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t3_1ixyqp | books | Don Quixote fans? What did you like? What did you learn? | That book still influences how I see my life. I realized that, out of infinite possibilities, we all choose a certain narrative to define ourselves and express it to others. And, in a certain way, because they don't capture all of reality, they are false. But, in another way, because we live them and they shape our reality and affect the realities of others, they are true. Sorry if I'm drifting into a weird place here, but it seems like I'm just a story I tell myself, which I'm constantly updating and revising. And I think in Don Quixote we see that to take someone's story away from them is to strip them of their identity and drive them insane. | we're all just storytellers, constantly telling stories. |
t3_46vrrm | askwomenadvice | Advice needed about a grand gesture I plan to make. | So I've [25/m] been single about 6 months now, after me and my ex [20/f] broke up with each other after a year of dating and 15 months before that flirting etc. I let her have space and I didn't push anything, only talked when she approached me, and trust me there were a few drunken phone calls where she'd ask me to get back with her, I always declined because I just didn't think it was right to say Yes to a question like that when she wasn't sober, even if I really wanted to. For the record she left me.
Months passed and she seems to have gotten over me, I don't know if she's protesting too much or if she really is over me. I personally feel I could win her over if I made changes. But those could just be famous last words where I end up flat on my face. I've currently set into motion a plan to win her back unbeknownst to her. I'm going to make myself a better man.
I plan to work my ass off for a few months, save up, slowly make my way into her good books again by fixing the problems I know I had, and when I have the money, I'm going to ask her to move in with me, like bam just like that. I've never been a person to take big leaps of faith, but for her, I want to. I've already told her my plans to an extent, I've just left out that part that she's pretty much the motivation for it all and that when I move down south, it's in the hopes that the gesture will be enough to show I've changed and I'm committed and she will say yes.
I'm not completely crazy. She is the end goal. But I know that it might not happen, if that's the case then I'll know that I have at least made strides in my personal life and completed steps before the big one that will hopefully make me happy enough that I tried, and not have a mental breakdown :')
Now, the root of my question here is, am I being super creepy with this or do you think it's romantic and that I should go for it if my heart is set on her? | Planning to win back Ex Girlfriend with a Grand Gesture and need advice on whether I'm being a creep or romantic... |
t3_1tv5sq | relationships | [M18] falling for "Friend With Benefits" [F18] | So theres this girl that I used to have a thing with, but she got back together with her ex so we had to call it off. About a month ago, she called it off for good with her ex, and me and her have started a "flirtationship", with a hint of friends with benefits.
When I say friends with benefits, I dont mean sexually. We mostly just cuddle a lot and make out and kiss a lot too. Last time we were making out, she seemed a lot more into it that usual. She started grabbing my hair and rubbing and grabbing my back and pulling me in more. I dont know if that means anything or not.
So, of course, I fell for her... again. This time I really think I could get her. The only problem is I dont know if shes over her ex. I dont want to say anything and ruin what we already have because hey, its better than nothing.
Any advice? | me and this girl flirt and make out a lot and I want to ask her out without ruining what we already have, but unsure if shes over her ex. |
t3_1exz7o | relationships | I [F22] need help figuring out how to bring up a past relationship issue with SO [M23]. | I need help figuring out how to bring up a past relationship issue with my current SO. We are nearing our one-year anniversary. Here is the story:
My SO was cheated on really badly in last relationship (long term relationship, at that) and became very depressed afterwards. I feel like I need to come clean to him about how I acted in a past relationship. Long story short: I emotionally cheated on a guy, broke up, started relationship with guy I was emotionally cheating with, cue second breakup, get back together with ex that I emotionally cheated on, things don't work out, I break up with him again, and start casually seeing someone else until things there came to a sudden end. I feel like I should come clean to my current SO about this. I feel like he deserves to know this about me given what happened to him in his past relationship. I guess I'm not really sure how to bring up the issue to him because he tends to be hostile towards any cheating (such as making mean comments about girls in rom-com movies that can't decide which guy they want to be with).
I also can't really promise that it won't happen again. I don't now why, but I feel like I'm bound to do this again and I don't want to hurt anyone. How do I proceed from here? How do I bring up this issue, or should I bring it up at all? I just feel like nearing a one-year anniversary I should come clean. I don't want to waste his time if he decides he can't be with me because of this. Also how do you bring up talking about other future things like marriage, kids, career plans? I also would like to discuss these things (dependent on what happens with the other conversation).
If it helps any for ideas on when/how to bring up the issue, I usually stay at his place a couple times a week and we text each other a little bit other days. | SO was physically cheated on by previous girlfriend and doesn't know my past about having emotionally cheated on someone. One-year relationship marker is coming up and I feel like I need to come clean but have no idea how to bring up this issue. |
t3_28f26o | relationships | Me [18F] with my SO [17M] Month and a half (Long distance), ways to spend time together. | Me and my love are having trouble finding things to do together. We watch movies and shows and play videogames, and skype while we do that, but it's becoming routine.
We are very close, and we text constantly throughout the day. Long distance is difficult especially with no visits available for quite some time. We just need a way to spend time together, ideas and things. We like videogames and science fiction and stuff, but games are expensive and replaying the ones we have is hard. I just want to spice things up a little, maybe even surprise him c: | Basically long distance is limiting the things we can do together as a couple, what do you suggest? |
t3_316sq8 | relationships | Me [25/F] with my friend [25/F] of 3 years- make the cake or not?? | I may vent a little here but I'm really at a loss of what to do and I want to try to represent it all fairly.
I met my friend C 3 years ago in our graduate program. Since then I met my husband and we got married. We had a tiny intimate wedding (20 people total) two states away from where we go to school with only a maid of honor and best man aside from our immediate families. My friend C was upset that I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid but we got over it bc my best friend from childhood was the natural choice for my one open position.
So now C is getting married. You can see where this is going. She is getting married here where we all live. She asked me in front of our circle of friends if I would make her wedding cake/cupcakes since I do that on the side. For free. As her wedding present. I agree to this but feel like she should have asked me privately but all is ok at this point.
A few weeks later we start talking about her bridal party. I want to say here that I never expected her to ask me since I didn't (couldn't) ask her but just didn't want to go into it. But she then starts telling me the reasons why she isn't asking me and this is the real root of the issue. She says that we "aren't good enough of friends anymore" for her to ask me and she is asking another girl from our program. My initial thought is- so we aren't good enough of friends for me to be a bridesmaid in your bridal party of 6 girls- but we are good enough of friends for you to ask me to make your wedding cake for free? I get upset and leave and she hasn't called me or reached out at all. What do you think reddit? Should I make the cake or not? | Friend isn't having me as a bridesmaid but asked me to make her wedding cake for free |
t3_1mlg9k | AskReddit | Reddit, do you remember this cartoon from my childhood? | Note: If this is the wrong subreddit for this, please tell me and I'll repost correctly, thanks.
I have a distinct memory of a very clever sketch, I think it was made up of individual pencil drawings, flipbook-style. It was a man dragging a ball and chain down a road of sorts, and the ball was talking the whole time, delivering a philosophical one-sided conversation with the mute man. What the ball said was some sort of reflection of the fulility of the man's efforts to painstakingly drag on. At the end, the viewpoint pans out to show that the path the man is dragging the ball down is a giant mobius strip. | what was the 90's tv sketch where a man drags a talking ball and chain around a mobius strip? |
t3_2e00a5 | relationships | How will I [21M] know when I'm ready to date again? | Hi guys,
My ex broke up with me two months ago - it was out of the blue. She pulled the whole "it's not you, it's me. And I still want to be friends." crap, so we stayed in touch for two months. In that time, she's acted really immaturely (telling me about her dates, guys she's seeing, etc.) and I finally blocked her out of my life yesterday (social media, phone #, messengers, etc.)
The thing is, I know I'm still not over her because I got anxiety this morning about what I did yesterday. I've been on a few dates these past two months, but I couldn't build a connection with anyone because I knew I wasn't over my ex and I didn't want to lead anyone on.
My question is: when do you know you're ready to date again (and date seriously)? I definitely do not want to be the guy that goes out with a girl and is still not over his ex - I've had that done to me and it sucks. | Broke up w/ ex, not sure how to know when I'll be ready to see someone new. |
t3_1ay845 | pettyrevenge | Revenge never tasted so sweet. | Back Story: I have an uncle that is currently living with my grand parents and I because he'd rather go camping and hiking than look for a job, he is also one of those "Believe as I do or burn in hell!" type of Christians (Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against any religion, I'm a very open and understanding person, just don't get pushy with what you believe in and start yelling at me why your beliefs are wright and mine are wrong.) Because of my uncle also being one of those *"I'm Always Right"* kind of people he is VERY hard to live with. He goes on about how I'm living my life wrong and is constantly starting arguments because the way he sees it I'm wrong, end of story.
The Good Stuff: Tonight a news story came on about a woman in New Jersey winning the power ball jackpot, and my Uncle started right in with non-sense about how the devil made her win the jackpot and that she was just going to squander the money away...Because she's a woman. "Wait" I thought "you're saying she's going to blow her winnings simply because she's a woman?!?!" and this started another argument, I mean really what does it matter whether the winner is Man,Woman, or a little of both? Any way I got fed up with him and was just about to storm off to my room because there really is no reasoning with that man when I remembered, in the freezer there was a couple of fruit pies (like the Little Debbie's ones you buy at convenience stores.) one for me, one for my Uncle. So on my way by the freezer I opened it up and grabbed both the Cherry one that was mine, and the Blackberry one that WAS my Uncle's. I am eating his as I type this, and I gotta say...Revenge never tasted so sweet. | My Uncle is a better than thou type christian that likes to judge others and argue about why we are all wrong. He made a very sexist remark, so I ate his fruit pie. |
t3_3pxa65 | relationships | (relationships) I (m, 26) don't want to be put off by girls liking me. | Hey reddit! I met a wonderful girl (also 26) and we went on two amazing dates. I like everything about her and there were definitely some butterflies about to pop up in this b.. elly.
The first date, we're both playing it cool and looking our best. Afterwards we let eachother know how much fun we had, and since then we've really relaxed and just enjoyed each others company without tricks.
This is how I want it to be. Honest and open, communicating how we feel etc. However when she compliments me or gives signals of affection it puts me off, makes me feel like she's some silly naive girl and I'm too cool and smooth for her. (exaggerated)
I don't want to get put off this awesome girl. How can I accept her praise without feeling superior or out of her league? | how to appreciate girls who show they like you? |
t3_11jelt | BreakUps | I feel like I wasted a year of my life. | Today my boyfriend of a year broke things off. Part of me knew it was coming. I always put him second when I should have put him first. I didn't treat him like I should have. The blame isn't all on my though and I know this. I am used to this not going great and I shrug things off because it is what it is.
I also blame the fact I have Bipolar Disorder on the fact nothing is stays stable in my life. This relationship was pretty stable and not a lot changed in it. I admit my faults and know I guess the thing to do next is deal with it and learn from my mistakes. | SO of a year broke things off today. |
t3_1xiuzf | relationships | I [22 F] love my [22 M] boyfriend, but we have problems, and I don't know if they're worth fixing... | I have been with my bf on and off for three years. When we were ld, it was nice but then I moved to be with him. I've noticed things I didn't before. He drinks alot when we have conflict. I have a minor anger problem where I yell. I found myself thinking about how I should change my yelling, but I immediately thought, 'Maybe someday, but not for *this* guy.' I realized I don't respect him.
This might be cause I think he's a whiner, and he's needy and likes alot of attention. If he's home from work he wants me home and he doesn't want me to go out with my friends without him.
We have alot of good things going to though. We have fun times mostly but we get in arguments and fights a couple times a week. I don't know if its worth fixing. | Don't respect my bf, but don't want to giveup. |
t3_14coil | BreakUps | /r/BreakUps, is NC permanent? | I (21 m) just got dumped by my ex (23 f) about a month ago. I loved her, but she didn't really love me. After inevitably making a fool of myself trying to win her back for 3 week, I told her I clearly needed to go NC for a while. Currently on day 5, but I was wondering if I should ever really contact her again? We never fought or had real issues, she just didn't feel she could connect on a romantic level. I'm a senior in college but sadly have ZERO friends at my Uni (I've had social anxiety/depression issues for years), so my gf is the only friend I've had (and she was my first everything). I'm now back to going days without texts from anyone other than family and it's starting to get to me. I don't want to reopen old wounds (I especially don't want to know if she's with another guy) but I don't want to lose my only friend... | GF broke up with me, was only friend at Uni, feeling lonely, should I try and be friends? |
t3_tbdfg | AskReddit | Reddit, I recently decided to make big changes in my life after spending a good portion of it dreaming about things instead of going for what I want. What has inspired you to get off your ass and make big moves? | I've spent a good chunk of my life comparing myself to my seemingly over-achieving friends. I used to be ok with that, considering at one point in my life, I was doing exceedingly well; had a good job that was management track right out of college, bought my first new car and lived in a swanky apartment that I got for relatively cheap. Then, things started to fall apart. I made a career change, and for a while it panned out. Until I got let go without a moment's notice after they used me to get through a rough patch, then decided to contest unemployment and made it harder for me to scrape by. My tumor medication made me fat, my self-esteem was shot, and my family life was turning upside down, with the "will they or won't they" see-saw that is my parents' eventual divorce, my brother was/is messing his life up, and me having to move back in with my parents who won't even look at each other. I fell into a depressed state as my friends moved on with their quickly-advancing careers. And all I was left with were my dreams that seemed to be fading away from me, and lotto tickets that never panned out.
Finally, one day, an ex of mine (who I'm still good friends with) exclaimed that she and her fiancée had just bought a big house, after she made the decision to pursue what she loves – cooking. That's when I had it. I had been sitting behind computers my entire life, running numbers for organizations I didn't care about. And where did that get me? Living with my parents, frustrated, unemployed, temping at an office where all I did was scan and copy things.
So, now I'm applying for grad school, still looking for jobs to support myself, and getting the hell out of my house. I'm training for Tough Mudder to prove to myself that I can do anything I want. I still waiver here and there, mainly because I have anxiety issues. But seeing my peers take risks and make moves motivates me to stop feeling sorry for myself. | – Making moves/taking risks to change my life after a depressed state. |
t3_1fb2m7 | Advice | Bugs in my house | Hello Reddit, I'm having a bit of a problem. I live at home with my mom and a couple years ago, we were getting sewer flies in our house that would not go away. When we called the exterminator, he said they were coming in through a small hole in the bathroom wall which we could not get to and the only way to rid ourselves of this problem permanently was to get the wall fixed. The flies were persistent but eventually died off after about a year an a half.
Recently, we developed an ant problem in the same area of the house. I've also seen a lot of earwigs, spiders, and other outdoor insects and I came to the realization that this is most likely due to the cracked wall. Ripping out that area of the wall and fixing it would obviously be very expensive and my mom does not want to get it fixed because she said she does not have the money for such a big process. She said she'd rather wait until she sells the house and let the next person deal with it but that may not be for another few years.
It's really starting to bother me that we always seem to have insects in the house and I don't like the fact that I can't feel comfortable in my own home. I'm not quite ready to move out on my own yet (I was planning to wait another year or 2) but I fear I may be driven out of my house before I'm ready if I want to keep my sanity. Any advice? | House HIGHLY susceptible to outdoor insects because of hole in bathroom wall, mother doesn't want to do anything about it due to cost, driving me crazy. |
t3_2f5b06 | relationships | Is it too late for someone [31M] to start a relationship who has never been in one? | This is a throwaway account, I created this account so people would know that I am being serious and not trying to gain karma.
Simply put I am 31M and I have never been in a relationship and when I say never I mean I have never gone on a date. I have been single for so long I wonder if there is any point for me to even start dating? I am very self reliant to the point that I question why other people need other people to survive; I do not mean this in the sense of a society but more needing another person around them to help them get through their life.
So I guess I would like to hear what people think about this. Have I or could someone else reach the point in their lives that dating, being in a relationship and marrying someone becomes more of a burden because they have been single and independent for so long or am I just messing with my myself and it is not too late? | Is it too late for someone to start a relationship who has never been in one? |
t3_2ifgy1 | relationships | I [23 F] can't stop purging and it is affecting my relationship with my [23 M] boyfriend. | My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. We've had a great relationship. He's the best guy I've ever dated, and we are planning to spend the rest of our lives together.
However, I have an eating disorder that is causing problems in our relationship. I've been bulimic for eight years. I view anything I eat as a purge, no matter how little I eat. I've tried to quit several times, but I can't give it up completely. I will go a few weeks or months without purging before giving in. My boyfriend has known about my eating disorder from the beginning. He has been very supportive in trying to help me stop. I stopped for a few weeks off and on throughout our.relationship, but have always picked it back up.
Recently, it's gotten pretty bad. I'm purging after every meal. I tried to hide it at first, but he found out. He told me that he feels helpless and hates watching me do this to myself. He wants me to quit before I hurt myself. I've already started to involuntarily spit up after eating. He's at his wit's end with this. I can see how much this hurts him and I hate it, but I can't stop. I've never been able to stop. I'm not sure I want to quit. I'm worried he will leave me because I won't quit.
Reddit, what do I do? How do I quit something I feel I have no control over? Am I wrong for not necessarily wanting to quit? Any advice will help. | My eating disorder is hurting my boyfriend and our relationship, but I'm not sure I can stop. What do I do? |
t3_2q6z95 | pettyrevenge | Merry Christmas, cousin! | A little background: my aunt is a rather stuck-up individual who is incapable of acknowledging when she makes mistakes, yet is always looking for other people to mess up. She is the younger sister of my mother, and makes it well-known that she doesn't approve of my mom.
Last Christmas she attempted to tell my sister and me (seriously) that my mom was a fuck-up who dabbled in witchcraft, in front of the rest of my family. My mother laughed at this allegation, but my sister and I were pissed off that she would be so rude.
My mom may have let it go, but I haven't. One year later, I will have my revenge.
I got my aunt's hyperactive 8-year-old son Nerf guns for Christmas. Four of them, to be precise. | Revenge is a dish best made of foam and delivered at high velocities. |
t3_49o096 | relationships | Me [30F] with my Fiancé [36M] of 10 years, Left me over a fight about responsibilities | My fiancé and I have been together close to 10 years and we've always have problems with responsibilities. In our relationship, I have always taken responsibility for everything, whether it be finances, chores or reconciling arguments. I feel like I have to to put 99% of the work into our relationship without getting hardly anything in return.
He proposed last summer and we have a date set for the wedding this June. Lately i have been thinking about the future and how I don't want to go the rest of our lives doing everything for us and taking care of him like I would my child.
I want someone that I would feel comfortable taking care of my future children and I just don't feel that with him. An example is he did not book the vacation time for our wedding until I reminded him last week (he has a job where his company needs a long notice), he doesn't remember to do important things like register his car, etc. I have planned everything for the wedding and he's contributed literally zero of it.
I am just so tired so taking care of everything. I told him after our last big fight (about 2 weeks ago) that I'm sick of being the one to take care of everything and feeling like he doesn't ever help maintain a healthy relationship and that the next fight we had he has to be the one to fix things. So last week we get into another big fight about him taking more responsibilities and was so upset I told him to try to fix things or leave so he packed a bag and left. I don't want to be the first to try to contact him because I am always the one that has to fix things. We haven't talked since.
I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or if maybe I have enabled this bahavior by allowing him to be too dependent of me throughout the years... Can somebody tell me if I'm in the wrong and should be the one to apologize? I just feel like he doesn't care enough to show me he cares... | My fiancé and I got into a fight about responsibilities and he left and I haven't heard from him in 1 week. Should I be the one to apologize? |
t3_2ktg2w | relationships | I'm [24M] concerned that I won't be able to trust my SO [23F] of a year after she blamed me for giving her an STD. | UPDATE: Test says I am STD free!!!
Okay, so following a recent trip to the hospital for her, she's come to believe that I have an STD and am a silent carrier. We have been lax with using condoms recently (please, don't critique my choice on that, stupid I know) but the thing is, I have always used full protection in every prior relationship, so I am pretty positive that it did not come from me.
I got tested (awaiting results) and brought this up with her twice recently. The most recent conversation ended with her basically telling me I should not point fingers about who "had it first" and we should work together to get through this. This came after a day of abuse from her about her diagnosis and seems like a really fast switch from "it's your fault" to "we shouldn't play the blame game".
On top of that, she also made it clear that I was basically "inviting the risk" by not wearing a condom and thus this is all my fault. Because it totally wasn't a mutual decision or anything. Am I crazy for not really trusting her after this? | May have gotten an STD from SO of a year. Trust damaged permanently? |
t3_2by37f | Advice | Needing a fresh perspective on my career choices | Hi reddit,
I apologize if this is not the correct subreddit, but most of the others that offer career guidance are just dead and I really could use some input. I currently work for a wonderful digital marketing start up as a Project Manager (same as an Account Coordinator, as I am not client-facing, but fancier title). I am 26, enjoy my job, I have a MBA, and enjoy the thrill of the ad world.
When I took this job, I was excited and relieved to find such a great opportunity in my field with some pretty cool technology. However, after being here a year, the rose-tinted glasses are coming off a bit. My company is still fantastic, but I am learning I don't really want to be an Account Manager, where my current path is taking me. I enjoy working in this fast pace environment, but don't enjoy the client-facing/billing aspect of AM. Also, I feel I have learned as much as I can from my current position.
I would much rather stick to marketing strategy/business development. I enjoy the project management aspect - organization, putting fires out, team work to get things done, and oddly enough, doing the prepping of content myself and writing copy.
So I guess - what are my options? Is it wiser that I become an AM for a few years and switch later or should I start looking for something different? I guess I feel like I'm loosing my purpose, and could really use a fresh perspective. | Need some help with next-move strategies for my career in advertising. |
t3_s3qra | AskReddit | How can I make it up to her? | My best friend, who I really care about and is slightly fragile, tells me everything. Over spring break this week her father, whom she hadn't seen since she was 10, came into town, which really set her on edge. Yesterday, I helped her through the day and made her feel better when she was shaken by her father's presence. Today however my phone failed to collect ANY text messages, due to some cruddy programming of the phone. I texted her twice, telling her I hoped for the best, but didn't text her more because I didn't want to sour her already bad mood. So after restarting my phone and collecting my text messages tonight I found that she texted me several miserable text messages about what was going on. I promised her a long time ago that I would always be there for her, and today I wasn't. After texting her about what happened, she didn't buy it. She's upset with me and is now refusing to talk to me. I don't want to lose her, because she's my best friend, what should I do? | I broke my best friend's trust, how can I fix it? |
t3_e7u0h | AskReddit | Reddit, How can I help my mom? | My mom has worked in the casino industry almost all her life, spending some of that time working as a waitress here and there when she wasn't working at the casino.
Considering she's a poker dealer, she's constantly dealing with drunk (and sober) assholes who just give her a hard time especially when they lose money. They abuse her like she's purposely giving people bad hands, yelling at her cursing at her, etc... No one should treated this way, but she has learned not to take it personally (although sometimes people will make her cry).
NOW, in addition to being abused by assholes, her company(casino) is fucking her over. They took almost all of their poker dealers (luckily my mom wasn't one), and told them "Okay, we're either going to fire you, or we can dock your pay significantly and remove all your benefits (health care, etc)." 99% took the pay and benefit cuts because they have kids. In addition to this, they decided to take everyone (my mother included) and fuck over their schedules. Everyone now has to work more hours, and fucked up everyone's time off. For example, she had weekends off, but now has Mon-Tue off. wtf is that. These are things the casino does on a regular basis.
I want my mom to get a better job so she doesn't come home and cry about the shit she has to deal with at work. | I want my mom to find a new job. She didn't go to college, and her work experience is almost completely in the casino industry with no opportunities for advancement. She's always abused by customers and now the casino is fucking her over. She's getting older and she's sick of it. What can I do? |
t3_2ecoj4 | relationships | [26/F] I have an interesting tale for you all, nothing to urgent...just want the opinions of random internet strangers [25/M] | Met a guy[25/M] that I [26/m] liked, and he didn't feel the same. Nbd, it's not fun to deal with but it's part of life. Put on your big girl panties and deal with it.
We were friends for a year or so, but after a few rough patches the friendship slowly deteriorated.
Our friends mingled, so I saw him around and everything, but I never felt comfortable initiating conversations. He always initiated, and whenever there was too much silence or time gone by without contact, he'd send me a message or whatever.
Towards the end of our friendship, however, he was absolutely desperate to speak to me. I mean he wasn't crazy or anything, but it made me super uncomfortable.
I kinda want to know what it was like to be in his shoes, but we're not really talking. (I've tried :( he's not a huge fan of serious talks). Why would a guy who has lots of great friends, and is seemingly popular with the ladies react like this?
I'm pretty great, don't get me wrong, but I had nothing to offer him from his point of view. We were never sexual (don't think he had intentions of trying), we weren't best friends, and I just...irked him sometimes. That's what puzzles me the most, I seemed to get on his nerves all the time, and he wasn't interested in me, but he didn't respond the same way when I backed off. | guy rejects girl, guy gets annoyed with her friendship, girl backs off and guy tries really hard to talk to her even though she doesn't really have anything to offer. Why? |
t3_1mhqjg | relationships | Me[21M] can't help but think negatively about my [20F] girlfriend | I have been with my current girlfriend for about 4 months and it has been mostly an awesome relationship. She has done practically nothing wrong, she treats me well and we get on really good.
The only problem we have really had in our relationship has been to do with me and my issues. I can't help but think negatively about her, in particular about her sexual history. I have had very few sexual partners before meeting her while she has had about 4x the amount as me and it is constantly on my mind. It's like a default thought for me that just comes into my head when I haven't got to think about anything else.
She knows I have these thoughts and she tries to help me with them but it doesn't really get anywhere. She says if she could turn back time and not have slept with as many guys then she would have, and acknowledges that she made mistakes - I want to accept her how she is but I just find it really difficult too and I'm not sure how to do it.
Strangely enough, I have only been having these thoughts for about 2 months, even though I knew about it from early on in the relationship.
She is an amazing girl and the last thing I want to do is split up with her for something that happened in her past before I even met her.
Would appreciate any advice. | Can't accept my girlfriend how she is because of her past. |
t3_hkeeb | AskReddit | Stolen phone, police won't help. Have the thief's location on GPS. Seal Team 6, are you available? | OK OK maybe Seal Team 6 is too much. But damn, someone has taken my phone and is ignoring my pleas to return it. It was taken at Detroit Metro airport before I flew out so I am struggling to get in contact with police and this person from across the country.
The interesting thing is that it is an airport employee. The phone stayed at the airport for hours after it was gone, so I thought at first I had just dropped it (I was on my flight when I realized it was missing). Then hours later it went to nearby Dearborn Heights. I know the exact house. Next day (today), phone is back at the airport.
So what is the suggested course of action? I have been sending regular messages to call. Have not told them I know their exact location yet but am considering it. I fear they may just throw the phone out if that happens though. | I lost my phone and need a spaghetti monster miracle. |
t3_1ktmm9 | relationships | Our relationship is slowly falling apart Me[26m] and [25f] | A little background:
Me and my girlfriend have been together on and off for almost 2 years. We have had our ups and downs and have broken up a few times. When I met her she had a legitimate job. She had told me before we got together that she used to be a stripper, but didn't want that lifestyle anymore. Recently we broke up for about a month and she went back to being a stripper. I have no problem with her choice of profession.
So heres the problem. We just recently got back together and she doesn't want to have any sexual contact with me (other than kissing and hugging) for a while. That bothers me because I feel like she gives more attention/physical attention to her clients than she does me. It makes me feel less important to her than the money she's getting from her customers. Another problem we are having is that she's been stressed out lately about her living situation and life in general and her attitude towards me reflects these emotions. She yells at me..and just generally has a rude attitude towards me because of her situation. It really bothers me because she says she only acts this way because she's stressed, but when she goes to work I'm pretty sure she doesn't treat her customers the same way. Again making me feel less than them. So am I being too uptight about the situation or maybe over thinking it to much? If anyone could give me some advice that would be great. | My girlfriend and I just recently got back together...she works at a strip club and I feel like she treats her customers better than she treats me. |
t3_1nsfjw | relationships | My girlfriend and I don't stop fighting | We're both 19, have nothing to worry about or fight about, but somehow it's all we do. We're both really happy people but when we see each other it's like the life is sucked out of us. We both still love each other very much, but were not happy. There's nothing good coming out of our relationship.
We love the same things, have the same group of friends, we're really a perfect match, but all we do is fight and fight and fight some more. I don't know what to do. I don't want this to be over. Please save us. I love her a lot and I really couldn't imagine my life without her. It's just all we do is fight. Idk. | all we do is fight |
t3_447s2l | running | Extreme pain while running/walking downstairs | Hi runners, so I am a 16 year old guy who decided to start track for the first time this year. I had been running before the season started quite often, usually doing 20-30 mile weeks with the team and training with them. This week was the first week of the official season, and as a result the runs are a lot more organized and structured and there's a lot more team-wide workouts. Anyway, yesterday we had a "hill day", which was basically running sprints of varying distances (10x100, 5x200, and 3x400) up a large hill. I felt fine during it and was doing really well, but on the run back my knee started to hurt and I had to slow down my pace a lot. I talked to my coach about it and he said that it's probably from overworking but shouldn't be excruciating pain as long as I ice it and rest for the night, which I did. But when I got to school today, something as simple as walking up/down the stairs made me feel like my knee was about ready to explode, and when I tried to go out for my run my knee basically gave out a quarter mile in. I headed back to talk to my coach again and he said that it shouldn't hurt that bad unless it's serious, and that if need be I should take some time off track and see a doctor. I was just wondering if anyone else has ever had this before, and what caused it/what are the treatments for it? Thanks for reading if you made it this far | was running 20-30 mpw before the track season started, 3 days into the season my knee starts hurting after a hill workout and apparently hurts a lot more than it should according to my coach |
t3_ngv3e | AskReddit | How can the USA have less expensive elections? | I remember seeing that a Denver school board race cost [half a million dollars] this year. I also recall that the 2008 election cost nearly [two billion dollars] I wouldn't be surprised to see the 2016 election running up about three billion in campaign contributions.
This money goes to signs, billboards, commercials with spooky music and ominous voiceovers, consultants, handlers, trucks, makeup teams, sound crew, speechwriters, and a whole bunch of other things I don't know about. And I wonder whether or not the best person for the job is actually unable to win due to the high cost of running a campaign. Meanwhile, the candidate that does win remembers whose money brought them to the dance.
This is not how I want to see my politicians get elected. I think the ability to raise money is a horrible indicator of the best person for the job. So I'd like to see this get lowered somehow. The question is...how? | The cost of American elections is too damn high. Fix it, Reddit. |
t3_37uqrq | relationships | My GF [20F] hooked up with a guy before "officially" dating me [21M] and it continues to bother me. | So Spring last year, a girl I had become ridiculously good friends with and myself developed feelings for each other and realized we wanted to date. However, we were both going abroad to different places in the Fall for 4 months at different intervals, so we kind of mutually decided to wait until afterwards to try things and see how serious we are.
Upon our both eventual return, we immediately started dating leading to the best few months of my life. Everything is going fantastically, but because we are novices at this we talked a bit about past hook ups. While I got over all of hers as much as I can, there is one that still bothers me. See while abroad I realized how much she meant to me and couldn't bring myself to hook up with anyone and I talked to her pretty consistently especially upon my return in December. However, she didn't return until January. I then learned she casually "dated" and hooked up with a guy for two weeks towards the end of December and beginning of January during the entire time I was talking to her everyday and basically set on her.
Upon her return she immediately set herself on me as well but I can't help feel cheated on, betrayed, and hurt despite it not making logical sense. I love this girl so much and I truly see a very bright future for us and I know time will help, but it hurts right now and keeps eating at me from the back of my mind. How can I get over this quicker and not negatively impact our fantastic relationship? | Friends becoming something more. Went abroad so waited to start things. She hooked up with a guy for 2 weeks while abroad while I was already back. Love her, fantastic relationship but want to get over my sexual jealousy, hurt, and feelings of betrayal. |
t3_vg40d | relationship_advice | [21/F] My relationship has an expiration date, what should I do? | Hey Everyone,
This is my first post on reddit and I wish it were on a happier subject. I just recently learned that my boyfriend [M/21] wants to go to grad school on the opposite side of the country and is firm in his conviction to go alone.
I am not comfortable continuing to fall more deeply in love when I know that things are going to end but the thing is he has not even applied yet because we still have a year left of undergrad.
There are a lot of unknowns about the situation but that doesn't change the fact that technically in his best case scenario he would move across the country without me.
Has anyone else dealt with this before? Our relationship is most likely going to end but in over a year. Is it worth it to continue until then? I need some advice. He is my best friend and it would kill me to end it but if it's inevitable, why continue? Okay /rant. | boyfriend knows that our relationship will end when he goes to grad school in over a year but he doesn't know if he's going because he hasn't gotten in yet. not sure if i should stay or get out now |
t3_1cz1qp | relationships | (UPDATED) I F[18] feel disrespected sexually by my boyfriend M[21] | I would like to say thank you for all the responses to my previous post:
I talked to my boyfriend today. I told him how I felt disrespected and that I NEVER would do anal and I'm just not about it at all. I also told him that it was such a turn off to me when he would pester me about it during sex. He acted all pouty about it in a joking way but then apologized and said he wouldn't bring it up anymore. He said he didn't realized how much it bothered me and he just wants me to be happy. I think communication was lacking this whole time... Thanks to everyone for the encouragement to clear the air of this mess with him! | Told boyfriend I was not about anal and it would NEVER happen. He apologized for pestering me and promised it would stop. |
t3_231u1z | Parenting | Found out my Babysitter has been smoking weed with his pregnant girlfriend in the house while watching my child .. | background story: my SO had made a friend at work who happened to have a pregnant girlfriend. I was currently on mat leave and she was going on soon as i was coming off. she offered to watch my child so i agreed as i felt more comfortable with a friend watching my child while i was at work instead of sending them to a sketchy private babysitter. things went fine for awhile..over time i noticed she was not the cleanest or most organized mother. i was okay with that because everyone has different styles of parenting. time had past and she got pregnant again, she went back to work and her boyfriend got fired from his job and went on ei. to help him out with money we offered to pay him for the babysitting services, he agreed and things where fine. i noticed my child getting dirtier and dirtier. he came home with bum rashes, piss soaked pants and a dirty face everyday. occasionally he would have shit residue on his diaper from when he was not wiped properly. Today was the kicker for me, i came in after work to pick up my child and the house reeked of weed. i knew they smoked but didn't think they did it while my child was home. i am pissed. the worst part was he was with his 9 month pregnant gf who was also high.. i dont know what action to take. my boyfriend doesnt want to press charges because they are his 'friends' and it would cause too much trouble. i want to call the police and report it and i also want to call cps because her children are treated the same way. advice | my child comes home smelling like urine and feces while the babysitters smoke weed in the house and neglect my child. want some advice on which route to choose. |
t3_z8dmb | jobs | Trying to get a job that I have no professional experience doing | The title pretty much sums up my problem. I want to get a job building timber frame buildings, but I have no professional experience doing it. I have some experience as an amateur woodworker, and a little experience doing construction as a part of other jobs I've had.
Any thoughts on a good approach for me to take?
My current plan was to call and email a bunch of places to see if they would hire me on as an apprentice, but I don't know what kind of resume to even make. I was thinking about a functional resume to try and highlight some of the skills I have that transfer over. I don't know if people even use that kind of resume anymore. I would appreciate any advice anyone has. | Want to get a job as a timber framer, don't have any experience doing it. Willing to move just about anywhere. |
t3_20g3ws | relationships | Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] one year, I love my girlfriend, but I don't *love* my girlfriend. | So, I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year. I should mention this is a Iong distance relationship (NY to VA, I met her at a camp a year and a half ago). I love her to death, but I'm not in love with her. She's amazing and kind and caring, she's going to school to be a vet, but I'm not feeling it. I almost don't want to be in a serious relationship at all right now, but I know most of all I don't want to lead her on. That's not a right thing to do.
At the same time, I don't want to hurt her. I would do anything to keep her from pain of any kind. That's the main thing keeping me from just breaking it off. At the same time, I would like to remain her friend, or at least be friends again some time in the future. I know I probably can't have it both ways, but I'd like to.
What do I do? | I love my girlfriend, but I'm not in love with her. I want more than anything to not hurt her, but I don't really want to be in a relationship right now. |
t3_3dxg6t | relationships | I asked her on a date (15 F), She said she cant until 16 I'm confused, Should I ask her on a Date when she is 16? or should I give up on her completely? I'm a (16 m) | I went with to church with my crush. I asked her on a date while i was there (to soon i know), She said she cant because her religion will not let her until 16. It was a very neutral statement. and I'm confused, Should I ask her on a Date when she is 16? or should I give up on her completely? Do you any attraction that was present was destroyed by my impatience? Regardless i cant keep investing myself emotional in someone that will not give back, ill only hurt myself.
This is the very first time i asked a girl on a date (16 M) and i wouldn't care if she said "no I'm not interested" And i would love it if she would have said "OF course! just ask me again when I'm 16."
But she said "No i cant, my religion does not allow me to date until 16, sorry to turn you down like that"
(i said that i needed to talk to her in private and she lead me outside the church and thats when this took place) After she turned me down i said "yeah thats fine, lets go back inside."
Church finished her parents drove me back home. she got out of the car and said "Bye *Belgium* sorry if i made you feel awkward" she gave me a hug and left.
i've known her for a few months. shes my ballroom partner, and we text each other. this was the first time we saw each other outside of our activities. and i know i asked to soon, but is there still something to salvage? | I ask a girl on a date she says she cant until 16, i asked a bit to soon in our friendship. i cant tell if shes interested. Is it worth asking her again when shes 16? or should i just drop her? |
t3_2jaha9 | tifu | TIFU by drinking before class. | Now, before I say all the great things about my today I fucked up, let me first say, I never drink before class. In fact, I never drink before anything important. Today was very different. I had a major speech that I had to give to my peers today about global economic politics and I was stressing the fuck out about it. I needed something to take the edge off and I thought to myself "I'll have a couple beers!" Brilliant idea. It'll put me in a good mood, I'll be a little bit more chipper, and I'll be more relaxed standing in front of a group of individuals that I really don't know all too well.
I had my couple beers, and had a nice stroll to class. I don't want to say I was fucked, but I was feeling well enough to kick ass on my speech. Boy did I. I nailed the speech. It was marvelous. Not too sure what led to the next sequence of events but as I was standing in front of the class answering questions, I suddenly sprouted a massive erection. Son of a bitch was waking up to say hello and there was nothing I could do except just let it go and weep. Thankfully, questions stopped arising and I quickly made my exit stage left. | Had a couple drinks before class, got a boner during speech. |
t3_26rpit | relationship_advice | I [23 F] am feeling neglected by my SO [25 M]. Are these feelings legitimate? | I've been seeing this guy for about 9 months now. I guess you could say we've been dating. Although we never officially declared the fact that we are dating, we are physical with each other and exclusive, and I would say we are very good friends as well. There are legitimate reasons as to why we never officially began dating, although I don't feel like getting into it.
I am writing here because I feel neglected. He's always been a bit flaky about hanging out, but it's been worse recently. My main question, is how often do you see your SO? We tend to see each other about once every two weeks, to maybe twice a week. This seems ridiculous to me.
I understand that he is busy-He is much busier than I am with work, and tends to work more hours than I do. I also understand the need to be alone sometimes, as I tend to be very introverted. I just often feel upset that we don't see each other much, and I don't know if these feelings are legitimate.
I haven't really dated many people, so I don't know if this is normal for a relationship or not?
Also, we live in the same town, so it's not like we have to travel long distances to see each other. | SO and I only see each other about once a week, although I ask to see him pretty often. Is this weird? How often do you see your SO? Is it strange for someone to want so much space? |
t3_4901u3 | dating_advice | Therapy? | I'm a 21 year old, virgin guy and I have only ever been lead on and rejected by every single girl I was interested. I don't even know if the three girls I took out on dates even count as dates or if they were for an ego boost or something. I'm currently in two classes with a girl I "dated," or got coffee with but she stood me up the day we planned to go minigolfing. Now I just talk to her normally so I don't come off as a guy who can't take rejection.
Its been weeks since then and its not easy getting through all of it since I see her three times a week. Not to mention we have each other on all social media platforms because our class requires that. Anyways, I don't even know how to get through any of this. I feel like I'm a fuck up because there is no way every single girl lead me on and rejected me because they were the issue.
I dont know how to get over this girl who is very open about herself, her experiences, and acts really weird with me but stood me up (same girl I mentioned earlier). I am told I am attractive, great personality, boyfriend material, dress nice, I'm working out, but with all of these rejections I can't help but think I'm the problem. I just don't know how to fix whatever problem I have.
I tried putting myself out there today but I didn't. I can approach girls and talk to them and get their number easily and I've done it so many times but it never goes past a few texts and I've always gotten their real numbers. I don't expect girls to fall for me because I'm nice or anything but some straightforward rejection would be nice. I don't even feel like a human being because I never get a straightforward rejection.
So I'm wondering is there a type of therapist or specialist for these kinds of things? I don't even know what to do anymore, I don't know what my problem(s) is/are, I'm just so confused. | Is there a specialist or therapist for dating problems? |
t3_2z10yo | relationships | I (16F) am crumbling under the stress of college and a demanding, possessive boyfriend (18M) | Hello. I apologise in advance for my jumbled up thoughts, I am literally all over the place.
I am heading to college soon and I have been under a hell lot of stress because of the same, coupled with an awful grade in physics and an extremely gruelling relationship.
We've been friends since I was 3 and he was almost 5. Our parents are friends, same school, same hobbies, same friends, blah blah blah. We've been together for just a little under a year, a while before he left for college. We both have an array of issues. I have/had severe depression, as well GAD & PTSD to go with it. He's bipolar and hands down, the most impulsive person I have come across. Neither of us ever try to excuse our behaviours by blaming it on our disorders, but discounting their impact would be stupid.
There is no concrete problem here and that's the worst part. We're both defensive and possessive. We are both painfully, excruciatingly possessive and we have been able to deal with the problems or caused and we are also working on it slowly. What I'm not able to shake off is his insecurity which is linked to any success I have, no matter how minor. I brought home a trophy from a biology symposium a few months ago and he completely flipped out, saying he felt like a dumbass and felt so inferior and that all he ever succeeded at was sports. This is not true. He did well academically and is in a very good program currently.
He also keeps reminding me how inadequate he feels because I'm graduating at 16. This is so shitty and I know everybody will say that this is a total deal breaker and that I shouldn't stand for it. But I cannot let him go. I want to make this work. I know he has issues. I know they are worth working through. I just want to know if it's possible. | Boyfriend and I are equally manically possessive. He feels inferior because I'm graduating school "way too early". |
t3_2764xc | relationships | Me [25/F] with my ex-boyfriend[22/M] 2+years, is it ever OK to try again after a violent history? | I dated a man for about 2 years and things were wonderful up until I lost my job. We had been living together for about 8 months and we were both under a lot of stress. The last 3 months were rough. We flight constantly, were not nearly as affectionate and lots of accusations on both our parts were flying around. It all came to a climax one night last early December and got very physical. We had gotten physical with each other a few times before (me slapping, him pushing) but this was bad enough I was taken to the hospital after the police arrived and we both ended up with strict protective orders.
Anyway, we both did therapy (me: private sessions with a shrink, him: anger managememt groups) and got back in contact with each other in April. We've been seeing each other again and are discussing maybe trying again. I know he cares and I definitely can't deny my feelings for him. I've been with more men than I would like to admit and none have moved me like him.
Now my question: I have always been lectured that men will only get worse when abuse enters the relationship. Quotes like "first time a victim, second time a volunteer always run through my head. I know the advice I would give my best friend if she had this trouble would be to stay away, you deserve better, abusers don't change, etc.
But is it possible to have a successful and healthy relationship after our history or am I filing myself? Any women here ever deal with a similar situation? Any input would be greatly appreciated since I have been reluctant to tell anybody I know about seeing him again.. | fought like cats and dogs, took 6 month break with therapy, discussing being exclusive again, is it possible to have a healthy relationship again after our troubled history? |
t3_3jy5yf | relationships | My mom [60F] may evict her half sisters [55 and 54F] and their daughter [22F] from "their" home for not paying the taxes on the property. Is that cold? | My mom and her half sisters father (my grandfather) passed away almost a decade ago. Even though my mom's half sisters and one daughter lived in their father's (my grandfather) home, my grandfather willed the house to my mom. My mom recently found out that the taxes on the property had not been paid for years and that the property was about to be foreclosed on. My mom questioned her half sisters about the taxes and they played dumb. My mom paid the taxes on the property. This did not sit well with her and she went on a rant about how no one chipped in to pay for my grandfather's tax problems he had from when he was alive nor did anyone chip in to help pay for his funeral.
So my grandfather's widowed wife elderly and suffering from Alzheimer's and is also living in the home. My mom says once she passes away she's going evict her half sisters and their daughter since they didn't pay the taxes on the property and then sell the property. Is this cold? I'd describe my mom and her half sister's relationship as nonspeaking and my mom said that should something happen to her, I should not let her half sisters into her own (my mom's) home. Just meet them at the funeral and don't let them speak. >_> Now I fully understand the drama that happens around funerals that doesn't involved the loss of a loved one, but possessions they left behind. | My mom [60F] may evict her half sisters [55 and 54F] and their daughter [22F] from "their" home for not paying the taxes on the property. Is that cold? |
t3_2fd1hi | tifu | TIFU by also letting my boyfriend finger me. | Recently, I was at my boyfriend's house. He was telling me about these hot ghost pepper wings he had earlier and wanted me to try them. I'm kind of a wimp and told him to shove off. I hopped in the shower and he was eating his leftover wings (only one had the ghost pepper sauce, the rest we're just regular spicy wings) and told me to try the ghost pepper wing again. I told him to just put some of the sauce on his finger and I'd lick it off. He did, I tried it, it was awful and I demanded a glass of milk. After the milk soothed the pain, and after a sexy shower/milk shower photo shoot, he was so turned on that when I got out of the shower he was naked and ready to go. So we start making out and he starts touching me, I start touching him and he starts fingering me. It felt real warm, like the fire and ice lube or something. Then It started burning. It felt like I had just put jalapeño juice in my vag. I tell him to stop and get back in the shower trying wash it out, mood was killed, we laid there naked while I yelled at him for not washing his fucking hands after handling FUCKING GHOST PEPPER SAUCE! | boyfriend fingered me with ghost pepper sauce on his fingers. |
t3_315x90 | tifu | TIP TIFU by getting arrested in Korea for carrying a knife. | It all started when I had this great idea while staying in the Republic of Korea. I sent a text message to my brother timed perfectly an hour before he would wake up letting him know that I was being arrested for carrying a knife in Korea and would be in jail for maybe 2 weeks... so let the family know.
So I thought this would be a funny April fools joke and then off I went to get some drinks with the locals.
A few hours later, I find out that he believed me. Normal embassy hours are between 9 and 5pm local time... I didn't realize they have an emergency phone line.
How did I find out he believed me? Oh... because the embassy was looking for me, and my extended family apparently knew an ex-ambassador. He also managed to get into my bank accounts and airbnb accounts and contact pretty much everywhere I had stayed to ask them where I was.
Then my mom called and was hysterically crying on the phone... she was so upset she hung up on me when I told her it was an April fools joke. I haven't talked to my grandparents, aunts, or anyone else that got dragged into this yet. | I thought it was funny to joke about being arrested in a foreign country. Now the embassy is looking for me, my mom is in tears and I have to explain to officials that I'm not being arrested and don't have a knife. |
t3_36jiez | relationship_advice | Girl drama, now I [22F] am being seen as the bad guy when I'm innocent. Should I care that others are talking about me? | Having a hard time time coping after this:
She's BACK with her bf and she hasn't called. I haven't talked to any of our other friends about what's happened because i don't want the story to get twisted BUT I can almost guarantee she's told others we know, played the victim, and painted me to be the bad guy. No one's reached out, ppl are cancelling on me...I just feel like it's all connected and their taking her side.
I know I shouldn't care because my TRUE friends won't just accept her side and drop me. But how do I deal with the feeling that it's everyone against me? | Girl thinks I flirted with her boyfriend when it wasn't like that. She's back with him and telling everyone. Now it feels like it's her side against mine and everyone's taking hers. Should I care? |
t3_223dgc | tifu | TIFU by clogging the toilet. | Last night was a boozy one. Many bevs were had to celebrate the return of my friends from Uni. In a rush this morning so I didn't have time to curl out my usual post-drinking booze shit.
After clenching my cheeks throughout a 20 minute bus journey and a 6 flight stair climb to my office, I was finally able to sign in and slope off to the toilet.
I'm one of two males in my company (he's away at a conference today), the rest being chatty, baby obsessed women. I'm also the only guy on my floor.
So i'm sitting on my throne in what is pretty much my own private male bathroom and i'm unleashing a literal shit storm, it's a mess.
After ten minutes of straining i'm ready to clean up. Unable to call in the hazmat team I bundle up some bog role and get wiping.
I'm as clean as a whistle and happy that my bowels are empty, all that is left is the flushing.
Yes, I know it's good practice to flush throughout the process when it's a biggun but i'm tired, hungover and just happy that I didn't shit myself on the bus.
It looked like it was going down but the water began to rise.
Now i'm facing a dilemma. I'm currently in the bathroom still, torn between either unclogging that bastard with my bare hands or having to go into my populated, open plan office and call the reception to make them aware of the situation. I'm literally the only person who uses this toilet, there is no way I can just walk out and have it all blow over. Fucking cctv too.
Either way, i'm fucked. | Clogged the office toilet and may have to break up the unholy poo baby with my own bare hands. |
t3_3k9juf | running | Running in rain conditions | About me: I enjoyed running, so a friend conviced me to do trail runs. i loved it. i have 2 10kms, and 2 half marathons. The results were okay so i wanted to feel the experience of a full trail marathon. I've registered to a good trail marathon from my country.
But the kicker: For this race, the weather forecast got worse, so this saturday, i'll me starting the race with rain, wind, low temperatures, and tears in eyes.
What to expect, and what are some must-haves ?
I dont have waterproof shoes, and even if i buy them, i dont wanna race in them cause im not used to them.
For this I've packed : a light raincoat, some layers, my backpack with stuff, a cap, a buff; | running trailmarathon on rain+wind+low temperature. What to expect, what to pack ? |
t3_33z7kh | relationships | Im [25m] planning to surprise my girlfriend[23F] away on business | Almost a month ago my girlfriend moved out to Michigan for a new job. i havent seen her since. We talk everyday and the missing factor is really coming into play.
I have been planning to go out there and surprise her for the last week, and this week i have the time. She has no idea. I really want to get a hotel near where she is staying but i have no idea how to get her there. This is where i need the help.
I want her to completly surprised when she opens the door and sees flowers, the foods shes been missing, and romantic gestures (For valentines day she did a deck of cards with 52 reasons why i love you, so i did 104 reasons i love you what can i put these on?)
I am not very good with surprises or romantic stuff so anything else would be of help.
Again this is just my plan any other ideas would be taken into consideration thanks! | its not long just read it. |
t3_2yjxzi | tifu | TIFU by getting off the bus | I'm on mobile so sorry for the mistakes. But this happened a few minutes ago, and I'm still in pain.
I ride a bus filled with people, right? My school bus is shit. I'm a sophomore in high school and I haven't gotten my car yet. We arrive at the school on this rainy, dreary day that I decided to wear sweatpants and no bra on. So the steps of the bus were slippery, and as I was getting off, I gracefully slid down the steps and twisted my ankle on the curb and hit my head on the handrail, holding everyone else back who's trying to get off the bus. The guy behind me pulled me up, and assumes, "oh yeah, Quex, she's such a fucking stoner, I bet she's high." I wasn't, though, and I limped into the building and almost collapsed every time I took a step with my right foot. I went into the theatre department, where I hang in the morning, and my friend is freaking about the new episode of Gravity Falls, throws her iPad across the room and jabs me right in my other ankle. So now I'm dizzy and can't see straight and i couldn't walk out of the building even if it was on fire. | I tripped and fucked up my head and my ankle and my friend fucked up the other one. |
t3_4vwo68 | relationships | Girlfriend(22F) dumped me(26M) but we still live together and I don't know how to handle it. | My ex girlfriend has been phone silent all day and I just noticed we were no longer in a relationship on Facebook. It hurts that she didn't feel the need to talk to me but I'm not really surprised.
Anyhow, she says she is moving out in September and I don't really think I can handle living with her for another month.
Advice on dealing with this would be cool. But maybe I just need someone to talk to.
First time on mobile so I apologize for the formatting. I also may fall asleep but I'll be back in the morning. | girlfriend dumped me and won't move for a month. How do I deal with this |
t3_2jrr71 | relationships | I [24/M] met someone [32/F] a little over two weeks ago, unclear/lost on how to proceed. | So as a disclaimer, I've been out of a 4 year relationship for almost 2
months now. I have found people through online dating through my
whole life and I don't know how "real life" dating etiquette is handled.
This situation is something I'm confused about and don't know how to
handle.
So, 2 weeks and 3 days ago, I met "Joan" on a bus trip to an art
festival. We were both heading to the same place and we hit it off
without even realizing it at the time. Half an hour later, she went to
meet up with some friends. Before she left, she asked me for my
phone number and I gladly gave it to her. Ever since that night, we
have not only been texting a lot, but hanging out (the term we're
using) whether it's been going for food, drinks, or other things. We
have a lot in common in terms of what we like, and we've never had
any kind of awkward silences with each other. Truth be told, I really
want to see where this goes, but I'm nervous about a few things.
A. What if she doesn't want to go out with me? I don't want to ruin
an amazing friendship, but I also really want to see if we could go
somewhere with this. I'm afraid of being rejected and losing that
friendship with Joan.
B. While we've labeled the 4 times we've been together as "hanging
out", I can't tell if that's really the case sometimes. She seems
extremely friendly, we hug when we go back home, and sometimes
touches my arm or shoulder when we're having fun.
C. This personal interaction is throwing me for a loop. I've never dated
locally before and I'm at a loss for telling when someone is interested
in me. | Interested in girl, but don't know how to date or tell if she's |
t3_2gzgfh | relationships | How am I (22/F) supposed to deal with friends excluding me after break up with boyfriend (21/M) of two years. | A few weeks ago me and my boyfriend broke up as he lost feelings for me. For a week I hid away from people and just spent the time on my own.
However, after that I tried to fix things with people. I started spending time online talking to them. Inviting them out to events ect. Even if it did hurt me having my ex there we agreed to be friends.
I asked one of my closest friends that if any events go on to throw me an invite. I also asked my ex since we agreed to be friends. I did things that hurt me a lot but what I thought was necessary to remain friends.
Anyway, for the last two weekends, they've had events like trips to the pub, chilling out at the park and chilling out at a house together.
Every single one I've been left out of. After the first week I mentioned I was a little upset about being left out and my ex just told me "well you've been out with other people so it doesn't matter" meaning a day out with a friend. But then this weekend I even got left out of something that was organised whilst I was online with them all.
I'm feeling really heartbroken, but they only really want my ex around. I've been pushed aside. Not only have I lost the love of my life, but I've also lost some of my best friends.
I really don't know what I'm supposed to do about it.
My ex always told me I was too paranoid with people, but being left out of 4 different events, even after asking people "Hey is anything happening tonight?"
I really don't know what to do. | after being dumped, friends choosing to spend time with my ex and completely excluding me. |
t3_4p1yln | relationships | Me [26F] dating a guy [27M] and he told me this weekend that he will 100% be physically disciplining his future children. | I've been dating a great guy for the past couple months and we get on pretty well together in general. Similar work ethic, sex drive, hobbies in common, etc.
This past weekend we were laying around his apartment talking and I think we were talking about my sister and his sister and the topic of children came up. I told him it's going to be a trainwreck when my sister has kids because she is so impatient and that I'm sure she's going to do whatever is easiest (slapping or spanking) to get them to behave.
He very nonchalantly tells me he would never *not* hit his kids because that's how you get bratty children. I told him that psychologists have shown that hitting kids is not a correct/beneficial way to discipline children and that things like that are illegal in many places in Europe because they are detrimental to healthy emotional development.
He tells me 'I was spanked and I turned out fine.'
I respond 'That's great but that doesn't mean it is the right way to raise children.'
We went around in circles for a while before I just called done and said I wasn't engaging any more. He agreed and went to make us food and we sat on the patio and ate quietly afterwards.
I really like this guy and obviously neither of us has children yet but I'm looking for a long term partner. | Guy I've been seeing wants to spank and smack future children as discipline. Do I dump him based on hypothetical children that don't exist yet? Just have fun and break up if things start gravitating towards something more serious? He also deserves to not have me waste his time because I know he likes me a lot but I can't bend on this issue even a little bit. |
t3_eitfd | AskReddit | Reddit, where can I find an inexpensive but durable pair of earbuds? | Since I started using an iPod, I have basically been using the stock apple earbuds for my music listening needs. The only problem is that every pair of apple earbuds that I have ever owned has somehow broken within a year (sound goes out in one ear, the earbud cracks and comes apart, etc.) I prefer the regular earbuds like Apple includes and not the in-ear earbuds.
Since Christmas is coming around I am looking to find a pair of cheap but durable earbuds with decent sound? I am not overly concerned with sound, I obviously want the sound quality to be as clear as possible but I am not looking for anything super fancy. Any sound quality that is as good or better than the apple earbuds is fine. Since I am sick of earbuds breaking I am willing to invest a moderate amount of money into getting a good pair, but being a poor college student I am looking to be as cost effective as possible. Can anyone recommend a pair? | I am looking for a pair of durable earbuds with decent sound that can be picked up at a reasonable price |
t3_2w6xas | Parenting | 11 year olds and dating | In the last few weeks I have noticed that my 11 year old son had been messaging back and forth with a girl from school. My son knows that one of the conditions of technology is that I monitor all activity. I noticed that in these messages the girl repeatedly asks him not to tell his friend that they are talking. I asked my son why and he tells me that the girl and his friend are "going out." So we had a chat about how he would feel if he were in the friends position. Not long after I discovered my son had been sneaking his phone or laptop in his room after bedtime to carry on conversations with this girl late into the night. We put a stop to that immediately. There was a ski trip Friday night and on Saturday I find messages where she is telling my son that they can't tell anyone, everyone will freak out and that she loves him. I admit I was pissed. My older son mentioned that he heard the two were kissing on the lift during the ski trip. We had a long conversation with my son about dating, girls, appropriate behavior and if someone asks you to keep secrets that are hurtful to others then something isn't right. I have blocked this girl from messaging and told my son they are allowed to be friends and that's it. Did I overreact? I admit that I am judging this girl a bit based on her sisters promiscuous behavior and the secretive tone of the messages. | should 11 years old be kissing and saying I love you? |
t3_4f1avz | relationships | I [21 m] agreed that my girlfriends [19 f] friend is skinny and she got mad at me. | Last night my gf was telling how she went clubbing, her friend got wasted and she needed to care of her. She mentioned she is harder to look even though she looks skinny.
I agreed, because she is almost to skinny and my gf got mad and didnt talk to me for the day.
I'm not attracted to her friend and I dont find her beutiful or attractive in any way, I told this to my gf but she didnt care. She just said "well you dont call me skinny but u said she is". I didnt even say that, I just agreed on what she said few seconds ago..
My gf gained some weight and is definitely not skinny anymore. Should I just lie and tell her shes skinny?
Not sure what to do. I want her to work out with me, but she just promises and doesnt do anything, while getting even more unhealthy. | gf gained weight, got mad that I agreed with her that her friend is skinny. |
t3_25wd5r | tifu | TIFU by being nice and trying to give a little boy my extra carnival tickets | Wow. This just happened like thirty minutes ago and I still cant believe it happen. So I'm with a couple of friends (We're high school students) at a local carnival. Its a big carnival my school throws every year to raise money for the church and the school and so i ended up volunteering 4 hours yesterday and 2 hours today. It was getting late and I had dropped my all ticket but 4 which weren't much and I wanted to go home anyway. Tickets are expensive so instead of me throwing them out I offered them to a little boy in who was in line. This boy was about 9-10 and when I offered him the extra tickets he just stared at me and that's when his mother swoops in (Remember I didn't touch this kid or harass him for anything at any point).
Crazy Mother: Excuse me! What are you doing to my son? Are you bothering him!?
Me: Oh no. I was just offering him my left over tickets.
Crazy Mother: MMMMMHHMMMM. No you defiantly were not givin' him no tickets. YOU WERE BOTHERIN' HIM.
Well leave em' alone!! Pick on someone your own size!
Me: I had no intention of bothering him...
Crazy Mother: You can call me a b*tch or whatever you want but leave mah son ALONE!!! I don't wanna see you near him again. You hear me?!
After that she walks away and pushes her little child back in line. After thinking it was over about 5 minutes later the cop comes up to me from behind and pulls me aside. I explained to him that it was a misunderstanding and that I mean't not harm to the little boy. I'm not a trouble person and I don't cause trouble. He basically told me that she had overreacted and that I should stay away from her kid. This is what I get for being nice... | Tried offering a little kid left over tickets but got harassed by his crazy mother instead |
t3_2w0rh0 | relationships | Me [27 M] with my ex [25 F], discovered she cheated on me or did she? | So 2 weeks ago, before my ex and I broke up, my ex went out on a night out with a friend who we'll call David. He knew she had a boyfriend but had tried to kiss my ex numerous times. But she had turned him down every time, so when they went out I trusted her and thought nothing of it. The next day, she comes home and she tells me that they got really really drunk, and she remembers that he fingered her but nothing else happened. He tried to kiss her but she pushed him away. She claims that he did not do wrong, but nor did she because they were both drunk and what happened happened because of a miscommunication. Therefore, she does not classify this as rape, but also because of this miscommunication in an inebriated state, she does not also classify this as cheating.
A week later, I find out from one of her friends that she slept with that same guy a week after we broke up.
So redditors, what do you think? Did she cheat on me? Or did she get raped? I am arguing she cheated because if she can reject him kissing her, surely she can reject him from fingering her? Also, she's pretty firm on the stance that she wasn't raped. (We broke up because she didn't think the relationship was going anywhere). | Not sure if my ex-girlfriend cheated on me or was raped after a drunk night out with another guy. |
t3_42nvvm | tifu | TIFU by teaching my friends to protect their home | About 3 and a half weeks ago two of my buddies (who have been notoriously bad about locking their doors) had their house broken into and everything in their house that had any sort of value was taken.
So I head to their house yesterday and walk in to their unlocked house, only to notice that no one is home. I could not believe that even after having all of their belongings stolen just weeks before they still did not learn their lesson. I see Buddy #1's laptop computer sitting on the couch in plain sight right when you walk in the house. So I decide to hide his computer in his t-shirt drawer in his bedroom and throw the couch cushions off the couch all across the room. (I told Buddy #1 I was doing this just so at least one of them would know that it was a staged robbery. Buddy #2 is the one worse about locking the doors so he is really the one I wanted to teach the lesson to. I figured Buddy #2 would call his roommate before doing anything too drastic.)
Hours later Buddy #2 comes home and sees the couch cushions thrown across the room and the computer missing. He freaks out and immediately calls the cops and reports the "burglary". He then calls me and tells me about how he got robbed again and I tell him that it was all me and I just staged it to teach him to learn to lock his doors. I had no idea he would call the cops before telling his roommate or myself. He quickly called the cops back to tell them it was a prank and to not send a squad car, but the cop was already pulling up to the house so it was too late to cancel. My friend got hit with a $500 fine for reporting a false crime. So now I am paying for my friends' ticket. But maybe now he will learn to lock their doors... | Friends who recently were robbed left door unlocked again. I staged fake robbery to teach them a lesson. They call cops and get hit with fine for reporting a false crime. So I am paying the $500 fine |
t3_qgimg | relationships | Hi Reddit, I'm in a very happy relationship of 10 months, however, when i get drunk i actively flirt etc with other girls. I've kept it from GF so far. Should i tell her? How can i stop? | I'm at Uni at the moment and have an excellent GF (we are both 21y/o) who i care for deeply, more than any girl i have ever had before. This is probably my first ever genuinely serious relationship. However, i routinely get drunk without her, at least twice a week i go on AU socials with my rugby team and in the mix of the drinking and everything (girls do swan to the rugby team) i cannot help myself. PLEASE BE QUITE SURE, SOBER I WOULD NEVER DO THIS, just when i'm drunk. I've not actually slept with any of them yet, but have come pretty close, often i am egged on by my friends, who know i have a GF which is a problem. I have spoken to them about this, but when drunk, no one cares. I'm not going to stop playing rugby or seeing these boys, as they're a huge part of my life, nor am i particularly able to limit my drinking, anyone familiar with the politics of uni rugby teams will understand why.
What's the best course of action? Tell my GF? Because sooner or later, pictures of me being a prat will appear on Facebook i'm sure. Help Reddit! | i get drunk and flirt with, kiss etc girls despite the fact i have a GF, one i care for deeply. |
t3_17hkzu | offmychest | I feel like such an asshole... | I went onto my female friend's "ask.fm" where you can anonymously ask questions to that person. I started by throwing a silly questions of "Let's go out". Then we start a adventurous conversation about how relationship was, etc...Later that day, I was having a normal conversation with her, and she was wondering who this person was on her "ask.fm". So I somewhat hinted that it was me, and to my surprise, she went ape shit about it saying how seriously she was taking the conversation. In my perspective, I thought it was just a silly conversation I was having with my friend, anonymously. However, in her perspective, she was treating everything very seriously. So I felt very guilty about and apologize, she responded that she will gauge my eyes if I said anything like that again. Me wanting to keep the friendship going, I lied saying some of those questions weren't me, and she ended up believing me. In the end, I should try and understand other people's perspective on situations. Am I an asshole for trying to have a silly conversation or lying to her to continue our friendship...I now have this sick feeling inside me which makes me feel very guilty about the whole situation... | Understanding other people's perspective than your own... |
t3_1oj4df | needadvice | Seeking advice about work employment, help to view this logically | I accepted a job offer (through a third party contracting company) with a large company doing internal help desk support on a team of 5 for a temporary position that only has funding for oct 22nd through dec 1st. While jobhunting I had applied for two jobs (web developer/web design) I wanted due to being what my degree is for (graphic design). These employers just scheduled me for interviews on Wednesday and Thursday of this week and I didn't have the heart to tell them about accepting the job offer as they took so long to get back to me as well as I would prefer to work in the field I have a degree in.
Now I haven't gotten a job offer from them though at the same time I'm torn between what I should do.
1.) I feel the professional thing would be to let them know at the end of the interviews that I have already made obligations until Dec 1st and I would be interested in being kept in mind for future employment options with them. Though I feel this might be burning bridges as well. I know if I do this temp work I could get good work references though I might get a bad reputation in the area if I return to this third party contractor or search for tech support work.
2.) The two jobs I'm interviewing for are far closer aligned with my degree so I feel they should be the job(s) I consider priority on if any of the three.
I'm torn and not thinking logically on what is the best way to proceed.
I recently quit my job doing tech support (21 month employment) back on sept 2nd for a few reasons; increasingly lack of work/life balance (while i was going to school they wouldn't accommodate my schedule and when I started again they wouldn't again), dead end job w/o promotion, i topped out, went through three promotions (my view versus company called them horizontal transitions) where I receive no change in anything work related including benefits, etc.
I'm now pursuing online class(es) through a community college to attain certifications to compliment my two year degree I already have.
The two employers I'm scheduled to interview with this week (and the employer I accepted the offer from) all approve of me seeking continuing education and encourage it. | I accepted a job offer through a 3rd party contractor company for a job in tech support for a large international company doing internal helpdesk support from oct 22nd to dec 1st. I just now heard back on two applications i put in at the same time as this job offer I accepted which are in the job industry my two year technical degree is for. I don't know how to properly proceed. I don't have job offers from these companies though I feel even going to an interview I should do something due to my circumstances or I feel I'm cheating on a level. |
t3_1ii6xx | relationships | I'm 16 stuck without any idea what to do with girls i`m attracted to | As the title says i'm a16 year old male! I have an issue with actually the romantic side of relationships with females.
So far whenever there is a girl i feel attracted to i build up a friendship with and whenever it gets to the part of asking them out i always get the 'You're like a brother to me' or ' i wouldn't want ruin our friendship'.
Most of these girls i've felt attracted to are girls that i already have a close friendship with!
Is there any advice people can give me with this 'like a brother to me' phase.
Also what goes through a girl's mind when they say 'You're like a brother to me'? Thank you for any help. | Male[16] who has problems trying to get from being 'friendzoned' (a term used which i don't agree with) to girl's seeing me as datable |
t3_1sj9di | relationships | Me [20 M] with my ex-girlfriend [20 F] 7-8 years of off and on, Should I give this a legit try? | This I've been dating off and on since middle.
honestly I was just with her for the longest time because I was attracted to her and she was attracted to me so boom, but we really developed feelings for eachother.
In the past Ive always been the one to break up with her. She has a really bad attitude sometimes and is very moody. I get really tired of it sometimes and that's me not even living with her, but we have grown really comfortable with eachother over the years and recently we started hanging out again and connected on a whole different level. Its like we've never really understood eachother like we do now.
It's been pointed out to me that I've said similar things about her not being like she use to be and eventually she always goes back to being that same moody impatient girl I use to know.
Also we both go to universities that are about 4 and a half hours from eachother.
My question is do you all think I should give it another chance? I think she's kind of grown out of it but IDK. | Ex girlfriend seems to have changed. should I try to make it work despite distance? |
t3_293ykj | relationship_advice | Should I (22F) be worried that another girl is flirting with my boyfriend (24M) on Facebook? | Recently she left comments about missing him on his wall, to which he replied that he agreed and they should hang out sometime soon. I didn't think much of this, as he is naturally drawn to having girls as his friends, and always has been since a young age.
HOWEVER, It was his birthday a few days ago, and she left a post on his wall that ended in xoxoxo. This immediately got alarm bells ringing for me. She seems like a naturally flirty person, so I don't know if I would be overreacting by making an issue out of this. Should I be worried? | should I be worried if this girl is flirting with my boyfriend |
t3_1dh9jg | AskReddit | What do you do when you expected something and it didn't come to pass and you felt your world end around you? | For the last 4 years, I have been studying to receive an engineering degree at a school in the Northeast. Through the shortsightedness of youth, I let a girl get in the way of my emotional and mental health Sophomore year. I then spent 2.5 years almost not being able to graduate on time until I managed to align my courses in such a way that I would pass, but only just so.
This last term was the most brutal one in terms of assignments and difficulty because I had to take programming courses. I was unfamiliar with how to program, but attempted it nonetheless. I got far, but I ended up failing one. Just one course meant I no longer received my degree. In the moment I saw my final grade, my heart sank, my legs turned to gelatin, and my face drained as pale as the paper.
I can't take another year of studies, to afford it is out of the question, and I can't possibly accept a job now that I am no longer receiving a degree.
My life is pretty much incomplete. I feel completely over-swarmed with emotion from anger to anxiety to even those dark thoughts you're not allowed to think. All because of a stupid piece of paper that I won't get saying that for the last 4 years I suffered but overcame, and I was wondering how others have felt being in something of the same situation. | Missed my degree by *that much* and now my life is over. When have you been in a similar situation/how did you resolve it? |
t3_2csbxu | relationships | Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [23 M/F] of 4 years, cannot decide if i should break up with my girlfriend, need advice!! | Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4 years now, we have had our short break ups in the past (3 weeks was the longest). Over the past couple of years she has begun to push for marriage or at least an engagement; however i am not ready to settle down anytime soon. We are both currently in college, I am going for a B.S. in Chemistry about to begin my junior year and she was going to go for nursing but not anymore, when she is done she will have gone to college full time for six years ending up with only a 2 year degree. recently i have been noticing a lot of red flags about her. She will not listen to any advice i have given her which has put her in easily avoidable situations, i get tired of telling her i told you so. I feel like i cant take her out in public with me or around my friends because she is very clingy and is always trying to make out with me in front of other people, which is extremely annoying when i am just trying to relax and have a good time. She cannot manage money and has never payed for her own insurance, cell phone, car payments etc. her parents pay for all of this. She is also not very intelligent and not really willing to learn anything, she had an incredibly hard time learning general chemistry and cannot do basic algebra. If i were to marry her i feel like she would drag me down, and my hypothetical in-laws are terrible at managing money as well. I do love her however cannot seem to justify a marriage with her, so i dont want to keep dragging her along when i have big plans for myself in the future. Am i wrong in thinking i should break it off or what? this is a hard decision for me to make after 4 years. | Had alot of red flags come up within the past couple of years with my girlfriend of 4 years, Love her but cant see myself putting up with her for life, should i break it off? |
t3_1vykkp | relationships | I [25M] broke up with my ex[25F] after a 10 month relationship. She is suffering immensely as she thinks I am the love of her life. How can I help her? | I ended the relationship because she kept making me jealous and finally admitted, after 6 months, that I had a reason to be. Before that she denied everything.
Anyway, now she is very gloomy and is alone in the apartment where we lived. She has no friends and a history of depression. She says I am the only man she can ever be with, I am the love of her life(she's been saying all this before our break up) and our break up has devastated her.
I really want her to feel better because I care for her, how can I help her with this? | Ex girlfriend is depressed because of our break up, how can I help her in this difficult period? |
t3_29qqcr | relationships | Me [19M] with my SO [19F] of 3 years, I keep fucking up and ruining things and then make the fight difficult for her. | Hey reddit, I've been having a really hard time with SO lately and its generally my fault and as a result I carry all the blame and fault because I deserve it but then my SO caves and comforts me as a result and she is deprived of the fight.
These past months have been extremely difficult in terms of our relationship where I am constantly hurting my SO in ways some how. She means the whole world to me and she is pretty much the source of all happiness and everything good in my life right now. I know this very well but I just seem to be ruining things somehow.
The main problem is that when these things happen and I am at complete wrong I just simply break down. I've always been a very sensitive person and when things go wrong I don't deal with them very well, especially when I know its all my fault. She tells me that the fight suddenly becomes all about me and even though I fuck up and she gets hurt I'm the more damaged one. This generally happens with every fight where I am complete at fault. I'm not trying to avoid the fight or get her sympathy in order avoid the fight. I just feel like scum every time I do something to upset her and self loath and absolutely hate myself. She says she wants me to fight for her when these fights occur but how can I fight for her when I am at complete fault? I have nothing to argue with, I am at complete fault and I am beyond sorry and just disgusted with myself each time I hurt her.
I don't know what to do, its my natural response to my failure. How should I be going about with these situations where she has done nothing wrong? | I've been having some problems with my SO recently and my sensitive and self loathing nature doesn't allow us to have a proper fight. |
t3_ijszu | AskReddit | In a financial bind, what can I do? | I just recently got a new job that is wonderful and pays fantastically. With this new job I opened up a new bank account with a savings account at US Bank. I just deposited my first paycheck last week to pay for my rent/utilities and come the other day to pay my rent I find that my available balance is -7 dollars.
I called US Bank and it turns out because my account was new and because it was the first employee check the account got from a business my deposit got sent to the fraud department to verify its authenticity. According to customer support I won't have access to the funds from my deposit until the 16th of this month. My landlord has now issued me a letter, despite being told this, saying they demand payment (plus a late fee) for the property within three days or I forfeit my lease and the property to the original owner. :\
What do I do? Is there some sort of form I can get that states I have the funds to pay for my rent but I just can't access them because of some technical bullshit? | A deposit I made to a new checking account was sent to the fraud department to be verified and I can't access the funds to pay my rent, which is now overdue. Can't get the funds back until the 16th of the month but I could be evicted before then. |
t3_4whgbh | tifu | TIFU by putting my arm into a moving dryer. | this just popped up on my timehop from 1yr ago, so here goes-
so there I was, had just woken up for another overnight shift during a 50hr week and realized I left my clothes in the washer. so I stuck what I needed into the dryer (shirt, pants, socks, underwear) and proceeded to go take a shower. now... our dryer kind of sucks and takes a while to actually dry clothes, but I needed to put my shirt on before doing my makeup. I open the dryer and to my surprise, it didn't stop the cycle. so me, still half asleep, decides that I can just stick my hand in and grab my shirt, I mean there wasn't much in there anyway. so I did, my hand was promptly struck by one on the fins, which then pushes my arm and I hit my forearm on the outside rim of the dryer. sure it hurt like a bitch, but I didn't think much of it until the next day my mom pointed out that my forearm/elbow was insanely swollen. there was some bruising but nothing bad, so I didn't pay it much mind. few days later and the pain is only getting worse, bruising has gone up, and my entire arm from the elbow down was cramping up constantly. I freaked myself out thinking I had broken something and went for xrays... doctor promptly giggled after I told him the story. thankfully nothing broken just bruised bones (I don't drink much milk either, no clue how I managed to avoid a fracture). had to keep my wrist bandaged up for 2 weeks until the cramping went down. | DO NOT STICK YOUR HAND IN A MOVING DRYER. |
t3_42b75f | offmychest | When the resentment starts and it just doesn't stop. (sappy breakup post) | It's been almost three weeks since she dumped me. We went just over four and a half years. We went through some shit and we laughed a whole fucking lot too. She was my absolute rock, my safe-harbor from life in general.
She looked at me and said she wanted to break up. I had no fucking clue. She says it's because we never talked anymore. I tried to talk to her. Honestly, she's more worried about hearing her own voice... seriously though. There were many times when I tried to engage her in conversation. Sometimes she'd let me finish a whole thought, but even then her response always went right back to what she was fucking talking about before I dared give an opinion. Sometimes she'd start talking as I was starting a sentence. On many occasions I'd keep talking along side her just to see how long it would take her to notice that I'm still trying to finish a thought - she never did.
And heaven for-fucking-bid I ever let her know I needed her physically. Apparently, telling her anything along those lines is a "turn off"... wtf. She had be believing I had just as much part in the breakup as her. Bullshit. I tried, but at a certain point anyone will give up. I'm starting to really hate her for abandoning me like this. | I'm bitter toward my ex, that's about it. Thanks for letting me vent? |
t3_3ytv8t | relationships | Me [29 M] with my partner [28 /F] 3 years, got me a gift that i can't really use. | So i have recently been trying to focus on my creative writing and my partner, very thoughtfully, got me an online novel writing course through groupon. Today i was looking through the course and realized it is one of those poorly designed scam type courses for people who don't really know what they are doing. I checked out the company's website and they also offer a lot of other courses which they have no business doing (things like first aid training, therapy, addiction counseling etc.)
as i was looking through the course and getting disheartened about something i had been looking forward to i decided to see how much my partner spent on the gift. the website lists the cost at a ludicrous amount (hundreds of dollars) but then i found it on groupon and saw that it was super cheap. the reason i checked is that i would have hated to know my partner spent very much money on such a poorly designed product (we are poor).
my question is, should i go through the motions of completing the course even though it is going to be unhelpful in developing my skills and more a chore than an enjoyable task? i don't want to lie to her but i also don't want to spend the time working through this thing. to clarify: i won't lie to her but i don't want to tell her the gift was "no good" either and i'm not sure i'll be able to avoid discussing it if she brings it up.
halp! | partner got me a gift from a scam company and i don't want to spend the time to use it but i don't want to hurt her by telling her. |
t3_q4coy | AskReddit | Have you ever saved anyone's life? Whats the story? Here's mine. | I was stationed in Korea and my buddy had broken his finger. I had to go with him to one of the local hospitals because the Military hospital (if you can call it that) had outsourced the injury to them.
He went into a room with a nurse to start working on his finger and I sat outside in a hallway. After a few minutes a very elderly man in a wheelchair was moved up across the hall from me. He had oxygen from a tank attached to his chair going to his nose. I was looking at the oxygen rig and noticed it was pretty cool because there was like liquid coming from 1 tube out of the tank, it went into a clear dongle thing that bubbled the liquid and it turned into gas and then went out another tube out to his nose. So after sitting a few minutes a bunch of nurses and doctors went running down the hallway and I was looking at them run wondering what was going on, then I hear a horrible scream. The old dudes wife was next to him and he was turning blue and couldn't breath, you could tell he only had seconds left in him. A bunch of nurses came running out and couldn't figure out what was wrong. Through all the bustle I noticed the tube that attached to the top (gas) part of the dongle was disconnected (I guess when the first group ran by the tube had snagged on something and disconnected). I pushed like 4 nurses out of the way and re-attached it. He made a very quick recovery, which was followed by a bunch of thank-you's from the Koreans standing around. | My powers of perception saved an old Korean dude. |
t3_nqydr | AskReddit | black mold is killing my family. What do i do? | It's all because of a dog that poops 3-4 times a week in the basement. What's the quickest method of killing the dog? Preferably without all the blood and stuff, that's just not cool. | Owner of dog is not a responsible caretaker, basically a cry for advice. |
t3_13x7st | relationship_advice | Dealing with an odd situation and breakup. Could use some guidelines here. | I posted previously about a long-distance relationship I was in (I'm a 19 year old male, she a 20 year old female) and we pretty much dated without the title for 5 months or so. We were long distance due to going to different schools and had done the whole long distance thing since August. She broke it off with me via text message but also wants to remain friends.
As for the reasons for breaking it off, she said that she didn't want to remain tied down to someone she'd see only 3-4 days in the month and not being able to handle the full commitment of a long distance relationship. Also, there was less than a month left in the semester (college) and we'd be able to see each other quite a bit in the next month due to the two breaks (Thanksgiving and Christmas/Winter). I feel like it's kinda shitty of her to break it off via text message for one thing, I also think it's shitty that she waited all this time to come to such a conclusion when she had 3 months to figure out what was going on. That was terrible to get cold feet so close to us being able to spend a lot of time together.
I haven't spoken to her since we broke it off, and she randomly texted me tonight about not talking. I'm torn here whether or not I should get everything off my chest as to how I'm feeling (and risk an argument or disagreement for which I have neither the time nor inclination) or continue to ignore her until I've been able to deal. Any suggestions? | Long distance relationship, break up, and now what to say to her after she's texted me the first time since we've broken things off. |
t3_1t11m2 | weddingplanning | Not having MoH or best man, who do we ask to do speeches? | My fiance and I have decided not to have a MoH or Best Man. Instead we are having my aunt (a second mother to me) and his uncle (his only father figure) be our witnesses. They technically aren't part of the bridal party but will stand with everyone during the vows. The thought came into my head of, who is going to do a speech now? I know his uncle would be too shy to do a speech. Who should we have do speeches? I was wondering if we just leave it up to the maids and men to decide and do a joint speech? If I had to choose, I would probably have the groomsmen who introduced me to my FH. And maybe my friend K or my future SiL. I'm just a little stuck with having to ask someone specific on both sides do a speech because I feel it would give them the MoH or best man role we didn't intend for anyone to have. I hope that makes sense! lol | Not having MoH or Best Man, who do we ask to do speeches? |
t3_2l7elq | relationships | Me [27 F] with my boyfriend[28 M] of one year, wondering if it's really possible for him to change his mind on marriage and kids. | So I recently discovered that my boyfriend has no interest in marriage or kids. I, of course, want both. The shock of finding out he doesn't want either broke my heart and made me start to question the possible future of our relationship. I've never loved anyone as much as I love him and of course I see a future with him. He see's a future with me too, just with no plans of marriage or kids.
When I brought up the very real fact that this is a deal-breaker for our relationship (I absolutely cannot imagine my life without having a child), he said that maybe one day he'll change his mind, he doesn't know. So my question is, is this possible? Have any of you changed your mind on both marriage and kids? I personally don't think he will change his mind, and I would never hold out hope for it or try to wear him down on the idea.
His reasoning for not wanting to get married is his mother bounced from relationship to relationship and cheated on his step-dad after 17 years together. He doesn't want kids because they are expensive and can be a burden. All valid reasons, and reasons I think he'll never change his mind.
I sort of don't know what to do right now. We left the convo at "let's just take things one step at a time", so we're just focusing on moving in together right now and deal with the issue when the time comes. | I want kids and marriage, bf doesn't but says he might change his mind in the future. Is it possible he'll change his mind? Should I stay in this relationship based on that hope? Or should I just end things now? |
t3_2ri9kh | relationships | I [18 M] am having insecurities about my long-distance relationship with my girlfriend [18 F] of a month. Her brother ruins our time together. | So we met through a friend, specifically a friend that moved away about a year ago whom I kept in touch with. One night we were having a skype call and decided to have a karaoke party, so both of us ended up inviting our close friends.
There was one girl she that joined the call and immediately I felt she was different and stood out from others because she didn't talk much and had a really interesting personality, one that makes you want to know more about her.
Anyways after the call she ended up adding me and we hit it off pretty well, talked everyday for about 2-3 months. I liked her a lot but I knew that it would be very hard maintaining a long distance relationship especially since we've never even met in real life before.
But we decided to try beat the odds and we've been going out for a little over a month now.
This is where my problem comes in; we have a 5 hour time difference (Me, Australia. Her, America) but since I'm on break I can make a lot of time for her. However, she has an older brother that would always interfere with us whenever we talked or called. It feels like most of the time I'm actually talking to her brother or trying to guess whether I'm talking to her or her brother. It annoys me a ton because I feel like our privacy has been invaded. I love being cheesy and all that, leaving her messages while shes asleep so she could read them when she wakes up..but knowing that her brother might read them really puts me off...talking to her.
That's my main issue right now but I've been told by many people that online/long distance relationships don't work. She could be gone anytime. This is my second relationship, my first one was horrible. I don't want to screw this up but this distance really takes away a lot of the trust aspect that a relationship needs. | Friends brother always interferes with our chats, making me feel uncomfortable every time we chat. Also uncertain about where this relationship is heading. |
t3_1x7aca | AskReddit | What's a good way to pass time while drunk, bored and alone | Bit of a back story. recently moved city with my girlfriend so she could study. I had a job lined up so i was planning on working. The first few months went as i thought they would being home sick etc. But i was working a lot so it kind of helped take my mind off it. managed to meet some decent peeps at work. we decided to go back to home for christmas and we ended up staying for the whole of January. Being back home was amazing seeing my friends all the time. Going out more than ever. Really making the most of my time there. Came back on Monday and got a call saying my contract is being cut short (zero hour contract. it happens) so I've been sitting bored out of my mind, jobless while my girlfriend is at uni. Haven't spoke to a soul apart from her since Monday and I think the contrast of an action packed month is starting to give me the Monday blues but with a month's worth back logged. Anyway she is going out with uni friends tonight and it will probably be a dressy kind of bar. Like the sort of place with guys in suits and shirts cruising about buying chamagne in a desperate plea to show their wealth. Not my scene I prefer interesting people and a good atmosphere. (Hey reddit)... Anyway before I rant anymore about my solitude or my dislike of tuxedos. I am going to buy a nice bottle of whiskey and ask reddit what I can do to pass the time when I am bored and drunk.
What should I do? What would you do? | I'm so alone but I'm also about to be drunk. What things can i do to pass the time. |
t3_ic4wc | AskReddit | Any advice? | So there's an amazing girl I've meet. She's lovely ,and we've been talking for several weeks. Just over two. She has an impeccable taste in music, and movies. She has the most amazing sense of humor, and she's pretty much beautiful. She's witty, and down to earth. Around the third day texting each other we opened up , and threw our scars on the table. We talked a lot ,and she always compliments me on how I can make her laugh constantly. But recently I haven't been able to make her laugh as often. I feel like she may be getting bored of me. Any help? Maybe confidence is playing a role?
Okay here are something I shouldn't of left out.
* She can't go out. Basically her Mom is anal. (No guests either)
* She doesn't want a romantic relationship with anyone just yet. She's still getting over an ex.
* I don't want to be in the friend zone ,but can't just disappear.
* She has a lot of guys friends. **I don't want to be another guy friend**,but I don't want to lose her.. | Amazing girl I'm interested in. I don't want to bore her. Stuff we can do/talk about? |
t3_zmjgk | relationships | 24[m] got offered sex out of the blue from 29[f] on an online depression site. she's not attractive. i'm desperate and horny. | i've been talking to this girl on a depression website just cause i want someone to talk to. We had some back and forths, but eventually her attitude was way too pessimistic and i didn't enjoy talking to her that much. I know we're on a depression site but the goal is kind of to try to look forward and at least try to think positive and get better. But it's all fine and good, i just got turned off a bit and didn't want to talk to her anymore.
Then she messaged me with a kind of needy message asking why I don't talk to her anymore. I just said i'm not that social, and she said ok..
A week later out of the blue she just started messaging me with a flirty tone. I found it amusing so i played along, then she straight up said she wants to basically have sex with me and if i fly down to her, which i easily could because of my job, we'll ****.
so what do i do. my life is a wreck. i'm not an ugly guy, i just have a shy and withdrawn personality riddled with insecurities. and i did sort of like receiving attention from her. But when i look at her pictures... well, she has some facial deformities and her face has an odd shape.. i'm just not attracted. I do want to have sex with her if i'm really really horny and desperate... which I guess i am.
what to do. ?????? | Get offered sex from a girl that i consider ugly... and i say this as a guy with low standards. yet i still am seriously considering having sex with her ... |
t3_2cvdnt | relationships | Not sure if I'm just being insecure (24M) or if concerns about my girlfriend's (20F) flirting is justified | My girlfriend and I have been together for three months now, and I care about her a lot. However, it really bothers me that she flirts with one of her co-workers. I've mentioned this to her and she assured me that there is nothing to worry about. Normally, I would have dropped the issue after that, but I know for a fact that she was considering dating this particular co-worker before I asked her out (she told me as much). Furthermore, she still flirts with him despite my concerns. When I brought up the issue again she claimed that she can't help being playful, and that she doesn't realize that she's being too flirty. She said that I should say something whenever the flirtation is going too far, but I don't think it's my job to regulate her flirting. That's something she should know how to do herself. I should also mention that their flirting involves touching such as poking and playful shoves. As far as I know they haven't spent any time with each other outside of work, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't worried. | My girlfriend constantly flirts with co-worker, even though I told her I didn't like it. |
t3_22y2bi | relationships | I(15M) need to know if this girl (15f) likes me or not. | There's this really cute girl that has friendzoned me before when I told her I liked her. I just kind of shrugged it off and stopped talking to her. 4-5 months later we share a common best friend and I think she's starting to like me. She's overall a crazy person, but when I got to my best friends house, and was there, she got crazier (apparently). She wouldnt stop touching me (kicking, punching, and tickling) or making fun of me(playfully) She did this only a little bit, long before she friendzoned me. I like her still but I don't know if she likes me. What does /r/relationships think? | Girl that friend zoned me is playfully touching me. And making fun of me. Does she like me? |
t3_4k5n1l | relationship_advice | I (M/18) have the worst relationship with my mother. I want to know what you guys would do. | Firstly, my parents divorced when I was young, and I lived with my mother most of the time. Growing up with my mom was the worst now that I think about it. She is an alcoholic and drank almost everyday since I was 10 years old. I know it is harsh to say but I have lost a lot of respect and love for my mom. I have tried so many times to get her to quit drinking and get her life together, but the longest she ever lasted without alcohol is probably 2 weeks. I have given up on trying to get her to quit. I do not know what to do anymore. Earlier today she called me while drunk and asked if I could lend her some money; she has never asked me fore money until I started making it. She tells me the money is for groceries, but I know 100% it's for more alcohol so her and her friends can party. I am honestly so fed up with my mom, she tells me she is trying to get her life together and then ends up drinking and partying the next day. I don't know what to do anymore. | Alcoholic mom wants me to be in her life but I don't |
t3_1g1jqg | relationship_advice | I [19/m] want to ask out a girl [18/f] | During my sophomore year of high school, I had a huge crush on this
girl. We talked some, but soon enough we stopped talking completely.
She's one year younger than I am. Anyway, 3 years later, I find out
that she is going to the same college I am next year! Now I want to
use those balls that I didn't have 3 years ago and ask her out, but I
have no idea how to do it without coming across as completely creepy,
since I don't see her at all. I started talking to her a bit on
facebook, and asked her if she wanted to hang out some time which she promptly replied "sorry I don't have time this weekend". Do you guys have any advice on what I could do? | I want to ask out a girl that I never see. |
t3_1lj7ur | relationships | [23M] My GF of three years [22F] wants to us to hang out with the guy she cheated on her last boyfriend with. | A little back story to start us off.
Right before my girlfriend broke up with her ex she started confiding in a guy friend of hers. (I'll call him H.) She says that he helped her work up the courage to break up with her ex who she had been dating for 2 years. She also admitted that she had kissed him before she and her ex broke up, and that she had hoped that her and H would get together after she and her ex broke up. That never happened for whatever reason and she and I started seeing each other soon after.
She has been open and honest about her past with this guy, and up until recently it hasn't bothered me, I even let her hang out with him alone on several occasions because I have never had a reason not to trust her. But recently I ran across a few Facebook messages between her and H that made me a tad bit uncomfortable. (We live together so I run across her Facebook on my computer just as much as she does mine.)
In these messages he constantly asked her if she ever thought about the fun the two of them had back in the day and said he thought about it all the time, she hadn't responded to the message. I didn't say anything because, again, I trust her.
Today she texts me saying that H wants to come over and hang out with us. And it has pissed me off. Why would I let this guy into my house, and why would she even consider it?
I'm sorry for the sloppy post, I'm at work and I'm doing this from my phone. But I wanted to get a second opinion on what to do. I definitely am going to talk to her about it when I get home but I also don't want to blow things out of proportion. | GF wants to invite the guy she cheated on (kissed only she says) and planned to be with after she broke up with her ex before she and I got together. Am I crazy for not being cool with this? And what is the best way to handle this? |
t3_qdcdr | AskReddit | What's the weirdest thing you've ever done to get out of spending time with people you don't like? | Last spring break I went to Florida with some people I didn't know very well. We roadtripped from Kansas City, MO to Destin, FL, and once we got there I found I really hated a couple people on the trip. While trying to figure out how to get out of this trip, I decided to say my great uncle died and I had to go home immediately. Plane tickets were around $800 (which I couldn't afford), so I ended up buying a ticket for a Greyhound bus back to KC. What resulted was an odyssey through the Great American South all because I couldn't stand being around some people. | I'll ride a bus across the country to avoid certain people. |
t3_4sh9ax | personalfinance | Question about Self Employed Estimated taxes paid quarterly- a few issues | Backstory: bought a house last year (finally), after settling the last of my credit card debt. Of course I had to pay taxes on the full amount, which burned, but I did so I could be debt free and move on with life.
I pay estimated taxes quarterly and last year I failed to pay 3rd quarter- got penalized.
I had a lot of medical stuff going on, cancer treatment, surgeries, etc. I just flaked and forgot to pay.
Tried to call IRS to get them to waive penalty bc of good payment history, they said to fill out X forms, they look to be ridiculous, I just don't care anymore - I'll eat the penalty not to fill that crap out.
Here's where I'm having issues. This year I have been penny pinching to pay the taxes owed for last year and try to send the correct amount (and extra) so I don't have this happen again.
The problem is that I feel like I'm not accruing enough deductions (meals, office supplies, postage, etc.) because of trying to save. I itemize my deductions- have for 12 years.
I also spent some big bucks putting in a new HVAC unit and new windows-
What can I do to be sure I don't screw myself now that we are in mid July?
I hope this makes sense. | Trying to save $ by eating at home/not spending too much but afraid I will screw my deductions up on 2016 self employed taxes. |
t3_qn58k | AskReddit | When have you taken pleasure in someone elses pain? | Rewind to about 20 years ago 7 year old me, my sister, and a "friend" of hers that lived across the street were all playing in the street on a gorgeous summer evening riding out bikes and having a grande old time, we started having a skid contest on our bikes, the "friend" (I should clarify she wasn't my friend or my sisters, she was just the girl that lived across the street who was mean to pretty much everyone and didn't realize that's why no one liked her)
So the brakes on her bike weren't dialed in all that well so I being a complete peddle head showed her how to put your foot on the back tire and lock it up to get a really sweet skid out of it.
She got a hell of a lot of speed from the entire lenght of the block went to skid and jammed her foot into the spokes rather than the tire, this yanked her entire foot/ankle between the wheel and the rear triangle, she was flipping out screaming her head off and crying and I just sat there and watched as her mom came out and freaked out as US asking what we did to her.
My dad came out with his tool box and ended up totally demolishing the frame of the bike getting her foot free. | Spiteful kid got hurt,scared and had her bike destroyed, I just smiled |
t3_c7713 | AskReddit | To redditors that go clubbing, question about importance of club dancing ability | quick background: I'm normally fine dealing with members of the sex I'm interested in (I'm a straight male). I have confidence, average/above average looks, good dresser. I've taken tango lessons (I'm fairly decent at that) and am an okay solo dancer.
My Conundrum: From time to time friends drag me to clubs. At said clubs girls dance with me and I dance with them, but never for a time period of longer than a minute. Is this because I'm just a bad club dancer? What are your reasons for ditching a person that was dancing with you? I don't think its because I'm being too inappropriate. I look to the other couples on the floor, if they weren't clothed they would be having sex. I keep my hands on the hips/stomach region avoiding all the potential harassment zones.
I've asked my various exes and they all claim I'm a perfectly fine dancer, but I'm not sure if they were just sparing my feelings. | So reddit, is dancing ability important and if so what can I do to get better outside of going to lots of clubs? |
t3_2jw426 | tifu | TIFU by listening to the GPS | This actually happened last night, but I was extremely tired by the time I made it to a hotel, so...
I am in the process of moving my family from western Washington to Texas. Yesterday after work, we loaded up in the family truckster and hit the road. This was the second mistake (see above).
It gets dark pretty early and was pitch black by 7. Trusting the ever-faithful GPS, which *never* leads us astray, I start driving down these back roads that scream "LOCALS ONLY," but I continue for what seemed like two hours. This was my third mistake
Noticing that the time to destination indicator on the GPS was barely moving should have been the sign.
Now, my family and I have been living in Washington for a while, but we kept the GPS in the car just in case. My son found it a while back and started playing with it. He would put in destinations and play navigator. It was all in fun... until yesterday. That was mistake number one. | Son played with GPS, started traveling cross-country after a long day of work, ended up on the wrong roads because of my son. |
t3_3bxtio | relationships | My [19M] girlfriend [18F] is not friends with my female friend [19F] anymore | I have known my female friend, let's call her A, for a year now. I originally actually met my girlfriend through A originally, but around 4-5 months into our relationship they had a "fight" and decided not to be friends anymore. I have now been with my girlfriend for half a year. Now, I value both my girlfriend and A and I don't want to lose any of them. Me and my girlfriend haven't really spoken about A except that she has told me the fact that they are not friends anymore. I haven't met A since then, but I feel I would like to do so. Since I want to be honest in my relationship, I'll be sure to speak to my girlfriend about it first. But the thing that is troubling me is how awkward and bad it would feel if, let's say I walk around the city with A and somehow run into my gf. Any thoughts? What would you do if you were in such a situation? | My girlfriend and my female friend who I met the girlfriend through got into a fight, but I don't want to lose any of them. What do I do? |
t3_o6ok3 | AskReddit | How boggled has your mind been by a co-worker? | Long story short, my current client is a major bank who is cutting all their costs at present due to the downturn - a large part of this involves outsourcing.
Recently, an Indian colleague turned round to someone on a conference call between two teams and advised them that they kept referring to them by the wrong name.
When asked why their name wasn't correct, the Indian worker stated that he and his brother take turns to come in to do the job as they have different skill sets.
Needless to say he was immediately escorted from the building and his brother had his role terminated.
I guess they kind of had an issue with the fact that a stranger was able to get on-site, had been given an employees passwords to access banking IT systems and had not gone through the rigorous screening that takes place with all workers.
Have you ever heard of such a thing happening or have you a better example of such idiocy?
I saw the Harry Potter pic stating that the twins would swap roles which reminded me of this but they at least were identical in appearance. | guy gets employed by a bank, sometimes sends his brother in his place to do his job without permission, gets fired after brother corrects someone on a call for using the wrong name |
t3_2rho7l | relationships | Me (23F) with (25M).. It's been 1 month, 4 dates, 2 dates that he's postponed, and I have no idea if he's actually into me or not. Is it weird if I ask what he's thinking? | I've gone out with this guy four times now and I think I'm really into him. He's really cute and sweet and fun. I think we have a lot of fun together - we make each other laugh, have pretty good conversation, etc. etc.
I'm kinda hesitant about a couple of things.
First, there was about a 2 week gap where we didn't see each other. We had plans twice and he asked to postpone both of them. Granted, it was over Christmas and New Years - his family from out of town was here, and then it was New Years Day and we were both pretty hungover. So it seems like it may have been just poor timing… but I'm still skeptical about it.
Secondly, The first two dates we had pretty hardcore make out sessions that seemed pretty promising and really awesome, tbh. The third date was just a few short kisses at the end of the night. The fourth date, we hung out at his apartment. He had to work the next day, it was getting late, and I asked him twice if I should leave so he could go to sleep. Both times he said no, it was fine. We were just hanging out watching tv, he didn't make any moves at all, then about an hour later said he should get to bed and I headed home. He kissed me goodnight a few times aaand that was it.
I really like him and I don't wanna get my hopes up if this isn't going to turn into anything. But I also feel like it's weird to ask him what his intentions are.
Is it too early to be straight forward and be like "I like you, do you like me?" Should I just back off and see if he continues to initiate plans? I feel like I'm kinda nervous about it and just don't wanna get too invested and might feel better if I just asked straight up - but I also don't wanna weird him out.
Any suggestions? | gone on 4 dates with this guy in the past month. I THINK we're getting along fine? I'm kind of hesitant because he's postponed 2 dates and hasn't made any moves physically aside from just kissing yet. I like him, but I can't tell what his feelings are. Is it too soon to ask if he's interested? |
t3_y6kka | AskReddit | Is it normal to be more worried about Sophomore year in college than Freshman? | So, in less than a week I will be headed back to college after summer break and I am feeling extremely worried and anxious. As the title says, I am experiencing a lot more nervousness this year than I did last year. I think it is because last year I didn't really know what to expect and was kind of excited about what was to come whereas this year I know what to expect and to say the least - I didn't particularly enjoy my Freshman year.
Don't get me wrong - I love my school and even my best friend goes there but I am in no way a partier and I struggled to make many friends last year. I don't want to be the guy who stays in every weekend this year and plan to go out sometimes but basically I was wondering if this sort of thought is normal... If so, or even if not: what can I do to make friends that would rather just hang out than "party". I am by no means anti-social in my mind but I just don't like the "frat-bro party scene". | More nervous this year than last year about college because now I know what to expect and didn't particularly enjoy it the first time around as a non-partier. Any ideas to have a better experience? |
t3_zxe4e | relationships | I [21m] read her [22] journal... | We [21m, 22f] have been together almost a year and been living together for 3 months now. It was just sitting out where she left it, and stupid ol me read it all. I have descovred a terrible fact. She consistently writes about her best friend who is a girl and I am never mentioned. I had a hunch she was bi but up untill this point she never told me, but now it's painfully obvious. She constantly writes about her and how she wishes she could be with her, and how wonderful she is. Her friend is straight so I have no reason to believe they would ever hook up but knowing this now makes me feel terrible. I know she goes to her friend for all her problems and she helps her, but I also know now she just keeps everything from me, not being very open with me at all. The obvious thing is that I should tell her I read it right? But from what I know now, where do we go from here? Was our relationship doomed from the start (they have been friends for years)? Does she really love me at all? | Read her journal only to find out she is madly in love with her straight best friend. Is our relationship in trouble (besides the fact I broke her trust)? |
t3_gmv7n | relationship_advice | Kissed a girl that is my best friend's close friend. Now clueless what to do. | One of my best friends has known this girl Alice for a few years. They're very close and without a doubt he had a huge crush on her for a long time but has long since been placed in the friend zone. Every once in a while he would bring her to parties and I'd hangout with them.
Whenever I hung out with her we had very good chemistry but she was in a relationship and nothing ever happened other than some flirting. Then last spring they broke up. But right before they broke up, I started dating a different girl. So again nothing happened. I purposely over the last year tried to avoid talking to her at times since I had a girlfriend. Now I'm single again.
So Friday night I was at a party with my friend and Alice. Over the last few days she's been flirting a lot with me over text messages and Friday night she was again making it very apparent in person that she was interested. I knew this would probably happen and I went into the night saying I wouldn't act on anything yet. But a little alcohol took care of that. Needless to say we found each other at some point in the night and hooked up for a little bit. On the train home my best friend said 'is it wrong that I'm worried about you and Alice hooking up?'. At the time I wasn't aware because my phone died but he had sent me a text earlier in the night saying 'if you hook up with her I'll kill you'.
( | Hooked up with a girl my best friend had a crush on and was friend zoned. He doesn't know but has made it evident he wouldn't be happy if that happened. He has some idea that she has a thing for me. We're all 23) |
t3_3i8jvu | tifu | TIFU by reading and writing at the same time | Well I really fucked up today
So a little back story... A couple of days ago I was writing notes for art history class and I have a talent to look away from my paper to write. But anyway here's the fuck up. I was writing my notes as normal but I got the genius idea to read some TIFUs while I was writing my notes going back and forth. Then I forgot that I was writing notes and started writing a TIFU on my notes paper without realizing.
Now I had to take a test today and didn't realize that I had wrote what I had until I pulled out the notes to study. I thought to myself "What the fuck" but I think it came out as a "Wha..."
Thanks alot Reddit | I read Reddit while writing notes,write Reddit in notes |
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