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t3_4rx7ti | relationships | I [17m] am having trouble figuring out what to do with girlfriend's [16f] strict uncles that are holding onto her past. | My girlfriend and I have secretly been dating now for a bit - about a month and a half- and we have gotten as far as kissing. We have been discussing and we are both ready for move onto more sexual things, but not sex, eg. Handjobs, etc.
The problem is that her uncles don't want her dating because she has been caught in the past doing sexual things with another guy, which doesn't bother me. What does bother me is that since she was caught, her uncles are very strict on her now and it makes it very hard for her to date or for us to go further in our relationship. I texted her and told her of three scenarios that I could think of: 1) She sneaks around her uncles again. 2) She asks them if we can date and if we can hang at eachothers houses 3) We have to break up because I don't want to have a hamper on our relationship.
I don't really know what to do in this situation. I'm just hoping her uncles will accept me; apparently they think I'm a nice guy. Any suggestions? | Girlfriends sexual past is making it hard for us to progress in our relationships and don't know how to proceed. |
t3_xifgw | relationships | Shit. Shit. SHIT. | I met the love of my life a few months ago. Today I found out I am pregnant. (I am going to the doctor first thing tomorrow to check again with a blood sample.) I am 22. He is 23. I don't want to scare him away - I really don't.
There's no way I can keep it, well there is, but it'll be hard. I'm middle eastern, my parents and extended family would rather kill me before letting me have an illegitimate child.
I'm terrified of telling him and having him change the way he treats me as a result. He knows my family are fucked up but I dont think he knows just how much. I don't want him to find out THIS way. Is not telling him about it at all and getting an abortion wholly immoral? Opinions needed desperately.
(To add insult to injury I suffer from polycystic ovaries so the fact I am pregnant at all is laughable and quite improbable, and yet here I am.) | I'm pregnant, my family are fucking insane, do I tell my boyfriend of several months? |
t3_30bcsj | relationships | I think my [28/M] girlfriend [26/F] might be completely void of empathy. Please read this conversation and let me know your thoughts. | Long story short, I'm pretty sure my girlfriend is incapable of showing empathy, and if she does, it's very shallow. I think I need more out of a girlfriend than she provides, but I want to run this conversation by you all so you can give me some honest 3rd party perspective.
Background needed for the conversation - My dog's name is Lilly, and I just saw a sign in my apartment complex about a girl who will watch your pets while you're out of town, so I told my girlfriend about it a few days ago.
ME (6:44) - Lilly just got attacked by another dog when I was walking her. A 15 year old girl was walking her boxer and he pulled the leash out of her hand. He ran up and bit her on the leg a few times before I could kick him hard enough to get him off her. He didn't draw blood, so I think she's OK. Thank god.
GF: (6:45) - Oh geez. Hopefully that's not the same girl that offers to watch dogs!
ME (6:46) - It was in the neighborhood behind our complex. They lived in one of those houses.
GF (6:47) - Oh
GF (6:47) - I'm at the gym! (3 celebratory, party-popper emojis)
I haven't responded to her yet. I need to know if her response was appropriate or not. She didn't say I'm sorry, or I'm glad you and Lilly are OK, or anything. I was really fucking shaken up by this attack, and I think I need my girlfriend to at least act a little more caring about me in general, but maybe I'm just overreacting. Can you please let me know what you think?? | Not sure if my girlfriend has enough empathy in her personality for my liking. Please let me know your thoughts on this conversation that just happened. |
t3_17s7m5 | relationships | Would you be okay with your SO going to a naked party without you? [23/m][22/f] | We've been dating for 1 year 8 months. In short, my girlfriend was in invited by a friend to a naked party next Thursday. I thought I would be invited as well, but she stated that I am specifically not invited. She did not explain why, but that it just was. She also said her ex boyfriend and another guy she hooked up with will be there as well.
I told her I am not comfortable her going if I am not going to be there, especially if it's a naked party. She kinda got pissed, saying I don't trust her.
In the 20 months we've been dating, we have never had a problem about trust or any sort of infidelity. I'm pretty sure something fishy is going on. She won't tell me anything else about what's going on, other that she is for sure going and I have to deal with it.
Her friends have never been a fan of me, stating that I'm too much of a goody two shoes for not drinking or smoking, that I need to man up on certain occasions. I usually tell them to piss off. One of them got really drunk and tried to fight me one time, but I was able to disable him before anything escalated. She said it was a one time thing and it'll never happen again. I told her to try to cut these people out of her life because they've been nothing but trouble for us. She said she's trying to distance herself from them, knowing they're pieces of shit, but after hearing about this event, maybe I'm the one who shouldn't trust her.
So reddit, what would you do in this situation? Personally I may have to cut my losses if she can't even have a conversation about this, considering my feelings and what not. | girlfriend was invited to a naked party, I was specifically not invited, not given a reason. |
t3_odvdv | AskReddit | Reddit, I don't know what to do. | I need your help Reddit.
I was recently in a car accident where the other driver was at fault. They turned through a stopped lane of traffic turning into a parking lot and hit me in the second lane. Their insurance agency accepted fault for the accident. They arranged for me to get a rental car and are paying for the auto body repair at the shop my dealer recommended.
Now here is where I ran into a problem. I have limited liability insurance on my car because I worked like a boss and saved my money up and paid for it out right so I would not go into debt. I took the risk of not covering the cost of damage to my car for when I am at fault because I have a clean record of driving and am willing to replace my car with a Junker if I wreck it. The amount I have saved not covering my car is enough to buy a replacement car. Anyways, when I picked up the rental car that the at fault insurance company (American Family) paid for, I had to sign for the coverage that the rental company (Enterprise) offers, and is $13 a day, since I do not have full coverage. Makes since. I contacted the at fault insurance company (American Family) and explained this to them and explained that this expense is a result of the accident that their client caused and that they should take responsibility. They flat out said they understand why they should pay for it but they do not have to. My car will not be out of the shop for another 2 weeks and I will end up getting stuck with a $300 and something bill for the insurance.
I am a student and just paid for classes and have to pick up books this week and can not afford this. Please tell me if I have any options. Is there anyway i can get them to pay for this?The logic of how they can get away with out paying for this escapes me. By the way, my insurance company pays for rental insurance when their client is at fault. | American Family Insurance is screwing me with a $300 bill for rental insurance that was needed due to their client hitting my car. |
t3_2soyve | relationships | Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] 5 months. She hid pictures of us on FB. Questioned why and then she broke up with me. | So I had one picture of me and my ex that I uploaded to FB after NYE. It's the only photo we had together on any social media. She ended up hiding the pic, and when I asked her why she said it was because of her ex.
She said she broke up with him and hurt his feelings. This picture would devastate him and she still cares. She swore up and down that she would never get back with him and thinks I'm sexy funny, treat her well etc. Anyways I'm not buying it and suspect something is up. So we argue about it for awhile.
She kept reducing it to me being immature about FB, when I was saying it was more about her hiding a picture and having lingering feelings for her ex.
So we have been distant. We just got together over the weekend. We had sex which counts cause it felt passionate. In the morning we got breakfast, and when she was leaving she said she already missed me etc.
Two days later she was being weird. Distant. I asked her what was up and she said she felt she wasn't ready for a relationship. I feel that there might be another guy and it may be her ex I am not sure. I know the Ex through FB. Should I contact him and ask him whats up since things between me and her are over?
She just told me she needs space etc, and that its hard for her. | Girlfriend of 5 months left me over one argument. I think she's still in contact with her ex. Should I call the guy and just have a conversation, or is that crazy? |
t3_3r8ja6 | personalfinance | Can a total noob make money through the Stock market? | Hi there,
I'm a recent Computer Science Grad in London, England who's down on his luck at the moment. After having hundreds or job rejections, I'm on a path to work on many tech projects to get better experience in my field and to make myself more attractive to Employers. In the mean time I can't seem to get a part time job either. I apply to some everyday and will continue to apply to them until some employer decides to hire me.
So I wanted to know if trading is a reasonable option for me. I know a lot of people say they trade in their free time so I thought it would be a good idea to give it ago. I have some money I can spare, but I don't know if you need a huge amount to begin with, maybe Penny Stocks or something? Something small to start of with to test the waters?
Any help or advice is appreciated! | Recent graduate looking to see if trading is an option while hunting for a job. |
t3_1gpxjz | relationships | my [26/f] boyfriend [28/m] of one year isn't over his dead ex-gf | I've been seeing my bf for about a year. a couple months into it, we were talking about exes. I knew that a girl he had dated for a while died in a car accident before we started dating (same friend circle) but it was a while ago about 5 years. since then I've caught him crying while having pics of her up on his phone. he talks about her alot and when we fight (kinda alot) hell tell me why can't I be like her etc.
but earlier today, I caught him j/oing to a sex video of them together. I am very hurt.
what do I do? I love him and want to marry him and help him. what do I do? | bf not over dead ex, still crying and j/oing about her |
t3_1npj7p | relationship_advice | [24/m] I had a first date with a girl [23/f] and really hit it off. She wasn't sure about us. Should I pursue her? | So I met this girl on an online dating site. We were texting for about a week and she was really interested. Then we met for our first date and it went great! She was easy to talk to and we had so much in common. We connected very well. Or so I thought. After the date she said she didn't think it could work. But she wasn't too certain. So I tried to arrange a second date to talk things out. I guess I was too pushy and it put her off. So she finally made the decision that it wouldn't work.
So it's been a week later and I'm still thinking about her. I know we would be great for each other, and believe we could work through the concerns she has about us. So can I ask her to give me another chance? How would I do this without coming off as annoying, creepy, or desperate? Or should I just give up and move on? | Met a girl online, she said it wouldn't work, I think we are perfect for each other. What do I do? |
t3_1ma7hw | offmychest | Update: It was a false positive, I DON'T have HIV. | Here's my [original post] from six days ago. I was initially a bit freaked out when my doctor told me, but I like to think I held it together pretty well afterward. I went to a Blink-182 concert with my youngest sister for her 18th birthday, I hung out back home with my mom, I was really relaxed and felt good. I wasn't really thinking about it.
Anyway, I *finally* get a call this morning from my doctor... however, I'm still sleeping so I miss it. She leaves a voicemail telling me to call her back and says it's "good news." She tells me both tests (I'm assuming the Western Blot and I'm not sure which the other is) came back negative. I asked why the initial screening came back as positive but she had no answer because she didn't know. Regardless, this is really, really good to hear. However, she wants me to get re-tested in 3 months just to be sure.
As much as I tried to hold it together, I did have my freak out moments -- generally late at night when I was alone. Thinking about getting in touch with guys I had been with in the last 9 months. How I wouldn't explain this to them. How I was in the final stages of an overseas job and that I likely wouldn't be approved for a work Visa if I had HIV and how I'd have to explain to friends and family. There were definitely times where I felt super overwhelmed.
So I guess this was a wake-up call. I mean, I kept thinking how I could have possibly gotten this because I trusted every guy I had been with and I don't do drugs. Regardless, I promise to absolutely be safer and smarter about everything moving forward.
And finally, thank you to everyone who messaged me or commented on my original post. You're support and kindness has probably helped renew some faith I thought I had lost when I thought I had contracted HIV by sleeping with someone I trusted. | Screening test said I had HIV, other tests proved otherwise. Lesson learned moving forward. |
t3_jdrl3 | AskReddit | Why is it that when OBL was killed America's youth was celebrating in the streets, but when Seal Team Six and a total of 38 special forces servicemen were killed when their Chinook was shot down, America's youth doesn't even mourn the loss? | Honestly, fuck the MSM for not giving this story enough attention. Fuck the administration for trying to paint this tragedy in a positive light. Fuck this war.
We are losing the best people in our entire country, fighting a war that will never be truly 'won', and the average American either 1) doesn't take the time of day to care or 2) despises the Afghani people as a result of cultural bigotry and American hubris.
The deaths of over 100,000 civilians are the direct result of our interventionist foreign policy in the Middle East in the last decade alone. Our blood lust is epitomized by the celebration of Osama's death, and our defunct moral compass is epitomized by the utter silence of the Anti-war movement in this country.
WAKE THE FUCK UP. | If people put as much effort into mourning death as they did celebrating it, we might have a legitimate anti war movement. |
t3_qawed | AskReddit | My Girlfriends Macbook was stolen in NYC today... Anyway to track it? | My Girlfriends Macbook was stolen in NYC today. She's leaving on a plane tomorrow morning, any tips from the reddit community on a way to track it?
Basically she's on a work trip, and was staying at a hotel. She left her bag in the hotel for 12 hours, then picked up her bag this morning (without looking in it), went to work, then after work went to a restaurant for a final meetup with friends. So from my understanding she left it at the Hotel for 12 hours, and then this upscale restaurant which holds bags, coats and items in a locked back room for customers. She left it in this room while she was having dinner for an hour. 1 Hour.
Anyone who solves this will get a free copy of the game "Clue" by the way.
She said the Restaurant was very nice in dealing with the situation after she realized it was gone, but the Hotel was a bit shady. It's not about the money, it's about the huge amount of pictures she had taken over the last few months, she's a photographer so it really hits home. Granted she does have some saved as backup, about 2,000-3,000 pictures are now lost, unless there is some way it can be tracked?
On my laptops I have a GPS locating program, but I never thought to put it on hers, until of course something like this happens and it's too late.
Wondering if anyone from the reddit community might know of a way to track her laptop? | Girlfriend got her laptop stolen in NYC, anyway to track it? |
t3_3hpf7q | relationships | Me [22M] with my girlfriend [20F] duration 2 years, she thinks I cheated because chlamydia | Alright so here's my situation. I cross posted with r/std but going by the size of this subreddit I'm hoping more people can help.
I've been with my girlfriend for some time. We have been long distance for most of it. I recently got word that a previous hook up found she has chlamydia so I should get a test, lo and behold it came up positive.
Now I've had my test, passed the word on, got my treatment so things are on the up I suppose. My girlfriend got her medication today but doesn't know if she has it yet. (I would have to expect she does). The issue is she had a full test a few months ago when she got a uti; this involved the full testing suite (blood urine and swab).
She came up negative back then. Because of this she thinks I must have cheated on her (which I suppose is justified statistics wise). I didn't, but I also don't have much experience with this and can't explain it?
I know she was on antibiotics for the uti about a week or so before that test, and the test was taken about two weeks after we had a visit for a few days (full contact).
So: I feel a false negative is unlikely with that thorough of testing? Would antibiotics for a uti suppress it? She finished them at least a week before the test. Is it possible to cure it naturally? Or with uti antibiotics? She doesn't know what the active ingredient was, penicillins seem to be the most common for uti's.
Any insight would be very useful, to say you didn't cheat but have no alternative explanation is not a good position to be in. | I gave my girlfriend chlamydia and she thinks I cheated. I didn't. Looking for a possible explanation |
t3_1hiw2v | legaladvice | Help me get out of a non-compete in Florida! This company is very shady. | I work for a pest control company in Florida. When I was hired I had to sign a non-compete agreement. I don't know the specifics but I know it said that I can't start my own company or be a managing partner of a competing company for 2 years after my date of separation. There was also something about not competing within 3% of their market. IIRC
My employer is slowing turning to shit. They no longer pay be the agreed rate when I was hired. (We're commission only.) There is a great deal of nepotism and I strongly feel that this company is doing things that are unethical and borderline illegal.
I do not want to be a part of this company but I really enjoy what I do so I would like to start my own business in the same state.
How binding are non-competes in Florida and what is my best approach to leaving this company and voiding that agreement. Once again, I still work there so I'm exploring my options. | My current employer is getting shady. I need out but want to keep working in this field. |
t3_4s08d3 | relationships | My ex cheated and the residual wounds and insecurity are ruining my current relationship. Need guidance! | I'm F/32, Many of my past relationships ended because I had been cheated on and my significant others had moved on with someone else after having relationships behind my back. Recently I was in a very long term relationship (M/33) (11 years) and last year i found out he had been seeing another girl behind my back for 2 years. It near wrecked me and I didnt know how to handle it. Once he began to treat me differently, put me down and pick apart my every flaw, and the relationship went south I made the decision that the relationship was doing more harm than good and i decided it was time to move on and focus on myself and my own life. Recently I've met another man that is a complete change in pace from what i have been used to, we have a wonderful time together and get along magically. We've known each other for a few years but decided we are going to take it to the next level and be exclusive. After month of the honeymoon phase and being in heaven with our new relationship i feel as though we're settling into a comfort zone but that seems to be triggering insecurities about my past relationships. A couple of things have happened to put a little down in my mind with him like some inappropriate comments from old girlfriends that he still talks to and although he assured me he has, just cant let go of communicating with them, but he hasnt pursued anything aside from talking to them. Part of me feels as though he's not that kind of man to follow suit like all the rest in my past, but my gut still feels like i HAVE to worry for some reason. I feel so paranoid and cant help but wonder, "what if it's going to happen again?" i dont think my heart can take it.
So thanks to these insecure feelings and doubt thats almost preprogrammed to feel when i see him on the phone or hiding mesages on the computer, i feel like if i cant figure out a way to overcome my own insecurity and all these doubts, ultimately, ILL be the one to ruin this relationship when there may be nothing to worry about in the first place to begin with. | I know I need to build my own self esteem, work past the wounds left from my previous relationship, and change my way of thinking about my current relationship before i bring it to an end because of that. Any advice or help in ways to do that are so so appreciated and needed. I really want to make myself better and make this relationship the best it can be. I know how special he is and id hate to lose him because of my own inner demons. |
t3_3uv19o | tifu | TIFU by leading my entire school in the wrong direction | First some background information: I go to a school that has both a middle school and high school. Every other week there is an entire school assembly where both the middle school and high school pack into the theater for announcements. A couple of weeks ago the fire marshal came by and said that having all 700 students and teachers in our small theater was a fire hazard. Because of this the next all school assembly was moved to the gym.
Today is the day that we have an all school assembly. As I have a free period right before the assembly starts I was able to be the first person at the theater. As I got to the theater I remembered that the last assembly had been in the gym and then said, "wait shouldn't assembly be in the gym today?". I turned around and headed towards the gym, which is on the opposite side of the school from the theater. People saw me going to the gym and began to follow me. I soon had the entire middle school and most of the high school as well as most of the teachers following me to the gym. We got to the gym and the door was locked. The entire school kind of sat around for 20 minutes waiting for someone to unlock the door. At this point all of my friends were talking about how pissed they were that we had to wait so long and how much trouble I would be in if this turned out to be incorrect. Then a teacher came by and said that the assembly was in fact in the theater.
We went back to the theater and finished the assembly and were all late for our next classes. I am now waiting for my friends to spread this around the school and to become known as the person who sent the entire school to the wrong place. | Made almost every single student and teacher in the school go to the wrong place in the school and caused people to be 20 minutes later for the next class |
t3_30fhbq | relationship_advice | I'm not looking for love, and neither is my email address. | Background: Back in 2004, I locked down my gmail account simply as my name (an adult move wise beyond my years), and as I got older I believed I had won the gmail lottery given that both my names are so common. However, to this day, I constantly get emails that aren't for me, usually to my address except without the period between my first and last name (which I learned from gmail's handy FAQ will come to me anyway since gmail doesn't actually recognize punctuation). These emails include some professional emails with super sensitive personal information (Re: death in the family, lease agreements, political campaigns, crime spotter alerts, online shopping loyalty programs, everything imaginable...) so I sometimes feel obliged to write back and inform them their recipient is a failure at life and can't even adult. Usually thats an unanswered possible waste of my time, but who knows how many emails and legal conundrums I avoid that way. New emails come and go, but my filter settings are dialled in, life goes on. Since my name doesn't have alternate spellings and these emails are not just spam, I'm just always left wondering if they're too dumb to know they won't get the email or do they really just not realize? Is my name just synonymous with "I can't even adult" or are these person(s) so dumb they are trolling themselves?!
Today... though. Today... was exceptional. This evening I started getting emails from Plenty of Fish every 5 minutes for each message received to the account, starting with a registration email. Curiosity to know who was behind all this got to me and I learned this was the work of a full blown 45 year old adult. And then I realized, there it was: my chance to actually tell this person off! I reset the password, logged in and unsubscribed, but I realized she would never be able to log back in and never know why. So, I wrote a short and sweet message directly on her profile that's probably more than a little humiliating. Heh.... feels so good. | You're not ready to find love until you find your own email/name. I did it for your own damn good! |
t3_2zuwmf | tifu | TIFU by mentioning what an IED is. | First off this didn't happen today as it was in school, but never the less still IFU.
In class I was wearing a Casio watch, more specifically one of the older 90's ones. Later someone notices and struck up a conversation about it. Eventually we start talking about other watches such as the Gshock and what not. I start talking about how cool the older Casios are because they're cheap and can be used for electronic projects to trigger something with alarm timer. Wanting to show an example I show him this image on my phone and explain how some terrorists use them for improved explosive devices. Later a teacher over hears and asks how I know this. Now I feel like I need to talk my way out of being interrogated for terrorism. So I thought my knowledge of how to make an explosive device was bad ass at first, but ended up with me in an awkward situation. | Teacher thought I was going to make a Casio bomb |
t3_1ojv6t | relationships | Me M/20 and a F/20 at a party? Need advice. | Hi reddit first time posting here. So I M/20 got invited to a dancing lessons by a F/20 who I have known for a while. We have been talking and have both made it obvious we have a thing for each other. Both of our families know each other and we have a history. So she invites me to this dancing party that is around 35 min from my house. So I made the drive to hang out with her and practice dance lessons.
When I get to the dancing lessons she doesnt answer my calls to see if she is there. I look around for around 30 min till I find the place. When i get there i obviously dont know anyone and start looking for her. When I get there her and her sister are outside and she walks me in but then sends me to another group and walks away to another group. The rest of the night I see her talking and laughing with other guys. Soo I stay for about another hour until I get bored and tell her I am leaving with gets a casual bye! from her.
I was pretty upset at the time. I made the effort to go to this place to hangout with her but am completely ignored. I text her a couple days later and tell her that I really didnt like the way she treated me and I tell her to move on. She claims that the whole thing was a misunderstanding. I am wondering if I was overreacting or was my anger justified in some way? Thank you for the advice. | Guy gets invited to dancing lessons and is ignored by the girl he went to see. |
t3_1uxpyd | relationships | Me [21F] my boyfriend [22M] of 2 years broke up with me, I'm having trouble with no contact | We broke up a few weeks ago, we were each others first loves and first real relationship. He was my best friend the person I would talk to about everything. I am having a really hard time with no contact. We talked alittle after the break up a few text messages, sometimes a call, we talked about being friends still (which is important to me). But now he is trying to completely not talk to me. Won't respond to any text even if they are important. I know I shouldn't be trying to talk to him but I am really worried that if we completely stop talking then we will never be friends and I will lose him from my life. I feel like just because we didn't work out as a couple doesn't mean we still can't be friends.
I really miss him being in my life. Help! I feel like because he isn't responding now I am getting more upset about everything.
I feel like a mess :( I never wanted to lose my best friend. | I lost my best friend, and I am having trouble not contacting him, mainly because he won't respond anymore. |
t3_40slui | running | Is my speed right on the treadmill? | Ok, so I'm a newbie runner. 30 yr old. Last year I spent a couple months running, but never made any real progress and gave up too early. This year, I'm committed to sticking with it.
When I started running this year, I found that around 6mph on the treadmill was "comfortable" for me. The pace felt normal, but I'd get very winded at a little under a mile and my heart rate was almost 200 on my first run. Subsequent runs shows a slight increase in distance before getting winded, but nothing over a mile, and my heart rate was at about 187-190 by the time I'd slow down. I chalked this up to being ridiculously out of shape, which of course is partially true.
Fast forward to yesterday. I read the sidebar in this sub and found a post indicating that I shouldn't be winded, and if I am it's because I'm running too fast. I reduced my speed to 5.5mph during last night's run and...whoa. I ran over 2 miles straight without getting seriously winded. I felt like I could probably keep going, but didn't want to push myself too hard. My heart rate was 180, yet I just ran so much further. I was astonished that such a small speed change could have that effect.
As a beginner runner, should I continue to adjust the speed to find a spot where my heart rate is even lower than this? Should I have stayed at a higher intensity? My initial goal is to run a 5k without walking at all, and yesterday I did it with only one short walk in the middle of my run. Goal after that is 5k in 31 minutes (hence the initial 6mph speed). | Slowed my running speed, running much further with lower heart rate. Am I doing it right? |
t3_1yufvw | relationships | [21 M]: Are my standards for personality too high (or is my personality not in line with young women)? | I've only been not single for 11 days out of my life (my memory is very strong is mostly why I remember that, besides the point). It wasn't until meeting/getting to know her I realized that the interest I had in other girls beforehand wasn't entirely genuine, just a byproduct of being emotionally lonely. She was and is one of the greatest people I've ever known.
What I want out of a partner is a high level of intelligence (because I have a high-level of intelligence, I want a partner that is challenging/interesting), a great sense of humor (again, because I do, and I greatly value humor in my life), and someone with an otherwise compatible personality (honest, responsible, open-minded, emotionally mature, sensitive, understanding, etc).
But as I go through life, I just don't meet people that I feel compatible with. Like maybe two people other than my ex. It's immensely frustrating and disheartening, and I'm amazed my hope has held up through all of it. I wish I didn't care about relationships, but really, it's the only aspect of my life that isn't where I want it (that I'm not actively working towards attaining).
It is probably arrogant to say, but based on my personality, I shouldn't be single. I just have what must be high standards if I'm not meeting the right person. Is it because I generally don't feel I belong in my age group (maturity wise)? Am I just over-estimating how much success I should have? Or is my personality just not compatible with young women?
I'm in an environment (college) where I'd expect to meet SOME intelligent young women. I'm a very open guy, and outgoing in my own atypical way. | I don't meet girls I feel kindred with. Why might that be? |
t3_jz4pp | self | I did great today , C-Section in 37 seconds !! | My nurse just told me that the last emergency c-section only took 37 seconds really proud of myself and the team, What a great day :D
wooha | it was a case of cord prolapse , and 37 seconds indicates time from incision to the baby being out of the uterus |
t3_32ngg8 | tifu | TIFU by obliging... | This story correlates with my comment on [TIFU by asking out a girl.](
[My comment...](
Anyways, subsequent to the event stated in the comment, we aren't anything serious however the sexual tension is definitely real. Whatever distance-shenanigan-bullshit we used to do has now escalated into something that is absolutely not workplace-friendly but we don't give a fuck because yea. We don't. Now for the sake of this one, I'm going to call her *Hurricane Command Megazord.*
So, there I am, making my way past the front end of the store when suddenly Hurricane Command Megazord comes around and asks me to walk with her into the store warehouse. "Well of course, Hurricane Command Megazord! I'd love to!" We go into the back, flirt, and do the did-don-doo (you can interpret that however you want to) and out of the warehouse I went with an erection. I pull the good ol' waistband technique but it's a futile attempt in my all too fitting work pants which clearly reveal the relative shape of my shaft snaking up into the waistband of my Dickies pants.
Co-workers see. Co-workers laugh. Such is life. | Hurricane Command Megazord gave me a boner; noticed by my co-workers. |
t3_mqg08 | AskReddit | Reddit what piece of clothing are you most attached too? | When I was seven I met a ski instructor while at a Club Med over winter break, we got to talking and he told us how he was an avid knitter, fast forward to the last day of the trip and he told us that because we had been so nice to him (tips and such) he would be sending us something soon. A few months later when I had completely forgot about his offer, we received a large box in the mail. Inside of it were a set of gloves, a hat, a set of earmuffs, and slippers. I only have the earmuffs left, but there are without a doubt the coolest things I own and I always get compliments when I where them. | Manly ski instructor turns out to be an amazing knitter. |
t3_2xnsyl | offmychest | It hurts, it just hurts... | As this subreddit says, I have to get this off my chest, I'm not really willing to tell this to my family or to any friend, as it may just sound ridiculous.
I dated a girl like 2 years ago, but we of course ended breaking up. I don't how to put this, she was my real first love, I mean I had dated a few girls before, but it was just "meh"...
We stayed together like 6 months, only 6 fucking months. After 2 months of dating I had to go abroa d for a few months, but when I came back, she fell ill, i'll pass on the details but she was late because she missed a lot of school, her parents wouldn't let us see each other very often too...
It went on for 4 months until the day she broke up with me, by fucking text message !
Yeah it's been almost 2 years... and I still can't get her off my mind, it's just ridiculous. I learned to live with it, I thought I was moving on, I ended up thinking a bit less about her.
Until a few days ago, I went to check on her facebook (what kind of fool would do that huh...?) and here they were, pictures of her and her new boyfriend. And you know what ? It stings, like someone had buried a wooden spike in my chest, I almost threw up when I first saw it.
And that's it. I'm getting sick about all this. I can't forget how we could have been a little longer together If she hadn't fallen ill, that we could have kept our way together for a bit more until it was time to part, but it was too soon, not like that, not this way. It is a huge waste of feelings... | I was in love with a girl who dumped me, I was starting to forget her until I saw picture of her with her new boyfriend. |
t3_e7h3r | cats | Young, live alone. Should I get a Cat? | I've had a cat since I was a child. She was incredibly awkward and impossible to walk up to (due to some trauma experienced as a kitten), but I still loved her a lot. Unfortunately, the cat has moved to Brussels with my mother and her partner, when she has been transferred as part of a job promotion.
I miss my cat as I miss having a cat. Things have changed, though. Nowadays I live alone. I'm gone for most of the day, having a job two times a week and university classes for the remaining three.
On weekends I usually go to my hometown to do the laundry (I can't afford a washing machine in my apartment).
Can I get a cat? Someone was always there to take care of her, when I wasn't home. On the other hand, I know how self-reliant cats can be - mine sometimes embarked on two-three day-long journeys, only to return and sleep for another couple of days.
Another thing that has changed - I live in the city center now. Like, the CENTER center. Warsaw's #1 tourist spot. I never see any cats around.
Do the tourists eat them? No clue. | live alone, juggle having a job and attending university classes as well as a lot of parties, live in the city. Should I/can I get a cat? |
t3_46ibq2 | relationships | I (31m) am going to break up with my girlfriend (24f) and she isn't going to see it coming | We've been dating 2 years, and have been drifting apart for the last 6 months or do since she moved about an hour and a half away.
But in reality I've been unsure about this relationship since she went to rehab for alcohol about a year ago. (she's still clean btw) I didn't break up with her then because I didn't want to make a difficult time worse. I do love her but I can't see her as my lifelong partner. I've come to realize that she wants to move forward in our relationship, move in together, probably marriage and what not and I don't. Not with her at least.
If we stay together I'm just going to be stringing her along until I find something better and that's not fair to her. I know it will be painful for her but it'll be worse if I keep it up.
So I guess the question is, how should I go about it in the most painless way? I have always been bad with break ups. | been with someone 2 years. It's not working, she doesn't know. Want to gently break up with her and need advice. |
t3_3tyetb | dogs | [Vent] My dog has a limp | I'm a worrier and just want to get this out. I recently posted about my dog not eating well. Now it seems he has a limp. He was probably not eating due to pain/not feeling well, but had no outward signs at the time. Now he needs to go back to the vet. I'm really hoping it's just a strain or a sprain. It appears to be his rear left leg.
It's just...this is how it started with my other dog. She needed very expensive orthopedic surgery to fix her elbow at just over a year. Started with a nearly imperceptible limp, then arthritis, surgery, rehab etc. Yay
He has insurance, but they're slow to respond to anything. I knew I should have switched carriers waaay back. I thought I had a healthy dog, but now I'm not sure.
Rawr; end rant | It's probably just a sprain |
t3_1h3usf | loseit | NSV: Danced for 8 hours at a rave, plus aggressive guy got what was coming to him! | Hey guys! So I've lost just about 42 pounds so far, I'm 5'10", started at 287, down to 245 or so in about 3 months. You guys are awesome for motivation! Keep it going!
This past Sunday, I attended the Benny Benassi rave in NYC, and I was somewhat worried that I wouldn't be able to stay on my feet for the entire show. I don't know why I did, it was no problem!
It's also a good thing I have been working on my squats because since I was taller than a lot of people there, tons of girls wanted to get on my shoulders as well. ;)
But the icing on the cake (mmm cake) was the fact that an aggressive, larger dude (probably rolling face) kept trying to push me out of my spot and away from all the girls around me, and even though he had about 50 pounds on me, he couldn't move me. Eventually a bouncer came and threw him out. All this strength training and exercise is really paying off! | Work on your gains, get girls at raves. |
t3_498nis | relationships | I [23F] have been acting as therapist for my two friends [23F & 22M]. How to tell them it's my turn to have a shoulder to cry on? | I have a small but close-knit group of friends that stick together through everything. But I feel like I'm being taken advantage of emotionally by my two friends who are currently going through a tough time. Nora just broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years. Of course it's awful, of course I am desperately heartbroken for her, but she has slept over in my home for 6 days at this point, and I'm emotionally exhausted. She's weepy and I haven't been able to get any work done whilst she's been here. I want to be there for her, but I'm struggling to find empathy.
Likewise with my friend, David. He's having problems with his depression. I have found him a free counsellor, driven him to appointments and allowed him to cry of my shoulder when he's drunk. It seems like I've just become his emotional sounding board. He comes over in the evening when he's feeling miserable, but goes out with other friends when he's having a good day. I find it hard not to feel hurt that I'm his friend that will be there in tough weather, but not the good. Of course I do it because I love him. I love them. So hard. But I'm emotionally drained.
My problem is that I feel like I can't actually talk to either of them about things happening in my life. I'm drowning under the weight of my final graduate year, and have recently had to move back in with my parents. I feel like I could break down into a crying mess at any second, but I have to stay strong and not voice my hurt because it seems like I'm just trying to one-up their (really terrible) problems.
I know it sounds like they're taking advantage of me in other ways, too but I love these people to death, they are my friendship Soulmates. I just don't know how much longer I can keep my shit together under the weight of theirs. What do I do, Reddit? | Emotionally drained by my friend's problems. How do I approach them about reciprocating and attending to my emotional needs as well? |
t3_4y8znb | relationships | I really don't know how to title this I just need help with my relationship | I[m20] have been living with my "gf"[f20] for about a 10 months. We had been going out for 4 years before this . I live with her and we are currently living in her parents house. We broke up about a month before I moved in. The reason I moved in is because I had got into a fist fight with my dad . I have been living with her and things have going good . I got a job it pays decent and I'm trying my best to get a better one to move out with her. I love this girl she feels like she is the one for me . When I'm at home I try to clean and do things but recently her parents have been complaining that I don't do anything and that I'm useless . I took it as a sign to get out and take her with me . I have been working and trying to find a better job . I also do a lot of stuff for her like make her food and buy her gifts and clean up after her . I feel like I treat her like a princess. But sometimes she treats me so bad she calls me useless and makes fun of me calls me a girl because I cry . It hurts a lot especially coming from someone I love a lot and I just break down and she continues to make fun of me . I really love her but it's gotten to the point where I feel like shit and I can't handle it anymore I feel like dying. I don't know what to do . And I want to just go back with my parents but I have a lot of things like credit opened under both our names and I am primary holder and I know if leave I want to cut her off completely but I don't have anyway if I have to ask her for the money for it . I really don't know what to do I just need some advice I want her but I know it's just toxic . Help please | I'm stuck in a shitty relationship with no exits. |
t3_dzt8v | relationship_advice | Should you discuss the ex's with the current? | I'm in my mid 20's (male) and dating a younger woman. We've been dating for a few weeks now and I had mentioned in passing an old ex of mine (who is now married with a kid and I am still friends with), and she stopped me and said she didn't want to know about any of my past relationships and didn't want to talk about hers. The problem is I was married for 4 years (been divorced for 6 months and separated for almost 2 years) and I figured that would be something I would have to explain. I'm not secretive about being divorced and our mutual friends know about it, but I don't think I have even mentioned it when she was around, so I'm not 100% that she even knows I was married.
My other concern is that she is hiding something she doesn't want to talk about and that it will come out later and cause issues. Then again, I may have one of the best girlfriends ever. Thoughts? | GF doesn't want to talk about ex's at all and I'm divorced. Problem? |
t3_yr7h4 | relationships | My fiancé never seems to want to have sex anymore. | Recently, I (24m) have been trying to face the issue of my fiancé (25f) not wanting to have sex.
First I want to note that NO she isn't cheating. This is something other than infidelity. Also, we recently got engaged and we are happy in EVERY other aspect, so I'm pretty sure it's not her not wanting to be in the relationship anymore.
She doesn't really seem to want sex anymore. If I'm lucky we do it once every two weeks or so. I've tried to talk to her about this a few times, but she just gets annoyed and says that it makes her not want to do it even more.
In the beginning she always wanted it. Multiple times a week. She would even initiate a lot of times. She was more affectionate and made me feel like she wanted me.
As of the past two months she barely ever wants to have sex. She never initiates and is barely affectionate. When I try and "make a move", I'm almost always shot down. When I try and voice my desires she says it's a "turn off".
On the other side of the issue, she seems to always be "in the mood" when I'm not there or I've fallen asleep. Also, I know she pleasures herself, and that bothers me sometimes but ONLY because I don't understand why she pleasures herself so much when she knows I'm more than ready to do it for her.
I also want to note that when we do have sex it's amazing for the both of us. I know many peoples response to this is going to be "maybe she just tells you that", but I trust her and believe her when she talks to me. | Fiancé doesn't seem to want sex, pleasures herself often, gets annoyed when I try and talk to her about the issue. |
t3_2rm6vh | relationships | Tired of Family, What are my next steps. | It's not true that money solves your problems. Honestly it can make things worse. I honestly hate my family. I hate my sister, I hate my dad, I hate my mom. I'm not 13 and going through a phase. I quite literally hate them. My sister is a liar. My mom is insane and my dad listens to every word my sister says. I'm done. I want to leave my family. I wan't to be independent and able to sustain myself. If anyone has any tips on how to get started. I plan on pay my way through school. Thankfully it's quite cheap where I live. If anyone has been in a similar situation. I'd sure like your help. | Tired of family. What are my next steps. |
t3_13caee | AskReddit | My friend is in danger. What should I do to help? | Okay, I'm pretty young, barely in high school. I have a group of friends that includes a guy (who will be referred to as X) that isn't quite right... His view of reality and morals is pretty warped. I also have a female friend (Y) who I'm pretty close to. Me and a few others starting to fear for her safety around X. Last year, X would touch Y and a few others inappropriately (Boobs, butt, etc..). Me and a few others were going to take this to the proper authorities and have him expelled, but he caught wind of it and promptly stopped. This year though, we are starting to notice the same patterns that we saw last year as he progressed into his ultimate... I don't really have other words except for 'creepiness'. X recently texted Y claiming that he wanted to have sex with her before he was 15 (They are both about 14). Any way, what Im asking is, should we band together and get him removed ASAP or wait until he tries to do something again, and how should we go about doing this? | My friend and perhaps others are in danger of being sexually assaulted. Should we get the suspected assaulter removed before it happens and how should we do it? |
t3_1r3kzg | relationships | Me [27M] with my gf [25 F] 4.5 years, Long Distance has me thinking breakup... | I've been distant for one year due to work. We lived together just about 3.5 years before I moved away. I really love her. My job is great.
It's in Tx, she lives in Pa. There is not really opportunity for me to make the kind of money I make now there and I have a shitload of student loan debt. She works for her family business and is quite sure it will be successful. It will not make enough money for her to support me and my debt however I make more than enough for both of us.
She doesn't want to leave. I hate coming home to my empty apartment day after day. I think I need to break it off with her. She claims to love me but is unwilling to leave....
Is it selfish of me to think that I should be her top priority? That she should want to move with me. Is that wrong? I love her almost too much. Should I leave her because this situation is not working for me?
Has anyone been convinced to leave their home town to move to a completely new place with a lover? If so... how?
It feels good to write this out. Thanks Reddit | Considering breaking up LDR of almost 5 years due to distance... |
t3_35jpe7 | tifu | TIFU by buying a pull-up bar | So just a little background, this happened about a month ago. I'm a 17 y/o guy, and I'm pretty damn skinny despite eating like 10,000 calories a day and going to the gym all the time. So I decided to buy one of those pull-up bars that you like put on your door frame, so that I could get more exercise consistently.
So I ordered one off amazon. Kind of a cheap one but who cares right?
Anyway, it arrives, I put it together, mount it on the door frame, hop on up, and promptly slam my head into the top of the door frame so hard that I needed stitches. | bought a pull up bar, didn't think the 'pulling up' part through. |
t3_2a68eq | relationships | Me [26 M] with my Girlfriend [25 F] 2 years, I constantly go mentally blind and forget she is there | I will try to keep it simple
I have had issues expressing myself and just being there for someone. I will admit that I am not good at it, she is amazing at it and conforts me whenever I need it. I try to, but it always feels forced.
We have talks and she explains that she just needs someone to listen to her. Later on we argue and I go blind and forget the previous discussion and see her as a enemy temporarily. The blindness fades and I feel horrible about myself.
I love this girl and it is my first relationship where I can be 100% myself. I want to do anything that I can to just give back to her.
How can I begin to BE THERE for her. | I love my girlfriend but consistently go blind during arguments and fail to be a comforting boyfriend until after the fact. |
t3_lnfua | relationships | Friend of 14 years/GF of 4; now ex. Said something horrible to me | I see my ex everyday at our very small college. We've known each other since 1st grade (i'm 20 now) and dated in high school and into college. Now we're apart and it was a rather nasty breakup (she broke it off) but I have a new girlfriend now and she has a new boyfriend.
I saw her the other day though, (I usually avoid her but this short meet was impossible to avoid) and she was incredibly nasty. (She's always had an anger problem, held lots of grudges lasting years, very mean). Now, during the last months of our long break-up, I got very very sick. I see her just the other day and say:
"We were friends for so long, this break-up doesn't have to come between us. Just so you know, I have no hard feelings." I truly only had good intentions to rekindle a long friendship.
she responds with
"It would have been easier to forgive you if you died in the hospital". I asked her what should would forgive, after all, she ended it, but she just walked away.
Ouch. How should I take this? Is she not over me to still be holding a grudge? Clearly, she's no longer any friend of mine and I want nothing to do with her. But how can a friend and lover of so long say that she would've had me die? I still see her day-to-day but she says nothing, just trumps off in the other direction (i'm always with my new girlfriend anyway). How should I take this? | Ex of 4 years/friend of 14 says she'd rather have me dead. How should i take this? |
t3_1lbgs5 | tifu | TIFU by almost sleeping with my ex | My ex and I were together for a year, and we got really serious. We've been broken up for a couple of months, and we've been trying to be friends to avoid any more drama. He and his friend came over to my apartment for a few drinks, and they came over already drunk. Soon, my ex collapsed on my bed, and his friend soon after.
I managed to get his friend to sleep on a mattress on the floor, and I tried to get my ex to get up and sleep next to his friend. He refused, saying he wanted to sleep in my bed.
Soon enough we were making out, and we got...handsy with each other. While his friend was in the same room. And I didn't think to check if his friend had indeed passed out.
He was thinking that we could be friends with benefits, and I had been thinking the same thing. But he's been crushing on this other girl, who likes him as well. He told me that he wasn't really pursuing a relationship with her, but I have my doubts. So I don't know where we're going to go from here. His friend caught us that next morning sleeping next to each other, and I don't know if he told that other girl.
So now I think that by trying not to create more drama, I just caused a bit more of it than I can handle. | Almost slept with my ex; I think the girl who likes him found out about it. |
t3_1o0vxs | relationships | I [19M] am not afraid, but simply uninterested. Comments? | I'm not hoping for some Dalai Lama stuff to be thrown at me. I would simply like to see how wrong, or right given the case, my perspective is.
Basically I've quit this thing of dating girls. Not under the excuse of my last girlfriend being a pyscho (she did an awesome job at playing the victim by the way), but under the argument that follows:
>As crazy as it may sound, the moment that you actually ask the girl out, you kill the emotion. You take a step towards destroying every illusion you may had had. I'm not saying that you should become a stalker who fantasizes over women, but something more along the lines of a primary school boy.
>You like the girl and kind of have illusions of sometime talking to her. And eventually you move on. No grief. No discussions. No broken illusions.
Unless one day you really feel the conviction and take a real shot at it, but in the meantime, I enjoy my freedom and my illusions. How wrong am I? | I don't believe in dating, because thinking about it is better that dating itself. |
t3_2lra7m | dating_advice | [22m] asking a girl out by text/facebook? | There's this girl that I see semi-regularly (every week or 2 weeks), we get on super well and I really like her. I'm pretty sure she likes me too.
Because of random circumstances we won't be in the same place at the same time again for a long time. I have her number but have never had the balls to text her about personal stuff. I also have her on facebook.
I really want to see her outside of normal circumstances, but feel like maybe just texting or messaging out of the blue would be a bit tactless? Should I start messaging about random stuff a few times before I ask? Should I send 1 or 2 messages then ask if she responds? Should I just forget about it and hope to see her again in a month or so? | havent seen a girl for like a week and might not see her again for few months, want to ask her out. Is text/fb ok? |
t3_18rae3 | loseit | As someone who has a hard time staying motivated, here's my new motivation. | I am a champion procrastinator, something due in a month? Don't think about it for 29 days. Unfortunately, that's how I looked at weight loss, too. I can have some Chinese food, I'll just eat really well tomorrow. Flaming Hot Cheetos? Why not, isn't all food energy? Yeah, no. And so here I am, a 17 year old girl who weighs in at 187 on a 5' 7" frame. Prom is coming up, and I have a really awesome date who thinks I already look fine, but I want to look great. I don't want to be that couple that people see and think "How did SHE get him?" And so my weight-loss journey begins.
I have fallen off the wagon like 8 times in the past month, making lots of excuses and deceiving myself. So I took away the thing that I love the most-clothes. Roughly 15 articles of my favorite clothing has been set into a box that says "160" and I am not allowed to touch them until I hit that. Another box with my 15 second favorite things is labeled "175 and maintaining". Until then, I'm stuck with my ugliest clothes.
My grand finale is an envelope taped on my mirror that says "145 or 26 inches lost" and I add $10 every week that I eat well and work out at least 4 times. I will be starting 30 Day Shred in a few days when it ships, and if I consistently do that without stopping, I will add an extra $25. After this, I plan on doing the Insanity workout, if I finish that I get to throw in $50. Last but not least, I will be doing p90x and if I can keep myself motivated, that's another $75. Until I reach that goal, there will be no shopping except for a prom dress. I'm hoping to reach it by the end of August for senior pictures.
If anyone has any suggestions or encouragement, they would be greatly appreciated! | Take things away from a shopaholic and she will work her butt off (literally). |
t3_4rakmy | relationships | Me [30 M], my mom [67 F] wants her and her BF [65 M] to move into my house for 4 months, before they move out of state. | She already bought a house in another state, and is only staying now to wait for my sister to have her baby. She wants to start renting her house here, to start making $ off it, and to get out of the upkeep.
We have a strained relationship, as she is naggy, fickle, doesn't always respect privacy, and is insensitive/openly rude at times. She also has openly said she is going to sue my dads estate if he dies before her, to keep getting her payments till she dies or his estate is gone, and she will win because she sneaked that option into the divorce papers.
While her BF seems decent, I am suspicious he is playing her for her $$/property. He has never really held a real job down, and works part time now. He put his mom in a home, and was living in her house until he got with my mom. He has also been married and divorced 4 times, and when I looked into him I found out he filed for bankruptcy 4 years ago. He lives on the poverty line, while my mom is upper middle class. She is also terminal with 10 years, max left, and he knew that from the beginning.
The upside is that she offered to pay for the whole inside of my house to be professionally re-painted (currently, every room has paint peeling from the walls). I also currently live on the poverty line, and it would take me a few years to save up for that. Plus this would give me a good chance to feel her BF out. I also wouldn't put it past my mom to hold it against me for the rest of her life, if I say no.. Any advice would be appreciated. | My mom can be shitty, and I don't trust the BF, but she is offering great compensation, and will probably be really pissed if I say no. |
t3_53gfo7 | legaladvice | Using Personal Customer Info for Retail Rewards Enrollment Without Consent | I work a part-time job at a large international retail store (HQ in Ohio, but my location is in Texas). The chain tends to value 'rewards enrollments' over any other type of customer service. This past week I had a customer who was not a member and declined to enroll. Her English was so limited that in order to even verify that she was not already enrolled, she pulled out a card with all of her contact information for me to reference. I used just the phone number from the card to verify if she had already enrolled. Later my supervisor, upset that I'd 'lost an enrollment' explained that I should have enrolled her using that information despite the fact that she had declined (and perhaps didn't even understand the situation) saying 'That's retail.' My management team has often acknowledged that we have to 'be scummy' about getting information because these metrics are so important to the company and our performance as a store. As a part-time associate, I'm heavily chastised when people refuse to enroll, but am certain my job isn't worth breaking the law. I'm fortunate that I have a full-time position elsewhere and don't rely on this income. It does indeed feel 'scummy', but is it in fact against the law? If so, is there someone I should report this to? | Is it illegal to use a customer's personal information to enroll them in a rewards program without their explicit consent? |
t3_2k8lg7 | Advice | Finish university or "start" my own life? | The scenario is the following: I [24M] have a semester left of uni which I consider pretty useless so I just want to finish it and get it out the way with the diploma in my hand. On the other hand since I'm still living at home and I feel very frustrated because of it (not because of the aforementioned fact but because I know living alone would be much better, I'm much more productive when I'm alone wonder why).
I'm working for a small company 4hrs a day to cover my expenses and learn a few things about leading a company (because I'm planning to start my own). It is good because I can go whenever I want so I can go to uni. But that 4hrs a day is not paying enough for me to move and live on my own. I can't take a 9-5 because it wouldn't allow me to take the classes which leads to me failing the semester.. buuut I would have the money to move.
So.. am I just a whiney little bitch who is having "first world problems" or am I just not seeing the obvious thing?
Should I just sit on my ass and wait till Feb/March or get a normal job and start my own life and finish the uni ? | Should I finish university first and wait till I have the time to get a 9-5 or start my own business, just bury my head in the sand and let things run their course - |
t3_1k4hic | AskReddit | Reddit, what is the worst nightmare you ever had? | My worst nightmare happened to me when I was little. I used to wake up in the middle of the night and run to my parents room every night because I would have nightmares every night. One night, I got up in the middle of the night and began to make my routine run of terror to my parent's room when I suddenly felt someone behind me. I turned around to see the most terrifying grim reaper demon ghost quickly floating towards me and before I could yell it grabbed me by the legs and dragged me back int my dark room and under my bed. I woke up covered in cold sweat and screaming. | Was running to my parents room in a dream and was scared shitless by a floating demon. |
t3_4kwtgy | relationships | Rejected [15M] again, feels terrible | Nothing much to write about here. I had a crush and I thought that we were connecting. We did get along just fine, after all. Although it was difficult, I finally mustered up the tatters of confidence and courage that a 15 year-old could possibly have and asked her out. She told me that she had a boyfriend. This wasn't much of a ruse - I could sniff out the lie, and I heard for myself three days later at a party how she was getting plowed by a guy she just met. It was harrowing hearing that grunting and moaning, each one welling up more and more tears in my eyes. The night ended with me bursting free of that place and sobbing in the streets.
I feel confused, lonely and sad. I have started developing self-hatred due to previous failures. Sadly, they are all in my school. Whenever I see them I go into some panic attack, followed by incoherent sobbing in some dark, dank corner. And then I see the person that rejected me - laughing whenever they see me or trying to avoid me for God knows what reason. This feels bad. I need some help getting over it :P | Got rejected again, feel like worthless shit. Help pls |
t3_28h1ui | relationships | Me [18 M] with my GF?[16 F] duration 3.5 months, switching schools due to college , girl wants to end it with just being friends | Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
MMe and this girl has been going out for about 3.5 months. It statred out with hanging out with friends after practice but eventually it became individual dates. We see each other everyday in school, and we walk each other to class. We usually see each other 6 and sometimes 7 days a week. Shes the first girl ive gotten close with and she knows that. She tells me everything about her life. So the question of making it official came up multiple times. Each ended in a argument. We made up and even she said she wants us to continue and see where things lead. On the last day of class, she said it was better off if we stayed friends. Because she didnt want to get close with me over the summer and me leaving for a different school. I will be commuting to college in the same city FYI. ANd i live 20 minutes away from her by bus. I think shes afraid to get hurt again due to her past long distance relationship that ended horribly. Is there anything I can do or say that shows that I different. Its been 2 days now. I I called her yesterday and she got mad that i brought up the topic. What steps should I take next? The split was so unpredictable, We were having such a good time at her house just the e day before.
Do people lose feeling like that? first real relationship, so im a noob | Mandatory summary/question! Girl afraid of getting close over the summer because i will be switching schools. But will be in the same city and not moving. |
t3_4isnnz | relationships | Me [29 F] with my Fiance [33 M] of 4 year relationship, found out today I may be a step-grandmother. | Hi all,
I've been with my now Fiance for 4 years, our wedding is in 2 months. We've lived together for 3 years (in Australia), and have had to spend the last 5 months apart because I moved back to the states with my work, and he's English - hence the upcoming nuptials.
He had a daughter when he was 18 and he found out today his kid is having a kid. He lived with her for the first 10 years of her life and then she moved in with her Mom in Scotland.
So - I'm in LA, he's in London, she's in Aberdeen. She wants to have the baby, which I believe is her choice, but because she's still undecided; so I'm not talking about this to my family/friends.
I'm having trouble processing the possible outcomes of this on my own and would really really love to hear stories from others who were grandparents or step grandparents at an early age.
I'm so nervous that this is going to mess up our relationship and it just feels like so much drama. I like to think I've always been supportive of his relationship with his daughter, because when I have kids I want there to be an emphasis on family.
Today I realized I would be really embarrassed to be a step-grandmother, and I feel ashamed at that.
But I really want nothing to do with this entire situation.
Any and all advice is welcome! | freak-out over possibility of becoming a step-grandma at the ripe age of 29. |
t3_hc8gr | AskReddit | Need some Bachelor Party ideas.. | My bachelor party is next weekend and we are doing a scavenger hunt type game throughout the night. We will have a list of tasks and each person will have a number. If your number is picked( probably from a dice roll) you have to do the task. I will get to pass on any I do not wan't to do. The problem is we need some better ideas. So far we have:
Get rejected by a wowan (try to get slapped/drink splashed on us)
Get a phone number
Some additional info: No strippers (this was my choice),Nothing too crazy ie body shots/breast shots and the like.
Reddit, I need your help for some good, fun ideas to help make my bachelor party more fun. | Need some tame but fun scavenger style tasks for my bachelor party. |
t3_1biy7u | relationships | I [18M] have to make a tough decision about gf [16F] | I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now, and it's been amazing, we haven't gotten into a major fight, we share the same interests, everything is going perfect right now. The problem is that I am (most likely) leaving for college next year, and currently the only college I got into is on the West Coast of the US (we live in Europe). We were planning on doing long distance had I gotten accepted on the East Coast, but that possibility seems to be removed. I've wanted to take a gap year, but I really don't want to take a gap year solely for her; obviously I will do something useful and productive but Idunno if a gap year is worth it. The thing is, I really love this girl, she has gotten me through some really tough personal and family problems, and is always there for me. The time difference will make long distnace impossible, and lately I've just been feeling like we should end it sooner than earlier, so I can have time to get over her... | I have to decide about my future with my girlfriend, whether I should break up with her now, try long distance, or wait until the end of summer (very last chance I get to see her) and end it there... |
t3_40dktk | relationships | Me [25/F] with my boyfriend [27/M] 2 years, moving to different state together | After he visited a friend in Texas, I got the wild idea to move there and soon after flew over with my boyfriend for an interview and landed a great opportunity. December was a tough month of quite a few arguments. Understandably, he did not want to leave his family as he is very settled in his family home and with his position as a substitute. He originally wanted to do a LDR, but I honestly didn't feel as if that was the solution/best option for us. I know many couples do this and I commend them because it certainly cannot be easy.
After many discussions and researching potential jobs, he has agreed to move in with me. I am incredibly grateful that he's joining me even though he has not secured a job.
We leased an apartment on the higher end of our budget (but I can still afford it on my own). I am primarily seeking advice on how to deal with the stressors that I am sure we will encounter with such a life change and milestone.
We have never lived on our own, nevertheless together and on our own and in a different state where our families are not readily available to come in and help if needed. I am also aware that with him not making money for the first few weeks (or even a month) he may not be able to contribute financially. We have discussed that if he is home, it makes sense that he would cook dinner do the weekly cleaning.
Also, what are some small things that I can do to show my appreciation for him and show that not only am I glad that he's making this move for me but that I'm there for him? | I got an out of state job and my boyfriend and I are moving out of our family homes and into an apartment together. What are some tips for a newly moved out couple? How can I show my appreciation that he's moving to a different state for me? |
t3_e9nf6 | relationship_advice | After one wonderful night, what's on her mind? | I've known this one girl for about two months. We hit it off right away, we flirted, we became pretty good friends quickly. She was able to up my confidence and motivate me to get off my ass and start working out ("You're really sexy, you just need to lose some weight"). She's been dating a guy I know until just recently, about a week ago.
A few nights ago I took her to see the new Harry Potter because she really wanted to see it. I decided to stop being my old self then and there, and I put my arm around her and eventually kissed her. It paid off, and we were all over each other the rest of the night.
She tells me I'm one of the people who makes her the happiest, and we're totally in sync the whole night. And, despite not having any practice for about five years, she tells me that I was pretty much "spot on."
(Quick aside; no sex, but we were still hot and heavy.)
Fast forward to today. I get an e-mail from her that says she values me "as a close friend," that she doesn't want to "use [me] and lose [me]." She says she's "not ready for something new" (which is in reference to how soon after her recent breakup we hooked up). And she says that her emotions are eating away at her.
On some level, I agree with her. It may have been too much too fast. I get that she may be conflicted, because I kind of am, too. I know she's probably not looking for a relationship so soon after her last one; I also don't want to just be a guy she hooks up with the once. I really like this girl; I really wanna stay friends with her. But I want more after that night; I really felt a connection to her.
How do I proceed? Do I just give her some time and some space and make a move again? Do I pretend like nothing ever happened? What could she be thinking, and what's the best course of action for me? | Hooked up with girl who proceeds to push me away two days later. Why, and what do? |
t3_f8ck2 | AskReddit | What Advice Do You Have For My First Cross-Country Drive? | In about one month, I am going to be flying from where I live (AZ) to Buffalo, NY to help some friends with their move to AZ. I'll be helping them load the moving fan as well as driving their car out to AZ, while they drive the moving van ahead of me. Only one of the two of them drives, hence the need for me to be there to drive their car out. They already have a route mapped out and they estimate we will be driving somewhere in the neighborhood of 500-750 miles a day. We will be stopping at night to get a place to stay and then will resume in the morning.
Though I am in my mid-30's, I've never done a drive like this. My longest drives have all been within my home state of AZ, such as the two-hour drive from Phoenix to Flagstaff, etc. I am wondering what to expect and what advice you'd all have for me in preparation for this cross-country drive?
I've already requested that they have their car checked out, the engine checked, brakes checked, fluids topped off, tire | I am driving cross-country (Buffalo, NY to AZ) for the first time in my life in about a month. What advice do you have for me in terms of items to have on hand or preparation for the drive? |
t3_2u7vv0 | legaladvice | [California] Employment law question re: commissions past separation date | A friend's job was recently eliminated. She works in sales and a portion of her compensation is commission based. What does California law state is appropriate when it comes to the company paying her commissions earned on business that has yet to be recognized? For example, she wrote a contract with a client in January for product to be shipped in May. Her last day is in March. Is the company obligated by CA law to pay her the commission she earned?
Her commission agreement states, "In order for commissions to be paid, you must be employed with [COMPANY NAME] on the scheduled date of payment."
Does CA state law trump that statement? | Sales job getting eliminated. How much of her earned commission is she entitled to past her last day on the job?" |
t3_2o886s | relationships | 25M, caught between two different girls, having a hard time making a good decision. I need advice. | So I'm caught between two girls at the moment. Both are 19 years old. Both are in college. Both are beautiful but I can't choose between one or the other.
The first girl, lets call her sally, is someone I've been with off and on for a few years. I've literally been obsessed with her (not in a creepy way) and have wanted a relationship with her for years. Problem is, she's unreliable, has a history of cheating, and is actually cheating on her current boyfriend with me right now. She's changed a lot since her hay day. She claims she's only been talking to me while with her boyfriend and I believe her has as I've done some digging and can't prove otherwise. She told me she loves me but she lives with her current SO and depends on him for rent money so she's having a hard time breaking away from him. She essentially wants me to wait for her to end it with him so she can be with me but I don't know how long this is going to take and it's getting old fast.
The other girl, Vanessa (lets say), is a new girl who I've met recently. She's smart and pretty and seems really into me. She goes to school about 40 minutes away from me, which isn't bad, but I don't really like long drives. She's also wanting to study in Texas at some point which is quite a ways a way (states away actually) from where I live. I kinda want to pursue her, but I'm afraid I'll regret missing out on a chance with sally and I'm afraid of how it will turn out long-term.
The obvious choice, to me, is pursuing vanessa. But I wanna say my feelings for Sally are much stronger and I genuinely believe I'm in love with Sally.
What do you guys think? | Can't choose between two different girls. One girl has questionable intentions but says she loves me and I love her too, the other girl is fresh and new but may not workout long term. Who should I pursue? Has anybody faced anything similar? How did you handle it? |
t3_2arlss | relationships | I (21F) need to express my feelings for commitment to the man(24M) that I'm seeing. | I'd like to start with sorry if this turns into a novel. I am a 21F who currently works and goes to school. I met my current SO in high school. We'll call him Scott. About two months ago Scott and I strted hanging out almost everyday. I've met his coworkers, bandmates, and even his Mom briefly
This is where things start to get weird. When we first started hanging out we were having sex 3-4 times a night. He would hold my hand in public and basically act like we're dating. As of recently we haven't been having sex. I haven't seen him in a week and a half. I've barely heard from him over the phone. He's blown me off maybe 4 times in the last week.
I'm close friends with a girl he previously dated and I asked her how they broke up. She said he basically just stopped talking to her and that was it. He and I are very open about our previous relationships, so this kinda threw me off.
Now, he's very introverted and suffers from depression(which I just found out through his ex). I completely understand and I am more than happy to give him space when he needs it. I just need to know where I stand with him. We've agreed to be exclusive and I don't think he'd mess around with anyone else. I called him last Saturday and told him that I needed to speak with him. We're planning on meeting tonight(if he doesn't blow me off again), but I don't know what to say. I've assured him it's not serious(i.e. I'm not pregnant), but that I needed to speak to him. How do I approach this without coming off pushy or scary?
I should also mention that his other previous SO really fucked with his head. Cheated on him multiple times in his own bed. I've tried bringing this up before and he keeps saying that we're adults, he wants to take it too slow, etc. How slow is too slow though? | I want to be his SO, but I don't know what to say. What do? |
t3_3fnsp4 | relationships | Me [22M] with my girlfriend [22F] just became long distance. How do I transition properly? | A little bit of backstory behind my current relationship, I've known my current girlfriend for maybe 10 months and have dated her for about 6 of them. For the 3 or 4 months that we first met, we were fast friends, and even were interested in other people; we had a lot of similar interests and i genuinely felt like we would be best friends. Flash forward to the beginning of our relationship and everything was going well. We saw each other frequently, relied on each other , and were even there for each other when faced with problems (Sorry i can't be more specific).
As soon as June hit and she graduated (both went to the same university), i said goodbye to her and our relationship became long distance. I acknowledge that i'm the more needy between the two of us, but it really feels like the feelings we had for each other now is a shadow of its former self.
Recently we've argued about her attention to the relationship and my neediness, as we have difficulty communicating over the phone or skype (she says she doesn't like it), and doesn't want to visit me until she gets a car (which might happen at the end of this month. Might). As of right now we have no plan to see each other in mind. The immature, impatient side of me sees this as that shes lost interest in me, but the more mature side of me tells me to be patient and see if she improves, since we've talked about it.
I genuinely want to be more patient and give her room, but I can't help but feel like our feelings have really stagnated, even if that's not the case. I'm having a lot of difficulty transitioning into long distance because of this. What should i be doing to help myself in terms of how i feel? Is this still worth pursuing?
I hope i haven't left anything too important out (this is my first post in /r/relationships) I'll be sure to answer any questions people have for me. | Since we've become long distance, my girlfriend and I have had trouble communicating and I've had trouble worrying about her. What can I do to help my transition into long distance? |
t3_1px64i | relationships | I [21F] don't know where I stand with a friend [21F] who avoided me for many months then contacted me out of the blue. Non-Romantic | Hi Reddit, if you guys could provide me with some fresh perspective on a friendship I would be so grateful. I'll try to keep this short.
I met a cool person in college a few years back. Since then we have shared classes, been in contact frequently for both school and personal reasons, shared secrets, and I sincerely believed her to be one of my closest friends. She has a demanding job in addition to school so I would usually ask when she was free and we'd make plans from there. Tried to do this a few times over summer but she would take a month to text me back, then several months. I was confused about the sudden drop in contact but since she does work a lot I'd just chalk it up to work/school/stress.
Over summer I ran into a mutual friend. Turns out they have been hanging out regularly, and receiving texts back, etc. I tried not to take this personally and, at this friend's insistence that she was not mad, etc., to contact her again. No response. It hurt like hell, man (in all seriousness).
Since running into our mutual friend and not hearing back from her I just stopped trying to contact her altogether. Didn't know what was up and didn't want to seem desperate. I did feel desperate, it is so hard to meet cool people since I am a bit shy and awkward, and gave myself anxiety and other bs all summer wondering if I'd done something wrong. Got over it eventually, since it seemed kind of fucked up after it stopped being so painful.
Out of the blue, after no contact for several months and not actually seeing her for about seven months, she texts me to hang out. Is this sort of thing normal? Should I meet up and confront her about it? Not bother replying at all? | Someone I considered a close friend abruptly changed their behavior toward me, stopped answering texts, etc., but still has time for mutual friends. Contacted me out of the blue but I am confused about how I should act. |
t3_28v65a | weddingplanning | [RANT/VENT] Losing My Mind - Bridesmaid Nonsense | So note quite three weeks ago, I [shared this] We had some words about it (not fight-y). She's had some stuff go on that she is letting affect her more than she let on (but I couldn't have known because she was blowing me off and not communicating). Understandable, but you can't expect me to innately know things.
So now we are less than three weeks out. I've given up on the stupid picture because it doesn't matter. I know she never ordered the damn sash she was supposed to order, but one of my other maids stepped up and ordered it so we could be sure she would have it. That was cool of her. (Yay!)
I text the troubled maid to say we need to work out logistics - she said for a while that she wanted to get in a week early and help with last minute stuff (much appreciated!) but I needed to know when, how she was getting here (if she was flying, I'd need to pick her up from the airport, obviously, etc.), and how long she aimed to stay.
She texts me last night saying we'll talk more tomorrow (today), but that she is set to drive up on **the 16th** after she helps a family member with a ride to an airport.
Dumbfounded, I reply, "Wait, the 16th? I'm getting married on the 10th."
She floods my phone with some | that condenses, "...false_parallax, I could have sworn my invitation said the 17th! I was really sure! I am probably so wrong, I'm sorry. I'll drive up on the 9th and will be there." |
t3_4o1lb7 | relationships | Me [18 M] with my gf [17F] broke up after 2 months and I'm confused | I know this is not a super long relationship by any means, but I was really thinking it was going to last longer. Another part is that she was the first girl I've ever had close to me and it stings.
The reasoning behind the whole break up is because she went with the "its not you, its me" and I believe this to be true too for her. It did not take me by complete surprise, yet I am still sad about it because she is so unique and I still want to develop a relationship with her.
I am just lost at what I should go next as I feel like kind of blindsided and naive when it came to this as a whole. I know she did not take enough time out of the day for me but I also feel like I pushed it too qucikly and somewhat suffocated her with it. | I just broke up with my first gf and am not sure what to do from here. I would like to remain with her or maybe in the future but am unsure. |
t3_2h6ty9 | tifu | TIFU by inhaling Air In a Can. | Me: fourteen years old, about eight years ago. I see a can of gas duster under the brand "Air In a Can" on my Dad's desk. To the uninformed, gas dusters, including air in a can, are spray cans that spray compressed gas through a thin nozzle to blow away dust and debris. This is useful for cleaning your motherboard, exhaust vents, keyboards, and other things that are either difficult or unable to be cleaned with water or chemicals.
Me, being young and naive, and not reading the fucking warning label, doesn't realize that Air in a Can is not, in fact, air in a can. It is, much to my dismay, difluoroethane.
So, in my ignorance, i decide to inhale some of this "air." I'm lucky to still be alive. I nearly passed out, my lungs shut down for over a minute, my heart started beating irregularly. Intense thoracic pain followed. I was just reaching for the phone to call the county coroner's office for myself when my body managed to purge itself of this toxic chemical and things went back to normal. For the next few hours I felt woozy, but by the time my folks got home i was feeling fine, so i didn't even tell them. | inhaled Air In a Can, thinking it was real air. |
t3_mqgwd | legaladvice | I need help, I just got a letter saying my license is suspended. | I got a ticket for trying to go into a bar underage while at college in New York State. The police officer said it was the equivalent of a traffic violation and I'd just receive a fine and no further punishment. The charge on the ticket read "other use of license." When I went to turn the ticket in at the court, I made sure to ask about all possible outcomes and how much I'd pay and how long I'd have to pay and all of that. The clerk assured me that I would just have to pay the fine that would be mailed to me in three days and nothing else would happen. I got the fine in the mail, saved up some cash, and paid two weeks later. I had a month to pay it off. Today, a couple weeks after I paid the fine, I got a letter from the Massachusetts (where I live when I'm not at school and where I got my driver's license) RMV stating that my license will be suspended for a year starting on December 1st. Is there anyway to fight this? What are the most common reasons for this? Isn't this a violation of due process and shouldn't I have been informed that I might receive punishment from my state? Basically anything will help, I'm lost as to what to do and I need my car both to get home and to drive to class everyday because I live off campus. Thanks. | I got a ticket in New York and was told only consequence was a fine, now Mass is suspending my license. Please help. |
t3_2poxa4 | relationships | Me (25/F) asked out by OkCupid guy (24/M). Lots in common. He's looking forward to it then bails and I never hear from him again. WTF?! Theories? | Hey guys,
A guy messaged me saying we had a lot in common (which we totally do!) and referenced some of my favorite movies, I was interested immediately. We had very similar taste in art/movies/music and he seemed very nice and considerate. We exchanged about 7 messages each last week and arranged to meet up this past Sunday. Early that day, he said a family member of his was in the hospital and he was going to go be with them, could we reschedule?
The remainder of his text, which has me confused, was:
"Can we reschedule to later this week? I'm sorry :( I was looking forward to tonight. I can do around 9 on Thursday or any time next Saturday or Sunday if any work for you"
I replied with 3 short messages sent at the same time, saying I was sorry about his family and no worries, of course family comes first. Then I suggested that we meet on my birthday (this Saturday) so I could have something unpredictable planned for that night. I was really looking forward to it!
He never replied and I haven't heard from him since.
I am really new to OkCupid, so many this kind of thing happens a lot. To me, he seemed genuinely interested. I'm wondering if perhaps he found something online about me that he didn't like (I have nothing incriminating available on the internet).
Feeling a bit discouraged from this confusing experience. Thoughts? | Guy I had a lot in common with and seemed repeatedly enthusiastic about meeting up asked to reschedule and never replied to my response. |
t3_2luj3k | relationship_advice | I'M [21/M] and my ex [20/f] texted me after 5 months of no contact. . Should I respond? | My ex just texted me today after our breakup 5 months ago. This was a 4 year relationship. I knew everything about her and I loved her. She called it off because she wasn't interested in the relationship any more. She wanted to remain friends and I was fine with that. However; I was so heartbroken that I did some digging. I found out she liked another guy, but the guy didn't like her so she used tinder to meet guys. This was all while in our relationship. I texted her and called her out and our "friendship" ended not in good terms. I can't describe the amount of pain and depression I felt for two months. I cried my heart out. I'm doing better now, but there is still a pain that lingers on. I still miss her but I don't know if I should respond or not. So what should I do? | Ex of 4 year relationship text me after 5 months no contact after a rough breakup. |
t3_2ipsst | tifu | TIFU by trying to make my brother leave the house for a day | **Back story:** So I got a brother, who's a huge jerk. He's a constant dick to everyone in the house and will always pick on me if he gets the chance. He'll even yell and beat my parents if he doesn't get his way.
So yesterday, I got the new Smash Bros game and I decided to wait until Friday to play it, so I hid it in my room so my brother wouldn't find it and sell it without telling me. I really wanted to make Friday a great day, but my brother will be here on Friday, so I made him an offer. I told him that I'd give him $50 if he leaves on Friday morning, and comes back on Saturday. He told me that I he'd do it for $100 and I told him that I'd think about it. I thought about it overnight and I decided that $100 is too much so I was gonna leave the thing and just let him stay.
This brings us to today, I tell him the deals off. Instead of what I thought would happen, he told me that he'd bring his meanest, cruelest gang member friends over on Friday and let them stay there overnight in hopes that I'd give in and give him the $100.
Great, I fucked up, again.
These guys literally had videos on Facebook of them running after fat kids and making them cry (remember these guys are 18-20). And me, being my 25 pound overweight self, got really terrified. My parents know about their gang affiliations and told me that they'll make sure they won't come, but I'm sure that they will. What's gonna happen now? Guess I'll find out on Friday just to piss me off. | Told my brother to leave for a day for money, decided it wasn't worth it and let him stay, now he's gonna bring his gang member friends on Friday. |
t3_fopuu | AskReddit | Should I move in with three girls? (I'm a guy) | I'm a male college student who's lease is up at the end of the school year, and I'll need to find a new place to live for the upcoming year. A female friend of mine and her 2 roommates(also girls) are looking for a 4th roommate for their house. The rent is a little high for me, but I could do it, and the house is reeaaally nice, and worth the extra money in my opinion. The only thing is, my girlfriend of a year is apprehensive about me living with three females.
All of the girls currently have boyfriends, and the room I would be taking is on a separate floor than all of theirs, so there would be no crossing paths between showering in the mornings, ect. Additionally, the roommate moving out is an ex-boyfriend of one of them, so they said they don't want the drama involved around dating roommates again.
So far, I don't really have any other options for living next year, and the lease signing is about to pick up, if it hasn't already. Has anyone else been in this situation before? Any guys that have lived with girls? Should I sign a lease for this place, which I really like, even though my girlfriend is apprehensive about me living with other girls, or hold out and find a different place? | I'm a guy that found a nice house, reasonable rent, with three girls, girlfriend is apprehensive about the idea. Move in or find a different place? |
t3_tcvu2 | AskReddit | Is there any software to record sound levels (decibels) with my mic without recording the actual audio? | Me and my family are in the process of selling our house. I am moving to Uni and my parents are moving abroad, however, we are being hindered by one of our neighbors.
This neighbor has never really got on with our family, he doesn't let his kids say hello to me or my parents, swears at my family and his other neighbor over the fences, generally not a very nice guy. Now we are selling our house he has taken to going through the phone book ringing every council department and filing complaints, most recently, one about noise.
I know that the usual process for this is for him to keep a diary about potential "noise violations" for the council to look at as evidence, however, I know that there are no noise violations and that he is doing this out of spite. My question is, can I get any software that will record the sound levels of my room (which connects directly to their house) as data without recording the actual audio present so that in the event of any dispute I can back up my families claim?
Thank you /r/askreddit in advance for any help you can give! | Neighbor is an unpleasant man, I want to record audio level data without an actual audio recording so that I can provide evidence contrary to his accusation that we are too noisy. |
t3_5354b8 | college | Developing a "big spike" in high school | Hello /r/college, I've started to look into the college application process as a high school freshman mainly from the influence of my HS Senior brother who is currently going through the process of applying to colleges. I saw some guides on how to get into good colleges and a very common thing in those articles was the emphasis on developing a "big spike" in my academics. Focusing most of my time on something that I love rather than spending time trying to be well rounded. I have a big passion for computers and electronics but I fear that many other students have the same interests as me. Especially those applying to MIT (my dream college).
It's still early in the game for me so I wanted some advice on whether I should focus my high school years on something completely different for the sake of college apps or stick to the things I was most passionate about in middle school. | I am a freshman who wants to develop "big spike" but fears computer science and electronics are too common to make me unique. |
t3_o0yvm | relationship_advice | Expensive Gift From An SO While I'm Basically A Bum | My SO and I's anniversary is coming up and he wants to get me an extravagant gift. The thing is, I'm unemployed and wouldn't be able to provide with a gift of equal value. I know these type of things shouldn't be based on price but I'd feel terrible if I didn't give him something of similar value. The gift in question is a ring which brings up another problem. I'd feel uncomfortable with receiving a ring because I'd associate it with an engagement. It's ridiculous, I know, but its just an intrusive thought. I'm no where near ready for that type of commitment, we're both still in college. I've told him many times I'd rather just spend the day with him watching movies or go bike riding together but I know he still wants to get me a ring. I don't want to hurt him, he really wants to do this, but I really don't want him to spend his money on a ring I'd be uncomfortable with. I'm not even a gift type of person, I don't like jewelry or any other typical gifts so he does get frustrated around gift giving occasions. Basically, I want to know if anyone else has had a similar problem and if they were able to get over or deal with it in a certain way. I am going to talk to him bit I'd like to know how others have dealt with similar issues. | SO wants to get me a ring (not engagement or promise) but I'm uncomfortable with the notion. Anyone been through this? What did you do? Help me get over or at least come to terms with this? |
t3_dcqxw | AskReddit | How can I read/write a 3D modeling .obj file? | I'm building a three-dimensional scanner for my senior undergraduate project. I am writing software that calculates all of the vertices x,y,z coordinates and keeps track of all edges. I've also exported a current face model I had made to .obj and opened it in a text editor. It looks very simple, but I can't find a clear explanation of exactly what everything means.
It appears to be something along the lines of:
v x y z
...
...
# 2166 vertices
g Face
f # # # # (I don't know what these numbers represent)
# 2118 polygons - 6 triangles
Anyway, if someone could explain this to me, it would greatly help my project. | How do you write a .obj file with a text editor if you know the x,y,z coordinates of your vertices and which vertices are attached by edges? |
t3_28w7xk | relationships | How can I (21/f) handle this with my ?? (20/m) so I don't embarrass myself? | I fell for a guy long distance. We talked for two years until it was apparent we felt strongly about each other so we started making visits to see if a LDR is something we could do. We wanted to get to know each other better in person. We did this for a few months.
Apparently, he kinda couldn't. He started to fade out and seemed a bit detatched. I was getting fed up by his flakiness and broke it off with him. I didn't want to really, but he was making me in a way. I told him how I felt and how I wanted it to work but he said that while he cared for me a lot and wished we could be together, we couldn't because an LDR was just too hard for him.
I understood this and we parted ways. He asked to be friends but I declined. We haven't talked in ~6 months. I decided to check out his Facebook yesterday because one of my friends liked something he posted. I don't know why I did this. We aren't Facebook friends as I deleted him when we went no contact. I saw that he posts a status once a week with quotes and lyrics that are kinda sad. It's definitely about break ups, about wanting to work things out, wishing things were different, and missing someone.
I want to reach out and see if I'm still on his radar. I get he hasn't reached out but I did decline him as a friend. Maybe he's afraid of rejection. It has been a few months. I know we still are long distance, but that just seems so foolish. I mean, I really do think relationships can work when two people want it to. We never had any issues and he seemed to genuinely like me. I don't want to make a fool. I guess the statuses could be about someone new but the way they are worded just sounds like it's someone 'old' if that makes sense. Any suggestions? | Guy and I didn't work out due to long distance but he's been posting a lot of relevant statuses. Deciding if I should make a move. |
t3_1n5tmm | pettyrevenge | Your change, Ma'am. | I work at a sandwich shop in a local shopping center. The kind of shop where people get choose their sandwich fillings and the poor drone behind the counter (i.e. Me) fetches and creates said sandwich. I've had the unfortunate pleasure of dealing with this one rude older woman who speaks English with very strong foreign accent, however she is quite fluent. The old slag and her friend would constantly harangue myself and my fellow drones for not putting enough in their sandwiches, overcharging (when they had a billion things jammed in there), not being able to understand them etc. On top of that there was one time where I gave her her sandwich and she simply walked away without paying. After not seeing her for a while, she came back with her troglodyte friend and ordered a sandwich which my manager made. I jumped in, petty revenge burning in the forefront of my mind, and rang it up on the register. I can't remember how much it was exactly, but her change ended up being about $4 (AUD). I lied and told her we had only small change left and gave her her $4 in 5s, 10s, and 20s (only like... 3 twenties, mind). Australian coins look like [this] Her face was worth it. Enjoy your shrapnel, bitch. Oh, and my manager thought it was hilarious. | Asshat old lady is a bitch to me at work, so I gave her enough coins to drown a hobo as change. |
t3_2v1p9d | loseit | [NSV] Changes | Hey guys so I haven't been seeing any changes over the past 3 weeks which was frustrating but as it is extremely hot in Australia at the moment I have been walking around the house topless. I managed to catch myself in the mirror and realised that I am starting to not look fat...
I also started playing tennis more (which I love) and started lifting 4-5 times a week :).
For anyone curious.... Male/16 (17 on Tuesday)/SW: 92 Kg (202.82 Lbs) CW: 88 Kg (194 Lbs) GW: Somewhere around 75 Kg (165 Lbs) at which point I will look to start gaining more muscle. | I look good. |
t3_3douep | relationships | [27 M] I've never had a romantic relationship, for lack of trying. | I'm a loner, I have a hard time not talking about religion, and God. It's really a handicap, most turned off by God. On top of that I'm very slow witted, unimpressive and unimpressed. I don't have common interests, that's why I talk about God. I'm always like, "Everyone loves God, right?" And that's how, I don't have anyone to talk with me. I know I should talk about something else, I'm just really that void of words. I'm just here, I'm not thinking about anything most of the time. I've often tried to reach out to people, but I lack that what makes it so people are friendly. In school, I never felt like a peer. And now as an adult I don't feel like a citizen. I can't drive, I have too many medical issues. I can rarely travel, again due to medical. I don't work, not because I have no talent, but because every time I work, I get sick .
All this aside the thing really holding me back is that people, all of you are unimaginable. I sit in admiration of all of you. You just function. I struggle to exist. I hate asking for advice about this. My God is love, and I can't even love both of my parents at the same time, I realy don't know how. | I talk about God, I don't get people. |
t3_2lwvo3 | relationships | I [F] am having trouble with finding a way to communicate to my boyfriend [M](dating for 10 months) my love for him. | So, i would like to start this by saying i love my boyfriend. He is amazing, sweet, kind, understanding, and so much more. We both love each other a lot. However, we have very different love languages.
I love words of reassurance and physical touch and gifts. His is physical touch and words of reassurance, but in a specific way that confuses me. He doesn't like any kind of physical representation of my love for him. Giving him gifts, writing "why i love you" letters, making him things, etc, he has said it doesn't really do anything for him. This really confuses me because he says he likes words of reassurance but if i write them in a letter to him, like i did earlier today by writing '100 reasons why i love you',he doesn't really like it.
What do i do? He only likes it when its in person. I want to be creative in showing my love for him, but it feels very limited and i love making and giving him things that take a lot of time and effort, and although he says he appreciates it, he says it doesn't do anything for him.
It hurts my feelings because if he says he likes words of reassurance and i leave a note on his bathroom mirror or something, he obviously doesn't like it that much,when i thought he would. I love leaving notes and writing poems and other stuff like that for him, but he just doesn't like it. What should i do for him, aside from things i can only actively do in person, ie, tell him things directly, massage him, etc. He is very vague in what he does and doesn't like when i ask him, so what should i do? does anyone have any ideas of ways to express love that aren't a physical representation? | i dont know how to communicate my love in a way my boyfriend appreciates because he is very vague about what he likes and dislikes and i could really use some ideas. |
t3_4jeiur | relationships | My [24M] girlfriend [23F] of 7 months is acting strangely, saying inconsiderate things and being passive-aggressive | I'm in my last year of university, she graduated early. I'm a full time student, about 22 hours in the classroom in a week. I also work 25 hours a week.
My girlfriend works full time (40 hrs/week) and we don't see each other a lot because she lives almost an hour away.
Things were great until I went to Europe with my best friend [22M] in March. Since coming back, my hours at work have been cut due to a new manager and several other factors.
Since coming back, it feels like my girlfriend has been keeping me at arms length. She's been putting words in my mouth, assigning me thoughts I do not think, and is upset I don't spend more time with her.
Additionally, I bought tickets for her and me to go see the ballet (she used to dance) for her birthday. She insists that I "don't want to go" and that I don't take any time for her interests (despite the fact I've taken up yoga to spend more time with her). | I went to Europe a while back and when I came home my girlfriend is acting like a totally different person. What do I do now? |
t3_3offna | tifu | TIFU By laughing at someone's accent | Ok, so this actually happened a few years ago in high school. Also, this is my first post, so bear with me.
The group of friends I ate with at lunch were a funny bunch of guys. One of them, who also happened to have a thick accent, came up with a funny word that made everyone laugh when he said it in a specific context. The running joke was funny to everyone for about two days, but he kept saying it the following days for about a week. To humor him, I was the only one who continued to laugh at the joke. Finally, after a week, someone in the group asked why I still laughed at it. I didn't want to hurt the guys feelings, so I came up with the first thing that came to mind other than just to humor him; his accent. He did not take it well; he started tearing up. Meanwhile, I'm feeling awful and everyone is now pissed at me. I figured telling the truth would just make matters worse, so I ended up sitting by myself for the lunch period after they told me to leave. I apologized the next day and still never told him the truth to this day.
I later decided not to associate with that group any longer and hung out with a much more friendly bunch. I figure any group that would cast out a friend over a minor and obviously non-intentional mistake is not something I want to be part of. | Said a friend's accent was funny when I actually laughed out of pity; ended up getting shut out by "friends" |
t3_34afw2 | relationships | I [17 M] have never had a girlfriend because of my fear of rejection and I don't know how to/ am too afraid to conquer it | Kind of embarrassing, so I created a throwaway. Basically, I'm 17 years old and I have never had a girlfriend, never had a first kiss, etc. I know that this is completely my fault... because I have never approached a girl. I don't know why, but I've always been deathly afraid of rejection. If someone get's mad at me over a little thing I did, it'll stick with me for the rest of the week. I dunno, but I've always been that type of person.
Because of this, I have never had the courage to approach a girl needless to say show interest in one. I don't think I'm *that* unattractive, but I just know that if I did ask a girl out, and if I did get rejected, I'd feel absolutely crushed.
I know that women are just people too, but you guys just seem so scary! I've had a couple of girls show interest in me throughout my school years (I've NEVER been the one to make the first move), but I'm just so paranoid about girls doing it as a prank to ridicule me (I know it's extremely ridiculous) or whatever, that everytime it has happened (it's been a while), I just froze and it never went beyond them showing interest/asking me out. I'd always just act like I didn't know what was going on and I've even rejected them a couple of times. Like I said, it's been a while, but I could imagine myself doing the same thing today because I still haven't changed. | Have never had a girlfriend because I've never approached due to my fear of rejection. Don't know/afraid to conquer it. I'm a fucking coward. |
t3_1qngdp | relationship_advice | Me(29/F) and my bf (21/M) have been seeing each other exclusively for a couple weeks and his mother hates me. | Seriously, this woman hates me so much. He doesn't seem to care about it but it really gets me down. She says things like I'm not a good mother (because I joined the military), I'm trashy (tattoos and my nose pierced), and that I'm an old woman and he should be dating one of my daughters (they're 13!). I know I'm not exactly what every mother hopes for but she's constantly harassing him about it. I try really hard to be kind to people and help everyone out. I've never been involved in sketchy things and that's pretty rare for where we live. She's the only one that hates it. How do I get her off my back and keep everything together with him? Seriously, I might lose my mind if she hints at him dating my children again. | My boyfriend's mother is absolutely insane. |
t3_1xia3e | dating_advice | Help with attracting wrong type of partner/s | G'Day r/dating,
I've got somewhat a dilemma I hope someone can help me with.
I'm a typical mid 20's heterosexual (25) male who:
- is in a reasonably successful career ;
- raised in a relatively normal nuclear family;
- got his act together: started working out, dressing for success, and swapped the PC games for books;
- on a noFap streak; and above else
- I like to think I am fair and humble everywhere I go, and tend to initiate friendly conversations with strangers, be it waiting for a bus or at the checkout.
However, lately I seem to be attracting nothing but women with baggage (we're talking abusive ex partners, single mothers, former coke heads, et al), and, for the life of me, I cannot figure out why.
Can someone please at least point me in the right direction? Happy to answer any probing questions. | Why are people with emotional baggage attracted to me? |
t3_287q3z | relationships | my boyfriend [27M] of 5 months makes me [23F] feel so unattractive | I have a very loving boyfriend except he has a tendancy to bluntly check out and harmless flirt with women who are more attractive than me.
This makes me feel absolutley terrible about myself.
I feel like its more than me just being jealous or insecure and I've indiretly brought it up before but his response is to tell me its natural for men to this and that he knows that he wants me.
which I agree with to some extent.
Other than this he is the best boyfriend I've ever had and I just am wondering what is the best way to bring up this problem to him again without sounding needy or jealous? | my boyfriend is very obvious about the women finds attractive and it makes me feel awful. |
t3_53maev | relationships | I[23F] have been hiding a big secret from my fiancée [25M] of 3 years, that I think would potentially break us up if he found out. | I can't believe I'm posting here, but this has been weighing on me for the past couple of days.
About 6 months back, I made the ridiculous mistake of shoplifting. I was going through some rough times and I let my impulses get the better of me. But I fixed all that and I paid my fines, etc. I did this all in secret though. I know I did wrong and I deserve pretty much anything. And I feel like a sack of shit for never telling him. I wanted to, several times because I never want to keep secrets.. But every time I backed out of it. I would get so scared that he'd be mad or worse break up with me. So I just shut my mouth and pushed it away.
I know what the obvious answer is..I should tell him but I don't know how. I experienced emotional abuse when I was younger so this is quite possibly one of the hardest things for me. I learned to lie to avoid anger or disappoint. I know that is an excuse but confrontation is so hard for me.
Please help me. I don't want to keep this secret from him anymore. And I know its his full right to leave me, but I really don't want that. I know I broke his trust and I can never forgive myself. | I had a run in with the law 6 months ago and I never told my fiancée. How, if even possible, can I remedy this? |
t3_4w30xu | relationship_advice | Attracted to my boyfriend's roommate. | I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years. Between then and now we've drifted apart. He's either at the gym, working, or napping. I feel like I have to force him to want to spend time with me. I don't think I'm a clingy girlfriend at all, but I feel so unwanted and ignored lately. He's emotionally unavailable and I feel as if it's an inconvenience for him to talk and share with me. I've lost an emotional connection with him and therefore my physical attraction is gone. I no longer find him attractive and most times feel like I have to force a connection there. No matter how many times I make me feelings clear it seems as if it goes in one ear, out the other. Now, my boyfriend isn't exactly a stunning looker or anything, but I fell in love because of his personality at first. Now that it's changed I feel my attraction to him gone.
He recently moved in with 2 roommates and I feel very physically attracted to one of them. I fight these thoughts and feelings in my head about him, because I've only known him maybe only 3 days. I doubt he's attracted to me at all, but how do I stop it? Is it because I miss the young honeymoon, puppy love stage and I'm looking for it from someone else? Or is out time really coming to an end? I know I'd never sexually cheat. But I'm scared that emotionally I will, meaning like flirting or talking. | Boyfriend is emotionally distant. I'm attracted to his new roommate. |
t3_36uch1 | jobs | What should I do next, if anything at all? | I applied to a job a couple of weeks ago and got a call almost immediately thereafter to schedule an interview (my first one as a university graduate). I had the interview last Thursday and it seemed to go fairly well, and we even went over by 15 minutes. It wasn't even with an HR person, but rather the specific person I'd be working for/with.
I got a call later that day from HR saying they "absolutely wanted to move ahead with the hiring process" and that they would fly me down for onsite interviews/meetings. The wording of the whole thing seemed to imply that it was more formality and, by her words, "to make sure that I wasn't lying on my resume." She said they'd contact me early this week with details.
Fast forward to today and I still hadn't heard from them. I'm about ready to email them and ask when I get an email that basically reads as follows:
"Hello kyle,
[Some stuff about sharing application info with the person I interviewed with]. The hiring team has requested interviews with a couple other candidates first. I may have misunderstood the initial direction regarding an interview for you. I am sorry to have created a false expectation for you.
As soon as I know for certain if they will interview you Kyle, I'll be in touch."
I emailed her back saying that I understood and asking her to stay in contact with me regarding any future updates to the status of my application.
What should I do next? Do I just wait? Should I forget about it? Is this just a way of saying they aren't interested? Is it that they want to interview everyone first and *then* schedule an interview? | had an interview, told I was going to be flown down for another one, got stiffarmed, and am now confused about what I should do. |
t3_287zrb | relationships | Me [21 M] with my ___ [21 F] 2 months, some reason I cant get over the break up. | So I have been dating my ex for only 2 months, I know this is nothing like most threads where the relationships have been for like over 2 years, but for some reason I can relate and cant get over the pain.
She recently broke it off with me because I went skinny dipping without her, I assured her that it was with mostly my guy friends and a few other girls that I was trying to set up for my friends. I also told her that while we were playing truth or dare I did not participate because I told them I was in a relationship. Even though I don't believe what I did is hurtful enough to break a relationship I tried my all to apologize to get her back.
Currently she said that she wants to go back to square one and go on dates, but for the past day or so I've recieved no contact from her. I've been told to just give her space, like maybe a week without texting her but i'm afraid that she will find another guy and forget about me.
We were only together for 2 months but every second of the day I think about her and a weird pain in my stomach occurs everytime making me not able to eat because I will then feel sick. And what makes it worse is that it seems that she doesn't think of me at all, or care. Whats the best way to deal with this break up? I do want to get back with her. | Broke up after 2 months, she wants to go back to square one but has recently started to give no contact, I cant deal with the nc. How do I stay with her but also deal with the nc? |
t3_1pp3n7 | legaladvice | [VA] So two types of black toxic mold were found in my bedroom. Where do I go from here? | In February, my brother contacted our rental's office because of continuous leaks in our kitchen and in my bedroom. He even stated he was concerned about mold. They half-assed the job, and never checked for mold. They had to repair this leak about three times over the next 7 months and the last time we threatened to get a mold test kit. Well this sent them in to action with hygienist and all kinds of crews. Turns out they found extreme levels of toxic mold and about 4 other kinds. They, without notice, changed our locks and barred us from re-entry, we couldn't get any of our stuff out. My brother's bedroom was also picked through and his 9mm was stolen. I am going to the doctors ASAP to get checked out. But we have been living in these conditions for months. Where do I go from here? | Complained for months about mold, hygienist just found extreme levels of toxic mold in my bedroom. Better yet remediation crews stole my brother's 9 mm. |
t3_10iemt | dating_advice | Opening/starting a conversation with 'You look a lot like [celebrity]' - Yay or nay? | 22M with no dating experience. There's this girl (22F) from my town who goes another college whom I stumbled upon online from mutual friends (Anyone thinking 'get your friends to introduce her'... Nope, because this hasn't worked out too well in the past for me and I'm not particularly close with our common friends). I think she's available. I'm deducing she's coming to town when my college has a football game against hers and I plan to try to bump into her during then.
The problem is we have never met or talked before, and I think I have a particular weakness in approaching total strangers and trying to start a conversation with them. Now, she looks remarkably similar to Emma Stone; her friends share this opinion and she even acknowledges this (source: a bit of 'research' on social networking sites).
I'm not a great conversation starter and I don't want to seem like a cheesy pickup asshat with generic lines. So I'm thinking of opening a conversation with her (if I manage to run into her) with something along the lines of 'Hey I don't usually do this with strangers, but has anyone told you that you look a lot like Emma Stone' and then going with the flow. What do you all think? | Girl shares an uncanny resemblance to Emma Stone, coming to town next month and I'm thinking of using that to start a conversation with this complete stranger |
t3_1bv421 | loseit | 70 pounds down! (M/32/6'2") 275-205 | I've been on Weight Watchers since Sept 2012, and I am just 10 lbs away from my goal weight! I got started to take control of my own happiness and health, and that I've done!
In 06 I had back surgery that limited my motion to just barely walking. I let that condition feed my pity party and proceeded to gain about 80lbs over 6 years. I wouldn't exercise, bc of fear of reinjury (which did happen a few times). Finally, I said enough! I started by losing 40lbs. I plateaued for a week and decided to add exercise to my routine.
I started slow, walking, elliptical, or calisthenics 2-3x week. The weight started flying off, and my back was not in any pain. I gradually upped the frequency, intensity, and duration of my workouts. I now run primarily. I'm training for a half marathon in May, a Spartan Race in August, and a Ragnar relay in October.
I have a nearly empty closet bc I've gone from a 46 waist to 33 waist. (taking donations, haha) I love the way I look, and I love that I'm teaching my kids that exercise is an important aspect of life.
Here's before and after pics, sorry the one from today is a bit shaky, my 5yo took the pic, | Was fat, now less fat. |
t3_13nq4y | relationships | Not sure if I (f/19) should bring up a somewhat unresolved issue with my boyfriend (m/19) | We've been together for about 3 months now and I feel like I'm really starting to fall for him. We have an amazing connection--we have since the start--but it's a little complicated:
Before we met, he had a thing with someone over summer. It was kind of serious and she went off to college out of state and ended it so that was that. Before we decided to commit to each other/be official, he brought up the fact that this girl is going to visit during winter break and that he may want to see her. It was what was holding him back from committing since he didn't know how he would feel when he saw her. But we both really liked each other and wanted to be together so we decided to give it a shot.
Fast forward a couple months and things are going really well. We get along since we're so similar, the sex is awesome, and he's overall a great boyfriend. But the issue still remains: he can't COMPLETELY commit because of his uncertainty of his feelings for this other girl. He says that he's afraid to hurt me because of this uncertainty but still really wants to keep doing what we're doing and be with me.
This whole thing was really bothering me so I talked to him about it and told him that I wasn't going to sit around forever and wait for him to make up his mind. He either needs to move on and commit to the relationship, or I'm done. I made this very clear and told him I was giving him a week to sort out his feelings and what not. I also asked if he needed space to think about everything and he said no.
This was a week and two days ago. It feels as though things between us have been getting better--I met his friends for the first time and that went really well. He's been opening up more and telling me that he's starting to care about me and that I'm special to him. So should I take this as a sign that everything's okay? Or should I bring up the issue again since he hasn't yet? And how should I go about bringing it up? | boyfriend of 3 months unsure of his feelings about ex so I sort of gave him an ultimatum and time to sort out his feelings. The time limit I set passed and everythings going exceptionally well but he hasn't brought up the issue again so I'm wondering if and how I should. |
t3_meli6 | AskReddit | So I have a ridiculous theory... | Last night, I got really stoned and I watch the documentary, Ancient Aliens, the one with Graham Hancock and Giorgio Tsoukalos. I don't think aliens helped the ancients build the pyramids or machu picchu, or any of it. My theory is equally as ridiculous, but think about it... Our sun is eventually going to expand and turn Earth in to an uninhabitable place before eventually swallowing it whole. What if humanity, or whatever we eventually evolve in to, was never able to find an inhabitable planet within a reasonable distance to Earth, whatever that distance would be billions of years from now but they did figure out how to travel back in time. These people would have to helplessly watch while the sun destroyed the planet and end what might be the only intelligent life we ever knew in the universe but they, like humans today, are narcissistic and want to be remembered, so they traveled back and built these massive stone structures that would last for tens of thousands of years or more which would leave there mark since there would be no future generations, they immortalized themselves in the past...
OR
They came back and built these structures to point to the stars, or align with the sky in a certain way. We suspect the Pyramids may have been aligned a certain way with the stars in the sky, where they were positioned thousands of years ago. What if that was to point us in the direction of a planet we could eventually go to, to save humanity? They could have traveled back through time but that doesn't mean they could understand human writings and language that the ancients used or we use today. Over time so many meanings would have been lost that they had no way to communicate with us except by building massive, improbable structures that would catch our attention and force us to study them and hope we eventually figure out what they are trying to tell us? | It wasn't ancient aliens or ancient humans that built the pyramids or machu picchu (or puma punku ect) it was humans from the future trying to immortalize themselves in the past or point humanity towards something in the universe, like possibly another inhabitable planet or intelligence life. |
t3_1oxoq5 | relationships | My girlfriend [21 F] and I [24 M] got into a fight over a puppy..details inside | My Girlfriend and I have been dating for several months now, and recently I had a birthday. Her present too me was too give me a puppy, which I thought was an amazing present, she knew it was something I had been wanting to get soon, and I was very grateful that she went to the trouble and expense to track down my favorite breed and surprise me with him.
However, a couple weeks after my birthday she made a comment that really threw me. I mentioned something about "my" puppy, and she corrected me and said "you mean OUR" puppy." And told me that she had gotten the puppy for us together, and that it was a 50/50 kinda deal.
I was really bothered by this, I mean even half of a purebred puppy is an expensive and thoughtful gift and I dont want to be ungrateful, but committing to raising a pet together is a huge commitment, and making a 15 year commitment a few months into a relationship was more than I was prepared for. I tried to explain calmly why this distinction was upsetting and talk about it but eventually it descended into a huge fight, where she felt I was ungrateful and selfish, and I felt she was being deceptive and manipulative.
Am I wrong to be bothered by this? I feel like a huge dick bringing up the issue again, I really was taken back by how nice of a gift it was, but I dont know if I should let this go, and I want some advice how to approach this. Thanks in advance. | Got half of a puppy, uncertain how to proceed |
t3_1x4vk3 | AskReddit | Reddit, what have you had to endure because of either somebody with the same name as you, or somebody who looks just like you? My story inside. | This is a new account because I don't want to associate my identity with my regular username. My name is Aaron Goldstein and I'm a musician and producer in Toronto. A lot of times, part of the reason people call me to play with them is because they've seen me play before and like what I do. And of course, a lot of people see me on youtube, rather than in person.
So a few weeks ago, it was brought to my attention that when searching my name on youtube, the result is no longer a long list of videos of me rocking and/or rolling. No, in fact, another chap by the same name has flooded the place with literally hundreds of videos which seem to cover two bases: having super creepy on-camera conversation/interaction/smooching with his girlfriend, and regaling the benefits of the pyramid scheme he's involved in.
Examples of the mind-blowing tripe you'll find on this guy's channel:
[boyfriend and girlfriend hanging out - Aaron and Emilia](
[Forehead kisses from boyfriend]
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[love - I get my strength when I touch you baby](
[boyfriend and girlfriend setting up boundaries for their relationship](
[Aaron Goldstein's story - How I became free] - this is an extra super pyramidy one
And it goes on like this. Dozens and dozens of videos. Some of them with tens of thousands of views! It's like a car wreck and I can't peel my eyes away. It's not exactly like he's eating into my business - if people want to find me, they'll do it. It's just a hilarious and definitely unique answer to the question, "Hey, have you ever searched yourself on YouTube?" | Guy with the same name as me has a youtube channel with a trillion videos of him either acting a creep with his girlfriend or shilling his pyramid scheme |
t3_19kdie | AskReddit | Can anyone help me with a Comcast email problem and Xbox Live? | I just bought a new 250gb Xbox Elite today at Best Buy. It was $100 with the agreement that I would use Xbox Live Gold for 2 years. I believe the sales woman said that Microsoft would send me an email to my account. So I used my Xbox Live account email which is a Comcast account I have. Accessing this account has never been a problem really. I changed the password on the account last year or the year before and had no problems getting onto the account. Now I want to see if I got an email from Microsoft about the new console I just purchased or about the payments for Xbox Live.
I can't log into my Comcast account although I know the password and email address. I keep getting told that my email address and password don't match. I can log onto Xbox's website and change the password for Comcast through there, but I can't to see my email. Is there anyway I can access the Comcast email address to see what I might be missing? | Comcast says my email address and password don't match when I know they do. I want to know how to log into the account. |
t3_1ghm52 | relationships | I'm so insecure about my [M19] girlfriend [F19] | I'm always so insecure about my girlfriend. We've been dating for a year and a half now, and even though she's made me feel amazingly happy most of the time, I'm always so scared of losing her. When we have an argument, I'm always worried about her dumping me, even now. I've dated a few other girls before, but this is the first time I feel like I'm in love, but right now, I'm kind of miserable at how insecure I am. I'm confident about myself, my body, my life etc, I'm even confident about women, its just this girl, I'm deathly afraid of losing her. I get slightly jealous when she even mentions other boys, including my best friends, I feel anxious when she doesn't respond quickly to texts, and more recently, she's told me she can't hang out for a while because of summer stuff she's busy, and i feel utterly horrible, as if I'm not a priority anymore. I know I'm overreacting, and that in a few years, it won't even matter, there are other women etc, but right now, I feel so bad... I always have this feeling I care just SO much more than she does, because my whole body is anxious worrying about her still loving me constantly. I've talked to her about my insecurties, and she assured me she'd "always love me, never leave me" but I STILL HURT
Is this normal? How can I feel better about the relationship instead of being so scared of it ending? | I always feel so insecure about my girlfriend, and losing her, as she is my first love. I know its not as big of a deal as it seems, but for some reason, my entire heart is consumed by anxiety/insecurities about her. How do I feel better? |
t3_335ahx | relationships | Couples with different goals in life, does/did it work out? | Hello! I'm a 20 y/o female who has been together with a 22 y/o male for two years now.
For a start we had the same life goals - see the world and have as much fun as possible before the boring adulthood starts. Now when we know each other more, we don't want the same things at all. I'm a pretty down to earth girl who would like to get educated, get a good job and a nice place too live, someday get married and have kids. Kind of a normal and safe life. He - on the other hand - does think that marriage is pointless and a waste of money, kids are a something that will hold you back and keep you from doing what you want. He also just want to travel the world and work everywhere until he gets old.
At first I was shocked and sad but then I thought that it's maybe something that will pass... He's just a kid still... But I'm still worried that when I'm in my 30's and want to settle down, I can't be with this guy anymore because we still doesn't want the same things in life.
Are there any other couples in the world who have the same problems or have had them? How can you come over this? Is he maybe not the one then? I don't really believe in "the one" but I really love him.
Please, answer a worried girl.
I'm from Sweden, if there's any english mistakes, I'm sorry! | I want kids and marriage later in life, he doesn't. What to do? |
t3_4otmvz | relationships | I [23 M] found on my girlfriend's [20 F] phone that she has been texting other guys and hiding it. | My girlfriend and I have been together for about 10 months and live together. I just found out the other day that she has been texting some guy from her new job. Looking through the texts it appears to me that she had no intentions of cheating on me but was very fond of the attention. This of course created a huge fight in which I almost threw her out. She showed her remorse and made me come to believe that she was no longer going to talk to him and would never again do something like this.
We were working on getting past that when I saw on her phone that throughout the duration of our relationship that she had also been texting some other guy from her college that she went to the year prior. The text messages included her saying things I wouldn't have said to another girl. Nothing inappropriate but still very wrong. Again I don't think cheating took place but these text messages were absolutely a stab in the heart.
After finding those additional texts I have thrown her out and she is now at her mother's house. This all just happened now and I guess I don't know how to progress. She is very clearly destroyed by all of this and has been begging me to let her come home. I see how hurt she is by what she has done to me but I don't know if that is enough for me to take her back.
So my real question here is "Is it worth throwing this relationship out over the things I've found?" She has admitted how wrong it was and that she didn't realize how toxic some of the stuff she was saying was. So should I move on? Should I give her a chance to prove that she'll never do it again? Do I give her a chance to fix things? What do I do?
I appreciate any feedback. | My girlfriend has been texting other guys behind my back. She hasn't cheated but should these signals be enough even though she shows clear remorse. |
t3_u708r | dating_advice | Talked to a girl at a bar, got a #, texted, asked her out and she agreed, gave her schedule then stops responding?? | (Both 21)That's the gist of it. Made eye contact with her 5 times before I rescued her from some old guys at the bar, motioned her over after the second guy so she can sit next to me and after 40 minutes we all decided to leave and traded numbers. I texted to make sure she got home safe and she said she had a fun time and thanks for rescuing her, twice. Next day I cut to the chase (via text I(leaving off of the nights text conversation), asked her out, asked her if she is free that night or the weekend, she replies that she is available Monday but then gone for a week.
So I said Monday works for me (Text one in response), I tell her I don't know of any special events(text two) and I offer suggestions and ask for her thoughts(text three)(all within 30 mins of the conversation)
No reply for the past day and a half (so 3pm yesterday, its now 2am so 35~ hours)
I know it seems like 2 stacked texts is weird, but it was a conversation she just left hanging.
I waited 24 hours, so this afternoon, and said "Sorry, to much to fast? I got excited and carried away." (3 stacked texts, two from the conversation and this new one a day later) Thinking, maybe this isn't normal for her lets make her feel comfortable.
It seems weird to get no reply?? Almost like she stopped being interested right away she agreed to see me again and gave me her schedule. Do girls really just cut off after that? Should I be worried (Because I am! She is insanely cute)
Now, if I get not response Sunday to Monday afternoon, do I call her and if she picks up, ask her out (again) that night? OR should I wait until two Mondays from now, maybe she has a lot on her plate if she is gone for a week? | Girl, Bar, Number, Asked out, She agreed, Never finishes text conversation after telling me her schedule, hasn't responded in two nights. Beyond confused dying for a reply |
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