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t3_2mndom | pettyrevenge | Goodbye to your D1 scholarship | This is about as petty as it gets.
So some girl decided to insult my friend who plays basketball. He's notorious for being good and dunking and she decided to poke fun.
Anyhow, insults go back and forth and she eventually said something about me being Chinese (when I'm not) and going back to my home town. Her and her friends thought she was so funny and so I decided to enact some petty revenge.
I screenshotted the comment. I then went to her university's page and went to "submit" an email to the athletic department about the "racist" comment. I wrote out the email and closed the tab but not before taking a screenshot of that email.
I showed it to her and her friends and now she's worried about losing a D1 scholarship. I actually didn't send it since that's extremely messed up but hey, if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen. I'll tell them tomorrow. | pretended to email a D1 school about one of their signees being "racist". Signee is now a bit rattled. |
t3_19jf7w | pettyrevenge | A Quick Petty Revenge | This is my first post, always been a lurker. However today was the day I post on here...
I am sure everyone has there day, but today a car came up behind me going 70+ mph on a 50mph road. Well I was in the far lane and moving at 5 over the speed limit - starting to pass the other two lanes. Well After this guy did not use his blinker and was coming up so fast... I slowed down and let him stew for a couple of minutes before speeding up just enough to get past the car I was trying to get around. He angrily took off again only to be stopped by the next group of cars... That is my petty revenge for the day... | Guy is excessively speeding and not using his blinkers... two groups of cars forced him to slow down and feel some justice. |
t3_3nxdbg | relationships | My fiance (29M) refuses to shower and it bothers me (25F) | I have been with my fiance for four years. He proposed to me in May and we plan on getting married next year.
He is great...except for one thing. He doesn't shower daily. or even every other day. Now I am OCD. I shower daily and have great hygiene and it grosses me out to sleep in bed (a nice clean bed) with him when he is bathing in his works funk. He doesn't smell awful but he does smell and I don't know how to deal with it. I've tried being nice. I've tried being mean. I've even banned him from sleeping with me in bed and now he sleeps on the couch instead almost every night. He never used to be like this and it's gotten really bad in the past 6 months.
What do I do? Why do you think he would rather not take a quick 5 minute shower than sleep in bed with me? I'm depressed over it but it grosses me out! Help! | Fiance won't shower and would rather sleep on the couch than take a shower to be clean so he can sleep in bed with me. |
t3_nk5v8 | AskReddit | Is there anybody that has to take pain pills daily and has (or had) trouble managing them? Or anybody that has to manage withdrawal symptoms? I need help here. | I have a kidney disease and my kidneys are slowly failing. I've been on hydrocodone for 5 years. Now, I'm up to 120 10mg pills that are suppose to last 2 weeks. I also have 120 50mg tramadol that are suppose to last 2 weeks (2 weeks of hydro, 2 weeks of tramadol. that is what my dr prescribed me). Thats 8 fucking pills a day and I STILL can't manage them! I always run out 5 or so days early on both meds.
Is there a better way to manage this? Self control is out, I just don't have it in me not to take them. I worked my ass off to get promoted at my job, now that I am I have to work even harder and the pills help with being able to work. I try to leave them at home and only take so many with me at work, but I find myself driving home on my break to get them.
And the withdrawals. FUCK. When I'm getting low I try to only take them on my days that I'm working. That doesn't work because the withdrawals hit maybe 20 hours after I've had my last bit of pills.
If anyone else has to go through this, is there a way you manage it or a way to manage withdrawal symptoms (particularly the stomach ache)? | Kidneys failing, lots of pain meds that I cant manage on my own and I need help to ease withdrawal symptoms. |
t3_rg57y | AskReddit | Been offered a role at Zynga... Finding it hard to turn down. | Story begins a few months ago.
I'm a successful project manager at a large computing company in the UK. I've always wanted to work in games and there's been nothing I've been more interested in than being a Producer. I love the organisation. I love the communication and people skills required and I love the fact that it's a high stress job where you are accountable for a large portion of what goes on.
I want to pursue this role and I feel have enough experience to do so, even if it means taking a pay cut, moving out of the country or demoting myself down to an associate/recruit/graduate/whatever.
After being rejected from quite a few companies in the UK and just point blank ignored from some I got in contact with a guy I know stateside who works for a large networking firm to see if he had any contacts over there. Low and behold a few weeks later I get an email from Zynga asking me for an interview.
At this point I'd like to make it clear that I dislike Zynga, as most of us do, and I abhor their entire business philosophy. A few weeks go by and they offer me an entry level job, stateside, for a damn sight more than I'm being paid now and sort of in the production area in which I want to move into.
So I ask you, Reddit, with your grand philosophical knowledge, what would you do? | Zynga offered me a pretty good job, |
t3_2x0hh2 | relationships | Ex giving me mixed signals. (19/20yr old) | >Im 19 and he's 20. My ex of 4 years and I hangout and text each other every single day so when we do hangout he is always clinging near me. If we go to my house and watch a movie, I'll deliberately move to the edge of the bed and he'll lean towards me, intertwine his legs with mine or lay his head on me. If I make any reference about another guy I can tell it bothers him a little. He even asks to come over for dinner or go out places with him family. It just bothers me because he says he's doesn't feel the same then why is he doing all these things. I have mentioned this to him before and he'll do well for a day or two and then he's right back at it.
>The last time we talked I had asked him "you don't want to lose me as a friend and that's it?" and he replied " No! I don't because I don't know. I don't want you to be just my friend but what happens if we can't be anything else? I don't want to not have you at all." I still don't understand what he meant by that and then he said "Friends is all i want right now and i understand that may be hard but if you can at least show me that you can do that and maybe ill feel better". Like i don't know what that means!!!! Am i just getting used and am I thinking way too into this? | Can someone just please try to help me make sense of all this???? I do not want to wait forever ):. |
t3_1bdjtw | relationships | I [m17] need help deciding when something is a relationship. | *(Throwaway because the person in question knows my reddit username)*
I [17M] have been semi-involved with someone [17F] for about a month and a half now. We met though some common friends on a night out, and immediately hit it off - not to mention we (drunkenly, admittedly) hooked up later that night. However, contrary to other alcoholic escapades, it was never really awkward and we kept talking.
During this process, a few things were revealed, one of them being that she had apparently met me a few times before, but I had forgotten about it because it was very briefily and I'm a pretty confused guy. She'd been interested in me since she first saw me.
Finally, she lives a few hours away, so it's not as easy to see her as I'd like -We've been out a couple of times though, all of which resulted in something happening.
We speak more or less daily, and generally keep a tone that is very relationship-y.. We've both jokingly and fleetingly referred to us being a couple for a while, but I'm not sure exactly what we are. I'd like to take it to a real level, but I'm afraid of forcing something and alienating her.
I know this is kind of subjective and not a catch-all thing, but I've never been in a proper relationship before, so I'd appreciate some guidance:
Is there a point where we just kind of are a couple, or do you sit down and have a "talk" about taking it to the next level? Am I perhaps just overthinking all this? | I (m17) have been involved with someone (f17) for a good month and a half now. When/how can I find out if we're in a relationship, or if this is just terribly derailed heavy flirting/fooling around? Am I just overthinking things? |
t3_1i76nc | loseit | Last week I was complaining about rather unsupportive people at work, but there are still tons of supportive people. Loseit, what are your GOOD experiences with other people's reactions regarding your weight loss? | A few weeks ago I was upset because a woman at work was telling me I was losing weight too fast and was concerned I was starving myself. (I'm not, I just had the most delicious ground turkey dinner with a side of veggies and shrimp. Allll the protein and yumminess.) But there are some pretty awesome people at work who have been extremely supportive!
There's this woman who I often cover for on her breaks, about once a week. And every time I see her she comments on my weight loss. She always says, "Every time I see you you look skinnier and skinnier. You look so good!" (Picture this from a short, adorable woman with a greek accent. Nicest person ever.) And today she said, "You look so good! And your face! Every time I see you, your face looks different. You look so beautiful!"
I am bad at accepting compliments, so I never quite know how to react to her. But she's honestly the sweetest person ever. It may be a little awkward to have my weight brought up so frequently, but I am so glad to have someone noticing my hard work. And after a rather bad week diet and exercise-wise, it's good to have a reminder of what a good diet and exercise can achieve. I have to properly thank her for being so kind and motivational...I'm unsure of how but I will think of something.
Has anyone ever else had an experience like this, where someone--even a person who is somewhat a stranger--has been extra motivational and supportive? I feel like I have complained way too much about the negative comments and forget the positive ones. So tell me your positive experiences with others regarding weight loss! | Nicest woman ever always compliments on my weight loss. Any other people have a person like this in their life? And if you do please share! |
t3_4bv33a | relationships | Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] 4 months,online long distance relationship | I met this person online by the end of last year, and we instantly clicked.
I asked her out,but she instantly said sharing pictures/voice chat was a big no, unless she changed her mind. She hinted at having issues with previous online relationships, so I didn't dig into details at the time as it seemed to be a delicate issue
I decided to go along with it anyways and give her time,until she feels comfortable with me, and hoping someday she will change her mind.
Fast forward to today, we have been texting each other daily, i don't think we went a single day without it. I'd say we get along pretty well, although i feel I'm a lot more invested in this relationship than she is.
We never touched that subject again, and sometimes i cant help but worry about it.Honestly,i'm unsure if i should give her more time or just tell her how i feel about it.
I want to bring it up.I want to know why she doesn't want to share pictures and how she feels about this whole thing, rather than just knowing what she looks like. Physical appearance is a non issue to me.
I'm scared of bringing it up and stirring some bad memories or fighting over this. But at the same time i'm scared of being manipulated and lied to.
Am i being unreasonable on wanting to clear this up/move forward, even though i agreed on not crossing that line even before we started dating? | Met girl online, agreed to date her without ever sharing pictures, i want to move things forward but unsure how to handle it. |
t3_36eaam | relationships | Girlfriend wants a break due to exams, extremely confused | So we have been in a relationship for about a month and we are both currently going through our exams me(16m) and her (16f) we're getting on really well and she was completely fine before exams and even a week in she was still fine. Now today she sends me a text saying we should go on a break and see where we are at after exams are over as she needs to concentrate and can't afford to have a relationship. So I ask do you want to talk again after twice, the first she says yes then the second its a maybe.
I'm just completely confused to whether she has gone off me and the whole exam thing is just a nice way off ending the thing or whether she actually wants a break and to talk again after. | girlfriend wants to break up due to exams although not sure whether she wants to break up or a break |
t3_2141ur | relationships | I need advice about my husband's behavior. | To make this as short and to the point as possible... My husband took the kids to his mother's house 3 hours away. We had discussed that he would leave 6am so he can get there early and leave early afternoon so he could be back home before dark (which is about 6 here). He told me he was already driving home at 3:30, but when I called an hour later he was still with them. it is over 2 hours later and finally leaving. This isn't the first time he does this.
I am very annoyed at the moment and don't know how to express myself to him about such a touchy subject for him. I can never disagree with anything related to his family. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. | Husband took the kids to his relatives house, he gave me a time period of 9am to 3pm (6 hours to spend there) at the latest, he is more than 2 hours late and lied about it, making it seem he left a lot earlier. |
t3_3mxxkz | relationships | I (27f) am a know it all, relationship (9yrs) with bf (26m) suffering. | My boyfriend is fantastic. He's capable, loving, generally an awesome person to me and others. This is a problem with me, not him.
I am a bit of a know it all. I can't help feeling I'd do..well, anything, better than he would. Cooking, folding clothes, etc. I always hold back from saying anything, because I don't want to be a naggy cow, but I really want help to change my attitude.
We recently got a puppy who I've been training and when bf gets home from work, I unleash with comments like.. "No, use this signal to make him sit, he responds to this whistle, not that whistle.." Its important to note he is actually fantastic, trying his best, just doesn't measure up to my stupid standards ..I'm really worried that when we eventually have kids I'll turn into this possessive 'my way or the highway' bitch of a wife when it comes to parenting.
Please help me, I'd love suggestions of books to read, advice, anything... This is how I've been my whole life but I need to change so I don't poison our relationship. | I am an unreasonable know it all, help me fix it before it wrecks my relationship. |
t3_ele52 | AskReddit | Hey reddit, can you help me find something? (Yoshi related) | Okay, one of my friends is getting a new tattoo, and he wants a specific picture of Yoshi; the problem is that none of us can find it. It is a picture of Yoshi getting a mugshot, apparently from a Nintendo 64 game (I'm assuming it was a promo picture). Normally I can find things like this when nobody else can, but my searches have been fruitless. If anyone can find this for me, you will earn the gratitude of my friend and myself, and you will have earned yourself twelve internets. Thanks to all who try, it seems to be an elusive beast of a picture. | I need somebody to help me find a mugshot picture of yoshi from a Nintendo 64 game. |
t3_3lh0wa | relationships | Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25M] of six months. Traditional parents threaten to disown me if I continue to see him...advice? | Hi All, I [25F] am in a serious relationship with a fantastic guy [25M] but my parents are traditional Hindus and will cut me off if I decide to marry. We are both in our mid 20s and aren't rushing into anything soon but I would like to take this path with him in the future. I don't want to lose him nor do I want to lose my family. He is well educated and has a great job and respects his family--my family just deosnt like that he is not the same background as us. My family is very traditional and will not accept anyone outside their views (ie skin color, religion etc) regardless of character and personality which is very unfair IMO and they are often rude about outsiders that don't fit their "perfect picture". Also, my mom is threatening divorce as she does not want a son-in-law who is an outsider. We are in the USA btw so this is unreasonably stressful to deal with for me. Any advice? | Parents threaten to disown me if I don't marry who they approve. |
t3_361eob | tifu | TIFU by telling my friend that he is deaf. | this happened when i was about 17, and as teenagers do sometimes i used to pick a new word and start using it frequently, that new awesome word was "are you deaf?", a friend of mine with very low hearing was coming to visit me, he is very insecure about his hearing and i am an idiot, i was saying something that (later i realized) he geniuanly didn't hear and thought i said something else, i followed with "are you fucking deaf.. no seriously.. are you DEAF.. hey..deaf dude.. from earth to *name* do you understand?" well.. he didn't show it but i am sure he was very.. very upset, the big problem is that i didn't realize what i did til later that day when he was already home and i was taking a shit, i got the .. "oh..wait." moment and realized what i did, i never saw this guy after, he didn't have a mobile and the relationship was "family to family?" and we never saw that family since, my parents still have no idea why and i have no intention of telling them. | told a deaf guy that he's deaf and then rubbed it on his face. |
t3_3t40pg | relationships | I feel like I can't trust my girlfriend. | My girlfriend (23) and I (22) have been together for 3 months now. I told her at the very beginning of the relationship that I really didn't like her ex boyfriend. He tried to get between our relationship right from the start, and I asked her to please stay away from him. She kept messaging him and I eventually told her it's either him or me, and if it's me needs to cut all contact with him. So she did, or so I thought.
After a series of events, turns out he had talked to him a few weeks ago, and she lied to me multiple times about it. She then blocked his number and from all social media, and cried her heart out saying she didnt want to tell me because she knew I'd leave her. I really like this girl and want it to really work out. But I feel like I can't trust her. I always have that thought in the back of my mind she's with someone else now. What should I do? | girlfriend talked to her ex after I asked her not to, she did and lied to me about it, now I feel like I can't trust her. |
t3_17ig04 | relationships | Having trouble in my polyamorous relationship. | Hey guys, I need some help.
I (f/20) live a polyamorous lifestyle, but have just started seeing a guy (Mike/26) who has only ever been monogamous
About a month ago I started seeing him, who just got out of a long relationship. So he wanted to keep things casual which is what I was looking for anyway.
I am also seeing another guy (Eric) who lives in another state, that is also poly.
Now the problem is in the past few weeks me & Mike have gotten a lot closer & have been spending a lot of time together, & with Eric out of state things feel like they have been pretty exclusive. But now Eric is talking about how later in the year he will be coming to live in my city for 2 months, upon telling mike about this, he said "with things the way they are now, I wouldn't feel comfortable with you being intimate with another guy".
Now I'm at a crossroads, because I know that being monogamous doesn't work for me, at least not at this time in my life, & I can't see that changing any time too soon. So I don't want to be getting serious & committed with Mike, & losing the great times I have with Eric, but I also don't want to just cut it off with Mike either, & I also know that in the vulnerable state he is in after his ex left, he wouldn't do well with me cutting it off either.
I don't know what I should do...
In the end I feel as though I'm just gonna end up hurting Mike. I just don't know if it would be better to now, or in a few months. | boyfriend new to poly doesn't like the idea of my poly lifestyle. |
t3_3v0xrg | relationship_advice | 28M and my ex wants me back after I start seeing someone else | I apologize for the length of this and will try to keep it concise.
I am not sure what I should do. I dated this girl, Shelly, for a year. Shelly was divorcing her husband and has two kids. We were madly in love. The story book feeling, everything you can imagine, etc. She makes me feel like anything is possible.
This all changed when she felt like I had cheated by talking to a friend of mine, who was a female. Shelly is a very jealous girl. We stayed together even though Shelly felt hurt and betrayed. A few months went by and Shelly left me for her ex husband and father of her children. Over the course of this year, Shelly and I have went back and forth about getting back together, but she never could commit to leaving her ex husband now boyfriend(Not sure what you call that). Finally I gave up and began seeing other people and acting single as I was.
I met a girl, Amber, who is very nice and we get along great. It's the start of a new relationship and is going well. This is where it gets complicated. Now Shelly is completely enamored with me again and wants to be with me. I absolutely LOVE the idea of being with Shelly again, but I don't know if I can get past all of the hurt she's caused me this year. Additionally, Amber seems like a great girl on her own. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know what to do.
I love Shelly and always will. We are absolutely crazy about each other in every way possible. Emotionally and physically. The problem is she's hurt me like no one else ever has before. Amber is a great girl, but it's too soon to tell how things would really go with her. I know Amber is falling hard for me, and I started falling for her but now I feel emotionally unavailable.
If you have any questions I can clarify let me know, I may be missing some important info. | Ex gf left me for her ex and now wants me back after I start seeing someone else. I'm torn on what to do. |
t3_1e1xzr | relationships | I [24M] am in love with this girl [24F] she says she loves me, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship due to commitment issues. | So I [24M] am in love with this girl [24F] and she says she loves me back. We have been friends for about 3-4 years, and these feelings have been there, but not as strong as of the last year. (same with her) We hang out, we make each other laugh and we both respect each other. We kiss, hug and go out on dates. But she enjoys being single, and she really loves it. She has commitment issues due to her mother leaving her at a very young age, and everybody has left her life and abandoned her except her sister and her father, (as well as me). So she thinks if we get together, it will just end poorly. I love this girl, I love everything about her. I could see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl. I'm not sure what to do, she doesn't want attachment so it is easier to let go, but I don't want to let go. She talks to other guys, and hangs out with them, but I don't think its anything like our relationship. I personally don't know what to do.
(I had to make a throwaway account, because she reddits as well) | I [24M] am in love with this girl [24F] she says she loves me, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship due to commitment issues. |
t3_3ayhvb | relationships | Fiancé works graveyard shift, need advice. (28m) (25f) 3 years | Hi all, first off, my (28m)relationship with my fiancé (25f) is really awesome. We live together and have been together for 3 years. She's my best friend through and through. We're getting married next year and I'm really happy with our life together.
Recently she took a job working graveyard shift, which is the best paying job she's ever had with a company she wants to build a career with. I'm really proud of her for working hard to feel independent.
The catch is that I work a 9-5 and have weekends off, while she typically has to work, and gets off days in the week.
I want to make her off days feel special, like weekdays for me, but don't quite know how. There's typically less going on, and most of our friends have schedules like mine. I think she's getting really lonely with a routine where she never sees anyone but me for a few hours in the afternoon.
Has anyone been through this kind of thing before?
What advice would you give to help?
Thanks! | lady works nights and weekends, how do I make her days off special during the middle of the week? |
t3_21b2ab | Advice | College mental health | So im in my first semester liberal arts program. I entered it because my options were very clearly limited, work a crap job or go to school. Liberal arts was and is a pathway for me into a BA course at university level. Heres where my issue arises the 80 min commute (one way) and 80 minutes back is playing with my mental health. A typical day for me is wake up in the morning eat get ready go to class till roughly 3-4 get home around 530 now this leaves me little time to do things I want to do like maybe play video games talk to friends etc because the homework load requires atleast 1-2 hours per night. I just cant see myself doing this everyday and I dont want to dropout because the only thing I have is my highschool diploma and jobs are garbage. I dont mind working hard but having to commute more than an hour oneway seems unacceptable to me, the easy solution is just drive but its not financially viable.Like sometimes I just sit there and think man working for the rest of my life seems like a death sentence I dont think I can make it. If anyone has any similar experiences feel free to share. | long commute and heavy course workload killing me not gonna last long halp |
t3_4sl51h | relationships | I [32F] am in love with a younger man [23M] and am torn about confessing to him that I used to be a sex worker | I used to be a webcam model when I was aged 20-22. I used the money to pay for college to get an Associate's degree in art. From ages 23 to 26 I was a sex worker. I worked for a well-known company that releases porn movies. I never made movies of the kind that were released on DVD or streamed on the internet, but would often be sent to private parties to either strip or have actual sex with wealthy clients.
I did a lot of hard drugs.
After that I got my act together and these days I manage a vintage art and clothing shop with a friend. I'm not rich, but I've got my own apartment and car and am taking care of myself. I am absolutely sober. My days of coke, X, K, and other stuff are over.
A few months ago I met this really cute, younger guy who would sometimes come into our shop to buy shirts and things. One day we got to talking, one thing led to another, and it was actually me asking him out.
He's really a clean cut, decent guy who has always been a total gentleman with me. He's got his college degree in business and works for a law firm in the PR department. We have so many of the same tastes in music, art, film, television... everything.
The sex is amazing, which surprised me considering he's so young and shy.
He's already making nice noise about introducing me to his mother and father.
My own parents are split up and I don't have a relationship with either of them.
Here's my issue though. I really think I'm falling in love with him, and I know he ought to know about my past, but I'm scared to tell him because he might flip out and dump me. It's happened before.
Should I tell him? Does he have a right to know? It all happened a long time ago, I've been tested, and don't have any STDs.
Thanks for your help Reddit. | I used to be a sex worker when I was younger and am torn about telling my boyfriend about it because I'm scared he'll hate me |
t3_dpsou | relationship_advice | /r/r_a: She's perfect. How do I express my feelings to this person? | Me, 25yr male, she's 21.
We met when she was 17, didn't see each other again until she was 19. We dated for 2 years. It got really serious and I started a career, she got scared and split up in the hopes of discovering her "path" alone. I respected that, I know how it is when you're young and considering the rest of your life with someone. We recently started dating again and things are amazing, we both benefited greatly from the time apart.
We both know we're not perfect, but our relationship and connection is.
I've been trying to express my utter and complete devotion and borderline infatuation with her. She is the most beautiful person I've ever met, through and through. I tell her that, but it doesn't feel like enough (to me).
There is no indication that she doesn't know that I love her. I tell her just like I always did, I'm so lucky to share this with her, and she says the same.
But, I literally feel anxious and frustrated trying to think of a way to express the way I truly feel.
Is this normal, even after years? | I'm just freaking out cause I'm so in love I don't know what to do with myself, thanks r_a. |
t3_2umzg1 | relationships | Me [27 M]; love interest [25 F]. Should I pursue her knowing that I might have to relocate overseas? | I'm attracted to a girl whom I met. She is attractive inside and out. I have thought about taking our friendship to another level and ask her to be my significant other (dating).
The only issue that has been on my mind is that my job will require me to travel overseas to different countries and stay there for a year or two, and then relocate again. So I'll be moving around alot. She already has a stable, good-paying job at our current country.
Am I selfish is I pursue her and hope that she will be able to move around with me around the world?
Would the best decision be to keep these feelings of affection to myself and let the feelings die down. I really don't want to regret it in the future as I haven't seen someone like her in my 27 years on earth. | Mandatory summary/question! |
t3_322l55 | tifu | TIFU by listening to music in the shower | So today I was showering and I usually listen to Pandora or Spotify on a little Bluetooth speaker I have.
My grandparents live very close to my family so they stop by quite a bit. I was in the shower for a while so I didn't know my grandma had stopped by.
The song " These walls" by Kendrick Lamar came on, and if you haven't heard it I'll link it below, and my grandma walked past the bathroom during the point of the song where a woman is sexually moaning, and the speaker was on very loudly because showers are loud.
She freaked out and started yelling things at me and left before I had time to get out of the shower and explain.
Link to the song: These Walls - Kendrick Lamar: | my grandma thought I was watching porn in the shower and was so disgusted she had to leave my house in a hurry. |
t3_34y68c | tifu | TIFU by watching a 9/11 documentary with my boyfriend. | This just happened last night, and yes, we're American.
I was hanging out at my boyfriend's apartment last night drinking wine and watching Guardians of the Galaxy while he surfed reddit. Normally evenings like this would end in sex and cuddling, so I crawled into his lap to get things started. We were looking at posts together when we stumbled upon a documentary about 9/11.
Now, my boyfriend and I were both very young when 9/11 occurred and had never really seen the events transpire fully so we decided to watch it out of curiosity.
This was a mistake.
About 30 minutes in we had to turn it off because I started crying uncontrollably.
My boyfriend spent the rest of the evening holding me while I cried myself to sleep. | No sex, just tears. Drunk girlfriends and 9/11 documentaries do not mix. |
t3_44djqb | relationships | Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F] of 3 years, her lack of personal hygiene is turn off. | GF knows my username so throwaway.
My gf and I have been living together for a little over a year now and with that came the usual changes any couple who lives together experiences. One change in particular has slowly become a point of concern for me. My gf showers about once every 4 days on average. Now while I shower once everyday, I'm not some clean freak and have no problems with this normally. However recently I've noticed myself being deterred by her when it comes time for us to get frisky. Her skin feels greasy, I can taste saltiness when kissing her neck, and let's just say that doggy-style has me more thinking about the smell than what I'm currently doing. I'll say though that I fully understand there's always going to be a varying degree of that going on with everybody, but at this level it's very, very hard to remain in the mood.
So my first question is: is this normal for women to shower this infrequently? I understand a woman's showering process is usually more tedious than a man's so I don't expect them to do it as much. Now if this isn't normal, how in the world can I say this to my gf? She's very self-conscious about that sort of stuff and I know if I don't choose my words wisely she might end up in tears. | Gf showers about once every 4 days leaving me not wanting sex. Is that frequency normal for a woman? How can I bring it up to her in a nice manner? |
t3_4410eo | relationships | Me [19F] with my good friend [20 M] duration 6 months, how do I gently let him down? | 'Danny' is a good friend and I love spending time with him. A few months ago, he admitted that he had feelings for me. I was somewhat interested, but since I was not looking for anything serious at the time, I just told him that I didn't want to be in a relationship but I also didn't want to mess him about by hooking up with him when I knew he liked me. I offered to cut contact but he refused, so instead I told him to tell me if he feels like I'm leading him on, and reduced contact with him.
After a while of just chatting over the Internet, we began to hang out again, and I thought everything was alright until last night. We coincidentally went out to the same club, and since all of our friends are friends we were together for most of the night. It quickly became obvious that Danny still is interested in me, as he followed me around all night, kept putting his arm around me, repeatedly tried to kiss me, and glared at any boy who tried to talk to me. One of our mutual friends kept trying to trick me into kissing Danny, which unfortunately succeeded.
Obviously I have to do something about this but I don't know how to approach the situation. I am no longer interested in Danny whatsoever as while he is a good friend, he has a manipulative side that I do not like. To make matters more complicated, I am now properly interested in another boy, who seems to be interested in me as well, and would like to date him; I feel as though if Danny finds out, he'll think I lied when I said that I didn't want a relationship and be offended.
I know this post isn't very flattering towards Danny but he is one of my closest friends in university and he's a good person... I really do not want to lose his friendship but I also don't want him to continue pointlessly liking me :(
Thank you in advance! | Even after turning him down, my friend is still interested, and I don't know what to do to make him stop. |
t3_1ilkhx | relationship_advice | Hello, a couple of days ago i found out that my wife has been seeing my best friend behind my back, i don't know what to do. | We have been together for 6 years, been married 2, and have a son. I had to force it out of her by saying that i could see her text history. She has been snatching her phone away if i touched it or even looked at it, so i thought that was suspicious. Anyway, she came out and told me the truth, and i had such a panic attack it scared me, i didn't know what i was going to do. My friend by the way is engaged, and when his fiance found out she flipped her shit to. She begged me to stay and that it was a mistake because she was curious, so as of now i am letting her stay in my house. I feel like the worlds biggest idiot for letting her stay but i do not know if divorcing her so soon would be my anger speaking or not, but his fiances is not leaving him, and that means that both of them are getting of scott free. Has anyone been in this situation, because i have no idea what i should do. | Wife cheated on me with my best friend |
t3_3mojgu | tifu | TIFU by following doctor's orders. | Actually happened about, oh, eight hours ago.
For the past four days (this is also a FU, I'm well aware) I've been having rather strange breathing issues which seem to be caused by a combination of allergies and asthma. Roughly eight hours ago I finally got fed up enough to hie my behind over to ER, at which point I was given a breathing treatment, got blood tests and heart tests and X-rays out the wazoo, yada. So *that* part of it? Yeah, that's alright now.
Here's the FU.
I'm on a short course of prednisone now to try and break this whateveritis that's fucking with my lungs. Okay, fine and dandy, except there is a tiny problem with this which I *completely* neglected to remember - I am not supposed to take steroids. I have a recurring issue with my right eye that steroids aggravate *very* strongly. (Blood behind the retina, basically. There's wee vessels there that love to break and try to blind me.)
And sure enough, I wake up at 3 AM with a sense of foreboding and a ginormous blind spot in the middle of my vision, because guess what, IT'S BACK.
I want a new body. | Lungs rebelled and were tamed. Process of taming lungs caused eye to rebel. I hate everything. |
t3_1gzrn1 | relationships | (M/22) falling for a girl (f/23) that I have been casually dating for 2 weeks. | Met this girl and started going on dates with her and she is awesome. I'd love to make her my girlfriend.
Saw her a ton this last weekend and she was super into me but I feel her interest is slowly fading (I think I am trying to hard). Part of me trying so hard is because I have a crazy project coming up and ill be out of town for 8 days.
I have tonight off and could ask to see her but I don't know if I should. I am having anxiety because this awesome
girl just came into my life as soon as the biggest work project of my life jsut feel into my lap. | I have no idea how interested to act to not show my cards |
t3_p4uyz | AskReddit | Need help getting more motivated. | Hey Reddit. College freshman here going into my second semester and not doing so great.
Starting the first semester felt amazing. Leaving high-school and beginning a fresh new start. I felt so active and for the first time in a while happy.
When the finals came around I fell into depression and completely bombed my finals. I was hopeing my GPA would fall somewhere around 3.5 but I ended up with a 2.7.
Ever since then. I have been so terribly lazy, extreemly Moody (usually angry), and when it came to think practically (about school work/ health) I have become almost emotionally numb. Like I just don't care. I hate this feeling.
My mother is in Afghanistan and I live with my brother. They worry so much about mY education which makes me feel even worse since I feel like I just don't care. I want to be successful I'm the future but I wont be going anywhere if I stay like this. I'm also kind of afraid that I am going to loose all my friends because of these emotions I'm going through.
So Reddit, I don't know if this is really the problem or not put some sense into me. | I suck at school and feel like I don't care about school anymore. Have become very Moody and afraid to loose my friends. Help me. |
t3_3fmvf2 | relationships | my [17F] ex [19M] still harrasses me and it's affecting every relationship | hi.
i'm sorry for possible mistakes, i've been crying the last hours and i can't see a thing.
i had a relationship that lasted almost 2 years back in 2012. i was young, naive and stupid. my ex, "liam", was very abusive, controlling and manipulating - and when we broke up he promised, he swore to ruin my life in every aspect and so he's doing.
for the starters, he started sending my friends death-threats and swore he would kill me. he also follows me everywhere on the internet and applies to be a moderator etc. on the forums i'm on. most have accepted him there and i've disappeared from there so he wouldn't stalk me. but no, he just continues.
today, 4 of my closest friends came and wrote to me shit on my facebook. i don't have many friends, i'm really lonely (i have aspergers, bpd and bipolar) so it really hurt and i rarely go outside since i don't want to be alone (all my friends are in the internet). apparently my ex had been posting some old logs (over a year old) to them where i had said something what a friend had told me in confidential under his threats and now they're mad at me for being a "untrustworthy bitch" and told me "liam was right" and "that's why you don't have many friends, you don't deserve them" etc.
i feel really bad. i can't go to the police, they'll never believe me since he has the logs from skype and i have none since he told me to delete them and i did.
i just feel bad.
i don't know if this would fit better in /r/depression or something but what should i do? | ex harrasses me, turns my friends against me. if i try to start elsewhere, he follows and the circle continues. what can i do? |
t3_oli45 | AskReddit | Reddit, what inspiring line/quote have you guys heard/read that has had an impact (big or small) in your life? | I know there are a bunch (and I put alot of emphasis on that) of these things out there.
Pretty lame example but whats sticking to me, so far until another one shows up, is from an episode of NCIS where McGee got the self-help motivational CD's (the episode where a North Korean operative, Kai, resurfaces) and near the ending of that episode he starts narrating from the CD and mentions that (paraphrasing here) that even though many believe our destiny is predetermined, the path that destiny chose for us can be challenged. To me this made an impact on how I go about my everyday life. | what did you guys hear/read that truly impacted how you view your life/world? |
t3_18rcdv | pettyrevenge | I finally found where I belong... | So,I was driving to campus today when I notice a Pontiac bobbing and weaving it's way up the road behind me. Clearly speeding, tailgating, cutting people off, and just general douchebaggery. Being the person I am,I can't be having any of this, so, when he reaches me,I suddenly feel the need to slow down to around 5 below the limit, no brakes (I want to piss him off, not kill him). So, he suddenly darts into the lane to my right, just as I figured he would. Now,I have no intention of letting this guy pass me, so I then proceed to drop the hammer and zoom forward until I am even with the next person in the right lane, and then I adjust until we are both going the exact same speed. Now, it may have just been my imagination, but I could've sworn that when I looked at the person I had formed this impassable wall with, they gave me the nod, as if they knew what was going on and were glad to be a part of it. This went on for about 2 miles, filled with tailgating, rude gestures, and flashing of headlights. Now, my comrade and I were both doing the speed limit, so I felt no guilt whatsoever, but alas, all great things must come to an end and my new found friends had to turn right towards Ross-Ade. It is here that the Pontiac did back into the right lane and flies past me while giving me one last friendly gesture. Now, my favorite part of the intersection that he chose to do this at is the fact that there is almost ALWAYS a cop parked near it, and always easy to spot, if you're paying attention, but alas, my new nemesis was so preoccupied with his revenge that he didn't notice my cop friend, but oh boy did the cop notice him! The lights immediately went on and he was pulled over. But I made sure to slow down just a bit too wave him a nice his morning with a big ole smile as I drove by him waiting for the cop to get out of his car. I think it's going to be a good day. | always be nice when driving. |
t3_40e38g | Advice | I need a new cell phone. Do I go with a dumb phone or smart phone | My current cell phone is on the fritz and I need to get another one. I've never been one for smart phones, because I just have no need for it. However, with the way society is, I feel like it's forcing us to move to all smart phones.
The phone I currently have does a sufficient job for me in handling text messages and pictures (I don't do internet). However, most of the dumb phones I've seen out there don't really compare to what I have, and feels like a down grade.
I was able to move my sim card from my dying phone to my late mother's phone (which is like brand new because she never used it). However, it's even more of step back from the one i have now. It's only temporary until I figure out what I'm going to purchase. | I need a new phone. Do I go with a smart phone or dumb phone? |
t3_4m9pn9 | relationships | Me (15F) with short term boyfriend(17M). Worried about college and wondering if it's worth it? | hey! So I'm a upcoming sophomore girl dating an upcoming senior guy. He really is awesome, nicest person I've ever met! Very considerate and shy. When talking about sexual things, he's extremely polite and respectful. We've only been dating for about 2 months now, and this is my second relationship and his first.
I'm worried that at the end of this year when he goes off to college it will end badly and hurt a lot. I know for certain that he is going to the college that's VERY close by, literally in our town, but you know how it is, we will be in different stages emotionally. It wouldn't be a long distance relationship but it would be harder, I think.
I'm just afraid of going into this and getting real feelings for someone just to have it end in heartbreak at the end of the year. Am I overthinking this? What should I do? Any advice is appreciated. | I'm 15 and my boyfriend is graduating high school next year. Worried that him leaving will end in heartbreak and pain. |
t3_4xevns | jobs | Internal transfer stalled after 7 months. Should I tell my company I'm applying for external jobs? | I am an engineer for a large corporation that has operations throughout the Southeast. In January '16 I told my management I plan to pursue a transfer within the company to Atlanta because my wife's parents are there and we are expecting our first child. We have no family near our current location.
Since January I have applied to several internal postings and interviewed for one. I've done 8-10 informational interviews and talked to HR about what else I can do. HR says I'm doing all the right things, but here I sit 7 months later.
I decided to start applying externally, but I still have some desire to stay with my current employer if possible (good 401k, vested in pension with 8 years of service, room for professional and salary growth). I'm a good employee and I have been told they don't want to lose me. Would it make sense to tell HR and / or management that I'm looking elsewhere to force them to be more proactive about helping me move to Atlanta? Should I wait until I have a job offer to tell them?
I feel like if wait, perhaps up to a year or more, the internal transfer will eventually come. However, we are in the midst of company-wide layoffs and it is hard to say when I will be able to find something with the company in Atlanta. | 7 months of trying for internal transfer has yielded no results. Now I am searching externally and am trying to decide whether to tell my company. |
t3_37mkpm | relationships | Reddit Fathers, can a dad actually hate their kid? I (F/20) feel like my dad (M/44) hates me | I feel like my dad hates me. He tells me the worst shit ever (ugly, fat, etc)
Once after his friend's daughter got married he suddenly looked at me and said: "my friend cried so hard at his daughter's wedding. I'm pretty sure I won't cry at yours"... I was only 16 when he told me that
The list of the horrible emotional things he's done to me goes on
I feel like we're enemies. He doesn't respect me.
Does he hate me? Does he have actual hate feelings towards me? You surely can't tell me but tell me your thoughts based on his actions. Also can a father hate their kids? I was told that parents can never hate their own kids... I'm not sure I believe it | my dad says the worst things to me. He treats me horribly. Like I'm his enemy. Once when I was about 16 he suddenly told me "I won't cry at your wedding". Can fathers hate their own children? |
t3_49w45g | relationships | Got pissed off and insulted a friend[F26] need to clear the air. | So im a 23M and was great friends with this girl , sort of a love/friend relationship nothing too serious.
Then i got mad at her cos i felt she tried to fuck me over (Not a relationship issue) so we didn't talk for a while , i felt this was a mistake since we didn't communicate the issue. Anyway , when we talked later she kept fucking with me till i exploded with some really hurtful words least of em being "slut" .
Im not happy with what i did but was going through a fucked up period , anyway 3 months later and i just wanna message her and apologize and i found out im blocked everywhere.
i just wanna clear the air and my conscience , i dont really care about being friends again. i feel this is beyond repair and i guess i have to accept it , or is there a way to fix it at least a bit?? Since i really didnt mean what i said.. | Insulted a female friend in a bad way , how to genuinely get an apology across ? |
t3_27i3nz | relationships | Me [22M] feeling something with a friend [21F] who has expressed interested... only problem is her boyfriend [20M] | A girl [21F] I have known for a few years through my best friend [20M] has recently intensely expressed interest in me. We hung out a few times, just the two of us, got drunk, and I felt like something was about to happen. I would have made a move, if she wasn't already dating someone [20M], a guy who's friends with my best friend as well.
Turns out, she wanted something to happen. She told me the next day she wished we had kissed, and she claims she's been attracted to me since we met, which I already knew about, but had no idea just how intense it was. She's been having problems with her boyfriend, who she lives with and has dated for as long as I've known her. She says her and her boyfriend are on a break right now, and were going to break up for good, but I made it clear to her that I wasn't comfortable doing anything until they were 100% done. She's unsure about whether or not she's really going to break up with him, especially since their lives are already so entangled.
I really, really like this girl, and would love for something to happen on the right terms. In this situation, however, I feel like she's split between her boyfriend, who she's comfortable with, and me, who she'd like to pursue something with. It's her decision, but I would like to be as supportive as possible, even if she ends up with her boyfriend again. How can I help her with this? Is it wrong to keep flirting in this situation? Would it be wrong to make out, even? Any advice on what to do would be appreciated. | Girl tells me she likes me, I like her back, but I need her to end it with her live-in boyfriend first. She's unsure if she's actually 100% done, since it's easier to just stay with her boyfriend. I would like her to break up with him, but really just want to be supportive and help her make the best decision while still keeping the possibility for a relationship open in the future. What do I do? |
t3_12zpm4 | running | Is this an effective interval workout for a combination of endurance and speed? | Today was my long run day and I didn't really feel like going out and doing a ten miler. I decided to make up an interval training type workout. I went out and did a mile at 7:30, rested for 60 seconds, and then ran another mile at a pace 6 seconds faster. I repeated this for 9 miles. On my final interval I decided to see what I had left and did a 6 min mile. After that I still had a bit left and did 200s between 36 and 39 seconds each.
Under normal circumstances I would go out and do a ten miler at about 7:05 min/mile without stopping. I realize that nonstop running at a slower pace is better for endurance and shorter distance at a faster pace is better for speed.
In this situation I did 4 miles slower than normal and 6.5 faster (most of which wasn't significantly faster) than normal. I really enjoyed doing this and would love to do it again if it will help me drop some time off my half marathon. Is this an effective way to build speed for longer distances like half marathons? Would it have been better to do fartleks or faster interval training with less distance? | Normally run 10 miles at 7:05/mile. Did intervals starting at 7:30 and subtracting 6 seconds per mile until 10 miles. 60 seconds rest between miles. Finished with some 200s at 36-39 seconds. Will this build speed for longer distances or do nothing? |
t3_ipk8s | AskReddit | Reddit: Lend a nose to an anosmiac | Yep, I have anosmia (smell-blind, hard of smell...ect ect) and I'm just looking for some general advise body wash/cologne/deodorant. From what I can gather I'm not a stinky fellow (actually kinda self conscious about this and typically get a quick shower after most stressful activities) but I just want to make sure I'm not smelling like an old man or anything. Right now I'm using a a combination of old spice (after hours) body wash and deodorant and skipping on any sort of cologne. One of the undergrads in our lab suggested a "puff" one of those axe men's body sprays (kilo i think, or it might just be the science coming out in me there) but that ended with our postdoc openly mocking my "faux man scent" that day. So yeah, I turn it over to you. | No sense of smell and looking for agreeably scented hygiene products |
t3_2llgl8 | relationship_advice | Advice for my [18/m] and my girlfriends [16/f] situation? | Sorry this might be long. So me and my girlfriend have been dating for 9 months now, we met in class when I was still in highschool. The problem is that her step father absolutely refuses to let us be together. For the last 4 or so months we have had to see each other in secret because he won't hear me out. He has sent me messages on several occasions stating that he can't wait to find me so he can't get his hands on me, and to stay away from his daughter. I've told him I would talk to him in person because I love my girlfriend, but he just won't hear it. It's now to the point where I had to give her an old cell phone of mine in secret so we can text, because hers got taken away. I don't know what he would do if he found out, and while I do love her, I don't like living in fear that at any day he could find the phone and get even more upset. My girlfriend is the most perfect person I know, and we are both very happy even having to keep it secret, but it takes a toll on me. Now that Im no longer in school and am working, the only thing that is keeping me from being 100% happy is the fact that we can't have a normal relationship. Is there any advice for me? We have tried not talking until we know we are allowed to see each other, but it last a week until neither of us can take it anymore. | not allowed to see girlfriend, step dad hates me, don't know what to do. |
t3_39dy8c | relationships | He [36m] spat in my face because he was offended by my[27f] joke. Together 7 years. | I barely reacted. I wiped it off and asked him to leave and walked to the door to let him out. We didn't say goodbye or I love you or kiss or anything at all. He stared at me for a minute and left and 10mins later I got a text saying that it was a fucked up joke to make.
I didn't make the joke to hurt him. I did not know it would as I make offensive jokes all the time and he will normally laugh and play along. I'm sorry I upset him because it wasn't my intention but spitting at me doesn't seem right. And I don't feel right apologizing to him for upsetting him after he spat in my face.
I can't work out how I feel about it. He's been texting and calling since he left and I just don't know what to say. | My boyfriend of seven years spat in my face over a joke. |
t3_tr4rr | AskReddit | Hey Reddit what is your "I cant believe I wasn't there for that!" moment. | I have two, both happened at work.
So I was standing in the kitchen at the restaurant I work in. I was cooking a couple burgers when all of a sudden I hear like 12 plates crash to the floor. Apparently what happened was that, the other kid I work with had tried to jump over the giant table that we prepare food on. When he did this his foot hit the giant heat lamp that was attached to the table, this caused the table to shake and a whole bunch of plates to come crashing to the ground. This all happened while I was facing the opposite direction.
The fact that I missed the next one was even more irksome. There was a wedding reception I had to wash dishes for last Saturday. I finished the dishes about an hour and a half after I was scheduled to leave and since I still had to buy a Mothers day present I decided to leave work. Apparently after I had left there was an enormous brawl between many of the guests at the wedding reception. Eventually the cops were called and one guy even got tazed. | co-worker tried to jump over table and knocked plates onto floor, I only heard the crash |
t3_4bv3l8 | relationships | I [24 F] am considering relocating across the country with my boyfriend [25 M] of only a few months. Crazy? Hear me out.. | Hey y'all.
I know this sounds really crazy, but let me preface~
I've been seeing this guy D for 4ish months now.
We actually met on Tinder (lol) and hit it off right away.
Neither of us were really looking for anything serious, I had just left a cheating ex a few months before and his divorce from a cheating ex had just become finalized a few months prior.
**Note: He had been separated over a year before said divorce was finalized.**
Things have been going well and I really like him/see it potentially becoming more serious in the future. For now we're exclusive and I simply enjoy his presence.
A month or two ago he mentioned wanting to pick up and move to the West Coast (we're currently in the Midwest) and jokingly asked if I wanted to come.
I laughed it off in the moment but lately I've seriously been considering it.
Since graduating school I haven't been able to find a job in my field and have been slumming it in retail, I'm not super close with my family, and all of my closest friends have actually relocated to different states as well, so I don't have much keeping me here.
Tbh I've been wanting to get outta Dodge for a while now...so it's kinda like why not?
Prespective moving date would be late October, early November soo in 7ish months.
I'm aware a lot can happen in that time frame but I figure I should start saving now and go from there...
Hypothetically if said move did happen, and he and I didn't work out, I would either stay if I loved it or come back here.
Trying to be as realistic as possible.
Any thoughts guys?
I haven't mentioned it to friends or family yet because I'm wondering if it really does sound ill conceived... | Considering relocating with a guy I haven't been dating all that long in 6-7 months time. Have been wanting to move regardless, would have plan if we didn't work out. Crazy? |
t3_vj4z1 | relationships | I just found out my GF of 6 years has been lying to me. Please help! | I have been in a relationship with the same girl for the past six years, I am 23 she is 22, and I recently discovered she lied to me about something rather significant in my eyes.
Background:
For the most part our relationship has been great although in the beginning I admittedly had some jealousy issues and made accusations without any evidence. I have since worked on those issues and, while i do still get jealous from time to time not nearly to the degree of throwing around accusations anymore, I am far less jealous and more secure in my relationship.
I love this girl to death i would give anything and do anything for her. She claims to feel the same and up until recently i have believed her whole heartily. She is everything i could ever dream for, she is beautiful, smart, funny, fun, determined, just the total package.
Problem:
The past few weekends she has been going to the shore with her best friend, or so she has said. However her body language and desire to not really talk about her nights down there were beginning to make me uneasy. I chalked this up as my jealousy trying to rear its ugly head again. However this morning on my way to the gym I drove past her friend, who she was supposed to be down the shore with, turning into the local restaurant she works at. That was around 10 this morning ,EST. We live about an hour and half from the shore and she was supposed to be sharing a hotel room with my girlfriend, which means she would have had to leave at 8:30 to come and go straight to work.
Question:
I feel as though my concerns have been confirmed and she hasn't been going to the shore with her but instead someone else. I am extremely hurt i feel as though my heart has been ripped in half and i want to express this to her and get answers but i don't want to seem like it's jealousy. Reddit what should I do please help. | Caught the love of my life lying to me about who she went down the shore with last night and i don't know what to do please help! |
t3_28tbxe | tifu | TIFU by drawing a clown sodomizing a child (NSFW) | Was hanging out with some friends last night smoking and carrying on. My buddy knows that I can't draw very well and that all my drawings look like they are drawn by children so he decides I should draw some scenarios that he comes up with. I drew about 4 or 5 drawings but 2 of them were especially fucked up. One was a picture of Hitler jerking it on a sunny beach in full uniform, and the second was a clown assfucking a kid at their birthday party. Both were pretty crudely drawn but disturbing nonetheless. We later go back to my place and he crashes on my coach and we go to bed.
Fast forward to the next day, we wake up, go get some pizza, and then I drive him home. Get back and am talking to my mom when she asks me about these drawings that were left on the coffee table and why I had drawn "a clown cornholing a child" as well as the Hitler picture. I thought about saying it wasn't me but I realized my buddy had gotten me to sign them before folding them up to take with him. I tried to stammer out an explanation but just left it at "you don't want to know" and walked away..
Told my friend who thought it was hilarious and now wants me to retrieve them for him. I can only assume they're in the garbage but I'm too embarrassed to ask where she put them. | mom saw picture I drew for friend of a clown fucking a kid. |
t3_1se5s5 | AskReddit | Credit card company employees of Reddit, do companies put more fraud alerts on people who earn cash back, and what type of card is best to avoid this problem? | Since this summer my personal credit card has been repeatedly frozen during legitimate purchases due to Fraud Alert. Reasons included traveling to a city 6 hours from home without notifying the company, amount of purchase (a computer) and the salesperson entering the wrong security code. I have always been able to resolve the issue with a phone call to the credit card company, but the incidents are embarrassing and time consuming.
My card is a No Fee Cash Back card, and, since I always pay in full, I make about $300 per year off the credit card company. I suspect that because of this, the company is making it inconvenient for me to use the card in order to encourage me to leave the company or use other means for large purchases. But I'd like to know if that's actually likely, and, if so, what kind of card would be most likely to get me off the harassment list? | Do frequent "fraud alerts" on my no fee cash back credit card mean the credit card company is trying to get rid of me? And would another card (maybe with an annual fee) stop these embarrassing incidents? |
t3_3gz5ep | relationships | Ex (23M) cheated on me (24F) and is now telling me he loves me still | He cheated on me with his ex girlfriend. We ended it about 3 weeks ago. He's now already moving back in with her.
He said it's only for his kids and if he was doing it for him then he wouldn't be thinking about me day in and day out and that he still loves me.
Here's the thing, I don't believe a word coming out of his mouth and I have no feelings left for him. My question is, is it the right thing to do to send her screen shots of these messages because it seems pretty obvious to me that he's going to cheat on her again. I mean she took him back after he cheated on her before and then cheated on me with her so she has to know he's a cheater.
I just don't know if it's going to look like I'm doing it just because I want him back, which I do not. I just don't know what the right thing to do here is. | ex is saying he still loves me while he's back with his ex. Should I let her know? |
t3_37ld4h | tifu | TIFU by throwing a bed out of the window | So this happened yesterday. Sometimes I help out at a small business delivering beds/mattresses to peoples houses. It's physically demanding, especially when the mattress is HUGE, the house is small and stairs are involved.
Anyway, just like any other normal delivery we try and get the bed and mattress up the stairs, after about 10 minutes of wiggling this mammoth of a mattress we finally get it up the stairs.
The business I was working for offers a service to take away our customers old beds/mattress. Pretty good huh. Anyway, when we were assembling the bed more space was needed as the room fairly small, the customer said that she wouldn't mind opening the window (THIS WAS A MASSIVE WINDOW BTW), so we could throw the old mattress out of it, saving us the hassle of trying to get the thing back down the stairs.
I graciously accepted her offer and proceeded to pick up and throw the mattress out if the window....one problem though... I threw the new mattress out instead.
My co-worker saw this happen and in slow motion was like screaming **NOOOOO** like Luke Skywalker in that star wars movie. | threw a mattress out of the window, wrong mattress. |
t3_1vv129 | loseit | A little bit of early year motivation for everyone. (M//6'//275 lbs. - 248 lbs.{6 months}) | So I'm practically starting over my fittit journey as of the start of this year. I just got out of a four year relationship that was impacting me negatively as far as mental and physical health. During the summer last year I discovered I was at around 275 lb., my largest weight yet. Since then I am down to 248 lbs. with plenty more to go. Since I've gotten extremely serious about my health this year it's been difficult swaying my perseverance for my goals, but this past weekend was my birthday(uh oh). So I went down to my mom's for a couple of days who doesn't have a lick of healthy shit at her place. I tried to accommodate by buying some stuff, but eventually I gave into the cake and the soda and went to a restaurant and gorged myself. By the end of that I noticed coming back to uni how terrible I felt and knew I had blown what I had been working at. For the past three days I've been working hard to get back into the hang of things(which was easier than I thought) and this morning after checking the scale I saw that I was actually a pound lighter than my last weigh-in! So, basically the moral is that if you have a bad day or even a bad weekend full of bad decisions, it hasn't completely derailed your journey. I'm merely two weeks into my five month journey, but just experiencing that failure-to-success this early on has given me the drive to continue on. Anyways, I hope I inspire some of you to keep with it no matter what! | Just because you fuck up one day doesn't mean you've fucked up permanently, keep with it! |
t3_236tpm | relationships | ME M[20] NEED SOME ADVICE WITH MY CURRENT SITUATION | so i have known this girl since we were kids and we lost contact through high school and then bumped into each other and caught up one evening.over a few months we started to see each other more regularly then out of the blue she starts to tell me of a crush she had on me when we were in school and how she may be having similar feelings for me again however there was someone else.(as a side note i have been diagnosed with depression lately and not to sure where to direct my feelings most of the time)3 months ago she wanted to give me a chance but i was a complete jackass and pushed her away when she offered to try and help me.she ended up dating this other guy for 2 months but ended it because in her words they arent compatible.when i heard the news of them dating i may have kinda spilled the beans ,i told here how i truly feel about her and that i never had an intention of hurting her.
for the duration that she was dating this other guy she sent the odd message here and there to check on me.now recently she invited me to celebrate her birthday with me and seemed to show alot of interest in me but towards the end of the night i had to leave for a work related situation and when i got back i saw her with another guy,i researched a little more into this guy and its only been a week since she broke up with her ex and she is now warming up to him what i want to know is should i pursue the feelings i have for her and if so how | IM BIT OF A LOVE SICK PUPPY SHOULD I PURSE MT FEELINGS I HAVE FOR THIS WOMAN? |
t3_1v1am5 | AskReddit | Reddit, how do you feel about Barack Obama now? | I was going through the Top ever posts of the front page and one of them was about Obama becoming president back in 2009 (it seems that it is #40). It was full of thankful posts and tales of overcoming racial boundaries . What hit me most was how there were posts congratulating America as a country signed from people reporting from other parts of the world. A lot of it was congratulations of not electing McCain.
I remember when I was in college and watched the swear-in ceremony on a projection in a room of maybe 200 other people. The black woman next to me was on the phone with her mother sobbing and saying "He did it, momma'! He really did it! I can't believe it!" and it was entirely freaking me out. So seeing that post near the top and reading everything was kind of surreal. | World of Reddit, has your opinions of Obama changed and if so how? |
t3_2oej73 | relationships | I [26 M] need help getting over him [28 M]. | So. I am pretty aware this is all very pathetic, but I've already bored my friends with this, so now I'm boring you, who's hearing this for the first time.
Well. I met this guy on an online dating app. We chatted everyday for a month and a half. He lives 6 hours away from my hometown, so one weekend I traveled there. It was a really nice weekend.
All the time we chatted, I felt something deeper was developing, both ways. I felt a great warmth from him, like he was really enjoying getting to know me. During the whole weekend he was also very sweet and cute.
So, after I got back home, I felt him kinda cold. Thinking backwards, he was acting like that for some time even before we met. So, we had a conversation, he said he liked me but was in a difficult time in his life and he wasn't willing to give it a try with the distance thing.
OK. It was very bad to hear that, but it's fine, his choice, whatever. I stopped looking into his facebook or any other social media. We have zero contact. We don't even chat anymore, for THREE WEEKS.
The problem is: every single time I'm not actively thinking about something else, he pops in my mind. I feel kinda bad, push him away, think about something else... and then when my guard goes down, there he is again. Going to bed and waking up is the worst, cause how do u sleep when u can't allow your mind to wander off? It's like my mind is fighting agains me, refusing to let him go. And I feel specially worse when I think how brief was our contact and how long it's taking to get over him. | Interacted with a guy for a month and cannot forget him. |
t3_3x3mfm | personalfinance | Screw you, MySavingsDirect | So, like many others here, I fell for MySavingsDirect's 1.25% annual interest rate a few months ago thinking, "oh, of course I want to open a high-yield savings account with the highest interest rate... they promise the highest yield, so I'll give them my business. Cool."
Almost immediately after my first deposit, the rate fell to 1.10%, to which I said, "Dammit - that's lame, but whatever... at least they still have the highest yield. OK, not a huge deal."
Now, their rate has fallen to 1.00% just before the fed has promised to introduce rate hikes, and they no longer offer the highest yield. I feel like I've been duped, and while the difference is pretty much pocket change given my meager savings in that account, I'm really feeling salty about the change.
So, we'll see if and when they raise their rates again, but I'm definitely now in the market for a new high-yield savings account. I'm don't think I'm going to close my account with MySavingsDirect since there's no minimum or fees (and that could reflect poorly on my credit report, I think?), but I'm really thinking about it. | MySavingsDirect has decreased its interest rate for high-yield savings for the second time in four months, and they no longer have the highest rate (which is why most people signed up in the first place). |
t3_2ev6f8 | relationships | Me [23F] with fiance [25M]. Together almost 9 years, engaged in January. Pregnant and suddenly getting cold feet. | We have known each other our whole lives. We started dating in high school when I was a freshman and he was a junior. Even back then we were in love and knew we would end up together. I followed him to college and then ended up transferring and moving across the country to be with him once he graduated. In January he took a job offer in our home town. I still had a semester of school left so we had to do a few months of long distance. Before moving he formally proposed (we had already talked marriage) and I happily said yes. In April I found out that I was pregnant. It was unplanned (pill failed) but we were both happy. In June I moved in with him. Because of the pregnancy we decided that I shouldn't bother trying to find work since his salary is enough to support us. Everything was going great and I was happy. I never doubted our relationship. Today however I am suddenly having doubts. I'm worried that I missed out by not dating around. He seems great but I have nothing to compare him to. I've never even kissed anyone else. I feel so guilty for having these thoughts. He's supported me and done everything to make me feel loved. But now that I've started down this path of thoughts I can't stop having doubts. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to hurt him. And I don't know what to do. I feel trapped and overwhelmed. | Suddenly feeling trapped and worried that I haven't dated around but I feel guilty for having doubts. |
t3_24qns8 | relationships | I'm [19F] having troubles giving my boyfriend [20M] of four years space | My boyfriend and I have been together for four years, we've been together since my sophomore year of high school so we have been through a lot together and seen each other grow. I've never been much of a social person, I have my small group of friends and that's really all I need but they are all guys that I've grown up with. I don't really have any girlfriends and lately that has been really affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. I have a bit of trouble making girlfriends because I feel uncomfortable hanging around new people and I'm bad at keeping in touch (texting back and etc).
He is a very sociable person, he goes out to see his friends every night and lately, we've been getting into arguments because I feel like he doesn't make time for me. I know this is an issue of me using him as an emotional crutch because I, myself, don't really have any friends that I hang out with. I go to school full-time and I work full-time so I rarely do have time to hang out and when I do, I'd like to spend it with him.
I know he needs his space and I do try my best to give it to him, but sometimes, I really feel like he doesn't make time for me. When I try to voice this, he tells me that I'm overreacting and that I need to give him space - I don't ask for fancy dates or anything really big, but just for a day that he can dedicate to us but he says that I'm being too clingy and naggy.
I recognize that part of my issue is that I don't really have my own friends to hang out with but sometimes I feel like he makes too much time for his own friends rather than with me. Am I selfish/clingy/overreacting for feeling like this? | I don't have many friends to hang out with but work/go to school for long hours and when I have breaks, I want to spend it with my bf. He hangs out with his friends instead and says that I need to give him space and I'm being clingy. Am I overreacting when I feel like he does not make time for me? |
t3_4fo2ge | relationship_advice | My [32m] best friend [28m] is getting married. I'm the best man and he's asked me to pay for my own suit. | My best friend is getting married. I'm happy for him, and he asked me to be best man. At first the idea was we get basic suits from a high street store, and I pay for mine. I was ok with this as I'd have a suit to keep out of it.
Now though, he's said he wants to hire suits, with the cost being £170 and expecting me to pay. He's justified this by saying I'd get to keep the shirt and cravat...I'd never need a cravat?
How do I talk to him about how ridiculous this is without pissing him off? I've said he can't really expect me to hire a special suit for his wedding and he has said he would give it some thought but I just think it's stupid.
Also am I wrong to feel this way? | friend is expecting best man to buy suit |
t3_121orx | AskReddit | Do middle college students stand a chance against conventional high school students? | I am currently a middle college student in California, and I have a question!
I've taken advantage of the opportunities my school offers, and so I've taken classes quite a few number of classes at the local community college, and as a result I:
1.) Have gone way ahead in terms of math. I've gone through Calc I, II, and III and am currently taking Linear Algebra. The only colleges that they are guaranteed transferable to are UCS and CSUS.
2.)I've taken the english composition classes that I would have had to take in college. Same thing as math classes above with the transfer, however.
3.)I have a ridiculous amount of high school credits, since for college classes, each unit is equivalent to several credits.
I've also tutored at the math lab at the college for a year, and maintained a 4.0 GPA in high school (no ap). Looks like a decent record....right?
But when I look at the screen, I have to wonder to myself just how good a middle college student like me looks to colleges, compared to the 4.3 GPA student who's gotten 4's and 5's on their AP exams, and maybe is on the football team or in ASB or something.
AP exams let colleges compare students on common ground, whereas in the absence of AP classes at my school, they would have to make up for it by.....what, looking at my GPA? I'm lost on this.
There's also the fact that due to the lack of AP high school classes, there are loads of people with good grades. Not too many people have taken as many rcc classes as me, but there's a considerable amount of people who have maintained a 4.0 in their classes over the years due to the much less challenging material in the high school classes.
So | Where do Middle Colleges stand compared to Regular HS? |
t3_n97pj | AskReddit | What's the biggest favor you've ever done for someone else and never gotten anything in return for it? | I'm only 18 years old, so I haven't lived a particularly long life, but I'll start.
A few months ago, I was with my brother and two of our friends going for a night on the town. Go out to dinner, have a gaming marathon, etc. Anyway, I get a random call out of the blue from one of my mom's friends. She's begging me to pick up this kid I've never met and take her to a girl scout dropoff house (they're all going out camping). So, on the other side of town, I go and get this girl, who is **supposedly** eleven years old. In lumbers this big black girl heading to the girl scout drop house. So I'm heading to this lady's drop house (she's not the one who called me, but another troop leader) when all of a sudden I get a call. They LEFT WITHOUT HER.
When girls scouts go camping, they go FAR. I had to double back and drive along the interstate for nigh on two hours to get this girl to where she needed to be, with three other guys my age in tow and this eleven year old monster.
Then the woman who called me never talked about it again. She told me she'd pay me, she'd get me gas, whatever. Nothing. | I go on a four-hour roundtrip drive to drop off some girl I've never met at some place I've never been too, and all I got for it was some lousy karma. |
t3_3ag003 | relationships | [Update]I 26F was unfaithful to my bf27M of 2 months but want to come clean and break up | [Previous post](
Thank you for y'all's feedback. I told him within 24 hours of making my post via google hangout, and he took it surprisingly well... He said statistically speaking it's almost expected that a situation like this would happen, and that he was just happy to see me. I felt bad that I was crying on one side of the screen while he just looked at me with a grin on his face.
I wanted to break up, and a big reason was that I don't think he deserves a girl who cheats on him (I did say this to him). I was ready to discuss things that I don't think we are compatible in case he wanted to ask, but he didn't ask and I didn't feel like it was necessary to flood him with two pieces of bad news (that I cheated on him plus that I wanted to break up..).
I've finally returned to my country and haven't really contacted my bf since that googlehangout call. He doesn't have texting (so we dont' communicate that way), but I did get a couple emails from him. One was the regular update email that he writes for friends and acquaintances (he doesn't use FB either), and the other one is a few pics of what he was up to over the weekend for fun (street fairs, etc). I haven't responded to either.
This week that I've returned, I've been crazy busy with work and family matters. He called today and suggested meeting up. Whereas he wanted us to meet at his place and asked me to stay at his place, I declined.. He asked why, and all I could manage to say over the phone was that being at his place can lead to other expectations and I wasn't ready for it. Oh and that my period came early. He did say he was excited to see me.
I still have a book I need to return to him, but that's about it. I think I'm a bit at loss of how to initiate the breakup.. All I know is I don't currently want the burden of being in an official relationship. | Told my bf about me being unfaithful and he reacted really nonchallantly. I am having trouble breaking up.. |
t3_419t3v | relationships | My ex(18F) and I(18M)are best friends with benefits. But she wants to go on dates with me and hang out with my family, but she does not want a relationship. What does she want with me then? | So long story short, I dated this girl for a month and we were fine until her cousin talked her into being single again. However, we still talk in the exact same way and we flirt all the time. We even talk about having sex and we've already agreed to be fwb.
However, she talks to me all the time, we FaceTime for hours and talk at school. So it's like a really close friends with benefits. She told me she's not going to date until she's out of high school and I don't know what she wants with me honestly.
I'm fine with being friends with benefits but I was curious so I asked her yesterday's if she wanted a relationship and she said she only thought of me as a friend but she liked what we had.
I'm confused with what she wants with me, and I asked something similar like this yesterday but this is more along what I wanted to ask you guys. | Ex is now friends with benefits, but she's always wanting to be with me like when we were going out.But she says she does not want a relationship. I don't know what she wants with me, please give me an honest opinion on what you think she's doing. |
t3_3jg10e | relationships | Me [26F] with my male married ex-colleague/friend[30M] are going on a trip together to another state for a weekend, is this weird? | So as the title lists. Felt stupid so created a throwaway just for this question.
We used to work together (which is how we met) but he has since moved on to a new job and we kept in contact. And now we are planning to go to another state for the weekend as a holiday. Our relationship statuses: he is married and I am single. He and his wife are LDR (and she knows bout my existence as he has told her bout me)
Now, to clarify, there is absolutely zero romanticsm between us. We are just two people who like to chill and have fun, and I find him close to a brother I never had. Just because we are female and male, I find myself worrying bout the trip because of how people will view us if they find out we went away for a weekend with just two of us. We told our respective families where we will be to (with some peppered lies ofc - he mentioned he will go with his male friends, i told mine im going with colleagues) and while we made a pact not to tell anyone else bout this trip, I still find it weird that I don't find it strange that a male and a female are going on a getaway with no romantic intentions but we still have to hide it from the world. Reddit, this is a strange thing I am feeling, please explain if it is rational to think this way. We have booked the hotel and will be sleeping in separate beds. | Going away with close male friend for the weekend to another state on a platonic vacation, is it weird to not feel weirded out by this relevation but more about how we have to hide it so that no one will be suspicious of us? |
t3_xcsvi | AskReddit | Is the world being prepared for the announcement of aliens? | Ill try and keep this brief
As we know Aliens have always been a big topic for scifi and theorists but is the world being desensitized to it? With hit Tv shows that air constantly such as Ancient Aliens and movies like Prometheus that mix religion and aliens is it possible that maybe were being prepared for the big news? Theres been talk and theories of Aliens since Roswell but it just seems to me that its almost being shoved down our throats now. Ofcourse this is a ridiculous question and in no way can be truly debated or proved as this would ofcourse require evidence but eh just a thought | Aliens |
t3_3o0q94 | relationships | I [23/F] feel like my BF [28/M] wants to include his niece [9] in too many activities we do as a couple | throwaway:
First of all, I don't want to come off as being jealous of her, because there really is no such feeling, but I feel like he wants to include her in too many things we do together, and it's starting to bother me.
There were a few times when I suggested it, because we were attending kid friendly places, but once in a while I think is enough. I have a niece around her age myself, and so I suggested we take them both.
It's the little things that get to me, he acts as though she is his daughter, and he says he feels bad that her parents don't take her anywhere. I hate to feel this way, but I feel like that's not his problem. She has her parents, whether they choose to do things with her or not is their deal. Like I said, I have a niece as well, and I love her too, but she's not my kid and I am not the one raising her.
For example, he wants to do a Halloween costume for us 3 to match. It was cute the first two years, not so much anymore. Everywhere we go, he wants to buy her a souvenir or "wishes she was there because she'd love it there" his words.
There have been some instances when we are about to go on a lunch/dinner date, and "he feels bad" that she's just home so we take her.
Right now is about us, once we have kids, we will do all that. She is not our daughter.
She's a good kid, and I like her, but I'm not sure how to get that to stop, or at least minimize it. I know he loves kids, specially them (her siblings too) because they're his sister's children and he has seen them grow, but it's a bit too much.
Am I exaggerating? Or do I just not love kids as much as he does? | BF wants to include his niece in too many activities together. Should I talk to him or let it go |
t3_1vc6jg | relationships | Ex then text | 24f ) I was dating a 23m) for about 4 months during which was not serious imo.
We saw eachother maybe once a week then the last month he moved away.
During that last month he visited me once it was a slight long distance relationship ..which didnt go smoothly.
I drunk dialed him a few times acted pretty stupid and later on ..after my complaint of him basing the relationship on sex more than I had liked he dumped me the following day.
Now almost 6 months later he texted me the other day to catch up and I was ecstatic. He's living much farther away now and I'm sad because I'm in love with my ex and only now have a few texts from him | Long distance text after dumping me... Was he just bored for the day? |
t3_wwczg | relationships | Trying to save 8 month LDR relationship... did something stupid and need advice. | My gf and I are both 20 years old (both in college) and our relationship spans half way across the country. We both love each other very much.
We have been fighting a lot recently and came very close to breaking up once or twice in the past two weeks. Both of us are now working very hard on making the relationship work and are doing our best to save it.
The other week while at work, my friends and I were joking about this pregnant girl and I said "I would bang her."
This happened a week ago and recently I felt very guilty about it and told my gf about it. Clearly it was a joke (I emphasized this to my gf), but she is VERY upset about it and wants to break up over this.
Is she over-reacting? Do my actions really warrant a break up?
Any comments/advice greatly appreciated. | Gf and I have been fighting a lot, now trying to save relationship, I jokingly said I would bang a pregnant girl and now she wants to break up. |
t3_3om2jn | relationships | Best friend (27m) of 15 years has been abusing pills for 8 years and is in jail for the umpteenth time. Today I'm (26m) going to visit but how do I tell him no one is bailing him out? | All of his friends and sister agree that bailing him out is not the answer. This guy has been through so many struggles since he was a child and just 4 years ago his mom died of ALS or Lou Gehrig's disease and he has yet to change his lifestyle. If he sits out his fine for 10 days he would lose his job that hbas been enabling him all this time and would move in with his uncle who loves him like a son.
All of the signs point to that this is the right thing to do, but how do I tell him without offending him? Because every other time I bring it up he takes it as me talking down to him and that my life is "perfect". I just want him to love himself more than I love him. | best friend is addicted to pills and in jail. How do I tell him no one is bailing him and he needs to start a new life without driving him further into depression/addiction? |
t3_34kfm4 | relationships | I [25M] have been wanting to break up with my [24F] girlfriend of one year because I'm not fully being sexually satisfied by her and I feel bad for wanting to break up over something like that. | So I am definitely more sexually experienced than my girlfriend, and when it comes to sex she is much more vanilla than I. It is not that we don't have enough sex, it is just that it is so boring and has zero excitement for me. It is always the same thing when we have sexy times. We go to the bedroom, she will go down on me for like 30 seconds, she then lays on her back and I go on top until I finish, then I go down on her until she finishes, not a lot of variance to that.
I've expressed that I would like her to go down on my a little more evenly, and maybe try to get me off that way, she has always agreed to try but after a little over a minute she stops, saying that her jaw hurts and that it is taking to long for me. I've been too hesitant to express an interest in trying any other things in bed because so many times we will be watching TV and they will mention or talk about some sexual act that isn't vanilla and she contorts her face in disgust and says how gross and inappropriate that is. So I've never really asked to try anything more than having her go down on my longer because I'm worried that she will have the same response towards me and think I'm some freak.
Other than that she is a good girlfriend, I know if we had more excitement in our sex life that I would be happier with her but it scares me thinking that this could be the state of my sex life for the rest of my life if I stay with her, and that makes me a sad panda. However I feel bad for wanting to break up with her just based on boring sex, I feel like maybe something is wrong with me and maybe I need to try to have less sexual desires. | The only reason I want to leave my girlfriend is because she is boring in bed, and I feel guilty for thinking that. |
t3_2nwypn | relationships | I'm [23M] having serious insecurities with my girlfriend [29F] of 8 months, due to her history and age | Throwaway because I have many friends who reddit
It's fairly simple. I'm a 23 y/o male with 1 serious relationship in my past. She's 29 (turning 30 next month), and she's had a multitude of both casual and serious relationships. She lived with a previous boyfriend of hers when she was my age.
I don't know what to do. I love her more than I knew I could- I just have insecurities and jealousy issues that I suppose come with being a recently-turned 23 y/o. I also worry about the age difference. I'm afraid that I'll grow to resent her if we get married, and that I'll feel that she robbed me of my 20's. That being said, I've had a lot on my plate- 15 hrs of class this semester, working 40 hrs/wk in a very demanding job, and dealing with bullshit of parents getting divorced (not necessarily emotionally based, but having to help parents/siblings move, dealing with new house purchases, etc), it's been a lot. Sometimes I feel like I'm taking the stress of everything out on my relationship, other times I feel like the worry about her past and the age difference is legitimate.
We've talked about everything (including this)- I understand the biological clock is ticking, and that a decision regarding our relationship needs to be made within the relatively near future, but she's made it clear that she loves me more than any of her other boyfriends. I have no reason not to believe her. I love her so much, and life without her seems impossible, but these thoughts of her living with another guy/being with other serious boyfriends drive me crazy. Additionally, I get really scared by the idea of me growing to resent her due to the age difference, and her somehow stealing my youth from me. I feel especially bad because when we first started dating, she laid everything out on the table, and was wary of dating me/someone my age & with my "experience" for these exact reasons, and I assured her it wouldn't be a problem. I suppose I'm just being jealous/shitty, but any advice from someone in a similar situation is appreciated. | Girlfriend is older/has history. I'm under a lot of stress. Am I just being jealous & shitty, or do I have reason to worry? |
t3_1awr9v | pettyrevenge | Let's see if you like waiting out in the snow | I'm in a youth movement, something like scouting. Basically, we (me and a bunch of other young adults) entertain childeren every sunday.
So, one day a fellow leader calls me at 12 o'clock to ask a favor. Some friends of his need something from our building at 1 o'clock. I agree, since I live right around the corner, five minutes in walking distance.
at five for 1, He calls me, saying that they are going to be half an hour late.
No problem, these things happen.
at half 2, I get a text, saying that they're going to be fifteen minutes too late.
Annoying, since I just arrived, but I didn't felt like going back home for those five minutes that I could spend at home.
so, fifteen minutes later, they still aren't there.
I'm a pretty patient person, but after 45 minutes, half 3, I head back home.
so, right when I'm around the corner, they text me, saying that they just arrived and that there's nobody.
I lie and tell I'm heading there this instant. So I walk home, and stay home for half an hour, and leave then again, to get them their things.
When I arrive, I just smirk and open the doors, so they can get what they needed. | They let me wait 1 hour in the snow, I let them wait an additional 40 minutes |
t3_1ra9q0 | relationships | Taking my relationship to the next level. GF doesn't know one of my big fuck ups. | My girlfriend and I (both 28) have an amazing relationship. We been dating for over 4 years (though we had a few breaks in the middle) and are perfect for each other. We recently moved in with each other and I am planning on proposing to her. Which she is pretty aware off.
The one thing she doesn't know is that I once fucked up. It was my second time and last time doing cocaine and I was hanging out with a girl (a common friend who also has a bf) when my girlfriend was away and we ended up seriously making out. It was a bit worse, we didn't have sex because I was pretty fucked out of my mind and couldn't get it up (thankfully and didn't attempt again). I don't know how it happened. It was totally random. Its been over 10 months and I haven't told a soul about this.
I just feel so much guilt cause I know if my gf ever found out it would break her heart and more so finish our relationship. I can't let her know cause I know it was an isolated event. I had many opportunities with the same girl again to do whatever the fuck I wanted but didn't cause I genuinely love my girlfriend. I don't know if I should tell anyone about this cause it would question my love for her. Anyway I just wanted to tell the internet about this cause I am too guilty to tell anyone else. I dunno what advice I can get but I want to say sorry to her for ever doing something like this and I will never do something like this again. | Once made out (almost slept) with another girl is it worth telling anyone? |
t3_ye9ut | AskReddit | I had to hold back my gramma from hurting my mom | Okay. So I was up in Hampton beach and me and my family rentad a little place while my aunt, her baby, my two cousins and two grandmothers were in the other. So, we were in my place when my grandma comes in and starts calling my mom a bitch to my dad in OUR place. What the hell, right? She was just looking for trouble. My mom leaves and doesn't want her in our place. Understandable , right? Okay so my two cousins come up and we go to the beach with my mom, baby brother and my three year old sister. All of a sudden she comes up to us, yells, " GET THE FUCK OUT, KIDS" and punches my mom in the face also g her a little bitch. I run up and hold her back. I could achieve this because I'm 5 "4 and wrestle. Anyways, my moms screaming for my dad while my grandmother is sayi g, " yeah, go cry for Anthony! FUCKIN BABY!" and laughing her ass off. I've had enough and sprint down to get my dad. The cops arrive and she goes back to my Grammys place. So the cops are here because a lay watching called. My gramma and rest of my dads family says my mom punched her. The people on the beach say no and they're shut up. I'm not gonna go anymore her but I realized something. They don't love me. They're so quick to turn against us. My family didn't love me. What I'm asking is, have you ever been in a situation when your family turns on you? | people are deceptive ass holes |
t3_1dy9ja | dating_advice | I'm M(16), I'm looking to date a F(17). A friend of mine apparently likes her too. | So I finally decided to talk to this girl I've seen abound school. We talk to each other every day on Facebook for a week, she tells me she really likes to talk with me. So I say we should get to know each other better, so we make arrangements to spend an afternoon together just talking and hanging out. Well when the day comes around, my friend who apparently also likes F, is also there. She says she couldn't turn him down because they're friends and it wouldn't be cool. We hang out for the day, and when things start to wind down I ask her why he's there, she apologizes and tells me we should get together some other time. Later, the 3 of us go to watch a soccer game and my friend gets all snuggly with her and wraps his arm around her. I kinda felt annoyed and left because I felt like the third wheel. Do I talk to her later? What do I say? | girl I like is getting hit on by a friend, what do |
t3_3a0fhx | relationships | I (18M) am in desperate need of advice ASAP. | So theres a girl that I have some history with (we have been friends but in the past we have had skme disputes and some "no talking" phases). She liked me, I liked her and we were going to go for a walk and talk about it but she texted me calling it all off. She is going abroad this year so we would automatically have an expiration date (but idc). I was devastated. Then, just now, she texted me saying she wants to give "us" a shot. Obviously I am confused so we are going to meet up tomorrow. WHAT DO I DO?!?
Sidenote: a friend knows someone who is going to the same school as me and is really awesome. I dont want to choose here. I need help. :( | just read plz it isnt too crazy. |
t3_11s9xp | relationships | Am I [F20] overreacting about my bf [20] sleeping at a co-workers house? | So I have been seeing my boyfriend for three years and he is a really great guy. I have no trust issues with him, but I think last night he still crossed the line. He was out drinking with some co-workers and since he drove and ended up drinking a lot, he slept over at a girl co-workers house. I think this is totally inappropriate, even though I'm sure nothing happened. He doesn't seem to find that much of an issue with it, and said he just didn't want to pay for a cab home. I am seriously pissed, and I think this totally crossed the line. Am I overreacting here, or do I have a right to be really mad? | Boyfriend [20] slept at a female co-workers house overnight because he didnt want to pay for a cab home. Do I have a right to be pissed off or am I overreacting? |
t3_34wlgv | personalfinance | Should I open a High-Yield savings account with my ~6k Savings? | Hello.
I just got my first real "big boy" job, and have saved up about 6k, which I plan to have as an emergency fund/general savings.
I currently have it in the Chase Savings account that I have had for many many years ever since my parents first help me set up a bank account. But I can't help but notice how abysmal the interest rate is - In April I made a record $0.04 interest. About 0.007% interest rate. Wowzers!
I recently saw some ads for high-yield savings accounts. I know next-to-nothing about them... so I must wonder what the catch is? Why would anyone use Chase for savings when other banks offer literally 100x the interest rate.
I saw an ad on Mint which led me to find this list here:
Would it be wise for me to transfer most (say, 5k) of my savings over to one of those accounts? Has anyone opened a high-yield savings account recently with one of the guys mentioned in that list?
Is there any catch? Is there anything that can trip up a novice and cost them money? I am aware there are things like minimum balances or perhaps a debit card you need to use a few times each month, but those seem like incredibly small inconveniences for actually having my savings grow with time.
P.S. More info about my financial position is here, if you are interested, but basically I just got my first job. 25k debt, 62k salary - live in SF bay. I feel I'm doing fine but I want to maximize my potential. | Should I open a High Yield Savings Account? Why would anyone continue to use a savings account that offers 2 orders of magnitude less interest when such a thing as H.Y.S. accounts exist. |
t3_22a1l7 | relationships | I'm [26M] getting too attached to my FWB [28F]. | So I've been seeing this girl for about two months now and things are going pretty well, she's not looking for a relationship and even though I'm not closed off to the idea, she isn't someone who I'd like to start a relationship with. We're not exclusive FWB's and basically don't ask and don't tell.
But the thing is, I'm starting to develop feelings for her... Which is weird, we have drastically different personalities and she's not a girl whom I'd consider to be potential girlfriend material. I haven't had this problem with any previous FWB's before, so I'm just wondering how come I'm becoming infatuated about someone I shouldn't even be attracted to theoretically. Is there any way to distance myself emotionally, but still retain the benefits? | starting to develop feelings for fwb, don't want to develop feelings for fwb, still want sex. |
t3_3cqzsx | jobs | My email is just filled with rejection emails. What keeps you going? | I've been looking for part-time work since last November. I am a high school grad, never been in trouble with the law or anything like that and have found work previously (Call Centre & Fast Food).
I have looked for jobs daily, in-store and online. I don't apply to 50 jobs at once, I tailor my resume and cover letter for each application. I have had interviews for about 5-10 of those applied jobs. Most I thought I went fairly well.
Its just getting demotivating now, the amount of times you dress up, try your hardest and bend over backwards to try and get the job just to get a slap in the face is just depressing.
What keeps you going? Im starting to lose motivation in myself to even find a basic job | been rejected so many times that I am almost depressed with the job hunt, what kept you going until you found your job? |
t3_aeohe | AskReddit | Reddit, how can I be humble in a classroom setting? | Let me preface this by saying that I have never had top marks in school. I did all right in high school, and I bombed university. This is my second try, and it is looking like I am top of my small (24 people) class for court reporting. It's the same group of us for two years, and we try to support each other and not step on toes. This isn't a curved class; we want to see each other succeed.
Today I was one of 2-4 people that passed a speed exam, and I know that, come tomorrow, everyone will know the names of the people who passed. We are all in this together, and I have no wish to make anybody feel poorly about themselves or their marks if they inquire about mine.
So my question is, how do I respond to people asking about how I am doing in our course? I have no idea how to go about this in a humble manner; I usually just blurt out my mark or a general idea of how I did, but now that we're getting into very difficult testing, I would like some tips on how to do this with some tact. | How do I confirm passing tests very few people are passing without bruising egos? |
t3_21x7i4 | relationships | I (16M) did something shitty to my best friend (16F). I'm not sure how I can fix it. | She and I have been best friends for 4 years, and just yesterday I did something shitty to her without even thinking about it.
I had been planning on this trip to a hockey game and had some tickets for box seats. I had asked a few of my friends but I hadn't been planning to ask her because my girlfriend would be there and I didn't know how well that would go over. (This is stupid, I know, I shouldn't have worried about that. But I'm not great with this sort of thing.)
So yesterday I was walking around with her and I saw one of the friends I had been planning to ask along to the game. Without thinking, I yelled over at him if he wanted to go. He said maybe. After that I stupidly told her why I hadn't asked her.
She was obviously pissed and hurt about it. I texted her and told her that what I did was stupid and that she was welcome to come along. She never replied and I'm currently in class with her where she is being increasingly hostile toward me. I really want to fix this because she has really helped me through a lot of rough times in my life. What should I do? | I did something shitty and inconsiderate to my best friend and really want to know how I can fix it. |
t3_3259rh | relationship_advice | [20M] I am fairly sure my friend [20F] thinks I'm a predator | I don't really know where to start, so I'll just jump right into it. Bit of backstory the incident happened about two years ago with a good friend of mine. Lets call her Wendy, we had been drinking at a party with some friends and the night was winding down; people heading home/ crashing at the house you know the routine. So me and Wendy crash in the living room and we had been flirtatious, goofy and just really close the entire night. Before we head to bed we started tickling one another giggling, being really playful and affectionate which then evolves into a back massage/ back tickle (really slow movements (just for clarity)) and this is where I made the biggest mistake of my life. I make a move from tickling her on her hips to below the front of her waistline and I immediately sense a change in her posture, I pull back pause for a moment (expecting a comment (which didn't come) knowing it was unwanted I roll over and go to sleep. We had a talk about it the day after and everything appeared to be cleared up, recently she contacted me telling me about flashbacks she had been having and that I should have asked before doing which I totally agree with but I feel like there was definitely enough time to say "whoa" "stop" etc before I crossed the point of no return. She asked me to not be in private locations with her alone for her comfort (I don't mind following her request but I feel like she thinks I'm going to do something again, which I have no intention to do what so ever.) I keep having awful dreams about it and I feel awful. I'm looking for an outside perspective on this, am I wrong that she should have said something? I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this, so any input is greatly apreciated; thanks reddit. | misinterpreted signals and made a move on a good friend, pretty sure she thinks ill do it again |
t3_ea7sj | AskReddit | Is there such thing as angel investors for college tuition? | My roommate is really at the end of his luck.. and it just got worst. He was enrolled in the ROTC program on campus in order to come to school because he strived higher education. That is, if you enroll in the program, you get your tuition and other expenses paid for you. Problem is that he committed himself to four years of Army training when he has no real intention of joining the Army, despite being required to serve beyond graduation. Last month, he was essentially cornered by upper chains of command into leaving ROTC, thereby rendering him unable to pay for the rest of college (he's only a sophomore).
With no financial support from his parents (whom have poor credit) and no credit of his own, he is unable to get additional student or government loans beyond the ones he currently has nearly exhausted. Today, he got denied a loan his grandmother (who has excellent credit and is well off) cosigned. With no money to pay for the current quarter as well as the upcoming one, he's pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I suggested he look into angel investors for college tuition, if there even is such a program out there. Anyone know of anything like this or have any other suggestions? | Roommate is strapped for tuition money with no real means to turn to after being denied loans and "kicked" out of ROTC. Looking for ideas to fund his college education. |
t3_2x607t | relationships | It upsets me that my [19F] boyfriend [19M] nearly never compliments me | This may seem like a trivial issue, but it still manages to upset me quite a bit.
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four months, and before that we were friends of a bit more than a year. Everything is great, except for the fact that he never compliments me. I am already quite insecure about the way I look, and I know I can't expect compliments to fix this, but I feel like it would be nice to receive some from him.
I often compliment him, but I don't do it so that he'll do it back.Its just that when something pops up in my mind, like how I like his smile or his new jeans or whatever, I say it. It feels natural to me, but maybe he just isn't the expressive type.
I have brought this up with him before, but he said he just doesn't always say what he is thinking or feeling... Also I don't want to ask him to compliment me as I don't want him to day things he doesn't mean, and I don't want to come off as really needy. | So basically, he never tells me he finds me pretty or anything like that, and it's weighing on me. I don't know what to do about it, should I just accept that he isn't the complimentary type? |
t3_le09x | AskReddit | To those who have lost a parent at a young age, how did/are you cope/coping? | My mom passed away a week before my first birthday. I never really confronted this until now, at age 19.
I don't know how to deal with this. I don't know anyone else that has been in my situation. I have absolutely no memory of her. My siblings can only empathize so much because they had her as a mom for at least 13 years.
I have an amazing father and older siblings that have given me tremendous love and support, but I feel this empty space in my heart that only my mom could have filled.
Do any of you have similar stories? | I lost my mom at young age and need advice on how to cope at 19 years old. |
t3_2nhb08 | relationships | [20 M] Would it be a bad idea to contact people from the past with questions? | My girlfriend broke up with me a year ago.
It was a very bizarre relationship. She took me out a lot and showed me to her friends and what not. Then one day she tells me she has fibromylagia and breaks up with me. Tells me to leave her alone.
I honestly want closure. I would like to know if she was telling the truth. I would like to know if the things she told me were true.
I met two of her friends. They moved. I feel like contacting them through facebook and just ask them if she was lying. I sort of became friends with them, because she introduced me to them. I don't talk to them, so it would be random.
I have nothing to lose. Her friends could just block me and that would be it. Am I being selfish in wanting to know what happened? My ex girlfriend said I did nothing wrong and just wanted to be left alone. I'm really curious and desire to know the truth...anything wrong with that? | Girlfriend broke up with me a year ago claiming she had fibromylagia, and I would like to know if she was lying so I can think right about her. |
t3_18lks7 | relationships | Help :( | 24(f) I'm really struggling to decide if my relationship (28m) is right. We've been together 2 1/2 years, lived together 2 years, never argued and had a great relationship. He's always been amazing, supporting me through an eating disorder and generally being awesome. I've always been happy and never had a doubt until recently. The past month I've just been wondering if I'm making the right decision by staying with him. I think I love him and when I think about our relationship I think I want to stay with him, but I've started to feel distant for him. I really don't know how feel. I feel like I want to be with him but there's something making me debate it. Does this mean I don't? | not sure if I'm in the right relationship |
t3_3xawai | relationships | Me [22M] with my long distance gf [20F]. Help explaining I just want to know what she is doing an with whom? | My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for roughly a year now. All things considered it's a great relationship; long distance sucks and we have some problems but are working on them and our communication is pretty good.
For this specific problem, I was hoping to ask how I can better explain my reasoning when I ask her to tell me who she is hanging out with or going to parties with etc. She sometimes doesn't tell me every little detail and I just want us to have complete communication, which she isn't quite used to. I hate it because I feel like we have had the same conclusion come around where we said 100% communication is key (after one of us got hurt a couple times from some omissions... ahem, it was me). She is conventionally pretty and often gets asked to go places and has a problem saying no sometimes. These aren't exactly dates because I know she is forward with having a bf, I just feel they aren't completely innocent from the guys (hey maybe I'm wrong though who knows). She says she doesn't like telling me EVERY little thing because she feels like she is reporting to me and essentially she feels like she is doing something wrong by hanging out with people and having to tell me about it when she isn't. I agree with her that she isn't doing anything wrong at all! She needs to hang out with people; I'm not expecting her to hole up in her room until I come visit, but I just like knowing if she is going to get coffee with a guy or something.
I tried to explain to her that I wouldn't ask her not to go or anything. Today a friend came up from her old high school and asked her to coffee and then to go to a party where he would be the only person she knew there. It just seems a little inappropriate? I don't really know. I need someone to help me explain my thoughts on why not knowing bothers me. I just want us to be a team, and considering our past communication problems, it seems like she should know by now that it's better to tell me rather than omit things. | How to explain to gf that I like knowing who she is seeing. It has nothing to do with being a crazy stalker and maybe only a teeny tiny bit of jealousy... I just want to feel comfortable in the relationship and I don't see the big deal of her telling me what's up, and she seems to be making it out to be a bad thing. |
t3_415kv7 | relationships | Me [18M] unsure next move with girl [18F] | I really like this girl at school and I believe she likes me too. We are both 18 and freshman in a similar major. We have stayed up texting until 5 AM multiple times, gone on a couple dates with just each other, get each other gifts, and send a fair amount of texts usually.
The thing is, the last date we had was on Saturday night and I saw her Tuesday and Wednesday in school. We have a 3 day weekend and I won't see her again until Tuesday assuming I do nothing.
The thing is she said something that kinda caught me off guard in saying she doesn't want titles. It's still too early enough to say bf/gf anyways, but I will wait continue what I'm doing I guess and maybe eventually something will work out? I'm comfortable talking to her, but the thing is I don't know how I should plan the next date. Last time I called it a "meet up", but it was totally a date since I picked her up, we went to the park, got coffee and just talked until I dropped her back off at her house at midnight.
I want to see her over the 3 day weekend, but at the same time I don't know what I should call it and how to set it up. We talk about so many deep things and I think about her often. I'm just unsure of what I should do next. Thanks for any advice. | Really interested in girl at school, went on a couple dates, said she doesn't want titles, still want to see her and want advice |
t3_2zaun6 | tifu | TIFU by browsing reddit. | :O First TIFU post that happened the same day^Kappa
So anyways, in French class, we were all doing an online assignment mainly for the state tests that are coming up. Our French teacher doesn't care enough to check up on us most of the time, and reddit, along with google, are basically the only websites not blocked. So as I'm strolling along browsing r/TIFU, the librarian comes up and notices the NSFW tag on this post
I was looking through this post because it's one of my alltime favorites, but anyways. The librarian comes up and sees the NSFW tag, and immediately begins to ask questions. After a series of questions, she makes me click on the link. She sees the images and now google is the only allowed website AND computer privileges taken away, great. | Going to one of my favorite TIFUs, librarian sees the NSFW tag, now google is the only allowed website. |
t3_1u7jfu | relationships | [20M] met with a chick[20F] for coffee, not sure how to go about it now? | Hi guys basically I met with a girl of whome I met online and she asked me to go for coffee and we had coffee which ended up being talking for like 2-2.5 hours until the shop closed. It seemed to really go well she seemed really into it and I enjoyed her company. I'm a sort of shy guy and stuff but before parting ways I told her I thought she was pretty cool and down to earth. She said thanks and I seem nice or something like that and I got a hug and all seemed well.
I then was texting her and stuff and asked for her fb, she gave me her last name but she managed to add me before I even gave up my last name??? So I was texting her there on out a bit and she was still talkative. That was about 2 days ago now? but it seemed as time went on it was less and less? although her replies still seemed like she cared to talk. Not like those texts when you know somebody could care less.
we wished each other a good new years eve and such. Today I said hi and she said happy new years. I said same back and asked her if she'd be up to get coffee again. havent heard from her, So I sent another text asking if she had received my text earlier and I hoped I was not bugging her?. Still no reply. I have had issues with people not getting my texts in the past. or maybe I could be not getting hers? terrible canadian carriers.
So... I'm not sure what to do at this point. I was debating If I should send her a msg on fb as she has been online a bit today through cell phone (not being a stalker but facebook lets you know everything now LOL) | Met a girl online 3 days ago, had a nice long coffee chat and it went really well, she gave me a hug. was texting her afterwards but texts started to slow, although she still seemed interested. But I have not heard back now after asking her out for coffee this time. So what should I do? she's been on fb a bit and so I'm debating if I should say hi to her on FB as alternative to text? Or how to handle this whole thing. Thank you! |
t3_2me4g5 | dogs | How to naturally repel and discourage neighbors dogs from pooping on my lawn? | I live in a neighborhood where a couple houses just let their dogs roam free. Lately two of these dogs have taken up the habit of pooping on the outside perimeter of my lawn (I have a fence) and I've stepped in it on more than one occasion.
I have a small Shih Tzu as well that likes to run around the inside the perimeter of the fence so would like some suggestions on how to safely and successfully repel and discourage their dogs from pooping on my lawn without harming any of our dogs. Talking to said neighbor is useless as he's been letting his two dogs run free since he moved in a year ago. nobody is home half the day to chase them away either. | I keep stepping on neighbor's dog shit on my own lawn. How do I safely discourage dogs from going on my lawn? |
t3_30yt27 | tifu | TIFU by lying about my marital status to a drunken gay man. | So on the way to the bus stop after college today, I was stopped by a scruffy looking boozed up man. So he gets in my way while I'm walking and says 'you're a good looking one aren't you? Are you married?' so to not kick up a fuss I just lie and tell him that I am married, apologise, thank him for the compliment and quickly move on not as to miss my bus. While I was [speedwalking] ( away he shouts 'That's a shame, I would have married you'. I thought this was the end of it. I thought wrong.
So I get to my bus stop and some really hot girl that I haven't seen before is there. I'm usually somewhat of a nervous wreck but using the confidence boost from the compliment earlier I decide to try and talk to her. So we start talking and get a little bit of a rapport going. So after a few minutes I decide that now would be a good time to get her number, I ask and she agrees. Great. Except not great, because the man from earlier is walking past the bus stop, he comes and puts his hand on my shoulder and says 'so how's that wife of yours doing then pal?', winks, laughs and then stumbles off. This girl looks really angry and embarrassed, she tells me to leave her alone and she just stood there scowling at me. The 5 minutes it took for my bus to come felt like an eternity. | Never lie to drunk, gay, strangers! |
t3_101gk6 | relationships | How not to be clingy or needy? How not to loose your identity? | 25m 26f. I have been seeing this girl for about 5 months now and when we started seeing each other exclusively and everything was awesome, we saw each other every week no more than 3 days apart. Everything was exciting and fun. I never had a serious relationship and I was used to being single. I was never really attached to her until I realized, now. Its like roles have been swapped. When we were starting off, she was the one checking up on me and now I'm the one always initiating or creating plans all the time. I had all these hobbies, motorcycling, djing, music, trips, ect and now all this feels tasteless and bland when music and riding was all I wanted to do. I asked her if I was giving her enough time alone, and she said yes but I still think I'm initiating too often. I'm just a hopeless romantic and I want to do all that sweet stuff like buy flowers and make dinner but I know I need to ease up a little.
Also, when I leave on Mondays for work after seeing her for the weekend, Its almost like,I have some,sort of anxiety. I don't know what it is, it feels weird, and I hate it since I have been independent for so long.
I just feel like my feelings are forcing myself onto her when I just want everything to flow and be anxiety-free just like they were when we started dating. At first it felt so great and now having her on my mind all the time is wearing me out emotionally.
I also feel under-appreciated since I naturally do a bunch of nice stuff for her, I don't expect anything in return, but on the other side it feel nice to have something done to you that makes you feel appreciated.
Can anyone tell me whats going on? | was having great time with a great girl, now have some sort of separation anxiety and loosing my identity |
t3_2nzprc | relationships | My girlfriend [23F] & I [23M] are struggling & I don't know how to tell her what I feel | We've been together for three years, we are both young professionals, live separately (she lives with her family) and lately our relationship just feels flat. She has mentioned that she doesn't feel as happy together - I feel the same but not to her extent.
She works full time, is studying a professional qualification. I work full time as well, play at a high level a very competitive sport and volunteer every week or so at various places.
We struggle with the same stuff as most busy couples, making time together, tensions with each others families but thats all old stuff.
The biggest thing I feel is that she is not really happy with anything in her life, she does not enjoy her job, her work friends, her family, her studies, she has maybe a handful of friends she sees occasionally and no hobbies. It has been this way for a long time for her.
I feel so much pressure to be that thing in her life that makes her happy. More often than not when we are together I can put a gorgeous smile on her face - but it is exhausting. Lately with everything in my life I wish that my time with her could be more enjoyable for me also.
When we go out, I have to pick the venue, start and maintain the conversation and avoid all areas of conversation that she does not enjoy. Things I love, politics, art, music aren't really on the table. We mostly talk about how her bosses at work are stupid or how her family annoys her.
I love this girl and have more of a connection to her than to anyone else ever. Our relationship together is steadily becoming less and less enjoyable. She has noticed it as well and I feel more pressure to fix things.
Has anyone been through this before? How do I even approach this? Am I making something out of nothing?
(this is also my first post on reddit so be gentle) | My Girlfriend is sad all the time and the pressure of cheering her up is making our relationship unenjoyable for me |
t3_369w9c | relationships | My gf [22F] is mad at me [23M] for wanting/asking to experience a lap dance. dating 6 months. | So I have never received a lap dance before in my life. i asked my gf a few days ago if I'm ever allowed to get one from a stripper. She initially said yes, but once she learned the stripper actually strips (naked), she changed her mind.
I told her don't worry about it then I'll just never get a lap dance but she is angry at me for 'wanting' to experience it in the first place.
I think its unfair that she is blaming me for wanting to experience one. I mean...at least I asked her and I was fine after she told me no (while im sure a lot of other guys would get one behind their gfs back).
I also told her that I wont have strippers at my bachelor party if we do get married but according to her im still a horrible person.
*btw im not asking for the sake of it and im not rushing to go to a stripclub after approval. Im asking because a lot of my friends are getting married and yes there will be strippers/stripclubs for their bachelor parties. | Gf mad at me for asking if i could get a lapdance even though i respected her decision. Thoughts? |
t3_1eqrps | AskReddit | Reddit, what should be on my summer bucket list? YOU DECIDE! | It's that time of year again. Summer! A time where lofty ambitions are buried beneath the habitual cycle of laziness and boredom. For as long as I can remember, I've spent the majority of my summer vacations blankly staring at a television instead of being outside and making the most of the warm weather. NO MORE! I need your help.
This may be extremely risky, but I want you to create my summer bucket list for me. I am looking for fun, new ideas that might make me go a little out of my comfort zone. Suggest something that you want me to do, and if it's reasonable and within my moral and financial means, I will honestly try to accomplish as many things as I can and provide photo evidence. Please be kind. | Tell me to do stuff and I'll try my best to do it. |
t3_1gdnh5 | legaladvice | I was in a car accident today in CA on a suspended license, but was told by the cops to go home...? | I was driving home from work today in california, it was the first time ive driven in months because of my dui. In the caldacott tunnel i ran into the back of a car who slammed on their breaks. Idk if its because he hit the person in front of hik or not yet tho, but he spun into the other lane and was in pretty bad shape. My car was ok enough to drive home. Which brings me to my next point.
I gave the cop my id, insurance, and registration. He asked me what was up with the id and i told him i was working on getting my restricted license still. He said ok and continued to write down my info. I got the impression that since he was in a hurry to get our statements, since we were in a tunnel, that he thought i said i HAD a restricted license.
After he wrote my info down he asked me if my car was ok to drive out of the tunnel and i said yes. So he told me to go ahead and leave then. I wasnt sure if that meant pull out of the tunnel or go home, so to be safe i stopped outside the tunnel and pulled over to where the cops were and the other car. I got out and approached the same officer and one other and asked if they needed anything else from me or whatever, and they said no, just go home.
So i did.
But now i don't know whats going to happen! Im freakin out maaaan. Anyone know what will happen to me? | i hit a guy in front of me in a tunnel who was slamming on his breaks, and have a suspended license. The cops just told me to go home after they mistunderstood me and thought i had a restricted license. |
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