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t3_2e27ye | legaladvice | [Las Vegas NV] I've been locked out of my office and denied access to equipment needed for work for 6 months. | Hi Thanks for taking your time to read and respond:
Background; I am a tenet for both residential and commercial from same company.
****We had issues with residential tenancy there were several violations from cutting off essential services. Disputes over rent even though there accounting shows I paid more than they say has been owed and there is also right to enter violations along with endangerment of my family by not removing a violent cat from property and fire hazard. That I had to pay to get fixed. (I was victorious in defending myself in these matters)**
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Also a matter against same person over unpaid labor for work done for them even though they paid for hardware costs just refused to pay labor for over $10000 of work performed.
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The big issue currently is their refusal to allow me to get my equipment needed to do job by not allowing me to remove it out of there building. I was working out of their building under the agreement of giving them 15% of profits.****
For 6 months while we were in court on the residential issue. They refused to allow me access to remove my tools and equipment needed to work (in an effort
I believe to limit my access to funds if I needed to hire lawyer).
How do i go about getting compensated for loss of income due to refusal to allow me into office. Rent was current till they locked me out of their when i filed answer to their 5 day. | I got myself in bed with bad landlord and need advice on getting out. |
t3_11w81k | relationships | I [F18] do not know where my relationship with my best friend [M18] is going and I don't know what to do. | I started dating my best friend about four months ago. Everything was fine, we were happy and I had zero regrets about crossing the just friends line. Lately, we seem to be having a fall out or something. In the past month or so, the amount that we talk has greatly decreased. He used to be excited to talk to me and want to talk to me, but now if I even try to start a conversation I just feel like I'm annoying him, but if I don't talk to him first I feel like we'd ever talk. It hurts a lot because I still look at him as my best friend and I still feel how I did in the beginning. Except, I'm often sad or disappointed with him and I can't help but be moody. Just 2 days ago he told me he thinks I'm too sad in this relationship and that maybe we need to take a break. I don't even know what taking a break means, but I think taking a break is honestly the last thing I want to do. I am sad, but it's not my fault, I just feel like he doesn't give a shit about me anymore and don't know what to do about it. He promised me we'd talk about it and when I tried to he brushed it off, then proceeded to ignore me all day. This was yesterday. Today we're at school and he saw me first thing. He waved to me and then left. Without one word, which isn't normal for us. I'm so upset and don't know what to say to him or what to do with this and I can't talk to him because I just feel annoying. I just need some help or something. | dating my best friend, he doesn't seem to care about me anymore and it makes me upset. He thinks I'm too sad for this relationship and suggested a break. I don't know what to do. |
t3_3aj70a | relationships | I [26m] don't know if I should break up with my girlfriend [24f] of 4+ years | A little backstory first-
When we met, she had thousands in credit card debt ($5k+). I have always been good with money. I taught her good habits, and she erased this debt in months. She was finishing college, so I was the main one paying bills for most of the relationship. After a couple years, I left her in charge of the finances and paying bills. I would just occasionally ask "how much do we have saves up" as I only saw my own accounts, didnt bother with hers.
Now the problem-
A couple days ago, I found out she had been lying to me for about a year. Turns out, she had been spending recklessly, and now has around $15k in credit card debt. It started off as one card, and she kept getting the limit extended. During her last semester in school, she had maxed out her student loans. Got another card and maxed it. Hid all of this from me, and flat out lied about how much we had saved.
To make matters worse, she let me make decisions on the premise that we had money. A friend's house burned down. I donated over a thousand dollars that we didnt have. We just moved into a house, with higher rent, and bought all of this furniture with money we didn't have.
Now the kicker-
I work in the financial services industry. If my personal finances are not in good standing, I could lose my job. If i had married her and she had this debt, i would lose my job.
She's been out of school and teaching for over half a year. We can pay our bills with just one of our salaries. We've lived together for years. Now I don't feel like I can trust her. I've always told her, mistakes are okay, just let me know about them. This is a problem I could have solved. I'm disappointed she let this happen, but I'm mad she didnt tell me. I don't know if I should stay with her or not. | Live in GF of 4+ years told a big lie for a year that is worse than cheating to me |
t3_gziga | AskReddit | Why do people that do not own Apple products hate them so much? | For a long time now, I have wondered why people that do not own Apple products contiually talk shit about them and how much they hate them. They scream and rant about things like Apple being too expensive, locking users out, presenting their products as "better than" counterparts. All of this to me sounds like a company that thinks of themselves as a premium developer and supplier of a certain product, no different than Audi as opposed to VW.
It's all about preference and ultimately is up to the consumer. If you hate something because you do not own it and would rather own something else, you're a fanboy. Plain and simple. If you don't like something because you have previously owned it and opted to choose something else, you're a shopper. Apple does something that I can appreciate and that is driving the market further.
Imagine how shitty it would be if there was no competition? Has anyone played Madden in the past 5 years? | People hate things (like Apple) that do nothing more than push the products they like to better things. |
t3_2cybff | relationships | Me [17F] with my ___ [17 M] 1.5 years, thoughts on open relationship | My ex and I were together for a year and sometime when things became difficult and draining, being in high school, with a job and having a boyfriend that a few hours away led to too much stress. We broke up a few months back although continued to speak.
We have both tried seeing other people, we havent had the opportunity to talk in person since although we do talk daily. He had expressed his thoughts on still moving in together after school.
So for know Im not sure what to do, neither one of us wants to go back to long distance if we want the same end result there must be a compromise.
I have spoken to a few couples who are in open relationship in town and have heard different opinions on it. I am aware that there are pros and cons to open relationships, and that communication is vital.
I'm stuck in a place whether its move on or compromise. | Thoughts on open relationships for teens doing long distance. |
t3_wo991 | AskReddit | I moved into a new apartment yesterday and the previous owners said that we could keep some of the things they didn't want to move. While I was at work they came back and took the things without asking. Does this count as theft? | So before moving in the previous residents had 3 couches, a coffee table, and a dining room table with chairs they did not want. They offered to sell them to us but they were all in pretty poor condition (except for the table and chairs) so we declined but said we would keep them because we are on the second floor and they did not want to move them. They decided to take the table and chairs but leave the rest. On the day I moved in they came by to get the table. I left for work but the landlord was there. While I was at work they decided to take everything without asking or informing me.
The landlord told me all of this when I got home to my empty apartment. I wouldn't be too upset over this except I found out that the mother of the previous renters was angry we didn't offer to buy the furniture and convinced her son to put it in storage. My question is does this count as theft because when they took the furniture it was in my apartment? | Old rentees came back to apartment and took furniture they said we could have without asking. I'm petty and want to do something about it. |
t3_hsa4d | AskReddit | Is it okay for a grad student to ask out undergrads that were in the class he TA'ed for? | OK, so here's the deal. I'm currently a single first-year graduate student in chemistry, and like most first-year science grad students I had to work as a teaching assistant for my first year. During the second and third quarters, there were a couple of girls in my class who I found really attractive (physically, mentally, socially), and who seemed interested in me at least as a friend. (Sadly, I have the typically male inability to distinguish between interest as a friend and interest as a mate without straight-up asking the girl.) Hence I'd like to date them - one at a time, I'm not greedy or anything...
Of course, there's a bit of a snag. Clearly, asking them out during the term was very much off limits - TAs are forbidden by university (and basic moral) policy from dating students, especially when they're responsible for grading that student's performance in the class. However, the term's coming to a close, so they'll no longer be off limits.
I'm still not entirely comfortable with asking them out, though (hell, I'm not comfortable asking *any* girl out, but this is a special case). Does the fact that I was once in that teacher role mean that they'll always look at me in that role - as an academic superior, rather than a potentially dateable equal? And if I do ask them out, how do I avoid it coming across as "hey, I've been suppressing an urge to jump down your pants all quarter"? Yet I can't wait too long, or I'll just become "that one random TA from that course I took last year." Any thoughts? | grad student wants to date undergrad who was his student this term. Is this OK? |
t3_mpb6e | AskReddit | Reddit, my friend was fired from his job unfairly. What can he do? | My 22 year old friend has been working at the local Goodwill for almost a year now. He moved up from a sales associate to an assistant manager in the span of several months due to his exceptional work ethic. Because of this, several older employees complained to the manager because they thought he was giving my friend an unfair advantage (my friend is black). About two months ago, my friend came down with a bad kidney infection and had to stay in the hospital for over a week. Just yesterday, his old manager moved cities and was replaced with a new one, who promptly fired him over his tardies during the time in which he stayed at the hospital, as well as a tardy he received in the first month of working at Goodwill. So basically, he got fired for being tardy in the past, on the new manager's first day of work at this Goodwill. Were his grounds for being fired reasonable/just, and if not, is there anything he can do about it? Any and all advice would be very helpful reddit. | Friend got fired from his job on the first day of the new manager's shift for tardies that occurred months ago. |
t3_30bsm1 | relationships | Why do I (20F) always seem to be "the other woman"? | I am a 20-year-old girl who's had very little experience with serious relationships. I have some issues with commitment and I'm just generally not very emotional. This combination, though, has made it possible for me to enjoy plenty of casual sex since I was 16, when I discovered that I really liked hooking up... a lot. Mostly with older men who were in college or even older. One thing that bothered me is that they often had girlfriends, especially the ones that I had on-going sexual relationships with for months on end.
The fact that they were someone's boyfriend is not what bothered me -- it's the fact that it DIDNT bother me. In fact, I get some sort of satisfaction when I get the opportunity to seduce a man who I know is taken, and succeed. Even more so when I keep them coming back for more. I have no idea why this is and I kinda wanna understand what the hell is wrong with me. I also want to understand why men choose ME to be their side chick. I'm not wondering why they're not dumping their girlfriend for me, I'm wondering why I am the girl they choose to betray their girlfriends with. Is it because I'm available, easy sex, or because I'm good (according to them), or something else? I just wanted opinions on why this might be... Thanks. | guys often choose me to cheat on their girlfriends with, and I don't really mind. I want to understand why both happen. |
t3_4628q4 | relationships | My gf [19 F] broke up with me [19m] because she thinks I was just in it for sex. We were together about 7 months | At first she told me she wasn't happy and she needed a change. I left her alone after she said that. I was devastated all day yesterday.
Then at almost 1am she texted me, probably not expecting me to be awake, saying that if I'm sad about anything it's because she was letting me fuck her(her words). And I'm a boy and I got what I wanted. She doesn't want me, and that she won't be accepting my calls or texts anymore (even though I hadn't talked to her sense she broke up with me earlier yesterday).
Now I responseded immediately because I fell head over heels for her and it upset me that she thinks I was just in it for sex, which really makes no sense at all.
After we had sex she thought I would leave her right after and I didn't. Then we did it a few more times after and she thinks that's all I wanted. Completely forgetting the first half of outlr relationship.
I can't have her think like that. If she's not happy, do be it, but it's not fair for her to put me through all this and then convince herself I'm an asshole who doesn't even care. | she broke up with my by text then hours later accused me of using her for sex when I'd fallen in love. I want her to know thats why l was with her. Not sex |
t3_32h46t | relationships | Me [32 M] with my SOish [22 M] of 2 years, how to tell him good bye when he leaves after college | Summer 2014 after being together for over a year, we break up in a fight when he reminds me he's leaving the country in 10 months (when he graduates) and then says he doesn't want to continue a relationship when that happens so we should just end it now.
2 months go by and we start dating again but he insists he isn't trying to get back into a relationship, so we won't call ourselves boyfriends.
Cut to now. He's been asking if I'm going to visit and mentioning staying in touch. Which I would be all for if we were going to continue having a relationship, but the reason he broke up with me was he wanted to 'leave everything behind' and start fresh. So, my guess is that we would be friends when he leaves. I would like to visit him, but my plan was just to date him until he leaves. Say good bye and move on. Of course I would *like* to go visit him, but I don't think I'm ready for 'just friends' and visiting him as the ex is somewhat odd to me. I would like to have the option open though because it's always nice to have someone you know in another country.
But I'm not really ok with this flip flop about not wanting to continue and then yet wanting me to visit. How do I tell him I don't have plans on visiting him or being in contact with him once he leaves? Or should I just leave it be and let it fade out like it inevitably will anyway? My preference would definitely be to continue a relationship, but I'm 90% sure he's not interested in that anymore. | Guy I'm dating is leaving the country. He wanted to not stay in touch, now he does, and I'm not sure I'm cool with that. What do? |
t3_2fizd9 | relationships | I [21M] am struggling to call it off with her [21F]. | We've been together just over a year, and things have been pretty great. We mostly stayed together for the past six months and it actually worked really well. A month ago, I moved into a better living arrangement and am staying at my place more. I've also gotten back into classes, and have in general seen a lot of big changes in my life lately. I find myself craving to see what this life would be like single.
I feel awful for that, obviously. She's amazingly devoted and always kind, but too future-oriented for me. I feel bad for not meeting her levels of commitment, but also feel that if I'm only doing it out of obligation, it might have been better to call it off instead. I know marriage isn't on the table for me, and she has been very clear that it's important to her.
I tried to break up with her, but I didn't handle her reaction well. She compromised to not talk about the future, but I know that that's something that's important to her, and I can't give it to her. I don't know how to explain to her that I love and care for her, but I don't think we're right for each other.
That was about a week ago, and she's terrified I'm going to break up with her and is desperately trying to avoid it. So now the pressure is on, and I'm not sure how to approach the situation. | How do I get across the point that I love and care for her, but I don't want to be in this relationship anymore? |
t3_40p714 | relationships | I [21 F] was a terrible human being, treated ex roommates [21 F] very badly, how to move on? | Last year I roomed with multiple other girls my age(we did not know each other beforehand) and I was the worst roommate. I had mental health and drug issues that werent treated at the time and I was erratic and psycho. I stole food, came home high out of my mind daily, sold drugs, broke things(like plates) and couldnt remember breaking them. And i was horribly messy. And i denied most of it and got yelled at frequently.
I still realized that this wasnt working out and tried a few roommate mediations but ultimately i decided i needed to switch units, because i was trying to accomodate but like I said, mental health issues. They were nice about it because they could see I was trying but im sure they were glad to see me gone.
The next unit i transferred to was actually worse because the other roommates werent as nice as the previous ones and there was a lot of backstabbing etc, and i called the police one time when things came to a head. One girl tried to get me arrested. We got into a fight. We all legit tried to get each other kicked out, it was a crazy house. I was still engaging in my previous bad roommate behaviors...
I switched units again(within the same complex) and it was a lot better with the new roommates we got along for the most part. I had to get pulled out to the hospital and get professional help then and thats how i got better and not crazy.
Havent contacted with anyone since i moved out.
Basically this is a very small college town and im going to run into one/some of them again eventually . One is in a similar major as me. i feel like what i did/that time was way too traumatizing to apologize and that everyone would like to rather forget about it. I do feel badly abot it. No one deserved the mess that i was. I dont know how I should proceed as I'm also rather worried abot bumping into them. | basically how do i deal with having been a horrible person and what happens when i inevitably run into an ex roommate I treated horribly? Do i apologize? |
t3_f0kti | AskReddit | My new HDTV has darks spots should I return it or have it fixed and get a 20% refund? | I bought a 40" Samsung LCD TV from Amazon 2 weeks ago for $650. Got it home set it up watched one movie on it, looked fine. I was going to start calibrating it. The first thing I did was grab a white JPG image, put it on a USB drive, and viewed it full screen on my TV. I find out I have 10-12 little black spots on my screen. So I grab my microfiber cloth and try to wipe it off, no go. So it's a screen problem I assume. It's not dead pixels though, they are little 1/8" dark spots.
I called Samsung first they said they can send someone out to fix it, I decide to call Amazon because I know I have a 30 day return/price match policy. Amazon doesn't have the TV in stock anymore (LN40C630) so their options are return for a full refund or keep it, have Samsung fix it, and they will refund 20% of the price which comes out to $130. | Do I save $130 and have to deal with the headache of getting my brand new TV fixed or return it for a full refund? |
t3_4lejid | relationship_advice | Dealing with my difficult, narcissistic sister [24F] while I [19F] live with her. | I'm in college, and my sister graduated two years ago. During the summers, I move back in with my parents, and my sister lives here year round.
I've always had a spotty relationship with my older sister, as has probably everyone else in our immediate family. She's great when she's in a good mood, but an absolute devil when she wants to be (often). What I mean by narcissistic in the title is that she's quite selfish--she talks constantly about her own issues in life, but couldn't care less when you try to talk to her about yours. She's also extremely grouchy/sensitive and will snap at you at a moment's notice for seemingly nothing. Example: if she asks you to do something for her from another room and you say you're busy, she will call you every name in the book. If she asks you a question and you say you don't know, she will call you a bitch. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells with her constantly because I never know when she's going to overreact next. Just an hour ago I had a very important Skype meeting with someone and I was talking a little loudly without realizing it. Instead of politely coming in and asking me to lower my voice, she goes straight to calling me a bitch and a c-word very loudly so the person I'm talking to can hear. I was so embarrassed and texted her to tell her that was completely unacceptable and she had no reason to react in that way. No response.
At this point I don't know if I can ever have a relationship with her or get her to change. Dealing with her is exhausting, and while I have love for her at a base level, I honestly wouldn't care much if I didn't have a relationship with her. Oftentimes when she speaks to me these days I just don't even want to engage because I know how the conversation will end up. How do I deal with her blowups? Do I even engage with her? Is it possible to have no relationship with her even though we live in the same house? | Sister is selfish and overreacts to things. She often has blowups over nothing. Not sure how to deal with said blowups and how I can manage my relationship with her while we live together. Not sure if I can just cut her off. |
t3_34v9pf | relationships | How to approach sex after a breakup? | I [23M] broke up with my [22F] girlfriend about 3 weeks ago for a multitude of different reasons (relationship wasn't working, we have become different people, lifestyles don't coordinate). At first it was not mutual but I was talking to her last night over coffee and it's becoming more mutual and she is seeing that the breakup was a good thing.
One of the issues in our relationship was I was never really satisfied sexually. I slept with a girl that I was friends with last week. I'm not really sure how to feel about everything.
Over the weekend we talked about what we want this to be and I made it clear I was looking for nothing serious. She was okay with that especially since we both might be moving out of the city this summer to attend different universities.
I still care about my ex deeply but we both know the relationship hasn't, and won't work.
I can feel myself getting a little attached to this other girl but I'm cautious enough to know when to distance myself because I don't want to run from my emotions. Should I just break it off or would it be okay to continue to casually see each other? | Broke up with ex 3 weeks ago, slept with different girl last week, don't want to run from emotions, should i break it off or is casual sex okay as long as I'm honest with myself? |
t3_2vh86k | tifu | TIFU by sniffing my girlfriend's panties | This story takes place about 2 years ago whilst my girlfriend and I are hiking the Appalachian trail. We have been hiking for about a month and are somewhere in North Carolina. After a long 5 day trek through the woods without any signs of civilization we decide to stop at a backpackers hostel for a much needed shower and some good food we didn't have to carry ourselves.
After booking a bunk bed my girlfriend immediately goes to take a shower, and I volunteer to do our laundry. Both of our entire wardrobes can easily be done in a single load so I gather up our clothes, disrobe down to a dirty bathing suit and headed to the laundry room with a bundle of VERY smelly clothes.
It is at this point that I should let you know that I have a weird 'habit' of smelling each piece of laundry, individually, before chucking it into the washer. I have always done this, and for whatever reason I enjoy putting myself through the fun of having to whiff all the terrible smells I have cooked up over the previous week. I know its fucking odd, but ya that's what I do. So I start tossing our laundry in piece by piece, sniffing it piece by piece and finally I get to her... lets call them hiking underpants for women. Holding them at arms length I can already detect a special scent wafting off of them. I know I shouldn't, but I say to myself 'this is love' and inhale deeply. OH GOD the smell. I'll never forget. It was like someone took some road kill, squeezed the juice out of it into a cup, squirted some lemon on it, and then threw it in your face and some of it got in your mouth. I truly wish I had never done that. | I sniffed my girlfriend's underwear after she had spent 5 days backing in them. |
t3_2qyysy | relationships | I [19 M] don't know how I should handle the relationship with my friend. [18 F] I want to let her go but need some advice? | I basically like my best friends girlfriend. We used to be so close. Now, however, we're drifting apart a bit. We know everything about each other and have helped each other through so much. I've liked her for about 9 months, but I know it's not right. I value my friendship with my bestfriend far more.
She's told me that she never wants to become "my bestfriends girlfriend" to me, she wants us to be close and never have a restricting line between us because she has a boyfriend, but for me, she's devolving into merely what she didn't want, my bestfriends girlfriend.
Now, I'm starting to be really dry and stern to her via social media, and I don't want to see her in real life (but we're in the same class.. unavoidable) because I don't want to keep these feelings I have for her.
Can I get some advice on how to handle this? | I like my best friends girlfriend but value my friendship with my friend more. How do I let go of this girl when I'm always in contact with her, or should I let go of her at all? Her and I are/were very close. |
t3_4gahma | relationships | I [16M] am struggling moving forward romantically with my [15F] girlfriend of 3 months | I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 months and it feels like we are stuck in a rut in our relationship, I don't know how to get things moving.
We live in a small town, so there isn't much to do outside of hanging out at home. For the past 5 months or so we have been doing so around once a week (sometimes less, things come up). This ends up pretty uneventful, us watching TV or netflix and cuddling. A decent kiss on the way out and thats all.
While this is alright, we have been doing the same for so long it's starting to get old and I think its time do more (making out more, maybe move on to something sexual, which she has showed interest in).
The issue is that she gets nervous and shy whenever we try to anything more, and always stays quiet which makes things tough. I think she may have some self confidence issues that may affect this, which I know is very common for anyone our age. I try to help her out, complement her and make her feel better about herself.
However she still gets nervous, which makes me think I'm doing something wrong in our relationship and this gives me some internal conflict and I end up overthinking things whenever I'm with her.
We have talked about these things before, although not a whole lot and it didn't seem to make any difference. This leads me to believe that I have to take it upon myself and make a change very soon. | I really need to start making both of us more comfortable to do anything with each other, I just don't know where to start and how to initiate things such as making out and whatnot. |
t3_4pcux8 | needadvice | Burned out Arts graduate - help. | I never post to reddit as I spend most of my time reading and lurking, but I'm making an exception as I'm completely burned out, defeated and have pretty much given up.
**My situation:**
Have been getting marginal work in my creative field, but need further training in order to further progress my career. The training is expensive and I'm already knee deep in student loan debt.
**Simple, get a well paid job and save up.**
I've done that. No matter how many hours I've worked, my savings seem to go to expenses (helping my broke parents out, upkeeping my car, buying groceries) . I've had well paid jobs and lived incredibly modestly and still can't manage to save.
**What's the issue?**
I've been floating from job to job. I find a well paid job, stay about a year and then get too burned out/sick from stress and can't continue. Also, I'm really struggling to build a portfolio/practice while working full time. Videos on r/getmotivated make no sense to me - I can't try harder than I already have. Effort and time aren't producing results - they seem to do the opposite, even when following all the financial advice I can find on reddit (r/personalfinance, r/financialindependence) .
I don't know what I practically can do anymore. I don't think there's any practical advice to be given. Maybe there isn't. But here I am anyway. | Burned out arts grad finding it harder and harder to keep going. Financially and mentally burned out |
t3_1zr8p8 | relationship_advice | Me [m/22] with my gf [f/20] for a year. We went on a break and I want to see her again... | Went on a break for general reasons, mainly that we'd become heavily reliant on each other and thought time apart would make us appreciate each other more. Problem is its only been 2 weeks and I miss her to the point where I'm finding it hard to focus on other things, just wondering if anyone here has been in a similar situation and can advise me how to start things up again. Is it best to ask her when she wants to meet? Do I set the date? and if she thinks its too soon, do I back down or do I stick to what I want? I'm pretty sure she still wants more time but I've genuinely hated these last weeks, so maybe it means the relationship is doomed if we both need very different amounts of contact? I've got friends telling me I may as well end it now and save myself the hurt in the long run and I've got friends telling me no relationship exists without work every now and then... | me and gf had time apart, I cant stand it any more but does the fact that she can/that she wants this mean I may as well end the relationship now? |
t3_4xj01w | relationships | Me christian [22 F] with my bf agnostic atheist [25 M] for 1,5 year, my father thinks its a bad idea | Hi!
Me and my boyfriend have different religions, me christian and him agnostic atheist. We think that it can work if we keep it open and discuss. Also that if we have kids they will get to experience both sides of this.
My dad on the other hand thinks that I am going to lose my belief because of my relationship. He says that all the relationship he has seen with people of different beliefs have ended up with the religious one not caring about religion anymore. He also believes that if we have kids they will automatically become atheists. He brings this up all the time I see him. He have nothing against my bf, only that he is atheist.
Can someone give me some advice on how to handle this? | ! How can I get my father to understand that my relationship will not destroy my belief? |
t3_1egenp | AskReddit | Why the hell do handicapped people get to jump to the front of the line at Disney? | Forgetting the wealthy people hiring handicapped people for a minute: Why the hell is it OK for ANYONE with a handicap to skip the line?
I can see an accomodation for a sick or disabled person who can't physically stand in line. But, based on the article, it sounds like anyone in a wheelchair, or even a fatass in a hover-round, gets to move to the front of the line. Thats not an accomodation, it is a perk!
With all the political correctness- "don't ask if a handicapped person needs help, ask if they want help", "Differently abled", "handi-capable", etc. etc. etc. Shouldn't we assume a handicapped person can do everything a non-handicapped person can do (Including waiting in line) unless an exception or accomodation is specifically requested?? | Shouldn't Disney automatically treat handicapped people like everyone else (including making them wait in line), unless they request a special accomodation? |
t3_4o19q0 | relationships | I [25F] met a guy [??M] on Sunday and liked him. Want to ask him out but am too afraid | I went out with a girlfriend on Sunday for dinner and we ended up bumping into an ex of hers who was with a guy friend at the restaurant.
They got to talking and we ended up sitting with them.
Me and the guy talked a little and my friend's ex kept talking about me and his friend going on a date, and I liked the guy. But I am too shy and don't know if I gave any hints that I was interested. I also don't know if he is interested at all.
The ex asked if I could take the guy home so he could take take my friend, and I agreed, and when I was dropping him off he kissed me on the cheek.
I would love to go out with him, but I don't know if he is interested and I am very anxious about being rejected...
Should I try anyway? How do I even ask him? I have no idea how to ask a guy out. | Want to ask a guy out and don't know if I should or how to do it. |
t3_1uxl4x | relationships | to the men out there. my boyfriend and i just went through an abortion. any words of hope/ wisdom from other guys who have dealt with this? | A few days ago, my boyfriend and I decided to go through with an abortion. He was so strong for me through the whole physical process, but really emotionally broke down last night. He is a lot older than me, 9 years my senior(he's 28). Never wanted kids before but feels loss and remorse and now wants the fatherhood he can't have at the moment. We both mutually agreed the abortion was the proper choice based onto age and our living situations, but that doesn't take the sting away for either of us. He is the love of my life and I do want babies down the road with him, but now wasn't the time. Basically, any dudes out there who have gone through this? He feels so much grief and so alone. Just want him to have some hope. | HAD ABORTION A FEW DAYS AGO. BF IS GRIEVING. ADVICE FROM MEN WHO EXPERIENCED SAME THING |
t3_1fi1ss | AskReddit | What animal is the sound effect for the monsters in the movie Pitch Black? (story in comments) | I am sitting on my couch, in my house which is located in the middle of nowhere.
All at once, I hear the sounds of a rabbit being attacked (horrifyingly terrifying by the way). So I do what any good hillbilly does, and head to the back door with a spotlight to see if I can see the coyote or bobcat that's doing the murdering.
As I'm standing there, I hear the noise. I've never heard this before, and I have quite literally lived in this area my entire life.
The noise sounded vaguely similar to the long drawn out noise the monsters in Pitch Black make.
I figure that if I can discover what sound effect they used for those monsters, I can figure out what the hell is in the Woods behind my house. Google has no answers for me.
Reddit, you're my only hope! | monster noises in my woods, I'm probably going to die. |
t3_40m12r | tifu | TIFU by closing over 100 accounts of active staff in my company | This fuck up happened today, as a matter of fact, it happened about 15 minutes ago.
I work in the IT department of a University, doing both the IT Helpdesk and DBA (database administrator). Today I was tasked with maintaining the database of staff memebers, specifically checking if accounts are still active and deleting those which are not, for retired teachers, staff etc..
Instead of doing it manually, I decided to put my skills at test and created a tiny program which checks all the usernames from a text file I created and automatically flags inside the database those which have an expired mandate or that haven't been used in over 2 years. Genuinely, I tested it out with my own account and others I knew for sure were active and inactive. Very nice, great success!
Following the beta stage, I proceed to select about 100 accounts, create the text file and use my program, then I delete the flagged ones in bulk (all at once). About 5 minutes later, I realise I had in fact 100 account deleted out of a 100 input, which highly unlikely seeing as there should only be about 5%.... This is when the realisation of my fuck-up hit me like a swift kick in the nuts: I added an extra comma by mistake in next to the username variable. Hence, every username the program checked had a comma following it, which is why it didn't match with anything in the database.
Of course, there are backups and I directly proceeded to put things back in their place. However, account activation is done by the user, so the 100 users (mainly people over 50) have to re-activate their account and chose a password which seems to be somehow impossible for anyone over the age of 40.
So while waiting for a flooding of phone calls from people asking if they are about to get fired, I decided to share with you guys today's monumental fuck up. I want to say I'll keep this updated, but I might not get the chance to breath in the next few hours, not to talk of the fact that I might be unemployed soon. | Being lazy, I created a program which lead to me deleting about 100 account of active users which will all call me soon and probably block the Helpdesk line for the whole day. |
t3_1mot0u | relationships | How do you turn off feelings for someone? 42M | So I'm very attracted to a 28 yo woman. The problem is I am much older, 42. She seems to like me and always says hi but I'm thinking she is not that into me. I asked her on a date 6 months ago but she said only as friends. Anyway, I can't stop thinking about her. I know I should just move on but I'm having a hard time doing that.
Problems with me:
I'm divorced twice.
I have a young daughter.
I'm bipolar.
I'm old.
I am slightly overweight.
I have low self esteem.
So I know that I can't pursue her since she will most likely turn me down. I just don't even want to feel the way I do but can't help it. :( | how do I stop having feelings for a girl. |
t3_15fff4 | relationships | I'm (27 F) moving in with the boyfriend (30M) and there might be some hiccups | We're moving in together in a few months. He has custody of his two daughters, who are very sweet, and sees them every other weekend.
My parents are very conservative and are not happy with the decision. My mom isn't happy because he is divorced and has children. My dad isn't happy because of a couple of fights we had (which we resolved) and I vented to him about them.
I will say this. I feel that this is a relationship of necessity. We both treat each other well and we both have a lot of common interests. He needs help with his daughters and getting a few things squared away. I'm ready to get away from home (after being down on my luck a bit).
It's like we're using each other in the nicest way possible if that makes sense.
Does anyone have any advice to offer for a situation like this? | Moving in with boyfriend and using each other in the nicest way possible |
t3_1hvkh8 | legaladvice | Do I have have any recourse against my landlord? | Hey guys--sent here by /r/askreddit.
Been living at this apartment (**NJ**) for a little over a year now, just resigned my lease with the landlord a month or so ago. Last night, SO and I found a huge growth of mold in a side room that is used for mostly storage purposes, though we also keep our liquor cabinet there. Now, we live in a garden-level apartment (AKA half of our living space is located in a former basement). Mold is on everything, to the point that some of our property is a total loss. Thankfully, our renters' insurance will cover some of the loss. However, after talking to the upstairs tenant, I discovered that the previous tenant in our apartment (who had been here for 10 years) had moved out due to severe mold growth. The landlords then "replaced" everything and redid the apartment. Upon signing the initial lease or recently resigning it, none of this was disclosed to us. I've never had problems with mold in the basements of past residencies so I wasn't necessarily expecting it here. There is nothing in the lease about liability for mold or loss of property beyond that the renter is required to have insurance (which we do).
What, if anything, can we do about this? Is there a reasonable expectation for them to clean up this issue and resolve it completely? | Our apartment has had issues of mold that were never disclosed to us, now we're having similar problems. What can I do? |
t3_wws6a | legaladvice | My friend was fired for being "inappropriate to a minor" Can legal action be taken against him? | So when he first told me the story I laughed pretty hard about it until he got to part where he was fired. A week ago today he was on break and was just sitting by himself eating when his manager gave him a dollar and said he needs to give it to some other girl at work. So after he's done eating he goes up to the girl and she is busy making pizzas so her hands are covered in dough and stuff. He gently taps the dollar into her front pocket and jokingly says "last night was great." Everyone laughed thought it was funny even the girl did. Only problem is that my friend is 19 and the girl was 16. The rest of the day goes by and nothing. All of Saturday goes by and nothing. On his break on Sunday another manager comes up to him and says I need to talk to you. He goes to her office and she asks him what happened on Friday. He says he has no idea what she's talking about. His manager says that the girls parents contacted her and wanted him fired because of sexual harassment of a minor. He's worried that even though he was fired that the family could still take legal action. How worried should he be? | Friend was fired for giving a minor a dollar and saying "Last night was great" Can legal action be taken place? |
t3_17ua06 | relationships | Update! My best friend admitted to me that she's majorly crushing on my boyfriend. Now I'm afraid she's going to pursue him. | I promised an update to this [original post] so here we go..
My boyfriend finally got home tonight from his weekend stay at his parents and things did not go as well as I had hoped.
I'll start off by admitting that I've been an emotional wreck since yesterday and that probably didn't help matters. I thought it would have been better to wait until he got home to talk things through but I think that just made things worse because I spent all night last night being pissed off.
He got home, hugged me, everything was normal. Before I even brought up what happened last night, he says to me, "So I hear you had a rough night?" That's when he goes on to tell me that my lying bitch of a "best friend" CALLED HIM after our fight and told him that I basically attacked her. She called him at midnight and pretty much cried to him for over an hour! He said she was "scared" that I was going to make him stop seeing her. He told me she admitted her feelings to him during their conversation also.
My boyfriend said he was caught off guard about the whole thing and didn't realize she had feelings for him. (I don't know if I necessarily believe that). So now I'm the one that looks like the bitch. He says he's on my side but he's not acting like it. We had a heated argument for over an hour (mostly me yelling and crying). He says he just wants everyone to just move on from the fight but I can't!
He's tired from his trip and didn't want to fight so he said we could talk about it tomorrow. He didn't even want to stay the night.. he left and went to his apartment without even giving me a kiss or hug good-bye. I can't help but feel like he's taking her side even though he says he's not. I don't even know what to say. What a shitty weekend this has been. | Original Post - We're all 23. My best friend told me she likes my boyfriend and that there's nothing I can do about it. My boyfriend's out of town this weekend, do I call him and tell him what happened? How do I handle this? |
t3_1t2qcy | relationships | I [23/M] want to know how to motivate myself to be social. | I have never been a social butterfly of any kind. My friendships are few and distant now, but made of stone (I believe) and my relationships can be counted on one hand without using all the fingers, yet they've been fairly positive experiences. I have been on a travelling spree of sorts for the past few years and during this period of nomadic adventure I've found it few hard to put roots down and, in thus, have focused less and less on making connections with others. Where I reside now will not be where I reside the same time next year and knowing this my motivation to "go out and make friends" exists as a void. I go to work, I come home. I know this isn't healthy, yet I care little. It doesn't hurt. There's a nagging in the back of my mind, a little voice telling me I should go out and make some friends, find a girl I like and pursue a relationship, but what for? I will not be here long enough to nurture these relationships should I build them before begin my meandering again. Forget not the awkwardness my social anxiety afford me. Forget not that I have no idea where to go looking for people I want to make these connections with. Forget not that I have work the next day or that its cold out. It would be so much easier to just stay inside. It would be so much easier to just fall off the face of the earth here in my room. But this little voice protests. So I make more excuses and the more I make the more legitimate they become. What is one to do? | Help me, Im fading away and I do not care. What is wrong with me, how do I fix it? |
t3_yww4k | relationships | Husband (M 20) cheated on me (F 19). I need advice. | I always thought we had the perfect relationship. We really got along well. I would say we were in a very loving relationship and that that we both loved each other very much. I know this sounds cheesy, but I would even say that this man was my soul mate. So I just don't understand what happened.
He emotionally cheated on me with his 'best friend' (F 19). He also promised that they were just friends but he would hide his phone from me. I became suspicious and went through his texts while he was sleeping one day. They were calling each other babe and telling each other that they missed each other. They'd make kissing faces at each other and just pretty much acted like a couple. One of the text said you should come spend the day with me again ((: That's how I found out that he had driven two hours away to go visit her while I was at my parents. He claims he didn't do anything with her. Just hung out with his 'best friend'.
I just wanna know what to do. He acted like he was really sorry about what he did the first two days. Now he gets mad when I mention it and just brushes off how I feel. He's even saying that emotional cheating isn't cheating at all. So I don't know. I'm crushed and am just looking for advice. | My husband emotionally cheated on me with his 'best friend'. I just want advice. Also, do you believe that emotional cheating is just as bad as physically cheating? |
t3_xotm9 | dogs | Help Save Taro (Corgi) from IBD or Lymphoma! (x-post from r/corgi) | Hey r/Dogs,
My family and I have been going up and down the emotional roller coaster trying to figure out what's wrong with our corgi--Taro. He's 3 years and 9 months old and is our pride and joy ever since we got him as a puppy. Being his owner was my childhood dream come true (who didn't want Ein from Cowboy Bebop?!).
The bad news began over the last few months when he lost almost half his weight (32 lbs to 16.5 lbs), became lethargic, vomited everyday, and had bloody diarrhea. After seeing several vets, we still couldn't find the what was causing his illness or medications to control it. We recently were referred to a specialist that believes it could be IBD (Inflammatory Bowel Disease) or Lymphoma. To be sure, he'll need to get ultrasound, colonoscopy, and biopsies to confirm.
To pay for all these tests, we'll need to to fork up $3-4k. Unfortunately I'm currently a med-student and my sister is a recent new-grad, so our financial aid and savings don't come close to paying his bills. We're hoping the awesome power of the interwebs and reddit can help us save Taro.
Album of Taro:
Me and Taro:
Taro at the Vet:
Vet Bill #1:
Vet Bill #2:
Taro Saying Thank You with his **Butt-Heart**:
**Donations can be made to Taro's Gofundme.org Link: | Taro sick, Vet Bills $3-4, Please Help Us Save Taro. Please. |
t3_12vpcb | AskReddit | My teaching assistant is being a total twat, what can I do? | About two weeks ago I turned in a paper on the topic of schemas. Before I turned the paper in, I asked the professor to read over the essay to see if she had any suggestions for improvement. The professor said it was great and that she saw no reason for this not to be an A paper.
Fast forward to the day we get the paper back. The TA gave me a 65%. On the paper she wrote that I needed citations for two sentences and that I needed to use class sources. Obviously I'm a little confused so I went to her office hours for an explanation. Given the reputation said TA has, I came prepared with a list of 10 sources for each sentence she believed needed a citation (3-5 independent sources typically deem the information common knowledge which would mean it does not require a citation).
In the meeting I provided the list of citations and informed the TA that I consider both those thoughts to be common knowledge. I also drew her attention to the fact that I used every single class source that was relevant. The TA then replies the citations were necessary because I clearly couldn't think of those ideas on my own and I should be thankful she didn't report me to the judicial affairs board. She also said I didn't use the class sources in the right way (what the fuck does that even mean?). When I asked about a regrade she said she would be willing to regrade it but the grade could be much lower.
The whole interaction seemed pretty threatening and condescending. I don't feel comfortable having this person grade midterms, papers, and assignments. Should I file a complaint? Ask the professor to grade my stuff in the future? Has anyone had an experience like this? | I'm a good student but my TA nearly failed me on a paper because she thinks I plagiarized but can't prove it (because I didn't). TA then threatened to lower the grade if I wanted it to be regraded. |
t3_t728u | AskReddit | What is the worst / most offensive thing you have heard a teacher say to a student? | So there was this girl at my high school who was pretty unfortunate looking; we'll call her Barbara. During homecoming week, people would dress in all kinds of crazy costumes to go along with whatever theme it was that day. So one day Barbara comes in dressed as a ninja, I'm talking covered from head to toe in black ninja shit. All you could see were her eye through the slit in the face thing. She gets in front of the class to give a presentation and our teacher says "Barbs, is that you!? Holy smokes, I didn't even recognize you. That's the best you've looked all year1"
The same teacher used to tell students fairly frequently to "go Hemingway themselves" then clarify "you know, put a shotgun barrel in your mouth and blow your brains out." He felt the need to add this clarification every single time he told someone to do it. | teacher told an ugly girl she was ugly and repeatedly told his students to commit suicide. |
t3_g31kp | AskReddit | I've been unmotivated and I think it's a social thing.. help me out here? | My den is a total mess, I have plans for a business that I really need to work on and I have so much that I could and should be doing.. and I really want to do it, but I just can't get myself to do it.
I've discovered something about my motivation though... Wednesday and Thursday I hung out with people and both days AND Friday I was totally active, I cleaned out my den closet, reorganized all my old papers and files and crap, did the dishes and the laundry.. it was awesome. Today? All I can do is refresh Askreddit and watch for orangereds...
I suddenly realized that I'm a SIM... I'm that asshole SIM that has to have constant contact with people every damn day or I refuse to do anything because my mood bar is red.
It all makes sense now. I've been depressed as hell and totally useless ever since I moved - I don't have any friends here. | My motivation is directly related to how much social interaction I've had. Is anyone else like this? How can I overcome this, or make more friends so that I can be more motivated? |
t3_1h2zwa | relationships | Me (21/F) am interested in a (29/m); looking for conversational tips for when I feel pressured as well as ways to subtly express interest | I'm 21 and I work seasonally. Last year I met a man (29) whom I grew strong feelings for and I suspected it may be mutual. I never came directly out and told him how I felt because he was involved with someone.
When I returned to work again in the same place as him I was excited but I'm finding it more difficult to deal with how strongly I feel for him.
Where he's involved I'm afraid that if I don't watch everything I do around him other people will start to judge. When I get a chance to speak to him one on one things feel fine, but when we're sitting in a group the conversations feel one sided and I find I have trouble keeping it going.
I guess what I'd like to know is how to converse with him without feeling pressured when we're in a group. I'd also like tips on how to subtly say I'm interested still, last year I made attempts to let him know but now I seem to have no clue what to do. | Still interested in a man I liked last summer and I want to subtly tell him so. I also would like tips on how to converse because my conversation skills with him get shotty when we're in a group of people. |
t3_o2yj8 | AskReddit | Why do you go on Reddit? | This may seem like a no-brainer to most people, whether it be because of the interesting discussions or because of the cute cat pictures.
For me, as it's developed into at least, is because I really feel welcome. I am not at all an anti-social person, and make friends quickly, but lately have been in a prolonged transition in my life, and have felt increasingly lonely. Whether I spend five minutes, or half the day on here, I always leave feeling...good, like after hanging out with some close friends.
I can come here to laugh at absolutely stupid shit, or discuss meaningful topics and have philosophical discourses, whatever I'm in the mood for. And for the most part, it's like being surrounded by like-minded people, even if you don't agree with me, most of you are respectful about that and don't act like jackasses (Although there's room for that too!). But anyway, thanks! | I love you guys. |
t3_rw6uh | AskReddit | Can mononucleosis 'flare up' through 10 months? | The woman I am dating just got out of the ER, and told me she was diagnosed with mono. She says she has been feeling sick for 10 months, and this diagnosis explains it.
It would seem she's been feeling under the weather for 10 months now, but every time she has been to the hospital she has been dismissed and been told she was fine. She finally went to another ER last night after feeling terrible and that's how she got diagnosed with mono.
Can you explain to me if it's possible for mono to create illness symptoms for 10 months? I thought the symptoms only last 1-2 months? | Can mono create minor symptoms for 10 months? |
t3_2hdbqp | relationships | Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] she makes me wants to do more | Hello everyone,
So basically I've been dating this girl for a couple weeks and everytime I think about doing something I think about her and it makes me want to achieve more. 1) I play hockey for my school and when I think of her watching me it makes me want to go out right now and train hard to be a better player. 2) I could be sitting here doing nothing then think about her and realize 'hey I have homework' and immediately want to go do it and put more effort than normal into it.
I'm not really stuck with a problem, I was just wondering what your opinions in general are when it comes to someone acting as some sort of influence for you to do greater things, but the thing is she doesn't do anything to promote me to achieve greater it just happens naturally within my own head.
Thanks everyone!!! | Girlfriend indirectly(completely on my own will) pushes me to achieve more. |
t3_10da5m | relationships | Me [18] is still confused about her [20] | Hi Reddit,
I went out with this girl for 2 to 3 weeks now. I called her my girlfriend now but recently she kinda want to distance herself from me a bit when she hangs out with her friends. It's like she needed some "alone time" with them but most of her friends are male... It kinda looked like she is flirting with them but I don't understand Japanese... I can't kiss her goodbye when she's around them too... I could only put my arm around her hips while she walks...
Is it common for girls to be like that? | Girlfriend" looks like flirting with her male friends, cannot show sign of affection (no kisses but holding hands/arm around waist while walking is acceptable) towards her when she's around her friends. |
t3_14lgv2 | relationships | I [F20] am dealing with an overly-flirtatious friend [M20] who makes my boyfriend [M22] uncomfortable. | To start off, I don't make friends very easily, and it's rare for me to find someone that I enjoy hanging out with, so this is a big deal to me.
Recently, a new guy was hired in my department at work and we hit it off pretty well. He's entertaining to be around and makes the work a lot easier and more enjoyable. We have only known each other for a few weeks, but already he's become a good friend.
However, this guy has expressed a pretty serious interest in me. I've told him several times that I have a boyfriend, and he says he understands, but whenever we talk or text he's constantly making sexual comments, asking questions about my sex life, or trying to get me to be sexual with him (i.e. "So what are you wearing...?"). I asked him to tone it down/stop a few times, but they keep going. After getting to know him more and realizing he's genuinely a good guy, I just laugh it off and tell him that's not appropriate, but I can tell it's really making my boyfriend uncomfortable.
I'm not sure what to do in this situation. I don't want to lose him as a friend because he's a good (albeit horny) guy that I get along well with, and I don't really have a lot of friends, so it's nice to have someone to talk to when I'm bored. But it doesn't seem like the sexual comments are going to stop no matter how much I try to stop them, and I can't hang out with or text this guy without my boyfriend getting upset because he doesn't like him.
To clarify, I've been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months now and everything with our relationship is wonderful. He isn't worried about me cheating or anything like that. He just thinks this guy is crossing a lot of lines and it doesn't sit well with him. | New work buddy is overly sexual/flirty. I laugh it off, but my boyfriend is bothered by it. I don't want to lose my new friend. What should I do? |
t3_1r1o5k | AskReddit | Where can I find teachers rights involving students? | So today, (I'm in high school) my table group was kind of goofing off while the teacher was going around checking homework and we were just laughing yet it wasn't really disturbing the class. The teacher came by and said "sounds like we're off topic here" in kind of a stern way so we all kind of mumbled sorry and went back to work so I look down, look back up at him and he's looking at me and says "i'd expect a 'yes sir i'll get right on it'" so I replied "Yea i'm on it" (tiny bit of sarcasm)
My question is are high school teachers allowed to say that? Like with the whole "sir" thing? I thought no they were not allowed to say that or demand to be referred to as "sir." my teacher never asked to be called that before and he directed it at me when he said that.
Let me know if there is any rule or law talking about that and if you know the answer. | Teacher asked me to call him sir and I wanna know if they can do that. Highly recommend reading the whole thing though |
t3_2v5lgp | relationships | Me, 18 F with my partner, M 19, have been dating for over 6 months. I am feeling some retroactive jealousy | It isn't really insecurity, more like resentment towards my partner. I have never really been in such a nice relationship like this. It's all kind of new. My partner is the first one I have really kissed, done the whole dating thing, and cared for. We started off as friends, so I would know about his relationships with other girls. Back then I didn't care, but now I feel a little bit resentful towards his experience and my lack of. (Late bloomer, I suppose.) I have never kissed anyone else but him, while he has dated a other girls and kissed them and whatnot. I have dated other people, but never kissed or stuff. Hugs and hand holding, yeah.
I know I shouldn't care about his past, but I can't help but feel a bit sad knowing this. I suppose a lot of it stems from it being a fairly new relationship and my feelings of lacking experience. I guess I feel like I might have missed out? I dunno. We were raised differently, so he had a lot more freedom growing up.
Please respectfully just tell me your past experiences if you've ever felt the way I do and how you dealt with it. | Have you ever felt resentful or sad about your partner's past? How did you deal with it? I feel resentful towards him, and I don't like it. |
t3_iidft | AskReddit | what temperature would an apartment have to reach inside before you could say it was unfit for human occupation? | pretty sure it reached close to 90 yesterday and had me walking around in boxers and a washcloth on my head.
the issue is, after going through a rigorous background check for this spot, and under time constraints, i was only made aware of the 'no window ac units' as i was being given the pen to sign. i thought about walking for split second, but the place was too good for me to pass up under the circumstances.
i was told something along the lines of the building being old, and the wiring not being able to handle all 10 tenants running ac at once. not sure if i buy that completely when the landlord is responsible for paying the electricity bills.
open windows and fans arnt cutting it for me during some of the days i am at home (in CA, so nights are pretty cool). and sitting looking at my perfectly awesome portable ac unit (arguably not a 'window' unit although it does of course vent through one) hurts. I had plugged it in the other day to test the dimming effect it might have on the lights inside and there was none, its just loud and obvious i am using it.
i cant find anywhere is says that excessive temperature specifically violates landlord/tenant law. there is just the generalised 'must be fit for living'. what do you think? | landlord wont let me use ac, but its hot as shit. how hot does it have to get before i have legite grounds to plug in? |
t3_1tg2lo | relationships | Me M/23...do you think she'll ever talk to me again..F/22 | She was my first love, we dated our last semester of college. She went to Wyoming from june to October, I tried to go but couldn't. The relationship fell apart in August. She broke up with me twice. First time on the phone, then she apologized and said she didn't want to decide anything till she got back. Five days later tried talking to her she said she needed separation now! Turns out she fell for a guy out there and she said she wasn't making me happy. We just didn't talk for three months, I went to an audition in Michigan way home I stayed with a friend in Rochester, turns out she lived there. Things weren't awkward we hadn't seen each other in almost 6 months. Spent a day together felt like we were dating it was really really nice. Then the day ended with her saying 'I can't entertain you anymore' and her running off to bible study then hanging with a friend later. I left and that was almost two months ago. I've been with one other girl since but I think I'm not over her because I just haven't had a chance to be with anyone, I honestly feel like she's never going to talk to me again, what do you guys think? | first love, bad break up, re-met 6 months later things were good, then she said ' i can't entertain you anymore i left, don't know if she'll contact me again.. |
t3_14oldj | loseit | Night Shift Calorie Counting Question - First Post! | Hi /r/loseit! I've been a long time lurker here, and have to say you guys are amazing! I'm 5'3(F) 33yo 200lbs. 1.5yrs ago I lost 45lbs in 4months just by counting calories and exercise. I've kept off all but 10lbs. I had a lot of changes in my life this year that provided me with a ton of excuses to put off eating right and exercise, but no more. A move to a new city, and a ton of inspiration from you all, and I'm ready to go!
I just have a question about counting calories. I have been very successful with counting calories, and following the "healthy plate" schematic, incorporating lean proteins, fruits, veggies, and whole grains. I eat approx every 2-3hrs, and my daily intake is 1200cal. The problem I'm having is I work night shift. So my day starts at about 3pm, and I work til 7am. I sleep from 9/10a-3p. WHAT is my appropriate time frame of "my day" for my log? Should midnight to midnight be my day? Or should I be starting the log/calorie count when I wake up? For the life of me I cannot recall how I managed my log last time around, and I know for sure someone here will have some insight.
Thanks in advance for the input! | fat night shift worker cant figure out how to log her caloric intake |
t3_2zf1r3 | relationships | Me [27 F] with my bf [28 M] of 3 years. Am I a jerk for abandoning him to travel? | I love to travel. I never had much money growing up so I hardly ever got to do it, even through college. I have a good job now and have been squirreling away money so that I can use it for trips. My bf feels the same way about traveling and would love to do the same, but he's in school at the moment so his funds are low. He really doesn't have the money to spend right now.
My friend's getting married at the end of the year. It's a destination wedding and I would LOVE to go and stay for a week or two afterwards. But I know he can just barely afford to attend the ceremony. In addition, a bunch of our friends are planning a Europe trip this summer, which sounds amazing, but I know for sure he couldn't swing it.
I would love to do all these things with him, of course, but since I know he can't, would I be a total asshole to even mention the possibility of me going without him? I feel like it would be a shitty move and he would feel left out and bummed that he can't afford it (I don't blame him), but selfishly, I still want to go...
I guess I just need someone on the outside to tell me that it would be really fucked up of me to go without him. (Or maybe not. I don't know?) | I want to travel, but my bf can't afford it. Is it shitty of me to ask if I could go on my own? |
t3_26uzqn | relationships | Me [22 M] with my friend[19 M], since childhood. He almost always never follows through on sticking to plans and meeting at designated times. | So how do i deal with this friend who, for example if we decide to meet at 1:00 pm. Very often he'll not meet you at 1 or with in 10 or so minutes, he wont text or call explaining he'll be late, and alot of times wont get back to you untill hours later.
Hes the type to spew alot of bullshit and in general doesnt really have respect for others that greatly. Ive talked about this to him through text, phone call, and in person and he just doesnt get it.
His other friends agree with me that he does this and since ive already tried talking to him about this, all ive got left is to try and teach him a lesson. for example when we plan to all meet, if he doesnt be on time, well try to get in contact, but if he pulls his normal bs on us we'll just leave without him and continue to do this untill hopefully he gets it.
Im kinda hoping for advice other than, dont waste your time being his friend. just since he sounds way bigger of a douche then he actually is, and ive been friends with his whole family since elementary school. | friend wont stick to times we agree to meet, any way to teach him? |
t3_202s22 | GetMotivated | Passion-->Money-->Wife-->Happiness? | I am totally rudderless. I fucked my grades at Tulane but managed to get a B.S. in Mathematics. I am 30, finishing a Masters in Finance at a local college (DePaul) only because I didn't know what else to do and I am running through my savings. I don't know how to sell myself to employers so I haven't had a job in 3 years and my skills have atrophied. I was an actuary for 6 months and sucked at it so I got laid off.
Facebook friends are successful lawyers and dentists, and I don't know if I should maybe go to law school. If I get an A- average, maybe I can get into a good school here. Never had a gf, don't have any friends, and therapists don't help me get over my depression I have had since I was 13. | How do I find out what to do if I'm too depressed and unfocused to find it? Time is running out and no woman is going to want me if I don't do something. |
t3_r0lk7 | AskReddit | Reddit, I tried to save a cat and I failed.. What do I do? | Okay, so I was driving down the street & I saw someone had ran over a cat. I was literally heartbroken and I called animal control who I guess had already closed so they gave me a number to the police station. I called and told them the cross streets and the lady said "We'll send officers over right now to check if it's still alive" and I was feeling a little bit better but then I had to run some errands and I went down the same street to see if the cat was still there, it was. This time someone had ran over it more, tears filled my eyes and I just couldn't deal. My friend was in the car with me and she called the police station and told them the situation over and this time the lady said "We'll send someone over tomorrow morning, animal control is closed" That's NOT what she said the first time I called! I've been crying all night for that cat, I should have stopped, should have helped it. I'm sure it was already dead but at least I could have given it a proper burial.. I was just wondering how do I feel better? I'll probably get a lot of answers like why didn't I stop and what not, I was going home to get gloves and a box, in case it was dead, then I called the cops and they said it would get taken care of. I just, I know I won't be able to sleep tonight. Cats are seriously the most amazing creatures out there, at least to me and just the thought of someone running one over and not even stopping just kills me. | I saw a cat in the road, was obviously hit.. called the cops (since animal control was closed) twice, they said they'd take care of it and they did nothing. Now I feel so fucking horrible and I'm bawling my eyes out. I just want to know what I can do to just feel a tiny bit better. |
t3_4gmkgd | relationships | Bf (29m)is talking to girls a lot behind my (27f) back and it's becoming clear it's not innocent. | He's been drinking lately and getting upset for no reason. He gets insecure and suspicious of me all the time. We had a hiccup a few months ago where I was talking to an ex about our issues and it went off the rails. I knew I should've gone to someone else with it, but I thought my ex and I could still have a relationship like that because we were trying to be friends.
Since then (two months ago) I haven't hung out with any male friends.
Been saying he's coming home at 10 and not rolling in until 2 or 3. All times where he's either been with female friends one on one or like last weekend where we sent me asnapchat of him at dinner with some friends. The girl adjacent from him was his ex of four years.
Tonight he gets super insecure and drunk and passes out. I look at his phone. He monitors me all the time so I thought why the hell not. I found pictures of naked breasts, snap from a girl saying "I'm coming for you"with a wedding dress emoji, and old pictures redownloaded of him and his other ex of only 18 months.
I now truly believe in the theory "don't go looking for something bad bc you're bound to find it". And "guilty people are always suspicious of everyone else".
I don't know what to do or how to approach this. I feel like he made me out to be this terrible person even though i told the truth and there was no pictures or any sexual innuendo. Here i come to find this.... what should i do? | bf is getting pictures of boobs and stuff and talking to exes a lot while making me feel like im the shady one. What should i do? |
t3_22hcjj | relationship_advice | [27/F] Boyfriend [29/M] looking at girls in lingerie on Reddit. Am I overreacting? | So I caught my long distance boyfriend looking at girls in lingerie in sexually suggestive positions on Reddit. I talked to him about it and explained he likes lingerie and poses. I know this because he's asked me many times to dress in lingerie and take sexy selfies. He LOVES my body, seriously, he's obsessed with it. Never once made me think I was never good enough or lost interest in me physically. Calls me beautiful, sexy, etc. He apologized and said he'd stop. It made me very upset, insecure, and inadequate. Am I over reacting? None of the girls were special, just typical sexy lingerie selfies. He said he likes looking at nice bodies though, that's what's making me upset. I'm so insecure already and that just made it worse. Truly, am I over reacting? I like nice bodies on guys too but I wouldn't look because I know it would upset him. | Boyfriend looking at girls in lingerie and seductive poses on Reddit. He's asked me many times to do that too before he started looking. Am I getting upset over nothing? |
t3_2ge7lh | relationships | My SO [28M] says that I [20F] can be manipulative when we are trying to resolve issues. Please help. | So I've been dating my SO for about half a year. He's a wonderful boyfriend. Always incredibly supportive and patient, and I love him very much.
Before I dated M, I dated A for 3 years. A was almost the polar opposite of M. He was very jealous and controlling, and would manipulate me into feeling like everything was my fault when we had issues. He had his good sides, but it got too hard to deal with for me, especially being long distance.
I'm genuinely concerned that I might have picked up some of that from A. M says that I don't listen, when he approaches me about things I get very defensive, and that I make it seem like things are his fault in everything.
I've been through that and it's horrible. I was just wondering if there was any good advice you all had about how to approach situations like this. How to approach not being defensive, and how to talk out issues in a really positive and helpful manner. As for the listening, I'm going to get back on medication for my ADHD, which I hope will help, and every time he says something I make sure that if it was a request that I do it immediately or that I at least know that I registered that he said something, instead of me just auto-replying. I just really want to be as patient as he is for me, and I'm afraid that I make things worse. | I need help on how to approach not being defensive, and how to talk out issues in a really positive and helpful manner. |
t3_1noxuo | relationships | My [18F] close friend [19M] of two years did a complete 180 in the way he treats me as soon as he left to college... | J (friend) and I have known each other for awhile now and we've always had each other's backs. He's helped me through some rough times and we each go to the other with our various worries about the future and what not. He's always been a grump with a heart of gold and despite what he claims he's a nice guy.
But for the past month or so he's been really off. I feel like it started after he went to this party and **something** happened that he wouldn't tell me about, ever since then he's been really distant.
We went from talking at least 3 times a week to *maybe* once. I know he's been busy, and so have I so the drop in contact was expected. But recently he's done something completely out of character. He said he couldn't come to my birthday because of a big test and then proceeded to completely forget my birthday altogether. I later learned that he was actually running in the local electric run. I haven't talked to him since last week, a couple days before my birthday, as he was pulling an all nighter and was presumably busy studying and stopped responding after awhile.
I'm just really confused and wondering why he's seemingly changed into a whole other person in such a short span of time... | Friend has started acting weird after attending a party where something he won't tell me about happened. Went so far as to lie to me for something kind of dumb. |
t3_3rvhka | relationships | How to respark my [25F] relationship with my husband [30M] of 3 years? | I'll start by saying we don't have a bad relationship. Things are pretty good by all accounts but I feel like the romance has dwindled slightly && we're probably neglecting each other somewhat.
I'm 25, he's 30. Been together 6 years, married 3 and we have a 2 year old who we both agree is pretty awesome.
Things have been quite difficult at times. I'm on anti depressants and I know I can be a complete cow at times but I do try to be nice/apologise if I've been awful and let him know when I'm having a bad day.
We both work full time and I also study part time and work from home probably more than I should.
Our sex life is poor, and that's my fault. I have a super low libido - I dunno if it's the depression, the anti depressants or what. I do try, and when we have sex I DO enjoy it, I just never really want it, if that makes sense? I know this likely makes him feel like shit. Any advice on that too?
Money is tight 'cause we're selling our house so nothing extravagant but is there any little things I can try to let him know that I still love him && make our relationship better? | Worried I'm neglecting our marriage, need help. |
t3_18po78 | relationship_advice | Need serious help getting over ex-girlfriend and ex-best friend | I dated this girl for three years and it was great. We got along very well and we loved spending time with each other. As most failing relationships, she started to become more distant and acting weird. We were out at a bar one night and she was about to make out with another man right in front of me. I stepped in and pushed the guy. She said in her drunken state, "What it's not big deal." The next morning we talked and according to her she has 'no memory' of the situation. Obviously this is fucked up and we broke up.
Here is where my ex-best friend comes into the picture. A week after we broke up they hooked up multiple times. It would be one thing if this was years later but this is literally a week after we broke up. He told me in person about 2 weeks after they did it and it took a lot of restraint for me not to destroy him completely.
Since then I have been struggling to get my life in order and trying to stop being so depressed. I am not going to do anything drastic but my life is out of whack and I am falling down a dark rabbit hole.
From reading up on this type of situation I have been working out a lot more and trying to push myself to do new things. A nice distraction if you will.
For anyone who has been in a similar situation of complete betrayal how did you manage to get things back to normal? I am looking for guidance and advice seeing as this is the first and hopefully last time something this extreme has ever happened to me. | Ex-girlfriend and Ex best-friend hooked up a week after we broke up I am a complete mess |
t3_1x0jg9 | dogs | I want to adopt a dog. What dog would suit my life? Not breed but temperament, energy, etc. | Hello Reddit,
I'm very interested in getting a dog from the pound. I would prefer to have a puppy so I can train him and teach him to behave from a young age. I have had dogs before, but they were small family dogs, a yorkie and a mini schnauzer, that pretty much did whatever they pleased, which is the opposite of what I plan on doing. I consider myself a very stern and organized person and I follow schedules firmly. It is very likely I will have a very strict daily schedule for my dog that would include feeding time, training, walks, and play.
I don't care what breed of dog it is, as long as it's medium or large sized and doesn't shed.
About me: I work Mon-Fri 7:00-17:00. Live in a house with a small backyard with not enough room to run in my opinion but large enough for the dog to take a quick piss (18' X 9' approx.). I would consider myself a low energy guy with a laid-back attitude. I'd rather stay home than go out but some weekends I do go out at night. I am willing to walk my dog early in the morning before going to work and in the afternoon when I get back plus a final night walk. Sat-Sun could be dog park days, weather permitting.
I really don't care for breeds but I have fallen in love with the personality and looks of Doberman Pinschers, but I'm not too sure my schedule would allow for such a pup. | Low energy guy |
t3_2xc5aa | relationships | I [29 M] am a good looking guy, but I'm a complete retard when it comes to hitting on girls. I don't know how to flirt. | I'm often told that I'm a good looking guy. I can think of two situations in the last two weeks where gorgeous girls (and I do mean gorgeous) basically threw themselves at me, and I just behaved like a dear in the headlights.
Here's one, as an example: last week, I was at a music festival. This little blonde was sitting on the grass with her friends, and I was dancing nearby. She was wearing an orange sundress, and has eyes that could stop traffic. I was just thinking how pretty she was when the waved at me and called me over. At first I looked around because I assumed she was talking to someone else. When I worked out she meant me, my brain went blank. I went over and she told me that she liked my sunglasses (they are pretty cool), and patted the grass next to her to invite me to sit. I said thanks, but then had abso-fucking-lutely no idea what to say after that. Things got awkward and I eventually said goodbye.
I'm usually very good at chatting to people but as soon as I realize that we're flirting, everything goes to shit.
Ergh. | I'm a dude who can't talk to girls. Unique, I know... |
t3_20yisz | loseit | Possible relationship between overeating/binging and iron deficiency? | Hi all! First, thanks so much for being such an awesome sub. You have been such an inspiration to for me so far.
I wanted to share something I have noticed about my own patterns and see if anyone has any knowledge on the subject or similar experiences. For background, I (F/18) have had iron deficient anemia since puberty, and take the iron supplement, Palafer, daily. I have suffered with bulimia for six years and am finally well into recovery (which unfortunately means weight gain), and am able to healthfully lose a little of the extra weight I've gained since getting ED help. I have been tracking my calories on MyFitnessPal and I also record when I take Palafer each night so I can be sure I took it and don't accidentally take two.
Usually, I am very good at handling cravings and ignoring that voice that tells me to overeat or binge. However, over the last few months I have had a few slip ups where I can not seem to overcome these feelings and eventually end up giving in. I had one of those days again today, and after logging the extra food, I happened to be looking at a chart on MFP that shows my calories consumed over the last 90 days. I only had about 6 days that were significantly over my set caloric limit so it wasn't so bad. I don't know what made me do this, but I decided to compare this chart with my record of taking Palafer. I noticed that every time I overate, I had forgotten to take my Palafer the previous night. These were the only nights I forgot to take the supplement. So basically I observed: Ambrosiapie forgets Palafer, ambrosiapie overeats the next day.
Is this just a crazy random happenstance? Has anyone else noticed anything similar, forgetting supplements then overeating the next day? I am interested to know if this is purely coincidental or if it actually makes a difference. Google has not been very helpful for me.
Let me know if this should be in a different sub.
Thanks! | ambrosiapie forgets to take iron supplement, ambrosiaie overeats the next day. Coincidence? |
t3_4gsuvo | relationships | Me [28 F] with my friends [early 30s M and F] they cannot see that their ideas are extreme | Hey there.... Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I have been friends with a group of people for a long time (over 5 years). It's quite a large group of mutual friends with people of various ages in different life stages. We made friends at University and everyone is relatively well educated (Engineering, Masters etc.). I don't know if that means anything I guess.
One of the couples has recently gotten pregnant. Which is fantastic. I am incredibly happy for them. The problem is that they believe that modern medicine is terrible and that giving birth in a hospital will make your child sick etc. They intend to give their child homeopathic remedies and believe in a natural birth at home or maybe a homeopathic assisted hospital (I had no idea these exist). I understand that it is their choice so I don't bring it up. Other people who have brought it up are basically made to feel like they're stupid and the parents are just very defensive about it all.
recently I found out that they don't intend to vaccinate their child. They had an argument about it with others and they pretty much ignored when someone pointed out the WHO resources on this.
It's becoming increasingly uncomfortable for me to see these people put the mom, their child and even other kids at risk. Is there anything I could do? | New parents don't believe in modern medicine and don't want to vaccinate their kid. It makes me uncomfortable. What can I do? |
t3_4mivka | tifu | TIFU by accidentally huffing nail polish remover | Obligatory note that this happened yesterday.
I'll also preface this by saying that I don't normally paint my nails on a regular basis. I had a formal occasion earlier this week, so I wore some nail polish and hadn't taken it off yet. Last night I went to remove it the way you're supposed to, putting a dot of the remover on a paper towel, wiping the nail, and repeating. But since it was late at night and it was taking a long time just to do one nail, I got impatient and tried to speed up the process a bit. So I poured a ton of the polish remover into a bowl and thought I could scrub my nails to get it off faster.
I was leaning over the bowl, scrubbing my nails in polish remover, when suddenly I got a large breath of fumes. It was like smelling your hands after putting on scented hand sanitizer, but way stronger and violently repulsive. I quickly backed away and left the room to get fresh air. When I got back, I dumped the bowl and dejectedly finished removing the nail polish the old slow way, because I was not about to huff some more of that. Later I realized that my throat and sinuses actually felt like they had been burned slightly from inhaling the vapor. My throat still hurts this morning. | don't fuck around with nail polish remover or it'll fuck you up. |
t3_50amt5 | relationships | Need advice after gf(19f) told me(19M) she might be bisexual | So my LDR gf of 7 months told me recently that she thinks she is bisexual - mainly due to having a encounter with a girl at a club that she was really attracted to (she said something might've happened if she was single). She has kissed girls before (including one drunken make out) but I've never really thought about this seriously.
She has bisexual friends who gave her advice, and one of them commented how they had the option to experiment when they had similar discoveries. She told me that she doesn't want to experiment though, and when I asked her whether it was because she wasn't comfortable being with a girl, or whether it was because she was dating me (monogamous relationship), she said she didn't know.
That kind of answer really worries me, combined with the fact that she stated that she didn't want any chance of her parents having to deal with a bisexual (or just non-straight) daughter (she has conservative parents and society). She told me she definitely isn't a lesbian though.
So what I'm struggling with is that i personally don't think I can date someone who is repressing a part of themselves. I would constantly question whether she was thinking of these "what-if" scenarios with her sexuality, or be scared to accept parts of herself. Long distance is already such a big commitment, and I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who may secretly question our relationship, or may not be as passionate (let me know if I'm just being insecure with this thought).
I want to remain supportive but I also don't want to pretend like she's completely straight just for conveniences' sake, and be unable to talk/ be uncomfortable with this topic.
Thanks for any advice! | gf thinks she might be bi, but is the type to repress it. Not sure how to proceed |
t3_2l4bk9 | relationships | 9 month long distance relationship falling apart | First time posting and long time lurker. My girlfriend (f,24) and I (m,24) have been dating for almost 3 years now but for the last 9 months we have had a long distance relationship. Just to give you a little back story we've been best friends since 1st year in college and started dating 4th year in university. After graduating I moved to a Toronto for post grad where things got more serious as she only lived/worked 30 minutes away from me.
After graduating I immediately got a marketing job (job allows me to work from home or anywhere as long as I am online) and had to move back home to save money and pay off my student loans. I currently have only 1 month left to pay of my loans but our relationship has been pretty rocky now because we hardly get to see each other as she always works on the weekends which are the days I get off. I feel like we are growing apart and she is becoming very distant. She no longer says she loves me and I feel like she puts little effort into our relationship. When ever she has a day off on a weekend she will always be too tired to hang out when I am willing to drive to her house. I even offer to book a hotel so we can spend some time in the city but she always has some lame excuse (By the way she is not cheating on me and does not hang out with any of her friends as they are too busy).
In 4-5 months when I have my loans paid off and have some money in the bank I am planning on moving back to the city but I feel like by then it will be too late. I've talked to her about this issue and she says the distance thing is really getting to her and that I should just find some one else because I'm not good enough for her. I'm just looking for some advice on how to proceed. I know she's not cheating on me and that I am the only person in her life as her friends no longer talk to her anymore. I feel like if we moved in together things would be back to back to normal. | Been dating for almost 3 years now and we've been having a long distance relationship for 9 months and were drifting apart. I'll be moving back to the city in 4-5 months but that may be too late for our relationship. |
t3_rv323 | AskReddit | Legal advice/ insight/ suggestions. I need help. | Alright so a month ago I went to a party. Things got out of hand, I drank too much (my fault, I owned up to it), and the people I was with ditched me on the side of the road. An ambulance shows and takes me to the hospital. I snap out of it the next morning, and wake up. The Dr and nurses said I had alcohol poisoning, and they found pills in my pocket. They asked me what the pills were, and I have no clue. I'm not one to take pills to begin with, and sure as hell would avoid them if I was drinking.
Fast forward to today, I get a call from the PD in that city questioning me on it. Asking me who I know there, what the pills were, if I've ever been to jail, what medications am I on if any, and said "Well I would hate to have to put a warrant out for your arrest over something like this."
Part of me is thinking that the PD was using a scare tactic on me, but the other side of me is scared shitless. | Got drunk at a party in another city, woke up in the hospital, get a call from the PD questioning me on pills that I never accepted, knew I had, or anything. |
t3_515qgc | tifu | TIFU by applying for jobs with the Windows 10 Mail app for a year. | Finally, I get to post one of these! And bonus, it happened today! This is pretty much the only bright side to the whole thing, sadly.
Because I am human, I enjoy money, and I decided quite a while ago that I wanted more of it, so I started applying for other jobs. Also, because I live in the 21st century, and you can't just wander into a building and instantly become the manager anymore, I've been doing all of these applications online. So, being the good little applicant that I am, I made sure my CV was perfect and up-to-date, and made sure to write a personalised cover letter for every single job I applied for. I thought I was doing a pretty good job, except for the fact that over the past few months, I haven't even been getting any rejections any more, much less positive replies or interviews.
This continued on for several months, and all the while, my self-esteem started to plummet. A whole bunch of idiots from my high school have decent jobs! I see them on Facebook! How come I can't get one? Last week, trying to be a little less direct in my approach, I decided to email a whole bunch of recruitment agencies too...and even they didn't reply. What? I could be making you money, guys! Don't just ignore me! What are you, every girl I ever knew until age 17?
The fact that they didn't reply stirred up my curiosity. My CV is saved as a Word document, but I use an alternative program. Maybe the formatting is getting messed up and making me look unprofessional, and I can't see it on my PC? So, I decided to email my girlfriend to test it...using the Windows 10 Mail app. As I have been since probably last July.
I sent her an email with the CV attached, and the subject "Test". [This is what she received.] No attachments or anything. I then decided to try using the browser version of Gmail, which I haven't done in a long time. It worked perfectly.
7 fucking months, Microsoft. 7 Goddamn shitty fucking months since I've had a job interview. Eat a fucking bouquet of dicks. | Microsoft broke all my fucking job applications for the better part of a year and I had no idea. |
t3_2ph3dl | tifu | TIFU by being too tired | Happened this morning.
SO and myself went to bed around midnight. I was happy for not having any lectures the following day and finally being able to catch some sleep.
5:45 BEEP BEEP BEEP
Get up, prepare breakfast, wash myself and drive SO to the train station. Drove back home. The urge to sleep is strong but I have some chores to do.
I start immediately, washing the dishes, hang out the just finished laundry, post some important letters. Last thing left to do is buying some salmon filets to cook lunch.
Satisfied with all I have accomplished by now I take a rest on the sofa.
Just 10 minutes.
The minutes pass and I get up again, put on my shoes and venture out to get the salmon.
Enter the first store, to the freezer, no salmon!
No fish at all. Strange, well let's try the next store, not far away anyways. Enter the second store, to the freezer, NO FISH!
I start to stress out. Surprisingly I meet my mother at the second store, she tells me that there is some big fish plague and that I have to swing my fishing rod. I head back home, take the fishing rod and off to the pond. That's the moment it hits me. My mother lives 200km away from me, there's only one store in town and I don't own any fishing rod...
I open my eyes, the clock tells me it's 13:39 (2afterleet). The meal has to be finished and ready to eat at 14:00. It all felt so real :( | Being tired, have to buy fish, swung my fishing rod, don't own a fishing rod, super realistic dream instead |
t3_ggr3i | AskReddit | Reddit Help me try to get the love of my life back :) | Hello people of reddit this is my first post and although I promised myself that the first post I make will be to contribute something important.
Instead I come to you for help.
Me and my girlfriend of three years parted ways after she became unsure if being with me was easy or right.
She wants to try being friends for a while and I'm giving her her space. I can tell she misses me by her blog, but she's afraid to get back with me for fear of rushing into it. She's a quality gorgeous girl that loves Star Wars, Battlestar Galactica, Gaming, and balances it with stunning looks and loving to go out and have fun.
I want to impress her, not beg for her back but remind her of the good times.
She LOVES this song
I don't know how to play guitar but i want to learn to play this song. Can anyone help me learn or suggest doing something with it to make an impression. | Help me use the song in the link to woo my girl. |
t3_1ieye5 | relationships | Update: I [m/30] was falling for my much younger coworker [f/17] | Here's the link to my [old post] although I'm pretty sure it got deleted for some reason.
Things have been alright... the next time I talked to Amy after posting this was really weird. I told her that she needed to go after guys her own age, that she was an amazing girl, but I was too old for her and in a different place in my life. She seemed to understand and kind of blew it off before leaving.
Then, this past Saturday, I really fucked up.
My friends and I went to a bar that we *never* go to and, lo and behold, Amy and her friends are there. Apparently it's their normal place to go because they take fake IDs. She was really surprised and taken aback that I was there, and I became worried because she was pretty tipsy (so was I, though), but she pointed out her DD. My friends and I went to the bar and had a few drinks, and then Amy and I danced for a bit.
We were both drinking, and decided it would be a great idea to go back to my place. Things went a little bit too far, but immediately stopped when she 'warned' me that she was a virgin. The logic of how wrong this all was came back to me, and I told her I couldn't do it. That she was going to find some great guy her own age and should lose it when she's in love. She was pissed and put her clothes back on, saying that she wanted to sleep with somebody who 'knew what they were doing.' I told her I couldn't do that to her, and called her a cab.
I haven't talked to her since then, and took yesterday off as a personal day. I''m going in soon and am going to try my hardest not to see her. I fucked up. | I fucked up and almost slept with her. Am considering looking for another job. |
t3_24r16g | relationships | She [24 F] initiated a mutual breakup with me [29 M] and I'm wondering what I should be doing | As I'm moving stuff into a new living situation she texts me, "Are you happy?" and we then proceeded to breakup via text. Worst fucking decision ever, btw. I think an in-person breakup would have been better.
So I'm kind of sad about it. I'm pretty sure a no-contact thing would be best once we exchange stuff, but I just wanted to ask if that is wise. I texted her tonight that I missed her and I wish we would have seen each other in person and talked about it... she read everything but didn't respond, so I'm sure she's done. I can imagine her smoking a cigarette and saying "Oh my G-d Travis is blowing up my phone" to her roommate. This is so stupid.
I've been in relationships before and by comparison the way this one ended is heavenly. No swearing, no anger... but I am still bummed out. I knew it wasn't going to be last much longer. I think we hung out (banged) for 3 months and dated for 5... there were moments where I didn't feel that physically attracted to her but I was soooo into her face and personality and humor. I knew it wouldn't last and had been thinking about breaking up but I still wasn't ready.
I'm not friends with any of my exes. Is the best way to reach serenity a no-contact type of thing? Trade our shit, say goodbye and don't look back? | is no-contact the best way to get over the sadness of the relationship loss? |
t3_u5xby | AskReddit | Testimony For a Trial | Reddit, I need your help. I've been asked to testify in a rape trial on the side of the boy against a girl that I would consider to be my friend. Basically, they asked me to testify that she was an easy slut. Morally I have a problem with this, especially since the details of everything that happened are very fuzzy. But what I'm truly scared of is that if she wanted to ruin my testimony she could legally claim that I raped her too since she was drunk when we had sex. Is this legitimately a possible outcome that could happen to me? And any other advice would be glorious. Thanks ahead of time to anyone who take the time out of their day for a bit of input | I've been asked to tell the court a girl is a slut, but we boned when she was drunk and I'm wondering if it could bite me in the ass. |
t3_2ztri6 | relationships | Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of three years, my boyfriend keeps messaging other girls online. | This is more of a rant, but advice is welcome. I have been with bf for close to three years, i have caught him so many times talking to other girls that live in our town and those who are just online.
He always lies to me about it later, and will never tell me the truth until the last second that he knows for sure hes caught. Hes done this with alot of girls, he will even talk shit on these girls to my face to make it seem like he doesn't like them.
I don't care if he looks at porn, i do too, but this is different. To me this is like cheating, so with my depression disorder its been making me feel horribly low. Like to the point where all i see in the mirror is this ugly girl and i think to my self 'obviously he doesn't want you, your never going to be enough, be greatful he choose to stay with you and not those other girls'. I have told him so many times that this is painful, and to please not do it, and he always lies and says he won't. I tried to break up with him yesterday because i found this whole account on instagram he was hiding from me with only girls he was messaging, but we've been together so long he was able to convince me not to leave him.
It just feels so unfair because we live together, but i get no privacy, he goes on my facebook and is always over my shoulder when im on the phone, yet he can hide so much from me. Once he found a message to my friend saying a guy was cute, and he almost left me, but i don't feel strong enough to leave him. He tells me im the only one he loves, and swears hes stopped, but he always tells me hes stopped.
I dont feel that i trust him anymore, i dont even want him to touch me, but i love him, i dont know what to do anymore. | BF keeps talking to other girls and its making me suicidal. |
t3_4ejylx | relationships | I [24 M] having been dating a number of women [22F - 26F] recently and am wondering about text etiquette | I am a single man who moved to a new city about 8 months ago and have been doing dating a lot since. No serious relationships so far, which I'm fine with--I like going out with women even if it's just a couple dates and doesn't lead to anything.
My question is about texting. I've noticed that if a girl decides she's not interested after one or two dates, she won't actually tell me that--she'll just stop replying to texts. This has happened multiple times.
IMO this is super rude. If someone asks me out and I'm not interested in them, I'll always tell them. After all, they had the balls (metaphorically) to make a move, and in some cases we already spent time together.
So, my questions:
Am I right that this is super rude? Maybe I'm just behind the times and communication is out, radio silence is in?
How should I change my behavior to accommodate for this? I've thought about only making plans/asking girls out via phone calls, but that feels kind of forced since nobody talks on the pho
ne anymore. Still, I'm pretty sick of waiting for replies that don't come and am trying to find a way around this.
Maybe this varies regionally? I moved from NY to SF so maybe this is just people being more passive aggressive out here. | Text radio silence when dating. Is this the new normal? |
t3_346l32 | relationships | Girl sleeping in bed with my bf [20M]. Am I [18F] supposed to be okay with this? | A little back story (with fake names) : Jess and Mike met around September, and they live on the same floor in the same building. We're all freshmen in college. They became best friends, had a slight incident where they slept together twice. Jess had feelings for Mike but Mike turned her down. They became platonic and stayed best friends. They're moving into the same room together next year.
I meet Mike in October, we start dating, and by January we're "official". He knows now I'm slightly uncomfortable with the intimacy he shares with Jess, but it's whatever. Mike's friends all know that I'm his girlfriend, it's no secret. Mike has many female friends who he's hooked up with who he still hangs out with, him and this girl went to a bar the other day together and spent 80$ on drinks. That same night him and Jess shared his bed and fell asleep together.
No sex, no physical stuff...
If it's all "platonic", is this okay...morally? What is your opinion? | BF shared his bed with female friend. Has many female friends he hangs out with, he's hooked up with them in the past before we started dating. |
t3_47nl4h | relationships | Is my(20 f) boyfriend(22 m) too controlling? | I've been dating the same guy for two years. Our relationship is okay, he's always had trust and jealousy issues, though.
I don't have any friends, like literally zero. My best friend of 5 years abandoned me to date my ex and ever since then I've only had my boyfriend and family.
I recently became pretty decent friends with a guy at work. He's older than me, but he's really nice and I can say 100% there is nothing more than friendship between us. I told my boyfriend about it and he got really mad and told me I cannot be friends with any males. I tried to argue and he ultimately said I either accept it or we break up.
I don't want to break up, I love him, but I really do want to have friends. I can't even make a Facebook to try and make friends with girls because he won't allow it. I don't know what I should do. Everyone I ask says I should break up with him because this isn't acceptable behavior.
Please help. | My boyfriend won't let me be friends with other guys. |
t3_hcpav | needadvice | I have a gay, schizophrenic stalker. Wtf do I do? | Three and a half years ago, I worked in a dual diagnosis (mental health disorder and chemical dependency) treatment facility. Well, yesterday, I get a really weird email from a guy who used to be a patient there. It was pretty incoherent, but seemed to be saying he wanted to get closure in regards to me touching him. I was like "....wat?"
I then got another email from him a few hours later. Attached was a 2 page, single spaced letter he had written about how he was gay, and thinks about me all the time, called my parents to try and find where I was (I remember my parents telling me a few years ago that some mental health patient called, trying to find out how to contact me). I am guessing he got my email address from google searching my name, finding my youtube page, and seeing a few videos that have my email address on them.
He goes on about how no one ever touched him like I did (???), and how he wishes he would have accepted my advances. I have no idea what I could have done to give him such an impression, since I have a pretty strict "no touching!" rule with patients, and work very hard to maintain a professional relationship, so they know I am not their friend.
Anyway, I am not sure what to do. Do I call HR, even though I don't work with that company anymore? Do I just ignore it? I am thinking he either made this whole thing up in his head (he is schizo), or maybe it happened with someone else (maybe even another patient), and is somehow attributing it to me. I really am kinda freaked out about it. | A past mental health client of mine thinks we had some sort of pseudo-relationship when he was in treatment, and is now sending me weird emails. |
t3_3h987v | relationships | Me [22/F] with my boyfriend [21/M] of 1 year has a misunderstanding. Am I being too much? | My boyfriend went to a going away party for his best friend. He texted me, " Me and the boys was helping someone throw up". When I read this is just kinda sounds so suspicious. First of all, he had to specify that it was him and the boys.. so basically, "not only him". Second, "somebody" I already know is a girl.. so when I asked him about it, he said it was this girl *let's call her Abby*. He said that he didn't remember if I know Abby or not, but in my mind I know that we talked about Abby a couple of times, and hung out with her too. I wanted to tell him that he's not the kind of person that will just forget things. He is the kinda of guy who knows everything and would even cut you off when you're talking because he already knows everything.
I am just concerned that he is lying to me again. He has lied to me, or didn't tell the whole story before.. | I feel like my boyfriend is hiding something? Or am I just being too much? |
t3_4lmr5n | relationship_advice | I [22 M] have abandonment issues, and I want to discuss it with a girl [23] I've been seeing | I recently started seeing this girl, and we've been having a great time together. We're both incredibly attracted to each other, but I've recently realized that I have bad abandonment issues that have sabotaged every relationship I've been in.
My mother, with whom I was very close, died when I was 14, and I still live with my father who has always been a hard-ass. There's always been this subconscious feeling of not being good enough, and as a result, I'm very hesitant to be intimate with someone out of fear of losing them. I'm quite sure my mom's death and my dad's hard-ass attitude play a huge role in my behavior.
The girl I've been seeing has made it very obvious that she's extremely attracted to me, and I'm very attracted to her, but as I mentioned earlier, I'm feeling very reluctant to jump into any sort of emotional-type relationship. Even after we had sex for the first time, I started feeling really anxious and almost sad the next day. I understand that it's completely ridiculous, and I'm overthinking it all, but I can't snap myself out of it.
My question is, should I talk to her about my problems? If so, how should I go about it without it coming across like I'm dumping an emotional freight train on her? We've only been seeing each other for about a month, but I feel like she should at least know what's up before we jump into a relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | I have abandonment issues, and I'm not sure if I should talk about it with a girl I'm seeing. |
t3_22621f | pettyrevenge | Revenge tastes like pudding | This past April Fools, I enacted a joke that I had wanted to do for some time. First, I took a mayonnaise jar and emptied it out. After cleaning it, I filled it with pudding. I left it in the refrigerator overnight, and took it to school the next day, with the intention of eating it plain and making people think I was eating plain mayonnaise.
The next day turned out to be STAAR testing. I forget what STAAR stands for, but it's an all day test that all highschool students in Texas are required to take. Oh well, I thought, I still can do my amazing joke.
In the test room, I happened to end up sitting next to my friend who shall be referred to as M. At lunch, M and I struck up a very serious conversation. I pulled out my lunch bag, and my mayo jar. Ever so slowly, I unscrewed the top, and started eating. M was disgusted. After a few minutes though, she realized that something was off. Instead of being white, the pudding had a yellowish tint to it (curse you Jello!), and it tipped her off that maybe I was just eating pudding. I didn't lie when she called me out on it, but the fact that the substance I was consuming was actually just a sugary treat didn't stop her from finding it extremely gross.
Soon, more people began to take notice. Every time they would ask why I was eating straight mayonnaise, she would tell them that it was just pudding. I had been dreaming of doing this joke for an entire year, and wasn't about to let her ruin my fun.
After maybe the third time this had happened, I made my move. I stared into her eyes, past them, in fact. I stared into the depths of her soul. I slowly took my spoon, and scooped out some pudding. The look on her face was priceless as I ate it. It was the best putting I had ever eaten. | My friend ruined my April Fools joke so I ruined her apetite |
t3_1znwra | pettyrevenge | Revenge on the radio | In high school, I had a class where we were seated alphabetically so I was forced to spend a semester seated in front of Mariano B., one of the sadistic jocks. Every freakin' day, he would whack me over the head with something (usually the box of Kleenex on the bookshelf next to our row) and if I turned around, he'd puff up and say "What are you going to do about it?"
Flash-forward several years. I had a drive time shift on KXLU, LA's underground/college station. The drive time shifts got the primo ticket giveaways. I had one such giveaway scheduled during my shift: a pair of tickets to a sold-out Jane's Addiction show at a small venue. I announced the giveaway and said fifth caller would nab 'em and went off mic while I played a song.
*ring, ring*
"Caller number one, sorry you didn't win."
*click*
*ring, ring*
"Caller number two, sorry you didn't win."
*click*
...
*ring, ring*
"Caller number five, congrats you get the tickets!"
*caller:* "Oh, right on! Hey is this Michael B.?"
"Yes it is."
"Cool...is your last name Bxxxxx? From El Segundo High?"
"....yeah?"
"Hey man, it's Mariano from Class of '82! Remember me?"
"...Mariano."
"Yeah man! I listen to you all the time! It's so cool to see how cool you got to be! Hey, sorry I was such a jerk back in high school."
"Yeah..."
"So I won the tickets?"
"No."
*CLICK!*
"Caller number five, congrats, you got the tickets." | The author of *Requiem For a Dream* had a cameo in the film version as a prison guard. |
t3_4mnvii | relationships | My (I am 25m) on/off gf (25f) (of 8-9 months) and I made plans to hangout last night but she did not show up and is now ignoring me. | I have been dating a girl on/off for months. Last night We were supposed to meet up. I texted her around 7 Pm last night confirming where to meet and she stopped responding, and never came home. Its now 1030 AM and she has not responded to any of my calls or texts.
Through Facebook stalking i know she has been online multiple times since then. I don't know what to do. If her phone had broken or something bad had happened I assume she would've messaged me on Facebook or some other way.
Because she was already drunk and out at the time we were supposed to meet up, my inclination is that she went home with another guy and is now ignoring me because she doesn't want to talk about it. Am I crazy? Why else would she ignore me? I really have not done anything worth that kind of treatment, and I would know if I had. | My gf stopped responding to me last night when we were supposed to meet, and still hasn't gotten in contact with me, though has been on FB etc. |
t3_3yuaay | relationships | I [28 M] with my _gf__ [24 F] 9 months, my anxiety is hurting our relationship. Need advice | Hi there Reddit. So I've been with my girlfriend for about 9 months now. She's obsolutely amazing and I love her more than anything but my anxiety is starting to hurt our relationship. We both have very stressful and crazy jobs so she can't always be there for me when I have an anxiety attack. I get super stressed out when I text her and she doesn't respond right away and my mind comes up with these crazy reasons for why she's not texting me back even though I know they are irrational. I still get scared that maybe she lost interest or she's not in love with me anymore or something crazy like that. Then two weeks ago I freaked out so bad that I said something really fucked up and now she won't talk to be at all and says she needs space. I know I fucked up bad and I wish I can just have a conversation with her to sort it all out but she says she needs to be alone for awhile, so I need to respect that. I'm hoping she'll reach out to me soon once she is ready and everything will go back to normal but idk, I'm really scared of losing her cause I've never felt this way about any girl before and she is so beautiful, smart, fun to be with and just all around amazing. And on top of it all its NYE and now we won't spend it together and I won't get to kiss anyone at midnight. It really sucks. | My anxiety is damaging my relationship with my love and need advice! |
t3_21w1uk | relationships | Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] gaming "addiction" is becoming a huge issue. | **I say gaming addiction because I don't know how else to word it. It's a problem, but I don't know if it classifies as an addiction in his case.**
I've been with my boyfriend for half a year now. We'd been best friends for about two years before we started dating. I always knew he was a gamer but when we were together he never played much at the beginning of our relationship.
Lately it's all he does though. It started with just a little bit, but now it's an all day-every day thing. He wakes up and watches streams, then his friends will want to play so he plays with them, then goes right back to watching streams until he feels like playing a game again. He does this all day. When he plays, it's like I don't exist and when I do try to say something to him he gets really snappy with me. I really don't like the people that he plays with either. They're a bunch of assholes most of the time and they make him act like an asshole, but they're his friends and online gaming is how he spends time with them.
It's so frustrating because I want him to have fun with his friends, but I also want to hang out and go do things with him. I've tried talking to him about it and he seems genuinely upset that it upsets me, but I don't see much of a change. He isn't focusing on school like he should either because of it.
I love him, but I'm not willing to be second to a game. I don't know how to talk to him and make him know I'm serious that it's a growing problem for our relationship. I don't want him to completely stop playing because I know he enjoys it, he's good at it, and it's how he stays in touch with a lot of his friends. It wouldn't be fair for me to ask him to quit altogether. I just want him to play less and stop watching streams all day. | I hate League of Legends because my boyfriend plays too much, help me. |
t3_m658o | Cooking | Every year I get together with my brother and cousins to make enough Pierogies to last us through the holiday season. | Every year our Grandfather would make no less then 500 Pierogies (or Pierogi if you want to be an ass about it) which he would then give to family and friends for the holidays. As he got older all this cooking got harder for him, so he passed the recipe and tradition down to us.
His normal fillings were either potato and cheese or sauerkraut. This year we decided to branch out and experiment with some new fillings. The first experiment was simply just adding bacon to our normal potato and cheese. The second was a ricotta and spinach filling.
[This album] is simply a collection of photos we took during the whole process which spanned from Friday night to Saturday night. We have not yet cooked the Pierogies, just assembled and froze them. I'll post pictures of when we actually cook them which will be Christmas Eve. | [Hey look we made a bunch of Pierogies]( |
t3_1fgojy | relationships | Wife[36] just 're-friended' affair guy on facebook. What should I[38] do? | My wife and I have been together for about 18 years, 11 have been married. We have 2 kids (6 & 4). We own a home together. About 2 years ago, she had an affair with a guy. It is/was bad. She attempted multiple affairs but got shot down, never committed herself back to the marriage, didn't follow through on my wishes for counseling and I've caught her in multiple lies since. Lies like "I left the bar at 12:00 with Jenn" but doesn't get home till 2:30.
So she had her birthday party last night... Girl's Night... I wasn't invited. She was being kind of mean (typical behavior for her when she's being dishonest). On a hunch, I looked through her Facebook friends. In her friends, the main guy she had the big affair with two years ago has reappeared and, understandably, it makes me extremely angry.
I plan on leaving when the boys get a little older. Our marriage isn't going to work since my priorities are kids, job and my health and her priorities (she said) are going out and being social. I will leave but in the mean time, how do I keep from LOOSING MY MIND?!?? | Stuck with a dishonest cheating wife. How can I keep my sanity until I can make my escape? |
t3_vil1d | relationships | Fellow redditors in deep relationships please tell me what to do | [Previous post]
Sorry i'm late with the update but i'm doing it. After much thought I decided that I should just end it, I'm not doing any good. "I'm just taking up space" as some redditor put it. It's best if she find somebody else.
I wanted to do it the right way. Meet at a location and discuss it and then I would read her the speech I wrote so I could make sure I was able to turn my thoughts and emotions into words.
She ended up not being to make so I shot her a text a couple of hours later I just asked "**Whats the real reason you avoid me not talk to me and just plain shut me out.
Did I hurt you that bad and you don't wanna tell me**(I know I wish I didn't write that)**or do you just want space because i really do understand**"
Her" **I don't want space. I'm just going thur a hard time. Everything blows right now**"
Me "**And I understand that's the thing I do and all I can do is watch......**"
Then I gave her my speech | of it: |
t3_1jfq5t | relationship_advice | My boyfriend(17) and I(17) have fight cycles. | We've been dating for almost a year now and keep having periods of fighting, then periods of trying to fix everything. I love him so much, but I get the feeling that he doesn't entirely trust me (we've dated and broken up before). I don't have many friends, and he's been my best friend for as long as I can remember. We know each other inside and out, so I can tell when he's hiding something. I constantly get the feeling that he is too scared to tell me things for fear of losing me. I'm too scared that he won't trust me if I tell him I'm upset over something. I have a theory that since neither of us have really close friends, and are too worried to talk to each other, the little things spitball into huge fights. We always resolve to talk more, but when we do, our built up anger causes us to take what the other person says the wrong way. He is pretty much everything to me, even though I'm young, and we don't get much time together because of my jobs and school(another thing he's told me he resents). Any advice, please? | Boyfriend and I fight because we can't communicate, and due to built up resentment |
t3_39lf4t | relationships | Me [27 M] with my girl I started dating [24 F] decided not to have sex for first 3 months of dating. I found out she's sleeping with someone on the side. | So the title pretty much explains it all. We met at a mutual friends "summer kick off BBQ" at the beginning of May. We hit it off immediately and hung out right away. It only took a couple weeks for us to decide we liked each other, and wanted to consider a relationship.
After a couple of dates we get back to my place, start getting into it and she stops, decides she wants to take things slow with me and do it the right way. I agree as I really like her and think it would be well worth it.
Fast forward to now over a month of dating and with 2 months to go I talk to our mutual friend again about how we are dating. He tells me "dude her and so-and-so are sleeping together". I ask for how long has this been going on and he says about 3 months and he confirms it is still happening.
Without trying to jump to conclusions the next time we went on a date was when we were out to dinner, everything was great and when I dropped her off I confronted her about it, asked if it was true and she doesn't deny it. I asked her why she is continuing this when her and I are trying to start a relationship and her reasons are since we are technically not in a relationship yet nor are we having sex that she isn't doing anything wrong. I was so flustered and upset I didn't even kiss her goodbye and left. This was 2 days ago and she has texted me a couple times, with the exception of a couple short responses I haven't been talking to her.
I don't know what to do, I know she "technically" isn't doing anything wrong but this just doesn't feel right. I can't help that I am now turned off to her, even if technically I shouldn't be or whatever. I don't know if I want to continue this with her, what do you all think? | title says it all, she also doesn't think she's doing anything wrong and now I'm turned off to her. Don't know what to do. |
t3_qt6p0 | BreakUps | Not sure how to react | Dont hate on me please :(
My ex (19) and I (20) broke up in December. She dumped me and I was distraught. A month later we got back together but then we broke up again. I had a much easier time moving on this time due to the fact that I realized she is the one who has problems not me and that I will be fine without her.
So I am single for this month and a half and I make out with this girl who is way out of my league and I'm shocked this is actually happening. The next day we decide that it is a one time thing. Well then next time we are together she is texting me about she doesnt want it to be a one time thing she just doesnt want to let her best friend (who she is in love with) know. I accept it and this continues.
To make a long story short he finds out and is pissed at me but more so at her for her lying to him. So now she is gone and the little arrangement we had together is over. The next day my ex texts me saying she wants to meet with me. I say sure why not and she confesses she still has feelings for me. I am unsure how I feel about this and i dont know how to react.
So basically my issue is that I loved the arrangement I had with the girl I had while I was single and I was having alot of fun. Now I dont know if I wanna be back with my ex or not. If I dont get back with her I'm still single but the arrangement I liked so much is over. If i do get back with her I'm setting myself up to get hurt. I feel lost :/ | I cant decide whether or not I wanna try again with my ex or not because I had a great thing going without her but now that it is over I dont know what I want. |
t3_38uj2s | legaladvice | Help with legal advice for drug posession | Hello all, I have recently been charged with two drug possession charges, one of a controlled substance, vyvanse ( State jail felony ) and another of marijuana ( less than .1 of a g, a few leaves). I have no prior criminal record, and a first time offender of any sort. I am also a 21 year old student at one of the best universities in Texas. Now, I understandably need a lawyer, but my family does not have much money. I have also contacted lawyers who have given me advice and to not worry, but charge fees around 5000-10000, all telling me that i'll be okay. My goal is to have it removed from my record and as i understand from Government Code §76.011 pre-trial intervention is possible, so i don't understand why I need to pay so much.
So my question is, what is a decent price for a lawyer in my case (hourly or flat) so I do not overpay for a lawyer. Also, any personal experiences with posession as a whole would be beneficial as well. Thanks! | I am a 21 year old university student that got caught with vyvanse and <.1g of marijuana in a baggie, how much SHOULD a lawyer cost? |
t3_s7do4 | relationships | Date Idea | My SO and I are long distance so this probably would not happen for a while, but......
She posts a large amount of pictures online of furnished rooms. They look really cool. She has been to the Ikea in her state years ago, and it was a whole day trip, since it took hours to get there. I know its kinda weird, but I want to take her to one, and spend at least part of the day just hanging out there, maybe have lunch, look at the crazy stuff, and people watch. I am still extremely new to dating, even though I'm 22, so I got no idea what sorta things are cute vs. weird. | Would it be a stupid idea to tell her that I want to take her on a date to spend time at IKEA? |
t3_2t3t76 | relationships | I'm [23F] in love with my friend/coworker [25F], but she has a boyfriend... How do I stay friends but stop liking her? | I've posted about this before but under a different throwaway.
I changed the ages, I am actually 26 and she is 23.
I'm bisexual. I've been single for about 3 years, but casually dated guys for the past couple of months. I'm not seeing anyone now, but I'm in love with my coworker. She's got a boyfriend but there is a connection between us and she is so goddamned beautiful, inside and out. I probably sound obsessed, but when I look at her, I feel like she can see into my soul (pardon the cliché crap, but it's true). I love being her friend, but it is hurting me getting closer to her while she is in a very serious relationship. I realize it's sad and horrible and far-fetched, but I keep thinking about the day she breaks up with him and we would get together. The thing is I am attracted to girls, but I don't really want a girlfriend. I can't see myself being long-term with a woman, but her? It's possible. I love everything about her.
I want her friendship, but I want to stop loving her. It isn't easy because I see her every single day and frequently catch her eyes across the room or try not to be a bumbling idiot when I talk to her. I think she knows I've got a crush on her. We haven't known each other for more than half a year, but she treats me like a close friend and my intuition is pretty strong, I feel like she flirts with me.
I'm sorry if this is stupid, but I care about her. I'm attracted to both sexes, and have been in love with men, but she is the first woman I have ever loved. I would do anything for her and I know it's not healthy to keep pining after her. I currently have other prospects (guys) , but she is the only woman and the only one I want. It's pathetic.
Help, reddit. I see her every day. How do I stop loving her? | In love with coworker. It's probably not going to happen. How do I maintain a healthy friendship while letting my feelings fade? |
t3_2j50k3 | running | Need help with motiation | I am a college runner coming into my 8th year of being a runner. Since the beginning of last year I have been consistently injured in different ways. This is new to me. In highschool and freshman year of college I never got hurt or lost motivation, so I'm not versed in this. What I need is help with what could motivate me. I'm watching race videos regularly, I'm currently reading Running With the Buffaloes, about to start Once a Runner and talking to my coach about ways to get back into the swing of things.
Can any of you help with this or anything related? | year of injuries has taken motivation from me. need help getting it back |
t3_1p1nmf | Advice | I recoil from almost all female contact. | Background:
I am a 16 year old male with no sisters or female friends. I also attempt to treat people how they treat me.
A few years ago, I was watching TV with my mum, and I go to reach for the remote. Somehow, I accidentally touched her breast, and she was horrified that I would do something like that. I was horrified that she though I would try to grope her. This upset me quite a bit, as it was definitely a mistake. My mother is the only consistent contact I have with a female.
You know how people stereotype groups they don't have much experience with, right? Well since I have very little experience with females, I got it into my head that they all think things like "Oh no, all men are out to rape me," sort of how my mum reacted. This combined with the 'treat others how they treat you' mentality I have, I now physically recoil from girls, trying to keep at least 1 metre away. (I now have one female friend, or friend of a friend, idk. I don't know why she hangs out with us.) Also, whenever a girl is nearby, I just shut the hell up, like she'll judge me just for speaking my mind and being male.
Additionally, my father has often made somewhat misogynistic comments, like "They're feminising our education system, and demasculinising our men!" This may contribute too.
Anyway, I would love some advice on how to get over this; many people seem to think I'm gay (I'm not), and I would like to get a girlfriend at some point in my life, so the earlier I fix this the better. | I accidentally touched my mum's breast a few years ago, now I recoil mentally and physically from female contact. My hugs are like the Voldemort one in the 8th Harry Potter Movie. Advice, please? |
t3_2udr84 | tifu | TIFU by letting my brother play with a used condom | So, this happened today.
I received a call from my mother near the end of school. She asked if I could pick up my younger brother from elementary school. Well, sure, why not. Anything to postpone my homework.
I drove to the elementary school, and waited forever in the pick-up/drop-off lane, finally seeing his face in the crowd of students. As he got into the back seat, I was feeling in good spirits, so I asked him if he wanted to go to the park. "Yeah!" he responded energetically.
I sat down on a bench at the park, pulled out a book and began to read, occasionally glancing up to make sure he wasn't doing anything that he shouldn't be. Nope, he's just poking at something in the grass on the other end of the playground.
"Hey, God_of_Trolling, what's this thing? It's *weeird!*
My brother runs over, gleefully waving something in his fist.
He tosses it right onto my book, and I stare at it.
It's a condom. A fucking *used condom.*
I told him that it was a finger cut off of a latex glove, gingerly tipping it into the trash. I corralled him into the car, took him home, and made him wash his hands three times. I burned the book. | Didn't pay attention to my brother, he found a used condom. |
t3_2omkwt | relationships | Me [26 F] with everyone. I can't tell when I overload myself with work and then take it out on people I love. | I think "acts of service" are my love language. I really enjoy helping other people and doing things for them - it makes me happy, too. Making dinner for friends, planning events, bringing home my boyfriend's favourite snack on my walk home from work, etc. It brings me happiness to give happiness to others.
The problem is, I can't seem to ever identify the point where my workload/promises/commitments become too heavy and I get overwhelmed and upset because I am doing too much. Often this ends in me having a breakdown and taking it out on others - even though I have 100% volunteered to help them and it's completely my own doing.
This is unhealthy and I know it.
This has happened at work (I take on too many projects or try to make everyone a priority and then it all comes crashing down), in my friendships/relationships (I will volunteer to do the majority of chores/cooking/planning something etc. because I genuinely want to and then get overwhelmed because I feel like I'm the only one putting in X amount of effort).
It's like I take a very, very long time to feel the pressure/reality of what I have agreed to and then it all becomes too much all at once.
Is there a way for me to stop doing this? How do I identify when my breaking point is coming? What is a more effective way to communicate that I am reaching that limit?
I don't want to blow up anymore - how do I get better? | I agree to do X amount of work for people I care about, it becomes too much for me to handle and then I get upset about agreeing to do X amount of work. How do I become a better communicator/identify signs that I am getting overwhelmed? |
t3_nw03n | AskReddit | The Pareto Principle between men and women | I was wondering about how the Pareto's principle would apply to guys in terms of their attractiveness to women. In case you haven't heard of this principle it states , in a nutshell, that 80% of the results are influenced by just 20% of the factors involved. It was initially an economic theory but it can be applied to nearly any paradigm: fitness , quality control etc. So 80% of women's attractiveness can be gamed by working on their physical attractiveness alone (personality, hobbies,making me a sandwich wont get you as far). How does this apply to guys?
You might get the Idea that I'm a chauvinistic pig....I'm not. Personality goes a long way as far as I'm concerned but a girl who's good looking makes it difficult for me or any other guy to judge her dispassionately. Women dont seem to have this issue however. You'll often see a women who is waay outta a guys league. You'll rarely see the opposite. | Generally 80% of a woman's attractiveness to guys is her looks(the 20%). So how would this work for guys? |
t3_49a5hw | Advice | I'm getting married in August, and I have an issue with my best friend. | So, I am getting married in August and I obviously want my best friend to be there. The only problem is her boyfriend.
An important detail about my wedding itself is that she would have to fly to San Diego from the midwest. I had assumed she wouldn't be able to come since most of my friends can't make it out to California.
Her boyfriend is an abusive jerk and I assumed he wouldn't let her go, but she seems intent on being there.
I really am in a hard spot here because I want my wedding to go just as smoothy as possible with no drama, but I do want my best friend there. It just seems the only options I have are
1 ) She doesn't come
2 ) She comes and I tell her he's absolutely banned from being anywhere near the wedding, I really don't even want him IN San Diego at the same time as this.
3 ) She comes to the wedding and he calls 400 times.
I am seriously not a bridezilla in the least, I want the whole thing to be very chill and laid back for everyone. If he is there, he will get drunk and cause a scene - and he is a violent drunk. There is no way I want him there, how can I explain this without hurting my best friend? | friend has asshole boyfriend who has potential to ruin my wedding |
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