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t3_dgdnr | relationship_advice | Dont know whats going on, anyone have any insight? | So me and my ex have been seeing each other, after her saying "I really miss you", and "I really want to see you" and etc. However whenever we hang out I get no singles from her, the first time was a movie at her place in which nothing at all happened, no touching at all. So were out with each other the next day and I walk close to her and she touches me here and there, and I do the same and walk awkwardly close to her and she seemed to like it.
So were watching a movie at my place after that, and I decide to just see her reaction to rubbing her legs, arms, head, back and etc. She dosent seem to mind but I get absolutely NO response at all, negative or positive. I even go as far as to ask if it made her uncomfortable and reaffirmed it did not at all... (Granted she wasn't feeling the greatest cause she is coming down with some cold/flu)
What the hell.... Someone please give me some advice, I'm still crazy for her we dated for around 3 years, and I just don't know how to interpret whats going on. | Seeing Ex again, no signs at all from her, despite my approaches |
t3_2asvq8 | pettyrevenge | Door banging neighbour gets his just reward | I moved into a new house a few months ago, and the first thing we (wife, kid, and I) noticed is that one of our neighbours has a habit of closing doors by slamming them loudly. Loud enough that you have to wonder whether those doors are still in one piece.
It's not just once, no, but every time a door is closed.. *WHAM* - regardless of what time it is. Unfortunately if it happens at night, it tends to wake up the kidlet who then doesn't want to go back to sleep.
Upon my question of whether they could, you know, close the door without making it sound like they're trying to dropkick it through the house I was met with a simple statement: "meh". And it continued.
So, I took my 30 watt bass amp/speaker combo (and trust me, it can be loud) and placed it right up against the wall separating our houses. I then proceeded to play 2 hours straight at stupid volume. Every time I hear a door bang I repeat the exercise the morning after. | cake is good, bacon is good, cake with bacon around it is better. Also revenge by practicing my hobby tastes just as sweet, but pettier. |
t3_388qjv | relationships | Me [30 M], not sure if this goes here, but I'm about to be guilted into marriage | My dad wants me to get married. He believes that everyone has to find a partner, settle down, start a family. That's how life is supposed to work and that's how to find happiness.
He also wants grandchildren. He's approaching retirement age at 65. He lives kids and wants to hold his grandchildren before he dies one day.
He had a heart attack a few years ago. My family was extremely worried/sad and we're glad he recovered from it.
My dad is a very dramatic person. During his time in the hospital, he kept not wanting to see me or my sisters and would rather die in the hospital bed instead because "we're all horrible children who never listen to him."
He has been talking to my aunt and they found a girl in Asia who they want me to talk to. If things work out, he would like me and her to get married and start a family.
Me: I don't want to get married yet. I don't feel like I'm ready to get married and I'd rather be working on my master's degree/career.
I've been torn between trying to explain to him that I want to get married on my own terms, not from some arrangement. But if they want me to get married so bad, I told them to bring her over here and I'll sign the marriage papers to make him happy. I'm really ready to just throw in the towel and let my dad dictate my life like a robot so I don't have to deal with his dramatic ways and guilt-inducing lifestyle.
Deep in my heart, I don't want to get married yet. I do one day, but not right now. At the same time, I'm sure I'll live in eternal guilt if I were unable to present grandchildren to him before he passes. | Dad guilting me into settling down, have a family, have children. I don't want to yet, but contemplating it to be free of this guilt. |
t3_33z85u | relationships | Me [27F] with [27M] 3 months; I can't have conversations to save my life. I just don't know what to say and there's so many silences. I don't want to lose him because of this. Need help before it's too late. | We've been seeing each other for 3 months and things have been ok overall, but him and I (noticeably) struggle in the conversation department. When we get together it's the always brief "how was your day/week/whatever", "how's your sister/brother," type updates, that never really lead anywhere, or just result in me interviewing him. And there are A LOT of long silences. While we do have some fun conversations, it's mostly him doing it, and not me. I want to be a source of fun/joking myself.
To be honest, I'm HORRIBLE at conversations and even with friends just struggle to say things. Maybe I don't really have anything to say. But I when I'm with him I always draw a blank and try so hard to not say anything crazy/red flag-ish.
He's a really great guy, and like most normal guys, a girl who he can talk to and who inspires him is something that he's obviously looking for. And while everything else is there (like the rest of the relationship is balanced), and he's physically into me and I've been very kind to him otherwise, I'd hate to see him leave because of lack of "spark"/chemistry as a result of my inability to talk. I'm also hanging out with him and his brother for the first time next week and this is obviously an important thing. I'm worried about how to talk to him too.
Can anyone help me or has anyone else been in a similar situation? | I struggle to talk to the guy I'm seeing. He's an amazing guy but I think he feels I'm not putting in my share by not having anything to say ever and us not being able to banter, etc. How can I change things? |
t3_34hguo | relationships | Me (18 M) trying to win back ex (17F) who doesn't believe in marriage. | My girlfriend of nearly a year broke up with me back in December, we kissed on New Years and eventually were back to having sex, kissing, holding hands and such within a month.
We didn't tell any of our friends or family just because we like not having to explain ourselves to everyone. She was the one who decided that keeping it to ourselves was a good idea and it didn't bother me.
Now last week she tells me that she doesn't ever see herself being married and that dating would be a waste of time. I'm sure she isn't into marriage because of her dad cheating on her mom and an ex who cheated on her a lot.
I'm in mad love with this girl, she tells me she still loves and cares for me just as much as I do for her.
She feels betrayed that i have been hanging out with a female friend of hers she doesn't talk to. She sat with me and told me about how she felt about my friendship with her old friend.
She is still willing to hang out with me when I do ask to hang out, even asking to hang out first at times.
When we're together or texting we call each other cute and she says I'm sweet to her.
Is there anything I can do to win her back or did I fuck up. | ex doesn't want to get married. Still some what flirty when we talk. |
t3_15gb8w | relationships | I [18m] still love my friend [21m] after a year of rejection. Not sure what to do next | We've been friends for years, we always got together very well and can spend several hours just talking to eachother. We used to talk every day for hours until recently however.
My feelings for him have gotten in the way of our friendship. The feelings used to be mutual but we never considered ourselves in a relationship with eachother. I was mustering up the courage to try and take our friendship to the next step at the beginning of this year but I was rejected. I admit I took it really hard and I did some things I will surely regret. My reaction was very childish and selfish (I had never had to deal with rejection before). I became depressed for a long time and it hasn't gotten better until just recently.
In the past 4 months I made the decision to sever contact with him. Our friendship had been damaged by the way I was acting and I felt this was the only way I was ever going to make any real progress. My depression is mostly gone and I have made significant improvements in the way I act around my friend. We had a conversation a few weeks ago, the first time in several months. He told me about a girl he met, before I would have gotten very jealous, but now I was genuinely happy for him. However I still noticed that I had strong feelings for him and hadn't really made any improvements in that department.
I'm scared to move on because he's such an amazing person and I've never met anyone even close to being like him, or anyone else that interests me in the slightest (I have specific tastes). But at the same time I realize that I HAVE to move on and I'm trying to. But I have a hard time going even one day without thinking about him.
What can I do? I'm getting so frustrated by how long this is taking me and I just want to go back to being friends. | it's been almost a year since my rejection and although I've made some progress I'm still in love with my friend. Scared to move on because of how unique he is but I realize I have to and I'm willing to. I just want to go back to being friends. |
t3_25xq56 | Advice | Help with people at school | Okay, so, bit of back story here:
At the start of this year, I moved to a different school because I wanted to escape the bullying at my old one and be intellectually challenged for the first time in years. One of the things that changed in my everyday life was that I had to catch a bus to and from school.
Now, there is this one person on my bus (he's two years younger than me). I'm sure you all know the type, athletic, popular, dickhead, has roughly four functioning brain cells. On Friday, he was picking on one of my friends, so I decided to stand up to him, a 10 minute shouting match ensued which resulted in me getting off the bus before something physical happened.
Anyway, now he is picking on me (this is nothing new, I've been treated like this my whole life) and is trying to embarrass me in front of the whole bus. Any idea's as to what I could do? I know for sure that I'm not the only person pissed off with him, most of the bus (we're talking around 70 people) hate his guts. | How do I stop this guy bullying me before I end up breaking his nose? |
t3_2qq5j0 | relationships | I [22F] really like him [27M] but he just wants to be friends | I met this guy on OKcupid when I was trying to get over another guy and I ended up falling for him. I slept with him on our first date and after that he invited me to his place weekly and we would bang and hang out.
He told me he didn't want any commitments on our first date and I wasn't too sure what that meant and when I told my guy friends later about this relationship they explained to me that I was just a fuck buddy. The guy I'm seeing has told me that he finds my face cute and personality very attractive, but my body not so much. When I brought up that I had met another guy and he might not be okay with me banging him, he told me that he'd still like to see me as friends without the sex.
I really like this guy to the point where I just want to be with him and make him happy and it makes me incredibly sad that he doesn't feel the same. I know I should stop seeing him since he's making me incredibly sad but I can't do it. I can't bear the thought of not seeing him again.
I'm not sure whether I'm just being jealous because a couple of days ago I was like, I totally don't want a relationship with this guy and then he told me he was going on a second date with another girl and that made me incredibly sad and cry.
I don't know why this guy wants to be friends with me. I'm not sure what's so great about my company, and if he doesn't care about the sex, I'm just at a complete loss to what value I give this guy. I know he got out of a really bad seven year relationship but I also know that that doesn't matter at all because he's obviously seeing other girls and has literally told me in the "no commitments" "let's be friends" that he's not into me. But there's always a tiny part of me that hopes for more. | I'm in love with someone who just wants to be friends. I want to be friends with him even though it feels like a bitch. What should I do? |
t3_sa0bd | personalfinance | (US) friend working under the table, evading taxes | My friend has been working under the table as their own (illegitimate) business for about 5-6 years. They haven't had a real job since before they got their driver's license around 16 years old, so I imagine they haven't paid taxes since then. Basically, I keep trying to save their ass telling them to either get a "real" job or at least make their business legit or they're going to get caught. They don't see a real problem with what they're doing, but taking vacations to other countries 1 or 2 times a year, paying store credit cards, etc can't be possible without income, they book these vacations with that liberty travel, so it's all planned and this and that. They're living back home now so at least they're not paying mortgage/lot fee but still not paying taxes or anything.
I can't really navigate tax information, I'm still a student but I need help at least trying to get this person in the right direction. Could it affect their family? Could they go to jail? Anything is appreciated, I love them, but gosh they're a mess. Thanks in advance :) | 5-6 years evading taxes, working under the table, consequences? |
t3_cc2mj | AskReddit | Is film school worth it? | Background: I'm 2 years into an engineering degree at a very good engineering school. I'm finally realizing that all I want to do with my life is direct movies. I don't want to go into the draw or justify what I have come to call a necessity.
The more research I do on film schools the more confused I get. Many great directors went to film school for 4 years, and on the strength of their student films got financing for features. Other filmmakers advocate strongly against film school as a waste of money, and as nothing more than vocational, not artistic approach.
What's the right thing to do here? Film school seems like the only way to break into the industry, but so many claim that it is not necessary. What's the alternative? | (see title of post) |
t3_2iwq9j | relationships | Reddit, how do you cope with disconnecting from your closest friends? | I [M23] Have recently lost complete contact with my circle of close friends. We used to hang out every single weekend, they would either text/ call and always try to include me. Lately, and by lately I mean these past 2 months, I have been pushed out of my circle of friends (it is a group of 4 including myself.) I witness this through social media such as instagram or Facebook, they would go out, take a group picture and post It. At first I didn't think anything of it until they stopped texting and calling and they never included me again in any of their out goings. The last straw was when I decided to plan something out, and include all of them, I texted all of them saying " why don't you guys come over for a beer and a good movie or sports" . They all agreed but when it came close to the scheduled time they never showed up. Sorry for Rambling, my question is how do you cope with this? I'm extremely social and being shoved out of my circle of really close childhood friends is honestly making me feel miserable. I will gladly give details if need be, friend #1 is a full time chef friend #2 just recently lost his job, friend #3 is a full time mechanic, and I am a full time student, part time security guard, and in background investigation for a law enforcement agency. | lost relationship with close friends for absolutely no reason. |
t3_2vq3j1 | relationships | I [26M] want to break up with my bf [35M] of 3 years (we live together), but I'm too afraid. | I've been with my boyfriend for three years; we've lived together for just over one year. I have wanted out for a while now. On numerous occasions, I've convinced myself that I'm ready, but then not followed through.
There are several reasons I want out. He is a long term smoker and has no intentions of quitting. He doesn't take care of his body and he eats very poorly. When we met he was fit, and he's just slowly given up. He often tries to swole shame me because I do take care of myself. He's very materialistic, and we don't see eye to eye at all financially.
There's so much more, too, but it's hard to put it all into words. Basically, I'm just unhappy in the relationship, and I don't think there's any chance of salvaging it.
To make things more complicated, I was an idiot and just signed a lease with him. Also, I'll be starting a new job soon, and I'm afraid of going through a messy breakup while I'm new.
I haven't told any of my family or friends how I feel. My family all really like him. But that's not enough.
I need some advice. I've got to get out of here! How do I do it? | Want to break up with bf, too scared. Unsure of how to do it with new lease and job. |
t3_3g281g | relationships | Me [24 M] with my GF [19 F] of four months: She keeps doing things with her friends that make me uncomfortable. Please help me calibrate my sensitivity. | To be clear: This is not an issue of infidelity. It is a matter of me being more "conservative" or "proper" than my girlfriend, in having stricter boundaries for what is okay to do with friends and strangers when in our relationship.
New things keep popping up that make me uncomfortable. For example, she told me she likes to spoon with male friends. I conveyed my discomfort, we talked about it and clarified what is OK and not. That was straightforward enough. But some cases are not as clear-cut to me. I have a hard time separatng what is simply a matter of my personal boundaries, and what is due to my insecurity (I do think I can be overly sensitive or insecure in relationships).
So let's take two examples that occured today: My GF is in a camp where she is sharing a small room with 2 girls and 2 guys. Today, she tells me they already have "internal jokes, like trying to do the helicopter with our breasts" (fully clothed, I think). She also tells me that they shaved the back of one guy, so he could get some tattoo. So she and her female friend were sitting next to him, applying stuff and shaving his back.
Now, both of these situations make me uncomfortable. But should I adapt to it? Or is this something you guys would react to as well? My own feeling is that breasts are sexual, and I feel very uncomfortable if my GF is playing around with her breasts with some guys. Just talking about her breasts make me uncomfortable. I feel that she doesn't understand how sexual breasts are to guys (especially large ones like hers) and that she is naively putting them on display. And concerning the back-shaving: I feel that it is a bit intimate. Heck, if I was some single guy getting my back shaved and tended to by two girls, I'd feel pretty awesome. But maybe I'm just a douche. I do feel I'm being overly sensitive on this point.
What do you guys feel? | GF has fun with her breasts around guys, and does other things that make me uncomfortable. Would it make you uncomfortable too? Should I bring it up or learn to live with it? |
t3_3cfl09 | tifu | TIFU by visiting my local adult store | Like most TIFU's this didn't happen today, but around a week ago. I was hanging with my twin and his girlfriend, it was around 23:00 and we were at our local adult "news" store. The idea was to get some laughs out of making the girlfriend uncomfortable; unfortunately that is not the fuck up.
We start talking about this girl I want to hook up with for a bit when my brother changes the topic way too quick for my idiot brain to follow and says how cool it is that me and his girlfriend are becoming good friends. I, still thinking we're talking about the other girl say that we're not really good friends. The girlfriends face does this sad puppy dog look and things get very quiet. Our visit ends and she and my brother have not really talked to me since or on the 15 minute drive back, being very confused I ask what is up and the girlfriend just says how it's understandable that we're not friends we've only hung out a couple times, it's cool, etc… My fuck up instantly clicked and I explained what I had meant. They laughed and I felt like a giant asshole for the rest of the night. | Told my brothers girlfriend I'm not her friend, even though we get along great. |
t3_46ug2v | relationships | Am I (20M) overreacting to my girlfriend (21F) not messaging me for a couple of days when she said she would? | So my girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months and we have decent communication when we dont see eachother. Very recently I have started to notice a decline in her messaging me, and only when its convenient for her. This could possibly be due to lack of interest.
She has started to get stressed with her work, and other aspects in her life to where she gets busy and I never hold that against her. But I feel that it doesn't take much effort to say a few words to me (doesn't matter what time of the day). Your probably wondering... Why dont you say something first! Well I do that all the time, and whenever she says she will text me I assume that she will. The last time we spoke was Friday over the phone. This is when she told me she was going to text me later so I thought it was safe to assume she would. I was being be patient. To make a long story short I haven't heard back from her since that day. Unforunately I was on facebook a couple of hours ago to find out that she was active. Still no message from her at all. I know she has work and that keeps her busy but I know she was off and that made me a bit angry. I wish I didn't see her online but it happened. She has informed me in the past when I asked her why she didn't communicate with me at all for a day or two and she just told me she was busy. I think at some point we have all heard this excuse before.
Any advice or opinions on my situtation? Do I have the right to be angry? I have been trying to give her space but I didn't think she would go this long without saying something to me. | My girlfriend is getting on facebook but isn't messaging me like she said she would. Its been a couple of days. I need suggestions or advice on what to do please. |
t3_dh6qa | AskReddit | Reddit, help diagnose my struggling online-funny-songwriting-business | Hi Reddit. Long time lurker. First time poster. I've set up a small business, and it hasn't really gotten off the ground yet. In one sentence:
**I write funny songs, about your ideas, that you sing**
Full details are on [yousingthesong.com] along with some example songs.
I'm wondering if you have any suggestions about the business...
1) either the idea (funny custom songs that you sing)
2) or the execution (the website itself)
As an aside, if you are interested in a song, I'd love to write you one, for free, for the first few people who are interested. The catch is that you need to let me (anonymously) share it on my site so I can build up a bigger back catalog. More details at [yousingthesong.com/free/](
Thanks! | What do you think of my songwriting business, [yousingthesong.com]( |
t3_4ggyqs | Advice | Confidence Issues | Hello, I (17/m) have been talking with a girl (14/f) for some time now, and asked her out to prom. She replied yes x1000 and seemed super happy I asked but when I try to ask her on a date, she says her parents won't let her date until she is a little older (I don't know how older, or if at all she just said her parents don't want her dating.) I'm having issues telling her how I really feel, and have been acting non-chalant and more like friends with her, how do I go about building my confidence and eventually asking her parents permission to date. (I know this seems like a specific question but I know what I wanna do, i'm just really shy about it) | A girl I like is not allowed to date, how do I build my self confidence to tell her how I really feel, eventually asking her parents for permission to date. |
t3_2t4v7u | relationship_advice | [20/m] Should I invite her (20/f) to an abandoned ski hill? | I am developing a crush on a girl I have class with, and I want to ask her out. The thing is: I hate normal boring first dates (I.E. Olive Garden and a movie.) In my little town we have a ski hill that was abandoned some time in the 80s that all of the locals go sledding down. The view is incredible and it is a lot of fun. The thing is; I don't want to sound like a homicidal rapist when I ask this girl out. So my question is, should I ask this girl if she would like to join me on the old ski hill? | Is it creepy to ask a girl to go sledding on an abandoned ski hill for a first date? |
t3_2b6umh | relationships | Me [19M] tries to give advice to my cousin [18F / 20M], I need help here. She comes to me for advice and I've tried everything even gone to my friends to help her but she never does anything. He ignored her for over a week, never returning calls, sets up plans and then never shows up, etc! | My cousin is 18 and dating a 20 year old, she is getting ridiculous about how much shit she lets him get away with! (At least me and my friends think so) Her boyfriend recently ignored her for a week then makes up excuses for it. He tries to make it up to her by making plans which he showed up to one of nine different dates. She told me he just wanted to have sex, which they did and then he never hung out again.
They had plans today and he didn't message her until 8:15 tonight (well past their scheduled time). He said he's in a car going with some buds to another city 1.5 hours away to go to some bars tonight.
She messages me super sad because she thinks he will cheat on her or flirt with other girls and stuff. I told her that I don't think it matters because she won't do anything if he does (She won't break up with him!). I don't know if what I told her was the wrong thing, but this has been like four weeks of me talking to her about this stuff and all my friends told me to tell her to dump him and move on. That's what I thought too.
She's given him so many chances and he does the same thing every time. I don't know why she wants him to change when given all the chances he's had nothing has changed. | Cousins BF walks all over her, does whatever he wants and she never does anything. What should I tell her, how do I make her believe me. |
t3_1pv801 | relationships | [20 M] Looking for some music; examples inside | Alright, so me and this lass broke up about 2 years ago after dating for one year, and for the life of me I still cannot get over her. Not much of a social person, and never really had anyone who I felt would actually listen to if I talked to them. /endMiniRant
**ANYWHO** Music. I'm looking for some new songs similar to these to listen to to.... ~~mope~~ get over her. Such songs include:
Heartbeat Slowing Down - AAR
Blame Game - Kanye West
Lonely - Akon
Fuck It - Eamon
(How Could You) Bring Him Home - Eamon
Heartbreak Hotel - Elvis
Beautiful - Eminem
Going Through Changes - Eminem
Love The Way You Lie 1 & 2 - Eminem
Rock Bottom - Eminem
Space Bound - Eminem
My Immortal - Evanescence
Stronger Than I Was - Eminem
Over And Over - Nelly ft. Tim McGraw
There's way more (mostly rap) but I didn't want to put anyone through all that reading.
So basically, any dark, not-too upbeat rap/hip-hop/R&B songs would be appreciated. Thank you :) | Looking for chill, dark "get over her" music (preferably rap) |
t3_2ofbdi | needadvice | Need advice for setting up a wifi network | I am a high schooler and I have the idea of putting a wifi router in an area of my school that has no wifi. I've asked around, almost all kids would pay a lot of money for this and I've thought about how I would distribute the password and limit the wifi to certain users and I think I would make a decent profit. I was wondering if anybody knows if it is possible to set up a wifi router and modem, or whatever you need to set up a wifi network (I don't really know) inside of a locker, so not plugged into a wall. Any advice regarding this or links to useful websites would be very helpful. | Could I set up a wifi network if I wanted to the leave whole router system in a locker for use? |
t3_173sx7 | dogs | The Animal Rescue Site Shelter Challenge [X-post from r/rescuedogs] | The Animal Rescue Site is holding a "shelter challenge," providing shelters across the world the chance to win money for their kennel/shelter/rescue/etc.
I know that there are homeless dogs all over the world who deserve to find loving homes, but I came here to ask if you could vote for my local county dog pound. It is a very small facility and can only hold about 15 dogs on a nice day (A few of the kennels are outside. Right now it is very cold in Ohio so these kennels cannot be utilized.)
Since it is a county facility, they are required to take in all dogs that are brought in/reported and picked up. If they run out of room, they begin to euthanize. It absolutely breaks my heart to see them make "RIP" posts on their [Facebook page]
The rate at which dogs are killed at the pound has reduced quite a bit over the years due to the love and dedication of our very passionate volunteers. However, every dog deserves the chance at a better life.
You can vote for the Trumbull County Dog Kennel via the following link: and in order to find the shelter, put in Trumbull County Dog Kennel for the name and OH for the state. If you cannot find it that way, put in OH for the state and Warren for the city. It is currently the fourth one on the list.
If you would like to make a donation directly to the Trumbull County Dog Pound, here is their information: 7501 ANDERSON AVE, WARREN, OH 44484 (HOWLAND TOWNSHIP) Phone: 330-675-2787 Hours: Mon-Fri 9:30 am to 4:30 pm, Sat 9 am to 1 pm
Thank you all so much for taking the time to read this post, and especially for doing what you do to help homeless dogs in need. | Please vote for my local shelter in [The Animal Rescue Site Shelter Challenge] The shelter's information is Trumbull County Dog Kennel, Warren, OH United States. |
t3_4yxaio | relationships | 28M met 26F on tinder , dating one month, she dissapeared :( | I met a great girl on tinder. We had a good first date and an even better second one. I surprised her with a picnic and then we went to a movie. I never made any moves on her.
We agreed to a third date but she cancelled and hoped to reschedule the following week. I sent a text a couple days later asking her out for the following weekend but she hasn't responded. It's been 6 days and I just sent a follow up text last night. Still no response. Should I assume she isn't interested?
So strange because she told me I was very sweet and agreed to that third date. I wonder if I matched with one of her friends on tinder and that turned her off. I don't know | Girl seems 100% interested, stops answering texts after second date/agreeing to third, what did I do wrong? Is it over? |
t3_2yqyyh | relationships | Me [17 F] with my Grandpa[56 M ], having a hard time living with him. | He is just my grandmas boyfriend for 20 years so I call him "Grandpa". I'll give you guys scenarios
1. Called me crazy in another language to my Grandma ( which I can understand)when I wore a dress to school when it was 40 something degree outside but it was for a special occasion which I told them a week beforehand (school event to the opera)
2. Shouted at me to pick up my fork which I had just left in the kitchen sink because he needed to pour down leftover water in a pot and then angrily looks at me while I wash the fork
3. Tells my grandma (again with another language) about what I did wrong, with me in the room, then my grandma gets piss off and start to yell at me. And every time she yells, Grandpa would chuckle while watching tv.
And then there's today where I left the bowl I ate from on the table and then my grandma starts to yell, grandpa proceeds to chuckle again. So I washed the bowl and went to my bedroom without having dinner. | either grandpa is being a asshole to me or it's just normal family situations |
t3_37t3de | tifu | TIFU by rejecting free concert tickets | This happened earlier today and I feel fucking awful.
So around noon while I'm at work, my uncle sends me a text that his job is giving out free Billy Idol concert tickets. He asked me if I would like to go with my mother because she was apparently crazy for him back in the day.
Now I'm all for Billy Idol, hes the fucking man. However, today I was exhausted from work and I assumed my mom would say no because she never wants to go out anywhere. So I thanked him for the offer and said my mom wouldn't be up for it without even asking her. I go about my day without even thinking twice about it.
So I finally get home from work and while chatting with mom about our days, I casually brought up that my uncle offered me free Billy Idol tickets. And this is where i fucked up. She exclaimed " OMG I LOVE BILLY IDOL!! WHEN IS THE CONCERT?!"
At this point, my heart fucking sank. I was in shock, I don't remember the last time my mom was genuinely excited about anything. I shamefully mutter out that the concert was today and had started already.
The look on her face changed in a matter of a split second. She tried to maintain her composure as if it wasn't a big deal but she started crying right there in front of me. I apologized profusely but the damage was done. I crushed her dreams right then and there.
Now, I feel like the biggest moron on Earth. I'm sure she'll get over it but I'm sure this one will sting for quite some time. No one likes missed opportunities. I definitely gotta make it up to her. If I learned anything from this its to never assume shit, always ask. | Don't fuck around when it comes to Billy Idol. |
t3_1qoisl | relationships | Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [ 20F] for 10 months, she's terribly jealous | Not native speaker here, please excuse improper grammar.
We live in the same 'dorm'. One of our friend who guard the entrance to 8PM at 10PM told her that i opened the door for a girl and invited her to my room (he already mistaken us for another couple some months ago). I didn't. She's accusing me of cheating, i didn't. She's mad at me and i don't know how to deal with it. I'm mad at her she's not trusting me. I love her but she makes me miserable with her jealousy.
Our relationship is falling apart for 1 month, and all the efforts i put into it are just undermined by her. We come from abusive households and sometimes we aren't the best couple ever but i want to be with her, and when she's not assuming stupid things she wants it too. | Girlfriend isn't trusting me. |
t3_unt7i | AskReddit | What's your "I didn't think that was possible" moment? (possibly NSFW) | Once upon a time, when I was camping I witnessed a kid get his eyelid stuck in a zipper.
He was putting on one of those hooded sweatshirts with the zip at the front and decided to start zipping it up as he pulled it over his head. Next thing I know he started screaming "Dad! My EYE-LID!"
The Dad marches over, grabs the zipper and tries to open it. Doesn't budge. So after tying on a piece of string he gives it a sharp YANK which didn't work at all, only making the kid howl in pain. It was actually hard to watch, so I left it at that and ate cereal.
later on when I returned the kid was okay, just a bit of raw skin on his eyelid and his eye was red from the blood which leaked into it. looked creepy as hell.
One thing I have learned from the experience is to be careful with my foreskin around zips. | Kid put on sweatshirt and zipped at same time. Eyelid stuck in zipper. |
t3_2tldi5 | Advice | Just ended my gaming addiction, first girlfriend need advice! | Hey reddit. I'm going to start with a little context. I started gaming about 3 years ago and I was addicted. I played games night after night, first CS:GO then Dota then League, thousands of hours.... It seemed like nothing could go my way, bad grades in school, no luck with girls, fighting at home etc. I sunk in to depression and continued gaming as if it was more of a chore rather than something fun. I hid my emotions pretty well and no one knew how I was feeling.
My dad then forced me to get a job or my internet would be gone. After getting said job my life turned around. I was making money, I was motivated, I didn't stop gaming but I toned it down A LOT. My grades have gone up and I've got myself a girlfriend.
But now I have no idea what to do. I basically spent my first two years of high school under a rock, I've never kissed a girl or had a girlfriend or anything and I'm not sure what she'll be expecting. Any help would be great! | fucked up in my grade 9-10 no idea how to be on a relationship. |
t3_x45lo | AskReddit | Quite a bit of Clear, runny, semi-viscous liquid just leaked out of my nose.... should this be something to be concerned about? | So, just as I was bending over to wrap a towel around my hair after a shower tonight, a weird feeling came in my right nostril, like it was filled with water, and as I got up a lot of clear fluid just dripped out. This hasn't ever happened to me before and google mentioning Cerebral Spinal Fluid leaks are not helping to calm me down. I haven't recently had any head injuries but I have had a couple in my childhood, if that matters.
I'm sorry if this seems silly of if this is the wrong subreddit to ask, but I'm hoping some of you may have some advice?? Its creepy having your nose leak like a faucet for no reason!
Mostly I want to know if this is something I should see my doctor about, or wait to see if it happens again before I freak out? | What seemed to be about two tablespoons of clear liquid randomly leaked out of my nose, is this something I should see a doctor about? Or am I flipping out about nothing? |
t3_33io8i | tifu | TIFU by telling my co-worker she's ugly | So let me preface by saying that I'm a dude, and she is probably my best friend within 3000 miles. We both just moved to a new country as part of a grad program, and got paired up to work for the same company. We've never been anything more than friends, but I don't think I've ever gotten along so well with another girl. Not only is she smart, funny, and nice, but also very attractive.
This is how I fucked up. Today we were waiting for a presentation and happened to be in the same room we were in for work orientation. That brought up the topic of first impressions, so I foolishly decided to share mine of her. It was a day after flying 10+ hours across continents, so nobody was in top shape. But I remember seeing her for the first time and thinking I'm glad she's not a 10, or else that could make work awkward, should any physical relationship arise. After knowing her a while, it is clear that initial impression was way off, as she is actually beautiful. Being as close as we are, I thought we were close enough to share this story.
She kinda laughed it off and joked, but idk how she really took it. It's all I've been thinking about since it happened, and don't know what I can do to make it up to her. | Dont tell a girl she's not good looking. |
t3_t6s28 | relationship_advice | Sending new squeeze flowers for her birthday, what closing do I use? | Thanks for any input, it's much appreciated.
I've been dating this awesome girl for a little while. We met about a year ago, saw each other again about 5 months ago, started hanging out 2 months ago, and finally started dating about a month ago. This girl is awesome. So far, there is nothing I don't like about her.
Her birthday is Tuesday. I want to send her flowers at work, and obviously I'll get to send a personalized note with them. My question, reddit, is what closing do I use? It's WAY too early, IMO, for either of us to be saying "I love you" or expressing love. Not that it can't happen soonish, just not right now. But, when I write the note, should I close with "love, TooHappyFappy" or something else?
I feel like "love, ____" is pretty standard in stuff like that, but I also don't want to weird her out by using the L word. Should I use it? If not, what do you suggest? Thanks! | Like this girl, her birthday is coming up, not ready to say I love you yet, what should I close the note on her flowers with? |
t3_1y0xu3 | relationships | Can I [F21] pursue a guy [M21] one of my close friends liked for years? | One of my friends liked a guy for 3 years but he didn't return her feelings. They're still friends although not as close, after he had a talk with her a few months ago where he explained she was a great girl but he just wanted to stay friends. So they've explicitly talked about this and I think(?) she's moved on from it.
I don't want to ask her directly about it because he's not like a serious crush or anything, so I didn't want to potentially upset her unnecessarily? Not sure if she'd be upset though. I just think he's super cute and from the few times I've interacted with him he's definitely someone I'd like to get to know better.
On the other hand, three years isn't a trivial amount of time to like someone. He definitely didn't lead her on during that, but she's super insecure and shy and just had a huge crush and never did anything about it. I, on the other hand, am generally pretty outgoing and there are trillions of guys out there that I could probably be interested in, so it feels sort of silly to be semi-crushing on the one guy she's liked. | Would it be mean of me to go after a guy my friend used to like? |
t3_pmn6f | AskReddit | I need honest advice about breaking up with my fiance. | I don't need my sister's advice, my mom's advice, my friend's advice, no advice from people who care a lot about me and don't want to give me their honest opinion because they just want me to be happy. So, I thought this would be a good place to get some honest advice.
I've known my fiance since we were ten years old, been best friends for a long time. I was really happy when we got engaged, but recently we've been having problems. We're currently in a long distance relationship, but he's gotten to come home to see me and has been here for the past two weeks.
Our problems:
We've been arguing a lot recently, something we never used to do.
He REALLY wants kids when we're in our early thirties. He says he wants a family and his life won't be complete if we don't at least TRY to have kids. He says he won't ever be able to feel differently.
I do NOT want kids. I know that people change and they can feel differently, but I HONESTLY don't see myself wanting kids. I know the beautiful upsides to having them, and the downsides. I like the idea of having a kid, and I want to WANT to have one. I'm not ready to tell him flat out, "I will never want nor have kids," because I really don't know if I might change later on.
So, what to do, Redditors? I love this man and want him in my life. But I don't want him to be miserable if I don't want kids. It's a big deal.
Anyway, ask me whatever, if you have any questions. | Not giving the short story, because I want actual advice from people who aren't too fucking lazy to read. |
t3_1z1v7r | relationships | Need help with a SO that travels alot. (27m) here with a (29f) for two yeara | So let me give you some back story. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years and things have been great (aside from the miscommunication from time to time). About 9 months ago she took a job that has her traveling all over the country some times she is gone out of state from Monday - Thursday for the entire month. (20 ,22 days gone) and is home on the weekend. She has minimal time while gone to talk and communicate while gone. Maybe 3 to 4 hours between phone calls or text. We are slated to be engaged next week and married by july. My problem is I can't stand her traveling and the lack of concern for how I feel about it. She says that's her job and that's what she has to do. I'm upset because before she took the job I told her my concerns and she dismissed them and made the job sound not so bad. Not it is almost unbearable, it like I have a long distance relationship with someone I live with. I have tried and tried to tell her how it bothers me and that we need to find a solution to it (such as making time to contact me and more effort to space out her travels) but she always takes the side that it's her job and she doesn't have the time when she is gone to message or call me. I have no worried of infidelity I don't believe she would do that. I just feel that I'm taking the back seat to her job. I'm worried that if this continues I won't be able to handle it any more, that it will be the downfall of an other wise perfect relation ship. I just need help trying to find new perspectives to try to get her to see how this makes me feel and that it's not conducive to building a family to starting a life with someone. | My girlfriend travels alot and I'm having trouble letting her know that it's going to ruin our relationship. |
t3_3k1y42 | relationships | I [23M] went through a rough break up recently...and then another. | Hi everyone! I posted this over at /r/seriousconversation and was told you might be able to help me here.
I'm not really sure how these things work, because I've never really reached out through the internet for help before. I've been a little bit down and out recently (I don't think I'm down enough or its been long enough to call it depressed). I recently got out of a 6.5 year relationship (I'm 23M so it's been a significant part of my life). I don't really know how to handle it! On the one hand, I ended the relationship so I feel like on some level I'm not allowed to be sad. I also jumped into a rebound very quickly which is also over now. So I brought it on myself, but double break ups aren't fun :(
The weird thing is that I was completely committed to the rebound relationship. I seriously thought that it might go somewhere (maybe that's normal? I really don't know) and I was crushed when she broke up with me....which was six days ago.
I'm not really sure to do. I'm scared to death of being alone and it seems pointless to do anything if there isn't anybody to share it with. I used to talk to somebody every single night before bed. Talk about whatever, talk about my day, her day, what I was feeling, what I was worried about. Anything. Now everything is so empty and I honestly can't get to sleep. I cry myself to sleep most nights.
I feel really alone. And I'm not sure how to handle it. | Went through big break up. Went straight into a rebound, broke up again. Feel really alone. |
t3_3ksebk | offmychest | Always having to go through everything alone. | To the people who still aren't happy with life even though they have a significant other to share the problems with - screw you if you're still not happy with life.
I'd give anything to have a good boyfriend to turn to at the end of the day. If I can't count on my friends, at least a boyfriend should be there because when you don't have any reliable friends, family is all that a person has.
Why are people always asking me to help them but when I need help I can't count on a handful of people? The only people who help me are elder adults, like I can't count on people my age that are near me to bail me out of my ruts, but people my age expect me to bail them out of theirs.
If I was stuck on the side of the road with a flat tire - I couldn't call some friend nearby to pick me up, that'd be all me to figure things out.
Try dealing with everything on your own and there is no one to talk to and no significant other to turn to at the end of the day. | sick of the people complaining about still not being happy with life even though they have a loving significant other to support them in their hard times. Meanwhile there are people like me who has barely any support. |
t3_1gy2vq | relationships | [19/f] (possible) flirtation is confusing w/[22/m] | I [19/f] have known him [22/m] for ~1year as a somewhat distant friend... things have been developing recently... and I am clueless.
About two months ago he started initiating conversations with me. Fairly pointless conversations, inviting me and friends out through me on occasion. A couple of weeks ago we started hanging out alone, talking every day, things I'd associate with non-platonic interest.
Here is the "but". He's kind of shy and I'm kind of shy and because of the uncertainty of it all I am too scared of muddying a friendship to actually show any real interest and I've been flighty and nonchalant. In truth I have no idea how to subtly/casually tell a guy I like them. I am only half sure that he is even interested. | need advice on showing interest in the opposite sex because I am a clueless 19 year old girl |
t3_4rtwxp | relationships | My [24F] ex wants me [26M] to continue working in her website a month after we have broken up. | I was in this relationship for two years and then it all went downhill because we moved into her parents house for a few months to save money. It's not the proudest thing I've ever done but I suppose it was necessary.
Everything was great and all of a sudden she broke it off and told me to go get a new job. I kind of saw it as a challenge to prove that I could rise to the occasion and get a better job to afford for us to live on our own.
A few weeks go by and we communicate minimally mostly because I'm focused. Then everything gets strange. Towards the end of the relationship she took on a business partner and I knew immediately that she was attracted to him. Come to find out, she's been dating this guy since less than a week after we broke up. I'm not going to go into too much more detail on him but she has changed, either that or has shown her true colors and is no longer the girl that I fell in love with.
While we were together I helped her start her business and build a website. Then, in the ending of the relationship we did a redesign and were in the middle of adding a few plug-ins to achieve what she needed.
Needless to say, I wasn't getting paid to do it other than in kisses but now she's holding us living at her parent's house over my head as a "favor". She's also demanding that I take her original project off of my portfolio until I finish this new update for the site. If I were to continue with it in my portfolio she would "blast me" on social media.
She is saying to "stop being salty about personal shit" and just continue doing business. All the while sending degrading and sarcastic remarks in the same request.
So, my question is...would you continue to do business or cut it off? I'm just trying to do the right thing. | girlfriend dumped me. No delay between the peenay. Wants business to continue as usual. |
t3_2xm00a | relationship_advice | I [18M] am very jealous of my girlfriend's [16F] guy friend. [17M] | OK. This guy, let's call him Jacob, was/is best friends with my girlfriend's cousin since last school year. (His first year at our school since moving back to the US from the Philippines). My girlfriend is very close with her cousins, so they hung out all the time, went camping over the summer, etc. and thus she became very close friends with Jacob. This school year, she has not hung out with him AS much. Last year he would regularly spend the night at her house, they watch movies, sometimes with others, sometimes not, and then he sleeps in another room. Since we started dating two months ago, this has happened a few times. Last night, I was there at a game night, and even though my girlfriend was cuddling me during a movie, it seemed like she was pressuring me to leave. He already had given my girlfriend a calf massage and was getting a back rub from a girl whose boyfriend had just left (and he is closer to my girlfriend than that girl). We were watching a scary movie and he said he needed to cuddle someone (either the girl whose boyfriend had left or my girlfriend) and my girlfriend said "not it!" (But I think she said this only because I was there.). So yeah, they are quite touchy feely. I left in the middle of the movie, and I can imagine Jacob probably took the opportunity to jump between the two girls because was is "scarred," because the other girl has said he does that all the time. He then spent the whole day over there today, watching movies and playing games (maybe just the two of them, maybe not) while I was doing stuff with my family the whole day. I am just so jealous of him, and if I bring it up to my girlfriend I know she will freak out and be upset because we have had conversations before about her guy friends. Should I just accept this? We have not been dating very long, and I just don't know how to deal with these emotions. Also, originally, I was never going to see my girlfriend yesterday because she had plans for Jacob to come over anyway. The game night thing obviously changed that. | My girlfriend is very close to another guy and I am very jealous of him. |
t3_2smcb6 | relationships | Me [15 M] with my classmate [15 F] 10months, she confessed to me 10months ago and I broke her heart. I now regret it. | 10 months ago, she confessed to me that she liked me. I told her that I liked her too, but due to peer pressure from friends(some adults too) about her different race, and my own personal insecurities, I eventually told her that I did not like her anymore and that I only had a crush on her, about two weeks later.
I fell for another girl, only to be used by her, and it took me 8 months to realise it. I started regretting what I did to the first girl about 5 months ago, and as of last week, I can't stop thinking about her, and I feel extremely guilty and depressed about my fuckup.
We still talk in class about school related things, but rarely talk. I can't concentrate in class anymore, or when doing anything for that matter. I feel a pain whenever i think about her, and nothing I do has helped. I suspect that she hates me and holds a grudge against me, but I don't blame her. I feel lost, I don't know what to do. Can I please have some advice? | Girl liked me 10 months ago, I broke her heart for stupid reasons. I now regret it and think I still like her. Advice? |
t3_36s11i | tifu | Tifu by texting details about my pubes to my barber | this one is short and happened like 10 minutes ago.
I, obviously, share TMI with my gf. I've been wearing tighter jeans lately but today I wore pants and it's comfortable. It made me realize that my pubes are getting long and starting to tangle and pull. It's not the most comfortable feeling, so I texted my gf "Get pubey down under. Need to trim!" (Don't have to worry about grammar cuz I've a gf)
In a few seconds I get a reply "what?" And it was from the barber friend with whom I had made an appointment for a haircut. I freaked out and replied "oh shit sorry dude. Not for you".
My gf has been ROTFLOL ever since I told her about this.
Oh well.... | in the title. |
t3_4r33m9 | relationships | My best friend [27 F] wants to go out dancing while I [24 F] am in town but she's way prettier and I just sit on the sidelines while she gets asked to dance all night. | So I'm going to be hanging out with one of my best friends in a few weeks and she loves to go out dancing. I also like to dance as well and its one of the reasons why we're friends. The only thing is we go to this place where people will randomly ask you to dance and of course no one ever asks me to dance. It's so humiliating for me, and i hate going but I love her and I don't want this stupid insecurity to hold me back. What should I do? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? | basically the DUFF, how can I get over it? |
t3_11s50l | running | If there ever was a good reason not to run, I feel like this is it...Shooter on the loose? | Basically, [this] is happening in my area. There seems to be one shooter going along the freeway through several counties (including the one where I live a half mile from the freeway and the one where I work a half mile from the freeway), just randomly shooting at people in cars. 16 cases have been reported. The trails where I run are also in this area.
Now, it seems like everything lately has been disrupting my runs, from free Tigers tickets a few weeks ago to migraines to house-hunting appointments. I've been trying to make myself run around a crazy schedule and not even let migraines be an excuse to take a night off, but I feel like an unknown random shooter may just be a good reason to stay inside. Honestly, I'm nervous about the walk or drive to the gym by my house. I'm planning bodyweight workouts and cardio I can do indoors and things like that for now, but I wanted your opinion: am I being crazy and paranoid, or safe? | There's a random shooter terrorizing my area. Is it crazy or safe to take a few days off from running? |
t3_gdemr | BreakUps | My girlfriend whom I love and who loves me, broke up with me on my 25th birthday for valid reasons | It's been an amazing relationship since day one, new years eve. We were incredible in every facet, we discovered things about ourselves in leaps and bounds. But one thing she had mentioned at the beginning of the relationship was that she wasn't ready to be in a relationship, that she was in the process of growing. For whatever reason, I didn't see this as something that we should seriously concern ourselves with.
Four days ago, we have a talk and things seem pretty bad. And then we had another talk on the balcony of a party where we actually broke up on the just-come evening of my birthday. I didn't even realize that we broke up there, I thought we were going to work shit out later. So I went home, slept okay, spent my day thanking people on facebook for birthday wishes (I only did get up at 2) until I went over to my her house and find out that we're broken up.
Following this, we head to a potluck together with close friends, but I still was on the topic of the relationship on my mind...considering I just found out we broke up hours before...So when we left, I upset her by bringing it right around again and saying something negative.
This break will force us both to grow. I need to be less dependent on her and she needs to figure shit out for herself by herself. We're still probably going to hang out a lot because we run in the same circles (now). I became friends with all of her friends and we made a lot of friends together over the past three months. She's fine hanging out together, I don't know how long it will be before I am. But I don't want to drop out of the groups, they're very important to my well-being. Should I just choose the activities I partake in selectively?
All recommendations on self-improvement and growth are appreciated. Any questions are also welcomed and will actually be appreciated, questions validate my existence, so please, ask away. | My girlfriend (who loves me with all her heart) broke up with me after 3 months because she was in the process of growing when we met and needs to continue doing so solo. |
t3_3h6069 | travel | Has anyone had experience working at a hostel? Thinking about taking a job there, should I go for it? | sup /r/travel,
I'm taking a semester off from college to live in my home city (grew up as an international kid) and didn't really have any special plans for my time here.
I was cruising around craigslist for the fuck of it when I came across an ad that was looking for someone to live in the hostel for 3 months are so. Compensation is full room and board, wifi, laundry, three meals, free coffee, but no word of any further monetary payment. Work seems super light, just 3.5 hours a day 6 days a week (either receptionist work or cleaning rooms).
I'm a very outgoing person and good with interacting with strangers, so I could definitely see myself doing this job. But it is still a bit out of my comfort zone, especially when I can live at my parents apartment with my own room and everything.
**Should I still go for it? If I apply and get an interview, are there any important questions I should ask or red flags/good signs I should watch out for while I'm there? | potential job at hostel but still not sure if it's a good idea, looking for someone with experience to give me some guidelines* |
t3_1w42hg | relationships | Me [19 M] with my [19 F] love interest of 3 months. She was interested in me until she found out I was interested in her. Is there hope? | I've been seeing this girl all summer (Southern Hemisphere) and have hooked up with her a few times, we even went on a date to a movie together. Up until recently, she would regularly text me first and initiate hang-outs, and give generally positive vibes.
Shortly after the date (a few hours later), she texted me saying thanks, she had a great time etc. In the conversation that followed, I happened to mention that I think she's great and I see her as something a bit more. The very next day, she was distant and then that night she said she was really interested in me until she found out I liked her. Now she's not sure on us.
If you ask me, this is all a really childish sort of thing that I would expect out of an 8th grader, not a mature young woman (which I'm not entirely sure she is). Is there any hope for us? How should I play this? I suspect she simply wants what she can't have. | Very attractive girl shows extremely positive signs until I tell her I'm quite interested. She's now distant and unsure. |
t3_1bzax0 | relationship_advice | I think my relationship of more then a year might have an expiration date on it when we graduate college and here is the answer she gave me when I talked to her about it. | She F(20) pretty much said she loves and misses her family and if faced with a tough call she will make the hard choices. She ensures me M(22) that she loves me and in out relationship she isn't using me for anything. And if she was she would have ended it by now.
The problem is now I feel very uneasy. Not just about her and our relationship but about my future as I don't know what i want to do with my life anymore and I'm nearing the end of college. But in regards to her I just started feeling like I'm more invested in this relationship then her and that because I've been burned before that maybe its time I start pulling away and maybe end it with her eventually. She and I have at least a year left before anything happens but after talking about this with her I fell very uneasy about our relationship now. I guess I really don't want to get hurt. Anyway I would like an outside persons perspective on this, and perhaps on how to deal with it. | My girlfriend didn't give me an answer when I asked if whether or not our relationship had an expiration date or not and I don't know how to deal with these uneasy feelings I'm having. |
t3_299j5v | relationships | I [18M] saw a Facebook message of my 3 months girlfriend [18F] and I'm very anxious | It may seem very little, but she left her facebook account open on my PC. When I opened facebook she had live chat open and it was on a message she sent (with her phone) which basically was for her ex-GF (she was unsure if she was bi or hetero about 1.5 years ago), she told her she missed her and that the love messages she wrote on facebook weren't totally for me (They were for me, she said so) but also for her. She said she wanted to see or call her, the girl said she couldn't because she was busy but later yes. But she also said she loved me and was lost.
I'm playing it like I didn't see a thing (she also made me close (while talking on skype) her FB account quickly), so I believe she is scared I saw the messages, she was very serious about me logging off her facebook and not reading anything.
It's been few hours since and we've been on skype all this time, I have no idea how is the conversation with her ex-gf going on, but she acted all the same on skype, she asked me a lot how I was doing (because, fuck I'm actually sick and anxious as I have never been, and I'm sure she feels it). Our relationship is doing really great except little ups-and-downs but nothing bad, I love her more than anything and she said the same toward me.
I don't want to confront her about it, at least not on skype but I'm not supposed to see her for the next 3 weeks (I'm supposed to spend 3 weeks at her place after that). I'm feeling extremely bad at the moment... I really don't know what to do, maybe just writing this, it makes me feel a bit better.
I'm not English, so sorry for the language mistakes. | I'm lost and feeling bad because my GF is hesitating if she's attracted to men or women (or both) and she misses her ex-GF. |
t3_2y2y1x | relationships | [25 M] Was going great with [25 F] but now silence? | Been going out for a month now. Everything had been going great and I had the impression we were both building towards something. On Sunday she texted me asking if I wanted to do something but I was out and didn't respond till late. She said it was too late to meet but wanted to reschedule for something at my place for Monday.
Monday comes and she texts me early that she's feeling pretty ill but is still coming into work since she couldn't find someone to cover. She takes the bus and it's still freezing so instead of just canceling the date, I offer a simple dinner (was her turn to pay) then to drive her home after. She accepts, we do it, and she thanks me as she's dropped off home.
I get home around 20 mins later and get a text from her saying she enjoyed the time and goodnight. I respond with the same. In the AM I leave a voice mail just saying I hope she's feeling better and hopefully we can meet then blah blah. But since then, nothing. No texts, no calls, nada. I had sent a text last night too. Just some prior context, we were sending 2-3 texts daily prior.
I'm just wondering, what could have happened? Did I screw up somewhere? | Great times; silence. |
t3_myj5e | AskReddit | Brother going in and out of mental hospitals, any idea how to help him? | Originally I posted this in /r/MMFB, but to get practical responses to this, I decided to post it here.
It's been about a year now that this has been going on, getting progressively worse. He has a longing to steal, lie, stay out late, and has no motivation to do well in anything, accept Runescape, even though he's 13. He expects our parents to give/get him anything he wants for nothing in return. He says he hates them, and would love to move out, but he constantly comes back to them for anything.
My parents have done everything in their power to help him. They've driven 8 hours to get to a hotel and treatment facility, where they stayed for 5 1/2 weeks (With the hotel not payed for by insurance, and costing incredible amounts.), are currently sending him back and forth between mental hospitals. He's not getting any better, and every time they go to visit him, he says he can't wait to get back to breaking the law, which is the only thing keeping him going at the moment.
Because he has aspergers, I used to hate him, for he was almost always mean to me, but now that's all changed. It doesn't feel like home without him, and It's getting progressively lonely, with me actually having a breakdown at school once.
It's incredibly hard to change him, because of the aspergers, which causes someone to focus in one one thing, typically what first satisfies him/her, so he has fixated on stealing/breaking the law. He's even gone into jail, made us go to court, and cost huge amounts in fines. Please, if you can, suggest ways we can help him. He loves to code and do anything on computers, as do I, is fixated on Runescape, and loves to steal/break the law if that helps at all. Thanks for reading. | Brother breaks laws, even going to jail, and is going in and out of mental hospitals. Need ways to cheer me up/help him. |
t3_3fccdt | relationship_advice | m/19 Tried Sexting girlfriend f/19 while she was away and screwed up need help to try and fix it | So me and my girlfriend have got along fine, but there have been issues with me being clingy which I have now got better with..
So I was super horny and normally when either of us are horny we would text each other and start a convo from it. But this time I fucked up
So she's on holiday for the week and I sent her a text say things such as 'tell me how your going to ride the fuck out of my dick' and forgetting she wasn't in a great mood she replied with 'no... I'm not going to say that..' And I then apologies but she did then not reply.
I haven't talked to her in 2 days after that and in supposed to be seeing her when she gets back, how can I apologise to her or something to make it seem less awkward when she does get back? | tried Sexting girlfriend and she bluntly shut me down and hasn't talks to me in 2 days help |
t3_280usu | legaladvice | My landlord let the utility company into our house when no one was home and without any permission/notice. Can any action be taken by us? | So I left for work around four and got cut early and was thankfully home by 8:30. When I came home, all the doors were wide open, but no one was in the house. We've had problems with break ins, so I know all the doors were locked when I left. The city has been replacing the gas lines down our street for the past week, so I went out and asked if they were the reason my doors were wide open. Oh did I mention the AC was on the whole time? Well, the gas workers told me that my landlord had let them in. My roommate got a hold of the landlord 5 days after the fact and he agreed that there was some oversight and he's sorry he didn't notify us. Had a not been first cut I would've got home at midnight and my doors may have been unlocked the whole time. Plus, I waltzed right through the open front door without the workers questioning a thing. Well, what I'm asking is that can any legal action be taken since our landlord did not give us the 24 hours notice that our lease says he's supposed to give? We really just want to get out of our security deposit since our college house is trashed from two years of parties. | landlord provided access to our home to the utility companies without 24 hours notice |
t3_2h62w4 | relationships | Me [23 M] have started dating [20 F] for about three weeks. At what point do I tell her i'm a virgin? | So i've been seeing a girl for about 3 weeks now, we've gone out a total of four times and we have great chemistry and always have a fun time. We've managed to keep it at a slow pace and fairly casual which I have quite enjoyed. Last night was our 4th date and the first time we kissed.
So far I think we have had good open communication and have both shared things that neither of us were entirely proud of or secrets that we may not share with anyone. We talked briefly last night about the expectations that each of us have, I wanted to ensure we were on a similar page to avoid any confusion. She will be leaving to do a term abroad this January and may not be back until the end of the summer so we established we would continue to keep it casual until after she returned.
She knows my relationship experience (and experience with girls in general) is extremely limited and she finds my lack of knowledge 'cute'. I know the relationship will continue to get more physical over as we progress but the one thing constantly on my mind is that i'm a virgin.
Being a male virgin in north american culture is certainly... odd. I always valued my virginity and didn't want to lose it in high school or just a one night stand. In university I never got a strong enough of a connection to a girl to pursue anything so the option never came up. I want to let her know but i'm also afraid of how she'll perceive it or what may come of it. I'll be seeing her on wednesday, should I make it a point of conversation and put everything on the table so she knows? Or should I continue to hide it? | Being dating a girl for 3 weeks now and we get along great and this could have potential. Slight hiccup, i'm a virgin and don't know how to go about telling her as the relationship gets more physical? |
t3_4ke35a | relationships | I [19 M] have no idea if my best friend [18 F] is into me | I'll start with some background on me and my friend: We met in high school about 2 years ago, and talked pretty much every day for over a year as friends. I've never been great with girls and therefore haven't had any close female friends, so I really enjoyed talking to her. I eventually fell for her, and it lasted a while but I got over it, and we didn't let it change anything. We had a few fights and didn't talk for a few extended periods but eventually went back to normal.
So fast forward to now, we are living in different cities for university, and I still talk to her nearly every day. Lately she has been acting strange when she talks to me, like taking a lot more interest in my life. She asks more specific questions and comes up with very personal conversation topics.
And know is where the real confusion begins (for me anyway): she has made it clear that she thinks I have a hot body, has told me that she wants to sleep in my bed (apparently it looks comfortable), and bombards me with snapchats of herself when she's dressed up to go out, but also brags about all the boys that she makes out with and how everyone loves her. She also says that she wants a boyfriend but won't tell me who she likes.
My friends constantly tell me that she likes me but we both agreed that we'd never be anything more than friends, so I think its a little unrealistic. We've also both had negative experiences with long distance relationships so I doubt she would suddenly decide to start fancying someone living 3 hours away.
I can't really think of any other details right now, but I just want to know if she thinks of me differently than I think she does. Please help | best friend randomly changes how she acts when she talks to me and starts suggesting very personal conversations |
t3_267e7q | relationships | Me [17 M] with my GF [18 F] 2 years, mad that i am seing my friends | I have been with my girlfriend for a pretty long time, and we have gone through some tough shit together (my mom calling her a witch and other things). It happened because my family tought that i spent to much time with her, and she was pulling us apart, but i didn't think that was true.
For a while she has been sad, crying or mad at me when im with friends, at parties without her or at home, because i believe she thinks that i rather want to be with them than her.
She always says that i am hers nr 1 whilst she is my nr 2. That is not correct after my book, i just still want to be with my friends.
So with all this history between us, and when i believe that i love her, what should i do? Go "Bro's before hoes" or something else? | My girlfriend of 2 years doesn't like me seing friends or family |
t3_1iza9b | tifu | TIFU by breaking a girl's neck. | Full disclosure: this actually happened a few years ago when I was in high school, but I figured you all would still enjoy the story.
I was on the wrestling team and we had a girl on the team. She was really good, and as a result, very popular and well known. I was a freshman at the time, she was a senior, we were in the same weight class, and as a result we were assigned to practice with each other.
If you've ever seem a wrestling match, the opponents circle each other, and dive in towards each other with the intent of getting a hold/takedown (called shooting). Well we both decide to shoot at the exact same time, and the top of her head hit me square on the shoulder. She just kinda goes limp and I sort of go "oh fuck". The trainers rush over and push me away, everyone is told to leave the room. fuck oh my fuck I killed her. Next thing I know, there's a fucking HELICOPTER landing in the football field and she's flown out. Practiced cancelled, whole team goes home. I get a phone call from our coach later and he tells me she's fractured vertebrae and has a very serious and dangerous concussion. Still unconscious.
It was a couple months before she came back to school. When she did, she was in a wheelchair. Not paralyzed or anything, but I guess she couldn't move her head at all, and even walking would put too much stress on her neck. Even after getting out of the wheelchair, she had to wear one of those big white neck braces for at least the rest of the school year. As I mentioned before, she was quite popular, and as a result I became quite notorious (not in a good way.) It was a tough way to start high school, but I certainly didn't get the worst of it. I don't really know if she had any lingering problems, but I do know that she went on to become a US Marine. | I broke a popular girl's neck at wrestling practice in my first two months of high school. |
t3_32aix7 | offmychest | Good Lord! | So this one dumb bia had blocked me on a Facebook page only to keep talking about me behind my back so I can't see her responses about me. Now she's telling people she's going to call the police on me. I said go ahead stupid wench. I know I haven't done anything illegal.
She had the nerve to say, "Okay, I will." What's her conversation going to be like with the po-po?
Mary: "Hi, this poster online has been harassing me."
911: Where is this page at?
Mary: Oh, it's on a fan page of a person I'm not a fan of.
911: If you're not a fan of this person why are you on his page harassing him and his fans? Just log off.
/end call.
Someone helped me report someone we found's contacts who was egging me on to kill myself and he deserves to lose his job over that comment. I never let these cyber bullies bug me. They're just so annoying, but I'd never end my life over cyber bullies, though. It really kind of irks me how people who obviously have nothing better to do with themselves harass and defame hard working citizens. | I wish there was a debate I could enter without people resorting to personally attacking me for my views or with people being manipulative because I'm never going to change my views on what I think, especially when I have good reasons to think what I do. |
t3_3ayinm | relationships | Me [30 M] with my wife[27 F] of a year, but have been together for 6 years, and I think I'm falling out of love with her. | My wife and I have been together for 6 years now... and I'm starting to get to the point that I don't even want to talk to her anymore. She is constantly mopey about money, even though I present the solution to the problem almost daily. (We smoke copious amounts of weed, about 60-120 bucks a weeks worth.) I believe she has a problem and doesn't want to admit it though.
She constantly complains about feeling like she's not gotten anywhere, that she's gone to school for 6 years (and she has and is still going, which I pay for) and it has been for naught. She refuses to be happy about anything most times and is very introverted. I am starting to think I made a mistake marrying her.
Is there anything at all that I can do to try to brighten her spirits or am I just going to have to bite the bullet on this and decide if this is really where I want to be for the rest of my life.
I've tried flowers, candy, date nights, chore days (where I do everything around the house and she gets to chill out), I mean I'm at a loss.
Sorry to be so long winded. | Not sure if I made the right choice marrying who I did. She is constantly sad about something. |
t3_yrxmx | relationships | Not sure if I [17M] should continue going after this girl [17F] | Hey!
There's this girl I've been liking for a a bit more than half a year. At first it started slow but with much flirting it finally got somewhere. We went on a few dates and then I had to leave to Europe (From Canada) for the Summer. I left on a "To be continued" note with her. We both liked eachother at that moment...
Anyways, I'm sure during Summer she had some sort of relationship because it's normal at the young age we're at. I don't really care because I had one too in Denmark.
I finally came back a couple of weeks before starting a new school. She knew when I was coming back. I never called her to let her know for sure that i was back though. For a week I was getting organized, curing jet lag and hanging out with my buddies. I had conflicted feelings about the girl when some buddies asked me if I was still after her.
She finally texted me after a week from my return while i was out with friends. Our first contact since I came back. My replies were never to enthusiastic during the text conversation and I just stopped replying after a while. I was with m friends afterall. Fastforward, school started on Wednesday. We're in a couple of classes together. Stuff was good between us on Wednesday. We talked a lot about our Summers and whatnot. She still seemed into me. she left school early to go sailing. I texted her (as a friend) what she missed in the last class of the day. She enthusiastically replied to which I never did and ever since then things have been sort of sour.
She's by far the prettiest girl I have ever seen so far in my life. I still have many years to live though and not sure if it's worth the time and energy to work something out with her. What's the general consensus on what I should do? | Started off great. I left for a few months during Summer vacation. Came back with conflicted feelings. She still seemed sort of interested in a relationship with me. Screwed up a tad. Shit became sour. Wondering if it's worth pursuing or not. |
t3_3qqcgf | tifu | TIFU by calling a four year old a bastard | This happened on Halloween two or three years ago.
I was at the door handing out candy while my wife took the kids trick-or-treating. Sometimes the kids really don't bother with costumes, but other times whole families really get into it. That was definitely the case with one Star Wars family. Mom looked awesome as Princess Leia, dad was properly suited up as a decently menacing Darth Vader, and their four-ish year old son was a credible Luke, complete with the mop of dirty blonde hair. Adorable.
I always like to say something to the kids, especially if they've made an effort, rather than just tossing the fun size Snickers into their bags, so I crouch down to the kid and start talking. "Is that your lightsaber?" "Can you use the Force?" And then to kid around a bit, I point at dad and try to crack a joke about the whole "Luke, I AM YOUR FATHER" line.
But what ends up tumbling out of my mouth to the kid is "You know, I don't really think he's your father." Jaws drop, silence ensues, as the kid sits there speechless as it sinks in that I had really botched the movie reference and the whole family actually just heard me tell the kid that Daddy isn't really Daddy.
After an uncomfortably long moment they quickly turned and stepped off the porch into the night while I slunk back inside. | Meant to make a Star Wars joke reference, ended up telling a four year old he was a fatherless bastard. |
t3_4qt9w1 | tifu | TIFU by drilling into my thigh and missing out on a steak dinner. | I was at working in a paper mill, mounting a box to the side of a conveyor. The holes in the box were too small for the bolts I was using, so I decided to get a cordless power drill to widen the openings. Took a seat on some steps, set the box in my lap, and set up the drill with a 1/4 inch bit. I proceeded to start reaming out the first hole. The bit went through the box, straight into my leg.
Shock set in, and I tried pulling the drill. My whole leg lifted up with it. Oh fuck. One of my coworkers was nearby and saw my predicament. "Put in in reverse and back it out", he said. So I did. A sharp pain shot through my leg like lightning. I ran to the bathroom, applying pressure to my thigh, and locked myself into a stall.
I calmed myself, realizing that a few weeks later the mill was hosting a steak dinner for 100 days of no workplace accidents. We all love steak. I didn't want to ruin it for the guys, so I sprayed the wound with disinfectant, covered it with paper towels, and wrapped it with electrical tape. I figured I could see about it after work.
A little while later, I was talking with my supervisor, and he glanced down at my leg. "You hurt yourself?", he said. I looked down, and there was a huge spot of blood on my pants. Damn. There goes the steak dinner. He called it in, and they applied first aid. The nurse saw the makeshift bandage, and looked at me, appalled. I just shrugged, feeling like the dumbest human being on the planet. When I returned to the job site, my coworkers glared at me with hateful eyes burning with the power of a thousand suns. No steak dinner for us. | I tried to hide a workplace accident, got caught, and made all my coworkers lose the privilege of eating a juicy steak as a reward for a injury-free workplace. |
t3_50f8v7 | relationships | My [17 M] friends are saying my girlfriend [18 F] is conceited. | So to start a good amount of kids from my high school went to the same college as me. A lot of my friends and my best friends go to school with me. So during orientation I started speaking to this girl who we will call Faye, that went to high school with me, she never really spoke much, at least in the classes I had with her and she never went to parties, but she was known as the hottest girl in the school of around 4,000 kids. She is definitely the hottest girl I have ever seen in my life, even more so than any celebrities I have seen in my life and I think most people would rate her a 10/10 or a 9.5/10. Now I am about a 6.5/10, a 7 some days and the occasional 7.5 so this girl is waaaay out of my league but I just spoke to her because I didn't see my other friends at orientation. We ended up hitting it off and exchanged Snapchats.
After the orientation we would occasionally message one another on Snapchat and eventually we got numbers after about 2 weeks and started hanging out and eventually I got a date that went well and we started dating. We have been dating for a little over a month, but we didn't really go super public with it.
Fast Forward to when school started and I started to tell friends of our relationship status. A few people came up to me afterwards and told me that she was very conceited and even used to bully them up to sophomore year. Now personally as a person, I like to be a kindhearted and nice person and I am unsure of how I feel about this. Faye is waaaaaaay out of my league and we have a very good relationship. I personally never saw her do anything mean but the people that told me aren't the type to just lie and gossip about people.
An ex-girlfriend of mine was a huge bully and it always made me super uncomfortable, I didn't say anything about it for 6 months and it killed me inside to see how she would treat other people besides myself as she treated me nicely, at least to my face. | I scored a girl way out of my league but apparently she is conceited and used to bully people. I don't know what to do as we get along very well, but I am unsure how I feel with being with someone who is a bully. Also is being conceited necessarily a bad trait? Will I be able to maintain a relationship with her, as I am lovestruck for this girl. |
t3_2txwm0 | relationship_advice | [17/m] Im debating my total and transparent honesty with my crush [18/f] who is asking deep questions | Hey guys,
First post here so help me out if im missing something vital.
Now onto the point.
Long story short, me and my crush Rebecca (fake name of course) have been talking incessantly and often times our conversations get rather deep. Religion, self-image, relationships, friendships... we talk about it all. However, she recently asked some rather deeply uncomfortable questions including "How far are you comfortable going sexually in a non-marital relationship" or "How often do you masturbate or watch porn" and its starting to get seriously uncomfortable.
I'll preface by saying I answered every single question completely honestly and openly... but im starting to regret it now. She knows *everything* about my innermost self and I've only known her for about 8 months tops (about 2 months in a legit friendship status). To be honest I've only ever shared this sort of stuff with one other person *in my entire life* and now that circle has stretched to include her and I'm not sure if that was a good or bad move.
Was this a bad move? Should I have brushed off these questions and told her they were off-limits? Or was my total and complete honesty a good thing? I truly dont know I need help understanding.
Thank you all in advance. | My crush is asking questions i dont feel comfortable answering. I answered them anyway. Not sure if my brutal honesty was a good idea. Help. |
t3_y21eo | relationships | Not sure if I (24) should stay with him (25). | Me (f) and my boyfriend have been together for a year, we're living together, and I do love him, but I'm not sure if I should stay with him.
Whenever I bring up doubts I get told "if you have doubts then you don't really love him". I do love him, but I don't think we agree wholly on parenting styles (although the best match so far), we have very different opinions on certain moral issues, people, and life in general, and although I don't think he'd sleep with another woman, he does things he knows I consider cheating because they hurt me.
For the "cheating" aspect: I snooped his computer (wrong I know), but he has a folder of naked pictures of his ex girlfriend and it was recently viewed while I was at work. He has an online dating account which he "uses for friends" I have no reason to think he has met up with anyone, (although he does have a lot of free time while I'm at work) but it hurts to think that he'd sit an chat with other women flirting and whatever else.
So... are these valid concerns? I've talked about what I consider cheating, he knows my limits. For the worries in mismatch views and opinions... is that valid? Normal? Worrying?
The last thing is... He's not my "dream guy". I love him, he has so many amazing wonderful things about him and he makes me laugh like no one else, feel good about myself, and I can tell him absolutely anything. But, he's not who I imagined spending my life with. Does anyone get their "perfect" person, or should we appreciate what we have? | Me and BF have different opinions and views, he's done things I'm not comfortable with such as having a folder with naked pics of his ex on his computer. But I do love him and he makes me happy. Stay or go? |
t3_1gf3er | relationships | Me[27F] dating younger man[22M] for 3 months, I'm not ready for serious relationship but he's getting more serious | I (27F) started casually sleeping with a significantly younger guy (22M) a few months ago. Although we mutually agreed in the beginning to keep things low key, he recently told me that he is upset by the idea of me dating other men and is getting very involved. The sex is fantastic (mind-blowing, 1-5 times a day...I think he's thrilled to have found someone with a high sex drive). I find myself spending a ton of time with him (i.e. sleeping together most nights, cooking, doing date things). We have fun and enjoy being around each other, so I don't want to rock the boat unnecessarily.
However, since I just got out of a VERY long relationship (read: almost ten years) I don't feel comfortable making any long term commitments in the near future. Also, because I considered this casual I haven't really evaluated this guy on serious partner qualities (financial stability, life goals, ambition, etc) and have just been enjoying that he is sweet and considerate. Part of me thinks I'm just in denial about what this is anyways, but the short story is that he's a good guy and I don't want to hurt him.
Any of you have experience being the older woman? What were the obstacles, or what issues did you have to consider/overcome to be in a relationship with your younger SO? Was it successful, or was it difficult when (if) things fizzled out? | I'm five years older than the guy I'm sleeping with, he's getting attached but I'm not ready for serious relationship. |
t3_sn4z2 | AskReddit | Reddit, what was your father like? | I know of some really messed up father stories. I wanted to share mine, although I know they won't compare to yours.
My dad is the nicest guy I know. Literally, the nicest man I've ever met in my entire life. He's extremely courteous and great with meeting new people and making friends.. I witnessed all this until I turned about 14. When he and his of-the-time girlfriend broke up, he stopped acting like that towards my brother and I. He worked a lot and made very little money. He would leave before we went to school and get home around 11 pm everyday and not say a word to us unless he absolutely HAD to. Sometimes he would leave us without food and not answer his phone. 90% of the time, we would have only ramen noodles, frozen dinners, or frozen pizza to eat. Or sometimes he couldn't afford to pay the electricity bill and leave us alone while he either stayed out until 3AM or just didn't come home at all. When I started highschool, I moved in with my mother. She makes a much larger amount of money than him, but she's just genuinely not as kind as my dad. Now, I don't talk to him much. He doesn't call or text me. I kind of just wish I had a father to do father-son things with, you know? I've never had that. The last time I spoke to my dad was around christmas time, when I requested some money for clothes, as we don't go clothes shopping too often in my family. Still waiting on that money...
Please cheer me up with some awesome father stories. Or if you are a father, share your experience with your children. | my dad is the nicest guy I know, but just seems like ever since I became a teenager he realized he didn't want us. |
t3_1u49f1 | relationships | My [23F] boyfriend [31M] of 13 Months Dad died in August. How do I be supportive outside of the generic 'just listen' stuff? | Boyfriend's Dad died after a regular surgery's complications lead to two and a half weeks of suffering and eventually the choice to be put on a machine or [Not]. Dad generally did not take care of himself, was a closet alcoholic and was very unhealthy to begin with, but by no means did he look like he was going to die any time soon. The one time I hung out with him, we sang karaoke at a late night bar, and Dad was a huge hit. Boyfriend's dad died the evening before his 31st birthday. :(
Since, boyfriend has done a good job of supporting his sister and taking care of the estate, but now that is done, and he hasn't really grieved yet. The holidays are making things especially tough.
I love this man and hope to make a life with him someday, but I don't know how to be supportive without being overbearing. He's never really been much for sharing his feelings, and I've finally convinced him to see a grief therapist, but beyond the cliche 'just listen' or 'just be there' I don't really know how to handle this. What's the line of 'none of my business' and 'please help'? | Boyfriend's dad died the day before boyfriend's birthday after two weeks in the hospital. How can I be more/better supportive? |
t3_2t8y91 | relationships | GF of 4 years lives w/ me and my 10 years, We had a fight over dishes. I said why don't you find someplace else to live... | I told her that amidst a fight. I apologized and told her I did not mean it. For more background, she lives with me but doesn't contribute financially to the house and doesn't do much house work, she is rarely at the house to spend time with me and my kid, we never have dinner together etc. we spend time together, just in my opinion we don't get that family time i'm desiring. I'm 32 my kid is 10 she is 30. She just got a new good job, i just got layed off. She now left after that and is being uncommunicative, she says she will call friday after work. I think its unfair that she won't take the time to call me before then. She wants to focus on work but i find it hard t focus on my life and think its cold not to make the time to talk to me before Friday. Am i off base on this? I mean obviously it sounds like she is going to break up with me. She keeps saying we have a lot to talk about and need to find a time etc. i have already apologized and explained that i didn't mean it, and that i just wanted more family time. My biggest issue though is that i just don't feel its fair for her to wait until friday. Can someone give me some perspective? | Live in GF of 4 years upset I told her to find another place to live in a pretty standard fight. She is now staying at her sisters and refusing to communicate and putting off talking until Friday. Do you think its fair that she won't make the time before? |
t3_4erb7q | relationships | I (20female) still in love with my ex (20male) and don't know what to do | So basically I (20 female) still have feelings for my ex (20male). We have known each other since we were 10 years old (and yup dated when we were 11 for a few months). Then didn't speak for years until about 2 years ago and ended up getting together. We only lasted 2 months as he was moving away to univeristy 5 hours away and thought it was best to break up and then see what the future holds.
Anyway we broke up, he slept with someone within 2 days and I (stupidly) got with someone else and was with him for a year and a half (broke up with him last week). Anyway a day wouldn't go by where I wouldn't check to see what my ex was up to and I don't know why I carried on being with the guy I was with but I knew secretly deep down I still liked my ex. When we broke up as well we both went to counselling because we were so hurt over the relationship.
To make matters worse.. He is my neighbour so whenever he is back from university I see him around which can be kind of hell. I honestly have the strongest feelings for him ever but I don't know whether to go down to see him or just leave it. | should I go talk to my ex or should I walk away? |
t3_1z0sg0 | relationships | Me [21 M/F] with my girlfriend [21 M/F] 4 years, gift for mutual breakup | Hey guys,
I have been together with my girlfriend for around 4 years. We got together near the end up highschool and we are soon approaching our final year at university. For some context, I am Asian and she is Indian and unfortunately, it was pretty evident to us throughout our relationship that our parents didn't approve of this, mine's especially. You could call our parents old-fashioned but we decided that we wouldn't stick it out to the end and have a long drawn out battle with our parents.
Thus we decided mutually that we would break up before our last year at university simply cause we felt it would be drawn out much longer than it has to be if we didnt. Don't get me wrong, I am not thrilled about this. I love this girl and after 4 years I am still crazy about her.
Anyways, I wanted to give her something special. I would love to hear any suggestions and if any of you guys went through something similar, if you got any advice I would love it. Thanks :) | Mandatory summary/question! |
t3_3kqy4a | relationships | Should I [18M] send another message to this girl[17F]? | I'll try to be brief. So I work at this wedding hall and one night we needed extra workers so my boss called this group of girls to work with us. All the girls were friendly and we were chatting and stuff but this one girl was clearly into me (and I was into her). She would talk to me randomly (more than the other girls) and would offer me stuff to eat or something to drink. So I get her facebook and we start chatting but suddenly she isn't replying to my message anymore. My message was "So what did you think about working with me?" in a joking tone. It's been two days and she hasn't replied yet and I see her online on facebook so it's not like she stopped using it. Anyway I want to know if I should send her another message saying like "Hey u still there?" type of thing or should I just let it go? I'm not overly attached to this girl so I can just drop it but I do think it'd be interesting to keep talking to her. | met this girl at work and then we started chatting on facebook but suddenly stopped replying to my messages. Should I send her another message? |
t3_18vd65 | AskReddit | What is your strangest daydream? | For example, I have this one from time to time... more regularly than perhaps I should? Dunno.
I somehow find myself having traveled back through time to the early settlement of North America on a prairie and am discovered by Native Americans. Initially, I'm beaten and nearly executed until the tribe's medicine man takes an interest in me (I don't dress as the "white man" typically dresses, etc), and my life is spared. I then learn the language, subsequently become a part of the tribe though not ever fully one of them, am able to warn them of future events, and ultimately counsel the village elder on what the future brings. | I daydream Dances With Wolves... and that's weird. |
t3_2k86dz | tifu | TIFU by drifting uphill through a 4way on ice roads. | So this was last winter. I was on my lunch break and I decided, "hey, i'll go drifting through the industrial park because its fun as fuck and i'm awesome at drifting" (mind you I have never fucked up before , and i drift quite a bit). So here I am , coming up to the 4way. I wasn't really paying attention to my speed until i cranked my ebreak and realized i was going 70 KM(my cockyness got the best of me) , so my car drifts up the hill to the right, but the roads are too icy so I slam into the side of the curb , bending my rim and fucking up the rear axel. I drove it back to work , but it was constantly sliding my car sideways to the right. Had to get that bitch towed. | ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION WHEN YOU'RE DRIFTING. |
t3_28rr2n | tifu | TIFU by taking her for a test drive. | This actually happened yesterday, but before i tell you what actually transpired that day let me fill in the blanks first.
So Im engaged and soon to be married some time in the future. My SO and I have been living together for 3 years now and it was time to get a real house, and a new car. I choose to get a forester, my Brother in Law has one and i was talking to him about it (This will be relevant later on).
After months of "house shopping" we found the wright house for us and my Father in Law and Brother in Law offered to help us moving.
To "Surprise" my In Laws we parked to Subaru out front of the new house and waited.
Since they ware taking their time my SO and I decided to get freaky and things got heated, one thing led to another and there we ware going at it Dogie Stile in the living room.
Right in the middle of it, in walks my Brother in Law really exited shouting "So you took her out for a test drive!!" Everything went silent, and as it that wasn't enough, my Father in Law also walks in and there we are butt naked in front of my Father and a Brother In law.
Moving the rest of the stuff tomorrow is going to be awkward as hell. | I took her out for a test drive. |
t3_1s9q0s | relationships | I (M24) still haven't slept with my gf (23) who I've known for 5 months. Is this normal? | I'm a 24 year old virgin and some time ago got my first ever girlfriend. We met first about 5 months ago and have been "official" for about half of that.
She is aware of my virginity but said that she'd have preferred it if I hadn't told her (I didn't volunteer the info, she asked it outright at one point and I didn't lie).
Anyway we've been going out about once a week (as we both live busy lives) but so far she has not once come over to my place, even though I've invited her. Her place is not really an option for any "busy times" as she lives with her family in a not so big apartment.
Now she's had boyfriends before, and is not a virgin.
What I'm wondering is after how much time of knowing someone, does sex usually happen? I know of course that these things can vary wall to wall but this relationship I'm in just seems to be dragging on and on with no physical intimacy and in my view it is her who is blocking it.
I've asked some close friends of mine and they have generally thought that its normal or that I should "move on" but I really like this girl. | 5 month relationship but no sex |
t3_4eq15f | relationships | My [19F] ex-boyfriend [20M] is threatening me with legal action because I emotionally abused him | I had been in a long distance relationship with a man in Australia (I am in the US) for about a month. The relationship didn't last long because it became toxic extremely quick. Constant fighting, mental abuse from both ends, and it was all around just a terrible experience. It was turning both of us into bad people and I wanted out of it, which I made abundantly clear to him.
During our relationship we both said nasty, inhumane things to each other. In the heat of the argument I had told him to just go off himself, this has happened a couple times. I know it's extremely wrong to say stuff like that, but that's how toxic the relationship was. This brings the story to him threatening me with legal action.
Him and his family have been stalking my family, trying to find out my parents contact information and social media profiles to contact them about how bad of a person their daughter is. He has been contacting my friends, harassing them about our relationship. Both him and his dad keep harassing me, telling me how it is illegal to tell people to kill themselves and that they're going to contact the FBI or whatever. This is all extremely childish in my eyes and I'm not quite sure what to make of it.
I have tried blocking him on any form of social media, but he's constantly making new accounts or harassing my friends into speaking to me, which is just so he can threaten me with this legal action bullshit. I have made it so clear to him that I want him out of my life without these complications. I don't know where to go from here because I'm genuinely worried he might make this into a bigger mess than it needs to be. | My long distance ex boyfriend is threatening me with legal action over me telling him to go kill himself in the heat of an argument, should I be taking him seriously or just block all communication no matter what he says? |
t3_2orpzv | relationships | Me [27F] with my date [29 M] of 1 mth, do you always "finish" your texts? | Started seeing this guy recently and he is very nice.
We both seem to like each other and we are always making plans for the next date.
We haven't had the "what are we" or the proper exclusive talk yet, but he's told me that he's not seeing any other person and I trust him
So anyways..
I am finding something a bit different from the other guys I've dated and it's that he doesn't often "finish" his texts.
We will have series of texts through out the day, but he never really says "good night" or "I'm doing ..... so I will ttyl".
I don't think he hates texting. We've talked for hours over text and most of the times he texts back within 1 min if he's not occupied.
Usually, with my friends we just text each other bunch of random stuff and never really reply unless a specific question was asked and I am okay with that.
So is it just that he thinks it's not really necessary to "close/finish" conversation? as this is something he would do with his friends too?
Btw, I don't just sit around and wait for his texts and get depressed if I don't get one.
I'm fairly outgoing and open about my feelings so I act on it and I send him msgs whenever I want to talk to him.
I was just wondering why he would just time to time stop talking to me without actually saying that he's going to sleep, doing something, etc.
Should I even bring this up? or is this something normal that most guys do? | Is it normal that a guy doesn't finish/close text conversation and stops talking sometimes unless you ask him a question? |
t3_focqo | AskReddit | As I wait for my girlfriend to get out of surgery... | I am nervous as hell. Quick story
Basically I woke up from a night of mild beer drinking after my hockey game to my girlfriend in serious physical pain in her stomach. I was hung over and only had 3 hours of sleep at the time she woke up.
She is a bit of a hypochondriac but being her significant other I could tell something was up. Long story short she is having her appendix removed after almost 16 hours in either emergency or getting x-rays or what have you. It took a long time for them to come to the conclusion they have to remove it.
ANYWAYS as I digest...I realize that I have a serious issue with nervous habits. I am really really sleep deprived and very stressed as I care for her more than the world itself and I want her to make it through the surgery and I'm sure she will as it is pretty routine. However I am stressed and this stress is manifesting itself in a peculiar yet familiar way. I have now come to the conclusion that when I stress I obsessively pick at my arms. I naturally have light acne on my arms from the gym and running and playing hockey etc. No matter how much I wash its always SORT OF there. When I stress I pick at these pimples and basically what starts out as a red spot I pick at it and squeeze it until its the size of a pimple. Very weird I know.
So as I await her return from emergency I would like to ask Reddit what strange nervous ticks or habits you have? | Girlfriend is in emerg, I'm nervous, I obsessively pick at my arms in search of pimples. What about you? |
t3_rt1dc | AskReddit | Unemployment help please! Boss lays me off from my full time job, now he says he found me a part time. Unemployment hasn't even kicked in yet. What do I do? | I was laid off at my job on Monday because my boss said I didn't seem like a "long-term employee". Mind you, I have two bosses who are partners in the company. One of them knew I had applied to graduate school and had been accepted. He even wrote me a recommendation letter. My other boss was unaware of this, but was going to be told this week. They told me I could file for unemployment and they wouldn't contest it. Today, however, my boss that knew I was going to grad school called me saying that he "found me a job". One of our clients that I worked with is looking for a part-time assistant.
Should I take this position that definitely will pay less than the position I was laid off from? Should I wait until my unemployment benefits are approved before I take anything? I live in Florida if that makes a difference and I leave to grad school in 4 months. | Full time employer lays me off, then finds me a part time job with a different employer. Unemployment hasn't kicked in yet, but will in less than a week. I leave to grad school in 4 months. What should I do? |
t3_3vgzum | tifu | TIFU by eating a piece of chocolate and offending my co-worker | More TIFU from this throwaway account!
Believe it or not, this just happened about an hour ago. I work in an office with only 16 people working including me. It's a slow afternoon and everyone was just dying to go home. One of my co-workers, Bob, was walking around the office with this fancy af chocolate box and offering chocolates to everybody. I had one and took a bite. I thanked Bob and he left, handing out chocolates to the rest of the people. I turned to face Kate, my co-worker who sits behind me. I made the smartass comment, "these chocolate tastes just like the Walmart brand". She chuckled and said, "oh? And I guess in Walmart they're sold at 1/3 of the price" So I said, "yeah i guess so" and turned back around to finish my lunch.
Much later in the afternoon, other coworker, Joy, comes to us and says, "Hey Kate! The chocolates that Bob was sharing with everybody, those are from you right? How sweet of him to share it with everybody!"
Sweet baby Jesus.. I unknowingly insulted Kate's chocolates. I didn't move and just pretended that I didn't know it was from her. But it's bothering me.. I'm so sorry Kate. | insulted my co-workers chocolate in front of her face |
t3_3gay9q | tifu | TIFU by forgetting to call my dentist! (NSFW) | This is my first time posting in TIFU so please be nice ;) And obligatory this didn't happen today lol
So I was wandering through my apartment, on a Friday, and one of my upper left molars began to hurt real bad! It was around 3 o'clock, still early enough to make an appointment, so I decided I'd do it some time later since I was in the middle of my show. Suddenly, maybe around 3:30, my boyfriend came over and started massaging my shoulders. He wanted some **loving**
Enamored by his masculine presence, he seemed as muscular as Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson (Popular actor and movie star), I went with him to our bedroom. He pulled down his pants, "Gadzooks!" I exclaimed, knowing it would just make him harder. As we bonded, his antenna probing through my flower, minutes seemed to turn to seconds. I soon realized that I was about to finish, and I began to squirt all over the place, so much that it even surprised me, whose nickname in high school was "Squirty Mcgee". I was letting forth the Red Sea, and his member was Moses, splitting the waters and leading the semen-people to the promised uterus.
By the time it was all over, I realized it was 5:10, and my dentist stops working at 5:00. Yowza! | I got distracted and now I won't be able to call my dentist until Monday! |
t3_10py0v | relationships | How do I [23f] stay happy in the absence of my husband [24m]? | My husband and I have been together since we were 15 and 16, and we've been married for a little over a year. We have so much fun together and spend almost every moment of the day together, besides the hours when we're at school. We're each other's best friend and are basically attached at the hip. I know many people consider this to be unhealthy, but to me, I'm so happy to spend most of my time with him, and I know the feeling is mutual.
The problem with this is that when he's away for long periods of time, I tend to get really blue. I suffered from depression when I was in college, and so I know the familiar feelings that come with such a state - dullness, lack of motivation, sad thoughts, paralyzing anxiety, etc. I've noticed that when he has long days and I'm at home alone, I miss him terribly and sink into old symptoms of depression. I tend to fixate on negative thoughts, become very unproductive, fall behind in schoolwork, and dwell on my anxiety.
He'll be gone for about a week next month for a conference. This will be the longest time we've been apart since getting married, and I really don't want to be spending the entire time sulking, being sad, eating unhealthy food, and generally being a big Debbie Downer. He's in academia, so there will be many more conferences and trips in his future. How can I become a more positive person and enjoy myself more in his absence? I'm in vet school, so I'm in classes from 7-5 and have to study in all of my free time, which gives me very little opportunity for hobbies and going out. | Husband is out of town for a week next month. How do I stay positive in his absence? |
t3_336ikf | relationships | How can I[18m] accept my ex [18f] as a FWB when I actually want to be with her? | We were together for about 8 months until last September. Now since the new year, we've practically become best friends. Despite being best friends, we were quite mean to each other for these past few months. I told that we should be nicer to each other for the sake of civility, and she agreed.
She's says she was being mean to avoid developing feelings for me again. I was just reciprocating what she did. I won't lie, throughout us knowing each other I've been much meaner to her than she has to me. When we discussed being nicer to each, the topic of getting back together popped up. She's said she needs time to think about it. This was a week ago. Friday we shared a kiss. Yesterday I asked her if she were closer to being together again, and she said maybe, but she's afraid of commitment because were both about to go to college. Yet she still says we can be "intimate friends," as in friends with benefits.
Now she's going on a date with someone else. I don't know how to reconcile my want to be with her with us being best friends and her talking to other people. It's like having what I want right in front of me, but not being able to reach it because I really want to give our relationship a second try. | how can I accept my ex-gf who I still want to be with as a FWB? |
t3_31idne | Advice | Everyone in My Family Is Concerned for My Little Sister but No One Knows How to Approach Her | My younger sister (17) and I haven't spoken to each other for about 2 years. Recently, she's been causing some trouble for my family to the point where most people are fed up with her.
She regularly bullies my other sister (11) by saying things like, "Dad doesn't even want you here; I hope Mom gets custody of you."
Though she has a job, she continuously tries to manipulate our Aunts and parents into giving her money and everyone in the family is working hard to save money to help our sick grandparents and has little money to spend on anything else.
Lately, she's been going through a phase where she believes that she's mature for her age. This has led to her ceasing all socialization in her high school and hanging out with an older crowd. She has begun to see a 21 year old (she *just* turned 17) and though they've known each other for less than a week, she invited him over to our mom's house tonight, where she's supposed to be dog-sitting.
Our mom is out of town for the week, and my sister is on spring break, so she has the house all to herself until our mom gets back. This guy she invited us over has already lied to her (though she doesn't believe us) by saying that he's an intern for one of the Marvel offices in the area (there are none). He's also be sending her lewd messages and like I said, they've known each other for less than a week and he's at my mom's house with her.
I want to help her be more considerate of other people and let her know that this person she's seeing seems sleazy but I don't know where to start. Her behavior has made her difficult to tolerate within the family and around her school and she's had a history of sleazy boyfriends. My parents don't know how to communicate with her, my Aunts don't want to make it seem like we're questioning her maturity (in fear of her doing bolder things to try to prove herself), and she just thinks I'm her loser brother in community college (don't argue this. I promise you, she thinks very little of me). | My little sister is treating our family poorly and is in what seems like a sketchy relationship. |
t3_2pgzkq | offmychest | I'm starting to think more and more that I choose a field that I'm terrible at... | I just recently graduated in Computer Engineering and just today got two rejection emails from seemingly wonderful job offers. This isn't uncommon for me since I first started trying to get internships and scholarship opportunities. Most of them I was rejected and settled with more mediocre opportunities. My first internship, not only was it very low pay and what-not compared to the others (in Brazil, Tech field internships are ALWAYS paid jobs, even if not much), but I was also laid off of it. Although they said it wasn't because of the quality of my work, but because they were getting rid of the position I held, I cannot help but feel it wouldn't have happened if I were actually better at it...
I wasn't a bad student while I was at school, but wasn't necessarily a great student either. Most of my grades were just enough to get me through, and I managed to graduate at the right time. However, even with that, whenever it comes time to applying to jobs or even working on my own. Everyone seems to know stuff about everything that I never heard of. I have no idea where they get this knowledge from! I try to study things, I try to participate in the field's forums, but I still always feel so far behind... I go to places such as /r/programming, /r/gamedev, etc, everyone knows so much! Everyone builds awesome software, apps, games, sites on their own, and here I am just scratching my head trying to figure things out. I observe the discussions they have in forums like those and I can't even keep up!
As a matter of fact, I find it a task to read up stuff on the field, while I can spend hours and hours reading on other topics such as psychology, health and nutrition, social/political issues, etc. Hell... I can have awesome long discussions on those topics and many more, but I can't really on anything in my own field! The more I think about the more I feel I am just trapped in the wrong field and I am doomed to a mediocre job for the rest of my life. | just graduated, everything indicates that I suck at my field |
t3_30iie1 | relationships | 20 F, sophomore in college. I feel guilty for being mean to mean people, is it normal? | I'm shy and introverted with social anxiety. I was a loner in my freshman year and now I have one friend who is also my best friend and I'm with her all the time. There are many mean girls in my class who have their own cliques. They're usually mean to everyone. Previously I used to take their bullying and comments quietly and pretend like I didn't hear them. I was called fat several times, out of context, for no reason, but I never said anything back. I have been running and lifting for the past few weeks and my confidence has increased relatively. Today when I was getting some veg from the common refrigerator in my dorm, one of these mean girls tried to block my way on purpose(she did this a few times before too). I stood my ground and said, 'Do you mind?' and made my way around her. She shot me an angry look and walked away, but I have been feeling guilty like I've been too mean to her or something. What is going on? | Should I feel guilty for being mean to mean people? |
t3_4knng9 | personalfinance | My previous employer underpaid me (F18) and a coworker (F18) - looking for advice | Hey reddit!
Myself and my coworker have been underpaid by about half for working through December - January. We have been trying to get the money back since January and have been having no luck. We work as cleaners in a school and the afformented company was replaced with a new company (who we now work for.)
They've been very slippery and we've had to go through numerous people to even get in contact with anyone who could help. We have now finally gotten someone's contact details who could help only to be told that they have thrown out the time sheets so have no record that they owed us money.
Not sure what our next step should be! Or if throwing out that kind of information is even legal?
Anyway please help reddit! | underpaid & employer doing everything possible to not pay |
t3_102igq | AskReddit | Cheated on girlfriend, she says her life is ruined. I'm numb, what do I do? | Hey reddit, first post here, I cheated on my last girlfriend (long distance) by asking other girls over fb and skype to send me.. pictures. I never kissed or touched or actually physically did anything with anyone else in person besides my girlfriend. But digitally, i really screwed things up. She is telling me she feels violated, used, broken, and that she hates herself. and me. She says she doesn't want to live anymore and I'm scared It IS my fault, i just don't know what to do, should i suggest therapy? Because i feel that i can't fix this.. | cheated on last girlfriend, |
t3_28sugv | relationships | I [M/22] want to stop developing feelings towards friend [F/25] | Known each other for 2 months, and we clicked pretty well. we're both coworkers and we both gotten out of a relationship last year. We're having a lot of fun just being each other friends and just hang any chance we get.
I want it to stay that way, my last two girlfriends cheated on me and left a pretty sour taste. Shes just left a 8 year long one.
I've told her that I want to single and shes told me the same.
My problem is coming from that I'm starting to think about her in a girlfriend kind of way, and I'm afraid that it'll change the way our relationship is. It's perfect the way it is is now, and I don't want to ruin it.
How do I stop myself from these developing feelings. | Starting to develop feelings towards friend, and relationship is better as best friends. |
t3_3d4dwv | loseit | Starting Over, and "Couples" Weight Loss | Hey all,
I'm writing this because I had a big breakdown last night. Since October 2013, I lost over 70 pounds through just calorie counting and self-control. In April 2014, I stopped counting/planning temporarily because I had plateaued really hard, was graduating school, moving, starting to plan my wedding, just a bunch of other stress. I was happy with the 60 or so pounds I had lost (which put me at about 255 lbs at 5' 7", female).
I planned to start again once I got settled in my new place, and I sort of did, but it was never the same. I live with my fiance (now husband), and it was suddenly harder. I used to eat a lot of Subway, Qdoba, "junk food", as long as it fit within my calorie goals. Now I feel like we should be making "real food", cooking recipes, etc. But that seems to make calorie counting much more difficult, and I have issues with perfectionism, so I just...give up.
My husband is very supportive, and he wants to do this with me - he would like to lose some weight too. But I've got about 100 pounds to go until a "healthy" weight, and it just feels so daunting. 70 pounds wasn't enough... I need to do it all again, except it feels like somehow the knob got cranked from "easy" mode to "super difficult", and I don't know how to do it anymore.
I guess I'm just really demoralized, and I want to start over. Maybe I just need to write this to get it all out there, and to wipe the slate clean. Maybe it'll help.
Any tips about healthy cooking (WITH calorie counting), doing weight loss as a couple, or ways to "treat" a SO without that treat being food are very, very appreciated. "Tough love" is not as appreciated, because I'm already being really, really hard on myself, and I've been having a really difficult time. | Venting about "break" from weight loss, 100 more pounds to go. Advice wanted about recipes and calorie counting, and losing weight alongside your SO. |
t3_2eocqk | dating_advice | Hosting twins birthday: need help for funny cake caption | I am hosting a birthday party for my boyfriend and his twin brother. I have plans to have a cake made with a picture on it from their childhood. They are wearing these cute pink overalls. I also tease my boyfriend about the picture.
I need your help with a caption I can have written on the cake. Unfortunately I can't post the picture. But it is just ~4 year old twin boys standing up in pink overalls.
I am thinking to have a caption relating to the word pink, or being cute, or being twins or something.
Thank you! | need funny caption for picture of twin boys in pink overalls. HELP! |
t3_ptcyt | books | I don't really read that often, but I made it my new years resolution to do that. So, I thought I'd share how I felt about a book I just finished... | I've never read much, never really been a fan. I've read some classics, "things fall apart", "the sun also rises", "to kill a mockingbird", "the name of the rose"... But I mean, i'm no "reader" by a long shot.
So I promised I would read this year. My first book was called "in the long run", an autobiography of the only American to ever win the Gold in the Olympic 5000M Run (i'm a runner, so I found it interesting.)
My second book was recommended to me by a friend and loaned to me by another, "Looking For Alaska".
I tore through it in two days, I could not put it down. The book was so amazing from the beginning. [Spoiler](/s "I couldn't stop laughing and laughing at the jokes in the Novel and could not help but fall in love with Alaska. He wrote it in such a way that we could all make something our of her. Therefore when she was so swiftly taken away from me I cried. And i'm not one to just fucking cry. But I cried. It hurt to lose her. Reading the next 75 pages just made me sad. And then reading Takumi's letter at the end just left me feeling crushed. You had to just feel horrible for the colonel, pudge, takumi, and Tara. I mean really, just awful. Even with Pudge's great revelation at the end, it still just left me feeling hollow and sad.") You almost wish the book had a part two where they come back for senior year. But, that is not the case.
I don't really know what i'm getting at. But I was just really moved by this book. I think it was a great start to following through on my new years resolution. I plan on reading Sagan's "The Pale Blue Dot" or "Cosmos" next. Then...i'm going to read the Harry Potter's...I think it's time.
Would love some suggestions from any of y'all.
Thanks for hearing me out.
:D | Looking For Alaska was just a stunning book. Read it in two days (and i'm not a "reader" by any sense of the word.) If you have a chance, go read it. You will simply not regret your decision. |
t3_12q07j | relationships | How do I stop liking him? | Me: 22F him: 23 or 24 (no real relationship, known each other for 2 months)
So there's this guy in my program at school, it seems like we have a lot in common. We both love musicals, video games, stupid t.v. (he owns dvds of robot chicken!) and good t.v., we seem to like the same movies (both wanting to go to the midnight release of the hobbit). He reads, he's motivated, he's handsome, he seems to care about things, is nerdy, and socially competent. All I can think about is wanting to kiss him, fuck him, date him, take him home to meet my family (I'm usually ashamed of the guys I think of dating). We both like beer and drinking games, whiskey more than scotch (I hope he doesn't reddit at 3:00am). He's showed me how to play some new video games, and told me I was actually decent (for a beginner my ex never had). I don't want to go on a tangent or anything but so far there's maybe one or two things I haven't felt the same way as he has on.
I haven't felt this way about a guy in over 2 years, when me and my last long term boyfriend began to date. However, we're going to be in the same classes for the next two years so if it goes south we're screwed. I doubt he'd like me or even how I'd get to that point. Lately I've had butterflies my whole way driving to school (all 30 minutes), my heart races when I think of him, I just can't handle it, I don't like this out of control feeling and wish I could like someone else (safer and less breakup drawbacks or mutual friends watching). I haven't really met many guys this past couple of months and am thinking I may only like him because of that. It doesn't feel safe, or that it would end well, how do I move past this, or deal with it? I feel like a middle schooler all over again, not cool. | scared to like a guy because it could get complicated, tips to deal or move past or help me think straight about it would be great. |
t3_3tr2cu | relationships | Me [23M] with my girlfriend [23F] afraid of losing her. | Hey guys!
Me and my girlfriend have been together since December last year, I've been in love before but she hasn't, our relationship was great, healthy and full of love, we spent around 80% of our time together and had an electric relationship, but things have changed.
I recently came back from being abroad for three months, we have spoke everyday but now we don't feel the same love for each other and think we're both clinging on to what we once had a little bit, we both still love each other for sure, but when we first saw each other, it wasn't like in the movies... It felt so surreal for both of us, we'll be staying together the whole of next week but I have this ball of anxiety in my stomach. | Long distance pulled us apart, both hope we can rekindle it but feel different. Although we still have feelings for each other. |
t3_17a3ci | tifu | TIFU by getting arrested for walking into my friend's house | So i'll start off by saying that I had been drinking all day and was shit-hammered. My friend, who is a big Marine dude, gets arrested for drunkenly threatening a girl with a knife. After he was subdued by the cops, I decide to go drink more down the street. I was drinking a beer while I was walking (which is illegal in Maryland) and drunkenly stumbled upon a cop giving a girl a citation. He sees me and gives my drunk ass a citation as well. I end up going back to that girl's house and drink more and be merry. After about an hour, I completely forget that I had just gotten a citation and decided to walk back to my house...while drinking another beer. Now, between my house and the girl's house is my Marine friend's house that I used to live at and frequently go to. As I am walking past that house, I notice a cop had just driven by and was turning around. So, to avoid getting another citation, I speed walk into my friend's house. I think that I am home free, when these two cops come bursting through the door after me. They make me come outside and asked if I lived there (which they knew I didn't because I had already given one of the cops my address an hour ago). They then ask if I have permission to be there, and rather than just saying "yes" like any normal fucktard would do, I drunkenly respond with "well, it's not like i have written fuckin permission and shit". They promptly arrested my ass then and there. There was no one at the house because my marine friend was arrested and the other three were out somewhere (I couldn't call them because I didn't have a phone at the time). I sat in jail for 3 days before my $25,000 bail was posted. I got charged with Burglary 4th, disorderly conduct, and another open container citation. The only decent part of that night was that I got to share a cell with my marine friend, the other people in there had a field day with our stupid arrest story.
I fucked up. | I got arrested because i walked into my friend's house to avoid getting a second open container, only to get it anyway along a with burglary charge. |
t3_3595gq | tifu | TIFU by trying to cheat on my final | I had a thermodynamics 2 final yesterday. The test was oddly formatted, as we submitted our written work but then submitted the answers online afterwards using an access code that was given on the test. The professor told us if the answers submitted online were correct he wouldn't even look at our work, but if they were wrong he would go through it for partial credit.
I knew I fucked up on a bunch of problems on my written work, so me thinking I was a smart son of a bitch decided to rework the problems at home (there were only 6 problems, I remembered what they were) before submitting.
Feeling confident that I had duped the system I submitted my changed answers online. Low and behold today the grades went up and I had received a zero on the final and an F in the class. An email from the professor was sent out saying the scores were up and that if you had asterisks next to your name it was because your written portion did not match your online submission, and he would like to hear the whole truth from the students who fit this description.
I am currently waiting to hear back from my professor as I emailed him right away requesting to speak with him. At best he has mercy and passes me with a D (highly unlikely) and at worst I receive an F and will be reporting to my schools judicial affairs. FML. | tried to cheat, got caught, waiting for pending doom. |
t3_2v3lhc | relationships | Me (m/22) with possible serious girlfriend (24/f). She has issues with PDA and I don't want it to be a problem between us. | Maybe a little odd, but me and my friend are heading for a relationship. We both are serious about it and have talked at length about what we want in terms of a relationship. She is away until summer, but after that, if all goes to plan, we will be getting serious when she comes home.
We've talked a lot about past relationships and an issue for her has always been her privacy. She doesn't like PDA at all. That includes holding hands or anything remotely couple-y. Yet she is the most caring and sweet person when we are alone.
In the past, her ex partners have had serious problems with her privacy, saying that they feel like she is ashamed to be with them, and that she doesn't want anyone to know about them.
I understand her need for privacy, and I completely respect that. But I love holding hands and being proud of my partner. I don't want to be kissing in public and generally be all over each other, I just want to show the world I am proud to be with this amazing girl. So I am worried.
I don't want to be like her ex boyfriends. I don't want to feel the same way about her being ashamed to be with me.
I'm looking for advice from anyone who has a similar situation. Do you have a SO with this same mentality, and how do you get past them not wanting anyone to see your relationship? | I really like my soon to be girlfriend, but I'm scared I'll mess things up by feeling like I'm unwanted, just like her ex's. |
t3_1pus8b | relationships | Roommates F(21)F(22)M(21)M(23) having complications with sexual experimentation | Hello reddit, we are in our 20's , 2 males 2 females all renting a house together and have been friends for about 3 or 4 years. we are all very close and one night we all took molly or pure MDMA....
Eventually the conversation took a turn and the idea of a closed-group-swingers to which everybody is very accepting and 100% backing but noted that we are still rolling fairly well.
The morning comes and between a 1 on 1 with both male friends and its established that he believes it might have gone too far and even retracting the offer that the closed group swinging might not be a good idea any longer but then even goes as far as to retract the offer that both girls can explore their bisexuality without any problems which is strange because it had been discussed some time ago that it wouldn't be a problem.
The two girls and other male who may not specifically be included are 100 percent OK with everything that might happen and understand the maturity requirements to separate love and lust to not endanger our friendships, we even have set boundaries like if jealousy or issues arise even in small doses it is to be ended immediately.
What do we do? Is there a way to convince him without feeling pressured or bruising his ego? Should we let it go? | we dropped molly and one roomie suggested threesome and is now NOT ok and revoking the idea even though we all are highly interested now. |
t3_y6n63 | relationships | I [21/f] think the person I've sleeping with [22/m] for a couple weeks might have a GF. How do I find out? | I've been hooking up with this guy for a couple of weeks. We see each other every few days, have great sex, hang out a little, then part ways. A picture of him with a beautiful woman from an hour ago just popped up on my newsfeed. All of the comments were about how beautiful they were together. I finally looked through his other photos (I've been trying to break my fb-stalking habit) and realize he has a bunch of other photos with her, all of them with they two of them wrapped around each other.
His FB status says he's single. I can't ask our mutual friends because, as he and I work together, we've kept this secret. He's never mentioned anything and the fling has been mutual. I want to get an answer, but what's the best way to do it?
:: | The guy I've been sleeping with for a couple weeks might have a GF. How do I ask?:: |
t3_3grtq2 | relationships | Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [32 F] for 2 months, she has a crazy ex and I want to know how I can help. | I started seeing her about 2 months ago. She was married at a young age and has 2 daughters with her ex. They have been separated for close to 2yrs now.
We live in a very small community so it is really easy to bump into people. I have only seen him once and that was before she started seeing me.
She was able to get a restraining order against him. He verbally attacked her in public a few months ago and she has a business and reputation to protect. It was actually all processed about 2 weeks ago.
I heard from her recently that he has gone to her work looking for her and insulting her to her co-workers. She was out at the time but received a call from a co-worker warning her about the situation.
He showed pictures of us together to people, trying to shame her, which makes her think he has been following us.
She has called the police since and is planned to go to court tomorrow to report this and see what they can do.
I'm trying my best to stay out of it because I feel with kids involved I should back off... but this guy is really starting to piss me off. She hasn't asked me for help or anything but she is keeping me informed. I don't like seeing her stressed like this.
This last call I got about him going to her work is really bothering me. I don't know if because she wasn't there that he didn't break the restraining order or not. I'm just wondering how I can be more supportive for her.
She hasn't dated anyone after her breakup with him so I have a feeling that all this is happening because she is seeing me now.
Anyone who has been in a similar situation or has some advice to give me that would be great. | I date girl. Girl has restraining order against her Ex. He went to her work while she was out and showed pictures of us to her co-workers and insulted her. Police are aware of the situation. How can I help her? |
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