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from what i know body language seems to be pretty key when it comes to understanding whether somebody is interested in you or not
im making this post because i (M15) dont know whether this person (F15) is really interested in me or not, to sum it up shortly, since like early november last year ive caught this person looking in my direction quite a bit, ive also caught her lingering around me on her own from a short distance, she's also been fixing her hair/bangs whenever i am in her presence (unsure on this as ive seen plenty of other girls do the same thing, this only stands out to me as whenever i see her do this i can tell that she has noticed me)
like the title says, am i just overthinking it or are they interested in me? should i approach them or is it better to just leave them be? | Crushes |
to be honest it wasnt as bad as i thought it would be. the thought of being rejected was way worse than the actual happening. if you want my advice, just ask them. if theyre worth crushing on, the two of you will grow from it instead of drifting apart. | Crushes |
i have had a crush on a girl on my class for few months.
im wondering if i should tell one of my friends about it. i just feel like i need to get it off my chest, and i trust my friend pretty much. but idk because we dont really talk about things like this | Crushes |
So I've been friends with my crush for 4 years and I honestly couldn't have picked sum1 better as a crush, as a friend they're amazing and I have liked them for 2 years now and in the. months I found out they liked me too so we got really close but we never dated because they weren't ready for a relationship. A couple months after they told me they liked me they then eventually said they don't really like me anymore like that. here I am couple months later and I still want to be with them, were really close still just not as close, we cuddle and hug, I walk them home and everyday uh we even hold hands everywhere we go but idk if they are capable of liking me in the future if they have liked me in the past. Could they like me in the future???
Someone please reply thank you ✨✨✨ | Crushes |
So I actually followed my crush's private account (see my last question in here) and he didn't take long to accept and follow me back? Then, I just wished him "Happy Birthday" (he didn't wish for my bd which is earlier than his a few days) He reply with "Thank you (myname) xD" like that so I just reply with something we used to do before I confessed to him and we get distanced. And he replied relating to that subject after 1 or 2 hr. So I keep talking about that subject and then he didn't make reply for 2 days I saw he read the messages but didn't reply so I was like may be he doesn't want to talk to me...so i kept myself busy but now i just saw he made reply and it got 4 new messages. I don't know he wanted to talk with me or not.. how shuld i respond ? | Crushes |
so basically yesterday, m, my friends and my ex boyfriend (we weren’t serious and broke up after a week) we were joking around and laughing and then my ex said that he likes someone so me and my friends were trying to guess when my friend yelled “You like <my name>!?” and then my crush, who was sitting on the same table, his back was faced towards us, turned to face my ex boyfriend with a serious face, and then my friend said “omg he’s jealous!!!” (there were some rumours that he likes me) he looked at me straight in the eyes then he smiled and said “ No i’m not”
Do u think he was jealoussss??? i hope 🤤(jk that emoji is weird) 😚😚😚 | Crushes |
Im guy in mid 30's. We had rough years with my wife and after many misscarriages we had girl after ivf whos now bit over year. Our marriage basically died along the way and we became friends and coworkers beating all the struggle. Now that things should start to be better they just don't.
And then it happened in work. World cutest girl who I have seen now few times here and there. I was working in one place. And she suddenly came room. I was polishing some doors as Im carpenter. And both of us didn't know we are again working same place. There we were two clumsy people. And now I think Im not alone in this. Shes also clumsy when she see me and can't really speak but smile. I didn't expect this at this age anymore. I can't think anything else but her.
This is real struggle now what to do. I have never felt anything like this. And just want to say. Im not going to cheat but also I think I can't not to ask her out. | Crushes |
SO BASICALLY, in my year 10 drama class, me and this girl met and a couple months later, she kinda asked me out but she messaged me this right after I had a nap so I was so out of touch in reality so I was saying things like “oh ok” “cool” “wow” and stuff, a couple weeks later she says she doesn’t have a crush on me anymore but we still stayed friends.
A couple months later I ask the girl out and she leaves me on read for a couple days and then says that she doesn’t do relationships but we are still friends but I still really like her, we talk everyday and ever since I asked her, it feels like we’ve gotten closer sort of and she’s done some things that are making me think she has a crush on me but idk, for example, I accidentally left her on opened for 3 hours and when I went to message her, her bit Moji was on the screen looking through the messages and then she quickly went off it and then back on when I sent her a message, there was also this day in my drama class where I wasn’t in and me and her got assigned different partners on this acting project but then later that night, she said “I think you should be partners with me 😶” she said it with that emoji but idk what tf that means 💀, do you guys have any suggestions on what I should do. | Crushes |
Hi, I hope y'all are doing okay.
I have this question, will telling my feelings to him help me to move on?
I just want to let him know what an amazing person he is, that I really like him, I don't care if he rejects me, I just want him to know... I couldn't speak to him directly, but since I started this crush 9 months ago, I have rejected other people from moving on romantically with me and I have not been able to see someone else this way as I do with him, and it frustrates me that I am giving unquestioning loyalty to someone who probably doesn't care about me...
Thanks for reading, take care. | Crushes |
She likes me but i dont feel the same. I admit that she is pretty, popular, and smart. But… I dont really like people touching me. Im sorry if it sounds pretentious but that is just not my type of relationship. I would just sit there, all stiff, and her just leaning on me. | Crushes |
I got into this really stupid, 3-month-long episode of basically cutting off a BUNCH of my friends (all of them I'm attracted to, to varying degrees) because I just don't have the energy to talk to them. Mix in my unwillingness to do schoolwork, college anxiety, general anxiety with intrusive thots, familial issues, and my unalive thots, and you just have a person who's both self-loathing and easily irritated by other people. I'm easily jealous of them when they casually flirt with each other and I know that none of them actually like me like that so I don't talk to them about it because I might look desperate, I just straight-up don't chat or join their calls anymore.
I've heard from trusted friends though that they've talked about how I've been ranting a lot in the rant channel, and the others may or may not have been critical about it, the sources vary. They've wanted to talk to me about it for months but they never did, so I never knew... I don't want to bring it up to them personally because that would be sowing unnecessary distrust ("Who told it?") and also it might devolve into a fight and I'm really not ready for that :<
I just really miss being able to hop into calls and enjoying their company without feeling left out (they also talk over me a bunch and interrupt me). I don't want to stop talking to them but I just keep away from the rant room now because I don't need them talking behind my back anymore or giving them more reasons to not like me. None of us are in a good mental place, either, so maybe that's why I tire them - I'm just going to make them feel so much worse and I don't know what else to do. | Crushes |
so we used to be really good friends and we had a lot of mutual friends, but now we just ignore each other at school. also i'm pretty sure he has a crush on someone else, but why can't we be at least friends :') | Crushes |
Hi, r/Crushes
This post title probably makes no sense rn, but it will soon.
So, for backstory, we initially met in some random group chat. I didn't know it at the time, but he would become one of my closest friends. Now, I've realized that I think I might have a crush on him. This is where my problems arise. He's older than me by quite a bit(he's an adult, I'm a minor ftr). He's a really sweet guy and I really want to talk to him about my feelings, but I'm scared that if I do and by some miracle he likes me back, he'll get in trouble for talking to a minor-
Would it be wrong of me to ask him to date me even though there's a several year age gap between us?-
Yours Conflictedly,
u/IGhostedYou
tl;dr: i like a guy thats older than me and idk how to take it. | Crushes |
It's been week since I confessed to him and he hasn't said anything yet.
I've noticed him staring at me though just like he didn't before I confessed.
He's acting normal as well like there's no awkwardness around us.
But I'm very confused by his actions. | Crushes |
I don't know how to start this haha. But basically I've got a crush on a classmate, and we've never talked to each other properly, only for school things or generally small talk. The reason is because I'm very shy to talk to him, and also he seems like a person who doesn't do the first move too. So guess we will never talk to each other if we keep doing that lol, so.. any suggestions for this too?
Anyways, during classes I always see him looking at my direction various times, that's also what my bff said to me (she's sitting right beside me and she has noticed that a lot, and she's also tired of it hahaha).
Well, I may be overthinking, because maybe he's looking at my bff and not me.
Sometimes when I feel his eyes on me, I look at him and he looks away. And these are the times when I'm sure he was looking at me.
Not only during classes, but also when there are also other activities I sometimes see him looking at my direction. So.. what do you think?
Thank you in advance and also I hope you're having a good day! :) | Crushes |
Okay so I have a crush on my friends friend who I’m also friends with and my friend who’s friends with my crush just texted me ‘{crushes name} likes you’ and now I’m freaking out bc it could be a joke or some crap or it could be true and I’m anxiously waiting for a response. | Crushes |
My crush (M 37) and me (F 23) have been co-workers for a couple of months. We got along immediately as our workflow matched perfectly and we became friends if I might say so. Unfortunately, his health declined while working at our company. He was struggling with sleeping and became depressed. I was there all along, watching him getting worse and trying everything to make his life easier somehow. It got so bad, he had to quit the job. Safe to say I was absolutely devastated.
He sent me mixed signals while we were working together. Saying that I looked good, that he "liked" me and would love to work with me in the future (we were talking about possibly leaving the company together), he always got super close to me when I was explaining something- the problem? He had a girlfriend (he eventually broke up with her, but they were in a 7+ year relationship and they still live together until they figure everything out, she's out of the country at the moment). I was also seeing someone (casually).
After he quit, we wrote each other a few messages, talking about how hard it was for both of us to "part ways". Eventually, I stopped messaging him, as he told me he is trying to "cut everything related to work" to focus on his mental health. I took that as a hint, to stop contacting him. And I did, it was hard, though. This was about 2 weeks ago.
Yesterday I randomly met him in town. We hugged in excitement and talked a lot. He's doing better. He told me that he wanted to text me but didn't want to make things weird between me and the boy I'm seeing casually - he thought, that he would be jealous. He also asked me if I broke things off with him, which I didn't yet. He also told me he was hoping to meet me somewhere in town and was thinking about writing me to potentially hang out but he was unsure because of the guy. I said that he should've just texted me and that there is nothing serious between me and the guy I'm seeing. He confessed, that he was waiting for my text. We eventually agreed to hang out in the future and that I'd be the one reaching out.
Today I was talking to my other female co-worker which is a good friend of his and me. We made the plans to go for drinks tomorrow after my shift. We decided to invite him as well and I texted him. He was a little hesitant at first but finally agreed, saying he would come by for one beer.
So, this is my chance. It feels like this is the only chance I will get to approach him in this way. Afterward, I'll be going on vacation, and his ex-girlfriend will return, meaning he will be occupied by sorting things out with her. I want to use this chance and find out, if I imagined everything or if he really likes me as well. How do I go about this, without embarrassing myself?
TL;DR: My ex-coworker has been sending me mixed signals. We will be meetings tomorrow for drinks with a friend. How to I find out if he is interested in me without embarrassing myself? | Crushes |
There is this girl I really like and we seem to get on very well, she even invited me out for drinks before and it went great, she was very flirty and touchy and seemed like she had a good time. We were texting back and forth there for a while but the other day she opened my snap and never replied.
In fairness the snap was only a blank snap of my face but it was never a problem before and she sends the same ones to me.
I was pretty bummed that she had stopped talking to me and i thought it best just to leave it and give her space, but the next morning she had added me to her private story, which she never did while we were talking. Its been a few days now and i havent text her nor her me and im wondering if shes just playing hard to get or if shes just not interested and I should cut my losses. She still posts quite a bit in her story and I feel like some of it might be directed at me but im just too uncertain.
Any thoughts or help would be greatly appreciated
(Sorry for format on phone) | Crushes |
There's this person I really REALLY like but I feel like I've gotten feelings to soon but it kinda seems maybe they like me? But idk... They've told me that I'm pretty and they really like my company and more stuff like that but it's a lot more sweet whenever they say it honestly we call alot whenever we can but I just have such strong Feelings for them I don't think I've ever felt such strong emotions about a person before I really just want to know if they like me or not. | Crushes |
I had a crush in him a week after we first met and became friends due to how kind and good of a person he is but he says some things that really confuses me wether he likes me back or not. The 2 that stood out the most was when he randomly called me out of the blue and i asked him "why are you calling?" (i never really expected him to call because he once said no when i asked him if he wanted to call) and he told me "idk i just missed you" and then that one time he said "i love you" as a joke (or so he calls it) but then it gets so frequent and he just randomly in the middle of a conversation would go "Hey, i love you" and before going off he too would say "i love you". And i am really confused about it... | Crushes |
most of my (F18) male friends are usually completely oblivious to the fact that another girl likes them unless she tells them directly. in contrast, i notice both the girl’s behavioral interest towards them, and, personally, when a guy likes me without directly saying it, too.
i’m curious what the statistic is, considering that i never know whether a guy can easily recognize interest in my behavior. | Crushes |
Well, my dumbass thought that even after he told me he didn't wanna talk to me I'd still have a chance
He just completely ignores me, couldn't care less about my existence. | Crushes |
Update about this post : https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11icnp9/i_dont_think_hell_like_me_back/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
I'm 100% sure he knows that I like him and I felt like he was showing me to his two other friends today
And he's other is just staring at me as usual.
I honestly don't think he's interested in me, if he was he would've at least talked to me or smthng because there is no I'm gonna talk to him because I'm too shy and it just doesn't sound right to me ngl | Crushes |
“Are you a parking ticket because you have fine written all over you” was the line (personally I liked that line) luckily my crush knew it wasn’t me because I’m usually too lazy to use capital letters. Agh that was embarrassing | Crushes |
You know when you're stuck in ur home, ur comfort place for like years. And then on you get to go to school and then you get friends a crush on a girl and shes blind to it. When shes fucking nuce to everyone and she texts sweet and when shes just as sweet as a candy t9 the point you cant bear and the fate doesn't let you two get together for some chance. Adn the fact that she looks queer but i can't figure tf out. I'm not in a messed up situation absolutely not | Crushes |
So yeah, like in the title, I stopped messaging her, so that I could move on.
And let me tell you, it is fantastic. I don't have to worry about her, I don't have to be jealous cuz she's texting other dudes.
But then she texts me,
"Everything's okay?"
Nah.
Everything's perfect. | Crushes |
If you’ve read the previous parts, maybe you’ll understand the story.
So, some weird stuff has been happening lately, last Tuesday when that girl about to graduate is always with the teacher.
I was dressed up that day for a guy I like from my school, when the teacher came into the classroom he started looking at me when I wasn’t looking at him.
and he also made a new look to her hair was dressed up.
When he walks away from that girl, he’s always trying to make eye contact with me, I ignored him that day.
Today he was still dressed in yellow very elegant and beautiful when I look at him sometimes tries to ignore because I also ignore him.
today in the morning at 9:00 I saw that he was entering the school and there was a companion of mine who greeted him and instead of watching the companion watched me talking to a friend of mine.
During his class I got the ball in my head and he made a speech saying if one hurts the classmates will takes 4, he does it to defend me.
At the end of class he passed to get something then he quickly passes in front of me. and surely he made it on purpose.
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I would like to talk to him about this question, I said before it could also be my imagination but I do not think. | Crushes |
I've got a big crush on my team leader in work. You could say she's not my usual type - she's about 20 years older than me and probably what most people would describe as objectively average looking at best. I don't know what it is, she's just got something about her. She does have a great figure for her age and a charisma with a slightly flirty twinkle in her eye that makes me melt a bit.
Has anyone else had a weird crush they can't explain? | Crushes |
There's this girl at school that I really like and I want to start talking to her but it's impossible because I'm antisocial and I don't feel comfortable talking to anybody 😅 what do I do??? | Crushes |
It's not really a romantic date. It's just a girl and a guy, together, in a place, talking about themselves about how they've been and what they've been up to. Mom was a little pissed after I told her that I was the one who told a guy to hangout with me when it should be the opposite. We'll hangout on the weekend, I hope nothing will prevent it from happening. It's possible that mom might force me to not leave the house just because he's a dude. The place we're going to takes about a minute or two to walk towards. And, I don't plan to go there in the evening. I pray that things will go well, please. | Crushes |
I confessed to my crush, and she said yes.
We were in a relationship for a month.
She was my first kiss too
She then told me she doesn't feel like she's ready for a relationship.
I respect her choices.
Few days later she's with another guy.
I took another fat L lmaoo. | Crushes |
So
We use to be friends in 2019 online friends and we lived in the same country then I decided to ghost social media for 2 years and my family moved away and then we came back to the country in 2022 and I came back on it onto social media me and him have been online friends in 2019 then I ghosted everyone right then when I came back i went to a school then I saw him their but he didn’t see me so I decided to message him,I found his account but that was his account that he was using in 2019 and it was in September so I messaged him but he didn’t respond at all then 2 weeks ago I was going through my mutuals then I saw an account with this pfp on it then I recognised him and I followed him and he instantly followed me back then I said hiiiii then he was like heyyy and we started speaking n catching up and then I was like I saw u in school n shi right and he was like ima try see uu n stuff but u know my school is not mixed their a boys section and a girls and he’s one of the oldest that goes to the school and he’s in the highest year so he goes to the girls side only his year go to the girls side and theirs a bunch of girls so theirs a low chance he’d ever see me,and ever since I messaged him 2 weeks ago to catch up hes been messaging ever since that day every single day he says gm gn when he leaves the house he says ima go now ima text u later he double texts when I don’t respond fast he instantly opens my messages he sends me a text everyday after school asking me how my day was we speak about school yk when I messaged him it was during the weekdays in school so the only thing we talk about is school but yk when the weekend came he started saying gm to me everyday even on weekends and making conversation with me he tells me his plans n shi and when he’s done with it he messages me and we speak till 4am and for example he wants to get something he always says don’t sleep yet let me get that and he sends a red love heart every night before I sleep and one time we saw each other very clearly bc I told him to hide my phone for me cuz my school is really strict about phones and he’s one of the oldest so he doesn’t get checked and he said that’s no problem I’ll do it for u although it’s risky he still said he would do it and then we made a plan on how I’d give it to him and then I took the piss and said ima wear a mask he said pls don’t wear a mask bc everytime i saw u it was a 2 second thing and I was like fine then he was like saying it’s gonna be the first time we see each other clearly and then when the day came and we saw each other he was staringg and he came up to me closely it was scary tbh and also everytime I don’t come in he always asks me why didn’t u come innn and he has like a bothered tone when he asks me about it And also last night I must’ve slept at around 11pm and he came back from outside at around 10pm so we was in the middle of sending vns so then I disappeared when I sent mine at 11 so then he double texted me at 12am saying where r uuu then at 3am he sent me a snap saying I’m still awake😭 | Crushes |
I'm social dumb please help | Crushes |
I have a crush with ADHD and I miss him so bad. He kept running away from school. I pray to God everyday to let me meet him again and talk again. I want him to know that I'm her to listen about his day and r*nts about life.
He's helpful, kind and funny. But not all times he is in the mood...and I know I should not take it seriously. He's not been going to school, he just go to school once a week and he did it twice. And i hope next week he can atleast go to school 3 times a week because it's draining without him.
Please help me how do I talk to him when I see him again? How should I help him? Give me advise please...☹️☹️ I hope he still kept my letter that I gave him last january, I still have a poem that I also made for him last january but I didn't get a chance to give it to him. | Crushes |
He picked me up, bought me a snack, we kissed. Now he won’t answer my text, won’t pick up my calls. So confused. I don’t want advice just feeling confused and sad. | Crushes |
I wanted to ask out my crush for a brunch or even just a coffee 1-1 how should I approach for it we just always hanged out in grps and alone together not that much so for this to happen how shall I approach for it . | Crushes |
hiiii okay hopefully this doesnt come off too long but i might end up rambling so im srry (TL;DR at bottom)
so in 2020, i met this girl online through roleplaying (nothing weird dw, it was a fantasy roleplay) who i will refer to as B. we were never particularly close at first, but i always thought she was really cool, she always made me laugh and we had very similar interests. however, as months passed, i ended up getting closer and closer to her. it wasnt long before i started considering her one of my best friends. i thought it was just going to be a friendship... but then i realized i liked her a bit more than just as a "friend". we do so many things together, we pull all-nighters just to talk to each other, we play games together for hours on end (i think our record is 10 hours straight!), we have tons of silly inside jokes with each other. i see her as such a cool person, shes so mature and supportive and creative, i literally cannot describe anything bad about her if i tried, but thats probably part of the crushing experience.
heres the thing though... i dont even KNOW if i want to date her. i mean, i dont know if im ready for a relationship, and the fact thats its through DISCORD doesnt help... she lives thousands of miles away! not only that, but i have barely heard her voice (she doesnt like voice calling much cause shes self-conscious about it tho, so i dont mind), i have never seen her face before and she hasnt seen mine, really the personal thing i know about her outside of the internet is that shes my age. another really important thing is that she is asexual, and i dont know her romantic orientation. she could be aromantic and i wouldnt even know! of course, i would support her for that, but i would also feel really dumb... i think she might be questioning, becuase she always avoids talking about her romantic identity in conversations, but im still not certain.
but anyways, i dont know if i want to be her girlfriend or not. i have thought about my feelings towards her a lot, and i usually think "i want to be her partner in crime for life", but that doesnt always mean romance. honestly, i would be fine being anything to her. im not sure what i want to be honest... but my other friends say to me i probably just want to be close with her. tbh, i would be fine with being her bff, i would be fine with being a queer platonic partners, i would be fine with dating. i just want to be with her, you know? its just annoying that i dont know WHAT i want. youd think after 2 years i would know by now!
and before you think "holy crap its been 2 years and you havent said anything??" yea i know.... i want to tell her that i like her SOOOO badly, but i dont wanna ruin what we have. i should note that shes one of the most supportive, understanding people i know (even when she heavily disagrees with someone she is still super understanding), so even if she rejected me we would still probably be friends. but i just worry it would never be the same. i feel like i have waited too long, and it will hurt even more now that its been YEARS. im just scared of her not reciprocating my feelings in ANY way, it will hurt really badly because she is the perfect person for me... even our other friends say so!
oh geez, this is super long, but it felt nice to get off my chest! what do you guys think? any advice, questions, or comments? anything helps!
**TL;DR:** i have known this girl online for 3 years now and have now had a crush on her for 2 years. but there are many problems, such as me not knowing if im ready for a relationship, me not knowing if shes ready, me not knowing all that much about her personal life (other than her age), and me not knowing her romantic identity. but the main problem is i dont even know if its a crush, i just think i want to be really close with her. i would be fine with being her bff OR qpp OR gf, but i dont know!!! if i were to confess, i dont even know what id say, since i am fine with being all 3 of those to her. | Crushes |
I've been texting and talking to this guy, I've known him for about 4 years and we just reconnected in January. I've been talking to him about my family, my problems and playing video games with him and I really liked him. But tonight he called me and asked me for advice to ask out this other girl, whom he goes to school with, we live about an hour away from each other but our schedules collide with each other's so we don't really have much time to hang out in person, but he sent me pictures of his crush, asked for advice and how to talk to her and I'm devastated. I really thought he liked me but he likes this girl instead of me. I'm honestly just like, I now know he isn't interested in me so I kinda feel relieved? I know I'm going to be able to move on but it just hurts to know he doesn't share the same feelings for me as I do for him. I've never really had much success when it comes to dating, most of the people who like me are people I find kind of annoying, they don't share many interests with me, but when I finally talk to someone I really do like and share alot of interests with, they like someone else. Just wanted to get this out of my system to finally be able to get over them | Crushes |
to those who are looking for confessing to another girl:
please get to know them and understand them before you even ask her out. made the mistake and that went absolutely horrible.
also, if she treats you like a piece of shit just don’t bother. you’re not going to get anything out of it.
girls are only nice when they want to be nice. reality is often disappointing. | Crushes |
if you haven’t read the last post please refer to this if you need some context:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11hqvl4/struggle_advice_needed_confession/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
i’m somehow liking my ex again near exams. i probably need some help lol 😭
tbh, she was the one that initiated everything and i was absolutely inconsiderate; i was absolutely sure that i didn’t like her so i said to break up with her. now i’m just confused on if i like her or not tbh. i just don’t like the idea of publicly being in a relationship as well. i’m weird in particular. | Crushes |
Okay first I wanna say I really don't wanna jump to conclusions since we haven't know each other for a long time but I need help knowing if they like me....
Okay first off
We do matching stuff together (ITS SO CUTEEEEE)
they CALLED ME CUTE
They say alot they really like my company and stuff but it's alot more sweet when they say itttt
BUT IDK... I feel like they may like me but we haven't know each other for long but I just like them sm
It hurtssss like I can't stop thinking about them and I'm getting like all AHHHH just making this post
I'm planning on if it continues likes this to maybe cunfess in a month... UGH I LOVE THEM SM IT HURTS | Crushes |
There's this girl I like at my school that I am decently friendly with and same with her.
Every time I think about about asking her out or confessing to her I just start to overthink and I then start to fumble over my words and then it all turns into a mess typically.
I've heard rumours from my friends that are friends with her friends that she "looks happier after talking to me" and that she might have a crush on me too but I don't 100% trust that as recently she has been talking to me less almost as if she's avoiding me and I think I know why.
I was talking to her about how we did on our recent maths mock tests and she tells me she did quite good so I tell her I did pretty shit and I tried hiding it from my mum but she saw me hiding it and questioned me.
This is when I told her that I was stressed af as if my mom thinks I'm hiding something she will 99% of the time search my room and I told her that I had some things I didn't want her to find and that I would be royally fucked if I was found out.
1 ended up telling her that the things I was hiding was some money and a few vapes she then asked if I got the money from being in a gang which I thought was a joke and told her I wasn't jokingly as I live in a rural area of the uk but she was serious. I then tell her reassuringly how I got the money online and that I take it from the atm so my mum didn't get sus on my inflated bank account.
She looked at me as if I was a different person and for the past week she seems distanced from me idk what to do but I feel like I fucked it up telling her about this.
Notes -NSFW because of swearing -I'm in yr 10 - 1 managed to hide my money and throw my vapes away before she searched my room so I'm all good. | Crushes |
Nobody in my life knows I am gay. I live every day in fear and paranoia because everyone around me is actively homophobic. I want to confess to the boy I love but there's absolutely no way he will say yes. I've loved him for several years now, will that be wasteful? I'm so sad because we are just teenagers. It feels an impossible task to forget him. | Crushes |
Today me and my friends were talking and goofing around and they said they I'm pretty LIKE AHHHHH
Blushing and screaming the butterflies in my stomach!!! LIKE EEEE I FEEL like maybe they could like me.... But idk BUT LIKE EEEEE THEY SRE JUST SO AMAZING | Crushes |
This guy i kind of like really seems to keep to himself most of the day. I have more classes with him than i do anyone. 4 out of 7. And in one of them, the seats are set up as desks of twos, and he sits next to me everyday, and has for a month or two now. And we talk sometimes, like about the cars we drive, smoking, teachers we mutually disliked, and work..etc.
Ive also caught him staring at me while talking to his friends, and i've noticed some of them looking at me too. In a different class, a boy who has openly liked me since the begging of this year went up to him once and asked him if he thought i was "fine" and i saw him nod and agree out of the corner of my eye.
I also have a friend who's bestfriend has a crush on him, so to help her out, my friend walked up to him and asked his opinion of her, and he just said "eh", She obviously was all like "What do you mean eh??" And he didn't have much else to say. His friend that he was walking with piped up and stated that her bestfriend wasn't his normal type, and she said that he described someone more like me or my other friend. (She doesn't know im interested)
Some days though, like today, we sit close and i notice him leaning more towards me while he messes around on his phone, and even though he's not looking right at me since he's at my side, i can tell he's paying attention to what i say to the people around me, or what im working on.
So i do think he's attracted, but i guess im wondering if its interest too. If i wasn't so shy myself, and afraid of making a move and screwing the whole thing up, then i'd try and make a small move. Maybe he's shy too?
I just wanna feel him out, but i don't really know how else to tell if he's interested. Whats that look like when talking, or in his body language? If i should make a SMALL move, how should i do that without coming on strong? | Crushes |
Okay, so in my [last post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11lv7lq/would_a_guy_get_these_hints/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button), I talked about the hints I tried to give him and I wanna thank you guys for telling me how oblivious guys actually are. So, maybe I'll try to give more obvious hints now? (I'm sorry I still can't confess)
Now I wanna talk about the hints he gave me.
He looks directly at me when talking in a group. Like making a joke or smth, he's saying it to everyone but he looks directly at me.
He always responds to the jokes I make.
He sometimes gets flirty. Kinda sexually too. (I have no problem with that and he knows it, because I'm usually the one initiating the sexual talks)
He usually gives me his stationary when I don't have something (without asking). Like he notices that I don't have something and then proceeds to give me his.
He sometimes gives me THAT look. Idk how to define it. Like, it's a cute look that makes you feel butterflies.
Now the biggest hints. One day while our group was talking about crushes, he randomly said, "I know you have a crush on me." And my heart went WEEE and I really hope I didn't blush at that time. (I know he was joking tho). He said, "I'm coming to your place tonight." and then spent the whole day asking for my address. He left his own seat and came and sat beside me. He offered me a candy (He's never done that before and it was chocolate day)
But then sometimes he just ignores me like nothing has ever happened.
Relating it to my previous post, We've known each other for one and a half year and our relationship was kinda platonic or frenemy type. After he gave me hints, I also tried to give him hints and that is why I thought he would notice that change in my personality after knowing me for such a long time. But anyways, ig I'm so dumb that I'll never be able to tell him that I like him and he's gonna think that I don't and it's gonna end that way. | Crushes |
I bet he would reply “shrug”
Loool
I was so close to moving on after he ignored an email I sent him then after ages he gets in touch and we were gonna meet up and he didn’t show…. and I’m thinking about him again.
Grrrrr.
I need a brain upgrade | Crushes |
I went from having no friends or anyone I can talk to to having my favourite person ever.
She liked everything I did, we had the same sense of humour, we were both not straight girls, we just clicked when we were together.
I’ve had crushes before, but this was love.
We did everything together, I finally found someone I can trust and call my friend. I also secretly loved her.
I never confessed because we were still in junior high and my mom is against dating until I’m in high school, but I was okay with it because at least I could wait while having a best friend.
I spent 2 years treating her with nothing but respect and kindness, hoping that when I do confess she would like me more.
Nope. Last week she’s been talking to me way less, sometimes out right forgetting I’m there just to talk with her other friends. Not only was I feeling terrible, because my only friend ignored me, but then, I overheard her tell one of them that she’s straight again.
There goes any chances I have.
I’m not just friend zoned, she’s not even acting like my friend any more.
Now I have nobody.
I spent two whole years of sleepless nights thinking about her and how much I love her.
And now I’ve been spending my nights crying.
Sorry, I just needed to vent somewhere and it seems Reddit is my only option here. | Crushes |
so when we do work together i’m very awkward and shy around him barely making conversation (lame i know! horrible, bad, not amazing) but he tries to talk to me and i do talk back like i can conversation once the ball starts rolling like 2 weeks ago a cute nice conversation! but then i see him after 2 weeks i go in his line and i see my other coworker and i talk to her cause she’s conversating w me and like i said hi to him and he says hi but that’s all :( then was quiet and awkward the whole time when i asked for a bag he raised his brows and bagged my stuff :( was he acting like that cause i didn’t talk to him much or what . having crushes suck | Crushes |
Our PE teacher let us out pretty early and she and her friend were already out waiting when I got outside. Not to long later my friend came out and started talking with my crush (they’re friends). My friend and crush came towards me and my crushes friend came over and gave her a dime and told her to give it to someone. She gave it to my friend. Then we somehow got onto the topic of shoes and my friend said she wanted a pair of air forces and my crushes friend and her were talking about how they cost like $110. After that I told my friend that the Dr. Martens I own were expensive and she asked how much. I told her $170 and she was shocked. Then my crush asked what pair of shoes were expensive and I told her Dr. Martens and she said her mom owned a pair. I said that’s cool.
That was the first time she directly asked me something and I got nervous (I don’t know why but I know I like her but I don’t really get nervous around her). But I have my last period with my crush, crushes friend, and my friend and it was very interesting to say the least. | Crushes |
A few weeks ago she told me where she works, at this pizza shop. I went there with a few friends, they knew I liked her and she worked there. I was walking around with them and then we are there at the pizza shop (it's in a shopping centre thay I've never really been to before so I didn't know they were taking me there) then she walked in to work while we were eating, smiled at me
then today at school she was giving me a flirty grin, saying like 'why did yoh go to that pizza shop, why that one specifically', etc and just said 'sure sure' with a grin when I tried to play it off
Yea | Crushes |
I’m in a group of friends at university
Anyway me and this guy out of this group, we ended up kissing one night in a nightclub in October
Afterwards he didn’t message me or anything and I didn’t see him till we had a meet up with all of the group, about 3 months later, I think I seen him once and he said hey but that was it
Anyway on this meet up with the group, he didn’t mention it and acted all normal, then we agreed to go out to the club on Valentine’s Day
Anyway we went on Valentine’s Day and everything was fine and we just talked about general stuff
Then suddenly a few weeks after, he messages me saying it’s over, I’m like what? He’s like whatever this is, it’s over
Then my friend told me, some girl threw herself at him that night in a club and told him she loved him for 3 months and he got with her
Then he randomly rang me up, I’m assuming he got my number of one of the others in the group
And basically told me, he was annoyed I didn’t message him after we kissed, saying he thought I wasn’t interested in him, not that I ever admitted I was
How I apparently ruined his Christmas, cause I never contacted him
Then told me he found someone that loved him for him and he can’t be friends with me anymore, telling me to stay away from the group ( who are also my friends)and how he wants his money back for a drink he bought the group ages ago, he wants my share back and the money for my ticket to a club weeks ago
Then suddenly he starts hearting all my stories!
It’s seriously annoyed me, like wtf, plus the fact I thought he was a decent guy, nerdy type too and he seems like a complete dick
I mean he’s annoying me, his face is in literally every single photo of me and my friends, plus he keeps hearting everything, which makes me be remind of him | Crushes |
i’ve confessed and got rejected but we remained good friends. after a whole year i still like her. i’ve tried to lose feelings but every time i talk to her my feelings just come back. i hate this. liking her makes me feel horrible. | Crushes |
i need some advice pls!
i’ve spent many years in the same school, i’m in my last year (graduating at the end of 2023) and only recently did i start taking notice of a guy in my cohort. i always knew he existed but never felt anything, we’d never even interacted before and never been in the same class. however, one day when i decided to stay in class during break, he was playing chess with my mutual friends, and he suddenly initiated conversation with me, just asking me questions about my progress on schoolwork and whether i play chess etc. i was quite surprised because i’ve heard that he’s the shy introverted type. but he was so so sweet and nice and when i was talking to my friend he would just smile up at me. it was so cute that i started catching feels LOL….. do u think he might have any interest or is it way too early to tell?
but after when we see each other in the halls and stuff we don’t really say hi or anything. another time he was in my class playing chess again and naturally asked me a question again and we had another short convo. however he doesn’t come to class very regularly and i’m tired of waiting or predicting a chance to interact with him again :( should I be bolder and go up to say hi? it’s a bit intimidating to do so when we’re not close and if he’s with his friends who I don’t know..
HELP SHOULD I JUST GIVE UP | Crushes |
Just as some extra info my crush goes by all pronouns, so please be respectful to them. Anyways we do this stupid thing a lot where we just side eye each other over and over and it's the funniest thing to us for no reason and sometimes we just stare at each other and then die laughing afterwards. Several times when we are in class we waste entire class periods just doing that the entire time and being distracted. She also turns super red when she laughs a lot (which is super cute to me <33) one time I had my hand resting on the table and he slapped their hand on top of mine and just stared at me for a few seconds before dying laughing. He also told me that I was his fav of our friends, and talks to me all the time abt the cool stuff she did and their interests and hobbies and fandoms, and has even gotten me into a bunch of shows that we talk abt together. I also know for a fact that they don't have a crush on anyone else bc we talk a lot abt how annoying everyone else is and even the way she talks abt ppl she likes just doesn't give off crush vibes. Another thing is that in school all of our teachers sit us next to eachother without our other friends so idk if they know smth I don't ? And also one of our classmates called us valentines but she didn't hear so idk what her reaction would be | Crushes |
ok- let me sum it up I (14F) was on discord last night. for some background, I and my crush (14M) have this ongoing joke where we say goofy things on discord and then quickly delete them before the other person can screenshot them. so thinking I was safe, I sent him a message saying "Hey (crush) I have a crush on u) and then delete it RIGHT away cuz that's a super lame way to reveal feelings.
so I woke up the next morning to 4 messages explaining how HE GOT THE MESSAGE IN HIS NOTIFICATION BAR ON THE LOCK SCREEN WHEN HE WOKE UP and I FREAK OUT. out of complete shock, I write "what" and then BLOCK HIM???? I was mortified and I did it out of shock, ok?? so I get to school (i go to a super small high school) and I completely ignore him in class.
during lunch he corners me and asks to talk, he said he was very hurt by what I did and I said sorry and explained my thought process- this was followed by 30 minutes (I'm not kidding) of COMPLETE silence between us besides the occasional "uh- I'm sorry.." or "idk what to say now.." and it was THE WORST. after a few more minutes, he says he still likes me and would like to pursue something further and wants to move on from this. personally, I'm SUPER embarrassed. I'm worried that my embarrassment will overtake my feelings for him, and ill hurt him again!
just to put it out there- we have a lot of chemistry, and I'm highlighting the awkward parts here.
so what now? how can i fix this mess?? | Crushes |
I (Female, 14, almost 15) was at theatre and I was curled up on the floor by my friend (and crush)(Male, 16, almost 17). He was sitting next to me while we were getting notes and he said was tired so he laid back on the ground. I leaned a little further back to be next to him like I usually do when he does this, but today he seemed to change his mind because he sat back up and leaned over, placing his head on my knees/thighs said it was comfortable and asked me if I was okay with him laying there, I said yes and later, when he got up, he said he was cold and I was warm and he hugged me.
Before this he’d been sitting in a chair, I was leaning against a table watching him scroll through tiktok over his shoulder (It’s a thing we do pretty often) and he moved the chair over so I could see better, this left part of his back/shoulder against my thigh and he said I was really warm and that made him want to be closer to me.
Do any guys here have advice on how I should take either of these interactions? | Crushes |
doesn’t seem like anyone will :( I guess I’m just not attractive to people(in both ways) | Crushes |
Shes pretty, funny, thoughtful, and recently I learned, has mental issues. I wont get into detail for her privacy, but it distracts me from class. Literally all I want to do is cheer her up, but I can’t. Shes gotten way more open to me about her personal life and mental state since I met her, which makes me really happy. I feel like she trusts me. On the other hand, I feel obligated to match her emotions so that she feels as if I understand her. Also I know the feelings arent mutual because I have asked anonymously and straight up if she has a crush. She has said no. She also broke up with her girlfriend recently, but they were literally together for a day and are still friends. Its really distracting in class also just because I really like her. Fuck life sometimes yk? Ive never had a crush before, this sucks. | Crushes |
tldr; There's a cute girl but I know nothing about her. I don't know if she likes girls or even knows I exist. We have no classes together. What do I do?
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I met this girl recently at soccer try-outs. We had maybe 2 exchanges. The only thing I knew about this girl was like, her name. But I thought she was cool.
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Before practice in the bathroom I ran into her and asked her where practice was, and she answered. She also told me though that she thought I looked young. She said it wasn't an insult or anything. She didn't know my age either so I wasn't quite sure what she meant. Was she nervous and just saying whatever came to her mind? Is she just a talkative person? Anyway,
During practice we were both placed on the same side, and we scuffled a bit. During one of these I was outplaying her in a bit of a way that I was out-maneuvering her in a simple way, and she laughed and it was the most beautiful laugh I'd ever heard. I then proceeded to fall over, and she rushed over to give me a hand, and before I even realized what she was doing I had already gotten up.
Afterwards she called out to me to make sure I was okay.
Maybe this is just completely normal, but no one else there was interacting with me like that, especially cause I'm a bit shy. And she's honestly really pretty and her laugh is beautiful so I kinda just accidentally formed a bit of a crush. Now that I type this all out it seems like normal behavior but I don't know. I'd like to be her friend or ask for her number to see if I'm interested.
The problem is, I don't know her age or anyone who knows her. We don't have a single class together, and I've only seen her out in the hallway like once since soccer. I don't know what to do. >\_>
(And going to soccer again to see her isn't an option... I got rejected at try-outs lol...) ((Though to be fair track practices right next to soccer, so maybe I could stay late after track and wait to see her outside when soccer is done?? Is that creepy??? ugh I don't knowww :/. Help!)) | Crushes |
I’m in 7th grade(13 y/o) and I got my first crush. I don’t know what to do, it feels so awkward as does everything in this weird time of my life. I don’t want a relationship because I’m in middle school, that’s too early. I’m also not sure how she feels about me. Any advice, maybe from people who have or are in similar situations? | Crushes |
Why do you still not confess to your crush? Are you too scared of rejection, or you don't have enough courage to tell him/her? Or maybe you're brave, but you just don't want to admit it?
Are you too scared or too stubborn? Vote, then share your thoughts in the comments below!
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My friends may know of my Reddit account, hopefully they don't see this cus I haven't told any of them about this yet. I think I might have a crush on one of my friends. It's hard to differentiate between platonic and romantic love, but regardless I do love him. It's refreshing to have a crush on someone who's already my friend. In that sense we already know that we vibe well together. Then again, there's the worry of ruining the friendship if anything happens.
My crush has stated that he has a crush on one of his friends. He said that he's afraid of risking the friendship if he were to make a move though. And I assume he's a bit hesitant to commit to anything too "serious," as we are still only high schoolers. He broke up last year with a boyfriend of a few months, who was manipulative and a player. So it's understandable that he's hesitant, hell, I am too. From what he has described and context clues that I've picked up on, I'm pretty sure that he's crushing on me. To be honest, I didn't genuinely consider him as a potential crush until recently. And that's because in my eyes, he's way out of my league. I just thought that it would be futile to crush on him because I convinced myself I wasn't worthy. But now that we've gotten closer, I've realized just how much I love him.
I'm not sure where to go from here. I don't know what he wants specifically, and am unsure as to what I want either. I'll probably just end up asking him what he wants. I want whatever he does, and whatever makes him happiest. For now we've just been flirting and enjoying each other's company. We both understand that high school relationships are often just practice, and that's okay.
I haven't had an opportunity to share any of this to anyone yet, so if you read this, I greatly appreciate it. I'd love any advice, or if you want to share any similar experiences and how it went! Hope you have a wonderful day :) | Crushes |
we've been friends for two years, I liked him last year but right now my feelings are confused. I have had multiple sources tell me he likes me and wants to do something about it. I don't want to ruin the friendship we have. What do I do? | Crushes |
I'm trying to understand the sudden change of behavior. We're both introverts, but he laughs and seems more talkative with others in class, and I feel kinda invisible to him if I come around. When we walk together he has a more serious attitude. I don't know if he caught the fact that I like him because i'm generally shy.
Are some of you all similar to him? What do you think? | Crushes |
We’ve been together for about two weeks, I went to kids her, but at the last second she turned her head so I kissed her on the cheek. Afterwards, I told her I was sorry for rushing things. She said it was ok, that she thought she was ready, but just panicked, and that she hopes we get there one day. She told me she wasn’t hurt in any way, and that she was scared she hurt me. What should I do? | Crushes |
Okay so basically I like to sing in my free time. I have some recordings of myself singing on my phone. I played it to my crush. He told me I sounded good and gave me a 10/10. A few days later I find out from someone else that he told them I don’t sound very good and I need to work on it. It kind of destroys me that he would lie to my face and tell me that I sound good when I don’t. Should I be mad or am I just overreacting? Why would he lie why not just me the truth so I won’t be delusional? Now it feels like I can’t trust him and if he lied about this then there’s no telling what else he would lie about. | Crushes |
I don't plan to date anytime soon and I already know someone who I really really like (and who likes me back, for some weird reason), but I was just wondering what people thought about it.
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So I(M20) like this cute girl (F20) from my college.Today I went for a coffee with her and our friend group, and I noticed how similar we are, we just love/ hate same specific things. I want to impress her and get her to want to be around me more. How am I supposed to do that? She said to me once that I am a likeable guy and that she loves talking to me. | Crushes |
I am a 27 year old man. This woman looks like she’s in college .
This woman told me “I love your t shirt
“ when I was checking out. She also sometimes talks to me. When another girl told me “I like your name” when I was ordering frozen yogurt at the same shop, she looked in my direction, seems like jealousy. Sometimes we talk. She usually starts the convos
Thoughts? | Crushes |
I (15m) have been crushing on this girl in my grade (14f) for the last year of school. She talks to me a lot and jokes around with me but I think she has a crush on this other guy “A” I want to tell her but am scared I will get rejected and
will not talk to me. What should I do? | Crushes |
I have known this girl I have a crush in since we were born, she a month before me same year. We became best of friends and she knew i had a crush on her once before as we dated for about a week but this was in grade 3 (we are Australian btw for clarification). She has had other boyfriends since then and its been 9 years since us. I have recently had a severely traumatic experience being sexually assaulted by another friend of mine that I knew was gay and rejected on multiple occasions.
She was there for me at the height of it all, I figured out I need to tell her my feelings but it's been 9 years since I've openly confessed to any crush and my anxiety goes off-the-charts. What should I do? | Crushes |
I have known this girl I have a crush in since we were born, she a month before me same year. We became best of friends and she knew i had a crush on her once before as we dated for about a week but this was in grade 3 (we are Australian btw for clarification). She has had other boyfriends since then and its been 9 years since us. I have recently had a severely traumatic experience being sexually assaulted by another friend of mine that I knew was gay and rejected on multiple occasions.
She was there for me at the height of it all, I figured out I need to tell her my feelings but it's been 9 years since I've openly confessed to any crush and my anxiety goes off-the-charts. What should I do? | Crushes |
Alright I have a huge crush on my bosses daughter. She works a few days a week at the family business like her whole family is there everyday mom, dad, sisters and all. But anyway been kinda scared to flirt with her and looking for ways to do it kinda secretly
We talk a good bit and have rode to get some things before and hit it off talking all the way there. Her parents are strict though My coworkers have told me that her parents have kept her from dating. There also is a age difference I'm 20 she's 18 | Crushes |
Hello! Today I was asked by the teacher to help pass out an assignment and I kinda tripped (maybe a few times) and I heard someone say, “Oh my god he’s so awkward.” Is that a compliment or an insult? I’m 6’4 (193cm) and I stumble kind of a lot because I don’t have great control of my extremities so I’m just curious. | Crushes |
I want to be able to speak to them and hold a conversation without it being interrupted by a bad meme reference that was shat out from my mouth! | Crushes |
Do u stalk your crush?
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There’s this girl I like at my school that I am decently friendly with and same with her.
Every time I think about about asking her out or confessing to her I just start to overthink and I then start to fumble over my words and then it all turns into a mess typically.
I’ve heard rumours from my friends that are friends with her friends that she “looks happier after talking to me” and that she might have a crush on me too but I don’t 100% trust that as recently she has been talking to me less almost as if she’s avoiding me and I think I know why.
I was talking to her about how we did on our recent maths mock tests and she tells me she did quite good so I tell her I did pretty shit and I tried hiding it from my mum but she saw me hiding it and questioned me.
This is when I told her that I was stressed af as if my mom thinks I’m hiding something she will 99% of the time search my room and I told her that I had some things I didn’t want her to find and that I would be royally fucked if I was found out.
I ended up telling her that the things I was hiding was some money and a few vapes she then asked if I got the money from being in a gang which I thought was a joke and told her I wasn’t jokingly as I live in a rural area of the uk but she was serious. I then tell her reassuringly how I got the money online and that I take it from the atm so my mum didn’t get sus on my inflated bank account.
She looked at me as if I was a different person and for the past week she seems distanced from me idk what to do but I feel like I fucked it up telling her about this.
Notes
-NSFW because of swearing
-I’m in yr 10
-I managed to hide my money and throw my vapes away before she searched my room so I’m all good. | Crushes |
She made up an imaginary person, didn't give their name, and said they had a crush on me. I did secretly want to be with her instead but I was curious to know who it was. She made me believe it was real for a few days and kept giving random hints about who it could be. I face timed her for hours talking to her trying to know who it is but she just kept on giving the smallest hints. We were talking today and I was guessing who it was. I eventually asked her if she had a crush, and she said yeah.
After going back and forth asking questions about who we like we narrowed it down to some people in our friend group. Then I said I liked her. I wasn't sure if she felt the same so I acted like I double crosses her to figure out the person who had a crush on me. She said if I was joking she'd throw hands with me and I eventually admitted I seriously liked her. I asked if she had a crush and she said it was me. Thank god.
tl;dr | Crushes |
We talk a lot and flirt but idk. We’ve talked about everything under the sun and now we’re at this weird stage where we are so comfortable with each other but we have nothing to say. I’m scared of boring him and he just loses interest 💀 what should I do??? | Crushes |
So there’s this guy I like who I’m going to call Olive. I have two periods with him and just started liking him a couple of months ago. It’s just a small crush but I don’t get over crushes easily.
About 4-5 months ago I got asked out by a different guy in one of my periods with Olive, who were going to call Pear. I didn’t like Pear, so I nicely said “no thanks”. After that, his friends wouldn’t take no for an answer and kept asking me why I rejected Pear. I didn’t want to say something like “I like someone else”, or “I don’t like him”, as his specific friend group was known for not leaving girls alone. In a panic, I said the first thing that came to my mind which was “I like girls.” To be fair, I wasn’t lying. I am bi with a preference for guys. Plus, this did work and they left me alone. However, the next day Pear apparently told a bunch of people in said period that I was a lesbian, and I’m assuming Olive heard considering he and Pear sit next to eachother.
I’ve completely moved on from that but I’m only now realizing that in Olive’s eyes, I’m lesbian. I’m not friends with Olive, and we have no mutual friends. It would be akward if I somehow tried telling him that I’m not lesbian. Considering that for the past 4-5 months, Olive has thought I’m a lesbian, I doubt he likes me anyway.
The obvious answer would to be getting over it, but like I said earlier, I don’t get over crushes easily. If anyone has any advice or anything that would be great | Crushes |
I feel like there are some signs of reciprocity from him, but it might as well be my delusion/wishful thinking and he's just being friendly. So I need some perspective.
We've been friends for several months and I think we're really close now. Even though we haven't hung out in person many times yet because he seems to be busy, we text each other almost every day. I feel comfortable enough to tell him about personal/serious things in my life, and have done so a few times. We also tend to give compliments to each other regularly.
At one point it became apparent to me that he was bi, because one of his 'close friends' stories on Instagram talked about being attracted to men, and he recently broke up with his girlfriend, which means he's not gay. He's also sent me some funny bi/gay memes, some of them with sexual undertones (e.g. one of them showed pictures of men kissing each other). After that I told him I'm bi too, and his response was friendly/non-judgemental (ofc) but not necessarily flirtatious.
Some other possible signs: the last time we met, we were talking about relationships, and how I sometimes feel desperate for love and therefore not 'ready' for a relationship. He suggested that I don't give up on finding a partner, but also keep working on myself. Then he asked me out of the blue 'what are the top reasons someone should date you?' He liked my answers and said they were really good reasons. He also showed/sent me selfies of him dressed up or with make-up (no queerphobia in the comments please). I responded 'beautiful' to keep the ambiguity between 'these photos/clothes are beautiful' and 'you look beautiful'! But he also uploaded like two similar selfies on his IG story for close friends, so again, it might not be a sign.
I really need some objective opinion on whether he might be into me as well. I literally can't stop thinking about this rn. | Crushes |
Quick context: both year 11, nearly at GCSEs, likely going different ways after secondary school.
In short, the last time I posted, it was about a girl who started hanging out with the group I'm in, but she had a *complicated* friendship with one of my close mates and I didn't want to ruin my friendship with my mate by asking her to prom(or homecoming if your american).
Now, I know all things are calm between my mate and the girl and they aren't getting shipped anymore.
Some rumours came out that the girl liked me, and there has been a suspicion that I like her (which I do), so now I am the one getting shipped with her.
Overall, the whole thing is a big mess right now and I need some help/tips on how to progress. Because we're probably going different ways after school, I feel like making a move at prom is too late for us to become a thing, but I don't know how to make a move during normal school time.
I appreciate if you've read all this btw | Crushes |
Alright, so, my brother's best friend (22m) and I (21f) would sometimes chat every once in a while cuz I'd comment on a story post he'd post on his insta, today was no different, except he asked to hang out out of the blue.
Here's the thing, last year, we were supposed to hang out, but something popped up for him (family thing), and we just loosely said that we could hang out some other time. At that time, I had a massive crush on him as well, and I wasn't really trying not to show it, but fast forward to now, I'm not into him anymore (I think? I dont know anymore), and it's been quite a long while since we said we'd reschedule the hang out.
You might think, "So it's not out of the blue." it is, we were talking abt my brother, and he just randomly asked when I would want to hang out.
I might be reading too much into this, but my friend did tell me at some point (when I still liked him) that he might be interested (which I brushed off, cuz I mean, why would he??) but now I'm thinking she may be right about this cuz the second I stopped showing interest, he started to lowkey show some interest???
Am I reading too into it, or is he actually interested?
Also, we're hanging out tomorrow💀 | Crushes |
I'm 26, career driven, super focused, think before you say anything kind of person. Never been in love - I always chose career, opportunities or education over realationships even friendships, so I'm not quite touchy feely.
I've met someone (online) exactly 4 months ago. We write every single day over 500 messages if not more, basically 24/7. Yes. Met her when she had a shitty bf, fell deeply in love, I announced it to her, ofc got rejected. 2 weeks after he hit her and she dumped him ( I never said "I told you so" but guy was a super shithead. He ruined her prom). I was always a good friend to her, did not judge her and I really love her unconditionally. She said for me to please wait, she has to heal, but she likes to be called "honey" and all other cute things. Also I have a ton of rules for example, never admit someone you want to be with them when they're with others or if they rejected you once, drop them and never speak. I broke all rules I had, for her, which has never happened before.
Oh, we also are long distance, but my profession would allow me to move whever I want ( she's from my original country, I've moved 1000+ kms away).
Thing is, I never was in love that that, super hard, in anyone. I used to be a shitty bf, date without really loving someone. But she's the one that absolutely means the world for me. She's also a tattoo artist. She has a TON of male friends since well, she has a ton of clients and she's very good looking.
Is it normal to be so deeply in love to just miss someone when they're not here? For example, we were supposed to spend womans day together talking, but she had a client (tattoo) and well, she does not respond. Of course your mind goes to the worst possible thing (aka she's dating him), but I'm more concerned (insomnia, takes heavy pills) and a bit more jealous than anyhing else ( jealous that i can't spend time with her physically rn).
I've never thought I can be so deeply attached to someone. Until I met her I was 100% career (which is going very well!) but now I want to drop it all (or postpone) for her. Man. Love is something different. It's such a high! I think it's my first time in actual true love, wonder where it leads. | Crushes |
He’s literally just so cute. He looks like a character from a movie I’ve seen. He’s got blonde hair and blue eyes and pale skin and stud earrings and a cute smile and a cute laugh, and a cute voice.
I’m a freshman (15) and he’s older than me. I think he’s a sophomore as he’s always in the freshman building and there aren’t a lot of Senior or Junior classes in that building. Also he takes ceramics which (if he’s taking ceramics 1 which I think he is cuz I’m pretty sure 6th period ceramics is 1) then he’s probably a sophomore cuz not many juniors and seniors take ceramics 1.
I really hope I have an elective with him next year. | Crushes |
Idk I thought it was usually the other way around with crushes. My past crushes have been like that. But when I'm not around her, I feel like I easily get lost thinking about our past conversations and when I'll get to hang out with her again. All that goes away when I'm actually with her. Our interactions feel very natural, and we just talk like really good friends. Do I have issues? | Crushes |
So I've been friends with my crush for 4 years and I honestly couldn't have picked sum1 better as a crush, as a friend they're amazing and I have liked them for 2 years now and in the. months I found out they liked me too so we got really close but we never dated because they weren't ready for a relationship. A couple months after they told me they liked me they then eventually said they don't really like me anymore like that. here I am couple months later and I still want to be with them, were really close still just not as close, we cuddle and hug everyday uh we even hold hands everywhere we go but idk if they are capable of liking me in the future if they have liked me in the past. Could they like me in the future???
Someone please reply thank you ✨✨✨ | Crushes |
Alright so this is a kind of update from my previous post. So my crush had gained some sort of confidence and was becoming more bold in his advances. He was staring at me at the same time as I was ( No shit Sherlock), and he even sat on the same desk as my group, waved at me as a cute hi ( which I reciprocated). I was really hopeful that *something* was happening. But then after today.I think it took a back seat.
We were paired in partners today and I was paired with a boy with whom I don’t talk much. My crush was glancing at me and him. Then our activity began and I actually was having fun with my partner. He was energetic, almost like a cat with zoomies . We were fooling around and I was laughing a lot. I remember seeing my crush glancing at me and him with a stone face ( he was wearing a mask so i couldn’t see his entire face). Afterwards, he didn’t do anything. When I was talking to his friends, he didn’t hang around us like the past days and left the class almost in a hurry. I also didn’t see him at the usual spot where his friends would hang out.
I think he was sulking or something. Thoughts?
TLDR; my crush was making progress with me. Then I got paired up with some other guy and now I think he is sulking. | Crushes |
Update to this post https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11jfb35/ventneed_for_advice_i_18m_crushed_on_this_girl/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
So i messaged her yesterday. We firstly talked about our fav bands and albums. Then, mid conversation, she realized that she knew me (bc as i said we were in the same school), we talked about general life stuff and what studies we are currently doing. It was going pretty good so far. Then we came back to music and we hit off really well. Turns out we love the same bands and have common interests in music. She even proposed to create a shared spotify playlist so that we could share new songs, pretty cool ! Making progress.
I was so happy all day, i kept thinking about her when i heard the songs :) My heart is kinda melting. I hope we'll keep texting and maybe go further (???) but it's way too soon to think about that.
Should I go slow or full flirt mode ? Sorry for my foolishness, I dont really know what to do bc it's my first time using dating apps and im not sure what the other really expects.
TL:DR : talked about music and life, we hit off pretty well (i think). She created a common spotify playlist to share songs. What do i do now ? Keep it slow or go flirt mode ? | Crushes |
So me and my crush met each other about 3 months ago and have easily become great friends and long story short I’ve developed feelings for them and I’m pretty confident (80% sure) they also have a crush on me. So I want to confess to them but I really don’t know how and honestly am really scared, I don’t want to lose them as a friend because I really enjoy talking to them but also really want to be in a relationship. I wanted to confess in person but I’m leaving on a trip for a week, and then they leave on a trip two days after I get back next week. Would it be weird to ask them out right as they leave for a week or no? Im just worried about momentum and stuff I guess. Idk what to do, maybe just confess over text? What should I do? | Crushes |
In one class my crush sits behind me. what should i say or do? | Crushes |
So, I know my crush for a long time, infact in class I know her more than her best friend and have known her for longer.
So Heres The plot.. We have a close friend (lets call him init) and we have my crush (lets call her rea)
2 weeks before the confession me and init were going to the school buses while having a conversation about a t&d where he lied of having a crush.. he told me that he had a crush on rea.
Apparently i was the first person to know it. after the weekend we get to school and wallah the whole class knows it.. Because he said it to a person in his bus which then told basically to everyone...
1 week before the confession we and the bois are chillin' out at the canteen and suddenly rea comes in and ask for some notes and shit..Then leaves and gives me a drink which she bought. Sitting next to me watching this is init. He was clearly disturbed or sum sort and I jokingly say
"yo init time to confess" out of the blue.. Init is kinda quiet child but also not like a introvert so after a little bit of hesitation he gave in(mostly because of me , yeah i know im cruel :) ) out of the blue we just go in together to her.. And when he got into eye contact with rea, a girl next to her who was all listening to the things we were saying later just said what init had to say... init clarified he meant to say that and... She just ignored him... Yeah just walked away. Obv he was kinda sad but we and the girl was literally dying inside 💀. I clearly knew the result of the confession and i and rea actually had a conversation in our bus about init and i got to know that she was actually really kind and she just talked to init so that he didn't feel bad. Later we though he would just move on.. But he didn't. So you see this wasn't a actual confession rea thought that init was just doing a dare or smthing and actually didn't have feelings for her or smthing..
A week later. Dude enters class with the cringiest "confession letter". I am the first to read it unironically and then spreads the news to the bois to prepare for giving her the letter.
Somehow she actually knew the letter was coming. So when i and rea boarded the bus and init came in with a new letter which is "less cringe" but is actually more cringe and tells me to give it to rea she said she didn't want it.. LIKE I JUST CAME INTO THE VIEW OF HER AND SHE JUST SAYS SHE DOESN'T WANT IT LIKE WTF?
Anyhow we had a beautiful conversation about what she didn't like about him and such. Which then i continued to tell init all of this..
Day later when rea and init meet after the letter was giving to rea. She obv said no and guy went to a completely another level of depression that bro we think he needs something more than antidepressants(no hes not suicidal like depressed.. just sad?)
Btw rea is like the more liked girls in class so she does get alot of love letters etc.. even from fucking boys 2 grades below us 💀
Anyhow lesson of the day don't trust your friends. and don't be friends with me.
Thanks for reading this shit post was fun writing this. | Crushes |
There is one universe with the possibility of many other parallel universes besides ours, at least that’s what scientists say.
I see it differently. Even in this universe we’ve got multiple other ones. Because talking truthfully, we each live in our own universe.
And because of that, we might never experience the same thing from all points of views. We might never know how it felt to see the same concert just two seats further left.
We might never see what other people see in us. We might never experience ourselves the way another person does.
In my universe, you were so right for me.
I saw us as something connected by a higher force than just a simple 'crossing each other on the street'.
And though it might be true that in my universe you were the right person for me, your point of view could have been totally different.
In your universe, I was maybe just a cross-by, a stranger. Perhaps I was a friend, a lesson learned or just simply nothing.
Because how could I really ever know what we meant to each other when neither of us would take a step forward together.
Our universes were colliding at some point, crossing over, bringing us together just to tear us apart again.
I will never get to see myself through your eyes and I probably shouldn’t want to either.
But the 'what-ifs' and 'could-bes' I simply can’t let go.
What if you fell for me first, what if I’d fall for you too and what if we could work things out?
What if the things we went through weren’t all for nothing, what if we wouldn’t lose each other and what if our universes were actually the same;
What if you could see yourself through my eyes, what if we were actually both experiencing the exact same thing at the same time?
And what if we had felt the same for each other at some point?
But it’s not like that, at least not in this life.
Because while in your universe everything is said and done, I still have so many more things to say and do.
Just as we collided we are now drifting apart again.
And while you move on I try to collect the bits and pieces of myself that didn’t leave with you.
Though I might just be a page, a sentence or a word in your book, I am trying to close the chapter of yours you left unfinished in mine. | Crushes |
Is it okay to ask my crush about her exam result, or is it too much for a personal question. I want to ask because Her result came out yesterday and if she clears her exam she’ll be able to come to my university. If it’s okay how should I ask her? | Crushes |
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well i cried myself to sleep last night if that tells you anything about the current situation.
basically they don’t feel the same way but we’re still gonna be friends. it’s not a personal thing they just aren’t able to do relationships right now.
im….not sure how im feeling right now. actually scratch that. i know im sad and im hurting but i also know im not resentful towards them. the fact that it’s nothing personal about me helps a bit, but i still feel like i’ve got this gaping hole in my chest.
i know i’ll be okay eventually. i hope things can return to the way they were with us, but i need time to process and heal. this is the strongest i’ve ever felt for someone, and it’s not gonna go away overnight. for now, i’ll cry it out over ice cream at night and cover it up with a smile at work and hope they don’t notice how much this is affecting me.
thank you to everyone who wished me well. im sorry this isn’t the happy ending we were all hoping for. if anyone wants to commiserate or has tips for dealing with heartbreak, my dms are open. | Crushes |
hi
so I (17F) have had a crush on a guy for about 2 years now and have been trying to move on from him for the past 1 year but can't. We only text each other, mostly about studies and work. We don't even talk in school even if we see each other.
I don't have the guts to tell him and he is most probably committed. Now few weeks back one of my closest friends confessed to me. I told him about my crush so that it would be fair to him.
Now I have figured out that I like my friend too. I asked him if he will date me if I have feelings for both him and the other guy he replied that he would date me if I liked him more. So should we date or not? as I have feelings for both. I don't want my friend to be insecure in the future if we date. | Crushes |
so i like this one guy in my school and i only know so little abt him. The only informations i got for him is from his bestfriend that is also my good friend. She said that he rarely care about anyone and the first time i saw him, she said that he asked about me and even she is surprised by it. I was so happy when i heard abt it. And then later, he followed me first in ig and she said that she rarely follow people first. I was REALLYY happy but then got very confused bcs after me, he followed more ppl first. Do yall think he’s interested in me? Is there a possibility that he likes me? | Crushes |
But I don't wanna bother him a lot.
What should I do? | Crushes |
i (F21y) have a big crush on this guy who works at my local grocery store. i always thought he was cute and last year he asked me about my piercings saying he wanted one etc. i come in a few times a week and he's super nice (ik thqts his job but like nicer than to other customers). for the past few months i really developed a crush on him and out more effort into looking good whenever i go there. he stares at me A LOT. he's often walking by close to me, or stops unpacking stuff when i walk in and smiles and looks at me. i brought my friend one time and she says he was looking at me as we walked out too. it's hard to explain every detail, english isn't my first language. anyways i don't know how to approach him or ask for his number without being inappropriate when he's at work, and i'm very shy. any tips? | Crushes |
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