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i refuse to believe they were only pretending to like me. maybe im just delusional. they gave me all the signs, they confessed to me, we dated, but apparently according to my friend he personally told her that he never liked me.
i’ve been thinking about it so much that im fantasizing about them telling me they lied about it just to fuck with us.
he hasnt said a single fucking word to me since he never personally said anything to give me closure i dont know how he feels | Crushes |
As the title says there are two girls that I like, both of whom I am very good friends with and I'm sorta conflicted as to what to do. It's kind of a long story so sorry in advance.
The first girl, let's call her IC, is the one I liked first. I met her last year and she's amazing. This year in particular, I had the chance to become really good friends with her, as we were both on our school's academic decathlon team.
Now for the second girl, let's call her H. I've known H since the eight grade. When I first met her, I immediately knew that she was cool and I wanted to be friends. Luckily she was already friends with one of my friends and he had added her to our discord group. Over the next year or so, we talked here and there and became decent acquaintances and she became an integral part of our close friend group. Towards the end of last school year however, is when we began to get really close. She was the person I confided in about IC and she helped me find the courage to start talking to IC in the first place. Around the same time, H started dating another one of my friends, who is also apart of the friend group. Now fast forward to December of this year, she starts having trouble with the aforementioned guy. She doesn't like him the way she used to and she doesn't want to be with him. However, she doesn't want to leave him and hurt him and make things awkward within the friend group. She told me that sometimes she doesn't want guys to chase after her, and that sometimes she just wants a friend. She starts telling me this and I try my best to be there for her.
It was also around this time that we had our area decathlon meet. One of our team members decided to drop out like the dick that he was and we needed a replacement day of. Luckily H stepped in and joined our team, though she wasn't able to compete that day due to how late it was. The day of the meet goes really well. I have some good moments with IC, I share my pizza with her and we all had ice cream together. It was all great, but deep down inside feelings began to change. Fast forward to the end of January, the region meet is coming up. A couple of days before this, the topic of prom came up between me, IC, and IC's friend. They ask me if I'm going with H, a question to which I am taken aback. Up until then I had never thought of her like that, and it confused me, but then again, I am really close with her and they always see me in the hallway with her. Of course I tell them no, but that question stirred something in me, a feeling that sometimes came up, but that I had always forced down so that I wouldn't have to confront it.
The day of the region meet comes, we load up onto the bus, and I feel sick to the stomach for reasons unknown. I hadn't felt that way on previous meets, but for some reason I felt nervous. The competition goes well and we get to the awards. We ultimately had our ass kicked by some other nerd school, but we got fourth place out of 11 so there was some consolation there. But I didn't care about any of that, because as we were sitting and waiting for our names to not be called out, H rests her head on my shoulder and suddenly everything made sense in a horrific way. I rested my head on her head as i came to terms with feelings that I had buried deep within, and as we left on that bus, dejected and defeated, I sat on the seat across from her, seeing her in a way that I had previously tried not to. I tried listening to music to distract myself, but daft punk's "game of love" doesn't help when your trying not to think about that. Since that day, I've just tried to be there for her as a friend and help her get through her own problems with Mr. Wrong.
Anyway, now that your hopefully up to speed, I hope that maybe you guys can help. I'm conflicted and confused and completely aware that all of this sounds fake, but please believe me. I don't want to be another friend who ends up chasing H. I can't hurt her like that. As for the other girl, I think I've already figured out how I feel about IC, and that's just being friends right now. I still like her, just not as much as H right now, which sucks. I just don't know how to feel or what to feel or if I'm even allowed to feel.
If anyone has any advice please feel free to share. | Crushes |
So there's this person at work (20M) that I've (25F) been getting some vibe off from since we met. I've always thought he's quite cute but wouldn't speak to him much since our shifts don't match very often plus it takes me some time to warm up to people.
For a couple months now though, I've felt as if he's been looking over my way (one time he looked at me with puppy eyes as he was waving goodbye lol which I thought was super cute) and trying to start conversation much more frequently, usually greeting me when I'm about to leave and tryna make some small talk here and there. I've also noticed some days if he arrives to work after me and our shifts match, he'd park his car next to mine and we'd end up walking together when work's done.
He's also opened up a bit to me and vented a little about some minor struggles he's had or small instances where he's gotten nervous.
Today was an interesting day as we had some food over at work, we went to get some drinks and cups nearby and were deciding if we should get forks to which we concluded they'd include with the order, but I also mentioned that if the restaurant didn't give enough forks for everyone and gave chopsticks I'd be fine using those (it's not very common that people here know how to use chopsticks). Turns out he went pick up the order and brought enough forks for everyone else and two pairs of chopsticks which we both ended up using.
Anyway, those are the main things I've been noticing lately. Sometimes I feel if we're both left alone speaking it might get a little tense, but maybe I'm reading too much into it and AFAIK he's single so everything's good on that side, though he gets along really really well with another female coworker, they both tease each other quite a bit and seem much more comfortable with one another rather than when he's interacting with me.
Sorry for the rambling, and thank you very much for reading this far | Crushes |
Me and this girl don’t know each other but we’ve seen each other around at school, the one and only time we talk to each other when she randomly said hi 2 me. Now I wanna make a move but I’m so nervous to say anything so I want advice how I got up 2 her and get her number | Crushes |
As I have successfully asked her out, now I need some advice. I've only taken one women out and I messed it up. Please give me some advice how to proceed. I'm just 18 so nooo quick or fast moves. I want to take it slow. Thankss | Crushes |
I share a business class in high school with this guy that i like. He sits at the back of the class and i sit at the front. In this class we never get up or do presentations so there is no reason for me to speak with him. My crush is friends with this guy who happens to be my friend, but if i ask him anything he will get suspicious. How do i become friends with him? | Crushes |
I'm me (23) and him (24) are studying at a b-school together. we got in touch last November. **We're gonna go for our summer breaks in less than a week.**
**Why I think he might like me-**
\-he tells me deeply personal stuff about himself unprompted (and for context, he's quite introverted)
\-invited me to dinner once
\-he lingers around me?
\-he LOWKEY compliments me
\-he apologises when he replies late or stuff like that (generally ppl in this campus dont do that)
**Why I think he doesn't like me-**
\-while he holds amazing conversations, 70% of our conversations are started by me
\-I asked him to help me with an exam. he helped with one of the exams, but the next one he "forgot" twice (in his defence he had a lot of stuff going on, legit - but I still think he could've carved out the time if he really liked me)
P.S. I have a huge crush on him, if that wasn't already apparent. And I'm afraid that it is clouding my judgement.
P.P.S. Any suggestions as to what I should do would be welcome | Crushes |
there’s this girl I work w/ & she’s like amazing. not typically a girl i’d go for but simply for the fact i’ve not met anyone like her & then gotten to know her a bit. outside of work I essentially have no friends & get pretty lonely from time to time. but when i get lucky enough to work w/ her for a few hours, it’s like nothing else in the world matters. she makes me extremely happy when we speak, & she’s a great storyteller, even when her stories are about insane exes that completely fumbled her. i don’t know how to express to her that i think she’s really special. partially because she has a boyfriend, but mainly because she makes me unnaturally nervous. i guess the boyfriend thing is more than enough to even stop thinking of pursuing her, but she doesn’t mention him much & he even lives in another state so I assume she may not be entirely attached emotionally. nevertheless, she’s quitting her job & moving away soon & I don’t know if it’s a good idea to express my feelings to her. i could be gently rejected, or we could lose the friendship dynamic altogether. she’s the only person i think about & i just feel so overwhelmed when i’m not around her. not sure how to proceed, any advice? | Crushes |
My friend set me up with her coworker. We really hit it off. We talked for two hours, shared dessert, and even planned a next date in the parking lot (while standing in the pouring down rain). It was a blind date, too! The moral of the story is to trust your friends' judgment. Hopefully, it continues to go well. 🤞 He texted my friend to tell her I'm cute and we both showed up in plaid like the good little Midwesterners we are. 🙃 So, I guess I found a new crush. | Crushes |
How do I talk to him? I swear he always talks to everyone around me but me😭. We’ve been working at the same place for a while now and have only spoken a few times on work related stuff. But other than that…nada.
It doesn’t help that I’m shy lol | Crushes |
I’ve never really had a crush before, which is weird since i’m a high school student. I’ve never made any moves on anyone, this is literally my first time actually crushing on a guy..and i definitely need some direction LMAO.
I’d like to think he likes me back, and I really want to talk to him more. I enjoy when we do talk, but I found that we only talk about school or stuff we know we actually have in common. I never have any excuses to text him because we only ever talk about school. I just don’t understand how I can branch out and speak more with him if that’s our only conversation topic. He would definitely get suspicious if I suddenly just started asking questions to him out of the blue though.
How do I begin to talk to him about other things? We’re both very awkward and I really don’t want to make it that way LOL. HELP☹️☹️ | Crushes |
There is an unwritten girl code in our school, it's "If it is known a girl has a crush on a certain guy, we will put some distance between the guys." It's always been like this because we know how it feels to have someone interrupting your love life. So, we put distance between guys with who our friends have a crush and especially if he is someone's boyfriend. But there is one girl who I'm going to call A, who doesn't respect this. Like when I was dating my crush for a while, she was extra clingy with him. She would hug him, stand very close to him and even get so close to his face. It pissed me off and what's worse is that she is like one of those legit 'one of the guys' kind of girl. A is every guy's best friend, and she gets especially close to them when they have a girlfriend. It not only makes me feel pissed but every other girl.
I have a guy best friend too and when he had a girlfriend for a while, I put some distance. I stopped hugging him a lot and even sat a little further away from him. Because it worries the partner if they are too close to the opposite gender. It's understandable. It's not that hard to respect someone's relationship and to understand that this girl/guy is on a level as they are dating. It's so annoying. Anyways, A is moving to another city, and I hope I never see her again. | Crushes |
In class today, while we were waiting up for our friend, my crush was telling me how much he wants his own pet puppy. He told me that he likes small, cute dogs which he can hold easily. He was basically fanboying about different breeds. Now I am very scared of dogs. Being near one scared the shit out of me. But hearing him talk so passionately about them, makes me want to invest in a whole shelter for him. I can learn to love them!! I'll buy him all puppies in the world! My first thought, while he was talking to me was, "This boy shall have ALL THE CUTEST PUPPIES!" | Crushes |
I've been on a couple dates now with a guy that's been my friends for years and he's a really nice guy. Conversations are great and he is really respectful but I'm not sure if I'm physically attracted to him.
I don't know if I'm just self sabotaging or is it normal to feel like this? Please help :( | Crushes |
We text all the time, and it's usually at night, but we never really say goodnight.
Today he told be he was going to bed and told me goodnight, i said it back obvi.
I'm just sitting here smiling lol. | Crushes |
This is more like a vent but I’m also sorta looking for advice?
I met this girl and we have known eachother for around two months now. We dont talk very often, but when we do we have a lot of fun.
She is more of the calm and thoughtful type, whereas I’m more talkative and impulsive. Which made our duo fun and interesting.
From the beginning, I found her cute. And as our friendship progressed I found our personality’s complimented eachother. But I didn’t really see her as a YET crush if that makes sense..
Recently she’s confessed to loving me. Yes, not having a crush on me. LOVING me. Obviously, I was very flattered but I was left speechless as we haven’t even known eachother for a year. I later told her I don’t have a crush on her and stupidly left it at that. I was planning to give more communication as to why but chickened out and I deeply regret it.
We havent talked since, it’s been dead silent.
I’m still very conflicted… I see something that could’ve been in the far future but how do I explore that now? I messed up. | Crushes |
I think i might be, i just want to know the signs. Basically i think i might be because he is really inconsistent and i know he played this girl before on purpose and lead her on but i also know he’s liked me in the past but I’m not too sure | Crushes |
Ive been waiting for this crush i have on someone to fade so i can just see them as a friend but my feelings keep getting stronger. Its been almost 6 months | Crushes |
Hi I'm 18 male, last year of highschool. I have been talking extensively with a girl in my class for the past year. We started talking after we were forced to for a group project and then we just hit it off since. Every few days we would text with each other and even occasionally make calls. As the relationship developed, we started getting more comfortable with each other, and I even started developing a crush on her. This would continue until January of this year were she stopped all contact with me for no reason, i.e we went from a lot of texting every few days to non in 2 months. This, to my shock, coincided with her starting a tinder account. Which she said to me (at school) gave her a lot of confidence when it comes to guys and dating, since her account was bombarded with matches. Now my question is, have I lost all my chances with her and should move on? Or should I break the silence with her to make her know that I'm still available. Be brutally honest! | Crushes |
So about 4 days ago I messaged my crush just by replying to his story and we have been talking ever since then. However it’s just me that keeps asking him questions to keep the conversation alive. I don’t want to give up since I really like him but I’m worried I may come across as desperate. What should I do? Is he just trying to be polite and not say no I am not interested. | Crushes |
She's agreed to come round mine to watch a film
Sorry that is all I just need to tell someone about it | Crushes |
I started to talk to her on instagram and like went on and eventually asked her if she would come for walks and strolls again like we used to have earlier ( because of exams we stopped in December itself ) at first she said I'll be free almost then when asked would she come she said maybe I have some family plans too .
Guys did I messed up something or it's my overthinking n anxiety kicking pls help me out in here
How can I know whether she likes me or not | Crushes |
Ima be 100% honest, in early September I got rejected by a girl I was courting since April, I wasn’t tight or upset about it, I just said “alright that’s fine” and I kept it pushin, and we remained friends and she’d still text first sometimes, fast forward to 2023, probably like early February, in this time I completed many goals of mine since I stopped focusing on girls and started focusing on myself, but in the midst of it I noticed that she didn’t text first as much anymore, and when I hit her up about something that happened she responded maybe a day later and it was extremely dry, of course I’m over her but I won’t lie that shit kinda hurt since I liked our friendship even tho I ain’t want it to be one, I’m not saying any of this to dissuade y’all from asking out your crush, if anything I think the risk is very much worth it, but that’s really just my experience with it. | Crushes |
So recently I’ve been talking to this guy and becoming friends with him. However, I noticed that whenever I talk to him he always says things like “I know how much you love me” or “whenever you feel sad, just think of me” or “when you see me tomorrow you’ll be thinking how hot that guy is.” He also said it in front of his friend one time and he (the friend) was very confused . Whatever I think he’s a flirt but can’t say for sure if he does this to other girls | Crushes |
My crush will randomly appear in my dreams and in my dreams my crush and I are very close friends. Every now and then we are in a familiar setting too. These tend to be the dreams I remember when I wake up too. | Crushes |
Tbh I don’t really take that well to rejections, the worst why is through a friend ;/ | Crushes |
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literally 15 minutes after they broke up with me they did it too help 💀 | Crushes |
It's been 4 months since I met a girl, my crush. 2/3 weeks after we met we went for lunch. From then on we were never together again. But the issue is that there are weeks when they don't talk and there are weeks when they talk 3/4 times a day on Instagram.
We were never together again because we each live in a different city and the school is in the city in between. We're shy and we already know that's why we don't talk at school. Arranging something outside of school is tricky because of time and transportation.
But I'm fed up, I feel like I'm wasting time...
She also doesn't go on her cell phone much and doesn't always answer me on Instagram because she doesn't always go there at a time for that.
I think on WatsApp she responds more and faster but I don't know how to ask, any ideas?
Also, I would like to know the tips you can give me so that I can get closer to her, I enjoyed spending a day with her but I don't think it's time, I don't even know how I was going to invite her. | Crushes |
what do I do? I'm going out for the day with some people and he's coming with us in the car, kinda nervous tbh, what if I have to sit next to him 😭 | Crushes |
10ish day's ago I posted a story about a waiter in my favorite cafe and we got together he got out of the hospital on Monday and we were hanging out the whole week in that cafe and on Tuesday night we texted and one thing led to another and we confessed to each other and on Wednesday (woman's day) we saw each other again and he walked me home that night again and then kissed me when we got to my street and we were literally kissing for at least 5 minutes in the middle of my street (thankfully not many cars pass through my street) ps. If I have some writing errors English isn't my first language | Crushes |
Like 3 days ago I added her on Snapchat and she added me back but we haven’t messaged each other anything yet
We have never had a conversation outside of class and even in class it’s only been a couple but the interactions and conversations were all nice and positive but i don’t know what to say to her to start a conversation I want to get to know her better | Crushes |
Back in December I told a girl I liked how I felt. We’ll call her Nya. I got friendzoned, and moved on. We don’t talk as much as we used to, and I think I’ve caused that. Then I developed a crush on one of my closest friends. We’ll call her Delila. I always went to Delila, to get advice on my crush on Nya back then. She was always interested and invested. After I got rejected I realized wsh at I was looking for was right under my nose the whole time. Then one of my friends tells his crush how he feels. They haven’t talked since, and probably ruined there friendship. Here’s the problem. I slipped up, and accidentally told Delila that I had a crush. She immediately gets curious, and asks questions. At some point she asks: “it isn’t me is it” and then gave a reason why she thinks that it’s her. I sent a shrug emoji to say: “ok, I guess” in the sense that was fine evidence, but it wasn’t enough. She of course thinks I mean: I don’t know. Then she texts that she’s afraid that it’s her. Until then I thought I had shot with her, but then realized that she isn’t interested. I know that I’ll probably have to tell her at some point, but I’m scared. I REALLY don’t want to mess up our friendship. But she keeps asking for hints, and I’ve already given a few. But then I lied about it not being her. Now she wants specific hints. But I can’t start giving her them, then she’ll figure it out. Please God someone help me, I’m so lost. | Crushes |
I know my crush has hurt herself in the past and I can’t help but feel that if I did the same and she realised, she’d like me more cuz she could relate to me. I know it’s unhealthy but I can’t stop my thoughts. Doesn’t help that I had these thoughts before knowing her, she just amplified it.
Any advice on stopping these thoughts? | Crushes |
I hardly have any dreams with my crush but I just want to so baddd
I’ve tried tons of techniques to dream about her but it just never happens | Crushes |
tl;dr: girl wanted to get to know me. we talk but she takes hours to reply (and, ngl, i also did until today), how can this be improved? | Crushes |
Next week I'm going to watch scream six with my crush, we are friends and I was wondering if there was any advice people had on stuff I should do while we are there | Crushes |
she looked so cute hehe. she wore it because she was cold but this sweater is not THAT good at keeping warm so i felt kinda bad. shouldve worn another one today i guess haha! | Crushes |
Can anyone help me with giving a confession to my crush that I haven’t talked to in over a year. Anything will do at this point. | Crushes |
So I think I'm in love with my best friend. We've known each other since we were in the 6th grade, and we're currently in the 11th. I wasn't really sure of my orientation, and I've recently figured out that I'm bi. I've had like- 2 boyfriends before this but I never liked anyone as much as I did her, but I just figured that was cuz we were best friends and it was normal. And then she dated within our friendgroup, and they had a messy breakup a few days ago. She's told me before during a casual convo (while she was dating someone from the friend group) that she liked me in the 7th and 8th grade but I gave off 'I'm not into you' vibes (her words, not mine) and she said she got over it, but also she said that she'd never date me since I'm her best friend and she can't afford to lose me, so I obviously couldn't tell her that I liked her. Also after both of our previous experiences, neither one of us wants to date before college. But she's the one exception I'm always willing to make.
Now since they've broken up, I was considering telling her that I like her, but she needs time to heal and I know that..... I was wondering whether I should tell her that I like her, and if I do tell her, when should I do it. | Crushes |
So I (19F) have liked him (19M) for around two years now. We're a part of a bigger friend group and he only recently started spending more time with the group. I'd like to believe we have gotten closer because he has been joking around with me more and asking me about my future career goals and the like.
But I know he isn't looking for a relationship because he is very busy with school, work, and just life. I am content with being friends right now and waiting until he is emotionally available for a relationship to make any moves and confess. But some friends keep telling me to move on because I am wasting my time on a person who isn't interested in me. Other friends are encouraging me to make a move sooner just to get closure, or stating that it might end in something other than rejection.
I am very introverted so simply putting effort into becoming closer friends with him took all my courage. If I were to confess, I feel like it would ruin the friendship we have and make things awkward for our mutual friends in the group. But at the same time, is living with this crush for who knows how long, weird? Many people tell me that "there's plenty of fish in the sea", but even after meeting so many different people, this is the second crush I've had in my life. If I were to just move on, I think it would take a really long time.
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tldr; should I keep waiting for my crush who doesn't want a relationship right now or confess sooner? | Crushes |
Okay so, yesterday as my class was just about to leave English, some girl from another class barge into the room, comes towards me and says how some girl from her class liked me. I felt my heart the moment that girl said that to me. I was so confused on what happened and since then all I could think of is that moment. I don’t really believe it because I don't even know her at all, plus if we using the fact we don't know each other, I'm not an attractive person (so I **have** to trust my personality to get with a girl). So I'm overall confused about this. I told my friends this and one of them said the same thing happened to him and another friend said I could have a shot.
I don't even know what to do now. Part of me says to ask that girl if it's true so I can mark it as a solved question early on. Or I could just leave it alone and never pay attention and leave it as a mystery. I don't know what to do. I'm just confused on what even happened yesterday. | Crushes |
A bit of a cheesy rant but have to let it out. We only got together a few days ago but we've been really good friends for a few months. She made me guess a girl who had a crush on me who wasn't real to somehow figure out who I was into. Ends up we were into each other. Anyways I love every single thing about her. I don't care for her flaws at all she's genuinely such a sweet, kind, and light-hearted person. She has this gorgeous face I just can't get out of my head no matter how hard I try. She likes me for me which is really rare and I like her for her. She makes my heart melt every time we talk or laugh about something. When I'm not thinking about her we're either talking to each other on facetime or through text. She makes me feel like I am worth something which I'm really thankful for.
I love her (and her dog, Honey who also melts my heart) :)
tl;dr | Crushes |
Okay long story short, I've been talking to my crush for bout a month now, we are from the same high school, different grade. I haven't spoken to him in person coz vacations are going on rn. So my exams are ending on 21st March and I'm planning to confess or ask him out that day but idk what to say. I don’t wanna sound cheesy or say something like I like you, more of like let's get to know eachother. Just something suttle yet he gets to know I'm interested
Also side note he is confusing, I'm not sure if he likes me back our not, I'm not even sure if imma confess, I just don't wanna get rejected | Crushes |
I seem to always suspect someone likes me as my first instinct. I don't know why. Maybe it's because hardly anyone ever talked to me when I was younger, so now that people do, I instantly jump to the conclusion that they like me. I know I'm being very irrational and I hate it, it's all a subconscious thing so I feel as if can't really do much to stop it. Maybe I'm just not used to people being friendly with me and so when people are, I get the wrong idea. Either that or I'm just attention starved, which is also quite likely tbh. I don't know. Does anyone else have the same problem? | Crushes |
So for information, I had a crush on this guy for almost 8 months. This Thursday I planned to confess my feelings, however, before I got a chance, he talked to me about wanting to stay at Florida for spring break instead of going back to meet family (out of state). Right after that, he mentioned something about his girlfriend, which I didn’t expected…
Now I know there is no chance for me to confess my feelings since in what world I should confess to someone who is not single (especially when you know they are not). I have been crying since then and I thought about letting go of him (stop talking) so that I won’t get hurt as much, mentally. But the reality is, he is one of few friends I got at my university, and I enjoy to study and hang out with him. I don’t want to lose a friend just because of my “temporary feeling”.
Currently my plan was to try to not talk to him as much as possible for now, and when I finally let go my feeling, I will reconnect to him more as a friend. Maybe this plan sounds very silly, but I could really have some advice for it… | Crushes |
Preferably someone around my age (15) because what I want to talk about would probably seem immature to someone over sixteen. I basically just want to complain to someone | Crushes |
Hi all
First post here so I’m hoping I’m not breaking any rules.
I am trying to figure out whether a work colleague likes me as I just cannot tell, we are both at the same level of the pyramid at work and when we first met one another we were both in relationships. I’m not any longer, she is but it isn’t great and it’s long distance and she shares how his behaviour affects her.
Without going into an essay, I’ll share the behaviours that’s made me ask this question:
1. I make her laugh, often uncontrollably
2. We have a hell of a lot in common
3. We have a lot of deep conversations
4. She’ll sit next to me at any opportunity
5. She always reaches out for advice and what I advise she’ll act out
6. I catch her looking at me
7. Whenever we are at social events we always find ourselves together, she’ll often wait until I leave so I can walk her home
8. I recently spent a significant period of time away and she was very excited for me to return and made it clear she had missed me
Reasons why I think it may be too good to be true:
1. Ultimately she has a boyfriend and she doesn’t really message me when she’s with him despite doing so when they’re not together
2. I had a long term girlfriend (they don’t know one another or ever met) and she sometimes ask about my ex
3. There’s been no inclination that she’s attracted to me and nothing has ever happened between us
I’d be grateful for any thoughts please! Thank you in advance | Crushes |
background i guess? i am 18F and he is 17M (same year, late birthday lol). anyways. we go to the same hs and he was in one of my classes last semester and one this semester. last semester i was put into a table group with him and basically stayed there for a few months– he was always super nice even tho we didn’t know each other before this class and we’d sometimes help each other study. this semester, we snap a lot. we’re always having dumb little conversations.
lately i’ve been sending him pictures of my dog and he says he’s gonna steal it. we also jokingly bully each other? yesterday he accidentally made a sexual joke with bananas with me and when i told him he was like WAIT I DIDN’T MEAN IT THAT WAY. and last night i was venting to him about calculus homework, he kept pushing me to take a break and when i finally did he said he’s proud of me.
the problem is that he’s super nice and acts similar to this with a lot of people.
how can i tell if he likes me or not? | Crushes |
I've had a crush on a (quite close) friend for several years (we're both 18 if it matters). Honestly, I'm not even sure if it's only a crush at this point. But I just somehow can't get over him- the fact that we are classmates, share many friends and actually have some same extracurricular stuff doesn't help it. I just can't keep distance. I can't confess either, because I don't want to risk losing him as a friend- although I'm pretty sure he wouldn't outright cut me off, it would make things different. I'm also pretty sure he doesn't like me back, although there have been some kind of mixed signals in the past- but at this point, I'm not hoping for anything. | Crushes |
There was a time period where I constantly saw dreams of him. They were beautiful, everyday I looked forward to sleep. It’s been about 6 months and I dont see dreams of him anymore. There could be reasons of that tho, maybe my interest in him is fading.. and he has a girlfriend (I guess). But I miss seeing him in my dreams. I miss him. I miss the feeling. | Crushes |
Based on what my crush told me, I(Male) know her period cycles , i've installed an app(Clue) to make it easier to track it. When she doesn't tell me I just try yo guess.
My question is very simple but I cannot find any answers...
Should I try to talk during her period ?(when she probably feels like shit, so she'll be happy getting attention) , or during her ovulation time (when she is super horny and will be more inclined to be attracted to me) ?
- talking = spending time with her to make a relationship possible
For those who think its manipulation, its more adapting myself to her ... In the end I only use the info she gives me voluntarily and in the goal of making both of us happy, making myself suited to her mood. I've been in love for 3 years and I'd love to get into a relationship but she is not really interested in relations so I try to increase my chances with anything I can ... | Crushes |
Maybe can help idk | Crushes |
I started to talk to her on instagram and like went on and eventually asked her if she would come for walks and strolls again like we used to have earlier ( because of exams we stopped in December itself ) at first she said I'll be free almost then when asked would she come she said maybe I have some family plans too .
Guys did I messed up something or it's my overthinking n anxiety kicking pls help me out in here | Crushes |
i don’t want to come off as insensitive or politically incorrect so feel free to interject if i am.
i am 21(f) he’s 22(m)
everyone who knows him says he’s unique from everyone else they’ve ever met. he’s very quiet, hardly says a word at group hangouts, doesnt hangout with people often, keeps a small circle, doesn’t understand a lot of common behaviors & makes him appear cynical, doesn’t laugh out loud even if he clearly finds something funny(chuckles quietly), etc. at first i thought he was socially anxious, but after getting to know him it really does not seem like that’s the case.
plus, he’s said to a friend of mine a year ago that he doesn’t think he could date cus of how much time he needs to be alone. maybe that’s still the case now, who knows.
i’ve said many things that make it pretty clear i am interested in him. he behaved as if he felt similarly but he is distant over the phone or gaps between hanging out. although when we’re in person he expresses he wants/likes to spend time with me.
all our hangouts have romantic connotations to them and it seemed like he knew that too. but now i’m not sure. he comes off as the kind of person who’d do romantic things with friends and not see how it’s romantic. it’s been more than three months and nothing has happened physically. we haven’t even specified whether our hangouts were dates or ..just hangouts.
haha maybe i’m in over my head and he simply just doesn’t like me like that!! my friends just think that our interactions are very clearly romantic. i’ve been wanting to just have a conversation with him about it but i know that blatantly confessing to people can be off putting. i don’t know, i’d like someone’s insight on this.
again, i apologize if it is wrong of me to make such an assumption about a person. i’ve just become frustrated and confused. i just wanted to know if i should approach this differently if he is neurodivergent. | Crushes |
i feel like my crush is always staring at me! idk if i’m delusional or what but when we work together i just feel his eyes on me or when i just look around our eyes connect every single time! it’s so 😩! why?!?!!! i get flustered easily and turn red it’s so obvious i hate it! | Crushes |
I (20M) kept having crushes since high school and not a single one of them ever worked out. The girls always seem moderately interested in a nothing more than a friendship while I get head over heels for them, sometimes triggering depressive episodes. It is an endless cycle of unrequited feelings with heartbreaks I don’t know if I can do this anymore.
It’s been years and I still haven’t found anyone who likes me back yet. I’m an introverted guy and rarely have the courage to go to social activities without being flustered. Now is my third year at college, I’m still a virgin who has zero experience in any relationships, sexual or platonic. I triedto branch out. I tried going to parties, but they were too loud for me to hear anything, let alone having a conversation. I also tried being more “confident” but it’s all the same.
Guys who have been in the same situation before, will it ever work out??? I’m miserable and lonely now. I don’t know when this endless cycle of unrequited infatuation can break. I need to break out of it one day. | Crushes |
Been hearing rumors that shes only flirting and sending signs to me with no intention of getting tgt with me and she is obsessed with someone else
I got sent screenshot of her saying"i guess id be lying if i said i dont like (my name) at least a little but i belong to (someone else) lol"
should've trusted my gut lol | Crushes |
Long story short: He (M 37) and I (F 23) used to be co-workers and got along amazingly. Eventually, he quit due to health reasons. I thought I'd never see him again. I met him randomly on the street one day and invited him out for drinks the next evening with another girl co-worker and me.
First, we just had some good conversations about life. After some drinks we went to a club to dance, meaning we had to lean in if we wanted to talk to each other. The physical barrier was gone in no time. If he wanted to say something to our friend he would hold onto her waist and talk into her ear. If he talked to me, he was leaning his forehead against mine.
He asked me if he could dance with our friend alone for a minute. After them dancing together (she's a great dancer btw me not so much lmao), he asked her if he could dance alone with me for a minute. It was kind of awkward but we had some intense eye contact.
After some more dancing (all together) I noticed that he danced comfortably unless I was looking at him, he would start giggling and telling me that he was a bad dancer.
After the club, we head home. We walked our friend home, and during that time he was mostly speaking with her. They hugged and after that, I walked with him to his apartment. While walking he was talking about his current girlfriend which he wants to break up with (he mentioned this a few times during the night) but he and she were waiting for the right timing (finding an apartment right now is hard). When we arrived at his apartment we hugged, for a long time. I told him that he should call me if he breaks up with her and when he asked why I answered "then I can be with you". He said "Aha". Wtf. I later apologized via text for overstepping boundaries, he said it was no problem.
I think I'm reading too much into his behavior. Can you tell me I'm delusional for thinking he likes me so I can get over it? | Crushes |
Yesterday I was at a club after school. I was sitting next to this guy who I’d consider to be a friend but we’re not that close or anything. Anyways, we were laughing the whole time and showing each other random tiktoks and joking abt random stuff while everyone else was having their own discussions. We were also just sending random messages to each other through our gmails for whatever reason because we had our computers open even though we were sitting right next to each other bc idk it was funny lol. We also left together and he stopped to ask his brother something so I continued down the stairs but he sort of rushed to catch up to me while I was walking out. He’s also been oddly nice to me comparative to others. I messed up and was really stressed out during our recent school concert and since I play piano for the choir, some of the members were kinda mad at me for it. He was really nice though and told me that I slayed and later he told me that he was like my biggest supporter in the concert (but it was kinda casual idk). Do y’all think he like me or is he just trying to be friendly? | Crushes |
There’s this nice girl in my class who I talk to often, she always seems to be near me and sometimes I see a slight blush on her face. I like her as nothing more than a friend but ever since the start of the school year I’ve been wondering if she does like me I wanna ask her without sounding like I’m all full of myself.
What should I do? | Crushes |
we’ve had on going chat daily for almost 2 weeks. | Crushes |
there this boy who literally starts at me for the whole period, it very obvious and he not trying hide he is staring at me and any time he answers a question, I can see he is staring at me even though he answering the question to the teacher (isn’t he supposed to be looking at the teacher). anyone can tell and I have also noticed that every single time when the hour ends, he leaves at the same time I get up, i wanted to test this so I stayed in the class for 5 mins after the class ended and he left exactly after me. We have never spoken together before. | Crushes |
About 3 months ago, I started talking to a girl (G1). We had some good conversations and immediately I fell for her. Shes just perfect. About 3 weeks later of us texting, I found out she had a bf. Demoralized, I was completely shattered, but then I started talking to another girl (G2). She genuinely cared about how i felt, and I fell for her too, thinking that maybe she could help me get rid of any feelings for G1. Flash forward now, I need help. Me and G2 have been dating for a month now, but my feelings for G1 have never died. Even during my relationship, I was still sad to see G1 with someone else. Things took a turn yesterday. I found out G1 broke up with her bf for being a jerk. Now, my heart can't choose who to love. Both of them are sweet, kind, caring, and pretty, but I want to tell G1 how I feel. I know right now she probably needs time and support from what happened, and I'm all for that. I want to help. The thing is, I feel like I actually may have a chance. She's always thanked me for being nice to her, and she even said (while she was dating, but told me to help boost my confidence) to me that if she didn't have a bf, she'd prob have a crush on me. However, if I tell her, and she likes me back, what do I do about my girlfriend? She's really insecure about herself and loves me to death. Breaking up with her would completely destroy her and I would never forgive myself for breaking such a kind heart. However, I know that G1 makes me feel differently, and I feel so guilty. Seeing notifications of her texts make me smile. Yesterday, a singer came to my spanish class to sing in spanish, and when he sang a love song, G1 came to my head first, not my girlfriend. What do I do? | Crushes |
Idk if this is normal or anything but I'm obsessed with falling in love, crushing over someone, chasing after someone.
I'm constantly looking for someone to fall in love with. I've tried to tone it down by hiring my standards so it's harder to pick someone that way I can focus on myself and life but still. And when I do find someone it's not even like a crush(?) It's like I'm obsessed with them. A crush you like them, but I fucking love them and it hasn't even been 4 months. I'm crazy for them. Day and night I think of them. Even the smallest interaction with them like eye contact makes me start to think about sharing a future with them.
It's so fucking bad I swear. Most of my stress, emotional, and mental issues are due to all the guys I've fallen in love with and can't get over. Like I want to stop, I know this is unhealthy but I can't bring a pause to it. I've tried and just when I think I've done it I start to subconsciously go crazy for them. I don't even notice it until it's too late.
It's too late when I start to do these bad habits I've acquired through out a few years ago.
In 2019 I met a guy who I was head over heels with. To the eyes of others he wasn't all that, but for me he was the world. I was in high school at this time and somehow I acquired his student number. After that things got out of hand, I started to check everything of him. His grades, his work, his schedule, who he hanged out with, what did he like, what did he not like. It was bad. 2 years into liking him he moved away. 3 years and I found out he had a girlfriend. To try and get over him I started to crush on several other guys. It was like my brain's way to distract me from the pain that came from not being able to see him. Not wanting to realize the truth I became more obsessed with falling for others. There was this one guy I met that I really fancied, and so the chaos started again. I'd slowly start to figure things out about him, just one step at a time. It was going great with him until I found out he was a player. Being a player was out of my list for standards (the standards that tried to tone me down from falling for a bunch of guys) so I had to get over him. It took several months and another dude to get over it all.
We're entering college now. It started off good. Got over all the guys I liked in high school and had now a blank canvas I could work with. I told myself this time I wouldn't fall for someone, that I'd keep myself under control. I was so wrong.
Since my life wasn't filled with the thrill of going out with friends and breaking rules because I had strict mom that kept me locked up the little bit of rush that made me feel alive was the butterflies I'd get from the guy I liked.
And just like that I started to subconsciously look for the next one. Everytime I caught myself starting to study a guy to see if he was fit I'd stop myself and mentally slam my head against a wall. But it wasn't enough, I gave in. And it was the best and worse decision of all time.
I fell for this guy who made me feel the emotion I was looking for since the guy from 2019.
The thing about the 2019 guy is that when I thought of him, saw him, talked to him, I felt like I was in heaven. I felt like nothing mattered in this world expect for him. I felt like heaven just melted from the sky down to the area around me and him. This feeling it was like no other. I only felt this for 2 dudes my whole life. Yes I liked a lot of guys, but not all of them made me feel this prohibited dopamine. And so, this new guy was the most precious thing.
I told myself to not go crazy again. But just like a old habit I started to look into him. I tried so hard not to but it was like I was in a trance desperate to just know more and more.
I hated it. I hate how I would go into some autopilot state unaware of what I was doing. I was just so addicted to him.
Right now I've been able to tone it down a bit, but that's simply because another guy entered my life. I still think of him, I still am obsessed with him. But not like before. I've learned to hold myself back from doing the old creepy habits. And still everytime we make eye contact it's like I just took a hit of the best drug in the world. And I know I'll never be able to have him, and that nothing will ever happen but I don't care anymore. And now It destroys me. Knowing that someone else will have what I can't slowly kills me from the inside. I can't explain it. I've come to terms with not being able to be with him, but at the same time I haven't. I don't know, I just want it all to stop. I want to be able to look at a guy and not study him to see if he fits my standards. I want to not have to look for a guy to like. I want to be able to not depend on being in love to feel something.
All I know is that I have a addiction to falling in love and want to stop but don't know how anymore. Please someone help me. | Crushes |
I've crushing on him for almost a year. My friends could sense that I like him so they always made us meet in a group setting and tease us. I am a shy person, so I always act awkwardly annoyed. He is rather react playfully to their teasing.
One of my friend kept assuring me that he kinda have an interest in me. She said it was shown by his manners towards me. He is a gentleman, but would act sweeter around me. He is an extrovert, but would be quieter around me. Bottom line, those are her subjective opinions okay. Honestly, he (or us to be precise), would act weird to one another, it was actually painful to watch or remember. I could tell many occasion we did things out of getting flustered.
I offer him food with a spoon, kind of expecting him to take it with his own spoon, he ate it directly from mine instead (mind you we are from a religious country, so eating from the same utensil consider as an indirect kiss lmao). We were filming for homework, he confused rather to focus on the camera or somewhere else, and someone said "just focus to
u/hate_exposure dude" then we both get awfully flustered. He also confused how to put his mic, and instead of using words, he used this flustered gesture to me to help him. For God blessing, I felt so grossly fucking happy.
I was kinda okay with all these bare minimum dynamic, until once in their group chat, one of my friend said she would support us fully if we ended up together. But he answered, "I don't feel she wanted to👉🏼👈🏼"
Maybe he felt that way because I was eager to distance myself with him. I know, I'm a dumb shit. Once, he greeted me enthusiastically but I froze... then just walked past him. Every time we were being teased, I would totally be embarrassed and couldn't play it well.
But to defend myself, I also acted that way because he also confuse me. I don't think he ever truly shown any genuine interest (as how the society tells you). He never initiate conversation first. He never ask anything about me. We never have a deep moment together.
He had a past. A tragic past I would say, he lost his girlfriend almost 2 years ago due to a complication. I couldn't let myself liking him even more because of this, It felt wrong. If the theory 'he also have an interest in me' is true, I would like to think that's the reason why he didn't pursue his interest in me or otherwise he's basically just not into me enough.
Well, to prove that hypothesis and show him I actually do want to know him more... Last Tuesday, I was braving myself to ask him out! I finally had the gut because he was about to went back to his parents house for Ramadhan break next Friday.
At first he was making sure is it in a group setting or just us both. I was making sure it only us both. He said yes! He even suggested to hanging out to places in my city (we live an hour away). I was positive, happy and excited for next Thursday. But then, he asked me to brought forward the date to next Wednesday because his mom told him to fly on Thursday. Sadly, I couldn't because I had to take my dad to the airport too. Weird how our both parents situation kind of not letting us to have a nice date...
Anyway, he said sorry for cancelling and I answered "Nah it's okay. Maybe next time"... and that's it. He's gone. He didn't even prolonged our text... I'm confused once again.
Honestly, how to tell if a guy have an interest in you?
TL;DR I'm having a crush with a guy. Friends making fun of us. We ended up getting flustered everytime we met; no genuine connection or friendship made. I'm frustrated then asked him out to make sure that 'I have a feeling for you, are you the same?' Somehow the universe not letting it happen then that's it, nothing gained. | Crushes |
How do I talk to him? I’m struggling so much literally the second I like someone my sense of humour goes down the drain!
And I guess the second I know he likes me back it gets worse i literally overthink everything that’s said and idk how to talk at all, I don’t want him to lose feelings because I’m boring because I have 0 clue what to say
Please help | Crushes |
So what does make them unique? | Crushes |
We do not text at all by the way, but I’m thinking that it could possibly be that we’re too nervous to? I’m not sure. I know that she has a crush, I’m just not sure who it is anymore because I know she at least *used* to have a big crush on my ex-best friend, (we just like respect each other now and sometimes have little social interactions, nothing too big), but he has a girlfriend. (Who he’s NEVER going to break up with in a million years istg lol).
Anyways, I’m going to give you all a little story. Yesterday, me and my friend were joking around and teasing her a little bit because we were doing a science lab, and she was having a hard time getting the exact measurements that were needed, (or at least preferred), into a graduated cylinder which we then had to weigh on a balance scale. So, each time she got an exact measurement, we’d joke that I’d owe her $5. (Except I really meant it, and I mean, I like her, so this is a great opportunity!) She ended up getting 3 exactly PERFECT, and my friend joked that I instead owe her $20. She insisted that I don’t HAVE to give her that and we had like a little sort of playful conversation which ended up in me just giving her the $20 because I mean why not? (I’m waiting until Monday to give it to her though. I’m thinking this might be a good time to ask her out.) She loves money and I’m starting to love her so it’s perfect.
Anyways, does it seem like anything romantic could come out of this? Should I take this money as an opportunity to ask her out on Monday? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance. | Crushes |
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Throwaway account because my friends know my reddit accounts.
I (19M) am in my second year of University. My crush (19F) is in first year.
I went to a party and saw her in the distance, and decided I might as well talk to her.
I walked up to her and told her "Between us, I find you extremely beautiful". Immediately after telling her this, I left and did not speak to her any further
The party was in a dark room with only red lighting and I was in a hoodie and cap which i eventually changed out of so I don't know if she'd recognise me.
I don't know what to do next. In a case she cannot recognise me, do I continue to stay away, or do I try to get her contact.
I have absolutely no idea what the next steps are.
Help!!! | Crushes |
I like this guy in my class and I have no idea what to do about this. I’m not very known at my school and I’m not particularly pretty. I’m really quiet in classes and I’m terrible at talking to people. The guy I like isn’t popular but he is liked, and he seems like an actually nice person. He’s friends with some scary people though who I feel like would make fun of me. We don’t sit beside each-other in class and we also don’t do any group projects in that class. I have his instagram but I don’t know if he’s still active on it because he hasn’t posted in a long time and he isn’t really a social media kind of person. He works at my local grocery store but I wouldn’t want to bother him when he’s working. I want to talk to him but I don’t know if there’s any way that works with everything. I can’t talk to him face to face and I can’t text him. I’m also scared if I make a move that he just feels bad and is only talking to me because of him feeling bad so I’ve been trying to think of a way of knowing he’s not just being nice. Like I wish there was a way of him having the option to reach out at all. This is definitely impossible but if anyone has any advice let me know! | Crushes |
It's kind of like a confusing love hate relationship between us. He steals my pencils and shit, I throw paper at him, he teases me, I laugh at him. I didn't even think that what he was doing could be flirting until my friend pointed it out a few days ago.
Do you think he does this stuff to flirt with me, or is he just an annoying teenage boy? | Crushes |
I have no idea ion even talk to that many people | Crushes |
The girl I like is really nice to everyone, including me, but how should I know if she reciprocates? | Crushes |
I got my crushes number and I texted if she has any plans and she said she has some plans today but not much on Sunday. So, should I say I might watch a movie on Sunday? | Crushes |
Day 15
heya. its been two weeks since we met. i cannot sleep and i cannot not think about you. so im writing it down, what if we, for the smallest possibility, end up being together.
im not supposed to lose my mind like this. this was supposed to be a harmless crush. i was probably just confused cuz of the cute accent or something. but you are like so tall and smell incredible. i thought about going back in time a million times since the second we left. i wouldve got up at 5am and got ready and wore something cute instead had i knew i was going to meet you. you probably still wouldn't remember me but least i wont hate myself this much.
lately ive been obsessed with tarot readings on tik tok, what will happen to us, one of the videos said im meeting somebody while im traveling or somebody thats traveling towards me. well im not traveling anywhere right now. but we met when you were traveling here.
so are you coming back.
oh and i saw on tik tok theres a comet passing by earth today. it hasnt happened since the stone age. i dunno if its true but, i was on my way home from work at the time and i closed my eyes and made a wish.
i wished for seeing you again. please universe please let me see you again x. | Crushes |
It makes me overthink. Like, so bad. I'm curious about how close they are. I hope he doesn't, uhm, like her... She seems prettier than me. I'm awfully scared and I feel like I shouldn't be. It's not like I'm in a relationship with him right? Haha... oh how nauseous I am due to my nervousness. | Crushes |
so yesterday my crush texted me and asked if i still had a phone charger o had lent him the day before
i said i did and he asked if i could give it to him
we have one class together that wasn’t gonna be for like another 6 hours so we talked about where to meet and when
after that period was over i went to the bottom of one staircase since we were both in that area
as i was walking down i saw him looking at the stairs with his normal blank expression but you could tell he was waiting for someone
as i got closer he saw me and broke into a huge smile
he smiles with his teeth and he looked so genuinely happy in that brief moment- even if it was just over a phone charger
i handed him the charger, he said “thank you!” and i walked away
pretty quick interaction but seeing him from a few feet away and start to smile at me made me happy- i always start smiling back when he does but his is ten times prettier than mine lol | Crushes |
Mine are Good Looking Boy by Suki Waterhouse, Valentine by COIN, Marry You by Bruno Mars, Kiss Her You Fool by Kids That Fly, Rose-Colored Boy by Paramore, and Queen of Disaster by Lana Del Rey. | Crushes |
A guy friend once randomly told me I had beautiful lashes. I was flattered.
On a separate occasion, he was asked by another friend what his type was in a girl. He then said he's particularly attracted to a woman's eyes. Moments after he said that, he then told me I had pretty eyes. He would then mention this multiple times after, threatening (jokingly) that he would like to gouge my eyes out.
Recently, I've been wearing lipstick (which I don't usually do before). On the day I first wore one, he told me he liked my lips.
I know I should not think much about these compliments but I was just wondering if they meant something? | Crushes |
Well, a while ago, I met a girl in the highschool, we talk a bit and gave each other the instagram accounts. Thinks didn't go further, as she ghosted me, we remained acquaintances.
Anyway, in the last period, when I get past her and her friends I can hear them saying my name quietly.
When I am at distance they wave at me, but pretend to not see me when I get to them.
What does this means? | Crushes |
She did remember me and we are now good friends, sometimes she holds my hand and we share a good laugh and chat.
But i saw her with another dude today holding hands and walking around. Idk if its just how she treats her friends in general or idk. I didnt want to spy on her too much so i left them alone and came back later when he left.
I stood with her about an hour since she was waiting for one of her friends and she started treating me in a different way, like losing interrest in me or idk.
Do i keep trying? Do i stop? I kinda need help here. | Crushes |
I fell in love with a boy 3 years ago. He helped me a lot. However, I was preparing exam so I started to have less contact with him. But I knew he was having a girlfriend. Two years ago, we reconnected and he claimed that he broke up with his girlfriend so I went on a date with him. However, I discovered that he has not broken up with his girlfriend yet, he insisted to hide this from me so I did not contact him anymore.
Recently, he sent a message to me suddenly. He said it has been a long time since we haven't seen each other so he asked me to dine with him. This year, I moved on but I admitted that I still had some feelings for him. I knew that I could not move on if I go out with him. But I was missing him.
Friend A said it was just a meal and I should follow my heart. It looked like I was taking advantage of him because he helped me before.
Friend B said I should not go because he was dangerous.
What should I do? | Crushes |
I like this boy at my school, let's call him B. It seems that he does like me, but I'm not totally sure. So I want to tell you what he does and did, and maybe you can decide for me.
Back in February, it was B's birthday, so I made him an origami guitar because he plays guitar. I gave it to him, (Ironically it was also Valentines Day) He thanked me, and 2 days later he gives me back an origami butterfly that he made for me. I also started following him on Instagram, which made him follow me back and start liking my posts. He also added me on Snapchat, and ever since then we've been having long text conversations over heavy metal/rock bands, which we both like. The weird part is that he doesn't talk to me at school, but I think he glances and looks at me a lot. Maybe he's shy, but again, I don't know for sure.
I think I've really got a chance with him, but I'm not the prettiest person (Or atleast I don't think I am) I'm really torn on what I should do and what B thinks of me. I could really use some advice. Thanks | Crushes |
Since then, no one has told me that they like me. I feel that I look ugly and act shy but rude. My female classmates told me I have pretty eyes, a sharp jawline, and clear skin. They would randomly tell me I was cute and pinch my cheeks. They compliment me on how smart and quiet I am, but sometimes I lack confidence, but they don't notice it. They said I am kind, but I look angry, sad, or lonely when I am alone. They like the way I smile and laugh, the way I listen to them, and the way I treat them. But inside me, I feel that I just reciprocate the actions or words I received from them; for example, they compliment me, so I talk to them, or maybe they were kind to me, so I joined them, but obviously I would not leave them in the air so fast. If they were really genuine, I would stay because sometimes there are people who like me for the first time only. I also feel that having countless crushes in class is a sign that I only want attention since I have never been liked before. I keep on having a track on them(guys) if they are ideal enough. Whenever they give me a single amount of attention, I think they like me. For example, when they compliment me or stare at me, I feel that they have a crush on me. I found out the only toxic trait about me is that the extrovert side of being an introvert is shipping my friends to multiple people. My friends end up being with them, and that's why I feel like a cupid but am actually a hopeless romantic. I feel that my friends rarely ship me off to someone, but if they do, it's either to a guy they find ugly or hate. I never told people about who I like in class. I feel disgusted by young couples who show physical touch to each other, but sometimes I find it melting my heart. I have many things to say about these certain things about me, but this is actually long enough. What do you think about what I have said? | Crushes |
Was just while playing spin they bottle at her party but it wad epic | Crushes |
*Note: I will ignore euros to dollars discrepancies, since they are ROUGHLY the same. I use euros, but I've written dollars instead to catch Americans' attention. (I imagine most Europeans know that € ≈ $, but Americans probably don't. I apologize for this broad assumption. Had to do it, 'Muricans.)*
I like a girl in my class, we're both 17 (Not for long, tho ;) ). Next week we'll go on a school trip in another country. She is Chinese, and due to some European-Union bullshit her family's had to pay an outrageous sum of around $50-75 for some papers and whatnot. She's, understandably, quite upset, especially considering she'll also have to pay for food and tickets to museums.
It just so happens that her birthday is during the trip, so I thought it'd be nice if I gave her some money as a gift (BEFORE her birthday, in the airport, otherwise it wouldn't make sense). She knows I like her, so, even though we barely talk, it probably wouldn't be weird *("Why did that guy give me money?")*.
But now comes the question: how much money should I give her? I have a good amount of savings, so $50 is the maximum I am willing to give her. However, I've talked to a few friends and they all suggest to give her less, about $30. And I kinda agree, $50 is too much, but she's had to spend up to $75 and I feel sad for her, I am very conflicted on how much money should I give her.
What are your thoughts? What amount do you think would be better? Feel free to ask anything.
Thank you for reading. | Crushes |
For the past week I've had a massive crush on this girl in my class, let's call her R. She's probbaly the most outgoing and friendliest girl in the grade, so she naturally talks to everyone which could occur as a problem because she talks to boys, not in a flirty way, but nonetheless, still talks to them. She's smart, pretty, and just amazing. I really like her. She has guy friends but most of them just talk to her about school work and whatnot. However, I'm not close to her at all and have social anxiety to a certain degree. This week we've interacted more than usual (obviously since I'm trying). We've made eye contact on multiple occasions and she's smiled at me. In addition, we had an exam on Wednesday and we were the first two out of the room. She exited right before me and after taking a few steps away from the exam hall, she turned around and asked me how I did and I somehow maintained conversation with her for maybe 3 minutes alone until my friend came (he doesn't know about my feelings for her), but we talked together for like another 4-5 minutes. I don't really know if she approached me to talk to me or because she cares, or just to compare answers with me to reassure herself. Anyways the following day, on Thursday, we were going to a class and I noticed she was behind me, talking to a friend. So I opened the door for them and she stopped talking to her and looked me in the eyes and said 'thank you' with a big smile on her face (once again, I don't know if she did this because she's just friendly or because she's sort of flirting with me). I must say that I've been told I'm good looking by people on my grade but I'm just not too confident in myself because I'm a little shorter than the guys in my grade (2-3 inches shorter, yes it makes a big difference). Now earlier I asked her if she could go on a Zoom call with me and explain a part of the biology lesson we had the other day (even though I had understood it) just to get some time with her and maybe something to talk to together. When I messaged her, she asked if we could do it in 30 minutes because she's going to the beach at 5, to which I obviously said yes. The Zoom didn't last long and I was a little disappointed (like maybe 4-5 minutes). At the end, it got sort of awkward because I was saying bye and thank you and she said something at the same time and like we both stopped talking and stuff. Anyways, it was 5:40 ish when someone asked on the class group to send some notes. Keep in mind, she was supposedly at the beach. Now I don't know if she had a picture of the notes, which is kinda weird, but she sent them. So now I'm asking myself if she lied to make it seem like she's busy and interesting and whatnot or just had a picture of the notes.
I'm going to try and get close to her, become friends, and then just back off for a while and see what that brings. If she cares then she'd probably still be reaching out to me and stuff.
Can anyone help me improve my conversation skills and give me advice/tips? Thank you. | Crushes |
A bit of context: my crush, who liked me back in freshman year, recently started dating a girl who I absolutely despise. I confessed to him a few days ago, and he said he would've dated me if I'd told him earlier. Anyway, he always texts me first and flirts with me over text, but I don't know how to feel about the situation now that he's dating someone. I get that he's playing with me, but I just can't seem to hate him or even block him. He's a major red flag who says homophobic and transphobic stuff and often disguises them as jokes, but I just tend to ignore them. I feel so bad about myself for putting up with his shit, but since I'll have to meet him at school, I don't want to make things weird by blocking him. He also considers me one of his best friends now and I keep looking forward to his texts to the point that I'm not able to concentrate on important stuff anymore. What do I do? | Crushes |
I just can’t get over her, when I sleep I see her icy blue eyes, I hear her soft spoken voice. But she hates me, she thinks i’m a creep, She posted on her socials and told all her friends, that I’m a creep. I guess that’s all i amount to, a creep. | Crushes |
How, when, and where I should confess me to my crush? | Crushes |
I (F24) am so giddy because I have a work crush. We’ve exchanged the general greetings but never have had an actual conversation. I see him around the same time everyday and my stomach gets butterflies and I get so nervous to look at him properly and say hi. I really look forward to those times though, and it’s made working exponentially better. Hopefully I pluck up the courage to speak to him! Please give me some advice on how to start a conversation with him. | Crushes |
So I got courageous and texted the girl (24f) about what’s going on with me. We worked together for a long time. I even kissed her. But she’s never told me she has feelings for me. She’s a lot younger than me. To me she’s outta this world but I’m complicated. I have a kid with an ex. I wanna work this out but she keeps ghosting me and barely contacts me. Getting the hint but it would be sweet if that changed. We would rule the world | Crushes |
She's my coworker. We don't talk as much as I would like, but we do still talk. I'm 19(m), and she just turned 23(f). She doesn't really hang out with guys, so it's kinda tough to get time to hang out with her. And she broke up with her ex 2-3 weeks before Valentines Day this year. I'm the kind of "perfect moment" or "try to make every moment magical" kinda guy. I feel like she might know I have feelings for her, but I'm not sure. I feel she might be trying to friendzone me, or just she's not looking for full commitment to a relationship right now. She told me about why she broke up with her toxic ex, and I was being supportive of her.
Now I feel that since I haven't been seeing her as often as she now has a second job keeping her busy along with school, I have even less of a chance with her. I know I should broaden my horizons more look for other women, but I just wanna show her what a guy that actually cares about her is like.
I really want to confess my feelings, but I know it's probably too soon, and I dont wanna ruin our friendship if she rejects me.
If you have any advice for me of what I can do, I would appreciate it. And if you have any questions, pm me.
Anyways, thanks for listening to my rambling. | Crushes |
so an old friend from school came up to me on my way to the bus yesterday, and asked for my number. It was really random and i’ve never seen anyone just ask for a number outside of friendships, so i assumed she liked me.
then today, i walked up to her and her friend and said hi. now i’ve seen this friend around so after she left, he was talking about how she’s always so close to him and in his face. now i’m not sure if she even liked me in the first place. id love to hear you guys thoughts, thanks! | Crushes |
and to be more exact, i just found out that she is actually dating her ex since like late february.. or i'm not sure if they even broke up in the first place. i just assumed she did because all of her friends answered no and i saw a bit of breakup posts on her timeline
we've had conversations via text message on a variety of topics but i never knew she liked someone or if she is just a really private person
anyhow it kinda hurts because we have the same interests and hobbies, and generally just really fun to hang around with her
so i just wanted to ask an advice on how should i cope with this? should i wait around or move on? if i'm moving on, should i remove the weight on my shoulder and tell her that i liked her at some point or risk our friendship? | Crushes |
So for context, I’m in the hospital for a broken leg (real nasty.) And I was in a lot of pain yesterday before the surgery that happened early today. So I was just like “if I’m hurt, might as well see if I can get a gf.” I told her and she opened it today. She hasn’t mentioned it and just snapped me normally. What to do now? | Crushes |
i have no idea what to do. i’ve been friends with this girl, i’ll call her sarah for storytelling purposes, for about three years now. me and sarah are both gay and open about that to each other. i never liked her and strictly thought of her as a friend until we got drunk and ended up making out like a lot. since we were both very far gone i really don’t think it was a conscious decision on her part and it wasn’t on mine either. however since then i’ve thought about it so much and i just can’t get her off my mind. me and sarah are with each other constantly which doesn’t really help since i feel like i’m constantly questioning our friendship. i’m not very good at reading people but every now and then i can’t tell whether she’s flirting with me or just being her normal self. like one day we were in maths at school and i told sarah it was boring and she said “it shouldn’t be when i’m here” and things along those lines. i literally have no idea what to do and i’ve only told one of my friends who didn’t really have much to say and was pretty shocked to be honest. me and my friends are getting together and drinking pretty soon and i’m scared that’s gonna be my breaking point. is it worth telling her before that? or should i just let my drunkenness take over? asking for a friend here :) | Crushes |
I think I have developed a crush on one girl. Problem is we are both introverted. Good thing is that I know she likes me but I don’t know if she likes me like a friend or likes me likes me. | Crushes |
Maybe 2 days ago i told my crush that I like her. She didn't say anything other that she noticed that i like her. i asked her and she said ofcourse everything is good between us.
I gave her a rose on 8 of march btw.
And i liked her before, and she did too but we didn't do anything because her parents didn't allow it.
We are friends for a year. | Crushes |
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