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t3_1htb4k | relationships | Me, [19/F] is stressed the fuck out about my fiance [20/M] | My fiance have been together for 3 years. We are really great together butttt there are some issues.
There are always issues when It comes to him. He is so negative all the time. It really pisses me off. He also can't take blame for anything. it pisses me off.
He gets an attitude with me a lot. It hurts my feelings and scares me. He smokes a lot of pot, and I am really worried it's making him not want to get his GED. His negativity is killing me. I know he had a shit childhood but FUCK. No excuse. He is really unmotivated. When I try to talk about our future together he gets so pissed at me and goes "Kk" I just want him to get his GED so we can get a life together. He doesn't understand. He is always bitching about stuff too. I'm sorry I keep whining, but I TALKED to him about it and he still won't change. He doesn't even have his license. I keep making excuses but the final line is he's lazy. | My boyfriend of three years is lazy and is always whining about shit. I am worried about our future. |
t3_1nxtj0 | relationships | Question about waiting time [33M] | I recently was left by my wife who decided she wanted to date some guy... Well and have him live in my house while I was away working. We have a kid who is currently living with me, my wife has left the house and has zero interest in coming back.
Not that I know how to, or am in any rush to, date and go out, I haven't done that for way more than a decade, but I don't know what an appropriate time to wait is. And despite of how this played out I still love my wife...which sucks but that is what it is.
This all came as a shock to me so I'm in no rush and am focusing on making sure my kid is taken care of, happy and in a stable environment. But obviously adult company is fun from time to time as well, and I really do need to meet people outside of my (soon to be) ex-wifes mutual friends. | Wife left, have kid... how long should I wait before I try to meet people... Try.... |
t3_2jdhty | tifu | TIFU by talking with a patient's family | I am a CNA. The patient with dementia has had horrible breath for the last few days, despite brushing teeth and mouthwash. I said that the resident might be constipated because signs of extreme constipation also include bad breath and no one was sure when they last went to the bathroom. With approval of the med tech I gave the resident prune juice.
Skip forward a few hours and the head nurse calls me to tell me that the family complained and freaked out because I suggested that the resident might be constipated.
It was a very rookie mistake. Rule number one of the medical field is not to diagnose or suggest a diagnosis if you aren't a doctor.
My nurse said that she was able to calm her down and told me always watch what I say. | Lesson learned. Always think before speaking, no matter how trivial. |
t3_3g2git | tifu | TIFU - By flashing a group of kids with cancer | So this happened about 3 years ago, Me and a couple friends decided to go on a last minute trip on a friday afternoon a few hours north up the coast to go camping.
We camped out that night and decided to go swimming at the beach the next day, which was deserted at this point, after a bit of swimming my ass just decided that it was time, so i ran off to the small beach toilet/shower block nearby and went to do my business.
This is the point where the story goes downhill, i've almost finished having my dump and the other guys had found a bucket of fish guts and heads stewing in water which some fisherman had left behind after filleting. They thought it would be funny to pour this over the top of the stall onto me, and boy that shit was rancid! I immediately start dry reaching, and go to wipe my ass and get out, but the toilet roll is also soaked in fish gut stew and falls apart like paper mache. So i pull up my shorts a little, open the door and dash straight across the room into the beach style wall shower, turn on the freezing cold water and start washing chunks of fish out of my hair and trying to wash my ass by splashing water up with my hand. While im doing this i didn't hear the footsteps of half a dozen kids running into the toilet to relieve themselves, they all rush around the corner get halfway past me and we see each other at the same time, they stop dead staring at me with mouths open, im hunched over with my hand between my ass cheeks and there is a good second of stunned silence, then the kids walk over to the urinals and i rip up my shorts and run out of the bathroom quicker than your can say "sex offender".
My good 'ol mates are outside pissing themselves, they had seen a bus rock up and the kids get out to go to the toilet but not warned me.
And the cherry on top, still stinking of rotten fish i turn towards the bus that they were pointing to, and fuck me it's a "camp quality" bus, which is an Australian charity for kids with cancer. | Friends threw fish guts on me in the toilet, im washing off in a shower, kids with cancer see me scrubbing my ass out. |
t3_vgo7y | AskReddit | My friend and I almost stole a dog while trying to return it to what we thought was the rightful owner. Reddit, what are your stories of well meaning actions ending up with horrible unintended consequences? | [This] thread got me thinking back and I realized the opposite had happened to me.
A few years back me and a buddy of mine were walking home from a park (this is before I discovered Reddit and still used the outernet). We took a shortcut home through a little canyon area behind some houses and stumbled across a dog. It was friendly enough lab with a pink collar. We gave it a little pat and continued on our way without much thought.
As we got into our neighborhood about a 1/2 mile away we saw a lost dog poster. The poster was for a missing female lab. We thought back and realized that dog we came across must be the same one so we ran back to the canyon. When we got back we saw the same dog running around someone's backyard and decided it had probably dug under the fence into the yard. We called to the dog (by the name on the poster) and tried to get it back out so we could return it. The owner of the house came out and was terrified of 2 teenage boys trying to steal her dog. Once we realized what had happened we apologized and felt extremely embarrassed and went back home. | Me and my friend almost stole a dog while trying to return it to what we thought was the true owner. |
t3_3dx1kd | relationships | I [20/F] am no longer sexually attracted to my partner [20/M]. | My boyfriend and I were friends for years before we started dating. We've been together for a little more than two years now though and I've lost all interest in being anything more than friends. We seldom have sex and for the most part I find myself unable to kiss or touch him.
I suppose the easy solution is to end things, but I still want him in my life. If I lose him as a friend I'll be devastated. He'd be so upset if I left him though that I'm not sure he would want to see me for a while, mostly because he hasn't lost any attraction/desire for me over these years. | I can't even kiss my boyfriend let alone have sex, but he wants these constantly. What do I do? |
t3_3dl01e | tifu | TIFU Smashing yoghurt | So in my group we have this joke about the yoghurt called chobani because whenever some brings it it always goes over all there clothes.
So one day i was opening my chobani and everyone started running away because they though that i was going to smash it so it went on someone. So i started to be a dick and pretend to smash it but i accidentally hit it and the top of the yoghurt flicked up and all of the yoghurt went all over my face and everyone started laughing at me. It also went all over my uniform so i got so many weird looks because i had a massive white stain on my shirt | I was being a dick pretending to put yoghurt on my friends and it back fired and went all over me |
t3_3itbrt | relationships | Me [24 F, survivor of sexual assault] found out that a guy [30 M] I went on a few dates and slept with, was cheating on his girlfriend with me. Now I feel like an idiot and severely doubting myself | I've had some trust issues after a guy I dated drugged and date raped me a year ago. My self-confidence went down the toilet and I stopped going on dates all together until last week, my friend begged me to start dating again so I can gain my confidence back. So I started on OkCupid and Tinder.
I met this really funny and cute guy and went on a few dates with him. He was very nice to me, always complementing me and very sweet. He made me feel safe.
It all changed after we had sex, he didn't contact me the next day which was different from the constant texting back and forth we had. I didn't sweat it or reach out, I thought he was just busy. But I was starting to get confused as the days go on. Then today (it's been 3 days), I was still dumbfounded on why he stopped contacting me since things were going so well, I saw him on the "people you may know" part of Facebook, curious, I clicked on it, and saw that he changed his profile pictures to him and another girl, who was consistently appearing in his other pictures since two years ago.
I felt so played, and such AN IDIOT for falling for his sweet talk and looks. And I'm beating myself up for sleeping with him. I feel very USED.
Maybe I just don't know how to choose men, I've always had a lot of guys chasing me but it seems like they all just want to have sex with me. I started to have flashbacks of what happened that night last year.. I was laying helplessly on the bed while the guy I was dating ripped off my clothes. It feels like guys just want one thing from me.
Sorry for the wall of text. I guess I just wanted to rant. A bunch of other unlucky things happened today and I just... feel like crying. I know I probably sound like an idiot, I don't have anyone else to tell these things to. I'm terribly embarrassed about being played like this. | A guy I was seeing was cheating on his girlfriend with me. I found out and am feeling terrible. Having been sexually assaulted, I feel like I can no longer trust men, and severely doubting myself. |
t3_34s2hw | relationships | Me [27 F] with my best friend of 4 yrs turned SO [26 M] of 2 months, worried about how our group of friends will react to me quickly moving on from a previous relationship. | My closest male friend and I almost dated ~4.5 years ago when we met, but I wasn't in a good place at the time. Despite this, we became great friends and developed a caring plutonic friendship. Fast forward to a few months ago and we're finally both single at the same time for the first time in 4 years. I was in my first serious relationship but broke it off due to unreconcilable differences, his first serious relationship ended a while prior. Anyways, I started hanging out with him more frequently, and the chemistry between he and I sky rocketed. Long story short, we brought our friendship to the next level and have both been insanely happy for the past 2 months.
However, due to the short amount of time between my previous relationship and this new "situation", we decided to keep things quiet until we both felt the time was right to publicly be in a relationship. This arrangement worked out well until recently. We've told a couple mutual friends who reacted in a super positive manner, so that's great, but we're holding back telling one particular group of friends. I'm concerned that they will assume things started between my friend/SO and I while I was in my previous relationship, due to the timing. I know, and my friend/SO knows, that there was zero overlap, but I'm very affected by how people judge me. I'd never cheat on anyone because I've been cheated on in the past and it sucks, so I just don't want my friends assuming I cheated. I can't convince myself that it doesn't matter what they think.
Is it wrong for me to be afraid of what my friends will think of me, even though I know the timing is fine (albeit not perfect)? | Recently started dating a close friend shortly after ended a serious relationship. Have kept this new "relationship" a secret from friends because I'm afraid they'll judge me and assume I cheated on my previous boyfriend. Am I wrong to be so worried about what they'll think of me? |
t3_16gjn3 | Dogtraining | Dog is literally scared of everything! | I just found this subreddit/am new to reddit! Hoping for some kind advice for my two year old soft coated wheaten terrier who has developed a fear of, well, *everything*. Namely:
* noise (talking traffic, bags blowing, stomping/scuffing feet while walking, things falling). Strangely, everything but thunder!
* going for walks (which I assume has to do with the noise). It's like she experiences a sensory overload and goes into full-fledged panic attack/avoidance. Sometimes she will even refuse to go out into our backyard for a pee.
* people talking in loud voices (if my boyfriend and I are even having a loud discussion she will either sit and shake, or hide under my bed).
* children.
There is an entire list of other issues but these seem to be the ones that concern me the most, considering they affect her everyday life. She started out alright, but as she gets older, she is getting worse (save for being outside, as we have moved to the quieter suburbs but she gets spooked often).
We have had her since she was a puppy; unfortunately she did come from a pet store/puppy mill so i'm not sure whether that has anything to do with her nature or not. We did the bulk of her training while we were living in an apartment in the city so she has had *plenty* of exposure to noise and hectic surroundings. It's not like she's in an abusive household, so the fear of loud voices is strange to me. She's always been around children but has always shied away from them. Her preferred method of dealing with her panic is to flee; I truly don't believe she would ever become fear aggressive.
Ideas? We have tried high-reward treats but she is not food motivated at all. We have tried reassurance, and have been told to knock it off because it will confuse her. We have tried to limit exposure, and over-expose her...neither works. I just worry that the more things we try, the more confused she gets. | Dog is afraid of everything, I am worried and at wit's end because she's such a loveable girl that I want to share her with everyone! |
t3_3c75b0 | relationships | How do I (M,27) convince my Mother (62) she is participating in a Pyramid Scheme? | I would really appreciate anyone's incite and experiences when dealing with this situation.
I love my Mom but she joined a group that convinced her to sell insurance and recruit at every chance she gets. My cousin, who lives in another state and we no longer associate with, convinced her to join after talking to her on Facebook. Money has always been super tight for us and I'm afraid she can lose the house "investing" into this by going to all these conventions out of state. She's supposed to attend one in NJ and in Vegas.
My Mother was an Office Manager for 15 years but was let go in December after the company was bought out. I felt like this was an opportunity for my cousin to call her and fly her out to California to a convention which unfortunately she bought into. When she initially told me about it, I've told her it was a terrible idea and any company that makes you pay for their services before hiring is a complete scam. Of course she doesn't think so. She told me "It's this or nothing" and I fucking hate my cousin and this "company" for preying on her vulnerability. I asked her for the company's name and all my concerns were confirmed after some quick online research and checking with Reddit.
My Dad doesn't have an opinion on this since he retired early after his heart attack prevented him from going back. My family runs through my Mom so nobody really questions her. As for my siblings, I'm the youngest, My brother is a single dad with 3 kids who take up all his time and my sister has no opinion on this, she couldn't put up an argument if her life depended on it. So it's just me trying to prevent any damage that will eventually occur if this continues.
I really want to help prevent her from losing money since she's close to the age of retirement. I know some people may think this is a loss cause but I really want to fight this and not let a fucking pyramid scheme ruin the rest of my mom's life financially. I've tried to sit down with her and talk about it but she just won't hear it from me.
If anyone has dealt with a similar experience, please feel free to chime in. | Mother bought into a Pyramid Scheme and I need to convince her she'll be in financial ruin if it continues. |
t3_1do2sj | relationships | How do I [25M] handle my SO [25F] hanging out with another guy? | Length of relationship: 4 years
We're currently long distance (been separate for about 3 months, 1 month to go). My SO has been spending a lot of time with a new friend she met. He has a GF and seems pretty committed to her. But I know that my SO is attracted to this guy (she told me this). I know she loves me and that she respects our relationship and his relationship with his SO, however it does bother me that she is spending a lot of time with him. I guess I'm afraid that them spending a lot of time together will lead to the formation of an emotional attachment (Can two people who are attracted to each other ever just remain friends?)
The thing is there's nothing I can do about it. I listen to her talk about him, let her go hang out with him and act completely normal about it because I know if I request that she doesn't spend time with him one of two things will happen:
1) She will hang out with him anyway (I have no way of knowing what she does).
2) She won't hang out with him but will resent me and that might essentially push her away from me and cause her to have even MORE feelings for him.
I love my SO and I trust her but I just hate this whole scenario. Is there anything I can do to prevent my fears from becoming a reality? | My SO is hanging out with a new guy friend I know she is attracted to and I can't do anything about it. |
t3_3j6wyj | relationships | Me [19 M] and my lovely girlfriend [16 F] have our 2 years approaching soon (about 6 weeks from now). I love her more than anything and want to do something really sweet for her that she'd never forget. Any suggestions? | On the 21st of October will be our 2 years together. Its coming soon and I'm getting a little worried, because I wanna do something that will blow her away. I have some good ideas, but figured I'd ask here incase someone had some other good suggestions.
I was thinking about making a little flip book calendar, that has "365 reasons why I love you" or something similar. I prefer making her something rather than buying (I don't mind spending money on stuff for her though), because I feel like it shows much more when I made her something myself.
If you have some good suggestions, please let me know. And if you think my idea is good, I'd like to know as well. This girl means the whole world to me and I need to do something that will show her how much I care about and Love her. | Please offer some advice about how I can make our two year anniversary the best it can possibly be! Thank you |
t3_3uyo1a | relationships | [~18/F] Girlfriend is going to a male strip club on her birthday | >Have been dating for 6 months, she's in college in a different state
Yeah so I'm just a bit upset about the whole thing. I asked her what her plans are on her bday (she goes to Uni in different state) and she told me she's going to a strip club with her friends.
Her friends are all binge drinkers and from all she's told me about their adventures, I can honestly see them edging her on to do some shit. They will of course be drinking prior.
I'm just looking for insight from anyone who has a SO girl that goes to male strip clubs. Or even any one that goes to male clubs.
*Extra insight, about my feelings and all that good stuff*
I'm very jealous, but it's not like I'm going to ever tell her "no" as she probably wouldn't listen to me anyways. She was back home for the past week so I saw her and spent a lot of time with her.
She asked me about if I'd be mad. I told her "no, I wouldn't be mad, I'm just uncomfortable with the whole situation." I said to her to imagine me going to a strip club and getting on with a half dressed women.
I've expressed how I felt, and said I didn't want to sound like an ass. I didn't say anything mean or rude to her, I simply told her how it made me feel.
I've fought threw a lot of self conscious problems and anxiety/depression my entire life. She's very attractive and she always tells me how guys always go up to her and try "get along". It's so hard being in a LDR only because I don't know what the hell even happens anymore. Don't get me wrong, I trust her a lot, it's just I don't trust her friends or any of the people in the damned state she's in. | Girlfriend going to male stripclub with her friends, they are drinking prior. Anyone with similar experiences mind giving me insight on what/how I should fell?*** |
t3_3rspon | relationships | Me [22 M] with my ex-gf [22F] of about a year recently broke up. Just wanted to vent and maybe hear some words of encouragement. | Around this time last year, I met a girl at a bar. We started out as an FWB kind of thing but around August we became exclusive and expressed our love for each other. We went on trips and she basically lived with me for around a month. We did everything together.
Two weeks ago she was talking about how she wasn't happy with anything in her life. I asked her if that included me and she said yes. A few days later she came over and we ended up having sex again, and continued to do so for the next few days. One night she texts me and says that we need to take a break. I asked her why and she said that due to our religious differences, she felt guilty about being with me and was tired of feeling that way all the time. I tried telling her that our religious differences are irrelevant to myself and my family but she said religion is important to her.
I'm honestly a bit devastated. I've never been one to be depressed but I've seriously been hurting for the past few days. If anyone's been through a similar situation, please let me know how you got over it. | Girl breaks up with me due to religious differences. |
t3_2cnwkv | relationships | How can I beat loneliness when there's practically nothing I can do about it? | I live out of town, about an hour walk, I recently rolled my car and have no transport other than to and from work, I have only a few friends since I moved to a new province a year ago and have had transportation issues.
The only people I see are my co-workers (east indians hardly speak english) My dad, his wife, and my brother.
I got cheated on and lost my girlfriend of 3 years in the process of the move, and things have been pretty shitty for me in the past year altogether, I have made many self improvements and have tried my best to make my life as good as it can be but I am still so lonely.
I turned to facebook and world of warcraft but i feel so empty inside.
What to do.... | I am lonely and there seems to be no escape. |
t3_2do5nf | Parenting | Issue with my childs grandmother and step-grandfather... | Hello fellow parents. I was wondering if I could get some advice or insight, perhaps some of you are going through the same situation.
I have one daughter with my girlfriend. Now my girlfriends parents have been together until she was 19 years old and no longer living in the house. So when her mother started seeing a different man, it never crossed her mind to think of him as a stepfather since he had nothing to do in raising her. Now the issue that I'm having is that her mother insist that my daughter call her boyfriend "grandpa". Now this pissed me off quite a bit because:
1.) He is NOT her grandpa, that title should be reserved for my girlfriends father
2.) He doesn't even mean anything to the childs mother.
Another thing is that my girlfriend and I just straight up do not like him. He is not a pleasant individual and frankly I think he's creepy. He's constantly asking my girlfriends mother to incorporate him into the family and it's really quite annoying. | My childs grandmother is seeing a new guy and he is expecting to be called grandpa by my child. |
t3_umzyu | AskReddit | I once had to give out roses for my job and a girl broke down crying. What are some completely unexpected reactions you have received? | Throughout high school I worked in a movie theater and for one particular Mother's Day, to promote the theater, corporate had our general manager buy several huge buckets of red roses. The GM asked me to hand out roses to every female that walked out of a movie (regardless of her age or mother-status). Of course I agreed because it was by far the easiest job.
Now, I was 17 at the time and did not have a lot of experience with women and was quite the socially awkward penguin, so I did not know what I was getting myself into. Not only that, but I am handing a rose out to everyone because my job told me to, so it does not mean anything right?
Apparently not. Only 10 or so roses in I hand a red rose to a girl who looked a few years older than me and immediately she breaks down into tears. Between sobs the girl tells me that no one has ever given her a rose and it means the world to her. I did not know what to say at the time and just smiled at her while managing to get out an awkward, "you're welcome." Completely taken aback by what had happened.
For the guys of reddit, if you are curious, while this girl by far had the craziest reaction, you would be surprised how many of the woman were overjoyed to get a rose, even though it was clearly only my job. | Girls love roses. |
t3_1t7em7 | relationships | Me [23 F] with my fiance/husband [21 M] for 3 years. He's addicted to porn and I have no sex life. | well I consider him to be my fiance, but we are legally married so he could work in the states (He's from canada). He recently told me he's been looking at porn since he was 7 years old. I asked him nicely to stop 3 years ago when I first found out he watched it. He agreed, but never kept the promise. 3 years later, he's still watching porn and I have given up trying to be the good wife. I have tried being "sexier", asking him for sex as much as I can, trying to get him into it and do the things he likes. But I finally stopped and he never asks me for sex and I literally have no sex life. I'm over feeling bad about it. I'm over trying. So I told him we should move out during winter break after finals. The thing is, we get together fine and we hardly ever fight. But it's like living with a brother or something. We don't even kiss. I would love to be with someone that appreciates me physically as well as emotionally and makes me feel sexy. Anyway, I know we will be breaking up soon and I guess I just wanted to hear from other people that I'm making the right decision? I guess I feel like I need support in my decision, I'm lame, I know. But I need to hear it. So many people tell me not to break up because we are legally married and that we should try to work it out, but I'm just so over it! 2 out of the 3 years of this relationship have been nothing but depressing and unhappy for me.
Oh, and we even tried marriage counseling, which obviously didn't work. I just think it's unfair that I've been so nice and supportive for 3 years - putting 110% into this relationship while he's not even trying. I know a porn addiction is hard to stop and can take years to break, but I don't want to deal with it anymore and I don't think I should have to wait for him. | Fiance (Legally husband) watches porn, never stopped. I have no sex life because he chooses porn. It's been 3 years, I want to leave but some people have been telling me I'm wrong for wanting to leave. |
t3_3brp8v | tifu | TIFU by not knowing how to use a vacuum | This happened couple hours ago. So I have a summer job working at a daycare. Me and my co-worker who I''ll call K are janitors. When we was cleaning one of the rooms, I was using the vacuum while K was cleaning the fan blades. While I was using the vacuum, I was wondering why it wouldn't suck up the dust and then I saw K laughing at me. He showed me the switch at the bottom of the vacuum. So there I was, vacuuming while K was laughing at me. In my defense, it was my first time using the vacuum. | Working at daycare, tasked using the vacuum while not knowing how to use it, being laughed at. |
t3_tava5 | relationships | Advice about a good friend with "walls up" | I have a good friend who I've known about a year who has a personality quirk that I find strange (and hard to put into words): she's consistently less forthcoming than I would consider normal about most things, even regarding seemingly unimportant everyday details. As if she has walls up. Both late 20s, I'm M, she's F.
Along with other friends and co-workers, I have lunch with this person about every day and hang out frequently on weekends.
But answers provided to questions that I would consider routine and nonthreatening when getting to know someone (background, places lived, etc.) are often only minimally responsive and sometimes almost deceptively so. Sometimes I find this out by comparing answers provided to others at different times, and learn that three different people got three different (but not necessarily contradictory) answers. I.e. misleading but not untruthful. Others have noticed the same phenomenon--as if we have to compare answers to get the full story.
Normally as you get to know someone, their life "story" makes more and more sense. But with her, the more I learn, the more I feel like there's something I'm missing or something that's being hidden. I'm reluctant to pry at something that might be painful.
Another example: I've been out with this girl literally dozens of times to lunch and bars both with other friends and sometimes even alone (as friends) and yet I only just found out that she has a long-distance boyfriend--who she has literally never mentioned.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? Any advice? | I have a good friend who consistently omits information for unexplained reasons |
t3_trg10 | relationships | Mother In Law made it clear she doesn't want grandchildren from me | Quick background info: I'm 22, husband 26; we've been married a little over a year, been together a total of 3+ years.
My niece was born 2 weeks ago (baby daddy is my husband's brother). Since the announcement of the pregnancy 6 months ago, I've been getting really vivid signals from my MIL that she doesn't want grandchildren from my husband and me. Even though we're not planning on kids in the immediate future, it still upsets me that she could say such things to my face. (She's usually really nice, she's a vegetarian, adopts a bunch of animals, etc... but sometimes she'll do little things that make me wonder).
It's happened a bunch of times (too many to count) but a couple of vivid examples that comes to mind would be: 1) after the announcement of my sister in law's pregnancy, I asked her if she was excited to be a grandmother, and she said "yes but only to [my niece]. 2) I asked her if she wanted multiple grandkids (wasn't suggesting anything, we were just talking about babies in general) and she looked at me with this face --> O_O and said "you're not pregnant are you?!" I said no and she said "oh, okay good."
I probably shouldn't dwell on it too much but it hurts. She only says it to me and not loud enough for others to hear. I don't know if she's mentioned it to other people. I've tried working it out in my head... Maybe she just doesn't like me? Maybe it's a racial thing (I'm asian, they're caucasian, and I just made a lame rhyme)? Maybe she favours her eldest son (which I've always felt in all the years that I've known her based on what I've experienced with the family)?
I'm not the type to start a fight or want to provoke anything and I feel like I should just drop the issue, but I feel like I want to know the reasoning behind what she's doing. I'm hoping someone can provide some insight for me. Thanks in advance. | MIL has made it known to me she doesn't want grandchildren from me. Feels bad, man. |
t3_34vu47 | relationships | I was [23F] seeing a guy [27M] since November, I broke it off in February now he's texting me and wants to hangout. | Hi All,
I'll try to make this as straight to the point that I can, sorry for any typos in advance - posting this quickly before work.
We started seeing each other in November, there really seemed to be a connection - he treated me very well. Taking me out to dinners and even taking me down south for a long weekend at a beach house. It was pretty awesome. Then at the end January it kind of changed to the point that it felt like more like just a casual physical fling. Which I wasn't a fan of, so I gave him an ultimatum either a proper relationship or nothing. He couldn't commit so that was it. Or so I thought.
Every weekend night for the next two months I'd hear from him drunkenly apologizing for not committing. Didn't respond, but now half way through April I start hearing from him during the day when no alcohol was involved, wanting to just hangout. I'm not sure what his end goal here, but now I'm at a point where I don't want a relationship for a while and I don't know whether I should casually hangout with the boy and see where it goes.
I'm not a fool, I'm 90% sure he's just after a physical thing. My question for reddit is whether going back to this guy is a smart move, I'm not sure whether it would be a respectable? A little bit lost at the moment. | I was seeing a guy since November, I broke it off in February now he's texting me and wants to hangout. I want to but I don't know whether I'm going to lose respect in doing so? |
t3_1o8vkh | running | sick before first marathon | hi. i'm scheduled to run my first marathon on sunday (<48 hours).
i've felt mildly shitty for the last ~7 days, which i understand to be pretty common. i've been resting well, eating clean, etc.
everything i've read references the "above the neck" rule. unfortunately, the two main symptoms i have are *below* the neck.... a) fatigue b) mild chest congestion (slight burny discomfort, very occasional cough, white phlegm). i'm definitely aware that the taper crazies could be making this feel worse than it is.
i've trained my ass off - perfect attendance for 18 weeks - so i'm pretty much set on running/walking/crawling... whatever it takes to finish.
thoughts/advice from veterans out there? | feel shitty, minor chest congestion <2 days before first marathon. thoughts? |
t3_kxje4 | AskReddit | What are we doing to our culture? | I was just wondering about what the internet will do to the creativity of our generation and the culture of America going forward.
Here's my train of thought: It used to be that someone who liked to paint or write or play music would do so in privacy. Only those with drive, lucky opportunity, a ton of work, and the right connections would ever be "discovered" by mass culture and possibly have the opportunity to devote their life to it (i.e. get paid). A painting you made, for instance, hung in your house for only your family and your visitors to see. End of story. Now, pretty much no matter what you create, it's very easy to "show the world" or at least put it somewhere where others can see it, regardless of whether or not someone actually looks.
We are a prolifically creative generation: I have an Etsy shop, my big brother and husband have their music on ReverbNation, and my little brother is uploading a novel onto Amazon this week. And, it's the same for a lot of people. The popularity of these sites is just flabbergasting. There is so much being produced.
But is it any good? What are we doing to our culture? Are we making cultural clutter? Does the ability to easily sell or show one's creations inspire us to try harder at our hobbies than we would if it were private? Will we make more awesome culture than other generations or condemn our culture to the mediocrity of hobbyists? Will us hobbyists drown out the potential geniuses of our generation? | Is art of all sorts on the internet making our culture richer and more amazing or making it cluttered and underwhelming? |
t3_qi28b | relationships | Would it be weird to bring someone other than my boyfriend to prom? | My boyfriend is a few years older than me, and as of right now I don't know if my school has any rules regarding the age of guests. We've talked about it before and I know he isn't DYING to go with me (he hates dancing, doesn't want to hang out with a bunch of sloppy teenagers) and I don't want to have to put him through that.
I know it's cliche and slightly immature of me, but I don't really want to go to prom dateless, even if I know I have the most amazing boyfriend waiting to take me out for dinner later, or whatever.
Now, I would obviously be going with this other person as **friends** and I would make that abundantly clear to him, but I think the other guy I was thinking of bringing has a crush on me, or feelings for me of some sort. I've known him since October (I work with him) and he's only 20, so I have a feeling he would have a much better chance of being let in.
I'm obviously going to talk to my boyfriend about it, but I don't even want to mention it if I get a negative reaction on here. I don't want to hurt his feelings. | my boyfriend is probably too old to go to a high school prom, would it be weird if I brought a boy more my age if we went as friends? |
t3_1w0fak | relationships | I [24 F] need help handling a breakup with my bisexual boyfriend [26 M]. Could he have ever been satisfied with just me? | Met my (now) ex-boyfriend at work about 10 months ago. We instantly clicked, started living together after a couple of months, and were best friends.
As time passed he made comments about threesomes (with a girl or guy) and hooking up with men (he has done this in the past- but it was 'just sex') as well as other women. He constantly reminded me that he had these fantasies and really wanted to them to happen. Bringing anyone else into the relationship was a hard "no" for me.
At the same time, we talked seriously about our promising future as a couple.
Eventually I broke down and couldn't handle his criticism and dissatisfaction. Was I right for ending things? Neither of us wanted to end the relationship, but these issues made it seem like the right thing to do. I miss everything about him and wish that this wasn't such a big issue for us. I've lost my best friend. I'm a firm believer in NC and we haven't communicated since the breakup, which was about a month ago.
If anyone has any wisdom or kind words to help me through this, I would appreciate them more than you know. This breakup is hitting me extremely hard. | Recently broke up with my boyfriend because his bisexuality was driving a wedge in our relationship. When will the pain go away? Was this the right thing to do? |
t3_33d3ez | relationships | Just found out my [M/23] FWB [F/19] has whored herself out four times since January. | I started hooking up with this girl in November maybe but told her I didn't want anything serious. We stopped talking for a while around February because she got a bf for a few months who apparently fucked her over.
Apparently January was the first time she went online and got fucked on a one-night stand for money. Its has happened three times since. In the past few weeks however, we started getting a lot closer and being super honest with each other. She opened up to me about what she had done as recently as a week before we started seeing each other again. So basically like three weeks ago she was fucking a guy for money. She said she had a breakdown and told her mom and she's in therapy.
Weird thing is that I've kind of started to care about her in the past few weeks. I can't help but have zero respect for her and she had sex with me unprotected after fucking one of the guys unprotected back in January. Also this is the best sex I've ever had, and I've had a lot of it. She says it doesn't feel like this with anyone else blah blah but she has serious sexual issues which, as bad as it sounds, is probably why it's so good. She goes at it so hard and moans like a fucking pornstar.
So basically what I'm asking is would it be ok to keep banging/emotionally helping this girl out? | fwb is a sketchy hooker but it's not like we were dating. |
t3_11cy6a | relationships | Girlfriend thinks I'm clingy, possible communication issue? | 24 y.o. Male here, she's 25, we've been a couple for a month and a half, dated for two weeks prior to that. So here's what happened...
We were cuddling and talking on the couch earlier tonight when, for some reason, I confessed to her that one of my big fears is coming across as clingy.
She didn't really say much, which was odd. So I asked if she thought I was clingy. again, she really didn't say anything. I told her I think there needs to be a little clingyness in a relationship, a little bit shows you care. She said "you're not a stage 5 clinger, don't become one" (or something along those lines).
I tried to get her to open up, go deeper, and talk about it more, but I could really tell it wasn't a discussion she was willing to have, so I dropped it.
Earlier today, she also told me to never buy her roses. When I asked her why, she dodged the question. When asked again in a different way, she said she "used to get them a lot". And that was the end of the discussion.
There have been other things she's had trouble opening up about, but I don't need to mention every little thing on here.
So I don't know if its a communication problem, it most likely is. The clingy thing hurt my feelings a little bit, but I'm more upset at the idea of her not being able to open up to me. Maybe she didn't want to hurt my feelings? Maybe she's not ready to open up about some things? I never acted or told her I was upset, I was my calm normal self the entire time.
Does reddit have any advice on better communication, and opening up? Am I getting upset over nothing? Also, what is your thoughts on clingyness in a relationship? | girlfriend has a habit of not opening up to me. this time after I tell her one of my fears in our new relationship is the possibility of me being clingy. Indirectly calls me clingy, she wont talk about it, she dodges questions, my feelings get hurt more so because of her dodging questions |
t3_cmyvu | AskReddit | Anyone else think the Queen of England should NOT be speaking to the UN? | So I'm kinda pissed that this even happened. I'm an american, first of all. And I'm pissed that this woman who does nothing but own a title and has not even contributed to working toward world peace/justice/etc like her grandsons do was allowed to address the UN.
Then she visited Ground Zero and some young american girls CURTSIED to her! Did we not just celebrate July 4th? Did we not fight a huge war so that we don't HAVE to curtsey to foreign title owning wastes of humanity?
This fucking Queen has not contributed to society in any way during all of her years of reign. In fact she's worked toward bankrupting the English people b/c they have to support her. Cut that woman loose. Make her work a day in her life or require her to pay her dues by working toward world peace/justice/etc in her country and in the world. | A title doesn't give you the right to address the UN especially when you've spent your life sucking money from people. And no american should ever courtsey to a foriegn "monarch" |
t3_3chs7k | relationships | [M22] Looking for relationship advice | The girl [F21] that I have been on/off with since 9th grade have been taking our relationship very seriously over the last 1.5 years or so. The progress has truly been great and up until a month or so ago I was looking forward to starting a life together. However, upon waking up one day I realized that I may not be as passionate about things as she is.
We all hear "find a woman you can bring home to mom" and she really is. She recently met a big chunk of my family and everyone loves her. Quite possibly, everyone besides me. I have been constantly torn between working it out and putting in my final words and moving on.
I yearn for romance and a strong relationship and always have. 7 years is a long time and both of us have grown/ changed a lot in that time. Is it wrong for me to want to throw a new line into the lake and see what I might catch? For the longest time I thought this girl was the only open door for me so I just kind of settled.
Lately, I have become a lot more confident in myself which has translated into a want for something new. The real question is, am I a jerk for wanting to throw everything away and start new or, is this completely normal for someone my age? Am I simply growing up? | I am still so young. Do I feel wrong for exploring my possibilities or do I feel excited for what life could possibly have in store for me? |
t3_1eozhd | BreakUps | How do I [16F] tactfully break up with my [17M] boyfriend? | Okay, so we pretty much fight every other day, sometimes really big ones and generally he starts them and will just start ignoring me. Despite this, he's absolutely crazy about me and texts me all the time and always does everything in his power to hang out with me. Before dating me he never smiled and now he's constantly happy unless we're arguing or I'm gone. We both go to military school and next year he's going to be working directly under me and the main reason I'm not breaking up with him is because it'd be terrible to have an ex at school. It could undermine all of my authority.
I have to see him in 4 out of 7 of my classes. He's going to be required to sit at my table for every meal too. There's only 150 people there, and breakups are always so much drama. But then again, our relationship is a lot of drama too. I want to look like a professional leader, but last time a girl broke up with him (after 1 month), he made a huge deal of it and got a lot of people to hate her. He's fairly popular so it wasn't too hard. I don't know how to break it off without getting half the kids there (his friends) to hate me.
We're supposed to hang out this summer. Should I try and break up with him right after summer starts to give him maximum healing? I'm also kind of worried I'll regret not always having someone there for me. There's very few girls compared to guys there, so it wouldn't be hard to get another boyfriend, but I just want to stay single and independent. Please help. | Boyfriend likes me a lot more than I like him, will make half of the school (mostly boys) hate me if I break up. What do? |
t3_2qhqgs | relationships | In your experience, can a relationship on the rocks ever be restored? [24/M] with [24/F] for 2 years. | We've never had a major argument, we've always been very close, and we enjoy each other's company. But she says she thinks she's fallen out of love with me and she's not sure why. We do have different ideas on where we want to go in life, but nothing that couldn't be compromised upon (although an issue is that I'm too willing to compromise for her and don't live for myself. I moved abroad twice to follow her career and have been unmotivated to start one of my own as of yet).
She told me this 2 days before our relationship went back to long distance (long distance, a year living together, back to long distance, which we knew was going to happen - nothing relationship based). We've spent the last 3 and a half weeks apart, but have been messaging and relatively normal with one another, although we no longer say 'I love you' and obviously things are much more toned down.
We are both very honest, rational and calm people, and she is spending 2 weeks back in the country where I am this Sunday to see how it goes (she also has family here so not thrown back in together in awkward circumstances).
In short, I don't think I need advice as such as we are both aware of the situation and it can only play itself out, but has anyone ever experienced a similar situation, and did it ever resolve itself in the positive way rather than the dreaded lonely negative way? | Girlfriend has fallen out of love with me, despite being in an honest and happy relationship. Doesn't want to lose me and is confused about why she feels this way, but knows she no longer feels in love. In your experience, can this ever end well? |
t3_1jw02n | relationships | Is it ever okay to send a short note after a break-up? (Me 20F, Him 21M, one year) | Yes, I already posted about the relationship and break up yesterday. See the original post here:
At this point I'm just wondering if I could give him a short note I wrote to him. We're seeing each other tomorrow to exchange things and the break-up has still been very polite.
The note is not mean, it's not manipulative. I think I've realized it's not going to be worth trying to get back together, so the note isn't really about that. It's mostly just thanking him for the good times we had, apologizing for a few things, and wishing him luck. It's basically everything I've wished I could have said during the break-up that I really didn't get the chance to because of all the emotions.
After our meet up tomorrow, we'll both be going out of town for separate trips, so it will be easier to begin No Contact then. I just want to say a few things before I start that. | Would it be dumb to give a polite, non-manipulative letter to my recent ex before starting No Contact. |
t3_4c9j9j | relationships | My boyfriend [23m] moved across the country to be with me [24f] but now he is unhappy. Should we end it? | My boyfriend moved across the country to be with me about 4 months ago. He sold his house, left his friends and family and drove 3 days to where I am now. We are living together but the past few months we have been fighting and have come close to breaking up a few times.
He seems distant and we aren't as intimate as we used to be. He hasn't made any friends in this city (he doesn't like my friends either) and spends the majority of his time on xbox or on his tv. He doesn't do anything else when he is not working. I've tried doing things with him but he's always so passive acting like I dragged him out or something.
He said he misses his family and friends but doesn't want to end the relationship. The hard part is that he doesn't want to talk to me about it and he always gets upset or defensive when I try to. Nowadays he doesn't talk to me much except when he needs to, like about bills or groceries. We don't have much sex like we used to because he's never in the mood but I have caught him watching porn.
We have been together for 2.5 years. Is our relationship doomed? I don't what else I can do to make him happy. I have a stressful job and I've tried to spend what little spare time I have to help him adjust. I'm also doing most of the housework and cooking so he gets more time to himself because that's what he wants. I'm really trying but am I wasting my time with him? | Bf moved to be with me but now he's unhappy. Should I end things? |
t3_m9vz6 | AskReddit | Where are the jobs? Is it the job market, or me? | I've searched, called, emailed, hit the pavement, lied on some resumes just for fun. In the past 7 months I have only had a few interviews and my most recent one I went in to apply for a sales position and they said you have what it takes but we would like to start as an assistant/intern, which pays, to show us you have what it takes. I said great lets do this. Went through a 2 hour interview, and a week later I got an email saying thank you, but you lack experience. How in the hell do I lack experience for a position that requires no experience?
My job history is primarily sales and debt collection countless hours talking to people and I cant even guess how many phone calls. I have a BFA (ya i know) from NYU. I cant keep a job for even a year before I am fired for, lack of being a team player (bullshit) or just didnt hit the numbers (when i crush all quotas and beat out other coworkers) I dont get it.
I feel I have a great business mindset and ideas, I would want nothing more than to start my own company, but I know I need startup capitol and I dont know where to look, family and friends is a dead end, and I dont have a credit history. I dont know Reddit, I am starting to lose it...please help. | Unemployed for 7 months, countless attempts to find work, cannot. Would like to start a business, no capitol. Help. |
t3_2zynhz | offmychest | I have issues and am miserable in life. | Ok so im 23. I have never really had a proper diet.
So here I am today and im lost. I struggle immensely with maintaining conversations, focusing in school etc. I also read that brain fog can be attributed to low-T.
I've been reading up on brain fog and a proper diet can help with a clear head. I've been trying to eat better but this is where part 2 of my problem is. If i try foods with different textures, smells, etc than what im used to, I immediately gag. Low-T would also be a product of eating a diet of junk food. | Have brain fog and a hyperactive gag relfex when eating. |
t3_4gn1zb | relationships | Feeling trapped in my 20's... | Hello everyone! So my boyfriend and I have been together since I just got out of high school (18). He had just graduated college (22) when we first started dating. I know it sounds a little perverted but here we are years later and I'm almost done with college myself.
For the past six month I haven't been able to enjoy my time with him anymore. I feel so drained when I talk to him. There is nothing wrong with him as a person or anything. I just cannot shake the feeling of maybe missing out on being my own person. I don't see myself as a "get married at 23" type of person. But he is older than 23 now and probably wants to start looking for that "adult life" with the kids and the house. But I want to live in my own apartment and understand what it's like to be on your own!
I find myself wanting to break up with him now, after finally realizing this depression and sadness won't go away. But right now he's very upset with his life. He's feeling like a failure because he still hasn't gotten a job with his degree. He tells me I'm the only thing in his life that makes it worth living. So nonetheless I feel like the worst person in the world. 3 and a half years is a long time to be with someone. What do you do when someone always puts that pressure on you, that you're the only reason they even keep trying!
There's a bunch more problems between us. I just feel like it would take 3 pages to write out and Reddit doesn't want to read alllllll that.
So my question to you all is- What would you do in a situation where you were very unhappy for reasons only pertaining to you, but your SO is going through a very rough part of their life? Would you wait a few month for a better time or? | Feel like I'm missing out on own life, but boyfriend is sad AF! |
t3_4bje83 | relationships | Gf [20F] thinks about other men while having sex with me. Should I break up with her? [21M] | We're in a relationship for almost 3 years. Everything's been great so far regarding our communication and emotions.
Regarding sex, we are each other's firsts, if that means anything.
Sometimes she seems 'spaced out' when we have sex. I asked her if she's maybe fantasizing about other men and she confirmed. She fantasizes about anyone really; superstar singers to college friends (to probably some of my friends).
This got me really upset. If she loves me, isn't she supposed to think only about me? Isn't fantasizing about other people just wrong? I don't think about other women.
I don't mean to sound like a douche here, but I'm a relatively handsome guy in shape. I just don't understand...
What should I do? | Gf thinks about other men while having sex. |
t3_blu0k | AskReddit | Reddit: I get a lot of input on job responsibilities for my first Computer Science Position out of college. Help with some ideas! | Here's the story: I will be graduating with a computer science degree in early May. I have an internship-type job now at a small, personable company (30ish employees) that I enjoy working at. I've worked there for about a year and have made myself valuable. They MIGHT offer me a full time gig but want a lot of input from me. What do I want to do? What do I like to do? Obviously, I have SOME answers for these things, but need some help. In my current job, I basically get projects. I'm asked to figure out how to do a certain process or improve an existing process and make it more efficient. I usually do this on the computer in some way with programming skills, analysis of numbers, etc. I'm hoping to branch onto their web team as well since I have experience in web development and design.
What kind of things would you ask for? What kind of skills would you volunteer? How should I present this? A formal document? A simple list? An explanation with each bullet point? I really want to provide valid input but I don't REALLY know what goes on in a typical computer science job and since I would be the first person at the company with a position like this and the managers are very receptive, I think they also may need some direction. | Might get a full time job and get to name some of the terms of my job, need advice. |
t3_484k3l | relationships | Me [36/M] with my wife [26 F] of two years. I ran into an ex but didn't tell her the whole story. | My wife, Amy, and I have been married two years and together for slightly longer. We have a good relationship and a wonderful one year old. I am bipolar but medicated since around the time my son was born.
Amy and I started our relationship shortly after I had broken up with my ex, Claire. Although I'd broken up with her we still had sex up until Amy and I got together. When she found out Amy and I had already gotten engaged. Claire was very mean to my wife and Amy hates her.
I still saw and talked to Claire during the early part of my relationship with Amy, as well as a few times after I was married but eventually stopped. Around Christmas of 2014 Amy and I were rocky. I was drinking too much and she was pregnant and things were bad. Not an excuse just background.
I went to a bar after work and Claire is there. She comes up to talk to me and eventually I drive her home where we talk some more. Nothing physical happened. I went back the next night and again- nothing physical. I decided after that second time not to speak to her again. I've since deleted her from my phone.
Fast forward to August last year. I don't even remember how but I tell my wife. After I get through the part where I ran into and talked to her at the bar Amy gets understandably upset. This turns into a full blown panic attack (she has anxiety issues) and it was scary. She kicked me out (for one night) and I stayed at my sister's.
We made up, though it's been a thorny issue since. My question is- should I tell Amy the whole story? I stopped short before because it seemed like too much on top of her panicking, but does she deserve to know the whole truth? Part of me feels like I just want to get it off my chest, but I have a therapist and told him and still I feel the urge to tell her. | I saw an ex my wife hates and talked to her. I didn't tell my wife I also went to her house twice. Do I tell my wife, even if she had a severe reaction the first time or take it to my grave? |
t3_31yirh | personalfinance | What would you do? (US) | Hello, looking for some ideas to help me in the future. Short story is my fiancé and are getting married next year, then we plan on having kids about 5 or 6 years after that. When we have kids we would like to buy a home here in NYC. Until then, I'm not sure what to do with our savings. We have a 6 month emergency fund, are fully contributing to our 401ks, no debt, and are saving about $1800 every month. We've got about 80k more than that which we would like to turn into as much money as possible in 6-7 years. What would you do? Some of the money is currently invested, most is not. I'm hoping to hear some outside the box type ideas, I'm not risk averse, just would like to hear something other than index funds which is the obvious safe choice. | looking for some creative ideas for turning 80k into more money in 6-7 years, risky or not. Thanks |
t3_2ila4f | tifu | TIFU by pressing my hand to hard to my eye... At the doctor. | At first you have to know: I am a firefighter. Every firefighter in my country gets checked every five years.
So today was the day. My last check expired. It was time for a new one.
The check itself isn't hard. It's just testing your physical strenght and you do some normal stuff, such as eye testing.
So my doctor held a plate with digits and letters on it in the air and told me to close my right eye. I, beeing a genius as usual, thought i would see more if i just put my hand over the right eye, pressing it, and not closing it. Well, this is where the disaster happend. I read the first line of letters perfect with my right eye closed. Second, third, last line: no problems.
But when the doc said i should switch eyes, i noticed it. I saw like nothing. I looked in the air for like 5 seconds and then i felt ready for the first line. Well, it was a little hard, but it worked. But when he switched to the second line, i couldn't read anything anymore.
I tried to tell the doc what happend, but it was to late. I guess there were to many patients waiting, so he noticed that my left eye had a problem and told me to leave.
Thank god i still have the license to fight fires. | went to doctor, he checked my eyes, i am a genius, pressed hand to much into the eye, saw nothing at the check, |
t3_2n57sn | relationships | Me [35 M] with my [27 F] 11 months, wooing her | Apparently, cause all men are cheating, lying sons of bitches, I can't get a date.
Now, fellow gentlemen, I do not condone of said actions, but I do believe we do not all fit to said description.
I know for my part, I've been single for 5+ years, in this time I've learned to wash my clothes, iron my clothes, tidy up evertyhing. And then there was this thing that I could just trust my future wife with. Cooking. But since it has been 5 years and I didn't wanna wait for the right woman to come along, well I learned how to cook. French chef style.
So I have all the skills. And yet 2 of my latest love interests have said "I was too good to be true". And you know why ? Cause I earned the skills to be a help in the household, because i think a woman worthy to date is a woman I can write poetry about. And I can sure as hell cook a 5 star meal for her.
And eventhough I'm doing everything right, I still don't have a gf.
Ad it's cause the girl I want to take that position, I've been writing her poem after poem after poem. And none of them makes her like me more | loving someone, waiting, / poetry |
t3_3w1y06 | relationships | Body shaving? Bf 32M wants me 27F to shave him. Been together 1.5 years. Don't want to do it. | My bf wants me to shave his back and I really don't want to because it kind of grosses me out, and turns me off from seeing him in a sexual way. He's been asking for a while now, and I keep saying no. I did it once months ago, but he'd been asking for about over two months before I finally did it so he'd stop asking (yes, fully aware that the hair would grow back and he'd ask me again).
Anyway tonight he's asked again and as usual I said no and he asked, "why is it so hard?!" and I said, "it's not I just don't want to, it's weird and kind of grosses me out " which of course he took personally and thinks in calling him gross. I just don't want to do it. End of story. Am I a shitty girlfriend? Is it my job to do this? I don't ask him to shave any of my body hair and I definitely wouldn't want him to anyway. I can get rid of my body hair myself and if I cant/don't want to I go get it waxed at a salon.
Please help, I feel bad saying no to him but I'm getting annoyed that he keeps asking knowing my response is and will always be no. | bf wants me to shave his back. Asks often. I say no I don't want to do it but he still keeps asking. |
t3_26baxi | relationships | Me [33F] Boyfriend [37 M] 8 months, don't talk about issues. Ideas how to bring them up? | We were friends for 18 months before we started dating and have been in a committed, exclusive relationship for the last 8 months. He doesn't talk about issues. When I try to bring something up, he says he gets overwhelmed... so I have pretty much left most things alone. I have tried to take a step back from something that I see as an issue and try to decide if it really is an issue, well something has recently come up that is a serious issue. I tried to bring up last night before bed and he just nodded and ignored it. I brought it up today on IM because some people just can't talk about emotions but can type them out... he sent a ":(" face and ignored all other IM's. I have tried to keep the mood light when bringing up the issue so he knows that it isn't a deal breaker, but that we need to work through it. I don't know how else to bring things up or to get him to open up emotionally. Ideas? | He doesn't like to talk about emotions or issues, he prefers to act like they don't exist. Suggestions to help me get him to want to talk about things? |
t3_1nbwvc | loseit | NSV/SV 215 to 180, Feels good man. 5'6"/30M | So i've been overweight my entire life. I never really cared about staying healthy and pretty much ate everything in sight. I had a lot of low self-esteem and confidence issues growing up which a lot of it came from me worrying about how people perceived me. This definitely affected my social life and I had the hardest time talking to people (socially awkward penguin). At first I was just blaming it on my physique but now I realize it was more of a confidence thing (or lack thereof). So what pushed me to make a lifestyle change? Almost every girl that I liked told me that they hoped I would find someone nice, which in my mind meant "Not attractive to anyone." I was tired of being self-conscious and having so little confidence, but more importantly (and honestly), I just want to have the courage to ask girls out (been dateless for the last 10 years).
I talked to some friends and got a lot of good advice. I started my weight loss journey about a year and a half ago and I'm still pushing myself to lose more. I started by drastically adjusting my diet. No sodas, sweets, bad carbs, processed foods, etc. Being a food junkie my whole life, it was the hardest thing I've had to do. I began incorporating a lot of exercise after dropping my first 15 or so pounds and stayed active as much as possible. I started lifting weights about 2 months ago and now I actually have some muscle definition for the first time in my life. I went from 215lbs to 180lbs now and it feels amazing. And with the weightloss, I've gained a lot more confidence in myself and friends I haven't seen in a while are telling me I'm a whole a new person. Granted, the journey isn't over, but i just thought I'd share this with you guys.
[Before and After Photo]( | Overweight and had confidence issues. Decided to make a change because forever alone. More confidence after losing weight. |
t3_4p898z | relationships | Me [25 M] with my wife [25 F] married almost three years. She moved out and will not go to marriage counseling with me. | I have not been the best husband. I have gotten angry with my wife, yelled, and called her names. I have my depression control my life, I have said that I was going to hurt myself after several arguments. She has told me that I needed to get myself help. I saw two different counselors over a period of a couple of months. Things did get better for a little while, but I relapsed soon after. A couple of days ago she packed up and is now living with her friend. She also has not had sex with me for the past couple of months, she said that she emotionally couldn't do it anymore.
I've noticed major changes in her personality. When we first got married she was very anti alcohol. We had major arguments about me drinking when I would go up to the cabin with my friends which is the only time I ever drink. I'm very responsible when it comes to that, I have never been drunk in my life. Now she has been going out with her friends drinking all the time, and she also got plastered when she went away for a weekend with her friends. It was just totally out character for her.
She said the main reason was that I didn't get the help that I needed, and that I didn't schedule a marriage counseling appointment for us. I scheduled one for us for next week and I gave her the date and time, but she has told me multiple times that she will not go. She keeps saying it's too late and that I'm not going to change. Our marriage has not been all bad, we have had a lot of good times, but lately she has been demonizing it which has really been hurtful to me.
I'm so upset. I know this is my fault deep down. I really feel that there is nothing left for me. | I let depression control my life, and my wife of three years moved out and refuses to go to marriage counseling with me. |
t3_1k3r6p | pettyrevenge | It's fun to get revenge at the YMCA. | So I was at the YMCA on the stair-stepper when I decided to put both my feet on one foothold and pull myself back and forth with my hands. Then, this grouchy old lady who works there came over and stood right by me while I started to do it normal again. After fifteen seconds of this she says, (with a stupid smirk on her face) "Don't you think your too old to be using the equipment incorrectly?" I reply by saying sure and she strides back to her computer perch where she can keep a decrepit eye on the room.
Five minuets later I decided to get my revenge. I slowly snuck from the stair-stepper, to the treadmill, and to the bike, until I was pedaling comfortably by her computer. After studying her computer in the mirror, I waited until she was refilling the gym wipes, which were away from her computer, to take my revenge. I stood up and quickly unplugged her mouse.
After I circled back through the weight room and got back on my original stair-stepper, I was able to witness the aftermath. She was violently shaking her mouse for at least minute before she stood up and took another minute plugging it back in. | Snide old lady yells at me, she gets to try to figure out why her mouse isn't working for two minuets. |
t3_31wgst | relationships | I (23M) don't know what to do about my good friend's advances (23F). | Throwaway because I'm sure she's on Reddit more than I am.
As the title suggests, I'll give a little backstory.
We've never dated or had sex in the 10 years we've known each other, one of us was always in another relationship.
Over the years we haven't seen or talked to each other too much, but whenever we've been together it's ALWAYS been a blast. We get along incredibly well, almost as if it hadn't been a year or a few months since we last spoke.
We've again recently connected in the past month or so, but her attitude towards me has changed greatly.
She comments about my body, and she's always nudging herself closer to me, telling me things she likes about me, and I've caught her eyeing me up more than once.
I should point out this is the first time in our adult lives we've reconnected and both been single. And we're both fresh-ish out of pretty toxic relationships.
We have had mutual feelings for each other that we've talked about in the past, but as I said one of us was always in a relationship, and loyalty is paramount to both of us, so it never went anywhere (honest).
I just can't decipher if it's just me coming out of a relationship and wanting to seize the opportunity, or the feelings I had for her once are resurfacing.
Would it be worth persuing, risking what has been the longest standing friendship of my life? | Liked a girl, she liked me but we won't cheat on others. She makes advances years later (both single) fresh out of other relationships. Not sure if ready, even though I want to be. HALP. |
t3_11tgvb | AskReddit | Are people born with talent, or is it learned? | I ask because when I was a child, I was pretty artistic, I had a "knack" for it. I never lost the ability to draw, and I got better at it the more I drew.
However, when it comes to singing, I suck, in my opinion. I always go for a Michael Jackson-esque sound because he's the only reason I sing, and I learned I am no vocalist. However, within reason, I am apparently better than most people I know who sing. My sister is also a phenomenal singer. I can dance too, but the singing just isn't there.
Is it just in my genes to suck at singing but be phenomenal at drawing, whereas my sister is the complete opposite? Am I just going to be this way forever, or can I get better at it like I could at piano or a game? | I can't sing but I can draw and dance, but can I get better at singing like I did with drawing and dancing? Or is it just that some people are born good at some things and just aren't good at others and some are vice versa? |
t3_wvkih | AskReddit | What practical joke have your friends played on you that turned out worse than everyone expected? | For me, this may not be the worst but the first that comes to mind. Me and 2 of my buddies were hanging out, we were about 17. Well, we were supposed to sneak out and spend the night at some girls house. So we all told our parents the old "I'm staying at so and so's house" and they told their parents they were staying at someone elses house kinda deal. So we all go to this girls house and she's like "Sorry you can't stay now" so we had nowhere to go. So we ended up sleeping in our cars in a parking lot, or trying. Well, we ended up just staying in the parking lot all night. Morning rolls around and we go back to her house after her mom left for work to hang out. Well we didn't sleep like at all so we were all tired as hell. So we decided to take a nap. Now, don't ask me why, but when I was younger and a bit more agile, I used to just randomly do ninja rolls (basically just run and do a somersault real quick and pop back up). Well, 2 of us had to sleep on couches in the living room and one of us got to sleep on the floor in her room. Being 17 we were all trying to stay in there with her. So there's blankets and pillows laid out on the floor and we all go running up the stairs to get it first. I decided "Ok time to be a badass" and I did a flying ninja flip on to the blankets. Well, I soon found out that they thought it would be funny to put a big metal jack under the blanket. (You know the game jacks, where you bounce a ball and pick up the jacks? It was one of those but about 20 times larger) So I proceed to flip and land right on this thing right on my spine. Needless to say, it was very painful and could have turned out pretty bad had that hit me in the wrong spot landing all my weight on it. I was nearly in tears for about 10 minutes it hurt so bad. SO that's mine. What's yours? | Friends hid an abnormally large metal jack under a blanket and I did a ninja flip and landed on it right on my spine. |
t3_c98ut | AskReddit | What would you do? | So, my half brother, is now 38 and his wife is 37. They have one child together, a boy who is now 8 years old.
His wife, my sister in law, has a child from a previous marriage. He is now 15 - 16 next month.
Our family (myself, my girlfriend, my mom and dad, my brother and his wife and their two kids) have plans to stay at a penthouse at Seaside, OR this weekend. It's being paid by my parents so everyone is being treated.
So, today, my 15 year old nephew, decides he is going "camping" with some friends. He leaves a note saying that he will be back monday. He also left his cell phone at home.
They don't know who he is with or where he is going. They decided to file a police report an hour after they found out what happened.
The 15 year old is doing very well in school, is very bright but does have a bit of disciplinary problems. He also plays trumpet in the advanced band and jazz bands and is touring Europe next summer with his high school band. Also is starting to play guitar thanks to me. He really is just about a model 15 year old boy as far as behavior goes.
My 8 year old nephew on the other hand, drives my brother crazy! He has a short fuse like you wouldn't believe. He is fairly overweight as well and I think he simply doesn't have the patience or energy to work out whatever problem is currently happening and will simply yell until it's resolved.
When I heard they filed a police report, I was aghast. Clearly they didn't need to bring in friggin police to take care of this?
So, my question is, would you phone the police like they did? Would you simply try and find parents of kids you think he's with? What would you do? | my nephew ran away for the weekend and his parents filed a police report. would you do the same? |
t3_4jezmp | relationships | I [21M] interested in a girl, but I move too fast into relationships. How to move slower and not make her feel like I'm lying to her. | Hi r/relationships!
I met a girl on Tinder maybe 10 days ago. We really hit it off; we have a lot in common. I like her. She goes a school very close to my school, but unfortunately, we weren't able to meet up before we both had to leave for the summer. So now, we're stuck doing the long distance relationship thing either until we can see each other (definitely when school starts, but her friends may take a road trip to my city in the middle of the summer because they've always wanted to go according to her).
Here's the problem - I have a pattern of moving too fast into relationships and fail to see the signs or ignore that little voice in the back of my head until I snap back to reality and realize what's really going on. In the context of this relationship (and every other relationship I've had) when I come to eventually, I back off suddenly so she feels lied to and led on and it really sucks that I have that effect on people that I like. | How can I move slower without turning her off (and hopefully silence the negative voice in the back of my head)? |
t3_2tvfp7 | dating_advice | Trying to decide if I should keep more facial hair or not? | I am in my second year of university. Since I came to university it has become very difficult for me to meet girls I'm into or hook-up.
I am confident that I am a pretty attractive guy, going by the girls I dated/had things with in high school. But as soon as I came to uni, bam that all sort of stopped.
Could be a number of reasons, but I've also realized, especially for a club setting (can go to bars/clubs at 19 here), I have a very young face. I get told that all the time. Not really baby fat or anything, just look young, especially when I'm clean shaven. I am 20 but probably look 17 or 18 clean shaven.
Coupled with being just under 5'8", I think a lot of girls at clubs/bars (or uni in general) might think I look too young.
I am able to grow a nice bit of facial hair for my age, a lot more than 85% of my friends. I just HATE the way it looks on me, the feel, the look, etc. I'm getting over this a bit, but maybe I just dislike it because I cannot fathom the appeal that women would see in it.
I can see the appeal of muscles, eyes, facial structure in a guy, and I can definitely tell when a guy is really attractive, but facial hair? Just seems so fucking gross, literally pubes on your face. From my own straight guys perspective, I personally see anything more than a day or two of stubble to instantly start taking away from physical attractivness.
I can't grow a full beard or anything, but it's getting there. Do you think it's worth growing my facial hair simply in an attempt to look older? From polls on reddit, it seems a lot of women actually prefer facial hair, but I'm not sure about the sample population. I could definitely see women around 30 loving facial hair, but what about college age, 18-22 y/o women? | when is facial hair attractive, when is it not? if my goal is to look older (in a good way, making myself look my age, 20) is growing my facial hair a good idea? |
t3_4caniv | relationships | Me [27 F] with my BF [29 M] 4 years, planning to initiate breakup and terrified | Using a throwaway for this.
I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I found out he cheated on me back in October. I decided to try and make things work and didn't break things off then. He moved in with me in December. Living together has gone well, we make really great roommates, but we just had a weekend apart and I did a lot of soul searching. I realized that the cheating is not something I'm going to be able to forgive. I wish I had realized it sooner, before he moved in, but I was an emotional wreck and made some bad decisions.
So now I'm left with a dilemma. The apartment is in my name and I'm going to be asking him to move out. He being driven back to the shared apartment tomorrow with more of his things from his parents' house. I don't know if I should talk to him on the phone tonight so that he doesn't have someone drive him all the way back here (it's a 3+ hr drive), drop him, and then have to drive back to get him and all of his stuff or wait and talk to him in person tomorrow.
If I talk to him tonight, he can come back here and take stuff away but I know breaking up over the phone is shitty and something that really needs to be done face-to-face. I worry if I wait to talk to him until after he's back tomorrow, it's just going to breed additional resent towards me for shitty timing on top of everything else.
I'm already terrified of this conversation - I'm not good with confrontation of any kind. I'm a bit of a wreck TBH. I don't know what to do here - any advice is greatly appreciated. Although, please nothing about my decision to keep going with him after the cheating - I already recognize how stupid that was. Thanks. | Planning to break up today or tomorrow and I'm not sure how to time the conversation to be less awful. |
t3_r01xr | AskReddit | Anyone have an interesting or bizarre story about losing their virginity? I'll go first... | I was 16 and living on the streets. A girl I met found out that I was still a virgin and decided she wanted to take it. She took me to a a very rundown abandoned retail/industrial building (they used to make musical instruments or something on-site) that a number of people in the area used for a squat. This place had 2 ways in: a hole in the roof where an HVAC unit or fan used to be, and a set of lattice windows in the alley that were boarded up each time the place was raided, and subsequently torn back down. We were lucky and didn't have to climb all the way up to the roof (which was a major PITA to do) since the plywood had been torn down recently, but the window frames were rather small and it was a tight squeeze.
We go into one of the few dry rooms in the place, set up our bedding, do the deed, and then pass out. A few hours later I wake up to the sound of walkie talkies, and when I peek out, I can see emergency flashers in the alley. We figure the place is being raided again, so we decide to go up to the second floor, crawl out the hole in the roof and then sit up there until they're gone so that we don't have to break back in later, however when we get there and look up, we see a wall of flame. We booked it to the windows at the back and crawl out, to the surprise of the firefighters in the alley, and took off. The abandoned building next door had caught fire (some said it was torched by the owner for insurance), and although it didn't burn down the building we were in, it damaged it enough that they ended up razing both buildings shortly after.
The girl decided to go off somewhere without me, and I ran into a nice old gay guy that had given me money a few times before and he took me to a 24 hour cafe and bought us some coffees, which we drank sitting at a table with some of the local TG prostitutes he knew. | Lost my virginity to a girl I barely knew in an abandoned building, building next door burnt down in the middle of night, could've taken us with it, DM;HS |
t3_4atqhm | relationships | I [22 M] am not sexually attracted to my Gf [19 F] | Been together for three years now. Long distance, pretty serious, first for both of us. Everything is going well, we fit perfectly, all is fine BUT the fact that I'm not as aroused by her then I should be. I'm having some sexual problems and I'm going through a Lessfap/Lessporn phase and recently I masturbated just with my thoughts and she never even came up in them.
Another problem is that when we came together she had a different style that I am totally into, but she has changed her style since then which means she is less attractive. We both were in desperate need for love that moment and of course the character is so much more important than the look but recently I noticed what a big impact it has. I have something like a body crush on a girl I work with which make things pretty difficult.
She also has a bit of weight problem and I support her as much as I can and I would never ever tell her that she is not absolutely beautiful but it makes me feel so incredible bad that I have to lie just so that I wont hurt her.
I have near zero experience with woman, in my whole life I talked to maybe five, and apart from my girlfriend I hugged two girls in my entire 22 years of life. Sometimes I wish I could just freeze her in a cryo chamber, meet some people, make some mistakes and get back but thats not me. As soon as we would break up I would be an absolute miserable sack sitting in front of the Computer all day. Still i feel like I am missing something in life.
Anyway, I just wanted to write that down. I hope everyone else is having a great day :) | Lacking experience, GF not arousing, not sure where to go from here |
t3_1djovn | loseit | Hitting a wall. Please, please help. | Hola, gang! So I'm doing pretty well--down slightly more than 100 lbs. from peak, around 70 lbs. from January alone. I hit the gym a couple times per week, I am for the vast majority of the time keeping on the straight and narrow food-wise [not eating out often, relying on food I measure/cook, etc.]. Whatever I'm doing is working, just starting with that.
But I'm absolutely losing my spirit. I dread going to the gym everyday I'm scheduled to go. I have trouble driving to it. I do, mind you. I always do, even days when I'd rather drive into a wall, and I give it 100% at the gym those nights, even though I want to do 10% of what I normally do and head home. I'm still ok with the food monitoring but I'm starting to feel resentment/anger/frustration creep in on the sides.
So, a lot of this is just venting, but does anyone have tips or advice about moving past the sort of emotional/motivational/tired barrier I'm hitting? I want so badly to be able to maintain my lifestyle--I don't want to be one of those folks who loses a whole lot of weight and gains it all back. I just need advice.
Grr, thanks for reading. | I'd rather have teeth pulled than go to the gym. |
t3_51z1ri | relationships | Me [30 M] with my Exgirlfriend [31 M/F] dated for a year almost 2 years ago, and I can't forget her. | A couple years ago I was with someone that was rough all the time it seems. We fought constantly, we cried a lot, we didn't ever seem to get along and I always seemed to be anxious about and around her but on paper she was my perfect girl.
I had just lost my father to cancer and was on medication for depression, I was distant and pretty much pushed her away as much as I could. Finally after almost a year of tears and craziness I broke up with her. It took almost a month for us to actually brake up, and it was always me saying "no, we have to"
I've dated a lot of girls in the sense that every so often a date someone for a few months, she was maybe the second woman I was around for longer then a few months, and she tried so hard to make it work.
Almost two years later, all of which I went through therapy, medication changes, personality shifts, major depression and anxiety issues and now I feel like I'm finally a real person again. Ever since I've started to feel better, I miss her more and more.
I feel like it was my fault it didn't work out, I think back to when we were together and it seems like a lot of it was me being distant, and stubborn, but she also had her issues and took them out on me, so whos fault is it?
At this point, she has a boyfriend, they moved in together a few months ago and I'm told shes happy which is all I want from her.
What I want, is to forget about her, move on, be content with my life and I can't seem to make that happen. I've dated since then but again, its only been a few months here and there. That might just be the way that I am, but I'm just looking for some insight on how to move on and accept I'll never see her again. | How to move on from an ex-girlfriend of two years, that I broke up with. |
t3_2ep2p0 | relationships | (21 M, single) How do I meet women and do the single stuff to find a relationship when all I am looking for is a long term relationship? | To get right to the point, I'm a 21 year old guy who has never kissed a girl, never had sex, and has only had one relationship (which led to some emotional baggage). My problem is that all I am looking for is the girl who I am going to marry, and because of that I have been left out of a lot of the "normal" teenage experience, to the point where now my lack of experience is what is keeping me from getting experience.
Part of this has led to me not being very comfortable around women I am attracted to, but I think that I can act the part, up to the point where the touch barrier is broken and after that I'm pretty uncomfortable just because even at 21 it's getting into new territory.
Now, I know that if I wanted to I could go out to a bar and lose my virginity tonight, but because one of my only life goals is to be a husband I have never tried this. It's not that I'm bad looking (I'd say face is average, maybe a little above average. But body is well above average considering that I make an attempt to stay in shape and am fairly well defined), it's just that I honestly see no point in any relationship if you could not see yourself with that person in 20 years, and I think this mentality has kept me from experiencing a lot.
But the part I worry about is the fact that I don't know of any places that aren't just a one night stand hook up spot that I could go to try and meet girls. This might just be personal confirmation bias, but it seems like a lot of American dating culture has moved to a "fuck first, get to know latter" mentality, and I am not quite sure of how to date when I do not feel that way.
It seems that looking for something like this would pretty much require getting to know the person and being friends before anything moved further, but how can I do this and still make it clear that I am interested? How can I start to get into the dating world when at 21 my main goal is to end up watching that girl walk down the isle? | Want to get married, don't know how to date. |
t3_4sf74j | relationships | I (26M) took a 2 week long tripwith my father and i highly suspect gf [21F] [9months] cheated on me (had sex) while i was gone... whats the best way to comfront this? | Weve been together almost 9 month, she moved here from out of state and met online about 2 weeks after she got here. She recently moved in with me ....
About a 2 weeks before i left for this trip she put a lock on her phone which i found odd cause she never had one before. I asked her about it but she never really did answer why. Weve been haveing relationship issues latly with a mix of her not being fun enough
, or doing enough around the house or not haveing enough sex .
Dont get me wrong, for a guy i have rather low sex drive , i help around the house but i could do more, but i also pay most of the bills....it really seems like he life before she moved she was a party girl and loved being out and parting each weekend while i prefer just to stay home or go to the lake or woods.....so i get its a big move for her but still ....
. but to make a longer story short cell phone bill is in my name i can see her text and it basicly shows that she had other guys (3 different) over while i was on my trip ....one text she sent out basicly said that she just wasnt to be friends and she doesnt want to be with guys to have sex she wants to just hang ....... .... what the best way to confront this?
Part of me just wants to see if she will tell me with out myself forcing it out of her and forgiving her... and to just giveher this one chance...cause i i do love her and know we are only human..... that being said it still hurts bad and that part says that if she does it now she will do it again so i should just drop her like a rock ... i dont know where to go from here what should i do ? | In 9 month relationship things been fuzzy latly, highly suspect her of cheating while on a trip with father ... should i forgive or drop her? |
t3_22htl9 | offmychest | I wake up crying sometimes | I'm a 33 year old male whom owns his own house,car, works two jobs and has a large group of friends. Every day i feel so lonely. I try to make the best out of life. I have been divorced for 7 years now. Most if not all my friends are in a relationship or married. I pick up on the feeling that my friends are feeling sorry for me. My education is awful I have trouble spelling simple words and yet to get my grammar right.
I am a very social person I know how to make friends quickly and keep them. But doing so is so exhausting. Walking around talking to strangers making them feel happy or entertained , then making them a acquaintance then later a friend. I go out allot just to run from the isolation from being at home alone. Also hang out with people that i feel that pretend to like me because im a friend of a friend situation.
Then I got my real friends that try to help me by telling me i should go out to bars and look for some strange and get myself in to a one night stand. I try to tell them I want to find that special someone not just to have sex with but to share everything with them and grow together in to a healthy relationship. All i ever wanted sense i was a child was to have a woman that i can truly say we are in love. I don't have that
and i know most people don't.
I wake up alone I go to sleep alone. I have nobody to share good or bad news with. Would i be missed if i was gone for a few years. I had to stop drinking because i started to over do it and get really depressed.
The world owes me nothing and i need to take more steps to get what i want in life ... it's just getting OLD and sad. or I'm becoming old and sad... | i'm so lonesome i could cry |
t3_3c3jpw | relationships | Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend[19 F] 6ish months, my ex moved away and we broke up due to distance. | So I met this beautiful girl back in 8th grade and I fell in love with her during math class. We had two classes together and I just adored her. Nothing ever happened during that time and we went onto high school, my love never waning.
She started dating one of my good friends and became inaccessible. My heart ached, a heavy lead blanket came over me and I could barely breath whenever I saw her with him. She was... is my goddess. She moved away and they broke up.
Later on I graduated high school and eventually moved in with some friends. I had a lot of time on my hands and actually started talking with her through face book and skype. We reconnected and even started "dating" but really it was just us skyping and talking because she lived literally thousands of miles away. She visited once and we hung out for a few days. We sat together and couldn't be separated. An hour felt like a minute and time just flew past, before I knew it she was back in Alaska and I felt cold without her. Life was gloomy and grey without her in my arms.
Fast forward two years and I still think about her almost every day. I can't attach to any females without thinking of her. I am only attracted to women who look like her and have similar interests. I am still terribly in love with her and I cant shake it. I just dont know what to do. She is the love of my life, since I was 14 and I am 21 now. I one day hope we can be together... but distance crushes that dream. | Basically I am writing this post to vent... find support maybe. I just feel lost. I love her so much, yet she is basically on a different planet. Does anyone have an experience with this, and how did you get through it? |
t3_28w4lk | relationships | I [22 M] have a date with [20/21 F] but it isn't for a month - where to go from here / what to do in the meantime? | Hi everyone, I'd love it if you guys could give a little insight into this for me.
Approximately a week ago I [22M] got chatting via messages to a girl [similar age] on Reddit (I know, I know) who frequents one of the same subs as myself. Nothing particularly flirty, just getting-to-know-you stuff. She mentioned that she has family in a town near me and would be visiting within the next month (she later gave specific dates), so I asked her if she wanted to get a drink when she visited, I didn't set a definite date, just left it open until nearer the time. She said she would; so far so good.
We were talking on Reddit every day, that stopped after I told her that I am busy at the moment and that coming on Reddit isn't helping me get stuff done. We exchanged numbers as an alternative and she mentioned I should message her when I was less busy. However I'm now in the unfamiliar position of having asked her out, with the date at least a month in the future. Now obviously I don't want to be messaging her all the time until we meet up (assuming she's still interested by then) as I want to save it for actual IRL conversation. On the other hand I don't suppose ignoring her for all that time until we meet is a good idea either. | Talking online, agreed to meet up in a month, what to do in meantime? |
t3_44ralu | relationships | Me [21F] with my husband [25M] married one year, together three, he has romantic mementos from an EX and its stressing me out. | So, my husband and I are fixing to move house (again) across the country. It's stressing me out to no end and I don't know if the current frustration I feel is because of that or because of what I accidentally found in our shared closet.
I was doing a massive binge clean in our closet. I went through all my clothes and tossed what i don't wear and tossed all non essentials of mine that I found in boxes. I found a box that was unlabeled and didn't remember putting in the back corner of my half of the closet. When I opened it there was a black sketchbook sitting on top. I thought it was one of mine from highschool that I'd forgotten about. It wasn't. Its a super cheesy scrap book from my husband's ex-girlfriend. The first page I opened to was I Love You and lots of pictures. I closed it and put it back and he doesn't know I found it.
I'm more than a little hurt. When we moved in together and I was helping him pack I found a heart that she made him and got really upset (I was pregnant and hormonal) that he kept something from her. I don't know if he threw it out or not. I haven't seen it since then, but I don't go through his things. If he's going to keep romantic gifts, they should at least not be mixed in with my stuff.
This is the same girlfriend that caused us to break up (indirectly) in our first year of dating because he still loved her and I was more invested in our relationship than he was. I snooped a little on his FB and they're still friends. It doesn't help that she's more attractive and successful and doesn't have a big cesarean scar across her perfect stomach. We're also moving back to the state she lives in.
In all fairness, I have one present from an ex. It's a necklace that I never wear. But he was also my best friend and he died in a really traumatic car accident. I don't think it's the same thing. | My husband has romantic gifts from an ex girlfriend that meant a lot to him. Am I justified in being upset? Should I bring it up with him? |
t3_3hehw1 | relationships | My [25F] mother [61F] seems to be experiencing some memory loss. How should I approach this? | Lately I [25F] have noticed my 61 year old (62 in October) Mother's memory seems to be slipping. She tells me the same stories over and over every time I see her, shows me the same YouTube videos multiple times in just a few days, and just today she told me a story I had told her just 2 days ago but said her coworker told her.
I'm worried she's on her way to Alzheimer's. Maybe I'm just jumping the gun and it's regular "getting older memory loss" but I'm worried because it seems to be getting worse in the last year.
How do I bring up her seeing a doctor about it?
I know she will get defensive or maybe even offended, but I'd rather catch it early if it is something to be concerned about. It's worth noting that my Mom is definitely not fond of getting older and that she always lives by "you're only as old as you feel" so I don't want to upset her by bringing up something that happens to older people. | Mother exhibiting signs of memory loss. Worried about early onset Alzheimer's. How do I approach the subject without upsetting her? |
t3_zjnve | relationships | I [22F] have not been wanting to have sex with my [23M] boyfriend. Totally in love, totally want to do it, but just not feeling it. | I [22F] have been with my [23M] boyfriend for almost 5 years. We've had other partners, we're very comfortable with each other, and very happy. Lately, however, I haven't wanted sex. I want it, but I feel almost too lazy to have it. Hard to describe. Here's some things going on right now
-He's working full-time for the first time now in 3 years
-I'm looking for work again after re-locating for school
-We are long distance now and have been for 3 months, but see each other every weekend (live about 40 minutes apart)
-I'm a little overwhelmed with school and finding work (possible reason)
Anyways, any advice would be great on maybe how to get back into the swing of things if you know what I mean ;) I hope I'm not weird. We're still very much in love but I think I'm just a little overwhelmed. Comments and/or advice? Please? :) | 5 year relationship with boyfriend going great, just not wanting sex much lately (on my part). Want to fix it :) |
t3_4ac4wt | needadvice | I'm 22 and losing my hair, I need advice... | Okay so I'm a 22 year old male and I'm losing my hair. When I was younger I had very think hair so it was easy for me to notice the thinning over the past few years. My father is balding so I've always been afraid of this happening. My life is currently a mess I'm depressed, severely stressed out from work, school, parents, and trying to climb out of depression while everyone keeps asking "what's wrong?" (Which just stresses me out more). I know a lot of people are going to say "just embrace it" but I can't even begin to tell you how bad I don't want to go bald. I'm a goofy looking guy with a big nose and misshaped head so going bald is not an option. What are my choices here? | Going bald at 22, what did Daniel Tosh do? |
t3_vqb7y | relationships | I've never cheated on someone...until now. | Call me what you will.
Me: 23 - BF: 24 - Time Together - 4 Years On/Off
Ok. Boyfriend rejects me 4 months ago after attempts to patch stuff up. So, very gradual online romance develops with close friend of ~8 years who confesses eventually that he's always had feelings for me.
8 wks later my BF comes back and decides he wants to commit and have me move in with him. After 4 months of talking till the wee hours, friend returns from college, we drink exponentially in celebration. Although we don't have sex, we do put hickeys all over each other while remaining clothed. (Awkward...) The next day, my boyfriend invites himself over to my apartment. We have (fantastic) sex. He either doesn't notice or refuses to see - I made an attempt to hide it, but it was quite obvious physically and from my body language.
Clearly that's a shitty thing to do, but I tried to leave the guy a month ago. He goes to extreme lengths to talk me out of it, to constantly impress/spoil me - and it's so different from what he was like before I don't quite trust it. I've told my friend that what happened was a mistake and could never happen again, but the idea of committing further to this boyfriend is making me feel smothered.
Am I just bored after 4 years? I have nothing to complain about in the relationship (physically, emotionally, financially and intellectually secure) but the connection I feel with my friend is undeniable. Is that just the "thrill" of novelty?
Should I lie and pretend it never happened? If I tell him what I did, he'll dump me. Or, I could break up with him and not tell him what I did. And if I did break up with him, do I decide to date my friend? | I cheated on my long term boyfriend with my childhood friend. What do I do now? |
t3_12d882 | AskReddit | Under what circumstances will medical insurance cover any orthodontic treatment? | I've been in agonizing pain for the better part of the last two weeks. I finally got into a local dentist office and had the necessary xrays taken. I have a severely impacted canine tooth that never erupted and is currently putting a gross amount of pressure on the nearby incisor.
I have a pretty basic dental and health insurance plan, but neither cover orthodontics in patients older than 15 years old. I'm 21 years old.
At this point I don't believe that the necessary orthodontic treatment would be considered cosmetic due to the dramatic cross bite and impacted canine. I'm in a lot of pain and I don't know what to do
From what I've seen on dental/orthodontic forums, the treatment for this issue lasts ~8 months-~2 years and costs upwards of $3,000. I'm in college and my family is considered low income.
What can I do to finance this procedure? Are there grants? Fee deductions? Anything at all would be greatly appreciated. | Impacted canine in need of extraction and placement via braces. Dental and medical insurance won't cover any of it. |
t3_31rqcb | Advice | Struggling with a job decision | Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I'm in my early 20s, live in NYC, work in the consulting industry. I spent two years at a brand name firm and recently made a switch to a boutique firm (Firm A) last Winter (so, now ~5-7 months in). I have recently been approached by a competitor (Firm B) with an offer (in-hand, ready to sign).
The crossroad I find myself at… is with only a few months into this current job, a move from Firm A to B seems tantamount to burning a whole lot of bridges. So, really I am struggling with whether or not moving to Firm B is worth – potentially – destroying 6 months of work / relationship building / etc. The considerations I have really come down to a few things:
* Compensation
* Work-life balance
* Opportunity for advancement
* Caliber of colleagues
The facts are that Firm B is offering me almost double **potential** pay. I would be moving from ~130-140k at Firm A (110 + up to ~20-30 bonus) to up to $260k at Firm B (130 base + up to 100% bonus). Clearly the bonus is not guaranteed, so we'll say 20k difference immediately for argument's sake.
Additionally, Firm B has much more consistent work-life balance. Firm A is brutal – travel every week leaving on Sunday at midday to the middle of nowhere (currently staying at a mining camp), returning Friday night at midnight. Firm B is still travel every week, but leaving Monday morning returning Thursday afternoon and likely travel to more comfortable locations. Long working hours all around.
Let's say that opportunity for advancement is the same, but I would be starting over at the new firm and leaving 6 months of investment behind.
As far as people, Firm A appears to have a much more tight-knit culture and the people are extremely sharp, hard-working, and generally pleasant as travel / conference room companions. Firm B I have no idea – tough to get a sense for this over the phone.
Any thoughts? Anything I am not considering here? What would you do in my situation?
Thanks for reading. | – Struggling with a decision between two companies. Would be leaving my current job after only a few months, probably slamming the door on the way out. More money / life at one firm, but would be leaving behind a bunch of great colleagues and invested time. |
t3_24v8yk | relationships | I [18 M] don't know if I have fallen for my friend [18 F] | I don't know if I've fallen in love with my friend. We've known each other for around 6 months, and fairly recently we've been hanging out together. Now the thing is, I'm not sure if I've fallen for her or if she's become something like a sister to me. My blood and bones are trying to tell me that I want to spend more time with her, and when I'm with her I'm excited and less-stressed. It feels weird and I don't really understand what I'm feeling. Another thing is that she's telling me that she's trying to find a boyfriend. I'm not sure if she's hinting or if I should really give her my list of candidates based on how I know her. | How can you tell when you're in love? |
t3_2mjuam | relationships | My [20M] good friend[20M] probably has something with my Ex[20F]. | Not sure where to start. But i think/it is very likely that my friend has something with my ex. Long story short we broke up about a year ago relationship lasted a little over half a year.
They my friend and her have been friends for quite some time already and we all met each other and been friends since high school. Now recently I've noticed they've been texting a lot probably for a while now but about two weeks ago we where just hanging out and i notice him laughing I guess I was to nosy and subtly saw who he was texting. It was my and the only thing i really saw was him sending some hearts. Before seeing this he also told me they'd gone out maybe 3 times(from what I know).
Now honestly I didn't know what to say or do. I didn't even know if had to say something about it. I'd personally like for him to at least have told me in the process and we're pretty open about stuff with each other. But I feel like he's hiding it from me for some reason.
Honestly it makes me feel like shit. I've been in the process of letting go and moving on for a while and have been on dates with other girls and such. I've also been on no contact since breakup so I'm doing all I can really to get over this and not have to worry/think about her. I feel like things like these just bring her closer to mind again.
I took a step back from her but I would never force/suggest my friends(especially since they where friends too) to stop talking/dealing with her. He's seen me hurt and he knows how I feel about her. I'm thinking damn there are thousands of girls/dudes out there why would they go for each other?
So this has been too long already I'd like to ask 3 things.
Should i approach my friend and ask him what's going on?
Do you have any suggestions how to cope since I'm almost 99% sure they've got something going on?
Am i being unreasonable here for even caring about this at all? | Good friend of mine is probably dating my ex without me knowing. I'd like some help. |
t3_50deoq | relationships | My [F18] birthday is coming up and I'm not sure how to celebrate it with friend [M18] | I'm not a girl with many friends and my parents know it so they've planned my birthday "party" as just the three of us but I'd love to spend the day with my best friend that lives across town.
I don't want to upset my parents by saying that I'd rather spend the day with just this friend or bring him along in a awkward lunch with the three of us (where an absurd ammount of questions about our relationship would be brought up that I really don't want to discuss)... I really don't have any other friends like him and probably none that would actually accept my invitation.
How should I proceed? | My birthday is coming up and I'd love to spend it with my only friend (soon to be boyfriend) but my parents have other plans. |
t3_3d703a | tifu | TIFU By getting a Girls number | I often like to draw at coffee shops, it forces productivity and gives me a reason to get out of my apartment most days.
Today I was 45 minutes into my drawing session and almost finished my sketch. I was sitting by the entrance of the establishment and noticed someone didn't leave when they got to the door, just stopped in front of me. I look up to see a girl hovering over me. She doesn't say anything, just stands there awkwardly for five seconds before handing me a piece of paper and saying "um... here" and scurrying off before I can say anything. Look at paper, its her number. Score, I got digits and didn't have to do anything. I slip the paper in my pocket, finish up my drawing and I'm totally glowing a bit at this point. The walk back to my place is about an hour so I buy a bottle of water because hydration. I stuff the receipt in my pocket, see a convenient trash can on my way out, reach back in pocket and throw out receipt. Hour later I arrive at my place and empty my pockets, I still have the receipt... | Girl gave me her number at a coffee shop, I unknowingly threw it in the trash. |
t3_3wzul5 | relationships | Me [27F] having trouble moving on from my 3 YR abusive relationship with [30M] | Hi Reddit,
I am hoping somebody in this community can offer me insight. I was in a relationship for 3 years with a man I loved very much, however towards the last 9-12 months of our relationship there was plenty of lying, belittling, name calling, violence in our relationship (from him to me) My SO never hit me but pushed me and said very disturbing things, broke stuff in our house , threw things, ect.. eventually we had to call it quits in a very dramatic and over the top fashion. This was 6 months ago.
Flash forward to now, I am happy and regained my independence and I met somebody I truly adore. He is so sweet, caring, loyal, loving, understanding and patient. He seems on paper like everything I want in a partner, yet, the stability is shockingly different for me. I know he has all the qualities I have always wished for and I am very attracted to him, but for some reason I catch myself reflecting, and sadly missing my last relationship.
Am I not accepting this love? Is it possible I got caught up in always being used to something being wrong? It scares me like hell that I am with a good man and taking it for granted. What is going on? | Got in a new relationship after an abusive one and missing my ex partner. |
t3_za852 | AskReddit | Young redditors please help me! I have zero friends because I'm behind with the times. What do I need to get my social life back? [16m] | I started in a high school where I knew nobody and because of my introverted nature, my social life was an epic fail; socially my life has gone downhill since middle school. So now I've moved again to a different school (I'm starting 11th grade) and can't let myself down again. It really hurts to be lonely for so long. I like to think I'm a nice guy but people eventually lost interest in me because we don't have much in common - this is a recurring issue. I think I know what guys my age are into: from observation the most common topics seem to be XBOX, sports and girls of course. I just have so little experience in these areas.
**A LITTLE BACKGROUND:** I had no father figure which arguably explains why I'm terrible at playing most sports and my lack of interest in sports in general. We didn't have much money so I was almost never up to date with the latest consoles, latest phones and whatnot. The temporary father I had was abusive which only augmented my insecurity and self esteem issues. I get therapy now which is helpful but no middle aged lady truly understands the current teenage world enough to help me properly. I deleted my facebook last year because it was a constant reminder of how I have no friends. The few friends that I had were too far away to keep up with so we drifted apart naturally.
So I've been working and saving up all summer and I have enough to buy myself stuff (from ebay though lol) to get with the times. But since I haven't had any proper friends in a long time, I don't know what I should get. I'm assuming it will be easier for me to make a comeback this way than to teach myself how to play sports. I know my personality and mindset need to be worked on too but my therapist is helping with that. But if I have Xbox live or whatever, I will share similar interests with guys my age FOR ONCE and this will give me a huge head start in getting my social life back. I just need help getting started. | – I have no friends but I'm starting afresh in a new school. Tell me what to do/buy to get my social life back. I need as much details as possible because I'm very behind with the times!! |
t3_23ylly | relationships | Me [23F] with my girlfriend [22F] 2.5 years, still love her but feeling like our relationship has turned stale | I've been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years now (we've lived together for about a year).
I've been having constant thoughts of breaking it off for a few months now, but I can never justify it enough to myself. I still love her, we never fight, our sex life is good, but I just feel so bored with our relationship and I can't see myself spending the rest of my life with her (she definitely does with me, talking about buying a house and getting married already... Maybe that's what scares me :/)
To make matters worse I've been starting to develop a (I hate the word but it describes what I'm feeling) crush on a girl I've been friends with for years. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I can't stop thinking about the other girl.
I don't think I could live with the guilt if I broke up with her, it would destroy her! Also I would appreciate any insights into how to handle breaking up with someone you live with... I just can't see how it wouldn't be a horrible experience :S | feeling bored in 2.5 year relationship, still love her but can't see myself spending my life with her... What do? |
t3_2qiwwx | relationship_advice | I am a Japanese [21m] and she is a Chinese[19f], would love advice on ethnicity problem. | Hey guys and gals.
Brief intro. for some of the people out there. Since World War II, many Chinese people are still bitter towards not only the Japanese government but the people as well. Obviously for the war crimes that Japan has committed. Also a few Japanese people are still bitter towards the Chinese government and its people for accusing them of such things. (not too relevant).
So long story short. My family is okay with her. However, her dad is very closed minded when it comes to ethnicity and doesn't like her dating me and has strongly urged her to find someone more suitable and to break up with me.
My Question is, Is there anything I could do to change such way of thinking? I know I am still young, but I have had enough for the short term relationship and would like to pursue a long term relationship. | GF's Father racist towards Japanese people, and I am Japanese. |
t3_11zfso | relationships | I found out that my boyfriend has been going to clubs without telling me. How do I approach this situation? [F18] [M20] | My boyfriend is in Costa Rica for school he has been there 3 months now and will return in December. I found out through the girlfriend of one of his friends here that he went to clubs recently and was dancing till 4 am with other girls. We had both agreed to not go to clubs and if we did go, to tell each other. I think that he is not telling me because he does not want me to go. I want to bring this up in a conversation maybe asking if he has gone. But I am worried that he will lie or deny it. What do I do then? I do not want to throw my friend who told me under the bus. So I do not want to tell him how I found out. We have been together for an year and half. Advice? | Found out boyfriend broke long distance agreement by going clubbing, what do I do? |
t3_1cdfeq | relationships | My (21m) girlfriend (24f) has gotten incredibly secretive with her phone recently but is still acting the same. Should I be worried? | I am a 21m and my girlfriend of 2 yrs is a 24f. I'm in college and she works full time. We don't live together.
My problem is with my girlfriends phone use. Obviously, since we don't live together I don't see her all the time, but when I do see her she is incredibly secretive about her phone for the past ~2 months. For the first year and a half we were dating, she used the same passcode on her iPhone and would have no problem handing it to me while she was driving to look something up for her (for example). I knew the code and it was no big deal.
Now, in the past few months, she has not used the same passcode. She no longer hands me her phone. She turns away from me to unlock it, and if I see her type in the passcode to unlock it for some reason, a few seconds later I'll see her changing the password to something else.
But here's the problem- she hasn't been pulling away or acting strange - just strange with her phone. Should I be worried? Is she cheating? Ladies, help me understand what is going on!! | my girlfriend is hiding her phone use, but acting totally normal about everything else. Time to worry? |
t3_3jk1hu | relationships | Me [17M] with my girlfriend [18F] and her issues with my friend of two years [17F] | I'll try to keep this short... My friend Karen and I had been friends for 4 years. She had a crush on me for a while but then it was unreciprocated. Then I had a crush on her for a time, but it was unreciprocated. During that weird time, we kissed once, but nothing else came out of it. After that we stayed friends. No more feelings towards her whatsoever now.
2 years ago, I met my wonderful girlfriend, Mary. She's great, couldn't be happier. My friends loved her too, so she became part of my friend group which includes Karen. But Mary has occasional bouts of jealousy with Karen. She would be unhappy whenever I had anything to do with Karen. I minimized my contact with Karen for her sake, (I no longer initiate conversation, I avoid hanging with her one on one, etc.) but when it's unavoidable, because she's in our friend group, it gets Mary upset. Karen has no idea. I asked Mary if she could talk to Karen about it but she won't. I asked if I could talk to Karen about it but she says don't. She always says she'll try to get over it but I don't think she can without talking it out.
I really am tempted though, to explain the situation to Karen, so she'll lessen contact with me, and therefore perhaps make Mary less upset. But I also want Mary to be less insecure with me because I am all for her, and I have no feelings towards Karen. And it would be great if I don't lose a friend out of this.
So what do I do? | Girlfriend upset at my friend because I had a crush on her. GF won't talk to her about it, so friend has no idea and therefore continues to upset my girlfriend. Do I ask my friend to lessen contact with me? Or do I wait for my girlfriend to get over it (if ever she will)? |
t3_s9gwf | offmychest | Stupid Fapping | Maybe something you would get a laugh out of . . .
A couple of years ago I was sitting on the toilet and I had my pocket knife with me. There was a empty shampoo bottle beside me. For some reason, I thought I could make some awesome *fapping* device with it. (damn horny teenage urges) So I started cutting up the bottle. The bottle slipped out of my hand, the knife going toward my thigh, so I stuck my hand in the way, and it cut all the way across my thumb. This may be weird, but I'm glad I finally got that off my chest. | Knife + Empty Shampoo Bottle + Horny Teenager = Nothing Good |
t3_19k6n8 | relationships | Can someone please help me figure out if this means a guy "might" be interested? (F/16) (M/16) | Okay well let me start out by saying that a year ago two of my friends liked each other. My female friend REALLY liked my other friend, when my male friend started to like her back she gave up on him. This year, I think she is starting to like him and he is starting to like her. They playfight and make alot of sexual references to each other, and although my male friend plays around alot with other people, he takes time to have personal conversations wither her also. Do you think that there might be something between them? | I think two friends like each other but I cant be sure. |
t3_3ryzt1 | relationships | Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend [ 21 F] of 1 year , am I being unreasonable thinking she does not appreciate what I do for her? | So basically earlier today I ran into this situation with my girlfriend where she has this other female friend ( that she calls her "wife" They're pretty close friends ) and she commented on the fact that everytime her friend greets her , she will say hi love and my girlfriend said " I get this everyday from her , it's so nice " on a really happy tone. That alone doesn't bother me , what bothers me is , I say this to her everyday and not once am I being told I appreciate this or even get a warm welcoming also , more often than not if I say good morning my love , il be greeted by a pretty dull "Hi" which is kind of shity to be honest , but on the other hand when she greets her friend it's always a very nice welcoming . So after she commented on this , I told her " what do you mean , I tell you this everyday and I don't get that type of appreciation for it , or even any recognition for that matter " .
She then proceeded to be upset at me because she thought it was silly of me to act this way because she thought I was upset because another woman was being nice to her , basically she saw it more as jealousy rather than me simply wanting a tiny bit of recognition or simply something better than a boring hi after I've given you a lengthy warm welcoming . Don't get me wrong here, I don't only say these things just to get a warm welcoming back , but it's nice to know you're appreciated once in a while , I guess the problem could also stems from the fact that my girlfriend rarely if ever says thank you to anything I actually do for her , but anytime anyone but me does something for her she will make sure to be thankful and let them know where as sometimes I feel she just takes for granted the fact that as a boyfriend I should be doing these things for some reason :/ | Girlfriend seems to be showing alot of appreciation for whatever other people do for her , but for me she just seems to be taking it for granted, am I being unresonable to think that? |
t3_3h68qb | tifu | TIFU with cheese | This actually happened today.
A little backstory: So ever since I was a little kid, I was only ever allowed to eat minimal amounts of cheese. Doctors said that I couldn't eat any at all, because it would cause extreme constipation. However, since cheese is a gift from God, I ignore the restriction, allowing me to build up a low tolerance for cheese.
I'm sure where you all see this is going…
I went to a bridal shower today and had a margherita sandwich, which of course has a plentiful amount of mozzarella. That was probably my limit for cheese, but I also had a salad with cheese sprinkled on top. For dinner I had another salad with cheese in it.
One hour later, I'm driving with my family to pick up some furniture we bought online when I feel hell bubbling up in my stomach. I yell at my family to get off the freeway and to the nearest store… I spent an hour in a target bathroom, alternating between shit storms, loud echo-y farts, and vomit. My mom waited in the bathroom for me and alternated between saying comforting things like "just relax it'll be okay" and frustrated things like "Jesus Christ this is nightmare. Make sure you flush a lot", all of which were loud enough for everyone in the bathroom to hear (if they could even hear over my shitting and farting)
Now I'm back home with my ass glued to the toilet for another hour and counting. Wish me luck reddit | can't have too much cheese but did anyways. Hours of shitting, farting, and vomiting with public embarrassment from my mom |
t3_4baoeu | relationships | I've [24/F] been dating this guy [27/M] for approx 2months now, however I'm leaving the country in May and not sure whether to continue seeing him. | Hi, I'm new to reddit and don't really know what I'm doing yet - apologies if I'm not following protocol.
My situation: I've been seeing someone for nearly two months now and it's going really well. Unfortunately I'm moving to the UK at the end of May, which was planned before I met the guy. I've told him that I'm moving, so he is fully aware of the situation. We've talked about it briefly and it occasionally comes up in conversation but haven't really addressed it properly. I think we're both scared to.
But now I'm struggling a bit as my feelings continue to develop and I'm starting to really like the guy.. Do I end it now before either of us get really hurt or do I wait until I leave and enjoy the time we have left together? | If your relationship had an expiry date, would you end it now or wait til the end date? |
t3_2fkly8 | tifu | TIFU by trying to quit smoking | I haven't smoked in a while, and dealing with cravings can be pretty challenging. Different people have different reactions from nicotine withdrawal, and for me sometimes that's anger and frustration.
Not anger directed by anyone or anything in particular, except from this now empty glass on my desk.
So in trying to combat my body's urge for nicotine, I got kinda irritated when my printer just wouldn't print and I whacked it in a fit of rage, knocking over a glass of Fanta that was on my desk in the process. If that wasn't infuriating enough, the Fanta went all over my lap and my fairly new mechanical keyboard.
**It wasn't diet fanta...**
So now I'm sitting here with a sticky desk, a sticky lap and a fanta-logged keyboard in rice trying to type this up on my old crappy backup keyboard with faulty WASD keys.
I'm so 'bleh' now I'm not even angry any more. ._. | Don't smoke or you'll be sitting one day with a sticky lap contemplating your life choices. |
t3_t1105 | relationships | 22f in 6.5 year relationship with 22m, not sure if breaking up is the answer.. bi curious/one-sided relationship | I am a 22f in a 6.5 year relationship with 22m, met in high school, went to college together, graduating in May. I guess I went into the relationship with some reservations about it, but then things got better, we got super close and have been best friends ever since.
Several times I have contemplated and even attempted breaking up with him over the years but never felt ready for that. Freshman year of college (3yrs ago) we broke up for about 1.5 months. I hooked up with several other guys (no sex though), and then we got back together when we were both home for winter break and things have been SO MUCH better since.
However, a lingering doubt about the relationship remains. We have talked about marriage and kids (all things I really want in my 20s) but recently I've been acknowledging a bi curiosity that I have always had, but kept suppressed. Also, our sex life can feel one-sided where he is super attracted to me and always very in to physical intimacy but I frequently don't feel the same intensity back. We have had really great sex, but then we have also experienced "failure" in the bedroom, which I feel comes from my lack of "spark" for him. When I go out I feel attracted to and interested in other men, but I would never cheat.
He is my best friend, an amazing boyfriend, so supportive and would make an incredible husband and father. I am afraid of losing such an awesome person/my best friend of 6+ years and I feel guilty for not feeling as committed to the relationship as I should/as he is.. but these doubts keep springing up every now and then. Help! Are these just symptoms of being in a long term relationship? What should I do? | Sometimes doubt if I should stay with amazing bf of 6.5 years because of bi curiosity and sometimes lack of interest. Not sure if symptoms of long term relationship or means I should break up. |
t3_1u2wvz | relationships | Me [15 M] with my girlfriend [15F] 1year,Broke up | She found someone else.. She's my first love, and I'm devastated.. and she just moved on... She says the sex wasn't that great, and that I was unattractive, over weight, and I bored her.. and now she keeps telling me how much better it is with the guy she left me for.. I was the best I could with her. I really wanted to be with her.. I still do. :/
she said she would take me back, but she's comitted to someone else. and when I try to talk to her about it, she tells him, and then I get threatend by him... She never even told me the fucker's name before we broke up... I had to find out from him that she left me for him! What do I do to get over my first love? Keep in mind, I am just a nerdy kid. I'm the programming Manager in my schools robotics team, and the whole school thinks of me as that wierd Mexican nerdy kid... so it's not like anyone ever thinks twice about me.. :/ | My first love left me for someone else, and I am depressed... how do I get over her? |
t3_1kzoxe | offmychest | Reunited and it feels so shitty | If I can't tell reddit then I don't know who I can tell.
I'll try to spice of my semi-depressed state with a little bit of wit. Here goes: The girl who I lost my virginity to, the girl who I clearly still have lingering feelings for is currently sitting on left of me in a college split double on the adjacent side of me, the side my prospective roommate is supposed to be living in. But he's not here yet because I got here earlier than him. I let her stay here on his side until she gets her shit together and switches her major, because if she doesn't switch, she has decided she doesn't want to enroll in the major she's currently in. So basically what I'm doing right now is hearing a video chat between the girl with a bunch of different people on the internet who she may or may not know, because thats the way she is. She's self-proclaimed socially awkward, yet she can meet people in some way shape or form and it seems as if I can't at all. For some reason I'm not connecting the way I originally did and it feels like a cop out, as if what I expected didn't reach its expectations. I'm the type of person who can't leap into things suddenly so I've designated time for all of this to work out, but theres a strong smog in the air thats telling me things won't work themselves out. I feel like shutting her computer screen and going for it out of the furry of hearing her talk to someone miles and miles away about how she just got a dick pic from some fucker back where she lives. I should be the one having a stimulating conversation with her because I'm actually here, yet I'm in a catatonic state of cluelessness. I'm at a stalemate, I might totally self destruct and run out of my own room. Any sort of response welcome, this is my way of saying I'm open to ANY advice. | I'm sexually repressed, and godamn I'm distressed, I don't take it out it in a normal way, but I don't talk about it and keep it at bay. |
t3_34tfdn | personalfinance | About to purchase my first house, decided to go under what I can afford and buy a house that needs a little help - can someone explain to me what a "Streamlined 203K" loan is? | Hello, as explained in the title, I am planning on purchasing a house that needs a little, non-structural help. The floors were poorly installed (gaps are appearing between the laminate inserts), the counter-tops were incorrectly installed (hanging over edges, poor craftsmanship), the deck needs some help (some planks are splintering, I assume I will have to put new planks in, sand and stain the whole deck) and I would like to finish the basement bathroom that was started before the house was apparently abandoned. I expressed my desire to fix the house up and the realtor told me that as long as there are no structural fixes needed, and the total cost was under 35K, I would apply for a 203K rehab loan.
Can someone explain to me what that entails? I understand that it is probably on a "per-property" basis, whether or not they agree to give out the loan, but I was wondering how the loan is given out? Is it a loan outside of the mortgage at a similar rate (in effect, I would be taking out two loans at the same time), or do they bundle it in to the total cost I am borrowing? | want to do some non-structural repair on a property, would like to know the basics in some layman terms about how a 203K streamlined loan works. Is it a separate loan, or is it bundled into the total cost borrowed? |
t3_xnx6r | AskReddit | Possibly heading toward a 2nd divorce. Please help. | I created a throw away account in hopes that I might receive some advice from someone out there about my current relationship. I have talked to people close to me about the issue, but have not yielded any responses that are worth considering.
Here is the situation:
I have been dating someone for 3 years now. She has fought with health problems of every kind since about 6 months into our relationship. Previous to this 6 months, she had no real health concerns.
This doesn't in itself, really present an issue, however at one point during our 2nd year of dating, she hit a place in which she was sick or unwell in some way more than she was healthy. In turn this caused our relationship to suffer. The sex was almost non-existent, the only conversation topic was her health, she always had a negative-horrible attitude about everything, and she refused to see a doctor. I came very close to ending the relationship at that point. I never did, because love is a powerful thing. It can bring hope when there otherwise is none.
Eventually I was able to convince her to see a doctor and we (thought) that we had narrowed down the issue when the doctor suggested cutting gluten out of her diet. She tried that, lost a lot of weight, and for about a year, things were back to normal, relatively speaking.
Now, at the end of that 'about a year' period, she is having even worse health problems than she did before. For about a week, she started eating gluten again like normal and she was fine, just to rule out if she was actually having issues with it. She is heading back down the path that I didn't want to follow her on before. I can't be around that kind of negativity. I feel like our relationship is starting to slip again in the same ways that it did before.
Here is where I need advice. Me and her are now engaged, set to be married very soon. I proposed to her, before she started having these issues again. Her parents are paying for pretty much the whole shebang and I feel like I am on a roller coaster to a 2nd eventual divorce that I can do nothing to prevent. | Health issues causing real relationship issues. |
t3_ict8k | AskReddit | Need help ending things with husband | Hi Reddit,
Long time lurker and first time poster here. It sucks that it wasn't a better topic to bring me out of the dark corners of the internet.
SO...I'm pretty sure my husband has filed for divorce while I've been away on vacation. We had a lot of problems through our years of marriage, but I think it was communication that got us in the end. It started off with an infertility issue and with my mother in law involved and other things, it balled up into a situation that lead to a "he did this so i'll do that". It wasn't grow up but it certainly became that. I did the best I could trying to keep our house together.
So when I left, I thought we left on good terms. No idea or thought of divorce in sight. Turned up that while being here, no calls are returned and all I hear is from a third party is that, "things are not alright"
I don't know what to do reddit. I'm just in the dark. While I know we will be happier apart, I don't want it to end like this. He is a man who doesn't communicate. Not in our marriage, not ever. How am I suppose to separate from a man who won't talk to me directly? | non communicative husband is divorcing me without actually telling me. wtf? how do I go from here. |
t3_4iitfs | relationships | Me [26 M] with my GF[25 M/F] 6 months, found out she was sending lot of pics to other guys who were in relationship. | I met GF in November and we clicked, we moved together recently and things are going fine. However I found out something about her past which is disturbing me and i need to vent it out.
she was in a relationship with a guy but then she went to another city for studies for 5 months, there she met a guy for a week,slept with him,while she was officially in relationship with another guy back home,however she was in last stages and broke up with the bf back home and went on to date another guy for 3 months while on studies.
But she continued talking to the guy she met for a week for one year (without meeting as he moved to different country), she sent him lot of intimate pics and skype calls, this guy has a gf and she knew about it but continued with her talks.
she was talking to a co-worker from previous job last year, he is married and have kids,she know this but still sent him some intimate pics.
she also got back with her ex with whom she broke up while she moved to study, however,she only slept with him as he had a girlfriend and she knew about it.
I talked to her about this and her reason is "I was single and I don't care,it's the guys who are bad to talk dirty and cheat on their wife/gf"
since she is with me, she has been completely honest and frankly the relationship is going very smooth.
Past is Past and i should look forward but how do i get the above out of my mind? | Girl friend had episodes in the past with men who are in committed relationship while she was single. |
t3_4yf2qd | relationships | I [20 M] behaved extremely poorly at my girlfriend's [21F] birthday, she now says I'm not the person she thought I was. How do I convince her that my actions then aren't representative of my behaviour in general? | I have self-esteem issues stemming from my childhood which affect my perception of the intentions behind others actions in a negative way. If I can't see the intention behind someone's actions and if I don't have a clear mind because of stress, emotions, etc. I will presume they are acting out of some mal-intent towards me. This was the cause of my offending behaviour. I had never acted in the way I did before. The context it occurred in was one were several consecutive severely stressful events had just occurred.
I was also very, very inebriated (25+ units in 3-4hrs + strong cannabis) which I think contributed. She is worried the way I acted that night is the way I act every time I get drunk. She is also worried that the sensitive state I've been in recently is permanent.
How can I show her that that isn't the true? | How can I show/tell my girlfriend that the behaviour I displayed that night was the product of an extreme and unique set of circumstances, and as such that it isn't characteristic of my behaviour in general? Also, how can I explain that my highly strung state the past few months is a result of the emotional fallout from the above coupled with other issues? |
t3_19yb52 | relationships | My mom [51F] is never satisfied with what I [14F] do. | My mom has never been proud of me. I can't remember the last time she has told me that she is proud of me without me asking her. She always gives me a half-hearted "yeah, I'm proud of you," then proceed to talk about how I can do better.
I hate how she does that. Every single day, no matter how well I'm doing on something, she always tells me how I can do better. She's never pleased. I'm working as hard as I can to get my B's up to A's and to do well in tennis. I'm a freshmen in high school and she pressures me to do everything perfectly, which I can't. I really try, but I never live up to her expectations. I'm sick of it. Every time I talk to her, she thinks I'm being rude and screams back. No matter what I say, no matter how polite I say it, my mom will interpret it as me being angry and scream at me for a long time. She constantly brings up my faults and is never supportive. What can I do? | My mom has never been proud or supportive of me and always thinks I'm being rude to her. |
t3_3newag | legaladvice | My Wife of 3 years, Left our home last night with our 3 year old child 1000 miles away to another state without my consent.[new] | My wife of 3 years, SO of 6 just left last night. She is on her way to her mother's house in a city 1000 miles away,from Nebraska to Texas with our 2 year old child 3 days before his birthday.
This isn't the first time it happens, she left almost exactly a year ago the same way but returned 2 months ago. We've had our ups and downs but I'm certain I'm done being the glue holding this marriage together.
I've accepted the fact that our marriage is over, but I've also read that her taking our child out of state without my consent is illegal. Have any of you been through a similar situation? if so what do steps to you advice will be the best i can take? | Wife left out of state with our child, didn't consent, is there legal president? what do you advice? |
t3_13ue6b | AskReddit | What do you think about having only one sexual partner for your entire life? | Just curious as to reddit's opinion on this one. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years, and one year into the relationship we gave each other our virginity, and have only been with each other sexually. I'm not complaining, I love him and the idea that we have something so special between only us two. But it just got me thinking, what if we really do get married and grow old together some day? Maybe it won't all work out like that, but what if it does? Both of us have only had sex, or done anything really, with each other. We're still young I know, but it just got me thinking. Would either of us feel like we missed out on anything if we had only been withh each other, especially while we're young and able? Would it be cute and respectable, or one of those "what might have been" feelings? I would obviously never cheat on him as I love him and our monogamous sex life. But we've talked about it wondered. Personally, I think I'd have mixed emotions. I might never know what the rest of the rainbow tastes like, but I have no desire to anyway. So, reddit, what are your opinions on this? Is it unnatural to have only been with one person your entire life? Is it something you would regret, be proud of, wonder what you missed out on, or respect? I'd like to know how everyone feels about this one, as I didn't find a similar thread. :) | What do you think about only being with one person for your entire life? |
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