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Okay, you're a fighter. Alright.	7ack
Because a second to finish today, my mom she it's coming into this dress, which I was going to do. I just wanted to show it and just kept going I mean to do it and I didn't like the way she was yelling at me. And I just wanted to do like I was gonna do she was super sad about it.	0id
Mm hmm.	3gc
So I mean, it just pissed me off. I started yelling at her, go yell at me. And then a little brother came in it's just the whole family. And I don't want to see yell at me and I don't know details. Let us know by the Potomac wall.	0id
Okay.	7ack
Yesterday	3gc
okay, there's just yesterday. Okay. All right. So situation mom asks you to do something. You're kind of in the middle of something to get pestering you and yet you started yelling she started yelling starts escalating. you punch a wall.	0id
yeah	7ack
Okay. You got that situation Tell me about a situation at school.	1irq
Near Amiga your alarm says center is like going off to me now, sometimes just looking at saying Let's be nice to see the senses add to	0id
Hmm.	3gc
And then I mean it's such a point teacher. So a 10 asleep in class. Can't help it. cannot show up calm call me out. Put in a whole class. Just quickly, Matt and I are going back and forth saying stuff because of cussing her out. And that's why I had to go to.	0id
Okay. So you're in class teachers calling you out, and you're angry and cursing.	4crq
Yeah	6cd
Okay. Okay. Good example. Is there any time when there's anxiety that's happening before the anger comes out? Like, um, maybe. Yeah, if you ever get anxious for us kind of freeze for years or more of a reactive of a fight of a last year. Have a get it out.	5yq
That's kind of hard to get it out.	0id
Okay. Okay.	7ack
Okay. Okay.	7ack
Good. All right. Well, I want you to, um, it's kind of helpful, I think, to understand a little bit about what's going on in your brain. And then you can maybe help monitor it, help control it help manage it a little bit better. Okay. So let's, um, I'd like to take you through an example of something it's called, And it's a way of it's kind of it's called wise mind, okay? You're, you're trying to be very conscientious about what's going on around you. how you're feeling, and how you're going to react to risk being instead of just reacting whenever That's off, you're gonna think about it, name it, and then react. And hopefully, maybe we can get a little bit of more control on anger, reactions come in.	0id
Okay, all right. Okay. So going to do that,	0id
okay. Well, you know what I was saying? Knowing that you need that, just saying, I need that. That's a really big step. It really is. Some people don't even acknowledge that they need it, don't want to acknowledge it, don't care to acknowledge it. And they're not going to really get any not not going to change. But you're here. Maybe you don't want to be here, ut I'm hearing you say that you want to make a change. And that's really huge. Because I think you want things to be different for yourself. It sounds like I mean,	0id
yeah, but also switch people. It's something okay.	0id
Okay. All right. Well, there's a desire that I see, And I appreciate that, And that's great. And there are lots of different techniques for this. And I'm just going to offer one today. And then you can practice it all week, and then we talk next week, we'll kind of see how you are with that and it's not working for you, we'll make modifications might change this, okay? Okay. And this is a technique where you can do it at school, at home, and only takes about one minute. Sometimes we don't have a lot of time. You know, it's great when you can take 15 minutes to calm down, maybe you're going to bed at night and you're doing something that makes you calm down and it's quiet a lot of time. In the heat of the moment, we don't have a lot of time. All right, when you feel that anger rising, there's not a lot of time, alright?	0id
Yeah	7ack
No	9on
get you in trouble. Get your hand in the wall, you might get hurt. Moving forward Yon and your mom's not working for you too. Well, is it? Okay? So we're going to proceed with something that's going to work for you. In this situation, you have an idea that might work for you.	1irq
Just talk to her but it's so hard to talk to without stopped and I wouldn't be like quite so mad. So Now it's	0id
a good idea though, it's a good thought it might be worth a try to say, and maybe it's more, instead of telling her to do it later saying, Mom, okay, 10 more minutes with this show. There's two more minutes. I'm really interested in this show. And I just finished the 10 more minutes, and then I will do the dishes, kind of put it in a question. So, you know, instead of you know, say, I'm gonna do it later say, I just got 10 more minutes and I really want to finish the show. Is it okay if I just do the dishes as soon as in 10 minutes when I finish the show? Does that sound like something that maybe	0id
stop	0id
Yeah. All right, stop. Before you react Before you respond in anger You're gonna stop. What's the T?	1irq
Take a breath	0id
Exactly, Take a breath in action into your brain. So you can think clearly, rationally, Take two big breaths. Three, maybe. O?	4crq
Observe	6cd
observe what's going on? What's going on my body? My my thoughts was this situation You know? How am I feeling right now?Name it, Claim it, Okay. This won't finish All right, and then what's the P?	1irq
Proceed	0id
proceed, That's right. Proceed. How am I gonna go forward in a way that's gonna be helpful to me or good for me or benefit me? Right? So what? What in that situation was the P going to be? Was the proceed going to be how you're going to proceed?	6cd
Whose problem my mom might raise	6cd
Yeah, yeah, in a calm voice ask her soon as this program is over, can I do it? Man, I really want to finish this then I promise you I'll do the dishes as soon as this program is over.	0id
Keep yourself calm	7ack
Yeah, there you go. Again, in that situation. Very good. You're getting what you want. She's gonna get what she wants. It's a great compromise. Yeah. worth a shot. worth a try?	5yq
Yeah.	8op
Okay. Yeah, you know, it takes a lot of time to make a change, really does. You've been doing it one way for a long time. And it takes a lot of time to do something different. So I want you to be patient with yourself. I want you to try this every day. All right, if you can kind of make notes. For me, as we can talk about next week, like on Monday, I had a fight with my mom, I tried it, it didn't work. On Tuesday, I find my mom, it works a little bit, you know? And when you The more you do this, the better you're going to get. And the more it's going to benefit you. All right, the more it's gonna benefit you.	0id
Absolutely, right. It's just the way you talk with each other. Stop and proceed	0id
you're right, You're right, Because they're a certain way in the house. And it's going to be Yeah, be patient with yourself and realize this is going to take some time. Okay. Let's think about at school, a situation if you want to take that one situation at school too. Okay, say you're in history class, history, human history don't get during your history class and she's calling on you, Right? This is when you get angry. Is that not correct about that?	5yq
yeah	8op
Now she asking you So is she saying okay Alyssa can you answer this question, is that what she's calling or she's saying Alyssa wake up because you're asleep. What is your truth?	1irq
Yeah I think so	7ack
okay. Okay. Okay. All right. So let's kind of step through this stop process with that. Alright, teachers gonna ask you what somehow to tell us about that. All right? Instead of what's the normal reaction for you, your alarm going off, what's the normal reaction for you?	1irq
I don't lots of teacher	0id
Okay, all right. You're gonna try to stop. All right. You're gonna take a breath, two breaths. You're gonna say, Alright, how you feel at that point? She's embarrassing me. What else is going on?	1irq
Okay, okay, anger.	0id
She knows I know, She's just trying to test me. She knows I don't know the answer because honestly, you should call. Okay?	0id
it's frustrating.	0id
Right? kind of tired of it. So you're naming that, alright, frustrated, you know, she doesn't answer by me. Okay? You're, you're observing what's going on in the situation, But how are you going to proceed in a positive way? All right, instead of y'all And getting sent out of the room? Can you think of a way that might benefit you more? That might be to your advantage. Getting out of the room and going down the hall is not helping you too much. So what's a way you can proceed? you're frustrated. You are maybe a little bit embarrassed, maybe don't know the answer. What's what can you do instead of yell at that teacher and get angry at her with the other thought maybe?	1irq
I don't know.	0id
Okay. Well, that's, that's the truth. You might know or may not know if that's true. You can say just simply that I don't know then she's gonna go to somebody else, right?	5yq
Maybe Yeah	8op
that'd be the hope that she goes to somebody else. But for you, you won't be sent out of the room. You won't be getting in Trouble, you won't be in ISS for the day	0id
yeah	7ack
one objective is not for you in school is for you to get to the next grade. Get the next grade in that classroom, learn a little bit so you can get to the next grade.	0id
Yeah I want to	7ack
yeah, that's good. You got a desire to do that. So, this procedure is kind of only takes 45 seconds or so, for you to stop. Take a few breaths, observe what's going on, kind of name your emotions, okay, and this and this and this, however, don't want to respond with angry words or yelling or cursing because it's not going to benefit me, you know, trying to make a change here. I'm going to figure out what is my best tool to proceed that's going to help me you know, work out arrange with mom or just tell her that you don't know, okay?	0id
Yeah	7ack
And again, be patient with yourself because this type change takes a while. Yeah, yeah. Are you willing to maybe practice this once a day, every day, it can either be at home or it can be in the classroom this next week?	5yq
Yeah if something comes up.	8op
Okay. Just try it and see how it works. And if this I have a lot of tricks up my sleeve, so if this one isn't working, we can modify or we can try something else but try to set it in and we'll just kind of talk about it next week and just kind of see how it's going. Okay. Thanks for coming in.	0id
Thanks	2gt
Appreciate you want to make change and willing to do something	2gt
Thanks	2gt
Hi, Jessica, how are you doing?	2gt
All right. How about you?	2gt
It's been Okay.	0id
I mean, I've been journaling, like you said	8op
Good, good.	3gc
That's been kind of helping. I feel like they're still I mean, it has improved slightly.	3gc
Yeah. Not an addict. Well, mistakenly, he told me, okay,	8op
and you were able to make it a positive thought.	5yq
Yeah, I mean, I tried to do that. It helped some, but is any improvements better, But I think maybe just to keep doing it. But I was more aware of how they realized how	8op
So do you remember kind of what what we discussed last time about how CBT works?	5yq
Umm a little bit, Not exactly, but I just remember how my thoughts are causing things.	8op
So would you comment review before we actually get into the session?	5yq
Yeah, Yeah.	8op
Okay. So how it goes is like a cya situation or an event happens. You have a thought, Okay. And what kind of last time it was your lack of confidence? And it could be like, I'm not good enough. But that was your your thought process last time, correct?	3gc
Yeah.	7ack
Yeah, yeah.	8op
Probably angry. I feel like that's the biggest problem.	10od
Okay. Coming over about driver issues.	3gc
I mean, it's not like I'm just like an angry person that just like snaps in any light, but I getdefensive I guess. I'm very defensive. And she lashed out, but I've never I've lashed out my child summary. It's usually always my husband	3gc
can you telll me about the last time you lost your anger?	1irq
we were unloading groceries, and I actually had just had my hair done and cut in color. And I was so excited. I thought he was gonna love it, you know? And he looked at it, and he of course, paid, how much money did it cost?	0id
yeah, things are kind of expensive.	3gc
So total, you know, would have been $60 and he told me that, you know, we've been struggling with money. Lately a little bit, and then I didn't need to spend that much money and that selfish and	3gc
Okay, so now what I'm writing down here is kind of like what we talked about how there's no family situation, you know thought and you have an emotion. So I know like what you were just saying the event or the situation was that you got your hair done and that he was angry about that.	3gc
Yeah. Okay. He was yeah he was just saying mean things	3gc
okay okay. Now what did you in that moment when he was being mean what was now how youfelt but what was your actual thought when he was saying all that stuff?	5yq
I'm selfish. You bought them selfish, okay? Yeah. Initially Yeah, that was that was it is right. That was selfish when you actually thought selfish, guilty, guilty and sad angry, angry, very angry that he made me feel about what I was doing that way I'm going forward he said that and then once he said that,you know he put that thought in my head and it made me angry.	8op
Yeah, smack.	0id
Okay, okay.	3gc
Yep	3gc
There was physical contact there.	5yq

Okay, you're a fighter. Alright.

7ack

Because a second to finish today, my mom she it's coming into this dress, which I was going to do. I just wanted to show it and just kept going I mean to do it and I didn't like the way she was yelling at me. And I just wanted to do like I was gonna do she was super sad about it.

0id

Mm hmm.

3gc

So I mean, it just pissed me off. I started yelling at her, go yell at me. And then a little brother came in it's just the whole family. And I don't want to see yell at me and I don't know details. Let us know by the Potomac wall.

0id

Okay.

7ack

Yesterday

3gc

okay, there's just yesterday. Okay. All right. So situation mom asks you to do something. You're kind of in the middle of something to get pestering you and yet you started yelling she started yelling starts escalating. you punch a wall.

0id

yeah

7ack

Okay. You got that situation Tell me about a situation at school.

1irq

Near Amiga your alarm says center is like going off to me now, sometimes just looking at saying Let's be nice to see the senses add to

0id

Hmm.

3gc

And then I mean it's such a point teacher. So a 10 asleep in class. Can't help it. cannot show up calm call me out. Put in a whole class. Just quickly, Matt and I are going back and forth saying stuff because of cussing her out. And that's why I had to go to.

0id

Okay. So you're in class teachers calling you out, and you're angry and cursing.

4crq

Yeah

6cd

Okay. Okay. Good example. Is there any time when there's anxiety that's happening before the anger comes out? Like, um, maybe. Yeah, if you ever get anxious for us kind of freeze for years or more of a reactive of a fight of a last year. Have a get it out.

5yq

That's kind of hard to get it out.

0id

Okay. Okay.

7ack

Okay. Okay.

7ack

Good. All right. Well, I want you to, um, it's kind of helpful, I think, to understand a little bit about what's going on in your brain. And then you can maybe help monitor it, help control it help manage it a little bit better. Okay. So let's, um, I'd like to take you through an example of something it's called, And it's a way of it's kind of it's called wise mind, okay? You're, you're trying to be very conscientious about what's going on around you. how you're feeling, and how you're going to react to risk being instead of just reacting whenever That's off, you're gonna think about it, name it, and then react. And hopefully, maybe we can get a little bit of more control on anger, reactions come in.

0id

Okay, all right. Okay. So going to do that,

0id

okay. Well, you know what I was saying? Knowing that you need that, just saying, I need that. That's a really big step. It really is. Some people don't even acknowledge that they need it, don't want to acknowledge it, don't care to acknowledge it. And they're not going to really get any not not going to change. But you're here. Maybe you don't want to be here, ut I'm hearing you say that you want to make a change. And that's really huge. Because I think you want things to be different for yourself. It sounds like I mean,

0id

yeah, but also switch people. It's something okay.

0id

Okay. All right. Well, there's a desire that I see, And I appreciate that, And that's great. And there are lots of different techniques for this. And I'm just going to offer one today. And then you can practice it all week, and then we talk next week, we'll kind of see how you are with that and it's not working for you, we'll make modifications might change this, okay? Okay. And this is a technique where you can do it at school, at home, and only takes about one minute. Sometimes we don't have a lot of time. You know, it's great when you can take 15 minutes to calm down, maybe you're going to bed at night and you're doing something that makes you calm down and it's quiet a lot of time. In the heat of the moment, we don't have a lot of time. All right, when you feel that anger rising, there's not a lot of time, alright?

0id

Yeah

7ack

No

9on

get you in trouble. Get your hand in the wall, you might get hurt. Moving forward Yon and your mom's not working for you too. Well, is it? Okay? So we're going to proceed with something that's going to work for you. In this situation, you have an idea that might work for you.

1irq

Just talk to her but it's so hard to talk to without stopped and I wouldn't be like quite so mad. So Now it's

0id

a good idea though, it's a good thought it might be worth a try to say, and maybe it's more, instead of telling her to do it later saying, Mom, okay, 10 more minutes with this show. There's two more minutes. I'm really interested in this show. And I just finished the 10 more minutes, and then I will do the dishes, kind of put it in a question. So, you know, instead of you know, say, I'm gonna do it later say, I just got 10 more minutes and I really want to finish the show. Is it okay if I just do the dishes as soon as in 10 minutes when I finish the show? Does that sound like something that maybe

0id

stop

0id

Yeah. All right, stop. Before you react Before you respond in anger You're gonna stop. What's the T?

1irq

Take a breath

0id

Exactly, Take a breath in action into your brain. So you can think clearly, rationally, Take two big breaths. Three, maybe. O?

4crq

Observe

6cd

observe what's going on? What's going on my body? My my thoughts was this situation You know? How am I feeling right now?Name it, Claim it, Okay. This won't finish All right, and then what's the P?

1irq

Proceed

0id

proceed, That's right. Proceed. How am I gonna go forward in a way that's gonna be helpful to me or good for me or benefit me? Right? So what? What in that situation was the P going to be? Was the proceed going to be how you're going to proceed?

6cd

Whose problem my mom might raise

6cd

Yeah, yeah, in a calm voice ask her soon as this program is over, can I do it? Man, I really want to finish this then I promise you I'll do the dishes as soon as this program is over.

0id

Keep yourself calm

7ack

Yeah, there you go. Again, in that situation. Very good. You're getting what you want. She's gonna get what she wants. It's a great compromise. Yeah. worth a shot. worth a try?

5yq

Yeah.

8op

Okay. Yeah, you know, it takes a lot of time to make a change, really does. You've been doing it one way for a long time. And it takes a lot of time to do something different. So I want you to be patient with yourself. I want you to try this every day. All right, if you can kind of make notes. For me, as we can talk about next week, like on Monday, I had a fight with my mom, I tried it, it didn't work. On Tuesday, I find my mom, it works a little bit, you know? And when you The more you do this, the better you're going to get. And the more it's going to benefit you. All right, the more it's gonna benefit you.

0id

Absolutely, right. It's just the way you talk with each other. Stop and proceed

0id

you're right, You're right, Because they're a certain way in the house. And it's going to be Yeah, be patient with yourself and realize this is going to take some time. Okay. Let's think about at school, a situation if you want to take that one situation at school too. Okay, say you're in history class, history, human history don't get during your history class and she's calling on you, Right? This is when you get angry. Is that not correct about that?

5yq

yeah

8op

Now she asking you So is she saying okay Alyssa can you answer this question, is that what she's calling or she's saying Alyssa wake up because you're asleep. What is your truth?

1irq

Yeah I think so

7ack

okay. Okay. Okay. All right. So let's kind of step through this stop process with that. Alright, teachers gonna ask you what somehow to tell us about that. All right? Instead of what's the normal reaction for you, your alarm going off, what's the normal reaction for you?

1irq

I don't lots of teacher

0id

Okay, all right. You're gonna try to stop. All right. You're gonna take a breath, two breaths. You're gonna say, Alright, how you feel at that point? She's embarrassing me. What else is going on?

1irq

Okay, okay, anger.

0id

She knows I know, She's just trying to test me. She knows I don't know the answer because honestly, you should call. Okay?

0id

it's frustrating.

0id

Right? kind of tired of it. So you're naming that, alright, frustrated, you know, she doesn't answer by me. Okay? You're, you're observing what's going on in the situation, But how are you going to proceed in a positive way? All right, instead of y'all And getting sent out of the room? Can you think of a way that might benefit you more? That might be to your advantage. Getting out of the room and going down the hall is not helping you too much. So what's a way you can proceed? you're frustrated. You are maybe a little bit embarrassed, maybe don't know the answer. What's what can you do instead of yell at that teacher and get angry at her with the other thought maybe?

1irq

I don't know.

0id

Okay. Well, that's, that's the truth. You might know or may not know if that's true. You can say just simply that I don't know then she's gonna go to somebody else, right?

5yq

Maybe Yeah

8op

that'd be the hope that she goes to somebody else. But for you, you won't be sent out of the room. You won't be getting in Trouble, you won't be in ISS for the day

0id

yeah

7ack

one objective is not for you in school is for you to get to the next grade. Get the next grade in that classroom, learn a little bit so you can get to the next grade.

0id

Yeah I want to

7ack

yeah, that's good. You got a desire to do that. So, this procedure is kind of only takes 45 seconds or so, for you to stop. Take a few breaths, observe what's going on, kind of name your emotions, okay, and this and this and this, however, don't want to respond with angry words or yelling or cursing because it's not going to benefit me, you know, trying to make a change here. I'm going to figure out what is my best tool to proceed that's going to help me you know, work out arrange with mom or just tell her that you don't know, okay?

0id

Yeah

7ack

And again, be patient with yourself because this type change takes a while. Yeah, yeah. Are you willing to maybe practice this once a day, every day, it can either be at home or it can be in the classroom this next week?

5yq

Yeah if something comes up.

8op

Okay. Just try it and see how it works. And if this I have a lot of tricks up my sleeve, so if this one isn't working, we can modify or we can try something else but try to set it in and we'll just kind of talk about it next week and just kind of see how it's going. Okay. Thanks for coming in.

0id

Thanks

2gt

Appreciate you want to make change and willing to do something

2gt

Thanks

2gt

Hi, Jessica, how are you doing?

2gt

All right. How about you?

2gt

It's been Okay.

0id

I mean, I've been journaling, like you said

8op

Good, good.

3gc

That's been kind of helping. I feel like they're still I mean, it has improved slightly.

3gc

Yeah. Not an addict. Well, mistakenly, he told me, okay,

8op

and you were able to make it a positive thought.

5yq

Yeah, I mean, I tried to do that. It helped some, but is any improvements better, But I think maybe just to keep doing it. But I was more aware of how they realized how

8op

So do you remember kind of what what we discussed last time about how CBT works?

5yq

Umm a little bit, Not exactly, but I just remember how my thoughts are causing things.

8op

So would you comment review before we actually get into the session?

5yq

Yeah, Yeah.

8op

Okay. So how it goes is like a cya situation or an event happens. You have a thought, Okay. And what kind of last time it was your lack of confidence? And it could be like, I'm not good enough. But that was your your thought process last time, correct?

3gc

Yeah.

7ack

Yeah, yeah.

8op

Probably angry. I feel like that's the biggest problem.

10od

Okay. Coming over about driver issues.

3gc

I mean, it's not like I'm just like an angry person that just like snaps in any light, but I getdefensive I guess. I'm very defensive. And she lashed out, but I've never I've lashed out my child summary. It's usually always my husband

3gc

can you telll me about the last time you lost your anger?

1irq

we were unloading groceries, and I actually had just had my hair done and cut in color. And I was so excited. I thought he was gonna love it, you know? And he looked at it, and he of course, paid, how much money did it cost?

0id

yeah, things are kind of expensive.

3gc

So total, you know, would have been $60 and he told me that, you know, we've been struggling with money. Lately a little bit, and then I didn't need to spend that much money and that selfish and

3gc

Okay, so now what I'm writing down here is kind of like what we talked about how there's no family situation, you know thought and you have an emotion. So I know like what you were just saying the event or the situation was that you got your hair done and that he was angry about that.

3gc

Yeah. Okay. He was yeah he was just saying mean things

3gc

okay okay. Now what did you in that moment when he was being mean what was now how youfelt but what was your actual thought when he was saying all that stuff?

5yq

I'm selfish. You bought them selfish, okay? Yeah. Initially Yeah, that was that was it is right. That was selfish when you actually thought selfish, guilty, guilty and sad angry, angry, very angry that he made me feel about what I was doing that way I'm going forward he said that and then once he said that,you know he put that thought in my head and it made me angry.

8op

Yeah, smack.

0id

Okay, okay.

3gc

Yep

3gc

There was physical contact there.

5yq