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t3_12dxt9 | relationships | I have major social anxiety problems and it really, really upsets my boyfriend as it makes him feel unwanted | I'm not good with socialising, speaking my mind, or anything of the kind. I'd consider myself to be very meek, timid and definitely not an overtly flirtatious person. I'm not even flirtatious at all.
My boyfriend, admittedly has a low self esteem and he's very self conscious of himself, which is why he gets very, very upset at me when I don't compliment him on anything, or flatter him.
I mean, I do try to, it's just that it's so hard for me to just flirt or flatter because I'm not one to do so. We've fought a lot about it; it makes him feel unloved and unwanted and whenever I try to make a bold comment about him, to me, it seems so forced and it turns me off myself.
I do compliment him and make him feel loved; just moments where I lack showing that, he gets upset and picks up insignificant details, often getting angry at me.
I do not know how to address this issue. Should my boyfriend be more understanding and try to not get angry at me for not making him feel wanted, or should I try to change my personality and be more outspoken. | my boyfriend thinks i'm not outspoken enough when it comes to making him feel wanted (but it's not in my nature to be this way) |
t3_w5rft | AskReddit | About to pretend to be a girl's boyfriend to get a creepy guy to leave her alone, any thoughts on how to go about this? | Now I know this is dumb, but here is the scenario:
An 18 year old pseudo-friend of mine mentioned to me that she has been having issues with a 20 year old who works at her pool. He makes rude comments about her to her younger brothers and harasses her constantly whenever she is at the pool. From the description I have gathered from her little brothers, he is a former high school football player that hasn't done anything since, is aggressive around people smaller than him during things like pick-up basketball, and is a pathological liar.
So she asked me to come to the pool sometime and pretend to be her boyfriend to get him to back off. I have my doubts as to whether it will matter to this guy whether or not she is spoken for, but that's another story. I was wondering if reddit had any words of advice, any tricks or tips or really anything to make this charade more convincing? I am 6' and 180lbs, the harasser is 5'10" with a minimum of 100lbs on me. Needless to say, I would prefer this to not get physical because lets be real, it wouldn't do anything. | Need advice on how to be a convincing pretend boyfriend to ward off a creep. A large, aggressive creep. |
t3_2qqel1 | relationships | [28 M] Wants to propose on New Years Eve to his [30 F] girlfriend. Cliche? | Hello Ladies of Reddit!!
A few months ago you were able to help me pick out an engagement ring for my girlfriend of three years.
The time now has come to ask her if she wants it! :D
We've planned a small trip to Ottawa, Canada for New Years. So I was thinking about asking her to marry me during the countdown to midnight/fireworks down-town.
I personally think it will be a fun and exciting way to ask her since we are both quiet people who don't like the spotlight. And because everyone else will be busy making out and celebrating the new year, I thought it would be an interesting way to propose. (It kind of makes the proposal special between us, but still in a way that is very public)
My concerns are obviously the amount of commotion going on around us and the noise. But I'm pretty sure as soon as she sees me get down on my knee she will have no trouble figuring out what I'm doing.
So what do you think of this? Is this too cliche? Do alot of people propose on new years? Is there too much going on at midnight of new years eve to do this?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
I hope to have our hotel decorated a bit for when we return, and maybe a day of couples massages or something the following day.
Any other suggestions? | Should I propose on New Years Eve during the countdown? |
t3_2qur0n | tifu | TIFU by forgetting to clean out my bag | Firstly, my parents are rather strict people, especially towards computer games.
About a week ago, I went to our local Shopping Centre to buy some items, one of them being a belt. For sizing, I took my dads old belt, as it fit me well, so I could compare it with the one I would buy. I also decided it would be a great time to buy some RP, (League of Legends currency) so I did so.
Got home, all was well, got all I needed. Fantastic.
A week later (today), I am at a beach with my friend for a week, and I receive a text from my mum and dad saying "have you seen dads old belt?" Fuck. Fuck me. It's still in the bag... The one that has the RP card (they would shit themselves knowing I spent $25 for that "stupid" game) and the receipt and all...
Now I am in a predicament, cause they know I had the belt last, and they want to know where it is. What do I say? :c | Clean up behind you, don't leave your parents stuff with things you don't want them to see... |
t3_2fsdyi | relationships | Me [32 M] with my gf [27 F] of one year. Her snapchat behavior confuses me | I snooped in my gf's phone and found something that confuses me.
Three months ago I looked over my gf's shoulder while she was snapchatting and saw a new guy (A) on her friends list. I asked her about him, and she said it was a guy from uni, who added her. At that point no snaps had been exchanged. A is not in her class, but knows her from extracurricular activities some years ago. As far as I know they never dated.
Two weeks ago I snooped in my gf's phone. I looked at snapchat and found that she had sent a video snapchat to A. The snapchat date was on a sunday, and she had been drinking with her girlfriend saturday until late sunday morning, so I assume it was sent while she was drunk. She also sent me some snaps during her night out.
I asked her about the audio snapchat, and she said that she had no memory of sending it. She told me that she and A had exchanged a few snapchat, mostly book recommendations...
I looked at her phone two more times. The first time she had sent him one more regular snap on a tuesday, and the second time she had deleted him of her friends list.
Do I need to press harder on the "I don't remember" excuse?
I think she is lying about the content of their snaps, because I cant see the logical step from book recommendations to drunk video snaps... And why would she delete him from her friends list? | Gf sent a video snap to a guy while she was drunk. She says she doesn't remember sending it. She then deleted the guy from her friends list. |
t3_4sj8mw | relationships | Me [27F] with my BF[29M] are having issues | This is a throwaway sense I know he gets on the different threads, with that said on to the story
My guy and I have been dating little over 3 years and he has been the love of my life, met when I was younger online, met him when he moved to my state for other reasons than me, we didn't even date until 3 years ago. Both been through the ringer of the dating world and both found peace in each other even if he did make a move on me at a bad point in my life.
He has never asked me do anything I am uncomfortable doing, I like to think I did the same with him, even if I did have to move in with him when I was homeless, he has been there for me in ways no other person has or ever will do.
What it comes down to is I think we've run our course, he barely talks to me when before we couldn't shut up. We rarely fight but when we do we get vicious. Never physicallly only with words and we try to walk away from each other before it gets to bad, but we haven't even done that lately.
Last night we got in to a "Fight" and walked away we still haven't talked and I'm tired of trying to make the first move to fix our issues.
Do you think we're on the last legs of our relationship? | BF of 3 years seems as thought we'very run out of steam. Are we about done? |
t3_u0xny | AskReddit | (ex?) GF needs time. What are my chances? X-post from r/relationship advice | Tried r/relationship advice with no response so i figure ill try here. So my girlfriend (I guess ex girlfriend right now) and I have been together for the last two years. Through this time she's helped me through so much between my family practically falling apart because of my fathers drug addiction to just my everyday problems. It's been so that no matter what happens whether I'm just having a bad day or something more serious I can just tell myself "at least I have her."
Anyway so lately things have gotten into somewhat of a rut. Long story short, about a week ago she tells me that she's not sure what she wants and needs some time. So I've gone to stay with my grandma and am leaving her by herself for a few days. What I really want to know is has anyone ever actually had a SO say they needed some time and had it work? Any advice is really appreciated and if more info is needed let me know. | GF says she needs time alone. What are the chances we'll survive it. |
t3_1hj8k9 | relationships | Me[27F] wondering if guy I've been dating [30M] will change his mind | We met in a bar (but through a dating website location-aware app, just so you know neither of us are really the kind to "pull" at a pub). He was clear from the start that he had just come out of a divorce and not looking for something serious. I enjoy casual sex and I'm very comfortable with "grey zone relationships" (anything between fuck buddy and boyfriend), he was damn cute, so went ahead.
A month and 4 dates later, things are pretty great. Sex gets better and better, we have plenty of mutual interests but at the same time into different things that are fun to show to each other. Dates are always interesting and fun.
He has brought it up again (shyly, don't think he has much dating experience) about it not being serious, which is still completely cool for me because I hate getting into "serious relationship" too fast, but I have started to wonder if I wouldn't like for things to head that way eventually...
I'm basing quite a bit of this on a past relationship with a guy, which was "grey" for a few months until he said "I grew on him" and he wanted to be "serious" with me. In that case, I actually *didn't* want to be serious with him (I was simultaneously dating another guy, who was more interested in me from the get-go, and was actually very hurt when I disclosed I wasn't being exclusive... hence the reason I'm trying to give the current guy my full attention, since I don't want to hurt anyone).
So yeah, wondering if...
- I'm fooling myself that I might grown on this guy
- Worried for signs in myself that I'm taking things more seriously than I should for a "grey" relantionship | Guy said he's not looking for anything serious, is not a player at all, what are my chance that he will chance his mind? What signs should I look for in myself so I don't get hurt? |
t3_b7bjq | needadvice | How can my wife build her business, and how can I help? | My wife is a personal shopper/personal stylist for a fairly high-end chain department store. We live in a large metropolitan area in the US. The customers that visit the store pay no additional charge for using a personal stylist. Their cost is the same as anyone else purchasing product, they just get to have someone help them pick out looks and throw together outfits, etc. Her compensation is straight commission (% of gross) and she currently gets customers in one of three ways:
1- Someone calls into the store wanting to be set up with a stylist and she's available; 2- She takes walk up customers during times when she doesn't have appointments; and 3- Her repeat customers, referrals, or people she knows call her up and book an appointment.
Types 1 and 2 have been in the toilet lately, and I'm trying to find ways that I can help her build up number 3. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can use the interwebs, or local organizations, creative marketing tactics of any kind, or anything else out of the ordinary to help her build a customer base? I'm looking for creative things that will lead to something, and I'm willing to put in some work. Just looking for things I haven't thought of and knew reddit might have some creative ideas. | How can I help my wife find more customers to buy somewhat expensive clothes? |
t3_1erqjd | relationships | I [M/18] don't know what to do about her [F/18]. | I'm 18, and I've been on and off with this girl, also 18, for... a long time. We dated after sophomore year for a few months, things didn't work out. After not talking for quite some time, we began hanging out with mutual friends an started dating again last May. Everything was great, we had a fantastic summer, but then we went to college.
We go to different schools in the same city, so I could still manage to see her once or twice a week for a couple hours at a time, but I felt like there was a distance growing between us, and that we had nothing to talk about anymore. I did what I thought was best and "ended it" in October.
Fast forward a few months, we've been talking again and end up hooking up over winter break. We started a friends with benefits sort of thing. That was fantastic for a while too, we've got great sexual chemistry and find each other really attractive. It actually ended up getting a little more relationship-y than I originally intended, but... I didn't mind. That lasted until just recently, when I broke it off again. I've been dealing with major depression over much of this time, and I just felt worthless and guilty and like she didn't need to be putting up with my bullshit anymore. She says, and I don't blame her, that this is actually it and that it isn't fair to either of us to keep changing what's going on all the time, and she put me in contact with someone to try to do something about my depression.
Reddit, I think I fucked up big time.
This girl is, to be honest, one of my very closest friends and right now I'm freaking out at the prospect of not being able to be close to her, to share time and experiences with her. I just don't know what to do, when we're together I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing, and when we're apart I miss her terribly and don't know what to do with myself. Can I salvage this situation? Should I be trying to? Should I be trying to get over her and move on? Any and all advice welcome. | Was in on-and-off relationship, out of it right now, really want to make it work with her but don't know if it's gonna happen. |
t3_10fh07 | dating_advice | What is he trying to tell me? | I am a gay 15 year old. In my archetypes class, there's this boy, 'Jack', he's 16 but we're in the same grade. We didn't talk before this school year. He tarted talking to me and followed me on twitter. We would favorite each other's tweets and started talking in class. I recently missed 4 days of school and I messaged him on Facebook asking him what we did. He explained and then asked if I was feeling better. We started talking about homecoming and he asked if was going and I said no. He asked why and I told him it was because I didn't have a date. Then he asked me if I'm gay. I said yes and he said that he should still ask someone, even if they were gonna say no. He then said he had to go. When I returned to class, we were using the schools laptops and I didn't get one because I was late. He offered me his laptop! Earlier, he tweeted don't complain if you don't have a homecoming date and just ask someone. Also, he said he was going to homecoming with his friend because he didn't want to ask anyone, he told me this on Facebook. I tweeted "oh um well ok then" and he favorited it. He then tweeted "good, I'm glad" and I haven't been on since then. I also forgot mention that I catch him looking at me in class most days. Do you think he likes me? Oh and he's not out but I can kind of tell that he's gay. Please help because I don't know what this means anymore. Maybe I'm overreacting and crazy. Sorry for the wall of text and misspellings, not on computer right now. | I think a boy likes me and I like him back but I can't tell if he does like me or not. |
t3_47kb7i | askwomenadvice | When to call a girl that you're interested in dating and how to confirm/imply it's a date? | I'm a guy (24) and I met a girl (24?) last spring at a weekly event. We have a handful of mutual friends and most of them are couples that we've both known for a long time.
We've been fb friends for a while and last week I messaged her regarding a mutual interest in writing/performing music. I had mentioned that we should try writing some music together and she agreed, so I said we should meet up for a drink/coffee and talk so I could learn more about what she likes and does musically etc. She said she'd be able to meet up this Sunday, and I got her number and told her I'd call her or text her to make plans.
My issue here is I haven't really said that I'm hoping for a date, but that is what I am interested in. I plan to call her tomorrow to confirm plans. I haven't texted her or anything since I talked to her last week, and that means she doesn't have my number yet, so the ball is in my court(?). I'm wondering, since a date was never implied (even though desired), when I call her tomorrow should I just stick to the whole "just seeing if you're still good to meet up Sunday, we should go here at this time" and don't worry about whether it's a date or not. Then hopefully it goes well and I can ask her out on an actual date at the end (also taking suggestions for best way to approach this)? Or should I try and imply that I'm interested in a date when I call her tomorrow?
Also, should I have waited this long (until tomorrow) to call her? I didn't want to be constantly texting her beforehand and risk having things get stale. I thought "I'll give her a call Friday evening when the weekend is just kicking off and most people are in a good mood". But I haven't spoken a word to her since last week so I wonder if she thinks that I'm not interested or if she has just forgotten... haha. | A girl I'm interested in agreed to meet up but I'm not sure a date was implied. Also, I don't know the norms for calling/texting during the period between agreeing to meet and then actual meeting. |
t3_16q319 | dogs | My wonderful dog needs better exercise. Any tips? Details inside. | Dottie is a wonderful, intelligent, obedient and playful dog. She also may have OCD, her compulsion being licking. She licks the floor, the carpet, herself, the cat, my hands, the couch, and just about everything. Although her licking is **not** to the point that she will not come to me, or will not eat, or anything drastic that interferes with day-to-day life, I don't want it to get to that point. Additionally we have yet to find a good activity for her that will keep her and us happy and maybe a little less energetic (part Jack Russel Terrier) throughout the day.
We have tried going on walks and runs with her, but it doesn't work for either us humans, or her. It's physical but not mental activity, and during the winter months it's far too cold and wet in Alabama for any of that. We will occasionally use a laser pointer in our house, but as she may have OCD, it is safer not to use this as her main form of exercise, especially since she has shown a tendency to be focus too much on the little red dot even when it is hasn't been seen in an hour. Swimming is *probably* not an option. She doesn't really like water in anything bigger than a water bowl. Not even a bucket.
For those who need to know, Dottie is part Jack Russel Terrier and weighs 21 lbs (9.5 kgs). She stands about 16" (~41 cm) at the shoulder. She has herding instincts, and will actually try to herd our cat back in when he escapes to the back yard, and failing that, will follow him to show us where he is so we can come get him. She also keeps our yard free of squirrels and chipmunks (I found her chewing on a head once or twice) so she must have some prey instincts as well. Our backyard is a nice size, but she can get out even though it's completely surrounded by a chain-link fence. She's a good climber. We live in a cul-de-sac in a suburb of Birmingham, AL where there are a lot of people who don't properly contain their dogs so walking the neighborhood is not really an option either. | Our energetic and intelligent dog needs a physically and mentally stimulating exercise that is not walking, running, swimming, or chasing a laser-pointer. |
t3_3bfx6b | tifu | TIFU by playing tag with a teacher in an exam room. | Didn't actually happen today but...
It was exam week and most of my exams were in the hall with the rest of my year. When i do my (english) exams, i do them on the laptop. Now my school being unorganized didn't get my a laptop so i had to wait and wait until everyone in the year entered the hall and sat down. i'm not patient. So i decided to ask a teacher what the hell was going one, she was like "wait, go back to the back". Again, i'm not patient. It's been like 5 minutes and she was walking to towards the front. i thought she forgot about me cause she was acting like a bitch. i didnt want to call her name out because honestly i didn't know her name cause i hated her guts, so i followed her. Because i was holding my bad and my gigantic math gcse book, i was slow af. so she turned to the left. I turned to the left. she turned to the front. I turned to the front. This carried on like 3 time till i caught up to her. i could actually hear people trying not to laugh. so fucked up.
Not done yet.
she got this other teacher, yaass, and he got me to sit in the front. He didn't actually know what's going on so he gave me a random laptop. Finally. log in and everything ready to ace this test. the the laptop is shut in front of my face. Guess who. Mrs Pain in the fucking ass. god i hate that teacher.
long story short : ended up doing that walk of shame out of that hall and into a Ict lab. | Had no idea what was going on, followed my teacher -who i hated- for at least a minute. People laughed cause it was like tag, then ended up using her laptop by accident. |
t3_zu2jf | BreakUps | help me, I am broken | I feel so incredibly lost right now, my first love didn't pick me. It hurts so much to know that. I am F, 21 and My ex, M, almost 23 is a recovering addict. We had dated back in high school and that didn't work out. We tried again a few years later when he was sober. We have been living together for about four years now and we made the stupid decision of letting him try drinking again after almost two years sober. I was no longer important, but I am not sure if I ever had been. We would often argue about me not being his priority. There was always something above me, his friends, COD, getting high. It was never me. I moved schools, jobs, locations, not once but 8 or 9 times for him even to a different country. I would cook, I would clean, I would love. I would invest my entire essence into our relationship, whatever he asked. After so long of not having a voice, I stood up for myself tonight. I respected myself for the first time in years and that feels kinda good, but when I gave him an ultimatum of alcohol or me...he didn't pick me and god it just hurts so much. | I just gave my recovering addict boyfriend an ultimatum and he picked alcohol. We have been dating off and on since high school and honestly, he is my only friend. We have moved around so much that I haven't made connections. I feel so alone right now |
t3_2gh6nt | relationships | I (32f) just found my ex (28m) has got a new girl already after 3 weeks | Maybe it is a guy thing to get over their past relationships easily?
But we had been together almost for 2 years and planned for the future together.
Plus, he said i was a world to him...and even after breakup, he said he missed me....but in three weeks, he showed up with another girl introducing her as his new gf.
I feel so cheated...
I was even feeling guilty when the guys were talking to me even though i am single now. I guess i miss him, but apparently he doesn't.
When we were together, he blamed me being insecure, but i always felt there were some reasons for me to be insecure. For example, he always female figures who he can talk to (female friends, coworkers, or someone from online).
And he gave me the compliments how great his female friends are after telling me how big belly i have (i am not fat. He always looked for my flaws..)...
I know we are not together anymore and i shouldn't care...but i feel so devastated and even stupid about myself missing him...
I ... feel so bad. .. | My ex has got a new girl after 3 weeks break up while he said he missed me. |
t3_23s9hn | running | Cross training questions | Maybe this belongs in the "I'm an idiot Friday" thread or whatever it is called but I'm going to post it here anyway in the hopes that I can get some feedback.
Is there any type of consensus as to what the best type of cross training to do is when one is trying to avoid exacerbating impact related repetitive stress injuries? I'm referring to things like shin splints, runners knee (the IT band variety) tweaked calves etc. I've tried the elliptical, the AMT, biking etc, and to be honest I find that they don't translate especially well to improving or even holding ground in terms of endurance and pace while running.
This is a big year for me as I got a bib for Chicago which would be my first marathon. I have run a number of halves in the past and will be running the half here in Pittsburgh in 2 weeks. I need to figure out how to stay healthy though and not repeat last year when I ran a PB 10k in June but tweaked a quad doing so. Had I cross trained effectively it probably would have healed in plenty of time to run the Harrisburg marathon in October which I had planned to do. Instead though I made the mistake of continuing to train with increased distances while hurt,and long story short I spent most of the summer limping around unable to train and ran no other races that year.
What do you do to stay in shape or even improve while you are nursing a minor injury so that it does not become a major issue?
Any input is appreciated. | I need to figure out how to continue to train when I have minor tweaks so they don't get worse and wreck my season. |
t3_4uux0u | relationships | F (25) and M (27): I'm not sure if my summer fling is showing signs of not wanting to have sex anymore | I (f27) have been seeing a guy (m27) throughout this summer. We've been hanging out during the day and having mind blowing sex at night. The last 4 times we hung out, we spent the night together but not had sex. The last 2 times I've tried to initiate and he's said that he's just too tired. To be fair he pretty much falls asleep as soon as he says that. Is it just me, or is he showing signs of not wanting to have sex with me anymore? Can i just straight up ask him if he's not interested in having sex anymore? He's normally physically affectionate with me or at least grabby but he definitely was not last night until the middle of the night. Help! | I'm not sure if my summer fling is showing signs of not wanting to have sex anymore |
t3_fuhle | loseit | I want my girlfriend to be smaller than me, how can I encourage her without coming across as mean or rejecting (we've never talked about it even once), maybe a 6 month hike up the Appalachian Trail is in order? | * | Want my GF to be smaller than me. Need a way to bring it up nicely as well as ideas for the effort. |
t3_2lx354 | relationships | I [28F] found out my [31M] boyfriend of almost a year has been texting/messaging at least one other woman for the last month or so.. | I don't really know where to start... He and I had a wonderful relationship at the beginning. We talked through our problems, showed mutual love and respect for one another, and he was quick to start talking marriage and our future together. I told him I wasn't quite ready to be married again, and he agreed that if we are going to spend the rest of our lives together then there is no reason to rush. Let's enjoy where we are now kinda thing.
Cut to 3ish months ago and we're not disscussing things like we used to, we're fighting. And our sex life is strained - he's turning me down a lot, claiming his libido has gone down since he gained a little weight. I do what I can to reassure him and make him feel wanted and sexy but nothing seems to help. He starts growing more and more distant and I can't seem to reach him. I feel a break up coming on.
Then we have a few really good conversations and it feels like we're communicating again. Sex starts happening again. Maybe the rough patch is over and we're back on good ground.
Nope. I can't shake an icky feeling on Saturday and breakdown and look through his texts. He's been exchanging pictures and flirty messages with some girl he met on Facebook. Even called her by a pet name he uses for me. So, I made a scene and walked out.
He called when I was a few blocks away and convinced me to come back. The only thing he could say as far as a "reason" was that he is freaked out by commitment in general, and was scared of how serious we were getting, and that he didn't realize just how much he loved me until I walked out his front door. There were a lot of tears, and I yell a lot, and he begged me to let him prove himself all over to me.
I love him, but the trust is gone. I want to work on things, but am afraid I'm being stupid. Any advise or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. | boyfriend crossed a line with another woman. I don't know where to go from here. |
t3_y5w4y | AskReddit | I NEED help asap for my Brother's gift at my wedding. | So I'm getting married in 3 weeks. My oldest brother is walking me down the aisle. My father (I like to think of him as a sperm donor only) has been out of my life for the last 15 years and my Brother has been like a father-ish figure.
I want to get him a really great gift and since he loves cigars I decided on a nice cutter and cigar travel tube things engraved with his name... Now the part I need help with... What do I engrave on the lighter. I want something that can even sort of thank him for all he has done for me but I only have 60 characters to do it in (including spaces and punctuation). | Reddit I'm a stressed out bride in desperate need of a 60 character quote for my oldest brother's gift. Please help!!! |
t3_16ae56 | tifu | TIFU by drunkenly skeeting on my girlfriend's disabled mother | Yesterday night, I fucked up in one of the worst ways possible.
First, some back story: my girlfriend is now the primary caregiver of her mother after her mother had suffered a fairly severe stroke that has left her paralyzed on the left side of her body. She can still function but clearly has problems with getting around which is where her daughter comes in. They live together in a studio apartment near where I attend university and share a single queen size bed. Their family has never had a lot of money and the medical issues her mother faces make it impractical for them to hire a nurse to help. Therefore, the responsibility falls on her family.
Last night we became fairly inebriated and wanted to fuck. My dorm room was unavailable due to a stringent policy my engineering school has about girls spending the night. It is literally impossible to make it past security late at night to get her into the dorm. This left the other feasible alternative ... her and her mother's apartment.
We arrived back at her apartment and started to get into things. Her apartment is fairly messy which means that the only real spot to have sex is the bed. We weren't drunk enough to get right next to her mom but we both knew that she is an incredibly heavy sleeper due to some of the medicine she takes. We decided to use one of the bedposts to position her on and I got behind her and started doing our thing.
We forgot a condom so that means I didn't last very long at all. As I pulled out I stumbled forward a bit and my load flew and hit her mother while she was asleep. After realizing what happened my girlfriend and I were utterly speechless. Her mom didn't wake up - it hit the side of her body (more specifically her arm) that was paralyzed. We stumbled around and got a towel and got the spunk off of her. She doesn't know a thing about it, but I am absolutely mortified of the next time I encounter her. | Got horny, got drunk, unprotected sex, skeeted, hit girlfriend's mother. |
t3_n7pr8 | AskReddit | Thinking about a potential career change to the games industry. Need Advice (x-post to r/gamedev) | Six months ago graduated college and started a lucrative engineering job. The work hasn't turn out to be all that exciting or challenging (or really programming related). Recently, I got a offer to go to a software engineering co-op at a game studio parented by Activision-Blizzard. I recognize this as a foot in the door to the industry and I am considering making the career change (the hope and intent is that it'll pipeline into a fulltime position). It is however a 50% pay cut and of course I would have to factor in moving and early resignation costs; but I really wanted hear some about some other people's experiences in the video games industry.
* If things don't pan out is it hard to find other jobs in the same industry?
* Are all the "Don't work in the games industry. You'll work 14 hr days and 70 hr weeks" true?
* At the end of the day is it fulfilling?
Things of that nature. Thank you ahead of time for taking the time to help out. | Deciding on whether to accept a position at a game studio. Would like to hear other redditor's experience in that industry. |
t3_2n71ec | relationships | Me [22 M] with a girl [24 F] I have been dating for about 2 months, are having trouble in the bedroom specifically on my end. | I wasn't sure whether to post this in /r/relationships so if this is the wrong place I apologize and please point me in the right direction.
About 4 months ago I broke up with my long time GF (2.5 years) and I have slowly gotten close with another woman. I am really attracted to her but for some reason I lose an erection with her very easily. My arousal is still high just no erection, obviously this is extremely frustrating. I masturbate probably once every two days and have no trouble maintaining an erection during alone time.
Have any of you had similar experiences?
Is it the masturbation causing the problem or is it some mental boundary?
I get sexually frustrated and end up masturbating so it causes a vicious cycle. I have never had trouble with getting or maintaining an erection before this so I am feeling pretty worried about it.
This situation also makes it difficult to explain to her, it is obviously not her fault but I don't know how to explain to her what is wrong, especially because I don't understand why either. I need help. | I have trouble maintaining an erection even when aroused, I have never had this problem before and it is not a problem if I masturbate. How do I explain this to her and how do I resolve this issue? |
t3_44s5hk | relationships | My [22F] housemate [22F] uses up loads of electricity - like hairdryers all the time! | So I'm living in a student accomodation type building where you get randomly put into a flat and share a kitchen and bathroom. Our contract essentially means we get a certain amount of electricity per month, and then if we need more we buy it on top up cards. We've been having to buy these for the last 2 months, which is putting me way out of budget (as I didn't expect to be paying more).
I've spoken to my roommate about turning off lights and appliances, and she has been doing this in fairness. But I've noticed (from hearing her) that she has her hairdryer on like all the time! I'm pretty sure she uses it to dry her laundry (we don't have a tumble dryer) and will just sit there with it on till the stuff dries (she comes to get her clothes then goes straight to using it, and I've once seen her wear the dry clothes pretty soon after! Is this okay or normal use? I don't think it's fair really, it uses up a lot of electricity ... but I've never exactly seen her do it so not sure if I can or should bring it up. | Housemate uses hairdryer to dry clothes |
t3_11hqci | BreakUps | I [M/20] online dated a girl [F/20] for 5 years. We broke up and instead of parting we stayed friends | I met this girl on a game and eventually we quit the game and started spending time with each other on MSN & Skype. We started out as friends and at the time I had no idea what love was or that a relationship could even occur over the internet. Eventually we started dating and I really fell in love with her. I love this woman.
We broke up for fighting too many times we were not happy. I think it was our hormones raging. We never got to see each other physically, we never could do anything intimate with each other.
Well instead of not seeing her ever again, I wanted to stay in touch. We stayed in touch and became friends.
Well now its 2 years later and I'm still friends with her. I still love her... Am I wasting my time? She's in a relationship right now but we still text and she finds time for me. Maybe she is just being friendly?
I want to date her and start a relationship with her in person. I don't know if she wants to date. She brought up the idea we could be room mates but I don't know if she was serious about it or not. I know I am for it.
What should I do? Am I wasting time on her? Our love was genuine and I haven't moved on. She has had a few relationships since then but nothing significant since ours.
I still love her. | Met a girl online |
t3_2jkc3b | relationships | Me [21F] with my boyfriend [21M] of 1.5 years, lying about texting another girl. | Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I are currently doing long distance, and last night he went out with some of his buddies, and one of these buddies grew up in the same town as my boyfriend, we'll call this guy "Greg". Just to clarify, I have no issues with my boyfriend texting other girls normally, but everything that happened today is very weird and makes me feel super uneasy.
Today, while on the phone with my boyfriend, "Brad", I got a Facebook message from some guy, "Taylor", saying "your boyfriend has been playing around on you" and he sent me a screen cap of a phone conversation that said:
Unkown #: Hi cutie
Taylor: Who is this?
Unkown #: It's Brad
Taylor: Brad who?
Unkown #: Brad [insert my boyfriend's last name]
Since I was on the phone with my boyfriend I read everything out to him and asked him what was going on. He said that since it wasn't his number it wasn't him who sent the text. My boyfriend has a very odd name though, so I thought this was strange since it had my same area code. I texted the cell number that said their name was Brad, and it turns out the number belongs to Greg.
Brad finally admitted to me that he and Greg were talking about a girl from their home town (who is very attractive by the way), and she also has the name "Taylor", and I guess that's who they were trying to text.
First Greg was saying that Brad was screwing around on his phone for a while, and now he is saying that Brad was never on his phone, and that it was him who texted Taylor.
Can you guys let me know if I am being psycho, I feel pretty crazy right now. I am more mad at the fact that Brad has been lying to me than that he possibly texted a girl saying "hey cutie". I'm also mad that Brad and Greg think I'm dumb enough to buy all the bullshit they've been saying today.
What do I do from here? | Boyfriend accidentally texted the wrong number when attempting to text another girl. A bunch of other bullshit ensued. I'm pissed. |
t3_nfi1p | AskReddit | What do you do when your life falls apart? | I'm a graduate student in physics. I met a girl overseas months ago while studying abroad, we fell in love. The best time of my life, truly passionate. I promised to return, applied for fellowships etc. to study there, which I wanted to do even if she wasn't in the picture. She decides to dump me last week, right before I hear about a scholarship. She just didn't feel the same anymore.
I hear about the scholarship yesterday. I didn't get it, so even my hope to go and do research with an awesome group is failed. The current morale, research, and funding in my group is not good now, and my adviser is aloof. He was happy to help me apply for scholarships because funding was getting tight.
I tell my adviser today that I didn't get the scholarship, he tells me, well, I had counted on that scholarship, I have no money to pay you, come January 1....
This happens after I moved to New York to be near a lab, I left all my friends, I live in a pretty boring suburban/strip mall area after living in Boston for 8 years.
I'm in shock, the absolute uncertainty of everything is overwhelming.
What have you done Reddit? Stories? Advice? | Lost girl, job, friends, live in depressing area |
t3_w5799 | dating_advice | To play the waiting game or jump into the fray with her? | I became friends with a really awesome and cute girl in my sophomore year of high school. We used to text a bit here and there and we became kind of close in school. I'd walk her to class, and we'd lock arms, hold hands, etc. School year ends. We end.
Now, after graduating high school (18 and male) I want to give things with her (18 and female) another shot so I texted her the other day and we talked for a bit, we've barely had any conversations since sophomore year ended, so this seems a bit odd now to have to work into things again. I know we both like hookah, so I figured I'd ask her to do that with me sometime, but I don't know how long I should wait before asking her to hang out. It's not that I'm afraid to ask, it's just I'm afraid now might be too soon and she'll make up some excuse that she's really busy or something. I do get a lot of smiley faces from her in texts if that helps. No winking faces though. :/ | Haven't spoken to girl in a while, want to meet up with her soon, don't know how long I should keep it to texting before I ask her to hang out, or how I should ask. |
t3_3qmfaw | relationships | I (25F) used to do some really shitty things while drunk. I really hate myself for it, and don't really know how to move on. | I'll try not to make this too long! Thank you for reading.
I (25F) have always been a very anxious and insecure person. I've been in therapy for it, and can happy say I'm currently at the best place I've ever been. I've been with my boyfriend (25M) two years and we're extremely happy. No cheating, no issues. I haven't been getting as anxious as I would in past relationships and I've really worked on myself.
However, when I was in college (18-22) i would drink a lot and do some really questionable things. I had a good amount of one night stands which in itself is fine, but I would also do things like hook up with my friend's ex in another friends bed, and even went as far as cheated on SOs on a couple occasions. I regret all of this immensely now. I feel like a horrible person for it. I've done a lot of self reflecting and tried to think of what made me act that way. I really don't handle alcohol well, but that's not an excuse. I constantly needed attention from guys as a way to feel good about myself, and would take that way too far.
Now that I've "moved on" from that stage of my life (i don't really drink anymore, also for that reason), it's really hard for me to look back, and to think about how my close friends must view me. My BF doesn't really know any of this, he knows I've cheated before and worked on myself, but no details. I guess my question is, how do I stop feeling like a horrible person, and like my close friends must think I'm a horrible person? | I did really shitty things in college and can't stop thinking about what a horrible person I was. I have a hard time moving on from that, even after years of being in a happy, healthy relationship. |
t3_sksib | relationships | Advice with a College and Girlfriend | Hey everyone,
I have been dating this one girl for a year and a half, but we were previously on/off for practically two years. So I guess you could say we were kind of together for 3 years.
Anyways I find her great of course. However, I moved away almost 3 months ago to a completely different country. She lives in the US now and i live in Brazil. We still maintain a "long-distance relationship. I completely trust her, she would never do anything like cheat on me, She was always that type of "prude" girl. THe one that was really shy and all that. The only thing that scares me is stuff liek Senior Prom (I realize how it should be a special night yet she wont be sharing it with me). And the thing about Senior prom is its 2 months away, that would mean she wouldn't of seen me for 5months.
Anyways, College for us would start in August. I would come back to where I used to live for about a week or two to see my friends and her, but then just go off to college. However The college i go to, i really plan on focusing and studying rather than my usual try to party and just slack off in school. With that being said, I don't see myself hooking up with girls, and my school is pretty small too.
However she surprisingly wants to go to a big school. her school is about 28,000 kids. That whole "get it out of your system during college" is what worries me. So I don't know if I was should just trust her and date her while we are both away at different colleges, or just live our own lives. The thing with college is, go to school for about 4 months, go home for a month for winter, then repeat but with a 3 month break for summer.
So all and all, its a much shorter time from not seeing eachother as i have not seen her for 6 months, vs the time during college which we wont see eachother for 4 months basically. Also, our college would only be a like 5-9 hours away from eachother, and I plan on transfering after a year to a better school, it may just be one she goes to too. | Any advice for people that went to college while dating their high school girlfriend? |
t3_2li62j | legaladvice | [PA, US] Apartment Complex opening personal mail and cashing check. | I live in an apartment complex for college students near my university's campus. Recently my rent was coming up and I had only just started my job so my parents were helping me with money for the rent. My father sent me a check for $200.
I frequently checked the mail for the check but it never came. Day came to pay rent and I was without $200. Called my family who got upset because of their inability to give out anymore money. Nevertheless they told me to go online and pay with a credit card and we would figure out how to recuperate. I created an online account for my apartment complex only to discover the rent due was $200 less than what I normally owe. I called the office to inquire as to why I had a lower charge. They told me they had cashed a check written by my father.
I asked if they had the address on the letter they received and the name on the check. They could give me neither. Called my father, said he wrote my name on the letter and the check. A day passes and the folks at the apartment office call me saying the check didn't go through and they're refunding me the money, and I can then use that to pay the rent without any late fees.
I asked them how the check got into their possession. They told me that my apartment number wasn't written on the letter so it went to their office mail basket, however my name was written on it. They also told me the check was written out to me and not anyone in the office or the complex. What they do is open any mail in their basket and throw any checks into a pile. Told my father this, he checked his bank account and told me the check was cashed and the $200 isn't there.
This issue is part of a list of my dissatisfaction with the staff at this apartment complex. Though this is the first one that has involved them breaking the law. I would appreciate advice on what I should do from here as I don't want the person responsible for handling my mail and money getting away with it. | Apartment complex opened mail with my name on it, cashed check written out to me. Didn't tell me about it until I asked them. |
t3_1sz9i8 | relationship_advice | [M21] Unsure to start dating with an ex coworker [F21] | Okay, I've known this girl for around 3 years. We have kissed on previous staff nights out and always been very flirty, I've had a huge crush on her since the first day she came to work. I decided not to act on the kiss thinking it was just a drunken mistake. It later came to my attention that infact she does have the same feelings for me.
However last year i was with a girl with a very messy break up on Christmas day after her misscarriage. A year on i am seeing my ex co worker after staying in contact and it has really thrown my confidence and trust. | Struggling to find trust women after a back break up |
t3_31zs55 | tifu | TIFU by flushing a piece of paper towel | It's exam time and I'm on about 2 and a half days no sleep. I had just finished an exam and was about to start an art project that's supposed to go up for critic on Friday by one of my most terrifying professors.
I had just gotten home from my exam and decided maybe I could take an hour nap before starting my project. Before doing so I threw a piece of paper towel in the toilet. I woke up at 8pm, and started panicking because I slept too late and it wasn't leaving time for my project.
That's when I noticed water coming from underneath my bathroom door...not only was water spilling from the top of my toilet but it was coming out from under it as well. There was no valve to turn off the water. The water had destroyed my project for a critic today and hit my usb as well. Water was filling my entire apartment. My landlord is a slumlord and of course there's no maintenance after 5, so here I am, a 19 year old girl, trying to fix a plumbing issue.
....And that's when I got my period. It was midnight by then and I had to run down the street to pee there. What happens while I'm peeing? A man walks in. And stares.
Toilet still isn't fixed. Still haven't slept. There's water everywhere. My project for today is ruined. My major project for my critic Friday isn't done. I have my period. | Flushed a paper towel and an old guy saw my crotch |
t3_1r8w6v | pettyrevenge | Habla español? | I hate it when someone calls me and speaks only in Spanish, even after I tell them my Spanish is extremely limited. This goes a thousand fold if I discover they are telemarketers. If they persist, I will switch to the other language I am fluent it - Japanese.
Usually, they just hang up once I do this, but I had one telemarketer continue to ask me questions. In my limited Spanish, I heard him say something to another person in the room like, "He's speaking some other language. I don't understand him." Hang up, asshole, otherwise I'll continue to waste your time and amuse myself by insulting you in Japanese. | bukkake banzai!!! Ah, so sowli. |
t3_2wx5tq | tifu | TIFU by not talking | Unlike most TIFUs this actually happened today. Not an hour ago from when I wrote this. This is my first time posting so.. mistakes will be made.
Set the stage: one girl who is academically successful and has some sort of school club to attend. Enter slacker boyfriend who has yet to get his license.
So, earlier today my girlfriend says "so am I giving you a ride today? It seems like every Monday you need one." I kindly accept to that, I may slack but I'm still a gentleman. She gives me a ride, which I am busy thinking about other things (such as how my friend thinks a student teacher is hot and I think he's dumb, and a possible life guard job in the summer) so I'm not really sharing a conversation with her.
We get to my house and I think she will need to get to the club as soon as possible so I skip the macking session that was in store for me, for what I thought was her well-beinig. Turns out she thinks I'm upset due to the lack of talking and lack of making out with her, I tell her I'm not and she does not believe me (I've lied before, sue me). I still want her to get there on time and I live in the country so she should leave relatively about right at that moment, but she ensues with asking why I'm upset, I say I'm not and it goes back to the roots of trust issues.
She drove away and appeared to be upset. Sorry for length. | Didn't talk to girlfriend, she thought I was upset, not upset, I've lied about being "fine" before. |
t3_37a7wl | tifu | TIFU, soul crushing! | So my grandfather passed away a little while back, and he was everything to me... hes was a brigadier general in a third world country, he grew up on a farm and he was a self made man, what he wanted, he made his.... he's what a strive to be, and i fall short every time.... Anyway, he was also a hard drinking, smoking bad mother fucker. When i was 8 after my parents left me with him and my grams, they basically raised me.
Well after he passed, he left me something that i thought i would never see, a large coin that he had shot threw! Yes he was a dead eye.... i remember being 8-9 and him and his friends would shoot at clays and shit in a empty field once a week... they would sit around and drink and the targets would get smaller and smaller, it was impressive, well on this particular visit a bet was made, my memory is blurry but i think it was i believe a crate of beer to the first to hit this fucking coin!
Hours later im sleeping on a bench, when i hear shooting and cholos basically over excited, He did it! he hit this fucking coin! we never found it after that... or so i thought. he did find it and keeped it this whole time for me to have! i always keep it in my wallet to remind me to persevere but today at my shop, it must have fallen out of my wallet... ive been looking for hours! its literally fells like a knife in my heart! suggestions are welcomed but what can i do now im FUCKED! | Lost a coin my gramps left me, now my view on life is shattered. |
t3_2t4wxr | personalfinance | Looking for a personal finance program | I have never been one to have a budget, but I finally got a handle on spending less than I earn last year. Not much in the bank after last year but definitely made progress.
Anyways, the girlfriend and I are working on a budget but I want to find a program that can sync between my iPhone, Mac, and her windows 8 laptop (ideally, her computer isn't necessary) that will help us visualize our spending. We both spend too much on lunches and luxuries and I want to curb that.
I have played around with mint and didn't like it too much. I don't like that it's web based and found it kind of useless. After a few days of working on my account on it, I didn't feel like I was anywhere close to getting it to work the way I had hoped.
I've seen Moneywiz and YNAB and they both look good, Moneywiz is less expensive. BTW, I am in Canada so something that works with Canadian banks would be prefered for importing data. | I want to use a program that can help me manage money and visualize spending. What do you guys use and what would you recommend? |
t3_2kbvz0 | tifu | TIFU by telling my friend "have fun tonight" | (Friends story, not mine)
My friend got into a relationship about a week ago. He was really excited because he hadn't had one in months and all he talked about was this girl. Well, him and I don't talk often so I set a reminder last week to tell him something along the lines of "have a good date tonight, man!" or something close to it. Well, a week passes and I don't really talk to that friend all that week, but the alarm reminded me. I messaged him and said "have fun tonight," but I wasn't greeted with what I thought I'd get. Apparently they broke up earlier that day and he'd gone through the whole day trying not to cry about it. I was the breaking point though. He told me it fell through and he didn't blame me for anything, but I still feel like the biggest asshole in the world. | Set reminder to tell my friend to have a nice date in a week, told friend to enjoy his date (thanks to my alarm), but he had been dumped that morning. I'm an ass. |
t3_r23kg | AskReddit | 20 year old female wondering if this is a drinking problem and should I see someone? | I started drinking at 18 after a sheltered high school experience. From my first time drinking to my latest , I always get to the point where I am very drunk and usually vomitting. I drink a lot very quickly and usually hard liquor. I get quit a bit of memory loss, am easily convinced and biddable when drunk and just completely obliterated at most times when I'm drinking.
Last week I was at a party and was rescued by my brother after I locked myself in the bathroom. We're fraternal twins and very close. My friends have done so much rescuing that most are tired of it by now, so I'm glad he was available. It was a revelation to me that things aren't ok when I drink.
I drink to get away. I'm a pretty anxious, insecure person and when I'm drunk I feel beautiful, smart, funny, etc. So when I start drinking, I'm always aiming for getting drunk so that I can get to those feelings. I essentially drink to get away from myself. If I can't get drunk (I work at a daycare, so I'm very careful with not being hungover at work) then I just don't bother drinking. I only do it to get drunk and I never am just tipsy, etc. I've not yet blacked out but I've come close and I've had a lot of memory loss.
So is this bad enough to consider AA? I've always thought everyone drinks like this, but I'm seeing now that the way I drink happens once in awhile to others when they overdo it, not ALWAYS like me. I have some history of alcoholism in the family and my brother has quit drinking once and for all since he hates who he becomes when drunk. So Redditors, many of you have experiences and knowledge that I think could help me. What should I do? Is this a problem? | 20 year old who drinks not that frequently but when I do it's to the point of vomiting and memory loss. Should I seek help? |
t3_2t55kw | relationships | Is my mom [47F] being too strict with me [16F]? | So, I know this may sound silly, but I'm 16 and my mom won't let me go to the beach, springs, etc. with my boyfriend [18] of a year and a half unsupervised. Hear me out, though.
I understand that this can be a concern for parents of a 16 y/o (especially who's dating someone 2 years older than them), but I'm in college. I graduated HS 2 years early (had all my credits). Now, as I said this may be a concern to most parents of a 16 y/o for various reasons such as drinking, smoking, having sex, etc. But my mom knows that I do not drink or some and she is however aware that me and my boyfriend have sex - this is legal where I live - and knows that I use contraceptives.
Is she worrying too much? I've always hung out with older friends due to being ahead in school, so I've always been treated as older by my parents but my mom just really seems to have a problem with this. Maybe it's because these places tend to be further than a movie theater, restaurant, etc.? | 16 and in college, mom won't let me go certain places unsupervised with my 18y/o boyfriend of a year and a half. |
t3_3or5ka | relationships | Me [22 F] with my ex-boyfriend [24 M] on and off 1 year, need help deciding if I should get back with him. | I'm going to try to make this short. My ex and I have been on and off for about a year, with our most recent break up ending badly. He has a lot of issues, drinking, anger, smoking, which caused a lot of problems in our relationship.
Many times throughout our relationship he would drink too much and snap at me over something stupid. He never put me down or anything, but I don't like being yelled at for something that is out of my control. He's never hit me, but he would do things like punch walls or throw chairs across the room which would also scare me.
I told him if he doesn't fix his drinking problems, our relationship would never work. He went to 2 AA meetings then stopped because he said it was dumb. Now he's spending a year across the country, and I haven't been able to see him.
He claims he's been drinking less, but I can't believe him unless I see it. He told me he only drinks when he goes out with friends, and doesn't get drunk only buzzed. Obviously, I have no way to prove whether he's lying or not.
I will be spending a week with him when he comes home for thanksgiving, but I'm scared he'll just hide it from me or cut back for that week so I think he's changed.
He's also told me he'd stop smoking, but every time I ask him if he quit yet he says no. He told me he promised me by the time he comes home he'd have quit for good, but I have no way of knowing if he just won't smoke that week, then resume when he goes back.
So my question is should I trust that he's telling me the truth or do you think changing those habits is easier said than done, and he's either lying that he'll change or he believes he'll change then give up when he realizes how hard it is. I really do love him, but I can't be with him if he's going to have those unhealthy habits our whole relationship. I need your opinion what I should do. | My ex wants to get back, but has issues with smoking, drinking, and anger. He keeps promising he'll change, but since he's spending the next year across the country, I have no proof if he's trying to improve himself or not. He wants to get back either now or when he moves back, but I'm scared he won't change, and he'll just hide these unhealthy habits from me so I think he's better. |
t3_2hxuhm | offmychest | Apparently I'm an experiment to see how much stress a person can withstand. Suggestions? | I'm 26. I'm an auditor.
We audited a small city in bumfuck USA and discovered the government personnel were stealing cash and hiding it, and had been for some time. I found out today the Feds are getting involved and this person is fucked. I don't feel bad for them considering what they did, but it's stressful to know that my deposition will be part of the evidence that sends this person to prison and essentially, end their life.
My 2 year anniversary with my S/O is a week from tomorrow, and they keep telling me how excited they are about what they're getting me. I'm so broke at the moment I can't even afford food. Our anniversary was kinda fucked up last year, so I really wanted to make up for it this year. I absolutely adore my spouse.
My personal finances are fucked. I barely make it through paycheck to paycheck, and am grossly underpaid for what I do.
I've been averaging 90 hour work weeks this whole month. I've been so stressed and exhausted that my sex drive is almost nonexistent, and I used to be a beast. Do 26 year olds have those kind of hormone deficiencies?
I know there are people out there getting raped, beaten, robbed, and basically suffering much more than myself, and my hat's off to everyone struggling and making it through each day.
These are just the main things lately. I've always suffered from anxiety. I take 2mg xanax a day and still, I have never been this stressed out and exhausted in my entire life.
Sorry for complaining. Any helpful advice would be appreciated. I just needed to vent. Thank you for listening. | I'm 26 and my sex life is struggling due to stress and exhaustion. Help? |
t3_4vgvq9 | relationships | Me [26M] with my GF[26F] of 10 months, I still haven't met her friends. | I started going out with my current girlfriend about 10 months ago. I met her at uni and we have been friends for about 6 months before I asked her out. We do the same course at uni so we do have some mutual friends (not close ones).
We were once in a shopping centre and randomly bumped into a friend of hers and she asked if i'm her bf. She said yes. Apart from that I still haven't met any of her friends yet. She has met all of my close friends. So I found this bit weird. This could be my overthinking but I think if you are in a relationship it's normal to introduce the partner to friends.
She doesn't go out awfully lot but she catch up with her friends time to time. | Is it weird that I haven't met any of my GF's friends? |
t3_1c3b6b | relationships | Girl I've known for a year (21f) wants me to help her decide what to do with her life and us. What on Earth do I say? (21m) | I met someone on a trip overseas. We have known each other for a year and talk online. She has a boyfriend, but I can tell that she finds me quite a bit more interesting. She has explicitly stated that she finds me more attractive, interesting, and I am decisive unlike her other prior & current boyfriend. Issue is, we both just can't do long distance.
She is moving away to start school again in 4 months and thinks things will likely end with her current boyfriend, they both know this and he told her that he doesn't care... but that she has to make a decision now.
I have the opportunity to move and work and live near her at school. She says she wants that very much, but she seems confused with what to do with her boyfriend (feeling like it will be her fault if they break up). Now she doesn't know what to do. She wants me to help her decide and I don't know what to tell her. | Close friend stuck with a boyfriend who she will likely break up with. She likes me and wants me to move closer. Also wants me to help her decide what to do and I don't know what to say. |
t3_px53l | AskReddit | I'm a male and I have a girl question, girls. | Hi,
The other night my friend 'introduced' me to a girl friend of his. He thought that I'd really like her, she's a film major, she likes weed, and shes smokin hot.
However, 'introduced' means showing me a picture of her, telling me I'd like her, and calling her from my phone, so she really has no clue who I am.
So I really wanted to meet this girl, even if that just meant a text conversation. She had my number so the next day I text her, "hi" with no reply. about 10 hours later, I thought it would be funny to send her [this] with no reply
I realize that was a big chance because she may not get it (I'm sure she didn't), plus she didn't reply to my first text and I followed up my first neglected text so
soon. I also feel weird that she has no idea who I am, but I also take comfort in the anonymity.
So tell me, is this a dead end? Am I just some weirdo with this cute girls' phone number? If a guy you didn't know was texting you like this would you ignore it and pass him off as a creep? Or take a chance?
Or do I actually have a chance to come back and actually get to know her. I feel like we'd sync up pretty well. I just don't know how to get started, or if it's too late.
thanks | I text a girl (friend of a friend) that I only saw a picture of, with no reply. Can I somehow start a conversation? Or is it hopeless? |
t3_pvnun | BreakUps | Not sure if I moved on too quickly to another girl... | M18 dating F18: I dated a girl for about nine months, and for a while, things were great. But after the honeymoon period was over, I began to notice that we were different people. I'm expressive, touchy-feely and extroverted, while she's the opposite. I also wanted to spend a lot more time with her than she wanted or was able to spend with me. So after probably two months of on and off fighting and me being upset, we broke up.
The week after we broke up, I was hanging out with a girl who I've been best friends with for over two years. We're incredibly similar and have always been very close. We've also liked each other on and off throughout high school, but we've never gotten the timing right (she dated somebody for a year and a half). Anyways, we started snuggling, a few days later we made out, and now we're in a relationship a little after two weeks after my ex and I broke up.
My ex has told her one of our mutual friends that she thinks I'm an asshole, and the mutual friend agrees that I jumped in way too quickly. The thing is, it's my senior year of high school, my new girlfriend and I are going to the same college, and we've had feelings on and off for two years. When people found out we were dating, the reaction was almost always "Well it's about time!" That being said, did I move on too quickly? I feel bad about hurting my ex, and a big part of me still misses her, but I would never get back together with her and I know that we're not right for each other. I also didn't want to wait and miss out on a girl that I really do like a lot. | Was in a 9 month relationship, broke up after being unhappy for months, and now in a relationship with my best friend of two years two weeks later. |
t3_3unsja | relationships | How to stop my [22/m] parents [50/f][55/m] from fighting all day? | Everyday my parents are always constantly yelling each other. My mom knows that my dad is the type of guy that always mess up regardless of how many times he screws up something. Then my mom will always nag the crap out of him of what a screw up he is. In all honestly, this relationship is a complete disaster and any normal person would have had a divorce, but those two stayed together because of me and my mom can't support herself alone.
The yelling has been pretty nasty lately and my dad is reaching a pretty old age where he will need to retire soon. My parents are pretty much waiting for me to graduate from college so I can get a job and buy a new house to solve our financial crisis. We're not in debt or anything, but we want a better life. So in a sense, I'm 22 and should have graduated by now, but due to setbacks of not getting my classes and I've changed my major two times at the cost of having to go back to a community college from a university and two more years of delay. I'm back at home living with them, so in a sense, I do feel like a failure.
My parents love me very much, but when their anger get the best out of them, they also start yelling at me and telling me what a failure I am for not graduating or not getting good enough grades.
What would you do in this situation? | Parents are always fighting everyday and I feel like a failure because I can't graduate yet to help improve our lives. |
t3_1thya6 | relationships | Me [24 M/M] with my 5-year [28 M/M] duration, just moved in together, sister is weird. | I have been with my boyfriend through civil service and college. During our five years we have had one critical scene where he had a thing with someone he met at a party in cologne. This was a one time thing (which was quite some time ago and I forgave 100%) but I told it to my older sister on a drunken night out.
That was a few years ago and sometimes comes up in a hissy fit of mine, bit isn't that serious and not really part of the problem I am having.
I recently moved in with my boyfriend (we now both live just across the state and usually go home every other weekend at least) and my sister gets extremely pissy when I meet him during that time to go meet some friends together (since we have mutual friends). It's not like she's doing the same thing when she's here, I just do it more often.
Now she is just weird. The christmas holidays have just started and I haven't seen him for a few days and my mother even got him a present. So I said I will probably see him the day before new years's eve and she flipped saying I should not see my boyfriend this often.
Now, my other sister has her wedding on new year's eve. He has to work between Christmas and New Year's Eve and this is not even a problem. We have already established that we probably won't really see each other till the wedding.
I'm just hurt that my sister cannot see me seeing my boyfriend. | It might even go deeper. But this could set off more than I would want. |
t3_2evl8p | relationships | I [24 M] have a girlfriend [23 F] of one year whose mood changes very frequently. Is that normal? This is my first serious relationship. | I realize it's normal for peoples' moods to change and females' often do so more than males. But I'm wondering if this is more fluctuation than normal.
Some days she is very happy and smiley and continually tells me how much she loves me. But sometimes the very next day she'll act uninterested and like she's doing me a favor to talk to me. Nothing at work changes, she's not on her period. It's just like BAM mood change. Is this a typical part of being with someone day to day? Or should I be concerned? | Her temperament and attitude toward me go up and down day to day and I'm wondering what a "normal" amount of mood fluctuation is. |
t3_2nqbvr | relationships | My boyfriend [M 20] constantly undermines me [F 19] | Hi /r/relationships!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year.
I'm not sure if the following is totally relevant, but I feel as if I should include some background: recently, he has had a lot of family issues going on, as well as a lot of stress from (university) exams, which I've supported him through. We both are in leadership positions at our universities where we commonly have meetings with other students, faculty, and professionals in our field.
However, I've noticed that he no longer pays attention to me when I speak and always undermines me when we're in meetings (eg. contradicting me, completely ignoring my opinion, or cutting me off when I'm talking). I rarely see him alone and when I do, he only speaks to me when he's criticizing me or attempting to tell me what to do. I personally am quite an outspoken person, so naturally, it leads to many arguments and general displeasure with one another. Whenever I try to talk about it, he says I'm just being too sensitive and he doesn't think he's doing any of it.
He used to be really respectful and considerate of me. It's been after our one year anniversary that he's begun all of this.
How do I get this to stop, reddit? | My boyfriend undermines and ignores me. What do I do? |
t3_zn1yn | relationships | My gf[F20] Just broke up with me[m20] and I don't know what to do. | My girlfriend have been going out for almost 3 years. It's been long distance for about a third of that time. She went to a different college for a semester and then to work in the Disney College Program which she got back from a month and a half ago. When she got back we seemed really happy together just like we were before. Shes now at college again. She came to my house earlier today and told me that she needed time to herself. She said that she want to find out who she really was and that she wanted to have fun with her friends without having to worry about me. She get flirty when she's drunk. Also she wants to travel as a Disney adventure guide. She barely mentioned it though. I don't know what to do. She keeps saying things like "if it's meant to be it will happen". | My gf of 3 years wants some "time alone" |
t3_52p45a | relationships | How can I [19M] get my sisters [17F, 16F &14F] to stop worrying so much about our brother [13M]. | My sisters and I live in Australia, my family is normal for the most part and we all get along. My little siblings are still in school and I am at university.
Our brother has asthma, sometimes when he is sitting at the dining room table doing his homework he kinda breathes weird. I don't know if that is normal for asthma but he breathes weird sometimes, like really raspy. He takes a puff of his inhaler and he is fine.
But if he does one of them walks up to him and asks if he is OK. Just in my mind there is no need for alarm unless he is really struggling. How do I get my sisters to stop worrying about him because I feel, paranoid is not the right word. But they are only worrying over nothing | How do I get my sisters to stop worrying |
t3_1oviel | relationships | Me [18 M] with my friend's best friend [18 F] met her yesterday, not sure how to go forward. | I'll keep this short. Basically my friends conspired with each other and set me up on this group dinner last night with a friend of one of theirs. The conspiring group consists of three of my close guy friends and a close friend that's a girl. The meet was with her friend who goes to school in Boston and to the best of my knowledge they were trying to set me up.
Essentially what happened is that, being my awkward self, I was able to make really short conversation and kinda sorta made a not so impressionable first impression. After that night we came back to campus and my female friend and I basically had a heart to heart about this whole situation.
To sum up, she basically said that she thought that my personality that I show to her is something that she thinks is "compatible" with her best friend, but I wasn't able to display it because I don't know how to be myself around girls that I don't know.
This all happened last night and basically I'm having trouble coming up with ideas for how to meet with her again. The mutual friend (my friend on campus) is essentially my connect to her and said that the next time she's available to do anything is this Friday. What do? | Female friend wants to set me up with her best friend. Had a less-than-average first impression and want to do it right the next time I see her on Friday. Need ideas on what to do and if it's a good idea to have friends around (group setting). |
t3_1cl74i | AskReddit | Reddit, im working on the premise for a book, ill put it up but i want some input on what i should work on or how i could change it. | A *Recurring Dream* keeps the protagonist **James** looking inward as he nears completing his first year of college. Over the past year he has grown an affection for a Girl named Allisa but when things go horribly wrong after their perfect first date she ends up dead with the whole school looking to James as not the cause but a victim. He becomes known as the guy who lost what people believed would be love, and life together. Over the next few weeks, the recurring dream he has subsides but he has a myriad of new and very random dreams. When one night he feels like he experiences the dream for himself he wakes up with an injury sustained while in the dream. Spending more time trying to dream, he realizes with the right training he is near omnipotent and that these dreams are not dreams, they are his unhindered access to other realities. He then embarks on a crusade through the worlds his dreams open to save the girl who died, to right his conscience, and to find out what his original recurring dream was really about. Will his meddling anger God, destroy what the universe has accomplished, or will he be able to recover Allisa from the grips of death and time. | College guy has recurring dream which bother him, goes on perfect date but girl he loves and took out dies, discovers he has awesome dreams that allow him to travel across space and time, instead of acting as god, he goes on an adventure through these "Dreams" to bring back the girl he loved |
t3_2bmj4m | relationships | I [38M], married for 14y with my wife [38F], started an affair with a girl [21F], possibly moving to mistress status | I have been having an affair for 3 weeks with this girl [21F] who is a single mom and just left an abusive relationship. She's much younger than me and very attractive. She knows I'm married and is ok with that. Says she doesn't want to be a homewrecker. She likes the companionship I'm giving her. I like her a lot but as a friend and not a lover. I reserve that for my wife. She is respectful of this.
I'm coming home to my wife a lot happier and our marriage is much happier since I found my mistress. Wondering if this is really a bad thing or not.
I'm afraid of the obvious risks and wonder if its even possible to be friends long term even if the SO doesn't find out about us. | Wondering if having an attractive 21y old mistress is a bad thing or a good thing and can we be real friends. |
t3_3pjutr | relationships | My (21 F) boyfriend (28 M) hates when I take medication. How can I make him understand I need it? | We have been together a year. I take 2 anti depressants daily, sleeping pills as needed, and muscle relaxers as needed. I have severe depression, daily migraines, and a bad back. I need this medication to feel ok right now.
He makes me feel terrible whenever anything about medication comes up. He hates it and doesn't want me on anything. I agree that some of this medication has some pretty bad side effects but I can't stop taking it now.
This causes so much tension that I take my medication in private, don't talk about it, and hide it from him. He has even gone so far as to give me an ultimatum, stop taking all medication over the next year or break up. How can I make him realize that these medications help me function? | boyfriend hates I'm on medication. I need to make him accept that I need it |
t3_3qbw3e | tifu | TIFU by taking a nap | After morning MMA workouts I was pretty tired and wanted to get a nap in before I went to the second practice and work. Seems like a good idea until you're texting your friend about last nights walking dead episode and fall asleep doing so, face first into your phone and pillow. I wake up, phone dead, 20 minutes left to spare before I head out, drool on my face. So I begin to charge my phone. As I start to grab my stuff and get ready I decide to listen to some music, Gunslinger by Avenged Sevenfold sounds good. No music comes out but it's playing... Okay? My alarm goes off, I can hear that fine why won't my music play? I play with the ringtone volume "Headphones" strange. I take my case off and on the inside is nothing but drool. It seeped into my headphone jack and its reading it as my headphones being plugged in. Now I can't talk on the phone, listen to music or watch videos without headphones present. | I drooled and fucked up my phone. |
t3_4wim63 | relationships | My [20M] girlfriend [19F] is roommates with a guy [22M] she had a crush on when they were younger. Am I wrong to be jealous/upset? | My girlfriend "Chelsea" and I are students at a small college.
She was planning on living in an off-campus apartment with some friends, but things fell through. Her brother "Josh" goes to the state school in our area, and said that Chelsea could move into his 4-bedroom apartment where he lives with his best friend "Eric" and a few others.
Technically it's Josh in Bedroom #1, Grad student friend in Bedroom #2, Eric in Bedroom #3, Chelsea in Bedroom #4.
In practice, both Josh and the grad student have live-in girlfriends, leaving Eric and Chelsea as the only two single people in the apartment.
Chelsea is fine with this arrangement, she gets along with her brother and loves spending time with his girlfriend.
Chelsea has known Eric since they were in middle school. She told me before I met Eric the first time that she had had a crush on him when she was 13/14/15 or so, just in case someone brought it up. Josh did bring it up at one point, and from what he said and what she's mentioned, it's clear that she fell *hard.* It's also clear that Eric didn't reciprocate it at the time.
She swears up and down that she's over it. However, they're still very comfortable friends and she has a very high opinion of him. To be honest, so do I. He seems like a great guy.
I've spent time with them and even though there's no indication of anything secretly romantic between them, it still makes me feel jealous and petty.
Since she's moved in with these people, I feel like she's started spending a lot more time with them and they've become a big part of her social life. And I feel cut out, since I'm the only one that doesn't actually live there.
Am I wrong to feel jealous? | My girlfriend lives with her brother's best friend, who she openly admits to having a crush on when she was younger. Am I wrong to feel jealous? |
t3_3wpy5n | relationships | [19F] with my crush [20 M] friends for four months. He keeps encouraging me to vent and share. Should I? | I have known this guy a few months and we've been very close. When in the city we talk and meet up with other groups of friends or alone multiple times in a week. When apart text every day.
However, he's always very encouraging for me to tell him my feelings, if I've had a bad day or if I'm on a weird situation so he can help.
It makes me feel better so I have in the past and thanked him profusely.
The thing is he's a lot more stoic and reserved with his feelings and also seems to be less affected by darkness or anxiety. So we've been in the converse situation much less.
Is it okay to continue to ask him for advice and comfort or will this make him think of me as incompetent? | Should I lean emotionally on someone I'm romantically interested in and very close to or will it ruin my chances? |
t3_1o9o5i | AskReddit | New to posting, but what is wrong with me?! | So I have always wondered why I think the way I do. I ALWAYS feel as if someone is watching me. 24/7. And also, whether I am alone or around people, I feel as if people are monitoring my THOUGHTS. I have no idea why. I also always see little things that make me think that there is a creature from the depths of hell itself that manifests itself in the dark. I've always blew this stuff over and I am 17 but I dont know how to tell my parents all of this without them sending me to the crazy house. Please tell me that I am not crazy... :/ | I see stuff in the dark, think things are always watching/ listening to my thoughts |
t3_1ik8ll | relationships | Me (33m) talking with my ex (F32) for the first time in 10 months... | I've posted quite a few things about this whole situation, but here is the last post I made about it:
So, last night she (32f) called me and asked me to come over to her house (which was our house when we were together). I jumped at the chance because it meant that I could talk with her and spend time with our son. Seeing and playing with my son was awesome and I was there long enough to put him to bed. However, talking with my ex about everything that has gone on for the past few months has me a little unsettled.
First was having to hear about her being with someone else. I know I had dated someone else and slept with them, but hearing her say that she had been with someone in the same bedroom that we shared has made me feel lower than dirt. I'm sure I deserve some of it because when I first left she wanted to work things out, but my stubborness and pride got in the way.
Of course, we ended up talking about all of the things I did to her during our time apart. My emotions got the best of me and I ended up cursing alot at her and posting stuff reddit. I even tried selling her ring online. Looking back on it all, I am a big asshole and if we don't ever get back together then I understand why.
After we talked, I went home and posted to Facebook an apology to her so that everyone could see how sorry I was. I couldn't sleep much thinking about how much I hurt her and the girl I just broke up with, plus thinking that I'm going to do all this and still not get with the person I want to be with. The hardest thing is to be around her and not be able to touch her.
I don't know if I'm looking for advice or just needing to vent my feelings, but any advice is welcomed. | Started talking to my ex again. While is it nice, I'm seeing how much of a jerk I had been and I'm thinking I'm going to be doing this for nothing if she never wants another relationship with me. |
t3_4oh6n3 | relationships | How do I [19M] initiate sex with my [19F] friend | I'm not asking how to get in her pants, we've had sex many times. My problem is I feel like the way I do it is stale/boring/repetitive/etc.
But yea.. everytime we chill or have sex, it's always the same things; we do stuff, go back to my/her place, watch netflix, I put my arm around her for awhile, and eventually just ask, "you wana have sex?" and I feel like it's just weird and awkward. The only time I don't is when I occasionally just start rubbing her leg and have that lead to other stuff, or when we're going to bed and I get frisky,
She's only said "No" to me asking once out of a couple dozen times, and I know at this point she probably wants to have sex as often as I do. Not implying that's true and that just going for it every time is better. And if she said no I'd stop, but I feel like that'd just be even more awkward; making a move, her saying no, and us awkwardly just going back to sitting on the couch for a few hours.
So what are some different/creative/not rapey/creepy ways to initiate sex other than just flat out asking? | How do I initiate sex/making out/whatever other than just asking? |
t3_qmegb | dating_advice | 19 Male - Getting away from texting | Good evening [/r/dating_advice](/r/dating_advice)
I'm an 19 year old male with no dating experience and I'm looking for advice on how to move away from texting.
**backstory:** About 3 years ago I met a girl at school(she is a year young than me) and got her number. We started texting, I was too shy back then to actually go up to her and talk with her. This lasted through the summer and eventually she got a boyfriend, we kept on texting a couple of months until she "dumped" me cause her BF didn't like it. I was miserable for a couple of months but got over her.
Flash forward to September 2011. She and her BF broke up. I noticed she was posting some sad statuses on Facebook but I didn't text her just yet. I did send one 2 months later asking her if everything was all right and if she still knew who I was. I was surprised to see that she did and ever since we started texting each other every day until 1-2AM.
But now I really want to start meeting with this girl and I have no idea on how to ask and where to go. And seeing that I only have about 1-2 days during the week that I am home (I go to college on the other side of the country) really doesn't help.
Would appreciate it if you guys could give me some tips/help. | Wanna meet up with a girl I've only spoken with through texts and don't know how to ask/where to go |
t3_4di5l9 | relationships | My best friend [29M] is cheating on his wife [26F] with my younger sister [24F]. Do I tell his wife? | My best friend of the last 15 years, "Peter" [29M], has been married to his wife [26F] for the last 9 years. They have two children, ages 4 and 1.
Last weekend, my little sister [24F] (who is also in a multi-year relationship) revealed to me that a couple of weeks ago she and Peter spent the night together. It's not the first time it's happened, though it seems to not be a regular occurrence.
I'm horrified by their behavior, and am doing my best to not interact with either one of them for the time being. What I need guidance with is this: do I tell his wife? I don't want to cause that kind of damage to all these people that I care about, so I'm inclined to keep my mouth shut, but I'm miserable when I think about Peter's wife walking around not knowing. | My best friend is cheating his wife of nine years with my sister. Do I tell the wife? |
t3_3juej0 | relationships | I'm [23/M] in a bit of a Catch 22 with my girlfriend [21/F] regarding exercise. | My girlfriend has recently gained a bit of weight. I'm not just saying this to seem like a good guy, but: I genuinely am not bothered by this.
The problem is her self-esteem. She's constantly berating herself for having gained weight (of which she hasn't even gained that much). Even then, that wouldn't be a problem - I still tell her she looks great, she's beautiful, I love her etc. Which I do. But she does it all the time now - like, a few hours can't go by without her complaining about it and it really upsets her. I still comfort her but it's getting exhausting/annoying.
I try to get her to come for runs with me, and she did for a while, but now she just doesn't want to any more. She eats a lot of fast food (as do I) because it's easier, even though she loves to cook, we just don't have that many facilities for it. I try to cut down on my fast food habits hoping she'd follow suit, but now I can't say "Are you sure you want to get a burger tonight?" or "let's eat something healthy instead" etc. without her spiraling down into unhappiness again and accusing me of thinking she's fat and unattractive (which I don't).
I don't know what to do. | How do I get my girlfriend to improve her self esteem/exercise and eat healthy with me? |
t3_3wz9ht | relationships | Me [26 M] with my coworker [49 M] of three years, is walking the line of sexual harassment with other employees | I'm a manager at construction company with about 40 people. One of my salesman has been with the company since 1990 and he's responsible for a large majority of the company's sales. While I know that everyone is technically replaceable, he and another one of the salesman are the two hardest people to replace. To make a long story short, I can't afford to lose him because he has helped make the business very successful.
Over the past 25 years he has engaged in consensual sex with a slew of women who have come and gone in the company. This past year he struck up an affair with another coworker and it was brought to my attention. I told him that he can do whatever he wants but not while she's punched in because its not my place to be his moral compass.
However, it has been brought to my attention by a few of the younger girls that "Tony" was being inappropriate with them. During the Christmas party he was talking to a few of the girls and told them that they should kiss. Another girl came to me and told her that "Tony" made a remark about her breasts and he said "that's why you are having back problems."
I realize that this behavior is clearly inappropriate for the workplace but part of me wants to chalk it up to "It's just Tony" to avoid any confrontation but the other half of me wants to confront him but I know that won't do anything. I feel like "Tony" is grandfathered in the company so nothing I will do will result in any disciplinary action. | coworker is bordering sexual harrasment with other employees. Don't know if I should let it go on or confront him. |
t3_30hr3l | tifu | TIFU by drinking coffee. | *"How the hell can you possibly fuck up by drinking coffee"*
Aight, so I brewed up a really nice hot cup of coffee early in the morning, and decided to go outside our house and relax.
What happened next was that I left my mug outside just for like 10 seconds since I wanted to get something from inside the house. When I came back and drank my coffee, that was the worst thing I've ever done in my entire life.
Apparently, my artsy little sister was collecting pretty rocks that time, and I know that whenever she goes out, she'd pretty much keep a cup of muddy water (which I have to assume was full rocks that she was trying to clean). Now the bad thing about this is that *the cup had the same design as my cup of coffee*.
Mixed with all the mud from the rocks, the water turned brown. Which looked **exactly** like my coffee.
So she accidentally mixed up my cup of coffee and her cup of mud, and **I drank a cup of mud, and she placed rocks in my coffee**.
....I had to stay in the bathroom for at least 3 hours. | I drank a cup of mud instead of coffee. |
t3_1fk4az | tifu | TIFU and flashed a stranger | My mom went shopping recently and bought me a couple of new bras because they were on sale. The next morning, my mom is getting ready to leave for work. I was in the shower, so I didn't hear when she left. I really liked the bra so I yelled "Mom, I really like this bra." There was no answer, but I still heard footsteps so I figured she just didn't hear me through the door. So I open the door with just the bra on, only to come face-to-face with the repairman whom my mom had let in as she was leaving. | Flashed boobs at repairman, t'was an awkward morning. |
t3_fcryb | relationships | Yelled at for the first time, something else going on? | Hi, this is my first /r/relationships post. I've been in a relationship for almost a year with my boy (I'm 21 and female, he's also 21). We've had a pretty good relationship, aside from issues last semester (we're in college) when he got too busy from me. But lately we've been on the right track. He's never yelled at me before. We've had discussions before about important things where one or both of us was upset, but no yelling.
This past weekend we were at a party, and something appeared to be bugging him. I asked him about it and he ended up shouting at me to stop (talking about) it. He says it was just because he doesn't like talking about personal things in public, which is legitimate... except I didn't really feel like it warranted yelling. Again, this is out of character, but he says nothing else is wrong.
What would make someone act like this? He apologized, but since then I don't think has made much of an effort to see me. It's something we should probably talk about, but if it's nothing maybe I should just let it rest. Thoughts? | Boyfriend yelled at me for the first time in a year long relationship. Wondering if there are things going on below the surface. |
t3_s2un1 | AskReddit | Implied accusation of theft ... I haven't taken anything, not sure how to proceed | Live alone in a rental owned by family, heard rumors that some family heirlooms were stashed in the house -- I've never bothered to look because I am NOT interested in these things.
A family member stopped by with a list of items (with serial #) that have gone missing, and asked me to help look for them (never had this happen before). Other relatives that frequent this house have all denied taking or moving these items. I haven't had more than a couple people over ever for more than an hour, ever, and I certainly am not telling them about any 'secret stashes'.
During the last visit, the person searching for these things appeared extremely agitated, but at no point accused me directly. The closest it came was to let me know that if these items were sold anywhere, that the police would be involved because these items have the serials on them.
I do have some pretty serious debt (to include some b/c of gambling), but I would never consider stealing from anyone, let alone family. I think that because family is aware of my debt problems, that I probably seem to be the most likely suspect.
Up to this point, I've had a fairly poor relationship with this part of my family. I've already written a letter stating that I'm not a thief. I'll be moving away in about a month, thinking of cutting ties altogether given the weight of history plus this latest accusation. Is this an overreaction? Is there anything that I need to do to protect myself legally?
Thanks for your input. | live alone in family owned rental where hidden heirlooms have suddenly gone missing ... accusation (though not expressly stated) now rests upon me. |
t3_tq760 | AskReddit | I find my life very boring at the moment, what can I do? | As much as I love playing games and browsing the web, the digital world is kind of in some downtime right now for me with nothing good going on for a while. I need to find something new to occupy the time I have to myself, I'm getting too bored and end up just going to one of my friends and never spending any time at home. My favorite two hobbies Magic: The Gathering & Dungeons & Dragons can only be done with friends around so..uhg.
I'm not really skilled at anything or have some kind of talent either so that doesn't help.
Some details that might needs to be known is that I'm 18 years old graduating from high school in 2 weeks. I work part time at the moment, usually right after school until around 10pm. I usually have 2 or 3 days off a week (2 on weekdays and 1 on the weekend) at the moment which I usually spend at least one spending a whole day with my girlfriend who lives a couple towns away. I'll be switching to full time upon graduating. I live in a country-ish kind of middle of nowhere town between Canton and Cleveland, Ohio.
All in all I guess what the | of my question is What are some interesting hobbies or activity's to try out in my boring spare time. Things your into or have tried, and what you liked about them. |
t3_1v9nmh | relationship_advice | (21/f) Not sure how to address bedroom issues with my long-distance boyfriend (22/m). | Okay, so I've been with my guy for a year. We live a bit less than 1,000 miles away from each other and are lucky enough to see each other every couple of months. Our sex situation is a bit of a mess, if I'm honest. You'd think that seeing each other so infrequently would build tons of sexual anticipation (well, it does for me), but honestly getting the ball rolling is like pulling teeth sometimes. I've talked to him about it a few times before. He insists he loves and is attracted to me and I believe him, but he says sex just isn't something that crosses his mind a lot. Even so, it's hard not to feel hurt when I get rejected. The other problem is that he makes every attempt to get the actual intercourse over as soon as possible. Like, full force quickie mode every time. Since I initiate sex about 99.5% of the time, I'm no stranger to being on top. He tries to rush that too! He does makes sure to get me off beforehand which is appreciated, but it's always him just rubbing me through my panties and looking bored until I finish.
I want to talk to him about this more but I can't think of a tactful way to start the conversation. | long distance boyfriend rarely wants to do sexytime and I don't know how to start the conversation. |
t3_395qs7 | relationships | My [19F] college girlfriend has another guy staying at her dorm for the week. I [22M] have been with her for 3 years, but she's flirted with this guy before, yet is getting mad at me for being angry/jealous. | A little more info on this guy who is staying the week, he's someone who I've known she's been friends with for a while. You see she was still in high school for a couple of years while I attended college. She always talked about this guy. Which is cool, I'm not the kind of guy who limits a girl to only girlfriends.
However, during one of my visits on the weekend, I saw that when he had texted her, he was flirting with her in a sexual way, and has been for a while. What's worse is that she went along with it. When I confronted her about it, she just said that "I wasn't there for her." I visited as often as I could (I was in the band and am majoring in physics, so time wasn't always available), so I sort of Forgave her, and let it go.
Anyways now she attends the same college as I do. It's been ok, but she's been wanting to invite the guy who she was flirting with before to stay the week at her dorm. Every time I've told her I'm not comfortable with it, she makes me seem like the bad person, saying that it isn't like that, they wouldn't ever do anything and it's wrong for me to think like they would. She even told me to think about it like this: "think of him as a girl, but with a dick!"
So I, always trying to please her, finally just let it happen. It's been a day, and I can hardly sleep knowing he's there. He's apparently sleeping on the couch outside her bedroom, but it still makes me dreadfully uncomfortable. Am I being too jealous? Or is she in the wrong? | My girlfriend is having another guy sleepover at her dorm (whom she has flirted a lot with previously) and making me feel like I'm the bad person, or that I shoudn't think anything is wrong. |
t3_ljvgl | AskReddit | Reddit, what is the strangest coincidence that you have had? I'll start, | On roadtrips, my family has this tradition where we pay the toll for the person behind us. One trip, we were going down to Key West from Washington DC. We paid the toll for the person behind us in Virginia and then there is about 800 miles of road before the next toll. We get to the next toll and someone has paid it for us, with the toll lady telling us that the person said, "Thanks". We thought that was pretty cool, but then it got even crazier when we hit another toll near Miami and found that our toll had been paid again, with the toll person telling us, "Thanks again." | We paid someone's tole and had ours paid twice over 800 miles away. |
t3_bmezs | AskReddit | Reddit, I think I just went through anaphalactic shock and I'm not aware of having any allergies. | I ate lunch on Sunday with some family out of town. Nothing unusual: ham, rolls, asparagus, and deviled eggs...all things I've had before. I had six devilled eggs, which is more than I usually eat, but considering they are 1/2 eggs, no big deal as I've certainly had 3 eggs in one sitting before, even though the hostess thought she might have added salt twice and while salty, were certainly edible.
So I'm guessing an hour to 90 minutes later, my wife and daughter and I leave to drive the 2.5 hours back home. I start by feeling really flushed, my face tight and pressure behind my eyes. I tend towards hypertension, so I thought I may have had the salty eggs and ham and with fluids, might have raised my blood pressure. My throat is feeling tight and I popped 2 blood pressure meds just in case. One felt like it got stuck there. It didn't, but it was obvious my lips, tongue and throat were swollen.
At this point I pulled over and let my wife drive. At its peak, in addition to the above, I felt gassy cramped, my feet felt bloated and itched badly (no hives anywhere) and my vision began to get whiter and lighter and I thought I might pass out. My wife said I sounded thick tongued.
Eventually my cramping got so bad I had to stop and go to the bathroom in a big way, but I felt better. I had to stop about 4 more times on the way home and still feel bloated and crampy, and my throat feels a little stiff. I'm tired but otherwise feel ok. Ive taken a Benedryl. I really thought I was going to die at some point.
Is it possible to develop a food allergy suddenly as an adult? Most likely culprit being eggs? | I felt really awful, like an allergic reaction to foods I've never had trouble with and don't know why? |
t3_40smbr | relationships | [Advice] on how to handle insecurities while in a relationship. | I (26F) recently submitted a post stating that I thought I was going to sabotage my relationship because I was projecting feelings onto my partner (29m). It didn't get much attention but there was one comment suggesting insecurities.
Here's the link to my original post:
It elaborates more on the issues I'm having. I honestly don't know how to describe it. I don't think clearly about things. Instead, I worry about things that I know don't make sense.
I've realized that insecurity is 100% my problem. I have been actively searching for new ways to get through this and put it behind me. I'm getting better everyday, but there are times where I struggle.
I came here because I want to hear other people's experiences either being in a relationship with someone with insecurity or someone who struggles with it as well.
Are there certain things I can do to make my partner more comfortable with what I'm going through? (We've talked about it but I know he's worried and doesn't understand why I feel the way I do sometimes.)
How did your partner's insecurities affect you and your relationship?
Are there things your partner could have done to help you understand the situation better?
Are there things you or a partner tried that worked?
I don't really have one specific question. I just want to get all the information I can so I can tackle this head on and get on with my life. I want to make sure that my partner is as comfortable as he can be in this uncomfortable situation, too. | Dealing with insecurity issues. Looking for experiences and advice on how to deal with it while in a relationship so I'm well prepared to face these issues. |
t3_si6qn | AskReddit | My ex is going to my good friend's birthday party tomorrow, how do I make it not awkward? | So I dated this girl for 3 years and broke up with her 6 weeks ago. It wasn't a messy breakup- I just knew she wasn't "the one" and she had deeper feelings for me than I had for her. We had a 2-3 hour talk, went our separate ways, and haven't said a word to one-another since.
Tomorrow is an old friend's birthday, and I found out via Facebook she's going to be there. I don't want to cause a lot of drama at my friend's party and I really would rather just avoid her, but it's going to be a house party with ~50 people so that won't be possible.
Lastly, and here's the real kicker- there's another girl I'm interested in that's going to be at the party. I know I don't owe my ex anything since we're not together anymore, but she's a good person and I know her seeing me flirt with another girl will probably hurt her. | Ex is coming to a friends party tomorrow and so is another girl I'm interested in |
t3_2pem9i | relationships | I(20 F) want to get back together with my ex (22 M), even though logically I know its a terrible idea. Is time the only way to stop wanting him back? | It's been months since we broke up, and I see how we were both not ready for a relationship. With time, I also realized that even though we both messed up a lot, we were also trying our best. I see that we really did genuinely care and love each other, but could not express it properly because we're both emotionally immature because we both came from traumatic childhoods. We weren't incompatible, we just got together too soon.
I know that we're still too young and too immature, but I cant help but want him back. I know we both need time to grow up a bit, but I see so much potential in him and myself to make it work in the future that I cant let go of him in the present. I want to not want him back. I dont know how though. | My ex and I broke up because we were not ready for a serious relationship, not because we weren't compatible. How do I make myself stop wanting my ex back and let go when all I can think about is how much potential we have as a couple in the future, after we've both matured? |
t3_1zyoye | relationship_advice | I [23/m] need advice on how to help her [23/f] improve the things she does for me | Background: We're together for 3 years, have been FWBs for a year before our relationship started, live together for 2 years
I'm having a problem with telling her that things she does for me are sometimes "bad". I guess its best shown in examples: So she is a natural person, she basically never uses makeup, which I'm totally fine with. Once I told her that maybe she could try it, because I like experimenting. Now I guess she was bad at it, which is kinda obvious since she has no experience. But I wasn't able to tell her that it was not so great and how I would like it better, because I know that she stepped out of her comfort zone doing that and she did that for me. If I tell her that it was not so good, even if I am doing it ultra careful and sweet, I feel like a rude, ungrateful asshole and fear that she will never step our of her comfort zone again.
Now thats just one example, but as I said, since I like experimenting theres lots of those situations, they're tiny, but they add up.
Am I overreacting because of how much "Told my SO that xyz and she didnt react very well" threads I've seen? Do you have any advice on how to deal with such things? | when she does sth for me but isn't good at it, I can't tell her that because I fear she'll be mad |
t3_vusbo | AskReddit | Reddit, What Security Measures Would You Add? | I live off the grid with six horses down the hill from our house. I am at the barn at least once a day to; at least feed them, refill their waters, and make sure they are all up and walking. They are behind a five foot wooden AND wire fence.
I do find shotgun shells and pocket knives on occasion at the outside edges of the pastures, and it doesn't surprise me since we are in a rural area (on a mountain in the woods, at that), and I talk to our neighbors when I can to help keep up the "neighborhood watch" courtesy.
**The problem now** is that last night I was down at the barn to do the regular nightly routine, and they were all happily munching on hay, so I went to the house. This morning, the gate was open.
I know for a fact it was shut last night, and that no one else here has been down there since then. My neighbors are shocked as well, since we all have livestock we strive to protect, and no one saw or heard anything. Most people will tell us they need to go through our property and lock up behind themselves -- at least that's the way its been for four years.
My dogs did lose their minds in the middle of the night, but I brushed it off thinking they'd seen a coyote or bobcat and tended to my startled-awake daughter in her crib.
Reddit, what would you do? I am going to put locks on the gates, but I don't know how effective it will be... | The gate to our horse pastures was open this morning when I know it was shut last night. I am really concerned about my horses' safety. What should I do? |
t3_4pdp4d | relationships | Should I [M23] tell my ex [F24] that I really missed her after meeting after 1yr no contact? | I just got home from meeting my ex again for the second time in a few weeks after over a year of no contact.
Our first meeting was catching up on all the time we'd been apart. I'd hoped the second time we would talk about us/our relationship which ended poorly.
We ended up staying at a bar watching football, chatted about our current lives (in retrospect I was the most enquiring, I don't think she asked too much about me) mutual friends, current events etc.
I left with mixed feelings: that we couldn't connect on a deeper level after 3 years of dating worries me (I should have pushed to talk about it), but also left me oddly happy to confirm that we are definitely very different people, and though I would love to be loved by her again, we probably aren't the best match.
I feel like an idiot - I should have taken the opportunity to tell her that I've missed her every day since we broke up, but it just didn't ever feel like the right time; I don't know if/when I'll get a chance again - when we parted it was cordial, but we made no plans to meet up again or anything.
I don't know if I should message her now to tell her that it was nice to see her and that I've missed her a whole damn lot, mainly to get it off my chest, or just to leave it stewing away like it had been, because no real positive outcome can follow. | Tell ex I've missedb her loads, but don't want a relationship with, or leave it? |
t3_13exbl | relationships | I [24m] am bad at sex. My GF [22f] is not helping the situation. | I've [24m] been dating my current girlfriend [22f] for 5 months now. Before her, I hadn't had sex in a while, and when we started trying, things didn't go so well. I was extremely anxious, and seem to have developed a case of early ejaculation (think 1 minute of sex).
We kept trying, and she told me it wasn't a big deal. We are in love despite this issue, and everything else is great between us. However, I continued to put pressure on myself (she didn't help when things went wrong, saying "Augh you can't do that to me"), and the problem persisted. We tried on and off for the first 3 months with no significant advances in my sexual prowess. I want to fix problem, and have scoured the internet looking for what to do - I know it's a topic for /r/sex and I am working on it.
Anyway, fast forward to now. We don't try to have sex at all anymore. I am pretty bothered by this, because in my past relationships, I had lots of good sex with girls who were very open to talk about things. If I even bring up trying to work on the problem with her, she deflects and gets agitated, saying things like "I have tried" or "This isn't my fault" or "I don't know what to do". Ultimately we end up fighting, I feel pretty bad and blame myself for the issues, and it just feels like the relationship is starting to strain over this.
There is the problem of bad sex, and then there is the problem of not trying at all to fix it, while she's upset and I'm blaming myself. I'm almost at the point where I feel that not being in a relationship while I figure this shit out on my own would be best, because her agitation and my pressure are not helping me at all. What can I do reddit? How can I get her to help me? Or should I just end it? | 1-minute man still needs sex. Want to fix with GF's help (i.e. practice!), but she says deal with it yourself. What to do? |
t3_2umg1g | AskReddit | People of reddit: from what you can remember as a kid, what is the most embarrassing moment that your parents caused? | Ex: when I was 11 or 12 I was standing at the front of a Kohls with my dad while my mom and sister were checking out. All of a sudden out of no where you hear this very distinct squeak coming from near me. I look around and the sound is growing louder when I realize that it is my dad ripping the gnarliest fart he could muster from the bowels of his ass. Once he finishes all eyes are on us and he just looks at me and screams "Fightthefire21!!!!!" I couldn't do anything but look at him in shock and disbelief. I didn't know what to do so I just hung my head in shame and walked outside to wait for them. | dad farts, blames me |
t3_1un4lz | legaladvice | [MI] Uncle is stealing money from my grandmother suffering from dementia. She has refused to sign a Power of Attorney. | My cousin stopped by to visit my grandma the other day and my parent's received an email from her saying that my grandma was worried about her money and wanted to go to the bank to check on it. Since November 15th, my uncle (who has lived in her basement, hasn't worked for the past 30 years, and is now collecting his own social security) has taken out $1500 in the form of checks made payable to cash and himself. He has her sign the checks, and I have no clue as to what he tells her it is for.
My dad tried to get my grandma to sign a POA to have my cousin designated, as my mom is unable to do it due to having her own medical issues and my dad has his hands full caring for her. My grandma refused as she is worried about "her boy." She really needs to be in a home to be cared for properly. Neighbors have called both my dad and my cousin reporting that she has wandered out into the front yard yelling for help and she has told my cousin my uncle has pushed her around. Unfortunately, she gets very confused and tells some crazy stories, and we honestly are unsure if that last part is true or not.
Are there any criminal actions that can happen to my uncle? I don't know if we should call the police or Adult Protective Services to get her out of the house. He is not named on any of her bank accounts. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks. | Grandma has dementia and my leech of an uncle is taking her money. She refused to sign POA to my cousin and we want to stop him from having access to her money. |
t3_4ma7sf | relationships | [19 F]; keep falling for my friends | So I tend to be attracted to someone mainly based on their personality and interests rather than their looks. And because of this, almost always, by the time I realize I'm into someone, I m already their best friend. So at that point to cost of admitting my feelings is way too high because it s not just the possibility of rejection, but also the possibility of losing a valuable and irreplaceable friend that s terrifying me. It's just a constant cycle and for the past 7 years I always meet someone, become really good friends, realize I love them and I can never tell them because I wouldn t risk losing them forever. But in the end I end up losing them anyways (in most cases) because I have to distance myself (and end up hurting them) because the feelings are overwhelming and terrifying. What can I do to get out of this cycle? Should I try priorotizing looks or asking people out when I'm not really sure I want to go out with them? | What can I do to stop falling for my friends? |
t3_18hxg8 | dating_advice | Do you think I (21/m) will make her (19/f) see that I'm not joking around? | Me and this girl have been texting pretty much every day since we met. Today will have been our 2nd time that we haven't texted in 24+ hours. I'm pretty mad at her, for reasons I won't go into, but I'm not sure if she's aware of it. I hadn't planned on texting her tomorrow either.
Call it childish, but I was told that I should take a break from chasing her. (from a few other females)
And yes, I do like her. She knows I do and she's said that she likes me. I'm aiming to show her that I won't always be around for her to string me along like her puppet. We have plans for Sunday and she may not even know that I'm upset with her. I'll tell her on Sunday if she hasn't figured it out by then. | I want her to do some chasing from now on. |
t3_2kykbv | relationships | Me [17 M] with my friend [18 F] should I have just kissed her? | Hey reddit. I've know this girl for eight years (or so). We're both seniors in high school. We've been friends for about three months now and are pretty close. About one month in I told her i liked her. She didn't give me a hard rejection but she didn't give me any positive affirmation either though I figured she didn't like me.
We have actually gotten a lot closer since then. I didn't really flirt with her before, but in the last couple of weeks I've started laying it on (telling her she looks fantastic when she was all dolled up, touching her arm, etc). She seemed pretty receptive and reciprocated with some light flirting.
We're both pretty comfortable with each other. I used to text her a lot (like every day), but I've been dialing it back a lot. She invited me and a couple other friends to a Halloween party and offered to pick me up and drop me off. I accepted and had a great time with her and by myself in general.
However there is this one moment that I might've misread thinking back on it. We were mostly alone in a living room and were sitting on a couch talking. She kind of started staring at me. She didn't really respond to anything I said for like fifteen seconds and just... stared. I feel like maybe I should've gone in for a kiss? Should I try to kiss her the next time I walk to her car or something like that? I'm kind of confused. | Girl I'm friends with(that knows I like her) invited me to party, during a quiet moment she kind of just stared at me for a bit. Should I have kissed her? Should I try to kiss her next time we're alone? Kind of lost here. |
t3_1irsge | personalfinance | Balance transfer to 0% APR credit card a bad idea? | Quick summary:
Either my wife or I have been in grad school for the past 5 years (3 years of law school for her, 2 years of business school for me), while the other works and support the family financially. We had to take out student loans for tuition, but mostly lived upon the one salary we were getting. We weren't saving much outside of 401k's, but it was a short term situation. This worked well, but in the last year a few large unavoidable expenses had to be put on credit cards. We're now carry several almost maxed out credit cards and are getting hit with high APR's and late fees. Pretty sure it's dinging our credit scores as well.
The good news is that we're both finally out of school, gainfully employed, and are making good money. Together we're bringing in over $160,000 and will be able to pay off the credit cards pretty soon. My question is, would it make sense to transfer the balance to a new credit card with a 0% APR (for the first year), to minimize the interest accruing over the next few (6 maximum) months while we pay the cards off? I worry about the hit to our credit, but I don't really understand how it will impact (it's all so nebulous).
Numbers:
$10,xxx in credit card debt
Income: $8500 monthly, after taxes, insurance, 401k, etc. (Estimated, still waiting on my first paycheck after school) + $7500 signing bonus (before taxes). Signing bonus will go entirely to paying off credit card debt. Again, not exactly sure how much it will be after taxes.
Expected time frame: 3-6 months to pay off all debt.
Does it make sense to move the debt to a 0% APR card? If so, does it make sense to do it before or after waiting for my signing bonus and paying off a sizable chunk of the debt? | We have $10k in credit card debt and finally are making enough to pay it off over at least a few months. Should we transfer it to a 0% APR credit card while paying it off to avoid interest? |
t3_3wdtn0 | relationships | My (22F) boyfriend (27M) of 4 years still has some inadequacy issues when it comes to sex... | My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now. We get along great and rarely have issues. The problem I'm writing about today is him feeling inadequate because he can't get me off during sex without a ton of effort.
I have no problem with this. It's always been this way with all of my previous partners, and I 100% believe it's all on my end. It's not that it's impossible, it just takes an incredibly long time and it doesn't always happen even then. I can only get off with a vibrator and dildo, and I need a specific angle and pressure and speed... I prefer to just do it myself, because it's way faster this way. There's only been one time in my life that I was able to reach orgasm with no toys, and that was when my poor boyfriend spent two hours giving me manual and oral stimulation. I definitely don't feel like he's inexperienced or anything like that. The first time I had an orgasm ever was when I got my first vibrator, at age 17. Trying to get myself off with just my hands honestly doesn't really feel all that good. I don't enjoy it, and I much prefer using toys.
The way it's been going most of the time in our relationship is after he finishes, I pull out my toys and finish myself, then we cuddle up and go to sleep. I'm totally okay with this. My boyfriend says he still feels a lot of shame and inadequacy at not being able to do it himself, and I feel really bad about this. Sometimes he tries to get me off during sex by pulling out the vibrator and letting me use it, but it just takes SO long I'd honestly rather not even bother.
I know there's probably not a lot I can do on my end. I just feel bad that he feels bad, I guess, and I'd love some suggestions on how to help him not take it as a blow to his sexual prowess. | it's very difficult for me to orgasm without toys, especially if I try to do it with someone else involved. I prefer to just do it myself, and my boyfriend feels this is because he's not adequate enough. How can I help him get past the negative feelings he has about this? |
t3_od55c | AskReddit | Job Help | Hey Reddit,
A few weeks ago I decided to look for and take a new internship. I applied for one at a local start up and a few other places around my college town, and get an offer for 14 an hour as before I was making ten, at a cool start up.
The day after I accepted the offer from said start up I got another internship offer for 22/hour from a IT company.
I told the IT company sorry, and started at the start up. I did not enjoy my first few days, and am beginning to regret my choice.
I am worried however that the IT company will be worse, as there are NO women, I work from home part of the time, and I would be the only person under 30 working there. But the pay is amazing and it seems like a good gig.
I do not know what to do. I am torn. Any advice? | I got two job offers one from a start up that pays less and one from an IT company that pays more but is boring. Advice? |
t3_3vyp9g | tifu | TIFU by responding "your mom" | There was this annoying little time when I would answer ever single question with "your mom." What time is it? Your mom. What do I wanna eat? Your mom. My favorite movie? Your mom. Well one day I was with a group of friends and my friend, let's call her X, says "What time is the show tonight?" I am a big concert-goer. To which I respond, "your mom.". And then everyone goes silent, glaring at me. X turns away from me and and someone puts their arm around her. I have no clue what's going on until a friend hisses at me, "her mom just died recently... Cancer." I felt like a jerk and that was literally the day I stopped saying that. | I insulted the surviving child of a woman with cancer |
t3_4jjjwm | relationships | Me [21F] with my ex-boyfriend [22M] of 5 years, is still contacting me after dumped me. | So my ex-boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he doesn't love me anymore.
After begging and crying for him I cut all contact with him. I deleted his number and snap chat. A week later he shows up at my house telling me if I'm doing okay. I got really happy to see him.
He came back the next day. We had sex while having sex he told me he wanted to move in together. My heart was full of excitement. After this I haven't seen him. Why would he come back after he dumped me? Or tell he wants to move in? He clearly told me he doesn't love me anymore. | I need advice I'm confused. Why did he come back? Does he still have feelings for me? I miss him so much. |
t3_sw3bd | GetMotivated | Made it over a hurdle tonight. | I have been slowly making changes to my life, wherein I am being more active and taking a more fresh approach to pass times (no reddit after 7pm, walking, reading more) and it's been great. But I had been lacking.
I was doing Keto for a while and stopped due to being lazy. I wont bore you with the sympathy, I need none of it. I'm here to be motivated, not forgiven for being lazy.
But tonight I cycled from work to my house in 12 minutes. That's 2.8 miles. I usually take 20-30 mins depending on weather. I took the harder route home and I did it in the rain. I got in, and I was sweaty, out of breath and my legs burnt. I have not felt better in months.
And I think this is the hurdle I was waiting to get passed. I really feel that I've broken through a wall that was keeping me back. GetMotivated was a big part of it. It's always here to remind me that I could be doing something harder, more challenging or better for my well-being.
Thanks, Wolves. | I cycled harder and faster than I have in recent memory, feel amazing, total mass of enthusiasm. |
t3_3bordp | relationships | Me [31/F] with my[27/] 2yrs in September, do you stay mad at your partner for long? gut feeling says he's angry with me; want to cheer him up | It's hard to stay mad at my SO, b/c I'm so damn in love with him. How is it for the rest of you guys? Do you correlate how deep your love is with the amount of time you remain angry with your partner?
Right now he is overseas on business and I can't shake the feeling that he's upset/annoyed by me for some reason (I like to text, he doesn't, but it's important for me to keep in touch at the end of the day so we can be connected).
I want to send him a cute post card wishing him a great day tomorrow morning but don't want to annoy him even more. We both are NOT fans of talking on the phone. Even though I am annoyed that he has been short with me via his end of the day texts, I'm not letting that bother me and can get over it quickly.
I know he loves me, but I feel that it's easier for me to get over things b/c I love him deeply. There's always that one person that loves/feels more right?
Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I feel like maybe I'm overthinking things?? | love bf more than he loves me, so i don't stay mad at him for long; should I even bother initiating more contact; maybe it's all in my head |
t3_3dnt9p | tifu | TIFU by wearing my sound proof headset... | So I just cleaned out my computer and sat back down to plug everything in and now I'm going to tell you guys what happened..
So I wake up this morning to the doorbell so I rush downstairs in my boxers half naked because I figured it was my brother forgetting his keys...NOPE Insulation guy who opens the door with a "WTF bro" look on his face as I'm standing there in my boxers with half a morning wood chubby. "Were doing insulation today blah blah, take shit off the walls and pay attention cause sometimes it will shoot through cracks n stuff in the framework and whatever yadda yadda"
So fast forward like 4 hours and I'm sitting here in my room lights off shades drawn don't want dudes looking in my gross ass nerd room. Got my sound proof headset on, jamming out to some tunes when all the sudden I see a few dust particles float by my head...I turn around fast and my ENTIRE FUCKING ROOM is covered in insulation. My bed, my clothes, shit is everywhere.
I rush over to the window and hold my blanket up to where the insulation is blasting out full force into my room to try and make it stop but it's not working. So I frantically tap on the window and yell at the dude to stop cause the shit is blowing everywhere through unfinished wood around my window. At this point I can't see shit and I'm pretty much coughing cause the stuff is just floating everywhere in my room.
Then it dawns on me..I have a 1400$ computer sitting in my room with 4 fans sucking air into it like a goddamn vacuum. So I frantically run over and unplug my shit and get my computer out of dodge before the thing blows up from all the insulation in the air.
So the guys come up in my gross room and vacuum all the crap up and I clean out my computer, boot it up, and then the thing crashes and I got a boot error, uh oh...so I restart my computer..takes a bit longer than usual to boot up but it seems to be running fine. | couldnt hear shit, turn around to find entire room covered in 2 inches of insulation |
t3_3p70df | relationships | How do I [22 M] build up my SO's confidence again? [23 F] | Me and my SO have been off and on for over 5 years. Even when we ended things, we still remained very close.
A few years ago, I moved across the country for about a year and this was the longest we were apart. During this time, she dated a different guy.
This guy wrecked her confidence. He cheated on her many times, physically abused her, etc.
When I came back to this side of the country, it wasn't long before we started seeing each other again. But she's different now. She doesn't have much self-esteem. She's insecure about me cheating (she is always staring at my phone whenever I'm texting someone.) She was never like this prior to the move.
First question, should I just let her look through my phone when she's watching me text? I have nothing to hide and if it would help her insecurities it wouldn't bother me. The first time I saw her after moving back she handed me her phone and gave me her password, which I declined and thought was strange but I feel as if maybe this was her way of asking to go through my phone as well?
Secondly, what are some things I can do build her confidence back up? I almost feel guilty for moving since she ended up in such a bad relationship. She used to be a very confident and joyful person, I really want to see her this way again. | SO was in bad relationship. Need ways to help her. |
t3_2g9v0u | tifu | TIFU by peeing all over myself while beating off and playing Halo 2. | To set the stage for this TIFU, I was 14 years old (a guy) playing Halo 2 in my room. My parents were gone, and it was some Saturday before a baseball game.
I'd been choking the chicken for a year or so at this point and, of course, took every chance to get better at it. While playing Tombstone [Tombstone] I decided to whip out my dingus and give myself a go. I was playing with some cool high school kids I'd met that live on the east coast. ^Ryan ^Taranovich, ^if ^you're ^out ^there, ^I'm ^talking ^about ^you.
Mind you, all of the action was taking place when I died. Remember that 5 second respawn in Halo 2? Yeah. Then.
Well, I was reaching the grand finale when all of a sudden, this incredible urge comes from deep inside my stomach. I say #yolo and let it go.
Sure enough, I fucking piss everywhere. When I finally realized what was going on, I aimed my dick at my stomach in the hopes that I wouldn't soak the chair I was sitting on. I managed to find a towel and run over while some of the piss was still pooled on my concave belly.
I suck. | peed all over myself thinking I was about to have a cool orgasm. |
t3_zambn | AskReddit | Reddit, how come I can't I sleep more than ~4 hours before waking up, pretty much regardless of how tired I was when I went to bed? And do you too have any weird conditions that you want answers to? | I cannot remember the last time I've slept through the whole night (suggesting that it's 6+ hours) without waking up at least once. Even when I'm really tired I still can't sleep for a reasonably duration, I once stayed awake for ~36 hours, but I still woke up after about six hours of sleep. I don't have too much of a problem falling back asleep, but it usually takes ~30 minutes to do so, so if I wake up two times during the night it's about an hour of sleep wasted. It doesn't matter what time of the day I go to bed either.
I sleep in normal temperature, comfortable, and there should not be any sounds that could disturb my sleep. I don't think it's due to some kind of stress, it's the same if I have a test the next day and if it's in the middle of vacation.
So yeah, any ideas on what to do about this, reddit? And is there anything regarding a condition of yours that you'd like to get answers to too? | Can't sleep without waking up even when I should be able to. What could the cause be? |
t3_2bgybi | relationships | I've [22 F] been dating this guy [22 M] for close to 4 months, I'm ready to label us Bf/Gf but he isn't.. I think I want to call things off completely if he doesn't feel the same way... | So we met on New Years Eve, we have close mutual friends. We started talking immediately and I knew from the start I had feelings for him. I knew he started feeling the same way around valentines day, but he didn't officially ask me out until we were on spring break vacation together. We were never casually dating, we seemed pretty exclusive since the start.
After the first two months I initiated the talk, about what we are in terms of labels. I already felt as though we were in a fairly committed relationship but I wanted reassurance. well apparently he didn't feel the same way, stating that he wasn't ready, that his last relationship really messed him and doesn't want to just jump into one. He brought up the fact that he was leaving at the end of the summer for school (about an hour away from where I live) but there was a definite positive tone to it.
It's now been another 2 months, 4 total, and I once again want to bring up the conversation. the difference is this time I first ask out close mutual friend to see what the deal was prior to my initiating the conversation. the mutual friend told me that he had said that he wouldn't make a good bf because he is damaged goods, and that he is moving away so he doesn't want to initiate something like this.
I've come to the conclusion that he and I definitely need to talk, and we need to talk about our past relationships as well. I'm at the point where I feel as though he doesn't want to progress forward, and that i've basically thrown the last four months of my life away on falling hard for someone who can reciprocate those feelings. he clearly has commitment issues from his previous relationship.
he's the first guy to really like me for me, and to actually want to date me not just be fwb or something. | been dating this guy for 4 months, unsure where the relationship is going, and not sure whether or not I should continue putting time and effort into something that may just end because of his commitment issues. |
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