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Uh so I found my crush's Instagram.. I decided to follow him and since it was a private account I had to wait for his approval. A few minutes after I sent the request, I got 5 notifications saying that he accepted it. He followed me back and sent me a message. We started talking, and we were talking about what we were gonna do over the holiday. My crush also confessed to my friend (and got rejected because she wasn't interested,was already dating someone else and knew that I liked him) so he was really upset, I saw that he tried avoiding her, my friend was too nervous to see him so I was with her most of the time. I can tell he's not ready to confess again, but that friend is leaving this term, so after the holidays she wouldn't be here. The day after he confessed though, he started talking to me much more than he usually does. He told me what he was gonna do over the holiday. He doesn't do that with too many people, he's not too much of an open person, even though he's very extroverted. Is this a sign? | Crushes |
It's something so simple, yet I love it so much. We often talk untill bedtime so more often than not I say I am going to bed, and eventhough I am basically asking for it because of me telling her I am going to bed, those goodnight messages makes me feel so warm and happy.
Especially when she calls me by the petname she has more me, so it's like "Goodnight [petname], sweet dreams". That's just the best thing ever honestly. | Crushes |
I (20m) have been getting close with this girl I work with (18f) for a couple months now and I've started to catch feelings. She's known it now for about a week. She's a dancer and had a competition today in a different state. I watched the live streams and have been talking to her all day about it. Before the competition she told me that she competes in it every year and every year they place really well, and they've won the comp more than once. Unfortunately this year they didn't even make the top 10. I felt so bad for her because she knew I was watching. She was crying for a while over it. I did what I could to cheer her up over snap. She comes back home in a day and I want to do/give her something special to cheer her up but I'm not sure how or what. I can't wait to see her again but I want her to feel like I missed her and wanted to make her feel better. The only thing I could think of was a card with a thoughtful message inside but I'm afraid that might be a little too much. Any advice? | Crushes |
Ok!, I know this isn’t entirely relevant but I really need someone else’s perspective. So, I have a gigantic crush on my bff’s brother. I go to her house every weekend for a sleepover to spend time with her, her family and my other best friend. Originally my crush let’s call him Dave. Originally him and I were jokingly mean to eachother but we weren’t that close. But last week at a sleepover at hers we got to know eachother. He was always so cute and a little bit flirty with me idk it was nice but I never had any clue if he liked me or not. I stayed over at hers last night and I was gonna sleep on the couch. Dave and I stayed up late watching kids shows and then tried to sleep on the couch. He asked if we could cuddle and I obviously said yes. All night we cuddled, talked and joked and we didn’t get any sleep. There were some points where he said something like: “nothing wrong with two friends cuddling together” but other times where he said things like “yeah, but that means we’re compatible”. The next day we cuddled and hung out together basically all day highlights include him asking to leave his house me saying ok and then him getting upset about the thought of me leaving, us both admitting to heavily missing eachother all week and him calling me beautiful multiple times. I know to you it may seem obvious but my brain is refusing to accept it. There are just so many doubts. What if he thinks of me like a sister and this is just him treating me like a sister?, what if he was doing this for attention. I have no clue what? Any advice? Any thoughts?
UPDATE: I TOLD MY FRIEND THAT I LIKE HER BROTHER AND SHES OK WITH IT | Crushes |
I’ve been texting this girl that I knew since elementary school for 2 days now and I’m kinda sure she has feelings for me because her text’s aren’t dry when she replies to me and she also replies fast like the most she takes is 5 minutes. additionally she also uses a lot of emojis in our conversations but I’m not sure she likes me because she never texts first | Crushes |
***WARNING- im not sure how to word this so it might be 'all over the place' but if u wanna read, go for it.***
**Also most convos mentioned in this are on text**
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I used to like this boy, let's call him Chad haha. We were friends and we hung out and met up for the first time so that was good. He was so nice, and since i had a crush on him at the time, i was a simp. When i left he gave me a verrrry long hug which i thought was a little strange, and later on he told me it was because he was gonna ask me out but was too nervous. I had stopped liking him before he told me this, but we were still close friends. I decided to set him up with my friend, let's call her Betty. So Betty and Chad are texting, and I'm sorta being the 'messenger'. It was kinda bittersweet for me, as I care a LOT about Chad, and I had forgotten that Betty is a flirty person and Chad gets attached easily.
So all the way through this, Chad and Betty are texting, and I'm texting chad doing t or d. Turns out his biggest regret is not asking me out when he got the chance. He seems to still like me, and when I had a breakdown over the week over smth unrelated, I blurted out that I like him more than a friend. Aaaand he said he liked me as a friend.
Not long after he was mentioning if I ever change my mind and start liking him (?) then he would go along with dating me. But why would he say that if he didn't like me?
Then Betty starts saying 'I kinda like him Im still figuring things out' and he says the same thing. I'm screwed. Even if she doesn't like him, he's virtually in love with her and always says to me 'how's tabs?' and whenever he screws up Im the one who has to convince Betty to forget about it.
What do I do? | Crushes |
I (18M) recently had one of my coworkers (22F) who I think is really beautiful make some comments towards me that sounded very flirty. I honestly really started to think about it and despite being very terrified I'm gonna try to ask her out to something casual on Wednesday (just a dinner and maybe dessert if time). Only major issue is that I have never once been on a date, so I'm honest to God terrified of completely fucking up. I could REALLY use your motivation and/or advice if y'all have any. I'm willing to describe the situation more in PMs if that'd help.
If you read thru all of this, here's a cookie 🍪 | Crushes |
So me and my best friends are planing to set up hangout with just a small group. Which my crush and a few other friends are the guys we invited.
Me and my friends both agreed that we don’t wanna do a big group of people.
So we want to use this as an opportunity to try to get to know all of them better!
But especially me with my crush and my friend with hers!
So, we’re worried that the guys will think it would be weird that it’s just them that we invited. Normally we always hangout with a big group of people with them and invite everyone.
That and it also might seem too much like a triple date kind of thing because it’s 3 girls and 3 guys.
Is there a way we could explain inviting them without it being that way and weird? | Crushes |
I don't really use Reddit, but is 6 year's still considered a crush or love? | Crushes |
I still don't believe it. After falling out of love with her once(or so i say but not really) and then falling in love with her again i honestly thought i was just gonna be a mess again when we stop talking. That never happened tho, I told her how I felt and it just kept getting better from there. My life kinda turned around too and she helped me get through a lot of stuff just by being by my side. I fell more in love with her and somehow she fell in love with me too around that time. Now I'm dating her and can't believe that I get to be with the cutest and most amazing girl ik. Trust me take ur shot, im so happy i did. It might actually turn out better than u expect. | Crushes |
So I had (have?) a crush on this guy. I've liked him for almost 5 years now. He showed signs of him liking e, but we never really got anywhere. I kind of pushed him away because I was too scared to admit my feelings or show any signs. Eventually he stopped talking to me, and with cid and us being in different classes I never talked to him. At the end of school last year he moved away. This past year I didn't see him, but I still kind of missed him and regretted my decisions.
This summer I was at my sister's friends house and his older brother was there. I got super excited and thought maybe he was visiting for the summer. (I haven't seen *him* yet though). A few weeks later,I randomly checked my school directory and saw they updated it. I searched my crush's last name, and his brother was there! I checked my old school directory (my sister still goes there) and he was listed! This means he probably moved back.
My problem is, how do I see him and possibly rekindle anything that was there before? We go to different schools but our schools are next to each other. There's a chance I'll see him around town but I don't know if I'll actually talk to him. We were never really friends, but we talked sometimes and were somewhere between classmates and friends. I would feel slightly awkward going up to him, but maybe I would.
TL;DR: My crush moved back to my town, but he goes to a different school. There's a good chance I'll see him, but I don't know how to talk to him. (We were never exactly friends, but we talked more than just average classmates. Plus he showed signs of liking me) | Crushes |
lolll tbh this experience made me sad at first but now it's kind of funny.
so I have a crush on a guy at work, and we've been working together for quite some time now, so we know each other pretty well as coworkers.
i saw him a bit later during my shift today and i got a bit happy cause i like seeing him. and he came by the area that i was working at. he had to do a certain task which required him to be up close to my workstation.
and so he was going to walk past me, and i decided it would be a good idea to say hi once he was closer. (he said hi to me out of the blue a while back so i wanted to return the gesture loll). he was getting closer and i, being the awkward mess that I am, just kept on looking up at him hesitantly.
and then when i finally said hi to him, he, unfortunately, didn't say anything back. now, i don't quite remember if he made eye contact with me, so because of that, i ended up thinking that i said 'hi' too softly. so i decided to give it another chance if he came back around.
he eventually did come back around, and when he was coming close to me again, i just went ahead and said his name. he paused and looked back at me, and then i said 'hi' a bit more clearly (i hope?) and he ended up just looking away from me (IGNORED AGAIN BRB CRYINGGG) once i said that. but then i said 'how are you' and he said 'good how are you' while looking somewhere else.
lol i don't know what to think of the whole thing tbh. (also, after that happened, a couple minutes later, i could see from the corner of my eye that he faced back to look at me quickly and then looked away ha). i'm not sure why he ignored me. any advice about why a guy would ignore a girl like in this scenario would be great. (lol idk this whole thing is just kind of funny but also weird) | Crushes |
So, in December of 2021, I started messaging this guy on Instagram. I'll call him John. Me and John got along quite well We had pretty much everything in common. He was charming and I was able to have effortless conversation with him. Everything with him was easy. I genuinely think that's the most certain I've felt about a relationship in my entire life.
We met in person and everything was awesome. We planned our second date for later in the week. Then, the day before our second date, John said that he didn't think we should meet. He explained that he didn't think he was mentally well enough to be in a relationship at that point in time. Later in that conversation, he added that he had not gotten over his ex-girlfriend and said that he couldn't be a good boyfriend for me at that time.
I told him I had very strong feelings for him and that I needed time away from him to heal. He said that was fine and we didn't speak for a few weeks until after New Year's. I ended up messaging him again and we got to talking once more. After a week or so I told him I just couldn't do it, the feelings were too strong, and that I needed to TRULY distance myself. He understood and told me to take my time, he didn't mind.
So, I didn't talk to him until May, where I told him that I was sorry for being a little weird toward the end of December. He said he appreciated the apology, but I didn't respond back because, frankly, I forgot to lol. But then a couple weeks ago I remembered I had left him on read, so I messaged him back.
I told John how I had forgotten to respond and we got to talking. The same amazing connection we had immediately reignited. I remembered why I liked him so much back in December. He's just so funny, he shares so many of my own thoughts, it's almost like I'm talking to myself sometimes. It's nice. I feel understood and I feel a very strong bond with him. I have never felt this way about any of my previous partners. This is different.
A few nights ago, we were texting and we started talking about romance. He mentioned that he had recently started dating again, but was quick to add he was only dating casually at the moment. I told him how I doubted the legitimacy of most of the people around here (we live in the middle of the redneck goonies so most of the guys around here are gross), telling him he was the only guy I'd had a genuine, intelligent conversation with in a long time. Later in the conversation, he said that he was happy in life, but felt he was "off" when it came to romance. He said that it seemed he could never get dating right and that he might need more time to work on himself if he wants to find something that will stick.
This is the type of guy I want to be with. I have struggled to find a match for a while, I've dated many people before, and none of them match how comfortable and happy I feel when talking to him. But because of our past "talking-stage" in December, and his comments about him feeling off when it comes to romance, I'm not sure how to proceed- if I should at all. It's an awkward subject to broach for sure. I just don't want to get myself hurt again for no good reason. I feel like I have a good shot and that there's a pretty good chance he feels the same way, but you never know with these things.
Additionally, he's about to move away to college in about two weeks. However the college isn't even an hour drive away, and he would end up back in our home town every weekend, so this shouldn't be too big of an issue. At least, it isn't for me. Also, I was in the same grade as him, but I am homeschooled and am behind due to previous mental health issues that occurred a couple years ago, so technically I am still a senior in high school. I plan to go to college next fall semester at the same college he is going to attend. I wanted to go to this college before even meeting him, so that is not the reason why I am going.
TL;DR - Me and John briefly dated for a week or two back in December but randomly 180'd when he said he wasn't over his ex and couldn't be a good boyfriend for me. We stopped talking for several months (except for a one-time message from me, an apology). Now we are talking again and my feelings are back and stronger than ever. | Crushes |
So I met her via my friends at my old school (she was also at that school) so I knew her name who she was basically.
A couple weeks after I had met her i was going outside of school for a smoke and she was there too (she also smokes) and I asked if i could borrow her lighter just to get a conversation going.
So we had a bit of small talk and I got her snapchat etc.
But I havent talked to her since and since its summer break as well i didnt have a chance at school to do so.
My question is since I Will be going to another school next summer how do i start a conversation with her and of you guys have other advice regarding this matter pleas help.😀 | Crushes |
And we don’t talk too too often since we are restaurant people and he is FOH and I’m BOH, but I love when he’s at work. He kind of used to be the joke of the kitchen amongst older staff (when I had first started) but when I learned the staff more, I actually realized what the cooks found annoying was actually just him being charismatic and accommodating to his coworkers and guests and that was just such a game changer for me. I never found him to be a “joke” or anything, but even he used to tell other coworkers in the restaurant that he felt the kitchen didn’t like him because they picked on him.
I’m not really sure how or when it happened, but he and I always converse even just in passing nothing too serious. But he knows he can come to me and ask me questions or for something and I will more than likely do my best to accommodate /him/ and his requests. I think that made him comfortable and he started to open up more and now the current staff kinda “picks” on him just bc we know him to always be the guy w funny requests but it’s never hurting his feelings.
He’ll come into work and I’ll just make a “big deal” out of it and make sure he feels welcomed and in a good mood because I do like his personality a lot and he’s just a good person. I wanna get to know him a little more but I’m not sure how…
Today I was leaving work and I go on a vacation for a few days. I told them not to have too much fun without me and he was all “Why?! Where are you going?!” And when I told him I would be gone a few days, he was like “aww well have a good time and enjoy yourself!” And left it at that… I also handed him some food to go on the sly and he was so smiley and just happy about it. It’s nice to have someone appreciate the work you do.
How should I go about maybe just… befriending him outside of work? 😬
TLDR: I work with a guy who is a very nice coworker to be around and I just enjoy his company when he’s at work. How could I possibly get to know him outside of work if we kinda work different “departments” (so to speak) and I don’t wanna make it awkward… | Crushes |
I met a guy on tinder, we right swiped each other, flirted and all and later figured out he dissapeared. I don't know if he got all busy and deleted his account as whole or he just didn't want to keep the conversation going just unmatched me. We both are on medical fields, doing our JR, so i hope he got all busy( but it doesn't mean people get busy 24×7 , right?) I didn't have any feelings right then.
He also had mentioned about not telling my friend who studied in his university as his classmate that he is in a dating site. I had asked my friend if he has any girlfriend, she said no.
Fast forward to like 3 months, I got into Instagram and figured he had sent a friend request. He's not the popular handsome but he's the charismatic handsome and heard from my friend that many girls in his college have a crush on him. He would like all my pictures and see all of my stories and sometimes reply to my stories and sometimes he would comment under my post. When in replying to my stories, we would exchange some replies and he will make sure I was the one who send the last msg. I was always left hanging . I know this is stupid. But he has got my hopes up and he will go poof. And somehow like this, I had started having a major crush. When I thought he's not into me, he would send a text and when my hopes are up, he will vanished and it's frustrating. I would want to know if all guys do this. Because somewhere I could feel he's interested. | Crushes |
So i’ve just gone to a summer school thing my school does and in my group for extra classes there are these two really cute guys. On one hand he’s really attractive and seems really extroverted and popular. Idk how i’m supposed to talk to him when he’s so popular and i’m basically the opposite and since he has so many people around then all the time i can’t really talk to them without getting really really nervous even though like a lot of people there are LGBTQ+ and i’m kinda scared to get rejected or made fun of. Also the fact ik nothing about his identity just like small Tim bits is making me anxious. I’d love for some advice. | Crushes |
i will see her On Monday i missed her So much cant wait to see that face❤️ and her Beautiful Smile | Crushes |
him and I have been dating for 5 months. he asked me out after hanging out for three months. I just said yeah anyway even though I don't feel the same way. i just think its entertaining to hang out with this guy, since I don't really have many friends. last night it was awkward, because he tried to kiss me, and I slowly backed away. he looked at me strange for doing that and I feel awkward when he hugs me. | Crushes |
For me, I’ve had 3 major ones and then some were more minor or were celebrity crushes. My first crush, I never asked out, while 2 and 3 rejected me. | Crushes |
I've just found out my best friend likes my crush. He is friends with her but I never assumed he liked her, what should I do if anything at all? | Crushes |
Wut | Crushes |
Ever since i started working at my job there's been this super cute girl I have a major crush on. I wasn't rlly gonna do anything abt it but then like a few weeks later this other co worker comes up to me and she said her friend wondered if I was single. My mind started spiraling. The only girl that has rlly been extremely friendly and had cute giggles with Me was the one I had a crush on, so in my head I believe my crush is the one that wondered if I was single. But like wtf do I do now lol. I was thinking I could just go upto her and ask if she's single, but then imagine if she's not the one that asked, boy would that be awkward. I guess I'm just looking for advice. Should i just go up to her and ask if she's single regardless of the outcome or should I stay quite and be a anxious coward lol? | Crushes |
I feel that because I'm so shy, maybe the guy that used to find me interesting is now at his wit's end. There were days he would flirt ie make eye contact, be around me, would help me around when I needed it... and now... I don't know... There was a point in time when he called me cute as well. I feel so disappointed in myself that I couldn't get to know him more. I feel that time has passed and that I might be too late to try and make him interested again... Nothing... I wished that I had the courage back then to make eye contact, as well. I wish I had the courage to make him fall for me as I did with him...
He has the deepest and the most intimate of eyes I've ever met. His eye color although ordinary is filled with stories that I wouldn't like to hear. His voice- oh, his voice, literally melts my heart. A very outgoing person, someone I would've never thought in a million years would've paid attention to me. I feel like such a fool, because now that time is passing by I'm forgetting what it used to be like to be around him. I liked every sweet moment we had together. I even hope that things will end up changing, even though nothing in my life ever comes out that way. Once a person is gone, they're gone for good.
So, maybe I want to write this as a goodbye, in a way... I've tried my best to get his attention back, but I don't think it's enough. The only thing I can do is straight up tell him how I feel or ask him for his social media ( basically the same thing as confessing)... And, I don't know how I feel about doing that knowing that- for one we work together. If he ends up rejecting me it would turn out awkward and would be hell going to work. I'd still have to forcibly see him unless I make the decision to quit.
I want your advice, what should I do? | Crushes |
I met this girl recently and she's absolutely wonderful but I'm being careful from falling head over heals (which feels good for once) I think she's kinda the same way about catching feelings she honestly is a bit of a recluse so getting just meet her was difficult but I didn't give up and yeah here we are but ever since we have started hanging out I legit just don't care about talking or flirting with any other women and idk if that's a bad thing or good? What do y'all think? 🤔 | Crushes |
pls be honest (ik many of y’all use it as an excuse to text him/her again)
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im not going to get into many details, just the situation. we've known eachother for three years; he's so easy to talk to and the best part of my day, but he already has a boyfriend. turns out he had a pretty big crush on me sometime last year and i admitted that i also had feelings for him at the same time and he joked that we could've dated.
i thought id gotten over these feelings but i guess i just buried them somewhere. what i did not say was that i still had those feelings. in my defense, i was surprised when he told me that and my heart started beating so fast that my hands started shaking violently.
lads, what should i do? i want to be totally honest with him because he's my best friend and i trust him, but at the same time he does have a boyfriend so it might be in everyone's best interest if i just keep it to myself. thoughts? | Crushes |
Recently I've noticed my crush has given me more attention, greeting me more, talking to me more, and I even saw her in the corner of my eye staring at me once, however I didn't look back until she turned away. Does this mean anything? | Crushes |
A baby came over to her house the other day while we were talking online. We eventually came to babies, and we agreed it would be nice to have a baby with each other. Does this mean anything? | Crushes |
I'm in the mood of wanting to kinda talk and answer stuff about my crush, so ama! | Crushes |
Be serious about this ik people make jokes in the comments | Crushes |
well what she did was a form of assault. she should've not done that in the first place. but many people disagree. what do you think? I would be creeped out if someone I barely knew tried to deep throat me with their tongue. | Crushes |
Whenever I walk by her or stand next to her, she always greets me, even when I’m not intentionally facing or talking to her. I also get the feeling she always tries to start a conversation with me as well. Thoughts? | Crushes |
Okay so shortly we take the same bus, she looks cute so I want to talk with her, I was thinking about sitting next to her but if there are other free seats than that would be wierd, so it depends really on luck. Any other idea? | Crushes |
During the day
I dream of the time
You
Will get me to confess
Because at night
Dreams of us keep me awake | Crushes |
It's not like i don't have the opportunity but we are just school friends and it would be weird. Now my question is: should I tell him abt my feelings BC I can't lose anything or should I try to move on. | Crushes |
He doesn't even know that I like him over 2+ years now. I just feel terrible. How can I get over this shit...(already tried drinking (didn't work)) | Crushes |
I am a nursing student and I’m currently working in a nursing home for elderly folks. There are like two wards, stations? idk what to call it but after spending some time on of the stations which was horrible, I switched to the other one where everyone was extremely nice, and everything was so much more relaxed and so on. Ofc the colleagues were nicer too. And there he was (for the sake of anonymity I’m just gonna call him T.) T., tall, blond, maybe a tiny bit more older than me,really dreamy eyes and funny. The first day we worked together I was quite shy, really shy but since we’re both smokers, he’d always ask me if I’d like to come outside with him and smoke, so that way we ended up talking a lot. Tbh it was more me listening to him talk bc like I said I’m quite shy lol
Something he did, even before that was, I was watching my supervisor do something medical with a patient and he snuck up behind me and just poked my sides, fyi I’m really skittish, especially by touch, I like jumped and he thought it was hilarious, and I didn’t mind, I slapped him on the shoulder and that was it, but it just immediately broke the ice between us and we got along right away:)And now he does it almost everyday.
We make a lot of jokes together when we work, like I said he’s really funny.
I tried to use the breaks to find out more about him, so he does have friends but what seems to be no girlfriend, since he also told me he lives alone. He mentioned an ex once but thats it.
But now I’ve got corona and only seen him once this week, what if this ruins the connection we have?
You know I get crushes easily, but this feels different, usually I just think someone’s hot and then forget about them as soon as they’re gone, but him.. I seem to think about him 24/7, and have butterflies in my stomach when I remember how he looks at me. I could really imagine a good and stable relationship with him.
And some might probably think but relationships at the workplace aren’t ok, which yes BUT 1. it’s not like I’ll neglect my patients when I work with him, I still do my job and 2. like I said I’m a nursing student and this nursing home isn’t my actual employer, I’m employed in a local hospital and only working in that nursing home for a certain amount of time for experience and will leave mid august (maybe i get to work there longer after my vacation because of the quarantine which I hope cus T. works there :)) after that we’re technically not colleagues anymore, so it’ll all be good right?
If anyone has any advice how I might get closer to him feel free to share:) | Crushes |
I have been going out with a girl for some time now, we're not in a relationship, but I'm almost 100% sure she likes me. I have a feeling a kiss needs to be the next step in our "relationship". I had some moments before where I wanted to kiss her and also some moments where, after the fact, I thought "oh I think she wanted to kiss me at that moment". A couple of problems:
1. This will be my first kiss ever so I will be very nervous and probably bad.
2. I am afraid that I might have read too far into it and she won't want to kiss me back.
3. As a follow up to point 2, I want to have her consent but I feel like if I will ask directly it will ruin the moment.
Any tips on how to handle this? Thanks in advance :) | Crushes |
He likes sexy girls, colored hair, bikini girls... Do you guys think he’s gonna date a vintage or simple girl?
Idk I may have an answer for it, but what if the girl he choose to like or date was different from the girl he choose to marry? | Crushes |
There's this girl at my school which I've liked for a couple of months. We don't share many classes together, I guess you could say we're acquaintances. Some progress that I've made is that we follow each other on instagram and we've exchanged a couple of sentences on there and irl. But there are a few problems:
1. I am a very shy person when it comes to talking to people who i don't often talk to, and
2. She is always with her friend group so i could never just randomly go up and say hello for example.
This fall I'm starting my junior year of hs and I'll try to be more social with everyone around me, so I'm planning on just having some small talk whenever there's a chance, but I'm not very experienced when it comes to having small talks. We kinda have the same interests but I'm very bad at speaking with other people and i don't know her very well. How do i approach her without it being weird, random and out of nowhere? Any advice is appreciated, thanks for reading! | Crushes |
So yesterday I was curious because my crush has a boyfriend and I wanted to ask her if she didn’t have a boyfriend if she would even give me a chance, so she basically said “if you lived closer to me and I was single yes I would give you a chance I just don’t do good with long distance relationships”. to be honest I don’t know what to think about it but I really would maybe like some advice about it | Crushes |
Soooooooo I’ve seen a few people with fictional crushes so I wanna see ‘em!😁 | Crushes |
Helicopteeer helicopteeer… | Crushes |
Me and my family are going to a mall tomorrow to buy some school stuff, and when I told her this, she said she could come along!!
For context, she’s in the area as she’s here for summer vacation. (She’s usually far away normally; we mostly talk online) We’ve tried meeting each other for almost,, the whole duration she’s been here, but due to circumstances such as COVID (and… my mother 😅😅) we have not been able to do so… TvT
Now, she just told me that she was willing to go all by herself just to meet me 🥺🥺 and it’s just… so dang sweet!! 😭😭 she told me she had GIFTS for me too!!!
It’s just absolutely unbelievable how much she wants us to be together… I have not been able to do so (because of the circumstances above) but the one chance that she could and she just went for it immediately after I told her and that is just soo **heartwarming** and sweet… I’m literally the luckiest guy alive yo 🥺🥺🥺💗💗
I really can’t wait to meet her,,, I hope everything goes well. We’ve met each other once already and it was amazing!! To experience that again would be heaven ^^0^
I’ve been head over heels for her for more than a year already, and she still continues to light up my world each and every single day.
🥺🥺 guys I adore her so much she is a literal angel i will cherish her my whole life | Crushes |
Please don't ignore me, this is my first question on reddit and English is not my first language, so sorry for my mistakes.
I am a 22 years old girl and I like a 23 years old guy, I've known him for about a year and a half and his and my family are close, I have the feeling he likes me but he acts like he doesn't and it confuses me, I'm going to write some of the things I've notice he has done and that people say could be signs a guy likes a girl, I must say that his dad has said he is very shy when he likes a girl and doesn't talk to her.
I've noticed him staring at me when I'm not looking, once I almost made eye contact on accident and he quickly stopped looking, my mom has caught him staring at me, she told me he does it when he thinks no one is noticing, and when I'm not looking, once he stared like three times for about 6 seconds or more each time and even inclined his chair to keep staring at me, I pretended I didn't see, and no, there wasn't anyone behind me, there was just a wall.
When we make eye contact he looks for a second or two longer than usual and I see something in his eyes, like he looks at me differently but I don't know how to explain it, his eyes look shiny, it's like he is looking deep into my eyes or like he's trying to tell me something, idk.
He smiles when I laugh, and he giggles, like laughs softly when I say some things that are not funny at all, like once someone asked me if I wanted coffee and I said no, thank you, and he imitated me, said "no" and giggled, he also giggled once when we were greeting each other with hug.
Also, the people who are close to him have teased him with me.
He also fixes his hair when I'm around, last time he checked himself in a mirror twice and fixed his hair after I came to the place.
He often wanders around the room and comes closer to where I am and starts a conversation with the people around me.
He touched my arm after we hugged (greeting) he grabbed my upper arm and then he ran his hand through it. He also notices stuff I'm wearing or about my appearance that are not easy to see.
We sometimes all of a sudden stare at each other and maintain eye contact for like 5 seconds till I break it, we don't talk to each, only a few times have we talked to each other and it's only a few words, he has never been in a relation and me neither, and I'm shy.
But a week ago I started following him on Instagram as a way to start getting closer to him, I want us to be friends, but he hasn't follow me back, so I'm doubting he likes me but there's still this feeling that he does like me, but I don't know, I'm confused... Could you please shy men help me? I'm already a bubbly person and he smiles and laughs a lot but when we say hi to each other neither of us is smiling very much, is like we're concentrating on each other's eyes. I don't know what to think or do. | Crushes |
She's not exactly a crush, but still. I've always had shitty luck with girls, and I thought I finally found someone. I had a huge crush on this girl since November, and I asked her to prom back in June and she said no. She didn't know I was asking her out, she thought I was asking her as a friend. Turns out she's the most oblivious person I know. After that broke my heart, I got really high and went on a rant to my friend, and she said "Hey you remind me of my old friend". She told me more about her and she gave us eachothers snaps, and we started talking. She was interested in me at first and she was gonna go to prom with me, but we met in person and she decided I wasn't really for her. She also had work on prom night and she didn't show up. We pretty much stopped talking after that, but we ran into eachother at a party a while ago and at the fair the other day. She asked if I would go on a ride with her to comfort her, and I did. She was very apologetic and she seemed to overexplain herself like you would around someone who makes you nervous. She also patted me on the back after I threw up because of a ride she made me go on. I don't think she likes me though, and neither does my friend who set us up. I'm not really heartbroken or anything, but I think she's fucking beautiful and she has a great personality. She's very witty and sarcastic just like me.
How can I keep her in mind without trying too hard? | Crushes |
Soo one day my friend told me that she was kinda into this one dude, but the thing is, I was kinda into him too. I was only just a lil interested but the more she kept talking about him, the more I fell for him. Whenever she made eye contact with him and told me about it, I remember I made eye contact the same time she did as well. I kept telling myself that I didn't like him and it would go away, but we both just kept making eye contact and I even talked to him a little.
One day, during a Sports Carnival, my friend told me that she hadn't seen her crush much, since he wasn't in the same house colour as her, but I'm in the same house colour as him. During the sports festival I kept looking at him, and during the obstacle race he couldn't join because there were too many kids, so I gave him a sour patch kid to help him feel better.
My friend told me she hadn't made any eye contact at all with him and was sad, but felt better because she kinda talked to her crush #2. After the sports carnival we both kept looking and lingering onto eachother. My friend said that she didn't really like him anymore, but she also said that she didn't know whether she liked him or not. I don't know whether to tell her. I don't want us to break us up because of a boy but I just like him so much. | Crushes |
So I’m I guy and there’s this girl at my work I’m really starting to like but I think she’s shy to tell me she likes me back or maybe I’m overanalysing this but I’ll tell you what’s happening between us and see what you guys think.
We constantly tease each other at work and I’m confident she only does it to me to that level. We are friends and even had a conversation to reassure each other that we don’t actually mean to nasty stuff we say to each other.
One of her friends asked me if I was interested in a relationship with her and she remained quiet I don’t know if she got shy about it because I got shy when asked. I don’t know if he only asked because I happened to be close by.
She stands really close to me when I talk to her and I remember a coworker said she wanted to hug me but to shy to ask for it but I think this was random from my coworker.
She acknowledges me often at work and asks how I’m doing and does little trivial favours for me and I do for her as well and she says stuff like “what would I do without you” when I help her and I say the same.
She tells me she often rejects guys who ask her out.
The other day she said she loved me but it was in a sarcastic tone but I told her I love her too before in a sarcastic tone but I think she meant as friends.
There is more well but what do you guys think? I’m I really bad at reading signs or it’s just playful banter between me and her? | Crushes |
**Backstory:** I have a major crush on this girl. Great conversations, vibes were nice, common interests and all that. Of course I had to develop feelings and it's safe to say that I never had such strong feelings for a girl. I thought she liked me too... So one day I told her about my feelings and had high hopes, since the signs were there - and got rejected. I was left confused and really really hurt. That was months ago. I still don't know how I read the signs wrong since they were pretty obvious.
*(I'm one of those who are very considerate and picky when it comes to girls. Gotta play eeevery scenario in my head, which includes possible futures (and ofc fantasies) with her and I straight up fell in love with that idea - so that made the pain even worse.)*
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**Today:** We managed to stay friends, although our relationship has been damaged throughout the process of stabalizing it. It'll never be the same and on some days it bothers me very much, on others less.
I'm thinking about intalling a dating app (which hurts my HIMYM-heart) and meet new girls, even though I really need much time to warm up to somebody new. Until then I'm working on my mental health and body. Trying to avoid thinking of my crush too often or fantasizing about her, results are more or less successful.
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**Let's talk about what bothers me:**
The less successful part. My thoughts sometimes turn into "You are not good enough"-thoughts + My brain automatically clicks to creating pictures of her with other guys (even though she said she's not ready for that). Now I'm not controlling or anything, it's her choice and who am I to judge her or take her freedom of seeing other men and be happy. But it makes me jealous and I hate that feeling.
When I say "pictures" I mean imagining her in bed doing the deed, walking hand in hand, having romantic dates and all that - knowing that I am not as good as this guy (who probably doesn't even exists?? Brain please). This really frustrate me and after months I still happen to have feelings for her. After all she is still... her.
Currently I am trying to use these feelings to workout or go for a run. Works just fine, for a few minutes. Until brain does its thing and adds more details to those pictures and \*hop\* you can see me running another extra round, coming home totally exhausted. Well it sure trains my body since I never got to run that long at a consistently rather fast pace (for me).
Of course I try to avoid those thoughts and pictures for my own sake and sanity. But they keep coming back. There is some progress, it doesn't hurt as much as it did first, but it still hurts.
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That's it. That's where I am right now. No happy ending yet. No idea if that works. No idea if that's healthy or the right way.
**TL;DR:** Got rejected by a major crush months ago, emotionally hurt, for whom I still have feelings. Trying to recover with more or less success.
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If you've been or still here before: how did you deal with rejection? What is your advice? | Crushes |
What are your thoughts on unrequited love? Have you experienced this on either side as the lover or the not loved one?
I was watching this video by Matt Hussey https://youtu.be/MrRnObGzd-c and the way he puts it I connect to. But at the same time I find it hard myself to be like I like this person and I'm going all in on them, so it's hard to think someone would do that in return. | Crushes |
The last few months have been the most confusing of my life and I just can’t understand anything. So I (15M) have liked this girl (15F) who we will call Emma, for a very long time. And a few months ago she said that I was a good guy and if she was any other girl then she would 100% date me but she just wasn’t ready. And as anyone would, I took that as maybe she might date me in the future even tho I knew in my mind that she didn’t like me and just didn’t wanna hurt me. I understood and after that we didn’t really talk much. Until we hung out again, we always hang out in a group of me, my friend, my cousin and Emmas friend, and everything went normal. Just a normal friend hang out. Nothing special at all. I was a bit confused how chill she was being friends after I told her I liked her and she kinda rejected me. We then met up again today, with the same group, and as usual It was the same basic hangout. No signs at all that she likes me or anything. But she continued to mention hanging out again and even sleeping over one day (with the group). I’m just confused cause I think she knows I’m still super into her but I know she doesn’t like me anymore. Like yeah she wants to be friends but sleepover? I just don’t understand. Hellllpppp | Crushes |
guys i had a crush on a girl since 6th standard. she always use to see me. but nowadays she always ignores me .now im in 9th standard she is in different section .I have a strong crush on her .what should I do. | Crushes |
Hey guys, I (21F) have a crush on a guy and I confessed it to him (21M) . But he is already in a relationship for damn 8 yrs!!!!!
It broke my heart.. but after that we began to chat like friends and now he see me as his bestestest friend. He shares each and everything to me thats happening in his life. I like him soo soo much actually my feelings for him is increasing day by day even though I know he has a gf.
Nd im sure that he likes me as a bestfriend only. I like to hangout with him and he too said that he likes to spend time with me.
Wht should I do right now? I don't wanna break our frndship and also I can't forget my feelings for him :( | Crushes |
So basically, I have been feeling a bad vibe around my crush and I. we used to talk a lot at work, I always hugged her all the time (EVERYTIME I c her). But after her bff started working with us she became more distant from me, and I barely talk to her, all she does is look at me or say hi. And if they do stop talking she’s always busy with other things, so I can’t even make up a conversation with her. AND WHATS MORE I BARELY HUGG HER ANYMORE!! (FYI if it isn’t obvious im the type of person who shows their love through physical touch)
I really wanna talk to her more but I also don’t know what else to say, it’s always just like
Her: how r u
Me: been good
😑😑 Wut is wrong with me!!
(This is also bcuz I feel like I’ve told her almost everything about myself) | Crushes |
I(17) have a crush on a girl(17) that goes to group classes with me after school. We both go to different schools but live quite close to each other. We've been talking for the past 6 months and gotten quite close. Ive also recently come to notice that she also likes me back. Friday morning (30 Jul) I asked her a question on whatsapp but at the time of this post which is about 36 hours after sending the message, no response. I've seen her online maybe 5 or 6 times since I sent her that message. I dont remember saying anything that would offend her or anyone. Maybe she is busy with school work that was sent on whatsapp by a teacher? But that also makes me wonder how she has had no time to reply in these many hours of her possibly doing work. Maybe she forgot to reply to me. What do I do in this situation? | Crushes |
I wanted to hand it to him yesterday night, but he was surrounded by a group of friends so i put it in his bag when i left
We won't see each other for a few weeks so i wrote "if you're bored hit me up :)". We talk and laugh a lot when we're alone so i hope he's interested as well!
I haven't heard anything yet though, maybe he hasn't seen it yet
Just a rant, i had to tell someone because i keep obsessively checking my phone every 10 seconds hahahaha | Crushes |
I have to be honest! I’m a lesbian and I work with her in the bar scene (our bars are conjoined by a door in the same building but not the same company, so I see her very Seldomly) and there is this woman here that is so attractive, gorgeous quite frankly! I feel as though there is some sexual tension here and I just want to make sure I’m not in my head!:
I once wanted to know if she was single one day but told her I was just the messenger though she still started to blush and smile immensely....the following day she was leaving in passing, stopped me and asked who the person was and I admitted it was me which again followed her response as a smile and blushing and the kicker is; I would think if someone wasn’t interested they would shut it off right then and there y’know?
Following days goes by, she doesn’t work but when she does...I see her again in passing to leave and we talked the most we’ve ever have for about 15 minutes which I think is a lot especially for 1. Her leaving soon and 2. Us not working in the same physical bar.! I digress so as we were talking I brought of the fact of her being okay with me being the person to know if she was single and she said, “Not a problem!”
As our discussion went I made her laugh and vise versa, she told me I look lovey tokay with my outfit (which is crazy because her and I both wear black), I mentioned she looked very cute today...we smiled, looked me up and down, she told me when she works next, we said our goodnights and went our ways!!
So nowww!.... I want to talk to her more and I want to ask her how does she feel about me so I don’t think I’m in just in my head but how would I?! | Crushes |
I (23) met my crush (24) through an online school event. It has been 10 months since that event and I still like him. Especially when I saw him in person 2 months ago.
My friend who knows him since high school told me he is an introvert and that he usually doesn’t initiate conversation but when we saw each other on a face-to-face event, he was the one who talked to me first, saying “It’s nice to finally meet you” in front of a lot of people.
He is a very nice person and is very much focused on academics. I fear that I may have misinterpreted things but I want to have a good night’s sleep (since I haven’t had any from that day from 2 months ago).
His birthday is approaching and I made him a letter. It will be sent via email.
Everyday I read the letter and everyday I have modifications. I’m afraid that I am too subtle, or I am too aggressive.
AND IF I SHOULD PUT A HEART EMOJI ON THE COMPLIMENTARY CLOSE PART AFTER MY NAME HAHAHAHAHAHA
Need Ideas on how I should tell him I like him. Subtle/Aggressive phrases are welcome | Crushes |
I have been talking with my crush for three years and just a few minutes ago she sent me pictures of her thighs and asked how they look and she even said earlier today how good I am at kissing and at at bed I’m so happy right now! | Crushes |
Ok so i messaged him on insta and said that his acc came up on my fyp and i asked if we met at the ---- audition, and this is how the convo went after I asked that
Crush: omg yesss hru?
Me: I'm good thankss wbu?
Then he saw my message and left me on read and it's been 18 hours.. maybe I should've asked him "are u going to go to ----uni or do u have other plans?"
Now I messed up everything :/ | Crushes |
Picture this situation, I am a sophomore in Highschool in Colorado and I’ve liked this girl for a couple of months. The girl is friends with someone that is like my cousin. She comes up to me and asks me out and I say sure. Then a couple days later when I ask her for her info like snap so we can talk, she says she’s not ready for a relationship. Now everyone tells me it was a joke but every time I ask her and my “cousin”, they deny that it was a joke, but everyone keeps insisting that it was a joke. This hurt me pretty bad and I believe what everyone says and when your crush asks you out as a joke, you can imagine how bad that must feel. What should I do and what are your thoughts on the situation? | Crushes |
So basically this girl was in my friend group sophomore year and we both mutually liked each other. But eventually that led to nothing and she kinda left the group because it was awkward.
Fast forward to junior year of high school she is back in our group and we are really good friends but honestly I started to like her again but I decided to try to push my feelings down because I knew she didn’t feel the same way about me.
So we stayed really good friends and we kept in touch when we both moved college. But there is just like something about her that can’t get out of my mind. It’s just like she is always in my head and u am thinking about her. It was really hard during college to not think about her because she is like absolutely perfect.
Cut to present day, I am trying really hard not to like her. Just because I really appreciate the friendship we have and I think that friendship is really valuable to me and I would hate to ruin that. But it’s just her being herself, I literally can’t get over how much I adore her and her little mannerisms and quirks.
We joke about it all the time saying we are basically the same person but just I’m a guy and she’s a girl. But it’s the way she smiles or the way she’ll laugh at my jokes. The way I know what she’s thinking in that exact moment because I am thinking the same thing. These little things are just chipping at me when I am trying so hard not to fall in love with her.
Even tonight, the reason why I wanted to vent about this is because we were talking and we started to say how if we were to date it would just be too perfect. Like we know each other so well we just know what makes each other tic and what will make us fall in love.
I am just in such a dilemma because I want to keep our friendship we have right now but on the same side I think having a relationship with her would be absolutely amazing.
But to be honest i don’t know if I should tell her or just not going to say anything and just leave back for college so we can try to separate naturally and live our own life’s in college. | Crushes |
we are just going bowling then gunna wander around a park or something, not too formal. I only own baggy t shirts, sweatpants and jeans lol. would it be ok for me to just wear a t shirt and jeans lmfao | Crushes |
I have borderline personality disorder and I'm in complete distrust with my thoughts and emotion, how do I know I truly love her and not me idolising her?? | Crushes |
i’m not mad, far from mad actually. i’m just embarrassed that i was acting so weird. I’m aromantic, never had feels like that before and it was intense. We were in theatre (it ended) and for the last show, his girlfriend came into the sound section of the booth, right where he use to sit.
We met through a mutual friend and all anybody has ever known me was by my name, and not my dead one. I don’t even think he even knew i had a dead one or that i was ftm. He was so nice, for a week straight i saw him more than i saw my family. six hours out of the day, me, a mutual friend and him sat together doing the play. secluded and giggling with and at eachother until we slinked off to dinner.
When i saw his girlfriend i immediately understood why they were dating, she was stunning and honestly i might’ve blushed a little if we kept talking. But again i am immensely embarrassed about the way i was acting, constant staring and trying to make him laugh so i refused to ask any information about her so she didn’t have to figure out my shame.
I lost all feelings i had the moment i found out he had a girlfriend and for the last two days i’ve been so nervous that somebody told him of my odd “infatuation “ with him. I still have a group photo of us and i’m tempted to hide it for now until i’m completely over my anxiety & finished mourning my first “normal” milestone.
I blocked his number (i don’t think he knew mine, i hope he has me blocked too). We might work on the summer show together and if he confronts me, i’m going to apologize and do whatever it takes to make it as sincere as it is. I think i’m doing too much but i really didn’t know he was dating somebody and i never planned on telling him that i thought he was cute.
And if he, by any miracle is reading this. I’m sorry man, i hope we can stay friends but i’m open to any silent treatment you can give. Really hope you don’t despise me now. | Crushes |
AAAAA so a few weeks ago I (F15) was finishing up this present for my friend in class by adding stickers and my crush randomly came over and asked if he could have a sticker too! IT WAS SO CUTE BUT I WAS IN A HURRY SO I COULDNT GIVE HIM MY FULL ATTENTION 😰
He just layed his hand on the table waiting for me to put one on his hand but I was so busy that the person sitting next to me was the one to do it :((
I only asked him which one he wanted but thats it !! Missed opportunity I swearrrr.
I am pretty sure he liked me in the past (or at least had somewhat of an interest), but since we had not talked in a while and we stopped making eyecontact, I figured he stopped liking me.
I don't want to intend too much of our conversations because I don't want to seem like some desprate girl. But now he intended something and he might think I don't like him anymore because of my lack of action. What do you think Reddit? Do you have any tips for me about what I should do next?
There's obviously a change I'm overthinking it but I still have hope 🙃 | Crushes |
I was just standing near my friend, helping him with homework. She was with her friend group, we both made eye contact for a bit. I didn’t feel like it was awkward or anything, just noticing there was someone there.
She then went over to where I was and talked to someone she knew. She stayed near me for awhile, not really talking to anyone, just staring out the balcony area. I found that weird because she’s usually the type to be social with basically everyone and strike up conversations.
She went to sit alone afterwards, still near me but far away from most of her friends. I might be delusional but I felt like when she had to leave she was looking at me but trying to make it not obvious. | Crushes |
Just... this rarely happens to me. I met a man this week while travelling- a local portrait artist with an exhibition. As wanky as this sounds, his style of art really spoke to me.. he has a really elegant style, and his themes of myths and fantasy was right up my street.
We had a lovely conversation, and honestly, I felt the rare thunderbolt, and turned into a bit of an awkward fumbling mess! Didnt help that my fluency in the language is basic at best, but between us, we managed!
His eyes were piercingly light blue, with thick curly salt and pepper hair, which he kept mussing with as we talked. He was honestly SO adorable.
His art is beautiful. He is beautiful. He spoke softly and kindly and I didn't even think about the fact he was so much older than me. I felt... I dunno... a connection? We definitely clicked over the style of artwork, he was asking about my writing (I mentioned I was working on a medieval novel for fun,) and aaah. Why do I have to meet such an amazing soul in a totally different country, with no way of it going anywhere?
The only thing is he did give me his business card, and told me to keep in touch, especially if I wanted to talk about commissioning him for artwork for my novel, which I did ask him about. So ehhh.. maybe it was all business chat for him, but still..... he was so lovely! | Crushes |
I am part of a small friend group, there are about ten of us in total, and we're all around the same age. Each of us has a sibling in this friend group, and even have 2 cousins. A handful of us go to a school near here while the others are kind of scattered in schools a little further away, so we don't necessarily see each other all that often unless it's for church on Sundays. Every Friday we also do this sort of Bible group thing where we talk about all sorts of things.
About a month ago, I had a dream about a guy IN said friend group, whose sister I'm also great friends with. I don't know about you but the second I have a dream abt a guy, no matter how platonic basically fall in love w them. The dream was nothing really, I didn't like him, at the time.
About two weeks ago, on a Friday, we're all hanging out.
The second I sit down, almost opposite him, I notice how tremendously beautiful he looked, I don't know if it was the hair or whatever but oh my GOODNESS I could've melted. Since then I've kind of come to terms withe the fact that I like him. Except here's the catch.....he doesn't like me. Not like that. Plus, we almost never talk, especially over text.
Sooo... I guess my problem is, how on earth does a girl get a
guy to notice her?
I won't go as far as to say that I am the ugliest of all the girls he's ever met before, but wouldn't say I am every guys dream. Because I'm not and I accept that suppose, but I just wish I was HIS dream.
So to all you guys out there, how the hell do I get him to like me? | Crushes |
Idk if i am missing a particular someone, but i do miss something. I dont have a crush either? My hand is reaching out, hoping someone, a male ig, could take it wholeheartedly and be telling me nice things.
I texted a male friend hoping for his attention, but he responded very dryly. I'm unsure if he's involved with someone else, and honestly, it wouldn't bother me if he was. However, he's the only person I enjoy spending time with, and if he continues to be emotionally distant,who else am i going to look for now? Who else will be there to encourage me?
I feel a lot a lot of love to share, it’s free for you, but why dont you wanna receive it? | Crushes |
Disappear the way you appear
It has been a while since I wrote to you on Reddit! I am not sure how I feel about you anymore. I have not seen you in a while, but still feel your energy around me, you might disagree if I were to share this information with you....
I thought by now I would be completely over you
..... But the truth is I still have feelings for you, only you, no one else. Just this past weekend I was convinced I was over you, but I am not- I was merely busy with life's little things that I didn't have time to think of you. But, this morning when I am off and have time to think - I feel your presence on my bed- I feel your energy so strongly - it's cruel to be me.....
The intensity of my love for you; although I thought had subsided a bit, in reality, it's still intense and very well alive. Don't worry though, I am fighting off the feeling and love I feel for you since it's forbidden. I will do anything in my power to conceal my emotions and won't ever tell you how I feel about you; that's the price I must pay for falling in love with the wrong person. At times, I wake up or go to sleep and don't think, obsess, and cry over you...
...... But, most of the time, I still think about you, dream of you, and desire and long for you.
I worry about you, your health, safety, and emotional conditions. Oftentimes, I wonder if you hate me for over-caring and sharing my personal experiences with you. You appear in my life and disrupt it to the point of no return.
Please disappear the same way you appear. | Crushes |
So I’m stuck. How can you work with someone you have feelings for and they have a BF? I’m struggling today. | Crushes |
I really like this girl in school. We talk sometimes and I'm wondering if she likes me back. I mainly think this because nobody else talks to me unless they have to, and it's not like she would have any reason to talk to me because she sits on the opposite side of the room. | Crushes |
Im M(21) talking to F(18). I dont know how to exactly write these so dont mind. I know her from november 2022 , we both had a common interest in racing. so we started to talk back then. we used to send reels and posts about racing to each other. I was always a bit attracted to her but recently a week ago I came across a very flirty reel ( the reel went like mercedes girl and ferrari boy and ended with kanye west bound 2 fall in love) In short the reel was kinda cute so i decided to send her that. she replied with " I really wanna make this reel 🥺 " I took it as a good sign and continued to talk to her. over the last week we talked alot . She opened up and even sent a few videos from her camera roll related to the topics we were talking about . It seemed she opened up. She never texts first she however sends me reels but never initiates a how was your day or any thing personal. However I having been asking these questions and trying to know her better.
in short she replies with the same energy and i enjoy the conversations we have, however i feel like she is just being nice and I thought of letting go and seeing if she iniates a convo.
Please give me advice on how to approach and what do you think she is interested or not. | Crushes |
I was in the school lobby sitting on the bench reading a book and then I saw my crush and he saw me, smile at me walk toward at me and he sat next to me. I was happy and nervous, I was about to speak but suddenly He start talking to me and said that he has a crush on a girl in our class, he said her name and tells me how much he admires her and also he told me that the girl also likes him too. And I’m a fool who just smiling at him and just listen to him and yeah… ouch 🥲
It made me realize that he just see me as friend even though we have some kind of closeness to each other. He doesn’t know that I like him and I’m also scared to confess my feelings to him because I’m scared to make things awkward to him and ruined our bond so I chose to be quite and be happy for him even though it hurts.
(Don’t worry this is all in the past and I just want to share out my experience and I am okay now💗🤍) | Crushes |
I really like this girl who sits next to me in class, we talked a bit but not enough to know each other well, all I know is that we both like to read. I gave a a gift for valentines as well, which she seemed happy about. I would only say hi to her everyday but we’re about to graduate in a month that I want to step it up a bit. I want to start talking to her in the hallways since we walk the same path when class is over. I have no idea what to talk to her about, any ideas? and should I talk to her when walking in the hallways or would it be weird? | Crushes |
Hi I'm 15 male, I've always had really bad social anxiety and this got really bad with women but for a school hiking trip I was in a team with 4 guys and 2 girls. I had some really good conversations with this 1 girl and I was kind of scared I'd develop a crush just by talking to her (because I don't really talk to women much) but it happened and usually when I develop a crush on someone I always ended up distancing myself from them as much as possible, I know it's bad so I tried to ask her how she'd do on an exam we'd both done or anything I muster up enough courage to ask her about but it's a pretty rare occurence. I thought maybe talking to her online would ease up some of the anxiety and help me talk to her a bit more in school so after weeks of worrying I decided to hit that follow button! It's been 4 weeks, I thought maybe she'd deleted instagram or something but her number of accounts followed keeps going up (I know it's weird to look that but I was really paranoid that she might've just not wanted to accept the request). Should I try to talk to her more at school again or should I take this as a sign that she doesn't like me (not in 'romantic' way but just as a person) | Crushes |
Today was the last day of school and we won’t see each other until the finals and we won’t even need to interact with each other. So i’ve been thinking that this is the perfect opportunity to confess to her by text. i only wanna do it to get it out of my chest I don’t really think that she likes me back. | Crushes |
If girl use multiple periods (xyz.....) when chatting with you. Means she is intrested in chatting with you or not..? | Crushes |
okay so yesterday my crush and i were at a party, i was wearing a top with a fairly low neckline and i caught her staring at me multiple times. today she asked me to sit next to her in class. we’ve never really talked before this but i’ve always liked her. | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
22nd of March, Wednesday 2023
So... yesterday nothing really happened we were suppose to have Mr Grierson last for study but he didn't show even though he was there! Then today.. well yesterday I got feedback from my draft I just didn't know how to see the feedback until today! Today, we had Business Studies but nothing really happened he was on one of his cold days.. he goes hot and cold on me.. one day he talks to me and looks at me, The next he don't look at me and he don't speak to me at all! Really weird but he still sighed when saying my name which is good! But he just did that.. then for biology we had a room swap to BG18 for the first time, I saw Dylan salute someone that was still in the classroom and I instantly knew who I was, Mr Grierson, he actually looked at me and kinda smiled at me like he forgot he was supposed to be cold today! Ugh! Just.. Omg he has the most beautiful gray eyes I want to see them everyday I see him!! Then I saw him after biology on duty in the year 7 quad. Also Jesse gave me an ice block thing today! He's so nice! | Crushes |
If yes, then why so | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
20th of March, Monday 2023
So... Today I had double Business studies, for the first period of Business Studies (4th period), I went inside and sat down, Renee didn't show, Mr Grierson came over to his stand up desk and said to me as he was look at his laptop "oh, your alone ranger today." Then he looked at me as I said "yeah, Renee is here, but-" then he said "Yeah, she's on a call" then I said said "Oh okay" then he said in a nice, soft tone "Thanks for the draft" and I said "It's okay" and nodded. Then Renee comes in about 20 minutes into class and sits next to me. Next period (5th period) nothing happened in the class at first.. like always he calls my name out with a sigh like first period and looks at me. I notice that he says "Thank you" after calling the role out.. it's only quietly though like only the front can hear it (Renee and my desk)..or just me.. hehe! Then he said "Helena..." as I look at him, as he was writing something "You handed in the draft so, do you want to update your Business Report or do you want to do some other work?" And I said "Some other work" he smiled then gave me the work and said "Just do the answers on the back" and I said okay "oh okay". Then near the end of the lesson Renee accidently put pen on meand I said "no..no..no" she said sorry and said it was an accident as I tried to look for the pen mark. Then Mr Grierson said "Did you draw on her?" With a worried look and Renee said "It was an accident" with an innocent voice, kinda like she felt sorry for herself voice. He really cares for me.. I think.. I'm not sure.. anyway, I also think I'm his favourite student but.. still may be Renee might be or.. even someone in one of the other years! I have not a clue! That's why I need to try harder! I'm pretty sure I'm the only person who emailed a draft to him yesterday because I'm the only one that he said thanks to in class so.. maybe I was! Plus he was the only one he said that I handed my draft in,! The other day I found out by jarred that he drives a white Mitsubishi car! I haven't seen it in person but Austin told me. Jesse wasn't there today like Friday because they are moving house. This guy keeps coming up to me as well and doing stuff like last year he came up behind me and try's to hug me but I turn before he had a chance to and he says I nearly got you girl! Then he runs away... anyway he came up to me today while walking out of school and he said "do you want to be friends?" I said "no" and he said "c'mon girl, I just want to be your friend!" Then I walked faster to get away! Lol! | Crushes |
I was at this party(about 10 ppl) a week ago and i got pretty drunk, stumbled out to a hammock and lied down. Soon a girl i meet at school often and chat on snapchat(basic conversations, dark humor jokes) daily, came over, lied down next to me and we started stargazing, she put her head on the side of my head, eventually turning her entire body sideways to my direction, and kept her hand creeping up my arm to the shoulder, i didn’t really do anything cuz i didn’t want to become a creep in her eyes, at some point it felt like she wasn’t even stargazing anymore, just breathing down my neck. Next morning i just watched sausage party with another friend while she just slept in the room(party was at her house) … Does all this mean anything? | Crushes |
Today I unofficially graduated from high school, in the last class girls hugged each other and shit and i was holding back my tears trying not to cry, a girl came to me and hugged and said i’m gonna miss you then I cried i couldn’t hold it
Other girls came to say goodbye to me and noticed that i was crying so they tried to cheer me up, when everyone left me alone i wiped my tears, she was watching me awkwardly and came to hug me and told me she’ll miss me and now I’m crying in my bed because of that
I was finally getting over her but now she gave me something to think about it’s awful
I feel like i need to confess to her now since that we won’t see each other but for the finals a month later | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
19th of March, Sunday 2023
So... Today like yesterday I was just doing my Business studies assessment, on Friday Mr Grierson was away because he had a meeting about Business Studies, today though I finished the Business studies assessment and handed in a draft (A copy that gets feedback) to him through his email at 1:53pm and at 3:46pm he replied with "Hi Helena, Thank you for the email. I will get you some feedback as soon as possible. Kind Regards, Mr Grierson" EEk!! Yay! I was like freaking out!!! He actually messaged me back! Like he messaged back quicker than Luke (my old cruh) ever did! Jeez! I'm glad! I literally squealed when I seen the message! Anyway, Then I sent back "Thank you." I originally read thanks but then decided to backspace it because it's not professional.. I'm just use to thanks because I say it to my friends! He's my favourite teacher for sure! The best teacher! He actually messaged back about my draft saying thanks like most teacher just send the feedback of the draft in a day or 2, no thank you message before hand! I swear that at any chance he get he talks to me too, like when the Jersey situation come up he asked me what I put on my Jersey and whenever something comes up that Renee says, he asks me about it.. like if Renee said her favourite animal was a dog, he'd probably ask me what's mine! I know it's wrong but.. I kinda wish he didn't have a girlfriend! Oh well, I'll eventually get a guy I like.. somehow! Hopefully he looks like Mr Grierson and is as nice as Mr Grierson!! Mr Grierson is an example of my type of guy! My dream guy would look and be like Mr Grierson.. I'm pretty sure!! | Crushes |
So its been about a month or two now and i (m36) just can't stop thinking about a crush (f26/27).
We have really similar interests with doing everything outdoors, going to gigs and can chat for ages - smile every time we pass each other.
Im finding myself thinking about them all the time - inventing situations in my head of perfect days out, cooking for them etc etc.
Yes its a work thing, yes i know theres a large age gap and please don't hate, no one knows about it and not planning to mention to anyone but in the words of Kylie, i cant get them out of my head. | Crushes |
I'm on the road of loneliness and I tried multiple times to take another road but I always get back on this one: I go to therapy, I take care of myself, I even take risks, but I'm always here.
In the span of a few months my life became a nightmare, my own personal hell: my father is going to lose his job at just two years from retirement, my dog died, my friends married and/or moved away because of their jobs, my job as a teacher is going to kill me with burocracy and students with zero manners and with parents that are even worse.
On top of that, in January, my girlfriend left me after 4 years because she wanted a stable job and a home immediately and I can't offer that right now. So she (28F) left me (25M) to find someone who can, maybe an older guy. She was my first ever relationship. When I met her at 21 I felt there was hope for me to be happy, but God, or destiny, or whatever chose otherwise.
I also developed a crush on a coworker. We became friends and I started to fall in love with her (30F). However when she saw my vulnerabilities (she shared hers so I shared mine, not an oversharing situation) she moved away: she always brought on our 5 years gap and my need to self improve more and view things under a brighter light.
Now she is always flirting with a guy that is even younger than me! And he is also a guy who I used to call friend. He could have every girl in the world, so why her! A friend of mine even told me that if I am a fish she is a monkey, and so no matter how I try I could never climb a tree. Problem is I see no fish in the ocean. This friend also told me that people could never understand my pain: they think I'm sad because I'm single or because my job is painful, but in reality what scares me is the fear of having to accept the fact that I probably (not certainly, but probably) will die alone.
I keep see my crush at work and flirting with this guy on work group chats, and I see her distancing from me everyday more. I ruined a friendship for a feeling and because my nature is this: a guy that wants to be himself, not ashamed of showing both strength and weakness, honest.
I think people are so obsessed with perfection that they don't appreciate imperfection. I don't try to be a person I am not.
My problem is that I have zero charisma. That is what people want: charisma. I am a loving person, kind, supportive and also somewhat good looking. But I have no charisma, and my genuineness repells people.
So I'm back on the road, doing everything I can to get off. I'm trying, I really do. | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
16th of March, Thursday 2023
So... Today wasn't too bad.. nothing overly exciting happened.. I saw Mr Grierson 4th period going to class because we were in a different class today for English, I didn't have him for business studies today but he was out in the area we sit when we have study periods, I of course knew again that he would be going on his rounds out there because every second Thursday jarred has him for his study period. Firstly, I went to the office with Renee to get a bandwidth because she hurt herself and then when we went back to the table and we saw Mr Grierson standing over our table marking the role for his class. He looked up as we walked down to the table and finally we got at the table and sat down. Then he went inside after marking the role and 20 minutes later he came back out again and Dylan was playing on his phone which at our school we're not allowed our phones. Mr Grierson looked at him then me with a mischievous smile as I tapped Dylan on the foot and moved my eyes to look behind him so he got the idea and to warn him about Mr Grierson. Then Mr Grierson said for him to put it away. Then Dylan said to Mr Grierson to yell at them instead (people who were being loud) then Mr Grierson said "yell, yell, yell" being sarcastic of course because he didn't even yell at Dylan! Then he goes back in and Dylan showed me stuff and we both started to watch videos that had rude rymes in them, then Mr Grierson comes out 20 minutes later and looks at us and I reach to press the cross button.. then he looked over at us with suspicion then he said "Everyone's looking sus over here" and Dylan said "nooooo sir" then I just smiled and waved to act all innocent, hehe, totally nothing sus! He was so cute and gorgeous today.. Like always! | Crushes |
im so sorry for gushing so much but there’s just so much to say T_T
basically he was painting my nails for literally HOURS, and he said “this artwork is the most precious thing in the world”
i asked him “okay and after that, what is?” AND he responded with “you” !?!?!?!??!! then he added “because you’re the one who has the art on your nails” it was still a cute moment but now idk if he just said that to make fun of me? the nails were so cute though and i accidentally messed them up :’( | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
15th of March, Wednesday 2023
So... Today nothing much happened, just had a class with Mr Grierson (Business Studies) and he said my name with a nice sigh and looked at me once again, he didn't mention anything about the social like.. for example he didn't say "did anyone have fun at the social?" Or anything like that. Anyway, I just did my work and Mr Grierson glanced at me a few times.. nothing new, then bodie, Jesse's brother, said that Jesse loves me... then I told Renee that in Business Studies which I'm pretty sure Mr Grierson heard me because he began to look stunned and looked away, haha! My mum said that I should get a Christmas present for Mr Grierson which was a great idea, I'm shocked she was even encouraging me to get one for him because she knows that I like him a lot.. you'dthink shed want me to try to stop liking him... I guess i go to school more now though because he's there and mum will do anything to get me to go to school that excited as I am! I found a keychain saying "Thank you" and pretty much " your the best reacher", I'll just have to wait till Christmas... it seems too long away though!! It'll probably fly though, I'm also making a christmas card on canva (a card/poster maker) for him! He's so damn cute and when we get an assignment or even just the school work, he explains things so much! More than other teachers! So he's my favourite teacher.. yes because he's gorgeous too! I'm trying to be his favourite student.. as you can probably tell... but Renee is also a good student.. he may pick her instead of me... they do talk more, I guess she asks him the questions though.. I don't.. I'll try to be even better.. gonna be hard but I'll try my best! Hopefully I'll be his favourite student.. just have to beat Renee! | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
14th of March, Tuesday 2023
So... Today, I saw Mr Grierson walking up to his class, I walked on the different level of concrete on the way to my class but... he didn't see me even though he was on the one on the upper part of the concrete, lol... I guess he wasn't looking out for me but still, you'd still see someone coming down from where your walking its not that much of a high level of concrete. Anyway, Then I saw his back because he turned right to the other level of concrete. Then we had Business Studies with him and he sighed and looked at me again when saying my name and then we had a sheet of paper to fill out like a test to see what we remember and he came over to our normal desk we sit at (the one Renee and I were sitting at) and he checked my sheet even though Renee was the first on his side he still came over to my side of the desk and checked my instead, he touched my paper with his 2 fingers and turned to himself to read it! Mine not Renee's.. mine! Then he asked who got the answers with a big smile on his face, because we were helping each other.. we just shrugged... Renee cheating by looking at the answers from the other test so we couldn't tell him that.. Imagine! "Oh yeah sir, we just cheated and looked at answer, we aren't going to remember them, we are just here to stare at you!" LOL imagine that conversation... I don't think my parents would be very happy lol! Anyway.. Then he just turned my sheet back to me and walked away with a smile on his face! Then he asked "who's going to the social?" And some people said "yeah, me" I didn't because I'm too shy for that! I wonder if he's going.. that's the main reason that I got the tickets.. with my luck he probably won't be.. only a couple teachers go anyway! Hopefully he goes but maybe not because he asked who is going.. he could just see them which by the way the social is tonight! So I'll update this post after I go to tell you how it went! If he does go I'll probably be looking at him all night plus he would get to see me out of uniform for the first time!
UPDATE!!:
So... I just got home from the social! The best night ever! I was spinning and dancing with Matt! The guy, Jesse (the guy that apparently likes me), bought me a lemonade can drink! He's pretty nice, he has a twin brother and they are identical so I dont know which is which sometimes! Anyway, OMG! an hour into the social.. guess who I saw??? Yea you guessed it! Mr Grierson!! I couldn't believe it! Jarred told me when I got to the social that he saw Mr Grierson walking his dog and said he'd be there within the hour! He was in a rainbow top and bottom (tie-dye)!! He was so hot! Once he saw me he kept looking over in my direction every now and again... I can't believe he recognised me because it was colourful lights and pretty dark! Mr Grierson went on the opposite side of the hall for about 30 minutes.. he didn't go to my side of the hall but for most of the social he stood up the back while all the students were talking to him every now and again, he stayed for the whole night! I couldn't believe it! He didn't say a word to me which was a shame but I kept glancing over at him and I'm sure he kept glancing over at me too. He did the macarena (A community dance) and I joined in but he was at the front while I was at the back. About 90 something people turned up which was huge for our school, normally we have lower than that! I can't believe Mr Grierson was there!! He was just so gorgeous tonight!! The only real interaction I had with him tonight was when I got a balloon when the social was over and Matt hit it out of my hands and it rolled under the table Mr Grierson and this other person was carrying I was at the back of him as he was carrying it waiting for matt to get the balloons and Mr Grierson turned around while carrying the table and smiled at me as I smiled back! But it was still good to see him there! | Crushes |
I am interested in a guy, but I am uncertain about his sexual orientation and I am wondering how I can confess my romantic feelings to him. We knew each other when I held a position of authority in school (not a professor or staff member), and we are both male college students. He is a sophomore, and I am a year or two older. I recently came out as gay, which he is aware of because I mentioned it casually. We communicate through social media, but he has been responding sporadically and mentioned that he is busy due to exams in our college. | Crushes |
I’ve (19F) never experienced being interested in several people at a time since I’m typically the person to commit to one person even if one-sided. Maybe it’s because I’m putting myself out there? I have more options I guess. But it also feels shallow :/
Not really who should I pick but who is generally the better choice in your eyes? Or, none? Honestly I have things to work on myself but I feel like I’ve made great progress on self improvement.
Person A (23M): Known him for 2 years as we played music together. First guy upon entering uni that I felt comfortable expressing my raw self to. He’s very smart, stacked resume, musically inclined, speaks several languages, kind/friendly to men and women. He’s very kind to me and I feel some type of comfort with him. I feel being musically involved with another person for a while is bound to have romantic feelings rise. Not afraid to express himself and his feelings. Introvert but with great social skills. He’s graduating in like a week and I’ll never see him again though lol. We are both hardcore but normal weebs. Have a feeling he just sees me as a younger sister. About 2-3 cm taller.
Person B (19-20M): In my major (engineering but won’t specify), he’s around my age so I’ll see him a lot. We go to this “cram school” type thing and happen to be in the same one. We only talk there and work together on the assigned stuff and our other classes in our major. I’m drawn to him because he’s lowkey handsome and he’s really smart as he scores slightly higher than me. He seems shy and introverted though. When we work together I feel like there’s some sort of comfort that we are on the same wavelength. Seems like he just does his own thing and focuses on school which I like. Mutuals with some of my other friends I think. Tall and deep friendly voice probably 5 ft 10, I am 5 ft 6.
Person C (24M): Not in my major but adjacent to my major. I don’t actually like this guy but we have been friends for about 3-4 months. He told me he likes me but retracted his statement. Has a good job right now, lowkey rich. I’m not afraid of being myself around him. I usually have a hard time keeping eye contact but he’s easy to face. Works out regularly, extroverted and enjoys going out to socialize. He’s sentimental and kind of goofy which is something I like. He likes anime stuff but not the same level as me (bc i want to geek out together). He’s gone out of his way to do things for me but he’s done that for his friends. He’s just been acting a little flirty lately. He’s 5 foot 9(?). Has a younger sister. Not afraid to ask me deep questions. | Crushes |
For reference I/Me (M24) crushing on (F25)
So there’s this girl that works at my gym and it’s fair to say I’m crushing hard. I’ve only had 2 conversations with her, but because it’s not in an ideal setting and I have a new schedule I have not seen her since those 2 convos. It’s been a good week and a bit now. And I foolishly did not ask for her number lol. (Guess that would have been the best way to tell)
When we did speak though (I initiated on both occasions) it was more so me popping in after my workout to say a quick hello, but it ended up being us finding out a bit about each other. Like what we do for work, what we do outside it, hobbies etc. She’s very shy, and she’s made that known. I’m the same so it took me a while to compose myself and pluck up the courage to go talk to her but when I did it was the most relaxing thing. It’s funny how the ability to speak is so much harder when you like someone lol.
I noticed that she started to give a lot of compliments, I reciprocated obviously but she ended up asking a lot more about me and saying nice things about my lifestyle/the stuff I’ve done. I was almost kinda shocked.
Again because of the setting I couldn’t take up too much of her time, but after our 2nd convo she did ask one interesting question. She asked if I was an emotional person? Or like do I show emotion?
Tbh I thought it was a weird question since it was so early on and I felt like that opens up a deeper conversation but do you think that also could be a sign she’s interested? I kinda dodged the question and was saved by the bell as she had to go help someone but I realised she was a bit persistent with this one and kept asking/rephrasing it a few times to try get an answer out of me.
I regret not being honest and answering but that’s only because I wasn’t sure why she asked which is what I should have said.
Obviously it’s only 2 conversations so there’s not much to go by but I wanted to know what you guys think. Could she actually be interested in me or is it just her being nice and doing her job essentially?
I don’t know when I’ll next see her although I could today since it’s a bank holiday but if I do I was thinking of just asking for her number (my friends think I should wait for her to. That’s if she’s interested but I kinda don’t wanna waste anytime) and this will obviously stop limiting the convo to where she works which is what I want tbh, felt so bad talking for so long but she didn’t show any sign that I should go unless she had to go help someone. That and I just really like talking to her, she’s cool.
Sorry this is long and I’m rambling but many thanks in advance. | Crushes |
First of all she is not my crush but i like to talk to her be a friend of her , i already followed her in instagram ( it was me who sent the request ) and her fb account just popped up in my feed and i sent her a friend request and its been 3 days and she hasn't accepted and i see her online in instagram , what do you guys think what should i do to avoid ruining things ? | Crushes |
I had a crush in 6th Grade. I kinda acted on it, but we just ended up being friends. We were separated after 6th Grade, we went to different Middle Schools, then High Schools, now different universities. We occasionally chat via Instagram DMs, like once or twice a year, and my crush on her faded away... Or so I thought.
On Instagram, she posted a picture of her and another guy in a car, taking a selfie, smiling, she had coffee in her hand. Yeah, unless this is something casual friend do, it's most definitely her boyfriend. And again, my feelings for has faded away. She's not my crush and I've met another girl I liked more than her, but for some reason, I just feel so heartbroken. It's so weird. I've never thought of pursuing a relationship with her when she was single, and hypothetically, let's say she was single at this moment. I'm not going to go over to her and ask her out and start a relationship. Even if, again hypothetically, she and her boyfriend broke up or, the extremely unlikely event of me misinterpreting that selfie and that they're not actually a couple happens, I'm still not going to go over to her and ask her out, but now, I feel like that's changing. Now, I have this urge to ask her out the moment her becoming available becomes a possibility. But do I love her? I don't know!
So, in short, a girl from a decade ago who I no longer have feelings for now has a boyfriend. Why am I heartbroken? Why do I want her now? Why are my old feelings from 10 years ago slowly resurfacing? We were never even a couple. I liked her, I told her, we became friends, my crush disappeared but we were still being friendly, I even showed a picture of my new crush and she just teased me and we laughed it off. Now she has a boyfriend and I'm heartbroken??? | Crushes |
He told mutual friends that he liked me, and he asked them not to tell me, but they did. When he found out that I knew, he cut off all contact with me. Two months later, he and his girlfriend broke up. I have to admit that before he was single, I'd look at his TikToks a lot. I never liked or commented on it; I'd just watch the videos. When he and his girlfriend broke up, I noticed that my TikToks would go up. I had 3 followers, but whenever I'd watch his videos, my TikTok views would rise. This continued for the better part of a year.
However, twice he did things that tickled me funny. About six months after they broke up, he started following her on TikTok, but unfollowed her within a few hours (probably because she didn’t follow him back). I know it doesn't sound like a big deal, but I'm 95% sure he was watching my TikToks. When our friends told people he liked me, it was clear he didn't want me to find out. But when they broke up and started entertaining me again, he started following her on TikTok. It makes me feel like he wanted to get back with her, and that if she agreed, he would've hung me out to dry again. I don't have any solid evidence for this, but it scares me that he would've done that. Keep in mind, they were already Instagram friends.
Edit: several months later, he made a playlist about me. I'm 95% sure it's about me because it has 22 songs and was made 22 days before my 22nd birthday. These songs are all in English and the first song is "I love you" and the last song is called "Bay Area" (I'm from San Francisco) | Crushes |
I don’t know if this is a good thing or bad. I’ve had this hallway crush for a while now but it was just a like “oh man she’s cute, but I have no chance lmao” thing. Lately our school had a musical type thing and she was in it, singing and dancing. She was absolutely stunning in it. The thing I didn’t even know her name, I would just see her and be in awe. I had to ask my sister (who worked backstage for the play) for a cast list just so I can know her name. Even her name fits so well with her, it’s beautiful. I found her Instagram and she’s even more gorgeous in the pics.
I haven’t felt like this in so long. I haven’t felt like genuine attraction to someone. Like I’ve seen girls who are hot and I’m like “oh they’re smoking hot, way out of my league” but this is different. Those thoughts are lust, but this isn’t. It’s been so long since I’ve got “butterflies” for a girl.
I just cant stop thinking about her. I have no idea what to do. Haven’t been in a relationship in over 3 years so I’m scared. Had to vent out my thoughts cause it’s 1:40am and I can’t stop imagining things. (Not creepy things, just like walking in the park and seeing her smile).
Is it rude and creepy for me to think like this? I don’t wanna be creepy, I just genuinely think she’s amazing and want to be with… her. Any advice on what the hell i should do cause I don’t wanna just keep thinking like this, I wanna do something. | Crushes |
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