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based off of my previous post here, i confessed to him yesterday after class. he was really sweet about it (even though we’re friends i’m still a bit shy and it took a lot out of me to tell him lol)
he smiled at me and told me that the felt the same!! i’m still trying to process everything but we talked all of last night and apparently he’s liked me for a while too. we’re hanging out tomorrow! thank you to those who’ve sent me encouragement and kind words :) | Crushes |
As the title says, we have a date next weekend. I'm really excited for it and idk where we'll go yet but we'll figure it out. So happy she said yes!! | Crushes |
Okay so, Ive known a guy in another classroom for 5 years, we are great friends. everyday omw to school i normally do not sit with him on our bus but i want to. yesterday i sat with him in the window seat and i was really upset and tired. so i put my hood up and head against the window and just as i was about to fall asleep we tapped me and kept asking if i was okay, he was smiling and blushing. i have a feeling he likes me back. But when i was just getting on the bus (before all of that happened) i heard his friend say "oh so how was ur first day in ur new relationship?" so he might be dating someone and i dont wanna make a move. but relationship could also mean friendship.. right? | Crushes |
My friend (m) and I (f) are both 18 and we live in the UK, we have hung out 3 consecutive nights in a row, two of those, yesterday and tonight we have had a couple of drinks together.
We love spending time with each other and we are slightly similar with the way we talk and drink, etc. He bought a bottle of string alcohol a couple of hours ago and he poured some in my cup and we drank it straight, I liked it to some extent and then we mixed it with my favourite fizzy juice and it was better than what it is like when mixed with coke.
He continued to drink his bottle while I switched to a less powerful alcohol and we watched one of my favourite movies as he had never seen it before.
I love him as a friend but I don't know if I see him as something more or I am just slightly drunk.
He is the one I go to when stuff goes bad in my life and he helps me through it, he has also said that he dislikes my brother because of his personality as well as how my brother has treated me through the years.
He has said that out of the two of us, I will be the first to get into a relationship because he has no luck with women, I was there when he had feelings for me but he did nothing to pursue me even while I reciprocated those feelings. We are very similar when it comes to human contact, I don't mind it unless it's someone who I don't mind touching me but he hates it and won't touch anyone unless it's me, whether it be play fighting or putting his hand on my shoulder.
I just feel stupid and I thought I was over him but I don't know if I am or not. | Crushes |
So I’m starting to think the guy I’m interested in may not work at the store anymore (I’ve talked about this guy on here). The last maybe 3 or 4 times I’ve gone, he wasn’t there. I mean people take off days or vacation time so it could literally be that since so ppl are out on spring break but the thing is now I’m wondering how old this guy is?? what if he’s younger than I thought, now I’m losing my mind bc what if this whole time I’ve been interested in a 17 year old. But then again college students do get spring break as well so he could easily be in college like me bc tbh he does look like a 19-20 year old. I think all of my worrying and overthinking comes from the fact that not only am I a libra but I also have ocd which explains the overthinking nature but overall I just hope that he didn’t quit but then again if he felt like that was the best decision for him than ofc I would want him to do that but then again like I said before I hope he didn’t quit so I can finally just say something to him so I can go on about my life without worrying or constantly replaying the “what ifs”. I just want to see him again. Like I had multiple opportunities to say something to him but I chickened out and now he may not even work in the freaking store anymore.
But I’m going to i keep us positive and hope that’s I see him again and hopefully he says something to me first but if not than I’ll just say something to him | Crushes |
So me and this girl who we will call Keira, are close friends and have been for years, but when we were very young I’m talking under ten years, we were on and off couples. Recently we’ve been talking for hours overnight and it’s been honestly so fun, and there been times we’ve flirted like when we were playing smash or pass I plucked up the courage to say my name and she said smash and moved on very quick but that’s just one example. Eventually it happened but for the other way round. We trash talk each other a lot but as jokes but a few times I nearly let it slip that I like her. At one point I’m sure she liked me but recently we’ve been shipped so much etc that she might have lost feelings, and at one point she also said her longest crush was a few weeks. Am I too late or did she never like me | Crushes |
I met this guy at a concert a couple of weeks ago and we hit it off I can tell there’s something there he followed me on instagram and has been liking my stories of me but hasn’t reached out anyways the friend I found met him through we aren’t that close but we are sort of.
Anyways I haven’t seen him since the first time I’ve met him or communicated and tomorrow night me and my friends planned on going to this club but awfully coincidentally his band is playing! Meaning the girl I met him through and the rest will be there and now I feel weird about showing up as if I’m uninvited but it’s just a weird coincidence | Crushes |
two weeks no school also means two weeks of no him… help me relive some mems :’) | Crushes |
I'm incredibly dense, and I never seem to notice when a guy likes me. So can someone please help me out and tell me what are some signs that a guy likes a girl but is hiding it | Crushes |
Me being the big brain I am, came up with a 200 IQ plan. I had my friend tell my crush that I like her, so I wasn't the one to ask cause that shit scary. Then when she asked me if I liked her I said yes and she told me she liked me too. All I can say is W | Crushes |
Idk how to start this so I'll just get to the depressing point, I'm good friends w my crush and she gives the biggest mixed signals, I'll catch her staring at me and she reposted a tiktok about her crush and it perfectly described me. We have hung out a few times and message a good bit, but lately I'll have messaged her and she just won't reply, I don't want to double message cause I've done that before after she's messaged me, we were messaging last night and I sent her a message she didn't open, i thought nothing of it because it was really late and the next day I messaged her for a random reason forgetting that I messaged her last night, on Snapchat you can see when someone was last online and she was online two hours after I sent the message. I'm really scared that she thinks I'm a creep, please help I don't know what I should do | Crushes |
I like this guy in my school. In my class actually. We’ve gone to school together for 7 months now. And I LOVE talking about him. So please allow me. | Crushes |
So, the story with my recent crush is that we have barely ever talked despite being classmates for 3 years. Our class interacts a lot in general, but his group's girls are more open to me than his group's guys. The girls are enthusiastic, the guys are too shy to mutter even a hi. They say hi to the whole class though.
And my crush is the tallest in class, I'm amongst the shortest girls, so people keep calling me "kid" jokingly. He has been my first ever crush in college (I liked his personality when he used to interact during online classes, his face wasn't clear there tho). I had a major crush on someone else tho, and I'm trying to get over that guy and this recent one keeps popping up again and again because ig I never got him outta my head anyway.
We went on an industrial visit and during the whole trip he kept stealing glances at me. I admit I looked cuter than most days ig, cause even girls who I rarely talk to in class said I looked cute. So I was happie. And he kept noticing. He even gave me an ice cream that day, despite my friends also standing there. He was generally going around giving icecreams too but in my grp, it was only me who he gave it to (our prof was paying for those). It was a cute thing idky.
And some days later, while I was sort of in his direct view while studying something from the teacher, I caught his eye when he was looking at me. It was a blissful sight. I noticed his brown eyes and kinda got nervous and left to drink water and didn't even look up in that direction again when I came back to my place. It was a beautiful feeling still tho.
I wish he would have the same feelings as me. I don't want to confess because we have barely ever talked. I just like his sincereness and his overall personality. It is not love tho, just a crush. And he now rarely watches my IG stories even tho he used to watch all of them earlier.
P. S. the worst part is that we just have like 10 days left in college. We will be never seeing each other again: ( | Crushes |
It’s been about a little more than a year since we met and we’ve had a lot of history made since then. Right now though, we’re not talking, and haven’t been for a few months. If I’d made better decisions, we would’ve been dating a long time ago, but I’m stupid.
We have one class together this semester but we never talk in it, nor do we acknowledge each other very often. Just a few quick glances every now and then. I thought I’d moved on, but these past few nights I’ve been reading our old texts to each other, and realized that I have not met another girl who has the same effect on me, even after I’d moved on from her.
I could write novels on certain events that led us here but I don’t want this to be too long. My birthday’s in a couple days and I’m not sure whether she’s going to send me a message or not. I remember last year even though our relationship status wasn’t so great she still made sure to message me, but we’d still talked every once in a while that time.
If she messages me, I’m sure I could figure something out, but if she doesn’t I plan on messaging her. I have no clue how she feels or thinks about me now. What I need guidance on is, if she replies dry and all how do I respond?
If it goes well, something that very negatively affected us was me never making efforts to talk to her in person. I feel like I might still struggle with that because I feel like it would be weird if this boy and girl in a class who appear to have never talked to each other nor acknowledge the other’s existence suddenly talk everyday. I don’t want my teacher to think I’m cringe. | Crushes |
Me and this guy have some history. We have been friends for over a year. A few months back we were on a vacation and we cuddled, and layed on eachother,overall was super close. Behind closed doors we was caring and sweet and held me but in front of our friends he would be distant and push me away.
A few months past after the vacation and he completely ghosted me. Until one day at our acting school I broke down and asked why he left. (not bringing up what happened on the vacation) He said he left because he did not know if he wanted me in his life. And be apologized and seemed sincere so we were okish.
A few more weeks past and we had a fight and I broke down crying and asked why he did that on the vacation. He said it was because he liked me back then and left because he was afraid. We had a long talk and worked through everything and I told him I liked him too back then. We hugged and we were much closer after.
Recently they have been some weird things happening. Extra hugs and being close then distant. And he is the type of person who will hug you if you ask for a hug, but other than that not many hugs. But with me he'll ask for hugs but mostly after conversations where we're upset or when I'm upset or he's upset.
One day I as kinda a test I told him I liked him and his face softened and backed away, and was distant. He even moved to the other side of the room. Our other friend asked him how he felt and I'm not sure his exact words but our friend said he did not like me. I talked to him later and told him I did not like him, and it was to prove a point that when someone likes him he runs. He said I was right and apologized and things went on as if nothing happened.
The most confusing part of all of this is when my best friend died. I was crying in the floor and everyone in our group was comforting me and hugging me. He came over and hugged me then moved behind me and held me with his arms around the top of my chest. This guy is not a overly touchy guy with others the only other girl he gets touchy with is our friends younger sister who he practically sees as his sister but when he is close with her it's more playful. He always texts and I text him it's kinda 50/50 texting and talking.
I'm writing this in the most non biased way possible. So do you think I'm being delusional or are they something there? | Crushes |
Can anyone tell me is it good or am I friendzoned?? | Crushes |
So I confessed to crush (see other post for more details) and all of got out of him was a quiet Oh my God, or at least that's what I think he said I was more preoccupied with what his friends said they said:
F1: "[Crush] gets the girl!"
F2: "That's your girlfriend that!"
Now I starting thinking F1 said that for either two reasons:
Reason 1: F2 likes me but I like his best friend(F1 confessed for F2 saying/screaming that F2 loved me a month before hand)
Reason 2: They knew/thought I liked one of them already but finally got conformation(one of my friends once asked me if I liked one of them when they were passing).
Now reason 2 has got me stressing about trying to talk to him again because I don't want to look desperate cause it may or may not have been obvious that I liked him.
Things to note:
. My crush is very introverted and anti-social.
. They're a grade above me.
. I think he tried to approach me after the confession?
. He was with a group of his friends and they were talking, then they saw us.
. My friends and I were walking in that direction.
. When we walked pasted them (there was still few meters between us) and he walked towards our direction by himself.
. The he made a u-turn back to his friends, he look on his face screamed, "Yeah nope", but I might be reading into it.
. My friends started teasing me and said, " Yeah go talk to your boyfriend ", and stopped walking.
. I started begging them to carrying on walking but they sat down.
. My crush and his friends walked pass us so they got up(my friends) and we continued walking.
. I thought I'd be over him by now since it's been a few days(once I see that they're not interested my feelings die instantly) but now in dying to hear his actual response. | Crushes |
THis is kind of embarrassing but my crush asked if i have a crush. I want to say yes but then she will just ask who? And then if i don’t really answer it will basically be the same thing as admitting i have a crush on her.. What should i do..? Im not sure i am ready to tell her yet. Its already been a while since shes asked.. I feel like it makes me look even more sus that im taking a long timee 😭😭 | Crushes |
Do anyone have any recommendation on how to show mixed signals to a person? Me and that person are starting a challenge on whoever have the best one receives some prize. That prize was specifically my dream item and i wanted to earn it in a better way than doing a crime. Can anyone help me with this?😭 | Crushes |
I met him about 2 week ago and we had a one night stand. He was a complete gentlemen; extremely sweet and wanted to see me again. But as time passed, we both focused on classes and both of our schedules got complicated. We msgd each other constantly throughout the day and saw each other occasionally. The 2nd to last time I saw him, the vibe felt off. I invited him over and asked him what was going on; he told me that we're nearing the end of the semester and we're all getting way too busy. Our paths don't cross naturally so I understood. He also lives hrs away from me, and in the summertime we'll both be working. I won't lie, my feelings were hurt but that's because I genuinely like him. But I understood. Afterwards, he stayed for an hr and we just talked. We mesh well and I would be ok with him just being my friend. But I like him a lot. I needed to get this off my chest. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my boss so it’s a no-go area and I can’t ask him out. It drives me crazy with embarrassment that I keep fantasizing because when I see him I blush. I have (and have always had) this weird fear the guys I like can read my mind. Anyways, why do we fantasize? do you guys just let yourselves fantasize or do you try to stop the fantasies when you know you can’t have them?
Part of me doesn’t even think we could date, I just want to “do the deed” (gonna keep it PG 13 here). Anyways, there is my vent. | Crushes |
I've had a crush on her for roughly 5 months. I've never spoken to her, but we've stolen glances at each other. I look away whenever I look at her, and vice versa. I know it wasn't the right call, but I was too nervous to talk to her. We both followed each other on social media, but she blocked me around two weeks ago. I was upset for a few days, but I got over it. However, when we are in the hallways or in gym class together, I notice her staring at me. I don't want her to get the wrong idea, but it's starting to irritate me. If she keeps staring at me, I'm curious on what she wants. Do you have any suggestions? | Crushes |
Ok so my crush is a grade above me and I notice that he stares for an EXTREMELY long time (not exaggerated at all) and I often act like I don't see him, cause he'd look away immediately if we made eye contact and I didn't want that for some reason 💀 I used to always be the one stealing glances but I toned it down a bit and now it's him... Is he interested? Do I have a chance? What is happening? | Crushes |
Earlier, I posted about wanting to text a guy I have recently met. The commenters encouraged me to text him. I’ve been quite busy today so I haven’t texted him yet, but I might very soon.
I have another question now. I’d love to text him, reply to his Instagram stories, like his posts and stories… but I want to take this slow and, most importantly, I don’t want him to feel uncomfortable. I also don’t want to miss the chance to talk to him because of my worries.
What are the signs that I’m being too obsessive and I’m trying too hard? What are things I should avoid? Thank you very much :) | Crushes |
Finally interacted with her for a while and she asked for my IG. Then she was leaving after the class we have together (I had other classes later). I didn't wanna keep her in college and because she was leaving,I didn't ask her out. We've interacted enough now to not be considered creepy (hopefully) and I'm asking her out next time | Crushes |
We hug a lot, he’s one of my best friends! But I feel like every time we hug it gets longer, and this time was no exception. But he also hugged me differently, he held my head. Now I’m short and if someone is tall enough that’s the best way to hug me, but he’s never done that before and it felt nice. It felt like it was going to last longer, but then I said goodbye and he let go. But GAHHHH 🥰 | Crushes |
Hello r/Crushes,
Tonight
I am pleased to announce
Move on nako sa kaniya
I talked to my parents about her, and an hour later yeah,
I figured she ain't gonna be worth my time and sanity
Heck I lost my sanity once because of her, now I figured that for now, I must focused for myself before I go for another heartbeat, besides
I think love will find the right time and person for me
One day, maybe one day. | Crushes |
So a couple weeks ago I joined snapchat (I know i'm very late lol). The person I've had a crush on for a while now I know from school but we've had no classes together this semester and haven't spoken in like half a year. We barely ever spoke to begin with but he had my number as I had to share some notes with him for class. He quickadded me on snapchat the day I made the account. I added him back and snapped him but was left on open.
A day later he snapped me back, and I snapped him back. Once again I was left on open but this time for two weeks. Two weeks later he snapped me a picture of him smoking, I thought this was unusual as why would he think to snap me specifically a picture of him smoking after two weeks of ignoring me. I snapped him back immediately and was left on open. I thought about how unusual it was that he would send me that smoking picture and started to consider the possibility that he was snapping a bunch of people the same snap.
I started paying attention to his snap score. A couple days later he snapped me another picture of him smoking and his snap score jumped up by 22 confirming my suspicions of him sending multiple people the same snap. I snapped him back, once again left on open. He snapped me the next day and his snap score went up by 22, I snapped him back got left on open.
Im not sure how to proceed we don't see each other in school at all and I'm pretty sure he has no interest as why else would he leave me on open. But then again why does he snap me at all? Does he leave everyone on open and just collectively snap everyone? Outside of when he sends the snap to the 22 people his snap score barely goes up, so does he just not use snap that much?
I'm really not sure what to think since their are many people at school and elsewhere who have my number and I have talked to just as much if not more than him (but of whom i'm not really friends with) yet none of these people have added me on snap except for him. Am I just thinking too much into this? Does he really think nothing of adding me on snap, leaving me on open, etc.? Does this mean he is disinterested or not? | Crushes |
so basically my crush and i have been friends since september. we are both girls btw and she also likes girls. anyways back in january i posted a thing on my story that i hate my eyebrows and that i wish i could fix them because i feel like they make me look so ugly and then my crush swiped up and replied that she liked them and said that they reminded her of billies and ik that she loves billie eilish🥲 anyways so yesterday i sent a message saying that it meant a lot that she said that because i always see pictures of them and wish i could change them…. and then she said no i love your eyebrows they’re amazing and you have the ideal eyebrows i wish i could have them. and then a couple hours later she sent me a tik tok with the sound being like “oh now people will think i like women which i do just not in that way” but it was acc a joke saying that she does like women…. and the caption was like me in seventh grade when i was obsessed with billie eilish but in denial…. IS IT JUST ME OR IS THAT FLIRTING?:):):) OR AM I DELUSIONLA?
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Obvious flirting. Now I find he's actually taken. Or in some long distance thing with someone he used to be with when he lived there a few years ago. Maybe they have an open relationship thing. idk. Still, don't mislead people like that. or at least be clear about it. ugh!
feel free to give advice or other. just needed to voice the frustration. | Crushes |
Me and my crush (lets call him clover) are pretty close friend-wise and everytime there’s a group hangout we’re always side by side or the ones left while everyone else goes to another spot. We get along and hang out in school all the time, and after school when we go to eachothers sports events.
Last October, I told clover I had a crush on him but in a very non-subtle way, sounding like I wasn’t ready to date yet and that I didn’t want to and he took it just like that. Now that I think about it, I really would like to try and date him but I don’t know if I should tell him again. Should I revise what I said to sound more like I was asking him out? | Crushes |
is this a sign?
me f13 and my crush m13 have known each other n been is the same class since yr 3 i’ve liked him since yr 6 but he’s never shown any interest back eg i would try n flirt w himbut he won’t notice and flirt with my friend instead the only time we came close to him flirting back was we played tic tac toe the whole lesson so i tried on of those tt sounds to manifest him and i had a dream he liked me back but was still flirting with her she doesn’t like him back and i wana text him he dosnt like her but how do i get him to like me? | Crushes |
Don’t your crushes first start off as a **hallway crush** (like at first glance u think they are hot or whatever) then y’all get into the same class or work at the same section and it turns into a **real crush**\- and for some, u **fall in love** with them? <33 | Crushes |
My friend just showed me a text of my crush texting my friend she likes a friend that isn't in my school. My friend didn't even knew I had a crush on her. It's definitely the time to move on | Crushes |
Idk I think the likelihood just seems crazy to me. A friend I haven't spoken to in years out of the blue showed up in my notifications. He had liked an Instagram post from two years ago. I only have like 20 posts but you'd still have to scroll to like the photo. It's a photo of just me in it as well, which I don't post many of - I mainly post landscapes. He's hardly on instagram - in fact I thought his account was dead at this point because I hadn't seen a post, like or view from him in years.
I thought maybe it was a little nudge that he missed me as a friend or was stalking my account and then accidentally liked it. I decided to ping him and said something along the lines "I think you may have accidentally liked my photo but also it's been a long time, how have you been?" He was not active on Instagram for days after that but he did respond eventually and said "Oh sorry about that, I had no idea, it must have been a pocket like."
I decided to let it go and he gave me a little life update and he asked how I've been. I respond but then he's left me on delivered for days again. For some reason I feel like the weirdo here because I'm being left on delivered for days but.....he's the one that randomly liked my photo? If anyone can explain the psychology behind this that would mean a lot because I'm so lost. Maybe it was just a pocket like and I read into it too much. But if it was a pocket like your phone has to be doing some crazy gymnastics to go to the profile, scroll down and specifically like one of the few photos of just me in it, right?! | Crushes |
The guy I like said I was the janitors favorite after I had baked them a batch of cookies. He said he’d do anything for me. I said anything? He said yes. So I showed him a picture of my new places half up LED curtain bc I was not tall enough to finish installing it (he’s super tall) and he said name a time and place and even if he’s working he’d call out. I don’t think he’s kidding I think he’s flirting but I’m not sure enough and I’ve misread friendship many times before bc autism is hard | Crushes |
Just ranting here - I don't plan to pursue this attraction nor do I plan to be a home wrecker.
He's good at his job, has an easy going personality, is funny and is a great leader (and of course is pretty cute). The best I can do is give him a good peer performance review:,)
I can't control my feelings and it sucks to have to work with him while knowing he will never be available. He is obviously nice to me too, and sometimes I feel bad for fantasizing about being together with him if one day he becomes available.
Why is it that the men I like tend to be attached/married (usually I'd only find out later) :,(
The only way I'm coping now is to go for runs hoping I can tire myself out and get rid of these feelings | Crushes |
For the last five days, I’ve been at a social event. On my first day there, I paid attention to a very cute guy. Unfortunately, as I’m quite shy, and because of how the event was organised, I didn’t get to talk to him until the last day, which was yesterday. He was very nice to me and I felt like he paid attention to me, which is always nice. He also gave me a hug. I have his phone number (everyone at the event is in a big group chat).
My usual approach to crushes has always been to ignore them until they pay attention to me (and it has never worked). This time around I wanted to change things and see them as a friend first. That’s what I did when I talked to him. I didn’t attempt to flirt with him. I just talked to him normally, and it went well.
The event is now over, and I’m wondering if it’s a good idea to text him now. Maybe it isn’t very appropriate and I might come off as “obsessed”, to put it in another way. But I really want to talk to him! Should I text him or not?
The event organisers want to hang out with everyone some time soon, but it’s just an idea for now. Should I wait until then? | Crushes |
So, I've stopped responding to messages sent by her, like 2 months ago, to move on (which I have). She texted me today:
"HELLO?"
"WHERE THE F!CK DID YOU DISAPPEAR?!"
"WHY DON'T YOU RESPOND TO ME"
Lol tbh it would be kind of disturbing if I got messages like that from a stranger. So what do I do? | Crushes |
Thanks for the advice, all :) | Crushes |
I confessed to her a couple months ago and she said she was currently talking to someone so I gave up and started focusing on myself. All of a sudden a month or two ago, in a group of co workers she mentioned she stopped talking to the guy. Then a couple days go by she tries talking to me and saying my name a lot. She says hi to me whenever she sees me .
She acts fidgety around me. One of the of worker she’s close with has been super friendly with me as well. The other day I told her I was gonna go donate blood and told me to eat a lot. As we were leaving work and we kept telling each other to be safe and then she started saying bye differently like byeeeee exaggerating the e in bye. She also talks to everyone else differently than me. Is she trying to use me for validation or does she actually like me? | Crushes |
Hello gentlemen. So I (15m) have a crush on a girl (16f) who goes to the same class as me at our community College and is in the same friend group. I've liked hee for a while and we've been talking over text almost everyday and after class whenever possible for a few weeks now. We've just been having normal conversations getting to know each other just friendly stuff not really flirtatious at all yet.
So basically we agreed we'd meet up before class this Monday and walk around the hills behind the campus. I think there's a decent chance she likes me, we do talk a lot and she goes out of her way to compliment me even when i really dont deserve it. She also just seens to have a really sweet personality so I don't know if I'm just crazy.
What I'm wondering is what is some way for me to make a move or something like that without coming across as weird? All my previous crushes have failed horribly because they usually like someone else (people who have actual emotional experience and shit) so I really don't wanna fuck this up and I need advice. | Crushes |
Now originally I thought that he was just really touchy cause he would be touchy with friends as well (he's stop once they told him to) he's always ask me if he could touch me though, I'd say yes cause I 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 physical touch and I don't mind it when people do it to me.
He'd often pinch myself cheeks and comment on how soft they were and say that my friends cheek weren't as soft as mine (he wouldn't pinch their cheeks though he'd just say that you could just tell). He also pats my head 𝙖 𝙡𝙤𝙩 like if we're talking he'll pat my head as a greeting, in the middle of the conversation he'll pat my head, we finish talking he'll pat my head as a goodbye.
He's tried to find my tickle point multiple times and has succeed telling me that, he was going to make me feel absolute misery but misery as in absolute laughter and proceeded to tickle me until I got up (we were in class and our teach was busy so we could do what we wanted) and hid behind my friend.
The very same day just a few minutes apart he tried to give me a massage and commented on how tense I was (I'm always tense lol). But that the same time he was talking to me about the girls in our classes tits and said mine were like oranges (I didn't mean or anything honestly I'm used to having convos centered around my breasts so it doesn't affect me) and said my friends were rather large, I started laughing my ass off and is said that we shouldn't be talking about this so we stopped.
So what I've been thinking is at he sees me as a close friend or something so he treats me like that thoughts?
Also he's extra touchy with me than anyone else from what I've seen if that helps. | Crushes |
i have crush on my friends crush, he aint doing anything about it so i think i will do it. is it okay to talk to her? my friend was the first one liking her, i did not know about her | Crushes |
But I couldn't tell her I like her because I didn't want to make the afternoon awkward.
She accompanied me to an appointment, spent the afternoon together, then on separate intervals gave her a box of donuts, flowers, and later on - a poem.
I failed to tell her I like her buttttt are the gifts at least hint that I have feelings for her? | Crushes |
I’ve worked in the same place for about a year now on a bar which was largely pretty mundane until about three months ago when another girl started working at the same place. For the first month or so we never really talked to each other apart from strictly work related conversations but the last couple of months have been different. We started talking about deeper more personal stuff and it kind of clicked for me that I like this person, it was also around the time that she told me she has a boyfriend. This didn’t bother me at the time as I realised that this was probably just a strict friendship rather than anything else but then about a week ago all the staff at worked organised a night out. On this night out this girl started linking arms with me putting her head on my shoulder basically doing the type of shit that you do when your drunk and like someone. Anyway it got to the end of the night and we all left and this girl was desperate to stay out with me, I said no because I had shit to do the next morning and can only take so many pain killers for the inevitable hang over. Anyway since then she has been really off with me, she doesn’t talk to me the way she used to and it’s kinda awkward at work now. I want to get over her preferably without leaving my job so whatever advice anybody may have would be so welcome thank you!!! | Crushes |
I've been texting my crush more often lately. If you read my last post I've also heard his friend mention me as "his love" to him and it kind of gave me hope.
He was never the type to heart messages. If he did he would always do it with red heart. But lately, he started to heart every of my last text with a purple heart.
(By last I mean when I'm usually saying goodbye or so) | Crushes |
I have the my crush on snap and I would like to snap them or try to jumpstart conversations I guess but I’m not to sure if it’s a bit weird, we talk sometimes in person and we always say hello to each other but never really had any real conversation other than when we have both been drinking. I don’t really know if I should or not. Any advice greatly appreciated. | Crushes |
I've been chatting with my crush lately, and I'm afraid that I might be crossing the line of being annoying. | Crushes |
Yep, in a single day, he's caught me staring so so many times. And I really wanna stop but I can't. Whenever I'm free, my eyes automatically go and set on him. I really really wanna stop, but if he is in front of me, I really can't control myself.
Guys, this was supposed to be my BIG secret. But now I'm afraid that he knows. He notices everything, and now I wanna stop. Please help me. | Crushes |
I’m thinking about messaging my crush on Instagram but I don’t know if I should. He knows that I’ve liked him for months and I don’t know if he would be weirded out if I messaged him. Note that spring break started today and we don’t have school for a week. My friend asked him today if he liked me and she said that he just smiled and said “don’t worry about it” and she tried to keep asking him but he kept ignoring him. He smiles at me a lot and today I was talking to my friend and then I turned around around and saw him talking with his friend while looking directly at me.
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so what should I do? | Crushes |
Hey! First, I’ll provide a bit of background information because it’ll be hard to give suggestions when you guys have no idea what my crush is like! I’m 15F and he’s 16M, we’re both homeschooled and we met through a local homeschool group event. We also play a table RPG every Saturday with our friend group, but we aren’t having a session this week because my friend who runs the game is out of town. I’ve known my crush for a few months, but these past few weeks we’ve been texting for hours at a time pretty much every day. Yesterday, I invited him to go on a hike with me this Saturday with just the two of us and he said he was down.
Now, you may be wondering WHY I’m coming here for advice on conversation starters when we get along great and I already know a lot about him. The problem is that we’ve already talked about so many things through text, there’s not much left to speak of in real life. We’ve only ever hung out in groups in person. I don’t want there to be an extremely uncomfortable silence throughout the whole hike- I just want to be as prepared as I possibly can be.
His main hobbies involve bikes and cars- I want to embrace his hobbies, but I DON’T know much about those topics, so I’m not really able to carry a conversation about them or ask questions relating to them that he might find interesting. We also talk about our jobs often. (He’s a dishwasher at a pizza place and works at a bike shop.) He also likes guns/hunting, which I find awesome, but I don’t have enough experience to appear knowledgeable about that either.
Maybe there’s some interesting icebreaker questions I can ask him to keep things rolling when uncomfortable silence starts to creep in.
TL;DR: I overthink everything and want to be prepared to hang out 1 on 1 with my crush on Saturday so that I can ensure there’s absolutely NO awkward tension. I appreciate any and all suggestions! | Crushes |
Reading romance hits different when things are actually progressing with your crush.
On another note, I feel like he's only settled for my confession and that I'm still trying to pursue him. He might like me, but I like him more. He might just want a relationship for fun, but I'm seriously pursuing him.
How do people deal with this fear in their first relationship? I'm putting so much of my trust in him, I'm scared I'm going to be heartbroken. How do I even... turn this confession into a relationship? What do people do when they date?
I feel like I've pressured him with my confession and that he's annoyed with me interfering with his life. | Crushes |
Update to this : https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11ybkby/update_asked_her_out_for_a_date_and_idk_where_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
Alrighty, some time has passed since my last update and progress has been made !
We went on the first date to a coffee/bar, talked for about 3 hours (mainly about music and our hobbies). It was amazing. Then we kept texting, and i eventually told her (2 days after the date) that i really enjoyed it and i asked her if she would be up for a second. She said that she also really enjoyed it and that she would gladly go on another (but not this week bc she doesnt have time).
The day after, she asks me if we could have lunch together at her campus, so i ofc agreed. So it means she wants to see me again ! We had lunch together, talked for abt an hour, it was really nice !
The 2 times we saw each other, when we said hi and goodbye, it was kinda awkward bc we just waved at each other, making no contact. On the 2nd date, id like to try and initiate a bit of contact. What should i do ? I was thinking about a little greeting hug. As i said, i suck at social interactions so i dont really know what the other expects, and if hugging is acceptable. Any help ?
Oh and im totally in love. We saw each other 3 days ago and i miss her so bad already.
TLDR : 1st date went really well. Then, she proposed to have lunch together, we did and it was rly nice. Said she would be down for a 2nd date. But i dont know when or how to initiate physical contact, like a hug. Should I try to hug her next time ? | Crushes |
she’s the perfect one and im like crushing on her so much but I don’t and probably won’t have any classes with her and I don’t even see her for more than 10 seconds a week if I’m lucky like she’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen and I feel like I’m going crazy over a hallway crush | Crushes |
I apologize if this is the wrong subreddit to ask but I'd appreciate any advice.
I (M20) met this girl (F19) a couple months back and we have been hitting it off. We send each other more than a thousand texts every day and our conversations flow so easily and we get along so well, there is so much chemistry between us. For example we joke with each other a lot and she calls me names and other fun stuff :) So I believe she has a crush on me, and I do have one on her too. However, recently I've started to notice that every night starting from around 10pm all the way until past midnight when she goes to bed, she always takes some time to respond to my messages (anywhere from 10 minutes to 1 hour). I know this is completely normal, as I can get busy and I take a while to reply sometimes (same with her), but from what I've noticed she's always like this during nighttime. Like I could send her a few messages and she'll take 15 minutes to respond, then I reply back immediately and then she takes 30 minutes to respond, and so on. She also never tells me when she goes to bed like she used to and leaves me awkwardly (doesn't respond the next morning either).
I'm naturally curious so one day I asked her if she was usually busy with something around this time, and she said she was on her phone looking at stuff or watching youtube. I started overthinking, because she was on her phone and taking forever to respond. So I asked if I was bothering her, and she repeated the same thing. I then explained how I always had to wait a while at night for replies and that I didn't want to make it a big deal and was curious. She left me on delivered and of course didn't tell me that she went to bed. Now I feel I've screwed up and I shouldn't have asked her. I feel like I was being toxic by asking that. I think she's losing interest, and now even more. | Crushes |
I hate that I love this haha
well lately he’s been going through a dark period & feeling suicidal again so I’ve been trying to be there for him.
We’ve been playing games a lot more than usual the past few weeks, and I’m not planning on getting back together with him or anything like that…
but omg I can’t believe I forgot how awesome and funny he is!
Like he’s so silly sometimes and I just really hope I can help him find brighter days again soon, cause he certainly brightens up my day. 🥰
I feel like an idiot cause I always hate having a crush but… I’m glad I’m his idiot this time. 😂
It’s kinda nice helping him find reasons to smile again. 😌 | Crushes |
So the guy I like is not in my class but he sits with me at lunch. (we have the same friend group) I don't know if he likes me because 1 day he us very interested and then the other day he is completly in his own bubbele. When we talk he looks deel into my eyes but he does that with other people as well. He also leans towards me when we talk like, he almost is touching me. One time he rested his feen on me. He also always laughs at my jokes and he always skiles around me. He never talk about other girls around me. When we text he responds right away. So does he like me or not? I NEED THE ADVICE | Crushes |
So, I'm a junior in high school, and she's a senior, and tomorrow/today is the end of the quarter. Well, she's pretty smart and has all her credits to graduate, and after today, she'll be (essential) done. And that's why I'm here, I need advice on what to do, should I tell her, ask her out, or just let the crush die?
Some background to our "relationship" (we're just good acquaintances), it started in the middle of the first quarter when I switched to a different lunch. I'd follow my friend to his class after lunch, then go to mine. Well, she was TAing for his class. And we "talked" here and there, but nothing more than pleasantries. My friend changed periods, but I still went to his class because I had nothing better to do. It snowed one day and windshields iced up, so I scraped off her windshield, she asked me my name, and I misheard her and said my friend's name (I thought she asked me who I knew her through or something like that) after she called me that the next day, I told her that's not my name, she decided my friend's name (with some tweaks I won't include for my friend's privacy) would be my nickname. I followed her on IG she followed me back, and now I send (spam her with) reels (as one does to friends). But today she told me that today and tomorrow will be the last day we'll all be together (as time as gone on more and more of her friends followed her to the class as well). So now I'm confused about what to do. My crush on her is in it's end stages anyway, if she had a crush on me, its over by now (its been like 5.5 months since this all started). I'm just confused as what to do. | Crushes |
Here’s the deal, I’m not gonna write all the details, but I have lots of reason to believe that a particular girl I know in real life likes me. I like her as well, but due to my bashful nature I think I make it really unclear as to my intentions when it comes to romantic interests.
We’ve had so many interactions now where we’ll find it super hard to chat when it’s us alone in public/walking home, but then go straight back to flirting in messages after.
It’s at the point where I don’t think anything more will happen unless someone says something, so I want to attach this message to a separate snap the next time I send her a message. Before I did this I thought it would be worth sending it here to be critiqued soI don’t embarrass myself.
MESSAGE:
“I’m gonna keep this short and sweet. I think you’re super cute and I’ve found it really tough to tell you in person.
Idk if you’ve known many avoidant people, but for me it boils down to finding it really hard to be open/vulnerable based on the way I was brought up.
It’s not really the right thing to drop in this message, and my mate said I should just ask you out, but I feel I sort’ve owe you a small explanation since I’ve probably made my intentions confusing.
If you don’t respond I’ll take it as me overthinking interactions we’ve had and we can stay as friends, I just thought that it would be better to say something while it’s on my mind :)”
Like it says, my mate thinks this is a bit overkill, but lmk what you think. Should I send it as a text or as blurb on a Snapchat photo (what I message her on). | Crushes |
So my crush saw me looking at him but when he did he continued to look at me. He just stared even when I looked away he was still there just staring. Why is he doing this did I do something? | Crushes |
he calls me his novia to our coworkers, hugs me in front of them, sweet talks to me in front of them and calls me cute names… he has no shame and i love it…
its like everyone knows im his😭 it makes me feel crazy like in a good way like…. i need him. LIKE ACTUALLY !! | Crushes |
I may be young but I have strong feelings towards a girl let’s call her Ava (not actual name) she is 13 F and I’m 13 M now we’ve known each other for a while I know she’s had feelings for me and I have feelings for her and I really want to tell her but I don’t know how I should cause I wasn’t thinking about her so I got with some people that she knew but now all I want is her and idk if I can get her and we already have a good friendship and I don’t wanna ruin that 💀💀 please give me ideas | Crushes |
And I kept telling myself that women were a distraction from school or stuff like that, but I guess here we are. I met her through a friend of mine at gym and so me, her my friend and some others all hang out during gym and lunch. And I can explain it but she is so pretty, super interesting and I just have the want to be with her, but we are still having just met about two or maybe three weeks ago. Any advice? | Crushes |
I've confessed through a handwritten letter on Valentine's day. We've been talking since then mostly about school related stuff but I know a bit of her past relationship and she does know about mine too. She's a bit traumatized and does not open up her feelings often, our conversation really wasn't the most stable.
Just recently we went on a date, I really think it went well. But these days, she doesn't really match my energy and takes too long to respond. Please don't tell me to move on as I really cannot, she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen and I'm heartbroken.
I just want to make her mine. What should I do? | Crushes |
So there is this guy I have a crush on in some of my classes. He is a little weird around me from what I’ve noticed. He has tried to grab my attention. Made it so it’s been just me and him. He stares at me in the classes I have with him. There was also that one time I saw his face turn red when he aw me staring at him. He quickly hid his face away in his arms. What is happening why is he acting like this around me. My friends say he like me but I highly doubt that. What do you think. | Crushes |
So, there’s this cool guy that sits next to me in my bio lab. From day one I’ve liked his vibe, super laid back, open minded, and funny guy. We’re always talking or lollygagging while our group members are working. It’s always cool vibes, I appreciate our friendship.
However, today was a little different. Call me crazy but I swear there was some chemistry going on in biology!
So, it all started when he was making some unnecessary noise with his pencil. And I was just looking at him (like ummm) and then he turned and looked at me and we both just bursted with laughter. I think that’s what lured him in. (I know this can just be friendly but the way we smiled at each other felt like something).
We were chit chatting like we always do, but today we locked eyes more than usual.
His eyes are gorgeous and they’re very easy to get lost in so I typically try to avoid making eye contact as it would give my attraction for him away.
Twice today we locked eyes while were talking, I felt so drawn into him. It was like we were playing some sort of game with our eyes. He would hold eye contact with me for a few seconds then look down at my lips and back to my eyes. It happened twice ok!!!! I don’t know what that man was doing to me but my kitty was purring.
He also made a hidden sexual joke (nothing too inappropriate) but he said it twice, once to me and once to his friend. But I think he was saying it to his friend to confirm that I understood it because he chuckled when he saw that I smiled at his joke.
He is a charismatic and outgoing person. And I’m worried that all this is is a friendship. But I really feel like there is some chemistry here. I am an attractive girl and I am good at picking up guys, but I also am aware that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
My friend asked her if she liked me, she said yes, so I waited a little bit tonight to make my move, AND SHE SAID YES!! | Crushes |
After over a year of crushing on them and admiring their goth fashion on social media and irl (goths of any gender are my weakness haha) we did have sex at a party after extensive making out/flirting and i still have a little crush on them even after that but Idk how I feel knowing they’re in an open relationship and that their partner doesn’t really like their friends. We talk a little almost every day and I’m definitely seeing them at an event in June. I guess it doesn’t help they live 3.5 hours away and I only see them at parties a few times a year. How would you guys approach this? | Crushes |
I didn't think much about my co-worker when I first met her. We work in the same section and have the same work schedule. After we started talking more and got closer I did start to find her attractive. But so far that's all it has been.
I learned from my other co-workers that she found me cute. So I guess we're just both going with the flow but it's been a month so far and I don't get that feeling of wanting to be with her. It feels more like just a friendship vibe than anything else. I mean I think I am open to trying to start something else with her but I'm not sure.
Should I just straight up ask her what she thinks about me? Or just keep going with the flow? | Crushes |
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I was always kinda iffy on if I liked him. But now I know I don’t. He is super sweet messages me all the time. He walks me to like 3 classes. Help each other with school work. We banter and tease, have easy flowing conversation. I really thought we liked each-other mutually. He’s like this with everyone. apparently. I saw him holding an umbrella for some girl I’ve seen him with before and she’s recently been waiting for him outside a certain class. I even saw him with her and he tried to tell ask me about some missing notes and I explained to him that I solved my problem. I was dry and kept my earbuds in, no eye contact. He then later texted me the same thing he had asked me irl 😒..testing the damn waters. He knows what he was doing. Boys are a bunch of bs
I feel stupid. | Crushes |
The guy I have a crush on is really awkward and definitely doesn’t talk to a lot of girls. He’s mutuals w my best friend and my bsf asked his opinion on me and he just said idk. I want to change that but i don’t know how to start a convo (we already dm a little but he was kind of dry). Any ideas on what I should say | Crushes |
Ok so right now I’m on spring break and when we go back to school I want to be able to talk to her but I don’t know how. I just want to be able to actually talk to her, but I have bad social anxiety, and I get even more nervous around her, so I don’t know how to talk to her. She seems so nice and kind and sweet, but I just can’t seem to be able to bring myself to talk to her because I’m so scared to. Thanks in advance for help! | Crushes |
She’s done this a couple times now. Ill say that I’m going out somewhere with friends like to a bar or club, and she’ll be like “oh can I go?” And she’ll be hyped about it but then she ALWAYS flakes. It doesn’t really bother me too much but it’s like why? | Crushes |
-several times i went to his friend group outside of class to ask his friend something, he wouldn’t even glance in my direction, unless i directly addressed him to chat. one time i was near him to ask his friend a question, he was facing a wall and didn’t turn even around to me and his friend.
-he’s okay with talking to me as long as his friend is present in an assigned group project, and if i’m talking with his friend and him.
-we’ve talked occasionally in class outside of group projects but only when i initiate conversation with him. he’s not rude when responding to me.
-he’s usually quiet when talking to me, but more audible, chill, and funny with his friend.
-i asked him if he wanted to be partners for an assignment, but he said he’d work with his friend. this was before his friend showed up for class and before both of them knew there was a partner assignment.
-two different times he made a bad joke out of nowhere that i ended up laughing at, and i kept laughing at that bad joke being made by his friend earlier throughout the group projects. he had a weird explanation for saying it each time, and the first time he had just told the group to stop making that bad joke, so after he made that joke his friend said “oh so it’s okay when YOU do it lol”.
idk if he has social anxiety interacting with me if it’s not a forced class thing bc of his friends or if he just doesn’t have any interest in talking to me and actually getting to know me. if he does seem to have social anxiety, what should i do? | Crushes |
One of, if not, the most reoccurring misconception I see from people on this subreddit is the belief your crush is staring at you for the 'right' reasons. But that's usually wrong, and here's why:
More often than not, when you notice that your crush is staring at you, it's usually because you've already been staring at them way more than you should be. Either that, and/or you've also been acting or doing things around them that you don't normally do with other people.
Your bias towards your crush will kick in if you don't know any better, and you'll start assuming things that aren't even likely. Just wanted to put that out there for people who haven't given that concept a thought. I've definitely been there, so I know how it goes. | Crushes |
I don’t even talk to her that much so I don’t know why she’d do it. She think I’m a creep (and I don’t think I’m a creep) | Crushes |
My friend told my crush that I liked him, but now it is awkward to talk to him. Don't get it twisted, It was very difficult before, but I would like to get his number, but I got a feeling it'd be kinda weird to ask him for his number after he knows that I like him. I want to start talking to him more but then I get the ick, however. he smells like vanilla and is pretty funny. I would like to know if he likes me, but it's a bit presumptuous to ask. I am very impatient of a person (yes, I'm working on it) But I am not amazing at body language.
It is also very curious that he could have social media accounts that I just cannot find and that thought makes me wanna cry. I like this man. Me a simp. | Crushes |
My crush literally confessed to me through text and I laughed it off like she was joking
because I didn't think she was serious, it has been 3 months and she hasn't talked to me since. I feel like such as dumbass but I also feel so bad for her because she gained the courage to be real with me and I rejected her. | Crushes |
[Please read this post if you haven't before reading this one](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/129z3jk/it_was_not_meant_to_be/).
It's been a few days now since I confessed and found out that the feeling was not reciprocated, but I have actually felt better lately than I have in a long time. Despite being rejected, gathering the courage to express my feelings was a big win for me and I feel great for doing so.
I know that not everyone is as fortunate as me in this situation to stay great friends with their crush, but that has definitely helped me as well. We saw each other a couple days after and said nothing of it, talking just like normal. We have continued to interact, (we actually just texted right before typing this) and life has gone on.
It definitely also has to do with the trust that we have in our (platonic) relationship, and that she promised to not tell anyone about what I said. I was pretty nervous that people would know or would ask me about what I said or did, but no one seems to know (they are doing a great job at hiding it if they do). I know she could easily share this widely at any time if she wanted but I sincerely doubt that will ever happen.
It has felt great to just be able to talk to her once again and not worry about trying to impress her or try and flirt, but just be able to have a normal conversation like I would with the rest of my friends.
I am sure that it will sting once I finally see her with someone, as I know that she is actively seeking out a partner, but I don't plan to let it get me down as I would be happy that she is happy. I honestly am planning on taking a break from any crushes or looking for someone and am just going to focus on right now more.
This will probably be the end of this account for a while, but hopefully I will return with good news someday. Thank you for all that have kept up with the saga and gave me support (even if it was worthless). Good luck to all and goodbye | Crushes |
What does it mean if your crush
keeps looking at your myday first,
calls you by your name instead of the
generics.
When he greets you by your name and tries to briefly squeeze your wrist after greeting him.
And when his girl best friend suddenly mentions to you how he’s into cheesy romances and that he actually wanted to volunteer as the lead actor had their concept for a movie was chosen for your group project instead of someone else’s, while you and the girl best friend are in the middle of another conversation…(cause the girl bestfriend and I were sort of ranting about another member in our group and how disappointed we are about the results of our movie project because of that member . Then she suddenly just inserts that into conversation 😅)
Does that mean he likes you too? | Crushes |
Let me fill you in with how my life is and please tell me by the end of reading what you think and if you have any suggestions on how I could achieve my dream. Thank you and have a wonderful day or night.
So basically I'm a boy who turned 16 a few weeks ago I really don't have a social life as I feel I've never fit in with my friend group because they all treat me differently. After my second ex girlfriend broke up with me I lost interest in school and stopped going often because I felt demotivated and unwilling to go to classes I had no interest in. This is this is like to me failing classes but it doesn't impact me hugely as these are classes I will never need to progress further in my life and I have my basic qualifications I need to have to go to college in August as this is my final year of school. (I'm from the UK by the way so this is not like the American college system that you guys have over there)
Recently I've been feeling very lonely and depressed because I am lacking interaction with any human besides my mother and any other family member it has been getting to me alot. People say you just need friends but I argue with that point as I just don't feel a large friend group is for me. I feel way more comfortable talking to girls aged 15 to 16 but the problem is the generation these days is insanely different to me that's ironic coming from someone who is born in the same generation as them considering I am 16 myself however the reason I find it so difficult to talk to girls today is because I'm not like them. Most girls in my area tend to vape, smoke, and drink alcohol which is really not for me at all.
Another thing is most girls these days are not interested in an actual relationship but instead just want a guy to sleep with instead of a long-term relationship and love and affection. (This is how most girls in my school are too so this eliminates any want to have intrest in them.)
I am hoping maybe College has opportunities for me as well as picking my life back up and going into a brand new lifestyle I would also hope it has the opportunity for me to find the partner I want and need to stay just a little bit more happy with my life.
All I want to do is make memories with a girl. Have her as the love of my life, Give her all the respect she deserves, hang out with her, feel comfortable telling her things, making sure she is also comfortable telling me anything she wants or needs to, I would always be there for her as well as I would always support her no matter what, and most importantly I would love her till the day I die and beyond.
Do you think there is any hope for me at all or am I truly alone in the universe today? | Crushes |
Every part of my crush is amazing she's nice smart beautiful and I wanna tell her but I'm so scared she won't like me back I don't what to do she's way to good for me. | Crushes |
Hey, I (M16) haven’t posted here in a while, but I needed someplace for a small vent (nothing big). A couple months ago, I got out of a crush I had for around half a year, and I haven’t really had another one since. I don’t think that a relationship in high school would be able to last and work, but I’m still waiting for some amazing relationship even though I have no experience and don’t even know what it would look like. I’m just kind of waiting to like somebody or for somebody to like me. I’m not hated at school, but I’m not beloved by everyone. I’m introverted, quiet, serious, and slightly intimidating (sophomore with a full beard). I can’t see someone having a crush on me, but I’m secretly hoping that somebody does. Thanks for listening and I wish you good luck with whatever situation you’re going through! | Crushes |
i’m so sorry y’all i jus need to vent 💀
but yea so me and him sit next to each other for biology, and we sit in like horizontal rows. anyways, usually he scoots his chair back and crosses one of his legs while he’s just chillin on his phone, which blocks me from getting through. i usually say “excuse me” and ofc he scoots in and waits for me to get through and then he scoots back. sometimes he even looks at me to see if i’m at my seat so he can scoot back n relax.
anyways, well there are times where i he’s scooted back chillin and when i try to get through saying “excuse me”, he scoots in while looking clearly annoyed. this has happened a few times. i just feel very annoying and fat. i feel like i’m bothering him.
and today when he sneezed, i said bless you and he didn’t even say thank you. i just feel so fat and annoying. i feel like i’m bothering him. other than that tho, he is nice to me and has never been rude to me. one time (this was in Jan) he saw me struggling to hold a microscope and asked me if i was okay or if i needed help.
anyways so uh yea i just needed to vent. ik i’m making a big deal out of a small situation LMFAO ☠️ | Crushes |
This is going to be very long and unnecessarily detailed.
So. I'm a fourteen year old girl crushing on a fourteen year old boy. We'll call him C. We've been friends for about a year. We sit together in math, and have a lot of mutual friends. We're both on the track team, and always cheer each other on. I've recently become friends with his brother, and his mom loves me.
About me: very loud, outgoing, friendly, occasionally offend teachers with sarcastic comments
About him: very quiet, reserved, and calm. Straight-A student and a star athlete.
His little brother, B, who's twelve, has told me that C likes me. He said that he talks about me a lot and when B asked if C he liked me, he said "I don't know, maybe." Also, he always stares at me during warm-ups and cheers for me during meets. Another thing is C's friend asked me if I was ever going to ask C out. He said it's obvious that we like each other.
Then yesterday at practice my friend J was talking to C about me. She told him he should ask me out, because I'm not the type to ask someone out. Instead of denying that he liked me, he told her that he's never asked anyone out before, and he's nervous. I wasn't around for this conversation, but J told me about it afterwards. I think this is a sure sign that he definitely likes me. So I want to hang out with him, just the two of us. We've hung out in groups before, playing soccer at the park with some friends, but never alone. There's an amusement park in our town, a small one with only one real rollercoaster, but I don't know if i should ask him to go with me. I wouldn't really call it a sate, but I'd probably just say "Hey, do you want to go to Camden Park with me on saturday?" or something like that after practice. I think he would understand that it's a date without me having to say it. On the other hand, I could wait for him to ask me out. I have a feeling he might soon, but I don't know if I should just go ahead and do it.
Goodness this is long | Crushes |
Well I owe her the motivation I had to wake up and go to college everyday and do my best at studying. My only good value is my genius head so I worked on that the whole time. I also made sure I had answers to every possible question she might ask in the course.
Anyways, I am proud I didn’t make her uncomfortable at any point of my crush for her (hopefully I guess…). I would also like to thank her for regaining some love I have for humans. My past was filled with scumbags that I thought it’s not a coincidence anymore, everyone is a scumbag. Thanks to her I was proven wrong, pure and kind people do exist.
Seeing her eyes look at me meant the world to me, although she was shy and such eye-contact was minimal. I’m not entirely sure if she looked at as “the weird new student” because I am an international student here, or did she just find me cute. And don’t let me start on how she smiles and laughs, my heart would melt and my brain would lag every time from such beauty. Even seeing her in the hallway felt like my heart and stomach switched places.
If this is it I only hope she didn’t feel the same towards me, one broken heart is better than two.
Thanks for listening to this rumble, I am flooded with exams and I cant read anything without thinking of her, so I thought I’d get it out here. | Crushes |
Ok, so as the title suggests, I (19M) have a fat crush on a friend I met online (21M). I met him through a fanseries type thing I’m writing on Instagram. He was a regular commenter on my new posts and stuff, and one fateful day, he joined the Discord server I created for my fan project. Something went wrong with one of my posts, and he was trying to help me with my predicament, mind you, this was back in June. God, he was just so kind to me, like damn, I’ve never met someone who’s been so kind to me. When we actually formally met, he was in a relationship, and I would be in one a few days later. To be totally honest, I did kinda catch myself catching feelings for this person while in my relationship, but I shut them down because I thought I was dating the love of my life, and I wouldn’t have wanted to hurt them.
A few months later, I got fucking dumped, and so did the person I currently like. It hurt me to see him in such pain, almost like I was reliving the pain again. I wanted to try to empathize with them in like DMs or something, but I can never find the right words to say, and I feel so awkward when I try to start a conversation.
A while back, I reflected on my behaviors with him and realized that I liked him as a little bit more than a friend. The way I hoped he’d DM me about random stuff, the way I craved his kind words, the way I hoped he’d notice my drawings and stuff, the way I felt after we had talked, the butterflies I’d get when I actually managed to talk to him. Shit man, there’s just something special about the way he talks to me that makes me feel so nervous and so very gay.
When I realized my crush, I’d started drawing shit and stuff more frequently because it’s what my poor desperate gay ass heart prompts me to do; he’s like the one person I feel comfortable with giving me compliments. I don’t know why, but something in the way his words are phrased makes me blush like a madman. We also have similar senses of humor, we’re in a few of the same fandoms, and both like getting high, so there’s that to like about him. I fucking hate it when he doubts himself, though, because I know damn well he’s better than he thinks he is. Then again, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel the same way about myself.
Honestly, I don’t know what I’m gonna do about this, since 1. Social anxiety, and 2. He probably doesn’t even like me back in that way. He’s bi, but that doesn’t mean he likes me. At one point, though, he did tell me I made him question his sexuality with one of the characters I wrote about, and he asked if he could get a tattoo of my art, and we talked all night one night, but that probably doesn’t mean he likes me the same. Maybe I should stop drilling in my doubts and just confess, but at the same time, I don’t want to ruin our friendship.
I really needed to get that off my chest, since I can’t really tell someone about this in real life. Still don’t know what to do, but I’m sure I’ll figure it out eventually. | Crushes |
so I followed my crush on insta a couple days ago and he followed me back today I know it’s not much plus we’re on spring break but idc it’s still so fisbdibdisbsisnsodnjdjsbuehzisbissjjsbwjeifnsodbeodbisbsusveidbsoavdoshdud | Crushes |
i currently like this girl but my 2nd conversation went like this
she said thank you when i completed her
she laughed when i talked about getting what she has
she said go for it
she was on her phone
and she says she gotta go when her friends came
but she look at me ever single day
please help me understand
tl;dr | Crushes |
A: Close the chapter, close away the stuff i have from them, immediatly shutting my mind up about them, get distracted by meeting new people, etc.
B: learn to live with it over time, learn to accept them as a part of your life, etc.
I was always a fan of choice nr 2 since it seems to be a much more healthy approach when getting over someone. For example: a lot of people try to have a flirt with someone completely nee or install a dating app, just to find someone to get over your past crush with. I always found that way to be kind of wrong. I dont want to flirt with someone new because i know i am so deeply invested into my current crush that it would be a disgrace to them and even myself if i just used them to get over my crush. Also shutting my feelings off from one day to another cannot be the answer, right?
However i tried to take option B, but my mind spirals back too often. My anxiety gets triggered because of my crush and i dont want that to go any further. It feels like im stuck. When i made the plan to get over them, i was feeling very good for a few days and felt like it was working very nice. After some time tho, the feelings came back and i just CAN NOT just carry on saying to myself that "if i treat them as if ive never had feelings, it will go away".
Any advice is appreciated. I would like to hear some of your stories! | Crushes |
Omg no way
I asked her to hang out in person and she said yes if I’m free I’ll do it, then I texted her if she wanted to hangout and I’ve been on delivered for a whole day. Last time I wasn’t really talking she was carrying the conversation by asking questions so I think she just friendzoned me. And I saw that she liked something on instagram, so she probably somehow read the message from her notifications bar so it wouldn’t show up as read. If she responds tonight then I’m in luck but I think it’s over and it’s up and down with her, sometimes I have feelings sometimes I lose them so I hope I’ll lose feelings and just want to be friends. I won’t see her till like Tuesday so I’m hoping she’ll forget and she usually forgets everything over text because when I talk in person she doesn’t bring it up, so maybe I should not approach her and just see if she approaches me. Also I walk past her in the halls sometimes so I’ll try and notice her and say hi to let her know that she exists. But yeah I’m fucked and I think I got rejected but I feel a sense of relief and I also feel sad at the same time. I think I fumbled the bag or something but hopefully she doesn’t bring up the texts and she’ll text me about something else instead of me being left on delivered | Crushes |
Yet you won't tell her because the long time friendship would be ruined if she said no which she propably would. And it would feel awkward if you tell her since you knew her for so long.
What do you do in a situation like this? | Crushes |
So I M15 have a crush on this girl F15 who I've been friends with since intermediate. I recently started talking to her (last year) out of boredom but thens started to develop feelings. We are in highschool now, on our 3rd year.
We share a friend group and so I don't wanna confess because it would be real awkward after. She told me she used to have a crush on someone in our friendgroup. I sometimes tease her and like be protective of her. But now that I think of it, I think she sees me as a friend.
I need advice on whether I should forget about the feelings and just move on with life. AMA about me or her, I will try to answer. | Crushes |
To C,
4 months. 4 months of insomnia. 4 months of
happiness. 4 months of intense internal conflict. 4 months of an inescapable, undeniable longing for you. 4 months of wading for you.
It started in September and I’m now here in December and over the past few months, despite my brain begging and pleading my heart to let go off your retreating figure and stop grasping at fistfuls of empty air, instead my feelings have intensified like a raging inferno -out of control and incinerating anything in its wake.
I managed to stop for a few weeks - cut off the root of my anxiety - but the fact it was for a few weeks suggests that it was ultimately a failure. I shut myself off to feeling a feeling your warmth; feeling the euphoria when you look over; feeling the excitement at potentially catching you in the morning; feeling the faux anxiety of situations I had concocted before bed, or whilst day-dreaming in class. Feeling anything that had your trace, fingerprints or quite simply you, written all over it.
It was successful for a little while.
I could sleep; I could sit in the same class as you without feeling like my heart would at any given moment explode. I felt stable, grounded, at ease and free from your fierce, iron grip - for a second.
Then you happened again….
Like an addict I was unable to resist my muse, my drug, my fix and I relapsed.
I fell into the ocean that resides in your eyes and I couldn’t find my way to the surface - or maybe I didn’t want to. I was able to bathe in your warmth and embrace it, whilst it unknowingly loosened and weakened the lock on all the feelings I had so-called “banished” and “abandoned” to the depths of my mind. But you sought them out and re-discovered them with ease as if you were solving a simple math equation - the method simple and the answer predictable - because the truth is soul and heart is not a foreign place for you.
A high followed: a spring in my step; a smile stretching my face; a sigh of content; a sense of fulfilment. The image of your smile remained permanently engraved in my head: your rosy red lips from winter, but nevertheless the full colour of life present in your face; the way your upper lip quirked upwards revealing a small parting that causes my heart to play hopscotch and on the other hand, my stomach to do somersaults. A high - a short period (emphasis on short) of inundated heightened emotions -elicited from a drug, therefore it is standard to expect a crash, however the trip you sent me on blinded me from the reality - my inevitable crash.
11pm -awake
12am- awake
1am- awake
2am- asleep
7am -awake
The insomnia returned as the image of your face instead of lulling me to sleep, warranted the contrary.
What should I say ? How should I act ? Does this mean I shouldn’t give up on this crush ? Thoughts of ambiguity and uncertainty plagued my mind.
I winded and dined and danced with the devil therefore it should be expected I would get scorched, but in my defence I was blinded and drunk - my senses dulled. Blinded by the obstinate halo and teenage foolishness and drunk of you.
A flurry of invasive thoughts hijacked my mind, inundating it with thoughts of only you. A highway robbery - my own thoughts robbed of me and rest alongside it. As a result I find myself back at square one: pining over your confidence; fiending for your presence; yearning to walk beside you; admiring you from up close instead from a distance. A desire to have you despite a desire to not self-destruct.
However the temptation still remains high, adding fuel to the fire, and like a teenager being exposed to drugs and alcohol for the first time, I want to try just this one time. But I’m afraid of the way it may taste. Afraid of the way it may antagonise my tastebuds. Afraid of the way it’ll burn my throat. Afraid of losing my balance, tripping and stumbling . Afraid of stepping out of the high raised walls and venturing into foreign territory.
The dualism of man- torn between a strong desire, but an equally juxtaposing strong reluctance.
It amplifies the incessant war one that I’ve been losing miserably ever since we first met, whereby my sense and rationality are on the line. It augments the strengths of both sides and thus the cacophony of guttural cries and shrill echoes increase in volume.
Nothing drowns it out therefore I am left wading until I turn blue.
Yours Sincerely,
Your secret admirer | Crushes |
so there’s this boy i’ve liked for a whiiiiiile. like a year. we have been friends for this long. however, it’s been different lately cus we have been talking everyday for like 3 weeks now. it’s usually about school so it’s nothing huge cus we are in the same major.
he goes out of his way to help me :) he was messing around while he was drunk and he followed me around lol.
we are also each others #1 on snap. could just b friendly but either way i am grateful for him. he helped me when i was crying and i usually don’t let people in like that.
i hope things keep going well cus like 6 months ago we had a thing but we were in the same friendgroup so we decided it was best not to continue. we aren’t in the same friendgroup anymore sooooo…. | Crushes |
I(f25) just returned from a conference a couple of days ago and I’ve been thinking about something that has been on my mind since then.
The conference was a gathering of community’s colleges and universities from around the nation to network, present, and come together to celebrate our journey as minorities in academia.
(I’m trying to be as vague about this as possible in case he has reddit.)
I’ll be referring to him as Dawson (m, age unknown) to make it easier.
Our schools resided at the same hotel through the duration of the conference. I didn’t notice him at first but the more I saw him lingering around the hotel or in the lobby I began to recognize him more.
I was sitting on the lobby sofas one day waiting for my friends to come down so we could go out for lunch but to no avail they never came so I just sat there on my phone just chilling I guess. I was facing the entrance when he came through, I remember him looking directly at me and coming right over talking to me as if we’d known each other. I had never talked to him before and was caught off guard. I assumed he was from my school as my college has campuses all over my state, so I didn’t get a chance to meet everyone.
I smiled at him and greeted him back. He sat down right next to me which I didn’t expect, and he placed his box which I presumed was food on the coffee table in front of us and sort of relaxed right next to me. He asked me how my day was, and I responded with “It’s going okay.” He laughed a little and said “really?” and I kind of scoffed nervously not knowing what else to say. He then pulled two Dr. Pepper’s out of his pockets one a can and the other a plastic bottle. He offered me one and I hesitantly declined. I was going to accept but I didn’t know if he was messing around me with me so instead, I just said no. He then asked for a second time “How my day was going?”
I assumed he was trying to make the awkward tension go away but if there’s anything I’m good at it’s my lack of speaking, nervous laughter, and ability to make a situation more awkward so I just responded with “It’s okay, it could be better.” And I asked him the same question back but completely blanked and forgot to listen.
He turned his head to ask someone a question who was on the computers that were also placed in the lobby next to us and then he stood up to check one of the other computers. I took this as my chance to walk away because I presumed the conversation was over.
I spent a majority of my time in the lobby at their large tables they had to work on my presentations for the conference since I didn't like staying in my room constantly. So I began to see him more frequently lingering around. There were a couple of times where he would stare at me as if wanting to say something, but I didn’t really think too much about it. There was another time where I was sitting at the sofas, and he directly sat on the ones right behind me faced the opposite. He was talking to his friends, and I didn’t want to hover over them and have them thinking I was listening so I just got up and left.
The last day and a half, I saw him lingering around the place I would study at in the lobby and didn’t think too much of it. I was pretty busy; I think we all were considering it was the last day of the conference and there was a banquet for our achievements.
Anyways, I decided to dress up and after the event I returned to my hotel and saw him at the lobby again. I smiled as I was passing and received notice in passing that my school would be packing up that night to leave at 4 am the following morning to return home so I went straight up to my room to pack. I changed into my pajamas and came back down to take my stuff out to the vans. I saw him one last time near the computers and exited the hotel for moment.
After I finished packing away my stuff in the van I returned to the lobby, and I sat in the lobby with some of my school colleagues talking about our return.
I was twirling on my seat next to the computers listening to my coaches talk about our departure when I noticed a notepad on the desk I was at. There was a name and last name scribbled on it and I could only make out the first name.
Throughout all of our encounters I never knew his name so seeing what I now know is his name was oblivious to me at the point. I scribbled on the notepad and a few minutes later called it a night.
The next morning at 4am, my school and I left and made our way back home.
Two days ago, I was on the organization who hosted the conference’s facebook page and came across a tag from one the colleges who had been there. There was a picture of him and the award he got that night at the banquet. Along with that I saw a comment under the post whose name was the same one I had noticed on the notepad I scribbled on: “Dawson \_\_\_\_\_\_\_”
I’m connecting all the dots, but I feel like I’m overthinking it.
When I told my colleagues about the Dr. Pepper-Lobby happenstance they told me he was probably trying to talk to me more but my quietness and one-worded answers probably ruined it. They stated all the other times he was probably trying to approach me again but I never gave the opportunity. Considering he had brought two sodas with him that day to the lobby and was ready to give one away. Yet, I rejected his offer.
I think the guy is cute, but I don’t know his age. Since the conference involved people of all ages who’s to say he isn’t 18 and this is his first year in college while I’m 25 years old. Although I lack the dating experience it doesn’t really matter considering there’s an 7-8 year age gap if I assume right.
I didn’t go into this conference thinking I would be interested in anyone. I say this because I went into this not carrying how I was going to be perceived by my race demographic since I have never romantically liked anyone who was the same as me in terms of culture.
I didn’t stand out, my clothes oversized, of course I still looked presentable, I didn't put much effort into my appearance aside from my usual makeup and hair. I’m also plus size so the odds of what I set myself up with were low in terms of someone finding me interesting or appealing. I didn’t even go in thinking there was going to be anyone I would like so I didn't bother trying. Just that I would present, enjoy the city I never been too, and come home to everything being the same.
I don’t know if I like him but considering I found him easy on social media… if he likes me wouldn’t he have sought me out or am I just overthinking all of this?
It sounds ridiculous even though I’m 25 but I’m oblivious to hints and this could be him being friendly. Even so, If I’m not overthinking it, secondly what should I do next?
We live in the same state, go to different colleges, and I don’t plan on transferring for another year after I get my associates so is it viable to even try something with him too?
If I'm being honest, I think I just want to know if he did like me. I'm curious as to why and what he had in mind if things had went his way. Because I have no clue and never saw myself getting into a relationship or crushing on someone until my friends pointed all this out to me. I thought it was a funny story on my part having denied something they said was obvious. I'm kind of mad at myself for being so reserved or standoffish cause now I won't know unless I seek him out first which is crazy in terms of how this even started. | Crushes |
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I’m going to ask my crush out to my school prom. One problem, though: she has no classes in school because she went into a college program or something. That’s the only problem I foresee besides a “No” at least.
Was going to ask like, “Hey (X), I wanted to see if you wanted to go to the prom together. Doesn’t have to be anything more than friends unless you want it to be.”
If any of you think there’s a better way to ask please do tell me | Crushes |
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