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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 F] and my nonexistent [20 M] boyfriend ~ I know this sounds sexist but I honestly don't know?
POST: Can men actually love one woman and not want others? Maybe I'm just meeting the wrong guys, but it seems like all just want to use my body... I'm starting to feel like the whole concept of romance and monagomous feelings are just fabricated ideas to get women in bed. Depressing :(
Also, people say I'm gorgeous/hot/beautiful whatever but no guys I crush on ever ask me out? So Im also feeling like being complimented is the equivalent of being lied to... I'm super shy and really a home body so I'm not sure how to talk to guys? Help!
--> Sorry this is scatter-brained
TL;DR: | Will a guy ever love me / just want me? Should I give up on it? Why don't guys ask me out? How can I talk to guys without being weird af? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [18] of 6 months. Unsure if i should break up, unsure how, unsure of everything it seems
POST: Hi everyone.
So I've been dating this girl for a while. I do love and care about her, but I really feel this relationship isn't healthy or what i'm looking for.
She suffers from chronic anxiety and depression, and I'm the only person she really confides in and I can help her. She's extremely attached; if we're not hanging out, we're skyping and if we're not skyping we're constantly, and I mean constantly, texting. I didnt mind it at first bc of the excitement and spark of a new relationship but its not who I am; i'm a very individual and independent person.
If I choose to hang out with friends over skyping for the entire evening she gets hurt and upset. I'm not able to do anything i used to, I can barely even play video games anymore. I'm the only person in her life she really talks to or spends time with, and I'm her only and sole source of happiness. She's utterly attached and dependent upon me.
I'm pushed to the limit, because I'm constantly dealing with panic attacks at night and anxiety filled days. She is against meds and therapy, and I dont know if i have the will to leave her when she depends upon me so much... I fucked everything up even further with promises and constant reassurances.
I feel trapped. She thinks everything is great between us but has no idea that every time she asks "when can we skype" or calls me at 4 am and says "I really need you..." and i have to walk to the basment of my dorm to talk to her for hours I'm just... drained.
Help me in any way, please... i'm stuck, completely stuck.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is very different from me and I might want to break up for various reasons. However I do love her, and because she suffers from anxiety and depression I'd feel so guilty for leaving her at a time like this |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is there a way to help my little brother get his first credit card after being denied due to lack of credit history?
POST: My brother just turned 18 and is going to college, he's financially responsible, but with my families current finance situation it would be good for him to have a card with a small limit open with the intro rate of 0% for 12 months in case something happens, as I doubt they could come up with money quick. We applied to Discover and got denied the first time, he hadn't marked that he had a checking account, which he just recently opened, and he really low balled his income. So we called and fixed that and had them check it. They ran the check and said he doesn't have enough of a credit history, wait a month and try again.
I had them elevate it to a supervisor and am awaiting his call back, but my question is, is there any way to force their hand on this and let him have a student card like we planned? I have had them as my primary card since 2006 and can use the hey you don't want to lose a good customer line. They are saying its a regulation thing so its out of their hands, is that true? what can I say to let him have a card, and if all fails what can I do to help him so he can get one in a month like they said?
TL;DR: | my brother got denied a student credit card due to lack of credit history, is there a way to convince/force them to let him have a card anyways? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] of 3.5 years are taking a break and I need advice.
POST: > So my girlfriend just started college and I've been worried since she isn't very outgoing. I went over to meet with her today and take her to the store and stuff and she says we need to talk. She said its really hard dealing with peoples expectations for us to get married and mentioned that when she met her roommates and told them about me they were all talking about how crazy it is that we've been together so long and how we should get married and stuff which I thought was weird. So she said she wants to take a break for a while because she is unhappy with her self and our relationship at the moment. This all caught me off guard and I don't know what to do, I made sure she was ok and then left to give her space but im just confused. Everything has seemed fine lately and she is my bestfriend.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend comes out of nowhere saying she wants to take a break and meet in a week. I dont know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Wife's spending is out of control...
POST: My wife and I have been married for 3 years, and have shared a joint account during that time (before that, we had separate accounts but I used to transfer money to her to pay for shared expenses that she paid for). We are a single income family - I work and she doesn't.
We have shared financial goals and a shared budget which we both agreed on that includes a certain amount set aside for entertainment / clothes shopping purposes, and also a certain amount set aside for groceries.
However, my wife really struggles to stick to our budget (for example, she blew it by over 10x last week), which makes saving slow and means any progress can be quickly wiped out. It also creates problems around the house - we have piles of clothes she has bought for herself all over the place, and no where to put them all (we have multiple baskets that normal households would use as washing baskets that are the permanent home of some of her clothes).
When it comes to food, we go shopping together for groceries at a relatively inexpensive supermarket on the weekend, and she usually resists (to the point of making a scene) buying enough food - so she ends up going to more expensive supermarkets multiple times throughout the week while I'm at work and spending a small fortune (usually on expensive ready to foods like pre-sliced salmon and brand name products) that blows out our grocery budget.
She regularly commits to improving things, but it never seems to last, and sometimes she gets defensive and makes a scene / shouts at me for even raising the issue.
Has anyone else been through a similar situation, and if so, how did you deal with it?
TL;DR: | Wife's spending is out of control, it causes problems for our finances and our household, and we are having difficulty finding an enduring solution to the problem. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Almost my [24M] birthday and one year since my break-up with ex [23F]. Tips on not drunk-dialing her?
POST: Ex broke up with me a year ago after 4 years of being together and being really serious. been a rough time for me this year since im in med school and she's across the country. she blocked my number and won't even listen to me now. i've given up on trying to contact her and whatnot and let her go. its just that i feel this weird urge reminiscent of weaker times this past year where i wanted to contact her. any tips for not drunk dialing her in someway from a friends phone or something, i really feel its because my bday is soon and want to just talk to my old best friend
TL;DR: | broken relationship, blocked phone numbers, angry people, seeking advice for not drunk dialing and making a weak fool of myself |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I like men but I don't. I like women but I don't. What's wrong?
POST: I'm a guy and I like guys. I like them as in, they're attractive, but when I try to picture myself in a relationship with another guy, I get somewhat repulsed.
On the other hand, I like girls. I get crushes and ask them out but I can't seem to find them as attractive as men. I hear my friends that are girls call them pretty but they're not lesbians and that's how I feel about women too. I do like them, I've had girlfriends that I really liked and I like some girls too but I also get crushes on guys and it's eating at me.
TL;DR: | Men are attractive, I like women relationship-wise but not very physically attracted to them; don't see myself dating another guy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I m27 admitted that I cheated to my gf f24 and she is not very angry and says I'm not a bad person. Should I be worried?
POST: My and my gf have been together for 10 months now. I did something stupid and cheated when we were fighting during our 3 month of long distance. So I told my gf that I cheated on her one stupid drunken night. After it happened I felt so bad and I felt the right thing to do was to tell her.
She was mad at the girl at first. The one who I slept with and only partially mad at me but even then not really. I don't understand why she was not that angry at me. I was apologizing profusely and explaining myself best as I can. She is a really understanding person and has been cheated on before. Is that why she wasn't that angry?
Is it possible that she has something bigger that she has been hiding? I told her I felt so bad and I am a horrible person because I honestly feel that way. She said "you are not a bad person...I love you" "I don't want to break up with you". I am genuinely good to her and treat her well except for this one time and she knows it.
How did she forgive me so quickly? Is she just ok with the idea of being cheated on? Did she cheat on me and never told me and now we are 'even'? Is she so madly in love with me that she would over look this? Has anyone experienced something like this before?
Please don't be hateful, if you have nothing constructive to say, please don't respond.
TL;DR: | I was a moron and cheated. Told my gf and she was not really that mad. Instead, she forgave me within the day and just needed time...what does this mean? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm a (M17) who needs advice on what to do
POST: Alright so i'm in the most shitty position ever. Iv known this girl who we'll call anna for the time being for about 3 years. We occasionally would play online games together but iv never had a long conversation with her. One day out of the blue she asks me if i can keep a secret, i answer yes and she tells about how she has a crush on my best friend who iv known for about 5 years. Were practically brothers. From there we start to develop more of a relationship.
After that we sat on the bus to school every day together, Told jokes, laughed together and did normal things that friends would do. She opens up to me about social problems like being overly shy and having no self confidence and because of those things she doesn't have any friends. I told her that shes amazing and that there's nothing wrong with her.
After spending so much time with Anna i start to develop feelings for her. She has an amazing personality that ill probably never find in anyone else. She starts talking to the guy she likes, and discovers that he likes someone. We'll call him Andy. Andy is trying to get this girl and is set on her. Knowing this Anna still likes him. She always asks me to help her with Andy but there's nothing i can do. I want to tell her that i like her but i'm not sure if ill ruin our relationship. I asked my friend and he says the longer i wait the farther into the friendzone ill be. What should i do? (First reddit post btw)
TL;DR: | Girl asks me for help with boy she likes, i end up liking her. Guy she likes is not interested in her but she doesn't care. I don't want to ruin our relationship by telling her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] really like this guy [20M] I started seeing, but he's kind of socially awkward...
POST: All right, so, I started seeing this guy a few weeks ago and I really like him, ***but*** he's a little socially awkward and I don't know how to handle that.
He just doesn't know how to hold conversation with people and you can tell he's uncomfortable. When we're together, we can talk all day, but when we're out, he's just awkward.
This is difficult for me mostly because I love to talk to other people and I have no problem doing that. Nor do I have a problem ordering things in a restaurant or cafe or engaging in conversation when waiting for coffee (this happened last night).
He also does this thing when we text. For example I sent him a "good morning" text and he replied "thank you! hope you have a good day!". Do people usually do this? Usually I'd expect a "good morning" back or something.
On top of this, he does this thing where he tries to talk dirty when we get frisky and it's a little uncomfortable for me. Just the way he does it is like he's trying too hard. Other than that, I have no problem.
Perhaps I'm being too critical or harsh, but being socially graceful and being able to hold conversation (especially around people you don't know or have just met) is something that's important to me.
What do I do? Should I just accept it as part of who he is? I kind of feel like a jerk about it. :/
TL;DR: | Dating a guy for a bit- he's socially awkward, I am not, I don't know how to handle it. How do I go about the situation? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28F] want to slow things down with new guy [36M] until I get over old guy [32M] - how?
POST: I am at the end of a 2-year+ very volatile non-monogamous and not-very-nice relationship with a 32M. We have both been seeing other people for the last year and a half, but we kept seeing each other and basically living together. Back in January of this year while I was at a wedding, I hooked up with a friend of a friend [36M] who lives in a different city. We started talking and texting long-distance, and I went to visit him again a few weeks ago. He does not know about my non-monogamous relationship but he does know that I see other people. Now I think I fell in love with this guy, and am definitely done with the other one because things have gotten progressively terrible. I'm ready to change and get away from the old dude, but I don't think I'm ready for a relationship yet. The new guy is amazing but I was blindsided, I wasn't ready for someone so incredible to step into my life, haven't even started processing this terrible relationship that is just now ending. I think about new guy all the time, and really think I could be totally happy and in love with him and be an amazing girlfriend, but I have this bitterness to get through first. I know I need to sort my head out but I don't want to lie to this guy, hurt him, or make him think he's not special. I think we were both not expecting to have feelings for each other. He also has tried to distance himself from me a little bit lately, I think because he has noticed me being weird about certain things (being really vague about what my life is like and who I hang out with). He was coming from a dry spell/being single, but I'm not. I want to be on the same page and I'm willing to change. I'm seeing him again soon, I could have a talk with him... or not?
Oh also, I am moving to his general neck of the woods (about 3 hours away) for work later this summer, so it's LDR now but not totally crazy to think about future possibilities - or is it?
TL;DR: | How do I let new LDR guy know I need some time without jerking him around, or should I break it off even though I'm in love with him just because I'm not ready? |
SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: Help me break out of my fantasy-geek shell r/books
POST: Hello everyone. I am a huge fantasy reader, and most of my time spent reading is with those. However, I also enjoy classics and some fiction (Murakami, Ishiguro, Ondaatje to name a few). I usually read some "normal" fiction as a palate cleanser in between giant fantasy novels. My problem is that when it comes to recommending books to a fellow reader (who is close to my heart), I'm lost! Fantasy is not their cup of tea! There is a rather large disconnect between our choices in novels. They are always able to recommend books to me, and I always enjoy them, but I have no books for them. But I really want to be able to share some books with them!
In conclusion/
TL;DR: | Please recommend some modern fiction authors that I can read and lend to my reader friend, so our book relationship is not so one-sided (and so I come off as less of a fantasy geek!!) |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: 24 [M] 6'2 295 lb's Motivation Needed!!!
POST: I am getting married in August. My fiance weighs 212 pounds, and I weigh 295 pounds. Since we have been together, she has gained 15 pounds, and now we are both determined to shed the weight to not only look good on our wedding day, but to be fit for our future children, and to live an overall healthier lifestyle.
I know she can shed the weight because she has done it before, but me on the other hand, it seems impossible. I have tried so many times to "lose weight" but have failed every time. I have a bad tendency to not follow through with things when the going gets tough, especially with getting healthy. I am not ashamed to admit that I love food, maybe even addicted to it. Fast food, pasta, bread, sugar, all of it gives me such pleasure. I tried a juicing cleanse for three days and lost 10 pounds, and had amazing energy, but gained every pound back in 2 months time. I know the only way for me to lose the weight and be healthy is to change my lifestyle of eating. And I am going to need help, and encouragement from as many people as possible. I am tired of being un-healthy, I am tired of being fat, and I am tired of feeling horrible after every cheese burger. However, most of all, I am tired of never following through, and letting people down. I am ready, one again, to make a change. And this time, I need people in my corner. Thank God I have found this subreddit, and I hope and pray everyone here will be nothing but friendly, motivational, and helpful, to this disease in my life called being obese.
TL;DR: | Getting married in August, tired of being fat, want to look good for my wedding. I never follow through, I have tried so many times. Help me get healthy and change my life! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Friend [20F] seemed to want to date, but I [21M] went abroad. Where do I go from here?
POST: Hello all!
The date is 4 May 2013, around 11PM. I received a few texts from a lady friend of mine, beginning with "Let's have sex. Now." Long story short, nothing happened, due to some severe cockblocking [1]. But I did reveal that I had feelings for her (which remain unchanged).
Later on in this conversation, she said that a friend "stole her phone," but a few of my buddies (both male and female) whom I've asked advice on this, seem to think that this is a wee bit suspect/convenient [2]. Even further in this conversation, she did seem quite open to begin dating.
The problem begins here: I've seen her once since this conversation. Avoidance isn't the problem, geography is. She lives abroad with her family during the long breaks in school, and I was out of the country (Scotland) during the past semester. Now that it's our winter break, I won't see her again until February (when she and I are both back in the States), at best.
So my issue is this: I want to date her, get to know her better, and (assuming the stars are aligned) try to be her boyfriend. The fact that we haven't spoken in person since the last few days of August does not put the odds in my favor. What can I do to rekindle this relationship in the making?
FOOTNOTES [relevant, but unnecessary details]:
1) I was intoxicated during this conversation with her, and my friend was barricading me in our room since I was sort of seeing somebody else at the time. I did want to see her then and there, but not necessarily do the dirty deed.
2) Subsequent conversations on Facebook also seemed to allude theoretical engagement in sexual activity.
TL;DR: | 1) May 4th, 2013- Lady-friend sends provocative texts --> "Oh, sorry, that was my friend on my phone but dating is still a good idea!" |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23F] casually seeing a [26M] for 3 months, drunkenly had exclusivity talk. Did I fuck everything up irreparably?
POST: I'll try to make things short. I've been seeing a guy for ~3 months and I really like him. I thought we were on the same page, but I recently had some doubts. So I was planning on talking to him about it the next time we met up. But instead, this happened...
We were both out drinking (separately) and we were texting each other whiile drinking. At about 2 AM as I was leaving the bars I dropped a hint that I thought he was only interested in me for sex. He vehemently denied this and he ended up calling me at about 3 AM. I was REALLY drunk and we ended up having a near hour long conversation about exclusivity in which I intimated that I want a serious relationship and he said "I'm not ready to be your boyfriend. I can't give you that." It was much more dramatic than it should have been, because we were both drunk, but he doesn't get REALLY drunk so I'm 100% sure I was much drunker than he was.
The next morning he said that he didnt want things to necessarily end but understood that we might want different things because he "couldn't give me any kind of assurance that [he would] be ready for a relationship in a specific timeframe" but that he was open to future exclusivity if it happened naturally.
I've done some soul-searching and here's what I want: I want things to stay the same with him, with that open door for exclusivity, while I also start to date other people again (this is OK with him). BUT I'm worried that I've fucked up things completely by having this conversation drunk and in a dramatic fashion. Is there no hope? Should I just try to move on? Or does the above "ideal" situation sound feasible/logical?
TL;DR: | Had drunken convo, was told by boy that he "isnt ready for a relationship" because of past relationship issues (was cheated on). Should I bother trying to salvage this/is it even salvageable? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Although nothing could have been more serious than the shooting in Denver, what happened in your theater during the midnight show for The Dark Knight Rises?
POST: First off, my condolences to all who were related to anyone that was lost in the shooting, and best wishes to all who are now safe.
In my theater, someone decided it would be funny to pull the fire alarm about thirty minutes before the film started. Everyone was just sitting in their seats and no one wanted to move, but then one of the theater guys comes along and tells everyone to leave the theater and wait across the street until the fire truck arrives and the guys check out the theater to make sure nothing is wrong. It wasn't pouring rain out there, but it was raining a bit hard. We stayed out there for a good fifteen minutes before we were let back in and yes, there was a mob of people running into each auditorium. Before that, as the fire fighters were walking back to the trucks, a bunch of asshats decided to start screaming 'USA' at them.
Other than that, the only thing that happened was someone kept using their small dark knight action figure and making it fly across the screen in a light to make it seem like a giant batman.
TL;DR: | 'Funny' guy pulls fire alarm, everyone stands in rain for fifteen minutes before massive mob rushes back in to theater to watch batman fly across the giant screen. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I want to meet people/date somebody, but only have 6 weeks left in town [20M]
POST: I'm a college student who goes to school on the east coast but is back home in Seattle for the summer. I'm not looking for just random hook-ups are a fuckbuddy or what have you, basically I'm looking for a girl whom I will be reminded of whenever I listen to Justin Timberlake's "Summer Love" in the future, if that makes sense. However, I don't know what to do to go about meeting people with this goal in mind. I work for minimum wage at a grocery store, have an unpaid internship that I can do the work for mostly from home, and like to be in the gym most days of the week (but sometimes I slip up).
It just seems like it is hard to meet people when you live at home and aren't old enough to go to bars. Any advice?
TL;DR: | Trying to meet people with the goal of a short-lived, relationship-esque summer fling in the Seattle area. How should I go about pursuing this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Am I (18/m) being clingy?
POST: I am 90% sure that I am, but I thought I'd ask to make sure. My SO (16/f) is very busy and our work scheds conflict, so we don't see each other a lot. Twice in the past month. I leave for college in a month, and she'll still be in high school. We've only been dating 2 months, but we were very good, probably best friends for 6 months before that
I get really anxious when she doesn't text back after a few hours, especially when I see her tweeting or on other social media during that time. She says she doesn't like texting when shes with friends. I also get jealous/paranoid when she's out with other guys.
Like I said, we dont see each other a lot, so I try really hard to plan dates when we have free time. But I always feel like I'm pulling nails trying to plan things, like she really isn't trying.
I realize I am probably just clingy. How do I work on this? She's a really great girl and was a good friend before we entered a relationship, and I dont want to lose her because of my insecurities.
TL;DR: | Get anxious when SO (16/f) is out with others/doesnt text back. How do I work on getting over that? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Women, what is the best thing a guy can do to get back at you for ignoring Men?
POST: Some background, my ex and I text every now and then. She has a history of not answering my texts after a certain point. Like she is just toying with me.
Today, she texted me saying that the only real time she misses me is when people disappoint her, even though I disappointed her a lot in our relationship.
I took this negatively, and thought she was trying to use me as an emotional crutch. So at first I typed out "I am not your crutch. Shut up. I miss you until you say shit like this." And then I decided to be the bigger person and say
"Don't lash out at me for something I didn't do, Derperina. I don't wanna fight." to which she responds:
"I wasn't lashing out."
So I assume she wanted to say she missed me, but didn't want to fully expose herself, so against my better judgement I said
"I miss you sometimes too when times get tough. We'll hang out sometime."
and of course she doesn't fucking even acknowledge my response, even though she was just texting me back quickly.
I know this is a game girls play. And I fucking hate it. Don't fucking text me and play this fucking game with me. REEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
How do I best combat this? I want her to feel like I do when I don't get a response. I don't want to play the same game, but I figure ladies would give me some insight as to what to do in those situations that would be in my favor.
TL;DR: | Ex texts me starting conversation and then completely ignores me when she gets a response or two. How do I combat this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22M] girlfriend [20F] is very wasteful with money and it drives me crazy.
POST: I've been with my girlfriend for four years and we've lived together for one. She admitted to me early on in the relationship that she has a bad relationship with money on account to growing up poor, and that it's caused her to have money management issues. I never really noticed until she told me that even after working for a year and a half while living at home with her parents (free of charge), she had absolutely no money saved up. Instead she spent her money on video games, clothes, makeup and other useless crap. When we moved in together, I told her she couldn't spend her money like that anymore since she'd have to start paying bills, and she agreed, since she wanted to get over her spending habit.
Well, it hasn't stopped. She orders useless shit from ebay and puts a lot of money into an online game she plays. She goes on $300 shopping excursions to the makeup store in the mall, and buys clothes she never wears. She bought a fancy tea set she's used once. She'll go out to eat a lot with her friends and treat them. She buys anime and video game merch that just ends up stuffed in the closet. It's not like her money is going into anything productive. She pays her bare minimum of the bills and the rest goes to whatever she wants, and it's frustrating because I want us to save up money and not have to live paycheck-to-paycheck. When I confronted her about it, she said she's get a high from spending money and that it makes her feel good to be able to buy all the things she never would've been able to as a kid. And I understand that, I really do, my parents struggled with money too, and you'd think she'd want better for herself and our future kids by saving up.
I'm starting to resent her. She suffers from depression and I'm sure shopping makes her feel happy, but I can't be in a relationship with someone who's becoming increasingly more financially irresponsible as time goes on. I don't know if I can help her if she won't help herself. If I could take her debit card and cut it in half, I would.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend spends all of her money on useless stuff she rarely uses. It impacts how comfortably we live and I'm sick of her selfish spending. How do I help my girlfriend be less wasteful with her money? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I thought I broke out of the friend zone
POST: I'm male, btw
So I've had feelings for this girl since highschool. It's been about 8 years now(we're both 23). We were always really good friends but i could never bring myself to tell her how i felt. I finally blabbed in our junior year just before i was about to move to Florida. She told me she didn't feel the same way so i spent my past 6 years trying to get over those feelings. We still talked from time to time and she still considered me her closest friend, even though we were states away.
Move ahead to a week ago, i stopped in north Carolina to visit for a day on the way to Maryland for school. With so much time away from her, i thought i had fully suppressed those feelings, but we both made the mistake of drinking and before i knew it, she was all over me. More importantly than that, she got emotional and said she loved me and regretted ignoring me for all those years. She said through all the things she's been through in life, I've always been there for her. She even started crying over it.
So here i am, now the happiest man in the world who thought that 8 years of affection hadn't gone to waste. We wake up the next day and stay in bed for a little bit, but i eventually have to leave. I told her i love her and she said the same and i go on my way, under the impression that everything is alright in the world.
Then things start going south. She won't talk to me and says there are things going on in her life and she needs time. I give her a few days but eventually break down and start blabbing my heart out. She replies with "sorry, i can't see you as anything more than a friend". Now I'm heart broken and everything just seems so bleak. I don't know how to cope with this. I was the drunken mistake of a girl i loved for 8 years.
TL;DR: | I loved a girl for 8 years, she recently hooked up with me, said she loved me and then later told me we were only friends. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I[21M] DTR with her[24F]?
POST: Alright, I'm not a great writer, but I'll do my best here. I've known (or at least know who she was) this girl for a couple years -- we never really talked, but would see each other from time to time through my friend (her brother).
Last August, her brother was bugging me to ask her out. I was a senior in college at the time and knew that I wanted to graduate college first which would happen in May. He continues to bug me about it, I continue with school, time goes on.
I graduate school and have a job and apartment lined up a little over an hour away from where she lives. There are 3 weeks between school ending and me starting the new job; I'm still busier than I thought I would be and still don't ask her out.
I end up coming back most weekends to make the most out of summer (hang out with a few friends, go boating on the family's boat, etc). Finally I decide to ask her out and see if she'd like to go grab a bite to eat - she agrees. Great. We essentially just end up talking for a while and call it a night.
As the summer moves on, I've gotten together with her 1-1 probably 4 or 5 times over the weekends that I've been home. I'm now at the point where I feel like a "DTR" has to happen but I'm not sure how to go about it. Here is how I'm feeling right now:
- I'm interested in her.
- I don't know if I should pursue it due to the distance
- I don't have any new friends due to not getting involved (because I've been back on weekends)
I feel like that however I approach this DTR, I need to make sure I clarify that I can't come back every weekend because I need to get more involved at my new place.
I think more than anything right now I'm looking for wording as to how to go about this. This got longer than I thought it would be...If anyone would like clarification on anything, just let me know.
Thanks.
TL;DR: | I've gone out with this girl a few times, but I'm sttuggling with how to DTR with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My husband [M/32] asked me [F/31] to consider having a discreetly open relationship
POST: My husband of 10 years recently asked me to consider having an open relationship. He would a) like to see me with another man / men, and b) like me to see him with another woman / women. It was not a *total* surprise as he has been asking me to talk dirty to him about having sex with another man to him while we have sex, but I did not realize that he wanted to turn his fantasy into a reality until he told me.
My husband and I have an excellent relationship and are very much in love, but he wants to introduce some new excitement into our sex life. I'm not a prude by any means, but I am satisfied by our sex life and particularly enjoy our level of closeness and comfort with each other. Until he brought it up, the idea of undressing in front of or being intimate with another man would not have occurred to me.
Since opening his own business earlier this year, my husband's sex drive has gone through the roof. When you work 100 or so hours a week, you're in a constant state of excitement and I've certainly taken note of the increased frequency of our love-making. He's a good looking man, fit, and constantly in the public eye, so I know he's getting plenty of attention from the ladies which highlights his desire.
He agreed to not initiate anything until I fully agreed to his idea and he has always been faithful. He made it clear that he is wholly devoted to me, which I do not doubt, but that he wants us to share some private fun while we're both still young and vibrant. I'm not totally opposed, but I'm also not convinced that this would be beneficial. It could be fun and it could strengthen our bond together by sharing the experience(s), but it could end badly too and I wouldn't want to risk our marriage.
Looking for others with similar experiences to share their thoughts, please. TYIA
TL;DR: | Husband of 10 years wants me to consider swinging. I'm not totally opposed, but cautious and unsure if it will be good for us in the long run. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [22/F] need help understanding my ex [23/M] logic..
POST: So me and my bf broke up after a year and a month. I am his first proper girlfriend since he was like 17. All through our relationship things were good he treated me so well and would do anything for me. We did have minor disagreements but we always spoke them out it's the first time I've actually felt like someone loved me genuinely.
So about 3 weeks ago he breaks up with me out the blue saying he doesn't feel the same. I asked if there was anyone else/ if I did anything wrong and he says no his feelings aren't just going to go away and he doesn't want to be with anyone else. Then I find out him feeling like this started when I told him I loved him for the first time a few weeks before the breakup and he said it's not fair to keep me around when he doesn't know when he'll feel the same.
We've been avoiding each other for now but he says he still wants to be friends as I've been such a big part of his life and he doesn't want me to not be in it. He's made the effort to text me a few times as he knows I'm going through some stuff and to encourage me with my driving test so I think he's being genuine.
I'm just so confused as to how you can be with someone for that amount of time and not love them? Like his actions suggested so? Is this just a case of he's got scared and ran? I just don't know what to think.
TL;DR: | ex broke up with me after I told him I loved him after a year confused why he would stay with me and why he continues to seem to care about me. Has he just got scared and ran? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF is insecure and asked the interwebs about our relationship, picturing me as the worst person ever... What can I do?
POST: So, here's my story. I'm in a 15months relationship with this girl, we're both 21yrsold. Everything is fine, we have some arguments time to time, but I think that's usual for a couple, huh.
So, she told me about this issue she's having with my behavior, saying that I'm a coward, I don't do things because I'm afraid etc etc.
Partially it's true. Partially it's just because I'm lazy as fuck and I can't get my ass off my chair, when I'm at the computer. So, in the middle of random talking she told me she's been posting in an online forum (not reddit, language specific and not even english) about a friend of hers and some problems with fitness and shit. She said she didn't want me to read what she's been posting, so she didn't give any detail on which forum, which username she was using. With some research and googling, I'm 100% sure I've found her. One of her posts says I'm a coward, a childish teenager who's not even close to an adult, and she doesn't know if she loves me anymore (we just had sex, and that baffled me completely.). According to what she wrote, I'm 100% dependant on my parents cash and care, I'm a spoiled child with some arrogant behavior and no real purpose for my life. To make things clear, I live in middle-high class family, and she lives in middle-low class family. Reading that and all the shit she threw at me, made me think, and I wanted to come here for advice.
So, I'm here, not knowing what to do, if I really want to be with her too, cause that read struck me deep in my feelings. She said, also, that I'm really perfect on other aspects (which is true, I'm patient and comprehensive, but I don't really care...) but she still doubts about her feelings for me.
What should I do, reddit? Shall I talk to her, saying that I found what she wrote?
TL;DR: | GF writes on the internet that I'm a spoiled douchebag kid, but still acts like nothing is wrong with me. Don't know how I can handle that. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21M] could use advice on getting over my best friend and bandmate [20F]
POST: What's up err'one. Generic throwaway man here, just so I don't get grief from buddies who follow basketball with me. I also could have this tagged wrong.
I've known this girl a long time. She and I became best friends back early in high school. She's someone who I've shared a lot of life and a lot of fun with, but on occasion going back about two years I'll get feelings for her - it waxes and wanes time to time.
We talked about it before and she hasn't had feelings for me (and I know she doesn't still) which is fine because I'd really rather not date anybody I know that well already. We basically became friends before I had any romantic interest and it stuck that way before I could ever have thought to try furthering our relatonship.
She and I are aspiring to be professional musicians, starting with a band that we both are in (our main project) but we're going to branch into different genres and formats. To put it simply, she and I go hand-in-hand creatively, and we're an amazing team.
If it were any other friendzone-type situation I would just cut her out and move on with my life but I can't and won't here because she's an integral part of the pursuit of my life's work and passion. I recognize I don't have much substance here but I would really appreciate some advice on how to move on from these thoughts that are bringing me down, at least until I can find a partner because I have no idea when that'll be... anything is appreciated. I'd be glad to fill in any detail.
TL;DR: | I could really just use some advice on how to move on from this chick that I can't be with because we're passionate about music and in a band together. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I want to stay friends with my EX-Wife but my current GF does not want me to, or see why I should. Any advice?
POST: Background:
I'm a 30 (M) who has been split with my ex-wife (30) for over 2 years (married for 6, together for 8 and friends for years before). We have a child together (3yo). Our split was quite messy and we're finally at a point where this is no more hostility or anger. We were great friends before we hooked up in our early 20s and while neither of us want to be with each other romantically, I think we both miss the friendship we once had. We still chat a fair bit when swapping over our child etc and we've bumped into each other a few times while out at pubs/mutual friends parties and it's been mostly good.
The problem lies with my current GF (28F). We have been together just over a year and she does not really want me having anything to do with my ex from a social point of view. I guess it is just her insecurity but it's starting to make me question our relationship. EG. the other night my EX was wanting to head out for a beer and invited me along. I had our child for the night but could have arranged an easy sitter to go and have a beer with her. I mentioned this to my GF and of course she told me not to, and got upset, so I didn't go.
I understand I have to be sensitive to her needs as she's my partner now, but it really pissed me off. Part of the reason I hated being married was not being able to do what I wanted when I wanted, yet here I am again! I really want to stay friends with my ex-wife, and while I can do so without hanging out socially I actually do want to hang out with her sometimes. She's still a cool person, and I have no interest in doing anything with her (pretty sure she also has a casual BF).
Am I just being a selfish insensitive twit or what?
TL;DR: | I want to be friends with my EX-Wife but my current GF doesn't see what I would want to and has made it clear that I essentially can't be. Just looking for advice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with 17 F girl from work I like
POST: I work as a lifeguard during the summer and its summer I met a girl I wanted to get to know better. We talked 2 times and never really super in depth conversations just like jokes about me being on brake so much. The problem is she is seasonal and only works during the summer and goes to a different school than me. I want to talk to her more/ maybe eventually ask her out but I don't know if I can text her. I have her phone number just from a general phone list and have texted her once about covering for me but that is it. I want to know if I should text her. Also I could talk more about the conversations we had if it matters. Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: | Can I text a girl I used to work with when just have her number from a general cover my shift sheet when we only talked twice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit vs. 9GAG: Why Would This Be Acceptable?
POST: Hello again, reddit! Recently, I've been reading r/fffffffuuuuuuuuuuuu, and a lot of rage comics try to deal with the Reddit/9GAG war by adding "Made for Reddit" and stuff to their comics. While I think this is completely fine, some people take it a little too far: they say "For reddit, not 9Fag." I have come to know reddit as a community of extremely intelligent people that should know better than to use the "f-word." Is it a play on words? Yes. Is it funny at all? No. Please reddit, I beg of you, don't do this anymore. Don't resort to insulting them by using this homophobic slur, or any type of slur for that matter. In conclusion, I want your thoughts on this, reddit. How many of you have seen this? Can you think of how to put a stop to it?
TL;DR: | I'm tired of people trying to insult 9GAG by saying 9FAG. Have you noticed? What can we do to stop this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27 F] told my best friend [29 M] of three years that I have feelings for him, and nothing happened.
POST: I slowly fell in love with my friend after I moved 4 hours away from him. For some reason, we just started texting/talking all the time right around the time I left, and it grew into a really strong friendship. We've told each other "I love you" and officially claimed "best friend" status. The less platonic feelings grew as well.
I saw him this weekend and couldn't help but feel really attracted and sexually frustrated. On Monday night I told him how I feel. He told me that he has feelings for me too, but with work and distance and whatnot, he can't imagine doing anything about it.
I told him that I didn't think I could be friends with him anymore because I turn to him for emotional intimacy that I need to be able to work hard for with someone else instead of being comfortable and lazy with him. Plus comparing every guy I do date to him, and them always coming up short.
He thinks that we can compartmentalize it and just be friends who know we have feelings for each other but still be friends. He doesn't want to lose me from his life.
All my life I've been told to be bold and take chances and go over things, but in reality, the one time I finally did something out of character, nothing happened. I don't think I was expecting a huge romantic comedy romance here, but maybe I was. Is this how it's supposed to work? Do we just be friends, or do we go our separate ways? Am I hurting my romantic prospects by finding comfort in a hopeless friendship?
TL;DR: | I told my best friend that I have feelings for him, and he reciprocates but doesn't think it changes anything. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend [31m] turns me [26f] down for sex 90% of the time.
POST: We've known each other for almost two years and officially dating for 8 months. We spend all of our free time together either alone or with various combinations of each other's friends and families. I know he loves me and wants to marry me. I feel the same way.
Ay, but here's the rub. I like sex a lot. Especially with the way he treats me and generally makes me happy, I probably could go 3-4 times a day. Would be fine with once a day.
Reddit, he doesn't want to. Turns me down all the time. Success rate is maybe 10% which translates to about once a week since he works weekend 12 hour night shifts at the hospital. (Fri-Sun). I
When we do have sex it's great. It's the best I've ever had. Nothing crazy, just plain PIV but whatever it feels amazing. I am fairly attractive and am used to just getting it when I want in past relationships so, maybe my seduction tactics aren't the best. I usually either grind against him when spooning. Place his hands on my boobs or just the ol' stick my hand down his pants, rub him down there or attempted blowjob. Or if he's cooking, washing dishes or brushing his teeth, I start undoing his pants. He'll stop me, pull my hand away or push me away and say he's tired, he's bloated, he just wants to sleep or just plain no.
We've talked about it. But I don't want to make him feel bad. I'm not sure if he just physically can't or if his ADHD makes him have all too much on his mind that he can't focus on having sex with me. Or if maybe I'm doing something wrong. When we did talk he said he wasn't used to this kind of attention and that "he's working up to it." It seems like he genuinely wants to make me happy but I think I'm going to have to decide how important sex is to me. (I'm not a fan of masturbating. Get bored easily. And meh. But maybe I'll give that a go...)
Any input would be helpful.
TL;DR: | great boyfriend of 8mo turns me down for sex. 10% success rate. Not sure if I'm doing something wrong. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34F] with my new guy [41M] 6 dates now - should I wait until he suggested we both get off OkC?
POST: So I've been going out with this 95% match who lives in a neighboring country (but due to work he is in town a lot and will spend more time here until mid next year). If I recall correctly we've had 6 dates now. He's referred to me as 'my girl', has shown up at my office party, and has used all the terms of endearment that I know the English language has. He's even considering moving to my city - although he only mentioned this in passing.
I haven't gone on OkC since our second or third date, but a friend of mine told me she saw him online today and last weekend. Now I've 'ruined' a blurry relationship before by asking the guy if he was going off OkC after approximately the same number of dates (and after he took the liberty of taking my NSFW pics without my permission), so I don't want to make the same 'mistake' twice.
TL;DR: | Should I ask about my date about his OkC activity/ies now that we've gone on 6 dates - or should I just wait if he ever brings it up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 8 months, starting to bug me bout dumb shit
POST: She's been doing this thing lately and applying it to everything and it's been pissing me off. Whenever I suggest a place to eat or suggest anything, there's always backlash. She never agree's on something that I chose. Every time she asks me to go to dinner now, I just tell her to pick the place because she's not in the mood for whatever I suggest. Yesterday we went grocery shopping and I swear to god every item I picked up was, "ohhh idk if we need that put it back," but god forbid she picks up whatever the fuck she wants and throws it in the cart because honestly I don't care what she gets. I had not eaten anything all day either so we get back to the car and I suggest on running into chipotle really quick and grabbing a bite. She gets pissed and starts exclaiming, "eat something at home we don't have time we have to be back to go to my roommates parents house." (we help my roommates parents with work around the house) The funny thing too, we get back to our house and we're still waiting on another friend to meet us at our place to go to his parents so I just got up left and grabbed chipotle. How do I get her to chill out and just let me grab chipotle or go to a place I suggest or throw a box of gushers in the goddam shopping cart? It's getting frustrating and idk how much I handle having it always her way.
TL;DR: | gf likes things her way recently, doesn't let me get chipotle when I want it and I can't put things in the shopping cart without some comment! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(26F) fiancé (25m) has a crippling fear of flying and I'm not sure how to help?
POST: My fiancé has had a fear of flying since I've known him.
My mom and step dad live across the country.
They usually come to our state once or twice a year, and I try to go see them once or twice a year.
My fiancé flew to meet my parents in the very beginning. Then never flew there again.
I even moved to live with them for 2 years for school, he was never able to fly to see me, I always went to see him.
We just recently got engaged and my mom wants to fly me and my fiancé out to Vegas with her and my stepdad for a fun weekend together.
My fiancé has always wanted to go to Vegas, he has the time off during the time we'd be gone, and we have been talking about going on a fun trip soon. He says he really wants to go, except...he can't fly.
I've tried every approach I can. I told him we could see if we could get medication from the doctor to take during the flight. He said no, he'd still be aware. I suggested he take a couple shots before we board, nope. I've tried to reason out that it would only be a couple hours, chances of crashing is so low, blah blah blah. He wasn't having it.
He said he will go, but only if we make a road trip out of it instead of flying. Problem is I don't have enough vacation saved up for a long road trip. it doesn't make since for him to drive and me to fly, he'd be driving across the country. It would take at least a few days.
I really want him to come on this trip, I know he would have alot of fun, and it would be so nice for us to spend the quality time with my parents before the wedding.
Is there ANY thing I can say or do to help him with this fear of flying? Anyway I can convince him to "face it" and just go?
I will add that he flew for a work event about 2 years ago and he was scared shitless, but did it.
TL;DR: | my fiancé is not able to go on a trip with my parents because of his cropping fear of flying, any way to help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Gorgeous mystery guy on the train in Brisbane, going to see Bon Iver: Who are you?
POST: So last night in Brisbane at around 8:30-9, you were sitting on the bench behind my two friends and I. You were perfection. You were looking at me too. I went completely socially awkward penguin and I couldn't stop staring at you.
When I got on the train and continued staring we smiled at each other and at the very last second, you got on the train and sat across from me.
I said all the wrong things being the terrible flirt I am. But I can't stop thinking about 'what if'. That moment, although maybe minuscule to you, will always leave me wondering about you.
Reddit, please help me find him.
He was obviously 18+, blonde, had a beautiful smile and was completely and utterly gorgeous. He was wearing a blue button up patterned shirt with brown/leather elbow pads on it (which I awkwardly complimented). Going to see Bon Iver and got off at the Valley.
I'm just an awkward 17 year old American girl. I know I made a total fool out of myself, but I'm desperate to know him.
I'm sure someone out there knows him and would read this post, or maybe even him himself.
**Please help me Reddit?
I'm sure you've all had those 'what if' moments. Help put mine to rest?
TL;DR: | I'll forever be 'what if-ing' if I can't find the blonde, gorgeous stranger from the train last night. Help me find him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Fiancee is convinced my mom is homophobic because my(27/f) mom doesn't like her(29/f)?
POST: My mom doesn't dislike my fiancee but she doesn't like her. Their personalities don't jive. My mom is friendly and sweet if a little distant to her though. My sister-in-law and my mom get along very well (they're practically the same person) and my fiancee knows this is and it bothers her a lot.
My fiancee thinks it's because my mom is homophobic. She is absolutely convinced of this. It doesn't help that my mom makes sometimes dumb jokes in front of her. We were talking about how much money doctors make in the US at our apartment a few nights ago and my mom said something like "should have married your ex-boyfriend!!" but it was a joke (she was referring to the boy i dated in high school). My fiancee obviously didn't think it was funny and she thought it was dismissive and disrespectful but my mom's humor is like that.
My fiancee is getting upset at me for what she perceives as my mom's homophobia. I'm 80% sure my mom is NOT homophobic and my fiancee is imagining things. I tried talking to my fiancee about this and she thinks I'm taking my mom's side and that I'm dismissing her feelings too. What am I supposed to do?
TL;DR: | Fiancee is convinced my mom is homophobic because my mom doesn't like her and now she's upset at me for not doing anything about it??? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 M] gf [18 F] of 2 months has engaged in some behaviors that make me wonder if I need to leave her.
POST: A while back, my girlfriend told me she wanted less sex. Her reasons were ambiguous and unclear, so I shrugged it off. Later she changed her mind, so I felt like it was nothing to worry about.
That same week she sat me down and started telling me I should eat more and gain weight. She asked if I had an eating disorder. (I don't, I'm a very tall and naturally lanky guy.) She went on to tell me that my hips hurt her when I'm on top of her. Naturally, this drove a pretty huge stake into my self confidence, and I'm having trouble taking my shirt off in front of her without feeling self conscience now.
A couple nights ago she decided to smoke pot for the first time in a year, took 4 bong hits and absolutely lost it. She started getting lovey-dovey with everyone, and started blowing kisses and holding hands with a dude she has called "good looking and charming" in the past. This naturally made my stomach turn inside out because I consider it intimate behavior and definitely cheating had she been sober. To be fair she didn't specifically target just that person that night. She held hands with other people, and claims it was due to the state of mind of being on pot. She also decided to take her shirt off in a room full of people, several of which were males, and put on something more comfortable. She claims to have no memory of these things, and says it was 100% the weed, promising never to do it again, though several stoners have told me that such behavior isn't excusable on weed.
I just don't know what to do here. It FEELS like she cheated on me, and she's starting to damage my self-confidence. What do I do here?
TL;DR: | GF tells me to gain weight, wonders if I have an imaginary eating disorder, then got high and started holding hands with other men. Breakup worthy? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: M18 - Need advice on how to proceed
POST: College freshmen here, just moved into my dorms to start the semester. Only been living here a couple of weeks and already I have a pretty big crush on my resident assistant and I have no idea what to do about that. We've talked a little bit one-on-one (mainly about the fact that I'm considering becoming an RA myself, so that's kind of a convenient go-to reason to chat with her) and she's friended me on facebook, but I'm kinda lost from here. I'm kinda oblivious socially and have always had a problem talking to people, especially girls. I can't just go up to someone and get their number like a few of my new acquaintances here can. I believe I have a good rapport going with her for the few minutes that we've actually talked, but I'm not sure.
I do have a plan of some sort over how to continue. I bought a gift mug for her (Ryan Gosling themed; she's obsessed with him, as our floor's decoration shows) and was planning on giving it to her anonymously. I thought it'd then be a good idea to mention it after asking her to get something to eat on campus (and hoping that she says yes). Though anonymous gifts seem slightly creepy. Thoughts?
Really, any advice is appreciated. I've had some dating experience, but not enough to know what I'm doing with someone that I don't know that well.
TL;DR: | I have a crush on my resident assistant but am socially awkward and don't know what is acceptable (ie. not creepy) and would like pointers. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by cleaning my septum piercing in the staff bathroom.
POST: This FU actually happened today, on my work break.
Currently, I am a nursing assistant at a nursing home. About a week ago, I finally plucked the courage to get my septum pierced. I haven't had any problems with it, and I make sure the area is clean throughout the day. So, during one of those cleaning regimes - I retreat to the staff bathroom on my break to bring down my septum piercing (I flip it up during work to conceal it). As I'm sniffing and doing general nose stuff, one of the cleaners and biggest workplace gossips walks in.
"Oh, it's only you." I say, laughing. I was just glad it wasn't one of the bosses - they HATE piercings and body mods.
She gives me this strange look but kind of dismisses what I said, then questions what I was doing.
"Oh you know, breaking the rules." I laugh again, assuming this cleaner knows I have a piercing. I was almost certain she had seen it before.
She gives me another weird look as I dab my nose with a tissue (I also had the sniffles) and kind of scurries out the door. Weird. I forget about it and go back to work.
About half an hour later, one of the big bosses pulls me aside and asks me to meet with her in the office. She's watching me as we're walking and, being me, I'm always super cheerful and whatever. I must seem.. High, sometimes.
As soon as we get into the office, she questions if I take drugs. I'm like, whaaaaaaat. No, I don't. She then let's me know a coworker has had suspicions that I have been doing cocaine whilst on work premises.
I just roll out with the whole piercing thing and blah blah but my boss kind of buys it and kind of doesn't. So I have to show her the piercing.
I'm still getting weird looks.
TL;DR: | Coworker sees me cleaning and sniffling at my septum piercing, automatically assumes I do cocaine at work. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by pouring solidifier in a sink
POST: To start let me give a background of the story. I work at a hospital in the OR department as a patient care tech. When surgical procedures are done I come in there and disinfect the OR's before the next case comes in. So we have this stuff that we use called isolyzer. When you pour it into any liquid it solidifies. So today I make the grand mistake of pouring isolyzer into a scrub sink instead of pouring it into a trash can after I couldn't find the top for it. So now one of the scrub sinks are stopped up. I called maintenance and he came up and poured akaline into the sink and I haven't told my manager because she left for the day. If that doesn't work I may have to pay to fix it and lose my job.
So hows your day going reddit?
TL;DR: | Poured liquid solidifier into a scrub sink at a hospital, waters stopped up, haven't told my manager, I may need to have a drink when I get off. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: What to do with a LARGE amount of extra income?
POST: I've read the guide on saving that goes through all of the steps, aka "I have $X, what should I do with it?" But I'm now all the way down to step 5 and 6, and I still have a LOT of money left over.
My situation is a bit odd: I'm just barely 21, graduated college with zero debt on scholarship, and have a tech job that pays over 100k a year. My car is paid for in full from my high school through college days, and pretty much the only recurring monthly payments I have are rent+auto insurance+utilities, which add up to a bit less than $2k a month. I tend to eat as much at the company for lunch as possible, and cook for myself at home for dinner so I probably only spend $100-200 on food a month.
This leaves me with a very significant chunk of money from my paycheck that literally just goes straight to a bank account right now, gathering dust. What should I do with this?
TL;DR: | I have a lot of extra income, I'm young, and I don't know what the best use for it is. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU and blew out everyone's eardrums
POST: This happened a few years ago, but I'm fairly new and I'd like to share it.
I went to this high school that was too poor to hire stage technicians, so they recruited and trained pupils to do stage technician things. I was one too, we got next to nothing in return but we could do the school radio which was fun.
The fuck-up happened on a paid job though, a group of amateur writers came and held lectures, which required a stage and a wireless microphone. It was the 3rd or 4th time, I knew where everything was supposed to go, no big deal. I wire up everything and wait for the lecturer. I put the wireless microphone on the lecturer, power it on, get back to the stage room and pull up the volume.
Nothing happens. The microphone doesn't transmit anything. I try pulling the volume to the maximum, nothing. I then run down to the lecturer to see if I forgot to turn on the mic only to I see I put the battery in the wrong way around. No biggie, I flip it, it should work now.
Do you know the feedback sound? That high-pitched sound is now BLARING in the room because idiot me forgot to set the volume back to a reasonable level before coming down to help. Also, the microphone uses a 9V battery in a petty tight battery holder, so it took me around 10 seconds to pry the battery from it. Everyone was pissed.
TL;DR: | Put battery in the wrong way, pulled volume to the max, killed everyone's eardrums when I finally fixed it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 F] was missing my ex [26 M] (dated 3 years, broke up 3 months ago) and browsed his Reddit profile...
POST: My ex and I were together for 3 years and 4 months. Really screwed up relationship. We have been broken up for almost 4 months now, but early on there were some sexual slip-ups, and since then we have been attempting no contact (I say attempting because some failures have happened via email).
I have always known my ex's username. Tonight I had a few beers and I was missing him a lot. Started browsing his posting history (I had only done this maybe once before, when we were dating)... I just wanted to laugh at his dumb jokes, look at his pictures, etc. Then I hit some comments on r/gonewild posts. Okay, fine... obviously his sex drive isn't stopping with my absence. Breathe and move on.
Find a fucking Scumbag Stacy post about me (from 1 month ago...) just absolutely trying to tear me apart. Luckily most people saw through the bullshit and it was downvoted a lot, but it still HURTS. I'm crying and I feel like I'm right back at the beginning of the breakup. I responded irrationally, without even pausing to think once I saw it, and sent him an email saying how much I hate him. I guess I just want advice on what to do now. I know he will be emailing me back, but I'm trying to keep NO CONTACT and I just seriously fucked that up, in all sorts of ways.
TL;DR: | Fucked up NC by stalking my ex's reddit account, found some hurtful stuff, and emailed him about it. Now what? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling a girl that I really like that I'm still a virgin
POST: I had been talking to this girl for a few weeks and we really connect with each other. One night we were having a really deep conversation and she asked me to tell her something I hadn't told her before, so I told her that I was still a virgin at 20 years old. I then explained to her how I wasn't embarrassed by it and how I didn't just wanna put it in anybody, yet it wasn't something I wasn't exactly saving for an extra special occasion. She seemed okay with it at the time and she said it was "cute". Fast forward to about a week or two later (last night); I'm at her apartment and I was gonna stay the night with her. I had came prepared with condoms because she seemed like she was willing if the mood was right. So we're lying in bed making out and she's getting REALLY into it, yet she wouldn't take off her clothes or anything and kept pushing me away after a couple of minutes, saying she needed to calm herself cause she didn't wanna have aex for whatever reason. I was on board but I was still wondering why not because we had both made it very clear that we both wanted it, yet she was resisting. Afterwards, we went to sleep and I left for work in the morning. So tonight I called her up and after talking about the usual " how was your day", I asked her why she didn't wanna have sex last night. She beat ar found the bush for forever before finally telling me that it was because I was a virgin and she was afraid of hurting me if we don't become anything more. I tried to explain to her that this is something I wanted and I felt she was special enough for me to share with, and that I don't think my first time will be any different from the third or the hundredth time I have sex, as long as I feel special about my partner. So now I'm pretty much trying to convince her to have sex with me because I'm ready and willing and not because she doesn't think I am.
TL;DR: | Girl with mutual feeling won't have sex with me because I'm a virgin and she's afraid for me, but I know for a fact that I'm ready and mature enough to handle it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Loan Refinance question. Any downsides?
POST: Hey All. So i'm 22, just graduated with a BS in Finance and start a consulting gig in a month full time.
Last December I needed a new car so I bought a $17k Accord. Put $3,000 down and financed $14,000. Because I hadn't started my job yet I had my mother Co-sign the loan. At 3.25% over 5.5 years the monthly payment comes to $236.80.
Now my mom wants to buy a new car within the next 6 months. I'd like to get her off my loan so her debt level on her credit report is significantly less. I spoke with the bank and they're willing to rewrite the loan with only me on it once I can provide a pay-stub. The new loan would be for $12,000 at 3.25% for 5.5 years. Putting my payment at $198 per month. My mom would no longer be on the loan and I'd be saving almost $40/month.
Aside from a slight credit score hit when they hard check for the new loan (which i'm not too worried about. I'm currently at 769 FICO), are there any downsides to doing this that i'm missing?
TL;DR: | I want to refinance my auto loan to get my mom off policy and save me money each month. Downsides i'm missing? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [Admin] Please be specific about your location
POST: We've had some confusion recently when an OP's location has used an ambiguous abbreviation, resulting in inaccurate advice. So we are not only asking you to include your location **(preferably in the title or the first line of your post)** but to also be specific and clear about it.
Best:
* [Ontario, Can.] (or Canada)
* [Ontario, Cal.] (or Calif. or California)
* [San Francisco]
* [Duluth, IA]
* [Toronto]
Okay:
* [BC, CA]
* [Cal.]
* [IA]
* [ME] [OK] [HI] [IN] -- be aware that because these are also common words, they all trigger locationbot to ask you for your location. Writing them out would be better.
Bad:
* [CA] -- unclear if it means California or Canada
* [LA] -- unclear if it means Los Angeles or Louisiana
* [NorCal] [SoCal] -- not specific enough to be useful, either include the city or just say [California].
* [Midwest] [South] -- states have their own laws, a region is not sufficient.
* [Europe] -- at a minimum, include the country.
* [Chicagoland] -- not specific enough and can be misleading if you're in a suburban city, which may have different laws from Chicago itself in some respects.
* [Ontario] [Springfield] [Arlington] [Portland] [Stratford] [Oxford] [Orange County] -- for example. There are multiple places with these names.
We also ask for city/town as well as state, if you feel you can tell us that without compromising anonymity, because many questions are city specific -- especially anything about a municipal code violation, and also some landlord/tenant rules. But your state or province is the minimum you need to include.
TL;DR: | If there's any chance your abbreviation might also mean somewhere else, write it out instead. Include at least your state or province in every post. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M25] confirmed my gf [F26] slept with someone else after she asked for a break a year ago. Am I wrong for feeling cheated? Help?
POST: my girlfriend [F26] and I [M25] took a break last year for about 3 months. I acknowledged all my errors leading to this break and did my best to mend the relationship. 3 months later we got back together but I always suspected she had been involved with a close friend during the break. I confronted her about it then but she told me nothing happened and accused me of not trusting her. It took me a long time to get over it but I finally accepted that nothing had happened. In the past year we grew much closer then we had been before and things seemed great. Today, a year later, I found out my suspicions from back then were true. She slept with another guy. I don't know how to handle this situation... I still love her and this happened so long ago, but it's difficult to move on knowing our strong relationship this past year was sitting on a foundation of lies. This year I went through severe issues that she has helped me overcome. She's been there for me everyday and now I feel like i have nobody. Am I wrong to feel like she cheated on me? I'm absolutely heart broken and confused. I know it has already happened and nothing can be done but should I just let it go and continue with our strong relationship (which will obviously need some repairing after this)?
TL;DR: | my girlfriend slept with someone else a year ago and denied my accusations so I let it go. A year later, our relationship has grown stronger than before, but I found out it did happen. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23/F] am worried my father [55/M] is going to steal my identity???
POST: edit: I have put a fraud alert on my credit report and already have a lot of peace of mind. as I thought my credit is generally too shitty to get a credit card, but I feel a lot better now.
Alright so: My dad does not have a job. He receives social security to support my [16]sister. He is constantly asking myself, my [21]sister and my mother (they are separated) for money. He is TERRIBLE with money, just completely wasteful. He constantly gives money to his drug addict "girlfriend", she has even ASKED HIM to ask us for money, but that's not what this is about.
I'm a young adult, about to graduate college, and as such have been receiving a lot of credit card offer stuff in the mail. My dad is usually the first one to get the mail, and many times I have not gotten important pieces of mail because he does not give them to me, tell me about them, or just plain loses them. Today I found one of those fake credit cards (for me) with a number to call on it laying around and I am suddenly very worried he's going to try and open a credit card in my name.
Would he be able to do this? He's my dad so he obviously knows all my personal info but I don't know if he would actually be able to succeed. On the bright side (I guess?) I have pretty bad credit atm (hospital bill that has needed to be paid for a couple years now haha...) and have tried applying for a credit card myself before and gotten rejected every time. So I don't know if he tried that he would be able to succeed on that count, but I'm still incredibly worried!
I really don't want to confront him, he's mentally unstable and gets very angry and violent very easily. What should I do in this situation?
TL;DR: | I am worried my perpetually broke father will try and open a credit card in my name and leave me with a shit ton more debt than I already have. What can I do in this situation? |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: My take on the noisy neighbor
POST: OK, so yea, this is an old one for me… and similar to a few that I have seen here, but I have my own take on the noisy neighbor revenge.
So I was working nights and living in a real dive apartment. This was the only place I could afford as I was just out of the military post Gulf War 1. My downstairs neighbor really liked to play rap music… loudly. Now I really do not have issue with his music choice nor his listening habits but really, I was trying to sleep and I know all my daytime neighbors were trying to get ready for work, get the kids off to school etc. This happened not every day, but several times a week.
I tried pounding on the floor… he pounded back. I talked to the building manager… no love. I even went and talked to the guy. I asked politely if he could turn down the base. I could deal with the general volume but the base was just denying me any sleep. I was not prepared for the waterfall of hate that came out of this guy. According to him, this was a race relations issue brought on by my ancestry and exacerbated by the allegedly dubious marital relations of my parents. He got personal after that – I will spare you the details.
At this point, I was having none of it. I walked away. Recall above that I was fresh out of the military. Those of my brothers out there can likely tell you about the barracks stereo wars. Before deploying, I lived in a 40 man open bay barracks with cinderblock walls. If you wanted to hear your own music, you had to be, shall we say, assertive about it. I generally got to listen to my own music while in the barracks and this guy got to listen to my favorite bit of Beethoven at a volume that had the violins shaking his windows. I had (have) a Yamaha MX series (yea, that long ago) 1000 amplifier running JBL studio monitors (Control 5, with the monster sub) and a pair of Kappa 6s.
Interestingly enough it only took about 5 minutes. I never heard a complaint and I never heard anyone else's stereo after that.
TL;DR: | Beethoven rules again (check my post history to hear about how I learned to love the classics)(made it easy, here it is |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/M] My Girlfriend [18/F] has one of her friends visiting... hasn't been acting the same since she arrived.
POST: So I recently came back for a family vacation to see my girlfriend for New Years. She had a friend come to the same party as us who was visiting for 10 days from another country. We both confessed our love to one another at midnight (NAWW) and hungout in a room upstairs the rest of the night. I can imagine her friend would be really upset as she hooked up with a guy she didn't want to... and was really awkward throughout the party causing her to get to a drunkness that she didn't want to reach. My girlfriend told me when I arrived home after the party that her friend dind't like me very much... I expected it just to be because I was with her the entire night.
However, when I tried to hangout with them on a "hangover walk" it was extremely awkward... I'm a guy who gets along with literally anyone and everyone, except for this girl. I just could not click with her at all.
Since the walk my girlfriend has been acting really weird, talking to me a lot less than when i was on vacation. Her friend has been here for a almost a week so it definitely has nothign to do with her being her. I have a feeling her friend is trying to convince her not to talk to me? because when I asked her to hangout the other day she said we would everyday when her friend was here, and now she doesn't want to hang at all.
So Reddit, should I let them be enjoy their company for the next 3 days even though I haven't had the chance to soberly hangout with my girlfriend in 3 weeks? Or do I try to come to terms with her friend who really dislikes me?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend has been acting weird since New Years party after her friend (from another country) confessed she didn't like me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Friend [29f] molested by father as a teen but she's still close to him.
POST: I've been good friends with this girl for almost 10 years now. We're both 29. She's married and has a kid.
Long story short, about a year ago she told me her dad molested her repeatedly when she was 16. She didn't go into detail other than to say that what he did was finger her. I can't even remember why we started talking about this, but that's all she would say on the subject. And she's never talked about it since then.
She treats him like a normal dad. She calls him on the phone to chat, she sends her child over to his house to play and spend the night. She goes on family vacations with him. They have holidays and dinners and things. He seems like a good guy. Jovial is the one word I would use. Now I see him and I see Molester.
What is the psychology behind this? Obviously I only have a fraction of the story, and I believe what she told me. I just can't get it out of my head that I would never forgive or speak to someone again if they did that to me.
I've seen her dad many times since I heard this story and I speak with him like I normally would, but now there is a huge elephant in the room that I can't comprehend. She loves him and trusts him enough to be alone with her child. I can't understand this.
btw I would never push her to talk about this subject again, I figure if she wants to talk about it she will.
TL;DR: | Dad molested friend 15 years ago, she treats him like a normal dad. WHY? I'm really just trying to understand how this can be. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Naked photos are in the way of me leaving an online relationship, how do I do leave safely? [f20] [m21]
POST: What's the best way to get out of an online relationship with naked photos in the mix?
Somehow this guy and I hit it off... on a website. We became friends. I was stupid and looking for attention and gradually he got around to seeing all of me naked. We had such a good relationship and I really enjoyed him. We Skyped and had fun - no we've never met in person, and I had no intentions for getting so close to him. Unfortunately, we got super close, did dirty Skype sessions, and sent pictures back and forth. For the first year I wouldn't show him my face. However, recently I have and he took pictures of me which include my face and nudity. I didn't think of it at the time. I do have photos of him, but he doesn't fear me sending them. He's the only online person I've talked to who knows my real name and real info.
Also, he's created collages with my real name, Facebook URL, and naked pictures. He threatens to post these online. I don't want to jeopardize my future or embarrass my family.
Now, I want to get out of the relationship. He's more of a jerk now and I feel he is using me for my body. This relationship isn't healthy for me, but I'm scared he's going to blackmail me with the pics.
I don't know what to do. I don't want my family involved. I realize this whole thing was a stupid thing to do, and I regret it.
He's 21, I'm 20 (f). We've talked online for 1.5 years.
Any advice would be great please. I feel like he's taking a toll on my life. Thank you in advance.
TL;DR: | Sent naked pics to random guy, don't want to talk to him anymore, scared he's going to blackmail me with pictures. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Anxiety nearly destroyed my [18M] life and my relationship. How can I repair my relationship with my girlfriend? [18F]
POST: As the title says I have greatly hurt my relationship throughout the past 6 months because of anxiety. My anxiety made me an all around needy person who wanted excessive reassurance. This of course irritated my girlfriend greatly and led to some fighting and everything else. I was also extremely irritable and was quick to clash or shut down on my girlfriend. This led to a slow breakdown of our original great relationship. Even when she initially asked me to look into getting better, I ignored her. It took me just over six months before I took the steps to improvement. So our relationship is a bit rocky at this point. This girl is my best friend, someone who I only want to see happy, and someone who I have hurt greatly.
I essentially did ever single thing wrong. About a month ago I got put on an anxiety medication and it allowed me to control my anxiety quite well. Now that I'm back to being myself I want to show my girlfriend that I love her very much . Unfortunately, my prolonged anxiety state has pushed my girlfriend away quite a bit. At one point shortly before I got treatment we nearly broke up because of my refusal to get help. However, we sat there both crying in each other's arms and decided we couldn't move on without giving it one great final try. I want to know what I can do to rebuild my relationship.
Background information: My girlfriend and I had been really good friends for years before dating, after a prolonged time of her flirting with me and me being extremely dense, we finally started to date. We've been dating for almost a year and a half now. Before my anxiety we were one of "those" couples that many people set as a standard to live up too. If at all possible I don't want to lose her. We're different types people with me being an extremely affectionate one and her being the more realistic one. However, we are extremely compatible in just about every way. I love this girl very much. We used to talk about having a future together and I don't want to go out without a fight.
Looking forward to hearing some opinions.
TL;DR: | I [18M] have greatly hurt my relationship with my girlfriend [18F] due to the side effects of anxiety. How can I work to fix my relationship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Graduating med school soon, just received control of a 30k investment account
POST: I am 26 y/o and will be graduating from medical school June 2017 without debt (thanks Mom and Dad). I was just made aware of an account in my name that has about 30k in it from contributions made by my grandparents when I was young (held in stock).
I am looking for advice on where to keep this money, and if it'd be advantageous to take action now while I am in a low tax bracket. I currently make $0. I will make ~$50,000/year for 3 years in residency. And then I will likely be making $200,000+ from there on out.
The options I see are:
A) Leave it and let it ride
B) Sell now. Pay the lowest capital gains. Start reinvesting the money into a Roth IRA while I am still eligible.
I'm sure there are other options too. Please let me know what action would best suit me. Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: | Is it to my advantage to transfer the 30k in this taxable account into my ROTH over the next 5 years while I am eligible to make contributions? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] am having trouble dealing with heartbreak and still being friends with [23 F] ex/friend/coworker. 4mo.
POST: I'm really just looking for advice on how to deal with this heartbreak I'm feeling. It isn't like I haven't dealt with it before but this time is different. I feel very strongly connected to this girl and am still trying to remain friends. She means so much to me that I want to still keep her in my life. We've talked a lot about why it didnt work and I understand to some extent, but I still can't help but feel my heart go numb when I see/think about her with her current guy. Who, I have met and like, hes a really nice dude who she has know for a very long time (since they were kids). Even so I see pics/hear her talk about him and I have to go hit the heavy bag for 30 mins or so.
How can I get past this feeling and still be friends with someone I truly feel the need to keep in my life?
TL;DR: | Trying to remain friends with ex who is also a co worker and seeing someone else. I get a numb heart when I hear/see them and angered with him even though I like him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So I was sitting in my hotel room on a very gusty Columbus, OH day when suddenly my window attempted to eat me.
POST: So I'm at my desk and a very strong gust of wind bursts my hotel window out of its molding swinging it down on me. I moved just in time for it to miss my head and hit my shoulder. I manly moved because the sound, I had no idea that the window was about to hit me. I immediately called the front desk. They asked if I was hurt and I said "it hit my shoulder but I think I'm alright" possibly because of the adrenaline it didn't hurt much at all, the next day (today) my shoulder/upper arm is swollen and very tender I'm sure a nasty yellow/purple bruise will form.
So they sent somebody up. The guy just came up and banged it back into the moldings and left. It was still windy as hell so there was no way I was working. After I told the front desk what happened, they wouldn't even offer a different room.
Now, I don't want to take legal action, but after what I went through I should've atleast be given a different room or had my room gratis or at least some hotel points. At check out I said I was disappointed, but they just apologized. I think this is rather serious, and for a 4 diamond hotel, their lack negligence and lack of customer care is just unacceptable. Any advice on how I should proceed? Should I talk to the manager directly? Perhaps call the corporate office instead? Legal action seems superfluous, so I'm looking at other options. Also, since this was on a business trip, do I need to report this to my HR department?
Picture of window:
Thanks!
TL;DR: | Wind burst my hotel window in nearly missing my head and slamming into my shoulder, hotel refused any compensation (free room) or put me in a new room. What can/should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Reddit Style Hitch #3 - AMA (All dating, hook ups, and relationship questions answered)
POST: So some background on me. This is my 3rd AMA with this Hitch style on Reddit. The other two were both fun to do, and I got to help a wide variety of people. I still get random PM's from redditors every so often referencing my old thread, and asking if I'm available for advice, so I figured it'd be nice to do another AMA. My original description edited, I'm now **28M**, and I've been in **five** relationships in my life. One for 1.5 years, one for 9 months, one for 4 months, **one for 5 years, and my current one for one year.** Interspersed between those relationships, were some crazy years of dating and hookups and flings that were too many to count. However, from all those experiences, I became quite well versed in dating, how to make a relationship work, and hooking up.
I haven't been dating or hooking up, since I'm in a committed relationship, but I have been helping any and all of my friends with their dating. The problem is, I've actually been quite successul at it, so most of my friends are in relationships now (which I'm very happy about :D). But that leaves me with few to give advice to. One of my friends said I should start a blog to help single people who have had trouble dating. I decided that reddit would be a great place to start, just posting and helping others. I've been helping others, but I've decided a central place to give help would be best, so that I don't have to keep re-explaining my background, or trying to establish credibility.
So, please ask me any questions you want, for any advice. Whether it be for dating, hooking up, or making your relationship work. I can help guys and girls, with perspective, what someone might be thinking, what to do to convey a certain emotion, or what to do to get a second date, or help someone turn a close friend into more than a friend.
TL;DR: | I've had a ton of experience in dating, been helping IRL friends with dating, but they all have significant others now, so I've decided to help redditors. Please ask me anything :) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (M22) girlfriend (F21), is stressed/depressed, and it's effecting our relationship.. And I need help.
POST: So, my girlfriend recently has gotten stressed/depressed (about maybe a month now). It all started where she quit her job as an EMT working in the Oilfields, being away that far from home, just sucked and she had had enough of it. Upon quitting she started looking for jobs in her specific field, to no prevail, so she decided to go back to school, but needed upgrades. This is generally where it started. The math upgrades, are a bit much and she feels like she won't make it through it. Her parents continuously nag her about a job, what's she going to do, etc.
Thus she's just been absolutely distant, hardly talkative (yet when we're together she's on her phone a lot texting her friends back a mile a minute, and on social media all day), not interested in me, not affectionate at all (haven't had any intimacy in a while, I've forgotten last time we have).
She tells me we're okay, I try asking what I can do to help, and what not, but she gives no feed back. The other night we had an argument, regarding sex and intimacy on every level, and she told me 'she needs some excitement right now', well I'm trying my hardest to keep things exciting, but how can I do that when I take her out and she's just miserable.
This whole thing is weighing down on me, and I feel as if I just can't make her happy anymore, as if I'm part of the problem in a way, and I need help. I know asking total strangers is a long shot, but I feel my friends are no help whatsoever.
Heads up, I'm really upset right now, so I apologize for not giving all the details, and whatever mistakes I've made.
TL;DR: | girlfriend is stressed/depressed with the weight of everything going on with her life, and I feel like I can't make her happy anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: This girl(17/f) flirting with me(17/m) but she has a boyfriend
POST: I met this girl about two years ago, and I've had this weird on again off again crush on her. We get along really well.
Just recently she texted me telling me that she was just thinking about me, and that she really misses me (we don't have any classes together and we don't see each other that often) and that she "absolutely loves and appreciates my existence). I tell her the same sorta thing about how much she means to me etc and she responds by telling me that i have no idea how much i mean to her.
Then a couple days later she tells me to go to our schools semi formal dance, and that she'll save a dance for me. So i go, and for the majority of the dance we're together, and we both have a great time. At one point she even says that I'm her boyfriend and that really confuses me, because she already HAS a boyfriend.
She was texting someone during the dance too, i dont know who, maybe her boyfriend. So i really like this girl, and shes flirting with me and calling me her boyfriend and texting me saying how much she likes me and misses me and idk what to think.
What do i do? some of my friends tell me i should ask her out, but im apprehensive because she has a boyfriend and i suffer from a kinda low self esteem. Do I tell her that i like her, or maybe ask her on a date. Do i wait for her to break up with her boyfriend and then make my move? I just need a little bit of advice
TL;DR: | I like this girl, but she has a boyfriend. Shes giving me "signals" that she likes me or is interested, and i have no idea how i should go forward with this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 M] have been seeing a [24 F] about twice a week for about 2 months
POST: Previous Relationship: (Where personal issues arise) I was in 4 year relationship with a girl I thought I was going to marry. I had moved to another state to be with her while she went to college then we moved back to our home state where I was going to go to college. We were living by my University Then she started looking for jobs in New York, found one and left. I got drunk on a daily basis, some girl came over one day to get some notes. She asked for a drink I said sure. I fell asleep, woke up with her naked and taking my clothes off. Drunk stupid thought " Too hard to explain this, gonna break up no matter what. Might as well have a good time right now. Ruined the best Relationship I ever had.
This was about 8 months ago. Depressed regularly, do a lot of self loathing. Met a few girls on internet had a decent time with them, nothing significant. I meet this most recent girl, she is really funny. I enjoy being around her, she is fun. We text all the time and when we hang out its great. I like her but I don't know how much. I have gotten drunk twice with her and both times I have kissed her and told her I like her.
She has expressed feelings of wanting to kiss me and liking me and what not. I do like her and I like what we are doing but I don't feel like I'm ready for any of that stuff. I don't want to kiss all the time or have sex. I am not ready to be in a situation like that, not yet anyways.
So I fucked up because I got drunk and kissed and shit which goes against the way I feel. So now I have no idea how to handle this without hurting her. I don't want to stop seeing her but she just texted me a little bit ago asking if we can hang out in the next couple of days and that " I would like to talk about us and stuff"
TL;DR: | Girl wants to talk about "us". Not ready to have a "girlfriend" (too much baggage i guess) don't want to stop hanging out or hurt her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My girlfriend just told me "you act like our relationship is conditional on me having sex with you." How am I even supposed to respond to that?
POST: We recently moved in together and it's like we forgot to pack the sex. She has a 6 1/2 year old daughter and time and energy can be limited, but even when we get an opportunity she acts like the thought of having sex with me is disgusting to her. I've been trying not to bring it up too much because she then says I'm like a little boy whining and it's completely unattractive. I get that, but when I'm trying to be playful and there is no approach I can take that she doesn't find inappropriate or unattractive. I just don't know what to do. We went from where she would be playful like when her kid wasn't looking and she would flash me to where when the kid isn't looking and I rub up on her in the kitchen I make her feel uncomfortable and gross. I'm at a loss as to what to do. Reddit can you help me out please?
TL;DR: | I just moved in with my girlfriend that I've dated for a year and had great sex with and now she has seemingly lost all interest in sex. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my EX [25 F] of 5 months, "No Contact Rule" not an option. How can I move on?
POST: Last August I started graduate school, and soon thereafter started dating a girl I met in my program. I knew it was risky to date someone I work in close proximity with, but I decided I just needed to take the chance, and she seemed worth it. We dated for the next few months and, at least I thought, we were doing great and we were very happy together. Out of nowhere, shortly before Winter Break, she broke up with me, citing wanting to focus more on school and an ex she's still getting over (although I presume having lost attraction to me is the main issue). She said she wants to go back to us being friends, and I said I didn't know if that would be possible. I avoided her as much as I could until the break, and then I returned home for some much needed R&R.
But now that I'm back at school starting my Spring semester, I am faced with seeing her regularly (in classes and labs) and we have many mutual friends. I've always been a firm believer in the "No Contact Rule" as very important to moving past a breakup, but complete no contact is not an option in my current situation. I want to move on from this girl that broke my heart. Any advice for moving on with my life?
TL;DR: | No Contact Rule" not an option because we're in same school program and have many mutual friends. How can I move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: My best friend is now blind from a cancerous brain tumor. He is losing mental strength in chemo. I need audio books to inspire him. Please help
POST: Hello r/books. My best friend since birth lived a completely healthy life for 23 years. 3 months ago he started getting dizzy, then losing motor functions and worse as time passed. Within 3 months he was bed ridden and diagnosed with a brain tumor. They removed the brain tumor via surgery 3 weeks ago but the tests came back that it was melanoma cancer in stage 4. It has spread to 3 places on his spine and he's started emergency chemo and radiation. He is losing his will to live very fast and I need your help.
I bought him an iPhone and I need some music/audio books for it that are positive, encouraging and will give him mental strength to live. I firmly believe the cancer fight is one of mental willpower and he need's all the help he can get. Any help will be greatly appreciated!!! Thanks
TL;DR: | Friend has brain cancer. He's now blind. Lost the will to live. Need audio books to inspire and encourage him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [22/f]My friend [29/f] has something valuable of mine that I let her borrow (and I have some items of hers) and won't respond to my attempts to meet up and exchange them.
POST: I have a friend who I haven't really hung out with in a while due to her going through some personal relationship issues, and me moving farther away. Well, I was going through some stuff the other day and realized that I had some of her stuff that she let me borrow and I remembered that she had something of mine. I messaged her on facebook asking if she'd like to meet up and grab a bite to eat, catch up and hang out, and exchange said items, but I never got a response. However, when I checked my facebook messages it said that it had been read by her.
I figured I'd brush it off and wait a couple of days to see if I heard back from her. It's been almost two weeks and still nothing.
The item I let her borrow was my favorite anime box set, which I purchased from a local dvd exchange for pretty cheap. However, upon looking the item up on Amazon and Ebay (because I figured if she wasn't going to give it back, I'd just buy another copy) it sells for more than $500. Apparently, it's pretty rare. So obviously I really want it back because it is my favorite anime, and I don't want to spend $500 dollars buying another copy. I don't think she knows of the items monetary value, but she does know that it's something I really covet.
I don't know why she isn't responding to my message. Last summer, she started going through some relationship problems and I sent her a message saying she could always talk to me if she ever needed anyone and she thanked me and said she would. Then a couple of months later she posted on facebook saying she broke her finger and I messaged her and asked if she was okay, and no response then either. She hasn't talked to me since then. I don't know what the deal is.
Anyway, I'd really like to get my item back and I'd like to return hers, but I don't know where to go from here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | My friend has a valuable item of mine that I let her borrow (and I have some of hers) and she isn't responding to my messages to meet up and hang out/exchange said items. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend randomly left me after four years. F[22] M[24]
POST: I was with my boyfriend for 4 years we did everything together to where I lives become just one life together.
My best friend (f26) was with her boyfriend for 4 years as well lived together and everything, he up and left her, when he found out she was pregnant. Me being the good friend I am basically moved in with her. Helping her with bills and rides to work.
My. Boyfriend, well ex was not very happy about that.
For a long time he's said he needs space he wants to do things without me, well now he has it. I invited him out with me and my friend and he never wanted to come.
Things changed he started calling me a user saying I used him for everything when I would have given him anything. We fought every day for over a year and things became real rough. Then through a text message he breaks up with me, 2 weeks before our anniversary.
Today I got a note on my car it was an anniversary card containing a note basically telling me he doesn't want me back saying I never cared and I'm an utter bitch. When I don't think I have ever cares for anyone more. I know I'm spilling my heart out but I've been numb since this happened still dealing with my friends issues, to the point of a mental break down. Does anyone have any advice on getting over someone who your entire life revolved around? Idk what to do. I don't want another relationship for a while but I want this numb to go away and not feel pain after.
TL;DR: | does anyone have any advice to help this numbing go away with out any pain. And tell me if I'm the bad guy? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] don't know how to deal with him [25M] seemingly pulling away
POST: This is a throwaway account because he knows my other account name.
I've been seeing a guy for a couple weeks and I'm not too sure what to do now that it seems like he's pulling away. I live about 2 hours away but visit the city he live in very often, and every time we hangout (which is usually every week) we are super intimate and really enjoy each other's company but in this past week and a half it seems like we are talking less and less. He hasn't really ever been that good a texter with me, and when we hangout he rarely is on his phone, but lately I'll text him and every time he won't respond until the next day or won't respond to my last text but will text me with something completely unrelated. So our conversations don't really last that long which made me think that he doesn't actually want to talk, but then he'll do things like tag me in cute pictures on instagram if we haven't talked that day. I'm honestly at a loss because I don't know if this is him just needing some space since it seems like we get really absorbed in each other when we hangout, or if he's losing interest.
In my eyes I have two options:
1. Confront him about him pulling away and ask him about his intentions (because I really like him and would want more and it seemed like he would want the same based on how he treats me when we're together), or;
2. Give him a little bit of a cold shoulder and give him his space
Help a girl out. I really don't know
TL;DR: | Guy I've been seeing for a couple weeks seems to be pulling away and I don't know if I should confront him or just give him his space. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [F20] approach my mom [55] about allowing me to take an over night trip with my boyfriend [M20] of a year.
POST: Hey Reddit! Not as serious as some issues on here, but I would still love some advice.
I've (F20) been dating my boyfriend (M 20) since April 2012. He wants to take me camping during the summer after I finish my spring class. Although I'm not really outdoorsy, I'm willing to give it a shot. Unfortunately, I don't think my mom's going to let me.
I live at home while attending college. My parents have agreed to pay for my college if I live at home. So I'd rather be free of student loans than have the "college experience".
I've asked my mom once before about going on an overnight trip with my boyfriend. She pretty much said no with no reason to back it up. She's kind of old school. I feel like I'm more than trustworthy.
*I do great in school. I even have a great transfer scholarship for next year.
*Not really a party animal
*Always home at a reasonable hour because I know my parents work early.
* I handle responsibilities well between work, school, private tutoring, and babysitting.
Yet with all of this, I still get a no. Part of me wants to screw her opinion because I am an adult, but the other part of me does not want to mess with my free college and housing. It's not like my boyfriend is a stranger. He's usually at my house once a week and she seems to like him. How do I approach my mom to let me go?
TL;DR: | I want to take an over night trip with my boyfriend of a year, but my mom says no even though I have shown I am more than responsible. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18M) hooked up with a friends (17M) ex (17F), now mutual friend (24M) is mad.
POST: My (18m) friend (17m) and his gf (17f) broke up about three months ago. I've known her for about a year and him for two years.
Me and her were very good friends even before they started dating (only dated a few months) and about a month ago she began hinting that we should date. Anyways, this past Friday night we went to a party together and ended up hooking up and now we aren't dating yet but are in a fwb scenario until we decide to take it further (we've both admitted feelings for eachother and have both said we should date).
Now our mutual friend (24m) is mad because he says it is wrong of me to be having sex with/soon to be dating a best friends ex and will not talk to me, after having sent several angry text messages calling me various forms of a piece of shit friend and scumbag. I've talked to friend 1 about it and he's completely fine with it and doesn't care, he even encouraged it.
As far as I see it, if you and someone break up it shouldn't matter who they then have sex with or date, since you're done with them, but I guess some people think otherwise.
So Reddit, what's your advice?
TL;DR: | Hooked up with a friend's ex, potential to begin dating soon, friend doesn't care, mutual friend thinks I'm a scumbag. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the most epic moment in gaming you have witnessed?
POST: A few years ago, we had a Mario Cart tournament at my buddies house. I'm not all that great and neither is my other friend. We never win. A couple hours into the tournament, the host makes a bet with my friend. He tells him if he can beat him in a circuit, he'll let him piss on his head. They shook hands, signed a waiver and raced.
This was the most intense video gaming I have ever seen. My friend was racing like he had never raced before. Dodging all sorts of bananas and penguins, using all the right power ups at the right time. It was beautiful. It all came down to the final map on the circuit to determine the winner. All 3 laps were extremely close and my friend almost had it won! He was seconds away from the finish line when the host nails him with a red shell. It was all over. He took first and won the circuit.
TL;DR: | To this day, we still look back fondly on the day that my buddy raced like a God and almost got to piss on our friend's head. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Advice for getting back into the dating world (with backstory) [20M]
POST: Hey /r/dating_advice, I was hoping to get some advice on what I can do to get back into dating (my goal is a real, exclusive relationship). As my title says, I'm a 20 year old male, and I think I've avoided some of the traps that many people seem to fall into. I'm not desperate, I very much have my own life (I'm multilingual, play an instrument, started my own company, etc.) and I am pretty comfortable around women. However, either nobody really has an interest in me, or I just don't know how to tell when they do (from what I've read the latter is more likely). I don't think I'm super attractive, but I don't think I'm horrible either (I can put up a picture if needed).
The main problem I have dating is that because I don't know when someone likes me, I never really take the risk of asking someone out, however there is a reason behind this. I've always been more interested in long term relationships than anything else, and when I was 16 I started dating the girl that I ended up dating until I was 19. She was great, and I learned a lot from the relationship, but sadly we found out when I was 17 that she had a terminal disease and so our relationship ended (quite obviously) with her passing. Once that happened, I moved cross country and started my company, but fell into a couple bouts of depression. Since that point I just didn't ever think about dating anyone.
Recently though I have sought treatment for that depression and I have begun to want a relationship again, but I think in the time that I had sort of blocked dating out of my mind I lost all sense of romantic connection with people.
So my question is, do you guys have any advice for how I can maybe get that sense for who likes me back? or even, something I can do that would get me more comfortable asking people whose intentions I'm not sure about out? Any and all advice is appreciated!
TL;DR: | After losing touch for a while, how can I get a feel for who is interested in me, and how can I get more comfortable asking women out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [26M] getting bothered by the fact that my GF [22F] jerked-off a mutual friend of ours before we met. I feel stupid for making such a deal out of something so meaningless.
POST: Some background: We met by chance at a party, not through this mutual friend. They both met at a bar some time before. Nothing happened that night, but they interchanged phone numbers. After a few days she went to his house and they ended up making out and she started jerking him off. Mid-way through this she realized she didn't want to do any of that, called it quits and left, but they remained friends. For him, she was just another girl to add to his ever growing list girls he's had sex with (he fucks around a lot), I know he doesn't actually like her.
I guess it's important to mention that this is the friend that I hang out with the most.
I've known about this almost from the beggining, when I started sporadically hooking up with her. It didn't bother me. The past is the past. My friend and I even joked about it, as in "hey, we're almost eskimo-brothers!". But the hook ups gradually grew into something more and more constant and serious, some months went by and we're officialy a couple now. And now it suddenly bothers me. Each day that goes by I like her more (I know she does too), and, concurrently, I find it more disturbing.
I know I shouldn't. I know she doesn't like him and he doesn't like her. The fact that even then they cut it out before it even turned into sex should actually be reasuring. I know it happened before I was even in the picture. I've talked about it with her and she's very reassuring. But I can't stop fucking thinking about it when I'm alone, and I feel really fucking stupid for doing so.
I just want to get over it and be happy with my awesome girlfriend.
Sorry if this just feels like a rant. Does anybody have some advice on coping with something so dumb? Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: | now-gf and mutual friend hooked up before I met her. It doesn't mean anything. It didn't bother me at first and now it does and I feel dumb for doing so. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How can I [F22] gain the courage to break up with my boyfriend [M22]?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years. The relationship is not healthy to say the least. I've tried leaving him twice and both times I ended up staying with him. The relationship has never improved. I guess part of me wants to stay with him because I'm fearful of not having anyone to hang out with. Most of my friends moved back home after college, so my boyfriend is the only person I spend time with.
When I tell my boyfriend that I want to break up, how do I stay strong and follow through with the breakup? I've never had to break up with someone before, so I'm new to this sort of thing.
Thank you for any advice or guidance.
TL;DR: | Keep chickening out of breaking up with boyfriend due to fear of not having anyone else to hang out with, how do I follow through? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Fancy creating a Best of Reddit right here in this thread?
POST: I'm new to Reddit - don't hate me... it's just there's always one who's late to the party. It's always me.
Anyway, the backstory is this: TIL of 'Rampart' and Woody Harrelson's disastrous AMA (see, I've nearly learned the lingo - I'm getting there).
Reading through it was as painful as it was AMAZING. The replies were astounding.
So, forgive me if I'm duplicating, committing Reddit-crimes or if this is just 'not the done thing', but I was thinking it would be brilliant to hear what threads you, long-term users of Reddit, found brilliant - what are your favourites? Where was the conversation ripe? Perhaps even just one favourite comment...
Link me up - take me on an amazing Reddit journey to start me out. I know I'm the new kid in class, but I promise I come from a family just like yours.
TL;DR: | I'm new, why not post the best bits of Reddit all in one place, just for me (and any others who want to read them too). |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Do you think kids are becoming less used to consequences because things aren't their fault any more? [Serious]
POST: By saying "things aren't their fault any more" I mean like this;
If a kid shoots someone, the immediate defence is "video games taught them about violence and put it in their head". If a kid attempts something sexual or does something of the sort, it's not their fault or whoever asked them too's fault but rather television for selling sex. Also working in retail whilst trying to complete university, more often than not when a child steals the parents come armed with the defence of "it's not their fault, you put it in a tempting position" as if we are to blame.
I'm not saying every parent does this, but do you think those who do are trying to cover their own mistakes, or are just trying to find excuses? Do you think this negatively affects the future population, I'm honestly wanting to hear people's opinions on the matter.
TL;DR: | Kid's do something wrong and there's usually a defence for it and that often involves it "not being the child's fault", how does this affect their futures? Do you agree? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: 20f not sure how to flirt with older guy
POST: Throwaway here, also wall of text incoming.
So... at my work a very cute guy comes in on occasion and my coworker finally told me since I was so oblivious to it that he was flirting with me. So the last few times I've flirted with him and shown an interest and he seems to have reciprocated. Except now when I flirt with him he's acted a little shy/caught off guard and I wonder if I'm catching him off guard? He still smiles a bunch and talks to me, we share a lot of interests it seems. Camping, outdoor activities, ocean sports, etc.
He's asked me to come to his friends comedy show tonight, problem is he's older and I'm OK with that but I'm inexperienced and have only had one semi serious relationship and after my mother got cancer and I took care of her and my sister I wasn't mentally ready to think of a relationship for two years. Now I've lost weight and feel confident and happy, and suddenly guys are talking to me which I'm not used to at all.
Should I say "Hey want to hang out sometime?" "You seem cool, I'd really like to get to know you more?" He's trying to get into surfing and I boogie board and I said right as he was leaving "If you ever need someone to go out on the ocean with I'm game" and he said "yeah definitely!" and then he left and he didn't give me his number!
I think I need to just make the move but I'm not sure how, also I have been overcoming social anxiety so I've been worrying about this more then I should. But he makes me so nervous because he's gorgeous and I'm not used to this kind of attention after closing myself off from the idea of a relationship for years and learning to love myself. Sorry, I just have no idea!
TL;DR: | I'm shy as fuck and hot older guy has flirted with me and I flirted back, now I want to initiate more time with him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by bringing in cotton to show and tell
POST: Obligatory "this didn't happen today, it was actually a long time ago."
My family is from the south and my entire heritage is southern. For show and tell when I was younger (I moved every two years due to my father's job), I would bring in some raw cotton with seeds and everything. Why? I thought it was awesome. As a kid, you have not clue that cotton is really a plant and you're just used to hearing about it being used for shirts. Everyone was always amazed and fascinated, and I was always the 'new kid' so it was nice to have this.
Anyways, I told everyone about how awesome my great grandma's cotton farm was that I got it from. Looking back, the younger African American students probably couldn't make the connection, but the teachers most definitely did.
TL;DR: | my teachers thought I was a racist and I pretty much told my class every year that my heritage includes being a slave owner. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] was caught trying to peek at my best friend [19 F] of 6 years, while she was in the bathroom
POST: A few days ago my best friend was staying the night at my house and I was having a really strong fit of sexual desire. My friend said she had to go to the bathroom and I the dumb ass that I am decided that it was a good idea to run all the way round my house to try to get a peek at her with her pants down. Needless to say she saw me and we didn't talk about it until now.
I hate myself so much for this and I don't know what to do. If I were to lose her I think I would probably do something drastic, like killing myself or some shit like that.
TL;DR: | I was caught trying to peek at my friend while she was in the bathroom and now she's mad. wat do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23 F] fiance of 4 years verbally assaulted me [24 M]
POST: We have been dating for 2 years.
We are supposed to get married soon.
She was talking on the phone to her sister, and asked me to talk to her sister about a guy who im friends with who just asked her out. I told her i am tired and dont want to speak to her sister than night but I will tom.
She got really upset. told me i am disgusting. she disliked all my firends. if someone is my friend that she thinks less of them. that i am a terrible boyfriend. i have stupid friends. i am unreliable. she told me she cant believe she just made out with me. a bunch of other insults.
she apologized afterwards profusely
Fast forward a few months, something simialir happened when i said i think her brother was being inconsiderate for choosing the month after our wedding date to get married.
insults, insults, insults while i sat there just telling her i am sorry she feels that way
I call her today and say hey, i took a survey and it asked me if ive been emotionally abused in the last 12 months and i got really sad becuase i realized the answer was yes.
she said: i am sorry, i told u i am sorry i dont know what else u want from me. on top of that u were really mean to me 2 years ago. that i tell her she has anger problems. that i am not nice to her and she gets upset at me. goes on to say, i dont know what u want from me, i apologized thats it move on!
I am more troubled by her response today than by her insults.
She is a really good person, just has some anger problems. Someone tell me something
TL;DR: | occasionally verbally assaultive fiance tells me "i already apologized move on" when i bring up her somewhat recent verbal assualt |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm (24/M) Feeling conflicted on how to proceed with Partner (24/F)
POST: Hi RA,
I've been seeing a wonderful girl for about 4 months now. We are very much compatible emotionally and socially, having good conversations and plenty of shared interests and hobbies.
We have both been in serious relationships in the past, neither of us are virgins and we both agree that sexual compatibility is an important aspect of a successful relationship.
Here is where my conflict arises. As it stands now, we have done nothing more than kiss each other, sometimes passionately, but not often. I am the one to initiate contact 100% of the time, and attempts to move things forward are met with significant resistance.
I have told her that I am concerned that there is something not right with how things are going, and trying to encourage conversation around the topic usually stalls. She explained that her last serious relationship got complicated when sex was introduced, because they were both in university, so when they saw each other (once a week) it felt like sex was an obligation, and that they lost a lot of the emotional connection that they had made.
This is a fair point, and one I understand; however, we are both adults, spend on average 3 nights a week together and have both shown genuine interest in this relationship being a long term thing.
I am concerned that at this point it is obvious that we are sexually incompatible, as I am at a point where I am ready to move things forward, but I am still seeing a lot of resistance on her end. It makes me wonder if I should end things now, before we do make that physical connection because it would be a terrible thing for me to have sex with someone knowing full well that we are incompatible physically.
Can anyone offer any insight? I want to have another conversation with her on this topic, but am unsure on how to bring it up/what to say.
Much apprecaited!
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of 4 months is worried sex will ruin relationship. I am worried that we are sexually incompatible as a result. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: The girl I'(M22) ve been dating for 3 weeks told me she (F23) slept with someone else
POST: As the title says, we've been on 5 dates, We agreed that we're not exclusive yet, and you know, I don't mind her dating people, but I did mind when she told me she slept with someone else because I feel like she's playing me at an emotional level while she's playing someone else at a physical level. I am a virgin, so maybe to me, having sex means something much bigger than her, who has had 5 partners (6 with this one).
So, not only that, she expects me to pay for every date, because she wants to see how dedicated or how far I could be for her. To me, a relationship is 50-50, if i pay for one date, then i expect her to at least split if not pay for the next one. This is NOT about money, but it's about both of us working for the relationship, not just me.
She did say: "i want to go on more dates with you to truly get to know you, so i don't easily fall for you and get my heart broken". but if she sleeps with another guy, and i'm paying for all the fucking dates, where is HER commitment? she should be chasing me as much as i'm chasing her, a relationship takes two people doesn't it?
TL;DR: | Girl I've been dating tells me she slept with someone else. She wants me to do most of the chasing, but I feel it's unfair, and that a relationship should be 50-50. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: IT career advice needed, please help...
POST: I'm a 30yo Level 1 Helpdesk analyst making 40k a year who's looking to broaden his professional horizons (read: get a higher paying job). I've recently started eyeballing a Database Administration Certificate Program at a local community college. Can any DBA's out there tell me what education I'll need, what the pay is like and what your general day to day is like? Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: | 5yr lvl1 IT helpdesk worker bee interested in DBA program/or another route in IT that will up my earning potential and not suck my soul. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(25M) bestfriend(24F) is making me miserable
POST: We have known each other for a year and a half and used to talk everyday, from the moment we woke up, to when we went to sleep.
No things have changed. She is always complaining to me about her life. About how everything goes wrong, but she only talks to me when things are going wrong.
I know some will call it the friendzone, but I don't see it as that. She is my best friend and for the longest time we could talk about anything and everything.
Things were going great until she got a BF a few months ago. Now all she does talk about him. Seriously. 70% of our conversations are about him. Not even good things most of the time.
She whines constantly about how she is unhappy with her home life. About how she caught him cheating on her. She found pics from other girls he had been talking to before they got together and she feels that keeping them on there is cheating. I see it as a grey area.
TL;DR: | I guess what I am asking is how do I tell my friend that using me as her complaint wall exclusively is making me depressed? How do I get her to understand that she is potentially killing a great friendship with her constant complaints? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by having a deficient digestive track
POST: Last night, I went out to the bar. Nothing special, just about ten rounds of beer, half a platter of pulled pork nachos, and a brisket sandwich with mac n' cheese for my entrée. Didn't think too much of it at the time.
Anyways, this proved to be a recipe for disaster. I have been violently farting for the last 7 hours nonstop and it has been some of the nastiest stank that mankind has ever endured. On two occasions, I've had to use the restroom, where my farts echoed in the bathroom at my place of business while propelling nothing but runny beer shits into the toilet like there is no tomorrow. The last time I wiped, there was blood on the TP (I check sometimes in hope of a clean sweep; I don't consider this a victory). I've managed to fart so hard for so long that I've managed to tear my rectum a little bit.
Sitting down is miserable. Standing up is even worse. And don't even get me started on walking around. This farting fit has managed to ruin the day of everyone in my nearby vicinity, although no one has even mentioned the degree of foulness I have placed upon them.
I hope I don't blow my asshole off.
TL;DR: | – Ate chemical waste leading to a series of deathly farts which have managed to damage my rectum to some degree. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years. How can we connect better as friends and have more enjoyable conversation?
POST: I want to connect more with my girlfriend better as a friend. We are both introverts. She is less into having 'intellectual" discussion than I am. She is intelligent and likes learning but isn't really that into having deep conversation about psychology, science, politics, religion, etc, like I do. She doesn't mind spending time with me in silence but this makes me uncomfortable and anxious because I tend to judge my relationships based on the quality of the conversation. We have some overlapping interests, but usually not enough to chat about for a long time. We often chat about things I think are kind of boring like "what did you do today" etc. One thing I like is that we both have a goofy sense of humor, so we spend some time just goofing around and making stupid jokes. Still, for my standards we spend too much time making (what i see as) boring conversation or in silence.
I've been doing some things to try to make this problem better, with some success. A) reading the newspaper together. B) trying to accept silence when we spend time together (the latter method is more new and still needs some time in the field). As I'm writing this, it's occurring to me that I should probably capitalize on goofiness, and try to learn more about how she likes to have conversation.
Any more ideas? I love my girlfriend a ton and don't want to break up, but having enjoyable conversation with a partner is really important to me!
TL;DR: | Time spent with introvert gf of 2.5 years filled with too much boring conversation and silence. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20f] boyfriend [21m] is a vegan and keeps pushing his opinion on my best friend.
POST: Basically my boyfriend is vegan. I committed to being vegan as well more so for health reasons (I care about animals but not to the extent that he does).
My best friend, a friend I have known for several years who I love dearly and is like a sister to me, is vehemently a meat eater. I completely accept this about her because I love her to death and again, I really don't care what other people eat.
My boyfriend has done the following to her:
* Last time we all hung out, she made a comment about how she loves something (don't remember) and he said, "Now only if we can get you to love animals".
She loves animals and wants to be a dog trainer one day, so that's definitely wrong.
* He tried to insinuate that the bible promotes eating fruit (she is very Christian, whilst I am not, again, don't care because we love each other).
That is wrong, one, and two, why would he try and quote the bible when he doesn't even believe in it to someone who is a practicing Christian???
* She posted something on her facebook about people being mean to dogs and he posted a picture of a dead, bloody cow and said "not a dog so no one cares".
Her whole family (who loves animals and have owned, lived, and been raised on farms) are on her Facebook and when I tried to explain that to him, he said "What so I'm not allowed to express my opinion?" and got incredibly defensives. He then went on to say that it was basically a holocaust (the killing of animals) and no one cares. He also likes to talk about if he had to choose to save a dog or a kid, he would save the dog because "I can always have another kid". You can also get another dog, you fucking idiot.
So, now I don't know what to do because I will not under any circumstances sacrifice my best friend for this argument and he needs to understand that he has to get along with her or him and I aren't going to have a good relationship, if we have one at all.
What do I do?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend is trying to convert my best friend who is like a sister to me and it's offending and annoying her. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my date to senior high school formal [17 F], not sure if being used
POST: Hi Reddit, first-time poster.
Next month is my senior high school formal. I have been set up with a girl called Tahlia (not real name) by my friend Mike. I've never met Tahlia but we have been talking quite often since she first messaged me on facebook two weeks ago.
Overall she has been very nice, sweet and always up for a chat. I'm extremely attracted to her but I'm not sure she likes me whether it's platonic or romantic.
Some of friends, including my best friend who I have known since I first started school, has told me that she is using me and she is going to have sex with a guy at a party which I didn't get invited to.
I would love to have something more than just friends with her but she is very attractive and not a virgin whilst I have never kissed a girl before.
The only negative thing I have seen from her is screenshotting our conversations and sending them to her bestfriend who I feel is somewhat critical of me because she feels that Tahlia is out of my league.
I've asked outright whether if she is using me or whether she would ever use me and she has assured me she would never do that.
I just don't know whether to trust my bestfriend who I've known and trusted more than half my life or a girl i've never met in person and known for two weeks.
TL;DR: | Taking a girl to senior formal. Have been told by others that she's using me. Don't know what to believe/looking for another opinion. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: [Confession] I miss you about as much as I miss diarrhea.
POST: Seriously, nobody wants to put up with that shit. I am full Kanye, better, faster, stronger than what you throw at me or what you give me credit for. I am on top of the world and at the pinnacle of my game, if you want to pull some psycho shit I will pull the plug. I deserve better and you deserve much worse. I know what I am capable of and where I am headed, I have a plan and Ive made significant progress towards my goals. I am content with myself and all I want to say is that if you, if you don't believe in me it doesn't even matter. Everyone else does and you just became a stumbling block to my progress and growth. I don't feel bad, AT ALL, because I gave my my 110% while you gave zero fucks. Why should I care now, why would anything be different, why would you have changed? Why would I, for one second, think anything would be different? Well I thought about it long and hard... why would anything be different? Everything is different now because I made the change and I made the conscious decision to try to better myself. I went to the counselor and therapist by myself, I tried, I cried and I laughed alone, and through all of that I have learned to say Fuck You. At this point it is healthy and normal to say that. FUCK YOU. It feels good to let it go. To know I did everything I possibly could. I feel no remorse or second thoughts anymore, only confirmation and validation.
TL;DR: | I'm the type of person to delete a number so I can't call back, so I WON'T CALL AGAIN. Reddit has been my outlet and my therapist, even if nobody reads this I feel better already. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my ex [18 F] duration a few months relationship broke up, wanna stay friends
POST: well hello reddit i could use some help, so this is why im here =/
I had a good friend a year ago at school with who i spent alot of time with inside and outside school. It's a really sweet girl who was nice to hang out with. she decided to ask me to start a relationship with me, which i accepted after thinking of it one day. The reason why i thought of it was because i just saw her as a friend and nothing more, also we had some culture differences that could bother our parents. But we just decided to give it a shot , and i can tell you, its the best thing ever. i was deeply in love with her and so was she. everything went perfect we never had problems in the relationship. but yes after a few months we had to break up.. her parents didnt like our culture differences and such and forced her to brreak up, they have been forcing her for a month.. it hurt me. she wanted to stay friends which was hard at the beginning. it was a bit awkward since we saw eachother @ school every day. but after some time we were good friends again, just as before. Thing is, she found a new (online) boyfriend and that really hurt me. we were in an irl relationship btw. anyways, it didnt last long for them and we just kept on being friends always. later on she was about to date someone else online, ( i dont know why she decided to date online tho after me) which also didnt work out. all those didnt last longer than 3 months. what i want now is, i wanna stay friends with her because shes important to me and so am i for her. really. I dont want her back, but seeing her with someone else just hurts me .. i think the feelings are still here. what should i do to see her as a friend and nothing more? i really want to be friends with her, but the feelings is still here.. people say i should cut off the contact for a bit and then return? but how do i know when im over those feelings?
Sorry English isn't my native language
thanks for reading ;o
TL;DR: | would love to know how i stay friends with my ex ( also my first love that i dated for only a couple months) cuz i really want to, but feelings are in the way. how do i get rid of that? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by putting my phone in my back pocket.
POST: Obligatory didn't happen today, this happened about 1 1/2 years ago.
So for Christmas 2013, my parents were nice enough to give me a brand new iPhone 5 as a gift, to replace my old dying 3GS. I kept the phone in perfect condition the whole time I had it, which I must say I'm pretty proud of because I'm notorious for smashing phones.
Anyway, November 2014 comes around and I'm going to Jervis Bay for a marine studies excursion of snorkelling and kayaking (best excursion ever). After we've arrived and put our luggage etc in our cabins, I went with a group of friends down to the beach to have a look and take some pictures. I think of leaving my phone behind, as I don't want to lose/damage it but end up taking it with me in the back pocket of my shorts. We take pictures and whatever, have some fun, but as we're walking back up to the cabins I notice my phone is no longer in my pocket. I freak out, spending ages scouring the beach and cabin (just in case I did leave it there) for my phone but no luck. One kid even went swimming to look for it for me which was pretty nice of him. I had to spend the rest of the week with no phone, accepting that it was forever lost in the ocean.
That's not all though, this also meant losing all my files and photos, including all the photos I didn't back up from my exchange trip to Japan two months earlier, which I now feel so stupid for not doing as soon as I came back to Australia. I also feel incredibly stupid for taking my phone to the beach in the first place, as this is not the first time I've done this; I lost a flip phone to the ocean in late 2012 because it was in a pocket way too small for it, so yeah. I'm an idiot.
TL;DR: | I stupidly took my phone to the ocean AGAIN and lost it in the ocean AGAIN, also losing a while heap of memories; there were about 5000 photos on there that weren't backed up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with my Boss [40 M] of 5 years, promised me back pay, company denied it, he gave me money out of his pocket.
POST: Hey Reddit, I'm not sure what to do.
Basically I received a raise after my employee evaluation 2 pay periods ago. We've been so busy at work, the evaluation was put off for a couple weeks and when we finally sat down and worked everything out, I was promised the difference from my last pay period added to that weeks paycheck. I was very appreciative because it was put off but I felt like it was owed.
That pay comes, I don't get the difference (about 160$ after taxes). I ask what happened, and my Boss said accounting must have screwed up, and we'll put it on your next pay because that way your vacation pay will be added properly. Understandable, things happen, agreed.
Fast forward to today. Get my paycheck, and no back pay. At this point I'm almost panicking... It's only $160.00, but it's owed to me, and I need it. I bring this to my boss, he freaks out and goes to speak to the President. I work for a small company so everyone's very accessible.
My boss comes down, obviously angry and leaves for lunch. He comes back, with an enveloppe with $120.00 in it, with a note that says "Im sorry it's the best I can do".
What I think happened, is he promised me the back pay and the higher ups denied it. Now he felt he owed it to me, and has paid me out of his own pocket. Can I accept this money? I feel very weird but I am broke... I'm not sure how to handle this. He makes a very good living compared to me, but does that matter? It's HIS money, not the company.
Help.
TL;DR: | Boss gave me money out of his own pocket to cover a promise of back pay that was never paid by the company, don't know if I should accept it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: how to kindly tell a "friend" they aren't invited to the wedding?
POST: More of a hypothetical seeing as i'm not getting married yet but I know i will have to ask this question here eventually.
I attended a lot of weddings this summer with people in their twenties (I'm 25f) Some of these friends in attendance were highschool friends that I only keep contact with on facebook or similar. I know when I get married these high school friends that I've kept in touch with will expect an invitation. What do I do when they ask me over facebook and text?
I've had hypothetical conversations where they said "well you and 'Bob' are doing so well, I expect my invite in the mail!"
or even "haha when you and 'bob' get married I better get an invitation"
I dont want to say "well I'm only friends with you on facebook and kind to you in person because I'm not a mean person and we have mutual friends"
How did you married folks deal with it?
How am I supposed to deal with it when I am finally ready to tie the knot?
How do i deal with it when its still hypothetical and people just have wedding on their brains from a wedding filled summer?
TL;DR: | How would you respond to people who EXPECT wedding invitations to YOUR wedding when you don't really want to invite them but you want to keep peace? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (29f) stop being jealous of other women?
POST: I am 29 and have been with my boyfriend for about a year. However, I have had these issues with other boyfriends in the past. My jealousy and insecurity issues always seem to tear my relationships apart. Specifically, when my boyfriends have close friends of the opposite sex.
I reached a breaking point with myself last week when my boyfriend 'liked' one of my girlfriends' posts on Instagram and I got really weirded out by something so small. I made an appointment with a local counseling office and they will see me in a few weeks.
In the meantime, does anyone have any book recommendations that might help me with this? Any soothing advice? Or perhaps there is another su reedit I could browse. All advice is welcome.
Thanks!
TL;DR: | I made an appointment with a counselor, but in the meantime does anyone have any book or subreddit recommendations for jealousy issues? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Me [18/M] having a crush [17/F] that asked me out after 5 days we met.
POST: I've been in a relationship over 3 years, but we recently break up, and then I started to chat with a girl in facebook, i had no idea who she was, we start talking on Saturday, and on Wednesday she posts on facebook "I need someone to go to the teather with me, msg me plz", i saw that but I didnt say anything, because we are new to each other and i though there was more guys into her. So we was chating on facebook, then she asks if i saw her last post, and I said yes, I did, then i said ok, alright let's go then. Ok, so by now I was going to meet a nice girl that i'm having a crush, then we met, talked, saw the piece, and then we went walking, I didn't ask her anything, because im shy, and its our first time seeing each other, and we know each other only by 5 days, and im thinking if I lost my only chance or something like that. What should I do?
OBS.: That girl don't start the chating, it's always me who starts talking to her, but she awnser me and everything, but i think thats a little strange.
TL;DR: | Girl asked me out after 5 days we met at facebook, but i didnt kiss her at first encounter. Thinking if I lost my only chance. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to fix boring?
POST: My boyfriend (24M) recently told me that I (20F) was no fun. We've been together for almost 9 months. Our relationship is confined to online/phone conversations for the time being, but we are planning to meet sometime soon.
Part of me can understand where he's coming from. Our interaction is strictly with using words, and there's no sort of physically seeing or doing things with one another. I'm also not great at actual conversation. I feel like I filter myself way too much and try too hard to not sound like an idiot that I lose my easy-going "fun" side.
I've never had anyone tell me I wasn't fun, so I'm pretty lost as to what I should do about it. I've been examining myself pretty hard the past few days, trying to figure it out. I can SEE what I'm doing wrong, and I can SEE why he would say I was boring, but I FEEL like if this relationship wasn't restricted to online interaction, I could be myself more easily and this would be easier to fix.
I'm not sure of what to do or where to start. How can I be more fun in a long distance relationship?
TL;DR: | Long distance boyfriend told me I wasn't very fun. No one has ever said this to me before, so I'm lost on how to solve the issue. What can I do to be more fun in this situation? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] with my partner [28 M/F] of 3 months- why do I miss him so much?
POST: I see this guy once or twice a week, and I'm really happy. We get along great for the most part, the sex is good, like honestly, I could hardly be happier. I feel like I can't get enough of him.
My question is- why do I miss him when I'm not around him? I saw him Sunday afternoon and today, Wednesday, I already feel like I miss him. I also found out I won't be able to see him again until a week from Friday due to scheduling issues, but I felt like this even before I knew that.
What gives? I feel like I should be able to go two days without this- yearning, or whatever.
TL;DR: | Why do I miss my partner so much when we're not together? I never go more than a week without seeing him! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] became close friends with my new housemate [21 F] over the last few months, had talk about getting romantic, she decided to stay friends, now we cuddle a lot, confused and don't know what to do.
POST: So a little complicated situation here.
A few months ago my house got a new housemate. We found out we shared a lot of similarities so we became close friends really quickly. A few months ago we had a talk about possibly starting a romantic relationship because we both felt an attraction towards each other, but she decided to stay friends. And I want to respect her decision. There was no awkwardness after that conversation and we have still stayed pretty close.
Recently we've been talking a lot in her room and watching movies together on her bed, and we have ended up cuddling during the movies. Usually it starts with her resting her head on my shoulder, then she puts her arms around me, I put my arms around her, and so on. Nothing too intimate like kissing. Overall super comfortable. She has been going through a rough patch in her life, so perhaps she just wants someone to cuddle with and nothing else. Tonight after we had watched a movie we just sat there in silence for a bit, it felt as if she was waiting for me to do something. Or maybe that was just me thinking that. I'm not sure.
I don't want to try to kiss her because that would be disrespecting her decision to stay as friends.
Overall I'm confused as to what is going on between her and I, and I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me?
TL;DR: | quickly became close friends with a new female housemate, had the relationship talk, she decided to stay as friends, wasn't awkward, now we cuddle while watching movies, not sure what kinds of signals she is sending. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Need some advice for a phone interview
POST: So on Wednesday I have a 30 minute phone interview with a Freight Brokerage company. The job position is titled "Sales Account Executive" and the as you may have been able to figure out, the position is considered a sales position. I have absolutely no sales experience and my degree is in something totally not sales related. I have to give a 2 minute sales pitch on anything I want as well as complete the rest of the 30 minute interview. I'm just looking for some advice on what I should be "selling" for my sales pitch or any other tidbits of help you may have to offer. Thanks!
TL;DR: | I have no sales experience, and need to have a 2 minute sales pitch ready for a phone interview with a potential employer |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my SO [21M] of a year and a half: we've gone on a break, wondering how to deal with all the problems we have
POST: My SO and I have had a stormy relationship full of happiness and fun but also a hell of a lot of arguing. I'm his first love and he's my strongest, so we've tried to cling on through the arguments but it's got to a point where he can't let go of resentment and I jump at the slightest criticism, among many other issues. There's been no infidelity/major lies/abuse or anything like that. Just petty arguments and annoyances that we let get to us.
I decided we should take a break for a month to calm down and get some perspective. However a part of me fears that if we don't properly reevaluate our relationship during this time, when the month ends we might just fall into each other's arms for the pattern to start all over again. I'm wondering if we should draw up lists of the problems we have with each other, both to think about them individually and also to give to the other. I feel like if we don't take a long hard look at our own faults nothing is going to change.
I don't want these lists to look negative or accusatory, and I want them to be really minimal so we've whittled them down to the major problems that can't be accepted/are major problems. Does anyone know of a good website that has the information for this kind of technique? Is it a terrible idea? Does anyone have any advice for how to make it worthwhile?
TL;DR: | gone on a break due to arguing, want to make lists of the problems with each other - tips? Websites? Is it an awful idea? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I almost got a blowjob, but her mom arrived. What is the biggest cockblock you have ever experienced?
POST: In highschool, I rode the same bus as a cute girl. It was the first day, and she got off at my stop by accident. Being a GGG, I asked her if she wanted to stay at my house until her parents came to pick her up; she agreed. We started to make some conversation on the walk to my house and started to like each other. We get to my house and go into the den. I pop in a movie and we start to get settled in. She lays on my lap, when suddenly, A WILD BONER APPEARS! She immediately feels it and I can see her smile. She starts to rub it and it got hard to the point of pain. She said, "Let me relieve some tension.", and unzipped my pants. Before she was about to go in for the kill, DING-DONG. The doorbell rang, she thanked me for the good time, and left. I was sitting there, just mesmerized, with the worst case of blue-balls you could ever imagine. Your turn.
TL;DR: | Cute girl got off at my stop and came to my house. Almost sucked my dick over a movie, but her mom showed up. Blue balls. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [24m] told me [24f] that he doesn't think he could ever love me among other things
POST: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now. He's the first real, exclusive relationship I've ever been in after several years of dealing with disappointing hookups, friends with benefits, and guys who "don't want anything serious right now".
The first three months were wonderful. We were excited about each other, there was an ease between us and we were romantic but then we got into our first argument and the effort from him has gone down tremendously, the romance is gone, and he has become incredibly selfish. I've tried my best to be understanding because he does suffer from depression which I too used to suffer severely from, so I know personally how selfish I used to get during my dark times.
But he's also said some things that I can't get out of my head and I'm wondering if this relationship is even worth holding on to:
During some of our discussions of trying to get back to a good place, he's confessed that he may be holding back because he "doesn't think he could ever love me" or "doesn't see it happening." He also has told me that he's stopped being as romantic with me because he "doesn't feel super passionate" about me. I've been vocal about how that makes me feel - insecure - and his response was, "well that has to do with you, not me." (??)
I mean, I've waited all this time for a relationship, and this is it? This is what I've been waiting for? A guy to tell me he doesn't feel passionate about me and doesn't think he could ever love me? Then what is the point? Or am I overreacting?
I guess I hold on because I know he's a good person - perhaps he just doesn't know how to be a man in a relationship. I guess I'm just waiting for him to realize my worth which makes me feel sad just typing out.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend seems to have given up on our relationship and is sticking around simply to just have the company. Is our relationship worth fighting for? |
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