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9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e6abuvo | e6ai0ks | 1,537,399,629 | 1,537,405,682 | 21 | 82 | As a lady person, I'm appalled that this is happening to you. Your documentation is crucial and you've done a great job. Corporate HR - not local. I've seen first hand how bad it can be when HR are besties with your abuser (not me, but a colleague). Teach those creepy bitches a lesson. (I was going to say "nail them to a wall", but context...). Don't be afraid to make a stand. Don't back down. Channel Terry Crews. | Not legal advice, but I recommend checking out r/MensLib and r/CrewsCrew for support. r/MensLib is an all-purpose men's support sub that aims for male betterment that does not depend on misogyny/come at the cost of women (so a lot less hostile to the idea of men as victims of sexual abuses such as harassment), and they regularly discuss male sexual abuse and such. r/CrewsCrew is a sub that grew in response to Terry Crews speaking up about the sexual harassment he faced in the media industry as a large black man, and generally discusses sexual harassment and abuse. They both have resource guides in the sidebars, and hopefully you can find some support somewhere in there, whether or not you are able to pursue legal action on the harassment you are facing. I am so sorry you are dealing with this, and I wish you all the best of luck and that one way or another, you escape that harassment soon. | 0 | 6,053 | 3.904762 |
9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e6acz70 | e6ai0ks | 1,537,400,730 | 1,537,405,682 | 19 | 82 | Not a lawyer but I am a high level manager in a very large corporation. Absolutely 1000% you need to report this to the area manager and a corporate HR manager and also an outside attorney. You do not want this handled at the store level at all. You are also protected against retaliation after you report this. By law, any report has to be investigated and taken seriously, regardless of your gender. You are a protected class for your gender and your race. Harassment is taken very seriously by any corporation that doesn’t want their employees feeling unsafe and especially when they don’t want a lawsuit. I wish you the best of luck and as incredibly sorry you have to deal with this. What they are doing is so inappropriate and you deserve a safe work environment. | Not legal advice, but I recommend checking out r/MensLib and r/CrewsCrew for support. r/MensLib is an all-purpose men's support sub that aims for male betterment that does not depend on misogyny/come at the cost of women (so a lot less hostile to the idea of men as victims of sexual abuses such as harassment), and they regularly discuss male sexual abuse and such. r/CrewsCrew is a sub that grew in response to Terry Crews speaking up about the sexual harassment he faced in the media industry as a large black man, and generally discusses sexual harassment and abuse. They both have resource guides in the sidebars, and hopefully you can find some support somewhere in there, whether or not you are able to pursue legal action on the harassment you are facing. I am so sorry you are dealing with this, and I wish you all the best of luck and that one way or another, you escape that harassment soon. | 0 | 4,952 | 4.315789 |
9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e69a4m7 | e6ai0ks | 1,537,368,425 | 1,537,405,682 | 15 | 82 | Well that certainly sounds like sexual harassment. I would make a best effort attempt to report the behavior of these individuals to someone in management or HR and ask that they be talked to and that these unwelcome advances at work from managers stop. You might go in with your phone recording audio and explain that you need to talk to them about some behavior from certain managers that you feel is sexual harassment, state the date, and ask if it's okay to record the conversation. If they say no, turn the recording off - Missouri is a two-party consent state. If this "ends badly", as in you get fired or you get accused of being the one making the advances or something, go to an employment lawyer. If reporting doesn't stop the behavior, make a further report. The point is to show that you are trying to get the employer to stop the behavior of a few badly behaving employees. If that doesn't work, go to an employment lawyer. | Not legal advice, but I recommend checking out r/MensLib and r/CrewsCrew for support. r/MensLib is an all-purpose men's support sub that aims for male betterment that does not depend on misogyny/come at the cost of women (so a lot less hostile to the idea of men as victims of sexual abuses such as harassment), and they regularly discuss male sexual abuse and such. r/CrewsCrew is a sub that grew in response to Terry Crews speaking up about the sexual harassment he faced in the media industry as a large black man, and generally discusses sexual harassment and abuse. They both have resource guides in the sidebars, and hopefully you can find some support somewhere in there, whether or not you are able to pursue legal action on the harassment you are facing. I am so sorry you are dealing with this, and I wish you all the best of luck and that one way or another, you escape that harassment soon. | 0 | 37,257 | 5.466667 |
9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e69lxle | e69vs6w | 1,537,378,039 | 1,537,385,812 | 30 | 42 | I'd like to echo the sentiment to speak with a lawyer before HR if time and money allows. I can't speak on the legal side of things but if I were in your shoes I'd report it. There are still so many people who don't realize that men can be (and are being) sexually harassed, so it may be an uphill battle, but it would be worth it imo. No one deserves this kind of harassment and unwanted distraction at work--or anywhere really. If you can afford to do so, please get a lawyer and stand up to these women. | If you're worried about your store's management being in cahoots with the in-store HR, I would suggest going over their heads and clearly informing the area HR that these women have created such an uncomfortable and hostile work environment, and that you don't feel safe approaching the managers in your store about the issue without retaliation. There is a chance that your managers will retaliate; however, you have security footage on your side as well. Lastly, if they should text you again, I would suggest sending them a straightforward "Please do not contact me outside of work" sort of text, if only to defend yourself from them trying to flip the story if/when it gets addressed by a higher authority. ​ | 0 | 7,773 | 1.4 |
9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e69lxle | e69a4m7 | 1,537,378,039 | 1,537,368,425 | 30 | 15 | I'd like to echo the sentiment to speak with a lawyer before HR if time and money allows. I can't speak on the legal side of things but if I were in your shoes I'd report it. There are still so many people who don't realize that men can be (and are being) sexually harassed, so it may be an uphill battle, but it would be worth it imo. No one deserves this kind of harassment and unwanted distraction at work--or anywhere really. If you can afford to do so, please get a lawyer and stand up to these women. | Well that certainly sounds like sexual harassment. I would make a best effort attempt to report the behavior of these individuals to someone in management or HR and ask that they be talked to and that these unwelcome advances at work from managers stop. You might go in with your phone recording audio and explain that you need to talk to them about some behavior from certain managers that you feel is sexual harassment, state the date, and ask if it's okay to record the conversation. If they say no, turn the recording off - Missouri is a two-party consent state. If this "ends badly", as in you get fired or you get accused of being the one making the advances or something, go to an employment lawyer. If reporting doesn't stop the behavior, make a further report. The point is to show that you are trying to get the employer to stop the behavior of a few badly behaving employees. If that doesn't work, go to an employment lawyer. | 1 | 9,614 | 2 |
9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e69a4m7 | e69vs6w | 1,537,368,425 | 1,537,385,812 | 15 | 42 | Well that certainly sounds like sexual harassment. I would make a best effort attempt to report the behavior of these individuals to someone in management or HR and ask that they be talked to and that these unwelcome advances at work from managers stop. You might go in with your phone recording audio and explain that you need to talk to them about some behavior from certain managers that you feel is sexual harassment, state the date, and ask if it's okay to record the conversation. If they say no, turn the recording off - Missouri is a two-party consent state. If this "ends badly", as in you get fired or you get accused of being the one making the advances or something, go to an employment lawyer. If reporting doesn't stop the behavior, make a further report. The point is to show that you are trying to get the employer to stop the behavior of a few badly behaving employees. If that doesn't work, go to an employment lawyer. | If you're worried about your store's management being in cahoots with the in-store HR, I would suggest going over their heads and clearly informing the area HR that these women have created such an uncomfortable and hostile work environment, and that you don't feel safe approaching the managers in your store about the issue without retaliation. There is a chance that your managers will retaliate; however, you have security footage on your side as well. Lastly, if they should text you again, I would suggest sending them a straightforward "Please do not contact me outside of work" sort of text, if only to defend yourself from them trying to flip the story if/when it gets addressed by a higher authority. ​ | 0 | 17,387 | 2.8 |
9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e6abuvo | e69a4m7 | 1,537,399,629 | 1,537,368,425 | 21 | 15 | As a lady person, I'm appalled that this is happening to you. Your documentation is crucial and you've done a great job. Corporate HR - not local. I've seen first hand how bad it can be when HR are besties with your abuser (not me, but a colleague). Teach those creepy bitches a lesson. (I was going to say "nail them to a wall", but context...). Don't be afraid to make a stand. Don't back down. Channel Terry Crews. | Well that certainly sounds like sexual harassment. I would make a best effort attempt to report the behavior of these individuals to someone in management or HR and ask that they be talked to and that these unwelcome advances at work from managers stop. You might go in with your phone recording audio and explain that you need to talk to them about some behavior from certain managers that you feel is sexual harassment, state the date, and ask if it's okay to record the conversation. If they say no, turn the recording off - Missouri is a two-party consent state. If this "ends badly", as in you get fired or you get accused of being the one making the advances or something, go to an employment lawyer. If reporting doesn't stop the behavior, make a further report. The point is to show that you are trying to get the employer to stop the behavior of a few badly behaving employees. If that doesn't work, go to an employment lawyer. | 1 | 31,204 | 1.4 |
9h5m6p | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | A few of the managers at my job have been sexually harassing me all year. I’ve documented it since the beginning of the month but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s even worth addressing since I’m a (large, black) male and they’re all white women (Missouri) Here’s the copy&paste of the documentations I’ve made in my phone since September 1 and all the names have been changed to fake ones; times are approximate: September 1, 2018 at 16:00- Sam sends me 5 pictures of her posing in her bathing suit (I still have those messages on my phone) September 2nd, 2018 at 13:20- Christie hugs me from behind at the customer service desk and brushes her hands over my crotch in front of customers. September 2nd, 2018 at 19:10- Christie smacks my butt while I’m bending over to pick up a box that she specifically called me and asked me to come move. September 2nd, 2018 at 23:00- Christie blocks me from walking out of the store until I give her a hug. She buries her face in my neck and sniffs me and tells me I smell really good. September 3rd, 2018 at 14:00- Christie and Sam sit in the break room with me while I’m on a lunch break and talk to me about their past sexual experiences and ask me about mine and the size of my penis September 4, 2018 at 21:00- Ashley comes up behind me while I’m tying to write a contract for a customer who’s waiting at the customer service desk and starts rubbing the back of my neck. I pull forward to get away and she keeps rubbing. I repeat, “can you not?” Multiple times until she stops. Shannon was there and witnessed all of this. September 8, 2018 at 09:00- Sam walks up behind me and grabs my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me. | e69a4m7 | e6acz70 | 1,537,368,425 | 1,537,400,730 | 15 | 19 | Well that certainly sounds like sexual harassment. I would make a best effort attempt to report the behavior of these individuals to someone in management or HR and ask that they be talked to and that these unwelcome advances at work from managers stop. You might go in with your phone recording audio and explain that you need to talk to them about some behavior from certain managers that you feel is sexual harassment, state the date, and ask if it's okay to record the conversation. If they say no, turn the recording off - Missouri is a two-party consent state. If this "ends badly", as in you get fired or you get accused of being the one making the advances or something, go to an employment lawyer. If reporting doesn't stop the behavior, make a further report. The point is to show that you are trying to get the employer to stop the behavior of a few badly behaving employees. If that doesn't work, go to an employment lawyer. | Not a lawyer but I am a high level manager in a very large corporation. Absolutely 1000% you need to report this to the area manager and a corporate HR manager and also an outside attorney. You do not want this handled at the store level at all. You are also protected against retaliation after you report this. By law, any report has to be investigated and taken seriously, regardless of your gender. You are a protected class for your gender and your race. Harassment is taken very seriously by any corporation that doesn’t want their employees feeling unsafe and especially when they don’t want a lawsuit. I wish you the best of luck and as incredibly sorry you have to deal with this. What they are doing is so inappropriate and you deserve a safe work environment. | 0 | 32,305 | 1.266667 |
rw7a0p | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp. | hra3r8k | hr9zhog | 1,641,339,131 | 1,641,337,432 | 151 | 90 | Contact your insurance company immediately so they can investigate. That’s why you pay them. | Ask for the police report | 1 | 1,699 | 1.677778 |
rw7a0p | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp. | hra3r8k | hra021x | 1,641,339,131 | 1,641,337,659 | 151 | 50 | Contact your insurance company immediately so they can investigate. That’s why you pay them. | Your lawyer can request the footage if the cameras were operational. | 1 | 1,472 | 3.02 |
rw7a0p | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp. | hrao1l7 | hra021x | 1,641,347,508 | 1,641,337,659 | 67 | 50 | While you're going through the process of talking to the insurance company, getting a lawyer, getting a subpoena, some combination of the above... Can you get the rental company to review the footage themselves? That is, without showing it to you? Maybe once they've seen it for themselves, they'll just drop the whole thing. | Your lawyer can request the footage if the cameras were operational. | 1 | 9,849 | 1.34 |
rw7a0p | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp. | hra7u31 | hrao1l7 | 1,641,340,784 | 1,641,347,508 | 17 | 67 | The rental company doesn’t have to share security footage. You can refuse to pay and it’d likely come to a lawsuit against you. That’s where things get to proof required to be shown. Getting a lawyer involved now can at least get the footage if it exists preserved. | While you're going through the process of talking to the insurance company, getting a lawyer, getting a subpoena, some combination of the above... Can you get the rental company to review the footage themselves? That is, without showing it to you? Maybe once they've seen it for themselves, they'll just drop the whole thing. | 0 | 6,724 | 3.941176 |
rw7a0p | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp. | hrbn3yi | hra7u31 | 1,641,364,470 | 1,641,340,784 | 26 | 17 | Reposting since links aren't allowed. Apparently this happens more than we think. There was a cbs news report on a well known rental company doing doing this to their customers just three weeks ago. The report is on the CBS Mornings YouTube channel. Search "Claims are mounting against (company name removed for doxing rules) From Customers who say they were wrongfully arrested for rental." That seems like a good resource to start because they talk about the legal battles in the report. | The rental company doesn’t have to share security footage. You can refuse to pay and it’d likely come to a lawsuit against you. That’s where things get to proof required to be shown. Getting a lawyer involved now can at least get the footage if it exists preserved. | 1 | 23,686 | 1.529412 |
rw7a0p | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp. | hrbn3yi | hrb5gvu | 1,641,364,470 | 1,641,355,067 | 26 | 5 | Reposting since links aren't allowed. Apparently this happens more than we think. There was a cbs news report on a well known rental company doing doing this to their customers just three weeks ago. The report is on the CBS Mornings YouTube channel. Search "Claims are mounting against (company name removed for doxing rules) From Customers who say they were wrongfully arrested for rental." That seems like a good resource to start because they talk about the legal battles in the report. | Some rental companies allow you to return a vehicle after hours, but state that the customer is responsible for the vehicle until it's checked in the next morning. Enterprise has a disclaimer like that: "Please Note: A vehicle that is returned after hours will not be checked in until the next business day. If returning after hours when a branch is closed, the customer is responsible for the vehicle until the satisfactory check in of the rental vehicle the next business day." I'd check the rental company's website to see if there's anything like that. | 1 | 9,403 | 5.2 |
cfs4x8 | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | [NJ] Just got my first paycheck of July today at my minimum wage fast food job. The minimum wage has increased from 8.85 to 10. My pay rate has not increased and is still at 8.85. Was expecting a 1.15 dollar increase as the minimum wage of nj just increased to 10 dollars at the beginning of July. The pay rate on my check is 8.85 (old state minimum ). The beginning of the pay window is July 1st to July 14th so this is after the minimum wage has increased. Am I entitled to the new minimum wage and if so what actions should be taken to have my pay increased to minimum wage. | euc4ziw | euc6oab | 1,563,665,217 | 1,563,666,545 | 21 | 38 | What are the dates of the paycheck itself? Depending on your pay schedule, this check may have been from dates worked in June. Regardless, it may just be a clerical oversight. Approach your manager and ask. | Talk to your boss about it. Chances are high the pay rates just haven’t been adjusted yet. There are probably a lot of employees whose rates have to be increased and it takes a little time. What should happen is the company should increase your rate in the next couple weeks, then on the first paycheck you receive with the new rate, you should receive, in addition to that full week’s pay at $10 an hour, back pay for $1.15 per hour worked since the minimum wage increase took effect. | 0 | 1,328 | 1.809524 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izx9as2 | izx8du1 | 1,670,857,806 | 1,670,857,411 | 794 | 95 | You need to provide more than just proof, you need to ask for a reasonable accommodation. This requires going to the doctor having them write a letter explaining what your disability is and accommodations your employer may consider. Keep in mind your job doesn't need to do exactly what the doctor suggests because "leaving work whenever there's a flare up" is not always reasonable. If you haven't set up a reasonable accommodation it's reasonable to ask for a doctor's note when you're out. | Do you qualify for FMLA? | 1 | 395 | 8.357895 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izx8du1 | izxs12r | 1,670,857,411 | 1,670,865,403 | 95 | 219 | Do you qualify for FMLA? | Assuming your company has 15 or more people you are likely eligible for ADA protection. Arizona guidelines are here: https://az.db101.org/az/situations/workandbenefits/rights/program2.htm#:\~:text=The%20ADA%20uses%20the%20term,or%20more%20major%20life%20activities. Ask for ADA paperwork to take to your doctor. If you qualify, you're entitled to reasonable accommodations under ADA. I can't get more specific without knowing your job and your condition and how much time off work you generally need. But, absolutely do ask or ADA paperwork and get that ball rolling. | 0 | 7,992 | 2.305263 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izyth9h | izznkcb | 1,670,879,616 | 1,670,892,094 | 2 | 41 | Apply for intermittent FMLA. | Oof. One of the few times OP provides the state, and everyone ignores it. Arizona has a sick leave law that prohibits covered employers from asking for a doctor's note for any sick-time paid absence of less than 3 consecutive days. File a complaint here: https://www.azica.gov/forms/labor3305 You should fully expect to be fired for "unrelated reasons," at which point you should consult with an employment attorney. Edit: this only applies if your gas station has 15 or more employees. | 0 | 12,478 | 20.5 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izznkcb | izz58wh | 1,670,892,094 | 1,670,884,273 | 41 | 2 | Oof. One of the few times OP provides the state, and everyone ignores it. Arizona has a sick leave law that prohibits covered employers from asking for a doctor's note for any sick-time paid absence of less than 3 consecutive days. File a complaint here: https://www.azica.gov/forms/labor3305 You should fully expect to be fired for "unrelated reasons," at which point you should consult with an employment attorney. Edit: this only applies if your gas station has 15 or more employees. | Do you have FMLA paperwork? If not make sure your doctor fills it out and your employer has a copy. You have 12 weeks of job protected leave each year for medical condition that requires time off. | 1 | 7,821 | 20.5 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izyth9h | izzvf9d | 1,670,879,616 | 1,670,895,637 | 2 | 3 | Apply for intermittent FMLA. | You telling your employer you have a medical condition is pointless. You aren't a doctor. It is also common practice for companies to require proof of illness for excused absences. (meaning for there attendance policies you don't get dinged). Also many companies require documentation that you are ok to come back to work (not contagious not risking further injury etc) for liability purposes. but like you said it's a dead end job if you are throwing up and can't work call out if they fire you submit your documentation to the state and collect unemployment. | 0 | 16,021 | 1.5 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izzvf9d | izz58wh | 1,670,895,637 | 1,670,884,273 | 3 | 2 | You telling your employer you have a medical condition is pointless. You aren't a doctor. It is also common practice for companies to require proof of illness for excused absences. (meaning for there attendance policies you don't get dinged). Also many companies require documentation that you are ok to come back to work (not contagious not risking further injury etc) for liability purposes. but like you said it's a dead end job if you are throwing up and can't work call out if they fire you submit your documentation to the state and collect unemployment. | Do you have FMLA paperwork? If not make sure your doctor fills it out and your employer has a copy. You have 12 weeks of job protected leave each year for medical condition that requires time off. | 1 | 11,364 | 1.5 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izzx252 | izyth9h | 1,670,896,363 | 1,670,879,616 | 3 | 2 | Use intermittent FMLA | Apply for intermittent FMLA. | 1 | 16,747 | 1.5 |
zk1gc4 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit? | izz58wh | izzx252 | 1,670,884,273 | 1,670,896,363 | 2 | 3 | Do you have FMLA paperwork? If not make sure your doctor fills it out and your employer has a copy. You have 12 weeks of job protected leave each year for medical condition that requires time off. | Use intermittent FMLA | 0 | 12,090 | 1.5 |
6uaksu | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [NC] If I select "No, I do not have a disability" on a job application, and then on my first day I inform my employer that I have a disability, is that considered falsifying my application? | dlrfqnx | dlr619s | 1,502,993,093 | 1,502,983,125 | 8 | 5 | Most companies use form CC-305. https://www.dol.gov/ofccp/regs/compliance/sec503/Self_ID_Forms/VoluntarySelf-ID_CC-305_ENG_JRF_QA_508c.pdf You have the option to say you don't wish to answer that question. You should use that, rather than lying and saying no if it isn't true. | Is it on the application or does it ask if you can perform the job with or without a reasonable accommodation? | 1 | 9,968 | 1.6 |
km2qow | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPS picked up my return package from inside my house, gave me a receipt to confirm, then dragged it on the concrete - ripping it and getting wet mud all over it then changed their mind about taking it and left it outside. I had a scheduled UPS pick up today for a mattress. The mattress was wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated. | ghcbmce | ghcd9u4 | 1,609,201,568 | 1,609,202,474 | 116 | 442 | Keep the receipt. You will need it to show the package was actually picked up. | He messed up and needed the receipt so he could deny even picking up the shipment. Basically he is screwed because once he took possession and have you a pick up receipt, UPS becomes responsible for the item. | 0 | 906 | 3.810345 |
km2qow | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPS picked up my return package from inside my house, gave me a receipt to confirm, then dragged it on the concrete - ripping it and getting wet mud all over it then changed their mind about taking it and left it outside. I had a scheduled UPS pick up today for a mattress. The mattress was wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated. | ghcbmmz | ghcd9u4 | 1,609,201,573 | 1,609,202,474 | 75 | 442 | Did you happen to catch his name? Call the nearest UPS store, or whatever phone number is on the receipt. The receipt may have a code that links to the truck he was driving. What a crazy thing. | He messed up and needed the receipt so he could deny even picking up the shipment. Basically he is screwed because once he took possession and have you a pick up receipt, UPS becomes responsible for the item. | 0 | 901 | 5.893333 |
km2qow | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPS picked up my return package from inside my house, gave me a receipt to confirm, then dragged it on the concrete - ripping it and getting wet mud all over it then changed their mind about taking it and left it outside. I had a scheduled UPS pick up today for a mattress. The mattress was wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated. | ghchk7j | ghewz0p | 1,609,204,818 | 1,609,265,760 | 15 | 26 | Tell the seller what happened, and ask for another UPS label so they can pick up the mattress. | I know that you don't want to get the worker in trouble, but him barging into your house against your will is **NOT OKAY** and certainly against the law and UPS policy. I highly recommend letting someone higher-up in UPS know; not only will it help your mattress get successfully returned, but it could prevent him from doing the same (or worse) to someone else. | 0 | 60,942 | 1.733333 |
km2qow | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPS picked up my return package from inside my house, gave me a receipt to confirm, then dragged it on the concrete - ripping it and getting wet mud all over it then changed their mind about taking it and left it outside. I had a scheduled UPS pick up today for a mattress. The mattress was wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated. | ghdwst8 | ghewz0p | 1,609,243,911 | 1,609,265,760 | 6 | 26 | Use your receipt to contact the company and demand a Manager, then explain the situation, with focus on the fact that the man trespassed onto your property and was aggressive and threatening. Someone who can't get a job right now due to COVID will be happy to fill his shoes. | I know that you don't want to get the worker in trouble, but him barging into your house against your will is **NOT OKAY** and certainly against the law and UPS policy. I highly recommend letting someone higher-up in UPS know; not only will it help your mattress get successfully returned, but it could prevent him from doing the same (or worse) to someone else. | 0 | 21,849 | 4.333333 |
km2qow | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPS picked up my return package from inside my house, gave me a receipt to confirm, then dragged it on the concrete - ripping it and getting wet mud all over it then changed their mind about taking it and left it outside. I had a scheduled UPS pick up today for a mattress. The mattress was wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated. | ghit47c | ghchk7j | 1,609,352,924 | 1,609,204,818 | 21 | 15 | I read your update, just go to the police. You have proof that he took possession of it and damaged it. If they aren’t cooperating then you need to escalate. They clearly aren’t accepting responsibility. | Tell the seller what happened, and ask for another UPS label so they can pick up the mattress. | 1 | 148,106 | 1.4 |
km2qow | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | UPS picked up my return package from inside my house, gave me a receipt to confirm, then dragged it on the concrete - ripping it and getting wet mud all over it then changed their mind about taking it and left it outside. I had a scheduled UPS pick up today for a mattress. The mattress was wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated. | ghdwst8 | ghit47c | 1,609,243,911 | 1,609,352,924 | 6 | 21 | Use your receipt to contact the company and demand a Manager, then explain the situation, with focus on the fact that the man trespassed onto your property and was aggressive and threatening. Someone who can't get a job right now due to COVID will be happy to fill his shoes. | I read your update, just go to the police. You have proof that he took possession of it and damaged it. If they aren’t cooperating then you need to escalate. They clearly aren’t accepting responsibility. | 0 | 109,013 | 3.5 |
a0g8pz | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | [CA] Restaurant customer threatens chargeback over the $100 tip he left. Manager obliges and is now asking for the $100 to be given back from the waitstaff. California, Alameda County. Waiter at a restaurant that is no stranger to decent sized groups and dinner parties. A particular customer left a $100 tip on his receipt that was charged to his credit card along with the price of the dinner. The $100 is clearly legible on the receipt. Tips are cashed out at the end of each shift between waitstaff, bartenders, and bussers. Two weeks later the customer calls back and complains, saying he never left a $100 tip and threatens a chargeback for the entire bill. Restaurant manager informs him that it is clearly visible on the receipt but as a good will gesture offers to refund his $100. Manager then asks the staff that recieved a portion of the $100 tip to return the money. You fill out a form that says you're giving it back and it's deduced from the next time you're tips are cashed out. The forms are typically used when a tip amount is entered incorrectly by the staff, never seen it happen before when management offers a refund to the customer. Am I obligated to give the money back? Can I be fired if I refuse? | eahjkbi | eahi65o | 1,543,210,172 | 1,543,208,545 | 242 | 119 | When a customer leaves a tip, the proprietor must give that tip to the server or pay it into the server pool. They are not allowed to deduct credit card processing fees or any other fees. That money is yours. The owner, of his own free will, decided to refund the tip money to the customer. That's his prerogative. But he can't give your money away, only his own. It would be the same if the the customer had left a $100 bill on the table as a tip and the owner gave him a hundred bucks in cash because he complained. Can he fire or discipline you for this? He can certainly do what he likes, but California has some pretty strong worker protections. If he retaliates against you for refusing, you can file a complaint with California’s Division of Labor Standards Enforcement. | No and yes, in that order. The tip is your property, so you don't have to return it. But they can fire you, because your employment is at-will, and that's not a protected class. | 1 | 1,627 | 2.033613 |
a0g8pz | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | [CA] Restaurant customer threatens chargeback over the $100 tip he left. Manager obliges and is now asking for the $100 to be given back from the waitstaff. California, Alameda County. Waiter at a restaurant that is no stranger to decent sized groups and dinner parties. A particular customer left a $100 tip on his receipt that was charged to his credit card along with the price of the dinner. The $100 is clearly legible on the receipt. Tips are cashed out at the end of each shift between waitstaff, bartenders, and bussers. Two weeks later the customer calls back and complains, saying he never left a $100 tip and threatens a chargeback for the entire bill. Restaurant manager informs him that it is clearly visible on the receipt but as a good will gesture offers to refund his $100. Manager then asks the staff that recieved a portion of the $100 tip to return the money. You fill out a form that says you're giving it back and it's deduced from the next time you're tips are cashed out. The forms are typically used when a tip amount is entered incorrectly by the staff, never seen it happen before when management offers a refund to the customer. Am I obligated to give the money back? Can I be fired if I refuse? | eahidso | eahjkbi | 1,543,208,782 | 1,543,210,172 | 38 | 242 | Are you obligated to give it back? No. Can you be fired if you don't? Probably. | When a customer leaves a tip, the proprietor must give that tip to the server or pay it into the server pool. They are not allowed to deduct credit card processing fees or any other fees. That money is yours. The owner, of his own free will, decided to refund the tip money to the customer. That's his prerogative. But he can't give your money away, only his own. It would be the same if the the customer had left a $100 bill on the table as a tip and the owner gave him a hundred bucks in cash because he complained. Can he fire or discipline you for this? He can certainly do what he likes, but California has some pretty strong worker protections. If he retaliates against you for refusing, you can file a complaint with California’s Division of Labor Standards Enforcement. | 0 | 1,390 | 6.368421 |
8ed18t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [NY] Woman has come forward claiming her child is my half-brother to try to get a part of my fathers estate despite the fact it is impossible. What can I do make this woman go away or pay for this stunt? Using an alt because this is just ridiculous. So here's the situation. My father passed about 2 months ago from natural causes and left everything he owned to me and my sister. His estate is worth over 5 million with almost half of that in liquid assets. His estate is still being split up now (not because me and sis are fighting or anything. The two of us are just working together to see who wants what and figuring out what to do with the rest.) But that isn't the issue here. About a week ago a woman we'll call Stupid bitch (SB for short) contacted my fathers estate attorney claiming that she had a secret child with him and demanded he get a third of the estate. I have never met this woman or even knew she existed until then but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves? | dxuccui | dxu816d | 1,524,508,570 | 1,524,504,677 | 1,171 | 995 | Let your lawyer handle it. Ask him to send her a letter telling her she is not to contact you at all but only him when she is ready to take a DNA test. If she does contact you he will deem it harrassment and pursue your legal remedies. The block her form contacting you. | Sounds like your lawyer has it handled... so just stop talking to her. If she contacts you, tell her to talk to the lawyer. Block her number if you have to. | 1 | 3,893 | 1.176884 |
8ed18t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [NY] Woman has come forward claiming her child is my half-brother to try to get a part of my fathers estate despite the fact it is impossible. What can I do make this woman go away or pay for this stunt? Using an alt because this is just ridiculous. So here's the situation. My father passed about 2 months ago from natural causes and left everything he owned to me and my sister. His estate is worth over 5 million with almost half of that in liquid assets. His estate is still being split up now (not because me and sis are fighting or anything. The two of us are just working together to see who wants what and figuring out what to do with the rest.) But that isn't the issue here. About a week ago a woman we'll call Stupid bitch (SB for short) contacted my fathers estate attorney claiming that she had a secret child with him and demanded he get a third of the estate. I have never met this woman or even knew she existed until then but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves? | dxu7bka | dxuccui | 1,524,504,044 | 1,524,508,570 | 360 | 1,171 | Send her a message once -- she is to cease contacting you and your sister, and can take her requests to your lawyer. Let your lawyer sort through all the details after notifying him of the pertinent information. Then proceed to block her. If she persists after you've blocked her (like showing up at your house), document **every** interaction with her -- time, location, you get the idea. This information can be helpful if you need to go to the police for harassing behaviour -- e.g., if she's showing up on your doorstep. | Let your lawyer handle it. Ask him to send her a letter telling her she is not to contact you at all but only him when she is ready to take a DNA test. If she does contact you he will deem it harrassment and pursue your legal remedies. The block her form contacting you. | 0 | 4,526 | 3.252778 |
8ed18t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [NY] Woman has come forward claiming her child is my half-brother to try to get a part of my fathers estate despite the fact it is impossible. What can I do make this woman go away or pay for this stunt? Using an alt because this is just ridiculous. So here's the situation. My father passed about 2 months ago from natural causes and left everything he owned to me and my sister. His estate is worth over 5 million with almost half of that in liquid assets. His estate is still being split up now (not because me and sis are fighting or anything. The two of us are just working together to see who wants what and figuring out what to do with the rest.) But that isn't the issue here. About a week ago a woman we'll call Stupid bitch (SB for short) contacted my fathers estate attorney claiming that she had a secret child with him and demanded he get a third of the estate. I have never met this woman or even knew she existed until then but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves? | dxu816d | dxu7bka | 1,524,504,677 | 1,524,504,044 | 995 | 360 | Sounds like your lawyer has it handled... so just stop talking to her. If she contacts you, tell her to talk to the lawyer. Block her number if you have to. | Send her a message once -- she is to cease contacting you and your sister, and can take her requests to your lawyer. Let your lawyer sort through all the details after notifying him of the pertinent information. Then proceed to block her. If she persists after you've blocked her (like showing up at your house), document **every** interaction with her -- time, location, you get the idea. This information can be helpful if you need to go to the police for harassing behaviour -- e.g., if she's showing up on your doorstep. | 1 | 633 | 2.763889 |
8ed18t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [NY] Woman has come forward claiming her child is my half-brother to try to get a part of my fathers estate despite the fact it is impossible. What can I do make this woman go away or pay for this stunt? Using an alt because this is just ridiculous. So here's the situation. My father passed about 2 months ago from natural causes and left everything he owned to me and my sister. His estate is worth over 5 million with almost half of that in liquid assets. His estate is still being split up now (not because me and sis are fighting or anything. The two of us are just working together to see who wants what and figuring out what to do with the rest.) But that isn't the issue here. About a week ago a woman we'll call Stupid bitch (SB for short) contacted my fathers estate attorney claiming that she had a secret child with him and demanded he get a third of the estate. I have never met this woman or even knew she existed until then but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves? | dxuhr18 | dxudnc4 | 1,524,513,527 | 1,524,509,753 | 184 | 123 | Delete this post too. Get rid of anything explaining the situation. Don't tell her a damn thing. Silence is what you need. Can't pass a DNA test then she sure doesn't want the truth to come out. Don't worry about it. Just let the idiot keep being an idiot. Dont say anything more to her. Leave her feeble attempts at contact to die along with her lies. | Have your attorney draft a cease and desist letter and tell her to cease all contact. If she wants to sue for paternity, she’ll have to do just that, at which point you can present evidence your father isn’t had the ability to produce offspring for the past 15 years and ask if she’d still like to proceed with a DNA test. Do not tip your hand on this. | 1 | 3,774 | 1.495935 |
8ed18t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [NY] Woman has come forward claiming her child is my half-brother to try to get a part of my fathers estate despite the fact it is impossible. What can I do make this woman go away or pay for this stunt? Using an alt because this is just ridiculous. So here's the situation. My father passed about 2 months ago from natural causes and left everything he owned to me and my sister. His estate is worth over 5 million with almost half of that in liquid assets. His estate is still being split up now (not because me and sis are fighting or anything. The two of us are just working together to see who wants what and figuring out what to do with the rest.) But that isn't the issue here. About a week ago a woman we'll call Stupid bitch (SB for short) contacted my fathers estate attorney claiming that she had a secret child with him and demanded he get a third of the estate. I have never met this woman or even knew she existed until then but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves? | dxuhr18 | dxue6f6 | 1,524,513,527 | 1,524,510,241 | 184 | 111 | Delete this post too. Get rid of anything explaining the situation. Don't tell her a damn thing. Silence is what you need. Can't pass a DNA test then she sure doesn't want the truth to come out. Don't worry about it. Just let the idiot keep being an idiot. Dont say anything more to her. Leave her feeble attempts at contact to die along with her lies. | Listen to your lawyer. He’s already doing what needs to be done. NY likely has an omitted child statute in its probate code and your lawyer will make sure it’s followed. | 1 | 3,286 | 1.657658 |
8ed18t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [NY] Woman has come forward claiming her child is my half-brother to try to get a part of my fathers estate despite the fact it is impossible. What can I do make this woman go away or pay for this stunt? Using an alt because this is just ridiculous. So here's the situation. My father passed about 2 months ago from natural causes and left everything he owned to me and my sister. His estate is worth over 5 million with almost half of that in liquid assets. His estate is still being split up now (not because me and sis are fighting or anything. The two of us are just working together to see who wants what and figuring out what to do with the rest.) But that isn't the issue here. About a week ago a woman we'll call Stupid bitch (SB for short) contacted my fathers estate attorney claiming that she had a secret child with him and demanded he get a third of the estate. I have never met this woman or even knew she existed until then but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves? | dxuhr18 | dxugstp | 1,524,513,527 | 1,524,512,660 | 184 | 23 | Delete this post too. Get rid of anything explaining the situation. Don't tell her a damn thing. Silence is what you need. Can't pass a DNA test then she sure doesn't want the truth to come out. Don't worry about it. Just let the idiot keep being an idiot. Dont say anything more to her. Leave her feeble attempts at contact to die along with her lies. | Have you done any research on SB? Is this con-woman literally just a random stranger who read up about your father's passing and is does she actually have some sort of history with your father? You could pay for a background check. See if she has a criminal history to make sure you are not in any potential danger. | 1 | 867 | 8 |
7a7o4l | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My father has passed and he willed everything to me. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is my fathers and she wants to sue the estate for 18 years of child support. (CA) My father passed a few weeks ago and left everything to me. He has no siblings, no living parents, and I was his only child. He and my mother had a rather nasty divorce when I was still a baby and he left her nothing. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is his and wants pretty much his entire estate for her child as both her child's share of the inheritance and a large lump-sum of money for her to count as the 18 years of child support she claims she should get. Right off the bat, I doubt the kid is his. My father never dated or was in a relationship after his divorce with my mom, and even then, he was cremated shortly after death so there is nothing to compare the kid's DNA to. I believe this woman waited intentionally as she was known to my father, and attended his funeral (it was open to the public), but never brought the claim when DNA could have been collected. I do still have my dad's ashes, can DNA be collected from that? Regardless, my LEGAL question is: If the child actually is my father's, can she sue for a lump-sum to cover 18 years of child support, or can she only recover what would be my half-siblings share of the estate? | dp7rlmf | dp7rghb | 1,509,580,990 | 1,509,580,825 | 1,970 | 234 | Tell her no. Put the ball in her court. Tell her you will vigorously contest paternity. And then stop talking to her. Then consult a lawyer. AFAIK, you can only get an inheritance from a dead person, not child support from their estate. And even if she could get child support, it wouldn't be back support to the child's birth. But you need to consult an estate attorney about this. Your DNA can probably be used to help determine if you are related to the child. But if you haven't packed his belongings yet, and have anything like a hairbrush or toothbrush, set it aside and don't throw it out. | Only a sibling's share of the estate. But DNA can be established through you, or though his nieces and nephews, hairs left in his hair brush at the house... lots of ways to see if you have a half sibling. | 1 | 165 | 8.418803 |
7a7o4l | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My father has passed and he willed everything to me. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is my fathers and she wants to sue the estate for 18 years of child support. (CA) My father passed a few weeks ago and left everything to me. He has no siblings, no living parents, and I was his only child. He and my mother had a rather nasty divorce when I was still a baby and he left her nothing. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is his and wants pretty much his entire estate for her child as both her child's share of the inheritance and a large lump-sum of money for her to count as the 18 years of child support she claims she should get. Right off the bat, I doubt the kid is his. My father never dated or was in a relationship after his divorce with my mom, and even then, he was cremated shortly after death so there is nothing to compare the kid's DNA to. I believe this woman waited intentionally as she was known to my father, and attended his funeral (it was open to the public), but never brought the claim when DNA could have been collected. I do still have my dad's ashes, can DNA be collected from that? Regardless, my LEGAL question is: If the child actually is my father's, can she sue for a lump-sum to cover 18 years of child support, or can she only recover what would be my half-siblings share of the estate? | dp7reek | dp7rlmf | 1,509,580,758 | 1,509,580,990 | 76 | 1,970 | Hi there! Not an attorney - but I do want to bring up that if he is your half sibling, they can do a DNA test from you. Do you have a probate attorney? Did your dad leave a will? Or is it intestate? | Tell her no. Put the ball in her court. Tell her you will vigorously contest paternity. And then stop talking to her. Then consult a lawyer. AFAIK, you can only get an inheritance from a dead person, not child support from their estate. And even if she could get child support, it wouldn't be back support to the child's birth. But you need to consult an estate attorney about this. Your DNA can probably be used to help determine if you are related to the child. But if you haven't packed his belongings yet, and have anything like a hairbrush or toothbrush, set it aside and don't throw it out. | 0 | 232 | 25.921053 |
7a7o4l | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My father has passed and he willed everything to me. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is my fathers and she wants to sue the estate for 18 years of child support. (CA) My father passed a few weeks ago and left everything to me. He has no siblings, no living parents, and I was his only child. He and my mother had a rather nasty divorce when I was still a baby and he left her nothing. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is his and wants pretty much his entire estate for her child as both her child's share of the inheritance and a large lump-sum of money for her to count as the 18 years of child support she claims she should get. Right off the bat, I doubt the kid is his. My father never dated or was in a relationship after his divorce with my mom, and even then, he was cremated shortly after death so there is nothing to compare the kid's DNA to. I believe this woman waited intentionally as she was known to my father, and attended his funeral (it was open to the public), but never brought the claim when DNA could have been collected. I do still have my dad's ashes, can DNA be collected from that? Regardless, my LEGAL question is: If the child actually is my father's, can she sue for a lump-sum to cover 18 years of child support, or can she only recover what would be my half-siblings share of the estate? | dp7rghb | dp7reek | 1,509,580,825 | 1,509,580,758 | 234 | 76 | Only a sibling's share of the estate. But DNA can be established through you, or though his nieces and nephews, hairs left in his hair brush at the house... lots of ways to see if you have a half sibling. | Hi there! Not an attorney - but I do want to bring up that if he is your half sibling, they can do a DNA test from you. Do you have a probate attorney? Did your dad leave a will? Or is it intestate? | 1 | 67 | 3.078947 |
7a7o4l | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My father has passed and he willed everything to me. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is my fathers and she wants to sue the estate for 18 years of child support. (CA) My father passed a few weeks ago and left everything to me. He has no siblings, no living parents, and I was his only child. He and my mother had a rather nasty divorce when I was still a baby and he left her nothing. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is his and wants pretty much his entire estate for her child as both her child's share of the inheritance and a large lump-sum of money for her to count as the 18 years of child support she claims she should get. Right off the bat, I doubt the kid is his. My father never dated or was in a relationship after his divorce with my mom, and even then, he was cremated shortly after death so there is nothing to compare the kid's DNA to. I believe this woman waited intentionally as she was known to my father, and attended his funeral (it was open to the public), but never brought the claim when DNA could have been collected. I do still have my dad's ashes, can DNA be collected from that? Regardless, my LEGAL question is: If the child actually is my father's, can she sue for a lump-sum to cover 18 years of child support, or can she only recover what would be my half-siblings share of the estate? | dp7scik | dp7reek | 1,509,581,847 | 1,509,580,758 | 142 | 76 | Did your father's will name you specifically or were you referred to as his issue. If the word issue was used, you possible half sister is also issue. | Hi there! Not an attorney - but I do want to bring up that if he is your half sibling, they can do a DNA test from you. Do you have a probate attorney? Did your dad leave a will? Or is it intestate? | 1 | 1,089 | 1.868421 |
ifwzgg | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [GA] I [22F] own a house where my boyfriend [21M] lives with me. I am the only person on the mortgage. I was told by my mom if he ever leaves, he could claim part of my house as we are in a “common law relationship”. Is there any truth to this? My S/O and I have had a disagreement on how the house I own and we just moved in to is kept clean. I told my mom my frustrations and she came back a few hours later telling me that since I am allowing him to live with me (we have lived together since May in an apartment, since July in the house) and we are in a relationship, if we ever broke up, he could get a lawyer and demand that I provide a place him for so many months, or could demand I give him so much money after leaving since it is deemed “our house” even though I am the only person on all of the utilities and mortgage (basically giving him “his share” of the house back to him). Is this true? Do I need a lawyer to draft paperwork that says he can’t take part of my house, or is my mom crazy? I should note that he does not yet help me pay any of the bills related to the house, not sure if that matters or not. I think they requested his info for the electric company, but the bills are all in my name and addressed to me. | g2q9194 | g2qaxta | 1,598,300,961 | 1,598,301,892 | 7 | 43 | You should be fine. I found this: In order for a common law marriage to be legally recognized in the state of Georgia, four requirements must generally be met: * The parties must be able to contract; * There must be an actual contract; and * There must be consummation according to law; and * The marriage must be established prior to January 1, 1997. That being said, he is a tenant and if you split up you might need to evict him. So, if things don't work out, you might be living with him until you can legally kick him out. | No. Common law ended decades ago in GA. Even if you get married and divorced, the house would be premarital property, and at most he would be able to claim half of the value that was gained during the marriage. Since he lives there, he is already a tenant; if you wanted to make him leave you would have to evict him. That may actually be easier to do without a lease as a lease often spells out a term. | 0 | 931 | 6.142857 |
e1mhdu | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | A woman claims I’m the father of her child A woman who I had engaged in a consensual sexual relationship claims that a 6 month old child is mine. She is currently married and has 2 children with her husband and the third is in question. She disappeared completely from my life 15 months ago without a word and has recently resurfaced following her husband taking an in home paternity test. He is on the child’s birth certificate but has since left her (no further details provided to me) What obligation, if any, am I facing? She is threatening legal action and it’s thrown me for a loop. I’m at odds with this situation and want to be prepared for whatever may come. I thank you in advance for any and all advice | f8qbutg | f8qbwdn | 1,574,715,251 | 1,574,715,270 | 17 | 59 | Don't do anything but get a paternity test. | If she serves you with paperwork, get a lawyer and demand a DNA test. | 0 | 19 | 3.470588 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlq0er4 | dlpo7vv | 1,502,918,497 | 1,502,906,121 | 1,561 | 1,449 | Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works. | There's absolutely no basis for a sibling being on the hook for child support, unless you're a Targaryen. If she sues, you need a lawyer to dispute this to make sure a default order isn't issued. But until that point, do nothing and agree to nothing. | 1 | 12,376 | 1.077295 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlpo87c | dlq0er4 | 1,502,906,129 | 1,502,918,497 | 849 | 1,561 | No lawyer will take her case. If somehow by any miracle you got anything in writing from a lawyer or court, it is very likely that she is lying to them. Maybe she heard that a sibling will score positive on a paternity test and thinks she can extort money from you. The courts and lawyers are not that stupid to fall for that. She is delusional. | Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works. | 0 | 12,368 | 1.838634 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlq0er4 | dlpopn9 | 1,502,918,497 | 1,502,906,612 | 1,561 | 392 | Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works. | Be aware that if you do not give in to her bluff (which is exactly what it is), that her next move may be for her to deny you access to your sister. To achieve those ends, she is on much firmer ground than getting you to pay child support. | 1 | 11,885 | 3.982143 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlq0er4 | dlptm2s | 1,502,918,497 | 1,502,911,586 | 1,561 | 217 | Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works. | As others have covered, child support is ridiculous and won't happen (just respond in the unlikely case you get a court summons). What some have mentioned is that the mom may try and stop her from seeing you. If you are as much an influence in her life as it seems, and she enjoys it, consider calling CPS. I'm sure they'll frown upon barring a child from having access to her sibling for a petty reason. If that doesn't work, you might want to ask a lawyer to look into Visitation Rights of Grandparents ; even though you're not a grandparent, the sort of situation this law tries to cover might provide you with an angle to work from. | 1 | 6,911 | 7.193548 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlq0er4 | dlps09u | 1,502,918,497 | 1,502,909,940 | 1,561 | 116 | Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works. | (Not a lawyer) What she's asking is essentially akin to asking any sort of babysitter, tutor etc to pay child support. I doubt any judge will hear the case, but a family lawyer would be helpful if she really proceeds with this case. Also, not on topic but you sound like a good brother and a good roll model for your sister. | 1 | 8,557 | 13.456897 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlpo8ym | dlq0er4 | 1,502,906,151 | 1,502,918,497 | 60 | 1,561 | Don't fret until/unless you are actually served. I see her having no leg to stand on in court though. However, she can turn around and deny letting your sister spend any more time with you. Which would be a crappy but legal move. | Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works. | 0 | 12,346 | 26.016667 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlpo8ym | dlpopn9 | 1,502,906,151 | 1,502,906,612 | 60 | 392 | Don't fret until/unless you are actually served. I see her having no leg to stand on in court though. However, she can turn around and deny letting your sister spend any more time with you. Which would be a crappy but legal move. | Be aware that if you do not give in to her bluff (which is exactly what it is), that her next move may be for her to deny you access to your sister. To achieve those ends, she is on much firmer ground than getting you to pay child support. | 0 | 461 | 6.533333 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlptm2s | dlps09u | 1,502,911,586 | 1,502,909,940 | 217 | 116 | As others have covered, child support is ridiculous and won't happen (just respond in the unlikely case you get a court summons). What some have mentioned is that the mom may try and stop her from seeing you. If you are as much an influence in her life as it seems, and she enjoys it, consider calling CPS. I'm sure they'll frown upon barring a child from having access to her sibling for a petty reason. If that doesn't work, you might want to ask a lawyer to look into Visitation Rights of Grandparents ; even though you're not a grandparent, the sort of situation this law tries to cover might provide you with an angle to work from. | (Not a lawyer) What she's asking is essentially akin to asking any sort of babysitter, tutor etc to pay child support. I doubt any judge will hear the case, but a family lawyer would be helpful if she really proceeds with this case. Also, not on topic but you sound like a good brother and a good roll model for your sister. | 1 | 1,646 | 1.87069 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlpo8ym | dlptm2s | 1,502,906,151 | 1,502,911,586 | 60 | 217 | Don't fret until/unless you are actually served. I see her having no leg to stand on in court though. However, she can turn around and deny letting your sister spend any more time with you. Which would be a crappy but legal move. | As others have covered, child support is ridiculous and won't happen (just respond in the unlikely case you get a court summons). What some have mentioned is that the mom may try and stop her from seeing you. If you are as much an influence in her life as it seems, and she enjoys it, consider calling CPS. I'm sure they'll frown upon barring a child from having access to her sibling for a petty reason. If that doesn't work, you might want to ask a lawyer to look into Visitation Rights of Grandparents ; even though you're not a grandparent, the sort of situation this law tries to cover might provide you with an angle to work from. | 0 | 5,435 | 3.616667 |
6u3s5f | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now? | dlps09u | dlpo8ym | 1,502,909,940 | 1,502,906,151 | 116 | 60 | (Not a lawyer) What she's asking is essentially akin to asking any sort of babysitter, tutor etc to pay child support. I doubt any judge will hear the case, but a family lawyer would be helpful if she really proceeds with this case. Also, not on topic but you sound like a good brother and a good roll model for your sister. | Don't fret until/unless you are actually served. I see her having no leg to stand on in court though. However, she can turn around and deny letting your sister spend any more time with you. Which would be a crappy but legal move. | 1 | 3,789 | 1.933333 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhq3ry8 | dhq4nee | 1,495,121,360 | 1,495,122,280 | 1,631 | 3,818 | > However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Ah, the optimism of youth. To your direct question, yes. No amount of stated consent makes it possible for your son to legally consent to sex with a 35-year-old. If they had sex, he is the victim of statutory rape. You could go to the police - and in fact the hospital likely will, if and when they realize a minor is the legal father of the baby they're delivering. However, it won't get your son off the hook if the baby is his. The baby's needs remain the same, regardless of the circumstances of its conception, and he will have both the obligation to provide for his child and the right to be part of his child's life. Given the complexity of the situation, sitting down with your son and a lawyer _as soon as possible_ would be a very good idea. Your state's bar association can refer you. Your son's lawyer can help put together a strategy for ensuring that he is (or is not) the father before he pays out anything, and can handle the interactions with the police that are more or less inevitable at this point. | Dumb: fucking a 15-year-old when you're in your 30s. Dumber: getting pregnant by said 15-year-old. Dumbest: seeking legal proof of paternity. Your call after the call to your lawyer should be to the police. | 0 | 920 | 2.340895 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhq4nee | dhq3lmy | 1,495,122,280 | 1,495,121,175 | 3,818 | 404 | Dumb: fucking a 15-year-old when you're in your 30s. Dumber: getting pregnant by said 15-year-old. Dumbest: seeking legal proof of paternity. Your call after the call to your lawyer should be to the police. | Yes, it's an admission of statutory rape and can land the suspect in prison for a good long time. I honestly don't know how child support and paternity obligations work in these cases- someone more knowledgeable in that area will surely be along in a bit. | 1 | 1,105 | 9.450495 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhq3lmy | dhq3ry8 | 1,495,121,175 | 1,495,121,360 | 404 | 1,631 | Yes, it's an admission of statutory rape and can land the suspect in prison for a good long time. I honestly don't know how child support and paternity obligations work in these cases- someone more knowledgeable in that area will surely be along in a bit. | > However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Ah, the optimism of youth. To your direct question, yes. No amount of stated consent makes it possible for your son to legally consent to sex with a 35-year-old. If they had sex, he is the victim of statutory rape. You could go to the police - and in fact the hospital likely will, if and when they realize a minor is the legal father of the baby they're delivering. However, it won't get your son off the hook if the baby is his. The baby's needs remain the same, regardless of the circumstances of its conception, and he will have both the obligation to provide for his child and the right to be part of his child's life. Given the complexity of the situation, sitting down with your son and a lawyer _as soon as possible_ would be a very good idea. Your state's bar association can refer you. Your son's lawyer can help put together a strategy for ensuring that he is (or is not) the father before he pays out anything, and can handle the interactions with the police that are more or less inevitable at this point. | 0 | 185 | 4.037129 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhq7m27 | dhqazln | 1,495,125,409 | 1,495,128,965 | 621 | 858 | Oddly enough, it appears that Texas only allows Termination of Parental rights for statutory rape if the offender is a male. >Sec. 161.007. TERMINATION WHEN PREGNANCY RESULTS FROM CRIMINAL ACT. >(a) Except as provided by Subsection (b), the court shall order the termination of the parent-child relationship of a parent and a child if the court finds by clear and convincing evidence that: >(1) the parent has engaged in conduct that constitutes an offense under Section 21.02, ***22.011*** *[This is what would apply in your son's case]*, 22.021, or 25.02, Penal Code; >(2) as a direct result of the conduct described by Subdivision (1), ***the victim of the conduct became pregnant with the parent's child*** and >(3) termination is in the best interest of the child. Since the victim of the conduct (your son) didn't become pregnant with the parent's child; it doesn't seem like it would apply. | > My son admits to ~~sleeping with this woman~~ being molested and raped by this woman twice. FTFY. Lawyer for paternity issues. Police because SHE IS A CHILD MOLESTER. How is that not in every comment here? | 0 | 3,556 | 1.381643 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhqazln | dhq3lmy | 1,495,128,965 | 1,495,121,175 | 858 | 404 | > My son admits to ~~sleeping with this woman~~ being molested and raped by this woman twice. FTFY. Lawyer for paternity issues. Police because SHE IS A CHILD MOLESTER. How is that not in every comment here? | Yes, it's an admission of statutory rape and can land the suspect in prison for a good long time. I honestly don't know how child support and paternity obligations work in these cases- someone more knowledgeable in that area will surely be along in a bit. | 1 | 7,790 | 2.123762 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhqazln | dhq65fb | 1,495,128,965 | 1,495,123,882 | 858 | 204 | > My son admits to ~~sleeping with this woman~~ being molested and raped by this woman twice. FTFY. Lawyer for paternity issues. Police because SHE IS A CHILD MOLESTER. How is that not in every comment here? | 1. Yes, this is an admission of statutory rape. The age of consent in Texas is apparently 17, so your son was not able to legally consent to sex with the woman. Police investigate crimes. I suggest you call law enforcement, although it would be wise to talk this over with an attorney first to understand the implications of this action. 2. I believe your son's responsibilities to the child are the same as that of any other parent. At 15 years old, he may not be able to care for the child, and if the mother is convicted of statutory rape, she may not be able to either (due to jail/prison). In that case, social services would be involved and the child may enter the foster care system. | 1 | 5,083 | 4.205882 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhq3lmy | dhq7m27 | 1,495,121,175 | 1,495,125,409 | 404 | 621 | Yes, it's an admission of statutory rape and can land the suspect in prison for a good long time. I honestly don't know how child support and paternity obligations work in these cases- someone more knowledgeable in that area will surely be along in a bit. | Oddly enough, it appears that Texas only allows Termination of Parental rights for statutory rape if the offender is a male. >Sec. 161.007. TERMINATION WHEN PREGNANCY RESULTS FROM CRIMINAL ACT. >(a) Except as provided by Subsection (b), the court shall order the termination of the parent-child relationship of a parent and a child if the court finds by clear and convincing evidence that: >(1) the parent has engaged in conduct that constitutes an offense under Section 21.02, ***22.011*** *[This is what would apply in your son's case]*, 22.021, or 25.02, Penal Code; >(2) as a direct result of the conduct described by Subdivision (1), ***the victim of the conduct became pregnant with the parent's child*** and >(3) termination is in the best interest of the child. Since the victim of the conduct (your son) didn't become pregnant with the parent's child; it doesn't seem like it would apply. | 0 | 4,234 | 1.537129 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhq65fb | dhq7m27 | 1,495,123,882 | 1,495,125,409 | 204 | 621 | 1. Yes, this is an admission of statutory rape. The age of consent in Texas is apparently 17, so your son was not able to legally consent to sex with the woman. Police investigate crimes. I suggest you call law enforcement, although it would be wise to talk this over with an attorney first to understand the implications of this action. 2. I believe your son's responsibilities to the child are the same as that of any other parent. At 15 years old, he may not be able to care for the child, and if the mother is convicted of statutory rape, she may not be able to either (due to jail/prison). In that case, social services would be involved and the child may enter the foster care system. | Oddly enough, it appears that Texas only allows Termination of Parental rights for statutory rape if the offender is a male. >Sec. 161.007. TERMINATION WHEN PREGNANCY RESULTS FROM CRIMINAL ACT. >(a) Except as provided by Subsection (b), the court shall order the termination of the parent-child relationship of a parent and a child if the court finds by clear and convincing evidence that: >(1) the parent has engaged in conduct that constitutes an offense under Section 21.02, ***22.011*** *[This is what would apply in your son's case]*, 22.021, or 25.02, Penal Code; >(2) as a direct result of the conduct described by Subdivision (1), ***the victim of the conduct became pregnant with the parent's child*** and >(3) termination is in the best interest of the child. Since the victim of the conduct (your son) didn't become pregnant with the parent's child; it doesn't seem like it would apply. | 0 | 1,527 | 3.044118 |
6bwv62 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything? | dhqfxxx | dhqcuev | 1,495,134,140 | 1,495,130,916 | 169 | 120 | Just as everyone else has said... lawyer for the paternity issues and police for the child molester. I will also add... consider suing the school. At the very least, find out if a proper background check was performed on this woman before she started working there. | Get a lawyer. Doesn't matter how clear-cut wrong she is for committing statutory rape against your son. You want to make sure this problem goes away forever, and in your favor because your son could end up in a lot of emotional and financial pain if this gets botched. | 1 | 3,224 | 1.408333 |
vg8uss | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Most unreal and childish easement battle I could never have even imagined watching on TV. Reminds me of that one kid in class who told anytime they thought ratting a classmate out would get them special attention. Apple does not fall far from this tree. Our new neighbor owns property along main road that has been cut off straight thru middle to grant a deed with exlusive easements to come and go over three connecting strips of their property to access our landlocked property. While we knew of said easements we have used as our driveway since 2019, new neighbors have started litigation against us, stolen our property address sign (which was shown in the advertising pictures of their property as they purchased over a year after us, moved our disabled child's bus stop, threatned to have county take our trash bin and recycling bin, cursed at us, installed very bright blinding lights 3-5' facing each side of vehicle, when we are coming and going, and the list goes on. and on. We no longer have a clearly marked address and have not been able to get larger packages, food delivery, and I fear that even first responders in an emergency would not even think their was a home tucked back here. I am at a loss for words to explain how this effects my families peace and enjoyment we once felt with our little piece of America. It was a very proud day to love our home and know we would love it forever. I honestly just want a clear way of finding our house which helps gain a little peace back. Where the hell could we place our address sign that they could not legally remove or dismantle? We live in California. ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ I would wish even my enemies would not have to go thru this type of harassment and inflicted emotion pain these people have inflicted on my family. Any guidance would be well taken. | id0m7jd | id1v86a | 1,655,693,378 | 1,655,727,695 | 17 | 24 | Talk to your local land use jurisdiction, and/or the entity that owns/maintains the road. | There's usually a process to get a recorded easement vacated. Try calling your local zoning department. Zoning applications are typically public information. While you are on the phone with them, ask about lighting standards and setback requirements (for the lights they installed) and if you can install your mailbox within the right-of-way easement for the public right-of-way you had access from. Basically see if you can get code enforcement involved. It's probably also worth it to start looking for a local land use attorney. A good one will be invaluable. | 0 | 34,317 | 1.411765 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d14wizo | d14vti6 | 1,458,330,679 | 1,458,329,663 | 168 | 80 | Principal, teacher, in school counselor and your parent all need to know stat. A reliable parent. Why? To back your concerns and elevate to the school board/administration if necessary. | Police, Now, Do not pass go, do not collect $200, go directly to the police, this minute, do not waste time. | 1 | 1,016 | 2.1 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d1577jc | d14vti6 | 1,458,348,125 | 1,458,329,663 | 113 | 80 | So, this sounds a whole lot like premeditated attempted murder. The kid needs to be made aware, by the biggest authority the kid recognizes, of her actions and what consequences she will face if she succeeds in her "funny plan". Something only she sees as funny because she obviously doesn't yet have the brain connections to recognize the severity or consequences of her plan, for HER. Definitely call the police and call the principal and let him know that you have heard from your brother that this is happening. Your parents need to be aware that your brother may need to tell the police and principal exactly what he knows and that he shouldn't feel scared at all about it, that he's being a VERY good citizen by alerting the proper people to a crime being actively planned. | Police, Now, Do not pass go, do not collect $200, go directly to the police, this minute, do not waste time. | 1 | 18,462 | 1.4125 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d1577jc | d154ryw | 1,458,348,125 | 1,458,343,733 | 113 | 52 | So, this sounds a whole lot like premeditated attempted murder. The kid needs to be made aware, by the biggest authority the kid recognizes, of her actions and what consequences she will face if she succeeds in her "funny plan". Something only she sees as funny because she obviously doesn't yet have the brain connections to recognize the severity or consequences of her plan, for HER. Definitely call the police and call the principal and let him know that you have heard from your brother that this is happening. Your parents need to be aware that your brother may need to tell the police and principal exactly what he knows and that he shouldn't feel scared at all about it, that he's being a VERY good citizen by alerting the proper people to a crime being actively planned. | As the parent of a child with this allergy, this is horrifying. The school is the responsible party here. The children with 504 plans have certain protections under the law. The parents need to contact the school 504 plan coordinator, by phone for urgency and also by email afterwards to document the call. If the 504 coordinator does not step in, this escalates to the county 504 plan coordinator, and then to the Office of Civil Rights. The child doing this is a little shit, but the school has the duty of care to protect a child with a disability. | 1 | 4,392 | 2.173077 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d155q2e | d1577jc | 1,458,345,411 | 1,458,348,125 | 24 | 113 | Thats a felony. You should call the police and let them handle it. Skip going to the school. The police will go to the school. | So, this sounds a whole lot like premeditated attempted murder. The kid needs to be made aware, by the biggest authority the kid recognizes, of her actions and what consequences she will face if she succeeds in her "funny plan". Something only she sees as funny because she obviously doesn't yet have the brain connections to recognize the severity or consequences of her plan, for HER. Definitely call the police and call the principal and let him know that you have heard from your brother that this is happening. Your parents need to be aware that your brother may need to tell the police and principal exactly what he knows and that he shouldn't feel scared at all about it, that he's being a VERY good citizen by alerting the proper people to a crime being actively planned. | 0 | 2,714 | 4.708333 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d1577jc | d14y9yf | 1,458,348,125 | 1,458,333,232 | 113 | 4 | So, this sounds a whole lot like premeditated attempted murder. The kid needs to be made aware, by the biggest authority the kid recognizes, of her actions and what consequences she will face if she succeeds in her "funny plan". Something only she sees as funny because she obviously doesn't yet have the brain connections to recognize the severity or consequences of her plan, for HER. Definitely call the police and call the principal and let him know that you have heard from your brother that this is happening. Your parents need to be aware that your brother may need to tell the police and principal exactly what he knows and that he shouldn't feel scared at all about it, that he's being a VERY good citizen by alerting the proper people to a crime being actively planned. | Call the principals office. | 1 | 14,893 | 28.25 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d157hf2 | d154ryw | 1,458,348,625 | 1,458,343,733 | 70 | 52 | I don't have any legal advice but I always tell this story to try raise awareness, my cousin died after the restaurant lied about there being peanuts in the meal (specifically the meal was cooked in peanut oil). It is not a joke allergy, people need to take it seriously, especially with little children who probably aren't even allowed to carry their epipen with them | As the parent of a child with this allergy, this is horrifying. The school is the responsible party here. The children with 504 plans have certain protections under the law. The parents need to contact the school 504 plan coordinator, by phone for urgency and also by email afterwards to document the call. If the 504 coordinator does not step in, this escalates to the county 504 plan coordinator, and then to the Office of Civil Rights. The child doing this is a little shit, but the school has the duty of care to protect a child with a disability. | 1 | 4,892 | 1.346154 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d155q2e | d157hf2 | 1,458,345,411 | 1,458,348,625 | 24 | 70 | Thats a felony. You should call the police and let them handle it. Skip going to the school. The police will go to the school. | I don't have any legal advice but I always tell this story to try raise awareness, my cousin died after the restaurant lied about there being peanuts in the meal (specifically the meal was cooked in peanut oil). It is not a joke allergy, people need to take it seriously, especially with little children who probably aren't even allowed to carry their epipen with them | 0 | 3,214 | 2.916667 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d14y9yf | d157hf2 | 1,458,333,232 | 1,458,348,625 | 4 | 70 | Call the principals office. | I don't have any legal advice but I always tell this story to try raise awareness, my cousin died after the restaurant lied about there being peanuts in the meal (specifically the meal was cooked in peanut oil). It is not a joke allergy, people need to take it seriously, especially with little children who probably aren't even allowed to carry their epipen with them | 0 | 15,393 | 17.5 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d154ryw | d14y9yf | 1,458,343,733 | 1,458,333,232 | 52 | 4 | As the parent of a child with this allergy, this is horrifying. The school is the responsible party here. The children with 504 plans have certain protections under the law. The parents need to contact the school 504 plan coordinator, by phone for urgency and also by email afterwards to document the call. If the 504 coordinator does not step in, this escalates to the county 504 plan coordinator, and then to the Office of Civil Rights. The child doing this is a little shit, but the school has the duty of care to protect a child with a disability. | Call the principals office. | 1 | 10,501 | 13 |
4azueg | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | A classmate of my brother is trying to kill other classmates with peanut allergies by putting peanut butter in their food. (Connecticut) The kids are in fifth grade, and this girl obviously knows what she's doing. My brother has told his teacher buy nothing has come from it. What else can be done? | d155q2e | d14y9yf | 1,458,345,411 | 1,458,333,232 | 24 | 4 | Thats a felony. You should call the police and let them handle it. Skip going to the school. The police will go to the school. | Call the principals office. | 1 | 12,179 | 6 |
rql24a | legaladvice_train | 0.75 | Old classmate suddenly obsessively trying to contact me and the people around me. So for background context, I’ve once had a similar experience with a college classmate who I wasn’t close to at all… around 4 or so years after we graduated he suddenly messaged me asking how I was. It seemed harmless so I responded like I would to any old classmate. Over time his messages would become more and more frequent, and so I stopped responding cause we really weren’t that close. Eventually his messages became obsessive, like crazy paranoid messages… hundreds of them. I was receiving one sided crazy messages every few seconds or minutes for days. It was terrifying. Eventually I got a lawyer to write a letter saying if he doesn’t stop we’ll take legal action. But the lawyer isn’t really versed in the cyber space law so I don’t really know what sort of legal action I could’ve taken. The tricky thing is that this stalker and I live in different countries. Now, I’m experiencing something similar all over again, this time it’s an old high school classmate whom I haven’t spoken to in more than 10 years. His messages aren’t as insane as the previous person, but he’s been reaching out through various social media platforms (I have now blocked him), and since blocking him he has contacted my workplace trying to get my personal contact, he’s messaged my mother asking how she’s doing (they’ve never met and never spoke), and he’s added my brother on social media. He hasn’t done anything specifically crazy yet other than the orbiting and obsessive messaging. Again, he lives in a different country so I’m not sure what I can really do? I still feel unsafe because he can find my office address and hunt me down or something!? Is there any legal advice for stuff like this? | hqb0een | hqb0q54 | 1,640,715,404 | 1,640,715,532 | 5 | 8 | What country do you live in? If the United States, what state. Location matters. | it is very difficult for online harassment to reach the point where the courts or police will get involved. They're going to be almost entirely focused on physical harm. If there isn't an active credible threat to your physical safety, there isn't a lot you can do. The law expects "self-help" to the maximum extent possible. That would mean having the willpower never to respond. Ever. Under any circumstances. It's not always easy to do, especially if it's legitimately affecting you or getting under your skin. Use only social media that allows you to turn off online presence and read receipts. Ideally, where you can set those as defaults. You can turn *on* presence and receipts for people you trust. Also, and this is maybe a bit controversial, don't block harassers. Just ignore them. I don't know if there is yet a social media app that allows shadowbanning (where you can let the creep send you messages but you never see them), but that would be ideal. If they know your number and you don't mind changing it -- instead of shutting the old number off, consider "parking" it at a service like Google Voice. Leave a voicemail message in your voice but very short and emotionally empty. If your number gets disconnected or stops working, they'll know they need to try to track you down again. If you'll pardon the trite analogy: You don't want them to know they made any ripples in your pond, and you don't want to do anything that makes a ripple in theirs. Even if you're really upset (especially...) don't reply, don't respond. If you end up inadvertently in a conversation with them, don't get upset. Don't be angry. Don't make fun of them. Be boring. Be tedious. One-word answers. Pretend not to understand any innnuendo, analogy, metaphor, meme. Never give them any personal insight, opinion, anything. The point of the whole thing is to deprive the harasser of any benefit or payoff from trying to contact you. They'll be like shouting into the wind and never hearing an echo. Narcissists and obsessive people generally (this is not universally true, but generally) need some kind of emotional energy to keep them going. | 0 | 128 | 1.6 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkk4l | d3qkzor | 1,464,713,479 | 1,464,714,057 | 87 | 121 | Step 1: Stop taking illegal anabolic steroids- especially when you are a teenager and especially when you already have a drug conviction. Of course there is probable cause for a warrant if someone has eye witness evidence that you are using the same drug you have a previous conviction for. This is a much bigger legal issue than some idiot taking footage of a bathroom door (which is not child porn). In the unlikely event he shares the footage, laugh it off and say 'wow, I wonder where he got the sound effects he clearly added to his weird little home movie.' | This is called the "Idiot Tax." If you're going to do illegal shit, you shouldn't let other people know. And if you're going to jerk off in someone else's bathroom, at least do it quietly you savage. | 0 | 578 | 1.390805 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkzor | d3qkldm | 1,464,714,057 | 1,464,713,526 | 121 | 22 | This is called the "Idiot Tax." If you're going to do illegal shit, you shouldn't let other people know. And if you're going to jerk off in someone else's bathroom, at least do it quietly you savage. | If doesn't have a nude video, it's not child porn. If the video is audio of you and then just a video of you leaving the bathroom, it will not be porn, the cops will do nothing. | 1 | 531 | 5.5 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkciq | d3qkzor | 1,464,713,195 | 1,464,714,057 | 21 | 121 | > It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. No, it isn't. Buy a bag of kitty litter, mix it all up, and chuck it in the trash. ~~However, your classmate's brother has prepared and possesses child pornography under New York state law. Get clean, then call the police.~~ Edit: I did not read closely enough. | This is called the "Idiot Tax." If you're going to do illegal shit, you shouldn't let other people know. And if you're going to jerk off in someone else's bathroom, at least do it quietly you savage. | 0 | 862 | 5.761905 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkw2p | d3qkzor | 1,464,713,925 | 1,464,714,057 | 13 | 121 | You can call the cops about his attempt at blackmail, he can call the cops and report your illegal drugs, and everyone can have a party together in the county jail. | This is called the "Idiot Tax." If you're going to do illegal shit, you shouldn't let other people know. And if you're going to jerk off in someone else's bathroom, at least do it quietly you savage. | 0 | 132 | 9.307692 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkk4l | d3qkciq | 1,464,713,479 | 1,464,713,195 | 87 | 21 | Step 1: Stop taking illegal anabolic steroids- especially when you are a teenager and especially when you already have a drug conviction. Of course there is probable cause for a warrant if someone has eye witness evidence that you are using the same drug you have a previous conviction for. This is a much bigger legal issue than some idiot taking footage of a bathroom door (which is not child porn). In the unlikely event he shares the footage, laugh it off and say 'wow, I wonder where he got the sound effects he clearly added to his weird little home movie.' | > It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. No, it isn't. Buy a bag of kitty litter, mix it all up, and chuck it in the trash. ~~However, your classmate's brother has prepared and possesses child pornography under New York state law. Get clean, then call the police.~~ Edit: I did not read closely enough. | 1 | 284 | 4.142857 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkldm | d3qnpe0 | 1,464,713,526 | 1,464,717,657 | 22 | 28 | If doesn't have a nude video, it's not child porn. If the video is audio of you and then just a video of you leaving the bathroom, it will not be porn, the cops will do nothing. | I say forget the asshole and his video. How do you know he's going to delete it and not just make more demands of you? What would *really* be the issue if the video gets out? You're 16, you masturbate, 85% of your male classmates do too or they're liars. People will see the video, maybe laugh, and forget about it in two days. What you need to focus on is getting rid of the stuff. The kitty-litter bag method seems ideal. As an aside, what is this guy's deal? The classmate's brother I mean. I've known narcs, but never one who used tactics like this. It's bizarre. | 0 | 4,131 | 1.272727 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkciq | d3qnpe0 | 1,464,713,195 | 1,464,717,657 | 21 | 28 | > It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. No, it isn't. Buy a bag of kitty litter, mix it all up, and chuck it in the trash. ~~However, your classmate's brother has prepared and possesses child pornography under New York state law. Get clean, then call the police.~~ Edit: I did not read closely enough. | I say forget the asshole and his video. How do you know he's going to delete it and not just make more demands of you? What would *really* be the issue if the video gets out? You're 16, you masturbate, 85% of your male classmates do too or they're liars. People will see the video, maybe laugh, and forget about it in two days. What you need to focus on is getting rid of the stuff. The kitty-litter bag method seems ideal. As an aside, what is this guy's deal? The classmate's brother I mean. I've known narcs, but never one who used tactics like this. It's bizarre. | 0 | 4,462 | 1.333333 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkw2p | d3qnpe0 | 1,464,713,925 | 1,464,717,657 | 13 | 28 | You can call the cops about his attempt at blackmail, he can call the cops and report your illegal drugs, and everyone can have a party together in the county jail. | I say forget the asshole and his video. How do you know he's going to delete it and not just make more demands of you? What would *really* be the issue if the video gets out? You're 16, you masturbate, 85% of your male classmates do too or they're liars. People will see the video, maybe laugh, and forget about it in two days. What you need to focus on is getting rid of the stuff. The kitty-litter bag method seems ideal. As an aside, what is this guy's deal? The classmate's brother I mean. I've known narcs, but never one who used tactics like this. It's bizarre. | 0 | 3,732 | 2.153846 |
4lw524 | legaladvice_train | 0.69 | (NYC) (Possibly NSFW) classmate's brother has a video of me masturbating and is blackmailing me with it. This classmate is also a distant cousin. Me and my classmate are both 16 while his brother is 17. I had to stay over at their house over the weekend to complete a project that I was working on with classmate. There was no way I could go for three days without relieving myself so I just watched porn and masturbated in their bathroom. When I walked out I saw classmate's brother recording with his phone. He has the audio of me masturbating and the video shows me walking out of the bathroom so anyone seeing the video can undeniably tell that it was me in there. I don't want that video to be seen by anyone or for him to show or send it to anyone so I told classmate's brother that I would tell authorities that he is in possession of child porn if he didn't delete the video. He said he would only delete the video if I disposed of all the Enanthate vials I have and that if I do make a report to authorities that he would tell them I have Enanthate and where I'm keeping it. It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. However, I don't have any prescriptions for it and I've already been convicted of possessing them before so it would probably be a worse sentencing this time around. If he does report that I have Enanthate can anyone legally get a warrant and go through my stuff to find it? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that he deletes the video but I don't have to turn in anything that I have? | d3qkciq | d3qkldm | 1,464,713,195 | 1,464,713,526 | 21 | 22 | > It's impossible for me to rid of the Enanthate I have. No, it isn't. Buy a bag of kitty litter, mix it all up, and chuck it in the trash. ~~However, your classmate's brother has prepared and possesses child pornography under New York state law. Get clean, then call the police.~~ Edit: I did not read closely enough. | If doesn't have a nude video, it's not child porn. If the video is audio of you and then just a video of you leaving the bathroom, it will not be porn, the cops will do nothing. | 0 | 331 | 1.047619 |
g4aobl | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Taking college course which requires using Azure platform, was told to enter debit card info "but service is totally free." Today several of my classmates and I were charged $75 dollars and had our home address revealed. (Georgia, US) This is my first post here and I am not sure if this is the appropriate sub, so please direct me to a better place if this doesn't belong here, Thanks! I am taking a web development course at my local university, and the proffesor required us to upload our work to the Azure web app platform. After the 3rd week or so the service prompted me (and everyone else, the instructor had to make an announcement that this was free but required us to enter payment information) to enter card info. I used the only card I have, my debit card, which I am now seeing was a mistake. Today I was charged $75 dollars for using the service, after investigating I found invoices on the platforms billing page, for myself and several other classmates, as well as the professor. The interesting part of that is the invoices have our home addresses on them, even the professor's. The charges have placed my bank account at a negative balance, and im sure an ensuing overdraft fee, and my internet bill will now be paid late, causing a probable fee there as well, could cost me around $60 dollars further. I am mad, but equally confused, I am worried I may have done something wrong during set up because we never really went over how this platform works, just how to get started and enter the payment details. I'm wondering if I can take any steps to recover my money, and how to address this with the professor or school. The charges occurred at midnight, the professor has posted a new assignment in the class today, but not mentioned the charges at all yet. Thanks in advance for any help! Sorry again if this is in the wrong place, poorly formatted or otherwise incorrect! | fnxpmpq | fnxgh14 | 1,587,343,668 | 1,587,338,125 | 23 | 2 | Hello. I'm a systems engineer and know Azure well. First, I have a few pro tips to help you will your Azure bill. You are charged for CPU cycles and storage space. Shut down your VM when you are not using it. I don't mean use Windows to shut it down. Go the portal and do it from there. Delete anything in storage you are not using anymore. The free services offered in Azure are very limited. Fortunately, MS support is pretty understanding of circumstances like these. Create a support ticket with billing and explain your confusion. Also ask for a refund. Your bill should be refunded and support will have some advice to avoid charges in the future or directions for signing up for the free program. Professors are dumb with technology and explaining how to use it. I didn't even support billing and I've seen a hundred similar cases. EDIT: Also, notify your prof about the personal details on display and then create your own subscription to protect your privacy. If the school is requiring this, they should have their own subscription that they are responsible for without you having to pay Azure directly in this way. | FYI you need to get a credit card. You don't have to use it but for situation like this is, it can protect you. | 1 | 5,543 | 11.5 |
t8x8gu | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | FOLLOW UP] Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. Hi - I [originally posted this on a throw-away account but forgot the password and I have updates **and more help needed. (Thanks for all of the initial advice!)** I posted back in December that we had received a suspicious letter claiming we owed an adjacent landowner $400,000 because part of the 5-year-old house we bought in September 2021 (or the fence, it wasn't clear) encroached on part of their property or the easement. We didn't do anything after received the first letter. From all the advice we took the following action: * I checked with the county (dept of construction and inspections) and there were no liens on the property and no record of any property line dispute. * Researched potential Real Estate lawyers This was my wife's and my first house, and we had only closed at the end of September, so we thought this was some weird shakedown. It just seemed bizarre that the adjacent owner thought there was a property line problem, but was not able to resolve it during about 5 years and several different (previous owners) when they had the chance to speak up during construction, or several owners. Fast forward to March 2022, and I have been served with a summons, in which we have 20 days to respond. Both the original developer/builder of the house and my wife and I are named as defendants. In the letter, the attorney for adjacent owner claims that they spoke with an attorney for a previous owner (several owners back - someone we don't know and have never met) who told them that my wife and I were aware of the boundary dispute before we purchased. We were not made aware of this until receiving the letter in January. The Developer/Builder sold to one owner, who then sold the house to a real estate company, who then sold to us directly. We are being sued in Superior Court. There will be a default judgement against us if we don't respond, so we will respond. The survey we used to purchase the property was done in 2018. Building permits from 2018 show the site was inspected during and after construction and the inspector commented on "Setback/Location - Location was set by survey and seems OK." The company suing us now claims there is a more recent survey that supports their position and that the original developer/builder has also agreed they built in the wrong place. We had never seen this survey until it was included as an exhibit in the Summons and notice we were being sued. We spoke with our real estate agent, who was sympathetic, but he said that the law firm that represents the real estate company would not be able to represent us (conflict of interest), but they wished us well. (Our agent does not work for the real estate company who had purchased the property and sold to us. He was representing us when we were looking.) The agent said they were unaware of any boundary disputes at the time the property was listed for sale and when we entered into a contract to purchase. * So next steps? Hire an attorney, obviously. Any direction on what type of attorney or law firm I should look for would be appreciated. I have no experience hiring an attorney. No idea where to start. * Should I send a copy of the lawsuit and "documentation" to the title insurance company? * Should I contact the original developer/builder? Should I wait until I hire an attorney and listen to their advice? This is terribly stressful and I am not sure what to do next. Thanks for any and all advice. | hzsi3a3 | hzt9vit | 1,646,708,769 | 1,646,725,420 | 5 | 13 | Is it possible the prior owner didn't know about the pending issue? Seems like this is a big deal if other houses had to settle so I would think they might have known. | 1. Definitely put your title insurance carrier on notice. See what options, if any, they can provide. 2. Get a real estate litigation attorney asap. In addition to filing a timely answer to avoid a default, You’re gonna want your attorney to have time to look at counter/cross claim options because even if the fence is encroaching, you may have prescriptive easement rights for that fence on their land if the encroachment was present for your state’s statutory period. (e.g., Im referring to a quiet title action as a counter claim). Also, there may be a claim of misrepresentation against the seller. 3. Look up the case online to confirm the case is, in fact, pending before your local court. Sometimes the can be complete scams that look legit to the unfamiliar eye. 4. Look up the neighbor’s litigation history in your county. Seems very opportunistic to sue your neighbor right after they move in without there being some greater scheme afoot (Yes, I’m jaded AF, but I’m jaded for good reason). 5. Get your own survey going to confirm the encroachment exists 6. Research the company that performed the 2018 survey they provided to verify they’re legit. If they’re not legit, report the surveyors and the plaintiff/neighbors to the authorities, and report their attorney to the state bar. | 0 | 16,651 | 2.6 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykbnc | dayfqem | 1,481,236,506 | 1,481,230,987 | 1,501 | 340 | I am going to go in a completely different direction, and suggest you get a protection order. This woman is dangerous, and completely out of touch with reality. If I were you I would be very very scared. Go down to the court and fill out an order for temporary protection. The form will ask you If you two live in the same home. Say NO. Put in her last known address. You should get her ordered to stay away from you, and she will not be able to enter the apartment, as it will be breaking the order. If you need to call the police, you can call and tell them you have an order of protection against this person and they will make her leave. You do not want a "residence exclusion order" (which requires actual violence) you want a stay away order. | You have to inform her that she is being recorded. If I were in such a situation, I would immediately install web-enabled security cameras all over the house (except for in the bathrooms) that also record audio and let her know that the premises is now under 24 hour surveillance. Make sure that the data is being recorded to a cloud service so she can't just try to break your electronics. You should also affix a sign to your doors advertising that the premises is under both video and audio surveillance. Now she will have to deal with being recorded 24/7 and she'll eventually slip up and you can use that as evidence against her. Also, make sure that everything is documented and call the police if she starts to damage your new surveillance system. I would also immediately start the eviction process in case she doesn't leave on her own after that. INAL though so take whatever I say with a grain of salt. If anything I listed here is illegal, I'm sure someone will be along to challenge it. | 1 | 5,519 | 4.414706 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykbnc | dayekqe | 1,481,236,506 | 1,481,229,656 | 1,501 | 314 | I am going to go in a completely different direction, and suggest you get a protection order. This woman is dangerous, and completely out of touch with reality. If I were you I would be very very scared. Go down to the court and fill out an order for temporary protection. The form will ask you If you two live in the same home. Say NO. Put in her last known address. You should get her ordered to stay away from you, and she will not be able to enter the apartment, as it will be breaking the order. If you need to call the police, you can call and tell them you have an order of protection against this person and they will make her leave. You do not want a "residence exclusion order" (which requires actual violence) you want a stay away order. | That "friend" is a dangerous person. That is some next-level sociopathy. OP secure valuables. Lock credit against ID theft. Also if OP waits for friend to leave house, can OP just throw all friends shit out on the street? Friend calls police and says I was illegally evicted. OP says friend has no proof of being a resident. If OP can make police call it civil matter so friend has no choice but to sue, then OP should be ok (but ready to be sued by a sociopath). | 1 | 6,850 | 4.780255 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykbnc | dayiyt7 | 1,481,236,506 | 1,481,234,818 | 1,501 | 270 | I am going to go in a completely different direction, and suggest you get a protection order. This woman is dangerous, and completely out of touch with reality. If I were you I would be very very scared. Go down to the court and fill out an order for temporary protection. The form will ask you If you two live in the same home. Say NO. Put in her last known address. You should get her ordered to stay away from you, and she will not be able to enter the apartment, as it will be breaking the order. If you need to call the police, you can call and tell them you have an order of protection against this person and they will make her leave. You do not want a "residence exclusion order" (which requires actual violence) you want a stay away order. | I am not a lawyer, but I'd try to go to the police and file for a restraining order against her. | 1 | 1,688 | 5.559259 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykbnc | dayh0m1 | 1,481,236,506 | 1,481,232,491 | 1,501 | 129 | I am going to go in a completely different direction, and suggest you get a protection order. This woman is dangerous, and completely out of touch with reality. If I were you I would be very very scared. Go down to the court and fill out an order for temporary protection. The form will ask you If you two live in the same home. Say NO. Put in her last known address. You should get her ordered to stay away from you, and she will not be able to enter the apartment, as it will be breaking the order. If you need to call the police, you can call and tell them you have an order of protection against this person and they will make her leave. You do not want a "residence exclusion order" (which requires actual violence) you want a stay away order. | Go down to the sherrifs office and speak with them. Explain everything you've said here. Do you have text messages showing that she asked to stay over? | 1 | 4,015 | 11.635659 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykbnc | daydop6 | 1,481,236,506 | 1,481,228,634 | 1,501 | 64 | I am going to go in a completely different direction, and suggest you get a protection order. This woman is dangerous, and completely out of touch with reality. If I were you I would be very very scared. Go down to the court and fill out an order for temporary protection. The form will ask you If you two live in the same home. Say NO. Put in her last known address. You should get her ordered to stay away from you, and she will not be able to enter the apartment, as it will be breaking the order. If you need to call the police, you can call and tell them you have an order of protection against this person and they will make her leave. You do not want a "residence exclusion order" (which requires actual violence) you want a stay away order. | > Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. Yes, because the person being recorded doesn't consent. > How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? If the police won't take action, eviction is all you have. | 1 | 7,872 | 23.453125 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykbnc | dayiq03 | 1,481,236,506 | 1,481,234,518 | 1,501 | 58 | I am going to go in a completely different direction, and suggest you get a protection order. This woman is dangerous, and completely out of touch with reality. If I were you I would be very very scared. Go down to the court and fill out an order for temporary protection. The form will ask you If you two live in the same home. Say NO. Put in her last known address. You should get her ordered to stay away from you, and she will not be able to enter the apartment, as it will be breaking the order. If you need to call the police, you can call and tell them you have an order of protection against this person and they will make her leave. You do not want a "residence exclusion order" (which requires actual violence) you want a stay away order. | Get it in writing. You need two party consent for an *audio* recording, but if she texts you anything about it thats fair game. Send her a text in which she would respond admitting she wasnt a tenant. Something like "why did you suddenly need somewhere to stay on Wednesday" or something that locks in a specific time that she can respond to confirming or denying it. | 1 | 1,988 | 25.87931 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykbnc | dayik2d | 1,481,236,506 | 1,481,234,318 | 1,501 | 46 | I am going to go in a completely different direction, and suggest you get a protection order. This woman is dangerous, and completely out of touch with reality. If I were you I would be very very scared. Go down to the court and fill out an order for temporary protection. The form will ask you If you two live in the same home. Say NO. Put in her last known address. You should get her ordered to stay away from you, and she will not be able to enter the apartment, as it will be breaking the order. If you need to call the police, you can call and tell them you have an order of protection against this person and they will make her leave. You do not want a "residence exclusion order" (which requires actual violence) you want a stay away order. | Ahhhh...the squatters rights. From my entire 4 years that I lived in England, I couldn't tell you how many times I've heard stories about being going on Holiday for three weeks in Spain, come back, and people have broken into THEIR home, live there as its their own house, and couldn't be removed without eviction process. Really makes me wonder sometimes. | 1 | 2,188 | 32.630435 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykfhx | dayfqem | 1,481,236,645 | 1,481,230,987 | 1,289 | 340 | I believe there might be a more simple answer to this. Call the police back again saying she broke into the house and when she claims to be a legal tenant ask her to show the police how she enters and exits the property and what key she is using. She doesn't have a key so how she is entering the property? | You have to inform her that she is being recorded. If I were in such a situation, I would immediately install web-enabled security cameras all over the house (except for in the bathrooms) that also record audio and let her know that the premises is now under 24 hour surveillance. Make sure that the data is being recorded to a cloud service so she can't just try to break your electronics. You should also affix a sign to your doors advertising that the premises is under both video and audio surveillance. Now she will have to deal with being recorded 24/7 and she'll eventually slip up and you can use that as evidence against her. Also, make sure that everything is documented and call the police if she starts to damage your new surveillance system. I would also immediately start the eviction process in case she doesn't leave on her own after that. INAL though so take whatever I say with a grain of salt. If anything I listed here is illegal, I'm sure someone will be along to challenge it. | 1 | 5,658 | 3.791176 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykfhx | dayekqe | 1,481,236,645 | 1,481,229,656 | 1,289 | 314 | I believe there might be a more simple answer to this. Call the police back again saying she broke into the house and when she claims to be a legal tenant ask her to show the police how she enters and exits the property and what key she is using. She doesn't have a key so how she is entering the property? | That "friend" is a dangerous person. That is some next-level sociopathy. OP secure valuables. Lock credit against ID theft. Also if OP waits for friend to leave house, can OP just throw all friends shit out on the street? Friend calls police and says I was illegally evicted. OP says friend has no proof of being a resident. If OP can make police call it civil matter so friend has no choice but to sue, then OP should be ok (but ready to be sued by a sociopath). | 1 | 6,989 | 4.105096 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | dayiyt7 | daykfhx | 1,481,234,818 | 1,481,236,645 | 270 | 1,289 | I am not a lawyer, but I'd try to go to the police and file for a restraining order against her. | I believe there might be a more simple answer to this. Call the police back again saying she broke into the house and when she claims to be a legal tenant ask her to show the police how she enters and exits the property and what key she is using. She doesn't have a key so how she is entering the property? | 0 | 1,827 | 4.774074 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykfhx | daykfd6 | 1,481,236,645 | 1,481,236,640 | 1,289 | 192 | I believe there might be a more simple answer to this. Call the police back again saying she broke into the house and when she claims to be a legal tenant ask her to show the police how she enters and exits the property and what key she is using. She doesn't have a key so how she is entering the property? | This seems like the way to go? http://www.dca.ca.gov/publications/landlordbook/whois.shtml "Single lodger in a private residence A lodger is a person who lives in a room in a house where the owner lives. The owner can enter all areas occupied by the lodger and has overall control of the house.9 Most lodgers have the same rights as tenants.10 However, in the case of a single lodger in a house where there are no other lodgers, the owner can evict the lodger without using formal eviction proceedings. The owner can give the lodger written notice that the lodger cannot continue to use the room. The amount of notice must be the same as the number of days between rent payments (for example, 30 days). (See "Tenant's notice to end a periodic tenancy".) When the owner has given the lodger proper notice and the time has expired, the lodger has no further right to remain in the owner's house and may be removed as a trespasser.11" | 1 | 5 | 6.713542 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | dayh0m1 | daykfhx | 1,481,232,491 | 1,481,236,645 | 129 | 1,289 | Go down to the sherrifs office and speak with them. Explain everything you've said here. Do you have text messages showing that she asked to stay over? | I believe there might be a more simple answer to this. Call the police back again saying she broke into the house and when she claims to be a legal tenant ask her to show the police how she enters and exits the property and what key she is using. She doesn't have a key so how she is entering the property? | 0 | 4,154 | 9.992248 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | daykfhx | daydop6 | 1,481,236,645 | 1,481,228,634 | 1,289 | 64 | I believe there might be a more simple answer to this. Call the police back again saying she broke into the house and when she claims to be a legal tenant ask her to show the police how she enters and exits the property and what key she is using. She doesn't have a key so how she is entering the property? | > Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. Yes, because the person being recorded doesn't consent. > How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? If the police won't take action, eviction is all you have. | 1 | 8,011 | 20.140625 |
5h99jj | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | A friend of mine broke into my house, put her stuff at random places to make it look like she's been a tenant, cops arrive, finds her stuff all over the place and so of course they won't remove her. What do I do now? I have a friend who called me last night asking for a place to stay. I politely told her no. She's 25, I'm 19 and I should mention she's a narcissistic bitch. Today I was over at my cousin's place this morning and when I came home a couple of hours ago I found this bitch inside my house. No signs of a break in from the outside. I ask her how she got in and she tells me through the back window. I tell her I never gave you permission to come here and that she needs to leave immediately and she says "deal with it". I call the cops and tell them that there's a person who got inside my house without my permission and that I need an officer to come and remove her. A couple of minutes later they arrive and here's what happens. She tells them "I know my rights officers I've been a legal tenant in this house for two months now and you can't just remove me. I can go around show you my clothes in the wardrobe. My toothbrush and my conditioner in the bathroom and all of my other stuff." .. they take a walk with her and all of her fucking stuff is all over my house!! She fucking broke into my house, put her stuff all over so that the cops would think she's been a tenant. The next thing they tell me is that I have to serve her with an eviction notice and that they can't legally remove her since she's considered a tenant. I didn't even know what to tell them as I felt so dumbfounded and shocked I was set up like this. I was silent for a few seconds and so they try to explain how the law works to me but since I just keep looking at them in silence not believing myself they just proceed to leave. I'm so fucking pissed. I'm in California so I can't even record her confessing to what she's done. If I can do that under an exception I could easily do it because apparently she has no problem admitting to it when the cops aren't here. I'm not, however, going to do so if it will lead to more problems. I've also thought about calling 911 or the non-emergency line and telling the operator about the situation so that the call would be recorded and then make my "friend" confess about it. Can I do that? Me and the operator are aware of the call being recorded. I think it still would be unlawful. How do I get this bitch out without having to serve her eviction notice? Isn't that against the law what she did there? Isn't this fraud? I've thought about trying to prove that she's been living somewhere else before but I don't know what to do. This is fucked up. I'm really sorry about my language but I'm really feeling so angry and I'm trying to be calm as much as I can while she's in my fucking house using my stuff and I can't do shit about it. Thanks... | dayiq03 | daykfhx | 1,481,234,518 | 1,481,236,645 | 58 | 1,289 | Get it in writing. You need two party consent for an *audio* recording, but if she texts you anything about it thats fair game. Send her a text in which she would respond admitting she wasnt a tenant. Something like "why did you suddenly need somewhere to stay on Wednesday" or something that locks in a specific time that she can respond to confirming or denying it. | I believe there might be a more simple answer to this. Call the police back again saying she broke into the house and when she claims to be a legal tenant ask her to show the police how she enters and exits the property and what key she is using. She doesn't have a key so how she is entering the property? | 0 | 2,127 | 22.224138 |
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