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t3_2za5uo | self | Too smart to commit, too stupid to leave | I like this girl I'm with a lot. She's abrasive and incredibly strong willed, but I kinda like that. She's also emotionally scarred which is my weakness.
She seems to keep me at arms length, but at the same time seems to always have me in mind.
Right now we got in a fight over something stupid, and she wants to be alone. So I refused to leave her and am trying to sleep on the couch.
I don't think she respects me, and I think this is making it worse. I think I'm compromising myself in the hopes that she will show some affection. I also think I may just not understand her type if affection. I don't know. Wishful thinking I think. But maybe I can live with it?
I think she makes me a better person, in all honesty, except maybe in how I am with her. Maybe I actually just like the abuse.
I'm pretty sure that despite going apartment shopping together, she's going to end it with me at any minute. | i won't tell her that I love her, but I don't want to let her go. She actually makes me happy. I think I might actually be falling for her. |
t3_1wckdj | relationship_advice | Can I get her back? [20M] | Hey all, my girlfriend told me she had lost feelings for me and that she needed some space. We broke up and I have been so lost and all I can think about is her. I treated her so great when we were together and since we have to see each other everyday at uni it is kind of awkward.
She is pretty hostile towards me and I do not know why. I told her she was being rude to me and that I never have been rude or said a bad thing about her, so she apologized and said she didn't know why. I think I love this girl and I would do anything to get her back. It has been 2 weeks since we broke up and I have not texted her or talked to her other then to get my clothes back. I need tips on getting her back. | girlfriend said she lost feelings and we broke up, I want her back. |
t3_h4a3y | dating_advice | Should I be content with being the "Backup"? | Hey reddit.
So I have liked this girl at work for about 3 years. In the last 2 months we have become properly close ie, texting alot every day and going out to cinema/bars. So I thought I was making some progress and decided to have quite a blunt conversation with her and turns out that she was actually into me until last week when she met this other random guy at a club.
her solution? "Let me see how it goes with this guy and if it goes badly then we can see."
I confronted her that this made it sound like I was a backup in case things went badly and she reluctantly agreed.
Now, I dont like the thought of being the "backup" guy so I figure I have the following options:
1)Stick around, hope it goes badly. (Be a sucker)
2)Bail immediately and get outta there. (not going to be the easiest since I've liked her for 3 years)
3)Make some grand gesture to make me seem like the better option.
thoughts? | Girl wants me to stick around in case her new preferred guy doesnt turn out so well. |
t3_2i88lp | relationships | Girlfriend [18 F] of only one month spontaneously broke up with me [18 M] last night. Don't know what to do :/ | She came to my dorm last night and said that she just wasn't feeling it emotionally anymore. She had just broken up with a previous boyfriend in August and said she felt we rushed into this relationship and needed time for herself. But this was still so sudden and I felt things were going very well and needless to say I was shocked.
I can understand where she's coming from but it still hurts as she was my first real girlfriend and i really do care about her. She said she would still like to be friends but I don't think I can handle being only friends as of right now. I still want to try and make this work.
Any suggestions on what I should/could do about my situation? | Girlfriend broke up with me suddenly saying we went too fast. Am now lost and don't know what to do. :/ |
t3_14deqr | relationship_advice | [20/f] My boyfriend [20/m] is purposely acting put-off during sex when he doesn't get what he wants | ... which is blowjobs. Of course, he didn't tell me this, and after he initiated sex he just started acting really disinterested, pissed off, wouldn't even look at me (during sex). My feelings are hurt and I'm feeling pretty shitty. In the ensuing conversation (about how he's angry that I don't have a 6th blowjob sense), he proceded to blame me because he just "wanted to get what he wanted" and so on and so forth. I find his sense of entitlement a huge turn off. This kind of "it's what I wanted" attitude has been kind of an issue in other ways as well. He brought up how, as we were just starting to date, he didn't want it to get too serious because he was still interested in this other girl (I hadn't known this fully until recently), and wanted to leave his options open.
Which is reasonable (enough), but this girl had told him multiple times that she wasn't interested. The whole situation is kind of awkward, as we go to a small LAC, so we see her around all the time and he's clearly not 100% over it. We've been dating for four months, and little stuff like this just seems really immature to me. I'm feeling especially uncomfortable in the bedroom now, to the point where I don't know what steps to take to rectify the situation :/ | My 20-year-old boyfriend is have spells of acting like a thirteen year old. |
t3_3a6w81 | relationships | [26M] - My gf [20F] of one year, admitted she slept with someone for money | Although she says this happened before we were officially dating. We had been talking and seeing each other at the time but we weren't technically a couple.
She had moved out of her parents house and had her own place at the time. At one point, I went overseas on a month long trip and that's when it happened. She explains her reasoning for doing it was that she was having problems making rent and when someone made the offer, she took the opportunity and slept with a complete stranger at a hotel for an entire night.
It's weird. It's been less than 12 hours after finding out and I'm not even sure how to feel about it. | Before we officially started dating, gf slept with a stranger for money. |
t3_1jfz7e | AskReddit | How bad really is the recession and unemployment in America? | As someone who has never been to America, or outside of my own country, I am confused at the situation in America currently. I hear stuff about it's a great place to live, and I also hear stuff about how unemployment rates are at an all time high and it's hard to live comfortably over there.
Are jobs really hard to find? Or are the people complaining about this just not intelligent/experienced enough for a job? Are jobs stable?
What is the average cost per living and average wage for a citizen?
Another question, if someone were to move to America, would it be worth it to go through all the residential processes and for what gain? | just need a non-bias view on America's current economical situation (job stability and cost of living), as I have heard mixed contradictory views. |
t3_o3gi3 | relationships | Been dating a girl for almost two years but may be finding something special with someone else? | Ok so i am a male 18 and she is a female 18. We have been dating for almost 2 years and things have been ok for the most part. There have been times where i have wanted to be out of the relationship so bad but never did anything because of the fact that i didn't want to deal with the hurt afterwards and also because of the fact that i loved it. I am happy that i am with her now but something has really come up. i met this girl a few months ago through another friend at a football game and almost immediately we hit it off. She was very cool and i felt sort of attracted to her. Im not the kind of guy that would ever cheat so thats not an issue here. This girl really gets me and just cares about all the little things in life and just i feel has been filling a hole that i have had for a while now. I text her everyday and i most definitely have the self control to make sure all the texts stay friendly but i am starting to feel guilty for all this talking behind my gfs back. My relationship now is based off what she thinks is right and wrong and will pretty much force me to do what is suitable for her or shell argue with me and make me miserable till i do. Examples: she wont let me smoke cigars occasionally and says she would break up with me if i smoked weed? Just some background info. I have always been afraid to break up with girls because i HATE the bad feelings after but also i do have feelings for my gf but i cant tell if i need something more. Sorry to sound selfish here. Its hard summing this all up through text especially because i am no writer. | Love gf of two years, met someone amazing, makes me feel very good, dont know what to do, forget about new girl and move on? |
t3_2f7nrw | running | Running as my main for of exercise | About me: I'm 30 and currently around 280 lbs. I have been getting in and out of running over the past 2 years.
At my best, I had dropped quite a bit of weight and was able to run (though not at a blazing speed) about 6 miles. I LOVED it and from someone who had never been able to run a mile as a high school student, this was huge.
I lost a lot of progress when I got into a relationship that was not healthy for my new found love of running, but I'm out of that and back into running.
The issue : many people saw the weight I lost and put back on and are saying I must do more than run to keep it off and be healthy. All I really know is how I felt when I was running, but that doesn't mean they can't be right.
Do I need to do more than run and walk, stay active to be healthy? Or is that combined with a decent diet not enough and I need to work in weight training? I only ask because I feel most comfortable running while lifting is completely foreign and not fun for me. | can running and diet be enough to cut weight and be healthy or is weight training needed? |
t3_1z3aa6 | personalfinance | The triple tax benefits of a Health Savings Account (HAS) | Health Savings Account (HSA) is usually used in conjunction with high deductible health care plans. This can be a very efficient investment account in order not to pay deductibles out of pocket.
When is it worth it to have a HAS account:
* If you are relatively young and healthy
* If you are already maxing out your other tax-sheltered accounts
* If you are not planning on having high health care cost in the next few years
How does it pays off?
The HSA account has 3 tax saving benefits:
* 1) You make pre-tax contributions
* 2) Enjoy tax free compounding on the money
* 3) **If your withdrawals are for qualified health-care expenses** that money is tax free too | HSA is one of the few triple tax benefited accounts in the tax code. |
t3_2q6j17 | relationships | My (20 F) Dads (M 54) bad habits drive me insane and its ruining our relationship. | My dad has many of those little annoying habits, eating loudly, biting his nails whenever his hands are free, loudly sniffing and coughing frequently and blaring BBC news past midnight.
I know logically that I should just get the fuck over it and I've been told to do this many times. But whenever I see him or hear him doing these things, I lose any sense of logic and it drives me absolutely bat shit crazy. People tell me to 'just ignore it' but that is way more easily said then done. I've struggled for years with this problem and now its gotten to the point where I can't sit in a room with my father without getting annoyed, and its putting a strain on our relationship.
I really hate this side of myself and I think I would be a much better person and have a much better relationship with my dad if I could get past this. I want to just get over it and give 0 fucks but I really don't know how. I'm getting desperate.
Reddit, I need your help. If anyone has been in a similar situation and could give me any advise it would mean the world. I love my father and I don't want to be like this any more. | my dad's bad habits drive me insane, so much so that its putting a strain on our relationship. I want to know how to not give a fuck and deal with it. Plz halp |
t3_s9aob | relationships | My boyfriend likes to lie. | me: 19 him: 22, each others firsts. My boyfriend likes to lie to me a lot, usually petty lies. On a scale of 1-10 in terms of how serious these lies are they are about 4-5. He usually lies to me about things like going out with friends, or where he goes during the day, or he will say hes doing something when he's not. I may be overreacting but, I have caught him multiple times lying to my face and it's just turning me off altogether. For example, one time he told me he was "just going out for one-on-one guy talk with a friend" and then I found out from his friend that he never went, and actually went to meet up with a group of friends (that I am familiar and OK with). I always tell him that I'm perfectly happy and OK if he goes out sans me, just make sure not to lie to me about it. But just tonight, he did it again, told me he was "sleeping" but in reality he wasn't even home but was out with a friend (whom i trust).
You see the problem for me here is not that he goes out, but if he lies about it to me. These aren't just a "sudden change in plans" but they are premeditated, for no particular reason. I am fully aware of everything and I know he isn't cheating but it fucking pisses me off. I communicate this with him all the time, but he still continues to make stupid fucking lies. It's to the point that it makes me just want to go out and lie to him like a cold bitch but that's not like me and i'm not a hypocrite. | boyfriend constantly makes petty lies to me for no fucking reason. |
t3_3ppuzl | relationships | Me [23F] wondering if I'm overanalyzing situation with [24M] I've started seeing | Met a guy and we've hung out a few times. Seemed like we really hit it off and he said he's glad he met me. We went out on a date once, and just hang out at his place every time we see each other since then. Whenever we're together, he talks to me about personal things and he's gotten excited that we share a few interests.
I was hesitant to sleep with him because I don't hook up with people. I get attached to people too easily, so I prefer to wait until there's an exclusive relationship to avoid getting hurt. However, I really liked this guy, and he made me feel really comfortable so we mess around whenever we hang out now. He's really cuddly and sweet when we're face-to-face, but doesn't talk to me much outside of seeing each other.
Last time I saw him, he wanted me to stay the night. When I left the next morning, he asked if he would see me soon. I am really interested, so of course I said yes. When I texted him later that day about when he's free next, he said "Not sure :/" and that he's "super busy :/" He always gave me a few days when he's free before when I had asked.
So yesterday, I asked him about seeing a movie some time that I know we both want to see and he said "sure." Today, I told him I wanted to cuddle and he never responded. I'm not sure if he's actually interested and he's just suddenly actually busy or if I'm just a hook-up that he's suddenly bored with. | Been talking to a guy. He doesn't text much, but talks a lot and is cute and cuddly in person. Not sure if he's actually interested or if I'm just a hook-up he's not into anymore. |
t3_3xs4xl | dating_advice | Rebounding Your Way Into A Relationship | Sometimes the first thing we want to do after a relationship ends, is to seek familiarity, comfort, and attention. While theres nothing wrong with that, there is often a neglect in dealing with the feelings of the breakup and last relationship. Though not everyone needs an immense mourning or reflection period, it is in one's best interest to take a second to sit with the discomfort, sit with the pain, and sit in the present- in order to have a promising future.
If you stumble on to the next person and never look back without having a time of reflection, you are doing your future self a disservice. More times than not, if we run from the pain- the pain will eventually catch up to us; and usually in a more harsh way. Furthermore, it will teach your resilience and independence- to be whole without another individual.
So take a second. Let it get worse before it immediately gets better. Then, move forward.
What are your thoughts? Experiences with this? | Reflect and take time to yourself before you run into the arms of another. |
t3_2up1uz | relationships | My boyfriend (27M) starts accusing me (24F) of not wanting to go on a weekend trip with him because I got into a car accident | I just got into a car accident. Thankfully no one was hurt. Everything is ok but I am a bit shaken up. My boyfriend and I were planning a weekend trip together, but now I just want to stay home and unpack (I recently moved, and I have to visit some family in a week, so I'm kind of in a time crunch if I want to get my stuff organized). I told my boyfriend that because of the cost of repairing the car and such, I can no longer afford to go on this trip because the repairs are going to cost $$ and I am feeling overwhelmed with the amount of stuff (unpacking and organizing) I have to do with the recent move. He offers to pay for the weekend trip. When I said no (because I think it's unfair for me to impose that cost on him), he starts accusing me of not wanting to go on the trip in the first place because all the "excuses" (unpacking, cost, time) are "trivial". He starts staying stuff like, "if you didn't want to go to begin with, you should have just told me. All of your excuses are inconsequential and you can just 'deal' with them." I understand that he has been planning this for awhile and it's kind of his v-day plans, but Jesus, I just got into a car accident!
Is he being unreasonable? I am kind of upset that he would even accuse of me that. Am I overreacting? I'm feeling a lot of emotions right now and I'm unhappy that he isn't being more understanding. How should I talk to him about it? | Got into a car accident - I am safe but shaken up. Boyfriend isn't understanding and assumes that I don't want to take a weekend trip with him because I didn't want to go in the first place and am making excuses. |
t3_24c01e | relationships | I [18M] am confused as hell… | So I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 10 months now, my senior year of high school is coming to an end. She's going to California for college, I'm on my way to Montana. This girl was everything I've ever wanted until about 3 weeks ago. She slowly has been pushing away from me. She doesnt provide any affection to me at all unless I initiate it or, we are completely alone. But the thing is before 3 weeks ago she loved stuff like holding my hand, hugging, and kissing. Now thats all gone. I basically have to ask her if stuff like that is even okay. It leads to me not feeling wanted by her at all. Yet when I confront her about it or ask her she claims that she does want me and that it's not a big deal. She claims we need to "respect" others and that holding hands is somehow disrespectful to others… I've had a conversation with her about it 3-4 times now and how it bugs me that she has changed. I truly don't even know how to approach this situation any longer. I feel as if I don't belong when I'm around her and that I'm barely more than a friend… sure as hell not feeling like a boyfriend at all. What should I do? | My girlfriend shows me no affection anymore because it's "disrespectful" to others. |
t3_qs3im | AskReddit | How did you get back at someone? | When I was in high school, there was a guy who would always pick on me for some odd reason. He said he hated white girls, and he would always talk crap on me and pull on my hair or kick my chair. I had to deal with him for our 2nd and 6th period classes. I decided to keep my mouth shut because one day I would have my revenge.
That all changed when the teacher changed the seating arrangement. She sat me behind him, in the last row of the class.
One day I brought some fake blood for a halloween costume and poured it all over a tampon, completely soaking it, and stuck it in his hood, along with a note that said, "Never fuck with a girl, we know how to get back at shitheads like you". That was during 2nd period. People were talking about it at school, saying they saw a tampon in his hood. Keep in mind that a majority of people at school hated him. (I went to a school of only 400 students). During the last 2 or 3 minutes of class, he decided to put his hood on, and his fell down his head and left a bloody trail down his nose. He was completely humiliated, and even the teacher laughed. When he read the note, he automatically looked at me, and I just smiled. Lets just say he never messed with me again. | I put a fake blood covered tampon in my bully's hood. No one told him. |
t3_1v5o5l | relationships | Me [28m] with my roommate [25F] 1 month, falling for my roommate | Backstory: 25f and her friend moved out together, about a week later, the friend decided that she wants to move back to her parents.
I 28m looking to move out of current house (living with a couple, wanted to give them their space) was asked to move out by 25f.
I 28m have known 25f for about 1.5 years, I've had a small crush on her since i met her but never acted on it. We both have dated other people during this time. We became pretty decent friends though, asking each other for advice, similar sense of humor, outlook, goals. So when she asked if i wanted to move in, i let her know how i felt about her. She said that if we had met differently there could be something, but for now she would rather stay friends and not risk losing the friendship if it didnt work out.
Since i never expected anything between us, i reluctantly said ok to moving in. Its been about a month, and in this time, my feelings for her have grown. We hang out a lot more, go to dinners together, meet each others friends, talk into the night. Stuff that people in a relationship do together. But she also makes me feel insignificant at times, this is due to my own jealousy issues
we have 10 more months in the lease, and i feel like im going crazy. She will talk to me about dating and encourage me to date.
Please reddit, give me advice on what i should do. should i talk to her and let her know that my feelings are growing? Should i just ask her to cuddle one day? Or should i just leave it? | 28m moved in with 25f friend, started to develop feelings for her./what should i do! |
t3_28rn9k | offmychest | THANKS GUYS, I STILL CAN'T FUCKING SLEEP! [CAW] | So I'm still a little shaken since this just happened a few minutes ago but I feel like I need to vent a bit.
So it's around 3:30 in the morning right now and I just got done yelling at my friends for coming into my room shit faced, crowding around mmy bed, while I was asleep, and having one of them crawl onto the bed over me for FSM knows why...
I screamed at the guy to get off my bed and yelled the rest of them crowded around to GET THE FUCK OFF ME AND OUT MY ROOM.
See there was kind of a reason I felt this distressed. These friends get really weird drunk like leaving a bag full of piss, exposing their balls while playing beer pong, and some other shit I am too tired to remember weird.
So after cooling down for a bit, not beong able to sleep, I decided to go out in my PJ's and confront them, yelling what the fuck were they thinking and not to come into my room again.
So th3 [CAW] is for asking if I overreacted or not because...yeah...they were completely shit faced.
Whew...thanks offmuchest for listening. | Drunk people climbed on my bed and I yelled at them. Was I too harsh? |
t3_1j7imc | self | Really needed to vent so here, my sushi apprenticeship hardships. | I put myself and and a few other people into an awkward situation. My boss at work is great, when we close together we just chit chat about all the great nerd shit we are into and sometimes we talk about chicks and what not. All in all he is a great guy and he believes in me that I'm going to impress him and perform perfectly at work. Now heres where it starts to suck. He sees me at my best and tends not to be overly critical when I make mistakes but the other chefs ride my ass. They are nice and everything but they really ride my ass hard (oh grow up). Any who I'm relatively new to the sushi business and I wish I could be perfect and all but I'm only human. I've noticed my biggest problem isn't the speed that I work at or my work ethic at all but my mind. My mind is constantly wandering and I do all the important shit and almost all of the other shit perfectly but there's a few things I suck at, turning off the sushi display case refrigeration system and time management. I work hard but once I've finished my internal check list I check it a few more times and then I feel lost, I try to think of other extra shit to do but that still only lasts so long. I feel like I need to slow my roll a bit and realize that just because I'm being asked to do something the person asking me has been in my shoes and deserves my respect but also knows that it takes time to prepare good quality stuff. | I work at a big corporate sushi joint and I work my ass off but occasionally I find myself with nothing to do, I also might have some major confidence issues. I need mental help. That is all. |
t3_1luncq | personalfinance | Starting a 401k when most of the funds are expensive....Index fund only? | I'm just starting out and getting my 401k choices set up. My employer matches up to $3,000 if the employee deposites $5,000 on a yearly basis. It's 100% for the first $1k and 50% thereafter.
Most of the fund choices from Fidelity seem to be pretty expensive (based on the suggestions online). Would it be foolish to just allocate 100% to the very cheap S&P 500 index fund? Here are the funds and their "gross expense ratios"
The other option is to just put it in the Target 2050 fund if the rate is not considered too high?
I am simultaneously opening a Roth IRA with Vanguard and was just going to use their target date fund as it seems pretty expensive. I suppose I could compensate on the Vanguard end for maybe more bonds or something to get closer to the recommended 10% for my age? | Thoughts on going all-in on an S&P 500 Index fund when the other options are mediocre |
t3_4mzaim | relationships | My [25 M] boyfriend [26 M] has me in his phone as another name. | We have been dating for a little over a year and a half and are long distance right now. I noticed he had me in his phone as another name like, 8 months ago, I noticed in a text screenshot. I asked him then, and he blamed his phone.
He sent me another screenshot today and I noticed he again has me in as the same name. He cant blame his phone this time because it's WhatsApp. The name is a female name (we are both gay men)
I don't think he is cheating on me at all, in fact I can't even imagine he'd have time; he is a medical student and we talk often.
He is a far more private about being gay (but he still is out to friends and such, and some immediate family) than I am (and I am fairly private.) I am wondering if it is just related to that...maybe he doesn't want something popping on his screen up from another guy. Would it be stupid of me to let this go? | Noticed by screenshot that long distance boyfriend has me in phone as woman's name. We are both gay. I feel like it probably has to do with him wanting to hide being gay from people. Should I confront anyway? |
t3_vor2w | AskReddit | What's your most unlikely chance meeting? | Mine happened a couple days ago. It all started on Omegle, about three years ago where I met a random girl (gender has since been confirmed) who is now one of my better friends. She made me sign up for Tumblr, and I just started subscribing to random people, because I had (and still have) no idea what the point of that site is.
The first person I subscribed to posted some funny things, and a couple pictures of herself doing random things. I was reading the Hunger Games books at that time, and thought she looked exactly how I imagined Katniss would. I told her that, and she had no idea who Katniss was, or what the Hunger Games was. I told her to buy the books immediately, and she did. Off topic, but still funny: the lady at Barnes and Noble told her the exact same thing I did when she was checking out with the books.
So she loved the books, and we became friends. The kind of friends where we comment on each others' Facebook post every couple months, but still friends.
Fast forward to a couple days ago, in Disney World... I see her walk by, and just say "Katniss!" She actually looked, and we both freaked out for a few minutes about how crazy it was. | Subscribed to a random girl on Tumblr, told her she looked how I thought Katniss would, ran into her in Disney World a couple years later. |
t3_35zsgx | relationships | I've [19 F] been seeing my boyfriend and prior close friend [20 M] for the past 2 months, and I can't tell if us talking less is an indication of the relationship pattering out or if it's normal. | I've only seen one person prior to this, and it lasted about 2 months. We really hit it off and talked a lot, pretty much whenever we were free every day. It was similar with this relationship was well. However, lately we haven't been talking nearly as much online or meeting up as much in real life. I'm not sure if it's just a normal result of infatuation wearing off or if it's a sign it might not work out (in the previous relationship the same thing happened, and he eventually broke it off shortly after).
Approximately how often do you talk to/hang out with your SO? I'm not exactly sure what the typical amount even is, or what the difference is between maintaining a healthy distance vs not dating at all. | How often do you typically talk to your SO? |
t3_1rg4k7 | relationships | Have negative feelings towards a mutual friend of ex and me for stupid reason and it's making me feel bad | So, my first love and I broke up around 8 or 9 months ago (together for 1.5 yrs). Him and I decided to remain friends out of mutual respect towards one another and the fact that we are neighbors and have mutual friends. Our break up wasn't mutual because I really didn't want it to happen, but I respect his decision and have accepted it. But I'm pretty sure I still have some feelings for him left
Not too long ago we met a girl who was the new roommate of a mutual friend of ours. Girl is super cool and nice and honestly extremely compatible for my ex. Her personality is great for him and I honestly think she may have a little crush on him and I know he finds her attractive. They talk in a way that him and I never were able to really talk when we were together. The only thing that doesn't really work between them is their age difference. She just turned 19 and he just turned 24. A bunch of my friends and I (ex and girl i'm talking about included) have planned a thanksgiving potluck together tomorrow night and when I heard that she was gonna be there I felt super negative about it. For no good reason. I never used to feel this way about her but now all of a sudden I do even though she's really cool. I feel bad about having negative feelings for her, out of jealousy I guess. It makes me feel really bad. I hate that I have residual feelings for someone that I will never have again and someone that broke my heart but I just can't seem to get rid of them and now that this girl is in the picture I am having bad feelings towards her for no good reason. | Have negative feelings towards a really cool girl in me and my ex's group of friends just because her and my ex are very compatible. It makes me feel really bad. Don't know how to deal with it |
t3_2an1j3 | relationships | Teacher student relationship? | I am a 16 year old girl, about to be a junior in high school. I have a problem with my 27 year old teacher. I had him last year, and I hated him at first because he seemed like an arrogant douchebag. As the year went on, I began to develop feelings for him. At first, it just seemed like a little crush but 7 months later, he's all I can think about. I know if we were the same age we would be perfect for each other. I don't want to get him in any trouble, so I tried my best to keep my distance. The only problem is, he had an extremely flirty personality and I blush and giggle whenever he talks to me. I couldn't focus at all in class last year, and I don't want him to get accused of anything. A lot of people have been gossiping about me and the teacher, because I told one of my friends that I had a crush on him and she spread it to my whole grade. I don't know what to do, please help? | I have a crush on my teacher, what do I do? |
t3_380p6t | self | Yesterday was a horrible day. | Yesterday I did shrooms. While tripping I kept on getting this feeling of deja-vu and convinced myself that I was stuck in an infinite loop, which was really overwhelming and terrified me. In the middle of my terror, my mom called and told me our family cat died and I had to go home. I get home to see my brother and father hysterically crying, which made me start crying, and then a little later I developed an excruciating migraine that caused me to throw up due to the pain for 2 hours. So yep, it was a horrible day. | Found out my cat died while in the middle of a bad shrooms trip. Went home, still tripping, to a devastated family, then got a headache so bad I threw up for 2 hours. |
t3_2xzsg8 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [20F] of 4 months. Slimey guy from work (24M) hitting on girlfriend who doesn't think its a big deal. How could I confront her about this? | My girl has a work friend that definitely likes her in a "more than a friend kinda way" and is texting her late night with songs like Immortals by Fall Out Boy (look up the lyrics if you're unfamiliar). This dude is engaged (long engagement) but hes already made it clear to her that hes just "waiting for something better". She has tried to talk to him about his slimey behavior before and he apologized but continues to be a slimey duchebag.
How could I nicely bring up to her that he is still making me uncomfortable with his slimey douchebagginess? | Work friend being duchey; looking for advice |
t3_1z46rq | relationships | Me [34 F] with [37 M] should I be friends w benefits w man who values emotional connection? | I friend-zoned a really sweet guy 6 months ago because I am primarily lesbian and wasn't really attracted to him. We hang out, smoke up, watch movies, go on hikes. As time went by, I became attracted to him.
I am engaged to a woman but it is an open relationship. She's ok with it but thinks he will get hurt and I will lose the friendship.
He is a very gentle and emotional man with a tendency to depression. I talk about it with him sometimes, and he says he still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend, but he feels close to me. He never pushes but is clearly interested. He frequently says things like it is the emotional connection that is the goal for him and stuff like that, and i believe he means it. | Will a sensitive emotional man get hurt badly by a friends with benefits arrangement with a lesbian? |
t3_2ohkrs | tifu | TIFU by failing the cause | This was the biggest fuck up of my life, after so much hard work I ended up failing miserably and letting down two people.
The fuck up all started last night. We decided we were going to do something we have never done before and thought it would be awesome. So we started our journey last night to fight for the cause. We spent hours on end trying to accomplish the unaccomplishable and yet I failed my good friends Mam and Save (real names cause who cares)
So we spent a good 9 hours working for the cause only for me to let them down and fail them and now they must carry on without me for another 5 hours. I don't think can really go on anymore with the disappoint I caused them. We were having such a great time singing old rap songs and making jokes. It was such an adventure it was such an adrenaline rush and it all ended so anti-climatically. One minute everything was great and now its all over. | I fucked up by dying in diablo 3 hardcore mode and letting people down. |
t3_xszfy | AskReddit | Art major looking for advice when trying to move out after college. Anything that could help make this decision is welcome. | I am a recent graduate from RIT with a BFA in Fine Arts. I moved back home (Pittsburgh) after graduation and had the plan to work for the summer, save some money, and then move back to Rochester and live with my boyfriend. So far I haven't had any luck finding a job and think that I might as well just continue my job search in Rochester, surrounded by the people that make me most happy. I'm looking for advice because my parents are giving me advice that conflicts with this plan. I don't have a car, so I'd have to rely on a bike or public transportation. The rent (including utilities) is going to be between $360-$400 a month. I'm hoping my loan payments (which will start in December) will be under $1,000 a month. I'm willing to work non-art related jobs and multiple jobs if necessary. | The main decision is if I want to move up to Rochester sooner and possibly struggle a little bit with transportation and take longer to save for a car but be with my tight-knit friend group and boyfriend, or alternatively, stay home, save everything I make, and move in 5-6 months after I can buy a car, but have to start a new job search after my loan payments have started. |
t3_2aj1mx | relationships | Me [20 M] and my [20 F] girlfriend are having issues, likely caused by me. Help? | Hey guys, I don't really know if this is the right place to put this out there but I don't really know where else to go. I'll start from the beginning.
The relationship between her and I in the past few weeks/months have been fantastic. Enjoying the time together, going to movies, lunch/dinner, sleepovers, etc. In the past I've had pretty rocky relationships, including getting cheated on, and not feeling like I'm wanted. So some insecurities unfortunately fall into place because of that, which makes me sometimes ask "are you mad at me?" or something along those lines. When I ask her those things, in the past she'd console me and assure me everything was fine between us. But recently she's become pretty annoyed for hearing these questions, and it's getting to a point where she's actually questioning our relationship because of it. This was last night when she told me about her being upset.
Then, she went on to go on quite a list of things that I do that now annoy her. One specifically, I didn't even realize but I not my fingernails in her car and didn't put the nails out of the window. I didn't do it on purpose, but she went on a rant because of it. Before I know she would have shrugged it off, but now it's just upsetting her.
I don't really know what to do, we've been together since April (I know quite a short time) but we were good friends before that for over two years. She came out to me as having feelings, if that makes a difference. I would go as far as saying that I love this girl, and the last thing I'd want to do is to let her go. But that's what it seems like she's leaning towards. Any insight on my situation would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. | My Girlfriend and I are just finished the honeymoon stage in our relationship and I know she's having second thoughts, possibly because of me. Help? |
t3_2ssett | relationships | Me [20 M] with my friend [20 M], I've found out that his ex that he is heartbroken about, might have cheated on him six months ago. Debating on whether to mention it. | Okay, so I have a good friend.. nicest guy I know. His girlfriend of about 8 months recently broke up with him, I also know her and I studied with her for a year and lived with her for a couple of months (with a few others) ANYWAY
I was at a party and I had gotten into a conversation with someone who went on some party bus trip with said ex girlfriend a couple of months into my friend and hers relationship. She tells me that she saw ex gf getting fingered.
Now I am not sure what I should do, I feel like it's something my friend should know, since they were together at the time and I had a feeling that she wasn't completely being honest with him. I know a lot of guys stick up for their friend and tell people how much of a good guy their friend is, but seriously.. the nicest guy I know and he didn't deserve that.
I should mention that the ex gf and my friend are currently studying the same degree and will be doing so next year as well, so of course it will be pretty awkward for them.
Do I tell him this information? Or would I just make it worse? Because the possibility that it isn't true is also there, there's one person that supposedly witnessed it. | Friends ex might have been cheating on him, unsure if I should tell him or not. |
t3_1q5d9s | relationships | I [M18] sophmore in college met a freshman [F18] two weeks ago, worried i pushed to hard | So two weeks ago i met this girl through some mutual friends and we started to hit it off at the party we were at. She explained to me that she had a boyfriend but they were in an open relationship because he was in college on the other side of the country. Fast forward to the end of the night i end up staying at her place, we fooled around a bit but nothing really happened cause her roomate was around.
i met up with her again last week at a rave/party in the forest of my campus, we made out a bit but then she had to take care of her shitfaced roommate so she left. I asked to see her again this weekend but she told me she was going home for the weekend.
I asked her if she wanted to do something tonight but she was hesitant because she had class in the morning, i proceeded to try to convince her until she flat out said no. Im worried i put her off by trying too hard, is this a valid concern? Should i just move on or try to continue with things, knowing i will probably not see her again untill around thanksgiving? or am i overreacting to this whole situation? | Met a girl, we hooked up, now im worried i sounded desperate and put her off, help! |
t3_1vroib | relationships | Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] 3 years, how can I make her break this habit? | Ok, so my GF who I have loved for now 3 years has this obsession with nappies. I dident know this going into the relationship, but I agreed to accept it. basically she wears nappies around the house and makes me change her (even if she has done a poo). I Know this is some sort of fetish, but I just cant stand it anymore. She said she would stop it, but she finds it hard to. Does anybody a way to help her break it? | Girlfriend has a fetish and we both want to break it |
t3_hacti | AskReddit | What is the role of environment on sexuality? | I have been having an argument with a friend about the effects of a more tolerant society. We got on the topic of gay marriage, and it was claimed that gay marriage(or increased tolerance towards gays in general) will lead to more homosexuals.
We both agree that the majority of gays were born that way, but it seems logical that some become gay due to environment(either as a choice or just due to environmental factors).
I want to know anything more I can about how much of a role environment does have, especially the role of tolerance within the environment. | As society becomes more tolerant will there be more homosexuals who weren't born as homosexuals? and Why/why not. |
t3_zaowv | AskReddit | What is a time in your life where you suddenly realized you had to change and how did you find the inner strength to do so? | I feel on the verge of one of these moments in my own life. Long story short, I have strong feelings of antipathy for women because of past experiences where I felt controlled or humiliated by them. I thought I was well on the way to getting over some of these issues but recently at a party I got drunk and pretty much put the cards on the table. Drama ensued and I'm left with the realization that I really need to change some things in my outlook and behavior. What are some times when you found yourself forced to change yourself. How did you do it? | Major trust issues with women. I have got to change. How did you overcome your do or die psychological dysfunction? |
t3_53smnc | relationships | Me [45 M] with my Ex-Wife [40 F] 15years, trouble moving on | I separated from my wide coming on 2 years ago - she lied and cheated and it all ended. We have 2 kids and only ongoing communication is brief and related to them. I have no desire whatsoever to get back together and although still extremely hurt by the lies and cheating have not missed her at all.
Im kind of a bit lost and in all honesty still hurt. I hate saying that as I should just be moving on esp after this length of time. Reason for this post is advice on me. I really feel if her new relationship with the other person ended I would be in a better position and feel stronger. In know my happiness is not dependent on her status but it is clearly affecting me. Even if it did end I would still not want anything to do with her - but I feel I would be better able to cope/move on.
Occasionally I will imagine her relationship failed and it makes me feel more confident and strong. When I think about her being happy and with someone else I feel weak and sad and its holding me back. I know it sound pathetic but is this just a major ego bruising? Is it ego making me feel this way? Before anyone says I want to be with her - please believe me this is not true - I have practically nothing to do with her and do not want to. Why is it that if she is still with the person she cheated on me with its harder for me - I suspect only ego here but interested in some more independent opinions | Why do i care if my ex is with the person she cheated on me with - why is it seemingly holding me back when I don't want to be with her?! |
t3_19ogzv | relationships | I'm [24f] unsure whether to give up [26m] who I adore | He [26m] and I [24f] have been together for about 14 months now; we're military and met at our current base. He has some commitment issues and only recently admitted that we're in a relationship – he just has problems calling it that. Otherwise, he is an intelligent, athletic, and all around great guy. He makes me happy.
Two weeks ago he had an accident and was out of a car for a week; I let him stay at my apartment and he carpooled with me to work.
Last weekend was my birthday, and he treated me amazingly– flowers, wine, dinner, incredibly thoughtful presents, and company for the whole weekend.
But, he left his e-mail open on my computer and being my nosy self (yes, Reddit, I know it's a really bad habit), I looked through some of his recent e-mails. He sent one to his best friend back home, during the week he was staying at my place, saying approximately: *I'm in a sorta-relationship right now. She's great, but she's white* [he has a thing for Asians] *and too much of a fireball. I think it's good while we're stuck here, but...*
I don't like the idea that he has some kind of expiration date on "us". It confuses me that he seems to genuinely care for me, but what he tells his friends is different.
What should I do? Should I stay? | 14 months together, found out he's telling his friends different stuff than he tells me. Should I stay? |
t3_2ixdgt | relationships | I [23M] just started being ignored by a girl [22F] I've been seeing. | So I've been seeing this girl for the past few weeks. We met on Tinder (I know, right?), and talked from there. We both knew we were looking for more of a relationship than just a hookup (although I did state in answer to a question that I was fine with casual sex, if that's what it was going to be). Everything seemed to be going good. She lives an hour away so we only see each other on weekends, but we talked every day. She came over last Sunday late and stayed through a lunch date Monday afternoon. And then after she left my house on Monday afternoon, she just has been really stunted in her replies or completely ignored me. We had a 4 text conversation on Monday night. We didn't talk for a couple of days, which is the longest it's been since we started seeing each other. Then last night, I sent her "hey" then like an hour later I got a "Hello." With a period… That can't be a good sign, right? I sent her back "What's up? Haven't talked to you in a minute." And she didn't respond to it. Tonight I just asked her if everything was alright, and haven't gotten a response.
So I don't know if she's ignoring me or whatever, or why. If I did something wrong, I'd like to know what. But if she's just done with the "relationship" then at least tell me. I've had women ignore me out of their lives before, and it's not cool. I'm 23, and despite my young age, I would like to find someone to be with. But like I said, casual sex is fine with me if I know that's what it is going to be. I don't like high school-esque bullshit drama and don't need that in my life. | Guy talks to girl, guy sleeps with girl, girl starts to ignore guy completely, guy has no idea what's up. What is going on? Should I just say "fuck it" and move on? |
t3_506rdg | relationships | I [18M] lied to my mom 2 days before going to college and now she doesn't trust me | Last week I was going on a date. We originally planned to go mini-golfing in a town near my house but on the way there, the girl called me and asked if I wanted to go to a beach near her house instead. So, instead of calling my mom, I went to the beach without telling her that I didn't go mini-golfing. When she texted me asking where I was I said "In [Insert town name] mini-golfing". Turns out, she used find my iPhone to track me and knew I was in another town at the beach. When I got home she asked why I lied and I was honest and told her it was because I had already told the girl I would go to the beach and I didn't want to bother asking her permission, but when she asked where I was I panicked and lied to avoid getting into trouble. She was pissed for a couple of days, but seemed to get over it. Yesterday my friends gave me an expensive bottle of vodka for a going away present. I hid it in a backpack in my room so I could bring it to college. This morning, my mom was helping me pack and she found the bottle. At first she asked when it was (it was wrapped in a sweatshirt so she wasn't able to see the shape) and I said "I don't know". Then she began to unravel the sweatshirt so I said "It's a bottle, my friends gave it to me for a going away present". Then she got extremely angry at me for lying to her. She said a lot of things that really hit me hard. At one point she said "I don't know where I went wrong in raising you. You used to be an A+ kid and now you're a fucking D-." I don't know what to do now. I have 2 days to regain her trust or at least start to. Please give me advice. | Lied to my mom, i'm a D- kid |
t3_3nhx4x | tifu | TIFU by asking a colleague when he's leaving | So this fuck up happened yesterday at work when a colleague and I began chatting. We were having a simple and innocent conversation about work, when he mentioned how he was trying to be as useful as he could while he was still around. This didn't really strike me as odd and I just presumed that he meant he was preparing to quit so I asked if he was leaving the company, to which I got a mysterious and vague: "In a sense yes" as a reply.
Now I would like to clarify I am not a morning person and that getting up early knocks a few digits off my IQ so I thought nothing of this strange reply and just tried to sound as interested as I could by asking if he had a date in mind for when he was leaving.
This is when he finally decided to drop the bombshell and tell me that I was clearly misunderstanding what he meant. Well it turns out he's been ill for months (something I was unaware of) and that he had recently been to the hospital and informed he only has 12 months left to live. Oh how I would've loved have gone Wicked Witch of the West mode and melted into the floor, never to be seen again. Unfortunately that didn't happen and there I sat, trying to fathom the magnitude of my own stupidity. He didn't say much to me after that and even left work early which only extended my one way guilt trip. | Asked a dying man when he was thinking about leaving |
t3_2sj4nz | tifu | TIFU by screaming in terror and waking up my family | I woke up at an especially ungodly hour this morning... I remember briefly trying to figure out why I would wake up so early, when my hand came into contact with the hand of a stranger. Heart racing, I realized that the position of the hand meant that the intruder was between the wall and myself. Odd... The first thought of my morning addled brain was wondering why the intruder would go through the trouble of climbing over my body to fall asleep. Surely, any sensible person would have simply just plopped down on the empty space next to me.
It was with this thought that I convinced myself that "No, I am not feeling the hand of an intruder" and so I lowered my grip and tightened my hand around what was undoubtedly the arm of a stranger. I gave it a little shake just to verify my suspicions and sure enough, the arm started to limply flop around. I panicked. I've never been so freaked out in my entire life. I started screaming like a little schoolgirl and was inconsolable for a good 10 seconds. It took me a while to realize that my other arm was asleep and that the "intruder" I had come into contact with was actually myself.
I sorta fell asleep with one arm jammed (to the point of my elbow) under my pillow. My arm had gone completely numb – apparently when you can't feel anything in one arm you don't realize that the hand you are coming into contact with is your own. Embarrassing… I'm never going to hear the end of this from my family. | I'm an idiot. Fell asleep with my arm under my pillow and woke up thinking someone else was sleeping next to me. Woke up my family with the ensuing screams. |
t3_2tfqar | relationships | I [17 M] want to postpone a date with my GF [18 F]. But I'm not sure what to say? | Basically we have a date to go to a nearby city tomorrow by using the train. However there is a football match in the city on that day, and due to this the train and city will likely be crowded. The crowds will not meld well with my social anxiety and I want to postpone the date for next weekend. However I'm worried this is not an acceptable reason for postponing. I'm not sure what reason I should give my girlfriend for postponing, as I don't want to sound weird by saying it's mostly anxiety. What excuse should I use/what should I say? | Have a date tomorrow, but because a football match is on the train and city will likely be crowded, so I want to postpone by a week. What excuse should I use because I'm not sure crowds are an acceptable excuse? |
t3_3zu2ma | relationships | Me [24 F] with my [31 M] friend, we only had one date, but now he loves me? | A guy I really like left me a drunken voicemail saying he loves me. I like him but not THAT much. I'm still on again off again with my ex and I'm not ready for that kind of relationship right now.
I do really like him hes cute and fun and funny, but it's too soon. I still want to hang out with him. What do I do?
Also, now we work together, and I see him all the time... he isn't bothering me, just saying hi and asking how things are and I feel like other people think we spend too much time talking.
I don't want him to think I hate him, but I need space. How can we go back to the way things were before? | Please give me an idea of what to do about this guy who is moving too fast! |
t3_1dchrc | relationship_advice | [27m] she[27f] wants "space", but is keeping in contact. | Friends for 4 years, been dating for 4 months.
Classic "i need space"; i know, i know... Most people think this is the coward's way to ease into a breakup. I am partially expecting this, though I obviously don't want it to happen.
She tells me she wants some space on the weekend, fine. When we're done hanging out, I grab my stuff and go, expecting not to hear from her for a while.
She texts me later that day. I keep my responses somewhat short, as I am keeping busy and enjoying the rest of my weekend.
She asks "you really like me don't you?" I reply "how do you know? Is it obvious?". "Yeah... I just know".
She texts me later saying "If i asked you to come over tonight, you probably would.". I respond "nope".
Is she looking for some sort of control or validation? She said she wants space, I'm giving her space. I'm not about to ignore her, but if she's texting me, I don't think she is giving herself the space she wanted.
I don't like these relationship games, either. I don't like to waste my time with them or the people that play them. How can I approach this situation to get an answer to the following without being too harsh: is it over? Yes or no. I don't want to bother with "what ifs", because they are poison to the mind. If no, how much space does she want/need? Limit visits during the week? A week apart, two weeks, a month? | she says wants space, but is still texting me like nothing changed. How do I politely ask her to tell me whats going on (provided she knows) the next time she texts me? |
t3_333r8p | relationships | My (24) fiance's close friend is getting out of prison soon..worried.. | My fiancé has a friend who has been in prison for 2 out of the 4 years we have been together. Before my fiancé met me, he and his friend would live a really dangerous and sketchy lifestyle. Once his friend went away and we became more serious, moved in together and got engaged, my fiancé did a complete 180, got a good job, is in school and even stopped smoking. He contributes this to our relationship, saying that if it weren't for me, he would be either dead or locked up with his friend, and it's absolutely true. However, his friend is getting out in less than a month and calls my fiancé weekly to express how excited he is about getting out and back into "the streets" with him again. My fiancé has expressed his nervousness to me too and I don't want him dragged 3 steps back after all the work he did to get right again. How can we find a solution that doesn't make his friend feel abandoned but doesn't pull my fiancé in the wrong direction. they have history and I don't want him to give up on a friendship. | fiance's close friend is getting out of prison soon, I don't want to see him go backwards |
t3_mr7hr | AskReddit | Have you ever gotten into a mini-road race involuntarily? | I just driving minding my own business in the right lane when a guy in this huge F150(lets call him F1guy) decided to come from behind to in front of me. F1guy slowed down ,for whatever reason, so I decided to change lanes and ended up in the left lane. I passed him up a little bit and he comes up beside me. I inched up a bit more and so the speedy cars behind could pass. F1guy decided I must have thrown him the finger and went a little ahead of me. I slowed down as a saw an impending red light. F1guy said "f*&% that s&$#" and ran it causing him to get into a happy little accident. Everyone was ok though. | Some guy thought I was trying to race him and got into an accident because of his toolness. |
t3_vzeir | AskReddit | My manager at work and some co-workers friend requested me on Facebook, wouldn't both options be a bad idea? | I hate my job, I work in the kitchen at Taco Bell where only guys work. They're assholes to me because I'm a girl, talk down to me like i'm retarded for shits and giggles, and when they don't feel like working next to me making the food they tell me "Dishes, NOW." I always tell them they're not the boss of me, they go over to my manager and whisper something to him, and then my male manager tells me "nicely" to do the dishes (which is a gross job, there's rotten food everywhere)
Did I mention that the manager cut my hours down to 4 hours a **week?**
Now they're all friend requesting me on facebook for who knows why, even the manager. What should I do? Accepting them would be a bad idea because I don't want them to see my personal life, and denying them would hurt my manager's feelings. If I deny them they'll hassle me at work too. | Manager and douchebag coworkers friend requested me. Accepting them would be bad, and denying them would be bad. What do I do? |
t3_fa0un | AskReddit | Are you Memorable? | It is just as the title says - I want to know if you feel like you are a memorable person.
I am a university student and more often then not I find myself meeting people quite often while having a few drinks, or through friends that introduce us in passing. This is not to say that I have 0 friends and I have a hard time meeting people, just that I am not making friends on a day to day basis.
I've always had a self-diagnosed above-average memory, and as such, I am not always able to remember names of people I meet, but a majority of the time I will at the very least recognize faces. Despite not knowing where I know them from I will still acknowledge them as someone I have met before. However, I find this is not reciprocated nearly as much as I would think. Often times, I find people walking directly by me and I am left thinking to myself, "how can this person not remember me?"
What I am asking you Reddit is if you think that you are memorable. Do people remember you after only a brief encounter? Do you remember them?
On the other hand, could this "forgetting" of people you have met be attributed to many people just ignoring new people they have met in order to avoid possible awkward situations?
Just looking for your thoughts... | I'm new...be nice...or don't...either way's cool |
t3_3o6xxh | relationships | My Roommate/Best Friend [21 M] and I [22 M] have been having numerous disagreements involving my GF [22 F] | Where do I begin?
I have known both my roommate (let's call him Brad) and my girlfriend (let's call her Gabby) for a long time. I've known Brad since I was three/four and known Gabby since we were fourteen and we eventually started dating sometime after that.
Brad has always been fairly secluded. While I have known him for seemingly my whole life he has never had a girlfriend. This summer while Gabby was out of town for an internship he admitted to her (in confidence) that he liked her. Now, before you jump to conclusions Brad isn't the type of individual to try to break Gabby and I up. So I'm not and have not been worried about that.
Instead. Brad has decided that he doesn't want to see her ever again. This is despite the previous year at college when we all hung out as a group. He wants none of that at all. Brad is intentionally forcing himself to no longer see Gabby because he likes her and doesn't want to. Also because he is envious of our relationship because he is single.
This weekend I decided to visit my family for the first time in about 3-4 years. I figured that it would be a good opportunity to invite Gabby to meet my family as well because she has never met my extended family. This whole plan came together fairly suddenly as I wasn't sure if Gabby could get off of work in order to come up for the weekend. When Gabby mentioned passingly that we were going to be visiting my family in Atlanta he grew irate that we were planning this without him and that he can "take a hint" if we wanted to spend the weekend together.
I don't know how to deal with this situation. Brad is seriously starting to piss me off. I love him dearly but he's stubborn as all hell. There is really a lot more to this situation that I don't feel is relevant at the moment but I'm free to explain more if asked. | My best friend starts to like my girlfriend and decides to stop liking her that he pretend she doesn't exist. He gets further pissed off when she comes over because it reminds him that he is single. (He doesn't truly try to date anyone). Won't let her come over at all and simply wants to deny she even exists. |
t3_3auld0 | relationships | I [20 M] have a weird feeling about my SO [19 F] and her coworker [24 M] | My SO and I have been together for over a year. She is an introvert with social anxiety. She doesn't talk to many people and when she does, it's quick conversations and she very rarely starts the conversation. However, my SO started a new job a few weeks ago. Her one coworker and her became friends pretty quickly.
They began talking and talking about hanging out. He bgan telling her how pretty she is and that he can't stop thinking about her. After he told her that he likes her and she told him that she has a boyfriend, she's on her phone texting him almost all the time. She told me that she doesn't like him and they're just friends but it just feels weird.
Today, he told her that he doesn't think that they should keep talking because it doesn't feel like it would be good for him to keep talking to her. Now, she's very upset and says that she has to get over it. Giving me very short answers and saying that she respects his decision and that she'll be fine.
I just want to know if I'm looking too much into this or not? | SO talking to coworker seems weird to me and now she seems heartbroken that he doesn't want to talk anymore. Am I wrong for feeling like this? |
t3_4siyzw | relationships | Me [18F] broke up with my boyfriend [20M] of 2 years yesterday but now feel guilty and want to get back together | Hello, Reddit! What I need here are some outside opinions, I'd be very thankful if you advised me.
So, my ex and I met last November, and started dating on January. When we started dating, he was incredibly nice, however, a few months in, he started becoming abusive.
First off, he'd always lie to me about the smallest things. They were minor and I still don't really know why he even bothered to lie about them.
Secondly, he'd always disrespect me, my opinions and privacy. He'd laugh at serious topics I'd bring up, check my phone despite my protests, forbid me from hanging out with my friends, no matter which gender.
We never went on dates. We started out as friends and hung out occasionally, and then we just started kissing. When I asked him why we didn't go on dates, and he just told me to stop dreaming.
He ignored events that were important to me. He forgot anniversaries, and when I said I liked Halloween, he just called me childish.
He never gave me small things just because. Sorry, I know, it sounds materialistic, but I don't mean like a gold ring! Just maybe a flower, or a note every once in a while, just to show me he was thinking of me.
So what I'm asking advice for is: I broke up with him yesterday. I was just fed up with the way he treated me and my older cousin helped me make this decision.
However, today I woke up and felt incredibly guilty over what happened. I still love him and want to get back with him. But I know that would be the worst decision I could make.
Please give me advise, especially those who have been in similar situations. | Boyfriend was an ass, broke up with him, want to get back. |
t3_4a6u92 | relationships | Me [28/M] with my "boyfriend" [20 M/] 4 months, got awkward when asked about how long he'd been with me | Last night the guy I've been seeing since November was asked by a friend "how long have you guys been together".
He kinda turned and looked at me as if it was an awkward question and then the girl was like "oh sorry weird question" and he said "yes!"
I then just said "we've been seeing each other since November".
Then today I asked if I could spend Easter with him and he was all "don't you wanna spend it with your family....if you must".
Then he said in a kinda sarcastic way "spending Easter together...getting serious".
I'm like "well it's been over 4 months".
I don't understand his behaviour. He stays over for days at a times then I can go a week without seeing him.
He is way more cute in text "I miss you, I need you".
But then he won't commit to being my boyfriend or wanting to spend Easter with me.
I wish he would make me feel a bit more special. Like I do to him and I let him know how I feel. | Why is he being so cautious about wanting to be my boyfriend and where do I go from here. I'm tired to having to kinda beg to do things like spend holidays together. |
t3_43t8eq | relationships | Me [24 M] with girl [22 F] I've been dating of 3.5 months, do I introduce her to my extended family | So this girl and I have been dating for 3.5 months whereby we both live in China. I have lived here for a year whereby my extended family live here, but my parents do not and she has lived her for 4 months as she is doing a year studying abroad. When her parents came to visit last month, she introduced me to them whereas she has never met any of my family.
We then went on holiday to Cambodia together and we talked about our future. She said that for now, she is ruling out a long distance relationship when she goes back to her home country because of how she had a bad long distance relationship experience in the past. She said that she might change her mind when it gets to the point that we are forced to have to do a long distance relationship, but for now, that her current state of mind is ruling it out. Despite all of this though, she says that she does want a future for us.
Now, Chinese new year is this week and I'll be spending the new year with my family. Initially I wanted to take her with me, but after she said that to me, I'm not really sure if it's appropriate to do so. What do you think? | Mandatory summary/question! |
t3_3u6hpv | legaladvice | Car accident, towed, now auto shop wants $7000 for storage [US, Los Angeles] | Hello - My friend got into a car accident in West Hollywood. This place is very accident prone. She called her insurance, which told her they would send her a tow truck. A tow truck (which we later suspect was a different tow truck company than the one the insurance sent), showed up and offered to tow her car to a local auto body repair shop. Friend, having been shaken up, agrees and suspects nothing wrong.
So they arrive at the auto body repair shop and they're super friendly and said they would work with her insurance to estimate the damages. Sounds good, so we leave the car with them. Now, they're not returning her calls and now looking to get paid $7,000 for storing the car. It's been 3 days and no work has been done to the car. I am pretty sure this is a scam. Side note: the tow truck is most likely in on this scam, as they're waiting like vultures to tow cars that were in accidents to these shady auto body shops.
Unfortunately, she signed some paperwork that she understood to involve the insurance. I think this is she really screwed up as this probably allowed the auto body repair shop to do whatever they want. I want to know if there is anything my friend and/or the insurance can do to (1) not pay the the $7,000 in fees and (2) help deter this auto body shop from pulling these scams. | After car accident, got towed to shady auto repair shop. Signed paper work, now getting scammed $7,000 and no work has been done on car. What can we do to not get scammed and help stop these jerks? |
t3_3mhuu2 | relationships | Me [26 F] and Ex [27 M] of 1.5 years: getting back in touch through Spotify after 9 months without contact | Following a bad break up at the end of last year, my once very close ex and I completely stopped communicating. Up until recently we both had each other blocked on several social media platforms.
Last weekend was the anniversary of an event we both attended the previous year, and after reflecting on it I realised I no longer harbour any resentment or anger towards him. I unblocked him on social media, though realised he might not be ready to speak. Instead I followed him on Spotify two days ago, since it seemed more impersonal than other social networks and would just be a quiet nod that I was willing to be on better terms.
However, I noticed that he'd created a playlist last weekend containing a few songs to do with breakups, being lonely and people changing. The music was upbeat though lyrically depressing.
I followed two of his playlists, including the one above. Within a few hours he'd hidden the one described. He's yet to follow me.
I follow around 60 people I know from various groups and all of my playlists are just albums I like. I'd never considered it to be a particularly personal site.
He's a quiet, somewhat awkward person who doesn't tend to say what he really thinks. Should I unfollow in case he thinks I'm being intrusive or just leave it there and see if he wants to get in touch at a later time? | Followed ex on Spotify after 9 months of no contact. He deleted a recent playlist made up of break up / sad songs. Should I unfollow him to avoid being intrusive? |
t3_3kfrg6 | weddingplanning | Had to change the date. Anyone else go through this? | Long story short, if we wanted to keep our venue we had to change our date from 08/13/2016 to 08/20/2016. A small change I realize. I cried a lot last night when I found out, probably unnecessarily so, but I am on my period so it happens.
I had already formed an attachment to the first date (I mean I picked it for a reason) but changing it really is the best solution. We have been telling people 08/13 for awhile now. We haven't even sent out STDs yet, but I still be a little embarrassed/flummoxed to tell people different. Has anyone else been through this? How did you you deal? Am I jumping on the crazy-bride train too early? | Changed date. I cried. Now what? |
t3_3c329r | tifu | TIFU by sexting on snapchat. | So I met this girl a few days ago and is clearly into me and seems like a bit of a slut. She said she was horny so she wanted me to send me videos on snapchat of me jacking off and sending her dirty messages. I did so and everything was going fine but I got extremely clueless.
If you have snapchat you probably know that you can reply to a snap by double-tapping on somebody's name, and you won't have to go through your contacts; it'll send right to them. This was what I was doing as I was sending the videos, and I didn't realize that on one video I accidentally double-tapped somebody else's name (this other girl I had known) and I didn't notice until after I sent the video.
I sent her multiple messages on snapchat saying how sorry I was and how that wasn't for her, but I knew that it was probably pointless. A while later I got a snapchat saying "you're fucked" from her and I haven't heard from her since. | I was sending a girl videos of me jacking off and accidentally sent it to somebody else. |
t3_22jy7y | relationships | Me [22 M] with a girl I am talking to [24 F] for about 3 months, may be also talking to my cousin [29 M]. Do I confront one of them? | I [22M] have been getting to know someone from work [24F] for about 3 months now. We hang out, workout, watch shows, etc. I have told her that I like her and she says she likes me too but isn't looking for a relationship with anyone right now because she got out of a 4 year relationship a few months before we met.
Normally, I would be okay with that and be patient, but she also said that she talks to other people and I have reasons to believe that the other person/people may be my cousin [29M] who we both worked with. Also, whenever I hangout with her, she shies away from places that people from work might see us and it makes me feel like she is hiding me from someone or vice versa. I'm okay with her talking other guys, but if one of them is my cousin, I don't wan't to cause any turmoil between us.
Do I talk to one of them about this? If so which one? Or do I just walk away? | Girl [24F] I am talking to may also be talking to my cousin [29M]. I [22M] do not know who to confront or if I should even say anything at all. |
t3_15jbft | relationships | Can a relationship between a heavy weed smoker and a non smoker really work? [both 23] | I've been with my boyfriend for three months and I love him to pieces. He smokes a lot of marijuana, and smokes every day if he can. I have no problem with this as I've never been one to judge a person (for instance I am a heavy alcohol and caffeine drinker and hate when people preach to me). The only thing is that I can not partake in this activity with him because weed affects me very badly. Now we've discussed this issue, with me apologizing for not smoking and him for smoking too much and we've reassured each other it's okay, but my question is mainly to weed smokers - is he actually okay with the fact I don't smoke?
It's a huge part of his life that he can't really share with me and I've heard of pot smokers breaking up with non smokers over it. He assures me he won't leave me, but will he be gone in a few months time to find a girl who can smoke with him? I am very insecure, I truly love and want this boy, but I fear this issue could be a deal breaker in the long run. As I said before, I really don't care much (my only concern is cost, not about 'lifestyle' or social norms, but he can do what he wants with his money). I just want to hear from the other side. | boyfriend smokes a lot of weed, I can't, will this be a serious issue? |
t3_2ehzfv | relationships | My [18F] internet friends [13-20M] keep asking for a picture of myself but I don't want to show them. | I don't like sending out pictures of myself to my online friends and whenever I tell them that, they always ask why. I don't know what to tell them without seeming like I'm insecure about myself. I don't want to send them a picture but I don't have a good reason as to why not. Any advice as to what I should do or say? I don't want to drop them as friends but it's starting to get to that point where they are pissing me off.
It's not because I think they're all secretly creepy old men, I'm just not comfortable with them knowing what I look like. | I don't want to show my internet friends my face. |
t3_1kkz5r | relationships | [24F] Girl I am dating lives with her ex - unsure what I [24M] should do. | Almost two months ago I met a girl through some mutual friends at a dinner party and we immediatly hit it off. We chatted and texted a lot during the next weeks and went on some very succesful dates. She's everything I'm looking for at the moment - Intelligent, talented, funny, off-the-scale cute, bit dorky and introverted but not shy. I fell hard and have not felt this way about a girl for years. Her response has been great and she seems as eager as me to take the next steps.
She shares a two bedroom flat with a close male friend she's known since they were kids and also went to the same college with, I discovered they had also dated and been a couple for about half a year during that time, but that they decided it had been a mistake and went back to being friends, this was also before they moved in to the place where she lives now.
The thing is, she's terrible with social queues and could be pretty oblivious to what a massive red flag this is to me (or to any guy really). She doesn't have a lot of experience with guys and I think it was her first and only relationship. I'm just not sure how to bring this up without making it seem like I'm giving an ultimatum or want her to cut him out of her life.
I'm not desperate (or a doormat) and I wont rush into a relationship before I figure this thing out. | She still lives with her ex and also close friend of many years, may not realize it's a red flag, I'm unsure how to bring it up. |
t3_15ukxz | relationships | How can I [22M] motivate my GF [23F] of 3 years to be more outgoing and successful? | My girlfriend [23F] and I [22M] have been together for about 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs, including a short break at the beginning of the 2011 fall semester. However, lately I have been struggling with a few things that I can't seem to shake:
1) I would say my GF is of average intelligence, having graduated college in December with just under a 3.0 GPA. We had a few disagreements about when she should start looking for jobs, which led to her waiting until after she graduated to begin her search (not my idea). Since then, I have noticed a lack of motivation to actually search for good opportunities. She has applied at roughly 10 different places by simply emailing her resume to the listed contact on various websites, and explaining her career desires. I keep pushing her to network by attending local events in her field, trying to find a mentor, or making a LinkedIn profile--but nothing seems to work. She brushes off my advice by stating that she isn't social enough to network, or that it won't help in her field.
2) We've always talked about not having kids for a good 5-7 years after college so that we can have time to DINK (dual income no kids) and enjoy our lives together as adults. However, looking at the current situation I feel as though I am going to be the only one making a decent income, as most of the jobs she comes across pay only slightly better than minimum wage. I'm not trying to be greedy by any means, I just find success and career drive to be extremely attractive in a life partner.
These two recent events combined with a solid year of questioning staying with her have left me very confused. I want to motivate her to be more driven and outgoing, but I fear that its not going to happen. I've considered ending it many times before, but as she isn't outgoing I don't think I could leave her with no one for her to fall back on--I can't hurt her that badly...
Any advice? | GF [23F] and I [22M] have been together 3 years, starting to question her motivation/career drive and out relationship. |
t3_3th570 | relationships | Disinterested guy being nice probably, how do I let him off the hook? | He's (25M) incredibly hard to read, and I'm (22F) not sure if he's shy or just not interested. Not dating yet.
We talked, even got vibes of flirting from him, think I've seen him looking my direction once and awhile. I asked him out for coffee, gave him my number. He said 'sure. that could be fun.' He also said he got out of a relationship. He texted a day and a half later, which was sort of an anti-climatic conversation and ended with me doubletexting.
Our job is pretty busy, so I can't hang around and talk for more than two minutes at a time. I have trouble doing so because fucking nerves, but it seems he doesn't really want to talk now, even less so after I asked him out. Walks out without even saying goodbye.
I feel like shit because I feel like I made it awkward for him to talk with my other coworkers he's been with awhile, and he's just being nice about the whole thing. | have no idea how to tell if this guy is disinterested or not. I feel like I should just tell him hey, don't worry about it and get it done with. Thoughts? |
t3_2qraid | personalfinance | New to budgeting: Have the motivation, but I've never done it before. Any tips? | My finances are a total mess. I never learned good money management skills, or how to be wise with debt, so I have poor credit and struggle each month to pay all the bills. My parents cosigned on a home loan for me a few years ago (something they kind of pushed, I can't say I really knew what I was getting into) assuring me they'd help me out if things got tight, considering that I was already having a difficult time making ends meet in the cheaper apartment I had at the time. I'm not comfortable asking for their help, and really - neither are they. I'm honestly not positive that my income is enough to cover my bills and get groceries, let alone have any wiggle room, let alone put any money away for savings; so I need some serious budgetary direction. I'm working full time and also a full time college student, so I've been taking out extra student loans to cover the gap, but I don't want to just keep digging myself into a deeper hole. I'm hoping to find an excel spreadsheet or some kind of app that can help keep me on track. It's probably important to note that I'm a single mom as well, so my schedule is already so jam-packed, I can't just pick up another job. I do sell some artwork and do resumes for cash here and there. I'm ready to move forward. I want to start the new year by leaving my disorganized finances in 2014. | Broke lady needs budgetary direction. Broke lady probably also needs to come up with more money, but let's take it one step at a time. |
t3_397zcy | relationships | What do I [22 M] do now that I've been on a date with my [21 F] interest? | So I've recently started talking to this girl that I am now sure that I'm interested in. This past weekend we went out and spent a couple hours hanging out and talking about our interests/hobbies and sharing with one another details about ourselves.
Normally, I'm pretty dense when it comes to "signals" from the opposite sex and I'm always usually left questioning what *this* meant or why she did *that*. But through general knowledge of what girls claim to be their "moves", I decided to see if I could take notice to any of them while we were together.
Of the four that I was keeping in mind, she executed all of them. Like I mentioned above, I'm dense, but she was flirting - she was playing with her hair and turning towards me - and she was constantly breaking the so-called touch boundaries by repeatedly find reasons to make physical contact with me. Great, right? I thought so, too.
So my problem comes with what to do now. I found myself a bit anxious the following day and invited her, last minute, out to a baseball game, but she was already booked for the day (I believe this). I replied to this with a suggestion about hanging out again soon; in which she replied, "I'll let you know when I'm free!!" We both work 40 hours/week, so I can understand that, but I guess I'm looking for an outsider's opinion.
Should I just sit back and wait for her to contact me again with when she's free next, or should I make another attempt to arrange something? Would that be too much? Am I overthinking things here? | I'm interested in a girl who is mutually busy as I am. After trying to set up another time to hang out (non-specifically, time wise) she said she would let me know when she's free. Do I sit back and wait for her to contact me again, or do I try and set something up? |
t3_1jnfdm | pettyrevenge | Rude to your mother? I'll treat you like crap too. [FRIEND'S STORY] | Just a little information, I am not the person delivering the petty revenge, but I witnessed the person who did. Fully.
Backstory:
It's a warm evening in Florida, and my hair is getting a little long, so I go to the hairdressers to get my haircut. It was all a peaceful wait, chatting to the hairdresser while waiting, until it is disturbed.
A boy and his mother walks into the hairdresser's, and the boy is holding a book. This is important later in the story. Cute, he loves reading I thought, until he starts throwing a tantrum about not being able to get "the cool haircut" that all of his friends have. Whacks his mother, punches her, and makes a racket inside the shop. People outside are coming in to watch the scene, and I can tell the mother is embarrassed. A lot.
It's his turn to get the haircut, as I let his mother in front of me because I really wanted to see what happens. He seems to have calmed down now, but he's still throwing insults at his mother while reading his book.
Revenge:
The hairdresser is just cutting shithead's hair until the hairdryer comes into action. He turns it on, and blows all of his own little shithead hair onto the book, making it a huge mess. A brand new book worth more than $35 from his own pocket money ruined, dirtied. Another big tantrum, but this time, his mother was smiling, a smile of dire approval.
Long story short, the mother pays, slaps the little cunt in the face and drags him out. I then got my haircut and then gave the hairdresser and extra twenty. We're best friends now, and he frequents this subreddit. Maybe I can get him to write the story from his perspective. | Boy comes in, throws a tantrum and gets hairy justice. |
t3_qzbnk | AskReddit | Hey Reddit! What are some strange things that have happened to you in a public washroom? I'll start... | So I was sitting in a Tim Horton's eating an amazing bagel topped with delicious whipped cream and sipping upon a cool and refreshing chocolate milk, when the urge to defecate invades my body. I promptly mosie on over to bathroom at a rather brisk pace. I disregard the uncleanliness of the lavatories and I sit down to unleash this unborn fetus. As I'm wrapping things up to an end, I hear someone stumble (and when I say stumble, I actually mean that he's crashing in) into the bathroom. Not even 20 seconds after his arrival and he began gently moaning, with a precise upward crescendo. I began feeling uncomfortable so i peered thru the crack in the stall. What I witnessed was a man with his pants down to his ankles and a firm grip around his unmentionables. Feeling immensely uncomfortable, I flushed the toilet, to scare him away. But alas, it failed, and the man still got louder. Fifteen minutes had passed since he was there ( or at least it felt that way) and there was still no sign of him stopping. I gave myself a motivational speech (in my noggin of course) and decided to just run and book it. So I slowly got up, pulled up my pants, and I slowly opened the door. When he saw me, he winked and turned around so his "adulthood" faced me. Staying concentrated I just ran and left the Tim Horton's, and I never finished the last bit of bagel waiting for me. | A man came into the bathroom while I was dumping and started masturbating, and winked at me when I finally left. |
t3_1gb3c8 | dating_advice | I (M26) am foggy on how to proceed with her (F22). | Please help r/dating_advice.
Let's start with some back story...about a year ago I met a woman who was a couple years my junior and was dating someone. At the time I was not in a place where I was ready/able to be in a relationship, so I simply pursued a friendship with this woman, despite my feelings. As I got to know her my feelings became stronger, and I began to wonder how long I could handle not saying something. About this time I had a career issue and had to find a new job. I spend months searching and eventually got a full time job but during my search I essentially fell off the face of the planet. Almost immediately after I lost contact with her she became single, and soon after that she began dating someone else.
For the next few months I worked and we talked, it became clear that her new boyfriend was not...shall we say, good for her. I tried to be supportive and discuss issues that she was having in that relationship without making any moves toward her. She eventually came to the conclusion that he was not good for her and she broke things off. At this point I was offered the job I currently have, 90 minutes away, doing what I spent my college life learning to do. I couldn't in good conscience decline the job offer, but I wanted to stay around as I saw this as an opportunity to get closer with her and eventually attempt to see if she wanted to pursue a relationship.
Long story short, I took the job, and we chat a bit but as I feared we did drop out of contact a bit. I'll be home this weekend and I've convinced her to come out with me Saturday night. Let me outline the problem here...I have no idea how to handle this situation.
I have been in a total of 3 relationships in my life, and the most recent was 3 years ago. Is this a situation where I should simply tell her what I'm feeling/thinking or do I have to play this close to the chest to prevent losing what friendship we have? Is this the "friend-zone" that I have heard so much about? If so, how does one extricate one's self from that zone? | I like her, we're friends, idk how she feels. Might be in friend-zone, don't really know. If so, how do I fix? If not, how should I proceed? |
t3_1650yo | dating_advice | Just got out of a LTR, and I have no idea how to be a normal person (23F) | So, I just got out of a 3 year relationship that was pretty serious (marriage, moving in, etc had been discussed), and I'm trying to figure out how to live like a normal, single person. I'm naturally pretty shy, and I feel like I have no idea what to do on a date. I want to just meet people and get out there a bit, so my question is: what do people talk about? What do I say?
For 3 years, I did everything with my boyfriend, I hung out with his friends, did things he liked; basically we spent all of our time together. I feel like I don't know how to answer when someone says, "What do you like to do?", etc, bc I don't want to just bring up my ex all the time.
I just went out for coffee with a guy I recently met, and I think it went ok, but at times I felt so awkward bc I really didn't know what to talk about. We're going out to dinner later this week, and I'm afraid I'll either have nothing to say or break down and talk about my ex. Any advice? | No clue how to act on a date after spending 3 years in a LTR. |
t3_1qloji | AskReddit | How do I find an affordable flight home when I am fairly poor? | I am far away from home, and in the upcoming holidays I am needing to go see them. Its been awhile. I am fairly in trouble here, I have been looking I might be fine if it was less than $500 but my pet its going to be an additional fee each way, around $200. I am in debt, stressed and on edge. I have no idea how to find an affordable flight, I am too far away to use a train or bus. I don't have a car right now. I just need advice on how to accomplish getting home for my family for the Christmas holidays. Any advice or tricks would be fantastic. | How do I find a reasonable flight home for Christmas? |
t3_2hwhnt | relationships | Me [19F] with my SO [20M] 1.5 years, ~4 m LDR, What are some ways I can show him how much I appreciate him? | Hi everyone!
My boyfriend and I have been in a ldr for the best ~ 4 months of our relationship.
He is wonderful, smart, caring, funny, laughs at my jokes, dedicated, and just generally amazing.
I try everyday to tell him that I appreciate him, and "I love you" and how amazing I think he is.
My dilemma, is what can I do to show him all of this when we aren't in the same city? I really want to be able to do something for him, but it's hard when we're hours apart. I can't cook for him, or take him out on a surprise date, or cook up any ;) ;) surprises, (skype sex only goes so far...) because we aren't together.
I have sent him snail mail and a care package before, but I'm looking for some other ideas/things to do to show him how much I appreciate him.
Any thoughts or ideas would be very appreciated!
Thanks :) | Me [19F] with my SO [20M] LDR, What are some ways I can show him how much I appreciate him? |
t3_1mk8ev | relationship_advice | Friends with benefits? 18f and 18m (more details in text) | I've known this guy for just over a month and have become friends with him. Recently I've been thinking sexual thoughts involving him quite frequently. However, I don't want a relationship; the feelings are purely sexual. I've been kinda hinting about what I want by asking him sex related questions. He said i was beautiful the other day and he usually sets his music stand next to mine during band practice and sometimes we touch by like hip bumping or shoulder tapping. I need help deciding whether or not I should ask him to be FWB. Also, I have to see him almost every day and I don't know if he would start acting differently because of it (I want things to stay the same in public) | Horny girl isn't sure if guy of interest would be down to be fwb |
t3_2h8ij3 | Advice | Need advice on paying vs. fighting a traffic ticket. | I got a ticket for failure to stop at a stop sign earlier this month. The fine is about $95 and 4 points on my driver's license. I have no other traffic or criminal charges on my record.
I just talked to a lawyer who said he could try to help me either get the ticket reduced to a non-moving violation or make a deal with the prosecutor to have me take a driver safety course. Both of these options would keep points off of my license. The lawyer was "95% sure" that he could achieve one of these outcomes. His fee is $350 for this, plus I'm assuming there will be court or other fees.
I have the money to do either option. Should I just pay the ticket or pay more to keep it off my record? What would you do in my situation?
Thanks! | Pay $95 ticket and get license points, or pay $350+ to keep off my record? |
t3_z86sp | relationships | [27M]A guy that has been single and not sexually active for over 3 years, turn on or turn off? | I'm having a hard time explaining my question.
From a woman's point of view, how does it look? Do you get or loose points in this situation? Can you give a positive spin to such a long time of being single and completely inactive with the opposite sex?
I have been single by choice. I have turned down offers and flirts for over 3 years without a good reason other then being used to being alone. Life was shit for a while and a relationship would not have helped the situation. Today I am officially unemployed and on the search for something better then the shitty job I quit yesterday. Feeling like a new page has opened in my book, do I hide the previous page and forget about it?
One more thing, is it like riding a bike? I feel like a virgin again after so long... | The question is as short as I can get it already. |
t3_2gnlkv | dating_advice | I [23M] dating [22F] - finding the time when working/studying | Ok so recently I started working full-time(finished my BS/MSc), and "unfortunately" met an amazing girl(completely out of the blue). And now I find myself struggling with time.
One of the things I am concerned about is that she is still studying, im working 9-17 on a great job, but I just want to spend more time with her. I don't want for her to feel distant, as we have an amazing time together.
I have been in a relationship before, but we never worried about time as we were at university.
So my question would primarily go to someone who is in this situation - is this the way it's supposed to be? just seeing each other after work hours and eventually weekends? So if you are in a relationship and one of you works, I would really appreciate some honest advice :)
Thanks in advance! | I work 9-17, she studies, is the quality time outside of work that I have enough to build a strong relationship? (aka are you supposed to not have enough time when one of you is working)? |
t3_1hew9l | running | An interesting observation I made today in regards to starting training | About six months ago, I was running almost daily, getting solid mileage and feeling great. Then I got sick, and then I got lazy, and I haven't run at all since January.
Three weeks ago I've decided it's time for me to get back in shape and get back to it. Instead of easing into running, with a c25k kind of plan, I started taking my dog on increasingly long walks. Starting with two or three kilometers, building up to eight kilometers. Then I started taking those walks faster and faster. However fast I can maintain for that distance.
Today I finally decided it's time to start running. I planned to just see how far I can run without feeling awful. I managed 5km without any problems. The best part is that now, 5 or 6 hours later, my legs feel entirely fresh. There isn't a shred of soreness or exhaustion in them.
I think it's the walks that I was taking for the last few weeks that helped me skip the extremely frustrating and demotivating soreness that comes with starting a new running schedule.
I'd recommend this approach to anyone who wants to get into running. Start by walking at what feels like a fast pace for a few weeks, building up the distance of the walks. It makes the first run that you actually take that much easier. | instead of jumping straight into running, go for some long walks first, to build up your initial endurance and not feel as sore after you actually begin running. |
t3_gxaba | AskReddit | Hey Reddit, a question about acne. | I have acne on my back. Back of the shoulders to be exact. That is where it is most dense. I have it on my arms, and on my chest. Not too bad on either though. I have very little on my face. I have have been prescribed Minocycline but have been declined for acutane.
I know it isn't the most severe problem in the world, but it won't go away! (4 years and counting). I have had it all through high school and I am just tired of being scared to take my shirt off, go swimming with friends, let my girlfriend see my back. I use old spice body wash, wash my bed sheets and towel frequently. I also shower 1-2 a day.
So I could really use some advice! Thanks! | Have bad bacne, need help on curing it. |
t3_2rkap9 | relationships | I [20M] need help on separating my crazy abusive father [54M] from my mother[53F]. | My dad has never been a normal person. He would always have random outbursts of anger and would try to pick on either me or my mother. He would fight with me or my mom regarding the stupidest of things. He would always apologize and say things like "I'll never do this" or "I won't get angry so much" but he would never follow through. I don't understand why my mother still stays with him.
Recently it's gotten much worse to the point where it's pretty much abuse and fighting every day. My mother had a serious mental breakdown today and I'm sick of having to deal with this man. I'd like to try and separate my mom from him but he keeps on saying he'll kill himself. I don't know what to do. Should I call the cops? How could the cops help out in this situation? Also we are quite poor. Pretty much live paycheck to paycheck since I can't work currently due to health issues and my mom's the only one who works. | Crazy father who is pretty much abusing my mother and I need a way to separate them. |
t3_22wnl9 | relationships | I [30 M] just found out who my father [49 M] is, not sure if I want to meet him or even let him know I'm here. | I came into this world as the result of a one night stand. My mother didn't even know the guys full name, just a first name and a bit of other info. She never tried to track him down because she didn't want him in the picture.
I've done well for my self and am relatively wealthy now, almost on impulse I hired a private investigator to look into who my father is. He said that he got a decent match via documents and saw the guy smoking, instead of talking to him he took the cigarette butt and had the DNA compared to mine. The lab said it was a match, he's my father to some really high degree of certainty.
I wasn't completely prepared for that answer. I'm not sure what to do now. My mother and I aren't close so I haven't told her and I might not at all. I'm not sure what I'd even say to him since he probably doesn't know I exist. What would I say? "Hi, I'm your son, here's a DNA test proving it?" I don't want anything from him and I can't think of a logical reason why I'd want to know him now. If anything he might want money form me (which I would not give). The main factor making me think I should at least meet him once is that he deserves to know he has a son. | I'm an adult who just found out who his father is, I have no idea what to do from here. |
t3_12ka23 | relationships | Should I (25F) tell my boyfriend (27M) about a past miscarriage? | Hello everyone!
I'm in a relationship with a man that I love deeply. This kind of person only comes around once in your life. Our relationship is absolutely spectacular--we adore being in each others' company and after a year and a half, have never once raised our voices at each other. Our families love each other and all roads point to marriage. We've just started talking about having children in a year or two and I am ecstatic to think about one day bringing a child into the world with him. We have one of those rare zen, happy relationships.
Now he's the bad part. About two and a half years ago, I was dating my ex. He was the complete opposite of my boyfriend now in every way. Simply put, we were like oil and water and we're only together probably out of sheer loneliness and convenience as were the only Americans we knew living in a small, insular community abroad (I'm back in the U.S. now). He was about as emotional as a rock quarry, was not sensitive to my feelings and was absolutely hated by my family (for various other things I won't get into here). We had been dating for a while at this point and the condom broke and I became pregnant. Before we could decide on what to do, I miscarried. It was devastating to me, even if I realize that it would have been the end of my life as I knew it to bring a child into the world with that man. Still, I find myself sometimes thinking about the child that never was.
I've never told my current boyfriend about this but I find as we start talking about children, I begin to think more and more of what happened in the past though I want nothing at all to do with my ex. So confused. Should I tell him? | Current boyfriend and I have amazing relationship and are thinking about children. I'm ecstatic but can't help thinking about the miscarriage I had in a previous not-so-happy relationship. I'm consumed by these thoughts. Should I tell him what's going on? |
t3_14uuvl | dating_advice | online dating situation | Hey everyone, just looking for an outside perspective here. I'm a 28m and I met a 24f online. We emailed and eventually texted back and forth for a few days before finally getting drinks together a few nights ago. The night seemed to go pretty well, we talked for several hours until the place closed at 1 am. I got a hug and a kiss on the cheek when we left. I realized later I screwed up and probably should have gotten a real kiss or continued that date but oh well. Texted her later saying I had a great night and she said "tonight was great, so glad to have met you. ttys." Not sure what to make of that. I called her a couple of days later and left a message about meeting up again, no response. I chalked it up as a loss at that point and moved on but I see she's looked at my online profile again. Maybe her just taking another look thinking "should I give this guy another shot?" I'm talking to some other girls but I'd genuinely like to see this girl a second time, should I bother contacting her again? I'm thinking of just asking how her school finals are going or something. I'm probably way over-thinking this but I'd appreciate any input, I'm obviously no dating guru. Thanks! | went on a pretty good date with someone I met online. Hasn't responded about a second date but has looked at my profile again. Should I try contacting her again? |
t3_1uzfwd | AskReddit | Can you feel your brain impulses? | I don't know if its just me or some sort of neurological condition, but when doing certain tasks I can feel very slightly what is working in my brain; such as when doing literature based tasks I can feel a faint feeling on the left side of my head.
I'd also like to point out I am dyslexic. I'm also aware of what we believe to be theoretically correct, in terms of the different sections in the brain that are responsible for different task e.g. the hippocampus, frontal lobe etc. Reason I mentioned this is because it may be a placebo, but I've always had such things like headaches and such often, as well as nose bleeds, these don't happen often now though. | is it possible to feel this? |
t3_18dkvy | relationships | [Update] M[22] and M[22] 8 months. I just found out my boyfriend is cheating what next? | Previously on reddit:
So... he stayed out all night with friends (verified) and when I talked to him I went straight to the point about how I knew he was cheating and I had checked his email and saw what he was doing. He tried to blow it off as nothing and got mad at me because I went through his "stuff". I told him that was cheating and he stated that he never met anyone and never planned on meeting anyone and that it was just him messing around.
The next day I explained to him that I was angry about the situation of me not being invited because "You're a drag" when he went out drinking with friends and how he doesn't even understand how that is cheating.
I feel like yelling at him and telling him how immature he is (not my nature).
Its also pissing me off how he is going around like nothing is wrong. I feel like I'm the one being punished here. And nothing has happened to him. Even before this started he had removed me from his Facebook which I use maybe once a week and even after repeated request he has refused to re-add me. Now he's removed the calendar we had shared together so I no longer know his work schedule to plan around.
I talked to him about us trying this "again" and him being honest with me and that I wouldn't go through his stuff.
It also annoys me how when I asked him what he wanted in life he only says that he wants to go to college, no mention of me. The only way he was going to college is if I paid for it (I was going to do it) and provided a place for him to live while doing so.
At this point I think I may just wait it out till the lease is over and I find a place I can afford. We live together unfortunately.
Anymore advice. I feel like I'm being "weak". It is my first relationship and I do love him but my mind says leave. Also how does one go about finding someone who loves them? | I'm still with him but I don't think it will be long. |
t3_3ujc7k | relationships | I [26F] have been with my bf [30M] for nearly a year, my parents hate him and I want to tell them we're moving in together without them freaking out. | About a year ago I started dating one of my brother's closest friends. My brother hated the idea because he (my bf; let's call him Jon) had been single for a really long time and slept around. My brother decided to tell my parents that Jon was a womanizing jerk.
My parents made zero effort in really getting to know him and realize Jon is a fantastic boyfriend. They were rude to him, never invited him to family gatherings, and sometimes didn't even acknowledge I was in a relationship. Jon and my brother obviously fell out. I wasn't even allowed to take him to my brother's wedding.
Jon has always felt terribly offended by the way my family has treated him, and sometimes even resentful. I love him and I'm sure I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I also want my family to acknowledge him and respect him, mostly because I want them to be a part of my life.
Jon and I decided to move in together in January. I haven't told my parents, but I did tell my mom I wanted all of us to have a casual lunch together. They accepted under the condition that Jon apologizes to them and -somehow- proves to them that he's a nice guy (as if the amazing relationship we've had isn't enough). Jon is clearly not thrilled at the idea of apologizing for doing absolutely nothing wrong.
Someone has to compromise and fast, I have to tell them we're moving in together before the holidays. Is there any way he could show he's the bigger person without having to apologize or "bow down" to them like this is the 19th century? | Parents hate boyfriend, need one of them to compromise ASAP. |
t3_4j4cz9 | legaladvice | Froend wants to know if she will lose custody [FL] | Edit: meant friend, my bad | R and E have child, R gets less than honorable discharge, has no job, not supporting child. E worried he could get full custody if she files for child support. |
t3_1rcarf | relationships | Health conditions of my (40f) husband (55m) leaving me physically unfulfilled. Together 10 years. | He is very fit and otherwise healthy, but he has erectile dysfunction so we don't typically have "normal" sex. I have toys and he's expressed that he is intimidated by the idea but since he's not in there, so to speak, I use them. We have used strap-ons for him a few times but it's always a production, so I stopped asking.
I need more than orgasms which I can take care of by myself. I have started to dream about having real sex and I wake up sad.
Even when he has taken Cialis he's done in under a few minutes. If he isn't done then he loses it, or his blood pressure spikes and he gets a headache. This makes me very hesitant to even mention it.
He feels awful about all of this and I don't want him to feel worse but I'm so unhappy.
Help please? | I need the D! |
t3_3h8855 | relationships | Me [30 F] with my group of friends and a new comer | I'm in a group of about 12 people. I'm a single woman, most of the rest of the group is made of couples. All the men "pick on me" or whatever you call it. I'm the one they all joke about and with, very rarely anyone else including the other 2 single women are involved in the sarcastic banter. Is that just me as one of the guys?
I like to dish it right back at them all. I think sarcasm is funny but it's also a fine line to do it correctly. I am close with all their wives, in fact, I'm only friends with the husbands because of my friendship with their wives.
We recently got a new single guy in the group, and he seems to give me a LOT of extra shit. I'm wondering if he's just trying to bond with the rest of the group by doing that or if he's trying to assert something? His "jokes" are a bit darker or pointed than the rest and he eyeballs me when he says them. He doesn't sit by me and seems maybe uncomfortable around me? Sometimes it gets a bit old and with this new guy they seem a bit hurtful. Maybe I'm just being sensitive, but I usually don't get ruffled by joking around. We're actually really similar and in some situations he and I laugh and get along really well. It's when we all go out and everyone gets dressed up and the mood is different it seems. | New guy in the group seems to aggressively be sarcastic with me and I can't figure out his motives or what to do. |
t3_114mj7 | relationship_advice | [21/f] wondering if I was wronged or if I deserved it and what to do. | In July, over Okcupid I met a really great guy and within the month we were dating. But before that, I realized I had feelings for my best guy friend that I've known for seven years but he has a girlfriend so I decided to move on when I met Okcupid guy(who is actually a redditor too). Things are going awesome for two months- then we go out with some of my friends one night, and I have a really strong drink so I'm fairly tipsy. Later, he's driving us back and I (guiltily) tell him about the feelings I had for Best Guy Friend before I even met Okcupid guy. But I still want to be with Okcupid Guy. I'm still pretty drunk. And he breaks up with me.
A few days later, I ask him to reconsider. He says no, he can't trust me, insinuates that if Best Guy Friend was single, I would cheat on him, and that it's the right thing to do before saying "goodbye." Which really hurt me since it's so final. So I'm pretty torn up over this. I still think of him a lot and I want to talk to him but I don't want to be a needy ex. I've no idea what I should do from here; if I should let it go, since he was so adamant, or what. | drunkenly told boyfriend of past feelings I had for my best friend, he broke up with me and just about cut all ties. I'm unsure of what to do from here. |
t3_12xkcs | AskReddit | What is the craziest thing you have been woken up to reddit? (warning: story contains cats and heroics) | So I was woken up this morning to a guy banging on the door and ringing the bell constantly. When I wandered over to answer the door some random neighbor was standing there. He told me there was a cat on our roof with a bag over its head. I look up onto the roof and low and behold there was a cat squatting at the peak of our roof with a fracking bag on its head.
I rushed back inside and grabbed some shoes. Then went to the garage and grabbed a ladder. I get up on our roof with it being tile and having rained the night before it was slippery as could be. At one point I tried to do a crouching walk up the roof and slipped, and for at least a moment one of those iconic Hollywood person falling off the roof scenes ran through my head. The cat decided it wanted nothing to do with the idiot try his best to fall off a roof so it ran to the far corner at the front of the house. Once there, my neighbor got on the fence near by and was able to grab at the bag and pull it off before the cat ran away like a pussy. | Cat was on my roof with a bag on its head. I tried to kill myself by slipping off the roof and got a large bruise on my knee to helped save a cat. |
t3_3j2pfe | relationships | Me [36 F] with my boyfriend___ [44 M] 1 and a hald year duration, planned to get married and now he broke up with me | we were in LDR but tried to come to see each other every month - sometimes me, sometimes him. For the last several months he lived with his mum trying to save up for the 1st mortgage payment, and we planned to get married this year.
Some days ago I wrote to him my daughter had a positive mantoux test, she was checked before pre school. Doctor said she might have a latent form which is not infectious or a false positive due to her previous BCG vaccination, In any case, i also wrote she is allowed to go to school and in general doctor said the magority of rusian population would have it positive, in latent form.
Yesterday when we discussed buying tickets and dates ( I planned to come to see him with my daughter for a week before school started, as she has never been to London before) he said his mum was against me bringing her there as it might be dangerous for them. I replied that in this case I am dangerous too as well as all russians. He sent another text that she checked information on google about latent form and said sorry and changed her mind about our trip, and now my daughter can come.
Llater on that evening i wrote to him I will not come to his mum place, that I respect her and her opinions and appreciate she put up with my visits before but now I prefer to wait till he has his own place, then I will come and hopefully he will find time to come to see me in russia too. I felt really bad about his mum believing I would put them in danger or that I was not responsible enough to take my kid on a trip if she was seriously ill.
I described all that, this morning i got a letter from my boyfriend that his mum had apologized and if that is not enough - me and him are done, because I can not "keep things simple"
I feel I overreacted, but i believe he did too. dont know what to do.
I love him and dont want to loose him but I felt really offended and I wanted to explain how I felt. Do you think I was very wrong? | my boy friend broke up with me because I got offended with his mum and refused to come to stay at her place. |
t3_45hdsw | personalfinance | First Time Home Owner Deductible Help | Just bought my first home in October and it's getting into tax season. Really want to take advantage of the deductables my home will offer me but I am struggling to come up with allowable deductibles.
It might be worth noting that I am single with no dependents. I would like to avoid hiring an accountant because I am competent enough to do this myself and could use all the spare change I can get.
I know of some simple deductibles such as mortgage points and interest, property taxes, and green investments (like insulating the house). What are some other home owner deductibles that I could capitalize on? Google is having me believe I cannot deduct my closing costs other than what I'd listed above. I was also sad to learn their is no credit for buying a house in 2015 unlike in the past.
I am aware that only owning the home for roughly 45 days in the calendar year will not really make a huge impact taxwise but I am looking forward to next year's return. | First time homeowner preparing taxes the old fashioned way on paper needs examples of allowable deductions from the home. |
t3_o4kc0 | AskReddit | I recently got a shot of epinephrine at the doctor, and it actually DECREASED my heart rate. In addition, I constantly feel sleepy and caffeine just drags me down further. Any idea what's wrong with me? | The epinephrine shot was administered to me after I had an adverse reaction to an allergy shot. The nurse giving the shot commented that it's the first time she'd seen a decrease in heart rate from epinephrine, but kind of just ignored it after that.
For years, I've been feeling incredibly sleepy. All the time. Within 2-3 hours after waking up, I feel like I could fall asleep again (and often do). I exercise regularly, but even that doesn't help. I've tried caffeine/energy drinks, but they usually just end up making me feel even more tired.
It's getting to the point where it's interfering with my academic responsibilities. I'm in college, and even a half-hour of reading a textbook will often put me to sleep. I know that this happens with others, but considering that I'm getting 8-10 hours of sleep every night, it's unnerving.
I can't do anything for long periods of time without drowsiness kicking in. Video games, books, TV shows, etc. all have me feeling exhausted after even an hour. I often yawn and feel sleepy in the middle of a jog, even if I just woke up an hour ago.
I was diagnosed with sleep apnea a little while ago, but I'm not even sure the diagnosis is correct; I don't snore at all, and using my CPAP machine (the common treatment for sleep apnea) hasn't helped me in the slightest. I'm not overweight, and I'm not old, so I don't even fit the demographic.
Does anyone have any clue as to what could be wrong with me? I'd appreciate any insight you might have. | Even after sleeping 8-10 hours every night, I still feel exhausted when I wake up. Stimulants seem to actually decrease my heart rate and alertness, and I wonder if that could be a clue to my condition. Any ideas? |
t3_3ebc0q | relationships | Me (26M) and my girlfriend (26F) of 4 years are broken up out of fear that I'll be the last person she sleeps with. | I broke up with her back in March to get myself grounded (focus on work and make music and be able to do what I want basically). We got back together with the idea of jumping in head first and moving in together, a commitment that she's been trying to get me to make for a while new. A week later I catch her cheatin on me, we stayed in contact and I sort of let it slide...sort of. Then I went out of town and got laid myself the night before painting the whole interior of my exes house. Shit got a little rocky but we still showed nothing but love for each other. Now a few weeks later weve talked about enjoying our summer and taking some time apart again, im ready to lock it down (finally) and it seems to be pushing her away, yet she still tells me she loves me and misses me and that she wants it to work etc. emotions are kind of running rampant. a mutual friend informed me last night that he saw her out holding hands with her coworker. Do you guys think a fling like that will last? Should I walk away or wait for her to come around? I'm thinking about moving just to get away from her. Thoughts? | worried the girl I love may fall in love with her coworker? |
t3_xi295 | AskReddit | Hi Reddit, I've just started a job in sales, I'm basically telemarketing at the moment yet i get very anxious when having to talk to strangers on the phone, i don't know if this is for me, help! | Hi Reddit!
As the title says I've started a new job in sales for an enterprise IT service provider. Its my first major full time job after many years of retail and getting my IT degree.
Now ive only been there a few days but im already having doubts.
First up its a 3 hour round trip up each day to get to work, secondly so far ive just been working on the phone with no real direction to get details of people who work at various companies, however i get awfuly anxious when having to talk on the phone, even after i wrote out roughly what i needed to ask and some different response (like a flow chart) i freeze up when i get told something unexpected.
Am i crazy? does anyone else get this, ive gotten it before in the past, but now it feels like its on such a bigger stage i dont want to stuff anything up for anyone.
Im also not sure if its the sort of thing that i should stick around for, that will get better, for all i know this is probably how everyone starts in this sort of role, but im not sure if its the work for me regardless, im stuck between a rock and a hardplace, if i quit it would look really bad and i would have nothing to fall back on, and i don't know what else i could do to make ends meet... its a very strange and confusing time.
On the other hand perhaps im just being a pussy, my first 9 - 5:30 job 5 day a week, after a few years of uni and casual work ive had it too easy. I certainly don't think the commute helps either though... | New job, 3 hours to get there and back each day, on phone to strangers, get bizarrely anxious when talking to strangers on phone, not sure if i should stick with it and see where it goes or get out now before i get too deep. |
t3_297zzt | Advice | I think I failed my placement test today. What should I do now? | Some background:
I recently graduated from a two year trade school. It went rather poorly, I'm not in any way prepared to enter the field and I was one of the worst in my class.
I tried to do something that fit me a little better than blue collar work, and chose a STEM major at my college. Problem is, since I just graduated financial aid is really reluctant to give me money. I was told if I attempt to change majors, or if I drop out I will be ineligible for financial aid. In other words, this major is my last shot, otherwise I can say hello to making $10 an hour working outside in the heat for the rest of my life.
In order to get in to this major, I was required to take a placement test. There are two prerequisite classes for the basic math course. These prerequisites are merely to see if a student has the abilities to make it in a math-heavy major. I was advised to attempt to test out of the first class, because it was very easy and I have very limited financial aid funds available to me.
I took the test today and I'm almost certain I failed it. In addition, I also failed a CLEP test for another subject. Not only is it unlikely I'll ever be able to pay for school now, my test results speak volumes over my abilities and my preparedness for college.
So, what do I do? I think if I failed the basic algebra test I shouldn't pursue a major involving a lot of mathematics. Even if I decided to stomach through it I've already spent hundreds on these tests ($315 to be exact) and I really can't afford it, especially considering that I don't have the option to get in to school and "figure it out" and change my major if I need to. This is a one shot deal. I feel like I'm trapped, any advice would be appreciated. | Pretty sure I'm not going to be able to go to college, and I'll be stuck working a trade in which I have no natural ability. Please help. |
t3_2hw5zg | relationships | me [18/M] dating girl [17/F] for 10 months, I tell her about something I did and now she does not trust me at all. Any ideas of a grand gesture to show her she's the only girl I want? Need to win her back. | Recently I told my girlfriend I sent some bad texts to another girl. I told her the truth as to not let it make me feel so guilty all the time and for her sake I knew she'd want the truth. I told her maybe a month after it happened (overly flirtatious texts; inappropriate).
Told her last week and now she barely speaks to me in school, as far as everyone we know they think we are broken up. But she has told me she has not decided but has 0 trust in me.
I need to show her I care for only her (which I do) and win her back.
Any ideas would help. Nothing flashy or expensive looking for modest and genuine. | Need to make up to my gf and prove shes the only one i care about or dumped at the end of the week. |
t3_1ywj8w | Dogtraining | Advice on training backpacking behaviors | Hello reddit!
I was hoping that someone would be able to help me out. I have a highly energetic 3 yr old Vizsla/Pitt mix that I want to start taking on weekend backpacking trips. My question is how to teach her to keep in my sight while off leash, or in the alternative, suggestions on how to teach her to walk nicely on a leash that attached to my backpack.
If park rules allow it, I would love be able to have Ziva off-leash. She loves to run and chase squirrels, and her recall is pretty good...towards the beginning of the trip. We have a large dog park in our city, so we walk several miles on the trails there weekly (my parents also have a large farm in a more rural part of the state that she visits regularly--and acts the same as a trip to the dog park). She will run out of my sight , but it hasn't really bother me because she knows the area and will usually come when called. Towards the end of the walk, however, she gets less inclined to listen, and it takes more and more time for her to come back. I'll have to stand there and call her several times. She's always returned, but not always promptly. My concern is that, when we're on a strange trail, she'll wander off into the forest and go too far. How should I go about training her to stay in sight while off-leash?
In the alternative, most US parks require dogs to be on-leash on trail, so I would also like to teach her how to walk nicely with me while attached to my backpack. I've always allowed her to walk in front of me on walks (aka, she does not know "heel"), and I don't care if she's in front of my on the trail either, but I don't want her pulling on my backpack the entire walk. Suggestions??
If anyone on here treks with their dog, I would also LOVE to hear stories or suggestions for us. Thanks! | advice on training dog to stay in sight while off-leash |
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