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t3_tv1z3 | AskReddit | Help buying plane tickets! Time-sensitive, but tight-cashed to boot! | Hey /r/askreddit , I've got an issue buying plane tickets.
So I was watching the prices dip and doge all over the place with about a month to go and Bing telling me to wait a bit (With 67% certianty) that prices -could- drop.
Well, I placed a bad bet and now they're expensive and it would break my budget I set for the trip. I can still afford it, but I don't want to go over-budget and be irresponsible about this.
Doing some more digging, I found out about Priceline's 'Name your own Price' feature - which can get you shitty flights that get you where you need to go for pretty cheap. Awesome! Flight I need at a price in-budget, what could go wrong?
The timing. That's what.
It's for my wife's birthday, and I have the time off for the day of, and a few days after. Flights I were looking at would leave after I got off work - and have me there by midnight at the latest.
Well, Priceline's feature clearly guides you in saying that - "At best, you can pick the day you want to leave, but for the best deal keep at least 24 hours flexible."
I would pick Saturday, because I have the day already off - but if the flight is too late in the evening I'll miss her birthday altogether!
However, if I pick Friday, and the flight is too early, I'll miss work and upset my boss(es)!
A co-worker suggested, that I "miss" my flight if it's too early and go on Standby, hoping that a later flight (That I could make after work) will have seats to take me along.
Now, this will all depend on the Airline's Standby policy (and I won't know what airline I'm on until *after* the tickets are bought) but its' worth thinking about if it can save me a few hundred bucks.
All in all, I'm pretty sure I'm screwed - but I'm not a frequent enough traveler to know all the ins and outs. | I'm looking to fly on the cheap, last minute, with a tight budget and an inflexible schedule. What are some of the things I can do to make it happen? |
t3_3mkbz5 | tifu | TIFU by wanting to take a nap | Okay, so this happened yesterday but I'm still feeling it today.
I'm a fresher at uni, living in halls. So we all have our separate rooms and share just the kitchen, this kitchen becomes the social hub n whatnot.
So yesterday afternoon I come back to my hall from a book club meeting to find two of my flat mates asleep in the kitchen. I say hi, grab a drink and sit down at the centre table.
For some reason, the sound of people sleeping also made want to sleep, I feel asleep on the table. I wake up thinking 'why nap on the table when I can nap on my bed'
I get up, my leg is dead but fuck it my room isn't far away. I walk two paces and my dead ankle gives way, I fall and my flat mates wake up pissing themselves laughing.
Turns out I fell funny, sprained my foot and now limp everywhere. Flat mates now call me peg leg. | fell asleep in my kitchen, leg fell asleep, tried to get to bed, fell and sprained my foot. Fuck. |
t3_3ya4mw | relationships | Me [28 M] with my GF [28 F] - Girlfriends guy friend , I'm just being jealous? | New to the forum but stumbled upon it when looking for some advice. I've been with a girl for over 2 years now, met at work and I absolutely love her. We spent 2 years having fun, going out, adventures etc but due to personal issues the relationship has been kept a secret and no one officially knows we're together. Heres the issue, recently shes been hanging out with her guy friend and another girl.
The guy wants her bad and has previously asked her out and tried it on with her but she said no at the time and they stopped talking for a while but recently they've been hanging out as a 3 a lot and posting pictures etc. It never bothered me initially but now I feel she spends more time with them then she does with me, it's getting a lot worse as I hsve my suspicions she cancels on me to meet up with them. The guy clearly likes her, she says she doesn't like him. I've told her I don't like him ( i know him too). I've not told her she can't be friends with him but I feel like it's really getting to me and I'm getting very jealous and angry.
She also mentioned that shes going on holiday soon but said it was with family, I have a suspicion shes lying and will tell me closer to the time that shes going with them.
I'm not sure if i'm overreacting as i've always been insecure with myself and think it may be this contributing too. | What do i do ? . |
t3_129x3p | AskReddit | Reddit, when have you made a decision to try and save money and it ended up costing more money than it would have and a lot of time instead? | So I'm sitting in the airport now. I have been since yesterday (Sunday) morning (it's about 1000 EST on Monday now).
Here's the story: I'm a poor (former) college student applying to get into medical school and between application costs (absurd) and flights to interviews (required and very, very costly), I'm super-duper poor. No, I'm not one of those 99%-ers that went to a private school majoring in underwater basketweaving (I actually majored in physics). Anyway, I happen to have a friend who works for an airport in my hometown and he is able to get people "buddy passes" for a reduced rate. The catch is that you have to fly standby. I was extremely skeptical but through his reassurance, the fact that there were 45 empty seats, and it would cut my flight cost in half, I decided to go with it.
Well, Hurricane Sandy strolls in and there's a ton of flights going to my same destination except having a connection through a different city all get cancelled and moved. So now there's twice as many people trying to get on flights to my destination, and since I'm flying standby I have the absolute lowest priority out of anyone in the airport.
So now I'm sitting here, still sitting here, since yesterday. Luckily I was able to stay with some family friends last night, but the fuel cost for driving there (30-45 minutes away) and food costs, I've already spent more money than if I would've gotten a guaranteed flight. I also am supposed to work M-F so add that lost income (and possible discipline for not coming to work) to the cost.
**Current Status:** There's an overbooked flight at 1430 EST and another at 1900 EST that I'm sure I won't get on. I've been turned away from 6 flights between yesterday and today and have been here since 0400. Have been browsing reddit and doing a little research but thought I'd try and get a discussion started on here to pass the time. | I tried to save some money on a flight, instead am having a bad time. |
t3_4i40yq | Advice | Quit my job now. Or just wait until my actual completion of work? | So basically I am a Part-Time Sailor, within the Canadian Armed Forces. I am expected to do a bunch of training, before I go to my courses this summer. I was already planning on leaving my low paying stress inducing, civilian restaurant job, but in my Notice to my current employer, I had chosen to be done in three weeks, so May 25th. but tonight I found out some kind of crappy news, my training has been changed from part-time to full-time training, until I have completed everything required for my summer course, otherwise if it isn't completed within a certain time frame, I cannot go this summer. So in order to compensate for the full-time training, and the requirements from my unit, it would be best for me to move my leaving date from May 25th, to May 6th... But the only way I can get to my unit requires about $60 a day, and because of this if I were to quit my job, I will run low on money real quick.. I get paid semi monthly, and get 10 days of back pay which is $900.... So that would cover me a little bit.............. But I don't know what to do! | Need to do full-time training with my unit, but I have a full-time minimum wage job, that I require to keep in order to get to my unit, but I can't leave for training this summer if I don't finish my training. |
t3_54z3sl | relationships | Me [16 M] with my classmate [17 F] How should I get to know her | There is a girl in the grade above me who I've liked since 7th grade, but only had a huge band class with her, I've had little contact with her, but know her a little bit.
This year I have two classes with her, including on with 6 people, and she's laughed at a couple of my jokes. Today she came up and talked to me and my friends in a class and I completely blew it, I could of talked about a trip she just came back from but I just made an ass of myself.
I'd like to date her but I want to get to know her first. Should I DM her on Insta, or should I walk up and talk to her | I've known a girl for a long time, but never really been in contact, I just fucked up a conversation, should I try and talk to her in person, or DM in Instagram. |
t3_qmzxq | AskReddit | What's the most memorable day you've ever had? I'll start | 7/25/2011 was easily the most memorable day I've ever had. That was the day of my best friends funeral, so there I was sleep deprived and crying my eyes out. After the funeral I head to the burial, but nope wasn't that simple, as this huge mass of people were about to leave the church my dumbass backs into someones car, I blame it on being tired, but my friends blame it on me being Asian. Oh it gets worst, if that wasn't bad enough the car I backed into was my dead best friends PARENTS car. I felt so bad, I can't even put into words how bad of a feeling that was. I end up riding with them to the burial and that was some more crying. After all of this was all over me and my friends were planned to hang out later that night. So I go out to lunch. I went to a Thai place, the food was good but my waitress was really cute, after a little flirting and some good food I'm about to take off. Before I got out of the parking lot her sister runs out knocks on my car and ask "Hay, my sister want's to know if she could have your phone number" of course I agree, I mean I like boobs and smuff, so that wasn't so bad. But long story short, that she, turned out to really be a he. So, that' was my day, what's yours? | Best Friend's Funeral, Crash car, Got trap's phone number. |
t3_4umuy6 | relationships | My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F) are about to begin a 2 year long distance period. Any tips on this transition? | My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now, since the beginning of college (we graduated in May). My boyfriend is a skilled programmer and got a job in silicon valley. I'm about to start in a pretty small graduate program, and while I applied to schools near him, I didn't get into any of them. I'll be living in Oklahoma.
My program is 2 years, which means we'll be long distance for that duration. My fiance's family lives in Missouri, so I know he'll want to spend Christmas and other such holidays with them. I also know that his job is going to be insanely busy.
So far we plan to visit at least twice per year (once for my birthday and once for anniversary) and I don't know if more visits than that is reasonable considering my lack of funds and his lack of time. We also know that daily contact may be a lot to deal with, so we were planning on weekly calls and casual texts on a daily basis.
Are we going about this the right way? Is there anything else we need to know about embarking on a long distance journey? | About to start LDR with long-term boyfriend, any tips? Is our plan a good one? |
t3_2rsust | Advice | I keep getting harassing letters and cards from somebody anonymous on the other side of the country. | This all started about a month ago and a half ago, just after Thanksgiving. The first time, it was just a typed letter talking shit about me basically, and it was postmarked from South Jersey (I don't know anyone out there!). The second time was a card on my birthday, this time it was just a plain blank red card with 'happy birthday bitch' typed out on printer paper, then cut out and taped on the card. Today I got another card, from the same place, except this time it was a UNICEF New Year's card with a pop-up dove and the word 'cunt' typed on a printed label sticker and placed under the dove.
I have no idea who's sending these to me. My address is completely unlisted, and my last name is incredibly uncommon, so it's really unlikely that this is a mistake-not to mention my first name is spelled differently than most people with my name. I couldn't care less about the content of the letter and cards, but the fact that somebody somewhere has my address and is harassing me like this makes me uncomfortable. Is there anyway to stop this? | Some asshole is basically stalking me via snailmail and I want to know if I can do anything to stop it. |
t3_1n99s7 | dating_advice | I keep choking when I see this girl I want to ask out. | Throw away
There's this drop dead gorgeous brunette that works at a local bank, that I go to for work a couple times a week. We smile and chat with each other here and there, when I pull up to the drive up window, but its only a few minutes here and there.
Im always choking after I get my stuff back, and wind up driving away angry at myself. Every.Single.Time.
she gives me my receipts back, tells me to have a nice day and walks away, I feel awkward trying to get her attention to ask her, and keep trying to find that moment where it can fit in at the right time. The days where I do go, all confident that Im going to, theres always something, like other customers so I have to deal with someone else, or she starts to help and then someone else comes in to finish because the phone rings.
I sit there , reciting over in my head "hey, would you be interested in grabbing a drink one day after work?" Or anything else similar, then its just Here ya go, have a nice day SpewedFood, and I say thanks you too and leave, and then get around the corner and call myself a pussy.
And then I feel awkward to turn around and go back there just for the main purpose of asking. or to go there if I dont have a reason to go to the bank | havent asked a girl out in years, theres this pretty girl at my bank, but too pussy to ask her out after many attempts, and keep choking, fuck me right.. |
t3_2odczd | Advice | Simple stuff: Should I have stayed at school with this girl today? | So for some context, I'm 17 and today I had to got to sixth form for the last period of the day. I head to class and I find out it's been called off because of some confusion which lead to most students heading home thinking no class was on. Well apart from me and a girl I'll call Emma here.
We both had an essay to complete in class, and the class being cancelled was a lifesaver as I hadn't revised for the essay. She's a bit miffed now because she can't go home yet as she has rehearsals in an hour. I've known her for a long time but we've been nothing more than casual friends.
Anyways, I get ready to head home again and we walk together back to the common room so I can I sign out and leave. As we're walking back I joke about school and work and she's obviously enjoying the conversation. We reach the common room and turns out it's bloody empty as everybody else is either at home or in their last lesson.
As I'm signing out she reminds she has nothing to do for an hour and asks if I've got any ideas. I don't have anything to do for an hour apart from sit in a shite London commute, but it doesn't occur to me that maybe she wants to sit and talk more.
Instead I just say "right, I'm off, see you." She responds with "*Oh,* err... bye?"
Only as I'm walking alone in the pouring rain, to catch the bus and do fuck all for 40 minutes do I realise that maybe I could have used that hour with her. Clearly we had a lot to talk about, I could have even asked her to go through some of the work for the essay we had to do for the cancelled class - or we could have just continued chatting.
I'm home now, and she probably just spent the last hour completely alone in the common room waiting for her rehearsals. My question is, **am I an idiot for not staying and talking with her today? | Girl has nothing to do for an hour but is obviously interested in hanging around with me; oblivious me says goodbye and heads home. Am I an idiot? |
t3_43t0d6 | relationships | Me [20 F] with my boyfriend[20 M] 3 years, emotionally cheating on me | My boyfriend has been emotionally cheating on me with a girl he kissed when we were on break a year ago. They text all the time and she admitted he had feelings for him. He's told there's nothing going on but she sent me the texts and he sends her stuff like "i wish she were you", "When you text me I'm more excited than when my girlfriend texts me", "I think about you all the time", etc....
I know they could be fakes but it was his number. I feel like an idiot and I know I have to dump him.
I just don't know how to break up with him. How can I deal with losing this important person in my life and being alone?
He just doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would do this. He's always been supportive and attentive and loving.
I don't know how to be without him. | Mandatory summary/question! |
t3_3dn9su | relationships | [Advice] Fiancé wants to stop having sex four months out from the wedding (kinda) | So my (M28) fiancé (F25) told me two nights ago that although she loves our sex (which does not involve PIV. We're both virgins) she has been feeling guilty about anything that makes her orgasm. She is excited for our sex after marriage, and up until this point she's been wonderfully adventurous and engaged even though she has a lower libido than me.
She's offered to still give me oral and do whatever I still need, but she's off limits. To me, I don't enjoy sex when it's solely about me, so basically we're not going to have any sexual contact for four months.
She really wants me to stop looking at porn too, and I've been onboard giving it up for my own personal reasons, but it seems like the next few months are going to be really rough now.
I guess my only real question is if anyone has been in a similar situation? How they handled going without sex when you have an incredibly attractive SO sleeping next to you and constantly turning you on. How can I stop from blaming her when I want to support a decision that's important to her?
I don't need any advice about dumping her. I don't think we're going to have a sexless marriage based on our sexual activity up to this point. We're both pretty experienced sexually in everything outside of PIV and have had multiple partners. | SO wants to stop having sex before we're married in four months. I'm struggling with the idea, but don't want to change her mind. |
t3_3uidc7 | tifu | TIFU by installing a prank script on the school computer | Unlike most TIFUs this actually happened today. It's not that big of a fuck up but I'm getting into some trouble because of it.
Well today I sat in my computer science doing some boring assignment. I got the genius idea of writing a script I saw a while back on my mates computer while he was at the toilet that would open and close his CD drive every few minutes. Seems like a harmless prank right? Oh boy was I wrong.
Well I first wanted to try it on my own computer. So I quickly wrote the script, saved the file as a .vbs and tried it, knowing that I can stop it at anytime. Turns out our school blocks all kind of .vbs files from being run and so it didnt even start so I went on with my assignment and ignored it.
A few hours later I got an e-Mail from my computer science class teacher and the IT-Department, saying that they found a virus, installed by me, on the school network that's causing them trouble and sending warning e-mails to them every 30 minutes.
Guess what, the script did work but was unaccessable for me on my computer since I don't have the rights for it and it keeps on running every 30 minutes. Since my IT department is somewhat incompetent they couldn't figure out how to stop it and now I'm getting a ton of shit for it.
Worst thing is that I the involved teacher probaly hates me now and he is responsible for the grades of three of my main subjects. | Wrote a script as a prank at school. Whole school network is fucked because of it. |
t3_3qdfh0 | relationships | Me [25 M/F] with my SO [25 M/F] 2 years | We have a good relationship. This is really just about me and my feelings. I am mostly okay, but generally may feel mildly insecure about myself overall (not about the relationship). I also suffer anxiety about things as well. I don't think I have anything to worry about with my relationship, other than worrying that these things will eventually get on their nerves and they won't want to deal with it anymore.
Sometimes I feel jealous of their past relationships with their exes who are still friends. I definitely have nothing to worry about, but can't help the mild jealousy at the thought of them loving someone who is not me, even if it was before we met. I can't help but compare myself to them, who are all attractive and more than likely in better mental health than I am. I never tell my SO about these feelings, as I feel like it's my own shit to deal with and get over. So, how do I stop doing this to myself and get over it? | Sometimes feel jealous of SO's past relationships, even though there's no need to. Also feel generally insecure and comparing myself doesn't help. How do I get over these feelings by myself? |
t3_3x7nze | personalfinance | PSA: Magazine Renewal Cancellation Scam | I got a phone call a couple of weeks ago. The caller initially asked if I was still getting my magazines OK, "because some people in your area have reported missing magazines." I get a few free magazines thanks to Mercury Magazines and the like, so I said I didn't notice any disruptions. They then asked if the address they had was still good, but I didn't know which address and wasn't going to voulnteer one. They then asked me a "survey" question as to whether I preferred Visa, MasterCard, or Discover (you'll see why later). Finally, they asked me if I still wanted the auto-renewal program (and I've not paid for a magazine in about a decade, so this was a big red flag) and I said no. They "transferred me to a supervisor" who first asked if the previous representative had been courteous. She said "The credit card we have on file is a Visa starting with the number 4, and it shows as still active. Can I have the expiration date to verify you?"
Since Visa always starts with the number 4, and I answered "Visa" to the "survey" question, this was kind of a dead giveaway, so I asked them to authenticate: what magazines was I receiving ("we can't tell you for privacy, but there are 4 magazines") [Which was too many]. Then I said "you obviously don't know anything, so why should I give you my credit card number." She said "how can you say I don't know anything when I have your" and rattled off my "email address" (I use fake ones for junk signups, which she somehow had gotten) and my mailing address (the one I haven't used for 18 months). At this point I'm sure it's a scam, but I should have dragged her out further to waste her time. | Anyways, if you get a phone call asking for your credit card number, be sure to figure out how to call back the known entity that you do business with, and not some anonymous person who just called you. Be especially wary about giving out information, so you can use their (lack of) knowledge to disarm them. |
t3_1evexk | relationship_advice | I F[21] went on 5 good dates with a guy M[24] and then he stopped texting me for over a month. Now he just texted me again and I'm confused. | Went on about 5 good dates with a guy a while ago. The last Time I saw him was over a month ago and he said he really enjoyed spending time with me and wanted to keep seeing me. Then He wouldn't text. I texted him a couple times and he would always respond but wouldn't text me first. A few weeks ago he texted me at night and said he saw me at the bar. I told him I didn't see him, He asked how my night was and I didn't respond. So today he texts me Asking how I am and apologizing for falling off the face of the earth. Should I even bother to respond? why is he texting me now? | Guy stopped texting me for a month and randomly texts me asking how I am and apologizing for falling off the face of the earth. Should I even respond? Why is he texting me now? |
t3_1cgbab | relationships | Im confused over my [20m] relationship with my 'best friend' [20f] who Ive known for 3 years | I say 'best friend' because I consider her my best friend but I dont know if its mutual. We dont really have the same circle of friends so when we hang out its usually just the two of us. But I met her at a party about two weeks ago and she was rather drunk and she was going on about how she loved me and how I was her best friend. Now I didnt take it too seriously because she was drunk but when I texted her the next morning to see if she was alright she signed the text off with 'I love you best friend' so maybe she was serious. The thing that confuses me though is that I feel like Im always the one initiating the texting/hanging out. Im always asking her to meet me for coffee etc. So I feel Im not really very high up on her list when shes looking for someone to meet. The other thing is when we do hang out she is usually is texting someone else, its not annoying and I dont find it rude. Its more that she texts someone and I never seem to get any texts from her.
Am I being super needy, because sometimes I feel that I am. I try give her space but then Im worried about losing her. I just dont know how to balance it. | Im [20m] supposedly best friends with a girl [20f] who doesn't seem to take must interest in maintaining our relationship or put the effort in. |
t3_mu00k | AskReddit | I summon the power of Reddit! | Okay full story.
I went to school at the art institute for 3 years, couldn't complete because I couldn't get approved for anymore loans. I went to school for advertising, because its something that I looovvvee to do. I get really excited about solving peoples creative problems and it makes me feel good about myself when I can accomplish it. But since I don't have a degree and since there's lots if competition where I live I could never find a job and I became a sad panda. Fast forward to now. Trying to create a company win a couple of friends, on the side. I have typical forty hour job, whose income I use to pay off debt I built in college. I am using a laptop that groans when I break open my Adobe software, making work less then enjoyable and timetaking, something I don't have a lot of. I stumbled on a website that will give me a new iMac if I refer 1200 people over. It's free, non spamming, and simple to register, its called "nomorerack." If you use this link they will count it as a referral and will give me the desktop to help me accomplish my dream job. I know this will Prolly get buried, and those that read will prolly chalk it up to spam, but I'm real, and I figure if its possible, its possible on reddit. Anyway, thank you for your time! RIP Patrice o Neal. | if I refer 1200 people to register at a website they will send out an iMac that I can use for my startup graphic design biz. The link is |
t3_24u6ag | relationships | [Break up] I [21m] broke up with SO [21f] of two years because of long distance. How do I cope? | Hey reddit. I broke up with my SO of two years because of long distance. I moved to college 4 months ago and she is still back at home. We were able to keep the relationship strong but I don't want to continue a long distance relationship for the next two years.
It really sucks only being able to see her once every 2-4 months. If I still lived near her then I'm sure we would still be together. I don't like communicating only through phone and texting, I need somebody to be physically with me.
I felt so bad for breaking up with her and she was so upset because it was an abrupt breakup. She was screaming and crying on the phone and it was just awful for me to hear that :/.
I'm trying to fight my feelings for her so I can continue to pursue my life in college. I want to see where my life takes me on this new journey of mine, but every once in awhile I literally feel broken hearted that I'm not with her anymore. I'm even the one that broke up with her and here I am being the person feeling hurt.
I really feel like this is the right thing to do in the long run. We are both 21 years old living 7 or so hours away apart. I want to see where my journey in life takes me on my own, I have so much potential that I want to pursue. But sometimes I feel like I made a mistake... I didn't make a mistake though this had to happen but it hurts so much sometimes :/ | Broke up with my significant other of 2 years because of long distance. I need positive ways to cope. |
t3_18mcde | dating_advice | I (22m) need help decoding her (22f) strange behaviour | So 1st date we just went for drinks, which followed into beers and music on the beach and skinny dipping. I quote "best date ever" from her. I agreed, it was amazing. But she's been progressively colder (less physical contact, weak text replies etc) since this best date ever, we've had about 5 dates since including me cooking her dinner, movies, general hanging out. Now she pretty much isn't speaking to me and has flaked on our past 3 plans. I cant think of anything specific I've done wrong so im pretty confused. I'd like to at least know what's doing so I can act accordingly.
in 2 weeks I'm flying off to Europe (for 3 months), she's known this from day 1, she's even helped me in planning etc. I was going to offer exclusivity while I'm there the next time I saw her, but as I mentioned, she's been bailing on our plans. my question is: how likely is it she's just trying to not get too attached to me? or is she just off me altogether? and why wont she tell me? | things were going swimmingly with (what I perceived to be) the girl of my dreams, now she's being incredibly distant. Is it because of my planned holiday? Or is she just off me? |
t3_4x6zai | relationships | Did I [24 M] forgive my now ex [22 F] too quickly? | My ex and I dated for about almost 2 years now. Recently found out that she cheated on me, but she told me the next day.
I was very upset but i collected my feelings and we had a long talk, she still wanted to be with me but i didnt and i still dont. I told her i would like to just move on from this and her and to try not to contact me.
I ended up calling her the next morning after the breakup to forgive her about cheating on me.
I wanted to forgive her because it will help me move on and i dont want her to feel as bad so that maybe she can move on from this a little easier.
But now idk if i shouldve forgave her so quickly. regardless i will not be going back to her. Im just wondering if its okay to forgive someone so quickly. | GF cheated on me, called the next morning and told her i forgave her. Is that too soon? |
t3_2uzx41 | relationships | Girl (20w) came clear to me(22m) that she has hairloss and is wearing a wig | We ve been dating for almost a month now and its been great we really get a long amazing.
Yesterday when i was over at her place she said "Heyy.. *voice cracking* i have to tell you something. I have hairloss this isnt my real hair.."
It seems to be a big problem for her and i am scared of being just another guy who hurts her...
My response was "Even tho its not that big of a deal for me right now i have to think about this. I dont want to breakup with you a month later because i turned out to be a big deal for me"
We didnt really talk a lot after that. What has been a great evening ended in sadness (no tears). She let myself out and i said goodbye with a kiss.
Now i really dont know what i should do about this. For one part i want to be with her because she makes me happy. On the other part i am scared that her non exsting own hair (it seems to be very very short) is going to bother me a lot.
I am someone who loves great long hair. Her Hair looked fine but its not hers anymore in my eyes.. anyone here with similar experiences that could help me frame a solution? | Girl has no hair. Didnt notice until she told me. Now i dont know if to break up or try. |
t3_1058nj | AskReddit | Science vs Itself. Not interested in science vs creationism, just science vs science. | Hello Reddit,
Long time listener first time caller.
I am looking for suggestions on a topic where scientists are split on a single topic. For Example: Dinosaurs: Global Warming or Meteor. Mitochondrial Eve: Are we descendant from a humanoid subspecies or is their evidence that we have connection to neanderthals.
I am needing a paper topic and so I am wondering what science debates have sparked interest for you Reddit. I am not interested in Science vs Creationism as a topic, I am only interested in one scientific topic based on theories and evidence that are in debate with each other. Not interested in a faith based debate. | What SCIENTIFIC debate are you interested in where both parties have scientific theories and evidence to support their case. |
t3_3gn1uv | relationships | My [22 M] girlfriend [25 F] wants to be friends with guy from a cruise | Me and my girlfriend (who have lived together for over a year) went on a cruise last week. While on the cruise, she met a guy who works on the ship and speaks Russian (he waited on our table). My girlfriend is trying to learn Russian and thought it was a strange coincidence. My girlfriend got his Facebook so she could ask for suggestions on books/moviea.
Later, she asked him to go see a movie on the top deck of the cruise (I was invited). I told her I wasn't comfortable with it. After some arguing, I agreed it was ok, but later he said that his boss would not allow it.
Fast forward to when we get home. She sends him several messages daily, including some personal information. She tells me that she is only his friend, and this is normal. I told her I am uncomfortable with her sending daily messages with someone she only met for 10 minutes.
Recently, she sent him a message that her boyfriend is uncomfortable with the situation, but she wants to continue talking. Apparently, he did not know she had a boyfriend. | My girlfriend met a guy on a cruise ship and wants to maintain daily correspondence with him. |
t3_391ukx | relationships | Me [25 M] with my now Ex [23 F] 11 months, giving her space...went a week NC now she's texted/called past 3 days, how do I handle this? | So 2 weeks ago, we had a talk and she wanted space. She was unsure if I was the man for her future and she was becoming unhappy with things. She thought a break would help her find happiness, and reset our relationship from past issues if we got back together.
She said she needed time, a month or so whatever. I just went with it because I can't change her mind. We said our goodbyes but she quipped "This is just see you later, not goodbye."
Anyway, I decided to do NC for the best chance for me to Move-On and for her to miss me. About 4-5 days in, she checked up on me...I ignored. This led to more contact and missed calls. I wanted to completely ignore, but I felt it would be rude. I responded amicably and short.
That was a Friday, and that night she called/texted after the bars to see me. Stupidly, I let her come over. After that mistake, I told her the next day that can't happen again. Which led to her texting a bunch and calling more. I kept it short.
Sunday, again she checked in with me to which my ignoring got her frustrated to the point of anger. I decided to call her and tell her this can't keep being a daily thing. Although it was hard and emotional, thats where things stand.
What do I make of her behaviour, did I handle it right? Did I resist too much?
p.s. I know having her over Friday night was a mistake. It won't happen again. | Gf broke it off, I did NC, she reached out, I saw her, then told her we can't keep in touch daily. Did I handle it right? How do I go forward from here? |
t3_550cq4 | personalfinance | Questions and Suggestions for Credit Card count and Credit Management | I have some questions as I'm considering some advice from my father about credit and credit score. I've gone through the wiki and while it has confirmed some of the things he has taught me about the topic, I'd like to get a second opinion on the matter of credit card count.
For some basic background, I am rather stable financially, have a solid savings account to handle any kind of emergency, a solid credit score for being in my mid 20's (Mid-high 700's). I carry only one credit card though and it has a relatively low limit from my local credit union. I see the advantage of opening up one as it gives another line to report on long term, but I try to approach things from a practical standpoint. I have my credit card used for only specific things and auto payments set up to pay the balance automatically, and I have not actually needed an additional card because I work hard to make sure that I keep myself in as little debt as possible so from a fiscal standpoint at the moment the issue is to me: I have enough money set aside for emergencies of most kinds that I don't NEED a credit card to handle it, so is it even worth getting a second one?
I'm aware too that I could ask for an increase increase in the limit on my existing card and likely get it with no problem, but then I would want to approach the situation with the mindset of: one card is for general use like I am already doing with specific kinds of purchases, and the other would be there for something bigger, like some large piece of furniture and the like, to which I again cannot forsee anything at the moment where I would want to put down $1000+ on something all at once. | Is it worth it from a credit score standpoint to get a second credit card when there is no immediate or forseeable financial need to have a second line of credit open? |
t3_1q0w6o | relationships | Me [30 F] with my Ex [31 F] 2.5years, I left an abusive relationship and being targeted | I posted on here a few months ago about emials I recieved from friends pointing out my ex is extremely emotional abusive. I've taken care of her for over 2 years and it's nearly ruined me financially and I could never break up with her. The second time I tried she held me and refused to let go screaming and crying. After I broke up with her she managed to isolate me into a single room in the house we share. I have no space I have no room, I got an apartment here soon to move into and I just want all my stuff she's using and to be out of here. To prepair for that I contacted a local domestic abuse shelter looking for advice, that she works at. I emailed the executive director asking for assistance to point me to an agency that could help becuase of the personal implications of my ex working there. I just found out that the Executive director forwarded my Email to my ex and they had a good laugh about it, as well as the ED offering her assitance to get a restraining order on me. I just want my stuff and I want to get out of here. My ex has accused me of abusing her child in the past, and has been a constant liar since the day I met her. I don't know what to do... I don't want to give away all my things so I can get out of this cleaner, but I also don't want the police to get invovled if they're going to work against me. | my emotionally abusive ex works for a domestic violence shelter and I'm being cornered. |
t3_2qz2mz | tifu | TIFU by usurping my friends spot on the couch | not me but my friend fucked up today.
me and 3 of my friends are killing time by watching Netflix while we wait to head downtown for New Years Eve.
basically were all cramped onto a futon while we wait, watching TV. kinda gay I know but no choice.
so my friend gets up to use the bathroom and while he's gone, the 3 of us usurp his spot with our legs.
when he comes back, it being dark in the room, he doesn't see our feet and straight up dives onto the couch.
he straight up threw his balls onto my upright feet and sacked himself.
now that we've all stopped laughing at his misery im posting this here. | look before u jump onto the couch joey. |
t3_33ugkf | tifu | TIFU by really, really needing a vacation | I've been having the last three years from hell, and I haven't been in much of a position to get some release. The stars aligned early last week when my husband planned a spontaneous mini vacation down the coast to visit my college town, as well an old friend, for a few days.
After being in the car for 10 hours immediately following a 12 hour shift, and exhausting myself with an anxiety and sleepiness fueled temper tantrum along the way, I was more than ready for the home cooked meal I knew was waiting for me. What I had forgotten was that my friend's fiance was the son of a winemaker. I haven't had anything harder than cider in about a year, but I was so happy to not be in my hometown (and I had been up for about 27 hours at that point) that I did not remember that fact, or that hydration would be a good idea.
Three bottles and half a jug of wine later, I promptly fell asleep on the floor after filling a reusable shopping bag 1/3 of the way with vomit, leaving my husband to deal with his super attractive wife.
Well. I guess I was feeling super attractive, because after he got in bed I apparently rubbed my hand on my crotch, shoved it in his face and slurred "lessdothisssssss". I had blacked out at this point, but I do have enough snippets to know that I was really, really, really enjoying not fucking being in my hometown anymore.
At least, I enjoyed it until I woke up sober and screaming in pain. I couldn't move any part of my lower body without crying, and I dug my nails so hard into my husband's hands that I left bloody marks. My hip was on fire.
Another 10 hour car ride, five hours of sleep, the most painful set of x-rays I've ever gotten and two wheelchair changes later, I was diagnosed with a "severe injury to a hip muscle" by a very (thankfully) non judgmental doctor.
Now I'm out of work for a week with two different painkillers that make me all loopy and sleepy while my husband waits on me diligently, so I guess I got my vacation? | Hubs sexed me into a medically induced vacation. |
t3_3ex4fc | relationships | I [25 M] quit smoking for my [24 F] fiance. I feel a relapse coming, and she has threatened to break up. | So I have quit smoking for the nth time, and have been doing well for the past 2 weeks. My fiance has been very supportive, helping me the entire time.
Work, however, has been very stressful, and I have cheated a few times. She caught me once, told me that she cannot deal with this, and that she will leave me if I start smoking again. I told her that I will stop again, but I cannot seem to kick it. A relapse is on the horizon, and I have been hiding it from her.
I feel like it is only a matter of time before she catches me, and a shitstorm ensues. I hate the anxiety of hiding this from her, but I cannot summon the courage to tell her I have failed. | I quit smoking, but on the road to relapse. Fiance threatened to break up if I started again. |
t3_1nnqb3 | Cooking | Favourite dry seasoning mixes for rice? Or maybe veggies? | I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant with my second child and working to create a menu of pre-made freezer or easy-prep recipes to get us through the most difficult first 4-6 weeks.
I'm pretty good at main-dish items for the freezer, but I'm not so good at veggies and rice. I have a toddler with the usual toddler particularities and she won't eat bland foods. I try to avoid sauces as much as possible and just adding chicken broth is still too plain for her. Ideally, I'd like to find a couple of herb or seasoning blends that I could just add with rice and maybe butter to make it taste better. Sort of like a box of Uncle Ben's style rice, but not at $3 per meal. If anyone knows something similar that works with veggies, I would appreciate that, too.
I have a wide selection of dried herbs available, all the common ones used in Italian, English, French, and Spanish recipes, plus a few spices like Cinnamon and Nutmeg used in baking. Nothing really "hot" except curry powder. | What seasoning blends can I make in advance to toss in with the water and rice, "Uncle Ben's" style, that still taste good? |
t3_2yp3rf | legaladvice | I'm in a weird situation with the car dealership | I bought an 06 scion xb from a dealership in my town. A month into having it, the dealership calls me regarding a title issue. Apparently the previous owner put an estimated amount of miles on the title when he signed it over and the auction didn't catch it. When the dealership bought it, they didn't catch it either. It wasn't until they tried signing it to me that it was noticed and now the true miles are "unknown". This puts a red flag on my Carfax and makes my title a box c. Ultimately the value of my car dropped and I can't trade it to a dealer because banks won't finance a dirty title.
They offered me my down payment plus the money I put it in it. Or I can keep it knowing that in the future, it's going to harder to sell.
Of course I asked for my money back, but they were not happy with that. This particular dealership has five lots in my town so the GA drove from one of the other lots to this one to try and get me out of taking my money back. He offered me cars at the same price(literally driving me to every one of their lots), or cheaper ones I could pay in full with the amount of money I put down. I was consistent with wanting my money back. He got real pissed, made some phone calls, and ended with the idea that they would be allowed to pay me 1,505. Thats 15 cents per mile I drove it plus a $195 detailing ignoring the 380 I put into it at the shop. My down payment was 2,000. I told them to keep the check for now. I wanted to talk to the owner.
Now everyone's avoiding me.
What can I do about this if they refuse to give me all of my money back?
I feel like this isn't my fault and I should be compensated for the devaluing of my car that was done on their part. | dealership messed up my title. Car worth less than I bought it for. They offered to give me money back. When I accepted my money back, offered $880 less than they originally said. |
t3_12zwtd | relationship_advice | (M/19) Trapped in the friend zone by my suicidal flatmate (F/19) | I have a flatmate who I met last year when I moved to university. We grew really close over our first year and visited each other a few times during the holidays. At the start of second year while drunk it came out that we have grown too close to be just friends but although she loves me back, she decided she doesnt want to further our relationship. She told me that she has had a history of boyfirnds who have been seriously messed up by her as she says she very mentaly unstable, and has tried to kill her self multiple times in her past. Infact, because of me, she says she hasnt tried since coming to university and is now 'stable' again.
This was in September and since then weve been going through an awkward state of being in a relationship but its only going as far as like awkward hugging in bed and asking about each others day, making us like 'couple without benifits' (As opposed to 'friends with benifits'). As a messed up dude myself, considering myself 'unstable' as of present, ive reached the stage where i sort of rely on her to get through day to day life, which i realise is unhealthy for the both of us.
So my options are: 1) I try to move on and hope we can still be normal friends. 2) I confront her about the whole thing and try my best to convince her that i want to support her despite her problems. 3) Stick to what we have, as it seems to (sort of) work and my apparent presence is 'saving her'.
Aditional information: I have aspergers so im pretty bad at picking up subtle social cues. Also im a virgin who has just come of anti depressants so ive been newly introduced to the barbaric thing known as a 'sex drive' which may also be an influence in dilemma. | My flatmate and I are crazy and im trapped in the friendzone. |
t3_2b9goz | tifu | TIfu by trusting my property manager | Around 1:20pm my power went out. at 1:25 I went in search of our property manager. Pm(property manager) was informed at 1:30pm my power was out. We had been out drinking as what i thought was friends. Unfortunately I wrongly assumed we were friends and he was just being funny, joking about fixing it later, maybe tomorrow. The issue has happened multiple times previously and been resolved in under an hour. Great guy right?
Well today the pm decided he didnt want to go fix the fuse that broke due to the apt having not been even really looked at by anyone resembling an electrician in at least 3 years, that me and friends lived there. If I had to actually guess tho probably closer to 20. Anyway here I sit in 90F heat at 9pm bc this guy was too lazy to walk into the basement and fix my apartments power. | Demand your property manager fix shit asqp. |
t3_2131po | relationships | I [20F] hate my SO's [25M] friends. | My SO and I have been together for over two years. I'm 8 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier. My family loves him, his family loves me. We're totally in love and happy. I'm the only girl that he's ever loved.
But, we live in a neighborhood that he's lived in his whole life and occasionally I'll have to see his old friends.
I really don't like some of his friends. I probably only really like 2/6 of them.. My SO doesn't really care for them either but he feels like he has to talk to them and play nice since they've known each other since they were in diapers.
Some of his friends are just plain rude and will act like I'm not even there. I have extreme social anxiety and don't know how to react to this. My SO doesn't seem to notice... But it all could be in my head since I don't really try to talk to them either..
How would you deal with this? | I hate most of my SO's friends. Some act like I'm not even in the room with them. I have extreme social anxiety.. How do I deal with this and make it better? |
t3_4rkyet | relationship_advice | How do I M[21] ask out my friend [40's] | Wanting to keep this really short.
I have never asked a girl out, partially because I haven't met any girls I've wanted to ask out but mostly it's because I don't know what to say. I've met this women in her 40's who I've completely fallen for and I really want to ask her on a date. As far as shared interests go, we both like movies, she is a huge disney fan like me, neither of us like going out to clubs or bars or that whole drinking scene.
How do I ask this women out is my question. Looking for real baby steps here because I've not done this before. We have conversations easily at work, do I just say something like 'hey want to grab dinner?' randomly into conversation? Is dinner a good first date? Haven't been on a proper date before either so I might need some help with that.
Feel like I should quickly say that the main reason I've not asked girls out/ been on dates before is I was heartbroken out the blue when I was younger and never got any closure, plus I was bullied for years at school no matter what I was saying, they would just make fun of anything I said. That made me basically learn to never say anything for the rest of my school years in fear of being bullied. I think all that is why I'm so nervous to ask her, I really want to do this though because I just can't stop staring at her and I feel all happy when I'm talking to her, you know?
Any help is appreciated, thanks!
On a side note, what is your personal opinion on someone my age dating someone her age? Do you think she would freak if I asked her out? | Not asked a girl out before, what do I do? |
t3_3xooy6 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] duration 3 years, it all started when we got distant... | I can be considered young.
I have been dating this girl for almost three years, where i felt like i never felt before she made me happy, i had some goals in life but in her presence nothing else mattered...
I kinda dropped out of college so i could be more with her, neglected my lifetime friends...
Problem started when she asked for more since we wore getting distant and i could not see her every week
I did my best to get my stuff right i have try'd working... And all of sudden she got colder and colder warning me she was not happy but never ever wanting to say what is the problem...
I really love her even when she cheated on me even when she told me what she did, my plans wore tied up with her by my side i fell lost and confused.
I cant get my head on anything else but her, and since i kinda neglected my friends for so long i have no one to talk to...
It feels like she is not the same person i have met i know people change but i do not think someone can change so much in just few weeks/months.
I have to note i have never cheated on her, never wanted to cheat on her, i was ready to give up all the stuff that i should be doing so i could get better life for us latter on. | I'm just asking what should i do i fell lost and confused :( |
t3_386k6e | relationships | Me [23M] with my girlfriend [20F] of two years feels like i don't return the same level of affection she does. (I may be an ass). | I have been dating a girl I have come to love dearly for very close to two years now. I noticed she starting to shy away from me after visiting home for two weeks after she got back, and perhaps a little before she left. I finally got her to talk to me about her problems and she told me the following in my car while packing her stuff to move to her dorm.
She said she gives me all her love in the world (and she does) and wanted to be with me forever and that I did not return the affection and she felt terrible. I have to admit I am not good with showing affection and I feel like I did take her love for granted and I regret it now that I realize it.
She essentially moved in with me while keeping her dorm room almost empty and we slept together every single night. We took each other's virginity and she now says that she has never been the type of girl to lose it to anyone.
She also mentioned she felt like she has lost focus on her school work because she dedicated everything to me. She moved everything out of my room (a house) back into her dorm because of her focus and she mentioned she was a family girl and it's not right for her do do that (we lived together like that for a year and a half). She said she changed so much for me and she has lost what she originally came to college for and I have been distracting her.
I know she loved or loves me to death and her change of attitude has changed in perhaps a three week period. Or from being extremely loving to what I mentioned above. | I feel like I lost the love of someone who loved me more than anything to due to a lack of my returned affection. Although i do love her the same way. I'm not sure what to do next. We have not broken up or anything but i feel so alone and heart broken right now alone in my room. This just happened as well. |
t3_3azuik | loseit | NSV: Went for my first lunchtime run in almost a year | I find that the only time that I ever really find motivation to exercise/lose weight is when I'm going through a tough time or really unhappy with myself. Last summer I was going through a lot shitty personal stuff and the major way I dealt with it was going for runs on my lunch break. I ended up losing about 25 lbs which was great, but like always, when things started to normalize in my life the exercise ceased. Luckily I've managed to keep the weight off, but I am very happy to announce that for the first time, I am both in a good place emotionally and motivated to loseit! I really look forward to becoming part of this awesome, supportive community! | Don't feel like a sack of shit. Exercised anyway. |
t3_nc9nv | AskReddit | What are your best "I called out a shitty employee" stories? | Years ago a friend and I used to go to a Kerby's Koney Island probably 4 times a week for lunch while working, did this all summer long (worked at a golf course). One night after work we ended up there and took some seats (seat yourself when its not busy).
In 15 minutes (we watched the clock after 5) one waitress had walked by us 4 times to get to other customers and another had walked by us twice. We finally got up and just started to walk out. As we were heading out, one of the waitresses said "Why are you leaving?" I turned around and just said "We sat there for 15 minutes and no one came to take our order."
I turn around to leave and hear it behind me, in that snarky ass tone from one of them.. "Well I don't know about you girl, but I never saw them." I stopped. Then I hear it from the other one, "Yeah, they couldn't have been here long." I turn around.
I walk up to the counter and basically start screaming while pointing at them "Don't you dare fucking lie like that, you walked by me twice and you walked by me four times, one time you even smiled at me. So don't you fucking stand there and lie saying that you didn't notice us." Then I walked out.
Still went to lunch there the next day, I mentioned I had crappy service at night to my waitress and she had actually heard about some raving lunatic that came in and yelled at a couple of the waitresses the night before. I laughed and said it was me and explained what happened. She just rolled her eyes and said something like "Yeah, knowing them, I believe you." | I didn't get any free food out of it, no one got fired, but I never went back there at night. Still felt good yelling at them. |
t3_2c6t6e | tifu | TIFU by using air freshener | So, let this be a lesson to you all.
I was at the office one day, when I sensed that a whole basket of dumplings needed to be set free (meaning: I needed to take a ginormous dump).
So I went to the toilet and took care of my business. However, near the end I couldn't bear the smell of my own masterpiece anymore, so I grabbed the can of air freshener. And I immediately regretted that decision.
You see, I work at a chemical plant, so any form of gas or smoke in any location is considered a major safety risk, so gas and smoke detectors are all over the place. Even in the bathrooms toilets. And boy do those (smoke) detectors work well. Just after I released some instant pine-forest scent, all hell broke loose as the alarms went off and the sector near the toilet had to be secured and inspected. And they found me, with a stupid grin on my face holding that can of Airwick, standing next to that fresh dump. | Never ever use air freshener on a toilet with smoke/gas detectors. |
t3_4iix85 | relationships | Me [21 F] with my brother [19 M] Should I be concerned that he keeps a picture of his crush in his wallet? | [To preface, he had given it to me so I could find a picture of us and our mom which he also has in his wallet, so I wasn't snooping]
I was concerned when I found a picture of him and his crush (a selfie he had printed) in his wallet. When I told him I thought it was slightly creepy, he justified it by saying that (1) Aside from his romantic feelings, they were really good friends and (2) He didn't go on facebook and find a picture of her to print, he had this picture because they had taken it together.
I backed off of course because he was embarrassed and I didn't want to upset him, but I don't want my brother to be one of those creepy obsessive types. Do you think I should let it go or am I right to worry? | My brother has a picture of him and his crush in his wallet, I'm worried he might be getting a little obsessive and creepy, but he doesn't see it that way. Is it creepy? |
t3_388yqb | relationships | How do I [M26] tell my family that I am engaged my ex sister in law [F30]? | My brother is 7 years older than me. He was married to my now fiance for a year before he died. That was 9 years ago. Ever since he died I would catch up with her a couple of times a year, out of chance mostly. Over the last 5 years it became more frequent. I tried to ignore the feelings I had for her but I couldn't. 18 months ago we started dating. We didn't tell anyone for obvious reasons, but it was obvious that our feelings were very serious.
Last week I proposed to her and she said yes. I honestly didn't think about my family or hers because for so long those two parts of my life have been completely separate. I am not really that close with my family. I just thought that we would elope or something. I really didn't think it through. I love her so much and being married to her will be amazing, I just need to get through the actual wedding part. We talked today and she wants a big wedding, with all of our family and friends. I just have no idea what to say to my family. My sister was very close to my brother (twins), she will hate me, my father will hate me. I have no idea how my mother will react. The rest of my family will just judge her and I.
I'm really not sure what I'm supposed to say. "Hey mum, dad, just so you know I'm marrying the woman your dead son left behind." At this point I really regret proposing, I just want to go back to how it was before, when no one had to know. I know that this seems crazy from the outside, but what we have together it's worth all of this. I just need some advice. | My brother died 9 years ago. At the time he was married to the same girl that I am now engaged to. How do I tell my family? |
t3_k3647 | relationship_advice | Creepy, possessive, dependent roommate. Advice? | My(22m) SO(21f) of 7 months has a roommate, we'll call her Karen. Karen's life pretty much revolves around my SO, and it creeps us out and SO is unable to do anything to divert this. Many of Karen's interactions with my SO closely resemble that of a possessive boyfriend who constantly has to check up on his girl. Early on in the cultivation of my relationship with said SO, I tried to befriend Karen. In doing so I allowed her an opportunity to twist my words and intentions and she attempted to drive myself away from SO. Below is list of things we came up with off of the top of our heads that stand out as strange about Karen:
* Karen constantly checks up on SO through text, even texting my SO less than a minute after they last saw each other.
* She prolongs text conversations by asking obvious questions to keep a conversation going. In this same vein, Karen gets upset if she isnt called "bff" and SO doesnt say "xoxo" in texts.
* Karen models herself on SO. She likes/hates everything based upon SO's opinion, even changing her stance immediately after SO states her thoughts.
* Karen consistently eats exactly what SO eats in the cafeteria/food court. SO will wander around trying to figure out what she wants to eat and Karen will wait until SO decides and say "Thats what I was craving too."
* Karen gets jealous of SO's interactions with myself and SO's other friends.
If you've seen or heard the premise of the movie "The Roommate", its pretty much like that. We actually saw more than a few startling similarities between Karen and the villain in that movie.
SO has confronted Karen about many of these things before but nothing changes and my SO isnt really the confrontational type to sit Karen down and say "STOP" so we're looking for more subtle/kind ways to create distance.
So we're asking some advice for any people in RAland who may have had similar experiences with clingy/scary roommates in the past. If you have any ideas of how to kind of push her away and show her that the things she is doing are not ok, we would love to hear them. | Pretty much the title. |
t3_2h9eoq | relationships | I am bisexual, [18M] and I'm crushing on another dude [19M]. How do I go about asking him out? | So I made a throwaway for this because I'd rather people on my main account not know I'm bi. I've known I'm into other dudes for a while but it took me until recently to admit it to myself, and to try the other side of the spectrum. I've dated two girls before, but there's this guy I really like in one of my classes at college. He's also bisexual and has told me as such. However, this is my first time liking a guy seriously enough to want to date him, so I have no idea how to ask him out. Is it different than asking a girl out? How do you go about doing so? | Bi guy, want to ask out another bi guy but unsure how. |
t3_10bkse | relationships | Do I (17) a right to be pissed he (18) didn't invite me to an OU game? | We've been dating 1 year and 3 months, but we only see each other on Saturdays, (he lives 30 minutes away). He, his dad, his brother, and his step-mother are all going to a pretty big football game for our state. Except his step-mom decides not to go, at the last minute. So, that leaves an extra ticket... He called more than 5 people to see if they could go, all without asking me. Fast forward a few hours and he's dropping me off at my house, when I finally ask why he never bothered to ask if I would like to go. His response? "You wouldn't enjoy it." | My boyfriend has an extra ticket for a game today, but instead of asking me, he just keeps the extra ticket. |
t3_2jqd7n | askwomenadvice | My SO's definition of "semi-formal" to a wedding is the equivalent to my "casual". [F22] | Hey guys, this is probably going to sound very very stupid, but I'm getting super stressed out.
So a couple months ago my SO asked me to go to a wedding with him, and of course I agreed. His family lives pretty far away, so I haven' gotten a chance to meet them yet, and we have to go back to his home town for this wedding, which is a very small town.
I went shopping about a month ago for a dress, and he couldn't come with because he was working, and because I'm a university student, I don't have a lot of money, so my mother came with me to help pay.
Now, my SO told me that the wedding was semi-formal so I went looking with my mom's help and we found a really amazing one that I love. It's kind of [like this style] but without the bedazzled bit and a little more form fitting and it's [this colour](
its all fine and dandy, until my SO finally showed me pictures of the last wedding his family had... the pictures consisted of people wearing jeans (some in nice pants) and people in t-shirts!!!!! To top it all off, apparently he sent his mom a picture of me in the dress, and he told me that she "said it was nice" she actually told him that it was "very possibly fancier then the wedding dress"
THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I'M MEETING HIS FAMILY
Its too late to return my dress, and none of my friends are as small in size as me, so I can't borrow there's
What do you guys suggest I do? Even words of encouragement would be nice at this point. | my SO's semi formal is equivalent to my casual. I have a dress for a wedding that is less then a week that is potentially fancier then the brides dress. Help |
t3_2ctjol | personalfinance | How can I deduct tax with multiple cars? | Greetings and salutations,
I am self employed and am working with a DBA, and I report my tax with the DBA. I drive quite a bit to meet up with clients, train them, provide tech support, etc. For example last year I put about 35,000 on my car just for business use.
As a car lover, there is nothing I'd like more than to be able to own / lease multiple cars. 2-3 would be great for me.
To my understanding, and from what my CPA told me, I can only attribute one car to my business use, so if I were to get one more car I would just be throwing money away in a sense, since I do not know of a way to deduct tax with it.
Is there a way for me to be able to deduct more tax by getting more cars, so I can hit two birds with one stone?
Also, I own my current car, and for the tax report I report its annual mileage instead of its payment / gas usage / maintenance since I drive so much. For my second car, should I purchase or lease it? I will most likely split my business use between the two cars somewhat evenly since I'm an equal opportunity kinda guy, so I'll show both of my cars the same amount of love on a weekly basis.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | As a car lover I am looking for a way to own / lease more than one car |
t3_yhqaz | relationships | My Wife (26) and I (27) are of different cultures (US & China) and moving back to the US has pushed us to the edge of divorce. | I dont know what to do. I am just hoping for some insight.
We where married for a year in China. I got a great job opportunity in the US (CA) so we agreed to move back. I moved back right away and she stayed and waited for her new visa (she had been using a tourist one before). After a brutal year apart (the process took the maximum amount of time) we started living together again.
She was very uncomfortable and did not want to intimate when she move here. This is understandable, cause of how big of a change she just went through. She has struggled to find work and her own friends, because of the cultural differences.
In China she was very successful, but now every day I watch a great woman feel emotionally destroyed when a come home. Sure she loves hanging out with my friends; but, she feels like her entire identity is mine. She ask me about how to do everything these days and she hates it. All she has here is me and she resents it.
We have been talking about separating for a bit and her returning to China for work. I know this will end it, because we have not been intimate for over 2 years and I am becoming resentful. What the hell can we do. | Cultural and intimate issues are driving my wife and me apart |
t3_2d2z8d | relationships | Me [30F] Crushing on someone [32?F] who is in a rocky relationship | Met this friend of a friend a few months ago and immediately had a crush on her. I then found out she had a girlfriend, but after hanging out with them it was very apparent they were on the rocks. Put her in the back of my mind until abouta month or so later when I hung out with her again with a group of people. Apparently they HAD broken up, but they had just recently gotten back together. -___-
All I ever hear from mutual friends is that they just argue all the time and they should break up. However I think she is currently in that rosy reconnection phase when you get back together with an ex.
I don't know what to do - just continue to hang out with her, or avoid her? If she was in a good, happy relationship I wouldn't even think about her. But it just seems like it's inevitably going to end.
I am NOT going to try to be a home wrecker, but I kind of want to be there if she does break up. Who knows how long that could take though.
Does this ever work out?? Has anyone started to like someone in the trailling end of a bad relationship and had it work out? I'm certainly planning on dating other people (OKCupid and such) in the meantime and not wait around for her, but I really like her. It sucks :(
I guess I'm looking for evidence that it could work, then I can forget about it momentarily and just do my thing and maybe the timing will be better in the future. The thought of totally ditching my feelings for her seems sad and unnecessary. | anyone ever meet/start liking someone who was in a bad relationship, and end up with them (in a non-cheating, non-home wrecking way)? |
t3_3psa3v | tifu | TIFU by Being a Great Soccer Player as a Kid | Throwaway.
This thing happened years ago, so, I'm not a kid now, don't worry.
I was once at my grandparent's house, when I decided to play with a soccer ball. This ball was my favourite object there. I would always kick it at a wall, wait for it to come back, and kick it again, and it would bounce, and I'd kick it higher, and it was a lot of fun!
When it was time for me to go home, I was like 'Well, I can put the ball away easily, because I am a great soccer player!'. So, I bounced it on the floor and kicked it over a bush, so it would land on the chair next to the pond full of fish.
As you can imagine, this didn't go well.
I looked away triumphantly, knowing I had won, but a loud splash told me otherwise. I looked over, and water was going everywhere. What had I done?
I ran over, and noticed the ball sitting there in the pond, having hit the water really hard. The small orange fish were terrified, swimming around like crazy! So, clever me gets a metal pole, and sticks it in the water, trying to get the ball out.
I tapped a fish, lucky I didn't spear it. Then, I pushed the ball to the side of the pond, and grabbed it.
My grandparents didn't see, but my cousin did. He said that the way I went inside quickly was 'fishy' but my grandparents didn't realise exactly what he meant.
To this day, my grandparents haven't said anything, so I think I got away with it.
My soccer career never really took off. | Kicked a ball, it did fall, into a pond, scared fish, with scales blonde. |
t3_pqgf8 | AskReddit | I thought this was an appropriate subreddit: I'm asking you, the community, to be sensitive about this Valentines day. (Or next year's, I suppose) | Hello reader,
I'm glad to see that you've decided to give me a chance. Look- we need to talk. I haven't had time until now to look at Reddit, and I can't believe some of the things you (the community) have upvoted into the highest ranks. Posts talking about how single people will be doing *nothing* but masturbating and crying.
I am not single. There are many people who browse this website who are. I can understand if you want to lighten the mood a bit, but can you be more just a *little* more considerate about the feelings that people have about a day celebrating not being lonely, please?
This is not a plea to "forever-alone'ers". This is to speak to the user who sits alone tonight of any gender or sexual preference and is forced to endure all these things that are telling them that they should feel bad today. It really makes me sick, guys.
I know what it's like to be down like that- and if I was down like I was years ago, then, well- I'm not sure if I'd be able to look at you (the community) as being a supporter of my efforts. Please don't help to make some members feel that way.
I want the sad people to know that ANYTHING can come with time- just please for me, an anonymous guy, try to believe me. I may not know your hurt, but I know the feel. Just give yourself some time. It may be rough, but things WILL get better if you continue on.
I want the people who have supported such offending content to be more cautious. I don't want our community to be anything but stronger, so please- try to be more sensitive about Valentines day, and as the holiday comes to a close, more sensitive long term.
Thank you for reading. I wish you good luck and high spirits.
Sincerely,
-Concerned Member | I'm asking for you to consider the lonelier members of Reddit and their reactions to the posts that have reached the highest ranks on a holiday that excludes the temporarily intimately stranded.* |
t3_syde9 | AskReddit | Need advice on how to evenhandedly manage an estate | Background:
My Mother married my stepdad several years ago. There are three "kids" in the marriage all from previous marriages (two from my mom, one from my stepdad). All of us "kids" are single and in our mid-twenties with both of my older siblings having their own children; I am forever alone. Both of my siblings have, in the past, made financially and personally disastrous choices (that my parents have had to bail them out of multiple times). I am not a saint by any stretch of the imagination, but my siblings don't exactly make it hard to seem like the levelheaded one. My mother is not close to our extended family and my stepdad keeps minimal contact with his, because as he claims "they only talk to me when they want something".
Current dilemma:
My mom recently revealed to me that her and my stepfather have named me executor of their estate when they both pass away (hopefully a long time from now). While I am honored that they trust in me enough to name me executor, I am equally nervous that I won't manage it properly. I should note that I have neither seen their will(s) or have any knowledge of its contents. For the purposes of this question I am working on the assumption that they have only listed their burial wishes and have not directly bequeathed any financial or material wealth to anyone directly.
What I am looking for:
Personal stories/advice, articles, and books that can give me guidance on how to be a good executor. Mostly I am trying to minimize the amount of potential infighting over my parent's material wealth and fairly distributing it to all rightful heirs.
Also for various reasons this is a throwaway reddit account. | I have been named executor of an estate and need advice on how to manage it fairly. |
t3_368y88 | relationships | Me [27 M] coming back to my [21 F] wife after a 10 month deployment. Currently scared shitless. | A bit of backstory: My wife and I have been together for 2 years, but because we were both in the Navy, we have been able to spend probably a grand total of 6 months actually TOGETHER. I love this girl more than anything, but I'm running into a pretty big problem-
I'm currently very close to being home after being gone for almost a year overseas. Over that time my wife and I have stayed in daily contact, but things haven't always been peaches and cream.
We're both depressives, and I have pretty severe trust issues that I try to keep in check, but when things come up, I can tell they hurt her, and it kills me when these things happen, so I've been trying to keep myself busy to avoid getting wrapped up over her and obsessing, but as a result she now thinks of me as "a pen pal" and is emotionally distant with me, which fucking hurts. This causes more problems, and now we have steadily been fighting more and more over mundane shit.
In the past week we've been keeping things friendly, but the hurt still very much runs deep in both of us. Add to this the stress from being out to sea forEVER and dealing with the worst bosses I've ever had and I am an emotional wreck.
Now I feel like coming home is the only hope of our salvation I have, but she doesn't seem as excited as I'd hoped about me coming home (which is understandable. She spent the last week at finals and preparing our new home) and I'm not confident that just plopping my depressed, half-crazed ass into her life after a year away is going to do anything but make us both incredibly sad.
Now instead of looking forward to a beautiful reunion, I'm dreading having to confront what could be a devastating reality. I love my wife more than anything in the world, but I'm terrified that we may have grown apart. | I've been out to sea for 10 months, and I'm terrified that it may have ruined my marriage. What do I do? |
t3_nwxu3 | AskReddit | Have you guys ever made a decision to end a friendship? | Recently some of my friends were charged with some very public crimes that the local neighborhood is talking a lot about. They didn't hurt anyone but the crimes were still serious. I'm trying to support them and help them through it but one of our other friends has terminated their friendship and will not talk to any of us- including me (I was not involved with the crime). Now he may have a reason, but knowing him, its because he is scared to catch any flak from this situation. This seems like the most underhanded and cowardly thing to do, and he is only hurting himself by getting rid of the only friends who actually care about him.
Have any of you been in a situation like this? What did you do? | My close friend stopped talking to me and our friend group because he doesn't want people to associate him with us. |
t3_2xywie | tifu | TIFU - by not asking for directions to my interview and forgetting my cellphone | This is one of those rare ones that actually happened today ... although it's not as embarrassing as some ... it is however a screw up .... i've been looking for a job as many people are ... on Monday i get a call for an interview on Wednesday at 3pm ... so i check the address...i know the area well like the back of my hand... 2 days pass day of interview at 1pm i recheck the address i know the area i used to live about 4 blocks away , no worries what so ever... 2:30 i leave for the interview with all that i need get to the address 2:45...i'm 15 minutes early yeah!! (if you show up to an interview on time ... you are late) ...i look and it's a big warehouse with only 1 business in it as far as i can tell... we'll call it "the cinder block" ...but it's not the business where i had the interview ... so i drive around the warehouse looking truck after truck "the cinder block" "the cinder block"... for the life of me i can not see the place ... it's now about 2:50 panic starts setting in ... i start expanding my search ... i'm driving around finding nothing ... it's now about 2:55... i reach for the cell phone ... i had left it at home charging... drive around some more while chanting expletives and cursing myself... 3pm... give up drive home still swearing at myself.... as soon as i get home i phone the place asking for my interviewer... who is of course busy (probably interviewing the person who did ask for directions,has their cellphone and is getting the job)... i leave a polite message of apology and asking to be called back if they still want to interview me (not holding my breath on that one)... i also plan on phoning him tomorrow and apologizing again for wasting his time... so new life rule(s)... always ask for directions even if i know the area and always double check i have the cell with me....first interview i have ever missed... had i asked for directions and/or brought a cellphone... i would not have missed the interview.... | always ask for directions when interviewing even if you know the area well and always take your cellphone...GDMFSOB.... |
t3_1rc0wh | relationships | My (m/20) girlfriend (f/19) wants to be friends with her abusive, rapist ex. Concerned | My girlfriend and I have been together for about half a year now. She is great and we get along very well, but I'm concerned about some of her decisions... I know I can't make her do anything, but I still want to ask this.
*This is all assuming she told me the truth, which I believe she did, but you never know I guess*
She and her ex broke up almost a year ago and he was and is still living about 300km away from her. They got together when they were both 15 and apparently it went well for a year and then when she was sleeping he had non-consensual sex with her.
She lost her virginity and got pregnant but managed to hide it and miscarry(?) within a little while. She said she let him keep doing it to her for years because he said he loved her and that she froze up and couldn't really defend herself because of anxiety, and that she was too ashamed to admit she got raped. I already know she has difficulty standing up for herself. She also says she "doesn't like to hurt people", so she didn't report her ex. She was raped 50+ times by him over their relationship.
He is coming to visit soon and she wants to stay friends with him because she says "he is still a good friend". It is like she is completely ignoring the fact that he raped her and also emotionally abused her. He claims he never did anything. It only happened when she was sleeping apparently (I have heard of a thing called somnophilia, kind of like pedophilia except with sleeping people), but that doesn't mean you can just rape someone.
She still has nightmares, some of them about rape. It really bothers me that she wants to be friends with him, but I know I can't make her do anything. I don't want her to be mad at me but I feel like she is completely ignoring what he did to her and it makes me very uncomfortable. What should I do, if anything? I really care a lot about her.. | girlfriend was raped by her ex for years. wants to be friends with him. seems to be completely blocking out the fact that he was abusive. she says "he was a good friend and still is, he just isn't boyfriend material". I don't understand :( |
t3_1ficx2 | travel | Advice for a European Expedition | Hi all
Leaving in around a month for a few weeks in Europe. It's going to be a pretty brief trip because of study commitments.
I have already paid for flights, and a 15-day continuous Eurail pass. I have enough money saved to be able to stay at hostels, with maybe the odd cheap hotel room thrown in.
My itinerary begins in Madrid and ends in Paris, and I have a pretty solid plan for where I am going.
I am looking for anyone's first hand advice on great places to see, eat & stay, as I'm only there for a very short time and want to make the most of it!
I am 22, and travelling with my brother who is 21. We both speak Spanish, his French is great and I have some Italian.
The places we are going to be going so far:
* Madrid
* Barcelona
* INSERT YOUR FAVOURITE SOUTHERN FRANCE OR NORTHERN ITALY SPOT HERE
* Florence
* Venice
* Prague - have accommodation sorted here.
* Berlin
* Paris
* Bruges
As we only have a limited time it's going to be 2 nights in most places, with 1 night in a couple of them. All of our travel will be by train, but I have considered taking the ferry from Barcelona to Italy and skipping the Cote d'Azure, because it looks to be quite expensive.
Hopefully I've given a brief but thorough summary of what I'm trying to do. I've found in general personal recommendations from like-minded people to trump review sites like tripadvisor every time, so if you have a good spot in any of these cities I would love to hear it!
Thanks in advance! | Brief Europe expedition, looking for tips on great places to stay & do stuff in for the cities listed above. |
t3_3wmle1 | relationship_advice | Is love Dead??? | With constant exposure to unhappy married couples, in both the media and my parents, I sometimes worry that people don't really enjoy marriage. My boyfriend and I have been dating since we met at our freshman orientation and as graduating seniors, we have discussed our desire to commit to each other forever. I couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else. He makes me so happy and truly supports me and challenges me to be the best I can be. I feel a real and true love for him, but I worry because I have never seen an example of a truly happy couple in my personal experience. Please share stories of your happy marriages/relationships! | Im afraid love is dead. tell me its not! |
t3_3corq5 | tifu | TIFU by being "preoccupied" | So tifu while i was work. I work as a commis chef in a nice resteraunt and i was cooking wings and a crab dish. As the crab dish requires more work i focused on that but paid a bit of attention on the wings. So i get a text from my gf telling me to look at this picture and it was of Lisa Ann , butt naked. We all seen it and started talking about her. In the meanwhile i had forgot about the wings that i had taken out so i served them quickly and went on with cooking.
5 minutes later my boss comes in , on his day off and tells me his wifes wings were cold. Now I currently wanting to curl up in a ball and die. | served my boss cold wings because i was looking at Lisa Ann's boobs and now in serious trouble |
t3_39qrwf | relationships | [17M/17F, 1 year] How to handle my girlfriend's depression? | Hi /r/relationships, my girlfriend of one year has recently been "officially" diagnosed with depression. She says it makes her very apathetic towards everyone and everything a lot of the time. Now, I care about this girl very much, but it's hard to do that when the other person doesn't seem to care at all.
Am I asking for too much if I just want the occasional text, for example? We used to send each other walls of text all the time, now I always initiate conversations and she's much less loquacious to say the least. A lot of times now when I try to kiss her she gives me the cheek or just a quick peck. When I go see her during breaks in school she barely pays attention to me and talks to other people. But then when I walk her home at night on the weekends we always talk a whole bunch, sometimes just like we used to, and she confides in me. I'm the only one in our circle of friends who knows about what she's going through.
It's very confusing for me. I want to understand her and be there for her but I feel like it's also unfair towards me that she makes me feel unwanted. I just want a minimum amount of effort to show that she cares.
Am I not reacting right to this? What should I do? :/ | had a great relationship, but now girlfriend is clinically depressed. She makes me feel unwanted sometimes and I know it's not entirely her fault but it's hard to deal with. She still confides in me and stuff. Help? |
t3_efujg | AskReddit | I found my friends GW, but wait...THERE'S MORE! | So I was on GW (dont judge me, I know you do it too) and I saw one that looked interesting. I opened it up. And it looked a lot like my friend (we'll say her name is Jane). So Im looking at it and I notice subtle clues that its looking more and more like her (same ass-ual shape, old iPhone case, hair, face). I blow it off because whats the odds of me finding someone on GW that I know. But the more I look at it the more I notice that she looks more and more like Jane. It was an old photo (she hasnt had that hair color/style since 2 years ago, that old iPhone cover since back then, and a ring that she usually wears)
If your still reading by now, Im not a creepy guy, I just looked very closely at it and conferred with a friend who was objective and has never met this girl but has seen pictures.
This is where it gets even better. I dont think its her that posted em. Why? Because again, they are like 2 years ago. So I am thinking about who could have posted em. Then I realize during this time she was dating one of my good friends. I have really, really good suspicions that he posted these on there with out her knowing, two years after he got the photos. | I found a female friend's GW pictures and I think my friend (who is her ex) posted them |
t3_30j2eb | relationships | Me [23M] with my girlfriend [22F] of 2 years. I keep having sex dreams about someone else. | Hey, I've been having sex dreams about a girl and I'm not sure if I should worry or tell my girlfriend.
I don't have many sex dreams and I don't think they matter much or mean anything, but recently in the last few weeks I've had about 3 sex dreams all with the same girl that I used to know in real life.
I dont have any feelings or attraction to the girl in real life. She used to fancy me before she got a boyfriend, they've been together for a year now.
I dont know why I have these dreams about her but I dont want anything like that with her. Should I tell my girlfriend or just leave it? I dont want her to think I fancy this girl! | been having sex dreams about a girl who used to fancy me before she had a bf, but I dont fancy her at all. Should I tell my girlfriend or just forget about it? |
t3_293spw | offmychest | Feeling worthless in society | I'm young and newly in the workforce. It's a shit show and I feel I have no right to complain because I'm technically worthless. I'll get paid a shit wage because I'm replaceable and unskilled, so I'll get trodden on, and I can't foresee this EVER improving. I'm old enough now to engage with society properly and I've realised it doesn't exist to mollycoddle me. I don't think I see the virtue in keeping up if I'm an unproductive waste of space.
I'm going to a great uni soon which makes it worse, because I'll be indebted to the government forever and I don't think my qualification will improve this for me, just make people resent me more. My parents didn't get this chance so they're so excited about me going, I feel terrible if I let them down at all. So I have to do it. This cycle makes me miserable.
I don't really enjoy life currently and this is only the start. When the finance grip gets tighter, the work gets worse and my will dissipates even more, god knows what I'll do. | I've realised I'm worthless in the free market and my plans that I worked so hard for, my best achievements, will not help me. I dread every day. |
t3_m55ds | relationships | Help me, Reddit! Should I stay or should I go? | I am 22(f) and he is 27(m) almost 28. Lets call him X.
X and I have been dating for three years. We both come from families with an average income.
Right now I am finishing up at college, but am going to grad school near my hometown (which happens to also be where X lives) for numerous reasons. I am probably one of the most ambitious people I know. I am really set on setting myself up to be successful in the future, and so far, everything is going according to plan for me. I have the connections I need for my chosen field and was even promised a job at my desired work location upon my graduation.
Whats the problem, you ask? He is one of the least ambitious people I have ever met in my entire life. He has a minimal pay job that is unreliable and is living paycheck to paycheck. Absolutely nothing has changed with his situation in the last three years. Yes, there were a few failed attempts at a slightly better job then what he is doing now. But as I said, these were FAILED attempts.
When X and I first met, it was all fun and games. I had no idea what I wanted from my future so I wasn't really concerned about him not really doing anything all day everyday. But now that I am beginning to think about a career. I am much younger then X and I am getting started on this NOW. It hurts because I see that he might not be headed in the same direction as I am. This sucks. I love everything about him. Minus this one aspect, which unfortunately is important, our relationship is flawless. We NEVER fight (I can think of only one major argument throughout our relationship).
I don't know what to do. Should I stay or should I go? | I am on the road to success and he is content with living paycheck-to-paycheck. Should I stay or should I go? |
t3_3zcgb9 | relationships | Me [23], Girl I like [23F]. Don't know how to proceed | I first talked to this girl online a couple of months ago, and gradually got closer as we found out we have quite a bit in common.
This girl has various family issues and said she is bipolar herself, but that doesn't put me off at all.
We met once after quite a while of talking online and it went quite well, I definitely feel she likes me too.
The problem is, she sometimes goes off the radar completely and doesn't reply to me. Being bipolar I assume this is when she gets depressed. She also has history of self harm.
She has told me (via text not in person) that she is surprised that I am attracted to her, and that she sometimes feels that she is 'not worthy'. I assured her that she definitely is worthy.
She really is beautiful, as well as intelligent, and it makes me angry that upbringing caused her to feel this way about herself.
I really want to set up another meeting, but I'm not sure I can handle only being able to talk to her when she is not depressed. What do you think I should do? | Girl randomly ignores me, what should I do? |
t3_20g1b3 | relationships | Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [26F] of six months, long distance confusion | Met a girl online, we've been talking for about six months. We live a few states apart, and we first met each other three months ago, and everything was great. We have talked about a future together, and we have called each other bf/gf in the past.
However, starting about a month ago, she hasn't been texting/calling/Skyping me as often as usual, or she'll say she's going to call me but doesn't.
Yesterday, she told me she was going to call me in about an hour. Well, five hours later, she still hadn't called me. So I called her, and her phone was turned off. I tried calling her again this morning--still no answer. However, about an hour later, she sent me the following text message:
"I'm sorry I didn't call you, I fell asleep. But you need to understand that a long distance relationship isn't like a normal relationship. It's pretty much a 'when there's time for it' thing, or something like a friends with benefits. You need to start thinking about this relationship like that so you don't get hurt."
Then she called me later in the day and we continued to talk as we always have in the past, including planning our next visit in a couple of months.
At first I didn't think much of what she said, but now I'm confused. How can an LDR be a FWB situation--what are the benefits when I only get to see her every six months or so? Should I stop wasting time, money and effort on this relationship, if you can even call it that? I wonder if this is her way of wanting to end things? (Note: Just last week she was talking about how maybe down the road we will be living near each other or even together). | Long distance girlfriend suggests that we are "like friends with benefits" due to the distance, and I'm confused about what this means for the future of our relationship. |
t3_206q8f | loseit | College and weight loss | I started counting calories and upping my exercise a few days ago (I was already on the rock climbing team at school), but the counting calories/eating better overall part is a little difficult.
There aren't any food scales, the calories aren't always posted, and it's really difficult to find anything that isn't loaded with carbs. There's a lot of pasta options, which are a huge weakness for me. I've started getting more into eating salads, but I wouldn't even know where to begin to count the calories for the salads I make for myself.
I'm also trying to gain muscle, but I'm worried the meat options here are relatively low quality, because it's school food.
Does anyone have any tips for eating better/counting calories more accurately while living at school? No cooking options (I have a kitchen but its basically non-functional) | Eating well and counting calories at school is hard. Help? |
t3_1tx8b5 | relationships | Me [32 F] with my [33 M] fiancee, 3 years, I'm sole earner, he refuses to look for a job | My fiancee (together for almost 3 years) refuses to look for a job, no matter how much I beg him. It's been a point of contention since the beginning and has led to lots of screaming arguments. Since we have been together, he has not worked, or looked for work. He plays games much of the day, sleeps late, and smokes. He promises the moon, and delivers none of it. Ever.
His family doesn't seem to care about this, his parents simply will not entertain any gripe I have about it. They are good people but shrug their shoulders and just hope for the best. They also hold it against me that I have this complaint about him.
I'm the sole earner and work two jobs to make ends meet. I'm overworked and overstressed and sleep deprived, and while I do everything I can to put on a happy face, and the vast majority of the time I pull this off, I'm unhappy because of how overworked I am to pay for two people. He's maxed out my only credit card. I'm several thousand $$'s in debt. Before I met him I had thousands in savings and a very structured lifestyle. Lately he has been accusing me of being antisocial and not hanging out with his friends, but they live many states away and I literally can not afford a train ticket, hotel, etc. He knows this, but holds it against me and says I am antisocial. He wants to have friends over to our apartment (I pay full rent, utilities, etc) but I have to get up at 6 every morning and our apartment is very small, so noises keep me up.
He has a degree but isn't motivated by it or doesn't think it will help him find work, so he doesn't try. I've come this close to breaking up with him several times, but can't do it. Besides this job issue, we are good.
Apart from breaking up, does anyone have suggestions or anecdotes? | Fiancee won't get a job. I have two. It blows. |
t3_2ewpln | relationships | My[18M] girlfriend[18F] of two and a half years basically broke up with me last night because I have no ambition. | Me and my girlfriend have had a good relationship up until now, we've grown together and changed each other is substantial ways. For most of our relationship I've been severely depressed and it's been really hard on her. She has tried her best to help and when it doesn't she gets frustrated. I've been on medication and went through therapy for a long time but nothing seems to help. I really think that if I didn't have her I would have killed myself a long time ago.
My junior year of high school I transferred to an all-online school because I couldn't will myself to get out of bed most mornings. My girlfriend (who was in the same grade as me) graduated this summer and is starting college soon while I'm still struggling to finish the online high school. She's told me several times that I should get a job and I haven't because I've been having such difficulty keeping up with school that I didn't think I could handle more responsibility.
Today she told me that she felt I didn't have any ambition, (which is true) that I seemed content doing nothing, (far from true) and that she needed to surround herself with people who wanted to better themselves. She said that she can't be with me if she doesn't see any change in me, and that we should take some time apart. To me, this sounded a lot like she wanted break up with me but was scared of doing so. She said she loves me but she needs me to love myself. This simply isn't going happen. I've accepted a long time ago that I was probably going to be miserable and hate myself until I'm dead.
I have no idea what to do. I'm lost and have nobody to talk to about this with. She was literally my only friend. I want nothing more than to be the person she wants me to be, but I feel like it's impossible feeling the way I do on a day-to-day basis. I don't know how to suddenly be more ambitious. I don't see any reason to go on without her. She's the only happiness I have in my life. | Girlfriend is starting to see how much of a shitty person I am and isn't happy with our relationship. Very likely that she's leaving me and without her I'd much rather just opt-out of the whole "life" thing. |
t3_esldn | AskReddit | Want to move in with my GF next fall. Any ideas on how to tell/ask my parents about it? | I am 21 years old and a college student. I am still financially tethered to my parents for insurance etc. So, the argument that I can do whatever since I am an adult doesn't apply since I am not completely independent.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 years now. We spend everyday together and we share between us 3 animals. We usually just stay at her place since it is where the animals are. So, financially it is dumb for both of us to have a place.
My parents are the type of people that believe in the values of marriage. Also, that a couple should be married before living together. But, they are also very understanding. The problem is they will play the disappointed card, I believe. Or something like " In an ideal world we just wish you were married first." What the hell?
Since we have been dating so long, we don't really see the problem of moving in together. I just need some tips, support, or personal experience from you guys. | I want to move in with GF (w/o getting married). My parents aren't super conservative but just enough. I need advice. |
t3_3gzqax | relationships | I [25/M] want to break off my LDR with my SO [26/F] but am terrified of how she might react | Hi Reddit,
My girlfriend [26/F] and I [25/M] have been in a long distance relationship for about 3 years of our 3.5 year relationship. Sometimes that distance has been great, sometimes small but it's always been the same – seeing each other every two weeks with a few visits in between.
Now I've moved again – this time slightly closer to her – but I'm in a much bigger city with so much more to do and see, which means I'm making plans continuously, trying to fit my new social life around existing plans. We barely keep in touch any more apart from the odd text and Facebook message.
When we're together it's really good but when we're not I feel like shit. I feel like shit because I don't feel like I'm in a proper relationship any more. We want different things and seem to be drifting apart.
I want to end things but I don't know how. We've been dating since college and she's always been way more into me and has been pretty dependant on me for her happiness for a lot (if not all) of the time we've been together.
She was the first to say "I love you" and is always talking about "when we live together" and "when we're married" and says things like "you're the only thing that gets me up in the morning" and "I'd lose my will to live without you". She has huge self-esteem issues already and has more than once exploded at me, even when I suggest things like us going on runs together to keep fit etc.
I feel trapped and I don't know how to break things off without seriously harming her or upsetting her (more than a usual breakup would, anyway). I obviously still love her (just not IN love with her - that cliche) and want to make it as easy for her as possible. | Want to break off LDR with girlfriend, afraid that she will take it seriously hard and might do something. |
t3_3h0q4p | relationships | Me [27/F] concerned about my BF [29/M] being friends with his ex | I met my BF a year ago after he had been dumped by his wife who he had been married to for less than a year almost a year prior to that. He was an alcoholic and rather than agreeing to help him get sober and stop drinking herself, she told him that she didn't want to deal with it and left. VERY shortly after she started dating someone new and moved across the country with him. They have never filed a divorce because neither could afford to do it. My BF is now clean, we recently got an apartment and adopted a dog together and we've been talking about the future.
Several months ago she had to come back in town for a funeral and contacted him to give him some belongings back. They got together and talked and are now friends again. He tells me that they are nothing more than friends but now protects his phone and I know that they do text and talk, everything I have seen is harmless things like how's your day but I have seen mentions of "I miss you" and "I love you". I'm really worried that now that she sees that he is "fixed" she wants him back. He claims that she has a new life with her new BF across the country and he is happy with me but I just don't know. I wish I could be friends with my ex so I hope that's all it is. | Should I be concerned that my BF is friends with his ex-wife? |
t3_18wwdo | dating_advice | I {18M} am not sure if she {21F} is hinting or simply not particularly good at extrapolating music tastes - what do you all think? | So I'm 18. I just got a job at a local bookstore, with an awesome boss and a coworker who is a bit older than me. She's got a fulltime job now so she doesn't work much - which is why I was hired.
We've talked a fair bit, and I certainly enjoy her company and find her attractive. While helping her get some stuff out of her parents house, she loaned me several books and a CD. She said quite explicitly that she thought I would like the CD.
I did like the CD, but it was this (sorry, urls aren't working, )
which is radically different than any of the music I've discussed listening to with her before (which is all much more vigorous - Symphonic metal, folk metal and the like) and it's completely filled with love songs. Is this a hint that she's interested in me, or is this simply her making a wild and accurate guess at my musical tastes? She's thrown a few other vague hints in my direction that I didn't think much of individually, as well.
Oh, and she's homeschooled and I don't think she's ever been in a relationship before. Which further clouds things - if she weren't, I'd outright ask her, but as it stands, I could end up screwing up our friendship and our workplace flow if she isn't interested and she doesn't know how to handle it well - which is a distinct possibility given the whole homeschooled thing. | Awesome coworker who was homeschooled gave me a cd filled with love songs that I can see no reason she would think I would like. I'm unable to ask her outright, so do you all think this is a hint at her being interested in me, or am I reading too much into it? |
t3_184sey | relationships | Me [21M] and my girlfriend [22F] have no common interests. Am I expecting too much? | Been dating almost 3 years now. We spend most of our time together, and most, it not all, of our friends are mutual. We each attend two separate nearby colleges, and have very long term plans at the moment.
We're two very different people, and I always felt that was one of the things that makes our relationship work so well - we complement each other. I'm a Computer Science major who loves his video games and tech toys, and she's an English major who writes literature, makes art, and loves fashion. Everything I can't do, she can, and vice versa. I feel we connect on an emotional level, and I feel a comfort and acceptance from her I can't describe.
But herein lies the problem. I feel like we've become stuck in a rut and run out of things to do. The only activity we have in common is watching movies and TV shows, and sometimes I feel like that's not enough. Sitting around and talking about your day can only get you so far, too. We know absolutely everything there is to know about each other - and, while that does bring some comfort with it, it also leaves us with nothing to talk about.
I've brought this up to her, asking her if she'd be interested in picking up a hobby we could both enjoy and do together. After hours of brainstorming, we had nothing besides taking walks together - something I still feel isn't enough. Am I expecting too much from this relationship? | Run out of things to do in a happy 3 year relationship. Should I seek to remedy this, or simply accept it?* |
t3_1t64qp | AskReddit | Reddit, what are your thoughts on elopement weddings? | Reddit, I'm coming out from years of lurking to get some advice, don't let me down!
I've known my SO for 6 years and recently got engaged, to which most of our friends would say "it's about time!" Now that the excitement has settled down, we are left with some big decisions about our wedding. Neither of us has ever wanted the big wedding because we aren't the type to want to be the center of attention. We have heard of people eloping to Vegas, or a private island, to have an intimate ceremony with each other, no one else invited. We are both private with our personal lives and think it would be the best way to express our love for each other without having hundreds of people staring at us. I think the big wedding would make us uncomfortable and we would miss out on what is truly important, vowing to spend the rest of our lives together.
Now, I'm not looking for suggestions on how to elope, I can figure that one out on my own, however, we can't keep getting married a secret because we still want our parents support, they are an important part of our lives. So what would be truly helpful, is any advice on said topic, someone on Reddit has had an elopement wedding, or at least a friend that has done it. How did the family take it? How did you break the news? Did you meet some opposition? How did you put your foot down about the decision without hurting any feelings?
Current plan: have rehearsal dinner/Bon voyage party with close family and friends, get married on private island in the Caribbean, continue Caribbean honeymoon, return to a reception/marriage celebration that is low key and invite a bunch of people.
Additional information: We are both 26 years old, both have stable jobs, money isn't an issue (before we start talking about elopements saving money, although I agree). She is religious, I have my doubts. We've been dating 6 plus years and living together. | We want to have a runaway wedding (and tell everyone) and throw a reception/party when we get back, but we are getting serious opposition from our parents. Anyone elope and run into similar problems? Advice? Arguments for? Arguments against? Support? |
t3_2izx8l | tifu | TIFU by listening to a Dark Souls troll tip | I'm recently getting into Dark Souls on the PC, and after all the GFWL bullshit i went through i was stoked to actually play it. I've played for about a week now and i saved up 10,000 some souls before i got into Blighttown. So i miraculously get through the first parts of the shit hole and finally rest at the bonfire. As i defeat the next enemies i climb up some scaffolding and along the way i see a tip that says "Shortcut here." So being the noob that i was i walked off the scaffolding and plummeted to my death, losing 5 humanity and over 10,000 souls. I tried going back to retrieve my whole week's work but i ended up getting fucked up in 5 hits from those fucking fire dogs, ruining any chance of me being able to get my 10,000 souls back. I don't even want to play anymore... | I lost 10,000 souls in Blighttown because of a troll tip about a shortcut |
t3_3xucwo | relationships | My [28F] friend I've [28M] been dating is insecure after stalking my ex in fb. Dating 10 months before 8 year friendship. | So first of, thanks for the read. It al starts with this girl I've been friends with since almost 8 years. We really didn't try things since we were always at different realtionships, but starting this year I kissed her and things changed between us and we couldn't deny there was always something.
Fast forward November, I don't really keep much contact between my exes but my last one decides to call me and we end up chatting a little ( nothing serious mostly just music) and she ends up posting a song I recommended her on her fb. Just to clear things up my friend and her aren't even friends and never were. So next day I end up seeming my friend pretty pissed about something (which happened to be the song I recommended and she happened to assume that I did recommend it to her, which in this case she was right) she got angry with me and lasted a few days like that. But she never told me the reason why, so I had to find out through some other friends.
We eventually ended up together again but last week the same thing happened and I since then haven't even had contact with my ex since I knew how things ended. I really care for my friend and I wish she could be the one. But things are starting to get pretty fucked up if she's gonna go stalking my ex and assume everything she posts is something about me or it was either a song or movie I didn't recommend.
I tried telling her the truth but she is very angry and I can't figure what to do. She said she wasn't even gonna mention it and that she would be ok in a couple of hours after seeing that. But here's where I wonder if somehow I was also wrong by trying not to clear things up and do all the explaining, since I hate this kind of drama and want to avoid it from happening again.
We're two grown adults, I seriously don't get why this drama is happening. She's known me more than anyone and she knows I would never cheat or do something like that. | girl I'm dating is paranoid but keeps stalking my ex and thinks everything she posts is about me, thus affecting us when we're doing fine. |
t3_4d6mfd | relationships | Me [18 M/F] with A girl [18 M/F] How to get over a girls past v2? | Okay I made a recent post on this same subjet and I kinda wanna ask again, but in a more simple way. Leave all the bullshit out and just ask it this way.
How do I get over this girl's ugly past of her sleeping with 8 guys since sophmore year. We're seniors now. She lost her virginity June of 2014. And has slept with 8 guys (4 relationships, other 4 being just for fun/heartbroken sex) and some of the guys that I have found out so far, are guys that I know. She doesn't do this anymore, but man it just bothers me that she's slept with so many guys in a short timespan and have slept with people that I know. As a 18 year old in High School, how do i get over this? | Girl with ugly past, doesn't do it anymore but has slept with 8 guys since sohpmore year. We're seniors now. How do I get over her sleeping with 8 guys? |
t3_42ulta | tifu | TIFU by trying to use Fallout dialogue as a pick-up line | Happened today believe it or not.
So I had an interview for a university course today, I won't say where it was or for what course, but it's the kind of industry which is dependent on who you know. For this reason, I decided that it'd be better to be too formal than too informal and wore a suit. It's worth noting that I had started playing Fallout 4 the night before and during the character creation, the man decided to repeat the following line:
*"Do I look handsomely roguish or roguishly handsome?"*
Fast-forward to this afternoon and I've been introduced to the other students who had interviews that day and I immediately hit it off with two girls. They knew each other and had come up as a pair, but we all got along really well.
Now here's where the fuck-up begins. One of the girls was drop dead gorgeous and the preliminary conversations had gone surprisingly well. It was at this point that I made an offhand comment about being overdressed, to which she replied with something along the lines of *"No, you look great"*.
Me being mindless took this as a sign of chemistry between us instead of common courtesy, so my response was a poorly misremembered version of the line from Fallout 4. I said this:
*"Do I look devilishly handsome or handsomely devilish?"*
I'd realised I had screwed up the line half way through saying it, but what I wasn't expecting was the hard slap on the face. She walks away and I'm left there feeling like a complete idiot with a sore face.
I asked her friend what I had done. Turns out she's *devoutly* Christian; perhaps a little overboard but it's not really my concern. Apparently my botched one liner was a sign that I was trying to tempt her into a life of sin... | accidentally mentioned the devil in a one-liner to a devout Christian. Result was less than pleasant. |
t3_3el8g5 | tifu | TIFU by trying to improve my gaming laptop | This was a couple months ago. I had just got my new ASUS ROG G751 from the states and I learned that I could get Windows 10 Pro if I already had 8.1 Pro. (I was running 8.1 Home). Luckily I did have a spare CD-key I bought 2 years ago for Pro and entered it in. Now is the F*** up. I used this key on my old computer. I enter the unique code in "Add more features" and it worked so I thought I was in the clear. The Pro features installed... Then when the OS rebooted, the dreaded blue screen appears, "This PC is not activated". I unnecessarily panicked thinking I just removed my licence and checked, in control panel, what was wrong with the key. "This key is being used on another PC". I had a plan, get the old computer and delete the licence in Windows then try again and now both computers have no licence and I have a useless CD-Key for 8.1 Pro lying around.
*I did contact help with Microsoft Answers and it wasn't helpful considering I stay in Botswana (in Africa)
*I "fixed" the issue on my main PC now using unconventional methods.
*The old PC is running the Technical preview now | Tried to upgrade my laptop to Pro, now my two computers have no Windows licence. |
t3_424vb9 | relationships | How do I [35 M] deal with an old friend [late 30s M] visiting who takes no initiative? | I have an old friend visiting from overseas. I really like the guy and we have great conversations, I'm really happy he's visiting and I know it's costing him time and money to do so. He's clearly investing in maintaining the friendship over the decades. I appreciate that and don't want to slack off on my end (I sometimes visit him in his country too). But, good lord, the guy has zero initiative.
He just wants to follow me around and do whatever I want to do. That's fine for a day or two, but over the course of a week-long international visit I start to despise him and just want to have my space and time to myself, instead of constantly having to host and entertain someone who comes up with no ideas for stuff to do, and has no desire to go do anything on their own.
When I visit distant places (including his city), I have a huge list of stuff I want to do, both on my own and with others. I throw out the option of following my hosts' plan, or entertaining myself, or bringing my host along on the stuff I've planned. I have ideas and try to be flexible, is what I'm saying. He's not me, and that's ok, but I've got to figure out a way to deal with him without resorting to murder.
I've tried directly asking him to come up with stuff to do, or find things for himself to do. No success. I just don't think it's part of how he approaches the world.
So, how do I survive the week without starting to hate my old friend? | How do I deal with an extended visit from an old friend who takes no initiative and just wants to follow me around? |
t3_1yks1x | relationships | Me [19] and my parents have started fighting a lot, its causing me a lot of stress and I'm worried I can't handle school due to it | When I was seventeen my parents and I would fight three or four nights in a week. These were huge arguments, screaming, they often got close to hitting me at points. Sometimes they would end in me being told "You're guaranteed to off yourself before you're 20, get it over with and save everyone the trouble."
Things have repaired since then. I've recovered my grades since that time and we stopped fighting. I started volunteering, got a part time job, and started majoring in engineering at my local school.
Now I'm living with them until I change schools in September. I don't have the finances to move out, and feel like its almost pointless when I'm so close to leaving the city.
Problem is that because I'm in school from 6:00-22:00, and working all weekend, I haven't been able to do dishes, clean the house, or make dinners (I don't even eat at home). This causes a lot of friction, and now I don't have time to sleep between the fights, am stressed out, and feel like I'm going back to the depression I had two years ago.
This summer i'll be living with them and working a couple part time jobs before moving. I literally can't handle this fighting. But if I tell them that they'll think I'm ungrateful and lazy, therefore requiring discipline. How do I get across that I need space and support rather than this constant negativity? | Parents are pressuring me and getting very angry at me. I can't handle this stress and don't know how to confront them about it without causing more trouble. |
t3_5307zv | relationships | [23F] Having trouble connecting. | So I guess I'm just wondering if what I am currently going through is normal for most people in their early 20's or if there is something wrong with me.
I move yearly for my job. It's a bit difficult because I have a very hard time connecting with people. I can probably count my friends on one hand. Does it typically take more than a year for people to develop a friendship?
Moreover, I'm not really interested in becoming friends with anyone I work with...but thinking that makes me feel like an asshole...but at the same time, I'm usually a good judge of people from just a couple interactions... and they all seem very different from me. Whenever I get invited out, I find myself waiting for a good moment for me to slip away so I can go home. Or standing awkwardly in the corner listening to someone's conversation.
I also don't have a significant other, and have only ever dated one person (over a year ago)...I can't say I was super in love with them...but being in a relationship was interesting and different so I stuck with it for a while... I haven't really sought another relationship since then, because it just seems like a hassle...
At the same time, I get lonely and wish I had someone around whom I could hang out and laugh and be comfortable with like I do when I'm hanging out with my best friend (whose a hundred miles away)... and I feel like I'm wasting my life locked up in my room... but at the same time, it takes so much energy to go out and try to socialize... | I have a hard time connecting with people/ wanting to be friends with people. Is this normal? Any protips? |
t3_35z85q | relationships | Me (27/F) developing feelings for a co-worker (26/M) during rough times with my boyfriend (29/M) and unsure what to do | Me and my boyfriend (9 months) used to have a great relationship, however things changed about a month ago when we had our first argument and hit a rough patch.
This also happened to be the same time that I began working with a new co-worker, who I got along great with. He was single but not looking for anything, and I was very happy with my boyfriend until that point and so hadn't even considered anyone else in a very long time (we were friends beforehand too). My new co-worker was great at cheering me up when I was feeling down about how things were going and managed to always be there for me - though I know that that's an unfair comparison because he of course sees me more or less every day whilst my boyfriend does not.
Over the last couple of days it's become clear to me that I'm beginning to develop feelings for my co-worker, and I know that he feels the same way. As for my boyfriend, we worked through the rough patch, for the most part, but parts of it definitely still linger. A particular tipping point is that I did break up with him shortly after the initial incident happened, but we both realised neither of us wanted that and decided we would try again - plus to his credit he has really listened to everything I had to say and has been working hard on improving the areas I mentioned, as have I.
I'm not sure what to do now - I've never been in a situation like this before. I can't deny that I have definite feelings for my co-worker, but I was also always completely happy with my boyfriend until this happened. I am not sure whether it would be better to spend more time or less time with him, and of course my co-worker has an advantage in that he seems me all the time. Normally I would distance myself from the other person, but in this case we are two of four people working on a project so that is not an option at all.
Help?! | During a rough patch with my boyfriend of a previously always happy relationship, began to develop feelings for a co-worker and am now not sure what to do. |
t3_wz9mf | AskReddit | Any advice on choosing when to be frugal and when not? | In the wake of a divorce, I'm starting over with not much more than a Ikea bed. He kept almost all the household stuff, but I have a new job and can afford to spend a little bit on myself in order to be comfortable and not feel like a broke college student. But what do I spend my money on, and where should I be frugal? Where's the biggest experience value for my buck?
Right now, my contemplations are focusing on a TV and plates and silverware, but I'm sure I'll start filling my new apartment up as I nest a bit. (If it matters, I'm a 40-something single female, starting over in a new town.) | Where are you really glad that you didn't buy bargain basement? What did you skimp on where it didn't make a difference -- or where it *did* make a difference? |
t3_1yehjr | tifu | tifu by cheating in social studies | This has been going on for a while. And it's not just me it's nearly the entire class. Anyway our social studies teacher gives us these things called chapter packets that go alomg with our textbook and we have a week to do them. They usually take a few hours to do. Piled on top of other schoolwork they can become a hassle. It was soon discovered that the key to every single packet is on scribd.com and soon me and the rest of the class was using this website to get our answers. This website literally allowed us to complete each packet in a matter of minutes. Well apparently the key for a certain part of the chapter 12 packet is wrong. Of course me along with the rest of the class all have the answers from the key. To our teacher it was plain obvious that we all cheated. He explained that hes known about the website since 2011 and every year chapter 12 is the turning point. He was not mad whatsoever, his only concern was that the packets have lost their utility. So now we are just going to start using a different book. He is such a nice guy and I just feel like a huge dick for taking advantage of him. | me and rest of class cheated repeatedly, teacher found out and we didnt get in trouble, feel like a huge dick |
t3_1l744y | loseit | Need help/ideas for my dad-sugar free and fat free | My dad recently went to the doctor for a checkup and had some blood tests done. The results are back and not looking good. My dad loves his junk food and snacks (ice cream, candy bars, etc.) and my mom is very much a cook from the box (hamburger helper, etc.) kind of cook. The nurse suggested that my dad go sugar free AND fat free for 2 months and return for another blood test. I really want to try and help my dad, but as someone with little health concerns, I don't know where to begin. Do any of you have suggestions of snacks and meals that fit the fat free and sugar free requirements? | Dad's health is declining, need recipes/food items that are both sugar free AND fat free. |
t3_29jqfx | running | Brand new or utterly battered: a shoe dilemma | I have a little bit of a dilemma, folks.
So, for the past week or so I've been noticing that my feet have been aching after each run. It's nothing partially drastic, but has been getting increasingly uncomfortable. After worrying about form and over-training for a few hours I checked my Strava stats and realised I've done well over 500 miles in my current shoes - a pair of Asics.
This seems like quite a lot.
Anywho, this means I'm looking to replace them. This isn't a question of what to buy, however - I'll be buying something nigh-on-identical - but when to switch them out.
You see, I've got a race in two weeks. It's only a 10k (as part of a tri), but I'm a little worried that my battered old shoes will slow me down or contribute to an injury. On the other hand, I'm not sure if it would be even worse to race on a pair with less than a fortnight's running in them. I know I'm a fool for not thinking about this in advance, but there's not much I can do about that now.
Any advice? | Is it better to race in battered shoes, or shoes that may not have been broken-in properly? |
t3_4nkxkm | relationships | [Infidelity] I (22M) overheard my girlfriend (21F) saying she likes another guy and wants to date him, but she still want to go out with me, and I still like her, what do I do? | Pretty much what you read up there, we dated January through March, but I kissed another girl at my mom's wedding and she broke up with me shortly after, then we dated again from April to May, but then she broke up with me, then again from last week to now. I've really ruined my relationships with my best friend(I kind of pushed him to the side when he was going through a rough moment) but I don't really care because I love her. I think we're going to have sex soon and that should fix the relationship, but I can't have sex with her knowing she might be thinking of another man, which I think because I heard her the other day loud and clear talking about it.
I love her, but I'm not sure how to handle the situation, I need someone to just listen to me and give me advice | New relationship with a girl I love, but she likes another guy I'm positive and I don't know what to do. |
t3_3vdl6g | tifu | TIFU by not letting a child missing all four limbs go down a water slide | This actually happened 2 years ago but there is no ifu2ya so I thought this would be a good place for it. I used to work at a family resort as a lifeguard and trained a bunch of the newbies that came in to work for the summer. Our resort had a water slide that emptied at the pool. I was training a new person how to dispatch people down the slide. When a little girl with no arms or legs just nubs(think Patrick Star)and water wings, managed to make her way up the stairs. Her dad was waiting for her at the bottom but for legal reasons we are not allowed to let him wait directly under the slide. I have to tell you that normally I would avoid the awkwardness and let her go down.(Hey she made her way up on her own) but since I was training I had to suck it up and ask her dad if she was ok to make the 10 feet swim without his help. The little girl poked her head through the railings and her next words broke my heart(I have never felt so low in my life)."daddy they won't let me go down!". Everyone who was waiting in line passed judgement on me as I walked down to talk to her dad. Who informed me that she could make the swim and at the same time let me know what I bitch I was for singling her out. She ended up going down with no problem and swimming to her dad. | I didn't let a littler girl with no arms or legs go down the slide in fear she might drown. Her dad called me a bitch and she swam fine... Still feel like shit to this day. |
t3_2imsuj | tifu | TIFU by making my teacher swear for possibly the first time | Hey there Reddit, I've been a big lurker and this is one of my favourite sub-reddits to browse and today I have fucked up. A little information, the catering course we have at my school is taught by my one and only teacher and we pretty much make food for others in the school and a little for ourselves majority of the time. Now my catering teacher doesn't swear, he does get angry at times but I think I've been the first one to make him swear without realizing it at first.
It was an average Tuesday morning, everything was going fine, we just finished making our food and started cleanup for our unit. We had a good amount of vegetables leftover and here's where I messed up, my partner walks up to me and asks "what should I do with this?", not paying much attention I replied with "throw it in the compost" because I thought it was the bowl with all the ingredients left over that would go in there, but I was wrong. What I thought was the compost was actually all the vegetables we had leftover which had our teacher come over to our unit and give us a lecture and at one point said "don't fucking waste this shit, I'll always collect whatever's left at the end". I didn't realize the mistake I made until I saw what was in the bowl and just sat there.
My teacher's nice, he's chill but he does get angry at times if appropriate. | Didn't pay attention to which bowl had the compost and ended up having my teacher yell at us while swearing for possibly the first time. |
t3_17w6d0 | relationships | [M24/F22] Couples who different schedules, how did you learn to adjust? (xpost from /r/relationship_tips) | Length of relationship: 1.75 years.
My girlfriend now works 2pm-11pm Monday-Friday. I work 6am-4pm Monday-Thursday, so we can only really see each other briefly Thursday night, briefly Friday morning, and on Saturday and Sundays... The last year we spent 95% of our days together because we had matching work schedules.
So... I now feel far removed from my best friend... and it sucks, it's surprisingly comparable to what I imagine withdrawal symptoms would feel like for someone quitting an addiction. Before her work schedule changed I thought it would be easier to adjust than this.
I guess what I'm looking for is some feedback from people who've been through similar situations. How did you cope at first? What made things better, what made things worse? I should clarify that we don't live together but are planning on moving together later this year (probably summer) | Girlfriend and I are having some trouble adjusting to her new work schedule, which has us spending a lot less time together than we're used to / than we'd like. |
t3_lpdw9 | AskReddit | Grounds for termination? Is this fair? | I have a crappy part time retail job that I am glad to have after being unemployed for months. Now they are ~~asking~~ requiring every employee to submit a bio of our "passion" (it's a sporting goods store, so sports or outdoor activities only). This bio includes two pictures, one of us doing our "passion" and one profile picture taken in the store by a cashier. Then they make it into a poster and put it on the sales floor. Thing is, I am a *very* private person and think I should have the right to opt out of this. I have only worked there a couple of months and don't want to get on the management's bad side or worse, get fired. So what do you think? If I reject their request will they fire me? Or should I just submit a total bullshit bio and go home and cry underneath my coffee table after every shift? | Corporate folk want to make a poster with my picture and a short bio and put it on sales floor. I am want to say no without fear of losing my job. |
t3_4lti6f | relationships | My friend 28 (28m) has cheated on his wife (28f) of 2 years and came to me for advice. | So my friend Ross has been with his wife Rachel for 8 years and married 2 of those years. He just told me today that he met someone from work and has been carrying on a relationship with her, Phoebe (36f), for 2 months.
He said that he has felt bored with Rachel and that she is more like his mom than his wife. They don't have much in common and are drifting apart.
They have a house and car together and Rachel has a child from a previous relationship.
Ross says that Phoebe and him connect in a deeper way and they have more in common.
I told him that he needs to ask himself where he sees himself in 5 years. If he wants to be with Rachel he should try couples counseling but if he wants to Perdue Phoebe then he should consult a lawyer to see how to proceed.
I don't know what else to say, I'd like for him to work things out with Rachel but right now he seems to be head over heels for Phoebe.
Right now he is drunk and passed out on my sofa because Rachel found out about Phoebe. | My best friend cheated on his wife and needs to choose between her and his mistress, I don't know what to say. |
t3_lexvj | dating_advice | Is it worth even going for? How long do I wait? | Ok, so I just started grad school about a month ago and am getting my PhD. I came into the program with 3 girls and all 4 of us get along really well. I have great rapport with all of them and we all hang out together most days of the week because we have the same classes/lab/etc. We also go out and do fun things on the weekends together as well.
Hanging out with these girls all the time, it was only a matter of time before I started having feelings for one of them. She is totally my type and I think we would be a good couple but there are multiple problems. First of all, because of our "group" and the fact that we're all going to be together for the next 4 to 5 years, I don't even know if it is smart to get involved with any of them... Secondly, she has a boyfriend of 6 six years that (as of recently) now lives two hours away. They've kinda been on again, off again for the last couple of months with the uncertainty of the distance, but she seems very much into him still.
So, reddit, what do I do? I'm thinking I should just bide my time, hope the distance is too much and they break up while exploring other options.... but still not totally sure.
Also, worth noting, I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship 6 weeks ago (first big love/relationship) and am still getting over it. | Like a girl, but we have to work together for the next 4/5 years and she has a serious LDR, worth even thinking about? |
t3_1jn4xm | relationships | My [F21] younger sister [F12] found porn on our father's [50M] computer, and she's very upset. | Throwaway account, obviously.
Ok, reddit, here's the deal. I'm currently out of town at a summer job, and I got a call from my sister [F19] today about our other sister [F12]. Apparently, the 12-year-old recently borrowed our dad's laptop and found the web browser open with a porn site up. She told my other sister about it, and she is apparently very upset and embarrassed.
She also mentioned that he is behaving really strangely regarding his laptop, i.e. immediately slamming it shut and hiding it whenever someone walks into the room. There was also an incident when I was younger where I caught him looking at porn.
My 19-year-old sister and I are unsure of what to do. I don't really care what my dad does with his laptop, but I do think it's inappropriate for him to be so careless and indiscreet about his porn-watching when he still has a young daughter at home. My youngest sister idolizes our dad and this is really disturbing to her.
So, what happens now? Do we say something to our father, or not? Should we talk to our mom [F50] (no idea if she knows/cares about the porn) about it? Since I'm not at home, any communication with my dad about this will probably go through my 19-year-old sister. | My dad's been looking at porn on his laptop, my 12-year-old sister found out, and she's very upset about it. My 19-year-old sister and I don't know how to handle this awkward situation with our father. |
t3_139dj8 | relationships | I've(19F) been fighting with my fiance(28M) over sex. | We've been together since May (6 months) and living together for one. We're looking to get married in about 2 years, once I've finished school.
The problem is that our sex drives don't match at all. I want to have sex as often as I can, while he prefers it maybe once a week, if I'm lucky. I'm sick of always fighting over it and going to bed angry. We've talked about sex a lot, but we never resolve the issue and I feel like he doesn't find me attractive. He is a good guy otherwise, although I know he's waiting for my birth control to kick in so my sex drive will go down. | Fiance doesn't want sex as often as I do and we don't know how to resolve it. |
t3_3d7n1u | relationships | I [25M] met someone online [25F], and when our chat started turning sexual, they informed me they were trans. | Title pretty much says it all. We had good chemistry. But its kinda a case where my expectations suddenly did not line up with reality. And I'm not sure how I, a straight male, feel about the situation. We had a date lined up and everything. But now the image I was building in my head is.....well, flipped on its head a bit.
I'm not 100% against the idea, but it feels like I kinda got dropped into it, without being aware of what I was getting into. And so now I guess I kinda feel this pressure of....well I dont want to be rude and just say no because she is trans. But it also feels like it was a bit misleading. Anyone know what I mean?
I guess its rude to ask about their...parts? but then I have no idea what like.....sex would entail.
I've been doing a lot of reading around on this and other sites about the topic, but it hasn't really been enough to clear things up for me one way or another.
so...help? | met a cute kinky [f] online. set up date, got to sexy chat. turns out shes a [mtf]. I am confused now. help? |
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