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t3_1ns6vc | dating_advice | I [M18] can't be sure if she [F18] likes me | I'm at university (UK) and we've known each other about a week (is it too soon to know?). We have lots in common.
We hit it off pretty quickly. For me, our conversations are better than with any other girl I know, but I can't tell if that's because
a) we're becoming good friends, or
b) because she has a crush on me, or
c) because we have lots in common and she's a good conversationalist.
I wish it were as simple as looking for signs of flirting and affection. But I'm terrible at spotting these things, and I'm only just overcoming problems with keeping eye contact, so I'm too focused on that to notice anything else. And I'm not 100% sure I'm conveying obvious signals/flirting.
We're arranging to go out together this week, to visit some places in town we want to check out. It's not obvious if it's a date, but I suppose I'll have to wait and see how it goes.
This weekend I'm away from uni, and we're not texting often, which I think is because we're both very busy. But I can't tell if I'm being too pushy.
Thanks if you've got this far. So is it too early to tell? I'm prepared to ask her if she has mutual feelings, but would it be too early? Are there better ways to gauge interest? Thank you for any help!! | Both 18. Girl at uni. Unclear signals. How can I tell if good friends or she's interested? Is it too soon to know? Is a trip into town seen as a date? |
t3_21np9q | pettyrevenge | Don't misspell my name! | I'm in a poetry class in my college (vomit). We have to critique people's poems, and write out a reply to them, and then submit them.
Here's how it works. We print out our poems, with our names on it (this is important), and pass them out. Then they write on the poetry, write out a reply, and publish it to our dropbox folders. My dropbox folder in that class is titled with my name (again, important). Then they have to start the critique with "To Miss AliceJotunheim..." (IMPORTANT). I went first, and turned in my poems. By the next week, I had all the people's replies in my dropbox. And yet, a few people had managed to misspell my name. My name is a simple one, like Alice, and while it can be commonly misspelt... There were ten thousand different ways for them to find my name to spell the frickin' thing right. And they didn't. I was furious, because it was so obvious they just weren't paying attention.
My petty revenge? Well, I went first. So I wrote down everyone's names, and marked the people who'd misspelt mine. Now, when I have to critique their poems, I misspell their names. It might not make a huge difference, and they might not even know, but it makes me feel sooooo good. | misspell my easy frickin' name, despite all the places it's stated, and I'll do the same thing to you! |
t3_1cpxnb | dating_advice | I could use some advice before I do anything else. | Here's how it is: I (m16) like a girl at my school (f16)... Background: I met her this year in class, we kinda became instant friends cuz she was new friends with my gf at the time. Well me and the gf broke up but left off on really good terms. So now is about the time when I start liking the new girl.
So I asked her out, and she said she would think about it. It seemed like all was going to end well, but in the end she said she just wanted to stay friends. Thing is now I don't really think she was being sincere. She might have been sincere, but her body language was not speaking unanimously.
I don't know if she's just telling the inconvenient truth, or being loyal to my ex, or what. But I want to go out with her. So badly.
So anyway back to the story, she said no, and after not really thinking about it, I messaged her on Facebook saying that "should you (hopefully) change your mind, the offer still stands. Or just tell me to drop it, and it shall be dropped," (Actual quote) to which she didn't reply.
How can I try to get her to reconsider without seeming creepy or desperate? | asked out my crush (who's also my ex's friend) and she said no. I'm not done trying to win her over. |
t3_1ft6k7 | Advice | People make fun of and laugh at my medical condition. | Granted it does make a funny sound, but honestly I've been living with it for ten years and people who've known me for that long, even when I've explained that it's upsetting, will still giggle and give me looks. I stopped going to church services, wasn't religious but enjoyed the community, I've had professors accuse me of lying, I had a customer insist I was drunk and demand to speak with my manager, I had another customer continue to tease me until I left abandoned him upfront and went out back to have a bit of a rage fit/cry, and friends ask me to "just stop, you're too loud." I'm having a particularly bad session right now and my best friend, who I know 'gets it' still giggled.
I understand I make a funny noise, you understand it's hurting me and far from amusing, stop laughing at me. I just want to scream sometimes.
What more can I do to let people know it's not okay to make me feel inferior? It's not funny. It's upsetting me. I can smile indulgently the first couple times and explain the situation but they've never sat in a car with my mother desperately trying not to loose it because *Mom* is crying and you can't both cry because someone has to be reassuring. Or had to go to the emergency room and given two different IV's of drug coctails that *might* work but hey who knows to deal with three days of side-effects for three hours relief.
I can't seem to get accross that words like Brain Tumor, and life long medication are a very real and terrifying prospect I had to deal with. Cancer screenings, endless blood testing, getting a camera shoved down my throat, seeing a neurologist who could do nothing but suggest pills. And 10 years later no one knows whats wrong with me.
Wow, sorry, rant/wall of text. | I make wierd noises (not tourettes - medical professionals have failed to figure it out for 10 years) and people who should know better laugh despite the fact that it really isn't funny and I can't stop. How can I approach this differently? |
t3_r90zz | AskReddit | Have you ever been to see a psychic? Any interesting stories from the experience? | I always thought they were a big crock of bull shit. But my friend who is living in a different country just rang me after she went to a psychic and this weird psychic-bitch spent about 10 minutes talking about ME. She knew really specific details about me that even my friend hadn't known such as my newly acquired habit of consuming not-so-legal narcotics, my daddy issues etc. Also, ONLY last night I realised that I hate my life and that I need to get out of this place and move/travel somewhere new.. SHE KNEW THIS. She also said that "I needed to do this or else my life will be shit and I might die soon". I assume that was my friend paraphrasing and the actual psychic sounded more mystical and shit. So I'm pretty freaked out.
So does anyone have any cool/freaky/scary/interesting/sexual/life-changing/eye-opening stories from a visit with an alleged psychic? | Friend saw psychic. Psychic-bitch wouldn't shut up about me, knew everything about my life. I might die, etc. |
t3_1q0zhr | relationships | I [22 M] found messages from another guy on facebook of my [21F] girlfriend of almost 1 year | Well last night I was helping my gf with one of her homework assignments and I had her laptop. The night got late and she went to go shower and that's when I sneaked on to her facebook. I know that is a very low move, but she has been acting weird ever since she came back from the summer where she lives in Mexico. She is Latin American.
Anyway I found what I was looking for and from the guy I was expecting it from. All the messages were in Spanish so I didn't really understand what they were about, but there were a whole bunch of kiss faces, smiley faces exchanged. A lot! Yet again I don't want to assume she cheated on me, but I cannot except her being all flirty like that with another guy, whether he is gay or not.
I have an assumption he might be gay by the profile stalking I did, or he just has a very big ego and posts half naked pictures of himself every five minutes, but that doesn't justify it. I need to know if I should approach her and how I should bring this up to her without overreacting or getting angry. | Found flirty messages to my gf from another guy and need to approach her about it. how do I do it? |
t3_2j1w99 | relationships | Me [19 F] with my sugar daddy [35 M]. Feelings are coming into play and I'm not sure how to handle it. | This is my second time as a sugar baby and I'm really looking for some outside advice on this subject. I met this guy about two weeks ago after we chatted online and we have set up an arrangement. We are similar and get along extremely well. He is a bit insecure at times about whether or not I like him. He seems convinced that I'm going to bolt at any moment although I've let him know that I absolutely am not and that I really enjoy spending time with him. I think he really wants me to like him and being honest, I really do like him.
Getting paid has been very awkward and I almost feel like it hurts his feelings to have to pay me. It's as if he is thinking "she must not really like me if she wants me to pay her" and this is making me feel guilty because I see my arrangement with him as a job I really really enjoy. I do like him or else I wouldn't be in the arrangement!
I feel like the sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship involves a few grey conundrum areas in regards to intentions and feelings. I'm just wondering how I can smooth this out. I want to talk with him next time I see him about this awkwardness between us, but I'm not sure what to say. Should I even say anything? I know for certain that I really don't want to leave this arrangement.
Any advice welcome. And thanks. :) | Feelings between me and my sugar daddy, makes getting paid a little awkward. |
t3_3cgi7e | tifu | TIFU by making a paralyzed kid cry. | This FU happened a few hours ago. I was at the orthopaedic doctor waiting to get my hand checked because I dropped some heavy shit on it. Across from me in the waiting room was a kid in a wheelchair with his left leg propped up. I figured he broke his leg. His mom went up to check him in and he looked sad. I said "Hey don't worry. That wheelchair may suck for now but at least it's not forever." The kid started crying. I don't mean sniff sniff. I mean full on sobbing. Snot and all. His mom came rushing over to ask him what was wrong. He didn't say just kept crying. They called me back and I mumbled a sorry and walked into the back. After my appointment I was walking out and overheard the nurses talking about a kid who got in an accident and wouldn't walk again. I tried to find the kid to apologize but no luck. I'm an asshole. | Told a paralyzed kid at least he's not stuck in his wheelchair for forever. |
t3_269e3l | personalfinance | Akward family situation, need some advice. | Hi r/personalfinace!
So as the title suggests, I'm in a bind with the family with my student loans. I am the only member (out of 5) of my family that is financially responsible and I have been busting it at work so that I am able to put back about 2000$ a month towards student loans. The problem is that I not only have Sallie Mae loans (~15k) but also some private loans (~15k). The private loans are parent plus loans and both of my siblings have loans here as well. My brother's loans are coming due and as you would expect, he cannot afford the minimum payment and he struggles to come up with the 100$ a month, this puts the account past due and I cannot make payments on my loans without paying his first, which I am obviously not going to do. I have contacted the loan provider and they said there is nothing they can do and they cannot break apart the loans. Is there something I can do in this situation? Can I somehow consolidate these private loans in my name? | I can't pay on my student loans because my brother's account is past due. |
t3_2cosq1 | Advice | My mother in law (to be) insulted my preference for cheaper cars.. | My MIL (to be) is VERY materialistic. She's a real estate agent and, of course, has to have the latest BMW or Mercedes (for her and her real estate husband). Overall she likes me, but the kind of "jokes" she makes are really starting to get under my skin.
My mom and dad are hard working people who, although well off in some aspects, don't splurge on expensive cars. Ever. For as long as I can remember, Dad drove a Toyota and mom drove a nice, new Nissan. We love Japanese cars. So in the search for a new car, my father brought up different makes and models but we settled on a Japanese car (Honda or Toyota or Nissan).
My MIL knows about my search and asked what I decided. I told her maybe a Honda. She flipped out and exclaimed "ughhhhh ewww Honda!?!? That's for poor people, make sure you DONT park in my lot and park where people can't see you!"
Of course, everyone laughs (my bf, his dad and sister). The catch : both of her children have NISSANS. WHICH SHE BOUGHT. Anyway, I was really annoyed and didn't bite back, just calmly told her those are reliable Japanese cars. But because she is so "high class" (her own words) she continued laughing away.
I'm really disgusted at this kind of behavior and, frankly, embarrassed. Even if I could buy a BMW, why would I at my age? Its too expensive to maintain. She's 50, I'm 22...
I feel really bad about what she said and wonder if I'm being too sensitive? I told my bf and he was completely not bothered by it because that's "my mom, that's just how she is. To her, " cheap cars" are unacceptable."
The way she reacted was as if I brought a 1995 piece of crap car from the junk yard...
This is the type of woman that plasters herself in MK, Tiffany, LV, Prada and all sorts of dazzling brands. God forbid I don't have the latest Coach purse...
Please tell me I'm not crazy :( | mother in law exclaimed disgust at Japanese cars, saying they're for poor people and that I shouldn't park in the same lot as her BMW and Mercedes. catch: her children both have Nissans that she bought. |
t3_24kj1n | pettyrevenge | Person I babysit for is tossing me aside a lot. | This requires quite some back story before getting to the petty revenge.
I babysit for a girl, Sharon, who recently got a new room mate, Allison. Due to this new room mate being there, I no longer babysit as much. Which I don't entirely mind. I love watching Sharon's daughter. But when I was making an average of $400 a month from that, it kind of sucks when it gets taken away. Sharon has also gotten a new job and continually cancels on me very last minute - hours before scheduled babysitting. And now I've also gotten a pay decrease because of her new work hours. Would get $50 a day (roughly 8-10 hours), now it's only $20 and I have to drive Angel around to all her activities (being about 5 hours total).
To the main story part:
Yesterday, she cancelled on me again. I was planning on going over there to get some money she owed me from the last time I watched her daughter. Mentioned I'd go over when they got home (which was a little after 8pm). And by that time, I was settled in for the night. I told her I would come over after watching some with my parents. Never did go out, nor tell her I wasn't coming over. Which might not seem like a big deal to anyone else. But to me, it felt nice not going through with something I said I was going to do in regards to her. Nothing big. | Girl I babysit for cancels frequently and I decided to disregard our plans without notifying her. |
t3_2dyhol | relationships | I [27 M] was just told by my GF [25 F] that she made out with another girl while out of town this weekend. Should I even give a shit? | So, my girlfriend [of six months] went out of state this weekend with some friends. She was outdoors a lot and spent a lot of time swimming, so she kept her phone in her hotel room, basically making her unreachable. But, I'm shitty at texting too, so, even though I didn't like it I sort of understood it.
Anyway, she gets back last night and is super friendly and just acting "extra" loving. It seemed a little weird honestly. So she eventually tells me that she made out with a girl while on her trip. I was actually relieved because I thought she was going to tell me she did something a whole lot worse. I mean, sometimes when you're significant other makes themselves unreachable for a long amount of time your mind can begin to tell you stories...
Anyway, so, she made out with a girl and felt bad about it and told me. I don't know why she seems guilty though. I've seen her make out with girls before and she knew I was fine with it. I dunno. It just seems weird.
So, reddit, if your GF made out with another girl as a drunk playful thing, and then told you about it, would you be upset? Part of me loves her and wants her to be able to act silly and have fun without worrying too much. But then part of me doesn't like her being seen as a sexual spectacle to a group of drunk, horny dudes.
I dunno how to feel about it. Maybe I should play it cool and see if she feels comfortable confessing about anything else? | girlfriend shadily admitted to making out with another girl and I'm not sure how to feel about it. |
t3_lean8 | AskReddit | How do I tell people to stfu politely? | My college library has group study floors, silent floors as well as group study rooms you can book. On the silent floors there is supposed to be a zero-tolerance policy towards whispering, phone buzzing and the like. Lately I've noticed this particular group of students on the silent floor causing a distraction. They barely try to whisper and carry on hour-long conversations between then (4-5 ppl)-- I have heard them do this on several occasions. I, along with a lot of other people choose the silent floors for the very fact that they're supposed to be absolutely quiet. What do you think about me going up to them and suggesting they move to a floor that allows talking or to book a group work room? I don't want to be a huge dick about this. | people constantly talking on silent floors in library. i want to tell them to move to a floor where they are allowed to talk because i find their interactions distracting. what's a way i can go about this without being rude? |
t3_132gqm | relationships | Cannot interpret old friend [M22]'s texts. Making boyfriend [M22] uncomfortable. | Me and my friend have been close friends since high school. Lately, we haven't been talking. The last time we hung out was about four months ago, mostly because of college. The last time we talked was around then too.
Recently he texted me, started off with how he recently broke up with his girlfriend. I've helped him out with his relationship issues for a long while (like over the last year and a half), so I talked it through with him for a little. We have talked a significant amount about his problems with this girl in the past.
Today, he sent me a texts along the lines of "I still listen to that old mix tape you made me, you should know it still comforts me." And my boyfriend said this text made him feel uncomfortable.
My boyfriend of two years also said that he feels as though my friend has some sort of "emotional dependency" on me because of how he talks to me about his relationship problems, etc. And how, we hadn't talked for a long time, but as soon as he broke up with his girlfriend he started texting me again. That when he no longer gets attention from his girlfriend, he texts me for attention or something like that.
I'm not sure how to interpret my boyfriend's logic on this. I thought I was just helping a friend, and I've said that. He said, even if that is so, it makes him feel uneasy. If it makes him uncomfortable, obviously I will act in a way that will no longer make him uncomfortable.
**I just want to know if this relationship with my friend and these texts sound like something that would make a significant other uncomfortable,** and if his reasoning is universal. My boyfriend didn't explain why this text made him feel uncomfortable. I can't really tell why this is making him feel uneasy, wondering for other opinions. | Boyfriend is uncomfortable with the nature of my relationship with a close friend from high school. can't tell if his reasoning is logical, or if he's being over-dramatic |
t3_eapz5 | self | Advice/thoughts/tips needed. | First post:I need some advice/tips/thoughts anything is welcome. but first let me shed a little light on myself. I'm 23, diagnosed as "bi-polar" but i believe i just have depression. From an early age until early high school i was energetic and very out going, until a few "events?" happened: my half-brother (3 years apart) came out the closet around 14 and i got a lot of backlash from everyone around me which made me begin to question my own sexuality (still struggle to this day but i do believe i'm straight), my father passed away when i was 14 (he was my foundation), and my mother who is the definition of bipolar moved us around a lot and was nothing but drama (still love her to death). All this came around my adolescence age which i wasn't ready for but through these struggles I've developed insecurity and withdrawn attitude towards the world and its inhabitants, i became secluded in my mind and thoughts and rarely did anything besides watch t.v and play video-games and became heavily addicted to painkillers(kicked this habit) and smoked a good deal of greenery. I have a small group of acquaintances (minor trust issues with people and have hard time connecting with others), and when i tend to start to get to know people i tend to open up quickly (which is who i am i just show the hand that was givin to me in this game of life). at 23 sick of having no life/love even though i do try i just seem to have to force my self to do everything so The advice/tips/thoughts from you great redditors is should i go to counseling (which i feel doesn't work been there but it is nice to talk to people), should i battle my demons by my self (i have a very strong mind ha) ,meditate (tried mind always wanders). anything would be nice, thanks for posting an have a good day. | fucked up past/mind but willing and wanting to succeed so any advice/tips/thoughts would be nice. |
t3_3k15ap | personalfinance | Seeking advice starting a college plan for our 10 year old. | Monthly household income is a little north of $5k. $370 for auto loan, one is paid off. Mortgage is $1,700. All credit card payments close to $1k. CC debt $10k. Max contribution to 401k.
Coming from half way around the world, arriving to the USA and making what we though was a lot, we splurged. And now we are in debt. And still living paycheck to paycheck.
We had an awakening that we need to get our ducks in a row. And our priority is our child's college fund. We can definitely tighten our belts and free up to $500. | financially irresponsible parents asking for advice to start a college fund for their 10y/o child. |
t3_3g236z | relationships | My (18f) jealousy is becoming a huge problem between me and my boyfriend (20m) of 16 months | My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 18 months and things are great. We hang out a lot and are pretty much best friends, but I get so so so jealous at the smallest things. I'm absolutely terrified that he will leave me for someone else and that has caused me act a bit crazy. I always think that he's looking at other girls or having very lustful thoughts about them. It's caused many arguments between us and he gets very angry about it. It makes me feel quite depressed, and I feel like I'm starting to annoy him a lot of the time. He is a great boyfriend, he calls me beautiful everyday and cares for me a lot.
The jealousy I feel is very intense. He was texting a girl the other day, and I asked who he was talking to, but he became very blunt about it because he knows how jealous and crazy I can get. I literally started shaking because I felt so threatened by this girl...
I have never had this problem before with previous boyfriends.
I don't really have a lot of friends so I don't know who to talk to about it. I feel quite alone and helpless. Is there anything I can do to stop having these intense feelings of jealousy or even control it? | I (18f) get very intense feelings of jealousy and it's caused countless arguments between me and my boyfriend (20m). I need advice on how to control it. |
t3_4wcq44 | relationships | Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of 4 months, he is intimidated by my jokes | My bf and I have been dating for a few months now and we spend a lot of time together. At first it seemed like he was very confident around me, but now he seems very nervous all the time, like he's afraid I will suddenly realize I don't like him. He sometimes seems a bit down on himself or anxious about talking to me - I confronted him about it a few weeks ago and he said he feels like he can't keep up with my humor. We talk online a lot while we're at work and we used to banter pretty quickly, which I brought up to debunk the idea that he isn't quick or funny or whatever, but he responded that it took all of his attention to be that way and he neglected his work just to be able to Photoshop funny pictures to give the illusion that he was also funny and almost lost his job because of it.
I'm not that worried about whether he is funny or not, I think he has a lot of other great qualities and he is a pleasure to be around. I just wish I could alleviate this insecurity of his because I hate feeling like he doesn't want to reply to my messages because I'm too funny.
He also sometimes seems a bit jealous or bummed out whenever I laugh at other people's jokes more than his. And sometimes he makes jokes that are pretty bad (who cares?? I do too) and I can't laugh at them because that would be dishonest so I'll say something like "nice" or suck air in through my teeth real hard to playfully and unoffensively indicate that the joke was bad and he takes it very seriously and it seems like I really hurt him. But I don't want to laugh if it isn't funny! And if someone did that to me I would not be upset, I would probably be happy (kind of like when you make a terrible pun and someone rolls their eyes and that's exactly the reaction you wanted).
Anyway, I would appreciate some advice. My boyfriend is a great dude and real fun and I like him a lot but this problem is actually causing a lot of tension for us. | My boyfriend feels nervous around me because he thinks he is less funny than me. |
t3_wxz83 | running | I know you all know this, but running shoes are important! | First things first, Im a 21yo male and here are the [shoes] The ones on bottom are my old ones, and the others are my new ones.
I've been running informally for about 4 months, on and off, and the more I ran the more often I ran. I have this awful pair of shoes I run in, just some dressy shoes I'd bought like 5 years ago, but since I wasnt taking running too seriously, I didn't want to invest in nice shoes. Eventually I was running every morning for just under 2 miles and suddenly I started getting pain in my shins, so that I could only run every 4 days, and decided it was time to get some nice running shoes.
I went to a running shoe store, and the fabulous guy recommended shoes with more support for my feet based on how he saw I walked. He seemed very experienced and savvy and after trying out a few pairs I walked out with some new shoes. I was very excited to try them out but couldnt because it was raining. The day I happened be going up to my dad's cabin up north and I figured running the trails up there would be the perfect chance to test out my new shoes.
My dad's friend would also be up there with us, and since he had been running for quite a while I convinced him to go with me. We started off on the beautiful trails and it felt I was running on air compared to my old shoes. He had a nifty watch with GPS and was tracking how far we were going. Since I was feeling so great running, I let him decide how far to go. My shins felt hunky dory and the only pain I got was a bit in my ankle. By the time we got back I could barely keep up with him, and was completely exhausted. He told me that we ended up running 5K in 31mins. | I was running less than 2 miles a day, but after buying a new pair of shoes I ran over 3 miles in 31mins. |
t3_19wpah | relationships | Boyfriend [29/M] is talking a lot to this girl "friend" of his. How do I approach this and let him know it makes me [21/F] uncomfortable? | It's still kind of early on in the relationship (3 months) and he commented on another girls (half nude) picture on facebook saying, we'd make pretty babies and complimenting her body. Of course this popped up on my news feed, I let him know this was inappropriate and it made me uncomfortable. He apologized and said it was inappropriate even if it was "in jest" to a "friend". I know he texts her and calls her as well. This is the first thing that's made me extremely uncomfortable in our otherwise awesome relationship.
My communication skills aren't the best, I know I need to work on them and let him know my feelings. How do I say more clearly, this makes me uncomfortable? Can I tell him to stop communication? | Bf's female "friend" makes me uncomfortable,, how do I approach situation? |
t3_450gfw | relationships | Is one hour too much for me (35/f) to ask of my husband (35/m)? | Around this time last year, we went to a few sessions of couples therapy because we were fighting all the time. Part of why I was dissatisfied was because my husband just cannot disconnect and be present. He's in training to be a surgeon and I know he has to be on-call some nights, but it's literally like I come home, I make dinner, I'm lucky if he sits and eats it with me, then back to studying/writing/texting/talking to work. I get that his job is important, but we struck upon what I thought was a good compromise at the time: no phones during dinner, or for an hour after. Sometimes we watch TV, sometimes we just hang out and do dishes, sometimes we play cards or games together. If it is really an emergency at his work, they will call him.
This worked OK until a few months ago, when he started "checking in" on his phone after dinner. "Hey," I'd tell him, "we have this rule now" and he'd kind of roll his eyes but put the phone down. Lately, however, it's just back to where it was. I try to tell him the reason I wanted this rule is because I feel unimportant and isolated from him when he's constantly plugged in elsewhere and not present here; he doesn't get it. To him it feels like I'm controlling him. He gets defensive and tries to point out times when I've broken the rule (which I may have, but he didn't point it out at the time, and that isn't the conversation we're having at the moment anyway; we can have that conversation after *this* conversation gets resolved -- classic defense tactic), or tell my why it is stupid.
Reddit, is one hour too much to ask? Is there a better way to communicate this? We wound up discontinuing therapy because his schedule was just so shitty, we both were sick of having to pay for the short-notice cancellations. I should point out I maybe get one out of evert 3 nights with him home, the rest of the nights he's either on call AT WORK or staying late, scrubbed in. | my husband is addicted to checking in using technology and I can't tell if I'm being unreasonable or he is. |
t3_2gv4ug | tifu | TIFU by Calling my Best Friend a "Street Rat" | A little Background first :
I grew up in a very good environment and my family has always been fairly well off in the financial area. Which these day simply equates to middle class. I'm well aware of this and try to be as humble as I can. Sometimes however I forget the woes of others. I'd also like to add that me and my friends get pretty dark with our jokes. For instance, we love Cards Against Humanity. Anyways on to the incident.
The incident:
Yeah, I made a huge mistake when hanging out with one of my best friends one night not to long ago. I made a comment about going on dates with girls who lived in trailer parks and made the Aladdin analogy, saying I was the prince and they were the "street rats", joking of course. He said he grew up in a trailer park, something I had either forgot or never really learned.....to lighten the mood and try to save myself I said I love street rats and that He was my favorite street rat....... | Dated some trailer park girls, Made bad Aladdin analogy, Called my very good friend who grew up in a trailer park a "Street Rat". |
t3_3b19bx | relationships | I [19 F] feel like I made him [23 M] pull away, now I want him back, or at least some closure | I was dating a guy for about 3 months when we got physical and I caught some strong feelings...I think I started coming on too strong for the next few months and was a bit oblivious until I realized that I was the one mostly initiating things. He said he was "busy" around the time that I started to come on too strong, which I don't really think is a valid excuse in most instances. I think that another one of my mistakes was that I allowed him to try and get together last-minute too many times, which probably allowed him to take me for granted.
I'm not desperate for a relationship at all, but I just liked the way things were at first. I saw a lot of good things in this guy and he actually did encourage me to be a better person.
I've tried no contact and failed miserably a few times and now I'm set on not texting him anymore out of loneliness. My problem is that I feel like I can't even ask for closure or barely even have a conversation anymore because when I (rarely) text him it's very terse on his side. What should I do? | He pulled away because I got too needy, now what do I do? |
t3_37mhy9 | tifu | TIFU by talking on the phone while ordering Potbelly | This happened about 15 minutes ago.
I was really stressed out because I was notified earlier this morning that I had to bring something to an info session that I had left at my apartment. I work downtown and take public transportation to my job. So, I had to travel all the way back to my apartment and then back down to my info session. Halfway down, I knew I wasn't going to make it on time. So I got off the train and headed back to my apartment. I figured I would reschedule the session. Out of annoyance, anger, or stress, I called my friend and started venting. I decided to get a Potbelly sub (and might as well chips and shake) because I was not in the mood to cook. Everything was going fine and I was still talking to my friend who could vaguely make out the various restaurant noises that go on inside a Potbelly. I usually don't talk on the phone when interacting with others but today I more stressed than usual. As I was checking out, I reminded the cashier that I also got a shake. The cashier told me the total and I handed her my card. Meanwhile on the phone my friend says "Jeez, you're still getting your food? How long does it take?" Without even thinking I just shouted "Fucking Long!" I looked up to see the cashier staring at me really confused and scared. I quickly apologized, repeating that I am on the phone and didn't mean to say that to her while my friend on the line is cracking up! She quickly finished the transaction and stuttered "I'll make that shake right away!" I felt so bad! She even gave me extra mini cookies on top of the lid to make up for it. | Swore at a Potbelly cashier by accident while talking on the phone with a friend. Got extra cookies because of it. |
t3_21s9ji | relationships | My (23F) SO (25M) is leaving to return to his home country | Hi guys, to be honest, I know LDRs don't work but I'm just so lost on how to proceed.
I met this guy on OKC roughly 6 months ago and we hit it off immediately. We've met each other's friends, we tell each other our deepest secrets and ask and talk about our futures. However, he disclosed to me early on that he would be leaving the country in early March so our relationship had an expiry date. I never thought I would connect with someone on so many different levels, especially with the amount of failed relationships I've had in my past so I agreed immediately to the arrangement.
Since then, although it's only been 6 months, we've grown together. He shifted his leaving date to the end of May for both work and the chance to spend my birthday with me and take me to another country for a holiday. Recently, we've also moved in together and he's been wonderful, putting in the effort to make the place we have into "our home," as he put it. He's just become such a permanent and constant fixture in my life that the looming date of his departure is killing me. He constantly talks about how great his country is and is always encouraging me to visit but that could be years from now.
I'm just so confused about my feelings and I'm trying to distance myself but when you spend every day together and you live together, it's just so difficult to decide what's right.
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how do I get over his departure when he leaves and is there a reason to maintain contact with him after he leaves in hopes for a relationship in the future? | met a guy I connected with perfectly but he's leaving to a country far away. How do I deal with it and should I maintain contact? |
t3_4aeo6t | Dogtraining | Fearful GSD and I'm not sure how to know which advice to take | My rescue GSD came from what was described to us as a "dog hoarding" situation. She is wonderful with us but nervous around other people and dogs, especially when they approach her (vs her approaching them in her own time.) She has been to a professional trainer, who recommended training commands to build her confidence (sit, down, stay, come, etc.) We have done that but no real change.
I have read infinite websites and books but they all conflict! I see on the posting guidelines for this sub that you guys do not believe in the dominance theory. But that is what our trainer taught us! And he was highly certified. I'm not saying he was right or wrong, only that I have no idea who to believe. I've also read a Cesar Millan book, and again, I'm not saying he is right or wrong - I know that some people here also do not agree with him. (Please understand I am not advocating any of this, I am only saying that there are many theories available which is confusing and overwhelming.) | I would like to be the best dog owner that I can be and help my GSD overcome her fears. I'm unsure how to do this and how to decide which method is best. Advice, please? |
t3_22zhcd | offmychest | I had my first kiss... | I'm 18, I was homeschooled, so I didn't really get much opportunity to get a girlfriend or anything. I'm ok attractive though, and people seem to like me. Anyway, I had my first kiss with this girl I liked who goes to the same college as I do and who said she liked me, and over the next few weeks it progressed to second base? I think that's the right base.
But she broke it off with me after a little while, and we were never official, so I've still never had a girlfriend. Anyway, after a little while a mutual friend of ours was talking to her and it turns out she was still really hung up on another guy (she had told me about him, but I didn't know the extent of it) and she had imagined that I was him for like half the time we were doing anything physical, and actually called me by his name a couple of times, which I just wrote off. It's just hard because I feel really empty about my first kiss, which is awful. I won't ever have a positive first kiss story, and that really depresses me. | First kiss with a girl, she pretended I was another guy. |
t3_10a15h | AskReddit | Ok Reddit, how about your funny/embarrassing wedding stories? | Proposals are one thing, but man- weddings are just a.. grander affair. An epic amount of work goes into a big wedding, with so many things going on, there's plenty of room for some epic fails. I'll start-
So my girlfriend and I have been living together for ~a year or so (in Las Vegas) at this point, and gf's family is in town for the weekend for a family reunion. We go to the "adult dinner" and everyone is standing around introducing themselves, their spouses, etc.
My girlfriend gets up and introduces me as her boyfriend, and someone in the family yells out "so when are you two getting married?" - I yell "tonight!" and everyone gets a good laugh out of it.
And then we did. We had talked about eloping before, (her idea, we're both pretty introverted, I never wanted a big wedding and was more than willing to skip it) and she just wanted to make sure her sisters were there. With all her sisters in town, the time was right.
Stood in line behind Spiderman and Wonder Woman, married at the Justice of the Peace a few hours after that dinner. Showed up to another reunion event the next day, only now I'm the husband instead of the boyfriend. They even let me join in the flag football game because now I was part of the family. | someone tried to crack wise about gettin hitched, BUT I SHOWED THEM |
t3_1wewjf | relationships | I [16M] am having a problem being independent and relying on my Girlfriend [16F] for happiness. | I'll start off by saying that most of the time I consider myself a happy, healthy, normal teenage boy. I have been dating my current girlfriend for over a year now. We are very much in love and we have a very happy and healthy relationship all around.
We do not attend school together, I moved schools and haven't made too many friends yet. She lives about twenty minutes away and I do not have a car or license yet. This has not really been a problem because we spend the day together probably around every other week or so.
However, the problem I have been having is that I find myself being more attached to her. I find myself getting upset when she takes awhile to respond from text messages and such. I feel like I have nothing better to do. I know that this is because I only have her to talk to, because I recently switched schools.
My question is, what can I do to be more independent and do my own thing instead of bothering my girlfriend for attention? | What can I do to be more independent and "do my own thing" as opposed to overthinking and bothering my girlfriend with text messages? |
t3_2k37v5 | askwomenadvice | Girl is seducing me but has a bf. What does she want? | I work with this rather sexy girl who is a flirty free spirited type who is very much open about sex and such. She is flirty with other people too, but after careful watching I've noticed she flirts with me more so than with others.
She touches my butt almost on the daily, she grabs my arms and chest, she always has a part of her touching me when we're near each other whether it be her foot or leg or w.e, she follows me to flirt/touch me then runs off, she gives me suggestive stares and winks multiple times a day, makes sexual comments and asks me dirty questions that would make your parents blush etc.
Pretty much everything in me is screaming that she wants me and to step it up and just take her. And trust me, I am very tempted. And seeing how this has been going on for a few months...I'm at my limits.
A few things though:
1. She has a significant other that doesn't live close by
1. Where we work is pretty mundane with a lot of down time. (Maybe she's just trying to have fun?)
1. She doesn't hesitate to mention her boyfriend when its relevant. Which makes me question what she wants from me. (But then she tells me intimate details about her sex life, almost as if to say, yeah I do that. Don't you want that? Fuck. yes.)
So my question is what does she want from me? I especially want to hear from free spirited sexually open girls. When she touches me the way she has, is that an invite to touch her back in the same manner? Or is she just having fun? | Girl seduces me BIG TIME at work every day but has a bf. What does she want from me? |
t3_4qwsyg | relationships | Me [27 F] upset at my husband's [36 M] long time friend [30s F] for not being honest about her photography skill level before agreeing to let her shoot our wedding for free for "experience." | We originally were just going to go to the courthouse. My grandma convinced me to have a party afterwards, so we through essentially a BBQ in our backyard, about 40-50 people. My uncle has done wedding photography for years and ended up taking a handful of pictures that day, which will be the only ones that will be displayed in our home.
Friend of husband's is a massage therapist, but has been trying to get a side photography business started. I had seen some of her pictures on Facebook and honestly, wasn't impressed, but wrote it off as it wasn't my style (lots of pictures of women in lingerie, 50s pin up girl stuff, etc). She offers to shoot the wedding for free in exchange for being able to use our pictures as sort of promotional material. Husband can't resist free. I'm skeptical, but agree.
Day of wedding, she provides absolutely no direction and takes forever, doing endless combinations of us plus family members. I end up missing most of the party posing for pictures. But hey I figured some would turn out and it's better than having no pictures.
Wrong. The pictures are so bad. Like any of my cousins could have done a better job with the iPhone camera bad. So I missed 80% of my wedding for nothing. And the only pictures we will keep were taken my uncle in about 5 minutes.
I'm not crazy about the pictures being used online, but we had a verbal agreement that I feel compelled to honor because that's my character, and husband has been friends with her since high school.
I feel betrayed, misled, and sad over the loss of the pictures I thought we would have. We normally go to this girl for massages, and she is a gifted massage therapist. She invited us for her big BBQ Tuesday and I don't want to go. I feel like I need some time so i don't hurt her feelings saying something I might regret. | husband's friend misled me about her photography experience in order to shoot our wedding to use the pictures to promote herself and ended up taking horrible pictures. Not sure where to go from here. |
t3_qy55r | AskReddit | Just broke up with my girlfriend of four years...working to get back in the game. Where do I go to meet new people? Help us all out, Reddit! | Like I said, I just broke up with my girlfriend of four years. If you want a little back story, you can check my recent comments. A little bummed about it, but I'll be alright because I know it was the best decision for us both. Working on getting a bit more fit now and also trying to stop smoking!
I live in Raleigh, NC. I'm 22 years old, and just graduated from NC State. I like coffee, shooting (as a hobby), and the beach. Traveled the world a few times in the last few years, and I love talking history or politics. I can chug a beer faster than most of those that read this, but I try not to go as crazy as I did as an undergrad -- nor do I particularly enjoy wasting all my money at bars every weekend.
Where do I meet classy ladies? Either local suggestions or general suggestions would be great.
I'm not so terribly desperate that I can't figure these things out on my own, but rather I figured Reddit would be able to come up with suggestions that I wouldn't have thought of. Let me know! | Where does a 22 year old college grad find the ladies other than at bars? |
t3_2xzlb5 | tifu | TIFU by giving my friend a crush's number | So, obligatory disclaimer: last Friday, not today. Needed to process everything that happened.
So, I have a crush on a really hot and smart girl (Call her K). I've known her / been friends with her for about 3 years now, and I've been trying to work up the nerve to ask her out for a few months. That isn't the FU.
One of my friends, T, knows that I have a crush on K, and helps prepare me for asking her out. So, last Friday, he asked for her phone number, to see if he could "do a little digging." Him being my friend, I give the number to him. I forgot - HE IS THE BEST FRIGGIN SMOOTH TALKER IN THE WHOLE DAMN WORLD. Within literally an hour of me giving him her number, he texts me saying that he thinks she has a crush on him.
Saturday - K asks him out, and they're dating now. | Gave my friend a crush's number, he smooth-talked her into going out with him. |
t3_3610sf | relationship_advice | Do you think it's okay to think about sex with other people when in a relationship? | Hello,
I came looking for advice. Throwaway because my spouse knows my account.
I (M26) started dating someone (F25) 4 months ago and things so far have been pretty fantastic. However, we have had a few arguments regarding her promiscuous past, which recently came to a head.
In conversation she had stated that she "likes me so much that she hasn't thought about other guys sexually". In response and confusion, I said that I thought this was a given. Her response was that typically when she sees attractive males, she thinks about having sex with them, even if she's in a relationship.
This comment has made me a bit apprehensive about continuing the relationship, as after a heated argument, it has become apparent that she thinks it is completely okay to see other people as sexually attractive and appealing even while "in love" and dating somebody. Although, she did state she would never act upon it.
I worry for two reasons: first, she has cheated in the past in a bad long distance relationship. Second, I feel as if thinking about other guys sexually is a form of infidelity (emotional). If it's not actual infidelity, it is a small step to infidelity, as I don't know if I can trust someone whose brain works like this to remain faithful in the long term.
What if we hit a rough patch? What if a good looking guy gives her attention? What if she's under the influence? Etc. If she sees other guys as possible sexual partners now, in a happy relationship, and in self-proclaimed love, then I worry there is little stopping her from taking the next step.
What are your thoughts? Am I overreacting? | is it acceptable for your spouse to think about having sex with other attractive males? |
t3_2goalz | relationships | I [20F] planning on breaking up with my bf [17M] of a year. Help on how ect? | I am planning to break up with my boyfriend of one year for multiple reasons, none are huge and I still love him and wish we could stay together. However, this is something I need to do. I just don't want him to feel like anything is wrong with him. I feel like even though all of my reasons are my own issues, I don't want him blaming himself. Is there any way I can prevent it?
As well, because I know I will be very sad and upset from doing this as well for separating myself from him is there a way to ease the pain for both of us? I want to make this as painful as I can. | Breaking up and don't want him thinking he's the problem. |
t3_elbjo | relationship_advice | Do I ask him where things are going? | I've been dating a guy for a month and a half. I'm 25/F, he's 21. We met because he worked in a shop that I frequent so one day I gave him my number. He texted me that night, and we immediately started dating.
Since the day we met we've seen eachother practically every other day and text all day. He makes it obvious that he likes me a lot, and we have made plans for January, so I know he's sticking around. I've met his friends, he's met mine. It feels like a relationship...but he doesn't call me his girlfriend.
This other guy asked me out, and I don't know what to say. I need to define this relationship so I know what to do, but how does a girl bring that crap up? Should I even have to? | I have been dating this guy who seems very into me but he hasn't had "the exclusivity talk" |
t3_293ec6 | relationships | How do I(m32) approach a subject with my girlfriend(f28) without ending our relationship over it. | Hello, first time posting here, long time reader. I (M32) have been in a relationship with a wonderful woman (F28) for the past 4 years, and I love her very much. The trouble I have is that ever since my teens I wanted to move to the UK to live and try my luck as a musician. If I could go for 6 months or a year, just to see what happens. I really don't want to lose this woman, but worry If I approached the subject, it might bring the end to our relationship. As If to her coming along with me, its not possible at the moment as she's is a middle of a very demanding graduate program. Really not sure what to do.
' | ' Want to follow my dreams living in another country, but also dont want to lose the relationship. |
t3_2l5i6n | relationships | Me [28 M] with my GF [26 F] am worried about risking a malnourished relationship with my GF of 2 weeks due to a month long work trip | Just over a month ago I met a woman I really like. We usually speak for at least 2 hours a day and we see each other whenever we can. Although we've never made it "official", I think it's safe to say we crossed that boundary a couple of weeks ago.
So far she seems like the ying to my yang. We're both Intelligent (I actually rarely admit I am), but our interests oppose. I'm the logical, scientific kind and she's the creative, free spirit kind.
A scientist and an artist don't sound like a couple who should get on really well, but we do.
However, as fate would have it, I'm leaving to work at another faculty for a month in another country in a few days. I'm worried about whether spending so much time apart so early on is going to be detrimental to our relationship. We're still exploring each other as people and I worry that if this doesn't happen now, then it could lead to problems further down the line.
I guess what I'm saying is that the relationship could start off malnourished.
Does anybody else have any advice or experience they would be willing to share? | I am worried about starting off a potentially malnourished relationship with my girlfriend of 2 weeks due to a month long work trip I'm about to go on in a few days. |
t3_v2tlg | AskReddit | Hey Reddit, how do YOU hook up with a girl at a party? | So a buddy of mine is having a party at his condo, and a girl that I DEFINITELY want to take upstairs is going to be attending. I am pretty decent looking, and we have flirted around before, so I think that I have a fairly good chance.
However, this is my first party... How can I hook up with this chick? We will all be drinking and having a good time, and I guess I should just casually flirt around with her and hope for more?
So what do you recommend? Ask her to dance? Pour her a drink and ask if we can go talk? I will probably be able to read her reactions pretty easily, but shit, this is my first time and I want it to work out! | I want to hook up with a girl at a party. What should I do to make this happen? What signs am I looking for? Alcohol will be involved. |
t3_ixlwt | AskReddit | Got to have a catheter ablation on friday. | What can i expect to feel during the procedure, what are your experiences? Feeling very apprehensive :( | Had WPW Syndrome - Got it fixed by catheter ablation, now have migraines after op hope they are temporary. |
t3_gjgpb | AskReddit | Why don't companies produce pre-shrunk T-shirts? | Seriously, I can't be the only one with this problem: I get an awesome T-shirt, it fits perfectly and I love it, and then BOOM, two washes later, it's down to a length that puts it juuuust at the top of my pants, so if I sit down/raise my arms/move around, I get people telling me to "pull my pants up," and I just generally feel uncomfortable. Now, I'm not one to wear pants that hang around my knees or anything, so I really don't consider that to be the big problem. And sure, I could just air dry my shirts, but who has the space or time to do that, living in a dorm? Jeans come pre-shrunk, why don't basic cotton T's? | What the fuck, shirt companies? Make shirts that fit for longer than two weeks. |
t3_g2ah5 | AskReddit | Dear reddit, I could use some armchair legal advice to clear my mind until I talk to my lawyer monday | Here is the situation. I was recently pulled over and arrested for driving with a suspended license for an unpaid ticket that was neglected for ages.
My parents paid a bondsman to bail me out (700 something on a 7000 bail).
My public defender got me a good deal -- a full deferral, just sign some papers and pay some fees.
I mailed in the paperwork & money order, and thought everything was gravy.
Fast forward about a month, and I get a message from my lawyer saying there is a warrant issued, because they never received the paperwork/money. I verified the money order wasn't cashed, and am working on a refund.
I just left my lawyer a message, asking how to proceed. I am sure I wont hear back until Monday.
What I am really afraid of is how this will affect my parents. My dad just lost his job, and I am afraid they will use this as a means to claim they owe the whole $7000. **Is this a real possibility, or will they just end up forfeiting the $700?**
I'm really hoping this turns out ok for me, and I'm ready to turn myself in if necessary. I just can't believe this happened, I feel like such a failure right now. My parents are the best, and I am so worried about this I feel like I am going to throw up. | got arrrested, bailed out, and an awesome deal. Due to an undelivered piece of mail I have a warrant, and am afraid my parents are going to be out a lot of money. |
t3_16h8ym | books | Is it worth it for me to buy an ereader? And which one? | I'm not totally sold on ereaders, but the price for the plain kindle is pretty tempting. I'm talking about this one :
I mostly read fantasy books, and i'm talking heft fantasy books. Malazan, Game of Thrones, all 600+ page books that are pretty heavy, even when paperback. But the problem is, is that they are pretty hard to read in bed, and finding a reading position is difficult, especially with some of the later books. The whole 6 ounce weight of the kindle is a big plus for me.
Also, I feel like I would be encouraged to read more often, because finding a comfortable position wouldn't be as hard, also the whole easier to carry thing.
However, my home wifi is relatively slow, but i'm not sure how big a deal that would be, considering I would be able to predict when I need to download something. I don't travel often, and it's always to a place with internet. | Is the 70$ kindle (80$ with charger) worth buying? |
t3_1n2p47 | AskReddit | 19m Never had a girl friend, Not a normal case? | I know there is a lot of "19m never had a GF" posts already, but I find my situation a little more unique. I've always been the social butterfly, I have a great friend group, and all throughout elementary/junior high/high school/ and University I have been the "popular" kid. Whatever that means. I don't mean to sound douchey/cocky but I have always been considered very good looking and I do notice people checking me out on a daily, as well I'm active in the gym so I have a decent body. I've slept with a ton of girls (not that that is something to be proud of) and I have always been known to be confident, dependent, and a leader. My friends seem astonished that I never had a GF. I play it off as if I don't want one, but I really do.When I was in high school I had many "things" with girls yet none progressed due to various reasons (out of my control) that coupled with a few instances of unrequited affection has left me feeling very vulnerable in the dating area (of course no one knows that). I feel as if I'm broken when it comes to the dating area. I used to be a wheeling champ, talking to a ton of pretty girls all the time. Yet now I just feel like when I text someone I'm bothering them or being creepy.I dunno I feel weird even making this post because I know I have it good. But the nights can get long and lonely when most of your friends seem to have the dating bit all figured out. | social, popular, well liked, good looking,yet no luck |
t3_1qhwpi | Dogtraining | Please help me with my 1 year old groodle (Golden Retriever X Poodle) before my Mum sells him! :( | Hey everyone,
We got my gorgeous puppy Chewbacca for Christmas last year when he was 8 weeks as a present. My Mum and I have been trying to train him over the past year but unfortunately due to the both of us having to start full time work over this year, we haven't been able to spend as much quality time with him as we had envisaged. Also due to complications with the age we could have him fully vaccinated and neutered, we haven't been able to take him to a puppy school either.
I like to put down most of his behaviour to his crazy puppy energy, and I like to think that his hyperactivity will eventually wear off, but as this is my first dog and I don't know anyone else who has nor have I had any experience with groodles, my Mum and I aren't sure whether this is entirely the case.
He's incredibly hyper, and only sometimes responds to the 2 commands he knows: sit and stay, although making him do either is an ongoing effort. Whenever he is outside and we are in, he constantly barks and does things like "punching" the glass with his right paw or jumping up and banging on the glass. No matter how much we tell him off or discipline him (have tried things like shaking containers full of marbles, putting him in the garage and closing him off), he continues to do the same thing for hours on end until we put him to bed, which is also mission impossible. Jumping on people, biting while playing with us or licking our hands, growling at people and refusing to come when he's called are also issues.
My mum has started to reach the end of her rope with the little guy, and is so sick of trying to discipline him that she told me last night she's going to start looking in to selling him. While he is a handful, and is pretty annoying at times, we all love him dearly and give him as loving a home as we can, especially me. I really don't want to see my little buddy go, any help or tips or groodle experience would be so very appreciated! | my 1 year old groodle won't stop barking, jumping, growling, nipping and won't stay or respond to his name when called. My mum is starting to look at selling him and I need some amazing training tips and guidance to make sure I get to keep my little guy with me. |
t3_46hq6m | tifu | TIFU By playing with electricity (Slightly NSFW-ish maybe?) | So I have been messing around with a ~1000 watt | I was making things very hot using electricity and stupidly decided to grab them while they were still probably hundreds of degrees celsius |
t3_3znw25 | tifu | TIFU by getting a $15,000 medical bill! | This happened a couple of days ago, but I just got the bill today. Here's the story:
I [26M] had just completed my cancer treatment (4 months of chemo and 1 month of radiation) for hodgkin's lymphoma, and after getting permission from my oncologists, I visited some friends in NYC to celebrate the end of a brutal journey and a fresh start on life. After two awesome days without any problems, I woke up with acute chest pain and shortness of breath.
I had no choice but to go to the ER of a nearby hospital to get examined at 8am. The doctor gave me xanax and percocet to reduce the anxiety and relieve the pain, which made me high. And then, after a series of exams including a chest xray, CT scan, blood tests, and ECGs, I was diagnosed with bilateral subsegmental pulmonary embolism (multiple blood clots in the lungs) and pericarditis (inflammation in the heart). In a twist of beautiful irony, the diagnoses are likely side-effects of the very cancer treatment I was celebrating the completion of. The doctor recommended that I stay at the hospital overnight for observation, but since I live in and am insured in Canada (not NYC), I convinced the doctor to release me at 1pm and caught the next flight back to Canada to get treated. Today (about 5 days later), the hospital in NYC sent me a $15,000 bill. WTF!!!
Additional details:
* I'm a US/Canadian citizen living in Canada.
* I'm insured in Canada through universal health care, and I have travel insurance for trips, but the travel insurance is only willing to contribute $135 for the bill.
* In addition to the medical bill, I also incurred a $130 flight change fee to fly back home.
* I was under the influence of narcotics when I made nearly all my decisions until I sobered out at the end (the doctor gave me percocet and xanax for the pain and anxiety).
* I was in the ER for around 5 hours, but the hospital is claiming that I stayed overnight. [Erroneous on all counts!!]( | I (Canadian) visited friends in NYC to celebrate the completion of my cancer treatment. Woke up with acute chest pain and shortness of breath, so I went to the ER. After undergoing various examinations, I left the hospital and received a $15,000 medical bill. |
t3_1nms0v | relationships | I [22 M] recently became more emotionally open to my [21 F] girlfriend. | Recently after some traumatic events (which I won't discuss here) happened I have become very insecure and emotional. This insecurity has caused me to have a couple breakdowns and open up to my girlfriend on a more emotional level.
I laid my emotions bare to my girlfriend and she supported me and helped me over come some of my issues.
The problem arises when I found out she was complaining to her friends about my insecurities and breakdowns. She has talked to them about breaking up with me and talking about how I am driving her up a wall with my emotions.
She doesn't know that her friends have talked to me about all this. I am unsure where to go from here. Do I lock up my emotions and hide my break downs? Do I confront her? Do I leave? Do I let her leave? | Recently had emotional breakdowns and opened up to my girlfriend. She has talked to her friends about breaking up with me! |
t3_4gmjsy | relationships | My boyfriend [27M] is guilt tripping me (24F) into not getting a tattoo. | I have been dating Joe (not real name) for 3 months. Brand new relationship, however I have fallen deeply in love with him and things are generally great. We are very physically attracted to each other. I have one tattoo that I got when I was 18 and I haven't gotten one since. My father passed away some time ago and I have finally worked up the courage to get a memorative tattoo, which I have been thinking of ever since he died. My boyfriend, however, doesn't like tattoos and has made that very clear when I made the appointment one afternoon without discussing it with him first.
I love this guy, very much. He is good to me in all other aspects of our relationship. The day of my appointment is creeping up and he has been relentlessly trying to change my mind about it, and I have gotten to the point where I am just so exasperated of him trying to guilt trip me out of it, that I just want to not get my tattoo now because I am so tired of arguing about it and trying to get him to support me and respect my decisions about my own body.
My internal battle is that, I consider myself a very independent lady and I dislike being controlled or told what to do. The fact that he is doing this is killing me! I just don't know where the line is between respecting our relationship and being able to do what I want. I'll also throw in that this will not be my last tattoo, as I have long dreamed of having half-sleeves. | Boyfriend hates tattoos and has been relentlessly trying to guilt trip me out of it. I don't know what to do because it is something I want very much but yet I love him and want to respect our relationship. |
t3_1je7un | AskReddit | What is the weirdest conspiracy theory you've ever heard? | I was wearing an Obama shirt today and this random dude comes up to me and start talking crap about Obama. I engage in a small political discussion with him. At some point he says "all political leaders are reptilianreptilian either way."
Now at this point I just look at him and I laugh thinking he is joking, but I was wrong. He really believed all political leaders are from a race of humanoid reptilians. He even went out of his way to tell me the history of where they came from. Needless to say I was stunned. So I just left.
That was the weirdest conspiracy theory I had ever heard. What's the strangest you've ever heard? | guy tells me all political leaders are from a race of humanoid reptilians. |
t3_vw8jm | AskReddit | I am thinking of going to school online for the last two years of high school.. anyone have a personal experience that can change my mind to do it or don't do it? | I have a lot of friends, but not many close friends, I get straight a's, I play football, but my school is a shit hole. Everyone from different towns says it is the worst school they know of in the area. I hate it and I always get in trouble for calling the teachers out. They honestly don't give a flying hoot what they are teaching. My Western Civ teacher even teaches the material wrong. My town has down voted a new school twice and has also said no to having us go to school with another town with a great school. I believe that if I go to school online I have a better chance of succeeding in life. I think it would hinder my social life for the next two years though. I am depressed during the school year because I am stressed all the time. I have been suspended in school about 30 days because I get angry at the teachers lack of teaching ability. I don't really want to go back there. We are also facing losing accreditation soon. I want to go to a college that is good. Does anyone have any stories or experience that can help me make a decision? | My school sucks, thinking about taking last two years online. Does anyone have any stories or experience that can help me make a decision? |
t3_2qv8dy | tifu | TIFU By taking my family's dog on a plane | This actually happened about a week ago... I've been recovering from the incident.
It all started when my family and I got on a plane to visit the grandparents. We decided this time we would take the dog along with us. A small fine to fly him but we figured it would be worth it. Turns out the price we would pay in the end was more than ever anticipated.
(Side note: our dog /hates/ flying... But what dog enjoys it?) anyways....
We were done with the trip at the grandparents and on the flight home... We finally arrived and picked up our dog in his carrying cage. Extremely tired and a big groggy I was in no mood for the relentless barking and whimpering of the dog; so when we got in the parking garage we decided to let him out for a little.
I was packing up the luggage in the car when I saw the most terrifying sight I have ever seen. I had been keeping an eye on Rex (the dog) and he was going berserk. I assume he was just glad to be out of the cage. Nothing prepared me for what happened next. Rex ran.... and jumped. As in, off the edge of the building. *We were on the 7th floor.* I sprinted as fast as I could towards the edge as if I could save him, but it was too late. I watched as he fell 7 floors to his death, but looked away before the splat. I peered over the edge to find something so disgusting I almost threw up. | Dog committed suicide. |
t3_1b6pnr | self | i just need to get this off my chest. | throwaway. has a friend ever dumped the friendship and it's hurt you? cause it hurts me. we were friends since we were in high school, didn't go to the same one, and then the past summer they stopped talking to me, or talking to me and being rude.. i realize they were bullying me and being a dick, but it still hurts. i put a lot into that friendship.. i cared a lot.. but i guess they didn't really care. if they ditched me just one day, no nothing.
i once got a "how are you" but then nothing. i don't know.
i wish i had more friends, but if they always treat me like shit in the end, i don't know. i don't know why i feel hurt and panicky just remembering all of this. i finally came to terms with it, but suddenly i just feel like shit. clearly i'm not enough for people. i'm not funny, smart, pretty enough. | no friends, feel crappy. blah blah blah poor random redditor* |
t3_32qr7m | college | End of Freshman Year and I Still Feel Alone Here | Hey guys. I go to a small rural college far away from home and I'm not doing too well. I have only three people that I feel confident texting to get dinner or anything- I mostly just eat in my room. I'm involved in five clubs and I am going to be an orientation leader. Because of this yes, I know a lot of people that I can say hi to on the quad, but no one ever asks to hang out. I saw a counselor and was depressed in middle school and a little bit of hs and I thought I had it handled, but I had never been more depressed as I was my first semester. It's not as bad now but it still creeps up on me a lot. I'd say 99% of the time I ask people to do stuff with me and 50% of the time I get a no. The school I go to is really cliquey because of the small size and I try really hard to find a group I fit in with or just people that I connect with and I have failed to do this. I had a really tight group of friends in high school so it's really hard to face the fact that I am practically alone here. I don't know why- I dress nicely and do my hair. I like to party but people rarely ask me to go. I always act friendly towards everyone, I even got accepted to be an orientation leader (still a surprise), which is really competitive. I feel like such a loser here and I don't understand why I have failed at forming successful friendships.
On the bright side, I only have one more year on this campus, one semester of which I plan to study abroad because I hate it here so much (I was going to later but I pushed it up a year because of this), and junior year I move to the larger campus. I plan on rushing next fall for the service frat there or a sorority there and just take the shuttle over when I have to. | Freshman year has flown by and I still have no friends. Has this happened to anyone else? Does it get better? Or do I just have to wait it out? |
t3_18rvjp | Advice | Switching Degree/Fields in/for Graduate School. | Hello Reddit!
I wasn't sure where to post this. So i will Repost in AskReddit as well I guess.
A bit of background I guess- I am a 21 year old student in University, in my 3rd year. I am doing a double degree in Financial Analysis and International Business as the second. I am looking at graduate schools at this point, as applications are coming up in a few months.
Throughout my life, History has been my passion, particularly Europe and the UK with my mother being from there, and most of my family. My friends know it, and my professors recognize it... however, for work reasons and possible work over-seas, getting a business degree was the obvious route.
After having studied abroad in the UK, getting to spend more time there than a holiday - i realized that is where i want to live, (VISA is no issue.) And I wish to study History or Celtic Studies instead. Problem being... I am a Business major(s). I have taken a few history classes, and the history department have recognized my work as a freshman for being an exemplary student despite being a non-major (i was given an official award.)
How hard is it to get into graduate school for History or Research as a business major? What do I do? It is now late in my college career so i know i can't just change majors. I like what im studying-ish.. and plan to work in banking, but i would like to eventually get a doctorate and teach history. | 3rd Year Business Major. Want to change to History or Celtic Studies in grad school. WTF do I do, to make my life not shit, or to not end up at work in a career i only slightly enjoy? |
t3_swexe | AskReddit | Who was the strangest substitute teacher you ever had? | Back in my grade 10 English class we were reading *To Kill a Mocking Bird* and the teacher liked to read out loud. Due to the school being pretty progressive the teacher opted out to say the word nigger and then instead decided to say negro (inb4 "I have a black friend so its ok to say nigger"). Anyways one day my Teacher is missing so we have a sub. Now this guy is kind of notorious among students as being "that guy". He wears spider-man ties and speaks Klingon and is generally a weird but no crazy kind of guy. It comes time to read the book and he tells us to read silently, we protest and get him to read. This just happens to be one of the chapters that says nigger the most. So when it comes time for him to say it, without missing a beat he says the word, and the class has a collective shock. Now I live across the river from Detroit and we have a pretty good racial diversity, and naturally we have several black students. One ended up leaving the class so that he wouldn't do something he regrets.
Needless to say when the sub was back the next day we read silently no problem. | SUBSTITUTE SAYS NIGGER A LOT WHILE READING |
t3_302hkt | relationships | Me [17 F] with my best friend [17 F] nearly my whole life, and I want to try to engage in a relationship possibly. | I'm going to try to keep this nice and short.
There's this girl I like. And I've known her for a while, so we're like besties and everything. And I want to ask her out.
And that's something that everyone's been dealing with for a while, but there's this HUGE brick wall in my way: I don't know if she likes girls that way.
And we both go to the same school, and it's a Christian school, and I know most Christians tend to not take kindly to anything but heterosexuality. So I feel like my chances are super slim.
Plus, what if she's a super homophobe or something and makes fun of me and tells everyone? Then I'd have no friends and EVERYONE will know. My life would end. | I just want a happy relationship, and I'd feel like I'd be happy with her. **Do I just keep quiet in case she'll shoot me down?** |
t3_3i8tdn | Advice | How to pull my life together? | I'm going to try to give you a short description of what's happening with me so maybe someone can help.
I'll be 25 in October. I'm completely codependent on my father when it comes to a living situation and some other things. I've been living with severe depression for 6 years. I lost a girlfriend that I know I'll always consider to be "the one that got away" six months ago. Still obsessed, still crippled over it. I have NO skills.
I do security. Well, I did until I asked for a break while dealing with adjusting to anti-depressants. The job hurts my soul. Sitting around and staring for 8 hours a day and getting nothing done or learning anything... It's taken a mental toll but then again, sitting around stagnant is also killing me.
I can however get this job back. I'm just reluctant to fall back in the same trap of a garbage job. I have ZERO interest in just about everything in life. So I have no direction. There's one catch though. I think I'd be happy being my own boss. I have about 40k saved to attempt to make that happen but I'm afraid of failure. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and turned their life around? | I'm depressed/don't want to live. I have no direction in life and no skills or interests. I can return to my shit job but I rather be my own boss, have 40k to invest. Obsessive and sad over "the one that got away". I'm too old to live like this, 25. Please, someone, anyone, give me any advice to get out of this rut. I just want to live a normal, half successful, fulfilling life. |
t3_2o09d8 | relationships | I [29 M] cheated on my wife[26 F]. We have decided to work things out. What can I do to build a much better relationship that what existed before my infidelity? | I cheated on my wife and she found out. We have both decided to work things out. We have started the following:
- Having daily honest conversations about what happened
- I have gone to get tested for STI's and she will be going this week
- I have cut all communication with people she is not comfortable with and I have removed all unnecessary female friends from facebook
- We will be going for couples therapy in 2 weeks time
I know the path we have chosen is by no means easy for us, especially my wife. What things can i do to rebuild that trust that i misused and threw away? What can i be doing to allow my wife to deal with this better?
I am interested to know from those that have gone through the same path. Did you manage to build an even better relationship after the infidelity? | Cheating husbands that were taken back, how is your relationship now? How have you made it a better relationship than what existed before the cheating? What should i be doing to help my wife deal with this better? |
t3_1qnmy2 | tifu | TIFU by trying to light a plastic, battery powered candle. | Like the title says. This isn't a horrible one but more of a funny one. I am an idiot regardless though.
I work at a church as a videographer/media producer type thing and I need a shot of a candle on a black backdrop.
I head upstairs and grab a candle, it is a simple white one. I also grab a lighter, and then head back to the studio downstairs to start shooting.
I start trying to light the candle, and it doesn't smell good and it's starting to spark, I just assume this is one dumb-ass candle and it will light eventually.
After a couple minutes of failure, my coworker comes into the room and asks what's that smell. I tell him it's this candle that isn't lighting, he comes and grabs the candle from me and looks at the bottom and just starts laughing. Only then does it hit me that it was a fake candle and not a real one.
I get a photo taken of me and the candle and now it is the church staff joke being passed around the office. | tried to light a battery powered candle, I am laughed at. It's still funny though. |
t3_405xtx | tifu | TIFU by insulting my Dad's tattoo dedicated to me | Obligatory "this happened a while ago" (last year I believe).
I would like to start by saying that my Dad is my best friend. I love him more than anyone on this earth and he's the best Dad that any Daughter could ask for. Last year, he got his first tattoo - first one in probably like 20 years or more. It was my name and for some reason, this really overwhelmed me. I felt so honoured and so happy. But also really embarrassed - purely because it was so sweet and stuff like that makes me shy. And in my stupid brain, the best I could come up with was, "Umm. It's bit cliché isn't it?" He didn't speak to me for at least a week. | Dad got a tattoo of my name and because I'm a blithering idiot, I called it a cliché, rather than complimenting it. |
t3_2ldbgg | legaladvice | Can our potential new apartment keep our deposit if we back out? | We live in Iowa.
I have looked online, and the only information I can find about deposits refers to getting your deposit back after moving OUT. We have not even moved in yet. We are in the process of moving and have submitted applications and a deposit to another apartment complex. They won't move forward with our applications until our current property owners receive a written notice to vacate or we have submitted the forms to have someone take over our lease. We were not told they would need this information before moving ahead. Had we known, we would have just waited to submit our applications and deposit, as we didn't have a subleaser when we turned in our applications to the new place. We are choosing the latter and just have not been able to turn in the paperwork yet with our subleaser (whom we recently found).
I received a call yesterday from our new complex, asking where we were in the process because the new property owner was confused as to what was taking so long. She informed me that since it had been five days since we submitted our applications, if we chose to back out, we would forfeit our deposit. Can they legally hold on to the deposit? They NEVER told us that, and we didn't sign anything that mentioned this either. As of now we don't see any issues preventing us from moving in, but I want to make sure that this is legal for them to threaten to do. I don't want to move into a unit for an owner who would break the law. | In Iowa, can a property owner keep our deposit if we never occupy the unit? |
t3_35iens | relationships | Me [20 M] with my gf [18 F] for 7 months, her mother passed away a few years back and I don't know what to say to her today | Today is Mother's Day and my girlfriend's mother passed away a couple years ago. She never talks about her with me and I have never asked her because I figured if she would want to talk about her with me, then she would bring it up.
I would love to find out more about her mother, but I am nervous on whether or not to ask because I do not want to upset her. My gf is very sensitive and is the type of girl to just stop talking when something is wrong. Summer just began for us and I am now currently in a different state for a couple of months, so I will not be seeing her for awhile making this almost a long distance relationship.
So today she tweeted that she is missing her mother a little bit more today, and I commented on the tweet that (her mother) would be very proud to see her daughter now. But now I am wondering if I should talk to her over texting or if I should call her today about her mother. What do you think I should do or say? | Can't figure out what to say to my girlfriend whose mother passed away a couple years back. |
t3_4d0jmf | relationships | How can I [24F] decide whether or not to end my (likely only ever) relationship [8yr] with [24M]? | To preface this, I am autistic and have trouble maintaining relationships/friendships. Outside of family, I have only one (maybe 2) friend. I think it is possible but unlikely for me to have a real, healthy relationship with someone other than "Jeff."
"Jeff" is either depressed (claims he isn't) or simply lacks the motivation to take care of himself. He is Class III obese and always unsuccessfully "trying". He is unemployed and has been half-heartedly pursuing a degree--but won't apply for any internships or volunteer jobs that would help him in the future (I found some for him and he ignored them). Our sex life is hot garbage (due to his weight and his complete lack of interest in pleasing me). He also struggles in social situations (maybe due to his weight?).
Normally, these would be dealbreakers--except that I believe Jeff is really the most perfect companion I could ever hope for. We have wonderful conversations, he is so sweet to me, and he gets me in a way no one else ever has in my entire life. I've never had a friend like Jeff, and he's also completely devoted to me.
Can there be such a thing as a dealbreaker, if there may only ever be one offer? Even if I'm unsatisfied with the relationship, isn't it worth it so that I can keep my best friend? Should I just keep waiting and hoping that things will change?
I often imagine myself with someone who is fit, has their own life, and is confident in going out and having fun with me. Realistically, it is not all that likely that I will find someone who suits me well who has the ability to put up with my issues.
I am also afraid of losing Jeff--we have been together for my entire adult life and this isn't a decision I can try out or undo. | My relationship is unsatisfactory, but I'm too scared of losing him to end it. How do I decide, when I'm not comparing apples to apples? |
t3_3i2452 | relationships | Should I (19F) just give up on my boyfriend (19M)? | My boyfriend, Tom, and I have been dating for a year. He told his parents that he wanted to move in with me and they flipped out along with along older brother because he told them under bad circumstances. Now the parents hate me even more and he's unhappy there's but chooses to stay to keep them happy. I'm miserable because I live in my own apartment so I'm always alone.
Since the parents are still mad I'm not allowed to talk to him or see him. He tries to find different electronics to contact me on but his parents take them all all away. Today he hasn't texted me at all so I guess they found his last line to communicate with me.
I'm growing quite tired of all this drama and am trying to stick it out but it's about to be a week and it gets worse every day. His older brother and parents think I manipulated my boyfriend which isn't the case and now they are trying to shut me out of his life. We want to make this work but I don't see how it will. With no one around I get restless and can't sleep at night. There no one here to touch me so it's just painful every day.
Should I just give up? Like I've been crying for the past couple of days and it'll probably be a while until I hear from him again... So I think I should just withdraw myself from the situation... | boyfriend not allowed to contact or see me for who knows how long due to parents. Should I just give up? |
t3_287lws | relationships | What should I do with this 2 year old crush I [M 18] have on her [F 17] before it's too late? | So there's this girl that I have had a crush on in where I study for the past 2 years, and I'm about to graduate and probably won't see her again after tomorrow, due to us living quite far [1-2 hour drive and I don't have a car]. So I wanted to ask for advice on what to do.
Until 6 months ago I was this zombie, no emotions, just being completely numb to everything and living in my own world due to having a shitty life...
Then I changed and started showing emotions, having proper posture, dressing nicely and working out. And this girl started showing signs that she likes me, but because I was too afraid to be rejected and that she is just being nice to me and I didn't know in general what to do since no one has showed any interest in me before my huge change, so I just ignored her and her signs...
So I really want to try and see what will happen, because I know that I will just die inside if I'll never get closure on this and know that I still had somewhat of a chance at dating this amazing person.
She still shows signs [I think] such as laughing constantly, giving me smiles everytime she sees me, and most important everytime we talk and lock eyes I definately feel something and I think she does too with how she always looks in my eyes.
So Reddit, what do you advice me to do? | I have a crush on this girl for 2 years now, she started showing signs that she likes me but I ignored it because of fear of rejection and my inexperience. Now I'm about to graduate and probably never see her again and I want to do something about it because she is still showing signs to me. |
t3_37l93j | Advice | Girlfriend is not happy , don't know how to help. | I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years. We are both extremely happy and love eachother. However she isnt happy with her life, for an example: shes worked with a company for 3 years, first year she was working 1 or 2 days a week, barely working at all and just not happy at all. The second year she got an opportunity to change stores for a part time contract 20hrs a week, she was happy about that for a while. The store was struggling(head office not caring about it letting it go), so she was doing 30+ hour weeks at one point, she was happy doing that then she was upset cause she was doing all this work(pretty much running the store on managers day off) and not getting appriciated for it, except by the manager. Then the manager left job was to stressful for her, and then head office sent a temp manager while they found a permanent one every few weeks they would change manager. Finally after a month they found one and 2 new staff members (girlfriend was the only staff member + manager) and my girlfriend was basically just forgotten about the new staff are getting favoured getting asked to stay back more opportunities etc.
ANYWAYS My girlfriend just isnt happy and doesnt know what to do. She wants to leave but she has done so much for the store. Ive told her to look for a new job but she says that its not that easy.
Also im really sorry im absolutely terrible at explaining things. | girlfriend not treated well at job after all shes done and i dont know how to help her get happy again :/ |
t3_l1ida | AskReddit | What is your most ridiculous encounter with cops? | I have my second court date in 8 hours for having an unmowed lawn. My public defender told me she'd never seen anything so ridiculous before. To make things even better, it's a misdemeanor, and almost all of the people in court were there for domestic violence or assault. The back story is, a "friend" who was at my house decided to try to steal over $5000 worth of stuff from my friend and I while we were In a different room. He went through both of our rooms, and my friends bag, which was right next to her unconscious body and placed all ofcthe items in our back yard to attempt to sneak through our side gate. He was caught by my roommate and politely kicked out of our house. This all took place at around 5:30am and everyone was either passed out or hammered at that point. My friend noticed one of cameras missing from his room and not in the back yard, so he ran after the "friend" to get it back. He failed to find him anywhere (the "friend" was walking home, as he has no car and lives somewhat close) so he came back to our house, only to find the scumbag trying to sneak through our side gate in an attempt to steal the stuff he had piled up. There's a confrontation outside, my friend comes into the house, and Scumbag punches and breaks our front door window. My roommate grabs a stick and breaks two of his front teeth, scumbag enters house yelling about how he was just assaulted and is a minor (he's not). Roommate calls the cops, he gets arrested, scumbag supervisor cop comes, gives my roommate and I a speech about how he doesnt like either of us because he's been to our house before and arrested me (different story). Calls us both idiots and after 2 hours of scumbag-cop BS, writes us both tickets for having an unmowed lawn, along with a "broken window" ticket (the window scumbag broke) and a "missing window" ticket. The "missing window" was an open window with an air conditioner poorly placed on it. One hour later, I see the scumbag "friend" on Facebook. | Scumbag friend attempts grand theft and breaks window, scumbag cops let him go and give me ticket for broken window and unmowed lawn. |
t3_2wrzvr | tifu | TIFU by not knowing how to properly clean up a toddler's shit covered pajamas. | Hello Reddit, I kinda fucked up this morning. A little background first, I recently moved in with my girlfriend and her two year old, and as a former long time bachelor, I do not have much experience with young kids. Well this morning, the two year old had an accident in her pajamas. In other words, she shit like a 50 year old alcoholic man would have, in her pajamas. They are the kind of pajamas that have little feet in them too (this is key to my fuckup). This was early this morning, and I worked late last night, so I was still half asleep when trying to clean up the mess. I put her pajamas in the washing machine, cleaned her up, and thought, job done. A little later, I opened up the washer and was smacked in the face with the what smelled like 1000 years worth of taco bell shits. I picked up the pajamas, and noticed something squishy in one of the feet. Yep, I washed the pajamas with a pile of turds in one of the feet. Needless to say, they aren't clean, and my laundry room smells like an outhouse at a monster truck rally. | toddler shit herself, I washed her pajamas with shit hidden in the foot of the pajamas, laundry room smells like shit now. |
t3_23lkks | legaladvice | I want to warn landlords and other roommates in Boston about a con artist ex-tenant of mine. Is my idea legal, and/or are there other options I might pursue? | Earlier this year I successfully evicted a tenant who refused to pay rent for 7 months, stole my personal property and owes me about $12,000. This weekend a constable tracked me down and informed me that my former tenant has pulled the same stunt on another girl (his client) up the street who is subletting a room to him. She is now trying to evict him after only two months. I've since come to find out that he has done this to at least one other person.
This tenant's credit already has a judgment on him from my court case earlier this year and I am about to take him to small claims, but it appears that a lot of people don't run credit or background checks around here and thus will fall victim to his well-executed con.
I want to help prevent someone else from being financially victimized by this guy and my idea is to buy a domain and post his name, photo and state only the facts of his MO.
Is this legal? I have reported him to a few websites already, but there are so many students in Boston and I can't imagine any of them would really go to these landlord databases to cross-check the guy's name. I'd like to get something that search engines can crawl and hopefully pick up on when someone tries to Google search for his name.
I'm very open to alternative ideas too.
Thanks! | I want to host a website to expose a con artist tenant in the Boston area that includes his name, photo and his MO. Is this legal? |
t3_yqbk3 | self | Make me feel better reddit. What is your worst day/week/month/year that you have ever had. | Mine starts months ago when my wife started acting different and decided all of a sudden she no longer wanted a child. She had talked for years about wanting a child and then all of a sudden stopped. This is the start of a terrible journey. I notice things begin to change around us and I keep trying to get what is wrong out of her but never succeed. Eventually a few weeks ago she leaves out of the blue. Just a few days before my 30th birthday. The day before my birthday someone rear ends my car, which I haven't had very long. Although not really bad damage, just makes the journey worse. Time goes on things get a little better and the people I thought who where my friends aren't really showing up, not too surprising considering my low place I am at. Wife begins to go on the spending spree and burns through a bank account which was impossible to stop due to how fast it happened(fixed now). Things continue to go down hill with little things here and there. Very little looking up for me at this point. Then just yesterday my house gets broken into and nearly 10,000$ worth of stuff was taken. I haven't slept in nearly 48 hours now and I am sitting here eating Chef Boyardee ravioli and drinking milk all alone dieing a little inside.
In all this commotion today I received a phone call about a new job offer making enough money to support my house and bills my wife left me at. My light at the end of the tunnel is starting to show through. | Just read it. I don't care about spelling or grammar with tears in my eyes. |
t3_1d2jks | relationships | So I [F23] have come to the basic conclusion that I probably have abandonment issues, it's definitely punching a hole in all my relationships, and I definitely can't afford a therapist right now. | Yeah, I'm pretty sure after a conversation earlier this week with my FWBish (M, 21) that I definitely have abandonment issues. I'm graduating college in a week, and I have overwhelming fear that I'm going to lose contact with him, several guys here I dated (and have never cut contact with), and the one or two assorted friends I have. It kind of ballooned tonight since he's in a bad mood (due to grades) and doesn't want me to come over or bug him right now.
Thinking on it, I've never even gotten into a relationship I would remotely consider healthy. Most of my exes have been rebounds, and I cheated on the vast majority of them when things looked like they were going south. Like I said, I have never cut contact with any of them, for better or for worse. Usually when my FWB doesn't want to hang out, I get completely irrational like it's some sort of breakup and don't realize it about 4 hours later. Needless to say, he's at the end of his rope between that and finals, and probably looking forward to not seeing me anymore in a week.
ETA: I've also intentionally burned bridges with a lot of other friends this semester. I'll tell them off because "it won't matter in a few weeks anyway."
How the hell do I deal with this? I'm about to go into the real world where I'm expected to act like a normal person and still cope with the fact that I'm going to lose close contact with these people. I'm not moving back home after graduation, but it will be a while before I'm in a job that'll afford me actual healthcare. | I'm scared to leave some people and intentionally fucking up my relationship with others. |
t3_4m8j4m | relationships | I [28] hate my bf's [28M] beard! | Throwaway because bf is on reddit. We've been together for 10 years and I love him a lot. I'm sure we're gonna marry someday and have kids together. He always had a bit of a beard which I loved. I always found him very attractive. However, about 6 months ago, he started to grow out his beard. Some people call it a hipster beard. The difference is that my bf doesn't groom his beard. At all. And it looks a mess. Whenever he eats, small pieces of food stick to his beard. Whenever it's hot outside, small droplets of sweat linger in his beard. Whenever we have sex, I feel his beard rubbing on me and it feels weird. And afterwards I have beard hair all over me. I just hate it.
I've tried talking to him about at least grooming his beard (I'm not even talking about cutting it off because apparently he loves it so much!), I bought some grooming accessoires for him (scissors, small comb) but he doesn't use it. I've told him about this fancy hipster barber shop but he just laughed and said "real men" don't need that. He also keeps insisting that I'm gonna "learn to love his beard" someday but it just gets more and more disgusting. I've asked his friends and family what they think about the beard but they all agree that the beard is great. I can't be the only one noticing the food getting caught up in his beard!? Ugh, what do I do? I feel like I find him less and less attractive. I'm even starting to avoid having sex with him, and it freaks me out. Please help! | My boyfriend of 10 years is growing a disgusting web of hair, food and sweat on his face. Help! |
t3_4aw2jk | relationships | Me [33 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] of nearly 2 years - not sure how to split finances fairly as I have kids | My boyfriend and I are planning on moving into a house together in May.
Technically he's been living at my place since January, but as I'm in a small 2b apartment, my kids (I have 50% custody) and I share a room, and my cousin had the other room (she's actually moved out this week and the children will be moving into that room which changes things a little). So the nights that I have the kids, he sleeps on the couch, and the nights I don't he sleeps in the bedroom with me.
So I felt it was fair that he hasn't paid any rent over this time, because he doesn't really have his own space, but he splits groceries for the food we share and has said he will contribute to bills for this period.
The real issue is how to fairly split bills so he's not paying for my kids once we move in together officially. He thinks paying a third of things makes sense - as in, the two kids are there half the time, so they count as one person that I should pay for.
This is fine, in terms of electricity and water, I think.
But I'm not sure about other things. Contents insurance, petrol, internet, rent?
I do most of the cooking, cleaning, driving, shopping etc. I pay to run the car, he doesn't drive.
He talks a lot about wanting to save up for our life together, which I love. And he's managed to save nearly $20k in the last 6 months, which is wonderful.
But when I'm playing bill roulette, figuring out how to shuffle my small amount of money around to pay everything, trying to manage all the bills and rent on my minimum wage income with no child support, I start to feel a little resentful at the thought of him being able to save because he gets a good deal from me, if that makes sense.
So. I'd love to know what other people think and how other people manage splitting finances when there are kids from a prior relationship. | Not sure how to fairly split expenses with my partner considering I have two kids from a prior marriage |
t3_3qdlym | relationships | Me (16M) needing dating advice for Best friend (16f) | Background: I'm a sad nerdy white virgin with zero game and some funny jokes, she's a smoking hot brunette far outta my league with sexual experience. Both sophomores.
I've known her since late 8th grade, but we hadn't gotten real close until this summer when my then-gf and I had a rough patch. We broke up 2 weeks ago and I'm afraid this girl thinks she's a rebound.
Now, I might be an idiot but I get dating basics. Here's the problem. I've been friend zoned HARD, I hold this chicks hand, cuddle often, went to the movies with her. Hell, I've seen her naked. When at the movies, I asked her if it was a date, as we had specifically told everyone it wasn't a date and I got "I don't know". I dropped it after that.
I'm going to her house this Sat for "Halloween and chill", and I'm not sure how to move forward. | got friend zoned, girl might feel like a rebound. Not sure what to say. |
t3_3hs3bg | relationships | Even though my (25f, introverted) boyfriend (25m, extroverted) of 8 months is awesome, I don't feel the same connection I did with my ex (26m, introverted) | My boyfriend is everything I've ever hoped for. I love him and he loves me, we treat each other well, talk about absolutely everything and want to marry some day. But I always feel like something is off. It's not 100%... and it's because he is extroverted. Our thoughts, wishes and behavior are very similar, and people like to point out how great we get along. It's only this one thing that's different... he doesn't see life as a challenge: socializing is no big deal for him, while I have to fight not to embarrass myself in every conversation and can barely keep friends. He views the world differently.
With my ex, it was the other way round. We were both introverts and loved being it with each other. Life was difficult, but only if we couldn't fight a situation together. I never had to explain my weird thoughts to him. We loved each other to death, but the relationship didn't work out for some reasons that don't matter here. I'm completely over him and usually don't even think about him anymore because the breakup happened a year ago. It's only in these moments when I feel like I don't have the connection with my boyfriend that I should have, that I think about my ex and our perfect friendship.
Don't get me wrong, I don't want him back, but I miss the intimacy of a relationship between introverts.
I don't even know if my feelings are reasonable. My ex was very emotionally dependant on me. I was the very most important person on earth for him. He would have died for me with pride. It wasn't healthy how much he adored me, but I savored it anyway.
Now I don't know if I wish for something completely unhealthy or if there really is a problem between me and my boyfriend other than my doubts. | We don't have the "us against the world" relationship that I did before, and I don't know if I will be okay without it. |
t3_d7ver | AskReddit | Women of Reddit: Why do girls tend to ignore my advances instead of giving a direct "I'm not interested"? | I'm in a weird position where I feel like Llyod off dumb and dumber. I'm taking the most subtle actions as cues to go "Sooo you're telling me there's a chance". I'm aware of this but when it happens I sometimes don't quite realize until I've sent off a picture of a cat or written a poem or parked my van across from her house for the night (j/k, I have a car).
Maybe I'm not being direct enough or maybe I'm putting in too much effort. I think I just don't really "get" it whatever it is and I have a feeling a lot of guys are in the same boat.
I have a feeling the responses here are going to be similar to the surfing lessons off "Forgetting Sarah Marshall" (Do less; no no less; well do more than that; just do less but fast) but I'd appreciate any suggestions. Anyone else who has been in this situation and gotten out I'd be very appreciative of advice as well. | How do I take the hint and what is the appropriate way to respond to it? |
t3_13abkj | AskReddit | Reddit is there a cure for social weirdness? | Every day I feel like an outsider, like I never fit in. I can sit in a huge group of people, and feel so along. Watching everyone interact, laugh and take silly pictures together. In the end , as much as I try to get involved I am left out. I suppose it should hurt but I know only a few I can really have that kind of joy in friendship with. Reddit I ask how sad or stupid or weird is this feeling? I ask myself if I can ever be just surrounded by / included into a group?
Please feel free to ask questions: | Always the odd one out in a group. It can suck. Normal? Weird? |
t3_19xzuj | relationships | Stepping outside the lines as far as sensitivity is concerned. | MY SO and I have been going out for 3 months and I have this issue where if I (20F) have a goal in mind and my SO (28M) and I start getting into things, I can't put that goal aside. For example, I had to get to class the other day at 1030 and my SO started kissing me when we woke up and things started getting more involved but I couldn't get the fact that I had to go out of my head, but I didn't want to say anything because I was afraid he would get upset that I wasn't into it like he was. While at the same time I was upset that he was disregarding something that was a priority for me. I ended up showing up to class late and that's my calculus II class so I missed the beginning of the lecture where she explains how that day's lesson works before the examples. So I had to try and understand how the problems worked without the foundational idea.
Regardless, I was angry at him for not letting me get ready when I said I needed to, I don't know if it's because he honestly doesn't care if I get to class on time or if he feels so much that he actually forgets. This idea has been frustrating me and I'd love some input as to what to do in this case. We haven't been going out long and I told him that I didn't want us to get in the way of school and he said it wouldn't be a problem. This all began because I didn't want to ruin the moment for him by telling him I had to go to school. | Should I tell my SO to stop when I have things that need to get done? |
t3_35qkva | jobs | Took the first step to escaping a miserable industry, where to put my feet next? | So I basically stumbled into the service industry through a friend a couple years ago, and have basically been treading water in the industry ever since. I derive no enjoyment from it whatsoever, a servers wages are way too up and down to enjoy any financial stability at all, even in fine dining, and leads me to wanting to heavily drink to forget how unhappy I am in this industry.
So I finally told my manager to take me off the schedule after we get through the busy week (and not necessarily quitting, just saying it's too much, too much stress, I need some time), and I still have my other part time job to go on and can pick up extra shifts at if need be until I find a true escape.
But where do I go for sure? I've already applied for 20 jobs today alone (my one day off in two weeks) and I have an interview for a job in my field (graduated w political science degree) but that's only part time, and a friend also helped me get a freelance editing job, but that's gonna be a low income slow build for a while.
I guess I'm just hoping there are like minds that have been in similar footprints and can help me get in a good direction. | Leaving the service industry, any way, any how, need to find a better life, before I break down into some parody of Leaving Las Vegas. |
t3_o92mz | AskReddit | Am I being unreasonable? | My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year, basically long distance (we live over an hour away from each other). We have insanely conflicting schedules, with maybe only two or three days a week, rarely consecutive, over-lapping.
We both live alone in our respective abodes. He's never had a roommate that wasn't a sibling or a bunch of Marines and absolutely lives in a bachelor pad. His furniture consists of: his bed; a breakfast table & 4 chairs(which doubles as his computer desk); a large, cushioned rocker chair; an entertainment center. Which means that when I visit one of us sits/lays on the floor.
We typically only see each other once a week and usually it's dinner and a movie in. Again, this means at least one of us is sitting on the floor for a good portion of the evening, generally shifting position often because something has gone numb.
Would it be completely unreasonable of me to demand we find another piece of furniture that both of us can sit on? Or at least another comfortable chair (I've gone so far as to bring a camp chair a couple of times just so I don't have to sit on the floor)? I'm at the point where I just flat out don't want to go over there to hang out, it's so uncomfortable. And it's not like it's a holdover from college, we're both over thirty and have been out of school for at least a decade. I'm pretty much the only person he entertains.
Is this a guy thing? What should I do? | there's nowhere for me to sit in my bf's apt. Am I a bitch if I stop going to see him unless he buys another piece of furniture? |
t3_1md02p | relationships | Me [25/M], her [23/F]. She broke up with me after a year and telling me she loved me and now she won't even talk to me or explain why. | I told her I'm fine with the fact she doesn't want to be with me anymore. She's even found somebody new. Good for her. Then she told me how much she wanted to be friends with me after the break up and even told me she still thinks about having sex with me all the time.
I tried one last time trying to reconcile but she said no, so I said Fine, just explain to me why this is all happening (because she seemed very much into me, and, like I said, told me she loved me). I asked her why she would tear up and cling to me like I was her whole world when we had sex and how she can say she feels closer to this new person after just a few weeks and then she just stopped talking to me. Refused to say another word. I've gone overboard and called her 100 times because I have some issues with this but I haven't been nasty I've just been pleading for her to explain things to me.
I respect her decision to have me out of her life, but doesn't she *owe me* an explanation here? I'm not asking her to be my friend or to get back together with me, I said I'll be okay with that, but it's driving me crazy (it's a long story why) that she won't just *explain* everything. | Ex told me she loved me, broke up with me, won't explain why. |
t3_wj62z | relationship_advice | Very much into a girl, but she says I'm too much like her dad. Doesn't help that she's in another state for the summer. | So, first semester last year I (16/m) meet this awesome girl(16/f) who just transferred into my school from out of state to get away from a fairly toxic situation at home (primarily her father who-- she wasn't too ready to give details, and I don't blame her-- has/had some severe emotional problems; depression, at the least). Anyway, she's perhaps one of the most interesting and attractive (not just on a physical level... she's intelligent and creative to boot) people I've met. I spend all of the school year trying to spend time with her and getting to know her, knowing full well that she won't be coming back next year (this is the tragedy I create for myself), so even if something did happen and we did get together, it would have been short-lived at best. And then I find out that she may actually be moving back here to finish school. So, weekend after finals-- my reasoning was to not have it hanging over my head all summer, and yet, here I am-- I (again, I'm an idiot) send her a text telling her what I think of her and how I really like her. Then I go over to where she was staying and say it to her face. She then hesitantly tells me that I'm "too much like her dad" (which kills me even more thinking about it, seeing as that's the guy she was trying to get away from in the first place) and that "Freud was wrong", obviously speaking to the oedipus/electra complex (the psychology reference is a sign that she's the type of lady I like). I try to make it seem like it wasn't that big of a deal. I say "I can take rejection" (a lie, as I've never been in an actual relationship before) and I proceed to help her pack her things for her return to her out-of-state home. Now, we keep in occasional contact via phone and the odd email. But I can't help but worry about how it's gonna be when she returns and I still feel how I do about her. So... any advice? | I'm conflicted. |
t3_1v0b7k | relationships | [20 M] My girlfriend and I broke up this weekend.. I think? | This is confusing as hell.
My girlfriend and I have (or had?) been together for about 4 months. From the start everything was great, spending lots of time together and having tons of fun.
And then things changed, out of the blue. We were talking less, and didn't see eachother for over 3 weeks; I believe this was due to a number of factors. Death in the family on her side, I just started a new job and have been under a lot of pressure.
The other day she told me it wasn't going to work out. At that point we talked about.. a lot of things.
Apparently I have a hard time opening up, and coming out of my shell. She stated that I am a brick wall.
She told me about her last relationship, which lasted years but ended badly. Told me she's afraid of falling in love, and being hurt. Which is understandable as I've been there before.
And now for the confusing part. After we talked it out, she seemed fine. Happy even. We were intimate, and it was great.
The next day we spend the night together, and it seemed like everything was fine..
After we were intimate, before we went to sleep she said again that it wasn't going to work.
Again, we talked.. about the same topics, but the next morning I woke up with her in my arms.
It feels like she's running away. I don't want to lose this girl, and I don't know what the fuck to do. | Mixed signals from (ex?) girlfriend. We broke up, but spent the night together, twice. |
t3_17csuo | relationships | Problems with me, my wife, and my new stepfather. | Long story short, my wife's father is manipulative.
Ages of me and wife -27
ages of father in law - 50-60 ish?
We now have a daughter of our own, and her father is trying to play her family against my wife and me. He is claiming he has prostate cancer after I told him that he is not allowed to contact our daughter until he fixed things with his daughter (my wife). He is telling all family members to contact my wife explaining he will not seek medical attention unless he is contacted by my wife and given a "will to live".
This is of course causing confusion on me and wifes side as of how to deal with said situation. Any attempt my wife has ever made at calling her father has resulted in no response whatsoever. A once in a year response makes up for 2 years of missed calls as far as he is concerned.
I'm confused reddit, give me some idea as of how to deal with this? | Wife's father is an asshat and manipulative. Help? |
t3_1rs6in | relationship_advice | I [18/M] believe I've fallen into the friendzone with a girl [21/F] from my social circle | This is a problem I've had before, and the way I learned to deal with it was to make my intentions clear from the start whenever I met girls.
But this year I entered college, and therefore didn't feel comfortable in behaving that way as for the first weeks I was honestly just looking for friends, and nothing more than that.
What happened was that as I got close to one of my lady friends, I started becoming attracted to her, and as this was happening she was also actively looking for my company, but I still didn't make my intentions clear because I didn't want to "rush things" or come off as needy. We have physical contact and good chemistry, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't know how I feel and doesn't feel the same way.
Should I tell her that I'm interested in being more than a friend, should I show her through actions or just step away for a while? | Beginning to feel attracted to a girl I only intended being friends with in the first place; Pretty sure she doesn't know for sure that I'm interested and probably does not see me as more than a friend since I failed to demonstrate I wanted more; What should I do? |
t3_2ho4ee | relationships | I (M 16) really like her (F 18) and she says she likes me but I'm way out of her league | So I'm in marching band (ha ha get the laughs over with). Our drum major (who is basically the leader of the entire ~160 people band is a girl by the name of (not really) Sarah. Sarah is gorgeous, smart, and very talented at what she does. Towards the beginning of the school year she asked me if I wanted to go see a movie so I thought "wow she's seriously got to be joking" but she wasn't, we went to the movie and everything was great. Since then we have been on a few, maybe 3 or 4, dates and things have been going okay. I say this because I have been fucking it up bad. I really like her but she's so far out of my league that there are soooo many other guys that are more attractive, more talented, and all that other shit and I feel like she could just switch to them at any moment. But after each time that I bring it up I realize that I'm just driving her away and the more I ask her about it the less she wants to be with me. What do I do. | I really like a girl that states that she likes me but she's so far out of my league I can't believe her |
t3_2g9txl | relationships | I [18F] am unsure about my feelings towards a friend [19m], should I date him? | I have a guy friend that I am really good friends with, we talk almost every day, and we do stuff together quite often (usually play LoL together).
For a while I've known he has a crush on me. This isn't me being cocky and assuming things. Two of his friends have confirmed, and he often says things that are obviously romantic, though I brush them off.
I am really unsure about the way I feel about him. He is one of the nicest guys I have ever met, I'm sure of it. He's not one of those people that act nice to girls they want to get into the pants of. He treats everyone with respect and is super helpful.
When I spend time with him, he makes me super relaxed and quite happy, we have pretty long and deep conversations, and sometimes i feel like I do have romantic feelings for him. However, I do not find him physically attractive at all, his appearance is completely average, and in all my crushes there has always been a level of physical attraction.
This makes me confused as to whether I should pursue a romantic relationship with him. My friends usually point out that appearance wise and socially, I am considered out of his league.
In the end sometimes I feel like, I like him romantically, other times i feel like I like him more as a friend, and I'm really unsure about it.
Some people have advised me to go ahead and give a relationship a try to figure out my feelings, but the last thing I want to do is hurt him, or seem like I'm leading him on, when I don't have those feelings.
I really don't want him to get hurt, or to damage our friendship.
If he eventually asks me out, what should I do? | Super nice guy friend, not sure if I like him romantically, what should I do? |
t3_qheyv | Cooking | Ruined bacon mashed potatoes drunk cooking, is there any way I could salvage it? | Hey guys,
So last night my buddy and I were drunk cooking. We made mashed potatoes with chopped bacon, onions, garlic, and parsley.
Aside from my buddy cutting himself and getting a bit of blood in for extra flavour, the cooking process was smooth sailing and we were on our way to some delicious drunken munchies.
Here comes the part where we screwed it all up: upon tasting the final product, my buddy decided that it needed a bit more seasoning so he proceeds to dump almost a cup of coarse salt into the potatoes, thus ruining the dish.
Needless to say we didn't end up getting delicious drunken munchies and the potatoes been sitting in my fridge over night. I'm wondering if there's anyway I can make use of this over-salted bacon mashed potatoes? I almost cleared out half the salt but it's still too salty to eat on its own. | Over-salted bacon mashed potatoes, what can I make out of it? |
t3_52c9pq | AskDocs | Anxiety after concussion? | I'm (28F) recovering from a concussion that happened 6 weeks ago. This is my first concussion. I've been out of work for the 6 weeks and will be out of work at least another week. I've been to both my GP and a neurologist. MRI was good, and the neurologist wasn't concerned with anything- basically it's just taking more time to recover than I expected. I'm still not 100%. I've been unable to drive (I will be practicing that this week to see if I can get used to it again) and noise and a lot of visual stimulation gives me a headache. I'm very sensitive to noise still.
A little background: I deal with anxiety and have bipolar disorder. I have been stable for years now and take medication daily. I've been dealing with depression since my concussion and hopefully when I get back to work and into a routine again that will help with that.
So my question is, when I go into the grocery store (which I haven't been doing often and I go in and out very quickly because my brain just gets really overwhelmed), I've been feeling very anxious. I went to a larger store the other day, and after about 5 minutes I just got that *super* panicky feeling and just felt like I had to get out of there asap. I haven't had that happen in 10 years. After a concussion, is it kind of expected that I would deal with anxiety more than normal? I'm assuming yes, but I figured it doesn't hurt to ask. Thanks! | I've been having more anxiety than normal post concussion. Is this normal? |
t3_1srzf1 | relationships | [Update #2 - 1 week] Me [21F] with my boyfriend [27M] 3months, Twin Troubles | [Original]( | Had to move in with my b/f, things are going well :) |
t3_ds4e2 | AskReddit | Reddit, in what ways have you successfully pulled yourself from depression? | I was encouraged by this:
It seems like a lot of people feel like I do.
A while back I did an intense workout regimen for a few months and at the tail end I was so happy that I felt like I couldn't stop smiling. It was the most normal I've felt in my entire life. It was too intense for me to continue and I eventually gained back 50 lbs. I now feel like crap again. I'm also about 8 years older and I don't think I could handle that regimen again. I'd like to feel that way again, but it seems so remote.
I don't believe in using pharmaceuticals for shit like that. If you can fix yourself, then why trust some huge corporation who's main motivation is profit to fix you?
Anyway, | in what ways have you been able to successfully pull yourself out of depression? Aside from using drugs. |
t3_i0h0d | Pets | Stray animals break my heart | I'm on vacation in Turkey, the country where I am originally from. There is a huge stray problem here, on any given day you will see at least 10 strays walking around in the city. It breaks my heart every time I see one and if I have any food I always try to feed them. Today a dog showed up during dinner and ignoring the protests of my grandmother I fed him about a quarter of my own meal. After eating it all right away he waited around for a while for more food so I asked if I could have some more food to give to him. After arguing with my grandmother who had prepared all the food we settled on just giving him bread. I decided at this point to take his picture so I could share my story with reddit. The camera scared him a little but he ate what I gave him and continued to stick around. Whether for more food or just someone to play with him I don't know. I wish nothing more than to take him in but I live in and go to college in Boston, it just makes me so sad that I can't. I'm not an emotional guy *whatsoever*; I've cried four times in my entire life. Once at the age of 7 after being stung by a bee at summer camp, once at 17 when my grandfather died, again at 18 when my uncle died and once more today, six days before my 19th birthday after seeing and interacting with this poor animal. Literally the minute I get my own place to live and a job I'm going out and adopting an animal, or two, or three. | Reddit, what I have to say is, regardless of whatever country you live in, please, go out and adopt an animal that needs you. These animals deserve someone to love them, someone to take care of them, someone to grow up with and be best friends with. |
t3_19ovmg | Advice | Need advice with an ex-GF. | Little backstory; when we were both in high school, me being a senior and her a freshman, we hit it off and dated for a year and some change. We were each others first real love, but she wanted something different so, she broke up with me... for a girl. She was talking to this girl behind me back and broke up with me for her. I took it really hard and tried to forget all about her, turning my feelings for her into anger. Flash forward a couple of months and were talking again, but she slips back into no-talk mode and starts dating another girl. This happens a couple of more times and finally i just stop talking to her all together. Now, a year and a half later she texts me but i don't answer her, and she will picture message me old photos and scrapbooks she has found of us together.
What should i do? Do i answer her, or not? It's been over 2 years since we broke up and i havent talked to her in a year, despite her trying. I really don't want to be her "friend" but i don't know if she wants to try and works things out. Any help would be appreciated. | ex-GF semi-cheated and started dating girls. We talk but ultimately i just stop talking to her after she blows me off again. Starts texting me again but i won't answer due to fact i don't want to feel pain/sadness over her anymore. |
t3_3f28yr | relationships | Me [26 M] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 1 year, are looking to combine some finances. | My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 3 months now of our 1 year relationship. We both have very stable good paying jobs. One struggle we are having is not always splitting things like dinner, entertainment etc. evenly, he usually insists on paying.
What I am hoping to do is get a joint checking account where we both put in $200 (or similar amount) each month. This would go to all groceries, dinner, movies, drinks etc. If the $400 were to run out, we would be on our own for the remainder of the month, what we don't use would just roll over.
A few notes
* He owns the place we live in and I pay $500 a month for rent to him (dirt cheap for the area we are in but covers about 1/3 of the mortgage, HOA, utilities)
* He also has more debt than I do when it comes to cc, mortgage, car and student loans
* I am looking to buy a house for us in the next 6 months or so and have the mortgage completely in my name, and we would sell his place.
Has anyone done something similar? Pros/cons you may see? This is my first serious relationship and we are moving pretty quickly (which we are both totally happy about). | Boyfriend and I are looking at doing a shared checking account for dinner, movies etc. |
t3_wrj5g | relationships | Having issues telling boyfriends what my job is... | No slut shaming, please!
I am 20F, and I am running into problems telling my boyfriends what I do for a living. During the day I have a job where I do basic tech support for a small company, but I only have 30 hours a week and get paid barely over minimum wage. This is not enough to pay my bills.
At night, I am a webcam model. I have been doing this since I turned 19, and it is how I make almost all of my money. I am very successful at this, but I've never made top 100 or anything like that. Yes, I am nude on camera, and yes, I do everything just like almost all the other webcam girls you see out there. This does not bother me, as I look nothing like I do in real life when I go on camera. (I wear a wig, different makeup, cover my tattoos, etc)
My problem is that every guy who I ever date ends up wondering where I get all my money. They know I am in college studying electrical engineering (I have a 3.8 GPA at a 4 year state school), and that I am in general a very shy person. They also know that I do not make a lot of money at my day job. It just does not fit in with how I present myself in public, as most people see me as the shy nerdy girl who has her nose buried in textbooks and a kindle.
Every time I try to tell a partner what I do for a living, he freaks out. I've dated three men since I started webcamming, and I dropped hints about my profession to all three. None of them seemed okay with the idea. The one that I told dumped me after we had dated for 4 months. It is hard to hide what I do because I work about 4-5 nights a week. I make on average $4000 a month from both jobs, which is way more than a lot of people my age. I don't know if they are jealous, or what and I need some help before I ruin all of my relationships! | I'm a webcam model and a college student and I don't know how to reveal it to a potential boyfriend without ruining everything. |
t3_kk2ye | BreakUps | SO broke up with me over the computer.Should I be angry/disappointed with him?(More details inside)PS-I'm a girl. | So my SO and I have almost been going out for a year.We had a good relationship from what I can tell.We were both close friends before it,we both had very strong feelings for each other for a while,etc.Very few negative instances though.There would be times where my SO would become stressed and agitated with my maturity. Mostly the way I acted in public,I'm a genuinely curious and strange gal and I can't help but be very 'outgoing' but there have been times where he would become annoyed by it,and my attitude towards anything sexual.I'm very akward when it comes to sex and incredibly intimate situations.It's something that always made me uncomfortable but I'm starting to accept it more thanks to having been in a relationship.My SO didn't seem to understand this completely though.He's more physical ,if you know what I mean,while I'm the more emotional one and am nervous with such intimacy.About a day after my birthday,my SO texts me and tells me we have to 'talk'(We both lived in the same area but due to college I had to move a few states away so it became a LDR).Instead of calling me or using a webcam over the internet he types the dreaded breakup talk.Basically he wants to "take a break" because he's stressed due to college and his job,and then when it comes to me and my behavior in the relationship he just can't take it,and he wants his space.So after this all I'm quite upset but we both agree to stay good friends, but I won't contact him for a while since he said he wanted 'space'.Is the way he went through with this break up wrong?Should I be upset?I'd just like to hear an opinion from somebody here in /r/Breakups.Anything is much appreciated <3. | Boyfriend/SO broke up with me over internet.No phone call,no webcam.Should I be angry with him?And was it wrong of him to break up with me in such a way? |
t3_q964j | AskReddit | Do you remember what you were doing before you decided to browse reddit for the first time? | I was in poetry class and I was fucking bored. The teacher was doing her weekly "let every fuck-tard read their long-ass thing to everyone, like we care, and give no marks out for anything involving any of it except for you reading your long-ass thing nobody cares about." and my brain checked out. At this point, things get a bit hazy. I was on knowyourmeme.com and saw the meme "The narwhal bacons at midnight." The related pictures drew a smile to my face and then everything just goes blank. Memory is lost in a sea of cat pictures, rage comics, wild and outlandish TIL's and Rick Santorum insults. Never have I known so much and remembered so little. This was the end of productivity. | Before, I was lazy, unproducttive, and bored. Now I'm lazy, unproductive and happy....I think. |
t3_228cxw | relationship_advice | 16/M dating 15/F for almost a year, should I tell m parents? | I'm [16/M] and my girlfriend is [15/F] (both virgins), we'll be dating for a year in May, but my parents still don't know. Should I tell them? I have a few reasons for not telling them that I'll expand on shortly.
To begin with, we got in trouble early in the relationship with her parents because she was going through a hormone treatment because she wasn't having her period, and so she was constantly becoming horny because of her small size and the dosages, which reflected in the texts she sent.
One day she got caught skipping and they went through her phone and told her parents who read the messages, they banned her form seeing me...
And things have slowly fixed between me and her, but not her parents, her older sister sneaks her out so that we can see each other,we Skype, text (she hid my name and number in her phone),and call, and that's just what we've been doing since then.
Well it's almost been a year, and her sister is moving out soon and we'll be able to see each other then at her apartment. She's off the hormone implements now and her body is working fine for the most part despite stomach problems, but her sister said we can spend the night at her apartment together, we don't plan on having sex for another year or so at least, maybe waiting longer to see if things will actually last.
And now my dilemma is, tell my parents now? Or after I've stayed over a few times, though my parents will be mad it's something I'll be able to fix shortly and they'll trust me when they know for sure she isn't pregnant.
I've also gotten in trouble with my parents for a situation like this before that was fully my fault with one of my exes and I don't know how they'd react to me doing it again. When should I tell them? | Gonna be a year soon with my gf, should I tell my parents now or after spending the night a few times? We have a problem with her parents so we'll be at her sister's, we aren't going to have sex. But we've both been in trouble for something sexual before. |
t3_3xmjp6 | tifu | TIFU by not knowing my phone number | So this happened yesterday night. So a little back story, I'm a highschool student. Yesterday was Semi Formal. Now i didnt know 99.9 percent of the people there because i wasnt from the school let alone the area. Well i went because my friends wanted me to go... so i went. It was fun, got to dance and have fun with my friends and random girls. Now heres the fuck up. So, the dance was over and people were starting to leave and this one girl came up to me and asked to put my number in her phone. So i did, I didnt bother to check if i gave the right number. SOOOOO when i got back home i thought back and realized i gave the wrong fucking number. I put in the last 4 digits wrong. The first 6 were right but the last 4 i used my home phone because i was about to call home. The girl was pretty cute too :( i also didnt ask for her name because i was to excited about getting home and giving my number away | Typed my number wrong into cute girls phone. Never seeing her again |
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