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t3_4981d1 | relationships | My wife(28F) has been cheating on me (27M) for 9 months. | I found out last week that my wife has been sleeping with this guy for 9 months now. We just renovated a house together, have been married for 4 years and no kids but two lovely cats. I had my suspicions a few times and confronted her about it. She denied it, saying they were just good friends. Our sex life has been rocky for the past couple of months (understandably) but it wasn't great beforehand according to her.
I'm fine with having sex around 1-2 times per week, but she felt that was way too low and that I didn't desire her enough. She says my lack of attention (I'm in pharmacy school right now) and my decreased sex drive caused her to seek attention elsewhere. Now she's extremely remorseful and doesn't want me to leave. What would you do Reddit? I normally wouldn't ask the Internet this kind of question but I'm just totally lost and in mourning. I think I will leave her but I don't really know how long I need to wait to process this information. | Wife of 4 years cheated on me and now I'm trying to pick up the pieces to make a decision. |
t3_1a9prd | relationship_advice | [24/F] Two years after last seeing him, I feel the need to contact an ex-friend [24/M] for closure. | 5 years ago I met and became very good friends with a guy I'll call Carter.
4 years ago I became embroiled in a love triangle of sorts with Carter and my best girl-friend, Nina. (Possibly relevant that Carter met Nina through me.) The situation ends with Carter and Nina in a shaky romantic relationship, and me maintaining a friendship with both. I play the supportive friend to both and help out when asked. Unfortunately, Carter treats Nina terribly (ignoring her, not keeping dates, cheating on her), though they stay together for several years.
3 years ago Carter started treating *me* badly, ignoring me and our planned hangout sessions. Combined with his treatment of Nina, I become fed up and decide to keep our contact to a bare minimum. I haven't spoken to him at all for nearly two years.
3 months ago Carter and Nina broke up for the final time; at least, I hope for the final time. Nina got her closure last weekend when she confronted Carter face-to-face and essentially yelled at him for an hour. Me being Nina's best friend and having had a front-row seat to the relationship, she had naturally been venting to me. This last round of discussions has made me exhausted, and now I feel the need to contact Carter to get closure on my own relationship with him. Given that I haven't talked to him in years and that he had just dealt with another emotional female, how crazy or inappropriate would contacting him be? | – I want to contact an ex-friend/failed romance/best-friend's-ex-boyfriend that I haven't spoken to in years in order to gain closure. Crazy and inappropriate? |
t3_1juh3m | self | I'm being torn apart by what I want, and I can actually have. | And no I don't mean materially. All my life I've never stayed in one place to long due to my single parent's need to find better work to support us. Luckily there were a few times where we stayed long enough I was actually able to make some friends.
Basically I've been living in what I guess you could call my home town now for 2 years (barring one minor incident that absorbed about 3 months of those 2 years, but that's another problem). I came back intending not to stay long. Quite frankly because I hate the place. It's the polar opposite of me and I feel out of place here. To give you some sense of it, it's the heart of the Bible Belt.
The problem is parts of my family are currently living far away from me. Or each other. It's broken down into three major categories. My closest family (whom I lived with my entire life). My more numerous family (the branches so to speak, but were still close just not as close). And ALL the friends I made while in highschool, and my all time best friend. He's about 14 years older than me, but cares more about me than even my father ever did. He's probably the closest friend I'll ever have.
I just don't know what to do. I want to be with all of them. But I know that essentially, I'm gonna have to let some people down and stay put for some time. Even after that only being able to to go visit once in a while. It's not enough. I want to live around all these people. I'm trying to figure out what's more important to me. This seems like something that I can't truly make a right choice about. It frustrates me to all hell. Some say, "You can make new friends." Are you kidding me, it's not like all that moving didn't have an effect on me. It's so hard for me to that even though I'm normal at first glance all the moving has had a major influence on my social skills. I have bad social anxiety and a major urge against meeting new people which has kept me in my house for longer than I'd like to admit. | What's more important; friends, family, or close family? |
t3_ksmje | AskReddit | Something is *seriously* wrong with my pets.. | So we had a boy cat named Cerberus and we have a girl cat named P.J. Cerberus would constantly hold P.J. down against her will and rape her and *spray* on her back. ALL THE TIME. So we got rid of him because he was *spraying* everywhere and ruining furniture. We also have a female **DOG** named Shadow. Once we got rid of Cerberus, Shadow started raping P.J. a lot!
It's really messed up because Shadow will hold P.J. down with her paws and just hump her. Even though they're both female! I just feel so bad for P.J. She's a rape victim that's ALWAYS getting raped! Is this normal?! | I had a boy cat and he raped my female cat almost everyday, then we got rid of him. Now my female dog rapes my female cat all the time. How weird is this?? |
t3_iikqv | AskReddit | Has anyone else noticed Brita - filtered water tasting different lately? | I needed to replace my filter a few days ago (I have one of the smaller jugs that you fill in the sink). I went and picked up a 3-pack at the local superstore. So I go through all the normal steps (soak, run at least two cycles through) and have my first glass, but I immediately noticed a relatively strong chemically/minerally taste, way different from my normal tap water, and way different from my previous Brita-filtered water. So I tried filtering several more cycles to see if that would help. It did not. I was upset, but assumed that perhaps I just got a defective filter. So I opened a new one, and once again followed the preparation steps to the letter. And once again, the water tastes strange to me. I am sure it's not just my perception, and sometimes I swear I can see a subtle color difference when I compare it to normal tap water.
So my question is this - has anyone else encountered this recently? Did Brita change something, and this is just the new way their water will taste? Or is it possible that I got a bad batch of filters?
I have tasted the tap water, and it is pretty neutral, so it's definitely something that the filtration process is adding. And I can't see any obvious problems. | Did Brita filters change recently, resulting in a new taste for the filtered water? Or am I going crazy? |
t3_4yk7f5 | relationships | I [21F] am ambitious, my husband [22M] of two-year relationship is not. Why would someone be unambitious? | We are young to be married, I know, but in our culture we are actually quite old to be just married (3 months). Most of my [21F] female friends are married with children already, but as I said I am ambitious and we (me + husband [22M]) are waiting until our thirties to have a child.
I've just worked out that my husband is not ambitious. I guess I kind of saw the signs when we were dating, but the concept of being fine with doing the same job every day was so hard for me to get, that I did not see it until now. Husband and I went to university for the same field, and he got a job offer yesterday that seemed to be perfect (from my perspective). He declined the job. He's been working odd jobs to help support us as I finish my final year of schooling, so I thought a job in his field of study would be a no-brainer. We had an argument that night; I could not understand why he didn't want this job in his field, while he did not want the job because the job position was not something he would want to do for 20 years.
I am the type of person who will get a job expecting to move on from it in a few years. He is the type of person who wants to find a place where he will not have to move for 20 years. The job offer in question wasn't in the nature of an entry-level job, it was just with an organization that he did not want to stay with for 20 years. I told him that getting the job would just be a step towards the organization he really wanted to be with, but he said that he wants to find the place where he will be happy working there for 20 years.
My husband is very supportive of my career goals. I just don't understand how he cannot be ambitious. Can anyone else give me insight on why someone may not be ambitious, and how I can understand my husband better? | I am ambitious, but my husband (I just realized) is not. Being unambitious is a foreign concept to me; can anybody give me advice as to why someone would not be ambitious? |
t3_15aerc | AskReddit | Reddit, how to inspire and get a friend to quit smoking? | Dear Reddit, have any of you successfully helped a friend to quit smoking?
my friend is a beautiful, intelligent girl in her mid twenties. I am a colleague and friends of hers. She smokes almost 6-10 cigarettes a day. It seems to have started to affect her looks as her lips and teeth have become grey. Also, she has a smoker girl image in our group and team which is not a good thing in this part of the world. She also has other health issues which I'm not sure are caused by smoking.
She has told me she want to quit and would like friends like me to force her to stop. She even said that she would quit if the world didn't end on the 21st. But tonight after dinner she smoked a packet of cigarettes with another common friend of ours who finished another packet.
Please help me reddit to get this good friend of mine to have a good and healthy lifestyle... | a coworker who is also a good friend is smoking almost a packet of cigarettes everyday. She wants to quit but would need help. |
t3_i6s07 | AskReddit | LulzSec or Anonymous Request. [Please] Take down the WBC Website and its Sister sites. | Whether they are promoting the word of God, or simply have an opinion, it's not respectful to anyone as human beings to shout abuse in their grieving faces for something they have no control over like death. How would they like it, if one of their family members died in a horrific car accident and we all showed up to the funeral to spit on their graves and tell them that God hates them because of the choices they made in life.
Personally if they are a real organisation they should be ashamed and disgusted at themselves, it's so surreal to see them on TV here in England on the news protesting a soldiers funeral?! Eugh it makes you so angry that your fists just break under the sheer pressure of being clenched so hard. | They are cunts, sort them out. |
t3_3s8tc9 | relationships | Me [20 M] with my mom [50 F], has been diagnosed with an incurable disease which will cause daily pain. I take satisfaction for her suffering. Is something wrong with me? | My mother, when I was younger, was emotionally unstable, abusive, and singled me out for venting her frustration. I have spent years mulling over the things she did and tried to work through it in the past, eventually, went limited contact for two years, and then no contact for a year after that. Well, I wanted a relationship with my little brother who is still in highschool, and a relationships with my stepfather, so I called them up, and we moved forward without dwelling on the past too much. I've been able to repair my relationships with everyone but her. I know that she now cares about me and she's tried getting close to me since I've left the house, but the scars are still sore.
Well, recently, I found out she has contracted a major chronic disease and when I heard it, the most I could do was say sorry to her for hearing it. Meanwhile in my mind, the thoughts and feelings canned back, which I thought were gone, of hatred, albeit diminished.
Am I a sociopath or something? I want her to feel like I love her in a genuine way. How can I do that, with these negative feelings still there? | I take pleasure in someone's future suffering. How can I express genuine sorrow for someone when I feel smug knowing their coming pain? |
t3_30l5v5 | relationship_advice | She [21/F] likes me [21/M] but she's got a boyfriend | So this chick moved in next door whilst she's looking around for a flat, she's from abroad. We've been out a couple of times and I really like her and believe she likes me, we're always laughing and having a real good time. However she doesn't know that I know she has a boyfriend. I had seen her Instagram with pictures of her and her BF (fuck social media) I shared one of my insta pics on fb and she turned her insta to private straight away, and since then I'm a bit weird around her and she's always asking if I'm angry at her.
We ended up at my place yesterday and she was kind of keen but I was just turned off by the fact she has a BF. We haven't even kissed yet - I could have easily but again, I don't feel right about it.
She'll be staying around for 6-9 months or even longer and I'd really like to have something serious with her. Should I tell her I know she has a BF, or shall I try to forget and just go for it? What would be the most mature approach? | Should I tell her I know she has a boyfriend? |
t3_4fapun | relationships | Can someone explain why my girlfriend [20 F] is no longer excited about sexual acts with me [20 M] | Hello everyone,
Over the course of the last few months, I have noticed that my significant other (20, F) has lost her desire to engage in sexual activities with me. It certainly did not bug me at first as we are both very busy with our undergraduate studies whilst carrying out two jobs each. Last night however, she had opened up and told me she is no longer excited about engaging in sex with me. She goes on to tell me that this issue creates a very difficult barrier for her to overcome and thus she is never excited about sex. She also added on that she was excited the first few times we had sex as a couple, but that feeling of excitement and interest had faded very quickly. Additionally, she explained that she felt this way about every single partner she had in the past. Our sexual tendencies are never repeated either; we both work at different sex shops and we always find new things to add to our collection and experiment with each other, so it confuses me as to why she would feel uninterested in engaging in sex with me. She claims that there must be something wrong with her and doesn't know what to do, but I cannot help and feel that she isn't ready for a relationship and simply has the desire to be freed from the limitations of a relationship.
We have been dating for roughly a 10 months, | Girlfriend says she is no longer excited about sex with me, explained that her excitement has faded and has faded before with previous partners. Claimed that she only has excitement in the first few instances of sexual encounters. Has anyone encountered such scenarios and what was the outcome/result? |
t3_36bock | relationships | Ex-boyfriend [22 M] that I [21 F] dated for 3.5 years recently got new girlfriend, now says I can't see dogs anymore | My ex-boyfriend "John" and I dated for over 3 years. Him and I made a mutual decision to end our relationship in November of last year. | Ex-boyfriend won't let me see dogs because of his new girlfriend; My friends are being infinitely unsupportive/unhelpful; What should I do? |
t3_2fu6uf | tifu | TIFU by holding a fart in too long | So this happened just a few minutes ago and I'm able to write this out before class starts.
I'm currently in college and halfway through my schedule I have a three hour long break where I usually chill in the library and try to study/do homework and instead sit on reddit. Well today was different. Halfway through my three hour long break I start to feel a fart come on and since I'm in a room with a ton of people I decide to just hold it and wait till I get to the IT building where my next class is. The problem is it keeps building. I keep getting the rumblies and just clench my iron cheeks together as hard as possible to not let any leakage occur.
Thirty minutes before my next class I decide to leave so I can get to the IT building before people start to leave class and snag the bathroom while it's empty. So I head to the third floor(top) and somehow manage to make it to the bathroom and this huge nerdy dude is just standing there washing his hands. I head to the urinal and just try to bide my time AND HE DOESNT LEAVE! So I just say screw it and head to the stall. I immediately drop my pants and instantly a hailstorm of feces fly into the toilet and the sound could only be described as somebody throwing paint onto a wall and the deepest sound of an elephant yelling. The smell I don't want to talk about, it was awful.
Instantly the kid turns and looks directly at my stall and says "WTF!?" and finally runs out of the bathroom. I finally finish up and feeling 10 times better make it to class. | held in a fart WAY longer than I should've and ruined some nerdy kid's life forever by listened to me explode a toilet. |
t3_4qggik | jobs | Feel like i was given a bait and switch offer. don't know what to do. | Hi all, I am a recent college grad and I applied to a corporate marketing position at a major casino hotel. For all intents and purposes let's say the job title I applied to was Marketing Floor Supervisor and the description stated that it involved a lot of public speaking, managing, and public interaction.
So I get called to an interview and suit up. I show up and the executive leaves saying she has to go and that one of the employees will do the interview instead. Meanwhile there were others there around my age and it seemed like they double booked interview times. I thought it was weird that I was the only one in a suit. Everyone else had brown shoes, Vans, and/or polos on.
The interview goes pretty well, they ask me salary requirements to which I replied 30,000 and I ask some questions to which they reply with regular answers, only I thought it was weird that she kept talking about me having to work sometimes in a customer service booth, but whatever.
Well today I get an offer in my email. I log into the portal and I have an option to view applications, accept, or decline. That's it. No details, no phone number, nothing. And on top of that, my original application says "withdrawn" and I was reapplied to a position called something like "Marketing Operations Representative" with a very vague description.
What should I do? Should I ignore it? Try to call them out? | Company gave job offer with no details that was significantly different from the one to which I applied |
t3_3n291c | relationships | Me [23 M] with my [20 F], 2 weeks getting to know each other. The girl I have been getting to know is to shy in person. What should I do? | I met a Vietnamese girl I like in one of my classes. To give a background of myself, I am a guy who likes Asian woman very much and I feel more confident around them. I was helping her with her math homework and obtained her phone number. We started texting everyday and we flirt a lot through text messages. Our relationship is great over text. I encourage her to go out to dinner or lunch but she always feels uncomfortable about doing so or hanging out outside of class or on the weekend.
Ever since we started texting each other, she acts extremely shy when we are sitting next to each other in class. I don't get it, she is a completely different person through text messages, but I feel like she can't even look me in the eye in person. I am confident around her but she is a completely different person. In other words, she is too shy and it is turning me off.
Should I just give up on her? She seems like a waste of my time. We talked about her being too shy and she knows and admits to it, but I can't seem to help her about it. I am in my early 20's, I am horny all the time and I don't think she will be my girlfriend. I don't want a relationship through text messages. Is this common in Asian culture or something? Is this a common thing guys go through? My previous girlfriends were not like this.
*Give me advice if you can, even if it is to abandon ship | The girl is too shy even though we flirt through text messaging. What should I do? |
t3_22yi71 | relationships | I [23 M] am going to propose to my girlfriend[29 F] this weekend, thoughts on my idea.. | I am going to propose to the love of my life this weekend. We are going to be at her house for Easter, just her and I. We were originally going to go to the mountains and I was going to propose to her up there, but we have puppies to watch so we decided not to go up.
So in spirit with Easter, I thought of getting an Easter basket with a bunch of stuff she like, chocolate, movies, makeup, and putting the ring in big plastic egg. It's not the most original idea, but I was wondering what people's thoughts were. I envision her going through the basket and me being on one knee when she gets to the egg, which will be buried under other items.
We are private people and I believe keeping the moment to ourselves is very important. I was thinking of ideas for a while and it just popped into my head. I want her to be surprised and it to be memorable. Anyone have any tips, or should I rethink this whole idea? | Easter basket proposal, good or bad idea? |
t3_2d0hev | relationships | My [23F] live-in boyfriend [23 M] spends $200 a month on porn. | So my boyfriend and I have had sexual problems our entire relationship (3 yrs, now living together). Despite our little problem, we have a wonderful relationship and I truly love him. I have had happy, healthy, sexual relationships with a a few people so naturally I want the same with him. The problems are almost entirely on his end (can't get aroused, just all around not interested), and I am an attractive girl and I have tried *everything.* So I was innocently opening up a document on the preview program on his computer and I accidentally closed
it, so I went to re-open it and see tons of porn pictures in his recent files. I was just *innocently* curious (I watch porn too, but it's not something we really share together) and I see it's hundreds of screenshots from pregnant women cam sites. And then dozens of folders of different sessions. He has no cookie cutter porn... Just pregnant women.
I do a little more not-so-innocent snooping because he has never shared this fetish with me and the amount of pictures is shocking. I look through his email and find he has been spending $200/month to visit these pregnant cam sites, whereas I spend $0 on porn. It's not a necessity I file into my monthly expenses. He is a very frugal person, so this shows me that it's important to him. So important that he can't "get off" with free porn, but needs contact with an actual pregnant woman in real time.
All of our sexual problems suddenly make sense, but I'm scared to talk with him about this. I was snooping around and found something I shouldn't have. But we need to talk about this, because excessive porn consumption seems to be leaving him completely and utterly disinterested in me. Not only that, but it's an outrageous cost to pay $1200 a year just to get off. How do I approach him? What does this mean about possibly "fixing" our sex lives? Or will simply having a strong fetish I cannot possibly deliver leave things forever broken? | I was snooping around on my boyfriend's computer and found out he spends $200 a month on porn, leaving him totally sexually disinterested in me. How do I confront him when I shouldn't have been snooping? |
t3_3eq5v0 | running | Tips for running through a period of depression? | I've struggled with periods of depression throughout my life, and usually just binge on movies until it passes (1-2 months on average), forego exercise, and limit my interactions with others. Unfortunately, I'm a teacher now and on top of that, am training for a marathon in January. The problem is, I can barely motivate myself to show up for work in the morning, much less do any workouts - running or otherwise. Does anyone have tips on ways I can help push myself through this? Telling myself I'll feel better after my run is the obvious choice, but isn't going to work. I gained about 15lbs over the summer (thanks, American food and beer!) and even a mile is going to be a struggle until some of this weight comes off. I'm also living on a compound in a fairly dangerous country so running groups are not an option | Depressed and need tips on how to get myself to run again so that i don't just sit at home and get worse. |
t3_3jt1d6 | relationships | I'm (19/M) so isolated and lonely. Why can't I find a girl who is somewhat into me? | Had a breakup after a 4 year relationship back in March. I felt like crap so i decided to lose weight to improve my image. I've lost almost 50 pounds since then and I honestly look great. Went from 220 to almost 170. Im in my 2nd year of college and I was excited to meet new girls and see what is out there. I consider myself a mature and intelligent guy for my age. I'm a communications/journalism major and I am very well spoken. I've met a few girls over the past few months but I can't seem to get any to stick, and I just can't figure out why. It's not that I want a serious relationship, but having someone to text or talk to would be nice. To make matters even more weird, a gay guy I met has been the only person to show interest in me lately; I politely declined. I am in a situation where I am alone with no friends and really nobody but myself and my parents (who I have a hard time venting to) and its starting to take a toll on me. What should I do? I have gotten girls' numbers at school but they don't text me after the first or second message. What gives? How do I cope with this situation/is there something I could do differently? Thanks a bunch and I'll get back to your questions/answers ASAP. | went through a breakup. Trying to meet new girls and it's not working out so well. What do I do? |
t3_2vjprg | relationships | Me [24 M] finally blocked my ex on Facebook [24/F]. Need reassurance | Me and my gf of 2 1/2 years broke up our long distance relationship (was long distance for last 5 months of relationship) about a month ago. I went NC and was in a lot of denial. I realized recently that I still love her.
We broke NC once. One sentence to let her know my friend is picking up my stuff..nothing more...nothing less.
She broke up with me because long distance was getting to both of us and she did not move because she did not know what she wanted out a career and was scared to move. She told me she wanted to be alone to figure this out. We had a solid and great relationship.
I sometimes regret not putting my all in all of the time. I was never a bad BF..but I feel now I could of done much more.
She is the nicest person I have ever met. I still miss her sometimes and I realized I would look at her FB and that I was subconsciously doing things to make her notice on FB.
I decided in order for me to move on, that I should block her...for my health and for hers. It was the hardest thing I have done. It was hard to block such a caring and nice person...I just want reassurance I am not an asshole. | Blocked my ex on fb so I can move on easier. Even though she is a great person. Kind of want her back. Feel shitty about it. |
t3_30hpj3 | tifu | TIFU by wearing the wrong socks and walking down the stairs | Ok so this didn't happen today, it actually happened a few Christmases ago.
Some background - I was wearing these really corny Christmas socks which were really slippery for some reason
It was about mid afternoon and we were getting ready to eat when my mum asked me to get some extra plates from upstairs in the loft. I go and up and they are all it a huge box. I didn't know how many she needed so decided to bring the whole box down. After I had got down from the loft, I picked up the box and proceeded down the stairs wearing my slippery christmas socks and instead carefully taking it step by step, I thought it would be clever to carry it in front of my face and walk straight down. I couldn't see anything because the box was so big and about half way down the stairs, I began slipping. I almost regained my balance but started running/slipping down t
he stairs until I got to the bottom, dropped the box(smashing the plates and smacked my face into the radiator, breaking my front tooth. Since it was Christmas, nothing was open so I couldn't get it fixed until a later date. | I tries to carry a box down the stairs wearing slippery socks, slipped and fell and spent the rest of Christmas day miserable with a broken front tooth. |
t3_1h5tsu | dating_advice | Me[26M] hooking up with [31F] 1 week. I dont want to date her, what's my exit strategy we share a circle of friends. | Ok so I had been flirting with this girl for a few weeks now. We finally hooked up last weekend. She's cool but I know that I could never date her long term. we havent given it a name for what were doing, she has said she thinks "dating" is too formal and she doesnt like that. a few weeks later I asked if she thought what we were doing was dating. She said she didnt know what it was. Cavet this was all before we had sex. So I dont know if things have changed to her.
I'm concerned because we share a circle of friends so I will see her again, its not like I can just stop talking to her. Also we went out last night, no sex and it felt like a date...but there's a possibility she was on her period...I'm not sure, she said she was gross and didnt want to come back to my place.
Anyway if she thinks we are just having fun, great no problem. If she thinks we are dating thats harder, whats my exit strategy for both scenereos? | what's my exit strategy from a girl? |
t3_2grehc | relationships | I'm (17 F) straight but my heart starts beating ERRATICALLY around this girl (18 F)? Help. | 1. I have NEVER been physically/emotionally attracted to girls.
2. I still dig guys, but she's the ONLY exception.
3. I go to an all-girls school...if that's relevant.
Initially I thought this was just a phase, but it's been going on for like...4 months now and I've come to this point where I actually HIDE whenever I see her or pretend to sleep in math class because she sits right in front of me and keeps turning around to glance at me. I literally can't physically BE around her without looking like an idiot.
She's sort of...butch-looking and acts like a guy. She also has a great personality; unlike me, she's loud and funny and not afraid to speak her thoughts. She's also pretty athletic.
I...think I like her because she's the only thing that remotely resembles a dude in my school. I also think my "crush" is partially admiration because she has this amazing personality I wish I could have.
1. I can't look at her in the eyes without feeling embarrassed like hell.
2. My body automatically searches for hiding places whenever I see her coming my way.
3. She kind of knows me but we aren't friends or anything...and yesterday, she sneaked up behind me and whispered "Bye" in my ear in a playful way and that literally gave me a heart attack and made me feel really happy for the rest of the day.
4. She asked my friend for my number when people started telling her about how "badly I wanted to be friends with her". Which is true, because I really do.
Does this mean I have a crush on a girl? Is this even a crush? I'm so confused right now and God help me because I'm going to sit behind her again tomorrow. Jesus. | I'm straight but I THINK I might have a crush on a girl. |
t3_328875 | relationship_advice | Girl [F23] I'm dating has gone from hot to cold, yet she still goes on dates with me [M24]. I think her ex is still in the picture. | We've been dating for over a month now, we've been on 6 dates. We both live at home and work in our career fields and I'm also in graduate school.
We hit it off real well, things were progressing great for the first dates both physically and emotionally. She was upfront up to me on the third date about still being in touch with her ex whom she broke up with 8 months ago, she said shes trying to move on and whats to go slow with me. I took this as a red flag, but went with it anyway as things were casual.
As of the past few weeks though, she has really pumped the brakes on progressing our relationship, I almost think it's going backwards. She's gotten distant and colder, we talk a lot less throughout the week and she seems less perky than when I first met her. I feel like she doesn't even want to come over my house anymore.
So I figured it was time to back off and I went dark on her, didn't hear from her for about a week until last night. She starts a casual conversation and I ask if she wants to go out this weekend. She gives me a maybe, but most likely to go bowling (super fun omg).
I don't understand why shes gone from hot to cold, yet still will go on dates with me. I have a feeling shes still not over her ex. I want to date her, but I want things to progress for us both. I feel like a backup right now and I don't know how I should bring this up with her tonight on our date, or do I not? All I know is, I'm not enjoying this feeling and I'm not sure what direction to take this. | Been dating a girl for over a month |
t3_ulbrg | AskReddit | You find out about a zombie infection! It's at your doorstep. What do you do? [story/rules inside] | You're watching TV, alone. You find out there's a zombie infection and it's right on your doorstep. There isn't much time.
Sweeping the house quickly, you have time to grab a few things. In the chaos, you also have time to grab that *other* item you had lying around.
Running outside, you hear a neighbour scream at you. '*They're coming! They're at the crossroads!*' You know the crossroads are about 10 minutes walk, giving you just enough time to raid two stores. You've only got a backpack, and it's not going to fit much.
The police stations alarm signals that they're over the hill. You look and see three escape routes. That old car your uncle insisted on keeping, he leaves the keys under the seat, but you doubt it will run for long; or, the supermarket's doors are shutting, you think you could make it if you rush now; or, the bike, it's at the gates to the old farm you used to drive past, it's a long ride, but you could make it.
What do you do? | Choose |
t3_2t0syp | relationships | Tips for dating someone who isn't all that great at dating? 28f, 37m | Hi there. I wasn't sure how to word the title...
I recently (few weeks) began seeing an extremely smart, passionate, inspiring person, Bob. I really admire a lot about what he's chosen to do with his life and am definitely attracted to his intelligence.
The issue is that he isn't the best at interpersonal relationships. He's pretty socially awkward and shy (sorta..), while I'm very much the opposite. His profession has him constantly meeting and interacting with new people, so he's definitely not adverse to talking to people, but those conversations are usually about the subject area in which he is an expert. I know he has friends, but it's seems that the majority of them he mostly only interacts with online.
I am a really extroverted person with many friends. I tend to date really nerdy guys, so I'm not inexperienced with this but Bob is kind of on another level. I don't know exactly what kind of experience he has, but he did tell me (before we started seeing each other) "I am single 90% of the time". He attributed this to not meeting the right person, but I think it's pretty clear that his lack of social prowess plays a role as well.
Has anyone been in a similar situation to this?
I really like him and want to see more of him, but I don't feel like i'm being fulfilled in certain ways. He is just kind of dumb when it comes to dating. Subtly is very lost on him, he doesn't seem to have a clue about common expectations for dating situations and most importantly he doesn't really ask me any questions trying to get to know me, which I think is a part of his social awkwardness as opposed to a lack of interest.
Can this be overcome? Am I going to have to "hold his hand" throughout the whole relationship? AKA walk him through things very bluntly and take the lead in terms of communication?
Does anyone have any advice in general? | He's really really really really nerdy. I'm not... is there a future? |
t3_4xa9wr | personalfinance | How will my closed account falling off effect my credit score? | Right around my 18th birthday my dad got me to sign up for a state farm bank credit card to pay my insurance with and help me learn/build credit. Being immature and clearly not ready for anything but keystone light and poor decisions I let it go delinquent and the account was closed. Fast forward to just shy of seven years and here I am with 1.5 years of on time payments on my current and only credit card, student loans paid down to $4k and a credit score of 660. My question is, once that derogatory account falls off soon, that will in essence lower my credit history to 1.5 years, correct? And if so which has more of a negative impact, the short credit history or the closed derogatory account? | closed account falls off soon, how does that affect my score? |
t3_2r626y | tifu | TIFU by not checking my credentials | This happened about two minutes ago.
My dad picked up smoking this year and made it his resolution to quit. He doesn't smoke too much, about 2-3 cigs a day, but he's already having trouble giving it up so I decided I would help him out a bit by getting him a refillable/rechargeable hookah pen.
I talked to my mom about this idea, but she said my dad would get really angry because he's stubborn and would hate being told that he needs help. Okay, fine, I thought, might as well get one for myself, and if anything I can say it was for him and hope he doesn't lose his shit. My elaborate plan was to find something cheap on eBay and buy it on my account. My dad's usually not home and my mom, coincidentally, is working in the city this week, so I thought the timing was perfect. I found something on eBay, ordered it, bam, I was done.
Now here's where I fucked up: I checked my email to make sure the order went through. I got a confirmation from PayPal, but nothing from eBay. I went on my account to check my purchases... Nothing. Suddenly the reality of the situation hit me... I checked my dad's eBay, and sure enough, there was an order for a hookah pen. Shipped under my name.
So now I have to sit and hope my dad doesn't call and accuse me of being a druggie or something else bad happens. I'll update this as the events unfold. | ordered hookah pen on my dad's eBay account. Events will soon unfold... |
t3_3gg0l1 | tifu | TIFU by trying to show off on a dirt bike | Obliged to say that this happened almost three years ago, but wasn't in touch with the hivemind then so posting it now. Was at a farm with a few friends ripping it up on dirt bikes and quad bikes. Now, there were a few cute girls around, and I was a hormonal 15 year old so wasn't exactly thinking with my brain. After doing a jump or two on a dirt pile I thought I'd floor it over a larger dirt pile and get some serious air time. One crucial thing regarding dirt bikes is that you need to pull back a lot while jumping lest the front tire hit the ground first resulting in the rider eating out Mother Nature. As I was about to launch off the dirt pile my front wheel sunk in a considerable amount. It was then that I realised that what I considered to be a dirt pile hitherto was in fact a pile of soft, unpact mushroom compost so instead of flying straight up I sailed through the air with the nose of the bike leaning significantly far foward. Can't remember what happened during that air time, or the fall, but I remember lying on the ground with my dirt bike on top of me, assume I had sailed off the front and got my head buried in the dirt. At least I had my helmet on right. So I stand up, walk over to my friends that are all running in my direction. My best mate asks me if I'm okay and I reply with "yeh sure just slightly winded". It was then I realised I had utterly no control over my wrist. Intense pain floods through my arm so I hobbled over to the nearest car and lean on the bonnet. Something was off with my reflection, upon closer inspection I discovered that I was in fact missing my front two teeth. In short, I was rushed to hospital whereupon I discovered that I'd broken my wrist in two places as well as dislocated it, the bottom half of my two front teeth were also smashed off, the nerves were exposed which resulted in excruciating pain till the following day during which they were repaired. But I did end up getting morphine so 10/10 would break again | went all Evel Knievel to impress a chick, arm ended up flopier than a flaccid dick. |
t3_274ost | relationships | [Non-Romantic] Me [26M]. Friends (of 6+yrs) stood me up, yesterday, for my son's 1st birthday party. | I did all of my inviting on both text and facebook. Some of them never bothered to write anything even back to me; or reply at all, but i could see they've 'read' it. I had only one friend actually text me, later in the evening, letting me know he isn't able to show up because of car trouble.
I've been on good terms with all of them; some showed up to my Christmas party last year, the rest couldn't make it and notified me. In the last year I have seen a huge decline in communication from 90% of all my friends. So I try hard to keep in contact and invite them over for a bonfire time to time. Maybe they find my life boring now or something but they usually don't show, don't contact and I'm not ever invited to their gatherings.
should i just drop it and not talk to them? or confront? I'm pretty pissed.
kind of boiling. It's becoming really hard to keep friends around, makes me sad at how much I try when the introvert in me would much rather be playing video games next to my wife on her laptop. | Overall decline in friends and communication. Most didn't show/notify for son's party. |
t3_40bck1 | relationships | How do I stop comparing my [20F] relationship to current bf [20M, 1 month] with ex [22M, 4 years]? | In short, there were things within my relationship with my ex that I guess I've now considered normal, such as texting throughout the day, having long and deep conversations about random issues/things, listening to him telling me about his day and what he did etc.
In my current relationship, I already know I love him and he loves me. We click on a lot of levels and we spend copious amounts of time together, watching tv, playing games, hanging out with friends etc. However, he is a self-admitted bad communicator. We've discussed this and I've asked him to try to communicate more. I'd love to discuss hypotheticals (my ex wasn't fond of this either) and for him to tell me even the smallest details (e.g. I played a game of GTA 5 and I gunned down these two guys blah blah).
He says that he's just not that type of person who focuses on the little details or who needs to always be talking. He is content with being around me and being in my presence. I'm someone who would love to share every little bit of detail about my life with him so I do feel a little bummed that he shares so little due to the fact that he doesn't feel the need to. Sure, I love spending time with him and just sitting in the same room as him is amazing but I'd also like to be able to talk about ... things.
Is there anything I/we can do? | bf doesn't like communicating a lot (e.g. texting about his day, discussing issues/news) but I do - anything we can do to bridge this gap? |
t3_2zcr0a | tifu | TIFU by offending an Irish person on St. Patrick's Day | So as this weekend was St. Patrick's Day, my roommates and I decided to skip the parade (crappy weather in Boston this year) and head to a local bar around 10pm after the debauchery had died down. We picked an Irish bar thinking it would be fun and maybe have some cool drinks.
My roommates and I pulled the typical biddie move and asked the bartender for an Irish car bomb (shot of Baileys/Jameson in Guinness). The bartender responds (in a full-on Irish accent) by uncomfortably telling us that asking an Irish person for an Irish car bomb is like asking an American person for a 9/11 shot, "so that's pretty fucked up" he said and just stares at us.
Turns out the name "Irish car bomb" refers *not* to the fact that the drink involves a "bomb" shot (i.e. a Jägerbomb), but rather to the car bombings that took place in Ireland during [The Troubles] conflict in which over 3,500 people were killed.
We awkwardly sat in silence and quickly ordered the first beers on the menu, downed them, and got the hell out of there. | don't ask an Irish bartender for an Irish car bomb or you're an asshole |
t3_gmbjw | AskReddit | People whose parents cheated: how were you able to reconcile with the past? | This is difficult for me. I feel really embarrassed posting this, but I don't have anyone to talk to. I guess I'm looking to get some advice from others who have been through something similar.
When I was 15 (I'm 17 now), my parents separated and my dad moved out. I found out shortly after this that my dad had a sexual addiction and had been cheating on my mother with tons of women. Most of them were prostitutes, but he also had a 20 year old girlfriend (he was 40 at the time). Obviously, I was extremely furious, outraged, disgusted, and many other things. I sincerely hated him. I hated him for what he did to my mother. I thought he was despicable for, evidently, not having any self-control. I didn't speak to him at all for almost a year.
My father and I had a very bad relationship before this happened. I had pretty bad anger issues as a young child (I'm talking 3-7, maybe). According to my mom, I usually lashed out at him, and he took it personally. I honestly cannot remember very much of that period of my life, but I don't doubt what she says. I haven't had anger issues since then. Things were very bitter and tense between us. We didn't speak to each other unless it was necessary. Also, his emotionally abusive father abandoned his family when he was maybe 12 or 13. I don't think that he really knew how to be a dad, so to speak.
My parents got back together about a year after they separated. My dad moved back in and started going to essentially a 12-step program, I think. Since this, no one in my family has ever talked about what my father did. Things went back to normal, with one exception: my dad and I actually have a relationship now. I talk to him, joke with him, go to games with him.
Lately, though, I've been remembering what he did and what he put our family through. I am remembering my mother weeping and staying in bed for days, my little sister's fear, and my deep anger. I can't get it out of my head. I feel like I'm sabotaging our newfound relationship. | My dad cheated on my mom for with tons of women. They separated but got back together. We had a shitty relationship before, now it's okay but I can't forget what he did. |
t3_lt7t1 | AskReddit | Attention all Yanks! European requesting immediate alcoholic Jello advice! | So, this Halloween party is coming up and I decided to come bearing gifts. Jello shot gifts, to be precise. I'd found some jell-o mix from a local supermarket *(hint: this is very uncommon over here. I'd never seen any before tbh)* and went for it.
I got some always wonderful Vodka to go with them, emptied out some oranges, made the mix and poured it all in. [Delicious results can be seen here] Then I checked the package and noticed "Let cool in refridgerator for 4 hours."
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When I made them I had 1½ hours left till the party starts. It's now 1 hour to the start and the fluid is still... fluid!
So, since Reddit is full of alcoholic masters and heck, being slightly late is an acceptable faux-pas if one comes bearing gifts, | how long should I wait until I can (semi-)safely transport jello shots? |
t3_3vp0z6 | relationships | Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 2 months. I'm having a really hard time telling my parents | So I've been seeing this girl I really like for 2ish months now, it's going well, however I'm having a hard time telling my parents.
My parents are supportive and I think they'll be happy for me, however as I said i'm having a hard time telling them, I think it's mainly because of my brother [23M] he's really quite depressed at the moment, and he's never had a girlfriend. I don't want to sound like a dick, however throughout my life, I have scored better than him in tests/AS levels. He failed his AS levels and dropped out of school, whereas I passed them and am hoping to go to university next year. All this has made be feel is really bad about it all, and I feel that if i get a girlfriend before him as well, it might push him over the edge. I have invited her round in about 2 weeks to set myself a deadline, so I better tell my parents by then. | I'm having a hard time telling my parents about my girlfriend because my older brother is depressed and has never had a girlfriend |
t3_4hfb5v | relationships | I [F/27] broke up with my BF of 6 years who was going to propose because I didn't think he was the one. How do I get over this guilt? | I [F/27] broke up with my BF [M/29] of 6 years who was going to propose because I didn't think he was the one.
I found time and time again that I was putting all of the effort and work into the relationship and it was exhausting. I told him this several times and threatened to leave but he always went back into his old unambitious ways. Although he was growing as a person I felt that I was being held back.
I really do love my ex but I feel in my heart that there must better people out there for both of us. I am overcome with grief and sadness, not to mention the guilt of leaving him hurt.
I understand grief is a process but how do I deal with his guilt? I have left a kind wonderful person so hurt and I am so remorseful. | I [F/27] broke up with my BF of 6 years who was going to propose because I didn't think he was the one. I felt I was offering much more than he was although I made efforts to fix things and the relationship left me drained. I feel awful that he is so hurt by my decision to leave. How do I overcome this guilt? |
t3_2q8aad | relationship_advice | My (20f) mum (37f) suddenly doesn't let me sleep in one bed with my boyfriend (20m). | Title speaks for itself really.
We have been together for 6 months and tonight is the first time that he is staying over at my family's house since we have gotten together.
We live together at university and spend each night in one bed.
Before we got into the relationship, we were friends with benefits and my mum was fully aware of it. He stayed over few times and she encouraged that we slept together in one bed.
Tonight, she stated that we shouldn't have to sleep together (although we are sleeping in one room).
Should I follow or ignore her request? | my mum suddenly has a problem with me sleeping in one bed with my bf. |
t3_30ccfh | relationships | Dating a girl for 3 months, have a Tinder app related question | So I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months (I'm 32m and she's 33f), and about a month in she had me looking up something on her phone and I saw she still had Tinder.
I asked her about it and she told me that it wasn't signed up, and opened the app to show me that it wasn't, and then got mad at me for "snooping".
However, about a week and a half ago I noticed while she was swiping back and forth on her IPhone that Tinder had a message bubble beside the app stating one message, just like when you have a message on Facebook or similar apps. I didn't bring it up at the time, but this has been bugging me ever since. Can you get messages on Tinder even if you're not signed up? I don't mean from other people necessarily, but something along the lines of admin messages or something trying to get you to sign up again?
I don't think she'd be one to cheat on me, and she has a 9 month old baby so I don't even know where she'd have the time, but this bugs me and I'd be very upset even if she was just talking to other guys because I know the whole point of Tinder is to hookup.
The baby father isn't part of the picture specifically because he cheated on her and she wrote him off and ended the relationship. She even moved to the US from Venezuela just over a year ago because she wanted to get far away. | Can Tinder receive a message/admin message even when you're not actively signed up? |
t3_1moauq | relationships | A week after I [M25] confessed my feelings to my friend [F22] of 4 months, I felt things would get awkward. | First day at work after a week since I told her, I kind of avoided seeing her because I was dreading the awkwardness. Later I felt bad about it. It would make her think that she's not worth talking to since she didn't exactly respond to what I said other then she still wants us to be the same. She admitted she had a feeling that I felt something for her and that's why she became distant. I told her I thought she figured it out too, and I backed off as well. I said that I was so relieved to finally tell her and she smiled. She said she still wanted things to be the same. Last time at work, i just came over and started talking with her. She seemed real cool, and comfortable talking with me. It was a big relief. I don't feel nervous around her anymore, maybe because I feel I no longer have anything to hide from her. I have not text her in a while though, neither has she. We use to text back and fourth all the time. I guess I'm just hoping that for once after a long time, she'll initiate a conversation with me like she use to. I saw her again today at work and we were at lunch. Pretty much we both joked and even played a dumb game of "air hockey with a plastic cap and pens". We were just bored lol. But we had a good laugh just being dumb. I went home, she passed, I said bye, she looked at me and said bye aswell. I didn't try to turn around to go talk to her more, and I waited outside for my ride. She walked out and I talked to another friend just trying not to notice(avoid making her think I'm staring at her or something). Overall she's still cool. I'm glad we still talk and joke. IDK if I should ever ask her to hang out again. I've been working on my persona, trying to be more outgoing and confident. | Confessed feelings to my friend, she's still wanted to be cool with me. Confessing them was the hardest thing to do. We were distant for a while shortly before, and she came around and started to seem cool with talking again, then later I finally said it. Felt like trying to cut a wire on a bomb. But she's still cool. Overall IDK if I can ask her to hang out again. I felt I had to tell her. Now I find myself being somewhat distant at times. I try not to linger so at times it seems like I'm avoiding her. I'm just trying to give her some space. |
t3_2glmdy | relationship_advice | I [18F] am confused about a college hookup with [18M] (x-post from r/relationships) | I met this guy who lives in my dorm on Friday and we spent most of the weekend drinking and studying together. At one point we hooked up (only to 3rd base), and we continued hanging out with mutual friends/alone for the next two days with no mention to the hookup until last night. He said that he wanted to do it again, but I am not interested in a FWB thing, and I have no idea what he wants.
I told him that he should think about what he wants and that I would do the same and that we'd talk later, but we talked today (to be fair it was on a bus) and there was no mention of it. I don't think our mutual friends have any idea what has happened.
However, I do realize that I hooked up with a guy I met the day before and that I probably screwed things up from the get-go. I was kind of drunk and he was really hot, please don't judge, and I've never done anything like this before.
After spending quite a bit of (platonic) time with him and texting him a lot, it turns out I kind of like him. But as hot and nice as he may be, I only want to have relations with someone who really likes me. I don't know if I mean a relationship, but definitely something more than a fuck buddy. I also realize that it would make this a lot easier if I actually knew what I wanted.
I do think that he is into me, but I really don't know what he wants at all. Obviously I don't want to force anything.
Basically what I'm asking is that even though this whole thing started as a hookup, can I set it on a more meaningful track? | I hooked up with a hot guy I didn't really know, but now that I do I kind of like him but I don't know what to do next. |
t3_2p6psq | relationships | I (24f) found my soulmate, but.... | I believe to my (24f) core that we all have that perfect match in someone else. That person we can't live without that makes life vibrant even on the dullest days. I believe I have met mine, the connection we share is completely profound. There is a tangible connection that friends and family have pointed out on a few occasions but we aren't actually dating. Its maddening. He (27m) isn't where he would like to be in life. We share every small detail of our lives and there is little to no conflict, we have been involved for almost 8 years and I know without a doubt I don't want anyone else. We go through phases where we get busy and talk a little less but always pick up where we left off. We have tried dating other people and it never works out we are back to each other. It feels completely natural to be near him, he does all the little things you can't fake feeling...but he resists us being together.
Now to be clear he's told me he loves me and on more than one occasion shown me without a doubt he cares. I feel like part of his hesitation is that we come from very different backgrounds. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? I'm doing everything I can to become my best self, because he makes me want to be my best. (He accepts me as I am regardless) | I found my soulmate but he has trouble committing |
t3_2btxux | relationships | I [18F] dated a guy[19 M] for 3 years and we broke up. Still hungout and talked about being in love/getting back together. He just ended things and told friends he's been just using me for sex. How do I stop feeling like life sucks? | I dated a guy I met in my sophomore year of high school. He was a senior. We had everything in common and he went to college and we still dated. We broke up a few months ago but continued to talk/have sex. We had discussed getting back together and being in love but he's now decided he never wants to date me again. He said he's "in love with me but doesnt want me to be the girl he marries"
He told me that a few weeks ago but continued to see me and sleep with me and say he loves me which made me get hope. He told his best friend he's been using me for sex and when I found this out it killed me inside.
During our relationship there were problems- he didn't care about me sometimes, often neglected me, ect, but I was madly in love and we had so many mutual interests and opinions that it was perfect.
I just basically need advice on how to get better. I am an absolute mess right now and seeing a picture of him pop up destroys me. He dated me for so long and then just dropped me like I never existed. I don't get motivated for college because he goes there and all my memories of that school involve me visiting him. Can you guys just give me tips on how to stop being a pathetic depressed shit? thank you | Depressed over breakup and being used for sex. Can't get over him. Going to same college as him next year. What do I do? |
t3_gfxrg | self | Don't become a customer of solo mobile | Today I tried to send a text message to multiple contacts. My phone has a software bug which causes it to restart when I try to do that. I tried to work around this bug, which caused my phone to restart every time I tried to send a text message. I went to the bell store for a fix, and they offered me a "deal" for a smartphone on a 3 year contract. A repair to my current phone was not mentioned. Since this was a small software issue, I thought this would be an easy fix.
Speaking to tech support by phone, they told me a repair would be $70 and take 4-6 weeks. I asked how to reset the phone, but I don't recall being told how. I was transferred to retention, where I was offered 2 other "deals" involving an extension on my contract (with a new phone) or buy a $50 phone from solo for the last 6 months of my contract (and they would "generously" waive the activation fee). I mentioned I was not happy with solo (reception, and this problem) and was told this model is a lemon, and it wasn't solo's fault.
I found the manual online. I knew if I could find a way to delete all of my text messages, this would solve the problem. I found this explanation in the manual, and it solved my problem. I was right about this being an easy fix.
Note: A phone on a 2 year contract has a warranty of 1 year. Also, the person at retention noticed an agent erroneously extended my contract last august. They get points for honesty there, admittedly. | Tech support is useless, don't buy anything from solo mobile/Bell cause they will try to make a sale instead of solving your problem. |
t3_ilfek | AskReddit | Is it wrong to defend myself against a stray dog that may agitate my aggressive dog? | Reddit,
My dog, a German Shepherd, has an aggression problem. We are working to train it out as much as possible but he still has problems with people or animals rushing him. Today while walking, a neighborhood dog that was off leash (my city has a leash law), rushed him playfully. Due to his aggressive nature, my dog began to fight. I had to intervene by eventually kicking the other dog and yelling at it. The owner of course popped around the corner in time to see this. Was it wrong to kick this dog? He wasnt hurt, and I probably actually kept him from being hurt. | I charlie browned the neighborhood dog (offleash) to get it away from mine (onleash). |
t3_410gpw | relationships | My [18/M] S/O [18/F] decided we should end things, caught me slightly off guard and I'm extremely lonely (advice needed) | Throwaway.
My SO decided that we should end things on Tuesday.
Let me give you a run down: we were never together, just two friends who liked each other and hooked up sometimes. Two weeks ago we talked about our relationship because she seemed kind of distant (she's often really busy with sports/school/family) and we both reaffirmed that we didn't want a commitment and to stay where we were. She also mentioned that she wants to be independent. Everything seemed fine and we went out to lunch last weekend. Everything still fine. Monday I ask her what she said she meant by "independent" and she told me we should talk on Tuesday.
Tuesday happens and she tells me that she wants to end it because she doesn't feel the same about me as I feel about her. Honestly this caught me kind of off guard and it seemed quite sudden. I talked to her yesterday and she said that she stayed with me because she thought she could make us work, but I guess it didn't.
I don't know what to do, guys. I care about her so much and now I'm absolutely heartbroken. She mentioned we can still be friends but I want to wait until she talks to me again. Apparently my friend passed her in the hallways and she was crying. Help guys | S/O ended things, I'm heartbroken and lonely. She said she wants to be friends but I don't know where to go now. |
t3_1n6a2c | tifu | tifu Broke Heirloom [please help!] | So I was seeing my fiance' off to work this morning and as I was standing in the garage I went to wave to her while unknowingly standing right beside my mother-in-law-to-be's heirloom "hurricane lamp" (an old tabletop oil lamp on the wooden wall mount). The good news is that I heard the chimney/shade hit the floor and immediately held my position as to not allow the wall mount and lamp to fall; however, I live with my mother-in-law-to-be and must replace the top part of the lamp before leaving for work at 4:00 today. Mail-order is not an option.
Before anyone even has a chance to start, Yes it is a dumb Idea to keep breakables perched on a wall mount, and yes I should have known it was there and not broken it. | What chain stores carry hurricane/oil lamp parts that I should be able to visit in Memphis, TN |
t3_42bh6o | relationships | I [20F] got back together with ex [24M] and our futures don't align. | We had dated for 5 months prior. We did 3 months or so LD while I was on summer break. The LD was terrible. We tried our best but broke up near the end. Some of the problems were caused by my jealousy, and that he worked a job that made him miserable.
Now we're seeing each other again after half a year. He is happy now. I'm having some issues with my mental health, but I'm dealing pretty well with medication. He is cheering me up a lot, and I'm grateful.
We click. I have tons of fun with him. The problem is that I'm moving to another province (8 hours away) in less than a year. We especially won't do the LD then because it's a permanent move. It really saddens us thinking about it. I want to know how to be happy with the moment, how to enjoy what's in front of me even though I know it will end. Or is it even worth it? | Got back with ex, but I'm only in town for 5 months or so. We don't want to do LD so how do I enjoy a relationship with an expiry date? |
t3_1clfa9 | relationship_advice | [29/m] Late Bloomer | Evening folks ---
To start off, I'm not completely new to relationships. However I'm rather inexperienced. I've only had two girlfriends, both of which were in highschool and we were both young. Barely driving yet (16/17), so they pretty much went nowhere fast. They wanted to jump into bed and I was busy being a nerdy student, and frankly I didn't even want to risk kids.
Long story short, I'm at the point where I'm ready mentally to try this for real. I've tried the dating websites and have had little to no success. Quite possibly due to my messages, or my grocery list of insecurities. I certainly hope it wasn't due to a 'creep factor'. But I suppose it is possible. No one has ever said or hinted towards the 'you're a goddamn creep', so. And it's not like its something that's just blurted out in every day conversation. So, alas I come here seeking advice.
Please note the throwaway account for what I hope is obvious reasons -- one of which I'm a a virgin for..well.. lets just say downstairs shortcomings. Second of which, I'm kinda a big dude. 6 foot, 270 pounds. Tried the diet and the exercise thing for months to no avail. I was told I carry the weight well and don't look like I'm 270 pounds, but I'm thinking people are just putting a nice spin on shit for me. | Insecure dude looking to get into the dating game/relationship world. Not sure where or how to begin without being obviously inexperienced or insecure. I know I should've learned this in highschool -- but I was busy being the 'good student'. |
t3_3izx1p | tifu | TIFU by telling a woman how great her melons were | This happened last Saturday, where I had to work.
I had spent the night prior to my shift at my girlfriend's familiy's house. We woke up late and had an awesome brunch which included some very, very delicious watermelons from the supermarket, in which I work.
Her brother (she lives with her family), who also thought they were incredible, had just bought them, and told me that they had been dirt cheap. And naturally we spent some time talking about how great a purchase they'd been.
I work in the fast-food section of our store, where I sell ice and hotdogs, and sometimes we have to wait for a bit, while our hot dog buns are getting toasted. In the meantime I try to smalltalk with the customers, and last Saturday, I did this aswell.
A woman who had just been inside the store, and who had two of the great tasting watermelons under her arms came up and bought a hot dog. While I was toasting her hot dog bun, I wanted to smalltalk a bit, and thought that: "hey, I can point out how great thoose melons are". Without thinking that thought to the end, I told her that "those are some great melons". She seemed suprised and annoyed. I didn't quite get why, so I thought that she might not have heard me properly, and tried once again by saying: "they are really good!" while pointing at the melons (that were just besides her breasts) with my head. At this point she asked me to hurry up, and then I realized, what I'd done.
Panicking and quickly I started rephrasing myself and trying to explain that the taste was great; that I'd been eating some earlier this morning and that they had great taste, but to no avail. The damage had been made. | I ate some extremly delicious watermleons prior to going to work, and when a female customer, who had bought some of the same water melons, later was waiting to get serviced I, trying to smalltalk, told her that "those are some great melons" and that "they are really good". |
t3_3omjuj | relationships | Having issues with my [15M] Dad | (DISREGARD ABOVE AGE) So, my[13M] Dad's [M43] always been snoopy, but lately he's been randomly confiscating all my stuff and reading all my texts as well as demanding passwords for acccounts that don't even have to do with home. He also is really against me listening to music and talking with my friends in UT (I'm in Poland). He demands administrator account on a laptop for school which he made me buy in the first place. 9:00pm bedtime. I don't know what to do. And he's pressuring me a lot to study more, while simultaneously telling me to get more sleep. He wants me to get 92% or more in every class, and adds to the pressure by telling me that if I don't, then I lose music, iPod, Samsung Tablet, Dell Laptop, mp3 player, CD player, and all manner of electronics I have. He's also yelling at me a lot for little tiny insignificant things. I don't know what to do. There's a 30% chance he's monitoring me as I type this.
Edit1: Added a few more things
Edit2: real age | Dad being really strict and monitoring my every move |
t3_2flwjf | relationship_advice | I'm [29/F] ready to settle down after 4 years, he [31/M] says "someday." | So my boyfriend and I have known each other 10 years. We've been together 4 of those years, and we're best friends. We do almost everything together. The only hitch is that he is afraid of commitment. We live together, and have for a while, but lately I've been feeling more strongly about wanting to settle down. There's a lot of divorce in his family and I try so hard to be sympathetic and patient, but lately I find myself wanting more. I wind up beating myself up emotionally for wanting more, because every time I bring up the idea of marriage, he tells me that he is "slow to commit," and throws around the word "someday." I love him dearly, and I'm beginning to wonder at what point am I just fooling myself that he will ever fully commit to me? Or should I just enjoy the great relationship that we have and try harder to quiet the thoughts in my head that want to marry this man? | been together 4 years, known each other 10, he's not willing to get married any time soon. |
t3_1c4t9s | AskReddit | Parents of Reddit, when you're old and it's almost "time to go," would you prefer to be put in an old folks home or have your kids take care of you? | I was just watching TV and a character was seriously depressed because he had to take care of his parents because they couldn't afford to stay at an old folks' home or something like that. It got me thinking: Does everyone feel the same way?
I'm a semi-religious guy and in my religion it falls upon the kids to take care of their parents when they no longer can take care of themselves because our parents took care of us when we couldn't care for ourselves as babies. Since I've been raised this way I don't see it as a big deal, but what about you guys? I've heard some people say "I didn't choose to be born, they made me so they were *supposed* to take care of me. I don't have to do anything for them." A counter argument to that could be "Well they could have put you up for adoption, but they took care of you out of love instead and you should do the same for them."
Idk, I just want to hear what's the parents of Reddit (and the kids' too I guess) opinion on this. | Would you want to be taken care of by paid strangers or unpaid family members? Why/Why not? |
t3_4aj660 | legaladvice | (NYC) Need to provide evidence of work on property was done prior to me buying it | So due to a neighbor feud, I've had the Department of Buildings popping up for surprise inspections to the exterior of a house I own. I bought the place one year ago, bought it as is, and have not done any renovations since purchase. I have a driveway and garage with a curb cut that accommodates both. Unbeknownst to me, the previous owner cut the curb without filing for a permit. The DOB gave me a violation for performing WORK without a permit. I understand the curb itself will be an issue, and I plan on correcting that down the line, but the current violation is accusing me of performing the WORK without a permit. Initially i provided a deed showing when I purchased the property, and a property map that shows a gap where the driveway and garage is located Unfortunately the judge and rep from the DOB stated that this is insufficient proof that the curb cut was performed prior to purchase. The DOB rep did say that if I got a notarized letter from a neighbor stating they observed the curb cut prior to me buying the place, that may prove to be sufficient evidence.
So my question is two part. A) Would i need more than a letter to prove that the work was done prior to me purchasing the place? B) How would I word a letter for my neighbor to sign in front of a notary that would be sufficient for the court? I just want to make sure the language would be appropriate for the judge to accept the letter. Money is a bit tight right now which is why I haven't gone to a lawyer yet, but if you think this is my only avenue, then I guess I will have to find a way to come up with the finances. | Judge states I need more proof to prove that work done without a permit on my property was done by the previous owner. Suggested to get a notarized letter from neighbor. Wondering if this would be enough, and what language should I used in the letter to make it acceptable. |
t3_2k9oic | tifu | TIFU by going to mcdonalds. | So with a super long run of bad luck and only a few good, money has been tight for us. We replaced a sewer line in our yard, both vehicles broke down at the same time, one of which irreparable in a timely manner so I took a dive and bought a new car, dog problems, house problems and to top it all off a little one on the way. Anyways, in an attempt to save money I ate a hot and spicy chicken from McDonalds for the first time in years while heading in to work. I admit, I kinda missed the sandwich. Fast forward three hours later, I wasn't but 60 feet from stepping back into the control room after finishing my rounds and let a small gas release from the rear end out, except the last toot wasn't gas. I knew right then I was in trouble, I slowly rushed (you know what I mean) to the restroom and made it just in time to drop my pants keeping the once solid spicy chicken from touching my boxers. Immediately a lava stream flowed and the burning commenced, the stench was worse than ever. once done I noticed the freaking red breading colored chicken even stained the bowl of the toilet and took two more flushes to get it diluted enough to not look like an Exxon Valdez spill just happened in the toilet. | Money's tight, ate mcdonalds, shit myself, pants catastrophe averted and Exxon Valdez ensued. |
t3_49s4op | relationships | Me [24 M] with my fiancee [24 F] Revealed my financial situation after getting engaged. | I proposed to my fiancee 1 year and a half ago. Finances never really was a big discussion yet. I'm 15k in debt from a mix of poor decisions and a car I bought 3 years ago, still making payments. A large chunk of this is from the car.
We were discussing about purchasing a home in the future and she mentioned she wanted to get one together soon. At this point I was almost certain we talked a little bit about our situations financially. She's a recent grad student and I have a full time job making a decent 55k. I knew she must have barely anything since she is a recent graduate. I live on my own and have all expenses where as she lives at home still.
Sounds like i'm just trying to justify it but I feel awful. I tell her straight, I have debts i should work down first and the amount. When I said I had debts it was like deer in headlights for her. Then came the tears and called me a liar for not telling her sooner and the disappointments of everything she had thought we could do.
She's in class now so we can't discuss anything further. I have a plan to pay off everything within a year. I feel emasculated, pathetic and I am weary of how she plans to react. I love her dearly and I can't help feel this is going to ruin our relationship.
Maybe I'm just freaking out. It all happened 10mins ago. | Got engaged. Talked about my financial standings. She's in full disappointment of me like our relationship can go sour because of this. |
t3_142go8 | relationships | [20m/f] My girlfriend is upset that we cant spend very much time together because she is so busy. | I have been dating my awesome girlfriend for just over a month now. The honey-moon phase has worn off as i expected it to, and now we're starting to begin what i think is going to be an amazing, realistic, long term relationship.
However, last night she texted me, immediately apologizing for not texting me all day while she was at work, and saying that she absolutely hates the fact that we dont get to spend very much time together because she works all day, and when she doesnt work, she has school.
She keeps apologizing in nearly every text, regardless of how many times i assure her that its ok and that i completely understand, because i've previously been just as busy as she currently is. One of her replies to me was "but i DO feel bad and it still bothers me :/ it just doesnt feel like much of a relationship. I dont have the time or the energy to put in the effort that i want to"
I'm unsure if she's trying to slowly hint that she's going to break up with me, or if she was just in a grumpy, bad mood after working 12 hours that day. But i guess my real question is: How do i make her realize that i really am patient and not upset like she is assuming i am, and that i'm completely willing to work through this stuff with her? I've tried just blatantly telling her many times, but it doesnt seem to change her feelings. | Girlfriend upset that she's too busy to hang out very often. How do i let her know that i understand and still very much want to be in a relationship with her? |
t3_1xitzg | relationship_advice | [M21] may have screwed things with [F20] and I could really use your help. | Reddit,
So I may have really messed this up. I was over at her house a few days ago. She had gotten drunk and called me over at 2:30 AM to take care of her. (I have to wake up early on Saturdays for work so I don't usually go out). It was fine with me because she called me to take care of her. In the morning when I woke up to get ready I noticed her phone on the bathroom sink. I don't know why I did it. But I looked at her texts. And there was one from a guy that night with emoji faces of like hearts and kisses. So I sort of freaked out and asked her who the guy was and then left.
We then spent the whole day talking (through texts) on how I was wrong for going through her phone and how I though texting a guy that way was wrong. Anyways, I feel terrible for betraying g her trust. And now I feel like I was the wrong one and that our relationship will never be the same as it was before that day.
What should I do? :(( | I went through her texts and now we're both upset. |
t3_3kic5v | relationships | My [22 F] boyfriend [25 M] threw away my panties | NSFW I guess? I have been dating this guy for 3 years now. We met my first year of college, and recently moved in together. That's when things got weird. I'll start of by saying he have not had sex because of his religious beliefs, or anything that could be considered "naughty." Over the clothes touching is the most we have done. I don't mind much, we still have intimate moments in other ways.
When I shop for underwear, I just choose whatever looks cute. Thongs, boy shorts, lace, high cut, hipster, you name it. Obviously I'm not flashing everyone my underwear. A few days ago, my boyfriend went into my drawer when I was not home. He must have seen all of my underwear, and decided to take it upon himself to chose what he saw "appropriate" and threw the rest away in the dumpster. When I got home, he told me he was disappointed I would dress like that, yada yada, I was pissed. He left me like 3 pairs, and said he would buy me more to cover what he got rid of.
We still live together, but I have not forgiven him. Should I? Is this not a big a deal as it looks to me like? Obviously this isn't cool, but is it breakup material? Any advice would be great, thanks guys and gals | boyfriend threw away my underwear he deemed "inappropriate" |
t3_uetz8 | AskReddit | Cheated on gf several times. Should I tell her? | Everyday there seems to be a post with some understandably heartbroken guy finding out he's been cheated on and asking Reddit for advice. Well, gang, I'm the cheater in this tale.
I've been dating this girl for over a year now. She's a great cook, doesn't care if I game for hours, is hornier than I am and super sweet. Nothing I should be unhappy about. She moved halfway across the country (partly for her career/partly for me) and in with me until she could find a place. We've been living together for 6 months now and will be living together until the end of July when the lease is up. We've come to a mutual, sensible agreement to get separate places. Somewhere along the way I got bored. Or greedy. Or both, i don't know. I realized that I don't see this going anywhere right now and want to be single/untethered. So instead of being a man about the situation, I made some terrible decisions. I have cheated on her with 5 different girls, everything from kissing to full-on smoosh-smoosh.
I know this relationship isn't fair to her, that I'm not reciprocating the effort she's putting into it. And it isn't fair to me to half-ass my way through a one-sided relationship. I'm definitely going to break it off, but I'm unsure about a couple things:
1) Do I break it off now and awkwardly live with her for 2 more months? Or wait it out?
2) Do I tell her I cheated on her? What good will that knowledge do her?
Looking for advice gents, I already have the guilt. | Cheated on my girlfriend, do I tell her when I break it off? |
t3_ihtsp | AskReddit | Random Act of Kindness - Mistake or Good Choice? | So, earlier today I was involved in a car accident. I had the right of way, and the other driver was supposed to stop at a stop sign. Unfortunately the other driver did not stop and I was hit. Nobody was injured (it was a fairly minor collision), but my wheel well was noticeably fucked up and I could barely drive it. The other driver's friend called the police immediately - while we waited an off duty cop stopped by and basically said that, although we didn't have to, if we filed a report - one of the drivers would get a citation. He then told the other driver that it was very likely she would get the citation - as I had the right of way. We then exchanged information (we are both insured) and the other driver, who was very nice, said she would prefer not filing a report (though she said she would file one if I wanted). She also noted that she would admit responsibility. I told her that because her friend had already called the police - that we should wait and see what they thought. When the police officer arrived - he re-iterated what the other officer said, and he gave us the option to figure it out on our own. Against my best judgment - I decided that we should figure it out on our own (preventing the other driver from receiving an additional citation(fine)). I asked her to contact her insurance company and file a claim, and I received a voicemail from her a bit later. In the VM she noted that she has filed a claim and she apologized for the inconvenience. I then left a message with her insurance company - explaining the situation from my point of view (what happened) and asking them to contact me. Did i make a mistake in not filing the police report - even though I saved the other driver from receiving a citation? | I was in a car accident. It was the other driver's fault. I didn't file a police report to prevent her from receiving a citation. Did I make a mistake? |
t3_oo9i3 | AskReddit | What do you think of New Jersey? | I've lived in New Jersey my whole life. Up until a few years ago, when the Jersey Shore came out, it wasn't really anything special, famous, or popular. I mean, we have great artists such as Bon Jovi, Bruce Springsteen, the Misfits, and My Chemical Romance (well, maybe they aren't great but they sure are popular), and cool shit like Taylor Ham, White Castle, and WaWas. But, I feel like people now have the completely wrong idea of the state. It's now famous for a bunch of dumb fucks (the cast of the Jersey Shore) who aren't even from here. These New Yorkers are representing the state of New Jersey and have become personas for the state when they aren't even from Jersey. I don't know if anyone will answer this or care to reply, but I just would like to see what people that aren't from New Jersey think about it. I love my state and I always have, but the Jersey Shore really ruined it. PROTIP: Seaside Heights has always been shitty and is not representative at all of the other beaches of NJ. There are plenty of nice ones. Seaside sucks, and always has, but now that Jersey Shore exists its become the armpit of New Jersey. | I'm from New Jersey and I think that the Jersey Shore gave my state a bad name. What do you think of it? |
t3_37gx6j | tifu | TIFU by carrying a loaded handgun into a Major US Airport | I travel a lot for business, but much of that travel is within driving distance. I work in the healthcare field, and we have many smaller clinics spread through the Eastern US. On this particular trip, I was a ride-along with a co-worker to one of our larger metro area clinics. The trip was supposed to last 3 days, leaving on Monday and returning on Wednesday.
I am a concealed carry holder, and almost always carry my pistol in my backpack. This trip was no exception. When I fly, I always take my pistol out of my bag and put it in the safe at home(rather than checking it).
To make a long story longer, on Tuesday my co-worker was asked to stay until Friday by our corporate office to perform additional audits. However, I could not stay and I thought "No problem, I will just take the regional jet back home".
So on Wednesday, he dropped me off at the airport at which point I grabbed my backpack and headed straight in, loaded pistol intact. I checked one bag, and headed for security. As I approached the final security checkpoint, I had a subconscious uneasy feeling but brushed it off. Finally as I reached for my ID to hand the TSA officer, I grabbed my CCP (concealed carry permit) and it hit me.
Oh. Shit.
I almost threw up right there. I stammered that I had forgotten something in the car and (hopefully) inconspicuously exited the line. Outside I called my co-worker and asked them to come back. He asked what for and I said, "you'll see".
When he pulled up I climbed into the back seat and watched his eyes get wide as I pulled the pistol out of its sewn in holster.
"Holy Shit man, You're going to Prison!".
I unloaded it and legally stowed it in his car for pickup when he returned on friday. As I walked back into the airport I have never felt so guilty! It was a horrible, uneasy feeling.
Surprisingly, afterwards I learned that this apparently happens all the time and isn't even really that serious as long as they don't think you did it on purpose. Also heavily depends on which airport. | I carried a loaded pistol into a major international airport, and narrowly missed blemishing my virgin criminal record. |
t3_195j3m | needadvice | Need help dealing with fears. | I've always been afraid of the dark and being alone at night, sleeping with a nightlight and once I got to my teens, feeling safe knowing that my parents and family were home. When it came to college I did fine due to the light shining through the window and the fact that it was basically one room. The same goes for when I later married and we were temporarily living in a studio apartment. Though I still had a fear of the dark, I felt a bit comfortable knowing that my husband was by my side.
Now we recently moved into a larger home and this morning he left for work-related business for a week. As soon as nightfall hit, I started to feel uncomfortable and as if I'm being watched. I'm not dealing with my fears as well as I thought I would. I know I shouldn't be this paranoid, but it's hard to find a way to relax. He'll be gone for a whole week, so how should I cope with my phobia or relax while he's away? | Need help with coping with fear of the dark and being alone at night, or a way to relax and calm down. |
t3_2l4pm6 | relationships | He [25 M] wants me [23 F] to move in with him, but doesn't want to be in an official relationship. | Alright, so there's a guy I've been seeing for a few weeks and we've been hitting it off amazingly. So well, in fact, that when he moves out with his cousin/wife in a month, he wants me to move in with him. He's the type to not want to stay in one place for too long, and said he wants me to come with him whenever the time comes.
Personally, I think it's way too early, but definitely considering it eventually. We act like a couple. He's introduced me to his friends and his parents. But when I asked if we'd date sometime down the line, he said, "It's a definite possibility", "He doesn't know what he wants, since he's been single most of his life", and "I like where we are right now."
I've been in situations where the guy just wanted a fuck buddy and it's not my thing. Yet everything he says otherwise sounds like commitment. Should I give it time? I don't want to ask again to make it feel like I'm pressuring him, but I'm so confused with the mixed signals. | Sounds like he's considering long time commitment, doesn't want the label of a couple. What should I make of this? |
t3_4h30l6 | college | Car or Dorm? | I have been struggling with myself for the past month over whether I should get a car and commute the 20 minutes to campus or get a dorm room and stay on campus. I will be a freshman in this upcoming fall. I am obsessed with JDM cars and am constantly browsing Cars.com, Craigslist, CarFAX, and all the local dealerships websites for cars. Finances are strictly one or the other, not both and freshman can't have a car on campus where I am attending in the fall, so both is certainly not an option. I have several friends attending the same school as me so I don't fear being alienated and not having friends or a social life.
In my junior year of HS, I drove my older sister's Mazda 3 and had such a blast with it. However, she took her car back when she began commuting to another school and I was forced to drive my mother's minivan for my entire senior year. This year I have had to commute a lot as I am in a special program for career exploration in which I drive to various local companies to shadow and such all year. It has been a rough year driving the swaggin' wagon and am squirming for a peppy, little car to call my own (been looking at the Mazda 3 and Mazdaspeed 3).
I hope this wasn't too much to read, but I am really looking for advice because everyone that I know that I ask just shrugs and says do what you want. | Been dying for a car all senior year, will be freshman next year and am forced to decide between either a car and commuting 20mins each way or living on campus in a dorm. |
t3_2uwuvt | tifu | TIFU by doing an AMA | Like most of these, it wasnt today. Rather this was a few years ago.
Anyway, I was a naive and excited undergrad Aerospace engineer that had just gotten into his first internship. While browsing reddit one day I made a off-hand comment about working at NASA (c'mon, who wouldn't want to brag even a little?) which led to a lot of people asking me to do an AMA.
Letting my ego get a little inflated and decided to make the AMA and answer as many questions as I could. At first it felt pretty nice helping people out and getting NASA more credit and publicity to reddit then it was over and life moved on ... or so I thought.
Now every year my inbox gets flooded with pm's like these:
At first, I welcomed the messages as I wanted to help as many young interns as I could get an internship with NASA and support them as much as possible. Now its just funny b/c it's like a seasonal trend. One day I see that little orange envelop fill up and I'm just thinking, "looks like it's intern application season again."
It is my burden and chore now, but I welcome it. Sorry if I never answer some of your questions, just busy with grad school life :(
link to AMA: | I am the shepard and the interns my sheep. |
t3_2r5yyx | tifu | TIFU by trying to meet Mike Tyson | A few days ago, my friend messaged me about Mike Tyson doing a meetup at a hotel in Las Vegas. I've never met a celebrity, so I thought that would be a fun idea to go do with him!
He's a big collector, so a few days in advance he spends some of his money to buy an NES cartridge of Mike Tyson's punchout. We wakeup earlier than usual, so we can have one of the first spots in line. Long drive, traffic at the strip, and we finally get there. We're super excited, but there was a bit of a line to wait through. We were there at around 1, and the signing was from 2-3.
We eagerly wait in line, excited to finally meet someone famous. We talk to people as the line goes on, and on on. We finally get up to the front of the line. We were asked to see the ticket we purchased.
We look at eachother really confused, the website said nothing to do with puchasing a ticket to get in. It turns out, when you buy a ticket, you're given a picture to be signed by Mike. We thought that he would sign whatever you wanted him to sign, so we were pretty let down.
Nothing would bring us down, so we ask how much it would cost to get the picture and get it signed. It's okay, we have a couple bucks to spend, this is no big deal, and we would still get to meet him. 200 DOLLARS FOR THE CHEAPEST PHOTO. The prices went up for different photos, so the least we each could spend was 200, plus that also means that he wouldn't get his game signed.
Nope, too expensive. We got really let down on what happened, plus we had to drive all the way there instead of it being so close. I feel like this wasn't his fault though, because I've heard he's a pretty cool guy.
We drive home, I get dropped off, and I decide to look at the Facebook page to see exactly where it said that it would cost money to meet him. I saw the original picture, and yup, it's in mini text that I'm barely even able to read.
[Thanks for that info.]( | Went to go meet Mike Tyson, cost 200+ dollars to meet him. |
t3_2ow0hv | relationships | Me [22F] with my bf [21M] 6mo , has decided we cant have sex anymore. | so met in my city and instantly fell for each other. ive been in 1 other relationships before him that lasted 4 years (glad thats over)
now started dating in may officially, had sex in july for the first time. (sex life was 10/10) everything has been amazing up until start of mid nov when we got on the topic of moving in and he said that he wouldn't move in with me until we were married.. i didn't agree with that. id never marry someone i hadn't lived with imo because i want to know how we would get along living together as well as financials, cleanliness etc
i knew he was christian/ he went to church on Sundays so he had his ways and i had mine. i didn't think this would be an issue since we would go downtown and party like every weekend so to me it was like we shared similar views. Well no, turns out hes been lying to me now about how religious he is. i was starting to fall for him (the guy he was when i met him) but now hes this naive, christian that's telling me i need to come to church with him and wait until marriage to have sex and just wants me to live my life around his beliefs and that hes not giving up on me.
i don't want to live that way. i am happy with the beliefs i carry. i was raised catholic but i don't practice it at all. all of my beliefs are in my heart and i pray to the same god everyone does. i just don't understand how he can ruin our relationship over this. we've has sex for mots and now he wants to stop? we never fought and now its like we argue about this constantly and only this. Were not growing as a couple anymore and its scaring me that im going to have to end it ): | basically, bf turns out to be crazy christian while i really have no religious views. hes pressuring me to change myself to better fit his lifestyle so no sex, no staying over each others place etc |
t3_4su4tu | relationships | I'm [26F] happily married to my awesome husband [33F], but I'm starting to realize that I'm a lesbian | EDIT: Sonofabitch, I butchered the title. I'm married to a 33M.
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My husband is my best friend and greatest confidante. We have a very healthy marriage. We laugh lots, we disagree efficiently and respectfully, and we share our dreams. Basically we are just the best kind of team.
He was my first and only sexual partner (we met when I was 19 and he was 26), and before that I figured I just had a low sex drive. I enjoyed our intimacy, but I don't regularly desire sex. If anything, I initiate because it feels like we should be doing it. I always climaxed - or so I thought.
About a year ago I broke down and started crying because I felt like our sex life had stagnated. I told him that I wanted to spice it up, and I figured some light BDSM would do the trick. NOPENOPENOPE. We went back to our usual routine, but I found myself fantasizing about women. The hell?
Without going into details, I started watching a TV show with lots of girl-on-girl action. I found myself ridiculously turned on, and for the first time in a long time, I masturbated. But I had such an unbelievably powerful orgasm that I realized: I *haven't actually been having orgasms with my husband.* We've had sex a few times since and I realized that what I thought were orgasms... well, those aren't orgasms. Goddammit.
I don't want a divorce. I don't want to leave my husband. I am not going to cheat (who would I even cheat with?!) but my mind has been racing the past few weeks and circling around the conclusion that I am almost certainly gay. I've been masturbating multiple times a day because I keep involuntarily turning myself on while contemplating this fucked up situation.
What do I do?! This is the first time I've ever felt like I can't bring something up with my husband because it's just so out there and, potentially, destructive to our valuable relationship. | Happily married except for slightly dull sex life; realized I'm probably gay and don't know what to do |
t3_1optij | pettyrevenge | Justice on my highschool bully | Hello all, just a little background before we start:
This story takes place in the hallway of my highschool. I'm a 6ft, 150lb athlete, and the bully is a ~5ft5in tall skinny white kid, who thinks that he's a thug. Lets call him SK for scummy kid. He has a locker 1 to the right of me, and 3 down. He's always calling me names like "faggot" and shouldering me in the hallway. I've managed to ignore him the best I can so far, but yesterday, justice was served.
It all happened during one of my afternoon passing periods. He was being escorted to his locker by the detention teacher (he must have gotten in trouble again, big surprise), and I was going to get some books for my next class. I opened my locker to a 45-degree angle or so, and started to put away my last class's books, and get my next class's books, when I saw SK get up from his locker, and whack his head hard on my locker door's corner, just as I had hoped. I turned to him and said in the most innocent sarcastic voice "I'm sorry dude, are you ok?" SK glared at me like he wanted to punch me then and there. The detention teacher was still standing behind SK, so SK couldn't do anything to me. SK and the detention teacher walk away, SK still rubbing his head. He looked back at me, and I smirked. That's what you get for being a bully SK. | My bully whacked his head on my locker door, and I said sorry in a sarcastic way. |
t3_2gruzr | relationships | (F) 22 with bf of 3 years (M) 21, having the same arguments since beginning of relationship. | My boyfriend and I have been going strong for a very long time. We're best friends, we tell each other everything and we rarely fight over anything. The only thing we've been constantly arguing over since the beginning of our relationship is his work ethic and he's not improving. I don't know what to do anymore.
We're college students and I'm pretty much a straight A student, I have a strong work ethic and I always try to work towards my goal. I wanted him to do the same as well, he's always been a chill go with the flow kind of guy. Which is completely fine with me as long as he eventually gets his work done. But he's not, he'd rather stay at home playing video games all day, sleeping rather than spend some time working. I'm perfectly OK with him taking breaks but it's been more break than work, I feel like he's stuck in a ditch and he doesn't want to get out and do any work.
I'm always getting into arguments with him trying to pull out the potential I know he has, but I keep feeling like I'm just being an annoyance. He keeps saying Yeah I'll get it done but Ofc he doesn't. I don't wanna become the overly pushy girlfriend but I feel wrong trying to motivate him because he acts so annoyed about it. I don't know what to do anymore, leave him be and let him be lazy and do what he wants or keep trying to bring the work ethic out of him. We're pretty serious about the relationship so his future is something I see affecting my own. | trying to get lazy bf to not be lazy but feel like an annoyance when I try |
t3_2z17vi | relationships | I [32/M] don't know whether to try to be friends with a girl I use to date [31/F] after feeling twice rejected. | I met a girl in AA last summer. I was in my first year of sobriety and she was in her 4th year. Her pretty face and vicarious personality attracted me to her. It took a month to start dating. I ignored all the things I wasn't attracted to: her selfishness, discontentment, and irritability. We didn't last but maybe 2 months. For her, she was at the bitter end of a relationship where she liked someone who hadn't felt the same way back. I relapsed. We went back to being friends. The chance came up to be her roommate, and I offered myself to move in with her. My motives were just to be around her more. She waited. And waited. Eventually she declined. I felt twice rejected.
Despite my feelings of rejection, we held on to being friends. But everything feels different now. I'm back in the program for 3 months. She is dating someone now. And I'm avoid hanging out with mutual friends if she is around. She is motivated to be friends and I'm not. She asks why I don't hang out with mutual friends when she is around. My motivation for not hanging out, is because it brings up my resentments when I'm around her.
Maybe it's resentment that I feel for being twice rejected. Maybe it's jealousy I feel over the new guy she is dating now. Or anger over her irritability and she isn't the person I want her to be.
My therapist tells me to work though the hard times, that it'll make stronger relationships. If I work through this resentment, will I have a good friendship on the other end? How do I deal with this resentment? I don't know if it's worth it to continue with her or not. | A girl I use to date, and wasn't too into me wants to be friends now; and I don't know if it's worth it. |
t3_2b9duh | relationships | I (17/M) am nervous about my relationship with my boyfriend of 5 months off and on (17/M) going too fast. | Hi,
So I have been involved in an off and on relationship since February (Things stopped for a while due to my SO's homophobic father) that has recently rekindled. We always had plans to meet (He lives about an hour south of me) and we've talked about doing it this summer.
Not to share too much, but it pretty much decided that we would have sex during this meeting. I was all up for it for months but I am not 100% sure anymore. My personality has changed a fair bit in recent months; going from pessimistic and apathetic to slightly more optimistic and definitely not apathetic. When I was feeling apathetic I was happy to have sex with pretty much anyone I had a connection with. I am not sure that I feel this way anymore.
I really don't how to handle this, I don't know how to decide whether I should do it or not. I feel like things are going a bit quick, despite the fact that I was extremely happy at the relationship's progress beforehand.
What do you think I should do? Try and reconcile my uncertainties and just go for it (I really don't see virginity as particularly important and I may not get a chance like this for a long time) or wait?
Thanks for any advice. | Off and on boyfriend wants to have sex. I was all down with it until recently. Nervous and indecisive about the matter. Any advice on deciding how I should proceed? |
t3_3oj5zl | relationships | Should I (27F) message a guy (??M) I went on a date with then lost a few months back? | So earlier this year, about March, I went on a date with this guy I met on Tinder. He seemed really cool and it was a good date and we texted a bit after and were making plans for another date and then I LOST MY DAMN PHONE. I got a new one a few days later, but I lost about half of my contacts (including his), and I couldn't get Tinder to work on my new phone, so I haven't spoken to him or heard from him since then.
Anywho, I just found his Facebook profile (and his Like page, because he's a performer), and I really want to connect with him again. Even if it's not romantically, I want to let him know what happened so that he won't think I blew him off or something. Would it be weird to send him a friend request or like his page and message him after all this time of no contact? | – Went on a date with a guy then lost his contact info, just found him on FB months later and want to reconnect. |
t3_2ur27r | relationships | I 20(f) can't help but feel hurt by 23(m) not sure what to do. | I'm a 20(f) seeing a 23(m)I've been seeing this guy that I felt I had a really strong connection for two weeks. Now we spent a lot of time together in those last two weeks, plenty of sleepovers. I'm not one to take things slow, so I'm already considering a relationship with him BUT I can't get this off my mind, and I'm not sure if it's right for me to be bothered SO MUCH by this. Well, The other night he was showing me a game on his phone and I saw notifications from meet me at the top of his phone. I didn't really catch that that's what it was until I was browsing the app store the other night and saw the same icon. This honestly hurts me a lot, and idk how to go about this a part of me wants to say bye because I feel like he's taking me for granted. And another part of me is saying to just give him another chance and talk about it. Or maybe it's too early? Someone please tell me what I should do. | Ive been seeing this guy for two weeks we mutually agree that we have a really good connection, but I still see notifications on his phone from dating sites. And I'm sort of emotionally hurt. Don't know what to do or how to feel. |
t3_2dn48f | relationships | Me [20 M] with my SO [20F] of 1.5 years; went to a party without her last night and...I feel like scum. | No! I didn't cheat on her! Stop thinking that. I love her far too dearly for something so awful. But I drank a bit too much at a going-away party (I'm leaving a large city after living here for a while), and ended up doing a line of cocaine with an old friend. I'm pretty disappointed in myself all around this morning. My question is this: should I tell my girlfriend?
I understand it's a fairly minor point, since she's pretty cool with me doing "my thing" (she got me a bong for my birthday last year, and she knows I smoke marijuana regularly/doesn't mind), but it's important that she can always trust me. It's just that I don't want her to feel the way about me that I feel about myself today. I feel like I've let her down - this isn't the person I want to be. This isn't the man she signed up to be with. This isn't me, and doesn't reflect the way I want to act. I need her to know that I will be the responsible man she deserves in the future, and I don't want to jeopardize that. Has someone been in a similar situation? Just looking for some guidance on how to handle all these feelings. Thank you so much for your advice, Reddit; I can always turn to you for wisdom. | Went to a party, did a line of coke, feel shitty about myself and wondering if I should tell the gf even though she probably wouldn't care. Don't want her to lose faith that I'm the man she can count on. |
t3_4bmxh0 | relationships | I [22M] decided to just move on after my EX [20F] left me last year, she is now back. Help? | Long (complicated) back story short, me and my ex dated for over a year and both had an amazing time together. We really did want to spend our lives together but she fell out of love with me last year. We tried to fix things but her busy life with school, work etc etc didn't help and she broke up with me at the tail end of 2015. We talked and tried to be supportive of each other afterwards (mostly I was torturing myself that whole time cause I wanted a new start with her, she knew this but couldn't guarantee anything) She was even more busy and never had the time to talk so after a while I took the leap of actually trying to move on and I talked to her one last time and wished her well with her life.
That was probably a few weeks ago and today I woke up to a message from her. I'm not sure if I'm over thinking what the message means or even the fact she decided to contact me after It seemed like we would part our own ways forever. It reads as follows, "Hey I don't know if you still want to talk to me but I wanted to check if you're okay because I'm worried. I'm currently off a week or so and I'm studying for a final and I gotta be ready for it"
We did have a special relationship honestly that is why it was so hard for me to give up and try to walk forward with life. I don't want to trick myself into thinking things might get better after this BUT why would she contact me? She made it clear that she didn't ever have the time to talk anymore, sure she did always say she was sorry but still she broke up with me. I'm just so confused and almost a little angry this morning. I hope you guys can see something I'm not.
Thank you. | Ex gf broke up with me after our perfect relationship was broken by life 2 months ago and after I decided to let her live her life, she texted me this morning and now I don't know what to do. |
t3_50imab | relationships | How do I [22 M] down a girl [20 F] after I was the one initially pursuing and no longer interested. | I feel like a jerk. I met a girl at a college event whom I initially liked and asked out to a dinner and paid for everything and made a very good impression. Since then, we did a lot of sightseeing around my city together and connected on a pretty good level. However, after a while I realized that I didn't see myself dating her in the long run so I decided not to lead her on and stop initiating hang outs or going out with her. I put alot of effort early on and I know she likes me pretty hard now. We haven't done anything physical, but we connected pretty deeply emotionally and I don't want to hurt her because I know she wants to be more than friends. | I pursued a girl and she really likes me now but I don't like her in a romantic sense. |
t3_1rzeg4 | relationships | My gf (22f) and I (22m) are coworkers, but I'm having doubts about our relationship (6 months) | Started out as a hook up. I knew she was into me, and I wanted to get laid. Things progressed and she grew on me. She makes me laugh like no other. She can be slightly bitchy at times, just like I can be a dick. But I feel like I want to explore and find out what else is out there. The thought of someone else having her tears me up, but I know that if I leave it'd be ridiculously unreasonable to expect her not to be with anyone else. Ive had 3 sexual partners including her, and she's had 10 at least.
She's sweet and cares for me more than anyone has in my past, and I'm scared that if I leave, I'll never find someone like her or won't be able to get her back if I decide she's what's right for me. She also struggles with an eating disorder, which I didn't find out about until last month. She's working on getting better but it's hard on both of us. Since she confessed about her disorder, her vibrance towards me has shrunken, and she doesnt light up like she used to. Probably because she knows I know. This doesn't help my desire to explore.
Last night I confessed that I had doubts, but didnt go into detail on wanting to explore. I told her that I was unsure about our future. And that the problems we have will cause more stress and affect her attempts to get better. She told me that she feels like the last six months don't mean anything because of my doubts. And that she isn't able to open up to me anymore if I'm unsure; she "has to protect herself". We're at a cross roads: we could continue and work on it but idk if I should if I'm just going to leave later. Idk what to do. What are you opinions/past experiences? | having doubts, want to explore. Scared of losing a great girl with some baggage |
t3_4mg7pf | offmychest | Married chick at work asking for dating advice | Sorry for bad grammar, writing this on my phone, yada, yada, yada.
So today one of the girls at work comes into my secretary's office to ask some dating advice. BTW this girl is 34, married and has a 4 year kid. This is how it went "OMG last night I ran into this really hot guy I used to work with and he asked for my number, he's now a manager at Target, he got married like six months ago but he said we should hang out some time, OMG he's got tattoos and piercings, he's so fine, anyways he just texted and asked if I wanted to have lunch, what should I do? He's so hot". At this point I lean over from my desk and ask "Would you tell your husband that you had lunch with him?" She gets this perplexed look on her face and says "well no". Then I reply "well there's your answer". I think that's some pretty good words to live by. If you can't tell your spouse about something you did, you probably shouldn't be doing it. | Stupid married girl at work, looking for dating advice. |
t3_2ekztk | relationships | Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F] for a month and a half. Want to know if I'm getting worked up about nothing. | So my girlfriend and I have been going out for a month and she just asked me if it was okay that she was occasionally hanging out with a guy she had been seeing a bit just before we got together (gone on a few dates). She said it's just when she hangs out with a mutual friend who is frequently with the other guy, but that she's hung out with them a couple times since we got together and I know they still chat on Facebook and whatnot.
Now, I trust her and I really like her, but when she told me I got really...I dunno what to call it, nervous? She had asked if it was okay, and said that if I was uncomfortable it's "no bigs". I said that it bothered me a little bit, and that I'd obviously rather she not hang out with just him but even then it was fine because I trust her and it's not my place to tell her what she can and can't do.
Now that I've sat on it for a little while it is starting to really bother me. Would I be out of place to tell her that it really does bother me more than I said and I would really prefer they don't hang out just the two of them? Or is this the kind of thing where I just have to trust her agency and get over myself? | Girlfriend has been hanging out with a guy she dated briefly before we were in an exclusive relationship, now she's hanging out with him through a mutual friend of theirs and wanted to know if it made me uncomfortable. Want to know if I should just suck it up or tell her that it does make me pretty uncomfortable. |
t3_1htgzr | relationships | I've [15/m] been dating this girl [15/f] for 3 months, shes started talking about exs, and wanting to date her male friend... Not sure what to do | So my girlfriend of over 3 months has gotten weird and awkward, not like massive personality change from some event, like not caring anymore and giving up. She also talks to this dude thats her "friend", no big deal, until she says "If he lived closer id totally go out with him". Which is a big red flag, and should never be said, and later we're just walking around talking when she points out an area and tells me that's a terrible makeout spot, and that she knows from experience... Like what. But later she showing me something on her phone and I see a conversion between her and the male friend mentioned earlier, She showed me stuff they talked about, like personal jokes and stuff... I saw a few flirty ones in there too... And so do you see my problem reddit? I really like this girl, but with her rep and all the stuff mentioned I just dont know anymore... | Dating girl for 3 months, shes gotten weird, and super awkward... Need help |
t3_1abrcm | dating_advice | Me [17m] and my girlfriend [17f] have just made up after a gigantic fight and I have no clue what to do from here | So me and my girlfriend got into a huge argument... HUGE... How it started was because it seemed like she didn't care about me after she knew I was upset, but it was all just a huge misunderstanding, so instead of talking to her lightly about it, I flipped out on her and made her feel like shit (keep in mind I didn't know her side of the story yet). So anyway, we argue blah blah and she doesn't know if she wants to go back to a regular relationship after how I made her feel... I felt like scum at this point and hated myself. Anyway, earlier today we almost broke up. I actually thought we did, but when I got back from practice, she told me that she used that time to really think, and that she doesn't want me to go and she wants to give me another chance. So I have no clue where to go from here. How exactly should I talk with her at first? Should I act like this all never happened? Should I not talk about this situation but bring it up in the near future and apologize and whatnot and make sure we're both okay? Should we hangout right away? I really need help at this point... | I was a dick to my gf, she kind of wanted to end it, changed her mind and now I don't know how to act |
t3_1mebqc | relationships | me (30/F) with husband (35/M), together 4 years total, married 1 - think he's bored with me? | Just not really sure how to describe. I'm on my second marriage, so maybe I'm just getting worried for nothing.
So I guess we share some hobbies (hiking, biking, swimming, enjoy music, going to movies) and I have some I like (computer games, puzzles, board games, other nerdy stuff) and he has some he likes (running, building stuff). The ones we share are ones I enjoy, but don't want to do all the time. He could do them all day, every day. He hates my hobbies.
When we have down time, he really wants to do one of the shared activities. Sometimes I don't. Sometimes I just want to veg out, play a game, read a book, whatever. He feels like we don't do enough together, and waste all our free time "doing useless stuff". I've pointed out that when we go to the gym or ride a bike together, we're doing exactly what we'd be doing if we were hanging in the living room, me playing a game and him watching a movie: we're occupying the same approximate space, having fun. He thinks it's different since the activity isn't truly shared.
Basically, I feel like I always have to be doing something that meets whatever this weird standard is. I'm starting to worry that maybe we DON'T share enough hobbies and that we aren't that compatible. We lived together 2.5 years before getting married, so I just don't understand how this can be becoming such an issue. I've tried talking to him about it a lot, but I just can't ever seem to get to the kernel of what's actually going on. He's seeing a counselor soon for anxiety and trouble coping with work stress, but it isn't a marriage counselor. ...should it be? I'm just tired of feeling like I'm failing him somehow. | Weird reactions about unequal enthusiam about shared hobbies. Leading me to feel like he is unsatisfied with me and our relationship. |
t3_22lc48 | relationships | I [28/F] have recently been added and unblocked by my ex [30/M] and his family members on various social media sites within the last few months after 8 years of no contact. Should I try contacting him? | My ex and I were in a serious relationship in college (promise rings were involved), but broke-up due to a disagreement regarding "partying." His family worked in conjunction with the FBI. He regarded my partying as unacceptable in the relationship for this reason.
Due to multiple stresses in his life and mine, we broke up. I was extremely close to his family before the break-up. Afterwards, he blocked me on Facebook, and also told his family to do so as well. After 8 years, he has now added me on LinkedIn/ETSY and unblocked me on Facebook. His sister recently added me on Instagram. (Their accounts were well established, and therefore not using email contacts to find potential new friends after just signing up for an account.)
He is/was a terrible grudge holder and am extremely surprised that he's even reached out or allowed his sister to as well. Our mutual friends have told me he isn't in a relationship. Should I try contacting him?
________________ | Serious relationship ended, and all contact cut off. 8 years later, ex and his sister are reaching out via social media friend adds. Neither of us in a relationship currently. Should I try contacting him? |
t3_3lib0z | relationships | Me [33 F] with my coworker [30 M] two months, hot and cold | my male coworker, W, has been acting a little strange and I can't figure him out.
one day he's very chatty, very solicitous as to how i like the coffee he makes, comes into my office to borrow books or just to talk. Next day he's cold, but I still catch him watching me when he thinks I'm not looking.
one day, casually chatting with my boss (who knows Coworker socially) I said, "I don't think W likes me very much."
Boss replied, "Or maybe he likes you a lot."
That's interesting. I'd be open to it, but can't really read W or respond properly. I'm also his supervisor, so I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable/pressured. But I would really like to see if there is something there.
What would you do? What does his behavior suggest? | mixed signals! how to deal? |
t3_3wrcxx | relationships | Me [26F] with my boyfriend [33 M] of almost 2 years and minimal physical affection and no sex. | So a quick summary; my boyfriend and I met at a work function last year and clicked immediately. He's the most together guy I've ever dated and I secretly feel like he's too out of my league or better than I'll ever find again because he's so normal, reasonable, kind, has a good family and a job and a career, etc. and in the past I've dated mostly manipulative, abusive guys or addicts.
Now a bit of background, I've got a healthy amount of "experience" and I tend to rely on physical affection (hugs, making out, cuddling, spooning, boning) to demonstrate and develop intimate feelings. My boyfriend is a virgin (not for religious reasons) and hasn't had a lot of relationships before this. We are comfortable together and we get along well and are talking about getting engaged, but I'm having second thoughts about whether he's interested in me, or women at all, or whether we really are a good match. We hardly kiss and most of the time I initiate it and he will make it a quick peck, real kisses with connection are so rare and never initiated by him. We sleep with our backs to each other and don't really cuddle while watching tv. Still no sex. He lets or encourages me to suck him off sometimes but I can count on one hand the number of times he's attended to my downstairs bits and he doesn't seem very interested in it. He never gives me compliments like telling me I'm pretty.
I don't know what to do reddit. I think I want this guy for life but I also want to change the way we interact and I don't know if he's into that. Guys, can you shed any light on this? Am I too needy wanting long kisses and compliments? Does he seem not really interested in a relationship? How should I go about broaching this discussion with him? | talking about marriage with a guy who doesn't seem interested in me physically |
t3_g6dft | relationships | Having second thoughts about my marriage... | I've been married for a little over a year now and I'm don't know if I want to keep this marriage going. We sorta rushed into this for a change in both of our lives but I think that hurt us more than it helped.
We're three years apart in age, with the same interests and we get along okay, however, our relationship stage before the marriage was practically non-existant since it was a long-distance thing. We sorta just did the marriage so we could be together slightly easier, but in hindsight, I guess we could've worked out other things that wouldn't have involved sucha serious commitment.
Some things have changed... like less sex, days where we don't really talk to each other... and I think this has introduced a lot more stress into my life because of work and home-life.
And... to make things worse, there is someone that I've been talking to.. an old friend that I've known for almost 12 years now that I've always had a thing for but never really acted on. She and I always joke about getting together, which I wish I did before I started my travelling, but my being somewhat shy and awkward around her didn't really help much. She also doesn't know that I'm married either. | Married for a year and a half, regret marriage, and there is another woman/childhood friend that I like. |
t3_13t14w | dating_advice | [21m] Went on a great date, she [21] acts aloof the next day. What do I do? | So on Friday I went on a date with this girl and everything went really well, no awkward silences or forced conversation etc. She invited me to a party she was having for her birthday the next day and mentioned I should come a couple of times, so I figured it was going well. She had to go at 9.15 to meet some friends, so we both left with a hug.
Later on we bumped into each other in a club. We were flirting etc in the club until we eventually hooked up, and I slept at hers. In the morning it wasn't awkward and we kissed before I left.
The night of the party she seemed to act quite aloof around me, didn't really have much conversation with me etc. She had a lot of friends visiting, including some that were staying with her, so it may be because of that, but I'm not sure.
I've known the girl for a few weeks, but the date was only the second time we've met.
So what do I do? I texted her on Sunday asking if she wanted to meet up for coffee but she was busy with her visiting friends. I have no idea what to do! | got with a girl after a successful date, next day she acts aloof around me |
t3_1q2w3z | pettyrevenge | Oh, hello "Veenduhs Suhpoht" | A few days ago I got a call from the famous Windows scam informing me that over there at Windows they had discovered from my IP that I had a "vairoos" on my "compyootah." I felt a surge of joy as I realized the opportunity that this was.
I asked him how I can fix this. He says "Please turn on your computer," I say "What was that?" He repeats, I do. After 3 times he's clearly losing his patience and I finally understand. He then asks "Do you see the little box in the bottom left of your computer?" I say "No, but I see the time." He says, "No, the bottom left." Oh yeah, there it is! "Now click on it (keep in mind this is in a very thick accent)." I told him I clicked on it and it didn't open. He tells me to click it again. After 3 or 4 times he asks me which part of the mouse I'm clicking, "I'm clicking the right one." He's clearly pissed and says I need to use the left one. We're probably into minute 10 here. So I open it, and he tells me to right click Computer and then asks me if I see "Properties" I say no. He asks me to try again, again the answer is no. So he tells me to go to the desktop, so I go there and he directs me to the Start button again.
He takes me to command prompt and has me type "eventvwr" I talked with him for probably 3 or 4 minutes trying to spell it. Finally he gets me to open it up and he shows me the log and tells me those are all viruses.
Finally after 30 or so minutes, I have to leave so I tell him "Oh and by the way, I'm not a fucking idiot." And hang up. | wasted 30 minutes of a scammer's time by pretending to be stupid. |
t3_3f0rgw | relationships | I am (30f) not my boyfriend's (31m) best friend | We've been together for about 2 years but have been friends for around 10. We met when my close friend "annie" did the same degree as him and he became part of our friend group. I'll call my boyfriend "neil".
I've always suspected Neil had a thing for Annie, but he's never acted inappropriate or creepy. It's in the way he looks at her, hangs on every word and the endless inside jokes. They've become extremely close because of the nature of their careers (science based degree that's involved long stays in camps together). I feel invisible when she's around.
He's never as engaged with me as he is with her and sometimes seems indifferent towards me despite telling me he loves me. I get the most attention when he's looking for sex and I've secretly cried when it's over because I just feel used.
We're going on vacation next month and he hasn't planned anything he wants to do and never brings it up. When I say how excited I am he doesn't have much to say.
I feel like I'm waiting for our vacation to be over so I can leave him. And it breaks my heart.
He's adamant about them just being friends, she's been living in another city for several years but visits every 4-6 months so it's been easy to avoid but she's moving home in the fall.
He's a terrible communicator and completely shuts down if I try abd express how I feel about things or talk about anything serious.
I guess I know what I have to do but I just keep thinking about how great things were in the beginning and wish he still looked at me like I was the best thing to happen to him. | boyfriend is probably in love with his best friend, I wouldn't even mind that much if he showed me the same attention. |
t3_4degsc | tifu | TIFU and found my dad's "reading" material. (X-post from r/needadvice) | Alright, story time, kiddos. Throwaway because anonymity and shit. So as of late, my dad has had some health issues and as of yesterday it landed him in the hospital. My mom took him to the ER yesterday afternoon and they decided to keep him overnight. Because of this, my mom wanted me and my little brother to go back to their house and get some of my dad's personal effects that he might need during his stay. Among those items was a duffel bag that he takes with him on the road(he's a truck driver). My mom asked us to remove some items from the bag to make room for other things he might need. While removing a pair of pants that he would not be needing, we discovered my dad's spank material. Now this is an issue mainly because of our mother's conservative christian values. This has put me and my brother in a bit of a bind because we don't know whether to tell my mom about it or just kinda keep it under wraps and let it slide. There are definitely pros and cons to both. | Found dad's fun time mag, now trying to prevent the next cold war. |
t3_jru17 | AskReddit | When was the first time you realized that all the things you've been thinking over the years weren't really unique to you? | I remember when I watched Power Rangers, my favorite was Billy the Blue Ranger. I remember thinking that I was the only one who liked Billy because everyone else dressed up as the Red or Pink Ranger for Halloween (Or so I thought from the people I had seen while Trick'or'Treating). However, one Halloween, our school decided to let us all wear our costumes to school. There were *way* more Blue Ranger costumes than I ever thought I'd see. They were still *far* outnumbered by the Red and Pink, but it was at this moment I realized that my thoughts weren't unique to me. There were all the sudden all of these people that thought the same way I did about the Blue Ranger. That stuck with me, and nowadays I use it to my advantage. Relating to people can be a powerful tool. | Triceratops is the best dinosaur. |
t3_1q1lbf | pettyrevenge | Don't touch my bike. | The space where I usually lock up my bike is quite tight fit on the rack. A lot of other users of the rack clearly never use their bikes, but there is not much that can be done about that. The rest of us always try to lock our bikes as economically as possible so that there is room for all.
So one day I get back and my bike is clearly pushed over and the lock twisted in the wheel. Note: I was only locking it through the wheel, not the frame, so there was more space for other. I was very clear which bike mine had been pushed aside to make space for. So...I deflated his rear tire. I felt guilty and good and the same time. Nothing permanent, but next time he goes to rides he's going to be in for a nice surprise. | If you shove my bike over, I'm going to deflate your tires. |
t3_3i6d54 | relationships | Me [33M] dating a a 26F who makes quite a bit less money. Dating for two months. When does she start paying for things? | I make a decent amount of money (1%) and generally date girls with a good career and education. I grew up living the good life and continue living the good life. So when I go out to dinner, I like going to nice places - [but have no qualms going to less expensive places and given I am new to the city - would love for her to introduce me to some of them]. This young lady is only 26 so while she is bright and has good career prospects, I am not sure she's pulling in a ton of cash. In the two months we've dated, we go out all the time. I generally pay [she's offered once and paid for drinks once]. She's made dinner for us once. Because I'm older and make more, am I expected to pay for everything? I haven't really said anything about it - but is it OK that I feel weird about this now? Have I become the old guy that basically has a super hot younger girl that expects me to support her? Is there a good/not offensive way to bring this up? | Am I expected to pay for everything if I make significantly more money and am older? Is there a way to address this without sounding like a terrible person? |
t3_1eq4hh | relationship_advice | Girlfriend going to college. Looking for advice. | I'm 21 (m) and she is a 20 (f). We've been together off and on for a year and a half now. Mostly on my point because I can't commit well. Anyway, I was her first but she was not mine. She almost didn't go to college because she wanted to stay with me. I told her she shouldn't and I pressured her to going to continue her education. Though it's over 7 hours away from our home town.
Which ended up us having a talk and both agreeing we shouldn't continue our relationship as she goes to college. Now, the issue is I really like her a lot and I know she does me. And me being selfish I don't want her to sleep with anyone during her time in school as I can't accept she sleeping with another person. And she is the same for me. We both talked about it and I know it's selfish but it's really hard as I haven't been someones first before and I feel significantly more attached than I have in previous relationships.
We both have had this talk about sleeping with others during her time in college and me being single here. We both want each other to be happy and not drag on thinking about if the other person has found someone else, be it a one night stand or maybe even a relationship.
I don't know if this sounds immature or anything. It's really hard I almost want her to sleep with someone just so I can go over this hump and like I said before she has said the same thing to me but at the same time we both feel the hesitation saying it's okay to do it.
At the same time, we both want to possible try a relationship again once she's done school. But don't know if either of us can do it after one or the other sleeping with someone else.
I just can't figure this out. | Me (21m) and gf (20f) have been together a year and a half. I was her first, though she was not mine. Now we are breaking up due to gf going to college. We both want to try a relationship again possible in the future. But mutually having a hard time accepting one another sleeping with others. Though both want other to be happy and not worry about it. |
t3_20kn1l | relationship_advice | Forever alone or sensible? | My brother, who is 22 (I'm 28) just met a girl less than a month ago. He almost immediately told her he loved her and, since he doesn't have a phone, uses mine to text and call her all day every day every random thought in his head. He actually acts like if they aren't together he's gonna die and has started calling me names and getting weirdly aggressive if I tell him it's a bad plan to text her a rambling drunk text at 4am or call her to leave voicemails while she's at work.
He's not the first guy I know to become an obsessive weirdo in my eyes when it comes to girlfriends and it makes me wonder if that's why I'm single. Should I not be creeped out/feel smothered by that much male attention? Am I weird that I think what he's doing is majorly unattractive and would terrify me if I was her? Maybe it's just me, but I like a man who has stuff going on and doesn't have time to leave me fifty I love you messages. | am I odd for liking space in a relationship? Does this turn guys off? |
t3_2wzt6a | relationships | Me [22f] with my boyfriend [22m] of one year. How do you know if someone is "the one"? | Like I said, my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. We get along well, have good sex and good times. We talk about our future together, and I'm excited for that future but I feel doubts pretty often. I wonder if I would be happier with someone else, and sometimes wonder if he's the right choice. During these times, I think of his faults a lot more than his strengths. He's not very ambitious, he's kind of a pot head, and sometimes I just feel we don't have much in common. It doesn't help that my parents don't like him. I always wanted to bring someone home that my parents would like, but that's probably impossible anyway since they want me to marry a nice Christian guy (I'm atheist).
When we first started dating I was really excited about it and it was a lot of fun. But as the infatuation has worn off I wonder if it's right. I've never been in a relationship for long so I don't know how I'm supposed to feel at this point. It mostly just feels comfortable and easy. I think if I was truly in love I would continue feeling amazed by him, and he feels that way about me, but for the most part I just feel like the companionship is nice. | Feelings are becoming less intense, questioning whether my relationship will work long term. Am I falling out of love or do I have an incorrect view of what love really is? |
t3_9es5d | AskReddit | I'm a College Student with a drug addiction. Does reddit have any advice? | A little background, I'm a 21 year old male who goes to a decent University in a major city. For the past year, I've found myself increasingly turning to drugs of all sorts, both illicit and not, for relief from my crippling anxiety and social phobia issues. I'm pretty smart and I'm in the midst of applying to med school, but things are getting bad.
I'm lying to my parents constantly for money to buy drugs. I'm incredibly delusional, part of me sees how my life is literally coming undone from the days I spend in bed high out of my mind but there is a very deep part of me that can't bring myself to do anything about it. I've told myself for months that I can fix this on my own but everyday things get just a little bit worse. This is the intellectual and rational part of my brain sending out a plea for help. I just need some ideas and support. I honestly feel like I don't have a single friend or family member in the world who really knows who am I or who can offer advice. I literally trust no one. I'm balling my eyes out just writing this because it really puts into perspective how much self-deception is involved in my rampant drug abuse. I tend to think I know better than everyone but when it comes to this issue, I know other redditors have been through situations like this and I am desperate for someone to just offer a sliver of guidance of where I should go from here. | I can't stop popping pills and putting shit up my nose. I'm desperate for advice and I'm too socially retarded to be able to ask anyone except a faceless, omnipresent collective of anonymous strangers. |
t3_15fim7 | dating_advice | Not sure if she likes me (no signs?) | I'm overthinking this I believe. She gladly accepted my coffee date offer and opened up immediately giving me her phone number and told me a lot of interesting stories. We have a lot in common.
I called a couple of days later asking if she wanted to grab dinner and she said yes and would call me back later. That never happened. I called back and texted and no responses.
A week later she needed to pick something up (I was selling something) and she offered to have me join her for a simple dinner at a basic Chinese restaurant.
The thing is, we share a lot of stories and she enjoys my presence but flirting is difficult. I try to flirt but it doesn't really go anywhere. It doesn't help I get nervous but I don't show it because I say funny things to keep the momentum going.
She then offers for me to join her for some last minute shopping but I declined figuring it seems a little strange that we don't know each other much and it seemed like a platonic type of thing.
She then invites me a small party and i hardly know anyone! I try my best to be social, figuring the intoverted person I am. It seemed the whole night she gave the cold shoulder. I feel like I had some window at some point in the night to make a move but didn't. | I ask girl out, hit it off, ask for second date, she says yes, but doesn't call back or respond to my calls. She enjoys my company and wants to keep doing things but isn't really flirty herself, despite me trying to give subtle hints. Probably just views me as a friend. |
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