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t3_35jenv | tifu | TIFU by browsing reddit on the toilet | This week is finals week at my college, so between the copious amounts of caffeine and fast food my bowels were a time bomb. Fortunately, I was in my dorm room when the urge came. And oh boy did it come. I waddled awkwardly to the bathroom and popped a squat before letting loose a torrent of substance that was neither liquid nor solid, but some reeking combination of the two.
This isn't a fuckup, this is a necessary biological function. The fuckup was that I figured I might as well do some browsing while I finished up. After I had sufficiently finished, I went to put my phone in my shirt's front pocket so I could wipe.
I missed the pocket.
All I could do was watch in horror as my phone fell towards the rim of the toilet bowl. For a second, it looked like it may escape unscathed as it bounced on the precarious lip of the bowl. But alas, fate is a cruel mistress and before I could react it had landed on the inner bowl and slid down beneath the putrid layer of murky feces that floated on the top of the water.
I knew I had no time to waste, as said water was inevitably burrowing towards the core of my device. I had no choice. I gritted my teeth and shoved my hand under the water. To my dismay, my phone had slid all the way down the hole, such that I had to submerge well past my wrist to reach it. I pulled it from the liquid hell and gently hurled it into the shower. I hastily wiped and pulled my pants up before retrieving my phone and rushing to the sink, where I rinsed it with clean water (I figured the damage was done at this point, I may as well get it clean first). I toweled it off with some laundry and it's now sitting in a bag of rice. I don't know the extent of the damage yet, but I expect it to be catastrophic.
Learn from my mistakes. Just put your phone in your pants pocket like a normal person. | took a foul dump, dropped my phone in it. |
t3_2o03jx | cats | My year old unfixed male has changed drastically since we had to give away our other cat, he doesn't stop yowling and displays bad behaviours now. What do i do? | About three months ago, we had to give Fox away due to destruction on the stuff ive been getting in order to prepare for having a baby. Simon, who was a different litter but still raised with him, was always the quieter, better behaved cat. Fox was beyond destructive, howled all the time, got into everything and was all around too much to handle. Simon has always been quiet, didnt meow much, and was pretty calm and well behaved, only picking up on a couple of Fox's bad habits.
So we found Fox a good home and kept Simon. He yowled the first little while all the time which i passed off, after all he did just lose a cat he was pretty bonded with. Eventually the yowling slowed down, but now he does it whenever im not home, to the point of keeping the entire household up. He just sits there and howls for hours.
Add into that, he was only allowed int he basement originally. Fox was too badly behaved to allow them upstairs so down they stayed. Now a few months later we've started trying to integrate him to upstairs so he can be with me a bit more. He has taken to peeing in the bathtub, eating the plants, jumping on the counters, trying to get into the garbage, nearly knocking down the fish tank in an attempt to get them. My roommate is about ready to flip, my cat keeps destroying everything and when hes downstairs he just doesnt stop yowling. Even her 3 year old yells at him to be quiet constantly.
Does anyone have any advise? Im on maternity leave now so ill be able to dedicate more time to trying to train him out of those habits, i use a spray bottle with him whenever i catch him in the act. But i think he's genuinely stupid, he will keep going back and trying no matter how often you go after him. He just doesnt learn.
I'm at my wits end, and my roommate keeps trying to hint to get rid of him and i wont. But i need to do something! Please, all suggestions welcome! | Cat became noisy and badly behaved after giving away his friend, and is now driving the whole house up the wall. |
t3_3qsub5 | tifu | TIFU by taking a sick day. | On Monday I was talking to some people at work and jokingly said "Halo is coming out tomorrow wish I had a day off". That night came and i was starting to feel sick, I went to bed and woke up the next day with a pretty bad cold. I went into work anyway because it wasnt that bad, Wednesday comes and im twice as sick and cant get out of bed, I called in sick (like you should right?) And my boss texted me saying "enjoy halo, hope its worth it........" and when i tried to call or text he just ignored me for a full 24 hours, i went into the work the next day, he yelled at me and told me it was my only warning and if i pull another stunt like this im fired, despite me having a medical certificate. Well, today came around and i was still pretty upset so i was admittedly a little mopey, and before lunch he walked up to me and told me i was fired and to pack my stuff and fuck off. | got fired for taking a sick day |
t3_30dul5 | relationship_advice | [28/m]With adhd-pi getting mixed signals from a (24/F) friend whom I am fond of. | So I've have a friend who I know has a boyfriend and I'm quite fond of her.
I met her through work and we used to chat through out the day online. She recently resigned and but we've kept in contact and still message each other alot via text.( 20+ a day)
Being the happy go lucky socially awkward person I am, I'm kind of not chasing her, as my ADD has only recently been diagnosed and have mild depression as well - she's one of the few people I talk to about this. I'm not medicated yet & I've only been taking anti-depressants.
I found out she had a long-term boyfriend during one of our first chats together & have never met the guy.
Recently she has started to ask me more personal questions, arranged times to meet up and haven't really questioned her status. (by personal questions mean like interrogation type stuff that you'd ask on a date)
I'm a pretty clueless guy and who doesn't really respond to social cues well. Any advice on what steps to take next? Without shooting myself in the foot. | I like this girl who isn't single but gives me alot of attention throughout the day and I'm unsure of how to proceed. |
t3_2nzrvf | relationships | Me [38 M] with my [31 F] "friend" of 6 months. Have I been friendzoned??!! Or maybe even worse?! | I live in Vegas. Met girl from L.A. through mutual friend. Uber flirty. Didn't react because was dating someone. We stay in contact.
Stop dating aforementioned person. Start texting her. More and more. She comes and visits me twice with another friend. Hang out all night, blah blah blah. Nothing more than that (emotionally or physically).
Still blows up my phone. She has me meet her dad. She wants me to come visit her. She wants me to come to her mom's 65th birthday. Etc.
Finally ask her WTF. She says "it's complicated because we don't live in the same city". Then keeps up with the come visit me, how was your holidays, I keep thinking about all the great times we had in Vegas, blah blah blah.
Discuss. | think I've been friend zoned because she blows up my phone and wants me to do family shit with her but there's nothing more emotionally or physically. or maybe I'm just being used. |
t3_1km2uj | relationships | Coworker [F/20s] has been stealthily manipulating me [F/20s] for the past few months. Advice? | I have a situation at work where I was being manipulated by a coworker who appears to be sweet and innocent. She has potentially screwed me over and "won". Despite this, I feel that she is either trying to waste my time or push my buttons. I'm leaving this job soon so I have no idea why.
She might try one more stunt at an upcoming meeting and now that I realize she's manipulative, I'm not sure what I should do to deflect any more harm my way. | Girl at work is manipulative and I don't see how she benefits from continuing her trickery, but I'm trying to prepare for her next move. |
t3_hnazm | AskReddit | My dad is convinced I'm a lesbian. What can I possibly do to prove to him I'm straight. | I consider myself a rather feminine, and definitely pretty standard girl, so I'm not sure what is it in my appearance or personality that would convince him so strongly that I was gay. The primary reason this is such a problem, is because he's very conservative and belligerent when it comes to topics like this.
For the record, I know I am not, nor have I ever been, psychogenically confused about my gender or sexual orientation. I am completely straight in that only men sexually turn me on. And don't get me wrong. I have absolutely no gripes with the LGBT community, and I wish all the more power to them. | Please, any suggestions at all as to how I can convince this man I am not gay. |
t3_4jldcl | legaladvice | NJ Child Support - Have custody of my bio-niece - is child support amassing for her bio-parents? | I've had custody of my niece T (3.5yo) for almost a year. My sister and her boyfriend signed off on temporary custody with no visitation clause last year when they were in active addiction. The day after the judge signed and filed it, her bio dad was arrested for burglary with bodily injury. His sentencing was last week and he was released on time served (a big surprise to us - we had been advised he'd be in for at least a few years).
Basically he's just not a nice guy, and I don't want him around T.
She's doing great and began calling my husband and me Mommy & Daddy (we have a therapist who advised us to follow her lead on that). She hasn't seen her bio dad since March of last year and I don't think she'd remember him.
The nature of the temporary custody agreement is that it can only be removed by a judge. I had heard that because we aren't her bio-parents that they owe us a great amount of child support - however neither of them work. It's not about the money, it's just about having a safeguard against them completely disrupting our lives. Any advice? | If you're raising someone else's kids, how does child support work? And also the bio parents have no income? |
t3_3dvz6g | relationships | Am I (20F) being unreasonable with my ex (24M) about our breakup? | We were together for five years and have a kid.
He had a really, really awful childhood that has led to him having severe depression. The depression manifested itself as him being completely apathetic about everything. Throughout our relationship he lied compulsively, cheated, blew his money and neglected his financial responsibilities, among many other things. He basically treated me like shit. I tried getting him into therapy, but couldn't force him to go. He always had excuses. So I finally left. I do care about him, but I felt like he wasn't working on himself and our relationship was going no where.
He moved back in with his parents and promised to work on himself. He made a therapy appointment (but hasn't been yet because the therapist is out of town) and said he will do whatever it takes to get us back together.
And then I found out he's been talking to girls. Multiple girls, all day every day. Talking on the phone with them at all hours of the night. When I asked him about it, he basically told me he could do whatever he want because *I* broke up with *him,* and if I wanted him to myself I shouldn't have left him. I told him I was upset because he told me he was working on himself so we could eventually get back together, and I didn't think that meant he'd start dating other people. He said he'd stop talking to them. Then he changed his mind and said he'd do whatever he wanted, so I told him that I don't see any chance of us getting back together and we should stay out of each other's personal lives.
It's over for good, and I probably should stop worrying about it now, but I can't help it. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt for not being able to keep our family together. My kid cries for her dad when he's not there. Am I being unreasonable or is he being a jerk? | Ex boyfriend told me he was fixing his issues so we could get back together. In reality, he is dating other people. He sees nothing wrong with it, but I'm really upset and hurt about it. Who's in the wrong? |
t3_2w2qsy | tifu | TIFU by listening to Rammstein | This actually happened today.
I was walking back home from the bus stop after getting a bus, and as usual, put some music on. I had saved [this song (NSFW)] ) onto my Spotify. So I clicked on Rammstein, and chose shuffle artist. A few songs later and the aforementioned song came on. By this point I was mouthing the lyrics to the songs. But during this song, I started to actually quietly say the lyrics, just as I started to gain on the person walking in front of me. They turned around to see and hear me quietly saying "You got a pussy. I have a dick. So what's the problem? Let's do it quick." They started to walk faster, and probably thought I wanted to have sex with them. | I whispered Rammstein lyrics to someone, they did not want to "do it quick". |
t3_3pmik9 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 3.5 years, need advice on how to improve myself | Let me start with I love my SO and want to do anything I can to make things work.
To keep things short; I want to be a better SO as I find I am lacking and it is becoming a one-sided relationship due to such.
I find myself always giving one word answers in conversations and not expanding on a topic that she might bring up.
I seem to lack romance, which I haven't quite figured out how to start improving on.
I almost never suggest to do anything as I am generally fine with doing nothing, however she wants to do things more often (which I am also okay with doing) but I never think of it.
Overall I think I am being a horrible boyfriend and want to improve but can't figure out how to break the bad habits. | Need help figuring out how to become a more attentive, better boyfriend as I've dug myself into a rut of bad habits and lazy responses. |
t3_149be0 | jobs | Should I leave an internship early for a job? | My work experience has been all over the map since graduating a few years ago. I had a decent part-time job as a producer/production assistant right after college, but I left to get some "life" experience. Over the last 3 to 4 years I have been doing a lot of fun jobs, but now it's time to get serious again. So I returned to the city for an unpaid internship in sales/marketing. It's great and I'm learning a lot.
Out of the blue, I received an offer for a part-time producer position. I would be producing TV programs in one of the most beautiful places in the world. It's seasonal and part-time, but I'll be in the communications department of a large company. What I'm feeling awful about is leaving an internship after only one month out of the three months I had committed.
Option 1: I can stick the internship out and keep applying for work. I am more likely to fine something stable and long term here in the city. But the job market sucks everywhere and I may just be sitting on my hands in a few months with no work and wishing I had followed up on the "dream" job. It's unlikely I will get a full-time job at the company.
Option 2: I can take the part-time (20-30 hours) position. I would possibly burn some bridges where I am interning. It's my "dream" job, using media and outdoor recreation. I will be looking for work in the summer, but I'll be paid until then. | Should I leave an internship early for a part-time job? |
t3_dfpmt | AskReddit | Roommate got a girl pregnant. She lied about the using the pill. Advice? | A couple of weeks ago my friend's girlfriend brought her cousin over to my apartment. This cousin was really was really into my roommate and after a few drinks they went to her house and had sex. He has seen her twice since then and we have come to realize she is a bit of a basket case.
Yesterday she told him she was pregnant. He claims that the first time they had sex, he didn't have a condom but she told him she was on birth control. Now she is telling him that she had been off it for over a month now.
She won't abort and she said adoption is highly unlikely.
I know unprotected sex is an awful idea, but her misleading about being on the pill just seems so wrong to me. Worst case scenario, he'll be paying child support. But is there anything he can do to avoid it because she lied to him? | Roommate got a girl pregnant and she lied about being on the pill. She won't abort or put it up for adoption. How much is he legally obligated to support the child? |
t3_32qp42 | relationships | Me [23/F] with my grandmother [80 F] - refuses to talk to her sister [81 F] and I'm afraid she'll regret it. | I have always been very close with my grandmother (I call her my 'Nanny'), and her sister was like a second grandma to me my entire life (I call her Nanny Laura). Both of them are extremely stubborn and throughout their lives have gone periods of times without speaking for insignificant reasons. The most recent reason is because Nanny Laura went to put flowers on their mother's grave without inviting Nanny. This has resulted in them not speaking for the past 5 years.
My mom is extremely torn up about this, and feels like she is stuck in the middle and losing her 'second mother'. Nanny Laura is really sick right now and we're afraid she will pass away soon. Nanny is showing no signs of budging, and gets really defensive and angry if you try to even broach the subject.
I feel like these two old ladies are going to regret not making up if one of them passes away. I haven't seen Nanny Laura in years and this has really divided the family. She has a granddaughter my age who I grew up with who I rarely even speak to anymore. | Grandmother refuses to talk to her very ill sister, afraid she will regret it after she passes away. |
t3_17tiun | BreakUps | Need help after GF [f18] broke up with me [m17]. Lost in thoughts | Late 2011 me and this beautiful girl started chatting and it all seemed awesome. Things went on really fast, but she had a boyfriend who was basically ignoring her. I helped her during those times, although I developed stronger feelings for her and I'd say that's what prompted this whole situation.
Things started getting rather messy and eventually they broke up. I was in love with her, and three months later we kissed after 1 week of them breaking up because she no longer knew what she felt about him. Our relationship started off great, although after a month she asked me for a time off to think about what she wanted. The situation resolved, and it happened again twice after another month and in August.
In August, she broke up with me definitely and we stood trying to make her be sure she loved me again. I admit I might have tried too hard, and eventually she gave up on me. On December she refused to be with me and on New Year's Eve she and her EX kissed. Such a great way to start this year, my love kissing the man who had been shadowing our relationship.
She has said the most horrible things lately. Well, at least for my point of view. I even saw them together a week ago, that got me as low as one can be. I am lost in what to do about her, I've fought since August for her love, and in the end I lost. I gave my very best, everything I had for this girl in my somewhat delusional forever. It was, indeed, my first love.
I know I should move on, she's been an idiot to me treating me like shit. But I care too much for her. What should I do? Should I talk to her? Should I do what?
It's a whole mess and this past months and been nothing but sad. Sorry for the throwaway account, but she knows about my reddit account and hopefully won't find this. I just need to get the stuff out of my chest.
Thanks | How can I forget this, move on and accept that they are together now, just like before I and she did. How do I accept the intimacy between them and all this? I'm really lost in what comes to this. |
t3_2lle93 | relationships | Am I [25/F] in the wrong for talking to this guy[26/M]? | This guy[26/M] and I, we'll call him D, have been friends since elementary school. He was my first real big crush that lasted from elementary all the way to the end of high school when I realized that we just weren't ever going to get together.
A couple of years ago, D ended up meeting a girl in college, getting married, and having a kid. Throughout this process we would talk maybe once every year as just a catch up message or when we'd see each other when he was home from out of state.
A couple of days ago I received a message from D asking me why we never ended up getting together during our childhood years. I thought it was an odd question so I just ignored it. He kept up the conversation asking me general "How are you" questions but every once in a while would throw in something about our past or how he "still has a crush on me."
After digging and interrogation I found out that D separated from his wife 3 months ago. He says he misses her and wants to make it work but for the past two days he's been asking me to come visit him out of state. Saying that he'll "pay for the flight and hotel." But I just don't think it's a good idea. I still have my girlish crush on him but I just got out of bad relationship and don't really feel like being used by a guy who's mourning his marriage. I know if I go I will try my hardest to keep it just as a friendship trip, which he says it will be, but I know if he tries something more I'll end up caving in and going for it.
But then again, he keeps telling me that I've been the only person to try and talk him through this process and because of that kindness he really wants to see me and reconnect. And though I know I'm being used I really would enjoy a vacation. Is that selfish of me? Is it wrong of me to be talking to a, technically still, married man? Should I continue to tell him to work on his marriage and if it ends up failing **THEN** we'll hang out? Or should I just go and have a good time? | Old crush just recently separated from his wife and wants to fly me to his state to hang out with him for week. Am I wrong for wanting to go? |
t3_2k3r48 | relationships | Me [31 F] with my fiance [33 M] over 2 years I feel is going to break up with me. | Lately my fiance has been very quiet and ignoring me throughout the week. We rarely get days off together anymore. When we do theyre so wonderful, and I love him so very much.
In the beginning everything was so amazing. We talked about marriage, kids, and building a life together. After we moved in together the feeling was still mutual. After a year though I started noticing him pushing those thoughts away.
We were supposed to be married many times now. He told me that he wants to better himself now so that we dont have to struggle in the future. I just don't understand that mentality.
He gets depressed alot, and he tells me that his happiness is not important. Thats all I want to do, is make him happy. He's been losing alot of weight, and doesn't eat what I make him anymore.
After he gets off work he is in such a bad mood, and never tells me what is bothering him. He gets home and either gets on the computer or goes to bed.
I was really upset one day and broke down to him about what he was doing to me. He just stared at me the whole time. Only saying, "you wont understand." It drives me crazy, I'm so afraid that he is going to leave me. I just don't know what to do. | My fiance has been ignoring me lately, and I feel he might leave me |
t3_1idyic | relationship_advice | Friend[26m]'s break up[3y, ended1,5mo ago] drives him crazy | So. I[23m] recently broke up with my gf[21] - I wanted to do it long time ago and last week I got balls to do it. **I AM HAPPY!** But, you know... 2 years of relationships makes me lonely sometimes. You know - good memories, morning routines (they were not good), bad sex. I'm doing "hire lawyer-hit gym" routine.
Anyway! My said friend is in another situation. The girl[26] broke up with him because of... really IDK. Friend said it's about his bad behavior recently - he has a challenging job and supports his mother and, partly, his older sister - if he has no income there would be tough time for a family.
He's blaming himself every day. On facebook he wrights crazy-ass texts: at first it was vanilla repost-shit like cheezy text *I* *want* *to* *sleep* *and* *hug* with photo of random boy and girl spooning. But this night he wrote craziest shit ever - something about "I deserve it", "nobody gives a fuck about me", "I want to write my last line", "give me one bullet, one opportunity".
For a record - we are fit and good-looking, we live in a very big city. And our mutual friend[26, no gf] is a good buddy - he knows him since kindergarten and have never seen him like this. | Gal broke up with mah bro. Mah bro is super upset. What do? |
t3_1a0das | relationship_advice | [16/m] Where can my girlfriend [16/f] and I have sex in private? | Not entirely sure if this is the right place, but I have no idea where would be. My girlfriend and I have been going out for some time. I realize many might say we're too young, but we've put a lot of thought into this and feel it's the best step for our relationship right now. However, we have nowhere to, well, do it. Our parents aren't going to just let us (a lot of backstory there, suffice it to say it's irrelevant here). Both of us have younger siblings. In other words, we basically can't use our houses - experience shows it's virtually impossible for us to be alone for long enough.
We've considered a lot of different situations, but we have no idea how we'll be alone. I'm completely alone some nights, but we don't know how she could get over here for that.
Can we rent a hotel? Some other location outside our homes seems best. Either that, or ways to totally avoid people. | We have absolutely no idea where and when to have sex |
t3_2fco8b | tifu | TIFU by screaming to a kid | TIFU by screaming on a kid. OK.. To start I need to say my neighbros are old and mentally ill. They never hurt me, my family or my dogs and cats. But they hate my dogs. I'm in fear they'll hurt them. Well. Today I heard a weird sound like a growl or something with other weird as fuck noises out of nowhere. I instantly run in the garden screaming "oh god! Oh god!" I tought my dog was in pain. Nope. It was a little girl around 3 years old with her mother. The mum looked at me like I was crazy, while her kid kept making inhuman noises. | heard inhuman noises, tought dog was in pain, panicked infront of a 3 y.o. |
t3_12luw5 | relationships | Is my bf a liar or just forgetful? | I (20F) have been with my bf (20M) for 3.5 years. I admit that I am insanely insecure and get jealous easily. I have been having trust issues in my relationship for a while now. I've found that my bf constantly "forgets" to tell me certain things when I ask a question. For example, when we tell each other what we've been up to, he'll say everything he did, but then forget to mention that he was chatting with a female friend. When I find out later on and ask him about it, he'll just say he "forgot" because it didn't matter to him. This has been his excuse for a lot of things. Then if I ask what they talked about, he'll just shrug and say he doesn't remember cause it was nothing special.
I keep thinking he is lying to hide these things because he thinks it will upset me, and he doesn't want to deal with that. But really I just want him to be more honest with me, and I want him to tell me these things because when he's open about it, I feel more comfortable in the relationship. However, when it's things like these where I find out later on that he omitted/forgot to mention something, it really bothers me, and I feel like my trust has been shattered.
I know he forgets certain things that aren't strictly related to girls. But, I feel like when it's something that you did, how do you not remember it? I don't leave out anything when I tell my bf these things. But I feel like it's just so convenient that he forgets these things related to girls, and his excuse is "it wasn't important, so why would I remember?" When I tried to talk to him about it, he would say something like: "Should I just make them important so I remember every time I talk to them?" I've told him that whenever he says he forgot, it feels like he's hiding things. But then he says he has nothing to hide.
Am I just overreacting and going crazy? I REALLY want to trust him, but he makes it hard. Are guys seriously that forgetful? | Bf always forgets to mention things, especially about girls. Says he doesn't remember because they're small and unimportant. Can't tell if he is lying to avoid upsetting me or genuinely forgetful. |
t3_2privz | relationships | My [20F] boyfriend [21] of 2 years wants to take a two-week break. Will it help? | My boyfriend A and I have been living together for over a year now and just recently, he said he's worried that we might be losing our spark, and that I feel like his best friend but not his girlfriend.
We agreed on a two week break, with set rules like no hooking up with other people. I'm worried that I didn't put enough effort into the relationship, and this break will make him want to move out of my life.
He said he loves me, and I believe him. Will going on a break actually fix anything? How do we save this relationship? | does going on a break ever help, or does it only hurt? |
t3_t6sc7 | AskReddit | Reddit, if you work <10 miles from your home and currently drive, what incentives would make it irresistible to bike to work? | I posted something similar in /r/bicycling, but I wanted a broader audience that isn't current enamored with bikes.
My office building was built with only enough parking for 60% of the workforce (by federal mandate). Parking is a fucking nightmare. I get here early enough that I never have an issue, but for many it is an issue.
I work with a lot of government personnel, who I know get 3hrs per week of paid exercise. That's right, they can work 37hrs a week, exercise for 3 hrs, and call it a work-week.
This got me thinking. I was mulling over the idea: If it takes me 30 minutes to drive to work, or 1 hour to ride, this means that riding to work would make my workday 1hr longer (for both ways total). If my company compensated me for that 1hr, I feel like I wouldn't be able to resist biking to work. As it stands, my time is precious to me (we have a newborn in the house). What other incentives could help sway someone to ride to work? | What would a company have to offer to make it irresistible to ride your bike to work? If they compensated you for the difference of time between riding and driving, would that work? |
t3_29vove | relationships | Me [26 F] with my 30[M] 1 year, long distance and feeling drained. | So I've been with my SO for about a year and it's long distance- like transatlantic long :( We've had our ups and downs but he is generally a considerate and kind guy who is always there for me. Personality wise there are some things that put me off such as differences in ambition and career goals that I thought I could look past but I'm having a lot of trouble doing that. (that's another issue)
My problem is sometimes mostly the distance. I feel guilty about not having enough time to talk to him because I'm very much a face-to-face person and over the internet/skype is killing me emotionally. We don't really have an end date and I have a sinking feeling that he doesn't grasp how difficult the immigration process really is; or maybe I'm just a bit pessimistic.
The last thing is my career goals. I want so badly to finish school and get into my dream career. I've managed to network a bit and find someone willing to mentor me and help me get to where I want to be and ... not so sure moving to where he is would be a good option in the next 5 years and him moving here wouldn't be a great option.
I love this guy but I'm just not in it romantically and I feel like I've failed him, failed myself and feel like I'll make the worst mistake of my life by breaking up with him over silly things but I'm feeling so overwhelmed with stress with him and I know without him I'll feel pretty damn bad too. | Long distance relationship taking a toll on my sanity, feeling like a failure if I break it off and afraid of making the biggest mistake by letting him go by getting "cold feet". |
t3_gs3yr | AskReddit | What's your most embarrassing puke story? | I'll start.
When I was in second grade I was preparing for First Communion at my Catholic church. I hadn't been feeling great that morning, but since everyone my age had to go through communion on the same day my mom had no choice but to stuff me in my pristine white dress, shoes and socks and haul me to the pew.
About halfway through the service I had had it, so mom tries to discreetly walks me to the bathroom. What this ended up looking like:
8-yr old me ushered to the bathroom by my mother, whose hand was trying to stop the spout of vomit exploding from my mouth, all the while both of us are slipping on my puke on the floor.
Luckily, neither of us fell down. I spent the rest of the ceremony sitting in a back room with my mother and did not receive communion that day. We had to throw out the white dress and I wore a (much less interesting) pink dress to a regular church service a few weeks later, where I was singled out and given my first communion; I distinctly remember being flush and embarrassed because I thought everyone knew I had to go a different day because I barfed all over the church. | I puked on my first communion day and had to take communion alone on a different day. Am now an atheist. |
t3_iw8wi | AskReddit | Throwaway here. I have a seriously embarrassing problem with English. Help? | So I came to conclusion for the past month and a half that I can't write a paragraph without full of mechanical errors and grammatical mistakes. The sad thing is that I am college educated, and born here in the U.S.A to a family that came to the U.S on the Mayflower. :(
(I'm not a troll, I'm telling you the truth here.) I just don't see my English mistakes until someone point out to me, then I'm like: "wow that's obvious."
Redditors, is there a program that can help me fix this out there? I understand grammar rules but I don't know why I still make them.
I'm really insecure writing anything now for fear of being ridiculed.
Help me. :( | Born Here to family that only speak English, yet still sucks at English. Help!? :( |
t3_whm3j | BreakUps | Should I pay to break the lease since I'm the one leaving? | Female, 24, broke up with Male, 28, after 3 years. We've lived together for two years. We moved out of a cheap, shitty, month-to-month place into a nice place with a year lease. Three months in and I am more unhappy than ever and have decided to move back home and break it off with him. We still live together pretty civilly for now. We've been friendly, semi-still acting like we're in our relationship while we both figure out the moving situation.
He just realized today that we would be splitting the cost of breaking the lease, rather than me paying the full cost by myself. I have a full-time steady job, but I make about $200 a week. His job is not steady--though he always seems to find work--and he makes about $600 a week. Rent is $850 a month.
I argued that he can afford to live here without me, thus it is his decision to break the lease, which costs $1000. I am more than happy to split the cost, but he thinks I should pay in full, because I am technically breaking the lease by leaving, since my name is on the lease.
I don't think this is fair. We have always split the rent and bills perfectly even, even though he makes a lot more money than I do. Even if he is unable to find work for a period, he can file and receive unemployment for that time, and he also has a savings of about $6,000 that he can pull from. | Should I pay in full by myself to break the lease since I'm the one leaving, even though he can afford to live here by himself? |
t3_289cq2 | relationships | I [19/M] have been with my girlfriend [20/F] for three years. Her dad [50/M] is upset because I didn't accept his help. | First of all, her dad has been nothing but respectful and nice towards me since I've met him and is a great person in general. When my car broke down I got the news that I needed a whole new engine. I called him asking for shop recommendations because he's a car retailer and also has a small user car dealership. He told me he had an engine if I decided to replace the engine.
But the logistics of this situation make it a complete clusterfuck. My car broke down in the Texas panhandle on my way home from college. I was headed to my dad's for the night before I was to complete my trip the next day to my mom's house eight more hours away. My dad took over the month long process of fixing my car because I needed to be to my mom's ASAP as I had a job lined up there. Because repair estimates near my dad were around $3000-$4000, he decided to rent a uhaul and bring my car to my mom's (remember, an eight hour trip) where, due to my uncle's local connections, we could have it done for $1700.
So, to my girlfriend's dad, it seems like not only did we refuse his help in his field, we hauled my car on an eight hour trip to have it serviced by someone else. It's also worth noting that they are Hispanic and, in their culture, refusing a favor or offering is taken very personally. If I had the obligation of repairing the car without help from my parents and I wasn't eight hours away from it, I would have taken his offer. But because my dad took on that responsibility and found a better deal than I ever could have, I let him steer the wheel. How do I explain this to my girlfriend'a dad without seeming like I'm trying to pass the blame? | My dad took over the process of getting my car repaired, but to my girlfriend'a dad, who works with cars, it seems like we went far out of our way to repair it rather than accept his assistance. Because of local connections near my mom's house, the difference in cost was about $2000. |
t3_36qzjz | relationships | My wonderful SO (39M) loses things constantly. I'm (34F) so sick of it and its affecting my attraction to him. Together 1 year. | Hey r/relationships, help me figure out how to help and how to deal with my SO's absentmindedness.
He loses keys, his wallet, important documents, etc.... all the time. In the last two weeks, he forgot his keys outside and had to use my set for a couple of days, misplaced his wallet twice, couldn't find his headphones, isn't sure where he left a book he borrowed.... The list goes on.
He's otherwise a solid partner, great listener, kind, motivated, good w kids n dogs, I love him a lot.
But these incidents.... I can feel myself shutting down and having these frustrated thoughts. Why cant he be better organized? Keeping track of your stuff is not that hard. The disorganization is so hard to watch, and even harder to constantly empathize with. Its affecting my attraction to him, and I don't know how to deal with that.
I've tried to put in some systems - key hooks, wallet bowl at the front door, etc... but nothing really sticks, and I have to nag him to use them.
Not sure where to go, but this state of disorganization makes me question having kids w him. Just imagining the wide array of things he could lose w them makes my anxiety shoot up.
I know that the issue is partly my thought process and partly his inattentiveness. Help me r/relationships, I need some advice! | My partner would lose his head if it wasn't attached, and I'm so frustrated. |
t3_1iovjk | relationships | After little less than 6 months, I [31M] feel decrease in attraction to my girlfriend [34F] | Hi All,
Long time reader, first time-poster... here we go.
My girlfriend and myself are really in love, and also very much loving. Our relationship goes well and overall I am content, but thinking about the long term, I am afraid that the decrease in passion is not just a momentary thing.
I had it in past relationships, but usually after a longer period. Although we have great communication, I have no idea how to bring this up. Should I tell her "I have sexual thoughts about other women?" - we all have!
Should I tell her "I don't fancy you as I used to?" -- that's no constructive comment.
Should I just discuss our sex life? When we're making love / having sex [pick your preferred term] it's actually good.
Any advice would be welcome :)
Vinnie | we are happy together, I love her and she loves me. However, my passion for her decreases, and I find myself too much thinking/looking at others. |
t3_1q8bc8 | pettyrevenge | Rude to my dad, lose your triple x sweater at a restaurant. | One morning, I met my parents for breakfast at a local family run Mexican restaurant. The service was super slow since the son was the only one working the front, seating diners, taking orders, and serving. While we were making our choices and waiting for the guy to come take our orders, two over stuffed women with drawn in eyebrows came in and took a table next to us. Time passed and eventually my dad, who is in his sixties and likes to talk to people, offered the women our menus, since they had not gotten any. Both large Marges gave my dad ugly looks--which was a feat as they were pretty grotesque beasts as it was--and one tears the proffered menus from my dad's hand. They snorted derisively and grunted, but no thank you was forthcoming. Unfortunately for us, they got their food first. Fortunately, the slurping sounds emanating from their table ended quickly as they sucked down their caloric intake for the day and they left just after we got our plates. As they waddled up to the cashier's counter, I noticed that one had left her horribly ugly neon orange, triple X sweater helplessly clinging to her vacated seat that was sighing in relief. They waited to pay for awhile. I was about to get up and take the sweater to the babbling beast, but then I remembered how she and her cow pal had mistreated my dad. So instead, I continued to eat my huevos rancheros waiting to see if they would leave without noticing. They did. Take that and stay 'cold' in the 72 degree Texas morning! | Rude to my dad, lose your ugly triple X sweater |
t3_1l7p4a | Parenting | Kindergarten woes.... am I over reacting? | **A little back story**: when choosing a grade for my 4 year old daughter (5 Oct 30) we were told she could go into Pre-K or Kindergarten, she took the test and passed with flying colors. They told me she was "beyond smart enough" for Kindergarten, but her age may play into it. After much debate we decided to skip Pre-K, and go straight to kindergarten. If she wasn't ready for 1st by the end of the year I'm not afraid to hold her back and do it again, but I wanted her to have that challenge.
**Story:** So, today was my daughters Kindergarten Orientation, the day you go to school and see your classroom, meet your teacher, your classmates, find your seat, your cubbie, etc. We were escorted into a room, it was half the size of the class room my step daughter had, it didn't have cubbies or desks, no decorations on the walls, we were confused. We were told it used to be the art room, then we were informed that we wouldn't be meeting the teacher today because... *there was no teacher to meet.* They haven't hired one yet.
**School starts on Tuesday!**
On top of that, I was told she was in an "overflow class," so she'll be in a class where the (one) teacher is teaching kindergarten AND pre-k at the same time. I understand that they can't be THAT much different, but there's a reason they are separate classes after all.
I'm really upset about this, it just doesn't feel right at all. I adore this school, my step daughter (going into 4th grade) has gone here since pre-k, and we've never had the slightest problem. | my daughter, starting kindergarten in a week, does not have a teacher yet, and will be in a class mixed with per-kindergarteners. |
t3_1ftxlu | relationships | I have no idea how to approach issues with my (28F) boyfriend (34M) | We've been together ten months, living together seven.
My boyfriend sighs & immediately gets defensive when I try to bring an issue up. I've asked him not to sigh too many times, I given him reasons, he has said he'll try not to, he still does. We've discussed the defensive thing, he said he knows it's an issue & said he would try to work on it. He hasn't. He's asked me to bring up issues ASAP so they don't compound & we end up fighting, so I've been doing that, but he sighs, he gets defensive "Stop grumbling at me, I was just getting up to hang out with you before work" when I calmly brought up that he ate a couple of things he said I could have, I tried to explain that I don't like being told I can have something only to find the following morning/a few days later it's gone. Small thing, but I mentioned it as he's asked me to do & he gets defensive. I feel like I can't win!
I've tried to change how I bring them up, I speak as calmly & almost meekly as I can & I still get the sighs & defensiveness. It's becoming a dealbreaker. I really struggle to discuss things that I feel need to be discussed & this reaction is just making it a whole lot worse. I'm becoming anxious about bringing issues up, even small ones.
He's asked me to stop calling him a particular name because he doesn't like it, I was using it as a term or endearment, I stopped, I slipped up maybe a handful of times & always apologised afterwards. He's asked me to bring things up ASAP, I do, it gets, effectively, thrown in my face. I feel like I'm not asking anything ridiculous, nothing crazy. But I could be wrong.
I feel like he's being selfish & not taking my feelings into consideration, but I have no idea how to bring it up, because he'll sigh, get defensive & take it way too personally.
What do I do? | My boyfriend sighs & gets defensive when I bring things up, it makes me anxious about trying to bring things up with him, it's becoming a dealbreaker & I don't know what to do. |
t3_zsi6x | AskReddit | A complete stranger came up to me today and told me how awesome I was for just being me. After having a shitty day it has totally changed my outlook on both my life and people around me. How has a random stranger impacted your life for the better? | A little backstory, I'm going to college in the deep south (I'm from Michigan) where anything out of the norm (polo, kakhis, costa del mars, and sperrys) is generally met with long stares and unusual looks from the general population. I'm 23 and have a mowhawk, facial piercings, and generally wear not the nicest brands of clothes seeing as I cannot afford them. Sorry for the interlude but the background needed to be set.
I was on campus making the hike between classes doing the usual dead stare, head down, no unnecessary human contact thing when a woman in her middle ages (generally one of the ones who would give a suspicious stare) stopped me and told me that she thought that she admired me for my self expression and that it was a beautiful thing to see. She went on to say that she wished more people would stop being so afraid to show on the outside how they really are on the inside. After that she said to have a glorious day and to continue to do my thing, whatever it may be.
It was enough to snap me out of my normal mindset, and remember that not all people make snap judgements based on someones appearance. Everyone, myself included, sometimes needs to take a step back from their general mindset of cynicism on the human race as a whole and think about the fact that we are all different, and that people regardless of appearance or anything else are still people. And all those people have different backgrounds, experiences, thoughts, etc.
It restored a bit of my hope for people in general.
What is your story? It doesn't matter if it's big or small as long as it impacted your life for the better. | Stranger told me how awesome I was, gave me a fresh outlook on life. |
t3_2c8sk4 | relationships | Me [26F] and my ex [26 M] broke up a second time. I feel used. | My ex (26M) and I (26F) were in a 5+ year relationship and now we don't even talk. I will keep this explanation as minimal as possible. Five months ago, he and I were thinking of moving in together. I had just bought a house with my father, which has been the first form of stability I have had after a decade of being in toxic family situations. My mental health wasn't well and my depression was very severe. I was seeking help, but that was not going as fast as I would have wanted to. I also was working as a bank teller with a high strung employer and that made my anxiety even worse. Overall, my mental health was poor and I could not rationalize decisions. When my Ex(we'll call him Ralph) was prepared to move in with a job and I basically denied him to out of fear. Ralph was so angry that he did not speak to me for months. When we did start talking again, he wanted to get back together and try to work things out. At that point, I was beginning to get the help I needed for my anxiety and depression. We spent time together like a couple once more and were intimate on multiple occasions. Then I had a single mood swing and he decided on a whim that we were better off being friends. This really hurt me and I felt as if I had been used. I honestly was making an effort to work out my mental health for us both. I also lost my V-card to this guy.
Currently, my mental health is much better and I am getting back on track with my health and exercise. My weight(currently overweight) is going back down and I am becoming fit. I am getting back in school to finish my degree. Overall, I am slowly becoming a success story considering I have endured child abuse, a very noxious family, and health issues. I am still hurt that Ralph cut the relationship when I was finally making the effort to get better. I feel like he's only going to try again after I am well off. If that is the case, I want nothing to do with him because Ralph was not there to help me through the struggle.
Opinions? Thoughts? Advice? Thank you in advance. | My ex(26M) was angry at my "irrational" decision to deny him to move in at the last minute. My mental state was not healthy and I was trying to get help. Months later, he wanted to try again and I was making a honest effort. I had one mood swing and he dumped me on the spot. I felt used. Currently, I am getting the help I need and getting life back on track. I do not want him near me if he decides to come back after I'm "well" and successful. |
t3_p9sin | AskReddit | What's your biggest "trip" on reality you've ever had? To the point where you had to convince yourself this is real. | I just saw in a previous post a chick who looks JUST. LIKE. ME. Body shape, belly piercing, eyes, hair, hand size and finger size...everything The only, and I mean the ONLY, reason I know it's not me....after googleing her....I found out she was a porn star from Britain. That made things so much worse.
I couldn't sleep last night I was up all night looking at pictures of her and trying to convince myself it was not me. I've never had a trip on reality so bad before. I'm terrified a co-worker will see it and think it's me, or my parents, or even worse...my own kid. I don't know how I could explain that. I feel like no one would believe me. I eventually had a good laugh but trust me, it took a while. | I thought I was a porn star last night and didn't know about it, but eventually hit reality and found out it's just a twin I don't know about :) |
t3_1jzmiq | loseit | SO wants me to help motivate him but doesn't do anything really | This might be a classic case of 'when they're ready to make a change they will,' but I feel like my SO has grown complacent and is just all around lazy. He's lost 30lbs which is great and I'm so proud of him but he's said himself he has 15lbs(25 imho) to go. He has said on *numerous* occasions that he wants me to help him make healthier choices and cook more at home but like I can't do it *all* for him. We haven't been dating all that long and I do care for him alot but it seems like he's just not ready to change his ways.
He still eats out several days during the week for lunch when I all but put his lunches together(have all the materials he just has to throw it in a tupperware). He rides his bike to and from work maybe 2x a week which is great but I don't think it is enough to get the results he seeks. I feel myself getting frustrated with him because I feel like I'm helping him with the tools he needs to make a change but just is okay with being complacent and *constantly* uses his old consulting job as an excuse for poor eating/exercise habits.
Sorry for the ramble but the | is my SO wants me to help him but I feel myself resenting him and his apparent complacency. Should I drop it all together and continue my own journey or pick my one thing to try and help him on and execute that? Anyone with similar experiences? |
t3_4dz9nc | tifu | TIFU by buying my dog a dildo | Obligatory disclaimer. This happened about 3 years ago. I only remembered this FU as I'm watching my dog enjoy his "dildo" right now.
I had never had my own dog before. In my early 30's and being a new home owner I decided to buy a border collie, the dog I always wanted. I found Thor at a local pet store (my naivety didn't let me realise how terrible those places are - I'm sorry) and fell I love with him. An adorable blue eyed border collie.
As he grew, I did everything I could to keep him safe and happy. He would accompany me on long runs, but had an obsession for carrying sticks as we ran. I read that this is unsafe as the dog may slip and end up with splinters in his throat.
I went to the pet shop and discovered a toy called "safe stix", a malleable plastic version of a stick. My dog sniffed it, loved it, we bought it. Straight to the park across the road from my house for a trial run: I threw it, he grabbed it and bounced back to me in joy. As he brought it to me I would take it and say in a playful voice "you want it? You want it? You'll get it!" As I waggled it in his face.
I hear a voice from behind me:
"You are disgusting young man, you should be ashamed of yourself"
The voice came from a 60 something year old lady with a small child with her. Only then did I realise the resemblance was uncanny. As I tried to explain, the woman walked off in a huff and I felt like the sleaziest person to walk the earth.
Thor still plays with his toy, but only in the seclusion of our home. | Trying to protect my dog, bought a dog toy that resembled a sex toy an offended an old lady and young child. |
t3_1f3dfz | relationship_advice | My SO[23f] is pregnant and is confusing me[23m] | So my SO told me she was pregnant in november(2nd child). I was not looking forward to it as I didn't want a 2nd kid but my wife is not the abortion type. We were very close on the verge to going seperate ways as well as I was deploying in december. It mostly overall blows over and I accept my fate.
Today I was talking to her and were talking about her sister being pregnant with a 3rd and that her baby's daddy said he would leave if she has that kid. I told her I would do the same and that I almost did it 6 months ago. Then she tells me that if we would've gotten divorced we would've gone our seperate ways and she would've aborted the baby. | Ok so divorcing she takes the common sense route of being able to support our son but not a 2nd kid and would abort out of "necessity"/ |
t3_378s1p | loseit | (Progress, 20F 157 > 138) Picture of me from last year at my first attempted 5K run (155lbs) next to a picture from today's Memorial Day 5K Run (138lbs) | * Face comparison:
* Upper Body comparison:
The first 5k was brutal. I didn't like to run-- not even to the fridge. Yet, there I was, standing like a lost child at the starting line, nervously kicking my discount sneakers in the dirt. I had no idea just what I'd gotten myself into. At around 157 and nearly 33% body fat, I was not healthy nor happy. Oh, but I did 'run' that 5K alright-- all 48 minutes of it. I would have been last, if not for a group of powerwalking ladies and some elderly folks who finished behind me. How disappointing! I would never run a 5K again as long as I can help it!
Or so I thought. That was one year ago, and I thought there was no hope for me. But the strangest thing happened-- I dared myself to go back and do a 5K the next week. And the week after that. And the week after that. Eventually, I'd run 5K three times a week, and even a 10K here and there.
Today, I ran a 5K for a Memorial Day event (in 29 minutes flat!), and after lining up my first and most recent 5K face pictures side-by-side, I realized that a lot can change in one year. A lot can change when you dare yourself to step out of your comfort zone. | Hate running? Challenge yourself to jog for 20 minutes today. You can only do one pushup today? Shoot for two tomorrow. You can only get better if you keep at it! |
t3_2ixcfm | tifu | TIFU by trying to take a hot shower. | So it's friday night I feel a bit sad and alone but I got a call from a friend, she was throwing a party and invited me over so since i didnt had plans and my crush waa going to be there , I agreed. Its around 8 pm and it's a bit cold so I wanted to take a hot shower unfortunately my "shower's heater" stopped working so I decided to heat some water and mix it with the cold one so i can have a nice warm bath.
So after 20-25 minutes I check the water and it's boiling hot, I thought that when mixed with the cold water it will be warm, so I procced to take the bowl and walk with it to the bathroom, now apparently I spilled some water on the floor before and i didnt realized on time so I slipped and all the boiling hot water spilled all over my leg. I screamed like a lil bitch and started cussing and stuff.
Now I am here, screaming and complaining about the pain while I recieve texts about how good the party is going and how my crush is with another guy :(. | be carefull when manipulating boiling water :( |
t3_2l1mry | relationships | I [22 M] am in a long distance relationship with my GF [23/F] for 4 months and it's getting tough. Should I move back? | I'll try to keep it as short as I can, so I won't take you through the entire relationship background - just a brief overview.
I've actually known my girlfriend since we were ~ 15 and we were good friends for a few years until we lost touch with one another. Last I saw her was at a workplace which I applied for and she happened to be there as well. Naturally, I picked up a conversation with her and from the beginning I noticed that this wasn't a typical small talk conversation. I enjoyed speaking with her very much.
We began talking more frequently, until we starting meeting outside of our workplace. We fell in love with each other quickly after going out on a few occasions. We have been together for about 7 months - probably the best of my entire life. The reason that I left the country is because It was very challenging. I was having a very rough time in that country and was not enjoying living there so much. I made the decision to leave (back to the place from which I originally came).
It has been about 4 months that we've been doing LDR. I've seen her for two weeks in between this time so far and it's so hard on my heart, and hers too. It hurts me to think that she doesn't have her man beside her. I need my woman. I love her with all my heart. I want to be with her every day, and every night. Now that the distance is between us, I really feel the difficulties.
To make matters more complicated, I haven't been able to start college yet and have only been enrolled for one month. College was the primary reason for my return. I don't have the education/means to support ourselves. I don't want to do something ignorant and risk my education (and therefore my income capability) or our future.
Also, she cannot reside where I do, but I can always live back with her.
So I am absolutely confused and would love to hear some advice from all of you. Should I stay put? go back and stay with her?
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Thank you. | In an amazing relationship with my GF of 10 months. Long distance for 4. It's very hard to be away from her and I don't know whether I should consider going back. |
t3_416g2x | tifu | TIFU by cleaning my bathroom | So this just happened...
It's my day off and I've been lazy for a while so I decided to clean my house. I started in the master bathroom and I had already gotten everything clean except the toilet ( I always save that for last)
I had moved in a couple months ago and never installed my bidet (one of the ones you put under the toilet seat and hook up to the existing water.) So as I clean the toilet I installed the bidet and got ready to hook the water up.
First I hooked up the hot water then went to clean the toilet water shut off so I could attach the cold line.
I put a little elbow grease into cleaning but not like I was going to town on it. About 5 seconds into cleaning it the shut off valve ripped off the wall and water started to spray eveywhere.
I already knew I was screwed because I had just ripped the part meant to shut the water off. I had a pair of undies lying next to me from an earlier shower so I tried to shove them into the whole wile no succes. So I grab a laundry hamper of freshly cleaned clothes and threw them at the entrance of the bathroom in an attempt to create a damn.
I ran downstairs and outside to shut of the water at the street but couldn't find it so I ran frantically to my neighbor for help. The first one was gone but the second came out and showed me where the valve was. I tried my hardest to turn it off but couldn't get it to budge. So I called 911.
Fire department is in route and I'm still trying to shut off the water as the house is flooding with no luck. Neighbor one shows up and is able to angle the wrench I was using to get the water shut off right as the fire department shows up...
All in all it was probably 100-200 gallons of water that leaked. The fire department stuck around and helped clean up with shop vacs and the landlord is already over assessing the damage. Turns out the pipe was PVC and they get brittle with age, so if you have that piping around your house be careful. .. also no electronics or anything was damaged luckly. | Tried to have a clean house and a clean butt hole and flooded my house. |
t3_3cn15l | relationships | Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [27 F] of 1.5 years, is giving me problems about drug habits | So First off I'm not really sure if we are going to get back together or not. Also my family and her had an 'intervention' for my pot use and its a bit unclear how involved with this she was or if she really got the ball rolling on the whole thing. I've quit smoking weed. The story behind the vaporizer is that she broke my really expensive one $500 and it was irreplaceable and unfixable due to the company launching Version 2, she also didn't mention it when she broke it so I came home to use it only to find it broken and she was out on the town somewhere. So after realizing we couldn't replace or fix it she bought this portable vaporizer to fix the situation
This morning I get an email from the portable vaporizers tech support acknowledging they got my request and I this point since it was no longer in the place that I kept it and I wasn't here when she was moving out its pretty safe to assume that she took it. I feel like the vaporizer was mine since she bought it to replace something she broke. Now if she had asked I probably would have given it to her. But at the same time I could have sold it to put money towards a guitar amp that I have been saving for.
I thought about just forwarding the email to her and saying that I wish she had told me, but I don't want to stir up any drama. Also I know what needs to happen to fix it. It feels a bit like she stole from me. | GF took vaporizer that she bought to replace mine she broke, moved out and took it back without telling me. What to say? |
t3_u6y0q | dating_advice | I (M17) need some advice on asking a girl (F18) out as a first timer, but there are a few problems. | So I (a 17 yo. male) have never asked a girl out before ever. I have no problems talking with them, but getting any deeper is no good. So I have just been that single guy not asking anyone out or anything of that sort.
So on to the task before me: I'm pretty sure I found "the" one, or at least a one, that I am crazy over. She's 18 and we're good friends. We have a lot of similar interests with the biggest one being music.
The biggest issues I see getting in a relationship with her are that she's graduating this year and moving to college 2 hours away in the fall.
The other problem is that her previous relationships have been terrible with terrible guys. She swore off dating for the rest of high school and I don't want to come off as an ass for starting with essentially "Hey you're not in high school anymore, want to go out?" as that is what I feel like asking her out right now would be saying.
All that said, she is an amazing person and is really everything I'm looking for in a girl. | As a first timer I cant work up the courage to go out with an amazing girl because she has had some bad relationships and is moving 2 hours away in the fall. |
t3_u86qn | AskReddit | Today, I completely wrecked my big toe at work because i found a HUGE tree roach in the shoe that I had been wearing. So, Reddit, tell me stories of your injuries that had funny stories to them! | Seriously. I put my shoes on as I walked out the door to go to work. I felt a slight tickling on my toes but just figured it was a loose string on the inside of the shoe or something. About 5 minutes into my shift I got fed up with the tickling and decided to investigate. I took the shoe off and shook but nothing came out. At the precise moment I was putting it back on, a GIGANTIC tree roach crawled out of the shoe. I then proceeded to completely lose my shit. Somewhere in my process of flipping the fuck out, I started running. When I began running away from the shoe, I failed to lift my left foot up high enough and my big toe got caught under my foot as all of my weight came onto it. I fell on my face in almost a slow motion frenzy. I had to go to the E.R. where they told me I dislocated the bottom joint in my toe, sprained the top one, and fucked up most of the ligaments in my toe/foot. All because of a roach that just wanted a safe place to live. | A roach completely fucked up the next month of my life. |
t3_3dbjqx | tifu | TIFU by sleepwalking | This actually happened three months ago but who really cares.
So I was sleeping peacefully in my bed (where else, right), when sometime, around three in the morning, Arctinium decided to fuck up.
Some background: I've been dreaming about a buddy of mine, let's call him Bob, and how he moved to a house very close to mine. Smart Arctinium then decided to check if this is actually true and pay Bob a visit.
So, I got up from my bed, walked out the front door and started strolling along the road at 3am. Doesn't sound too bad right? Well I was in my underpants and still asleep. As I was searching for the right house I remembered that I didn't take a key with me (how would I, I was sleeping), woke up and realised that I was now locked out of my house for the rest of the night. Yay. This took place in early March, as mentioned, so it wasn't particularly warm either. What do I do now? I couldn't get into my house since no-one was awake and my mother always sleeps with earplugs (don't ask me why), I couldn't go anywhere since everything was closed and I was in my underpants so I just made myself comfortable on the door mat and spent quite a short night there.
In the morning my mom started to panic because I wasn't in my bed and eventually she opened the door to look for me. Guess what she found, a sleeping Arctinium, curled up like a dog, on the door mat.
I quickly explained what had happened and she head-shakingly let me into the house. | Sleepwalked out of my house, spent the night on the door mat. |
t3_31rj33 | relationships | My boyfriend [23M] of 2.5 years and I [21] broke up last week due to distance complications. I'm suddenly hating 80% of all music and film. How do I fill he silence? | Hey there, /r/relationships,
So, due to some long and painful reasons involving long-term long distance and future uncertainty vis a vis locale and other such logistical delights, my boyfriend and I broke up. It wasn't precisely mutual, but neither one of us wanted to be in a situation where he was the bad guy, so we tend to present "we broke up" rather than "he dumped me and it was terrible."
The advice I have received from friends and family is overwhelmingly in the style of "you need a good cry," "listen to some Joni," and "he's an asshole, forget him." In the 30 hours between breaking up and touching down in the states, I'd estimate I spent 4 of them asleep, ~18 crying on and off and the rest distracting my feelings with reggaeton. Also being silently mocked by an 11 year old passenger on my flight.
This is a person whom I love very dearly, who in my absence is lonely and is equally upset by the circumstances as I am. He is not an asshole, nor will I forget him easily. I frankly dwell on the issue enough as it is, and think Joni will make me sadder which I feel to be an odd aim. I burst into tears on the subway the other day when a vaguely affectionate line from an Irish folk tune ("Though autumn leaves may droop and dry/ A bud of spring are you") caught me off guard. I'd like to have some refuge from my sadness and also hold on to enough dignity to not cry in public when I can avoid it.
I hate ruining good songs with breakups, but all of the cathartic fuck you or I'm so sad breakup songs that have helped me before are proving useless. I've watched a few older movies whose aims are not romantic (12 Angry Men, Shawshank, Dr. Strangelove) and listened to some folk tunes, but am running out of ideas. Do y'all know of any media that could provide some non-romantic solace? | Breakups suck and I really don't want to dwell on mine more than I already do. Know any good breakup tunes/shows/movies which are distracting rather than on the nose? |
t3_3hgws1 | relationships | (31/M/me) interested in (20something/F) moving on too soon? | One month ago, I dumped a girl I was with for a year.
This past month, a girl in my office building has been staring at me every day. I finally talked to her today. It went well. Should I continue the conversation? She seems interested. I've moved on from my ex, I cut contact immediately. I think I am ready to give it another go but I am anxious about it. This past month single has been amazing, first time single in a decade. Feel like a man for being single and talking to women. Thoughts? Also I am anxious about it not working out and then she will be staring at me a different way, every day... :) | I am interested in someone new, afraid of moving on too soon. |
t3_43tub0 | relationships | My boss [~40m] playing favorites with coworkers...should I [30F] go to HR or keep my mouth shut? | I'm becoming increasingly frustrated at work because my boss seems to be playing favorites with some employees, and it's interfering with my productivity. I need some advice on what to do.
There are about 10 of us in the office, I'm 30F, everyone else is between 30-40, male and female, about 50/50.
There are 3-4 employees that are regularly invited to have lunch with the boss. I have never been invited, and neither have some of the other employees. This small group sort of forms an inner clique among our work group.
The issue is that I regularly have a problem with a couple of these people not doing their job, and when I try to bring it to light they are never held accountable by the boss, I suspect because they are part of the 'lunch clique'. This has happened three times now.
I am not the only person experiencing this, I've talked to some of my fellow coworkers who feel the same. Apparently I'm not the only one having problems with the laziness of our team members...others have noticed that not only do they take hour lunches with the boss (the rest of us get 30 mins), but they spend a good portion of their workday schmoozing him. The quality of their work is not really great because they waste so much of their work day, leaving the rest of us to pick up the slack.
However, no one seems really brave enough to say anything since the boss is at the head of the clique. Quite honestly, I think he is enjoying the attention.
How should I handle this situation? Part of me wants to have a conversation with him if I can ever get some 1 on 1 time with him, and just calmly let him know that I'm feeling excluded and frustrated, but part of me is afraid that if I do this I'll put a target on my back.
Should I just go to HR? | Boss plays favorites at work, making myself and other employees frustrated, no one brave enough to speak up about it. What should I (we) do? |
t3_2lc2r5 | tifu | TIFU by keeping my phone in my sock | A couple of my friends and I play on an intramural soccer team at our university. We head over to the field an hour before the game to warm up and shoot around. I put on some athletic shorts that don't have pockets and did not want to throw my phone is my backpack with my keys and cleats. I just got the iphone 6 and am so paranoid about screen scratches and bending. Fortunately I had brought an extra pair of soccer socks so I slide my iphone into the sock and throw it in the outermost pocket. 5:00 rolls around and we step onto the field and end up losing 4-2. I look at my watch and realize it is 5:58 and I have class at 6pm. I throw on my shoes grab my bag and skateboard and head to class. A couple minutes late I come in sweating and out of breath from both the game and the rush over. I try to stay quiet and grab a seat towards the back. About 15 seconds after I get all settled and people get over my initial disturbance, my ringtone starts blaring through the room (it was a discussion section so the room only seats about 20 students). So here I am frantically searching my bag to find my phone. As everyone turns to glare at me they see me fumbling a ringing sock out of my backpack as I try to press the home or lock button to end the ringing. Finally I get the noise to stop, pull the phone from the sock in embarrassment grab my pencil and starting trying to decipher some of the vector calc on the board. The TA was quite shocked but then gave it a chuckle and carried on as usual. I'm just thankful I didn't accidentally unlock the phone and have a conversation with my sock in front of the rest of the class. | Almost answered a ringing sock phone in class. |
t3_fvh6m | AskReddit | My family is taking in a German exchange student. How can we make her never want to leave? | At the beginning of the week, my mother received an email about a German foreign exchange student looking for a home. She has already been here (Southeast VA) for half of her one year stay with another family, but is looking for a new one. The previous family has two small children she is basically stuck babysitting while the mom attends college and the dad works. They have not taken her to do anything, so she has basically sat on the couch and watched television much of the time.
My brother (19/m and away at college) and I (16/m) are the closest to her in age (18). We have a younger sister, but the age difference is probably too much. Anyways, we have hosted a French exchange student before, which resulted in me staying with his family; so we aren't completely new to the game. However, we feel pretty bad that she hasn't done anything and is just now speaking up.
So, what should we do? We have her until about June which should be enough time to show her some pretty cool stuff. Any Germans out there that can weigh in? What would you want to do if you were in our area? Lastly, how can we make up for the previous half of her exchange? | We are hosting a German foreign exchange student and want to give her an awesome time. What should we do? |
t3_2coogg | relationships | Here is my [M17] delema... | To start off with, I am not in a relationship at the moment. I am writing this based on what I know will be a sure future for me.
School is comming to an end for me and I have a vague idea of what I want to do with my life. Without being too specific, the career I am interested requires one to be out at sea for a month, and off for a month. The pay is excellent and the job seems very interesting.
Now I've always imagined myself as a family man, married with a couple kickers on the side.
The problem which is worrying me is that I don't think I could a) Spend excessive time away from my family and b) Trust someone enough not to have an affair.
Now I don't know if I would adapt to these conditions or if I'd just continuously hate my job and regret the choice which I am attempting to make now.
I'm sorry that this post doesn't deal with a crazy wife of a sax ex husband but I don't really know where else to ask and I know the community here are amazing.
Cheers for any advice you could possibly give me :) | I don't know if I will be able to fulfil my dream of being a family man while working at the career I'm interested in. |
t3_2mfpyd | relationships | My [24F] parents [50sM/F] constantly make "concerned" comments about my weight, how to get them to stop? | I've been living on my own for a while, and now every single time I see my parents they feel the need to comment on my weight and appearance extensively. Every time I say something, they say that they are just making a comment, just concerned, or just checking in, etc.
My mom: tells me I'm *sooo* thin, asks me if I'm eating enough, even tells me not to have an eating disorder. She says my face is getting so bony, I'm so tiny, etc., and constantly asks if I'm taking my vitamins/going to the doctor, worried that I'm too skinny.
My dad: tells me I need to work out more, that I still have some chubbiness to get rid of, encourages me to avoid junk food/suggests healthier snacks. Always asks me if I have been going running.
Right now, I am at a healthy weight, I am eating the healthiest I ever have, trying to cut down on junk and soda, and being really good about exercising. I don't know why they keep making comments and I don't know how to get them to stop. Advice? | Parents keep making unwanted/unwarranted comments about my weight. Why do they keep doing this and how can I get them to stop? |
t3_2wls0o | relationships | Me (24f) with my bf (23m) of 6 years. I'm concerned he has or is developing an alcohol dependency. | So I don't really know where to start, but this has always been the biggest issue in our relationship. We met in college and both partied a lot, but not really ever together because he isn't a "fun" drunk. His personality totally flips when he drinks- like a Jekyll and Hyde situation. This was easily avoidable until the last 2 years when we both graduated and decided to move in together. I've noticed if he can't sleep at night he chooses to drink himself to sleep. Like an entire bottle of liquor or a whole 12 pack of beer. I've brought it up before, but he quickly dismisses it because "it's always worked for him and what else is he supposed to do??" This is probably a weekly occurrence.
Another reason the drinking bothers me is when a friend visits he feels like he has to get black out drunk. When this happens he makes really stupid decisions. Things that are common for him to do while drunk: Literally handing out money to strangers, spending hundreds at the bar, going missing for several hours, peeing in random places in our house, and becoming extremely hostile to strangers and me. The next day he acts as if nothing happened and I have no right to be worried or upset. This happens around once a month.
I have brought up my concerns before but he just becomes defensive and makes me feel like a nag. I'm worried this could become a full blown addiction and ruin our relationship. I should also say when he is sober (which is the majority of the time) he is sweet, caring, mature and reserved. I really don't want to break it off with him because I love him and care about him, but I'm getting really worried and upset about the whole situation. | Bf displays signs of alcohol dependency and becomes annoyed/defensive when confronted about it. |
t3_1e81jm | tifu | TIFU and am never going back to a certain Starbuck's within a Stop and Shop again... | So I was working today and went to go get me and my manager coffees at a Starbuck's within a Stop and Shop. Go to the Starbuck's, all is good, get my managers coffee, a small hot black, and mine, small iced, then go around the corner of the Starbucks kiosk to put cream and sugar in my coffee. Now mind you, the two people staffed at the little Starbucks shop cannot clearly see me now that I have moved to cream and sugar my coffee. So I go to put cream in my coffee, all is well. I snap the lid back on and realize I forgot the sugar. No problem. I snap the lid back off and put sugar in my coffee. Now here is how the devil lid fucks everything up. I try to snap the plastic lid back onto my coffee and struggle. Then as I push down trying to get it on, the lid goes one way and the coffee the other. Almost my entire iced coffee goes spilling all over the little table with cream, sugars, and stirrers and all over the nearby trash can. I get about 10 napkins and try to mop up all the coffee but it's too much, fuck.
I realize now I should tell the employees. But then it dawns on me there are no other customers, and the employees cannot see me. So I decide to just make my escape and quickly walk off leaving the sugar and cream table covered in my iced coffee. Yes I realize I am an asshole but it was out of pure awkwardness and panic. I get out into the parking lot and drive off, with only one coffee in hand. So yeah, next time I go for coffee break, I don't think I will choose that place because they will have realized what I did and probably think I'm the world's biggest ass hole. | Spilt iced coffee all over Starbucks kiosk in Stop and Shop, escaped, and now I am the coffee asshole. |
t3_2c1125 | offmychest | I'm failing and I'm lost | I'm 20. I'm in university and failing, and I'm completely lost.
I'm in a general business program, and I hate it. Some parts I don't mind, but I can't see myself being a businessman in the future. But my problem is, I can't see myself being anything in the future.
I just failed my first class. I don't want to take classes over. It's already so expensive and my parents are struggling to pay for the class I just failed. At the same time, these are the people who pressured me into university. I felt that o was smart enough, but I was very afraid of experiencing failure. I don't want anyone to think of me as a failure. I think that may be my biggest insecurity.
I've been exploring other options. My parents aren't really down with me jumping ship and going to collage or an apprenticeship. Honestly I'm not even sure if those options exist for me right now.
I'm halfway done school. I don't have plans to put my major to use. I just want to finish schooling and move on. If I keep failing, it'll only delay my freedom (or imprisonment, depending on your stance). I just have no idea what to do with my life, and this failure hit me hard with that realization.
Happy birthday me. | Failed class. Considering other options. Need perspective and a bit of guidance. Feeling low. |
t3_1bkez6 | relationships | How to start getting along with sibling? [21F, 13M] | My brother and I have never gotten along and we have a seven year age difference. We also grew up in different family circumstances ( When I was growing up, money was tight, mom was depressed, dad worked a lot. spent a lot of time at grandma's, and a lot of this was better by the time he was born).
My brother has turned into an entitled little bitch, lately. (I don't live with my family any more due to school, mental illness of my own, lesbian +catholic family, and other extenuating circumstances). He will often throw tantrums and every time I see him, he starts on a rant about how his life is unfair and he's so sad. TBH, I'm a little concerned that he will also turn out to be bipolar (like my mum, myself, my grandma, my aunt... etc.)
I understand that he is a 13 year old, and hormones. But I can't stand leaving my parents' house out of frustration because I just want to scream at him, and I honestly feel so bad for leaving my mum there. | never had a good relationship with much younger brother, how to be civil/start to form an actual relationship? |
t3_2awkvh | relationships | My (29M) girlfriend (27F) gets mad whenever I am on the phone. | We have been together for over 3 years now and this has always been an issue. She doesn't care if I go out with friends she is even fine with me having guys nights at our place, she even encourages it and goes out during those times. This is only an issue when someone calls me. If I call someone she is fine with it because she knows in advance but if someone calls me which is 95% of the time she starts to get mad and sarcastic with me for the rest of the night.
I end up on the phone at least 5 different days a week with my brother or my best friend and the calls usually last an hour or more. As soon as my phone starts to ring she makes a loud sigh and will walk away and close herself in a room. It's even worse when my phone goes off while she is talking to me, I will answer and tell them to hold on and ask her to finish what she was saying and she will go "No, nevermind. It wasn't important anyway." And will walk away.
If the call is 20 minutes or less she doesn't seem to be bothered but this is rarely the case. I have talked to her about this and she says it's because she feels like she is being interrupted from being able to spend time with me and has to go sit on the sidelines for an hour or more waiting for her turn back. The thing is we live together. When I am not out with friends or she is not out with her friends we are around eachother. We both work 9-5 jobs and have weekends off. And we go to bed together. I feel like if my friends or brother want an hour or so of my time out of my day I shouldn't have to feel guilty about that.
I just don't know what to say or do about this situation anymore but it is really starting to get on my nerves. | Girlfriend gets mad whenever someone calls me which is often. I don't know how to stop the anger. |
t3_3xmwb8 | relationships | Dating my girlfriend (22 F) for a year now but it feels like I'm (21 M) dating a high schooler. | My girlfriend lives with her parents and we go to the same university. She comes from a traditional Asian family so they can be pretty strict but they seem to like me a lot.
The relationship itself is great and all except it does not feel like what I imagined a mature relationship would be like. I can't stand not being able to stay out late with her (we live in the city), her not being able to sleep over and us having not shared any experiences like going on a trip together. I understand where she's coming from but its just so hard for me to stay in a relationship where I feel so dissatsified. What's worse is that our sex life is non existant.
More of a rant than a question at this point but I just don't know what to do. I'm considering breakign up but I really do like her. It almost feels like she's not putting any effort at all which is the worst part. Any advice? | Girflriend has the freedom of a high schooler and its driving me crazy |
t3_3mfog3 | relationships | Me [29F] with my coworker [33F] duration, called me stupid | Yesterday after another coworker mentioned that we always seem to be having fun while the boss is away so she must be the Monica of the group, 33F says very loudly that must make me (29F) the Joey of the group because I'm 'ok looking but really dumb'. She's quite nice to me when it's jut the 2 of us and even refers to me as her bestie but when others are around she often makes reference, out of nowhere, to my stupidity in front of others. She does it as if it's banter/ joking but it's never funny and I find it offensive.
I'm quite self conscious about my intelligence and have fairly low self esteem lately so not sure if I'm upset about it because of that or if I am right in being offended and should actually say something, maybe next time it happens? What should I say to something like that? I'm also shy and slightly a pushover. | Coworker says I'm Joey from Friends because I'm ok looking and am really dumb. Has often makes similar remarks. I am offended but am self conscious of my intelligence. Not sure what to say, if anything. |
t3_1xx8q1 | relationships | Me [24 M] with my GF[22 F] for a year n a half, and the hard part of an easy choice | This is more of a rant than a question. I just need to write it down more than anything. Recently, as in past 4 months, I left the girl I loved and expected to marry in the USA. The breakup wasn't harsh or foul it came arose out of pure luck and what seems to be the right choice. For context there is a bit of a story.
While at college in colorado I had met a girl that I previously knew vaguely during high school. We started chatting about this and that and eventually I started to think to myself "this girl Is awesome, why not ask her out?" So I did. We Went on a wonderful date and blah blah blah we hit it off. The next few flew by and I fell for her hard. Since we went to the same HS keeping the relationship outside of college going was easy.
We argued about simple things and loved every minute together for another year. However, after college I had the chance to travel back home to South Africa for a while. I though cool! A few months in SA is a bad thing. I never expected to spend more than 3 months in SA.
That was until I was takin golf lessons and started chatting to my coach about turning pro. My lessons are at a well know golf academy in Johannesburg. As soon as my coach said I have all the drive to make it happen, the opportunity was too big to pass up. But, what about my girlfriend? Who knows how long this will take, but it will take a long time. We talked about it but No decisions made yet. Eventually we started to force the talking and relationship. At that point we both agreed to break it off while we were both friends. Now several months have passed and to be honest, I haven't lost an once of love for the girl. I fear. | I fear I have made a wrong decision. A decision that will hunt me for years to come. I decision that will take me away from a woman I wanted to marry. |
t3_e7f8m | self | How do you figure out what to do in life?! | Hey Reddit,
I am a 21 year old person who is a 3rd year university student currently studying anthropology. I have no passion for the subject since I basically chose it cause I wasn't interested in anything else my university has to offer.
This has made me become depressed, confused, and just plain miserable in school. I'm taking a year of school right now to 'figure it all out' and so far for the past 3 months all I have done is work at the same place I have worked at since highschool.
I've finally found a new job which allows me to have more time to 'figure it out' but have no idea what that entails. I feel like if I don't figure it out soon, for the next 6 months all I'll be doing is working part time and going on reddit/youtube/etc (not that reddit doesn't rule!) and wasting my year. Which then afterwards I'll go back to school and flunk all my classes cause I don't give a damn and still be as lost as I am.
Anyways, any advice on what to do on trying to figure this out? | 21 year old with no direction in life. Don't care about school and trying to 'figure it out'. Have 5 months and limited cash. If you were me, what would you do? |
t3_4cbg33 | tifu | TIFU by sharing my salad. | This happened a few hours ago. I feel horrible.
My family are huuuge animals lovers. We've had pet rats, pet donkeys and everything in between. My husband and I have been visiting my family for easter weekend so of course there were loads of food. Now, my aunt has this asshole parrot that's over 40 years old and he always makes noise when there's food nearby and the only way to shut him up is by sharing. So that's what I did.
Gentle souls of reddit, please don't crucify me, but somewhere in the past 22 years of my life I missed the memo on parrots being allergic to avocado. I honestly didn't know. I've heard of dogs being allergic to chocolate but that's about it, so I shared my salad on a piece of bread with the bird. Imagine my shock half an hour later when my daughter asked me why the bird was sleeping.
To make matters worse, I've joked about putting the bird out of it's misery before because he's so old so of course my asshole brother decided it would be appropriate to ask me how much I was paid for the assassination infront of EVERYONE.
No one is speaking to me. Fuck. | Accidentally assassinated my aunts very old, very annoying bird. |
t3_4balfl | personalfinance | Negotiating a Pay Raise as an "Intern" | I work in a mid-size tech company and was hired as an intern. I get paid $12/hour which was more than I expected getting hired.
I learned everything very quickly and my boss left for another job. I now took on much of the responsibility my boss used to take on. Now, my other boss left for another position, leaving me with more work. Continuing, the only other intern in the office is leaving in two weeks. The other intern already only does administrative work, whereas I do the analytical work, excel reporting, and long/short term projects given to me by the VP and the CEO.
In two weeks, I will be alone working directly under the VP and CEO. I am managing almost 10 weekly reports where I am responsible for putting together the reports and analyzing business trends.
The CEO also assigned me the long term project of managing a website where I am in charge of content creation, SEO, and revenue. In one week I have already nearly doubled the traffic. I used to SEO for my own websites in High school and I made far more than this company could pay me, so I am definitely being underpaid in this regard.
At this point, I have not heard any valid argument for why I shouldn't get a raise from professors and people I have spoken to. I am doing far more work than before and doing higher quality work. Not only, but with the office short 2 managers and one intern in two weeks, that frees up salary that wont be spent for the foreseeable future.
How do I go about getting a raise? I know I need to have a figure in mind, but I don't know what would be fair myself and the employer. Since I receive no benefits, I believe making over $20/hour is fair for the work I am doing. Especially considering I already had SEO experience, and the work I am doing should pay for itself in ad revenue. | Hired 6 months ago as an intern, $12/hour, boss quit, other boss quit, now working directly under CEO/VP, long term projects, analytical work, SEO work, feels like I earned a raise. |
t3_40te9c | relationships | How do I (F/26) make it up to a friend (F/26) over my bad wedding etiquette? | This will seem really petty but I was hoping I could get advice. I am about to see a childhood friend (we're both female, 26) who I haven't seen since her wedding reception 2 years ago. I have literally only talked to this friend a few times in the last 5 years but next month I'll be seeing her at a mutual friends hen party.
Even though I live in a different country and wasn't invited to the full wedding, I flew in especially for it. Basically this was my first wedding and I didn't know proper wedding etiquette. Not only did I not reply to the evening invite (I didn't realise this was necessary!?), I also didn't give a wedding gift. So I showed up unexpectedly, stayed 2 hours and gave a card with no money inside like an idiot.
Now a few years have passed and I've been to lots of weddings I've realised I must have seemed really rude and I've also heard various couples complain about guests who didn't give them adequate gifts. I feel really bad! I just asked my parents who were invited to the evening do also but didn't go, and they said they gave my friend a card with £100 inside!
She is a lovely person and I want to explain myself/make it up to her. Is it too late?? If you were this friend what would be a good way to apologise? Would it be weird to now give her £50 in a card even though the wedding was years ago and I haven't seen her since? I feel really pathetic asking about this but it's worrying me! | How do I make it up to a friend after I didn't reply to the evening invite of her wedding then still showed up, and also didn't bring a gift? |
t3_1pj6bd | relationships | My bf [25m] has been taking care of me while I [25f] have been sick, what can I do to thank him? | I've been really sick the last week or so and my awesome boyfriend of over 2 years who I live with has been looking after me, getting me drinks, making me food, going to the shops, telling me I'm beautiful and other nice lies... Basically he's been amazing and when I'm recovered I'd love to do something to show how much I appreciate him.
I'm not sure what to do, I'm a good cook so I'll probably make a nice meal but that's not too unusual for me, I love cooking. A gift doesn't seem great either, his birthday was only a few of weeks ago and Christmas is coming up so I have no ideas, but I'm also not sure he'd want a gift for looking after me, I think he'd feel weird. But I still want to make a gesture of some sort. Any suggestions? | awesome boyfriend has been taking care me while I've been sick, what can I do to show how much I appreciate him? |
t3_nctpc | self | /r/pics mods are out of control | The latest post that they've removed, it was the third highest post on all of Reddit... Because it says "Cake day" in the title...
As if someone saying it's their imaginary birthday should affect whether or not a picture gets to stay on /r/pics...
Reddit made the cake day thing, why the hell are they "against" it? Because people are more likely to upvote you for your cake day?
I can guarantee that there's been hundreds of people who have posted pictures and said it was their cake day and received NO upvotes, that's because their submission is crap. As if adding the fact that it's your Reddit birthday makes such a big difference. It's because people save their best picture FOR their Reddit b-day. | The mods of /r/pics have gotten way too over zealous with their removals and rules. |
t3_n3vtg | AskReddit | I stole my friends bike back, what should I do? | So I was at college, and I noticed that my friends bike which had been stolen months previously around the same area was just sitting in the bike rack unlocked. i made a snap decision and took it home with me. When I got home I rang him and described the bike (changes had been made so I had to be sure) and he said he couldn't be sure that it was his. Now I don't know what to do because if I get the police involved they might try and prosecute me if I took the wrong bike. If I give it back then I might be giving my friends bike back to the thief. What do i do reddit? Please help. | Stole what I thought was my friends bike back, now unsure whether or not it's his. |
t3_241f3c | relationships | My boyfriend [20] is starting to worry me [17] with his behavior. | Me and my SO (20) started dating January 5th of this year. We talked for awhile before dating. He eventually asked me out and everything went downhill from there.
My closest friend died that night he asked me out and I found out the next day. I was beyond upset and hurt. I actually was contemplating leaving my SO until I could cope with this. Instead I stayed and he stressed me out during my grieving process. He'd tell me about his trust issues with me and all this bullshit I didn't want to to hear. I listened though and I started to get frustrated with him. I complained to my ex who lived in the UK and he'd talk me down and relaxed me until I could function. He flirted with me and I did flirt back. My SO saw the messages and I apologized. I felt very guilty. The next day, he showed me messages he sent to a girl and he called me a whore.
I was upset, but I stood with him and he kept having trust issues. So I gave him my Facebook password which is a big problem. I shouldn't have. He checked it and even started messaging people without my permission. I changed my password.
I tried to leave him at one point and I felt guilty and upset without him, but during this time he'd called me a whore. And he'd passively aggressively tell me he's moving on. He said he was trying to make a good woman out of me.
We got back together and he still has trust issues. And he acts very insecure. He doesn't like me talking to guys or hanging around them. He also is very possessive. I tried working through this with him, but he keeps stressing me out. I want to leave him, but I'm actually worried if I should. I know I'm not happy. I don't know what's stopping me. | My SO is very possessive and insecure. He has major trust issues and I can't handle it. I don't know what to do. |
t3_yffk4 | relationship_advice | [21/m] The woman I'm seeing "isn't sure" [19/f] | Like everyone who posts here, I need advice.
Where to start? Some backstory is needed:
So I've avoided relationships for a long period of time, as at the end of my last one, things went badly (she was screaming and ranting and raving that we were supposed to be together). It kind of scared me off relationships. Not because of crazy people, but because I genuinely ruined this womans world at the time, and I just couldn't deal with the relationship anymore.
Anyway, in Feb, I met a girl. She was in a relationship, and she was lovely, and we talked occasionally. Not long after we met, he boyfriend of 3 years broke up with her, and she was pretty cut up about it. A few months went by and she was pretty stable about it, and was moving on well. I'd not been there for her during the breakup, so he eventual attachment had nothing to do with that. By June her and I were talking a lot and we ended up developing serious feelings for one another, despite the fact she was moving to Malaysia for 6 months to study. We get decently close, yet we never become official. She says she doesn't want to make it anything as she's going away, and I say I'm happy to wait for her. She's cool with the idea of this and all is going well.
So recently she's been having issues with her family back here in Australia, and she doesn't know if she wants to come back, and is thinking of extending her abroad studies for another 6 months. 12 months is a long time to wait, and I ~~like her a lot~~ love her, but there's no guarantee she would even come back at the end of that. | Girl I'm seeing is overseas for an extended period of time, and she doesn't know if she's coming back. She says she loves me, but she doesn't know what she's going to do. Do I keep waiting, or do I move on with my life? |
t3_2tgw32 | relationship_advice | I'm [16/m] just met (16/f) I think she gave me herpes, not sure how to handle this. | To start off, Iv know this girl for tops of one week. Things were going pretty well, sparked quickly and first night we had made out quiet a bit and she did mention wanting to keep up (for sex or relationship, I didn't care) we then conintued to text after for a week today. Starting yesterday I had fever, blisters, and sore throat. I'm no expert but I'm pretty sure I have herpes, confirming with my older brothers. After I mentioned to her that I had gotten sick but still not telling her I thought it was herpes she stopped texting me, it's been about 8 hours.
How should I ask or not ask at all or wait it out? I never had this before. | met a girl, think she gave me herpes |
t3_45s3xb | tifu | TIFU by submitting NOTHING for my midyear grades. | This year I applied early to (REDACTED) State University, and got deferred along with a large portion of the people who applied early (many of my genius level friends are understandably pissed off). I wanted to give myself the greatest chance of later acceptance, and the university requested any more recent test scores as well as my first semester grades. I went on my desktop to submit my newest SAT scores and midyear grades via their undergraduate admissions service portal. SAT scores were easily taken care of, but the mid year grade submission is where things took a turn down shit avenue. On the page, there was only one space for "Course name" and one space for "Course grade" instead of four for each. Confused as to why this was, I stupidly clicked on "submit mid-year grades" to see if I would get any other options. Nope. None. Not even an "Are you sure?" or "You have no scores or classes listed." message. Just one, reading "Your midyear grades were submitted." FUCK. SHIT. GO BACK. REFRESH PAGE. Nothing. My best course of action after the fact was to email the admissions office, finish watching Winter Soldier to calm myself down, and pray. I am still waiting. | Submit grades" means "SUBMIT GRADES." |
t3_3f2alq | tifu | TIFU by joking with an employee at Chipotle | This didn't happen today, but considering how bad it was I figured it deserved to be shared. So I'm going to hang out with friends and we decide to grab a bite to eat at the local Chipotle. Chipotle has this system where one worker handles the beans, one handles meat, and condiments, and so on. So as I get to the meat station I'm greeted by this very large and bulky Asian man whose over 6'0 tall, and obviously very bored and slightly annoyed from the looks of things.
He grabs my burrito, slides it to his station and very seriously asks whether I'd like chicken, steak, etc. Only this is where I fucked up.
Instead of a burly and stoic voice asking what I want on my burrito, I'm greeted by what only could be described as Mickey Mouse's voice inside a professional wrestler's body. Quickly I shut my mouth, to keep myself from cracking up. In my head, this guy is having a bad day and he's just goofing off to try and get through it. So I glance at my friend, whose also laughing, and figure I'll try and joke with this guy to at least brighten his day. So I reply in as shrill of a voice as I can produce, "I'll have steak and chicken."
My friend and I are now cracking up, but as I look at the Chipotle employees, all of them are silent, and completely still. When I make eye contact with the Asian Chipotle employee , he's fighting back tears in his eyes, scoops up half chicken and steak and slides my burrito to the next employee. But not before whispering under his breath "That was hurtful..."
This doesn't register in my head until about 20 seconds later when I'm purchasing my food and by now I'm now public enemy number 1 of Chipotle. Before I can go back to apologize to the employee, he's in the back being consoled by other employees. And now I'm stuck with a burito, that's lightly seasoned with the tears of a man who has a medical condition, and is highly self-conscious about it. | Joked with a large Chiptole employee to chear him up and accidentally mocked his medical condition, making him break down during his shift. |
t3_3ex0st | relationships | I [25 F] need help on confronting my parents [50's M&F] that I don't want to go on our family's annual vacation to North Carolina this year. Help! | I need some guidance. If I am in the wrong sub please kindly guide me to a more appropriate one.
Every year since 1999 (except last year) my dad's side of the family takes vacations together and rents a big house on the beach. The vacations are always fun because we have a big family. A couple months ago when my immediate family asked if I was going I said yes (even though I wasn't crazy about going this year…I'm getting tired of it to be honest but it has nothing to do with my family members).
Well now, I don't want to go anymore and I'm terrified of confronting my parents about it. My dad's super old-fashioned and scary (hot-headed and strict Italian). I would honestly rather go on vacation with my boyfriend of almost a year [26] this summer (we have taken weekend trips away but that has been the extent).
I think it would be cool to go somewhere I haven't been before. BUT my whole extended family thinks I'm coming and I don't want to disappoint anyone. It wouldn't be like I'm the only one who isn't going though. My two cousins, aunt, and uncle aren't going this year either (not sure why). It's not like I won't be the only person missing.
Anyway, I'm afraid of the reaction my parents will give me. I don't want them to resent me or be disappointed but the fact is, I'm an adult and can make my own decisions. I need to tell them today at some point so I can request off work.
Does anyone have any tips, advice, etc? I'd really appreciate it! | I want to tell my parent's that I don't want to go on our annual vacation this year. Don't want to disappoint my parents though and freaking out. |
t3_1bughb | relationships | Boyfriend [22] said extremely hurtful things to me [21f], and I'm feeling incredibily low right now | Hey Reddit, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and have started to have some real issues lately. His interaction with his exes makes me uneasy.
The first ex, was a girl he met while he studied abroad. They had a thing and then moved back to their hometowns. This was two years ago, and they text every single day, sometimes even called. He would text get while literally being naked next to me in bed. He told me I had nothing to worry about. However, I had a bad feeling in my gut. I didn't even snoop, I was watching a video on Facebook with him when she chatted him something very flirtatious, reading "oh so that's why you're attracted to me". He told me I was completely misunderstanding. It made me feel so crappy.
Now, he planned a trip to go to a concert with another ex girlfriend of his. They dated pretty seriously, and in all honesty I felt jealous. I didn't understand why he didnt include me at all. The concert was 7 hours away and they drove earlier today. When I would text him during the day, he was very moody and being snappy at me. I tried to let it go.
However, this was my mistake. My mind kind of ran wild. He didnt text me all night. I finally texted him at 2 am, asking how the show was. He gave me a quick response and I then told him I was a little upset with him right then. He told me I was being absolutely ridiculous and he was not going to respond to me. I don't know why. I was emotional. I called him like 5 times, which was so stupid of me. He's responded now, telling me I'm "batshit crazy" and I don't deserve him.
Reddit, I'm just really having a hard time. When we're together we get along great. Maybe I'm insecure, but I don't how to fix it if I am. He told me he'd talk to me the next day. I don't know where to go from here. Please help, and please be honest with me if I have done anything wrong. | boyfriend has questionable interaction with his exes. I got nervous and acted a little irrational. He went off on a rant of hurtful words. |
t3_1czmcn | BreakUps | [19m]. We [19F] broke up after i neglected the relationship, we keep fighting over stupid things? | We've been together since we were 15.
She accidently fell pregnant last year so we have a 6 month old daughter.
I neglected the relationship in favor of online games, and another couple of fuck ups along the way and it just wasn't working for her anymore, so she ended up breaking up with me.
We're still living together for the child, and because we won't be able to financially live without each other.
We got into a fight a couple of weeks later because she had started smoking, she told me that she's going outside to do it because of the baby, but she thought i should know.
In a stupid move, i ended up locking her out of the house when she went outside and wouldn't let her in until she threw away the packet.
I ended up getting more and more pissed off until i decided to check her facebook inbox while i had her outside.
She had been sexting and talking about sex related things with a friend of hers for a couple of days.
I instantly got pissed off, took the anger out on her and called her a slut, among other things i shouldn't have said. I went too far, to the point of her crying, i went and apologized and told her that i was jealous and just didn't want her to do that.
Couple of days after this, she decides she wants to go to a festival where all her friends will be, so i decide to meet up with an old friend and go out to dinner with her, she shouts me, and i would shout her within a month.
Ex then gets invited to go to the movies with the friend she had been talking with.
We keep having fights, and they make me look like the bad guy because my argument is usually. "Yeah but you're just going with him."
Then she replies something like "And you aren't going out to dinner with just one person? I don't see what the big deal is."
What the hell do i do here reddit | Ex has been talking sexually to her friend, makes me feel jealous and angry. |
t3_3ov3ap | relationships | How to handle a situation involving myself [25m], my girlfriend [21f] of two years, and a friend [30f]? | So my girlfriend and I have been together just over two years and she is great to me. Throughout our relationship there have been many episodes of jealousy, which she works through and ends up admitting it was silly afterwards. Currently a female friend of ours is planning on moving out of state but has a month in between when her lease ends and when she can move. The girlfriend previously extended an invitation for the friend to stay with us if she needed a temporary place to stay. I was, and am, all for it. It seems like a very nice thing to do for someone who is having a rough time, having just ended a long relationship. Now the girlfriend is feeling jealous about the female friend and states she no longer likes her. The friend and i have been talking more the closer we get to the move. The girlfriend wants to revoke the invitation and the friend's lease ends at the end of the month. The girlfriend's friends are all backing her and I have no one I can really talk to about this.
I feel that this is another episode of crazy girlfriend and I really don't feel like I have given her any reason to feel insecure. | Girlfriend is jealous over a mutual friend. Who is the crazy one? |
t3_3thuoh | relationships | 23m with a long-term go-nowhere crush (22m) | He's attractive beyond belief (for me at least) and he's attracted to me, but he's not looking for a relationship.
Fine.
But It's been over a year and I can't really get over him, as pathetic as that sounds. We're friends now, but every time I see him everything gets a little bit better, even if I am awkward as fuck.
We've distanced ourselves from each other, but I just accidentally stumbled onto his tumblr. It's nothing special, but he had a few selfies on it and I end up sitting here feeling the same way I did after we first met. Ugh. I thought I was getting better.
He's my friend. I don't want to just cut him right out of my life, even though that's the easiest way to stop all this.
I don't even know what I want out of this post, I'm just so pissed off at myself. I haven't been on the dating scene in months because of this damn obsession. | Crush that isn't going anywhere. Would like to simmer feelings down to just be friends. |
t3_qet9w | relationships | GF is manipulating me emotionally - how do I break out of this? | I am in my beginning forties, she's in her ending thirties. Our relationship is over five years old, with some highs and lows. What bothers me about it is that she has a recurring need for drama. If everything is sunny and carefree, you can be dead sure that it won't stay that way.
It is always the small things that lead to major conflicts. For example, she's jumping on the jealousy train. She demands that I break off all contact to a girl. I shouldn't do as much as saying "Hello" or exchange a couple of sentences in everyday conversation. Why? It is because of her emotions. *She doesn't like it, it hurts her. And if I really love her, I surely must avoid to hurt her.* I need to follow through and stop talking to that person at all - or I am a major asshole and I'm showing that I have no real feelings for her. Of course, an asshole get's treated as an asshole. Heated and with snide and hurting comments in the fight, and cold afterwards - or even silent.
While I agree in principle - if I love someone, I won't hurt him/her on purpose - I feel controlled and manipulated. It can't be sanely demanded from an adult person to just cut contact to anybody she displeases, or can it?
And that was just an example. It is the same pattern with all other relationship conflicts. She's playing the "her emotions must'n be hurt under any circumstances" card and if I am resisting to be controlled, it's big bang time. After some time, she's ready and willing to start over, but the bottom line of the previous conflict is always the same: I am the bad guy who isn't respecting her precious and fragile emotions enough. As I'm writing this, I am asking myself why I'm having masochistic tendencies or why I'm enduring this. Besides running for the hills, is there any approach to treat this better? | I am ruling you with my emotions. Do everything to please them, or pay the price. What kind of relationship is this? |
t3_11up82 | AskReddit | A friend of mine is constantly saying ''Oh my fucking A'', and it's driving me insane. How do I make him stop? | So a friend of mine uses a lot of different ''terms'', one of them is ''oh my fucking a'' which he always yells out when he is angry. It didn't really bother me at first, but he kept saying it, again and again, pretty much everytime something bums him out he yells it. I really want to tell him to stop, partially because it's a mix of ''oh my god'' and ''oh my fucking a'', but also because I know him, and everytime he's mad, and someone corrects him or something, he gets really pissed at the person correcting him.
I don't know if Im a bad friend for feeling this way, but it really is starting to make me annoyed when speaking with him. and I'm afraid it will end up making me not want to speak with him.
So can anyone help me? Is there a way for me to make him stop saying it, without him getting pissed at me? | read title |
t3_2lijle | relationships | My [18M] breakup with [18F] of 2 years has been rough. Am I handling this right? | I broke up with my ex about a week ago, and I definitely felt over her. However I've realized my decisions recently haven't been amazing, and don't know if they are helping me get over her.
I have had 2 one night stands, and find myself extremely sexually aroused a majority of the time, more so than I have ever been before. It has been nice but it feels addicting.
every once in a while, when I'm not horny, I crave just being with someone and doing relationship - like things. I miss it, and I know it's wrong.
I know she's over me, and it sucks because I'm not sure if what I'm doing is the way to get over her. The relationship ended harshly, and I have no plans to get back, but we aren't enemies. | I have been having sex and craving women since my breakup. Will it help me get over her? |
t3_y4a3h | relationship_advice | [f/19] My boyfriend [m/21] broke trust in our relationship by emotionally cheating, how to fix?... | My boyfriend (m/21) and I (f/19) have been dating for almost 6 months, we hit it off immediately and he began contacting me through facebook and eventually texting me. He would text me how pretty and awesome I am etc... and call me pet names, generally being really flirty. Throughout our relationship we have been really close and tell each other everything. However, I had this suspicion that he was flirting/looking for emotional validation with other girls. Now, I am totally comfortable with him interacting with the opposite sex, he has even picked one of his drunk girl friends (that I have never met) in the middle of the night from a bar and they ended up hanging out for a little after and I had no problem with that. Here is where I did something wrong, after having this suspicion for awhile I checked his facebook (he leaves it logged in on his computer). I found that he had messages with girls (I looked at 7 different messages then stopped looking) calling them pet names he calls me (baby, monkey, sweetie etc...), telling them he misses them and even going out of his way to tell them how pretty they are. He was also bad mouthing me to some of the girls about a fight we had, which I understand he was mad but what he said really hurt... I confronted him with the intention of calling off the relationship but I gave him a second chance. I gave him a second chance because he claims that he has always talked to these girls this way and didn't know it was inappropriate to do so and was genuinely upset that I was so angry. I feel as though he has emotionally cheated on me. I feel so insecure and have anxiety of him doing it again. I do want to work on the relationship because I really care about him... but every time things start getting normal I think about what he has said to all these girls and it hurts me so badly... What can I do to stop this anxiety and feeling so insecure? Also wondering how to get the trust back into our relationship? I want to have a healthy and happy relationship but this is tearing me apart... | Boyfriend emotionally cheated on me by being emotionally intimate with many girls online. Don't know how to move past the situation and have a healthy relationship. |
t3_104bu0 | relationships | This scenario just happened... And I need some honest feedback... Please read | I am a 22(m) - GF (21) - Relationship duration - 4 years. Currently do not live together.
The scenario begins @ 8:45 pm She facetimes me at 8:45 I dont answer (the phone is upstairs) I was cooking steak, then ate it I Facetime you back at 9:20 (30min later) She does not answer I call her 5 minutes later - No answer She then calls me back 5min later (@ 9:30) and says "WHAT?" I said "hey" She responded with "im busy" I said "ok".... and she hung up
WTF What did I do? What am I missing?
My question to you is this: Is she being dramtic, rr am I trippin'? Why play dumb, how is she busy and I can tell she's upset?
"going insane over here" Am I wrong for this or overreacting? | Girlfriend is overreacting to me not answering her calls and I honestly think her way of thinking is a little strange. |
t3_p6bij | travel | Going to California this July- need help making an adventure! | Hey r/travel! I'm a 17 year old high school student from Canada, I'll be graduating this June and heading to University next year. Before I head off to University I want to experience California. I'll be 18 when I go.
I'm going to be adventuring by myself, I'm planning on bringing a backpack with a weeks worth of clothes and my Longboard.
I really want to backpack/longboard throughout California
Here's the plan:
-Leave for San Diego July 3rd
-Stay in San Diego for a few days
-Make my way to Palm Springs
-See LA
-Go to San Fran for a few days
-fly back from San Fran to Canada July 24th
What do I need to do in between these stops?
What do I need to see at these stops?
Any special towns, beaches, people to see in Cali?
I'll be bringing about $1000 to last me the three weeks.
How should I shelter myself- hostels? Couch surfing? Hospitable redditors? | Going to California for three weeks in July with nothing but a backpack and a longboard. What do I do to have fun and survive? |
t3_504vb6 | personalfinance | How to get a late fee reversed from American Express | Last week I went to the AX website to submit payment. I was in a hurry and thought that hitting the big blue button after posting payment would be sufficient. Flash forward to today and I realize it did not get posted because you are supposed to hit submit again to double confirm.
So I post my payment and hit up the chat support.
Mistake #1: I honestly explain my situation, hoping for a fee reversal cause this is my first offense and I have had this card for a little under 2 years now.
Mike then tells me that the system is incapable of refunds. (Which is no way the truth.) I tell him that is impossible. He says sorry a couple times and says there's nothing he can do. He says he'll transfer me to his supervisor so we can talk.
Mistake #2: It's not his supervisor. It's another customer support agent. Same crap.
Solution: Just call the phone support line. They gave me a refund in less than a minute. I didn't explain anything. Just said I fucked up and missed a payment and explained my long standing good history of on-time payments on the account. Instarefund. | Don't bother wasting your time talking to the AX chat customer support, they might as well be bots set to sorry mode. Calling the phone line gets instant results. Or alternatively don't miss payments but I won't tell you how to live life. |
t3_1kh5fl | relationships | After a 1.5 year long relationship, my (18) ex-gf (17) had sex with a guy not two days after we broke up, not sure how to proceed with our relationship. | My SO (let's use Kate) and I broke up on very good terms, it was mutually understood since I am going off to college. However I'm not going far, so we decided to stay friends with benefits but allow each other to see other people.
A week after this, we had a dinner 'date' planned as friends with sexy times coming after. During dinner she mentioned that she had had sex with a guy not one or two days after we broke up. I thought I was prepared but that hit me like a sack of bricks. She feels awful about it and seems to regret it 100%, and I'm not sure what to do right now or how to progress. We are still planning on trying out then FWB thing but I need you guys' guidance and wisdom on how to move past this.
I forgot to mention, before we broke up we went on a no contact 'break' of sorts. This lasted two weeks, and the break up was a week after it ended. She proposed the 'break', I'm not sure if that is suspicious or not. | SO agrees to be FWB, fucks guy directly after breakup, not sure how to proceed. |
t3_elwck | AskReddit | "I think we need a Christmas Miracle"....Reddit I need advice... | Pre-lude: GF moved to Pittsburgh strip district for a job. Awesome place.
Bestbuy: I order a 50" tv for her. Set up free delivery and installation. I call to verify the delivery date and they can no longer offer that. supervisor calls and says he will credit my card for $30. I got an email for a $30 coupon to best buy today. Not what they promised
Lowes: Order two rugs online. Schedule delivery. Never show. Call lowes , they rescheduled for thursday delivery without notifying me saying no one was home. This is an apartment with a doorman, deliveries all go through him. Lowes offers no compensation. Also cannot give delivery time for Thursday.
Comcast: This is the kicker. I take a personal day from work last Friday. Drive to Pittsburgh thursday night. Move her apartment in Fri morning and wait for 12-4pm cable set up since she will be working. Guy never shows. I call his cell phone all weekend leaving messages just pleading him to install, even if saturday. (yea this guy gave my girl his personal cell phone like they were going to be friends after the installation) He calls me Monday saying our address was wrong and he is coming back Thursday from 12-4, but he will throw in 3 months free HBO. He already offered my girl a year of hbo for free.
Call comcast monday night because clearly i dont want to work with this cuntrod anymore and they can only offer Sunday install now. 16 days after initial set up.
Her building only lets us use comcast.
Reddit, besides the BBB, which doesn't do a fucking thing cause only your grandpa reads that shit, what can I do? There is already at least 5 hours of phone time.
Best part is, "I think we need a christmas miracle" is what my girlfriend has chalked all this shit up too | Lowes, bestbuy, and comcast have not delivered on services paid for or deliveries/installs set up based on their rules. Anything to do besides bend over? |
t3_2wycz4 | relationships | Bf [26m] and I [26f] have a good relationship...but communication is REALLY starting to dwindle...RED FLAG?? | We've been together over a year. The relationship is kinda of long distance, we live an hour apart, and we have conflicting work schedules, so we only see each once a week. When we see each other, the chemistry is thru the roof. We are very loving and affectionate towards each other, sex is great! However when we are apart, I can't help but feel 'distant'??
We used to text alot thru out the day early on in the relationship...and now we are just down to 1 text per day. It's typically always, 'Love you, hope you're having a nice day, etc etc' type of a text.
Idk, it's not enough for me, when we are apart, I am starting to feel disconnected from him and I hate that feeling. The relationship is great [in person], we rarely ever argue, but I'm beginning to question if I want to stay in a relationship where I'm only happy 1 day out of the week...This may sound bad, or selfish, but idk if my bf does this 'radio silence' thing on purpose, but I'm not the type of person to beg, or kiss anyone's ass. I'm a bit hot tempered in that sense. And bottom line is, this 1 text per day is massively bugging.
is it doomed? | When my bf and I are together, the relationship is great. But when we are apart, I feel distant. We barely text when we're apart, it's down to about 2 texts per day from both of us. Idk if he does this radio silence to irk me on purpose. How to deal with this because it's really frustrating me... |
t3_3mwckf | tifu | TIFU by not looking where I'm going | As you're probably used to already, this didn't happen today but yesterday (12h ago to be exact).
A friend of mine (let's call her Emily) and I landed in Bangkok 2 days ago. We're here to do a month of backpacking around the country. As we were walking through the streets, I got distracted for a second and didn't look where I was going - and bang headfirst into a street sign. Next thing I know the Niagara falls open up and blood comes gushing out my forehead like a fire hose.
Close by was some kind of institute with a security lady out front, who could supply me with paper towels while Emily got help. With the aid of two Thai students in their 20s they got me a taxi.
Now at this point I should probably mention that no matter where I applied the pressure I could not get the bleeding to stop, it still kept coming out like crazy! Mr. taxi drivers cab is a downright mess as the puddle keeps getting bigger and bigger and from what Emily told me later, my face looked like Carrie. You know, the one from the Stephen King movie.
Mr taxi driver refused to accept more than the 55baht (~2$) the meter said even though he would need to clean all of this up.
Rushing into the ER I'm put on a stretcher and sent for an xray. Luckily, my skull is still in one piece. 20(!) stitches later the 7cm (~3'') wound on my forehead is shut again. Doctors think it's a small miracle I never lost consciousness with the blood loss. Good thing is, I shall now be known as Harry Potter.
Big thanks to Emily, the Thai students, the security lady, awesome Mr taxi driver and the great team at the hospital. | You're ~~a wizard~~ an idiot Harry. |
t3_1g82an | dating_advice | Is he [21m] too young for me [31f]? | I've been seeing a younger guy for a few months...we hit it off instantly, he's adorable, we have a great time together, sex is great, etc...
last night, a mutual sort-of friend (who happened to tell me how hot she thought he was when we met him) commented to me "I can't believe you slept with him. He's too young."
Said girl was 21 when she started dating her 35 y/o boyfriend, who she is still with. I mentioned that, and she said it's totally different, and insisted it was still weird.
I feel like this is a stupid question, but is it really THAT weird?
We're not that different as for as our lifestyles and interests, and honestly, he has his shit together more than I do. Neither of us is looking to settle down, but personally I don't see anything wrong with it...her comment just irked me. | 10 year age difference, never done it before, bothered by off-hand comment. |
t3_2qvpsl | running | Runnit, how will my condition affect me? | Okay runnit, first post, short form: I'm a 17 y/o with mild cerebral palsy that affects the muscle on my entire right side of my body. I started running seriously in the summer to get in shape, loved it, joined reddit and this subreddit, and I just ran my first 5k race last night, and finished. (It got moved from November due to snow.)
Though, I think I have a problem. After seeing my doctor about some pained shins, she noticed my calves. Namely, my left leg looked strong and relatively toned, while my right leg looked weak. It didn't seem right, I do about 25-30 miles a week.
I've noticed this difference while running and generally everywhere. (I constantly feel like I'm balancing on my left leg while standing, my right foot feels unused after a run, etc.) It's not just an issue with my form, I also feel like the leg doesn't work as well in general, holding me back.
I guess my question is, what can I do that will help overcome my condition to be a better runner for when I sign up for XC at the start of the next school year, and in the far future? Can I succeed at being a great runner (hopefully run a few ultras) with proper training? | 17 y/o with Cerebral Palsy causes him to have a weak right leg that holds him back, how can he make this leg better, and succeed as a runner despite this? (Besides the obvious "Run More.") Thanks. |
t3_35lwqh | tifu | TIFU by inviting a girl over to study and accidentally hitting on her | Ok so this happened to me last semester. I was taking a class and not doing very well on the weekly online quizzes so I asked this girl (we'll call her Shayna) in my class who I barely know if she wanted to take the next quiz together, and she agrees.
Few days go by and it's quiz time. In the morning I texted her to come over and we could take it together around 4pm. Ok so I've got nothing to do till then so I eat dinner and watch Netflix until a floormate of mine asks if I wanted to blaze. I completely blanked on my plans with Shayna and proceed to get quite stoned.
3:45 rolls around and I get a text from Shayna that she's on her way. I panic a little because all my high-ass was doing was browsing the Internet while listening to the Guardians of the Galaxy soundtrack. I get my textbook out and light some candles so it won't reek of kush and much.
Shayna comes to the door and I let her in. GotG still playing in the background. We sit down on my bed and make awkward small talk before starting the quiz. Here's where it gets weird.
My dorm was designed with "energy efficiency" in mind and the lights will automatically shut off after a while with no movement. And just as we were finishing the quiz, simultaneously the lights go out so the only illumination is from the candles I lit earlier and the song "Fooled Around and Fell in Love" started playing from my speakers. We make awkward eye contact and I was 100% too high for it. I blither something about the damn lights and she packs up her stuff and leaves without a word.
Hardest quiz I've ever taken | I invited a girl over, got high, the lights turned off and mood music was playing making it look like I was fully trying to seduce her... |
t3_291a06 | relationships | Please help. Me(22f) and my boyfriend(24m) keep arguing about the amount of time spent together, is it worth it to take "a break"? | Me(22f) and my boyfriend (24m) have been together for 6 months, but best friends for 6 years and fwb for 3 years.
We have been arguing pretty much constantly for the past 3 months, mostly because I feel he doesn't spend enough time with me. Every time we have these arguments, he says that if I stop nagging him to be more attentive/involved, he will be. I have tried this approach, for up to a month at a time, but I feel it makes no difference. If anything I feel like he gets even more distant during these times. Tonight we almost broke up, but decided to give it yet another shot.
I am wondering if anyone thinks that a short (2 weeks or so) break would help us at all. In the past I've thought that breaks are bullshit, and always lead to a break up, but I am at my wits end. I deeply love and care for this man, as I have since I was 16, and I really don't want to lose him. I feel that maybe if we didn't see each other, and maybe didn't speak for a couple weeks he might see how much he really values me. | boyfriend and I keep arguing over the amount of time together. Would a break be beneficial? |
t3_z6fou | AskReddit | Reddit, I need some guidance. I'm essentially "floating through space" in terms of where I'm taking my life. Can you give me some advice, some inspirational quotes, some movies to watch, anything I can use to get my head straight? | Here's a bit of backstory:
I was born in 1994, my parents splitting up shortly after, and my mother proceeding to file a restraining order in December of 1999 against my father. In around 2001, my mother met a man named Alex, and they were married shortly after. I am an introvert, so naturally I didn't want to let Alex in, and close to 6 years went by this way. We didn't exactly see eye to eye. I have no memories whatsoever of anything special we did together, nothing that would motivate me into any sort of life pursuit. Somewhere in this space of time, my name was changed to Alex's last name, which was fair, but I didn't understand at the time. My step-siblings began having children, and Alex became softer. I snapped out of the funk I had been all my life and decided to do something more. I began reading a lot, playing music, and exercising. Nothing really spoke to me except the music, and I've been playing guitar since. In Winter 2010, my mom was diagnosed with cancer, and has since been pushing for me to go to university (closure, I assume) as well as sending me to a boarding school across the country. I really feel like I'm being pushed into something I am incapable of, or just have no interest in, and will fail due to lack of motivation, throwing me further off course. My request of you is essentially to be my father. I need a little help, and Reddit has always delivered (from what I've seen). I mean, hundreds of thousands of people? If 30 people see and respond to my post, I could easily find something I'm interested in, is worth pursuing, and **is profitable | No father figure, unsure of life, no motivation (not unhappy, weirdly) need something to get interested in and pursue. |
t3_1lcar8 | offmychest | Why is it wrong to like something that's not meant for you? | I've been a fan of the show My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic for the past year and a half. I know just saying that on anywhere but MLP boards or forums guarantees instant hate, but this is the place to vent or confess something, right? About 90% of people I know either are haters of the show or think that if I don't conform to gender standards, I'm not a male. The only safe way I can express my liking for the show is anonymously and I'm afraid of what others around me would think if I told them I liked the show. My question is this: why is it a bad thing to like something that's not meant for your demographic? Since when did it mean instant alienation if you are a guy and like something meant for girls or vice-versa. Thanks for hearing me out, r/offmychest. | I'm a brony and am afraid to say anything about it for fear of being ostracized by my friends and being thought of as "the weird one" in my family. |
t3_2f06tq | relationships | Me [32F] with my fiance [37 M] of 3.5 years, I am overweight with pcos and working on it, he keeps wanting to "talk" about *my* issues, but never wants to take actions to help | I have been overweight my entire life. 10 years ago I lost 80 lbs and kept it off for 5. An unhealthy relationship enabled me to put it all back on plus some. I'm older now, its harder to take off than it was years ago and I also have pcos.
My fiance has overcome drug addiction (years ago now) and keeps trying to say he understands my plight because of that and wants to keep 'talking about my issues'. I've talked and every talk ends with me asking if he will help me in very easy ways - ask me if im tracking on mfp, if ive had my vitamins and if i had enough veggies. I figure that's simple enough for someone else to do - 3 questions and it would be an awesome accountability point for me. He never once asks and then inevitably a month later we have a blow up over my weight again.
I ask him to go for walks after supper and he won't. I wanted to get bikes and he wouldn't jump on that with me. He won't workout with me and he only ever wants to go hiking (which I hate - allergic to bug bites, hate the woods etc...).
I was this size when he met me. It isn't like I randomly gained 80 lbs while we were together.
Im obviously sensitive about the topic as most people are, but Im also working on it.
He freaks out every time I get upset or cry after he badgers me and tells me my coping skills are terrible.
Im sitting here in tears once again over the same flippin conversation and I just don't know what to do at this point.
His method of support just isn't supportive to me.
I truly love this guy and fall in love with him more every day except when this happens over and over. | Im fat, always been fat, fiance is freaking out at me over not wanting to analyze the finer points of it on his terms. |
t3_1xpgjw | jobs | Why does it take so long for places to respond sometimes? | Hey folks, I just wanted to get some insight on something that's been bothering me for a while now.
Namely: why do some places take so long to get back to you?
Some background: I got hired for a job last September only to be laid off three months later in early December.
After searching and applying to a lot of places, I got hired at a new job at the end of January and am loving it there so far.
About a month passed between initial application and my start date, but I'm just now hearing back from places that I applied to days after my last job ended in early December. I understand the size of the company can be a factor, but a lot of these aren't large companies, so what gives? | Why do some companies take forever to reply to an applicant when they may have already found another job in the meantime? |
t3_3gjsfp | tifu | TIFU by playing Worms 3 | My phone was stolen about a month ago, so I havent been able to play any app games for a while. Once i restored my old ipod 3, I was immediately hooked to the only game I could download: Worms 3.
I go on the metro a lot, and I usually do not leave the metro system for a long time so I end up playing on my iphone along the way. Since I didnt have my phone at the time, I tried Worms 3 for the first time. By the time the game started, the doors of the metro closed, heading to the next station. I played for about 30 minutes, almost sweating because it was so intense. I looked up for a little breather, when I find almost everyone the in whole kart looking at me as if I was crazy. It took me a few minutes to realize that for that entire time, I've been so into the game that I was yelling and smacking my face repeatedly when I messed up...
I pretended nothing happened until we stopped at the next station where I swiftly escaped the haunting attention. | I got really into Worms 3, and humiliated myself in front of people by reenacting a weak version of Fight Club. |
t3_4k4qpo | relationships | Me [20M] having a hard time dealing with with my GF [20F] past | GF 20F and I 20M have been dating roughly 7 months and her past came up recently that really bothered me. We've both had sex with other people in the past so no big deal. Recently, it surfaced that I'm the only person she's had sex with more than once. I mean cool, right? Not really, it bothers me that 3/4 partners have been just a one time thing. Every partner I've had has been multiple times.
Maybe there is just a difference on our values of sex. I just don't really know how to handle the fact that a random hookup is okay to her when thats nothing I would consider doing. How can I make myself stop overthinking the whole thing when I know she's dating me for ME? I like her for who she is and she is truly a great girl, but I just really do not like the idea that she has gone home with random guys in the past. | GF revealed she has had random hookups when I do not agree with them. |
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