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And it's hard not to think that part of what leads to this sense of isolation is our modern world.	그리고 이러한 고립감에 이르게 하는 것의 일부분은 현대 우리의 세상이라는 것을 생각하는 것은 어려운 일이 아닙니다.	en-ko
So Alisa's experience is not isolated.	Donc l'expérience d'Alisa n'est pas un cas isolé.	en-fr
So your 58 percent of mothers surveyed report feelings of loneliness.	۵۸ درصد از مادرانی که ﻣﻮرد نظرسنجي ﻗﺮار ﮔﺮﻓﺘند احساسات تنهایی را گزارش كرده‌اند.	en-fa
Of those, 67 percent are most lonely when their kids are zero to five -- probably really zero to two.	Parmi elles, 67% se sentent plus seules quand leurs enfants sont âgés de 0 à 5 ans -- probablement vraiment entre 0 et 2 ans.	en-fr
In the process of preparing this, we looked at how some other cultures around the world deal with this period of time, because here in the Western world, less than 50 percent of us live near our family members, which I think is part of why this is such a tough period.	No processo de prepararmos isso, olhamos como algumas outras culturas do mundo lidam com esse período, porque aqui no mundo Ocidental, menos de 50% de nós vivem próximo a membros da família, e é em parte por isso que penso que este é um período tão difícil.	en-pt-br
So to take one example among many: in Southern India there's a practice known as jholabhari, in which the pregnant woman, when she's seven or eight months pregnant, moves in with her mother and goes through a series of rituals and ceremonies, give birth and returns home to her nuclear family several months after the child is born.	Итак, возьмем один из многих примеров. В Южной Индии существует обычай, носящий название холобихари, суть его в том, что женщина на 7-ом или 8-ом месяце беременности переезжает к своей матери и проходит ряд ритуалов и церемоний, рожает ребенка и возвращается домой в свою семью через несколько месяцев после родов.	en-ru
And this is one of many ways that we think other cultures offset this kind of lonely period.	És ez csak az egyike azon lehetőségeknek, amivel más kultúrák, úgy gondoljuk, könnyítenek ezen a magányos időszakon.	en-hu
AV: So taboo number three: you can't talk about your miscarriage -- but today I'll talk about mine.	АВ: Табу број три: не можете разговарати о свом побачају... али ја ћу данас говорити о свом.	en-sr
So after we had Declan, we kind of recalibrated our expectations.	Након што смо добили Деклана, ревидовали смо своја очекивања.	en-sr
We thought we actually could go through this again and thought we knew what we would be up against.	Vlastně jsme si mysleli, že si tím můžeme projít ještě jednou a že víme, proti čemu zde stojíme.	en-cs
And we were grateful that I was able to get pregnant, and I soon learned that we were having a boy, and then when I was five months, we learned that we had lost our child.	Ficámos satisfeitos por eu ter engravidado de novo. Fiquei a saber que íamos ter um menino. Quando eu estava de cinco meses, soubemos que tínhamos perdido o nosso bebé.	en-pt
This is actually the last little image we have of him.	Esta é a última imagem que temos dele.	en-pt
And it was obviously a very difficult time -- really painful.	І очевидно, це був дуже важкий час, справді болісний.	en-uk
As I was working through that mourning process, I was amazed that I didn't want to see anybody.	И док сам пролазила кроз процес жаљења, било ми је невероватно то што нисам желела никога да видим.	en-sr
I really wanted to crawl into a hole, and I didn't really know how I was going to work my way back into my surrounding community.	我只想爬到一个洞穴中去。我不知道我怎样回到自己周围的社群中去。	en-zh-cn
And I realize, I think, the way I was feeling that way, is on a really deep gut level, I was feeling a lot of shame and embarrassed, frankly, that, in some respects, I had failed at delivering what I'm genetically engineered to do.	Şi mi-am dat seama, cred, modul în care mă simţeam aşa, e pe un nivel foarte profund, simţeam multă ruşine -- jenată, să fiu sinceră -- că, într-un fel, nu am reuşit să fac ce sunt construită genetic să fac.	en-ro
And of course, it made me question, if I wasn't able to have another child, what would that mean for my marriage, and just me as a woman.	当然，这使我也疑惑如果我不能再生孩子，那这对我们的婚姻意味着什么，我怎样才算一个合格的女人。	en-zh-cn
So it was a very difficult time.	Vì vậy đây là một giai đoạn hết sức khó khăn.	en-vi
As I started working through it more, I started climbing out of that hole and talking with other people.	Като започнах да работя над него повече, аз започнах да излизам от тази дупка и да говоря с други хора.	en-bg
I was really amazed by all the stories that started flooding in.	És tényleg megleptek azok a történetek, amikkel elárasztottak.	en-hu
People I interacted with daily, worked with, was friends with, family members that I had known a long time, had never shared with me their own stories.	Daha önce her gün konuştuğum, birlikte çalıştığım, arkadaşım olan insanlar aile fertleri ve uzun zamandır tanıdığım kimseler benimle kendi deneyimlerini hiç paylaşmamıştı.	en-tr
And I just remember feeling all these stories came out of the woodwork, and I felt like I happened upon this secret society of women that I now was a part of, which was reassuring and also really concerning.	我覺得這些故事都是從森林裡走出來的而我感到自己剛好碰到這些秘密的婦女世界, 而我是其中一份子這讓我感到既放心又擔心	en-zh-tw
And I think, miscarriage is an invisible loss.	Και πιστεύω, η αποβολή είναι μια αόρατη απώλεια.	en-el
There's not really a lot of community support around it.	Non ha intorno una grossa parte di comunità che lo supporti.	en-it
There's really no ceremony, rituals, or rites.	Não existe uma cerimônia, rituais, ou ritos de passagem.	en-pt-br
And I think, with a death, you have a funeral, you celebrate the life, and there's a lot of community support, and it's something women don't have with miscarriage.	我想，如果人死，那有葬礼，颂扬一生，会得到很多社区的支持。但是妇女流产不会得到同样的待遇。	en-zh-cn
RG: Which is too bad because, of course, it's a very common and very traumatic experience.	RG: Algo que es muy malo porque, claro, es una experiencia muy común y a la vez muy traumática.	en-es
Fifteen to 20 percent of all pregnancies result in miscarriage, and I find this astounding.	15 до 20 процента от всички бременности свършват със спонтанен аборт. И аз намирам това за невероятно.	en-bg
In a survey, 74 percent of women said that miscarriage, they felt, was partly their fault, which is awful.	U istraživanju, 74 posto žena je reklo kako je pobačaj, prema njihovim osjećajima, dio njihove krivice, što je užasno.	en-hr
And astoundingly, 22 percent said they would hide a miscarriage from their spouse.	I zapanjujuće, 22 posto je reklo kako bi sakrilo pobačaj od svog supružnika.	en-hr
So taboo number four: you can't say that your average happiness has declined since having a child.	И така табу номер четири: не можете да кажете, че вашето усреднено щастие е намаляло, откакто сте имали дете.	en-bg
The party line is that every single aspect of my life has just gotten dramatically better ever since I participated in the miracle that is childbirth and family.	Cocuk sahibi olmanın mucizevi seviyesine erişince hayatımın her alanında çok ama çok daha mutlu oldum demeniz beklenir.	en-tr
I'll never forget, I remember vividly to this day, our first son, Declan, was nine months old, and I was sitting there on the couch, and I was reading Daniel Gilbert's wonderful book, "Stumbling on Happiness."	절대 잊지 못합니다, 저는 지금까지 생생하게 기억합니다. 우리의 첫 아들 데클란이 9개월되었을 때 저는 카우치에 앉아서 Daniel Gilbert의 아주 멋진 책 "행복에 걸려 비틀거리다.	en-ko
And I got about two-thirds of the way through, and there was a chart on the right-hand side -- on the right-hand page -- that we've labeled here "The Most Terrifying Chart Imaginable for a New Parent."	Eu já ia a cerca de dois terços da leitura, e havia um gráfico do lado direito, na página do lado direito, que nós intitulámos aqui "O Gráfico mais Aterrorizador que é possível Imaginar "para Pais pela Primeira Vez".	en-pt
This chart is comprised of four completely independent studies.	Ten wykres powstał na podstawie czterech niezależnych badań.	en-pl
Basically, there's this precipitous drop of marital satisfaction, which is closely aligned, we all know, with broader happiness, that doesn't rise again until your first child goes to college.	简单地说，生孩子后婚姻满意度会徒然下降，这跟广泛意义上幸福感的升降基本一致而这种幸福感一直到你第一个孩子上大学后才会回升。	en-zh-cn
So I'm sitting here looking at the next two decades of my life, this chasm of happiness that we're driving our proverbial convertible straight into.	Siedzę więc tak patrząc na dwie kolejne dekady mojego życia, tę przepaść w szczęściu, do której prostą drogą się kierujemy.	en-pl
We were despondent.	Eravamo demoralizzati.	en-it
AV: So you can imagine, I mean again, the first few months were difficult, but we'd come out of it, and were really shocked to see this study.	AV: Jadi Anda dapat membayangkan, bulan-bulan pertama sangat sulit tapi kami berhasil mengatasinya, dan kami benar-benar terkejut melihat kajian ini.	en-id
So we really wanted to take a deeper look at it in hopes that we would find a silver lining.	Donc nous voulions vraiment y regarder de plus près dans l'espoir de trouver un côté positif.	en-fr
RG: And that's when it's great to be running a website for parents, because we got this incredible reporter to go and interview all the scientists who conducted these four studies.	RG : C'est là qu'il est génial de diriger un site Internet pour les parents, car nous avons obtenu de cette journaliste incroyable qu'elle aille interviewer tous les scientifiques qui ont mené ces quatre recherches.	en-fr
We said, something is wrong here.	وتمان شتێک هەڵەیە لێرە	en-ku
There's something missing from these studies.	Il manque quelque chose à ces recherches.	en-fr
It can't possibly be that bad.	Не можеше да бъде толкова зле.	en-bg
So Liz Mitchell did a wonderful job with this piece, and she interviewed four scientists, and she also interviewed Daniel Gilbert, and we did indeed find a silver lining.	Така че Лиз Мичъл свърши чудесна работа. И тя интервюира четирите учени, и тя също така интервюира Даниел Гилбърт. И ние наистина намерихме нещо добро.	en-bg
So this is our guess as to what this baseline of average happiness arguably looks like throughout life.	Tehát a mi tippünk a következő: hihetőnek tűnik az átlagboldogság vonala.	en-hu
Average happiness is, of course, inadequate, because it doesn't speak to the moment-by-moment experience, and so this is what we think it looks like when you layer in moment-to-moment experience.	Prosječna sreća je, naravno, neprikladna, jer ne govori o iskustvu trenutka. I mislimo da izgleda ovako kada stavite sloj iskustva pojedinog trenutka.	en-hr
And so we all remember as children, the tiniest little thing -- and we see it on the faces of our children -- the teeniest little thing can just rocket them to these heights of just utter adulation, and then the next teeniest little thing can cause them just to plummet to the depths of despair.	好像我們都記得當我們是小孩的時候那些最微小的事--我們都在小孩臉上看過的那些小事可以把快樂吹噓到很高的水平接著另一件很小的事也可以帶動到最深刻的沮喪和困境	en-zh-tw
And it's just extraordinary to watch, and we remember it ourselves.	Nadzwyczajnie się to obserwuje, i sami też to pamiętamy.	en-pl
And then, of course, as you get older, it's almost like age is a form of lithium.	Lalu, tentu saja, saat Anda bertambah tua, usia hampir menyerupai litium.	en-id
As you get older, you become more stable.	だんだんと安定してきます	en-ja
And part of what happens, I think, in your '20s and '30s, is you start to learn to hedge your happiness.	當你還是二十或是三十的時候, 你開始懂得去對沖你的快樂	en-zh-tw
You start to realize that "Hey, I could go to this live music event and have an utterly transforming experience that will cover my entire body with goosebumps, but it's more likely that I'll feel claustrophobic and I won't be able to get a beer.	Bạn bắt đầu nhận ra rằng "Này, mình có thể đi xem buổi trình diễn ca nhạc trực tiếp này và có một trải nghiệm hoàn toàn mới mẻ có thể khiến cả người mình nổi da gà, nhưng có vẻ mình sẽ cảm thấy bị ngột ngạt và mình sẽ không thể uống bia.	en-vi
So I'm not going to go.	그래서 나는 가지 않을꺼야.	en-ko
I've got a good stereo at home. So, I'm not going to go."	وأنا أملك جهاز ستريو رائع في منزلي .. نعم لن أذهب "	en-ar
So your average happiness goes up, but you lose those transcendent moments.	そうして幸福の水準は上がるものの瞬間的なすばらしい経験は逃すのです	en-ja
AV: Yeah, and then you have your first child, and then you really resubmit yourself to these highs and lows -- the highs being the first steps, the first smile, your child reading to you for the first time -- the lows being, our house, any time from six to seven every night.	AV: Da, i zatim dobijete svoje prvo dijete. I zatim ponovno predajete sebe tim usponima i padovima -- usponi koji su prvi koraci, prvi osmijeh, kada vaše dijete čita po prvi puta -- padovi su naša kuća bilo kada između šest i sedam svake večeri.	en-hr
But you realize you resubmit yourself to losing control in a really wonderful way, which we think provides a lot of meaning to our lives and is quite gratifying.	אבל את יודעת שאת חוזרת לאבד שליטה בדרך נפלאה, שלדעתנו נותנת המון משמעות לחיינו והיא די מספקת.	en-he
RG: And so in effect, we trade average happiness.	روفِس: در اصل ما خوشحالي معمولی و متوسط را معاوضه میکنیم.	en-fa
We trade the sort of security and safety of a certain level of contentment for these transcendent moments.	Cambiamos la protección y seguridad de un cierto nivel de satisfacción por estos momentos trascendentes.	en-es
So where does that leave the two of us as a family with our three little boys in the thick of all this?	Тож де це залишає нас двох з сім`єю з наших трьох малих хлопчаків на тлі всього цього?	en-uk
There's another factor in our case.	もう一つ要素があります	en-ja
We have violated yet another taboo in our own lives, and this is a bonus taboo.	Violamos ainda um outro tabu em nossas vidas. E este é um tabu bônus.	en-pt-br
AV: A quick bonus taboo for you, that we should not be working together, especially with three children -- and we are.	AV: Un tabu bonus rapid pentru voi, că nu ar trebui să lucrăm împreună, în mod special cu trei copii -- şi facem asta.	en-ro
RG: And we had reservations about this on the front end.	روفوس جريسكوم : وكان لدينا تحفظات فيما يخص هذا الامر في البداية	en-ar
Everybody knows, you should absolutely not work with your spouse.	Todo el mundo sabe que no debe trabajar con la esposa.	en-es
In fact, when we first went out to raise money to start Babble, the venture capitalists said, "We categorically don't invest in companies founded by husbands and wives, because there's an extra point of failure.	Valóban, amikor először mentünk pénzt szerezni a Babble-hoz, a befektető azt mondta, "Semmiképp nem fektetünk be olyan cégekbe, amit férj és feleség közösen alapít, mert az külön kockázatot jelent.	en-hu
It's a bad idea. Don't do it."	Rossz ötlet. Ne csinálják!"	en-hu
And we obviously went forward. We did.	Şi în mod evident am făcut-o.	en-ro
We raised the money, and we're thrilled that we did, because in this phase of one's life, the incredibly scarce resource is time.	我们募集到了资金，我们特别高兴，因为在人生的这个阶段中，最宝贵的财富是时间。	en-zh-cn
And if you're really passionate about what you do every day -- which we are -- and you're also passionate about your relationship, this is the only way we know how to do it.	Als je een passie hebt voor wat je elke dag doet -- zoals wij -- en ook voor je relatie, dan is dit volgens ons de enig mogelijke manier.	en-nl
And so the final question that we would ask is: can we collectively bend that happiness chart upwards?	Отже, остаточне питання буде таке: чи можемо ми гуртом вигнути цей графік щастя догори?	en-uk
It's great that we have these transcendent moments of joy, but they're sometimes pretty quick.	我們都有一個特別的快樂時刻, 這是很好的但這些時刻可能過得很快	en-zh-tw
And so how about that average baseline of happiness?	De mi van az boldogság átlagának vonalával?	en-hu
Can we move that up a little bit?	Можем мы как-то приподнять её?	en-ru
AV: And we kind of feel that the happiness gap, which we talked about, is really the result of walking into parenting -- and really any long-term partnership for that matter -- with the wrong expectations.	AV: Và chúng tôi có cảm giác rằng, khoảng cách hạnh phúc, mà chúng tôi nói tới, thực sự là kết quả của việc bắt đầu làm cha mẹ, và bước vào bất kỳ một mối quan hệ lâu dài nào để đi đến điều đó -- với những kỳ vọng sai lầm.	en-vi
And if you have the right expectations and expectation management, we feel like it's going to be a pretty gratifying experience.	Şi dacă ai aşteptările corecte şi controlul aşteptărilor, credem că va fi o experienţă destul de mulţumitoare.	en-ro
RG: And so this is what -- And we think that a lot of parents, when you get in there -- in our case anyway -- you pack your bags for a trip to Europe, and you're really excited to go.	RG: I to właśnie - I sądzimy, że wielu rodziców, gdy dociera do tego punktu - przynajmniej w naszym przypadku - pakuje walizki na podróż do Europy, i jest podniecona wyjazdem.	en-pl
Get out of the airplane, it turns out you're trekking in Nepal.	Тоді вони виходять з літака, і виявляється, що це буде гірський туризм у Непалі.	en-uk
And trekking in Nepal is an extraordinary experience, particularly if you pack your bags properly and you know what you're getting in for and you're psyched.	A treking w Nepalu może być wyjątkowym doświadczeniem, zwłaszcza jeśli odpowiednio się na niego spakuje i wie się, na co się wybiera i odpowiednio przygotuje psychicznie.	en-pl
So the point of all this for us today is not just hopefully honesty for the sake of honesty, but a hope that by being more honest and candid about these experiences, that we can all collectively bend that happiness baseline up a little bit.	אז הנקודה העיקרית עבורנו היא לא רק להיות כן למען הכנות, אלה התקוה שאם נהיה יותר כנים לגבי החויות האלה, כולנו נוכל לכופף את עקומת האושר הממוצע מעט למעלה.	en-he
RG + AV: Thank you.	RG + AV: Grazie.	en-it
I work on helping computers communicate about the world around us.	Eu trabalho ajudando os computadores a falar sobre o mundo ao nosso redor.	en-pt-br
There are a lot of ways to do this, and I like to focus on helping computers to talk about what they see and understand.	是有很多方法可以做到这一点，我喜欢专注于协助电脑去谈论它们看到和理解的内容。	en-zh-cn
Given a scene like this, a modern computer-vision algorithm can tell you that there's a woman and there's a dog.	In een scène als deze kan een modern computer-visie-algoritme je vertellen dat er een vrouw en een hond is te zien.	en-nl
It can tell you that the woman is smiling.	Он может сказать, что женщина улыбается.	en-ru
It might even be able to tell you that the dog is incredibly cute.	Он даже способен сказать, что собака необыкновенно милая.	en-ru
I work on this problem thinking about how humans understand and process the world.	Yo trabajo en este problema pensando en cómo los humanos entienden y procesan el mundo.	en-es
The thoughts, memories and stories that a scene like this might evoke for humans.	Какие мысли, воспоминания и истории может пробуждать в людях такая вот картинка.	en-ru
All the interconnections of related situations.	相關情況的所有相互連結。	en-zh-tw
Maybe you've seen a dog like this one before, or you've spent time running on a beach like this one, and that further evokes thoughts and memories of a past vacation, past times to the beach, times spent running around with other dogs.	여러분은 이런 개를 본적이 있거나 개와 함께 해변을 달렸을 수도 있죠. 이러한 생각은 이전 휴가의 기억을 떠오르게 합니다. 해변에서 보낸 과거의 기억 개와 달리며 보낸 시간들을요.	en-ko
One of my guiding principles is that by helping computers to understand what it's like to have these experiences, to understand what we share and believe and feel, then we're in a great position to start evolving computer technology in a way that's complementary with our own experiences.	私の基本理念の一つはこのような経験の意味をコンピュータに理解させたり私たちが共有し信じ感じたものを理解させたりすることで私たち自身の経験を補完する方向にコンピュータ技術を進化させるという重要な役割を担うということです	en-ja
So, digging more deeply into this, a few years ago I began working on helping computers to generate human-like stories from sequences of images.	Если копнуть глубже, несколько лет назад я начала помогать компьютерам писать рассказы на основе цепочки изображений.	en-ru
So, one day, I was working with my computer to ask it what it thought about a trip to Australia.	Op een dag vroeg ik mijn computer wat hij dacht over een reis naar Australië.	en-nl
It took a look at the pictures, and it saw a koala.	컴퓨터는 사진들 속에서 코알라를 보았습니다.	en-ko
It didn't know what the koala was, but it said it thought it was an interesting-looking creature.	Δεν ήξερε τι είναι, αλλά είπε πως ήταν ένα πλάσμα με ενδιαφέρουσα εμφάνιση.	en-el
Then I shared with it a sequence of images about a house burning down.	그후 불타고 있는 집의 이미지를 보여주었습니다.	en-ko
It took a look at the images and it said, "This is an amazing view! This is spectacular!"	它看了那些圖片，說：「這是好棒的景色！這好壯觀！」	en-zh-tw
It sent chills down my spine.	Мені стало моторошно.	en-uk
It saw a horrible, life-changing and life-destroying event and thought it was something positive.	حادثه ای ویرانگر، سرنوشت ساز و هولناک را دید و فکر کرد چیز مثبتی است.	en-fa

And it's hard not to think that part of what leads to this sense of isolation is our modern world.

그리고 이러한 고립감에 이르게 하는 것의 일부분은 현대 우리의 세상이라는 것을 생각하는 것은 어려운 일이 아닙니다.

en-ko

So Alisa's experience is not isolated.

Donc l'expérience d'Alisa n'est pas un cas isolé.

en-fr

So your 58 percent of mothers surveyed report feelings of loneliness.

۵۸ درصد از مادرانی که ﻣﻮرد نظرسنجي ﻗﺮار ﮔﺮﻓﺘند احساسات تنهایی را گزارش كرده‌اند.

en-fa

Of those, 67 percent are most lonely when their kids are zero to five -- probably really zero to two.

Parmi elles, 67% se sentent plus seules quand leurs enfants sont âgés de 0 à 5 ans -- probablement vraiment entre 0 et 2 ans.

en-fr

In the process of preparing this, we looked at how some other cultures around the world deal with this period of time, because here in the Western world, less than 50 percent of us live near our family members, which I think is part of why this is such a tough period.

No processo de prepararmos isso, olhamos como algumas outras culturas do mundo lidam com esse período, porque aqui no mundo Ocidental, menos de 50% de nós vivem próximo a membros da família, e é em parte por isso que penso que este é um período tão difícil.

en-pt-br

So to take one example among many: in Southern India there's a practice known as jholabhari, in which the pregnant woman, when she's seven or eight months pregnant, moves in with her mother and goes through a series of rituals and ceremonies, give birth and returns home to her nuclear family several months after the child is born.

Итак, возьмем один из многих примеров. В Южной Индии существует обычай, носящий название холобихари, суть его в том, что женщина на 7-ом или 8-ом месяце беременности переезжает к своей матери и проходит ряд ритуалов и церемоний, рожает ребенка и возвращается домой в свою семью через несколько месяцев после родов.

en-ru

And this is one of many ways that we think other cultures offset this kind of lonely period.

És ez csak az egyike azon lehetőségeknek, amivel más kultúrák, úgy gondoljuk, könnyítenek ezen a magányos időszakon.

en-hu

AV: So taboo number three: you can't talk about your miscarriage -- but today I'll talk about mine.

АВ: Табу број три: не можете разговарати о свом побачају... али ја ћу данас говорити о свом.

en-sr

So after we had Declan, we kind of recalibrated our expectations.

Након што смо добили Деклана, ревидовали смо своја очекивања.

en-sr

We thought we actually could go through this again and thought we knew what we would be up against.

Vlastně jsme si mysleli, že si tím můžeme projít ještě jednou a že víme, proti čemu zde stojíme.

en-cs

And we were grateful that I was able to get pregnant, and I soon learned that we were having a boy, and then when I was five months, we learned that we had lost our child.

Ficámos satisfeitos por eu ter engravidado de novo. Fiquei a saber que íamos ter um menino. Quando eu estava de cinco meses, soubemos que tínhamos perdido o nosso bebé.

en-pt

This is actually the last little image we have of him.

Esta é a última imagem que temos dele.

en-pt

And it was obviously a very difficult time -- really painful.

І очевидно, це був дуже важкий час, справді болісний.

en-uk

As I was working through that mourning process, I was amazed that I didn't want to see anybody.

И док сам пролазила кроз процес жаљења, било ми је невероватно то што нисам желела никога да видим.

en-sr

I really wanted to crawl into a hole, and I didn't really know how I was going to work my way back into my surrounding community.

我只想爬到一个洞穴中去。我不知道我怎样回到自己周围的社群中去。

en-zh-cn

And I realize, I think, the way I was feeling that way, is on a really deep gut level, I was feeling a lot of shame and embarrassed, frankly, that, in some respects, I had failed at delivering what I'm genetically engineered to do.

Şi mi-am dat seama, cred, modul în care mă simţeam aşa, e pe un nivel foarte profund, simţeam multă ruşine -- jenată, să fiu sinceră -- că, într-un fel, nu am reuşit să fac ce sunt construită genetic să fac.

en-ro

And of course, it made me question, if I wasn't able to have another child, what would that mean for my marriage, and just me as a woman.

当然，这使我也疑惑如果我不能再生孩子，那这对我们的婚姻意味着什么，我怎样才算一个合格的女人。

en-zh-cn

So it was a very difficult time.

Vì vậy đây là một giai đoạn hết sức khó khăn.

en-vi

As I started working through it more, I started climbing out of that hole and talking with other people.

Като започнах да работя над него повече, аз започнах да излизам от тази дупка и да говоря с други хора.

en-bg

I was really amazed by all the stories that started flooding in.

És tényleg megleptek azok a történetek, amikkel elárasztottak.

en-hu

People I interacted with daily, worked with, was friends with, family members that I had known a long time, had never shared with me their own stories.

Daha önce her gün konuştuğum, birlikte çalıştığım, arkadaşım olan insanlar aile fertleri ve uzun zamandır tanıdığım kimseler benimle kendi deneyimlerini hiç paylaşmamıştı.

en-tr

And I just remember feeling all these stories came out of the woodwork, and I felt like I happened upon this secret society of women that I now was a part of, which was reassuring and also really concerning.

我覺得這些故事都是從森林裡走出來的而我感到自己剛好碰到這些秘密的婦女世界, 而我是其中一份子這讓我感到既放心又擔心

en-zh-tw

And I think, miscarriage is an invisible loss.

Και πιστεύω, η αποβολή είναι μια αόρατη απώλεια.

en-el

There's not really a lot of community support around it.

Non ha intorno una grossa parte di comunità che lo supporti.

en-it

There's really no ceremony, rituals, or rites.

Não existe uma cerimônia, rituais, ou ritos de passagem.

en-pt-br

And I think, with a death, you have a funeral, you celebrate the life, and there's a lot of community support, and it's something women don't have with miscarriage.

我想，如果人死，那有葬礼，颂扬一生，会得到很多社区的支持。但是妇女流产不会得到同样的待遇。

en-zh-cn

RG: Which is too bad because, of course, it's a very common and very traumatic experience.

RG: Algo que es muy malo porque, claro, es una experiencia muy común y a la vez muy traumática.

en-es

Fifteen to 20 percent of all pregnancies result in miscarriage, and I find this astounding.

15 до 20 процента от всички бременности свършват със спонтанен аборт. И аз намирам това за невероятно.

en-bg

In a survey, 74 percent of women said that miscarriage, they felt, was partly their fault, which is awful.

U istraživanju, 74 posto žena je reklo kako je pobačaj, prema njihovim osjećajima, dio njihove krivice, što je užasno.

en-hr

And astoundingly, 22 percent said they would hide a miscarriage from their spouse.

I zapanjujuće, 22 posto je reklo kako bi sakrilo pobačaj od svog supružnika.

en-hr

So taboo number four: you can't say that your average happiness has declined since having a child.

И така табу номер четири: не можете да кажете, че вашето усреднено щастие е намаляло, откакто сте имали дете.

en-bg

The party line is that every single aspect of my life has just gotten dramatically better ever since I participated in the miracle that is childbirth and family.

Cocuk sahibi olmanın mucizevi seviyesine erişince hayatımın her alanında çok ama çok daha mutlu oldum demeniz beklenir.

en-tr

I'll never forget, I remember vividly to this day, our first son, Declan, was nine months old, and I was sitting there on the couch, and I was reading Daniel Gilbert's wonderful book, "Stumbling on Happiness."

절대 잊지 못합니다, 저는 지금까지 생생하게 기억합니다. 우리의 첫 아들 데클란이 9개월되었을 때 저는 카우치에 앉아서 Daniel Gilbert의 아주 멋진 책 "행복에 걸려 비틀거리다.

en-ko

And I got about two-thirds of the way through, and there was a chart on the right-hand side -- on the right-hand page -- that we've labeled here "The Most Terrifying Chart Imaginable for a New Parent."

Eu já ia a cerca de dois terços da leitura, e havia um gráfico do lado direito, na página do lado direito, que nós intitulámos aqui "O Gráfico mais Aterrorizador que é possível Imaginar "para Pais pela Primeira Vez".

en-pt

This chart is comprised of four completely independent studies.

Ten wykres powstał na podstawie czterech niezależnych badań.

en-pl

Basically, there's this precipitous drop of marital satisfaction, which is closely aligned, we all know, with broader happiness, that doesn't rise again until your first child goes to college.

简单地说，生孩子后婚姻满意度会徒然下降，这跟广泛意义上幸福感的升降基本一致而这种幸福感一直到你第一个孩子上大学后才会回升。

en-zh-cn

So I'm sitting here looking at the next two decades of my life, this chasm of happiness that we're driving our proverbial convertible straight into.

Siedzę więc tak patrząc na dwie kolejne dekady mojego życia, tę przepaść w szczęściu, do której prostą drogą się kierujemy.

en-pl

We were despondent.

Eravamo demoralizzati.

en-it

AV: So you can imagine, I mean again, the first few months were difficult, but we'd come out of it, and were really shocked to see this study.

AV: Jadi Anda dapat membayangkan, bulan-bulan pertama sangat sulit tapi kami berhasil mengatasinya, dan kami benar-benar terkejut melihat kajian ini.

en-id

So we really wanted to take a deeper look at it in hopes that we would find a silver lining.

Donc nous voulions vraiment y regarder de plus près dans l'espoir de trouver un côté positif.

en-fr

RG: And that's when it's great to be running a website for parents, because we got this incredible reporter to go and interview all the scientists who conducted these four studies.

RG : C'est là qu'il est génial de diriger un site Internet pour les parents, car nous avons obtenu de cette journaliste incroyable qu'elle aille interviewer tous les scientifiques qui ont mené ces quatre recherches.

en-fr

We said, something is wrong here.

وتمان شتێک هەڵەیە لێرە

en-ku

There's something missing from these studies.

Il manque quelque chose à ces recherches.

en-fr

It can't possibly be that bad.

Не можеше да бъде толкова зле.

en-bg

So Liz Mitchell did a wonderful job with this piece, and she interviewed four scientists, and she also interviewed Daniel Gilbert, and we did indeed find a silver lining.

Така че Лиз Мичъл свърши чудесна работа. И тя интервюира четирите учени, и тя също така интервюира Даниел Гилбърт. И ние наистина намерихме нещо добро.

en-bg

So this is our guess as to what this baseline of average happiness arguably looks like throughout life.

Tehát a mi tippünk a következő: hihetőnek tűnik az átlagboldogság vonala.

en-hu

Average happiness is, of course, inadequate, because it doesn't speak to the moment-by-moment experience, and so this is what we think it looks like when you layer in moment-to-moment experience.

Prosječna sreća je, naravno, neprikladna, jer ne govori o iskustvu trenutka. I mislimo da izgleda ovako kada stavite sloj iskustva pojedinog trenutka.

en-hr

And so we all remember as children, the tiniest little thing -- and we see it on the faces of our children -- the teeniest little thing can just rocket them to these heights of just utter adulation, and then the next teeniest little thing can cause them just to plummet to the depths of despair.

好像我們都記得當我們是小孩的時候那些最微小的事--我們都在小孩臉上看過的那些小事可以把快樂吹噓到很高的水平接著另一件很小的事也可以帶動到最深刻的沮喪和困境

en-zh-tw

And it's just extraordinary to watch, and we remember it ourselves.

Nadzwyczajnie się to obserwuje, i sami też to pamiętamy.

en-pl

And then, of course, as you get older, it's almost like age is a form of lithium.

Lalu, tentu saja, saat Anda bertambah tua, usia hampir menyerupai litium.

en-id

As you get older, you become more stable.

だんだんと安定してきます

en-ja

And part of what happens, I think, in your '20s and '30s, is you start to learn to hedge your happiness.

當你還是二十或是三十的時候, 你開始懂得去對沖你的快樂

en-zh-tw

You start to realize that "Hey, I could go to this live music event and have an utterly transforming experience that will cover my entire body with goosebumps, but it's more likely that I'll feel claustrophobic and I won't be able to get a beer.

Bạn bắt đầu nhận ra rằng "Này, mình có thể đi xem buổi trình diễn ca nhạc trực tiếp này và có một trải nghiệm hoàn toàn mới mẻ có thể khiến cả người mình nổi da gà, nhưng có vẻ mình sẽ cảm thấy bị ngột ngạt và mình sẽ không thể uống bia.

en-vi

So I'm not going to go.

그래서 나는 가지 않을꺼야.

en-ko

I've got a good stereo at home. So, I'm not going to go."

وأنا أملك جهاز ستريو رائع في منزلي .. نعم لن أذهب "

en-ar

So your average happiness goes up, but you lose those transcendent moments.

そうして幸福の水準は上がるものの瞬間的なすばらしい経験は逃すのです

en-ja

AV: Yeah, and then you have your first child, and then you really resubmit yourself to these highs and lows -- the highs being the first steps, the first smile, your child reading to you for the first time -- the lows being, our house, any time from six to seven every night.

AV: Da, i zatim dobijete svoje prvo dijete. I zatim ponovno predajete sebe tim usponima i padovima -- usponi koji su prvi koraci, prvi osmijeh, kada vaše dijete čita po prvi puta -- padovi su naša kuća bilo kada između šest i sedam svake večeri.

en-hr

But you realize you resubmit yourself to losing control in a really wonderful way, which we think provides a lot of meaning to our lives and is quite gratifying.

אבל את יודעת שאת חוזרת לאבד שליטה בדרך נפלאה, שלדעתנו נותנת המון משמעות לחיינו והיא די מספקת.

en-he

RG: And so in effect, we trade average happiness.

روفِس: در اصل ما خوشحالي معمولی و متوسط را معاوضه میکنیم.

en-fa

We trade the sort of security and safety of a certain level of contentment for these transcendent moments.

Cambiamos la protección y seguridad de un cierto nivel de satisfacción por estos momentos trascendentes.

en-es

So where does that leave the two of us as a family with our three little boys in the thick of all this?

Тож де це залишає нас двох з сім`єю з наших трьох малих хлопчаків на тлі всього цього?

en-uk

There's another factor in our case.

もう一つ要素があります

en-ja

We have violated yet another taboo in our own lives, and this is a bonus taboo.

Violamos ainda um outro tabu em nossas vidas. E este é um tabu bônus.

en-pt-br

AV: A quick bonus taboo for you, that we should not be working together, especially with three children -- and we are.

AV: Un tabu bonus rapid pentru voi, că nu ar trebui să lucrăm împreună, în mod special cu trei copii -- şi facem asta.

en-ro

RG: And we had reservations about this on the front end.

روفوس جريسكوم : وكان لدينا تحفظات فيما يخص هذا الامر في البداية

en-ar

Everybody knows, you should absolutely not work with your spouse.

Todo el mundo sabe que no debe trabajar con la esposa.

en-es

In fact, when we first went out to raise money to start Babble, the venture capitalists said, "We categorically don't invest in companies founded by husbands and wives, because there's an extra point of failure.

Valóban, amikor először mentünk pénzt szerezni a Babble-hoz, a befektető azt mondta, "Semmiképp nem fektetünk be olyan cégekbe, amit férj és feleség közösen alapít, mert az külön kockázatot jelent.

en-hu

It's a bad idea. Don't do it."

Rossz ötlet. Ne csinálják!"

en-hu

And we obviously went forward. We did.

Şi în mod evident am făcut-o.

en-ro

We raised the money, and we're thrilled that we did, because in this phase of one's life, the incredibly scarce resource is time.

我们募集到了资金，我们特别高兴，因为在人生的这个阶段中，最宝贵的财富是时间。

en-zh-cn

And if you're really passionate about what you do every day -- which we are -- and you're also passionate about your relationship, this is the only way we know how to do it.

Als je een passie hebt voor wat je elke dag doet -- zoals wij -- en ook voor je relatie, dan is dit volgens ons de enig mogelijke manier.

en-nl

And so the final question that we would ask is: can we collectively bend that happiness chart upwards?

Отже, остаточне питання буде таке: чи можемо ми гуртом вигнути цей графік щастя догори?

en-uk

It's great that we have these transcendent moments of joy, but they're sometimes pretty quick.

我們都有一個特別的快樂時刻, 這是很好的但這些時刻可能過得很快

en-zh-tw

And so how about that average baseline of happiness?

De mi van az boldogság átlagának vonalával?

en-hu

Can we move that up a little bit?

Можем мы как-то приподнять её?

en-ru

AV: And we kind of feel that the happiness gap, which we talked about, is really the result of walking into parenting -- and really any long-term partnership for that matter -- with the wrong expectations.

AV: Và chúng tôi có cảm giác rằng, khoảng cách hạnh phúc, mà chúng tôi nói tới, thực sự là kết quả của việc bắt đầu làm cha mẹ, và bước vào bất kỳ một mối quan hệ lâu dài nào để đi đến điều đó -- với những kỳ vọng sai lầm.

en-vi

And if you have the right expectations and expectation management, we feel like it's going to be a pretty gratifying experience.

Şi dacă ai aşteptările corecte şi controlul aşteptărilor, credem că va fi o experienţă destul de mulţumitoare.

en-ro

RG: And so this is what -- And we think that a lot of parents, when you get in there -- in our case anyway -- you pack your bags for a trip to Europe, and you're really excited to go.

RG: I to właśnie - I sądzimy, że wielu rodziców, gdy dociera do tego punktu - przynajmniej w naszym przypadku - pakuje walizki na podróż do Europy, i jest podniecona wyjazdem.

en-pl

Get out of the airplane, it turns out you're trekking in Nepal.

Тоді вони виходять з літака, і виявляється, що це буде гірський туризм у Непалі.

en-uk

And trekking in Nepal is an extraordinary experience, particularly if you pack your bags properly and you know what you're getting in for and you're psyched.

A treking w Nepalu może być wyjątkowym doświadczeniem, zwłaszcza jeśli odpowiednio się na niego spakuje i wie się, na co się wybiera i odpowiednio przygotuje psychicznie.

en-pl

So the point of all this for us today is not just hopefully honesty for the sake of honesty, but a hope that by being more honest and candid about these experiences, that we can all collectively bend that happiness baseline up a little bit.

אז הנקודה העיקרית עבורנו היא לא רק להיות כן למען הכנות, אלה התקוה שאם נהיה יותר כנים לגבי החויות האלה, כולנו נוכל לכופף את עקומת האושר הממוצע מעט למעלה.

en-he

RG + AV: Thank you.

RG + AV: Grazie.

en-it

I work on helping computers communicate about the world around us.

Eu trabalho ajudando os computadores a falar sobre o mundo ao nosso redor.

en-pt-br

There are a lot of ways to do this, and I like to focus on helping computers to talk about what they see and understand.

是有很多方法可以做到这一点，我喜欢专注于协助电脑去谈论它们看到和理解的内容。

en-zh-cn

Given a scene like this, a modern computer-vision algorithm can tell you that there's a woman and there's a dog.

In een scène als deze kan een modern computer-visie-algoritme je vertellen dat er een vrouw en een hond is te zien.

en-nl

It can tell you that the woman is smiling.

Он может сказать, что женщина улыбается.

en-ru

It might even be able to tell you that the dog is incredibly cute.

Он даже способен сказать, что собака необыкновенно милая.

en-ru

I work on this problem thinking about how humans understand and process the world.

Yo trabajo en este problema pensando en cómo los humanos entienden y procesan el mundo.

en-es

The thoughts, memories and stories that a scene like this might evoke for humans.

Какие мысли, воспоминания и истории может пробуждать в людях такая вот картинка.

en-ru

All the interconnections of related situations.

相關情況的所有相互連結。

en-zh-tw

Maybe you've seen a dog like this one before, or you've spent time running on a beach like this one, and that further evokes thoughts and memories of a past vacation, past times to the beach, times spent running around with other dogs.

여러분은 이런 개를 본적이 있거나 개와 함께 해변을 달렸을 수도 있죠. 이러한 생각은 이전 휴가의 기억을 떠오르게 합니다. 해변에서 보낸 과거의 기억 개와 달리며 보낸 시간들을요.

en-ko

One of my guiding principles is that by helping computers to understand what it's like to have these experiences, to understand what we share and believe and feel, then we're in a great position to start evolving computer technology in a way that's complementary with our own experiences.

私の基本理念の一つはこのような経験の意味をコンピュータに理解させたり私たちが共有し信じ感じたものを理解させたりすることで私たち自身の経験を補完する方向にコンピュータ技術を進化させるという重要な役割を担うということです

en-ja

So, digging more deeply into this, a few years ago I began working on helping computers to generate human-like stories from sequences of images.

Если копнуть глубже, несколько лет назад я начала помогать компьютерам писать рассказы на основе цепочки изображений.

en-ru

So, one day, I was working with my computer to ask it what it thought about a trip to Australia.

Op een dag vroeg ik mijn computer wat hij dacht over een reis naar Australië.

en-nl

It took a look at the pictures, and it saw a koala.

컴퓨터는 사진들 속에서 코알라를 보았습니다.

en-ko

It didn't know what the koala was, but it said it thought it was an interesting-looking creature.

Δεν ήξερε τι είναι, αλλά είπε πως ήταν ένα πλάσμα με ενδιαφέρουσα εμφάνιση.

en-el

Then I shared with it a sequence of images about a house burning down.

그후 불타고 있는 집의 이미지를 보여주었습니다.

en-ko

It took a look at the images and it said, "This is an amazing view! This is spectacular!"

它看了那些圖片，說：「這是好棒的景色！這好壯觀！」

en-zh-tw

It sent chills down my spine.

Мені стало моторошно.

en-uk

It saw a horrible, life-changing and life-destroying event and thought it was something positive.

حادثه ای ویرانگر، سرنوشت ساز و هولناک را دید و فکر کرد چیز مثبتی است.

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