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t3_4wk69n | relationships | Are my friends [22F, 24F] right in thinking that if they buy me [23F] lunch on a roadtrip, that it's okay not to chip in for gasoline? | I got invited to a friend's wedding in Las Vegas. Two other women I know also got invited. We decided to all go together. We will be coming from San Francisco, California. We all pooled our money and decided to rent a hotel room together.
I'm the only one with a car and a driver's license. Apparently it's expensive to rent a car if you're younger than a certain age.
I told the others that they can come with me but that they will have to chip in for travel expenses.
They think there shouldn't be too many travel expenses if the car is already mine and I'm going anyway. They have this attitude like they're just tagging along and won't cause any inconvenience to me.
I explained that gasoline will probably cost well over a hundred dollars going to and coming back from the venue. They don't think the gasoline bill should be split into thirds because I'm going anyway and my car has room for them.
They counteroffered that they can buy me lunch going to the venue and coming back.
Personally I don't eat a lot anyway and I don't think the two of them chipping in five bucks each to order me a chef salad at Applebee's in some middle of nowhere town on the way to Vegas is the same as chipping in for gasoline.
I want to insist that they pay equal shares but I don't want to come off as a selfish a-hole, either.
Am I right to think that they should chip in a third of the gasoline bill each? I'm certainly not asking them to chip anything in on the insurance and wear and tear on my car. Or the fact that they can both screw around on their phones or Ipads the whole trip and relax, while I, the only driver, have to be alert.
Or are they right to think that they shouldn't have to chip in equal amounts to me, because I'm going to the wedding anyway and they're sort of just tagging along?
I don't want to make too much drama because I'm sharing a hotel room with these girls. | My girlfriends and I are going on a trip to Las Vegas next weeked. They think that if they buy me lunch going to and going back from Las Vegas, it means they shouldn't have to pay for gasoline. Are they right? |
t3_3gd8xs | tifu | TIFU: by ruining my chance at losing my virginity | I'll never forget this moment...happened about 10 years ago during my freshman year of college. Reflecting back, it really unfolded like the stereotypical way to mess up with a girl. I had *zero* experience with girls at this point in my life, and had no idea how to tell if a girl was into me, let alone what the hell to do about it if she did.
Started, I met her the first week she lived on the floor below me. A tall redhead, big perky ones with an ass to die for. In the back of my mind I felt comfortable around her because I thought I never would have a chance with a woman like her(especially with an endless supply of dicks around her). We hit it off right away and naturally just hung out. Within the first week we were around each other a lot. Several nights of drinking and just hanging out with no sexual/relationship stuff.
But then one night, I was in a drunken stupor with her alone in my dorm. She literally just pounced on my ass. I was aroused, excited, confused, and shitface drunk. No exactly a great combination. We started making out immediately and oddly enough it felt entirely natural. She stripped down and I began to cluelessly fumble about her body. I began the finger dance on her downstairs and could feel the tension rising...my mind was yelling...*this is IT! This is the moment I've envisioned for years, it's finally here*.
I felt her moan and twist, the power was in my hands. I finished her, and she straddled me. *oh lord yes*. She pulled out a condom and began to unwrap it. Throughout all of this, I barely spoke a word aside from a few guttural noises and moans. But for some reason, the combination of my emotions, inexperience, and shock produced the worst possible words to come out, "I love you".
She got up, put her clothes on, didn't say a thing and walked out leaving me on my couch with a boner. The best moment of my life had just turned into my worst. Shortly after my drunk roommates stumbled in and I had to report of my failures. My only consolation was the smell on my hands. | I desperately wanted to lose my virginity. The opportunity was handed to me on a silver platter the first week of college. I blew it by blurting out "I love you". |
t3_4qatn8 | relationships | I [17M] with my friend [16M] of 2 years. He got a crush on me, I'm straight and with a girlfriend. He now is threatening suicide. | So me and Charlie have been friends for 2 years now, we were really really good friends and everything was fine up until recently. So about a month ago Charlie told me that he has got what he thinks is a crush on me. He isn't gay (his words) but he has a small crush. Turns out a week weeks later that he realises he really likes me. He says that he gets jealous over me and my girlfriend too.
Ever since this I have been hesitant about things with him. I feel so awkward about everything and he won't leave me alone about it. He will literally ignore everyone for the whole day if I don't talk to him or he gets the assumption I don't want to talk. Everyone asks what's up with him, I just say I don't know although I actually do.
He also says that no one cares about him and that he's done with life. Although all these people are asking to make sure he's ok, he seems to only care about my view, and since I've been hesitant towards things lately, he views that as "no one cares". These comments have gotten a lot more serious though, saying this the other day: "Just remember if anything happens to me, it's not your fault." And also: "I'm just fucking better off gone". I feel like I need to mention this to an adult or get him help on some way cause this is getting out of hand. He also denied therapy any time I mention it when he says he's depressed.
What do I do about this?? | Friend of 2 years suddenly got s crush on me, becomes jealous of everything I do and relies all his happiness on me, also threatens to kill himself. |
t3_gg4rf | AskReddit | Anyone have any April Fool's jokes terribly backfire? | I'll start off with my own story. Last year, I thought I had the best idea for a April Fool's joke. My sister had broken her leg earlier the year and had crutches laying around in the house. So, I made a cast out of gauze and grabbed the crutches and figured I had the best prank ever.
Fast forward to tomorrow, I get out of my car with my set up expecting sympathy and for the office to set me up with a wheelchair... except that no one cared. I hopped over to my group of friends and they immediately called me on my bluff. "Oh well," I thought, "Maybe I can still score a wheelchair for the day." Turns out the nurses office has a $50 deposit on wheelchairs. I'm hopping around, as sad as a troll can be. It's 95 or so degrees out because Arizona get hot as hell really early and I have no training with crutches... needless to say, I spent the whole day a sweaty mess, and ended up failing on the stairs multiple times and received bruised arm pits.
This year I shall redeem myself. | tried to fake a broken leg for april fools, ended up trolling myself hard. |
t3_4lb8vn | relationships | Me [27/F] with my Fiancée [29/M] How do i help him deal with this.. | My(27F), Fiancée (M29) (together 7 years), just found out his mom cheated on his dad while they were on vacation. This is EXTREMELY out of character. His parents have been together since they met in high school and are now in their mid 50's.
Bf grew up learning to be loyal and faithful to the one you love. He grew up knowing his parents are were in love and would never stray. Bf has also had every girl he dated before me cheat on him. Which makes this an even tougher subject.
He's gone into shut down mode. He's completely lost faith in marriage and talking about not wanting kids and 'why bother' bc' you're going to change your mind and leave me eventually anyways'.
Then he said he's not upset with me and it's not about me at all...
I don't understand how to handle this situation. He's very sensitive about how ppl treat others. But now seeming to lose faith in everything. He's related it to God, work, friendships. How everyone is selfish anyways and no one can be a good person without being walked over...(he's always over helping someone with something and no one ever offers to help in return..)
Any advise on how to help him handle this situation? | Mil cheated on Fil. Fiancée not handling it well at all |
t3_lcye4 | AskReddit | Ok reddit, so it seems we have a spy in our managerial staff.. | We work for a small chain restaurant located in Massachusetts, and have recently undergone some managerial changes, including the introduction of a travelling corporate manager. While he's not exactly my favorite guy, lots of employees of the restaurant really seem to like him. However, it has recently come to our attention that in light of a server's misplacement of one of her server books (full of tips plus cash owed to the restaurant), said manager proceeded to do a quick search of the entire staff's belongings without their knowledge. Is this within his (and or the restaurants') legal rights? Any input would be greatly appreciated. | Manager searched personal belongings during shift after something went missing - is this legal? |
t3_4fz9ip | relationships | Estranged parents [55M, 54F) are really trying to see me [24M] in person, bringing my wife [23F] of 6 months, sister [22F], and grandparents into the situation | Short back story: A few months ago, I had a falling out with my parents. It's been a long time coming. I've been going along to get along for years, letting them push me and my wife around to keep the piece.
Anyway I put my foot down a few months ago. The content of the conversation doesn't really matter. The result was I have refused to speak with them until they both see a counselor to work through some of their issues (I've also started seeing a therapist).
My sister is graduating college next month in the same city that my wife and I live. My parents and a lot of our extended family are coming to town to celebrate with her. My sister really wants us to join them all for dinner. She's been texting my wife trying to convince her to talk me into going. It's really starting to cause us a lot of anxiety.
I've got use to dealing with feelings of guilt and second-guessing myself everyday when it comes to my parents. This is a whole new level of guilt. Now I'm not just refusing to speak to them, I'm refusing to see my grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. because they are with my parents. On top of that, this is a big day for my sister.
Why am I posting? Maybe I'm looking for a little reassurance. Maybe some advice, too. Thanks, Reddit. | Sister is graduating college in the same town I live, my estranged parents are coming to town with extended family. Trying to deal with feelings of guilt of not seeing them. |
t3_3l053d | relationships | I [26M] become jealous really easily of girl I've dated or am interested in | Hey all,
Throwaway account because this is kinda embarrassing. I was searching here for advice and there are boatloads of posts about jealous girlfriends but not so many about jealous boyfriends. It feels like its not as okay for us to be jealous, but here I am.
I'm not talking about a specific girl because this has been a problem with a number of partners over the past 5-6 years. It bothers me when another guy makes her laugh, or shares an interest with her that I don't share, or really connects in any way. I feel stressed out when I'm in public with her, because I feel rejected over little things like her not sitting next to me, and feel like I'm competing with all the other guys in the room. And when she goes out with friends to a club (or pretty much anywhere) without me, it bugs me enough to almost keep me up at night. Despite the fact that these girls have given me no reason to doubt, I worry constantly about cheating, or them slipping up after a few drinks, or a thousand other things.
I dont feel like I can talk to her about these things, because I know that I'm not being reasonable and the things she'd have to do to make me feel comfortable would not put her or our relationship in a healthy place. But the stress of keeping it bottled up gets at me. And I've even held off on asking out girls I'm interested in because they are really extroverted and have tons of male friends, and I'm not sure if I could be in that relationship without screwing it all up.
How do I learn to cope with this? I want to be the kind of guy that trusts his partner enough that I don't even give her chatting and laughing with other guys a second thought. I know part of the issue is that I'm not very confident in my appearance (5'9, about 170 pounds and not a lot of muscle, and I'm bald and have a bit of a crooked nose) or in my likability (people seem to like me, but I still always worry about it) and I've always been a bit of a nerdy guy. | I get extremely jealous over unreasonable things and it ruins relationships for me. What do I do? |
t3_1rc1m3 | relationships | Is she [F ~20] into me [M 18]? | I work at a meal hall at my university. We are coworkers; we don't usually get put at the same station, but whenever we go on break we sit at the employee table with everyone and chat. That has been going on since I started in August. I really began noticing her last month (we see each other twice a week due to our schedules) because every time we'd pass each other we'd say hi and maybe stop to chat. This past thursday I was closing as janitor, working in the back sort of near the clock. After clocking out, she came over and started talking to me about what we were going to do over Thanksgiving and whatnot, mundane stuff like that. That was the moment I realized I had a crush on her. I've replayed the conversation a couple of times and can't help but wonder if she's interest in me also. It's hard to enunciate exactly why, but her body language/conversation just reminded me of how I usually act around girls I like.
Yes, I'm a fairly typical socially awkward male redditor. So odds are I'm completely misreading the situation. I've never been on a date, had that first kiss, or gotten anymore intimate. But since leaving high school I feel like I've mostly shed that personality; I am much more confident now then before. What I lack is the ability to read cues that most people pick up in high school. Also adding to my apprehension, she's a year or two older than me, which makes me think she's definitely more experienced then me. Everyone I've met this year has thought I was ~20 and credit-wise I'm a sophomore, so I'm a little worried she thinks I'm her age or older.
Reddit, where do I go from here? We'll have two more weeks of working together before winter break, and then we come back with new schedules. So I feel like I need to make some sort of move now. But I'm not sure we know each other well enough for a date. What is the intermediate step? | I like a girl I work with and she might like me too, but I don't know what to do. |
t3_4nkmme | tifu | TIFU by running home in the rain | Today was my second day at [pizza chain] which happens to be less than 2 blocks from my house. As a result of the short distance and the fact that I don't have a car anyway, I walk to work. It was a really hot and sunny day and I (rather stupidly) didn't check the weather to see if it would rain later on. I just assumed that it would be fine.
As the night was winding down my manager told me to clock out, but before I left I decided to bring home a pizza for dinner. I put in the order, paid with the epicness of an employee discount, and waited for the 10 minuted it would take for the other guys to make it. (I haven't been fully trained in making the pizzas yet) As I was waiting, it very suddenly started pouring down. Seriously, one minute it was dry and the next we were almost underwater.
With no real options I waited for a lull in the rain, got my pizza and started running home, both hands on the pizza box. Not even 15 feet out the door I slipped on a strip of parking lot paint covered in water. With no hands free to catch myself I scraped my knee on the curb, ripping my pants and getting a nice scrape in the process. I got up and continued running home, this time a little slower to ensure I didn't slip again. Fortunately, the pizza survived, but I will need to retire my khakis due to the massive rip in one knee. | Got caught by surprise by the rain, slipped and ripped up my pants while running home. |
t3_1yyxlz | relationships | Me (17F) with my roommate (17M) of one month. He has terrible body odour and I don't know how to approach it. | Not sure if this is the right subreddit, please direct me elsewhere if I'm posting in the wrong place!
I recently moved in with a longtime friend. The house is his grandfather's and as far as living goes, it is a sweet deal and I really need to make it work for university. Everything about the situation is perfect except for the fact that this friend has terrible terrible body odour. It is almost suffocating and I find it difficult to be within a 2 metre radius of him. The fact that I am supposed to give him lifts to uni is also problematic: I don't know how to refuse without seeming unreasonable (we have virtually the same timetable and he has no transport). I have tried to drop hints numerous times, suggesting that maybe he showers twice a day instead of once (he only showers in the mornings and smells worst at the end of the day), and asking for him to put deodorant on etc, but he doesn't understand the severity of his odour. He maintains that showering twice a day is 'unreasonable' and I really don't know where to take it from here.
Obviously it's very important that I make this relationship work: I have nowhere else to go and the house is his grandfather's so ultimately he has the final say on my residence. I would really appreciate some advice on approaching this situation.
Thanks in advance! | Roommate smells bad, don't know what to do. |
t3_4gkyg2 | relationships | Unsure how to pursue a woman [27F] I'm [28M] interested in. | Both going to grad school up north. We've known each other for a almost a year through (not super close) mutual friends and just recently started hanging out in a group context.
She's been pretty touchy with me whenever we're hanging out together with other people (just randomly sometimes, for no apparent reason), and she seems to find me funny. I asked her if she wanted to grab lunch on Wednesday and she said she was busy, and then I asked about this weekend and she said she's not sure, but I could text her.
So, I wanted to get a woman's opinion on it. Could I be reading too much into things? Wouldn't a woman be willing to suggest something if she were more interested? Is she just wanting me to initiate something so she drops the "you could text me" line?
I just don't want to fuck it up, so I thought I'd swallow my pride and ask here! | if a girl says, "you can text me", is it that straightforward? |
t3_1lhdkc | AskReddit | Former gamers of Reddit, what do you do for fun now? | Like many here, I'm beginning to suspect I play too many video games.
When I was single and young, six, twelve, or even eighteen hour marathon sessions seemed alright and justifiable. But now I have another person who wants to share her life with me and I work long hours to support us. With fewer and fewer hours available, the simple enjoyment I have gotten from video games for most of my life is slowly turning into frustration and a feeling of time wasted. Time lost.
It seems the time for a change has come. Big life changes the way of an international move and the birth of my first child pretty much necessitates it. To that end, I have decided that all of my video game tools (powerful computer, XBOX 360, ect.) will be packed into the slowest form of shipment that won't arrive for months.
The problem that I have now is that I cannot find something to fill the gap in my life that video games leaves. For nearly twenty years, when I had free time, I would sit down in my well worn computer chair and boot up the flavor of the month. In times I have tried to back off from video games, I would find myself sitting on the couch, bored out of my mind, only really wanting to play.
So, people who have slowed or stopped their video game playing, what do you do now? What hobbies have weaned you? Do you still feel the draw of the newest game or your old favorite? | I want to slow down my game playing to enrich my life, but I find myself without anything else to do. What do you do to accomplish that feat? |
t3_3z0s52 | loseit | Trail skating this morning was a wake-up call! | Since May of 2011, I've spent at least 5-10 hours a week skating (derby practice, games, trail skating) and countless hours working out elsewhere (insanity, zumba, spinning, etc). A couple months ago I decided I needed a break and then shortly after sprained my ankle the worst it's ever been sprained before (third time on this ankle, I was on crutches for a week and a half before I could even put weight on it), so all physical activity has come to a halt over the last 4 months. In those four months, I've packed on over 20lbs and my endurance is shot.
I decided when I could walk up and down a flight of stairs without pain, then I would be ready to start working out and skating again. Tuesday was zumba, Wednesday I hit up session skating, and this morning I went out and hit the trails in my skates. I was not anticipating just how out of shape I was. Trail skating is a really good indicator of endurance and I know *exactly* how much work it's going to take to get me back to where I was before.
While skating I kept thinking of everyone in this sub and how there are people that are breathing just as heavy as I am and pushing through it all anyway! This sub (and the daily 24-hour pledge) are helping me get back to being who I love to be! Thank you guys!
For anyone interested - [2011/2014 comparison] | [me today, 20lbs up]( | I skated 5 miles and my endurance isn't even a fraction of what it used to be, but it WILL come back! |
t3_2rxj2y | relationships | Bad friendship. | Hello, r/relationships!
I have a friend who makes me feel like shit.
I am a 22 year old male.
He is a 20 year old male. We have been friends for roughly 5 years.
We used to be close, but we're not so much anymore.
This person neglects my emotions, my conversation attempts and me, as an individual overall.
When we are alone he never attempts to acknowledge my existence, he only does so when he is high. As if he chooses when to be a friend when it suits his needs. I am not the only person whom he does this too.
When other people are around he is lively and talkative.
I've told him in the past how I don't appreciate how he treats me and acts me when other people are around, calling me bad names, telling embarrassing stories I don't want other people to hear
His response has been to stop being so emotional, be a man.
I feel under appreciated. I cannot talk to him about problems or anything in my life because he says he doesn't understand my problems or thoughts.
Recently he has been leaving me at his house while he goes and parties and hangs out with other friends, after picking me up to chill with him at his place.
I've asked him why he does this and he has told me that I was asleep and difficult to wake up.
Granted he leaves in the morning, so I am asleep, but waking someone isn't difficult. If there is a will there is a way.
I understand that I too have faults but I am a very open minded reasonable person. I wouldn't feel this way if I didn't have a reason to.
However, I am tired of the neglect and diminishing attitude I receive.
What should I do? Has anyone here had any similar experiences with people like this?
Any advice would be great. I'd really appreciate it. | I have a shitty friend who makes me feel unhappy. How should I handle this? |
t3_2k6102 | tifu | TIFU by wearring revealing jeggings | Preface: I didnt know what jeggings looked like in real life
SO this goes back to 12th grade year(a year ago), around March. I slept over my best friend's house, who I recently made up with over a stupid fight. I had to go home the next day early in the morning, but my work pants were nasty and smelly. My friend decided to give me a pair of pants to wear out the house. The pants were a tight fit, but i am a skinny guy and wear skinny jeans all the time, so I loved them. I biked all the way home in them and loved the feeling of these pants! I never felt pants that were this tight but stretchy at the same time!
Fast foreward a couple days. I grab the pants again because I ran out of clothes to wear(it was laundry day) and I decide to rock them in school. The day went fantastic, and I got a couple compliments from my pants. At the end of the day, one of my friends tells me that those pants are super skinny. I ignore the comment and called him a hater. I wore them occasionally from then on, until college finally arrived.
For no reason at all, I just got attached to them the first week. Every week I began wearing them around campus. Eventually I would get the occasional "those are really tight", but I would casually ignore them. Until Today.
I walked up to a room on my floor to get my laptop cord from someone's room, when a girl who comes by our dorm alot comments on my pants again. I began to ignore it, but then she and her friend started laughing. Curios, I asked them what was so funny, and they told me "your bump is showing" and explained to me I was wearing womens jeggings every week. | I was walking around in women's jeggings on campus every week with my dick showing through |
t3_rsf8g | relationships | First relationship for both SO and I. How to hold hands? | Ok, I know it's kind of a noob question but please bear with me.
Some background on both of us. I'm 25/F, he's 31/M. We both come from conservative backgrounds and this is the first romantic relationship for both of us.
We've been going out for the past 4 months and emotionally we've been getting closer and sharing more about ourselves. We text everyday and when we're together we have tons of things to talk about.
Physically, things have not been progressing. So far the closest we've been is when we're sitting next to each other and our arms touch. I've tried giving him signals and hints that I want to hold holds (e.g. letting my hand brush against his) but nothing's happening.
Short of telling him blatantly that I want to hold his hand, what should I do? | 2 SAPs in their first relationship. |
t3_506j25 | relationships | Me [26F], him [32M]. How long is it appropriate to wait before discussing finances in depth? | I've been dating my boyfriend now for almost three months. We've talked generally about what we do, but I don't really know how much money he makes. It *feels* to me like it would be kind of off putting to flat out ask "How much do you make, what does your budget look like, and how much debt do you have?" three months in to the relationship. At the same time though, this kind of stuff does matter. Money isn't everything, but it's fair to wonder where someone stands financially if you're considering them as a future spouse.
He is a podiatrist that works at an orthopedic surgery group doing all of their foot and ankle procedures. When we talked about it, it was on our first date and just general getting-to-know you stuff. We talked about how long schooling was for him, what it is that he does. Stuff like that.
I get the impression that he earns a comfortable living. I tried googling what they make just to get a feel for it, but the salary seems to be all over the place and depends on where you work. Could be 80k, could be 225k, or anywhere in between. I also don't know exactly how much he spends/budgets/saves. It's hard for me to guess if he is living within his means, conservative, or a big spender. It all depends on what he makes. If he is closer to the 80k side, he's probably pushing it. If he is closer to the 200k end, he is probably a little conservative with finances.
How can I bring this up without sounding like I'm obsessed with money? I truly don't care *how much* he makes per se. Obviously, he isn't a bum which is really all that matters to me. My real concern is if we're financially compatible in terms of budgeting -- is he a spender or a saver? Financial responsibility is important to me. I'm not a "gold digger" at all. I love my career, and earn a good living myself. | When is a good time to bring up finances, and how can I breach the subject without sounding like a golddigger? |
t3_4xigyr | relationships | Help! Me [26F] with my boyfriend [25M], who can't make a decision or do things by himself. | We've been together for 7 years, went to the same college and are each other's best friends. During college, we worked on assignments and projects and even now we work and have fun together. (don't have many friends outside the relationship)
I know realise that it's weird when my boyfriend doesn't like to do things by himself (except gaming or browsing the internet), for example sometimes he asks me something and when I don't know the answer and tell him to Google it he just lets it go altogether. Or when he bought a new gaming controller and asked me to help him set it up, which is weird because it's *his* thing. Even when working, he insists on doing things together (even if it's one man's job) and I think it would be more efficient if we each worked on our separate things.
Another thing is that he always asks me what to do in a certain situation and can't make a decision alone. When I say something like "do whatever you think is best" he says "geez, thanks for the advice!"
If I try to tell him to try and do it himself, he gets upset or just quits doing that thing. So my question is, how can I help this situation and make him be more independent? | Boyfriend can't make decision for himself or do things alone and it's getting very annoying. How can I make things better? |
t3_qtlot | AskReddit | Do you think I could potentially have sex with my ex-gf's mom? | Me and this girl dated in high school for 3 years and I would be at her house almost everyday. Her mother is extremely hot and also very sexual. She would constantly tell me about her sex-life when her daughter wasn't around, and I just found out she used to be a swinger with her ex-husband. She is now single. The other day, I went over to my exes house because she left all of my belongings on the front porch. She wasn't at home and explicitly told me to not go inside. When I arrived, the front door was open and my exes mom was paying for a pizza she delivered. When the delivery guy left she saw me and invited me in.
She was half a bottle of wine deep already and asked me to drink with her. I obliged. After a few, she invited me to stay longer to watch a movie. I agreed. Then she told me we would watch it in her bed. As we walked upstairs to "watch a movie". My ex girlfriend came home and forced me to leave.
Her mom told me before I left that I could come back any day because she misses me.
What should I do? Do you think she would have sex with me?
I'm 19 and she's probably 42. | Went to exe's house to pick-up clothes when she wasn't home. Drank wine with her mom. Almost had sex with her. |
t3_38mmlb | relationships | I'm [17/F] angry at my best friend [17F] for not caring about my feelings, is it justified? | At school today my friend wanted to skip our last class, and since we pretty much aren't really friends with anyone at our school, we always skip together. But she wasn't sure and I didn't have class so I was waiting for her to tell so I could just leave.
An hour passes and I assumed that she wasn't going to skip, but turns out she made plans with our other friend and her boyfriend, making me basically wait an hour for nothing not bothering to text me and excluding me from their plans. And now I'm really mad at her, do I have the right to be?
Also I know skipping is bad, but we had a substitute teacher so we weren't getting work done anyways. | I'm mad at my friend for not bothering to tell me her plans and planning things with other people, in turn excluding me. |
t3_v7wme | dating_advice | Do I talk to her again? If so, what do I say? | I talked to a girl (17, as am I) that I haven't talked to for 2 years today across facebook chat. Back when I used to talk to her more, I really liked her, but when I talked to her today I was getting no response. Here is the chat:
me: hey - i havent spoken to you in ages
her: omg literally think it may have been years?!
me: yeah, i havent talked to anyone from (drama club) for around 2 years - so how are you?
her: yeahh I'm good thanks, you?
me: im not too bad, do you still go to (drama club)?
her: yeeeeeee
me: people still go?
her: yeahhhh
(I just got two one word answers in a row - im now struggling thinking of what to say)
me: not a single person has left?
her: yeahh a few, I've moved to (another club - same place different time) now
me: oh really, how comes
And thats it - no reply there. Whilst I understand that she must be busy, as am I (there were a few lengthy gaps between messages) but I didn't want to send another message as I didn't want to come off as clingy - I was trying to catch up with her, not spam her with messages.
I can always try and talk to her again when she is next online, but I don't think I should. Even if I did, how would I start the conversation?
I know this whole post has been very weird, me posting a text transcript and all, but I would appreciate any help at deciphering this to work out what my next steps should be. | Today I talked to a girl who I haven't talked to in years, but was getting one worded replies. Do I bother taking any further steps? |
t3_2jsaok | relationships | I (m21) can't stop over analyzing this stupid texting game! (F21) | Long story short, I met this girl and we hit it off. Were like 4 dates in but both agreed to take it slow. All signs are showing that she likes me but I want to keep dating her before I make it official. We only can see eachother once a week cause of our schedules so we usually text eachother when not together.
That's the problem. I get so caught up in the texting game I scrutinize every little thing she does. For example she always responds but sometimes she doesn't and just leaves me hanging. I don't know whether to text again wait, or wait for her to respond and not text. It's stupid!! I know it's probably nothing but I still can't get it out of my head. How do I stop over analyzing everything and realize things right now are better than ever? | I'm childish and can't stop over analyzing everything. |
t3_3is0sl | Advice | Boss took me off of payroll and promised to pay me in cash so I could start working more hours for the summer. Hasn't fully paid me in weeks. What do I do? | Background:
I started working at a family owned business back in January. I was in my freshman year of college. Currently heading to my sophomore year. I worked 20 hours to 15 hours a week because if I made too much money my grants for school would be reduced. Boss needed me to work more hours. He came up with the idea to start paying me in cash.
When he switched me over to cash, I made sure to clarify when I was getting paid. He told me it would be every Friday and that he would be the one to pay me.
Boss has a busy schedule. If he's not busy with events, he's busy with his other investments. When he didn't show up to pay me the first two weeks, I let it go because I knew he was busy. After the third week had past I asked him what was going on with my pay. He gave some lame excuse and promised me my full pay the following friday. That Friday came and he avoided me most of the day. He walked over to me at the end of the night and gave me less than half of what he owed me. Told me that he would give me the rest of the money soon. Again, gave him the benefit of the doubt and here I am, weeks later with no answer or money.
I have confronted him in the past few weeks. When the subject came up he turned cold and gave me vague responses that didn't answer my questions. At this point I am so frustrated. I stopped working until he pays me. I do plan to jump ship after I get my pay but I honestly don't know when that will be. What do I do now? How much longer should I wait? What do I do if he pays me less than he should? | Boss promised to pay me in cash because he needed me to work more. Hasn't been true to his word and avoids the conversation every time I bring it up. What do I do now? How much longer should I wait? What do I do if he pays me less than he should? |
t3_38vfb7 | loseit | Nsv: I quit and didn't quit | 31/5'9"/F- HW: 285, CW: 268.2, GW: 145
So I've gone from occasional lurker to nonstop chatterbox here the past few days. It's been getting me *really* motivated, in a way I've stopped being with WW. WW is great, but I've quit it twice before, and I keep falling out of motivation with it, even when using the tools like blog and coach sessions.
So this morning, I cancelled my subscription. I was having trouble affording it anyway, and with the nonstop feedback and advice and motivation and support here, I'm just really excited to have switched to MFP and be active here. I've also been pushing up my steps in Fitbit.
At the end of today, I've tracked it all and I'm 100 under my calorie count. I got tempted to eat some more, but I took my own advice to others and made some club soda with cherry lime mio to satisfy my cravings. I also remembered someone posting about going to bed hungry, and how that's not so bad, and that's helping me out (even though I'm more craving the habit of eating than being hungry.)
We can do this. I'm only on day 6, but determined to change my life. Thanks for making it seem possible.
My username is the same as MyFitnessPal handle if you'd like to add me, and
is my Fitbit link. | I quit WW today and didn't quit my streak of staying on track. |
t3_22sboi | relationships | Me [21 M] with my crush on a teaching assistant [23 F], could it work? Do I even have a chance? Should I even try? | So I've had low self esteem for the last few months or so. It seems like the only time I can be fun and confident is when I'm in the atmosphere of knowing what I'm doing, and that is in the chemistry lab (this is in a university/academic setting). She's seen and graded my work, so she knows what I'm capable of. We've bantered back and forth sarcastically, but I'm still unsure if she has noticed that I have a crush on her.
Should I even ask her out? Is it weird to ask out someone who is supposed to be teaching you? I don't mind dating after the semester but given my plan on asking her out, I'd still have to see her at least once, which would be kinda awkward if she said no, but I could deal with it.
I guess my biggest question is, would she even date a younger guy who was technically her student? Do you guys have experience in that? How did it turn out? | Is it weird to ask out your teaching assistant (as a student of the class)? Could it even work? What are you experiences when you chose to ask out/date an older person who was your TA(teaching assistant)? |
t3_3qs6pi | relationships | I [20F] befriended a co-worker [40M] who others find annoying/socially awkward. Need some advice. | Context: I'm the newest and youngest person in my office. The co-worker (I'll call him Andrew) is much older than me but has always been nice to me asking how my weekend was, joining me at break etc. Andrew has been away for the week on business and I have been sharing my lunch with other co-workers who have also been nice to me.
However, these co-workers occasionally mock Andrew, express how they find him annoying or make comments about his weight. They also know Andrew talks to me frequently and seem to look at me like they wonder if I will tell him the things they have said. I have decided not to simply because I don't want to hurt Andrew's feelings.
My problem is that after hearing their comments I still feel kind of guilty and bothered by it because I didn't tell them to stop. Mind you, they tend to poke fun at everyone, not meaning to be harmful. Should I have said something though? How do I know they won't start making jokes about me when I'm not around? We all tend to share lunchtime together (including Andrew) so I don't want to avoid them. I'm just looking for some advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation and how to best handle it if gossip/mean jokes do come up. | Co-workers make fun of another co-worker I have casually befriended which makes me feel guilty/uncomfortable. How should I handle it? |
t3_38scw3 | loseit | Enjoy with clear conscience | I had a 100g bar of dark chocolate today. Oh, I savoured it, it hasn't tasted so sweet in ages since I left most sugar off my diet. I could do this because today I must cycle 30km vigorously, during which I should burn around 900 kcal. As the bar was 509kcal, this still leaves me 400kcal over my diet limit. So I can eat relatively normal today.
My point being: Stay motivated, winners! When you count your exercise and calories properly and make sure you exercise, you can fit in some of those sinful foods **in moderation**, and still lose weight! The point is to find balance in your life with eating and exercise habits you can keep up for the rest of your life, not starve yourself which easily leads to the yo yo effect of miserablness. | I got to nom chocolate cause I'll be cycling like a motherfker |
t3_18rrn8 | relationships | My gf(19) of four months has a super religious mom who will not approve of me at all (m18), how do I approach this? | EDIT: While my girlfriend's mother is catholic, my girlfriend herself is atheist.
My girlfriend and I have been together for roughly four months and we are both college freshmen. Long story short, it turns out her mom is extremely catholic, to the extent that she cannot conceive of anybody not being catholic or her daughter even knowing anybody who is not catholic. I am an atheist, but I'm very relaxed about it (I'm not a dick, I promise =]). Unfortunately, taking the "let's respect each others beliefs" approach is not viable, apparently she just won't accept it. To top it off, her mom is also literally crazy and has spent time in a mental institution. I am fine with her mom not liking me (well, I'm not happy about it, but I can accept it), but I'm afraid it might cause real problems. Her mom is paying for her college and her study abroad program this summer. Her mom cutting these things off seems to be a very real outcome in the worst case scenario. Also, she doesn't know I exist yet.
Anyway, reddit. It seems I only have three options, and I'm not sure what to do.
We can continue to pretend I don't exist, but I don't think this is going to last forever and isn't necessarily healthy.
I can lie to her, although I'd really rather not lie to my girlfriend's mother. Also, I don't think I could pull it off even if I wanted to.
Finally, I can be upfront and meet her, telling her that I am dating her daughter and I am an atheist. This could end with very bad results.
So, reddit, any thoughts? I could really use your help in this, I'm at a loss here. | My girlfriend of four months has a mom who is literally crazy and cannot accept atheism. I am an atheist, and when she finds out about me this could have bad results. What should I do? |
t3_1p88mw | cats | Diabetic cat stopped eating for days, now suddenly eating again? | So my cat has diabetes, and we got him regulated and off the insulin except for the occasional stress spike. This week he dropped 2lbs, wouldn't eat or drink, threw up everywhere, etc etc. Brought him to the vet, decided he's probably in ketoacidosis, since his levels were in the high 300's (got his blood tested for everything).
I made the horribly painful decision to put him to sleep and had the appointment for tomorrow at home. (The decision is not based on the diabetes alone, he needs two surgeries for other things and has some other issues that would come up eventually. This incident was just a catalyst to make that decision.)
So... little jerk that he is, tonight I put the food down for him and my other cat, and out of nowhere he runs up and starts eating like a little pig again! He's been jumping and snuggling me all day and being perfectly normal except for the fact that he moves very slowly and seems to be weak. He's lost a lot of muscle mass and I can feel his bones, but otherwise he seems *fine* behavior-wise, and if he's now eating again....
I don't know WHAT to think. Do I keep the appointment tomorrow? Do I now wait and see how it goes? If I cancel the appointment tomorrow it'd be another week before I could do it again, and if he's actually in ketoacidosis, he could get really sick between then and now.... WTF man, what do I do? I do not want to lose my best friend, but I already decided that a couple thousand in hospitalization bills and another couple years of miserable insulin shots were not an option... | diabetic cat stopped eating, lost 2lbs in little over a week, I make an appointment to put him down and the night before the appointment he starts eating again and acting slow, but normal. What do I do now? |
t3_m4st8 | AskReddit | Does fabric softener ruin athletic gear? | So moved to Korea a little under a year ago and may have just realized something.
I've been noticing discoloration and spots in my athletic gear (ie jerseys, underarmor, running shorts) as well as the numbers cracking and peeling. I never had this problem in the states, and I'm just now wondering if the fabric softener is doing it. I never used fabric softener in the states since I had access to a dryer and used dryer sheets.
This is pretty important to me as every single one of my jerseys has sentimental value. I only ever wear ones from teams I've been on or races I've run. | Does fabric softener ruin athletic gear or is there some other explanation? |
t3_3i61ir | tifu | TIFU by not checking my meds before swallowing. | Happened a few minutes ago.
I'm allergic to some foods and tend to get stuffed up and bad headaches after eating. Benadryl usually prevents this and I was out so my aunt gave me some. I bring it in my room, sit on the bed and let myself get distracted by the cats. Grab my water bottle and you guessed it, took all four pills.
Shit.
I looked it up and I'm not gonna croak, tbh I haven't had a good night sleep for a while so this should be interesting. Already feel kinda funny, not buzzed but wobbly.
Will report back in the morning. | I gonna go sleepies hard. |
t3_q2j59 | relationships | Trust Issues (x-post from /r/relationship_advise) I may be impatient but i NEED HELP! D: | My boyfriend [21 M] and I [20 F] have been dating for 2 years now. 9 months of that was a LDR and for the other year and 3 months we have been living together. About 4 months ago I found out that he might have (he was shit-faced to boot and doesn't clearly remember, so he says) cheated on me with an ex at a party that he previously told me about during the LDR(the party not the cheating). I continued to ask him about it and he said that he was having a good time following her around and cuddling with her while he was getting drunk.
What I can't get past is that almost every day of those 9 months we chatted via skype, I gave him nude pics, we talked about problems and our days, he even told me he loved me and that he made the mistake of cheating and that he'd never do it again. We argued about how serious our relationship was I told him that I didn't think we were such a big deal because we were LD! He got... upset and tried to make me see how much I meant to him and what us meant to him.
If he wasn't over her why did he tell me all those things? Why did he argue about the intensity of our relationship? And now I don't trust him, we are trying to work this out with him being as transparent as possible but I cannot get over the lies. Reddit, how can I trust him again? | ? |
t3_1vcduw | relationships | I (24 F) had and emotional affair (w/ 23 M) during a difficult part of my relationship of 5 years. Still haven't stopped thinking about him. Help? | When I was having a difficult time in a LTR (25 M), and had a male friend I'd known for about 1.5 years whom I confided in and spoke to constantly. I would call this an emotional affair, although I'm quite sure he didn't exactly have feelings for me.
Eventually, I broke up with my SO (25 M) and shortly after, the emotional affair led to one time of sex. My EA was not very experienced, and the sex was pretty awkward although I was patient and thought it really wasn't so bad.
I'm guessing he didn't feel the same, because we loss contact less than a week later. Of course, I moved on, dated other people, and got into a relationship that I am very happy with. This was about 3 years ago, though I have never stopped thinking about the man I had an emotional affair with, and just can't understand why he would ditch me the way he did after all the time we were friends.
Recently, he called me, which brought everything back. I didn't answer.
Any advice on why I feel this way? | I went through a rough relationship and had what I considered an emotional fair. Had sex with the guy one time after breaking off the LTR. Lost contact with him. It's been 3 years and I still think about him all the time. Any insight as to why I still feel this way? |
t3_3vi110 | tifu | TIFU by creating a pseudo hamburgler | Today was trash day and there were some leftovers from Thanksgiving that needed to be thrown out. The leftovers were in plastic grocery bags and I accidentally threw out perfectly good hamburger meat that my SO bought a day before which he left in a grocery bag along with the leftovers.
He gets home from work wanting to make something with the hamburger meat and alas it is no where to be found. It dawned on me what I did. He asked if I remembered seeing it and I said yes it was there this morning. I should mention that we have two refrigerators, one inside and one on our patio. The hamburger meat and leftovers were in the refrigerator on the patio. Why the fuck he left it in the grocery bag next to the leftovers which also were in grocery bags I don't know. Why I didn't check the bags I had been on a cleaning spree in the wee hours of the morning and was so tired and out of it.
Immediately he thinks someone stole it while he was at work and while I slept. This is fine with me cuz he has some narcissistic tendencies and probably would have chewed me out for throwing it away even though it was an accident.
Now when he leaves for work I have to lock the patio door for fear of the hamburgler returning. | I created a pseudo hamburgler by accidentally throwing out good hamburger meat with bad Thanksgiving |
t3_31dtd8 | personalfinance | [Taxes] S.O. confused on how to do her taxes - 1099, 1098T, help? | I know there are probably a lot of people on here as of late asking for help just like I am so I'll try to be brief and explain it as best I can.
My girlfriend works 2 Dental Assisting jobs. One of her employers thought he'd save himself some money and (I believe this is how this works) treated her as a "contracted worker" and she received a 1099 from him. Same thing happened for her 2013 taxes but we had a family friend pretty much do them for her but this year she is on her own.
She had thought about signing up for the "deluxe" or "pro" (whatever they are calling it) edition of Turbo Tax and doing it online and hoping it would be user-friendly enough to where she could do this on her own.
**FIRST QUESTION** - Is Turbo Tax enough for her to be able to handle doing her own taxes with these extra forms and her and I having almost no experience with Tax season.
**SECONDLY** - If the kind people of this sub could help out, she has four W-2s, one 1099, and one 1098T from her schooling. Are we overthinking this? Is it easier than we think it will be?
Also deductions for her. Can she right stuff off (with no receipts of any kind)? We could go back through and print her bank account statements and find each time she charged gas or something to that extent couldn't we? But I don't even know if it would be worth it. | My girlfriend has an intermediate-level-of-difficulty tax situation and was wondering if the advanced version of TurboTax would be ok. If so, would you recommend it or is the process easy enough for her and I to maybe figure out on our own. |
t3_3xb9ev | jobs | Potential govt job or private sector | I am a recent graduate. I have had a couple govt agency internships but always preferred the private sector environment not only for higher salaries but also better motivation. I got a position at a company but they are only paying me $13h/hr as opposed to other people there who haven't graduated and are getting 45k/yr. A govt agency I interviewed for left a voicemail and I think I might be getting an offer. The pay for the position should be around 38k. Now there is a chance I could be getting a raise or offered salary after my probation period but not guaranteed. I actually enjoy it and like the challenge as opposed to govt work where nothing happens. What should I do? | might get offer from gvt agency.working low wage in private with no guarantee of raise.take chance and stay or go with govt? |
t3_xoqz3 | BreakUps | How do I stop wanting him back? Head and heart in different places. [26f] | My ex [27m] and I broke up a month ago after being together 6 months. It was a bad relationship--we had nothing in common, there were a lot of "lifestyle" issues (he drank too much, played too many videogames, was pretty geeky and I am, well, not), family issues--pretty much anything that could be incompatible, was.
He ended the relationship but I was damn close to ending it myself. I actually had plans with him that I canceled the night before he broke it off, and canceled because I knew if I saw him, I'd dump him, and I had not emotionally prepared myself yet. So, I don't hate him; it was pretty much mutual.
The thing is, as much as I *logically* know we were an absolute awful couple and had nothing in common, I do care for him as a person. And my heart can't let go. I am not obsessed with him or anything; I'm dating again, he's dating again, we're moving on. But I have a plan in the back of my mind to get him back. It's not a vague plan; it's a measured plan that I fully intend to put into action. That will 95% work, I would guess.
I'm worried that I only want him back to prove that I can get him back, to prove something to myself. Then the other half of me thinks, no you really care about him and want it to work out, all the incompatible stuff is surface and you have a connection with him, no one did anything wrong or bad or hurtful in the relationship or breakup.
I guess I don't know what I'm asking, maybe have others experienced this? Is it just being a sore loser, or regretful? | I intend to try to reconcile with my ex, but worry it's for all the wrong reasons. |
t3_2mmt6a | relationships | I (36F) am so on the fence about continuing my 1.5 year long relationship with my BF (37M) due to his opinions on infidelity. | He has a racy past. I do not. We are very opposite in how we view casual sex (I've never had it). I was extremely upfront with him from the beginning and it took a while before we started a sexual relationship.
The thing is, the stuff he says about infidelity really bother me now. He will say things such as the sex itself is really no big deal unless there is an emotional involvement, people get far too upset over "cheating" and give up too their marriages too easily, anyone can make a mistake, he has no plans to cheat and he does not want to but sometimes things happen and we would be able to deal with it as a couple if it ever happened, etc. As time goes on, I also find out that he's had very casual meaningless sex with various people that are his Facebook friends. The thing that bothers me is how very meaningless this sex was to him -- it truly meant absolutely nothing. I know a lot of people think this way but I have a hard time wrapping my head around it.
So now we are fighting a lot more because of this issue. He was married before and admitted that he had a one-night-stand. Their marriage did not end for that reason -- his wife never even found out. He also flirts quite a bit and when I mentioned this to him he seemed confused -- he acted like I was being very restrictive and that "it isn't cheating". I know it isn't cheating but it feels like Step 1 (especially since cheating isn't really that big of a deal to him). He even said I'm crazy if I don't think my past few BFs have cheated on me. I don't! That really worries me because it sounds like cheating is a given to him or something. So because he's done it before and he has such a totally casual attitude towards it, I am thinking maybe we aren't right for each other (even though he repeatedly tells me he only wants to be with me, doesn't want sex with other people).
He keeps telling me I'm punishing him for something that hasn't even happened yet. I say I am being cautious because his attitude worries me. | BF has a very casual attitude towards infidelity. |
t3_17ptmd | BreakUps | My girlfriend (17) and I (18) just ended our 2 year relationship, I'm not sure how to get over it. | Just over a week ago my girlfriend kissed her ex-boyfriend, after a week of us trying to put it aside more and more kept coming out about the relationship until she said that she had no feelings left for me, but she would be sure they could come back.
Up until this point she has spent the week being very upset about the whole situation, crying at the thought of the relationship ending and telling me i'm the only one for her. We had long term plans together.
However, because she said she had no feelings for me, I ended the relationship, I deleted her and then texted her to ask her a question after I had done it, and found out she is yet again at her ex boyfriends less that 24 hours after the relationship.
This is our first real relationship, we lost our virginity to each other and we done everything together. She was perfect for me, I'm slightly introverted but like to go out on occasion. Finding a girl like this was a very small chance for me, and i'm scared I won't find a girl like her ever again. I'm just not sure how I'm going to get over this. Does anyone have any advice? | We had our first real relationship together, it ended and she ran off with her ex boyfriend straight away. Not sure I'll ever find a girl like her again and it makes it hard for me to get over it. |
t3_qfnl2 | relationships | Am I in an unhealthy relationship? | I'm an 18f and my boyfriend is an 18m. We have been together for over a year.
I'm starting to really think that I am being controlled and emotionally manipulated. I know he does love and care about me, that's why it's hard to tell. These are some of the things he does:
* Won't let me drink unless he is around, even a little bit.
* Doesn't want me to hang out with guys that he doesn't know (we are in an LDR)
* Doesn't want me to stay out past a certain time
* Doesn't like it if i dress too "slutty" and will call other girls who wear skirts and shorts etc "Sluts"
* Wants me to tell him exactly where I am at every moment of the day.
* Wants me to tell him if I spoke to any guys, and if there are any guys around
* If I protest he makes me feel guilty, and sulks about me not caring about him
* If I have a different opinion then him, he will often say that my opinion is "stupid"
* Wants me to come home often to see him, although I don't really want to.
* Has many double standards
I don't want to give too much details because I don't want him to stumble across this post. Although this all sounds bad he has helped me through a lot of bad things in my life, and has done things for me that make me love him. I am just starting to feel like his behaviour is unacceptable and crazy, and I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him. He also acts as if we are destined to be together forever. I never said anything against this, although I think we're a bit young to be so sure of things. | I am starting to feel that my BF is very controlling and will not change. I love him and he loves me, I'm not sure what to do. I don't know how to talk to him about it and I don't want to break up with him out of the blue |
t3_2ab2fg | relationships | Me [23 M] with my people in general, Could you help diagnose my personality? | I'm pretty introverted, I don't mind, but I've always had this weird feeling.
So, I usually go out, and I meet people. But when ever I'm in a group of people they always tell me they have no idea what to say. This happens with almost every group of friends I hang out with.
It makes most social situations very awkward.
The few people that I do make good friends with are people who talk a lot, and I only really hang out with them on while at school. I usually just sit back cause I'm never interested in what people say. I'm mostly just thinking a lot, about how things might work. I do have 95's=100's in my classes (I'm in engineering), so I don't think that it's I can't comprehend anything. But, My social skills really lack, and I feel like it's a waste of time to improve them, cause I don't enjoy socializing that much. But I've been trying too a bit recently to try and meet a girl maybe....but, so far I just feel awkward.
But people say they like me.
[Also, let me know if I'm in the right board] | I feel socially awkward in situations, and I don't talk. I never feel like I have anything important to talk about unless it's work or improving my life, or something. Is this normal? |
t3_4rh4ru | relationships | Me [18 M] with my GF [19 F] of 3 months, not sure if I should break up with her. | My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now. We started dating at the end of our freshman year and spent about 6 weeks actually together. Since then, we have been doing long distance because I live across the country and also work in a different state for the summer. This has put a lot of stress on the relationship. At first we talked a lot and would FaceTime a few times a week. We were constantly snapchatting and texting. Now, we will send like 3 snaps a day and maybe text here and there because I am busy with work (my job is in the entertainment industry and the hours are stupid long).
Lately, I haven't felt close to her or really connected in any sense. Part of me wants to see if it will fix itself when we see each other in person, but another part of me just wants to cut my losses and stop feeling trapped in something that feels like it lacks passion. | Long distance relationship with my gf feels like it's a job/lacks passion and I'm not sure if I want to keep it up. |
t3_3de2dt | relationships | Me 37f boyfriend 37m need outside opinion (kinda long) | So we have been together 6 months now and things have been amazing. Recently I've noticed some changes though with his phone usage. I've noticed that he will get text messages from random numbers. Sometimes he buys stuff off craigslist so I haven't worried about it until recently. He's been making comments when he hears my phone go off "oh is that your bf texting you?" In a semi sarcastic tone. He will normally sit and go through fb or whatever and not turn his phone away from me and recently has started doing that from time to time. The other day the cat stepped on it and opened up his text app and he immediately closed it out. This morning as I was waking up I heard his text notification go off a few times so I asked who he was texting and he said no one he had restarted his phone. I'm pretty sure he's not sleeping with anyone because I drop him off at work and he does construction and comes home filthy his hands are usually super dirty and he won't even touch me till he showers. Should I be worried that he's talking to someone else? I am very insecure because in every single relationship, I've been cheated on. He says he will never cheat but I doubt it because of all the shit I've been through. How should I approach this with him? I don't want to seem like an insecure psycho but I'm kinda feeling that way right now. | boyfriend acting funny about text messages, making me think he's doing shady shit and talking to other girls. |
t3_jy9w8 | AskReddit | My dryer has been broken two weeks, complex manager has known about it since the day it broke. Do I have any options? | My dryer stopped working during the move-in Saturday two weeks ago. I and my two roommates have all made verbal complaints to the complex manager and at least one of my roommates has physically filled out a work request form (immediately after the dryer breaking.) The complex has been good about fixing issues in the past but this is getting to the point of being excessive. When one of my roommates went to complain, he was notified that new move-ins were getting priority (even though he's lived here four years AND the other roommate is a new move-in) and they couldn't tell him much beyond that. I went late last week to figure out if they could at least give us a date on when the dryer should be fixed and I was fed (what I believe to be) BS about how they are waiting for a rare part that is hard to find takes a long time to ship. I suspect this was BS as, to the best of my knowledge, no one has been by the apartment to inspect the dryer and I suspect the broken part is a simple heating element.
I live in NC. I'm not sure what the laws allow for here but I've been reading about rent escrow accounts through a judge that basically keeps the complex from receiving rent (as it sits in an escrow account) until the appliance or issue is fixed.
I would appreciate any insight on what I what steps I should take next as a renter to get the dryer fixed. | I have been paying rent on a dryer that has been broken for two weeks. I would like to hear about ways to give my complex manager the incentive to fix it. |
t3_pbl8z | relationships | Girlfriend took her shirt off at a bar. Help? | Heya, reddit. I'm 20(m) and I've been in a relationship with a 20(f) for almost 3 months now, but we've known each other for about 3 years. We both go to the same university together, and things have been pretty good so far.
This semester she captained what was essentially a 3-day drinking fest for her program. We're both regular drinkers and party-goers, so I was excited for her to be going out and having fun. I was really busy, so I chose not to tag along and she was fine with that.
Tonight was the last night of the event, and a few hours ago she texted me from the bar saying "Might have taken my shirt off for points". My heart sank when I read the text, and I got fairly upset. She called soon afterwards and asked if I was OK with it, and I told her I wasn't. She didn't sound very drunk at all, and insisted that her co-captain (a female mutual friend of ours) pressured her to do it. She apologized (halfheartedly) and made it pretty clear that she didn't think that she did anything wrong.
Am I overreacting? I'm not an overly jealous person, and I do my best to let her have fun when she's out (I'm fine with her dancing with other guys as long as there's no groping involved.) It's her body and she can do whatever she wants with it, but I can't help but feel upset about the whole situation. She's coming over later tonight and we'll definitely be talking about it more. But for now, I would really appreciate some neutral insight! Thanks! | Girlfriend took off her shirt at a bar, am I right to be upset? |
t3_35n5t6 | relationships | I'm [22M] currently chatting with this girl [22F] on Tinder. She's not over her ex yet but I like her, what should I do? | We matched last Saturday and she's a really cute ~~thing~~ girl. So adorable and I love how she thinks. Although she admitted that she's not really over her ex yet and not ready to date - which bothered me a lot cause, why are you in Tinder then? She wasn't looking for easy sex too because she just ain't like that.
We have a lot of interests in common and she's pretty awesome overall. We started talking about our exes and our love life. I sort of became the person who she vented out her frustrations to. To be honest, I don't mind helping her out with "getting over her ex". But I just don't know how to pursue this anymore.
I would want to pursue her, but I fear that I'll just be some rebound. Any advice for me? I know there are more girls out there, I would just wanna know if there's anything I can do for now. Just keep on doing and be friendly? I can tell she's attracted to me too since she likes all my "selfie" moments on Tinder. She also said I was really cute.
I was actually thinking about asking her to have some coffee this Saturday since I really have nothing better to do - just as friends. | Cute girl on Tinder admitted that she's not over her ex yet. I like her but I don't want to be the rebound. How do I go through with this? |
t3_13s2ch | relationships | Feel jealous and resentful of girlfriend at times. Me-M16) Her-F16 | We've been dating for about six months
Her family is very well off. And she has a large family as well. Her house is huge and nice, and well mine not so much. Her parent's, and soon her own, car(s) are far nicer than my parents - I probably won't get a car for another few years. And I'm an only child.
You see the class difference?
Well, every time anything concerning money comes up and she mentions something that her family is planning on doing/has done (vacations and the like) I can't help but feeling jealous. And then, soon after, resentful of her. I can get pretty bitter at times too.
Yes, we've talked about this and I let her know that I'm not so well off. I would dare say that we have an open, fun, and overall healthy relationship. But this is something that has really been bothering me lately, with the holiday shopping and all.
Any advice is appreciated | Girlfriends is very well off, me not so much. Jealousy and bitterness arise. |
t3_fxzev | relationships | Fiancé upset about nudity in movies | Hey reddit! So my fiancé and I have been together for a little over 4 years and have been engaged for about 7 months. I'm 21 and she's 22. Anyway, she still gets upset when there is female nudity in movies and I fail to turn away. She thinks that I like looking at other women because she's not good enough. I love my fiancé very much and I only want her. I've told her this before. I feel as though she is very insecure about this. I have never given her reason to not trust me. I've never cheated on her, don't go to strip clubs, don't go out to bars without her, etc. Not sure if it matters but we have a long distance relationship. I go to school about 2 hours away and come home about once every 3-4 weeks. Any advice? This is a throwaway account btw (Community reference (: ) | My fiancé does not like me watching movies with nudity even after reassuring her that I love her and want her and only her. |
t3_qll53 | AskReddit | What's your biggest "ah-ha" moment? Where you realized that life wasn't about playing with yourself in mom's basement and about growing up. | I'll start.
Not unlike most people my parents marriage didn't last. Albeit my parents split up when we were much older (3 of us in our later teens)... Not sure if its easier when they do it that way, but I can't really compare. We ended up finding out that my mother had been cheating on my dad for many years; I took this especially hard... Unbeknownst to me at the time, I found myself building a really strong hatred to women. My thought process was "If whom I thought was the most 'right' woman in the world could do this, what's stopping any other woman from doing the same to me?"... A year later, and after a whole lot of alcohol, I would find myself acting out towards women. I would be with a different girl almost every other night, using fake names, fake numbers; lying about my age, what I did for a living... Anything to get laid. How charming eh?
Eventually I'd end up dating someone 'exclusively' and was pretty happy for a little while, but ended up doing the same thing towards her, continuing to act this way to other women behind her back... I got into this double life kind of thing, one is madly in love with this amazing woman, and the other, disrespecting her, and them just to get more. Two more years roll by and it comes crashing down. She finds out what I've been doing and asks me "How could you ever treat someone you love as badly as you do?"... 'ah-ha'
Needless to say we're not together anymore, and rightfully so... I only wish I'd had this moment sooner. Either way, saw a therapist for a long while and figured my shit out. I've been clean and sober from that exact day, out of the bars, in the gym, and living a more respectful life for myself and everyone around me. And damn, let me tell you, it feels amazing! | mom cheats on dad, they split up, son finds out why, son develops a deep seeded hatred for women, son becomes a gallavanting manwhore, (years later) son falls in love but continues same bad habits, amazing woman leaves son but asks deep seeded/moving question, son 'wakes up', goes to therapy, sobers up, gyms up, feels good for himself, and everyone for the first time in a long time. |
t3_we65x | AskReddit | What is a song that you've heard and fallen in love with at one point in your life, but didn't find it until years (or months) later? Here's mine | This has happened to me numerous times, I'll hear a song on the radio, on a friend's cd, or somewhere else and fall in love with it. I would write a few lyrics down and later search for it online until I found it. There have been a few incidents, however, when I either won't be able to write the lyrics down (or it won't have any) or ask someone what the song is called, and despite my best efforts, I wouldn't be able to find it. Then one day, I hear it again and instantly recognize it. This has happened to me at least a dozen times, but here is the most recent incident.
One of my fraternity brothers was in a play a few months ago called the Laramie Project. I went to go see it with my girlfriend and a few other people. At the end of the play, the cast reiterates a few sentiments that reflect the overarching themes of the play. While they did this, there was a song in the background. I had no idea what the song was, but I loved it. I tried to remember the lyrics, but couldn't.
I was driving out on vacation about two weeks ago and was flipping around between radio stations, as one went out, I'd find another I liked. The song [Tounge Tied by Grouplove] came on. I never heard it before, but liked it so I shazamed it and figured I'd get it later. A week later, I find it on youtube and start listening to the related videos. I stumble onto [Little Talks by Of Monsters And Men] and one of the comments said that they had an Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zerosesch sound. I looked them up, listened to their most popular song "[Home] and instantly recognized the song. I found it. | Heard a song in a play and found it a few months later through a weird series of other songs. |
t3_2fq68g | relationships | [22f] My first love thinks he's a woman now. Is it wrong to feel strange about this? | DISCLAIMER: I'M NOT SAYING ANYTHING NEGATIVE ABOUT TRANSSEXUAL PEOPLE. Please don't get butthurt on this score.
The first guy I dated was pretty hapless, but harmless enough. He was basically your typical 17-18 year old guy. We were together for a year as teenagers. The breakup was mutual - quit when we were ahead. I was sad for a while but got over it. Pretty standard stuff. We stayed friends on Facebook for some reason, even though we didn't really talk anymore. A few weeks ago he suddenly comes out with his announcement: he "feels more like a woman" and has embarked on changing his identity.
WHAT THE FUCK. I was/am actually moderately upset. In all honesty, I felt a little violated. Even though I objectively know it has nothing to do with me, I was way insecure all of a sudden. People question my femininity enough (jokingly and seriously) as it is, and it's hurtful - I don't need this on top of it. I know it's selfish to feel this way, but it's embarrassing. I feel as if all my pleasant memories of that relationship are now worthless, and also I'm baffled as to how I could have been so wrong about someone I cared so much about, even in a puppy-love way.
Anyway, is this about par for the course as far as these things go? How can I overcome some of the insecurity occasioned by this? I learned my lesson, anyway - don't keep exes in your newsfeed. | Ex-bf comes out as trans - threw me for a tailspin, even though he's out of my life. Advice? |
t3_4txuar | relationships | Me [27F] with my ex [30M] of 3 months. He dumped me yesterday | Hey all,
I just got dumped officially yesterday but he messaged me about it 2 days ago. We met online and he was super great. Very respectful of my barriers. We always had a great time hanging out. I've met and hung out with his friends. He's met mine. We waited almost 2 months before kissing and having sex. We talked everyday, almost all day, about nothing and everything. He was very sweet, passionate, and a gentleman. Also, the sex was awesome.
2 days ago, he messages me to say he's not excited about where things are going. We're incompatible in how we communicate and socialize, and I wasn't fulfilling an intellectual need of his. Of course, I was devastated to hear this. I can't say I loved him, but I loved what we had and what we gave each other. I don't know how to move on from this. Everything else about him is great except for this one compatibility issue. If he'd been a jerk, or cheated on me, had some sort of abhorrent character flaw, this would be so much easier. Unfortunately, this is the worst I've ever felt about being dumped.
I've been dumped before but this hurts the most because I was completely blind sided, and I so much enjoyed every second I spent with him. I know I should focus on other things to feel better but I can barely eat and don't have much motivation to do anything but sit and remember what we did together while listening to Adele on repeat. I'm afraid I won't find a guy as great as him. He fulfilled so many of my needs and gave more. | Great guy dumped me over a compatibility issue that wasn't a big deal to me. I'm having so much trouble moving on from this. |
t3_2hx0nx | relationships | Me [22F] with my SO [24M] I want to break lease after being robbed, he wants to wait it out | My boyfriend (24M) and I (22F) came home Friday evening to find our apartment had been robbed. No renter's insurance. Extremely shitty. After talking to our neighbors we found out this is like the fourth time it's happened in our building.
I want to try and break our lease (ends April15th) and move away from that area, my boss's lawyer even offered to write a letter to our landlord if we need. My boyfriend on the other hand thinks that is an emotional, irrational response and we can't run away from our problems and that a break-in can happen anywhere, we just need to be more prepared. But I don't feel safe there and want to leave ASAP, I think we should at least TRY to break the lease.
He said we can't afford to get a new place, with the security deposit and everything right now and should wait til April so we can save. I just don't care, I don't want to sleep there and I'm willing to get a personal loan to help cover moving.
We have a 4 year old son which to me is all the more reason to leave a complex that has break-ins so frequently. We are in COMPLETE disagreement here. I get where he's coming from but I feel like being comfortable in your home is a priority. Is there any possible compromise???? | We were robbed, I want to try and break lease, SO wants to stay til lease is up. |
t3_4b4ni9 | tifu | TIFU by ruining a school field trip for special needs children | This happened a few months ago when I used to manage a tech section at a retail store.
A local high school for special needs scheduled a field trip to our store. These students were in their mid teens and had moderate to severe disabilities such as downs syndrome, non-verbal autism, etc. The purpose of the trip was to get a behind-the-scenes view of a common store to see if they had career potential or interest in cleaning, stocking, or otherwise.
They spent the day dusting or cleaning screens, stocking ink, putting up prices, and other operational tasks under the supervision of another manager. There were about twenty students, so it was hard to turn a single aisle and not see one. They were cleaning our restrooms and, unfortunately for me, I had to fart. Like really bad. Like I wasn't going to go number two, but dear lord it was brewing.
I found heaven in the receiving room. I released the longest, hottest silent fart that smelled like week-old roadkill. I leave the double doors with a great weight lifted from my abdomen. At least until the group heads for the back room to see our warehouse.
They all go back and get a huge whiff. One of them starts either crying or his eyes were watering that badly. Then another due to the commotion. Then another. And another. A teacher thought one of the students shit themselves so she's herding each and everyone to the bathroom trying to keep calm. The manager with the group says over the walkie "good god who did this?!" Before I could even think of confessing, a coworker loudly broadcasted that it was probably one of the students. They all heard him from the bathrooms, where the rest of them begin to cry/rage/shut down. | Left a deadly fart cloud for a class of disabled children. Pandemonium broke loose, trip ended quickly, and I'm going straight to hell. |
t3_rc8oe | dating_advice | (M 27) I wasn't engaging on a first date, she seemed very interested in getting to know me though | So I'm in a bind here. I haven't been dating for very long (4-5 months) and I got back from a date from earlier today. She was interested in me more then all the other dates I've had, was curious about what I did for a living, was very engaged in talking about programming even though it wasn't her background, always brought up things from my online profile, but I just wasn't feeling very great today and I feel like I passed on a good opportunity to really engage in a meaningful first date.
We had coffee, walked around a shopping center in the rain, stopped by a pet store, she bought some things for her pet, and she was very lovely to me, spent an hour together. The issue is that I know didn't seem very engaged with her... but I was interested in talking about her background, what she does for a living, yadda yadda, but today was a very miserable day outside, and we agreed to the meeting only a few hours before, so I had pretty much no time to really prepare myself for a date, since I'm very inexperienced.
We ended the date with a hug, and I asked her if I could see her again and she was pretty open to meeting again, saying I should call her. I texted her, just saying thank you for meeting me today, and no response yet. | Inexperienced guy with dating didn't have his A game for the first date, girl was interested in the guy the entire time, holding up the conversation and was deeply involved in asking about his background. |
t3_2gu66u | relationships | Me [18 M] with my Gf [18F] about 2.5 years. It isnt clicking anymore | So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years and right about now we're both in college. We ended up at the same college and I thought it would be great with spending time together all the time and not having many rules to follow.
It has been about a month at college and now things aren't really clicking between us. Like difference in what we want to do or when we should go out somewhere; and when we do hang out it feels awkward like there's no reason for us to hang out because I can't do what I usually do because it bores her.
Basically i just wanted to know what I should be doing as I've been told to end it now by some semi-close friends. How do I go from here and what should I be doing? | Me and GF move to college. Things are weird. What do I do? |
t3_31jz7u | tifu | [NSFW] TIFU by braving the elements. | This happened roughly 15 minutes ago.
It started sprinkling as my SO and I are walking home after getting some things from the store. We had approximately 1/4 mile until we would arrive home. Halfway there, I think to myself, "Since we're outside, I'll cut this gas loose that I had been politely reserving for this exact moment." So I did. I shit myself. My SO thought I was joking, and after persistent reassurance it was no joke, proceeded to laugh uncontrollably all the way home.
There is never a more honest reflection of ones life as one where you shower shamefully washing deuce sauce off of yourself. | expected slight chance of rain, got a shitstorm. |
t3_1piwvt | Dogtraining | Puppy pottying in the house because she's afraid of the dark | I am visiting my uncle's house to watch his dogs while he is gone for two weeks. He has a total of three dogs. The youngest, a 5 month old bouvier, will not stop going to the bathroom in the house. My uncle leaves in a few days, and I'd like to potty train the dog so I'm not bald by the time he returns.
Background information: The two older dogs are absolutely wonderful and potty trained. The oldest is about 10, and the other is about 2 years old. They have had no accidents in the house. When the dogs are let out, they go out the patio door in the kitchen, which leads them to a deck. There are about 15 steps they go down to get to the yard.
The dog will go outside and go to the bathroom during the day. I think she's afraid to go in the yard by herself at night (when most of the problems happen). He doesn't want to crate train her, and buying one for her size is not really in the budget anyway. There is a light in the backyard, but it doesn't illuminate much of it (and doesn't light up the steps down). | – My uncle's 5 month old Bouvier wont stop pottying in the house and is afraid to go in the yard by herself at night. How do I alter this behavior? |
t3_4i4k2v | relationships | I [22/M] want to know how to open up a conversation with my gf [20/F] | So after not being serious with any girl since high school I started dating my housemate about a month ago. I'm still sort of in shock that she's even into me and really don't know how to manage all of the emotions and anxiety that the last month has brought me. I'm graduating college in a few weeks so we won't be living together anymore after that. The reason I say this has brought me so much anxiety is that for much of the time whenever she's not around I always feel paranoid that she secretly wants out. This is totally irrational since whenever I am with her it's amazing and it's clear that she genuinely likes me but I've experienced enough rejection and hurt to be overly skeptical I guess. We haven't talked much about what happens after our lease ends either and I don't know if she is willing to put more effort in to making this work at that point. Logic tells me that is obviously where this is headed but again my gut feeling tells me there's no way someone could actually want that with me. I wish I could address this with her but don't know how to do that without sounding completely desperate and needy. Honestly I'm not as desperate as this makes me sound it's just something that's been nagging at me and I feel like at this point I just need to talk to someone about it to try and organize my thoughts and come up with a productive way to talk to her about how she feels. If she says that she just wants to part ways I would be bummed but totally respect that, it just kills me not knowing or even having any idea what she thinks of this. Any input would be appreciated. | new relationship and I want to know whether and how to ask her about how she feels about our future |
t3_3229pi | relationships | I [20s/M] got a number [20s/F] the other day. I texted last night and didn't get a response. Not sure what to do... | Tuesday afternoon I met a girl and it seemed like we hit it off. I asked her for her number and she read it aloud as I typed it into my phone. Fast forward to last night, I get up the courage to text so I send one. It wouldn't send as an iMessage (I noticed she had an iPhone) so I sent it as a regular text. I never got a response...
Seems to me like there were 3 scenarios:
1. Wrong number given or entered
2. Text never sent
3. Saw and ignored
I doubt it's 3 because she would have given me a fake number if she had no intention of replying. Anyway, I'm not sure if I should send another text or call or just do nothing and say screw it. | No response to 1st text. Not sure if I text again or ignore |
t3_3blk3w | tifu | TIFU by eating Burger King | This actually happened about a month ago. I'm a private pilot working on my instrument rating. It was only a couple weeks into my training on this particular day I had a solo flight in he evening. I was also starving. I'm a pretty healthy eater as well (former 6-month vegan) and unfortunately the only place to eat near the airport was a bakery and Burger King, so I made the shitty decision to grub at the fast food joint. A fish sandwich (now in hindsight I can see that a fish sandwich was a stupid choice) was the only thing that appealed to me at the time. Well fast forward to my final approach to the airport after a reasonable flight. My stomach felt like the gateway to hell; and as I focused on landing the plane I couldn't help but try to hold in a fart that had building for the past couple minutes. I tried as best I could to fight it, but right before touchdown I ripped the wettest fart I can remember. Not thinking too much about it I continued the taxi to parking and began my post-flight check. As I moved around the plane, though, something didn't smell or feel right. Every inch I moved I got the slightest whiff of shit, and the bottom of my pants were definitely not dry. I knew I needed to get inside as soon as possible, and I did. I got a good look in the bathroom. My boxers were glazed in unfamiliar smelling and looking feces. It was extremely uncomfortable until I throughly wiped it all down with toilet paper and soap until I got home. I will not be eating at Burger King anytime in the near future. | I ate Burger King before a flight and shit myself in the air. |
t3_2p9bvt | relationships | [19F] says shes in love with me [20M] after two random sleepovers, don't feel anything, but dont want to be an asshole. | So I ended up at her crib after only seeing her in real life for like a day, we were facebook friends before. I didn't want to stay overnight but she kind of talked me in to it. We were acting like a couple at night and had sex the second time which was not my intention but things just happened I guess. It was only the second time in my life this happened for me.
It was nice and everything but I don't feel any love. I am not ready for relationships and dating and stuff, tbh it seems like such a drag lol.. Now we had sex I feel I HAVE to stick around for a bit. I don't like hurting peoples feelings. This was so stupid from me, but I do feel like I'm learning a lot about myself and life because I am used to being alone, been alone for my whole life, bad social life etc. I can't figure myself out most of the time, like, I don't know what I want. When people ask me what I feel I never know what to answer because I'm messed up in the head.
Relationships are the worst part of my life. I have a hard time making/keeping friends, bad relationship with family.
Please share any similar stories, or advice thanks. | sex happened too quick, shes in love, I am not. |
t3_3qa4nk | relationship_advice | I'm (21F) interested in a (22M). Hesitant on asking him out due to fear of coming off as too available. How can I casually bring up the idea of dating if I should at all? | Hi! My last post didn't get any attention but I thought I should make it shorter this time and get straight to the point.
I'm interested in a guy who I'm friends with. Strangely not my preference (I like humble guys but this guy appears to have a high ego/high standards, but for some reason I like him).
I have no idea if I have a chance with him or not because I haven't had the chance to get to know him more to be able to read him. I'm not attractive but I won't let that stop me from trying. I've had signs that says yes he does but also a lot of signs that says no he doesn't.
The last time we caught up was last month since a year ago. I enjoyed hanging out with him that day, it went well and he isn't currently seeing anyone anymore. After our catch up he texted me to inform me he has a new number and to "call him out for gym some time". I'm taking this as an invitation and a good sign that he at least doesn't mind spending time with me even if its at the gym, although I wish he'd be the one to initiate to hang out instead rather than always expecting to me to do the work....
I'm hesitant because again, not my humble/understanding type, so if he does reject me I feel like he'd tell his circle about me or a girl came on to him... I would hate to come off as desperate. I'm genuinely interested but I don't want to be shamed with a bad rep if it does happen. Why do I even like this guy thinking he would do such a thing? ... Look, I just rather know if he doesn't like me, I can move on. I would appreciate your views on this. Do males like him approve this kind of behaviour? Should I be verbal and straight out ask him if there's a chance for a date or is he out of my league? Thanks in advance | Interested in an ego high guy when usually he is NOT my type. I could be over-analyzing the signs as something more or less. Now debating whether I should go for him or not, fearing he is the type to brag and shame me for making the move. Would like your two cents. |
t3_qcnlv | AskReddit | What do B.C. and A.D. stand for? Trying to avoid the circlejerk of r/atheism | First off, the reason I didn't put this in [/r/atheism](/r/atheism) is because it would just turn into a hissy fit and I actually want to get to the bottom of this. I've heard numerous explanations such as Before Christ, After Death, which never made sense to me because I'm pretty sure if he existed he would have been older than 1. I've also heard that AD refers to after his birth..ok? If that were the case shouldn't it be B.C. and A.B.? I've also heard Before common dating/after common datin..makes more sense than the previous but still a push. Anyways, just wondering if anyone had any historical evidence, non biased, as to what these abbreviations stand for. | I want facts w/ documentation, not your bias. |
t3_1jo3m2 | relationships | Me[20M] with my [20F] 4 years, is ignoring me , but said she wants to salvage our friendship? | ok so we broke up when we got stuck in a rut, we were both miserable for a while, she got back out there while i moped around
anyways fast foward from then , one month later she is in a relationship with a new guy , thats fine, i guess she moved on pretty quick
so im just doing my own thing for a while, i break NC and text her to meet her for coffee, she says yes, then the night before she says no she cant meet, i ask why , she said she just cant
alright strange , it seems like you are over me but dont want to meet for coffee , thats ok , ill just get my things from your place, i wrote a letter with all the things i wanted to say over coffee , i handed it to her , told her not to open it and got my things and left , she didnt say a word to me
i find out later she wasnt sure if i was going to stay or not or she tells me she didnt know what to say, she said she wants to salvage our friendship , thats cool with me , ive known her for 6 years
i ask her to just hang out as buds she says no, thats ok maybe some other time, she hasnt texted me since then but said she wanted to salvage our friendship, its strange that she wants to be friends but wants to put no effort into it
i know she probably wont come back to me and its fine, but i dont know what to do about this whole friendship thing and what to do with my relationship with her | ex broke up with me because we were stuck in a rut, she meets guy , i meet life, she wants to be friends, but never contacts me even after i made first contact, what do i do about this friendship... give it up or wait it out? |
t3_nz2qw | AskReddit | What is your most fucked up New Years Story? | I had an amazingly bad - pretty much sitcom bad New Years this time around.
All new years eve, from around 5:30 in the morning, I had TERRIBLE abdominal pain on my right hand side. Being a biology student who has completed some basic anatomy subjects at university, I thought it may be my appendix or kidney stones, but I was leaning more towards kidney stones - which I most certainly did not want. It faded at around 4pm, and became manageable.
At 11:05pm the pain hit me harder than ever, it felt like a hand grenade had gone off in the right side of my abdomen. The pain was unbearable, so much so that I asked my girlfriend to either call an ambulance or drive me to the hospital. She takes the latter option. When we arrive at the hospital, in the pouring rain, and I fill out some paperwork and get asked my phone number to which I reply "I'm not sure of our home number, we only just got a new number" (relevance of this will be seen soon).
I waited in the waiting room of the emergency department for an hour (it was now 2012), after which I told my girlfriend to go home and get some sleep and that I would ring her when and if I was okay. Another hour later, the doctor saw me and ran a whole bunch of tests, and concluded that I had a torn and cramping muscle on the right side. I got pain medication and left the hospital at 3:45am.
At this point, I rang my girlfriends mobile. NO ANSWER. NOTHING. I ring it 16 more times. NOT A FUCKING THING. Turns out she was expecting me to ring the house phone - of which the number I did not know. "okay this fine" I tell myself, "I'll get a taxi home". So I ring the only taxi company in our small city, and I get told there is a 3 hour wait, as it is new years.
FUCK
I walk myself home from the Emergency Room 6 kilometres (3 miles) in the rain.
That is my most fucked up new years story. | Went to the ER at 11pm, got out at 3.45am, tried to call someone to come get me, tried a taxi, had to walk home for 2 hours in the rain |
t3_dmrc3 | AskReddit | How to open plastic that has been molded together? | Dear Redditors,
I'm putting together a project for school, my final in an Electrical Engineering class, and I've come across a problem. I'm opening up a few different wireless power delivery systems to try and recreate my own and the only one I've had a snag on so far is the base for a (pseudo) random electronic toothbrush from Braun. The problem is that it is molded shut. Do any of you know a good way to get around this, right now I'm resolved to getting a giant fucking hammer hitting it until I find a solution (like all of life's problems!) or just get a different device that powers/charges wirelessly. I've already opened up and dissected the power delivery system for the actual toothbrush part, it's the base that it sits on that is difficult…any advice? | How the fuck do I Open a case of plastic that's been molded shut/together!? |
t3_4h05tx | relationships | My mom's (63F) sick brother (65M) asking for money (again) after years of being MIA. | Note: My mother and I and our immediate family haven't seen my uncle in 8 years. Despite our efforts and invitations to family functions.
Yesterday my mom received a call from her brother saying he has several different serious illnesses, one of them a type of cancer. Though my mom and her 7 siblings had a rough childhood, my uncle had decades of issues with drugs, cigarettes + alcohol. He got clean around his 40's but by then it was too late, lost the good jobs he had, etc. He has a wife but no children, she quit working once they got together. No money, rents a home, etc.
My mother is well off, however she has been extremely generous to our entire family over the years. If she can help, she does. She is wonderful. One of my siblings requires a lot of support, as he has severe learning disabilities and medical issues. But he has held the same job for 10 years. My mother's husband is ill and also requires care that costs money. She has helped my uncle over the years financially when he needed it. She financed my grandmother and paid for her funeral. She has taken financial burdens off my aunts and uncles by paying for her assisted living, etc. My mom also has her own health issues and is having a minor surgery next week. I'm worried about her stress over this ask from him.
I feel terrible for my mother as she loves her brother but is not close to him and I think it's awful that he is so desperate and has to reach out, but he hasn't seen us in 8 years.
What should she do without being heartless? How can you say enough is enough to someone who is ill? She's a mensch but she's very upset over this phone call, crying and not sleeping. | My very generous mother was blindsided with a request for money from her ill brother. She has her own problems and I am worried about her stress from this request. |
t3_14u229 | Advice | I think I'm depressed but I want a straight answer, I'm never sure if it's just a rough time or if it's a problem. | Hey guys, I'm 18 years old and my adolescence was a trying time for me, with a lot of emotional ups and downs which is "normal" for a female going through puberty, especially one as sensitive to hormone fluctuations as I am. However, the last few months (since this semester started basically) have been weird for me. I feel tired all the time and usually sleep 12-14 hours a night. I have trouble going to class and when I go, I usually can't focus. I feel fine a lot of the time and laugh and joke with my SO, have a healthy sex life and social life but if I'm alone and things are quiet, I get very down and extremely lazy.
Now, being lazy would be ok and normal except for the fact that it's extremely out of character for me. I was a fantastic student in high school and my first year of school I pulled just over a 3.0 (not great but not bad either). At this point, this semester I'll be lucky to pull a 2.5 and not for lack of studying either, it just seems like I woke up stupid all of a sudden and I can't retain anything anymore.
I used to love to sing and play viola and since being away at school, I've lost the drive to even do that anymore, practicing is a chore and I'm not passionate about my music minor or my chemistry major like I was a year ago. Also, I've been really gone lately, I've run 2 red lights in the last 6 months just because I wasn't present. I know it's dangerous but it's not a normal thing for me, I just don't understand.
Things that I used to find easy, enjoyable, or fun just don't feel that way anymore and I don't know if it's just that life in college is harder or that I am slipping. I hate getting medical advice from reddit but the last time I went to a therapist she sent me home telling me that it was my boyfriend breaking up with me that was making me so sad and that it should go away (this was about 4 years ago and obviously it's back with a vengeance). | I was the perfect student in high school and my first year of college and this year I can't even get out of bed |
t3_28ow2r | relationships | Me [18 M] with my HighSchool GF [18 F] of 2 years, says "I want you to picture marrying me or not being with me, and if you cant picture marrying me, then don't bother" | Hey Reddit! This is my first post here on Reddit and I'm hoping for some positive feedback to help me out. My Girlfriend (Highschool sweetheart) and I have been dating for about 2 years now and we both currently are doing long distance at separate universities (UCSB & ASU). We managed to make it through the first year together but now that we are on summer vacation she already wants to start winding down so soon. I don't know what to tell her. Earlier today she sent me a message saying this "I want you to picture either marrying me or not being with me because it's one or the other in the end right? Because if you can't see yourself being actually committed to me and being faithful then don't bother but if you can then id really enjoy being with you... Im just scared and I don't want you to hurt me again."
When she says "hurt me again", While I was on spring break I cheated on her. I kissed another girl for about 20 minutes and she found out. Have I ruined the relationship completely? I don't want to think about marriage yet. Advice Reddit?
Thank you. | ADVICE REDDIT? I DONT WANT TO THINK ABOUT MARRIAGE JUST YET |
t3_j600n | AskReddit | What's your best "Oh shit, I almost died!" moment? | I'll start first I suppose. It was a trip to the desert with some buddies and we all have [prerunners] (*not my truck, I wish though...*), anyways... It was on the way back home after a good weekend out in Barstow (Gnarstow)and we decided to hit one last trail just for kicks. Me and my friend were racing side by the side on the dirt doing about 70-75mph when a wild turn appears out of nowhere. I decide it's a good idea to throw the truck sideways, Ken Block style. Well, to sum it up I was completely sideways going way too fast and pretty much thought I was going to die. Had I caught a rut or dip sideways going 70mph+ I probably would've rolled into oblivion. | I drifted my truck going 70mph+ on dirt and had a major **OH SHIT MOMENT** |
t3_13s1iv | relationships | Me [27m] my gf [25] of four years takes break and goes out with another guy | Me [27] and gf [25] were having relationship problems. Mainly we were living at my parents house because of money constraints and that took a toll. After four years of a great relationship she decides she wants to take a break. I refuse and tell her if we are gonna spend the rest of our lives together (like we each said we wanted) we had to work through these things together. She leaves anyway and I was sick over it. After about a month apart we started hanging out again.
She tells me she loves me more than ever when we get back together and that she made the biggest mistake of her life leaving me. I ask if she's been with anyone else and she promises me she hasn't. Now we've been back together for about two months and everything is as good as its ever been.
A couple nights ago I see an old friend I haven't seen an a year or so and he tells me he saw my gf out to dinner with another guy just a week after she took the break. When i confront her about it she immediately starts lying. Finally she tells me she just went out one time to clear her head because she was so upset. She's says she never looked at it as going out on a date.
So here I am with my heart broken twice in 3 months. I am having trouble believing her about this. Because how are you with someone for 4 years then a week later already with someone else? I just am having a hard time and i have no one to talk to. Any advice or insite is appreciated | gf of 4 years takes break and goes out with another guy a week later. Lies about it |
t3_mdhwz | AskReddit | What Should I Do With This Frozen Kitten in My Freezer? | I'm in college and I live with four other girls that are absolutely horrible with throwing old stuff out of the freezer/fridge away. Today, as I was rearranging the freezer, I found a dead kitten in a plastic bag in the back of the freezer. Honestly, I don't know what I should do with it. It's not mine, and of the four other roommates, it doesn't belong to two of them.
I heard one of my roommates jokingly talk about it, but I didn't get the hint of seriousness from her at all. She's Korean(as am I, but I don't eat cat... Koreans don't eat cats, you're thinking about the Chinese...), but I don't see how that might have to do with it at all.
I'm not sure if there are any laws about it where I live(Georgia), but I'm a little freaked out. | Frozen kitten in my freezer, what should my plan of action be? |
t3_36s5sc | personalfinance | I need advice I'm going to work abroad but have bills to pay!!! | Hi everyone.. Basically ive been offered a opportunity I can't pass up working as a mountain bike tour guide for 7 months. But the thing is I will only be earning money to survive while I'm over there and not enough to pay my bills back home (UK). I have a car on finance, a phone contract and a personal loan. What are my options? The only good thing is I can return to my job at home when I return which is good money. I do have 2 months to save but won't be able to save enough to cover 7 months of bills? | 7 months earning no money but still have bills to pay what are my options? |
t3_45l8sh | relationships | Me [24 F] with my crush [28 M] of a month or so, was I officially rejected? | I have a slight crush on this guy at the place where I box (he trains there and happens to live there too). We have talked a few times before and he would ask me for female insight on stuff (e.g. he works at a bar and was wondering why girls would give their number to him but wouldn't follow through afterwards).
I was chatting with him and asked about how the whole picking up girls at the bar was going. He said he had given up on that and was "throwing in the towel" for now. I mentioned how Valentine's day was coming up and he said he'll probably have to sit this one out.
So I jokingly offered to be his Valentine. He looked a little surprised and asked about what we would do. I was surprised by his response and shrugged a bit, suggesting a movie, like Deadpool, and we talked about how good it looks.
He walked away to do something in his room so I just talked to my trainer for a bit but then he comes back and comes over to me. He asks about what kind of job I have and I told him I was currently a grad student in SLP but doing my clinic placements now. He commented on how it must be rewarding to help people.
Then he said that he's going to be spending this Sunday with his sister and brother or something. I said that's fine and I'll probably just be training there again so he said, "Maybe I'll see you then".
I didn't really go in with the plan of asking him out so it came out really unclear on my end. I was also kinda joking and said it in a joking way so I'm a little surprised he took it as seriously as he did.
But was this an official rejection even though I didn't really ask in the most clear and official way? Should I just move on and forget about him? | Jokingly offered to be my crush's valentine which he seemed to take seriously and was possibly officially rejected? |
t3_2uchmq | relationships | I [24 M] have no idea of what intimacy is outside of sex. | I am going through a tough time in my life right now. I'm in college and working. For a while I thought I had my life together. School was going well, work was paying pretty well and I was satisfied with my job, I met the most amazing girl. Everything seemed so happy.
But over the last half year, I feel that I'm growing more and more depressed. I'm not doing well in school, I have lost my enthusiasm for my work, and even though I am still with this amazing girl, Things have gotten very rough between us. Though we both try to talk and work through it, I can feel that it's not working.
I feel more and more that it is because I have no idea what intimacy is outside of sex. I care for my girlfriend and I want to grow and be with her. But I don't know how to do that. Recently I am more and more insecure with myself and it is making things worse between her and me.
Overall, I am asking for advice on what intimacy is outside of sex and how I can grow to be a more intimate person. | I want to learn intimacy outside of sex though I have no idea what it means. |
t3_32tbxy | relationships | I'm 19M doubting my own sexuality. | Hay,
I'm a 19 Year old male, who's turning 20 very soon, my last Girlfriend was over 6 - 7 Months ago, which ended horribly.
The ending of my last relationship was very damaging to me mentally and emotionally. It still comes on my mind occasionally.
Recently I've been having uncomfortable moments, when i've doubted myself making me nervous and tense also causing me to feel very distracted from work & general life.
I've had moments when i've looked at other males and said there handsome, or good looking. I also had a moment when i was watching tv and commented that he's got a nice body, or on 1 occasion a nice bum. (these may seem silly but for me it causing me to have doubts). I feel like it happen more and more often. (or i could be over thinking)
During self pleasure (trying to put it nicely), i still think about girls, but there been these weird moments of lets say trigger memory when something relates to something else, and a name of male friend, or even mental image (not sexually) comes into my head causing me to have to shake it off and think otherwise. Which didn't happen before my break-up. I don't become stimulated by looking at man or the idea of it. I'll still find girls attractive, and be stimulated by it, but i also feel it happening less than i'm used to. It could be that i'm even reaching the end of puberty..
Please ignore the fact that this is a new reddit account, it just that it a very uncomfortable topic for me and i felt that i'd like to keep as private as possible.
Thank you | Should i be worrying about these doubts, or are they just small things that i'm overreacting to due to my breakup. |
t3_1iglkk | relationships | My (31m) girlfriend (20 something f) and I have an interesting problem that requires creative minds.... | So we've been dating for more than six months, I've known her for more than 8 years, this is the woman I'm going to marry.
The issue is our names. We both have the same first name, spelled differently. Other than the minor confusion it doesn't bother me at all. For her its a bit different. I'm very easygoing and very much a social butterfly. She tends to get a little more intimidated from social situations, and people tend to react when they learn we have the same name.
I think more than anything that extra attention bothers her.
Anyone ever run into this situation or have any creative ideas? I've already tried to think of solutions but haven't come up with anything great yet. | We have the same first name and need creative solutions. |
t3_2rdahn | relationships | Me [21m] am having difficult time deciding what step to take with [20f] | So, there's this girl and she is the most important person in my life. We dated for almost 2 years, and it was the most fun i've ever had. We broke up and we saw each other unofficially for a little bit but that just made things worse because we were't sure what to classify as. Ugh, labels.
After the unofficial fling we didn't talk for a while and she ended up dating someone else. (I think it's long distance...not sure and i don't really want to know who.) Once this happened i told her we should stop talking and seeing each other, out of respect for their relationship. I've been in situations where the current SO talks to their ex frequently and it really hurts, so i didn't want to intrude. It actually happened in our relationship, but thats another story.
We don't really talk anymore except a little exchange of texts on holidays and such. It's been a few months since we decided to stop talking and i've regretted it since. I just can't get over the new bf situation. We have a soulful connection and i've never experienced anything quite like it.
I love this girl and i want to spend time with her and talk to her and be with her, but i don't know if it's the right move to say "hey i fucked up and please don't move across the state." Oh yeah, she's moving and i feel like I'm part of the reason because she was extremely happy here. I feel like she is the one for me, but I'm scared and idk what to do anymore. | My ex has new SO so we cut communication. She didn't want it, but i insisted out of respect. I regret my decision, but am kinda scared and unsure of if i should even talk to her anymore. What are your thoughts? |
t3_2htkx9 | relationships | Me [22 F] with my SO [25 M] of over 4 months, dealing with my lack of strong feelings and his overwhelmingly strong ones | I started dating "Alex" right before I graduated college, he worked at a bar I favored, and I was weeks away from starting my dream job about an hour away.
Quick backstory: I've been fairly depressed for a long time as a side effect of a shitty poverty-filled childhood. I was stubbornly single for the better part of college. After graduating I felt that since I was becoming an adult, I should give relationships another try.
Predicting, correctly, that months in I would feel stuck and overwhelmed.
Part of it is that I have worked my ass off to get where I am, and will continue moving up and wherever I have to. Whereas Alex, didn't care for college and works in a kitchen, lives with his parents, with no plans to leave either situation. He is supportive of my work, but doesn't understand why I prioritize it higher than most things.
Recently I've started working 7 days a week 12/day with no time off until the end of the year, and his affection is just overwhelming. Whenever I try and sleep he wakes me up from what little sleep I get every two minutes showering me with "I cant believe I have you" or "I don't ever want to lose you" and demanding we are cemented to each other while sleeping.When I tried to not cuddle with him last night he freaked out and said, "Thats why I drove here" and forced me to him.
I feel like a huge jerk for being annoyed by his attention and compliments. I don't want to marry him, but I think he is convinced we're meant to be together.
I don't know what to do. :( | Boyfriend is overattentive and I'm more career driven. |
t3_xwj1v | AskReddit | Today I saw a guy hit by a car. What awful things do you have on your bucket list? | I was walking out of Tim Hortons and saw a guy walking across the street get plowed by a truck turning left. The guy went right up on the hood and rolled off when the truck came to a stop. The truck wasn't going fast and the guy was fine, taken by the driver to the hospital out of an abundance of caution. Seeing someone get hit by a car has always been on my bucket list because I was curious as to whether it looks like how it does on the movies, where they roll up onto the car and such. I know it is horrible, but I couldn't help myself thinking "Check that one off the list." What other things do people have on their list that they don't like to admit / things you have checked off? | Saw a guy hit by a car. Check it off the bucket list. |
t3_1x5nkw | relationships | I [20/F] don't know how to not be clingy. I don't care about anything in my life except my boyfriend [22/M]. | Basically the title sums it up. I hate my life, I don't care about anything I'm doing right now but I can't change my situation because I have one semester left of college and it would be foolish to drop out now. I couldn't care less about school or my job, I hate where I live and I have no one here who I matter to in any major way.
The only thing that doesn't suck is my boyfriend. This has led to me being very clingy and I know it needs to stop but I don't know how. He lives three hours away so I only see him every other weekend or so, but I get so anxious any time I'm not talking to him for more than a few hours and I drop anything and everything just to talk to him for a few minutes (on the phone, facetime, etc.). He actually has a life, and a job that doesn't totally suck, and friends, so obviously he doesn't spend all of his time talking to me. Honestly I don't even have anything to say half the time, I just want to know that he's still there and thinking of me. Its pathetic. I don't know what to do. | I don't care about anything except my boyfriend and it makes me clingy and anxious, but I'm going to lose him if I don't stop. Please help. |
t3_2hpapz | offmychest | I can't wait to start having kids | I wish I could understand it myself. Growing up, I knew I was expected to want a family but couldn't picture it. In my late teens & early 20's, I still couldn't picture it and somehow started to imagine myself happier without children.
But since I met him, fell in love with him, and we agreed to start our lives together, kids have been on my mind so much I even dream about them! I've never dealt with this before. I have no idea why I have the overwhelming urge to get pregnant but I do. What's more, I don't just want one child, I want a lot. Ideally, four would be wonderful. And a dog. And a cat.
Thankfully he loves and wants just as many children (and animals) as I do, but we both know we're simply not ready. And when we start we need a lot of money put down cause we plan to have them close together in age.
If my SO and I were not so busy, financially, vocationally and mentally occupied, I would suggest that we should start. I know I can't put that pressure on him right now though, I can't even do it to myself. Neither of us are able. We agreed to enjoy at least 5 - 8 years of marriage first but my ovaries don't seem to like that idea. I already consider myself old (26) for wanting to start a large family, and logically it really isn't a lot of time. | muh hormones. |
t3_1714rx | relationships | Should I tell my ex-roommate that I don't want to hang out with her? | Me: F, 21 Susan: F, 21
My freshman year of college I lived with a random girl. We were friendly, but not buddies, so she moved to a new dorm with her friends for sophomore year. I needed a new roommate, so I asked a girl (Susan) I had met a few weeks before the end of freshman year. I didn't know Susan well but she seemed nice and laid back and she needed a roommate too.
Living with Susan was awful. She was clingy and needy and I need my space — that's why I asked a near-stranger to be my roommate rather than a good friend. She was one of those girls who calls herself "real" and "honest" but really just has no tact. I started avoiding our room and Susan got super pissed at me, we had a huge fight. We patched it up for the last bit of sophomore year but I was not going to live with her again.
I moved in with some mutual friends of ours, still saw her occasionally since she was in our friend group, and all was fine. Flash forward a couple years and I'm getting married and moving to my fiance's home state and hometown. Guess what? Susan grew up 10 minutes from him and will be living there too. She's already contacted me and wants to be all best friend-y because I'm moving there. I just don't like her. Should I tell her I don't want to be friends? That sounds so mean. Just ignore her offers to hang out? | Ex-roommate wants to hang out all the time because I'm moving to where she lives (coincidentally). I dont want to be her friend. What should I do? |
t3_3zmk7g | relationships | My[22m] girlfriend[22f] denies sleeping with a guy[26m] before we started dating, I don't care too much about it, the lying however is getting to me. | My girlfriend and I were all friends for a long time before we actually started seeing each other. She lives with a bunch of other roommates and since a lot of us are in the same major we would often meet up to do homework/group projects together. I tried to make a move on her a long time ago, but she said she wasn't looking for anything at the time being.
During the time from then to know when we were dating there was this guy named Jake that started hanging out with us. Now for what's its worth in our small major he is probably one of the best looking guys there, and he supposedly has a really big dick. He ended up coming to one of their parties and I know that he and my gf (before we were dating) ended up going up to her room.
I ended up hearing from her roommates that she and Jake had really loud sex throughout the night. And that he spent the night with her a couple of times more.
After the whole ordeal I put some distance between me and that whole friend group. However surprisingly after I pulled away, a month later my gf actually reached out to me over fb and we started seeing each other.
I talked to her about what happened with her and Jake, she said that they just talked and he tried to make a move but she wasn't interested. And I asked why they went up to her room, and she said it was because it was just really loud downstairs.
To me I know what happened, it just bugs me that she is just flat out lying to me face. I just want her to be honest. I know its before us, and if she said she didn't want to talk about it that would be one thing. But flat out pretending it didn't happen pisses me off.
Is the dishonesty a redflag or should I just drop it? | girlfriend slept with this guy before seeing me and flat out denies it ever happened. |
t3_421cps | tifu | TIFU by tripping over a kid in a wheel chair then trying to be nice. | Today reddit, oh today, I have a story that is making cringe hours afterwards.
To preface, there is a guy at my school who we'll call Sammy. Now Sammy is a pretty nice guy, but he has a neurological problem, making him have to use this motorized wheel chair everywhere. He is a pretty awesome guy, but I am not very close with him. More of a friend of a friend.
So I was leaving my last class, when I trip over him right in front of me, and I tumble over him. But me being a compete klutz is the least of it. Me, in my infinite wisdom didn't see who I tripped over and I didn't register for some reason and automatically said "Oh my god! I'm sorry, do you need help up-" And right then I realize who I tripped over.
Once I said it, everything was in slow mo for a second. I slowly saw as his confusion turned to hysterical laughter. I still apologized and shit, but he informed me afterward the only pain he was feeling was his sides after he got finished laughing at my dumb ass. I don't care if he laughed it off or not, I'm still cringing.
Thank god he has a sense of humor. | Tripped over a kid with a neurological disorder in a wheelchair and asked him if he wanted help up, when he hadn't fallen. |
t3_dhhzm | GetMotivated | I just rode 50 miles on my bike! | So yesterday I decided to change my life. Break out of the circle of laziness. Since it was nice and sunny here in Seattle I went out with my cousin on Burke Gillman trail(27 mi). We started pretty easily because its fairly straight. Now the furthest we have ever been is to Kenmore from Seattle(14 mi). This time we kept pushing and pushing and pushing. We past Kenmore, Bothell, Woodnville, Redmond (where we had lunch break at an Indian restaurant.) We decided to finish the whole [circle] After lunch is the hardest part, we had to get back on I-90 to go back to Seattle. Luckily we found a nice half mile down hill and wide empty road. Once on I-90 trail there were some up hills but not much, we started taking more breaks and I actually walked my bike up one time too. We finally made it. I left home at 9:15 am and got back at 5:30 pm. My ass and legs and triceps are sore. But that's just an sign of my achievement. | I biked 50 miles in 7 hours(8 with breaks), passed through six cities and my triceps, legs and ass are pretty sore. Thanks for all the motivation! |
t3_2onxyi | relationship_advice | x-post from r/TwoXChromosomes- I [22F] feel like an asshole for considering what I want in a relationship [23M] | I [F, 22] have been with my boyfriend [M, 23] for about three months now (dated for almost that long before we became exclusively BF & GF and been friends for almost three years). Very early in the relationship he told he that he is completely inflexible on his stance of waiting until marriage to have sex (or anything more intense than making out, really) and I (withholding my discontent) said I would respect that. Some even more far removed back-story is that I stopped taking my birth control back in March of this year after having been on it constantly for about 9 years. My sex drive then could possibly have been in the negatives, and though I was upset about that, I thought it was normal for my body. Now here I am about 10 months later and I feel like a sex-fiend. I want to screw anything all the time. My hormones are so whack that I have a [dark line that runs down my belly] (No, I'm not pregnant. I haven't gotten laid since May-ish.) Anywho, I've just recently been offered several hook-ups and I'm heavily considering them. My boyfriend says he feels just as attracted to me and wants to help me out, but that would be against his principles. I'm starting to think I shouldn't get any more bogged down in this current relationship if I won't be getting what I want out of it. My man is fantastic and a beautiful person and more of a romantic than I ever knew anyone could be but I can't put what I want out of my mind and I can't put it on the backburner. Am I just being a dick? | I want the D, but my amazing man can't/won't give it up. Thinking of breaking it off now before we get too invested. Would like advice. |
t3_197x29 | travel | Going on a trip with my class next year, any tips? | So I am studying engineering in Sweden and my class has decided that we want to take a trip in our last year of upper secondary school (is it called that 16-19 years of age). We get some contributions from our school if we go somewhere and making a visit to a place where we can look at some new technology as well, like visiting the indoor ski resort in Dubai.
The only real suggestion we have had is Dubai, do you think this would be a good idea, what things are there to do for entertainment that will be? Everyone who is going will be 18 years or older.
Are there any other cool countries/cities to visit, as we live in Sweden the only real demand is that it should be quite warm as we are tired of the cold climate here. | What is a cool place to visit with your engineering class (18 year olds), the place has to have some possibilities to make a technical related "field trip"? |
t3_yr9wu | AskReddit | Yesterday I flooded the toilet at a new friend's house. What's the most embarrassing thing that's happened to you, Reddit? | I had just met this person a few days before, and she invited me over for dinner with some of her friends. I had to take a huge dump, and I wanted to wait until I got home, but I just couldn't hold it in any longer. I clogged the toilet, and it started to overflow, spewing sewage and used toilet paper ALL OVER this poor lady's bathroom. Being the sweet person that she is, she insisted that she'd clean it up by herself, and sent us all home. I felt like shit afterwards. Please tell me you have stories that are more embarrassing than this. | Shit volcano all over a woman's nice bathroom. |
t3_lulp3 | AskReddit | If I beat a restraining order, can it take out a restraining order against me for the assault? | So I just had a temporary restraining order taken out against me by my sister's ex-husband. I have no idea on what grounds he obtained the restraining order but it's clear he only did so because as of late I've been functioning as chauffeur for my sister (who doesn't have a license) when she needs to pick up her son from his house.
I know his intention is just to cripple her mobility and make her more dependent on him since she kicked his abusive ass to the curb. I have no money, no resources and according to the internets I'm very well fucked.
Now I may be a big scary looking guy but truth be told I've never thrown a fist without rolling 1D3 points of non-lethal damage first and I sure as hell couldn't muster a verbal threat with out tripping over my own tongue.
Just found out about the restraining order via my sister, still haven't received any paperwork.
What the fuck do I do?
*If there is anyone in the Milwaukee area who possesses a law degree or level IX wish that's interested in helping please, please throw me an email. Maybe I can do some landscaping for you. | Um restraining order, need help....honestly if you can't read a couple paragraphs you should probably mosey on back to /r/pics. |
t3_39t293 | relationship_advice | I [19/m] am considering to break up with my GF [19/f] due to her job as a model. | I started dating this girl after we spent the New Year's Eve together this year. I've met her a few times before, and I was aware that she has done some modeling work in the past since her friend told me, but considering that almost anyone is a "model" nowadays, I didn't pay much attention and I pretty much told myself that I would try anyways. We hit it off and everything was almost too awesome until now. We've been dating for almost half a year now (I know it's a quite a short time when it comes to relationships) and I think I'm starting to stop wearing rose-colored glasses.
Basically, the problem is that I think I can't see how this could possibly work out. There is more than one layer to this and all the problems I think are on my part. From the start we saw each other maybe once, occasionally twice a week due to school (as we were both finishing high school and applying to universities) and I was hoping that we would see each other much more during the summer break. Unfortunately for me, her career is starting to lift off immensely and she's traveling left and right to go for castings, runway shows, photoshoots and such. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for her as she's really enjoying it, but if it continues to go like this and she will be going to foreign countries for 2 or 3 months like models usually do, I have no idea what to do.
Second problem for me is that I feel just subpar next to her. She doesn't make me feel like this intentionally, she's sweet and loving and I feel like she absolutely adores me the same way I adore her, but I was always a nerdy fugly child as I was growing up and I worked really hard for the image I have right now (whether it's style, physique, skin...) and because of that I developed an affection for fashion. I always wanted to work in that field and you might say I envy her a lot 'cause she was "born" a model and everything just comes to her (she was scouted, basically they came to her and asked her to be a model). | Due to my self-esteem being shit and not being able to lead a LDR for a while I'm throwing away potentially perfect relationship. Any advices to either find a compromise or fix my approach would be appreciated. |
t3_2qqb9f | relationships | Me [19M] jealous/angry at my best friend [19M] for taking ex-gf to fraternity formal, am I overreacting? | My group of friends are back home from college for winter break, and I just found out from a friend that my best friend took my ex to a fraternity formal this past year.
It's been almost a year and a half since the breakup (end of senior year in high school), but it was a REALLY REALLY bad breakup - nearly destroyed me. Got 3 c's that semester after being a straight A student in high school, cut off communications for a while, fucked up freshmen fall semester of college because still wasn't over it.
Am I overreacting to all of this? Right now, I am really angry more so than jealous because my best friend knows the kind of damage she did to me, won't get into specifics but she fucked me up pretty bad. I am confident that I'm completely over her now, but its just the fact that everyone in my friend group seemed to know except me, and I'm kind of too scared to ask more details about the night. My best friend and I tell each other EVERYTHING, was this something he just thought wasn't important? | Best friend in high school took my ex-gf to his fraternity formal, don't know details of the night because too scared to find out, do I have a right to be mad at him? |
t3_2qhwn5 | travel | HELP!!! Passport was accidentally donated this morning, my flight leaves Tuesday! | So I arrived home at my parents house after an 8 hour drive and put my things by the front door. This year my parents decided to put a donation bin by the front door as well. I just found out that my mom put my backpack outside for donation pickup last Tuesday, so it is officially gone. This backpack had my passport, clothes, and all of my (replaceable) medicine. I have contacted the donation service, but they are closed since it is the day after Christmas, along with through the weekend.
I am supposed to be flying this Tuesday (Dec. 30th) from SFO -> Bangkok. I called the National Passport Agency in S.F. and the automated service said they are booked until the 31st, so i booked an appointment just in case all else fails. Is there anything that I can do to get a passport before I leave? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!! | Parents accidentally put my backpack and passport out for curbside donation pickup. Flight leaves Tuesday, nothing is open until Monday. |
t3_1y8p10 | relationships | Don't know how to feel or act/respond... | I (34m) have been with my wife (27f) for 7 years, married 6 years. We have a 2 and a half year old daughter.
Our marriage has had its rough times due to her emotional issues and mood swings. There were times when I wanted to give up on our marriage but wouldn't. Often when she got mad she would throw in my face that we shouldn't be together because she knew how much saying that hurt me.
I just found out that she has been taking pills excessively for nearly 2 years. I never had an idea nor thought she would do that. Drugs wasn't something in our life. We barley drink at at all, maybe 3-4 times a year. She's been lying about the money she made at work (she's a server and my second job is in a restaurant that the servers are doing poorly) and lying about where some of my money went (she often helped out her father which I never minded as he's always helped me out.
I was so insanely angry when I found out. I've been working two jobs and doing nothing but working to support my family and coming home spending time with my daughter. I haven't spent much time with my friends as my wife has been moody and needy for a while. I use to commit just Tuesday evenings to my friends (they are like family since I have no other family).
Since I found out on Sunday night I've been supportive about her going and she just left for the airport and is going to be gone for 28 days.
I don't know how to feel or how to act. I feel angry, hurt, and betrayed. Its not just in-regards to me but to my daughter too. I want to be angry and mad at her and want to tell her and make sure she knows about how hard its been because of her and this, how much pain and hurt and how much better my daughters life could have been. But at the same time I understand she's an addict, she is my wife, and I do love her.
I don't know where to go from here..... | found out my wife has been taking pills excessively for 2 years; an emotional mess with conflicting feelings and don't know what to do. |
t3_1pv3x6 | relationships | Me [25 F] with my BF [26] of 1yr & 7 months, he's back from deployment and isn't acting like himself. What to do? | As the title says, he just got back from deployment and has been acting differently. In his words, he is numb to everything. He hasn't been receptive to my feelings, he has been really stand-offish, and has been a jerk towards me.
Examples of some of the things he has done.
He told me not to touch his leg, he tried saying it in a joking manner but it bothered me. He walked out the store while I was paying for my purchase, it's not something he normally does.
We had talked about this issue and I did get emotional about it, I cried. He explained he doesn't fully know why he feels this way but believes it has to do with being on deployment. Seeing the same people day in and day out, his new position has been really stressful, and some incidents that happened while he was out has really got to him. Also, the fact that he barely got to relax before having to go right back to work.
He also expressed that he was slightly irritated with the fact that everyone wanted to see him and all he really wanted was some alone time. He completely understood why I wanted to see him and was happy that I wanted to. I told him he could of just asked for some alone time and I would of totally understood, he didn't feel that was right thing to do. I am a completely understanding person, it wouldn't of bothered me at all if he was to ask that.
The reason I got emotional about his change in behavior is because I know I didn't deserve any of it, another is that I am just concerned that he will continue to act this way. I do not like the way he is acting, he is being really hard on himself. Another reason this has really got to me is that I am afraid that it will change the relationship we have together. I care about him so much, I just hope he gets better.
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My question is, is this normal for someone to be this way after deployment? What can I do to help? Do I just give it time? | Bf is back from deployment and is acting distant, what advice can you give to help the situation? |
t3_18lek3 | dating_advice | I (21m) hooked up with a girl (18f) at my birthday party last Friday but want more. | X-post from /r/relationships. was told to re-post here. So I'll go into more detail and really tell you guys the whole story.
So the situation is that we were both drunk (obviously) at my 21st birthday party and we hooked up and ended up sleeping together that night. I waited a couple days and texted her back and told her that really enjoyed spending time with her. she replied with "I would love to see you again" and "can't wait to see you". so we texted for a few days and found out that we have a lot in common.
So my only free night/day this week was valentines day but i thought it would be weird to go on full blown date on valentines day. plus she already had plans with her girlfriends. so we just went out for lunch and it went well we talked for a good hour and a half. But I'm really awkward (some girls think it's adorable, some don't) and didn't really know how to handle the goodbye so that was a little weird but overall it went well. However, the main problem I'm seeing is that I seem to be the one who is always initiating things. Texts, plans, etc...
She did just recently break up with her first boyfriend and they had dated for roughly 6 months. I was initially intended to be a random hook-up but it didn't seem that way at the time nor does it seem that way now. i just don't want to push her into starting something with me too fast if she's not ready or if she doesn't even have feelings for me that way. | I suppose the main issue is, how do i help progress things with this girl that I've only known for a week, had sex with, and who has just recently got out of her first relationship? I was thinking of really showing her that I'm interested by taking her out on a date ( i had dinner and ice skating downtown in mind) Or should i wait and see how our relationship progresses by just hanging out. I feel like that's just asking for friend zone though. |
t3_2omht4 | relationships | Me [18F] and ex-boyfriend [18M], 3 months, he dumped me and wants to be friends - opinion? | I asked this guy out and we were together for around three and a half months. This was both our first relationship. At first he seemed super into it, although I often had to initiate.
Around halfway through the relationship, he started to withdraw and I sensed that things weren't working out. I also noticed him hanging out with this chick who has a reputation. He's super socially awkward so I didn't know what was up with that.
I took it upon myself to ask if I was being strung along or not - he said he thought we were better as friends (which I partially agree with, if only for the fact that he was a lot more proactive as a friend). It was a respectable breakup, I didn't mention the girl and we were cool about it. He really stressed us staying friends afterwards.
We're classmates, so No Contact isn't an option, although I'm doing Limited Contact as much as possible. I thought I was in love with him, but I feel generally okay about moving on at this point (a couple days after).
I'm just stuck on whether I want him out of my life, or if I want to try to stay his friend. I have conflicting feelings with respecting myself and my boundaries vs. losing him completely (if I haven't already).
He sort of acts like nothing has happened in class. When I was pretty much silent the other day, he took it upon himself to try to initiate a conversation that I didn't maintain aside from basic politeness.
I don't know what to do here. | Dude dumped me, wants to be friends, I don't know what to do. |
t3_25khxu | relationships | Me [17 M] with my EX [17 F] 2 years, I can't stop thing about my ex and her new boyfriend having sex NSFW | Basically me and my GF where together for 2 ears and loved each other a lot one day without really any warning she told me that because of the distance (we are sort of long distance more just mid distance but being in school only get weekends) that she felt like I was only her boyfriend on weekends and that she had started falling for another guy, anyway we broke up and about a week later she is with him. Now thats not what my problems is I am dealing with that and who knows maybe we will even get back together.
my problem is I cannot stop fantasising over her and her new boyfriend fucking and I imagine it constantly it both turns me on weirdly and makes me feel horrific inside as she is fucking someone else.
It has gotten to the point where I know he is round at 1:00 and I see her go off facebook for 1 hour then post something then go off again I just can't stop thinking that he has just fucked her (she used to most of the time check facebook whilst we where cuddling after sex).
I also masturbait to pictures of her she sent me from when we went out (nude) along with pictures of her and him together I know its wrong I just don't know how to stop.
I don't know how to stop it please help. | Break up with 2 year GF she gets new BF and I can't stop imagining them fucking it both turns me on and makes me feel horrific. |
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