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t3_2f8f05 | relationships | My gf [17 f] feels sorry for kid who has crush on her, when that kid knows she's with me [18 m] | So this kid has been crushing on my girlfriend since day one of our relationship. He's annoying and tries to be all romantic towards her saying stuff like "hey wanna come to my lake house in February?" And when she says she has a boyfriend, he says, "you won't in February!" At first I didn't mind this guy, he was persistent and that's cool and all. No harm no foul. But now it's starting to annoy me. He's always talked shit about me, TO MY GIRLFRIEND. She's way too nice a person to tell him off and I can't do it because she doesn't "want any drama in band" because she's at the highest position. The worst part is that she feels bad for him. I may be in the wrong here, but I think that's pretty fucked up. Blatantly talking shit about me and trying to steal my girlfriend and now I'm the villain? What do I do reddit? | kid tries to steal my girlfriend by talking mad shit about me, she feels bad for him. |
t3_2w9deu | relationships | Me [19 F] with my crush [20 M] is giving me mixed signals. What do I do, reddit? | So, a friend of mine that I've known since coming to college last semester has started acting really strange towards me. I don't mean to play the whole he said/she said thing, but the mutual friends that we have had been telling me things that he'd said about me recently, and he sounded extremely interested. I have feelings for him so this was great news to me.
We usually go out together with a group of people, we were under the influence if that makes any difference. We came back to our friend's house and slept in the extra bedroom together. We made out for a while and he tried to go farther, I said we shouldn't because I'm uncomfortable with sleeping with people I could potentially see myself dating. He was incredibly understanding and we continued to make out for a while. He was very sweet and rubbed my back and kissed my forehead, it was pretty awesome :)
Afterwards we texted for a little the next night, and that was it. Which I'm fine with, I'm not a huge texter nor am I a very clingy person.
Whenever I see him now besides fleeting eye contact, he doesn't really acknowledge my existence. This past weekend he told a mutual friend of mine that he couldn't see anything serious coming out of it, but he continues to text me when I know that he's been out drinking.
I know he had a girlfriend that broke his heart last semester, and I'm totally fine if he isn't ready for a relationship because of that, I have my own issues and I'm not sure either. But I could definitely see us having a future someday, we have a lot in common and he's a great guy.
I'm just trying to figure out his thought process. Should I continue to pursue him or should I just move on? | Guy I have a big crush on will sometimes act like he's interested and sometimes he won't, don't know how to feel about the mixed signals. |
t3_3bsx4h | relationships | My girlfriend [22/F] and I [22/M] are trying to start college this year..... | My girlfriend and I recently started talking about trying to get back into school, we both graduated together and started working instead of going back to school. Now, we have recently started to discuss about going back to school and she made it very clear that she wouldn't want to try and attend the same college together. I was a little bothered by that and wanted to get some advice on if I should be ok with the fact that she doesn't want to attend the same college. Oh and her only reason was that I would be a distraction if we attended the same school. | Girlfriend and I want to start college, Girlfriend does not want to attend the same college, Should I be bothered by that? |
t3_3bkj1g | legaladvice | Is Location a Factor in a Lawsuit (MI/CO) | Someone owes me a substantial amount of money and has agreed to pay the full amount. My problem is that I am moving out to Colorado from Michigan in the coming months. I really don't trust him to pay me once I move and have given filing suit a fair amount of thought. I am beginning to run out of time to do so and definitely would not like to deal with a legal battle while trying to move out of state at the same time. My question is do I need to file suit in MI, where the dispute took place, or can I do so once I move to CO? | Guy owes me money. Can I file suit in CO where I am moving or do I need to file in MI where dispute took place? |
t3_1wdgam | needadvice | Someone has started harassing me via email | Recently, I have had a number of emails sent from a Gmail account to my facebook email harassing me. Now without giving anything major away, I am good friends with a gay male, I myself however am straight with a girlfriend, (no this isn't the main issue and is not a relationship issue). He also has been receiving emails to his facebook from the same gmail account and is very worried since where he is from, if the fact that he was homosexual got back to his family, it could be life ruining.
The emails I received are along the lines of [this] and my friend just informed me said person believes we had sex, now again, if this was just me I wouldn't care since my family and friends are accepting of however I would live my life, it's more bothered about the audacity of the stranger to make whatever rumours they've heard their own business and then start harassing people. I'm just lost on how to handle this situation and would appreciate any advice you guys have. | Retarded stranger hears false rumours, decides to harass people. |
t3_4cpgv7 | relationships | Mom [52] called me [20 F] a whore after finding out I got a hotel room with a guy | So first of let me start by saying that my mother has grown to be a devoted Catholic with age, and your typical Mexican mother. I on the otherhand am not particularly religious, and really liberal compared to her.
I started talking seriously with a guy [21] who lives in another state and have started a long distance relationship after a month. He came down for the weekend to visit me and we both payed half for a hotel room so we could have some alone time. I told my mom I would be at my friend's and she went looking for me at said friend's house that night. I came home and lied to her about where i really was.
Two days later after he leaves, she finds the hotel receipt in my car (meaning she went around snooping in my car). She confronted me about it and started yelling and crying. She called me a whore, said I was prostituting my body, and other hurtful things. I told her that she doesn't understand my relationship with this guy and cut me off saying that she didn't care and that I failed her.
Because of this me and my boyfriend are stressed out, it's starting to affect our relationship. We both are scared this incident will damage our future together. I am at a lose here on how to fix this situation. What should I do to fix the relationship with my mom and how can I not to let it hurt my relationship with my boyfriend? | Conservative Catholic mother found out I practically paid for a hotel room to have sex with my long distance boyfriend whom she didnt know existed, called me a whore. Where do I go from here to fix my relationship with my boyfriend and her? |
t3_1dz3ap | loseit | 31/M/6'0 SW:230 - Hit my 215 milestone this morning (pics) | [Before and After Pics](
So a bit of background - last couple years I had my shit together and had gotten my weight down. Then in August, I had some issues with stress at work, stress at home, plus some other stuff that threw my routine out of whack. I was eating quick crappy meals on the go, sitting at my desk doing long hours, and then going home and downing a six pack. I wasn't sleeping all that well either. Entirely my fault, and I should have known better than to let it get that bad. That was from the months basically Aug-Feb.
So, flash forward to March, and I finally stepped on the scale again, and it shot up to 230.something. So this is my second month in of turning things around again. This is what I've been doing so far:
* MWF - Weight Training w/cardio before and after
* Keto diet - home cooked meals only
* Cal restriction - 1700, and trying to be diligent with MFP
* Drinking reduced to once per week, and a limit of 2 jiggers of carb free alcohol only. | I lost 15lb since April |
t3_4gwmod | relationships | Long distance relationship advice? | I [21M] met a girl [20] at a college political conference in Washington DC back in early March. We hit it off pretty much from the get-go and we hooked up on and off throughout the weekend. We talked and we liked each other and found that we had similar personalities and interests. I loved how motivated she was to take charge in her career and work hard to achieve her goals. That was a real turn on.
I am from New Jersey so I went back to school after the conference and she is from Florida so she went back to school after the conference as well. I had spring break two weeks after that so I was in Florida and she came to visit me for a night. Again, we hit it off and I couldn't help but like her more and more. Since being apart, we've continued conversation and we've expressed mutual interest in being together once done with school. Being so far apart has made it hard to envision that happening though. Recently she seems to be upset that we can't be together and has distanced herself from me by not answering calls or texts very frequently.
It has upset me because I genuinely like this girl. I know it seems ridiculous considering the brief time we've spent together but sometimes you just know! And I know that feeling is mutual. The bottom line here is I'm asking what should I do now? I want to talk to her all the time but it just seems pointless if we only will get to see each other every few months. I'm not sure how to continue the situation with her. Any help or insight into long distance relationships is greatly appreciated! | met a girl on trip that i fell for and we live very far away, want to know how i should continue the situation. |
t3_1clnwe | dogs | My pup is dramatically losing weight after switching food, is this a normal experience? | Before you suggest to take her to the vet, we have a vet appointment over the weekend, I just wanted to know if anyone has experienced this before and if I should be worried or if anyone has suggestions.
My 1.5 year old female German Shepherd is dramatically losing weight after switching food. Current known intolerance's: Grain and (now) Chicken
The original food was Nature's Variety Instinct: chicken (then beef) and I have recently switched to Wellness Core: Ocean Formula. Why the change? She recently developed an intolerance to chicken, and the next step up was beef, which she didn't like, rabbit formula, didn't like either or the salmon. I switched to the Wellness Core: Ocean formula because that seemed like the best decision and she loves it. I feed her the recommended amount with an extra 1/2 cup because of how usually active she is.
After switching food, she has been extremely tired and sleeps most of the day and has lost about 12lbs now after a month on new food. She's my running partner and she has started to refuse to go on runs as well as doesn't seem interested in doing her agility training (which she loves to do). Her stool is the same, in fact there's a major improvement. She is on heartworm/flea prevention Trifyxsis and has been for almost 6 months.
The vet told me previous during our last check up her perfect weight was where she was at (68lbs) and now she's at 56lbs, her ribs are starting to show. Usually I could only see like the outline of her entire ribcage, but now I'm seeing an outline for each rib, if that makes sense.
Thank you for any suggestions or experiences you have had when switching foods and if you simply resolved it by feeding them more. | Dog lost approx 12lbs within a month of switching to new dog food. She has become lazy and tired. Seeing vet this weekend for advice/ a check up. Just curious if this is slightly normal or something to that extent. |
t3_2vhlt7 | relationships | I [17 M] have a crush on a girl [15 F] who I see in school, but do not talk too much to. | I have known this girl for quite a while (3 years in fact) but never got to know her very well because of our age and grade difference. I knew her two older brothers who I am good friends with, this is how we first met and talked. Those conversations a few years ago were awkward (because of my own shyness back then), and through knowing her brothers I got to know her a little bit more over time (i.e. movie nights at there house, parties, etc.).
I haven't had a conversation with her in a year due to the aforementioned grade difference and her brothers are now at college. I do get to say 'hi' and 'how on you are' to her once in blue moon if we bump into each other in the hallways on the way to our classes. I feel as though it will be awkward to try to start a relationship after not having a real conversation in a while. | I have known my crush for a while; I feel as though it would be awkward if I were to ask her on a date after not talking to her for a year. |
t3_yt7it | Advice | Fucked up hard and idk what to do | Im in almost a year relationship. I went to a party and ended up messsin around with another girl. I absolutely understand that drinking is no excuse for what i did i just dont know what to do now. I feel like my gf deserves to know but ik she wouldnt forgive me and wed end up breaking up. Shes had alot of family issues and issues with friends and im pretty much the only person she can talk to about the important things and if she lost me shed be devastated and probably spiral into depression. I honestly do care about this girl alot i just dont know what would be the best thing for her. | Cheating on my gf and dont know where to go from here.. |
t3_tfj2p | AskReddit | Does anyone else hate the idea of superhero movies? | I know it's completely against the popular opinion to criticize superhero movies, but with The Avengers now having the highest-grossing opening weekend of all-time, it furthers my speculation that all these superhero movies are really just a moneymaking scheme that really lacks creativity or originality.
Now don't get me wrong, I don't want to criticize any movie in particular, because some of them, I've really enjoyed, (i.e. The Dark Knight, Spiderman) but all of them have nearly the exact same structure:
-Villain wreaks havoc
-Hero reluctant to fight villain
-Hero decides to fight villain
-Hero prepares to fight villain
-Hero fights villain
-Hero wins
-Order is restored
It seems like every one of these movies is the same thing.
Oh and lest I forget the multi-million dollar special effects budget consisting of a cornucopia of random explosions that may or may not have anything to do with the plot of the movie.
So basically reddit, I want to know if anyone else out there thinks that the whole idea behind superhero movies is kind of dumb? | Every superhero movie is the same, save for some savvy special effects. |
t3_41npbp | relationships | I'm [27F] with my spouse [34M] of seven years are unsure about children in MY late 30's or early 40's. Do you think that having children that late in life if your husband is 7 years older than you is a bad idea? | We have not had children yet and I am feeling pressured and rushed/hurried. I'm not quite sure why as no one is really around urging us to do so. I'm not even sure we want them but I think that comes from not quite being ready yet. Every time we discuss children we end up saying, "Maybe later, but not right now." I'm okay with that, but I'm wondering when too late would be.
Are there any of you out there that have had children that late in life or know of anyone that have had children much later? Can you speak on your own or their experiences? What was it like? Regrets? Issues?
I'm just a little worried, I suppose... | My husband seems to be against the idea of having kids that late in his life, but I have so many things I want to do and finish. Is there a bright side to this? Can there be a compromised reached between us? |
t3_1wfv9c | relationships | [56 F] with my husband [60 M] feels like we don't have the same humor and we don't have fun. | So, we have been married for 20 years, with two kids. It feels like he is in his own little world, I feel like he just goes to work and watches tv. I feel like he sometimes doesn't really care. He doesn't have the same sense of humor that I have, he's too sensitive and thinks I'm hurting his feelings when I tease him. It's complicated because he jokes around a lot and is goofy, yet he can be serious and cant really relax and see the funnier things in life. It is a huge issue because I want to be able to laugh and have fun with my husband. | Me and my husband don't click as much anymore humor-wise, what do I do? |
t3_1up3fk | AskReddit | What would society be like if life was really easy? (serious) | I don't know if this has been asked before, but I am genuinely curious and eager to hear the different perspectives (or one, if there happens to have a general consensus)
There is always the saying of "you never know what you have until you lose it" and the notion of "appreciate what you have" behind it; with that, I have gone everyday being aware of my positions/circumstances in life and thus learned to appreciate what I have and still strive for other things without forgetting where I came from.
I bring up this up because I had a conversation with a friend that said the usual sentiment of "why is life so hard". Obviously, we discussed the clichéd answers such as "life is hard because it forces us to find our individual drives/priorities in life, self-worth, develop values/morals, etc", and in general, it creates a standard (whether good or bad).
But what I want to know is, what would happen to society in terms of social, economics, political, (the list goes on) if life was really simple. Would we really be happy? Would it really fix some of our problems today? | Please Expand on what a realistic scenario could be if our world allowed us to acheive/obtain whatever we want without any hardships (ie jobs, $$, world peace etc) (take into account the effects on all socio-eco-politco aspects of life) |
t3_3c9j4l | tifu | TIFU by using firework | Obligatory "Obligatory this happened yesterday"
So, every Fourth Of July I go and spend $300 on big firework shells and mortars and pretty much every firework my local fireworks stand has. This summer I am visiting my friend in California and money is a bit tight so I decided to only get some small things like sparklers and snakes and Pop-its and pretty much anything they had that was under $3. Last night (The 4th) I go and use them and everything but then I realize, I have some Fireworks from last year. Most of them were broken or didn't go off but then there was this one. It was a plastic rocket (not like a standard firework rocket like this, this one had fins and a nosecone, like this.) Anyways, I go into the middle of my street and make sure no cars are coming, set down my rocket and tell everybody that I'm going to show them something cool. I run up and light it, run back and watch. This is where the FU happens. Apparently one of the fins was bent and when the rocket launched, it went straight through my neighbor's second-story bedroom window, shattering the glass. | Year-old fireworks are a window's natural born enemy |
t3_du7me | AskReddit | Hit a small bump in my LDR. What sexy, fun things can you suggest to my boyfriend to do over our webcam chats? | I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of 4 years. We're both 22. Although we have great sexual chemistry when together, sometimes the time between our visits is drawn out, and I start to get a little bored of the same thing he does every time we go to the webcam.
Usually he just jerks it, and will slow down or show me a close-up of everything if I ask. I've asked him to just be sexy as himself and do what he thinks I'd like to see, but he has a really tough time with this for some reason. I think it has something to do with him feeling self-concious as a male and not knowing what acting "sexy" should be like?
Honestly, I'm not even sure what specific techniques I can tell him to use. I've asked him about a few things (stripping, touching himself in different ways) but he never seems to get enough instruction from what I tell him. What can I say, I guess I suck at being creative outside my own being.
Have any of you redditors out there been in a similar situation? What did you or your male SO start doing to turn up the heat in your LDR? I'd love to hear suggestions, ideas, and personal stories. | The only thing missing in my LDR is sexy variety in what my boyfriend does over the webcam. What do you do specifically to turn on your SO through pictures and video? Any suggestions? |
t3_2c7fyq | relationships | I'm (M/ 21) having trouble regarding what to do with my GF (20) | Since the beginning of our current 6 month relationship, she has made me to look like the bad person in our relationships. That I do this wrong, I do that wrong. It got to the point where I "screwed" up so much, she broke up 2 Sundays ago. She wanted to work things out 2 days later on Tuesday.
As time went on, I felt that all along, she has a guilty conscience and blamed me because she felt bad. Turns out, the night we broke up, she slept with someone. As well as next day. She swears she feels bad and loves me. Idk what to do. P.S. I'm leaving for the Army in 3 months. Hoo-ah. | GF broke up with me because I was a bad bf apparently, slept with someone else the same day and following day of our breakup. Idk what to do. |
t3_2upzfv | relationships | Me [29 F] with my husband of over 5 years, together over 9 [30 M] he's going bald and is starting to get that Trump thing, help. | Okay, short and sweet, he's been losing his hair since he was like 22, it's gradually gotten worse. Now, 8 years later, his almost comb-over flops around and it's just kind of silly at this point. I don't care how his hair looks, even though I'm a hairstylist, but YEESH.
Here's the thing, he'd look sexy as hell bald! He's got this banging bone structure, BEAUTIFUL eyes (people think they're contacts,) he's hella fit, wears awesome glasses and has this great beard! His lack of hair would IN NO WAY diminish how hot he is, he's a gorgeous boy! His KEEPING of hair is, at this point, a little wonky.
But every time I bring it up he gets SO DAMN TOUCHY, and trust me I have brought this up every way I can think of!!! Look, I kind of get it, it's terrible to feel like you're losing your hair and therefore your vitality, or youth or whatever, but seriously, he's looking older than he should with this ridiculousness about his hair. | Please help, husband is being kinda silly about his whole hair situation. |
t3_lkx20 | AskReddit | In a bit of a dilemma... About a girl (As per usual) | Okay, so basically, I'm just finishing school, and through the last 5 years of it, I've had an on and off crush on this one girl. I mean, I dated other people, but only because I was sure she didn't feel the same way.. Mostly. But in the last couple of months, she has been flirting with me heaps, it's really noticeable and I would probably even have a chance.
Here comes the but-
Another one of my good friends recently confessed to me that he also has a crush on her (He doesn't know that I do as well though)
And he's asked me to help him out with that, because he knows I'm really close with her.
Obviously I don't want to sabotage him or anything, but I get this awful feeling whenever I talk him up to her, because I know it's just hurting myself.. | My friend and I like the same girl, he doesn't know it and I agreed to help him but it's harder than I thought. |
t3_50it3g | relationships | Me [25 F] and my crush [29 M] are supposed to go on a date this week. But he never contacts me. Should I try to forget him now? | So this guy I know seems really great. He's smart, talented, nice, attractive, etc. But I think he's kind of a "ladies' man." We were talking on fb messenger and set up a date for this weekend, but never made definite plans (like where we are going to go). I've been waiting for him to contact me, and I've messaged him, but I don't want to seem too desperate.
He's always really cool/interested when we talk, but he never initiates convos. I have a feeling he's going to stand me up for our date :(.
I haven't had a relationship in a really long time, so I have no idea what to do. I guess I am little desperate.
Oh and I've known him about six months. We've been flirting on and off the whole time. | Does this guy actually like me or should I just give up now? |
t3_3b9o2z | tifu | TIFU by burning my balls with hot metal | Judge me how you will, while prepping for bed time i began to take a dab off of my rig. It helps me sleep, and has become a nightly ritual for my insomnia. But, because of a miscommunication with some friends, I had left my blow torch at a buddy's house, leaving me with very few options.
Lacking my usual tools, i elected to heat the skillet with three lighters. I managed to arrange the three in my hands and light the damn thing for about 2 minutes straight to get it optimally hot. It worked for the most part, but now its covered in soot so i'm pretty unsure of how it will work.
In my fumbling awkwardness, i flung one of the lighters between my legs after the whole process felt complete. Unbeknownst to me, the lighter had cooked to boiling lava hot and scalded first my inner thigh and then singed my nesting eggs.
i snatched the lighter up, flung it away, grabbed the dabber, and i grimaced as i dabbed my face off to rid the pain of the scrotum scorched.
worked perfectly | tried to get high, made metal hot, burned balls :( but still got high so its pretty tight |
t3_2sio0u | Pets | Telling if Dogs are happy? | I was just wondering if anyone here has any strategies to tell if a dog is happy?
I have two dogs, both around two years old (I think, my memory is surprisingly bad and wow does it make me feel bad), a shih tzu and a maltese bichon, the former being the older by a month. If you have any tips for these dogs to tell if they are happy please let me know!
Why do I think they are unhappy, we have a family of five not counting the dogs, and my mother is a music teacher so we all have to go to school, leaving our dogs at the house for around 8 hours just by themselves, then when we get home they get excited, but they end up looking so sad after a while, if you need pictures let me know. | my dogs look sad and I get worried we aren't good owners. |
t3_1up1i0 | relationships | I [20]cannot trust my girlfriend[21] of over a year. Ive grown to hate my own relationship, | So basically since I dont want to give a wall of text so I might be vauge, and if you need clarification feel free to ask (I will try to respond as timely as possible). SOOO me and my gf started seeing each other as friends with benefits and it was casual I knew she had gotten around a little, but hey, its college, then after I while I wanted a relationship (because honestly I was treating her like a girlfriend anyways) why not put a title it?
well after she reluctantly agreed to a real title of girlfriend, so after about 3 months of dating I found why she was so reluctant, she was still talking to her ex EVERYDAY. and she also then told me she had HPV, even more awesome, I stuck it out with her because I was struggling with depression due to college, not her, and I didnt see any one sleeping with me ever again.
So i made her make a decision, it was either me or him. She chose him, I went on with my life, then she found me at a party two weeks after, we were mature, went on our ways, then she texted me saying how much she missed me the next day, told me she would stop talking to him. she did stop talking to him, then a month later she started talking to him again (I literally had to check her phone), then stopped for a little, started again, stop start, stop start, lie lie lie lie lie lie lie,
anyways, basically here were are now, she hasn't talked to him in OVER 3 months now, she actually hates him now, like honestly I think she hates him now (mainly because after she blocked him on everything, he found her reddit page and messaged her, where she found out that he had made memes about her, shows of how little substance that douche is) anyways, she doesnt like him, however, i still think she is lying ALL THE TIME, like about anything. reddit, how do I fix this, I cant seem to leave her, or im just too scared | Gf lied about talking to ex, gave me an std, hurt me, and now that its over (Im pretty sure) I still cant get over the past. |
t3_3boak4 | tifu | TIFU by ruining a long-time friendship by accident | This happened last month and I still can't get over it.Me and my friend are close to each other for nearly 30 years(Im 34 and he is 35 right now).We lived in the same apartment and we went to same schools, even university.We were living in the same place till last week as well.One day I was coming from work and It was 10 PM because I was just not able to finish my work. It is pretty dark and our street lights weren't working for 3 days.I was really tired so I didn't pay much attention to the road.Right I was about to park, his 6 year old kid who was playing on the road jumped right in front of my car.I suddenly panicked and accidentally accelerated even more which resulted his kid to fly 5-6 meters ahead.I took him to the hospital with his family as quick as possible but in the end it was nothing serious.
But the real problem started next day.First, he started to act a bit cold to me.Later on, when I come to his house, he literally send his kid to his own room and didn't let me see him because he needed to sleep at 1 PM for some reason. I eventually stopped coming to his house.It was like I hit his child on purpose when I clearly didn't. This went on and on until they moved from this city because he found a really god job which is straight up a lie since later I learned from his friends that he was looking for a job after he moved there.Now I can't even communicate with him since he doesn't answer any of my calls or messages. | I hit my long-time friend's child with a car by accident, he started to don't let me even see his child and eventually he moved from here and now I can't even communicate. |
t3_mtxgo | AskReddit | Put down non-professional references for a job, help! | I know this sounds really stupid, but most jobs that I've had before have never given two shits about my references so I usually put down the friends that I've known the longest.
Flash forward to today, my friend calls me saying he got flustered and didn't know what to say, hoping he didn't ruin my chances.
With the interview, everything went fantastically. The guy even said to call if I had any questions until he called me back. He said he definitely wanted to hire me.
This seems like a really small thing to freak out about, but I've been out of work for almost two months and I really hope I'm landing this job. I don't want to mess up any chances. Should I call the guy back and offer more references or let this ride? | I fucked up by putting down non-professional references for a professional job. What should I do? |
t3_3hgdte | relationships | Me [35F] with my fwb [32M] of 2months, everthing was perfect until this... | "Just don't fall in love with me. You will fall in love before I do, if ever."
We started talking online, I was very clear that I did NOT want anything serious because I am fresh out of a 14 year relationship and I am a very busy person. He agreed that he was busy as well and we met a few times and, to me, had a perfect fwb situation.
He would text every day throughout the day. I would reply. When he said this comment out of nowhere, it made me mad. I never changed anything. For him to throw it out made me feel like i was being clingy but he said he just wants to put it out there. I sort of told him off and he wont talk to me anymore.
Im so confused, i miss his friendship. Did I over react? Has anyone said this or had it said to them? | Did I overeact to being told not to fall in love? |
t3_dqyjw | Pets | Feral cats are taking over my town, killing the native animals and house pets. Is it ethical to cull them? | It has been recently estimated by a reputable animal rescue group that there are in excess of 10,000 feral cats in my town. They have killed my pet chickens as well as several of my neighbors chickens (it is legal and not uncommon to have up to 4 chickens in your back yard in my town) They have killed at least 2 house cats in my neighborhood and a multitude of squirrels and possums, destroyed all of the bird's nests in my yard and killed all of the frogs and toads in the pond behind my house.
At this point I want to just take a gun and start capping them. trapping would have to be done on an industrial scale, but there is no shelter big enough to take thousands of cats. Animal rights groups are preventing the city from poisoning them. Basically, they are just being left to breed. I live in the south with mild winters, so nature will not help.
Any advice would be appreciated. | Feral cats have taken over my town. |
t3_3373rs | Advice | Internal Crisis About YouTube Channel | I'm 16, by the way. I run a small YouTube channel (32 subscribers) where I make gaming videos. They're not too bad, I suppose. I typically get good review and comments.
The channel has been a dream of mine for almost three years now. (Read: I want to be a YouTube sensation, think Yogscast or Markiplier) It's just... It's not going how I planned it to. I've been at it almost five months, with very little real progress to show. I've spent countless hours recording and uploading footage, even making thumbnails for most of my videos, with only 32 subscribers (mostly friends), and a little under 3,000 views (mostly from posting to various subreddits).
I'm beginning to think that the whole thing is a waste of time. I think about all the things that I could be doing with my time, like spending more time working on my novel planning and short stories. I do just fine in school As and Bs, and the SAT was no sweat at all. I'm considering just giving the whole thing up, and deleting my channel. I see myself, who only has 32 subscribers after five months, and I wonder if it's really worth it.
Anyone have any advice? Should I keep at it? Delete my channel? | YouTube channel isn't going well. Should I give it up? |
t3_3w3ofj | relationships | Me [19 F] felt something strange with this guy in my class [19 M] can anybody help me put words to this? | Okay so one day in one of my college classes, I randomly started talking to this really gorgeous guy. I had already talked to a few people in that class, but I felt something strange with this guy. We just randomly started talking about the upcoming test and about how the how much the online homework sucks, and somehow the conversation quickly led to me talking about my cousin, living in England, who was having a mental breakdown. I don't know how the conversation even got me there, I normally don't talk to people about my extended family unless I'm drunk.
That night I couldn't stop thinking about him. It was all so immediate. I haven't even felt that way, that quickly about my previous crushes and boyfriends. I've dated really sweet, good looking guys before who never made me feel like this. The next few times in class, we just chatted to each other about stuff that was going on in the class. He was laughing at all of my jokes and everything. Once I came to class stoned and I told him I was high, and he was just laughing and talking about how much he loves weed and we talked about a show we both enjoyed. We would just talk to each other and he seems to find me pretty funny.
When he helps me with my homework, sometimes he seems to just invade my personal space without thinking about it. when we touch elbows or feet, he doesnt move away. This whole thing is very strange. I got his number so I could get homework help, but he never tries to contact me or anything.
I don't know what this even is. I was dating a guy at the time I met him for about 2 months, and he never made me feel this way. What is even going on here? Why do I feel this way? Now that winter break is rolling in, what should I do about all of this? AM I GOING CRAZY?!? | I felt this strange connection with a guy in my class after one conversation. What is even going on here? |
t3_4nwct8 | relationships | My fiancé [27M] quit his job and I'm [25F] going crazy being home with him | As the title says, my fiancé quit his job recently, just over a month ago. His job sucked and he absolutely should have quit it, and since we have a lot of money in savings I told him to not even bother waiting until he found a new job because I saw how unhappy it was making him. We've been in a relationship for 3 years and we're getting married in two months so our finances are completely combined.
I work from home and travel a few times a month (sales) but since my company's HQ is in another country there isn't an office I can go to. I absolutely loved working from home before, but now that my fiancé is home it is really screwing things up for me. I had established a routine that worked really well for me and I feel like he isn't respecting it. He constantly wants to be with me, wants to eat every meal with me, wants to talk about how my day is going. I know it's shitty of me to be upset about this but with travelling so much it feels like the times that I'm working from home I'm relaxing. I'm very introverted so that alone time is important to me.
In an average day he will come to see me at least 15 times. He just asks how things are going, if I'm planning any new trips, etc. The reason I haven't put my foot down about the constant distractions is I can see his ego is really hurting from being unemployed for so long and I feel bad because he just wants my attention. What can I do to help him? | My fiancé is unemployed and bothers me when I work from home. |
t3_1lmrx3 | tifu | TIFU by trying to light a cigarette | I was at a party out at a friend's house. Decent sized event; bonfire, beer pong, barbecue, heavy drinking; the type of thing I'd typically avoid like the plague but a buddy of mine and his girlfriend really want to go so I do.
I only knew the friend and the couple that I rode with, and I'm designated driver, so naturally I'm bored as shit and not talking to anyone. I begin to pretty much chain-smoke, as I am wont to do in situations of extreme boredom The male of the couple has had a couple of mixed drinks so he's a wee bit toasted and we get to chitty chatting.
I pull out another cigarette to light. He asks for one, which I obligingly give to him. He then gets a brilliant idea. He dares me to try and light my cigarette in the campfire. Remember at this point, that I am completely sober and my friend is the drunk one.
I figure it'll add some excitement to this party if I give it a shot, so I pop the cigarette into my mouth and begin to bend over the fire. I lean in closer and closer inching my way towards it, until at the last second I remember that my hair is longer than I usually keep it. I flinch back and pull my hair back and begin to lean in once more.
As I finally get close enough to the fire to light my cigarette, a plume of fire bursts up and catches me right in the face. Out of panic, I let go of my hair which drops into the fire and catches along with my now burnt eyebrows and eyelashes. I stand straight up realizing I'm on fire. All those years of schools teaching you "Stop, Drop and Roll" are nice, but they don't really do shit for you when you're actually on fire.
I take off running, thinking maybe if I run fast enough it'll blow the fire out... It doesn't. I finally catch eye of a small kiddie pool that my friend has set up and throw myself into it face first. The fire is now out. Worst part of all, my face caught but my cigarette didn't so I didn't even succeed in the dare. We left the party shortly thereafter | I lit my face on fire trying to light a cigarette in a campfire and put it out in a kiddy pool. |
t3_2ca674 | tifu | TIFU by slippin' n' slidin'. | This was years ago, it was the first day of summer after I had finished Kindergarten and that meant it was time to break out the slip n' slide. If you lived a sadly un-garnished childhood and don't know what a slip n' slide is, it's a long ass track of rubber with a pool at the end, the intent being to let a water hose run water along the track and into the pool, allowing kids to slide along it. It fuckin' rocked, and I lived on a steep hill at the time, so it rocked even harder. So, my friend and I are taking turns going down the slide, trying to best each other with stupid little "tricks" as we go down the slide when I decide I'll go down the slide knees first while air-guitaring. All is well on the initial descent, until I hear a loud, internal snapping sound and am suddenly on my side crying the biggest cry I have ever cried. I had twisted my femur to the point of snapping in half on a mother lickin' slip n' slide. My mom rushes over, my dad comes outside, and my friend runs home in a panic. (He lives across the street) I'm telling my parents that I broke my leg, but my dad ain't having none of that. He sits me down and BENDS my LEG mother of GOD what an asshole. He decided it was broken when he could see my leg expand as it bent outwards. So then, two hospitals later, and I get to spend the entirety of my summer in bed in a half body cast. It did not fuckin' rock. | Broke my femur on a slip n' slide, spent summer in half body cast. |
t3_1sy2te | relationships | I [29/M] feel neglected/needy since moving in with my girlfriend [28/F] of 4 years | My girlfriend and I moved in together earlier this year and since then I feel like I've become really needy/insecure, but also like I'm not an important priority in her life.
She has a job she loves where all her coworkers are her friends, and she goes out with them at least once a week. She also travels quite a lot with work. I don't have such a good relationship with my coworkers, and most of my non-work friends are her friends too. I'm quite a homebody and I only like going out once a week or so.
Since we've moved in I've felt like she isn't interested in spending time with me. I'm the sort of person who doesn't really like doing anything on my own whereas she does like time alone, so weekends are often quite frustrating: I'd like us to hang out together around the apartment together while she wants to read alone etc. We always do things in the weekend evenings but that doesn't seem like enough, especially if we've only spent time together for one evening during the week.
I have two problems, which are connected. When she's out with her coworker friends I feel quite jealous and paranoid (even though intellectually I don't think there's anything to worry about). And in general I feel like she doesn't like spending time with me as much as I do with her, and it's making me feel bad. It feels like we only spend 2-3 evenings together a week and rarely do much together during the weekend days.
I've tried to talk about this to her before but it's hard not to come over as needy and insecure, which I don't want to do, and I don't even know if I'm in the right or if I have unrealistic or unfair expectations. She isn't the best person at following through on something when we've talked about it so I feel like I end up saying the same thing again and again. | I've started feeling insecure and unimportant to my girlfriend and I don't know how to talk about it without sounding whiny/needy. |
t3_fra2j | AskReddit | I have a GF who simply will not trust me whatever I do... how can I change this? | My GF and I have been together for 6 years and every time I work late or want to just go out with my buddies she flips out. I feel totally smothered by her demanding questions every time I do anything outside of work or home. She's bi-polar and sometimes goes off her meds. When this happens she gets a little depressed and all sorts of scenarios run through her head. She thinks I'm giving up or looking for a way out of the relationship, that I'm letting her down somehow, orsecretly dating someone else with the intention of leaving her one day. There are other times she thinks I'm deliberately hurting her and no matter what I say she never believes me.
What would you do? | I want my GF to know that I'm never gonna give her up, let her down, run around and desert her. |
t3_31obiv | relationships | Me [20 M/] started dating [18/F]. Find out her mom is the Vice Dean of my department at my university. How important is it to be wary for myself? | About a month ago I started dating a new girl. Two dates in or so I discover that her mother is the Vice Dean of the College of Science at my university, where I happen to be studying physics.
It wasn't until a day or two ago that I actually realized the potential implications if my relationship with her daughter were to go extremely south.
So now my fear is that in the event of a messy break up, her mother might take it upon herself to smear my name in my department and prevent me from getting into grad school or such.
Obviously there are measures I can take to react to that, but who knows how effective they may be.
Am I being paranoid? Is it something to discuss with the daughter? Would it be better for me to break things off now before it gets very serious? | Started dating a girl. Her mother has a position of power in my education that could affect my future. Not sure how to approach this. |
t3_2wtgvl | tifu | TIFU by giving my # to a guy on Grindr | Ok, so this happened like half an hour ago. Basically, would never date a man, but I like to have a little fun now and then. Thus, Grindr. I messaged this guy and he messaged me back--all seemed well and he asked for my number so we could text instead. Nbd, right? Wrong. He then sent me a face pic (I know, why didn't I get that first) and I found that I REALLY was not attracted to him. So I Apologized and backed out.
Now he's pissed and threatening to post my number on all sorts of pages on Facebook, backpage, and whatever else. Thankfully, he doesn't have any face pics. He gripe about being unattractive and always being rejected so I tried to explain to him that he's not ugly, just not my type. After much coaxing in vain, he sent me a pic of his middle finger and I expect to have sexual inquiries any minute now.
Oh yeah and I forgot to mention I'mean at a military installation and he wants to put that number on that Facebook page. FML. He does not have my name or face. | gave my number to a grown child and he'said trying to possibly screw my reputation or at the very least inconvenience me. |
t3_1u2ib9 | relationships | How do I [21 F] keep up NC with my ex [22 M]? | We dated for over a year, but because of school and work (and many other situational complications), had been on and off for the last few months. I formally ended things a week ago when he told me that he still thought of me as being "the one" for him, but was beginning to become interested in the idea of seeing other people while he was still young. As much as I want to hate him, I'm still crazy about him. This is the third day I've been NC (no contact). No matter what I do, I cannot get him out of my head. It is making me physically sick. Before we broke up, we had NYE plans. Now I'm spending it at home alone. | Trying NC (no contact) and I'm going crazy. I'm spending New Years alone and need tips and distractions on how to avoid calling or texting him. |
t3_2v7h2h | Advice | Helping a family member with PTSD | My brother-in-law is suffering from PTSD. He hasn't been officially diagnosed but it is quite clear that he is. He is in the military and has served multiple times in Iraq and Afghanistan. He and my sister have a big family and this is greatly affecting their lives and my life because I get dragged into it.
Without going into a lot of details about things he does, my question is what is the protocol for this with the military? My sister is afraid of reporting him for treatment because she needs the insurance. It will cost $2000/month to cover the family and that is with the bare minimum. He has a few more years left before he retires from the military. Because of their religion divorce isn't really something she is considering. I told her to send him to a private counselor (non-military) but she said they will still report him to the military regardless. Will the military be made aware of this and will he get kicked out for having PTSD? | What is the USA military's stance on soldiers with PTSD? Will seeking treatment mean the end of the military career? |
t3_1gctac | personalfinance | Canadian student in America -- denied credit card. | Hey --
I'm a Canadian student attending medical school in America at a well-respected university. I bank with TD both in Canada in and in the States, and my acceptance into the program has allowed me both to get interest-free student loans back in Canada, and a fairly substantial student line of credit, with a parent co-sign.
TD trumpets their cross-border banking offerings, including the ability to apply for US credit cards using your Canadian credit history. I tried this a few weeks back -- not because I need the credit, but because I want to start building a more general American credit history, and maybe take advantage of various rewards programs. Sadly, I was hit with this rejection:
**Your income is not sufficient in relation to your amount of debt**
My income is basically negligible, as a full time student -- say $5000 a year for summer research, and $1000 on investments. And my debt will continue to grow each year until the end of the program, naturally; it's currently around $20k/
Is there any recourse for me? Is it not possible for college students in America to get credit cards, given their combination of debt and low income? Does acceptance into a professional program not aid credit card acquisition?
It's not free (as far as I know) to get one's credit score in Canada, but you do have free access to your credit report, which I've posted [here.] As far as I can tell, I have no delinquencies, good credit, and my score should be high. Am I missing something?
[ | Med student denied credit card because of low income + student loans; confused, lost, and alone.] |
t3_2a7qhs | tifu | TIFU [NSFW Image] By sending my friends porn collection to my teacher... | Let me preface this by saying that there is some NSFW Language in this post.
So a few months back my friend and I were doing a year 11 sose assignment on the effect of media on today's youth. My friend had found lots of images of children sitting in front of the TV, on the computer or texting on their phones and I had started working on the text for the power-point. On Tuesday (1 day before the assignment was due) my friend gave me a 2TB hard drive (he was going away for a few weeks to New Zealand). He said that the the images for the power point were under the name "Photo Downloads" so, I plugged the hard drive in, there were about 7 or so folders called Photo Downloads so I clicked on the first one (I was a fucking idiot and didn't check any of them because it was) and pasted all the files into a drop box account and sent the link to my teacher along with the power point. about 20 minutes later she sent back an email (also CC'ed to my friend) asking "What is the topic that you have chosen for your assignment, I have you listed as doing the effects of media on the children of today", I sent an email back saying yes, thats what we were doing, she sent back another email saying the pictures aren't exactly appropriate for your topic. Please see me tomorrow and we will discuss the course of action that needs to be taken. I quickly flipped back to Dropbox and clicked on the very first picture....... [This](
Anyway I saw my teacher and explained to her the whole thing, she seemed surprisingly lenient on the punishment considering that I sent her a picture of two lesbians... My friend got two days detention and I got let off. | I sent my Year 11 Sose teacher my friends lesbian porn |
t3_3w5yt9 | relationships | Is it appropriate for me (28F) to kick out this roommate (30F)? | I've lived in my apartment for 5 years, and have had many roommates. My landlord fully trusts me and doesn't even require them to sign leases. She does have them submit a rental application with all their info and deposits, and so far everyone's stayed at least a year with no issues at all.
anyway, this roommate moved in 4 months ago. at first, she had a job at a law firm and worked typical hours. Not sure if she was fired or quit, but now it seems she just works some nights a week at a restaurant. She spends literally all day every day at home watching TV, and 60% of the time she's super hungover. She also leaves huge piles of dishes, usually not longer than a couple days but i still find this gross since she does absolutely nothing else with her time.
im just really put off by this and wish I had someone who was more productive with his/her life. when i met her she did say she was a homebody but she at least worked during the day.
I know my landlady would have no problem with me finding someone else as she trusts my judgement, but i've never wanted to kick someone out like this before. Wondering if I'm being too judgmental and should get over it? If not, what's the best way to approach this conversation with her? | new-ish roommate does nothing with her life, wondering if i have the right to kick her out. |
t3_36wlje | legaladvice | Tenant needing ethical/legal advice for ditching lease | A brief backstory: So I have been living in a college apartment for 5 months now (of a 7 month lease) in New York. When I moved into my apartment, the landlord handed me a copy of the lease but forgot to have me sign it. Before I moved in, I sent the landlord a check for 2 months rent and one month security. Not only have I not signed a lease but the landlord has not collected rent from me besides the security deposit. He just recently "remembered" and has asked for the back rent plus the 2 remaining months of rent. There is only 2 months left on the "lease" and since I just graduated college, I am ready to move out.
My question is since I have not signed a lease, would my landlord be able to take any legal action if I were to move out in the middle of the night without his knowledge? He has my full name and address from the first check I sent him but that is all the info he has on me. I know this is highly unethical but legally speaking, what wiggle room do I have to work with? | Never signed lease. Can I move out without landlord's knowledge to skip out on a few months of rent? |
t3_kzwzn | AskReddit | What non-Apple phone can I switch to if they announce an iPhone 4S as the new phone? | I've had an Apple iPhone ever since the first one came out, buying each new model every summer, until the iPhone 4. I was deployed overseas at the time of the 4's release so I decided to sit this one out, and just wait for the 5. That was before I knew they were going to delay it to October. Now I feel like if I've waited this long and all they're going to throw at me after 16 months is an updated 4, I'm going to be a bit upset. All of my smart phone experience has been with Apple so I ask you, Reddit, what is a great, comparable phone that I can switch to out of Apple protest if they don't deliver a new model? | what's a great smartphone besides the iPhone? |
t3_21gmtd | relationships | I [20m] left my girlfriend of four years [20f]. I'm new at break ups. I don't know when I'll recover from the guilt. | I broke up with my girlfriend of four years last week.
We love each other, but we couldn't be together anymore. She suffered a mental illness that made her resent and control me, and I was only ever deepening her suffering by resisting. We had differing spiritual beliefs and different values. I wasn't good for her. I had no choice. I had to be the stronger one and let her go, before we ruined both our lives fighting a hopeless cause.
It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. She was heartbroken. Hysterical. I can't get the image out of my mind. She was pleading with me, holding onto my arms and refusing to let go, insisting that she could try harder, that we could make it work. She had a panic attack and almost fainted. Her eyes were so desperate and miserable.
I am in so much anguish and pain. I feel so deeply guilty. I can't imagine how she's suffering right now. Whenever I remember that night and remember her eyes, I feel as if I have murdered someone. Far beyond the pain of losing someone I cared for so deeply is the guilt of leaving someone that needed me so much. Trusted me.
I feel as if I've killed her, and with every passing day I'm killing her again.
When does it end? When will I be free of the guilt? | Broke up with a girl I love, wracked with guilt over her suffering. |
t3_3cvoxc | personalfinance | I am getting older, and I need advice. | I am a twenty seven year old male. I have a BA from UC Santa Barbara in English with a minor in Global Studies. I was a liberal arts major, and I take full responsibility for that.
The only jobs I've had since graduating college were: folding clothes at the mall, working at a call center, and now I am knocking on doors for $12.00.
I don't think there has ever been a single year where I made more than $20,000. I am getting older now, and I currently live at home with my parents. They are financially comfortable. I am very unsure what to do about my future.
There have been quite a few times where I move across the country by myself, just to end up working a low paying job and living paycheck to paycheck in a craigslist bedroom...inevitably moving back home with my parents again.
I guess I am looking for my first break. What the hell do I do about my life. I have 8k in savings. | 27 years old, liberal arts degree, stuck working menial jobs. |
t3_fe0jo | relationship_advice | One of my best friends is making me feel guilty | Long story short. One of my best friend's aunt owns a beach house in our area. My friend thought it would be a great idea for her and her bf, me and my bf, and her friend and her bf (these last two I don't know) to go there and spend Valentines day weekend together.
I wasn't very comfortable with the idea, for 3 main reasons.
1. It's Valentine's day weekend. Valentines day is for couples, not friends.
2. The other two people I don't know. Not worried that they're dangerous or anything, but it could potentially be awkward.
3. My bf is unemployed. Money is very tight for him, and since it is her aunt's house and her aunt is also in an uncomfortable financial situation (who isn't), she needs us to pay. I wouldn't mind, but my bf would have trouble. I could pay for him, but he won't allow it.
I've expressed all 3 concerns to her and she brushes them off and goes on to say how much fun we'll all have. I'm really at a loss for how to tell her we don't want to go. She's one of the types to take that fact personally, and I don't want to hurt her feelings.
She has even gotten desperate to get me to go, and sent me a text message last night offering to pay for me and my bf, and do extra work for her aunt to make up the difference. [This] is the conversation this morning following that text message.
I'm really at a loss for words here. How do I tell her that my bf and I don't really feel comfortable going, without hurting her feelings? Again, she is super emotional about this type of thing and WILL take it personally. | Friend is offering to pay for the bf and I to spend Valentines day weekend with her and 2 people we don't know. I simply do not feel comfortable and she will take it personally if I tell her that. |
t3_2cnzxu | relationships | I'm [M/18], I recently started talking to a girl [F/18] who is way out of my league and I am unsure if she actually wants to talk to me. | I'll start by saying that many people introduce me to new acquaintances as "the nicest guy in the world." I guess even "nice guys" have their own personal issues as much as the next guy. That being said, I have one friend who I can honestly call a true best friend, along with a few people who know that I'd be alone watching TV if it wasn't for them. I'm always there for anyone if they need someone to listen to them, but I rarely find myself in that situation. I'm far from popular even though an occasional popular girl will tell me I'm attractive.
With that in mind, I recently started talking to one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen. She isn't just looks though: everything about her is so intricate and precise. The problem is that she is so far out of my league. Rarely do I even attempt to talk to a girl such as this one. We've hung out in groups a few times, and the past time I saw her we found ourselves alone for the first time. We sat under the stars and talked and laughed and I felt like we both had a good time. But when I asked her to hang out (tomorrow) earlier today, I became paranoid that I was annoying to her and I was convinced she really didn't like me all that much.
I'm not pushing for a relationship. Sometimes it'd just be nice to have a close female friend who I can watch Nicholas Sparks movies with and cry my eyes out and neither of us would care. This girl is so far out of my league though that I can't help but wonder why she talked to me in the first place. | I don't have an abundance of self confidence, which is why I'm paranoid that this girl doesn't really want to be friends. |
t3_o4yli | AskReddit | Why did the hospital give my BF morphine after he was emitted for dehydration? | My boyfriend (a fellow Redditor) and I were suppose to see each other today for the first time in a couple of weeks because of our college's winter break. He was on his way home after work and had to pull over to suddenly vomit. He went home, got worse and then I didn't hear from him for a few hours. I assumed he had fallen asleep.
I just got a text message from him saying that he went to the hospital via ambulance because he was "nearly passing out" due to dehydration and started having bad chest pains. He made it all sound pretty simple and I assumed he was just hooked up to a basic IV.
Then just now he said he'd talk to me later because the morphine was making him sleepy. I freaked, because I know they don't give that stuff out lightly. I asked why he was on it and he didn't give me a coherent answer and is now out cold. He tends to down play things to keep me from worrying but now I'm worried even more.
Why would they put him on morphine? What could the chest pains be caused by? | bf in hospital after dehydration from vomiting, said he had bad chest pains, now the hospital has him on morphine. Why? |
t3_2egdb8 | relationships | Me [17M] with my Girlfriend [16F] of 3 months, having trouble handling her depression. | My girlfriend and I are both in high school and have been dating for 3 months now. Everything has been fine up until recently when her issues, problems, depression. Have become too heavy for me to handle.
On Friday we both went to a party and I went off to hang out with some other senior guys I knew for 20 minutes, I came back and she had drank a little bit (she stopped a few months earlier because drinking always made her depressed). She ignored me and wouldn't acknowledge anything that was going on, until she wanted to go smoke weed with me. I took her out of the party just to see if I could talk to her and see what was wrong. We sat down for a while and she wouldn't say anything, she started crying and I tried my best to comfort her and talk to her but she wouldn't say much to me.
I eventually had to get her to talk to me, I was leaving soon and I told her I could get her home. She wasn't responding so I kept asking her and told her I needed to know what she was going to do. She then started sobbing and said she would stay the night at the girl's house the party was at. I said okay, and that I had to go. As I started walking away I looked back and she was still sobbing against a brick wall. I ran back and made her promise me she would go back and not stay out long. She eventually did.
The next morning we texted eachother and were talking about the situation. I said it was a lot for me to handle, she wasn't talking to me it was too confusing. I felt overwhelmed. Throughout the day we talked about it, and by the end I had to break up with her.
She suffers from depression and her parents aren't supportive and there is a history of emotional abuse. She promised me she would try to get better and see a counselor but I just don't know how to feel.
This is also my first relationship. Not hers though. She seems to always become dependent on the other person. I told her she should have some time alone so she can get better and focus on her own happiness. | Girlfriend is depressed, had to break up with her because I don't know how to deal with it. Still don't know if I have feelings for her, need some advice. |
t3_4iy5qh | relationships | Me[19 m] got broken up with by girlfriend of a month [21 f] for saying some shit two weeks ago that I don't remember. How do I not let this happen again? | I recently got out of a relationship with a girl. She broke up with me over something I said about two weeks ago. I had totally forgotten about what I said at this point. What I said was not the greatest but it wasn't relationship ending. The reason it ended the relationship was because she just sat on this information for two weeks and stewed in it.
My question is how can I make women feel more open to talking about the problems in a relationship instead of just us just sitting on the problems and resenting each other for it? | I said some stupid shit. She did not like said shit. Breaks up with me two weeks later over shit I said. How do I not let this happen again? |
t3_2u7zrm | relationships | Me [20 M] with a girl [21 F]. Not sure what is going on. | After lurking on here for ages, it's the first time I've felt the need to post. Yay!
So, I met this girl on OkCupid and we've been talking for a few weeks on both OKC and via text. We finally met in RL yesterday, and I honestly thought we hit it off. She was displaying a lot of the typical signs of attraction (hair tossing, eye contact, close proximity, touch, etc), and we had a lot in common. We didn't go very far physically (just making out), as I sort of wanted to convey that I wasn't just looking for sex.
So, anyway, we go our separate ways, but make plans to meet up tonight at a show at our school. I shoot her a message at around Noon to see if things were still on, and she messages me back saying that she's sorry and she can't come anymore because she's seeing a movie with a friend.
So, I'm confused (and probably overthinking). Should I take her reply as an indication that she's still interested but just tonight wouldn't work out? Or is this supposed to be a message to me that she's not interested? In which case I'm very confused because it seemed to me like she was very interested last night.
Anyway, if it is genuinely a rejection (as the pessimistic part of my brain is telling me), then it would mark roughly the fourth time this has happened in the last year where I met someone and they seemed interested, but never followed up. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. | Went on a date with a girl, thought we hit it off, but she suddenly seems distant. Where to go from here? |
t3_j5ntf | AskReddit | Reddit, Please help my figure out one of the most difficult choices I've ever had (Long Post) | So Reddit I have come here for advice on a matter that I need the entire community to help. The story goes like this, I recently moved a year ago away from my home of 12 years due to issues with money and my physical well being. In doing this I left behind all my friends I've Known all my life, an environment I had gotten used to, and most importantly (also the main issue of this story) I left behind the one and only girl I have ever actually cared about. By this I mean she is the only girl I that just makes me smile,makes me laugh, and makes me happy just to be around her. Since I've been gone for a year i had tried to forget all bout her and just focus on life now, but... I just cant! I Recently went back to my home town and she heard I was in town, she actually went out of her way to come see me and it made my day fantastic, I told her I would be Moving back soon and she told my that was great....but then she said she would be moving in a year. My heart dropped and a single tear formed in my eye, I had not seen her in so long and now she will be gone forever, just right there I wanted to just tell her how I felt about her and how important she is to me even if she didn't know it. I just couldn't do it,by this time my friend had come out and i just trailed off she got back in her car and drove away... So here's my question Reddit, Should I tell her how much she means to me even though it might mean the end of our friendship or id only get 1 year? or should I just try and forget everything and move on with my life? | Every guy has one girl that he can never get over and now i have the Chance to tell mine how Much I care about her but she will be Moving in a year forever. |
t3_20stgg | relationship_advice | Advice between bestfriends please. | So the other night around 2am, Im (23/m) sleeping and I get a phone call from my bestfriend (22/f) but I don't pick up because I'm unaware its her until I hear her voicemail she leaves me. She sounds very upset, drunk and she's crying. So I call her back and ask her what's wrong, she tells me that she just left her sisters party because her sister and boyfriend were treating her like shit. It finally hits me that she's driving drunk and at this point in time I'm wide awake. So I demanded she pull over and tell me where she is and that I'd go to her. She tells me where and that's about 5 miles from my house but I'm willing to ride my bike to where she is to make sure she doesn't get hurt or hurt anyone else driving drunk. She asks to come to my house for the night and I tell her yes but wait til I get to her so I can drive her there. While I'm talking on the phone, my other female friend who was staying at my place for the night asks what's going on and I guess my bestfriend hears her and she suddenly starts telling me she's sorry for disturbing me and that's she will just go home by herself but I tell her to not be like this right now because she's been drinking and not thinking straight but she hangs up. So I'm in a panic and I call the police to tell them that my friend is driving drunk and want them to try and get to her before she hurts herself or someone else so I give them her Info, my info and where her last known location was and dispach is sent the message I guess. She texts me shortly after and I tell her what I did and she gets upset but I told her its was for her safety and that it didn't matter if she lost her license and I didn't want her to get hurt drunk driving. Now I feel like I did something wrong when I wanted to make sure she was safe. Did I do the right thing? | bestfriend calls me clearly upset while she's drunk driving, Starts acting stubborn and then keeps driving, I call police on her in hopes they get to her before she hurts herself, she says I was wrong for that. |
t3_1gpnhq | relationship_advice | I [21f] recently developed a disease that makes sex undesirable and I feel like I've become a burden to my boyfriend[24m]. | Hi! I recently developed a urinary/pelvic disease that makes my life painful and sex really painful/uncomfortable. In the beginning, I could have sex with no problem, but it's become so that it's not pleasurable and I am in pain for about 1-3 days after.
I used to crave sex all the time and my boyfriend, who is quite possibly the horniest horn dog that has ever lived, and I used to fuck like bunny rabbits. A part (not all) of our connection was how open we used to be about sex and how playful we were with each other. We've been together for almost 3 years now. I've never felt so much love for any human being. He is amazing.
Since this has happened to my life, I no longer crave sex and sex and sexual things are unappealing to me. I think my brain associates sex with pain, discomfort, and general shittyness. Can you blame me? It's been really hard getting used to it and I feel terrible and depressed most days.
As if I couldn't already handle my shit, it's starting to affect my relationship with my boyfriend. I feel like I'm letting him down and it's obvious he's sexually frustrated. He always tries to make moves or be intimate with me, but I always turn him down. I know he's getting frustrated. I am mature enough to be able to acknowledge that sex is a huge part of a relationship and that he deserves some sort of sexual intimacy, but I can't do that for him right now.
I feel like I'm depriving him and I know he deserves more. He deserves someone that can give him everything he needs and satisfies him, but I love him so much. I can't picture my life without him and can't picture not waking up next to him.
My life feels broken and I need help... | I got a disease that makes sex painful and I feel like I'm depriving my boyfriend |
t3_4313a0 | relationships | Love my boyfriend, not sure how much I like our relationship. | I (F22) love my guy(M20), we work so well together on almost every level. Our relationship started off really well, we saw each other about 4 times a week and slept over at each others houses almost every time we hungout.
Then we broke up, we had started fighting a lot and although the chemistry and all the love we had for each other was there, we went our separate ways. The break up was initiated by him. Fast forward a month after that and we got back together, we couldn't even make it through a week without talking.
Now, we've been together ever since but our relationship is different. I only see him once or twice a week and for a few hours at a time. I wish I could see him more, and I've made this apparent to him but nothing has changed. I'm not unhappy, and I still want to be with him because I really care about him and love the time we do spend together, but I'm finding it hard to deal with the little amount of time we spend together.
Were both in college but his school work load keeps him much busier than mine does me, and that's why he can't make it to see me as often as he did in the summer.
Has anyone ever been in a situation like this? What has the outcome been?
Maybe I'm overreacting, but sometimes I feel as though we should be seeing more of each other than just once a week for a few hours, sometimes it feels like he doesn't make enough of an effort. But then I always understand his reasons for not being able to at the same time. How do I get over these feelings? | only see him once a week for 3-5 hours. Having a hard time dealing with this perhaps because we used to spend a lot of time together, or because of societal/media depictions of what a relationship should be like. |
t3_3fueut | relationships | Why do I (18F) feel mad for breaking up with (18M)? | Hello reddit,
As the tittle says, I cannot for the life of me figure out why I feel so bad about breaking up with my bf of a year. We obviously didn't fit together at all and I know I wouldn't be happy in this relationship, so I broke up with him about a month ago. It was great at first, a relief to not worry about being in a relationship.
However, now, I was hoping we'd be friends. And just today he asked if we could go to dinner to talk. I thought he was going to give me my stuff back (which he didn't but that's a different problem), but he didn't and it ended up being awkward. The dinner was fine, we got along - but he also acted as if we were still in a relationship and I felt weird. So after dinner he wanted to more stuff like people dating would, which admittedly I should've stopped right there, but we went to the park in the end and he kind of was just silent the whole time. I made an excuse to leave (I forgot to mention that he actually needed me to drive him as well) so dropped him off then left.
A bit later, I notice he's removed me on skype. Then more checking he's removed me as a friend on facebook as well and changed his profile picture. I know this is probably normal to go no contact, but why does this make me feel kind of mad?
I can't figure it out, I should be happy since we were bad for each other, but I just feel confused. I'm angry, I think, but I honestly don't know why and it feels really really terrible.
I guess my question is, is this normal? Is it okay that I feel like this? | ex asked to meet up, I thought he had my stuff, but instead it got awkward then he completely unfriended me afterwards. It makes me kind of mad and I honestly don't know why. Any perspective or advice would be very very much appreciated! |
t3_4cekko | relationships | Me [22F] with my [25 M] EX broke up 2x, patched it up, he broke up w me and help | I cant wrap my head around what to do next.. My ex and I had previously broken up and patched our relationship twice. He broke up with me a few months ago for very valid reasons and I insisted since we still love each other to remain friends with benefits and a little romance( we have amazing chemistry), he said he wouldn't promise monogamy but would tell me before he engages with someone else.
ALL THIS WAS SAID after I drove 40 mins to see him and made us lunch, and we were being so romantic..
Recently I shut the casual sex down because he said he couldn't 'handle the pressure of feeling responsible for my emotions' and how 'I'm not ready to be in a relationship' with him. he also said he wants to date other people to see if he's not missing out on some special connection with someone else… and if we are meant to be it'll just 'happen'…
I have to add that I believe he is the one for me. He brings out the best in me and I am who I am thanks to his constant support.
are these just pathetic copouts? Do I go no contact? Is he seriously just sick of this complicated relationship we share? I feel so lost and in panic but he is my best friend and I have been emotionally involved with him for almost 5 years. what do I do?? ): | what do I do I am still in love with my ex? |
t3_3ir9ft | relationships | Me [23 F] with my boyfriend[22 M] - we're a monogamous couple that isn't "commited" I.e. We both know we're not going to end up married, and are ok with that | i guess I just want to know if this is normal/healthy.
We communicate well, have a great friendship and very active sex life. We're definitely exclusive and introduce ourselves as "together", but we've both expressed that we don't think we'll end up together in the end.
I like the relationship for my life right now. I love him(though I'm not "in love"/think he's "the one") and he's said the same thing to me. We both feel we're in transitionary phases in our lives, and value each others companionship, but we want to be realistic that most likely, both of us will change, someone will want something more "serious", either from this relationship or a new one, and it will end.
Is having a relationship "just for fun" ok? Or are we just trying to have our cake and eat it too? | we're not quite single, but we're open to mingle(not cheat). Is it ok to have a not-serious relationship? Can I love someone knowing it won't last forever? |
t3_1jsmto | relationships | Me[26F] finally unfriended my ex [30m] a month after NC and trying to remind myself why it's the right decision. | Well...after the longest month of my life, I finally unfriended him. In a way I'm relieved. I don't have to overanalyze the fact he still has his "in a relationship" up. I don't have to double think about whether he'll see my posts and try to find a way to secretly communicate that I've changed. This is just another step in realizing that it is HIM that needed changing.
The last straw was when I saw he became a fan of a page full of gorgeous half naked girls working out. Me, a perfectly fine pretty girl who WORKS at a gym.This, the guy I would literally beg for sex from. Who would go weeks and weeks without sleeping with me and yet continued to look at porn and masturbate. Who wouldn't hold my hand. Who stopped sticking up for me. Who wouldn't even kiss me for no reason other than me asking him to. Who watched me cry and lay awake at night wondering why I wasn't good enough. Who would promise to change and ultimately did nothing. Who got more excited over his possessions than he ever did about me.
I've never had two such strong emotions co-exist. Longing for him and searing hate at the same time.
Warning, immature heat-of-the-moment rant ahead: I honestly hope you don't find anyone. In fact, I know you won't. | Unfriended ex one month after post breakup in a fit of anger. Am desperate to feel the benefits in remembering it's the right decision. |
t3_4vvdm7 | legaladvice | Doing Freelance Work as a Minor on a Content Mill Site (NJ, USA) | I am a minor (15 - going to be 16 in less than a month) who aspires to jumpstart a career in freelance writing. I've done some work, but seeing as I'm a minor and I can't register for many of the content mills that exist I've been at a loss for getting work and knowing proper prices to charge. A friend suggested that I register at some of these content mill sites just to view what the rates were for many jobs and I have not received any work on any of these websites.
However, on one website (while I won't name it, the terms for this site do state that you must be either 18 or capable of forming a legally binding contract) I was invited to apply for a job and the man who posted the job was very excited as he had seen my writing elsewhere and had hoped I would write for him. I don't believe that he is aware that I am a minor, but what I'd like to know is the legality of completing this job. While freelance work on its own isn't illegal for a minor, would using one of these sites be illegal?
From what I understand, the fear is that I cannot form a legally binding contract on my own and many resources online suggest having parents sign for me. However, this is not an option, so would I be better off staying away from doing freelance work on content mill sites? Thank you. | I was approached to do freelance work on a content mill site that requires users to be 18 or capable of entering legally binding contracts. I am a minor, so would it be illegal to work on one of these sites? |
t3_1my3pc | travel | I am a 21 year old female traveling from Fairbanks, AK to Leander, TX driving a 2008 Toyota Tacoma. Need help estimating how long it will take me to get there and how much $$ | I am driving down to Leander, TX in a couple of months from Fairbanks, AK and am trying to figure out my budget for the trip. I will be driving a four door 08 tacoma that gets roughly 20 mpg around town, not sure about what it gets on the highway. I am not planning on stopping for any tourist type things anywhere so that does not need to be a part of the budget. I will need hotel and food though. Just need some help figuring out how much money i need to save prior to my trip! Thanks | Title says it all |
t3_11tv57 | relationships | I make stupid jokes at the wrong time and my(Im 20m) Gf(19f) of 2 years is finding it hard to deal with | my gf laughs at my jokes, even at my puns, but occasionally I don't sense that the situation is serious and I say a stupid joke and It leads to us fighting. It can also represent how I feel about a topic poorly because the joke makes me look bad.
We are in a ldr and it's hard to sense tone when we are typing which often leads to me being "funny" at the wrong time.
we are currently fighting and she just says that I'll never change because it happens frequently X) when we are in the same place (not long distance) we are a lot more capable of getting along.
help? | my(20m) long distance relationship with my gf(19f) is hard because I'm bad at picking up on seriousness and I make stupid jokes |
t3_ko3ly | BreakUps | Ex upset about hooking up. | Hey r/breakups, I have a bit of an issue. I originally posted this in relationships but they told me to come here.
I'm a homosexual male, and I was in a long term (9 month) relationship which ended roughly 3 weeks ago. I'm 19 years old, in college in a major city, and frankly, I'm horny. Due to this, I rekindled a hook up (let's call him D) from last year and began seeing him on a regular basis only 13 days after breaking up with my former boyfriend (let's call him B). I no longer have feelings beyond a friendship with B, but a mutual friend told me that he had heard about my hooking up with D through a different mutual friend, and that he was really upset and wanted to talk to me.
I know it isn't my responsibility to police myself for someone I no longer have an obligation to, but who exactly is in the wrong here? Am I just a slut that hurt someone because he couldn't keep it in his pants? (which I'm fine with) Or is B a control freak that needs to let go? I know it's probably somewhere in the middle, but this has been really bothering me. I don't feel bad about the hook up, I'm just more annoyed that B is still trying to get in my business.
I still have yet to talk to B about this, mostly because I'm trying to figure out how to approach it. B is a decent friend, but I refuse to compromise about this if I'm in the right. Should I attempt to smooth things over with B or just ignore him and continue doing what I want to do?
Additional Info: I dumped B due to both his heavy drinking and a lack of feelings for him anymore. We made nice a few days after I dumped him, and haven't really spoken much since. B is 21, but I'm his first serious boyfriend. I however, have had quite a few relationships, and I've never been dumped, so I can't really relate to his perspective in this situation. D and I are doing the FWB/NSA thing, so this wasn't intended to find a new relationship/hurt B, I was honestly just horny. | I dumped my long term boyfriend, and I hooked up with a different boy 13 days later. Ex found out and is upset, how should I go about handling the situation? |
t3_e5dqu | AskReddit | Are there really toxins in plastic will kill me? | Every once in a while I hear that plastic bottles infect their beverage contents with some scientific-sounding agent that causes cancer... but so far I'm not biting. It seems like everything causes cancer these days, and I guess it's technically correct to say the sun gives you cancer and so does the air in larger cities, but it's just such a miniscule effect, to me avoiding plastic stirrers straws because you're worried about your health is like not cross the street because you're afraid of being hit by a drunk driving Lindsay Lohan. Am I being blind to a real concern or am I correct in saying it's paranoia? | OMG WATER BOTTLES WILL KILL US ALL! |
t3_lzjs7 | Pets | How much more expensive are two cats versus one? | This is my first topic and I really, really hope I'm doing this right.
I've been considering getting a pet, and as a result I've been doing a lot of research about cost and care. I've been told that getting two cats is better for their emotional health than getting one.
I would love to take in two cats. I live on my own and work most of the day, so I worry about bringing a kitten into my apartment and leaving it alone all day. However, I'm not sure I can afford to care for two.
I haven't really found any clear answers about the cost difference between one cat and two, so a friend suggested I ask everyone on Reddit. | Is it really better to get two cats? Is the cost of two drastically different than the cost of just one? |
t3_3o4zp5 | relationships | My [25M] Boyfriend hasn't said anything but I've [23F] gained a little weight since we have been together and Im worried he won't find me attractive anymore. | I have been with my current boyfriend for a few months now and we are extremely compatible and happy together. When we met I was at the thinnest I have been as an adult and he often commented how I was too skinny or I didn't eat enough.
I have gained a little bit of weight since we have been together. Maybe because summers over and I am less active, or I have been hitting the sweets to hard. He hasn't said anything and always says he really likes my body.
Now in the past I have been (slightly) overweight and when I recently told my boyfriend about this he seemed really worried and surprised. Now Im worried that he wont like me/ be attracted to me If I gain weight. Will my boyfriend still love me if I put on some lbs? | Will my boyfriend still like me if I put on some weight? |
t3_2v0aet | relationships | 20 M realizing feelings for friend F 19. | Hello, I've been on a few dates with this girl on and off for about 6 months now. She's a great girl with emotional issues similar to my own and on our most recent night out we did an experiment to see if we could invoke feelings of love.
I was hesitant because I already had an inkling that I'd feel those feelings and that she would not. The night went well and at the end of it she asked if I felt anything. Again, I was hesitant for fear of getting hurt.
I drove her home and we text ed each other a little bit. Since then, I've regretted not being a bit bolder and just telling her I do, indeed, straight up think she's just fucking dandy. I've messaged her a few times since then and have yet to receive a response.
It's been a day and a half. I'm worried, naturally, and wrote this out mostly because I need an unbiased place to vent to. I can accept if she doesn't reciprocate, I just need to know. Any advice on how to approach the situation or anything else?
Please help me. | Realized I actually have feelings for someone and don't know how to handle it. I have Fallout Boys angsty shit on repeat, please help. |
t3_228zbu | relationships | I am a [20 F] and have been with my bf [22 M] for almost 2 years but things have been going downhill. | My boyfriend and I started to talk and have a thing for each other the moment our eyes locked. We started to date about 2 months after getting to know each other. We became each other's best friend. We tell each other everything, and I mean EVERYTHING. We are very close and always are next to each other. We both get jealous when we are talking to other people or are hanging out with others. It seems as though I get more jealous than he does. We occasionally have had our little arguments about little things and big things but always got over them quickly. Recently it has not been on occasion that we fight. It is a few times every day and has been happening for months. I love him dearly and I know he loves me. I will admit I am selfish and stubborn, which is the cause to most of our recent fights, we have talked about the root of out recent fights. We have gone through a lot in our time of being together. We talk through everything and always get past the high bumps in our relationship. (One of the high bumps is my past). I just don't know if we will be able to get over this bump. He cannot handle my selfishness any longer and I am willing to not let this bad habit of mine ruin our relationship. He is the one I love the most and the one I will always love. I just wish he would be a little bit more patient with me and see that I am changing slowly. | Boyfriend of 2 years and I have been fighting more, I admit to being selfish but he cannot handle me now. We have talked and I know change is difficult. How can I prove to my boyfriend that our love is worth the fight and that if he just bears with me a little bit more he will see that I am changing? |
t3_2x6nd6 | offmychest | The worst kind of crush is a work crush. | Forewarning, this is going to be another "there's this boy at work.." post, but here goes.
There's this boy (man? I kind of feel like I'm at that age where I should just call them men) at work, and try as I might, I just can't stop thinking about him. It's getting bad. He's been going through some shit lately, so all I wanna do is kiss his stupid adorable face and tell him it'll be fine. Sometimes I think theres a small chance he could like me back, but everything he does that makes me think that he might be interested I then just chalk up to him being one of the most genuine and nice people I've ever met. I get really giddy about these stupid things and when I go off and retell everything to my friends, they are convinced that he likes me. We have great conversation, he seems interested in what I have to say all the time, and generally some of the things he does most people would say is because he's interested, but it's so hard to tell. I have super low self-esteem, so I'm firmly in the "he's not interested and never will be," camp. I'm really bad at the relationship thing, commitment is really hard for me, but this doesn't really scare me, so I know I'm fallin' hard.
There is a group of coworkers that get drinks after work 1-2 times a week, him and myself included, and half the time I'm just staring at him thinking like, "damn, look at you, you're awesome."
Even if nothing happens, even if he just likes me as a friend (which would suck for me, but, I've been there before) I'm still pretty happy he's around. | I am a 24 year old girl who consistently acts like a 15 year old with her first big crush because I have it RULL bad for my co-worker. |
t3_1zv186 | relationships | 21/f with my 25/boyfriend officially 3 mo, help me empathize with not being ready to say the L word. | My boyfriend and I started going out on exclusive dates last October, but only became official in January. I honestly felt ready to tell him that I love him, but he didn't reciprocate. He said he had a bad experience with his last relationship. I told him not to feel pressured, because I don't want to hear it if he doesn't mean it.
And although I truly don't want him to say it if he's not ready, the fact that he didn't say it makes me worry that this is just a fling. He's also told me he's got problems with possibly un diagnosed depression.
I'm not asking to pick sides or even advice on what I should do, but if you could help me empathize you'd be saving me a few gray hairs. | Told my boyfriend I loved him, but he doesn't feel as strongly. Help me empathize. |
t3_1yti56 | Parenting | How far do I take "this is what I've made us for dinner and if you don't want it then you can go hungry"? | My 3y9m son would rather go hungry than try something new and is starting to lose weight because of it. Luckily he has got a bit of extra weight as he was a big baby/toddler, but he's definitely slimming down to the point where trousers are falling down that once fit (and not really growing taller, so I don't think he's stretching).
I am previously guilty of making things I knew he'd eat rather than have the fuss involved with trying new things, but now he's older and has a little brother (who eats anything we put in front of him) he has to learn to try new things. He also starts school in September and will have to have cooked school dinners, so I am worried about him being hungry during the day because he won't eat their food.
We all eat very balanced healthy diets, but he has always been very stubborn and would never even chew on a vegetable out of curiosity as a baby. He was weaned fairly early at 4 months because he was a big hungry baby and happily ate the purées and mashed up food we made, but as soon as he moved onto feeding himself he has become more and more stubborn. His brother wasn't ready to be weaned until 6 months and refused to be spoon fed, so we have gone down the baby led weaning route with him and he happily eats anything and everything. I wish I had done the same thing the first time round, but hindsight's a bitch!
Do I let him go hungry if he won't eat what I've made, or should I let him have a bit of something boring like bread and butter to fill him up? I don't want him to turn into one of those children who only eats certain foods, I want him to enjoy food and the ritual of mealtimes like we do! Letting your child go hungry seems to go against all natural instincts as a parent to feed your child, but I don't know what other options I've got. We've done sticker charts for trying new food, but once he fills it up he says he's tried all the new food and doesn't want to do it again! | My son would rather be hungry than try something new. How long do I let this go on before letting him eat? I've been doing it strictly since before Christmas and he's losing weight! |
t3_jtqsp | books | Does anyone else dislike the question "What's it about?" | I was reading Beautiful Children by Charles Bock today on my college campus. Someone I know came up and asked what it was about to be polite and make conversation. I stopped for a moment to try to think of how to sum up all the characterization and plot in a quick couple of sentences and took longer than what would have been required to prevent awkwardness. I eventually settled on telling him that it was about runaway kids in Las Vegas and then switched the topic to whether or not his hair had been purple the last time I'd seen him.
I realize that most of the time when people ask this they are just being polite but I like discussing books with anyone and I like convincing anyone that books are awesome even more. A lot of books I can't justifiably sum up in just a few sentences of conversation and still be able to convey my enthusiasm for it. Also, there are a lot of books where the plot isn't really the most important part of the book and answering the question "What's it about?" accurately doesn't really do a good enough job of why it's worth it. Like when I describe Cormac McCarthy plots for example. I think the question I'd like to be asked isn't "what's it about" but "is it worth reading" which I feel like I could answer far better assuming the person is willing to let me ramble on like a fanboy. | Does it bother anyone when people ask what a book's about? |
t3_qzwq2 | cats | R.I.P Blacky . Best friend of 16 years. | My cat was drooling and didn't eat as much as usual, we brought her to the vet and got looked at. She went for dentistry today and i was waiting for her to come home. She wasn't able to come home cause the vet found out that she had bone cancer that was secluded to her jaw. The vet said the cancer ate away at her jaw bone and that she was in immense pain, she didn't show it. The vet also said that cats won't show what wrong with them until it's in the final stages of a disease or whatever is wrong with it.
We had to put her down today . I didn't cry, but as i write this now, i'm pretty fucking close. | Love your cat. Go fucking hug her/him right fucking now and if you think anything is wrong, take them to vet asap. |
t3_4f7c69 | relationships | Need some advice | **^(I'm using a throwaway, don't stab me)**
Me [17M] and my girlfriend [17F] have been in a relationship for nearly a year and a half now. We have been arguing on and off about petty things such as grades in class, reactions to mannerisms and involuntary actions; I've also been consistently comparing myself to her and it's affecting our relationship so much. Recently, we had an argument where we were close to seeing each other, I panicked because I was nowhere near ready and I asked her why it was always me that held the responsibility. That's resulted in her completely isolating herself from me and giving me no means of communication with her whatsoever. I feel incredibly guilty because of this and I want to be able to change.
I love her, I really do and I want to be able to stop comparing myself to her. It's making life incredibly difficult and embarrassing, not just for me, but for her too. I need some help coming to terms of why I compare myself to her too much, how I can cope with it and how I can apologise to her because I feel awful about it. | My girlfriend isn't talking to me; How do I apologise and how do I stop comparing myself to her? |
t3_3g42t6 | tifu | TIFU by getting road rage. | Well, it's Friday here in straya, finished work on merry way home ready to crack a few brews, play some ps4 and wait for my girlfriend to come over. Well I'm about 5 minutes away from my house and am at a give way (yield) sign and there's a red P Plater just stopped there. Not moving. This is where the FU starts. I get pretty bad road rage anyway, but it's 4:30 PM and I just want to get home so I rev my car and wait, around 30 seconds so I get out of my car thinking "WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS DICKHEAD DOING?". Anyway, I get to this guys car window and hear aggressive metal playing and look in the window..
This dropkick is getting road head, so I knock on the window now pissed off that this fuckwit has decided that his blowjob is more important than every other driver, the woman looks up, and a look of disgust and shame is creeping onto her face. It's my friends mum. My friends mum was sucking off a fucking 17 year old in his car. In broad day light. I said nothing. Got in my car and by the time I'd started up and got moving he was gone. | driving home ready for a good evening and that being ruined by seeing my friends mum sucking a teenagers dick. |
t3_3vs0bs | relationships | Me [23F] with my housemate of 6 months [25ishF], she has some pretty disordered eating and no one is sure how to deal | So I've been living with my current housemates for around 6 months, we're all postgrads in the UK, there's 4 of us total, we're all 23-29. we've pretty much only known each other for this time.
One of my housemates, Annie went through a period of essentially anorexia (although she's never used the term) she's a healthy weight now but definitely has issues around food. She's only told me about this to my knowledge.
A few weeks ago Annie was confronted with her weight at the doctors. She hasn't said anything but it was obviously higher than she expected and I think she'd just been avoiding the numbers anyway.
Since then my other housemates have picked up on her eating issues. Annie is turning down opportunities to eat together, is eating very little (most things on her fridge shelf just sit there until they rot). Now we're organising a house christmas meal and she's already sowing the seeds of not eating much (says she doesn't feel like drinking, is purposefully encouraging us to make sides she can't eat as she's vegan (bacon sprouts, using butter for the potatoes etc), but then is also saying she'll only eat sides rather than make a veggie main).
I know she has eating issues and the other housemates have cottoned on. But none of us know what to do, we know whenever she talks about the massive lunch she had so she shouldn't eat much for dinner is a lie. We're literally watching her make excuses to starve herself. it's almost annoying because we don't know if we should be calling her out, if we should just be going along with her charade, how much we should push or whatever.
Any advice? | housemate i've only known for a few months seems to be falling back into anorexic behaviour. we've all noticed. what do we do? |
t3_3sgqpo | relationships | I [24f] am so angry with him [36m] right now. | My boyfriend of two years is pretty sure he has a hernia, and has thought this for over three weeks. This is what finally convinced him to enroll in his work's health insurance and now we're waiting on the insurance card.
He went to the doctor but of course hadn't gotten any pertinent insurance info over the phone, and they needed him to obtain that before he could be seen. Because they initially gave him the wrong phone number and then he was on hold with the right one for eight minutes, he just hung up and left! He is acting like a child!!
I told him over and over to just get his insurance id # over the phone but did he? Not until I started crying today! And he's still going to work today now that he has the right info and won't go to the fucking doctor until tomorrow. I'm sick of his indecisive bullshit and complaining that it hurts and he can't have sex (it's been like 5 days which is long for us) and then he WON'T DO ANYTHING about it!!!
This is just a vent I suppose. I do live him but I've never been so angry. He is acting like a loser.
Edit | Boyfriend is being whiny and very lazy about going to the doctor and he's in pain. I'm very irritated. |
t3_32tusz | relationship_advice | I (30/m) need help with my Girlfriend(30/f) emotionally distant for the past 5 months | We have been together for 2 years. She is a teacher and I a medic. She has had a rough time at work and like a good partner; I try to empathize and support. I validate her feelings, let her vent, hold her when she needs to be and I try to fulfill her needs and wants while doing my own thing. I feel it is a reasonable expectation to expect the same in return.
My work is stressful as well and at times I need the same support. As of late, I have had to not just be the rock for her, but need her to do the same. Listen, empathize, validate and support. Some of my experiences have hit me right in the feels and while I feel I possess exceptional emotional control, just some of the stuff is hitting me rather hard the past couple months and all I am getting is silence... and anger from her when I ask for these things.
I have spoken with her directly about it and she exploded again. I am at my wits/hearts end. I have invested a great deal in this relationship and... well I don't know what to do. | GF of 2 years gets upset when I ask for emotional support. |
t3_4vfm7q | relationships | My brother's ex girlfriend [22F] wants me [20M] to sleep at her house. | So my brother's ex broke up with him 2 years ago because he cheated on her. Twice. Since then se always wants to get coffee and I always avoid it.
I work at night and told her after she asked 10 minutes ago that I could get lunch with her but I would have to sleep in my car until lunch hour. She told me to sleep at her place and I was like, sure I can sleep on your couch.
She killed it with: I don't have a couch. You'll sleep with me.
What do I do dudes and dudas? | Brother cheated on ex twice. They broke up two years ago. She wants me to sleep at her place during this morning, to grab lunch later. |
t3_3ebbd5 | relationships | My GF [19/F] doesn't say she has a boyfriend to guys, I [20/M] don't really know how to respond. | Edit: I don't think I quite put it right, it isn't like she says she's single. It's more that she doens't want guys to know, she doesn't want to bring it up.
Sorry for my English, this is not my native language
My girlfriend went out yesterday with her friends. A friend of her met some boys from her town, they hung out all night.
That's the situation, not the problem. My girlfriend are both a bit jealous, she more than me. I don't think it is a problem if she talks to boys or something, but today was different.
She called me and said that she was talking to a boy all night, and that she wanted to tell me. Several people said like, hey you both have an SO, so people saw they were pretty close.
The problem is that she admitted that she never tells boys that she has a boyfriend, because they immediatly loose interest in her. And she likes conversations with boys, she always hangs out with the guys.
She also have eachothers cellphone numbers, she even messaged him later that night. But that's nothing special, she send me a screenshot of the short conversation. She deleted his number, but the conversation is still there.
My problems are this:
* I don't like it that she does not tell guys that she has a boyfriend. I always subtally tell girls.
* I don't mind that she talks to boys, but I think it's weird that even other people see how close they are.
* I don't like the fact that they have eachothers phonenumbers
* I know that she would hate if it I would do this to her, but somehow she thinks this is okay to do
* She thinks that I'm just whining about all of this, she's not really comforting me. She just tells me to stop talking about it.
I know that she hasn't cheated or something, she really did do anything really wrong or something. But I really don't like this situation.
The question is if she's right, that I'm just a bit to jealous of this situation. | Girlfriend has guys phone number, admits that she doesn't tell boys that she has an SO, thinks i'm overthinking this all and tells me to stop talking about it. |
t3_k5jqz | AskReddit | Reddit, what's city life like? And would you recommend it to someone who has never experienced it? | I've spent my entire life moving among different rural suburban areas. I was born in Acton, CA, moved to Flagstaff, AZ, had spent a couple years in rural Ohio, and currently live in a town about an hour outside of Pittsburgh, PA. I've never spent longer than a couple hotel nights in a major city despite visiting many as a kid. Now that I'm less than a year away from graduating college, I'd really like some honest insight.
Because the truth is I'm completely tired of driving 25 minutes to reach a restaurant, store, or anything more exciting than a gas station. I'm also tired of run-away, aggressive pets, hostile people, ignorance, bug infestations, and the overall subtle hostility that living out here is. For almost half a decade now I've been nurturing this idea of living in an apartment somewhere deep inside a city. To be able to walk anywhere in a two two mile radius and find things, even if not necessarily everything, I'd want, and to have the ability to train ride to the locations farther away. All the while being surrounded by the pinnacle of human civilization; it honestly sounds like a dream.
So I'm asking you, Reddit, to either stroke my ego or shatter my dreams. I want to know. You don't have to keep it | because I promise I'll read and take in all of it. |
t3_1mf1k4 | relationships | losing faith in my realtionship (25F)(27M) | Warning: Wall of text
We have been together for 2.5 years, like any relationship we have had our ups and downs. But more and more it just seems to be down. These days it has become more and more apparent how different we are and I am having trouble seeing the good.
I don't know how I didn't see it before but my SO prefers to be blissfully ignorant and would prefer me to be that way. Where as I prefer to have everything out in the open.
It came up when we found out that a mutual friend of ours confessed to being drunk and making out with a random and waking up in the randoms bed with no memory after the kiss. I stated that their SO deserves to know where as my SO stated that it was a one time mistake that does not need to be brought up because it will likely end poorly.
After a long discussion about keeping secrets and mistakes that should never happen again I am finding it more and more difficult to believe that my SO is being faithful while I am away on business.
Due to work we are now a 3 hour flight away from each other, I try to come back once a month along with text, phone calls, and skype as often as possible but it feels like it is pointless.
It has become increasingly more difficult to stay positive and trusting. I don't know what to do anymore, I don't trust my SO. They require validation and acceptance from everyone...which I don't get because I guess I grew out of that at a younger age.
I don't want this to end but it is negatively affecting the rest of my life. When I try to get them to open up to me about what I have not been told although they claim there is nothing deep down I do not
believe it one bit.
Please reddit, help me save this. I love my SO and have considered marriage but this is becoming a deal breaker for me. | I don't trust my SO, don't want it to end. Please help |
t3_15y6dp | relationships | My boyfriend [19M] doesn't want to commit to travelling overseas with me [19M], even though the time and money is available. | My boyfriend [19M], of currently over 2 years, does not want to travel overseas with me [19F] to Europe on a backpacking trip.
He knows I have been saving up to take this trip since my first job and he has expressed strong interest in doing the same thing on many occasions.
I brought up the idea on more serious terms and said would you want to go 12 months from now? He said maybe. I have had this conversation with him many many times and it is now closer to 10 months when I want to go.
Both time and money is not an issue for either of us as we have both saved enough money over a few years.
When I asked him why he doesn't yet know if he wants to come, he just persistantly says he doesn't know why.
I'm looking for advice on perhaps why he would feel this way? And how to go about getting a definite answer out of him. I need a yes or no answer so I can plan my trip. Someone please give me advice on how to pry an answer out of him (a yes answer would be most desirable) | Boyfriend isn't sure yet if he wants to travel overseas with me. I really want to. I can't get a yes or no answer out of him. How do I get one? |
t3_3i9g28 | relationships | Lower my standards and settle or nah? | I'm a 17 year old male. I have never had a girlfriend and I really want one. I feel like I am missing out on all this love stuff and clearly it's a pretty great ting.
I am a decent looking guy and do okay with girls. However, the girls I usually end up having a crush on are normally pretty far out of my league. I have dated one of these girls, who was insanely attractive, like I mean could actually be a model, but in the end it just fizzled out as she wasn't as into me as I was into her. On the other hand I have dated other girls who have been more into me but I just didn't have that same passion for them and was not that interested in them.
I know I am still only very young and have my whole life ahead of me ect, but I don't want to spend my youth never having a romantic relationship. But also I feel like lowering my standards and just going out with a girl who is lovely but I'm not that into is unfair on her and will only end badly.
So do you guys recommend I only go for girls who I'm really into but likely majority won't be into me or do you think I should just try and develop feelings for a girl who actually does like me a lot but that I am not crazy about from the start? | Lower standards and go for girl who I don't find THAT initially attractive or wait until I find the one? |
t3_20nfh3 | relationships | Me 19 [M] with my 21 [21 F] 6months, found out she still talks with ex | I founded out my girlfriend still had contact with her ex i discovered at my own and she never told me. i saw on facebook that she told a guy he looked good. i feel betrayed because she never told me she keeps contact with a ex (i never asked).she first told me it was a co-worker and talked with him because she felt guilty and he still had feelings she stopped with talking after i found out to him without me asking but still it feels like cheating.
i really don't get the point why she told him he looked good, while she knows he still had feelings for her. i find it so disrespectful she lost her virginity too me and i look much better but i cant understand the point talking to a ex besides infidelity. and the fact that she lied about it first gives me a strange feeling
(if she told me about it it would be a whole different story) | girlfriend talked with ex without telling me and i feel betrayed |
t3_18bi1l | relationships | m(19) i want to break up f(18) LDR not as easy as it sounds | me and my gf have been dating for 11 months (1yr this month) all i want is out, but ive backed myself into a corner.
it's gotten to the point where if i dont text back in 10 minutes, i'm ignoring her. if i dont call every morning, or call/skype every night, then she rages at me and leaves.
the way she texts me when she's mad, i can't stand it. ive asked her not to. like when one thing is said wrong, i get "k" or "oh alright". its frustrating because i never do that to her because i know how much she would flip.
a few weeks ago i broke up with her, and we stayed that way for a week with little contact. but then i saw on fb that she was hanging with a guy and a girl and it made me feel like i was in a washing machine. so...being weak. jealous. whatnot. we talked that night, and got back together the next day.
we say i love you a lot, but she just doesnt say it back sometimes. sometimes she asks me why, sometimes she says i dont.
she's ready to get done with school and move out to live with me. i thought thats what i wanted too, but though i love her, i dont think we're going to ever become that. i dont want her to move out here anymore.
its just frustrating because this is my first relationship, and she's so committed, but everything i do is overanalyzed and when i say something wrong, she makes a sarcastic remark that references us breaking up or being broken up.
so tips on things i can do to show her that the end is near?
please dont just tell me to man up. because everyones been here, and once is said and done and im fine again, ill tell the next person to man up. but not today. so just help, dont be superior. | first relationship, ldr,tips on showing her that i want out? possibly even just ways that make her break up with me first |
t3_2gqtp7 | relationships | I [22M] can get women, but I can't keep them because everyone is ultimately out of my league. | I can grab a girl's attention, I'm confident in who I am, I can get the first date, but I only end up losing every girl I get a chance with.
While growing up, certain life events got in the way of me having a normal adolescence, so I have zero experience with intimacy. But for years I've been told I can get any girl I want. I'm happy with the women I meet, but things always fade quickly. I seem very normal and well adjusted, but I can't get close to people, and I always notice women loosing interest or becoming disappointed when I don't measure up. I get to a certain point where I go from being a normal 22 year old, to being a clueless 13 year old, because my years between 13 and 18 are essentially blank.
It'd be fine if I was invisible to everyone, but I'm not and it's torture disappointing women and/or avoiding them. My motivation is drained because everyone is out of my league and trying to play catch-up is humiliating. I don't want to pull a Holden Caulfield and get an escort, but I have no idea how to learn the smooth transition from friendly stranger, to intimate partner.
Every time I try, I learn that I missed the most crucial part of growing up and the door has closed on my chances of learning. Now I'm stuck. It's like job hunting; where you need experience to get the job, but you need the job to get experience. | I can't get close to people, I can't get past the first date, but I still have to meet women, and it's torture disappointing them and myself with my lack of experience. |
t3_eu3z9 | AskReddit | My roommate and I were robbed tonight. Can't sleep now. What should I be feeling? | So on the way home from a drinking event my roommate and I were asked to give up our belongings by two young individuals acting as if they had guns in their pockets.
My roommate put his wallet down on his bag and at that point I just thought, "I don't care if they shoot me," and I took a swing at the one closest to me.
They both started to run off and I chased them but tripped over a curb and couldn't catch one of them.
I'm still on the adrenaline rush....I wish I had caught one of them but I'm not sure how it would have ended.
I'm....I'm just not sure how I should be feeling now as I just wanted to hurt someone else really badly and maybe I should have just let them have my wallet.
Thoughts? | Got jumped and now I'm not sure how I should feel about it. |
t3_4cmryd | relationships | Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 3 years, she had an abortion 3 weeks ago and I'm having nightmares. | So I'm not sure if this is the right place to post but I can't seem to just get over this.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 amazing years and I really love her. She was on birth control but I didn't use condoms sometimes which was probably stupid.
I went over to her apartment and she just layed it on me she was pregnant and getting an abortion. She said I didn't really have any say and for me to accept it.
She got one and somehow it devastated me it felt like.....I failed I was supposed to protect it but I failed. She is trying to support me as best as she can because she already semms to have gotten over it.
I have dreams about it about me holding it and there's blood all over it or me holding a dead fetus. I don't sleep much now and even when I do I have nightmares or wake up crying.
I've taken to drinking it seems to make me feel better and sleep better when I'm wasted. I've tried looking online but there's only support fourms and groups for women.
I have no idea what to do anymore I've lost 13 pounds already and haven't slept in 2 weeks. What can I do to stop this and get back to normal. | my girlfriend had an abortion and I'm having a hard time with it. |
t3_2wmvqt | legaladvice | Car flooded while at repairshop | I dont even know how to title this thread.
I went today to pickup my car, as the guy handed it to me, behold exact same issue, car was full of water again. kept my cool and tired not to blow up.
So my guess is my underground carpark never flooded, well it did but not enough to get in the car it turns out. So it would of been when we had rain the next day when my car was parked at work.
Anyway so it would of leaked at the repairs after they cleaned it up. all repair work undone. They didnt even put new carpets in, carpet is still Warped i said not good enough want new in case i want to sell the car "someone buying the car wont notice warped carpet" ....
Do I go after car manufacturer to resolve it, or my insurance as its a possible leak from a repair job when someone else was at fault and rear ended me
spoke to a neighbour tonight, to see how deep carpark would of flooded when i was away, he said not enough toget into seals. | thought carpark flooded into my car at my unit |
t3_w2ci8 | AskReddit | I didn't talk to Actor Michael Caine (Batman Films, The Prestige, the list goes on...) because i didn't want to impose. Would i have been rude? | After a long flight from Heathrow to LAX today, I found myself standing in the customs line with Sir Michael Caine (He played Alfred in the Batman films), his wife, and a woman who worked with British Airways right behind me. They were talking about the insanely long line, and something about San Diego. Being generally insecure, i didn't want to interrupt or impose on him. So i just stood there trying to inconspicuously turn around and look at him.
Afterwords, i really wish I had talked to him a little, or asked for a picture with him or something.
So reddit, I was wondering, what do you think would have been appropriate, and inappropriate for me to do. (As in talk to him, ask for a picture/autograph) What would you have done? And was i just being to darn insecure? | A famous actor stood behind me in line at LAX, i didn't talk to him. Would it have been rude to? Or am I just to darn insecure? |
t3_3s5jkg | relationships | Me [23 M] with my EX [22 F] 6 years, We just broke up. | Note: I forgot to add it but we live together for over 2 years.
This is a very run of the mill break up. We where not happy. I was happy enough but that is because I was in a routine and she was not happy. I did not get her many gifts, and we worked so there was not to many days for dates so the relationship came to a "break" about two weeks ago. I have been thinking about ending the relationship soon and I assume she has too. Anyways back on point I finally sat down the other night to break it up. So we discussed stuff like our 4 cats, items, bills and other stuff. I pushed that I would like her out by the 1st of December, which was fueled buy emotions. I feel like an asshole but I felt it was a decent time frame which is still less then a month.
Now on to what I need from you guys, how does one go about getting over it? What is a easy way to cope. The last time I had a girlfriend was 8 years ago and we broke up after a couple months. All I am doing now is walking around the house and crying, or my crying on my cats. Everyone says I am getting off easy because I don't have kids, a mortgage or married with her but I feel like I am getting ripped in half, which It was by no means a healthy relationship, but I will still miss everything that comes with it. I mean last night I was so happy my cat crawled up next to me when I was trying to sleep. I have many friends and family but I am a very closed off person and always have been that way. | Me and the GF (now EX) broke up but everything reminds me of her. What to do now? |
t3_oysw9 | AskReddit | Gf found my porn... (NSFW) | Using a throwaway for reasons which will become apparent in a moment.
So I decided to have a little me time before I went to work today, in a somewhat bad case of the "befores" I ended up downloading some incest porn videos via torrent. The videos themselves were taking too long and I ended up finishing without even viewing them. I closed the program, cleared my history, got ready for work, and left.
**I forgot to remove the torrent and delete/hide the videos.
**
I received a text several hours before I got off work, that she needs to talk to me when I get home. I later received another text that she will be sleeping and we'll talk about it in the morning. I had no idea what was going on at this point.
I share the computer with my gf, we each have our own account on the computer, but no passwords. I got home just a few minutes ago, went in to the bedroom to let her know I'm home and she seemed very irritated, I brushed it off. I logged in to my account on the computer, and immediately noticed that the torrent program was open, and the torrent from earlier highlighted. My gf obviously found the videos, which were not named anything clever which would hide what they actually are.
So now I'm sitting here kind of dreading the conversation that will take place in the morning regarding this. She was already aware that I have viewed incest porn in the past, although I've never showed her exactly what I look at or anything in detail, because I am incredibly ashamed of anyone knowing about it, for somewhat obvious reasons. | Girlfriend found my incest porn I downloaded in a fit of the befores, and I will be confronted about it in the morning. |
t3_28kx3r | tifu | TIFU by rocking out to The Wonder Years | I decided to take my university's second tier general chemistry course this summer so that I can take organic chemistry in the fall. The class finally ended today with a final exam that was cumulative of both the first tier and second tier general chemistry curriculum. After my friend and I completed the exam, we hung out in the chemistry building for a few hours while the professor graded the exams so that we could find out our scores together. By the grace of Gibbs, the professor said we both received A's.
Needless to say, we were stoked. And by "stoked," I mean we lost our shit.
Anyway, we're both huge fans of The Wonder Years (the pop punk band, not the TV show). When we eagerly hopped into my Forester, we blasted the first Wonder Years song on my "Pop Punk Pump Up" playlist, which happened to be "Melrose Diner." If you're unfamiliar with the song, there's a line that goes, "All I've got left are these handfuls of 'fuck you,' and man, that's never enough." Well, whenever we hear those lyrics, we both stick our middle fingers to the world (because that's what the lead singer, Soupy, does in the music video. Also, we have some residual high school angst.) Unfortunately for us, as we were still in the chemistry building's parking lot, the unintended target of our synchronized "fuck you" was the organic chemistry professor we're both scheduled to have this fall. In the split second I saw him walking to his car, he looked mortified. What's worse is that everyone on campus says he's the best professor in the chemistry department and a genuinely compassionate guy. The poor old man was just walking to his car on a nice summer day, when out of the blue, two dudes blaring music in a crossover gave him the bird.
I feel like I flipped off Gandhi...
I hope he doesn't recognize us this fall. I really hope he doesn't. (Before anyone says it, I cannot take organic chemistry with a different professor. I go to a small university, and he's the only person who teaches the class--at least to my knowledge.) | Accidentally gave the finger to the patron saint of my university's chemistry department while rocking out to The Wonder Years. |
t3_2top4b | relationships | I [17F] feel like I don't understand relationships | Hi. So I hope this doesn't come off as some moody teenage girl post, because it's something that's been bothering me for a while now, and it's making me decently upset.
I want a relationship someday. I've had men pursue me before, so I don't think I'm ugly or my personality is bad.
I just... shut down after I find out a guy is interested in me. I don't like him anymore. I don't want anything to do with him. I get anxious, and worry all night about it.
I don't really get what love is supposed to look like. My parents are ultra-Catholic, so affection was never a huge part of my life growing up.
My mom told me that I'm her number four- after God, my dad, and her marriage (that one stung a bit). My dad taught me to never rely on anyone or anytjing- and that hope is never the right strategy. I don't have a very good relationship with my relatives- my mom's side doesn't like me because I'm not religious, and my dad's side... They're not so bad, save the cousin who tried to sexually assault me when I was 12 (which nobody helped me with that either, I had to learn to forgive and move on).
I don't understand love. To me it seems childish and stupid, but there's still some part of me that wants to be someone's number one or two. I'm very strong- I've lived on my own. I take on tough jobs and succeed more than anyone tells me I can. But when I'm alone... I cry. All the time. None of my friends ever ask me how I'm doing. Nobody in my life gives me a shoulder to cry on.
I feel like I'm missing out on something. I don't want money, or fame, or success. I just want to be happy. And I'm not happy.
So how do I go about learning to love someone? To not be anxious when a boy is romantically interested? Again, I apologize if I sound petty and naive for asking. | How do I learn to accept and understand love? |
t3_12j5r4 | BreakUps | Update from "enough of breaking up 1000, let's talk about breaking up 7100" | Update from this [thread](
Well it's been about a week and I'm staying with a friend in Brooklyn since getting back to Manhattan is pretty insane right now. Moving on, last night some friends and I went out for some drinks. As we were drinking in walks my ex with some of her friends. Both groups drink separately for about an hour or so until she walks over and sits down at our table. My friends sense the awkwardness and give us some space. We have some small talk about law, the bar and some other BS. I excuse myself for a cigarette and come back a few minutes later. As soon as I sat down she flipped on her "fucking crazy" switch and goes on a wild tangent about how she doesn't trust my friends, how much she hates my sister, how much her friends do not like me (who I've been friends with before me and her started dating,) everyone questioned her on why we were dating, etc, etc. I just sat there and laughed. When she was done I said "Ex girlfriend unit A, I don't care. You're fucking crazy." She went off on another wild tangent about who the fuck knows.
When she finished her second rant I smiled at her and said, "The apartment is yours, everything inside is yours and I'm taking the dogs (which are with me right now). I told her when it would be easier to get to Manhattan I'd come and get my clothes and leave the key.
At first getting told a "No" when I proposed to her it was devastating and I was depressed, but now that I know her habits and that's she truly fucking crazy I am relieved. Sometimes breaking up doesn't suck. | Bitches be trippin' |
t3_3rlcdu | tifu | TIFU by working out on a hardwood floor | At my local gym we have a big studio used for Yoga and other workout training needs, and for some reason the architect who build the studio has a metal pipe about an inch off the floor on the far side wall. Most people don't take much notice since it never gets in the way.
However today I was doing the "invisible chair" or sit squats against the wall above the wall with the metal pipe near the floor. Of course I didn't think anything of being above this bar cause if I did everything right I wouldn't ever hit the bar. This was a giant mistake.
My first mistake was going barefoot on the studios hardwood floor. However this was because my shoes were in my locker and I didn't have time to grab before I started my training session with my team.
Second mistake I didn't account for my feet getting sweaty from doing other exersises.
Now we have yoga mats out for planks and such but I didn't think I need it for sit squats cause who would think you would need one.
So everyone is lined up against the wall and we go into the sitting position. As soon as I get into the sit position and put my full weight onto my feet, right away I loose all traction due to sweat and as you can guess I drop like a brick right onto the bar hitting my coxic bone.
Thankfully I didn't hit it hard enough to break or crack my coxic bone but it still hurt like hell and still made a loud crack as I hit the metal pipe. | Did a sit squat on a hardwood floor barefoot and as I put my wieght on my feet they slipped out from under me due to sweat and I basiclly butt-bombed onto the metal pipe under my bum and nearly broke my coxic bone (shitty idea from the builder to have that pole there in my opinion -_-'). |
t3_21rb89 | relationships | My ex-GF [17F] and I [18M] broke up 8 weeks ago after 1.5 years of dating; I woke up to a text from her this morning. | 8 weeks ago - maybe longer - my ex-GF and I talked about breaking-up...and we broke up. **For the most part, we have been maintaining no-contact.**
I woke up this morning, checked my phone, and she had sent me a pretty long text message. She talked about how she knew she was supposed to be getting over me, but she missed me - she missed us. She brought up memories of our relationship and I got pretty emotional.
For better or for worse, I replied; I told her that if she wanted to talk sometime, I would be all for it. Well, she has not replied and that was three hours ago. She could be working, but i'm kind of emotionally freaking out right now. I did not expect this to happen; I don't know what approach to take - mostly because I miss her, too, but I don't want to return to what our relationship had become.
Any input would be great. I'm going to check this post to talk with you all. | After 8-weeks of pretty-much no contact, ex-GF texted me saying that she missed me - even if she should be getting over me. I'm sort of an emotional wreck (no crying) and don't really no how to approach the situation. |
t3_32ertp | relationships | My (21f) bf(26m) of 3 years has been choosing porn and masturbation over sex. He even turned down my offers of anal (his favorite)! | Basically what the title says. We used to have sex AT LEAST 5 times a week and recently it's only been maybe once a week but he has still been watching porn and masturbating everyday.
I've talked to him and let him know that I'm really bothered by it and hurt. We agreed he would try and not watch porn or masturbate for a few weeks and see where we are at then.
He only went a day....
So I tried to up my game. I'm usually not the one that initiates, so I changed that. I also know he loves anal (not really my favorite, but I am happy to do it for him on occasion) so I've been making sure I'm "prepared" for it more often and have definitely been letting him know and I specifically ask him "will you fuck my ass?" can't get more direct than that!
He's either been turning more down or not even acknowledging my attempts.
I really don't know why this is happening. His work is basically the same (he wants a new job but it's not like a crisis), our bodies are the same (neither of us are overweight and I'm actually getting in better shape) , he isn't on any medications and there's really no problems in our lives that I can think of that would cause this.
So reddit, should I be worried? Is this normal? | bf is choosing porn over sex, even anal sex! It's really bothering me and our talks are leading nowhere. Is this normal? What can I do? |
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