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t3_1xmwi3 | offmychest | My cousin is fucking disgusting. | Hey reddit I can't really tell anyone else this, so here goes.
So I was cleaning my room out of sheer boredom, when I made a horrifying discovery. Hidden under some of my Xbox accessories, I found a pair of underpants. They looked like my sleeping shorts, so I assumed my cat knocked them there. WTF, brain? So I pick them up and they are covered (fucking covered) in shit. Oh shit, did I hide these when I was high? I wish that was the case. Then I noticed, THESE ARE NOT FUCKING MINE. They are my cousin's. And the worst part, he's never done drugs or drank. SO HE HID THEM WHEN HE WAS SOBER. I'm so pissed. | My cousin is a shitty person. |
t3_2egbfq | relationship_advice | I [f/23] want a FWB situation with M[26], but not sure how to go about it... | I've known Alex for a couple years through friends. One of my good friends, Mike, used to live with him and they both work at a bar that my friends all go to fairly often. He's a really nice, fun guy, but he's also really hot and can get most girls he wants. When Mike lived with him, he said Alex would usually have a couple different girls in every week, then out the next morning.
I slept with him last week after bumping into him on a night out. I was out with my friend George, who knows him better than I do, and he'd randomly mentioned Mike in conversation and I told him he was really hot and I couldn't care less if he was a man slut, I'd still tap it. Later we went to a club and saw him unexpectedly and George told me that Alex asked if I was single, blah blah blah. Skip to an hour later, we're having sex in his flat.
I don't want a boyfriend at all. I've just come out of a relationship and I don't want anything even remotely exclusive or committed. I'm going abroad for a year in a couple months anyway. I genuinely just want to have occasional sex with this guy, because he's really hot and a lot of fun. The problem is I know he can get laid just by looking at a girl, and I worry that if I suggested a FWB situation he'd think I was desperate and trying to sneakily make him my boyfriend. He told me I was great fun to hang out with, and I've seen him since we slept together and it was brief but not at all awkward. We know a lot of the same people though, and if I asked to be FWB and he said no, and it got out, I'd be mortified.
What do you reckon /r/relationship_advice ? Should I be upfront, or just hope for the best next time I see him? Or just chalk it up as a win, self-high-five and let it go? | Banged a really hot guy last week, want to be FWB but fearing rejection because this guy has super-panty-dropping-powers. |
t3_3rl4oh | relationships | Male Friend [27] problems | I am a female and have a male best friend whom I met online. We've been talking for about two years daily. He's a very lonely person who always complains about it, but then reacts negatively when told to 'go out to meet people'. He thinks people should just accept him for who he is, which I agree, but he lacks desires for anything. He games a lot, but casually. If he's a hardcore gamer that might be better because that shows passion in something! So he spends his time trying to find girls online but most reject him. Those who offer constructive criticism he can't accept, he'd turn around and gets really annoyed. He's got no life at all, and that's very unattractive. So I'm his only source for female attention. Lately he's been asking me to send him gifts. Days earlier I told him I'm dating someone. Now he's ignoring my message. I believe when he talks he will tell me that I've offended him somehow by showing happiness while he's lonely and bitter. Should I ditch this guy? to consider I've been thinking for the longest time that this is a bit unhealthy, talking online non-stop as if we're together but with him constantly trolling dating sites to find female friends. Am I right in thinking that this guy wants a lot of female friends for their attention? | Long term male best friend acting very negatively because I'm probably his only female attention giver. Won't talk now because I'm dating someone else. He's not in love with me because he's constantly on dating websites. Ditch him? |
t3_xaaya | AskReddit | Account recently got "disabled" on instagram and now Apple wants me to pay $60 to "Fix" the problem. Reddit, how have people/companies tried to get you to pay for a free service? | OK so here's the story. I had gotten an Instagram account when I had bought an iPhone a couple of months ago. After a few months of using it my Instagram account had gotten disabled for some reason. I had tried emailing support on their website but to no avail. All I got was an automated email response. I had decided that I could live without an instagram account. A few days ago I had tried to get back into using instagram by making a new account but was denied saying that my account that I had been disabled, before I even made it. Apparently my iPhone was disabled from using instagram somehow. I called apple to see if they could fix the problem and they said they could. All I had to do was pay $60 for a month of Tech support that would "fix" my problem. When I had told the guy that it was stupid because instagram is free he told me "It's actually not stupid because tech support will also protect your device from virus' and hackers." | Instagram account got disabled for some reason unknown to me. Can't make any new accounts. Apple wants me to pay $60 for a month of tech support to fix the problem |
t3_2x7gfn | needadvice | After years of hard work, Ive got everything I've ever wanted. But I still feel empty. | I dont really know what to say, it's such a first world problem. I've seriously got my dream job right now and it's the fucking best. I worked my ass off to get this job and to get to this point in my life. I worked my fucking ass off and the job is fucking awesome.
On top of that, I live rent free in the most amazing place. I worked my ass off to get this place too. like seriously harder than I have ever worked for anything.
And yet, I'm still unhappy.
I love my job so much that when I get home, I just can't wait to go to work. I have 7 hours of free time before bed and I just end up sitting there doing nothing. Everything I've ever done as a hobby before, everything I ever did in my spare time before, is now being fulfilled by my current job
but yet, I have still have to endure 7 hours of solitude doing nothing because I can only handle so much fun.
So It's really fucking weird to complain about. And how the fuck is anyone going to be able to relate to that? I just feel so goddamn lonely about that.
And then on top of all that, i dont know where I am with my life relationship-wise. I'm 24. I've slept with so many women, and im pretty sure im a sex-addict. I've just been chasing the same feeling of love that I had with my first highschool sweetheart girlfriend. Everything since then has been unfufilling.
So I've tried online dating, but theres clearly a systemic problem in my relationships that I need to address.
Look, I don't know what I'm doing by writing here. I just need to get this off my chest. I've got seriously everything I've ever wanted, but somehow I've got nothing. Please help me. | I worked my ass off to get my dream life, but now I feel like something's missing and I feel very alone because my problems sound so mundane..... |
t3_3mcfdx | relationships | Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] 4 months, sexual incompatibility? | I want to start by saying everything in our relationship is fine, except for sex. Not that the sex is bad, I just don't know if we are compatible.
The last time we had sex I ended up with a vaginal fissure. I had to tell him because we can't have sex while it heals. He is not a well endowed guy, he is just average sized. The issue seems to be I do not produce enough natural lubrication and we didn't use enough synthetic lube. After finding out he was upset with me because I didn't tell him that I was in pain while we were having sex. He tends to be off in his own world while we are having sex and doesn't respond to me when I talk to him or tell him that he is hurting me.
His preference would be for me to be on top, but he is a bigger guy so I can't get comfortable and it ends up hurting my hip (I understand that I could make the effort to stretch out my hip to alleviate the problem so I am working on it).
The other issue I seem to be having is that once he finishes we are done. I have told him before that I have never been able to orgasm through intercourse so it would likely take some extra effort. I'm not saying that he just rolls over and goes to sleep, but after he is done he just wants to cuddle. I know that he is inexperienced (I am only his second partner), but I feel like he doesn't care about my satisfaction.
My question is, is this something that we can talk through and work out or am I just delaying the inevitable? | Sex injury and maybe incompatibility, is it fixable? |
t3_1zd3ny | relationships | Me [21 M] in need of an objective view of a situation with a girl [22 F] | Hello, reddit user. Sorry to resort to asking romance questions online, but I have gotten to the point where I am too emotionally invested in the situation to have an objective view. Here is my situation, in brief:
Studied abroad, met a girl. Was with her for three weeks (before we were separated by returning to our schools. Both American- just different states)
Never kissed her, but we were inseparable. 99% sure she did like me very very much (indicated by her friends) but was really shy. I am also shy and couldnt balls up to make a move.
Now we are apart (10 hours distance), but have been messaging on facebook nearly every day for the past month.
However, I have noticed that she has started replying a bit more slowly to me. At first it was pretty routine: she would reply one day, then I would reply the next, and so on. Now I will see that she posts statuses (thus has been online and seen my message), and wont respond for a day or two later.
Does this mean she is losing interest? OR am I just being to analytical?
Additional information: She is a college senior, graduating in may. I am a junior. There is a possibility that we could end up close to each other this summer (by complete coincidence actually, as I live every summer in Fort Collins, CO and she happened to apply for jobs in a number of places including Denver about an hour away). | met a girl studying abroad, had an insane connection but had to part ways after our terms ended, have been facebook messaging for a month but confused as to how she feels |
t3_2qdugn | relationships | Me [22 F] with my bf [26 M] of 6 mo, he doesn't call/text when he's back home | So far everything has been good. He works in a different city and I go to school in another state. We've been dating for 6 months, and 3 of them are long distance. The long distance part was really rough for me at the start. We had our fights and ups and downs. But we were able to resolve the problems eventually (sort of). Still, sometimes it feels like we are just trying to survive the long distance until I finish school.
One thing I still struggle to understand is how his behavior completely changes when he goes back home in another city. He says his home life is complicated and his parents are always around. He doesn't like calling me when others are present, especially his parents. And he apologizes ahead of time when he goes back, warning me that he won't be able to call/text.
However, that just doesn't feel right to me. Regardless how busy my day is, if I wanna call, I'll make time to call. Even if that means going outside of the house or just honestly let my parents know that I'll need some privacy. When I mention it, he gets all defensive and say that he'll not put me as a priority when he's around family. Seriously? I'm not asking him to always respond or not pay attention to his family at all. Just make time for a 5 min phone call? Plus his parents know about me and seems to like that he has a gf now.
We talked about this before and he said he'll put in more effort. But still, yesterday, christmas eve, no calls/texts for 2 days. Only an email saying that he won't have time to call. But he does have time to post on reddit during his home visit.
Am I being unreasonable with my expectation? Am I too clingy/thinking too much about this? | Boyfriend does not call when he's back in his parents' house. |
t3_38r83k | relationships | Me [28 F] with my boyfriend [28M] of 8 years won't let me go on his group vacation. | Throwaway in case my bf browses r/relationships. So my boyfriend of several years bought a plane ticket for a "guy trip" across the country on a once in a lifetime kind of trip and he is splitting a condo with everyone going. He says I am not allowed to attend because it's a "guy trip". I would be totally fine with it except that of the 6 people going, 2 are girls. (One single girl and one guy's girlfriend.)
When I found out other girls were going, I said I would really love to go--this place is on my bucket list. I have the time to go and my own means for a plane ticket. He still says I am not allowed to come because he wants to hang out with the guys and he thinks I will "throw off the dynamic".
I have been pretty down about this. I really wanted to go to this place, and ideally I would have loved to experience it with him. I know almost everybody else going on the trip except the single female; the single chick only knows one person going and the other girl knows only her bf and my bf. I have expressed that I feel left out, crushed because I feel like he is embarrassed by me, and just upset because I feel like many of his future vacations won't be involving me.
If I am totally honest, I feel uncomfortable about this trip because a few months ago he went on vacation to the same state...he met a girl at a bar and hung out with her until 8am...supposedly did not cheat on me just stayed and talked at a 24 hr coffee shop...and the girl made a scene when he finally mentioned me. As I type this I feel like I have other unresolved relationship/trust issues. :( ANYWAY, am I crazy to be upset by not being invited? Would you be upset if your SO told he didn't want you there on a group vacation? Thanks for listening. | BF says he doesn't want me to go on his guy trip with his 3 bros except 2 girls are allowed to come. |
t3_mfc5q | AskReddit | Now we have reached the trees, the beautiful trees. | Okay, I've had vision problems since I was three years old, not uncommon, but still. I have seen the same optometrist since then, in all that time the tests have remained the same, I am now twenty three years old, for close to twenty years I have been reading the same line for the short sight test.
"Now we have reached the trees, the beautiful trees."
I hate it with every atom, this one fucking phrase, I'm never going to forget it. It may be that it's usually followed by painful eye drops, bad memory linking or something, but it doesn't matter, I still loathe this one sentence. | actual question: What is something that is so mundane that other people would just pass it off, but drives you fucking mental? |
t3_1a4wyg | relationships | I F(33) don't know what to do about my alcoholic BF M(35) | I F(33) have been with my BF "Sam" M(35) for about 15 months, and have been living with him for about 5 months. I have known for most of our relationship that he had an issue with drinking, but it didn't become bad until a few months ago, when he'd come home from work every night very drunk and start fights with me.
While he has never laid his hands on me, and I don't think that he would, he does get in my face and scream at me. I'm actually surprised that the neighbors don't call the cops. Now, like most a users, he's not like this all the time. Of course, when he's sober, he can be the greatest boyfriend ever.
I understand completely that what he is doing is abuse. I know that I have to leave. My problem is that I was injured at work in October. I have been out of work since then, and am receiving workers compensation benefits, but not much. About $350 every two weeks.
Therein lies the problem. I can't possibly afford to move out on $700 per month. I have no family or friends who would be able to take me in, even for a short time. I don't know what to do. And I'm seriously disabled. I can barely get around even with the help of my cane. It's difficult for me to do basic things for myself. So, my lovely friends here, what do I do? I'm not even sure that I'll get and answer, but I could use some people to be able to talk to openly about this. | I,F(33), am stuck in an abusive relationship with an alcoholic M(35). Not sure if I have any options besides a shelter. Help please! |
t3_rk5u7 | offmychest | Bastard | It's tit for tat.
You abused me, emotionally, physically, and sexually. You tried to pass the blame off on me. You accuse 13 year old me of MOLESTING 45 year old, ex marine you, just to pass off the guilt. You successfully got my mom to choose you over me. You made my life a living hell the second you got involved with it when I turned 5.
I only come to my moms because I've worn my welcome elsewhere. Don't talk to me. Don't try to get my attention. Don't start a conversation. Don't offer me gifts. Don't call my friends nick names. And don't expect for a second I will treat you with any semblance of respect whatsoever.
You are a vile human being and I will feel nothing but joy the day you drink yourself to death. | I'm not accepting the car. I'd rather walk. You can't buy back my respect. Bastard. |
t3_359txs | tifu | TIFU by not enjoying taking selfies | So another post just reminded me of this..
Once, my girlfriend wanted to take a selfie with me in the mirror. Me hating pictures being taken, but also appreciating that relationships are all about compromise, I agreed under the rule that I hide behind the curtain pretending to be a ghost of some sort. It didn't look anywhere near as convincing as I hoped, but it was funny and we laughed about it.
Anyway, a few days later, after posting it on Facebook and pretending we didn't know I was behind the curtain, her mother (who is REALLY superstitious) rang her up and expressed her deep concern with the ghost behind the curtain, and then went on to tell us how she showed her neighbor, who phoned the local newspaper and now they want to come and report an article on our ghost in the house.
Here's the pic: | Accidently haunted my girlfriend's house |
t3_2ts2ax | tifu | TIFU by looking like a demon super hero yeti zombie while walking to school. | **So if you don't know already. Many major cities in eastern north america are experiencing blizzards.**
I am in highschool and I am in the middle of my exams for my first semester. It takes me about half an hour to get to my school so when its really cold out I just take the city bus. Basically its been snowing since the middle of the night at this point and its around 7:30 AM so there is a lot of snow on the ground. Usually when its snowing its cold but not THAT cold if you know what I mean. But no. Its freaking freezing because its heavy snow+wind like there's no tomorrow. So I go to the bus stop and wait for the bus. That usually comes at 7:40 AM so I'm waiting. I am freezing and just want to go and do my exam then go home. Then 10 minutes pass and I'm growing inpatient. I basically say "fuck this, I'm not being late" so I go and begin walking. After 2 minutes of walking. The bus passes by. At this point I am pissed off. The wind is going right in my face and my nose is freezing. I have to cover my glove with my nose. I then think that maybe I could catch the bus at the next stop. It had to stop there for a bit anyways. So I am just about to get there and the bus leaves. I am even more pissed off. Now the wind is going directly in my face and I am basically muttering profanity. My sock is coming off from inside my boot and now my bare skin is scraping against the back of my boot. My foot begins bleeding. Now I limp. All of a sudden my jacket zipper gets messed up and most of it gets undone except for the top so it looks like a cape. So I am covering in snow, my face is bright red, I am basically wearing a cape and I am limping. I finally get to the school and it looks like I just came back from being apart of The Day After Tomorrow. I get to my exam and everyone just stares at me. I explain and my teacher even offers to get my hot chocolate. I finished my exam and took the bus home. | missed the bus and turned into a demon. |
t3_1xc49w | relationships | My [22f] boyfriend [19m] of 8 months is jealous of a crush I have on a character of a tv show | We are watching a show called supernatural and I have a huge crush on a character on the show. My boyfriend is never jealous. He doesn't get jealous of my guy friends, or if I hang out with a guy friend, or if I say someone is cute. But he hates how I act when I watch the show. He says "it's not like you are just attracted to him. Everything he does you smile at, and you are literally in love with him." He says he isn't really upset about it but he doesn't like it.
Idk what to think. I'm not mad that he feels that way I guess it's understandable. Not sure what to say though. This also started when I said (jokingly) that he was my celebrity cheat | boyfriend is jealous of a character of a tv show |
t3_3dh0i2 | tifu | TIFU by trying to brush my teeth before bed | We had a birthday in our family today, and my mom picked up a cheesecake on her way home for us all to enjoy after dinner. Being a regular user of the internet, and therefore an irregular user of sleep, my eating schedule's a little off and I only just got around to eating my slice of cheesecake.
I go to brush my teeth afterwards, only to realize my bathroom is fresh out of toothpaste. Well, fuck. I can't sleep without getting the sugar off my teeth or I'll feel gross. So, employing Solid Snake levels of stealth, I try to creep past my parents' bed to get to their bathroom (and, ultimately, their toothpaste). The room is completely dark, but I manage the journey and even successfully cover my toothbrush in toothpaste without incident. It's the way back that causes an issue.
See, most of our pets sleep in my parents' room. One of them is an obnoxious, mouthy little Schnauzer who likes to lie in really inconvenient spots. Being unable to see her, I tripped over her, stumbling as she yelped bloody murder. This, combined with my loud exclamation of "*shit!*," managed to wake my parents, who first thought I was an intruder but finally concluded I'm just a dick who interfered with their sleep when they've got work in the morning. | Tried to steal my parents' toothpaste, realized the life of a ninja is not for me when I woke both of them up and pissed off a dog in the process. |
t3_3rsd3p | relationships | Am I [21 M] a giant dating fuckup or do I have bad luck? | I have been wanting to get into a relationship for a while and I don't know if I'm looking at the wrong people and/or have terrible luck or if I'm doing something wrong.
Let's start back in August. I met someone and get stood up. This happened multiple times with different people. I get rejected and have no reasoning as to why. The only time when I got a reason was because I told a date that I was diagnosed with autism when I was 2(It came up somehow), and she proceeded to call me "fucking mental" and left.
I've had dates be on their phones for the whole time and then reject me because I didn't talk to them or pay attention to them. I've been rejected because of my major/minor combination (Software Engineering with Physics minor), my taste in music, the fact that I'm not in a fraternity(in university for reference). I personally think they are stupid reasons but I'll have you give me a second opinion.
Fast forward a bit to this week. My therapist told me to go on a date to try and make a connection with someone. I talk to someone and set up a date, but then an hour later she texts me the next day because she got back with her ex. | I've been stood up and rejected a lot and I don't know if it's bad luck or I'm doing something wrong other than looking in the wrong places. |
t3_4w0nwe | legaladvice | I (25F) received an anonymous email with screenshots of my ex (31M) trying to chat up a 13 year old girl. What do I do? (xpost) | I was told to come here from the relationships subreddit. I'm located in the United States, Nw England area.
So, yes. Throwaway for reasons that will soon become obvious.
I haven't spoken to or been in contact with my ex in over two years, despite having a three year old daughter with him. I recieve no child support, and it's a fine situation.
Our relationship ultimately ended because I found out he was stalking and exposing himself to young college girls and gas station attendants. The last contact I had with him was during a child support hearing in 2014 where he ultimately threatened to have me killed.
In the years since, I've done rather well for myself, considering the fact that my relationship with X was physically and financially abusive, and my main concern in life is my daughter and my mental health.
Yesterday, I received an email from an address I didn't recognize, with screenshots of X chatting with a girl, who tells him she is 13 after she confirms that his age is 30 or so. He continued to chat with her after, offering friendship, a listening ear, marijuana, and more chatting.
While obviously inappropriate, I don't believe I have reason enough to go to the police or any other law enforcement agency. Yes, he's showing signs of attempting to groom her for sexual conversation, but it's not like he's coming out to say it.
I looked up the girl in an attempt to contact her parents, but was unsuccessful.
What do I do, if anything? | Ex with sexual criminal conduct past is chatting up little girl, and someone saw fit to send me screen grabs. What do? |
t3_12xixl | cats | Cats peeing outside litter box, HELP! | This is my first post and I am in need of serious help! I know reddit is full of cat lovers, so I am hoping someone can help me find a solution!
I have three cats, Trinity (11yrs), Audi (2.5 yrs), and Zola (also 2.5 yrs), all female. In the past year or so *someone* has been peeing outside of the litter box! At first I thought there was a hole in one of my boxes because it seemed to be coming from under the box (I have two that I empty twice daily!!). So, the last time I scrubbed them out I filled them with water to check for leaks. No leaks.
I removed the box lids months ago thinking that the issue was that they couldn't get inside in time (My oldest kitty is quite hefty heh). No luck.
I have my litter boxes in my laundry room and they are placed on trays that are very shallow and made for wet shoes/muddy boots so most of the time the pee ends up in the trays. They are a pain in the ass to take outside and scrub as often as they pee on them and they smell **horrible!!**.
I am at a loss for what to do. All cats are eating/drinking normally so I don't believe it could be a medical issue. I do not think the vet would have anything to tell me even if I did take them in.
Is there a cleaning product I can use to scrub the trays to discourage them from urinating on them?
I love my kitties more than some mothers love their children, so I am willing to do whatever it takes to make this less stressful on myself.
ANY suggestions are welcome!
Also, my oldest has not done this in the past, even before I got my two younger cats. | Cats peeing outside litter box, what to do!?*** |
t3_42w8g7 | tifu | TIFU by swearing at a 50-60 year old woman who made me raspberry walnut muffins for no reason | All of my roommates are gone except for Bob and Gunther. I have changed their names in this post for their privacy. We are enjoying the last bit of our winter break and our trek into becoming nocturnal. We are pale and enjoy hiding from that bright scary thing in the sky.
I am going about my "morning" ablutions around noon, as I hear a knocking on the front door. This was expected as Gunther has been coming up to Bob's room for the past two weeks to play "Smite" on his computer at about this time. (We live in a house that has two apartments in it. Bob and myself have the upstairs with another roommate. Gunther and two other guys live in the downstairs apartment. The knocking was on the door to the upstairs apartment)
I don't know about the rest of you, but I show affection by swearing at or heckling my friends. Naturally, I walk to the door in a towel and yell, " I hope it's the fucking room service!"
It wasn't the room service. Nor was it Gunther. Instead it was a sweet lady about 50-60 years old, holding a tray of fresh raspberry walnut muffins. She gracefully responds with, "No. Actually it is the bakery" in the sweet old lady voice that I swear to god only exists in shitty children's movies.
So here I am. I am dripping in a towel, blushing, and beginning the most sincere apology of my life. The woman ended up being my neighbor that I have never met.
As she leaves, the door to Bob's room opens. Gunther was already sitting in there, watching Bob play Smite. Gunther, my German roommate, simply says, " Wow. You are actually worse than Hitler." and closes the door.
A few days later, my other roommate moves back. This roommate returns the platter and stays over there with the lady, laughing at me and the encounter for 40 minutes. | I walked out of the shower expecting my German roommate to be at the door when I heard knocking. I swear at the person at the door as I go to answer it still in my towel. It ended up being a lady that I have never met who baked me muffins. After she left my German roommate leans his head out of a nearby room and tells me I am worse than Hitler. |
t3_t3ghx | AskReddit | Is there any way of enhancing a image found on google maps 'Street View' in order to clarity to a picture? I was rear-ended the other day and I am trying to view someone's license plate number. | Ok. first things first. I know I made a big a mistake by not calling the police at the scene of the accident please don't make fun of me :/
now the story...
details:
A few days ago I was rear ended while driving my girlfriend to work. The driver, a teenage girl, pulled over and we had a look at the cars. When I asked if she had insurance she said it was her dad's car and she didn't have the insurance information with her. This is when I should have called the cops and filed a report, but since there was seemingly little damage done and my gf was late to work, I got the driver's cell phone number and address, told her she could give me the info later since my girlfriend was late to work. I do remember the make and model of the car, however I made one last big mistake by not writing down the license plate number. Now the owner of the car is refusing to to pay to fix my car or give me his insurance info.
I found the car that hit me on googlemaps (in his driveway) but the shot is too blurry to make out the license. SO... does anyone know a way I could enhance this photo in order to make out the plate number? thanks. | I know it's a stretch, but can Street View images be enhanced to read blurry license plate #s? |
t3_2qmkd8 | relationships | I (26M) just found out I've contracted genital herpes and I'm 99% certain it could have only come from my SO (24F). Upset and not sure how to talk to her about this | So I'm pretty upset right now. I (26M) just found out I have genital herpes and I think I got it from my GF (24F) of 6 months.
She is the only person I have had sex with since March 2014 and I have always used condoms in the past with other women. My SO and I began with condoms, but stopped using them about 1-2 months into our relationship.
I am out of country for the holidays but am returning in a couple days and I need to confront her about this. I'm not sure what scenario I'm more worried about: If she knows she had herpes and didn't tell me or if she doesn't know and thinks that I'm some dirty bastard that gave it to her.
If she knew and didn't tell me, I would be incredibly hurt and betrayed. We both made a decision to not wear condoms and she should have at least warned me about this so we could have taken preventative measures, LIKE WEARING CONDOMS.
If she doesn't know, she's going to think that I gave it to her. This is going to become the most awkward conversation of all time. I'm going to have to tell her to get tested and she's going to be positive.
Either way, my relationship is about to go through a fucking blender and this may shatter it. I feel sick thinking about it. I feel sick knowing that I now have herpes for fucking life.
Anyways, any advice on how to approach this situation or any anecdotes of people in similar situations would be greatly appreciated. | I have herpes and my girlfriend most likely gave it to me. Dont know if she knew or not. Not looking forward to the conversation I'm about to have. Help and advice please. |
t3_3lqr9r | relationships | Guy [24/m] I am seeing is being hot and cold to me [22/f] | I met a guy at a friend's party and we hit it off and exchanged numbers and before meeting for an official date, he would rarely ever text maybe like 2-3 texts a day which made me think he was not interested but after we went on a date, he started chatting with me a lot more. We would text each other from the morning till night and he would reply instantly. We would also flirt a lot, saying we miss each other, etc. and so far we have been on 6 dates in a 2 week period. A few nights ago we had sex and after that day, texting has decreased significantly. He now takes about 3-5 hours to respond and I know that he is busy, he has work and he is also studying for a CPA designation so he is studying a lot but the sudden decline in texting has made me worry. I don't know if I am reading too much into it, when he does reply he replies with questions and thoughtful responses, it is never short like "lol or k".
I don't know if I will come off clingy if I ask him why he is suddenly taking hours to reply when before he replied every 2 minutes or so. I usually don't reply right away, I reply in about 20 min - 1.5 hours max. Also, I see him online on FB chat all the time. | guy I am seeing suddenly stops texting and responds in 3-5 hours, does it come off as needy/clingy if I ask why? Or should I just take it as a hint he does not like me and move on? |
t3_41sgwp | relationships | My [25F] boyfriend [26M] continuously makes comments about my friendship with [25M]. | Throwaway because I know my boyfriend surfs Reddit a lot.
So first off, my SO and I have been dating for almost two years now, and we're now living with each other. We met through mutual friends and so as a result, we know most of each other's friends. Our relationship has been pretty smooth overall and we've never had any major spats, but so far, this specific issue has become a recurring one and my SO has been sounding somewhat accusatory sometimes and it has started to strike at my nerves a bit.
I'll start with the context. For the last eight years, I've been friends with this guy named "Sam", and throughout the time I've known him, he's never been very social at all as he's told me he only has a few other friends besides me, and he hates going out. My SO knows about the context behind Sam and I.
And so, about about a couple months ago, my SO made a comment about having never gotten to really meet Sam, even though I hang out with him pretty often. He suggested that I invite Sam over to our home for dinner or something. I sent the offer to Sam and Sam said thanks, but declined. My SO suggested that I try to invite him over again sometime later. I did, insistent this time, and Sam came over and we had a painfully awkward dinner as neither one of them really talked to each other. After Sam went home, my SO started saying how Sam "weirded him out" and how he wondered how we could even be friends.
From then on, my SO has continuously made comments on my friendship with Sam, especially when I go to hang out with Sam, eventually saying that he felt Sam was so rude for not even trying to get to know him and other things like "why do you even hang out with him?" sort of comments. I've asked SO to stop, but sometimes he gets mad that I'm defending Sam "over him", and that my SO is just "speaking his mind". It's been getting on my nerves! How do I deal with this? I don't even get where he's getting these ideas from. Could I possibly be in the wrong of this situation? | My SO keeps negatively commenting on the friendship between my male friend and I. I've asked him to stop, but he has gotten defensive at times and doesn't see anything wrong with it. What do I do? |
t3_3w05o1 | askwomenadvice | Heartbroken because I don't "care enough." (23F, 26M) | Moved to a new city for grad school, first time living away from parents. Always was a shy person, only had one boyfriend in high school and it wasn't very serious. So now I'm in the city and see all these hot guys, decide I want to date like an adult. Join a gym, lose 30 pounds, feel much better about myself.
Go out to a bar with friends, meet cute guy. He *seemed* really nice and sweet. I admit not being around guys I don't know that much about kissing or touching or whatever but he took the lead so I thought I was good.
We ended up going on like eight dates. Went back to his apartment a few times. First time I told him I wasn't ready and he was totally sweet and understanding about it. Next time after working myself up for a week I told him I was a virgin and wanted to lose it to him and he was pretty gentle and understanding.
We went on like two more dates after that and had sex one more time. I feel myself really falling for him. Texted him yesterday a few times and he barely replies. Today he didn't answer any texts. Finally I get off work at 5pm and I'm worried something happened to him so I call his phone. He is okay. He says he has to breakup with me because I don't "care enough." I start crying like an idiot. He tries to hangup but I beg him to explain what I did wrong. He says I'm not affectionate enough? I don't act like I care about him? I was like since we started having sex I've been texting you all day. He was like "well I mean physically. Sorry"
Anyway so he's gone and I feel like an idiot. I really liked him. :,( What did I do wrong? How do I let guys know I "care enough." Did I screw up by having sex with him on the fourth date or so? Should I of made him wait longer? | sweetest, nicest guy broke up with me because he thinks I didn't "care enough." |
t3_3yd32y | relationships | My [19 F] girlfriend cheated on me [20 M] but she doesn't know that I know. | We'd been dating for a few months. She had sex with her ex-boyfriend the night before she came home for winter break. I went through her texts and saw that she told her best friend. She does not know that I went through her texts.
I broke up with her not because of the cheating but because the relationship wasn't working in general. She is sad that I broke up with her and said that she wanted to work on things. But why would she not tell me about the cheating if she wanted to move forward in our relationship? I don't think it is best for me to tell her that I know but part of me wants to hear her admit it.
I've been wanting to end things for a few weeks but wasn't sure/when/how to do it. It kind of just came up today. I've been emotionally drained from this relationship feeling like I put more in then what I get out of it.
Trying to be short because I don't like long posts. Feel free to ask questions for further detail. Thanks. I feel weird. | Girlfriend cheated on me with ex and I found out by snooping. Broke up with her and she is sad. |
t3_19jrgv | relationships | Mother-in-law /yep it's one of those posts... | Throw away acct for obvious reasons...
My husband and I have been together for over 7 years. We've had our ups and we've our downs (couple separations, him cheating, whatever). I am 33 and he is 27. We are doing well and things are the best they've ever been..
Here's where I need advice:
His mother is starting to create drama and I'm not sure how to handle it. She will ask him "bubby when are you moving back in"..and has done so on several occasions. She has also invited him to move back in with her to "save money" (just a note: neither one of us are in need of financial support). She is starting to be nosy in our relationship and is trying to create issues that do not exist.
How in bloody hell do I handle this situation? | Mother in law wants her son to move back in, being nosy and starting drama...not sure how to handle this drama crap |
t3_34teqh | tifu | TIFU by diving into a pool to show off for a girl | This happened about 3/4 years ago now.
Myself and my family were doing our annual camping trip to France, we go to a lovely little campsite in the south of France. Now, this camping site has loads of hot girls and a sweet pool where all these chicks go.
I try to show off to a girl by diving into a pool, now the one problem with this was that I dove off a slide and the pool depth was 1 meter.
So of course I dive and smash my head on the pool floor, I'm rubbing my head and pull away and blood starts gushing down my face.
At this point I start freaking out and crying in front of the girl crying to my dad "Am I gonna die?"
The campsite calls the paramedics and I'm waiting on a bench shivering and feeling light headed. I then get into the ambulance, but before going to the hospital we have to wait at another campsite because someone decided to shove a knife through their hand.
My wound required 6 staples and looked like this: | I dived into a pool to show off to a girl and required 6 staples in my head because of it |
t3_1ralv1 | relationships | Me [26 m] with my gf [26 f] of 5 months (long history of feelings for the past 3 years) had a big fight. She needs space. How do I not fuck this up? | For starters I don't fall easily for just anyone. I love this girl. A lot. We had a big fight last night which ended in her kicking me out. Didn't get physical, just shouting. I called her this morning and she answered but was still just as angry and told me she needs space and she will call me when she is ready to (very stern when she said that).
The worst thing here is that today was supposed to be a birthday dinner for me where she was going to finally get to meet my brother and some of my friends. So I cancelled that.
My question is how do I proceed? I'm ok with waiting for her to call me but what if she doesn't for a few days? Do I try to reach out to her? Or will that just push her away? | girlfriend and I fought. She needs space. How long is a reasonable amount of time for to not speak to me? |
t3_1xxapl | relationship_advice | Absolutely wonderful girlfriend [34F]. But I [35m] need to break up with her. | I'm not doing well in life. No car, a few part-time jobs. Monthly on the verge of eviction. Owe money everywhere. And there's this girl. She loves the shit out of me. She's absolutely unique, unconventional, beautiful, the kind of girl that gets attention wherever she goes because she's got such an inviting, wonderful personality. Outoing, everyone loves her. She's a bit narcissistic (or maybe just ignorantly not self aware), but super lovable.
I'm in a bit of depression, but I've always kind of been an intense person. Although most people think I'm an awesome nice guy, I'm not really. I don't have a lot of patience with those who are close to me, I've done a lot of morally corrupt things, hurt people. She knows about all of this, but doesn't care. She buys me drinks because she knows I can't afford them, she'll take me to do laundry because she knows I don't have a car, she helps out a lot.
I don't deserve her, really. I don't understand why she loves me. I tried to break up with her last week because I over-reacted to something she did. Over reacting has been a problem for me and I'm trying to look for help to increase my patience and lower my relationship anxiety (got any good ideas?). The break up was going ok for me, but then we met up on Wednesday night and she declared that she still loved me that we wouldn't be breaking up. I didn't really have a say in the matter.
I don't know what to do. I've hurt her feelings and tried to keep her at a distance until I could figure out how to not be an asshole, but she wants to be close. Frankly, my head's spinning because I love her, but I also fear myself being so emotionally vulnerable. I get really sensitive about my heart and feelings. It sucks. I don't like to be mean and say mean things. | I'm not sure if I should break up with GF. |
t3_13l24k | AskReddit | Reddit, what things have you done in self-defense, that turned out to be unnecessary, paranoid, and/or racist? I'll go first.. | I think mine is all three.
I was driving home from the opening night of a movie (which will not be named..) last week, and it was about 2:30am. There's a stoplight on the overpass which I was coming up to. There's just one other car-- and old, beat up junkie-- and myself.
The old junkie pulls into the middle of the 2 lanes in front of me, light still green, and stops. Both doors swing open and 2 large black men exit the vehicle, walking towards mine. I see that the driver is reaching into his inner coat pocket to pull something out. I am a small asian girl, alone, in the wee hours of the night, without a cell phone. I do the only thing I can think of.. I put my car in reverse and back the fuck up. The driver gives me a weird look, and then nods, but I know he can't see my face.
He pulls his gloves out of his pocket and puts them on. They both start pushing their broken-down car out of the road. I take a different route home, embarrassed to drive past them, and still too scared to offer assistance. | Car breaks down in front of me, I back up and stare as they push their car out of the road. |
t3_1jietw | dating_advice | I [25/m] went on a couple of dates [25/f] and am doubting what to do next. | Hi reddit,
I hope some of you can give some insights to me. I have had a couple of dates with this girl where everything is going great. To an outsider it would really seem like we are already a couple.
Thing is, when I meet her in person we hit it off. When we text it is kinda ok, but when I try to setup another date she is busy. This is not about me asking if she is lying, I am going to believe that she is busy because she still wants to meet.
Question for me is that I really like her and want to be honest with her that I want to see her more. I don't want to tie her down immediately, just want to let her know that I like the way that it is going and want to keep doing this while seeing where it will take us.
Does this sound right? How do you think it should be conveyed when you are meeting slowly but want to step that up?
Thanks | Me and girl met a couple of times, she has a really busy schedule and time between dates is long. How can I explain to her, in a right way, that I want to meet more? |
t3_b8tm2 | AskReddit | Dear Reddit: What should I do to apply for PhD/MD programs? | I'm a college student now (biochem major, math minor, premed) and for the longest time I thought all I wanted to do was go to medical school. Recently I've been doing research for my ochem professor and I'm fascinated with the idea of doing research later on. That being said I don't want to abandon medical school either. I thought a PhD/MD program would be a great way to allow me to do both of what I want. I realize that this is not an easy program to get into and for that reason I thought I should start looking into how I should actually try applying for it. Does anyone have advice for someone trying to get into a PhD/MD program? | I think I want to be a PhD/MD and wanted advice for applying, becoming one. |
t3_1awt4d | AskReddit | My flat mate annoys the hell out of me... What do I say to him? | First off let me start off by saying I live with 5 other people, one of them I rarely see (so that makes 4). We all get on just fine, but one of the guys (let's call him S) is so socially awkward it's unbearable... It doesn't help that I'm an insomniac and my sanity is wearing very thin these days.
Recently S has been driving me up the wall, constantly knocking on my door from about 10am - 9pm to ask about tedious things like watching "Top Gear" with him (I don't know anything about cars). It usually gets to the point where I have to yell at him or tell him to piss off to get him to go away, but I don't want to upset him.
I just don't know how to tell him to go away without upsetting him. He's a decent guy but I just think if he was more outgoing he'd be a little more understanding that knocking on my door at 10am is not okay.
I don't think he has any other friends at uni other than our flat and I don't want to ignore him either... please help | Annoying flatmate doesn't leave me alone |
t3_1vyyjq | relationships | How to deal with LDR gf's [21/F] lack of interest in sex [22/M] | When we first started dating (6 months ago), things were wonderful sexually. We had sex multiple times every time we saw each other, which is usually every 3-5 weeks. About 2 months ago, it changed pretty drastically. My girlfriend became uninterested in sex and physical intimacy in general.
This was worsened over winter break from school when we got to spend a lot of time together over a month. I eventually got tired of making advances whatsoever and it made me fairly bitter; the only person I want to be attracted to me does not seem to be.
She blames in on issues with sex. I have known her for years and she does have these issues. When she was 16, she was more sexually "experienced" than I am now, and I am by no means innocent.
I'm struggling with a few things here. She told me that sex, even masturbation, disgusts her and brings back memories of bad experiences since she started taking birth control again (which happens to be when we started dating). I believe her, but am DYING for the physical intimacy we used to have. I am afraid to say anything sexual at this point, as it usually leads to awkwardness, and she VERY rarely brings it up. Also, I seem to be the first person who she has addressed these issues with, which is a compliment emotionally, but makes me feel, once again, like there is something less appealing about me than her exes.
I love her and want to work this out, but I'm not sure what all can be done. I'm sick of being sexually frustrated. I'm sick of feeling like I can't bring up sex unless its talking about how its a problem. I'm sick of feeling like the only person who I need to be attracted to me is not.
Any words of advice would be warmly accepted. | gf became very uninterested in sex and intimacy in general, which I am struggling to cope with. |
t3_2o5f6v | relationships | I [23F] am a bit concerned about moving in with my boyfriend [29M] of two and a half years. | He is my first real boyfriend, we are together for two and a half years and we have great stable relationship.
He asked me a while ago to move in with him on summer, and I'm very happy because of that, but the problem is that I still haven't finished my collage and I have student job with student pay. When I said to him all this, and that I want to move in with him, but maybe a little bit later he said in his joking voice that I don't want to move in with him and have repeated it on one or two more occasions later. I now that he understands my reasons, but on the other hand I have feeling that he is maybe little disappointed.
Also we are often talking about all the things we are going to do when we move in, but when I am alone I got like little panic attacks about all this because I feel like I'm still a child (if this makes any sense). Also I'm really attached to my family (I still live with them) and I'm scared how will, or will I manage to talk to them daily.
So my question is, is this feeling of fear of the future (let's say) normal or not? I really love him and I want to star our life together but I am scared sometimes about it.
How did you manage to go through this "moving in" phase in relationship? | My boyfriend wants to move in together and I want it too, but I'm scared how we will manage to live together because of my student job and how will I stay connected with my parents. |
t3_2zzhrp | Advice | Starting over from starting over. | Last year I was divorced after 7 years together. After my wife left me i basically went insane doing anything to kill the pain. I ended up maxing out every credit card i have, getting a car i have no real hope of paying and a living situation thats tenuous at best. I ended up with a really good job from august of last year to about a month ago but unfortunately i lost it mostly due to having another breakdown upon finding out my wife was with my best friend of 20 years now. Now i'm in the hole from overdrafts i have no money no food. and even if they don't take the car soon which they will. starter is going out on it so it's out of the picture basically. I have no idea what to do at this point. Any advice is appreciated. | I have nothing but a roof over my head and no idea how to fix it. |
t3_2wyftl | personalfinance | 17F Trying to Understand How Trusts Work | Hi! I need help understanding the situation I'm in. I'm 17, currently in school and working to pursue a college degree to study engineering. So my mom passed a few years ago to cancer and my father has stayed single until this year he met his new girlfriend. My dad after my mom passed away created a trust for me. I was wondering if my dad decides to create a new family, is a new wife or child going to affect the trust? I've saved up my own money and have my own emergency fund so I'm not here trying to be greedy. I haven't told my dad yet but I've been verbally abused by the girlfriend and have been threatened that she will take my dad and his money away. I will tell my father soon enough what happened but I don't want this woman catching whiff that I'm trying to protect my family and try to counteract me. I don't care if I don't get an ounce of what my dad wants to give me, I just want to make sure that if my dad is going to be someone, that he gets to share the remainder of his life with a nice retirement with a honest loving person. | Dad's new girlfriend is verbally abusive to me and threatened me that she will take all money away from my dad. Dad has already made a trust for me but if he marries her or has another child, how does it affect the trust? |
t3_x17m3 | AskReddit | Had a dream I was Boba Fett/The Avatar. Reddit, what awesome dreams have you had? | So I was somehow looking for katara (From /r/TheLastAirbender ) and she'd gotten captured by a giant plant in the Rancor's pit. I jump in and manage to tear apart a Rancor, and the plant holding her hostage. I fly away onto an airship and she's so happy to see me. She hugs me and I feel an amazing emotional embrace, the presence I haven't felt since...
Fast Forward to the next dream sequence: I'm in a video game type, 3rd person perspective as Boba Fett. (I felt like Boba, but I was bluer like Jango Fett. The area I was fighting in felt like the Death Star, so I'll say Boba). I'm running around with electricity surrounding me, and I spot other Boba's. I start shooting because my initial reaction (as all great Highlanders know) There can be only one. I kill a few, but then they start swarming. I hide, but notice they're not coming for me. I pursue. It hits me. *They're going after the second Rancor*. Of course I'd want that type of Challenge. *I'm fucking Boba Fett*. We all team it, and Conan O'Brian is above the pit near a door, saying things like "Well that doesn't look too good for the Rancor" in a witty tone.
So, What's a dream you can recall and enjoyed?
It can be awful too, but be careful about my feels. | Dreamt I was the Avatar and had to kill two Rancors. Then I played as a Boba Fett clone fighting other Boba Fetts in a Halo-esc type competition. Then we joined teams to kill the second rancor. Conan O'Brian was the announcer. |
t3_jecw2 | AskReddit | Ok, I'm looking for AskReddit's advice... | Now, I understand there probably is a better subreddit for this right now, but I'm way too intoxicated to even try to find it (and this should also excuse me from any spelling or grammatical errors).
I just got back from the bar for Karaoke night and had my friend constantly telling me to talk to women. Let me give a bit of a back story: I was with a girl for two years, thinking she would be the one. Sad part it, it has been 2 years since she had kicked me completely from her life. Since then, I've been off and on from a few girls, but never anything that last more than a few months. Now, I find it even hard to open up with someone at the bar or what not.
My friend keeps telling me to just talk about anything, but when he does so, I feel like I am just being fake...completely fake. He is really really good at making that "opening" and can talk up a girl no matter what. I'm sure it is completely because of his confidence. Ok, enough beating around the bush....how can I make myself that confident. Hell, I'm not even looking to find someone to go out with, I just want to be able to talk to women without feeling so fake...
I know this probably reads so spacey, but I am quite drunk. Alright Reddit, give me what you got! | I am horrible chatting up new women, what would you tell me to get more confident in speaking with them? |
t3_g9y8z | relationships | Is anyone else in a Long Distance Relationship that can offer some Wisdom/Advice? | I've been talking with a girl I met on eharmony for almost 3 months now. It's been a completely wonderful experience, and this last weekend I made the trip down to visit her. It WAS a great weekend, but I think we pictured things so differently, it couldn't have possibly met our high expectations.
-I had long pictured our first embrace, in reality we were in a loading zone and getting yelled at to not get out of the car, so it was just...awkward.
-We had all these fun things planned to do, but overbooked ourselves and were super tired and didn't get much alone time. (again, not planned that way, just how it worked)
-On top of everything her best friend went through a tramatic experience and we didn't get to be selfish and spend time to ourselves, her friend needed company. (Which was frustrating but understandable)
the story actually is much longer (we talked, decided I'd get on a plane a day early, then got up to the airport gate and did my best Hugh Grant moment "I'm not getting on that plane!" and came back to her to hang out for another day)
I don't know, I guess we decided that we both are just scared. Neither of us has dated much before so we don't have past experiences to draw back on. We do have a strong connection, and our chemistry is there, even when we were talking about breaking up I wanted nothing more than to pull her closer.
Is it normal to have all this fear and worry about the distance just being too difficult? I want to give us time to think about all of it, but I feel that all this negative energy and negative thoughts is only going to tear us further apart. Has anyone else gone through something like this? Obviously when you haven't met someone you build them up to something they probably can't hope to acheive. No disney music in the background, just real life. Now that we're back to "reality" it's just hitting us both how much this sucks. I just don't know if it's because it's not right for us, or if it's because long distance relationships are just going to be that tough. | I'm confused, is this much anxiety normal in a LDR? |
t3_1bry6l | relationships | Me (21m) and my girlfriend (21F) are not in tune. | Me and my significant other are musicians. We've been together for over a year. She plays guitar decently and sings really beautifully, she also does professional ballet/dance. I play multiple instruments and love to play music with her, which she will often write herself.
The problem is that anytime she asks for my opinion, I give her my unfiltered view as a musician instead of a lover. Most of the time I say something I think is harmless, which goes on to like, dig into her self confidence. Sometimes she will not want to jam for some days or quit playing when I come into the room. Other times she will go passive aggressive on me or go on the offensive and tell me I never like any of her songs.
I love the fuck out of her, we have intense conversations, frequent sex and no worries or doubts about trust or cheating. I just don't know how to voice my opinion without smashing her pride, and I don't want to lie, or have no ability to expand. | I don't know how to criticize my gf's music without offending her and hurting our overall relationship. |
t3_wg0c0 | AskReddit | Reddit, its urgent. I need to find a way to sleep on my iPad w/o breaking it. | I am living with someone who has stolen from me countless times throughout my life. There's no way to hide anything - if it's not on your person at all times, consider it stolen.
I want to keep my iPad. I've lost all kinds of important electronics because of this person - at the worst, I lost my first year's worth of photography which was stored on my laptop (gone), with my first camera getting taken along with it. Once, I went to the kitchen in a one story matchbox sized apartment, made myself a quick bowl of cereal in-between commercials, and by the time I was back to the living room, my shit was gone. It's that bad.
The only way I can think of protecting my iPad while I sleep is to stick it between my mattresses directly under me and sleep on top of it. But, obviously, I'm not a lightweight and my fat ass will break it in a matter of seconds (about 150lbs). | Reddit, what can I make or build to protect the iPad from being crushed as I lay ontop of it? (it will be in-between 2 mattresses, and I am about 150lbs). |
t3_26h2l5 | relationships | I [19M] want to reconnect with an old date[19F] | I dated this girl back in January once and we really hit it off. I did something stupid back then,panicked and nervous I alluded to us starting a relationship after the first date. This put her off (obviously) and we haven't had communication since then. I've since grown as a person and I can certainly say I'm a way more mature person than I ever was back then.
Any who I saw her account on that "People you may Know" tab on FB and it sort of makes me interested in reconnecting. Trouble is I just don't really know what I'd say. I already apologized for my mistake back when I did in January but of course it didn't help. I really do think that the two of us are compatible in some way and I know it can't be bias because the last time I even thought about her was months ago.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, what should I say to make her at least consider going out for some coffee? | Had date with girl months ago, would like to reconnect and possibly go on another. |
t3_20qppv | relationships | I'm [17/F] Having a hard time getting over my [20/M] friend. We almost dated...Just need help to get over him. | So many months ago I made a new friend, and as time passed we decided we wanted to date. Obviously. So we had a lot in common, we basically loved all of the same foods, tv shows, movies, etc. We both also lost a parent in 2010, he lost his mom 2 months before me.
We have been "talking" for 3 months. At first he was hesitant about dating me because I am a virgin..still am. Lately all I felt was that he just wanted sex. Here and there he would always point out how I wasn't putting out. I kept telling him that I just wasn't ready. He started ignoring me and basically making fun of me. He knew my flaws that bothered me and kept pointing them out on social media. Like on twitter he posted " Sitting next to this girl that has a nose like a pecan." First of all I think he meant toucan lmao! But I tried not to let it bother me because he was just being immature. Then that same day he posted "childish, immature, inexperienced." I never responded to any of his tweets because I am not going to stoop to his level.
I get that he is an ass and I get that we never actually were in a relationship but for some reason I can't get all of the good memories we had out of my head. My mind keeps ignoring all the bad ways he treated me (like ignoring me for a few days completely, even at school, all the way to putting me down) and all I can focus is on the good. I know he doesn't deserve me and some guy will treat me better but I just can't get him off my mind. Also of course his name is the name of a Holiday that just passed yesterday, so getting over him is hard when his name is EVERYWHERE.
Can anyone please tell me advice on how to get over an asshole friend? | I just need some tips to get over this guy. |
t3_4dstug | pettyrevenge | Well, since you seem to want it so badly, you can have it then. | I have a nephew that's turning 9 this summer. He's a loving little fellow, but he's such a little shit when it comes to playing games with him.
One day when I'm over, he starts insisting that I play Monopoly with him (I had never played up to that point), and that he wanted to be the "banker." I tried to avoid him as long as possible since I knew that that game can last forever and I would have to leave soon, but he finally caught me idling and my excuses ran dry.
I let him know right off the bat that I had never played before, so I was going to need some time to read the rules. That's when I learned about the in-game "auction" where basically any property that doesn't get bought on a player's turn can be auctioned by any player for a starting bid of 10 monopoly dollars. I told him about it and he didn't seem to know what auctioning meant. No big deal, I suppose.
Once I was ready to start, he quickly called dibs on being the banker. I said sure, but I had a strong hunch on why he wanted to be the banker so badly. Once it was his turn to roll, I decide to test my theory by getting up to get a glass of water. As soon as I'm out of his view, I hear some shuffling around. When I returned, I noticed that he was 1000 monopoly dollars richer and I was 200 monopoly dollars poorer. I was about to call him out on it, but he beat me to speaking first by saying that he didn't want to buy the property.
I immediately called for an auction. He was confused at first, but it didn't take him long to learn that the higher bidder wins. In fact, he learn so quickly, he decided to bid a very hefty amount in an effort to beat me in the auction.
As soon as I said "it's yours," his smile quickly faded into that *oh shit* face. I told him that when he cheats, that's what other players feel, and that if he wants to play games with me again, he has to be honest the entire time. | Deceived my cheating nephew into buying some property for 1000 times its value and thus lose the game of Monopoly |
t3_32pg7j | tifu | TIFU by coming to class | This happened less than five minutes ago.
So, background, I'm a part time college student. I work full time, and am trying to reverse those roles over the next few months. I'm taking three classes, one of which is a Business 100 level class that started halfway through the semester (March 18th, I believe).
Ok, so on to the FU: I worked super late last night, and woke up very late (I normally wake up around 9 so I can go to the gym, but woke up at 11 today) and was running around doing last minute homework and making myself lunch. Ran out the door at 12:35, knowing I'd probably be late to my 1pm class. Parked, paid the meter, ran to get coffee because I cannot function without caffiene. This is a business class, and the professor is a stickler for being on time, so I ran and made it in the classroom by 1:02. The professor already had stuff on the board, so I grabbed an open seat as soon as I could. I got settled, then looked around.
Why were there so many empty seats? This class is full to capacity, and I distinctly remember having to bring in extra desks last time. I thought that maybe we had a lot of late drops (not unheard of in an accelerated course). Then I looked closer. Why did I not recognize a single one of my classmates? Finally, I turned my attention to the board, on which was a syllabus... that wasn't ours. This... this class IS at 1, not 2, right?
I quietly pushed my way back out with just my phone in hand and checked the schedule in the hallway. Nope, the class is at 2. My backpack and coffee are still in the classroom, and I don't have the balls to go back in and get them. | ran to class because I was late, turns out I was way early. Everyone stared. |
t3_3qx09y | relationships | Me 19M with my ex-girlfriend 19F, turned lesbian | Hi /r/relationships Throwaway account because my friends know my Reddit username.
I was in a relationship with a girl for about 4 months before she ended the relationship. She gave me the old "I need time for myself to figure out stuff", she moved away for university as well, and she told me that she wasn't ready for a long distance realationship. Fair enough.
But now, about 2 months after we broke up, she have now gotten into a relationship with F19. I feel like I've been used, and I dont know how to deal with it. Should I talk to her about it, or just move on with my life? She tried to keep it as a secret that she had gotten into a relationship with this girl. | Ex girlfriend got into a relationship with another girl. Dont know how to deal with it. |
t3_210o1i | relationships | I'm (24m) in a perfect relationship with a girl (19f) however I can't stop flirting with other girls and considering cheating on her | I'm the kind of guy whos always flirty, I've talked to girls with the sole purpose of flirting and fucking. However, I have met a girl I think is absolutely amazing, and I have fallen in love with her.
I could never imagine myself ending our relationship over something as stupid as cheating. Regardless, I catch myself considering doing it constantly, and I'm quite afraid that one day I will follow up on these urges.
Basically, how do I stop myself from doing stupid shit like this? I do appreciate my gf, I just seem to enjoy the concept of fucking different girls... | I flirt with every girl, how do I stop? |
t3_1gem6q | relationships | I (20F) am concerned about 21M's FB emotional philandering w/ex | I've been with 21M for a few months. Very receptive and makes time for me. Generally on the same wavelength in terms of goals and ambitions. Good sexual compatibility.
Concern: He's constantly in contact with his ex who he wasn't with for too long; they broke up 1 year ago. Contact spans texting, FB messaging and in-person hangouts. Conversations are casual sexting-themed with talks of masturbation, hook-up reminiscence, and plans for outings. I told him that I didn't mind communication with said ex, but to please lay off the sexually-charged talk because it emanates discontent with our current relationship. He agreed and shared this with the ex but they both continued the unwanted conversations anyway. Talking to 21M about this issue warrants an "It's getting annoying; you should just trust me" response. I think 21M and ex enjoy the "disobedience" of their "forbidden" talks.
21M tells me that he's over his ex and wouldn't get back with her yet I know he makes more time for FB messaging and texting with her than he does with me. Pertaining to this, I have more disdain for the ex than for 21M but am dumbfounded as to why 21M continues pandering to the ex. I am convinced that she wants him back and am worried he's getting into a slow fade break-up.
I am happy with our relationship and want to continue but I need another perspective. Is my dissatisfaction warranted? I've decided to stop asking about his ex and will trust his actions completely to avoid being told that I'm annoying and, to his claim, "the more you mention it, the more likely it is that I'll do it [it = hook up with the ex]". | 21M and his ex (broke up 1 year ago; relationship lasted a few months) are having sexually-charged talks over FB + text despite my insistence against it. Generally I feel that he enjoys and talks more with his ex over FB/text than he does with me, yet he is very receptive when we are alone and in-person. I enjoy the relationship regardless but my concern dampens my spirits. Is it right for me to be concerned? Next steps? |
t3_1bjnhr | relationships | Gf [24f] and her childhood friend progressively getting closer...something to be concerned about? | Hello everyone. Using a throwaway, but I [27m] was hoping if I can get some input. My gf [24f] of a year has been acting a little different lately, and I'm wondering if it's cause for concern.
Naturally, I'm not a very jealous person, but a month ago, she asked me to get snapchat. If you don't know what that is, it's a social networking program where you send each other pictures that self-deletes within a certain amt of time. Anywho, I got the program and clicked her profile and saw that she has a "best friend" on there. Apparently, you automatically become best friends if you snapchat them often. Some guy I didn't know. I asked her about it, and it turns out it's her friend...who she had a crush on about two years ago.
I tried to not think about it, as I trust my girlfriend, but the past two weeks, I see her constantly getting texts from this guy. It was every other day, then once a day, now two-three times a day. Ok...they're childhood friends...that's ok...Just today, we were eating dinner and she gets a text from this guy and she starts texting back. I said, "What's up?" Her response was, "Oh, it's my friend..." but her response had a tone that she didn't want to really expand on it.
I just found out that she's applying to volunteer at a summer camp in her hometown, and has asked this guy to volunteer with her. I won't be in her hometown, and she wants friends there...alright...
Individually, these don't seem terrible or cause for concern. All together, however, it seems...rather...uncomfortable.
I highly doubt anything's going on, and we have an amazing relationship. I wonder, though, if she's acting...inappropriate? Is this something I should talk to her about? | gf [24f] and her childhood friend have gotten pretty close in the past month...individually, not too worrisome...but all together, makes me [27m] feel uncomfortable. |
t3_2czsj2 | relationships | My mom (40F) calls me (15F) fat? | I weight about 125 lbs. I run a lot. I'd like to think my body is kind of okay
My mom always calls me fat though. She always says I have a "blow gut". She also always comments about when I eat "do you really need that", ECT.
One time I was so hurt I just said "I like my body and it's muscular. I don't care about what you think!" Then she just said "well you should care. To be young and THAT heavy is a disgrace! There's nothing to be proud of!"
My whole family joins in too sometimes. My little sister even says "i have abs and you have flabs" or "oh god you're so fat you make me sick" She's only a pre-teen too.
It's just really upsetting. I want it to stop | my mom always calls me fat and I was wondering how to get it to stop |
t3_3y4g7w | relationships | Is my [21M] online sex role playing cheating on my [22F] girlfriend? | (should this be flagged in" "relationships" or "Infidelity"?)
I enjoy sexual role playing online (on Reddit or other anonymous chat sites & forums). My girlfriend of over 2 years doesn't have any idea about this. I'm now a fan of porn (am I the only guy who isn't that into it?), but roleplaying online is very enjoyable and satisfying for me. It lets me "act out" sexual situations that I wouldn't have in real life, things my GF wouldn't be comfortable doing.
I've recently started to wonder if this would be seen as cheating on her, since I chat online quite sexually and explicitly with strangers. I never trade photos or anything, but it's still a form of getting sexual satisfaction from someone other than her. I personally don't really see it as cheating, but would she? I would love some opinions on it.
Two other things; she's said before that me watching porn would be "none of her business", and that she wouldn't like it but she doesn't have an issue with it. I don't have any intention of sharing my online role playing with her, it would just be ember easing and uncomfortable for me. I'd rather keep those interests private. | I role play sexually with strangers online. Is this is cheating on my girlfriend? |
t3_1yrlpr | relationships | Me [21 M] with my ex [20 F] 1yr & some months, Need some advice on post break up. | So it's been 2 months since I've last contacted her and it's been 4 months since our break up. So basically I just need some advice on how to get rid of this urge to want and text her or contact her. Sometimes I feel like I should just contact her but I'm scared of basically begging her to take me back. I think about her all the time and honestly I've Facebook stalked her a little bit as well.
I obviously deleted her number but the funny thing is 1) it's easy for me to get it 2) I have it memorized so yeah. So far I've had a good grip on this urge but I"ve been coming more and more close to texting her.
Lets be honest here if I do text her (which I honestly do want to.) Should I just text or call her and say "How you been?" or you know basically trying to catch up. Or should I just tell her that I miss her and that I still love her and what not.? | Advice on getting rid of the urge to text/call ex (who currently has new bf) Also have any of you gave into this urge and did it and how did that go for you? (4months total since break up and 2 months since last contact) |
t3_2sdnve | tifu | TIFU by teling my gf why I love her | Yes, this happened today. Just now.
It started a few minutes ago when my gf asked me why I chose her out of every person I could've gone for who is more (insert positive trait here) than her. So I explained to her from my point of view how if I were to settle with any other person, that regardless of how amazing I am, I would merely end up being tossed aside like common trash as soon as the next guy came by. Wrong move. She took it completely the wrong way and told me that it seems like I took her because I'm desperate and that I would more than likely cheat on her without even so much as a second thought. I had to reword everything in a way so that it couldn't mean anything other than what I want it to mean. She's still crying and doesn't believe that I actually do care about her and would do anything to keep her. I don't know what to do about this and I might just be out of a relationship now because of this. | I took the bait on a common trap and now I may just end up having to bite the bullet on it. |
t3_109d6y | AskReddit | Reddit, what is your biggest drunken mistake? | Two years ago when I was a freshmen, I was thinking about pledging to a fraternity. I show up to their first mixer of the year and start meeting people. I'm talking to one of the frat guys about programs and as it turns out, he's in my ex-girlfriends program. Me, being drunk as hell by now, ask if he's heard of this guy, and then proceed to tell him I fucked this guy's sister (only girl I had ever had sex with at the time so I wanted to show off). This guys thinks its hilarious. An hour or so later, my exes brother shows up, walks up to me, and begins to beat the living shit out of me. I've been in fights, I've gotten jumped before, but the rage that this guy was unleashing on me was worse than any beating I've had. Turns out the guy I told the story to is best friends with my exes brother. I ended up getting kicked out of the house and not getting a bid to pledge. Haven't spoken to my ex since. | I told someone I had sex with a girl not knowing he's best friends with her brother and then had the shit kicked out of me. |
t3_rdvnk | relationship_advice | Sleeping problems | So my girlfriend and I have been together now for almost a year and a half. Our problem is that for her to sleep she has to have the T.V. on. If it's not on she claims that it takes forever to get to sleep(which in my opinion it doesn't take her any longer than w/ the TV on) I think the reason she has to have it on is that she had an over stimulated childhood. Her mother always had her in front of the TV, she grew up in the city, and always had things going on all the time. I on the other hand grew up in the country and was only allowed a few hours of TV a night and so on. I really enjoy silence and I'm a pretty light sleeper. When I fall asleep with the TV on it wakes me up and I just feel like I don't sleep well at all.
I've talked to her about sleeping with it off and she refuses and says that she can't. She will sometimes turn it off but then tosses and turns and acts like the silence is killing her until I eventually tell her to just turn it back on.
I was just wondering if any of you could help me either think of an idea so she can listen to the TV without disturbing me or there was something she could try and help her sleep without the TV on.
We've tried ear plugs for me and a sleeping mask, but I pull the mask off while I'm asleep and the ear plugs only work moderately well.
At this point I'm about to suggest separate beds in different rooms just so I can sleep. | Girlfriend can't sleep with the TV off, I can't sleep with it on. Need ideas to remedy the situation. |
t3_1uo7zv | AskReddit | How can I maximize my income as an employee? Tell me how you did it. | First of all, before people chime in by saying "follow your dreams!" or "get a job you love and you'll never work a day in your life!", I'm already there. I work as a software engineer for a small Chicago-based software company and genuinely enjoy what I do for a living and the people I work with. I'm also doing pretty decent financially (78K salary), considering I only have 1.5 years of experience. Despite all of that, I still enjoy money (who doesn't) and I know I could potentially earn more if I focus my energy in the right areas.
What are some strategies I can use to maximize my income as employee? I don't want to hear generic answers like "come in early and stay late" and "work really hard", because I know that's never the full story. There are plenty of people who work really hard and still get shafted. Give me some real, gritty insight into what allowed you to get ahead in the workplace. Did you make friends with the right people? Suck up to the boss? Negotiate frequently for raises/promotions? Job hop every 2 years? Learn the newest technologies?
Of course, there's always the option of just straight-up being the best at what you do. There will always be high demand for such people (especially in software engineering) but I guess I'm more interested in the social dynamics of the workplace since I naturally have an aversion to gossip, office politics, and confrontation. | Give me your best tips on how to earn more money, even if they're downright Machiavellian |
t3_4zuhjm | relationships | I [28m] believe my 2.5 year relationship with my [23F] my slowly be coming to a painful end | So my girlfriend and I are in an open relationship (she suggested it) it had been a month since we has last had sex at the time. We are now approaching the 3 month mark and still no sex, she's gone down on me a couple times but I'm beginning to feel like that's to keep me off her back. When I brought it up to her, she said it's her depression killing her drive and that she hasn't even taken advantage of the open relationship. My instincts say that can't be true. She came home at 5:30 am this morning after being out with friends. Should I worry? Are my instincts wrong? | girlfriend of 2.5 years and I are in an open relationship. It's been almost 3 months and we haven't had sex. She says it's her depression and she hasn't had a drive, I'm finding it hard to belive. Should I worry? What should I do? |
t3_fcmcc | AskReddit | Scammer trying to ruin my reputation. What to do? | Let me rephrase that question, since I can't edit the title:
**A scammer is trying to ruin your reputation online. What would you do?**
I lost over $4k, I'm not alone, he scammed several people. I looked for help online and together with the other victims started threads on forums and got help from people who deal with online fraud. Consequently if you search for his name on Google you will find several sites where he is accused of scamming people. Since I was the first victim, he blames me on starting all of this. This was last year. After trying to get my money back I gave up and moved on. Today I get an email from him with a link to a page with my name on it and a bunch of lies. Basically he wants me to remove all of the things online about him (contact forum admins and say I was lying), or he will "destroy my name".
I have stressed too much with this, it took me over 6 months to save those $4k. I really don't feel like starting this thing all over again. What should I do? | Scammer steals money. Victims complain online. Result ->Google scammer name = several pages with victims testimonials accusing him. Scammer is now trying to make victims remove complaints online by creating pages with victims names and blackmailing them. |
t3_1gpgfi | offmychest | My First Job | I started working at a communications compay that does data collecting. We're telesurveyors not telemarketers. The pay is great, $8 an hour and I'm only required to work three days for four hours each a week (I am working more of course). But it is extremely boring. Sitting in a cubicle, dialing and redialing numbers, yaddah yaddah.
I understand, for those we call, how annoying it is and how you don't want to do surveys despite the fact that we do need your opinions and you sometimes get free stuff/money for it. I understand but there is no need to be rude. Our job isn't fun. I feel like I'm Winston Smith in my little cubicle, being monitored by my supervisors since I'm new. But please, don't be rude. The more people are rude, the more they'll get call-backs (trust me, person next to me was doing it). Just tell us politely and we'll go away.
But despite all that and five hours of boredom plus over 250 calls, I only got one survey done. Which had been a nice lady in Oklahoma who had started the survey already. I know she probably won't see this but thank you, you made my night. You were very sweet and completely understanding whenever I would pause and sometimes stumble on my words (it was technically my first day). But thank you so much. | Try to be polite to us telesurveyors, our job kinda sucks but it is our job. Also to the only respondant who did the survey, thank you. You made my night. |
t3_3s3fr4 | relationships | Why does every guy seem to lose interest in me [23 f] after texting for a week? | It seems like every guy that I talk to over text seems to stop texting me. I don't expect to text everyday because I'm not that type of person. But I feel like, if I respond in a prompt manner, they lose interest. Or if I start the convo, they don't respond as quickly or seldom at all. Thus, I take the hint, they aren't interested. Am I wrong or is it something that I say that turns them off? I don't think I say anything weird. I try to be humorous and it seems to work for the most part. After a week however, it just dies down. | Am I a bad texter or do I just attract the wrong guys? |
t3_2atckn | relationships | My [27F] fiance [28M] of 4 years has become more secretive about his recent texts/chats over recent time. | We're long distance since he's attending law school out of state. He's always been a bit of a loner, and in all the years that I've known him he's never held long text convos. Well, until recently. The last time I saw him (6 months ago), he wouldn't let me touch his phone. Normally, he doesn't care. I didn't think too much into it bc we were in a bad place at that time. Time passes and we're better now. Recently, he asked me to DL whatsapp. Now I see him on ALL the time. He's suppose to be studying hardcore for his tests but ya how is he gonna do that when he's always on.
That's when I started wondering wth is going on. I asked him about it and he said he has a group chat with friends. Ok cool. But now I'm noticing he's not answering me or taking forever and won't answer questions when I ask. I could be just paranoid, I dunno. | Antisocial fiancé suddenly becomes social, but leaving out who/what he's talking about when in the past it was normal. |
t3_3929fh | relationships | Me [22F] with my boyfriend [21M] 7 months and his bathroom habits | Really random and sorta awkward question.
My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 7 months. We don't live together. We see each other about 3-4 days a week.
Whenever my boyfriend needs to take a poop, he'll bring his phone into the washroom. He watches videos or plays some games. My problem is he'll spend anywhere from 20-40 minutes in the washroom. He was talking to one of his buddies who also takes an insanely long time in the washroom and mentioned that he only really takes a poop for about 10 minutes and the rest is just messing around on his phone. Recently he's been spending a lot more time in the washroom too. Last time I was with him, he had to "poop" three times that day.
Is this a normal thing guys do? Is he bored of me? | My boyfriend takes unnecessarily long bathroom breaks up to three times when we're together. Not sure if it's me or if it's normal. |
t3_sv2gl | travel | I have the summer off, please help me plan my trip, details inside. | Hello, let me start off by thanking anyone who joins in the conversation, I am a 22 y/o Male College student that recently found out that I will be losing my part-time job because the place where I work is closing. Luckily for me, I was considering leaving this summer, and now that I will be getting a severance package, I want to take about a month off to travel. For the past few years I have been fascinated with the state of Washington, in particular the city of Seattle. At the moment, I have a very very rough idea of what I want to do, and this is where I require your services. School let out for me earlier this week and I will not take any courses over the summer. My job will leave me a jobless bum sometime next month. Basically my goal is to travel, camp, hike, take photographs, shoot a documentary, take the time to re-charge (put life into perspective), and write. I have money saved up in my bank account as well as the incoming severance package and final few paychecks, however I want to stay within a budget of about $1,500 (The less I spend the better). Anyways I basically want to make my way up to Northern California and eventually to Seattle. I love the fresh air, mountains, the ocean, trees, anywhere along this route where there are forests, places that aren't filled with dense cities, a place I can feel lost in (besides San Francisco, Seattle, and any other "big/unique" city you all would recommend). I plan on taking my car so gas money is something I want to factor into my budget, but I plan on roughing it out and camping in the outdoors for the first time in my life. What do you wonderful people think? What am I missing, as I said I only have that vague idea of my trip, nothing is solid, not even the date (but I want to leave for about one month or more sometime in June/July). Do you know of any hostels, cheap motels, camping grounds, beautiful places for natural landscape photography, anything? Thanks in advance! | I am getting let go by my job because the location is closing, will receive a severance package, I finished my semester earlier in the week, have a rough budget of $1,500 dollars, want to travel the North West with a definite stop in San Francisco and Seattle. Want to try to "rough" it out by camping, taking my car, and want to meet people, take photos, shoot some film, work on some writing I have, etc...Inspire me, guide me, talk to me, make suggestions...Thank you all in advance. |
t3_4ltgvp | cats | Cat-clueless and found a ~8 week old kitten | * | found 8 week old cat--how to re-home and keep comfortable? |
t3_1jdjuc | relationship_advice | [21/M]: Girlfriend (20/F) and I had Arguments about school/work/living with strict parents. | So the situation is a little complicated with so much backstory that I'll just give up some highlights. I hope ya'll can help:
I have been going to a university for over 3 years, getting a degree to be a teacher, and haven't taken a break in-between semesters for the entire time (No summers, winters, etc)... except for right now.
She's never had a job before, but has currently been doing amazingly at a coffee shop for about 2 years. Although, she is now overworking herself as a shift-leader and is stressed out. She wants to have time off like I have now with my summer vacation, but here's the catch: We live with my parents and they'll throw a conniption fit if she's just sitting around... which admitting, is exactly what I'm doing until the next semester starts. My parents are alright with me waiting for the next semester because I've "earned a break".
We live with my parents because I drive an hour everyday to go to school (We live in rural Texas), and I like saving money.
She isn't going to school and I don't have a job. When I start up school again, this relationship should settle down again, but I'm looking for ways to diffuse the situation until one more month.
I'm a little scatterbrained because we just had this argument, and I'm trying to post both sides. | Is it fair for one to work while the other waits for work? |
t3_2k9o0p | relationships | I [18/M] have a crush on my coworker [18/F] of one year. Need some help! | I've been working with this girl for about a year now and, although I've thought of her as being really cute and kind since the beginning, I've recently developed a crush on her.
The more I've talked to her, the more I realize how nice she is and, even though she seems to have drama with people outside of work, I don't feel like she looks for it. I just feel like it has to do with the crowd she hangs out with.
She's my assistant manager and has told me in the past that I'm one of her favorite workers. When we work alone together she seems to share personal stories with me that I don't notice her telling other people and she's always happy to see me.
My other friends at work are more confident than me and hug/ put their arms around the girls whenever they feel like it. My crush is cool with it, but I'm always too nervous and never know if it's the right time. She's given me hugs in the past, but I feel shitty for never initiating them myself.
I've dated a few girls, but I've become more shy over the years (partially due to a bout with panic disorder and a lack of female friends in the past few years) so, around pretty girls, I'm always noticing my awkward demeanor/ lack of ability to think of more topics in a conversation. She likes talking to me and I haven't noticed her get annoyed when I feel like I'm being boring.
She's dated plenty of guys in the past , but she's been single for quite a while now. She's mentioned how she's curious about being with another girl, which makes things a bit more daunting for me; but I feel like, if she is into me at all and I'm brave enough to somehow ask her out, I'll have a chance. | I'm really into my coworker and she's super nice to me, but I'm not totally sure if she likes me. I also need some tips on asking her out and maybe just improving my general confidence. |
t3_exdb9 | AskReddit | is this realistic? would it work? why/why not? | majority of people are willing to give atleast 1 dollar or 1 pound to a stranger/ beggar, by no means am i, but around the world there are close to 7 billion people right now... if i were to go to lets just say 100 million people, and ask just them for 1 dollar or 1 pound, couldn't i become a multimillionaire... to me it seems that it is an actual achievable thing to do, although to meet a 100 million people, all willing to give that small bit of money would take a long time... its still achievable... isnt it? | get rich by asking for 1 pound/dollar from alot of people.. |
t3_4b8az3 | relationships | Im [18M] uncomfortable with my girlfriend[17] kissing her gay friends in front of me | So me and my girlfriend have been going pretty good for the past few months but she kisses some of her gay friends. Which I mean make me a little uncomfortable but whatever I don't care for the most part. Except one in particular who I know doesn't like me asks to kiss her all the time and makes sure I'm in the room when he does. I've confronted her about it but she just say Oh it's fine he is gay it doesn't mean anything... I just don't know what to do. I feel extremely uncomfortable about the whole situation. | my girlfriend kisses gay guys and makes me uncomfortable |
t3_1djakn | BreakUps | I need to know how wrong I was. Just Broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. | We met in second grade, we've been friends ever since. Senior year of highschool one of our mutual friends set us up and we've been dating ever since. Things went well enough for the longest time but I was always a little less sure about our future and after the 2 year mark we started arguing quite frequently. Recently she went abroad for 3.5 months and our arguing peaked. It was almost daily and it wore me down. A few days ago something in me broke and I didn't want to be with her anymore, even though she was coming home soon. I agonized over how to do it but I eventually did it over skype the next day. I didn't want to do it that way but once I decided to do it I couldn't fake it, she was coming home in three days but I may not have seen her for another week or two, it was looming over me and I felt anxious and nauseous and just felt the need to do it. She contacted me recently and called me a coward and a liar. I know she's angry and maybe she doesn't mean it but I feel miserable. I feel like there could be truth there. Didn't I owe it to her to do it in person? But didn't I also owe it to her to not lie and pretend it's okay for weeks? I know there was no right answer but would it have been better to wait? I just don't know, I care for this girl and I can't take this. | I broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years over skype while she was abroad. She would have been home 3 days later but I may not have seen her for a week. Am I a coward? It sounds shittier to me the fewer details i put in. |
t3_3yv3ew | relationships | Me [22 M] with 21 F talking for 1 month, not sure what happened. | Hey everyone so here is the deal. I met this girl at a club about a month ago. We really hit it off that night, talked for about two hours and then I asked to kiss her and we proceeded to make out for a little bit. Got her number and talked to her non stop for about 3 weeks. She lives 100 miles away which really sucks, but I told her whenever I have off work I'd try to see her and she said she would do the same for me. Last week we went on our first date to a local bar by her house to grab food and a beer. It was a really pleasant night as we proceeded to kiss more at the bar. Went back to her place and started making out which she starts telling me she doesn't want to have sex on the first date which I said was totally fine. She blew me and when I tried to satisfy her she just told me she would take care of me. I leave in the morning with a goodbye kiss and told her I had a great time and she did also. About two days later I get a text saying how she isn't sure if she can trust guys or even likes guys because how many times she got screwed over. She also said she "doesn't know what she is feeling right now". I said for what it's worth I care about her and that I'm a genuinely good person. I told her listen I can't force you to trust me so whenever you are ready I am here and if she wanted I would be down to just be friends because she is a cool person. She said "ok thank you". No contact now for a few days, wondering on what to do here. Thanks for reading. | Went on awesome first date, said she doesn't really trust guys. No contact for a few days, this sucks. |
t3_3xfk14 | relationships | My [18f] boyfriend of 1.5 years [18m] can't say "I love you" | Hi, first post on Reddit! I'm on mobile so sorry for any mistakes.
I've been dating this guy for about a year and a half. Let's call him C. Now C is everything I want in a guy. He's sweet, he's handsome, he cares about me and we fit together really well. There's just one problem. He can't say "I love you".
I should mention that C is not the best at communicating when it comes to feelings. I can tell if he's sad or angry, but when I ask if I can help he says he can work it out himself. So I just let him go and usually he's fine. He has opened up to me a bit since we started dating.
I'm also C's first real relationship. I had a boyfriend before we started dating, but he was emotionally abusive and I wasted almost two years of my life with him. Enough said.
And it's not like C doesn't try. He will always tell me how much he likes and cares about me. But he always avoids the word love. Sometimes I'm okay with it but other times it really bugs me. Sometimes it bothers me so much that if he says he loves something (like a tv show or food) I feel hurt. I know it's irrational.
It should be known that I have tried talking about this with C but it seemed to just make him even more confused. I also told him that I love him (I do) but I feel guilty every time I say it because I feel like I'm forcing him to say it back.
Other than that C's great. He's really good to me and really does care about making me happy. He's my boyfriend and my best friend rolled into one, I couldn't ask for more. | I have an amazing boyfriend but he just can't say the words "I love you". Thoughts? |
t3_qbugy | relationships | I felt paranoid, I read his texts. I was right all along. | Hey reddit. To start off with, 17f dating 20m. Long distance relationship. Well, We've been together for a year and four months. I've been paranoid the most part of this relationship. He's always been the sensitive one. Sometimes a bit of a pushover. Amazing for the most part.
Made me lovely handmade cards, given me one of the most sentimental belongings he has, bought me things, lent me money. Just really the most amazing boyfriend I thought.
Recently, he left his phone in a taxi before heading home so tonight the taxi driver dropped it off. I did tell him, I wouldn't look through his texts. Paranoia got the better of me. I wish I hadn't looked. He recently, sent text to this girl saying that he fancied her and that he was more kinkier than her. Also wishing she was outside his window. I have spoken to him about this.
I know I've broken his trust looking through his phone. He said he was wondering what her "motive" was. But he's just done much worse. I don't want this relationship to end. I love this boy to pieces and we've been through so much together. Reddit, any advice for me? :( | Boyfriend cheated, I'm left heartbroken, he's more interested in clubbing then trying to sort this mess out. |
t3_4bsw6d | relationships | So today I [16 M] was at a school performance (band) and a cute classmate [15 F] who I'm friends with (and have been since ~November) puts her head on my shoulder | So yeah we were at a band concert waiting in the auditorium seats and she kept resting her head on my shoulder. After the first time I rested my head on hers all movie-style and once made to put my arm around her.
Hint; I'm awkward and only had one previous relationship.
Is she just being a confusing girl or flirting or hinting or what? I also got her phone number and we have Snapchatted some so it isn't like we barely know each other. We sat together with some other of our friends at Basketball/Football games since we would play in Pep-Band. | I'm an awkward highschool guy and a cute girl rested her head on my shoulder. Ofc I have no clue what to do. What does it mean?!? |
t3_4dnm7t | dogs | [Fluff] Sometimes I wonder what I did to get my sweet old man. | I have had my love-bug Nicholas for a while, abut 9-10 years this October, and I seriously cannot thank him enough for being such a good boy... even if he does have separation anxiety. I suppose this is somewhat a letter to him, as I have to thank him for all he's ever taught me, like understanding with others when he tolerated, even tried to help the foster dogs who have walked through my house, the cats I've saved and how he tried to befriend them (actually fell in love with one haha!), and not to mention how he still loves me unconditionally when I even have a bad day and do yell at things (sometimes him) and don't mean it. I always remember when we first picked him up, he was a puppy mill rescue dog, and he was just so little I adored him to pieces. I held him in the red towel we had left over and snuggled him as my mom drove to the nearest ShopRite to pick up some essentials. I held him so close to me and smiled the first time that year, and adored him so much.
I suppose this is also a letter to him, saying I know i am getting a puppy, who is more mine than the family dog, but it doesn't mean I love him any less. I want to thank him in advance because I know how sweet he'll be, bringing bones to my future puppy, as well as letter her (or him) share the big dog bed or have it. In turn, I hope that my future puppy will be just like him (minus the separation anxiety haha!), and will just carry on the sweet disposition as he has. | I am thankful for my old dog Nicholas, for teaching me, for being around me in my life, as well as for what the future holds and how he'll help whoever walks in through the front door. Remember to hug your dog today, as they appreciate it no matter what happens in their life or yours. |
t3_1jnmgi | relationships | I'm[21F] worried he[26M] only wants a casual thing/might pick someone else | I've been dating a really amazing guy for about a month and even though we aren't exclusive, I'm not seeing anyone else. This is partly because I just find it exhausting to see multiple people at a time, partly because I just don't get that many offers, and partly because I genuinely like him and don't feel the need to shop around at the moment. But because we aren't exclusive and it's been such a short time, I'm pretty sure he's seeing someone else. (Somewhat unrelated but still relevant: I am also concerned that he's a little uncomfortable with the age difference and the fact that I'm not already on a career path, although I am motivated and want to go on to graduate school in the near future and then get a real career.)
My main problem is that I'm constantly afraid he'll pick the other girl. I don't need something serious immediately, but I do want to be in a serious relationship sooner rather than later. I could see myself getting serious about this guy, which makes it harder to ignore the fact that I'm probably being compared to this other girl all the time. Furthermore, I feel like addressing the fact that I've figured out he's seeing someone else and it makes me uncomfortable/jealous will make him think I'm escalating the relationship too quickly and drive him away. I really don't want to stop seeing him, but I'm afraid I'm going to get hurt in the long run. I have no idea what to do. Any advice? | How do you say, "I want to take this slow but I also want to be serious in the near future?" How do you deal with knowing a great guy will probably pick someone else? |
t3_2of15t | relationships | I [26M] ended a 3 year relationship with my GF [25F] 2 months ago and I'm feeling more miserable than ever. Is this normal? | Last year my GF moved country to start a new job so I happily followed since I loved this girl with all my heart. I struggled with the new language, getting settled and ultimately finding a career so I came back home 4 months to continue my career here.
We had done the long-distance thing a little before but this time it was hell. It was torture for both of us. After two months of this nightmare stress I decided to end things. There was no fulfillment anymore, no happiness and we were gaining nothing from the relationship. She was obviously heartbroken but ultimately she agreed it might be best.
Now two months later, I'm miserable. I think of her every minute. I miss her, I want her, I feel like I need her. She had everything I look for in a partner. Everything! But I know our relationship couldn't have lasted. We both had issues that made eachother incompatible. She's a planner, I'm laidback. She can be jealous, needy and admittedly manipulative. They're traits I cannot live with. But no matter what, I still can't get her our of my head. She's so stunning, smart, creative, talented.
I stupidly slept with some girl last weekend and I cried like a little girl the second she left. The sex was alright but it just felt so hollow; meaningless.
Did I do the right thing? Is it normal for me to feel these things eventhough it was ultimately me who pulled the trigger? Her birthday is this week and all I want to do is buy her the best, biggest, most meaningful gift I can but I know I can't and it hurts so much. Help anyone? | I broke up with my GF and it hurts a lot more than I thought it would. No feelings of liberation, only misery and doubt. Normal or have I made a mistake? |
t3_198t5h | relationships | [17m] need some advice with how to act around other people | I've run out of options and im not even sure if this is the right place to even put this, but here is goes. Well just a little back story, I have been home schooled my entire life, grade 1 through 12. I guess I really just don't know how to act around other people, emotionally, physically and verbally, if that makes any sense. I might hug someone when its not the right time, or maybe just shut down and say or do something stupid. I have tried to make friends in the past and have had pretty good success, but it never lasts very long, maybe because I don't know when, or how to keep in contact with them, and they eventually drift away. Anyway, getting to the point, there is this girl that I have know sense 8th grade, lets call her jenna, because thats her real name. Since the day I met her, there was this spark between us, but we never really acted upon it. A couple of months ago, I finally told her how I really felt about everything and that I wanted to be more then just friends. We're dating now, but in all of our conversations, I always try and keep is as short as possible because honestly, I have no clue what to say. If she asks a question, Ill always answer but, I just, I don't know how to be, I dont know, Interesting, I know thats probably not the right word but I could really use some help. Sorry that was so long and for any typos/ spelling, my phones screen is too small to see well. | Socially awkward guy who has been in a relationship for two months and still has no communication skills what so ever, and would like to change that |
t3_34fw3d | relationship_advice | [30/m] with [28/f] girlfriend. She has trust issues or something and is acting like a child. | I am a pretty happy go lucky guy with a lot of free-time. Gf works a lot and occasionally puts in long hours. Here is where it goes south and then i turn into the shady selfish boyfriend per gf. I Tell her I am going to golf and won't have my phone with me, but will text when I am finished. Next thing I know the round is taking forever and we are finishing 4-5 hrs after we started. Text GF back that we just finished and she is pissed that I didn't take my phone with me and goes on silent mode. This can't be healthy right? | GF can't seem to go 4-5 hrs without talking to me and thinks I am a shady/selfish boyfriend if something like that happens. |
t3_v2bz3 | relationships | Need help navigating a new relationship with a recently divorced guy [F-24 and M34] | Hey Reddit,
I am struggling with a new relationship and what to do. I [F-24] have been dating a guy [34] since October. We both felt a lot of chemistry for each other when we started dating, but he is recently divorced (just over a year) so we agreed to take things slow.
We have been hanging out about once a week since October and our time together is really nice. He is sweet, funny, smart, and the sex is amazing. The problem is that I do more of the setting up dates - he is sometimes slow to reply to texts and e-mails. When I went away for several weeks, he only e-mailed me once after I had already been gone a week and sent him two e-mails. But then when we see each other, he is always very sweet and seems really into me.
My feelings for him have started to get more serious over the past few months and I'm struggling with how to deal. I don't want to keep at this once/week pace and not hear from him for days on end. I'm ready for this to be more of a relationship. I tried bringing up my feelings recently, and he said I was really important to him but he is struggling with being in a new relationship and what love means due to the end of his marriage. He changed the topic really quickly, and it was late so I didn't want to push it.
Since then, he hasn't responded to a text I sent 24 hours ago asking him if he'd like to spend time together this weekend. I know he has his phone on him most of the time, so I feel upset that he is just ignoring it. Should I just completely back off and make other plans for the weekend? Push for a conversation or send him an e-mail to let him know how I feel?
What do reddit? | Been dating a recently divorced man since October. My feelings have progressed, but I can't tell what's going on with him or how I should deal with it. Do I push for a conversation, or back off? |
t3_3yyurw | tifu | TIFU by being an 18yr male w/painted nails | My fuck up was today. I (white cis-middle class male) had a couple days previously had the nails on my left hand painted black by a friend of a friend as a joke. My friend also had his painted, but had it taken off right away. I kinda liked it (not gay, just keep an open mindset about stuff) so i kept it because fuck it, why not? I didn't try to hide it from my parents who are conservative Catholics (i'm an antinatalist atheist), but they didn't say anything so I thought maybe they were gonna respect one of my choices for once. This was very incorrect. Three days later, when i'm browsing reddit about to go out for new years (its 6:00 CST in Minneapolis) my mom sees me typing with my left hand and gasps from the stairwell while looking into my room. She runs in grabs my hand and starts screaming. "What is this? Not in this household! Who do you think you are!!! This isn't fucking 'cool' you idiot." She forces my hand into the sink and drowns my hand in rubbing alcohol and starts scrubbing furiously while mumbling insanely to herself. She's probably not gonna let me go out anymore, but anyways fuck that bitch. | TIFU because my mom "caught" me, an 18yr old male, with black nails and flipped shit. Mandatory Happy Fucking New Years Reddit!!! |
t3_1k99in | relationships | Me [M/18] and my [F/18] going on 2 years relationship and getting bored and jealous of single friends. Advice ? [M/18] and [F/18] | So I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and things are very settled down now. We see each other almost every day and are currently house sitting for 2 weeks. Recently i have been finding myself becoming more and more bored of our relationship. This is my first girlfriend and was my first everything (female friend, kiss, sex ect), i was the first of my social group to start seeing a girl and over the last year my friends have started to catch up. I found myself becoming jealous of my friends who get to go out to the pub/bar and hit on girls and take them home, or flirt with girls at parties.
There have been times where a girl has shown interest in me, and it's only due to the fact that i forgot to mention my girlfriend to them. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, and i do feel guilty thinking the way I do.
My girlfriend doesn't have many friends, she gave most of them up once we started getting more serious and is very dependent on me. My girlfriend has had previous boyfriends and is pretty sure she wants to stay with me, marry me, have kids in the future. I'm not going to lie but that does sound nice, but i feel like i am missing out on my teenage years of enjoying life by tying myself down to one girl at such a young age.
Half of me wants to stay with her because she makes me happy, then 5 minutes later we are arguing over some pointless shit and i hate being around her. I'm honestly so confused right now and don't know what to do, i am honestly just looking for opinions on my current situation and if others can relate to me. | 50% want to stay with gf and 50% want to enjoy life while i'm young. Confused about what to. |
t3_3e8d9c | relationships | My best friend (19 M) has feelings for me (19 F), and I have feelings for him too, but I'm not sure if I should risk our friendship for something more. | Okay, so Jeff (not his real name) and I have known each other for most of our lives. He's been there for me through everything, through terrible breakups, my dogs dying, my beautiful niece being born, my acceptance to college, literally everything. It wasn't until he went away to college last year that I realized I had feelings for him. I was afraid to tell him for multiple reasons, I wasn't sure he felt the same towards me, and I was scared he would stop being my friend, but when he came back home this summer, he confessed his feelings for me. I was ecstatic. We've done nothing but spend time together since he's been back, but I'm still too afraid to commit for the fear of losing the only person who knows absolutely everything about me.
Jeff and I have been best friends for years, is it honestly worth the risk of losing our friendship for the chance at true love? | Best friend confessed his feelings for me, I'm scared of losing our friendship for a potential lifelong partner. I'm not sure what to do. Advice? |
t3_18xxyw | self | My Uncle pisses me off and how do I learn to blow things off and not ruminate on them? | I am finishing up college and currently I live with my Mom and two other family members. One of them is my Uncle. He is a good guy at heart and has lots of great stories from his golden years but I'll admit he irritates the shit out of me. He has the shortest fuse out of anybody I know and is probably one of the most downright arrogant people as well. When he talks to me and anyone else, a lot of the times, he talks down, as if he is speaking with a subordinate or someone lesser than. A lot of times when people say something is first reaction is "No" and then he proceeds to correct you, without even conceding that he may be wrong in the first place. In general, I just don't like his tone and the way he carries himself. Sometimes I think he's alright and then others I just wanna tell him to go blow a tranny.
Like, for example, tonight I walked into the kitchen and we started a casual conversation about where I was going. I told him that I was heading to get a Hookah (tobacco smoking device) and all of a sudden the conversation went from casual to an interrogation with him making judgmental faces and saying "You don't think smoking is a big deal?". This was after I told him that it wasn't a big deal, just something I like to do to mellow out with buddies.
Anyways, any tips on how to deal with people like this and how to blow people off and just be more thick skinned in general?
Thanks NEEDED TO VENT! | My uncle is a controlling, arrogant, asshole and I wanna know how to just blow him off and not let him get under my skin so much. |
t3_2oqun7 | tifu | TIFU by jinxing my cousin. | My cousin recently came over from Vietnam and one of the first things he was able to accomplish was getting his drivers license. He passed the driving test in one try and would not stop boasting about it (I failed my first driving test for going 10 miles under the speed limit for being too nervous). Fast forward a week he wants to drive me everywhere now and so I device to let him drive me to the gym. We approach this light and I kid you not, he stops at a yellow light which he had plenty of time to pass, and decides to go once the light had turn red. I definitely felt unsafe in his car and said, "well shit man with the way you drive, I'll bet 100$ that you'll crash before we even get home." and at this exact moment after I said this, he stupidly avoids a car two lanes away while making a u turn and makes a full impact into a tree on my side, so my head slaps against the glove compartment and bounces right back into the seat like a boomerang, and now I'm over here trying to comprehend what had just happened while waiting for the tow truck to arrive. | my cousin sucks at driving, miraculously passes driving test from playing gta5 all day, my life was put in danger from his driving skills that are equivalent to a raccoon. |
t3_uf9ti | AskReddit | Once a cheater, always a cheater? Women/men of reddit.... | I recently came clean to my boyfriend that I had cheated on him while he was away on vacation at the beginning of our relationship. We've been dating for 3 years and like every relationship, have had our ups and downs. I'd always said that I would never cheat on a SO because my father had cheated on my mother. While he was gone, I got lonely and couldn't control myself, and I was still getting use to the fact I had a boyfriend. I didn't think about telling him because it was so close to the beginning of our relationship that I discredited the significance of that night. We're ok now, but it feels good to have come clean. What have your motives been for cheating on your SO? | Cheated on my boyfriend at the beginning of our relationship, just told him. Motives: new relationship, new bf gone, lonely and horny.....what have your reasons for cheating been? |
t3_oa5qo | AskReddit | Am I being unreasonable for throwing away his clothes? Please hear me out. | So I have been living with my SO for a little over five years now. Here's the deal, there's a stack of laundry in the bedroom that never goes away and seems to just grow and grow and now it's finding it's way into the hallway! I have asked him hundreds of times to clean it up but it feels like it's going in one ear and out the other. I have even washed it all (almost six loads of laundry) with the promise he would put it away but it's still sitting in those hampers next to the door.
A lot of this is just old clothes he has had since High School and College (He's almost 30). He has plenty of new clothes that he wears and keeps in a separate pile on the floor or in the walk in closet that is completely full with even more of his clothes. God, you always hear the stereotype that women have too much clothes but he seriously has more clothing than I do.
So here's the | am I being unreasonable or crazy by coming home early from work, gathering this stuff up and just throwing it away? (Well donate to Good Will) I can't get him to get rid of it, I can't get him to clean it up and on principle I just don't want to clean up after my giant man child anymore. |
t3_3zh7ni | askwomenadvice | (M 21) Not sure if this girl(21) is attracted to me | I understand these questions get asked a lot, but i am curious as to wether or not a girl i know is attracted to me.
I've met this girl twice through being out with mutual friends, and each time we have gotten on very well. The second time, we hung out all night and ended up going to the bar the next afternoon and stayed out till closing time. I did notice though, this girl likes to get close to me. She gives me nudges, holds onto me while we walk and rests her head on my shoulder when we sit.
She even asked me back to her house just as she was getting dropped off by the taxi. I did go back, but when i told her i had to leave to go to work she insisted i phone in sick. I'm not really sure what to make of it as I'm quite inexperienced at this. | girl i've hung out with twice quite touchy feely.Asked me back to her place |
t3_21w6ew | relationships | I (M16) have feelings for my (F16) best friend | She and I have been friends for about a year and three months, around Christmas time I discovered we had mutual feelings for each other and we hung out everyday (well, we were in theater together but spent most of that time either talking or sitting in compassion able silence) and then the shit hit the fan, I guess she finally figured out that it wouldn't work because I am atheist and she is pretty Christian and we stopped talking. For like a month I had no one to talk to except another girl who I barely knew and most of the time I was venting. But I guess we put that behind us and started afresh, and now it's now and I really like her, I think I may be in love (that could also be my puberty shit (kinda hope it is)) and so I come to you having asked all of my friends and they didn't understand I was hoping maybe someone who has been in a similar situation could shed some light on this clusterfuck I have got myself in to | best friends, liked eachother, religious differences, shit hit fan, back besties again but I still like her |
t3_48ne4n | jobs | Asked her to coffee, she asked me to bring my resume...Is this an interview??? | Hey r/jobs!
I am hoping to get some much-needed advice- I have been in contact with an organization over the past few months about an internship program for this summer. They run it every year, but this year they were a little delayed in releasing the internship information- I have emailed 2 people on three occasions, and was told that the information would be released in the last week of February. As of today, no information has been released.
However, this is my week off from school and I happened to be in town, so I decided to email the VP again and asked to take her out for coffee (maybe this was too forward of me, rookie mistake!) - purely to talk a little more about what the organization does. I'm very interested in their research, and she knows I am very interested in a position as an intern.
She suggested we meet at 10 AM tomorrow, and to bring my resume. I am really nervous because I'm not sure if this is an interview or not. Any tips/advice/anecdotes? | Asked Vice President of organization out to coffee, she asked me to bring my resume. Is this an interview? |
t3_1a8o2w | relationships | Is [M/19] just having a bad day with me [F/16] ? | We've been together for 2 years and 4 months. I just had my hair dyed, and I got the courage to put it down for him (I have insecurities and I hate my hair.) He didn't say anything about it today, which is weird because he always tells me how cute I am with it, etc. Today I went over to his house to watch Skyfall. (I hate movies; gave this a 4/10.) He says nothing as I walk in, and sets his laptop up to the TV. I watch it, calling it stupid/cliché to every action movie ever (my fault) and we watch the 2.5 hour movie on complete opposite sides of the room, while I casually hope he comes over to be you know, affectionate. He doesn't. I don't go for him because at this point I'm disappointed. So we basically ignore each other.
Movie is over, he's got an hour before work. He gets ready and I wait for him. He asks if I'm ready to be taken to his work (My grandparents met up to get me from there). I nod, still slightly pissed he was acting weird. I really just wanted a hug...something. I get nothing. We don't talk on the way to his work. I start to feel tears burning my eyes but he doesn't notice.
We get to his work and I get out to wait. He sits on his phone, I tell him today was a waste (I could have been out doing chores for my grandparents) and he says nothing. I sit on the curb, eyes ready to flow, and he was just...so distant and cold.
I just checked Facebook, and he posted a status like, "...currently working towards a future that I'm starting to not want to be a part of. " And then sent me a text along the lines of "learn to be something other than an ungrateful bitch." Which felt HORRIBLE, and something he's never done. And we were so happy the last few days. I have no idea what it is. I don't care if it was his fault or mine. I want to make it better. | Boyfriend was distant and ignoring me, and called me names. Is it a bad day or is this how he genuinely feels? |
t3_b5o5m | relationship_advice | My future children may be preventing their own conception. | My wife and I have been trying to conceive for the last couple weeks. I am 28 and she is 27. Our lives are in order. We have a modest home, both have reasonable paying jobs, no debt besides our mortgage and supportive families. Ever since I was a child, I knew I wanted a family and still do. There's no doubt I find the prospect of parenthood intimidating, but I'm sure everyone feels that way.
So here's the problem. Lately I've lost all interest in sex. This is very unusual because normally I would describe my appetite as voracious (multiple times a day), but I just can't get excited anymore. Not flirting with my wife, not porn, not even my imagination can get me going. I still perform at her request but it's purely a physical reaction to direct stimulation; I'm just not into it. Most times I can ejaculate but the volume is much less than normal. I've talked with my wife about this but there isn't anything she can do. She has no insight to share and if I can't get myself worked up, there's no chance of her doing it.
So here I am with my throwaway, seeking the advice of the fathers of reddit. Have you guys felt like this? How long did it take to get over it? (if at all?) What can I do? | The anxiety caused by fear of parenthood is negatively impacting my sex drive. |
t3_1scdcj | relationship_advice | On a scale of 1 to creepy, how weird would it before me (18/M) to invite a new friend (18/F) on a trip? [xpost from /r/relationships] | I should state from the outset that I have zero romantic intentions here. (I've got a girlfriend I'm steady with.) I just think it'd be fun to have her along, and adding one/two more people would help cost savings as well for hotel rooms.
Anyway, background. My friends and I have been planning a trip to Canada for a monthish now, for over break once fall quarter ends. It's 6 of us right now, four guys, two girls, possibly a third. I only know one of the people on this trip well (but he's a great friend). We plan on staying up there for three days/two nights, but might abridge it to two days/one night. We're taking a bus up, and staying in hotels with 4 people to a room, split by gender. The trip is about 2 weeks out at this point.
There's a girl in one of my courses this quarter who I didn't really start talking to until the last few weeks. It's just been chit-chat whenever we bump into each other on campus/online, but we do have friends in common, and we have talked about hanging out sometime.
Would it be weird to invite her (plus a mutual friend perhaps, if that possibly a third from above falls through) on this trip? I'm thinking it's more on the yes-that's-creepy side, but I'd like your input here, since I feel like it'd be fun if it did work out. She seems to be more familiar with the area we're visiting than we are, too. Thoughts? | I'd like to invite someone I just met on a trip, partially to get to know them better, partially because having more people is fun. But I feel like it could be weird/creepy to do so. |
t3_2wm4bo | dating_advice | Tips on how to turn my friend into my girlfriend! | I've known this girl for a while now, maybe 6-7 years now. We met through a mutual group of friends and were part of a co-ed soccer team with said friends.
I had a girlfriend at the time, and another friend in the group was interested in her. Admittedly, I found her very attractive and we had a lot of good vibes together even though we were both with other people. She and the guy started dating and he'd often feel angry and accusatory of her being too close with me.
I didn't want to mess up our group vibe anymore, so we kept a healthy distance from each other, though when we did have the chance to talk, I always felt something more for her.
Fast foward to present day... she moved out of the state to attend yale for a phd., and broke up with the guy. I broke up with my girlfriend and have been thinking of her constantly. I don't really keep in touch with this girl and don't know how to start something up. Luckily, I do have the means to fly around the country when I need to; so I would love to fly in and hang out with her. However, I'm afraid that it will seem creepy or crazy....
Please help me reddit! | How can I get together with this girl, who's out of state, after no contact for a while? |
t3_3muq5c | tifu | TIFU By Laughing at My Girlfriends Dad | TIFU: This happened several months ago, I'm sure you guys will give me crap about it. Anyway...
I started dating a girl and we got pretty serious pretty fast. I wanted to meet her family after hearing so much about her crazy dad. My girlfriend was always telling me about how her dad would always make up ridiculous stories, so if he said anything that seemed like bullshit, it was in fact bullshit.
My girlfriends dad has a wicked sense of humor, which is strange since he is a pastor. I am terrified that I'm going to make a bad first impression, but my girlfriend keeps reassuring me that I'll be fine. We get to the restaurant, I meet her dad, and within the first five minutes of meeting this guy he says that he abuses women. My face went from happy new puppy to deer in headlights real quick. My girlfriend reassured me he was bullshitting so we move on and so does dinner.
I hold steady conversation with her parents and we start talking about education and career paths. My girlfriend's parents both have Masters degrees so it was interesting to hear what they had to say about school. My girlfriends dad said he couldn't believe how well he did for himself as a high school dropout. Knowing that the man has a Masters degree I erupt with laughter. No-one else at the table laughs. He actually was a high school dropout, he got his diploma and got through college. Cue me apologizing dozens of times. Finished dinner with her parents and drove back to school feeling like a complete idiot. Fast-forward almost a year later her parents love me. I still get crap for laughing at her dad the first time I met him though. | Met my girlfriends dad, who is a professional bullshitter, for the first time. He mentioned being a highschool dropout, I laughed. He really was a highschool dropout. |
t3_37ff7h | tifu | TIFU By offending someone I admire at my favorite anime convention ever | This is my first post to TIFU, but I think it's a good one because I'm still crying about it....
Here goes.
This past memorial day weekend was FanimeCon. It's my favorite convention ever, and this year I was lucky enough to staff it.
An Internet celebrity often goes there to staff a booth in Dealers hall, and I like to stop by and say hi and try to impress him because I'm an idiot.
This past Sunday, I stopped by and said hello, and took up twenty minutes of his time trying to be funny, and made an off colour joke about Monty Oum that was made in the r/rwby subreddit after he died. I then kept making bad jokes. He said nothing, and there was a line. I left a few minutes later not realizing what an asshole I'd been.
Today, I'm browsing tumblr, and I see a post about how someone had offended him at the Con. I frown and think, "Now what idiot did that?" I click read more, and find out, lo and behold, it's me! I'm the asshole! And he's going to report me to the staff people because I made an off color joke and made him very angry.
I was just trying to be funny in a dark humor sort of way. I wanted to make someone who made me laugh, laugh. And now I've gone and fucked it up because I'm socially awkward and don't know when to stop talking. I didn't know I'd angered him, because he didn't say anything hoping I'd go away.
I don't think he'll ever want me to say hi at the convention again, and I'm pretty sure I've pissed off a lot more people because he posted about it on twitter and tumblr. I apologized to both him and his wife on twitter, but I'm fairly certain he hates me now.
And since he's going to report me, I might not get to staff the con next year, all because I'm an idiot who doesn't know when to stop talking.
I apologized via Tumblr and Twitter, but he probably won't see it. I hope he does, because I want him to know how sorry I am. | Made very bad joke about Monty Oum dying to an Internet celebrity who I think is absolutely amazing. Pissed him off without meaning to instead. Am very sorry about it. |
t3_2vb6jq | travel | First time traveler visiting Asia alone from May through June | I am a 20 year old male from Sweden, I have traveled quite a bit despite my (relatively) young age. I have been to USA, Kenya, Russia, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania, Finland, Netherlands, Denmark.
The thing is, I have been with my family and/or friends during these trips. However, I feel as if it would be fun to go on a trip alone. I have been working to save up about 5000€ and flights have so far been calculated to about 1k€.
My idea at the moment is to visit Japan for about two/three, then South korea for about two/three weeks, Taiwan for a single week, Thailand for two weeks, and Hong Kong for another week before returning home.
Simplified: Japan -> South Korea -> Taiwan -> Thailand -> Hong Kong.
I am sort of lost however in what activities would interest me, I mean, I really am fascinated by asian culture, and there are many things that I would like to see, but scimming through the older threads doesn't really get me less confused-
With the budget of 4000€ i would have about 66€ per day for living expenses, food, souvenirs, activites. Is this reasonable, or do I need to make my budget larger?
I work in a kitchen, and am very interested in asian cuisine, however, I am not too entirely sure what would be something that I ~cannot~ miss when visiting each country, as I want to make as much of the trip as possible, it doesnt have to be fine dining, but something that is essential to each countrys or cities kitchen.
I would also like to visit shrines and historical places, which I think will be manageble by the various travel books. But something that could be a bit more difficult is that I am also interested in seeing the nightlife of these countries. I enjoy seeing fucked up shit so I guess Japan will be good for that, but I've also heard that the yakuza control quite a bit of who is to enter or not, and will this be a problem as a westerner? | I would like any advice to what places I could visit in any of these countries and some advice on what would be wise for a solo traveler in these large cities. |
t3_r12j1 | dating_advice | Need advice about when/if I should bring up my rare disease | I'll try to make this as brief as possible. A few years ago, I was diagnosed with a rare genetic disease that, for right now, just causes the skin on my neck to look a bit strange. However, it will likely result in me being legally blind by middle age, and I am at an increased risk for cardiovascular and gastrointestinal problems as I age.
Due to unrelated reasons that probably deserve their own post, I am a mid-20s female and have only recently started dating.
Anyway, my questions are: How far into the dating process should I bring this up? It doesn't really seem like a conversation to have on the first (or even first few) dates, but the neck skin is probably going to be noticed if I am at all intimate with someone. Should I wait to be asked about it? What would you prefer if you were my date? Also, would you run screaming from someone with such a condition?
[Here's a photo of (someone else's) neck skin close up, if you're curious: . Mine isn't quite as noticeable, but this is the best photo I could find.] | My neck looks kind of like the photo linked above. When should I tell my dates why it looks that way? |
t3_3nknwd | relationships | How do I [22F] tell my dad [50M] that I'm not coming to his Christmas? | My father and I have had a rocky relationship but I can't ever really stay mad at him for long. He's battled a very bad drug addiction, jumped from relationship to relationship after he and my mother split, and has moved further and further away from me without letting me know until he's already purchased the property. Someone may recall a previous post of mine where I found out my father was engaged to his 27 year old girlfriend by her posting it on Facebook.
Anyways, my boyfriend and I went out to visit my dad (he lives in a different province now) and had a lovely visit. I thoroughly enjoy spending time with my dad. During the trip, my dad kept dropping hints about my boyfriend and I flying out for Christmas at his expense. Christmas is easily my favourite holiday (I am one of those crazy holiday loving people that decorate the entire house, even Christmas toilet seat covers) and I've always spent Christmas with my mom. My boyfriend also has Christmas obligations however he told my dad that we might go out to see him. I know my boyfriend was just trying to be nice but I kind of wish he didn't get my dad's hopes up. My dad has asked me several times over the years while he's been on his own or with new girlfriends that he wants me to spend Christmas with him.
I feel really bad because I love my dad but holidays to me always mean my mom. My dad means well but I do have some lingering issues from him leaving my mom on Christmas Day for another woman, all of the times he has disappeared to do drugs and just never showed up, etc.
I told him that my boyfriend and I have prior engagements but that isn't really doing much. He keeps saying that it would be nice for us to finally spend Christmas together, etc.
How do I let him down easy? | My dad always thinks everything is peachy and expects me to fly out to see him over Christmas. Need some advice on how to let him down easy. |
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