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I got an sms saying that I got a secret admirer and I can download this ugotcrush app to chat anonymously with the person. From their [website](https://ugotcrush.com/) and [app page](https://apps.apple.com/sg/app/ugotcrush-confess-anonymously/id1502681624), it seems you can use the app to send an anonymous confession to the person you have a crush on. Anybody tried? | Crush |
Having a crush lose feelings/have no feelings at all is one of the hardest things to have happen. If ur in that situation rn I just wanna let you know sooner or later you WILL find someone 100x better and it’ll all be worth the wait. Don’t let that one person get you down, there’s plenty of fish in the sea :) | Crush |
OK I've only known her for about a year. She's fucking beautiful, smart, sexy, cute laugh, her smile lights up my heart. I go way out of my way to just walk past her. To be near her. To help her if she needs anything. When she's not at work my day sucks. She's in a relationship so I can only be her friend and I'll take it but... I could treat her so much better. Everything about her makes me melt. | Crush |
I’ve liked this girl and been head over heels for her for more than a year now,for a while I thought I was over her but I’ve recently come to find out, that I’m not and actually far from it. She brought over her boyfriend and my heart sunk deeper than it ever has before. While I may not be sure that i’m in love with her romantically, I am sure I love her platonically, I can’t move out (especially now) and I don’t want to admit my feelings for her. I know there’s not much I can do in my situation, I just wish I could get over her and could get the thought of her and her boyfriend out of my mind.I’m staying over with a friend who’ve I’ve told my story too for a few days, it won’t be enough time to get over her but at the very least, the distance will ease my mind a bit. It just sucks because I feel like I can’t do anything, my hands are tied. Can’t move out and can’t admit my feelings either, so i’ll just be watching her new guy coming in and out and having to smile through it while I fall into a depression.Have any of you experinced anything like this before? If so, how did you deal with it, does anybody have any advice? Any would be greatly appreciated. | Crush |
I am in love with a girl who is married. Don't know where to post this. We are both in the military, I am married as well. She always backed me up and looked after me when there was doubt in my leadership. She helped me get through 2 years of miserable service. She is my dream girl, she likes everything I am into. I always kept it professional as I was 3 ranks above her. I feel guilty about how much I love her. I Know I have to move on but I needed to vent. I purposely changed my duty station in order to not see her again, to forget her. This is a throw away account. I have never felt this strong about someone, thank you reddit for letting me vent as I will never see her again. | Crush |
I sent a text to my crush flirting to her, her response was "aha thx" I've flirted with her before and usally she smiles and blushes and tries to hide it.
I'm 14 and a guy and she is 13, am I in the friendzone or what? | Crush |
[https://youtu.be/LKXBwh2z8X0](https://youtu.be/LKXBwh2z8X0) | Crush |
I read here but i forgot the link, basicly they said that if our crush ghosting us or give us silent treatment we shouldn't bothered by that because they dont owe us apology. In some way i agree but in another way i dont. I feel like we as civilized human being should know basic manner like apologizing when we can not do what other expect to do. Remember the word "Treat other as you want to be treated?". | Crush |
But won't answer a damn dm. Will make plans in the comments, but won't text me.
It's been almost four years and when we first met my life was in chaos so he backed away. Now my shit is in order...I still feel the same and he says things that make me think he might as well...but only in responses/comments, never in dms or texts.
Am I wasting my time? | Crush |
Long story short, we met at school and have the same classes together, every class we would talk to each other and would walk each other to class. She is just giving me really confusing signals and I’m not sure if she likes me or not and if I should make a move.
Here’s all the things she does and hopefully you guys can judge. So we would regularly snap each other and she would often send full face pics/ full face with filters but sometimes she would send half face pics. We would often tease each other, I would call her short and she would call me a meany or smth. She always tries to hug me in school, but I don’t really hug back since I didn’t want rumours to start going around. During graduation she was asking for my idea of what she should wear and even told me to wear the same colour as she was. We would often send hearts or “ily” texts back and forth too.
We have also been texting for like a whole year now but I just don’t really know since she sometimes replies really slowly and would take a few hours, she would on purposely not open my snaps since I can see her snapscore going up. And sometimes her texts would be really dry like a “lol” or just a “no”.
At this point I am still really confused and I hope you guys can help out! Thankyou! | Crush |
backstoryyy: lets call this guy M, M and I go wayyyy backk, we met when we were 6yrs old lol nd i had a crush on him in 6th grade. Tht yr i find out he’s moving schools in june nd i was sad to say the least bc he never found out, my 12yr old heart was 💔 no one knew bout this crush except for 2 of my closest friends
So since then I lost all contact with him because we were always just friends, def wasn’t super close. Only knew 1 or 2 friends tht kept in contact with him. THEN, back in january my couple of friends nd I decided to hang out because it’s been a while. The guy who kept in contact with M came too,, then TO MY SURPRISE HE INVITED M & NO ONE KNEW ABOUT IT. I was shocked to say the least nd my heart dropped since neither of us thought we would ever see each other again to be honest. AT THAT MOMENT IT REALY FELT LIKE FATE. (even though we go to different colleges now)
We’ve been talking every single day since we hung out in January and i’m not sure how to feel like is it weird that i feel that feeling from 6th grade again? He’s been super nice to me and very talkative but don’t know if that’s just his personality and how he talks to everyone. Like what is this feeling i’m confused man!! Never been in relationship before and yeah
also we haven’t been in contact for so long I feel like there is a chunk of his life i don’t know..
but uhhhhh yeah your girl here still hasn’t told him about the crush I had on him when I was 12 and how I feel now because i’m shy and scared LOL
IF YOU MADE IT THIS FAR I LOVE U & THANK YOU FOR HELPING A GIRL OUT! (honestly just needed to rant, any advice or comments are welcomed) | Crush |
I need help getting over my crush, I’ve liked him for about a month and we’ve talked every day and met up together a few times during that time (as friends). Recently he’s been leaving me on seen and not responding to my texts and I feel like I’ve been carrying most of the few conversations we’ve been having. I really like him but if he doesn’t want to talk to me I want to do my best to get over him as soon as possible and move on from this. Any tips? | Crush |
My crush and I haven’t met yet... we matched on a dating app couple of weeks ago, kept writing with each other but haven’t met yet.
My problem is that he used to say he is busy atm with exams and will be available soon after. So I text always and he takes ages to respond to my messages ... yesterday I asked if we want to talk on the phone he said no he doesn’t feel like it. And honestly I get it its not a problem... but today I tried to continue the convo but he stopped writing back.
I know I’man obsessive person but I’m trying to calm myself down, the problem is I’m starting to like him and feel like I cant let it go before I’ve met him...
I will just delete him.. or just relax | Crush |
Long story short I’m 99 percent sure that my crush and I have been crushing on each other for years and we never said anything to each other because we were too scared to. I’ve been wanting to say something for the longest time and I was at least planning to do so during the end of the school year but quarantine means that I never get to see him anymore. What do you guys suggest I do about this? Should I wait until I see him again, if I see him again? Should I text him? I also don’t really want to force him into a relationship right before he leaves to start his new life, I just don’t feel like he deserves the burdens and pressures of long distance relationships right before he goes off to do something new. Overall, I’m conflicted and i need some of your unbiased responses so I can figure out what to do about this. Thanks! :) | Crush |
So this was weeks ago my crush she broke my heart she trying to make me feel happy but honestly my heart been broken so much | Crush |
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It's a realization that has come to me. The happiness people are always putting themselves first. Sure, family, friends, and partners are important. However, if we are living our lives for something other than ourselves we are being dishonest to ourselves. **We need to find our happiness then try to help others reach their maximum potential.** | Crush |
[https://youtu.be/vC1PV2FI074](https://youtu.be/vC1PV2FI074) | Crush |
and got rejected. it stings a lot especially because of how strongly i felt about her. But, her reason for rejecting me was understandable and she didn’t want to count me out as an option which does seem kind of sick but i mean it’s what i got and i still love her | Crush |
okay so pretty much theres this guy i met at school who i already knew of bc of mutual friends. I started snapping him about a week ago and weve been snapping pretty often ever since. He just got out of a “relationship” a month ago but they never really dated they just liked each other and hung out and whatnot but never made it official. So weve talked some and even spent 4 hours on a snapchat voice call just talking. before i hung up to go to sleep he said before i left i had to send a pic of myself (not nude$) and so i did and told him goodnight. He made it seem like he didnt want me to hang up and wanted me to fall asleep on our vc. After i left he told me sweet dreams and i went to sleep. hes made some flirty jokes here and there but he told my friend that hes just a flirty person. he also mentioned he doesnt rlly date younger girls and im a year and a half younger. I didnt reply to him last night bc i was asleep but after he responded to my actual message a bit later he said “goodnight kid sleep well”. I haven’t spoken to him much at school but we are probably going to talk on monday now that we know each other better and whatnot and he said hes gonna make me talk at school since im usually pretty quiet. What do you guys think about this? Is it just friendly flirting or more?
**Update**
I was hanging out w my friend yesterday and he said “aww both very pretty” to a video of us and then later on he told me “hey just a reminder youre very pretty” and at school he waited on me and we walked to our classes that we have in common on monday and tuesday like he said he would wednesday night. however he did hold his friends hand next to me while we were walking to a class.
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(He’s going to mine) | Crush |
Ok so I got my first crush yesterday and I’m thinking about telling them. But it’s constantly on my mind. It’s making it hard to sleep, it’s just gone 2am lol | Crush |
Hi! I (18M) have had a crush on a girl (18F) for almost 5-6 years now and I am now in this state in which if I should tell her how I really feel or forget her. Let me explain the situation. (Before reading, english is not my first language)
We start in elementary school where I would eventually get a crush. She was gorgeous and really fun to talk with. In 7th grade we would have some nice small talk from time to time in which I enjoyed every second of it and I could tell that she did. We had many things in common like music taste, humor, and we were both very caring about our friends and surroundings. At that time I started to catch feelings for her.
Now the difference between me and her was that I was not the smartest kid in school compared to her. She was most certain a straight A student while I was below average and could be completely clueless in some lessons in school. I really tried my best in school and I was working day and night towards being smarter and doing better in school. This is we’re the things start to turn.
Whenever I did a mistake like I read some word wrong whenever we would read loud in class or answer a question wrong, she would either laugh at me or point me out as being stupid. She would yell at my face sometimes when I did a mistake in a group project instead of helping me and show me how it’s done. It really got to my nerves but I still had a crush on her. In this stage I started to doubt myself and think that I don’t deserve her.
8th grade starts and my first response towards how she treated me, was to ignore her. I didn’t talk to her for the whole span of 8th grade. Not even a single word. This was because I thought if I started to talk to her she would just make fun of me. This thought process has went on for almost four years now and I don’t know how to let it go. I really have feelings for her and whenever I meet other people I would just compare them to her.
I felt like I haven’t been the same since. I’ve become more silent and more nervous around people, thinking all the time that I would make a fool out of myself. I tend to now procrastinate a lot and I barely workout. I really want to change myself and I think this is the situation that is holding me back. I want to be happy and enjoy life as it is.
I reach out to this Reddit page for some advice on what to do. Anything helps. Thank you | Crush |
I have a crush on a girl in my class. I wanted to hang out with her but my country is currently under lockdown ( thanks covid ) so I asked her if she ever wanted to hang out virtually and she said yes. Any ideas on what we should do? I could just video chat with her but I can get pretty awkward and im horrible with small talk. | Crush |
So I like this girl. We’ve spoken on and off for the past months and when we talk it’s really good and I love talking to her and I think it’s the same for her. She once sent me a photo of a painting she made, with the painting covering her face. I regret not being like ‘that’s really cool but the real artwork is hidden’. Instead I said something dumb, just talking about the painting. I think she knows I like her but I also want her to know I think she’s beautiful, maybe I’ll get another chance at that cus we just added each other on Instagram.
I hate playing the waiting game for when we’ll speak next but I also don’t want to be clingy or something so I don’t know what to do now
I wish we were dating already | Crush |
he realised my feelings and have been playing with them. He ditches me for someone else. Thank you guys | Crush |
so i started seeing this guy and we have kind of similar music taste but i really want to make him a playlist to show more interest! we have a really nice connection and can talk about anything and music was a major topic on our first date. he really likes neil young and leon bridges, he also sort of seems to be into paul simon/van morrison. he likes country but not like hardcore/real country, the country that city girls listen to when they say they love country music. he also seems to like semi-oldie music but all the good stuff like the eagles, the beatles, etc. i want to add things he will like/appreciate but am worried he wont like what i pick! can someone please advise other bands, songs, albums, etc? thank you!!! | Crush |
So there’s this hot guy who’s super respectful and kind but basically doesn’t know how to talk to a girl. And I’m really into Him. And I’m the type of person to just jump in and make my shot but i can’t this time because he’s an officer for a club I’m also an officer for. So if he were to say no it would be so embarrassing yk and at the same time it would’ve ackward for the both of us. Another issue is that he’s 18 and I’m still a minor yall. Not gonna disclose my real age but I am close to 18 but not close enough like not 14 or anything but I’m not 18 or 17 and I don’t know if that’ll make it impact too so help me please | Crush |
So i’ve had a crush on her for about a month or two now, and we get along great during text and in person. Due to the Pandemic ( we are in Highschool) school is cancelled and we can only talk over text.
We haven't really talked in the past week and a half, and i want to strike up a conversation, but i dont want to come across weird for texting out of the blue, and due to poor social skills im not sure what to text her to strike up a convo.
Thanks! | Crush |
I remember when I first met you on the fourth of July in the hood I went back to the crib to grab my mom's drink and when I came back you were there. I was your sister's best friend you showed up and caught my eye I went to your house with your sister to get her clothes for the sleepover you was talking all that shit and I threw a flip flop and you chased me. i remember when i found out you were staying at my step-grandmas house i made sure to cross the street and see you every chance i get and when i found out you were coming back to town i threw on my nicest outfit and makeup and when you looked at me i felt alive, and then you came to live with us and i was terrified and happy a few months later i made my move and we cuddled and kissed for 4 days in a row and then you had to leave again. i love you always have always will, i miss your kiss i miss your arms wrapped around my petite body i wish we were like we used to be you dont know what i would do for you happy early valenties day baby | Crush |
I (m13) have liked this girl (f13) for 5 years on and off. However everything surrounding the relationship is really unique. We see each other once a year on work vacations from our parents. We used to text and facetime every day but now we only text once every sixth months. The signs of her liking me are she texted "I kinda have a crush on you" then "jkkk" " Sorry that was my friend". She also responds to my texts most of the time and is active in the friendship. She prolly doesn't like me as she doesn't iniate anything and text too often. The damning thing is 5/6 years ago she said she didn't have a crush on me.
Option A)
Ask her on the next vacation and possibly ruin the vacations and our friendship, not to mention our parents are friends.
Option B)
Wait, be patient. Get to know her more and deepen the relationship. Maybe ask her in a few years. Option I'm leaning towards.
Feel free to comment any advice, I'd appreciate it.
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its Adrianna if you're out there you know who you are come back to me | Crush |
I really like this girl. Like way too much. We are co-workers and she likes me too, but I can tell she just wants it to be platonic. She is really cool. Cooler than me anyways. We play games all the time, and we text each other all the time. Im confused because I don't want to date her either I just want to be good friends but I can't stop having a crush on her. It's kind of been getting me down recently and I don't know how to cope with it. The other day she was telling me about she was talking to a guy on Tinder and he started ghosting her after they've been talking for 3 months. That sort of hit me and I didn't know how to react. I don't want to stop talking to her because friendship isn't a consolation prize and I can tell we can be great friends for years to come. I have no idea how to just get over it and stay good friends with her. I feel like if I tell her it would make things akward. Any suggestions? | Crush |
So there was a boy in bumble I crushed, he is a senior students in UCSD( major in Computer science), he had to stay at home in China mainland to take online courses, and we lived in the same city, we chatted for a couple days in bumble and go out for a dinner once, I think I’m starting to like him, but it’s just, we lived in different places, I don’t think long distance can work out, so I don’t think things can be serious between us in the future.
So far I liked him, but recently he told me that he is just soooo busy with his homework and have no time for rest(and also because he is going to graduate soon)
When we started to chat it was Jan 5, and it was just the beginning of winter quarter so he was not very busy at that time, but now he is sooo busy and never text me, but if I text him he will text me back.
I don’t know if he likes me or not, or his not that busy actually, he just not that into me.
Should I ask him out next time( last time he asked me for that dinner), or should I text him more?
We haven’t text to each other in 2 days so far | Crush |
This girl and I have been talking for a while and she seems to be nervous around me and when she does questions on Instagram when she answers mine which is usually like the 3rd or 4th then she stops?! (It’s like mine was the only one she cared about) I think she likes as we have stayed up till like 2 a few times just messaging, we also have a shared playlist together that we both love but I just don’t understand why she doesn’t initiate conversation but she’ll carry it and ask questions and stuff I just don’t get why she doesn’t text first. She is really pretty and I would consider myself quite conveniently attractive too (at least in her league) I want everyone to please comment on what they think I should do. | Crush |
Reddit, I’m a fool at a crossroads
Ok so there this girl (15) that I (almost 16m) met back in 7th grade. We became friends quick and stayed friends through 8th until I moved to the next town over about 1/3 of the way through 9th, the start of 9th was also about the time I started to seriously like her. A bit after I left I called and told her I liked her but got rejected sadly.
Throughout the former half of last year we didn’t talk much, I chalk this up to the awkwardness left over from me telling her I liked her. Around June we kicked off again, soon after in July she moved to Florida (It was a real shame because it turned out that she had moved to the same city and we only lived about a 1/3 mile away from eachother) Since then she’s been someone that I feel comfortable talking with about my issues and given how she helped me I want to help her with her’s best I can
This year we’ve kind of been talking more and in light of me almost being 16 we’ve been joking about me going down to visit her in Florida along with another friend. She’s told me that I’m one of the 3 people from our old school that she actually misses (those other 2 being other girls) and I can say with certain we’ve gotten closer in the last few months.
Here’s the crossroad. when the time comes, I have my license, the summer off, and the will to drive 1000 miles do I go and risk getting rejected a second time of which I fear that if that awkwardness comes back we can’t recover from it. While also taking a chance at getting a special someone, even if I get rejected or I don’t reconfess I can walk away knowing I got to see a good friend for the first time in over a year.
Or do I not go, risk losing my chance, but also take another (yes another Ive tried thrice) of moving on from her. If I try this I need to preserve the friendship and comradary between us as I’ve grown somewhat dependent upon it which I don’t think I can move on from her without cutting her out of my life entirely. Given how I want to make sure she’s doing okay and I want to pay back the debt I owe her I can’t do that
Honestly my odds here arn’t good either way through my eyes. Me and her have lead very different lives so I don’t know if it could even work, my DMs are open if anyone wants to give advice personally | Crush |
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have a crush on a toxic boy but i like it when he's nice | Crush |
So there is this guy that i met in a friend house, first time i saw him i was super shy and under the charm so couldn't really start a conversation, and he seemed to be kinda shy too,idk, but the problem is, that when I was there he was flirting with a girl, I got clingy tbh, but still idk why ( I'm not usually like that) was interested in him. Idk idk but I felt like chemistry between us or smth like that. Then, came a moment where we exchanged some words and I left I only heard his name from my friend that's it.
The weird thing is that I met him in a grocery store i guess weeks after, we exchanged looks, it was soooooo mysterious I felt myself in a movie, it's like there is smth grabbing us together but we can't idk how to explain but its exactly like a movie omg 😂
Aaand guess what, after all these 4 years, I can't get him out of my mind !!!! I found him on Instagram, followed him, he followed back but I guess he does know who I am. No clue
Idk what to do 😭😭 I can't stop thinking about him I get so excited whenever he sees my story.
Should I talk to him ? Pllzzz guys help | Crush |
what does it mean when your crush sits on your lap, wakes you up daily, and massages your back | Crush |
I’m a (F) and I swear every guy I’ve ever liked has never reciprocated. I’ve always thought I was ugly am positive I’ll be single forever. Do attractive guys only go for the really pretty girls?? I know every guy sees beauty different but I swear that’s not the case with me | Crush |
Hello, Reddit.
I want to start by saying that while this is not a throwaway account I will only be using it for this topic and for updating it if it’s necessary. Also I want you to know that I am going to think about any advice that you give me. Also, I will be giving any info needed, no matter if it would make me easy to identify.
Okay, let’s start from what brings me here: I have a crush on one of my classmates, a huge one too.
I’m a 26 years old female and he’s a 24 years old guy. We met in class in September 2019 and since then we have barely talked because we were in different corners of the classroom and because of another two things: I am basically all the time with my friends and he’s ALWAYS with his brother, they are not twins but they are like the best friends ever, in fact his brother is way more talkative than him, but both of them are pretty shy, not the kind of feeling uncomfortable around people but they are mostly quiet. So well, they are closer to another group of people etc. Then the big C happened and they had to make smaller groups for class and both him and his brother are basically sitting in the same part of the classroom so we talk a bit more. For some reason this dude started being in my thoughts all the time, literally ALL the time, which made me uncomfortable.
Why does it make me uncomfortable? I will not lie: I’m ugly. Not that ugly that you would look away but definitely ugly or at least that’s how I feel because I am overweight. My friends say that I am cute, but I am not that interesting, they are just being nice. I am working on losing weight and feeling prettier.
The thing is that he’s beautiful, like I don’t know if he gets much attention because in my class there are few girls and are all taken and the guys are hetero, but he’s handsome. I mean, I think that he could date any girl he wanted.
The other thing is that I want to get to know him better but I obviously don’t have a good reason to talk to him alone without his brother and if I talk when they are together the brother takes the lead because he’s more talkative, as I said. So my next option was social media, the thing is that I cannot make him talk about anything, he replies to what I say and that’s it, not like he replies in a way that makes me impossible to keep it going but I can really get into a deep conversation with what he’s giving me right now.
I’d like to ask him out, maybe.
I just think it’s unreasonable asking someone out without knowing them enough, plus the big C doesn’t make it easy either… My friend suggested that I ask him to do something as friends and the problem remains the same + he would bring his brother too.
I really don’t know what to do because I don’t want to miss out on a good boy because I feel too ugly and shy, but he doesn’t seem that interested. In 3 weeks our school year will be over and if I don’t do something I will not see him again, but I don’t think that I can keep it going as just a simple chatting because we will soon end up having nothing to talk about, and I really don’t know him much but I happen to be very into the way he exists.
Advice for this hopeless romantic? | Crush |
Help!! He really makes me mad. He is handsome, tall and has a sweet smile. He’s really hot and friendly, not like me. I know that personality is more important, but if I’m ugly, I guess he won’t like me back. But u know, I can’t stop dreaming. Even though I’m lying myself, my eyes prove me by looking at him all the time. My heart proves me with the fast heartbeats.
Actually, I’m not ugly. But, I’m plump. I believe that makeup can cover up many imperfections on the face. But, we can’t make the plump body seems slim, right? So, I don’t really have confidence.
Next: I’m so cold. I like the people persons and I tried my best. But, I don’t know how to continue the conversation with the stranger. So, I find difficulty when I talk to him. I want to look friendly to him. Even though I mean nothing to him, I wanna close with him. Can you please give me some tips? | Crush |
I did it. I asked her out. I confessed. She said no... But she said it's still possible. What should I do?? Wait for her to talk or give up hope. I guess I need consolation. Could you guys tell me what to do? Please
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Omg, thank you so much for the replies. A few things happened which I just wanted to tell you all. Even though she said no she's still talking to me about my proposal. She thinks I'm sad cause she didn't say yes. But I guess I'm more curious cause she's still talking to me. She's a really good friend of mine.
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She said yes yall! Time to go to r/relationship advice.... Just joking!! But she said yessss!!!!! | Crush |
okay so i had a crush on this girl a long time ago (probably around 2 years ago), but tbh, i still feel uncomfortable around her, do u think this is normal? haha, any thoughts? i really really want to remain as friends or at least what we used to have back then but it just doesn't seem right esp. because i never admitted that i liked her, what should i do?? | Crush |
This girl from my work and I were getting along well, flirting and all but she had to temporarily leave for something else. (Will probably come back later). She doesn’t text me like she used to and after our last time hanging out something didn’t feel right like it didn’t click anymore. Maybe she just doesn’t like me anymore or is there another reason? Thanks for any help | Crush |
Hey guys, it's currently 1:30am where I'm at rn and I can't get these thoughts out of my head. I really like this girl and I already told her how I feel and she said the timing was off atm, so I decided I'd wait it out until after exams and stuff (I told her in September). And for September-December I think everything was really chill and we were vibing quite well idk, we're relatively good friends and she did these small gestures and said little things that made me think there may have been a chance for us.
However, schools closed where I'm at because of covid and I haven't seen her in person for over a month and obviously it's a lot harder to read her online, and every little bit of hope I have is slowly diminishing as the days go by without seeing her because we don't talk that much online and it's harder to vibe w her and see if she's smiling and laughing.
I'm kind of afraid that the more time she spends away from me, the less she'll think about me and forget about any sort of feelings she had (if she had any in the first place) yk?
I also have this habit of daydreaming about her a lot, but I always feel so guilty because I know that's not the real her. She's a great person but there's so much more I'd still like to know about her and I subconsciously create this version of her in my head, and that doesn't do her justice at all. I want more than anything to get to know THE REAL her, and I don't want to just be dating this imaginary girl in my head that looks like her.
There's not much I can do about any of this, but I just thought I'd share. | Crush |
So I have a crush on my coworker. Something I told myself not to do. But it just happened so sudden. He's such a good guy always makes me laugh, even when I feel like crap. Anyway now I don't know what to do with myself. I'm one of those people that is to scared to make a move or something in that direction. | Crush |
As ghe title says, my bestfriend loves my crush and she loves him back, and it is the worst feeling on earth...
Edit : they are dating now.
Edit 2 : they broke up and never let her down and now we are dating, i'm so happy | Crush |
Okay, so I've had a crush on this girl for about 5 months. I was never 100 percent sure if I liked her. But my friends analysed the way I act around her and they confirmed it. But lately I've had doubts about if I still like. Does anyone know how you can tell if you like someone?
Ps. I know this is weird but I've never been good at emotions and stuff. | Crush |
Y'all ever liked someone or had an idea that both of you would make a great couple *in your dreams* even though you've never had any deep conversations. Like we only send each other memes and shit. And he doesn't live in the same country either 😂. But there's that feeling I can't explain it...what would you do in a situation like that if you wanna get to know them on a personal level without being awkward/ creepy!! | Crush |
There is this girl I've had a crush for a long time and she may like me too soI want to talk to her but she is always with her friends and we don't have common friends so it is difficult to talk to her alone.
I've thought of texting her so that we talk but I don't know what say.
Could someone help me please? | Crush |
How to know if a shy guy like you?Like what should I do to find out about it?What are the signs that he likes me? | Crush |
There is this person that i like, and i told her that i like her, and she told me she likes me back. My only problem is that whenever she talks to anyone else, and I hate myself for it, cuz i obviously have no say over her or anything, i just have like fomo, wishing that i could always talk to her. But now im scared that she is going to find someone that she likes more than me as a friend and then she wont talk to me at all again. I have only known her since end of october and we have never met in person because of covid, and i am scared i wont even be friends with her when we are able to see each other in person. And this is partly justified because she said to me that she found someone who is “best friend material” does this mean I’m going to be replaced because i really don’t want this to happen. Does she understand how much it’s eating at me that we might not be best friends anymore. Any tips as to what I should do? | Crush |
I'm new here so I'm not sure how things work : )
So there's something about me that i don't get, and it goes like this:
I've been single my whole life. I have a feeling it's because of my standards?
Like, I want the guy I "like" to not reciprocate my feelings at first. Something like rejection, i guess. That would make my feelings for him grow even more (most people like someone more after they get rejected, right? So i guess that's common?). Then I would act genuinely nice, which might annoy him actually; I want him to "hate" me in the beginning, and i would intentionally make that happen (but still naturally); I feel that it's very thrilling when someone you like would hate you first before liking you (something like "from enemies to lovers" thing. It happens in real life, and i want my lovelife to start from that).
I'm not saying I would be fake, because it's not like i would toy his feelings, really. I just believe that in this way, It would feel like a thrilling love. Maybe because I don't want it to be boring? When I see or hear that a couple liked each other right from the start, i can't help but think that it's boring, or the relationship would be boring (don't be mad at me, I'm sorry)
(Back to my reasoning)
Anyway, that would give me the chance to be around him because I would naturally tease him, that's why he'd "hate" me. I'm not really sure what the right term is (I'm not really the type to chase a man who doesn't like me. But I feel like it would be fun to try).
I want to act friendlier and more caring to him than with anyone else (I'm not much of a caring person, if I'm being honest). I don't wanna do this because "I want my lovelife to be like in the movies.". No, I really just happen to think that chasing a boy who "hates" you and then will like you in the end because of your personality is pretty something (i guess). Idk, but, what i believe is pain at the start and then being loved in the end, is really thrilling and makes me feel human (I'm not sure if it makes sense or am if that's the right term 😢). Like, I want to be rejected first. I intentionally want to feel the pain from not being liked back.
And if he doesn't like me back at all, then i think i might eventually lose feelings for him (It's very wrong. I know..). If a guy would like me first, or he won't reject me in the beginning, I'll happen to lose interest in him and walk away like I don't care (Maybe that over exaggerated, i mean I would love that too when a guy likes me first, but i would unconsciously think that "how is it that he likes me already? There's nothing to like about me... or is this just a small crush? If so, then i guess he's not the one amd and he'llget over me soon enough.). And I don't know what it's called or am i the only one who thinks this way.
Maybe because i genuinely believe in this "The more you hate, the more you love", and I'm not sure if that's a healthy mindset to have.
Am I a sadist? Or am i just lonely? I want my feelings to be hurt because of rejection in the beginning (I think It means I want to feel that pain). Am i the only one?
I'm not sure if "thrill" is the word, or if it's really what i seek, but I would love that.
Of course, I won't like a guy just because this sort of situation happened.. It still depends on the person :T I just think I'm into (i guess) into this type of relationship?
I wouldn't want this for just any guy. I have to like him genuinely (s***** men aren't to my liking :')) And, I'm not sure if I'm gonna like a guy even if he happens to meet my preferences in men (Does that even make sense :')) Idk i would just trust the "You'll know he's the one" saying 😭
And like i said, I'm single since birth, so I haven't experienced romance in my life. I just feel like this is something that brings me that sort of feeling, idk what it's actually called ☹. So it could be that I don't really want this or I do 🙃
It's a stupid thing, i know that. That's why i need answers please 😭 | Crush |
I confessed for the first time. As an almost-18yo M who’s been in 2 relationships and a few ‘talking stages’ it probably seemed almost odd how I haven’t done this already.
But I want to post this mainly encourage those who have been crushing on someone (if like me, really hard) because it really isn’t as bad as it seems.
For background info, the girl is my age, we go to the same school, same class and a lot of mutuals with one mutual friend group. She’s basically my closest person/friend at this point. I realised about almost a month ago that I liked her but this feelings probably have been around for longer. I’ve never really looked for clues or signs if she liked me but being this close, many friends asked about our relationship. (Also it would be undeniable that we have extremely good chemistry)
So why did I shoot my shot even though I could ruin such a beautiful friendship? Even though there weren’t any clear signs she was into me? She even told me a while ago she didn’t think she was really ready for a relationship this year.
No I’m not stupidly confident. In fact I went to confess almost certain that I’d end up crying at night of rejection. But after much talking with my friends, I realised one crucial thing that I was severely underestimating. Our friendship. Me and hers. Not telling her how I feel because I didn’t want to ruin our friendship also meant I didn’t trust our friendship, that it was strong enough to make this not a big deal. This, coupled with the fact that my head was distracted because I had to get it off my chest, and I didn’t want to regret this in the future just because I didn’t tell her, gave me just enough reasons to tell her how I feel. I just had to get it out of my chest, and let her know how I feel. Even though she was (almost probably) gonna turn me down. I didn’t want to continue with that slight hope that she may like me back while being her friend. If she didn’t feel the same at least I would come into realisation what we had would be just a friendship and nothing else.
So I asked her out. She told me she felt the same way but she asked for some time to consider things and hasn’t given me a definite answer yet.
Considering I was expecting a full on rejection, even her having the same feelings and turning me down I consider a win in my book.
So ladies and gents, shoot your shot. Because I genuinely expected a full on rejection.
But sometimes it may not turn out as bad as expected.
And it cleared my head and am currently no longer feeling weighed down by my feelings. It was worth it. Even if she gives me a no, honestly. | Crush |
Okay, i'll go first...My crush decided to spread a rumor about me claiming i was a lesbian and it got around and it was so heartbreaking that he would do something so heartless and vicious. boy did that turn me off completely.
Crushes...ughh | Crush |
I was Vibing with her for coming up to 6 months, and she was always there for me, always laughing and being a good person.
But today I got told by a mutual friend about her telling her friends how weird, unmasculine and cringe I am. Apparently she is just pretending to like me, because I am a ''fragile'' person. For fuck sake. Always with other boys drinking alcohol and smoking in the city. It's hard, I can't let go of my feelings... | Crush |
(Sorry for any bad grammar and misspellings)
If you have a crush don't be afraid to shoot your shot, no matter what. Don't make any excuses for yourself not too. I don't want anyone to be like me 35(m) who couldn't tell his crush how he feels, who kept making excuses or finding reasons why I couldn't/can't "I don't have a car", "I live with an asshole roommate", "I have anxiety", "I'm afraid", "I'm not good enough". Who had plenty of opportunities to take things further and didn't act on them. Please shoot your shot, cause being rejected is lot better then not knowing and thinking what could have been. | Crush |
She’s in her early 20s’.
She’s young.
She’s charming, bright and full of optimism.
She makes my day.
I’m 30 something.
I’m old.
I’m a jaded, cynical and barely holding on by a thread.
I’m a miserable asshole.
We work together, I look forward to seeing her every day. We meet, we hang out on a break, we talk, I try my best to make her laugh. But my complete inability to flirt, confidence issues, self doubt, fear of rejection and turning things awkward at the office make taking the next step nigh impossible. I’m alternating between getting my hopes up and resigning myself leaving things unsaid; being giddy like a teenager and feeling like an old creep.
FUUUUCK!!! I really thought I was past this at this point in life.
I know it’s incredibly selfish, but I need her in my life. | Crush |
edit: the feelings are back | Crush |
Hi person reading this.
So I have been crushing on this boy in my English class. I think it’s mostly because I think he’s cute or something. I also think he has a good music taste and that his voice is really really nice to listen to. And because of his sense of humour.
Okay I don’t even know where this is going XD.
So he is in my English class. I’ve liked him from the beginning of the school year till now kinda. Well not like butterflies, but it’s just a crush. But like a heavier one then normally.
So i told him that I think he has nice music taste and stuff and then we talked for like 3 days (via IG). Then the conversation died a bit and I started being annoying and he blocked me...
I’ve also played soccer with him and his friends for a few days but then the lockdown came (again). Also good to know I am very bad at socialising and soccer. So then came the lockdown and I only got to see him online. Which did NOT make him less cute. And yeah just wanted to say that.
What’s your advice?
Btw I could still message him via teams and I think I found his snap so yeah. That.
Thanks for reading this.
Bye | Crush |
In class today my teacher said to my crush that me and her would make a cute couple in front of the class as she has been saying for the past two weeks that she’s looking for a boyfriend. But then she told it would never work because me and her are like my brother and sister. So any confidence I was building up to ask her is now all crushed. | Crush |
So like 2 months ago I confessed to my crush at like 2am because I couldn't stop thinking about him and I couldn't focus on anything so I thought it was a great idea. He ended up liking me back but didn't date him because I hate the thought of dating and having a boyfriend or whatever. Now it's so awkward talking to him knowing we have mutual feelings for each other and I think I've hurt myself more. I can't imagine about having a crush on anyone else but him.
Sorry I needed to vent somewhere | Crush |
So im COMPLETELY head over heals for this one guy and he’s amazing but we’re part of a religion that can be pretty overbearing, and he’s waaay more religious than me and im kinda pretending to be better so we can actually end up together. But besides religion we get along super well. He’s just very shy and idk what to text him | Crush |
im afraid i have fallen for a shy nerdy boy who ill get made fun of for liking. but hes adorable. the problem is we're both very shy, so i dont know how to initiate a friendship/relationship.
we used to be friends when we had classes together, but we only recently started saying hi to each other again. i have about 2 minutes a day to talk to him but i usually dont because im nervous and dont know what to say. how do i flirt with him without being creepy, and make sure we're on the same page before i do so? ive never been in a relationship before
edit, something to add: his parents are super strict. no social media. no friends over. no driving. its bad. not sure what to do | Crush |
this low-key hurts like hell
I wish I could just get over her | Crush |
Hello guys. I have a huge crush on this guy. We do not know each other well. We go out every day right now with other friends. He does not like me. His best friend who is a girl knows I like him. She thinks I should not move on and that we are suitable for each other. I am wondering if I should move on from my crush. Or should I wait for him to get to know me better and maybe like me one day. | Crush |
Hahaha, so if you like juicy drama, this post is for you because this one’s a doozy hahaha.
So I actually posted earlier on this subreddit about the same guy I’m crushing on, disappointing, I know, but here goes:
So I have a crush on this dude I knew from high school. I’ve known the guy for 8 years, but we weren’t super mega close. We occasionally talk on FB messenger and send each other cool music to listen to since we like music.
Then outta nowhere, he drunk texts me saying he thinks I’m so beautiful and intelligent. I’m flattered, but I can’t and don’t want to do anything about it because I am in a relationship. It makes me feel weird because back in the day I kinda had a crush on him, but thought he was outta my league. At this point, he doesn’t know I’m in a relationship and I genuinely thought he did. I just told him that I thought his text was funny and flattering. I thought he was just being dumb and drunk.
Then, like a month later in the middle of a text convo while he was sober, he tells me that he has had dreams about me and he wishes he could know me better. This really trips me up because I can’t pass it off as him being dumb and drunk. I get all butterfly-ey and confused because I am kind of socially dumb, I think we both are xD, because I just thought he meant as friends and I did want to be better friends.
He also has struggled a lot with some heavy stuff recently like losing his mother, depression, and being out of a long term relationship (which I do acknowledge that he may have considered me a rebound) so I try to be a friend and be there if he needs to talk and I low key think that did it because after like 6 months, he finally texted me: “I low key be wanting you”
I think I didn’t want to break his heart sooner, which in hindsight was very, very, cruel of me to do. I told him that I was in a relationship. He got super apologetic and I could feel the cringe that he must have felt after crushing on a taken girl for like 5 months haha.
Then fast forward to now, we’re talking less. While he was talking to me, it was also weird that he was also wanting to get back with his ex and I told him that I thought that was so nice and that they should try again (trying to be supportive. But he told me he wanted me during this time? haha wut?) And now it seems like they’re going out again and I’m like 100% here for it, but like dude, that was a trip hahaha.
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So yeah now we don’t really talk as much anymore and idk it's kinda sad?
Idk if it's because he’s ashamed of himself for crushing on me because I was taken, or that he doesn’t want to talk to me because he likes me a lil and talking to me would be confusing and he wants to focus on his girlfriend? Idk man it's been one hell of a trip.
Not sure if I’m asking for advice or anything. Just sharing a story and kind of venting because I don’t know who else to tell hahaha.
What do you guys think of this bonkers situation? | Crush |
I would always compliment his jackets and his shoes and I would play with the zippers on his jackets. We would also pass each other notes during study hall even though we sat next to each other. Like literally the day before the lockdowns started. Then we didn't talk to each other for months then I realized I liked him about six months ago and we started "talking" again in October/November. I was gonna confess in December but I decided against it because I'm scared of rejection :). Looking back there were many instances where I have subconsciously flirted with him that go back to 6 months before I even knew I liked him. Now that I know I like him I freeze up and get all nervous. I'm a dummy pls help.
TLDR: I flirted with my now crush when I thought of him as just a friend and now that I understand my feelings I can't flirt. | Crush |
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I wanted to share this quote since I see many of my student gets unmotivated due to their past. They can't see that the past is the past. You have developed as a person since you left high school or college and now without those artificial constrains you can be free to realize your full potential.
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https://youtu.be/6JrBT_3OKAY | Crush |
So I’ve liked this girl since primary school (elementary for you Americans out there) and I still love talking to her about football (soccer) but I also want her to know that I love her and while she did know about it when we were younger I don’t know if she thinks I’ve gone off her but I tell her obviously this will all be via text in the current climate but I fear our conversations will just become an awkward mess this isn’t helped by the fact I will never see her again at all what should I do any advice appreciated | Crush |
Does he Have a Crush on Me? [take the Quiz to find out!](https://interestingpsychology.com/snax_quiz/does-he-have-a-crush-on-you-quiz/) | Crush |
Does anyone know, hoe to tell if a girl likes you over text. | Crush |
I miss him but I’m scared he doesn’t feel the same way. | Crush |
I see him once in a week.First time,he flirted me till I couldn't resist it.So the next week , I was playing the reverse card towards him, it went awesome and ended by adding each other on social media. 3rd week, he acted like we never spoke,like I am a stranger. | Crush |
I definitely have ruined what I had with my crush. I think it was because we went ice skating one day, and we were sitting on a bench after, and he stuck his hand out and made a comment about how cold his hand is. And I assume I was supposed to hold his hand... so yeah. But I can’t stop thinking about him. It’s to the point where I think it isn’t healthy anymore. I need help, please. Can I like force him to reject me? [cries out of pain] | Crush |
Kinda into this girl, just knew her cause we took the same bus to college. And now due to Corona, can't really see her or meet her anywhere to start a conversation with her, didn't really want to start a conversation online, wouldn't give the best impression, also I'd not say she's out of my league, but she's definitely way more popular than me, so I guess a lot of other dudes would be all over her messages I guess.. Don't just want to be someone in the crowd, but I got no idea where to start.. I know Im probably giving it too much thought, but I guess its my first crush since my old breakup (years ago, not like a fling or a rebound) so I guess I just want this to work, although I see no scenario where it could.. What should I doooooo!! | Crush |
yesterday i was at a restaurant with my two friends and we sat down near this group of four girls. they had to have been in high school or just fresh out of it. all of the girls were very pretty, but my lord - one of them in particular was absolutely beautiful. she had literally the prettiest face and such a beautiful smile, and god, that laugh made me feel tingly 🥰 i'm literally so sad i'll never see her again and get the chance to talk to her because my god was she fucking gorgeous. sorry if this post doesn't follow the subreddit rules but i just had to obsess over her to somebody besides my best friend. | Crush |
So there's this guy at work who works in a different department, but we see each other often. I have a huge crush on him. I am a 22 year old student, and he is a 27 year old who just graduated from grad school. I have a tech job, and he has a career. He is really popular - he talks with everyone and makes everyone smile. Everyone at work says great things about him.
We have had a handful of small-talk conversations, and I have been the one to initiate them all. One time, I started a conversation but he was really busy, and he kinda "brushed me off," or at least it felt like it. He was busy though. The other conversations have happened normally and we talked for a few minutes each time. He has never asked me questions or anything, just me initiating conversation.
So I only work 1 day a week because I am in school, which means he doesn't see me often, and I don't see him often. I don't know how I can form a stronger connection with him. I don't even know if he's single or even knows my name! Lol! Anyway, I really would like to get to know him more because he seems like a really fun person and he is always so positive - not to mention he's nice to look at lol!
Any advice? Should I follow him on Instagram or something? I don't want to force anything, and I don't want to come on too strong and "scare" him away...
Thank you! | Crush |
Okay, so, basically i spend my summers working at a restaurant and a girl works there who is my age (17) and i am madly in love with her. I have been there since i was 14 and she has been there one year longer because she is a grade above me. Ever since ive known her shes had a boyfriend though.
I have always tried to stay in my lane, give unbiased advice, and be a good friend. And apparently its worked since she considers me one of her closest friends (her words, several times).
The problem is, halfway through the summer she is leaving. I most likely will never see her again. She is going to college a few hours away to live with her current boyfriend. I have always debated telling her my feelings during our last summer because then we wouldnt have to work with each other and be awkward afterwards.
So, a few things, i personally think her boyfriend seems like a douche. He seems like a baby who doesnt want to be in a relationship and could care less about her. And it really pisses me off. She deserves the world and it seems like he barely pays attention to her. And yet she is obsessed with him. She does his laundry, cleans his room, all of that shit. And she constantly thinks about him, and wants to be with him and nobody else. She admitted to me that she most likely wouldnt break up with him for anything, not even if he cheated, as long as he apologized. I just think it is really unhealthy, and i want better for her. It is arrogant to think i could be better, i realize that, and i dont like to feel superior, but he just seems so lousy.
A problem though is that if i tell her, i think she might not talk to me anymore. In the past, some guys have had crushes on her and tried to make moves on her, and she iced them out and never talked to them again. I think with me its different though.
And, i have little reason to believe that she MAY have a slight thing for me. Im not sure, but some things are questionable. One day at work, she just looked at me and said "you ever just think that some people are jusy sexy?" And i didnt know what she meant, but i think she was referring to me because when i said i didnt know what she meant, she laughed.
Another thing that happened was that, one day she wasnt doing her job and it was pissing me off, and she asked me if she ever genuinely pissed me off and i said yes. And then she started crying (she crys a lot) and i tried to comfort her and when i said it is okay she told me "but youre the last person that i..." and then she exhaled and cried some more. I felt so bad.
I just dont know what to do. I know that interfering with a relationship is not cool. And i dont really like the thought of doing that at all. But i also dont think i could live with myself if i didnt tell her. I know that it is wishful thinking to think that she would break up with him for me and if she does that isnt a great sign. But at this point, i just need to. I dont know what else to do. I would give anything to be with this girl. Im so scared and shaky and nervous i dont know what to do. | Crush |
I am talking (just general chat) to a boy on snap. He is the best friend of one of my closest friends and I’ve never met him. Kinda like him. Very cute very funny. Today he asked me how tall I am. And I told him and asked why and he said “idk it’s just quite an important thing”. What do we think that means?? Got me very excited 😂 | Crush |
I'm focusing too much on my crush, putting a lot of happiness onto trying to be closer to her and just her in general. I think about her all the time and I don't want to get too invested into her and one day she rejects me and I get way more upset than I should do.
How do I stop obsessing over her when my head tells me no but my heart says that she's one of my priorities? | Crush |
So I'm a (14f) and he's (14m) his house has a karaoke room and he's throwing a small party, (with masks and gloves) so basically he asked me to sing the "it's not like I like you song" with him, I didn't know what the song was so I searched it up, and was obviously shocked.
I've known him since I was little and I honestly don't know what it means. | Crush |
Nice Guys Habits that every man must stop doing
1. -Reciprocal investment- They just give.
2. -Immediate forgiveness- They forgive always
3. -The paradoxical availability- They are always available
4. -Creating skepticism- people will think you have some hidden agenda.
5. -Overflowing resentment- they become agressive from passive because frustration you get because needs are constantly ignored by other.
6. -Constantly apologizing- That makes you look weak.
7. -Shallow bonds- they have trouble making deeper connection with people. Tell your thoughts and feeling to your friends that will develop bonds.
8. -Ignoring yourself- They don't prioritise themselves. They give away their time to other people. Your need should be your first priority.
9. -Rapid burnout- they take all the load of relationship to themselves.
10.- Fear of saying no
https://youtu.be/__W5wywxGq0 | Crush |
There is this girl I have had a minor crush on for a while, but not to the point where I thought we would go anywhere. Lately, I have started liking her more and more. We are both in theater.
After we learned that we would not be moving on in our competition, our directors have us all scripts and let us sign other people’s scripts. When she signed mine, she wrote “(My name)- nice sleeping man [Thats a role I played in the play]. You’re pretty hot [inside joke]. (Heart emoji)- (Her name). PS. I’m glad we’re friends and we’re really cool man. Love you”
I’m not sure if this is just a really good friendship, or she is interested in me. She is beautiful, funny, and nice, and I want to be in a relationship with her. | Crush |
I've been a shy introvert and a loner since high school but when I met him, I was happy that my dull black and white life became fun. He's everything I could ask for a friend. I was satisfied with that kind of life. But half a year later, I started to fall for him. I dunno how to explain it but I love him the way he is. But we're guys, I can't tell him I have a crush on him especially that he had a girlfriend. I couldn't stop thinking about him, feel for him, and I felt bad for feeling that way. I was scared that he'd go away from me. I didn't want to lose my best friend cuz he's the only one I had. But my conscience couldn't bear it anymore. It scared me to death when I opened up my feelings to him. He was mindblown but I was surprised he already predicted that I'd fall for him. He already accepted me for what I am since the start of our friendship, including the possibility that one day I'd fall for him. I was mindblown by that too. But what I couldn't forgive myself was my ignorance. I never knew I already stepped in his boundaries. First, he thought I tried to take him away from his gf by asking him a lot of his attention. Second, I only invited him for drinks on my birthday cuz I never had friends have a toast for me on my birthday. From his perspective he thought I was attempting to make him drunk cuz he thought I was making a move. Just because of that he ended it all. I was in shock and disarray, I didn't mean him that but it was too late. I explained too late. Apologized too late. I was depressed that I lost my best friend and also heartbroken cuz we can't be that way. I'm tormented cuz I valued him the most as my friend but why did I fall in love to him? I was torn between the part of me who only seen him as my bro, my best friend and the part of me that loved him. This happened nearly a year ago yet I still couldn't forgive myself for the way I behaved, for falling in love to him. It hurts so bad. I gave up my feelings for him but he already had a big part of my life, both as my friend and my crush. I dunno if you can call it my first love but it hurts. Almost a year later, I thought I was over him but I only noticed today that I was still leaving him a big place in my life. I'm in pain knowing very well he wont come back despite being hopeful that he'd return one day even only just as a friend, even if not as close as we were back then. I don't make sense anymore. I don't feel like I can still be happy. I don't enjoy anymore the things I used to. I lost my focus on school. I couldn't let go. I miss him a lot. | Crush |
I'm 13F, almost 14, she's 15F.
We have rehearsals sometimes, and the signals she gives me are incredibly mixed.
But I also feel like an idiot because she asked me to rehearse our lines in private and I invited friends to come too as we were going \*massive facepalm\*
I know she's single and gay, but I don't know if she realizes I'm into girls too.
She's never texted me first, and she's super blunt over text, but she'll come up to me a lot at rehearsal.
What is this ahhhh | Crush |
I have a crush and she is planning on starting to date someone. We are not close at all. I am a new kid. Only week four. She wants to date someone close but we are not close at all. + i told her about me having a crush on her and now her friend is always eyeing me. Advice? | Crush |
I have my crush from school on Snapchat and since there’s a lockdown we’re doing online school so I never actually see her irl, we snap once or twice a day but I really wanna start talking more with her but she just leaves me on delivered for hours. Does anyone have any tips on how I can get her to snap me more? | Crush |
Hello! I'm currently 16 years old and in high school. I like my friend who is a grade above me and is 17 years old. We have a really good connection, not too "friend zone" like, but also not too flirty or anything. We really connect and laugh. We even planned to go to this bookstore we both like, get ramen, and ice cream. I'm sure she's just doing it as a friendly thing. I very recently got out of a relationship so I'm sure she doesn't want to hang out in a more than friend way. She wants to watch Netflix true crime shows with me and go to an escape room. She's sending mixed signals in my opinion and hears why - she's said to me before that she wouldn't want to date anyone younger than her which sucks to hear. I'm totally out of her league and we're very different people, but we still connect.
My question is: is there any chance we could date? Is there any chance she could like me? | Crush |
So we were in class and our desks form a U. I'm sitting on the right side of the U and she sits on the other side. She catches me looking at her and I catch her looking at me. So I was looking at the teacher and she was looking at me. So I looked at her and she kept looking at me. We stared at each other for like 5 seconds or so. I don't often hold eye contact to anyone. Is this a good sign? | Crush |
this guy I like asked why my eyeliner is shaped the way it was because other girls do it differently... and it made me sad :( why do guys do this lol | Crush |
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(I am attempting to write this down in hopes the chemicals surging through me that my body is producing and my mind will be satiated)
My first crush in life! (I'm Male and 25) And the side effects are horrible feeling.
**PREFACE:**
*A Girl I've been working with for only a few weeks I've developed feelings for. My social life has been one of chosen isolation and I haven't even thought of spending my time in a relationship until now. Out of the blue at work I'm overtaken by emotions that I've never had experienced before and it's driving me nuts.*
**DAY 1:** *So day one I experience a flurry of emotions that feel like longing and sorrow when I'm not around them and giddiness when I am. I recognize I have a attraction to someone I know nothing about and also realize that I have to seek resolution if I'm to be able to work. My concentration was destroyed and the side effects began. WORST WORK DAY for me as I was relocated to a different work zone than them and that's when I realized I had a problem, when I was separated from my usual team.*
**DAY 2**: *So the the next day I will myself to tell them that I like them and I'd like to get to know them (I can deal with the consequences of rejection but I cannot deal with not knowing if they feel the same or what could be.) So I ask them, and to my elation they say yes and I attain a means to contact them.*
*At the end of the work day I text them and they respond my bodies shaking and I'm feeling weak.*
*(this is the start of the weekend for me.)*
*When I go to sleep I can only sleep for an hour at a time, I woke up an hour into my night and then forced myself to sleep only to wake up a couple hours later and give up on sleeping.*
**DAY 3:** *Phone text anxiety becomes real, I text them hoping to learn more about them and discover what interests we share at this point they've been on my mind nonstop and throughout the day it only gets worse and I'm unable to distract myself through any of my hobbies (we exchange only a few texts and then I'm waiting all day for a response). My stomachs been caught in a knot, I could barely eat any food, and I've been feeling an amplitude of emotions (mostly agonizing) as I eagerly await a response to which the anxiety is so high I feel almost sick. I can't stop thinking of them and then checking my phone every 5 minutes. Resolving myself to not check the phone anymore.I go to bed early as I'm really tired from the workweek and lack of sleep only to wake up an hour after sleeping, sprung like a wire surging with racing thoughts and gut wrenching shivers as my mind hones in on them.*
*So here I am right now writing this.*
*I'm glad it's the weekend because I feel like I'm going crazy like my heart is twisted into a knot and it's not only mental but my body is being physically affected too and it sucks so bad. I've never felt such a total loss of control of my thoughts and emotions. Not even with drugs. I feel like I'm going insane and I don't see an end to this come workday...*
***I want any advice, or people who can tell me how to dial the physical effects down so I can feel like myself again.*** | Crush |
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[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/mrzo2r) | Crush |
Okok this is totally dumb but a boy I like made me a playlist and I wanna make him one too but it needs to have an epic name something cool and funny haha any suggestions | Crush |
Hey so i’m F21. In 2018 I met an amazing guy that had a really big crush on. He gave me some attention as well, he was crushing on me too. But because of my severe social anxiety, I never got the courage to confess to him and was extremely shy. Also was a virgin back then. So he started dating someone else, and I don’t blame him. Got over it, had some relationships since then but this guy is somehow still on my mind. I don’t have him on social media anymore and feel the urge to text him to see what he’s doing. We both live in different countries but I’m curious about his well-being.
Would it be out of place to text him after so many years? Will I look like the crazy girl who pops out after many years? I m afraid that he forgot about my existence since then. I hope this will help me move on from him in a way? | Crush |
So i’m veryyyy new to this page, but I just need to rant. Basically, I told one of my best friends that i had feelings for him about 2 weeks after he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years (ik ik i’m terrible) but it had just been on my mind for the past year and I felt like I finally had the chance and balls to tell him. Anyway, it went well and he said he’s felt the same way before but he’s really not in any place to commit. Of course, I understood and reiterated that I am not the rebound and I deserve to be treated with respect and that was the end of that. Then we went on a trip together and we kissed and the next day he was weird and told me he didn’t want me over thinking anything and that we should not do anything else. He was right and also danced with one of his friends that night and i was unwell. Anyway, I got upset and told him nothing will happen between us but then we danced together a couple weeks later and yeah. It’s a stupid situation and I know I need the self control not to do anything with him but it’s just so hard. He’s very clearly getting with other girls and likes other girls and it’s hard to watch. I did this to myself🙃 but what does one do now? should i tell him to stop flirting with me? | Crush |
my crush is pansexual! | Crush |
Hey reddit I never use this app so if my vernacular isn’t up to par with the rest of yah my fault. Anywho recently I meet a girl through a co-worker. They gave her my number and we started chatting we have hung out like three times, 2 times alone. We kissed and I love being in her presence. The both of us share similar interest in movies, music, and politics. The only issue is since school is virtual I have so much time on my hand and the only time I’m not free is when I am working. So basically I want to hang out with her all the time. I feel like a creep since we just meet tho so I’m playing the slow game and I hate it. My question is can I just ask her to hang out all the time or should I be more suave about it. | Crush |
So, I've had this crush for almost a year now (highschool) and were very good friends, we tell each other almost everything we talk to eachother basically daily. We never talk irl only over text thats mainly because we used to be shipped a lot and that made it akward. I know I've posted here sometimes before and you all keep telling me to just ask her, but shes going through some stuff right now and I don't wanna put her through this, because I really don't think she likes me back. Advice on how to deal with these feelings?
Edit: spelling | Crush |
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