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t3_2mh2ls | pettyrevenge | I was the only one from my crew to show up to work on a Sunday... Listen to my devious plan and how I ruined their day.. | So I work as a jet mechanic and every now and then we get called in to work the weekend depending on how many jets are broke. We were suppose to work 6am to 3pm both Saturday and Sunday.
We did a good amount of work on Saturday and I went home as soon as my shift was done. Well I guess the night shift finished the rest of the work that night since when I showed up Sunday morning, nobody from my crew was there.
One of the guys from the other crew (different crews work different jets), he was surprised to see me. "oh man, they didn't call you? Yeah last night they got everything done so you guys didn't have to come in today*
Well, on to my mischievous plan..It was 630am by now and figure the people who were part of my crew were nice and toasty, all wrapped up in their blankets like a deep fried taquito enjoying that nice precious sleep of theirs. ...
**RINNNNGGG** **RIIIIINNNGG**... "..ughh Hello"
"hey good morning!! Is this so and so? Great! Hey just wanted to verify that we didn't have to come in today. Ok great. I'm just gonna call the other two people on our crew just to double check, alright thanks! See you Monday! "
Did that to the rest of my crew and the rest is history.
It's actually not that bad since I have the rest of the day off although I would have preferred not to wake up at 430 am and drive all the way to work. Thanks for reading! | nobody tole me I didn't have to come into work Sunday so I called them and interrupted their sleep. |
t3_3zy7nr | running | Is running short distances (1-5 miles) hopeless in trying to lose weight? Calories burned vs. Calorie Intake. | Backstory: I hate running with a passion. I've never liked it because I'm just not good at it. I have never been able to develop a rhythm in running with makes my chest hurt, on top of having asthma which is no bueno. I come from a family of big Italian guys (6'- 6'6" and anywhere between 220 - 260 lbs)
Fast forward to today,
I'm turning to Reddit because I dont know where to go. Here I am 25 years old sitting at 6ft around 250lbs. I've had a lot of people say I don't look 250lbs, which is weird since there are other people that weigh less than me and look bigger. But now i feel like a complete fatass and have been pretty depressed about it lately. I've decided to change all that and start running to lose some weight along with dieting.
My question is (if you're still reading) on average I burn ~100 calories per mile. Estimated of course or thats what the machines say. Is it possible for me to run (or use an elliptical) for between 1-5 miles a day (hopefully 5+ days a week) and lose weight?
Im trying to move my diet towards salads and 4oz-8oz cuts of chicken and protein shakes. Which range between 200-500 calories per meal. If I were to eat (hypothetically) three 400 calorie meals a day (1200 total) and run 5 miles (~450-500 calories burned) would i still be gaining weight? According to Calories burned > Calories eaten = Weight loss. Or do I need to be running/jogging longer distances in order to have a chance? | Should I try to run more than five miles a day? |
t3_2tcj8r | self | Website security monitors, is there a good reason a user would need to fill out the same form multiple times in an attempt to recover a "potentially compromised" user account? | I received a sudden email from Skype a month or two ago saying my account had been suspended due to it bring "possibly comprised". I was not directed as to what steps to take so I looked it up and filled out their online form requesting my account to be reactivated. This form asks very specific questions about the details of the account, to which I'm confident I answered more than half correctly including the credit card number.
I received an email response stating that security is paramount and that they would like me to fill out the form a second time. Over the course the next two weeks I sent the replies by email asking why, to which I received no reply.
I finally got around to filling out the form a second time on Monday this week. The automated program prevention system (captcha) failed me over 20 times and I was never able to submit. I took screenshots of the filled-out boxes and sent another email reply to Skype informing them of the situation and notifying them I had filled it out a second time.
I received an email response asking me to fill out the form (same questions) a third time. That was yesterday. I filled it out quickly and got a response today by email asking me to fill out the form a fourth time. I filled it out again. | Skype account compromised. Filled out their form to recovery account multiple times. They repeatedly ask me to fill it out. |
t3_55a0xp | relationships | I [22F] like a friend of mine [21M] and want to ask him out, but I've never dated anyone... Help? | Hello! A friend of mine suggested Reddit for this question. I'm new to the site so be easy on me.
We're both seniors in college and we've known each other about a year. I really like him. I think he likes me, too. There's a definite tension between us that I've never felt before. And we spend almost every day together.
The problem is that I'm socially awkward and have never dated anyone... Or kissed them... Or had sex... Or asked anyone out in general. I feel like I missed the boat because most people figure this out in high school and here I am, about to get a degree, and still have no idea how any of this works. Please help. | Help me ask someone out that I like. |
t3_44ach1 | tifu | TIFU by not checking my credit card history after putting in a LEGO order. | This happened a few hours ago, but not today. If only I was faster at typing.
I've had a thing for the Modular Building LEGO series since the Grand Emporium, or however it's spelt, which came out 6~ years ago. I've been meaning to get two more. Combined, they cost a little over 300 US. So, I go through the checkout process, do all the things, and the page doesn't respond. No "you have just spent a large amount of money" email from LEGO. I wait a few minutes, and try again. Still doesn't work. Nothing on the page, no email, nothing. Do I do one more time. Still doesn't work. As I start to try a fourth time, my phone rings. It's the bank, wondering why I've spent a grand in less than 20 minutes on three separate purchases on LEGO.com. I just put through an order of 6 LEGO sets, with only two different sets. This is not good. I ask the bank if they can cancel two of the orders' payments. They can't. I sent a message to LEGO support, and have yet to get a reply. This all could have been avoided if I checked my purchase history on my bank account. | Went to order US$300 of LEGO. Site didn't respond, ordered it three times. Waiting for response from LEGO support. |
t3_334fak | relationships | Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] 1 Year are in a really good place, but he told me yesterday that we won't be together in 2 years time… weird or not weird? | My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year, and things are really lovely at the moment. Easy-going, best sex of our lives, have met all the family, spending most nights a week together and having loads of fun.
BUT he told me yesterday really casually that we won't be together in 2 years, as we will likely be working in different parts of the country. I'm really bummed to know that our relationship has a "sell by date" so to speak. Am I justified in being upset? How do I say something without sounding all "we must be together for ever and ever"? | My boyfriend is going to dump me if we are still together in 2 years time. |
t3_2oguyx | relationships | How do I [23F] "uninvite" friend [23F] to NYE home alone party? | I planned to spend this NYE alone with movies, pizza and wine to recharge after a long and busy month. Most importantly I just want to be alone since I'll probably be emotionally exhausted after Christmas.
The last thing I wanted was for an emotionally needy friend to invite herself to the event. Let's call her Liz.
I didn't tell Liz about my plan, because I know how she is. She'd be liable to invite herself. However, another friend thought it would be a great idea to tell Liz about my plans since apparently her plans for NYE had fallen through. The conversation went like this:
[at party]
Liz: "I'll come over on NYE!"
Me: "NO! I was planning on being on my own"
Liz: "Well, you can be on your own after I leave"
Me: "…"
[party continues]
I was just so speechless that I didn't know how to continue the conversation. I mean, I'm not very confrontational and this was just so dismissive and rude.
I know I call Liz a friend here, but basically she is just someone I've known for many years and we share the same social circle. If it was up to me she'd be an acquaintance at best. She's needy, clingy and over-sensitive. She has lots of good qualities, but her bad qualities make her pretty incompatible with me.
I have the sensitivity of a hammer, no patience for self-pity, and I'm legitimately afraid I'll say something terrible to her, if she comes over.
If anyone has any good ideas or experiences in how to handle this, that would be great. Do I lie and say my plans changed? Do I change my plan and head out of town? I'm leery of being honest because she is very sensitive and takes everything very personally. | My friend invited herself to my "home alone"-party on NYE. How do I make this not happen? |
t3_2mr6tg | AskReddit | What would be the benefits of getting out of a marriage without a divorce? | My husband put me in a situation in a foreign country that could have sent me to prison for 10 years. He said it was a very big mistake and was crying and seemed very sorry and scared over the phone. He was supposed to go on a pre planned vacation to the Virgin Islands but said he would obviously not go because of the situation I was in. I cut off contact with him for a few days due to the investigation and my father came to the country to help me. When he called next he called from an airport in Washington to say he was going to go to the Virgin islands. His phone was then off for 10 days while the investigation was at its peak. He called when he returned and said he had no idea his phone would not work on the yacht he was on during this time. Sometimes I believe this was no mistake at all, other times I just.. I don't know... I really need an outside perspective on this | My husband almost sent me to jail in a foreign country, lied and went on his vacation. I sometimes feel like he didn't want me to return, other times I think I am just being crazy. |
t3_ch97b | self | Hey, BaconAndAids, re:"Oh, sadface": Today is one of the last days that I'll have access to technology or even showers, for a month. I'm a teenager. | I'm flying out Tuesday to spend a month on and off of a glacier learning to climb mountains. Pure wilderness. With a group of eleven others, I will carry everything on my back; food, gear, clothes, shelter, books, there will be no modern tech save for a sat phone carried by instructors only to be used in emergencies. No electronics, no soap, no contact with the outside world aside form re-rations, and no watching the season finale of Doctor Who.
This is voluntary, not a hoods-in-the-woods program, seventeen and over. I'll be one of the few in the course of who is under eighteen and I'm going to harass my instructors for career advice because I love the outdoors.
I read a post here a while ago from BaconAndAids about a kid that said 'sadface' to express an emotion. I hope you see this, because I want you to know this. That might be a part of my generation, but I'm here too.
I'm here on my laptop, on the internet. Both of which I love dearly, despite their flaws (it's a mac, I was young and foolish). I'm insanely inhibited and can't be bothered to find anything to do in my shitty-ass californicated suburban town. I recently realized that I was only the taxi for my one group of friends, that I've been steadily drifting away form. In short, I could so easily fit the stereotype of a shut in. My poor secret gifter can attest.
But there are the mountains and their rugged untamed power. The kind of power you can't bend. The kind that you bend to and respect. The kind that can still kill you, for a single, small mistake, or even if you did everything right and that's still not enough. And I love that too. | My generation still feels the call of the wild. And I'm striking out to answer. |
t3_293jyr | relationships | Me [22 M] with my GF [21 F] wants me to be a bit more assertive | Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
So, we met in University in mid-May. We have been together for a good month. Important things I know about her:
(1) I am her first. How should I FEEL about that???
(2) She can be VERY OBLIVIOUS to things... aka guys, etc.
(3) She is kind of a FREAK (aka dirty). In other words, she likes it when I take control and just do things instead of saying what i'de do. JUST DO IT.
I REALLY like this girl, and I have already told her the 'other 4 letter word' which she didn't mind. She says she is starting to like me more and more now. I haven't been in a relationship since Senior year of high school. This is my 4TH YEAR IN COLLEGE, and relationships now are SO MUCH DIFFERENT than from high school. I do feel I have been doing the right things with her. She just wants me to be a bit more ASSERTIVE, which i have been working on.
How can I SHOW her my assertiveness more and get her to like me as much as i like her? because she knows I like her A WHOLE LOT. | Mandatory summary/question! |
t3_3783o6 | relationships | I[23M] asked out a girl [20F] that I really liked, she said that she just got out a relationship and that she would feel weird going out with someone right now. Is this her way of rejecting me easily or do you think there's still hope? | So there's this girl in my class that I met and we had a lot of stuff in common. I really liked her not just because she was hot but personality wise I liked her a lot as well. I asked her out on facebook and she said that she just got out of a relationship and that she would feel weird going out someone so soon.
I actually creeped her profile and it does look like that she was in a relationship like around march.
The fact that I liked her a lot kind of made it hurt a lot when she said that she wasn't interested at the moment. It wasn't like a typical rejection because I really liked this girl. Again, I don't even know if this is an actual rejection which is why I'm posting this. Do you guys think I should stop pursuing this girl?
I actually hate being "That guy" who wont stop hitting on a girl when she says that she's not interested. It just seems so douchey to me and disrespectful. But at the same time I don't know if she's actually telling the truth and that shes just not ready for a relationship right now.
I feel like if she did want to reject me without hurting my feelings she could of just lied and said that she's in a relationship right now, it would be weird for her to reject like that by kinda giving me some hope by saying she's not ready right now.
Idk what do you guys think? | Asked out girl. She said she just got out of a relationship and she would feel weird going out with someone right now. Is this an outright rejection or do you think there's still hope? |
t3_4r2t8l | relationships | My family [58M dad, 30f sister, 27f sister] are pressuring me [25M] to reconnect with my brother [29M] after I cut him out of my life years ago. | Throwaway just because I can.
My entire life, my brother has been physically abusive towards me. He's tried stabbing me, I've gone to school with so many cuts and bruises consistently that the school wanted to get police involved (when I was in high school and he was graduated), and he's overall, a huge dick.
A few years ago, around the time my mom died from cancer, I decided to cut my brother out of my life. I don't talk to him and I avoid being around him at any family gatherings. It's worked for the most part, up until last year when I was at my dad's place for my birthday dinner and my brother showed up drunk (he's an alcoholic) when he wasn't invited. I asked him to leave and next thing I know I was on the ground getting my face kicked in. Since then my brother has gone through government mandated rehab and I still haven't talked to him since. The most interaction we have is we still give each other gifts at christmas and on our birthdays (albeit through the mail).
My brother recently had a baby with someone he's been dating since he got out of rehab and my entire family is pressuring me to forgive him and reconnect with him, for the sake of my nephew. Honestly, I could care less about my brother's life and would rather continue not being involved in it, even if it means not being part of my nephew's life. Alas, it's turning my entire family against me. My sisters hate me for taking part in my one nephew's life (my eldest sister's son) but not the other's (my brother's son), and my dad is just really disappointed. I just can't get over the years of abuse and beatings that my brother had given me.
Am I wrong for not wanting anything to do with my brother's life, even now that he has a baby? | Consistently abusive brother had a baby and now my entire family is hating me for not wanting to be part of my brother's and nephew's life. |
t3_4f62fy | relationships | I [19 F] am really worried that my mom's [47 F] business is going to fail. | My mom is always on a different business adventure and they've mostly fallen through. She's written books, started courses, started home schools... but all whilst holding a full time job at the same time so it never bothered me too much when they didn't work out.
She quit her job as a teacher last year to start her new thing full time... and I just honestly don't know how to feel about it. She's started a website and is running a course on it that people pay to do. She knows absolutely nothing about coding and is just using all of WordPress' plugins... the website does not look bad by any means, but the course is very limited for the price she is charging. The videos she made are embedded from Youtube and the quizzes are all publicly accessible, so the only thing the people are paying for is a bunh of .pdfs with exercises.
I don't know if I'm just being too cynical, but it feels like she's being pretty naive about all of it, and I'm starting to really stress about finances. I'm still in college and we both have a lot relying on this working, I just don't know if she's really taken all the risks into consideration.
I don't want to demotivate her in case it is actually a success... but I also don't want her to put all her eggs in this basket and I'm just not sure how to approach this. | My mom quit her job to start a new business and I'm really worried it is going to fail. |
t3_4fz48w | Advice | Will I freak out my roommates? | Transferring to uni after taking classes at community college. Looking around my room right now, I have several fossils, knives, animal furs, some Himalayan salt crystal lamps, decorative pipes, and some random art prints. Most of these are kept on a small table/altar space in the corner. I don't really want to keep all these things in storage, and I'll be living off campus, so I'm not worried about breaking dorm rules, but I am worried about freaking out my roommates. I'm kind of a metalhead, but definitely a nice, friendly person overall. | If I have some artifacts/weapons in my room, will it freak out my housemates? Is there any way I can describe myself to potential roommates to see if they'd be fine with this? |
t3_3pmcn2 | dating_advice | Should I get to know him and ask him out? [19/F] | So, there is a guy that I am attracted to. I am currently in college, working a part time job where this new guy works. Its only been a few weeks, and I can feel his gravitational pull. I am under his charms, basically. It sounds a little silly to be completely smitten over a guy who's only talked to me a few times, when he shows no signs of romantic interests (I getting a little ahead of myself I believe. I mean, I *just* met him). He's also single. Of course, sounds like a perfect opportunity, right?
Well, except for a few things. I am somewhat depressed and a pessimist, and I don't wish to reflect that side of me on to him. He is a very happy, bubbly, charismatic, outgoing, successful, handsome guy, while also being a talented musician and a great athlete. Even if I was to approach him at some point, I would need to be more optimistic, and more outgoing like he is. I have social anxiety, self esteem issues, along with being partially autistic, not being that attractive (not terribly ugly, just average), not being in shape, having a weird personality and interests, being socially awkward from being isolated from human interaction for a long time while not having any outstanding talent. I also worry a lot an have anxiety attacks, and I wouldn't want him to see me have one. I'm not financially secure, and I like to have deep discussions in general, which may freak him out.
Should I just let this one go, since I don't deserve him? | I like a guy who's out of my league, and wondering if I would waste his time. |
t3_2tbpvr | relationships | Me [51M] with my [54F] six years, engagement ring question. | I feel pretty lousy. I proposed on Dec. 26, and it was a wonderful moment. I bought her a .72 carat diamond with a Tacori setting, but she didn't like it and said it was lost on her hand. We took it back and picked one out together, but a couple of weeks later she returned that one, too. She said she had a better deal -- use her mother's stone and get it re-set. She even picked out the setting online that we could get at a store in NY. It's half the original price. I still feel lousy about it. I bought her as much ring as I could afford, and I should be able to afford more at my age (51), but I've had a rough few years and lost almost everything. I am rebuilding, and I couldn't spend more than $6k. The new deal is $3k. But I wanted her to accept the ring I gave her, not the ring her father gave her mother. I just feel ... rejected. She's also been very critical about it, saying men and women pick rings out together, and for not knowing her style after six years, and for not just doing what she told me a couple of years ago, which was to buy her mother's ring from her brother, and she has criticized me for "winging" the proposal (even though she admitted it was beautiful).
On one hand, I understand the practicalities of what she's saying. On the other hand, wtf? She rejected the ring and the second ring. I don't feel a particular urgency or inclination to give her another. Am I just being stubborn or too emotional? | My fiance substituted her own engagement ring plan, and I'm thinking she's looking a gift horse too long in the mouth, not to mention criticizing the horse-dealing. |
t3_2hakye | Advice | Where to look for local ED support groups? | 27 years old, F. Eating disorder that is getting worse. Extremely busy, working 40+ hrs per week, plus a full time student getting ready to finish internships and graduate. Struggling with money, general work stress, religious issues, family issues, (for the next six months) long distance relationship, and just feeling sad and anxious.
Need some ideas or suggestions for finding inexpensive/free eating disorder counseling and possibly religious help.
Boyfriend informed me tonight that he deals with enough difficulty that it is depressing to come home and Skype with me when I'm stressed and unhappy. I would blame him but I know he is right; he's a first-year teacher/coach who often works 12+ hour days and has his own battles, and I don't think it's healthy for me to be that negative during the only hour I get to talk to him.
I had been contemplating telling him about how my ED was getting worse but when he said that I just couldn't. This is basically the entire story of the past five years of my life: being afraid to tell someone about my worsening issues due to feeling like I am hurting them or letting them down.
I really need both religious and ED counseling. I was raised very fundamentalist. While successful in coming out of some of it, I still believe in God, but cannot seem to find a non-fearful, healthy way to relate to organized religion. I know that this and other childhood issues are playing a big part in my ED, but I never really can seem to pinpoint how it works. Due to this reason, I do not particularly feel I can confide in my family members, who remain in this type of thinking. | L: How does one find local support for ED that is either free or low-cost? |
t3_1t4ymp | relationships | [22/F] just found out that boyfriend [23/m] signed up to adult friend finder :( | My bf and I have been together for about 2 years and are living together (for about 6-7 months). He's a musician and plays shows all weekend usually at bars until about 4am and I kind of got sick of seeing girls hit on him so I stopped attending them to benefit our relationship so I wouldnt get so jealous.
These past couple of months have been hard as he has stopped paying attention to me sexually (I pretty much have to spend an hour coaxing him once a week and even then its 60% chance he'll just pretend to be doing something else) and when we go out he openly flirts with, say for one example a young, pretty musician [18/f] infront of me and when I speak about it to him he denies it.
Then today, I was browsing his email (we are open with our accounts for emails etc) so I could use his League of Legends account since mine was temporarily banned and I had forgotten his username and password, only to find 6 or 7 emails from adult friend finder.
I laughed it off since I thought that he would have made this wayyyy before we got together. But then I noticed he only got the emails recently so I looked him up and for sure there he was.
He had only made the account 2 and a half months ago.
I have no idea what to do. He comes home in a couple of hours and I don't know whether or not to ask him about it. Surely a relationship is built on trust?
:'( | bf and i have stopped having sex, found him on adult friend finder and i am confused on what i should do. |
t3_2x4big | relationships | Me [23 M] with [24 F] out on a first date, didn't try to kiss her even though we'd already had sex. | I met a friend of a friend at a small social gathering and she's unbelievably cute and we talk for ages. The gathering is at the apartment of my friend and this girl.
Eventually my friend tells me that this girl is into me and eventually after everyone else leaves, we end up having sex. We weren't drunk, but we'd been drinking so it wasn't too awkward to get to that point. We wake up in the morning, chat a bit more and I eventually go home.
I then asked her out, and we went out (restaurant and poetry reading, which is something neither of us had done and it turned out to be pretty great, totally recommend it).
Then afterwards she dropped me off home (she drove there and I don't have a car), I asked if she wanted to come in and she said that she had work early tomorrow (6) and it was quite late (11ish).
At this point I have a strong feeling that I should've kissed her. But I didn't. We just hugged and said goodbye. I think it's because I was really nervous, even though we'd already had sex, but now I don't want it to seem like I'm not interested and I'm overthinking it a lot. I'm also totally paranoid that she didn't have a good time even though she said she did (I'm aware that that makes no sense). | Had sex with girl after we met, went out on a date, didn't kiss her. Should I have kissed her? |
t3_gddrk | AskReddit | I need some help on how to deal with bullies Reddit... | I am 14 and in my art class there are some bullies. There are 2 guys who are "popular people" and were told to sit at my table on Thursday because their table did not have any fruit to draw(we were doing still life's). They were being really annoying and obnoxious by making fun of my music(instrumental) by saying its classical as well as bothering my friends. We told them several things back and after class I told them if they could stay away from our table. Today they have come back and started to pick on the guy who sits next to me. I have tried to tell them to go away but they aren't listening to me and just diss me. They stopped when half the class was done but I am afraid that they will come back tomorrow and I don't want to just give them the glare. What can I do to help my friend? | 2 guys are bulling a friend, suggestions? |
t3_ujq93 | AskReddit | What is your worst fear that turned out to be something ridiculously stupid? I'll start. | My parents told me there was a mouse in the house. I laid my laptop on my bed and heard a squeaking sound. I flipped the fuck out, and put on a bunch of mouse hunting gear. While I was sifting through my bed sheets I heard it again and screamed. I ran to my parents' room and woke them up so they'd help me. We went through everything in my room but there was nothing. Just as they were about to leave I heard the noise again, and I shrieked. My mother noticed the sound was coming from my closed laptop. I immediately knew what it was. I apologized to my parents for waking them up and rushed them out of my room. Thank God they went right back to their room so I could close my Redtube tab. | I thought there was a mouse in my room, and it was only a porn tab I left on my computer. |
t3_219wf6 | tifu | TIFU by wake-boarding for the first time. | So the day started out quite chilled, went to the river for the weekend. One of my friends is dating this rich chick and they own the place where we stayed. So we start wake-boarding, I am the only one of my friends that actually get it right. So I get comfortable riding, maybe a little too comfortable. I get confidence to try to jump the wake. All I remember is hitting the wave, going about 6ft in the air, fuck knows which direction I was heading, I hit the water and feel my knee move out of place and back in. Now I am on crutches for a couple weeks, and I have to catch like 100 insects for a project. | Went wake-boarding, got cocky, fucked up my knee and i have to catch a shit load of insects. |
t3_4150ct | tifu | TIFU by ignoring a calendar alert on my phone. | This happened last night.
I went out to a concert with some friends and ran into a guy there who I consider a "friend with benefits". We hung out all evening and decided to go back to my house to fool around. At one point during the evening I remember my phone alerting me but I put it aside without checking and got back down to business. We made with the sexy time, [use your imagination here], it was great. I went to take a shower and noticed my stomach feeling kind of crappy, but I wrote it off as hunger pangs and went back into the bedroom. My friend was still feeling frisky, and decided he wanted to go down on me. I'm not too argumentative when it comes to someone wanting to give my lady parts a good tonguing, so I laid back and enjoyed myself for a while. He kept talking about how wet I was and how hot it was, how good I tasted, etc. so I didn't really think anything of it. I came ridiculously hard, body shaking, juices flowing, all that jazz, while he was still going down on me. He pulled his face up and came in to kiss me, that's when I realized his mouth was covered in blood. Not just that, but, and ladies will know what I'm talking about, he had a clot on his chin. I almost puked, I don't even want to know what was going through his head at the time. My alarm earlier was to tell me it was time to start my period, and I ignored it, getting it all over this poor man's face. He was, fortunately, very kind about it. We took a shower together, cleaned each other off, I gave him a toothbrush and some mouthwash, and he was on his merry way. | My phone's alarm went off while I was having sex with someone, I ignored it, started my period all over his face while he was going down on me because the alert was telling me it's time for shark week. |
t3_4jp5sy | relationship_advice | When a "best friend" tells you this.. | Age 16 nelly girl
Age 17 brit girl
I'm 18 guy
So yesterday. I'm sitting in church.. Happily chatting it up waiting for service to start. I suddenly get a flood of kik messages. It's from a girl (lets call her nelly) who I've known for 5 years and have grown very close to. It's a long distance relationship, but we ARE NOT dating. She has a boyfriend and I'm happily single. The text reads, "it's me or her". Her is referring to another girl (call her Brit) I'm close with but also long distance. I introduced nelly to brit and they absolutely hate each other. Problems being nelly is not very open sexually and brit is. Also disagree politically and have fought over politics before. Nelly is upset at brit for objectifying people. Personally I don't mind sexual comments. Its life and its natural. Basically nelly is trying to protect me in a way. So nelly is making me choose between them. I read this trying not to crack up.. I thought she was joking at first. Nelly explains she cannot accept me if I keep brit as a friend. She threatens me if I don't choose her she'll never talk to me again. I reply to her.. "If you have a problem with her, then its between her and you not me and you. I'm not choosing" she simply says goodbye and blocks me on every social media platform known to man. My question is.. Did I do the right thing? How would you respond? If she apologizes should I accept and be friends again? I know this is confusing in ways so feel free to ask away. Thanks reddit community! | 5 year best friend suddenly tells me to stop being friends another girl because she hates her. I say no and she blocks me. Wwyd? Did I do the right thing? |
t3_1quamj | relationships | I (f23) have been happily dating my SO (22M) for nearly 3 years... But I keep having dreams where I have sex with other men... Wtf! | We have a very good, strong relationship and love each other very much. We rarely fight, we laugh and cry together, just very in love.
But seriously, multiple times a week I have dreams about having sex with other men. Sometimes it's a celebrity, someone I don't know, or a friend (GROSS). Why does this keep happening? I feel so guilty when I wake up because I love having sex with my SO and I want to be with him, I don't want to be single. So why do I keep having these dreams? It's really starting to bring me down and make me feel like a bad gf, but it's not like I have control over it! What do I do? I don't usually tell him because I don't want to make him worried or jealous. Please help. | Very happy with SO of 3 years, but frequent sex dreams of other men is really starting to bring me down |
t3_2vf791 | relationships | I [16 M] have been talking to this girl [16 F] online and don't really know how to handle it. | UPDATE HERE:
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So I'm 16, and I was on an anonymous app where basically anyone from your nearby area can post something and no names are given. It's pretty fun. Anyway, a girl out up 'PM me boys', which, as a 16 year old guy, is not an opportunity you're going to pass up. Everything is still anonymous, but we got taking. My little mind was just thinking about sex, and when she told me she was also 16 and to add her on Snapchat, I done just that.
It's been a couple of days since I added her and no nudes or anything have been sent, apart from 1 picture of her cleveage to prove she was in fact a girl and not a 40 year old man. The thing is, I really enjoy talking to this girl for some reason. We do talk about sex and stuff, but we usually talk about way more than that. We've seen all the same movies, and we just have a good laugh. She's obviously attractive, since she was telling me how she gets into bars by flirting with the doormen even though she's underage. She's obviously out of my league. If it was real life, I wouldn't stand a chance.
She is also so open about sex. She has a few guys who she considers 'friends with benefits'. I, on the other hand, am a virgin. Hell, I've never even kissed a girl. I know deep down talking to some stranger on the Internet is probably wrong on a few levels, but it just feels right when I talk to her. It's so weird. Talking to a stranger online goes against every instinct I've had drilled into me in school, but I know she stays at the other end of my city, so it's not as if it couldn't go anywhere, but it's just so odd. I feel like it makes me seem really desperate if I tell people I met a girl online, like I think people would think I was using Tinder or something, which would be weird at my age. I don't know whether to keep talking to her or quit while I'm ahead. | Talking to a girl online, like talking to her but it just doesn't feel right doing this online. |
t3_19zctc | tifu | TIFU by trying to be a good pet owner | A little over a month ago we adopted a cat from the shelter who had previously had ear mites. They were cleared up with revolution, and the vet said to clean out we ears and the gross bits inside with q tips to make sure they weren't coming back.
So here I am in my bathroom trying to clean out my cat's ears (which is hard enough) then she does the violent-cat-head-shake.
BAM ear mites and/or random brown crust and shit in my eye.
I have a midterm today. Rushed to the doctor by my house. Doctor: "that's the worst story I've heard all day"
He put some yellow shit in my eye and told me I'd be okay and have me a prescription in case it discharges....great. | Cleaned cat's ears and ended up with mites in my goddamn eye and ended up as the worst story the doctor had all day. |
t3_iv17m | AskReddit | If I wanted to poison and kill someone, what common household items would I buy to do so? | Hey Reddit, I'm doing research for a horror film and there's a scene where the protagonist poisons someone by putting something into their drink. I didn't wanna go the cliche route and just have a bottle with skull and crossbones on it, or big fat letters that read **RAT POISON**.
But if there are any pharmacists/chemists out there, what over the counter medicine/supplies would one realistically buy to be certainly fatal? And also, what would the correct reaction to said poison be (i.e. foaming at the mouth, asphyxiation, vomit, etc.).
I'm going for as much realism as possible. Thanks! | What are the most realistic items to buy to poison someone by putting it in their drink? |
t3_4jn0ak | relationships | Should I (19m) tell the girl (18f) that ive been dating that shes the first person ive ever dated. | So ive never really dated anyone before probably because i am very shy and self conscious about myself. Well i downloaded tinder a while ago and ive gotten a few matches. Ive only met one girl from it though and weve gone on 2 dates. These are the only two dates ive ever been on. Im taking her to go see the new captain america movie tonight. Ive only kissed her once but i feel like we should have done it more on the second date. Obviously shes still talking to me so i cant be screwing up too bad but should i tell her this or should i just keep quiet. I want to make out with her but i feel like i will suck at it. | Should i tell the girl ive been dating that shes the first person ive ever dated/kissed. |
t3_25u30z | relationships | Me [20 GN] with my long distance boyfriend [28 M] 2 years, I'm really anxious | GN stands for gender neutral, I want privacy.
My boyfriend has been socialising for the majority of today with his roommates. They're all at home and it's cool, he's been texting me on and off during it all.
Then he tells me that he's done and he's going back to his room where we can talk now, via internet of course. But he's not answering.
It's been almost an hour since that last message and I feel scared that something happened. All the messages I send to him say "seen", but nothing. I feel really uncomfortable. Help me not assume he's dead ugh. | I'm irrationally scared that my boyfriend died or something because I have an anxiety disorder |
t3_3rifrt | relationships | My (24M) boyfriend (28M) doesn't take care of important things like his insurance | Me (24M) and my boyfriend (28M) have been together for almost 3 years, living together for almost 2 years. As a couple, we function well most of the time. Not many fights and we are very happy when we spend time together. We share a lot of interests and get along well on a person-to-person basis.
However, the fights we do have always start with me finally losing my cool over him not 'taking care of business'. Almost always, I have to constantly bug and nag him to take care of things that, in my opinion, should not be put on hold. He has school loans that he still hasn't set up payment plans for. He let his health insurance expire without renewing it, despite constant reminders from me. After letting his insurance expire, he stopped taking his anti-depressants cold turkey, which is never a good plan. He still isn't on the lease for our apartment, despite him saying that he wants to be on it. I am now begging him to get on the lease. He didn't file his taxes last year until I sat down and did them for him. All of these things are BIG deals and are things that I should not have to do for him.
I am afraid to end our relationship because I do love him and I love him as a person despite his flaws, but I can't get over his neglect of important issues. We have MASSIVE arguments about it and I feel like I'm being a naggy asshole, but his choice to ignore this stuff affects me and our life together. Does anybody have any advice on how to handle this? Should I just call it quits? I'm at a complete loss at where to go from here.
If ya need any more clarification, feel free to ask. | Boyfriend can't pull his shit together and take care of his adult responsibilities. Do I leave? Or is there a better way to get him to take care of things? |
t3_1o08mt | jobs | Do I Quit University for a Good Job? | When I graduated high school, I took a job in retail and ended up working in retail management for 10 years. I then got married to a great and intelligent man who always pushed and supported me. With his advice, I ended up enrolling at a college where I got a 3 year associate's degree.
I graduated this past spring with honors and felt conflicted whether I should be looking for a full time job or if I should continue with my education. I decided to apply to university, not really giving my major much thought but just for the sake of applying. Well I got into both programs I applied to and choose to major in psychology (will take 3 years to complete) and was given full bursaries for my tuition.
Although I got into one of the best schools in my country, I have not been happy. I knew it would be hard work, but I wasn't expecting school to take up all my free time and my weekends just for me to stay on top of the subjects. I dropped one class, hoping it would take some pressure off but I'm still studying like a dog and barely keeping my head above water.
Since I am now in my 30s, I wasn't planning on using my degree as a profession. It was more for me to get some extra education and expand my mind. My plan is to start a family in the next 3 years and be a stay at home mother.
Today, I was offered a very good job in marketing that has potential for growth and comes with health benefits. Since I was getting small amount of student loans and bursaries, this job would help us start saving for our future.
My question is, what is worth more? Since I have no plans on using my degree professionally, am I wasting 3 years in school when I could be saving for a car, home, baby? Or will a university degree give me something that I can't put a dollar amount on and is worth the extra time and effort that was put into it?
Any advice is appreciated. I feel so overwhelmed in making this decision, it's making me ill. | If my plan is to be a stay at home mother in 3 years, is it better to get a job and save some money or go to university and get a degree. |
t3_1i6a4n | relationships | I (19M) am not sure if I missed my chance with her (19F) or not. | I met this girl at the LCMS NYG last week. We were both volunteers and spent quite a bit of time together. Towards the end of the week, I started to get to know her and realized that I really like her. On the last day as everyone was leaving, we talked and I got the impression that she was interested in me. I would have asked her out, but she lives in Texas and I live in Missouri and I have never been in a long distance relationship before. She did tell me that she visits southern Missouri sometimes. I really like this girl and I am just wondering if I missed my chance or not. | Met this girl last week wondering if I missed my chance with her or not. |
t3_1epya3 | relationships | How do you deal with women always hitting on your boyfriend? I'm (F23) at my wits end. | We're both (F23)(M23). Five month relationship.
I know this is the pitfall of dating a good-looking man but hear me out.
I cannot stand when women hit on my boyfriend. It makes me crazy. My boyfriend doesn't do anything to encourage it but he also doesn't do anything to stop it either. He remains neutral.
When girls used to flirt with my previous boyfriends, I didn't care. But with him it's different. I love him and I could see myself spending my life with him so naturally I feel very protective of him.
My boyfriend doesn't know this is bothering me because I haven't said anything to him. I'm afraid he'll think I'm possessive.
What's a good way to handle other women who are clearly gunning for your man? Thank you. <3 | I'm at my wits end with these girls flirting with my boyfriend. How do I handle it? |
t3_259hqg | relationships | Suggestions for me (30M) to explain that I live with my parents | During the first or second date, the inevitable question of "where do you live" comes up. I want my relationships to be based on honesty and open communication. It doesn't seem to matter how well we click, as soon as I say "I live at home with my parents", the conversation pretty much stops and all attraction is lost. I've tried "my parents live with me", it doesn't matter. I'm not a 30 year old man child. I've got a great career that pays me to the third highest tax bracket. So, I let my parents retire from their blue collar jobs and pay for everything. This also means I can't afford two mortgages; maybe 5 years later I could.
Can anyone chime in on how I could better present myself? Should I just dodge this question? | taking care of my parents makes me unattractive. How can I better spin it? |
t3_1bk8ei | relationships | [26m] Never been in a relationship. I can't break this cycle of awkwardness, loneliness, no confidence. | I am a 26 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend. Still a virgin, not even a first kiss. I'm relatively normal, in good shape, a little short, but not unattractive.
I have a great job, and I love it. I have hobbies I enjoy, but they are not social things. Not many friends, but I try to get out when I can, usually alone. Coffee shops, bookstores, parks. But when I get home at the end of the day, its just this crushing loneliness.
I've tried OKCupid and Match.com for months, with no results. I try going out to local events, but I just can't talk to women. With no success in relationships in my entire life, my confidence is nil. I can fake it for a bit, but lately its just such a big thing lately that its starting to become harder and harder to act confident. Now I'm just struggling to act normal.
I know I'm supposed to live life happy alone, and that a relationship should enhance my life, not define it. And I know that all of it is about positive thoughts, which I am lacking. But I can't force them anymore. I'm just lonely, and I constantly feel like I'm inadequate and something is wrong with me, and those just build upon each other and actually just keep me from finding someone.
I do not know what to do. | Can't get into a relationship because I'm not confident. Past the point that I can even fake confidence anymore, just so lonely. |
t3_tntvy | AskReddit | Four time college dropout, unemployed, in debt, & 22 years old. I need to stop this. | Shamefully, I might add. I always used to be "that guy" on my soap box preaching about furthering your education and because my parents never did. Grew up around seemingly a bunch of uneducated idiots, I was ashamed of my mother and how dumb she was about everything (except the street life, perhaps). Really inspired me to never get into drugs or hang out with lowlifes. Now, while lots of my friends I graduated with back in highschool 2008, finally graduated college, and I've completely a mere 28 credits and five colleges later, subsequently attending less prestigious institutions each time and changing my major several times, I feel at my worst.
You see, every time something goes wrong in my life, I take an emotional tumble. Sometimes I can work through it, bust most times I need to stop everything, quit my job, drop out of school, then seclude myself in my own pity and regret. It's a vicious cycle and if I don't get ahold of it soon, I will never make it anywhere. This is something that needs to be dealt with before I can finish my education.
The real question I have is that I really want to know what my chances are if I actually can pull my shit together and finish college. I'm interested in law, but it seems that obtaining a degree in law is useless unless it's from a decent school. What exactly are my chances of transferring to a good college after I finish my associates? I have a ton of W's and WF's on my transcript, I've used up almost all my financial aid, but I've also paid a lot of it off, and I'm not in an inescapable amount of debt. It's feasible I could pay off all of my debt in short time with a decent job. For the record, I live in CA. My current GPA is about a 3.8, when I'm actually attending school my work ethic is pretty solid. I'm not a genius, I either give it my all or I don't give any. I'm set on finishing my education, hopefully sooner than later. Big thanks to anybody who takes the time to read this. | Drops out of college/work when things go wrong, desperately wants to finish education (law), lots of W's/WF's on transcript, not too much debt. Wants degree from *decent* college, any chance? |
t3_2boam5 | relationships | I [f20] made up lies to my conservative mom [f52] that I won't have sex again until marriage. | [Here] is the background to my dilemma.
My parents have been extremely paranoid about where I am and who I'm with ever since finding out that I'm not a virgin. It's mostly my mom, who will send me hurtful texts if I don't respond to her right away. Sometimes she'll take my dad's phone and text me impersonating him with even more hurtful texts. Tonight, they found out that I was at a guy's house (who is my boyfriend, but they don't know that) and my mom blew up.
I didn't know how else to calm my mom because she was getting more and more upset about me being at a guy's place and how I crushed them with the I'm-not-a-virgin news a few months ago. I didn't know what to do but I knew the truth that I'm still having sex would hurt her. Even if I told her maturely that I was having safe sex with a man I loved, there was no way our conversation could've ended well due to her conservative upbringing.
In the spur of the moment, I lied to her that the reason I wanted to buy a nice ring a few months ago was because it would be my promise ring not to have sex until marriage. And that I got the idea from that guy (my boyfriend) who wears a promise ring as well. My mom's face brightened up and the rest of the conversation went very smoothly. She was delighted to hear this and told me her trust in me grew tenfold.
I feel terrible- I don't want to lie to my mom. I felt I had to or else she would've continued being extremely controlling of my social life. But what would my other choice be? Any advice? | Lied to my conservative mom that I wanted a promise ring to not have premarital sex even though I have sex with my boyfriend all the time. I already hurt her really badly once when she found out that I wasn't a virgin. She's very happy with the idea of the promise ring and I feel awful. |
t3_f9x1l | AskReddit | Tell me about your past Reddit. I want to get to know you guys better :D | I'm just laying here, wondering about the nature of happiness. It's strange, you know? Extremely vivid memories can be capsulated in single word summarys: Happy, sad, weird, terrifying, shameful.
For example, I can remember my grade 6 and 7 years as being some of the most joyously care-free and thrilling years of my life. Those two years were nothing special in hindsight. The bulk of the happy memories consist of me and a school friend riding our bikes to 7-11 everyday in the summer and maybe, renting a game or something if we felt like it. Kind of mundane really, now that I think about it. But something special lives in the kernel of that memory, something that gives it a certain glow.
On the other hand, the passing of a close family member is the most darkly tinted memory I own.
So, I'm putting the question out there to you guys. What are some of the most happy, sad, thrilling, terrifying or just generally strong memories you own? I want to know :) | Describe for me, a distinct memory you own. Be it happy, sad, scary, or whatever. I want to get to know you guys better :D |
t3_2rghht | relationships | I [21/F] have some confusing feelings(?) for my boyfriend's [23/M] best friend [20-something/M]. | Throwaway because my boyfriend frequents Reddit.
My boyfriend, whom I'll call "Ty" [23/M] and I [21/F] have been happily dating for two years. We've had some problems with communication in the past, but for the most part, our relationship is healthy and loving and I am grateful to have him every single day. We are going to be moving into our own place in the near future.
The only trouble is that, lately, I seem to find myself thinking about his best friend, whom I'll call "Callum". I won't sugarcoat it - I find him attractive - but I don't believe my feelings toward him are necessarily sexual. He has a girlfriend whom he dotes on - much like Ty treats me. I have absolutely no desire to get into a relationship with Callum. He treats me with warmth, courtesy and friendliness, but there is nothing beyond that. We don't even talk all that much, to be honest.
That said, the fact that Ty and I will be moving in together becomes relevant here. Whenever I picture the future with Ty, I find myself thinking about having his friends over - especially Callum. I love the idea of taking care of Ty... but also taking care of Callum. Showing Callum my accomplishments, doing activities with the both of them there, cooking food for the both of them, having him over to game with Ty... etc. Honestly, I can't tell if it's a crush or if I'm just excited to dote on Ty and his friends when I'm hosting them at our new place, but it's making me worried. So saying, I would love to squish these feelings before Ty and I officially move in together, or they develop into something more.
Callum and Ty have been friends since grade school, and I would describe their relationship akin to being brothers. They have been there for each other whenever things to wrong, and they see each other almost every weekend. Heck, they've even worked the same job with each other. I fear that telling Ty would absolutely crush him.
What can I do to make this thing go away?
____ | I can picture myself doting on my boyfriend "Ty"'s best friend "Callum" when Ty and I move in together, and I'm afraid it's a crush. I want something to make it go away before it develops into something more. |
t3_nv8wj | AskReddit | Found on my brother's old iPhone. Not sure if it's any of my business. | Hey reddit,
After my brother got the new iphone, I inherited his old one. When I first opened it up, I saw a line in a text saying "jerking it." Being a little curious, I kept on reading and saw it was a text from one of my brother's friends from the guys bachelor party. The text said:
Yeah.. She realized I didn't do anything... don't tell Bill but me and the hot chick didn't do anything either.... She started jerking me and I then I told her to stop... Felt stupid... Lol.... Karma man.... Fuckin karma... I was kicking myself for not soon anything at first, but then now I'm glad cause I could honestly tell her I didn't fuck around.
My brother responded with: "You're all good. Delete this text."
I know this is none of my business, but I am really bothered by this. I have his name and his fiance's name (the wedding is on Jan. 14). Should I do anything reddit or just ignore it? | Found out brother's friend lied about messing around with another girl during his bachelor party. |
t3_2ims1q | relationship_advice | My girlfriend (18 f) of 2 years is upset I (19 m) left my fraternity. Need advice. | My girlfriend is fairly upset I left this fraternity. She just joined a sorority and I had just joined the fraternity.
I pledged to this fraternity mainly because of her and felt it would help the relationship (mistake #1?), but I also felt it would be a good experience. Well, I have been stressed since joining due to pledgeship and was just hating it. It was not too hard but my heart was not in it at all and I felt bad.
I communicated this to my girlfriend and she seemed okay with how I felt. That whatever choice I made she would be supportive. Well, today I finally decided to leave and make a decision for me for once. She was very upset that I would leave it. She wouldn't even kiss me before I left for the gym and almost gave me the silent treatment.
Then later in the night we try talking. She starts crying and saying how now it will affect her. How she will be dating "the pledge that quit". How she will feel obligated to go to every event in fear the sisters will think I'm keeping her from something. How shes questioning the sorority now and does not want to date a bum who does not go out and do stuff. That last part made me angry, and I just feel like maybe it was not for me.
She says I'm being insensitive to how she feels but its just not how I feel. I do not know how to respond to her telling me I'll regret it and all of the stuff above. She rolled her eyes at everything I said. She said she felt protected with me in a fraternity and now she does not. I honestly started feeling bad, but I don't know how to feel. I can still rejoin the fraternity right now and it crossed my mind because of what she was saying. But I just do not know...
Any outside view or opinion would be great. Did I mess up? Is she going a little far? How can this be fixed? | Girlfriend cried and was angry I left a fraternity. Unsure of what to do... |
t3_1pi0oj | relationships | Me [19 F] with my old 'friend' [21 M]- Should I email him? | So, I have this friend that I used to talk to all the time and we had a long distance thing going on. I'm from Minnesota and he's from South Carolina. We met online. We were really good friends, not wanting to date because I had a boyfriend at the time and because of the distance. But then we started to like each other and gradually became a thing when I broke up with my boyfriend. Skip ahead like a year and we had a few issues in the year and stopped talking at once but then we got back to talking. Still had issues for a few months before we all together stopped talking maybe 9 to 12 months ago because of a huge fight. Deleted his number and vice versa, I thought he hated me and I still wished I had him.
Skip ahead to two months ago, I just started college in Iowa and he was aware of that. Somehow he got my number and messaged me but it wasn't from his phone. He wished me good luck and asked how things were going. But then he stopped and I haven't heard from him since. I recently just got his email again and I'm considering emailing him. But I don't know if I should.
Any advice or words of wisdom or pretty much anything would be nice. Even if it is just a "You're a bitch, don't email him." Thank you very much! | After becoming a thing, we got into a fight a stopped talking. He messaged me being friendly. I have his email. Do I email him? |
t3_2chhdo | relationships | Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 8 months, not sure where to go from here. | Hey there. Could use some help.
I am very much in love with my boyfriend. He is my sound board, my other half, the Han Solo to my Leia. He is my best friend.
We don't really fight. When we do it's something on the small side (compared to what I read on here)! We always clear things up, we have serious talks whenever they are necessary. He's perfect. The little things he has done for me are worthy of something like Nicholas Sparks, except it's real and it's even better.
The issue: he graduates in May and logic tells us it will end then. We are both career and school driven people. We know that we are young, and know how the real world works. We don't just view our relationship as everything wonderful that it is, we view it as an investment in another person. I do especially, given how much he knows about me that I can't even admit to myself some days.
Something that keeps coming up is that we have two options in front of us.
Option 1) We stay together and make the best of things until May, knowing that things will end. Knowing that when May hits I will be incredibly broken, because I will have had even more time to invest in him. Knowing that we will have progressed even further in our relationship, but it will be cut off.
or
Option 2) We break up now. We cut it off before we can invest too much, because we know it will end soon anyway.
Either I spend more time in love with him, and am even more hurt later OR we stop it now and am hurt now, but not as much as I would be months later.
I can't speak for him, but I think you could change the above paragraph to reflect "us" and "we" rather then "I".
Any suggestions?
P.S: first love for both of us. I know this adds to the feeling of naivete and youth in this post, but it may be relevant. Before you start raging, please note that I would consider us a very mature couple. | In May, he graduates. We don't know whether we should try to enjoy the time we have until then, or break up now and avoid the heartache later. |
t3_3ut2v1 | tifu | TIFU by watching a bird in a school. | So, 22 yo M bird watcher here living in Brisbane, Australia. I had spent the morning bird watching just outside of town, not working so I just wanted to do something. Anywho was driving back through the city when I noticed a bird of prey called a Australian Hobby. Not something you expect to see in the city so I pulled the car over on a main road and started observing through my binoculars it in a quite low branch over a field.
Now unfortunately this field happened to be occupied by a whole bunch of primary school children (6-12 yo) on morning break. I was too interested in the bird to really notice that overlooking a field of young children with binoculars was very very suspicious. Not to mention I was on the side of a four lane road.
After about thirty seconds sirens went off right behind em which scared away the bird and as it was at that exact moment I realised I had fucked up. Two coppers jumped quite aggressively out of their car and start yelling what the hell I'm doing and I just sort of squeaked out "birdwatching".
Seriously I was shitting myself and it was kind of clear that they didn't believe me. It also didn't help that I didn't bring along my bird book so I couldn't show them that as some evidence.
So I just decided to start naming all the parrots of Australia by there common and scientific name in a vain hope that they would believe me, and thank Christ one of the coppers went on Wikipedia on their smartphone after about 15 seconds of me doing this and realised I knew what I was talking about. So after a stern warning and some advice on common sense they let me go.
Moral of the story, binoculars + children = bad and always remember your bird book. | I was watching a bird on a low hanging branch through my binoculars with school children playing right below and some police saw me. |
t3_503c47 | relationships | I am a [28 M] with my girlfriend[21F] of 2 years, taking a "break"/Breakup | Things have been up and down for the past 6 months, she allegedly cheated on me one drunken night(ex boyfriend - who hates me and wants her back - messaged me on facebook saying he saw her fucking a guy at a party I didnt go to, ex boyfriend beat the shit out of said kid, said kid called the cops, but she was drunk swears nothing happened other than a drunken fight), and now I cant get that thought out of my head. It hurts the relationship that I cant stop thinking about it - I get really protective and jealous. I think today we finally broke it off for good. She said she wants a "break" but I know that means nothing. I will try it for a few days to see how it goes. She still occasionally answers my calls and texts and I know she still cares. During the 2 years I seem to have lost a lot my friends and not sure where to go from here. I really want to be with her but we seem to fight a lot about small things. She seems to have a lot of anger lately and will kick me out of her parents house if we have any sort of disagreement. But then she will call me the next day and apologize and want to work things out(this has happened 10 times or more). This time it seems more for real and I am really lost. I do love her and I do want things to work but it all might be way too complicated at this point. | I dated this girl for a 2 years, no real issues until she maybe cheated, now 6 months later she wants a break. How do I know if shes for real done? |
t3_2knoyx | relationships | Am I [24f] being unreasonable for getting mad at my partner [25m] for changing the kitchen around? | So my partner and I are living together. The other day I get home from work, to find he had changed the layout of the kitchen around. I'm not sure if it's because of the way he arranged things, or that I feel some ownership over the kitchen, seeing as I am the person who tends to cook and clean the most.
So next to the oven - Where the pots and pans would go, now has pasta, sauce, stock and herbs. With electrical goods Ie the slow cooker, toaster and air fryer crammed in the bottom shelf.
The 'chopping board' cupboard (a tall thin cupboard under the main section of the bench/breakfast bar) where o kept chopping board and the toaster stored - now has snacks and cereal crammed in to it.
All the pots and pans are now crammed in to the cupboard where containers, Tupperware and baking trays/dishes are.
Is this a non-issue? Or am I being completely unreasonable?
I got very upset and am still sort of pissed off about the whole thing. | boyfriend rearranged kitchen. I got mad. Not sure if my feelings are wrong here? |
t3_1q7kqt | relationship_advice | Need an advice about my roommate. | So, I'm a 23 years old man and she's 25, we started living together because I didn't have enough money to pay my rent (but she don't know that), the only thing she knows was that I needed a place to stay.
So she invites me here.
For our story together, it's hard to tell, I met her on internet in 2009, we shared a lot together but we never had the chance to met each other we went to the point that we say each other the love we shared but as it was difficult to met she get a boyfriend and I move on with my life. Last year when my mom was dying and when she died, she was there for me like none of my friends did, she's one of the best people I've met.
Currently I was flirting with another girl but when I get there ... I don't know ... | I live with a girl (we started living in the same place today), tonight, her boyfriend is here and I can hear them laugh and talk, I know she's having a good time but it hurts me. I think I'm jealous but I should not. I don't know what to do. We have an history together but we did not date together but it's the past, we stayed a lot of month without talking together. I don't think there will be a good result for this so if you can help me, please. |
t3_34v3ij | offmychest | It ruins my chances, but was there ever a chance anyway? No. | In a way, I'm kind of glad that things happened the way they did. If you can't even reject me to my face, I'm glad people are gossiping about things having to do with you at work. I tried to keep it between you and me and you had to go tell a Nosy Nancy our business so now she's been spreading shit all over the building. So much for professionalism.
Haha, it's hilarious, people know there's something going on between you and me and they think you called off today because of what happened on Friday.
Maybe that's what you get if you can't even be decent enough to reject me to my face. There's always two sides to a story. | I don't feel sorry that I embarrassed this guy at work that he called off today. I was open and honest with him and told him I'd like to keep things private, but because he told one of the biggest gossip queens there stuff I said that wasn't her business, I kinda don't feel bad that he's too scared/embarrassed to show back up to work on Monday because of what people say. |
t3_2facz6 | relationships | Bestfriends ex girlfriend (23) asked me (23) out. What should I do? (My thought process in text) | She asked *me* out on a casual date and I agreed. I didn't agree for the sake of pursuing a romantic relationship, but as a friend I want to make sure she's doing alright. However, from what I gathered from the very brief exchange, I think she's interested in a relationship.
I've known both of them for about 3 years (they were together from then-present) and would much rather keep them as the good friends they are. Should I tell my friend that I'm doing this just to set things straight, or keep it on the down low? I know he's seeing another girl, but am still not sure if he's totally over it yet. I don't want a misunderstanding between us because as a friend I truly care for both of them. I agreed to the 'date' hoping to just catch up and if she shows romantic interest, I'll just throw out hints that I couldn't ever date a best friends ex and would much rather remain good friends.
Is this reasonable or am I just thinking too much? | best friends ex girlfriend asked me out. Not sure what to do next. |
t3_4elsa0 | relationships | Am I [23F] my boyfriend's [29M] rebound? | So basically I've been seeing my BF unofficially since October, officially since January. Things have been great. We have fun together, we have common interests, we can sit in silence in complete comfort. He's met my family, and his family knows about me (they don't live in the same state), we know each other's friends. I feel myself falling for him, and I'm pretty sure he's feeling the same. However, I've been kinda worrying about possibly being a rebound. His ex and him were together about 5 years. They didn't live in the same state the past 2-3, and I'm not sure they were actually together for that time either, more like kinda broken up/kinda not.
He's been very honest with me about her. They were definitely broken up when we got together for at least 6 months. However, during the beginning of our relationship she would still try and contact him. I know that she's still paying him back a loan, and I don't have a problem with them being in occasional contact, I am on cordial terms with my past ex too. I believe him when he tells me that there is nothing romantic between them anymore, that I make him much happier, and that I have nothing to worry about.
However, I'm worried about being his next relationship out of such a long term one. I've heard nothing but bad things about "rebound" relationships, and even if he doesn't view me as a rebound, that I am. What are some warning signs I should look for? Am I bound to be heartbroken? | Boyfriend got out of long-term relationship a few months before me and even though we're getting along great I'm scared I might be a rebound. |
t3_1nz1ln | relationships | Aisha 26F getting married. Should my future spouse 25M do more wedding planning or does it all lay on me? | Salaamalaeikum. I'm getting married woot. His name is FakeNameGoesHere. I would post this in /r/Islam but this subreddit deals with relationship issues? Oh we've been together one year and the celebration is in February.
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He is busy looking for a new job after a move but he drives. I do not drive and am finishing my MPH. He said he feels stressed and would rather not do any wedding planning. I'm unsure how much I can take on though as I'm busy with schoolwork. Also he is able to get to places 4-times faster than myself since I do not drive. It also isn't proper for me to travel alone such distances beyond school work and my family's homes without a male relative or future spouse as we are married in the faith already.
If I complaints I am worried he will over stress himself or shove off the work elsewhere. The way things strand we just need a hall and a catering company plus cake company. I can do decorations, invitations, and other small stuff at home in my free time. I would like him to go with me to the hall and try the food with me. I also want him to also look online for idea. Is this too much? How much do men usually do?
I also want more information on the process and expectations. We live in Canada. | Muslim-Canadian wife to be unsure how to ask husband to be for help. Does not know if it is her place or if she will only hurt him. Would like advice and ideas. Question is how can I get FakeNameGoesHere to help me with planning without hurting him? |
t3_276ekg | tifu | TIFU By Picking my Nose and Having a Nosebleed in the Car | So this happened yesterday. My girlfriend had came over for the second time to my house, and it went over really well. My parents seem to really like her so it was all puppies and sunshine. So, it was time for her to go, and as I can't drive, and neither can she, she was going to bus home. It's a pretty long bus ride home, and I was feeling pretty bad for her, so I asked my Dad to give her a ride to the train station. He readily accepted and we were on our way.
Here's where I fucked up. So I'm, admittedly, a bit of a nose picker. Sometimes, it gets bad, and I can barely even breathe through there. So as we're pulling into the train station, I decide to subtly try and relieve some of the pressure in my congested nose. Soon after this my girlfriend mentions she lives in tuxedo, and I just tell my dad to drive her straight home, about a 45 minute drive away. Soon after THAT, I chose the wrong place to dig, and my nose just lets loose a torrential downpour of blood. And this ain't your average run of the mill nose bleed, oh no. This is the one that gets so bad that it starts to run down the back of your throat, and all over your face. Now I managed to hide it for a good 2 minutes, but my dad then looked over and says "Oh you've got one hell of a nosebleed goin on there."
Oh no, it gets even worse. Not only is the blood staining the shit out of my quicksilver shirt and my shorts, but now my girlfriend and my dad are searching to find something to stop the downpour, making it even embarrassing. And then my girlfriend pulls something out of her purse.
Its a fucking tampon.
I had no choice. For the next half hour car ride, I'm sitting shot gun, with a tampon up my right nostril. Not gonna lie, It worked pretty well. Pretty damn embarrassing. | Picked my nose in the car, got a nosebleed, girlfriend gave me a tampon to put up my nose for 30 mins on the way home. |
t3_m6oui | AskReddit | I just really want to tell someone my story right now... | So my story starts about one year ago in September, my dad packed up his stuff and took me and my two siblings away. Before this, I have been attending a private college prep school and my dad plans to take this away from me. I have personally fought with the financial aid department for scholarships, reduced payments, and better ways to pay (for my mother). Before i go rambling I'll cut it short, I was generously given half off the school because someone else paid for it (still don't know who you are but I love you) and they could no longer pay, so I was "asked" to leave. I left but my mother owes the school $4,000, at this time I am enrolling into another school that won't let me in because the private school is withholding my transcript.
Eventually I get enrolled into the school but that's not even the start of it. My mother's vehicle cannot run and my vehicle has no plates due to lack of money. By the time this happens, the court has decided to reduce the amount of money my dad gives my mom for child support and alimony. The previous amount was $1,000 and was reduced to $500, now there was another ruling that in which this was raised to about $1,200.
Because of the ruling raising the amount to $1,200 (paid twice a month), We, my mother and I, can no longer receive health care because her income exceeds $2000/month. So now my mother and I are out 2 vehicles, out of healthcare, and I am out of the school i have gone to for 11 years.
That's all right? NOPE Chuck Testa! The house that my mother and I were staying in was foreclosed, and we had to move out. We stayed with my grandmother for about a month but we were kicked out. After being kicked out my mother found an apartment for us to stay at. This lasted quite well for about 3 months.
In the moving process i managed to break my ankle and with no health insurance, that wasn't very good. Due to the subsequent doctor visits, my mother now cannot afford rent and we just got an eviction notice. | Dad left, took siblings. Dad pays mom to much and not enough, to much because mom and I lost healthcare for making to much and not enough for rent, food, and electricity. House foreclosed, moved in with grandparents, got kicked out. after being kicked out moved into apartment, while doing so broke my ankle. because of medical bills now can't pay rent, being evicted. |
t3_1b46mw | relationships | (M18) Am I just a texting/gaming buddy to my friend? (F18) | So this is my best friend I'm talking about. She is the only one I feel that I can completely trust, we always talk to each other about or problems and she trusts me and sees me as one of her closests friends.
Here's the thing.. We constantly text and chat over facebook. Everyday and it goes on forever. It's like a never ending conversation ever since we met. And it's not like it's only one of us that are initiating the conversation.
We play games all the time and text all the time. And I'm happy that I know her.
But here is the thing. We went to the same school for three years but never talked because we were both socially awkward. So we have known each other for two years now and only met once, when I was invited to her birthday party. I have asked her if she wants to hang out 5 or 6 times. But she is always busy. She hasn't asked me a single time if I want to hang out, not once. But she is constantly hanging out with her ex and other friends. She is always going out and making plans with other people but never with me. And I have decided to not ask her again, not untill she asks. If that even happens. It's not that she doesn't like me as her friend because she is always telling me everything and asking me about my day when we text or over skype when we play games together. She always laughs at my jokes. So I don't know what's wrong? Am I only a texting/gaming buddy to her and nothing else? Because my view of her as a real friend is really becoming less and less and I don't want that. | Friend never want's to hang out but texts and plays videogames with me constantly. |
t3_42nz18 | relationships | Is it advisable for me [18M] and my girlfriend [17F] to take a break? | Some background: I have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year and a half, and we currently attend the same sixth form college (UK). Although we were originally in the same year, my gf didn't get the grades she needed last year, so is retaking the year. My gf doesn't feel she now fits in with our old friends, and has now made a new group of friends in her year. This is fine, but she often feels tied between our relationship and her new friends.
We have both discussed our relationship, and have agreed that it has become a bit of a drag, apart from when we are together outside of school, when we are often having great fun with each other. We have talked about taking a break from each other for a while, which I think will help us spend more time with our friends and ultimately help us in the long run. However, I can see why this may be a bad idea.
Thanks in advance for your help. | Gf and I have hit a bumpy road in our relationship; gf feels unhappy and torn between two sets of friends. Is it advisable to take a break, or would this be the end of it? |
t3_25b2v4 | relationships | Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 3 months are going to try long distance, can this work? | My girlfriend of 3 months and I are going to be the separated for the next 8-9 months. We'd originally planned to break up, but as the date got closer, she admitted that she'd be interested in staying together, and even if we did break up, that she'd stay single until I came back. I like her a lot, so I was okay with staying together. However, with all of that said, I do have some questions and would like them answered by people older and more experienced. First of all, can long distance work if the amount of time apart is going to be longer than the amount of time you've spent together in person?
Furthermore, and this isn't based on anything she does, but I'm a distrustful person. I want to trust her, I really do, but there is always that fear that something might happen. Personally, I'd rather break up to avoid being hurt down the line. Again, she's never done anything to make me suspect that she'll cheat on me, but she's young, in college, and the culture here is a hookup culture. I do have fears that one night of heavy drinking could lead to something else, something that I dread.
Regarding these fears, we came up with a few rules for the period that we'd be separated from each other. Neither of us would drink, we would each go to one party the entire time we were separated, and that'd we wouldn't spend too much time with members of the opposite sex (to avoid developing feelings for anyone else).
Can we survive this, r/relationships? | Girlfriend and I are thinking about long distance, can we make it? |
t3_1q555u | relationships | I don't know if my [19F] family's expectations are unrealistic. | I am in college and living away from home for the first time. It's only about a 2 hour drive back and so I come back to my home city to visit sometimes, mostly because my boyfriend of 6 months lives there. Usually when I return, I stay at his house instead of my parents' house but I know my parents don't like this. The reason being...I have a 12 year old sister who my parents want me to spend what I feel is an unrealistic amount of time with. I know she adores me and looks up to me, but at the same time, she is 12. I do not want to spend all of my time with her and I don't think my parents should expect us to be best friends or something. I do not have an issue visiting her when I am home and spending some time with her, and I am more than nice to her when I do, but it seems like my parents expect me to spend more time with her than with my boyfriend.
Example: Last weekend. I had spent about 5 hours on Friday evening just hanging out with my sister, took her out, and even spent the night at my parents house. Saturday I spent the day and night with my boyfriend, and Sunday when I still have not returned home but planned to for a couple hours, my parents called me and said something along the lines of "You've been at [boyfriend]'s house for a while...you sure didn't leave much time with your sister today. That's kind of rude, don't you think?"
It feels smothering, forceful and unnecessary. They guilt me a lot and make me feel like a lousy sister and person. I do not ignore my sister and I feel that I spend more time with her and am nicer to her than most people are with their younger siblings. A few times I have resorted to visiting my boyfriend without telling my parents I was in the area but I know this isn't a good solution.
Any advice on how to handle this with my parents or whether I am actually in the wrong would be appreciated. | My parents think I should spend more of my time at home with my 12 y/o sister than my boyfriend. |
t3_3de2le | relationships | Gf [18] chokes new [2months] relationship at first challenge, should I [M21] give it a chance? | As soon as we met, which she instigated in a bar, we began dating and escalating our relationship rapidly. We saw each other often and within 2-3 weeks she had invited me to a important academic gala in which she was the "star" as she wanted me to be there for that important day.
Not only have we met each other's parents, but they invited me to an expensive concert with the family and friends.
She was a relationship (and litteral) virgin. I showed her the ropes in everything. She even slipped an accidental a "I love you" while having sex (when I asked about it she said she ment it).
Although she had expressed concern about it going too fast, especially with a challenging 5 weeks of traveling and starting med school, she constantly pressed on the relationship accelerator.
I have left the country for a couple of weeks on vacation and she will be gone for another 4 weeks (we had decided to bite the bullet and stay together).
As she's leaving and I'm still abroad, we Skyped and she breaks up-ish. She's not ready for something serious, has doubts about the relationship and doesn't feel the butterflies, maybe doesn't miss me as much... She mentions "bad timing" And now we're just not really talking (she doesn't respond).
She's a VERY independent and doesn't necessarily express her feelings much. She's cold my text/phone but passionate in person.
She's comming back in a couple of weeks and I'm wondering if it's worthwhile to try and realign this and persue a relationship, or just dodge the bullet from this juvenile ? | New gf escalates relationship very quickly and when our 5-week-without-seeing-each-other-vacation comes along she chokes and breaks up. Should I give it a shot when she comes back? |
t3_2hy43s | relationships | my boyfriend [21 M] of 1 year broke up with Me [21 F], and I still love him and want to be with him | We met in college about a year ago and starting dating about a month after. Over the summer we spent every day together, met each others families, and even went on a trip to New York.
Ive had issues with depression and anxiety all my life and have always been very open and honest about it with him. He convinced me to get on medication and seek help at my school's counseling center.
He also had problems with my drinking habits. He would get very upset at me for drinking because when I do I normally black out. During our relationship Ive cut down on my drinking significantly and even quit cold turkey for a short period of time.
We had some arguments during the start of this semester. I wasn't happy with the amount of time we were spending together. I was so used to seeing him everyday and being apart of each others plans that when school started and we both went back to our normal schedules it caused a lot of anxiety for me.
He decided to end it about 3 weeks ago and its been so rough for me because he is done being part of the process of me getting better. This has hurt more than ever because to me a real friend would stand by you no matter what and would want to be apart of that process. I have lost motivation to pay attention in class and work. I cry almost every day and have had lots of problems with sleep.
I take prozac and lunesta and today my doctor upped my prescriptions.
Ive never felt so lost and confused. Ive tried to reach out to him but he says "there is no changing his mind" and "he's putting his foot down." He says he still wants to be friends and maybe in time we could be together, but "not in 2014". It hurts me to see him around campus knowing it isn't the same. He is graduating this semester and I am going abroad next spring. These were supposed to be our last few months together at the same school and now its all gone.
sorry for such a long post I just needed to get everything out.
any suggestions for how to cope or even talk to him would be appreciated | boyfriend of one year broke up with me because of my anxiety/depression and I now feel hopeless. |
t3_40gxpr | tifu | TIFU by checking WhatsApp | This happened today. I've got final exams this week and today was the first. Because I hadn't planned properly I decided not to study for this exam and concentrate on the rest. I didn't tell my parents so that they wouldn't worry because I am not doing very well at university. In fact, I told them that this was my favourite subject and that I was surely going to get a good grade (I still don't know why I said that). The three hour long exam started at eight in the morning and instead of going to the classroom were it was being held, I went to the library to study other subjects. At approximately 9:30 I received a WhatsApp message from a friend and I read it. It wasn't after a few minutes later I realised that, maybe, I was fucked. As fast as I could I changed the "last seen" setting so that nobody could see my last connection. A bit worried, I kept on studying. At two in the afternoon I went back home for lunch (I'm from Spain) and there was my mother, standing still in the kitchen waiting for me. I looked at her and she looked at me. Then she started yelling and telling me how much I lacked responsibility. I guess she is right. | checked whatsapp while I was supposed to be in an exam. Mother freaked out by seeing my last connection and realising I was skipping a final. |
t3_1ihj44 | loseit | First time in 2 years I have fought off a take-away craving, but it came at a price. | So I am a student and for 2 years, I have been living off of take-aways. I checked my just-eat orders for last year and it came in at around 200 orders of £10 average. Now bear in mind, £10 of food can last up to 2 days most of the time if it's a Kebab shop or something. Thats £2000 of takeaways in a year.
Anyway, yesterday was the 3rd day of attempting to not eat take-away. First day I had chinese meal, second day I had mcdonalds breakfast, but yesterday I had a jacket potato with tuna and chicken and cheese. However, as I craved and craved into the evening, I walked down the road past the mcdonalds. Temptation was overwhelming. Instead, I went to the corner shop and demolished 3 chocolate bars. During the day I had eaten 4 mini pork pies and a packet of crisps which is NOTHING compared to the last year or so. I felt accomplished up until this point.
On the one hand I am delighted to have not had any take-away, but on the other, I am frustrated that I had chocolate. The thing is, they were 3 for 2, so I am certain if that offer wasn't on, I wouldnt have had 3!
Side note: yesterday was also the second consecutive day I walked around the block 3 times, doing a sort of walk-jog-walk-jog routine to maintain a high heart rate (I'm really fat, I can't do much) probably around 500-600 metres total. I am kind of proud of this, even though its only a minor accomplishment.
P.S. What does SV and NSV mean when people post them? | Didnt have a take-away after 2 years of living on them, but had lots of chocolate instead. Mixed feelings on this. Also kept exersize going so kind of positive overall. |
t3_uyoo8 | AskReddit | I received a formal complaint for wearing perfume. What are my options? | I work at a federal government department and I received a formal complaint because I'm wearing some perfume. Needless to say, I'm not the only one to wear perfume on our floor, heck on the freaking 20 stories high building! I'm even sitting at the complete opposite of the floor from the person that filed the complaint.
Some context:
Our branch have been posting signs on our floor to advise that some ppl here are sensitive to some perfume. We also received email reminders to advise we should strive for a "sent free environment". The manager responsible for such communication even mentioned such signs and emails were sent to other floors of the building. So great effort were put to communicate this "sent free environment". However, these are accommodations for tge very minority (2 ppl out of ~100) no? If I wear perfume, how does that qualify for a single complaint when I haven't purposefully exposed myself to those sensitive individuals?
My concern is that this went way out of proportion. Those individuals have to take the elevators and work with other people. Accommodations can be made to help them but "sent free environment " does not mean "sweaty smell is OK". I deal with clients and internal partners. I must dress , act, and behave at a certain standard in order to do my work. I'm expected to be professional and at my best.
Also, wearing perfume is important for my self-esteem. I'm very conscious about bad smell like sweat and ppl that don't shower. Should I realize I smell bad it will affect my overall behaviour and therefore my work results.
The individual that filed the complaint sit at the extreme opposite of the floor. I have extremely rare meetings and have not acted in a demeaning manner with that person.
I've contacted my union rep for guidance. But does Reddit has experience on this as well?
Is this so out of proportion and limits my individual liberty rights that it could be considered harassment? | I received a formal complaint because I wear perfume. Can this be a form of harassment ? |
t3_2b8kui | relationships | Me [22F] with my [24M] 3 yrs, Boyfriend told me he doesn't see himself spending the rest of our lives together | Background: Awesome guy, we have a pretty great relationship. Get along pretty well. Throughout the 3 years broke up once for 6 months. Didnt know what we wanted in relationship, ended up back together. Everythings gravy.
My boyfriend and I were talking about something, (I forget what exactly) when I jokingly said that if he left me later down the road I'd be super pissed. Meaning; "I'm young, spending my best years with you and working towards a future together so don't leave me when I'm old and nobody wants to date me."
He brought this up today, asking if I was serious and if I wanted to get married to him and have kids with him. I told him that, "No, I don't want to get married, but I do see myself spending my future with you, as well as raising kids. I will be upset if our relationship fails down the road but because of all the work we've put into it."
He then proceeds to tell me that our relationship ending sometime in the future is a possibility, and that "No offense, but I don't see us spending the rest of our lives together right now."
He said that we both have a lot of changing and growing up to do. What I took from that sentence is that I'm not the kind of woman he sees himself marrying and I have to change if thats what I want from him.
Now, my question is- Would you continue in this relationship that isnt going anywhere? Or do you end it, and find someone else?
I do truly love this guy. And I have no doubt he loves me. I did ask him why he was with me and he said because he enjoys my company, likes me as a person and loves me. So, he's content being in a stalemate relationship, Im just not sure I am.
Btw, we JUST signed or lease for another year. | Boyfriend doesn't see future together. I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship with no future. Not sure if I should stay or go. |
t3_41q05w | relationships | I'm [25/F] feeling weird because boyfriend [25/M] is meeting girls from okcupid | Hey everyone, thought I'd ask for some advice. I've [25/F] been with my boyfriend [25/M] for a year (have known him for 2 years) and we live together, we are in a pretty serious relationship. Recently I was using his computer and saw that he's talking to girls on okcupid and planning to meet them.
I've been in open relationships before and I would love to be in one with him, but every time I ask him about that he says he would not feel comfortable with it. He says he's just talking and wants to be friends with the people on okc, but he's presenting himself to them as if he's single.
I wouldn't mind if he would just tell me and be upfront about it, I totally understand wanting to date other people. Just if he's doing it, I want to be able to do it too, and be honest about the whole thing. | Boyfriend is saying he's single on okcupid and going out with girls from there. I'm in favor of open relationships, just wish he'd tell me and be honest about it. Just looking for any advice, thanks! |
t3_40eq94 | tifu | TIFU by having a kinky JO session | So this fuck up happened Wednesday evening into Thursday morning. I had been out with my friends and had smoked some giggle nuggets. When I got home I was alone as my parents were out of town. I was browsing /r/gonewild and decided to have some fun.
I was going at it when all of a sudden my high self decided to try something new. I googled best ways to jerk off and found a site talking about taking a banana and using the peel as a fleshlight of sorts. So I grabbed a banana. However the site had suggested using lube with the banana and I never use any so I had none. Well the devils lettuce must have turned me into MacGyver because for some reason I decided to use mayo (I don't know why). So I do my thing and after finishing and thinking, "What has my life become". I showered off quick and went to bed.
When I wake up the next morning I see my mom sitting in our living room chair. As I walk into the bathroom my jaw dropped as I see the banana and a jar a mayo sitting on the edge of the tub. I freak out and throw everything in the bathroom garbage. I then went to my room and have pretty much avoided my mom for the last couple days. | I jacked off using a banana and mayo and forgot to put it away. |
t3_38g8l4 | relationships | Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [30 F] Of three and a half years split. | So the title says it all. My girlfriend and I split on Sunday after drifting apart for the past couple of months. I took her and what we had for granted and It wasn't until too late that I realized what I had and that I wanted to make things work. I tried to talk to her Sunday night but she didn't seem interested so I fell asleep on the couch. I woke up around 2:30 am and went to try to fall asleep in bed with her. She was in a deep sleep and I've had my suspiciouns so I went through her text. I saw all I needed to see and told her to leave. She started packing her things and moving out on Tuesday. We got a dog together the December before this last one and she is extremely attached to it but I paid for it. It's a $1500 English bulldog. I've already told her that I'm keeping him. I know she'll be wanting to see him so I'm wondering will establishing no contact do more good or bad in this case? I still want to work things out so I'm not sure how to go about it? | How do I establish no contact when I know she'll be asking about our dog and wanting to see him? I want to work things out so will it do more good or bad? |
t3_1rfrpg | relationships | Me [28 F] with my [32 M] 8 months, driving him insane with my mood swings. | So I have been together with my bf for a couple months and we dont live together and basically see each other about 2-3 times a week. I am not sure what to do. I have this problem before with my previous relationships where out of nowhere I demand affection or confirmation from my boyfriend in order to be happy. I will be very upset when they dont act sweet to me or tell me that they miss or love me. This is not all the time but there will be a time that this feeling or mood swings, will last for about 2-3 weeks, on and off. I would be very jealous and although warranted, it will be blown out of proportion.
I am not a bad gf, I am honest and loyal and will go above and beyond for the person that i love. But i just have this deep rooted insecurity that i have never overcome ever since i can remember. And although this has been primarily the cause of all the fights in my relationship, this has never been the deal breaker. i still end up leaving them because finally i got tired of feeling mistreated.
I have had 3 prior relationships lasting, 3yrs, 6yrs and 4yrs not sure if relevant.
Again, not sure where this is going, but maybe somebody here can explain what im going through. Is this something i should see a therapist for? Or is this normal? Is there anybody else going through the same thing and maybe handling it better? I really appreciate any advice, opinions or reactions. | i have mood swings that i am not sure normal or just triggered by the guys im with. What should i do, or is there anything i can do? |
t3_qivv3 | BreakUps | Recently broke up. Can't stand the lonely days and sleepless nights | Throwaway account of course. Both of us were 22, and dating for about a year. This is a throwaway since she is a r/relationships regular. My gf and I used to sleep over at my house just about every night. Hang out after class. Go to parties together. Pretty much everything, we're even been on vacations with the parents. My question is, I'm unsure of what to do with myself now. I've started a hobby with my friends by going to the gun range and shooting around. But besides that, I just sit around the house and watch the paint dry.
I live with one other guy, but he's never around and I've resorted to sitting on Netflix all day and feeling like crap. I don't want to wear out my other friends by hanging with my 24/7. I guess my biggest issue is the nights alone. It doesn't feel right. I keep waiting for her to walk in the room or something. I can't sleep well into the am's and I don't want to resort to alcohol as a sleep aid. My sleeping schedule consists on sleeping around 5am, in 30min increments, waking up in an almost panic that she isn't beside me. What can I do to help cope with these lonely nights and lame days? | I'm alone and just feeling worse about it due to lack of activity. Just read the damn two paragraphs |
t3_1svvnh | AskReddit | If i dont get the Butterflies while kissing her anymore, does that mean the feelings for her are gone? | EDIT: with butterflies, i mean i feel realy nothing when we kiss. =(
So i've been with that cute lovely girl since 4-5 Months, and i just noticed that the relationship became wierd, i dont feel anything when we kiss and it's realy confusing, deep inside i know that i realy love this girl and shes always nice to me even if shes on her period, we had sex and
everything and it was great but how could the feelings for her just go away?
i dont want to break up with her, i still think everyday about her but someday i dont want to met her like in the early relationship. | = Had GF for 4 Months, after 3 Months i feel like my feelings for her are gone - but i still love her..and dont want to live without her |
t3_5492zv | tifu | TIFU by not realizing where my bug bites were coming from. | So today is really more the day I realized that I fucked up, but I digress. I recently have been covered in bug bites all the time. I'm outside a lot, so I naturally just assumed they were from mosquitoes and/or chiggers, both of which there are a decent number of in my area. Then I started to notice that they were showing up when I wasn't going outside. In the morning. Right after I got out of bed. One might say the bites were most probably from bugs in my bed.
Because I'm an idiot, I didnt instantly realize what this meant, and continued on with my life as normal. Suddenly, during class today, I had an epiphany: What if (bear with me) the bug bites that I found in the morning were somehow connected to the strange spots of blood that had recently been appearing on my bed? And what if (making some real logical leaps here) all of this was connected to the infestation my friend had told me about last week? The infestation of bugs which feed on blood. Which often live in places such as beds. Commonly known as bedbugs.
To make a long story short it's ass o'clock right now and instead of sleeping I'm washing and cleaning literally everything in my dorm room, because my sheets are covered in bedbugs. The fuck up is that this could have been prevented if I had actually spent more than two seconds thinking about why I had bites all over, and could have dealt with this entire thing three weeks ago during the day, instead of suffering for days on end and then staying up right now until who fucking knows when just so I can have semi-clean sheets and mattress. | Been sleeping in a nest of bedbugs for several weeks and could have easily figured it out. Don't worry, that will probably never happen to you. Definitely. |
t3_3u1rhc | tifu | TIFU by covering my tracks | Obligatory didn't happened today but earlier this summer.
I was hanging out at a friend's house with a couple of guys and it's late in the night and we decide to play some beer pong. We found my friend's parent's liquor cabinet and filled the cups up with vodka and rum and began to play. All is good and we are really fucked up, and we called it a night. **To be safe, we decided to fill the bottles back up with water so his parents wouldn't known how much we drank**
Well, a few months later his parents have some friend's over and they put some booze in the freezer to chill it. They were quite shocked when they pulled the bottle out and it was frozen solid. They questioned our friend (their son) and he ended up spilling the beans on us. | Drank friend's parents alcohol, filled it back up with water, they were shocked when they chilled it in freezer and it was frozen. |
t3_1tgyz2 | relationships | I [23M] want to have a discussion with my fiancee [25M] about what classifies as cheating, to set HARD limits. What does Reddit think classifies as cheating? Am I being fair? | What I think classifies as cheating?
Anything more than a hug. (Sometimes girls kiss on the cheek, and family does. This is OK.)
Including:
-Kissing on the lips
-Hugging for an extended amount of time (embracing)
-Cuddling or holding someone else
-Being physically close to someone else (resting on their shoulder, etc...)
-Doing something he wouldn't want me to find out.
-Doing something he wouldn't tell me about or get mad when someone else did.
(I'd say being in the same bed as someone else, but that's OK if you're hanging out. Some peoples rooms have a bed and a TV for gaming, even mine does.)
Then the obvious:
-Any kind of intimate contact | look at topic title :) |
t3_2juu9u | needadvice | How to reward myself for making healthy choices | For the past few years I've noticed that my "hunger discipline" is just shot to hell. Even if I just ate a full meal and I'm pretty full, I'll eat something else like an hour later, and it's usually junk food. At home, it isn't so bad because at least my parents make dinner usually and I occasionally don't get to eat much of a lunch because my lunch break at work is short. But now that I'm in college and I have a ton of free time and nothing to do, I can't help but eat something almost every other hour. Unfortunately, my exercise discipline is also ridiculously weak and I often ditch whatever workout plan I have after a few days.
**( | I have no natural discipline when it comes to food and exercise lately) |
t3_18ot2w | relationships | Myself (f/24) and my best friend (m/25) have been in an intimate relationship for several months and when it became real he freaked out, what do I do? | Myself (f/24) and my best friend (m/25) have been frien for over 6 years now. We both watched each other in different relationships and were always there with each other.
Recently, withing the past 6 months, we have started to act more like we were dating (going out on dates, spending the night together, spending holidays together). I consistently told him and asked him if he was okay where things were going. Not wanting to over step my bounds ( I know he's got issues with commitment and relationships in general)
A week ago he told me he really liked me, loved me even. I told him magazine I didnt want a relationship or to define anything he wasn't comfortable with but I was happy to do what we were doing and be in a limbo state.
Yesterday evening he was acting all funny. Very cold. I had planned on telling him I know this scares him and that if he wanted to go slower again and have me back off a bit I was willing to. I didn't get the chance. He told me he didn't like that we were in relationship territory and wasn't able to do it. That he likes me and cares about me and didn't want me to be a rebound for the relationship that was ended close to a year ago now. That he wanted me back as a friend. I held my tounge and tried not to cry.
All I want to do is work things out and make it so we can still maintain what we had and be friends. I don't want to lose my best friend. I plan on talking to him because regardless of how he feels I think it's only fair we have a discussion about the whole situation. | bestfriend and I were in an almost dating state and he decided he couldn't handle it. I'm heart broken and don't want to lose my best friend. |
t3_4n89dr | relationships | Me [30's M] with my brother [20's M], he came out of the closet. How can I support him? (x-post r/askgaybros) | I come from a very conservative Christian background. I have a brother who is much younger than me and we have never been terribly close -- mostly because of the age difference. My parents, who are great people, really, and were wonderful parents, are very conservative politically and religiously.
So I got a call from my mom today that basically said to call my little brother because he was "going through something" -- her words. He lives in a different state than I do. So I did. And he shared that he is gay, has always been gay, and has been in a relationship for quite a while with someone whom he loves very much.
I told him that I loved him and supported him. I told him that I would always be happy to talk to him if he had problems with our family, who apparently have already been non-supportive and somewhat ostracizing.
I don't think that I've ever been a good big brother, really, partially because of our age gap, I suppose, but I wanted to let him know that I am here for him. I worry that he'll feel estranged from his family because of their beliefs, but I want him to know that I am his family too, and I am happy for him and love him regardless of what anyone else may say. Me keeping the peace with the rest of my family because I feel this way -- that's another story.
Anyways, I hope I've done the right thing so far, but I was hoping to ask you all what the best thing for me to do for him could be, if there's any other way I can tell him that I love him and that regardless of what shit is coming down the pipe from my family, that I'm here for him and I accept him, as well as his current relationship.
Any advice would be great. Thank you! | Brother came out to me. How can I be a good big brother and support him. |
t3_217650 | relationships | I [16 M] am new to anything relating girls. Especially the girl I like [15 F] | I have only had one other "romantic" relationship with a girl. I told her I liked her and then we had an awkward relationship until she told my best friend she loved him. We were good friends before this. Now we don't talk and I lost a good friend.
I'm not sure if I even liker her. More of the idea that someone might like me. She was in my league. In other words I had a chance. This all started in 8th grade and ended recently. There was another girl in 8th grade I thought was awesome, but she went off to boarding school when high school started.
I got in touch with her through a mutual friend a week or two ago through a mutual friend. She just happened to be in town for spring break. We texted a good amount and hung out a little. The feelings in 8th grade weren't the same. Because I didn't talk to her in 8th grade. She was out of my league then.
We are into all the same stuff. Same bands and movies. I mean we aren't like clones. We just have very similar interests. She also has a very unique outlook on life. The mutual friend I spoke of earlier picked up on the fact that I was developing a crush on her all over again. Being best friends with her she told her.
Nothing got awkward like it did with the first girl. We just kept doing our thing. My main problems with what she said to the mutual friend. She said she was flattered and she thought I was cool. That's almost the exact same reaction as the first girl. Am I just being paranoid?
She also went back to school recently. We are still texting, but I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. The last time I tried to move in on a girl I lost a valuable friendship. I don't want that to happen again. What should I do Reddit?
(Sorry about my English. It is my first language) | Not used to interacting with girls. Want to know how to interact with this one. |
t3_46v24m | relationships | Me [21 M] left things in the "talking" stage for too long, now she's moved on | Looking for some female advice here, as Im not really sure what just happened......I was seeing this girl for a while, close to three months lets say, however we never really had that relationship talk. By that I mean , the exclusivity of Bf/GF Talk. On all other accounts, we were behaving like we were togethor, I took her on dates, we had alot of sex, I met her sister, she met my friends. I thought this talk would just happen when it was time, I wasn't in any rush persay, I also wasnt seeing anyone else. Well one day, she just started ignoring me over text (we would text every day), and when I confronted her, she said we were in limbo and that she had no idea where my head was at so she moved on.
Did I let this linger for too long and she lost interest? Has anyone been in a similar situation? | Looking for advice on my latest female situation |
t3_3huj1r | relationships | (NonRomantic) I [F23] feel like I have a professional business type relationship with my father [M52]. | My dad and I used to be really close; always interested in the same activities, going to cool movies together, laughing at fart jokes and gag gifts constantly, going to get ice cream on weekends with my mom and sister, etc...
Once I got into highschool I had an unhealthy romantic relationship with a 'badboy.' I ignored my father's warnings and lied to him about where I was and what I was doing. After a few years of defiance I stopped with the boyfriends and rebellious drinking and partying. But it's like something changed with dad and me at this point in my life, like our friendship didn't survive my teenage years.
I'm currently in a serious long term relationship- we are living together and im in my final year of college. I'm in an honor society, an active volunteer, a leader in a preprofessional organization, and at the top of my degree program's graduating class in a field of study my dad loves.
When I call my dad I feel like I need to have news about my classes or a list of recent achievements, because otherwise our phone conversations are short lived and unhappy.
I feel like I continuously have to make him proud of me- like I'm constantly seeking ways to show him I'm worthy of his attention and affection. When I go home we don't do any activities together. He just sits in front of the TV. If we do talk he just wants to talk about politics or where I'm at with my career choices and schooling. We don't really chat at family dinner. When I try to reach out I feel like I get nothing back.
My sister tells me he isn't like that when I'm gone- its definitely something to do with me. He isn't cold to me by any means, he still gives me hugs and smiles, but I'm definitely missing that connection.
A lot of important emotional milestones are coming up for me- college graduation, first real job, eventually engagement and marriage, etc. and I want him to be a part of it. I want him to be happy and emotionally invested in me like he was when I was younger.
How do I get out of this business relationship with my dad? | My dad and I have become distant. I miss him. Feeling like we only have a professional business type relationship and it sucks, despite my efforts to earn his approval. |
t3_z51bc | dogs | How to keep off-leash dogs away from my geriatric wonder beast? | My wonder beast is a 15 year old jack russell mixy-thingy with Cushing's disease. She is almost blind and almost deaf, but otherwise enjoying her later years. I adopted her at the ripe age of 13, and at the time she was generally very well behaved with other dogs. As the ears, eyes and nose fail to work properly, she has become very defensive of her aging body, and no longer tolerates contact with other dogs. I think it's because she can't judge what is going on around her, because she's ok-ish with calm, polite, respectful, older dogs, but the more enthusiastic the other dog is, the more snappy she reacts. At this point, if another dog approaches, she will almost definitely snap. And I say...hey, the dog is old, the clock is ticking, and if she wants to be left alone, by all means, let her have her rest.
My problem is that many people in my area let their dogs walk off the leash, which inevitably leads me to a situation where my dog is snapping at someone else's dog. The wonder beast can only walk about 500 meters before returning home, but right now I'm so afraid of walking her and starting a serious fight with another dog that I don't do this half as much as I should. I've tried every method available to prevent other dogs from approaching. Telling the owners my dog is not friendly, telling the owners my dog is sick, telling the owners my dog bites...most other owners do not respond to this and the overwhelming answer I get is, "But MY dog is friendly!" which is all fine and well, but my dog wants to be left alone, please and thank you.
Is there anything I can do to prevent dogs from approaching her? Is there some kind of body language, behavior or anything that can give me back the control of the situation I need? I'm not afraid of other dogs, I've always owned larger dogs myself, but I've actually found myself becoming fearful of being approached because I know that my dog could potentially start a fight that she would not win.
Help? | my dog is old and snippy, how do I keep other dogs from approaching us? |
t3_2ftdmv | relationships | My gf (26 F) and I (28 M) of 8 months recently started an open relationship... sleep with 1 partner or multiple partners? | My girlfriend and I recently changed our exclusive relationship to an 'open' relationship. I've been with her for 8 months and we went open about 3 weeks ago.
3 days after we went open, she had sex with a guy she met at a bar. She ended up hooking up with him again the other night.
Before we went into our open relationship, we set specific goals and 'rules' around it. The #1 goal of the open relationship is for us to be emotionally exclusive for the next 2 years (while she's in school) while allowing physical freedom.
Here's where it gets tricky: should we allow for sex with 'regulars' or should we limit it to one night stands only?
Yesterday we spoke about it and she said she'd rather I do one night stands but then she asked me if it would be okay if she started talking to this guy more.
We've been going back and fourth because it's a tough decision between the two. There's more hassle with one night stands but then having sex with a regular can lead to emotions (which we're trying to keep exclusive).
I asked her if she would feel any emotional attachment to this guy moving forward and she said 'honestly, I don't know'.
I wanted to see if anyone had experience here and what their advice would be. Thanks! | My girlfriend and I just started an open relationship after being exclusive because she moved 5 hours away. The goal is to be exclusive again in 2 years when she finishes school. Should we allow for sex with the same partner regularly or allow for one night stands only? |
t3_4xsyum | tifu | tifu by not having a spare key. | So this fuck up happened just a few short moments ago.
I was out getting some work done and i had just finished up and was about to go home for a well deserved rest.
On my way to the bike i was thinking about how bad it would be if i were to lose my bike's key or accidentally throw it in the trunk and close it there since i don't have a back up one.
So i get to the bike and i open the trunk to put my hat inside and put my helmet on i close the trunk and i am about to start up the bike.Or was i.I notice that my key is gone.I quickly recollect all that i've done up until i got to the bike only to find out that the hat is still in my hand and the key is gone.I quickly put 2 and 2 together and now i'm looking for a crowbar to jack open the seat in order to get home. | Thought of something stupid.Did the stupid.Looking for a crowbar to fix the stupid. |
t3_4gbwpz | relationships | How do I tell my catholic parents [53F/56M] I [22F] want to go on vacation with my 2-year BF [35M] | I live in the city with my aunt and she doesnt mind me sleeping with my BF even though he doesnt know him that well, she trusts me. My parents have had the chance to know him and they liked him. He is a nice guy though at first they were worried because he is much older than me.
I have some sort of liberty because I dont have to ask for permission to do stuff But I depend on my parents economically and I will not be able To change that any time soon (at least until I finish college). I am a very good daughter and a very responsible woman: i am nice and do well in school, i have a job, get along with my family and dont do stupid things, I take contraceptive pills and All that...
However my parents are "conservative" and catholic and Im sure I could convince them to let me go on a trip alone with my BF, we are both very responsible and just want to go to the beach for a couple of days. I do Believe im capable of taking my Own decisions but they think I am a virginal catholic "abstinence til marriage" kind of person (dont know why, i have never implied that). How do I tell them without they being forever angry at me? | how to avoid my conservative parents anger so we can go to the beach in peace, me & my BF alone?? |
t3_434u29 | legaladvice | Student Loan Forgiveness - Defense to Repayment & EDMC Suit | Recently I have seen a lot of info (like in Facebook news feeds) regarding massive or total student loan debt forgiveness for for-profit colleges. Initially, I wrote every single one off as a scam, though after doing some actual research I do have some questions.
There are a bunch of websites claiming to help you fill out a form or draft a letter to take advantage of the "Defense to Repayment". Here is one example: [aloannomore.com] This seems like a borderline scam. Has anyone ever seen a situation where this has actually worked? Also, if one was crazy enough to try this longshot, wouldn't a lawyer be the best avenue to state your claim to the Dept of Edu?
I believe the Corinthian Colleges loan forgiveness could set a precedence for students trying to get their loans written off, but that seems like a rare case that the Dept of Edu is handling very specifically. Not an opportunity for the floodgates to open to let tons of people why just didn't try very hard in college to not have to pay back Sallie Mae/Navient. Does the Corinthian Colleges case have an legal impact or precedence on student loan forgiveness?
Additionally, EDMC just settled a landmark case: [NYT Article] however it seems like the majority of monies are going to the States in the suit and the whisleblowers. Also by settling EDMC of course admits no wrongdoing to the allegations, possibly making it harder for students to argue a case of fraud or deception. This document, [Ohio AG] outlines how much money is allocated to each state as well as how many students are affected. Assuming I would be the pool of 5,447 student affected in California, I would be entitled to a whopping $1,202. Though I can find no info on how I would go about making a claim for that money.
And ending on a hypothetical: assuming one had proof of one of the issues outlined in the EDMC suit, specifically inflating student success and job placement after graduation, that evidence would only benefit the State or Dept of Edu, correct? That alone wouldn't give you enough legal ammunition that would benefit you in getting your personal student loans forgiven, correct? | should I continue to treat any "student loan forgiveness" websites as scams, or are there actual successful legal avenues available? |
t3_q5c4g | AskReddit | My friends are trying to get me to leave my boyfriend because he's Asian. How would you get them to stop and leave us be without unfriending them? | It's really starting to get on my nerves.
I'm your typical 22 year old, blonde hair/blue-eyed college girl from Texas. We live in a moderately-sized town where everybody knows everybody and the population is probably 99.99% Caucasian; in-fact, I have never seen a black person in real life. And with the exception of my boyfriend, I haven't seen another Asian person, either.
My friends aren't racist, but on every outing we have, they're always telling me stuff like "I can do better" and "but *he's ASIAN*," just stuff along those lines. I would tell them to stop and that I don't want to hear it, and they would stop for that instance, UNTIL the next social outing. It's the same thing over again and it's starting to get on my nerves.
It's starting to affect my boyfriend, too. He's REALLY, REALLY social, but because of the small group and vibes, he's preferring to stay home and watch Starcraft streams. (Though he doesn't know what my friends are saying about him)
Yet, I simply can't stop hanging out with them, I've been with the same rag-tag-group of girls since the 6th grade. We grew up together. And my social life revolves around them, with a small/boring town like this and all. I mean, they stop once I tell them to stop, but it's getting annoying having to say this at every outing.
So again, how would I get them to back off (permanently) without cutting them off? I'm not really good at giving ultimatums, I crack easy. | friends trying to get me to leave my bf cause he's asian. i don't want new friends, but i want them to stop bring it up at every social outing. |
t3_2ladq0 | relationships | I am a 24[M] and my girlfriend 25[F] is calling her Ex this afternoon to confront him about his cheating while they were together for 5 years. | So, we have been dating for almost 3 years now. Live together, love each other, and everything is going amazingly. She's been having weird dreams lately in which she is still dating this guy, but in the dreams she knows there is someone out there who is better for her. She is hoping that by addressing the issue head on and getting him to confess, which he never did, that her subconscious will give it a rest.
Our relationship is very healthy and I support her in this endeavor. I just need some advice on how to be there for her after the phone call goes down. Not really advice, I guess, but just some outside perspective on whether or not this is good plan. I just don't want her to be upset and dwell on this if she doesn't get what she wants out of it. | need outside perspective on gfs plan to confront ex about infidelity via phone today to solve frustrating dreams. |
t3_ul095 | relationships | I don't have much time to give in a relationship, but he still wants one. | Ages - 25 m, 30f(me)
I recently had something that could loosely be defined as "casual" with a guy. It wasn't really that casual though, we really ended up liking each other a lot. Lately, things sort of backed off but now he's pushing me to have a real relationship with him.
Recently, I've got a new job. In addition to this I was already busy with my kids while attending classes at the University of Michigan. I still really like this guy, but I know I simply don't have the time to devote to give him a good relationship. I've told him this, but he insists that we can figure out a way to work around my time. I don't think it's as easy as just saying "we can work it out". I really like him, but not sure what to do if I feel I can't devote enough of myself to this relationship. Any advice? | me and a "casual" boyfriend developed feelings for each other - but I recently got a new job and I literally have no free time. He still wants to try to date. What gives? |
t3_141fpf | AskReddit | Reddit, my brother died two years ago in March and I want to do something special for him. What can I do in his memory? I'm open to any project ideas | It'll be two years in March. He was fifteen when he died with AIDS related complications. He became infected when he was 11, but didn't find out until he was 14. Shortly after being diagnosed, he passed away. I went to an event today for World AIDS Day. There was an event at my college where four people spoke. The two guys were a couple, one HIV positive, the other wasn't. One woman had two brothers die with AIDS, the other woman had a cousin die with AIDS. This was inspiring. There were quits hung up with people's names who had passed away. This whole event was just so incredible. I want to do something in his memory. Any project ideas? I'm open to any suggestions. | Went to an event for World AIDS Day and got super inspired. I started thinking about my 15 y.o. brother who passes from AIDS related complications and want to do a project in his memory. Any ideas? |
t3_qgrhb | AskReddit | Reddit, need help with my manic depressive/bipolar cousin.. | My cousin, we'll call him John, was diagnosed last year with manic depression bipolar disorder. He was admitted to a mental health clinic and chose to stay and even kept up with his meds... for only a month.
Since then he got a job, was doing quite well, the fall came and went without a hiccup in his behavior, which usually was around the time he would start to become manic. A couple weeks ago everyone started noticing a change in his behavior. His family had learned to to recognize the signs. Two weeks ago he attacked his brother, got the cops called on him, was sent to a hospital for an evaluation, and much to our chagrin was let out. He had to go to court and is now facing a restraining order on his brother rendering him homeless for the time being.
Last night he reached out to another one of his brothers, (he has 2) and insisted he come talk to him. Although he had been staying at various friends and families houses and getting kicked out repeatedly and was obviously not in the right state of mind, his brother decided to go down and see him in the next town over at a bar. Cut to about 3 hours later we're chasing him down the street as he flees off into the night once again with no money, no place to stay, and no forseeable plans whatsoever. All the while he's cursing us out, screaming at us all while walking in a residential neighborhood. He doesn't want to hear about treatment, he thinks we're the ones with mental issues, and he won't take meds. We eventually had him arrested around 5am and brought to another hospital. He made it the same day at 11am.
His manic states include violent lashing out, yelling, staying up for days at a time, and pretty much fleeing the scene everytime somebody brings up treatment. We have a big family that is very close, so my mother and most of my extended family is very involved and worried. He's sleeping at our house tonight.
Basically what I want to know is, how do we get somebody who's manic to accept treatment, take medication, and get back on the road to recovery?
will answer any/all questions that will help you better understand the situation. | My cousin is manic bipolar depressive. He has been avoiding treatment and medication for the past 2 weeks after getting arrested for assaulting his brother during a manic episode. My family wants him to get help. He's sleeping in the next room. What do we do? |
t3_3nnu6h | relationships | Me [22 M] with my GF [22 F] 1 year, She tried to break no contract. Here's how I handled it. | Hey all. It's been about 1.5 months since my ex broke up with me, and I've made a lot of progress thanks to good friends, new hobbies, therapy and NC. Just to give you all some brief background, we initially had a "break" because we both had issues to work on, but wanted to work things out. At first things were going very well, but towards the end of the break she started to get distant, and told me during the breakup that she "just wanted to be single" and "she just didn't have feelings anymore;" she didn't even seem sad about it at all. She still wanted to be friends and at first I was cool with it, but I had an emotional breakdown that night (I had a ton of personal and family issues going on at the time) and decided to go NC.
Unfortunately, last week she tried having a conversation with me while I was working on applications at one of our school libraries (we're both in grad school). I'm still angry and not completely over her, so I just gave her one word answer and pretty much made it clear that I didn't want to converse with her.
That same day, I'm studying with our mutual friend who I'll call Jane (I'm closer with her and she's been supporting me since the breakup). My ex texts her "Ask philyourglass if he can start saying hi to me because it's weird that he doesn't." Mind you, this friend has been trying not to get involved with this breakup. I tell Jane to respond "He said he has no interest in interacting with you because this is his way of coping. Also, stop involving your friends as ways for you to contact him. If you have any issues with him, you can contact him directly and he'll decide if it's worth responding." She just responded with a thumbs-up emoji and hasn't spoken to me since, even in person.
What do you all think of this? Do you think I should've tried something different or did I do this right? | Ex tried talking to me in person. I basically implied I wasn't interested in talking. Tried using our friend to talk to me. Told her to kindly fuck off and stop using our friends. |
t3_2pug92 | relationships | I [18 F] found out my boyfriend [24 M] has a Tinder account again | I saw a thread like this somewhere else but the circumstances are a bit different.
My boyfriend and I met through Tinder. We started dating, and have been seeing each other for 5 months. I've met his entire family, they love me, even though they weren't too hype about the age difference. I love them and him, and him and I have already been planning a future together. I specifically asked him a few weeks ago if he still had a Tinder, out of silly curiosity, and he said no.
Yesterday a friend sent me a screenshot of his Tinder profile. Active 32 minutes ago.
I confronted him about it, and he apologized like crazy, saying he didn't know it would hurt me so much, said he just downloaded it again to "pass time while I take a dump" and "I just dick around".
The thing that is really bothering me most, is that he lied about it, making me think he has something to hide. I told him that and he said he didn't have it at that time.
I don't Tinder while I use the restroom, I play Candy Crush Saga or browse Facebook. He lied about having a Tinder - he didn't tell me or he lied to my face.
I don't see him often, because I don't have a vehicle and rely on buses and friends to drive me an hour to see him. He can't drive to me because he lost his license for 3 months for an OUI. He never leaves his house and part of me wants to think he just got Tinder again because he's bored out of his mind.
Do I leave him? | Boyfriend and I met on Tinder, said he deleted Tinder, find out he still has Tinder. |
t3_18cubl | relationships | Losing a friendship because I have a boyfriend. | Friend- 24 year old male
Me- 19 year old female
I am in College and I've met many friends. One in particular is single, 24, and really cool. He is sweet, he invites me to hang out, he plays online games with me and is overall an amazing friend. Well I have a boyfriend, and a month or two ago I said "Don't be too down. You're cute, you'll find a girl" after he said he was really lonely. I have a boyfriend of 6 months, and we are happy, but he isn't really involved in this.
Ever since I called him cute, he has been hitting on me. I have made it clear that I am not interested because I am not single. That's it. It's not "friendzone" or whatever, but he is making a big deal about it. He told me he wanted to take me on a valentine's date with me, and I told him I was going to be with my boyfriend.
Well 15 minutes later on Facebook, he is posting about how he is just going to get drunk.
This guy is an awesome friend. We talk in all the classes, but I always make it clear that I have a boyfriend, which he has met before.
I just don't know what to do. I feel like shit about it. Am I in the wrong? What can I say to him to make him stop? | Friend wants to be with me but I have a boyfriend. I am not interested. |
t3_3afw3t | tifu | TIFU by going to a public toilet. Sligtly NSFW. | This happend a few days ago. So I was at a pub, drinking a few beers, and the need to take a dump hit me. I do hate taking dumps in public toilets, but fuck it, a man gotto do what a man gotto do. How bad can it be? I got to the toilet and noticed there was no toilet seat, hesitated for a minute before i realised I had no choice, I really had to go. I turned around to lock the door, and noticed there was no fucking lock at the door, and it just kept swinging open if I didn't hold it. So I had to squat over the toilet while taking a dump, while reaching forward holding the door shut. I did manage to do by business without touching the rim. But because I had to lean forward to hold the door, I fucking peed straight down in my boxers. I noticed this first when a stream hit my legs, so my boxers was pretty much soaked. I of course panicked, how am I getting out of this one without big embarrassment? Looked down on my pants, and saw that they fortunately was saved from the worst. Threw my boxers in the trash, walked commando for the rest of the night. Nobody noticed, I think.. | Peed my boxers while squatting over the toilet. |
t3_49x6y7 | relationships | Me(19M), Having troubles communicating with parents about what I plan to do with my future. | Hi there r/relationship, Right now I'm in my second year of university and ever since grade 12 my parents(m 51/ f 43)have been pushing me subtly and also sometimes aggressively to go into nursing. The thing is I have wasted 2 years TRYING to get into nursing but to no avail. I do have interest in a field where I can help people so I decided to go to an institution that offers the specific job I want.
They also say things like " we spent so much money on your education, don't waste it, your girlfriend will leave you because you're so useless etc.." How do I react to that Reddit? It hurts. The thing is, my parents say the institution I'm interested in is for "FOBS". I don't really know how to explain it. They think that it's for people who aren't smart enough to get an education/degree?
Overall, my entire childhood has been them screaming and yelling at me when my academics is on the line. Besides that they are loving parents, don't get me wrong here. Because of them yelling me from a young age, I've always has trouble telling them stuff. When I do it usually ends up them criticizing and yelling insults at me. HELL, I'm 19 years old and I get scared of getting yelled at my parents? Wth. Please help me reddit! | Don't know how to tell strict asian parents about my decision about my future. |
t3_44irgv | tifu | TIFU by making an accurate cut... on my finger | Obviously this didn't happen today but when I was like 6. I was with my dad, getting on a train to my grandparents' town where I would spend half of the summer. The train hadn't set off when we went to this room with bunks and a folding ladder to climb to the upper one.
As the lazy kid I was, I tried to put my hand on the wall to get comfy while we arranged our luggage, but instead put it on the metallic side of the ladder. I think now it may have been poorly extended, as I heard CLACK! Didn't know what was it and didn't feel anything, but like 10 seconds later I look at my hand just to see blood pouring out my thumbprint. I panicked and we went out of the train searching for a first aid kit or something. I was pretty nervous because 1) we had left everything inside w/o vigilance and 2) we left the train.
Finally we found one of the train employees inside and he proceeded to wrap a bandage around my thumb. Seriously, I never felt any pain, but I was so jittery because on my young eyes I bled a lot. Sometimes when I look at my left thumb I think I can still see a vestige of that surface scar. | Got into a train, folding ladder fold on my thumb, found a medic, didn't feel anything. Got the train, but can feel the scar after 10+ years. |
t3_4n9tt0 | relationships | My brother [15M] was asked out by my friend [15F]. He asked me [16F] if it was ok if he dated her. Is it wrong of me to not be comfortable with it? | Hi everybody, I have never used this site before and I am just looking for some advice.
My brother came into my room last night and he asked if he could speak to me. He was being mature (he normally acts goofy, but he is really funny). He told me that one of my good friends had asked him out, would it be if he dated her. He said " I don't want to screw up our relationship over a girl, I will not date her or do anything with her if it upsets you".
I hugged him and said " Thanks for coming to me and respecting my social life, let me think about it"
My brother and I are home by our self right now. Our parents have had to fly out to Perth for a funeral. My brother is in year 9 and I am in year 10 and so is my friend. Is it alright if I don't feel comfortable with him dating her?
It's not that I don't want him to be happy but anything could happen. I would rather not have a potential falling out with her and in then have a strain put on my brother and I relationship. I would also rather he did not date someone in my social life.
Am I just being mean by not being OK with him dating her? | My friend asked my brother out. My brother asked if it was OK if he dated her. Is it mean of me to not be comfortable with it? |
t3_2hdhtk | relationships | Me [23M] with my ex gf [22 F] of 4 years broke up talking again anxiety | so me and my girlfriend were together for four years. We were each other's first true loves and we really did have a great relationship until about a month before the breakup
We started fighting because I was working long hours and I started having trust issues and jealousy when she would go out and it finnaly got under her skin
We've been apart for about 2 months and I havent initiated contact with her once. But about once of week shed try getting my attention somehow like re adding me on snapchat or Instagram or whatever.
Finally a week ago I got the "I made a horrible mistake" call and we started talking. We both agree that we shouldn't just jump back into a relationship without knowing it'll work. Things have been going great between us.
The only problem is whenever I think about her or text her I get anxious and when I see her I'm almost to the point of being physically sick at first and then I'm okay.
Before we started talking again I got to the point were I was pretty much over it all. I got my appetite back and was happy with everything. Now I'm really happy to be working things out with her but it's like my body isn't okay with it lol
Any ideas? | First love break up, talking again, going good but very anxious physically |
t3_27no98 | relationships | Me [25 M] with my [20F] girlfriend of 6 months. Spontaneous sex and she was really emotional. Now I'm confused. | A couple of nights ago she came to my apartment very early in the morning and she was an emotional mess. She was crying but she didn't want to talk about what was wrong. Then she started kissing me and got on top of me. I told her maybe we should wait until she stopped crying and sorted herself out, but she said something like, "No I need this right now".
Long story short, we had sex and both fell asleep. We woke up together and everything was fine. We never talked about why she was so emotional that night, and even though things are back to normal I still feel slightly confused.
That was the best sex we've ever had together, yet it was under such strange circumstances...If anyone can explain, please do. | Girlfriend came to my house crying and wouldn't tell me why she was so emotional. She insisted that we have sex, and now everything is normal again. I'm still confused. What happened? |
t3_1cn40j | relationships | My [20F] fiancé [22M] is exchanging sexual emails with (what he thinksis) another girl. More inside. | In short, I found a link in our computer's history. I was [incidentally] looking for a past Reddit link, when I came across it. I decided to investigate, seeing "sex" as part of the name. He says he never watches porn, so I thought I'd playfully catch him in an innocent lie. What I found was not so innocent.
It was a sex-seeking website that he had signed up for. I looked at his profile, and saw he was seeking a female for "flirtatious exchanges". He identified as single (no surprise). He even had a suggestive photo of himself on it. Needless to say, I was shocked and heartbroken. But then I saw that he had provided his e-mail address, which I know the password to.
So, I created a fake identity, and contacted him. The chat has progressed far beyond the boundary I had hoped he would enforce... He has even said that he would hook up with this [fake] girl.
We've been together for 3+ years. He says, sincerely I think, that he loves me. That he wants a future for us. But all of my trust has dissipated... Sadly, I've suspected this before. He thinks that as long as it isn't physical, he's done little wrong. I feel otherwise. I guess what I'm asking is... Now what? | Fiancé is doing what I consider cheating (and he does not), but with me in disguise. I love him, I believe he loves me. Where do I go from here? |
t3_1i82kh | relationships | Birth control discussion ends with boyfriend [20/m] telling me that I [22/f] "could use some estrogen." | I actually wasn't sure what subreddit to post this. I considered TwoX, but I think I could use more than just a female perspective on this, as I'm trying to understand my boyfriend's comment here.
The other night my boyfriend and I were on the topic of me getting on some form of birth control in the near future. I expressed my interest in the hormone-free options, to which my boyfriend responded "I don't know. I think you could probably use some estrogen."
I asked him what he meant by that, and all I really got out of him was that he thought I had a hormone deficiency. I was uninformed at the time, so my immediate reaction was defensive and accusatory, which I regret. "Are you saying that I'm manly? Is it because of my small breasts or my facial hair?" (It should be noted that I wax my facial hair, so it shouldn't even be a problem.)
My boyfriend then said "I'm just digging myself a hole here and you're setting me up for a trap so I'm just going to shut up."
We didn't talk anymore about it afterward, but I went online to research symptoms of low estrogen levels. To my surprise, many of the symptoms had less to do with my outward physical appearance (aside from the facial hair, which I don't even have too much of--just a little on my upper lip) and were more physiological and psychological.
Basically, I didn't really fit with most of the symptoms, so now I'm starting to wonder what my boyfriend meant by the comment, assuming he's just as uninformed as I was. I know the obvious solution would be to "just ask him," but as I said earlier, he refused to talk about it after my fit, so I think I ruined any possibility of talking it out at least for a while. Now I'm worried there are more issues than a concern for my health. | Boyfriend says I probably have an estrogen deficiency. Instead of calmly asking him what he meant, I ruined it by making assumptions and accusations. Now he won't talk about it. Later research suggests that I don't have a hormone deficiency, but I feel like I can't approach him after my outburst. Still worried this is a superficial issue rather than genuine concern for my health. |
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