I immediately looked down then up and smiled and I forgot to say my name and he asked, “What’s your name?” and I said, “I’m Y”.
I didn’t know whether to shake hands or elbow tap so I awkwardly tried to elbow tap then he pulled out his hand for a handshake and after I shook his hand I immediately just walked out the room while looking down and smiling.
Today I was hoping to talk to him but all I did was wave hi. He seems like a shy guy in general but I don’t know if today he just did not want to talk to me because of my awkward introduction? Did I fuck up? :( | Crushes |
I don’t know how I feel rn?? I don’t know if I’m really over him bc everytime I say I’m over him I always find myself squealing over his texts, thinking abt him, smiling over his voice, basically all the stuff I would do if I was madly inlove. So for context, he has a gf, who was my previous best friend. I cut her off bc it hurt too much and I was generally not happy w myself but that doesn’t include my ‘crush’. So I have this gc with some of our mates and online were me, him, his bsf and our other friend who we’ll call Andrew. Andrew recently confessed to a girl and he started talking abt how he can’t date her bc she lives too far and doesn’t have any contacts. My crush, who’s called Owen, starting cursing him out as a joke. For context, they do some type of minor military programme and Owen started saying Andrew had to buy stuff from the naafi (it’s a shop thing idk). Owen made a bet that if Andrew ever does get a gf he gets free naafi. Owen then says “okay if I ever get a gf then you’ll get free naafi” which was funny bc he basically has a girl. And then he went on some religious rant abt if he was to enter heaven he would be in awe of his wife for 40 years? Idk when he was describing how excited he was to get married n shit I kinda just had a realisation. Like a random click in the head? That this boy will never be mines; especially since we’re both of different religious orientations. And now when I think of him, I don’t get excited, like at all. Maybe it’s bc it’s nearing 3am and I’m running on cheesecake but it feels like he’s never even existed to me. Does anyone know why I’m feeling like this? Have I just given up over the course of him dating his gf? | Crushes |
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I'm back at school the only class I see her in is my last I can't stop thinking about her... I emailed her to ask to hangout I don't know if that was a good idea, it will probably messed up my chances I really hope she sees it tho | Crushes |
Starting off with this new thing I wanna do to help people get through tough times with their crush, is a fun saying I like.
If you got rejected or you broke up with your crush/SO, the good news is that there will always be someone new out there for you.
“Sometimes you think the world revolves around one person, but then you meet somebody new” - Daniel LaRusso
Hang in there, have a great day and I hope this little message helps someone even a little. | Crushes |
I just found out last night we had mutual feelings and now we are dating (IM SO HAPPY SAHSHSHSHSH) so AMA anything about here cause yes. | Crushes |
im positive she likes me and i dont feel the same, unprovoked shes been sending me pics of her in her bra and asking me to rate other girls and rate her out of 10, every morning i wake up to at least 5 messages from her and when we meet in person the only joke she ever makes is jokes about my dick or how small it is and shes been touching or holding my hand given the chance
what is the best way to imply that i dont feel the same because i dont want to hurt her feelings? thanks | Crushes |
I think it started around feb 15th, but there's no telling. Anyway, boohoo. Six months. Ugh. (light-hearted, of course.) | Crushes |
I have a crush on my BFF but she has a crush on someone else idk what to do halp me | Crushes |
She is so damn cute I don't know how to tell her that I like her because her parents are really strict and don't allow her to have a phone until she's 15.help | Crushes |
So I have a few crushes rn, my biggest one tho is on a guy I work with. I have no clue if he likes me, he jokes around with me a lot. Today made me think maybe he did but I'm still not sure. He showed me a Tiktok of someone dancing and was trying to get me to do it (nothing bad, just messing around) and I was embarrassed but I did it. I'm not a great dancer, he showed me the video and I was like "it's so bad," and he said it was good, and we argued like that for maybe five minutes then ended up laughing. I usually buy him snacks or drinks if I go to the store, and I've seen him look at me a few times but he could just be being observant. Any advice or can anyone tell from this if he does or not? | Crushes |
This one girl that I liked was showing lots of signs of also liking me back. Turns out it was her friends pulling strings from behind the scenes, making it seem that way when in reality she doesn't like me at all. My friend told me that this girl's friend was laughing while explaining to him it was all just a sick joke, and showed no signs of remorse. Worst part is, I thought she was also a friend too. I usually don't get too emotional about things but this one hit me like a truck. Feeling so confused, betrayed, and sad right now... | Crushes |
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Funny story, he cut his hair and I barely recognized him at first, but I just can't help but admire his beauty. I would like to talk to him more; whenever I get the chance I will do so, so I can be around him more and be able to admire him even more | Crushes |
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