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98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f505o | e4f91il | 1,534,614,653 | 1,534,618,548 | 99 | 150 | Then they need to return your payments, fees, and the car you traded in with no extra mileage. If they can not do those things tell them to contact your lawyer. Not a lawyer. | As long as your are current on your car payments, they cannot force you to return the car. If you fall delinquent on your payments, the creditor can repossess your car fairly quickly. While keeping in mind that you are not under obligation to do additional business with the dealership, if they propose a deal on terms that are acceptable to you, then you are free to pursue that deal. However I would advise you to keep the following words of wisdom in mind: "If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is" | 0 | 3,895 | 1.515152 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f71nt | e4f91il | 1,534,616,602 | 1,534,618,548 | 55 | 150 | Was your purchase a new or used car? Do you have the title on the new car? If so, "No" is a complete sentence. The specific state where you're located would be helpful but IMHO "reputable dealership" doesn't apply here. | As long as your are current on your car payments, they cannot force you to return the car. If you fall delinquent on your payments, the creditor can repossess your car fairly quickly. While keeping in mind that you are not under obligation to do additional business with the dealership, if they propose a deal on terms that are acceptable to you, then you are free to pursue that deal. However I would advise you to keep the following words of wisdom in mind: "If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is" | 0 | 1,946 | 2.727273 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f91il | e4f4qui | 1,534,618,548 | 1,534,614,402 | 150 | 34 | As long as your are current on your car payments, they cannot force you to return the car. If you fall delinquent on your payments, the creditor can repossess your car fairly quickly. While keeping in mind that you are not under obligation to do additional business with the dealership, if they propose a deal on terms that are acceptable to you, then you are free to pursue that deal. However I would advise you to keep the following words of wisdom in mind: "If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is" | Are they planning on returning your trade in & give you a full refund? If you search this sub this has happened with a few dealerships. | 1 | 4,146 | 4.411765 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f7td6 | e4fded2 | 1,534,617,329 | 1,534,623,098 | 129 | 141 | Tell them to pound sand | They are not able to get the price that they want for your former car, are panicking because they are in a loss due to it, and want to undo the whole transaction. However, that is of no concern to you, they should have done their due diligence when signing the contract, and you should tell them this. It is your car now, and all of their attempts to get it back will only succeed if you cave in, or agree to it under pressure. Think about it, if they sold your former car for much more than the trade in value, would they give you back the extra money. Of course not, and the same should be true for the reverse. | 0 | 5,769 | 1.093023 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4fded2 | e4f505o | 1,534,623,098 | 1,534,614,653 | 141 | 99 | They are not able to get the price that they want for your former car, are panicking because they are in a loss due to it, and want to undo the whole transaction. However, that is of no concern to you, they should have done their due diligence when signing the contract, and you should tell them this. It is your car now, and all of their attempts to get it back will only succeed if you cave in, or agree to it under pressure. Think about it, if they sold your former car for much more than the trade in value, would they give you back the extra money. Of course not, and the same should be true for the reverse. | Then they need to return your payments, fees, and the car you traded in with no extra mileage. If they can not do those things tell them to contact your lawyer. Not a lawyer. | 1 | 8,445 | 1.424242 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4fded2 | e4f71nt | 1,534,623,098 | 1,534,616,602 | 141 | 55 | They are not able to get the price that they want for your former car, are panicking because they are in a loss due to it, and want to undo the whole transaction. However, that is of no concern to you, they should have done their due diligence when signing the contract, and you should tell them this. It is your car now, and all of their attempts to get it back will only succeed if you cave in, or agree to it under pressure. Think about it, if they sold your former car for much more than the trade in value, would they give you back the extra money. Of course not, and the same should be true for the reverse. | Was your purchase a new or used car? Do you have the title on the new car? If so, "No" is a complete sentence. The specific state where you're located would be helpful but IMHO "reputable dealership" doesn't apply here. | 1 | 6,496 | 2.563636 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4fbd5i | e4fded2 | 1,534,620,985 | 1,534,623,098 | 50 | 141 | Tell them to give you their demand in writing with a letterhead on it, first. Then proceed to tell them to eat a bag of dicks. They can't do that. | They are not able to get the price that they want for your former car, are panicking because they are in a loss due to it, and want to undo the whole transaction. However, that is of no concern to you, they should have done their due diligence when signing the contract, and you should tell them this. It is your car now, and all of their attempts to get it back will only succeed if you cave in, or agree to it under pressure. Think about it, if they sold your former car for much more than the trade in value, would they give you back the extra money. Of course not, and the same should be true for the reverse. | 0 | 2,113 | 2.82 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4fded2 | e4f4qui | 1,534,623,098 | 1,534,614,402 | 141 | 34 | They are not able to get the price that they want for your former car, are panicking because they are in a loss due to it, and want to undo the whole transaction. However, that is of no concern to you, they should have done their due diligence when signing the contract, and you should tell them this. It is your car now, and all of their attempts to get it back will only succeed if you cave in, or agree to it under pressure. Think about it, if they sold your former car for much more than the trade in value, would they give you back the extra money. Of course not, and the same should be true for the reverse. | Are they planning on returning your trade in & give you a full refund? If you search this sub this has happened with a few dealerships. | 1 | 8,696 | 4.147059 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f505o | e4f7td6 | 1,534,614,653 | 1,534,617,329 | 99 | 129 | Then they need to return your payments, fees, and the car you traded in with no extra mileage. If they can not do those things tell them to contact your lawyer. Not a lawyer. | Tell them to pound sand | 0 | 2,676 | 1.30303 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f71nt | e4f7td6 | 1,534,616,602 | 1,534,617,329 | 55 | 129 | Was your purchase a new or used car? Do you have the title on the new car? If so, "No" is a complete sentence. The specific state where you're located would be helpful but IMHO "reputable dealership" doesn't apply here. | Tell them to pound sand | 0 | 727 | 2.345455 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f4qui | e4f7td6 | 1,534,614,402 | 1,534,617,329 | 34 | 129 | Are they planning on returning your trade in & give you a full refund? If you search this sub this has happened with a few dealerships. | Tell them to pound sand | 0 | 2,927 | 3.794118 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f4qui | e4f505o | 1,534,614,402 | 1,534,614,653 | 34 | 99 | Are they planning on returning your trade in & give you a full refund? If you search this sub this has happened with a few dealerships. | Then they need to return your payments, fees, and the car you traded in with no extra mileage. If they can not do those things tell them to contact your lawyer. Not a lawyer. | 0 | 251 | 2.911765 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f71nt | e4ffb95 | 1,534,616,602 | 1,534,625,111 | 55 | 89 | Was your purchase a new or used car? Do you have the title on the new car? If so, "No" is a complete sentence. The specific state where you're located would be helpful but IMHO "reputable dealership" doesn't apply here. | I am not a lawyer I would head over to /r/scams and see if this is a known scam. It sounds really fishy. Additionally, if they DO buy out the loan, (99.99% likely they won't) while they can't force you to return the vehicle unless you default, I would recommend refinancing the loan through a 3rd party, as the dealer clearly had it out for you and will do everything they legally could to make your life miserable. | 0 | 8,509 | 1.618182 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4ffb95 | e4fbd5i | 1,534,625,111 | 1,534,620,985 | 89 | 50 | I am not a lawyer I would head over to /r/scams and see if this is a known scam. It sounds really fishy. Additionally, if they DO buy out the loan, (99.99% likely they won't) while they can't force you to return the vehicle unless you default, I would recommend refinancing the loan through a 3rd party, as the dealer clearly had it out for you and will do everything they legally could to make your life miserable. | Tell them to give you their demand in writing with a letterhead on it, first. Then proceed to tell them to eat a bag of dicks. They can't do that. | 1 | 4,126 | 1.78 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f4qui | e4ffb95 | 1,534,614,402 | 1,534,625,111 | 34 | 89 | Are they planning on returning your trade in & give you a full refund? If you search this sub this has happened with a few dealerships. | I am not a lawyer I would head over to /r/scams and see if this is a known scam. It sounds really fishy. Additionally, if they DO buy out the loan, (99.99% likely they won't) while they can't force you to return the vehicle unless you default, I would recommend refinancing the loan through a 3rd party, as the dealer clearly had it out for you and will do everything they legally could to make your life miserable. | 0 | 10,709 | 2.617647 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4f4qui | e4f71nt | 1,534,614,402 | 1,534,616,602 | 34 | 55 | Are they planning on returning your trade in & give you a full refund? If you search this sub this has happened with a few dealerships. | Was your purchase a new or used car? Do you have the title on the new car? If so, "No" is a complete sentence. The specific state where you're located would be helpful but IMHO "reputable dealership" doesn't apply here. | 0 | 2,200 | 1.617647 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4fbd5i | e4f4qui | 1,534,620,985 | 1,534,614,402 | 50 | 34 | Tell them to give you their demand in writing with a letterhead on it, first. Then proceed to tell them to eat a bag of dicks. They can't do that. | Are they planning on returning your trade in & give you a full refund? If you search this sub this has happened with a few dealerships. | 1 | 6,583 | 1.470588 |
98ddtr | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I bought my first car from a dealership two months ago. This week they called to tell me they are “buying my loan from the bank” and I need to give the car back. Hey everyone! Sorry for the long title but I could only condense so much. So I bought a car from a reputable dealership about 2 months ago, I traded In my car, which had no issues. I got a call this week that my trade in wasn’t worth what they paid and that they want to buy my loan from the bank and take my new car back. Is this is something they can do? This seems like a serious threat and it seems like if I have already made payments and changed thing on the car it wouldn’t be possible for them to just take it back. Any advice on how to proceed with this dealership would be appreciated. Thanks everyone! Located in the USA if that makes a difference! TLDR: car dealership wants my car I’ve already made two payments on. Because they made a mistake and payed too much for my car. | e4fxk7l | e4fxdvk | 1,534,644,550 | 1,534,644,357 | 29 | 25 | This is called 'cooking' in car sales, although it sounds like they screwed it up. They sign the papers at a major discount, all but two or three pages. You take the car home, fall in love with it. Maybe put rims or aftermarket parts on it. A week or so later, you get a call. "Hey, the financing fell through, we gotta renegotiate." Since the paperwork isn't right, it's still their car. And if you don't resign (at a much higher cost, interest rate, whatever) they just take the car, plus all the new accessories (since rendering the car undeniable isn't an option). They have a spare set of keys and have the porter go grab the car if you put up a fuss and lock it up at a sister dealership while sales keeps you busy. Worst case, they have to give the aftermarket stuff back. It's an older scam I saw a lot in Florida. But it sounds like they actually filled the paperwork out correctly and sent the packet off, expecting to cook it. Some finance guy is about to lose his job, sounds like. | If you overpaid on the car you got from them and tried to back out of the deal, they'd laugh until you hung up the phone. Turnabout is fair play. Their errors are on them. | 1 | 193 | 1.16 |
v97qdb | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | DMV took away my license because of a medical condition I dont have. A few days ago, I got a notice in the mail that my license has been recalled and I must surrender it to the state because they received a report that I have a seizure disorder. I do not have a seizure disorder, have never had a seizure, a seizure disorder, or any medical condition that is remotely close. I submitted paperwork from my doctors office attesting to this fact and a letter explaining that this is an error, along with a request for a copy of the initial seizure report. A person I spoke to at the DMV said that this report would have come from a doctor's office, though due to HIPAA, this call center worker couldn't access my report to provide specifics. I called every doctor I've seen in the two years, which is not many, and all of them said they filed no such report (because I obviously don't have seizures). The "DMV medical team" who handles these reports is not taking phone calls, only written requests or emails which takes about 5 days to respond to. I told the DMV I've submitted paperwork to correct my record and reinstate my license they said that'll take about 20 BUSINESS DAYS to process. Meanwhile, in 15 days, the state PD will be notified that my license is to be confiscated if I don't surrender it voluntarily. So during this time, I can't get myself to work, can't drive and I have a pregnant wife who can go into labor any day now. Do I have any legal recourse here? Anything I can do other than wait it out? What the hell do I even do? | ibuu4qr | ibv7xpk | 1,654,869,718 | 1,654,875,653 | 778 | 1,179 | You need to escalate this within the DMV - when you contact the call center, escalate with management until you get a resolution. This sounds like a clerical error, but one that should get an expedited fix. Have you physically gone into a branch as well? They may be able to get a quicker answer for you. The advice for a representative is a good one as well. | Ok so I used to represent people in these sorts of things. Probably not in your state. The notice should say what you need to do to request a hearing. They also do have a duty to provide you the records in support of their decision. You want to be dealing with the hearings officers at this point, not the DMV itself. They tend to be more responsive, and if they can make one of their hearings go away, they are all about it. May be worth a consult with a local attorney WHO DOES THESE. You don’t want a big expensive flashy attorney. You want one who knows the hearings officers and deals with them regularly. They’ll have the paralegals’ email addresses and back channels to actually communicate with who you want to communicate with. | 0 | 5,935 | 1.515424 |
v97qdb | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | DMV took away my license because of a medical condition I dont have. A few days ago, I got a notice in the mail that my license has been recalled and I must surrender it to the state because they received a report that I have a seizure disorder. I do not have a seizure disorder, have never had a seizure, a seizure disorder, or any medical condition that is remotely close. I submitted paperwork from my doctors office attesting to this fact and a letter explaining that this is an error, along with a request for a copy of the initial seizure report. A person I spoke to at the DMV said that this report would have come from a doctor's office, though due to HIPAA, this call center worker couldn't access my report to provide specifics. I called every doctor I've seen in the two years, which is not many, and all of them said they filed no such report (because I obviously don't have seizures). The "DMV medical team" who handles these reports is not taking phone calls, only written requests or emails which takes about 5 days to respond to. I told the DMV I've submitted paperwork to correct my record and reinstate my license they said that'll take about 20 BUSINESS DAYS to process. Meanwhile, in 15 days, the state PD will be notified that my license is to be confiscated if I don't surrender it voluntarily. So during this time, I can't get myself to work, can't drive and I have a pregnant wife who can go into labor any day now. Do I have any legal recourse here? Anything I can do other than wait it out? What the hell do I even do? | ibuv9si | ibv7xpk | 1,654,870,237 | 1,654,875,653 | 29 | 1,179 | Are you absolutely sure this is legit from the DMV and not a scam? Did you call the number on the paper or did you Google the real number yourself? | Ok so I used to represent people in these sorts of things. Probably not in your state. The notice should say what you need to do to request a hearing. They also do have a duty to provide you the records in support of their decision. You want to be dealing with the hearings officers at this point, not the DMV itself. They tend to be more responsive, and if they can make one of their hearings go away, they are all about it. May be worth a consult with a local attorney WHO DOES THESE. You don’t want a big expensive flashy attorney. You want one who knows the hearings officers and deals with them regularly. They’ll have the paralegals’ email addresses and back channels to actually communicate with who you want to communicate with. | 0 | 5,416 | 40.655172 |
v97qdb | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | DMV took away my license because of a medical condition I dont have. A few days ago, I got a notice in the mail that my license has been recalled and I must surrender it to the state because they received a report that I have a seizure disorder. I do not have a seizure disorder, have never had a seizure, a seizure disorder, or any medical condition that is remotely close. I submitted paperwork from my doctors office attesting to this fact and a letter explaining that this is an error, along with a request for a copy of the initial seizure report. A person I spoke to at the DMV said that this report would have come from a doctor's office, though due to HIPAA, this call center worker couldn't access my report to provide specifics. I called every doctor I've seen in the two years, which is not many, and all of them said they filed no such report (because I obviously don't have seizures). The "DMV medical team" who handles these reports is not taking phone calls, only written requests or emails which takes about 5 days to respond to. I told the DMV I've submitted paperwork to correct my record and reinstate my license they said that'll take about 20 BUSINESS DAYS to process. Meanwhile, in 15 days, the state PD will be notified that my license is to be confiscated if I don't surrender it voluntarily. So during this time, I can't get myself to work, can't drive and I have a pregnant wife who can go into labor any day now. Do I have any legal recourse here? Anything I can do other than wait it out? What the hell do I even do? | ibv97mn | ibv9u2v | 1,654,876,187 | 1,654,876,450 | 103 | 117 | Just to be clear, did you call the DMV, OR did you call the number on the 'letter'. Because people will fake these outrageous things to get you to call them and give up a bunch of information just to prove you are you... | I am not a lawyer, but I know a lot about medical records and the mistakes that can happen with them! It sounds like you have already gotten some good advice. Definitely escalate this to your elected state representatives. It's possible that one of two things happened here. In some states, medical information is submitted to a health information exchange network and other agencies can potentially access or get alerts from these networks in certain circumstances (Maryland and Massachusetts are two states where physicians routinely report to these networks). However, we have not yet learned how to accurately match patients to their records 100% of the time because we do not have a unique national patient identifier. Another possibility is that a health system or hospital you haven't been to in years accidentally added someone else's medical information to your electronic record. Maybe a patient with the same or similar name came in to receive care and the doctor accidentally pulled up the wrong record and added their information to YOUR record. I would think about places you've been further back than 2 years (like in the last 10 years). Call all those places and ask for your complete set of records. They are required to respond to such requests. You can even request that they send you an email of your records; this can be to your regular email account, as HIPAA permits you to request this if you want (https://www.hhs.gov/hipaa/for-professionals/privacy/guidance/access/index.html) The final option is medical fraud. It's possible someone is using your identity to receive medical care. Call your insurance company and get a run down of ALL the claims filed against your insurance in the last year or so. See if there are any claims for services you did not receive. Finally, it is also possible that the DMV received a report and filed it against the wrong account. That should be a relatively easy fix. If you have a common name it could be as simple as someone selected the wrong person from a list of names (especially if you have a common name). I offer up these scenarios because if you can maybe figure out how this happened, it might be easier to resolve it. Good luck, this sounds immensely frustrating. | 0 | 263 | 1.135922 |
v97qdb | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | DMV took away my license because of a medical condition I dont have. A few days ago, I got a notice in the mail that my license has been recalled and I must surrender it to the state because they received a report that I have a seizure disorder. I do not have a seizure disorder, have never had a seizure, a seizure disorder, or any medical condition that is remotely close. I submitted paperwork from my doctors office attesting to this fact and a letter explaining that this is an error, along with a request for a copy of the initial seizure report. A person I spoke to at the DMV said that this report would have come from a doctor's office, though due to HIPAA, this call center worker couldn't access my report to provide specifics. I called every doctor I've seen in the two years, which is not many, and all of them said they filed no such report (because I obviously don't have seizures). The "DMV medical team" who handles these reports is not taking phone calls, only written requests or emails which takes about 5 days to respond to. I told the DMV I've submitted paperwork to correct my record and reinstate my license they said that'll take about 20 BUSINESS DAYS to process. Meanwhile, in 15 days, the state PD will be notified that my license is to be confiscated if I don't surrender it voluntarily. So during this time, I can't get myself to work, can't drive and I have a pregnant wife who can go into labor any day now. Do I have any legal recourse here? Anything I can do other than wait it out? What the hell do I even do? | ibuv9si | ibv9u2v | 1,654,870,237 | 1,654,876,450 | 29 | 117 | Are you absolutely sure this is legit from the DMV and not a scam? Did you call the number on the paper or did you Google the real number yourself? | I am not a lawyer, but I know a lot about medical records and the mistakes that can happen with them! It sounds like you have already gotten some good advice. Definitely escalate this to your elected state representatives. It's possible that one of two things happened here. In some states, medical information is submitted to a health information exchange network and other agencies can potentially access or get alerts from these networks in certain circumstances (Maryland and Massachusetts are two states where physicians routinely report to these networks). However, we have not yet learned how to accurately match patients to their records 100% of the time because we do not have a unique national patient identifier. Another possibility is that a health system or hospital you haven't been to in years accidentally added someone else's medical information to your electronic record. Maybe a patient with the same or similar name came in to receive care and the doctor accidentally pulled up the wrong record and added their information to YOUR record. I would think about places you've been further back than 2 years (like in the last 10 years). Call all those places and ask for your complete set of records. They are required to respond to such requests. You can even request that they send you an email of your records; this can be to your regular email account, as HIPAA permits you to request this if you want (https://www.hhs.gov/hipaa/for-professionals/privacy/guidance/access/index.html) The final option is medical fraud. It's possible someone is using your identity to receive medical care. Call your insurance company and get a run down of ALL the claims filed against your insurance in the last year or so. See if there are any claims for services you did not receive. Finally, it is also possible that the DMV received a report and filed it against the wrong account. That should be a relatively easy fix. If you have a common name it could be as simple as someone selected the wrong person from a list of names (especially if you have a common name). I offer up these scenarios because if you can maybe figure out how this happened, it might be easier to resolve it. Good luck, this sounds immensely frustrating. | 0 | 6,213 | 4.034483 |
v97qdb | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | DMV took away my license because of a medical condition I dont have. A few days ago, I got a notice in the mail that my license has been recalled and I must surrender it to the state because they received a report that I have a seizure disorder. I do not have a seizure disorder, have never had a seizure, a seizure disorder, or any medical condition that is remotely close. I submitted paperwork from my doctors office attesting to this fact and a letter explaining that this is an error, along with a request for a copy of the initial seizure report. A person I spoke to at the DMV said that this report would have come from a doctor's office, though due to HIPAA, this call center worker couldn't access my report to provide specifics. I called every doctor I've seen in the two years, which is not many, and all of them said they filed no such report (because I obviously don't have seizures). The "DMV medical team" who handles these reports is not taking phone calls, only written requests or emails which takes about 5 days to respond to. I told the DMV I've submitted paperwork to correct my record and reinstate my license they said that'll take about 20 BUSINESS DAYS to process. Meanwhile, in 15 days, the state PD will be notified that my license is to be confiscated if I don't surrender it voluntarily. So during this time, I can't get myself to work, can't drive and I have a pregnant wife who can go into labor any day now. Do I have any legal recourse here? Anything I can do other than wait it out? What the hell do I even do? | ibv97mn | ibuv9si | 1,654,876,187 | 1,654,870,237 | 103 | 29 | Just to be clear, did you call the DMV, OR did you call the number on the 'letter'. Because people will fake these outrageous things to get you to call them and give up a bunch of information just to prove you are you... | Are you absolutely sure this is legit from the DMV and not a scam? Did you call the number on the paper or did you Google the real number yourself? | 1 | 5,950 | 3.551724 |
v97qdb | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | DMV took away my license because of a medical condition I dont have. A few days ago, I got a notice in the mail that my license has been recalled and I must surrender it to the state because they received a report that I have a seizure disorder. I do not have a seizure disorder, have never had a seizure, a seizure disorder, or any medical condition that is remotely close. I submitted paperwork from my doctors office attesting to this fact and a letter explaining that this is an error, along with a request for a copy of the initial seizure report. A person I spoke to at the DMV said that this report would have come from a doctor's office, though due to HIPAA, this call center worker couldn't access my report to provide specifics. I called every doctor I've seen in the two years, which is not many, and all of them said they filed no such report (because I obviously don't have seizures). The "DMV medical team" who handles these reports is not taking phone calls, only written requests or emails which takes about 5 days to respond to. I told the DMV I've submitted paperwork to correct my record and reinstate my license they said that'll take about 20 BUSINESS DAYS to process. Meanwhile, in 15 days, the state PD will be notified that my license is to be confiscated if I don't surrender it voluntarily. So during this time, I can't get myself to work, can't drive and I have a pregnant wife who can go into labor any day now. Do I have any legal recourse here? Anything I can do other than wait it out? What the hell do I even do? | ibw7e37 | ibuv9si | 1,654,890,851 | 1,654,870,237 | 35 | 29 | Might be a good idea to check your credit reports. This could possibly be someone who has stolen your identity and used it to get treatment. | Are you absolutely sure this is legit from the DMV and not a scam? Did you call the number on the paper or did you Google the real number yourself? | 1 | 20,614 | 1.206897 |
4gdxpi | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My dad was diagnosed with dementia. Mom filed paperwork with DMV to take his license away...Is my mom liable for actions after? (California) My dad was diagnosed with dementia. Prior to the diagnosis, he was involved in 2 hit and run incidents which he has no recollection of. The police have stopped by my parents house twice in regards to those incidents. My mother filed paperwork with the DMV to get his license taken away, yet my dad continues to drive his vehicle. If he gets into another accident, can my mother be liable personally? Together, they own a house, but keep separate bank accounts. My father refuses to go into a nursing home and my mom does not know how to proceed. What steps can I as a son take to help protect my mother? She only has her retirement from being a state employee and I want to make sure she can protect herself. | d2gtobk | d2h6j9x | 1,461,607,519 | 1,461,624,787 | 3 | 6 | Does your dad have a POA? If so, this person can admit him to a nursing home. As far as the keys, make sure your mom hides the keys at all times. Dad may get upset over not being able to find keys, but try to redirect. Taking away driving privileges is probably one of the hardest things, as your dad has been independent for so long. I'm sorry you and your mom are going through this. | The Alzheimer's Association has some incredibly helpful information and resources. You should also consider at least a consult with an Elder Law Attorney. They can give you advice on how to protect assets of a couple when one is incapacitated, especially if Medicaid is eventually involved. | 0 | 17,268 | 2 |
x79dqz | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | [Boston, MA] Customer took rental car and never returned it, we sent her a letter, no reply I work for a rental car business; it's a mom-and-pop business, not a Hertz-type place. A customer rented a Ford Explorer from us, one of them top-drawer versions, and it was for 2 weeks, but since then it's not been returned to us. I've since found out the car's over the state line in New Haven, CT from an email from someone who claimed to know the customer. The car's a three-year-old Explorer, but that's not the point; isn't this effectively theft under another name? The customer told us she was an influencer looking to visit Boston, showed us her IG page and TikTok as proof, but anyway... this is concerning. But the insurance for a rental car doesn't cover out-of-state trips like this. We sent her a formal letter via the mail, no reply or phone call back. I've tried contacting her via email, phone, no real reply. Does my employer need to get the cops involved and treat this as theft, or is there a way of getting resolution without needing theft? Is this the sort of thing we need an attorney for? Incidentally, it's a first for us, not in a good way, and we've never had to deal with anything like this. This is causing us stress and worry, COVID already affected our business since we didn't have the tourists visiting and travel bans being in place, things are picking up again with out-of-state tourists visiting, but it'll take a long time to get back to pre-pandemic levels. What can we do legally? ***Julia (not my real name), 28/F, Watertown, near Boston, MA but commutes into Boston*** | inbldua | inb48qh | 1,662,476,701 | 1,662,469,141 | 27 | 14 | Report it too the police as stolen. They'll probably drag their feet because it's a rental but make sure they actually file it | First off you really should have a lawyer to answer these questions. I’ve done my best to answer with google, but I’m not a lawyer and there can be important things only a lawyer is likely to know. Most likely this is the crime they have committed: https://www.neymanlaw.com/larceny-of-leased-or-rented-property.html If the car has been gone past 10 days report it to the police. You might be able to report it missing sooner even if it doesn’t fall under that crime. Ymmv if the police will be willing to do anything before that 10 days has gone past. Also if it is stolen check if you have any insurance that would cover this. Standard insurance would probably not cover a rental car being stolen, but perhaps you have specialized insurance. | 1 | 7,560 | 1.928571 |
az5kkn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [MA] Unproperly covered/strapped down dump trucks load fell out and damaged my vehicle. All seen on my dashcam. My insurance can’t see license plate on video so the company saying they are not at fault. Do I still have time to claim it with the police? As stated above I was driving and a car away from a dump truck. Their load wasn’t covered properly at all and thing fell out from their truck and damaged my vehicle. It was all caught on my dashcam but I couldn’t see their plate number and my insurance company cannot see it. The company claimed no one reported it (I was on highway I couldn’t pull over) and now I am stuck with the damage cost myself. Do I atleast still have time to go to the police to report it? It happened at the beginning of February. Thank you. TLDR: dashcam caught overloaded/unproperly tied down load of company dump truck that damaged my vehicle when things fell out of their truck on the highway. Unable to locate license plate number. It happened beginning of February. Do I have time to report it to my local police department still? | ei5ers6 | ei5f1ef | 1,552,151,596 | 1,552,151,793 | 33 | 123 | Speak to a supervisor within your insurance company. This isn’t your problem. The police probably aren’t interested at this point. | *dashcam video of their truck’s load falling out and damaging your car* Truck company: Nuh uh, can’t prove it! Your insurance company should be able to get it straightened out. | 0 | 197 | 3.727273 |
az5kkn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [MA] Unproperly covered/strapped down dump trucks load fell out and damaged my vehicle. All seen on my dashcam. My insurance can’t see license plate on video so the company saying they are not at fault. Do I still have time to claim it with the police? As stated above I was driving and a car away from a dump truck. Their load wasn’t covered properly at all and thing fell out from their truck and damaged my vehicle. It was all caught on my dashcam but I couldn’t see their plate number and my insurance company cannot see it. The company claimed no one reported it (I was on highway I couldn’t pull over) and now I am stuck with the damage cost myself. Do I atleast still have time to go to the police to report it? It happened at the beginning of February. Thank you. TLDR: dashcam caught overloaded/unproperly tied down load of company dump truck that damaged my vehicle when things fell out of their truck on the highway. Unable to locate license plate number. It happened beginning of February. Do I have time to report it to my local police department still? | ei5t5dd | ei5ubam | 1,552,162,152 | 1,552,163,073 | 10 | 12 | You have videotaped evidence of the incident. You can sue them in small claims court and win. Call them and tell them you have video.of their vehicle damaging yours and that the cost if repair is XXX. If they blow you off again file suit. This happened in another thread, but I can't seem to find it. | In addition to your insurance company, because this was a commercial vehicle you may also either talk to the Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration and/or the state's DOT wing if they have one, though they may be a part of the MSP. Losing part of a load like this is something they'd be very interested in speaking to the company about. | 0 | 921 | 1.2 |
oo5e1f | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My ex cosigned for me to buy my car and now she married the guy she left me for. How does this affect my loan? Indiana for context. Long story short, my ex and I bought a car while we were still together. More specifically, she cosigned for me to be able to buy the car. A little over a year after that we were done and she dumped me with the car's financial responsibility and I've been the sole payer of the vehicle for 2.5 years now. If I had to estimate, I've paid maybe 90% of what was paid on the car myself (because it was my car). Unfortunately, she's on the loan too. My bank suggested I trade in the car and have them deal with it. The BMV said I could file a court order to get the title in my name after I pay it off if I show evidence the other lender has abandoned responsibility. Here's the problem though: I was working on option 2 but I didn't want to be dumb and pay it off and drain all my money. But now, she seems to have gone and married the dude she cheated on me with. I guess what I'm asking is: will he have some sort of claim to my vehicle now that they're married? Or am I still safe to proceed with plan B and court order the car in my name. Me and the ex haven't spoken or seen each other for 2 and a half years now. I have the money to pay my car off and have about 2 grand left over. Should I be rushing this now or not? I've no reason to believe she'd suddenly try to come and screw me over now but you never know. | h5wiewd | h5w3bpv | 1,626,804,539 | 1,626,798,256 | 976 | 85 | Just because she cosigned doesn't mean the loan is in her name. It's just a safety net for the bank/dealership if you defer on your payments they still get their money. As long as you're the one that applied for the loan and pay it off the title should be released in your name. | She's on the title and the loan? Or just the loan? | 1 | 6,283 | 11.482353 |
oo5e1f | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My ex cosigned for me to buy my car and now she married the guy she left me for. How does this affect my loan? Indiana for context. Long story short, my ex and I bought a car while we were still together. More specifically, she cosigned for me to be able to buy the car. A little over a year after that we were done and she dumped me with the car's financial responsibility and I've been the sole payer of the vehicle for 2.5 years now. If I had to estimate, I've paid maybe 90% of what was paid on the car myself (because it was my car). Unfortunately, she's on the loan too. My bank suggested I trade in the car and have them deal with it. The BMV said I could file a court order to get the title in my name after I pay it off if I show evidence the other lender has abandoned responsibility. Here's the problem though: I was working on option 2 but I didn't want to be dumb and pay it off and drain all my money. But now, she seems to have gone and married the dude she cheated on me with. I guess what I'm asking is: will he have some sort of claim to my vehicle now that they're married? Or am I still safe to proceed with plan B and court order the car in my name. Me and the ex haven't spoken or seen each other for 2 and a half years now. I have the money to pay my car off and have about 2 grand left over. Should I be rushing this now or not? I've no reason to believe she'd suddenly try to come and screw me over now but you never know. | h5w3m1r | h5wiewd | 1,626,798,374 | 1,626,804,539 | 30 | 976 | Does the title list you with *and* or *or*? | Just because she cosigned doesn't mean the loan is in her name. It's just a safety net for the bank/dealership if you defer on your payments they still get their money. As long as you're the one that applied for the loan and pay it off the title should be released in your name. | 0 | 6,165 | 32.533333 |
oo5e1f | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My ex cosigned for me to buy my car and now she married the guy she left me for. How does this affect my loan? Indiana for context. Long story short, my ex and I bought a car while we were still together. More specifically, she cosigned for me to be able to buy the car. A little over a year after that we were done and she dumped me with the car's financial responsibility and I've been the sole payer of the vehicle for 2.5 years now. If I had to estimate, I've paid maybe 90% of what was paid on the car myself (because it was my car). Unfortunately, she's on the loan too. My bank suggested I trade in the car and have them deal with it. The BMV said I could file a court order to get the title in my name after I pay it off if I show evidence the other lender has abandoned responsibility. Here's the problem though: I was working on option 2 but I didn't want to be dumb and pay it off and drain all my money. But now, she seems to have gone and married the dude she cheated on me with. I guess what I'm asking is: will he have some sort of claim to my vehicle now that they're married? Or am I still safe to proceed with plan B and court order the car in my name. Me and the ex haven't spoken or seen each other for 2 and a half years now. I have the money to pay my car off and have about 2 grand left over. Should I be rushing this now or not? I've no reason to believe she'd suddenly try to come and screw me over now but you never know. | h5x4yet | h5wp31t | 1,626,814,069 | 1,626,807,357 | 8 | 4 | You need to find out how the paperwork is set up. Because from experience, I will tell, when my mother co-signed for my brother, despite her never paying a cent to the loan. When title was issued it was issued to both, (brother’s name) and (mother’s name). When I co-signed for my mom (really weird, they asked her for a co-signer since she owns property and multiple bank accounts and has excellent credit), I never paid a cent to the car, she paid it off within the year, but title was issued to both of us. So find out because if you pay it off you could end up with a car she will be on title for, and if it says “and” it will be a real headache to sell. | I believe you are fine co-signed doesn’t me she owns it | 1 | 6,712 | 2 |
oo5e1f | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My ex cosigned for me to buy my car and now she married the guy she left me for. How does this affect my loan? Indiana for context. Long story short, my ex and I bought a car while we were still together. More specifically, she cosigned for me to be able to buy the car. A little over a year after that we were done and she dumped me with the car's financial responsibility and I've been the sole payer of the vehicle for 2.5 years now. If I had to estimate, I've paid maybe 90% of what was paid on the car myself (because it was my car). Unfortunately, she's on the loan too. My bank suggested I trade in the car and have them deal with it. The BMV said I could file a court order to get the title in my name after I pay it off if I show evidence the other lender has abandoned responsibility. Here's the problem though: I was working on option 2 but I didn't want to be dumb and pay it off and drain all my money. But now, she seems to have gone and married the dude she cheated on me with. I guess what I'm asking is: will he have some sort of claim to my vehicle now that they're married? Or am I still safe to proceed with plan B and court order the car in my name. Me and the ex haven't spoken or seen each other for 2 and a half years now. I have the money to pay my car off and have about 2 grand left over. Should I be rushing this now or not? I've no reason to believe she'd suddenly try to come and screw me over now but you never know. | h5xgucf | h5wp31t | 1,626,819,344 | 1,626,807,357 | 7 | 4 | There's no harm in asking her after you receive the title and it ends up being in both your names if she'll sign it over. Here's what bmv says about removing someone from a title: https://www.in.gov/bmv/titles/addingremoving-owners-on-a-title/ Worse case, she says no and you go ahead with the court order but try this first IF you need to. | I believe you are fine co-signed doesn’t me she owns it | 1 | 11,987 | 1.75 |
oo5e1f | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My ex cosigned for me to buy my car and now she married the guy she left me for. How does this affect my loan? Indiana for context. Long story short, my ex and I bought a car while we were still together. More specifically, she cosigned for me to be able to buy the car. A little over a year after that we were done and she dumped me with the car's financial responsibility and I've been the sole payer of the vehicle for 2.5 years now. If I had to estimate, I've paid maybe 90% of what was paid on the car myself (because it was my car). Unfortunately, she's on the loan too. My bank suggested I trade in the car and have them deal with it. The BMV said I could file a court order to get the title in my name after I pay it off if I show evidence the other lender has abandoned responsibility. Here's the problem though: I was working on option 2 but I didn't want to be dumb and pay it off and drain all my money. But now, she seems to have gone and married the dude she cheated on me with. I guess what I'm asking is: will he have some sort of claim to my vehicle now that they're married? Or am I still safe to proceed with plan B and court order the car in my name. Me and the ex haven't spoken or seen each other for 2 and a half years now. I have the money to pay my car off and have about 2 grand left over. Should I be rushing this now or not? I've no reason to believe she'd suddenly try to come and screw me over now but you never know. | h5zqjbd | h5wp31t | 1,626,867,999 | 1,626,807,357 | 5 | 4 | OP trolling you guys hard | I believe you are fine co-signed doesn’t me she owns it | 1 | 60,642 | 1.25 |
oo5e1f | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My ex cosigned for me to buy my car and now she married the guy she left me for. How does this affect my loan? Indiana for context. Long story short, my ex and I bought a car while we were still together. More specifically, she cosigned for me to be able to buy the car. A little over a year after that we were done and she dumped me with the car's financial responsibility and I've been the sole payer of the vehicle for 2.5 years now. If I had to estimate, I've paid maybe 90% of what was paid on the car myself (because it was my car). Unfortunately, she's on the loan too. My bank suggested I trade in the car and have them deal with it. The BMV said I could file a court order to get the title in my name after I pay it off if I show evidence the other lender has abandoned responsibility. Here's the problem though: I was working on option 2 but I didn't want to be dumb and pay it off and drain all my money. But now, she seems to have gone and married the dude she cheated on me with. I guess what I'm asking is: will he have some sort of claim to my vehicle now that they're married? Or am I still safe to proceed with plan B and court order the car in my name. Me and the ex haven't spoken or seen each other for 2 and a half years now. I have the money to pay my car off and have about 2 grand left over. Should I be rushing this now or not? I've no reason to believe she'd suddenly try to come and screw me over now but you never know. | h5xuqih | h5zqjbd | 1,626,825,959 | 1,626,867,999 | 3 | 5 | Not a lawyer but there are two options when co-signing. The co-signer can be on title or not on title. They are the guarantor so sometimes they’ll ask to be on title also. Idk if it’s allowed but here’s some info from gov website. https://www.in.gov/bmv/titles/addingremoving-owners-on-a-title/ | OP trolling you guys hard | 0 | 42,040 | 1.666667 |
ayhupq | legaladvice_train | 0.65 | This morning my dog was hit by a car and the driver left. I took my dog to the closest vet on Google, because he looked like he had a broken leg and explained the situation. They performed a ton of extra tests and now won't let me take him unless I pay $300 more. In Missouri. How do I get my dog? I apologize if I forget anything or don't make a ton of sense. I'm so distraught and frustrated by all of this, but I'm trying to stay level headed. This morning I took my dog for a short walk before work. His name is Dobby and he is literally my best friend. A driver who wasn't paying attention drifted off the road and hit my dog. The driver left before I could talk to them or see their license plate. My dog was basically limp walking and I tried to comfort him. I made sure he wasn't seriously injured as best I could. He had a few small cuts and bruises, but nothing significantly bleeding. The leg was the obvious problem, but my vet is in a different city where I adopted Dobby. I feel like I messed up here, but I didn't call the police because I wanted to make sure he was alright as fast as possible. So I picked him up and ran to my apartment. Got in my car and googled the closest vet to take him there. I've never been to this vet before, but they were less that 5 minutes away. Once I got there I explained to the receptionist everything and she got him in right away. I only paid a $150 charge for the emergency visit which sent my bank account negative. I explained to her while waiting that I don't have care credit due to my own financial issues and a bankruptcy last year. She said that it should be fine and that they would work with me. The vet came out after an hour and told me he had a broken leg (duh). They said they would treat him and run a few more tests and let me take him. I asked the vet how much the leg would cost and whether I could be billed for the treatment later. She said that would be fine. She said it would be best to come back in a few hours so I went to work. I went to work and finally called the non emergency police line as well. Other than being told I could file a report they said there wasn't much they could do. Upsetting to say the least. After lunch I called the vet and went to go get him. This is when they inform me my total charges of $3000 for the visit. I kind of laugh because I expected it to be a joke. I kindly explained again that I didn't have care credit, and the receptionist didn't say anything as if she forgot, the vet then said that while the leg did cost $500 the rest was for emergency treatment and tests. I explained that the $150 I paid was literally almost everything in my bank account and I wouldn't have any other money until the following Friday. They then started recommending borrowing from friends or family. I explained that wasn't an option because it isn't, not because of pride or anything. They then offered to let me pay 10% of the $3000 so $300 to take him home today. I tried to beg and plead to let me have him because I could pay it next week and then make payments. However they would not budge. I called my boss to take a half personal day. I work for a smallish company so he definitely understood me needing the day off, but since I've only been there a couple months he couldn't give me an advance. I'm really just confused and shocked by today. I feel like just going to sleep and hoping it will go away. That's just my anxiety and depression kicking into full gear though. Not great at confrontation or the crazy problems life throws at you when you're already down. I know it's not super relevant, but I've spent most of this year trying to get back on my feet after unemployment and losing myself a bit to depression. Today has just been the absolute worse. I can't hold the driver accountable and I feel like the vet lied to me. How can I get my dog back without paying the $300? I can pay it next Friday when I get paid, but I am too broke to pay it now. Is it legal for them to keep my dog and/or overcharge me? How can I prove they overcharged me? Sorry again if I have lots of questions, if I sound stupid, or if I forgot something. I'm just a blubbering idiot right now so I probably sound crazy. Thank you to anyone that reads this though. | ei1hnxq | ei0y7x0 | 1,552,010,712 | 1,551,995,845 | 5 | 2 | ER vet places can get very expensive, and they need to be paid because they did the service of fixing up Dobby. You need to think up ways to get your hands on quick cash ASAP to get your dog out before it costs even more. The vet is willing to work with you, so use that: Do you have a local Nextdoor group? See if there are any jobs/needs listed there that you can do this weekend (yard work, dog walking, whatever skills you have). Post a listing there asking for assistance. Bring the vet your $25 from plasma tomorrow to show you are serious about paying - - ask if you can do any kennel work over the weekend to apply toward your bill - - ask your boss again if he can front you just $100 - - bring in the $50 from plasma you get on Sunday. You can do this - - just show the vet you are planning to honor this bill and you can get Dobby home (Dobby is doped out of his mind right now so don't worry that he is missing you). Also, go ahead and apply for Care credit - - sometimes, after a bankruptcy credit is *easier* to get because you can't discharge new debts for many years. | Ask your boss to float you. I've had employees get in tough situations and I've floated them their check. | 1 | 14,867 | 2.5 |
ayhupq | legaladvice_train | 0.65 | This morning my dog was hit by a car and the driver left. I took my dog to the closest vet on Google, because he looked like he had a broken leg and explained the situation. They performed a ton of extra tests and now won't let me take him unless I pay $300 more. In Missouri. How do I get my dog? I apologize if I forget anything or don't make a ton of sense. I'm so distraught and frustrated by all of this, but I'm trying to stay level headed. This morning I took my dog for a short walk before work. His name is Dobby and he is literally my best friend. A driver who wasn't paying attention drifted off the road and hit my dog. The driver left before I could talk to them or see their license plate. My dog was basically limp walking and I tried to comfort him. I made sure he wasn't seriously injured as best I could. He had a few small cuts and bruises, but nothing significantly bleeding. The leg was the obvious problem, but my vet is in a different city where I adopted Dobby. I feel like I messed up here, but I didn't call the police because I wanted to make sure he was alright as fast as possible. So I picked him up and ran to my apartment. Got in my car and googled the closest vet to take him there. I've never been to this vet before, but they were less that 5 minutes away. Once I got there I explained to the receptionist everything and she got him in right away. I only paid a $150 charge for the emergency visit which sent my bank account negative. I explained to her while waiting that I don't have care credit due to my own financial issues and a bankruptcy last year. She said that it should be fine and that they would work with me. The vet came out after an hour and told me he had a broken leg (duh). They said they would treat him and run a few more tests and let me take him. I asked the vet how much the leg would cost and whether I could be billed for the treatment later. She said that would be fine. She said it would be best to come back in a few hours so I went to work. I went to work and finally called the non emergency police line as well. Other than being told I could file a report they said there wasn't much they could do. Upsetting to say the least. After lunch I called the vet and went to go get him. This is when they inform me my total charges of $3000 for the visit. I kind of laugh because I expected it to be a joke. I kindly explained again that I didn't have care credit, and the receptionist didn't say anything as if she forgot, the vet then said that while the leg did cost $500 the rest was for emergency treatment and tests. I explained that the $150 I paid was literally almost everything in my bank account and I wouldn't have any other money until the following Friday. They then started recommending borrowing from friends or family. I explained that wasn't an option because it isn't, not because of pride or anything. They then offered to let me pay 10% of the $3000 so $300 to take him home today. I tried to beg and plead to let me have him because I could pay it next week and then make payments. However they would not budge. I called my boss to take a half personal day. I work for a smallish company so he definitely understood me needing the day off, but since I've only been there a couple months he couldn't give me an advance. I'm really just confused and shocked by today. I feel like just going to sleep and hoping it will go away. That's just my anxiety and depression kicking into full gear though. Not great at confrontation or the crazy problems life throws at you when you're already down. I know it's not super relevant, but I've spent most of this year trying to get back on my feet after unemployment and losing myself a bit to depression. Today has just been the absolute worse. I can't hold the driver accountable and I feel like the vet lied to me. How can I get my dog back without paying the $300? I can pay it next Friday when I get paid, but I am too broke to pay it now. Is it legal for them to keep my dog and/or overcharge me? How can I prove they overcharged me? Sorry again if I have lots of questions, if I sound stupid, or if I forgot something. I'm just a blubbering idiot right now so I probably sound crazy. Thank you to anyone that reads this though. | ei1hnxq | ei1bwx6 | 1,552,010,712 | 1,552,006,042 | 5 | 2 | ER vet places can get very expensive, and they need to be paid because they did the service of fixing up Dobby. You need to think up ways to get your hands on quick cash ASAP to get your dog out before it costs even more. The vet is willing to work with you, so use that: Do you have a local Nextdoor group? See if there are any jobs/needs listed there that you can do this weekend (yard work, dog walking, whatever skills you have). Post a listing there asking for assistance. Bring the vet your $25 from plasma tomorrow to show you are serious about paying - - ask if you can do any kennel work over the weekend to apply toward your bill - - ask your boss again if he can front you just $100 - - bring in the $50 from plasma you get on Sunday. You can do this - - just show the vet you are planning to honor this bill and you can get Dobby home (Dobby is doped out of his mind right now so don't worry that he is missing you). Also, go ahead and apply for Care credit - - sometimes, after a bankruptcy credit is *easier* to get because you can't discharge new debts for many years. | First, file a report about the hit-and-run. Next, I would do whatever I could to come up with the money - sell plasma or sell something big on Facebook/Craigslist. | 1 | 4,670 | 2.5 |
3yt74m | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | OH-Falsely accused my father of sexual abuse when I was a kid. I am in my 20's now and I want to make it right I falsely accused my father of sexual abuse when I was young. I won't go into details but there was just lots of coercion and beatings from a mother who is a diagnosed schizophrenic and narcissist and has made attempts on my life. Criminal charges were pressed and dropped as the police and everyone else could probably tell that I was a confused scared and lying 5 year old. Still my father eventually gave up his parental rights and my mom harassed my dad for years. Everyday I hate myself for this. I don't even live with her and I am still so afraid of my mother but am also afraid of the power she has over my niece to coerce the same accusations against other members of my family and the kid's dad. More importantly I just want to make things right. I am willing to bear the punishment of getting everything in the open but I would like to know what I will be facing. If I got in contact with and told my father, what legal repercussions could I face? | cygdbpy | cygdgex | 1,451,499,948 | 1,451,500,142 | 95 | 115 | >Everyday I hate myself for this. you were 5, you have NO responsibility in what happened whatsoever, legal or moral. Go ahead and contact your father and see if he wants to meet, it is up to him if he wants to reopen a relationship with you, but you wont face anything criminal or civil because you were 5. | Wow. Heavy post. I want to start by saying that I sincerely wish you the best. I'd also like to say I think this is the first time in history I think someone on reddit has used "narcissist" correctly. I've been bouncing it around for a bit (along with a few others), and there doesn't seem to be any one good option. Contacting your dad may not do anything. There is no mechanism that I know of to restore parental rights retroactively (and no reason to). I'm not sure what help telling the rest of your family would do. In fact, it may cause more problems. Further, you can't really contact police / CPS stating that "there might be some issues in the future because of my experience." That isn't really actionable, no matter the best intentions. The only thing I can think to suggest (and I highly suggest it), is that you speak to a therapist. I want to stress that what happened isn't your fault, even if you do feel so much guilt. I think someone who could help you work through those feelings would be an incredibly good idea. I earnestly wish you the best. While this isn't the stereotypical "support sub," know that everyone here is wishing you the best. | 0 | 194 | 1.210526 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q9665 | c9q6pop | 1,367,411,777 | 1,367,392,963 | 19 | 4 | Under no circumstances should you take a polygraph without an attorney that YOU have hired telling you to do so. DO NOT TAKE THAT TEST. Don't solicit references, don't talk to CPS, the police, a judge, the ex or even your pastor. Don't say a word to anyone about this situation without an attorney. Hire someone immediately and allow the attorney to navigate this for you. | Ask for the child to have custody independent of either party during the civil suit because you believe that the grandmother is coaching the daughter to make accusations. Ask a lawyer about if this could be possible. one that specializes in fraud and family matters is probably the way to go. | 1 | 18,814 | 4.75 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q9665 | c9q7pgu | 1,367,411,777 | 1,367,400,697 | 19 | 5 | Under no circumstances should you take a polygraph without an attorney that YOU have hired telling you to do so. DO NOT TAKE THAT TEST. Don't solicit references, don't talk to CPS, the police, a judge, the ex or even your pastor. Don't say a word to anyone about this situation without an attorney. Hire someone immediately and allow the attorney to navigate this for you. | Get a lawyer. Get one now. Someone who specializes in working with third parties in situations like yours. It's not unique, but it's still shitty. Divorce is hell. | 1 | 11,080 | 3.8 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q9665 | c9q7ptv | 1,367,411,777 | 1,367,400,788 | 19 | 4 | Under no circumstances should you take a polygraph without an attorney that YOU have hired telling you to do so. DO NOT TAKE THAT TEST. Don't solicit references, don't talk to CPS, the police, a judge, the ex or even your pastor. Don't say a word to anyone about this situation without an attorney. Hire someone immediately and allow the attorney to navigate this for you. | Make sure to mention to said lawyer his discharge from the Army for psychological reasons. Sounds like the only verifiable piece you have against him. | 1 | 10,989 | 4.75 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q8vfp | c9q9665 | 1,367,410,116 | 1,367,411,777 | 3 | 19 | How could someone who is always high get in the army? | Under no circumstances should you take a polygraph without an attorney that YOU have hired telling you to do so. DO NOT TAKE THAT TEST. Don't solicit references, don't talk to CPS, the police, a judge, the ex or even your pastor. Don't say a word to anyone about this situation without an attorney. Hire someone immediately and allow the attorney to navigate this for you. | 0 | 1,661 | 6.333333 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9qa23q | c9q6pop | 1,367,415,799 | 1,367,392,963 | 5 | 4 | >So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Retain an attorney immediately. Specifically, you should be looking for a criminal defense attorney with a strong background in sexual assault and/or domestic violence. It wouldn't hurt to ask your girlfriend's divorce attorney for an initial reference. Under no circumstance should you communicate in any way with either the police, CPS, or the judge in the custody proceeding without an attorney present. It is critical you understand how big of a deal this is. Talking to the police or CPS is 100% guaranteed to hurt your case; it will do nothing to help your case. Everything you say to the police will be held against you, even if you think it proves your innocence. It won't. Do not testify, offer to testify, or give any statement whatsoever on any matter in the custody dispute without speaking to an attorney first. | Ask for the child to have custody independent of either party during the civil suit because you believe that the grandmother is coaching the daughter to make accusations. Ask a lawyer about if this could be possible. one that specializes in fraud and family matters is probably the way to go. | 1 | 22,836 | 1.25 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q7ptv | c9qa23q | 1,367,400,788 | 1,367,415,799 | 4 | 5 | Make sure to mention to said lawyer his discharge from the Army for psychological reasons. Sounds like the only verifiable piece you have against him. | >So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Retain an attorney immediately. Specifically, you should be looking for a criminal defense attorney with a strong background in sexual assault and/or domestic violence. It wouldn't hurt to ask your girlfriend's divorce attorney for an initial reference. Under no circumstance should you communicate in any way with either the police, CPS, or the judge in the custody proceeding without an attorney present. It is critical you understand how big of a deal this is. Talking to the police or CPS is 100% guaranteed to hurt your case; it will do nothing to help your case. Everything you say to the police will be held against you, even if you think it proves your innocence. It won't. Do not testify, offer to testify, or give any statement whatsoever on any matter in the custody dispute without speaking to an attorney first. | 0 | 15,011 | 1.25 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q9uqa | c9qa23q | 1,367,414,991 | 1,367,415,799 | 3 | 5 | Many people are accused of child abuse during a divorce , but judges are aware of dirty divorces, make sure you follow the steps outlined by parsinippity - speak to no one | >So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Retain an attorney immediately. Specifically, you should be looking for a criminal defense attorney with a strong background in sexual assault and/or domestic violence. It wouldn't hurt to ask your girlfriend's divorce attorney for an initial reference. Under no circumstance should you communicate in any way with either the police, CPS, or the judge in the custody proceeding without an attorney present. It is critical you understand how big of a deal this is. Talking to the police or CPS is 100% guaranteed to hurt your case; it will do nothing to help your case. Everything you say to the police will be held against you, even if you think it proves your innocence. It won't. Do not testify, offer to testify, or give any statement whatsoever on any matter in the custody dispute without speaking to an attorney first. | 0 | 808 | 1.666667 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9qa23q | c9q8vfp | 1,367,415,799 | 1,367,410,116 | 5 | 3 | >So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Retain an attorney immediately. Specifically, you should be looking for a criminal defense attorney with a strong background in sexual assault and/or domestic violence. It wouldn't hurt to ask your girlfriend's divorce attorney for an initial reference. Under no circumstance should you communicate in any way with either the police, CPS, or the judge in the custody proceeding without an attorney present. It is critical you understand how big of a deal this is. Talking to the police or CPS is 100% guaranteed to hurt your case; it will do nothing to help your case. Everything you say to the police will be held against you, even if you think it proves your innocence. It won't. Do not testify, offer to testify, or give any statement whatsoever on any matter in the custody dispute without speaking to an attorney first. | How could someone who is always high get in the army? | 1 | 5,683 | 1.666667 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q6pop | c9q7pgu | 1,367,392,963 | 1,367,400,697 | 4 | 5 | Ask for the child to have custody independent of either party during the civil suit because you believe that the grandmother is coaching the daughter to make accusations. Ask a lawyer about if this could be possible. one that specializes in fraud and family matters is probably the way to go. | Get a lawyer. Get one now. Someone who specializes in working with third parties in situations like yours. It's not unique, but it's still shitty. Divorce is hell. | 0 | 7,734 | 1.25 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9qb0jh | c9q9uqa | 1,367,419,165 | 1,367,414,991 | 4 | 3 | >When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation Why on earth would you want to live like this? It sounds like you're on a razor's edge whenever you're near the kid in your own home. >He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised Why was supervised visitation ordered? That isn't ordered without a reason. >There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Seriously - you didn't realize you had a crisis at this point? The kid is flatly telling you that the grandmother is coaching her to accuse you of child molestation and you didn't wonder "to whom did grandmother make you say it"? >So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence And that's your mistake. Don't prove shit - it's not your job to prove your innocence, it's your job to be quiet and not fall into a criminal conviction. >I will take a polygraph. And you'll fail, or at least that's what they'll tell you. Police are allowed to lie to you and they will tell you at the conclusion of the test that you failed in the hope that you confess to something. There is no reason a polygraph helps you and as a matter of law, it can only hurt you. It has zero benefit to you. Although it's somewhat silly, Penn and Teller did a good episode on the 'lie detector' process and why it ought to be avoided. >I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. You've got zero control over when an investigation starts, so I wouldn't even think of pegging my success / failure / goals to that bar. >The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. **WHO IS THE LETTER FROM**? You didn't tell us that. What does the letter say? I'm guessing it's something from CPS - if you don't think that a civil letter from a state agency about an allegation of child molestation can get criminal real fast, you're fucking nuts. Have you spoke with CPS / the police / provided written statements yet? Irrespective, you need to watch this video before moving on. | Many people are accused of child abuse during a divorce , but judges are aware of dirty divorces, make sure you follow the steps outlined by parsinippity - speak to no one | 1 | 4,174 | 1.333333 |
1dgqt0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm being falsely accused of sexual abuse. Please help. This is obviously a throwaway account. My girlfriend is involved in a bad custody battle with her ex husband over their young daughter. In a dirty attempt to gain ground in the battle, he called child protective services to say that I am a risk of sexually abusing their daughter. This has thrown my life into a crazy whirlwind and I really need some sound advise. My girlfriend's ex husband is a really bad person. At 18, he was involved in two porn videos. Throughout my girlfriend's relationship with him, he was high every night (weed), drank and partied excessively and was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive with her. He made her move out of her parents house and live with him and his family (7 people living in a small, 2 bedroom apartment), and not have any contact with her family. She was 'in love' and this made her abide by his rules. He eventually joined the army for a brief time, but came to her and said he was cheating on her consistently while away. This caused their marriage to begin failing and she was going to leave him. He went AWOL from the army to "save his marriage." When home, all he did was party with friends and continue cheating on his wife (my gf). She eventually left him, so he went to an army psychologist and was deemed unfit for service and was generally discharged from the army. They still ended up getting divorced. Fast forward some time, I went through a similar situation of. Ring cheated on and divorced, and we found each other again. We knew each other when we were both 13, so we had a history. We fell in love, and I was always there for her and her daughter, whom she has shared custody with her ex. I drive her to meet with him and exchange her daughter every week (and I mean EVERY week). I have a good job, so I can buy my girlfriend and her daughter things. I'll take them to Chuck E. Cheese. I'll buy her daughter cartoon Dvds, toys, and many things that a 3 year old would need. When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation. I was raised in a Christian home and I spend every weekend playing music for my church on Saturday and Sundays. I created a non profit cancer benefit foundation to raise money for families struggling with children with cancer. I have a bachelor's degree and a great job. I pay my bills on time. I take care of my business. I have a great family with a good background. Getting back to the daughter, if my girlfriend ever bathes her daughter with me in the house, I never enter the bathroom with her in there. When she gets wrapped in a towel and my gf has to carry her to the bedroom, I leave the room. If my gf is changing her daughter, I leave the room and stay as far from it as possible. She's not my kid, so I don't have any reason to be near her when she's being bathed or clothed. I do play with her outside and inside with her mother in the same room. I read to her. I build things with her and her Legos. I play video games with her (Dora games). We hit golf balls outside. We chase the dog. We ride the golf cart; we do light hearted stuff that a child of 3-4 years old does. I feel like I go above and beyond for my gf and her daughter. I would never put myself in a compromising situation with her. I've only had to babysit her one time out of emergency because my gf has to work late and her mother (who always watches my gfs daughter) wasn't around. All we did for the 2 hours was watch TV. If she wanted something, I got it for her. That's it. It was a one time thing about a year and a half ago. There was no more instances after that. Getting back to my girlfriend's ex husband, he got another girl pregnant about a year and a half ago. He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised. Eventually they got back together. They're not married, but still dating. His mother, whom he still lives with, is more manipulative than he is. I believe during the time they had the daughter, his mother was coaching the daughter to say things like I made her pull down her pants in front of me. These words would never come out of her mouth without someone making her. Mt gf's mother told her about how the ex's mother acted like her granddaughter was here's. She was apparently always taking her from my gf, and making her feel inadequate as a mother. This shows more of how my gf was controlled by this household. There were a time we had the daughter and my gf was bathing her, and the daughter would say, "Daddy hurts me down there (crotch region)." My gf asked her what does she mean. Then the daughter responded, "But daddy loves me." We should have known to report that but we are both young and would never dream something like this could be going on with her daughter. There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Fast forward to last week, her ex had the daughter for a week and was supposed to exchange her Saturday. He called her an hour before we were supposed to leave and says he's gonna keep her til Monday. My gf agreed because he said he wanted to take her to some Sesame Street show. Monday comes around and an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls her saying he's keeping her til my day. My gf was furious, crying like crazy... Being hysterical. He said he was going to give her back that Wednesday, so she sucked it up and made it to Wednesday. On Wednesday, an hour before we were supposed to leave, he calls saying he's keeping her until she gives him an answer about her and her daughter moving back to his area so the daughter can be in school full time starting September. My gf told him that she doesn't have to give him an answer and that we're going to court to her the daughter back. The next day we get in court and get a hearing. The ex shows up 5 mins late with a 'confidential' envelope. He takes the envelope to the judge's office and we find out that he called child protective services saying that the daughter is "at risk" of sexual abuse by me! This is outrageous. I have nothing to do with their custody battle. I was just supportive of my gf in this. We were together for 2 years and I wanted to show her that I support her in getting full custody of her daughter. So, I am being accused of sexual abuse of their 3-4 year old daughter. I never touched her inappropriately. I never put myself in a situation that could be interpreted as inappropriate. I feel he is accusing me to just try and win this court case at any cost. No one else was accused. I received a letter from child protective services saying they have 60 days to investigate. The daughter is apparently 'at risk' of sexual abuse. I see that as it didn't happen, but they are investigating because they got the call. I have my whole life ahead of me. This is outrageous. So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence. I will take a polygraph. I have 3 reputable people writing character reference letters describing how good of a person I am. I am actively seeking a good PA lawyer. I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. I am willing to cooperate with any investigation. The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. Please let me know what I need to do to prove I'm innocent and those charges are false. Her ex knows these are false. I want to take the fight back to him. I would love to sue him for false accusations, and build a case for my gf to get full custody. I truly want this bastard to pay. I will answer any question I can as long as it doesn't reveal personal info. Please help! TL;DR Read all of it, but if you don't want to to, I'm being falsely investigated for the risk of sexual abuse of my girlfriend's daughter only because of my association to her. But seriously, read all of it. Thanks. | c9q8vfp | c9qb0jh | 1,367,410,116 | 1,367,419,165 | 3 | 4 | How could someone who is always high get in the army? | >When I'm in the house with my gf and her daughter, I make sure to never put myself in a situation that can be interpreted as a bad situation Why on earth would you want to live like this? It sounds like you're on a razor's edge whenever you're near the kid in your own home. >He left her, so she filed for full custody and he was only allowed to see the child supervised Why was supervised visitation ordered? That isn't ordered without a reason. >There was also another time we picked up her daughter and asked her who told her to say that I made her pull down her pants, and she said, "Grandma made me say that, but you didn't make me pull down my pants, (my name). Grandma made me say it." This was suspicious but we were too stupid to realize what was actually happening. Seriously - you didn't realize you had a crisis at this point? The kid is flatly telling you that the grandmother is coaching her to accuse you of child molestation and you didn't wonder "to whom did grandmother make you say it"? >So, I am currently doing whatever I can to prove my innocence And that's your mistake. Don't prove shit - it's not your job to prove your innocence, it's your job to be quiet and not fall into a criminal conviction. >I will take a polygraph. And you'll fail, or at least that's what they'll tell you. Police are allowed to lie to you and they will tell you at the conclusion of the test that you failed in the hope that you confess to something. There is no reason a polygraph helps you and as a matter of law, it can only hurt you. It has zero benefit to you. Although it's somewhat silly, Penn and Teller did a good episode on the 'lie detector' process and why it ought to be avoided. >I want to prove my innocence before the investigation even starts. You've got zero control over when an investigation starts, so I wouldn't even think of pegging my success / failure / goals to that bar. >The letter I received is civil action, not criminal. **WHO IS THE LETTER FROM**? You didn't tell us that. What does the letter say? I'm guessing it's something from CPS - if you don't think that a civil letter from a state agency about an allegation of child molestation can get criminal real fast, you're fucking nuts. Have you spoke with CPS / the police / provided written statements yet? Irrespective, you need to watch this video before moving on. | 0 | 9,049 | 1.333333 |
1pi7ql | legaladvice_train | 0.78 | Dentist sent refund check to incorrect address, someone forged my signature and cashed it. Trying to figure out how screwed I am. Location: Austin, TX So I was owed a $847.00 refund from my dentist (located in Houston). There was some back and forth, and the day I received an email stating they were agreeing to give me the refund, I called the dentist's office. They said they had already sent out the check...to my previous address. They said they would reissue the check and I also requested copies of my x-rays. I received my x-rays but no check. I emailed to check on the status of it and they said it had already been cashed. They never put a stop payment on the check, or reissued me another one, and apparently someone had gotten a hold of it, forged my signature and cashed it at a check cashing place. According to the front desk person, putting a stop payment on the check was "never discussed" and they were going to send the check to me after it had been returned. Which doesn't make any sense but ok. They did send me a copy of the cashed check but made it clear that it was my responsibility to keep my records updated with them, and that they had never agreed to stop payment or reissue the check (not true, but kinda my word against theirs at this point). I looked at the cashed check copy. It has the specific check cashing place and also the date it was cashed as well as some type of serial number on the back. It also has stamped "pay to the order of Bank of America for deposit only." I don't understand how the thief cashed a check without ID, unless they had a fake one with my name. I have submitted a police report but haven't heard back yet and to be honest I am not counting on them making an $847.00 check a big priority. Is there any hope at all for me getting my money back? The dentist's office is not willing to budge, period, from their perspective they already paid. Could this possibly be recovered from the check cashing place? I'm guessing it's probably gone for good but I've been in a really rough financial spot lately and this has been a real blow. | cd2kq5s | cd2oy99 | 1,383,095,786 | 1,383,106,339 | 3 | 16 | >Is there any hope at all for me getting my money back? The dentist's office is not willing to budge, period, from their perspective they already paid. What was the timeline here? Was it cashed after you notified that they were sending a check to the incorrect address? | I believe you would take the dentist office to small claims for the $847. They owe you that money and they haven't paid it to you. They would then be the ones who have to sue the cheque cashing place for failing to properly ID the person who cashed the cheque. | 0 | 10,553 | 5.333333 |
5073ik | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Mentor did my taxes, now refuses to give me my refund check crosspost from /r/tax In the summer of 2015, my mentor offered to do my 2014 taxes for me. This is when I was living in CT. I didn't know how to do taxes, so I took them up on the offer because I thought they were someone I could trust. They told me they got the check in March 2016, but keeps making excuses. They said they've mailed it to me several times, but keeps getting mailed back. Then they claimed that they lost the check and can't find it. Now they are ignoring my calls and texts. I have sent messages on a nearly daily basis, but get no response. I really need the money, and have no clue what to do. I don't have the tax refund amount, so I can't look up the status online. What are my options? | d71o8al | d71p4kb | 1,472,502,185 | 1,472,503,312 | 21 | 88 | Go into your local IRS office. | Call the IRS/state and get them to send them to you directly. Why did the check even get mailed to this person in the first place? | 0 | 1,127 | 4.190476 |
5073ik | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Mentor did my taxes, now refuses to give me my refund check crosspost from /r/tax In the summer of 2015, my mentor offered to do my 2014 taxes for me. This is when I was living in CT. I didn't know how to do taxes, so I took them up on the offer because I thought they were someone I could trust. They told me they got the check in March 2016, but keeps making excuses. They said they've mailed it to me several times, but keeps getting mailed back. Then they claimed that they lost the check and can't find it. Now they are ignoring my calls and texts. I have sent messages on a nearly daily basis, but get no response. I really need the money, and have no clue what to do. I don't have the tax refund amount, so I can't look up the status online. What are my options? | d71o8al | d71vjfd | 1,472,502,185 | 1,472,512,139 | 21 | 47 | Go into your local IRS office. | Are you sure they actually filed your taxes? | 0 | 9,954 | 2.238095 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j38p6 | d1j1epa | 1,459,348,878 | 1,459,346,128 | 991 | 446 | Small claims nothing, this is a **MAJOR** deal. Some relevant case law: >Glavin v. Eckman , 71 Mass. App. Ct. 313 (2008) Martha's Vineyard property owners and their tree contractor cut down ten mature trees on a neighbor's property to improve their own view of the ocean. The court upheld a jury award granting the wronged property owner the $30,000 replacement cost of the trees, rather than damages measured by the worth of the timber or diminution of the property's value. Mass. Gen. Law Part III, Ch. 242, Sec. 7: >***A person who without license willfully cuts down, carries away, girdles or otherwise destroys trees, timber, wood or underwood on the land of another shall be liable to the owner in tort for three times the amount of the damages assessed therefor***; but if it is found that the defendant had good reason to believe that the land on which the trespass was committed was his own or that he was otherwise lawfully authorized to do the acts complained of, he shall be liable for single damages only. Don't see Defendant able to get away with single damages as there is a CLEAR chain link fence around your backyard. Find a good lawyer, find an arborist, and don't jump to the billboard guys...get someone who knows what they're doing, because you have something **very** actionable. EDIT: OP, I hope you read this and DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING to your neighbor about this. His ass is about to get handed to him; don't diminish your case by saying "so hey man you owe me $200,000 or I'm taking you to court." Do not pass GO, do not collect $200, go straight to a good lawyer's office. If your lawyer wants to send a letter to the neighbor, let him make that call. | Oh boy. A 40-50ft oak or maple tree is worth well north of $50,000. I would be seeking damages from them for the value of a comparable tree (not a 6ft oak or maple a true 45ft specimen) plus the cost of the fence repair. You are going to need a lawyer for this, you are going to need to get an arborist from a nursery that deals with large specimen trees to give you certified appraisals and quotes for a replacement and you are going to need to find old photos showing the tree in its place. This could be very, very expensive for your neighbors. | 1 | 2,750 | 2.221973 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j2xnt | d1j38p6 | 1,459,348,442 | 1,459,348,878 | 233 | 991 | Holy shit. Mature trees are incredibly expensive. I mean tens of thousands of dollars, if not hundreds. Let's run down what your neighbor did here: * Trespassed on your property. * Destroyed your property of significant value (the tree) * Kept the only valuable result of that destruction (the firewood) for himself * Threw the detritus back into your yard for you to clean up after his vandalism. You might be a much more forgiving guy than I am, OP. But if it were me, I would find the most money-hungry ambulance-chasing attorney in town, and consult with him on how to sue your neighbor into the poor house. (This will require a consult with an arborist as well, to properly value the tree.) Seriously, your neighbor has fucked up massively, and it's your call whether to bring down the hammer or not. EDIT: It occurs to me that you don't even need to do the legwork on this. Contact your homeowners insurance and let them do the work. | Small claims nothing, this is a **MAJOR** deal. Some relevant case law: >Glavin v. Eckman , 71 Mass. App. Ct. 313 (2008) Martha's Vineyard property owners and their tree contractor cut down ten mature trees on a neighbor's property to improve their own view of the ocean. The court upheld a jury award granting the wronged property owner the $30,000 replacement cost of the trees, rather than damages measured by the worth of the timber or diminution of the property's value. Mass. Gen. Law Part III, Ch. 242, Sec. 7: >***A person who without license willfully cuts down, carries away, girdles or otherwise destroys trees, timber, wood or underwood on the land of another shall be liable to the owner in tort for three times the amount of the damages assessed therefor***; but if it is found that the defendant had good reason to believe that the land on which the trespass was committed was his own or that he was otherwise lawfully authorized to do the acts complained of, he shall be liable for single damages only. Don't see Defendant able to get away with single damages as there is a CLEAR chain link fence around your backyard. Find a good lawyer, find an arborist, and don't jump to the billboard guys...get someone who knows what they're doing, because you have something **very** actionable. EDIT: OP, I hope you read this and DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING to your neighbor about this. His ass is about to get handed to him; don't diminish your case by saying "so hey man you owe me $200,000 or I'm taking you to court." Do not pass GO, do not collect $200, go straight to a good lawyer's office. If your lawyer wants to send a letter to the neighbor, let him make that call. | 0 | 436 | 4.253219 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j2eq5 | d1j38p6 | 1,459,347,672 | 1,459,348,878 | 170 | 991 | Well legally speaking, "Your neighbors done fucked up." This going to cost them about $30k-$100k just to replace that tree. That's not even counting the fence. You are going to need a lawyer for this, but with the amount of money involved I am sure you can get one to work on contingency. I would let your homeowners insurance know as well because they might just take care of all of this for you. | Small claims nothing, this is a **MAJOR** deal. Some relevant case law: >Glavin v. Eckman , 71 Mass. App. Ct. 313 (2008) Martha's Vineyard property owners and their tree contractor cut down ten mature trees on a neighbor's property to improve their own view of the ocean. The court upheld a jury award granting the wronged property owner the $30,000 replacement cost of the trees, rather than damages measured by the worth of the timber or diminution of the property's value. Mass. Gen. Law Part III, Ch. 242, Sec. 7: >***A person who without license willfully cuts down, carries away, girdles or otherwise destroys trees, timber, wood or underwood on the land of another shall be liable to the owner in tort for three times the amount of the damages assessed therefor***; but if it is found that the defendant had good reason to believe that the land on which the trespass was committed was his own or that he was otherwise lawfully authorized to do the acts complained of, he shall be liable for single damages only. Don't see Defendant able to get away with single damages as there is a CLEAR chain link fence around your backyard. Find a good lawyer, find an arborist, and don't jump to the billboard guys...get someone who knows what they're doing, because you have something **very** actionable. EDIT: OP, I hope you read this and DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING to your neighbor about this. His ass is about to get handed to him; don't diminish your case by saying "so hey man you owe me $200,000 or I'm taking you to court." Do not pass GO, do not collect $200, go straight to a good lawyer's office. If your lawyer wants to send a letter to the neighbor, let him make that call. | 0 | 1,206 | 5.829412 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1ts9 | d1j38p6 | 1,459,346,786 | 1,459,348,878 | 99 | 991 | Small claims nothing, this is a **MAJOR** deal. Some relevant case law: >Glavin v. Eckman , 71 Mass. App. Ct. 313 (2008) Martha's Vineyard property owners and their tree contractor cut down ten mature trees on a neighbor's property to improve their own view of the ocean. The court upheld a jury award granting the wronged property owner the $30,000 replacement cost of the trees, rather than damages measured by the worth of the timber or diminution of the property's value. Mass. Gen. Law Part III, Ch. 242, Sec. 7: >***A person who without license willfully cuts down, carries away, girdles or otherwise destroys trees, timber, wood or underwood on the land of another shall be liable to the owner in tort for three times the amount of the damages assessed therefor***; but if it is found that the defendant had good reason to believe that the land on which the trespass was committed was his own or that he was otherwise lawfully authorized to do the acts complained of, he shall be liable for single damages only. Don't see Defendant able to get away with single damages as there is a CLEAR chain link fence around your backyard. Find a good lawyer, find an arborist, and don't jump to the billboard guys...get someone who knows what they're doing, because you have something **very** actionable. EDIT: OP, I hope you read this and DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING to your neighbor about this. His ass is about to get handed to him; don't diminish your case by saying "so hey man you owe me $200,000 or I'm taking you to court." Do not pass GO, do not collect $200, go straight to a good lawyer's office. If your lawyer wants to send a letter to the neighbor, let him make that call. | 0 | 2,092 | 10.010101 |
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4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1agp | d1j38p6 | 1,459,345,940 | 1,459,348,878 | 32 | 991 | You can contact an arborist to get a value for a tree. A large, old tree will be valuable. Then add in the cost of fence repairs. Then you contact the neighbor to pay for it. Then you sue if they don't pay. | Small claims nothing, this is a **MAJOR** deal. Some relevant case law: >Glavin v. Eckman , 71 Mass. App. Ct. 313 (2008) Martha's Vineyard property owners and their tree contractor cut down ten mature trees on a neighbor's property to improve their own view of the ocean. The court upheld a jury award granting the wronged property owner the $30,000 replacement cost of the trees, rather than damages measured by the worth of the timber or diminution of the property's value. Mass. Gen. Law Part III, Ch. 242, Sec. 7: >***A person who without license willfully cuts down, carries away, girdles or otherwise destroys trees, timber, wood or underwood on the land of another shall be liable to the owner in tort for three times the amount of the damages assessed therefor***; but if it is found that the defendant had good reason to believe that the land on which the trespass was committed was his own or that he was otherwise lawfully authorized to do the acts complained of, he shall be liable for single damages only. Don't see Defendant able to get away with single damages as there is a CLEAR chain link fence around your backyard. Find a good lawyer, find an arborist, and don't jump to the billboard guys...get someone who knows what they're doing, because you have something **very** actionable. EDIT: OP, I hope you read this and DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING to your neighbor about this. His ass is about to get handed to him; don't diminish your case by saying "so hey man you owe me $200,000 or I'm taking you to court." Do not pass GO, do not collect $200, go straight to a good lawyer's office. If your lawyer wants to send a letter to the neighbor, let him make that call. | 0 | 2,938 | 30.96875 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j38p6 | d1j3133 | 1,459,348,878 | 1,459,348,578 | 991 | 27 | Small claims nothing, this is a **MAJOR** deal. Some relevant case law: >Glavin v. Eckman , 71 Mass. App. Ct. 313 (2008) Martha's Vineyard property owners and their tree contractor cut down ten mature trees on a neighbor's property to improve their own view of the ocean. The court upheld a jury award granting the wronged property owner the $30,000 replacement cost of the trees, rather than damages measured by the worth of the timber or diminution of the property's value. Mass. Gen. Law Part III, Ch. 242, Sec. 7: >***A person who without license willfully cuts down, carries away, girdles or otherwise destroys trees, timber, wood or underwood on the land of another shall be liable to the owner in tort for three times the amount of the damages assessed therefor***; but if it is found that the defendant had good reason to believe that the land on which the trespass was committed was his own or that he was otherwise lawfully authorized to do the acts complained of, he shall be liable for single damages only. Don't see Defendant able to get away with single damages as there is a CLEAR chain link fence around your backyard. Find a good lawyer, find an arborist, and don't jump to the billboard guys...get someone who knows what they're doing, because you have something **very** actionable. EDIT: OP, I hope you read this and DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING to your neighbor about this. His ass is about to get handed to him; don't diminish your case by saying "so hey man you owe me $200,000 or I'm taking you to court." Do not pass GO, do not collect $200, go straight to a good lawyer's office. If your lawyer wants to send a letter to the neighbor, let him make that call. | Contact a lawyer because it sounds like you have a good case for several intentional torts and you could recover significant damages, including the value of the lumber, the depreciation of your property, and punitive damages. Your lawyer will hire whatever experts you will need for your case, including perhaps an arborist. You should also contact your insurance company right way because many policies allow insurers to avoid paying if you notify them too late. You might also want to consider filing a police report. | 1 | 300 | 36.703704 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1agp | d1j1epa | 1,459,345,940 | 1,459,346,128 | 32 | 446 | You can contact an arborist to get a value for a tree. A large, old tree will be valuable. Then add in the cost of fence repairs. Then you contact the neighbor to pay for it. Then you sue if they don't pay. | Oh boy. A 40-50ft oak or maple tree is worth well north of $50,000. I would be seeking damages from them for the value of a comparable tree (not a 6ft oak or maple a true 45ft specimen) plus the cost of the fence repair. You are going to need a lawyer for this, you are going to need to get an arborist from a nursery that deals with large specimen trees to give you certified appraisals and quotes for a replacement and you are going to need to find old photos showing the tree in its place. This could be very, very expensive for your neighbors. | 0 | 188 | 13.9375 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j2xnt | d1j2eq5 | 1,459,348,442 | 1,459,347,672 | 233 | 170 | Holy shit. Mature trees are incredibly expensive. I mean tens of thousands of dollars, if not hundreds. Let's run down what your neighbor did here: * Trespassed on your property. * Destroyed your property of significant value (the tree) * Kept the only valuable result of that destruction (the firewood) for himself * Threw the detritus back into your yard for you to clean up after his vandalism. You might be a much more forgiving guy than I am, OP. But if it were me, I would find the most money-hungry ambulance-chasing attorney in town, and consult with him on how to sue your neighbor into the poor house. (This will require a consult with an arborist as well, to properly value the tree.) Seriously, your neighbor has fucked up massively, and it's your call whether to bring down the hammer or not. EDIT: It occurs to me that you don't even need to do the legwork on this. Contact your homeowners insurance and let them do the work. | Well legally speaking, "Your neighbors done fucked up." This going to cost them about $30k-$100k just to replace that tree. That's not even counting the fence. You are going to need a lawyer for this, but with the amount of money involved I am sure you can get one to work on contingency. I would let your homeowners insurance know as well because they might just take care of all of this for you. | 1 | 770 | 1.370588 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j2xnt | d1j1ts9 | 1,459,348,442 | 1,459,346,786 | 233 | 99 | Holy shit. Mature trees are incredibly expensive. I mean tens of thousands of dollars, if not hundreds. Let's run down what your neighbor did here: * Trespassed on your property. * Destroyed your property of significant value (the tree) * Kept the only valuable result of that destruction (the firewood) for himself * Threw the detritus back into your yard for you to clean up after his vandalism. You might be a much more forgiving guy than I am, OP. But if it were me, I would find the most money-hungry ambulance-chasing attorney in town, and consult with him on how to sue your neighbor into the poor house. (This will require a consult with an arborist as well, to properly value the tree.) Seriously, your neighbor has fucked up massively, and it's your call whether to bring down the hammer or not. EDIT: It occurs to me that you don't even need to do the legwork on this. Contact your homeowners insurance and let them do the work. | 1 | 1,656 | 2.353535 |
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4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1agp | d1j2xnt | 1,459,345,940 | 1,459,348,442 | 32 | 233 | You can contact an arborist to get a value for a tree. A large, old tree will be valuable. Then add in the cost of fence repairs. Then you contact the neighbor to pay for it. Then you sue if they don't pay. | Holy shit. Mature trees are incredibly expensive. I mean tens of thousands of dollars, if not hundreds. Let's run down what your neighbor did here: * Trespassed on your property. * Destroyed your property of significant value (the tree) * Kept the only valuable result of that destruction (the firewood) for himself * Threw the detritus back into your yard for you to clean up after his vandalism. You might be a much more forgiving guy than I am, OP. But if it were me, I would find the most money-hungry ambulance-chasing attorney in town, and consult with him on how to sue your neighbor into the poor house. (This will require a consult with an arborist as well, to properly value the tree.) Seriously, your neighbor has fucked up massively, and it's your call whether to bring down the hammer or not. EDIT: It occurs to me that you don't even need to do the legwork on this. Contact your homeowners insurance and let them do the work. | 0 | 2,502 | 7.28125 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j7okv | d1j2eq5 | 1,459,354,755 | 1,459,347,672 | 210 | 170 | OP please update when you curbstomp this moron in court. | Well legally speaking, "Your neighbors done fucked up." This going to cost them about $30k-$100k just to replace that tree. That's not even counting the fence. You are going to need a lawyer for this, but with the amount of money involved I am sure you can get one to work on contingency. I would let your homeowners insurance know as well because they might just take care of all of this for you. | 1 | 7,083 | 1.235294 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1ts9 | d1j7okv | 1,459,346,786 | 1,459,354,755 | 99 | 210 | OP please update when you curbstomp this moron in court. | 0 | 7,969 | 2.121212 |
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4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1agp | d1j7okv | 1,459,345,940 | 1,459,354,755 | 32 | 210 | You can contact an arborist to get a value for a tree. A large, old tree will be valuable. Then add in the cost of fence repairs. Then you contact the neighbor to pay for it. Then you sue if they don't pay. | OP please update when you curbstomp this moron in court. | 0 | 8,815 | 6.5625 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j7okv | d1j3133 | 1,459,354,755 | 1,459,348,578 | 210 | 27 | OP please update when you curbstomp this moron in court. | Contact a lawyer because it sounds like you have a good case for several intentional torts and you could recover significant damages, including the value of the lumber, the depreciation of your property, and punitive damages. Your lawyer will hire whatever experts you will need for your case, including perhaps an arborist. You should also contact your insurance company right way because many policies allow insurers to avoid paying if you notify them too late. You might also want to consider filing a police report. | 1 | 6,177 | 7.777778 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1ts9 | d1j2eq5 | 1,459,346,786 | 1,459,347,672 | 99 | 170 | Well legally speaking, "Your neighbors done fucked up." This going to cost them about $30k-$100k just to replace that tree. That's not even counting the fence. You are going to need a lawyer for this, but with the amount of money involved I am sure you can get one to work on contingency. I would let your homeowners insurance know as well because they might just take care of all of this for you. | 0 | 886 | 1.717172 |
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4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j2eq5 | d1j1agp | 1,459,347,672 | 1,459,345,940 | 170 | 32 | Well legally speaking, "Your neighbors done fucked up." This going to cost them about $30k-$100k just to replace that tree. That's not even counting the fence. You are going to need a lawyer for this, but with the amount of money involved I am sure you can get one to work on contingency. I would let your homeowners insurance know as well because they might just take care of all of this for you. | You can contact an arborist to get a value for a tree. A large, old tree will be valuable. Then add in the cost of fence repairs. Then you contact the neighbor to pay for it. Then you sue if they don't pay. | 1 | 1,732 | 5.3125 |
4cktgx | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Neighbor came onto my property, cut down tree, and crushed 20 foot section of fence as tree fell... now what? I live in Massachusetts and my yard is about an acre. A chain-link fence goes around the entire backyard and several smaller properties surround my property. I had a healthy 40-50 foot tall tree (not sure of type...oak?, elm? ...not pine) toward the back edge of my property, the trunk was about 4 feet inside the chain link fence. Essentially, the neighbor came onto my property, cut down the tree (at about waist high), and in the process crushed 20-feet of fence. Then they kept the logs and main trunk on their property (maybe for their use or sale) and threw all the branches back onto my property. I was away for two months at a military school and only learned of it through my finance. She said the neighbors never talked to her before or said anything afterwards. I had her take pictures a few days later. When I got back a few weeks later (Mid-March) I took more pictures and talked to the homeowner. They said a part of the tree landed on their roof (didn't see any damage), which is why they took the tree down, and that they would repair the fence. I'm fairly sure Massachusetts law says you can cut off parts of a neighbors tree hanging over your property, but only if it doesn't kill the tree. To do that they would have needed a bucket truck, cause the tree didn't start leaning until 20+ feet up. If they actually fix the fence then I would be... okay with that, but I have the feeling it won't go that way. Guessing this is probably small-claims type stuff. Would the police do a report or anything for documentation? Any ideas on how I stop this from happening again and can cover my a$$ in case I need to go to court?? | d1j1agp | d1j1ts9 | 1,459,345,940 | 1,459,346,786 | 32 | 99 | You can contact an arborist to get a value for a tree. A large, old tree will be valuable. Then add in the cost of fence repairs. Then you contact the neighbor to pay for it. Then you sue if they don't pay. | 0 | 846 | 3.09375 |
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q49vnu | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [CA and NV] Had to rescind apartment contract due to medical uncertainty/roommate issues, landlord then went back on his word I was in **California** when I signed the contract. I was originally told by one of the employees that I had 72 hours from the signing period to cancel my contract. I did not get this in writing, which is my mistake. On Oct. 04 at 5:15 PM I signed the contract. On Oct. 06 at 8:45 PM I messaged the landlord to withdraw my contract. I was living there because I was going to college in Nevada, but due to surgery waitlists (and many other reasons), I will not be returning to that school. The person who I was going to room with actually decided to withdraw their application before I did, but that's a whole different story. The roommate is completely fine with me backing out. I was told by multiple employees that I had 72 hours to back out of the contract. If there was not that 72 hour grace period, I would not have signed the contract. My roommate was also told they had 72 hours to withdraw their contract, which they signed in Nevada. IIRC, in Californian tenants have a 72 hour grace period to cancel their contracts with no penalty. In Nevada, it does not seem that they have this grace period. Right now the landlord is telling me that he can put me on a reletting list, but this requires me finding someone to take my place as well as introducing them to the landlord, which I physically can't do seeing as I'm back in California. Given that I signed the contract in California, does the landlord have to give me the 72 hour grace period? Or, since the landlord and apartment are in Nevada, am I out of luck? Do I have any other options? | hfy6fog | hfx35oc | 1,633,757,744 | 1,633,737,055 | 46 | 3 | There is no statutory cooling down period for leases in either state. If your written agreement didn’t spell one out you don’t have one. Your agreement surely has an “entire agreement” clause that says verbal statements mean nothing. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 20,689 | 15.333333 |
75phkp | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | (IL) An undocumented co-worker's (F,40) daughter (F,16) is dating and has been in a relationship with a 33 year old man. More details inside. Co-worker is worried for her daughter what can she do? Sorry if its the wrong sub. I am writing because I am also concerned about the legality of their relationship. Basically my co-worker and her daughter moved to the United States 3 years ago from Europe because her then 13 year old daughter was accused of molesting their neighbor's pre-adolescent daughter. I don't know if she's innocent or guilty, but their lawyer advised them to move to the US. They obviously moved here and have found a house to rent about 2 years ago. They both got a job at the food place where I work, that's how I know them. As I worked with them more and more I learned that my co-workers daughter has not been attending school at all, but I think 16 is the age one can decide to drop out. I also learned that the father/husband is absent from their lives. At this point their documents have expired and they are here illegally. Anyway, this 33 year old regular customer kept coming in occasionally and always requested to be waited by my co-workers daughter. After some time they exchanged numbers and began dating. Initially with my co-workers permission. I don't know much about their relationship, besides the ridiculous age and illegal? age difference. I don't know if they engage in sexual activity. I do know that he promised her everything she wants if she stays with him. Recently my co-worker became worried because of her daughter's boyfriend's increasingly controlling behavior. The other day he berated her for wearing high heels to work. Recently he also picked her up unannounced from work and wouldn't let my co-worker know where they are going or where they are when she called after them. That day he dropped her off at home after midnight. She obviously wants this relationship to end. However she doesnt know what to do. She is worried about going to the police because of her illegal status. Her daughter is also young and thinks she knows best so any attempt to get to her is a failure. She is also worried because the daughter's boyfriend might use their illegal status as leverage for to continue the relationship. What can I advise my co-worker to do? | do89q3d | do7z5ae | 1,507,747,496 | 1,507,736,561 | 57 | 26 | >my co-worker and her daughter moved to the United States 3 years ago from Europe because her then 13 year old daughter was accused of molesting their neighbor's pre-adolescent daughter. This combined with the girl's current relationship with a 33 year old makes me wonder if she was sexually abused as a child. A lawyer wouldn't advise their client to flee the country, so I wonder if your coworker moved to escape an abusive partner or relative who also abused her daughter? > At this point their documents have expired and they are here illegally. There's nothing they can do about that, you can't regain legal status after letting your documents expire. >I don't know much about their relationship, besides the ridiculous age and illegal? age difference. No question mark needed, the age of consent in IL is 17. > I don't know if they engage in sexual activity. He wouldn't be dating a 16 year old otherwise. >Recently he also picked her up unannounced from work and wouldn't let my co-worker know where they are going or where they are when she called after them. That's when you call the police for kidnapping. > She is worried about going to the police because of her illegal status Illinois has a law that prevents local and state law enforcement from arresting someone solely due to their immigration status. >Her daughter is also young and thinks she knows best so any attempt to get to her is a failure Assuming they're from a safe European country (so not Turkey or something), she might be able to best protect her daughter by moving back. He's not likely to follow them across an ocean. | In IL, the age of consent is 17 https://www.shaneylaw.com/criminal-defense/sex-offenses/age-of-consent/ The co-worker can have report the man to the police who might decide to prosecuted him for statutory rape or whatever the DA decided to throw at him (IF they are engaging in sexual activity). | 1 | 10,935 | 2.192308 |
75phkp | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | (IL) An undocumented co-worker's (F,40) daughter (F,16) is dating and has been in a relationship with a 33 year old man. More details inside. Co-worker is worried for her daughter what can she do? Sorry if its the wrong sub. I am writing because I am also concerned about the legality of their relationship. Basically my co-worker and her daughter moved to the United States 3 years ago from Europe because her then 13 year old daughter was accused of molesting their neighbor's pre-adolescent daughter. I don't know if she's innocent or guilty, but their lawyer advised them to move to the US. They obviously moved here and have found a house to rent about 2 years ago. They both got a job at the food place where I work, that's how I know them. As I worked with them more and more I learned that my co-workers daughter has not been attending school at all, but I think 16 is the age one can decide to drop out. I also learned that the father/husband is absent from their lives. At this point their documents have expired and they are here illegally. Anyway, this 33 year old regular customer kept coming in occasionally and always requested to be waited by my co-workers daughter. After some time they exchanged numbers and began dating. Initially with my co-workers permission. I don't know much about their relationship, besides the ridiculous age and illegal? age difference. I don't know if they engage in sexual activity. I do know that he promised her everything she wants if she stays with him. Recently my co-worker became worried because of her daughter's boyfriend's increasingly controlling behavior. The other day he berated her for wearing high heels to work. Recently he also picked her up unannounced from work and wouldn't let my co-worker know where they are going or where they are when she called after them. That day he dropped her off at home after midnight. She obviously wants this relationship to end. However she doesnt know what to do. She is worried about going to the police because of her illegal status. Her daughter is also young and thinks she knows best so any attempt to get to her is a failure. She is also worried because the daughter's boyfriend might use their illegal status as leverage for to continue the relationship. What can I advise my co-worker to do? | do89q3d | do87r40 | 1,507,747,496 | 1,507,745,466 | 57 | 18 | >my co-worker and her daughter moved to the United States 3 years ago from Europe because her then 13 year old daughter was accused of molesting their neighbor's pre-adolescent daughter. This combined with the girl's current relationship with a 33 year old makes me wonder if she was sexually abused as a child. A lawyer wouldn't advise their client to flee the country, so I wonder if your coworker moved to escape an abusive partner or relative who also abused her daughter? > At this point their documents have expired and they are here illegally. There's nothing they can do about that, you can't regain legal status after letting your documents expire. >I don't know much about their relationship, besides the ridiculous age and illegal? age difference. No question mark needed, the age of consent in IL is 17. > I don't know if they engage in sexual activity. He wouldn't be dating a 16 year old otherwise. >Recently he also picked her up unannounced from work and wouldn't let my co-worker know where they are going or where they are when she called after them. That's when you call the police for kidnapping. > She is worried about going to the police because of her illegal status Illinois has a law that prevents local and state law enforcement from arresting someone solely due to their immigration status. >Her daughter is also young and thinks she knows best so any attempt to get to her is a failure Assuming they're from a safe European country (so not Turkey or something), she might be able to best protect her daughter by moving back. He's not likely to follow them across an ocean. | Even if they are not having sex, this man has committed multiple crimes. Contributing to the delinquency of a minor and kidnapping are two that come to mind. Regardless of their immigration status, Mom should file a police report. Perhaps a talking to by a police officer will scare this guy away. If there has been confirmed sexual activity, they will charge him with statutory rape. The cops take crimes against children very seriously. I think they will be more concerned about the kid's safety than her immigration papers. | 1 | 2,030 | 3.166667 |
75phkp | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | (IL) An undocumented co-worker's (F,40) daughter (F,16) is dating and has been in a relationship with a 33 year old man. More details inside. Co-worker is worried for her daughter what can she do? Sorry if its the wrong sub. I am writing because I am also concerned about the legality of their relationship. Basically my co-worker and her daughter moved to the United States 3 years ago from Europe because her then 13 year old daughter was accused of molesting their neighbor's pre-adolescent daughter. I don't know if she's innocent or guilty, but their lawyer advised them to move to the US. They obviously moved here and have found a house to rent about 2 years ago. They both got a job at the food place where I work, that's how I know them. As I worked with them more and more I learned that my co-workers daughter has not been attending school at all, but I think 16 is the age one can decide to drop out. I also learned that the father/husband is absent from their lives. At this point their documents have expired and they are here illegally. Anyway, this 33 year old regular customer kept coming in occasionally and always requested to be waited by my co-workers daughter. After some time they exchanged numbers and began dating. Initially with my co-workers permission. I don't know much about their relationship, besides the ridiculous age and illegal? age difference. I don't know if they engage in sexual activity. I do know that he promised her everything she wants if she stays with him. Recently my co-worker became worried because of her daughter's boyfriend's increasingly controlling behavior. The other day he berated her for wearing high heels to work. Recently he also picked her up unannounced from work and wouldn't let my co-worker know where they are going or where they are when she called after them. That day he dropped her off at home after midnight. She obviously wants this relationship to end. However she doesnt know what to do. She is worried about going to the police because of her illegal status. Her daughter is also young and thinks she knows best so any attempt to get to her is a failure. She is also worried because the daughter's boyfriend might use their illegal status as leverage for to continue the relationship. What can I advise my co-worker to do? | do8srmo | do8ydzy | 1,507,768,814 | 1,507,775,586 | 3 | 5 | I am not a lawyer but here is a link to organizations that help immigrants in Illinois. You can hit the "map" feature to find one near you. Your coworker might benefit from talking to a knowledgeable person before contacting the police. As another commenter mentioned, even if Illinois has laws against arresting people solely for immigration status, ICE has been arresting folks in many states regardless of local immigration laws. Hopefully there's someone at one of these places that can give her an honest lay of the land | I would seriously consider the possibility that this girl is being sex trafficked. Sex traffickers are often older men who prey on younger girls in vulnerable situations (such as being undocumented, and under educated, having a history of past abuse/sexual violence). The fact that he is starting to separate her from her family and her job is extremely troubling. The documentary I am Jane Doe gives a great overview of this topic and at one point, a former pimp literally says it is their MO to tell a girl that they will give them everything they want, as this guy is doing to her. I am not a lawyer, but I work closely in child welfare cases in the court and know that there are some legal protections for victims of sex trafficking. I would highly recommend trying to contact an agency in your area that deals with sex trafficking (here is a starting point: https://humantraffickinghotline.org/state/illinois) | 0 | 6,772 | 1.666667 |
gat7j3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My 16 year old niece (USA) is having an online relationship with a “25” year old man (Turkey) I have recently made contact with my niece whom I haven’t spoken to since she was a baby. However she and I live on opposite sides of the country. She told me she is dating an older man and said he is 25. They met online when she was 14 and kept contact for the last two years, she showed me his fb and he looks at least mid 30’s. He lives in Turkey and she lives in the USA. I asked if her mom knew and she said yes, when I spoke to her mom she confirmed that she knew and is fine with it because he makes her feel loved. I’ve tried speaking to my niece myself about how dangerous this could turn out and she should date someone her own age, but she refuses to recognize this isn’t normal. Is this legal? Could this be considered child neglect? | fp38j1p | fp1ole0 | 1,588,274,944 | 1,588,242,756 | 52 | 5 | I am Turkish and live in Turkey. Here, taking advantage of minors is a crime. Contact both US and Turkish authorities with detailed explanation and proof. ​ Be safe! | ---
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v7i2ul | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Doordash, more like door smash, driver crashed into our garage door and then ran off I need some advice on what to do here. Yesterday we ordered doordash and the driver apparently didn't put their car in park, they were halfway up our front walkway with the food when their car crashed into our garage door, knocking the bottom half off the track and smashing it in. The whole thing needs to be replaced at this point. The worst part, however, is that they ran off after their car, food in hand, backed the car up, parked it this time, then delivered the food and drove off like nothing ever happened. Didn't check to see if anyone was hurt, didn't even ring the doorbell, nothing. We have cameras on our house, thankfully, and I have two different camera angles of what happened, it's obvious who is to blame. I've already called the police and doordash about it and the police are trying to get the information on the driver, but doordash won't give us any information for insurance in order to get it fixed. We had to board up our garage door so animals don't get into our garage and now we're stuck waiting to hear back. The police say they're waiting on doordash to contact them back, and doordash says they're waiting on the police, but neither one seems to know exactly what the other is missing. We've already provided the camera footage to both doordash and the police as well as photos of the damage, and when we called doordash back today trying to get an update, the most infuriating thing is that the person we spoke with today said they hadn't even recorded an incident had occurred with that driver yet. I need advice on how to get this expedited so we can at least get the insurance information to get the door fixed, it's not at all sealed right now, just has a piece of plywood covering it as best we could (we're no contractors obviously), so one good rain and our garage is going to flood at this rate. We can't just sit around and not get it fixed, but it's definitely not in the budget to have someone come out to replace the door if we're the ones paying out of pocket for it. Nobody seems to be in a hurry to get us any sort of information. How do we get this done faster so we can actually get the hole fixed? Are there any steps we missed? Obviously, after all this, I'm never ordering doordash again, this whole experience has soured my opinion of them permanently. Edit: This is in Illinois if that makes a difference. | ibm9vki | ibmoc29 | 1,654,701,902 | 1,654,707,969 | 4 | 7 | The driver will have insurance that they will go through first. Then doordashes insurance takes over after that. I have dealt with doordashes insurance when I was hurt delivering for them and it was an easy process and they paid for everything. Your homeowners insurance will have to get involved. You won't get far dealing with doordash on your own | I would start by getting a free bid from a local garage door company. The cost may be less than you think. At the same time talk to your insurance agent. They may have a preferred or recommend vendor. And your agent will also help direct you in the next steps. Unfortunately the repair cost maybe less than your deductible. | 0 | 6,067 | 1.75 |
v7i2ul | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Doordash, more like door smash, driver crashed into our garage door and then ran off I need some advice on what to do here. Yesterday we ordered doordash and the driver apparently didn't put their car in park, they were halfway up our front walkway with the food when their car crashed into our garage door, knocking the bottom half off the track and smashing it in. The whole thing needs to be replaced at this point. The worst part, however, is that they ran off after their car, food in hand, backed the car up, parked it this time, then delivered the food and drove off like nothing ever happened. Didn't check to see if anyone was hurt, didn't even ring the doorbell, nothing. We have cameras on our house, thankfully, and I have two different camera angles of what happened, it's obvious who is to blame. I've already called the police and doordash about it and the police are trying to get the information on the driver, but doordash won't give us any information for insurance in order to get it fixed. We had to board up our garage door so animals don't get into our garage and now we're stuck waiting to hear back. The police say they're waiting on doordash to contact them back, and doordash says they're waiting on the police, but neither one seems to know exactly what the other is missing. We've already provided the camera footage to both doordash and the police as well as photos of the damage, and when we called doordash back today trying to get an update, the most infuriating thing is that the person we spoke with today said they hadn't even recorded an incident had occurred with that driver yet. I need advice on how to get this expedited so we can at least get the insurance information to get the door fixed, it's not at all sealed right now, just has a piece of plywood covering it as best we could (we're no contractors obviously), so one good rain and our garage is going to flood at this rate. We can't just sit around and not get it fixed, but it's definitely not in the budget to have someone come out to replace the door if we're the ones paying out of pocket for it. Nobody seems to be in a hurry to get us any sort of information. How do we get this done faster so we can actually get the hole fixed? Are there any steps we missed? Obviously, after all this, I'm never ordering doordash again, this whole experience has soured my opinion of them permanently. Edit: This is in Illinois if that makes a difference. | ibml382 | ibmoc29 | 1,654,706,615 | 1,654,707,969 | 4 | 7 | Go through your homeowners insurance. They have the big guns to get stuff done. | I would start by getting a free bid from a local garage door company. The cost may be less than you think. At the same time talk to your insurance agent. They may have a preferred or recommend vendor. And your agent will also help direct you in the next steps. Unfortunately the repair cost maybe less than your deductible. | 0 | 1,354 | 1.75 |
tz8v7i | legaladvice_train | 0.76 | I’m a DoorDash driver and a customers goat bit me It was out of the fenced pen, came up and bit me. I went to the hospital and told them. What do I do next? | i41r1h6 | i402jtb | 1,649,520,037 | 1,649,483,140 | 7 | 4 | I raised goats for 10 years growing up. I've been bit a couple times. It has never needed medical attention or even had broken skin. Goats normally don't bite. What was the context of the bite? If they want to attack you, they use their horns (even the ones with no horns will butt you). I'm very curious as to what medical care you needed to receive for a goat bite. You say you went to the hospital and told them, but not that you needed any sort of treatment, follow up etc. That's all important context before anyone can tell you what to do next. If you got bit, had no infection, broken skin, etc, you probably won't have any recourse. You MAY be able to get your co-pay or hospital bill back from their renters insurance, but you're not going to be able to get much else past that. | What required hospitalization? Did you drive there yourself or were you taken by ambulance? | 1 | 36,897 | 1.75 |
wal1j2 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Help! My landlord (Jacksonville Florida) changed the locks on my apartment! My landlord overnight changed the locks on my apartment door. He didn’t file any eviction notice, or anything with the court at all. I called my clerk of courts and she told me to just go back inside the home. I can’t, the doors are locked. Can anyone please advise me on the proper filing procedures, and I will file immediately in the morning. | ii1taw1 | ii1ktmh | 1,659,046,631 | 1,659,043,183 | 17 | 9 | Call a locksmith to have the doors rekeyed so you can get back into your apartment: landlords aren't allowed to do "illegal self-help evictions." This advice is predicated on the assumption that you have a valid lease or rental agreement, all your stuff is still in the apartment, and you have not been formally served with an eviction lawsuit (and thereafter had the sheriff forcibly remove you from the unit). Even if you are behind on rent, the landlord has to go through the courts to evict you. If your possessions are in the unit and the landlord changed the locks out of the blue, call a locksmith. | Call the police. Also see here: https://www.jaxlegalaid.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/lockout-brochure.pdf | 1 | 3,448 | 1.888889 |
wal1j2 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Help! My landlord (Jacksonville Florida) changed the locks on my apartment! My landlord overnight changed the locks on my apartment door. He didn’t file any eviction notice, or anything with the court at all. I called my clerk of courts and she told me to just go back inside the home. I can’t, the doors are locked. Can anyone please advise me on the proper filing procedures, and I will file immediately in the morning. | ii1taw1 | ii1h42h | 1,659,046,631 | 1,659,041,723 | 17 | 2 | Call a locksmith to have the doors rekeyed so you can get back into your apartment: landlords aren't allowed to do "illegal self-help evictions." This advice is predicated on the assumption that you have a valid lease or rental agreement, all your stuff is still in the apartment, and you have not been formally served with an eviction lawsuit (and thereafter had the sheriff forcibly remove you from the unit). Even if you are behind on rent, the landlord has to go through the courts to evict you. If your possessions are in the unit and the landlord changed the locks out of the blue, call a locksmith. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 4,908 | 8.5 |
wal1j2 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Help! My landlord (Jacksonville Florida) changed the locks on my apartment! My landlord overnight changed the locks on my apartment door. He didn’t file any eviction notice, or anything with the court at all. I called my clerk of courts and she told me to just go back inside the home. I can’t, the doors are locked. Can anyone please advise me on the proper filing procedures, and I will file immediately in the morning. | ii1h42h | ii1ktmh | 1,659,041,723 | 1,659,043,183 | 2 | 9 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Call the police. Also see here: https://www.jaxlegalaid.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/lockout-brochure.pdf | 0 | 1,460 | 4.5 |
wal1j2 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Help! My landlord (Jacksonville Florida) changed the locks on my apartment! My landlord overnight changed the locks on my apartment door. He didn’t file any eviction notice, or anything with the court at all. I called my clerk of courts and she told me to just go back inside the home. I can’t, the doors are locked. Can anyone please advise me on the proper filing procedures, and I will file immediately in the morning. | ii2htao | ii1h42h | 1,659,057,638 | 1,659,041,723 | 4 | 2 | You call the police and ask for an escort, you call a locksmith then charge your landlord the cost to have it rekeyed out of your rent, with a receipt and explanation. You will have to pay up front, but not okay. You also file for the illegal eviction so you can use that as help to be reimbursed for the costs associated with all this. If you need to break a window to get in, the police would aid in that so you a) have a witness and b) don't have to worry your landlord is waiting inside to confront you or anything. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 15,915 | 2 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqgxkc0 | hqgvrpk | 1,640,817,676 | 1,640,816,948 | 936 | 10 | File a police report over the threat. Also, call the police non-emergency line and ask for a civil standby while you go to his place and ask for a key to the property. Locking you out is illegal. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 728 | 93.6 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqh7qzp | hqi2lv8 | 1,640,821,880 | 1,640,835,465 | 27 | 335 | Def call police . And possibly consult with a lawyer who deals with landlord / tenant issues and fair housing . | I am a lawyer, I am not your lawyer, and I am not a lawyer in your state. You’ve gotten some relevant advice about contacting the police, which please ensure you do. I noted though that you mentioned the dispute arose from the landlord not making reasonable repairs. Are these mentioned in your lease? If so your landlord is in breach of the lease and not you. Which would mean your landlord is likely on the hook for reasonable relocation costs (and in some jurisdictions and difference in rent between your current lease and your new one). I HIGHLY suggest you speak with an attorney who practices landlord tenant law as you may be able to recoup some of your damages from this situation. | 0 | 13,585 | 12.407407 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqgvrpk | hqi2lv8 | 1,640,816,948 | 1,640,835,465 | 10 | 335 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | I am a lawyer, I am not your lawyer, and I am not a lawyer in your state. You’ve gotten some relevant advice about contacting the police, which please ensure you do. I noted though that you mentioned the dispute arose from the landlord not making reasonable repairs. Are these mentioned in your lease? If so your landlord is in breach of the lease and not you. Which would mean your landlord is likely on the hook for reasonable relocation costs (and in some jurisdictions and difference in rent between your current lease and your new one). I HIGHLY suggest you speak with an attorney who practices landlord tenant law as you may be able to recoup some of your damages from this situation. | 0 | 18,517 | 33.5 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqiixxx | hqh7qzp | 1,640,843,853 | 1,640,821,880 | 57 | 27 | Wait a minute, He actually said he would have you shot in writing? Did he sign it? | Def call police . And possibly consult with a lawyer who deals with landlord / tenant issues and fair housing . | 1 | 21,973 | 2.111111 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqiixxx | hqgvrpk | 1,640,843,853 | 1,640,816,948 | 57 | 10 | Wait a minute, He actually said he would have you shot in writing? Did he sign it? | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 26,905 | 5.7 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqgvrpk | hqh7qzp | 1,640,816,948 | 1,640,821,880 | 10 | 27 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Def call police . And possibly consult with a lawyer who deals with landlord / tenant issues and fair housing . | 0 | 4,932 | 2.7 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqis9qs | hqk95yv | 1,640,850,038 | 1,640,881,870 | 9 | 11 | Any time you need something fixed by a landlord you should put it in writing, keep a copy for yourself and mail it certified with a signature verification upon delivery. You mention in the letter what needs to be repaired and give a reasonable amount of time. If it's not fixed in a reasonable time in the same letter mention you will have it repaired yourself and will submit the receipt to him in lieu of rent. Keep a copy of the receipt for yourself . If the repair is less than the rent then pay the difference in rent. If it's more than take the balance from the next month's rent. I did this one time with a property management company. Not only did I do thar but I also called the building inspector. They came in and were only able to get into 4 apartments out of 22 They found 2 pages of code violations. When all was said and done it cost them 150K plus 3 months of free rent to me. | 100% contact the police over that threat of violence. That is incredibly not okay. The fact that you withheld rent for a maintenance request does not change that. | 0 | 31,832 | 1.222222 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqk95yv | hqgvrpk | 1,640,881,870 | 1,640,816,948 | 11 | 10 | 100% contact the police over that threat of violence. That is incredibly not okay. The fact that you withheld rent for a maintenance request does not change that. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 64,922 | 1.1 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqk95yv | hqk141l | 1,640,881,870 | 1,640,878,602 | 11 | 10 | 100% contact the police over that threat of violence. That is incredibly not okay. The fact that you withheld rent for a maintenance request does not change that. | You may have not paid rent , but he would legally have to evict you. He just can't decide for you not come on the property . That is an illegal lockout . You can sue for that but and a big but here is that he can counter sue for the rent he is owed .weather he get it or not I can't say. Best to consult a lawyer for that | 1 | 3,268 | 1.1 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqk141l | hqis9qs | 1,640,878,602 | 1,640,850,038 | 10 | 9 | You may have not paid rent , but he would legally have to evict you. He just can't decide for you not come on the property . That is an illegal lockout . You can sue for that but and a big but here is that he can counter sue for the rent he is owed .weather he get it or not I can't say. Best to consult a lawyer for that | Any time you need something fixed by a landlord you should put it in writing, keep a copy for yourself and mail it certified with a signature verification upon delivery. You mention in the letter what needs to be repaired and give a reasonable amount of time. If it's not fixed in a reasonable time in the same letter mention you will have it repaired yourself and will submit the receipt to him in lieu of rent. Keep a copy of the receipt for yourself . If the repair is less than the rent then pay the difference in rent. If it's more than take the balance from the next month's rent. I did this one time with a property management company. Not only did I do thar but I also called the building inspector. They came in and were only able to get into 4 apartments out of 22 They found 2 pages of code violations. When all was said and done it cost them 150K plus 3 months of free rent to me. | 1 | 28,564 | 1.111111 |
rrkpg0 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I had a legal 28 days to move out of my apartment and the landlord changed the locks today Hello, so I’m in a very messy situation right now with everything going on. I broke the lease by not paying because he wouldn’t fix the dishwasher and I told him I wouldn’t pay until it was fixed and he ignored me and now this has happened. I’m staying with my parents for now but so much is going on and this is pushing me over the edge. I didn’t get an eviction notice I don’t think just the 28 day lease breakage that said I had till January 14th. The landlord texted me that if I try to go into that apartment he will have me shot because it’s breaking the lease In Colorado | hqknw24 | hqlm99d | 1,640,887,457 | 1,640,900,802 | 3 | 4 | Not that you’re likely too, but please DO NOT list him on your rental history. I was in a similar situation a few years ago. 30 days to vacate due to lease violation. Found a place, had all my shit packed, application put in, down payment made (first month last month security deposit) literally everything was done except the call to my previous landlord. My landlord bold face lied and told them I had been evicted (I had not, ordered to vacate is very different) and they literally ripped the contract in half in front of me because they thought I had lied to them the entire time. I’ve never been so close to homelessness my entire life. | In Colorado you have to be legally evicted and squatters have been given better opportunity than you have here. File a police report and contact a lawyer. At the very least I’d get your deposit back and have a clean break from that place. | 0 | 13,345 | 1.333333 |
53fak4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My Landlord changed the locks on my apartment without notifying me and I have paid rent for the month already I live in CA and they won't let me speak to anyone until tomorrow. I left to go on vacation yesterday. I had someone who was going to stay at my apartment and watch the place while I was out of town. I have a landlord that tends to stick his head in my door whenever he feels like it. I rent my place through a property management company. My boyfriend and I both have our names on the lease. Yesterday afternoon my boyfriend got a text saying that 'the landlord found out that we were subletting and that they were changing the locks at our expense and we couldn't speak with anyone about it until tomorrow (monday)'. We aren't subletting and the landlord entered our property without us there or our permission (wasn't an emergency either). They only notified my boyfriend of this and didn't contact me at all about it. What are my rights? also did they violate any laws and if so what ones. I just want to know the legal way to approach the sitaution tomorrow. I have also caught this very same landlord stealing power from me in the last few months and when I contact my property management company nothing is done. He has been plugging in an extension chord into my standalone building to do repairs to other buildings on property without notification or any compensation. I drove home from my vacation yesterday to try and figure things out, My belongings are still in the house and I had to stay in a hotel room last night. My friend that was staying at our place for the week said they had a locksmith there within minutes and gave me no notification. | d7sm5lx | d7skw21 | 1,474,250,903 | 1,474,248,997 | 122 | 35 | If you do want to make a big deal over this, you've already accrued some statutory damages based on this lockout incident. You'd need to do an actual consult with a landlord/tenant attorney to get at the exact figures for statutory damages. 789.3 specifies $100/day but no less than $250 for changing the lock. Another section (194x or 195x, or 115x/6x, It's been a while) up to $2K each for acts of constructive eviction. California courts have a hate boner for landlords who do this sort of thing. For the electricity thing, are you certain the outlets he's using are connected to your meter? Next time he's doing it, just go kill the circuit breaker that feeds them. | If you can't get into your apartment, call the police immediately and let them know you've been illegally evicted. The landlord has to give 30 days' notice to vacate before filing any eviction paperwork. >He has been plugging in an extension chord into my standalone building to do repairs to other buildings on property without notification or any compensation. Can you install security cameras to catch him? Is there a way you can block off those outlets? From now on audio record every single conversation you have with this landlord. Now, since California is a two-party-consent state you will have to tell him he is being audio recorded each time, but that can only work in your favor. He will either shut up and stop being a dipshit, or he will put his foot in his mouth and give you all the evidence you need for a successful small claims suit. | 1 | 1,906 | 3.485714 |
53fak4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My Landlord changed the locks on my apartment without notifying me and I have paid rent for the month already I live in CA and they won't let me speak to anyone until tomorrow. I left to go on vacation yesterday. I had someone who was going to stay at my apartment and watch the place while I was out of town. I have a landlord that tends to stick his head in my door whenever he feels like it. I rent my place through a property management company. My boyfriend and I both have our names on the lease. Yesterday afternoon my boyfriend got a text saying that 'the landlord found out that we were subletting and that they were changing the locks at our expense and we couldn't speak with anyone about it until tomorrow (monday)'. We aren't subletting and the landlord entered our property without us there or our permission (wasn't an emergency either). They only notified my boyfriend of this and didn't contact me at all about it. What are my rights? also did they violate any laws and if so what ones. I just want to know the legal way to approach the sitaution tomorrow. I have also caught this very same landlord stealing power from me in the last few months and when I contact my property management company nothing is done. He has been plugging in an extension chord into my standalone building to do repairs to other buildings on property without notification or any compensation. I drove home from my vacation yesterday to try and figure things out, My belongings are still in the house and I had to stay in a hotel room last night. My friend that was staying at our place for the week said they had a locksmith there within minutes and gave me no notification. | d7stpvb | d7srxqu | 1,474,264,385 | 1,474,260,260 | 68 | 43 | >Yesterday afternoon my boyfriend got a text saying that 'the landlord found out that we were subletting and that they were changing the locks at our expense and we couldn't speak with anyone about it until tomorrow (monday)'. This is great. Your landlord just admitted in writing to violating your lease. If you want to take him to court you should have a strong case. | This happened to me. They changed the lock because they said they didn't have a key. I called the emergency maintenance line and they said I could get a key the next day. I told them that I was going to smash a window if they didn't get me into my apartment within an hour. They showed up in 15 minutes. | 1 | 4,125 | 1.581395 |
53fak4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My Landlord changed the locks on my apartment without notifying me and I have paid rent for the month already I live in CA and they won't let me speak to anyone until tomorrow. I left to go on vacation yesterday. I had someone who was going to stay at my apartment and watch the place while I was out of town. I have a landlord that tends to stick his head in my door whenever he feels like it. I rent my place through a property management company. My boyfriend and I both have our names on the lease. Yesterday afternoon my boyfriend got a text saying that 'the landlord found out that we were subletting and that they were changing the locks at our expense and we couldn't speak with anyone about it until tomorrow (monday)'. We aren't subletting and the landlord entered our property without us there or our permission (wasn't an emergency either). They only notified my boyfriend of this and didn't contact me at all about it. What are my rights? also did they violate any laws and if so what ones. I just want to know the legal way to approach the sitaution tomorrow. I have also caught this very same landlord stealing power from me in the last few months and when I contact my property management company nothing is done. He has been plugging in an extension chord into my standalone building to do repairs to other buildings on property without notification or any compensation. I drove home from my vacation yesterday to try and figure things out, My belongings are still in the house and I had to stay in a hotel room last night. My friend that was staying at our place for the week said they had a locksmith there within minutes and gave me no notification. | d7stpvb | d7skw21 | 1,474,264,385 | 1,474,248,997 | 68 | 35 | >Yesterday afternoon my boyfriend got a text saying that 'the landlord found out that we were subletting and that they were changing the locks at our expense and we couldn't speak with anyone about it until tomorrow (monday)'. This is great. Your landlord just admitted in writing to violating your lease. If you want to take him to court you should have a strong case. | If you can't get into your apartment, call the police immediately and let them know you've been illegally evicted. The landlord has to give 30 days' notice to vacate before filing any eviction paperwork. >He has been plugging in an extension chord into my standalone building to do repairs to other buildings on property without notification or any compensation. Can you install security cameras to catch him? Is there a way you can block off those outlets? From now on audio record every single conversation you have with this landlord. Now, since California is a two-party-consent state you will have to tell him he is being audio recorded each time, but that can only work in your favor. He will either shut up and stop being a dipshit, or he will put his foot in his mouth and give you all the evidence you need for a successful small claims suit. | 1 | 15,388 | 1.942857 |
53fak4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My Landlord changed the locks on my apartment without notifying me and I have paid rent for the month already I live in CA and they won't let me speak to anyone until tomorrow. I left to go on vacation yesterday. I had someone who was going to stay at my apartment and watch the place while I was out of town. I have a landlord that tends to stick his head in my door whenever he feels like it. I rent my place through a property management company. My boyfriend and I both have our names on the lease. Yesterday afternoon my boyfriend got a text saying that 'the landlord found out that we were subletting and that they were changing the locks at our expense and we couldn't speak with anyone about it until tomorrow (monday)'. We aren't subletting and the landlord entered our property without us there or our permission (wasn't an emergency either). They only notified my boyfriend of this and didn't contact me at all about it. What are my rights? also did they violate any laws and if so what ones. I just want to know the legal way to approach the sitaution tomorrow. I have also caught this very same landlord stealing power from me in the last few months and when I contact my property management company nothing is done. He has been plugging in an extension chord into my standalone building to do repairs to other buildings on property without notification or any compensation. I drove home from my vacation yesterday to try and figure things out, My belongings are still in the house and I had to stay in a hotel room last night. My friend that was staying at our place for the week said they had a locksmith there within minutes and gave me no notification. | d7srxqu | d7skw21 | 1,474,260,260 | 1,474,248,997 | 43 | 35 | This happened to me. They changed the lock because they said they didn't have a key. I called the emergency maintenance line and they said I could get a key the next day. I told them that I was going to smash a window if they didn't get me into my apartment within an hour. They showed up in 15 minutes. | If you can't get into your apartment, call the police immediately and let them know you've been illegally evicted. The landlord has to give 30 days' notice to vacate before filing any eviction paperwork. >He has been plugging in an extension chord into my standalone building to do repairs to other buildings on property without notification or any compensation. Can you install security cameras to catch him? Is there a way you can block off those outlets? From now on audio record every single conversation you have with this landlord. Now, since California is a two-party-consent state you will have to tell him he is being audio recorded each time, but that can only work in your favor. He will either shut up and stop being a dipshit, or he will put his foot in his mouth and give you all the evidence you need for a successful small claims suit. | 1 | 11,263 | 1.228571 |
yzqexj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Boss asks us to clock out if we’re slow So, I work at a Subway (In Arkansas) and our boss recently told the closers that if we’re slow, one person needs to clock out and sit down for 30 minutes. We still have to be at the subway, but we have to clock out and just sit there. Is this legal? Is there anything I should do? | ix2pu8x | ix29s0b | 1,668,930,544 | 1,668,919,237 | 123 | 56 | You're an employee and your boss sets your schedule. He can tell you to clock out and when to clock back in. He CAN'T tell you where to be or what you can or can't do while clocked out. Can he fire you for leaving? Realistically, yeah, he can make up literally any reason to fire you. But if you are required to stay he has to pay you while you're there, even if there isn't any work to be done. | You can be asked to clock out. You can be asked to clock back in 30 minutes later. During that 30 minutes you aren't working and can do anything you want including leave the building. If you are late coming back, that can be considered late to clock in and you can be disciplined according to store rules. | 1 | 11,307 | 2.196429 |
8pn402 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | [MI] Parents Divorced: Mom who is receiving thousands in child support abandoned her 15 YO daughter at home alone; Dad travels for work and is sole income, any steps to helping dad get custody and cutting mom off from cash? An involved story, and posting for a family friend. Dad (family friend) and Mom divorced 2 years ago and since Dad is the sole breadwinner and works in solar so is constantly traveling Mom got custody, lived in the house, with 15 YO daughter and was awarded \~$5,000 a month in child support. Around 6 months ago, Mom started leaving daughter home alone for long weekends, with no money and only the food in the house to go party. Recently, Mom called to say she wasn't coming home at all and she was moving in with her boyfriend. Of course, she didn't tell Dad about any of this, and a 15 year old being 15 kept it from him as well. Dad was on a 4 month stint in TX and only learned what was happening when Daughter finally let him know she was out of food and there was no money in the house. Currently the situation is that Dad is back in Michigan trying to get the daughter out of the hole she is now in (grades went from As and Bs to Ds and Fs) but he will eventually have to either quit his job ( not a great option: High school diploma education only, no experience in anything else and pays the mortgage) to return to MI, or leave on the road again. Right now when he does go out of town on the small jobs he is taking the daughter stays with a neighbor family My question are as follows: 1. Is there a way he can prove neglect and abandonment on Mom's part to get full custody even if he is not able to be there full time? 2. Is there a way of reclaiming the last few months of child support if you can prove that the money was not used to support the child? 3. Is there a legal way to arrange/ grant partial caretaking to the neighbor family who are looking after daughter? I don't want this girl to end up in foster care, and I really don't think that Mom should be collecting money for a child she left with no money or food for weeks. Additionally if anyone knows of tutoring resources in Michigan to help her get her grades up and maybe a good child and family therapist in Huron county that would be helpful. | e0crt2h | e0ci6ul | 1,528,498,233 | 1,528,488,631 | 15 | 7 | And might I suggest boarding school? Teenagers usually love it, withh 5,000/month Dad could cover somewhere pretty ritzy, and it would accomodate his intensive travelling. | He should call CPS where daughter is located. Also worry the kid some money | 1 | 9,602 | 2.142857 |
8pn402 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | [MI] Parents Divorced: Mom who is receiving thousands in child support abandoned her 15 YO daughter at home alone; Dad travels for work and is sole income, any steps to helping dad get custody and cutting mom off from cash? An involved story, and posting for a family friend. Dad (family friend) and Mom divorced 2 years ago and since Dad is the sole breadwinner and works in solar so is constantly traveling Mom got custody, lived in the house, with 15 YO daughter and was awarded \~$5,000 a month in child support. Around 6 months ago, Mom started leaving daughter home alone for long weekends, with no money and only the food in the house to go party. Recently, Mom called to say she wasn't coming home at all and she was moving in with her boyfriend. Of course, she didn't tell Dad about any of this, and a 15 year old being 15 kept it from him as well. Dad was on a 4 month stint in TX and only learned what was happening when Daughter finally let him know she was out of food and there was no money in the house. Currently the situation is that Dad is back in Michigan trying to get the daughter out of the hole she is now in (grades went from As and Bs to Ds and Fs) but he will eventually have to either quit his job ( not a great option: High school diploma education only, no experience in anything else and pays the mortgage) to return to MI, or leave on the road again. Right now when he does go out of town on the small jobs he is taking the daughter stays with a neighbor family My question are as follows: 1. Is there a way he can prove neglect and abandonment on Mom's part to get full custody even if he is not able to be there full time? 2. Is there a way of reclaiming the last few months of child support if you can prove that the money was not used to support the child? 3. Is there a legal way to arrange/ grant partial caretaking to the neighbor family who are looking after daughter? I don't want this girl to end up in foster care, and I really don't think that Mom should be collecting money for a child she left with no money or food for weeks. Additionally if anyone knows of tutoring resources in Michigan to help her get her grades up and maybe a good child and family therapist in Huron county that would be helpful. | e0cib56 | e0crt2h | 1,528,488,743 | 1,528,498,233 | 6 | 15 | 1. Step one is to call CPS. Nothing can be done unless they document the situation. CPS will hear the daughters version of the events and any physical evidence that she has. 2. I doubt he'll be able to recoup the past child support. 3. There is, but it will likely require a lawyer. And this would have to be done after the CPS investigation to determine if that is an appropriate course of action. The girl won't end up in foster care. She's got family that is willing to take care of her. Foster care is the last option. | And might I suggest boarding school? Teenagers usually love it, withh 5,000/month Dad could cover somewhere pretty ritzy, and it would accomodate his intensive travelling. | 0 | 9,490 | 2.5 |
8pn402 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | [MI] Parents Divorced: Mom who is receiving thousands in child support abandoned her 15 YO daughter at home alone; Dad travels for work and is sole income, any steps to helping dad get custody and cutting mom off from cash? An involved story, and posting for a family friend. Dad (family friend) and Mom divorced 2 years ago and since Dad is the sole breadwinner and works in solar so is constantly traveling Mom got custody, lived in the house, with 15 YO daughter and was awarded \~$5,000 a month in child support. Around 6 months ago, Mom started leaving daughter home alone for long weekends, with no money and only the food in the house to go party. Recently, Mom called to say she wasn't coming home at all and she was moving in with her boyfriend. Of course, she didn't tell Dad about any of this, and a 15 year old being 15 kept it from him as well. Dad was on a 4 month stint in TX and only learned what was happening when Daughter finally let him know she was out of food and there was no money in the house. Currently the situation is that Dad is back in Michigan trying to get the daughter out of the hole she is now in (grades went from As and Bs to Ds and Fs) but he will eventually have to either quit his job ( not a great option: High school diploma education only, no experience in anything else and pays the mortgage) to return to MI, or leave on the road again. Right now when he does go out of town on the small jobs he is taking the daughter stays with a neighbor family My question are as follows: 1. Is there a way he can prove neglect and abandonment on Mom's part to get full custody even if he is not able to be there full time? 2. Is there a way of reclaiming the last few months of child support if you can prove that the money was not used to support the child? 3. Is there a legal way to arrange/ grant partial caretaking to the neighbor family who are looking after daughter? I don't want this girl to end up in foster care, and I really don't think that Mom should be collecting money for a child she left with no money or food for weeks. Additionally if anyone knows of tutoring resources in Michigan to help her get her grades up and maybe a good child and family therapist in Huron county that would be helpful. | e0crt2h | e0cidfx | 1,528,498,233 | 1,528,488,805 | 15 | 2 | And might I suggest boarding school? Teenagers usually love it, withh 5,000/month Dad could cover somewhere pretty ritzy, and it would accomodate his intensive travelling. | As already said, call CPS and get it documented. | 1 | 9,428 | 7.5 |
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