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I asked him what he was up to and he texted “looking at you disrespectfully”
I gave him a witty-ish response but help im dying and idk if this means anything | Crushes |
Im basically looking for anyone willing to have a genuine conversation from time to time since i need a distraction from what has happened, ill explain in a dm, but dm me any topic and we can talk 😓 | Crushes |
IT'S CHRISTMAS FOR ABOUT AN HOUR WHEN I TYPE THIS AND I GOT THE BEST GIFT I COULD HAVE.
SHE ACCEPTED THE DATE I'M SO FREAKIN LUCKY I'M GOING TO SCREAM TO THE SKY IN A MOMENT DFJDSAS | Crushes |
Some time ago I said at this sub that I have developed a crush. She is my friend and yesterday I was at the mall with her. We were talking the whole time. Sitting next to each other at the bus. It was really nice 🥰 | Crushes |
I JUST KISSED MY CRUSH, WE WERE IN A PLAY OF LEGALLY BLONDE AND HE GOT CASED AS CARLOS, EDI NA DY8JWEA USJ\]PRFAIWEFEWF. AND WHEN THE SHOW WAS OVER HE INVITED ME OVER AND I LIKE HIM AND OMG WEWEWEWI0 WAISNFWAQ9P WHATT DO I DO | Crushes |
So uh I'm logged into her insta acc and like 2 days after I told her about him, she started texting him, and I noticed the replie thinking it was from my insta acc
(My crush and I do talk over insta and she is not logged into mine)
Anyway I then noticed she full on flirts with him and hints sexuall stuff, which obviously made him uncomfortable, saying he is already talking with someone he likes (moi) and that he's not interested.
I then snooped a bit more (sorry) and noticed she badmouhted me to other strangers before
So what do I do now idk how to feel
I'm upset and mad at her, but I've also known her for like 5 years now and we're only teenagers | Crushes |
I was texting my best friend which is a guy(I'm a girl and we are both straight) I was texting them and he randomly asked if I liked him. Now to give some context we go to the same school and are in the same grade. I've known him for 8 months and we are best friends and hangout everyday. So a lot of people ship us and always ask if we are together. Even our mom's are suspicious. We are not together. He asked me if I liked him. I didn't want to ruin our friendship but I also had a crush on him. So I said no.
He said OK and that it was good to know. then asked me how many people have asked if I liked him. I said 3 and he said 6 people asked him. Now how do I say I like him without ruining our friendship? Plz help. BTW we are only in middle school | Crushes |
I asked one of my friends to ask my crush whether he likes anyone since I feel like I’ve been imaging a lot of things. I didn’t ask my friend if he had talked to him but this morning my crush and I had a class and out of nowhere he turns around and starts taking to me. Then later on he’s more open to talking to me. Also he’s been looking in my direction a lot more. He was talking to me a lot on Instagram but I was always starting the convo yet he was continuing it. recently, he was being a lot more shy at school and is only talking in one word replies. IDK if he's just being nice. | Crushes |
I feel about 13 years old. It’s frustrating and sad in a way because I know it can never happen, but it’s also kind of fun. It’s been a while since I felt the rush of fantasising about someone and checking if they’re online and wondering if they’re wondering about me. Weirdly, I don’t really mind if they don’t feel the same about me. I’m just enjoying the experience and excitement of liking someone for the first time in several years. | Crushes |
Would it be weird to get my crush a blanket for Christmas shes 13 and I'm 13 so would it be weird? | Crushes |
Ok so I drunk texted my crush and basically told her that I was involve with her. (I know, brutal) but she said she was flattered and was down to hangout. Then we started to snap, and she proceeds to open bomb me, and unfollows me on instagram. I don't know what I did, maybe I weirded her out? I am hella confused because she seemed interested and then just flipped a switch. It's killing me inside though. | Crushes |
My friends are talking to people and getting into relationships and I have nobody. Like, I don’t even want a relationship I don’t think because I’m going to uni in like eight or so months. I just want someone to be with and idk, be happy around apart from a best friend. Hate this shit | Crushes |
We went out again and it was so nice and he is so cute. Just wanted to put this out there. | Crushes |
So, I did a post already but I will sum it up. He hasn't been to school since he was in hospital because he is really really sick. I texted him and checked up on him, and also sent him some French homework and explained it to him. Then I found out that he sent screenshots to all his friends and made fun of me with them, and they called me cringe.
Now to the update.
I was on social media, just browsing some pages when I noticed that I had a few new followers so I checked them out. I don't have a lot of followers so I just went through my whole following page and saw, that a lot of people also unfollowed me. I did some digging and found out that it's basically his entire friend group. They all unfollowed/unadded/blocked me. My crush also blocked me.
I don't know what was so wrong about asking how he's doing. I feel hideous and disgusting. I don't know what to do now, I just feel very hopeless. Luckily winter break just started so I won't have to see any of them too soon.
Is there anything I can really do now | Crushes |
I’ve been struggling with my crush for a while. I tried getting over him, that didn’t work. The thing is that there are so many times I’ve speculated him liking me, and there’s a chance he could, but I doubt it. He’s probably just being a good friend or something. The problem is that he’s kinda in a situationship with this girl, i mean they hold hands but they aren’t necessarily in an official relationship. There is a chance that he could have had a crush on me at some point but may have thought I’m uninterested or just decided to move on. But come on, there are so many things I could state about on signs he could like me, considering he gives off very mixed signals. Also I want to tell him now, but I’ve decided that on the last day of school, I’m going to text him after school and confess to him. If I’m being completely honest though, i do catch him glancing/looking at me sometimes and when he’s trying to be funny he sometimes looks at me, but this isn’t a “dotheylikeme?” Post so… yeah, that’s all I can think about for now. | Crushes |
I'll start proposing right away | Crushes |
Dear crush, don't give me hope :((( | Crushes |
So I think I have a crush on a guy? I feel a little nervous whenever I'm close to him, I want his attention and laugh at his jokes even if they aren't funny... It just feels natural to respond to him like that and I don't know why. I have never been good with emotions and how my body wants to respond to him just makes me confused. Maybe this is a weird question, but am I in love with another man? Is there a better way to find out? | Crushes |
Im madly in love with this girl right. And she got mad at me and stuff since i said i was gonna call her but i never did now she thinks im using her and she leaves me on read idk what to do. :( | Crushes |
I met this girl at school and she's in the grade above me. We are also around the same height. The thing is, she's once said that we have a whole year's difference between us. I responded saying that I'm going to have my birthday soon and we're going to be the same age soon, since she's only about 5 months older than me.
It's never been made clear if she thinks I'm alot younger compared to herself, but I'm scared it may hurt my chances.
Souls you guys happen to have any advice or hacks or opinions on this? | Crushes |
So I have a crush on someone and really suck at talking over text, since I feel like its hard to have deep conversations like that. I feel like it will really help to meet them in person. Any ideas on how to get with them in person or things to invite them to? | Crushes |
Well, folks, I’m over this crush and I’ve never been more relieved in my life. You might be wondering how this happened. Well, here are the dirty details:
Steve has been friendly to me since the question of him flirting, and since the holiday party. We have our usual banter, we spend time with each other after work sometimes and he still usually walks me at least half way to my car, if not fully. Not much has changed, until this past week.
This girl he had been talking to ghosted him on a dating app and he was feeling very salty about it. Even though he had a really good workday, he was just frustrated with the dating world, as we all are. He ended up leaving work early and I texted him to check on him. He said he just hated people and he would be okay. While reading this text, I was online picking up my prescription from CVS and I noticed his favorite candy bar at the cashier. I decided to get him that as a way to cheer him up. I put it on his desk with small note saying to feel better. I did not sign it.
During our break that day, he came into my office, slammed his hands on my desk, and loudly said “YOU DON’T HAVE TO GET ME CHOCOLATE EVERY-TIME I’M UPSET.”
now let’s be clear, this is the first time I’ve done something like this for him. I did it with 100% platonic intentions. I’ve also done this for people in the office before when they’ve had especially bad days.
Also, every time I do something like this for a friend, my biggest fear is for them to respond the way he did: by freaking out and making me feel weird.
He said that he came into work, and was already bad mood, and that I made it worse with the chocolate. I profusely apologized for getting him chocolate, and he said that it was a nice gesture, but to not do it again. He then said that if I did feel the need to do it, not to leave a note. At first, I didn’t understand the note part but as I really thought about it, I realized he didn’t want the note because didn’t want to know it was from me. I think he wanted to pretend it was from someone else. Someone more of his type, perhaps.
Also, he could be freaking out because he could think that I like him, but again, I did this with platonic intentions.
It was a little stupid, I guess. Either way, I told him I would never do something like that again. And I meant it. I promised myself that I would never go out of my way for this guy outside the scope of my job ever again.
I told a few trusted people in my life about what happened, and the main consensus is that he was a giant, immature, asshole, and I have to agree. Yes, I know he was essentially trying to set a boundary, and I respect that, but you could do it, perhaps, by not yelling at me.
And just like that, the crush ended. He came into work with his little tight sweater that I obsessed about on Reddit just a few weeks ago, and it had absolutely no effect on me today.
He honestly infuriated me with his reaction, and maybe him doing that was just the wake up call I needed. Despite the fact that it hurt, maybe it was a necessary pain that I needed to bring me back to reality
So, if you ever find this and realize all my posts are about you, and that this post is talking about you too, I just wanted to say thank you Steve, for helping me in a way you’ll never realize. I can finally date people who will give me the attention and love I deserve. I hope you find the girl who is just your type, and will give you the love and attention you deserve too.
And also, kindly go fuck yourself. | Crushes |
so my middleschool (3 yrs ago) crush invited me to coffee, what should I do? | Crushes |
HE CALLED ME CUTE, so basically he swiped up on my Snapchat story where it was one of those spam things and it said to post a picture of myself, so I did and he called me a “cute ass mf” ik that seems cringey but it’s actually really cute since I’m 99% sure he was only trying to act tough to not be embarrassed. | Crushes |
Hello. She's a girl I met at school through giving out a questionnaire. I found her really cute and she definitely seemed better than her classmates and friends, she's different! My only issues is that she's 1 year younger than me, and that I rarely talk to her and her friends (I mainly talked to her that time because I knew her friends- they aren't my friends). What can I do to talk to her and start to know her? I found her Instagram but that would be too creepy for me to follow randomly, and if I decided to talk to her on a school day I wouldn't know what to talk about.
I'm currently starting a plan on making another questionnaire, but it's a bit more interactive; a biased questionnaire that has questions on what her opinions are on this and that, and more.
Please inform me by telling me what I can do to talk to her. I'm really dying just looking at her from a far. | Crushes |
So I confessed to him yesterday and then turned my phone off. And today he said he wanted to talk so he called me. The first thing he said was that he thinks I am very brave for telling him that and that he would like to try to have a romantic relationship with me. But he doesn’t want a label yet. (Which makes me kinda sad but is understandable and valid) One of my friends wanted to go to the city to just walk around and so on (with another friend). I asked them if he could come since they both know him. So he tagged along. When we were in the city I told him to talk a bit because he was very quiet (the others too). He asked what he is supposed to say. I told him to tell me anything good about his life. He then got quiet for a bit and then showed me his phone. He saved me as a cute nickname in my mother tongue he is trying to learn. He then asked me if that’s answer enough that he like me. (A few seconds later he said that he doesn’t talk about good things while they are happening) I was confident enough to grab his arm at that point. But later I kinda tucked at his sweater (at his wrist) to get it off of his hand and he grabbed my hand. 😭😭 but he says that he is still very unsure and doesn’t wanna label us now. Am I too impatient?
Should I just let go of my frustration and wait?
Am I interpreting too much into this situation? | Crushes |
Hm. I don't know how to feel.
For some context, I'm currently in a love triangle with my crush and this other guy who likes me. Me and my crush are both very close friends with that guy. I have also rejected the guy and he's trying to lose feelings.
My crush low-key broke the "bro code" by kissing me, even when he knew that our mutual friend liked me. And tonight at like 4 in the morning, it's barely been 3 days, and he says he wants to remain friends, and says that it's better if we lose feelings.
He says it's because, 1. Our age gap (2 years, both teens), and especially since he said he never wants to take advantage of me and I'm not mature enough. 2. Because of that mutual friend
I really don't know how to feel. I understand to some extent, but at the same time, I feel like he's doing this on a whim, since it's barely been 3 days.
I don't know what I expected, but this sucks. | Crushes |
If you became attracted to somebody ONLY after thinking they were attracted to you, you probably want to know do they REALLY like me that way? There is a simple way to find out without any risk to your friendship.
MIRROR THEIR LANGUAGE
Seriously that simple, if they made a behavior change to show they like you romantically, they will 100% get the message if you mirror that behavior. And if you were WRONG, it’s no sweat at all because they already don’t find that behavior as a sign of romantic attraction. | Crushes |
I just started working back at my old job and there is this guy at my work that I somehow have a crush on even though we've never spoken except if it was to help him with something or vice versa. He's a bit older than me and he's so fucking attractive. I genuinely cannot stop thinking about him. I feel like I am making up fantasies and creating a version of him inside my head (a version that ill like) and just putting that together with his good looks. It's so hard to not get nervous near him though, and we do have a lot of eye contact. He's always looking towards my way and when we are working near each other he always turns his body towards me when we are working. His face is usually not showing any emotion when near me, but his body language does say a lot when I am nearby. Although, I feel like I am over exaggerating and he might be like that with everyone.
I want something to happen, I want to speak to him and get to know him, to at least get rid of the crush if I dont feel interested after getting to know him or it may lead to something. Although I feel like he's a complete douchebag judging by the people he hangs out with... but I mean I dont like the people I hang out with so who knows what he thinks about those people. My work does not care about dating nor does it affect our work environment as we have many co-workers who are all in relationships with each other, so it wouldn't affect us. I just want to put an end to this feeling and move on... or start something with him. I DONT KNOW. HELP LMAO | Crushes |
Is it ok that i dont really mind if my crush doesnt like me back? like im just okay with liking them??? I dont know if other people are like this or if it's just me ? | Crushes |
my bestie is telling me to drop my crush and vice versa. I have made 2 previous posts about how shitty my friend has been acting toward my crush. (shit-talking for no reason, bringing her down, spreading rumors, etc. Mind you, she does not know my crush personally)
I have recently ranted a bit to my crush about my friend and she told me to communicate with her and I did. This however did not do a lot of damage control. It just made me talk less with her. When I told my crush this, she told me to drop her.
I don't want to sound like a shitty person for even considering dropping my best friend, but she keeps invalidating me, my feelings, disorders, beliefs, etc., and thinks her opinion is the norm.
I have known my best friend for 6 years now and I don't want it to go to waste. But I also think my crush has a point? If talking doesn't help then what will?
But on the other hand, I don’t want to be a fool that chooses their crush over their friends and end up getting the short end of the stick. I don’t know if i’m biased or not so what would you do in this situation? | Crushes |
they sent me a baby pic😭😭😭
they're so cute omgg | Crushes |
Is it weird that i haven't had a crush till now i am 16m
I find some girls beautiful but i never get the feeling of getting in a relationship with them | Crushes |
How exactly do I cope with this?
Apparently she's been secretly dating this guy for months, and I just found out she's ~3 months pregnant.
I can't even describe this new kind of despair I'm having.
In highschool and college, the worst thing that could happen is that probably your crush likes your bestfriend or something.
In this adult world, finding out your crush is pregnant from a guy who you don't even know. It's just a dark, depressing, and desolate feeling.
I don't really know how to handle this. I'm sad and angry, and just consumed with despair.
How do I cope? I know time heals all wounds, but I can't wait for time. I want to silence this screaming heart of mine. | Crushes |
Somewhere between a vent and an advice request. TL;DR at the end.
So Ive had a crush on this girl for months now, and that's after crushing on her 4 years ago until I found out she had a BF (she's single now).
I really think we've been having a good time talking to eachother. I don't know if she likes me, but she definitely likes to talk with me & I thought I might have a chance.
Today I discovered she doesn't want children, and I do. I haven't given it much thought honestly, but I feel like this propably won't change. I was honestly devestated- still am.
We're both 19, and I never been in a relationship while she's only been in one. I know I shouldn't focus on this things at such an early age, but to enter a relationship knowing full well that at some point it will end is really hard. Even if it is more likely that we will break up for a hundred different reasons, I KNOW that at some point we will break up (that is, if she even likes me...)
I don't know if I should just forget about this for now, and not let stuff so far ahead dictate how I live life right now, or if I should just give up on this because living with that Boulder hanging above our relationship will be tough.
Honestly, it is also scary to let go of this crush because I find it really hard to develop Crushes and romantic feeling for people.
She is only one out of three girls I've ever liked, and again, I'm 19. (she was the first, then the other two but both didn't work out, and now I'm back to liking her). If I lose this chance with her, I don't know when the next person I like will come into my life, could be over a year.
TL;DR:
I (19M) Found out that my crush (19F) doesn't want children, while I do. I don't know if I should give up on asking her out, as I know fully well that no matter how much fun we have and how good we are to eachother, there will always be this problem up ahead in the future, or if I shouldn't worry about such far ahead things at this age and try to enjoy our relationship without thinking about this.
What do you think I should do? Any advice will be helpful🙏 | Crushes |
i was asking her about homework to like start an conversation and then when i she told me what the homework was i said thanks and she left an black heart to my message | Crushes |
I’ve been friends with this guy for 5-6 years. We were closest during high school (for about a year). Now it’s been on and off random catch ups. I’ve liked him basically the whole time like a loser, but in my defense, the guy is confusing.
When we have very random catch ups, they’re initiated by him. He’ll message me on insta or text. These hang outs are one on ones, and they’re things I would not do with him if I was dating someone. For example, we got dinner together and went swing dancing. He paid for all the things and drove me! But then he talked about other girls?? Then most recently, he invited me to his place for dinner and said he never cooks and that he cleaned the place etc. Plus, when we talk it can be fun but also like really serious and deep.
In high school, I look back and I’m convinced he liked me at some point. We hung out one on one occasionally (he still always paid), he’d comment that he’s taking a longer route so we could talk more when he’d drive us, he called me a couple times when I first moved to college and I was really nervous, he’d text me using nicknames, support me a lottt, and would make dating jokes about us. BUT during this time he’d sometimes talk about girls and even had a girlfriend at one point.
Earlier this year, he initiated a match with me on Hinge and then he barely responded and had one word answers.
I admit, I’m not bold and it’s harder to be when we’ve been friends for awhile. Maybe he thinks I’m uninterested or something, but I did tell him that I really liked him in high school when we matched on Hinge.
So wth is happening? What do I do? | Crushes |
So i have developed a crush on co worker, and i have my suspicions that she and another co worker are involved.
We were on a work trip for a week last week, she was very flirty with me and made me feel good. But i know it was just playful, as she has a bf and is out of my league. Also stays in another country.
I noticed that she and another co worker were extremely close, I got jealous and asked them if anything was going on because they could see that something was up with me. They both said no. Either way it's none of my business so I shouldn't be bothered, but I am.
Now i keep finding myself checking his and hers what'sapp(messenger) and seeing when they were last online.
The "Last online" time for both of them is always the same time or 1 or two mins apart. And i know the girl only uses whatsapp for work colleges.
So i know that they are texting each other pretty much constantly. I keep finding myself checking their online status, in the hopes to see their last online status hours apart, so i know that they are not always talking to each other, but they are always online at the same time. It's like compulsive behaviour, i keep doing it and it makes me feel like shit when i see it.
Any thoughts on why i keep torturing myself? And how to stop? Also, is this in anyway normal? Or am i just nuts!?
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Thanks for any replies | Crushes |
While we were walking to home, I decided to show her my winged hussar art. Even her friends said its good, but not a single word came out of her mouth. What to do, More effort or moving on?
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How do I snap a girl to get her interested?
Need some serious advice here guys, so today I (17) was on IG and get an IG notification and see that a girl (I think also 17, if not then 18) follow requested me. I barely know her but kinda talked to her occasionally last school year bc she was in my history class, but haven't talked to her since then. But she's pretty attractive and my type so I follow her back, and her snaps in her bio, should I add her and try to start a conversation but how should I even open that conversation? I know her following me is not anything significant and she probably dosnt want to be my gf lmao but I still wanna try to just for the experience and confidence boost. What do I do, is it worth a shot? | Crushes |
He took selfies with me on a party and said i looked nice which is not normally a big thing but this guy never shows emotion. I even shape my fingers in the form of half a heart, and not only did he complete it but he took a pic of it and posted it on his story. Ik he prolly doesn't like me but what to you guys think and what should I do now? | Crushes |
I end up liking someone based on their:
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So there is this girl in my class. We are good friends but I like her and the thing is sometimes I do feel like she likes me too. Sometimes she will try to sit next to me and be very touchy but sometimes she won't. Sometimes she will stare into my soul but sometimes she will just ignore. She won't even acknowledge my presence if I were there by her side. Sometimes she will try to have convo and another time she won't even talk to me at all. I have been experiencing this things from 2 months(I guess) and I makes me sad when she does this. I am stucked in loop of mixed signals. I don't know what to do and it drains my energy.
I am thinking of ignoring her completely as it drains me and ruins my mental health. Should I just ignore her??
Please give your advices.
Thank you | Crushes |
I (16 year old female ) am preparing for jee which is an enterance exam for engineering in India and join classes for it . I usually go by bus arranged by my classes recently i started to crush on this guy (17 year old male ) who comes with me in the same bus . he is one year older and preparing for neet (which is an examination for medicine) in the same classes . i personally like him for his personality he is really calm and serious about his goal . we talk to each other sometimes and are good acquaintances but not really friends . recently my friend noticed something which made her think that he likes me back for example he laughs at my jokes even when i myself think that they are not that funny . he usually helps me with some topics that i struggle with and is always the first to start a conversation .
for the note ; i don't think he likes me my friends think that i personally dont think so
tell me your answer
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So i noticed my crushes friend writing on a note, my crush told her my name and told her "l love you" and "I can give you everything" which I'm guessing was for her to write down.I also noticed her friend in another class taking a picture of me and then typing something she might have been texting my crush. I have no idea what to do should I just wait or should I do something about it? | Crushes |
I'm usually pretty happy being alone, going out alone etc. But maybe it's bc of the holiday season, but I'm really noticing how lonely it is. My brain keeps replaying moments with my crush. Them having a crush on another person, saying that they r so perfect and amazing. I would reply with joy and tell them that's great and told them I'll root for them (actively doing things so them and their crush got closer). I'm happy that they were happy but dang it stung at times. And when we text we hv a joke abt me having no ahem b*+c#e$ and it's all fun and games. But at some point it started getting to me. Bc it's true. I don't hv any love life nor a prospect of one.
I've become more self concious abt everything, my looks, my life choices, my personality. So yeah I'm throwing a bit of a pity party at 4am. Anyone wanna join? | Crushes |
So I have had a minor crush on a coworker for a couple months now. We don't work together often during our job so I only see him every couple of weeks though. Recently, I have seen him quite a bit more then usually because both our work schedules temporarily changed up. Since then we have been talking I would say a decent amount when we are in the room together. I do catch him looking at me sometimes and when we talk he doesn't look away a ton. I really struggle to make prolonged eye contact with people though so I'm not sure if it seems like a lot because of that. I also got the courage to message him on instagram (since I don't have his number) and we have talked a little bit. It all seems pretty small talk, like about work or a common interest of ours. He seems engaged in the conversation, he sends good replies and asks questions as well so it isn't one sided, however he doesn't respond for hours when we text. I can't tell if he is interested or not. He is a quiet guy, I don't think he's necessarily shy, just introverted and laid back. I'm not sure if he is interested and just not showing it well or if he is just polite and I'm misreading signals. | Crushes |
I have a huge crush on this boy from my college,he was also quite friendly and sweet with me in the beginning,but now he is part of a big gang and he literally ignores me like he doesn't care if i exist or not,and he also talks with a lot of other girls too unlike before,it hurts a lot being ignored by him,i tried to forget and unlike him but my heart just can't deny that I still have feelings for him,it hurts a lot,can someone pls help me out,how do i deal with this? | Crushes |
weve been friends for years shes been giving some signs she likes me but im confused
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I really, honestly thought I had prepared myself for any answer after hesitating asking her the question "Do you like me?" for so long. Nope, wasn't ready for what came next. "I like you as a person" . I asked her for a "proper, clear" answer maybe twice more, at which point she proceeded to walk away with a faster step. and now I'm scared of what our relationship will be after Christmas break, since we were good friends for more than a year. my paranoia and frankly, judging by this situation, logical thinking, tell me she took it badly. her being my crush aside, I was hoping in the case of rejection, we could (actually) stay friends, she's just such a fun person compared to my usual, emotionless self. now, I'm an emotional mess and at the same time, completely blank emotionally. like I have never seen myself this dead inside. usually I'm just angry for a bit and then go back to the usual. for 6 hours now, I smiled maybe twice, it feels weird. I hope she listens to my wish and just forgets the conversation entirely, but idk man, I'm just scared. scared of not having anymore fun as friends, as we did before. dancing with her is probably the most fun memory I have of these last 4 months of school. when we go back to school, I'll probably just stick further away from her. if she is interested in continuing *a* relationship, she will tell me, instead of me going to sit with her first thing in the morning. | Crushes |
my friend tells me she likes me but she says that she doesnt and only as a best friend im really confused | Crushes |
I am really into this colleague of mine and she is one of the very few people i am close to at work. I don't expect her to like me back and want to stay as we are even if she is not interested in me romantically. | Crushes |
first time i had a crush wasnt on her its on her friend but she told her sister and her sister told her friend aka my crush so she has to tell my crush that i like her when she told me its too late a few weeks later i start liking her cuz we are rlly close then but when i finally confesed i got rejected cuz im like a brother to her and confessed to my best friend and my best friend knows that i like her you would think oh your bestfriend must be loyal and decline... NO he liked her too and they got together and im just a 3rd wheel i dont even get to talk to her anymore. just wanted to get this off | Crushes |
Hey guys!
Ive been acting crazy to her last time on the job she was flirting ane etc. And on the end I talk to much and waste her time and I was without sleep and talking non stop until she roll her eyes and next day she was cold and maybe even avoiding me I know I fucked it up. So should I apologize her on the job and hug her to say merry christmas or just leave her alone as it would look like Im desperate and clingy or creepy? I dont have much time to think.
Thanks guys and Merry christmas!
P.s sorry for grammar. | Crushes |
Talk for hours after school? | Crushes |
This female coworker has seemed to like me for quite a while but it took me a few months to pick up on it. As time goes on she seems to become a little obsessive and gets happier and happier around me, to the point where other people are constantly telling me how much she admires me.
That incessant admiration has made me develop feelings for her, and despite my ability to hide it I’m crushing so hard on her now.
I have been very content and happy alone all my life, but now that somebody has shown me a little love I’ve lost that comfort and now I crave a relationship.
I don’t expect anyone to relate, but I wish I never felt my crush liked me. | Crushes |
I've been into him for a couple of months. I've grown some pretty deep feelings for him. And the other night we hooked up. the tension that built up right before we finally kissed was amazingly heart-fluttering. I've only ever been with one other guy, an ex who was rather rough in bed. There were so many tender moments with my crush though. The way he peppered the most gentle kisses on my thighs. It feels wrong to compare but when you're used to one person and the way they do things, I was ready for certain things only to be thrown off in the best way. The kisses on my lips were so passionate and were "craving" while the kisses he would place elsewhere were so soft and tender. he kept checking in to make sure I was still good. It was such a great experience and he stayed after and we cuddled as we tried to go to sleep. But we just would look at each other and then make out some more.
In the morning, I got ready for work and we said goodbye, giving each other one last kiss. I texted him to say I got to work and that's been it. I'm not sure if this is gonna be a one night stand kind of deal or what. And I'm worried I'm gonna get my heart broken but I'm trying to give it a couple days before I talk to him, especially since it's Christmas I'll just wait to see where we stand. I hope to not have my heart broken. But until we talk, I'll continue to gush about how amazing of a night it was. | Crushes |
so basically i was with my crush yesterday and she decided to throw a party with people from my class, but the majority of the guys didn't end up appearing so she started crying in frustration that they said they would appear but they didn't and she ended up spending all her money trying to have enough things for everyone but since a lot of people didn't appear she felt like she wasted it.
but since i've had a little bit of money on me of which i wouldn't spend cuz i wasn't going buy food with it (my dad gives me money so i can eat in the streets in our 2h long breaks) then i decided to give her the money.
some other things happened and i supported her (and made her friends who didn't want to, also support her) and she ended up going home before our final class before the winter break.
she later said it the friend group that they were a bunch of assholes for making her spend money but that i ended up giving my money but that "it wasn't enough compared to what she spent" without even saying thanks in the message.
i got kinda pissed and just said that i was unnecessary saying that and she apologized to me and thanked me again, but what makes me question if i got friendzoned or not was in the texts she later send me she said:
"sorry for not having thanked you before, and it was very cool of your part staying there with me and supporting me.
and we we're also kind of getting along, and i don't want YOU to hate me. so could we just try to be friends and forget this whole mess?"
and first of all she said mentioned we we're getting along because when we first met i was very uncomfortable by her because she was very touchy/clingy and flirted a lot with me, so 90% of the time i said i didn't like her and i that i wanted that she stayed away from me (she also ended up sexually assaulting me sometimes, but i ended up forgiving her) and i'm just alarmed by the whole "could be try being friends?" since i've pretty much fear being frienzoned lol.
she also later send me another message just saying:
"do you forgive me?"
and i've also currently havent responded to any of them because i was just too afraid to even read them lol so i don't know what to respond. | Crushes |
They’re the sweetest person I know and literally everyone in our friend group is caring for them and loves him a lot.
I feel a bit helpless. I’m glad that they’re well surrounded but I wish I could be the one he relies on someday. | Crushes |
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I’m a senior in high school, she’s a junior.
I’m the president of a school club and the team captain of an an academic team.
I have a crush on a new teammate of mine and she recently nicknamed me “boss” cuz I’m the leader of the team and now she calls me “boss” a lot.
We also roast each other, she also teases me a lot, and we text nearly every day but it’s just us attacking each other. She brings up things I’ve said to her to our other teammates, too.
We’ve also had a few literal staring contests here and there. She also put her second hair clip in my hair as a joke while we were studying for the next competition together (we were basically matching) and I just went with it for the whole study session.
Overall, I can tell she feels really comfortable around me. Maybe she sees me as just a friend? Or maybe something more? | Crushes |
Yesterday was a pretty good day. We talked and had fun.(talked with my crush) Our main teacher decided to change our positions in class. My crush is now sitting with my best friend and I am sitting with the class joker that always makes fun of her. The thing is that my best friend started acting like a snake and did all kinds of shady stuff.
He talks to her all day and when I come to talk with them he makes sure I get ignored. What should I do? | Crushes |
I'm trying my best to move on from my crush ever since she rejected me but I just cant. Everytime I look at her I still feel so attatched to her. | Crushes |
So the basic rundown - I’m in a group chat with my entire class and a girl I like is in it. She mentioned that she’s going to a concert tonight, it finishes at 10. Is it weird if I send “how was that concert?” At like 10:30 if she’s online or is that weird for me to say in a gc. For reference me and the girl have made jokes in the group chat but we don’t follow each other, we aren’t friends yet tbh. I wanna do it because it shows that I wanna know how her night was but idk if it’s too much. Thanks for listening | Crushes |
**Hi**. Without trying to give away my name or anything like that, just know that I am a male, still in school, yet only a few years away from graduating.
Today I was in math class I was sitting with none of my friends. Over the last two years, all the people I did call friends have distanced themselves from me because they would rather hang out with the popular kids. Anyway, there have been tons of rumours saying I am a homosexual because all my friends that were guys don't wanna be friends with me anymore. So it is weird to be my friend now, although in the past everyone in school knew who I was, I was never the most popular but I was well known to say the least. Circling back, I was sitting next to these three girls with my AirPods listening to Conan Gray and Billie Eilish. I spent all lessons, which was okay because I was in front, trying to get my AirPods and Spotify on my apple watch to coincide so I could listen to my music.
By the time I was finally getting some good songs going in order, the bell went and before I knew it everyone was off to the next period. I remember there being a few people behind me but not many as I exited the classroom, heading to my locker and ready to enter another class. When I got to my locker I saw there were already several groups of people already in front of it. Squeezing through I made it to my locker and started to put everything away. At this point in time I left my AirPods in my ears so no one would bother me or say anything condescending or mean to me, so I kept my head down and just tried to make it through. As I put my books in my locker I see someone I used in the corner of my eye. Deciding that they are not the one for me because they haven't said anything or made a move I forget them and continue to put my books away without a second thought. After my books from math class are away I get out my science theory book, glad it's the last lesson of the day. That one person I said I used to like reaches over toward me and takes out one of my AirPods. Before I could snatch and grab it back, they put it in their ear and listens to my music while I do as well. Whipping my airpod out my ear, hoping they would do the same, they stand in the hallway with 60-odd other kids, listening to my music. Feeling time slow and hoping they wouldn't make fun of my music, they pass back my airpod and say what I could only make out to be "Cool" and I grab my airpod back and run into class.
Considering the song that was playing was "Not my Responsibility" by Billie Eilish, I was severely surprised they didn't judge me for it because I was well and truly screaming on the inside at that time. After I tell my best friend, her name is Jade and she knows everything well pretty much everything. We sit together because no one likes me and no one likes her, but that's not really out of the ordinary for us to sit together at all. I grab her and pull he out to the hallway after making sure my "special friend" is inside the classroom we just left. I tell her everything and ask her what his intentions were. She said she didn't know, but we talked about them all lesson long and now I have homework to do, but I can't do it because I am too busy thinking about what this man's intentions were. This person had been my fattest crush for well over 3 years, but that morning I had decided that I didn't need them and I will find the right one eventually. During lesson, Jade kept seeing my "special friend" look back toward us, not knowing if he was looking at something behind us or looking at us, most likely me thinking he was subtle. Did I misinterpret their signals, or not take them far enough? After the lesson, Jade and I were joking around about some music, (because I told her abt my "special friend"), and we were saying things like Skitting pot pot, next thing I know I hear it as I walk out into the hallway from my "Special friend", hopping he was saying it to parallel me, which in psychology shows ones attraction toward another. But than again, as I hope on the bus I hear more people saying that I hadn't come into contact with all day at school. (This is a bus purely meant for my school and my school only), meaning had something happened that day that made everyone hear that song?
Oddly enough, 11 hours later I sit on my bed wondering if they ever wanted me, if they do want me. I sit on my bed asking Reddit a question no one will ever know the answer to but one person, the only one I don't want to ask. Do I hope he took my airpod and didn't care about my music and he just wanted to listen to it with me, just me and him? Keep in mind the part I think we were up to, not knowing if the song played because I took my airpod out my ear, was a part that could be taken extremely sexually and he could take it the wrong way and think I was horny during the middle of maths or something. Or do they simply not care about me enough to give af about what I listened too? Writing this now I am worrying it is the second option, but I will forever hope for the first. This is someone who has always said Hi to me before I said Hi to them and did things like that.
Reddit, what do I do? | Crushes |
**Preparing my fingers to list the 100000 things that are amazing about him.**
Haha… I’m saying only 6 of them.
* He has the typical Indian boy hairstyle, but it really suits him. It’s also really floofy and I always wanted to touch it (is that weird?).
* He has the most beautiful eyes. His eyes are brown just like mine, yet I can’t help but get lost in them mid-conversation.
* He is great at sports. He claims not to care much about wins or losses but I know he does.
* He is always smiling. I love his smile and it always brightens my day just to see a glimpse of his smile.
* He is really funny. I love his lame jokes and when he makes fun of me, I can’t help but laugh too.
* He is good at conversation. He has so much to say and is good at keeping up with conversations. I could talk to him talk all day.
* His laugh is the cutest thing ever. I love to make him laugh and when he is happy, I’m happy.
* He is truly the sweetest and kindest guy I ever met.
Oops- that was eight. Hehe, sorry not sorry. | Crushes |
Now... it is the matter of luck if his LinkedIn is on private mode, which more likely is NOT. He rarely check his LinkedIn, let alone be bothered to change his visibility setting.
For fucking real, I was just gathering courage by reading Reddit posts about 'Woman who made the first move, how did it go?' then this happened.
Maybe this is the sign of the universe. God doesn't even let me to make the first move. | Crushes |
I’ve known this girl for quite a while and we smile at each other almost everyday when we leave school or during recess, though the only real interaction was once at a party when i asked her if a guy from her class already left.
Today, during these brief seconds, i want to jokingly say “We both wave at each other everyday even though we don’t even know eachother’s name”.
At this point I think she’d tell mer her name and so would I.
Now, would it be weird to also ask her for her surname right after? | Crushes |
Hey Romantics - I need advice on how to proceed with my crush. A bit of backstory, I (21F) met him through my old job (I don’t actually know how old it is, I’m assuming mid forties since he works as a Dr and has done for a long time).
Anyway - I was his receptionist and we were always a bit flirty at work but nothing too extreme. He would show me videos of him working out and stuff, and I know he overheard me talking about how much I liked him once.
I ended up leaving the job for unrelated reasons and he seemed pretty devastated, and he ended up sending me a message saying he was annoyed that I left. Since then, we have been messaging a little bit but not about anything important.
A couple weeks ago, I asked him if he wanted to catch up. He said of course, but that he needed to clear some things off his schedule first. I was understanding because I know how busy he is, but he still hasn’t arranged a time to meet up. I also sent a flirty message the other day calling him cute but he just laughed it off and changed the subject. I am really confused. He always reacts to my Instagram stories, especially when they’re pictures of me.
What do I do? Does it seem like he likes me or is just being nice? Do I follow up about our hangout? Help a girl out. | Crushes |
So there is this guys I have had a crush on for the past couple of months. We don’t see each other in school since he is in vocational school. Only after school, in marching band (the season was from like September-November). I never had the guts to a talk to him or anything during the season, but around the end of the season I started talking to him via Instagram.
Eventually (in January) I decided to tell him I liked him (I was already prepared to be rejected). He told me that he just wants to be friends , and I told him that was alright and that was all I really wanted. Everything was going fine… Until I let it slip that social media stalked him.
After that he got mad at me and told me “not to talk to him for a while”. I haven’t talked to him since. I’m scared now tho because there is a marching band meeting next week and I don’t know how he’s gonna act towards me.
Also, I did see him once before all of this last month for a marching band thing. He waved at me but that’s really it. I know he’s not cool with me still tho because he still has me blocked and even blocked me on Facebook too (don’t question). I don’t really want to date him or anything I just want to be on good terms with him, so any advice works. | Crushes |
I’ve seen this guy around and checked out his Insta and I think he’s cute. We’re into similar things, but I think he might be gay. I’m not really sure what to do cause all the people I’ve come across who match with my hobbies or interest are gay or they are into one specific thing and don’t really try to start a conversation with me. I’ve only seen him in person, but I haven’t really tried to talk to him. I’m definitely not trying to embarrass myself, but I usually get super flustered if I try to start a conversation with someone new. I have no clue and I’m super dense when it comes to things like crushes or love, but I’m really trying. | Crushes |
I 24M have a crush on a girl 23F, who I am friends with from uni.
I have never had a girlfriend, and tbh until uni I never really thought too much about girls cos I was busy during high school.
I first met this girl when I started my uni degree like 4 years ago. I thought she was super pretty and cute, but at the time she had a boyfriend and they were going kinda steady. I guess the start of uni was kinda hectic and I didn't think about it too much.
We are friends and have a lot of mutual friends. So for yeara I've talked to her and gone to like parties that she's been at.
Around a year and half ago, she broke up with her boyfriend. Again I didnt think too much about it. But like at some point that year we had the same placement and we started to talk a lot during it. We bonded I guess. Ever since then we talk a lot more frequently (at this point almost every day).
She is super pretty/cute, smart, funny and we have A LOT of shared interests. The major of which is kpop (cringe yes i know hush). Recently we were talking about a concert and she kinda abruptly was like 'hey we should go, i'll go with you'. And we kinda impulse bought tickets and went a few weeks later.
I had so much fun, cos I really liked that group and I really like her. I think it has only been in the past year that I have realised I am head over heels for this girl.
Problem. She is a 10 (12/10 in my eyes) and I am maybe a 6 on a good day. I cannot see a reality where she is romantically interested in me [ idk if she does or not] but I know its kinda unlikely.
I can accept the fact objectively that I don't have a chance with her. I am trying to get over my crush for her, but every time she talks to me about something it comes back in waves and I can't stop thinking about her. I want to remain friends with her cos she is really fun, but she is constantly on my mind.
Help... | Crushes |
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I’ve had a crush on my friend for nearly two years now. Im pretty sure by now I love her.
We’ve been really close friends for a while, and every time I talked to her I struggled to fight the butterflies when I was around her.
She found a ring on the ground one time and jokingly proposed to me, and so we’ve nicknamed each other Wife/Wifey (we’re both girls, and also both not straight)
When Valentine’s Day came around, for some reason she gave me a really nice (and kind of expensive looking) necklace. She also started doing things like holding my hand, and putting her arm around my shoulder and stuff, which I thought that maybe this week I could finally have a chance to confess to her, it just felt so perfect.
The next day, she came to me to talk about this new person she has a crush on and how much they like them. I tried to act cool but the whole time I was trying not to cry.
It’s been a few weeks and ever since then she’s been talking to me way less, hanging out with her other group of friends that she had before she met me. Today I had to each lunch alone (which I always eat with her) trying not to cry because she was talking with her other friends.
I feel hurt not only because I love her and I’m 99% sure she doesn’t like me back but also because she is my only friend and when she’s not there I have nobody to talk to :( | Crushes |
Essentially, I texted this girl for 4 months every day. We live in different countries, bear in mind. I suggested phone calls. She got cold immediately and hasn't replied, nor read my messages since last Wednesday. I don't think she will, either. Guess I'll just count my losses and move on, cause ghosting ain't my style! | Crushes |
So there’s a girl I like who I’m friends with, and I am interested in her, but I have this loud nagging voice in the back of my head telling me to not try anything because he doesn’t want to risk being hurt again.
For some context, I’m in my second year of hs and last year around December I asked out a girl I had a massive crush on and she said no. It fucking destroyed me and left me extremely upset and depressed for a long time. Earlier this year I was talking to a girl who asked me out randomly because she thought I was cute, and then ghosted me shortly after. That one left me depressed for over a week and full of self hatred.
It’s clear to me by now that I don’t react well to heartbreak at all. It tears me down like nothing else can, but I genuinely want to try and be in a relationship, but after 2 failed attempts where both left me miserable and feeling almost nihilistic I’m scared to try, for fear of being hurt again and going back to that level of pain. Because o this level of pain does nothing positive for me, my grades drop, I lose interest in hobbies, i constantly feel like I’ve been robbed of love again, just thinking about it hurts.
It’s come to a point where I was talking about this with the school therapist a few days ago, and I mentioned this fear to her at some point. She sort of rudely said “you can’t let this hold you back, you can’t let the past ruin your future”.
I had an emotional outburst right there as I responded back angrily with “how am I not supposed to feel scared and anxious to develop feelings again?! Do you not remember what happened last year?! I was heartbroken for 5 months over a girl I never even fucking dated!! I was in pain! I wanted love and affection and felt like I was completely robbed of that! Seeing her at school felt like some twisted punishment!! Seeing couples at school made me feel angry and sad! It messed me up for so long, how am I supposed to just forget it and try again!?”
There were a lot of complicated reasons as to why it took so long to get over her, but nevertheless risking being hurt again feels so reckless and makes it look like I’ve learned nothing.
But I’m serious when I say I want to try, I just don’t know what to do to get that extreme fear out of my head. It seems like the natural response to all of this. Better to be safe than risk being in pain is what that nagging voice says. | Crushes |
6 more hours! I'm so excited. I got myself a new outfit, I made him a little portrait. We're going to spend sometime beside the fountain in a local park and I'm so excited 🥺
He texted "Can't wait to see you today 😗" | Crushes |
Will he still see it? If so, was it wrong or mean to unsend it? How much of it will he able to see as a notification on his phone? He has been giving me some stronger flirtatious gestures lately after being uninterested in me, and it would be the last time we interacted with each other due to our scheduling, so I figured I would shoot my shot and dm him. I got a panic attack and 6 mins later, the message was still unopened. I think I sent it at a bit of a later time (10:40pm), but he is pretty active on insta and I am sure he had to have checked his insta at least once before going to bed since he strikes me as that type of person. Advice plsss. Does it mean he is not interested if he does not at least question it?? | Crushes |
ok let's keep it simple, so i put up an instagram note with the text "i love you ❤️", and she replied with the emoji "🥲". so then i sent her a timed picture of a screenshot where it said that it was close friends only; she left me on read. what does that mean? 🤔 | Crushes |
I am a swimmer and so is he and last weekend we were at a meet and for me it was the best opportunity to get to know him better and our coaches take away our phones to spend time with teamates and concentrate on racing so even better. Even before the meet he has been approaching me quite a lot and some teamates even told me "i think he likes you, saw him smiling a loy at you and trying to find a convo topic" but they're like 12 years old so I dont know if I should listen to a couple of tweens. He's very extroverted so he talks to everyone and Im afraid he is like that with everyone but I feel that with me hes a little different. During the meet we went from saying hi to him doing more physical touch like shoulders before racing and him telling me "you got this" and like "wow i saw you swimming fast" and I also complimented him saying "nice IM race" with a fist bump and also I remember walking to leave and I was so concentrated on my phone reading messages I heard him yell my name and I got startled LMAOO and we both laughed and we were both alone so we got some time to talk and he was like "how long have we known each other" and I said "Since last year right?" And he said "Noo, we've known each other longer like since 2018" and I said "Wow I dont really remember" "Really? You dont?" And we kept talking about other stuff but its mostly swim related. He also commented like "damn those tan lines" in a jokingly way. Andd before the meet he was literally LOOKING for me at morning practice when I didnt come and he was like "i was looking for you!!" Hes a year older than me (im 16 and hes 17)
im scared that he might not like me but Im getting feelings and I was staring at him the whole meet💀
Someone please answer, I need second opinions | Crushes |
That has to mean something right 😭 | Crushes |
I've had this crush on this guy that asked me where the restroom was once during school and I don't really know what to do about it. All of my High School crushes have been straight so far or I've been ghosted so I'm feeling pretty over it by now. I really like this guy but I'm not sure what to do I don't even know anything about him besides that he has a class upstairs in the same building as me during the same period. Although I'm over having crushes at this point I still have hope and I wanna take a different approach this time. I wanna talk to him irl but I'm really scared and nervous I don't even know what I would say. Not only am I somewhat scared but I also just don't see him enough and I only have about 3 months left before I graduate so times running out since i'm pretty sure he's a junior and since im a senior I won't see him after this year anymore. I at least wanna be friends w him before the end of the school year and then see where it goes from there if he even likes guys. I'll appreciate any advice anyone has to give!! | Crushes |
So, I’m in my junior year of HS and I have a crush on this one popular guy. I know the populist part may sound very movie esque but popularity unfortunately does matter in my school. He has the typical blonde and blue eyes but we’ve barely even talked. We have three classes together but only talk in one and that was because of our assigned seats (we switched seats so now we don’t talk again). We also ride the same bus and have ever exchanged a sentence there if even. I think about him all the time and always stare at him during class, but if I told my friends they would probably make fun of me (I’m a joking way) but I really cannot handle any criticism lol. Anyways, earlier in the year there was this one rumor where he was dating another popular girl and that made me really jealous, and I always see him talk to another girl on the bus but the item just friend. Even if so, I don’t know what to do. Help! (Please don’t tell me to tell him about my feelings and no he most definitely does not have a crush on me) | Crushes |
Title…this can be a male or female coworker | Crushes |
Okay so in the past few weeks I’ve developed a crush on a new guy at work (We’ll call him S). The problem? (Well one of a few) I am 25f, he’s only 20.
Now he turns 21 in less than two months, and that a 4-5 yeah age gap doesn’t matter too much as an adult, but I can’t help but feel kinda weird about it. I’m getting hung up on the age gap and it’s the main reason I haven’t told any friends about the crush.
Anyways, basically the first day he started working in my office (his desk is kitty corner to mine) I noticed we had some sort of chemistry, like conversation came and followed really easily. That first day and certainly the second he was already sort of teasing and joking with me.
The next week we talked a lot at work. We played a prank on our manager, at one point we started a war in our department throwing nerf darts at each other (the whole department, not just us) and we teamed up to attack our colleagues. At one point one friend hit me directly in the nose with a dart and immediately without even thinking S threw his dart at him, almost in retaliation. That night we also stayed to play pool and the first few games we were on a team and he was trying to teach me to play better, though that didn’t go great cause he was making me flustered and nervous.
I also have kept noticing him glancing back to look at me, and when he catches my eye he’ll make a silly face.
The teasing kept up last week, and we also decided to switch it up and play a bit of a prank with some paper airplanes, and so he taught me to make them and sat super close to me at my desk and our hands kept touching and it was all very nice. That evening I asked if he wanted to stay for a game of pool again, and he was very clearly considering it but ultimately decided he wanted to head home (honestly I think if I pushed it he would have stayed), but as he was heading out he looped back around to stop at my desk again and asked me if I would be in the office the next day.
That next day he shadowed two of my meetings and each time he sat right next to me at my desk, his leg against mine the whole time. After the second meeting he actually just hung out next to me talking while I started on some other work. Then that same day in our afternoon team meeting everyone had their cameras on and I swear at some points he was watching me cause I’d make a face or react to something and he’d notice right away.
Only the first day of this week, and he worked from home today while I was in the office, but we chatted here and there throughout the day, and towards the end of the day he called me in teams for help with some research and we stayed on our call for over an hour. At some points we were even just sitting in silence but it was a nice silence and he made no move to get off the call even though he was falling a little bit behind cause I was distracting him. We talked about work and non-work stuff and at one point I made him laugh super hard which felt nice. We probably would have stayed on the phone even longer but I had to hang up cause I had to leave early for an appointment.
Not necessarily looking for advice or anything, really just sort of wanted the chance to talk all this out, though if you have any opinions or advice I’m happy to hear that too. | Crushes |
Basically since the start of university, we have hung around in a 5, me, my girl mate, and these 3 guys
Anyway 2 of them, are known for being massive players and we just watch them get off with randoms and laugh at them, and yeah I’m just friends with these guys, it don’t bother me
But anyway cause of this, me, my girl mate and this other guy are always left in a 3 in the club! Anyway this other guy is super nice, he’s super geeky and the opposite of them others. Anyway I started liking him, we hung out along a few times, even on Valentine’s Day and spoke a lot! Anyway suddenly he started not liking anything I posted, then turns out, some girl who has a sex tape and is super vile with stuff she says, randomly threw herself at him, now there they are dating, suddenly!
Anyway he’s basically unfriended me and stuff over this! Like wtf, I would expect it from the other dudes, but this was just so random, the fact I’m just cut off now, really hurts me, it’s so uncomfortable now, plus if I hang with my friends, he’s gonna be there possibly with his new gf, that’s gonna get so uncomfortable
I wanna die, both my friendship and heart is broken 😞 | Crushes |
every guy I've liked either reject me or ignore me and finally I found a guy I really liked, I told my friend who was close with him. she was supportive about it, then I found out the next day she made out with him but they were drunk so I was like whatever abt it then just today 5 days after I told her, she tells me she's dating him. She told me they had a sibling relationship and that nothing would happen. I told her I trusted her. And it hurts, she doesn't gaf she apparently can't feel empathy or whatever for people. She keept saying "please don't hate me!" I told her I won't.
I hate her so bad | Crushes |
Heard this so many times but it's not true lol. Gave her a note I thought was cute and honestly was on valentine's day and then a friend asked her what she thought about it today and she said I was weird. Didn't even do anything to deserve that... Worst thing is I helped her out with physics and stuff too and was nice overall | Crushes |
(I’m a trans guy for context)
I met him 3 days ago.
It was closing night for our show and my castmate and friend, R, brought his friend, J, to our last two performances.
He was funny, but at first I had no feelings.
Then the party for closing night started and J was there, he was considered our honorary castmate. Most of us were leaving about three hours after our party started.
I hadn’t cried yet but my best friend and overall favourite person in the cast, S, was leaving and she was crying and I just broke and started sobbing. I was in the washroom hugging her (I have allergies and accidentally ate something with eggs in it and felt like throwing up) and R and J walked in.
J opened his arms for a hug and I basically ran over to him and hugged him, sobbing into his arms. I felt butterflies in my stomach in that moment.
At first I thought it was just because of how emotion I was but just how he looked at me in that moment made me feel something.
He’s really cute imo and nice and I snap back and forth with him. I know I shouldn’t get attached to a guy I barely know, but still. I think I like him.
And he’s a confirmed bisexual so my account username no longer makes sense. | Crushes |
A few months ago I (F, 20) stumbled across a washed-up veteran youtuber (M, 25) with a couple hundred thousand subscribers that I had watched as a kid. Let’s call him Devin. I was pretty young when I watched Devin, about 12 or 13, and at the time he did not make content showing his face, and just made silly little youtube videos with friends but at the time I was obsessed with him. Fast forward 10 years, I noticed that he does livestreams on the platform and decided to watch. I kept watching for a few weeks, commenting here and there, and then decided to send him a dm on twitter. I’m not going to directly quote with the dm said for privacy purposes, but it was something along the lines of “hey :) ur really cute :)” (Cringy, I know) and he replied with something along the lines of “Thank you! That is very sweet!” After this, I became determined to get his attention. I joined his discord server, attempted to dm him on discord, liked his tweets whenever he posted, etc. I also started watching his friend who streams (but has little to no viewers most of the time) as well, let’s call him Arnold.
This is where it gets a little…. weird.
When I started watching “Arnold” who is obviously a much smaller content creator than him, I realized I could use that to my advantage. If the guy I had a crush on wasn’t noticing me because of the constant comments and messages from other fans, maybe I could get his attention through his friend. So my friend (20, F) and I started talking to “Arnold” under the guise of being interested in him. It’s a little mean but it was our best idea at the time. So we became regulars in his streams, commenting, having conversations, etc. During this time I would also watch Devin, message him a lot on discord, and get ignored most of the time or a very dry response from him lol. This part is pretty bad but we would flirt with Arnold just to see how much info we could get about Devin if Arnold trusted us, which he did. I won’t go into details but we went to great lengths to get Arnold on our side. Eventually we got all of the information we could out of Arnold and so we “confessed” to him about knowing who Devin is and that I have a big stupid crush on him, basically seeing if he would be a wingman for me since we were “friends” now. He agreed to this and tried to make Devin talk to both me and my friend but it didn’t work. Also, during this time, we found out that Devin had a girlfriend, he actually also told me this himself, and then they broke up a month later. So anyway, about a week after our “confession”, Devin started to message me, unsent his messages telling me that he had a girlfriend (who was now his ex) and after months of trying desperately to get his attention, he finally seemed interested in me. He started to message me daily, started conversations on his own etc. I had also noticed that he unsent messages about having a girlfriend that he had sent prior. He had told me that he thinks I am very pretty, went along with my jokes, and would subtly flirt. I took this as an opportunity to tell him that I really liked him and thought he was very cute, for real. This is where I think I got rejected. I am changing the exact wording again for privacy reasons but he said something like this:
Your flirting is very cute and you are very pretty, so if you wanna know why I haven’t been responding ALL that much it’s because I just got out of a relationship, and I’m super busy. It’s not because I don’t like you or don’t think you’re cute.
I’ve never been rejected by a guy before and I’m not sure what he’s trying to tell me and whether I should continue messaging him or not if it was a rejection. Help.
Also: Up until this point, most of our conversations consisted of me joking around and slightly flirting, him going along with my jokes, still taking a while to respond, and rarely flirting back. And after he said that^^ I responded and he still has not responded to me (it’s been 2 days) which leads me to believe I have been rejected | Crushes |
I gave her my number and said I'd like to keep in touch when she quits. I don't know when she's quitting. Might be tomorrow might be in 6 months, she never said.
Been a week since then and she hasn't texted me. She's also been sort of dodging me at work, at least it feels that way (though that was a thing before I gave it to her). I've never been weird or anything around her, just trying to make coworker smalltalk, but she seems more excited to be around anyone else. It kind of stings because I think I missed my window. She used to be excitable around me and would laugh at almost everything I said. Out of nowhere she started dodging me so I just figured I should get on with giving her my number, just so it would be said and done.
I have another reason to assume it's a no, but I won't get into it (but to my knowledge she is not seeing anyone, before anyone assumes she's just taken).
May have missed my window but I at least still took the shot. Can't blame a guy for trying amirite? | Crushes |
He was being jokingly condescending and gloating but I swear I fumble my words everytime he smiles.
Is what I'm saying amusing to you? I hope I'm not being annoying or weird. I become word vomit infront of you, do you notice? | Crushes |
been about 2 months since ive started liking my crush, but in that time ive tried talking to him multiple times and have gotten nowhere. i just keep finding myself frustrated with him, and i figure i should just take a step back and stop trying to force anything to move forward. im at peace with it! unfortunately though im obsessing over another guy, who i also do not talk to ._. | Crushes |
So I like this guy, and people say I’m being creepy. He likes me too he’s just not ready to date, and I’ve expected that, and so I said I was gonna wait for him to be ready. My friends make jokes because I told them, and all friends do, but apparently I talk about him too much. All I do is the occasional stare, and sometimes when we held hands, but I only mention it once. Am I being obsessive? | Crushes |
There’s this girl I like and we talk sometimes. Today I gave her a piece of my vanilla cake and she liked it, we also walked together to class and talked. I want to hint to her I like her but idk how. Plus she usually walks with her friends and today they weren’t there so that’s why we walked together. I want to talk to her more but im not sure how. Can anyone help me? | Crushes |
They said that if they were there with me, they would have punched the guy who made me uncomfortable.
IS THIS A GOOD SIGN? | Crushes |
Okay so today he (20M) pulled me (17)F aside again and asked, I was more prepared this time so he says he heard something interesting from a mutual coworker of ours and wouldnt name who, he said alot of people don't know how to keep secrets and he's not like that so he just said to be careful. I can see he was a little nervous during our interaction as well and so was I...I just said yea and what about it then we kept joking back in forth about different stuff, I'm not sure what's gonna happen but we'll wait and see 🥲 | Crushes |
i sent my crush a text like a week ago & they left me on read. i saw them today in class but i pretended like i didn’t see them so i don’t seem desperate. i know they’re not repulsed by me because they always talk to me first and always offer me a ride but i feel like i did something wrong by texting them. english isn’t their first language so maybe that has something to do with it??? am i overthinking it or like what? | Crushes |
TL;DR: I'm depressed and I hate myself.
It's almost comical the way a simple word, just a collection of noises, which we mentally correlate with the abstract idea of nothingness can completely destroy a person's self esteem once applied to an arbitrary scale of attractiveness. All because my friend had asked him what he thought of my appearance.
"A zero," he replied, "but don't tell her I said that."
I don't know if I have some sort of mental issues or if I'm just a disturbed hormonal teenager or what, but my whole sense of self worth was riding on that. That faint hope that he might think I'm at least somewhat pretty. But he doesn't, and now I'm more depressed than I was in the first place. Because I'm always seeking praise and approval. It's the only thing that makes me happy. I'll never get it, though, because I don't do anything for anyone else. So why should I deserve it?
I shouldn't be so upset about this. Everyone likes me because they think I don't care what anyone else thinks. But I *do* care what everyone else thinks. That's **all** I'm ever worried about, in fact. "Does that boy like me," "will that girl be my friend," "did they *really* mean that compliment or are they just making fun of me again," "do your friends really like you or are you just the one they all make fun of," and so on. And now one of the popular boys knows I like him but he thinks I'm ugly and he'll probably make fun of me too.
I've never been really liked back by someone I genuinely loved, aside from one. And anyone I've ever dated has just treated me horribly (aside from that same previously mentioned one). Maybe God is just telling me I'm just not meant to have love. Maybe I don't deserve it. Or maybe I'm just that bad of a person that I'm totally unloveable. It would make sense. I've done a lot of bad things to the people I care about.
And I'm stuck in this cycle: Find a new cute boy to like, obsess over him, hate him virulently when he doesn't like me back, consider murder-suicide, get violently depressed, get apathetic, notice a cute boy doing something funny at school...and the cycle repeats. I bet something's wrong with me. I wouldn't be surprised. I hope something *is* really, seriously, violently messed up about my brain so that way I have an excuse for being such an unloveable freak, and then someone will pity me and finally want to date me.
I don't want to be alive anymore. | Crushes |
He's so gentle with me now. He never used to do that , he's kinda like the dude that treats everyone equal and will say what he wants to you. But i feel like he's choosing his words carefully around me and he stopped picking little arguments with me. He's like asking me about little life updates, and he keeps giving me encouragement like "you can do it, I know you can" and I'm likeee ???? Who are u. We've been friends for 5 years and he's never done that before.
When we get food with our mutuals, He's always picking up my plate and adding more food on it. He's also like not giving me sassy comebacks anymore. We used to banter a lot when gaming and we would actually get mad bro. We were mean af to each other. but now he's like
*sigh* "how can you treat me like this" and he would give me things randomly when we're gaming. It's literally so cute. I'm not mean to him anymore. I stopped doing that once I developed feelings for him and idk if he's feeling something with me too or if he's just being nicer bc I became nicer.
He's also teasing me a lot more and like I'm fighting the urge to play fight him bc we're not dating and that's weird but sometimes I want to pin him down to jab his sides lmao | Crushes |
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