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t3_2xr08f | relationships | Me [32/F] crush on [41M] co worker...not sure if I should ask him out? | For the past year, I have had a small crush on a co-worker who just happens to be a manager of one of my teams at work. He's single, asks me to go with him to get drinks after work(which he pays for after I tell him I will gladly buy our drinks,etc), shares similar interests with me(ex. leaves posts on my social media channels of music or movie news, "friends" me on most of these platforms, we make small talk about news or about our families), drives me home after work some nights, and is generally a considerate person. Yet, I can't tell what the deal is--he has mentioned in team work outings to the bars around work that he would never date anyone from work but how "super single" he is.
Not sure if I should make a move, or mention to him my feelings. I'm also concerned about our working relationship...yet people at work do date and some are even engaged(I work with 500+ people) or married(met at work). Am I making this more complicated? | crush on a manager at work who is single and possibly shows interest but I can't tell. Tell him how I feel or let it go? |
t3_2k07ua | relationships | Me [19 F] struggling with being single. | So barely three months ago I got out of a four and a half year relationship that ended pretty badly and only a month ago I got into a serious fight with my best friend and also FWB who no longer wants to talk to me.
Currently I am struggling like crazy with being single. I know I have a lot of work to put into myself before I am ready for another relationship and I don't really want to jump from guy to guy in casual sex based relationships.
I want to be in a loving and healthy relationship. So my question is how do other singles deal with this desire so it doesn't spiral a perfectly good day downhill with self pity? | How do you cope with being single when you want a relationship but know you aren't ready for one? |
t3_2uzu2p | relationships | I [29 M] just found out my girlfriend [27 F] of 2 years, has been having "phone sex" with someone on snapchat. | My girlfriend and I have been having a bit of a rough patch. Some arguments, diminished sex, constantly short with one another. And its because of one thing: moving in together.
See, I have a great place thats pretty cheap. Sure I share it with roommates, but we have a ton of space for NYC, even private outdoor space. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is losing her current place in March and can't afford to live on her own. So she has been pushing pretty hard to live together. I'm reluctant, but have agreed.
Last night, I fired up her Macbook to stream some TV in her room while I was waiting for her to shower. When it woke from sleep, it was hung up for a moment while everything came back up. Her iMessage is the open window.
She had been having a text conversation, with her gay best friend, about "being bad" "REAL bad." She went on to tell him that she had recently had "phone sex" via snapchat with a guy in Delaware, someone I know she hooked up with before we began dating. She did tell her friend that it was nothing more than sexy snaps, and that she hadn't seen the guy in years.
Her friend told her to "not fuck this up" and she agreed that "didnt want to lose him, especially when I'm months away from a ring" [editorial: she's not close to getting a ring]
So whats a schmuck to do? | Found out my GF has been sending sexy Snaps to a former conquest, thinks she's getting a ring within the next year. |
t3_38txqx | tifu | TIFU by playing Fallout 3 | So this happened today, and I'm super embarrassed.
I'm 14 and I started playing Fallout 3 (It was on sale on Steam and I wanted to try a new game), I really loved playing it and spent a few hours playing it.
So in the afternoon I decide to go to McDonald's with some friends, then my subconscious mind kicked in and I proceed to pick up bottle caps right next to me (there was another restaurant right next to us),there was 3 or 4 of them, for those who never played Fallout 3 the currency there is bottle caps. When I stand back up after taking the caps I realize everyone is staring at me and my friends are laughing hard. I sit back down, humiliated.
Still kept the caps though, to remind not to do stupid video game shit when I'm outside. | Picked up bottle caps, in hopes getting gear to fight in the post-apocalyptic wasteland. |
t3_4sg6xa | relationships | What the hell did he [19 M] mean when he said all of this to me [18 M]???? | Long story short, I used to be best friends with this one guy. We're both guys.
It started off quite strange, he'd ask me stuff like "if you could make out with one guy in this world, who would it be" or "if you could make out with one guy in this group, who would it be", then would say stuff like "if I could watch one guy getting head, it'd be you".
Held my hand a few times, gave me a forehead kiss goodnight, has said stuff like "why do we have so much sexual tension?" and when I asked him about it a week later he didn't respond as to why he asked me that question and just told me to change the subject. He's also said stuff like "I wish I could just be in your arms forever," "sometimes, I just want to love you," "eat this or I'm going to have sex with you... okay that was weird," flat-out asked me "why do you have a crush on me?", would constantly question my sexuality, or do things like ask a Magic 8 Ball "will (me) ever have sex? Is (me) gay? Will (me) ever stop staring at me?" etc. etc. etc.
Anyways, long, long, long story short, I came out to him and he said everything was a joke.
Once word got out about the type of relationship we've had, he's told me and some doubtful close friends that he was just "flirting as a joke."
It started off by accidentally telling me "when I was flirty with you," told him a month later that wording pissed me off, then he said "I can't believe you. Obviously I meant flirting as a joke." And a friend has caught him talking to himself and accidentally blurting out "what if I WAS just flirting as a joke?!"
What do you make of this?
In my opinion, it doesn't make sense. Flirting is usually done in a joking manner... as a safety net... that's kind of the whole point IMO. | friend was flirty and said he was "flirting as a joke." |
t3_1javp4 | relationships | Me[21M] with my ex-girlfriend [21M/F] of 4 years: not sure if time to get back together | Hi all,
My first real girlfriend and I broke up last August because she wanted to see what else was out there. I was not 100% into it, but obviously I respected it. During that time we both got with other people. I still feel like I kind of want to be single, but one year later she wants to get back together. We hung out a bit and it feels like we are boyfriend/ girlfriend again. I love her and do want to get back together, but I don't know when.
However, I moved a lot further up north in our state (NJ) for an internship this summer and have been hanging out with other girls. I am also moving to NYC for school next month. I really don't know:
1) how to let this girl I am going to be hanging out with tomorrow down easy that I am not looking for a relationship
2) if I should get back together with my old girlfriend right away as she would like because I'm starting a new school and will be 2 hours away from her
3) why I am feeling so guilty about hanging out with other girls even though my old gf and I aren't anything official (it just feels that way)
If you could help out a lost-in-the-world guy it would be much appreciated to get other people's opinions on the situation.
Thanks | I feel guilty I have been leading on old gf that I want to get back together very soon. I am also guilty about hanging out with other potential girls this summer while we are away from each other. I feel like I am being wrong to both girls. |
t3_2po6ax | relationships | [19/F] I have recently started getting into shape and now my boyfriend [26/M] is showing disinterest and making negative comments about my body. | Normally I'd post with a throwaway but I really don't feel like it.
Anyways, my boyfriend and I have been dating a little more than a year now and recently he has started showing disinterest in me and my body. I was never overweight, just a little out of shape and really skinny. He never had a problem with the way I looked. I didn't hate the way I looked, I just wanted to improve my appearance for personal and health reasons.
So I started working out and eating better, I lost some weight but gained more in muscle which has become noticeable. I'm happy with my progress so far and I assumed he would be too, but the very first thing he said "Your boobs got smaller". I tried not too hurt by his comment because he knows I'm still trying to battle my insecurity but it still got to me and I cried for about half an hour afterwards.
That didn't stop me from working out, I still have a long way to go before reaching my ideal body and he knows this but I assumed he would be happy that I'm trying to improve my appearance. Instead, all I keep hearing are his comments about how I'm getting too thin and that I'm going to be too muscular to look feminine and a bunch of other bullshit comments like that.
My boyfriend is considered over weight, we're both 5'6" and I currently weigh 130 lbs as opposed to his 175 lbs. However, I could care less about how much he weighs because I look past appearance when it comes to relationships. I've also never made negative comments about his appearance either because I love him and that would be a shitty thing to do.
I just need to know, am I wasting my time by feeling offended by his comments? Is this grounds for breaking up? How can I approach this situation? I seriously need to know because I do plan discussing this with him the next time I see him. | Getting into shape but my boyfriend is being a negative nancy and making me feel insecure about it. What's the easiest way to discuss this without compromising our relationship? |
t3_4ysoqo | relationships | I[24F] am going through pre menopause. I have extreme rage and do not know how to control it when it comes to my husband[24M] | Ive been having a lot of weird symptoms the last few years but this past year it has become unbearable. I started extreme night sweats, hot flashes, crying, weight gain and mood swings. It was all attributed to my depression anytime I went to a doctor. I have been on over 10 depression meds and was hospitalized for five months this past two years for it. I knew it that there was something else going on so last week I went to my gyno and asked for testing to be done. I got my results back and I am in perimenopause. I am seeing my doctor on Wedesday to discuss beginning hormone replacment therapy. In the mean time though I really need help.
I feel like I am going insane. From what I have been told when you're younger your symptoms can be worse. Im not sleeping more than three hours a night and Im ether crying over anything or in a ft of rage. Two weeks ago I threw away my social security card and when my husband let me know I started crying and then yelled at him for being so mean. Last night I got mad at him for anything. He didnt laugh at a funny part in the tv show? How dare he??? I cant take it anymore. My husband is the biggest support in my life, hes loving, and would do anything for me. He says he understands but I dont want to live a life where he "understands" being treated like shit I walked three hours today to get the anger out and its still here.
What do I do? Im at a loss? Is this a menopause symptom or am I insane? | Im in pre menopause and its turned me into a person that I despise. |
t3_2hs7cf | relationships | Don't know how to help my [F23] SO [M24] deal with his depression/anxiety about job hunting. | My SO and I have been together for a year and 7 months. We both graduated with the same degree this May and I moved in August for my job. My SO is still job hunting and is really struggling with it, and since I can't be there in person to help him I'm coming here for advice.
Whenever we talk about the upcoming career fairs, he shuts down. He says he doesn't like to talk about it, it's too much stress/pressure, and at that point usually asks to get off the phone. I've tried to take some of the pressure off by looking up some of the information he needs for him (dates/times of different events) but I can't tell if it's helping or hurting.
Since he's tried every year to find an internship/full time job and has yet to be successful, he's really pessimistic about the upcoming job fairs. He hates the whole recruiting/interviewing process and is mad at himself that he has to go through it again. He was visiting me recently and had 2 interviews while he was here, and I can tell how much it helped to have me with him doing the preparation work, but now that he's home preparing for everything alone, I just don't know how to help.
It would be one thing if he didn't have a strong resume and we could blame his situation on that, but it's just not the case. | My SO is experiencing intense depress/anxiety over the upcoming job fairs. He shuts down whenever I try to help or talk about it. |
t3_2ja9yf | tifu | TIFU by deciding to shaving | Going to apologize straight away as I'm on mobile, so please forgive me for spelling errors.
Anyways, today while applying acne medication, I decided that "why not the hell not?" and decided to shave. Unlike usual occurrences, I decided that this time would be different, so I picked up a 3 bladed razor, instead of the electric shaver I often use.
Me, having not shaved with a non-electric shaver for a long time, forgot the fact that razors often cut protruding skin. This is when I cut my face.
In a haste to wash out blood of the cuts, I ended up washing the previously-applied acne medication in to the cuts, burning the already open cuts, further showing how stupid I am. Now I have three bandaids on my face and I look like an idiot. | Lived on the edge a little too much |
t3_2q6s0k | legaladvice | Divorced a year, my ex-wife is getting daughter for the week of Christmas to spend with her and her boyfriend (who my daughter shouldn't be around) | I was divorced a year ago, been separated for three. It was brutal; she cheated on me with three different men, start abusing prescription pain killers with her latest boyfriend and had me put in jail for a week for a crime I didn't commit.
After an outrageous amount of money payed to a lawyer and a private investigator, I'm free and clear of any criminal charges and have primary physical custody of my 6 year old autistic daughter. Her mom gets her alternating weekends and holidays.
Keeping it short, our agreement states that my ex needs to pay for half of our daughter's medical expenses and that our daughter is to have absolutely no contact whatsoever with her latest boyfriend.
My ex lies to me and says that she isn't seeing him, even going so far as fabricating another man's name to throw me off. I've hired a PI again who got evidence that the man was with my ex while she had our daughter for the weekend, and I've got a print off of the guys facebook page showing the two of them together and in a relationship and that he lives there. Thats on top of the fact that she pays almost nothing regarding her medical bills (I haven't seen any money in two months).
I've just dropped my daughter off to be with her mom for Christmas for five days. This is the first I've been away. I'm nauseated that I'm dropping her off to spend time with the this scum-bag degenerate druggy and my sociopath ex.
How to I get through this, reddit. I feel prepared to go back to family court to address these issues, I can't live with myself knowing I stood by and watched the worst human I've ever met become a permanent fixture in my daughter's life.
This is VA, by the way. | Ex-wife lives with scumbag who she legally shouldn't be with, and is now getting common daughter for christmas. |
t3_3svtmr | relationships | Is he [27/M] changing his mind after 4 weeks dating about a relationship with me [21/F]? | Hello fellow redditors,
I've met this guy about a month ago and since then we went on about 6 dates. On the first date he told me, that he is not looking for a relationship or commitment. So we just went on some dates and hooked up. Which is fine with me, because I'm not sure if I'm ready for a relationship either.
I'm trying not to get attatched or something, because this is only a very casual thing. We are both seeing other people, at least I do and he is free to meet other girls, I'm not sure if he had other dates or not though.
Lately he behaves like he is getting a bit attatched to me, he says he really likes me etc. He is jokingly talking about marriage, if I would marry him and move back to his hometown etc He also introduced himself as my boyfriend to other people.
The thing is, from my past experience I've learned that if someone says they don't want commitment, they mean it. But actions speak louder than words, so I'm a bit confused right now. Also a couple I know got together despite the fact he initially didn't want a relationship...
I'm playing it cool at the moment, I just go with the flow really. As I said, I'm seeing some other people, one of them is really great, too and he seems very into me. | I want to confront him about his behaviour, but I don't want to seem to clingy or interested in a relationship. Also, how likely do you think is it, that he changes his mind about not wanting a relationship? |
t3_zlp9k | AskReddit | So, r/ucla was no help. Maybe you guys could be of some assistance. I am from NJ and need some help from someone in the LA area. (Can't afford a trip there) | Here is the link to the original post:
So, long story short, I am from New Jersey and I just received my bachelors in computer engineering. I have never been out to California, nor can I afford a trip there anytime soon. I need some help from someone who is willing to waste a few hours of their day (some risk is involved, but I will surely compensate). If anyone is willing to help, please PM me to find out more details.
I would totally do this myself, but I am 3000 miles away and really have no way of doing it. Therefore, I wouldn't really consider it TOO much of a risk, but the average person would probably not want to do it.
Thanks to anyone who is willing to help!
**To be a little clearer, I am looking for a film called The White Parade. I am not sure how things are run at the film archive, but I would love to see this movie. It is the only one that was nominated for best picture that I have not seen.**
**From Wikipedia:**
**This film was nominated for Best Picture at the 7th Academy Awards. Dedicated to "the memory of Florence Nightingale", the plot concerns the travails and romances of young women as they study to become nurses. It stars Loretta Young and John Boles.**
**The only surviving print is located at the UCLA film archive, and can be view at the Instructional Media Lab, Powell Library, after making an appointment.**
**The print is in rough shape; several frames are out of alignment, at times, while the whole picture looks bleached out and very fuzzy. As well, near the end of the film, a sign pops up indicating "reel 7"; fast forward and you can see the rest of the film. | I want someone to go into the film archive and record a movie and send it to me. |
t3_44e6g8 | relationships | I [35F] need help caring about my job after workplace bullying. Please help. | Two years ago I loved my job, took a ton of pride in my performance, and derived a lot of my self-worth from my abilities.
A new employee came in and immediately began criticizing my work and undermining my relationships. After years of being a reliable and appreciated employee, this employee began treating me like an incompetent five year old, and I felt that this rubbed of on my coworkers.
The stress of this led to a lot of sleepless nights, weight loss, and emotional upset. I couldn't win for trying and eventually I lost joy in doing my job.
The employee was eventually let go and after comparing notes, my coworkers and I realized that this employee had spread misinformation around the workplace, causing a lot of unnecessary tension and turmoil. Now that things have been cleared up things can get back to normal.
But now I find that I can't recapture the joy and pride I had felt previously. I feel apathetic about my work, and find myself procrastinating and performing below level. This is my dream job, my heart is in it, but I just can't motivate myself to put my all into it anymore. I'm really bothered by this and would love to get back to work. I'm not sure why I can't, and would love some advice. | New employee at job undermined my performance and relationships by spreading mistruths. Now that she has been let go, I'm struggling with getting back to normal. |
t3_4iooz1 | tifu | TIFU by wearing my wife's shoes. | I have a workout regime that I force myself to stick to. In bed at 9PM, wake up at 4AM. 45 minutes of high intensity cardio in my living room, shower, eat, go to work. I do this Monday-Thursday, rinse and repeat. The past two Sunday nights of my schedule have been interrupted by one of my wife's friends. She brings her son (6 yr old) over and he and my daughter play. I *have* to get my daughter in bed by 8:30; it usually takes ~20 minutes to actually get her to fall asleep. Well she's (my wife's friend) been staying later it seems. 9:30PM rolls around, and I tell them we have to go to bed. I brush my daughter's teeth, get her dressed for bed, tell her to go to potty. So after we finally fall asleep, I wake up several times in the middle of the night. 4AM comes early, and I do not want to wake up; I'm tired AF. I sleep another hour and wake up to go to work. I feel bad for letting my routine go to waste, so after I get home from work at 6:15PM, I see *another* one of her friends sitting on the couch when I get home. I decide I'll just go for a run to make up for the cardio I missed that morning. I'm looking everywhere for my running shoes, but I cannot find them anywhere. I decide to use her "walking" shoes instead. They laced up nice and tight, hardly any movement. I think to myself, "this will work, let's go". I head out the door and run 2 miles real quick. After I pass my second mile mark, I bring my run to a jog. **IT BURNS LIKE A MOTHER FUCKER!!! MY HEELS ARE ON FIRE!!!** I instantly knew I did not change my socks to compensate for the low-cut heel of my wife's shoes. I rubbed my heels raw and now they're bleeding. I jumped in the shower, and the burning effect was intensified by 100 times. It hurts bad, man. | Wore my wifes "walking" shoes to run in, and now my heels are bleeding. |
t3_1xnmyb | relationships | Me [23M] trying to help my girlfriend [21F] who complains about her weight and then indulges heavily right after that | Hi. My girlfriend has recently looked at herself in the mirror, with shame in her eyes and tells me not to look, tells me that she thinks she's getting fat. I tell her "you're beautiful", because I think she is.
The following day, she bought herself a big box of chocolate to enjoy - and ate almost all of it in one day. I don't want her to think that I'm trying to change her, or make her think that I find her to be gaining weight, or anything like that ---- I just want to make her happy.
BUT, it's hard for me to watch her do those two things, one day after the next. NOT because I think anything negative of her actions, but because I love her and want to help her recognize the truth about diet and weight, I sometimes consider mentioning it to her. it's not that she's an unhealthy eater, but about once a week she'll go all out on an indulgence. I'm all about the occasional indulgence, but there's a serious difference between a couple pieces of chocolate and an entire box. A different between a piece of cheesecake and an entire cheesecake.
I care about her health and her happiness, and it's hard for me to see her sad and unhappy, and the very next day doing nothing to improve her situation.
I don't know what to say; I don't know what to think. Maybe I should just shut up and let her do what she wants! I work out and it's hard for me to stay mum and watch this cycle that she may fall into. Any words of wisdom, or help, or anything you have to offer is truly appreciated. | Girlfriend thinks she's getting fat, while indulging heavily on unhealthy snacks. What can I say or do to help the situation? |
t3_353s32 | needadvice | Should I quit my job? | I'm not happy with my life. I'm not where I wanted to be. I'm 28 years old, I still live with my parents in a tiny 2-bed in social housing and haven't had a girl take me seriously in 6 years.
I graduated university 5 years ago after studying digital animation. The course gave me no contacts and dishearted me greatly.
I've worked minimum wage jobs ever since, whilst working some design and photography jobs on the side.
[You can see some of my photography here, hopefully it helps you advise me! ](
I've been at my current job for two years now. It's manual work, and the pay is minimum wage again. The boss takes advantage of my skills, getting me to create design and website work if I get back to the office early, with no chance of a raise; in september the workload will increase and my pay will not.
I've just finished a business course, and I feel I am ready to start doing photography and video full time; but I have very few clients.
I feel so tired at the end of a strenuous day at work and feel that if I just quit I'll be able to work towards my dream with no distractions, and the added benefit of more time to go network, and a lack of money to drive me!!
I'm absolutely miserable with my life, and in this job I am NEVER going to raise the money to move out of my parents home, and I'll never attract someone that wants to be with me! The whole reason for a job is to have money to live...but this isn't a life I want to live! So what's the point?
I'm constantly told that I'm talented, so why am I working 8.30-5 in a dead end job paying me only £1000 a month?
Please help. | hate my job and by extension, my life. No money, living with parents; can't get much worse. Want to start a business as a photographer/videographer, or at the very least give myself time to build a great portfolio. WHAT DO I DO? |
t3_e9dpx | AskReddit | Applying for Graduate school for Inorganic Chemistry | Hey everyone, I'm not sure if this Reddit acceptable if it is not feel free to downvote.
I am graduating from a smaller university in the Spring with a BS degree in chemistry with a concentration in biochemistry am interested in perusing a PhD in chemistry.
I was wondering if their was a redditor out there who is a professor at a university in the United States that has a PhD program in chemistry that has an opening in their lab group. My research interests are mainly in inorganic chemistry particularly coordination complexes and chelating agents that have possible medicinal or environmental applications.
My current research is on the synthesis, characterization, and antimicrobial studies of a series of semicarbizone cis-platin analogs. I have presented this research at national and local scientific meetings.
I am in the process of applying to several universities but I feel like it is so easy for me to miss an excellent program. So if you are a professor with an opening in your research lab or if you have any tips please let me know. | Anyone a chemistry professor at a PhD granting university that has an opening in their research group? |
t3_wtf9f | AskReddit | Reddit, what is your most crazy and/or interesting dream you've had about Reddit? | Last night I had a dream about Reddit, and other things... It involved me sitting in a bottom story apartment I'm unfamiliar with sitting at my computer desk and surfing Reddit. I posted a link about some new idea concerning unified communication and Reddit. Everyone loved this idea and it landed me on the front page! Then there was an attractive, young stripper outside my window trying to solicit to me, and it started to rain... Being as most of my dreams are shallow excerpts of my deep inner thoughts; I left the stripper outside in the rain until I could see the outlines of her nips through her thin sunflower-yellow polo. Seeing that she was very wet and cold I decided to let her in. We started talking and I grabbed her a towel and she said since I was being so nice to her she would give me a show for free. "Score" I thought to myself and she proceeds to do nasty things for me which I won't go into detail. Oddly, enough in my dream I remember thinking my fiance goes to work at 9AM, and she would probably stop by before work. I then think "Eh, whatever... I'll chance it and the stripper is almost done anyways." After the stripper finishes and starts to get dressed again I walk out and talk to my ex-roommate and guess who walks in the door? My fiance! Oddly enough, as if he had something to lose, my ex-roommate tried desperately to keep her from going in the bedroom. My fiance walks in the bedroom and starts talking to the stripper. In my dream I didn't talk to my fiance but she acts like she doesn't even care! Then I woke up. Lame ending I know, but that's what happened. | Had a dream about posting an idea on reddit and got the front page, got a free strip show from a door to door stripper, and my fiance walked in on the way to work and didn't care - all at around 8ish AM |
t3_21nlpq | relationships | I (24 f) dated a guy (35 m) for 3 months, he doesn't know how he feels. | He pursued me first, and seemed to want to start something real (telling me that he's falling for me, asking me what I look for in a relationship, etc.). We saw each other almost every day for the past 3 months, exclusively for about a month and a half, have had intimate moments, but never established our relationship status.
Recently,I've noticed that things have been quite dull and he never really expressed his feelings for me verbally or otherwise. When I told him I was falling for him, his response was "is that a good thing?" I began to feel increasingly insecure and finally got up the courage to ask him how he felt about me. He kept avoiding the question and ended up telling me that he didn't know.
When I delved further, he said he's been feeling numb lately, not just about the relationship with me but with things in general.
I broke it up then and there because I cannot be with someone who is not "into" me. At the same time, I do wonder if I'm leaving too soon if anything would change in the future and he might actually fall in love with me because I see myself getting there. What do you think?
Oh, he did get out of a serious relationship like half a year ago. | dated for 3 months, the guy says he doesn't know how he feels about me and feels rather "numb". Was breaking up with him a good idea, or do some people just take longer time to get there? |
t3_jset0 | AskReddit | Was told I was going to be Best-Man at a friends wedding, found out today that I won't be, told by the new best man, what should I do? | My friend I've known most of my life got engaged a few years ago and I was told I would be the best man. The wedding was being put off till he finished college, so last week the date was set. I don't see the groom to be much as we are both busy but we still hang out when we can. Lately we went cinema. So today one of our mutual friends were hanging out and he mentioned a bachelor party, and I mentioned I should be organising it but he questioned why as he was best man. I was shocked. I don't know if I should approach the soon to be groom or what I should say or ask. I have nothing against the new best man as it is not his fault. Can I have you're opinions. | I was supposed to be best man at a wedding, found out off the new best man I wasn't. |
t3_4n30yp | relationships | I [17 M] need advice getting over my ex-boyfriend [18 M] cheating on me with my first ex [17 M] | So i've only ever had two boyfriends since i'm out newly, and my first ex who we'll just call Jacob I was okay with when we split after two months. About a month ago, I started dating a guy nearby who we'll call Aaron. Everything in our relationship was going fine until about a week ago when out of the blue he started ignoring all of my messages. We organized a dinner date for Friday and I showed up and ended up eating alone since he didn't come and never told me he couldn't go. I started getting suspicious because I initially blew it off as his job keeping him busy or family problems. Today is really when I started panicking since it was a week since I had heard from him, so I decided to ask Jacob if he had seen Aaron around anywhere, since they were good friends. He said that on Wednesday, Aaron, who used to be Jacob's ex, messaged him apologizing for a fight that broke them up like three months ago. Thursday is when they got back together and Aaron just kept ignoring me while being in two relationships at once. So after I found out what happened, I broke up with Aaron and kind of just did other things afterwards to take my mind off of the break up. It hasn't really done much, because all I can really think about is how upset I am that Aaron cheated on me. Can anyone here that has been cheated on offer advice to help get my mind off of this? I don't really want to go back into dating for a little bit because I think I need a break and I need other things to take my mind off of it. | My boyfriend cheated on me with my ex who is also his old ex and I broke up with him. I need help taking my mind off of the whole situation and cheering myself back up. |
t3_334khm | relationships | My (25f) boyfriend (25m) of 2yrs called me a bitch for saying I'd expose his friend's (20sm) illicit online behaviour | My boyfriend told me his friend was being inappropriate with girls online, and my boyfriend was "troll-guilting him about it" with things I'd say. These include relatively common-sense things, according to my boyfriend, such as "you should feel bad", and the like.
As my boyfriend has a history of doing similar things behind my back, I replied with "(friend's gf) needs to know because I know how this feels. I should tell her". At this point I was told to stop being such a bitch.
TO BE VERY CLEAR: I have no intention of meddling and saying anything These are not my friends and I know it would cause problems between my boyfriend and his friend, as it will be traced back to my boyfriend.
That said, I cannot shake the upset that it caused and I need advice on either how to get over it, or whether I should tolerate this. Please help me out. | boyfriend of 2 years called me a bitch for saying I'd tell his friend's gf about his friend flirting extensively with a girl online |
t3_2vytna | tifu | Tifu by keying someone's car. | Already having a rough day, I'm at Swiss Chalet with my gf trying to look for parking for 15 mins. I finally find one when this lady runs up to the stall and stays there. I ask her what is she doing, and she says she's holding it for a friend. Annoyed at this point, I tell her she can't do that. It's first come first serve. She says she's been trying to look for parking for a long time as well. And I said it's too bad. But having her not move, I drive off in a rage. I finally find parking 10 mins later, and in a fit of uncontrolled anger, I head off for their car. I swipe my key along their driver door. Not knowing that the lady is running out and spotting me doing the dirty deed. I start walking away as if nothing happened. She's screaming at me and telling her friend to call the police.
Police come, I eventually admit to my guilt, rather than facing criminal charges. And now I'm looking to pay a pretty penny out of my pocket over something I terribly regret doing over something so stupid. | I keyed someone's car over road rage and got caught. |
t3_3d34hy | relationships | My (22F) S/O (29M) of 2 years is pressuring me to get an abortion I do not entirely want. | Found out I was pregnant a week ago. He was supportive at first, now he's distant, cruel and discussions on the topic are closer to attacks than conversations. His behavior as of late was heading in that direction but I'm beginning to see he has no limits. I know I'm not in an ideal position [due to start grad school full time this fall] but with extremely hard work and sacrifice I could create a positive atmosphere. I have the basic foundation to build from and I want to give my best.
It's still early in the pregnancy, and I'm on the fence (however strong my leaning may be) but the added stress is too much. The way he is treating me right now is killing me more than the news itself and making it all the more difficult to process. I'm pro-choice and funnily enough, typically against unplanned pregnancies being pursued. You'd be surprised how different things are when they're happening to you.
Not even sure if I have a question. If anyone has experienced something similar, please share. I've never felt so alone in my life. | Boyfriend started out supportive, now pressuring me to get an abortion. I'm still conflicted and increasingly upset. Any help would be appreciated. |
t3_1n073s | AskReddit | Am I being unfair? | So this is the story :
I paid 700$ for my laptop and I use it everyday and go on it most of the time. I let my sister go on it most of the time whenever she needs it. I also let her take it to school on some important days where she really needs it, no problem. But now she wants to take it 2x a week every week! And I said that's impossible and crazy no way! But then I made a deal with her saying that If she would owe me 10mins a week to wash my dishes I'd let her take it. Then comes the week she has to wash, and makes a fuss about it saying were family and whatnot and my mom agrees with her saying she shouldn't have to wash my dishes. So then I made it to 7 minutes a week and she's still not happy.
So the question here is : Am I being unfair? Or is she being a dick?
Anyone have any suggestions? | Agreed to let my sister take my laptop 2x a week if she owed me 7mins in dish washing. She says no, family is family I shouldn't owe you anything. |
t3_3ony8o | relationships | Me [35 M] with my Wife [32 F] 10 years, feelings for her best friend | Been married for 8 years, knew wife for 2 before that. We met while working together at a dead-end job. I now have a successful career, wife jumps around dead-end jobs.
The first two years of marriage was tough, money was tight and wife is not a sexual person. She was sexual before we were married. Our relationship is more of a room mate situation now. No kids, no house, 1 dog.
We both have had health issues over the last 3 years and have recovered completely. Health issues have changed who we are. I am more active, and she is a couch potato.
Wife has a best friend she has known for years. At first the friend annoyed me, but now I find myself completely attracted to her and not my wife. I lost attraction to my wife before I discovered I had feelings for her friend.
My wife and I have little to nothing in common, her friend and I have a lot in common. I think the friend has feelings for me, but won't show them out of respect for my wife.
My wife barely tolerates her best friend these days, I step in to keep the peace because I enjoy spending time with her best friend.
I know my marriage will end in the near future, we have both stopped trying to fix the marriage. We keep up appearances for our family and friends, but when we are together we don't talk or engage in activities together. We haven't had sex in over a year, and through out the marriage we have had sex maybe 25-30 times.
The question I have is when my marriage ends, should I let her friend know how I feel? Would it be wrong to try and have a relationship with her?
I have not cheated, and won't cheat on my wife. I respect her. I know my marriage is going to end, and I'm asking about after the marriage is over. | In a sexless/empty marriage, I have feeling for my wife's best friend who my wife barely tolerates. Is her friend off limits when our marriage ends? |
t3_2b96q0 | relationships | I've [30 F] been chatting with several men from online dating sites but as soon as I suggest meeting, they vanish. Why? | I've come to a point in my life where I really, really want to find a partner. And so I've been trying the online dating thing. However, I have yet to actually MEET one of these men in person.
We will start out chatting on the site (on eharmony you have to go through a series of "quizzes" before you can send a message, but on okcupid we just chat right away). If things go well within the first day or two, we'll exchange numbers and text.
I prefer meeting people as opposed to just writing or talking on the phone, so usually within the first week or two I will suggest meeting. Something like, "would you like to meet for a coffee or a drink sometime next week?" And then they vanish.
Once or twice a man has brought up meeting, but as soon as I put forth a concrete plan, it's days before they get back to me... if at all. I'm currently waiting on 2 really interesting and promising men.
For example, I'd been chatting with this really great guy on eharmony who suggested we meet. But because we live 2 hrs apart, I suggested meeting halfway. I haven't heard from him in a week, but I can see he's viewed my profile.
All my friends who online date are able to meet their matches. I feel so discouraged and sad that I can't make this work for me.
I'm intelligent, very educated, employed and talented. I'm relatively attractive and from what I can tell, a decent conversationalist.
It's so hard to meet decent men in person and online... and when even the "good" ones refuse to meet me, I can't help but feel like I'm just not meant to have that kind of happiness in my life. Which makes me incredibly sad.
Thoughts or advice? | Men seem uninterested in actually meeting me. |
t3_2p6u9z | Pets | Okay to move a dog? | I would like to adopt a dog (large-dog puppy or small dog of any age). I'm really excited, and I would like to adopt my pup over Christmas so that I have all vacation to play with him/her, he/she can meet my family, and so that I have a little extra time to train the pup and for it to get used to me. Another reason is that where I'm going for Christmas, pups are less likely to get adopted than where I live now. However, this means adopting it in another state and flying it home.
The shelters in my area have said that this would be fine, that they'd help me find a pup that would be okay on a plane (based on size, temperament, and snout - condition is that the pup can sit in the cabin with me for at least this one trip). My buddy says that it may be selfish to move the dog after ~2 weeks, that it would cause life-scarring stress. I don't want to be selfish, and I don't want to hurt my new best friend, but my gut tells me that this will really depend on the dog.
Opinions? | Planning on getting a new dog for Christmas, would like to fly him/her home. |
t3_3fj7tz | relationships | My boyfriend [18 M] of 2 years and I [18 F] had to break up for college and I can't deal with it. | My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years, and those 2 years were absolutely amazing. He was my best friend and we shared lots of really special moments together. He meant (and still means) the world to me. His family loved me and my family loved him, and I even spent last Thanksgiving with him. Though this might sound cliche, it didn't feel like just a high school relationship to me. I could really see us going the distance.
Unfortunately, we are going to colleges that are thousands of miles apart. We decided a couple of months ago that we should break up instead of doing long distance because long distance is just really, really hard.
I know that breaking up was the right thing to do. But I cannot function. I cry when I see pictures of us, when I think about us, when I see something that reminds me of him. It makes me feel physically nauseous to imagine him with anyone else. The idea of not being in a relationship with him is killing me inside. I'm crying right now as I write this post. Meanwhile, we're still writing to each other, and he seems to be doing just fine. He's even worried that he's moving on too quickly.
I feel crushed when I hear him say these things. I feel awful just thinking about it. I'm shaking at the thought of it.
Please, reddit, tell me what I can do to deal with it. I don't know what I expected from writing this post but I need someone to talk to and to give me advice on how to move on or how to deal with the pain, I don't know. I just can't deal with this by myself. | My boyfriend [18M] of 2 years and I [18 F] had to break up for college and my world is crumbling while he seems to be doing just fine. I need advice on how to move on or how to deal with the pain. |
t3_156h1b | dogs | Puppy Brag/Feeding Question | Hello, /r/Dogs! I have been an avid reader for some time now, and love this little community! I am owned by two fabulous mini Aussies, a 5-year-old red merle named Chewbacca (who has been my best friend since he was 8 weeks old) and a 4-year-old "blue merle" (mostly white) rescue mini Aussie, Bandit, who is deaf.
We are harboring a top-secret puppy for my parents (he is a Christmas surprise for the family, but before you freak out he is a WANTED puppy by my parents, they just want to see the look on my sisters face on Christmas morning. They have an 11 year old Corgi who I grew up with and is fabulously spoiled)
The puppy is a 12 week old Sheltie who we got from a rescue group (mom was surrendered while pregnant) he is a DOLL! We named him Carlton Lassiter (any Psych fans out there??) And in the time we have had him I have de-flead, groomed, wormed and gotten his first shots started as well as started his potty training (he whined at the door to go out for the first time yesterday! I am so proud!) and taught him "sit" and "down."
**ON TO THE QUESTION!!!**
He is a little on the skinny side for a puppy, partly because he doesn't have the usual puppy worms and partly because he is growing like a weed and is super active. What is the appropriate amount to feed a 12(ish) week old Sheltie pup? He GOBBLES his food down, and is always looking for more. The vet who saw him for his shots said that he looked great, but I like my puppies fat and happy. | How much should I be feeding a 12ish week old Sheltie puppy who is a little on the lean side? |
t3_2viiyz | relationships | My [21M] girlfriend [19F] of one year wants to have babies before I do. I'm concerned about how this will affect our relationship. Advice? | I've been with my girlfriend for a year now, and we have talked very seriously about the possibility of getting married one day, including all the different issues associated with that.
One of those issues is kids. My girlfriend has very strong maternal instincts, and is looking forward to having children. She says she wants to be a young mother, and wants to have her first baby by 30 at the latest. I think I want kids too, but I am not nearly as gung-ho about the whole thing. I don't see myself being ready before 35. There is too much else I want to accomplish before then, both in my life and in our relationship.
I am perfectly aware of the fact that there is a long time between now and when we have kids--we could break up, one or both of us might change our mind, the list goes on. Assuming we stay together, however, I think this has the potential to become a significant issue.
I'd love to hear from Redditors on here who are more experienced than I am. What has your experience been? Did you disagree with your SO about when to have kids? How did you resolve that? How did it affect your relationship? Did your views change over time? Any and all insights would be welcome and appreciated. | My girlfriend wants to have babies before I do, and I'm concerned it will affect our relationship. I'm looking for insights and advice. |
t3_36ewrd | relationships | 26 [F] with my 30 [M] husband of 3 years have conflict about him playing guitar while I am talking to him | My husband plays guitar; he's amazing at it and he gets really into it. When he's playing he's so focused on it that he tunes everything else out (this is from my perspective, though he says he can still pay attention). I've always found undivided attention important, so I never text while he's talking to me (and he's not much of a phone user but I would be upset if he were texting while I were talking).
It happens often that I'll start talking and he will pick up his guitar and start playing. He claims he can continue paying attention. The problem is that even without this distraction, he's not the best at interacting about topics he didn't himself bring up. I'll tell him something and he doesn't have a natural instinct to respond. I know it sounds strange, but he is a well-functioning adult with some good friendships. He's tried to get better about responding when I'm talking to him, but his natural state really seems to be to just listen without responding.
I've told him over and over that I need him to fight his instinct to start playing guitar when I'm talking, but every time he gets annoyed or frustrated. He's been accommodating with other requests but he doesn't seem to understand how important this is to me. And for a person who's already not great at some conversations, adding a distraction makes it even worse!
I'm open to the possibility that I also need to make some changes in this. I've already tried to give him fewer details when explaining situations, and he definitely has plenty of time when he can play guitar (I encourage his hobby). Any suggestions about either what I can request from him (since just asking him goes nowhere) or how I can change my thinking about this (if necessary) or anything at all would be helpful. | The combination of my husband's poor conversation skills and often playing guitar while I'm talking to him make me feel I'm not being listened to or respected. |
t3_4f705i | relationships | I [20F] had the Depo-Provera shot and now I'm an awful person. How can I make sure my relationships survive this? | I was on the pill and had no problems on it but found it difficult to remember to take it every day. When I mentioned this to my doctor (about an month ago) he recommended the Depo shot instead, and administered it there and then. It was brilliant, for all of two days. Since then, I've been bleeding non-stop, I'm always tired, I can't concentrate, I've been experiencing migraines with aura and near-constant headaches. My sex drive is zero. I've always had a short temper but I'm getting very angry, very fast, about really dumb shit. In short, I'm currently a horrible person to be around.
Apparently there's no way of reversing the shot so I just have to wait it out, which according to manufacturer should be 2-3 months after my second shot for the hormones to totally leave my system, so I'm stuck until August at the earliest (and I've read anecdotes online about side effects persisting for 18 months afterwards, but I don't want to consider that right now). So it's up to me to manage this as best I can until then. My poor boyfriend has been bearing the brunt of me being either asleep, grumpy because I'm not asleep/I'm in pain, and snappy. [**TMI bit here**] I don't want sex anywhere near as much as usual, and even then I'm dry as the sahara desert [**TMI over**]. He's being wonderfully patient and helpful but I'm sure he can't do it forever. This is the best relationship I've ever been in and I don't want to ruin it over this! I'm also taking it out on my parents, siblings, friends... basically everyone except the cat, and she's probably next. I have exams in a month so obviously the headaches and inability to concentrate are a huge problem.
Does anyone have any advice about coping mechanisms? Anything that might help me concentrate? A way to ensure my relationships survive this? Or just commiserate, I'm feeling a bit isolated because of this. Thank you! | I had the Depo-Provera shot and now I'm a miserable bitch. How can I make this easier on everyone around me? |
t3_228b1g | tifu | TIFU by telling my girlfriend i have a rape fantasy. | This morning showed all the signs of it turning out to be a great day. Woke up with the tent pitched, girlfriend (of five years) rubbing my back, sun shining through the blinds, 55 for the forecast (I'm from Massachusetts), and a couple hours before work to gaff off. So i start rubbing my girlfriend back and she tells me shes in the mood for anything, just name it. So i start telling her I've always had a fantasy of fucking someone who was powerless to stop me. Now i would never rape someone in real life, mind you, but i would totally act it out because the idea of an urge so primal i just cant control myself turns me on a little bit. Regardless of all these facts, she immediately freaked out and started crying and telling me about this instance in college where she was in fact raped. Twice. In the same night. I was completely unaware of this. she is now up on the fence about whether or not we are going to stay together and I'm currently wondering how I'm going to keep my broke ass off the street. -_ | Told my girlfriend i wanted to rape her, probably have to find a new place to live. |
t3_4v5lzh | Advice | Bad landlord potentially putting us in danger... | Hi there. I live in a house in San Francisco that has 3 total tenants in it. There is a bottom floor, a middle floor, and a top floor house all with separate addresses. I and 4 other people live on the top floor. We recently got new neighbors in the bottom most floor who have decided to start renting their room out to random people via Airbnb. This to me seems incredibly unsafe. We were never approached or asked about this and to me it seems liek a major safety liability. All of us live in this place together and there are a couple communal spaces in the building (garage, entryway, stairs to the tenants, etc) We have all been scared of this because we felt it would not be hard for someone to rent their Airbnb and come up to our place or the middle floors place to break in and steal stuff or potential hurt us. I emailed my landlord about this concern and he said that they "have been in discussions regarding this matter. They seem to want to take a legal route with me, and we are headed down that way. Overall, there's not much that I can do to curtail their pursuit." This seems like total bullshit to me because it is his house and he should have the power to say yes or no to this sort of thing. And it turns out we were right. As we were coming home tonight it looks like someone has broken into the middle floor apartment and the police are here. Before this the only people with access to anywhere in the house would be the tenants living on the floors but we have no idea who these Airbnb people are so we have no idea of knowing who could've broken in. My worst fears are right. How do I deal with this situation? | my neighbors started allowing Airbnb guests in a house that we share without consulting us and i am concerned for our safety and my landlord is a real lazy piece of shit about it. |
t3_wr1jf | dating_advice | Have I ruined my chances? Did I even have a chance to begin with? | I'm 24/m, using a reddit account different from my usual one to ensure I remain anonymous. Over the past few months I've become very close with a friend of mine who's 21/f, who I find very attractive. I'm a very inexperienced virgin while she's polyamorous and has had many partners, as far as I can tell. We share similar interests and have been hanging out a lot lately. We go to a lot of punk shows, I take her to films from time to time, and I go over to her house where sometimes she cooks us food.
Tonight I was over at her place. She made us food and we talked, then went and watched a movie in her room. Turns out she's had some health issues as of late, and she's met this new guy who's swept her off of her feet but she's not giving up her other poly relationships. Anyway I pick the movie and foolishly pick one that's excessively long. At the end of the movie I say goodbye to her and we hug fairly intimately, as per usual. I ask her if I could kiss her, and she said no.
I'm not sure what to make of this, but I know it's not good. I didn't ask why she didn't want to and she didn't seem to act as if it were a big deal. Maybe it wasn't for her, but it was for me, as it took me months to get the courage up to ask her even that. Maybe if I had just gone in for it and not asked it would have been fine. I've heard, though, that if you can't read the signals in that type of situation (and I can't) that's best to just ask. I don't know whether or not she didn't want to kiss me because it was a bad time or if she doesn't like me like that. It just sucks, because asinine as I sound, I really, really like this girl. | Spent an evening with a girl I'm attracted to and have a good raport with, asked her to kiss me and she said no, saddened and confused. |
t3_423ivk | relationships | Me [23F] with my friend [23F] of 1.5 years, she's always broke, not sure what to do? | Hi there,
I have a friend that I've known for about a 1 year and a half. I'm not sure what to do because she's always broke and I'm starting to feel like she's just using me. Right now she works part time and doesn't have a car so I'm always the one driving and paying for gas. On my end I am kind of a pushover and get nervous to stand up for myself but I did tell her in a text at the beginning that if we go somewhere I can't lend her money because a few times she asked if I could help her pay which I did. She now owes me $75. The other day she was telling another friend that she wants to work at a department (shopping) store and in my head I'm thinking, "well she's not going to be making much more $" so I feel that this problem will continue. To be honest, when I met her, I was lonely/a loner so I was glad to meet her and I think she was lonely too but I've been avoiding her and hanging out only 1-2 times/week instead of almost everyday which we did at the beginning. If I ever have a snack, like a coffee/drink, pastry she always asks if she can try it or have some, like a moocher. I am thinking of focusing on my love life and hanging out with other people. I'm not trying to sound judgmental of her situation but it's affecting me and pissing me off. She has done thoughtful things for me (not $ related) that I appreciated but I feel taken advantage of in this area. Do you think I should tell her how I feel? Any advice on what I should do? Thanks :) | Should I continue to hang out with friend who is broke? |
t3_37qwlq | personalfinance | Looking for advice about buying a house | Husband and I considering buying a house. Preapproved for FHA 203 Mortgage with 3.5% down. Found an acceptable option for ~160k ($1039/mo. P&I, insurance, taxes, PMI) and a dream type option for ~240k ($1738/mo. with the above and $189 HOA fee).
We're moving for my job (salary of $80k), so he will be job hunting when we move, but I imagine he will find a job making $30k minimum. Also, we will plan on renting out a room to a relative for $600/mo. This will last at least a year. Beyond that is uncertain.
Current Recurring monthly debts = $1700/mo consisting of student loans, car loans, insurance, utilities, etc. We typically spend ~$1500 on top of that for food, gas, alcohol, shopping, fun etc.
Also, I should mention that the down payment, closing costs, etc will essentially deplete our bank accounts for a short period. We'll probably have ~$1,000 worst case. Also should mention that this will be a long term move, which is why I'd rather buy now rather than rent for a year and buy then. Also, we wouldn't rent out a room to the relative if we end up renting instead of buying. Renting would cost about $1000/mo. in the area we would move to. | pay $700/mo more for dream house vs acceptable house? |
t3_1i2tld | relationships | [23m] not sure how to ask out girl at work/signs to look for | I usually play the long game with girls: become a close friend, watch for signs, wait for it being "right" blah blah and needless to say it rarely has worked and usually causes pain.
So I actually found a cute girl my age at work and Im gunna ball up and just ask her out, but Ive never done so directly, not entirely sure how. Only contact we've had was "Hi, what's your name/you new here?"
Just chit chat bullshit with her and if its going well, casually ask her to lunch or something? Or if it she shows interest actually out for a drink/dinner?
Mainly, Im bad with picking up signs, what should I look for to see if there's any interest? | how should I ask a girl at work out and what signs of interest to look for? |
t3_teogj | AskReddit | I called out a scammer, can they get me back? | Hey,
I've been looking for an apartment in another country for a couple months now. I found a listing that looked great - almost too great. I exchanged emails with the owner and while their english was a bit poor, it's another country and I kind of expected that. Then little things started adding up and this morning I confirmed (through calling the actual owner of the apartment, who I found online) that this was a scam. I went ahead and alerted the actual owner so they could track down he false listing from the real estate website I found it on.
Well, I was a bit angry at wasting all my time and I sent an email to the scammer, essentially saying "sorry, but I found a great deal on another apartment" and linked to the actual rental. In a friendly way I also asked about some of their backstory, asking questions I know they can't answer. Essentially, it looks polite and friendly, like our other emails at a glance, but I'm calling him out on his bullshit and hoping he sweats.
In all honesty, would this piss a scammer off enough to send me a virus or anything? It was rash and now I'm half regretting it. He has my email information, some info on where I'm a student and where I'll be working in said foreign country. Could this be a problem? And if it is, how could I fix it?
Fyi, this is my first time renting an apartment, I've lived in dorms or at home up until now so I'm kind of proud of myself for catching this since I have zero experience with rentals. | I caught a rental scammer and sent back a catty email calling him out. He has my email and some details on where I'm a student and where I'll be working in his country, could this be a problem? |
t3_3ond9j | tifu | TIFU with an innocent typographical error on a professional letter. | This happened at my previous employer many years back and it's not really a huge deal, but it did cause my boss to stop by my desk and remind me to be vigilant about proofreading. I worked at an auto Insurance Company where we had a rehabilitation team tasked with helping allot/approve funds that were being spent on rehab after car accidents. As an admin, I had daily correspondence with lawyers, doctors, physiotherapists, occupational therapists, etc, usually to confirm appointments or approve the rendering of services. We're talking many dozens of letters each day, all dictated, so I sometimes got lazy in proofreading when we were behind.
I was transcribing a dictated letter, so I wrote out the letter, spell checked it and faxed it to the doc. It read like so:
*Dear Dr. So-and-so.*
*Please accept this letter as approval for Ms. Whats-her-name to attend your office for sex sessions, to be billed in accordance with the attached, signed quote. At the conclusion of these sessions, we would ask that you provide us with a report detailing services rendered, as well as your specific recommendations for further sessions, if any.*
*Sincerely,
Insurance Guys.*
The doctor faxed the letter back with a humorous handwritten note on another page:
*We will accept this letter as approval for six (6) physiotherapy sessions, as we believe that was the intention. If it was not, I will have to immediately make sure my own car insurance has this kind of coverage!*
Since then I've adopted doing (#) in all my correspondence after the written number, and also tend to proof-read with more diligence, so I guess it was a good thing in the end. | sent a physiotherapist approval for sex sessions instead of six. |
t3_ef8ms | AskReddit | My uncles non-profit needs your help Reddit! | My uncle, who has dedicated his entire life to environmentalism and charity work, recently sent me this email asking for some help.
Recently Global Giving approached A Future Without Poverty to join its online network to help with fund raising for charitable projects submitted by partner organizations. After a careful review of Global Giving we decided to submit a project to be considered. We have talked about launching an online global market place to help communities market their products through A Future Without Poverty. We did not have the funding for us to launch this project so we submitted it as a potential on line fund raising campaign to Global Giving. They put it through their review process and we were accepted on a trial basis. We need to raise a minimum of $4,000 in the next 29 days from a minimum of 50 unique donors. Once this is done we can add additional projects and continue fund raising on line year round.
The Future Without Poverty Board of directors have already started to make their personal commitments to this challenge and we will have 10 of the 50 donors we need. We are now asking our friends and those that really believe in a Future Without Poverty to make a donation on line to help us meet our goal. With less then 21 days to go we need your help now. Any size donation will help us meet our goal of 50 donors.
As a friend of A Future Without Poverty:
* 1. Please go to [ and make your donation to day. If you want to use a shorter url for Twitter, SMS, or Facebook you can use: [
* 2. Please encourage your friends and associates to make a donation. Any size donation counts toward our unique donors counts
* 3. Please share your ideas on how we can expand our universe of donors to help support this project.
Thank you
If you guys could donate or help get the word out I'd be very, very appreciative. | Uncle runs non-profit called A Future Without Poverty. They applied to be added to a site called Global Giving. They need to raise $4,000, by 50 unique donors, within 29 days to be permanently added to the site. |
t3_2tg85a | tifu | TIFU by faking being sick. | So well, today I faked being sick to skip a school test. *Oh come on,* don't give me that look. It was a physics test I hadn't properly studied for and I felt as shit/was tired anyways. I stayed home just so I could get the weekend to study for the re-test afterwards. I don't usually do this but today was an exception.
Anyway, I said I had a really bad stomach ache, and had to stay in bed and such. My stepfather had a day off from his job, so he was home as well. I told him about my stomach ache and said it might be some contagious stomach flu or something so he would stay away and all.
Here's the FU: Apparently I was *too* convincing with my stomach flu. My stepfather is *really,* ***really*** icky when it comes to bacteria. Which shouldn't be a problem, just means he will stay away, right?
However, when I went to the kitchen to get some tea and something to eat I accidentally walked past him. Due to this, he thought my fake stomach-flu infected him too. Not long afterwards he started showing signs of my stomach ache as well as other things. Later at dinner he was looking very pale and got all sweaty, and lost his appetite (which is unusual).
Now, like 7 hours later after the "infection", it has apparently escalated to the point of him lying in bed, pale and shaking, on the verge of puking his guts out every second. He's looking really bad, and everyone thinks I infected him with my fake stomach ache. I'm the only one who knows that it's just a really bad case of the nocebo effect. | Don't fake sicknesses, others might literally get it. |
t3_2mrtyj | relationships | Me (24/f) with my SO (31/m) of 3 years. I don't want to be married. We have a daughter. | I'm not sure how to proceed with this.
We've been together 3 years, married for a month, we have a 4 month old, and it took all of this for me to realize that he's controlling. I can't take it anymore.
We live in a 2 BR apartment that I own. It was given to me by a close family friend. He is the bread winner. I make a lousy $300/month from home to take care of her. My parents are very close by and help me babysit. I've been looking for work but had issues breastfeeding and it's been difficult getting away for more than an hour. We started to supplement with formula to help her but it's a work in progress.
I spoke briefly about it to my cousin who is my best friend. She said we should try couples therapy. I never went to therapy and don't see how it would help. I don't even want it to help. I don't know how to talk to him. The only reason I'd want to stay in this is because it's easier. I know that's the wrong thing to do, but what's the right thing to do?
Am I evil for wanting to kick him out? I get that we have a child and that child is his but I don't want to be married. I want to change my last name back to my maiden name like today. | I don't want to be married anymore. |
t3_442ilx | dogs | [HELP] my 6.5yr old all of a sudden is nasty to most other dogs | He's been socialized (a lot) since the day after he got his final shots way back when he was around 6 months old. When he turned 4 or so, he was more into playing fetch than playing with other dogs at the park. He still would play with dogs he already knew however. Ok so now what has changed? Last April I got a puppy, 5 yrs younger than him. They get along great, he puts the younger one in check sometimes but never bites or gets too aggresive. In July he was attacked from behind by a younger female dog, she bit into his leg pretty well and he almost bled out. We got past that, still not much of a change at parks though. Then in December a 2nd dog attacked him, this time though he was able to bite the dog back. Now anytime we're at a dog park and he is chewing on a stick, a piece of ice, a ball, and another dog goes anywhere near him, he lunges at them and tries to attack. I've been keeping an eye on him closely though so none of these turned into bites. Is he basically done as far as dog parks? Time to retire him? He's such a sweet dog in all other ways. Figured I'd ask here before dropping money on dog behavior specialists. | 6.5yr old dog has been cool with other dogs, now has a lil bro and been bitten by two other dogs and has stopped playing nice since 2nd attack |
t3_2on8nw | relationships | Me [25 M] with my [24 F] of 5 years, share an apartment and cat together but just broke up. | My girlfriend and I broke up last night, and it was kind of a mess. It was somewhat mutual and I truly harbor no bad feelings against her. We grew apart, she needs to work through some problems that she had.
The huge issue is that we both live together, and I've never gone through a co-habitation breakup. I own most of the furniture, and I'll probably be the one keeping the apartment because I'm not seeing how she'd afford it. We have a cat that we both love, but I'm guessing she'll be staying with me as well.
My questions:
- How long is too long to live with an ex? Do we set a move-out date?
- Is it okay to share a bed? I know that sounds stupid, but I don't see anything happening in there. Really.
- How much do I help her move? I obviously care a lot about her but I'm not sure what protocol is.
- I don't have the option of breaking this lease (would be about $4,000), what are some simple things I can do to convert our apartment from our home as a couple, to a place of my own? Literally everything reminds me of her and it's pretty heart breaking.
- General advice | I broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years, how do we un-cohabitate? (It's a sad breakup, but neither of us are angry) |
t3_44rvm4 | relationships | Me (27m) and my girlfriend (29f) have been dating for a few months now and I found out she lied about her past with her roommate. | First time posting on here, and just looking to see someone else's point of view.
My girlfriend (29f) and I (27m) have been dating for roughly three months and everything seemed to be wonderful. We have a very similar sense of humor, we get along very well, so on and so forth.
Anyways, she has a male roommate, which I don't have a problem with. It was her only option at the time as she was desperate for a roommate, and it was also before we met. I initially thought nothing of it, until I noticed she would never invite me over or invite me inside. I thought it was a little weird, so I asked her about it. She said it was just because the place was a mess, which is understandable, but I just caught a gut feeling that it wasn't the whole truth.
Fast forward about another month, I kind of pressed her about the issue a bit more and she gave me a different excuse. Again, something just wasn't adding up. So I started thinking that maybe she was hiding something, so I asked if her and her roommate were ex's or if they had ever hooked up. She replied with a very adamant no. So I dropped it.
Again, my menacing gut was telling me I wasn't getting the whole truth, so a few weeks later I asked her if she was sure that nothing ever happened between them. At first, she said no, nothing had ever happened. I then asked her if she was sure, and that's when she told me they had hooked up about a year ago and he has a crush on her still. I was pretty put off by the fact that she lied to me.
On one hand I guess I can kind of understand why she would lie about it, not wanting to ruin our relationship, but still, she lied to me. I don't want to end the relationship with her, because I do believe deep down she is a great, caring, kind hearted person, but I also don't want the lying to become a trend. I guess all I'm really looking for is an outsiders point of view. | girlfriend lied about past with male roommate |
t3_2fmdih | relationships | Me [27 M] with my friend [31 F], Falling in love with friend | I'm falling in love with my friend of 2 years. We've always hung out and done stuff together as normal people. Recently, she's been trying to get into the modeling world. I've supported her from driving her to gigs and doing critiques. I never saw her in as a potential mate until tonight.
Tonight, I was having dinner with her and her roommate. I was planning the usual night where I drop my friend off at the party strip after dinner then prepare for work.
It was like one of those dumb love movies that you see in theaters, the hot girl comes out in something amazing and poses. I was awed with her beauty for the first time. I became very flustered, I didn't know where to look or say to her.
I didn't have the balls to say anything besides "you look great" to her. I'm caught in a pickle. I want to chase her now, but I don't know if she's interested in me as a potential mate. I feel dumb. | In love with model friend, don't know how to proceed with her. |
t3_4s6ubs | relationships | I (24 F) had sex with a date (26 M) after talking for over a month. How do I have the "what are we" convo, move forward, or figure out what this exactly is..? | Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
Hey all- I recently moved to a new country, and ended up chatting with an amazing guy who I met off of Tinder. We met up, and each time we've had a date they have lasted for hours and have been arguably the most fun/interesting dates I've had. He used to text me multiple times a day, and he's told me it feels like we've known each other for ages, and that seeing me is so easy. I've kept casual with it, as I'm a firm believer that good things happen naturally, which they all have. But I'm used to this city's casual dating atmosphere, where friends with benefits are so often. But this guy is different. He didn't mention anything sexual for quite some time, until I initiated how damn attracted to him I was one evening. Usually, he'd pay for things, and the most interaction we'd have is a kiss here or there goodbye. He's asked me before about my story, dating history, etc. He's quite a gentleman, so charming, very sweet. Earlier this week a few days ago I went back to his, we made drinks and chilled, which lead to some intensely wonderful sex (which he seemed quite blown away by as well). I stayed the night at his, then we left early for work. Since then, the texting has been a bit less often. He couldn't hang out this weekend because he has a few friends in town. But then, he hasn't talked to me at all for the weekend and I'm heading out of town for a trip in a few days, I'd love to see him again. I wouldn't be bothered if I didn't notice he was on whatsapp, but hasn't read my text from the weekend. Am I overthinking everything, being paranoid he's not as genuine, or do I trust that his intentions are a relationship down the road, not just a hookup? Thoughts appreciated, thank you. I know this is silly, but this whole game of dating is so crazy sometimes nowadays. And with Tinder, it's a whole new ballpark. | Met a great guy, not quite sure if it's a possible relationship he wants, or if it's just a hook up. How should I handle this? |
t3_36mrpc | relationships | I [23/F] am severely jealous of my boyfriend's [28 M] friendship with his ex [26-27/F] | My boyfriend and I have been living together for a couple years now, but I still get severe anxiety about his friendship with his ex-girlfriend (whom he dated about 8 years ago but still remains good friends with.) We don't live near her, but I know that he Skyped/texted/emailed/called/chatted with her a LOT right up until (and a little after) he started dating me.
Our relationship is very serious and I'm taken medicine for my anxiety now, but my bf still refuses to give up his friendship with her. Although, he does talk to her way less (almost never) because of me.
She is also the only girl my bf has had sex with, other than me. They lost their virginity to each other, which makes me very anxious and upset. (I lost my virginity to him.)
I hate that she is pretty (we are about the same level of pretty, I've been told by friends) and that she posts a LOT of risque and racy photos of herself on her social accounts.
What should I do? Do you think my bf still has feelings for her? Do you think they share something "special and forever" because they lost their virginity to each other? Will she always be in our life???? | My bf is still friends with the girl he lost his virginity with, and I am really jealous. |
t3_3lhg0t | Advice | So my neighbor stole my trash can. | Basically what happened is he takes it upon himself to put all of the trash cans away, usually before we get out of bed. He is an older guy, gets up early in the morning and I didn't think anything of it until now.
Somehow he managed to switch our trash cans and put my trash can in his driveway and his trash can in ours. Coincidentally the trash can in his driveway was stolen. Of course he noticed way before us, early in the morning. So he called the trash company and figured out that the trash can in our driveway is technically his trash can. So he took the trashcan out of our driveway. When he told me all of this he told me to just call and get a new can and they won't charge anything, he "already checked."
So when I called we found out it was $60 dollars to replace the can. I feel like if it wasn't for his fuck up of switching the cans we would still have ours and he would have to replace his own. So all in all I feel like it's his fault and he should be responsible to pay for a new can.
I have never asked him to take out our trash or put away our cans. He takes this upon himself and I just never saw the need to tell him to stop. How should I handle this situation, since obviously I still have to live next to the guy? | neighbor took my trash can, got it stolen, realized he took the wrong trash can, and took his back. I'm left with a $60 dollar bill for a new one. Not my fault, not my property that it was stolen from. What do I do? |
t3_29giu0 | needadvice | Friends with kids... | Hey guys,
Been feeling kinda down lately as my best friend has just had twins, and I'm single and having fun without having kids... I get peoples priorities are different, but I also just miss her! She's 25, and had twins, and I'm 26. We've been friends for 12 years now, and I feel like I'm loosing her. Whenever I ask to hang out she's too tired, and barely texts. I have other friends too, but she's the one whose been there thick and thin. My mom passed away a few months ago; so I'm needing that extra support too, and I feel resentful to her as she can be there for her kids, but my mom can't be there for me. I also feel like I'm putting the effort in and inviting myself over to her house, and she isn't putting any on her side. Mom died March 3, and she had the twins April 7. So within a month I feel like I lost both my mom and my best friend...
Redditors, how do I get that understanding and patience, how do I accept her new life, and make sure she doesn't drift away? Also, how do I not have this resentment for her wanting kids in the first place, when I don't have that in my plans anytime soon? | how do I maintain friendships with friends who have had kids? |
t3_14dz11 | dating_advice | How can I get around myself? [22 Male] | Background: I've always put every other aspect of my life in front of my love life, possibly as an excuse.
Recently I've landed a great job, I'm going to college for free, and in a club, I'm working out 4 days a week, with yoga involved. Compared to where I was in my life only a year ago, I'm moving, and moving fast.
**"I feel like I can move faster, or improve in another way."**
I feel that this thought is caused by the fact I haven't been in a relationship in over 2 years now. I am a great talker, it's my job, and I'm very personable (other's descriptions of myself), and I can understand that. I am an extrovert, and it's easy for me to socialize.
The issue arises when I realize someone is hinting at me, or I realize that I like another woman. I become the person I was in High School, and truth be told, I haven't worked on that part of my social life since then.
I have no 'moves', I haven't slept with another person more than 3 times in the past year.
I just don't know how to go about this issue of mine and I was hoping this sub-reddit might shed some light onto me. I do hope this question isn't too vague that I get downvoted into a oblivion, but I'm willing to crosspost elsewhere if that's what it takes for insight. | People describe me as sociable and personable, but I lack proper one-on-one skills with the opposite sex when it comes down to it. |
t3_3saplw | askwomenadvice | Me (24 m) contemplating about one of my friend (24 f) | I'll try to be brief, so I won't steal too much of your time.
I have a female friend from high-school, we were always good friends. I had a crush on her for a while back then, but I didn't told her, because I was afraid of the answer, and of loosing her as a friend.
She found a boyfriend (they were together for a few years) I found a girlfriend (we were together for a few months :P) time has past, she broke up with his old bf, got a new one (basically because she got bored with him).
So she was away to work, but came back last week. Somehow I wound out that she came home and I called her. She was really happy to hear my voice, and we went out for a few beers with a mutual friend.
Since then I can't think of anything else than her. To be honest I don't know if she is in a relationship, because I didn't asked (I have reason to think that she's not but, I might be wrong). Once someone asked me, if she would be single then what would I do, and I answered: I would try my luck.
Now I don't know what to do, given the fact that I intentionally friend-zoned myself with her (at least that's how I feel).
I just want to talk about this with someone, what is your opinion? What would you do if you would be in her position (or have you ever been in this position?) I don't want to find the right answer, I just want to talk about it. | an old crush of mine might be single, we are in a good friendship, undecided if I should take the next step |
t3_q2sjf | AskReddit | Is it reasonable to end a business relationship over the other person's personal views? | My financial adviser adds all his clients on Facebook. He posts financial/etc links and articles for us to read. Whatever, great.
Today in the little eavesdropping panel of FB I saw that he was in a pretty serious homophobic circlejerk (yes, circlejerk) about gay rights.
He was talking about how his parents raised him in a proper Christian household and that is why he developed an appropriate attraction to women at puberty, despite being born with "evil tendencies" like everyone else. He went on for a few comments about that sort of thing and thanked the OP for "supporting what is right."
I don't really want to do business with this person. Should I tell him and his company (I know they're going to ask) why I'm leaving or just keep it to myself? Is it even reasonable to end a business relationship with a financial adviser over this or am I overreacting? | My financial adviser is a homophobic jerk. What do? |
t3_1nved4 | relationships | Our issues have been resolved but perhaps the damage is done. Any advice? (23F/M) | My ex and I, both 23, were together for a year and a half. During that period we came close to breaking up several times, but always made it work and continued forward stronger and more in love than ever. We had an amazing summer, felt like we were insanely compatible, and both thought seriously about marrying each other. He told me that I was his ideal woman several times and that he had never been so in love.
Most of our problems stemmed from my poor relationship with my parents, who have always been abusive and invalidating. When stressful things happened with my family, I would find myself immensely sad but couldn't let my ex in because of all the shame I had been brought up with about sharing these things. After a trying month in August he broke up with me. I finally gained the courage to cut ties with my parents and see a therapist who specializes in these sorts of issues. I feel so much better and am demonstrably more stable, now that I've embraced and been working through my trauma.
Since the breakup I've confessed to my ex all of the awful experiences that I had as a child. He says he feels like he understands me so much better now and feels like our issues have finally been resolved. He says that he's still really tired from everything that happened, though, and doesn't think he loves me anymore. I do understand this; when he's hurt he needs space, and I made the mistake of not giving him that initially. We hung out several times after the break-up and everything seemed great, but he decided recently that he just couldn't take the ambiguity and needed to come down one way or another. He said he wasn't coming back and needed to not see me for a while.
I've been trying to give him this space but it is really hard. I can't help but hope that we can finally work things out now that my family situation is out of the way. He agreed to get back in touch with me later when he's had enough time and if he's single. I know I can't wait around for him forever, but I love him so much and really do want this to work. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. | Family was causing a lot of stress for me and damaging my amazing relationship. I finally decided to do something about the situation and my ex recognizes that was our main issue, but is it too late? |
t3_4xhuh0 | relationships | Me (M, 29) while out with a mate (M, 29) bumped into his ex/someone I'm also close friends with (F, 27). How should I have handled this situation? | So I was out with a friend going to get lunch when another close friend of mine (also his ex) called out to me when she saw me. They hadn't seen each other in years. I waved, then ended up turning around in her direction to go and say hi.
I was pretty conscious about making either of them feel uncomfortable or awkward, so I thought I would keep it quick, we said our hellos, then parted way (there was a bit of an awkward silence at the end).
I texted her casually later on saying "lol that was awkward" just to make light of the situation.
I then got a response back saying that it wasn't awkward at the start, but that I made it awkward. Apparently I just waved and walked away (I was admittidely unsure what to do at the start, but did go to say hi), and apparently I didn't look like i wanted to talk.
I tried to explain that I just wasn't sure how to deal with the situation, to not make either party uncomfortable. But now I'm getting ignored.
So is there anything that I should be doing in this situation? It seems pretty awkward no matter what.... | While out with a friend bumped into another close friend who was also his ex. Situation got awkward, and apparently it was me that did it. What can I do differently? |
t3_32n7wv | tifu | TIFU by almost using "Beggars can't be choosers" with a real-life beggar, because I bought the beggar dinner and then he bitched about not getting salsa | Ok, so my mom always said "Beggars can't be choosers" -- I almost employed that annoying ass phrase to a real beggar.
I stopped in the parking lot at Rubios to get my fish tacos, and some poor guy asks for 30c for a soda, and I said "How about instead I just buy you dinner?" to which he very happily agreed. I asked if he liked fish tacos, and he said "Well I'd rather have steak" -- and I said that's fine, no problem, let me grab it for you.
I pay for this guy's steak taco dinner meal and drink, $12, and take it out to him and have a very short conversation. He goes through his food and looks at me and says "There's no salsa?" like I was gonna go back the fuck inside and get it for him. I nearly said "Beggars can't be choosers, asshole" but realized he was probably somewhere on the spectrum, and told him he's welcome to grab it himself and said "have a good one" and left, pissed off.
Now I'm pissed because I did something kind, but the fucker was unappreciative. | Bought a beggar dinner; he bitched because I didn't grab his salsa; I told him to get it himself; I feel like a douche for not buying his dinner correctly, and for what he said to me. |
t3_v4b32 | AskReddit | Today I called a 50something yr old lady a c**t for driving terribly. Is this acceptable? What's the worst that you've done to another driver out of rage? (poss nsfl) | So I was waiting to make a left into a strip mall on a busy street which leaves very few and short windows of opportunity to make the turn safely. From my right coming out a strip mall across the street, this lady proceeded to cross half the rode and stop right in front of my car waiting to take the next opportunity to turn. I followed up by giving her the finger right as she looks at me and she makes a nasty face back. She took the next opportunity to turn and had her window lowered to say something to me. I simply responded with you f****ng c**t. I had a debate with my friends if that is an acceptable use of the term. I believe she was being a c***. I had to wait for a solid extra 4 minutes to make the turn btw.
Sorry to all the women that read that and hate the word. Side note this is NY drivers.
Is there ever an acceptable time to use that word? I believe so, some of my friends disagree. Whats the worst you've done while driving? | woman cut infront of me forcing me to wait a while longer to turn and dropped the word all women hate |
t3_nfqfw | AskReddit | Issue with my room mates cat. | Question for everyone out there. My room mate has a cat that is quite anti social but I can decently handle. Problem lies in the fact that the cat likes to jump up behind our large flat screen tv to get into the window. The tv stand is solid wood but has a floating glass top. When the cat jumps up and down in and out of the window the cat slightly moves the glass top. We have secured it as much as possible, it really is just a design flaw we think. But, nonetheless, it's still a concern. Nothing else moves the top but the cat. We have talked to the room mate about the issue but her philosophy is "it's a cat, good luck keeping him out of the window". I know she does nothing to deter the cat and despite already allowing the cat to ruin the brand new carpet in her room we simply want to keep the rest of the house intact. We, the boyfriend and I, are afraid of the cat moving the glass top so much that the TV will fall. The room mate is not financially well off. The reason for moving in was a job change and to help her save money. None of that has happened as planned. We have discussed that issue and a move out date is end of April 2012. We tried to do good but have gotten more screwed on the situation than we ever imagined. We can't kick her out because, despite being 36, lives paycheck to paycheck and has no where to go. Also, rearranging furniture is not an option. The room is quite odd and our living room only works this way. Any suggestions from the cat owners out there to help us deter a cat from getting in and out of the window?
Btw, if this should be in another subreddit please let me know. I'm asking a question of my fellow redditors so this seemed most logical. | Room mate doesn't respect our wishes to keep cat out of window for fear of knocking the tv off the tv stand. Need suggestions on how to deter it. |
t3_26nc7o | relationships | Me (21M) and GF(20F) arguing like mad over the small things. Help! | Hey guys I've never posted here but need some serious advice. I've been dating this girl for almost 6 years now. I know her family well and she knows mine. So anyways we have been arguing like crazy about the smallest of things. She just told me she doesn't like to buy things for me that she can't use. She just bought me a new pair of slide gloves for my long board and resents it. I bought her a pair of Ray Bans last month so I'm confused. She just seems to be getting irritated that I don't want to do every little thing she wants to do. I have no idea what to do guys. Help! | arguing about the small things. Help. |
t3_zvu41 | AskReddit | Reddit, what's the coolest thing you've found in the trash? Here's mine. | It's too dang big to mount or put anywhere right now, so it's just leaning against the wall collecting dust. I didn't feel like lugging in a game system or DVD player to hook up to show that it works, but indeed it does!
When we first found it and brought it home, we were positive it wouldn't work. But we had to try. We hooked it up with the DVD player playing Avatar and alas! Awesome, clear picture. So why did someone throw it away?
About 30 minutes into watching the movie it started to get screen burn-in really bad. Ah, so that's why. I had the idea of fiddling with the picture settings, and fixed the issue pretty easily. No more screen burn in, and we got an awesome, huge plasma TV for free.
Maybe the people who threw it out were technically challenged? I have no idea, I would have at least tried to sell that bitch on Craigslist.
I looked it up online awhile back and the retail value was something like $1,700. | Found a plasma TV at the dump, brought it home thinking it wouldn't work. Worked, but got screen burn-in after about 30 minutes. Fixed it in the picture settings. Win. |
t3_3sfb0i | relationships | I [29 m] am planning on proposing to my girlfriend [29 F] of 10 years. Is Niagara Falls cheesy/stupid? | I have been waiting to start my career and get financially set before I wanted to propose to her. We have lived together for 4 years, have dated for 10. Obviously there has been considerable pressure to propose to her in the past, but I wanted to make sure our relationship was in the right place, and we were in the right place to get married. Problem that I am in now is that after 10 years, it better be a damn good proposal. I was planning on taking her to Toronto for a weekend, and making a drive to see Niagara Falls, and do it there. My worry is that it is to cliche and cheesy. However, I don't know how to make a grand gesture otherwise. Any help would be appreciated! | Is Niagara Falls too cliché to propose? |
t3_1zo2lg | relationship_advice | I'm a [17/m], my best friend [17/f] recently got a boyfriend as is seeing drastically less of me. | Recently, my best friend started going out with a boy she has liked for rather a long time. Obviously, being the standard teen male that hangs out with a female, I have feelings for her. She knows well about these feelings and doesn't feel the same. I understand and still wanted to stay friends with her (as she did with me).
We would usually see each other around 3 times a week, but ever since the new relationship, it has dropped, so that I am lucky to see
her once.
I have asked her about it and arranged activities, but to no avail. I've asked mutual friends and they tell me they haven't noticed. But for me it has been destructive as I am lucky to even get a reply nowadays, but on the rare occasions she does indulge me, she appears to be having a good time as says as much afterwards. | Best friend in a new relationship and is pushing me out. |
t3_uojwi | relationship_advice | Faced with a career changing opportunity, but am married, need help. | I'm a 24 [F] married to 30 [M] for almost three years this winter. I've had the opportunity through my work to get a transfer to Singapore for a pay rise and a better job. I'm very enthused about it as I like to travel (I'm from Austria originally and have lived all over) but my husband is less than pleased about the prospect. He doesn't really want to move after settling into a good job here where we live, but this job could be a huge boost for my career and mean further prospects down the line. I really want this but clearly I can't just jetset off to the other side of the world without him. We've been having our differences lately (mostly with him not understanding my need for some 'alone' time once and awhile) but we usually get on very well. I do love him, but, can I have a future with someone who doesn't want the same things I want? I realise I've married quite young and part of me thinks that maybe I made a mistake in going into a relationship knowing full well that my career needed to be first...I just don't know.
I really need some advice, I'm pretty broken up about it. | Career or marriage? |
t3_1lfrvm | relationships | Me[29M] with my GF [28F] 5 years, breakup living together. | Basically, we're on a lease together. The rent is cheap for the area. I'd love to move out but it'd be about 40% price increase. That's a lot of dough in my large city in the US. Plus moving and all that. We get along fine really as long as I'm doing all the chores, cooking cleaning maitenance, etc. I don't mind much, pretty easy going guy. I don't get to date new girls, but I don't have much time because of graduate school anyway. I will not cheat on her if I'm commited.
We talked about it. She wants me to stay and stay her BF. If we were to split in any fashion, she'd like the apartment. Both of our names are on the lease. Till June.
Should I stay with her and just deal with it?
Should I stay with her relationship-wise but move out?
Should I break up with her and see what happens living together?
Should I break up with her and move out?
Or some combination. | want to move out, on lease together. |
t3_44vihb | dogs | [Breeds] and [Help] I dont know what my dog is that I found a year ago and fly snappig syndrome. | Baxter.
That is his picture. We found him wandering around outside, took him to a vet to get his chip checked, and his owners didnt want him back. Luckily he now has a happy home with us. However, I dont know what he is. We have always thought a russel terrier, but after watching the puppy super bowl, I dont think so or he is mixed wth something.
He is super hyper, likes beig outside, is super smart and sly and sneaky, really cuddly, barks weird.... like a gruff old man mixed with a howl? Any ideas on his breed?
Also... he has fly snapping syndrome. He bites wildly at the air. Somedays its worse than others. On average he will do it maybe 3 times a week? When I see him doing it, I try to calm him by petting him like many websites say to do. But that doesnt always work. Advice? Plus any rare information? | what breed is my dog? Advice on fly snapping syndrome? |
t3_2sexjh | relationships | I, a [26 M] argue all the time with my wife [27 F] (married 6 years) over matters of our personalities | She has me convinced that I'm the problem.
We work together which is frustrating because we're out of the same office but have different jobs.
She feels like I tell her how to do hers and I feel like she can't stop interrupting mine to get her own stuff done, ignoring my responsibilities.
Often our conversations will devolve into meta-arguments about how we approach different things and we stress each other out but I'm seemingly the only one whose work is affected.
After an argument, I can't get anything done which leads to more stress. Just had one this morning and here I am.
I'm thinking about divorce because she has become so driven in "fixing" me or us or w/e else she thinks needs resolution that I don't ever get a "relaxed" feeling around her anymore.
She can approach me on a Saturday evening and my heart rate will go up just seeing her.
I honestly think that we both love each other TOO much and that has led us to trying to be everything the other person needs at all times. | Me and wife are try-hards at everything; reaching a point in our lives where we HAVE to try-hard to be successful; is causing a rift in the relationship due to clashes as to what it takes to make us each individually successful - like we can't both be. |
t3_43gsji | relationships | Losing all sense of purpose after difficult breakup [26F] with my ex and then reverting to a former FWB need some advice/clarity/perspective | Hi Reddit,
I'll try to keep this post clear and concise without a huge wall of text (adding in fake names to keep things simple).
Sam and I were on/off hooking up for 2 years. I moved around a bit and there was a large gap of time in which we never communicated, but I did have feelings for him and miss him. When he came back in my life (for sex), I confided my feelings in him and it ended right there because he didn't want a relationship.
I was devastated, but then I thought why not try dating on one of those apps and just embrace being single and ready to mingle (since I did want a relationship). I met Mark on one of those apps and he was perfect in every which way. We were in love and I thought it was meant to be. Sam then had a change of heart and wanted his me back in his life (as the booty call obviously) but I declined his advances and told him I was happy in my relationship. But then Mark started acting distant, and he started confiding his doubts about us in me. How he feared for our compatibility and wasn't sure what he wanted when it came to us. Mark never even slept with me or took me out on a vacation - I decided to end things when after a month long break he told me his feelings changed and everything felt forced when it came to us and he needed more "time."
I feel like I don't know how to cope with Mark's abandonment of me Reddit. I started going on those dates from the apps and met guys but felt no click with anyone (and the guys I did like didn't feel the same way about me). And then I managed to hook up with Sam and it felt great to have meaningless sex with him without the feelings -- basically I'm anxious I'm making poor decisions and I sort of feel guilty like I betrayed Mark by hooking up with Sam again but Mark isn't in my life. I don't know how to cope with this loss. Help | Girl feels sad about the heartbreak of losing a guy - and then goes back to hooking up with a former FWB that she had feelings for and even online dating but sucks at it. |
t3_1o1skk | dogs | My dog ate some bad things. Advice? | Gus is a 12.4 lb, 3/4 Dachshund (height of mini, length of standard). I adopted him 6 months ago from a lady who was going to sell him off to a breeder for an awful puppy store so they could make their thousands off of my best friend. Anyway..
He's never really done this before, but in the last week, he's eaten a couple things he shouldn't have. We just moved, so it's harder to keep things off of the floor/out of the way when not everything really has a place yet. He is in the kennel when we are gone, my concern is pretty situational.
The first thing he ate was a maxi pad (that the cat dragged out of the garbage). I don't mean he ripped it apart, he ATE over half of it. He has had trouble with #2 ever since, screaming and crying and having cottony stools that get stuck in place.
Tonight, I was cleaning out the refrigerator and had a handful of stuff, dropping 2 sort of dried, thick cut maple bacon slices onto the floor without noticing. Like a dog, he ate them. I caught him in his kennel (clear across the apartment) chomping away. He swallowed the last bit before I could grab them.
I'm worried, because every poop he has already is excruciating because of that maxi pad. I know that the nitrates in the uncooked bacon can really hurt his pancreas, and I'm worried that 2 thick cut slices will be a lot for his little system.
I've got a vet that we take him to, but I want to make sure that I've done everything in my power before I take him in - nothing personal, money isn't necessarily an issue.. I just like to be educated and understand fully so I can make sure that he is okay at home first. No reason in paying a $75 exam fee and having them tell me that 'he'll be fine'. Does anyone have any suggestions other than 'take him to the vet'? Any experience with this? I plan to call the vet tomorrow just to see what the techs say, but I'd love some other opinions from dog owner/lovers. | My 12lb dog ate half a maxi pad, then two days later ate 2 slices of uncooked bacon. Cottony constipation to possible diarrhea. Best plan of action? |
t3_28clsh | GetMotivated | I feel defeated before I even begin these tasks. | Hey /r/getmotivated! First time poster here. Figured this might be the best place to figure this out.
So, for background, I'm a trans woman who lives at home. I'm still in college, but I'm coming up on my last semester at school. Currently, I'm living with my folks, and I don't have a job. So, I spend pretty much every day with an endless amount of free time. And what do I spend it on? You guessed it. Browsing the internet, just about the least productive task I could be doing.
There are just so many things I need to do. I need to figure out clothes. I need to figure out my hair. I need to get started on this game I want to make (which is really, really not a hard project!). I just...there are so many things that I need to do. And yet, my motivation is absolute zero.
I get out of bed thinking, "Today is the day that I call the hair salon and set up an appointment. Today, I buy some clothes that I desperately need to pass. Today, I write out the story. Today, I stop sitting in the same chair listening to the same depressing music and fucking do something." And yet, there I sit.
I just.... I don't understand. I know exactly what I need to do. I have all the free time in the world. I literally have no obligations, and yet, it all just seems so futile. "Oh, I'll do it tomorrow. I'll set that up tomorrow. That's really tough, maybe I'll tackle that tomorrow." And sure enough, tomorrow becomes next week, and next month... I feel horrible. Why can't I do anything?
If it helps, I think I might have some form of depression. Undiagnosed, but I can't help but wonder. Also, I am aware of the trans subreddits. S'okay, you don't have to post 'em. | I'm a trans woman who needs help getting motivated on looking better and chasing after creative drive. Help? |
t3_1is6dm | relationships | Any advice for the friendzoned? | I've known a guy for about six years, and though I never believed in love at first sight before, I was struck by it since the first words between us. He's a little older than me and we're very close, so he may consider me more of a younger sister. I love him more than anything else, and he's always been what kept me going during some rough family problems. The problem is that he has a girlfriend. He used to be consistently frustrated with her and complained to me constantly, yet recently he seems like he enjoys being around her much more. None of our friends like her, either, so I know it isn't just me. She's caused a lot of stress on his friendships with others, but they're all very kind people and have put up with her to remain his friend.
Anyway, is there any hope for me, or since we're so close am I already too far in the friendzone? Is there anything I can do? | I really like a guy, but I'm pretty friendzoned and he has a girlfriend no one likes. Any advice? |
t3_3k91ll | tifu | TIFU By listening to my Boss's recommendation. | On this fateful day, 9/9/15, I no longer can say that I have never pooped my pants. The story begins with maybe undercooked stir fry from HuHot. It has potentially festered for 2 days in my belly causing a migraine yesterday probably due to dehydration. But today at around 0500 liquid hell fire began to journey it's way from my hidden valley. Initially my backdoor guardian would give me warning and hold back the onslaught for long enough to jump from bed to bathroom.
At around 0700 his watch ended sadly and I sat upon my porcelain throne with Netflix in hand and producing foul water on demand. 0900 comes and my boss calls wanting me to come in, and after a very frank discussion of why I was late, told me to journey to take the pepto of bismol.
I jump over to Walgreens, as it doesn't require crossing the street and usually has an accessible toilet. I grab my pink elixir, put it down to spray their toilet, go grab it again and go to the register. An old lady is writing a check (in 2015) as I wait behind her. I check the toilet area and see an employee duck in. Trapped. I begin to dance the dance of my people as the old lady realizes she wrote the wrong fucking amount (it was 8.57, seriously what the fuck, I blame this mostly to her) but I hear the savior sounds of the employee leaving the toilet. I turned to leave and bump an elderly man (it is Wednesday morning,the elderly roam)and apparently I have an eject bowel button on my chest.
It smelt, like I'm certain I smelt it before I felt it. He knew. There are many uncertain moments in life, but at this moment two people knew more than anything else in this world that poop happened. The cashier cancels the old ladies transaction,rings my pepto up and I swipe and leave. I don't know if the old lady knew, it seemed she may have forgotten her name, but two other people know. I shall never set foot in that building again. The damage was about a palm print of swamp on my boxers and a starfish pattern on the jeans. I don't want to go to work now. | Had diarrhea, boss told me to go get pepto, shamed myself at Walgreens. |
t3_4dmf3s | relationships | Girlfriend wants to go on an "exclusive break" [24m]/[22f] | Long story short, we dated for 2 years and then we broke up for a year and we got back together.
Things are very good when they're good. We get along just fine and can laugh for hours just by ourselves.
We just got back from a vacation and upon drinking one night, I got kinda drunk and gave her some shit about a rebound relationship she had after we had just broken up.
Apparently I always do this, and even before I would be passive aggressive, or just passive and drop jealous remarks etc.
Right now she said we should take a break from each other. We talked about rules; we're being exclusive, and we are going to talk again once I fix whats inside of me and grow up and fix my insecurities with comparing her rebound relationship with ours.
I don't want to lose her, but she's right. I get jealous about her past relationship and I don't appear to be confident in myself and then we end up arguing and she gets really upset to the point that it's making her feel like taking a break because she is drained.
What can I do now? It's been a few days since we started this break, and I already know I want to be with her. I've told her I'll take counseling/therapy and I've told her that I want her in my life. She still thinks we should keep limited contact, we only text each other good morning/good luck and goodnight and thats about it.
I need some help to save my relationship. | Relationship is on a break because I keep bringing up the past and not being confident in myself enough to let go of her rebound relationship. I keep bringing things up passively and it drains her. She proposed we took a break for me to sort things out and to reach out to her when I've gained some inner confidence and stop pestering her about dating someone else right after we broke up the first time. I want to stop being passive and being more confident in myself so I don't lose my gf who is otherwise one of the best people I've met in my life. |
t3_oil60 | AskReddit | I need to find a charity to donate paper products to near Redding, CA (details inside) | I have inherited a sizable amount of paper products from my wife's grandmother(old stationary business). I am trying to clear out a shop for doing mechanical work and it is filled with cases of stationary items. Currently I have legal pads, notebooks of various size, three ring portfolios, and filler paper. I am coming to my fellow Derps and Derpettes in the hopes someone knows of a charitable organization near Redding, CA that my be interested in acquiring this type of product. I am hoping to find an organization that perhaps helps to equip children for school. I would prefer not to give it to Goodwill or the Salvation Army, since they tend to charge as much as Wal-Mart would for this type of product in my area; to me that defeats the purpose of what I am trying to do. I don't mind driving a bit out of the way, but the distance should be within reason, since I will have to tow a trailer to move any decent amount of it. | I have tons of school stationary and want to know the name of a charity near Redding, CA that would be willing to take it and distribute it to needy school children. |
t3_1xpxdh | relationships | Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description | I'm a 23 y/o male. My ex is a 22 y/o female. Our relationship was long-distance for over 2 years before I broke it off this past October. We've stayed on good terms. She messaged me last week telling me she thinks she's found closure.
This week, (3 days ago) I was mountain-biking, got too cocky, took a hill too fast, and landed on my head (I had a helmet on thank God!). I was knocked out for a minute. When I came to, my friends told me the first thing I asked about was my ex, as if we were still together. Every night since then, all I dream about is her.
What the heck does that mean? Is my sub conscience telling me I made a mistake? Also, I've already seen my doctor and he says my brain is OK. | Dated my ex long-distance for 2 years, broke it off in October 2013. Still on good terms. Had a concussion, immediately asked about her when I regained consciousness. All I dream of is her now. What the heck does that mean? CT scan and doctor both say my brain is ok. |
t3_2rqt2b | relationships | Me [22M] with my Girlfriend [19F] of 3 months, are going to be in a long distance relationship for a while(4 months). Suggestions? | Recently I started seeing a girl she's everything I want in a girlfriend and I'd known her on a more professional level for about 6 months before we started having romantic feelings for each-other and dating.
I developed feelings for her while travelling in the same group, she travels quite a bit I travel some of the time. Basically right now she's working overseas for 4 months and going though about 6 different countries some she will have very limited to no internet access. Currently she's in a remote part of Asia and has to walk twenty minutes to go to an internet cafe which doesn't have skype but we are able to talk over Facebook.(Can't install software).
In about 4 weeks she'll return to my home for 1 week before leaving again and return in 3 months.
I'm currently working full time so it is difficult to talk to her due to time zone differences a lot of the time but usually we are able to make something work.
This will be a reoccurring thing in our relationship at the end of this year she will have to travel again for 4 months, but will have a reliable internet connection for the most part especially on her weekends and I might be able to fly to visit her during a small amount of her time off.
Are there many couples that have been able to make this sort of situation work? As our relationship is quiet new, although we've known each other for around 8-months can this situation work?
Can someone give me some advice on how we can feel closer? I worry that our relationship will fall apart because it has been so difficult to spend time together. | Girlfriend travelling for long period of time 4 months, advice to help the time go faster and strengthen our relationship? She'll be back for 1 week shortly and then gone again for 3 months. |
t3_4g1wvu | relationships | note from boyfriend | Hey all, Looking for some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years.. I (f/25) found a note my boyfriend (m/27) had written in the notes on his phone from two months ago from what looks like after a fight. We are long distance so that's why I didn't see it till now. The note mainly consisted of angry statements about the fight, nothing super hurtful about our relationship or about me personally. It bothers me he never said these things to me because I would prefer he confront me about everything than write it in a note. Should I bring this up to him or will it just bother him I was looking through the notes on his phone? I don't remember the fight the note was based on and thighs have been great since then.. Not sure if this is just a venting mechanism or if I should confront him. | found angry note from boyfriend, not sure if I should confront |
t3_3bh1gm | relationships | Me [24M] with my new girl (25F) I recently met just got out of an abusive relationship... | I've written about this girl before, but I'm asking a different question this time.
This girl who I have recently met and I want to pursue something with, she has just recently gotten out of a relationship a month ago. This 2 year relationship ended because her ex tried to strangle her. He also cheated on her for 6 months before but somehow forgave him. She comes from a stable family with no problems. So if I were to successfully pursue a relationship with this girl, from the abuse that she's experienced, what kind of behaviour (except for obvious lack in confidence) should I expect? Should I expect her to get revenge on men by her treating me badly? Use me as a rebound? And how do I help her slowly, but gradually move on from this traumatic event? | Girl I just met just got out of an abusive relationship - what kind of behaviour should I expect from her? And how do I help? |
t3_174k0n | relationships | Is it still possible to get back together? Or how can I at least ease the pain? [21M] | Hello everyone. Me and my ex started dating about 5 years ago. Everything was perfect for the first year and then she had to move away about a year after we started dating [she's 21F btw]. Things were still very solid between us, but unfortunately I was incredibly retarded and kept trying to break up with her throughout our relationship. She kept begging me not to and saying how much me loved me. It was so true, I don't know how I didn't see it. Lust for other people overshadowed the true love that I had for her [I never cheated, I just don't think I ever appreciated what she had to offer], and I simply could not see how much I loved her and how much she meant to me. After about four years together she finally had enough and broke up with me. I am so happy she did, she deserved to have so much better than me! We had plans of getting married and such but I completely through that away.
We broke up about a year ago and I have been in so much agony since. Every day I wake up and realize what a horrible mistake I have made. I have tried to tell her since and she says she doesn't want to but perhaps we can in the future. I need to leave her alone but I am still in so much denial and in so much pain. Does anyone have any idea of what I should and could do?! Any advice on how to ease the pain? It seriously hurts so much worse each day I am without her. I try to talk to other girls so I can move on but each time I talk to them I get so incredibly depressed because it isn't her and I start thinking about how big I seriously screwed up. What can I do?! | I threw away the perfect girlfriend and now I have no idea what to do. I want to go back in time so badly and I can't. What can I do to fix this? How can I ease the pain? I hate myself so much. |
t3_50pk5n | relationships | I'm [21F] considering breaking up with my boyfriend [25M] of over a year...is this a valid reason? | Hi, so I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year, and things have been great. The only real issue is that we're very long distance, I met him while studying abroad in Europe and I live in the States. We fell in love though and decided to continue our relationship in spite of the obvious obstacles.
Thing is, my boyfriend is very serious about me. As in, he genuinely wants to marry me and settle down and have a family. And for some time I thought I felt the same. But the longer this goes on, the more I find myself pulling away and freaking out that I'm settling down far too soon in life.
I'm only 21. I've only had one other real relationship prior to this one, I've never really had a chance to just be a single adult and date around, see my options. I know that if I stay with my boyfriend, before too long he'll want to be engaged and I'll probably be married by 24/25...and I'm of the opinion that's way too fuckin young to be committed to someone in that way. In my mind, I want my 20s to be about self-discovery and meeting tons of new people. I don't want to be in a long-term relationship, I don't want to be married by 25, I just feel like I need to focus on developing myself and not get tied down so soon.
At the same time, I am so in love with my boyfriend. Absolutely smitten. But I don't feel it's fair to him for me to keep this a secret. It's not fair to lead him on, make him think I want the same things when I've been feeling more and more like I just don't. Has anyone else felt this way? What did you do?? Is this a valid reason to break things off with someone, even when you really love them? I'm afraid my boyfriend is the right guy, that I just met at the wrong time. | I feel too young to be settling down, my boyfriend knows he wants to get married in the next few years. I'm freaking out and am considering breaking up. Need advice. |
t3_4bsu27 | relationships | Me [22F] with my bf [24 M] 1-year relationship, Have I lost my value in the process of loving someone too much? | We had mutual interest and got into relationship last year. In the beginning , he took care of me so well, treated me special, he would love to spend time walking around, holding hands with me. He would never speak harsh and would always try to cheer up me whenever I got upset. I loved him so much. Madly. We are in a live-in relationship.
He did introduce me to all of his friends. He told his siblings about us.
But I see a lot of changes the way he behaves with me for the past few months. He acts rude most of the time, takes me for granted, when I asked him about it, he says " I consider you to be a part of my family. So I say/do what I feel" .
I cry almost everyday for something he says/ does. I am unhappy all the time. He never cares nowadays when I cry because I keep doing it everyday.
He never responds to my texts more than a word but I see him pinging all others instantly with so much enthusiasm. We never talk through calls too. The only time he treats me special is in bed.
Recently we had a fight, and he left me all alone at night in a lonely place. I never thought he would. This was not the person who was with me during the initial stages of relationship.
And once he said, his parents would have found a beautiful girl, and he finds me ugly. When he understood that I felt bad, He immediately said he was kidding. But still often makes such remarks on me. Once I said I want to leave him so that he will find someone better, and he started crying saying he needs me.
But the way he behaves does'nt feel so.
Have I given him so much space that he is taking me for granted? And have I lost my value because I am always there for him? | Have I lost my value in the process of loving someone too much? |
t3_3nhdc4 | tifu | TIFU By Getting Kicked Out of my Local Gamestop | So today after a week of contemplation, I decided to go sell my Xbox One and put the money towards a AMD R9 380 (PC Part for those wondering). My Xbox One is about a year old, but its fully functional. So I walked into Gamestop and prepared to be assaulted by employees wanting to sell me a reward membership or whatever. Today was a different day. It was quiet in the store, unusual for my area. I walked up to the worst fucking employee imaginable. This guy has actually attempted to sell me warranties on PC Games. Anyone who PC Games knows that your games get tied to an account and that they can be re downloaded at any time. So I go up and explain why I am there and he takes the Xbox and inspects it for anything that would cause it not to work. Anyone who has an Xbox One who has moved it around before can tell you that the HDMI port on the back gets scratched up fairly easily. So the guy goes "Well, I can't take this because its defective". In my head I'm going "He hasn't even plugged it in, how does he know anything is wrong with it and besides there is nothing wrong with it" He then proceeds to tell me that the SCRATCHES on the console mean it's defective and he can't take it as it will not work. I try to reason with him, but he doesn't understand. Against my better judgement, I take the console back and as I'm walking out I say "What a bunch of fucking bullshit" under my breath. Que disgruntled Gamestop Employee loosing his shit. "You can't come back in this store anymore, how dare you use such language in front of kids, this is a family store, I have your name from the trade in you are no longer welcome here" and a bunch of other bullshit. I just reply "Ok sir, thank you have a nice day" and walk out. | Cursed in an empty store about a guy probably trying to rip me off, got kicked out and banned for life. |
t3_2li47b | tifu | TIFU by announcing a pep rally | So this actually happened a few weeks ago, but I'm still hated for it. I work in a high school and was elected to announce at the pep rally before Homecoming. Maybe it['s because of my sexy voice. Anyway, lucky me had decided to not bother wearing the glasses I DESPERATELY need to see, since I only had to teach a single gym class this day. (the pep rally took up 2nd and 3rd periods, I had planning in 1st) But whatever, I can do it. We started the rally by having all our school clubs walk across the football field with banners. I was supposed to call them out before they marched, but guess what? I couldn't see who any of them were.
"And next up is... er... -who is that, the chess club? no... oh is that the DECA? It is?- DECA!"
etc, etc.
After trudging through this, I'm really nervous. The entire student body is laughing its ass off at me. Whatever, I gotta pull through, right? I [kinda] see on the program that there is a special performance by.. somebody whatever. It isn't the cheerleaders. Ok, whatever.
"And now it's time... uh... for a very, VERY special performance!"
Aaaaaaand its the special needs kids.
Half the students groaned and got pissed, the others laughed hysterically. The principal came and took over the announcing. | I screwed up school spirit. |
t3_2sd0tg | relationships | My [22 M] Fiance [21 F] is thinking about wedding plans every day, how do I get her to slow down? | This is my first question ever posted please bear with me.
Our wedding date isn't until late May 2016, so I feel like we have at least a couple of more months to really think about it. I've told her I'm not very particular for the details right now and she can brainstorm all she wants but now she's stressing about things that are 16 months away. I'm also annoyed because it seems she has so much time on her hands to think about this and I am very busy with work and school.
How should I approach the wedding planning? | I am a male, how do I deal with my female's emotions about her future wedding? |
t3_2dzqel | relationships | I [25F] have a crush on another female [20s?F] and I don't know her sexuality, but I want to know of how to approach it. | No throwaway cus fuck it.
I'm attending a four day training session for my job starting next week. I started talking to this girl and found myself instantly attracted to her. This was the first day. Now I swear I get some vibes from her but maybe I'm just making it up. I caught her staring at me a couple of times, too.
Today is day two and she came and sat at my table (we were all separated into groups and she happened to be in mine) and sat directly across from me. We caught eyes a couple of times and smiled. Then, because her spot got taken when she got up, she came over to my side of the table. I was nervous but then we started making small talk and left it at that when we got separated again.
I have no clue if she is single, gay, bisexual, anything but something about her attracts me so much.
So, reddit please help. How do I approach her and ask to keep in contact after these four days are over? We will be at separate schools and won't see each other all year. I don't want to seem creepy, but I like her. I am bisexual, BTW. Please help me figure out how I can be casual about this. If she's straight, I'd still love to be her friend. If she's not, I'd like to explore that as well.
So what do you think reddit? I'm decent with hitting on guys, but this is very new territory for me. I feel like I get vibes from her but she may be just a really nice person. Please help! | I am a bisexual female, have a crush on a girl, not sure of age or sexuality. Will not see her after four day training is up. How to ask to keep in contact and not be creepy? |
t3_tsciz | AskReddit | Can anyone tell me why this link was taken down from TIL? It seems a bit biased and shady to me.... | So the other day I was scrolling the front page and I saw a link to a story about George W. Bush defending a possibly homosexual peer from ridicule back in the 60's. Now I took special note of it firstly because (I'll be honest) I've always liked the guy. But more so I was surprised to see that the liberal reddit community would upvote a story portraying their Satan in a good light to the front page. Later that day I decided to look for it again to show a friend. I checked the front page and it wasn't there. It was a little strange that it had moved down so fast, but not impossible. But as I clicked on, page through page, I realized that it simply wasn't there. It must have been taken down. I can't help but suspect that this is the result of heavy mod bias. The only rule that might have gotten the article banned is the politics rule, but that only bans TIL's on current politics, of which a former president is certainly not apart.
The article is linked there, its a good story and I think people should see it. Read it and please tell me: what about that article being posted was against the rules?
If mods filter things out that they don't like to see, Reddit can become a very brain-washy place. | I saw a story about GWB in TIL that I liked and it got taken town and I can't figure out why other than shitty Mod bias |
t3_38kqkt | dogs | [Help] Adopted a dog, developed allergies | Hey all. Just to preface my problem, I have always been a major dog person. Grew up with dogs, both sides of the family have dogs, etc. So much so that I adopted a 6-8 month old German Shepherd Mix about 5 days ago. She is absolutely wonderful, loving, although moderately/extremely fearful of loud noises and cars (Hardly a problem, all dogs have their quirks :) ). Now onto my problem...
I noticed that the very first day we brought her home, I developed very itchy red hive-like bumps wherever she licks me or I deeply touch her. I've never had any problems with dogs, just a little itchy eyes and an allergy to cats, but nothing like this.
I'm looking for some advice/feedback on what I should do. I am a very loving person and I adopted a dog so that I could cuddle and play with her non-stop. In my opinion, it wouldn't be fair for both my dog and I if I had to restrain myself from playing/kissing/cuddling with her for the rest of her life. I got her from a very well-run rescue (not sure if no-kill, but definitely not high-kill). I would hate to return her to the shelter I got her from (they do a two week trial period), but I am stuck feeling like this is the best option. I don't want to live itchy and with red bumps all over my body for the next 12-15 years. But my attachment to the dog is hard to let go, even though it's only been a few days.
PLEASE help. Any and all advice is appreciated. Thank you! | Just adopted a 6 month GSD mix. Love her to death, but developed unforeseen allergic reactions to dogs touch/saliva. Looking for advice on what to do. Very attached to dog, but don't want to live itchy and with red bumps for the next 15 years. HELP! |
t3_1i6200 | pettyrevenge | I hope you enjoy your coffee. | So, I was in summer school. My teacher had a tendency of picking on me and telling me things.
One morning my teacher decided to comment on me being in summer school and said, "I can understand why you're here, you are so slow and don't know anything." Of course i took that to offense, but i decided not to say anything and continued working.
About an hour later she asked me to go get her some coffee, I got up and went to the teachers lounge. When I got there I noticed no one was around. Remembering what my teacher said I decided to get revenge. I found some food coloring laying around (I think someone was making cake, idk) I put about 10 drops into her coffee, took some scissors and traced the circle at the bottom of the cup (it was Styrofoam) making it really weak.
I went back to my classroom and handed my teacher the cup, i sat down and went back to work. A few moments later I heard a gasp, I smirked to myself as I saw the blue and brown mixture all over my teachers shirt and pants. The best part is she had her phone in her bra and proceeded to get that wet too. | Teacher called me dumb, put food coloring in her coffe, fucked her cup up. Ruined her clothes and phone. |
t3_2ihjut | relationships | Breakup imminent, i don't want to lose her, but i don't see another option. | Hi reddit, i am a 22 year old male and my GF is also 22, we've been together for about 6 months.
The situation is that she is concerned that, because of my views on having kids and marriage (i don't want either until quite far into the future, and i made that very clear near the beginning of the relationship) and she says she "doesn't see any point then" and doesn't think the relationship is going anywhere. She says she'd have kids tomorrow if she could.
I am unwilling to compromise on these veiws because i don't think that either of us are in a position to bring a child into the world, both maturity wise and financially (i have no job, she cannot afford to even run a car on hers) and i wonder why we can't just enjoy having each other and i don't think a relationship needs to be validated by heading to these certain points. although i could see myself doing all that stuff with her at some point in the future cause she is a really good woman, but 22 is very young for me to be having kids and i want to live some first. | GF doesn't see the relationship going anywhere because i don't want kids or marriage for a good while yet, i think neither of us are ready for it in any way. |
t3_m99vd | AskReddit | I can't read. What can I do? | I'm not illiterate. When I was little I was an avid reader, and up until a few days ago I had no problems reading. I suffer from schizoaffective disorder, subtype 1 (bipolar) and am an abuse victim... I don't know if it's related, but I would always stay up late at night reading when I lived with my parents and I would get hit and forced to bed if they ever caught me. This has happened to me before, and it's hitting me especially strong right now. There is just this buzzing in my head, it's muted or at least lowered in volume when I'm doing certain things, but when I try to read, and sometimes even in class, it's overwhelming and takes up all of my attention. This is my first semester of college and I don't want to lose my 4.0... but I don't know what I can do. I don't take meds and I don't have access to any. I've used audiobooks in the past and I do have this connect plus thing for one of my textbooks, but I don't know how I'd go about acquiring an audiobook on such short notice/without spending any money (as I don't have any). Sorry I know this may come off as a word salad, that's been happening to me recently, but any help is appreciated. | head full of buzzing brain full of fuck, what do? |
t3_2l4bmc | relationships | I feel like I'm acting like a mother. | Okay, so me (19F) and my boyfriend (19M) have been together for three years, going strong. We both go to the same college, and sometimes carpool. My problem is that I care too much. I call him the morning he needs to get up just to make sure he is awake. He almost always never has his phone charged and forgets to wake up and misses class. Now when he fails at something, he turns to depression and spirals out of control. So me, being caring, i go to his house when he isn't picking up and try to wake him up. Most of the time it ends up with me leaving mad/crying because he wont even try to get up and him being sad later about fucking up. Now, I feel like I am mothering him and I hate it !. But I care so much about him that I cant bare to see him fail or be sad. Currently I cant get a hold of him and I don't want to reply the whole morning routine tomorrow, yet he is playing video games. Should I interrupt him online or should I just give up? Help.. | Boyfriend isn't responsible and I feel like a mother. Advice? |
t3_35tlw7 | tifu | TIFU by accidentally copping a feel from a squirrel. | Obligatory "this happened 5 years ago etc etc".
I was about 14 visiting a water park in sunny Spain. once we had paid to get in, just to the left there were some people dressed in animal costumes. If I remember correctly there was a squirrel, a tortoise, a lion and a rabbit. What they had to do with the water park, fuck only knows but they were there. My mum pointed them out and we saw a fantastic opportunity for a family photo with them. After we approach and ask if it was okay to take a picture with them, we are all stood in a row and the squirrel put its arm around my neck and we all smiled. *wind wind wind wind CLICK* and the picture was taken. Now don't ask me why, but as a sort of thank you and a sign of respect to my new squirrelly friend, I decide to tap him on the chest with my palm. I thought it would be cool and even planned a little casual salute as I walked away. That was when I found out that the "he" was in fact a she. Shit.
My hand had just, through the fabric of the costume, made contact with a fully formed breast. The squirrel jumped back slightly and I was mortified. I apologised over and over in my then broken Spanish and I think it was all cleared up. On my way out we had to walk past them again and I hid my face with a cap. | Touched a squirrel's tit. |
t3_1kemqt | offmychest | I'm too fucking young to worry about money | I'm fifteen years old and I used to barely swear, but things are getting really difficult so I think I deserve to. I grew up with a very expensive lifestyle that I took for granted, and in the past year we've had a lot less money in our household. My sister was hit by a car, my dad took a pay cut by switching to a job he enjoys, we lost money by selling our house, and instead of having a fairly great childhood I am stressing about money EVERY FUCKING DAY. I work to get money for things, but since I'm so young I can't get a real job to actually support myself with. I went to the grocery store with my dad the other day, and he told me we can't get things that are too expensive because he hasn't gotten payday yet. I'm going to public school next year for the first time since second grade and I'm terrified that we don't have enough money to pay our expenses despite all I'm doing.
So coupled with a bunch of other things, I've decided that since I have camwhored before I might as well do it for money. I get that it's illegal, and I get that it could really fuck up my life, but still. Fuck this. Fuck my fucking country's government for making a little girl worry about if she can afford to buy clothes from Goodwill. /endrant | Young girl is selling her body because money buys happiness. |
t3_1uxg1t | relationships | [Non-Romantic]How do you introduce a 12 year old girl's dad into her life after being willingly absent since her birth??? | Okay this is not about me.
My aunt's daughter is 12 years old and her dad refused to meet or speak to her since she was born.
For some reason or the other(most likely new years resolutions), he decided to contact my aunt asking to meet the kid and start to forge a relationship.
It was a messy situation from the start. Him and my aunt met when he was on a break with his long time girlfriend and once they got back together after my aunt became pregnant, she told him that its either her or the kid...guess who he chose?.
He told my aunt that they divorced recently and thats one of the reason he's deciding to start building a relationship with my cousin.
Im worried because at 12 years old, kids are very vulnerable emotionally..She's a smart kid generally but how exactly is she going to take this???
What steps do you think my aunt should take to initiate the reunion?? should there even be a reunion?
What are some communication pointers to get the ball rolling??? | dad wants relationship with daughter after 12 year absence |
t3_4vkz1d | relationships | [Question] I [18F] saw pictures of other girls on my bf's [18M] phone. | My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half and we have a long distance relationship, seeing each other only every couple months.
Recently I was looking through old pictures of my boyfriend and I on my boyfriend's phone with his permission, and he was sitting right next to me looking at the phone with me. I noticed several pictures of three different girls on his phone, and I asked him about them. (They were all fully clothed and were selfies)
He said they were girls that he used to like before me, and the girls liked him back. He said we wanted to keep them to remind himself that other pretty girls want him too, as a confidence boost when he is feeling down. When he asked me if I wanted him to delete them, I said it would make me feel more comfortable if he did delete them. He said that he wants to keep them and I said I was okay with that, though it did make me uncomfortable.
What do you all think of the situation? Is it safe and normal for my boyfriend to have pictures of three different girls on his phone, or is it a big red flag? | Saw pics of 3 girls on my bf's phone, is this a red flag? |
t3_392hnw | relationships | Is it natural to have quick/brief self-sabotaging thoughts in a relationship? Me [25M] and her 23[F] for 3 months. | This is going to sound really stupid, but given this is both of our first relationships, we are both new at navigating through what a relationship is supposed to be like.
First off, I really like this girl. She has great career ambition, we have a lot in common, she's pretty, and she is the most caring individual I've met. I enjoy being around her and we're very affectionate towards one another.
However, this has been popping up recently in my thoughts, and I don't know why. Occasionally, just out of whim, I'll have a thought surface about me doing something that would sabotage the relationship. For example, if I was supposed to pick her up from school, just leave her there hanging. Another example would be is I would stop communicating with her.
At first, these thoughts were blips, but they have started to gnaw at me. Sometimes at night, these thoughts get really loud. When they do, I can't help but feel that I'm doubting this relationship, despite the fact that everything is going so well. At the same time, I get consumed with guilt when I get these thoughts.
Like I said, this is my first ever relationship. I feel like a part of me is sabotaging what I really enjoy due to fear of caring for someone else, but then there is another part that is saying that maybe I'm not 100% into this relationship? I'm having trouble making sense of these thoughts. | Started with brief thoughts that have become louder about doing something that would significantly damage our relationship. Not sure if I'm self-sabotaging. |
t3_1enrv1 | relationships | 20 (m) with 21 (f) who lived with me for a week after our first date.. now doesn't have time for me | Me a 20 year old male at university and her a 21 female at the same university. She had been dating one of my team mates at the beginning of the school year, this is how we first met.
Eventually they broke up and she had been leaving subtle hits for me to make a move. Eventually I made the connection and started chatting with her on facebook. After about a week of casual chatting we decided to go on a date on a Saturday night. This is where things get strange.
The first date went very well, had food, watched the NHL game that was on that night. Post date I invited her back to my house to watch the rest of the game as there was still another period of it left. The game ends and she stays to hang out longer. It starts to get late so I offer that she can stay over if she wanted to, she accepts. No sex just cuddling.
The next day we hang out for most of the day, she leaves for a few hours but returns later that day. Again she stays the night (no sex just cuddling). After a week she had stayed at my house every night and we were on a kissing and calling each other babe level. After a week of staying at my house it was time for us to go back to our home towns at the conclusions of classes.
Over the next two weeks I have only seen her once for a short lunch date. Every time I invite her out to do something she has a reason why she can't go, or sometimes doesn't even respond to my text.
Should I give up and move on, do something different, help me reddit. | Girl lives with me for 7 days after the first date, moves back home for the summer and seams like she doesn't want to see me. |
t3_3bp2vs | relationships | Should I (17f) end it with over emotional boyfriend (17m) | I've been dating *Alex for roughly 5 months now. Most of our time together is pleasant, and I do care for him and love him. The problem is his over emotional states that he can get into, which happen roughly once a fortnight on average.
For example earlier today we went on a museum trip, and he didn't get to go to the same museum I did. Afterwards I was talking about how much fun I had (I wouldn't call it boasting, it was just something I genuinely enjoyed) and he got so upset about it (at the time I didn't know / realise this).
Later on we were playing an mmo together and when I mentioned the museum in the context of 'oh I had a good time we should go there together' he suddenly logged out and went off Skype, literally in ten seconds he had disappeared. I tried to text him, and did illicit a response which was:
'Look, I don't mean this harshly, but it kinda explains why I'm overreacting, because I kinda hold you responsible for me getting the wrong dates, cause 2 weeks ago, you said, "hey are you going to that thing on Tuesday" so I assumed you meant the upcoming Tuesday. It's not fair, and its not your fault, but I'm tired and overreacting.'
He does acknowledge that he was over reacting, but still... I don't know. He gets into these moods often, and I find it hard to cope. However, at every other point he is incredibly kind and caring. In addition to this my main friend group is also his friend group, but they've been friends with him much longer and I expect would stay with him and dump me if we broke up. I want us to be in a healthy relationship as I don't want to be with anyone else. | Overemotional boyfriend- do I stick at it or leave? |
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