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We've been going out with friends since 3 weeks ago and I started liking her and mey best friend told me she felt the same way. The thing is that we've never actually texted each other and I'm going to a summer camp tomorrow so we will stop hanging out for a week and I thought that it was a good time to start messaging each other, but I already know her for like 5 years because of school so we both basically know each other so Idk what to say to her... or how to start a conversation. I know this is a bit wierd cause we like each other so there is no problem, but I don't want to seem a lot desperate by starting texting her from nowhere with random stuff and I can't be that that guy that always text the girl with hey! How are you, or, what are you doing cause lots of time asking just that and then have nothing to talk about its just kinda of cringe Idk | Crush |
so I have a couple friends girls and boys which one of the girls is my crush and I told her everything and she told me a lot of thing also.
i saw her staring at me a lot and we make jokes without even talking like telepathy.
so heres the story : Me and all my friends including my crush walked to the mall and had fun then we came back to our neighborhood and sat at some park at some point I became really sad thinking about how I wanted this girl but she has a boyfriend , then my crush and another girl came up to me and asked me why I was sad they didn’t leave me alone they just asked a lot and I said I don’t want to answer then my crush hugged me from the back (we sat at the ground) and said pleaaaaaaase tell me but i said maybe later and then she pulled her pinky and asked “pinky promise?” and i gave her my finger, now whats important to tell pinky promise in israel (where i live ) you do it only with someone you love you connect your pinkies and then connect your thumbs and say and ends with a kiss, it became late and all of us needed to go home so she asked if we want to together because we live close to each other and the other friend live in another area so we walked and then she asked me why i was sad and i told her its because a lot of things which was kind of true and she said “i don’t care if it’s interesting or not tell me” and i told her some reasons and i told her there is more and she said “so spill the tea” i told her that it would probed wired to meet me again but she really wanted to hear so i told her that i used to like her and she said that’s totally okay, then she said she have cramps and she feels bad (i don’t think girls really supposed to tell this to a boy) so we said bye and walked each to our homes then i texted her again saying I’m sorry if its wired and she said she forgot everything i told her except that i used to like her cuz there is a lot going thru her mind and i don’t know if she likes me back or not | Crush |
Hi! I need some advice about my crush. (sorry long post)
SHORT if you don't want to read: i (28F european) told my crush (26M asian geek with low self confidence and no experience in relations) i liked him and his response was unclear despite showing me sign of interrested in our convo on messenger.
First i think it's adequate to introduce both of us.
I'm a 28yo european woman, very extraverted and i only had one serious relation; i'm easy going, i love to joke, im open minded (if it helps some of you i'm ENFJ-T)
He's a 26yo asian man, very introverted (you know, culture thing) and with low confidence in himself, he never had a gf, and he's kinda geek (which is okay, i also play video games) (he's INFJ-T; yeah we did the test for fun once)
We met 1 year ago at ER during covid, we are in the same field (med students and we were doing our internship april 2020 to june 2020), i quickly had a huge crush on him. He's not the type of guy i am usually into but idk i just fell for him, his personnality, calmness, the fact that he's discret but there is a lot going in his mind, i like a lot of little things about him i noticed during my internship with him, how empathic and nice he's with patients and people and so on i could go forever talking about the things i like about him.
He's kinda complex cause he's introverted + the asian culture (his parents moved to France from japan when he was 7; so 100% asian culture), kinda like a rubics cube ahah but i spent a lot of internship days with him and managed to continue talking with him on messenger even after we finished our internship.
At the beginning he didn't showed any signs of interrest which drove me crazy! I thought about giving up many time, but i just couldn't get him out of my mind. So we talked for several months sometimes he wouldn't reply for 2 weeks but we would talk again later. (You're all gonna ask why i didn't met him until yesterday, but that's was because i had an important exam in june (which he already passed; i didn't repeated but i did other things before med school so i'm older, but he's my senior in school system) so i wanted to focus on that first and also i thought i could get him out of my mind)
We started talking more and more around march 2021; and on a daily basis since end of april. I dropped a lot of hints, he never put stops but didn't replied either (he avoided it)... but since may he kinda showed himself interrested (he usually texts me good night everyday, he asked my stuff about what were my preferences about men perfume, or stuff about how many children i'd want and so (lol yes wtf a bit too early; but he's thinking long term relations i think. Also one day i was pissed off cause he wouldn't understand a damn thing so he thought i was mad at him and asked me to tell him why and added "if you were upset about something about me just tell me and i'll correct it" how do i get mad if you say things like this really??)..anyways he's the one who asked for the drink after that (the drink was yesterday)
Last week my stupid ass thought about putting kind of a final warning; so he was asking about my crush and i told him i thought about giving up, so he asked if i'd would still try something and i said no. So he wanted to know who he was; i didn't told him and he asked for clues so i replied to his questions.
I can tell he had huge suspicion about him being my crush! He quickly asked me if he could ask an "awkward question" and i said no cause i didn't want to deal with this through messages but f2f. He told me after that "to be honest i'm a bit lost because i lack of self confidence" and "maybe alcohol will help me" (he was talking about the drink). After that we kinda changed the subject knowing we would meet the next week.
So here i am, yesterday evening... the date was also for me the opportunity to confirm my crush towards him and damn it i'm fully charmed, like hell... but thing is that i got SO stressed about it, like more than my national exam!!! I'm usually flirty and easy going but i felt like i didn't knew what to say, there were some blanks and i was thinking "will he start with the crush subject again? or do something? should i do something?", he made me so nervous and it was also so weird to see him again f2f,.. i couldn't even look into his eyes and he had also had shifty eyes!!! worse date ever really i panicked af++++ and i felt it was like we didn't had the feeling we had through messages and at ER last year.. i think that's because i was stressed :( idk really !!!
He had to take his train so i drove him to the train station and before leaving, he told me that he was waiting for our mario kart challenge (private joke, we're supposed to have a mario kart challenge on switch with forfeit for the loser), but we had to shorten the convo cause there was 2 min left for his train; so he ran and that's it.
But i couldn't let it go like this, i thought that if he did nothing that it was because maybe he wasn't interrested? but he showed many signs (at least i think he did; he was even using kiss smiley and so); so i called him asking if he got his train, and i said i wanted to talk about something ..but i heard the sound of the doors closing.. so too late... and my shit head said never mind and i hung up.
He texted me that he was frustrated because he wanted to know what subject i wanted to talk about at the last minute. So i did the worst thing ever, i told him that it was better if we didn't saw each other again cause i never considered him as a friend and id never be able to think about him as a friend; also that i saw he wasn't super receptive about it (actually im' so stupid he said nothing i just assumed he wasn't interrested because he did nothing).
He replied that he didn't knew what to reply and that he was sorry; that he had some doubts but he thought i was only messing/joking with him and that he was "only a lost virgin so." Also that he had the impression he made me lost my time, that he felt like he was "stupid" in this story.
I didn't told him i loved him or what but that i was really interrested in him/that i was appealed by him.
He said he didn't knew he had "this much place" in my life, and that he felt like i commited a crime. I tried to free him of his guilt cause that wasn't my goal to make him feel bad! He's so precious you know :(
Later he texted me that he got home and spent a nice evening and thanked me. Also he said sorry to dissapoint me that he "didn't knew what he could have done". So again i tried to free him of his guilt and he said okay and take care of youself and i hope you're going to find your way (for the speciality i have to pick for my career). and i replied that i was sorry to "break" this friendship and he left me on "read".
Damn it i'm stupid AF!!! I don't know what to do; he didn't told me anything clear like "no im not interrested" or stuff like that, i didn't gave him any choices either. I think i scared him maybe?
I really don't know, should i just give up? or should i persevere? i don't care if he's a virgin, or a geek (i'd be my pleasure to play video games with him!!), he's just an amazing guy and he doesn't even see it!!! I don't even know why there isn't any girls into him!! He's the second huge crush i had in my life so it's really complicated for me.. i messed up really..
I feel like i really tried to tame him for one year so he's get out of his shell and i did it with success, but i messed up af in 2 min! I really lost it! I should have also talked f2f with him about it.. not through message; and also bring the subject differently!! i hate that really
Do you think i should text him and ask to meet him today? or give him time? Maybe i'm not pretty enough for him? i know i match all of his criterions cause we talked about it (like, i don't smoke, i'm not religious, i don't have tattoos or too much piercings, i'm not super skinny or fat, i do exercise so my shape is okay, im educated, take care of myself and my style is feminine, i'm not super beautiful like a model but i'm average enough to have guys hitting on me, probably a strong 7 or 7,5/10)
Sorry again for long post, also for the grammar mistakes, i'm french so english is not my native language :/
Thanks you in advance for the replies/advices | Crush |
So i like this one girl and we have been on a couple dates and i really like her but i also think she likes me too , im planning on telling her i like her next friday.Does anyone have any suggestions how i should do it? (Im doing it in person) | Crush |
My girlfriend broke out with me 6 months ago . I stil love her,I don't know if I should send her a message or keep trying to forget her .
It seems that she already forgot me, but I am no sure . | Crush |
ok so basically
i was a freshman on high school, completely in awe of how different it was from middle school and blah blah blah. i knew someone in the grade above me and i saw her when walking into my math class. i turned around to wave hi, and bumped right into this guy who was behind me. of course, the guy had to be a freaking male model and not just a normal person, so i was petrifieddd. he laughed and PUT HIS HAND ON MY SHOULDER and was like, 'my bad'. i laughed in reply and walked away, completely shocked.
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flash forward to a couple days, and we're getting put into groups in math class. of course, mr. male model is in my group. and i swear to god, he kept on touching my FOOT with his. i was kinda uncomfortable because i though i was overthinking it, so i looked up to say something and he's ALREADY LOOKING AT ME and then he SMILES.
im not the female model to compliment his looks, but im not *ugly*. im just so average-looking. i've gotten attention from guys in the past, but this one is confusing me so much just because of the age gap (like 2 or 3 years). even my friends (who are r ally supportive) were slightly alarmed when i told them about what he was doing. like 'he did that to you?'
he was only in a grade above me but because i skipped like 2 grades im still kinda young when compared to my peers. so i as so confused why he was laughing at my jokes and trying to talk to me after class. maybe he just wanted to be friends? or maybe he was exploiting me because he knew i liked him? can someone pleaseee help me out? | Crush |
There is a lot to unpack
(The events have basically all taken place with in the last year or so)
I’m 15 (male) and I’ve like this girl for about 3 years now (she is also 15). Everyday for about 6 months now, we have been Snapchatting each other. Recently, I could send a picture of literally anything over Snapchat and she would send back a picture of her face. If I send her a snap, she will send one back almost instantly. She also saves all of our conversations.
On Instagram, she likes all of my posts and even sometimes revisits old messages (I know this because there is a glitch where if you log onto Instagram on a webbrowser and read someone’s message, it will say ‘seen now’ despite when they have actually seen it). I was also on her ‘close friends’ list even when we weren’t that close.
In social interactions, I always catch her looking at me and when I meet her eyes, she quickly glanced away. Once we where both at this party and we had to play a handholding game and right before it started, she moved next to me (could have been a coincidence). Whenever I invite her to come to an activity, she always agrees to come. Also she smiled at my direction form across the room while I was looking at her (it was too far to see where she was actually looking, all I could see was the general direction)
Tl;dr
She shows signs that she likes me but I’m not sure if she does.
Update: we are now both each other’s ‘best friend’ on Snapchat | Crush |
Picture this,
It's year 7, And i am totally in love with this girl, let's call her "My Crush" she's beautiful and popular. Me on the other hand, fat and short she wanted nothing to do with me. Bare in mind we were quite good freinds back in primary school.
So i know she went through a couple of boyfriends from year 7 to year 9, her heart broke. Me on the other hand was going working out and fully motivated to look more attractive not only for her but for me more importantly.
Year 10 roles around, not to sound arrogant at all,or to toot my horn but there were a dozen girls interested in me, and i got a couple looks off 'the crush", Bare in mind she tried making conversation with me a few times. The fact that everytime she walks in the room and we lock eye contact she can't hold back her smile.
Now in year 11, i see constantly staring and gazing my way, I'm not really sure what to do, as shes the only true girl I've really had a thing for. | Crush |
This guy and I at work were really into each other to the point where our colleagues would teasingly ask if we're in love. The thing is we were very much interested in each other, but we were opposite personalities too. We even stepped on each other's toes a bit which would cause discord at work. But oh my it was steamy. We never had a relationship. All this just happened at work.
Then one day during the first wave of covid, while the workplaces were still trying to figure out what to do etc, he crossed the line. I felt disrespected and we ended up in a severe argument. Let's just say it was very unprofessional and awkward. It's a year later and our work is directly crossing which means we needed to work together.. We both just acted like nothing happened. This past week I noticed the tension still there. The chemistry I mean. He would try to delay our conversations. He was there for me a few days ago and gave me advice when I was really in a dark place. He even makes the effort to walk to my office which is currently 2 floors down to give me documents. I don't know what to make of it... What do you think?
PS: His bitchy work friend is also starting her nastiness campaign against me. She completely let up and was even nice during the time this guy and I didn't talk. | Crush |
I'm 24f and I'm at a growing stage in my life. I left an abusive relationship I had been in since I was a teenager and started at a new job, in a new state.
Immediately, this guy caught my eye. He's the kind of guy you can immediately tell is tough, smart, confident, etc. But he's kind too. I was pretty traumatized when I first started and I kept flinching, I apologized every 15 seconds, I was shaking visibly, etc.
He never treated me like I was weird or made me feel bad, just encouraged me a lot and told me I don't have to apologize to him. Encouraged me to stand up to our other coworkers and pays attention when I'm working with customers, because if they get rude he steps in. He's really great. I love being around him.
I have had a few embarrassingly bad panic attacks at work though and made a fool of myself. He's still being really nice to me and it blows my mind. I just had to gush somewhere. I'll never do anything about these feelings, but it's nice to have them for such a good person. | Crush |
Im in my mid teens and im writing this after i was with my crush from 19 pm to 3 am in my house. We laughed we joked we were laying in bed with my arm around her. WE WATCHED ANIME TOGETHER. This is the perfect girl for me right? BUT i have know her since age 0 (literally) our moms are high school friends and see and talk to eachother regularly, we have been friends forever and i cant bring myself to tell her | Crush |
Hey guys so there’s this girl at work and we joke around a lot.me and her are constantly doing something stupid to each other like throwing muffins or rubbing frosting off our shirts like a napkin.we have little stupid nicknames to bully each other with,I call her big bird and she calls me barney.we joke to the extreme and talk about semi serious things going on with our life’s.so does she like me or is it we are good coworkers I just wanna know to not send mixed signals. | Crush |
Hey people, I am a (17f) and recently I got some sign that a (17m) classmate is interested. I want to make a move and talk to him like he did with me but everytime I just didn’t take him seriously due to the thought of me thinking “I’m not his people.
So basically, what I’m thinking is to talk to him during our school break next week (10-20 min). The thing is that I always hang with my friends during break and he hangs with his. If I leave my friends, walk up to him and start talking to him, would that be obvious? I want to talk to him but his friend is there, how should I talk to him while his friends are there?
I’m thinking about asking him for a charger then i would have an excuse to ask him about how class is going then his Instagram but while I do that his friend will be there which might be a problem | Crush |
Please help how should I tell my crush I have feelings for her. | Crush |
It’s so fun, we have great conversations and laugh a lot. Can’t wait for tomorrow’s breakfast. It’s all innocent and more like friends now but who knows what might happen?? | Crush |
ive known him for a couple years now, i think 3 or 4 years. hes just a funny charming guy, but im scared to tell him because i dont know how he'll react. so, how do i say it? | Crush |
Today my crush was going to tell me who her crush is. She forgot to, and now i am very doomed indeed because i know it is very likely it's not a girl, let alone me.
.\_. | Crush |
So I don’t know if this guy likes me or not he calls me dear if he doesn’t respond for a while and sends a heart every time he says goodnight but I don’t know if that’s just something he does and he also will listen to me and will send full face pics can I get your opinion | Crush |
Idk if it sounds weird but what if u have a crush on smo who you found out was actually a horrible person and still can't get over your feelings for them, what'd you do to shut those feelings down ( help pls 🌚) ? | Crush |
Hello people, help me out with this.
First of all, an introduction to me and the guy that I will be talking about. I am a high school senior (f17 + height 5’9) and I can be known as one of those moral/serious students with good grades, quiet and chill + I think my confidence and effort are very visible. Some facts about the guy are (m17 + height 5’6-5’8) that he is one of those confident popular students, goes on his phone in class, trouble maker and not so serious kind of student but also nice, not intimidating.
The thing about this guy is that he keeps calling me name but he doesn’t have anything to say and when I say “what” he says nothing. Also, he stares at me and tries to start convos but it’s short like 1 minute - 2 minutes max, it’s sometimes awkward. Being both introverts don’t help with continuing convos I guess? I tried to continue it but he goes quiet.
One day after school, school ended 30 minutes ago, I went to the library and when I was on my way home I bumped into him and his friends, the guy said: “______ you going home” me: ya, “wanna come play ball with us” or something like that, me: “no I’m tired” then they just kept walking. I took that as a joke cause I kept thinking “why would a guy like you mean to say that to a girl like me” like there’s a big difference between us, like “I’m not his people”
Then this is what’s making me think, we also have another class together.. in that class we had to get into a group so coincidently we were in the same group. So there were two chairs, his friend sat on the one that what’s closer to me. They looked at each other and switch sets, now the guy is closer to me. He then said to me “_____ are you ready for class?” I said yes and then his friend said to him “You practiced that?” And laughed at him while I was there. I just pretend I didn’t hear.
What I’m feeling here is interest BUT I really can’t understand why a guy like him would be interested in me? I’m not insecure but it feels like I’m imagining things. I need advice on this situation. Is he interested or is he being nice or what is this? | Crush |
I don't know if I'm gay or pansexyal, but there's this girl I'm friends with, and she makes me really happy, and I enjoy being with her and I think she's really cool and amazing. Wouldst this be a crush? | Crush |
So I'm a girl and my crush (a guy) has liked me for 3+ years straight and I had to move to new Zealand for work for a year or so and I didn't see him for a long time. I met him again after ages 3 weeks ago at my ex boyfriend's brother's wedding and he kept making excuses to pass by me and place himself in front of me and I know he's still single. Is this him trying to make me notice him/like him again? Even my friend said there was absolutely no need for him to place himself before me, he was just looking for an excuse (i know this is true). Has he lost feelings for me or is this a sign that he still likes me ?
I know in the past when I kept checking other guys out, he would get so upset and try really hard to get my attention cause he was so scared of losing me. | Crush |
so i’m feeling really torn and confused about this. for context, i’m 16f, bisexual, and in 11th grade. i haven’t had much success with relationships in the past, i was never too interested in them with any of the people i knew. i rarely ever get crushes and feel really out of control of my emotions when i do, seeing as on the rare occasions i like someone i end up REALLY liking them. the first crush is a girl i met through one of my best friends, they met through a class they had together and my friend later introduced them to our friend group. for extra context, my best friend is also bi (so is my crush) but in a relationship with her boyfriend. my best friend had expressed an interest in this girl when they first met, but again, she has a boyfriend so i didn’t think too much into it, other than the fact that it was kind of weird on her end. i knew i liked the girl after the first time we hung out, but she had just got out of a relationship, so i decided to step back and let her figure her own things out before trying to make a move or anything. besides, i only have homeroom (pretty much a 30 minute study hall in school) with this girl, and she’s barely there, so i rarely see her outside of hanging out in the friend group. one of my other best friends (from now on i’ll refer to this one as A and the first one as B) is also in the aforementioned friend group. A usually tries to subtly find ways for me to get closer to this girl when we’re hanging out, like moving so i can sit next to her and stuff like that. B doesn’t, and even goes out of her way to sit next to her before i can. both A and B are aware of my feelings towards her, and have been since the beginning. now, B has a tendency to keep a “backup” in the friend group, someone she can jump to after getting out of a relationship, and i think that may be what she’s trying to do with this girl. my second crush is a guy in my math class. he sits in front of me and will occasionally ask me for help on the assignments. he seems pretty shy, so me being the extrovert i am, will ask him questions to try and get to know him and try to spark up conversation every once in a while. usually when a conversation is sparked, we converse rather well and my interest only gets piqued more (i’m a really big conversation person, and have noticed that people tend to like me the more we talk and the more they learn about me). i’ve made attempts to converse with both of these crushes outside of school, via snapchat. with the girl, we mostly snap back and forth, she takes a long time to respond so i feel like trying to text wouldn’t really get anywhere, and it’s a bit hard to hold a conversation when we do. the guy i’ve never actually texted besides asking for a pic of his dog (it came up in conversation in class), to which he sent one with nothing being said, when i responded calling her cute he left me on opened. i’m not sure what to do about either of these crushes or what potential they may hold. all i do know is that i like them both quite a bit and don’t know what i should do about either. and holy shit looking back on this is a lot to read, so i appreciate it if you’ve made it this far. i would especially appreciate any advice from an outside perspective. thanks random internet stranger :) | Crush |
I’m 16f, and I currently have a crush on my also 16f friend, before I realised my feelings for her, we texted/talked to each other about finding each other someone to be with romantically for Christmas as we both agreed that it sounds much better, and plus we’d think we’ll be happier. But now, I’m not sure what to do, since my timing with noticing I have feelings for her is a bit awkward now. I have noticed she’s been acting different towards me, maybe she’s just being nice? I don’t know anymore. She’s been looking at me in school a lot during lunch and break(I’m not in any of her classes), and at a few points we made eye contact, I kind of panicked and just looked away during those times. She’s been smiling more too towards me, normally she doesn’t smile that much, only if I make a joke or just tell her a funny story. We’ve been texting for hours as well, normally she’s very busy and doesn’t reply for ages, but maybe this could be all a big misunderstanding.
I have no clue if she does like me, this has been happening for about a week and a few days now repeatedly. | Crush |
i’m 15F and i’m in 10th grade, i have 2 crushes that go to this school. the first one is in my grade and we have 1st period together and we sit a table away from eachother at lunch. he has green eyes and he’s so hot and REALLY FUNNY. we don’t talk at all but sometimes he jokes/flirts with me SLIGHTLY. oh also our lockers are in the same hallway so i pass his locker when i’m going to mine. anyways, during 1st period i always catch him staring at me and he catches me staring at him as well. but i can’t tell if he likes me or not.
the second guy is in 9th grade so i only see him (for like a minute) when he’s going to lunch but we don’t talk at school. he has hazel eyes and is really sweet and athletic. majority of the time i see him is when we get home. i usually play football (2 touch dw) with some neighborhood boys (they are all younger than me and probably the only reason i hang out with them is bc my brother is friends with them) after school and especially on the weekends. anyways, he’s always playing with us and when i like score a touchdown or sum he just says “good job *myname*” and that makes me blush even though it’s so simple. and since we’re the oldest there, everyone else keeps saying that he likes me but idk. and idk what this is but we have this really cute thing where we just start staring into eachother’s eyes and don’t stop and it’s so cute when he starts smiling. i really like him but it’s kinda weird how he’s younger than me.
idk what to do. i’m way too shy to make any major moves. like at all. i like them both a lot it just depends on the situation. it’s like i want to date both of them at once but that’s just weird yk.
no one’s gonna see this lol | Crush |
I'm a girl. I've had a crush on a guy for a while but we've never actually talked. I tried to slide into his DM's on Insta, but I got scared the first time and deleted it. the second time I did it, i said some really stupid shit about how to properly do weightlifting (as there was a video on his profile of him lifting) and it hindsight it was cringey as fuck and he never responded (surprise, surprise).
He lives almost 2 hours away from me and I never know when I'm going to see him. How should I flirt with him? What to guys like? etc. etc
**update: i DM'd him like a day and a half ago and he hasn't responded which is really cute <33333** | Crush |
what is the universe trying to tell me? so a couple days ago i was with my friend and we were just walking around downtown and i heard someone says my crushes name right after talking about him then after leaving in the car w my friend and i saw my crush’s roomate walking and we saw eachother clearly. the next day my crush texted me for the first time in a week (we had been snapping but he still texted me) then today! i saw my crushes roomate again in the exact same spot. what is this all supposed to mean? | Crush |
I’m a 19f and my guy is a 20m and we’ve been hanging out for about a month and I enjoy when I’m with him but I think he’s kinda dumb sometimes and a little strange. Do I stick it out or should I drop him? | Crush |
Girls' do you like a lazy highschool kid always yawning ??
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there's this guy, a few years older than me, he lives about 2 hours away from me but is moving within the next year to a different state as he is an elite athlete, to top that all off, he doesn't know i exist as far as i am aware. i want to at least sleep with him before he leaves and if that doesn't lead to anything more, then so be it. i don't know how to make myself known to him. i don't know him well enough, and i know people are going to say that this is probably a dumb thing to do because i dont know him etc. etc., but i just want to know how to get to know him, flirt with him, whatever and hopefully end up \*\*doing stuff\*\* with him, maybe even have a short term or long distance relationship. please be nice to me lmao, I'm lowkey sensitive | Crush |
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I don’t know how many times I’ve been asking you guys on Reddit but y’all telling me to “just” do this and that but cmon it’s not really just to do it.
Backstory:
I talked to a girl for a while and we both clicked, 10 months ago I stopped texting her cus I gave up. We go to the same school too, she used to constantly look at me and I understand what that meant but after all this time she obviously stopped looking. Understand that 100%.
Enough with the backstory, be realistic how do you get in touch with someone you haven’t texted to for a really long time. The only answer I don’t want is “just text her” we all know that ain’t going to happen. That’s just weird to do. | Crush |
(M19) In one of my current courses, there is a girl (F17) who I do actually like. However, it's hard to tell whether she likes/has a crush on me or not. Let me first give some background info.
1. We both have only one class together
2. She laughs after I make a "funny" comment but it's really just something silly/stupid
3. I've caught her staring at me very frequently
4. When someone else makes an awkward remark or controversial comment, she immediately lays her eyes on me as if by looking at me makes her feel comfortable or reassuring.
So I don't know if some of those occurances make sense but the only reason why I have not tried to ask her out is that I just found out that she's 17 and I just barely turned 19 and I'm a freshman in college while she's a junior...? She goes to a charter school that allows dual enrollment classes so that's why she's in my class. Anyways, I like her because she's as silly and awkward as I am, but the age and school difference makes it seem weird to me. Any thoughts? | Crush |
ok so there is this really weird guy that likes me. I don't like him at all he's really creepy because one time I saw him and I ran away from him...like I went pretty far away from him and it was in a different school building and I met up w/my best friend who was in a cafeteria and it's a very inclosed space so nobody would expect me to be there but... he fuckin found my location which was the creepiest thing and he asked me if I was ok and I was like TF
he also hangs out with many girls which was even more SUS.and he asked me if he wanted me to go on a bike ride w him (BTW HE'S 18)not only that when my friend posted on an on Instagram on a confessions account *that he groomed Freshmen and many people liked it and agreed cuz* HE DOES flIRT W FRESHMEN IN MY CLASS and his friends were denying it which makes it even more SUSSY HONESTLY I was scarred I felt like after the followed me .And his friend is hella creepy AFFF too he kept bothering me and my friend and today these other people that are girls in our class were talking about strange he was because he would try to make a conversation with them and before this drama when I met him while I was in class and I was doing Homework I remember that he was talking about having sex w girls and it was in a very rude way.I really don't want this creep to like me and I've already talked about how I had a fake GF in class and his Bestfriend texted my bestfriend Why I was mad at him but honestly I really don't want to deal with this guy It's really Gross he stares at me in class like EW plz Staph.
but anyways I don't know what the actual Fuck I should do with this guy he's annoying. | Crush |
If I am in middle school and I like a girl, should I ask her out at the end of 8th grade (so we can date over the summer and into high school), or around my late freashman year (my middle school is also high school)? | Crush |
Swear this is odd ash for me but I don’t know what to do and I’m not talking to my friends bout this lmao… For about 10 months ago I had a odd relationship with this girl. I have no clue if she was just very friendly or if she actually liked me cus when I gave hints… she could be dumb too now when I think about it. I gave her hints and she didn’t understand them.
I don’t know if she likes me. She confuses me sooo damn much?????? I don’t even know what to write. I still like her, not really crushing tho. I want back what we used to have. What annoys me the most is that shes shy so she won’t show her feeling. Not that I do that either but that’s just cus I don’t want to seem either desperate or creepy or nun of that. I hate that I stopped writing to her 😑. I don’t wanna as her happy with another dude. Shit imagine she reading this! That be cool. Bellabooskii, weird ass name but that’s her snap so if you read this! Vi borde skriva igen utan att göra den här situationen riktigt stel. :) Jag har saker o berätta😶🌫️
Be realistic what would you do ? | Crush |
I'm so confused and I need serious help pretty much the girl I likes best friend likes me and she got a different friend in her friend group (not the girl I like) too message me about it and although I haven't replied yet its because I'm overthinking soo much right now and I need someone too just tell me what they think cause I'm so confused right now let me explain I'm thinking that if she got a friend and not her best friend too message me then the girl I like probably knows that her best friend likes me and she was ok with it meaning the girl I like doesn't like me although I thought she did or she doesn't even know that her best friend likes me and only told this separate friend too message me cause she knew that the girl I liked did like me or am I just reaching for an answer I want anyway im so fucked because I dont now know what too reply to the girl I don't like or if the girl I do like likes me so if you have any idea what too say about it for example a response or tell me if the girl I like likes me or not please tell | Crush |
So there's this person in my class and it's pretty obvious they have feelings for me, but I don't feel the same way. It also makes me feel awkward because they're blatantly flirting with me. How do I make them not like me?
EDIT: nvm they like me apparantly | Crush |
So there is this girl and every time in the halls we are near each other she looks down when she sees me but when she walks past me she looks up. What does that mean? | Crush |
Okay, I need to talk about this because it's ruining my fricking life. I will talk about events over roughly 4 months, and it's going to be long, but please listen to it, because I desperately need your advice. Alright so, I start going to a new school, and I don't know anyone, literally anyone, and I meet this girl, we didn't interact at all, but on the fourth day we started talking and bonding, by the second week of school we were always talking and playing games, she had a crush on me and I noticed it but didn't think anything serious.
But then, we started going separately to school, she was a different group and she never went with me, we had a group between a couple of us and she was in it, then I started crushing on her, but obviously couldn't do anything, then I started messaging and sending pictures to the group, but she didn't answer any of those, she just ignored every message, by then I had a really hard crush on her, and after a while she started commenting on my messages, she even messaged me once by herself and was really talkative, but then a week from now we started going to school together, i was so excited but it all fell apart. Now this part is complex, the first day we communicated, she was laughing at everything I said, but then she went away with her friends and was away constantly, now every day she's going to the hallway and is talking to her friends all the time, she's ignoring everyone else, today we didn't even speak a word to each other, I only looked at her, and when she looked at me, she smiled, I was hoping this meant something but it didn't, I said funny things, she wasn't laughing at all, she was walking toward me and passed me like she didn't even know me, every time I talked, I glanced over to see what she was doing, she wasn't even listening.
Now I need your help and advice PLEASE, this is driving me crazy. | Crush |
I don't want to go in detail but basically i had this massive crush on a guy at work this summer but sadly he quit there maybe 1-2 months after i started to have feelings for him. We never really had a long conversation but i always felt like as if there was something between us. I was sad about the fact i couldn't see him anymore but after some weeks i was over him and i didn't think that much about him anymore.
Then 2 months ago i saw him at his new work and we greeted eachother and after that day my feelings were 100% back and i felt so sad again. I was planning to just wait until the feelings were gone again but i talked with a "friend" about it and they persuaded me to add him on social media. He instantly accepted me and i really thought he would text me but he never did and bc of that I really started to believe that at the time when he was still my coworker I was just imagining our chemistry and that he was never interested in me. Of course my feelings disappeared again after a while. And no i would've never texted him first. I think adding him like that out of nowhere was already enough😭
Then the last saturday i looked at my phone with a message from him. He finally texted me "hi🙂". We texted for a while and he also texted me the next 2 days. I loved chatting with him, and i had the feeling he likes it too, but after the third day, nothing. (It's been 3 days now)
I was thinking if i should just text him first this time but i don't want to and idk why. Maybe because i have that mindset that if someone really wants something from me, they will show it. As if i don't have to do it especially since it was only 3 days. And i also think that i would annoy him or that he doesn't want to be in contact with me anymore for some reason. But it's probably also because i'm lowkey glad that it already stopped? Like.. my current feelings really want him to text me but my brain says it's better like this because we are too different and it wouldn't work out anyways. But i feel so damn lonely right now, i wish he wouldve never texted me. I really don't know what to think and feel right now, i'm just happy when i'm over him again | Crush |
I have a crush on a girl since july but got rejected without the chance of making a move. but we remained really good friends we care for each other and we are both each others outlet we were both there for each other when we were at our lowest. But i never got over her and i still love her. We had a couple fights and one time she blocked me. A couple days later she unblocked me and wanted to start over again and she said she felt sorry. When i said why she came back she said that she realised what she was missing. Well fast forward she asked me to go for a drink sometime yesterday. And when i send her a video that she was the best person i met this year(a tiktok) she responded with “aahw so sweet❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️” might i still have a chance? I want to tell her i still love her but at the same time i want to wait until we see each other. Dont be to hard on me pls | Crush |
I've recently had a friend breaking up with her BF and she really liked him until she found out that he was a sexual assualting guy they had a convo about that and he apologized that he sexually assualted in the past and he talked about how he truely changed, after she broke up w him the very next day he had sex w another girl.
My sister also broke up w her BF recently and when my sister came back home she started crying how everyone seemed like other people were doing very well in relationships and in life. I thought how hard it is in being in a relationship even though it seems so easy, it's a lot of responsibility that I don't feel like dealing...although I think that way and even though I feel like I really want to be in an relationship I don't feel like being in one cuz it's a pain. | Crush |
There is a new person at work and I am slowly trying to learn more about the person. I just learned that this person is older than twenty five and this person might live alone. I don't want to know a lot about this person because this person might leave. How should I get to know this person without asking this person too many personal question. I don't want to scare this person away. Talking to this person is a great idea. Yet I am mostly trying to get work done because of staff shortage and the holidays time. If this person is still working with me after the new year I might have to get to know more about the person.
I'm not saying if this person is a female or male because they might read this. What is your thoughts about this?? | Crush |
So I have this girl in my health and band classes but I never talked to her before and I don’t know how to start a conversation with her. So please tell me. What a good conversation starter or something | Crush |
(Excuse my poor english, I'm French)
I dont really know if it is the good place to talk about it but I havent found anywhere best so here I am
(I'm 15m) I've never been in couple and I just want someone
In the last year I've only been rejected or friendzoned and I'm just fed up. In a year I saw most of my friends get in couple while i got rejected about 6 times. Good point : I now know I can stop thinking about someone pretty fast. But I really just want someone I can hug, hold hand with... And I just feel like no one thinks about me as something more than "someone" and it just exhaust me
Thx for reeding | Crush |
So in the end, this "ghosting" guy didnt want to become more than friends because he was afraid he'd lose me as a great friend if we ever broke up? I mean, idk how to feel abt all of this. Like did he just send me beyond an unknown friendzone?💀 So im too special to be with him but also too valuble to lose? This is just the luck ive been having lately😭😭😭 | Crush |
I'm commenting a ton on his posts and being as organic as I possibly can and he's reacting to that I think. | Crush |
She:
Well thanks,
HAHA
Me: im sorry but thats my meaning😂
She: LMAO
Me: sorry😳😂
She: doesn't matter
Me: you good tho😂 | Crush |
How do I ask crush why she is giving me mixed signals? | Crush |
I got this cute girl in my class and she's calling me names. She calls me emo. Why does she call me emo.
Cause i draw on my arm, make emo music and im a pretty emotional boy. So she calls me emo. She does also draw on her arm and is a pretty emo too. So i call her emo to. We both dont wear shit like emo's do tho. I dont wear them black ass clothes but still she calls me this. I think its just teasing. Atleast i say to her hey emo how ya doing. To tease her. So we have a name to name eachother and I gave her my pen cause she didn't have one. And we talked in class. When class is over she runs really fast and is gone really fast. Im trying to do something to let her know im not playing around and something to let her know i really like her but dont want to come up to her like: " hey i like you "
You know what i mean. Btw this is just me venting😉 | Crush |
We're the same age btw | Crush |
So I was talking to this girl, I met on a dating app then I stopped for like a couple months for personal reasons. But I wanted to hit her up again. I noticed she’s not on the app anymore, but her IG is still on her dating profile. Would it be weird to follow her and dm her ??? | Crush |
Looking at her pictures whenever she posts it always hurts me. Her beauty hurts me. I always comment something because it's usually the only contact I get. Anybody else feel hurt? | Crush |
So my crush is very shy, and very quiet. I suspect she likes me, but I'm not entirely sure. So I've never seen her initiate a conversation with anyone except her sister, and she usually keeps to her own. I initiate almost everything, and I'm not sure if she actually likes me, or if she's treating me like this because I'm pretty much the only one who's giving her a chance. I think it's a bit of both, but I have a strong hunch that she likes me. Earlier today, me, my crush, and her sister were walking and I noticed an old couple walking a little ways behind us. I brought this up, and as soon as I did she got up and started walking fast. I made a joke, and her sister said she was shy.
She's so shy that she can go an entire school day without saying a word and flees from old couples, but she opens up to me, hangs out with me, has conversations with me, and jokes around with me. This has to be a good sign, right? | Crush |
im struggling to make conversation with my crush over text and i dont know what to do and i dont wanna say anything that would weird them out | Crush |
Recently, I’ve been single and working on my mental health ever since my boyfriend passed away in 2020. This means I’ve been abstain from sex and men. I’ve been doing so much better mentally as well. I started a new job recently at a bar and I’ve been working with some new people but this one boy caught my eyes. HES SO FUCKING CUTE, I have a crush on him but it’s not invasive. I don’t think about him all the time and nor am I crazy, but I fantasize about him a lot. I mean one time we were alone in the storage room and all I could think about is him grabbing my waist with his muscular arms and pushing me against the wall LOL while he has his other hand on my neck choking me? I think I’m just very horny, I haven’t had sex in a very long time. Anyways, I’m too shy and as well not trying to lose my job or make it weird so I haven’t made a move. Sometimes I wish he would just grab me and fuck me... smh | Crush |
Idk if I have a crush on her, but I think about her a lot.
She's one of my best friends. She just got sad about her crush not realizing her feelings and I want to help, but it just hurts a bit.
How can I get rid of these feelings?
How can I help her?
I don't want to take advantage of her feelings. I really want her to be happy. | Crush |
She knows I have a crush on her since highschool even since I got a girlfriend ( we broke up anyways), if I heart react to her post, things may be little awkward again. | Crush |
So I’m now kinda moving towards someone else but at the same time? I’m single rn, not looking for a relationship and crushing on two people. What do i do now | Crush |
So my crush is my neighbour Just call him for this time Ariana so she just don't live here but she's just a cousin of who actually lives here I don't does she likes me but one thing I hate she calls me brother and also my friend also have a crush on her i haven't tell my friend that's she my crush neither him has tell me
What shoul I do give some advice please I need it
Thank you for reading | Crush |
I posted this in r/Crushes too, but only git one answer. Help?
So we have three out of four classes together, this guy and me. Basically, I’m not sure if I’m just overthinking things or if there is actually something going on. So this dude is pretty outgoing, but lately he’s been talking to me more, touching my arms and poking my legs a bit. He’ll also ask me for chocolate and chips and whatnot. Today, during class, because we had some free time, his friend found a weird ring and asked the dude if he wants it, The dude takes it, clasps his hands, and pretends to ask me out with a ring. Then he goes ’come on act surprised and all.’ He’s also been calling me shawty a lot lately, And besides just this, I’ve noticed that his friends have also started to get closer and more open to me.
Also, I’m not sure how i feel yet
Sorry for the rant
IDK if I’m just overthinknig things. | Crush |
I’m expecting to get downvoted into oblivion but oh well. Basically I was just messing about on the Snapchat map and I saw she had her location on. Curiosity got the better of me and I ended up searching the area up, I didn’t have any bad intentions at all, I was just quite bored.
Now that I know this I feel so guilty. I know I’m not a creep and I would never start going round her home or anything ridiculous like that but I still feel really bad. What’s made it worse it that it she lives in a very expensive home and even though my family are very fortunate I feel jealous of her and that I’ll never be enough for her.
I know I shouldn’t have even gone further then noticing her on Snapchat and I never had any intention of doing anything. I just wanted to get this off my chest. | Crush |
*sorry if the wording is a bit weird I’m tired lmao
TLDR: I think I fucked up my chances with my crush by being an ass, did I?
Background:
So I (16M) have had a massive crush on this girl (16F) since around 7th grade (we are in 11th now) and idk how I should proceed or if I even should. Back in 7th grade, I had a slight crush on her and for the first 3/4ths of the year me her and some mutual friends all became pretty close but towards the end of the year, my dumbass thought I’d totally look like “a bad boy” if I started acting like a stuck up bitch to everyone (including her TvT) and naturally that lead to her distancing herself from me pretty fast. So after that fiasco, we both kinda moved on with our lives and we wouldn’t even have any of the same classes except 9th grade where we had the same, coed, sport and we had French 1-2 together where we partnered up semi-regularly (reassuring me that she doesn’t completely hate my guts). The issue is that, for whatever reason, I fell completely head over heels for her at this time (still am) but because of unrelated mental health issues I was scared to even try to be anything more than acquaintances because I didn’t want to possibly burden her with anything (keep in mind she is amazingly intelligent and part of this all is I don’t want to be a distraction and possible bring her grades down). And that’s pretty much the situation up until now, where I just bite my tongue around her and try to move on.
Question(s):
- Is it even worth it to try? It’s already been so long I feel like if it ever got to the point of me confessing she’d be super creeped out that I’ve felt like this for 4-5
years.
- Assuming she’s okay with dating, is it fair to her for me to be going into the relationship with various mental health problems?
- How can I avoid weighing her down academically? I’d feel horribly selfish if her grades suffer even minorly because of me.
- And assuming everything else goes perfectly, how do I even begin to rebuild that bridge that I burned so long ago without it feeling super awkward? I’m already majorly socially incompetent, knowing that she knows how much of a douche I used to be won’t help at all TvT.
Thank you for your time, any/all advice no matter how brutally honest is greatly appreciated. :) | Crush |
I'm crushing on this girl (18) and I'm 22. She recently started working with me and we've had a few interactions and I have been working on her shifts as cover and when we smile at each other we be staring at each other for like 30secs which feels like 30 mins.
She has a very bubbly personality and has good humour and she laughs at my jokes. I tried getting her socials by asking her I can cover shifts or vice versa but she said no and now I won't be working with her for at least 2 weeks. Any help would be helpful | Crush |
Sorry for the really long post, but if anyone could read and share their opinion,I'd appreciate it.
So my crush is pretty quiet and shy, and I've never seen her start a conversation with anyone besides her sister. In person things usually go good, I start a conversation, and she almost always give detailed responses and shows enthusiasm and some confidence, whilst still being a little shy. The first time I ever talked to her, was in November. She was reading a book, and I asked what it was about, and she had the biggest smile I've ever seen a person have, but she avoided eye contact, and tried to hide her smile.
We hung out for the first time on the weekend. Her sister came too, and we all had a lot of fun. I met her step-dad, and he treated me as if he's heard a lot about me. Both my crush and her sister tell their parents about me. We talked a good bit, but I mostly talked to her sister since she's more talkative, and her sister was constantly talking to me. At one point we all sat down on a bench and I started telling a stupid story that happened on the bench, and at one point I looked over at my crush and she was laughing so hard. Her sister wasn't laughing nearly as much, but she was really enjoying my story, even though it wasn't super funny.
We started messaging eachother on Instagram last month. We both suck at texting. I always say something basic like "Hey howve you been?" And she almost always gives a really detailed paragraph, but everything after that is really basic and dry. Im just plain old boring when I text her, and she gives responses that are hard to work with. Our text conversations never go far. When we hung out, I felt almost positive she likes me back, but everytime we text it feels like she doesn't care at all. | Crush |
Uh hey! I'm new here and I just wanted some advice abt my crush!
Okay so basically, there's this boy, lets just call him John for now and we are sort of close, like I sat next to him in DT and my friends and his friends are all friends, like its one big friend group. (We don't hang out all the time.)
So one DT lesson when we used to be partners, we were making spaghetti bolognaise and he was stood behind me and uh well he sort of grinded on me as a joke. I didn't say anything but my friends saw and stuff. So the next lesson me and my friend, lets call her Sophie, asked him why he did it. AT the time I didn't know it was a joke. He replied, "idk, but it felt good."
Of course I was kinda embarrassed and walked off. But after that my friends would not stop going on abt it. Like me and 'John' we close, like there was no physical barrier and my friends would always be like "oo you guys are touching each other up." Of course we were not, but y'know what friends are like.
Fast forward a few weeks, and turns out I kind of like him. Who am I kidding, I really like him. My friends are constantly saying my last name is his, and that our kids would look cute and stuff like that, and I acted like it was annoying but tbh I sort of liked it.
But now, my annoying teacher moved me, (I used to sit next to him), and now I am no where near him, and he's in none of my other lessons.
Okay now here's the question. I really like him, like so much that when I think about how I'm nowhere near him, or abt how he's in none of my other lessons, it hurts. But I'm too scared to do anything because I don't want to ruin what we have. But all his friends say he sort of likes me but I don't know if they are telling the truth.
Could any of you give me some advice?
Thank you! xx
P.S sorry its a lot to read! | Crush |
When I was 16 I had this huge crush in my class and I would always try to find an excuse to talk to her.
So one day her mom died and I was sad for her but also was trying to think of the perfect way to talk to her. 3 days later I texted her that I had a dream about her and she immediately called me to ask for details and I didn’t know what to say because it was a lie so I made up a story of how ‘we were in class and I just started hugging her’ idk if she was comforted by it or not but she just replied with an ‘okay’ and then hung up.
And no, nothing ever happened between us. | Crush |
So, I like this girl a lot, but She only sees me as a friend, and She likes my friend, And my friend does think of her only as a friend, I like her a lot, We meet like 3 times a year. I lierally love, but i don't know how to ask her. | Crush |
I have been trying my hardest to not look. I don’t want to become obsessive but like the things he said to me… sexy and intense.
Also. I have adhd and ocd so that’s why I don’t want to look. I tend to get secretly obsessive and I really want to keep this as healthy as I can.
Does anyone else go back and read messages?
Edit: I looked. I’m glad I did. I was worried I was into him more. But when I went back I saw how many times he attempted to flirt with me but I was too into whoever I was dating at the time to see it as flirting. Or back to back messaging me but I never responded. I feel like such a dumb ass, but I feel less crazy. 🤣 | Crush |
After almost 2 months of courting, I was rejected.
She said she's not yet ready to have a relationship again and still can't get over her previous relationship trauma, that she's afraid to hurt me one day.
1st time of doing this kind of stuff, took me all the courage I have just to do something like this. I didn't know getting rejected would hurt this much, I feel frustrated yet empty right now to be honest. I like her so much that I want to try and pursue her again when she's ready, however I don't know if I still have the rights to do so. Sorry guys, I just want to vent up this frustrating feelings I have right now.
What do you guys think should I do? | Crush |
So I like this girl and she flirts back(I think) she gave me a heart made of gun wrapper and she says that she wish I could hug her when she was sick but she says I love you to everyone including me and I really like her but I don't want to ruin a friendship if we don't date she says she likes another person but she gives me hints that idk if they are hints school ends in May and I feel hopeless without her we talk every night and I was thinking about asking her april 1st so if she said no I could play it off you know so tell me what to do. | Crush |
So as the title says i told my crush i liked her a little under a month ago and we have made plans to hang out since but she has canceled. She specifically said it wasn’t to flake out on me. But i then tried to make plans to see her after that day and she said she was busy for the next two weeks between school and class. She doesn’t respond frequently as of late because she says she is super stressed. Yesterday she did decide to respond however and now she is stating started talking to a old friend from high school romantically. But when i told her i should probably stop texting her as much to avoid putting any strain on her relationship she immediately said not to change and mentioned hanging out. The day we were supposed to hang out originally was the day before valentines as we both worked on valentines day and i had bought her several gifts. What am I supposed to do? | Crush |
Crush on my coworker
Apologies in advance I’ve a very long winded way of telling a story. Anyway I’ve been working with this guy for two years now and last month his girlfriend (now ex) broke up with him. I’ve had a massive crush on him for about three months but initially didn’t make a move as he was still in the relationship. He’s literally all I think about but I’ve no idea if he likes me back or if he knows I like him.
He openly admits he doesn’t text many people consistently and that I’m one of only the few he does. When we are in work he is always chatty and up for a laugh and after work when we stay for a drink legs are touching and it seems for a moment he might be into me.
Last night few of us from work met up for drinks in his and while we sat next to each other no other move was made. Another girl jokingly said all o talked about was my hatred for one coworker and my love for the boy in question. I’m afraid to ask him if he remembers her saying this but I really just wanna know if he likes me back or if I should just accept that he isn’t the one for me even if I do like him very much | Crush |
This girl I’m getting to know in school she waits for me outside my class in the morning so I can walk her to class but she is literally impossible to text💀 I even told her that she said she doesn’t check her phone after school or she’s just rarely on her phone cause when I message her she never leaves me delivered while being active it’s like when she gets off her phone that’s it her phone is locked away until she picks it back up💀 | Crush |
So this is something which took place in my 7th grade!!
I had a rlyy big crush on my classmate and i was quite hesitant to talk to him.... so during my computer period.. in my SCHOOL COMPUTER WITHOUT USING INGOGNITO i just google how to flirt with a boy. Unsatisfied with the results I googles how to flirt with a boy of my class. This didn't satisfy me either so I searched how to flirt with a boy of my class studying in 7th grade. I was scrolling down the page when one of my classmate from behind came to me. He asked me what I was doing. I tried to hide the screen using my hands and I clicked on that cross to close the window but some pop out was coming so it didn't close. And unfortunately my class mate read that. Then he went to one of his frnds and told him that i was searching "porn" on school's computer and I was like dude!! what the fuck. But then he actually told the truth to one of his frnds. And then they both kept teasing me for the whole year saying "How to dash a dash in my dash of dash dash" 😭 | Crush |
I had a very awkward first meeting with my crush. What do I do? | Crush |
So theres this insanely good looking guy at work (I'm a girl) and these are the things that I've picked up on:
- stands close to me
- will always open the door for me
- when we're in a secluded area or at the end of our shift and he sees me coming, he'll pretend to be busy and wait for me so we can chat
- mostly initiates conversation
- is always scrolling or talking on the phone through his airpods 24/7 but with me he gives me his 100% attention and is never on his phone
Do you think he's into me? | Crush |
We used to work together she is older than me and she seems insecure about that. However, overtime I started to have a crush on her. She went out of her way to show her interest in me. She would stare deeply into my eyes smile close the door so we can be alone then flirt with me ask me to sit next to her she always find reasons to touch my shoulder. She never told me she had a bf.
She left work two months ago and I thought to ask her to hang out. I told her that me and (a girl from work who is younger than me) are trying to find something fun to do and that we are going to play (sport ) together and I asked her if she would like to come. She replied saying she wish she could but her bf’s family is coming to visit. Then she asked me to have fun. Was this a passive aggressive answer? Or is she not interested? Or whats going on? | Crush |
So for the past year I've been in love with this guy who lives like 4 hours away from.I saw him in a callisthenics contest in my city and since then image of him won't leave my brain.And a few months ago i decided to tell him all about my unreasonable love towards him in hope that we can hang out or something and he just blocked me lol.And even tho he made it pretty clear that he doesn't want anything to do with me i still can't shake this feelings.Keep in mind that he's my first love lol
btw writing this is so therapeutic | Crush |
Do you ever meet a person who embodies a feeling? I’m in love with someone and if I could illustrate how they make me feel it’s like smoking cigarets in a bathroom of some public park. The public parks in a really shitty town where we live and we’re getting drunk and talking about how society is totally fucked. We completely understand each other in a way no one else ever has. It’s summer and 3 in the morning and our parents have no idea we’re there. How that moment would feel is how they make me feel. How does your crush make you feel? | Crush |
I am gonna talk to my crush tomorrow for the first time. I have liked him for 2 months now and we text over whatsapp. But tomorrow I am going to meet him face to face. How do I talk to him? Like what should I say? How do I make him interested in me? | Crush |
So I was texting my crush and I asked her about some stuff related to studying and she wrote a small paragraph about it and at the ended it with this emoji “🙃” then after we continued texting and he wrote some stuff and ended it again with this same emoji “🙃” I have no idea what it means does anyone has any thoughts about this ? | Crush |
So I have a crush on my best friend and she always says that she doesn't like anyone.
We often flirt as a joke and I know that her parents would never accept her dating me (LGBT+ related) could anyone please give me an idea to drop a few hints that I like her. | Crush |
I posted about a month ago explaining my situation with my crush, the post name is "What would you guys do?" in case you would like to have more context.
So here's the update. I got to talk to her, we talked on whatsapp ab her uni as I just applied for studying there my Masters degree. I am not doing it to be close to her or nothing like that, I just found it online and realized this uni offered the best option for my career, it's just a beautiful coincidence I guess hahah. The thing is that this first conversation has opened field for more, but I don't know how to keep going :P.
Do you think I should ask her again ab something related to this so we can start talking again? Maybe ab the city as I am planning to go there some time in the near future (ab restaurants, places to go, things to do, etc)? I don't want to be boring or look desperate, that's just not how it is, but I would really love to talk to her more usually so we can create a closer bond. I think we have many things in common, likes in movies, tv shows, music (as far as our mutual friend has told me ab her), so if we interact more often maybe we could start talking ab all this.
Also, I would like to mention that our mutual friend is not a "love rival" or anything like that, if that term exists lmao. Their relationship is sibling-like, they are so close to each other because they have lived together for a long time, and they are like siblings really, he told me it was impossible that anything could happen in between them so it's all cool. I've been thinking that telling him ab how I feel for her could help me through this a little bit, he knows her so well and he could give me great advice, but I'm too scared of his reaction, I wouldn't like to lose a friendship, even though it is not gonna happen bc we are really close friends, but this could potentially change our friendship and I don't want that to happen. Do you think I should tell him?
One key point here is that my friend told me she has been meeting new guys, this means she is getting over and healing from her past relationship, which is perfect and I feel great for her, but at the same time it scares me a little bc she could find someone else before I had any chance. This is why I have to "take action" and start creating that closer bond now, but as I just mentioned I don't really know how to keep the ball rolling.
So, just like I did a month ago, I will ask you the same question, what would you guys do? Pls feel free to answer with whatever you think of, be it opinion or advice, anything is of help and I like to share opinions :) | Crush |
You never realize how much you think about yourself till you try and talk to someone you like. I realize that with every conversation I tend to talk more about myself than try to get to know him:/ it’s not like I’m subconsciously thinking “I don’t care about anything he says,” it’s more like I don’t know if he’s comfortable answering my questions. So how can I get him to talk about himself and open up to me more, and how can I be less self-centered?? | Crush |
guy that i believe is interested in me, is seeing someone apparently, it doesn’t sound serious from what i’ve heard but he is. and i don’t know what to do. i’m being thrown mixed signals and i don’t know whether to go ahead and confess or just move on immediately. can someone please give me some sort of advice? because i’m lost at this point | Crush |
How do I limit contact with someone without ghosting or being a jerk? I need to move on from this crush. | Crush |
There’s this guy at my school and for past month we have been talking a lot. We go to the gym together like everyday and we both do the same sports so we practice together—we also text like everyday. I would say that we are good friends and we get along really well. I like how I can just be myself around him and I don’t get nervous or shy. I feel like he may like me because he got me something for Valentine’s Day and acts a little flirty towards me. I don’t want to be in a relationship right now and even if I did I would want to take it VERY slow with him. I just wonder how he feels about me. How does he think of me (like in a more than friends way)? And I also wonder where this will go—like will we just remain friends or will something more happen (either way I’m fine with it)? | Crush |
Hi, I'm a 20 year old female who has recently started going to a new gym (in November 2021). Since I started going, I noticed one guy who goes at the same time I do every day, and we talked a few times but only about gym stuff (how many sets do you have left etc.). Furthermore, I started noticing that he sometimes looks at me and workouts near me, but he also sometimes takes plates from the smith machine I'm using even though there are plates on the squat rack that no one's using. I am reaaally interested in him and I'm thinking of approaching him but I'm not 100% sure. Once he held the door open for me but that same day he didn't say hello to me(I live in a small city and everyone greets everyone so that was kind of weird). Ofcourse, I understand that some men don't want to approach women in the gym because it's considered "creepy" by some of them. Also, I realized that he's very flexible with his workouts and takes breaks to talk with his friends so I am sure it wouldn't bother him if I approached him during his breaks. I am honestly unsure on what to do because I literally never dated anyone because I was 'a fat, funny kid' my whole life, so I'm not very experienced. I would appreciate an opinion on this :)
Edit: He often lifts with his female friend and his male friend, I talked a few times with his female friend and she is so nice. She greets me every time and smiles to me when we see each other. I even once heard that he asked her about me, something like: what was that all about? (when I told her that she doesn't have to wipe leg press, that I'll do it because I was waiting for her to finish her set) | Crush |
So there’s this guy and we have both liked each other for awhile and he eventually told me he likes me but he didn’t know if it was platonic or romantic. Personally I want a relationship and I’m ready for that with him. We flirt a lot comfort each other a lot, etc in general we are really close. So today we had a conversation about what we were and what we are going to be. He said he likes me and he says he isn’t afraid to ask me out or be with me he’s just afraid of “what could happen.” I’m assuming he means the outcome of our relationship. He said he wanted a relationship with me where our feelings won’t be held back and we won’t be together so we can’t break up. He also said that we won’t have to deal with the stress of a relationship and if either one of use lose feelings then we don’t have to stop communicating after and we can still be friends. He wants this because it’s the “safest” thing he can think of. He told me if I didn’t like it then I could communicate and talk to him about it cause he just wants me to be happy.
I told him I preferred a relationship because that’s like special to me. Honestly I like the idea of what he wants too we would do everything a relationship would have besides being boyfriend and girlfriend. I did tell him I liked the idea of what he said too because I think it might be easier.
He asked if I was okay with what we have. He also said he feels sorry because he knows I’m disappointed. He knows communication is key and he wants to have something with me.
Okay, wow that was a lot I just need someone’s input or opinion on this. Thanks :) | Crush |
**So I have a crush on this girl, and I have her snap and I snapped last year, but I was left on opened I added her on insta yesterday and she added me back, and now I want to snap her again, but I don't want to look like a creep. What should I do?** | Crush |
Okay so I’m in highschool almost about to graduate and I think I’ve started developing a crush on my friend which I’ve known for more than 5 years
So me and them practically talk about anything and everything together we trust eachother completely with our secrets but we primarily talk online although we go to the same school
We will text and call everyday I ask them about their day and they do the same to me and have a talk normally lasting the whole day but even though we are super close I always get flustered when I actually talk with them in real life
We’re pretty much opposites them being outspoken, loud, energetic and super skilled at practically everything they do while I’m a shy, self kept, anxious and normally low energy kinda person
I already know I have a crush on them I just don’t want to accept it because if I ever act on that crush I’ll ruin the relationship we have because I know for a fact that they don’t like me back as they consider me more as family at this point which normally goes both ways which is why I have that I have a crush on them
Any advice on what should I do or say? | Crush |
So, me and this girl liked talked 2 eartch other a lot, but she went on vacation (to another country) and we stopped talking (I don't lnow why). Then i just randomly texted and said hi and we hit off again but we never talked face to face. I found out that she had liked me again, and she knew I still liked her, but then fastforward a few months I lost feeling and I told her: I can't talk anymore, godbye. She texted back saying are you mad? and I never responded. Then one of her friends randomly texted me saying if I was mad at her I said no. I want to talk to hr again but I don't know how? | Crush |
Im in HS I’ve liked a guy since I first met him in 9th grade to this day I like him we used to be cool at first but now he doesn’t talk to me at all I see him but he doesn’t say anything to me it doesn’t feel like he likes me at all how do I get over this crush? I’m now a senior and I just thought that during quarantine I stoped liking him but when we went back to school all the feelings came back. Help please | Crush |
So I've known my crush from 9th grade and liked her since 6th grade . We talked a lot on WhatsApp but now it's just dry conversation.
I need help to get her attention and consider me as a bf
She likes novels and one direction if that helps
Edit: DM me if you want to help me further | Crush |
I miss you. Oddly I came across some messages and tbh things have changed between us. I miss you flirting with me it was the highlight of my day. I’m stupid maybe you never liked me I wish you did. I’d gladly accept you into my life. I think about you all the time and I often wonder if you miss me. I know you don’t but I feel so sad knowing you can let me go so easily farewell | Crush |
So after class, I met up with this guy I know because he was on campus and we talked a bit. Then, he randomly says that we should have a handshake. I was taken aback, flabbergasted even. I’m a college student and I don’t know … it seems a little middle schoolish. Also, I don’t have handshakes with my own friends. And I’m not a really touchy person. Anyways, I responded and was like “oh, do you have a handshake with my cousin?” (he’s friends with my cousin). He’s like “nah, we just dap each up.”
So, for context, I’ve only hung out with him once; we had lunch. So like what’s this whole handshake thing? I don’t know if it was just an excuse to hold my hand? But anyways, we ended up going off topic so no handshake was created, at least for now. | Crush |
So I have a crush that sits next to me in two periods and we talk and fool around sometimes but only during those two periods. So I want to get closer to her. Idk what to say and I don’t wanna say anything weird. Help. | Crush |
so i am going out on a date with my best friend of 2.5 years and i wanna know when should i ask her if we’re official and which date do i ask her for a kiss? we did like each other back then but she was with her boyfriend and i liked someone else but now after her breakup and me moving on from my previous crush. we decided to give dating a shot but not a relationship since we have decided to see if we’re a match or not | Crush |
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