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t3_32gco4 | relationships | Me [22 M] told "not looking for anything serious" for the third time in a row. What's my problem? | So I've been dating several women over the past year, and I have been told a few things along these lines.
"You come across as a long term relationship kind of guy" or "You seem like you want something more serious than what I'm looking for."
Assuming that the dates I've gone on with these women have been a lot of fun (mutually) and we've enjoyed each others company (which I have been told), what makes me come across as a guy that's looking for something serious? I've never had a relationship for more than a few months and I have nothing against casually hooking up. It seems I have to physically tell every woman that I date that I'm not looking for anything particularly serious. | Why am I a serious relationship kind of guy? |
t3_4zrc1e | relationships | I [23F] want to go to a festival. My boyfriend [22M] says I should wait, for multiple reasons. I don't want to upset him | I really want to go to EDC Las Vegas 2017. It's bad enough I dream about it (I even hear EDM in the dreams), I plan and replan budgets, I watch countless videos (even the documentary)....it's safe to say I'm obsessed. It's one of those things that you didn't know existed, and then when you discover it you wonder where it has been your whole life. I've never even been to a festival/rave/EDM concert (although I've been interested), yet the words "under the electric sky" give me goosebumps.
My boyfriend (who I've known for many years but have been dating for six months) doesn't really think I should go. I could afford it if I saved, I just would have to cut back on nonessentials (such as marijuana and fast food). He thinks I should wait another year, so that he can go with me and money wouldn't be as tight, but the thought of waiting 22 months instead of 10 is awful.
I have no problem going alone/with a group without him for this first time. In fact in some ways it'd be cool because I like some music genres that he doesn't and I could experience those without being worried about him not having fun.
But I also don't want to make him upset by going this next year by myself or make him think I'm financially irresponsible in any way.
I'm not sure what to think. I have no idea how to handle this, because on one hand it would make my whole year to go, but I don't want it to stress my relationship.
What would you do? | I want to go to EDCLV 2017. Boyfriend can't go, thinks I don't have enough money, and wants me to wait. I don't know if I can, but don't want to cause a rift. Thoughts? |
t3_op7d2 | AskReddit | What is the most irreverent thing you have done on accident? | Mine, While on a trip to Athens(which is my favorite city in the world) we were taking a walking tour at night and I had just got a green laser pointer and the tour guide was explaining the tomb of the unknown solider in front of this big building so I decide to shoot a laser at it to point it out(we were a long ways a way but you could see it) Then about 15 seconds later the guide tells me that is guarded 24/7. I had just shined laser at real guards with real guns. I felt like such a complete douchebag at least they didn't shoot me. | I shined a laser pointer at armed guards who were guarding the tomb of the unknown soldier(Athens) |
t3_31joc2 | relationships | What are my [21F] responsibilites towards my ill relative [40s M] who is now a house guest? | My relative fell ill a few months ago and has been diagnosed with a type of cancer. He is going through chemo at the moment and moved in with my and my mom as the specialist hospital is in our town.
I am a student and live at home with my mum however she works a lot and therefore isn't around for the day to day stuff.
I also work part time and have to study a lot to keep up with my classes.
I guess my question is, am I obliged to be my relative's carer? To cook fresh food for him everyday and keep his bedroom spotless? To ensure he is on top of all his medicines and to entertain him when I get home from work/school? [he has been here for 5/6 weeks now so not exactly a guest anymore]
Tbh, it's pretty exhausting and I have so much on my plate already, I don't want even more responsibilty.
To add: Relative's mother who is in her 60s has also moved in, so I don't understand why his care should fall onto me?? She is free the whole day and is retired btw, so plenty of time to cook etc. | Feel guilty at not doing much for sick relative, but then feel angry at being obliged to be his carer when I'm quite busy and have a lot of things to do. |
t3_4hylil | relationship_advice | Am I [22/M] loosing my time trying to get somewhere with her [19/F] ? | So I'll try to keep this short, I've been talking with a girl for a few months, we met online but we really get along and we met each other about a month ago, and it was great we had a great time.
Now the thing is how to take it to the next level, I've never had a girlfriend or something close to that so I need help on how to do it and not fail or appear needy. I try not to rush things to avoid making her uncomfortable but I think she knows I am interested in her but I don't know if she's also interested. She talks with me everyday and I try and support her when I can (Maybe I should avoid this ? Should I become just a little bit more distant ?) and she tells me I am the best and things like that but I am sometimes very clueless and probably she's using me, but I am not sure. | Want to take a friendship into something more, need advice on how to do it. |
t3_273so0 | relationship_advice | Am I being unreasonable or is she taking advantage of me? | I'm currently flatting/house sharing with a 3 tenants. I have no issues with 2 of them but recently one is starting to get on my nerves. I am the main tenant (as in only my name is on the lease) and I supplied all the furnishings.
I don't really have a written contract as we're all friends. House rules are pretty loose. In the beginning, I don't bother about some stuff. If they're bit short in cash and tell me about it, I let them pay rent and flat consumables a few days late. I've also told them that it's okay to leave dishes in the sink if you're rushing for the bus, but make sure they don't leave it for more than a day.
One of them constantly pays me rent 1 or 2 weeks late. Sometimes even a whole month late. But the thing is, every week or fortnight there's a package (from eBay) for her so I assumed that she has the cash for rent. I've told her many times to pay her rent on time, but she will do so for 2 weeks and then go back to her old untimely habit again.
Not only that, lately this tenant is also leaving dishes in the sink and constantly forgetting about them (or maybe on purpose as she knows I will wash it up). No one will wash these dishes and it will be there for a few days. If I confront her about it, she denies it was hers although I saw her put it there myself.
I finally got fed up with her and wrote a public note telling her to wash up after herself. Now she's angry at me because I'm assuming she's embarrassed that the other 2 housemates saw the note too.
So did I overreacted or was she just trying to take advantage of my leniency? | I wanted to be kind and helpful but I feel like people are just pushing the boundaries with me. |
t3_1igb0d | personalfinance | To raise my credit limit or not to raise my credit limit... | **Background:** I'm 24, I have two credit cards, one being just a few months old with a $500 limit, and the other (the one in question) was opened in Aug. 2007, and has a limit of $300 (had with $500 once, dropped to $300 in 2010 when I was in school and there is no record as to why). I always pay off any debt the month of, and my credit score is between 700-720 (checked a few months ago, but I have opened a new card since, and two landlords have checked on it).
**Question:** I want to raise the limit on the $300 one (from 2007), but I'm not sure by how much, or if by doing so I will hurt my current score. It would be great to be able to make larger purchases to redeem those points, as well as not be hurt by over utilizing my limit (not that I leave a balance on them for very long anyway, but I have been hurt by it before. | Should I raise the limit on my $300 limited credit card, and by how much? My credit scope is 700-720 range and I am 24. |
t3_2b77ax | Advice | i think my best friend's other friends are bad influences on him. how do i tell him? | my best friend and i have been best friends for 8 years and we are as close as brothers, he has been hanging out with this other group of guys for probably 5 years and they do drugs and drink to excess and stuff, my best friend and i like to party but they are dropping molly and acid and doing shrooms and coke and stuff, granted only on a once in a while basis but i think its bad and im worried he's going to get hooked. ive brought it up before that i dont like it and he just gets defensive and says he barely does it. i dont think he 's a drug addict but im worried it could lead to that. how do i address this with him? | my best friend is doing drugs with his other friends and i think they are a bad influence on him. how do i confront him about it? |
t3_1pdsi6 | relationships | My [21F] asexuality is causing problems with my boyfriend [22M]. | I'm asexual, and he is not. So when we are in the heat of the moment, and he is in the rush of feelings and hormones, I am in my usual state of mind.
I try to be into it, but it's very hard for me to do so, since I don't have adrenaline or anything helping me out. He wants me to take control and try different things, but like I said before, it's difficult for me to do it, and it kind of ruins the mood for us.
Sometimes, when the sex is really fast, everything seems okay, but when he wants to take things slowly, that's when it all seems to go wrong. It usually ends in him just masturbating and then cumming on me, which I don't mind, but I know it's not what he wants. Sometimes, it usually ends in one of us being annoyed and frustrated.
I like him a lot, and he says the same for me, but I feel like the relationship is doomed if we can't get over this.
Any advice | My boyfriend and I aren't sexually compatible, but he claims that he doesn't want to break up. I'm not sure how to proceed. |
t3_2waisz | relationships | I (M17) can't get over kiss with girl (F17) from a while ago. How do I move on? | Just to give some context, the hook-up was during schoolies, which is an Australian tradition where recently graduated high-school students go away somewhere for a week and party.
The hook-up happened while on schoolies with a girl I met there and ever since it happened (December '14) I can't stop thinking about her. The problem is that I'm almost certainly over-estimating the significance of the alcohol-fuelled make-out sesh but I can't get it out of my head that there might be something more there. There were a few other intimate moments that we shared that seemed more than just a casual encounter and indicated to me that she may have felt something special between us. Further to this, when I asked her friends about it, they said she responded to me differently than she did with other guys.
To further complicate matters, she lives about 3 hours away so there really isn't the option to see how things pan out and I think that's what's making me feel so lost about the whole thing. Basically, it feels really shit not being able to see if things would actually work out.
So, how do I get over this random drunk hook-up? Or how do I move things forward?
Is it just my inexperience and age that's making me cling to her because she's attractive and willing to kiss me, or is it actually something more than that...? | How do I get over drunk kiss with beautiful girl? |
t3_1dczi3 | running | Update to 'I want to run 10 marathons in 11 months' #4 | So I completed two marathons in eight days.
First off - Holy hell my tendons hurt. Left IT Band actually hurts in my glute. Didn't realize that was a possibility before.
Second off, training for multiple marathons this short of a time hurts something fierce. Looking at the training time and knowing that the higher time per mile is because the runs were half recovery half training was different.
So back to the race. I ran the [Coast to Coast Marathon] on Sunday. The most nonchalant marathon I've ever been a part of. The race organizer changed the course the morning of, we were running on a public use path that wasn't closed down, and the aid stations were public restrooms. The organizer did have to aid stations (course was like a figure eight, one side being short, one side being long) in the middle of the figure eight and at the end of the long loop.
Scenery was incredible. Short loop took us into the crappy parts of Venice Beach - Bums were arguing, people were drinking whiskey straight from the bottle at 10am, graffiti everywhere. Long loop took us past the volleyball courts (HOLY HELL CALIFORNIA HAS BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE), ocean side restaurants, the boardwalk, cross fitters, muscle beach, and various high end homes.
Course was flat, fast, and at sea level. Will definitely look Rocket Racing up when temps start to cool down. Potential for a PR here is very high.
I ended up finishing in 4:29, beating Oprah. In the process my left nipple bled through my tech tee and halfway down it. One woman I passed actually covered her mouth she was so horrified.
Decided not to do 3 marathons in 15 days. That is too much strain. Some other time when a better base is in place. | Completed 4th marathon, 2nd one in 8 days, got a bloody nipple, screw you terrorists. |
t3_3fch8j | relationships | Hi! I'm 18 (m) and there's this lifeguard (f) that I really really want to approach, what the hell do I say?! | So, my grandparents live in a condo that has a pool and what not. I like taking my younger siblings over there as much as possible, as I like spending time with them and my grandparents (I am currently in the delayed entry program for the marines, so spending time around my family and friends before I leave for not camp next summer is a big thing).
Anywho, there is this gorgeous lifeguard at the pool (which is private; usually just us), and my family and I have noticed that she looks at me a lot (hopefully she doesn't think I'm strange) and she also laughs a lot when I do something stupid, like a belly flop and whatnot.
Now, this all sounds a little childish, I know, but I have no clue what to say to her, I get the flutterbys when I try to talk to her. (I asked her if they had any tennis balls or anything we could use, and I was nervous as hell).
Everything I think of to start a conversation just seems stupid.
Do I shake her hand? What do I say?
I've seen that she reads quite a bit. I also overheard that she ran track, but I'm not sure what her name is or anything.
How do I approach this girl?!?!
Thanks all! | GORGEOUS LIFEGUARD, EMBARRASSED GUY CAN'T APPROACH, SEND HELP! |
t3_10j2kd | AskReddit | As an apartment renter, what are my rights to hiring a private contractor for plumbing? | I live in the Bay Area, CA and yesterday and today we've been experiencing backfilling from our tub. Came home from work yesterday and there was a waterline about 4 inches from the top of the tub but had since drained. Today the tub has backfilled again to about half full and seems to be slowly draining. We called yesterday to file a work order and stressed the importance of a fix needing to happen immediately but no plumber came. This morning we called again to provide more description and to remind them that this needed to be fixed. I just got off the phone (called around 2pm) with the property managers again and asked what the status was on our plumber since I was supposed to receive a call when they were coming. The task had not yet been assigned to anybody and the lady said that she would talk to the supervisor when he was due to come in (in approx. half an hour) since she could not get a hold of him and then I would receive a call. What are my rights to hiring a plumber on my own and billing my property management company for the services? This is not a minor plumbing issue and it seems that the water is backfilling from our neighbors using the water as well. Thanks in advance! | Plumbing issue not being responded to urgently enough and I want to hire my own plumber. |
t3_2k8bro | tifu | TIFU by eating a strawberry pop tart | So this goes back to when I was about 9-10. I was a normal child (liked video games' tv' etc). Well got hungry as I was a rather "obese" hah. So I go to the cabinet get out my pop tart sit at my kitchen table and bask in the glory of my mouth watering delicacy. So I'm halfway through the first pop tart and look down as I'm about to take another bite and see my sprinkles are moving....so I look closer and indeed they are...fucking ants...little red ants camouflaged under the red sprinkles...needles to say I spat that shit out quick and and washed my mouth out quick...never looked at pop tarts the same :( | ate a strawberry pop tart with ants on it...can't enjoy pop tarts for the rest of my life |
t3_2v5hmq | relationships | Me [28 M] with my sister [24 F] don't communicate. Need help with how to go about building a better relationship | My sister and I live in separate cities and never talk. I'd like to have a better relationship with her. Every week I send her an email inviting her to set up a time to talk on skype, and she always says okay, but then never actually shows up for our appointment. I've been doing this every week for almost 6 months. She either ignores my invite, or say okay, and then doesn't show up. When I call she doesn'y reply. Should I continue inviting her to talk or should I stop? How should I go about figuring out why she doesn't want to talk, and building a better relationship with her? | how to built a better relationship with my sister who doesn't reply to my phone calls. |
t3_u80lg | tifu | TIFU: Learned the hard way how hot Icyhot really is | I'm not gonna lie, I did it out of 80% curiosity, 20% an accident. I got what I thought was a small amount, and put it on myself in a nonsensitive area. That wasn't bad at all. In fact, I didn't really even feel it. So then I got to wondering, what would happen if I put a little bit on my balls? I'll tell you what happens- PAIN HAPPENS. For the first 15 seconds or so, it was a warm sensation that was a bit uncomfortable, but it was manageable. After that came a searing pain that can only be described as pouring lighter fluid on my junk and lighting a match. Immediately I started freaking out and ran to my shower, hoping that it it would feel better. I tried washing it off, but the damn stuff was already on my skin, so there wasn't much that I could do about it. I discovered that cold water made it feel a bit better, so I spent a good hour and a half in a freezing cold shower with my nuts on fire. | Icyhot burns like HELL in sensitive areas |
t3_4h50fl | relationships | Should I(M21) stay with my girlfriend(F19) | Hi Reddit. I really don't know if I should stay with my girlfriend. We have a relationship for more then 2 years. But I am doubting if I should stay in this relationship. I feel like she doesn't tread me well but when I discuss something with her, she is mosto of the time unreasonable. Let me give you guys some examples:
1.Last year me and my girlfriend were driving on our way to the theathers for a movie. On the way we talked about things and I said I watched a Demi Lovato (I like her as an artist and went once to a concert of her) clip where she covers Adele's Hello. Out of nowhere she started to freak out. She screamed at me that I should never watch her again. She was really mad. And that all because of a Youtube video.
2.Me and my friends want to go to a party later this month. My girlfriend is okay with it ONLY if i go with my friends. Because I have a friend who regulary brings his girlfriend with her. So if my friend brings his girlfriend, my girlfriend wont let me go to that party. And my girlfriend doesn't even know her like wtf.
3.Last year I had a internship at a small company with only female colleagues. And guess what? My girlfriend told me she didn't like her, even with out knowing them. And When I was at my internship I texted with my girlfriend. But when I didn't respond for a while for no good reason, she thought I had a good time with my female colleagues while my girlfriend didn't allow me to have a good time with my colleagues. And later on in the internship, I had a project for 2 weeks where I worked with some other colleagues from the same company but from other offices. Both male and female colleagues. When I told her I had that project, she wanted me to search only the females colleagues who are also working on that same project with me just to see if they are goodlooking.
Don't get me wrong. I am also not the perfect boyfriend and I made lots of mistakes during our relationship, but isn't this just a little too much? I really need some thoughts about this. | should I stay with my girlfriend after she regulary overreacts? |
t3_3wgrgm | relationship_advice | [22F] need some advice about my boyfriend [26M] regarding my terminally ill father and boyfriend. | We have been together for 3 1/2 years, and we have been talking about marriage. It isn't a foreign concept, but he would like to wait until we're older and have maybe graduated. It is perfectly logical and I would normally be okay with that. However, a few months ago, my father was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and it's terminal.
I want my father to see me get married and walk me down the aisle. I want my father to leave this world, knowing that I'm taken care of and in good hands. I think that having him walk me down the aisle would make him so incredibly happy. Especially since he didn't come back into my life until I was about 8. He has always regretted leaving me in the first place, and I just want him to know that I don't resent that, and that I love him.
However, the boyfriend is flat out refusing. He doesn't want to get married just because of my dad. I feel that is not what would be happening, since we have talked about getting married, moving, and getting a house someday. We've definitely talked about the future, he is just not ready to commit. I fear this might be a deal breaker, because I would always be upset that I never got my dad to walk me down the aisle. At the same time, I love this man with all my heart and I don't want to lose him. | I want to get married before my dad passes away from cancer, long-time boyfriend is refusing. Any advice? |
t3_3t1p1x | relationships | Me [28 F] divorcing when can I sleep with [34 M] my guy friend/sexually attractive , without being a cheater?? | Ok, so I'm going through a divorce right now. I was already unhappy with my marriage before I meet this person. However I meet him through a mutual activity my husband and I were both doing. SO we both know him. I haven't had sex with him in ANY way, both we have talked about it and I definitely want to. He is like a sexual beast.... in every way i find him attractive.
I know OBVIOUSLY there is a newness that is bringing some of the excitement, BUT I am coming out of an almost 10 year relationship and sex or intimacy have been in short supply. It actually plays a huge part in me wanting to leave the marriage. I long for connection and intimacy, through sex yes but other means as well.
My dilemma..... my future ex-husband and I are moving out at the end of the Dec. since our house just sold. We've going through with the divorce rather we work out our relationship or not, we've agreed on that, but when can I have sex with someone else? Isn't it obvious we aren't exclusive anymore? | Going through a divorce, when can I have sex with someone else? |
t3_3xuqtf | relationships | I [F29] am with my BF [32M] of 5 years, he is not ambitious at all, which freaks me out. | Long time lurker, first time posting here. Using a throwaway. Apologies if post becomes too long.
I have been in relationship with Jake for 5 years now, living together for last 2 years and have seen our share of up and downs.Last year or two I feel like he has stopped putting effort into our relationship/ life. He is not super ambitious type which is fine with me. But he is stuck in dead end job which he is not ready to give up. I have asked him to apply to other positions but it's never taken too seriously, for too long. We decided to take language courses together just to keep our minds fresh/ learn something new. New language skill can help both our careers. I finished two, while he hasn't completed a single. This was after deciding what he wants to do, language would not have been my first choice, but I tried. I am self-learner, I like to pick new challenges, keep improving myself. I don't see him doing the same. I have other examples which I can give but for the sake of anonymity [if someone needs I can provide]. It has caused friction between us for now an year.
Just for the other side of coin. He is attractive, has sense of humor, is very good with people, listens well, quite generous (looks after my "needs" first, or at-least makes sure equally contained!) and so on. But when it comes to life he has very laid back approach that freaks me out.
I just need an outside perspective. My friends know us well and I feel they cannot give that 3rd person view, without some prejudice. Not sure if this time for ultimatum. | BF's lack of ambition causing lot of resentment/ issues in relationship. Need perspective, is it time for ultimatum? |
t3_1wtm3l | relationships | I (22m) like this girl (21f) a lot and could use some advice | So, I've dated this girl in the past. We had a couple summer flings but went out own ways when school comes around. I suppose I've never taken our relationship THAT seriously but now were in the same town together for some time. I've been hanging out with this chick pretty regularly and she knows I'm interested in her and she said the same about me but here's the thing-
She has a boyfriend... which she didn't tell me about for some time. Hes never around at her get-togethers/parties (which is like once a week) and when she is around him she avoids telling me or lies about it (that doesn't really bother me).
So what should I do Reddit? Should I stop trying to talk to her and hang around as often? I feel like me being around her liking her as much as I do just puts me in a bad situation | what to do |
t3_134n9a | AskReddit | My friend is in a minimum security jail. What's good to put into a care package that won't get confiscated or is good to trade with other inmates? What's your jail story? | So we have a friend of ours who is a bit eccentric at times, and just one day we try to call him to go to the bars together, and his phone is off. We shrug it off until we keep trying to get in touch over the week and noticed that his phone was always off, and even going to his house, there was no answer and his car was there.
It was confirmed last night when I checked the local jail with his name and dob, he has no bail and it seems he has no release date as of yet. It's a county jail too.
He kinda did this to himself, by ignoring court dates, but at the same time I've heard how shitty it can be in there and I worry about him because he's a temperamental ginger sometimes. He's one of my boyfriend's best pals and I don't want him to think we've abandoned him in there or don't care about what he's going through. | What's good to put in a care package for prison and why for these items? |
t3_rdlwb | AskReddit | I'm house sitting alone and something really weird happened. Please advise. | So I'm looking after these people's home and they have me sleeping in their daughter's room. When I got home about half an hour ago, I noticed through a window that there was a light on, which was strange because I thought I turned them all off. Anyway, after I fed the pets (one dog and one cat), I go investigate, and it's the ceiling fan light in the daughter's room where I'm sleeping. This wouldn't be weird except that light apparently hasn't worked in years, and doesn't even have a functional lightswitch. The switch itself has actually been removed and there's just a plate in its place. I've just been using lamps. So I'm wondering how common it is for lights to spontaneously turn on like that before I really have a freak out. | Phantom lights in an empty house. |
t3_ritpg | dogs | Advice on persuasion of landlords | I am moving into my first apartment from dorms this summer, and I am really hoping to basically adopt my own dog (medium-large furry mutt) from home, as I know for a fact he is not getting the attention or care he needs. I am basically renting a very small utility apartment which is part of a large house owned and lived in by an middle aged couple. They (and therefore, I) have a wonderful back yard and two dogs of their own, so I know they are not dog shy. I have yet to talk to them about it, but I can foresee them having bad feelings about a college student with the huge responsibility of a dog- I know it kind of doesn't look good, but he is my dog; I already know how to take care of him and am specifically taking him in to give him a better home. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? | I want to have my dog at my apartment, hoping to talk landlords into it. |
t3_14li3s | relationships | Moving past infidelity - cheated on my[22m] girlfriend[19f] | Let me preface this by saying that my girlfriend and I are practically inseparable and that we spend most of our time together (we've been dating for six months). That being said, a few months ago I decided to let loose with a few friends and go get hammered at a local bar. We pregamed at a friend's and I could tell I was going to get really fucked up that night. Before long, a few girls came over and we started playing drinking games. The last thing I remember was taking several shots and going to the bar. When I woke up in the morning, I was at another friend's house and he told me that I had danced and made out with a girl I barely knew at the bar. I was absolutely mortified and I felt like utter shit. I told my girlfriend what had happened the same day and she was understandably very upset. It was difficult but we are starting to move past it I think. She still brings it up every once and awhile because she's obviously still hurting but I know that she cares very deeply for me.
This girl means everything to me and I can see us spending the rest of our lives together. Even still, not a day goes by when I don't feel like scum and like an awful, stereotypical representation of my gender. What makes it so much worse is that she has been cheated on before by her exes (although they were sober and had sex with other girls)... I never thought I could be capable of hurting someone I loved so much and, when I first started dating her, I wanted to be the guy that was different and maybe even the guy who could reestablish her faith in men.
I always try to be the nice guy and I really want to make this work, but it's clear that there is still some mistrust.
Thanks for having the patience to read my story. My question to you guys is: Can people ever move past something like this and be happy? | Dating for six months. Cheated on my girlfriend and regret it more than anything. Can I save the relationship? |
t3_35lmrj | relationships | Should I [19/f] tell my best friend [19/m] that I know about his girlfriend [23/f] he's kept a secret from me? | Some backstory. We have been good friends for a little more than a year now and we briefly dated about 8 months ago. We decided to go back to being just friends but I definitely still have feelings for him. We hang out all the time and talk every day and refer to each other as our best friends.
I went over his house the other day and his sister brought up his girlfriend. (they're not technically boyfriend girlfriend. They're in a relationship without the title. Yet his family calls her his girlfriend. He did the same thing with me when we first started talking.) Apparently they have been together since winter. I had no idea he was dating her and they all thought I knew. Basically I'm very hurt that he kept this a secret from me and lied to me. He has no idea that I know.
His family thinks they're on the decline and he's going to stop seeing her soon. I don't know if I should tell him I still have feelings for him and see if he feels the same or not. I think he may feel the same just because he acts like it most of the time and he hasn't made things official with the girl he's with now. Also he comments a lot on how much I've improved as a person since we were together and how he likes being around me more now.
I don't know if I should tell him I know either. Basically I just don't want him to get angry at me and stop talking to me for whatever reason. I'm just afraid of his reaction to me bringing it up that I know about her because he kept it a secret for whatever reason. At the same time it's eating me up inside and it's all I can think about, making me feel depressed. I hate the idea of him with another girl.
Any advice how to bring it up or if I should? | best friend is with a girl and he's kept it a secret for months. Don't know if I should tell him I know or tell about my feelings for him? |
t3_31oial | relationships | Me (19F) and my ex (19M) broke up a week ago. I still have feelings for him. We were together for 3 months. We still have sex, (recently) and he says he doesn't want to anymore because feelings will get hurt. | We got together with no intention if falling "in love" he broke up with me for the reasons of we have different viewpoints on things.
I have tattoos, he doesn't like it. We both crave attention and affection hence why were still having sex after a breakup. We got along great I thought.
We love talking, we talk a lot. He spent the night last night and we had sex a lot and then a few times today as well then he got all weird again saying we shouldn't have sex again or hang out.
He had invited me to go to a concert tomorrow night and to a play this weekend, but he is very unbalanced on wanting to take me.
I'm only upset cause when he initially broke up with me I thought it was over his ex and how I somehow didn't compare, but he doesn't like her at the same time. His reasons are: tattoos, religion, some feminist things (not extreme), and he also gets this vibe that I love him way more than he feels he could love me. I don't want a serious relationship to the point of wanting to make it forever. We both feel that way.
I really need advice on how we can just be friends and show him I'm a great girl. He tells me already I'm a million types of great but I just don't know if I believe it. | Me (19F) and ex (19M) have a friends with benefits type deal going on but there's a lot more emotion behind him. Need advice |
t3_wpntr | loseit | I have finally broke through to running; how do I deal with jiggling belly? | Hello friends!
I was 320lbs, now 240lbs. My breasts are still the same size :(oh and my belly has lots of flesh in leu of fat now.
I go for "30 block walks" with my family 1-3 times a week, bike rides of various lengths about 5 days a week ,we live downtown so we walk/ ride everywhere.
Now, I went for a walk sans family late at night (doggie just HAD to go), and I felt it, this urge to run. So a 5 minute walk turned into a 10 race with said pooch. (She won) The problem here was not my stamina or motivation, but my own body holding me back. My belly flapping away and boobs even in tight sports bra flying about wildly, didn't bother me at first. The the pain. How horridly uncomfortable.
How do you handle your baggage? Is there a trick to strapping the skin down (like I did to my boobs when I was 15) with an ace bangage?
Advice would be lovely. Thanks.
My stats: SW: 320LBS @ 5'5 24yrs old; CW: 240LBS 5'7 27yrs old ,
No strict work out regimen. No strict diet, no booze, no gluten, no sugar. Veggies, veggies, veggies. :9 yum. Very light on fruit, moderate meat, chicken & fish only. Rarely oink or moo. | Titties. Flying titties everywhere. |
t3_2hnnaf | relationships | My [19M] girlfriend [20F] of about a week flirts with my best mate. How do I get over it? | Sup guys :)
So basically, i started going out with a girl a couple days ago, we had the talk a couple days ago and i guess we're in the whole, exclusive relationship thing now (my first gf ;) awesome) .Things are pretty cool with her, apart from one thing which I can't seem to get over.
My gf flirts with my best mate quite a bit, and she has from before we were going out. Now normally that would be a bit worrying to me, but shes known him for about a year(and they are pretty close), whereas I only really met her last week (we met about a year ago at an event and talked a bit, hadn't seen her since then), in fact, it was my best mate that introduced us in the first place.
Now my mate is a really cool guy, I've known him since i started high school, about 7/8 years ago and we're like brothers. One thing about him, hes always been a pretty charming guy when it comes to the ladies, and they tend to reciprocate.
So the problem I have is this. I trust my mate completely, he has a girlfriend hes in love with and he would never do anything with a girl I was with. At the same time, whenever we are hanging out or at a club, I can't help but feel incredibly jealous of their dynamic, it almost feels to me like hes more like her bf than me. also, I kinda want to stress this point a lot, their relationship dynamic hasn't changed, this is how they were from the few days I knew her before we started going out.
So..uhh yeah thats it. | how the hell do I stop being such a jealous prat? |
t3_2aiq6z | relationships | Me (22) and my wife (20) are having issues with Responsibility. How can I fix this? | My wife and I have been married 2 years, been together for 7 years total.
I love her and she loves me, but we have an issue with "Responsibility".
Over the past 4 years I've held 3 different jobs while she went to class 2 days a week for 4 hours to get her degree. During this time I've done it all. Bought the car, paid for gas, food, lights, rent, cleaned the house and let her do whatever she wanted to do.
Now she has a Job. That's fine with me, I'm a progressive dude, she can do what she wants when she wants, but she won't do anything but work and sit. She won't clean up after her self, make food ever, wash or fold clothes, ect. She just sits on her MacBook, watches Netflix, and plays her dancing games.
How can I convence her to help me with the work load? She uses the excuse "I work as much as you do, so I can rest!" When she only works 3 days a week and I'm a six day a week commercially owned plumber.
I love her and want her happy but I'm losing my mind... | Lazy wife that won't listen unless I yell. Help me. |
t3_1eq8p3 | relationships | My bf(23/m) wants me(22/f) to give specific reasons how he is better than my ex. I dont think this is productive. | We've been a couple for 6 months and now he brought up my past and started a fight( i've been with 3 more guys than hes been with girls). Now he is demanding I tell him how specifically he is better than them. I've told my bf why I think he is better for me than my ex, he treats me far better and we have much more in common, I also told him he is smarter and better looking both true things but not really why I value him more. But he wants more reasons why, and I think its stupid to bash my ex just to stroke his ego. He said it will make him feel better but I feel like he is just insecure about something and this wont actually help things.
Also in the past he gets mad when I bring up my ex even though it is always a negative thing I would never bring up a positive thing about him. SO i think its stupid that he know is making me dwell on my past relationship.
What should I do? | read the title. |
t3_3im284 | legaladvice | Medicaid Eligibility (Michigan) | Greetings, /r/legaladvice. Long time reader, first time caller.
I am a 26-year-old hailing from a wealthy family, but said family is not supporting me. My parents operate a trust fund with me as beneficiary, and there is a sizable sum in that trust fund. But it is off-limits to me at the moment (I am told I will have access sometime in the future, probably the far future), and so for the moment, I am on my own.
I need health insurance, but I am unemployed (with that unlikely to change until October/November, when I am hopefully admitted to the Michigan bar). I have some money in my own bank account, but not enough to afford health insurance flat-out without a subsidy. I tried to apply for a subsidy, but because I have nearly no income, I was referred to Medicaid. I have been told I cannot get a subsidy unless Medicaid rejects me.
Yet I feel rather unethical accepting Medicaid, given that I am the beneficiary of a rather sizable trust fund. Welfare programs like Medicaid are designed to help the least fortunate in this country -- not some rich kid who just happens to not have access to money at this moment. I do not want to be using funds that could be put to better use helping someone in poverty.
So I am wondering if there is any way for me to be disqualified from Medicaid that wouldn't disqualify me from the subsidies? It would need to be something ethical -- I take very seriously the requirement that attorneys (and would-be attorneys) exhibit integrity at all times. | Theoretically rich person feels unethical accepting Medicaid, but cannot afford to purchase health insurance flat-out. Wants to know how to get health insurance subsidy despite being told "you cannot have one because you qualify for Medicaid." |
t3_i9nht | AskReddit | Reddit: What's your funniest "caught having sex" story? | When I was 22, I moved back in with my mom (parents divorced) for a couple of weeks, while I was in between places. The first of the two weeks, she was out of town. Well, my little brother (17) and sister (19) were not. They asked me to get them alcohol so they could drink the night away at a going away party for a friend. I NEVER bought alcohol for them, but I really wanted the place to myself, so I made a poor decision. I was pretty sure they were going to be gone for the night. I had just started dating this teacher. We went to a bar to see a band that a couple of friends are in. Things were going well. She came back to my place. Well, since I was just moving back in to my mom's house, my room was in no shape to bring in this pretty lady (out of my league) that I had just started dating. And, I was drunk, so (I am ashamed to say this, but) my mom's room seemed like a great idea! We were going to town, she was being LOUD! Really, really loud. Screaming things like "spank me!" and "choke me!" and "pull my hair!" She was without a doubt the wildest one I had ever been with. She was a teacher and had to be at the school at 7:30, so she left around 4 a.m. I walked her out to her car. I opened the front door, and saw my brother's car, my sister's car, and even a couple cars of my sister's friends. This means they got home while this mysterious, screaming woman, and I were mid-act...I walked back in at 4 a.m. to about 6 people giving me a round of applause. My sister has used this as leverage, to get me to buy her alcohol a couple more times, my mom still does not know! It ended with this teacher, who wanted me to choke her, spank her, and pull her hair, when I declined several invitations to hang out with her church group. | My brother and sister came home while I was banging a screamer, in my moms bed. Gave me a round of applause. |
t3_1i9gcj | relationships | Do I have a chance with this girl? | Ok, so basically I have a crush on this girl who volunteers at the same pet shelter as me. We see each other once a week, right now we're strangers. I'm a 16M scrawny tall kid, honestly a bit nerdy but I wouldn't call myself downright ugly. I'm decent looking I guess. This girl 15 or 16F is very beautiful imo, but doesn't wear makeup, seems shy like me and plays volleyball. She lives about 2 towns away from me and goes to a different school. I've never had a gf so I'm very inexperienced but really want to have my first relationship with her. Is what I'm hoping for even realistic given the fact that she's athletic and I'm not, lives two towns away and sees me only once a week? I mean I know it sounds silly but I'm really inexperienced, please help guys. | 16M crush on 15 or 16F, she lives 2 towns away, is athletic while I'm not, see each other once a week. |
t3_4lcpi0 | relationships | My (23F) boyfriends (25M) alcoholic dad (50s) keeps making gross comments about me | We're staying with my boyfriends family for the weekend (got here yesterday) and his dad is such an asshole. My boyfriend hates him but his mom feels like she's stuck with him and it's the only way we get to spend time with her.
He keeps making these disgusting comments, like that he hopes I'm getting his sons dick wet and if I want to get with an older man to come see him. We were swimming and he sat there just watching me and it made me feel so gross. Last night he was so drunk I had no idea what he was saying to me but he was getting uncomfortably close. Everything about him creeps me out.
How do I survive the weekend? I hate the way he is treating me. | boyfriends dad is a gross alcoholic perv and he is creeping me out. |
t3_2nvtoa | relationships | Me [23 M] how do you make and keep friends? | My girlfriend of 2.5 yrs left me in August, and part of the reason I'm still feeling so down about things is that I've realized I dont have a great support network. Everyone has friends they go out with and can do things with, but I've just never had that. Even going back to high school I was never really able to make lasting or meaningful friendships. Today, I have a few people I see every 3-4 weeks or so, but no one that's really close. Guys talk about having buddies, I really dont have that, and I never have.
Part of the reason my relationship ended was that I was far too vested in the my other half and didnt have a real social life outside of her. I want that to change, but I've never been good at this. Ive been making an effort with people and it still hasnt been going anywhere. Im not anti-social, and Im not quasi-modo locked away for the days, I just cant seem to make it stick with other people and I dont know why.
People say that Toronto is just a cold city for making friendships but other people seem to be able to do this. | How do you make and keep friends? I've been trying and nothing has been working for years |
t3_vpr4l | dating_advice | Engineers of reddit! I need your advice... | I am F/21 and I'm not sure how old he is guessing on his profession maybe late twenties
I work at medical production manufacturing company and work in a room full of older women training to be certified technicians.. And we have to use certain equipments that are still being set up by engineers who work on it throughout the day.
So I have been there for about a month and a half, and I just noticed this one engineer that is pretty attractive. I'm sure he has seen me a couple times and we just glanced at each other. I work with my sister and she has told me that he has stared at me when I wasn't looking at him.
He works in the same room but across the other side working on the equipment trying to set them up for when we start our job around mid August or so.
My question: what goes on in an engineers mind about dating and girls? Are you guys strictly serious about a job when your working? Would you notice if a girl is trying to flirt with you (making eye contact and smiling)?
FYI, I'm not the best at flirting or reading any signals when a guy is interested, but if were to try I'm sure I would notice. | cute engineer works in the same room working on equipment. What's a mind of an engineer like when it comes to flirting at work? |
t3_2x5zyr | tifu | TIFU by rushing home. | This happened around 3 years ago when I first moved to Sweden. It was winter and very cold with lots of snow so obviously I wrapped myself in my warm clothes, gloves, scarf and my big black jacket to go to school. Basically, this one day it randomly happened that I wore all black. Fast forward, I went to school that day and everything went well. On my way home, when I was on the buss I received a text from my mom saying that I should rush home for dinner and stuff.
The place I lived back then was like a village so the buss was half empty, and at the stop there was only me and a boy around 8 who got off.
The boy was walking like 2 meters in front of me and I got tired of walking so slow so I started running. It was cold and I was hungry so I wanted to get home as fast as possible but the boy in front of me got suddenly worried when he realized someone was running behind him. He looked back at me and saw me running towards his direction, I automatically made eye contact with him and can imagine my retarded face while running, I probably looked scary and dumb at the same time. I could see on his face that he got shit ass terrified when he saw me. Suddenly I stopped running cause I didn't want of him to think I wanted to harm him, and he stopped running too.
But then I finally thought "Fuck it, I will start run past him and show that I'm not running after him" but as I started running he turned his face at me again in terror and started running too. I could see on his expression that he shit his pants and ran like hell to get home. | Started running to get home from the buss stop but the kid in front of me thought I was a serial killer running after him. He shit his pants. |
t3_22u9sf | relationships | Me [30F] with my ex[30M] great co-parents for a year and a half [3yoSon], his family is secretly planning a paternity test | On again off again relationship, got back together last time after three months apart, found we were pregnant 2mo after reconciling. The Dr assured us we couldn't be more than four weeks along, and the pregnancy proceeded as expected, baby was born close to the scheduled date (2weeks early) -Never a doubt in my mind regarding paternity, but I know where I've been, regardless he can only assume I'm honest.
Our son was daddy's baby, mommy's maybe from day one.
The first year took its toll and we split. For two years now, he's been an incredible father, and our son is very close to his family. Over these two years, our son has begun to showcase a stronger resemblance to my family and now his mother wants him to take a paternity test.
She can spend all the money she has to her name for all I care, I know who my son's father is and she's going to waste her money confirming paternity.
Here's where I get angry: she's already told her son, and he's already told her he doesn't want/need one so she plans to steal his toothbrush on her next visit and send it in one of those drug store paternity test kits. I found this out from someone who only told me because the mother and her are fighting, and whenever they fight, they like to reveal each other's secrets. If I say something, I'll just look like I'm feeding the family drama machine, but if I don't say anything, my son's dad will never know about his mother's plan.
She wants to get it done and "if" he's the father, then according to her, he doesn't need to know about the test, but "when" he's not, she will let him know what she did.
Again, I don't care about her getting the test, it is the way she's going about it. | son's grandma is planning to CSI his paternity without consent. |
t3_q8scq | relationship_advice | i got the hook, now how do i not mess this up? | so here's my situation:
about a month ago i started chatting with one of my old high school crushes through facebook just to see how things are and what not. it's probably been a few years or so since i've seen her last and i figured i'd say hi. anyway, found out she's out of town at college and comes back every few months. last night i got into a conversation with her and pretty much overcame the SAP and straight up asked her for her phone number and a date next time she's in town. she agreed. she'll be coming to the restaurant where i'm at and my plan was to wine and dine, chat, and just see how the night goes.
i know we have a few things in common, we like science, reddit, harry potter, star wars, geek/nerdy type deal.
so my questions:
how long do i wait to text or call her while she is out of town or do i just wait till she actually comes in town to talk to her? what do i talk about? how can i start this off and not miserably mess this one up? | i got a date with my high school crush how do i not mess this up horribly |
t3_11u2ht | jobs | How much is my time worth? | I just became a certified social media consultant with Hootsuite compliments of my existing job. I now have a business owner wanting me to moonlight for him and build his social media footprint from scratch. I initially went to see this guy on a whim to get some work as a funeral director's assistant. I intend to go to trade school for mortuary science after I get out of the military. Instead, he asked my credentials and asked if I could help him with his social media instead as he knows absolutely nothing about it. I've been in the military so long I don't know what my time is worth. What should I ask from him? He is over 50 and is super proud of his horrific website, though it probably drives off more customers than it attracts. This website makes him feel modern enough. I would like to accept the offer, but have no idea what this sort of thing is worth to those who perform this work for a living. If it helps, I am in Santa Clara County. | Someone wants to hire me and I have no idea how much I should be paid. |
t3_1hlz2a | relationships | Gf[23/f] not happy her ex bf just got married. I'm[23/m] not sure how to take it | GF had a rough past with her ex bf. I've been with GF for over 3 years. She has mentioned he was 'perfect' until he cheated on her. She has told me that even being with me she has difficulty forgetting about her ex bf like letting go. I know she hates him with all her guts. Well, found out today she was shocked that her ex bf was married. Turns out she was still FB friend with her ex bf for the whole time we've been together. It suddenly dawned on me why she never really got over her ex. Love her a lot, but the fact she hid this from me making think that I was inadequate in helping her move on is very troubling for me. | Found out gf is depressed ex bf got married. What the hell do I do? I do love this girl |
t3_3jg2x2 | dating_advice | What comes next? | Two weeks ago I met this girl in one of my classes at school. I've struck up conversation with her every time we've had class together (4 classes, each lasting 4 hours). The many conversations I've had with her up until now has really been amazing and not to mention she's a beauty! So I ended up getting her number by asking for it after class (4). And I sent her a text about 8 hours after class was over with to give her my own number as well, basically just saying "hi".
Anyways, you get the idea of what's going on, now I seek guidance. I am not very experienced when it comes to women and/or dating as I haven't done much of it. But this girl, I really don't want to screw anything up at this point. I now have her phone number and I have class with her again this Friday. What's the next step as to pursuing a romance between the two of us?
And on a side note, I was thinking of maybe taking her to a concert, and possibly dinner as a first date. Is this a good idea or not? If not, what would be a better alternative? | Got a girl's number who I feel is special, what's the next step without fucking things up? |
t3_1jzx4o | relationships | Me[20/M] and the girl I love [20/F], should I be doing this? | Hello people. So I recently got in touch with this girl from my past. I won't bore you with the general details, so here it is. I am an introvert, mainly because the people I trusted in the past have failed me. The last girl that I went out with cheated on me the whole time. Anyways, this girl turned out to be someone who is perfect in every sense. She is beautiful, smart, chilled out, and talks to me often. We've gone out once, but only as friends, as we were catching up after ~10 years. She too has experienced pain in the past, if you know what I mean, which for some reason makes me able to relate to her even more (some fucked up shit happened to both of us in the past). I can't make up my mind whether I should really ask her out and tell her that I love her, as she considers her ex to be her best friend, and talks to him often too, and I have a feeling that she still has it for him. I seriously need some advice, as I really cant put in too much thought into this. | Fell in love with a long lost friend, she still talks to her ex, feel that she has the feels for him, can't decide whether to ask her out or not. |
t3_1wc1ew | relationships | Love or Love? | Im 19 my girlfriend 20 My possible soul mate of a girlfriend is moving to Florida for school for a little while. we live in Ohio Currently well she is asking me to go with her 14 hours away from everything i love. My cousins mainly we are the closest family ever...period..
i also love her with all of my heart and so much more. i don't want to let my dream girl slip through my fingers.. but i have another cousin that got with his girlfriend and disappeared from us and the hate it so much i don't want to choose between them. so Reddit help any advice will help.... | let my dream girl het away or possibly my bestfriends and family hate me gor a year or two while im gone in florida with her |
t3_12xkah | relationship_advice | I [22/m] caught her [20/f] red handed. Now what? | Last night I caught my girlfriend in a lie. She said she was shopping and going out to eat with her friends. Turns out she went to her ex-bf house (they dated for almost three years), he got drunk and kissed her. She claims she did not kiss him back. As far as I know this is the first time in our six month relationship that she has lied to me. She texts her ex almost daily, I have told her before that her talking to him bothers me.
Is it unfair for me to make her choose between him and me?
Is there any hope for my relationship lasting? | caught gf in a lie. last night she went "shopping & out to eat" at her ex's house they kissed. |
t3_3wvjir | tifu | TIFU by forgetting my wallet | Here's the backstory, I had this terrible roommate at my college who would try to sell me adderall when I didn't want any and would
knock on my door every 15 minutes when I try to go to bed just to get something. This is what happened when he stayed at his boyfriend's place.
And this kept happening in 2 in the morning mind you. He would also make out with his boyfriend in the same room as me at times which started to bug me, not the fact that he was
gay, but the sound of it was driving me crazy. At one point, I just couldn't take it. So I call my dad for him to pick me up from my college while I wait at the
lounge. By now it's been about 30 minutes. But I remembered that I had forgotten my wallet from the room. So I go back
to my room to view my roommate and his boyfriend having sex. There was no note on the door, there was nothing to warn me. The wallet was in the other corner
when I start to notice the room smelled so bad, like raw sewage or whatever. And then I see that I had stepped on shit. Human. Shit. That's when I realized
that I was gonna leave this place. And I can't get the image of my roommate buttfucking his boyfriend out of my head. | Forgot wallet at my door room and see my roomate fucking another guy in front of me, at an attempt to get my wallet, I step on actual shit. |
t3_xfmao | relationships | Dating an older woman. Any advice or opinions appreciated. | Ok so here's the situation. I'm 25 m and just getting divorced (long story short, soon to be ex wife was screwing everyone else and i caught her). I recently started talking to another woman and we have a lot in common and have a great time together. I thought she was around 32 when i first met her. Found out she is 42 ( she didn't hide it it just didn't come up) and has a son a year younger than myself.
Things are great with her, we always have fun together no matter what were doing. The age gap doesn't bother me and it doesn't her either. My question is this basically, is this a good move? I'm looking for some outside opinions. I really like this girl and we have so much in common (something my ex and I did not). What will the issues be with this? Do you all see a problem?
I'm more than happy to give more information if necessary without divulging too much information. | I'm 25 m going through a divorce and I'm seeing a 42 f and want some outside opinions on this. Thanks! |
t3_3s12yn | relationships | I [20M] need some advice with my first college relationship [19F] and commitment. | I've been meaning to post something here on and off for a few months, but here goes...
Close to the end of my Freshman year of college I started seeing a girl. I wasn't new to intimacy but I had never had a real relationship before, and soon we were hanging out a lot, pretty much dating.
We have a lot of sexual compatibility, and because of that and the fact that we're both busy most of the time we hang out is when we're having sex.
Now the issue is, I've been stuck in a conundrum thinking about the future of our relationship and what I want it to be. I like her but we don't share many common interests, and honestly I think she is much more attached to me than I am to her. When we are alone, she wants to cuddle or have sex, (don't get me wrong, the sex is great but I'd like to have some deeper discussions on occasion). When we are with mutual friends, she still needs physical connection and gets mad if I don't devote my attention to her over others.
I could get over any of these small problems on their own, but they add up to annoy me on occasion, and because of this I don't spend as much time with her as I used to. I feel like I can't bring them up with her because fundamentally I would be criticizing her personality.
What I'm really trying to get at, is that I don't know what to do looking at the future. This is my first real relationship, and while most of the time I spend with her we both enjoy, I honestly can't see myself staying with her after college. Also, from time to time I find myself thinking about other girls.
So, what should I do? I worry that if I stay with her too much longer, I will make the breakup harder on both of us. But I also worry about the backlash from any breakup, because she is best friends with most of my female friends. Essentially, what is my way out of this relationship while causing the least amount of pain to my girlfriend? | first relationship isn't everything I had hoped, what do?! |
t3_wazor | AskReddit | A cell phone company just built a cellular tower about 1/4 mile behind my house in a back field. Am I in any harm? (See inside) | So when I get home from work today, my female neighbor was outside and brings to my attention the Verizon cell tower that was finally built not more then 1/4 mile behind my house.. It reaches well above the trees and has spikes on it (maybe to represent a tree or perhaps another purpose). Within a minute my hot ass MILF neighbor walks out with her dog and joins the convo. She starts saying how terrible it is for a multiple of reasons, and I pretty much disagreed with all of them. She said how 1.) it would deprecate property value 2.) it was bad for our health because it may admit an abnormal amount of radiation and cause cancer 3.) technology was ruining our generation (lolz) I told her Id report back tomorrow with the truth about whether it can be potentially harmful for her my families... So please geniuses of reddit, is this cellular tower a physical harm for us?? | Is a cellular tower built 1/4 mile from my house harmful to me and my neighbors health?? |
t3_feqz2 | AskReddit | What surge protector do I need to get? | I blew my old surge protector of 10 years. I bought that one blind, just choosing one at random, but would like to go into my next purchase with a little more knowledge for the most bang for the buck.
The normal devices plugged: TV, DVD-Player, Cable Modem, Router, Set Top Box, and Notebook Computer.
The reason the original protector went out, is because I hooked up 2 heat dishes on full blast (it's been really cold lately.)
Ideally, I'd like a protector that can handle all of the above, but I think that is a pipe dream (outlets are few to come by in my old apt building.) But I'd settle for one that will do the normal rig.
I heard the number of joules is something to look at, but am no electrical expert.
Any suggestions as to what to look for or where to buy?
Thanks! | Blew surge protector, want to buy new surge protector for best bang for buck. |
t3_sqfur | AskReddit | I'm 27 years old in a career I can't stand. I'm thinking about going back to college, what should I do? | Hello Reddit, I am currently in a Tech Admin position with a small business and I can't say that I enjoy the career path that I originally went to college for (computer science).
I have some ideas as far as what I would want to do with the rest of my life however would need to go to college and get at least a Bachelor's Degree in the field to get into the job I believe I would love to do.
I live on my own and don't have much time to myself and I'm on call all the time, would night classes be a good idea? Online degree? I'm unsure what direction I should go and wanted to know if someone else has been in this position and had some insight or could possibly point me in the right direction of figuring out what I need to do. | Live by myself with rent and bills to pay, want to go back to college to get out of a career I dislike, what do? |
t3_2wvfgd | relationships | Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] have been together over a year, my extreme jealousy is damaging our relationship | Reddit, I need your help.
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and we have a very happy relationship. We rarely fight, we crave each others company, and we are both very serious about our relationship.
The only thing weighing us down are my jealousy issues.
It is impossible for me to go out ANYWHERE in public (groceries, the mall, the gym) without getting extreme paranoia that he is checking out other girls or thinking how attractive other girls are. When we are not together all I can think about is him looking at porn or gonewild posts on his computer. I can't even watch tv with him because whenever there is an attractive girl on the screen (which is often) I think that he is imagining having sex with her and lusting over her. I basically force us to only watch animated shows together because of this.. and even then the jealousy will still be there.
However, I am painfully aware of how 'crazy' I'm being. I know that he would never cheat on me, and I know that its natural for people to find other attractive people attractive without it being a sign of infidelity. But knowing that does not stop the feelings of hurt and pain and paranoia.
I have never been cheated on before, but I have witnessed my parents not being faithful to each other. Also, I worry that my self-esteem may be a cause of the issue. I try very hard with my appearance by working out, eating right, but it never feels like enough.
I just want to be able to relax and enjoy a movie or a walk with my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend with my whole heart but the jealousy is honestly just too painful and damaging. I don't know what to do. | Extreme jealousy is preventing me from going out in public or even watching tv with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has never shown any signs that he is interested in other women. How do I get past this. |
t3_3n2czn | tifu | TIFU by going to the bathroom. | So tonight was any other night, lots of homework I didn't feel like doing, etc. Little did I know I was in for a world of hurt. In the middle of me studying and skyping I decided to take a well needed bathroom break. I live in a dorm and so the it's a bit of walk hence why I put it off for so long.
Mistakes were made.
I walk into the bathroom and there's two girls in there, I pay them no mind. I did notice one walk halfway into a stall then into another one. It didn't register that maybe the first stall she went in might be dirty or something. She gives me this weird panicked look as I walk by her and into the stall. I get in there and it's perfectly clean-- the fuck was the problem? Again, my feeble mind was fried from studying so I didn't think twice about it.
*Mistakes. Were. Made.*
I do my business and I get ready to reach for the toilet paper...only to realize there was absolutely none. I let out the most shrill sounding noise once I put together that the girl was trying to warn me of my impending doom, it was far too late. She must have known the end was neigh because she fled the bathroom right after. | I went into a stall without toilet paper because I'm fucking stupid and suffered. Now I need a shower. |
t3_136o55 | relationships | I (male age 19) leave for Marines Boot Camp at the end of the month. Should I break up with my girlfriend? (age 17) | Should I (male age 19) break up with my girlfriend (age 17) before I leave for Marines boot camp? We've been dating for a month and I know thats not long but she's liked me for a while and she really grew on me. We actually talked yesterday and I told her we should break up because it'll be too painful to have a relationship like that and she said she'd be able to be strong and faithful for me but we did come to the conclusion that we'll break up before I leave. Am I making the right decision? | Should I (male age 19) break up with my girlfriend (age 17) before I leave for Marines boot camp? |
t3_werny | relationships | Boyfriend found a conversation he shouldn't have seen. | I've been dating my boyfriend for a little less than a year now. I love him so much and would never cheat on him.
A guy I met online came to see me from overseas a couple of years ago. Right before he came he got back together with an ex and there was a lot of sexual and emotional tension between us. We never got a chance to see if it would work out but I didn't really care. I never regretted it later.
I just moved in with my boyfriend to a new city. I suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and was a bit worried about making the right decision. Of course I knew it was, but it was a big step for me in a relationship.
I take citalopram for my anxiety which decreases my sex drive immensely.
For the first time since I started dating my boyfriend, I got drunk and had a flirtatious conversation with the guy from overseas. I've never flirted with anyone, even. It was a bit of a "what if" conversation of, what if we'd had a chance to be intimate, etc. It was completely inappropriate. I said things like, "I don't find my boyfriend completely sexually attractive" (mostly because of the medication.)
My boyfriend's last girlfriend cheated on him so he has some trust issues. When I left to run some errands, he read that conversation from a few weeks ago.
I just got so unlucky. He could have read any conversation I've had since I started dating him and read absolutely nothing bad. I wish I'd never wrote it. I sent the overseas guy a message the next day apologizing, even.
Well, there are a few issues now. I'm only a little mad he read it but I think I should be more upset. Other than that, I don't know how to fix the other things.
How do I get him to believe that I don't want anyone else? That I don't lie to him? That this is the first and only conversation like that?
Thank you for reading this!
Length: 10 months
Ages: me -- 22, him -- 28 | Boyfriend snooped, found the only bad conversation I've ever had about him. |
t3_i811o | AskReddit | What to do? | Hey reddit fans, here is my dilemma. My wife and I are going through a mostly amicable divorce. Things have been wrong for a while and while she loves me she is no longer in Love with me. She started hinting at this last fall and I have been blind to it as I do love her and tell her that still to today. Here is my dilemma; She found an old high school fuck buddy on Facebook. He too is in a failing relationship but has not had the talk with his wife. To keep the level of scrutiny he is under down he had her create a fake profile on Facebook as a member of the opposite sex so their most innocent of daily banter is hidden, less obvious. She came clean to me about 6 weeks ago about him when I caught her chatting him (I am a service technician and turned screen sharing on on her CPU). He has 4 children with his current wife and a previous; so that she can surreptitiously be part of their lives he has pushed them to friend her fake profile.
When we, as a family, took our children to a Sox game this past week, I posted an image of us on Facebook and tagged her. The following morning he went off on her and she unfriended me. I love this woman and want her in my life (loser) but she is killing me. | My wife is leaving and to keep her new relationship a secret she created a fake profile on Facebook. Do I report this user identity? Ultimately she'll just create another and that will push her further away from me. |
t3_1ohg9l | relationships | Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [23 F] of 5 Months I can't let go.. | Ok I've been with this girl for about 5 months now, and over the past 2 months It feels like she doesn't want this relationship anymore (like she doesn't take the time to come see me anymore, but she always says hey on facebook to me), today was the first day I saw her in 3 weeks face to face since I accused her of going on a dating website again, little did I know her account got hacked (I know this for sure) so I was about to break up with her 3 weeks ago because of that, but she was never using it..
we had a few days apart no contact and such, then we started talking again it felt she just swept that under the rug, but was still acting weird, and I felt that this relationship is over and I asked her that but she kept dodging direct answers, never saying she wants to break up, I was confused, so about today I met her at her work we hugged for a bit I said sorry she said sorry, It felt awkward she was late for work that's when we I left, now we don't live together or anything like that she works about 3kms from my home and doesn't bother to see me, I really want this relationship, but she is contributing nothing to it and she even knows it she told me in a text maybe we should be friends instead of a couple, we both know this is not working out and its all my fault" I don't know what to do, I tell her why I don't want to break up she doesn't reply to that, I dont think she knows how, I'm trying to fix it, she is not helping fix it.. | 5 month relationship, 2 months of minimal contact in person, she doesn't give direct answer to breakup, I don't want to break up, we are getting further apart.. I see her today first time in 3 weeks, I'm trying to fix it, I don't know what to do.. |
t3_epz98 | AskReddit | Am I justified in being pissed at my boss over this? | We're migrating to new software next year. Earlier in the month my supervisor sent around an email saying that we would be tested on our knowledge of the software as part of our pay review. I'd already studied up on the new software a fair amount, but since it's slow this time of year I thought I could really bust my ass learning all the finer points of the software (even going so far as to download a trial version at home to explore on my own time), impress the hell out of the big boss, and walk away with a nice fat pay raise.
Well, it turns out he was "joking". We all got the normal pay scale increase, even my coworkers who've barely read up on the software at all. Was this illegal of my boss to do, or unethical? Or are bosses perfectly justified in pulling shit like this? Normally it's a great company to work for, awesome benefits and people and such. | boss promised pay raise for something, didn't deliver, said he was 'joking'. |
t3_1xmnr3 | relationships | This past July, I think my [21 F] boyfriend's [21 M] bestfriend [21 M] was hitting on me. What do I do? | Last July, my boyfriend of 3 years had a small party at his house. There were maybe 15 of us there, all of his friends were quite drunk.
Eventually in the night his best friend comes up to me and puts his arm around me and I'm holding him up because he's almost too drunk to stand on his own. We go inside to get him water, and the whole time he keeps saying things to me like "You're so cute... you're so sexy." I keep dismissing him and what he's saying and then everyone else starts to come inside but then he says to me "You're too good for *my bf*" I got pretty angry and upset and I said "You need to stop" and I walked away from him.
For a number of reasons at the time, I didn't know how to confront the situation or how to tell my bf. I didn't want him to have to pick between us. And I really wanted to chalk it up to "The friend was drunk and didn't know what he was doing"
But now, I've lost all respect for the best friend, mostly because I think he's a completely shitty person and doesn't deserve my bf in his life. It has been hard for me to be around him, and I almost hate him for it all. I feel horrible as I know I should have told my bf at the time right when this happened. And it constantly eats at me. But now so much time has gone by I don't know what to do...
I'd just really appreciate any advice/ insight | Boyfriend's best friend was really drunk and hit on me. Is it too late to do anything about it now? |
t3_4xk6mx | relationships | My [17M] brother [13M] listens to everything my sister [24F] asks him to do. He is making my life difficult | My brother and I have three sisters (24F, 20F, 19F) our sister Candice 24F (graduated college) is our legal guardian and the other two are attending college.
My little brother does everything she asks of him. He does his homework, he comes home on time, he study, he does his chores, he does not question her. My sisters all three of them praise him for this and it makes my life difficult.
I still have my senior year of high school and I want to not have the expectations he sets for me. My sister expects me to behave exactly like him. When his girlfriend is here, he does not take her into his bedroom. He sits with her in the living room and they watch movie together.
My sister expects me to do the same.
How do I get my sister to see that I am not my brother and I don't want to listen to her all the time. I am almost an adult and I will leave for college next year | How do I get my sister to see I am not my brother |
t3_1l8a2e | relationships | My friend and I need help on how to nicely approach our new girl roommate about problems we already have with her. | My friend and I (males) just started living with a girl we floored with in the freshmen dorms last year; we are all 19 and attending the same college. It's a two bedroom apartment, my friend and I share one room and she didn't want a roommate so she lives in the other room alone. Therefore the rent is split 25%, 25%, 50%. We needed another roommate so we could afford the rent and unfortunately she was our only option at the time.
So, the major problem is her boyfriend. The dude is ok but he is here ALL THE TIME. He's been here everyday and it annoys my friend and I. It makes us uncomfortable because it changes the dynamic and we feel like we have a guest present 24/7 and have to be nice to him, make him feel like good company, and share meals; instead of doing whatever we want and going about our business. You would think she could handle entertaining him but a good amount of times she leaves and he just stays over, and occasionally comes over before she's back from work. Food is scarce because we're college kids but he has been helping himself to our stuff. Additionally they are messy as fuck and it really pisses me off that I've been cleaning up after someone that doesn't even pay rent. He just spilled an entire beer on our carpet and proceeded to use all my paper towels to "clean" it up.
She may be paying the rent of two people, but we didn't sign the lease to live with this guy. We haven't been able to talk to her about this as roommates because he is always here when she is. We want to do this in a civilized manner so we don't have animosity to deal with for 10 more months. | We need help nicely telling our roommate her boyfriend is here way too much and inconveniencing us in our own home. |
t3_34kpsi | offmychest | I love/hate my SO. | Probs seen this like a billion times, I just need to type and know someone is reading. Here goes.
Few things, I'm less than 18 so is my SO, we're both still in highschool so I know the changes of this going anywhere are 0 and I don't expect it to... This is her first relationship and my second so yeah. We're on our 4th month anniversary.
My SO is awesome and I love her but it is her first relationship so like it's hard to read and understand what she wants and if she loves me. I would rather spend time with her (and I think she would too) but she normally tries to find some scapegoat like her parents making her do things or not allowing me over. Or she will try and bring in one of her/my (I'm friends with her friends but it gets weird depending on who it is) friends.
THIS ANNOYS THE FUCK OUT OF ME! I usually understand like she has to do her homework or parents say no. I understand that but like I wanted to do something this week and it took her 6 minutes to reply with an excuse not to go and it was that she was going to her sister's performance (although, it ended up she had to babysit anyway so whatevs). The thing is that it's been going on for a while, we hardly see each other except on Skype which is either when she or I are doing Homework or with one of her/my friends.
I JUST.
I don't have the words, it's so damn annoying. I ***want*** to be with her but she's not letting me. | My SO is weird about meeting in person... |
t3_442xmt | relationships | I [25m] can't seal the fucking deal with anyone [f21-99] for some reason? | Alright so this recurring thing has been going on for me. I'm not the best looking dude ever, definitely not the worst looking guy either, so let's get that out of the way.
I noticed recently after a long relationship ended I'm reeeeeeeally good at talking to girls and meeting new people and just genuinely very social. I've had a few flings and they've all ended in pretty similar ways.
One girl [22] was a summer kinda thing. Both recently single, just sort of burned out by being together too much too short.
Another girl, also 22, was really cool. We met and had a lot of fun together and agreed to see eachother and it just never happened and she eventually just stopped talking to me straight up.
Just met another girl (24) about a week ago and got her number. I saw her sitting alone, asked if she wanted a drink and we bullshitted for like 2 hours before I got her number.
I basically don't know how to not like overdo the talking phase and don't know how to deal with this sort of thing because I spent years in a relationship not having to worry about this shit. Now I keep getting a moderate success that just falls apart because I don't know how to appropriately go from getting a girls number to meeting up with that girl for a date to keeping the right balance of "I like talking to you but don't want to over do it" and it's blowing my mind! | how do I stop striking out when I'm super good at meeting people and super bad at maintaining it? |
t3_3cm27a | relationships | Me [late 20s/F] trying to decipher some strange Facebook behaviour from an online acquaintance [27M] | First of all (getting this out of the way): please don't tell me to get a life and stop living on FB - looking for answers, not value judgments. Thanks :)
I've joined a number of groups on FB as of late and have connected with a bunch of new friends in the groups, through chatting, Whatsapp, phone calls and sometimes even Skype. There is this one acquaintance (can't even call him a friend!) that I've begun to like a lot (27/M) even though I know it won't go anywhere because we live about a million miles away from each other. I still have a tiny crush on him but that's not the issue.
He and I chat and exchange banter a lot, and sometimes he tells me about his life or day but most of the time we're just keeping it fun and fluffy; we joke about the differences in our cultures a lot. He is witty and hilarious and I feel like he enjoys my friendship (I hope he does?) but he has a shitty way of showing it!
Can someone please explain a few FB behaviours (men, especially those who are often online?)
*1. Why would a friend request go unanswered (not deleted) for ages even though you chat with the friend every night, almost?
*2. Why would a person leave their chat unread for hours or even days at a time when there was no reason to have quarreled or been slighted? But still interact with me on the group.
*3. When does a friendship change from cool to obviously clingy (in general, not just FB) and how would a guy be distancing himself from it?
I feel a bit ridiculous having so much self doubt at this age. In reality I am a fairly good looking, confident single woman whose friendships with men are fulfilling and I am able to navigate any weird bumps. With this online person, however, I find myself so driven by curiosity to KNOW him that I find myself invading his space again and again (well, I didn't think I was, but it seems to me that he might not appreciate my eagerness...) | Online FB 'friend' I made fairly recently and I can't understand his signals. He does not accept my FB request, yet we chat loads, and he takes a long time to reply to anything, but when we chat he seems to enjoy it. Help me be less clingy. |
t3_3qt6pp | tifu | TIFU by eating gum my friend gave me | Today during english class my frind came up to me and said here want some gum. and i was like sure. so i took the gum. Then a few minutes later another friend comes up to me and said "hows the gum" and i was like what did he do to it and he told me that the gum had lead in it. AND i was like WTF is my friend going insane? so later at the last piriod i was like why the fuck did you put lead in the gum. And he said it wasnt lead it was laxitives. And now i know i wont get lead poisoning but its around 11 30 and i have the shits. | I ate gum my friend gave me and another friend tole me it had lead in it so i thought the friend who gave me the gum was going insane but my other friend misheard laxative with lead for some reason. Now i have the shits. |
t3_q660t | travel | RTW ticket vs. a la carte: Which makes more sense? | Hello fellow travel fiends. I'm currently in the planning phases of doing a trip around the world with a good friend of mine. We'd like to take off on our adventure sometime in April and we're trying to determine if it makes sense to go with these Round-the-world tickets (RTW) or to just buy a bunch of one-way fares a la carte. I'm not convinced that RTW tickets are better value, though of course they can be depending on where one is going and when. Maybe this is simply too general of a question based on the conditional nature of where we're going, what the supply/demand is of the routes in question, etc. In any case, I'm wondering if any of you out there have put in the time or have the experience to offer me and my buddy some good advice. Thanks! | Have any of you ever priced out a RTW itinerary a la carte and compared the cost difference? What did you find? |
t3_udmez | relationships | Protected by lies, and then the truth comes out.. | Well, Reddit. Here's my sad little story.. I've been in a relationship for over a year, and hell, it's been one messy year. I don't want to go into too much detail because I've actually been borderline stalked in the past (if something vital seems to be missing, tell me?)..
Me and my SO are both 20-something young adults. When we met, we immediately hit off and thus starts our story. We spent togethet probably the best summer ever, but then things go wrong. Enter the manipulative ex-gf, a girl who gets between us a couple of times.. A lot of other shit happened too and being passonate and well, maybe a little immature too, we break up & make up a couple of times, the last time being about four months ago.
We got quickly back together, and my bf seemed to change; he's actually made an effort to keep other people out of our relationship, and he's also been sweet and caring.
Problem is, I found out that during our quick break-ups he made out with a couple of other girls in a drunken haze and later on lied to me about it, because apparently he was too ashamed to tell me. As far as I knew til yesterday was that he kissed his ex last autumn, but oh no.. The number is actually three other girls he kissed and tossed away. I found out because I knew he had erm, asked at least one of these girls' number when we had broken up and he was mad at me, so I confronted him about it.
Things have been going so well lately, but oh man.. Truth be told, I don't think I would've gotten back together with him had I known he actually kissed THREE other girls, and most of these episodes even rooting as far as us breaking up because of his ex. These were dealt with in winter, but obviously he lied to me. He cried last night when he thought I was going to leave him. Things have been better, almost perfect, after we left all that shit behind but now.. How am I supposed to deal with this new info? Obviously he was ashamed and still is, but lying straight to my face? That's bad.. | break up & make up with bf, things get better over time but it turns out that during break-ups bf kissed three other girls and straight out lied about it firsthand |
t3_1q04kg | relationship_advice | I'm (20m) tired of the relationship, but don't want to hurt her(20f). | My girlfriend and I have been dating for slightly over a year. We're both college students, in a long distance relationship, who work and have a lot of responsibilities. We live 1.5-2 hours away from each other, but due to our schedules see each other very irregularly. For two days, then not for 4 weeks, then 2 more days, then nothing for 7 weeks, then for 4 days, etc.
I love her and care for her deeply but feel like the distance + how busy we are is ruining the relationship.
My biggest hang up is, I love and care for her, but there's no end insight for this (2+ years till we both finish undergrad, then I have my masters & pHd). I don't want this to keep going until I resent her or it has negative consequences on my career, but I also can't stand hurting her.
Any kind of advice, criticism, or affirmation that I'm not the worst person ever would be helpful. | Long distance college relationship, which is better, long periods of not feeling happy, for brief but great times, or no relationship at all? |
t3_2so6lz | tifu | TIFU by shutting down the school network... | for the entire county. It lasted from 11:00-12:30 this morning.
So anyway, I'm in 10th grade, and I go to a public school in the USA. Today, I was in the media center during my computer science class, so I was with a bunch of also-nerdy friends. Access is very limited on the school computers: we checked the command prompt, and it said that the administrator had denied access to it. My friend decided to go on his laptop and get some harmless IP information. This included the gateway address to the router.
I typed in the address, and I was taken to a login page. So, what did I do? I obviously tried the default "admin" and "password". What do you know? It worked. "What can I do from here?" I wondered. I changed some settings and pressed save. Nothing happened.
I ended up on another page listing IP Addresses, all with a "Disconnect" button beside them. I click them all. A few seconds later, the computer I'm on and all of the computers around me lose internet connection. I check my laptop. A few seconds go by, and all of the WiFi connections are gone.
"Oh, shit!" I think to myself. "I just shut down the entire network from my student account!"
At lunch, my friends confirmed that a nearby high school also lost all internet connection.
It can probably be traced back to me if they suspect anything. If I get caught, I'll probably be suspended for a while. Either way, I'll remain the legend who shut down the school network. | Don't leave your router login set to "admin" : "password", especially if you run a school network. |
t3_1vagla | relationships | Me [23M] with my GF [21F] duration, Need an idea for when she returns from studying abroad | So I want to contribute positively to this subreddit. Usually, the threads end with a breakup, so I want to talk about something happy! (I came here when I was going through a breakup last year. I have moved on, found someone better, and am now much happier. This subreddit definitely helped)
I started dating my current GF back in October. She is studying abroad for the month of January and I miss her a lot more than I was expecting. We aren't super serious yet, but everything has been going perfectly according to schedule. Would anyone know of a great gesture (romantic, funny, sexual, or otherwise) that I could do for when she returns? I am already picking her up at the airport, but what else would make that Saturday night more memorable for her?
Thanks so much! | GF studying abroad for a month. I want to surprise her with a nice gesture when she returns. Ideas? |
t3_1dzdvm | relationships | Feel like I am dating someone I could marry (2+ yrs) but as a 23(m) I feel like I am missing out. | Title explains it all, have been dating my current gf since college (2.5 years) and I have struggled for the past few months of whether I should end it. I really do love and care about her a lot, but I cannot help wondering what it is like to be single again. I don't even really want to have one night stands, but am interested in dating around to see what I really want in a gf/have some excitement of going out with new people again. However, am I just throwing away a good thing because I just want to date around? | long relationship, just got out of college, feel like I am missing out even though I could see myself marrying current gf. |
t3_4cjhgp | relationships | How do I [F23] help a fellow foreveralone woman [F29]? | My friend is 29 and has never had a relationship and she keeps breaking down over it.
Like she'll cry about it. And she'll talk about nothing but trying to find dates and feeling bad.
She reminds me a lot of myself because I'm 23, never had a boyfriend and I'm also incredibly weird and described as "broken" by friends and house-mates. I know what it's like to feel subhuman and like a piece of shit and inferior etc etc etc.
But I want to help her, I feel for her. She keeps crying in public which isn't helping her socially.
advice? | my friend is forever alone and can't take it anymore, how do I help |
t3_4ugkbb | relationship_advice | [22/m] have feelings for my [21/f] friend. | The askreddit post about getting something off your chest got me going and I'm pretty sure my comment will be buried so I'm cross posting here.
I'm recently-ish out of a 4 year relationship (I was dumped). I've been dealing with it...not so well but enough time has passed that I feel like I'm...ok now. Not really ok but I'm not in bed all day and constantly feeling terrible.
I'm not really sure how to put this so I guess I'll just say it. I've been pretty in love with a friend of mine for...well, years. Never cheated and I did love my ex but that other person has always been there in my mind making me think that maybe I was doing the wrong thing here.
We recently took a trip together closer to my breakup (after it) and I just had the time of my life. She ended up sick from food halfway through the trip and when we got back told me how much she really appreciated that I was there for her and that most people wouldn't do that for a person. Won't go into details on what I did because it's pointless but I made her feel better.
I feel like I really really want to tell her my true feelings but I just can't bring myself to, I don't want to ruin our friendship with awkwardness if she doesn't feel the same way.
I just don't know what to do.
___ | recently out of relationship, had feelings for someone for a long time, don't know if I should tell her. |
t3_tuphz | AskReddit | I can't appreciate/discover music properly. What does AskReddit think? | Hi AskReddit,
Long time lurker, but now I have something that I couldn't find an answer on. Anywhere. Please accept my appologies as English isn't my first language.
The thing is - I really like music (especially the Classical genre, but for the record, I'm talking about the "popular" music here). However I seem to be having great difficulty discovering and appreciating new music. I have only a select few songs that I can genuinely enjoy. I narrowed it down to to something I'll explain further down. After reviewing my music today, I couldn't help noticing that 69 of my 72 favorite songs come from somewhere specific. They're from games, movies, TV Shows, parties, the radio and other sources where I simply had no control over what I'm listening.
Now, my friends are trying to help me discover new songs, and I tried doing that by myself numerous times. The result is always the same - I simply can't "feel" the music that I voluntarily listen to. And not because of my taste. Could it have something to do with respondent conditioning? I can discover music that I really like through things that are pleasant for me emotionally. Somehow the music can register with me if I hear it under the right conditions, and only then I can actually "feel" it. But if I voluntarily decide to listen to something, no matter how good, it will not find its way into my favorite music collection. Hundreds of great songs, classics I'm sure, have been lost to me this way.
Can anyone give me advice on how should I expose myself to music properly so that it "registers" with me? I feel like I'm missing out on one of the greatest joys of life because of this weird condition. Any insight on this would be highly appreciated too! :) | Can't voluntarily discover new music because it doesn't register with me |
t3_1s3uya | relationships | My ex's [33M] sister [26F] is wanting to be friends with me again [28F] | So basically he was my first real relationship, it lasted about 3 years. I had trouble opening up and acted more like a friend than his girlfriend, i assume that is why he ended things. I was/still kinda am heart broken.
I still think he's an awesome person and would probably date him again if given the chance. Me and the ex haven't spoken in about 7 months (his choice) he has a new gf that he now lives with and seems happy in his life (we have mutal friends this is how i know)
Anyways me and one of his sisters always got along very well she's a cool ass chick and we would hang out and talk for hours. She recently moved back and is wanting to hang out... I'm on the fence on whether i should or not. We've talked over the internet but i haven't once brought up her brother or what happened. obviously she knows the situation as she's very close with her brother.
I don't want to open up to her about how hurt i was by her brother. i think if we were to see each other and start hanging out again it would eventually come out. I would love to hear other peoples' opinion/advice for this situation. | ex's sister wants to be friends, i don't know whether we should or not. |
t3_13qydz | relationships | Need advice about my ex(m/21) and I (f/19) | So, I dated a guy in high school for three years. (I graduated last year) I haven't really gotten over him I don't think. Well, whenever I think I am he texts me or calls me. But, today he texted me and told me that when I move back (I moved away from my hometown but plan on moving back sometime soon) he wants to take me out and try again because he misses what we had. I don't know what to do in this situation, or if he is just lonely or something. I don't want to be hurt by him again after everything that has happened in the past. So I'm stuck wondering if it's worth trying to see if there is still a possibility there, or if I should just suck it up. Advice would be so helpful. Feel free to ask questions. | Was in a three year relationship, considering going back to him. |
t3_4u6uyh | relationships | Girlfriend [15 F] of 3 months broke up with me [16 M] out of blue and I'm not sure what to think. | I understand the entire being young thing and there always being something else in the future but I'd just like some closure.
I began dating this girl towards the end of the school year. We both do the same sport and both of our friend groups were happy with us being together. Going on dates outside of school proved difficult since she was going through some issues going on with her family at home. However, I decided to stick it out and keep seeing her despite this. So during the course of about three months, we go out a decent amount of times together.
Then, on the last day of school, she breaks up with me only saying that she's not good with relationships. We didn't have any fights or even talk about her feeling this way prior to this so it hit me as quite the shock. She said that she didn't want a relationship right now and that we should be friends. It's been about a month since then and I still can't quite wrap my head around what happened.
I felt pretty strongly about her and the fact that this happened so suddenly messed me up for a while. I've seen her at parties over the summer but we haven't exchanged that many words there. During these, I've noticed her looking at me often throughout them but as I said we didn't talk much. So, I'm confused as to whether to still care about her and what we had. Do I just move on and try to be friends? Is the idea of there still being feelings something I shouldn't cling to? I feel like something might still be there but it may just be my emotions running high. | Girlfriend broke up with me suddenly and I don't know if it's worth trying to figure things out. |
t3_1aao0j | relationship_advice | Living together [F26,M26] for a while, am I being unreasonable? | Ex post from /r/self.
My boyfriend and I (both 26) have been living together for just over 2 years. About a week ago we got in a fight about how he doesn't think I pull my weight around the house. He purchased a mobile home himself about 6 months before I moved in with him, so it's his house that he owns and I don't pay rent but I pay for all the food and household stuff. We also have 2 dogs together (2 years old and 3 months old) that I pay for everything for and he mostly takes care of (walking, etc.).
When I first moved in I had 2 jobs but were small ones that didn't give me many hours a week so I spent a lot of time at home and was therefore expected to take care of household chores while my bf was at work. I had no problem with that at all. Now he works at home and I work a rotating schedule where I work 4 12 hour days then have 4 days off. On my days off I'm usually just laying in bed on my computer or running errands and that's basically it. He's a busy body and always has projects and hobbies whereas I'm perfectly happy relaxing and interneting and watching TV/movies all day and that seems to bother him, especially that I spend 4 days in a row doing so.
Lately it seems that we're both resentful about our living situation. Like I said, he told me he doesn't think I carry my weight around here. I understand that he's annoyed by how lazy I can be, but I'm not here to be his maid, I don't want to feel like he's just "letting me" live here. I really don't think I'm that sloppy or messy, I still do some chores and try to keep my own messes minimal, and I'm still paying for essentially everything he needs. | I'm not contributing to household chores as much and boyfriend thinks I'm lazy and ungrateful. |
t3_4swxgz | needadvice | Severe anxiety over loved one commuting to work? Starting to get debilitating. Please help. | So my mother drives about an hour to work every day. We've lived on our own together since I was a small child, and she's actually the only surviving family member I have left. This woman is my whole world. I literally couldn't continue on without her.
We're best friends and well as having a mother and son relationship.
So I basically convince myself that she has died some fiery death, every day.
Twice a day.
I'm already at work when she leaves, so she texts me when she leaves, and when she arrives at work.
I know the commute takes around an hour. But by the time it's been 45 minutes, I'm having a panic attack, worrying that the call or text won't come.
And God forbid she not be able to answer the phone when I freak the fuck out and call her. I start literally hyperventilating and contemplate getting in the car and driving an hour to look for her. And that's within 30 seconds of getting her voicemail.
This is debilitating. I'm being constantly slung from extreme worry to extreme relief, and I'm so tired. So very tired.
I dread the moment she leaves for work every day, and I almost can't function when it gets close to time for a call or text.
Somebody please give me some piece of advice. I can't keep dealing with this shit. It's effecting my life pretty drastically, and I feel like it's getting worse. | Guy has horrible anxiety attacks over mothers commute to work every day. Please help. |
t3_53w6ds | relationships | Me [34 F] torn between two men [40 M] and [35 M] | Throwaway to prevent ID by friends/fam.
I'll try and make this quick. I have been seeing two guys for the past year. 40M isn't very affectionate or emotionally supportive. Yet every time he calls, texts, or I see him it's like I'm in a trance.
35M is open-hearted, kind, helpful, sensitive, caring, loving, loyal and giving of himself. I like him and know he would make a good husband/father but there are just no fireworks. I would honestly love to feel the intense way I do for 40M, but it just isn't there.
The biggest difference between the two is that 40M is dominant and I love it. I feel like the best version of myself when I'm with him. I'm an ambitious, accomplished woman in my own right but he inspires me to set my goals even higher to be on par with him. 35M makes me feel like even if I decided to be complacent in life and not maximize my potential, it would be A-OK. He just wants the wife, the house, the kids and the white picket fence. Obviously I'm at that age where it's time to sh*t or get off the pot. 35M wants marriage, now, 40M wants a long term partnership but not marriage (unless with an iron-clad prenup). 35M seems like the smart option; he will be there for me no matter what. 40M I'm not so sure.
What say you, Reddit? | Why doesn't the guy I know makes for good husband/father material make me feel like the guy who isn't? Am I the problem here? |
t3_26eaa2 | relationships | My [17 M] Mom [38 F] still thinks I am all her's even though I have a girlfriend [17 F] | I'm 17 with a long-time girlfriend [2.5 years] (who I love), but my mom seems to feel like she is "competition". My mom is acting like an obsessive girlfriend.
For example: My mom has been cuddling me while my girlfriend is around. I try to move away from her and she acts like I have a problem and gets mad at me.
Example 2: She saw my girlfriend kissing me on the neck one time, and ever since then my mom has been kissing me on the neck when I go to bed instead of the cheek.
Example 3: Every time I ask to see my girlfriend my mom gets angry and makes up weird reasons for me not to see her. | My mom is trying to compete for attention with my girlfriend, and I don't know how to fix it. |
t3_2qv82a | tifu | TIFU by getting caught with photoshopping a teacher by the teacher I photoshopped | So this happened to me about 3 months ago.
I live in Sweden and here a lot of school's get so much state funding so that the school's can afford a private computer for each and every student from year 6-9 (Age 12-15).
A friend of mine is really in to photoshop and he was going to show me how to do it. So we basically started out with some google pics, just the some basics. Then we got this great idea to photoshop the teacher's so we went to the schools website and saved all the pictures of the staff and started the photoshop. The pictures were really silly when I think back on it, not offensive but a little mean, or at least a very harsh kind of funny.
Time went by and I forgot about the pictures that was on my computer. One day my computer had some kind of super lagging. I couldn't use the computer, so I went to the place we're you leave your computer in for fixing software problems (we have one for software and one for hardware). I just left my computer there and went to my next class. The guy who was going to fix my computer is also a music teacher, so of course he was photoshopped on my computer. At the time I didn't think of it but when I went to get my computer back the teacher took me in to his office. He said that he had found my pictures and that he was outraged that I had made a fool out of the teacher's who I should respect (the teacher is a buzzkill, can't see kids have fun). He said that he had cleared my computer completely so that everything on it had disappeared. I was so ashamed and he talked about taking this to principal and he was going to call my parents.
Today I can laugh about it but back then when it happened I was scared as shit. | Photoshopped teacher, teacher found out, teacher raged on me |
t3_3hp4m4 | relationships | What am I (38f) going to do? I can't get over him (40m) and I can't cut ties. | My husband of 11 years left me.
We had our problems, but I thought we were lifers. We've been married 11 years but known each other for 20. We have 2 young children.
I knew he wasn't happy for a while (but neither was I). It was just the garbage of life we were dealing with (money problems, family stresses, depression, lack of sex). We are in a very stressful period of time at the moment (sick extended family members, job issues), and I've been distracted for months.
He told me he was moving out to get some space to think. Then it became obvious he was seeing someone else. Then when confronted about it, he said he's not coming back.
I know: lawyer, gym. But I'm in shock. I think it must be shock......it has been 3 weeks now and I still feel icy cold when I think about it. I got sleeping pills from my doctor. Husband is someone I don't even recognize. He's extremely cold towards me and ONLY speaks to me regarding the kids. Nothing I say breaks through to him. In fact, he mostly ignores me.
I have no idea how to move on. I'm dealing with intense anger (that I know working out will help) but I feel so stressed and out of control. I'm not acting on the anger, but it sometimes feels like borderline rage that I have to stuff down.
I can't go no contact with him.......we have young kids who want to see them. He wants them as much as possible. I'm left here in tears while he takes them overnight. Moving on will be a long tedious process because I'll still have to see him REGULARLY because of the kids. And I'll have to hear about his life.
My heart is broken. | husband moved out to think, then told me he's not coming back. We have 2 young children and have to co-parent. How can I move on when I have to have regular contact with him? |
t3_3rtnrr | relationships | I [21F] don't know how to date girls. | I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a guy. I ended it because I realized that my heart wasn't there. I am very attracted to girls. I've been for a long time but never did anything about it. I just got with guys and hoped my urges for girls was just a phase. But i'm 21 now, I feel like I need to figure out what I want.
How do I talk to girls? How can I go on a date with them? I'm so shy.. I'm so new to this. How do I know if they're straight?. Oh geez, I don't know how to put myself out there and start dating girls. | New to the dating scene. What's your advice on dating the ~~opposite~~ same sex? |
t3_ou5x1 | AskReddit | I think my friend might have Asperger Syndrom, is there any good way to bring this up without insulting him? | He displays many of the symptoms, and I am one of the few people who can deal with him.
He often comes off as insulting or not empathetic to others and will droll on about his favorite video game for hours. The game is fairly well known and is a shared hobby i have with him but his love for the game is beyond obsession, he has just achieved 2000 games won on League of legends. If you figure in an average game is about 30 minutes with a 1:1 WL then that is around 2000 hours played.
He goes through full body "routines" regularly where he will touch his toes a hand full of times then reach up and swing back and forth for a minute or so. His general body language could be described as bouncy, imagine Shaggy from Scooby-Do.
His social behaviors are so abrasive that I cannot take him around my other friends, because he will unintentionally insult them repeatedly, or make awkward advances on my female friends that are unwanted. | Think my friend has a mental disorder, is there any good way to bring it up? |
t3_wtlv8 | relationships | My friends hate my new girlfriend, and it's tearing me apart. Please help. | Right, here goes...
First of all, a little information: I'm 15, so are my friends, and my girlfriend is turning 15 in a little less than a month. We're all in the same school year so we all have regular contact with one another. On Monday, I asked a girl out (let's call her A) who I'd been really good friends with for a nearly a year. She said yes, and we're both very happy together. She's quite good-looking, by anyone's standards, and great fun to be around.
However, a few of my friends seem to have a problem with us being in a relationship. They would like nothing better than to break us up, and I have no idea why. They call her ugly, call her a man, and generally insult her behind her back - they'd never dare to say anything to her face. Two of the worst offenders are people who I thought were some of my best friends. Let's call them L and T. Now, I've known both of these people since primary school (around 8 years), and up until I entered my current relationship, I've had no major problems with them.
L is generally the ringleader in all of this. He insults A constantly, makes things as awkward as possible between us, and generally isn't fun to be around. In my opinion, he is a huge attention seeker, and that may be why he has such a problem with my new girlfriend, as we used to spend a lot of time together. T, on the other hand, is one of those arrogant nerdy types who just likes to fuck with people for the fun of it. When L and T are together, they get far, far worse. Neither of these people have had any previous experience with relationships and don't understand what it's like for me.
Simply ignoring them isn't an option, since we have a lot of friends in common and we'd be around each other company. T shares many of his lessons with me, while L gets on the same bus as me for school. I have no plans on breaking up with my girlfriend because of them, but I'd like it if I could stay close to the people who I thought were my friends. | New girlfriend, friends can't stand her, what do? |
t3_3lrqmk | relationships | Me [22F] with my SO [27M] of a year and a half, he said he "really likes me a lot", I love him though | The nature of our relationship is really chill. We'll call him Dustin. We don't fight with each other and we see each other every week (2-3 times a week) despite being 30 miles away. We've skyped every day since dating, sometimes it's filled with my excited chattering, sometimes it's just quiet because we're both studying. It's always fun though, we make each other laugh.
The problem: I realized 4 months ago that I fell for him and told Dustin I loved him. I did say it about once or twice a month since then, it just came out naturally. He has never really addressed it though, he usually just smiles and we go back doing whatever we're doing.
Last week, I asked Dustin how he felt about me. He said he really really liked me. I was happy because he finally told me how he felt about me, but I remember just sitting in my car by myself and just crying. I think I cried because I thought/think it could only get worst from here. There's nothing else left of me to "experience". He's seen me during bad times and during good times.
Everything's gone back to normal, but I've been thinking about it. Is this normal? The guys I've dated before would jump the gun and would say "I love you" during the first 3-4 months of the relationship, but have turned around and do/say shitty things so I have no clue. | SO doesn't love me after a year and a half, is this normal? |
t3_2tx3qe | relationships | 24f and 25m...how do I turn him down... | Went on three dates with this guy. It was fun and we kissed but haven't slept with each other yet. No labels and nothing official. Personally it felt like it was going way too fast for me and something about it isn't sitting well with me. I think I still have some personal issues I need to sort out from my last relationship..it's been 2 years, I thought I'd be ready to date by now. Either timing is not right or I just got use to being single? He's a great guy though. Attractive, smart, nice, and patient. But his clingyness is wearing me out a bit.
But some messed up reason I'm just not feeling it. How do I tell him this. I feel bad...
-_ | how do I tell a guy I went on three dates with that I'm not feeling it. He's fun, attractive and nice - the whole package. But I just don't feel it...want to be as gentle about as I can before more feelings get involved... |
t3_ezr8f | self | Bringing Hope Back: My fight against morbid obesity. | Hello Reddit,
My name is XSA37, and I weigh 265 pounds. I am under twenty, around 6 feet tall, and have a family history of heart disease and diabetes. My whole life has been a struggle to control my weight. Today, I change that.
The problem I have found, you see, is that I have never had any motivation. I have never wanted a change in my life so badly that I was able to keep it up. I have been over 200 Pounds since my early teens, greatly increasing my chances of dying of one of the many illnesses that has plagued, and killed, members of my family through several generations. It was not until today that I found [this speech] that I had my motivation. Today I want to make a change, today I want to become a better, healthier person.
For the next month, I will be adding $1 to a donation for every pound that I lose. I know this won't be a lot, but it will be a start. I will then, at the end of the month, donate the money to charities that help young adults and children overcome their own weight problems and help them live a better life.
This isn't about the money, however. It is about awareness. It is about letting people know that, with the proper motivation, dedication, and education, they too can change their lives. So what do you say Reddit? Will you get behind someone who is willing to make a change to their life? There is no requirement from you besides your support for me and for the cause of lowering the mortality rate from obesity-related diseases. | I am fat. I want to live. For each pound I lose, I will donate $1. This is not about money, it is about education and bringing society back from a death sentence one pound and one person at a time. |
t3_fwtlc | AskReddit | Could I get away with working on a cruise ship and then jumping ship when I got to another country? | So I'm hoping to do some traveling, and airlines are really expensive. It occurred to me that, if I were to enter into service on a crew ship, waiting tables or swabbing decks, I would be getting paid to travel to exotic locales, and then I could just jump ship when I got where I wanted to go. I would be okay with it morally, because I don't feel like cruise ships are doing much of anything positive in the world. I am however totally ignorant about what this would entail. Would I be able to enter the country legally? I was planning on getting a tourist visa stateside. Has anyone tried this? Has anyone worked on a cruise ship? Could you just flesh out my proposal generally, so I know how viable it is? There is a specific place that I am trying to get, but I don't want to go into too many details because I have an inkling that this would be illegal. | I want to work on a cruise ship and then bow out when we get to the right port of call. How viable is this? |
t3_137wjw | BreakUps | I am through with this! | I am done being who I used to be. I am done tricking myself into believing things that aren't true even though all of the signs are there. I am done with being socially inadequate. Today is the day that I pick myself up and throw myself out there. Today is the day that I start going with my instincts instead of denying them because of social anxiety. When a girlfriend treats you poorly and you put up with it because you love her, you lose all of your self respect. It's been five months since my ex crushed my heart in a one and a half year relationship. I am just now realizing my flaws: my inability to correctly read people, letting my emotion cloud my judgement, and my tendency to compete in conversation and not listening. I am done with that. My life is amazing right now but socially I do not feel happy. I want to feel like me again. I want the ability to connect with people and share a common bond. I want to be something of value in other peoples' lives. Thank you reddit for letting me rant and I am ready to start living life to the fullest! | I am going to become more sociable and love myself more so that my future relationships will be exponentially better :) |
t3_sh0di | AskReddit | Reddit, I think I've completely screwed up my future | Somewhere right around the beginning of high school I came down with what I can only assume was a pretty major undiagnosed bout of depression. For about 2 years, I was extremely depressed and had no drive or motivation in my classes. This caused my grades to drop dramatically.
I'm just finishing up my Junior year in high school, and it's time to start looking for colleges. I'm still pretty smart (I'm not just saying that, I got a 2050 on the SAT and 32 on the ACT) but because of those two years, my GPA is a miserable 2.9, my class rank isn't even in the top half, and I have next to no extracurricular activities. Considering I want to major in computer science, I feel pretty screwed when it comes to colleges.
Has anyone been through something similar or have some advice for me? | had no motivation for half of high school, GPA is a 2.9 but I have great test scores. Do I have any chance at getting into a good school and if not, can I change that? |
t3_49w134 | legaladvice | I've (M 20) been taking care of my ex's (F 19) dog for about 8-9 months and I'm scared to give him back. | I moved up to Oregon last summer to be closer to my girlfriend, and I started taking care of her dog for her. He's an Italian greyhound chihuahua mix, and he's super sweet. When I first moved here, he had severe anxiety issues and would frequently have accidents all over the house. He didn't eat very much, and cower if anyone walked towards him.
Now he is happy and healthy. My roommates and neighbors have all noted how much he's improved. Even my ex's parents agree that he's doing much better.
When I broke up with my girlfriend, we agreed that the dog should stay with me because I was taking such good care of him. Since we broke up, she's only seen the dog about 5 times and only for a few brief moments, and that's 100% her choice. I've been open to her seeing him more.
I'm moving this week, and suddenly she doesn't want me taking him because he's her dog. I have a housing situation worked out and he'll be happy where we're going. We would be a short walk from the beach, and there would be other dogs for him to play with. We would even have a good yard for him to play in. And if I ever end up leaving and if I'm not able to take him, my mom would take over (she loves him and has a few dogs of her own).
I think my ex wants to keep him solely because he's "hers" and as a way to spite me. It's cruel, especially after she has already abandoned him. From what I know, she doesn't have any of his paperwork and her family all believe I should take him.
I'm at a loss as to what I should do. I love him dearly and I want what's best for him, but I'm worried about what the ramifications would be and I don't know how I should go about it. She's asking me when I'll be leaving so she can figure out when to grab him. | I've been taking care of my ex girlfriend's dog for several months, with no help from her. I've done a good job of it and I really care about the dog, but now she wants him back. |
t3_3nqzlx | relationships | My [26 F] affaire broke up with me [28 M]and suddenly we realised we have strong feelings for each other | Had a good affair with a girl for 1 year. 2 weeks ago she ask me, if it would be possible to me to get feelings for her and i answered with no. I realised that it wasn't the truth.
3 Days later she told me she is gonna date some guy from tinder. We met 1 week later, the dates seem good and i told her about my real feelings.
We realised, we both have strong feelings for each other but she doesnt feel like she could stop dating the guy and get into a serious relationship with me. Also she mentioned she doesn't know if she can handle keep dating the guy without having still feelings for me. This was on sunday. We decided we call each other and see us again a few days later... The problem is, my feelings for her get stronger and stronger after i kept them away for the last year, because of my horrible break up with my ex girlfriend. The imagination that she's dating the other guy makes me crazy and sad, what shall i do? Don't know when it's a good time to see her again and what exactly i should still tell her. She meant she's afraid of a relationship and getting hurt again, but so do I. | What to do to get my affaire back and into a serious relationship |
t3_1baaol | pettyrevenge | Science of Petty Revenge. | I was asked to post more. So I will.
I am teaching a half day science camp. It ends at noon and all the kids have been picked up save one: E. C. He's 9, he's the biggest/oldest kid in the camp and been a little hellion since the minute go. Things like swinging at kids. Not hitting, but trying to make them flinch. Rolling his eyes at every instruction. Telling everyone that everything sucks and is stupid.
So it is 12:15 and I'm calling the contact number. Turns out gram gram is stuck in traffic. Will be there in 10 minutes.
Hang up the phone look at E. C, who's been mumbling that gram gram is never late and tell him... She forgot about you.
When gram gram shows up he starts in on her about how she forgot about him. The whole way to the car and then some. | keep being obnoxious and I'll make you think your gram gram hates you. |
t3_522iz6 | relationships | I (23M) have been waiting for this girl (20F) an entire month, am I deluding myself? | I met this girl last month when I was visiting my tutor. She was just about to go her way but we had a chance to talk for a bit. After she left my tutor (who's also kinda like a friend of mine) told me that he thinks that she liked me. Being the pessimistic person that I am, I didn't believe him, but I went along with it. Later that day he texts me saying that she thought I was cute and wanted my Facebook. Now, having literally no social life whatsoever means I don't keep a Facebook anymore, so I asked him to give her my number instead.
He said OK. Then I changed my mind, and instead of being passive and waiting for her I decided to ask him for her number. He couldn't just hand it over without her consent though, so he said he'd do that first.
The next day she went on vacation abroad (it came up in our conversation as well), so I didn't really expect to hear anything from her until she gets back. Fast forward a couple of weeks, I find it weird that she hasn't texted me yet. I also didn't get her number. So I asked my tutor if he heard anything from her, and he told me that she wasn't answering her phone. A week after that I asked him again, and he said she was going through a personal crisis and won't be taking lessons with him at the moment.
I'm at a loss here. She's the only girl I met in recent years that was attractive, single and took interest in me. I want her to text me so bad that I don't even let my phone's battery run, just in case I'll miss a text. This has been going for a month (although in my defense she was absent for half of it).
Am I deluding myself here? Is it all over before it could even start? Everyone I tell about this says I should just move on. They don't understand I never get chances like this. I have my circumstances, but I'm almost 24 and never been with a girl for crying out loud. This "simple" fact is really starting to get to you at this stage. | girl likes me and wants my info, goes on vacation for 10-14 days, disappears, pops up again but is supposedly going through a personal crisis now. I don't have her number so I can't reach out. Am I naive for hoping that she'd still contact me? |
t3_pvdpw | AskReddit | Does anyone know how this is properly translated? | Earlier in my life, the mother of a girl I once knew had a plaque above her doorway.
The plaque had both the Latin and English for a "saying": Truth is strong unto itself.
The idea being that what is true, is; regardless of whether we believe it or not. I have always loved that concept, that the reality exists whether we know the reality or not; that it exists independent of our knowledge.
Anyhow, I would love to get the proper way of saying this in Latin. For the life of me, I can not remember the Latin translation. It was something like: Veritas es fortis. | I would like the proper Latin translation of: Truth is strong unto itself. |
t3_3qk3kj | dating_advice | This girl[16F] I've [16M] been talking to told me she was bummed when I didn't make a move on the first date so I kiss her on the second and after a few days she wants to take it slow (X-post /r/relationships) | so we've been talking for about a month. A mutual friend of ours introduced us and I asked her to the movies with me. Date went great and a few days later she said she was bummed when I didn't make a move on her. Next weekend I take her bowling where we play two games and talk for about an hour and a half. It was great and I kissed her. Later that date she kissed me and I was extremely happy! She was my first kiss. Today she tells me about how she's having a bad day and how bad things are happening in her life and we talk about it and before leaving we share a nice long hug. I tell her to text me and we part ways. She texts me about 30 minutes later and tells me that she wants to take it slower. She told me she left a relationship not long ago and that she wasn't sure how to commit to another relationship yet. What does this mean? What do I do? Do I continue to kiss her? | Talked to this girl for a month two dates and my first kiss later she tells me that she wants to take it slower and that she isn't sure how to commit to another relationship yet. What do I do? |
t3_23ni1m | Pets | Well this is my first post... I hope it is worth it for all bird owners! I don't know if its worth anything but I know its safe! How to make a travel cage/case for your bird(s) | Okay so, If you believe that this belongs in r/parrots just say so in the comments and I will move it! okay!
***So you will need:***
* [A carry cage] ( (Sometimes you can get them with water/food containers... best if you do...)
* A drill ..
* A file
* [A Screw on perch] (
* If you don't get a carrier with food/water dishes already I think you can buy screw on food/water dishes too.
* Toys.. (Any toys you want... Preferably screw on toys)
***Method:***
Step 1: Pull *apart* the carrier
Step 2: Drill a hole in the carrier, Then file down the hole.
Step 3: Screw your perch in
Step 4: (If your carrier comes with food/water dishes ignore this) Drill a few more holes and put your screw in food/water dishes...
Step 5: Put back together
Step 6: Make another hole in the top, file it, then screw the toy in...
**You're finished!** *Yay!*
*When your bird(s) uses the carrier(s) some things to bring are:*
* Your Bird
* Blanket
* Food/Water
* Paper towel (for the floor)
Yeah! If you want extra info on how to get the bird in just ask! Thanks Bye! | How to make a bird carrier! |
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