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t3_1xcwgd | Pets | Looking for a new home for a cat (Ohio) | Hi,
I have a 1.5 year old cat that I'm looking to find a new home for. We are located in OH. Oscar is a gorgeous orange barn cat. He is up to date on all his shots, has been neutered, and is declawed in the front.
There are a few issues that prevent me from keeping him. One is that he can be very aggressive. He can be very cuddly at times, but is aggressive more often than not. Unfortunately, I don't know that I have the time to wear him out and play with him as much as he needs. The other issue I have is that he sprays. I have tried lots of different litters, but haven't yet found the right combo that keeps him from spraying on baseboards and peeing on the carpet.
I know this makes it sound like he is a bad cat, but he isn't. He can be very sweet, and definitely has a lot of energy. I wouldn't want to give him to a family with kids, but he would be a great cat for someone that has the time and energy for him. Unfortunately, my work and living situation doesn't make me that person.
So if anyone is willing to take in a cat that needs some extra attention and play time, please let me know!
Thanks! | Want a cat?? |
t3_1sg5k9 | relationships | My mom[F37] is holding airplane tickets for my trip down south over my[M18] head. Pressure is stressing me out due to fear of failure. Advice/support? | Hi everyone, I'm normally a lurker and this is a throwaway because I have friends and family who reddit.
Background information: So I'm currently in college up north as a nursing major. I left my SO and friends to go to this college because the nursing program was really good and my mom recommended it to me.
Now my mom, who currently lives close by to my college (I would say about an half hour drive has promised me that she would help me arrange a trip during the winter break to visit my SO and friends in exchange that I keep up a 3.0. I agreed and I've been working at it with my best.
Now that it's finals week. My mom has been constantly reminding me that my trip is at risk if I don't do well. Every time I get on the phone with her she'll say something along the lines of "you better study or else there won't be a trip".
Now I'm fairly confident that I can make the 3.0 except for one of my science classes which I've been struggling in. This has been causing me a lot of stress and the fact that she keeps dangling my trip over my head like a piece of meat isn't helping. I've been freaking out and really going nuts over these test. This trip means the world to me and the emotions I would feel if I failed is really starting to get at me.
What I'm trying to say here reddit is that I know there's a possibility of me not going and I shouldn't blame my mom for that. Just how method of motivation is really stressing me and now that its the finals time. The pressure is getting at me. I would like advice and how to compose myself if I don't get that trip.
My Friends have advised me to plan something on my own, but I feel like if I don't go it's entirely my fault and it's not in my place to really act out against the agreement me and my mom made. I want to be able to hold myself down if I hear those bad news. | Constant reminders of the consequences of not living up to my mom's expectations are causing me to stress out about losing a flight very dear to me. Need support and or advice in case I'm not able to go. |
t3_3loh3o | relationships | Me [24 M] spent a week out of town for work. worked with a [29 F]. She was amazing and I don't know how to proceed. Help! | I spent a week out of town for work and one of the people I worked with was a 29 F.
We worked together for 2 days (I know way to short of a time) but I was blown away by her intelligence, passion and beauty.
I sent a note before I left saying how great it was to work with her and we exchanged contact info.
We only worked together for a short time but I was just so struck by this woman. I want to get to know her better but I don't know how to proceed since we only spent a few days together and live on opposite coasts of the US. I should also mention that I haven't dated since freshman year of college and that was 6 years ago. Thanks! | Worked with a woman for 2 days who blew me away. Want to build up a relationship but don't know how to proceed. |
t3_26d12z | offmychest | The n word... | [Traditional]: Last night this girl bet me I could not memorize the lyrics to H.Y.F.R. by drake in 24 hours. Well, she was wrong but the problem is that I am white apparently. A black guy came up to me and said he was offended by me saying the n word and I didn't know what to say. My Asian friend who I was singing along with talked to him. Later, he called me (not my Asian friend though we were both there) and started something. I tried to apologize but he just wanted to tell at me, and then his friend told me just to leave. So I did as quickly as I could. He calked me a "white nigga" and I'm not sure what to do with that and I feel guilty. I just want to apologize, but that's not what these black people want. I'm not sure how to feel but fuck I feel like they may have over reacted. Is singing song lyrics hateful and oppressive? I'm not sure but I did not think so. Obviously wrong though but the lack of understanding, or openess to apology or understanding another's view point is what bothered me. I know that i fucked up, clearly won't do that again. But I don't understand being mad without offering someone a way to make it better, especially at an elite liberal institution. | sung rap lyrics, got told I was offensive. Got told I was offensive, got yelled at. But my Asian friend did not. Idk. |
t3_49qgei | relationships | Me [26/F] with my best friend [25F] flirting with my boyfriend and asking to see him without me there | I've had the same friend since high school and she is also a family friend. I had two long relationships in high school that I considered serious at the time and she has dated both guys after me for long periods of time also. Right before she would date them she would stop talking to me and act really shady until I found out. Upon dating my current boyfriend she constantly started making jokes like "look out you know I have a thing for guys you date." She thinks it's funny, I don't. She has a flirty personality and she is always play flirting with my boyfriend when we all hang out.
We haven't hung out in awhile because our busy schedules never seem to match up. My boyfriend works in the same area she does and they ran into each other about a week ago at a McDonald's he frequents and sat down to lunch together. Of course I don't mind because who wants to eat alone when you can be having company?
Fast forward to today, I'm on my lunch break and my boyfriend texts me saying he's out at the very same McDonald's with her. Of course the whole time they're eating she's texting me but fails to mention that she's out to eat with my boyfriend for the second time. This is where I start to get upset. I asked him and he said she messaged him asking to meet up for lunch. She never asked me if I thought this was okay and has acted shady about the whole thing. I trust my boyfriend completely but her not so much. I discussed this with my boyfriend and he said he understood and that it wouldn't happen again. He was just trying to be nice to her because that's the type of guy he is. What do I do? I'm very upset that my friend would think this is okay considering her history with my former ex boyfriends. | Friend who has dated my exes is being shady about going out to eat with my current boyfriend. |
t3_he6ga | relationships | Wife has no interest in sex at all. How do I handle? | I'm 32 and wife is 31. We're married for 11 years and have a 4 year old son. We both work full time jobs. Our relationship is emotionally strong, but ever since my son was born, her libido is non-existent. We have sex, maybe 2-3 times a month, but there's no "fire" to it. She basically just does it to appease me.
I'm at the end of my rope. I've talked with her before and she did speak to her OB about a year ago who pulled her off her birth control thinking that was the problem. It wasn't.
Each time I've talked to her about it she somehow turns it around to make me feel like some sex crazed maniac. I don't think she's initiated sex at all in the past 4 years. I just feel so depressed about feeling unwanted, undesired and flat out empty and now my feelings are turning into thoughts of perhaps she's cheating one me (Which i really don't think to be the case, but after such a length of time the mind wanders)
I've decided that tonight I will sit down with her after my son goes to bed and discuss this, but I don't want this to turn into another argument or have her turn it around onto me, making me feel like the a bad person.
How can I approach this? What can I say to her to make her understand how much this is hurting me and how badly it's effecting my self-esteem? | Wife has no sex drive, I'm going nuts. Going to confront her tonight, how do I not fuck this up? |
t3_ef4s9 | AskReddit | Is Anyone Else Simply Tired of the, "Is Anyone Else Simply Tired of the reddity redditors?" Posts? | I don't understand what these people are complaining about, this is a website based on picking things apart. I have read quite a few posts recently that were something to the tune of, "oh my, why is this issue still being discussed, can we move on already", or " why do people care more about what Julian Assange has done than what cell phone companies are doing?", or "sure things aren't perfect but we don't really have anything to worry about UNTIL we feel oppressed".
I come on reddit to discuss serious world issues, with people. I come on here because the world has a lot of problems, and it alleviates stress to come on here and talk about the issues in the world. I trust that talking about these issues in any media is healthy for society, as idea's both digital and not spread. It's the communication of idea's that garners change, and results. Every redditor on here has friends, and families, coworkers and clients, the idea's and conclusions we come to on reddit or through other media sources, don't stop the second we see them on the computer screen. They follow us into our lives.
The implication that discussion of important issues on reddit doesn't matter, or is a waste of time, is a little offensive to me. If the issues didn't matter we wouldn't be discussing them. We all know why we come on reddit, and it's usually because we are pissed off with the world, and in the real world we are told "don't discuss this at work", "it's not polite to talk politics you might offend someone", or you are met with people who have no interest in world events. | Is anyone else annoyed with the implication that serious issues do not diserve as much attention as they get? Is anyone else annoyed with the implication that bad things aren't possible and that speculating "possible bad things" is a waste of time? |
t3_4tgcdt | AskDocs | Foot is turning dark red and getting worse everyday | 25 male, white, 6'3", 180lbs. Right Foot.
I had ankle and lower leg surgery 6-7 weeks ago for a broken fibula, dislocated ankle, and torn ligaments. Ever since my surgery I've noticed my foot had some red spots, but I figured it was normal and didn't worry about it. Though for the past 2 days I've noticed my foot getting more and more covered in red dots and red patches, and the redness getting darker. Even my scars which are completely healed are a bright dark red color. I'm not taking any pain meds and am in no pain. My foot doesn't itch. I do have swelling that increases/decreases depending on if I have my foot elevated or not. I can't move my foot/ankle much, but should start physical therapy soon. The only thing different I've done the past 2-3 days is to stand up on my crutches more (though not putting weight on my foot) to talk to people or play arcade games. Is this normal? What is going on with my foot? Should I go to a dermatologist or to my ankle surgeon?
Link to images: | ankle surgery 6-7 weeks ago. Had slight foot redness for a long time but past 2-3 days its gotten much worse. Darker shades of red and more areas appearing red instead of normal skin color. No pain, no itching. |
t3_41griz | relationships | Me [20M], feeling down after a series of different things happening, hoping some older folks can shed some light on if things might get better | Hey all. This already sounds silly in my head but I'm feeling really down right now so it would be nice to get a little pick me up from someone I guess.
I spent the first two years of college dating a girl I really loved, and got dumped right as I thought things were going fantastically. Lost my friends since they were hers, and spend the rest of my second year trying to get it all back together, and I think I did by the end of it. Lots of new friends and people.
Now I'm in my third year, studying abroad in a different country, fell hard for a girl but got dumped because of her religion/the time limit year abroad placed on things. Got complicated because I lived with her and now I've lost a lot of friends because we all live together and well...dunno! Girls maybe like to side with girls?
It just feels like I'm horrible at this. Whether its relationships or just friendships in general. I feel like most people have amazing times studying abroad, but I just keep running from place to place pretending I'm loving it so it's not obvious how lonely I am. I regret leaving my home university, it's like I thought there would be some adventure or something here, but nothing really changed.
I feel like it shouldn't be this bad since I've been through it all before, but...I don't know. Just keep wondering if the loneliness will be over? I try hard to meet people, I join clubs, go out with different groups, but there's no one I can ever seem to get close to and click with. It's just all casual acquaintances I might see once a week if lucky and nothing more. Just feeling quite down. | Life sucks now in terms of friendships and stuff. Feel like I'm wasting my year abroad. Feels like I'm going in circles in life. Anyone been through the same and can say it gets better? |
t3_eercz | AskReddit | Am I crazy? Or am I invisible? | I know I haven't always been very out-going, but when I got to college, I really blossomed. I started to talk to people, joke around, go to mixers, etc. I know a lot of people, but it seems like I'm rather...forgettable. "Out of sight, out of mind" applies perfectly to me. No one ever calls me to do anything or even to talk. I rarely receive any kind of communication that is not a response to something I said. Even when I'm with people, I'm easily ignored or talked over. The people that say we're "such good friends" don't talk to me for weeks (sometimes months) on end. Every social thing I do comes from me having to instigate it--whether it's organizing a dinner or just talking to people.
I know that it's not quantity but quality that counts, but I feel like you have to hang out a lot to grow closer, right? I know that waiting for attention is stupid, so I started inviting myself to everything. I went 90% of the way in all my friendships all the time, but my friends never changed. So I just stopped trying...even now, I don't really get out much, and people really haven't noticed.
This doesn't bother me the majority of the time, but every few months it sinks back in and I get depressed for a few days. My birthday was last week, and no one said anything at all. I'm not sad that everyone didn't, just that the few people I'm kind of closer to didn't. That hit me hard. It makes me want to figure out what I did wrong...I've been told by someone that I'm "unapproachable," whatever that means.
I do know a lot of people and I have a lot of casual acquaintances. I guess it's just that deep down, I know I don't have anyone to share my secrets with, cry on, have a movie marathon with, etc.
Finally, my questions: am I really that forgettable? Am I just not trying hard enough? Or are people just lame? | I'm pretty much ignored, people don't remember I'm alive if I'm not around. Is this my fault? |
t3_275hn0 | relationships | Me [18 M] with girl [19 F] for two month, better off as friends. | This girl and I had been dating for a little over a month and everything was great until 4 days ago. We work together and I was off that day but she went home crying. I asked her what was wrong and she told me some of her drama with another guy she was extremely close with. He had sex with another girl and she was extremely hurt. After that it got screwed up.
We stopped talking like we normally did, and any serious conversations were through texts even though we were together at work. The day after it happened was awkward, but as the day went on it was better and after work a group of co workers hung out together and we had a blast. It seemed normal again! But the next day she was planning on spending the night and that didn't happen.
Halfway through the third day of work she texted me saying that she didn't think that it was a good idea to come over, and that she wanted to remain just friends for now because she didn't want to hurt me. But included that she liked me a ton and wanted to remain just friends for now. Then this morning I asked her if she could ever see us as more than just friends. She said that she could see us as boyfriend and girlfriend for sure, that she liked me as a friend and as boyfriend material but she didn't want that right now because she is confused and needs time.
What should I do? I see her almost every day because of work and I don't want it to be awkward. But I don't think I can be just friends because I will always want something more. I care about her a ton, and I just want her to be happy but I want to be in a relationship with her. Should I wait and attempt to act normal and be her friend? Or should I distance myself and only talk to her when it is absolutely necessary? | Girl wants to be just friends for now, while I want to be something more. What should I do? |
t3_1anmao | relationship_advice | 21 [M] and 21 [F]. I want to be able to get over my ex | I thought the relationship meant something to both of us, but now she's moved onto another guy less than 2 months after we decided that the long distance would be too much. We recently met up and started to official date, however, I had to return to my country to begin studies. We tried to make it work, it lasted about a month long distance. But now I see her with a new guy, less than two months after we decided it was too much. This is difficult to me as we've known each other for a long time, and it seems like she has moved on so easily.
It's killing me, wherever I go and whatever I do day to day since I found out (about 2 weeks ago) I can't stop thinking about how they're talking to each other, how they hug and kiss. It's hugely demoralising for me and I feel deflated. I also have these chest pains whenever the jealousy sweeps over me, the psychological stress is difficult for me to deal with as I lay down thinking about the situation for hours at a time. | Long distance relationship recently ended (different countries, would probably meet each other again in 3-4 years), known each other for a long time and now she's got a new bf less than 2 months after we stopped contact. |
t3_2tt96i | dating_advice | I'm dating my Buddies' younger sister. | Not sure what details to include or if this is even the right spot for this, but yeah her it goes. Okay so I'm 27 and she's 21. I don't think that even really matters, but they might. So I've known these guys forever and I'm good friends with both of them. One is my age we'll call him Ryan and the other guy is 2 we'll call Michael. She said that there wasn't a point in saying anything initially because it wasn't serious but it's kind of getting more serious. She went out and had some drinks with Michael the other night and told him about us. He didn't flip out but he didn't really say much about it and wouldn't really look at her when she was telling him whatever that means. Anyway it was really awkward and difficult for her and since she told Michael she wants to tell Ryan. I don't want her to go through that again so I said I would talk to Ryan. The thing is I have no idea what to actually say. I mean I have no idea how he's gonna react, other than it won't be good. I'm not that concerned about how he'll react I just don't know exactly what to say... I've never been in this situation before and it's not like I'm just trying to bang her I really do care about her and see it going somewhere, but I don't know the best way to put it out there. like, "her dude, I'm seeing your sister... but I really care about her and blah blah blah" Is that even the best way to do it? | I am dating my friends' sister (who is six years younger than me if that matters)and I don't know what the best way to tell her brother, my buddy for like the past 18 years. |
t3_ncti7 | AskReddit | EMT/Paramedics, whats the craziest thing you've seen while on the job? | I'll start.
I was a fire explorer in my high school days, so as such, we did the usual probie-esque jobs (wash the trucks, roll hose, organize stuff etc.), and we got to go on most calls that would come into the station. On one such day, whilst in the middle of giving one of the ambulances a good wash and wax, our tone goes off on the pager, with a report of a two vehicle accident at an intersection the next town over, us being the nearest station (I lived in the middle of nowhere). Us, being the high speed explorers, threw our gear on, and hopped into the rescue truck. When we arrived on the scene, it appeared that a car had T-boned another one in the middle of the intersection at about the speed limit (60mph). We got out and began assessing the driver of the car that had hit head on (other driver was just banged up but nothing serious). As we're figuring out how to extricate the guy from the car (it was pretty mangled) an EMT and I were assessing the patient. There was a lot of blood coming from his abdomen, but we couldn't really tell what from, since it didn't look like anything had hit him inside the vehicle. As we investigated further, we discovered that his seatbelt had been twisted when he put it on, so when he hit the other car, instead of doing its job and keeping him in his seat, it acted like a cable and just about cut him in half. Needless to say, we called a Lifeflight, and after stabilizing him the best we could, we extricated him with the seatbelt still inside him. Scariest thing I've ever seen, and as a result, I'm OCD about seatbelts being worn properly. | Guy was almost cut in half by an improperly worn seatbelt. Am now OCD about wearing seatbelts properly. |
t3_2znt9i | relationship_advice | [18/m] Confused by ex girlfriend (17/f) sending mixed messages. | About 4 weeks ago my girlfriend of 2 years told me that we should take a break from seeing each other for a while. We did not talk for three weeks but when I came home for spring break last weekend I sent her a text asking how she was doing and she said we should go out for breakfast the next morning. We went and she repeatedly told me how much she missed me and that she didn't realize how much I meant to her. She kept apologizing for breaking up with me and telling me that she doesn't know what she was thinking. We saw a friend from high school who knew we broke up and she said "Do you think we should tell her?" which kind of confused me because i didn't know what it was that we should maybe tell her. Our relationship seemed on fire and fresh. She also told me that the guy I thought she was cheating on me with, which catalyzed our breakup, told her that he liked her and she told him that she only liked him as a friend. We hung out again a few days later and everything still seemed great. Over the past couple of days she has not texted me much and when we hung out lastnight and she ignored me and napped for most of the night and did not seem nearly as affectionate as the previous two times. Do you think after seeing me a few times she stopped missing me and realized she wanted to stay broken up? I'm really confused as to what I should do. Should I just move on and pretend that we are still broken up or ask her what she thinks of our relationship or just hangout with her a few more times and go with the flow. I don't really want to ask her about our relationship because i don't want to seem like I want to rush back into things. I also really want to work things out and date her again. Any advice is welcome. | Ex-girlfriend was very affectionate when seeing each other a month after the break up, but after talking for a few days seems much less interested. |
t3_4zzasc | relationships | I [23F] was hospitalized. Parents [50sM/F] told people they knew without me knowing. Do I have a right to be mad? | Recently I got hospitalized. I don't want to get into the details of it too much, but basically it was pretty life threatening for the days I was in the hospital. My parents in the meanwhile contacted my grandparents, grandaunt, granduncle, and their church group to let them know about my condition without my consent. My mom flew into see me when I was hospitalized, so imagine the surprise when I'm also suddenly having to talk to other relatives through my mom's phone that are aware of what I'm going through without my express permission. It just felt like an invasion of privacy, even though I know that they're family and close friends.
I was really frustrated at the lack of power I had in the situation, and decided to make a Facebook post about what happened to me. I set my Facebook on the highest security settings possible, though I understand that social media is very much a double edged sword, so I also omitted details I wasn't comfortable with. That way, it serves a dual purpose: 1) reach out to the extended family and friends quicker to let them know what happened, and 2) obtain some semblance of power over my own information in the situation.
Well, after I was discharged, my parents blew up at me. When I called them out on giving out my health information without my knowledge, they argued that it was with family and friends that I knew anyways. They also argued that I was stupid making that post, since some of my Facebook friends might have been elated that I was hospitalized.
I would like to believe that people aren't as nasty as that, at least outwardly. And the comments on that Facebook post have all been supportive in nature. In fact, I was a bit surprised that friends all the way from my childhood were wishing me well even though we haven't spoken in a while. I was genuinely warmed by the comments and messages I received from people I thought may have forgotten me.
I acknowledge that I made the post very brashly and based on a power play. But I'm getting major flak from my parents for having control over my information when they gave it out without a second thought. Am I in the wrong? | I got sick, decided to take control of my own health information, parents are mad at me. |
t3_4ct46n | relationships | I [48F] dislike the way my boyfriend [50M] talks about his kids [16M and 19F] | I've been dating this guy (Greg) for a ~5 months now, and, all in all, things have been a blast. He's really sweet, funny & energetic and we have a lot in common, both interest-wise and in term of worldview. Both of us are divorced, however, I'm childless and he is sharing custody of his two kids. Greg and his ex split about 10 years ago and have a good co-parenting relationship. His son (Chase) is in high school and his daughter (Laura) is going to college out of state.
Greg and I have set dates we see each other, and we're taking it slow, so I haven't met either of the kids. However, he does talk about them, naturally. This is where the problem comes in: literally anytime he mentions his son, it's a complaint. Any time Laura is brought up, she is praised.
I know teenagers can be irritating and entitled, and a lot of the stuff he mentions does seem frustrating: Chase's soccer practice changed & he didn't tell Greg until the last minute, he does a shitty job of cleaning, he scratched the family car, etc. But it also seems totally normal and doesn't really seem to warrant Greg's bitter tone & labeling of Chase as "lazy" and "incompetent." Both of which he has said more than once.
Laura, on the other hand, is apparently a divine being and the sun shines out of her asshole. I hear about her academic accomplishments on a near weekly basis.
I have many friends with teenagers, and they don't usually talk about their kids this way. It makes me pretty uncomfortable to hear someone I don't know shit-talked on a fairly regular basis, especially since it's his son.
Is this a red flag? Do I bring up the fact that this makes me uncomfortable? Or is he just venting about living with a messy teenage boy? | Have a new boyfriend, who seems to be great, except that he seems to massively favor one child over the other. Don't know if I should be concerned about this. |
t3_25dau8 | relationships | My(16f)boyfriend(16m) called me fat... | We've been together for 8 months, and i love him, and really Care about him. I've had som body image issues, combined with restricted eating, and i'm, still trying to learn how to deal with it. My boyfriend knows this, and he had always tried to help me the best he could.
I'm 176 cm. And right now 65,5 kg, so definately not overweight. I've been lifting consistently for a year or so, so a part of that weight is muscle.
Today we we're looking through pictures on his iPad, and i laughed at a picture of him, and Said he looked stupid. Then he Said "Well, you're fat"... I just kinda turned quiet, and he immediately apologised and so on. I asked him a couple of times if he thought i was fat, and he kept saying no and stuff... And then i asked him and he Said "Do you want me to be honest ?"
Me: "yes"
Him:"Well, maybe a little bit"... at this point i just turned quiet, and tried to hold back the tears, and when he saw that, he immediately apologised and Said that he didnt mean it, and that he was just annoyed by me asking so much.
I dont know what to do right now. I feel absolutely disgusting, and i dont know if i can even trust my boyfriend when he says he finds me attractive. It feels like he backed out of the truth, because he saw me crying.
I'm Working on losing weight. I want to get down to 60 kg. Eventually, and i've also gained a bit of weight in the last couple of weeks, 2,5 kg (63 kg. - 65,5 kg) (My weight fluctates a lot).
Any kind of input would be appreciated, i'm just heart broken, and my self esteem is just nonexsisting. | My boyfriend called me fat. I'm not sure if he's serious, and my selfesteem is broken |
t3_4yec8n | relationships | My wife (35) wants a third kid, and I (36) in no way want one. How do we resolve this? | My wife and I have been married years, and dating almost that long before hand. We have 2 kids, who are awesome. But exhausting. And expensive. But, mostly exhausting. My wife really wants a third, but I absolutely do not. My youngest kid is *just* starting to sleep, and I can't image going through that all again.
On top of that, having a third kid would most likely mean moving out of state (can't afford a larger house here) and getting a new car. We also currently both work, so time is generally at a premium.
When I tell her I don't want another kid, she tells me "I can't make that decision on my own". I literally can't imagine a circumstance where I will want another child. I am worried she will resent me if we don't.
So, people of reddit, how did you resolve this? | My wife wants a third, and I would rather spend 2 years being kicked in the nuts. How do we resolve this so both of us are happy? |
t3_lyjy2 | AskReddit | Stupidest thing someone has done with/to you in the bedroom? Me first! | I was dating a very nice, but innocent girl who had never been with a boy before. I introduced her to all the wonders of ordinary intercourse and had much joy playing around in the bedroom over the course of many moons.
Anyhoo, one day early on in our fling we get into my room and she immediately pushes me back up against the door and pulls my pants down and starts giving me head. This is particularly fantastic because I was next to a mirror, so I had all sorts of interesting angles to look at.
All seems to be going well, and this is by far the best head she has ever given me (she didn't have a very solid track record in this department, but I was being patient and allowing her to learn from experience). After about 5 minutes, she looks up at me and kind've gives me a weird look before saying, "I feel light-headed..." and falls backwards, unconscious on the floor.
Initial response was me standing over her awkwardly completely baffled and unsure of what to do. After about 30 seconds she comes around and I help her over to my bed, get her some water and just have her lie down for awhile. Bail on sexy-time for that evening.
A week or so later she is giving me head and it isn't particularly great, but immediately prior she had been doing that thing girls sometimes do where they suck on your fingers (never really understood the why of this, beyond demonstrating blowjob prowess) and I was really confused why the finger sucking had seemed so much more productive. I stop her and ask, "hey, why don't you do *that* the way that you were sucking on my fingers?"
Oh my god! Night and day improvement, and she looks up and says, "wow that is way easier!"
Me: "What were you doing before?"
Her: "Well its called a **blow**job... so I was blowing the whole time"
Me: "No....HOLY SHIT, that is how my dick killed you the other day!" | Girl passes out while giving me head because she believes blowing is an integral part of blowjobs. |
t3_1t73ql | relationships | My [22f] very materialistic [27m] FWB is getting me a some what expensive gift for Christmas. Can't afford to get him something nice back. | I work minimum wage and go to school full time, and i don't have much money to dole out for Christmas, especially with a huge family.
My FWB is very sweet, but he is super materailistic as in he likes to have all of the best stuff, and whenever he wants something he gets it for himself right away. I feel bad that he wants to buy me something nice and I don't have the money or any idea what to get him that he would like, that he hasn't already bought for himself. Should I just ask him not to get me anything? | FWB wants to get my something nice, I'm broke and can't get him something nice in return. |
t3_1bkfkt | travel | Visa help. I planned a trip without considering the Schengen Agreement | I've been planning a trip to Europe this summer, mainly Western with a little bit of Eastern Europe. I checked the visa requirements and, as a Canadian, nearly every country said that I didn't need a visa as long as my stay did not exceed 90 days in half a year. I went and booked plane tickets for a 4-month stay, and now I've just learned about the Schengen Agreement. My understanding now is that my stay the Schengen Area cannot exceed 90 days.
I looked into getting a long stay visa but that would likely take more than a month to process and I don't have that long before my flight. Since my stay was going to primarily be in Schengen countries, and my plane is booked into and out of Schengen countries, I'm feeling a little anxious right now. As far as I can see I have two options.
Option 1: Spend at least a month in non-Schengen countries. Since my flights are to and from Schengen countries, however, I'm not sure I can do this. I tried to find this info online, but I haven't had any luck so far. Are multiple entries possible for the Schengen area? Could I spend a week in Croatia, for example, and then return to a Schengen country?
Option 2: Change my flight. Unfortunately, that would cost money.
Does anybody know if a) option 1 is viable and b) if I have any other options? | I'm dumb and don't know how to read visa requirements. |
t3_10tx35 | relationships | I[M-21] don't know how to break up with my girlfriend[F-23]. | So a little back story. I am met my girlfriend about 4 months ago. Things were going great. About a week after we met, I moved in with her. I was no longer able to live at my house and she took me in. Things have been great between us for four months. We get along great. We are currently living at her dads house.
As of now she thinks everything is going great. She is wanting to buy tickets to hawaii for my dads wedding, and she wants to move in together in our own place.
Now my problem is I do not think our relationship will last. I love her, shes an awesome girl, but I don't think I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I don't even know how to start to tell her this. It will tear her up and shes already not happy with a lot of things in her life. I don't know what to do. I have never broke up with a girl for this reason, I have always had a pretty good reason. This is going to be hard for me. I can't stand seeing people cry, I dont know how to handle this.
All I know is shes not the one for me, and I need to end this soon. any advice would be awesome! | I dont know how to break up with my girfriend after 4 months of dating and living with eachother. |
t3_2hohfo | relationships | I (22 F) am still madly in love with my ex (23 M) and we have class together 3 days a week | Alex is the only boyfriend I've had and taken seriously through my whole college career. We met in the dorms freshman year and are now going into our fifth years here at school. We dated on and off for three years (breaking up because I was stupid and never knew what I wanted on the summers when we went home and didn't get to see each other often). The last breakup was by him, he was going through serious depression and ended up taking a semester off school to go home and figure things out. He broke up with me saying that he couldn't have any stress in his life pretty much.
This was about a year and a half ago. Since then, we have hooked up a few times, pretty much every time we drink together it ends up that way. We have gone through long periods of not talking, but any time I'd see him on campus he would come and talk to me and catch up. We kind of had a routine last semester every Wednesday where we would do this.
Now we have class together 3 times a week where it is based solely on a research group project and me and him are in the same group and always sit next to each other. Everything is just so easy with him. He will go out of his way to help me and do favors with me and always remembers small things I tell him.
I am still so crazy about this kid after all this time. He is the only guy I can say I truly was in love with and a part of me will always care about him. Should I tell him this or should I keep it to myself? I don't want to make the rest of this semester weird if he doesn't feel the same way, but I need to know. | Mandatory summary/question! |
t3_2wvnst | relationship_advice | I [M22] am confused and just need clarification about things with what my ex [F20] said. | I know this is a former relationship but I hope you guys can help. We broke up because she says she wasn't ready for a relationship, which I accepted. But what she has said recently has really made me confused. Going to try to make this as short as possible.
I know everyone is different and her reasons might be completely different to someone else in the same position but bear with me.
When we first broke up she just mentioned different reasons; not emotionally ready, needs to work on her issues and so on. It wasn't an excuse because she didn't see me in that way, she does, but doesn't want to hurt me.
Recently though we rekindled contact briefly (needed to get things off my chest( and she added more into why she doesn't want a relationship. She mentioned because of her issues, she hates affection, opening up and sharing things and how she doesn't need someone to help her through things. Which obviously hurt.
The thing that confused me though is the fact that during the relationship she had no issues opening up to me (things you wouldn't say to just anyone), showing affection and sharing things. I never once forced her to share things, she hared the stories as she felt she could trust me. She mentioned ages ago pushing people away because she didn't want to get hurt. What does this possibly indicate? respecting her privacy all I will say is, there was history of abuse in her family. | Ex showed affection, opened up and shared things in relationship. once we broke up says she hates them. |
t3_3ftf8o | relationships | Me [18 M] went over to my gf [17 F] house while her parents were out of town. Now we're both in deep shit. | While her parents were out of town about a month ago my gf invited me over to do the act. Her parents are extremely strict and might can sometimes be the same. Anyway, everything went fine and dandy until yesterday when her mother scheduled another one of her sex talks with her for that evening. GF told me she would be telling her mother tonight what happened; that she couldn't handle the guilt. After the talk she explained that her mother was upset but not really angry. More just disappointed in her and mine actions and disrepecting the rules of her house. Well, today I get messages from the GF saying that her mother is now extremely angry and will be contacting my parents and having the GF and I sit down to talk to both of her parents. She says we have zero trust or respect left. Obviously eventually she would have to find out that her daughter is no longer a virgin but after 3 years of dating I wasn't expecting such a vile response. My parents basically already assume its happened (we got caught at second base in my house a couple times) so I feel like they wouldn't care too much. Our parents also have barely spoken to eachother. I'm kind of freaking out because I don't really know how to handle the situation. Her stepdad is pretty cool but he can be very short and to the point. Her mother is usually okay but has an extremely short fuse. Please help. | GF's parents out of town. Inevitable happens. She comes clean to parents. Cue shitstorm. |
t3_3bqnea | relationship_advice | Girlfriend [24] caught me [28] masturbating in the bathroom. | We had just gotten back from the gym and after she got out of the shower, I hopped in. I usually use the toilet and do my business before I hop in the shower and I like to have privacy by locking the door.
I get done doing my business when the moment strikes me. Now, my girlfriend is on her period and doesn't like having sex on her period, so I decided to masturbate before I got in the shower. I let the water run to warm up while I started masturbating.
Next thing you know, the door is being swung open fast and I am standing up in surprise to my girlfriend barging in. She says "really?" And I say something like, "why did you do that?"
She hands me the towel and walks out. Obviously the mood was killed after that so I showered real quick and got out of the bathroom. She had the door to the bedroom closed and all the lights off, and was falling asleep. I decided not to bother her and went to sleep as well.
I'm not sure how I should approach this. Should I just wait til she brings it up? Or should I bring it up? She thinks that it's ridiculous that people masturbate and doesn't see the point in it. People get horny and people masturbate. I'm a little upset that she invaded my privacy by unlocking the door. | gf caught me masturbating in the bathroom by unlocking the door. Not sure how I should go about explaining it to her. |
t3_i08mu | self | Please help, my husband's sudden snoring is hurting our sleep and relationship. | My husband has always snored a little, off and on, but it has never been anything that woke me up or bothered him. The past two weeks or so he's started snoring terribly. I have to get on the couch because it keeps me awake, and it makes us both upset. I know it isn't his fault, so I don't want to be mad at him but I'm tired. We are also expecting a baby any day, and I will have to sleep in the bedroom where the crib is snoring or not, and I don't want him to have to sleep on the couch either. He doesn't have health insurance, so seeing a doctor isn't an option, has anyone tried any home remedies
or devices that have worked? | Husband's snoring is driving us both nuts, any suggestions? |
t3_bsypa | AskReddit | What's a reasonable place to go for a first time girl on girl experience? | Before I start I want to say I am not trolling and would really like some good advice and information. I am not posting in /r/r4r because I don't want to post a personal when I still have questions and feel like I will get more people's advice here.
I am an 18 year old female who is looking for a girl on girl experience. I'm not looking for a relationship and highly doubt I will ever want a relationship with a girl. I'm also in a committed relationship [ with a guy for extra clarification ].
Where should I go about finding this? I do go to college, however I think it'd be too awkward to do it with someone I know and also am also ruling out the whole 'I'm drunk and want to look hot' scenario.
My problems: Where to go to look, I'm sort of picky ( would preferably like a girl around my weight - 115 5'7" and am primarily attracted to caucasian girls)
Questions: After affects on relationship?, How awkward would it be?, and Best places to find a person hopefully STD free ( in Texas ). And if there are any other questions I should be asking but am not, please speak up. Any experiences or stories will help! | 18 yr. old in committed relationship ( with a guy ) wanting to try out a sexual experience with girl. |
t3_jew47 | AskReddit | What should I do about my neighbor and his dog? | I have a neighbor who keeps his dogs outside in a kennel 24/7. I think they're beagles, so they bark a lot. The barking doesn't bother me too much - I mostly just feel sorry for the dogs, because usually they bark when it's raining badly or when they're hungry, I assume.
We have, however, called the police on our neighbors many times when the dogs have been left either unattended for days or allowed to bark for many hours without stop (especially at night).
Yesterday was particularly bad. We called the police (who said they'd already received two calls about these dogs) and eventually the dogs stopped.
Today, the dogs were barking again. Frequently, when the neighbor is home, he'll start screaming bloody murder at them. Today, however, we heard him threaten to "beat them like he did last night." Then we saw him enter the kennel, heard yelping, and the barking stopped. We did not actually see any abuse, only heard evidence of it.
My question is - what should I do? The police doesn't seem to care much about this, because they've seen enough evidence of them being left alone for long periods of time to suspect him of animal abuse. | neighbor is possibly abusing dogs, want to know who to contact and what to do. |
t3_43lczo | relationships | My girlfriend (21) and I (20m) broke up after 2 1/2 years of dating. | It's the most heartbreaking thing I've ever been through. We both love each other still. I do not want it to end and she is the one who initiated the breakup. At first she said she only wanted a break, and I didn't want that because I felt like it was just delaying. What do I do? I love her so much and I can't move on. We talked for 2 hours about it and she is still very much in love with me and I with her. We've had some problems and she says she's unhappy. We're best friends and she said she couldn't handle it if we didn't keep talking. It's a long distance relationship so we talked all the time to ease the pain.
I feel so hopeless. I need to get her back and I don't know what to do. Please, I need solid advice. I love her. | girlfriend and I still love each other but she's unhappy. I want her back. |
t3_2ekmi5 | relationships | How do I (19 M) ask out this girl (18? F) from my class without being too awkward? (Details inside) | Its in my art class, I'm a sophomore in college and she's a freshman.
She's super duper cute, to put it plainly. She sits next to me, and is in my in-class work group. But a friend of hers is sitting on her other side, and they often talk on their own, as teenaged girls often seem to do.
I've never really asked girls out that much, and I tend to stumble over words and get embarrassed. Save me from infinite loneliness, reddit!
How can I get her alone to talk to her and try to get her number? I'm super awkward so... Yeah. How would I shift the conversation from Art History to getting her phone number?
Please excuse me if this is inappropriate to ask, I don't mean to sound like a pig or anything, I just am kind of fascinated with this girl, and I want to ask her out! | I want to ask this girl in my art class out, and attempt to get her phone number. I'm very awkward and don't know how to get her alone to ask, or how to organically bring that up. Help! |
t3_4josf6 | relationships | Me [24M] 2 years post divorce of my ex [24 F], and completely lost to the world of dating and social situations. | Backstory: I ended up dating and marrying my HS sweetheart and were together for 6 years. Things didn't work out and time has passed to the point where I want to get out into the world of dating.
Problem: I've never been one for social situations in the first place which is where I'd like to at least talk to people to get to know them, but the thought of that kinda... terrifies me. Coupled with the fact that I feel that I missed out on dating skills during my school time (both High school and college) I don't feel like I know what to say to women past the introduction phase (The 'hi I'm so-and-so' part). I want to be able to know how to talk to women, if at nothing else to make a new friend. (Please note, I'm not asking how to pick up women, not a fan of the whole one night stand idea). I don't even know where to go to meet people, I don't really like bars. Online dating isn't working out, I've been trying but I just can't seem to meet anyone. I'm at a complete loss, please Reddit help me. | Despite being married, I'm a total noob at dating. -_- |
t3_2qszri | relationships | Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [26 F] dating six months, she found out that I still masturbate and watch porn, and she has a problem with that. | This girl I've been dating for about six months now found out that I still enjoy watching porn and masturbating, and she has a serious problem with it. Her side of the argument is that she basically claims that I may as well be running to another female because she isn't good enough. She has now asked me to stop watching all forms of pornography and to gain some control over my "masturbation habits".
Growing up I was always taught that masturbation was natural and healthy. I've tried explaining this to her and she is still not budging on the issue.
Prior to this relationship I was single for about four years. The amount of porn I have watched could be classified as excessive but I have naturally cut back quite a bit when a wonderful woman came into my life. For the last three months that we have been having sex I would say that if I watched a porn video once a week in a month it would have been classified as a heavy month.
This girl unfortunately comes from a religious-heavy background and premarital sex was off the table, until she jumped on top of me one night after dancing. I popped her cherry. Ever since then we have been going at like rabbits, and I am enjoying every minute of it.
My porn watching habits have not affected our sex life. I don't fantasize about other women when I'm with her and I have no problems finishing.
So should I take a stand on my position that porn is okay. Or am I missing something about watching porn that is detrimental? | Six month relationship in danger because of guy watching porn. Can porn be okay in a relationship? |
t3_34iz1f | tifu | TIFU by trying to jump my friend's car battery | Like most of these, this didn't happen today. Happened about 10 years ago when I was a senior in highschool and the story is funnier now that my friends have all grown up and gotten careers.
Anyway, simple problem. My friend's car battery was dead in the school parking lot. We figured this would be an easy fix since one of us had jumper cables and all of us had cars there. There were 4 of us there and 1 volunteered their car to provide the power. We pull the cars together, pop the hoods, and then we all stood there.
At this point none of us had jumped a car before and smartphones were not a thing. A debate ensued. The 4 of us debated if the cables go positive/positive or positive/negative. We for real debated this for a good five minutes arguing about the physics of the situation and the chemistry and the engineering.... it was sad.
Eventually I convinced them it goes positive to negative because opposites attract or some crap like that. We hook the cars up, start the engine and BAM. Loud crack and the cables were just gone. All that was left were the metal handles and a long black stain on the concrete where the cable once was.
Here is where it gets sad. The education/careers the 4 of us have now. Physicist, Electrical Engineer, Mathematician, Musician. I am the one with the degree in physics... | A physicist couldn't figure out how to jump a car thus destroying the jumper cables and requiring a tow truck. |
t3_3opozw | relationships | How do i(26m) handle neighbors below me complaining about me washing day and night? | Hi, I live on the second floor of an apartment complex there are two other apartments on my floor as well. For some reason the people directly below me have twice in one day complained about me and my wife washing day and night and waking their newborn.
The guy came up here once and asked me to keep it down I said we weren't washing(had no idea what he meant yet) but we will try to be more quiet. I went to work that afternoon come back later that night and there's a note taped to my door.
The note said "we know you have a washer and a dryer upstairs please stop washing all day and night we have a newborn baby who just had surgery and it keeps waking him" Now I definitely don't have a washer and dryer up here and it's kind of pissing me off that I already told this dude once it wasn't me. Do I just knock on his door and explain myself or leave it be? | neighbor below me thinks I own a washer and dryer and that I wash all night and day. I don't own one at all. |
t3_13nblz | relationships | Abused past how much do I (20f) if anything tell him?(19m) | I'm gonna make this quick an answer any questions you have.
We've been together 9 months but I've known him going on 4years. There's a lot of abuse in my past. He knows what I consider the less worse of it all. I'm okay with talking about that these days because I'm over it. But he said thinking about it makes him mad (at the guy who abused me) and is one of the only things that makes him tear up, so I fear what the worse parts will do to him.
The part I want to tell him is more sensitive for me. I fear because I've left it so long he might think I'm lying, he'd be the first person id tell. I won't go into details but the others who abused me were my brothers. We still live under the same roof, it's stopped now because i threatend to tell but it's still not easy to talk about and I am scared of how my boyfriend will take it. Shall I wait or just get it over with? | shall I tell my boyfriend ALL of my abused past? |
t3_gpitb | AskReddit | Hey Reddit, how did this painting of my parents turn out? | My parent's 40th anniversary is coming up and I thought it would be nice to get portrait done of them as a gift. I asked my brother and sister if they wanted to chip in and it has caused a riff between my brother and I.
He lives out of town so couldn't be hands on, but my sister and I met with the artist in person and both agreed to go with him. We informed my brother that we'd be meeting the artist, but my brother didn't think we were going to commit right away without discussing it with him. My sister and I were so impressed with the artist upon meeting him, we ended up getting excited and commissioned him right away. My brother was pissed off that he didn't have a say, so he's been pissy about the whole situation since then.
The painting is now done and he hates it. He doesn't think it looks like our parents and is unhappy about it. I think because of his personality he is just set out to hate it from the get go and is being stubborn.
So Reddit, what do you think of the painting? [Here is a picture] of the photos it was based on, the sketch my sister and I approved, and the final painting. Personally, I think it turned out great. | I commissioned a local artist to do a painting of my parents and my brother thinks it sucks. |
t3_2fgnjh | relationships | Me [30 M] with my girlfriend [28 F] 2 years. Letting her know everything about my past. | My girlfriend and I have a very healthy and loving relationship. She is truly the best person I have ever met. I see myself spending my life with her, no question. However I feel an overwhelming amount of guilt because I've been hiding something from her.
A few years ago I came out of a divorce (That's not what I'm hiding). My ex wife was not mentally stable and and things got pretty bad (infidelity, verbal abuse on her part). However a few years before we irresponsibly got pregnant and decided because of her mental state and amount of medication she was on that she was not fit at the time to carry a child. We decided to have a very early abortion.
Flash forward to earlier this year. My girlfriend and I were out and we had a few drinks and the topic of abortion came up and she asked if I ever had one. I freaked out and I said "no". I know that wasn't right on my part but I just got scared of that question. My girlfriend isn't pro-life or anything like that but I know she'd take it personally that I'm hiding this from her.
I've never told anyone about it. But I'm not sure who my ex-wife has told. I have a fear of my girlfriend finding out through someone else. I'm not even sure if that scenario is realistic because who would ever bring that up in conversation?
I know I'm wrong for saying "no" but am I wrong about hiding this? Is this something I should bring up or just not say anything? I'm very conflicted. | Should I tell my girlfriend about past abortion with ex-wife? |
t3_thetg | AskReddit | Reddit, what's your funniest story involving foreign/second language mistranslations (click to see mine)? | When I was a on a (USA) college "term abroad" in Venezuela many years ago, my group stayed in the small fishing village of Mochima. We had lunch every day at the local bar and dinner every night at the the local restaurant, El Mochimero, where we were served by sweet little old ladies who cooked traditional Venezuelan food. Now... the night before, a few of the guys and I had gotten drunk with some local fishermen, and exchanged culture and language the way drunk men do. They had introduced us to the word "vergatario", which means "excellent" or "awesome"... but only around here, they conveyed, using sign language that we understood to mean that it was hip, local slang in Mochima. Anyway, the next night, after being served an excellent dinner at El Mochimero, I stopped the sweetest, oldest, and most wizened lady on the staff, who was also the chef, and loudly proclaimed in front of everyone in the restaurant that her food was "Muy vergatario". My friends joined in, and shouted "Muy, muy vergatario!" and we all cheered. Our professor at the neighboring table facepalmed, and everyone else in the restaurant, including the cook I was complimenting dissolved in laughter, and blushing tomato red, she toddled back into the kitchen.
I learned about half and hour later that "vergatario" means "big dick". | I told a nice old Venezuelan lady that the meal she served me was ***very** big dick*. |
t3_3beinq | relationships | [23 F]. My boyfriend of 2 years [27 M] is asocial, pessimistic, introverted, depressive and obsesses over money. He's everything I'm not. | We have been together two years this October. I love him with all of my heart and our relationship is working better than any I've been in before him. I really want this to work but need some serious help.
We're currently in a stressful part of our relationship. I'm studying full time in the final year of a tertiary degree, he moved to my city while I finish study and is currently working a dead end job.
On to the problems. Sometimes (these occasions are steadily increasing) I feel like we are totally different people. Where I love to go to parties, hang with friends, try to see the positive in everything, not worry about numbers, he is the polar opposite. He likes to stay home by himself, tends to be realist to the point of doom and gloom, and works out finances to the last cent, not able to spend a cent more than he needs to without careful deliberation.
Every time we fight, it's always about money or our social habits, and it's doing my head in. When I try to bring up his stingeyness, he'll always shut me down by mentioning our car he recently paid for (which I'm paying half of in three weeks or so).
Now I know that we both could make some changes. I could be more sensible, he could be a little more giving, I could stay at home more, etc. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but it truly feels like we just butt heads.
Reddit, I'm just so tired. I'm tired of never truly seeing eye to eye with him, and feeling like there's no compromise. I love him so much and don't want to lose him, and maybe it's just the situation we're in at the moment, but something needs to change.
Hopefully when the semester finishes and we move away things will look up for us. I'm desperately hoping for that. | My boyfriend of two years is my polar opposite, and we find it hard to see eye to eye. Desperately need some tips and tools on how to improve our relationship. |
t3_12zejv | AskReddit | Crush almost drank my piss: what is the best, almost catastrophic, scenarios you have worked your way out of? | So this girl i've had a huge crush on for a few months came home with me after a party for one of my buddies. She was pretty drunk and while we were in my room she grabbed a glass bottle with what to her looked like water.
In reality it was my piss that had been sitting on my dresser for a solid three months, as soon as she grabbed it and went for the lid i screamed, "DONT DRINK THAT!"
She turns to me and asks why, I stalled for a sec and told her it was bong cleaner. She laughed and i went to the kitchen to get her a glass.
Did a silent endzone dance, then went back to my room.
Ended up having sex with her
What are some of the more ridiclous scenarios that you have been able to snake your way out of? | My crush almost drank my piss, |
t3_tf9rx | AskReddit | I have considered suicide for a while now, but I have chickened out every time. How to I tell everyone that I'm in need of help, when they think that I'm living the perfect life? | Reddit, everything have been failing for me recently. My grades have decreased so much that my teacher are really worried that I will fail. I have been sick for six months, so sick that I couldn't even go up the stairs and now they think that something is wrong with my heart which would stop my swimming career. The man I love is with someone else, and he's not letting her go.
I have always been very depressed and now is worse than ever.I'm not the kind of person that lets anyone near. I was bullied most of my childhood, my mom was sick in breast cancer for ten years near of dying several times. But I always kept it together. Most of the people around me don't know. But a few weeks ago I just fell apart.
How do I tell my friends and family that I need help? They think that I am happy.
I nearly jumped in front of a train last week. But then I saw a small girl and I thought that she wouldn't have to see it. I almost mixed painkillers and alcohol last week, but my mother called. I didn't dare to slit my wrists.
Sorry for wasting your time, but I don't trust myself anymore. I need to tell someone so that they can keep an eye on me. | How to I tell my family and friends that I am depressed and want to commit suicide? |
t3_3qno42 | loseit | Past or present Redditors: Which physical symptoms of obesity made you realise you had to loose weight? | Hi all :)
I've noticed that when people realise they need to loose weight, it's mostly because they see a picture of themselves/ see a reflection in the mirror.
I've been overweight since about 4/5 years old, in my mid twenties I weighed about 220 pounds and noticed in photos etc how truly fat I was.
Got to 170lb (I'm 5'3), and the past two years it has crept up back to 220 pounds -because I have a better sense of self and how to buy clothes that suit me, I never really noticed in pictures, etc.
Recently, I have noticed a double chin creeping up, my skin's oily all the time, I have a fat roll on my legs and stomach (as well as a really round belly) I never had before, no muscle tone anywhere, I'm constantly out of breath, i feel sick and tired all the time, everything's an effort, I constantly crave sweet food (never had a sweet tooth) and I have lost control over portion sizes...
I am horrified with myself that I have let it get this bad (when I was younger I never noticed the physical symptoms of obesity, only that I looked fat) it has scared me into trying to better myself.
Would anyone else please share some of their own stories of the physical symptoms they experienced? I am wanting to scare myself healthy.
Thanks in advance :)
**bold | weight has crept up, feeling physically ill, pls share if you have experienced this |
t3_24mtlb | relationships | I (F 21) asked out my huge crush (m 23). He didn't reply, what should I do?? (Kinda xpost from offmychest) | I REALLY liked this guy for a few months now. I have never met anyone in my life that I've had so much in common with. I can, well now could, talk to him about every aspect of my life. I could have intellectual conversations with him about everything, even if it's not an intellectual topic. We are the same type of person that loves everything in moderation. Like we are both super into more computational chemistry and also into drugs. He's into the same music, shows and hobbies as me. We also have the same personalities and humor. My ribs would hurt after hanging out with him because we would be laughing so hard. I just understood where he is coming from every time he told a story because that's exactly how I would act. He's super busy, like works every single day. He does research and kinda got screwed into doing a ton of work. So we only hang out a once a week at the very most.
Well I was kind of confused what was going on so on Saturday night I finally got the balls and texted him asking him out on an actual date. He didn't respond... I thought maybe he was too fucked up when he initially read it and forgot about it so I texted him this morning asking if he got the text, no response... He couldn't even dignify me with a no.
As I've said, I've never met someone like him. There is no one out there for me. I can't settle for less if I know someone who is exactly like me exists. Someone that makes me truly happy. We were never romantic at all and I have these feelings and that's crazy for me.
I've been thinking about it and I think I should have gotten an answer from him. He's commented on my pictures before and has texted me first, so I feel like we were close enough friends to warrant a response. Do you think I should ask him further in the future?? How can I justify it?? | I really like a guy, asked him out, got let down. I feel like I am warranted a response. |
t3_dhvvg | AskReddit | I could really use some sage advice on dealing with a college finance office. | I am a wounded vet. I have two purple hearts and I am proud to have served my country. I walk with a cane and about 75% of the time I cannot drive due to my TBI. I am in the process of moving and the new school has told me that I missed the finance deadline by 4 days. Usually schools do a stop tuition while they process the paperwork and get the GI bill started. Now they want me to pay the tuition upfront, which wouldn't be a problem if I wasn't moving this month.
I have spoken with the head of the finance department and she was of no help to me. I was told I missed the deadline (which wasn't posted at all for the GI Bill) and if they helped me, they would have to help every vet that came in late. Basically they want me to pay money to access my GI Bill.
So what should I do? Should I suck it up and not goto school this quarter? Should I continue to call people up the phone tree? Should I call my state representative?
Thanks! | College forcing me to pay tuition in order to access benefits, instead of putting a stop tuition note in my registration file. |
t3_su3p7 | relationship_advice | Crush. Gone. Uncertainty. Friendzone? | So I have been friends with this girl for the last few months. I met her a few weeks before she moved to Europe last summer. We have been getting closer and closer everyday as we BBM quite often. I would call her one of my good friends. I have had some feelings for her since we met but since she left so soon I never really said anything. Looking back I definitely should have told her how I felt at least just so she knows.
She recently told me that she had met someone and I'm not sure if she's going to come back at any point. I want to tell her how I feel but I don't think it will accomplish anything, she's in a different country and has no intention of returning in the near future but it's lingering in my heart.
My issue is that I really do like talking to her and consider a great friend but I don't want to jeopardize any chance I have with her pursuing a relationship in the future. I think I have completely over thought this situation and now I'm not sure what to do. I'm pretty sure I'm deep in the friendzone and stuck for the time being.
The benefits of not telling her out weigh telling her in the meantime but it just weighs me down more and more everyday. | To tell her feelings or not. |
t3_amw87 | AskReddit | Where can I find legitimate conservative commentary? | I value sound reason and logic in a discussion or debate. Although I am a Liberal, I do want to make a conscious effort to view and consider the other side's arguments.
That said, if one wanted to view intelligent criticism of the Left/progressives/Dems/etc, where on the interwebs would one go? We're not talking Townhall or Worldnet Daily obviously. I want to know where the Conservative elitists are. You see the mere mention of a birth certificate or a death panel, and you know you can safely ignore pretty much anything else that person has to say. If I want to argue about the economy, I don't want to hear about Socialism. If I want to argue about education, I don't want to hear about indoctrination. If I want to argue about foreign policy, I don't want to hear about how we're fighting them there so we don't have to fight them here or how these colors don't run. You get the picture, Reddit. | I want to hear intelligent, rational Conservative arguments. Where on the interwebs do I go? |
t3_4x9qxn | relationships | Boy asks me out, now won't make plans (16 M/F) | Okay, so this is some teenage drama. (Sorry) A few months ago just before a school dance I got asked out by a boy for the first time. I was taken back as I had known him for a few years and hadn't gotten those vibes from him. He is a very sweet guy but I had been thrown into the deep end and told him I wasn't ready for a relationship yet and that I'd like to get to know him better. We are both the same age.
Fast forward to today and, well, over the past few months we have been asking each other out however at the last moment he ALWAYS cancels. (I have cancelled twice due to work I admit) this is frustrating because it means I can't get to know him better. Yet, he continues to message me and talk to me at school. Also, when the conversation turns, he insists he still would like to go out with me. I really want to go out with him for one date to get to know him better outside of school but it just doesn't seem to happen. Apart from all of this, he's an incredibly sweet guy. I feel like he doesn't like me anymore yet he says he does. It's frustrating! Especially since I feel like we have a lot in common | Boy asks me out, now won't make plans with me |
t3_23k0e0 | relationships | Me [27/F] with my boyfriend [29 M] of 3 months dumped me via text out of the blue and isn't communicating with me at all.. | So I met him on an online dating site. Things were going great, we never fought once in our relationship. I even met his whole family and went to his sister's wedding. Then all of a sudden he texts me saying that he's been thinking and he doesn't feel that spark anymore and to not try to text him or call him to work things out.
He eventually answered his phone and told me that he is no longer attracted to me or likes my personality. Even after he told me I mean a lot to him and he wants to be with me for a long time.
He also just made a new online dating profile after the second day he dumped me.
I just don't know how to cope with this...Everyone that I've talked to has said that is so weird. His whole family loved me..But I guess not him..I just need some advice, anything to help me move on and not let this happen again..Even though we were great together. | My bf dumped me via text saying he lost his spark and doesn't want anything to do with me and made an online dating profile the next day. |
t3_p5u3e | AskReddit | Reddit, I need your help with a girl and Facebook! | I have been hanging out with this girl for the past week. I have been getting strong signals from her but there is just one problem, she doesn't use Facebook. Now this doesn't seem like a big deal but this means I don't know if she has a boyfriend yet or not. Also, today she mentioned "her boyfriend" while mentioning a story about the semi-distant past. I don't know if that meant her current boyfriend or an ex. I don't know what I'm expecting of this post but mostly, I know that I either want to be her bf or back off. I have tried the whole friends-with-someone-you like-thing and it sucks. | Girl I like doesn't use Facebook mentions boyfriend in a past story. What should I do? |
t3_jhpxd | relationship_advice | How do I trust him again? | My boyfriend and I are in our early 20's. We've been dating for 2 months now. A month ago I found out he had been sexting and being generally flirtatious with a girl he had just met. At that point I did not break up with him.
A few days ago I found out he had lied to me again. At that point I immediately broke up with him without giving it too much thought. Anyway, I got back together with him shortly after (my decision completely)
I want it to work out, Reddit, I really do. But I still can't shake the bad feelings of betrayal. Its really done a number on my self esteem. I'm very paranoid that anytime a girl flirts with him he will just do the same thing again. Girls will be inevitably flirting with him again because it happens often even when I'm there. When we go out to eat, waitresses openly flirt with him infront of me and then practically ignore me. Obviously he handles it well and doesn't reciprocate, I cant just help but be really bothered by it. And cant even imagine what its like when im NOT around. Basically im paranoid about his behaviour with other women.
Since getting back together, things have been normal. We have a good time together. But we haven't figured out how to fix the situation. Hes been really good about it because hes been saying he'll do whatever I ask of him. The problem is, I don't KNOW what he can do to earn my trust back, because obviously everything he says I have a hard time believing it. What do Reddit? What can we do to fix this? | My boyfriend cheated on me (via sexting) and lied to me about other things. Now I'm super paranoid about everything but I want to make it work. How do I begin trusting him again? |
t3_3zew6t | askwomenadvice | Sexual mishap, both me [M] her [F] 20 years old | Hey r/askwomenadvice, you might remember me from last week. I had a crush on a lovely lady and I told her and we hooked up about 2 days ago and then she came over last night and we had sex. Or at least we tried to.
She's the hottest girl I've ever seen. I'm so into her and think she's so great, but for some reason when everything was off and we were making out I couldn't get hard. She was very understanding and nice about it, but I don't know what to do next in terms of going about it. Do I ask to hang out again and pretend it never happened? We had like 60 seconds of go time and then I was just soft again. But when we were making out and doing foreplay everything was great. I don't know what to do. I'm so embarrassed. | couldn't get it up first time with my dream girl. What do I do to move forward? |
t3_2fiolz | relationships | My (20/m) ex (20/f) just texted me out of the blue, she has a boyfriend..? | I dated this girl when I was 18. We brokeup, it wasn't working out, we continued to talk here and there. We'd text once a week, which turned into once a month, which turned into once every 2-3 months or so. We stopped talking for around 6 months until a few days ago she texted me "Hope you're doing good" at 11:30 at night. I responded at around midnight when I saw the text and she didn't respond so I'm guessing she went to sleep. I know she has a boyfriend cause we're friends on facebook, so why would she text her ex (We had a serious relationship, was 2 years long) that? Is it just because she misses me as a friend, or do you think maybe she's having troubles with her boyfriend and she's coming back to me..? Help me make sense of this, I know its a little to go off of so I'm not expecting much.
I still have feelings for this girl and my life is much happier when she's out of my mind, so if/when she texts me again, I kinda need to find a way to say we shouldn't talk anymore without coming off as an asshole, even though it'll be hard to do. Thanks | why did my ex text me when she has a boyfriend already? |
t3_is5rc | AskReddit | Do you believe that addiction is a disease? | I have gone the last few years believing it is a brain disease, that I have it and that it wants to kill me. I had 19 months clean from heroin then relapsed on perks for a week. Stayed clean for about 9 days then picked up alcohol, drank the next 4 days and picked up perks again.
Do you believe I will need to go to meetings and do step work the rest of my life to not use drugs?
Do you believe I will not be able to stop using now that I've picked up and won't be able to have a social drink if I ever want to?
I'm hoping I don't have to go back to detox and lose everything I have gained. | I wan't to hear your opinions on the "disease" of addiction. |
t3_2yeg6l | relationships | How do I [20F] tell my BF [20M] of 7 months that I wish he had done more for my birthday without sounding materialistic? | Hi everyone, you might notice that this very similar to a question I posted earlier, but I decided to post an abridged version with a more specific question. Anyway here's the story:
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. I really like him but I have always had the feeling that he is only luke-warm for me, every time I try to talk to him about this he says he doesn't see it, and so I end up dropping it.
A week ago it was my birthday, and I wasn't with him, in person, I was with my family, but he did call to wish me happy birthday. Aaand he didn't get me anything or do anything for me...
I mean it when I say this is not about the money. When he asked what I wanted a couple of weeks ago, I said something small and personal like a handwritten note or for him to sing for me (because he sings and plays the guitar). Also, I wanted to get him something for his birthday but now I'm worried that it would be weird if I did because he didn't get me anything.
We exchanged gifts for Christmas, and it's not like we're super casual or anything - we've met each other's families.
I guess it just makes me feel like he doesn't care about me. Am I just being a princess or are my hurt feelings justified? Also, how do I bring this up to him without sounding materialistic? | Boyfriend didn't get me anything or do anything for my Birthday, how do I talk to him about it? |
t3_llnbh | AskReddit | Is there an easy way to revert to the old reddit front page, from way, way back - last week? | Just looking for a quick fix instead of having to unsubscribe and resubscribe to every thing individually.
Holy shit, is my front page filled with [balls] these days!
**r/atheism**, fucking [r/atheism](
I have an atheist view on religion. To me, that means I don't give a shit about religion. It does nothing for me and I do nothing for it. I do not want to see these same rubbish posts about "How stoopid are theists?!", "OMG I'm way smarter than those god-believers", or the even more tedious, "I came across a religious fellow and explained my point of view in a perfectly reasonable way and I hope we can have further discussions on this matter soon, [circlejerk circlejerk](
Holy shit, is that annoying. I may as well be subscribed to r/Christianity for seeing shite I don't care about.
Then [r/wtf] should be renamed r/meh or r/funnybutnotasfunny.
That's about it really because I do fucking love pictures of puppies [r/aww] *they're so cute! | I'm unsubscribing from r/atheism, but someone please help me with the rest! |
t3_34k9y6 | tifu | TIFU by causing a rear-ending bump fest. | Soooo... this happened about an hour ago.
I just got home from work and was waiting for my girlfriend to get back from her place of employment. She was running a bit late so I texted her to see where she was. She decided to read my message while driving to my house, and rear ended someone while doing so.(going 20km/h) The person she rear ended was my buddy I work with. His car bairly touched the car in front of them and scratched the persons bumper a bit and she (not my girlfriend) loses her shit and calls the cops. Said friends insurance is expired.
They said they were not going to come inspect due to how lacking the situation was, but when she calls his insurance he is fucked. | Don't use your phone while driving what so ever and Don't drive uninsured. |
t3_ev8ax | AskReddit | Is it fair to hold someone accountable for their reaction to a situation that happened in error? | It's oddly phrased, but here's an example.
Say your child's teacher called you. He said that your daughter hasn't turned in a homework assignment all semester and she's regularly been cutting class. Naturally you're angry (or upset, or disappointed, or sad, or whatever parental adjective you enjoy using to guilt trip children...ahem), so you decide to confront and perhaps punish your child. Of course she flips out and says or does something she shouldn't. Later on, the teacher calls back and apologizes. He said he had a mixup, and your daughter is actually an A student.
Now the initial issue isn't a problem, but you have to deal with the situation that followed. Do you apologize and carry on? Do you apologize for the initial mixup, but keep the consequences for the inappropriate exchange that followed?
This is just an example I feel clearly gets the situation across. How would you proceed?
On one hand, the exchange never should've happened. In addition, perhaps the false claims are what caused the reaction.
On the other hand, regardless of the fact that the person shouldn't have been put in this situation, they still reacted the way they did.
Thoughts? | It appears gengengis both understood my question and was able to get it across better than I, so I suggest reading [his story.]( |
t3_3o3vy9 | relationships | I (23f) can't stop thinking about my ex (36m) and obsessing over what I could've done differently...help | I broke up with my ex about 6 weeks ago. It was what we both wanted but as soon as it was over, I regretted it. We argued for a few weeks after the breakup...we were both pretty angry. Then we stopped talking all together. It's been about 2 weeks with no contact at all.
I can't stop thinking about him. I can barely sleep at night because he's not there. When I wake up, I imagine he's going to come kiss me before leaving for work. I still think about things we had planned to do together. I think about places I wanted to show him. I think about conversations we had and replay them in my head and I think about what I could've said differently. I sometimes have "realizations" where I reason that if I just did one thing differently we would still be together. I still think he's going to text me out of the blue and apologize and tell me he wants to fix things (this will literally NEVER happen). I find myself fantasizing and daydreaming from time to time and it's always about him. I usually end up crying after any of this because I realize that we will never have any of that again. I cry over everything having to do with him...even stupid things.
I know it's over. I'm not in denial about that but I am still very much in love with him. I know it sounds pathetic. I don't know what to do or how to move forward. | I think about my ex boyfriend nonstop. I feel like I can't move on at all. |
t3_3dobi0 | askwomenadvice | As a guy, what if anything would be an appropriate way to help a female stranger who is so drunk as to be borderline unconscious? | 26 M
So a few nights ago I was out with some friends when we see this girl walk out of a bar (not sure of her age, seemed around college-age). It was around 1-2 am and she was walking alone, being so intoxicated that she couldn't walk straight and or maintain her own balance (she seemed pretty close to complete unconsciousness). At her level of intoxication, I was seriously concerned something terrible might befall her, so when she fell and spilled all of her cards from her wallet, I helped her pick them up and offered to call an uber/taxi for her, but she seemed too drunk to really register what was going on or what I was saying. Not really sure how to help her or be sure she safely got to wherever she was going without risking having the whole situation blow up in my face later, we decided to just leave her be.
So I suppose what I am asking you all is this: Should I have handled the situation any differently than I did? As a guy is there anything I could have done or could do in the future to help a woman in this situation without putting myself at risk? | Was out late from friends, see female stranger super drunk, want to know what would be the appropriate way to help her/handle the situation in the future |
t3_23f95i | needadvice | Advice in moving forward with life/career? | Hey there! I'm just looking for some advice on furthering my career and getting out of the continued monotonous loop that life has become, to better life on a daily basis.
I've recently moved out of the house to a new state, and found several jobs that I've gone through quite quickly as I find little passion for the job, or care for those that are there due to the negativity. I've been through three since moving last year:
* The first a seasonal theme park job that let me go after Season due to a manager "accidental mistake"
* The second (current) full-time working hospitality Front Desk for a large timeshare property, which I was promoted to overnights
* The third (current second job) part-time working life guarding for extra money
I'm a third year-student majoring in Biology, Sciences, and Engineering which shows why I have little passion for the Retail/Hospitality environment. I've wanted to pursue a passion in being an EMT, phlebotomist, etc. as it would give me more positive interactions with others.
The idea in finding something more enjoyable comes from a friend who recently picked up an Engineering Ride Technician position working on rides, which I've been trying to pursue since I began my degree.
Understandably enough I've got a lot of other new things going on, including stress and anxiety, having recently moved out and trying to figure everything out.
Any advice for someone who recently moved out, or resources?
Thank you! | Trying to Keep Moving Forward in Life? |
t3_2s8l4q | relationships | Me [18/FM] with my SO [18 M] dating for over 2 1/2 years are going to separate colleges, how did it workout for you? | My SO and I are soon going off to college. My top choice is University of Alabama while his is undecided. He did not get into the school that is closest to Bama, so we are officially going to be 5+ hours away.
We would have been dating for three years by the time college starts and we also go to separate high schools. We have been through quite a ton in our extensive relationship and have grown extremely strong.
I realize that every situation is different along with every relationship. However, I am just wondering how it worked out for some other people. Along with advice, since we are planning to try and date in college. Anything is acceptable and helps in every way! | High school relationships, fail or last once off to college? Tips and advice for high school sweethearts. |
t3_368ezf | relationships | Me [26 F] with my BF [29 M] doesn't respond to me all day sometimes | This has become a slight recurring problem that it's starting to bother me a lot.
There will be days where I will chat with him over iMessage or Skype and he won't respond. Then I'll call him for some reason, and he won't answer. The next day, he'll call me or text me back with an excuse ("I was with friends/family. I was in a middle of video game.") I'll express that I wasn't exactly happy with him not responding to me all day but I'll usually distract myself enough during the day that I'm glad I got stuff done and I'm just kinda peeved but pretty much over it.
But lately it's been happening more and more often. Just this week it's happened twice. I'm planning on speaking with him tomorrow (if he'll answer me) about how much it actually bothers me that he won't respond to me.
I don't think he's doing anything shady. He's literally with me 6x a week, and I'll be at his place so much that I'm actually just going to my house to change or get clothes. But it's just super confusing that he doesn't respond to me when he's on his computer/on his phone so much when we're hanging out. I'm on my phone just as much so it's rare if I see a message from him I don't respond.
It just makes me feel bad. Why doesn't he want to talk to me? I understand wanting a little break when we're not hanging out but we've been together for 2+ years. Half the time I'm just asking a question or sending a stupid link from Reddit but he just won't text back. I get being busy, but you can't respond literally all day? This is what I don't understand. | BF doesn't text or call back for a day sometimes. How do I phrase it to make it seem not accusatory? I've let him get away with this behavior before so it might seem like it's coming out of nowhere. |
t3_2wgf9m | personalfinance | [Help] Question about medical bills that aren't my responsibility. | Okay, so here is the situation as I understand it, as I am asking for a friend of mine.
My friend decided it was time to buy a new motorcycle, and while looking at bikes he decided to have his credit pulled to see what he might qualify for. This is where the issue came up. On his credit report is an unpaid medical expense that the Army Reserves should have paid but hasn't. He was on duty at the time of the injury, and due to the nature of it, they took him to a civilian hospital for emergency treatment. The Army Reserve still haven't done anything to pay for it in over 6 months, in the mean time his credit is getting a huge black mark and effecting his score enough that the lowest interest rate he has been offered so far was 20.99%. He didn't have bad credit before, but he didn't have much, his current credit score is very low 6's with this hanging over his head.
Here is my question, what options does he have (short of paying the medical bill himself) in regards to either getting it off his report as it's not his financial responsibility? Can he report it with the credit agencies to have it removed? Any other ideas, please help. | Friend was injured on duty with the Army Reserve, and now his credit is tanked because the Army hasn't paid the bill yet. |
t3_3f2p5m | personalfinance | Efficient Retirement Planning | Hi Fellow PFer's,
To start I'm a college graduate with little to no debt (25 yr/old male) and I make good money starting to save with a new company I started at a year ago. Just unlocked the ability to have a 401k.
I have a question that has gone unanswered for too long so I thought I would ask it here. My company runs a 401k which does not match, and instead puts nice profit sharing deposits directly into the program. I'm capable of saving approximately $20,000 a year based on my current spending and approximated future costs (car, house, women, etc). What I do with this money is up in the air. Since my company doesn't match, there is no obvious incentive to invest in a 401k with my company. I can do anything I want with this 20k in terms of investing. Currently I make under the maximum for starting a Roth IRA. I believe that number is around 120,000. So as an example, would a good retirement plan be that I max out my Roth IRA contribution every year (5,500) and send about $100 of my paycheck (Paid weekly) to my 401k? This way I would be saving about $6,760 into my 401k (before taxes of course) and $5,500 into a Roth IRA. $12,260 total. Not bad right? The rest I could put into a low risk money market or CD as a way to increase liquid assets.
OR should I be putting as much as possible into a 401k until I can max out my contribution (about 18,000/yr) and then put cash into a Roth IRA? | Which retirement option pays out best dollar for dollar for a 25 year old who plans to start pulling it out when I'm 70: Roth IRA or 401k. Thanks |
t3_3jvbh0 | relationships | My [23F] with my best friend[23F]. Her new boyfriend sounds really weird. | So, my best friend recently started seeing a guy she met on Tinder. It's been about 3 weeks. Am I crazy, or is there something very weird about this guy?
They've been hanging out about 2-3 times a week, and they both work in the finance industry. She says she has a great time with him, but sometimes he is "irritating".
I asked her what she meant by that, and she told me that he always pesters her with strange questions. For example, he asked her if she'd ever been in love before, and to "explain" why she hadn't (because she hadn't). He then proceeded to grill her about whether or not she'd kissed anyone before. My friend tells me she didn't like his tone.
Then, my friend tells me that they hung out again last night, and as they were saying goodbye, he told her that he loves her.
My friend tells me all of this, like, "Yeah, he's a little weird. But we have an amazing time together. We discuss politics and he's so sweet."
Am I weird to think something is completely off about that? | Friend has new "boyfriend", he seems overly attached. I'm not sure what to make of that. |
t3_evudk | relationship_advice | Overreacting? Found GF's pic of a male friend | In November my girlfriend emailed me a few slightly erotic pics. I thought I saved them to my computer, so I deleted the email. Turns out I didn't, and wanted to look at them today. Well obviously I could have just asked her to send them again, but I was feeling a little impatient. I knew her password to the gmail account she used to send them through looking at her firefox saved passwords. So I logged on to find them. Let me stop right here. I know this is wrong, a complete invasion of privacy, and betrayal of trust.
But out of the maybe 15 emails in her inbox, I clicked one she sent to her best friend that had an attachment. There was a picture of this guy who has regularly posted explicitly sexual comments on her facebook pictures. He's sitting in his computer chair holding his erect dick in what (judging by the dimensions and quality) looks like either a screenshot from an AIM video chat or a webcam picture. The only text in the email says "Uh". I have to mention that his dick looks pretty big, although honestly probably the same size as mine since I know he's 2 inches shorter. Of course that's not why I should be upset. I'm pissed off and hurt because I have a feeling she has more pictures, asked for them, and worst of all, may have sent pictures of herself.
This is my first serious relationship so I've been naive about a lot of things and have obviously had my share of mistakes. But I would never do something like this and honestly don't know whether I'm overreacting or not. I DO plan on confronting her about it, and obviously admitting I invaded her privacy. But I'm curious as to whether this seems fucked up from a more objective point of view. If it makes any difference: we've been dating for 4 months, went through a lot of crazy shit together in the past few weeks, and have felt closer than ever (up until today). | My girlfriend has a picture of one of her male friends showing her his erect dick. But I found it by snooping through her email so I'm afraid of confronting her about it. Should I let it go? Or talk to her about it honestly - knowing that it might make things even worse? |
t3_zqdbj | relationships | Being called a liar by some girls at my small college. Help? | We're all F(19 or 20). We've been friends for about a year.
I made a mistake when talking to a friend about a dress I'm renting for a party, and confused the 2k one for a less expensive one and mixed up the designers. She went after me last night, calling me a liar and saying I was doing it on purpose. Then I was asking her roommate for advice on an unrelated issue today, and she called me a liar about something else- my family having money, which is true. Now I just feel like I'm getting a reputation for something I am not, and I hate it. My college is very small and word gets around quickly. These two girls were good friends of mine and now none of my friends will speak to me. Worst is if the word gets back to my SO (he attends a different college) he will be upset by it as well, especially as he has a deep hatred for liars. I don't know what to do.
The two girls won't let me defend myself and no one will talk to me. I'm extremely upset by this and I need to fix it but I don't know how. | Two friends are calling me liars for things that I am not lying about, it is getting around our small college and I don't want this reputation. |
t3_1um3hv | relationships | I [20 M] see a future with my GF [19 F] of 6 months, but I'm concerned the honeymoon period will come to an end | I feel extremely lucky to be with her - she's been my best friend since we were both 15, and aside from an aborted pathetic high school attempt a year after we met, we've only been friends until around 6 months ago.
We had sex less than a month into the relationship and began telling each other "I love you" shortly after. We've never had a nasty fight, she's hilarious, and she gives me time with my own friends. In my eyes, she's pretty much perfect.
And that's where I start to get worried that the honeymoon period will end - I know we're both very young, but she really is my best friend and it hasn't ended yet. Has anyone been in a similar scenario? | I can't see myself not being with her, but I'm worried the allure will wear off. |
t3_535e0u | tifu | TIFU by knocking out all the power in the neighborhood. | I'm not much of a story teller, so I'll just tell you what happened.
Sooo, I'm a truck driver and I was hauling gravel today. We are unloading on a road that they are rebuilding in an older area of my city. I was told to go unload in a different spot than usual so I went and backed down the road 500m to where they wanted the gravel.
I unloaded the pup, and then the truck, but as the box was lowering and I started to pull forward I heard someone honking frantically.
It was already too late.
I brought down a power line that I didn't realize was there.
I thought I was going to die, because this happened to a guy I know a while back and all the windows exploded out of his truck. (That was likely because he got out of his truck, it happened as soon as his foot touched the ground).
I stayed in my truck and waited for one of the crew guys, he called the electric company and they sent some people out.
Meanwhile the whole neighbourhood gathered around to stare and complain.
When the power guys showed up, they came and told me that luckily the only line that got tangled on my truck was a phone line, so I was safe.
But I still messed up the power.
I'm looking forward to the inevitable safety meeting on Monday. | brought down what I thought was a power line with my truck, thought I was going to die. Turned it to just be a phone line, but still took out the power to the area. |
t3_1d7ape | AskReddit | Should probably be in t.i.f.u. Accidental stalking | Well here it goes. A close friend of mine has been away for a while. We would normally communicate by sending messages through various forums either skype, g talk, or fb. however over the past couple of weeks I had been sending more and more messages, alot random, alot of them questions. Apparently this has gotten to the point where when I've asked them how everything was they would try to tell me as little as possible. Then they said they were going away for a week and that'd there be little access to reach them. However based on several things I had a feeling this was bunk (as one of their brothers was vistiing them for that week and the following week. In addition to them being broke and the fishy backstory of how they could afford the trip.) | Yesterday I had a eureka moment and I'm now absolutely disgusted with myself. Sent them an apology message asking for them to forgive me, and stating that I'd now leave them alone. Basically what I'm asking is if there's anything I can do to salvage this relationship that I feel I've destroyed by unintentional stalking as this is someone who I have the utmost respect for and yet I did something horrible to them and don't want to lose somebody important because of my stupidity |
t3_3ltmpo | relationships | Me [28 F] Getting Friendzoned for the first time and it sucks | We've been friend for the last year; we hung out in the same group of friends and pretty much see each other every other week. I notice since the beginning he was interested, but I ignored it because I didn't want to get into a relationship. In last few months, I started to develop feeling for him as we got closer. I ask him recently where he wants to go with this and he said, "As I get to know you better, I know this is not going to work out, so it better off that we're just friend" This really sucks, and I feel horrible that there something wrong with my personality that he can't see us being in a relationship. | Okay I feel stupid at this point, did I misread everything? Please help me to move on and keep the friendship |
t3_2m9fcb | relationships | Me [20 M] found out that my dad[51M] is cheating on my mother [49F] and has always cheated, even before marriage, mom doesn't have a clue. | I found out that my dad was at a certain place with another woman out of coincidence. He didn't see me at anytime.
I was with my GF when I found out, I then managed to get inside the place and found out the shower was wet and towels where used.
I didn't know what to do, so I decided to meet the next day with my dad and tell him what I saw. At first he denied it, but after I explained the details he accepted it.
He told me that he is not happy with my mother, that my mother gives all her attention to me and my brothers that they barely have sex and what shocked me the most, he has been cheating on my mother with multiple different women even before they got married.
He says he is not in love with some other women nor anything, that its just physical. He also said that pretty much the only reason he is still with my mother is because of my little brother.
My dad asked me if anyone else knew, and I told him that my GF, he also said that he doesn't want my mother to know because its going to hurt her, that's when I told him that he is the one who is hurting her, not the person telling her.
My GF kept telling me to do something about it and tell my mother, that if I don't its because I'm ok with my father's behavior (Which I'm not) but I don't know if I can tell her. I don't want to be the one who breaks the whole family apart, makes my mother go in pain and change the view my brothers have of my father. I know they are never going to see him the same way.
What do I do? I've been carrying this for months and I don't know what to do anymore. | Dad has been cheating on mom for all their relationship. I've already talked to my dad about it, what to do? |
t3_18zn69 | relationships | I [M 20] am going to break up with my gf [19]. But this is the first time Im doing this and need some advice. | I have been dating this girl for almost two years now. But I think it's time for a break up. We haven't fought or anything, but I just no longer feel those emotions for her I did when we first started to date.
We started to date the last week of my senior year in high school; she was a junior at the time. The majority of our relationship revolved around my freshmen year at college and her senior year. To say the least, in my eyes it seemed like a healthy if not, very good, relationship. She entered college last fall but at a different university. We're both really busy, especially me with my work, school, and other activities, so we don't get to see each other often. However, I made a lot of effort in calling her, seeing her, etc.
Lately however, we haven't been talking much and I feel my love for her declining. I still care a lot for her which is why I want to initiate the break up. I feel like she knows it's coming too. | I am trying to break up with my gf of 2 years but this is my first time initiating a break up. How do I do it and what can I expect? This was also a good relationship without any abusive troubles. |
t3_3ihi2z | relationships | My GF (18M) is going to college and doesn't want to date me (20M) so she can focus on school | We have been dating for 7 months and she is the only girlfriend I've had. She moved into my house about 2 months into the relationship because of problems she was having with her dad's girlfriend.
Recently we decided to "take a break" as she was going to college and needed some time to be herself because she had been in and out of relationships for the past 4 years.
Yesterday we hung out and it honestly felt like we were still dating. We talked for a while and I asked if she felt that we were going to be together again and she said she didn't see it happening because she'll be going to college so and she wants to lead a "normal" college life. She's only moving a hour away and I've said I'm willing to drive up and see her often.
I'm sure that it's not going to happen and she's going to end it but still try and be friends but I want to advice if it's worth trying to work out. And I want to know how many people have been able to have a relationship all the way through 4 years of college? | girlfriend is going to college and wants to end relationship to focus on school and social life |
t3_11o3en | BreakUps | Haven't spoken to ex [f20] in over a year and every so often she's been texting me [m21] asking how i'm doing, but it's starting to become more frequent. | So what do I do? I don't really have any reason to talk to her seeing as I've moved on with my life. I have had no form of communication with her whatsoever. I got the first text about a month ago but I waved it off as a drunk text and ignored it. More of them kept coming on the weekends but now they've been happening on weekdays, but I haven't responded. Since they're no longer just drunk texts I'm starting to wonder just what the hell is going on? Is she playing mind games? Is she lonely? What? And also, what's the best course of action to take? | ex girlfriend started contacting me again. Confused as to why? What to do? |
t3_2p1cyg | relationships | How do I [25F] stop myself from going crazy over my boyfriend [25M] of five years not proposing? | I have been with my boyfriend for a little over five years now. We have lived together for four years. We have a dog together that we both adore. He always talks about our future in a positive light - where we should live after he graduates, what kind of cars we should have, how many kids we would have, how he wants our kids to have one of our dog's puppies/grand-puppies... whatever. Not in a forced way, more like "Oh Tesla is coming out with a $35,000 car in a couple years, we can buy you that one and I'll get a Subaru."
His parents love me and my parents love him. Our parents will even hang out together without us.
All that to say, he has been very clear that he will not propose before he turns 30, and I'm losing my mind. I have always wanted to have children before I turn 30, and I somewhat recently found out that I have a condition that means pregnancy might take a bit of time. There is absolutely no chance whatsoever of having children before marriage.
Everyone around me is getting married or engaged, and now when it shows up on facebook I start to cry, which I know is completely irrational.
I also am completely against ultimatums.
I can feel myself growing increasingly resentful and I know that I've been a huge bitch unintentionally because the resentment just boiled over.
What can I do to stop myself from losing my mind? | I want to get married, my boyfriend wants to wait another 5 years, how do I stop myself from losing my mind in the mean time? |
t3_yxy9y | relationships | My girlfriend's got an eating disorder... | Throwaway account. Don't judge because age please. Sorry for the length.
So I'm your average nerdy 16 year old boy. Except somehow I got the most wonderful girl to be my girlfriend. She's nerdy, fun, hilarious, extremely caring, and beautiful doesn't even cover it. We're been together for 8 months. Everything's amazing, expect for this one thing.
My girlfriend, although not diagnosed by any doctor, is thought by her therapist, best friend, and me to have EDNOS and Body Dysmorphic Disorder. She is throughly convinced that she is ugly and fat. She has lost weight despite her growing taller. She is now 5 feet 8 inches and 114. Clearly NOT overweight. She would probably be anorexic if she wasn't eating for her parents and he fact that me and her best friend make her eat. Her parents don't know and it would be awful if they ever did find out. They would never trust her again.
She weighs herself multiple times a day. Skips meals is something she does whenever possible (most days she skips one meal). She eats as little as she can without raising suspicions. I've noticed she shakes while eating a lot and any food she eats she hates herself for. She used to purge. No one can get her to admit when she's hungry. Eating food makes her cry and depressed, and somehow hurts her physically. She used to have problems with self-harm, and although it's a struggle, she's mostly better.
I could go on for days about all of this. I try to be there for her all the time. I tell her she's beautiful everyday. I feel so helpless watching such a beautiful girl be like this. How can I help her? | Girlfriend has EDNOS and Body Dysmorphic Disorder. How can I help?* |
t3_36ek85 | relationships | [20 M] Should I ask her [20 F] out? | The two of us have been friends since, literally, the first day of freshman year. After a few months of being friends, I asked her if she wanted to move our relationship up to the next level. She said no, but she told me that she had thought about it and she gave me the excuse that she had just gotten out of a long term relationship in high school.
In the following year and a half we have kept talking and texting. I have met her sister and her parents, who both seem to like me. We have spent time with only each other and gone out to eat with each other, but nothing romantic has ever happened.
I am having dinner with her tonight, just a take out place, nothing fancy. I really want to move our relationship to the next level, but I don't want to risk losing the friendship that we have. I realize that I can't have it both ways, so I am leaning toward asking her out. I guess I am just really nervous about this and I want someone to reaffirm my decision haha. | Should I ask her out? |
t3_1p12u1 | relationships | How to tell if she [24 M/F] likes me [35 M] | I'm a nursing student and I've been in clinicals with a female student for the last six months. We always end up getting paired together. I've noticed that she tends to hang around me more than she does any of the other guys in the program. Always laughs at my jokes and when she finds something especially funny gives me a little slap on the shoulder. She's almost the female version of me - same likes and dislikes, same sense of humor, same awkwardness. Whenever a group of us hang out after class or after clinicals she always sits next to me and we end up having our on side conversations. Maybe I'm reading a little too much into this next part - whenever we stand next to each other, she stands very close to me (doesn't do this with anyone else in the group). One of my buddies always sits next to me in our classes and he was late one time so she sat next to me and when he came in she said "too bad, I'm sitting next to NotThrowaway1980 today." I also overheard her friends say "you make it so obvious that you like NotThrowaway1980," but didn't catch what she said in response.
I'm currently in the middle of an (amicable) divorce - this girl knows this as well - and I consider myself single (and have for a very long time although I never acted on it because I was married) as does my STBXW. The thing is I've been out of the dating game for almost 11 years now. I have no idea how to interpret this girls' actions towards me. Does she like me? Is she just being overly friendly? I wouldn't mind starting a relationship with her but am hesitant to put myself out there as my STBXW had done a number on how I think the opposite sex views me (I'm confident in all other aspects of my life). | Not sure if younger girl digs me or just being overly friendly. |
t3_2ksnz6 | relationships | My [18/M] girlfriend [18/F] of 6 months, have hit a bump of a lack of caring. | My girlfriend and I have been dating about 6 moths now. I just started college and she is finishing up high school. I have school, family, friends, a job, and of course her to prioritize. She has theater, school, and family. I truly love her, but things have came up.
Recently we have gotten into a rough patch which sprang from her wanting me to "prioritize" . I did exactly that and realized she is more important than going out everynight and instead spending some of those nights with her. I've started giving 110% to make her happy, because that is all I want. I just dont see her doing the same.
I drive her everywhere and pay for everything because she doesn't have a license or money. I don't mind this, I understand her situation. What I do mind is that I do all ths for her and I don't see much in return. She doesn't ever seem appreciative, doesn't ask about me, and has declined in intimacy. I use to be really happy with her, but now I feel like I'm sacrificing my happiness for hers.
I tried explaining this to her this morning and it ended in a un-closed fight she didn't seem to understand. I just want her to consider my feelings and wants as much as I consider hers. How did I get that through to her? How can I be happy while making her happy? | How do I make my girlfriend understand that I need her to care and consider my feelings? |
t3_4dy77e | tifu | TIFU By leaving my DSLR in my office | [Emotional Post]
Some background: I had been saving up for this canon DSLR for over three years now. I am not the most financially gifted person, and I added a a few dollars each week towards my "fund" for an entry level camera. I bought the camera in February this year.
Event: I had a rough day at work yesterday and managed working late into the 9 PM hour before even thinking about leaving the office. I had my DSLR sitting on my desk, right next to my keyboard once I had set it down after viewing all the pictures from the day.
I live within walking distance of my workplace, so I decided, this one time I wouldn't carry all the bags and equipment to the apartment (The office is safe, right?). Mind you, in order to access my office, one would require three keys - unless someone had the master. I took off, making sure everything was securely locked. I even locked my office door, which I don't usually do for the sake of my coworkers who sometimes need to get into my office.
Fast forward to today, the camera was missing. Everything else remained untouched, besides the missing camera. STOLEN! Whoever the person was, did not touch anything else, only took the camera (not even the damn camera bag which had another lense). All those of you who work in IT know that the equipment in our offices are pretty pricey, and the only thing the person felt worthy for him/her to take was my camera.
Even though I didn't have this camera for a long time, it was something that I had wished to own for years. I saved up so much money for this.
I don't have the money to buy another one. Who would I blame accountable for the theft? The company?
The company...because we have been told the Master Key has been compromised and they have made no effort to replace the locks.
Really upset with the situation. Angry and sad at the same time. I do not understand what is wrong with people. | Left the camera in the office for the first time and it got stolen. |
t3_2thfnd | relationships | Me [33 M] with my SO [31 F] of 1 year have huge disagreement, help!!! | So me and my girlfriend have been together for 1 year. I recently found out during a conversation that she is a believer in the Gerson Method. Basically it is a very dangerous, unsubstantiated approach to cancer treatment. I happen to be involved in the pharma. industry and I am very torn about how to feel about this. She thinks that all of oncology is a lie and I am really surprised by her beliefs because she is very educated. I don't know what to do, I am really worried about that this is showing an immense amount of ignorance and naiveté. Can I please get some perspective on this? | my girlfriend believes in the gerson method and I don't know how to feel about it. |
t3_333i2r | dating_advice | Blew possible chance with a really cute girl, weird to ask my friend who she was or let it go? (22m/f) | There was a party the other night. I had a few beers and went around giving people stickers from an old sheet of Christmas stickers-- giving everyone titles and swearing them in to this stupid made up club for fun.
I walk by these two girls and say hi. They ask for stickers and I swear them in and everything. Then the one really cute one says "This is really weird. You are really weird, but weird in a way that you seem incredibly cute. Can I kiss you now that I am in the club?"
So I say sure and she give a peck of a kiss and we laugh, then I look at her friend standing there awkwardly and after meeting the friend, I walk away and say that I'll see you around.
A friend of mine was talking to them earlier, would it be weird to ask if she knows who they were (I know her name was Sarah)? If so, then what?
Or should I completely forget it and move on? | Girl seemed in to me and I just left. Weird to ask my friend who she was and about contacting her or should I just forget it? |
t3_2iiov5 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my BF [21 M] 1 month ago, can't get over it | About a month ago my boyfriend broke up with me (2 year relationship). Our relationship felt perfect. We never lied to each other, we enjoyed all the same activities, we loved being with each other. We were best friends as well as lovers. I was planning my life with this guy.
Then he began to "want" other people sexually. I was his first relationship ever, and he was always a little jealous that I got to mess around before we met. Still, he had quirky fetishes that I didn't mind and even involved myself in for him.
He's STILL sexually attracted to me and he still loves being around me (or he would, but now he feels guilty whenever he sees me, and he wont even look at me in the eye or stay around to talk).
He purposely *lets* me see him by sitting where near where I sit (we go to the same Uni). I feel like it's just a lustful phase for him, and I WANT to wait for him. I'm still majorly in love with him and can't stop thinking about him. Every time I even think about moving on, I just start crying and the phrase "but I dont want to move on" just runs through my mind.
I know I shouldn't have invested my everything in someone, but what do I do? | Still in love with ex, dont want to forget him |
t3_1iltdp | relationships | Me[18M] confused about my girlfriend [18F] and university. | I'm having too many sexual thoughts about college chicks...
Backstory: I've been with my girlfriend for over two years, and have a great relationship. We have a lot of similar interests, find each other very attractive and have a great sexual connection as well. We've gone through a lot together, but i'm having problems now, what with university coming up.
Me going to university implies an LDR. We've done LDR successfully before but there is less time now for talking to each other, and for some reason I keep getting fantasies in my head about hooking up with girls while i'm there, which of course is cheating, something i'd hate to do. Perhaps this is because my SO is my first girlfriend and potentially last, but i've always had desires in me to live that life of, well, typical college life i suppose. Still, my level headed decision is thst my relationship is more important becausd I seriously do value it.
These fantasies of college hookups are giving me thoughts that i'm not committed enough or serious about my relationship. I want to ignore them and I dont want to act on it in reality but i'm increasingly concerned that my old desires to do so will emerge, made worse by the LDR and no SO to vent sexually on. I'm serious about my SO; I really am, but these thoughts come to me like wildfire andI have no idea how to deal with it. Advice? | wanna do serious LDR but horny hormones intervene |
t3_fh2nh | self | Liked/Upvoted links not in history | I've been a redditor for a few years now. I can usually find stories I've liked/upvoted using the search - but every now and then I'll have to go dig around in my "history". At some point in the last few months - my "liked" history has only maintained persistence for 10 upvotes or so tops. I click my user name - select liked - and only the stories I've most recently upvoted are there... pushing next skips to MONTHS ago... And even then the history doesnt go back more than 6 months worth of upvotes. So I've basically "lost" a crapload of stories along the way. | Cant locate stories upvoted because "liked" section skips from current to MONTHS in past. |
t3_417r6o | relationships | Is it a good idea to move in with my [22f] bf [23m]? Advise from people who have done the same would be good! | Ok so I've been with my bf for almost three years. I currently live with my parents and in the next few months my parents will be moving 2+ hours away. I won't be moving with them as I work near the area we currently live in and my bf is here. I'm not too sure what my living arrangements will be yet, but my bf has offered countless time for me to live with him.
Now that would be fine and dandy if he lived in his own place. But he lives with his parents and two siblings. His room is quite big so it's not that bad, but I'm not sure I feel comfortable living with his family. Don't get me wrong, they're a great family and we get along well, but I wouldn't want to put the burden on them of me living there. If I did I would be sure to pay my way. I'm also nervous of how my relationship would go living with him there. I feel like if I ever needed to be by myself it would be hard. I wouldn't really have a place to escape. If that ever need be.
My other option would be renting a room in someone else's house. I have a few friends from work who wouldn't mind and have spare rooms.
So I was just wondering if anyone has been in a situation where they moved in to their partners family's home? How did it go? | parents moving far away and bf offered for me to live with him in his family's home. Good idea or nah? Any advise welcome. Thank you! |
t3_37qif7 | tifu | TIFU by getting drunk and punching my Haemophilic friend | This pretty bad fuck up happened last night.
My friend, during half term, decided to have a party at his house and I, was invited. The party was really good, and I had the *Brilliant* idea of saying we should play the Ring of Fire (a drinking game). Unfortunately for me I was the one who had to down most of my drinks and, expectedly, got quite smashed.
I knew that it was time to go home, and so went up to my friend to say thanks and bid him farewell.
Unfortunately for him, he was going to get something more than a word of thanks. My fist. So when I catched up to him I said "thanks!" and, without reason, punch him on the arm.
This wouldn't be so bad, if it wasn't for the fact that my friend is a haemophiliac (a genetic disorder which stops blood from clotting). A split second after that, I knew that I done fucked up. It was almost certain that my friend got a bruise and had to be duly rushed off to hospital to stop the internal bleeding. I just sorta stood there, looking like some sort of dumbass (which I was).
It's now mid-afternoon and I'm still tired (I had to stay up until 2am to make sure his parents woke up and got him to the hospital), I haven't heard a word from him and I think he hates me so yeah.
I fucked up. | Got drunk from a drinking game and punched my Haemophilic friend, now he's in hospital from a bruise. |
t3_2ssrsq | relationships | Me (28f) with my bf of 6mths (30m) found blonde hair on his Privates. Is he cheating? | Just started seeing this guy. We don't live in the same area, long distance dating. He calls, texts messages all the time and I do too and I care about him a lot. He's heavy on the trust thing. Says things like we gotta have trust without it we have nothing blah de blah. He has tons of female friends when I say tons I mean tons. his excuse, he gets along better with women. Even his best friend (who I still haven't met) is female. (Pretty sure they live in the same area) All these things I can put up with even though it makes me uncomfortable.
Anyway i went over to his and we're hanging out... Things get rather heated and frisky... I pull down his boxers and low and behold I find a long blond hair wrapped around his dick. My hair's black, his is black as well. His excuse he has roommates (both male and dark haired) they share a washing machine. Viola. His other excuse he visited his mom and sister that day. Maybe a toilet seat thing I dunno. I want to trust him but it's freaking me out. I don't know what to think.
Reddit am I over reacting? Or is something suspicious going on here? Guys how common is it for random hair to end up on your privates? I wanna give him the benefit of the doubt here, but I feel as though I'm shooting myself in the foot, arm and face.. Is this one mighty red flag I'm foolishly overlooking?? Thanks for the advice. | Dating guy, long distance, found hair on his dick that is blonde luxurious and isn't mine. Is he cheating? |
t3_393t28 | relationships | I feel ashamed for crying at my friend's mom's funeral. | Hi
This has been bothering me for a couple days now. I'm not usually a crier. My friends mom died due to cancer a week ago. I've been friends with her since elementary school. However, we stopped after high school. We're both 22 now and I haven't talked to her in 2 years. I knew her family and they were always kind to me. I don't know why her death affected me this much.
I guess I am more sad that my friend lost a parent more than because I will miss the deceased. Anyway, I held it together until I saw my friend say her speech. Just knowing that she lost a parent makes me tear up. When I went up to hug her to offer my condolences I cried as I hugged her. Not crazy loud crying. Just a bunch of tears.
So my question, is that weird at all? Afterwards I was worried that she and her family would think that I was being dramatic. Or wonder why I was even crying since I haven't even been in their life for 4 years. I think she was kind of surprised I was even at the funeral. So I guess I'm asking if there's some kind of funeral etiquette I just broke? I've never truly lost anyone I loved and am not sure if me crying would make them angrier or thankful.
Thanks | my friend's mom died and I am not sure it was okay for me to cry in front of her. |
t3_3f3khz | relationships | Am I over reacting if I get mad if my girlfriend from a long distance is asked if she's still a Virgin? | Alright so my girlfriend [18] goes to this sailing race. She recently acquainted a guy that was pretty lonely over there. She didn't really talk to him or anything.
When she went back home, she found out that the guy added her friend and asked about my girlfriend. So he found her on Facebook, and Instagram and added her. He said that he wanted to become friends with her, so that when they go back sailing (tomorrow) he won't be lonely and he'll know her.
The thing is, she told me how one night when they were texting, he asked her if she had a boyfriend, and if she's a Virgin. (She said yes to both) and how he said how he doesn't believe how a beautiful girl like her would still be a Virgin. She laughed and said that he shouldn't ask those kinds of questions. I don't know what happened next because she really didn't tell me.
The thing I am a bit irritated about, is that why would she even answer the Virgin part? Am I in the right to be irritated? Or am I in the wrong?
P.s I haven't been able to do any sexual things to her because of the long distance thing. :/ it's hard. | guy ask my girlfriend if she's a Virgin. She answers yes and I'm irratated that she even answered it. |
t3_554it1 | relationships | I [16 F] need crush [17 M] advice | I've [16 F] known this boy [17 M] since last year. He seemed to be interested in me briefly back when we first met but is very shy and also was not looking for a relationship (neither am I but I'm open to one). I respect that he is very school and family oriented and is probably too busy to have a girl in his life anyway, but that is not an incentive enough to help me get over him. I have come to the point where I need to tell him I like him because if he doesn't like me back then I will know for sure and be able to get over him and if he does like me back then I win. However, I'm trash at talking to guy I like. How do I tell him I like him without being the cringiest thing ever? Should I even tell him? | How do I tell a boy I like him? |
t3_42cf8y | relationships | Me [25 M] with my GF [25 F] of 2 months - How to delicately tell her I'd like some more alone time | So we've been going out for 2 months now, and things have been moving really fast. Neither of us have been in a relationship before, so we're still kind of figuring things out. She's definitely a lot more sheltered then I am however. I've dated women, I've had casual one night stands, and had "friends with benefits". She hasn't dated any guys period.
I'm starting to feel a bit smothered. She calls me in the morning...she calls me while I'm at work, she calls me when I'm going to bed. She constantly wants to hang out. Last week we spent everyday together for the majority of the day (I was off work). It's been like this since we've started dating and its starting to drain me. I live in the east coast and we've been snowed in and she is constantly calling to talk to me.
I talked to her about the work thing, and thankfully she's chilled out about that, but even that was an ordeal.
I feel like I can't get a break to unwind. Sometimes I just want to kick back and play some games...read a book. I just want some alone time, but she's very sensitive. She takes a lot of things to heart, and I don't want to hurt her feelings.
Last night we talked for about 2 hours over the phone, and then conversation kind of fizzled out so we hung up. About an hour later she texts me, but I've fallen asleep. I wake up this morning to a bunch of missed calls and texts where she tells me shes mad that I'm ignoring her.
I'm kind of avoiding calling her and picking up her calls, I know its not the most mature way to respond, but that really pissed me off.
It seems she got the hint, she texted me to call her when I'm free. | I'm feeling smothered in this relationship. She's never dated a guy before and I'm feeling over-loaded. She's also very sensitive. How can I tell her I'd like some more alone time without hurting her feeling? |
t3_16cy37 | relationships | My (f18) Dad (m51) is having a baby with his wife (f38) and I'm really struggling. | Basically my dad and I have always been really close (bonded over music and our generally laid back personality).
Last year I found out that he and his wife were trying to have a baby; now, she has lupus so we aways figured it was a long shot. Either way, I supported them because all I want is for him to be happy.
A little less than a week ago while I was home for break I found an ultrasound picture in the house and confronted him about it...Yes, she is pregnant.
He had no plans to tell me and then asked me not to tell my siblings. I felt I was in an unfair position so I told him he had to tell them or I would. I ended up telling my sister (20) and then he sent me a really mean text saying that he thought he could trust me (except he didn't because I found the picture by mistake)
In any case, I am not mad at them but I feel completely heartbroken and I don't know how to handle our relationship now, especially knowing I won't be his priority anymore. What should I do? | My dad is having a baby and, while I want him to be happy, it is completely breaking my heart. Is there anyway to make it hurt less? |
t3_lchja | AskReddit | Apartment Complex is Swindling its Residents, Is it Within the Residents' Rights to Write Letters to Each Tenant? | Ok here's the story,
We live in a college town and live in student apartments. We have happily lived in our apartment for a couple years now without a single issue with management.
Last week, management sent out a letter stating they will be providing new furniture to residents who pay a $20 monthly fee (note this comes out to $960 a year for each four-bedroom apartment). Other apartment complexes in the town have been replacing their furniture in the past year or two without charging residents, and we think this is absolutely preposterous.
Will there be ramifications if we write a letter outlining how the apartment complex is screwing its residents over and put a copy of the letter on every single door? Does the apartment complex have any sort of legal right to keep us from doing this? | Apartment complex is screwing over its residents - residents (myself and roomates) want to write a letter and post it on every resident's door. Are there possible ramifications or legal empowerment that the apartment complex has over us? |
t3_uta5p | AskReddit | I am being sued for FOUR accounts of whiplash from the same low speed incident. What can I do? | Just to start off, I'm in the UK... Okay, I was recently in a small traffic accident (it WAS my fault, and I admitted it). I was pulling out of a blind side road, my brain gave me the 'all clear lets go' signal, I edged out further and then another card drove past and I clipped the side of it. I bit unlucky I think, but my fault nonetheless.
This was low speed, I was obviously only at rolling forward speed, and the car I hit cannot have been doing anything more than 30mph absolute TOPS! Keep in mind that I hit the side of their car and they slowed to a halt primarily by pressing his own brakes. They did not crash into anything head on.
It was a taxi with 4 might I add, fat, rough looking chavs. I know this is probably irrelevant but it just eats me up inside. Now I know for a fact that they got another taxi and continued on with their day, shopping around town. They were FINE.
I received four letters a few days later from an injury claims company that I know for a fact give £200 for a referral and thrive on whiplash claims, posting on their website how much money they can get. I also know they have 'lawyers' who encourage whiplash claimants to take time off work and to go to the doctor complaining of non-existent symptoms so as to get more money. Now each of these letters were for each of the four family members who were passengers in the taxi. I did NOT get one from the taxi driver, who at the was a really nice guy about the incident.
I think that's about all the info really, I kind of needed a rant. Each of these claimants will get at least £1000 each. If anything it is on principle that I don't want them to get anything but obviously my insurance will be pretty damn expensive after this.
Any advice would be gratefully received. Thanks Reddit. | Four horrible people are suing me for nonexistent whiplash. I don't like it. Help! |
t3_1pshg3 | relationship_advice | [24/f] I am constantly debating whether to end my relationship with [24/m]. That can't be a good sign, right? | I feel like we lack that deeper connection that everyone raves about. He isn't a big conversationalist, and doesn't see that as a bad thing. We have been dating over a year. Yet I still feel lonely when I am with him. I know that he loves me, so should I just shrug it off?
We have a big move scheduled soon. Going to a new city together, away from everyone we know/love. And I am so nervous. What if I am even more homesick because my partner won't be there for me?
I have tried to talk to him, but he doesn't engage. Do I settle or do I make the trek alone? Advice is much obliged. | my SO isn't connected; should I end it |
t3_2iavcf | relationship_advice | I [17,m] am not sure if I want to stay in this relationship with my girlfriend (16,f) | Well, I [17/m] am in a almost two year relationship with my girlfriend (16,f) but I came to a point where I'm not sure if I want this anymore.
It started around two months ago when we hung out with a few friends of her. Basically a guy who I barely know said that she has clearly the control of our relationship (as a joke) but then I realised that it's exactly like that. She try's to keep me away from my best friends, friends I've known for years and through her I barely keep contact with them, mainly through school, a place where she has no control "over me".
From my point of view it seems that she's "jealously possessive" about me. She always has been jealous but it decreased from the first months we were together but this jealousy never really left. I'm not the kind of person who likes it when someone trys to supervise me. I've tried to speak with her about this situation two days ago and she suddenly used some very unkind words that hurt me a lot.
I'm her third "boyfriend" (she hasn't serious relationships before me; they never worked out quite well because she "fled from problems") and she's my first girlfriend. We've experienced a lot together (been on vacation, concerts etc.) and I'm not sure if it's right to throw all that away. I love her (and she loves me) but I think I don't want to stay in this relationship anymore because of this "possessive-thing". I've asked my two best friends about this and all they said was that I should wait or should talk to her, but I waited long enough and nothing really changed. She always says that she would be nothing without me and that she needs me, which isn't really helpful to make a decision.
I wouldn't consider myself "self-confident" but I'm saying if anything's wrong or isn't the way that it should be.
Any advices from you guys? | I'm [17,m] not sure if breaking up with my girlfriend (16,f) is the right choice or not. (Relationship of nearly 2 years) |
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