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t3_2oipw9 | tifu | TIFU by telling a Christian he is being to Christian | Today I went into work with a big smile on my face. We hired a new guy who is in his mid 20's and just married. I work in face to face sales. As people I am helping leave the store I always say, "Enjoy your Holidays!" After one sale I say this and I turn around to a non-smiling face which is pretty rare. "Its Merry Christmas," he said to me. I respond with, "I say Happy Holidays." he comes back with, "Its Merry Christmas and Happy holidays." I come back with, "What if they practice Hanukkah?" "That's why we say, "And happy holidays." I say it. I shouldn't have said it. I regret it but I cannot stand when people push their religion above others. I have no problem with any religion until you pressure it on me. "You're being too Christian." I continue my day as usual and he shuts the fuck up. I think he got the hint. I don't practice Christianity. I later get a text from my boss saying what I said was very unprofessional and i'm undergoing evaluation on Monday. | Losing my job for my mouth and short temper. |
t3_3ffhme | tifu | TIFU by remembering I installed adblock | I am an avid YouTube watcher and I installed ad-block a week ago. Not remembering I did this, I have been watching videos the last couple of days and have been severely interested in why I haven't been shown an ad this whole time. My brain even started to make things up in order to justify it. I remembered hearing rumors of how YouTube would start to allow only "YouTube partners" to upload videos. (Only people that can have monetized videos). I thought maybe as a secret revolt, top-tier You Tubers disabled their ads as a way to start a movement to "keep it free". And then I started another train of thought, that it was a revolt to the current percentage YouTube takes of the ads played on the creators content. As if it was a secret conspiracy among popular You Tubers.
Then I just now remembered I installed ad-block, and how all of the conspiracies I made up and hours I randomly spent pondering why this was happening (mostly while laying in bed at night) was a complete waste of time and that I am stupid. | I installed ad-block, forgot, made up fake conspiracies as to why I wasn't being shown ads anymore, remembered, felt like idiot. |
t3_k65td | AskReddit | I think a lot of these AskReddit submissions are well written fictional stories. What should I do? | It started when I was a kid. My dad would always tell me that honesty was the best policy, and that lying would take you to Hell, etc. Whenever he thought I was lying, he'd beat me, saying he was 'beating the devil out of me' and that he only did it because 'he loved me'. That was when the molestation began.
But let's not talk about that. I need help with my sister's birth mother, who just found out I like older women and tried to gut me with a bread knife. She sliced through half my pinky finger from me blocking her swing when the cops got there. They proceded to beat me and tell me I shouldn't fight women, and that it makes me a coward.
I'm with my gay cousin in another state, who just got out of prison for selling crack cocaine to an undercover kindergartener. Shit's fucked up, I know. My only way to cope with what's happened to me in the past few hours is to skim reddit posts for believable submissions. I can't though, because a large amount of AskReddits are more about telling absurdly strange stories, followed by questions that have one of two flaws: A) The obvious answer is "Get a lawyer" or B) "How the fuck should I know? My wife didn't try to kill me because my bisexual stepson was looking at porn!" | I'll have an emotional breakdown if I don't find out how to handle fake AskReddits, what do I do to cope? |
t3_3z3kqm | tifu | TIFU by accidentally taking 1/4 ounce of magic mushrooms. | Well, technically it was last night. It was one of my first experiences, my friends parents were out of town and he threw a mushroom sleepover for new years, which sounded like a fuck ton of fun. Being one of the first ones there, I thought I'd get creative and make my dose into a drink. After some research, I decided lemon aid would be the best choice for preperation, and after a few other people arrived I polished off most of an 1/8th of an ounce. For those who dont know, starting out people should take somewhere from 1/16th-1/8th. I decided it was gonna be a hyperspace type of night and I wanted to see the real fireworks ;D
Anyway, as 15+ people started getting shroomy, I thought mine was wearing off just a little too much and maybe I'd taken it too early.. So I found one of my mates who was walking around and had subsequently taken acid AND mushrooms, and was for all means and purposes sleep walking. I told him I NEEDED more, and without even asking for money or if I was sure he took out another 1/8th and handed it to me. After mashing them up and walking around happily showing everyone at the party my "universe in a bowl", I made it into a second drink for everyone at the party to share. A few people took smalls sips and some got a few chunks of mushroom, but for the most part I realized I had been walking around the party offering it to people, and drinking more and more as they said no thank you. Things got really interesting for a while, then extremely fun, and very sharply and suddenly everything was completely terrifying. I had convinced myself at one point that I was just the type of person to be prone to schizophrenia, and i was probably going to be stuck in that place forever. But, as is life, I came out of it after a few hours of sitting behind a couch in the dark. Anyway, the take away for you kids should be that you have to be careful with anything that could be dangerous, and once it goes in your mouth its a little harder than you'd think to reverse the process. | After taking alot of mushrooms, i prepared more mushrooms for other house guests and ended up eating those as well. Learned that if you mushroom before you pizza, you're gonna have a bad time. |
t3_122ypz | relationships | A girl(21F) I really like told me(23M) I did a "Turn and Burn", what does that mean? | We have been texting for about 2 weeks and have had 1 pretty good date, started to slow down and she recently stopped fully responding to my texts 2 days ago. I would say "Good Morning How are you?" and she would respond once, but nothing for the rest of the day, so I decided I would wait for her to text me the next time.
So this morning she texts me and says "Good morning. How are you?" and I replied with "Hi :) I'm doing good, just doing X, Y, and Z today. How are you? You have seemed quiet lately..."
She replied with, "Sorry im not trying to be quiet, u just did a turn and burn." So Im really wondering what that means, I like her a lot and want to continue to get to know her, just wondering if I did something really bad by accident? | A girl I went a on a date with told me I did a "Turn and Burn" after we slowed down texting. |
t3_1ydn4i | relationships | I feel like my [21F] boyfriend [23M] has no respect for me | My boyfriend is super smart - knows lots about computers, science, etc. Me on the other hand, I like art, music and dance and I wouldn't say I'm as smart as him. Sometimes, when we'll be talking and I make a statement I feel like he is quite condescending towards me and always trying to prove how my statement is wrong. Especially when it comes to science, if I remark upon something I know he'll treat it with extreme skepticism until I prove it to him. He doesn't do this with everyone though, and when other people make similar statements he shows interest and is keen to know more. With me, I feel like his response is more out of annoyance and a desire to prove I'm wrong which makes me feel like I'm being disrespected. | Basically I feel like my boyfriend thinks I'm stupid and dumb. Apart from this, everything is good. What can I do? Is this relationship doomed? |
t3_mxape | AskReddit | Does anyone here work for Cricket Wireless? And want to make some money? | I use Cricket as a secondary phone provider and calling customer service has become a little more than a joke. The only "Cricket" stores around me are not a corporate store, just payment centers and are staffed with people that do not seem to know how to do much aside from taking my money. I have a phone I want to use with that service, it's an old Verizon phone that I got from my sister when she upgraded to an Android, it is flashed to work with the Cricket network. Is there a way to switch to that phone from my current one without having to go to a corporate location? If you could tell me how to do it at home, or if you could do it for me I would be more than willing to buy you a full year of reddit gold, or a game on Steam up to $30. Actually $30 in any form, whether it be games, porn, pizza, reddit gold, sexual favours, beer, gift cards to your favorite place or one word for your grave stone. Thanks in advance for any help or information you can provide, it will be greatly appreciated. | I want to switch to a different phone without dealing with customer service or driving an hour each way to a Cricket corporate store and I'll pay you $30 in any form for helping me. |
t3_2dr0c1 | tifu | TIFU by drinking a whole bottle of black cherry juice. | I was just done with classes and wanted to get a snack and a drink before I hopped on the bus to go home. I went to the grocery and got some veggie sushi and I was looking for a drink to go with it when suddenly -
!SALE! 'Just Black Cherry Juice' 50% offf
Ohhh yummy! I never tried cherry juice before, but it must be delicious, right?
I buy it, sit down to enjoy my snack and take a big swig.
Ohhh this tastes weird. I can see now why I don't see cherry juice around very much, it doesn't translate well to liquid form. Ah well, it's not that bad, and it must be good for you because it has all these vitamins. I better just suck it up and drink the bottle so it doesn't go to waste.
Later, on the bus, I'm about halfway home when I feel something start to go terribly wrong within my digestive system. I'm sweating, my asshole is quivering, and I feel like I'm going to explode.
I put two and two together and whipped out my phone. The first search results for "black cherry juice" return terrifying words such as POWERFUL and LAXATIVE. My fate is sealed.
Every molecule of my being is devoted to holding my asshole shut as I reached my destination. I got off the bus and ran the two blocks home, holding my buttcheeks closed with my hands.
I had unlocked the door and taken one step into my apartment when there was a sudden spasm in my asshole. The gates had breached, and hot viscous poo suddenly blossomed over my butt cheeks. I just thanked my lucky stars that at least I made it home. | TIL black cherry juice is a powerful laxative |
t3_1gyqpj | relationship_advice | [20/m] I feel like I'm losing interest on my girlfriend (20/f) | Hi,
Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and a few months and I love her like no else but lately I've caught myself losing physical interest on her. I really think about making out with other girls but I always tell a "No" to myself because I'll regret it and feel reaaaally shit about myself but it's always on my mind. I go out and check other girls out and wanna approach them but I always stop because I love my girlfriend very very much but I can't stop thinking about girls I saw on the street and such.
This has been torturing me for a few weeks and I really need some help on the subject. I don't wanna break up and I really really love her (which sounds stupid given I check other girls but I really do love her!) but damn I'm an idiot who wants to stick it elsewhere.
What should I do? Please, I'm desperate for help! I really wanna get back my affection for her! | I feel like I'm losing interest on my gf, check out other girls on the street but I don't wanna do anything with anyone else but her! how do I get to feel like I did before? |
t3_1g3c6v | Parenting | Got rid of the pacifier, CIO is all that seems to work? | My daughter is 22 months old. About 2 weeks ago I had a long weekend home alone with her and decided to take away her pacifiers. She is talking a lot now and talking with it in her mouth was driving me mad. I cut the tips off so they were "broken." She carried around the broken ones for a few days and slept with me for a few nights, all seemed well. I am a sucker, and not good about limiting the time and place to have a paci, hence the cold turkey approach. She has stopped asking for it.
Now here is where it sucks. Since then, the only way she can fall asleep is to CIO at home. (She has magical teachers at daycare who don't have any issues getting her to sleep.) I have not been a huge fan of CIO in the past. We used more of a no-cry method when she was getting weaned off her nurse-to-sleep schedule around a year old. I have tried sitting in her room, but she hears when I leave, or sleeps with one eye open to make sure I don't go. If she's in our bed she tosses and turns. If she cries it out, anywhere from 5 minutes to 45 minutes (nap or bed) she gets in her normal amount of sleep and wakes up happy. I just hate hearing her scream, but everything else just makes us all irritable. Any words of wisdom? Do I just give her the pacifier and admit defeat? | I need assurance or alternatives to CIO after getting rid of the pacifier. |
t3_ol0xr | AskReddit | Ok Redditors, your advice needed. My ex bringing her new boyfriend over - he used to be my friend that backstabbed me to get together with her. What do I do? | Ok, so quick background. I used to be friends with that guy for few years. Then I started dating a girl and we were together for almost 4 years. The friend went off for gap year, and when he came back, he became best friends with my girl and helped her to break up with me. Then they started dating after about a month.
Now, I'm still at uni and I have to live with her for at least next 5 months or so. She now told me that my former friend/her new bf is coming over to stay here for 2 weeks. I warned her it's gonna end up badly because I really hat what he did and not gonna tolerate him being around me.
Don't want do anything stupid if she still chooses bring him over, but I really don't think I will be able to control myself. Any advice Redditors? | Friend helped my GF break up with me, then started dating her. Now she wants him to stay with her for 2 weeks in the house we share. I'm enraged and looking for advice. |
t3_3ziud6 | tifu | TIFU by playing ninja | This happened about a half an hour ago. So I walk into the common room in my dorm and some of the guys are playing ninja. Ninja, if you know, is a game where you try to smack another person's hand before they can move it. So anyway the game was down to me and one of my good friends when it started getting heated. I made a quick move to his hand which was extended over his head and he was at my back, I miss and my hand keeps going and pulls my elbow behind it. I heard a crunch and he starts holding his nose and in a few seconds blood just starts flowing out of his nostrils. There was just so. Much. Blood. Now his nose is broken and he is holding a bloody towel to his croocked nose. | Got carried away playing ninja and became a ninja |
t3_n0mtu | AskReddit | Reddit, what is the worst explanation for an odd fear? Here is mine. | So I was having a conversation with my friend Jacob, and he asks me if I had any odd fears. I couldn't think of any, but i knew for a fact he did. Said he was afraid of icebergs. Just freaks him out. Can't explain why. *okay*, I thought, definitely a little strange.
Then out of nowhere, our friend Noah pops in,"Dude you're afraid of icebergs to?" OK what the fuuuu- why icebergs. What is this, I don't even...so I ask Noah If HE can explain it. "Well I went on a cruise to Alaska," he takes a sec, pauses, and I'm thinking, okay, they probably rammed one or something. Rational. "And there were a lot of icebergs, and my parents got divorced on the cruise." | Friend is afraid of icebergs because his parents got a divorce. |
t3_3hp5vs | tifu | TIFU By lying to my mum and saying I failed my GCSE's. | Got my results today and passed with a few B's one A ETC.
I'm in the car coming back and my brother tells me to message my mum the results I got. I wanted to trick her for a joke so I sent her a message telling her I got 7 C's, 2 D's which would mean I couldn't go where I wanted to which she knew as well.
She thinks I'm messing with her at first but then I tell her its the truth and I don't know what to do (random load of bullocks someone would say if they failed)
She then calls my brother to see if its true or not and my brother is willing to play along with my joke. He tells her its true and I'm devastated right now. (It goes to shit around here)
She wants to talk to me to see how I am doing. Brother passes phone to me. She asks me if I'm ok and what went wrong. I shout first to make her think I'm angry. Then I start to cry so she believes its real, she falls for the trap.
This is where I fuck up as she then said she would leave work to come home because she thinks I'm torn apart by this because I'm crying. She was also planning on contacting the school to see what she could do to get me back there.
Me and my brother know we've fucked up so he tells her (still on the phone) I didn't really fail and I passed my GCSE's. He also says I'm not really crying and was faking it. He says she wants to talk to me again.
I talk to her completely fine now and tell her the good news. I'm also laughing so much that I need a minute. She begins to cry because of my joke in the middle of work in front of all her Co-workers. Oh boy did I fuck up as when she comes home I'm dead. | I made my mother cry because I lied to her about my results to trick her for a joke. |
t3_hk9ew | Parenting | Almost 4 year old not at all interested in learning | Hello everyone! I love this subreddit! I have found so much great information and advice.
So, my girlfriend has a 3 year old son (Turns 4 on July 4th) and a 7 year old daughter. The daughter just soaked in learning and still does. She knew all her letters well before kindergarten and her 0-9 numbers well before kindergarten as well. We have worked with her 3 year old son and he just has no interest. Is this ok? We are not intense or pushy about it... nothing like "You must learn!!!" lol Just want to make sure he is ready for his Pre-K class this next year. We will sit with him with the letters A, B, & C and show him the A and say "This is A." and then repeat "A, A, A" and hand it to him and point at it in his hand and say "A". Then will put it back with the B & C on the floor. We will then say, "which one is A?" , and he will hand us a B or a C usually and very rarely grab the A. Should we be concerned with this or just assume he isn't ready? Are we doing this in a way that works? Also, with numbers he seems to recognize them but almost just seems to refuse to verbally recall them. I will ask him "How many worms are there?" in his number book (there are 2) and he will show me two fingers but will not say two. He will always say the wrong number but always show the right number or fingers. He can identify colors and shapes just fine... he loves to talk, is so very loving and sweet and loves his cars, trucks, and other toys.
Any advice is welcome! Any tricks you have used or anything like that. Thanks so much everyone!! | Tips and tricks for teaching an almost-four-year-old letters and numbers? We will start with A, B, C and 1-5. Thanks! |
t3_2g2dlw | relationships | Roommate [?? M] of a girl I'm dating has been with the girl he has been dating [?? F], who is my girl's friend, for over 8 yrs. Relationship has gone long distance for the first time, my girl is in a bit of a pickle. | To make the details easy...bullets.
* I'm dating a girl [23 F]
* Her friend [20's? F] moved long distance (1,000+ miles away) for a year for school
* My girl's current roommate is the boyfriend of said friend [20's? M]
* Her friend and this roommate have been dating for 8 years
Upon leaving for school, the friend told my girl to keep an eye on her boyfriend while she is away as she won't be back until after the school year is over. Unfortunately, the boyfriend is fooling around with another girl. My girl gave the guy an ultimatum (last week?) saying she would tell her friend if he didn't stop seeing this girl (nothing sexual had happened to that point, so no harm no foul). He said OK. Then last night she saw the girl had slept over (i.e. sexual boundary has probably been crossed).
My girl is in a pickle. She obviously has an obligation to her friend to tell her about her boyfriend's infidelity, but at the same time, this guy is her roommate and if the friend found out he would obviously know who told her. I asked my girl if she is on the lease and she said yes (in other words, it is not like the roommate is the sole leaser and can kick her out if shit hit the fan).
What should my girl do? I'd like her to tell her friend, but at the same time I don't want to see her get into a s****y living situation as she is here on a student visa. | a girl im dating has an obligation to her friend to keep an eye on her boyfriend, who, unfortunately, is the girl's roommate. the boyfriend is messing around. what should she do? |
t3_2zdjdt | tifu | TIFU by trying to diversify my flu diet | A little over a week ago, I was diagnosed with the flu. My doctor told me to stick to a diet of liquids, then move on to soup, then to more solid foods. After a few days of nothing but broth, tomato soup, and the occasional saltine, my wife brought home some Zatarain's instant garlic rice to change things up for my flu diet. My life has not been the same since.
Running a fever of 100+ degrees, I blindly consumed the garlic rice, barely able to taste or smell it. A few days later, when my fever had passed and my congestion cleared, I started to notice it. The stench of Zatarain's garlic rice encompassed everything. It's been a full week and the smell still lingers, potent and unyielding, in the air of my apartment.
I have scrubbed my kitchen twice, vigorously cleaned every fabric surface, washed every piece of clothing, and burned more scented candles than I care to admit. The smell will not disappear. I even taste it when I wake up in the morning. Everything I eat and drink tastes of it.
Thinking the smell was somehow stuck in my nostrils, I've done several neti-pot irrigations, inhaled the aroma of freshly ground coffee beans for hours at a time, and even snorted a bump of cayenne pepper. Nothing works. Even now, as I type, the off-garlic smell of the Zatarain's rice overpowers a nearby scented candle, as if it were cooking right in front of me on my computer desk. | My life has become a garlic rice nightmare. |
t3_1pw5j0 | offmychest | I think I fell in love with someone else | I love my girlfriend so much, so infinitely much. I'd never hurt her in any way ever. One month from now we will celebrate our 2nd year together. Again, I can't even explain how much I love her.
Now this shit happened..
I think I've fallen in love with somebody else. Im still in love with my girlfriend, more than ever actually, and the thought of forming my future with her, get married and get children doesn't scare me at all, I still wan't all that without a doubt.
Thing is I am very depressed most of the time (mainly without her, my gf). And she has always been there for me. But lately, it feels like she doesnt want to be there for me anymore, to listen to anything I have to say about feeling down etc, she seems tired of it, and I understand her. Then another girl randomly entered my life, and in some way she made me feel so confident. Just by being around me she made me feel safe, and somewhat less sad and depressed. She is also very cute (that didn't bother me at all, at first). With time I told her how I felt having her around, and she responded positive. She was really happy to make me feel good, and she began getting a little bit closer to me.
Lately I've been feeling the tickeling feeling thinking about her and being her near, but I haven't even thought of me being in love with her, I mean, I **really** love my girlfriend so much it hurts, so it wouldn't make sense.
But when I talked to a friend about this today, I realized... maybe I'm in love with this girl, so I said it to him. Hearing me say it gave me anxiety and I just hate myself, like how is it even possible?! I realized it might be true.
*Fuck*, what do I do? I'm filled with anxiety, I can't believe this happened.. | Don't even bother, it's ok. |
t3_3wealb | relationships | Me [25 M] with my gf [21 F] 5 years relationship, she broke up with me because wanted to date another guys. | I was in a relationship with her for 5 years and we have been through a lot together. This year she had the opportunity to pursue exchange studies in USA for a period of 1 year. I helped her with all the paperwork and gave all support she needed to make the best of this opportunity. I wasn't concerned about our relationship, because we were really close to each other and I thought I knew her enough. After six months she said she was having feelings for another guy and felt confused about us. She wanted a open relationship to be able to meet other guys. In the beginning I was quite open minded about that. I little sad but supportive. A couple of days after I realize that I just couldn't do that. I don't know why, I just felt so humiliated. So she broke up with me saying she wanted to meet other guys and maybe when she come back we could see what happens with us.
On the top of that I've been struggling with depression since the finish of undergrad school. As long as I took my medicines I would be fine, but with she going to USA and another events of my life along with the pressure of my post-graduate studies made it a really painful experience.
Now I don't know how to keep going with my life. All the major things I accomplished in my life were with her. She helped me a lot to pass through my situation with depression. Rationally, I totally understand her. But I feel so despised. It seemed so easy for her making a decision between a 6 years old relationship or some random guy.
I don't know how to lead with that. Should we stay friends for a while? because maybe if she change her mind about that we could put things together. But it also makes me feel so devalued. Currently in my life all my friends are far away taking care of their lives and I don't have anyone to talk about that. Which are the best ways to put all of this behind and walk with my life? | My gf went to another country for 1 year exchange studies. The distance made her rethink our relationship and now she wants to break up and I am lost with that. |
t3_jzzux | dating_advice | Crush on shy guy friend | I have a huge crush on one of my best guy friends, and I think he likes me too but he's too shy to tell me (I'm pretty shy myself). I'm a 21 yo girl, he's a 21 yo guy. We go to college together, we're about to start senior year, and I want to confess to him before college ends and it's too late. Signs I think he likes me are that our hometowns are about an hour away in the same state, and during breaks he would drive through rush hour traffic (two hour commute) just to pick me up and hang out. He also gives me a lot more attention than most girls (he doesn't have any other close girl friends), buys me gifts for no reason, and pays for me when we do stuff together. Plus his past relationships from high school were all with girls who he was close friends with.
Any suggestions for how to go about this? I could ask him if he could see us dating, but I think the question would make him nervous and awkward. I'm considering just trying to kiss him and see how he reacts, but I'm not smooth enough to know how to initiate... | crush on best guy friend, I think he would respond awkwardly if I ask him if he could see us dating, so I want to just kiss him and see how he reacts, but I have no idea how to initiate. Any suggestions (or am I going about this the wrong way)? |
t3_3uelm3 | dating_advice | Making the first date an interesting one | I've decided I (M18) am going to ask a girl (F17) I've know about for a while, but just recently started talking to, out on a date.
I'm tired of falling into the friend zone for girls as I'm trying to get to know them better, resulting in a situation where dating is not an option.
That's why I've decided to change "tactics" (in lack of a better word). This time I want my intentions to be clear early on. I like her and want to get to know her, so I'm, as said going to ask her out.
Problem is, what do you do on a first date? I mean obviously there are the clichés like taking her to the movies, eating dinner out in a fancy restaurant or whatever, and sure, I'd be up for that I guess. (She's not 18 yet though, as said, so no alcohol can really be involved in the fun) But I really want it to be more... exciting, I suppose.
I'm not really sure what I want from it as I've never been on a real date before. But I guess something where I could show myself(as in personality) to her, and her to me. | what should I set up for a first date? |
t3_2c9yuu | relationships | Me [26 F] with my Workplace of 6 Months (Advice for how to leave) | Hi everyone,
I am an accounting clerk for a contracting company. I have been working here for 6 months, and it's hostile. It's a family business; a mother (61), father(60), son(30), and daughter(30). The workplace is very hostile, they aren't happy with me and I am not happy with them. The son is a bully, he's accused me of drinking at work (would never happen), yells at me, talks down to me as though I'm 5, send me rude e-mails, and gives me shit constantly. I work my ass off. The mother and father are condescending. If I was as bad at my job as their attitude indicated, I should have been fired months ago - I figure it's an ego thing.
I have started freelancing over the past 2-3 months, gaining clients, website, and amassing a little tiny bit of savings ($1,500.00) to help me get through as I transition to full-time self employed (yes, I am registered with the government and everything is covered.) I am currently making $900 freelancing in my spare time.
My issue is this, I was hired because the daughter went on maternity leave, and I do the bulk (90%) of the office work (accounting, office bitch) and the mother "helps" when she feels like it. I don't want to completely destroy them, at the same time I don't want to be here.
I'd like to give a months notice (August 1st for last day being August 29th) but I am unsure if I can handle being here for another whole month. I get anxiety attacks about coming to work, crying at my desk isn't an usual thing (I've never cried at work before - and I don't let them see me.) I feel like giving a full months notice is fair to them (and to me, because money).
I am concerned that when I give notice, I will be berated for leaving, and called names. I am unsure of how to tell them that I quit, and I am unsure of whether or not I should mention the son in particular. I'm happy to elaborate. | I need to quit my job of 6 months. Unsure of how. Please help. |
t3_4k53ss | tifu | TIFU by dropping a power drill on my head. | I do some carpentry at my job. Today I was using a power drill in the air on a six foot ladder. While packing up, I left the drill on top of the ladder. Moments later I started to pack up the ladder having forgotten the drill was still there, and it dropped and landed on my head. Realizing what had happened, I calmly put down the ladder and walked around the corner to fetch my boss for some assistance with my fresh head wound. I had no idea how bad it was but I was bleeding all over the place. So we got me cleaned up and it wasn't that bad- just a quarter inch cut above my hair line and a small bump(and hopefully no concussion). Thankfully I was working by myself and it wasn't somebody else that got hurt from my totally rookie mistake. | Drill on ladder+Gravity=Pain. Blood everywhere. |
t3_34wurb | relationships | I [26 M] know that my friend's[28 M] girlfriend [26 f] of 8 years whom he was separated with has been fucking multiple dudes and he is getting back together with her should I tell him? | I live in a small town (everyone seems to know the truth but him) and my friend broke up with his girlfriend and is trying to get back together with her. She left him in January and he was devastated. Since then I know of four guys she's hooked up with one a coworker at the restaurant she works at and seen some pretty nasty video of her doing some sick stuff with a crackhead. Now I guess they are getting back together and I don't know if I should tell him or not. She seems like a saint, but I know that the reason she left him was just to fuck around and now that she's got that out of her system and doesn't feel the need to do it anymore she's decided to hook up with him again. Should I tell him or keep it to myself. It really bothers me not because of what she's done but because she's not telling him. I know he didn't sleep with anyone while they have been separated. | Friend is getting back with his girlfriend who slept around with 5 guys while they have been separated for 4 months. |
t3_2v6nko | relationships | Me [20M] with my new girlfriend [20F] Her father doesn't like the fact I have a son from another relationship. How can I win him around? | Basically I've just entered a relationship with someone the same age as me and I honestly think it's love at first sight but my son is my first priority.
She has no issues with me having a son from a past relationship but the other night we was out with her father for some food and it was all going well until my girlfriend mentioned that I have a son. His face sort of dropped and there was an uneasy atmosphere but her step mum loved it. She wanted to see pictures and everything.
Some facts thst might be key.
- I'm the first boyfriend she has taken to meet her father.
- I was very shy first time around.
- my girlfriend can't have children of her own.
- the rest if her family has accepted the fact I have a son. | girlfriends dad doesn't like the fact I have a son but the rest of her family seems to have accepted it. |
t3_3vw0yn | tifu | TIFU by trapping my cat | This did actually happen today, about two hours ago.
I live/work on a ranch, and as such that involves the regular vehicle maintenance. Today's job involved our trusty Ford Ranger, which we've (ab)used for over 13 years now. Battery had died thanks to cold weather, so I replaced it as well as an overdue oil change. I should also note this is one of the late 80's Rangers that was basically a F150 body with a 6cyl engine dropped in a cavernous frontend and gimped leaf springs in it.
The FU:
I finished up the work, and rolled the work table across the shop to put the tools away. Unbeknownst to me, our resident mouse remover (read: rather small tabby cat) decided that the engine compartment was an interesting area to explore, and jumped up inside. Me being the absentminded boy, I casually slammed the hood down without another thought, knowing I had already double-checked everything. Tabby cat remains silent.
I hop in the cab, hit the starter and it fires off like the day it was made. Then comes the loudest, most horrifying yowl/screech I have ever heard. This isn't your average frightened cat noise - this is a next-level shake-your-soul screaming banshee noise. I kill the engine and pop the hood - and that tabby cat bolts the fuck out and disappears. Welp.
About an hour later the cat shows up on the porch - pissed as hell, avoiding me like the devil and sans about an inch and a half of her tail. Now my mom is pissed as hell too for obvious reasons. | Cat hid in truck, started said truck, cat got part of her tail cut off. Neither the cat nor my mother are on speaking terms with me. |
t3_qaktq | relationships | uncomfortable relationship | I feel uncomfortable around someone because I feel like I gave them too much personal information about myself. I know it is my fault, but this guy kind of lured me in to trust him quickly. This person wants to hangout alone with me and stuff, and I do not particularly want to. We met at the bus station and we ride the same bus routes. I am a 20 year old female and his around a 50 year old male. We have seen each other around for a while but starting having personal conversations two weeks ago. He always insists on me sitting next to him so we can talk, and thinking back on it now I wish I had not said as much. We exchanged phone numbers, we live in the same part of town, and he knows which bus I ride and when. I am starting to feel less safe.
How should I deal with this? He knows I am a full time student, so I was thinking that whenever he plans something with me I could tell him I will be busy with school. Also I have a car, but I just do not like driving. If I were to drive all the time, he would probably call me to see whats up. Sometimes when we talk he makes it seem like he wants to protect me and act like a father to me. | How can I turn an uncomfortable relationship into a comfortable relationship? |
t3_1o0lip | running | Shin pain before marathon on Sunday | Hey runnit! Just wanted to start out by saying thanks for being such a quality community. I've been lurking around for the past few months while I've been training for my first marathon and have found lots of good answers and tips as I'm a semi-new runner.
Anyways, I ran 20 miles last Sunday and afterwards was pretty sore so I ended up not running the rest of the week. I continued to stretch and ice though. Yesterday I went out for a four mile run and stopped after 2.5 because of shin pain. I haven't had this kind of pain before and it freaked me out since the marathon is on Sunday. Not running is not really an option since I'm running for Autism Speaks. What should I be doing for this last week? I am supposed to be doing 3 today,4 tomorrow, and 2 on Thursday, then rest two days. Should I try to run again? Stay off it? Continue icing/stretching? Just power through it? Any advice is really appreciated. I'm really getting anxious about it. | Marathon on Sunday, have new shin pain, what to do? |
t3_30f3k3 | tifu | TIFU by Trying to Look Conservative at an Interview. | TIFU by looking like an idiot at a job interview.
So a bit of back story, I am a lawyer. I used to work at sort of an ambulance-chasey firm---the kind that advertises on TV a lot. It's good work, but it's definitely not as fancy or corporate as the types of lawyers you see wearing suits and portrayed in the movies. I recently quit hoping to advance my career in corporate law.
So today I had an interview at a fancypants corporate firm. Now, at my old firm where I worked as a scrappy plaintiff lawyer, I could get away with my at-times tacky and perhaps not exactly "appropriate" wardrobe. Eh...I'll just say it: sometimes it bordered on a little slutty.
But not today.
Knowing my audience would be extremely "buttoned up" lawyers, I selected my most conservative and lawyerly looking dress to wear to the interview. It's made of the same material as a suit and has a high neckline, long enough skirt, is form-fitting, but not tight.....trust me, this thing is suitable for even the most ardent pearl-clutchers of the world. You could attend a Kennedy's funeral in it. There's no way this is going to push the bounds of what's appropriate.
So, armed with my most uptight looking outfit, I go to the interview and pretty much feel like I've nailed it. "I've definitely convinced these white-shoe lawyers that I am not just a plaintiff attorney sheep's clothing," I thought triumphantly as I left the building.
"This thing is in the bag," I thought.
.....Until I get home to change OUT of said dress and realized that in my haste to get ready I hadn't managed to zip the back zipper all the way up....leaving about 4-5 inches worth of unzipped "zipper skin" from my neck to mid-back exposed.
FML. | I can't bother to put clothes on properly....probably costing me a fancy job. |
t3_51bxmt | relationships | My (29m) date with the most beautiful girl to walk on the face of this Earth went great!! But what now? How do I keep things going? | So my date went very well (I am [29 m] and she is [25 f])!! Thanks to everyone who gave advice.. all of it helped tremendously!
I found out she's from another country and she's here getting her masters degree. We had a great, short date and we found we have a lot in common. I guess the next question is, what now? At the end of the date she said we should study together sometime.. she also invited me to go with her to a concert she's going to in October. So she still sounds interested and I am definitely still interested and would like to pursue this new adventure... but what do I do now as far as communication goes? | Our date went very well and we both expressed wanting to hang out again. So how do I continue to not screw this up? How should communication be handled from here on out? |
t3_3pxqsb | legaladvice | [Maine] Received a collections letter from a prior electric company after I moved - Did they my bill to collections far too early? | This situation is already resolved (I paid them before I got the letter, so the account was closed already), but I couldn't find anything online and was just curious on how this works!
My lease from a previous apartment ran out August 30th of this year. I gave proper notice and moved out. My roommates stayed in the apartment, so I notified the electric company that I wanted to transfer billing responsibility to one of the roommates.
This all goes well...or so I thought. On September 31st, I get a "final due notice" from the electric company that was forwarded from my old address and dated the 16th (so it took 2 _weeks_ for USPS to forward the mail). Apparently I forgot to pay the bill! I immediately go online and schedule a payment which goes through. This bill was dated September 1st as the final bill and I had forgotten to pay it with all the moving business I was doing.
Well, October 16th rolls around and I get a collections notice in the mail that was dated the 6th (so, again two week delay from forwarded) saying I owed the money I already paid them. I go online and the account was "paid in full".
So my question is, can the electric company really do this? During this whole event, I did not receive a single phone call (my cell phone is on file) or email from them....my first communication was the final bill then it immediately went to collections after I already paid it.
I feel like they immediately jumped to sending an under $60 bill to collections where it could have negatively affected my credit. If they called even once it would've been taken care of! I'm pretty sure I gave them my new address (didn't need power as I was moving in with another person) but they send all mail to my old one which resulted in the delays. This is more of a curiosity for information than advice since I took care of it....at least, I hope so. Nothing showed up on my report yet but I check frequently. | Electric company sent bill to collections after ~30 days past due, made no attempts to contact me except for one "final notice" mail less than 2 weeks before it goes to collections. Is this the norm? |
t3_3mbxmu | relationships | Should I [22/M] stop telling my friend [22/F] that I love them? | I feel silly for asking this.
I've known this girl for almost 8 years now and we were best friends. She use to always say love you after hangouts/calls. Last year we had a falling out (over some silly comments in retrospect) only recently started talking again.
We have been slowing connecting again over the past couple of months. A week or two ago she said love you after I hugged her bye and I didn't say it back. The next day she said again and I didn't say it back again. She said Wow! And hung up the phone. She claims she was joking and wasn't mad, but she sounded pissed. I lied and said I never heard it.
Truthfully I did and it caught me off guard. I hadn't heard it from her in almost a year and I didn't know if I wanted to say it to someone who walked out of my life for year.
She hasn't said it again since, but I have after my birthday party she threw for me. Now I feel weird and it felt weird to say then. Should I just stop? I kinda mentioned it to her and she told me stop over thinking it. And here I am. Feel like I made things weirder by bringing it up too. | felt weird telling my friend love you. |
t3_1squml | relationships | Me [21F] with my boyfriend [22 M] for 3 years, not sure if he wants to leave? but im not ready to give up. | Yesterday my boyfriend told me that he needed to find a way out of our relationship. I figured it was at the heat of the moment because we had been arguing, I had asked him about it later that day and he said he was not completely sure if he wanted a to leave me, it hurt me of course but I had just put my big girl panties on and had to accept thats the way he felt. We have a beautiful child together and we are from two completely different states so I feel just getting up and leaving is not really an option. Not only because of money but because of our child. My boyfriend has a lot of issues like many of us do, but he grew up rough, his father was/is still very disrespectful. which has obviously effected the way he treats women. He says he isn't in love with me anymore and is only with me because of our child which hurts even more to hear. Today I just completely broke down, I just want a happy family, yes I understand that we are going to go through issues especially with a child and our relationship still being so fresh but I honestly don't want to share my daughter (selfish i know) but i don't want to miss any part of her life. I'm just so confused, I believe that if he goes and gets help about his issues that we will get better but i dont if i can wait for that because this is just eating me alive. Can anyone help with this or relate? what should i do? | my boyfriend is wanting to call it quits. |
t3_33hq13 | relationships | How wrong was it for me[26 m] to tell my crush[21 f] I'm leaving my GF for her? | Throwaway because I'm dumb
I have hinted at breaking up with my GF but yesterday I finally said that it was my intention. My crush told me "Not to" and hasn't said anything to me since.
I'm not sure what is going through her mind and I am sort of confused. I was thinking that it is what she would have wanted given how much we have talked about it the last few weeks. Now that I made it real instead of fantasy she has stopped talking to me.
I hope she doesn't think she is to blame for ending my relationship because really, she wasn't. It was over long ago. I didn't mean to put a burden on her, if that's what I did. I really thought I was doing the right thing :/
Help me out, is she mad that I some how put a pressure on her? Or hurt? I would hate to think that she didn't mean what she has said to me lately and is now backing away when I am trying to prove that I have been serious. | Told a crush I have been talking to that I want to leave my GF for her. She's stopped talking to me since and I'm not sure what she's thinking. |
t3_230ptr | relationship_advice | [NON-ROMANTIC] 19M clueless on what to do with 16F | A little context is needed so before I start, here's a little back story:
During my senior year in high school, I was part of a program where seniors helped incoming freshman adjust to high school life and help them with any problems they may have and to just give advice in general. I bonded with several of them and we all generally became quite close friends through them telling me about their problems in school and sometimes outside of school. I helped as best I could according to each situation, but for this one girl, let's call her Maggie, we got exceptionally close. Throughout the past year, we sort of became "big brother" and "little sister" and this is how I want our relationship to stay like. I must admit that I love her with all my heart, but for me, it's as a sister, not as a romantic interest. And then I moved away for college and I haven't seen her in a while, but now I'm back for Spring Break and we decided to go hang out together during the week...
And so, here's my problem, I've never once in my life hung out with a girl one on one in a non-romantic setting. She doesn't know what she want's to do, and neither do I. All of my ideas for us hanging out are too romantic and so I come to you, the wonderful people of reddit for advice on where to go, what activity to do, etc. with Maggie. Thanks! | What's a non romantic date idea for two people who have no romantic interests in each other? If it helps, we're in NYC. Thanks! |
t3_1pubhb | relationships | My(20/F) ex(21M) punched me in the face, my manager saw the bruise, asked what happened, and now wants his contact info. | My ex and I broke up about 3 years ago, after a 1.5 year relationship, and have not had contact since. He was very abusive to me and would beat me up.
Anyways he ended up dating another girl, beat her up too, then started dating another girl with whom he moved across the country with. I never heard or seen from him since, until yesterday.
He was visitng my best friend who he knew since he was a kid, she knew he abused me but didn't want to get involved as they'd known eachother for so long. I was supposed to hang out with her after he left, and she texted me saying he was leaving so I headed over.
Well just my luck, as I head over to her building I run into him, he shouts my name and I ignore him until he comes up to me, grabs my arm and starts shouting at me, drunk asking why I told his best friend about how he hit me. Basically he shouterd a bit them socked me right in the face when someone came out and he ran and I just cried. I told my friend what happened and went home.
I don't want to go to the cops - I never did before and this asshole is leaving town in a week anyways, probably for a few more years. But my manager asked about the black eye and pulled me aside and I basically cried a little and said what happened. Well he asked if I had the guy's phone number, which I don't and aske me to get his contact info for him, but that not to worry he wouldn't call the cops.
I've already said I don't really want to, plus I don't know his friends except the one girl and I don't think she'll give it to me - or if she does she'd tell him.
Why would my manager want the info? How do I really don't want to? He doesn't know/probably wouldn't visit my work... | Ex from the past punched me in the face while visiting my town, manager asked about black eye and wants his contact info. I don't want to give it as ex will be out of town very soon. Why doesn boss want this and how do I say I don't want to deal with it? |
t3_kadpp | AskReddit | Need some advice on what to do next | I've been together with this girl for about three months now and it has actually been going really well. We met at work, went out partying and it went pretty straight forward since then.
One problem is that she lives 30 kms from my place and since we both have started studying again we don't meet as often, I'm either too tired to go back to the city in the evenings or I'm broke to go out in the weekends since I don't really get a lot of money when studying.
Anyway, today she told me that she was out last night at a club with some of her friends, and that she had to confess something to me about what happened when I wasn't there. She had started making out with an old friend/girlfriend (she was a bit bi-curious two years ago and had a relationship with a girl for a couple of months). She tells me that she knows that she isn't bisexual anymore and that she noticed that yesterday too, but that she really missed me last night and when she saw her old friend she got a bit excited etc...
I am kind of disappointed she did it though since she tells me that she really likes me a lot and wants us to stick together and keeps telling me that "it's not that bad she is a girl", but seeing as she has done stuff with that girl a couple of years back I don't really know how to take it.
I keep thinking, will she do this again? How bad is it really that she made out with another girl and did other various things. I think I believe her that she isn't that much interested in girls anymore since she has made it really clear, although sometimes I'm not too sure, she keeps bringing up the threesome idea and what I would think about trying it some day, probably with that girl she used to be with.
Anyway, what do you think Reddit?
Sorry if my english was too annoying, it's my third language. | My gf made out with her ex-gf last night and begs for forgiveness and says she isn't really interested in girls anymore but that she really missed me and wants our relationship to work. |
t3_3pxw5k | Advice | Should I file for unemployment even if I don't need it right now? (In California) | I'm unemployed, but it's not through any fault of my own. I was working as a temp, and my boss let me go because he mismanaged his budget and didn't have enough money to keep me on.
Anyway, about me...I'm a 22 female and I have enough money for 4-5 months of rent and food for where I'm currently living. I'm a recent graduate, which makes it hard to find a job because everyone seems to want 3-5 years of experience in my field. I'm applying to office jobs too - I'd be fine being someone's assistant - but no responses so far and I'm a month in.
My boyfriend has urged me to file for unemployment though. At first I thought it'd be great because who doesn't like free money? But one of my friends pointed out that I shouldn't file for unemployment until I need it - because there are other people who need it more badly than me.
What should I do? I am torn because I feel bad if I take money from these people who work so hard if I don't need it. At the same time, what if something goes wrong in 4-5 months? I don't know if gas prices will go up, if food prices will go up because of drought, or if rent will randomly increase. | I have 4-5 months money for food/gas/rent. Is it wrong for me to start getting unemployment benefits now? Will it be taking away from other people who need it more? |
t3_1hzirx | relationships | I[20M] cheated on my Girlfriend [21F] of 2.5 years, I can never tell her and its tearing me apart | Before I start, I know that a lot of you will find this childish or consider this as not cheating but it is where I am from.
I am currently at uni and ever since I moved from home I was living in the city of my university. I am also a year ahead of my girlfriend, i.e she was in secondary school and I was in my first year of university. I was constantly attracted to the girls in my uni and on nights out in the city in first year, but i managed to stave off these feelings and stay faithful to my girlfriend.
However in second year I moved into a house in the city with a few boys and on a night out I came back to the house and decided to go to the neighbors and introduce myself, (this is a predominantly student area), the girls were friendly and one seemed to be interested in me and because I was thinking with my dick and was drunk I asked her back to mine.
Basically we kissed and felt each other up and such but nothing else happened, she stayed overnight we watched a movie and she left the next morning. My friends know it happened and they would never rat me out(the way they see it, its none of their business).
Since this we went on a break and I realized how stupid I was to even suggest the break. I didn't see anyone while on the break and she knows this.
The problem I have is that I know for a fact that it'll be over if she finds out I was with another girl. I know I love this girl and couldn't live without her. does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this as I definitely cannot tell her and I feel incredibly guilty about it. | I cheated on the love of my life, can never tell her and the guilt is unbearable. |
t3_2kuxxk | tifu | TIFU by having two laptops | This started on Friday Night. My Macbook Air that my dad bought me for a gift had stopped working because of the backlight to the screen stopped doing its thing. Therefore, the only way I could use the laptop was to apply a flashlight where the logo was.
The next day, I scrambled all over my phone to search the internet for troubleshooting/solutions. Initially what I read was that the entire screen had to be replaced and it would cost $600.
I don't have $600. Being that I consistently need my computer for school, I panicked. I did find an option to finance a new laptop through Apple instead and I highly considered it.
Sunday, after a couple of days being shut off, the Air's backlight was revived(?) while the lighting would often flicker heavily. Still in doubt, I went ahead and used the Air to apply for financing. I was immediately financed for the MacBook Pro. My plan was to sell the Air for considerably cheap @ $400 and use it towards my financing. I watched Netflix for an hour, and the Air shut off again.
The very next night, I booted up my Air just for fun and the son-of-a-bitch started working again. Only this time the screen was brighter. Nonetheless, I went to pick up the Pro. I got home. I booted it up. I went on Amazon and placed an ad for the Air. I went to bed.
Flash forward to this morning. I went on to the Apple Website to see if I could call someone to ask a couple more questions about the Air before I sell it.
One thing led to another, and I discovered that my Air has 254 days of AppleCare left. My Dad never told me that he got AppleCare. I then checked Amazon to pull the ad - the Air had been sold. Had to pull the ad after the fact because of the value, and I feel like an asshole. | So now, I have both the Air and the Pro. In the process, I pulled an unnecessary 1,200 dollars of my credit, wasted someones time and anticipation on Amazon, and will probably piss someone off if I choose to return the Pro. I have NO idea of what I should do. |
t3_2bmxbo | relationships | College relationships and distance. | I [20M] am considering asking out a girl [30F] from my hometown soon. The problem is that I will. Be returning to school in about a month, and I will have to remain there for a pretty long time. The distance is drivable (it's about 60 miles, so just over an hour's drive), but I have no experience with relationships that are even semi distanced.
I really like this girl, and I think I am willing to drive back every week or so to see her, but I would hate to go into this not fully understanding what I am getting myself into. I haven't asked her yet, but we've been friends for a while. That's a different problem though, and one that I will be dealing with soon.
And yes, I know our ages are little mismatched, but that's not the point here. I'll worry about that later. For now I am purely concerned about geographic displacement. | I want to start dating someone from my hometown, but I will be going back to school about an hour away. I don't really know what it's like to date someone I am not living near. |
t3_128gzp | AskReddit | What are some of the worst weeks you've experienced in your life? (I'll start) | Two weeks ago, my Grandma died. Being Jewish, I went home from college to be with my family for the full mourning session (which is a week after the funeral in which we sit Shiva). The grief and depression are hitting me now, when I'm away from all my family and all alone.
As a result, I missed a week and a half of classes. The week I got back, was the week of my midterms. Not only did I have to catch up with all my work, but I had to study for my midterms and write two research papers. Meanwhile, I'm going to all my classes and I've been completely lost because of how much I've missed. I've been back for a week. I bombed one of my midterms and think I did decently on my others. I still have to write one of my research papers and continue to catch up on reading for other classes.
I'm also moving. My roommate and I have had issues for awhile now (we hate each other) and I'm now switching rooms. There's so much to prepare for the move. And I'm nervous about getting along with my new roommate and getting acclimated with a new environment.
Everything seems to be building up and I keep breaking down. It's so draining, both emotionally and mentally. I haven't slept in three days. The stress is just too much. | My Grandma died. I missed school and am insanely stressed with all the work I have to catch up on. I'm also moving. |
t3_3nkng6 | dating_advice | How to take things further | Hi, I [21M] have been going out with this girl [20F] for a little while now, we've been on five or six dates and I've kissed her a few times but we haven't gone further than that. She's coming over to my place again tomorrow and I would like to take things further.
She is the first girl I've been with and so all this is new to me, I suspect I am also the first guy she's been with so we're both a bit inexperienced. I was wondering how I can go about being more intimate with her without making her uncomfortable. For example how can I know whether or not It's appropriate for me to touch her somewhere before doing it? do I just take the leap and be prepared to back off if she doesn't seem to be into it or should I explicitly ask her what she's comfortable with first?
I thought of just asking her how far she's prepared to go but I thought that might make things more awkward rather than less given that we haven't done much together yet. Thanks for any help you can give. | New relationship, Inexperienced, how do I escalate without going to far and making her uncomfortable? |
t3_4qp0te | relationships | Me [20F] with my family [55F, 67M, 30F]. I want to cut them out of my life but I'm struggling/feeling guilty for leaving them. | I really don't know what to do or think about my situation. My family has been falling apart for about 10 years now and I'm fed up. My mother (55F) started doing meth with my sister (30F) when I was about 11 years old and it continued until I was about 17 when DCFS stepped in. I was left in my home with my mother. My father (67M) and sister were forced to move out due to multiple charges for domestic violence. When I turned 18, our case was dropped and everything was much better. Everyone was clean, I had gone through counseling, and we had some level of healthiness in our family relationship.
A few months after our case was dropped, my sister started doing meth again and both my parents started drinking excessively. My parents usually share a fifth of whiskey and it is gone within 1-2 days. My dad frequently gets violent and has been taken to jail multiple times. They will quit for a couple weeks and then relapse, over and over again. I've tried everything to help but they just don't ever follow through.
My dad was also recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and drinking whiskey the way that he does is making it much worse. He has told me multiple times that he is drinking to try to kill himself. I want to be there for my family because I do love them, but what they are doing is destroying me.
I graduated high school, I have a decent job, and I've been going to college. I just bought my own car and I feel like I'm doing pretty well for myself despite what my family has put me through. I'm currently living with my boyfriend of 4 years. There's only one problem. My family drags me back into their messy life and I feel like it's holding me back. Everyone has always told me that I'm nothing like my family and that I'm the only "normal" one. How do I leave them behind without feeling like a shitty person? How do I move on with my life without a family? | Everyone in my immediate family is addicted to drugs/ alcohol. I don't want to have anything to do with them sometimes but I don't know how to handle going no contact without feeling guilty about leaving them. It's also hard knowing that I won't have a family anymore. |
t3_pskrx | AskReddit | Out of nowhere - Ex girlfriend appears | So I'm drinking with a friend. A good friend. A lady friend. Who I can only hope to marry someday when I get my shit together. She's had some wine and some shots of cheap booze. Me too.
She asks me about an ex. the girl I shared virginity with. I've never found it a big deal but have recently considered refriending her on facebook since we have a lot of friends in common.
Girl I want to marry gets suuuuper upset and goes to bed. I go lay down with her and express my want to talk with her about it. She says no just go get drunk and be who you are.
So I go get drunk and be who I am - an incorrigible prick. I like to be myself; I don't necessarily like who I am with the booze blood. But I don't really bother her save for one moment of waking her up wearing her jeans and probably being a jealous weirdo.
Today she tells me off something fierce.
My question is how do I go about amending this? This girl is an awesome friend. I think she just gets too expectant on me being a responsible person when i'm just looking to be an irresponsible fun friend for the time being.
There's such a weird back and forth friendship/relationship thing going on that leaves me so confused and empty. I feel good about myself until I have to live up to her huge expectations. But she's a drunk too! God I don't know what to do. I love this girl dearly, but she leaves me so confused.
Do I have to leave her? I don't want to. Do I have to not be such a drunk ass? I don't want to do that either. | I'm a drunk ass and this person knows it but encourages it and then gets upset, but I love her. |
t3_wjaga | relationships | So it turns out my grandmother likely killed my grandfather... | So a bit of backstory...
Four years ago, my grandfather died rather suddenly due to complications from pneumonia. I'm only 19, and was 15 at the time, so I wasn't really seen as an adult and nobody actually told me the story of what happened that killed him. There is a reason for this: every single person who has heard the story of his death cries foul and thinks something is fishy. I heard the story today for the first time... and just... wow... it is such a blatant lie. It is an absolutely insane concoction of a lie.
I don't really want to get into the details of it, but everyone agrees that the most likely explanation for what actually happened was that she locked him in a room while he couldn't breathe (due to the pneumonia and asthma and general frailty) and couldn't get help for several hours until he was about to die, and then she finally called 911 fully aware that he was a goner. He went into cardiac arrest on the way to the hospital, meaning that he was pretty much dead when she got around to calling 911 (which was about 12 hours after he first started having the attack.)
Here's the thing: My grandmother now has cancer, and the doctors say that she only has a couple months left to live. Naturally this means that I'm expected to visit her in the hospital and talk to her and tell her that I love her and all of that stuff, but I just... how am I supposed to do that? She murdered him! To be honest I don't really even know what my question is, or even if I have one, but I just don't really know how to process any of this. Any advice you have would be great. | The most likely explanation for my grandfather's death is that she locked him, while he was dying, in a room where he could not get help until he was about to die, and let it all unfold in front of her eyes. She obviously claims otherwise but her story is nonsensical to the point of being deranged. |
t3_k7ahd | AskReddit | Porn=degradation of all women? | Hey Reddit, so I was in my stats class today when, as an example study, my professor had us discuss why it is unjust to state that even though (HYPOTHETICALLY) statistically 100/100 raped women were raped by men who viewed or read porn, "all men who watch or read porn are rapists". So, in these group discussions she would pop in every once in a while to check on the conversations and add to them.
Our group was last, and at one point we asked her what kind of porn we were supposed to be considering, to which she replied: "It doesn't matter it is all degrading women." with a glare. I asked her why she thought that and was rather taken aback by it. She regained composure, told us we were doing just fine and walked back to the front to regain the classes attention and move on.
Her statement, however, struck me as odd and caused me to think more on the subject. Sure, some types and genre's of porn are degrading to women, often to fulfill a fantasy of the observer, but I personally do not see the ENTIRE porn industry as degrading to women.
Anyways, I was wondering what reddit had say on the matter, so: degrading as a whole? Yes? No? Why? Why not? Please share! | Is porn degrading towards women? Yes, no, maybe so? Share. |
t3_3jwoji | relationships | My (29M) therapist (30sM) has gone silent. | Edit: I'm 29F sorry!
I started therapy in April. It has been a wonderful and scary experience that has helped me immensely.
I won't go in to any detail about the context other than to say it isn't too heavy nor too breezy. I say that to point out that it shouldn't be anything he can't handle while also being something that is adding to his research.
I was aware that work might be sending me away so I let him know that I may not be around for our next session. He said it was fine and to just text to confirm and he would try move our session to the day before or after. I texted and said I definitely was working away. He said that was fine, to leave it with him and he would be in touch.
He never got in touch though. I figured he was busy and forgot. I was moving house too so didn't really think about it too much.
I went to the office for our regular session the following week and he wasn't there. I left a voice message to say I was downstairs and that we may have got our wires crossed about our schedule. Apologised if I had done so and hoped we could get on track for the following week.
Still nothing.
I guess I just forget about it?
I can't reiterate enough how I'm not weird or crazy or anything. What you read is what you get and what happened.
It's a weird feeling I feel. If it was a family member or friend or partner I would call one more time and leave a firm vm but I feel like I should just move on because technically I was paying for a service?
I can't help but feel super hurt though. I get I was paying him but I was still sharing things I hadn't ever spoken out loud before... So yeah... It's a sucky feeling. It does feel like someone I was really close to has broken my trust. | therapist is giving me the silent treatment. |
t3_1km7w9 | relationships | I [18m] started working where my middle school crush [18f] works, I think I just got feelings for her again. | We both had crushes on each other but nothing ever really happened from it. Even this entire summer at work I never did anything but that was because I just didn't really feel that way about her anymore. That changed I think over the weekend where we were at a party together we spent hours near each other talking to one another. I thought she had a boyfriend so I wanted to respect that, but later that night I had heard from some people she had broken ip with him.
We are both going to college next year, both of us equally distant from our hometown but in completely opposite directions. Basically I want to know how to find out how to ask if she has a boyfriend still, and how I would make something work under the circumstances.
I figured I could just tell her how great it was talking with her, and suggest we do it again sometime. I wouldn't expect her to get in to a committed relationship really, although we are only an hour and a bit apart. | I'm working with my middle school crush, got some feelings back for her, she may or may not have a boyfriend and we are going to college very soon. |
t3_2af7b6 | relationships | Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 3 months, about to move off to college wondering if having an 'intimate moment' might be a mistake. | We've dated for three - four months, but we were good friends for a full 2 years beforehand and we're both virgin. Up to this point in our relationship, neither of us has ever mentioned the idea of 'doing it' with the other.
Just a few days ago, when we were left in an empty house, she removed her shirt and asked me to give her a back massage. To my surprise she removed her bra, dared me to do a front massage (which I did), and later snuggled up with me. She never directly asked to have sex, but her gestures hinted at it (she asked if I wanted to "do anything").
I wasn't uncomfortable being close to her half naked, but I was scared and confused by the situation, so I politely refused to 'do it' at that moment. We're both moving off to college, and we only have a few days to meet up before we leave each other. I'm afraid that having sex might ruin our relationship and change the way we view each other. In addition, 'having a moment' with someone I know I may never see again might make me feel dirty and immoral. | I'm really confused and I don't know if we should go through with it. |
t3_3ciq3k | dating_advice | Why do women have a neediness for a first love?? | I was curious if there was any content/articles and wanted opinions on what seems to me like a female need to be with the first guy they're intimate with..Ive personally seen and been on both sides of this before and it seems apparent that this is commonplace in almost every situation, so basically I want to know what's up with that
I admit I've always wondered this but especially lately based on my own situation..My ex of many many years ago seems to continuously bash me on social media and alludes to the "misery" that was our relationship, so much so she needs to let everyone know this all the time..Funny enough, she has a boyfriend and has been with him for a few years as well
With that it brings me to my confusion on this subject in a few ways, like why is it after so long does she seem to spend her entire day quite frequently hating me, it seems a bit excessive..Most young relationships are very high tension and i moved on long ago, but I have to say it's really weird when she still has to have this odd resentment (or secret wanting) of me after so long, I don't mention her or discuss her in any way, but lately the content has ramped up so much that it's actually starting to become agitating..Essentially I want to know if s this a common thing that women do
Even worse it confuses the shit out of me why her boyfriend doesn't seem to care..I was laughing about this the other day but in a way it's almost awkward when I think about it, they've been together for so long and her primary focus is on hating me instead of him, so on the same point why would a guy not find that weird at all..If the girl I'm dating is doing that after a few months I'd be concerned, but after a few years I wouldn't be involved anymore because it's pretty fucking weird to me..I mean if I want to tell her to get over the shit how does he not feel that way when it's his girlfriend | Why do women always have a thing for the first love they have..My ex has spent years hating on me on social media, despite having a boyfriend, what I did years ago seems to be her biggest issue |
t3_2usqlg | tifu | TIFU by being sick | So today my friend and I were sitting in the cafeteria and he asks if I saw the post on askReddit about the "this is probably illegal moment" and the top post there about the hooker and the egg. I had seen it but I didn't get a chance to read the entire thing before it got deleted. Luckily, he found a full text copy of the entire thing, which he then pulls up on his brand new laptop. Like a laptop that he has had for less than a week. So I'm reading through the post when I feel a sneeze coming on and I can tell that this sneeze is going to be pretty powerful. Me being sick, I usually have napkins on hand but in this case, they were all used so I thought I would just use my sleeve.
Apparently this sneeze didn't give a shit and snot went all over the screen and keyboard. He was not amused. | Needed to sneeze, could not find napkin, friends new laptop was the closest substitute |
t3_14pbu1 | relationships | How do I [24/f] get over being cheated on by [24/m]? | After 8 months of the most emotionally draining (back and forth) relationship I have ever been in, I have finally broken up with my boyfriend [24/m] who I loved very much.
The first time he lied to me about a girl from his past, we fought and eventually worked through it. The second time he lied to me about a group of girls from his past, we fought and eventually worked through it. This third time is the final straw. Now I find out that these girls that I thought were just friends were actually ex girlfriends that he said he loved. I also find out that he was texting allll kinds of girls behind my back, planning secret meet ups and flirting. I'm 99% certain he fucked one of them, but obviously can't be 100% sure since he won't admit to it.
I thought that he was different. However, the real him is my biggest fear: he's a huge player that says whatever the girl wants to hear. He also has had way more relationships and sexual partners than he originally told me (found that out tonight). I think he did really love me, however he did a shitty job showing it. We talked about sharing a life together. And stupidly I believed it might actually happen one day.
I've been in my fair share of relationships and I know the drill when they end... go out with my girlfriends, get my life back, spend time being alone, etc. However this is the first time I've been cheated on. I feel embarrassed, alone, worthless, sad, and stupid. I should've seen the red flags, but I ignored them because I loved him. Now I'm hurt.
How will I ever get over this? How can I start the healing process? I'm worried that I'll never get over this and be a paranoid freak in my next relationship. I'm worried I will never love anyone as much as I loved him. | How can I get over being cheated on? |
t3_2jppri | relationships | [31 M] still have feelings for ex-gf [30 F] after being broken up for 9 months, but she has basically let herself go. | Basically gf and I tried to do long distance and had been dating for 1.5 years, but I broke it off due to a variety of reasons in January. One of those reasons (not the main) was the lack of sexual attraction. She was putting on weight and didn't feel the need to exercise. She said I should love her no matter her size.
Fast forward to last month, we have chatted and started talking and I see her back in the city where both of us moved from and she has added another 15-20 pounds. I was seriously so mad. I still really love this girl and have feelings, but the attraction is basically gone. I tried to be nice about it and she did the usual workout for a week then quit that she did when we were dating. I wasn't rude, but I was very up front in saying that in a long distance relationship there has to be a desire for sex with that person, otherwise it's just a friendship.
I honestly don't know what to do. Like I said, I do love this girl. We've been through a lot together but if I can't look at you with sexual desire then i just don't know how a relationship could work. Especially a LD one. | Began talking to ex-gf again, saw her, she put on more weight and isn't near a physically attractive. Completely killed my desire for her but still love her. Need advice!! |
t3_vg3of | AskReddit | what drives you to create? | It should be noted I have been diagnosed with ADHD but I have no insurance for medication.
In the last 4 years I've felt so uncreative and the desire to create has been overshadowed by an overwhelming sense of just trying to get by and live life. It kills me because whatever drive I had from childhood through college is gone. Now I just avoid anything that has anything to do with creating for more than a week. I burn out easily and lose interest in the "brilliant" idea I was working on.
Yet, I have very successful friends and family that just have this magical drive to keep at what they are working on. Is there a secret I don't know about or is my biology and brain just screwing with me? | I lost my drive to be creative and am wondering if the drive to be creative is a natural thing or if others who succeed in staying motivated are plagued with the same struggles I have. |
t3_32j2mc | relationships | How do I (24F) say I'm not interested in second date with someone (35M)? | I (24f) went on a date with a 35M over the weekend. A mutual friend set us up and we know many of the same people so now things are kind of awkward and I felt pressured into saying yes in the first place. But decided to give it a try anyway because you never know, right? I ended up saying some embarrassing personal things because I drank too much but other than that it was fine. I already said yes to a second date at the end of the first but the date we set it for is vague ("some time next week")
I am hoping he doesn't call about it because I normally don't date and am not really interested but how do I say no without everything I said and everything that happened being turned against me? Should I just be too busy and hope he gets the idea? Should I email first or wait for him to email to confirm? He hasn't spoken to me since but liked some statuses on my Facebook and it is making me worried. I feel sick that he knows personal stuff about me that I normally don't tell people and am not ready for a relationship at this point in my life. | How to say no to date you already said yes to? |
t3_39lbes | relationships | How to communicate and set boundaries with my[25f] addict father[60]? | My dad and mom separated when I was about 12, but he was never around much before that because he was a fishing captain and would be at sea most of the year with brief visits every few months. I've grown up watching my father turn into a shell of a human being. He is on all kinds of painkillers and will babble about himself for hours. He lives on an old sailboat and doesn't drive, so it is up to me to go see him. I hate seeing him but I pity him and I don't want to. He is [over]medicated for depression (among several other things) and has tried to kill himself several times, though they all seemed like calls for attention, like when he shot himself in the chest when I was 16.
He still thinks of me as a child and will text me baby pictures with something sentimental like "YOULL ALWAYS B MY LITTLE BUDDY" or just super long sappy, regretful messages in all caps or in Spanish (he fished out of Mexico for 20 years) when he knows I don't speak Spanish.
Two days ago he called me sounding completely zonked out on drugs. He was slurring and rambling, and told me he was calling because he was on a plane that was crashing. I am used to these dramatics so I calmly asked if he was really on a crashing plane, and he stupidly laughed and said no. I explained that was not funny and to not joke about those things. He went on to dismiss me and then bitch about his health and other things, while slurring and sounding... just gross. Really high.
That was two days ago. This morning he sent me a very pleasant text message about how he misses me and would like to see me soon.
I'm tired of it. For most of my life he has been a gigantic disappointment.
I'm looking for advice on how to set boundaries and communicate with him in a way that he won't try to hurt himself. He is not a rational human being. I know I need to stand up for myself and set boundaries but I am afraid he will lose it and kill himself. | Dad addicted to painkillers for past 20 years. Need advice on how to set boundaries with him. He is very depressive and has been suicidal. |
t3_1rgxme | tifu | TIFU - By sleeping with too many people in my work, and almost getting them fired... | Broke up with my ex about a year ago, Was a 3 year relationship, had a flat and a cat (serious i know :P). Anyway, i took to being single fairly well. tripled my number in 6months.
I slept with 2 girls in my work, that was fine, they were friends and thought it was funny.
However, last week at a staff night out I slept with one of the staff and she was bitching about this other new member of staff.
Then this next week, i slept with that new member of staff. I hear more to the story. They actually know each other from uni and have never got on.
So in work they started fighting, shouting at each other that they wer going to kick each others c**ts in (to quote).
they have been bitching about each other to all the staff, then tonight they were both taken into the office and spoke to by the manger....
I have never had such an awkward shift.. becuase not only did that happen, but the other two that i slept with were in drinking, so all the memebers of staff id been with were in together and i was like.... :-/ | DON'T DIP YOUR PEN IN THE COMPANY INK! |
t3_397g2v | offmychest | My Job is Not a Priority in my Department | I work in user experience in a department that designs software.
As some background, they lack people with design/implementation skills, so I either have to do all of that too or heavily criticize the attempts of others (neither are good feels). It also seems like I'm the only person in this organization who knows how to "do agile" correctly.
This Year: There were so many usability flaws, code quality issues, and problems with the company's development methodology. I was working on a plan to improve user-experience, and made sure to point out other problems I had noticed along the way. Move things to be more lean and user-centred; get onto more modern web technologies; redesign the interface; etc. People generally acknowledged these things over the last year, but weren't so on board to help me make changes.
Recently: Finally something broke and went horribly wrong. I shouldn't have been, but I was so excited, because *finally* the management eyes were opening to the problems I'd been describing all along. And their solution was to get a few of the best devs and myself into a room and give us a blank slate to prototype new frameworks and start fresh.
More Recently: Big bosses come to visit and basically tell us we have a short period of time to deliver x-list of features *and* have "quality" (buzz-word) on our new framework (to me quality means something different than it would for someone doing system tests). Now management is telling me to forget user-centred design, *like it's some nice-to-have feature instead of my actual job*. | This department is so bent on delivering that they deliver badly. Now they're terrified of losing their jobs, so they're all trying to push out another garbage piece of software to replace our old garbage piece of software. |
t3_16br9p | relationships | Do I have issues, after I handled things this way? 28m. f24. | GF came clean she was cheating, then I reacted all angry, but at same time calm and cried, she was there, tried to hug me I refused. Thats it, then she asked for forgiveness and to give it a second chance. I agreed. We worked on it for a month, talked about everything.
Then I went over to her place but she left me to meet another guy!? And told me to not check her computer. I checked her computer, found out she was making herself available/leading men on and been in contact with the guy that she went to meet all the while we tried to work out a second better relationship. I saw the sex-messages and his picture. I saw she called him more often than me, I saw she checked his profile on fb always before she checked mine within the minute, I saw their emails thanking each other for the good sex and new positions they tried and what they will do next. At the same day when she sent me an email thanking me for flowers I sent her and that we indeed can work out a better relationship.
Now, my reaction is what I am asking about here.
I spilled a glass of water on her bed, broke her candy threw it all around, broke a pen and threw bed sheets on the floor. Then I messaged the guy from her account that he has a sexual disease and should check himself out (yes, very immature I know), messed up all her settings and left her a message where I call her a cheap whore and slut and threatened her to kick her in the stomach if she contacts me again.
That is the issue I have. What the hell is wrong with me!? Why couldnt I control myself in that situation and just walk the fuck out!? | Being 28 trashing stuff and messing up, do I have issues and what are they? |
t3_25tzqx | relationships | I [28, M] don't know how to tell my friend [32, M] that he has a body odor problem | M and I have been mates for at least 15 years. He plays a lot of indoor sport and comes off the court smelling pretty nasty. However he's always just been a sweaty guy.
My other friends and I (who are all good friends with him) noticed it ages ago. That he has a certain pong to him. Because none of us directly and maturely dealt with is straight up when we first noticed it, we're somewhat stuck with it.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago. I bring my friend over to another friend (D)'s place to watch sport. M 32 and I are sitting on one couch, the others are on another couch. M is wearing jeans and a singlet.
My friend D who was hosting us, tells me later that M has a body odor problem and was stinking out the house. He and his other mates were overwhelmed with the stench. He also had to text to warn the next people coming over (so as to not offend my friend by asking "what's that smell?" when they arrived).
D brings all this up a couple weeks afterwards when we're hanging again. He had to wash his couch cushions and air out the house for the next day as it was so bad. He asked if I knew about the issue. I told him I did. He is a friend who calls a spade a spade, and is direct with all his friends. He told me I need to say something (which I agree with).
My question is not, do I say something? It is, how to I delicately but in an adult way tell my friend M (lovingly) that he has a BO problem and it affects those people we all hang out with. I know that there are medical options to treat such a problem, but right now doing nothing affects me and the people I hang with! | Friend has had BO problems for years and no-one has directly confronted him about it. Now it's affecting me and those I hang with. How do I tell him in a way that isn't offensive but is supportive and constructive? |
t3_10sg27 | AskReddit | If we delete a Reddit username... What happens? | I'm very curious how this is handled.
Are the [deleted] names indexed by search still? As an example, if _deleted was a username that went through Reddit's deletion process, and I googled that, would the post that got 5,000 karma under that handle be plastered at the top of the search results? Would the old user's upvote/downvote history be available on any other part of the server? Are the archives actively updated when a user is deleted?
As an Information Technology major, it also interests me as to the sort of Database Management System Reddit's using to store such up-to-date numbers and responses at high volume. If Reddit's database is doing deletions that are simultaneous in archives and have a ton of references, I would be impressed to hear how Reddit's architects concentrated code to preserve bandwidth while maintaining data concurrency. | I really just want to know what happened to the account i subscribed in /r/gonewild to and if my OAXG can find it with the power of google. |
t3_zqo6l | relationships | She [F22] is cheating on her boyfriend of three years with me [M21], but is procrastinating ending their dying relationship. | I began working with "Jessica" several months ago. I learned of her three year boyfriend and was surprised when she asked for my number. The first few times we hung out we clicked immediately and she was not shy about how unhappy she was with her boyfriend. As we got more serious I finally began to ask about when she planned on ending it. She told me it was inevitable, but she was having trouble with how much she would hurt him. Her parents love him and he is kind and thoughtful but she is done with him because he is over sensitive, boring and inadequate sexually. After a few months of seeing each other, she came up with the idea that if we limit how much time we spend with each other, she won't be able to have her cake and eat it too. It's at this point that we start to have sex, and very frequently. After a month of this, she still has not broken up with him. Am I stupid for waiting? And if she does pull the trigger, is there any hope for us? | She is cheating but has still not broken up with him after almost five months of seeing each other. Is there any hope? |
t3_3iivdt | relationships | Girl [20/F] I've [22/M] been talking to is backing off cause her ex [20?/M] started talking to her | I've met this girl through online and I've chat with her for about 10 days or so. We really hit it off and she seems to enjoy everything I like. We made plans to hang out once she comes back to college, which is in about a week. I've been eager to meet her and do things together. But recently, she slowed down on texting and stopped texting me completely yesterday. Today, she sent me a text saying her ex started texting her and her feelings are slowly coming back... Although I'm "perfect" she says she needs some time to herself...
I know I can just leave and save myself some trouble but I've never had any girl share so much interest with me. I don't want to lose this opportunity, I want to at least show her what it'd be like to hang out with me and win her over. But she's says she wants to be free of feelings for any other men before she gives me a chance. I understand where she's coming from, but I don't think I'll ever hang out with her if she's gonna text her ex and not me. What can I say to her to let her give me a chance or at least continue our conversation?
As of now, I've told her to take her space and let me know when she decides on it | Girl's ex started texting her a couple days ago, now she wants to stop talking to me and think about how she feels. What can I do to get one chance with her? |
t3_xv4ti | offmychest | Just pick up and leave. | To be clear this is not coming from some depressive phase or gloomy short term mood. I have had my fits of depression and fought through them, I am far beyond my days of hating myself. Over the past year or so I have taken a step back and evaluated myself and my environment and always had the feeling that I am a lone wolf. I am perfectly okay with this. I've never been the person to be especially extroverted. I have always been more content sitting by myself than being around a number of less than consistent acquaintances. I've had only one other individual whom I can relate with and open up to, he is my only true "friend". During this evaluation of self I have always had a burning desire to just pack up and leave my home town. I've always wanted to travel and experience the world around me. My best friend has always referred to us as the two people everyone is going to sit around and ask "hey do you remember so and so, I wonder what ever happened to them?" and always felt a sense of reassurance from that. I want to be the person who makes something of their lives, not in a financial aspect as money has never been an appealing goal in my life, but in experience. I love to meet interesting people and just sit and listen to them. My motto over the past couple years has been that there are several billion people in this world, why not meet a few? Which leads me to wanting to just pack up one night and drive into the sunset without saying a word to anyone, only keeping in touch with family and my best friend. The only thing compelling me to stay here is that I have one year before I graduate college. I know education is essential in the current world, and have no desire to leave during my last year of college. This is more of an after graduation plan...or rather non-plan. I want to move around from city to city, town to town just experiencing life. Thoughts? | I want to pack up and leave one night without telling anyone. Just moving around from area to area meeting people and experiencing everything the world has to offer. |
t3_21yyvd | relationships | My [19 M] feelings for my girlfriend [18 F] change on a regular basis | I've been dating this girl for almost a year and a half now. The first 6 months were perfect, and we quickly fell in love with each other.
Senior year ended, however, and unfortunately we are now doing long distance at different colleges.
My problem is that, for some reason, my feelings of love for her are not always present. At times, I will feel a very strong attraction and love for her, and would be devastated if anything happened to our relationship.
Other times I feel nothing for her and would not care if we broke up.
Nothing obvious happens in our relationship to cause this.
Is it because of the long distance? What is going on in my mind and how do I keep my love for constant? | Love for my girlfriend keeps changing. What's the cause? |
t3_4wia2u | dating_advice | We live far away and i feel like shit [M19] | so I [19M] met a girl[19] last semester at a large university I attend. We hit it off and exchanged numbers, but did not do anything the night we met. We have been constantly texting for the last few months, and even the occasional facetime chat. Both sides are interested and we have said that we would most likely be dating IF we didnt live 3 hours apart. She lives in a large US City while I live 3 hours away when I am home and 4 when I am at school (We go to different schools).
What I could use any help on is how to lose the feelings I have for this girl. Its not like the normal "oh only time will heal" BS because the thing is, we still are constantly talking. I love talking with her and don't really want to stop, but it absolutely kills me inside knowing that we can't be together and that she is constantly hanging out with guy friends and hooking up with other guys. We have met up twice since we met and it has been an absolute lovely time. I really just do not know what to do. It kills me to see snapchats or instagram posts of her hanging out with her hookups, but at the same time I really do have feelings for her and while its not possible now, I think it could be possible later on to have a real relationship.
What do I do reddit? Do I cut off communication and move on entirely, while sacrificing an important friendship (& possible relationship)? Do i keep doing what I have been and hope for the best? any help is much appreciated | met a girl who is interested me, been talking over text for months, have developed feelings, relationship is not plausible at the moment, don't know what to do |
t3_d2ap1 | AskReddit | Follow-up to my bank hitting us with $300 in overdraft fees. | Follow-up to [this post](
Brief overview: Student loan payment was double posted in error (the FASFA loan site's fault), my bank capitalized on it by reordering our transactions to maximize overdraft fees.
My wife talked to the FASFA people who were completely shitty and unhelpful, so I went to the bank today to try to talk them out of the overdraft fees. The manager didn't care too terribly much either when I tried talking to her as one human to another, she also didn't respond to me threatening to close the account (she offered to refund only one of the nine overdraft fees).
She denied reordering the fees, she repeated "these are the order that they arrived here." Even though all of our < $5 transactions from the days prior to the loan payment were posted after we went into the red.
At the peak of my frustration I told her that it really felt like we were being robbed, and if I'd taken the bank for $300 I'd be in jail. She told me that wasn't true, that the overdraft fees were there for my protection. I replied, "You just told me to my face that charging me $35 per transaction after conveniently processing them in the order that maximizes these fees that you're doing it for my protection... and you can sleep at night?"
As soon as she realized I was accusing her of being the villain she changed her tune up and said if I filled out a form for an overdraft line of credit she could forgive $105 of the fees. I filled out the form, but as soon as the money posts back to my account I'm closing it. | Being nice to the manager got me nowhere, being borderline abusive got me 1/3 of my fees back. It felt really good to call her on her bullshit. |
t3_pwhb5 | AskReddit | Reddit, can you help me try to find the girl I met yesterday at Mardi Gras in STL? | Reddit, yesterday I got separated from all my friends and had my phone die during the Mardi Gras parade. After having quite a few drinks, I was getting pretty bummed out about being by myself. Then I met an awesome girl and we started walking around together; I remember having some good laughs and quite a fun time with her. I don't have a name, number or even any pictures. I'm hoping she views Reddit and she might see this! I was wearing a Blues jersey (Perron). I can try to provide more details, but most are pretty hazy... Any help would make my day! | Please help me piece my Mardi Gras together and find the girl I met!!! |
t3_1qddxn | relationships | I [21F] cannot move on from my crush [40M] | I fell for one of my professors as soon as we first met. He is 40+/-, not married and has no kids, and I am 21 and in my final year of college. Ive been in a serious relationship with a mature 30 year old before as I am quite mature for my age. I always felt as if my professor was either being very friendly or leading me on, which I did not mind whatsoever. We spoke often through email and in person as I helped out on his projects. He was always kind and once bought me candy and a box of chocolates, as well as money for the help. I have recently moved away to another college and we have not been in contact. I think about him everyday. The problem is, is that I know I couldn't have a relationship with him, even if he did return my feelings (which I highly doubt). I would do anything to be with him though. I think he knows I have at least a crush on him, as do the majority of his female students.
I desperately need advice about getting over him as I haven't found myself attracted to anyone but him for the past two years. | I'm madly infatuated(in love?) someone who doesn't return the feelings. Need help moving one |
t3_2pm21k | relationships | [23F] struggling to keep in touch with my partner [25M] while I am 3000 miles away, what can I do? | I've been dating an otherwise great guy over the past few months, so the relationship is still relatively new, but I feel like there are some stumbling blocks.
I have travelled over 3000 miles away over the festive period to spend time with family. I don't get to see them often, so it's a welcome treat. However, I'm struggling to stay in touch with my boyfriend over this period. Or rather, he appears to be fairly distant with me.
I arrived, and over a period of 24 hours barely heard anything from him. He had friends visiting over that weekend, so they seemed to take priority. I explained that it would have been nice to hear from him (a text or two doesn't take that long to send) but he 'assumed' that I wanted space and he also had other things to do. I feel like I'm putting pressure on him to communicate when maybe he has other priorities that he may have been lax on since we started dating.
The past few days have been ok as I guess he is trying to make an effort, but I still feel the distance of me being so far away and for so long. I try to initiate conversation but it often feels stilted. Admittedly, I feel a bit down about this even though I should be making the most of my holiday. I'm worried that because it's a relatively new relationship, he is a bit frustrated at me going away for so long. The only time his interest was piqued was when I said I was going for a beer with a friend, and he tried to discreetly ask about the identity of said friend.
I understand that he has his own life, and I guess my nervousness is because I have a lot of spare time right now. However, I feel like it's almost a one way street, and having spoken to him about it already, I don't feel like I can bring it up again without seeming needy. Is there anything I can do? Or should I take a step back and allow him to get in touch in his own time? | Travelled 3000 miles away for 3 weeks to spend the festive period, and it feels like boyfriend isn't really interested anymore. |
t3_2b9nlc | relationship_advice | Please stop me [24/m] from doing something stupid. | It's not really THAT stupid, and certainly not as stupid as some other things I've seen on Reddit, but it's not particularly smart, either.
I've been having a rough couple months. Lost my job. Then lost my girlfriend. Not the worst breakup, but there's no such thing as a good breakup, in my opinion. The relationship fizzled out and we both knew it was time to let it go.
As bloodless as that is, I'm now left alone in this already vulnerable time, and now let's add some loneliness on top of that. The absolute perfect ingredients for a shit cocktail.
So far I've stopped myself from doing stupid shit. I haven't gone out and banged some random girl. I haven't gotten drunk and tried to contact other exes that I don't need to have anything to do with.
But now, now I can see that I've been saving all those bad decisions up. A girl that I have quite the history with is back in town.
A few years ago this girl and I had a little thing that ended up not going anywhere and me getting really hurt. She basically led me on and used me. It wasn't fun.
Between then and now we've talked about it. She realized she was wrong, we worked through it, and we've been friendly, although not super close friends. She moved away for a little while with various work things.
Now she's back, and I can already feel myself building a pedestal to put her on. I have a bad habit of idolizing people, and focusing more on the good aspects of our relationship than the bad. That's not necessarily a terrible trait to have, per se, but it's not ideal in this particular situation.
I find myself thinking "Maybe I should give it a shot." "Who knows, maybe it'll work now." Even though deep down I know it's not gonna happen.
So please, Reddit, tell me to stop being stupid. To stop reaching out for things like this, even when they're not there. | Shitty couple months. Lonely. Girl back in picture. False hope. Stupid me. |
t3_3eae3u | relationships | Me(24/f) 9 months post break-up, wondering when I'll quit feeling so apathetic towards dating | I'm a frequent lurker and poster here, so I'm hoping you guys can help me out. I went through a really shitty breakup about 9 months back, there were some semi-traumatizing aspects to it and I felt pretty fucked up for a few months, got into therapy, etc. I'm in a much better place, I'm having a really good time being single and I have great friends, hobbies and overall everything is good.
Objectively, I really want to find a relationship again. I was a good partner, I liked the companionship and the fun of being with someone, I eventually want a family, all that stuff. However, I feel completely indifferent towards pretty much every guy. I've been on some first dates, and so far all of them have asked for second dates, a few of which happened but I just couldn't feel interested enough to put in the effort after that. And these are guys who i did find attractive, fun to talk to, potentially good partners. I feel bad for being so apathetic about it, because it is something I want- the motivation just isn't there.
I suppose I'm just curious to hear others experiences. I FEEL superduper over my ex, i know moving on can look different for different people but its frustrating that I WANT to date and find someone but my emotions are just like meh ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ | Want to date, am good at dating, but also feel completely apathetic and disinterested in guys and dating. Getting irritated with myself. |
t3_3nr4rl | relationships | How do I (22/F) get motivated to go to the gym and get over my fear there? | Awhile ago I paid for an online coach and got sent nutritional shakes and supplements as well as a meal plan and workout plan. My objective is to gain weight and get a curvier body. I'm currently really skinny and have a flat butt. I have no problem meal prepping and sticking to the diet but going to the gym is what is scaring me. I don't know anyone there and is intimated by everyone, especially all the guys there. I'm talking about my college gym btw. I don't know where all the machines are and I feel like an idiot trying to find them. I have asked for help before but being in the weight room for the first time, I need lots of help. I keep on getting nervous asking people that I just don't want to go to the gym anymore. Also, I don't know if I'm doing anything correctly so I don't want people to judge and is afraid that they do. I'm supposed to go in a few but I find myself looking for places to grab a drink from instead. How do I get over this fear? | clueless at the gym and is discouraged to go. Also super shy |
t3_1d9x1u | legaladvice | Any way to prevent adverse possession of my property? 50 year old car wash is 'squatting' on a corner of my property... | So I am buying a house that is next door to a 50+ year old car wash.
I had a survey done recently and have confirmed that there is an encroachment in my back yard totalling ~200sq feet of land.
I don't want to do anything about the 'situation', as I think the car wash has every right at this point to claim adverse possession over this land. However, there is talk about redeveloping the land the car wash sits on into an apartment building. IF (and this is a big if) this happens, I want to be able to reclaim this land (if at all possible).
I have spoken with the car wash owner, and he is a very reasonable person. He's willing to help with the expense of putting up a new fence, and the kicker: FREE car washes for life!
There are no easements on the title, and no reference to the encroachment.
Is there any way at this late point (LONG after the rights to the land have expired due to adverse possession) to assert some sort of right to the property in case the car wash ever leaves?
As a side note, there is a fence in the back of the yard that is 3.3' into my property. I am going to ask the car wash person for that part of my property back. I don't care about behind my garage, but if my yard can be 3' deeper, I want it!
Thanks in advance
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t3_1ty4ut | loseit | Lets give this one final go... | Hey Loseit!
I am a long time lurker. Your stories have been a big inspiration over the past year to try to make myself a better me. Unfortunately I have a terrible habit of giving up before seeing any results. I feel this is due to the lack of support and accountability in my life.
I am female, 5'5, and 201 lbs. At my peak weight during my sophomore year of college I was about 230 lbs, I have only kept that weight off because I no longer drink everyday and I do not live with terrible roommates anymore. I have not always been so big, the only job I could find during high school was at McDonald's and it caused me to balloon from a size 5 to an 18.
I am sick of being overweight. I am sick of sleeping on my side being uncomfortable. I am so so very sick of being shocked at how big I am when I see pictures of myself. I am an ambitious and driven person in every aspect of my life except for taking control of my weight.
Even though I am overweight, I have always been very athletic. My stamina is obviously not what it used to be and I do breather heavily from working out, but I am very strong for not maintaining anything. So I have decided to join my neighbor's crossfit gym. I know there is a lot of hate for crossfit because it seems cultish, but I think I almost need that intense group aspect to motivate me to get out of the house. | I want to enjoy life again. I am posting here in front of all of you to make me feel more accountable to return to you in a year as a whole new person. Thanks for the community, r/loseit! |
t3_2rg0bz | relationships | I'm[21f] woken every morning by my brother[20m] masturbating in the next room | He has the bedroom next to mine, and every morning I'm woken up by him spanking the monkey. Its completely gross to hear and I can't get back to sleep, initially because I was mortified but now I'm just pissed off. He does it at other times of the day too and I really can't stand it. I never used to hear him, its only over the last couple of months. I don't understand why he thinks I can't hear him, maybe he got lube or something cos its a wet shinking sound and he groans and its just fucking awful to hear.
How do I address this because I can't stand it. He's doing it right now. Oh god the sounds are so graphic. It's at the point that I don't like being in my room cos I hear it all the time! Should I leave a note? yell at him to stfu? I'm pretty embarrassed that I have to do this but honestly I can't take it anymore. | I hear my brother masturbate all the time, how can I get him to keep it quiet? |
t3_20lty5 | relationships | Male(16) lied to F(16) what do I do? | OK so its a long story that you can find from reading my only other post on this account. But I lied to a girl that I really like and she lives in Cali I live in pa. She thinks I'm turning 18 in April and I'm actually turning 17 since she thinks I'm a senior she's asking questions about college (she's very smart and in all ap classes) and Idk what to say. I also lied about my last name, my sister is in college and going to holly wood (girl lives in Beverly hills) and I'm going so we might hang out and go to the mall or something in may. How can I tell her the truth/what should I do. I also don't use Facebook or twitter (never got into it) and I don't want to just never hear from her again after highschool if that makes sense. Thanks for your help and sorry for any mistakes(on mobile) | lied to someone I never want to forget about. Might meet her one day |
t3_4jyytv | relationships | Me [20s F] with my BF[20s M] 2 weekish, am I rushing in this too fast and what do these feelings mean? | Hello there! The ages are broad because I know this guy uses Reddit. Also throwaway. Anyways, I have a couple of questions and maybe you internet folk can help me out.
We started talking about 2? weeks ago and we get along really, really well. He is the first person that I don't feel anxious with. I am 100% calm and I can be 100% myself. He is so nice and sweet to me, and I don't see any red flags so far. It's really like a breath of fresh air. As a note, I do suffer from major depression and anxiety if that matters. What does that exactly mean? I guess I am still sort of new to relationships in a way, but not. Basically, I don't want to screw this up or rush things too.. too much.
However I just recently got out a relationship with my ex of 3 years. (About 2 months ago.) He was very older than me and he was very judgey and put me down at times.. I know this is quite a bit early but I had some news a couple of weeks ago that pushed me over the edge to move on, and I also had sometime before that to accept moving on. I don't know if this is all normal or okay. I just know I really, really like this guy.
Why do I feel that way with him so early and how do I go about this all in the best way? Thanks! | With a new guy who I feel 100% calm with and can be myself, we've only been talking for a little while. Just got out of a long relationship about 2 months ago, but have 99% move on. What does this all mean and how do I do this the right way? |
t3_1q0c28 | relationships | My [23 F] with my [25 F] sister told me she was pregnant today and wants to keep the baby. | My sister is an ex-heroin addict and has multiple warrants for her arrest, she has never taken care of herself before, unless you count stealing stuff for drug money or prostituting herself for drug money. She told me today she was pregnant and wants to keep the baby.
I am legitimately worried about her becoming a mother, I just don't think she is ready for it and I don't think she should bring a child into this world with how she lives. During our conversation today she never asked a single thing about how to raise a baby (I have 2 kids, you'd think she would ask for advice) All she said was that her "boobs were finally getting bigger" so she wanted to stay pregnant, and she also asked how soon she would be able to collect a Child Tax benefit every month. These were red flags for me.
How do I tell her that she shouldn't be a mom right now, without sounding like a bitch? | Completely irresponsible sister wants to have a baby, need advice on how to persuade her not to become a mother right now. |
t3_34ziav | relationships | My [17F] Boyfriend [16M] Cheated, Am I Crazy for Forgiving Him? | My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, and he told me earlier today that he needed to talk with me. When we met and talked, he admitted to me that he cheated on me with this girl he's friends with. I know her, she goes to our school and she knew that he was dating me. My boyfriend is from Spain and has only lived here in the US for a couple years and he has some issues with bullying at school.
A lot of the guys make fun of him and say that he's gay and stuff, based on how he looks and acts. And most of his friends are girls, I'm fine with that but this girl in particular that he cheated with, is not a good person in my opinion. I feel that she takes advantage of his lack of knowledge of customs here and his not so great English, as she has pressured him into drinking alcohol when he didn't want to, and weed as well but he said no to doing that.
He told me that she asked if he wanted to have sex with her and he said no, how he has a girlfriend and everything. She said that if he doesn't do it people will probably continue spreading rumors about him being gay and stuff, which is pretty fucking horrible of her to say. And she was pressuring him with that, and he ended up doing it.
I'm pissed at this girl, even though I know she's not the one who cheated on me, but I feel she is partially to blame for it. I love my boyfriend a lot and I know he didn't want to hurt me, he told me absolutely right away without me even hearing it from anyone else or accusing him, and he would never do it again. I told him I had to think about it, and I want to get back to him later today about what I want to do. I think I'm going to tell him I want to continue our relationship? Is that okay to do? And is it alright for me to say that I don't want him hanging around this girl anymore? Thank you and please be nice :) | My boyfriend is from overseas, gets bullied by guys at school and called gay. So most his friends are girls, one of the girls pressured him with telling him that people will stop bullying him if he has sex with her, he did it, he told me. I want to stay together, am I being stupid? |
t3_s75gq | AskReddit | I just found out that my friend who got mad at me for being gay is apparently gay. What do I do? | I am a closeted homosexual (male) and it really takes a lot of courage for me to confide in my close friends that I am gay. There has been a lot of hate towards the LGBTs here in my town, that's why I'm afraid to come out.
Two months ago I decided to tell my secret to one of my close friends, which is from my school organization. After I told it to him he didn't say a word and left. He didn't contact me since then, nor answered any of my calls, texts, or messages. I didn't know what to do, and sent him a few 'I'm sorry' notes over text and facebook.
Recently on an organization event I used his laptop (his other friends let me use it, without me knowing it was his new laptop) to save something off the internet. When I looked for the file I downloaded in the Downloads folder, lo and behold, I saw images of male models and a folder containing gay porn. | Friend cuts me off. Few months later I found a gay porn stashed in his computer. |
t3_45119q | relationship_advice | What to get for my [21f] boyfriend [22M] for Valentine's Day 2 months into our relationship? | I met him at the end of November through a mutual friend at a party [we both go to the same college]. We started talking/hanging out every day after, and on New Years Eve, he asked to be official, so we've only been "officially dating" for about a month. That being said, we are already incredibly close and have told each other some really, really personal things (like stuff only our parents know, or no one at all). We've talked each other through and have both cried over really tough topics in our lives. I've met his parents, we're already planning on going to his fraternity's formal in March together (which is a pretty big deal at my school), and he's also already told me he was falling in love with me, but I haven't said it back to him since I don't feel it yet (although I am starting to).
This Saturday, his fraternity is hosting a Valentine's date party for just brothers and their girlfriends that we are going to, and we plan on spending all day together on Sunday, with him cooking steaks and sides for us at his house for dinner. I already know he is planning on getting me flowers and I think that's all he'll get me, but given how serious we've gotten, I wouldn't be too surprised if he got me an actual gift as well. On Christmas, he gave me some lotion and cookies his mom made, but I didn't have anything for him, so I really want to make sure I have something this time just in case! I just don't know what, given we've only been together a short time. The best ideas I have so far are baking him a batch of cookies or getting him a bottle of his favorite gin. Since we've been moving so fast and are already so intimate, though, I feel like I need something more personal. | Boyfriend and I are super intimate despite only dating for a couple of months, so Valentine's Day gifts are a big question mark. I'm nervous my gift ideas are either too casual (like cookies or his favorite alcohol) or too personal (since we haven't been dating very long) |
t3_292or3 | relationships | How can I (F/16) lose weight without my mom (F/49) finding out? | I'm fat. That's basically it. I don't take care of myself as well as I should and I have PCOS which isn't really an excuse, I know. My mom constantly gives me shit about it "you're such a disgusting pig" or "you're so ugly no one will ever want you" "you're so fat you're running out of place to store it" or "hey look isn't that girl so skinny? Why can't you be skinny like her" or "Isn't that such a pretty dress, too bad you can't fit in it" or some variation of that. I think this goes beyond normal Asian mom giving her daughter a hard time etc etc.
I've tried diets but my mom (unknowingly? knowingly?) sabotages them even if I let her know I'm trying to lose weight in advance. If I try to skip a meal when I'm not feeling hungry or cut down on portion sizes she'll guilt trip me into eating by complaining I don't appreciate how hard she works/how much time she spent on it and then pile food on my plate or buys me junk food or soda and leaves it in my room and then screams at me for wasting money if I won't eat it. I've tried suggesting we both go exercise/eat healthier but she just blows me off and says that she doesn't need to lose weight. When we go grocery shopping I try to switch stuff and get something healthier she'll always put it back on the shelf and say that the crap she's buying is for herself. (spoiler: it never is)
How do I get her to understand she can't have it both ways? She can't have me be skinny and force feed me crap and chew me out constantly for being fat. I hate being fat. I hate being ignored by boys. I hate people pitying me. I hate getting picked on. I already know that I am fat, I don't need her constantly telling me what I see in the mirror.
Not sure if this is really relevant but my mom is a normal weight | Mom sabotages my attempts to lose weight while she simultaneously harasses me about being fat. How can I get her to understand that she needs to get with the program or at least stop harassing me? She can't have her cake and eat it too, so to speak. |
t3_1x5gd4 | relationships | I'm (19) scared that my current relationship with my BF (18) will end like my last one... | I've been dating this really awesome guy for about 5 months now, and things I know logically are going pretty well. We get along great, we help each other when we need it, and his family adores me.
Before this relationship, a year ago I had been with someone for two years and things I thought were relatively fine. I had guessed he had cheated on me, but he swore it was nothing serious so I forgave him (like an idiot I know).
A few months after that he left me for the girl he cheated on me with, and I was incredibly hurt, and he told me the only reason. He stayed for the last month was to make sure I was not pregnant.
Now I am with this fantastic guy, and we get along great. But his ex (17F) who is really important to him is trying to be friends with him again. He used to wear her necklace when we first started talking, and I told him it bugged me a little once he finally asked me to be his girlfriend.
To make me happy he didn't wear it around me. Since his ex has been trying to be friends with him again, he has started to wear it again, and this past week he hasn't said I love you once. Only I've said it first and he has replied with a brief "I love you too".
I told him the wearing it again bugs me, and we had a small argument about it, to where I told him I would try to be more understanding of the situation.
I am terrified that things are going to end like before, and that I am going to lose someone that I care about the same way I did before. And to top it all off I have an anxiety disorder, which is not helping my freaking out at all, only making it worse.
I'm just not sure how to feel about all of this. I feel like I'm going crazy. | My ex cheated on me and now I'm scared my current boyfriend might leave me for his ex. |
t3_2s0u7i | relationships | Me [25 M] with [19 F] hook-up. Said I would call but don't want to. What is the right thing to do? | Basically had a fun drunken night which led to making-out and her sleeping over with girl I met that night, no sex but "stuff". I got her number and told her "I have your number" suggestively in the morning. She's too young and other in a different stage of life. Have had very few hook-ups.
No real interest in seeing her again but feel stupid for saying I would. Should I call/txt saying it was nice but no thank-you? Or just not do nothing?
I know I shouldn't have lied and I feel pretty stupid about it. I know this isn't really a "relationship question". Not a random hook-up guy. And it was definitely a moment of weakness/stupidity in my currently unconfident self to try and be a player. Only ever really tried for girls I am serious on. | Hook-up with much younger girl. Said I'd follow-up but don't want to. No interest in anything more. What's the right thing to do? |
t3_4z4ssi | relationships | My (23 M) so of 2 years (20 F) that I have sacrificed everything for started sleeping with another man. I can't eat or sleep. I need help sleeping. What do I do. | I really don't want to tell our whole story... But lets just say I took care of this girl and made her life significantly better after being with her for 2 years. We were long distance for a good part of it, including the final few months, and 2 days after she told me she wanted to move in with me she admitted to fucking a guy that I was suspicious of for months. And now they are continuing to do it.
I can't sleep because I know that as I sleep she is fucking him and the image has kept me awake for days. I lie in bed awake trying to think about anything but her but I can't, and the image of her and him just plagues me. It is killing my performance at work and my sanity. I need help on sleeping. Melatonin doesn't work and alcohol makes it so I can't work in the morning. | Girl that I love and sacrificed everything for started fucking another guy. Can't sleep. Need to sleep. Help me sleep. |
t3_43qvob | relationships | Me [17 M] with my girlfriend[018 F] wants to have sex with me. I´m kinda nervous :/ | Ok, I date her for about 2 months but we know each other for 6 years. We love each other very much, and we ignore the flaws that we have. Other people think that our relationship is weird, because we are not like the conventional couple, always hugging or kissing, whatever, but we demonstrate that we love each other on our own way, we have a great synergy, and we like the same things. But, for the past 2 weeks shes been suggesting that we should have sex, to deepen our relationship. I was in fact surprised, because the girls rarely suggest such thing, assuming we are both virgin. I´m extremely nervous but she seems to be excited about the subject. Please give some advice. Also I don´t know if I can talk about sex in thi subreddit, if not please delete the post. Thanks for your time. | Really nervous about this :/ |
t3_1uxdvu | relationships | [18M] Confused by signals from friend [18F] | Sorry if I've asked this in the wrong place, I didn't really know where it belonged.
Ok, so the problem is that I [18M] am friends with this girl [18F] and have wanted her to be my girlfriend for a fair while and now I'm torn between staying friends or asking if she would like to date.
The problem is that we have tried dating a few years ago but due to my habit of sabotaging most good things that happen to me we only lasted about a week. She did however say we should still be friends.
Now she has said before that nothing's going to happen between us and I accepted that. She comes over fairly often and we usually watch a movie and cuddle. To begin with it didn't bother me, I just figured she was lonely and wanted a hug, I feel like that myself from time to time so I thought nothing of it. But then things escalated, mainly I get to play with her breasts.
Now, I would take this as she's still interested. But every time I think about bringing up starting a relationship I remember when she said it wasn't going to happen and I think about the fact she's always facing away from me. That might just be because that's the direction of the tv but I can't escape the thought that it's a hint that it means she's not interested.
I'm not interested in anything else happening with this girl unless we're going out. So my questions are:
Are these behaviours normal things that platonic friends do?
Is it worth risking our friendship pursuing a relationship when all the green lights might just be in my head?
How would I go about bringing this up? | Do platonic friends cuddle and boob play? and is it worth risking the friendship in pursuit of a relationship?. |
t3_cipkp | AskReddit | Reddit a friend needs your help: Her professor lost her final paper and gave her an F, refuses to listen... | Friend of mine at UCLA submitted her final, it was a paper/essay. Her professor lost it and refuses to listen to reason or accept that he lost the paper and gave her an F.
She also submitted an electronic copy a day before the due date, so there is a record of that. The professor refuses to use the electronic copy to give her a grade because he "doesn't have the time and is too busy." what kind of person does this shit?
Furthermore her councelor told her there is nothing to do but submit a petition for a late-drop. I told her to email the head of the deparment, but other than that what else can she do?
I humbly ask the hive mind for help, this girl is one of the hardest working people I know, takes care of bills, works and goes to school, while getting straight A's. I love this girl like my little sister and I would go all out Dexter on this professor if he doesn't change her grade. | professor lost my friend's final paper, refuses to accept it or grade her electronically submitted copy and gave her an F, what can we do. |
t3_4zdeeo | relationship_advice | really dont know what to do anymore | I'll start off by saying I feel like I've been completely lied to.
I'm an American [ F/27] who moved to Germany only 5 months ago after meeting my now wife [F/22] online. We dated and visited for over a year before getting married. Until all my paperwork is processed I am a house wife to probably the craziest person I've ever met.
Upon Moving here she has not only pulled a knife on me but has physically assaulted me on numerous occasions and loses her temper like a freaking psychotic person at the drop of a hat.
I've tried telling her she needs to get help, she refuses and says that is for crazy people not for her.
Her mother has even told me she thinks she is probably bi polar, which is something you tell someone BEFORE they leave their country for your daughter!!
Anyway it gets better for a little while, she will stop the physical abuse but the anger problems never go away.
I don't want to leave Germany, I would like to stay and make my life here as I have nothing to go back to in the US. I wish the would get the help she needs so she can be the person I know she can be but I don't see a possibility of getting her to go on her own.
I was thinking of having her parents help me do some kind of intervention because they are even fed up but she is so spiteful and Petty that she would probably kick me out of our apartment or leave me on the side of the road somewhere instead of listen.
At this point I truly do not know what to do!
Any advice would be appreciated. | VERSION |
t3_pz152 | AskReddit | To the men of Reddit (esp. the twenty-somethings), if you truly want a wonderful, long- lasting relationship, then hear me out?... | Most of you are good people. You shovel your grandmother's sidewalk. You donate money
to charities. You keep your word. You fulfill your promises. You express your love
to people, no matter who they are. You treat others as you would want to be treated.
And you genuinely care for humanity.
The next time you're longing for the hot girl in your Spanish class, the spokesmodel
on TV, the girls in the heavily-photoshopped magazines, just stop.
The girl you want is the girl that truly loves
you for your integrity, your honesty, and your kindness to and caring for others.
And that girl does the same thing.
That girl looks at you longingly not because you're the hottest guy on the planet, but
because she recognizes something good in you.
That girl holds your hand because she knows you will try to do the right thing, at all times.
That girl will be faithful and honest with you because she respects those who are
respectful.
That girl will love you with all your heart, as long as you love yourself as much
as you do her. With no limits.
From a 31 year-old Redditor who has had some relationships that were bad, some that
were good, and only one that has been the best and is continually the best... | Men of Reddit, |
t3_3fvn9k | relationships | Me [20M] with my GF [20F] of 3 years, what she did while we were broken up is now messing with me and I don't know if we are handling it right... | My girlfriend and I broke up about 6 months ago and during the 2 months we were apart she slept with two guys, one twice, then wanted me back after realizing that leaving me was a mistake.
She is the love of my life...So I decided to forgive her and take her back, but I didn't realize how what she did while we were apart would affect me. I didn't touch another woman because I was still healing. After telling me the details I'm upset almost daily about spontaneous thoughts of her with the other guys. It's almost obsessive but I don't choose to have these thoughts.
Since we both never really got our promiscuousness out of our systems before our beginning of our relationship 3 years ago, and she took the opportunity to while she had the chance and I didn't, **my GF decided she would let me sleep around a couple of times** if that meant that we were on a level playing field sexually, and she thinks that it would make me feel less betrayed.
My GF has ideas on how this arrangement will work, like her sleeping in the spare bedroom while I go out on the town and try to pick up, take her back to our house, and fuck her in the bed me and my partner usually sleep in. I just think this is a really silly and not very thought out arrangement. But at the same time she seems really willing to support this idea and help it become a reality. She and I don't want to separate while I do this, so while the girl is over, she will just be my 'housemate'.
I'm just so sure this will backfire, and I'll regret taking the opportunity, but I'm also afraid I will grow resentment over time about what happened, and also regret NOT taking the opportunity while given the chance to level the playing field!
Does anyone have any experience with this sort of thing? Any past experiences? How did it go? And other ideas to help me than this? I'm extremely open to ideas!!!! | Girlfirend slept around while we were apart, and now wants me to while we are together. I think this is going to end bad. |
t3_4vf88o | Parenting | Jewelry for toddlers | So- my daughter will shortly be 3. She has expressed interest in princess costume jewelry. I headed over to hobby lobby and they have an entire aisle of princessy charms; beauty and the beast, Cinderella, even Alice in wonderland stuff. I bought some charms and some gold elastic instead of chains. I went to assemble the necklaces and noticed that every package warns of LEAD. What?! A quick Google search told me that Claire's, Disney store, and H&M make jewelry for children with an unacceptably high lead content. So the princess charms will go back, and I will have to find another way to make my daughter feel like a princess. The point of posting this is that I never knew lead was so common in jewelry (even in jewelry marked lead free). FOR KIDS. Beware. Also, if anyone has suggestions for an alternative my daughter would be very appreciative :) | many children's jewelry items contain lead |
t3_4mozpw | relationships | I [23M] want to break up with my girlfriend [20F] of almost a year. | I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year now and I feel like I should have ended things within the first month.
There were always certain things that bugged me about her, but since I am not a confrontational person at all, I just put up with it thinking "the sex is good and she will probably break up with me soon anyway." I was very wrong.
To be clear, I do care about her immensely and when I tell her I love her a big part of me means it. I just don't think we are right for each other at all and the relationship is sickeningly codependent, which I am not ok with.
She moved in with me pretty early on, which seemed like a good idea at the time. Over the past few months I've been realizing I just want space more than anything, but I can't kick her out without breaking up with her. Our relationship would quickly deteriorate if I did that and I think that may cause more emotional turmoil than if I just broke up with her outright.
The issue lies in the fact that she has nowhere to go if I break up with her. I would of course give her time to find a place and move out, but I don't want to be around her at all right after we break up. A good friend of mine offered me a place to stay while she is finding a place and moving out, but I am not entirely sure I trust her at my apartment alone while she is in the heartbroken state she will undoubtedly be in. She is insanely clingy and emotionally unstable. I am a paranoid person and I don't really think she would do anything, but I don't want to take the risk of her breaking or stealing anything because I don't know for a fact that she wouldn't.
Another issue is that she doesn't have a job. She has no way to pay for an apartment of her own and will probably be unable to find an alternative in the timeframe I would give her. | I want to break up with my girlfriend of almost a year. I don't want her alone in my apartment after we break up, but I also don't want to be there with her. Read the post. |
t3_fcz11 | relationships | Consoling a female friend beyond "I understand, yada yada yada" | Early twenties, few year platonic friendship.
Close friend of mine is taking some of her guy troubles hard (crying through the night - no sleep). She claims she doesn't want to talk about it although if this were they case she wouldn't have mentioned it repeatedly (from what I can tell I am the only one she has confided with). In similar situations in the past I have tried to air towards reason (I've only found a couple girls to where this works- logic tends to fall when it comes to feelings...) however it's failed with this one.
I suppose the only thing I can really do is just distract her from her issues and lift her spirits rather than focus and talk about her concerns. Am I just doomed with being a 'yes-man' (mhmm, right, i understand) now then moving on? Or is there something obvious I am missing? It is most likely the latter as I am pretty dense, like most guys, when it comes to these things. Thanks.
By the way, we're in different areas so no chance of taking her out for some fun. Video and voice chat only :( | Friend with guy troubles and I am the only one she has turned to help. Suggestions? |
t3_24nlr5 | relationships | Me [25 M] dating a [20 F] (for a couple of weeks), how easy should I take it with the texting? | I (m, 21) started seeing a girl (20) a couple of weeks ago. We've been on several dates and have seen each other quite a bit. We're living in different cities for the next couple of weeks, and I'm starting to fall back in to the old trap of getting anxious about texting behavior. I start to worry that I'm over or under-doing it, or that I'm not interesting enough while texting.
Example of a situation that I overthink: we texted until I fell asleep last night (2am). We didn't text much during that day before that. I haven't texted her so far today, and am worried that if I do it'll be smothering. At the same time, I worry that she'll think I'm losing interest. How short of a time period is too short when you're still just seeing someone? | How long should I wait between text conversations? |
t3_osy0c | running | What is your funniest or most interesting running related story? | Here's mine. About 15 years ago I was in the Air Force. The most I had run up to that point was 2 miles a few times a week in boot camp. Prior to this I never ran. Jump forward a few years I would work out at the gym with a guy I recently became friends with. He asked me if I wanted to go for a run after we worked out. I asked how far. He said 3 miles. I was a bit reluctant since I never ran more then 2 miles before but I didn't want to look like a wuss in front of my new friend. So we begin running and it seemed like we where running for a long time and I was getting really tired. I asked him "Are you sure this is only 3 miles" and he was like "Yeah, quit your complaining" (he was a bit of a workout freak and uncouth so I just shut up and kept running). When we where done I said to myself "There is no way that was only 3 miles" and when I got back to my car I drove the same distance and it was 6 miles! Up until that point the furthest I had ever ran was 2 miles and I haven't even ran 6 miles since (although this year my goal is to run a 10k and I'm currently up to 4 miles). The next day my girlfriend (now wife) and I went to a zoo. My legs where SOOOO sore I had to stop and sit down about every 30 minutes to rest. That day I learned the mind is stronger then the body. | Ran 6 miles because didn't want to look like a wuss in front of my new friend who told me it was only 3 miles. Furthest I had ran up to that point was 2 miles. Extremely sore the next day. |
t3_2bhvvy | loseit | NSVictories 2 in 24 hours! | I had medication training (8 hours of learning what medications are, what they do, and how to administer them) and we ordered out for lunch. As I looked at the menu I saw the options for pizza, hot steak subs, starchy pasta meals, and finally grilled chicken and vegetables. I surpassed all the bad options and ended up with some yummy (seriously, this stuff was good!) chicken breast and summer vegetables like squash, carrots and green beans. Felt great!
This morning I ran a hill workout for the first time in a month (recovering from pf in my foot). Ran one of my best times and felt energized and confident rather than in pain and fatigued. Shows that dropping a few pounds does have an effect on your workout regimen. Who knew, weighing less means you can workout harder with less effort!
**bold | Ate the healthy choice and ran 4 hilly miles like a boss! |
t3_2oejfb | needadvice | My Boss Is Breaking The Law | My boss has me selling a bunch of copyrighted materiel on his website he has asked me to create, and it goes against my code to be working on something like this, and is using other artist's actual work to base his designs off of. What would I have to do to get it reported, so it could ultimately get taken down, so he would be forced into actually putting up legitimate content. What should I do? I have tried telling him it is wrong, and he didn't care, so I am thinking about giving anonymous tips to all the people his is infringing upon. I do not want any repercussions to come my way. I am just trying to do the right thing. | My boss is breaking copyright laws selling other peoples designs as his own. I told him it's wrong; he doesn't care, so what should I do without getting in trouble. |
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